Prompt:
Hey there umm this is my first post but I read a lot of storys and this one came up in my family and decided to post it here

Backstory : so my cousin's family had a dog  that they got two years ago at first they loved him then wanted him to become a security dog so he was locked in a cage most of the he pooped in the peed in it and when he was let out they'd tie him to light post for 20 minutes max and I'd always make passive aggressive remarks about this cause it's animal abuse

Now here so about a week ago something happened to his leg and needed surgery, his surgery was scheduled this Tuesday, but the conditions he was living caused him illness then death

So Reddit WIBTA if I tell my cousin's family their dog's death was their fault cause I don't think they notice it's their fault ######

Response: YTA because you knew they were abusing their dog and you did nothing about it ######


Prompt:
I (29M) am engaged with my fiance (26F). My coworker (30F) and I are also decently close, as in we're somewhat friends (more than coworkers, less than friends). We were talking about my engagement and I told her about the ring I bought. It is a "cheap" ring with a zirkonia stone. It cost me around €220, which I still thought was relatively expensive. To me spending half your monthly salary on a ring is just a waste of money. Luckily my fiance always agreed with me so we never had any issues about that. My coworker mentioned how she expected a ring of at least a €1000 and if her boyfriend does not proposes with a ring like that she is going to say no. So I asked her, that if she was together with someone she really loved, and she wanted to spend the rest of her life with him and he asked her to marry her with a cheaper ring, if she seriously would say no. She laughed and said of course. That is when I said that to me she would be unmarriageable because if you care more about the ring than about the person you are going to marry, that would be a hard pass for me. She made a face and called me an asshole and that it was just her opinion. Maybe I was a bit biased because to me the whole concept of asking someone to marry you with an expensive ring and expecting only the man to make "a grand gesture" is super sexist and outdated. So I felt a bit strongly about this subject.

Disclaimer: My girlfriend got me something similarly priced for our engagement because of how I feel about this.

So, AITA? ######

Response: YTA because you jumped to "no one would ever marry you" instead of conceding different people value different things. to some people, the ring is a promise that's meant to be a grand gesture to prove the lengths and effort someone is willing to go for for their partner. sure, not everyone values that- even i don't, for the record- but it's got different significance and opinions, just like anything else. the only thing that matters is you and your partner and her and her partner agree on the value of what that object should be; no need for dramatic insult. ######


Prompt: My ex [33m] and I [28f] dated on and off for three years. He met my sister maybe five times and I tried really hard to keep him distanced from my family because he had a borderline personality disorder and was a pathological liar who cheated on me the entire time. About a week ago I gave him her number and he immediately invited her to the beach and started texting her. My friends all said he was trying to get a rise out of me since I didn’t talk to him for two weeks because I moved on. I flipped out when my other sister texted me asking if they really were moving in with each other. He said I am being a crazy jealous person when I had no right to be over this because he moved on but so have I and he cheated a lot. She blocked his number after I flipped out for about two days but I’m still not sure if she’s going to unblock it. She let me read their conversation and he was blatantly lying to her about stuff that wasn’t true and when I started to get upset she took her phone away. Im still not sure if they are moving into together because she got scared when I tried to read the rest of the conversation. Am I the asshole for flipping out and making her block his number? ######

Response:
 Yta because you created this entire mess. You gave him her number because you wanted her to move out and he needed a roommate, then you freaked out that they might move in together.

yta for getting mad about it and yta for ever giving someone you paint so horribly your sister's phone number. ######


Prompt: I’m a 26 year old woman my daughter is 4 and one of her friends is having a small birthday party. Well recently she was at a playground and another one of the girls there was bullying her. I noticed that the bully was also friends with the girl having the party. However I’m good friends with the mom of the birthday child so I asked her to uninvite her because I was pretty upset about what happened with my daughter. She told me that she will do that. AITA for doing this? ######

Response: YTA because ultimately, you didn’t solve anything. You didn’t talk to the kids parents to discuss her behaviour, you just had her removed from a party by a third party. You acted pretty immaturely and took a backhanded approach rather than dealing with the issue head on. You basically just bullied a four year old. ######


Prompt: My (32f) husband (35m) and I agreed to raise our daughter bilingually, however, he has been complaining about the fact that our daughter is identifying with my heritage and language more than his. He gets annoyed when my daughter and I speak in our language in front of him. I have told him multiple times to make an effort to learn. Heck, I even offered to pay! But he refuses to learn. When he told me that my language is a dead language and we should all just speak English was when I lost it. I have been sleeping on the couch ever since and am even considering a divorce because of how he is trying to stifle one half of our daughter's heritage. ######

Response: YTA because this is clearly fiction. ######


Prompt:
To start this is my throwaway.

I'm a mistress to a man who has to work from away from home about 1 week a month. His wife knows and said It was OK but I needed to sign a legal contract, and I agreed. Hes a  business man and shes a horse breeder and owns like 10 stsbles. The legal contract says, I can live in their condo,  they will give me a stipend of 2,500 a month, and they pay for utilities, and I get a 300 credit for food a month.  Get a upfront payment to decorate the condo how I want, minus the lower level. Don't get pregnant or this all stops we will pay you 1 million nothing else and hes not the father and will terminate right as they want no kids.

 So occasionally there are weeks where I have to sleep somewhere else because she joins him or they are in town for vacation. About 5 weeks ago he told me I need to stay at a friends for 2 weeks as his wife and him are going to be using the condo for a vacation. I said ok and left.

