Prompt:
I’m currently pregnant with twins, one boy one girl, and my fiancé and I are thinking of giving them kind of unconventional names.

I recently told my family some of our top options and they got mad, telling us we’re going to ruin our kids’ lives if we choose these names.

Anyways the names we chose all sort of play off each other. Names include Phoenix (girl) and Dragon (boy), Heaven (girl) and Earth (boy), Moon (girl) and Sun (boy), and Gold (girl) and Silver (boy).

We know these are kind of unconventional, unique type names but we both really like this idea so far especially since we’re having twins of opposite genders. My parents think we’re crazy and should reconsider. We are torn between standing our ground and possibly going down a different route. AWTA to consider these names for our twins? ######

Response:
 YTA - what kind of names are those??? Literally a middle schooler puts more effort into names for their fan fiction than you have with those names. And I agree with your family, names aren’t just something you personally refer to them as and it’s isolated, you essentially are branding them for their entire professional lives. I can assure you that if a hiring manager saw the name Dragon on a resume they’d throw it out. Kids are also ruthless they’ll tear those names apart and make fun of them and you for choosing such dumb names. In the end your kids will resent you.

This isn’t an advice thread but if you really want to stick with names that fit the themes, go for something more normal like Phoebe and Drake or Celeste and Terrance ######


Prompt:
I'm 38M and  my sister is 35F

When my sister was 21 she got pregnant from a one night stand, baby didnt make it unfortunately which devastated my sister but with therapy she moved on.

She met her partner a year later, four years ago she had their first child.

We're currently living with my mother to stay close together.

We got onto the topic of children and while I don't want children (neither does my partner) apparently my sisters partner wants another one so that way their child has a sibling.

She changed subject quickly  and we moved on to another subject.

We got speaking about it later and I asked her if she wanted another child, basically she said she didnt believe her son needed a sibling.

I said,, "*well, he technically already has a sibling doesn't he?*"

Apparently her partner overheard and they got into a huge argument because she hadnt told him.

She's upset with me for talking about it at all and for basically telling her husband

And her partner is upset with her, it's all a huge thing.

My mother thinks I should've never mentioned it and believes I'm out of order here.

I think her partner should've known anyway

AITA?

She had a stillbirth for everyone wondering. ######

Response: YTA - wether or not to talk about was her decision to make. You're an even bigger asshole for throwing the baby she lost in her face. ######


Prompt:
Ok so I asked her if she wanted to play a game with me sense we can't meetup in person and the only one that fit the criteria was dbx2.
We both start playing around the same time and I get past the tutorial and decide to wait for her to finish. I start doing random story and side missions while I wait, she sits there doing the tutorial. I ask if she needs help she says no so I keep doing missions. 2 hours later she is still on the tutorial, at this point she says I'll try again tommorow and I immediately say I cant believe you wasted time on that instead of just saying you did not want to play it. she says she does and I hang up now she's confused I'm annoyed and we've both gotten no where. ######

Response: YTA - way to make your girlfriend NEVER wanna play with you again ######


Prompt:
Hi guys, throwaway because I just made a reddit account for this. Also this happened a while ago but I'm thinking about it again.

I (24F) have been vegan for almost 5 years, and was vegetarian before that. My family is generally supportive but when I was in high school and still living at home I often cooked my own meals, or just ate the sides because my parents weren't super in to cooking vegetarian. In the past year or so my mom has really opened up to it and has been experimenting with vegan cooking as well which has been nice to talk about.

I went home for the holidays earlier this year with my fiance, who is also vegan. My older brothers (26 and 28) still live at home with my parents. My fiance is also a professional chef (I'm an okay cook but usually follow his lead), and we offered to cook a nice dinner for the whole family.  My middle brother is a picky eater, but we made foods that are generally pretty well liked by the whole family. We made fresh homemade pasta and rolls, my fiance made a delicious sauce with lots of veggies, and a big salad. We served the food and everyone agreed that it looked and smelled delicious.

Then my brother goes to the fridge and gets a big block of cheese and starts grating it over his pasta. I asked him if he would please stop, we were trying to make a vegan meal everyone could enjoy, and purposefully hadn't put in any foods he didn't like. He said he doesn't like to eat pasta without cheese (???) I said that since we had put in a lot of effort into cooking and it was disrespectful when we had intentionally made the food to be vegan, in an attempt to show how good vegan cooking could be. He got huffy and said I was being too controlling. My parents remained neutral and didn't take either side. The mood of dinner was off to a bad start and remained uncomfortable.

AITA for asking my brother to not add cheese to a vegan dish my fiance and I prepared? ######

Response: YTA - Vegan here and I do think you were being controlling. Adding cheese to his own portion is like putting hot sauce or olive oil - a matter of personal taste. Does it suck when people aren't more willing to try vegan food? Sure. But you know they aren't, so you can't hold them up to that standard. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway

I have two boys one is age 8 and one is age 14. I have one girl who is age 12. Me and my son recently moved out from our apartment to our new house with my husband. The house has three bedrooms one for us and two for kids. I plan to give one full bedroom to a girl because I feel it's not a good idea to put girls and boys.

My son before we moved used to have a full bedroom so he is a little upset about that. Anyway it's a few weeks after we finished the arrangement and got the house in order. My son has been complain that he needs to have the room that my daughter got and I refused.

My son has been saying that it's been near impossible to sleep in the shared room cause his half brother is so noisy and that I read his half brother a book so that he can fall asleep. He complained about how his half brother messes with his things and distracts him from learning and studying his ap classes. I refused and told him he has to learn to live with what he got after he asked me why can't half brother move in with half sister. My son has stopped talking to me.

These are the only available sleep arrangements as the attic is filled to the brim with stuff and the 1 car garage is filled with equipment and a car.  My son also has started bullying his half sister because of the sleeping arrangements now and refuses to listen or follow with me when I ground him'

edit - title should have been aita for giving my 12 your old daughter her own room but making my son share a room with his half brother. Sorry for the typo ######

Response: YTA - THEY AREN'T HALF-SIBLINGS. You lied about how they were related throughout the post!  They are step-siblings, who barely know each other, and you didn't even TELL THEM BEFORE HAND how the rooming situation would be. AND you gave your sons's things to your step-son without asking! This is TERRIBLE parenting. I hope your son's father is in his life, so he can escape your narcissistic behavior.  This is not okay. ######


Prompt:
This might sound bad, but I've always been the class clown, funny type of dude, usually, my son (M19) loves it, and he's more like a friend than a son (he's a great kid, honor roll, all that). The other day, he came to me and told me he had to tell me and his mom something super important.

Now, we had our suspicions, but he confirmed them when he told us that he was indeed, GAY. Neither I nor my wife have a problem with that, so when he told us, I laughed and yelled out, "HA! GAYYYYY" like that skit from who knows what show a few years ago.

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He didn't take it as well as I expected and started crying before running off and slamming the door. My wife says ITA, but I thought it was hilarious. Reddit, what do you think? (I will apologize to him once he calms down). ######

Response: YTA - There are times and places for joking around, your son coming out is not one of them. So many kids struggle to come out to their parents, you made it sound to him like you're not taking it seriously, something that he thinks is a very serious topic and has probably spent a lot of time planning on doing. ######


Prompt:
I live in a house with a park nearby. I am pregnant, so I am considered high risk so we barely leave the house, and when we do we leave at non-peak times (either before 9am or after 7pm). I and my husband have a four-year-old, who is a very high energy kid, and my husband is teaching her how to cycle using stabilisers.

Me and my husband went out in the early morning today. She was cycling, and we followed her from about 5m behind. The path was really clear, so it would be easy to get to her. She went over a rock, and fell off the bike. We immediately ran towards her (well, i waddled quickly) Unbeknownst to us, behind the tree that she fell near, there were a mother and a daughter (about 10ish) who were doing yoga. The girl saw my daughter fall and automatically picked her up, before we got there, and held her.

I was scared and instinctively yelled 'Let go of my daughter, do you not know about social distancing! I'm pregnant, and if you had the virus and didn't know it, you could hurt me or my babies.' The kid cried, which was more than I was expecting, and the mother started screaming at me about being ungrateful for 'her angel' saving my daughter and negligent (ffs we were literally a couple of seconds away, but that girl was closer and had some really quick reflexes). I fired back telling her that I would appreciate the gesture if we weren't in a pandemic and that she should teach her kid about social distancing.

We went home immediately and my husband gave my daughter a bath. She was a bit scared from the fall, but cheered up quickly. My husband thought that I was a little strict towards the little girl as she was trying to be nice, but considering I'm high risk I was somewhat justified. AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA - The girl was 10. 10 year olds don't fully understand social distancing. You flipped out on her for caring about your hurt child.

>I'm pregnant, and if you had the virus and didn't know it, you could hurt me or my babies.

Seriously? You shouldn't go outside if you're going to act like this. ######


Prompt:
About a month ago a stray cat showed up on my doorstep. She had no identification or microchip. I took her in, fed her, named her Bertha, but I was also actively looking for her owners. I don't have the ability to permanently take care of another pet, but I wanted to do the right thing and make sure she had the best chance of having a good life.

Eventually I found the owner and returned the cat. I missed Bertha but was glad she was back with her owner.

Well Bertha has been back at my door every day since then, meowing for hours until I let her back in. I contacted the owner again and asked her to keep the cat inside. The owner responded that her husband died about a month ago, she's trying to take of her 3 kids during this lockdown, and that Bertha is an indoor outdoor cat. I understand that this must be a hard time for the owner, and I'm giving them slack for not knowing the cat was missing for a month, but at this point they're neglecting her to the point that she doesnt want to go back to them. She's also been reported at all my other neighbor's houses too.

