Prompt:
So my friends and I \[all 17M\] were talking on discord while playing league of legends. We were about to win but my friend did something stupid causing us all died. I got mad and jokingly cursed my friend's dead mother and hoped he would join her in the grave. When I did this though, he ended the call and fucking exited the game which meant we were 4 against 5 and lost. I texted my friend wtf is wrong with him and why the hell did he exit but he left it seen and then blocked me. Some of my friends said that I overreacted and should apologize but others agreed with me that he overreacted and shouldn't have left the game. None of my other friends get mad when I do these jokes with them. In a way I can sympathize him because his mother died not too long ago and his relationship with his father is horrible so maybe that's why he is this sensible and can't take a joke.  I still believe he overreacted though. What do you guys think?

Edit: For the people saying it's just a game and I can just replay it. It doesn't work like that. When you lose a game you lose stuff which makes your division lower and it becomes harder to climb back up. ######

Response:
 YTA. YTA. YTA. YTA. YTA.

You are absolutely the most massive AH here. I say this with the full authority of someone whose mother has passed. Is it not okay to joke about that. He didn't overreact, you joked about one of the worst moments in his life, in most people's lives. What's even worse is that it happened recently. You don't get to hide being a jerk behind 'it was just a joke'.

He gets to be sensitive about this. You don't get to joke about it. I can't believe any part of you thinks that 'he is being sensitive and can't take a joke'. You don't sound like you apologized either.

I sincerely hope that you're a troll and that people this insensitive don't actually exist. ######


Prompt:
On my way to bed, I realized I had to send an important email before tomorrow.

While I was writing this email, my wife asked me if the parent of our kid's friend's full name was [redacted]. I told her I didn't know. Then she wanted to know what autodeposit on electronic funds transfer was. I told her it was pretty much what it sounds like. Then she asked whether that meant [redacted] had an account at the same bank as her. I told her I had no idea. At this point I'd completely lost my train of thought with the email, so when she asked me why someone would get autodeposit, I snapped at her and said "what are you trying to do?" She said she was sending [redacted] some money we owed her for some kid-related activity.

I put down my laptop and walked over to her quickly and said something along the lines of "let me see that", looked at her screen was like "if this is the email address you have for [redatcted], then it's probably going to transfer money to [redacted], but if you don't think the name is right, then don't do it." I was very curt with her and stomped back over to my laptop and tried to get back to my email.

Now I feel like an asshole because she told me I hurt her feelings and went off to bed. I could have told her I was in the middle of something. She also could have been a lot more explicit about what she was trying to figure out, instead of interrupting me every few minutes for 10 minutes.

Shit. Pretty sure AITA after reading this. ######

Response: YTA. Your wife was innocently trying to ask some questions and because you can’t multi task you snapped at her. If you really wanted that time to focus you could have nicely said “I can help you in x minutes I just need to finish this.” and she would have realized that you needed to focus. She can’t read your mind and anticipate that you needed to focus that hard on what you were doing. ######


Prompt:
My daughter (26F) got married December 2019 to her partner of 6 years.

My daughter came out 13years ago but started dating a boy when she was 14, they dated for 4 years when she got pregnant and things ended between them, he isn’t involved.

My daughter eventually told me her mother had convinced her she wasn’t normal and that’s why she started dating a boy.

When my daughter introduced her then girlfriend to us I’ll admit my wife was a little cold towards her then girlfriend and she’d occasionally try to set my daughter up with men, they spent three years of only arguing.

My wife worked hard while my daughter was growing up, we both did, and it’s one of my many regrets that we weren’t around for our daughter as much as we should’ve been, my wife wasn’t around for many of the big moments in our daughters life (first breakup, first period which I had to teach our daughter about, school plays)

My wife started trying to make up for her behaviour and has educated herself on the topic, they’d been going shopping and spending days together and they seemed closer than ever.

My daughter  phoned me requesting I come to the wedding, but not her mother and telling me it wasn’t her call to make.

I asked several times and got told no, when I told my wife she spent an entire week crying in bed.

When I asked my daughter why I got told; we’re not there yet and I may have forgiven her but it’s just not something I think I’ll move on from.

Then why tell her mother she forgave her? I refused to go to the wedding without my wife, we still paid 50% and looked after our  granddaughter.

We still talk every day and she’s not bought it up but my sister keeps bringing it up every chance she can and insists I’m the asshole.

AITA? ######

Response: YTA. Your wife made your daughter's teenage/young adult years quite difficult, those scars will probably take a lifetime to heal. Just because your wife has come around recently doesn't mean the slate is wiped clean. You should always support your child and not prioritize your asshole of a spouse. ######


Prompt:
One of my sons is in his mid twenties, a recently qualified doctor and has seemingly no regard for his own life. My other son showed me his youtube channel (fake name, face covered etc but it's without question his poorly hidden voice) where he's recorded himself doing idiotic things such as 100mph wheelies on his motorbike at an abandoned airfield 30 miles from my house (which I hated him getting in the first place), pull ups from 20 storey buildings, jumping gaps between buildings etc. I was obviously shocked and terrified for his health, brought it up with him at which point he told me it was none of his business what he did in his spared time and he's only risking his own health. We argued about it for months, which ended in me threatening to tell my countries medical council. He acted unphased by this and since nothing else was getting anywhere with him, I did in the end report him.

He's refused to speak to me since although according to brother it looks like he isn't going to face a permanent ban or anything, just a stern telling off (like I hoped would happen). Wife is on my side but rest of family are staying out of, although I feel as if it goes without saying I'm in the right considering I reported when nothing would get through to him apart from the threat of losing his job. AITA? ######

Response: YTA. Your son is an adult with a high-pressured job. So he enjoys doing extreme sports. He isn't hurting anyone. It's none of your business and you crossed the line. You were unhappy with him so you called up his work and jeopardise his position.  I am surprised if he ever wants to have anything to do with you again. ######


Prompt:
My 16yo son has always HATED school. He does well, but is bored. His counselor suggested taking short-term elective summer classes. Those classes would count towards his high school credits when he starts his senior year. His counselor also suggested taking community college courses that would satisfied required classes that he would have to take as a junior or senior (i.e. history, poly sci). The community college classes would be free, online and would count towards his college degree. The goal was that by the time he started his senior year, he would only have to take a couple of bullshit classes and stay at school for a couple of hours a day. Literally, he could come to school at 10AM and leave by noon. That really excited him.

After two years of summer school and online community college classes, he has accrued so many credits that he could hypothetically graduate in 2021 instead of 2022. My son really wanted to do this and I said no. My fear is that he will regret it. He doesn't know anyone in the class of 2021 and will miss out socially. Plus , if he were to graduate early then he would resume going to community college full-time on-campus and I don't think he's ready for that sudden change. ######

Response:
 YTA. Your son has worked hard to accumulate credits. You're robbing him of the benefits of his hard work. If he graduates early, he can go to college early, get a career started early, etc.

You should be encouraging his work ethic, not throttling it. ######


Prompt: About a week ago one of my sister's friends was kicked out of his house by his mom.  The kid is very nice but it is sort of a pain to have another person in the house. The house is now really cramped and it's making me very stir crazy. My parents told me the other day he will be with us for another 3 months. They never asked me if I was fine with it or anything like that. I just came home one day and they just said he'll be staying with us. WIBTA if I complained about this kid staying with us? ######

Response:
 YTA. Your sister’s friend isn’t a foster kid. She was basically kicked out of her family’s home.

And what were they supposed to do if you said no: “Oh no, we can’t take you in because [OP] doesn’t want another person. Sorry, you’re on your own.”

It’s okay if you’re annoyed and frustrated with an extra person in the house but keep your mouth shut ######


Prompt:
This has been an ordeal for over a year. My ex-fiancé and I broke up over a year ago. Since then, I have moved in with my bf. I have been trying to get my bed back since fall of last year. After we broke up, I moved out and agreed to give him a few months to look for a new bed. In the fall I asked for my bed, and he complained he hadn’t had the time to look for a bed. So I told him I’d give him a couple months. Then after new year’s I told him I would be sending movers to retrieve the bed. Again, he procrastinated. Now, he’s using the quarantine as another excuse.

I have had it with his delay tactics. I told him I would be sending movers at the end of June. I told him if I don’t get my bed, I would suggest to my bf to fire him. He didn’t take the threat well. He cursed at me, verbally attacked me, and basically said I don’t really need the bed because I am putting it in the guest room. I reminded him that isn’t the point and that it is my bed. I want to get this done asap so I don’t have to contact him ever again.

I don’t understand why he is acting like a child. By refusing to return my property, he is showing his true character and I can’t imagine anyone wanting him on their payroll. ######

Response:
 YTA. Your relationship problems have nothing to do with his work. Itd be highly unprofessional of you to mix the two.

If he works for your current boyfriend, your boyfriend should himself get fired if he terminated an employee without legitimate cause, because his girlfriend told him to. ######


Prompt:
So I’m not very good at cooking, I can make about two dishes, fried eggs, and scrambled eggs. Except the scrambled eggs are bad. I don’t enjoy cooking and I don’t have the time for it either.

My girlfriend loves cooking, it’s one of her favourite hobbies and she is great at it, can even make her own pasta and all.

She cooks almost all the time, and when it is up to me to sort dinner I never cook, I always order take away or get really easy to make microwave meals, although I try to keep it healthy. Recently she started complaining that I don’t do any cooking and that the meals are rarely any good when its my turn, so I offered to pick different places or get different meals but she insists that unless I start learning to cook and cook meals then I’m being a jerk because our relationship is “unbalanced”.

