Prompt:
I've \[M29\] known this person \[F32\] since 2004. That would make me 14. We live in different countries, so our friendship has been always via technology. Back at 2004 even the most basic webcam was a luxury and only few had it. Now it's 2020 and videocalls and streaming is within the reach of almost everyone, and hence you can include your loved ones in almost everything, now doubly so in times of corona where nobody can get out of their homes.

She got married last year to her long time partner. Had a long list of local only guests. I asked her if I was invited, if I could be, via anything from a private videocall or maybe something like an Instagram live that only those in CLOSE FRIENDS category could see. I mean, I had known her for what's basically half my entire lifespan.

I was told no. There would be no streaming of the wedding, but there would be pictures I could watch.

I was furious at hearing that. Sure it's her wedding and she's free to choose whatever. But in a world where you can have zoom, Discord, Facebook, Google Meet calls for everything, and for a while I attended nonprofit meetings via videocall because they cared about my presence there, to basically shut out all the options I could be there with, made me feel like a second-class friendship.

I have not spoken one word to her since, for any reason. I have made so many friends via technology, that for me it's a NO BRAINER to include them in a hugely important event in my life, and as such I'd do EVERYTHING I could to accomodate their presence via technology JUST as much as I would local ones.

Her, however? She can have pictures. ######

Response: YTA geez what an entitled post. So because you can’t be there in person you expect her to make her wedding revolve entirely on you being able to video call in? No. Just no. It’s an added hassle on an already busy day, sorry you can’t be there but that’s not her fault. ######


Prompt:
My son is 17 years old and over the past few months he's been acting very peculiar and we came to blows over this and he spoke back to me saying that they're not his fault and he doesn't know how to do. Here is what I noticed from him

* He's suddenly gone very lethargic very quickly. He'll get up, sit on his chair for about an hour and be that tired that he'll sleep for another 3 or 4 hours but will still be awake all night long. I've suggested for him to go on walks as simple but effective exercise that will tire him out so he'll sleep at least 6 to 8 hours at night. He declines because he's tired
* He's stopped eating. This concerned me, he says that it's because he has zero appetite. I tried to make sure he was eating right when I first noticed this back around last December time. He has obviously thinned out beyond belief (you can see an uncomfortable number of bones). I also believe that this might be why he's tired all day
* He drinks literally all the liquid I buy from my food shop and then some. Like, he'll say he's that thirsty and has a really dry throat when he drinks a two litre bottle of Coke in literally two or three attempts. A literal sip for him is essentially drinking a full pint
* He complains about having to go toilet more often. I told him that this was because of the amount that he drinks. We had to stop twice when I was in the car with him the other day, the distance wasn't even two miles

Is me telling him that he needs to help himself worthy of me being TA? (made a new account for this post) ######

Response: YTA Fucking take him to a doctor Jesus Christ ######


Prompt: Before I start, I just want to say my gf is beautiful. Since quarantine, she started working out at home. She also changed her diet. She lost some weight but she’s also been toner. Especially around her ass and wait. I’ve complimented her at first but now she’s getting a bit cocky. All she talks about is working out and eating. She talks about how much she can squat and how good she’s feeling. She does this constantly and it’s getting a bit boring and annoying. I dated a smart girl who spoke way more than her appearance and her fitness stuff. I told her that it’s good that she’s working out but she isn’t as hot as she thinks she is and that it would be better if she went back to her old habits. She always had a nice body. She didn’t need to work out. The results of working out has led to her being annoying so the results of a tad smaller waist isn’t worth this. She sounds like a meat head now. ######

Response:
 YTA for trying to manipulate her to get what *you* want rather than addressing the issue with her like a mature adult.

She is smart and hot.  You two have nothing in common. ######


Prompt:
Throaway acc.

I was very badly verbally abused as a kid which made me have some kind of trigger to being talked to a certain way. I'm not upset at criticism at all or anything that isn't rude but sarcasm and being rude as a joke sets me off. I always have given people warnings that I don't like to be talked down to, even as a joke.

Usually people understand. However, sometimes I will go over to a friend's house and their siblings will be in the "its cool of me to be playfully rude and say fuck a lot" phases. I let their siblings know too and they seem to understand until they do it. One of my friend's brothers (19) said something along the lines of: "My god, how can you make that mistake? You're so fuckin dumb" during a video game and I snapped. I told him that if he ever calls me dumb or anything of the sort ever again I will make him regret or something like that. He looked scared and I feel bad. It happens a lot when people flippantly say rude stuff they don't get is rude. I feel like an asshole because its hard for me to control this kind of response when people talk to me like that. ######

Response: YTA for threatening him. You said you where badly verbally abused as a kid but you pretty much just verbally abused this guy. ######


Prompt:
My son and DIL got married this year and they are expecting a little boy in November around Thanksgiving. She has three kids from a previous marriage a set of twins 5, and a 2 1/2 year old. My son has always wanted to have a farm and this April they bought a bunch of animals that they have been taking care of.

Well my son has worked full time at a job and he also has his own business that he works at on his days off. Very hardworking man. His wife used to work at a university but has been laid off since March. Her only income has been child support that she uses to be her kids things and groceries and occasionally the animal feed. She pays for no other bills, my son does. She also is a rather plain Jane as she doesn’t even wear makeup or wear nice clothes just a t shirt and maternity jeans.

Well she was supposed to go back to work next month so I was having dinner with them at their home and asked about childcare for the kids. She then informs me that since they have been fine while she has been off work that she won’t be going back and will be homeschooling the 5 year olds and that the baby was due in November and that my son wants her to stay home and care for the baby instead of a stranger.

My son is sweet man but he is easily manipulated and I feel that’s what she is doing. When my son left the room I told her that she needed to go back to work and pull her own and her kids weight and that my son shouldn’t have to support her and her kids as they weren’t his and for her to stop using him for her own personal gain. She began to cry and went upstairs. My son came down and asked me what I said and he told me that they both talked about this and made a decision and I was out of line. He asked me to leave. His own mother. My husband told me that I need to go over there and apologize but I stand by what I said. AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA for this:

> She also is a rather plain Jane as she doesn’t even wear makeup or wear nice clothes just a t shirt and maternity jeans.

YTA for this, too:

> When my son left the room I told her that she needed to go back to work and pull her own and her kids weight and that my son shouldn’t have to support her and her kids as they weren’t his and for her to stop using him for her own personal gain.

If you had these hesitations, it would have been best to bring it up with your sun.

You *were* out of line. you accused DIL of using your son.

Your son is an adult and can make his own decisions. Bring up hesitations to him, but accept if he doesn't accept your advice. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway due to friend following my account

So me (F30) and my boyfriend (M32) have found out we’re expecting our first baby. We couldn’t wait to tell everyone, but waiting until the 12 week mark to tell our friends and family.

So we hit the 12 week mark with zero problems. We tell our parents who are absolutely ecstatic and I decide to tell my 3 friends via zoom call on Friday night. I call them and we’re chatting so I decide to tell them my news. All three of them look incredibly happy for me and while two of my friends were asking me questions one of my friends (we’ll call her beth) suddenly shut off her camera.

My friends and I kept chatting and I just brushed it off that she went to the toilet or something. But when she came back, she was sniffing and looked like she had been crying. One of my friends asked her if she was ok and she said she was. Suddenly all of them were asking Beth if she was alright, even though she was insisting she was fine.

To be honest, I was getting annoyed with her  because of it. She has been struggling with fertility issues since she was 19 (now 30) and it was like she was making my news all about her. It felt like she was stealing my thunder, so I said to her “Look I get you’ve had fertility issues Beth but you don’t have to make everything about you”

She then logged off and my friends said i was being an asshole because I should be more sensitive to her needs. Frankly I think she should be more sensitive to mine as I’m the one who’s pregnant and who’s going through a life changing experience, not her.

It’s been a few days and Beth still hasn’t called to apologise, but my friends think I should. AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA for this sentence alone:

" I’m the one who’s pregnant and who’s going through a life changing experience, not her."

Sorry I didnt' realize having multiple miscarriages wasn't a life changing experience. ######


Prompt:
So my sister (14) ALWAYS steals my (16F) clothes, like I swear every time I go into my closet or jewelry chest there is always something missing.  Her friends who live next door, have a pool in their backyard and she is always over there swimming with them, for the longest time my parents didn't let her wear a 2 piece swim suit and she said that she looked like a 5 year old when she was the only one in a one piece.  I never told her she could use mine (we are pretty much identical when it comes to size) but she would always steal my pairs ALL the time.

I don't know when but I guess they recently loosened up on the rules for her and she has bought her own 2 piece swim suits now.  She came home the other day in a 2 piece suit that I KNOW I own, same style, same color and same design, I got pissed and told her to stop taking my shit.  She told me that it was hers and to get off her ass, I didn't believe her and she told me that mom loosened up the restriction for her.  I checked my closet and it was there but I was still kind of annoyed cause she bought the exact. same. pair. as the one I had and she had to know that I hate when she takes my clothes and I just see this as her trying to rile me up.  She told me to apologize and I said that she shouldn’t be shocked when I accuse her of stealing when she doesn’t it all the time.  AITA? ######

Response: YTA for this particular situation. Being accused of stealing when you're in fact innocent can be quite hurtful. Be a big sister and apologize. ######


Prompt:
My son (23) has a learning disability. He's great with jobs that involve cleaning, stocking and facing.

He previously had a care aid come 2x weekly. She had another job at a pet store. My son expressed interest in employment at this store and I asked her if she could discuss setting up a tour with her boss for him. I thought this would work great because she could drive him to work and he'd be more comfortable working if he knew someone.

She said no. Her excuse 'conflict of interest'.

She didn't last long. She said my son was making her 'uncomfortable' because of how he talks (uh, he has a learning disability). Certain comments made her feel 'harassed'.