AITA for coming to the conclusion that I have to send the cat to a shelter? I would never want to hurt her, but she's being neglected, and she could possibly be a transmitter of the coronavirus if shes bouncing from house to house all over our neighborhood. ######

Response:
 YTA - the fact that the cat is returning to your house after you fed it is absolutely not a sign that your neighbor is neglecting it. You can’t just STEAL someone’s cat (while they are grieving their husband/father...) and take it to the pound. That’s what this would be, taking someone else’s cat.

I have some qualms with allowing cats to be outdoor but I don’t know enough about where you live. They are dangerous to the bird population and live shorter lives outdoor. However that’s up to the owner, not me or you to decide, and doesn’t deserve being taken to the pound.

Not to mention, if the shelter is a kill shelter, you are getting either this cat or the cat it displaces killed. Plus, you have no idea if it was adopted, that it would be adopted by someone who takes better care of it. It’s just vindictive. All during a pandemic while someone grieves their husband. Real classy. ######


Prompt:
i want to preface this by saying my boyfriend is not very fond of pranks in the slightest. i have pranked him in the past and he’s never taken them well, so i’ve made sure not to make him the target of my pranks anymore because of this. i respect his wishes and don’t wanna ruin the relationship by pulling stupid pranks.

so my boyfriend and i share the same friend group. i decided to prank a guy in our friend group yesterday since it was april fools. i just sent him a message that [boyfriend] and i broke up. he didn’t open my message for a while so i got carried away doing something and missed two calls from him. my boyfriend messaged me asking if i pranked our friend and i said yes and my bf said he was just going with it and pretending that we had in fact broken up. i called the guy back not even 5 min after i missed his calls and told him it was just a prank and we were still together. he was just relieved it was a joke and we moved on, or at least he made it seem that way.

my boyfriend told me that my prank wasn’t nice and that i shouldn’t have done it. i didn’t prolong it, all i did was just shoot one text saying we broke up, i didn’t milk it and make it believable, so to me it was literally just a dumb and harmless prank. my boyfriend thought otherwise and revealed to me that our friend also thought what i did was messed up and it isn’t something i should’ve joked about. if i had put more effort into making it believable and kept it going for more than 10 minutes then i would agree with them that it is insensitive and that i took it too far, but that isn’t the case.

i genuinely don’t know if i was an asshole for pulling this seemingly innocent prank, so reddit: AITA for pranking a friend telling him my boyfriend and i broke up? ######

Response:
 YTA - that's not a prank.

Pranks leave the target laughing and saying "oh boy, you sure got me, what a good time". They entertain everyone.

This left your friend confused and worried, and annoyed your bf. Real fun. ######


Prompt:
So here's the situation - my wife is in a high level corporate position at her job. What she does is extremely stressful and I don't blame it for taking a toll on her. Recently though, she's been having a really rough time with work and is clearly stressed out about it. She's visibly upset much of the time, but she doesn't seem to want to discuss the specifics with me. She's even become forgetful and somewhat unuseful around the house recently - she seems to always be thinking about work.

She wouldn't talk to me directly about it and I knew I had to do something, so I found her boss's phone number and reached out. I simply told him that she has been listless and despondent recently, and that I worried about her performance at work as well as what it's done to our home life. Basically her boss corroborated everything I was saying, and it seemed clear he felt the same way about her behavior. After some time talking, we both came to the conclusion that a reassignment was necessary - not really a demotion, but the decision was made for her to be reassigned to a less high stakes, less stressful position. We didn't state it verbally, but I think we both had an understanding that this was in her best interest and our conversation wouldn't need to be brought up to her.

After the news came down to her she became hysterically upset - she thought she was being demoted essentially and she didn't understand why. The thing is it really isn't a demotion, there's no pay-cut involved, just an executive decision that was made for her own benefit. I'm really not comfortable telling her that I was involved with this because I suspect she'll freak out at me, but I do feel what I did was correct, and I believe her boss was reasonable enough to understand that also.

**TL;DR: Wife was reassigned at her job after I had a conversation with her boss, she feels she was demoted but that's not really the case.** ######

Response:
 YTA - That's a serious boundary violation.  You should have talked directly to your wife about this.

Even if she doesn't want to talk to you, that's her choice, not yours.  Clearly her career is important to her, and you essentially helped take some of that away without her choice or involvement.  Even if it's not a demotion, you had no right to interfere.

If her work and stress is causing problems at home, that's a marital issue.  If she won't address it with you, you either need to push her on it or get help with the marriage one way or another.  Going to her boss is just...very, very wrong. ######


Prompt:
My girlfriend [24F] and I [27M] have been dating for 5 years now. I don't have any social media - no facebook, instagram, twitter, snap etc. I am a private guy and like keeping my personal life to myself.

My girlfriend on the other hand, is obsessed with instagram. She has over 800 photos posted on instagram and is constantly scrolling through instagram every waking moment she's not working or sleeping. She would rather spend time attention-seeking from her 5000+ followers than spend some quality time with me.

I confronted her a few times about this in the last few years, and she always tells me she'll cut down on her instagram usage but she never did.

Last week she was using my laptop because her laptop was at the store and noticed she forgot to logout from her email. I did the forgot password thing and reset her password to log in. I googled "how to delete instagram" and followed the link and deleted the account.

She woke up the next morning and started screaming and crying about how I permanently "deleted" her instagram instead of "deactivating" it and that I betrayed her trust etc.

Now she won't talk to me because she says she can't recover instagram and her profile of 10 years is lost forever. I think she's being incredibly childish and throwing a tantrum over some random app.

Am I the asshole? ######

Response: YTA - that was her account.  Additionally those picture were her memories that you had essentially erased. ######


Prompt:
It made me feel like he doesn’t trust me. We live together and spend most days together and he knows all there is to know about me. I understand that people come from things they don’t like talking about; I was abused for several years of my life (which we’ve discussed in detail). But, it seems like he doesn’t care to share and connect on the same level as I have done.

*****
It’s a quarter shaped scar on the top of his wrist and he’s a rather hairy man so I just saw it today whilst holding his hand in mine and kissing it. It looked like a rough scar and I had just asked out of curiosity what happened. His response was “I don’t want to talk about it.”
I prodded a bit asking if it was something sexual since he has been rather promiscuous in his past, to which he replied “No.” and again stating he didn’t want to talk about it. I haven’t continued asking but told him how I felt on the matter. His response was that of silence initially and then later he came to tell me he loved me.

I feel like I may be in the wrong here for feeling as if he doesn’t trust me with the details of his past. But keep in mind that this is a man that talks about marrying me and our future children and seems wholly committed to all that we are. Am I wrong to believe that if you are into a relationship for the long run that your past doesn’t have to stay hidden? I’m afraid he somehow has negative beliefs about what my my reaction will be to what happened though I try to make him feel safe and comfortable in who he is. Am I failing somehow?

He’s a very loving man that cares for me greatly. I just feel shut out of his life and untrusted at this point. ######

Response: YTA - sometimes things are so traumatic that people just don't talk about it. It could be something like that. He (or anyone really) doesn't need to tell you every last detail about themselves. It doesn't mean they don't trust you, it just means they don't wish to share it with anyone. Don't push him to tell you. Drop it. And if he wants to tell you, he will in his own time. ######


Prompt:
My BF recently lost his dog of 17.5 years. He’s been in mourning and having a horrible time getting over it, so last week I got him a puppy to surprise him.

Well he wasn’t mean but he did tell me off.

He told me dogs shouldn’t be surprises and if I had told him he would have wanted to be apart of the selection process because its the funnest part

He also said he was really looking forward to being able to pick his own puppy when he was over the loss. He also said he doesn’t see himself bonding to this puppy because he dislikes the breed (pug) because “Pugs are extremely unethical ugly and poorly bred animals” and he prefers dogs that can go for hikes and bike rides with him

I told him that he’s just having a hard time adjusting and over time he’ll come to love the puppy. He wants me to give the puppy back to the breeder or keep it for myself as he just really doesn’t want it. I think that’s so hurtful to the puppy who did nothing wrong and I feel like if he tried he’d really love him (the puppy)

AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA - so you got him a breed of dog you knew he didn't like..? Doesn't add up. It sounds like you got yourself a dog..

I get the intention and thought process behind what you did I really do, you were trying to be kind. But you have to accept that what you want to do isn't always what someone else wants to happen. There were plenty of ways to approach this by subtly asking or moving the conversation about going to see puppies or rescue centres, maybe even talk about the breeds he would want in his next dog etc. This would have let you gauge where he stood with it.

Usually I'd just say nab but then here's the real issue:

PETS ARENT GIFTS. You should NEVER give someone a LIVING creature to make them feel better EVER. They're not an accessory to your joy.

So that's the AH bit I'm afraid. ######


Prompt:
My (30F) husband (35M) and I have been married for two years. He has this group of five friends that he has been friends with since his freshman year of college. They are all very close, they have a group chat where they talk to each other almost daily. There are two women in this group, and one of them is my husbands first girlfriend. They dated for two years.

I am uncomfortable with them speaking to each other, but this friend group is a major support system for my husband. He was pretty clear that he wasn’t going to give up the relationships.

Yesterday was ex-girlfriends birthday. She had a very difficult year dealing with some health issues, and they were all ready to celebrate with her over Zoom. We even got a little dressed up for it. They popped champagne. They each wanted to go around and say something nice or share a memory.

My husband started his off by saying how beautiful she was, and complementing her musical talent (I don’t have rhythm to save my life). When he finished I muted him and asked him to complement me as well. He ignored me and turned up his mic to keep talking to his friends. I asked him again, this time so that his friends heard.

He got embarrassed and told me to leave. I stood firm and told him he was being disrespectful. Then his friends started piping in about me ruining their fake party and calling me names. I told him to correct them, and he instead joined them in telling me to leave.