Here is my point, if I were cooking for myself I would do the exact same. I do not expect or demand of her to cook, if she wanted to she could order us takeaway and I would accept that. She is cooking from her own choice, and I don’t believe that that means I should have to cook too. I asked my closest friend and he was torn on this.

So AITA? ######

Response: YTA. Your posting history, even here in AITA, makes me think that you refuse to cook partially because you view women as subservient — you called a woman “property” in another AITA comment specifically. Learning to cook doesn’t make you effeminate, look at all the cooking shows hosted by men if you need someone to look up to. Your GF can help teach you too. ######


Prompt:
A just over 3 years ago while I was at work my ex packed up and left with the kids.   I had gone to work on the road cause she was always complaining about money.  I dont know what her deal was sometimes the bills were late.  She was a stay at home mom cause I think kids need a parent at home.

Anyways it was her parents that convinced her to leave.  I never liked her dad he never gave me any respect.  Always on me to work harder.  And didnt like that I smoked weed even though it's legal.  I figure cause it was her parents who convinced her to leave they are rich enough they can pay for what ever the kids need.  Clearly I wasnt good enough.

I get to see my kids some times.  I have an order but I skip sometimes cause I just cant stand my exs dad judging me.  They never say much except to tell me if the kids are sick or grumpy.  But I can tell they judge me.   They did refuse to bring the kids to me once cause some asshole told them I was on something the night before.  But I was sober when the kids where due.

I am delay child support as much as possible.  I figure if I have to go threw that much work I have paid enough.  But my new girlfriend has said I should probably stop being an asshole and pay for my kids.  AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA. Your kids, your responsibility.

It’s not their fault the adults in their lives have issues to work out. But you all need to figure it out so your kids don’t get caught in the crossfire. ######


Prompt:
I’m 23, my gf is 20, and we’ve been together for 2.5 years.

I’m in a group chat with a few of my boys and some girls. These particular girls do not like my girlfriend. They’ve never really known each other but my gf caught them talking crap about her so she confronted them and since then, they don’t like her. I wouldn’t consider these girls my friends either but they happen to be in the group and I don’t like starting drama so it is what it is.

Even though my gf doesn’t like them, she hasn’t made a huge fuss about me being in the group chat and she was even cool about me going on a weekend trip to a cabin with all of them.

They started up a game in the group chat where everybody was calling each other out and asking questions. One of the girls said towards me “don’t let your girlfriend influence what you think about other people”. One of my guy friends asked me “out of all the girls you’ve been with, who’s your favorite?” Obviously I said my girlfriend. One of the girls “haha” reacted to my reply. He replied “that’s a cop out lmao”. Another of the girls asked me “why do you act different when you’re with us vs when you’re with her”. I guess she was trying to imply that I pretend to not like them in front of my gf for her sake but that’s not true.

Anyways, I told my gf about all of this and she started crying. She said I don’t bother to defend her and that they shouldn’t be disrespecting her or our relationship and I’m just letting them do it. She thinks my guy friend was sneak dissing by asking which girl is my favorite. I feel like she was overreacting. I don’t say anything because I don’t want to cause any drama. I don’t care what they think about my gf. She was really upset and we ended up talking about it for hours with no resolution. I told her I just really didn’t care and she shouldn’t either. AITA? ######

Response: YTA. Your gf proved she trusted you by not making a big deal about you going to a cabin with them or talking to them in general. But you didn't show she could trust you when you didn't stick up for her. The girls are clearly trying to drive a wedge between the 2 of you, and your gf knows that but trusted you. You're acting like the girls' feelings are more important than your girlfriends. ######


Prompt:
Ok so I asked her if she wanted to play a game with me sense we can't meetup in person and the only one that fit the criteria was dbx2.
We both start playing around the same time and I get past the tutorial and decide to wait for her to finish. I start doing random story and side missions while I wait, she sits there doing the tutorial. I ask if she needs help she says no so I keep doing missions. 2 hours later she is still on the tutorial, at this point she says I'll try again tommorow and I immediately say I cant believe you wasted time on that instead of just saying you did not want to play it. she says she does and I hang up now she's confused I'm annoyed and we've both gotten no where. ######

Response: YTA. Your gf is clearly not comfortable/good at that particular video game. It takes some people a long time to learn and get comfortable with the controls for certain games. You acted like a huge asshole by essentially calling her an idiot for not getting the game with the same ease you do. This is a huge red flag and if you don't shape up and get some more patience, I don't think you'll have a gf for very much longer. ######


Prompt:
A close friend of mine that I’ve known for a number of years decided to pull me aside and tell me it was yucky to invite my newish gf to a get-together and not grab her bill at the end of the night. His point was that it was a small amount (around 20 bucks per person) and that my gf said she was a student meanwhile I worked full-time with a decent salary. He said I was the one who extended the invitation and it looked tacky when I split the bill.

I told him that I don’t see it that way. It’s not date night. She could’ve declined to come. I also didn’t discuss how I do finances with her yet since this is a relationship in the earlier stages. I do pay more often when it’s date nights, but gatherings should be different. I don’t see my friend overstepping since I know he is just looking out for me, but I fail to see it from his pov.

So Reddit, tell me, AITA? ######

Response: YTA. Your friend is nosy, but correct. Hanging out with your friends is a little bit a favor she is doing you. Hopefully she gets along with your friends, and it's a favor she enjoys doing. But especially on a student budget, it would be nice if she didn't have to pay to hang out with your friends. ######


Prompt:
So I used to live with my roommate and she had a friend who needed to stay for 2 weeks. I won't go into to much detail but shwas escaping an abusive situation and she had to wait to move in to her new apartment. I never really saw her, she was out most of the time and only came back to sleep but I was still uncomfortable with a stranger living in my apartment. I put my foot down after 1 week and tolf my roommate that she needed to kick her friend out. She looked upset and asked why and that her friend is really quiet and isnt home most of the time. I told her I didn't need to explain myself and she went to bed crying.

The next day she came up to me and told me she was moving out and she's going to live with her friend. I immediately panicked because I couldn't afford to live there by myself but she was adamant and she moved out that day and continued paying rent until the lease was up which was 2 months after she moved out.

I had to move back in with my parents and I messaged her telling her she's a is a huge piece of shit and I did nothing wrong. She sent back a long, angry message about how I was disrespectful to her friend and I need to stop being such an entitled bitch. I blocked her.

I know I was in the right until I messaged her and I am not sure if I was in the wrong for what I said. AITA? ######

Response: YTA. Your entire attitude was shitty. There was someone in your apt whom you never even saw and you got this aggressively angry and uncompromising?? You’re a huge asshole for your complete and total lack of communication skills. Quite honestly I think you got exactly what you deserved and you were never in the right. ######


Prompt: She’s 6 months away from being 18 so by then it’ll be out of my hands but until then I don’t want her to cut her hair, and I’d rather see her not get it cut for a very long time. She has beautiful long brown hair (down to her hips) and she wants it cut just below her ears but that would mean a lot of hair to be cut off so she’d lose her hair that she’s been growing for years without a cut. She says that it’s gotten too long that it’s high maintenance and gets tangled and messy easily but I think when she handles it, it looks nice and there’s no need to have it cut. I don’t want her hair to ever be cut (or at least for a while) and I rather not allow it but she’s always bringing it up and has even argued once and asked why I get to get my hair cut but not her, but that reason is because my hair needs to be cut because it’s not as healthy as hers since she’s young and I’m an older woman. Not to mention long hair like hers wouldn’t suit me. But since it does in her case, she should not get her hair cut. I want her to keep the long hair. ######

Response: YTA. Your daughter is not a doll ######


Prompt:
I have a daughter (16F) and a few weeks ago she sat me down and told me that she was struggling with purging. She said it was due to mental issues going on with school and her friends, and she talked about how she was feeling sad all the time.

In response, I told her to start a journal and think of at least three positive thoughts a day and that would help. However, when I told a friend of mine about it she said I should put her in therapy, as I should not be trying to deal with her mental health issues.

Personally, I do not think this is about mental health. My daughter is always smiling and happy with her friends, and it seems as though she only tells me these things when she wants something (i.e. to be allowed to hang out with her boyfriend). I have a hard time buying that she's actually dealing with mental illness, and I don't want her to be put on medication because she's a minor and it's probably her hormones.

So, AITA? ######

Response: YTA. Your daughter has literally come to you asking for help and you’re blatantly ignoring her. My parents thought I was a happy kid too until I took a bottle of pills at 13. Then they thought I was fine without therapy until I was 18 and they saw my scars. How would you feel if she hurt herself after asking for help because you thought she just wanted to see her boyfriend? Get her into therapy and if for whatever reason she is fine the therapist will be able to figure that out and work with her on why she was behaving that way however I think you need to believe your kid before you lose her here. ######


Prompt:
My wife is terminally ill. Because of that, she has been unable to show me any forms of physical affection and the spark in our marriage is nonexistent.

We cannot divorce because the legal logistics would rattle shareholders in our company. Therefore, she agreed I could see others if I kept it away from the family.

I have been dating this woman for about a year. At first we were careful not to show PDA when we went out but over time she told me how much that hurts so we started being affectionate when we were out on dates.

A few months ago, somebody from my daughter’s school took a picture of me kissing my partner and posted it on social media. My daughter ended up throwing a tantrum because it was a topic at her school and she got a bunch of comments and questions.

I explained that it was an agreement that her mom and I had, and I deserve to be happy.

Things have just cooled down, but for my birthday yesterday, my partner ended up sending me a present and a note that said she loved and missed me. She also sent my daughter a card congratulating her on finishing middle school.

My daughter started screaming at me that she wanted this woman out of our lives. My wife also got mad because my daughter was sad, claiming I wasn’t keeping it away from the family and that I let this present thing happen in front of my daughter’s best friend, who she invited over for cake.

