Prompt:
It’s as simple as that. We like each other, we support each other, we do things for each other often.  It irked me that he needed me, his wife, to sew a button on his pants because he didn’t know how (that was his explanation about why I should do it.)  It felt demeaning in that ‘because you are a woman and I am a man and this is your job’ kind of way.

So should he have noodled out how to thread a needle and poke it through a buttonhole, or should I have done it ‘just to be nice’?

I didn’t do it. He took the pants to the dry cleaner to have it done. ######

Response: YTA You made this into a gender issue when it was a skills issue. Why be so combative with someone you're supposed to love? ######


Prompt:
I have a good friend who had been trying to conceive for awhile. She and her husband were very excited when they found out she was pregnant. I gave her a gift off her baby shower registry.

Recently, their daughter got sick (she is now five), and when I visited in the hospital, I brought her the Strawberry Shortcake doll that was mine when I was a kid way back when, and that my own kids played with when they were young.

I was clear (to my friend, the mom) that it was just a loan, since it has sentimental value to me.

Her daughter played with it in the hospital and it cheered her up. Her daughter is getting better but is not out of the woods yet and won't be for a while. She is pretty attached to the Strawberry Shortcake doll. I'm so glad it brings her joy! -but she is loving that doll to pieces.

WIBTA if I asked for it back? I'd like to keep it in semi-decent condition, not for any monetary reason but they are hard to come by these days. It really does hold a lot of sentimental value to me. But I don't want to take a doll from my friend's little girl, obviously. ######

Response: YTA you LOANED a child a doll?  Do you really think a 5-year-old understands the concept of a loan? ######


Prompt:
My mom and wife don’t really get along. My wife said she doesn’t like my parents because they have no morals and they aren’t the greatest people but they aren’t like abusive or cruel or anything. My wife tried to ban my mom from our house because of something that had nothing to do with her and she tried to make it into such a big deal and was throwing around the term revenge porn.

My wife got really drunk on her birthday and was crying about her life. We had a long conversation about her insecurities and she mentioned that part of the reason she hates my mom is looks/career. I tried to comfort her and reassure her.

A week ago my mom came over and was playing with our daughter. I was going to leave the house with my mom and daughter to go to the park and my wife said my daughter wasn’t going without her and again brought up shit that had nothing to do with her. I went to Starbucks with my mom instead and she was upset and saying how she barely has a relationship with my daughter because of my wife. I told her it’s not all her and my wife is insecure and then I told my mom that my wife was jealous. My wife doesn’t know but I know it’s going to come up and I feel like I betrayed her really badly. ######

Response:
 YTA you feel like you betrayed her because you did!

You've made a bad situation even worse and you know you've fuc#ed up.

There is going to be waaaay more to it than what you're telling us as your wife will not have issues with your mum for no reason. If I were you, I'd stand by your wife more if you want to come out if this alive.

Edit: just seen your comment "They are both vain and money hungry. My dad cheated on his fiancé with my mom and my mom videotaped it with her phone and showed the fiancé." Sweet Jesus, you're even MORE of a dick than I I initially thought, yes yes and yes again YYA multiple times over! ######


Prompt:
I (17f) was a bitch in middle school and first 2 years of high school. I admit it. I’m not proud of it, I don’t really even have an excuse for it. There was one girl I was really bad to... she was fat, weird, and kinda obnoxious but she’s cool now. and she and I recently got assigned to work in a partner project together.

We were FaceTiming and she was being weird. Everything I said she would just respond with “mhm” and she was barely talking. I asked her if she was ok, and she said “working with you? Not really”.

I asked what she meant, and she said “I’m still angry with you”. I said “are you seriously still hung up on how I treated you 2 years ago?” She said yes, how she was “dealing with binge eating disorder and her shitty mom” and how I “made things a thousand times worse”. I said it’s not like I could have known any of that, and it would be easier for her if she could just forgive me.

She got angry, said “you’re still a fucking bitch” and hung up.

AITA for saying that? She was being annoying. I was only 11 when I started being mean to her and I stopped 2 YEARS AGO but she still treated me like shit. ######

Response: YTA you can’t TELL someone to forgive you. But you CAN apologize, which it sounds like you didn’t do. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway.

I (26M) stumbled upon pictures of a girl who looked remarkably like my cousin (20F). There was information for an OnlyFans account and to confirm it was her, I bought temporary "membership" so I can see the pics, screencap them for evidence, and delete my account.

Unfortunately, it was her. I confronted her and told her what I discovered. She was horrified as expected, after the initial shock wore off, she tried to defend herself saying it helps pay for some of her bills.

I told her there are plenty of honest ways to make money instead of being a virtual escort. She called me disgusting for confronting her like this, but I told her I was looking out for her. My reasoning is that if future employers discover this, there's a good chance she will lose employment.

I made an ultimatum to her, delete her OF account or I will show her parents (my uncle I am close to). The ultimatum is still ongoing and we had a huge fight afterwards. I might be the asshole for condemning her like this but I think I am looking out for her best interests since people can use this as blackmail against her. ######

Response:
 YTA you are the one using it as blackmail against her.

what is it with men always feeling like They are co owners of the vaginas of their family members.

she is an adult, she can do what she want and while I don’t really like this either, I have no concern over it , and I would certainly not take the ultimatum from an hyppocrite Mitch who goes looking through only fans profiles to get some fun and spit on the women who are trying to get some money from it.

you should respect them if you appreciate their work.

edit : damn, my first awards ! thanks you internet strangers, you made a woman smile :) ######


Prompt:
Originally it wasn't a big deal, or so I thought, till we went into an argument over it.

I visit this Chinese teahouse about once or twice a month for a dish, in which I pick the ingredients and one of the cooks cooks and mix different spices into a sauce to be added into a soup in front of me.

I always request a specific young man to cook for me because in my opinion he is the best among them, or it may just be that his way of mixing the sauce suit my taste bud the most.

Nothing much changes changes after covid, the only difference is that I need to takeaway instead of dine-in. A few weeks ago I experienced a change of taste in the dish. It wasn't bad, just somehow different and not much to my liking. At once I knew that it wasn't the same person who cooked that dish(due to social distancing rule I had to wait outside and didn't see who cooked my dish).

When I went to the teahouse again yesterday I requested for the same cook and mentioned that they din't get right person to cook my food the previous time.

A young woman came and told me that it was her who cooked my dish the other day, and that she was just as good as the young man. I replied no, I prefer the young man instead and she got visibily angry. Turns out that those 2 cooks are a couple and the young man can no longer cook for me.

I asked why couldn't I request him she told me that we cannot choose who to cook for us from now onwards, and I had been rude and sexist for requesting for her husband all the time.

I had to leave the teahouse empty handed because I didn't really want to eat from anybody else, plus it seems like there was some drama between them that I do not wish to get mixed into, though I am sure going to miss the food there. However, AITA for requesting for a specific person to cook my dish? ######

Response: YTA you are ordering from a restaurent not from a specific person. If they offered you the choice of who made your food as a service, they would list that option on their in house and takeaway menus. Asking a restaurent to change how they work for you means YTA, then causing a fuss about it and complaining to the chef means double YTA. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway bc family could see.

I (31F) have one son, 3M. He’s very sweet, calm, low-maintenance, and a great kid. I lucked out with him. We asked one of his daycare providers, B, to watch him for 5 hours, from 1-6 since I had to work. B knows he’s an easy kid and she knows him well, so she went with a lower charge, and we agreed on $50 for the whole time. It wasn’t discussed in terms of hours, rather we agreed that $50 for the time she was there was sufficient.

Well, there ended up being a situation at work that prevented me from getting home at 6, so I wasn’t able to relieve her until around 6:45. My husband works from 11 AM to 8 PM, so him relieving her was out of the question.

When I got there, she seem to be in a hurry to get out of the house. I understand that I was late, but as a person who works with kids and their parents, she is well aware that things come up. I handed her a $50 bill and she thanked me, but asked for $7 more. I told her that she got the 50 she agreed on, but she said that since I was 45 mins late and I was paying her $10 an hour, she had earned $7 more for an extra 45 mins. I told her that’s not what we agreed on. We agreed on $50, and it shouldn’t matter that I was late because we didn’t discuss it in terms of hours. She argued that I agreed I would be home at six and didn’t adhere to that either, but it’s an entirely different story.

I ended up only giving her $50 and showing her out of the house. I’ll admit that she did a great job with my son. But in my opinion she had no right to ask for more. My husband and mother both think that I was being an asshole. I don’t agree. AITA? ######

Response: YTA you agreed upon 1-6pm. YOU didn’t make your end of the deal so she’s well within her means to request compensation for the extra time she waited. She’s not doing you a favor watching your kid. It’s her job. ######


Prompt:
I always encouraged my children to be themselves and find their own path. I don't think I put any pressure on them, but I also didn't hide who I was from them. I am very very vain. I grew up with a father who valued my looks over everything. I did some child modeling, and then I pursued a career in the entertainment industry where looks are obviously important.

I never told my daughters they weren't pretty enough or pressured them to follow my path, but I love fashion and makeup. I've had a little botox and my breasts done twice and I was always open with them. My 19 year old daughter recently cut her hair short, boxed up all of her makeup for her sister, and said she doesn't care about societal standards anymore. I supported her, but she came to me the other day and wanted to talk about how she struggled with her self esteem. I listened and some of it broke my heart, but at the end she wanted me to apologize for raising her in an environment where looks were so important.