 Well I come back and he got boudoir photos from her for their anniversary. He loves them and wants them the master bedroom. I stated I live here too and this is my bedroom 3 weeks out of the month and I would like them better in his office. He said no but I ended up moving them to the hallway toward the 2nd bedroom. Now I'm sleeping in the second bedroom.

He got mad and said he paid for the condo and he can decorate it how he wants. I said its not fair because thats technically my bedroom all month.

AITA for wanting my bedroom to stay decorated as my bedroom? ######

Response: YTA because that isn’t your room. You noted you’re supposed to live in the upstairs master, which is your room and you get to decorate. The downstairs master is the husband and wife’s room, and they get to decorate it. You don’t get to set new rules for it because you like it’s bath and shower better. ######


Prompt:
I have made the decision to go vegan earlier this year. It has been something that I have felt calling me for some time, and this past spring, everything finally clicked and I could no longer bring myself to support the animal agriculture industry.

As such, all the groceries I have decided to purchase and all the meals that I cook are now vegan.

The problem is that I have been the main cook and grocery shopper in my household for 15 years. My son, and my husband are not interested in going vegan. They have been complaining almost daily since I "made the switch"

I have no problem if they want to purchase and cook their own meat. Or doctor up the vegan meals that I made with cheese and diced ham or something. I just personally cannot bring myself to do it. They choose not to do this. My husband claims he doesn't have enough time to do so with his job, and my son is just being a typical teenage boy and is not interested in learning how to cook.

I think I might be an asshole because by changing my lifestyle, it had a ripple effect and is changing theirs. However, I also don't think I am an asshole because this is important to me - I don't want to go against my morals. Plus they are big boys and are capable of feeding themselves. ######

Response:
 YTA because of your comments further down about your son.  In the time of covid, no more than 1 person should be doing the shopping, and since due to division of labor that falls on you, then you should buy all food for your family.  Refusing to buy meat for them and expecting your 14 year old to bike 10 min to the store, shop for himself, and bike back, allowing excess covid exposure that isn't necessary is selfish on your part.

You don't need to cook it for him, but you should provide it for him until he chooses to go vegan on his own. ######


Prompt:
We've been dating each other for a little over a year now and our relationship has been great with no problems and no complaints. Unfortunately I couldn't see her in person from March to like mid June cos of corona but we've been seeing each other again and going out quite regularly now for the past few weeks. Before this I never cared or had any problems about how she dressed but ever since we got back again she's been dressing in a very "lewd" manner. For example: She was wearing a dress where u could see around [this](https://www.thefashiontamer.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/03/sexy-club-dresses.jpg) much of her tits. She's also been wearing short af crop tops and short shorts (not together) quite regularly ever since. Now I don't normally have a problem with crop tops or short shorts but those r short af, like u can literally see half her ass.

When we were at the park yesterday, I asked her how come she's been dressing really weird lately and she just said she wanted to try out new things. Then I said it was better when u dressed properly before, and she went really quiet and was just silent for a few secs before walking away. I asked her what's wrong and she told me to piss off so I didn't bother chasing her.

I went home and saw that I had a couple of messages from her friends on insta and snap telling me I'm a misogynist for telling her how to dress and shit like "This isn't the 1950s anymore". I tried texting her asking her if we could talk about this in person properly but she left me on read.

This morning I eventually apologized to her for what I said yesterday and asked if she would like to come over to talk about this properly or just message me but she left me on read again. Her friends been messaging me shit non stop since yesterday while she hasn't even replied.

Idc about what her friends do or think of me tbh and now that I've thought this through I do think she's overreacting about this whole thing. What do u guys think though, AITA or nah?? ######

Response: YTA because of how you handled it, not because it makes you uncomfortable. People have different beliefs and I don’t think it’s bad to be uncomfortable if you can just have an adult conversation about it and not come out judging. It’s her choice and her right to dress as she pleases, so if you have an adult conversation about it and cant reach an agreement, then maybe it’s time to separate, because you can’t control her choices about her body. ######


Prompt:
I (29M) and my gf (30F) moved in due to the pandemic. As a result of Covid, we have inevitably had to start working from home. We both work pretty difficult (sujectively) jobs that require a pretty significant amount of our time during the week + weekend. I would however say that my work is significantly more flexible in terms of when I work, I can work any time of day 24 hours a day. I just try my best to manage my time and squeeze in 40-50 hours a week. This is not to say that I take it easy, rather my job is very mentally draining and I cant focus on it for more than a few hours at a time without feeling exhausted. Her work however is more rigid in its hours and is a pretty constant 8-6 (think calls and meetings) with "breaks".

Issue: The challenge has been that Covid has really ramped up her quantity of work. By her own admission, this has been one of the toughest years (I dont doubt) -- therefore she has to sometimes work 60+ hours a week. We have mostly managed by me taking greater responsibilities around the house and to cook and clean--all of which I have absolutely no problem in and generally enjoy. However, the months on end of doing this have started to ware away at my enthusiam. Ultimately, the other day, after doing the majority of house duties for the day, the straw that broke the camels back was her working past midnight noting that she started work at 7:30/8 am. Its important to state that I have nothing against workaholics but rather, is it fair for me to be annoyed and frustrated. Following this, we got into a fight about the division of work around the house and "fairness". I'm not suggesting that all housework should be 50/50, it shoud be allocated more to the "free" person but considering we both have full-time jobs, I don't know how I can possibly sustain this without feeling like a placemat.

Help me reddit, AITA for requesting that whatever she do, she should finish work by 10:30 pm and help me more around the house. ######

Response:
 YTA because of how little empathy you seem to have for her and how selfish you’re being.