As I walked off, they started venting about me, so I unplugged the router. I took the router and cables to my girlfriends house where I currently am. I’m feeling horrible. My husband has been calling me and we get into screaming matches whenever I answer the phone. I’ve gotten texts from a couple of his friends calling me names. Although my friend assures me I’m in the right, I’m feeling guilt, and I’ve never seen my husband so angry. AITA for unplugging the router? ######

Response:
 YTA - so much so, I almost don't believe this happened.

>They each wanted to go around and say something nice or share a memory.

>My husband started his off by saying how beautiful she was, and complementing her musical talent (I don’t have rhythm to save my life). When he finished I muted him and asked him to complement me as well.

>He ignored me and turned up his mic to keep talking to his friends. I asked him again, this time so that his friends heard.

Your husband and his friends are toasting the birthday girl and you're so insecure you have to demand your husband compliment you as well? In the middle of his toast to someone else? Good god girl, get a grip. How painfully embarrassing that must have been, it's making me cringe just reading about it. ######


Prompt: So a year ago my daughter got invited to go to Washington DC from a program called envision. When she got the invitation in the mail she was so excited but when she saw the price tag she decided it’s best for her not to go because it was something around 2.5k but I figure that hey she’s moving out in a few years this might be the only trip she can take for a while so I told her me and her father would pay for it if she gets the money for her plane ticket and when she comes back she would do more chores and she was fine with it and excited. She picks up more shifts at work and get enough money to buy her plane ticket (about 346$) and we pay in installments (500$ every month) so after the trip (a few months after) we get a message that our final payment have not made it through and it was around 500$ but we didn’t have the money to make this and we asked our daughter to pay it because we could not afford it and she completely blew up on us! She said that she was saving up for a new computer upgrade and money for when she moves out and she refuses to pay it. I told her it would be for the good of the family if she just payed it but she refuses too. I’ve now been sending her the emails we are getting from the debt collection agency and she is furious that we have not payed it yet. AITA for making her pay the 500$? ######

Response: YTA - She was ready to pass on it because of the price. You made a promise (apparently one you couldn't keep). Now you are asking a 17 year old to pay off your debt? ######


Prompt:
Just the other day, I was looking at some fashion magazine which I helped produce. My gf walked into my room (we're sheltering-in-place together), struck a pose, and asked how she would fare if she was a model.

Since I work in the young n' steamy n' hot/sexy sector of the modeling industry (lots of skimpy clothing, bikinis, shirtless buff men, etc), I told her she'd never make it anywhere in my expertise cause she's not conventionally beautiful, but that's what I love about her (especially her flat chest and small height).

Then I added on that IDK about other areas of the modeling industry, and she'd probably be accepted somewhere out there since it's a big industry.

Now she's passively-aggressively mad/dejected at me and glares daggers. She also burnt my dinner, while I noticed her dinner was cooked golden. Obviously I screwed up, but even then,

AITA? ######

Response: YTA - she was asking you to tell her she’s sexy, not looking for a serious critique of her ability to make it as a model. And you couldn’t stop at telling her no, you had to top it with also telling her she’s not pretty. Saying you like it that she’s not pretty doesn’t make you any less of a massive asshole. I’d be surprised if you got a single unburnt meal from her for a few days. ######


Prompt:
My friend \[17f\] has a somewhat popular instagram account-- think 10-20k followers. She posts a lot of photography/artsy stuff with a few pics of her in cute outfits. Our high school is in her bio (like how people put the acronym of their school and their graduating year) and her photos are all tagged with location, so it's pretty easy to see where she lives.

Anyhow, she received a DM from a guy who lives in our city-- in fact, I know him since we play on the same club soccer team, but I digress. She showed me the DM, and it wasn't rude or lewd or creepy or something. It was just 'hey, my name is \_\_\_\_\_\_\_, and I think you're pretty cute. Since we're from the same place, would you like to hang out sometime?'. Pretty chill and non-threatening imo.

She isn't really looking for a relationship right now, which is understandable, so she didn't want to. She left his DM on read without responding, which I kind of felt was rude. As a guy who has asked girls out before, I know how hard it is to work up the courage to go up to a girl and say what you're feeling-- even over DM. Getting rejected sucks, ofc, but even a simple let-down isn't as soul-crushing as just being left of read.

She doesn't have an obligation to answer him, but I think it would be nice to, since just leaving him on read would probably do a number on his confidence. So I told her she might want to just send a simple 'sorry, I'm not looking for a relationship right now' type DM back if she wanted to be nice.

This pissed her off, and she went on and on about how she doesn't *have* to. Again, I'm not saying she has to, I just think it's kinda rude to leave him on read. Typing up a simple 'I'm not interested' message wouldn't take long.

AITA for suggesting this? ######

Response:
 YTA - she owes no one a response, especially not (what I assume to be) an adult male that she does not know sliding into her DMs, and it’s not your place nor your business to comment on it.

Edit: additionally, I’m assuming you’re not a female. Many of these people who slide into strangers’ DMs are persistent and obnoxious. Saying you’re not interested as a female doesn’t always have nice and cheery endings. It’s not rude. ######


Prompt:
My (28M) girlfriend (25F) was into competitive ballroom dancing pre-covid. If you're familiar with competitive ballroom dancing, it's not just graceful waltzing around a ballroom. It's a lot of lifts, lots of close proximity, hands pressed against the body quite intentionally, and perceived chemistry counts for a lot.

My girlfriend invited me to one of her performances in November 2019. Her dance partner is more attractive than me in every way. He's at least 4 inches taller than me and in great shape. I didn't think I'd be so bothered by their performance, but I really, really was. My girlfriend was wearing this thin, white dress that left little to the imagination and her partner had a skintight black bodysuit on. There was a "moment" at the end where they were both leaning in, he was holding her waist, etc. and the audience was applauding. It just seems incredibly sensual to me. When I spoke to him after he seemed very casual with how he touched my girlfriend - a hand on her shoulder when he was making a joke, etc.

I confronted my girlfriend about it recently and she says it's just part of the act and that I have nothing to worry about because she loves me. I consulted with a few of my friends and they said they would be freaking out over it also. I've been reading about ballroom dancing and a lot of people believe dancing, especially ballroom, is more intimate than sex.

AITA for wanting her to quit? ######

Response: YTA - She has worked for a long time to be a good dancer.  If you ask her to choose, she'll probably pick her dancing.  If she wanted to date her dance partner, she'd be dating him.  The fact that she isn't, means she's not interested in him, but rather, she's interested in you.  Get over yourself and your jealousy.  Let her continue her passions. ######


Prompt:
ok so im 16 and my stepdad has been with my mom for like 5 years now. he told me he was married before and had a daughter who's in her twenties now but idk what happened, i just know he doesn't really talk to her. he told me his first wife was a massive bitch and that's why he left but also said he used to drink a lot more too so idk. anyway he told me his daughter's name once and it's pretty uncommon so i found her on facebook. she looks exactly like my stepdad too so like i knew she was the right girl. I just told her who i was and asked why she and my stepdad don't really talk and said she might want to give him a chance cuz he doesn't drink anymore and is a cool guy now. she took like 3 days to respond but all she said was (im gonna copy paste it)

"I know you're a kid and this isn't your problem, and I know you have a very different relationship with your stepdad than i do, but the things that he did and said to me when i was a child have made it impossible for us to have a relationship. i'm glad to hear that he's sober but it's not enough for me to want to have him in my life. thanks for reaching out but please do not contact me again"

I messaged back that she didn't need to be bitchy and she blocked me. I told my stepdad and he got really angry and started throwing shit, he started ranting about her and his ex-wife and about how they never respected him and then told me i was a shithead for bringing this back up because he was "over it" until i did this. it was freaky because I'd never seen him like that before. i was just trying to find out what happened between him and my stepsister, am i really the asshole? ######

Response: YTA - she didn’t say anything bitchy to you. she didn’t want to have contact with him and you flipped out and didn’t respect that, that’s why you got blocked. When divorces happen she could have been caught in the middle and you didn’t respect her or your stepdad by bringing it up. ######


Prompt: Last night she put a pizza in the oven and when the timer went off I took it out. I yelled to the other room that the pizza was done and she yelled back for me to cut it. The scissors were handy and the knives were dirty so I thought to heck lets try it. Anyways, TLDR: I dont want to use anything else to cut pizza with now and she's mad at me even though I cleaned them. ######

Response: YTA - realistically your only route to a proper apology is buying her a new pair, no matter what they cost. You basically did the equivalent of using an Xbox controller as a hammer, or trying to tow a livestock trailer with a little 2 door coupe. ######


Prompt: We have a 16yo son who has been hanging out with this girl named Cass who goes to a different school. He told said she is just a friend and nothing more. Last week, he asked me what I thought about this owl necklace. I said it looked like something someone would give to a girlfriend and not something a guy would wear. He said he knows that and that is why he wanted to buy it for "Cass." I asked him if that meant he and Cass are dating and he said they were. He then told me not to his dad. I asked him why and he said "because it's my business and I don't want him asking me a million questions. Just don't tell him." That was rather a random comment. My husband works a lot and I keep him in the loop. I didn't think this should be something that my husband shouldn't know so I told him. He was shocked and hurt that our son didn't want him to know and he insisted he wouldn't have interrogated him over it either. He said he had to rethink everything about being a dad/ ######

Response:
 YTA - personally this rubs me wrong

1. Your son asked you not to tell his father about it, and while I understand wanting to keep your husband in the loop, it would t have killed you to humour your son for a while

2. Your son clearly has a reason he doesn’t want his father to know, it could be what he said, it could be something else

3. You didn’t even warn your some you were going to do it

4. He is going to “rethink everything about being a dad” what does that even mean? If his son not wanting him to know something is enough to make him rethink everything, maybe he wasn’t ready to be a dad, kids keep things from their parents all the time

Edit: just read your edit and that makes it worse

You broke your child’s trust and won’t even tell him that ######


Prompt:
A lil backstory: I'm 34M, and have never come close to having a SO. And I don't mean I'm one of those people things never got serious with, I mean I've never even had a woman express the tiniest interest or go along if I did. It goes without saying that I'm a virgin, but I've never even had a kiss or held hands with a woman.