I reminded her that I never pressured her or made comments about her. She thinks I need to apologize for modeling vanity and setting a bad example, but this is my career and my passion. If I was a surgeon my kids might feel pressure to be smart. If I was an athlete they might feel pressure in that arena. I don't think I have anything to apologize for. I told her I am sorry she feels this way and that seemed to upset her more. ######

Response: YTA You **think** you never pressured her. You almost certainly did. ######


Prompt: My daughter (13F) has very long hair, down to the middle of her back. She always wears it down and she doesn't always wash or brush it and it looks very ugly and messy. Seeing as she isn't responsible enough to take care of her own hair properly, I offered to cut it. After all having long hair can take up vitamins and nutrition and she's skinny enough as it is. I kept offering to cut her hair over the course of a month but every time I brought it up she would say that I could only cut up to three inches off which is barely any difference. Eventually after two months she allowed me to cut it to shoulder length but because she kept moving her head so much during the process it caused some length differences and I had to cut it all to just below her ear. I thought it looked good and really suited her but my daughter ended up crying over her new haircut. At lunch I made a casual comment about how she's so sensitive she cried over hair but now she's seems upset. Its not exactly my fault that she ended up with a different hair cut. If she just kept her head still it would have turned out normal but I would like a third opinion on this. ######

Response:
 YTA YES it is your fault that you cut it that short! There's no way she was moving enough to get to the point that it had to be up to her ears from her middle back.

Side note: long hair doesn't take up nutrients from your body. ?????

Poor kid. Way to set a precedent for her not to trust you with anything in the future based on your obvious insensitivity. Making fun of a crying kid, not to mention casually throwing around insults like "ugly" makes me certain that you're just not nice to her in general. Then I'm sure you'll wonder why she doesn't want much to do with you when she grows up and will lay on the guilt trip.

A tale as old as time.

Edit: also, btw, lack of hygiene like this can be a symptom of depression. Have you considered that maybe her lack of hygiene and "sensitivity" might be hinting to some mental health issues she's struggling with? Have you tried to talk to her about how she's feeling between hounding her about her looks and criticizing her expression of emotions?Do you even care or are you more worried about her looking "very ugly"? ######


Prompt:
I have never done this before, so apologies for any issues.

My son (14) drink ALOT of water. If we don't regulate it, he will drink 3,4, or 5 bottles of water a day. He just says he is really thirsty.

The problem is tap water in our area is terrible so he can't drink that, but buying so many water bottles is inanely expensive. We spend hundreds of dollars a month on water.

We took him to the doctor a couple years ago to see if there was an issue, hes fine. He just drinks alot of water.

Me and my husband are kinda tired of this, so last week we sat our son down and made a new rule. He can have 2 water bottles a day, which is still enough to not be thirsty. To enforce this rule, every bottle he drinks past the limit is one day of grounding.

We got some push back at first but it wasn't a problem until yesterday, where he drank 5 bottles of water in just 24 hours. We followed the rules and grounded him for 3 days. He was really mad and said its totally unfair, but we reminded him those were the rules.

I talked to my sister about this and she said it was crazy. So I decided to post it here. ######

Response:
 YTA wtf. Two water bottles is about a liter which is actually far too little. You have a kid that WANTS to drink water instead of soda and you react like this? What kind of a control freak are you?

EDIT: I'm still angry just thinking about this you PUNISH your son for drinking water what the hell man. What else do you control in his life? How often he pees? Please tell me you let him eat as much as he needs at least. ######


Prompt:
We went to a restaurant the other day for FILs birthday. MILs friend was there and she is from Indonesia. We had a private room but they went out to the bar and I guess some guy was hitting on both of them and when they rejected them they started saying horrible shit to her friend about Asian women loving white dick and made a joke about eating dog. MIL defended her friend pretty loudly and I went to check on them. She pretty much humiliated the two guys and got the whole restaurant to boo them. They left and people were telling MIL she did great.

MIL is a good friend and a good wife (not the best mom) but she is not a good person. FIL is an executive at a company and treats his inferiors like shit. MIL is rude to minimum wage workers. I said maybe they shouldn’t clap because she is sexist, classist, homophobic, and body shames people. The whole restaurant got really quite and FIL ended up asking both my husband and I to leave. My husband said I just shouldn’t have said anything because she did a good thing so I should have let them praise her. ######

Response:
 YTA wtf? Even if the things you said about her were true, that was not the time to bring it up! It was not relevant, super awkward, and tbh makes it look like you're supporting the racists.

You really are TA. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway

Recently I (24M) went to a small party with my gf Erica (21F) at a friend's house. She gets along with my friends so I knew she'd be able to stay engaged for a while, but she has her own friend groups she normally prefers to hang out with. She was planning to meet some friends at a bar to celebrate her 21st birthday which was a few days before, but I told her I was going to my friend's party no matter what and she said that was fine, but she'd be leaving after an hour/hour and a half and I said I'd go with her. After a couple of drinks, I started talking to a girl (Ally, 19F) and discovered we were both really serious about our music and had a ton in common otherwise. It was like I'd known her my whole life, but I wouldn't say it was a romantic feeling or anything.

At one point when Ally got up to go to the bathroom I looked around the room and noticed Erica kind of sitting on the edge of one of the couches, sipping a drink and not really talking to anyone. She signaled for me to come over and when I got there she said "glad you finally noticed me" and I asked her what she meant. She showed me the time on her phone and I realized I must have been talking to Ally for at least 2 hours! I told her she could have left if she wanted but she said she was waiting for me because I said I was coming to the bar. I told her I'd rather stay for a while and she said it was fine and left alone for the bar.

The next day she was pretty mad and said she didn't appreciate being ignored for some random girl and then having me bail on her birthday (it wasn't even her real birthday). I reminded her that she could have interrupted to say it was time to go at any point but she said me and Ally were talking like there was no one else in the room and it was embarrassing for her to feel like a third wheel. I told her I couldn't help it if Ally and I had so much to talk about and it wasn't like I was cheating or anything. Erica is still upset though. AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA would you have been cool if the roles were reversed at it was some random guy your girlfriend was engrossed with at a party?

At minimum you should have looked around once in a while to see how she was faring. If random girl hadn’t gotten up to go to the bathroom I wonder how long it would have taken you to remember you were at a party with your girlfriend ######


Prompt:
It's literally 5 minutes of music and 5 minutes of commercials. I don't understand it, so I asked my roommate why she got a radio when she can just get Spotify. She said, "Because I wanted to." I asked her again because that isn't really a valid answer. She said that again. I asked her once again, to which she says, "I'm the only one listening to it, so it doesn't matter." I told her she was being defensive for no reason, and she went on about how she doesn't owe me a reason for buying things, and that it'd be pointless to explain radio because "nobody ever understands" (is she 14?).

AITA? I feel like the fact that she can't even give me a logical answer just says she knows I have a good point, but you can't ever ask her about her hobbies because she thinks she's being bullied. ######

Response:
 YTA why do you try to “win” conversations?

Edit: also this isn’t you asking about her hobbies. This is you interrogating her and telling her she’s wrong. If this is how you go about “asking about her hobbies,” no wonder she doesn’t answer. ######


Prompt:
I'll just try to keep this short. I have these two friends and they are a couple. They're literally obsessed with each other and spend every waking hour together. The problem is in the fact that they look very similar to each other — creepily similar. Essentially, if you saw them out on the street, you'd assume they were twins. Most of the people at our school actually thought the same thing for a while.

We hang out together often and they've recently picked up this weird habit of always wearing matching outfits when we're out. There would be nothing wrong with that if, as I mentioned before, they didn't look almost completely identical. They're very "open" about their relationship in public and always kiss, hug each other, etc.

You can probably tell that they get some weird looks from nosy people out on the street who probably assume they're siblings. They whisper, take pictures, laugh, etc. This makes me kind of embarrassed to be out with them because, y'know, it's an embarrassing situation to be put in, so I told them that if they really want for us to hang out in public they should just stop making it easier for people to think that something weird is going on.

They told me I was being an asshole and that this showed that I don't really care about them and care more about some "random strangers" taking pictures. I think that my point is pretty valid. AITA? ######

Response: Yta who the hell cares what they wear. Also this story seems weird i doubt that many people whisper and take pictures that's just weird, they wear matching clothes and im guessing they're not celebrities ######


Prompt:
My very mentally ill brother died recently. He spent his money on properties, all of which he poorly understood what he was buying, and didn't maintain at all. The entire estate essentially breaks even except for one property, which was willed to my daughter.

Basically put, he invested in a luxury hotel chain that was supposed to have a residential portion. He did this in exchange for a unit in the building. He mostly did it to help out his friend, and didn't understand the true value of what he was buying as he thought all cities were "trash". The residential portion didn't quite pan out, but he still received ownership of a unit.

This unit is essentially a one bedroom apartment, complete with a full kitchen. Due to a combination of zoning, grandfathering, and the deal made, it would only cost her $500 a month to live there, utilities and taxes included, with access to all hotel amenities and services (including daily housekeeping if desired and car service), in a major city.

It's an amazing deal, would save her so much money, and help her situation, but I don't think she should take it. My brother's ex wife, who like the rest of the family is getting nothing, is disabled, at least partly due to him, and she really needs financial assistance.

Renting this place out for $1400/month would be an incredibly cheap deal considering location and amenities. That would mean that at LEAST $900 a month could go to the aunt's situation. My daughter is perfectly welcome to live at home if she needs to, and a lot of the family thinks that the aunt deserves money to live over my daughter getting a very cheap apartment. I know it is a sacrifice, but I would think sacrificing for your family is above undeserved luxury and a concept of "freedom".

She's fuming that nobody supports her and "feels torn" about feeling forced to choose between a future (that she in no way needs to do this for) and her family. ######

Response: YTA what’s up with parents on here always trying to rewrite wills? He left it to her for a reason. Those were his wishes. ######


Prompt:
I am 36 and have a 16 year old daughter.

I have full custody of her because her mom, 40, had a mental breakdown and has been in and out of rehab.