You’re acting like she’s deliberating working more, when she’s clearly stated to you that work has gotten very demanding for her. Who the hell WANTS to work from 7:30 to midnight days on end?? Please think about this for a second. Yes doing all the chores sucks, but she’s not just skipping out on chores playing games or something— she clearly feels her job (and her income!) depends on working this hard.

Given the circumstances, 50/50 is unreasonable to expect (as you’ve said). If you really want some kind of improvement, you need to set your expectations really low. Maybe there’s a chore she can do easily right before bed (taking out the trash, wiping the counters, etc) that you can ask her to do.

Don’t go into a conversation about chores with the “I have to do so much housework because you’re CHOOSING to be a workaholic” attitude you’re showing here. While it’s true that you guys are both working full time jobs, it’s also true that she has fewer free hours because of work than you. ######


Prompt:
I (21M) have been with her (21F) for a year now.

Recently, she did something which many people would consider to be not the smartest decision in our current environment (social distancing). Anyway, she, as a very social college student did something monumentally stupid and hosted a party with about 20 people.

My girlfriend, this one guy, and I were all randomly assigned to the same breakout room during a zoom class. We both knew they guy, and he asked my girlfriend about it then proceeded to call her a "sluty bitch" for hosting a party when it was this dangerous.

 Now personally, I was very disappointed in my girlfriend for doing this, so when that guy said what he did, I didn't really say anything besides saying that that was kinda harsh but that my gf shouldn't have done that. That's what I said on zoom.

My girlfriend is really mad about me not totally defending her despite her being in the wrong action-wise.

So AITA for not defending her? ######

Response: YTA because her throwing a party doesn’t make her the name that she was called. Honestly the insult made no sense and at the very least you should have corrected him even if you didn’t agree with her throwing the party ######


Prompt:
For those of you who don't know a quinceanera is a coming of age party in the hispanic culture for a girl turning fifteen. To a lot of people in our community it is more important than a wedding and they save since the girl is born. My wife and I are a very traditional hispanic couple, trying to raise our children in a predominantly white neighborhood. I've worked extremely hard so my children do not have to grow up like we did. We only have one daughter and I'm proud of the money we've been able to put aside for her quinceanera.

My daughter is thirteen and a half, but my wife is eager to start planning. She has been waiting for this since she found our we were having a girl. I know my wife hates that our kids are growing up in such a white neighborhood. We both feel torn between giving them a better life and our culture being lost. Well my daughter shocked us both tonight when she said she didn't want one, because she is too shy and uncomfortable with the attention. My wife and daughter had a fight and then my wife stormed off in tears.

I told my daughter I'm not going to force her, because I'm not going to waste that sort of money but I think she is being very selfish. My wife stays at home, takes care of the kids every day, drives them around, cooks, and this is the only thing she asked for. I feel sick that she only had one daughter and she is never going to get to experience this. I told my daughter that after everything her mother does for her she should suck it up for one day and that is she is this selfish she will regret it in the future. My daughter says I don't understand anything. I'm not sure if I should feel like an asshole. ######

Response:
 YTA because by telling her she's selfish for not wanting a party that should be focused on her, you're actually telling her it's not about her at all. You'd rather your daughter be uncomfortable for the sake of appearances.

Sounds like you want a chance to show off at the expense of doing something your daughter doesn't want. ######


Prompt:
I ordered some lunch through Door Dash today. However I forgot to request some dipping sauce for my chicken, so once my delivery driver got the order I gave her a call to let her know.

Her phone rang once then went straight to voicemail. Obvious ignore. A moment later I received a text message saying (copy-pasted):

Thanks for calling! Right now I’m driving either to a restaurant or to a delivery location. Feel free to text me and I’ll respond once I’m no longer driving.

I thought this was pretty rude and silly, because no respectable employee would ignore a customer like that and no respectable business would allow their employees to do so. I immediately called her back, same thing happened. I called a third time, hoping she would get the hint. Still, same thing happened. I was frustrated and upset, so I cancelled my order. I wasn’t able to report the driver through the app since she never even picked up my order, so I ended up calling door dash support directly to let them know that a driver was ignoring me. All they said was they’d take care of it.

A bit later my girlfriend was wondering where our food was, so I explained the whole situation. She looked confused and asked why I didn’t just text her like the message said, and I told her that it was a matter of principle—I am the customer and the driver doesn’t get to pick and choose how to do her job. She argued that it’s perfectly reasonable for people to not want to take phone calls while driving, especially with the stormy weather we’re having today. I argued back that if the driver is willing to cut corners over bad weather then maybe she should stay home. My girlfriend called me an asshole and then left to get us our lunch.

So Reddit, am I *actually* the asshole or is it not reasonable for me to expect my delivery driver to communicate with me? ######

Response: YTA as you sound like an entitled ass.  You probably experienced an auto reply from a responsible driver who didn't want to talk about dipping sauce and drive an automobile and not someone ignoring your precious self. Such an asshole. ######


Prompt: Me and my wife (both 45) have a son(18M) .Recently he came out to us .I was shocked but accepted it .My wife did not and started being distant with him and searching for potential girlfriends for him . I told him to go to his grandparent's house for the time being until i make his mother understand.He left, but not before cursing me for taking my wife's side over him. I don't want to lose both of them that is why i made this compromise .AITA for asking my son to leave the house ? ######

Response: YTA and your wife is a shitty person. You're punishing your son because your wife is a shitty person. You are both failures as parents. You WILL lose your son over this so you have chosen the shitty person over your child who has done nothing wrong and just needs your support. I hope you're happy with yourself. Bring your son back and send your wife away until she learns how to not be a shitty person. ######


Prompt:
I’ve been with my girlfriend for 2 and a half years, I’m 21 and she’s 19.