However, she forgets that I really wanted to spend time with my girlfriend for my birthday but I abandoned that desire for the sake of the family.

My girlfriend makes me feel loved, and I love her very much. She has given so much to me, and I refuse to let go of my happiness because I feel my daughter would understand if she was older.

AITA? ######

Response: YTA. Your daughter *isn't* older. She is a young teenager who is about to lose her mother, has been made fun of by classmates because her father is openly involved in an affair, and is now being contacted by her father's mistress. The agreement you made with your wife included you keeping your affairs away from the family, and you're violating that agreement. Also, you are a mega, monster-level asshole for taking your mistress in public so that your *dying wife* also has to deal with the humiliation of being publicly cheated on. Your happiness does not take priority over your child's emotional well-being nor your wife's right to die with dignity and peace knowing that her child will be properly cared for by her father. If your head is too far up your mistress's ass to be able to see what is really important, then you need to cut the mistress loose until you regain proper perspective. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway I did not want to use my main account

Two years ago my sisters ex boyfriend told us what my sister thinks of my child. My child free sister thinks that my two kids are accidents and she thinks they ruin events and stuff. So after that comment I have stopped going to family events. Recently my mother called and asked me why I don't go to family vacations.

I told her because my sister does not like my kids and says that they ruin family events and my kids make it less fun for her so I stopped coming. I then told my mom if she has a problem with me not coming  to family events she can bring it up with my child free sister.

Recently my child free sister came and called me on my phone. She told me she needed me because family members are blaming her for the reason I am not coming to family events and they are spamming her with calls. I told her maybe because they enjoy being around me more and that I did not want to ruin her fun because she hates my children and thinks they destroy family events.

 I told her I will start going to family events with two options option a going to events when my sister is not there she makes to every family event or option b my sister learns to live with children aground the family event which will stop famously members from being mad at her. My sister refused and told me to fix this problem because it's my fault I chose to have children. I refused and said no. So AITA for refusing to go to family events because of my child free sister and causing my family members to dislike my sister  My childfree sister is mad at me for that ######

Response: YTA. Your comments keep changing your story, you keep saying "child free sister" like it's disgusting, and you're dragged your whole family in instead of having an adult conversation with her. ######


Prompt:
I’m 17, and I have a foster sister (16) that’s been with us for around 8 months.

I’m cordial with my foster sister but we don’t really get along. When she first got here I caught her several times trying to wear my clothes, makeup, and trying to use other things that belong to me. We got into big arguments about it, and I feel as if my parents rewarded her by buying her her own stuff sometimes, while not getting new stuff for me.

Yesterday, my friend invited me and foster sister out to their family lake where we were going to hang out with some other friends. Some people in my friend group from school like foster sister, so they wanted her to come. I didn’t, because I find her annoying and I wanted a break from her. Since they messaged her with the invite, I told my parents to check out her messy room. My parents are pretty strict about that so I knew they wouldn’t let her go.

I sent her a text saying I’m sorry she couldn’t go and told her that I’d say hello to everyone. She posted a screenshot of it on her IG telling everyone that it was my fault she couldn’t go. A couple of my friends text me and asked me what my problem was, and others piped up about not letting me come either. Because everyone was getting mad at me, I posted pics that I took of her room, so that I could show the real reason that she couldn’t come.

She must have gotten embarrassed, because she came into my room and immediately started arguing with me.

My parents had to break it up, and she told them what I did. They wouldn’t let me leave either, which I think is completely unfair.

My mom is super mad at me and won’t listen to anything I have to say. I posted the pic because she was trying to make me look like the asshole in front of my friends. She knows my parents like the room kept clean, and if it was done she would have been able to go so I don’t think It’s my fault. My parents aren’t even talking to me, so if feel like maybe I did wrong.

AITA for posting the pic? ######

Response:
 YTA. Your attitude sucks. Your parents bought her stuff without buying you stuff?  Probably because she didn’t have much when she joined your household. That’s also probably the reason for her borrowing your clothes and makeup etc

Have you tried being welcoming?

Ugh. ######


Prompt: I’ve been FWB/best friends with this girl for 7 years, since we were 20. We’re monagomous, stay over at each other’s, emotionally support each other and definitely not the typical arrangement. She just graduated with a PHD and due to covid couldn’t really have a party so she was doing a dinner at her place. I’ve made it clear to her that we have no future together and she can’t really expect me to meet her family members and such. And since her parents were going to be there and I didn’t want awkward questions so I skipped it. She later called me sobbing saying that she feels like I use her and that I ruined her night. I kind of feel like a asshole, but I’ve told her before not to expect me to come to these sort of events. And we’re not really in a sort of commuted relationship so I feel like she can’t really expect me to be there for her all the time. I don’t really want to hurt her feelings any further but I also want to draw some boundaries. ######

Response: YTA. You’ve been “monogamous” fwb? You’re “best friends”? Buddy you’re IN a relationship even if you don’t want to admit it. Call a spade a spade. ######


Prompt:
Hi guys,

So my sister said I should share this here. I volunteer with middle school kids doing science type stuff because I am a science major about to go to medical school. Anyways, I went to judge at a science fair and they told us there was this big emphasis on them being able to explain things correctly. One little girl was super nervous and was trying to explain a concept I thought was very difficult for someone in her age group to grasp. I told her "Sweetheart, I'm going to stop you here because I think you are nervous, and so I'm going to explain something to you so that you can explain it to other people better next time." Her mom was there and didn't really seem to mind when I was done explaining polarity to her, her mother even asked her if she thought she could explain it better now, to which she replied yes. I also reassured her that I would not dock her in my judging because I thought the concept was a little high level for her and that her inability to explain it had nothing to do with how good her overall project was (it was decent, not amazing). A bunch of my fellow judges were horrified and said I shouldn't have stopped her. I thought it would be better to correct her on the concept instead of knowingly let her explain it wrong to other judges. Everyone else thought I screwed her for the rest of the day by making her more nervous (although judges who went to her after me DID say they were impressed by her). Anyways this is probably dumb, AITA? ######

Response: YTA. You’re TA for calling her, “sweetheart”. That’s super condescending. Would you have addressed a male student in the same way? She’s not your sweetheart. She’s a student trying to present her project at a science fair. I used to judge middle school science fairs, too, & speaking to adults whom the student may never have seen before is very difficult for middle schoolers. It’s an intimidating situation for them, & it’s important for the judges to treat them with respect. ######


Prompt:
So due to recent events, I(20f) am no longer able to live at my college dorms and have moved back in with my parents. My mom has been sick for over 2 weeks now, nothing serious just a pretty bad cold. My dad used to make meals for me and her, but since he has a very strict diet, he was having to make a separate meal for both himself and us every night and it left him with very little free time.

Since my mom is sick, he asked for me to take over making meals. My mom uses hello fresh, so the recipes are fairly easy to follow. But at the same time, I have very little experience with cooking so it often takes me much longer than it would someone with more cooking experience. At first I didn’t mind cooking for us every night, it was good practice, but now it’s almost 3 weeks later and I’m still making dinner almost every night, I only get breaks if we order out.

I feel like maybe my mom is feeling well enough that she should be able to at least make dinner some nights. She’s still coughing some, but at the same time she’s much better than she was a couple weeks ago. Last night she FaceTimed with her friends and was being super rambunctious, she also got absolutely wasted. She also seems fully capable of making herself snacks and treats when she wants them. I just feel like if she’s able to do all that, she should be able to help out with dinners.

I just worry I’ll come across as lazy or selfish if I ask her to start cooking dinners again. So what do you think reddit, WIBTA? ######

Response: YTA. You’re living at home rent free, you can cook. ######


Prompt:
Right so here goes - I'm 17 M and I live at home with my parents and my younger sister.

It was my Dad's birthday a few days ago and he turned 55. My mum was joking around about him being old and my Dad said something like "yeah well in two years you'll be 50" as like a joke as well. And that's when it hit me that my mum is 7 years younger than my Dad.

I know it sounds dumb cos like I always knew their ages but I never really put it together, but they're 7 years difference between them. And I know they got together when my mum was young, like 18 or 19 so my dad was like 26 or whatever, which is only a year and a bit older than I am, and the thought of getting with someone in their late 20s is just gross and weird.

So I kinda flipped out and basically said like their relationship was a bit gross and like unusual.

I also feel annoyed because I'm 17 and my Dad is 55 and it's like, my mum chose to get with an older guy and give me an older dad. It's never gotten in the way of anything like he's always been quite active and fit but it annoys me that I could've had a younger Dad like most people.

Anyway my parents are a little upset with me but I feel like I wasn't accusing them of anything, I was more just surprised and think it's a little unusual? I don't know if I should apologise. It's bothering me a lot. Thanks.

AITA ######

Response:
 YTA. You’re 17, and they were consenting adults, and things were different 35+ years ago. Different responsibilities meant that perhaps they weren’t necessarily in different stages of their lives and could see eye to eye.

Neither you mom nor your dad seem resentful, angry, sad, or anything of the sort, and they’re still married to this day, so they were both clearly ok with their situation.

I understand where you’re coming from, but yeah. You have no right to say their relationship is gross. And “i have an older dad” is ridiculous. You sound like a brat. ######


Prompt:
I have an 18 and 21yo boys. My relationship with my 18yo is strained because I do far more for my other son and have no shame about it. The reason is that my 21yo is fiercely independent and rarely asks for help even when he should. He feels uncomfortable asking or getting help from anyone. On the rare times that he does ask for help, he is very good at repaying back whatever the help is in anyway that he can. He doesn't like to feel entitled to anyone. My other son is becoming a mooch and is very give an inch, take a mile. He is very good at manipulating people. I've told him that his act hasn't worked on me since he was 11.