Before anyone asks, no, I don't think I'm entitled to those things, or that there's something wrong with women for not being interested in me. I'm not some incel dipshit. I'm just an overweight guy with bad social skills.

And yes I've tried therapy. The therapist told me to lose weight and "get out more". Fat lot of good that advice did me.

Anyways, at my age I'm pretty much the only single guy left in my social circle, and as a result pretty much every gathering involves a large amount of everyone else getting affectionate with their partners.

It's not that I resent them being happy or that I dislike their partners. It's just that it hurts seeing everyone around you holding hands, kissing, sweet-talking, leaning on each other, and stuff all the time, when the closest I've ever come to that (and at this rate probably ever will) was being paired with a girl classmate in school for projects (which, I might add, they quite visibly disliked).

Last Friday we were out at a local pub, and sure enough it was three pairs of people and me. We weren't at our table for long before one of them had their girlfriend leaning into their lap, and another one of my friends was playing with his partner's hair.

I held it together for as long as I could, but when one of them started making innuendo about their (R rated) plans that evening, I kind of lost it. I didn't raise my voice or insult them or anything, but I told them I was sick of them "rubbing each other in my face". From then on dinner was awkward but not hostile.

They acted like I was the worst person ever and haven't really been very nice to me since. Was I the asshole? ######

Response: YTA - People aren't showing affection to their partners to spite you. They're doing it because they are in a loving and committed relationship, and they have the right to show affection in public. You don't have the right to choose what they do because it hurts you. I kind of get where you are coming from, but at the end of the day, your friends actions aren't revolving around your inner insecurities. ######


Prompt:
I am a queer POC living in a shotgun house with a het white couple. If you aren't familiar with shotgun layouts, there is no hallway so rooms just flow into each other, you have to walk through some rooms to get to other rooms. But our house has a side entrance, with the bathroom in the middle and the kitchen  in the back. If I want privacy, my roommates have to exit through the side door, walk down the alley and enter through the back to get to the kitchen.  I pay less rent than my other roommates because of this.
Recently, a friend of mine offered me a private room for dirt cheap. I really want to live alone right now, even though my roommates have been safe. He said I can move in May 1st. I'm on a month to month deal right now, so I can do it.
I told my roommates I am planning to move out by May 1st and they're really mad at me. Both of them are in the service industry and lost work, and can barely afford the rent as it is. I'm the only one still working in the house. They say it will be difficult and unsafe to find a new roommate right now, that they don't want people who could be carriers coming to look at the room, and they don't want to live with someone new at this time.
WIBTA for wanting to move anyway? I don't feel very comfortable at this house right now but I don't what to put my friends at risk. ######

Response: YTA - Only because I think a month to month lease means that you should still give a month's notice, not just a couple of weeks. My suggestion would be to tell them that you're moving out May 1 but will still pay rent for the month of May. ######


Prompt: Since I'm stuck at home I've been doing some cleaning and getting rid of a lot of stuff. Today I went through my jewelry. I'm a jewelry freak and constantly buy myself dumb trinkets but also have a few really nice pieces. I'm 25 so I was trying to clear out everything I don't/wouldn't wear to work and basically narrow it down to my really nice pieces. I was facetiming with my bf and he asked if I'd done anything fun today, and feeling sort of proud of myself I showed him my new jewelry box layout and explained it's all real gold and silver now. He pointed out that I had missed one. It's a glass bauble on a black silk string so it sticks out and clearly doesn't fit my new criteria. I replied "Oh....I'm keeping that one" He pressed on why I was just keeping that one and I was weird and evasive "It's important to me" "It's sentimental" "It's just special ok?" We've previously had fights about me keeping jewelry from exes and I've agreed to get rid of those pieces, and have, so he naturally thought this was something from an ex I was keeping. It is...and it isn't. It IS my ex. He's not here anymore. He was 21. I was 19 and real messed up by it, like, involuntarily committed messed up.  His mom very kindly offered me some of his ashes. I had them made into a piece of jewelry and wore it for two years straight. I'd like to keep it and never wear it again and never even really look at it again and also never ever explain it. I know it's ghoulish and wrong and a little disrespectful to this (btw four years) relationship. AITA for refusing to explain? ######

Response: YTA - not for keeping the necklace, but for not being honest and transparent. Integrity matters in a relationship. If you can't communicate with your boyfriend properly - even about hard-to-discuss, emotional, and painful topics -, that is a HUGE problem in your relationship and one that you need to work out if you want to move forward with your boyfriend. Your boyfriend WBTA for not being understanding and hearing you out about why you keep the necklace, but this isn't something you should be hiding and lying about ######


Prompt:
I (28F) bought my niece (14F) an iPhone for her birthday. My sister and her daughter are not the most affluent. (I'd say they're about lower-middle class.) This past weekend was my niece Bethany's 14th birthday and she's never had a smartphone. She has always told me she feels left out from her friends when they tell ask her for her phone number, Instagram, etc and she can't give them an answer. So I thought this year for her birthday would be a perfect opportunity to buy her a phone since I figured she was bored in quarantine.

Me and my husband (33M) are pretty well off, he's an attorney and I own a small bakery. So we have extra cash to splurge on nice things. My sister on the other hand, (30F) had her daughter at a young age and the father is out of the picture, so she struggles a bit in terms of finances. So I thought I would do a favor for her and her daughter Bethany by purchasing an iPhone 10 for her.  It's not the latest model but she still appreciated it.

On Saturday it was her birthday and she had a drive-by type party. I had wrapped her gift and attached a birthday card to it, and handed it to her out of the window. We went home and about 3ish hours later my sister calls me and chews me out about giving her daughter the gift, saying I was trying to "one-up" her and that I was being "insensitive" about their situation. In my eyes I was just doing a nice thing for my sisters and niece. AITA? ######

Response: YTA - Me and my husband always check with the parents of our nephews if we're going to get them an expensive gift. Particularly a phone - deciding when a kid is allowed a phone is up to the parents. Your sister might have been fine with it if she knew beforehand. ######


Prompt:
My ex has been dating this woman for 3 years and she has been in my kids’ life since he was 2.  I absolutely hate that my son likes this woman and talks about her as I feel like the only reason is because my ex forced my son to hang around her.  My son already has a mom and doesn’t need another person confusing him by trying to parent him.

My ex says he asks her to help and appreciates her supporting him but isn’t it his job as the dad to parent his own son?

One example is she told my son to use his inside voice when he was screaming in the car while my ex was allegedly driving.  My ex claims that he couldn’t handle him by himself because he was driving the car but how is it her right to tell my kid to shut up????

So I told my son that dad’s gf is a dumb lady and a stranger and only dad can tell him what to do.  My son went and repeated this to my ex and now he is pissed at me calling me an asshole because “it’s his GFs apartment too” and she “helps out a lot with the kids”.

AITA for just being a protective mom? ######

Response:
 YTA - massively. And you are going to give your child serious psychological issues if you don’t wake up and address this. This kind of behaviour makes me really mad, because you aren’t being a protective mum, you are hurting your child the most. But I’m going to stick to the problem at hand:

1. She’s not a stranger, he has known her basically as long as he can remember.
2. Being told to use his inside voice is fair and sounded like it was required. These are skills he will learn, but only with the support of people in his life - this included her.
3. You need to seek counselling before you really fuck your child up.
4. After you’ve had some counselling I suggest you apologise to your ex and his girlfriend. And do whatever you can to make amends.
5. If you continue to treat other people badly for no reason, you will only end up with them resenting you (and probably your son too) - there is nothing positive for you or your son to gain by making the girlfriend as bitter as you are.
6. And most importantly - THE MORE PEOPLE WHO LOVE AND CARE FOR YOUR SON THE BETTER. It will only enrich his life. Having another loving woman in his life won’t take away from your relationship with him unless you do things like you’ve mentioned in your post. ######


Prompt:
Bit of background, my wife and I are key workers,  i have been working at home the duration of the pandemic.
My wife has not been able to, So has been at home with the kids, only going in on a semi regular basis.

Ages ago my boss told us all to book X amount of holiday over the next four months , (so we don't go back to work and everyone has three weeks off.)
I booked some random days off and forgot about it.

It turns out one of these days off fell on one of my wife's work days.
I admit I could have told her there and then, but I felt like I needed a break, I couldn't remember the last time I had some time to myself, plus she would expect a list of chores done if I told her. So I didn't.

My wife works in a school, so the kids were looking forwards to going with her and there was barely anyone there after the deep clean, I would have the house to myself.
I had planned a day reading, going for a walk, just doing whatever, I was pretty pleased with myself

It gets worse.

The night before she tells me that, oh it's all cancelled and they would be staying at home.

It was too late to come clean, I couldn't cancel my holiday either, what could I do but go through with it?

Karma maybe? But I spent the day in the home office, still managed to read and take some time out. But felt awefull for pretending to be working. ######

Response: YTA - Look man I get it, life is stressful right now, but to hide something like this when you know your wife also wants a break is just not right. You both could've planned for this beforehand so that both of you could have a day off with yours being today(or whenever this day off was) and then your wife could have a day off with you taking care of the kids either before or after. ######


Prompt:
So my sister had a small informal wedding recently, and I stayed over at her place the night of. Basically it turned out that only a small amount of the wedding cake was actually eaten at the event, and she put the other 80% in the fridge.