She’s currently living with me and my parents after an argument with her parents, I won’t go into the reason but I don’t think she’ll go back to speaking with them.

My friends have a friend, “Brad”, Brad is a doctor around 40 and married.

My girlfriend has always put an effort into her appearance but whenever we get told Brad is visiting it’s like she goes to the max; she’ll shower for 20minutes, literally scrub herself raw, shower for 30mins-40mins and absolutely smothers herself in perfume - as my grandmother would say she smells like a whores handbag.

I’m not worried about Brad being a problem, I trust my girlfriend and realise she just has a problem with male role models in her life and Brad has his shit together so she looks up to him.

Brad had visited two nights ago and was sat in the living room speaking to my parents when he asked me and her when we were planning on having children since she’s great with my younger brother (5)

My girlfriend gets super awkward around the topic of children because despite wanting to teach we got told that the chances of us having a biological child was slim because of lack of regular ovulation, plus at our age we’re not really thinking about it.

My mother has caught up on my girlfriends liking of Brad and knows why and kind of just said “Oh, I think she’d rather have them with you! Can’t blame her, who wouldn’t?!” As a joke, everyone laughed and continued.

My girlfriend is really upset with me for not speaking up because she apparently can’t because she’s staying with us rent free (even though she babysits,cooks and cleans for free)

My mother did apologise in the end but she kind of laughed too so I don’t think it counts.

AITA? ######

Response: YTA and your mother is also TA. Poor gf and poor Brad, what an awful uncomfortable joke ######


Prompt:
My girls are 6 and 4 and they live with their mother, stepfather and 2 brothers that are 2 and a newborn.

I have them every other weekend. I’m married and also have a son. Well my kids came over and they had been gushing over how their stepdad bought them a trampoline and how he would hold their hands and bounce them up high. So I asked what all her and stepdad did together and she said “well at nighttime we all get in mommy and his bed and we watch a movie. Then he makes us a bedtime snack and gives us a glass a milk. When he comes home he plays games with us and plays on the trampoline with us. Then we all go and take care of the chickens together.  Then she said sometimes him and her lay in bed and watch cartoons or she plays games on his phone with him but she lays on his back or lays her head in his legs.

I find that inappropriate. I don’t think my ex wife should have had another man around my girls since men can sometimes do unspeakable acts to children. I told my daughters that he loves his children and that he couldn’t love them like a real parent does .

This upset my daughter and my wife overheard and she is furious with me as well asking if I meant that she didn’t love them as much as our son and I said well yeah since you didn’t give birth to them. Now she isn’t speaking to me and my daughters were crying before they left. I just don’t want them to lay in bed with a grown man and think that he loves them like he’s a parent when he could have ulterior motives. AITA? ######

Response: YTA and your jealousy is affecting your relationship with your children ######


Prompt:
Throwaway bc family could see.

I (31F) have one son, 3M. He’s very sweet, calm, low-maintenance, and a great kid. I lucked out with him. We asked one of his daycare providers, B, to watch him for 5 hours, from 1-6 since I had to work. B knows he’s an easy kid and she knows him well, so she went with a lower charge, and we agreed on $50 for the whole time. It wasn’t discussed in terms of hours, rather we agreed that $50 for the time she was there was sufficient.

Well, there ended up being a situation at work that prevented me from getting home at 6, so I wasn’t able to relieve her until around 6:45. My husband works from 11 AM to 8 PM, so him relieving her was out of the question.

When I got there, she seem to be in a hurry to get out of the house. I understand that I was late, but as a person who works with kids and their parents, she is well aware that things come up. I handed her a $50 bill and she thanked me, but asked for $7 more. I told her that she got the 50 she agreed on, but she said that since I was 45 mins late and I was paying her $10 an hour, she had earned $7 more for an extra 45 mins. I told her that’s not what we agreed on. We agreed on $50, and it shouldn’t matter that I was late because we didn’t discuss it in terms of hours. She argued that I agreed I would be home at six and didn’t adhere to that either, but it’s an entirely different story.

I ended up only giving her $50 and showing her out of the house. I’ll admit that she did a great job with my son. But in my opinion she had no right to ask for more. My husband and mother both think that I was being an asshole. I don’t agree. AITA? ######

Response: YTA and your husband is so awesome for giving her an extra $50!  He sounds like a really nice guy. He must be so embarrassed by your behavior. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway account.

My best friend had asked me if I was available one night and if I was could I pick her up from a party as she didn’t have a lift and felt really uncomfortable being in a uber or taxi late at night. I said of course I would pick her up.

Later that night my boyfriend texted me asking to hang out. So we did. I totally forgot about my friend and it wasn’t until I looked at my phone and saw her various texts and missed calls. She got home safe in the end because her BF brother woke up to pick her up.

I apologised a lot and she seemed to have accepted the apology but her texts were really dry..?

My bf said that she shouldn’t have been drinking if she knew she didn’t have a lift home and that I shouldn’t really worry about her lack of responses...