I recently bought my 21yo a nice car and put him on my insurance. My 18yo either walks or takes the bus. I could buy him a car, but he would see that my spoiling him and it will open a whole new can of worms to see what else he can get. Had I gotten him a car, he would probably would have asked for customization or complained about not having a sunroof. He didn't get a car, but his brother did so there is a lot of tension in the house. My 21yo is just happy he doesn't have to walk or take the bus. ######

Response:
 YTA. You've told your younger son he's manipulative and spoiled since he was 11, all the while showing clear favouritism for his older brother. You've given your older son gifts and help he didn't ask for, and seem to be waiting for your younger son to get upset about it so you can continue to call him spoiled and entitled.

I hope your younger son gets away from you and into therapy. ######


Prompt:
While the company I [21F] intern at was preparing to switch to wfh protocol, my boss’s [38?M] wife [3?F] came into the office to help him move his computers and stuff more quickly. I saw her car idling outside the building and stopped to say hello. She snarked back something about telling it to my coworker, who would drunkenly repeat it back to her later. I asked what she meant and she said that only losers hate trophies.

I pretty much knew she was talking about something I said to my coworker about finding my boss attractive. He’s a normal to good looking dude, but so smart and cool and pretty much the perfect catch if he were single. I told my coworker in confidence that he is so great that he didn’t seem like the type to go for a trophy wife.

I know his wife has a good career, but it’s in a female dominated industry that is also both her parents’ profession. She gets raises every year for doing the same thing slightly differently, where my boss is a go getter who is always looking for the next challenge. She can be reactive and kind of rude, like she was to me that day. My boss is laid back and hates to hurt people. All the partners think she’s a riot and grossly tease my boss for “landing” a woman like her, but other interns find her to be a bit sharp. Like I see the obvious attraction but was just surprised a guy like him who is so down to earth and genuine could fall for her looks when they seem so mismatched.

I guess my coworker repeated this to the wife (I guess to curry favor???) because she was so snarky to me. My boss has been short with me over email, where he was once friendly. It’s been long enough now that I can’t ignore the shift in tone and am wondering if it was that big of a deal.

AITA for telling a coworker my thoughts? It’s not like I made a move on him for him to me acting awkward or for his wife to be mad. ######

Response: YTA. You've gotten a great lesson in the importance of discretion in the workplace. Not only is your boss looking at you differently now, but many other people also probably see you as envious of the wife and as trying to insert yourself into their relationship. You're awfully judgmental of the wife's career in an assholish way, too. Hopefully you've learned: if you must vent these kinds of opinions, vent them to friends you don't work with. Don't put a lot of trust in co-workers who are eager to badmouth others in such a personal way. Hope you weren't relying on them for a good reference. ######


Prompt: Happened earlier today. I decided to go for my evening run that I have been conducting everyday for the past couple weeks. On the route I take, there is a particular house that is a little bit worn down and has a small dog that does ape shit crazy every time someone walks by the house. The house is fenced off and the fence comes up to my waist. The small dog has been barking at me for the past three weeks, every time I run past the house. As I was jogging past the house this evening, like clockwork the little shit started barking up a storm. I decided this time around that I was gonna show this little dog who the alpha male was so that it would stop ruining my evening runs. As it was barking at me, I made I contact with the dog, went straight up to the fence and started barking at the dog. The dog got scared and ran into it’s dog house. Just as I thought I had solved my dog problem the owner comes out from behind a bush with gardening gloves on and starts berating me for scaring her dog. I told the lady that she is a shitty dog parent and that if she did a better job socializing her dog it wouldn’t be such a menace to the passerby’s. She freaked out and told me to f*ck off. AITA for barking at the dog? ######

Response: YTA. You're running PAST the house. Realistically, how long could the dog be barking at you anyway? 30 seconds? What kind of person can't ignore a dog barking in their own yard for 30 seconds? You're behavior was extremely immature. And then to verbally attack the owner after she defended her dog?  WTF? Honestly...🤦♀ ######


Prompt:
My daughter \[14F\] has been drawing ever since she was 9. Her drawings are really good and I am honestly impressed by how realistic she manages to draw certain things on her iPad. My son \[10M\] also wants to start drawing and hopes to become as good as his sister. I told him to use his sisters cartons and crayons to start practicing and that next week (this Monday) I will buy him too.

Well, yesterday he wasted a lot of his sisters cartons because he kept failing while he was attempting to draw until his sister had enough and told him that this is the last carton she’s giving him. After she gave him the last carton he finally started drawing with attention and probably spent an hour and a half on it. When he was done he came to me and showed me what he did. I honestly couldn’t tell what animal he attempted to draw based on his painting but in the end I assumed it was a dragon since it was breathing fire. He asked me about my opinion and I told him that I honestly think the art was bad and he shouldn’t have wasted all his sisters cartons for it but also not to worry about it because with enough practice he is going to become good at drawing. My husband was mad about my response and told me that I should have just said it was good and encourage him to continue (I did though) and that his art was actually pretty good for a beginner.

I thought my response to my son was reasonable because although I told him his drawing was bad I still encouraged him to keep going and not give up, that was until today when he came to me and told me not to buy him the art supplies because he doesn’t want to draw anymore. I felt bad because I feel like it’s my fault and my husband obviously didn’t lose the opportunity to call me out for it. AITA? ######

Response: YTA. You're right: his deciding not to pursue drawing is 100% your fault for the discouragement there. Nice job! ######


Prompt:
I'm in my third year of college as an international student, and as my contract for student dorms is about to run out and I can't go home, one of my college friends offered for me to move in with him and his family for a while. I was excited about it at first, because I've known this guy since first year and we're really good friends so it should be fun, but today he sent me a message saying he needed to tell me something before I met his family.

Turns out he's a transgender, and his family still use his birth name and call him a she, so he knew he had to tell me before I met them. I was expecting something like "my mom collects creepy dolls". I don't even know how to articulate how I feel about it. I thought this guy was one of my best friends, and I've told him so much about my life and my past that I don't normally talk about, but it turns out I didn't actually know who he was at all. I messaged him back saying that what he'd just told me was huge, and that I didn't think I wanted to live with someone who'd hidden something like that from me.

I just feel like I don't even know him anymore. He's talked to me about his childhood before, and must have been lying through his teeth about it, since he wasn't even a boy in the first place. If he's been lying about this huge thing, what else has he been lying about? I don't feel like I can trust him anymore, and I don't know if I want a friend like that. My sister thinks I'm overreacting about it and just told me to get over myself, but I really thought he was one of my closest friends and in three years he never thought to tell me this. I don't want to live with someone who would lie to me for so long, but she thinks I'm being a dick. AITA? ######

Response: YTA. You're proving to him why he shouldn't trust you. ######


Prompt:
I’m taking organic chemistry, which is even worse than gen chem. The exams, and tests are unnecessarily hard, and the class itself is complicated. We all seem to be struggling, besides this one person.

Our professor is unfortunately still taking her lectures very seriously, and assigned us a test worth 25% of our grade on Monday. Most of us  cheated (besides that one student) despite her claiming everyone has a different version of the test. We ended up doing much better compared to before. Well since the rat didn’t cheat, he didn’t do as well as those who cheated did, and therefore the curve was messed up. So he screenshotted the group chat texts, etc everything and emailed our professor. She cancelled our scores, and “will be taking further action”.
It was clear that he’s the one who ratted like a bitch, so somehow i brought it up on the gc, and most if not all of us turned on him. Some people sent him angry texts etc calling him out. He says it’s all my fault, and this “harassment” has caused him so much “distress”. AITA? ######

Response: YTA. You're obviously the asshole and you know it. What is this post? ######


Prompt: I spent a fortune putting in an apple and avocado trees. They have to be planted in a certain spot in the yard to receive maximum sunlight. Fruit is starting to drop and some of it is dropping into my neighbor's yard. I kindly asked them to put anything that falls into their yard over to our yard. Instead, they're eating my fruit. I decided to shame them by posting a sign pointing to their house calling them thieves. ######

Response: YTA. You're literally expecting them to do an extra chore for you (fruit collecting) with no pay. If your tree is going onto their property, they get the fruit--that's their reward for not just lobbing off the branches.  It's universal neighbor code. Also you come off as unhinged for posting a fucking sign pointing to their property calling them thieves. ######


Prompt:
I'm a dad of six kids (17m, 14f, 6m, 3f, 1f). My 14 y/o has always helped out with taking care of the younger ones, and we often jokingly refer to her as the "3rd parent".

She takes care of small things, like making sure the younger ones have brushed their teeth and are in bed on time, or making them breakfast in the mornings, or helping the 6 y/o with his homework.

She's never complained about doing any of this, and she seems to enjoy helping out. Lately, though, she's been complaining about how she never has any time for herself and always has to be watching the younger kids.

I think she just has to manage her time better. She agreed to take on some extra responsibilities to help take care of them, and I think she should honor that.

The only thing is, she was recently diagnosed with an anxiety disorder and has had a few panic attacks. Her therapist told us to stop having her help out with the little ones, but she's been doing it for years already, why should it change now?

So, AITA for having my daughter continue doing something she's been fine with for years? ######

Response: YTA. You're joking, right? This is a joke post? Your daughter is diagnosed with a anxiety disorder and a specialist told you specifically to stop doing something and you come here expecting us to say that you're not in the wrong? Are you seriously asking why you should "change something you've been doing for years"? YTA. You chose to have six kids, now be a damn parent. And where's your wife/the mom in this scenario as you've said you see one of your kids as the third parent? Does she share the same opinion as you? Damn.. Also the things you refer to as small things, are not small at all. And don't forget that the 14 year old is a kid herself! YTA. ######


Prompt:
This was about a week ago. I got into a minor car accident at a crossroads, car was a bit fucked and I was a bit shaken up but obviously everything was absolutely fine. I was on my way to work so I got a taxi to work and texted my girlfriend telling her I’d been in a car crash but it was nothing serious, turned my phone off and got to work. I work in a hospital so the hours are pretty intense.