I stayed up late and got stoned, and I ended up eating the entire cake. The next morning, my sister was furious with me and claimed that it was for them, and that I should have only taken a piece, but that really baffled me. Yes, she didn't specify that I could eat her food, but it seemed natural to me that a house guest should be able to help themselves to whatever amenities are available. I refused to apologize, and she's still a little upset with me about it. Honestly feel pretty stubborn about this one but I'd still like to hear anyone else's opinion. ######

Response:
 YTA - like, it’s super duper clear that your the AH.  Guest or not... learn some manners!

Edit: eating 80% of a cake is a far cry from helping yourself to the house “amenities” amenities usually refers to things like... soap and shampoo.... not wedding cake 🤦🏻♀ ######


Prompt:
Hi guys, throwaway because I just made a reddit account for this. Also this happened a while ago but I'm thinking about it again.

I (24F) have been vegan for almost 5 years, and was vegetarian before that. My family is generally supportive but when I was in high school and still living at home I often cooked my own meals, or just ate the sides because my parents weren't super in to cooking vegetarian. In the past year or so my mom has really opened up to it and has been experimenting with vegan cooking as well which has been nice to talk about.

I went home for the holidays earlier this year with my fiance, who is also vegan. My older brothers (26 and 28) still live at home with my parents. My fiance is also a professional chef (I'm an okay cook but usually follow his lead), and we offered to cook a nice dinner for the whole family.  My middle brother is a picky eater, but we made foods that are generally pretty well liked by the whole family. We made fresh homemade pasta and rolls, my fiance made a delicious sauce with lots of veggies, and a big salad. We served the food and everyone agreed that it looked and smelled delicious.

Then my brother goes to the fridge and gets a big block of cheese and starts grating it over his pasta. I asked him if he would please stop, we were trying to make a vegan meal everyone could enjoy, and purposefully hadn't put in any foods he didn't like. He said he doesn't like to eat pasta without cheese (???) I said that since we had put in a lot of effort into cooking and it was disrespectful when we had intentionally made the food to be vegan, in an attempt to show how good vegan cooking could be. He got huffy and said I was being too controlling. My parents remained neutral and didn't take either side. The mood of dinner was off to a bad start and remained uncomfortable.

AITA for asking my brother to not add cheese to a vegan dish my fiance and I prepared? ######

Response:
 YTA - let him eat his pasta with cheese! He's not making anyone else eat it. You wanted to make a vegan meal everyone would enjoy - and you wanted him to eat it even though he wouldn't enjoy it.

Leaving aside the fact that cheese on pasta is an incredibly common thing (so I don't really get why you're (???) about it), people have different tastes and different things will taste different to them. ######


Prompt:
I have a 19Yo stepson and since me and my partner moved in together all he's been a nightmare. My step son is a drug dealer, he brings all sort of shady people to our house some of which are now incarcerated and he has been arrested himself. He's never had a job is his life but I still see large quantities of cash in his room as well as all the designer clothes he buys himself. He's been a bad influence on my 13yo daughter who is clearly impressed by the money he has.

Last year my daughter told me she wanted Air pods for Christmas, a present which I thought was way too expensive and not something a 12yo at the time needs to have. Last week my partner and son had to leave due to a family issue. My stepson called me to say he ordered a present for her birthday and had asked me to wrap it for him when it arrives and it was the pair Air Pods.

I already know it's paid for from his drug money and I didn't want to send my daughter the wrong message and because she's already impressed by his lifestyle and I certainly didn't want her to benefit from it as well so I just kept the gift in my room with the intention of giving it back to him when he returns.

She was already a little upset that he couldn't be there and now she currently thinks he couldn't be bothered to get her anything. Today he called me to ask if she was ok, probably wondering why he hasn't got a thanks and I explained to him that I didn't think she needed such an expensive gift when I asked how he got the money for £250 earphones he just ended the call, I haven't got the chance to speak to my partner about this yet. ######

Response:
 YTA - just because your daughter sees she’s getting an expensive gift and that he has money doesn’t mean she’s going to grow up to be a drug dealer.

Your stepson clearly cares about your daughter. You need to have a talk with your partner about him and eventually have a talk with your daughter about money.

If he’s selling drugs out of your house why is he still living there? ######


Prompt: So my girlfriend is a full time digital artist. Well like any job sometimes she needs to let out her frustrations sometimes. I usually listen to her vent But this time I felt like she was the one wrong. Today she was really upset because someone commissioned her and didn’t disclose that the commission was to be used in their business. Basically what happened, she found them selling the design (a character) on tons of merchandise, shirts, etc. and she said if she knew she would’ve charged them a premium. I was taken aback by this. She always seemed down to earth, not greedy. Yet now she is here trying to squeeze as much money as possible out of someone simply trying to run a business.. I was like isn’t that kind of greedy? The person already paid nearly $100 for the artwork. They paid for it. It’s theirs. she told me that’s not how it works and it’s “different” when you’re getting something for yourself and for your business. I honestly don’t see her point, you can’t seriously tell me this isn’t greedy behavior. I told her they paid for it and she has no rights to tell them what to do with it. She claims she does have rights because they signed agreement to her terms (AKA a google form, not an actual legal form...) which apparently outlines this whole thing. Either way that doesn’t suddenly make this okay. If she goes after this person she’s going to ruin their business for no other reason than being greedy. Yet she continues to argue with me and I’m sitting here learning a whole new money driven side of my girlfriend. I know this shouldn’t affect our relationship, but the women I fell in love with would never do this. Yet here we are arguing and her refusing to back down and admit she’s acting like a big greedy business. AITA? ######

Response: YTA - it’s actually industry standard to charge much, much more for commercial licensing than personal/one-time use, plus it may reflect poorly on her as an artist if her art is used on a medium that it was not intended for (and turns out looking crappy as a result.) She’s not in the wrong here at all. ######


Prompt:
My brother in law is staying with us right now and was conferencing into his usual NA meeting from the living room (our only home computer is a wired desktop in the living room.)

We usually clear out to give him privacy, but in this case I forgot my phone somewhere in there and had to quickly go looking for it.

I happened to go in right in the middle of someone I recognized as my coworker sharing their struggle with drug abuse and strong concerns about a potential relapse.

We work in a job in which human lives are indirectly at stake and to be compromised at any point during work is unquestionably a risk. We have once yearly drug testing and once in a while we have random drug testing but it’s been years since I’ve been asked to do a random one.

I’ve been really broken up about whether I should say anything though, because of course, NA is supposed to be private and confidential. And he hasn’t relapsed, he’s just concerned he might.

I’m so broken up over this but I can’t talk to many people about it without raising suspicion about who it might be which would be worse than just quietly reporting it to the appropriate person.

I don’t know what will happen if I report him. It might be more frequent random drug tests. Maybe they’ll fire him. I don’t know. It’s a terrible time to lose your job, the guy is working a program, and hasn’t actually relapsed. We all have vices and problems.

But I also know I would never forgive myself if he were to relapse and screw up his work in a way that risks innocent people who trust us.

WIBTA if I report him? ######

Response:
 YTA - it's called Narcotics ANONYMOUS for a reason. If you put this person's job in jeopardy for daring to seek support with his struggle, you'd be an undisputed ASSHOLE.

Edit to add quote from OP re what type of work they do:

>We do quality and maintenance checks on aviation equipment. ######


Prompt:
Pretty much the title. Throwaway

My roommate has a short hallway leading to to her room, she has claimed the space even though it is technically not hers.

She has a new age-y altar that sits in the hallway. It is filled with candles. It has dried flowers, money, sometimes honey and other things. She has a couple of different gods and religious symbols from different religions as the focus.

She has the altar all lit up tonight, and it looks really cool, so I snapped a few pictures of it and posted them on my Instagram.

She saw the pictures and came to me yelling and upset. She wanted me to take the pictures down. She wasn’t nice about it at all. She demanded that I take them down, rather than asking. She offered no explanation as to why I can’t post a picture of something in my house.

I told her that technically her “altar” is a public space and if she doesn’t want anyone to see it she should put it inside the room that she actually pays for. It’s mostly decoration anyway. Also if she wants me to take pictures down she can approach me appropriately.

She is not calming down though, so I’m wondering if this is really a big deal. If it is, I can probably smooth it over since it just happened AITA. ######

Response: YTA - inside the apartment/house is not a “public” place like outside. It is a common area of the living space. The altar is also hers. So, you should have asked permission first. ######


Prompt:
I'm M45 my wife is f34 and we've been married for 13 years and have 2 kids. I make a very very good living and started looking at turning our unfinished basement into a man cave, my wife and I spoke about it but she flat out rejected for no reason. I budgeted about 150k to fully renovate and furnish it, with a walk out to the backyard which we can easily afford, but my wife just said she didn't want to have a man cave in her house even though I built her a walk in closet with make-up area room in our master bedroom. I brought it up to her and told her this and she said its not the same and that a lot of her friends come over and they wouldn't feel comfortable in a man-cave. I told her its called a man cave but it doesn't matter who uses it, anyone of our friends or kids friends can chill there.

We argued about it for a week but then I said fuck it I work way too hard and bring in all the money into this house and I pulled out 200k out of my personal accounts and I hired an interior designer and contractor to start it up. My wife was PISSED, like I thought she'd kill me but that wore off after a few weeks and she's not pissed anymore just called it the biggest asshole move in history. This was about 8 months ago and construction finished in the end of March (thank god). Its got a full bar, 8 TV's, wine cellar, billiards room, poker table/area, home theatre area, and my favourite a cigar/whiskey room and a few other features.