AITA in this situation? ######

Response: YTA and your bf sucks too. You should completely feel worried because she likely won’t trust you again. You forgot about her and her physical safety because you were with your bf. That’s super shitty and shows how little regard you have for her. She was responsible and arranged a ride because she would be drinking, your bf has no right to call her irresponsible because she did in fact have a ride home, that ride just decided not to give af about their friend. YTA YTA YTA ######


Prompt: I’m a 26 year old woman my daughter is 4 and one of her friends is having a small birthday party. Well recently she was at a playground and another one of the girls there was bullying her. I noticed that the bully was also friends with the girl having the party. However I’m good friends with the mom of the birthday child so I asked her to uninvite her because I was pretty upset about what happened with my daughter. She told me that she will do that. AITA for doing this? ######

Response: YTA and you're also a bully. They are four years old. It is ridiculous that you would have the child uninvited from someone else's party because of how you perceived her interaction with your child.  What kind of Queen Bee Mean Girl BS is that?!?!? ######


Prompt:
The tile sounds bad, but let me offer some backstory. Me and my girlfriend of 3 years broke up right before the pandemic started and recently got back together over the summer. I am attending a University in the city and I needed to get an apartment for my research opportunities. All of the dorms in the area are closed or vacating rooms due to classes online and in effort for my girlfriend to get away from her small town and overbearing parents, she asked if she could stay with me. This was fine because I had money to completely cover the lease and I was aware of how her parents treated her and her need to get away. Upon coming to the apartment, weeks have gone by and we argue very frequently and at times it becomes a toxic environment. She is the type to storm off and leave while disappearing for hours when she is mad, often going to friends houses or taking a drive. She wants me to drive her back to her home state so she can live here with her car and I made it very clear that I was against this. HERE is the issue, because of the current pandemic and how absent minded she gets when she is upset, with a car I know she will be around a lot of people I dont know, going to certain event, ect. I AM NOT comfortable with this considering that I value my well being and have been taking steps to ensure our safety. I said if she brings her car up here then she will have to find some other place to live, and even offered to help pay the down payment. I told her that I have no issue with her taking my car to go to work, or go to necessary places, but I know having her car up here will give her the freedom to be willingly ignorant to safety just because she can. I asked my friends and they said I am being too controlling and scared of the pandemic, what do you think?

tl;dr My girlfriend lives in my apartment and want to bring her car from her hometown so she has freedom to go where she wants when she wants. I am uncomfortable with this. ######

Response: YTA and y'all both sound toxic ass hell. Break up and be done with it. Also learn to be less controlling ######


Prompt:
 My cousin \[18F\] finished high school some time ago and made a post on Facebook that she now decided to give her books for free and if we need the books to contact her. Luckily, I was one of the first to see the post and immediately messaged her because I need the books for this year and next and they are ridiculously expensive ($50-60 per book).

So we talked and stuff and in the end we established that she’s going to give me most of the books. I was happy and all until she told me that I will have to pay for transportation. Here is where I lost it because transporting books from her country to mine is expensive and I in no way am going to pay that much money. I might as well just buy the books myself instead of getting the second hand books.

We had a huge argument which ended up with her blocking me which made me even more pissed and I commented on the fb post that in reality she isn’t giving the stuff for free (so that the others won’t waste time like I did). AITA here? Or is my cousin the asshole for not announcing on the post that transportation WON’T be free?

Also if u guys have any advice on how she could make the transportation costs cheaper plzzzzzz dm me and I’ll give you the details. DON’T comment your advice here though because Rule 9. If this still breaks the rule I’ll remove this paragraph. ######

Response: YTA and this belongs on r/choosingbeggars ######


Prompt:
Yesterday it was my daughter's 15th birthday and I took her out shopping. I asked her what she wanted to get as a gift and she mentioned she would like to get some piercings.

My daughter for the past year has wanted to get several piercings but I thought she was too young. When she asked me for her birthday I told her we will go to the piercing parlour and check with the pierced on whether she was now old enough.

I texted my husband that I was taking our daughter to get pierced and he just replied with a surprised face emoji. We then went off to the piercing shop.

When we got to the piercing shop we asked a lot of questions and they told us they can do up to 4 piercings in one session. My daughter decided she wanted to do 4 as she was waiting so long and decided she would get 2 in her lower lip, nose and belly.

When we got home my daughter was very excited to show her father her new piercings. He kind of freaked and told her she has ruined her face and will no longer be able to get a job. I told him why he was so upset given he knew our daughter had wanted piercings and he just replied that he thought she was just going to get ear piercings. He now keeps going on about how our daughter is not going to get into a good college now and how I have ruined her future. AITA here? ######

Response:
 YTA and the piercer you went to was irresponsible for agreeing to give *four* piercings to a minor who has never had a single piercing before. Especially a piercing that requires more stringent care like a navel piercing.

Whatever people in the comments might tell you, yes people still have hang ups around facial piercings in 2020, and yes they may impact on your daughter’s ability to find work. I doubt she’ll find herself unemployable, but it only takes running into one stuck-up boomer recruiter to get turned down for a job you were otherwise qualified for.

I don’t think that’s necessarily a reason not to get piercings, but your daughter is 15 and cannot make informed choices regarding her future professional life because she simply doesn’t have the lived experience yet. Most piercing shops in my area won’t do any piercings besides basic lobe piercings on anyone under 18.

I’ve had a ton of piercings in my time and know they’re a pain to care for when they’re healing, and can take a long time to stop feeling tender. Caring for four piercings at once sounds like a pain in the ass. The best you can do now is help make sure your daughter is looking after them properly and make sure she doesn’t rush the process. No changing the jewellery until your piercer says it’s okay to do so (even if, again, I’m loath to trust the judgement of any piercer who would perform four piercings on a minor in a single session). ######


Prompt:
My wife was pregnant at the time so I was carrying her luggage. The airline had a policy of 2 bags per person. I had 3 bags and she had none. We go to board our plane and the airline employee tells us we can't enter and we need to check one of our luggage in as its 2 per person. I said we're together and its only 3 bags per 2 people. We spent 5 minutes trying to explain it and this person was too fuckign stupid to understand it.