I’m not the best at using my phone, and because my girlfriend lives in the town we go to college in, about three hours away, we don’t get to see each other that much during the summer. I got home from my shift that night and went to sleep, forgetting to charge my phone. I had 12 hour shifts the next couple days so just forgot about what had happened because I was so tired and went to sleep the second I got home from my shift.

Three days after the accident my best friend turns up at my house asking what the fuck had happened and whether I was okay. I was super confused because I hadn’t mentioned it to anyone other than my girlfriend. He then shows me his phone and my girlfriend had been just spamming him asking what was going on and whether I was okay and apparently she got super worried, which I do get, but I literally told her it was nothing serious.

She’s now extremely pissed off at me and saying she can’t trust me anymore and that I’m unreliable but she’s the one who got herself worked up over nothing. AITA? ######

Response: YTA. You're in a relationship. It takes a minute to text someone that everything is fine. I do not for a second believe that you just forgot that you got in a car crash and that you have another person who emotionally depends on you being okay. It's hard to believe that this wasn't some bizarre attention-seeking behavior. ######


Prompt:
I have a 19Yo stepson and since me and my partner moved in together all he's been a nightmare. My step son is a drug dealer, he brings all sort of shady people to our house some of which are now incarcerated and he has been arrested himself. He's never had a job is his life but I still see large quantities of cash in his room as well as all the designer clothes he buys himself. He's been a bad influence on my 13yo daughter who is clearly impressed by the money he has.

Last year my daughter told me she wanted Air pods for Christmas, a present which I thought was way too expensive and not something a 12yo at the time needs to have. Last week my partner and son had to leave due to a family issue. My stepson called me to say he ordered a present for her birthday and had asked me to wrap it for him when it arrives and it was the pair Air Pods.

I already know it's paid for from his drug money and I didn't want to send my daughter the wrong message and because she's already impressed by his lifestyle and I certainly didn't want her to benefit from it as well so I just kept the gift in my room with the intention of giving it back to him when he returns.

She was already a little upset that he couldn't be there and now she currently thinks he couldn't be bothered to get her anything. Today he called me to ask if she was ok, probably wondering why he hasn't got a thanks and I explained to him that I didn't think she needed such an expensive gift when I asked how he got the money for £250 earphones he just ended the call, I haven't got the chance to speak to my partner about this yet. ######

Response: YTA. You're daughter is the one being punished here, not your stepson. If you don't want your daughter to be enamored with drug culture, sit her down and TALK to her about it, instead of trying to ruin their relationship. Please understand that just because he sells drugs, doesn't necessarily mean he's a bad person. He loves his little sister, and that should be the most important thing. And the more you try to get in between them, the more she's going to look up to and idolize him. ######


Prompt: My son is 14M and my daughter is 17F. She is bisexual. My son is not LGBTQ+ (as far as I know), but he feels strongly about being an ally for his sister. My son made a gay pride flag by coloring nine pieces of printer paper and taping them together. I thought it was really beautiful. He then taped it on the window of his bedroom, facing our neighbors’ house, who are homophobic. I asked him to move it to a wall instead of a window and he told me that I was being controlling, when I didn’t believe I was. I just don’t want to be involved in a confrontation with them. AITA? ######

Response: YTA. You're afraid of a confrontation and so rather than stand up for your daughter you effectively punish your son? Fuck that. At least she has one person who supports her. ######


Prompt:
So here go!  Am I am the asshole for asking the soon to be hubs for a child free wedding?

My Finace of 2 1/2 years and I are set to be married in a little over a year.  We have been pretty much in agreement over most of the wedding planning except this one thing.

I told my Fiance that I would like to have a child free wedding because I do not want babies and little ones screaming, crying, or running around during our ceremony and reception.  This is our special day and I do not want that annoyance. Especially during vows!

My Fiance however said that he wants his 11 year old son and his 4 year old niece to be apart of the day and be in the pictures and what not. I told him that i understand this, I really do. But I want this to be elegant. Not like a back yard barbeque.  I also told him that I want to be his focus on our big day and feel his son especially will want most of his focus as he always does when he is around. He says he will try and prioritize me but I know how it will go. My soon to be stepson will whine and literally cry until he gets the attention.

Aita for wanting my wedding day to be childfree?

Throwaway because my fiance uses reddit. ######

Response:
 YTA. You.

I don't care if you don't want kids at the wedding or at any point. Hell, I have none. But this is his son. Your future stepson.

And kids at a wedding isn't an all or nothing thing. Your future husband and you get to set the rules. If he wants the two kids there, let the two kids come and say no to the others. ######


Prompt:
I’m 23, my gf is 20, and we’ve been together for 2.5 years.

I’m in a group chat with a few of my boys and some girls. These particular girls do not like my girlfriend. They’ve never really known each other but my gf caught them talking crap about her so she confronted them and since then, they don’t like her. I wouldn’t consider these girls my friends either but they happen to be in the group and I don’t like starting drama so it is what it is.

Even though my gf doesn’t like them, she hasn’t made a huge fuss about me being in the group chat and she was even cool about me going on a weekend trip to a cabin with all of them.

They started up a game in the group chat where everybody was calling each other out and asking questions. One of the girls said towards me “don’t let your girlfriend influence what you think about other people”. One of my guy friends asked me “out of all the girls you’ve been with, who’s your favorite?” Obviously I said my girlfriend. One of the girls “haha” reacted to my reply. He replied “that’s a cop out lmao”. Another of the girls asked me “why do you act different when you’re with us vs when you’re with her”. I guess she was trying to imply that I pretend to not like them in front of my gf for her sake but that’s not true.

Anyways, I told my gf about all of this and she started crying. She said I don’t bother to defend her and that they shouldn’t be disrespecting her or our relationship and I’m just letting them do it. She thinks my guy friend was sneak dissing by asking which girl is my favorite. I feel like she was overreacting. I don’t say anything because I don’t want to cause any drama. I don’t care what they think about my gf. She was really upset and we ended up talking about it for hours with no resolution. I told her I just really didn’t care and she shouldn’t either. AITA? ######

Response: YTA. You... don't care that your friends shit talk your girlfriend? And you really expected her to be just fine with that? There are times in life when confrontation is necessary and that was one of them. ######


Prompt:
This happened last night and I have been told by my partner that I was selfish but idk.

There was a tornado warning last night where I live. This isn't too unusual in our state but we are in a city so we dont typically get actual touchdown or anything like that. When the sirens went off (around 6 pm) we heard a knock at the door, and it was our upstairs neighbor. He asked if he and his girlfriend and dog could go in our basement.  We live in a duplex, so it's an old house that has been split in 2 units. They have the second floor and attick and we have the first floor and basement. I told them I wasnt comfortable with them coming into our house, and apologized, and the guy left after kind of awkwardly standing there in my doorway for a second. I said sorry but I dont think I'm obligated to let people into my house just because theres a storm. For what it's worth there wasnt even a tornado after the warnings and the sirens stopped about 5 minutes after he came and asked.

Anyway my girl said I was being selfish but I dont think they need access to our house every time there is a storm warning. Aita? ######

Response:
 YTA. You wouldn't let your neighbours into your basement for safety, *potentially saving their lives*, because you were *uncomfortable*? You were incredibly selfish, and your neighbours will never forget how you treated them.

If they were being overzealous I'd understand your discomfort, but the bloody **tornado sirens were sounding** -- that means there is a chance of danger!

_______
> I dont think I'm obligated to let people into my house just because theres a storm.

Neither are you usually obligated to help someone who is laying down injured in the street - you should do it because if *you* were in that same position you would want someone to help you. Same applies here. ######


Prompt:
When I was 22 I got my friends with benefits pregnant. We were not in a committed relationship so I was always skeptical if the baby was mine and made it known when she was pregnant. She assured me she hadn’t slept with anyone a month before we did. I didn’t believe her as she had a reputation so I kept my distance throughout the pregnancy.

When the baby was born that sealed the doubt even further. I’m half Filipino and white and am very tan with black hair and brown eyes, and she is white with brown hair and brown eyes. The baby was born with dark blonde hair and blue eyes. I refused to sign the birth certificate and asked for a DNA test.

She got pissed and we didn’t talk for a year. She slandered me online calling me a deadbeat and saying she didn’t need anyone help raising her daughter. Then she got back with her ex who surprise surprise has blonde hair and blue eyes. Two more years passed and all of a sudden I got a court order for a DNA test in the mail.

I was pissed because I had left that all behind me but I was required to take it and I did. I was sure it would come back negative but to my surprise it says I’m the father. I met my daughter for the second time a few weeks after the court date establishing my custody rights. She is three and she doesn’t look like me still but DNA doesn’t lie I guess.

I’m still on bad terms with my daughters mother. She wants me to apologize for “abandoning” her and our daughter and says my doubt based on looks was wrong. I think my daughter not looking anything like me and a lot like her now ex step father was a weird coincidence and I had every right to be doubtful. Aita? ######

Response:
 YTA. You weren't wrong to request a paternity test, that was sensible. But you were wrong to, by your account,  keep your distance during the pregnancy and criticize your friend to the point where she felt they were better without you in their lives. You get extra YTA points for how you acted at delivery as well as not following up on the paternity test.