Browsing online I found a hiring ad at this store. I instantly told my son to apply, because seeing as she no longer works with him it's not a 'conflict of interest'.

She still works there. I know this because I took my son in for an interview (yah!) and she walked away fuming the moment she spotted us.

My MIL and SIL both think I'm being unfair to this girl. If she's uncomfortable working with him before, it's going to happen again. But this is a different setting. She doesn't need to help him. And if she has such an issue she can quit again. ######

Response:
 YTA for that mentality of "If my son continues to make problems for her with his comments and making her feel uncomfortable,  she can just quit again". Just comes off as assholeish knowing your son was the reason she quit and trying to force her hand/strong arm her out of her job where she has been first.

What comments did your son say that made her feel uncomfortable or harassed? Never mind, found them

"Sexually based, apparently. He spoke of his penis size, sexual history, porn addiction and again this is all alleged, ask her to have sex with him several times."

Super super YTA. Don't bring that nonsense back into the girls life again. She doesn't deserve to deal with that again.

EDIT. Thank you for the silver! ######


Prompt:
Okay to start off both my girlfriend and I are expecting a boy and we are 6 months in and we couldn't be more happy about her having her first child and me having my second boy. I love them all very much.

My girlfriend and I started a shouting match because she is barely eating I'd say like a quarter of a meal a day if I'm lucky and barely if any snacks in between.  And she will always just shrug me off and tell me I don't know her body (which is true) but barely eating once a day is not healthy and even worse for a pregnant woman. Its been like this throughout all the pregnancy she has been heavily nauseus all the time. I am freaking out because the doctor already told us the baby seemed small and she HAD to gain weight or she'd have to go in the office.

I'm trying to reason with her on my lunch break I tell her like 30 mins before to look for whatever she wants I tell her I could buy her restaurant dishes for breakfast lunch and dinner she just needs to eat but she'll refuse and say the stress I'm inducing is far worse for the baby than not eating, and I've recognized this its been 2 months of me holding my tounge but today I we were having the same argument about how dangerous fasting is for a baby and even fasting has a full meal at the end of the day but my stress is much worse. I told her the baby could die if she didn't eat and if she wasn't prepared to be a mother and work past her comfort she should've had an abortion.

She immediately started to cry and how dare I say that. I told her to not nitpick what I told her and to look at the big picture which is a healthy baby but she didn't want to speak. And I'm expecting now she'll want me to apologize

So AITA for saying how dangerous her actions were and she shouldve had an abortion if she wasn't prepared? ######

Response: YTA for that comment and for the guilt trip. If she's heavily nauseous, that's probably why she's not eating -- in which case, telling her she's a bad person will not help the food stay down. Maybe try being constructive and helpful for a change, like finding out what her stomach will best tolerate and making things easy for her, since stress exacerbates nausea. ######


Prompt:
There’s some backstory here. I (20F) have been dating my boyfriend “Kase” for almost a year. We went to the same high school, but we weren’t really acquainted for reasons I’ll explain further down.

We were on video chat last night, and he made a remark about how he was bullied in high school for his lazy eye. It’s true that he has a lady eye, but it’s no big deal and not why he was bullied. I pointed this out to him.

In high school, my bf was a horrible neckbeard. He was overweight, had a horrible patchy moustache, and wore cartoon shirts all the time. He even had one of those —and I’m not joking — “orgasm donor” novelty tee shirts. He wrote a poem about a girl in our class and sharpied it onto the wall of the boys bathroom. He put in lots of identifying info, so it was easy for people to narrow it down who wrote it. Once he got over the poem girl, he asked a teacher out on a date, and the teacher had to tell him he was being inappropriate. Also, this teacher was a lesbian and dressed in butch style. He was just too oblivious to notice.

Anyway, I laid those facts out and he got angry. He said I was blaming the victim, and that the bullying wrecked his self worth. The bullying wasn’t serious, it was just people making fun of him on Snap and stuff. I said he should be proud of losing weight and learning to dress and talk to girls. In college he’s a totally different person, and I would never have matched with him otherwise.

He said he’d think about what I said, but we haven’t talked since. I’m worried I was harsh. AITA? ######

Response: YTA for telling him the bullying wasn't "serious" when hes telling you that it was. To him it ruined his self worth. You're telling him he deserved to be bullied and was in essence asking for it by acting like this and...not being skinny? Yes. He was cringey in high school so was everyone. Support him and stop victim blaming ######


Prompt:
So yea my gf has this really dumb friend who she had for like 7 years. She sometimes visits us and I have been avoiding her the last few times when my gf asked I told her straight and she was very upset and told me that it was very hurting to know how little I think to someone she adores so much.

Btw this girl is like the most boring and annoying girl I have ever seen but she is hot af so people’s constant attention and interest in her fed her ego and made her this empty shallow person ######

Response: YTA for talking about your girlfriend's best friend like that. You aren't going to like all of her friends, nor is she going to like all of your friends, but part of being in a relationship means getting along with the people in your partner's life. That doesn't mean that you have to be her best friend or hang out with her all the time, but grow up and show some respect. ######


Prompt: So I am 19 Male. I am away from college but I am still financially dependent on my parents they pay for my college they pay for my car insurance my gas for my car and give me a month spending budget of 600 a month. Well when I found out that I wasn't getting a stimulus check because my mom claimed me on her taxes last year I called her to ask her why. She said because she still pay for everything for me. I tired to explain that I was also 18 at the end of the year. She asked why do I care if I was getting a stimulus check anyways I told my mom going to use to it buy non essentials since I am only allowed to spend the 600 on food clothes and things like that. She said that's not what the stimulus is for. I said it was still my money. When I asked my girlfriend(23F) about it she said I was being a spoiled brat. AITA? ######

Response: YTA for sure! She claimed you because you're still DEPENDENT on her! Thus it's her money not yours. It's not even a month's worth of Your expenses. ######


Prompt:
Bit of a long story but need to post here as we are both completely convinced we are not TA in this situation.
So I went to a rave recently with a group of friends and not my GF. About a week or two after this rave I get a message on Facebook from some random girl I’ve never met or seen asking if I was the guy from *name of rave*. I said yes, because I was there, and we kept chatting a bit until I realised she had mistaken me for someone she had met there and obviously taken home to sleep with after. At this point she was being really flirty but as I know for sure I wasn’t who she thought I was - and I saw my GF right after the rave so we all know that’s true - I thought I’d continue chatting as a joke. I wasn’t flirting too much back, but when she’d flirt with me I’d acknowledge it to keep the ruse going.
So this goes on slowly for a few weeks - Not all day every day so it’s not like we’re chatting constantly - and then one day my GF and I are together and she sees a message from this girl pop up and takes my phone and it just goes off from there.
She’s angry that I’ve apparently lied to this girl and she thinks I’m trying to trick this girl in to sex (she was saying we should meet up “again” but I wouldn’t have done that as I love my GF. I was going to block her soon after that anyway). I’m telling her exactly what I’ve just written but she doesn’t think it makes it any better. She says it’s gross that I’d let this girl think we’ve slept together and I must be getting something out of that when in reality it’s just like if you get a wrong number text and fool around with that person.
Anyway, I have never been unfaithful but I did flirt with girls online at the start of our relationship and I don’t think my GF has really gotten over that, and this is just that coming up again.
So AITA ?? ######

Response: YTA for stringing this girl along instead of correcting her mistake, and YTA for flirting with someone else behind your GF's back. ######


Prompt:
I fly a good amount, and especially now as airlines barely offer peanuts to their passengers anymore, I prefer to bring my own food onto the airplane. For years now, I love grabbing to-go food from any of my favorite local restaurants, lugging it through security and waiting to eat the meal on the airplane. Usually I get a simple sandwich, but some of the other items i've enjoyed at 30,000 ft include Thai, Mexican, Persian of course, salads, hoagies, In-n-Out burgers and most recently Greek food.

My girlfriend that recently accompanied me while traveling while I had a Greek gyro, and said I was a total A-hole for bringing any kind of smelly food into an enclosed space, especially when others around me don't have the option of eating it. My argument is that the lack of options at the airport and the exceptionally high price of any food or beverage at the airport should encourage everyone to pack a meal for themselves for their journey.

So let's see if my girlfriends right or not.... AITA? ######

Response: YTA for stinky food on a plane, but YTA for not realising that the air hostess has to agree with you - she can't be seen criticising the actions of a passenger who isn't being openly disruptive (just obnoxious). ######


Prompt:
Throwaway as step daughter uses Reddit

I have a family of 5. Two sons one wife and my step daughter. Over the last year or so my family has been using Netflix less and less as Netflix is getting rid of our favorite content.

This month only step daughter used Netflix. So I decided since there where new streaming services i picked out three and the family where going to vote which two we where going to keep.

The three services where HBO max and Disney plus and Netflix. Each person got two votes. So after dinner we voted and HBO max and Disney plus won. I decided to cancel Netflix. My step daughter yelled at me canceling Netflix saying she uses it. I told my step daughter we voted on the services and Netflix lost. My step daughter was the only one who voted for Netflix.

 My step daughter was angry.  I then told my step daughter if she wants Netflix she is going to have to use her own for the service otherwise she can find something to watch on HBO max and Disney plus. My step daughter became mad and yelled at me for favoring my sons choices over her she also started screaming at me. So then I grounded my step daughter.

 (my wife agrees with me for grounding my step daughter)My step daughter since today morning has not talked to me. SO now I am wondering if I am the asshole for cancelling Netflix and telling my step daughter if she wants it she has to pay it with her own money.

(my step daughter is 17 and my two sons are 14) ######

Response:
 YTA for setting up a vote you knew she would lose. If you said hey, we're getting rid of Netflix because x y z, fine. But you knew she was the only one watching it and deliberately picked only two other services beyond that one and said you would only have two services, setting her up to lose.