My wife saw it complete for the first time and said it was really nice, but still called it an asshole move and her sister and her friends then called me and said I'm an asshole as well.

I don't get it, AITA? ######

Response: Yta - imagine if she spent the same amount of money without your agreement on herself. You’d be pissed - so YTA ######


Prompt:
I (62M) was married to my ex (58F) for 20+ years until things went downhill. From her perspective I was emotionally cold and stubborn, and from mine she was so up and down. She suddenly left me (especially due to money issues) for another guy and moved to LA to live in his literal mansion.

This was 15 years ago, and we haven’t spoken since. My kids don’t mention her to me, which is easy because she lives far away. I basically plan to never speak to her again.

My two kids are grown, and my younger son is getting married in October. When my older son was married, he sat me and my ex super far from each other. The wedding was large, and I was able to avoid her. We agreed on not doing any photos with both of us in it, so he did photos with me then her separately, and with each of our family sides separately.

My younger son and his bride have a problem with this. They have agreed to seat us far, but they want a photo with the whole family. They said that it can be a large group so we’ll be far from each other, but this is something I’m uncomfortable with. Apparently my ex doesn’t care, but I do.

We are not together or even friendly so I don’t see why we should act like we are for the photo. I intend on staying as far away from her as possible, then leaving on the earlier end. I quite literally hate her guts and I don’t think my son totally understands that. It feels like he wants his family to be back to what it was, but he’s not seeing reality. He now mentions when he’s calling his mom or visiting her, etc., whereas we previously didn’t speak of that. So, Reddit, AITA for not doing this photo and for avoiding her?

Tl:dr; AITA for not taking a photo with and avoiding my ex at my son’s wedding? ######

Response: YTA - If you don't want to interact with her at all that's completely your choice. However your son wants a group family picture and you won't even stand in a group with this women for a single picture because you're angry from 15 years ago?? That's massive overkill just stand in the same vicinity of her for one picture it's just not that hard. ######


Prompt:
So I used to live with my roommate and she had a friend who needed to stay for 2 weeks. I won't go into to much detail but shwas escaping an abusive situation and she had to wait to move in to her new apartment. I never really saw her, she was out most of the time and only came back to sleep but I was still uncomfortable with a stranger living in my apartment. I put my foot down after 1 week and tolf my roommate that she needed to kick her friend out. She looked upset and asked why and that her friend is really quiet and isnt home most of the time. I told her I didn't need to explain myself and she went to bed crying.

The next day she came up to me and told me she was moving out and she's going to live with her friend. I immediately panicked because I couldn't afford to live there by myself but she was adamant and she moved out that day and continued paying rent until the lease was up which was 2 months after she moved out.

I had to move back in with my parents and I messaged her telling her she's a is a huge piece of shit and I did nothing wrong. She sent back a long, angry message about how I was disrespectful to her friend and I need to stop being such an entitled bitch. I blocked her.

I know I was in the right until I messaged her and I am not sure if I was in the wrong for what I said. AITA? ######

Response: YTA - If you are within your rights to kick someone out then your roommate is damn sure within hers to leave. You reap what you sow. ######


Prompt:
So my gf and I have been together 4 months. We're both 27 and were happy. She has been texting her old guy friend recently and it's really starting to bother me. We dont get along with each other and she knows this. Apparently his cousin died but I doubt that and I think it's an excuse to talk to him . While she was asleep I changed her iPhone pin number so she can't get in and when she woke up I denied everything. (Throwaway for obvious reasons) I told her she must have been hacked by her IP. She is devasted because her granddad has cancer and she needs to be on a group chat for his appointment schedule (see who drives him to hospital whatever). I told her she needs to calm down and she can see him another day. She doesn't get paid for 9 days so she can't get her phone fixed by Apple til then
 My friends say this is bad and i shouldnt have done this but i think shs shouldnt be texting that dude.But AITA? ######

Response: YTA - if this is real holy hell, please get help. She should leave you, this is veering very close to abusive. ######


Prompt: I (28) have had a strained relationship with my dad (59) since I could remember. we both love one another he just has a drill sergeant approach and doesn't show emotions a lot. he was getting on my case about paying for the car he bought for me, with the expectation of paying him back. we got into a heated argument until he ended it with telling me he aint paying for anymore of my shit and stormed out to rant to my mom. my friend was just coming over. my friend was orphaned pretty young, like 3ish I think and didn't have a dad like figure in her life. she was raised by her aunt. it's irritating how much she whines and brings this up I mean i get it that's rough but she mentions it weekly. Today it was about how she wished she had a dad to help her figure out relationships because she keeps getting caught in crappy ones. because I was still pissed about my own dad I told her that having a dad isn't like the movies and it's not all that cracked up. I told her to take mine for example, he's controlling and doesn't give me relationship advice. I thought I convinced her until later that night another friend messaged me saying I was horrible. Was I? ######

Response:
 YTA - I’m fortunate enough to not have lost a parent, but you are absolutely in the wrong here on both counts.

Based off what you wrote, your dad was mad at you for a justifiable reason. You being mad at him was childish, and him wanting to be paid back for the car isn’t controlling AT ALL. You two made a deal, and you seemingly reneged on it, at least partially.

Your friend lost both her parents as a child - that fucks someone up a lot of the time, especially depending on how they lost them. It is completely reasonable to wish for a parent to help you through something. Telling someone having a parent isn’t all that shows your privilege because you HAVE parents to say that about. But using one concrete example: would you have been able to buy that car without your dad’s help?

You behaved like a child, and have hurt two people in the process. YTA. ######


Prompt:
throwaway because she has reddit.

So me (m23) and my girlfriend (f21) have been dating for two years and we’ve moved in together three months ago.

My girlfriend was living with her mother prior and they had a dog for four years, when we were talking about moving in together, she begged me to let her bring her dog and she said she would pay the pet deposit and I wouldn’t have to clean up after her, and I never had a pet before but I agreed. But after living with them for three months, I don’t think I want the dog around anymore.

Typically, when I would go to her old house, she would lock the dog out of her bedroom to spend time with me, but now the dog is just everywhere. At night, she’d rather cuddle with the dog than me. She’s takes it for three walks a day, and most times brings it for car rides and then makes me go into whatever store alone so she can sit in the car with the dog.  Where ever my girlfriend goes in the house, the dog follows, and if my girlfriend sits or lays down, the dogs sits or lays down with her. And I swear when she comes home, she kisses the dogs face like 20 times before she gives me one single kiss.

I asked her last week why she’s so obsessed with her dog and she replied that her family was never affectionate or made her feel safe so when she got the dog and it loved her and wanted to be with her all the time, she and the dog became “best friends.” If that’s the case she shouldn’t need the dog anymore because I’m here now to love her and keep her safe.

Would I be an asshole if I asked her to give the dog back to her mother? ######

Response:
 YTA - I’d leave you before I’d get rid of my pet. You already know how this will end.

And LOL @ the comment about her walking her dog 3 times a day. The NERVE. ######


Prompt:
Ao my fiancé works nights and sleeps during the day which is fine. I have no problem with that but lately for the past 2-3 weeks whenever I make dinner and try to wake her up to come eat, she gets all agitated and doesn’t eat which pisses me off big time.

It’s not like I wake her up at like 5-6 in the afternoon, I always wake her up at 8-9 PM to eat, so that way she can enjoy her meal and get some more rest before starting work at 12. It just really frustrates me because I love eating together and I always look forward to eating together and chatting rubbish you know ?

Idk maybe I should let her sleep til 9/10 and then eat ? But then she doesn’t have enough time to let the food digest and stuff like that..

Please let me know if I’m being an asshole because I am just so tired and upset over something so small like this ######

Response: YTA - I see where your intentions are coming from, but I totally get why she’s annoyed. Eating and sleeping are both activities that folks tend to like to do on their own timelines. Also what on earth are you making that requires hours of digestion time before someone is able to go to work? ######


Prompt:
My ex and I have an uneasy co-parenting agreement. Usually it's the details that sparks arguments. My biggest thing is that I don't want them drinking soda (sons are 10 and 13). Soda is awful for kids to drink. When they are with her, she lets them drink Coke for lunch and dinner. They are all hyped up on caffeine and sugar the next morning when I pick them up. Plus it's bad for their teeth. I just spent a lot of money for them to get braces and they have to be extra careful with taking care of their teeth. Her reasoning is that they are old to decide what they want to drink at meals and it's not fair for her to have a Coke and not them.

I had them my half of the week and decided to show them Leprechaun 6: Back to Tha Hood since they couldn't do anything for St. Patrick's Day. They thought it was the funniest movie. The drug references went over their head. My ex had a fit over my showing them an R-rated movie though kids see worse on Youtube. I gave her the same reasoning as she did with giving them Coke - they can start making their own choices on some things. ######

Response: YTA - I say this as a big fan of Leprechaun (leprechaun in space, seriously?!) but you're naíve if you think the references are fully going over their heads and obtuse if you don't see why she might have a problem with funny, but sometimes racist, drug oriented mild gore. ######


Prompt:
My gf (23F) has always loved eating meat. Burgers, steak, fried chicken.

Anyway she always comments on how she's surprised that I've been a vegan for the past 5 years , and says that I must have a strong will-power.

It's not that hard, being vegan is more better for the enviorment, and I'm way more healthy.

My gf does most of the cooking (her choice) but today she said she was tired of cooking vegan and said that if I wanted food to cook it myself.

After the first few days, I asked my gf to see if she can go vegan .

My gf loves challenges , so she accepted and then for the first few days complained that she hated it and was about to end it when I convinced her not to. After that she cooked actual vegan meals and it was way easier and better.

I was surprised that she was going on for so long. And then I came downstairs to her eating fried chicken one day and telling me she can't do it.