This January, I started dating my girlfriend (21F).

Then quarantine happened and that time apart made me realize that I wanted to spend my life with her. So I proposed in May and she’s moved in. Our wedding is in October.

Since then, my daughter has been a nightmare. She and my youngest sister, 25, keep calling my fiancée “ the kid.”

My fiancée decides to invite my daughter out to go shopping. She kept trying to set a date but my daughter kept saying she had an extracurricular activity.

So yesterday day when my daughter once again said she was going to practice her serve, I decided to follow her car.

She ended up pulling up to a diner and I realized she was grabbing lunch with my youngest sister.

I am furious. First at my sister for enabling toxic behavior and second at my daughter for lying to her stepmom.

I ended up taking her car keys away from her. Her aunt then calls and says I had no right to do so. I explained that she would not be getting her car back until she makes an attempt to bond with her stepmom.

AITA for not condoning lying? I just want my fiancée to be accepted into the family. ######

Response: YTA what the hell? You're forcing your daughter to 'respect' someone only FIVE years older than her as a mother figure. Are you serious right now? You're 36 and your ex-wife is 40, which is a 4 year age difference. That difference is almost the same as the one between your fiancee and daughter. Obviously she is not going to consider her a stepmother. Jeez. ######


Prompt:
My 49-y-o cousin put my 90-y-o aunt up to informing our family that his 23-y-o daughter died from a drug overdose.

Of course, I sent my cousin my unconditional condolences right away without asking any questions.

Then I looked at his FB page.

“John” posted that prior to his daughter’s death, he spent 13 hours in the ER for likely taking the same drug that killed his daughter.  He described it as a grey pill and warned others about it.

Someone commented that this pill was laced with fentanyl.  None of “John’s” FB friends asked “John” any questions.

But I did.  I texted “John” letting him know that I read his FB post.  “John” wrote back to ask me not to tell other family members.  Perplexed, I said that it’s already public and posted on FB.

Then I asked “John” what is the connection between the drug that put him in the ER and the drug he believed killed his daughter.  I asked if they were using together.

John responded, “How dare you accuse me of being responsible for her death.”

I said I wasn’t accusing him of anything; I want to know what happened.

He told me to “shut the fuck up.”

I replied that he should think of his dead mother, grandmother, and now daughter every time he abuses another street drug.

“John” unfriended me on FB and I no longer hear from him.

Only “John” knows what really happened.  John will have to live with himself whether or not he chooses to explain what happened to anyone.

If I am now ex’d out for asking, then I consider myself in good company with the daughter who is no longer with us. ######

Response: YTA what exactly were you gaining by this? You can join the dots to satisfy your morbid curiosity, you do not take it upon yourself to start interrogating a grieving father like that. ######


Prompt:
Bf and I are planning our wedding. One thing we thankfully share in common is our distaste of jewellery. It makes us cringe whenever we're around metal accessories hanging on someone's body. Whenever I hug someone wearing a necklace I hate feeling the metal on me.

So my bf and I NEVER wear jewellery. The only exception is our wedding rings, which we are actually considering against.

So we basically want to make our wedding jewellery-free. The only exception is rings, and that is allowed only on married guests. Any other jewellery such as bracelets and necklaces is not allowed. Only one stud ear piercing on each ear is allowed; no other visible piercings are allowed. ######

Response: YTA weddings aren't an opportunity to add stupid control measures on to your family and friends. ######


Prompt:
I (34M) have been spending a lot of time with one of my friends during this whole situation. We both work in the same field and became much closer due to our common struggles right now. Friend used to come over once or twice every week, and we would just play video games or drink and talk or something. It was a nice stress reliever and we both had fun.

My wife, though, dislikes this guy intensely. She would always be cold towards him and never wanted to join us in anything. Believe me, I tried to involve her but she would only sulk and go hide away in the bedroom.

A few days ago, she told me that I should no longer talk to this guy because she thought he was 'creepy' and that she was getting 'odd vibes'. Odd vibes? What? She barely spent enough time near him to say hello before running away.
Apparently, he was 'being weird and making her ubcomfortable' and she wanted me to stop associating with him completely.

I told her in the nicest way that honey, he's not interested in you. My friend is very good looking and my wife doesnt even compare to the caliber of women he can get. I know he's not sexually preying on her or anything, he's just a friendly talkative guy and maybe he liked the challenge of getting my wife to like him. Anyways, it was all innocent and I explained to my wife that she needs to stop accusing people of serious things like that without any proof. Shit like this ruins lives.

I was even open to meeting with him someplace else if she feels that strongly about it( though it's my house too and I dont think she gets to make unilateral decisions about who's invited and who isnt) but no. Now she's mad and isnt talking to me, probablt trying to guilt me into giving in. I dont want her to get the idea that she can police my friendships ( I never interfere with hers) and I'm not backing down. But she's been really sad lately and I dont know how much of that she can fake. AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA WAY TO BURY THE LEDE -
"She says he's followed her up to the bedroom before and things like that, which I doubt, because he wouldnt do such stuff when I'm right there in the house, if he really was a creep." ######


Prompt:
I (29f) have been with my (30m) boyfriend for 5 years.

He is a alcoholic and has wasted so much money because of this. He has sober times and then he goes off the rails again.

The thing is he's bought the police to our door twice due to him drinking and our landlady has said that the next time she'll have to evict us because it's not good for her as it's that sort of community where everyone talks to everyone and she has a buisness here that will be effected by people thinking she lets criminals stay in her properties. We can't afford to be homeless or to stay in hotels until we find somewhere new to rent.

He recently started drinking herbal tea that's designed to help people stop drinking. The past couple of days he's not drank it.

He wanted to go for a walk on his own and I said ok but I want the money in the bank transferred to my account and your wallet which has the cash for our food shopping for the next two weeks in, the money in the bank is for savings towards buying our own home.

He agreed and I checked his wallet and my bank to make sure he didn't try and sneak any away. We went outside for a cigarette and when he went back in I followed less than a minute later. His wallet was gone so I asked him calmly where it was and he just smiled at me. I pointed to his pocket and he brushed past me so I reached for his pocket to get the wallet.

He's now calling me a thief and basically speaking and treating me like shit because of it.

He really only acts like this when he wants to drink as then he can justify it by saying if I hadn't annoyed him then he wouldn't have drank despite me reminding him that he made the choice.

AITA here? ######

Response: YTA to yourself for sticking around in this situation. You’re enabling him at this point. He’s going to keep drinking and you’re going to lose your home over this... and then he’ll blame you. Walk away OP, you deserve better. ######


Prompt: My boyfriend M22 cheated and lied for the first 4 months of our relationship with his ex, I F21  forgave him. But a month later I caught him inappropriately messaging a friend from his workplace and I forgave him after that again. A few months have past since then and I’m still dealing with severe trust issues since he’s cheated and lied so much, so I feel the need to have an open phone policy for now to rebuild my trust even further. But he feels like it’s a invasion/violation of his own privacy and dignity, and says that I’m being rude and asking for  too much now. ######

Response: YTA to yourself for staying with him. He’s clearly not willing to be in a monogamous relationship or a none cheating one so why are you doing this to yourself. ######


Prompt: My boyfriend M22 cheated and lied for the first 4 months of our relationship with his ex, I F21  forgave him. But a month later I caught him inappropriately messaging a friend from his workplace and I forgave him after that again. A few months have past since then and I’m still dealing with severe trust issues since he’s cheated and lied so much, so I feel the need to have an open phone policy for now to rebuild my trust even further. But he feels like it’s a invasion/violation of his own privacy and dignity, and says that I’m being rude and asking for  too much now. ######

Response: YTA to yourself for not just dumping him. ######


Prompt:
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I  have got two kids, one is 16M and the other is 17M. I have their daily  internet time restricted to two hours (through some special hub my hubby got), but my kids' screen time isnt restricted, except for at night,  where at 11:30pm sharp, I confiscate both of their devices.

My  sons have very recently complained to me that this is unfair (they  agreed to having this on at first, when I confiscated their phones after  they used them non stop one day, maybe in spite of getting their phones  back?). They are saying that I should only restrict one thing, either  the internet usage, or only take the phones away at night.

They  also told me it angers all teenagers when their devices are  confiscated, and that they've got some friends who call them at 12pm  when they want to talk about something privately.

I do have my reasons of course, they are glued to their phones, and also stay  up till the late hours of the night using them, with the lights off which I have heard causes strain on the eyes and weakens them.

AITA for doing this to my kids? ######

Response: YTA this is way too strict for young adults. I can understand the sleeping hours boundary, but kids socialize 24/7 on the internet. Especially in a pandemic you’re putting them at even greater risk of isolation and depression. ######


Prompt:
Disclaimer: my apologies for any spelling errors, I’m writing this at work as it just happened

I am a freshmen in college, my first semester starts in two weeks. I’ve worked since I was 15 years old to pay for my first car, tuition and books. So I manage my finances pretty well. I did pretty well and high school and was able to receive a couple of scholarships + my family is pretty large so they helped contribute to my first semester of college to help me out just a bit. However, I paid my first semester out of pocket because I did not realize that tuition deferment allowed me to wait until my scholarships cleared first. So I have been waiting for about 2 weeks to receive a reimbursement check. Well today at work my mom came into my job and she seemed pretty upset. I stepped outside and she hands me an envelope with a check from the financial aid office at my university. It was opened so I’m kind of like “Wtf.” because my mom doesn’t open my mail. Then she tells me that one the neighbors in our complex opened it then knocked on our door.