I put one of hte bags in my wife's hands and I said, "look you fucking dumbass, I have 2, she has one, now its 2 or less per person, is this good enough" he says ok and I said "fuckign hell, great lets get out of here, Fucking dumbass sack of shit"

The person behind us in line happened to be in front of us in line and tells us we were so rude to the airline attendant and I told him to leave us alone. Fucking hell ######

Response: YTA and May want go to anger therapy if you cuss people out on a regular basis since this is your second post about cussing people out... ######


Prompt:
My husband (28) and I (43) had a small birthday celebration for my daughter (15) in our backyard.

She was able to eat and hang out with her two best friends. Everything goes fine until her stepdad walks out with a buddy of his to grab some chips and drink a bottle of beer.

We have a very large deck and they were sitting in lawn chairs on the other side of it, yet my daughter kicks up a fuss and asks why they were there. She asks her stepfather to leave, and he says that this happens to be his deck, not hers.

I tell her that’s no way to treat her stepfather. In response, she says that she’s going over to her friend’s house to finish the rest of her birthday cake.

I was furious that she left despite my protests that she apologize to her stepdad first.

For her birthday, I had agreed to buy her a laptop because she had previously complained about having to share the large home computer with her stepfather, who likes it for his graphic design work and asks her not to keep clearing the history on it.

But I only agreed to buy her this on the condition that she keeps the peace around the house, and the blowup at the birthday party was the opposite of that.

My husband was humiliated and sometimes he sighs and says that he doesn’t know if this will work out.

I love him unconditionally. In addition, he was also being generous in allocating the deck when he could have said no.

I ended up returning the laptop back to where I bought it. When my daughter got home, she called me a sellout and refuses to eat with either me or her stepfather.

AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA and let's review the red flags and assholery together.

>My husband was humiliated and sometimes he sighs and says that he doesn’t know if this will work out.

You husband tells you that he doesn't know if this is going to work out. This being your marriage! He literally questions your relationship but here you are, putting him over your daughter. Guess who will ALWAYS be your family? Her.

>I love him unconditionally. In addition, he was also being generous in allocating the deck when he could have said no.

You love him so much that you put him over your daughter and ignore all the red flags. And him "being generous" by letting her use PART of the deck on her own birthday... what the hell is this? Is it not YOUR house too?

Your daughter wanted to hang with friends and he intruded with his friends on HER birthday. She then left to be with her friends and your response is to get angry at her and return a gift. A gift she honestly needs for school, not just for fun.

Congrats on alienating your daughter. Keep it up and when your husband finally leaves you since he's not sure if "this will work out" you'll be completely alone since she won't want anything to do with you either. ######


Prompt:
     Recently I started dating a girl who lost about 10-15 pounds before we got together. She struggles with her weight a lot, and I try to be encouraging to her. She even asks me questions from time to time such as “do I even look different than I did when I weighed more?”  And I tell her yes, I think you look different and you look more attractive this way. I told her that she looks more attractive than before she lost the weight (from 150 to 140 lbs). I said this with the goal being positive feedback and to encourage her healthier decisions now that she’s at a lower weight.

     However, her friends and sister all told me that I was a dick for telling her this. They are claiming that “her worth is not associated with her weight”.  This I completely agree with but somehow I have to be attracted to her the same even if she gains a ton of weight.

Am I the asshole? ######

Response: YTA and Ill tell you why. She asked if she “looked different”, a proper response from you would help her feel validated in her >progress<. It would make her feel like her work is paying off and would make her feel good about herself if you had said something like “yeah you can totally tell” etc. When you said “you look more attractive this way than the other way” that’s a backhanded compliment. You’re basically validating the insecurity that if she’s thinner she’s more valued (more attractive) than if she’s bigger. You would’ve been encouraging by saying “yes you look great now”! You didn’t have to do a comparison. ######


Prompt:
My daughter is eleven and at her school they were having an event where they could dress up as a character from their favorite movie. She told me she wanted to dress up as Belle from Beauty and the Beast. I told her wouldn’t it be kind of immature for a sixth grader to dress up as Belle.

On Thursday (the day before the event) I suggested loads of things she could have been but she turned them all down so she ended up not going as anything and when she came back from school on Friday she was furious that I didn’t let her dress up. She said she had everything prepared and she told a girl at school about this and she was on my daughter’s side. I then asked her if she’d really say that Beauty and the Beast is her *favorite* movie.

Even though it’s Saturday now, I can tell she’s still upset at me because of this. I really don’t think it’s a big deal but I do think I legitimately hurt my daughter’s feelings. ######

Response: YTA and I seriously hope this is a troll. Who gives a damn what your 11yo child dresses up as for school ######


Prompt:
So a throwaway

When I (M19) first started dating my girlfriend (F18) she has body confidence issues and was a bit on the chubby side and didn’t like to show her body. I told her that confidence was very attractive and that being unconfident like she was was really unattractive. A couple of my female friends are very confident in themselves and posts photos of themselves on Instagram and snapchat. I told her that she is beautiful and that her body really isn’t an issue and that maybe she could as my friends for some tips. She then started a diet and exercising and lost a lot of weight and is pretty toned now. Obviously my girlfriend was always attractive regardless.