THAT part feels like a dick move. ######


Prompt:
The title sounds really vulgar but my ”stepmom” is 29 and she has always tried to boss me around and still at 18 does it and I have had enough.

Today I just couldn’t take it anymore when she tried to make me come eat lunch even though I wasn’t hungry. She insisted like I was a 5 year old.

I snapped and told her to fucking leave me alone and suck my dad’s dick. She just left me alone crying. ######

Response: YTA for saying that to anyone. You've given no examples that warrant that reaction. ######


Prompt:
Okay,  so this was kind of in response to a "trying to feed a cat vegan" post,  and someone mentioned rabbits; it reminded me of an interaction I had the other day. My friend said she got two rabbits as pets and sent pictures... The cages are small,  for starters. I didn't really know what to say about them because I don't get the whole "keeping rabbits as pets" thing. I grew up on a farm way down south, the "pets" we had were dogs (because sheep etc) and rabbits were considered pests and/or food. (yes,  we were local hunters,  yes we used 100% of the animals, yes we obeyed population and seasonal laws) but my friend absolutely lost her mind saying you can't eat pets, it's sick, yadda yadda yadda. I stand by what I believe and I didn't say anything rude,  just "I don't see them as pets,  just food."
AITA for saying I consider rabbits food and not pets? ######

Response: YTA for saying it to someone who was sharing her pets with you via pictures. If it had been said in a conversation about food in general no. ######


Prompt:
My grandmother is 90 this year.
I'm 34 and SIL is 30.

My SIL visits my grandmother with her children and my brother three times a week, I visit as much as possible which is usually three times a month  but we usually Skype or call at least twice a week, I live further away so it just isnt possible for me to visit as frequently.

My SIL has always been very involved with the family, my brother has always tried to make everyone include her since she was adopted and her adopted family went no contact with her (they had a child of their own not too long after adopting her)

I personally think sometimes SIL is overly involved, she's not actually family.

Apparently my grandmothers care worker asked her work to phone family to talk to my grandmother, apparently she was getting emotional when care worker went to leave because obviously nobody has been visiting as much.

Apparently instead of me being contacted (they have my number and brothers number) they contacted my brother despite me saying contact him only in emergencies if I'm not available.

SIL apparently spent 2 hours on the phone and only told me since grandma had asked where I was.

It's not like I'm low contact, I've specified to contact ME, SIL isnt actually her family and should've passed the message to call to me.

I called them up and complained as I should've been informed, not her.

My husband thinks I'm being pety but I think it was unprofessional on the care workers part and especially so on her boss.

Apparently I'm an AH for overreacting I don't think I overreacted and I'm actually considering changing her carer because I'm concerned about what else I'm not being informed about.

AITA ? ######

Response: YTA for repeatedly saying your SIL is "not actually family" when she clearly is. What's your issue with her? ######


Prompt:
Two of my daughters are getting married on the same day (I know smh). The older one thought the younger one did it to be malicious, but we've since confirmed that the wedding hall that the younger one wants to get married at only had a limited amount of slots, and that the next available slot is almost a year later unless someone cancels.

On top of that, they're getting married on separate sides of the country!

My husband and I decided we would each go to one of their weddings, but now both of them upset, because my older daughter wants me at *her* wedding, and my younger daughter wants her father to walk her down the aisle.

Okay, fine. We'll switch!

Nope! My younger daughter wants me at *her* wedding, and my older daughter wants her father to walk her down the aisle!

I'm about ready to throw my hands up!

I was on threeway with my daughters this morning, and they were bickering so much I just got fed up and said that I wasn't going to either wedding and hung up!

I felt bad about it a little later, but I honestly think this is the best solution if they can't be adults and decide this amongst themselves reasonably. ######

Response:
 YTA for punishing your older daughter for the actions of her sister.

Your older daughter had her wedding planned first, and now because her younger sister thoughtlessly picked the same date, your older daughter is being punished by you not attending. I would never forgive my parents or my sister for that betrayal. ######


Prompt:
Seriously, what is up with validation posts recently? The entire front page is full of them. You can see them from their title. For example : AITA for cutting of my wife's liquor consuption while pregnant? WELL WHAT DO YOU THINK? ARE YOU AN ASSHOLE FOR WANTING YOUR UNBORN TO BE HEALTHY? Another one: AITA for refusing to give my parents money? Are you seriously asking that?

Please mods do something about this, i actually want to judge people for something else than asking for validation. ######

Response: YTA for not using meta tags ######


Prompt:
I am a very deep sleeper. I have always been this way, and my wife knows this. When our daughter cries at night I never hear her. My wife knows this too.

I have told her many times to please wake me up so I can feed her and take care of her so my wife get some sleep, but my wife refuses to wake me up. Instead she will feed her and then get mad at me the next day for "not helping her," even though she knows I did not wake up. I think sometimes she does not believe that I am really asleep despite seeing me sleep through thunderstorms that made the whole house shake.

I get tired of always being the bad guy for something I can't help, so I finally told my wife that she has no right to complain and fuss at me when she knows (a) I can't help this, (b) I have asked her to wake me, and (c) she refuses. I told her she needed to stop complaining about this unless she starts waking me. Otherwise she is not being reasonable and has no one but herself to blame for "not being helped."

A couple friends think I should not have told her this, but I don't know what she really expects when she knows I don't hear our daughter cry. I have told her that maybe if she brought her into our room I might wake up, but she doesn't want her to sleep in our bedroom.

AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA for not trying to find a solution. 2 seconds of googling found me wearable and vibrating baby monitors for deaf people. http://thedeafmama.com/equipment-lists/baby-monitors/

I’m sure there are even more solutions out there. Another option is you and your wife shift sleep so you go to bed early wake up early so you’ll be awake for the feedings. ######


Prompt:
I have a 6 year old yorkiepoo who is, in my opinion, the cutest thing in the world. I used to only dress him for weather, like a jacket and boots if it was cold and a thunder shirt to help him with anxiety during storms, but I noticed that he seemed to really like the clothes I put on him. He would wag his tail and get excited when I took them out and he would pull away when I tried to take his coat off, so I started dressing him in little outfits pretty often. If he cried or seemed upset about it I wouldn't, but he seems to like it some days and other days he seems pretty apathetic and unbothered by it, and I think it's cute. He even waits by his basket of clothes in the morning for me to pick out an outfit for him.

My partner doesn't like that I dress the dog up. He thinks it makes me look like a "crazy dog person" and like "one of those high maintenance people who treat their dogs like accessories." People around town also know that we are partners, so my partner worries that people will think this about them by association. My partner told me I need to stop dressing my dog up but I said no. I think my partner is overreacting and it isn't fair to make this demand. AITA for continuing to dress up the dog even if my partner told me not to? ######

Response: YTA for not posting a picture of your doggie. ######


Prompt:
So, I've been living with her for almost 4 months now and recently I started to have issues about my personal space being invaded while I'm working.

Last time it happened I had to make an evaluation online and she didn't stop trying to be all over me or in front of the pc screen so, obviously, I told her to go into her room and let me alone because this was something important and I didn't wanted to be bothered.
She left, I closed her door and could hear inside of her room, making angry sounds and throwing stuff.
I have to be honest, I really like to have her around me and cuddle together but not all times, I really need my space sometimes and just can't let her crawl all over myself just because she feels cold or unattended.

So, AITA for don't let her do what she wants? I know it's just a cat but she's really upset with me. ######

Response: YTA for not paying the cat picture tax. ######


Prompt:
Okay so immediately that title makes me look like a total fucking douche, but let me elaborate.

My friend Charlie and I recently rekindled our friendship, among rekindling our entire high school friend group, after the group broke up and went no contact for roughly 8 months. The group consisted of about twenty people and went strong from Freshman year until just before Senior year, so about 3 years.

Anyway, while conversing with everyone one on one and rebuilding connections with different people, it comes up that one of my closest friends from those days, Charlie, has been voicing that I owe him $400 fucking dollars in GAS MONEY from the days when he’d drive me and other friends in his car, like sophomore year, so ya know, 2 years ago. He literally wants money for actions that he never asked money for. Not one time in our friendship or in our endeavors did he ever mention wanting gas money or any type of payment.

And it’s not like we were just using this dude for rides; for reference, Charlie and I used to have a system where every time we went out to eat, we’d take turns paying for each other’s meal. It was just a cool courtesy tradition thing, and neither of us thought much of it. Charlie was one of my best friends, but this is ridiculous.

If I genuinely felt I owed him $400, I’d pay him no question. But I do not believe I owe him a fucking dime. He offered to be the one behind the wheel all those times, despite other friends of ours also having cars and licenses. Frankly, this sounds like a cash grab for absolutely no reason.

And yes, he is completely dead serious and has voiced this directly to my face as well. He refuses to move forward until I pay him. He doesn’t want payment from the other friends he also drove around, literally just me.

So, AITA? ######

Response: YTA for not offering to pay for gas ######


Prompt:
So I'm 17. I've known my adoptive parents most of my life but they've only been "officially" my parents for about 2-3 years. Before that they were friends of our foster parents and adopted us after they died.

My moms (E and A) got divorced about 3 months ago. It wasn't messy, just two people who no longer really worked as a couple. They're still friends, sort of.

Anyways fast forward three months and E is a terrible parent without A there to help and A is a significantly better parent when not held back by E's incompetence.

If I need somebody to talk to, I'm going to A not E because A will actually listen and give advice/validation/call me out. E will tell me she's busy and to go ask A.

It used to be A handled a lot of the "having a relationship with your child" things and E was just there to have panic attacks when she walks in on me and my boyfriend having sex without knocking.

Oh and she cooked decently well. A can't cook to save her life.