This makes me feel uneasy because all of my sensitive documents will get sent to my mothers house when I am living on campus.
WIBTA if I reported the neighbor that opened my mail to the leasing office in my complex? ######

Response: YTA this is pretty clearly an accident and not really your neighbors fault at all, if they live alone it probably isn’t weird to just open up all the mail and not check specifically who it’s for. It would be one thing if he didn’t come knock and drop it off, but you and your mom are both kinda weird for assuming it was on purpose when he literally returned it to you? ######


Prompt:
Im currently on a trip with family, specifically my Mum, Stepdad, my Uncle and Auntie, and my cousin.

My cousin and I are both millenials. Our parents are all boomers. I say this cus there's a chance this is just a generational thing but im not sure. I love my whole family to bits and this trip has been very fun, except for this one issue.

Our parents have a pretty gross sense of humor sometimes. Most of the time its harmless stuff (fart jokes, generally teasing their respective partners, talking about how bad their breath is in the morning etc etc) but then other times it excalates into sex jokes. As an example, a few days ago my stepdad said something along the lines of "thats very hard" and uncle replied with "thats what (auntie) said last night." They all thought it was hilarious. Another example is they love to refer to my mum's pet cat as her "pussy" and purposefully make witty parallels between the cat and mum + stepdad's sex life. Eg: "(Mum) how is your pussy  tonight?" "She is very well taken care of ;)" not even kidding this was said. Again they all roared with laughter.

I dont usually say anything outside of a small "ew" or "ugh". Last night however we were all at the pub and a little tipsy, having a good time, when yet another nasty reference to sexy times was said, and i kinda had a small outburst saying i couldn't understand how they were all so comfortable joking about this stuff in front of their kids. Yes, we are all adults now, but if i were in their shoes i would still prefer to keep that shit to myself.

They basically told me i was being way too uptight and that they are "allowed to let loose now" because they raised me.

I looked to cousin for backup but she wanted to stay out of it, which i understand.

Just for a bit of extra info, we are all staying in one big airbnb with communal kitchen/dining/living areas so its pretty hard to avoid these jokes, especially when they are very suddenly added to a normal conversation.

So reddit, AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA they're not explicit, they're not gross. You're just making it gross.

You're an adult. Act like one ######


Prompt:
Throwaway.
I \[46M\] have a strict no swearing policy in my house. Recently, my oldest daughter \[16F\] has been extremely rebellious. She has been talking back to my wife and I, using her laptop for hours every day, and does not listen to anything I tell her.
A few days ago at around 11pm when I walked in to check on her, she was using a messaging app on her laptop to message her friends instead of doing schoolwork like she was supposed to. Obviously I was angry. I told her I would shut off the wifi in 5 minutes, because if she needed to do her work she should have been focused on it.
5 minutes later when I came back, I discovered that my daughter had not only not done her work, she had been using that 5 minutes to continue messaging her friends. That just pissed me off further and I took her laptop away.
When I read the messages she and her friends were exchanging, I found out that she had been complaining to her friends about how I was going to shut off the wifi, and not only that, many of her texts (and theirs) were full of swear words. That was the final straw. I yelled at her, and I used a good many swear words. I told her that if she was not going to follow my rules she could fuck off out of my house.
But before you say that I am a heartless father, let me just say, I'm not. My daughter goes to a prestigious school that has high school fees, and I have been paying for that for almost four years. She goes to dance classes twice a week. She uses a laptop that is very high quality and expensive. Whatever she wants, she has.
I'm not speaking to my daughter now. I am perfectly willing to start talking to her again provided she apologises for her behavior. She has not apologised, and has not spoken to me either. My wife says I should not have been so harsh, but I think my daughter deserved it. If she did not want me to shout at her, she shouldn't have made me so mad. ######

Response:
 YTA there are FAR better ways to handle escalating discipline than 0-100, real quick.

Also, you don't get to police how she talks with her friends if it's not out loud and not directly affecting you. And reading her messages, at 16, just because you were pissed? Yikes.

Money doesn't buy love. And it doesn't indicate love, either.

Your whole family needs therapy at this point.

>If she did not want me to shout at her, she shouldn't have made me so mad.

Nope, not how that works. Learn to control your emotions. You're supposed to be setting the example. ######


Prompt:
This happened on Saturday.

My girlfriend has twins from a previous relationship (boy and a girl). Due to personal circumstances, they are staying with me for a few weeks. They are 9 years old.

They wanted to watch a movie and they wanted to watch The Grudge. I warned them that it might be too scary but they insisted.

Throughout the movie, the boy wasn't too phased, he kept trying to scare his sister and she was terrified and told him to stop. My girlfriend yelled at the boy and eventually stopped the movie because the girl was too scared and the boy wouldn't stop teasing her.

I asked him "how would you like it if you were scared and she did that to you?" and he said he wouldn't care.

So to prove a point, as they were getting ready for bed, I sneaked into their room and hid in the closet. When they got into their beds and turned the lights off, I waited like 10 minutes for them to get comfortable and I started making clicking sounds. I could see through an opening in the closet that they were shifting around in bed looking directly at the closet. I started doing that croaking sound and from what I saw, it looked like they were frozen in place.

After about 5 minutes of doing this, I pushed open the closet door and sprinted full speed to the boy's speed and jumped at the edge of it, they were both screaming their heads off.

I was laughing and told the boy "see? That's what it's like to tease someone who is already scared."

They are over it now, and the boy even laughed about it. My girlfriend screamed at me despite them both being fine. I told her it was just a lesson and now the boy will likely never do it again. It was probably a little cruel but I have no intention of scaring them like that again. ######

Response: YTA the film is R rated and you scared the shit out of a child already scared senseless to prove a point to another child. THEY ARE 9. If you were any dumber you could be added as a raising ingredient to bread. Tf is the matter with you? Please say this is made up and Billy goats scare you, please. ######


Prompt:
I enjoy going to massage parlors every so often, especially if I worked many hours. I see it as a way to wind down. As such, I am generally familiar with the rates/what to expect.

I decided to try a new massage parlor that isn't too far from where I live. I went down there and the girl who gave me the massage was very nice and talkative. She was actually very skilled and gave a great massage, and my back/legs felt loose. I was so satisfied with it that as she ended the massage, I asked if she provided any extras. Fortunately she did and she wanted me to pay an additional $175.

I wasn't sure what she would do and I won't bore anyone with the details, but she only provided 5 minutes of service and it wasn't even that good. Other massage places would only charge like $100 for even better services and I felt she was ripping me off.

After it was all said and done, I complained to her that I felt she charged too much. She essentially just shrugged her shoulders and I told her I won't ever go back again and the business lost a potential long termed client because she is greedy.

Now if she had TOLD ME what to expect, I wouldn't have been annoyed and would politely decline, was I the asshole for complaining to her about it? ######

Response: YTA The euphemisms won't make you look less of a creep. ######


Prompt:
I'm 31, my GF is 30, my dog is 3. We have all lived together for almost 2 years now. 95% of the time my dog is a sweet and goofy boy, a little high energy but really funny and I love him. 5% of the time though, he can be a real dick. He tends to get jealous of me and will nip other dogs who try to get close on occasion. He has also nipped people hard enough to draw blood on several occasions, including her. This mostly happens when they are making quick movements or loud noises towards me, I think its a protective instinct.

I didn't take his training as seriously as I should have until recently, but I am really trying to make progress with him, and I absolutely have. He is not perfect yet, but he is so much better than I feel like she is giving him credit for. He is still not 100% trustworthy but I have spent thousands on his training and am really trying.

She has never liked him and has said some variation of 'him or me' on several occasions, but this week she has actually made plans to move out. Currently she is basically telling me this: "You need to choose between him or me." When I told her I couldn't make that choice because I love both of them very much, she made it seem like I was reducing her to nothing better than a dog, and that I was putting the hard decision on her, and that I obviously don't care about her at all.

AITA for refusing to make this decision? ######

Response:
 YTA the dog is randomly biting her and she doesn't feel safe. You didn't train your dog and your girlfriend is the one feeling unsafe.

I love my dog but he is not allowed to randomly bite people, thats a huge red flag. He drawing your girlfriends blood and she still putting up with you.

This situation should have been dealt with before it got this bad. And your definitely the asswhole because you sugar coated your dogs aggressive tendencies.

No one should have to live in a home where the dog might randomly attack them. She shouldn't have to live in fear. You fucked up. You didn't take your dogs behavior seriously till it got too aggressive.

Now your dog can't be rehomed and would get a death sentence at any shelter. You can't even take it out on walks for the exercise he needs without putting the community at risk. It will take a lot of work and time to fix this behavior if at all possible and even then if he has any instances of aggressive behavior outside the home you may be forced to put him down.

You think your either loosing your girlfriend or your dog but in reality your either loosing your girlfriend or having to put down your dog. Or you loose your girlfriend and still have to put down your dog. ######


Prompt:
My wife has always been active on social media - more active than almost anyone else I know - and that has not changed since she got pregnant. If anything, it's worse, and the posts have gotten more frequent.

Once we announced she started taking a weekly photo of her stomach to show her growth, but she posts a tons of other videos and photos of it in addition to the weekly photo. I see them pop up and honestly it makes me uncomfortable. I feel like she's sharing too much, and I don't think it looks good (to me pregnant stomachs look weird). It's also embarrassing for me because all of my family and friends are friends with her too, so they see all of this and I can't help but wonder what they must think to see my wife so exposed.

I have subtly tried to get her to cut back on what she shares and change how she shares it which led to her asking me if didn't like what she was posting. Since she did ask, I admitted everything I posted above but never demanded she stop.

She thinks I am a controlling asshole even though I never demanded she stop or only post things that I felt were appropriate. I feel like I am entitled to an opinion and have a right to be uncomfortable with what she's posting and to share that with her. Beyond that she asked for my opinion, so I don't feel she can describe me as an asshole or controlling for answering her question.