Now she’s started to posts photos of her in crop tops and her workout gear and is getting a lot of attention. She’s always snapchatting her at the gym and her in minimal clothing ( pants and a work out bra) sometimes just in clothes that show cleavage as well. My male friends keep liking all her posts and making comments about how happy and great she looks. I didn’t appreciate them making comments on my girlfriend nor her posting continuously.

I talked to her about how I felt and she seemed taken aback. She said that I was the one who kept telling her to gain confidence and kept shoving pictures of my friends in her face all the time and it made her feel worthless and not good enough. I told her that I didn’t mean to show her body to everybody - she argued she was never revealing her body in a provocative way. We fought about it and she said that I’m being an ass because I was the one who compared her to my female friends and now I don’t appreciate when she built confidence for herself. We got into a massive argument over it and I honestly feel like she isn’t listening and is liking this new attention. AITA here? ######

Response: YTA and I hope she dumps you for someone who won't tell her to ask their female friends for tips on how to get more attractive. Yikes. ######


Prompt: Okay so I remember when I was at the gym one day and I was looking for a song on Spotify to jam out to while my workout routine. This lady started circling around me and pretending to look at her watch (she doesn’t have one LMAO) and she finally went up to me and was like “Can I use this machine because you’re not using it and ur on your phone young lady? People like me are waiting” and I said “okay Karen, if you insist” and got up ######

Response: YTA and I have the feeling that you know it but don’t want to admit it. ######


Prompt:
I'm getting married next month. 6 months ago, I decided on a bridesmaids dress from amazon. I told each person individually what they were to get. It was cheap. Everyone ordered it and recieved their packages a while ago.

Except one girl, however. She decided to order it 4 months ago rather than 6. I know she was losing weight or focusing on losing weight, so she wanted to wait or something? Anyways, I didn't know that at the time. She messaged me two weeks ago saying she didnt know what to do because the seller from amazon refused to ship her packages. They apparently told her that it was shipped and on its way to arrive in late august four months ago, but when it didn't arrive she messaged them. They apologized and told her they couldn't ship and forgot to tell her. She sent the proof that this had happened.

But I didn't care. The rest of my bridesmaids ordered when I had told them what the dress was and recieved their packages. I'm already stressed out and to me, no excuses can even be made for her. She said she found another place that would ship, but I told her I didn't want someone so careless in my wedding. She should have ordered when she was supposed to, and I'm so angry at the fact she would add onto my stress.

AITA for kicking her out of my wedding? ######

Response: YTA and hello bridezilla. She waited two months which normally wouldn’t have made a difference. It only did due to something completely out of her control, poor communication from the seller YOU chose, and by the time she contacted you she had already identified another alternative. ######


Prompt:
My wife and I live in a three bedroom home. We probably will move sooner or later but not for a few years, so in the long run these problems will get resolved before too long. One of the two spare bedrooms (my hobby room) is about 33-50% larger than the other spare bedroom. My wife wants me to move my hobby stuff out of the larger room and into the smaller room so the nursery can be the larger room.

The problem with this is that the hobby room is set up exactly the way I need it. I even built work benches in the room for my projects. The other problem is that there is no way I can fit all of the stuff in my hobby room into the smaller room, so that means it will need to be stored in the garage or in a storage unit. That is not only inconvenient but it is impracticable.

There is no reason why the smaller room won't work for the nursery. It is easy enough to order furniture and base our design on the size of the room so that we have everything we need.

We have had many conversations about this but I haven't changed my mind and don't see it changing unless I am out of line. She is trying to turn it into a referendum on how I feel about her or the baby, so she thinks I am being selfish/assholish. But she still hasn't explained to me why the nursery needs to be that large.

AITA? ######

Response: YTA and could probably use a read up on childhood development if you think your kid isn’t going to be getting into this stuff soon. My son walked by 11 months and shortly after a year he was climbing counters and trying to get into everything. ######


Prompt:
So my first time writing here I will try to do my best!

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Last weekend we went to this nice lake where you could swim and have picnics and parking was absolutely packed. Our region has done really well with covid-19 and this was up north so not many people. regardless the parking was packed and we found a parking spot far away and we had our grandma with us as well. she is old and so walking isn't exactly easy for her especially in 30-degree centigrade weather. While we were finding a picnic spot a parking spot opened up right next too where we wanted too set up our picnic. I quickly stood in the parking spot to prevent another person to park in it. while my dad brought my grandma in the car. people came by and I told them we had a senior with us and they moved on. but this one couple got really mad and started arguing about how too we should park in the handicap zone (the lake didn't have one) and just swearing overall, he was holding up all the cars behind him and people were getting cheesed af. I still kept my ground until he eventually moved on.

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I know it isn't the most climactic situation, but I am curious am I the Ass Hole? ######

Response:
 YTA and come across as entitled.

You could have dropped your grandmother off and then found a parking somewhere else. ######


Prompt:
My roommate and I (both 20f) don’t know each other that well. We have mutual friends who both knew we needed roommates at the beginning of the year, so set us up. We’re not in the apartment at the same time very often, so I wouldn’t say we’re friends, but we don’t dislike each other.

At the beginning of last week, my roommate told me she was going to go back to her hometown (about 2 hours away) because her dad was sick and she wanted to be with her family. I said okay, see you when you’re back, the usual. That night, I invited my boyfriend over and we ended up getting a bit drunk, which resulted in him puking red wine all over my bed. It was like 3am at this point, and I was tipsy, so I dragged him over to my roommates bed and we both fell asleep.

The next morning my boyfriend went home, but I was hungover and didn’t want to wash my sheets yet, so I just stayed in my roommates bed. I ended up sleeping and staying in my roommates bed for the rest of the week.