Anyways, I'm graduating soon in a park and we can only have three guests. It was originally two but the school decided we could do three? So I chose A, my boyfriend, and my sister.

E asked when my graduation was and I told her I didn't invite her and not to come. She was pretty hurt actually, which wasn't my intention, I just have an actual relationship with my three guests and she's just that person who houses me every other week.

She's not a bad parent, she's just not very approachable as a parent because she'll just have a panic attack or tell me she's busy or to ask someone else.

So AITA? ######

Response: YTA for not explaining why she couldn't come. You could've told her about the guest limitation but you chose to hurt her feelings by saying "you're not invited". She seems to care about you, even if you teo never managed to establish a meaningful connection ######


Prompt:
I have four sons, ranging in age from twelve to five. My wife died four years ago and I've been dating my girlfriend for about five months now.

There have been multiple times now where one of my children have gone up to her, trying to show her something or asking to watch a television show with her or something along those lines, and she just rebuffs them. For an example, my ten year old is very interested in cooking, and so is my girlfriend, so I brought up then maybe watching a cooking show together or trying to cook something simple. Her response? "He's too young to be into cooking."

 My youngest is very hyperactive and has some learning issues. Recently, I taught him how to read a page in his favorite book and he tried to show my girlfriend because he was really proud of it. She refused to look at it and said "I don't want to see your stupid book."

A week ago, I took her aside and said that she wasn't attempting to make a connection with any of them, and we cannot move foward in our relationship if they didn't have a friendship of some sort. I said early on that she didn't have to be a mother, but she had to be nice and at least try and show some interest in them. She replied that "They were too immature to spend time with."

Let me make it clear that my two eldest are very mature and responsible for their age. My seven year old has his moments of immaturity and my youngest is hopeless in that area, but each and every one of them have tried to interact and every time, she refused and rebuffs.

But, apparently, my statement was harsh and she had been very cold and distant. She told me earlier that I had hurt her feelings by not seeing that she was making attempts to be their friend. ######

Response: YTA for not dumping someone who’s mean to your kids ######


Prompt:
 Me and my wife have been having an ongoing feud with our neighbors - they have a very large and obnoxious dog that howls into all hours of the night (We will be moving into a new house very soon, but are currently living in a townhouse beside them.)

Ever since our fat neighbor (37F) lost a bunch of weight, she has been having a mid life crisis and has been going out to the club almost daily, trying re live her 20's and maybe lure a new man to take care of her - which is fine, but the dog is left neglected and at home, whining and howling at all hours of the night. This continues, even in spite of my repeated conversations with her about it, trying to handle things nicely.

One night when the dog was being particularly loud, I decided to "woof" back at the wall - and sure enough, the dog became more excited and began to bark even louder. I decided that I would teach my neighbor a lesson and have been barking through the wall each morning at 3-4Am (When I know my neighbor will be drunk and hung over) in an attempt to entice the dog into barking loudly - I have woken my neighbor up at least 3 times over the last couple of weeks using this method.

Am I the ass hole? It feels justified to me, because I'm just giving her a taste of what I've been having to deal with - and besides, her lazy ass should be getting up at a decent hour anyway, not getting hammered at the club until 12am and then being a dangerous driver on the way to work in the morning. ######

Response: YTA for not calling the RSPCA/ humane society/ whatever it is in your country to check on a neglected dog. Your concern is revenge and it should be animal welfare. ######


Prompt:
I (28F) bought my niece (14F) an iPhone for her birthday. My sister and her daughter are not the most affluent. (I'd say they're about lower-middle class.) This past weekend was my niece Bethany's 14th birthday and she's never had a smartphone. She has always told me she feels left out from her friends when they tell ask her for her phone number, Instagram, etc and she can't give them an answer. So I thought this year for her birthday would be a perfect opportunity to buy her a phone since I figured she was bored in quarantine.

Me and my husband (33M) are pretty well off, he's an attorney and I own a small bakery. So we have extra cash to splurge on nice things. My sister on the other hand, (30F) had her daughter at a young age and the father is out of the picture, so she struggles a bit in terms of finances. So I thought I would do a favor for her and her daughter Bethany by purchasing an iPhone 10 for her.  It's not the latest model but she still appreciated it.

On Saturday it was her birthday and she had a drive-by type party. I had wrapped her gift and attached a birthday card to it, and handed it to her out of the window. We went home and about 3ish hours later my sister calls me and chews me out about giving her daughter the gift, saying I was trying to "one-up" her and that I was being "insensitive" about their situation. In my eyes I was just doing a nice thing for my sisters and niece. AITA? ######

Response: YTA for not asking first. There are a lot of ways a gift like this can go wrong, whether it's the mom feeling one-upped or like her child will be given expectations she can't fulfill, or the financial implications for phone plans and data usage, or the question of whether the mom wants her child to have continual access to every distraction and hazard on the Internet. I'm not saying that a 14-year-old shouldn't have a phone, but that's something that parents can legitimately have concerns about, both in general and for a specific kid for specific reasons. I don't think a phone is in a "never give as a present" category, but I think it's definitely in a "talk with the parents first" category. ######


Prompt:
A bit of context: Most food shops are closed. My bf and I don't live together but he visits me every night.

Last night I told my bf about a bakery that's still open with my favorite types of cakes and asked him to come by and buy me some when getting off work. He agreed.

This morning when he was at work I sent him a facebook post of the bakery showing their menus, address and current working hours without saying much. He replied 'okay i'll get some' and then after a few minutes followed with 'that's it? You just threw out a link without saying anything?'. I was confused and said that I already told him about it last night and he was like 'For real? Not even a thank-you?'. I was so confused saying that he hasn't even gotten me those cakes yet and that it's weird to ASK for a thank-you like this. I have bought and made him stuff without expecting or asking him to show a ton of gratitude. But he is unswayed, saying that a 'thank-you' is minimum mannerism and I should have said that instead of just 'throwing' a link at him. I told him I don't want those cakes anymore.

I think this is too petty for him to get upset about. AITA?

Edit: too many people mentioned this so I just need to clarify: I probably don’t live in the same country as you. Our governments’ measures are different. We both make sure to have very limited contact with others besides each other.

Edit2: yeah DMing and harrassing me will end in a report. Ew to you. ######

Response: YTA for making two words more important than your boyfriend's feelings. Like goddamn. How many situations do you thank someone immediately after asking for a favour? Basically all situations. You don't thank them after it's done, you thank them when they agree to do you a favour. Its almost as if you care more about the cake then the fact your boyfriend is doing something for you. ######


Prompt:
My step brother and me have never gotten along. He's very opinionated (atheist, feminist, Marxist, lgbt, etc) and always makes his opinions known, usually causing massive drama at family gatherings. Mum says he has histrionic personality disorder. I'm not sure if that's her diagnosis or his psychologist's.

Anyway, I recently found out he refused to go to his cousin's wedding because it was religious. And I'm not a religious person, but my fiancé is. So I decided to tell my fiancé we should have a religious wedding. My fiancé is over the moon but I'm just trying to stop my step bro attending. Am I the asshole for that? ######

Response: YTA for making a petty grievance the basis of your wedding decisions. Your fiance deserves for you to be committed to the wedding and planning it with sincerity and enthusiasm, not malice toward a third party. ######


Prompt:
So around when my son was 10 or 11 I told my wife that I thought he would be gay when he was older. (Or was already gay I reckon since you are born with a sexuality.) She thought I was being ridiculous. Now I want to make sure I say, neither me and my wife are bigots, neither of us care at all if our kids are gay or straight. I just believed my son would be gay based on a lot of factors.

Finally she told me to drop it and I said okay okay, how about this? Let's bet on it. Bet $50. She kind of rolled her eyes and agreed to it.

Well lo and behold! Our son now 17 came out as gay a few days ago. First of all I am very happy for him that he came out, and of course we told him we love him and all that, but also I was over the moon that I had won the bet. After he went back to his room I just kind of looked at my wife expecting her reaction. She was like what? I was like so how about my $50 ha ha?

She had forgotten about the bet! She remembered it when I reminded her. She was just kind of like "oh brother" about it. She still has not paid me the $50. Now I know it might be silly but a bet is a bet. I asked her to pay up again this morning and she got really angry at me. We had a huge fight. It is causing a big interpersonal conflict between us.

AITA for wanting my $50? I mean, I called it. I deserve the money. ######

Response: YTA for making a bet on your child's sexuality and dragging your wife into it. Congrats, your son will face so many obstacles for being gay, but hey, your wife will give $50 thats essentially both your money anyways. ######


Prompt:
Ok so to begin this let's just call my mom and stepdad my parents because that's easier and almist correct anyway. My parents are in their 30s so it's not unexpected that they still do it.

Last night I woke up in the middle of the night at like 01 or something. I didn't check but it was late. I obviously got out of my room and while walking by my parents room our cat started scratching tveir door.

I opened it for the cat but the cat didn't wanna go and instead hesitated. The lights were out in their room but I did feel like something was off. Soon after I heard my stepdad saying: "Close the fucking and let me have some privacy to fuck my wife. You always stay up late and walk in so I don't have any privacy in my own room!"

I apologized and pushed the cat in with my foot and got the glass of water and went back to my room and to sleep. ######

Response: YTA for making 30s sound geriatric. Hell yeah we still fuck! ######


Prompt:
Yesterday, I was talking in a group chat and this one person who I would be friendly with started to text in homophobic slurs, saying 'all gays should be sent away' etc. These comments have been a recurring issue with this guy for years and he has seemed never to back down on them even after I and others condemn them.

Here's where it gets messy.

I sent the company he works for part-time an email asking them to have a conversation with him and included some screenshots of the slurs used. They fired him within hours. I didn't mean for him to get fired, only to have a conversation with him however I still have very little sympathy for him. He has texted back at me and is understandably very annoyed. Apparently, he had apologised to others but not me yet.  Am I the asshole?