Basically, you decided your friend was lying and treated her like trash. You should be happy she's letting you meet your daughter while she's young enough for you to do right by her. ######


Prompt: I’m a 25 year old guy and I’m married to my wife who is 24. Okay so recently I’ve noticed that she’s gained a bit of weight, not crazy or anything ridiculous, but a bit. I’m into fitness myself so I like to stay active and healthy in general. Well her birthday was a couple days ago and along with some other gifts, I got her a weightloss/workout bundle kit. Immediately she became upset with me about it and was thinking i was mad at her or saying she’s fat, which I wasn’t. I tried explaining to her why I did it, but she didn’t wanna hear me. It’s been a couple days now and she’s still pissed about it. AITA? ######

Response: YTA. You weren't *just* calling her fat. You were also telling her to stop being fat. On her birthday. ######


Prompt:
My (28 M) niece (15 F) has self-esteem issues with her nose. To preface, I just want to say that I think she looks fine but I realize insecurities can be tough to overcome. Anyways, her nose is oddly shaped if you focus on it, it starts off thicker at the base and gets really thin as it extends outward, if that's a good way to describe it?

Apparently a classmate of hers pointed this out and she has been feeling hurt ever since. When I was over at my sister's house, I asked my sister if she will consider plastic surgery for my niece. My sister told me it was out of the question and we had a small debate, my sister said that her daughter never noticed her own nose all this time and that she shouldn't let one comment get to her head.

I argued that body issues can be a real problem and she shouldn't feel like she can't fix them. Eventually the topic changed but I wasn't satisfied so later on I pulled my niece aside and told her she should look into getting a nose job. She lit up and was optimistic, so I just gave her advice like such as her nose doesn't have to be permanent and she should start saving up money to fix that ugly thing. She thanked me and all was well

My niece unfortunately told my sister that I recommended plastic surgery and my sister called me and told me not to come over any more. I told her she doesn't give a shit about her kids to listen to their problems and I've been stewing it over all day. ######

Response: YTA. You were told not to bring it up, yet you still did. Not only that, but she’s 15. You shouldn’t be telling her to get surgery to “fix that ugly thing”. Really? ######


Prompt:
This happened back in February and I really don't think it was that big a deal, but my gf still brings it up whenever she's annoyed with me.

For my birthday, my gf offered to take me and my best friend out for dinner. She said she would pay for everything, as her treat.

Our city has a very hole-in-the-wall type place that specializes in chicken dishes and is pretty popular, and I really wanted to check it out. At first, my girlfriend was on board, but then she checked the website and Yelp reviews and found out that there was nothing vegetarian on the menu (the only two side dishes were rice and refried beans, which were cooked with chicken broth and lard, respectively). She asked me if I could please choose a restaurant that had a vegetarian option, but I said I really wanted to go to this one.

My gf and I met my friend at the restaurant and had a good time (or so I thought), but when my gf
and I got home she was in a bad mood and said it was really rude of me to pick a restaurant that excluded her. She said she didn't enjoy having to pay to sit there for an hour and watch us eat.

Obviously I wouldn't have chosen this restaurant for a regular date night. But it was my birthday, and I
really don't think it was a big deal to go to a restaurant I wanted to try for a special occasion. It was just one meal! AITA? ######

Response: YTA. You were a huge asshole. You could easily have just gone to that restaurant on your own or with someone else and picked any other place for that night. Expecting your girlfriend to just sit and watch you eat was incredibly shitty. If you want to celebrate your birthday with other people you have to take their needs into account, it's not an annual festival of narcissism. Apologize. ######


Prompt:
Hello

So my (25f) boyfriend (29m) was with a Japanese girl through college and up until we met, about two years ago.

Throughout the relationship, he studied Japanese so he would be able to communicate with her family in Japan.

However, even though they've broken up, he is still studying Japanese. I asked him if he could study Spanish, the language MY family speaks, but he said no.

He said that he wasn't interested in it, my family was all bilingual so it wasn't necessary, and that the Japanese was just a habit he wanted to maintain.

The way I see it, he's demonstrating that he was willing to put in a lot more effort for her and her family than he is for me, and that really stings. I want him to stop studying Japanese (and maybe start studying Spanish) so that I know he's truly over her.

AITA? ######

Response: YTA. You want him to drop something that he's interested in to take up something that you're interested in? He's with you, not her. You sound quite insecure. You want him to become Trilingual for you?  Geez. The world does not revolve around you. ######


Prompt:
Pre-qurantine!

So I (26M) was going on this date.

Context-
This girl (24F) let's call her Lin, was a friend of my friend. He recommended going on a date with Lin, so I said sure.

On to the story-

So we met at this restaurant that I had never heard of, and it was because Lin lived 30 minutes from here and requested this.

So Lin came, and she was gorgeous, we chatted, and she told me she walked here, since she didn't want to waste gas on a car. I didn't really mind and the convo went on.

Me and Lin really did hit it off, and we talked for an hour, went for a movie (that was 10 minutes from the restaurant) , talked more, had fun and i actually had hope in this date.

So then we had to part, and I assumed Lin would walk home, but she asked me if I could drive her home, since it was night and she never expected the date to go for so long and that she doesn't want to walk this night.

I didn't want to waste gas, plus I felt like she was just using me for my car so I politely declined. She asked one more time because she didn't want to walk home at this time, because a few guys always walked around her neighbourhood at this time.

I told her I couldn't, and she accepted it, glared at me, before leaving.

The next day, I asked her if she made it home safe. She replied a few hours later with:

'If you call getting catcalled safe, then yes I was safe!'

And then blocked me on all social media. I made another account but she told me that it didn't work out, and blocked me again.

I was devastated, since I thought this would work. I can't help but think I was in the wrong. I did have lowish gas, and nothing really bad did happen to her, and if she didn't want the possibility of walking home, she could have got a car/uber.

AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA. You think she was using you for your car?!
You think she had a movie date after the dinner so she would be further away from home planned or something?

It's in your title that SHE WAS SCARED!

She was so right to block you, talk about a dick move. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway because I have no idea if my daughter has reddit.

My (18F) daughter got accepted to Harvard, her dream school. She is understandably over the moon excited and me and my wife are very proud of her.

She was also accepted to a great university in-state. This school is much cheaper and she has a scholarship that would pay all her tuition, excluding fees and textbooks. She has a scholarship at Harvard as well but it doesn't cover nearly as much as the one she would get if she went to school in-state.

My wife and I have been pushing for her to go to school in state for a number of reasons. Its cheaper, she could live at home, and she knows this area very well, her entire support system is here. We don't want her to go into mountains of debt for her dream school when she could get just as good of an education here.

My daughter was upset that we couldn't be happy for her, and says that since we aren't the ones paying for it we don't have a say. I understand that logic in the fact that no, my wife and I are not directly paying for her school, but if she gets sick or injured or she needs to come back home, we'll be both financially and emotionally paying for it.

Not to mention the fact that her moving so far away would be robbing my other daughter (12F) of her older sister when she's at the age that she needs that guidance from someone closer to her age.

I think it's a rather selfish decision and told my eldest so, but that just made her even more angry. Everyone else in the family is congratulating her without even thinking of the implications, and I'm starting to feel like I'm losing my head. AITA? ######

Response: YTA. You think it's selfish that your daughter wants to move away, but you're a-okay with forcing her to stay so that she can be a third parent to *your* child? Pfft. Right. Yeah, keep going with that parenting, see how it works out for you. ######


Prompt:
So my wife dyed her hair today. While I normally like dyed hair on other people, I have a hard time enjoying it on her. For some reason I just really don’t like that she had tattoos and that she dyed her hair.

The thought of it makes me visibly upset. She already told me she won’t get any more tattoos, but near the start of our marriage I told her that I didn’t like her with dyed hair.

She likes it though and now that she is allowed to have it dyed at work she went ahead and asked what color she should get. I told her that I didn’t want her to, because I didn’t like her with dyed hair. She got upset and wanted me to be supportive so I helped her choose a color.
She dyed her hair and i guess it looks alright, but I can’t help but get this bad feeling in my gut and my head when I see it.

I just don’t like it. I don’t like seeing it. I want her to look like her. She wants to be able to do things she likes. I want that too, and I want her to be happy, but I just really don’t want her to have dyed hair. I don’t want her to have tattoos either but that’s not much of an option now. ######

Response: YTA. You sound very controlling and how much these cosmetic alterations bother you sounds over the top ######


Prompt:
My cousin Luke (fake name) has always been a bit on the feminine side. He changed his gender to become a female last month. He now wants to go by the name Lucy.

Him and his parents came over for lunch and we were all talking. I told them about how my exams were going and how I bought my first car last week. After we all spoke, I asked Luke how he was doing and he told me that he wanted to be called Lucy. Now, most of my extended family were against Luke wanting to transition  as they felt that it wasn't normal. I told him that I prefer calling him Luke as it felt weird calling him by a different name.

He got upset and told me that I was being rude to him. My father got involved telling us to behave like men and stop squabbling between eachother. The rest of the family kept quiet. After about 10 minutes, him and his family left. My mum told me that I shouldn't have been rude like that and just called him by his new name just to please him . But at the same time, my father told me that I shouldn't call him by the new name. AITA? ######

Response: YTA. You should respect your cousin and not deadname them. ######


Prompt:
So my mother is quite unhealthy and she has been told by many doctors that she needs to lose weight but she always insists that she is the perfect weight. this happened last thursday when i was eating dinner with my mother. She asked me to make some hamburgers because those are her favorite. But because i am a vegan i do not feel comfortable cooking meat so i decided to instead make veggieburgers.  So i made them and we then started eating, my mother noted that the burgers tasted weird but didn't say anything else about them. We then finish eating and she is getting ready to leave so i inform her that i made her veggieburgers instead of hamburgers. She then got very mad saying that i didn't know if she could have a reaction to the food and also that i shouldn't force my eating habits on her. I said that i don't see a problem because she didn't have any kind of bad reaction to the food also it is better for her and she needs to lose weight anyways.