I told her that shes not some animal that can't control herself for chicken! She said that she's not going to folllow some diet so I don't have to cook. Now we're back to separate meals and I'm ignoring her. The thing is, she could she told me before she did it.

Aita? ######

Response: YTA - I respect that you are living a vegan lifestyle, but you can't dictate or force how another person eats. You can educate them, yes. But you can't ignore your partner because "she couldn't control herself." If you care this deeply, perhaps you should look for a partner who is a full-time vegan. ######


Prompt:
I’m using a throwaway because she knows my main. So basically, my girlfriend and I live together. Everyday when we’re about to have whatever meal or anything, she closely inspects each and every glass, plate, fork, knife, etc.

They way she inspects it is by firstly sliding it through her fingers (she washes her hands before doing so) to feel if there’s anything stuck on, and then she brings it up close to her face to look closer. It’s really irritating and I’ve asked her to just wash everything herself if she has such an issue with these stuff, but she ignores me.

Whenever we used to go to restaurants, although she would never put her hands all of the glass and utensils, she’d still look closely at them before using, and imo that’s just an embarrassing thing to do in public.

Last night, I tried to have a discussion with her about her behaviour, and she said that it’s just something she does and she can’t help it, because she feels gross if she doesn’t. I still don’t want her doing it because I feel gross knowing that her hands have been all over everything. It got pretty heated and I ended sleeping on the couch. This morning we still didn’t talk and now she’s at work.

So reddit, AITA here? ######

Response: YTA - I can see why it is irritating but it doesn't really affect you in any way. It's worth having a discussion about why she feels the need to do it and how it makes you feel but it's something you're just going to have to accept if you want to be with her. ######


Prompt:
AITA for not telling my soon-to-be wife that I have another child?

Okay kinda long and complicated story

When I was 18, I went on a “lads holiday” to Phuket in Thailand. Whilst I was there we met a group of girls, from New Zealand and I’m from Australia. I slept with one of these girls and she ended up getting pregnant. I’m now 23 and my daughter is 5. I keep in contact as much as I can but obviously it’s difficult with living in different countries.

I met my fiancé about 2 years ago now, and although I planned on telling her, it was never the right time to have the conversation. There was no chance of a relationship happening with the mother of my daughter and I only see my daughter three or four times a year if I’m lucky. My fiancé and I are due to get married in October.

Well, last night I tried to have the conversation. Did not go well. She said that had I told her when we first got into a relationship she would’ve been absolutely fine with but the fact I kept it from her is upsetting and she’s now talking about rethinking the wedding plans which I think is a little extreme. My friends of course all knew and didn’t tell her which has also upset her as she’s close to them. AITA? ######

Response: YTA - how did you manage to see your daughter and not tell your fiancé? I just can’t even fathom why you didn’t tell her early on or how it didn’t come up at any point in your relationship. You’re definitely the AH. ######


Prompt:
I had a bit to drink last night, and was sitting outside on my porch. My neighbor came outside and was doing a little hula hoop and dancing, I got a bit bold and started completing her. I’m friendly with the neighbor, she’s an attractive woman. She wasn’t offended by my drunk behavior and showed me a few tricks with her hula hoop.

I let some...too specific comments about her body slip, and immediately apologized to her. She told me not to worry about it, and I went back in.

Wife asked me what I was talking to the neighbor about, I told her what happened, and she got really upset. She had been watching us talking from the window and watched her show me some tricks or “dance for me” as she put it.  I could understand why she was upset, I apologized to her and told her it wouldn’t happen again. She didn’t accept my apology. In fact she told me that she won’t accept my apology until I call her beautiful/give her compliments within earshot of our neighbor a few times. I told her I thought she was being ridiculous, and asked her how she thought I should go about doing it. She told me I could whistle at her while she’s running, yell to her while she’s gardening, just something that the neighbor would notice.

I apologized to her again, but told her that I would not be doing the crazy shit she is suggesting. She got angry and we proceeded to argue. She’s making me sleep in the living room until I concede, and refusing to speak to me. She thinks I’m an asshole for refusing to repair the relationship her way after I “betrayed” her. I basically just let it slip that my neighbor was sexy while I was drunk. I apologized immediately. I didn’t betray her. I’ve apologized a thousand times, am I an asshole for not going along with this complimenting thing?

Edit:

I want to make sure everyone understands...she wants me to specifically compliment her and catcall her in front of my neighbor. ######

Response: YTA - Honestly she actually gave you a pretty light way to get out of it so suck it up. You don't accidentally call someone else sexy... and your wife is quite rightly pissed at you. If you don't want to be in the dog house then you'll want to take her up on it and remind her that you do find her attractive and not just in ear shot of the neighbor probably right now and plenty of times again. Stop sitting on that high horse and take the hit as you deserve it. ######


Prompt:
My son is 25, working, living with us and paying rent. Since his bank account was created by us when he was younger, I have found out that for the past few months his savings were getting lesser and lesser and finally this month, emptied.

I had a talk with him and he got angry at me for checking his bank account when it was “none of my business”, but admitted that he had been spending money on a particular mobile game. According to him, while the game itself is free-to-play, it is actually pay-to-win. He had been spending money on it and being a “big player”, had fun crushing other players who did not spend as much.

I consider that bullying, as I believe games are supposed to be fun and it is not fun when only  1 side is having fun. Also, it seems to me that he has become addicted to it, spending his savings away like that. So after fail attempts to have him drop the game, with much discussion we have decided to double his rent starting next month

I told him that I will save the extra rent for him, and will only return them when he is mature enough to handle money better; he has enough money to get by. My son got very angry and told us that as an adult we have no right to tell him how to spend his money. He could move out but I doubt it, it is hard to get a place nowadays and he would just need to suck it up. Both my partner and I think that this is for the best, even if he resents us for it. AITA for dealing it this way? ######

Response:
 YTA - he is a 25 year old man you stay the fuck outta his bank statements like jesus jumping christ on a pogo stick does no one have any concept of when their children become adults anymore?
He pays rent doesn't  he?
Leave him to do what he wants with his money. ######


Prompt:
My husband and I have been together for 9 years, married for 5. He supported me through college and we support my disabled mother.

My job was great until the company was sold to a larger company. The merger was horrible, soulcrushing, and drove me to a breakdown. I ended up quitting 2 days into my two week notice after a particularly horrible night after working months for 80 hrs a week.

They hired me back almost two months ago with a significant raise. I had thought they had already paid the bonuses from the merger that we were promised, but was pleasantly surprised that they were paid out yesterday and they still allowed me to be eligible even though I was gone for five months.

It's not a lot, but it would've allowed me to update my computer. My husband got pouty/jealous (his hardware is older) and pretty much reminded me he didn't get anything for his birthday because I was unemployed and behind on bills. We had used our stimulus to catch up on all of our bills.

I ended up giving him half to buy a birthday present and for some fun money, but I'm feeling a little salty about it.

He's a great husband, supports me unconditionally, but last night he used the, "If I got a bonus, you'd feel the same way." I don't think I would. I think I would've been happy for him and told him to buy whatever he wants. We never spend over $200 without consulting each other on the purchase and that would've been a good chance.

This isn't a marriage ending deal, I just want to know if I'm being a jerk. ######

Response:
 YTA - from everything I am reading your husband is completely supported you through all of this, I’m assuming outside of that he is supportive as well.
Yet your salty for having to share half a bonus check?
I mean honestly.... ######


Prompt:
My girlfriend bought a yoga mat she is going to use for exercise. She bought one and it arrived today, she said she was going to exercise for a couple hours and that I need to get out of the room. Now we live with my parents and this is my room, it's not the biggest room in the world so she will be exercising right in front of my bed. She says it makes her uncomfortable to exercise with me in the bed that is pointed towards her.

I refused to get out and thought it was ridiculous, why not just do it? What am I gonna do? I'll be on my phone while she does her thing. She insisted it was uncomfortable but I didnt go out. Now she is calling me an asshole for making her miss her exercise she was so excited about (it's her first time).

AITA? ######

Response: YTA - coming from someone who also lives abroad with her BF and his parents...she needs space. She needs alone time for just her. You should go sit on the couch in the living for an hour or at the kitchen table for an hour to let her have this. I am assuming she left things behind to be with you in your country? Stop being selfish ######


Prompt:
Me (36M) and my wife (33F) are  happily together for 15 years and married for the last 7.
Growing up with a little sister that tried to hustle me through using and braking my stuff made me not wanting to share certain belongings.
Since i met my wife i have openly explained that i don’t like to share certain stuff like clothing etc. and i also don’t like people messing with my belongings.
My wife has a completely different attitude about her belongings and she is happy to share everything with me.
We have argued civilized about it every time I find her wearing something I own or when she is using my electric toothbrush (with her own brush) because her battery drains and lastly when she misplaces my keys,watch etc. and I have to search for them.
Last week i was missing a couple of underwear and i am pretty sure that she has thrown them away as she was constantly saying that they have been worn and I should throw them in the trash.
During the weekend she was wearing one of my T-shirts  because she said i never wear it.
Last night she was using my toothbrush with her own toothbrush head because hers hadn’t been charged.
I flipped and starting shouting at her for using my stuff and not respecting my wish not to share.She told me that it’s not a big deal, she would buy a new one for me and that i constantly use her stuff.
I don’t want her to buy me something new because she used mine.I just want her to respect my wish for not wanting to share some of my belongings with her.

So AITA for not wanting to share my stuff with my wife and making a scene?

Ps.I am sorry for any grammar mistakes ,English is not my first language. ######

Response: YTA - Come on... she's throwing out underwear of yours that needs to be thrown out.  She's using the battery pack for your toothbrush.  She's wearing a shirt that you don't wear.  I get that your possessiveness comes from your sister breaking your things when you were a child.  From what you're describing, your wife is not breaking your things.  It sounds like she is being respectful of your stuff.  So what if she wants to borrow something of yours???  You're a grown man.  Learn to share with your wife. ######


Prompt:
Obligatory I'm on mobile please forgive my layout.