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TLDR: Friend was homphobic so I emailed his employer who subsequently fired him. ######

Response:
 YTA for lying

> They fired him within hours. I didn't mean for him to get fired, only to have a conversation with him however I still have very little sympathy for him.

This is quite clearly untrue, you knew exactly what would happen as a result of what you did, don't try and pretend you didn't. People in this sub aren't stupid, don't treat them like they are ######


Prompt:
I'm the 33YO mother of two daughters, 8YO and 7YO. I have no problem with my children watching almost anything on Disney, Nick, and Boomerang, except I \*\*\*HATE\*\*\* a certain show about a sponge under the sea. I WILL NOT let my daughters watch it.

Apparently, 7YO has somehow been exposed to this painful cartoon and now that I won't let her watch it (no educational value, no morals, no real worth in the show, proven to actually cause issues with attention span, etc), she's currently in her room pouting and I'm needing some back up here.

AITA?

EDIT: After a half-hour of watching debate between NTA/YTA, I've decided to compromise. One episode per day, but she can't use the living room TV. ######

Response: YTA for letting your general dislike of the show cloud the reality of it. Spongebob is a show that can be annoying, yes, but straight up saying has no morals or lessons is blatantly wrong. It’s a show that consistently teaches that lying/stealing, judging people, trying to change yourself too much to fit in, etc... aren’t answers and that hard work and dedication are good things. ######


Prompt:
So because things are starting to open up, they’ve loosened the restrictions on gatherings in my country. To celebrate my brother recently graduating college, we decided to have a small barbecue.

We invited a few people who we knew took the quarantine seriously and probably weren’t sick, and one of them is vegan. We knew she was vegan but we told her when we invited her that there would be hamburgers and hot dogs.

Anyways, everybody came and everything went fine until we started eating. Our vegan friend brought her girlfriend with her as her plus one and her girlfriend began complaining that she was hungry. The problem is, she is vegan too. We didn’t have any fruits or vegetables in the kitchen, so we didn’t know what to do.

Her girlfriend got really mad at us and left without her partner because we didn’t provide her any food that she could eat. AITA for not providing anything? ######

Response: YTA for inviting someone to a BBQ without providing anything they can eat. ######


Prompt:
My daughter (16F) lives and works as an actress/ model in LA.

Our family home is in Colorado where my son and husband still live full time.

I’ve been going back and forth between home and LA in an effort to preserve my marriage but lately my husband and I have been fighting a lot. Yesterday night we had such a bad argument regarding our daughter’s career that my 14 year old son started crying.

Now our house is very tense. My husband slept in the guest room last night.

Meanwhile my daughter is in LA and sleeping over at her mentor’s house a lot. She’s been cast in minor role in a project. The director wants her to shoot promotional material this weekend.

Saturday happens to also be my son’s fifteenth birthday. However, from what I’ve been hearing a lot of kids are postponing their birthday celebrations for later. Meanwhile, my daughter does not have the pull to even dream of asking the director to move his schedule around for her.

My daughter is in good hands with her mentor, but her mentor’s group of friends party a lot so I feel that it would be best that I be there so that I make sure she is sufficiently prepared physically and mentally for her work day ahead.

I feel like my presence would eliminate distractions and I can help convey the director and photographer’s feedback on set if need be.

My husband has ignored most of what I’ve been saying since our fight, but when I brought up going to LA for the weekend he went ballistic. He called me a bad mother and my son hasn’t come out of his room since I told him.

However, the house is obviously tense with his dad and I together so I thought that it would be better for our son if I wasn’t there, eliminating the chance for argument. I feel like if I was there I would just ruin the birthday anyway and overall not be there for my daughter either.

I also feel if I stay there longer I’ll end up giving negative feelings to my daughter instead of expressing my desire for her to continue her career.

AITA? ######

Response: YTA for inserting yourself into your daughters career AND for letting her move away at 16 AND for fighting with your husband so badly that your son cried AND for not talking things out like rational adults AND for missing your son's birthday without even talking to him about it, though I feel like that is the least of your crimes here. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway because my wife knows my account.

I've (28M) have been with my amazing, sexy wife (29F) for five years. She normally gets pedicures to take care of her heels, but due to recent events she has not been able to, and it's killing me. I don't know how or why her heels get so jagged and crusty, but they look like Hobbit hooves, and they HURT when she gets me with them. I also just really hate feet, and always have, so this makes it worse. We'll be cuddling in bed, and then suddenly it feels like a cheese grater just scraped my leg. One time we were having sex and then SCHWING right down my back, it was brutal. One time she suggested taking martial arts classes together and I told her we should try kickboxing because her heels are like gilded weapons. She cried and I apologized, but man, her heels are just so scratchy and painful. The compromise we ended up making is that she gets pedicures regularly, and it's been working great for us for years now.

Until recently. The other night we were cuddling in bed and she sliced me again with her jagged hoof, so I suggested she wear socks to bed until she can get another pedicure. She told me that she's never like sleeping with socks on and they make her feel constricted. She does have a foot file, but it doesn't do the job because she needs the heavy duty ones they use at the nail place and we can't find a good one anywhere online. I feel bad because I know she's insecure about her heels and I've been a douche about them in the past. For right now we sleep under separate blankets. We still have an active sex life, which is important, but I really miss cuddling with her without getting shanked in the leg. AITA here, guys? ######

Response: YTA for how your talk about her. I get that you’re making jokes to entertain....redditors....but she is your wife. She may have crusty feet, and she may want to find solutions that you can help with, but there’s no reason to continuously disrespect her like that so anonymous strangers can upvote you. ######


Prompt:
I used to work at a cosmetics retail store. I was there for 2 years and about 18 months in, a girl named Fatima joined our team. She was professional, kind and a great sales rep.

There was only one problem. Her FEET. SMELLED. LIKE ROTTING EGGS. They smelled what I'd imagine would smell like dead rats, vomit and beatle juice all at once. PUNGENT. OVERWHELMING. STALE.  It was unbearable.

What's worse is noone in our team had the guts to tell her. She was just spoken about behind her back. "Oh here comes Feetima" and "stay 10 FEET away from her". We'd avoid her like the plague. She would even deter customers from our store.

6 months later, I was set to move overseas and handed in my resignation to my manager. At the same time, I offered to have a word with Fatima about her feet since I was leaving anyway and wouldn't have to deal with the repercussions. My manager was thrilled.

I waited until my last day on the job. I found the opportunity when we were both in the kitchen together alone. I said "Fatima, I'm going to tell you something that I would want you to tell me if I were in your position. Your feet smell like something died and is decomposing on them. It's so bad that everyone deliberately avoids you and I think you should do something about it".

She responded by saying she has a fungas issue and that she can't afford new shoes. She then broke down, called me inconsiderate and stormed out.

I never spoke to her again. My manager was very grateful.

TLDR: Took the opportunity on my last day on the job to tell a co worker her feet smell like something dead is decomposing on them since I'd never see her again. ######

Response: YTA for how you told her. She is right, that was very inconsiderate. Why couldn’t you have just let her know discreetly and respectfully? She clearly has a medical issue and this needed to have been addressed well before you guys started making fun of her behind her back and didnt care that you were losing business because of it. ######


Prompt:
My girlfriend (24F) and I (35M) have been together for almost a year. She comes from a wealthy family. They own several houses and buy my gf everything she wants whenever she wants it. They’re good people, but I think they need to treat her like a woman instead of a child. I worked hard for everything I have, which isn’t much, so it frustrates me to watch her coast through life. They pay all of her bills, including putting her through medical school. All she has to pay for herself are her luxuries, so she is able to build up her savings much more than I am. Who the hell is able to save up while they’re in medical school? Well anyone can become a doctor with the endless opportunities that she has.

So yesterday my girlfriend and I got into a very heated argument. She told me her new laptop had finally come. I asked her what laptop. She said her old one broke a few days ago so she ordered a new one. She got a top of the line MacBook, way more bells and whistles than what she needs. I asked how she paid for it but I knew the answer, her parents bought it. So here’s where I might be the asshole. I was really mad knowing they probably spent 3 months of what could be someone’s rent on a computer that she *doesn’t need*. I finally just asked her if she’s embarrassed that everything she has in life has been handed to her. Naturally she got defensive and we started arguing. After a while I calmly said I think she’s a spoiled brat and her parents are doing a disservice to her. She called me a string of obscenities in return before hanging up on me. We haven’t talked since.

I get that I was harsh on her but I really don’t think I was wrong. She’s an adult who has no concept of what the real world is like. I want the best for her at the end of the day. Reddit, AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA For how you handled this.

Does she flaunt her wealth? Treat people poorly? Expect to get good grades because of her money?

Her laptop broke and her parents bought her a new one. NBD. Did you walk in on her screeching at the top of her lungs on the phone with her parents demanding a top of the line MacBook or is that just the laptop what they bought?