She also didn't like me saying I didn't think a pregnant stomach was something most of the people we know would want to see and was weird looking, but again, I don't feel like having an opinion, even if it's one she doesn't like, makes me an asshole.

Am I wrong and actually the asshole? ######

Response:
 YTA that’s a great way to make a pregnant woman feel self conscious about the changes to her body that happen while growing a human.
Her social media posts aren’t about you. Don’t try to make them about you. ######


Prompt:
So my GF technically has an account with Disney+. Someone ended up creating an account using her email address (it wasn't the account creator's fault, it was a fuck up on Gmail's end). She's never used it because she has no interest, and I didn't either until recently.

Some context from my GF: "About a year ago I started getting a strange series of emails from various companies claiming that I had signed up for services and made purchases under different names from all different places. For example, a man used my email to purchase a jersey from a Phillies game, another woman in Ohio signed up for Chipotle Rewards a few months later with my email, and a few months after THAT I received an email that someone had signed up for Disney+ using my email. After extensive googling and trying to find the source of the problem I haven’t been able to find any explanation, aside from possibly a mistake on Google’s end. I don’t use the accounts and don’t touch them for the most part, but after I logged into Disney+ I double checked and sure enough there’s my email under account information, with almost no other information about the actual account holder aside from a linked credit card and an annual subscription paid in full."

So, onto the moral dilemma. Hamilton comes to Disney+ on July 3rd and I really, really, really want to watch it. My GF doesn't want me to give money to Disney as a corporation and promised to pirate it for me, but I'm impatient and jokingly threatened to get a one-month subscription. Then she mentioned the account and everything I've said before. As a joke, I was like, "go ahead and change the password so it can be our accout now" and after some convincing, she did it.

Now I'm sitting on my ill-gotten Disney+ account and reviewing my misdeeds. AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA that's theft

Edit and you changed the password, could they then report it as fraudulent? ######


Prompt:
Hi guys, been working up the courage to post this shitstorm for a while now, but here goes. I (16F) have a brother (21M) called Sean and we were raised in a pretty typical Christian household. We both were made to go through church school and Confirmation and all that, but we both stopped going to church after Confirmation because we just didn’t care for it too much. Both still consider ourselves Christians, just a bit lazy with it and maybe somewhat agnostic? Anyway, my brother has never had a girlfriend and he’s in the military now actually, so after high school he never really had time for one anyway. Our family always assumed he was straight since he had crushes on girls in high school.

I was taking with my mom—she’s pretty homophobic, but she’s always said she’d never kid her kids out or do conversion therapy for being gay, just that we would unfortunately be going to hell but she’d still love us. The topic of gay marriage came up and I was getting annoyed at her homophobia and was saying stuff like, “so what would you do if me or Sean were gay?” She got all quiet and kept asking me if he was gay or said he was—at first I said “no, can you just answer question though?” She kept on asking me like “has he ever said anything to you???” and I just got fed up and lied. I said, “yeah actually, but he was too afraid to come out because of your homophobia.”

Conversation ended, she called Sean and asked him about it. Just like in the sitcoms, it ended up being one of those situations where you expose yourself because you thought the person already knew the secret. He was like, “how did you know I was gay?” Mom said I told her. I was obviously shocked, because I had no idea. I explained to him that I didn’t know and was just fucking with mom, but he won’t talk to me now. I get why he’s mad, but it was an accident. I wish he were just mad at my mom for being homophobic and not me, but I guess it’s complicated since I still outed him.

Anyway, AITA? ######

Response: YTA that wasn't an accident dude you used him as a point against your mother wtf - even if he wasn't how do you think that call would have gone? "No?" "Well your sister said you were!" .... Like.... What? ######


Prompt:
This is a throwaway account because the father Im talking about knows my main. So yesterday my friend(f24) gave birth to a baby boy with her husband(24). He was very excited to see his baby for the first time and actually about to cry when he saw him. The problem came when he started talking about bringing the baby home when it was time. Before the baby was born my friend and I were looking through baby websites and found one that said having the mother and the child be alone for 1 month would strengthen the bond between them. We didn't tell the husband any of this until now and he was more than mad. He didn't scream at his wife because she had just given birth so he took me outside and started yelling at me saying that this plan was stupid and we were out of line making plans like this behind his back. I told him that it was for the better because the bond between the mom and son would become greater and that he should be glad. He asked me why he should be glad that he wouldn't get to see his newborm son for a month just because we belive some stupid post. He also said that I have no say in what happend to the baby because Im not the parent.

I told him that the kid needed this time with his mom alone and that the father didn't need to be there because he would just be useless and in the way. He just looked at me and walked back into the hospital. A day later and his side of the family and my friends are calling me and my friend an Ah.. So I should really be asking are we the Ahs? ######

Response: YTA That is total bs ######


Prompt: Every time my mom has people over, she expects me to clean my room and make my bed in case someone comes in. I always tell her that people really shouldn’t be coming into my room, and she yells at me, saying that guests should be allowed to go wherever they want and it’s not up to me what they do. I know what you’re thinking: “It’s okay if it’s family though.” Actually, it’s not. I only see my relatives on holidays, and therefore don’t really know them that well, so it’s still like strangers wondering into my room without my permission. Who is the asshole: Me, my mom, or the guests? ######

Response: YTA Stop arguing with your mom and clean your room! ######


Prompt:
I have a 15 year old daughter, and a 25 year old stepdaughter. They did not grow up together and they don't like each other very much. My husband thinks his daughter is an absolute princess, so she can be something of a spoiled nightmare. SD has been married for a year and I always suspected my daughter had a crush on the man, which is totally normal, but I think SD picked up on it as well. This man is in his late thirties and has never once been inappropriate, but SD seems to think it is funny and will smirk at my daughter when she is with her husband. SD definitely thinks everyone is jealous of her.

Recently SD confronted us with a "love letter" written to her husband and signed with a fake name. SD said she trusts her husband and even if he did cheat he isn't into the sweet romantic type, so she thought the letter was a fake. I thought she was being insane but i confronted my daughter who broke down in tears. She wanted SD to think he was cheating and begged me to cover for her. I refused and I made her apologize to SD.

The thing is SD isn't really into social graces. I knew she was not going to thank her for apologizing or accept the apology or even act like a reasonable adult. SD smirked through the entire thing and then said ok and went home. My daughter cried after because she was so embarrassed. I feel like apologizing was the right thing, but I hate that I can't control SD and it kind of ruined the lesson. ######

Response:
 YTA Step daughter does not have to accept your daughter's apology graciously. She may be t a the rest of the time, but she is absolutely justified in this case - your daughter tried  to break her marriage.

Crushes on older people happen. Pining is one thing, but action is another. Have you spoken to your daughter about how her attentions are inappropriate? I bet not. You seem to focused on the step daughter's flaunting. ######


Prompt:
I’ve been with my girlfriend for 2 and a half years, I’m 21 and she’s 19.

She’s currently living with me and my parents after an argument with her parents, I won’t go into the reason but I don’t think she’ll go back to speaking with them.

My friends have a friend, “Brad”, Brad is a doctor around 40 and married.

My girlfriend has always put an effort into her appearance but whenever we get told Brad is visiting it’s like she goes to the max; she’ll shower for 20minutes, literally scrub herself raw, shower for 30mins-40mins and absolutely smothers herself in perfume - as my grandmother would say she smells like a whores handbag.

I’m not worried about Brad being a problem, I trust my girlfriend and realise she just has a problem with male role models in her life and Brad has his shit together so she looks up to him.

Brad had visited two nights ago and was sat in the living room speaking to my parents when he asked me and her when we were planning on having children since she’s great with my younger brother (5)

My girlfriend gets super awkward around the topic of children because despite wanting to teach we got told that the chances of us having a biological child was slim because of lack of regular ovulation, plus at our age we’re not really thinking about it.

My mother has caught up on my girlfriends liking of Brad and knows why and kind of just said “Oh, I think she’d rather have them with you! Can’t blame her, who wouldn’t?!” As a joke, everyone laughed and continued.

My girlfriend is really upset with me for not speaking up because she apparently can’t because she’s staying with us rent free (even though she babysits,cooks and cleans for free)

My mother did apologise in the end but she kind of laughed too so I don’t think it counts.

AITA? ######

Response: YTA stand up for the people you love. Especially since it was your mother and it would be harder for your girlfriend to speak up in that situation. If you love her defend her. ######


Prompt:
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for two years now. Our relationship has been rocky lately, and the reason is because I don’t feel like he has involved me in his life or future. We’ve been working on it.

A really sore spot, that I brought up about 6 months ago, is his relationship with his ex-wife. They are extremely close and have a daughter together. However, I believe that their boundaries have crossed the line severe times throughout our relationship. For example, he’s let her vent to him about her personal life severe times, he’s let her use his car when hers was in the shop, she even called him one night when we were together (and she knew we were) to ask if he could come over because she was scared. She had a boyfriend during this time.

This, coupled with how uninvolved and unwanted I feel in the relationship, has been really rough. It’s an ongoing problem in our relationship, and he knows I’m bothered by it, although it has been getting better, if not slowly.

Last night, he told me that he would be staying at his ex’s house for a week while she was out of town to watch his daughter. He said it was because it was the easiest thing to do, but he lives in an apartment at which his daughter has slept over many times. I got upset and told him it made me uncomfortable, and that I can’t handle being in a relationship where I have to worry about his relationship with his ex having an element that I don’t feel our relationship has.

I’m honestly and genuinely looking to see if ITA, because it’s caused a really huge rift in our relationship. ######

Response: YTA specifically over your question here. The ex won't be there, and of course his daughter is more comfortable in her own home. That said, in a broader sense it does sound as if there's been some boundary issues between the two of them which I don't think you've been wrong to raise the alarm over. ######


Prompt:
My sister (33/F) texted me and the whole family to let us know she and her boyfriend were engaged. Everyone was like "congratulations!" but I left her on read and muted the chat.