For Clarity we are both white and from the United States

I (26F) have a friend (32M) who I've known for a pretty long time, about 10 years we met through the anime convention scene and we've kept in pretty good contact over the years with a couple spats here and there but overall we're pretty good friends

Fast forward to a couple weeks ago, Animal Crossing: New Horizens came out and obviously we both bought it because we were both pretty excited about it.

A couple days after release he invited me to his island, and I was pretty excited to see what he had done because he's usually a pretty creative guy, so I was stoked.

When I went to go I noticed his island name was "Best Korea", Weird name choice but whatever, he really likes K-Pop so I figured that was the reason?

When I actually arrived I was horrified, his island flag is the North Korean flag (it was on his shirt as well and he was wearing the Rice Hat), his island tune was the North Korean anthem. He had made his island completely barren and had put barbed wire fences around the entire outside.

I left immediately and messaged him and told him that his island was super racist and that he should change it. He blew up at me and said it was "Just a joke" and "I thought you would laugh" and "It's not THAT bad"

We havent talked in over 2 weeks because of it and we're both still mad about it.

So I just wanted to know did I overreact? AITA? ######

Response: YTA - Calling him racist is a bit overdramatic. Was it racially insensitive? Barely...it wasn't about race but the state of affairs in N.Korea, but that doesn't make someone a racist. Literally, everyone makes fun of North Korea and its not about the fact they are Asian. ######


Prompt:
I know the title might already make up your mind, but please hear me out.

My fiance's family has very mixed views regarding sexuality and though I have tried my best to try and integrate my father into the mix, it hasn't worked out very well. Now, my father has always been very open about his sexuality and has been for all his life (my siblings and I are adopted), I wholeheartedly support him and his boyfriend of twelve years who has been like another father for me, because he helped raise myself and my siblings, but with my fiance's family's views and the potential for a fight, I decided to talk to my father and his boyfriend about it and ask if his boyfriend could settle for instead of a video conference sort of thing that would be taken by one of my siblings.

You could tell that both of them were whose by the situation. But my father isn't one for confrontations and neither is his boyfriend, who said it was alright because he didn't want to ruin my wedding, but I could see that he was close to tears.

We haven't really spoken about it since (it's been a few weeks) but I feel guilty about it. AITA or not? ######

Response:
 YTA - By your own admission, this man is like another father to you. Keeping him away from the wedding is only going to be the start. What about holidays that you host where there are people from both sides? Are you going to ask him to stay out of those, too?

By asking him not to come, you have totally invalidated his relationship with your father. Not cool. ######


Prompt:
My son is a young adult but he is low functioning, he has the mental capacity of a 12 to 13 year old. My girlfriend and son have always had a good relationship and she has always treated him like her own child. She has never treated him any differently.

Recently though, and I believe this may be due to his depression, he has started to speak to her disrespectfully. He's known to have tantrums when he doesn't get his way and say some stuff that would be pretty shocking to the average person. Me, I've just learned to ignore it because I'm so used to it.

My girlfriend and I have been together for two-and-a-half years and my son has never turned on her until recently. She has been putting up with it for a while because she understands that he's autistic but she said that she can't take it anymore and she asked me to speak to him and try to explain to him that it is not okay to speak to people that way and that it's not very nice. She said she's worried that he's going to end up saying the wrong thing to the wrong person in there do not going to realize that he's autistic and they're going to hurt him.

I will be honest and say that at first I yelled at her and told her not to tell me how to raise my son. Shortly after this, I told her to just ignore him because he is younger cognitively despite what his chronological age is. She feels differently. She said that she feels that ignoring it is not the way to handle it and she also said that she's very hurt by my refusal to talk to him. She said that in her mind, it speaks volumes about how much I really care about her by refusing to handle this. She's ready to break it off if I don't talk to him.

I still think she needs to learn to just tune him out because of his autism. She needs to understand that he doesn't handle being upset very well and likely doesn't mean what he says. So AITA? ######

Response: YTA - being autistic isn’t an excuse for all forms of bad behavior. He can learn boundaries and consequences. ######


Prompt:
Hello everyone!!
I feel like I'm crazy in this one. But basically my husband just loves copying my favourite foods!! We've been married 26 years now and he started this around 5 years ago and it really annoys me.
Anything I really like eating, he likes it to and then he'll go and buy it everytime we go shopping and say that it's his favourite too. He does it so much that its put me off my favourite food.
For example I used to love maple and pecan pies and they come in a pack of 2. My hubby tried it and after that everytime we went shopping he would buy it. It really annoyed me cause that's my favourite. He's done it with different things such a fruit loafs and brioche etc.
Now 2 days ago my daughter did the weekly shop and she likes to buy her dad something nice, so because his usual donuts weren't in stock she got the maple and pecan pies. He was happy when he saw them.
Later on I said to her, you know they're my favourite not your dads, he just copies me. She didn't say anything. I've talked to her about this before, how it annoys me so much that he copies my favourite food!!
So I've decided I'm just going to tell him to stop copying me so that I can enjoy my favourite food again.
AITA?? ######

Response: YTA - are you 12? ######


Prompt: My boyfriend (25m) and me (24m) have been together for 11 months now. The topic of kids has only come up recently. He has said he really wants kids about a month or so ago. I was originally fine with the topic but then I started thinking of all the negative effects (financial, having to give up your freedom, etc) and I don’t really think I want them anymore. Plus our roommate’s 12 year old nephew has been staying over and it’s been really eye-opening actually living with a kid. I really want this relationship to work but feel like if we had kids in the future (4-5 years down the road) it would be entirely for his happiness and pleasure and a burden on me. He wants to foster and adopt an 8-10 year old. So I said maybe we can live together, you can just do everything for the kids and pay for them and we can both have our desired lifestyles. I compared it to if I bought a motorcycle that only I wanted and tried to make him pay for part of it and work on it. Am I in the wrong for suggesting that? I’m trying to come up with a solution that makes us both happy. Plus he has said that if we break up he will just adopt a kid and be a single dad, so technically I’d be helping him out by splitting housing costs, etc, even if I didn’t want to deal with the kid’s crap and costs. ######

Response: YTA - A kid is not a motorcycle. It’s a living, breathing human being. It would be emotionally damaging to a child to bring them into a home where one parent actively resents them and refuses to participate in their care. If you don’t want kids, don’t have them. But don’t fuck up some child’s life. ######


Prompt:
I'm 17. When I was 16 my parents bought me a 2000 Subaru outback that was reasonably taken care of. I really liked my car and was very grateful to my  parents for getting it for me. A year later (now)my brother is 16 and they bought him a 1994 Jeep that is really nice and is in super good condition. It looks new. I'm happy for my brother because he loves his Jeep and is very excited about it but I'm really upset with my parents right now because that got him a waaayy nicer vehicle than mine. I don't want to seem ungrateful for what my parents have done for me especially considering I wouldn't have vehicle without them but I want to confront them about it.

I don't think it's just my imagination because when I was telling my friend about his Jeep her dad said he would throw a fit.  He is very big on respecting parents and I haven't heard him say stuff like that. I'm unsure if anything will come out me doing this so I'm not sure if its worth anything other than to let my parents know that I am upset. I think that is assholeish because I would only cause drama and a possible grounding. I want to though. I am very confused about my feelings right now because I'm crying but somehow really mad and nervous feeling? WIBTA ######

Response:
 YTA - A 2000 Subaru Outback is a great car!  His jeep is actually 6 years older than your car.  Despite the fact that it looks nice, it likely has more wear and tear on it.  At the end of the day, your parents probably spent similar amounts of money on your cars and got the best available within that price range.  Sorry the Jeep wasn't available for them to buy for you last year.  The fact that you get a nice car is a privilege that not all kids get.

When I was 16, I considered myself lucky to drive an old, beat up car that would overheat if you drove it too long... and even that was a privilege over what some kids get.  Be grateful and don't complain. ######


Prompt:
Yesterday was Mother’s Day. Me and my wife have two boys. One is 7 and the other is 5. Yesterday I took mother out for a pick nick. Since we are in a pandemic, that’s all we could do. I made some food for me and my mother and we went to a park and we spent some time together there and then we went to her house (my childhood home)so we could talk and go through our old photo albums that I keep there. I don’t have my old pics at my house because some pics are embarrassing and personal and my wife doesn’t need to see them. Then we watched a movie and then I went back to my marital home. Today my wife is mad at me that I didn’t get her anything and didn’t do anything for her on Mother’s Day but I don’t agree with that because Mother’s Day means showing appreciation to your mother, not your wife and I did do something for her. My boys are independent and can look after themselves. I made sure to make food for them so they could eat whenever they want and I put the food on the table so they could serve themselves so that my wife won’t have to do it and I specifically told them not to bother my wife because their mother needs a break. But it was Mother’s Day and I wanted to spend time with my mother since I’m usually busy dealing with my wife and kids. I wanted my time alone with my mother to just talk and reminisce about our past and my dead father. Something that I rarely get to do. When I strike back at my wife with my argument, she didn’t say anything after that but she responded by saying, I shouldn’t be doing anything for you on Father’s Day. And I responded by saying: does it look like I give a fuck ?
I talked to my best friend about my wife’s behavior and he agreed that she is just being a bitch. But I wanted to get your opinions. Am I an asshole for doing something for my mother instead of my wife ? ######

Response: YTA - “My bitch wife thinks I should have done something for her on mother’s day but I totally did by telling my very small children they could fucking look after themselves!” ######