You’ve provided no evidence that she’s a spoiled brat, only that her family is financially stable and your behavior suggests extreme jealousy. I suggest you apologize to your GF and speak to someone before this jealousy ruins your relationship. ######


Prompt:
So I’m getting married July 21st
(Corona be dammed, I’ll get married if I want) and for my wedding party, I have my bestie, my future sister in law, and my little sister(14). Now I am getting married to a poc, whose family all has this brown hair. My family also has very curly brown hair( not a Afro or anything just very strong Italian genes). Everyone at my wedding is going to have brown hair, because I am only inviting close family and my best friends. I thought this was perfect, And I have dyed my hair lighter.  It was supposed to be platinum but for some reason my hair just didn’t take that well and so it’s left me with this gorgeous honey color. The only problem is my sister. My sister has naturally blonde hair. And she is literally obsessed with it, she brushes it constantly. It’s this golden color and when ever she stands in the sun it looks lighter and shines. I am having a outdoor wedding, so the sun will be out. She’s gonna be one of my bridesmaids so she’ll be near me, and she just won’t fit in with the rest of the wedding party. ( I want her to get a tan too because of how pale she is but honestly she’ll probably just burn ) this will also ruin my plan to dye my hair. I asked her if she could dye her hair darker for the wedding and just dye it back after the wedding. She IMMEDIATELY got defensive, and used some pretty rough language towards me. I told her if she loved me then she’d do it and she said I guess I just don’t love you then which hurt my feelings really bad. I want her out of my wedding party but I have no other choice but to have her there because my parents are paying for my wedding and they want her there. But now they’re calling me a bitch for just wanting a matching wedding party. Thinking of just shaving her head while she sleeps lol. AITA? ######

Response: YTA for having a wedding during a pandemic and for asking your sister to dye her hair ######


Prompt: I hated my grandma, she was a real bitch all the time. She played favorites all the time and treated me like trash compared to my siblings, she gave me really awful gifts compared to my siblings and cousins around Christmas and the holidays. So I was pretty hype when she finally kicked the bucket. My brother overheard me and told my parents and now I’m grounded for 3 months, am I the asshole? ######

Response: YTA for having "poggers" in your vocabulary ######


Prompt:
Yesterday I was browsing Instagram and saw a pic with a girl with her whole ear pierced. I thought it looked awesome and spontaneously decided to get it done.

The only place open doing ear piercings was a local hair salon so went there and got 5 new piercings added to my left ear in addition to the 3 I had already. I did not think it was to outrageous as it just a line of CZ studs going up my ear.

I sent a pic to my bf and he got mad at me. Said it looked trashy and should have told him first as he would have talked me out of it.  I was told bluntly that I should discuss such things with him first as he did not find it attractive. AITA here? ######

Response: YTA for going to a hair salon to get piercings during a pandemic ######


Prompt:
Throwayay for obvious reasons, and I’ll try to keep this short. Also, this is not relationship advice, I just want to know if I presented things in a bad way.

A while back I started searching for some new jobs out of boredom basically. To my surprise I managed to land something that requires me to relocate to another country, let’s call it B. The country I’m on right now, country A, is pretty shitty compared to B.

Now the thing is I’ve been married to my wife whom I love dearly, but we haven’t had any children yet. When I told her what I did we had a fight because she says her family is here and she cannot separate from them. My position is that this is an amazing opportunity with many costs supported by the employer and the pay is great too. Negatives would be: learning the language to gain access to other jobs, especially for her (for me English is enough), and distance from family (about 3000km). She says she would be homesick within a month and she will not leave with me at all.

As a final point I told her I hate being tied up to other people’s lives and that it was her family’s choice to remain in country A. I feel that ultimatum was kind of harsh, so I’m asking you AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA for going for a job abroad without even discussing this with your wife. You now have some choices: You go to country B without your wife and either your marriage is over or you make the long-distance thing work. Or you find a job in your own area and get over it.

Marriage is not a dictatorship. You can NOT demand things from your spouse. Communication, negotiation, and mutual respect are mandatory. You forgot all of these things in YOUR decision to get that other job. ######


Prompt:
I met her 27 years ago. We lived next door to each other for 3 years and she was a very good neighbor to have. Very nice. We reconnected 2 years ago and she's been to several of my parties. But she's really bad about inviting like 20 people to come with her and I'm invaded.

Don't get me wrong! They're super nice people and when they come, they're taking out my garbage, washing dishes, they're great! But it's a little daunting to be expecting maybe 15 people and having 40 turn up.

But that's not the real problem. Even though we were neighbors, I never really understood just how...stupid she is. I mean like verging on brain damaged. She's just really, really dense. I had her over a couple of times last year and it was, just...unbearable. She has a REALLY loud, abrasive HAW HAW HAW!! laugh that just sets my teeth on edge. She constantly interrupts you when you're talking and it takes FOREVER to explain literally ANYTHING more complex than "food tastes good" to her. She also tends to get really, really drunk very quickly. She's also a 'close talker' and cannot seem to modulate the volume of her voice.

If it weren't for this virus, I'd be fielding daily messages, calls and texts from her wanting to come over and hang out. I usually just make excuses or pretend I'm not home. I keep hoping she'll get the hint, but, nope! Like I said, she's just not very bright.

Am I the asshole for ducking her? ######

Response:
 YTA for ghosting her and not telling her how you feel

You aren't at fault for not wanting to be her friend or for not liking her inviting people to your parties. You don't even have to apologize for thinking she's dumb.

But you are the asshole for not being upfront. Be an adult and tell her you don't want to be friends. It doesn't need to be a long message. Just let her know. ######


Prompt:
So i'm a "vampire"  (m15), and i'm friends with this girl from school (f15) and since we can't se eachother at school anymore, we talk via facebook.

I am very naturally pale and have colored my hair since age 12, and i mostly go out at night.

We were talking one day via facetime, and was asking me questions. She suddenly asked me "could i become a vampire myself?" and explained she also is a outsider and prefer being outside at night and loves goth music. Now, she's VERY dark and has a natural afro. I explained that vampires are usually pale and have long, straight black hair so not really. She got sad and her dad called me later and told me to apologize to her.
AITA? was i mean or racist? ######

Response: YTA for gatekeeping a fictional species ######


Prompt:
My daughter has always been in dance recitals and plays were wearing makeup was both encouraged and expected, and never said anything about it. If anything, she seemed excited about getting to wear makeup (especially for her dance recitals, when the makeup is less cartoonish.)

Because she’ll be going to a new school in the fall, I went online and bought her a few basics - just foundation, eyeshadow, eyeliner, and mascara. I told her it was a good idea for her to start practicing her makeup now, when she’s not seeing her friends everyday, so that she knows what she’s doing when school starts. I also went over how everything is used, and showed her how not to overdo her makeup and look ridiculous.

A couple of my friends who I told about this think I’m an asshole for doing this. I was taken aback by that, because I thought this was a sweet mother/daughter bonding moment.

AITA here? ######

Response: YTA for expecting her to wear makeup so she can get a boyfriend. I know deep down you just what wants best for her but I think you’re going about it wrong, and honestly it sounds kind of pushy the way you told her to “practice to she’ll be good at the start of the school year.” Does she want to wear makeup every day? or just at dance recitals and the like? Even if she does want to wear makeup, I hope you aren’t telling her it’s for the boys in her class. I also think you should continue to empower her and remind her she’s beautiful without makeup too. 13 is a really tough time for girls and their body images. ######


Prompt:
So, there are absolutely no creepy intentions behind this, it’s just something we’ve always done and I kiss my daughters on the lips too. Just a quick peck, nothing creepy.

Anyway, when I visit my son or he visits me we hug and give a quick peck of a kiss on the lips to say goodbye.

My sons current girlfriend finds this to be extremely creepy and she says it makes her feel uncomfortable in a way which makes her believe there are some underlying psychological incestual issues in our family.

To hear someone say something like that made me feel sick and uncomfortable at first and then it just pissed me off. I told my son if it makes him feel awkward at all we can shake hands or wave to eachother when we say goodbye after visiting but he doesn’t care so when he visits me and has her with him I give him an extra long hug and a peck to say goodbye just to piss her off.

AITA? ######

Response: YTA for doing it intentionally to rub it in her face at this point. And I'm going to be honest-if that is a hard boundary for his significant other then he has to decide who is more important. It probably will cause issues down the line even if this girlfriend doesn't turn out to be the one, so be prepared for that. Are you going to balk if the mother of his children won't allow you to kiss the grandkids on the lips? Will you respect his new nuclear family? Something tells me your future daughter in law has her work cut out for her. ######


Prompt:
My girlfriend is 21F and I am 36F.

We live together and because she has no relationship with her controlling, abusive parents, I offered to pay her college tuition.

She’s a sophomore, and right now is taking summer courses. Last weekend, I had a work emergency in another state and was stressed out.

I told my girlfriend I wanted her to come with me. She said no, she needed to study for her exam the next day, and that she can’t focus on planes.

I ended up going on the trip alone and was resentful because I was in Las Vegas of all places and I felt she didn’t even care like a normal partner would that I would be surrounded with so many sources of temptation.

Yesterday, the university posted their bill for next semester. I told her that I didn’t know if I wanted to pay it.

She got super upset, but I reminded her that I didn’t have to pay any of it and that I felt like she obviously not appreciating me like she used to.

Since then, she’s been throwing a mini tantrum which has included raiding the wine cellar and not answering me when I ask why she’s drinking except to say “ I’m sad.”

AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA for dating someone 15 years younger than you and expecting her to be able to just drop everything because you want her to.

You are literally using your money to control her because you're cranky that she decided to put her education over your work trip.

Who are you to demand that she put her education aside because "I want you to come with me to Vegas"? ######


Prompt:
My husband is losing some mobility in what doctors assume is the start of a motor neuron disease. He has difficulty walking and has lost sensation in the right side of his torso. Considering the current world climate, wait times for specialist appointments and etc are extended. We'll be waiting a further 3-4 months before an official diagnosis but our GP says to not get too hasty and don't jump into the mindset of "lifelong illness". We just have to wait.

In the interim, my husband said he'd like to get a wheelchair and make our home wheelchair accessible. For a little backstory: this is our home, but it was mine before we got married. It was my parents who bought it for me, I lived here for 5 years, met my husband, and 3 years later got married. It became ours in the marriage. I hesitate to call it ours because I brought it into the marriage, even if legally it's seen as ours.

I don't want to install ramps and redo stairs because it would negatively impact the house value. The actual cost of construction is relatively minimal (government would subsidize some of it) but removing accommodations is not subsidized and can be hefty. On top of that, this is way too soon. My husband wants to get the ball going ASAP, I want to wait a few months.