My mom (72/F) texted me later and said that her sister was going to ask me to be her MOH and wondered why I wasn't responding. I told my mom that I didn't want to go to her wedding because I'm still single at 42/F and haven't had any luck dating recently or in the past few years.

I'm less conventionally attractive and more overweight than my sister and that sucks and translates over to my poor dating life and not having luck there.

My mom then texted me back and said that I was being a jealous bitch and that I'd better go, which is hilarious because I'm an adult and can make my own choices so AITA? I can hardly imagine a 70 year old woman dragging a 40 year old woman out to a wedding by physical force. I'm not going regardless of when it is. ######

Response: YTA sounds to me like you’re bitter and jealous. It’s not your sister’s fault you don’t have a relationship. It’s your choice either way, but yes, you’re the asshole ######


Prompt:
The title might sound a bit confusing but I’ll try to explain it here. Last Christmas, my parents were on vacation so they gave the gifts to me before hand to give to the kids. I have 3 kids with my ex, and my new husband of 2 years has 2 kids of his own. My mom has constantly taken the stance of “my grandkids are the 3 who came from you, your new husbands kids are not automatically going to get the same treatment as my real grandchildren”.

So for this past Christmas, she dropped off 2 garbage bags full of wrapped presents. My kids got clothes and toys while she got my husbands 2 boys a sweater and a small toy. Before the kids were able to open the presents, I unwrapped all of them to figure out which ones were toys. I than rewrapped the toys and added one of my husbands kids names to it. So this gave the appearance that the toys were for both my kids and my step kids. It wasn’t completely even because of the clothes involved, but I was able to make it that each child had equal ownership of the toys.

I told my mom about how I did this and she was pissed. She told me that I had no right to redistribute the gifts, and that she has money so she will take “HER GRANDKIDS” shopping to buy whatever toys they wanted (which she did, but that’s a whole separate AITA). She argued that my step kids live full time with their mom, and she has seen them only a handful of times. She firmly believes that my stepchildren are not her grandchildren. “I’ve seen the neighbor kids more than I see those two, so why don’t I just buy them a bunch of gifts too?”

My dad took my moms side and claimed that step relationships outside of the immediate household are optional. Especially since his kids aren’t really around. Things have since been fine, but this did cause a rift for awhile between my mom and I. So was I an asshole for this? ######

Response: YTA slightly.   Your effort to mesh families is admirable, but your mother made her intentions clear.  The kids should be able to understand that they are a blended family and that they have separate grandparents.  Your mother even got them gifts. ######


Prompt:
A little context. I (M34) have always had a very sensitive sense of smell especially to unpleasant odors. They really bother me. I think I might be a super-smeller or something.

 Anyways, this causes issues when my GF (F25) is having her special tie of the month. I understand that it is something that girls have to do but when she does it it leaves a bothersome odor in the bathroom that bothers me. It isn't that she doesn't keep herself clean. I never have to see anything gross or anything. But I can still smell it.

I tried talking to her about it nicely but she just got all upset and defensive about it even though I tried to say it as gently as I could, maybe because it was her special time of the month. She said that she can’t even smell anything but I can and it really grosses me out.

Later when finally calmed herself down I offered a very reasonable compromise. I asked if she could use the bathroom in the pool house during her special time. It wouldn’t really be that inconvenient for her. It is just outside across a small lawn, only about 20 feet away once you get outside. She got all mad again and said that if I didn’t like it I could use the pool house bathroom but I told her that that didn’t seem fair since I wasn’t the one stinking up the bathroom. Why should I be the one who has to go outside all the time?

She is still mad at me but i think she is being unfair. She doesn’t understand how much the smell bothers me. Some of our friends say that I am the AH though so now I’m not sure.

What do you thing reddit? ######

Response: YTA simply because you call it "the special time" and refer to women as "girls." Between that, the age gap, and this whole situation, you come across as the World's Biggest Creep. ######


Prompt:
This is my throwaway account.

My (37F) babysitter (16F) has been babysitting for me for about 2 months. She’s a very sweet and quiet girl and is good with the kids (4F and 8M), we’ve only had small problems here and there but nothing major at all. When she first started babysitting for me I had asked her if there were any drinks or snacks that she’d like me to keep at the house as she’s here from 9-7 every day Monday through Saturday. She mentioned that she really liked seltzer water and I had bought them for the first month, but honestly I forgot after a while and never kept any in the fridge. A few days ago I bought hard seltzer’s for me and my husband, and didn’t think anything of it.
A little bit after 2 pm she messaged me that she wasn’t feeling well and thought that she may have to go home, if it was possible if I could get off from work earlier. I asked her to try and hold out until the end of the day. Not too long after she called me crying, saying that something was wrong and she had to go home.
She was drunk clearly, she drank the hard seltzer’s. I told her to leave and she walked home.
She messaged me the next day and said that she now knew that hard seltzer’s were alcohol, and she hadn’t know, she never drank before as both of her parents were alcoholics and she has diagnosed PTSD regarding alcohol, she never planned on drinking in general. I told her not to come back as she put my children in danger. She called me crying and saying that she didn’t know, and that she cared deeply about my children and would never ever drink with them, or at all, and that she needs the money to pay for her drivers permit (she comes from a not so well off family). I told her to find a real job and that it wasn’t my fault she got drunk.
My husband says I’m being very rude and that she did try to reach out when she wasn’t feeling well. My kids are upset to see her go.
So reddit, AITA? ######

Response: YTA she’s a child she didn’t know and your very rude about it she also called stating she wasn’t feeling right and you said to try and hold out. You put your children and that young girl in danger shame on you. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway cuz said friend uses reddit.

So I’ve known my friend B for about six months now. We met at work and we get along really well. She’s new to our company and from what I’ve seen, she’s a really good worker and fits the job well.

The other day she invited me over to her place for a girls night. I agreed and came over. About a couple hours into the night, she said she was going to drive to the store to get some popcorn and wine for movies. This confused me, as she’d told me before that she has seizures. I asked her about this and she said she’s fine to drive because her seizures don’t impact her consciousness. I said okay, she went to the store, came back fine and we had our girls night.

I seriously didn’t believe her when she said her seizures didn’t impact driving. I’ve seen people have before, they are not pretty, and they certainly impact consciousness. I’ve never seen my friend have a seizure, though I knew what seizures looked like and I knew she wasn’t safe on the road.

So I reported her anonymously to the DMV. A couple weeks later she called me in hysterics, saying her license had been suspended. She was panicking because she needed that license to drive her hour commute to work.

I honestly didn’t know what else to do besides tell her what I did. I told her she shouldn’t be driving with seizures. I told her I’ve seen seizures before and I know that there’s no way someone with seizures can drive. She called me an ignorant a-hole and said not all seizures are so debilitating. Now she’s not speaking to me, and today I heard my coworkers say she’s been laid off.

AITA for reporting her? I was honestly trying to keep her safe. ######

Response: YTA She knows how her seizures affect her. You haven’t even seen her have a seizure so you don’t know how severe they are. You should’ve kept your mouth shut ######


Prompt:
So I’m from an asian country. Socially to some extent it’s kinda less conservative than some, so people date and have sex and all that without much of a problem, but we’re still generally obsessed with getting into good colleges and going into profitable careers. The top colleges in that regard are American ones like Ivies, Stanford, MIT, etc. I ended up getting into 8 ‘top’ US colleges, which led to lots of parents just hounding me with questions about how I got in and what their kids need to do to get in.

I told them I’d talk to their kids directly if they actually wanted advice, because I felt like I can be more real with kids around my age than adults. Some kids showed interest, so I set up a zoom call. In it, I talked about a lot of standard stuff— extracurriculars, grades, testing, essays. Someone asked me about social life and dating, and I told them honestly that I basically gave up my social life to grind 24/7— I had a pretty good social life to begin with since I’d say I was a friendly and chill guy, but I gave up a lot of social opportunities to work to secure my future. Someone brought up that I had dated a girl (smallish town, people know things), so I told him that I broke up with her because she and I had different goals— she wanted to have fun and make memories, I wanted to work hard, so we broke up and I worked hard and she made memories with other guys. I have no malice towards her for that. I did like her and I’m sad we weren’t compatible, but it is what it is.

Anyhow, apparently people thought this was juicy gossip and it spread. It got back to her and she is pissed at me for ‘slut shaming’ her by saying she ‘made memories with other guys’. I don’t think that’s slut shaming, that’s just me stating facts— she dated some other guys after we broke up. It’s not meant to be derogatory, just facts.

AITA? ######

Response: YTA really you could have just said, "We had different goals. So we broke up." And left it at that. Why did you bring up her dating history after you? How is that relevant to the conversation at hand? That is gossip. By saying "she made memories with other guys" makes you sound petty and is slut shaming. ######


Prompt:
I am a 35(f) married to a 38(m). We are both the sort of people that like cartoons and other fun stuff, but not to an overwhelming degree. We will both watch cartoons from our childhood together from time to time, and we both like adult animated shows (such as Rick and Morty or Bob’s Burgers). We also both have Knick knacks from various fandoms, but once again not a lot. Just the occasional thing we think is cute or funny.

Today my husband texted me, excited. He bought a bunch of G.I. Joe figurines from EBay and plans to play with them in our living room. He has mentioned this to me before, and I didn’t really react. He took that as me embracing the idea. I have asked him what he means by play, and he just shrugs. I’m more than okay with him displaying figurines, but this goes a little to far. He also has owns the whole cartoon series’s on DVD and watches them regularly. I can’t stand the TV show, but I sincerely believe it is because I have sensory issues. Honestly, Cobra Commanders voice should be used on loop to torture people. Also why the fuck was a wolf using a push cart to save someone in one episode?! So for obvious reasons I don’t factor the watching of the show in to this, I just wrote this in to provide context.