So Reddit AITA ######

Response: YTA. you should never lie about what you’re feeding someone. you don’t get to decide what’s healthy/unhealthy for your mother, she’s an adult who can make her own decisions. I understand it’s frustrating, but straight up lying about what you’re feeding someone until after they ate it is messed up. you are absolutely pushing your eating habits on her. ######


Prompt:
My girlfriend and I have been together since we were 13 (we’re 20 now), and she’s had her cat for the duration of our relationship. I’m gonna go ahead and say this now: I don’t care for cats since I’m allergic to them and hers was no exception. I’m not really an animal person in general, but if I were to get one it wouldn’t be a cat. They’re disgusting and they creep me out.

My girlfriend and I moved in together at 18, and I was always under the impression that she would leave the cat with her parents since she knew how much I didn’t like them. Long story short the cat came with her and while I wasn’t thrilled about it, I allowed it to stay under the conditions that it wouldn’t sleep in our bed, it wouldn’t sit on the furniture, and it wouldn’t go into my office space.

Over the course of the last two years, I would come home from work and my girlfriend would be chilling on the couch with the cat after I’d asked her not to. I’d get ready to climb into bed and there’d be cat hair on my sheets so I know she let it into the bedroom. Not to mention, she has what I feel like is an unhealthy obsession with this thing. She’s constantly talking to and cooing at it like it’s a person and it drives me up a wall. For a while, I just slept in my office so I wouldn’t have to deal with an itchy face and puffy eyeballs.

With us being stuck at home now, it’s even harder for me to have my own space. The straw that broke the camels back was when I went into my office and found her cat sitting in the window. I’ve asked time and time again for her cat to stay out of my space and I feel like she deliberately disrespects my wishes, so I found a walk-in surrender shelter today and dropped the cat off. I haven’t told my girlfriend, and being that it’s an indoor/outdoor cat I hope she just thinks it ran away. I love my girlfriend, but her cat was legitimately our only source of conflict. ######

Response:
 YTA. You should immediately tell your girlfriend what you did so she can go and retrieve her much loved pet. Then you need to have a conversation like an adult, which is what you should have done in the first place. If you can’t live with her pet, which she obviously loves, then maybe you need to reconsider your living arrangements - or let your girlfriend decide what to do with her cat.

You can’t just unilaterally give away something that doesn’t belong to you. ######


Prompt:
This one really hurt me.

It’s my birthday today and my Dad came home and handed me a gift, I hugged all my family. I opened the gift and it was an Xbox One S. I was shocked, I didn’t want my Dad to spend such money on something my Older Brother had already bought around two years ago which I hardly use anyway. He then explained that he got it around 2 months ago, and my heart sank. Considering the price he would of had to pay and the fact next gen consoles are coming out in October this year I felt terrible, but I know I didn’t want it, so I said what I was thinking and said sorry.

My Mum got slightly peeved and that made me even more sad.

Later my Dad explained that when they got a new phone for my Mum the bundle came with an Xbox for a tiny bit more. I still feel guilty and spoilt that I said to him I didn’t need or want it, obviously politely.

Am I the asshole? ######

Response: YTA. You should have simply thanked him for the gift. It's never about the thing, it's always about the thought. ######


Prompt:
Hello, I will admit. I don’t know if the way I’m parenting my son is alright and I need you guys to be as honest as possible.

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I have 2 children, Samantha \[10F\] and Daniel \[11M\]. Since their birthdays are close to each other I always make them celebrate it at the same day. Ever since he was 9, Daniel loved doing more feminine things like playing with dolls, watch girly movies, play fashion games and is even make up (he is subscribed to makeup youtubers and I caught him using my makeup multiple times). This has been only getting worse and worse and while I was fine with my relatives buying him dolls for his birthday the last 2 years, I only allowed it because I was hoping he would grow out of it but he still hasn’t. My husband told me that this all happened when I made my son and daughter play together (and they ended up playing with dolls)  and he was indeed right. 2 years passed and nothing has changed and I am starting to get really worried. I have already programmed a therapy session for next week and I really hope things will go alright.

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Yesterday was the day my children got to celebrate their birthdays, my relatives asked me a week ago what gifts they should buy them and I specifically asked them to not buy girly toys for Daniel. Well, when the gifts arrived Daniel started crying. He was devastated to see how my daughter got gifts like Barbie doll, my little pony collections, etc.. He went to his room and didn’t even come to blow the candles. Today he is still really upset about it but I asked my daughter to tell him they will share the toys and now he feels better and are currently playing together. My husband however insists that I stop letting this happen. AITA for not letting my relatives by my son the gifts he wants? ######

Response:
 YTA. you say “this is getting worse and worse” and “i’m really worried” what are you worried is going to happen? that your son is going to have a good friendship with his sister and enjoy his childhood playing with toys that make him happy? that your son grows up to be a successful happy makeup artist?

he is not hurting anyone, you are hurting him. your goal should to be to raise happy healthy safe children, who cares what he’s interested in as long as it’s safe. let him be who he wants to be.

there is absolutely nothing wrong with a boy who likes to play with trucks, lego, and video games. there is absolutely nothing wrong with a boy who likes to play with dolls, makeup, and dress-up. please learn this lesson for the sake of your son. ######


Prompt:
I(37F) live with my kids(10F,13M,14M). I’m letting my nephew(16M) stay with me for few weeks. I have some rules in my house, such as: no locked doors, no phones after 9pm, wifi gets turned off at 8pm and turns back on at 11am, kids have to be up by 8am and make their breakfast, they should do homework, then they can play video games for 1 hour, then they read some books.

My nephew has been having a struggle following the rules. He has also been complaining about it. I understand that he has different dynamics at home but this is my house and he has to follow them. Last night we argued about “no locked doors” rule. I reminded him that I’m already doing him a huge favor by letting him stay with me and he should respect me and my house rules.

He called his parents and told them that he wanted to go back home. My sister called me and asked him to ease up on him a bit but I don’t think I should have to. I told them that he’d either follow the house rules or be grounded. ######

Response:
 YTA. You said this kid’s dad is in the hospital, so he’s already been disrupted from his usual life and I’m sure this is a scary time. I understand wanting him to follow general house rules but there are actually a few issues with the specific rules you mentioned.

First of all, not allowing someone to use their phone is not a “house rule.” This phone is his property and probably his only way of staying connected to his parents and friends, which is extremely important for him to have access to. The same goes for controlling his schedule by making him get up. I understand rules about TV and chores because these DO relate to your home and property but disrupting his sleep schedule seems unnecessary and possibly unhealthy for him especially considering that this is likely a stressful time already.

Also, while these rules make sense with younger kids, this kid is 16. These rules are insane for a 16-year-old. Kids his age are much more independent than those your kids’ ages.

I know you’re just trying to do your best, but these rules are unreasonable. Don’t make this more stressful for a kid who’s already got a lot going on. ######


Prompt:
So I (16M) once last year found my English teacher(23F) on tinder and she had some freaky bio, I ignored it and went on with my life.

Then at the beginning of this year, she kinda got upset with me and told me to leave the class (in a very rude manner just a step away from cussing)

So being dumb me I told her if she “wasted less time on tinder looking for hookup like sluts, maybe she would teach better” and then I pointed out to something on her tinder profile.

she was so embarrassed she had to dismiss class because everyone was being a dick and laughing and making jokes about it in front of her.

I was expelled for 3 days.

Thing is up until the pandemic stopping schools, whenever she entered a class everyone indirectly said disrespectful stuff about her and joked and during a 45 minute class, she spent like 20 minuets holding back tears and not showing her embarrassment.

Needless to say I felt like shit, I went up to her and apologized, she seemed very hurt and passive and told me “it’s fine but I want you to know you ruined my career at this school, and put me through therapy and antidepressants after I finally beat it 2 years ago, but I forgive you”.

I was crushed, then the pandemic came about and haven’t heard about her ever since as we had a new English teacher for our zoom meetings.

AITA reddit? And if so how can I fix it? ######

Response: YTA. You ruined her reputation and embarrassed her in front of the whole school, and for what? To get revenge because she kicked you out of class? Idk what you did but whatever you did to get kicked, it doesn't justify what you did/said to her. ######


Prompt:
I had a girlfriend in college that is to this day still the love of my life.

A couple years ago we reconnected face to face.

She’s been in trouble with the law and when she was incarcerated we wrote each other whenever we could and when she got out I got her a job at my business and helped pay for her first apartment.

We began talking about the fact that she became pregnant with my baby when we were dating but she miscarried. She told me that she didn’t tell me before but it’s a girl.

Around that time my wife got pregnant and happened to get pregnant right when I was going to call quits on our passionless marriage. We were barely having sex and I was only doing it with her out of pity for her constant nagging.

I felt so trapped by the baby and every day going home was like preparing myself for the hell that was playing house with a frigid emotional robot.

I was tortured by what could be and when the baby was born I realized the only way I could stand to stay in the sham that was my marriage was to have something to remind me of happiness. So I suggested the name “ Amber” and my wife agreed to the name.

Now my daughter is 7 and my wife discovered that I’ve been working everyday with my ex girlfriend and helping her secure food places to live.

She blew up and said she can’t even look at our daughter now. But when we were discussing names she was the frigid one who just shrugged at everything I said, and now she wants to put the blame back on me.

And she wants to rob me of the fact that most parents name their kids after something significant to them. Aka she wants me to pretend those feelings for my ex girlfriend never happened. That she can treat me snippily for years on end and still have 100 percent of my affection.