AITA for putting my foot down and use the "it's my house" card? ######

Response: YTA for caring more about a house that was BOUGHT for you more than the health and well-being of a man you vowed to love in sickness and health. ######


Prompt:
Just for some background on our family, I had my daughter at 17, she turned 15 March. Her stepfather and I have been married since she was five.

A couple of years ago she started shying away from church, and around the same time building an altar. At first it was just crystals and candles. She said it was for meditation. Her stepfather and I were uncomfortable with it but we let it go.

With time she she has added more and more religious candles and deities, and she is focusing on it more. We are definitely starting to be less and less ok with it. We are unfamiliar with the things that she has there, we are uncomfortable with the candles and our intuition was to ask her to take it down.

Seeking guidance, we took pictures of the altar and posted it on Facebook, asking other parents what they would do about the situation, and seeing if anyone was familiar about it.

Many advised us to have her write out what each thing was on the altar. That way we can determine it’s appropriateness. If she didn’t want to do that then we had a right to take it down.

We thought that this was good advice so we went to our daughter and told her exactly that. She got offended about us questioning her religious beliefs, and told us that she would not comply. We have given her until the end of the week, the altar will come down if she doesn’t do what we ask.

We posted again to Facebook to update about the situation, and to my surprise people were reacting negatively to what I had done. Many people are saying that this is an invasion of privacy, and that I have no right to do this. I think that it is part of my parenting duty to teach my daughter moral beliefs.

Someone on Facebook actually recommended that I post here to get some other opinions, I’m curious about what people think about the situation.

If she doesn’t tell me the meaning of everything on the alter, I’m taking it down. AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA for airing her personal life and your family issues on Facebook.

I can see the concern over things like candles, they’re a fire hazard. But why in the world did you not just talk to your child? ######


Prompt:
My wife got laid off from her job due to the pandemic. Since I work in an office, I get to work from home. My wife hasn't really been looking for new jobs, she will occasionally apply for a job on linkedin, but she isn't putting in a lot of effort in her job search.

However, almost every day she took the car out to see her friends/her parents/etc in spite of the whole quarantine. This has made me frustrated with her because she seems pretty nonchalant about not having a job. This is especially bad because if I need to use the car to go to the store or just to a park to relax, I have to wait for her to come back with messes up my schedule.

I should note that the car was mine before we got married. I decided to hide the keys to it and we had an argument. I told her she is forbidden from using the car until she starts getting serious about looking for a job. She yelled and told me I was being unfair. So needless to say, she's been pretty passive aggressive around me lately but I think my request is completely reasonable, she doesn't work so she shouldn't have the right to the car until she starts contributing. ######

Response:
 YTA for a whole bunch of reasons.

You're married which theoretically makes you an adult, but your post reads like an angry 2 year old throwing a tantrum. You're obviously able to communicate so instead of hiding the keys, why didn't you try talking to her instead?

Or maybe this is entirely made up because I can't imagine that you don't already know YTA. ######


Prompt:
I’ll do my best to keep this short. I have 3 boys with my wife ages 10, 8, and 7. The middle one is the son in question. Let’s call him Austin. I’m no barber but I know how to cut hair. I cut their and my hair if it gets too long. Last year my son started wanting to skip haircuts and my wife said we should let him grow it out if he wants to. I was reluctant because I care about our family looking neat and presentable. I budged in the end.

Austin’s hair got way longer than I ever would agree to. It is past his shoulders. His brothers tease him for looking like a girl and I wouldn’t be surprised if he got that at school too. I asked my son if he would like to cut his hair. He said no but he’s a child. I talked to my wife over and over about it who insisted that he be allowed to decide for himself. I disagree because I think he’s too young to know what is appropriate or not. I wouldn’t allow one of my kids to wear his swim shorts to school. You have to teach kids by saying no sometimes. When she was at work today I decided to cut Austin’s hair and apologize to my wife for it later. He looks way better. He didn’t want the haircut at first but now says he likes it.

When my wife got a look at him and heard that I made him cut his hair, I swear steam came out of her ears. I have never seen her so angry. She told me I was a bad father today and refuses to even talk to me. While we were arguing she said she had half a mind to leave me over this. I think she is making a really big deal out of hair that my son does not even miss. I knew she would be angry but this seems like blowing it way out of proportion. Hair grows back. Anyways, AITA here? ######

Response: YTA first of all you’re allowing your other sons to call him a girl and bully him over his hair, so nice job allowing that to happen. With the attitude you have towards hair it’s no wonder they thought it was appropriate to call him names. Second you forced him to get a haircut against his wishes because you’re pent up over stereotypes. News flash it’s 2020 and boys are allowed to have long hair it’s okay for them to have long hair. His classmates probably don’t even give a shit about his hair because people have learned that things like long hair on guys isn’t something worth giving a shit about. ######


Prompt:
My son is 23 and got married two years ago. He and his wife are head over heels in love and her parents adore him. We invited them over for a Mother's Day dinner as we haven't seen much of them lately. They said they would love to and plans were made. Then they cancelled at the last minute saying they had to work. They sent flowers to my wife on Mother's Day. We were both kind of sad though.

I went to his FB page today and noticed he didn't post anything. He usually posts a lot. So I went to my DIL's FB page and saw that this bastard and her didn't work last night - they were having dinner with HER parents. Her parents left comments like "you are the son we never had." There was no reason to lie. It would have upset us less if he had been honest and said he needed to do this Mother's Day with the in-laws. We would get it. My wife found out and was in tears.

I went on his FB page and told him he was a selfish asshole for lying after we did so much for them like helping them pay for the wedding and other bills. Then I went on my DIL's page and told her that I was sorry that she thinks she's too good for us but not too good to ask us for money when they didn't have it.

Now I know why he didn't post anything on his FB because he didn't want us to find out. It was on their pages for awhile and last I check, it has about 13 comments asking what was going on. They deleted the comments and I have heard nothing from them. I'm thinking about SHAMING them again. ######

Response: YTA ffs if you have an issue with your son talk to his directly. Don't stalk his wife's facebook and then leave abusive comments like you're an internet troll. Maybe we've cracked the code on why they wanted to have dinner with her parents instead ######


Prompt:
Throwaway.

This happened a few months ago. I own a small, but popular burger joint in the middle of town.

I’m quite strict about money, and want to save whenever I can. I was looking over the heating bill and realized I was spending an absurd amount (over $500 per month) on heating alone.

As a result, I asked my employees to keep the temperature at 62 degrees or under indefinitely. This proved to be quite the difficult transition for them. I should mention that their attire consists of just a shirt, shorts, and a hat. Because I knew they would feel tempted to change the temperature (one of them is especially uptight about trivial things like this), I installed an alarm system to the thermostat to notify me if the temperature was turned up. I also put up a sign to remind them to never turn up the thermostat without my permission.

One particular day, I was sitting in my office managing my finances when the alarm went off. I stormed outside to find that the thermostat was at 63 degrees. I angrily demanded to see who was one who did this. There were only 2 employees present at the time. Unsurprisingly, it was the uptight employee that turned up the temperature.

Needless to say, I was furious. The uptight employee called me “selfish” for being so strict about the temperature.

AITA? ######

Response: YTA Eugene. Get over it. Maybe you won't need it so cold if you sell more Krabby Patties ######


Prompt:
This might sound bad, but I've always been the class clown, funny type of dude, usually, my son (M19) loves it, and he's more like a friend than a son (he's a great kid, honor roll, all that). The other day, he came to me and told me he had to tell me and his mom something super important.

Now, we had our suspicions, but he confirmed them when he told us that he was indeed, GAY. Neither I nor my wife have a problem with that, so when he told us, I laughed and yelled out, "HA! GAYYYYY" like that skit from who knows what show a few years ago.

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He didn't take it as well as I expected and started crying before running off and slamming the door. My wife says ITA, but I thought it was hilarious. Reddit, what do you think? (I will apologize to him once he calms down). ######

Response: YTA especially because you still think it was a hilarious joke after he ran off crying. ######


Prompt:
One of my sons is in his mid twenties, a recently qualified doctor and has seemingly no regard for his own life. My other son showed me his youtube channel (fake name, face covered etc but it's without question his poorly hidden voice) where he's recorded himself doing idiotic things such as 100mph wheelies on his motorbike at an abandoned airfield 30 miles from my house (which I hated him getting in the first place), pull ups from 20 storey buildings, jumping gaps between buildings etc. I was obviously shocked and terrified for his health, brought it up with him at which point he told me it was none of his business what he did in his spared time and he's only risking his own health. We argued about it for months, which ended in me threatening to tell my countries medical council. He acted unphased by this and since nothing else was getting anywhere with him, I did in the end report him.

He's refused to speak to me since although according to brother it looks like he isn't going to face a permanent ban or anything, just a stern telling off (like I hoped would happen). Wife is on my side but rest of family are staying out of, although I feel as if it goes without saying I'm in the right considering I reported when nothing would get through to him apart from the threat of losing his job. AITA? ######

Response: YTA dude. did you really fail as a parent so badly you want the medical board to try and play babysitter to your grown adult, 20-something year old son? does this affect his job/work in any way? no, it doesn’t. you would rather risk his job than let him enjoy his life doing things he enjoys? ######


Prompt:
Backstory: my brother is 5 years old and I am 14. He’s starting kindergarten next year and my parents are teaching him some basic math. I don’t really have a great relationship with him because most of the time, he acts like a spoiled brat and refuse to listen. I’m always seen as “the brother who hates his younger one” by my grandma or my mom. Do I hate him? No. Although sometimes I can be a little bit of an ass to him and I’m willing to admit.