Basically am I the asshole for being uncomfortable with my husband playing with toys? ######

Response: YTA play is an important part of relaxation. Some people find that release in video games. Some in games on their phones. Some play sports. And some play with toys from their childhood. There’s nothing wrong with him playing with something he enjoys. ######


Prompt:
My husband and I will be getting married in August. I have 7 bridesmaids, one of which was supposed to be my best friend, Rachel. Rachel and I have been best friends since we were 4 and I love the girl to death. Rachel wears glasses as she was born with a squint and has an astigmatism.

When the topic came up, I told her I’d like her to wear contacts for my wedding as they’re easier to work with when it comes to makeup, more aesthetically pleasing and makes sure there’s no glare in wedding photos which is obviously essential. Rachel refused as she struggles wearing contacts as they don’t help her sight at all apparently. Her prescription is supposedly too strong.

I told her she couldn’t be a part of my wedding party if she wasn’t going to listen to my requests and my friends have all said that it was really uncalled for. It’s my wedding so I think it should be a given that I get what I want but everyone seems to think I’ve been really unfair. AITA? ######

Response: YTA Or a troll, given how obviously you are an asshole it's hard to imagine this is real. ######


Prompt:
My best friend and I are the type to always pull pranks on each other, it's just how our friendship formed and we always get a kick out of it.

For example, he once invited me to a party and told me to wear a costume and when I got there, it was normal attire. I laughed after the initial embarrassment, and like I said we are comfortable enough to do that to each other.

He held a wedding this past weekend, (socially distant, everyone was spread out and it was entirely outdoors). In the weeks leading up to the wedding, I told my girlfriend to wear white as it was expected all the women would wear it. She was reluctant but I told her that it was just a quirky thing the bridge and groom were doing, so she said "ok" and bought a white dress.

When we got to the wedding, it was standard wedding attire and my girlfriend was mortified. When my best friend saw what I had done, he was cracking up and joked "I guess you two are getting married instead of us!"

The bride was pissed off and made a huge deal out of it. Normally she is really chill so I was surprised by her anger. My friend even tried to calm her down and told her it was just clothing and it doesn't change anything.

Now I feel incredibly bad by what happened. I really didn't think it was a big deal. I personally think this is being blown out of proportion but I don't know. ######

Response:
 YTA on multiple levels.

1. You embarassed your girlfriend by making her wear white to a wedding. You and your friend may love pranking each other, but she didn't sign up for being pranked at her expense at such a public venue.
2. You pissed off the bride by breaking one of the cardinal rules of weddings; only bride wears white. She may be "really chill" most of the time but her wedding day is probably the one day anybody would not "be chill".
3. And you're TA again for not realizing you screwed up and apologize to those involved.

So yeah, you done messed up A-ARON! You best apologize to your girlfriend and the bride quick before you're out of a friendship AND relationship. ######


Prompt:
The first time my wife had a miscarriage I was completely supportive and spent several days comforting her. The second time I was also there for her 100%. The third time was the night before a major work meeting with prospective investors, so I offered to take her to the ER and make sure she got to her room, but explained I would need to get some sleep and go to work. My wife was already upset, but became furious with me and refused to let me take her to the hospital. She had a friend take her instead, and I ended up missing work anyway because I was so stressed out I couldn't sleep. She's so upset over this she's not sure if our relationship can continue.

I understand the circumstances were terrible either way, but my own fears were confirmed when work gave me a warning about being absent a few days "every other month" and said they needed to see some improvement from me in that area.

Am I the asshole? ######

Response: YTA oh no you were stressed out you couldn't sleep hmmm I wonder who would be feeling more stressed and completely alone and unsupported in hospital because their SO didn't think they were worth being with during this traumatic time. ######


Prompt:
Ok so the title makes it sound bad but read it first. Today is my older sister's birthday and she went to work the whole day and came back and then i ruined it by having a tantrum and locking myself in my room. Why i did it is because of a laptop i was getting. Please read it before you Accuse me that i'm a ego.

I worked very hard this year of school. I was promised a laptop for a whole year but then the promise was broken and then they said that they dont have the money for an expensive laptop, so i just played along with it. Days are passing in my holiday (which is 6 weeks in turn for 7 months of school) and still i haven't gotten a laptop, neither the  one i chose or the one they could afford.

Today they told me that my sister would pick it up from the store on her way home. I was so happy. Me and my mom were hanging up some things to suprise her. I couldn't hang one thing up and my mother starts to get mad at me for no reason. So i don't rage or anything i just walk away to my room. Later we suprise her and i'm just doing normal. One moment when i thought was a good timing to ask her about it she said that my mother called her not to pick it up because i "misbehaved". I thought this goes over the line and i screamed then went to my room and had a tantrum while locking my room.

 I was so angry  because 1. They promised me a laptop for so long and lied to my face 2. They wasted my holiday having no fun at all (locked up at home doing nothing because i'm a gamer). 3. Took away the chance because of no reason and said that i was brutal. I hope people agree with me but i want to hear your opinion. In my view my mother ruined my sister's birthday because she lied and said that i was being mad while she was and took away my chance to finally enjoy my last days of holiday. ######

Response: YTA oh buddy you sound young i understand your feelings but she didnt lash out and throw a tantrum you decided to bud ######


Prompt:
My older sister adopted a child from Russia about 5 years ago now, when she was a baby. Her daughter is now 5 and in school. I love my niece, but her development isn’t where it should be for a 5 year old, which causes lots of discussions in our family as to whether she should be assessed or anything.

The night before last, my sister and her daughter came round to our family home. My sister is a key worker so her daughter has still been going to school. My sister started telling us that her teacher is concerned that she’s dyslexic as she’s really struggling to grasp words and phonetics and stuff. I myself have a dyslexic child, and I don’t feel as though her daughter is, so I said “she’s probably not dyslexic, probably just the crack baby component of it all” and the room went deadly silent. I didn’t think what I said was too uncalled for considering my sister made it family news that her daughters biological mom had a drug problem.

After we’d finished dinner my sister pulled me aside and said if I ever spoke like that about her daughter again she’d cut me off which I think is a bit dramatic. Her daughter didn’t hear what I said and it’s always been family knowledge. My mom and dad have also said I’m an asshole for what I said and that I need to be more considerate of my sisters feelings. AITA? ######

Response: YTA obviously it’s rude to refer to a child as a crack baby, regardless of the bio parents addictions there’s better ways to have phrased it. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway account, obviously.

So, I am getting married to my fiance in five months (hopefully!) and am obviously super excited. My fiance and I have been planning, hiring caterers and musicians in advance to the big day, and recently, we were on a Skype call with his side of the family to discuss everything.

So, my fiance's younger brother is a semi-professional pianist. He plays the piano constantly, does a lot of recitals, offers his services to people who are getting married or hosting funerals and stuff like that, but has another job to pay the bills because that sort of stuff doesn't pay a lot of money. He offered to play the piano at the wedding, without pay, and I thought he was joking, so I laughed and said "We actually want somebody talented."

I thought it was funny, but everybody else became really quiet. My future parents-in-law looked angry but didn't really say anything about it, and the rest of the call was very awkward.

Afterwards, my fiance told me that it wasn't funny and that I should apologize to his brother because he's sensitive and just wanted to help out. I replied that I want somebody professional and that I wasn't apologizing because it was just a joke.

Now, my fiance seems really distant and angry with me. I get that some jokes aren't in good taste, but I didn't really mean it.

AITA? ######

Response: YTA obviously but hey good thing you let him know what kind of person you are before he married you ######


Prompt:
So my sister and her wife were together for five years. They got a sperm donor last year and my sister got pregnant. When they were in the beginning stages of considering pregnancy, advised my sister to let her wife be the one to carry the baby or have her wife’s egg implanted in her.

I said that because two years ago her wife cheated and they went to couples therapy and worked through it. Her wife cheated after my sister got in a car accident and was overwhelmed. A baby is overwhelming and if her wife were to jump shit, my sister would be left a single mother. Having her wife carry the baby or having my sister carry the baby with her wife’s egg ensures that even if they were to end things, her wife still has responsibility.

My sister snapped and said to mind my own business. She was gonna carry the baby with her egg and the sperm donors sperm. I said okay...

Well surprise surprise. She’s five months pregnant and her wife caught a flight to Vegas and has been MIA for two weeks. My sister is in hysterics. I consoled her but after a few days of listening to her ranting about being a single mother, I reminded her that I did tell her not to do it the way they did because all the responsibility would be on her. She called me the asshole but I was just being honest. ######

Response: YTA now is definitely not the time to say "I told you so," and honesty doesn't mean you have to say everything you think. ######


Prompt:
So I (26F) do business with my best friend’s (39F) fiancé’s family.

I’m very close to them, especially the fiancé’s mother and have been traveling with her fiancé a lot for business.

He confessed before proposing that he was giving her a “ shut up ring” because she was making him miserable talking about commitment and in particular her desire to have children in wedlock. And he wanted her to keep living with him but needed more time to know if he’d be excited to spend his life with her.

This was two years ago and now my bet friend is depressed because there’s barely been any wedding plans made. His mother also said that he’s still a pretty young guy and that he’d rather have kids with someone with someone who wasn’t in a rush to have to pop them out consecutively.

My best friend when she came over for lunch asked since I was close to his family if I knew about his intentions.

But I know if I told her I’d probably stress the business relationship my family has with his family so I ended up saying that he didn’t say much but that when a wedding was mentioned he was very excited. I suggested that maybe it’s just the stressful times right now.