AITA? ######

Response: YTA. You robbed your wife of naming her child of importance exactly like she told you & now every time she looks at her kid she has to be reminded of your EX??? what the hell is wrong with you dude? I feel so horrible for your poor wife & child!!! ######


Prompt:
This happened 4 years ago at the time I (22F) told my parents that my sister (12) stole.

My sister was at the mall with friends and stole a $2 button from a hot topic but was caught and banned. A week later after that happened she asked me if I could keep a secret that's been eating at her all day. I told her of course, and that I wouldn't tell anyone. But when she told me about stealing I knew I had to tell our parents. So I told her when mom and dad get home either she or I had to tell. She started crying and said things like "you promised me you wouldn't tell" and "I will never trust you again". Well, when our parents got home I told them what happened and she locked herself in her room. Parents grounded her for 3 months and my mother made her write an apology letter to the store and delivered it in person. She also drove my sister to the police station so she could tell them what she had done and apologized to them.

I know I did the right thing but now years later she still holds it against me. Am I the asshole? ######

Response: YTA. You promised you wouldn't tell and you betrayed her trust. It was only $2 not a bank robbery. She got banned and learned her lesson (she said it had been eating at her). You were 22 and couldn't keep a secret? YTA ######


Prompt: I spent a fortune putting in an apple and avocado trees. They have to be planted in a certain spot in the yard to receive maximum sunlight. Fruit is starting to drop and some of it is dropping into my neighbor's yard. I kindly asked them to put anything that falls into their yard over to our yard. Instead, they're eating my fruit. I decided to shame them by posting a sign pointing to their house calling them thieves. ######

Response:
 YTA. You planted the trees without thinking growing space.

Their property is actually being inconvenienced by the fruit falling from the trees you planted too close to the property line.  They get to keep the fruit on their property as an inconvenience fee.

Also, you rightfully suck as a neighbor. When people see that sign, they are not cheering you on. They are thinking, omg those poor neighbors living next to that unstable nut job. ######


Prompt:
My girlfriend likes to play this game "The Arcana". It's one of those corny visual novels where you get to romance characters. Earlier I had no problem with her playing the game but now she has gotten obsessed.

She plays the game whenever she gets time after working and doing housework, she only spends time with my at night and ignores me when I try to talk to her. She also CONSTANTLY sketches and draws the characters from the game but gives special preference to a character whom she admits looks a little like a guy she once had a crush on.

All of this got really on my nerves because I told her that she must stop playing the game because it makes me uncomfortable and I didn't like her playing it. She brushed me off and said she only played it for the "art" and "story" and "music". We all know that's not why women play games like these.

I got super irritated yesterday because the obsession had gotten worse and now she also started playing the music from the game on her guitar. So, I just took her phone and uninstalled the game from it yesterday morning

She didn't notice untill yesterday afternoon and when she discovered the app wasn't there anymore

She. Fucking. Flipped.

She was telling my how I had violated her privacy and how I was disgusting for being jealous of a fictional character. She hit me below the belt and said that she never minded if I said some character in one of my games was so hot. I told her that I wasn't obsessed like she was.

She isn't talking to me and is just being very bitchy because she didn't backup her progress and it's lost.
I think this proves that she was indeed obsessed with the game. ######

Response:
 YTA. You only get 3 keys and it takes about 3 hours for a single key to load. So I assume, if she exhausts all her keys (which shouldn't take more than an hour because the chapters are not that long) then she won't be able to play the game for another 9 hours. You're exaggerating to get the judgement in your favour.

If she does the housework and works as well, then how does she have so much time to be obsessed with a game?

Arcana does have gorgeous artwork and music. I draw the characters too. I play the music too.

You just sound very controlling. ######


Prompt:
My SO and I are both professionals who work 40+ hours a week. I make double the salary my SO makes a year.

We recently had a baby and decided we wanted to buy a house to raise it in. As we are moving into the house we are discussing financial contributions for our new living arrangements, and who should be paying for what. I am of the mind that we split all living expenses (house payment, groceries, utilities, etc) 50/50, and we are both on the hook for paying for our own cars and other personal financial responsibilities (student loans, credit cards). They, however, think that because I make more I should contribute more to the living expenses, allowing them to save more and have more on hand for rainy days. They are recommending I pay 3/5s of the living expenses, but I am refusing

This is becoming a point of contention for us. Am I the asshole for refusing to pay more? ######

Response:
 YTA. You need to think in terms of the percentages of your income. The financial strain should be equal between the 2 of you if you want things to be split evenly. I think it's fair to keep your individual bills separate like credit cards and student loans, for sure. And if you were closer in your incomes, maybe an overall 50/50 split on everything would be more feasible. But given that you make double their salary, you need to keep that in perspective for your shared expenses.

Say for example you make 100k a year and they make 50k. Your mortgage is 2k a month. If you each paid 1k of that mortgage a month, then annually you'd be spending only 12% of your income on it while she's spending 24% of hers. That's a huge difference. To have it more equal you could each agree to pay closer to 18% of your annual incomes on the mortgage, meaning you'd spend closer to 1500 a month and they'd spend closer to 750 (with wiggle room  obviously depending on how you agree upon it).

If you truly think it's fair to make them pay the same amount as you when it's significantly more feasible for you than it is for them, then that's on you, but be prepared for finances to be a rough patch in your relationship.

Edited just to add: You both suck for not discussing this much sooner in your relationship and for choosing to have a child without first hashing out how those expenses and your overall financial future was going to work to accommodate it. ######


Prompt:
I (F38) and my husband (M42) have 3 daughters. Jessica (14), Samantha (12) and Melissa (4.5).

Both my husband and I work, my youngest attends kindergarten and my daughters are in school.

Melissa is not reaching her milestones as quickly as her sisters. She's very bright, but she's still not fully potty trained (still uses nappies at night) and has trouble sleeping.

Melissa, for the past year and a half, has not been able to fall  asleep in a room on her own. We tried a night light but it didn't work. She would not sleep until she was too exhausted to stay awake any longer, and would be exhausted all day at daycare/kinder. Desperate for her to get sleep, my husband and I began staying in the room with her until she falls asleep. This can take anywhere from 45 minutes up to 1.5 hours.

At first it was just my husband and I, but about 8 months ago we started a system where we would involve our daughters, and everyone would alternate days. My daughters had commitments on Fridays and Saturdays respectively, so they would each stay on the night the other was out. This way my husband and I would have a chance to relax together occasionally after dinner.

My daughters have begun complaining that they don't want to stay in the room anymore. Because theres no armchair, and they can't make noise or read, they have to basically lay in a trundle bed next to her and pretend to sleep until Melissa falls asleep. Then they can leave.

They are complaining that this is boring and it's not their job to help Melissa sleep. I see it as like babysitting, which I never otherwise ask them to do for me.

So reddit, AITA? ######

Response: YTA. You need to deal with Melissas sleep issues by not catering to her fears/issues.  She’s almost 5, at this point you should enlist professional help, as it’s obviously something that needs addressing, you’ve given your youngest way too much power here. ######


Prompt: So a year ago my daughter got invited to go to Washington DC from a program called envision. When she got the invitation in the mail she was so excited but when she saw the price tag she decided it’s best for her not to go because it was something around 2.5k but I figure that hey she’s moving out in a few years this might be the only trip she can take for a while so I told her me and her father would pay for it if she gets the money for her plane ticket and when she comes back she would do more chores and she was fine with it and excited. She picks up more shifts at work and get enough money to buy her plane ticket (about 346$) and we pay in installments (500$ every month) so after the trip (a few months after) we get a message that our final payment have not made it through and it was around 500$ but we didn’t have the money to make this and we asked our daughter to pay it because we could not afford it and she completely blew up on us! She said that she was saving up for a new computer upgrade and money for when she moves out and she refuses to pay it. I told her it would be for the good of the family if she just payed it but she refuses too. I’ve now been sending her the emails we are getting from the debt collection agency and she is furious that we have not payed it yet. AITA for making her pay the 500$? ######

Response:
 YTA. You misled her. She was going to miss the trip due to the price, but you convinced her to do it, which was a lovely gesture, but evidently you didn't think it through. She's clearly budgeted and earmarked her savings for particular things, only for you to decide not to pay the last part of the trip. And I understand that something went amiss, you didn't budget properly and now you don't have the last part, but if it's a matter of timing and you still wanted to pay for the trip you could easily have offered to pay her back for the part she had to cover.

The bottom line is you broke your promise. ######


Prompt:
My ex and I are currently going through a divorce, been separated since April of last year. We’ve met with a mediator and we agreed that he’d have our toddler full time, while I’d only have her Friday evening through Sunday night. He hires a babysitter for the days he has to work, which she charges him a rate of $60 a day.
      Lately he’s been asking me to watch her on the weekdays here and there(which I was fine with at first), but now it’s become constant. When I tell him “no” he tends to get all salty like and I’ll have to remind him about the terms of our agreement. I’d also like to add in the fact that when he does drop her off on the weekends, there will be days when he drops her off a couple of hours early because of work(which really isn’t any of my concern because our relationship is over, he needs to adult and figure that shit out). So would I be in the wrong if I asked him to shoot some cash for watching our kid on the days and time that are written and have legally been agreed upon to be his(the full time parent)? I obviously wouldn’t charge him the whole $60, was thinking like $30. I figure this is one of those, “you scratch my back, I’ll scratch yours” situations. ######

Response: YTA. You might be mad at him and that’s why you feel the need to charge money but it’s your child. You’re not a baby sitter, you’re a parent. You should be glad to have extra time with your child and if you’re not then put your foot down and have him hire one. The kid didn’t do anything to you so either watch them or don’t. ######