The event: yesterday while I was eating breakfast, my brother was asking me math questions like “what’s 2 +2?” And I said “22” and he gets all happy, saying I’m correct. I was doing this as a joke. He asked more and I would say similar answers like that. Well today, my brother was doing the same thing to my mom and grandma. They would give him the actual answers but he would shout that they’re wrong and when I came to the kitchen to grab a water, he asked me. “(OP) what’s 6 + 5?” I said “65”. My mom was pissed, calling me a pos brother, saying i ruined my brothers education. I’m like wtf and that I was joking with him. My grandma agreed with her. All of them started guilt tripping me saying that “how would you like it if I gave you the wrong answers?” To which I reply: “you wouldn’t because you’re actually responsible for me and my education. Stop guilt tripping me over a silly joke.” The told me to go away for being rude and now I’m in my room wondering if I went too far. Did I ? ######

Response: YTA dude, your brother is 5. Cut him some slack. The only one who thinks it's funny is you. No wonder people think you hate him, his brain is young and malleable and he is gullible, being a child, and you see nothing wrong with feeding him the wrong answers. ######


Prompt:
I (27M) got engaged recently to my girlfriend of five years (27F) and she was discussing wedding dress plans with me—we don’t have a date yet but she is a big planner. Coincidentally, my older sister (30F) also got engaged within a week of me, this is relevant for the rest of the story.

I was talking with my fiancé and she expressed to me how she’s kind of upset that she’s not close to any of her immediate family (they treated her quite badly) so she will not have any family heirlooms to wear on her wedding day. that’s when I got the idea—my grandmother’s wedding dress has never been worn since her wedding day, and she has always expressed wanting one of her grandkids to wear it (I remember she emphasized that this would be for one time because it would have to be altered and it’s a very delicate dress apparently)

I have no female cousins, and my own sister has always said to me she thought the dress was not modern enough/thought it was, in her own words, “extremely drab”, so I showed a picture to my fiancé and suggested it. My fiancé seemed thrilled at the idea of wearing it because she loves my grandma.

I asked my grandma for her permission—she then says that my sister also asked to wear the dress a day after I did??? Apparently my sister had a change of heart because she doesn’t want to go out shopping for dresses anymore, and decided she can just wear grandma’s dress.

Now Grandma and the rest of my family is in favor of my sister wearing the dress because she’s actually a grandkid, which I said was unfair and cruel. I just don’t see why my sister should wear something she previously was so rude about instead of my appreciate fiancé. AITA? ######

Response: YTA dresses and rings go down the female line unless other wise expressed or lack of female heir. ######


Prompt:
I was the best man at my best friends wedding about 4 months ago. I’d never been to a wedding before but had a great time and it was amazing seeing my best friend since childhood get married. I’m have a pretty nervous disposition, so the fact I’d be making a speech at some point during the day, I drank a bit more than I should’ve done.

My girlfriend and I have been together for about 3 years, and have decided that we’re going to wait a bit to get married as she’s been through a lot recently. I’m not big on the whole marriage thing so I told her that was absolutely fine and we’d wait.

The wedding reception rolls around, I make my speech, I take advantage of the open bar. My girlfriend was also in the brides wedding party so she was off with her friends most of the day. It got to 10pm and I was pretty drunk, so my girlfriend found me and took me outside to have some fresh air. Whilst we were there we had a super amazing deep chat about life, and I thought to myself, why not, let’s propose. It was outside but we were still in eye-view of everyone in the reception, and a few people were already looking to make sure I was okay as they knew how drunk I was.

I proposed expecting her to be overjoyed but instead she started crying and ran inside. My best friend came over and asked what the fuck I thought I was doing proposing at his wedding, and his new wife was pissed because instead of enjoying her wedding she was now having to console my girlfriend who was pissed off that I’d even thought of proposing whilst drunk. My girlfriend decided we needed to take a break and the majority of my friends aren’t speaking to me, but I was drunk and I do love my girlfriend. AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA don't propose at someone's event and don't propose when you are drunk

Edit- can't wait to see George Takei post about this, hi. ######


Prompt:
I’m her father.

I have told my daughter(age 15) to stop drawing on herself more than 3 times. She has disobeyed my orders and continued to draw on herself. Mainly on her legs and arms. She draws things like Chinese symbols and doodles and scribbles in marker and it looks trashy and ugly. Today I told her to stop drawing on herself for the 4-5th time, and she back talked and said, “we aren’t going anywhere so nobody is gonna see it”. And, “I like drawing on myself because it’s a way to express myself”.
       So I told her, “it’s ugly and I don’t wanna see it”. Then she sassed me and said, “then don’t look at it”.
   I immediately got mad at her and yelled at her to stop disrespecting me and told her that she has to obey everything her mother and I say, right when we say it. Then she started crying. I continue on and say that this household is not a democracy and she doesn’t have a choice and she has to do what her parents tell her too. After that I say that I’m tired of her and her siblings arguing on things they can’t have the freedom to decide. Then I walk out of the room to calm down. She is in her room now and I’m wondering now if I was too harsh on her.

So, AITA? ######

Response: YTA Do you always act like a petty tyrant to your daughter? What makes you so desperate to control her? ######


Prompt: There's a backstory, basically a few days ago I redownloaded Skype and saw he reached out to me saying "I need to ask you something" I'm assuming it was just the only thing I haven't blocked him on and his only way to reach me. I replied even though I was several months late and he said he'd forgot the question he was gonna ask but we started being friendly and talking again, eventually he told me he had a girlfriend now, showed me photos of her, mind you this woman is probably 250 lbs, but I'm a nice person or I try my best to be and I was like oh she's pretty said I was happy for him etc. We continued to talk, didn't flirt at all but eventually he told me he still had feelings and I was like yeah maybe we shouldn't talk then and we stopped, fast forward a few hours and I got phone call from him, I picked up and his girlfriend began screaming at me calling me a whore and all this crap and then she hung up giving me no room to speak, I didn't even know she didn't like me until that point. He continued to text me after that and eventually said he still loved me so I reached out to her on Instagram and told her her boyfriend was confessing his feelings to me because I didn't want him cheating behind her back. Instead of accepting that she flipped out and called me a whore, trailor trash and many other things, I tried to be nice for multiple hours but she kept trashing me and eventually I just snapped I guess. I pointed out she was super insecure and she continuously said I needed to date better guys and I was like "ironic bc you're with the guy who cheated on me" and I went out and said a lot of rude things and eventually said "Good day, fat ass." She trashed me for multiple hours and I stood by and took it, I was merely trying to help her but I don't know if I'm the bad guy for going off on her. ######

Response: YTA Did you post this just to get upvotes for fat shaming someone? You really shouldn't have been talking with him knowing he might have feelings and should have stopped it once photos of his girlfriend started being shared as it's crossing a line. You also could have hung up when she called and simply blocked the number. It kind of comes off that you were enjoying the drama so you could insult her when you got tired of it. And your replies - you keep changing your story, which proves my point. ######


Prompt:
I'm M45 my wife is f34 and we've been married for 13 years and have 2 kids. I make a very very good living and started looking at turning our unfinished basement into a man cave, my wife and I spoke about it but she flat out rejected for no reason. I budgeted about 150k to fully renovate and furnish it, with a walk out to the backyard which we can easily afford, but my wife just said she didn't want to have a man cave in her house even though I built her a walk in closet with make-up area room in our master bedroom. I brought it up to her and told her this and she said its not the same and that a lot of her friends come over and they wouldn't feel comfortable in a man-cave. I told her its called a man cave but it doesn't matter who uses it, anyone of our friends or kids friends can chill there.

We argued about it for a week but then I said fuck it I work way too hard and bring in all the money into this house and I pulled out 200k out of my personal accounts and I hired an interior designer and contractor to start it up. My wife was PISSED, like I thought she'd kill me but that wore off after a few weeks and she's not pissed anymore just called it the biggest asshole move in history. This was about 8 months ago and construction finished in the end of March (thank god). Its got a full bar, 8 TV's, wine cellar, billiards room, poker table/area, home theatre area, and my favourite a cigar/whiskey room and a few other features.

My wife saw it complete for the first time and said it was really nice, but still called it an asshole move and her sister and her friends then called me and said I'm an asshole as well.

I don't get it, AITA? ######

Response: YTA come on dude. I don't think I've ever seen an AITA when the conversation devolves to "well im the breadwinner so I make the decision without consultation. The end" where that person isn't the asshole. ######


Prompt:
in my apartment complex, this little girl was doing the cliche, "lemonade, lemonade, come get your sweet lemonade!" thing and i decided to take a look since i want to become friendly with the neighbors.  We made pleasantries and the dad even gave me a plate of food to go!  i decided to make small talk with their daughter selling lemonade who apparently wanted to buy a pony with the money she collects from selling the juice.  Pipe dream, but she's a kid.  I buy into her fantasy and she asks for $2 a cup.  I give her $5 but she gave me another cup even though I told her I only wanted 1 and to keep the change :)

now i took a swig of that shit and unconsciously violently ejected that shit right the fuck back out of my mouth where it belongs.  I was actually kind of mad because she false advertised it as "sweet" lemonade, when that shit was as sour as a lemon fucking warhead.  Her parents should've seriously done some quality control, but that whole "she's just a little girl" mentality just made me drink ass juice for the very first time of my life.  My face scrunched up like wrinkled day old laundry and i immediately knew i fucked up when i saw the little girls face start to tear up.  I apologized, but it was too late and she started bawling.  I wanted to gtfo ASAP, but put the other cup back down and started to walk away.  She cried even harder and yelled, "you don't want the other one either?!?"  I heard the footsteps of her dad coming out and i just said, "Gotta go bye" and fast walked back to my room.

I'm anxious about running into them now, but that was probably more traumatic for my taste buds than it was for her.  I don't see the big deal.   AITA? ######

Response: YTA but you're also hilarious, lmao ######