AITA? I don’t think it’s fair that I have to be put in the middle of somebody else’s business. In addition, doing so would possibly tank my prospects professionally right now.

Also, secretly I feel like my best friend should be able to figure out his intentions for herself and an kind of pissed she is just holding on and badgering. ######

Response: YTA not for not getting involved but for giving her a false answer that you know is a lie. ######


Prompt:
My girlfriend (20f) and I (36m) have been living together for about six months now. She has quite a lot of mental and physical health conditions. She has chronic migraines, hypermobile joints that are causing severe pain her wrists, chronic kidney disease and pernicious anaemia, as well as depression.

She’s been struggling a lot over the past few weeks, a lot of headaches and pain in her wrists, but to me she’s doing absolutely nothing to help herself. She eats absolute junk and when she is feeling okay, she does absolutely no exercise or anything that could help her depression or her headaches. She’s so depressed she hasn’t even showered for maybe 2 weeks?

The other night I tried initiating a conversation on getting her back to feeling okay and she got really pissed at me telling her I just don’t understand how she feels. I appreciate that I don’t but I replied telling her she does absolutely nothing to help herself so it’s her own fault she feels like shit all the time. We ended in a massive argument and she’s been cooped up in the spare room ever since. AITA? ######

Response: YTA not all health problems can be cured by eating a salad and going for a jog. She didn't choose to always be in pain. ######


Prompt:
So we wanted the internet to settle this debate. I've been staying with my friend Kate for a little while at her beach house. We've been best friends since college, so obviously boundaries have kind of gone to the wayside.  Kate has two daughters who are 18 and 16 and the 18 year old's boyfriend was visiting. His family isn't big on either of us.

We were out on her husband's boat and he was fishing. Kate was laying down on the dock of the boat sunbathing. For context she is afraid of literally everything, so her husband motioned to me that he was going to throw the dead (well I think it was dead, Kate claims it was wiggling when it hit her) fish at her. I untied just the top part of her bikini. Her husband saw me do it and didn't stop me. So he threw the fish, Kate freaked out, and the bikini fell down. The boyfriend did not see this part if it matters.

This is pretty normal dynamic for us, but her daughter got pissed because she thinks that this is why her boyfriend's parents don't like her, and she says her mom is embarrassing. Kate said I'm an asshole because she is fighting with her daughter over this. Her husband thinks I'm funny though. ######

Response: YTA no wonder the boyfriend's parents don't like either of you if you don't have boundaries when other people are around ######


Prompt:
I (21M) like to be naked at home. I’m most comfortable when I’m au naturale, and I refuse to apologize for it. My sister (25F) has been having some financial difficulties due to the current situation, and she asked me if it was okay if she crashed on my couch for a bit. She’s my sister, so of course I said yes. Lately though we’ve been having some issues. She says that she’s uncomfortable with me walking around naked, and says that she thinks I should cover up when I’m not in my bedroom or the bathroom. However, it’s not like she’s never seen a naked man before, and she’s probably seen me naked plenty of times, so I don’t see what the issue is. Plus, it’s my apartment and if I want to hang dong, that’s my prerogative. I told her my house my rules, and if she’s so prudish, maybe she should live elsewhere. Apparently she’s been texting our parents about this and they think I need to be more accommodating while she stays here until things get better for her, but I don’t think I should have to sacrifice my bodily autonomy for someone who’s crashing on my couch.

AITA for being naked inside my own apartment? ######

Response: YTA no one wants to see their sibling naked. ######


Prompt:
My daughter (16f) is really introverted, and doesn't really play any sports, so my husband and I decided to fill up her schedule with afterschool activities every day. She has robotics two days a week, tennis practice three days a week, and band practice for two days a week. She was strongly against it, but went along with it at first. After going through a week of school, she expressed that she wants to drop every single one of those afterschool activities. I told her that she could either drop robotics or band, but she got really angry and said that she wasn't going to spend hours every week on activities she hates. When I mentioned that she wasn't really outgoing, and wouldn't do anything productive if it were up to her, she yelled at me, and called me a "b\*tch". For that, I told her that I wouldn't let her drop anything for at least the next month, and if she gave me any more sass, she wouldn't be allowed to drop any of the activities until the school year was over. She stormed off to her room, but I don't really think I was 'being a b\*tch', but she might have been right.

AITA? ######

Response: YTA my goodness. Let her be herself and do what she enjoys. That's productivity. As it is, you're forcing her to hate things that she may not have hated otherwise and ruining your relationship. Rather destructive, not productive ######


Prompt:
I have an 18 year old daughter from a 1 night stand , at the time the girl (Claire) was pregnant I begged her to get an abortion since I was in no position to raise a child but she refused and after she gave birth to (Rebecca) she screwed over me by filing for child support. I have never been late on a payment, but I also rarely see Rebecca ( a couple of times a month) and I don't have that good of a relationship with her.

So about 6 years ago my rich uncle didn't have kids) left me all of his money. Thankfully, inheritance doesn't count as income in regards to child support so Claire couldn't touch it. So I am able to live well above what my nominal income would allow me to.

Recently, Rebecca came to me and asked if I would help pay for he college (she was accepted into her dream school and committed to it knowing that she and her mother couldn't afford it). We had a conversation about it in which I basically told her no and she left off crying. Later on, her mom called me and also pleaded with and then got rude to me and accused me of being a bad person and etc. I got rude with her too and then she just hung up.

I thought that this was the end of it, my Claire and Rebecca reached out to my wife and pleaded with her.  My wife said that we should help pay for the college for my daughter since we could easily afford it and it isn't fair that I'm willing to pay that much money for our kids private schooling but not Rebecca's college. I told my wife that I had no legal nor moral obligation to Rebecca beside the child support that I pay and that if Claire can't make it work with that money then it's on her. AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA mostly for the fact that it’s been 18 years since she was born and it is painfully obvious that you are still seething with resentment over the mere fact that she exists.

Additionally, in the US at least, your income and assets are taken into account when determining what financial aid she will qualify for so you are screwing her over by refusing to help with her tuition when you can easily afford to do so. ######


Prompt:
My apartment complex has a strict no smoking policy which includes you can’t even have cigarettes, pipes, vapes, or anything on the property.

My neighbor is a young girl, looks college-age. I was walking by one day and saw her window was open, and there were a bunch of bongs in her apartment.

I pondered it and ended up confronting her. She told me she doesn’t smoke, but that she used to and still glass blows for a living. She said that since the pandemic she’s lost her studio space and is just selling her remaining pieces online, shipping them out herself. She begged me not to tell the landlord, and I told her to get them all out and stop bringing them in the apartment because the rules were clearly in all of our leases, and she’s no exception.

She said that if she did that, she couldn’t pay the rent and had nowhere else to ship them from. I however did give her a warning and an ultimatum. She refused, so I told the landlord.

The landlord told her to get rid of them or face eviction. Now she’s being evicted because she isn’t able to pay the rent anymore.

I’m feeling a bit guilty because I did tell the landlord, but ultimately it was her decision to bring illegal items in the apartment and she’s no exception to the rule. ######

Response: YTA mind your own fucking business, why in the hell would you tell on someone for something that literally does not bother you in absolutely anyway? That's amazing ######


Prompt:
My (28M) parents own a beach house. We stayed their for a couple of days to celebrate the 4th of July.

The house has two bedrooms. My parents stayed in one. The other room was for me, my girlfriend of one year (32F), my brother (34M), and my little sister (23F). The room has two double beds.

After dinner, I took a walk with my GF. When we got back to the room, my brother and sister were on one bed. He was sleeping and she was playing with her Switch. I asked her nicely if she could stay on the other bed beside my GF so I could stay beside my brother. She said no.

We grew up in a Catholic family. This means no sex before marriage, and I would rather not sleep on the same bed as my GF to avoid temptation. So I was hoping my sister would understand.

I tried to explain to her, but she got progressively more annoyed. She was so noisy that she woke up my brother, who asked what the problem was. I explained it to him too, but he sided with my sister.

My brother said I had two choices. One, I could suck it up and sleep beside my GF, which might lead to something more happening. Or two, I could sleep on the couch.

I was hurt that they couldn’t understand where I was coming from, but ended up sleeping on the couch.

The next day, my GF told me that she was sad that it seemed like my sister didn’t like her. My sister didn’t talk to my GF the whole night. She only talked to our brother.

I confronted my sister about this, and she told me to “fck off.” This made me angry, because I was just trying to have a conversation with her. I tried telling her she needs to be more respectful. She stormed off. Now she, my brother, and even my mom are angry at me. AITA? ######

Response: YTA lmao. She doesn't have to sleep in the same bed as your girlfriend and you're an adult with self control. It's not your sisters problem if you're a child who can't control himself. ######


Prompt: I(35M) have a son(13m).One days as my wife(32f) made a chicken sandwich for him, he told me that he didn't want to eat non veg anymore. But we didn't allow him to, since proteins are necessary for children to grow up and my son needs that at  this age. When he is 18 he can do whatever he wants.He told me that he is fed up of meat and that we should make vegatables for him . I told him no and when he refused to eat what we made for him , i grounded him . His grandparents are very angry at me now. AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA let your son eat what he wants to. You can get plenty of protein on a vegan/vegetarian diet. Take this as an opportunity to bond with your son and research some recipes the whole family might enjoy. You can also substitute things to make a veggie version of whatever you’re having for you son. eg, making spaghetti and having plain marinara on the side for him. You’re only going to push your son away if you try to punish him for his diet and possibly encourage him to not eat at home at all.

Edit: I just saw OP’s edit and wanted to say, your son might not fully grasp what being vegetarian means, he’s only 13. Even if he isn’t using the label vegetarian, the comments about vegetarian diets still apply. He can get plenty of protein without eating meat. Same meaning, different words. ######