She came back to the apartment on Monday whilst I was out shopping, and I came back to her questioning as to why there was a phone charger on her bed. I told her that I’d been sleeping in her bed because of the red wine puke, expecting her to just find it amusing, but she was absolutely disgusted and called me a slob because I didn’t wash my sheets. She then demanded I change her sheets because my boyfriend and I had both slept in them and I refused saying they were hers so she should clean them. She’s now saying that I crossed a line and that she’s going to start looking for a new roommate. AITA? ######

Response: YTA and clean up after yourself! It shouldn’t take a week to wash a sheet. ######


Prompt:
Here is a light aita for you guys. It's to settle a years long argument between my sibling and I.( Don't worry we love each other and the story is more amusing than anything)

Years ago, my older sister(25) and I(18) were on a family holiday at an amusement park. She bought a cinnamon roll for us to split. We shared it by taking turns unrolling a bit, tearing it off, and eating it.( It was one of those large swirly ones). Finally it was down to the core of the cinnamon roll and it was my turn. I didn't want to eat all of it so I decided to bite it in half, from the top.

To this day my sister maintains that I'm a monster for biting the "objectively best part" and I maintain that I was being kind by leaving her half even though it was my turn. So, reddit, AITA? ######

Response: YTA and a monster :) ######


Prompt:
Hear me out pls!!

My (20M) girlfriend (20F) had started a facebook page about a year ago. She posts her own memes, random texts and art on it. It was initially not a problem and I was proud of her, even supported her by liking, commenting and sharing her posts to my page that was bigger at the time.

Recently her page gained a lot of attention and eventually surpassed my page's following. She started posting a lot more and she has been interacting with her audience 24/7. Since then she has stopped paying attention to me and will always be on her phone, replying to me with one or two words like "haha nice" or "okay". We still go on dates (weekly) that she usually plans, but she will still take up her phone every 1.5h or so.

Last weekend she brought cookies for me & my family and she planned on staying the entire weekend. During this weekend she kept picking up her phone and going to her page. At one point she went to talk to my parents and left her phone in my room and I saw the opportunity. I went to her FB and deleted the page & her profile so she can't recover the page.

She was PISSED when she noticed what i had done. I tried explaining that I was freeing her from social media obsession, but she didn't understand. She took her stuff and went home and hasn't talked to me since then, which is making me think i might have fcked up.

So, reddit....AITA?? ######

Response:
 YTA and a jealous one at that.

How are you even in a relationship when you're this immature? ######


Prompt:
A while ago, I finally got some time off work and was excited to spend some alone time with my wife, even suggesting we go on a vacation since it's been so long. My wife, however, refused to stop working to even talk to me. She's in politics and we're in the middle of a war right now, so I partly understand, but I still think that our relationship should come first, no matter what. We're in a situation where we're not allowed to be open with our marriage, so any time we can get together is important. When I told her this, though, she got upset and kept saying that her work needs to come first and that it's really important.

I wasn't going to submit this originally, but recently we were looking forward to a night off alone together, when I got called into work. I had to go in because I would have gotten in serious trouble if I hadn't, and she got upset and sad that I had to go. It got me thinking about whether or not I was the asshole back then. AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA Anakin!

Let Padme do her thing! ######


Prompt:
I ordered some lunch through Door Dash today. However I forgot to request some dipping sauce for my chicken, so once my delivery driver got the order I gave her a call to let her know.

Her phone rang once then went straight to voicemail. Obvious ignore. A moment later I received a text message saying (copy-pasted):

Thanks for calling! Right now I’m driving either to a restaurant or to a delivery location. Feel free to text me and I’ll respond once I’m no longer driving.

I thought this was pretty rude and silly, because no respectable employee would ignore a customer like that and no respectable business would allow their employees to do so. I immediately called her back, same thing happened. I called a third time, hoping she would get the hint. Still, same thing happened. I was frustrated and upset, so I cancelled my order. I wasn’t able to report the driver through the app since she never even picked up my order, so I ended up calling door dash support directly to let them know that a driver was ignoring me. All they said was they’d take care of it.

A bit later my girlfriend was wondering where our food was, so I explained the whole situation. She looked confused and asked why I didn’t just text her like the message said, and I told her that it was a matter of principle—I am the customer and the driver doesn’t get to pick and choose how to do her job. She argued that it’s perfectly reasonable for people to not want to take phone calls while driving, especially with the stormy weather we’re having today. I argued back that if the driver is willing to cut corners over bad weather then maybe she should stay home. My girlfriend called me an asshole and then left to get us our lunch.

So Reddit, am I *actually* the asshole or is it not reasonable for me to expect my delivery driver to communicate with me? ######

Response:
 YTA absolutely. They likely have that response set up through door dash precisely so they CANNOT talk while driving since door dash would likely get the shit sued out of them if a driver driving for them had an accident while on the phone with a customer.

And how rude of you to immediately assume someone was ignoring you in the first place. And then to report it to door dash? Over some dipping sauces that YOU forgot? Unreal.

Edit: typo ######


Prompt:
My gf was walking from work to her home today and wanted to talk on the phone. We are currently long distance because of the pandemic, so I'm kind of used to us talking through phone - the usual how your day went, venting about customers, me talking about my buddies, my games etc.

Idk why but after some time I just wanted to stop talking. Not sure if I just didnt want to talk or because I wanted to go back to my pc to play, but I decided to say goodbye to my gf. She went silent for a few seconds then told me she tought I will at least wait until she gets home.

I asked her if she has a long way to go still, because I'm right in front of my house and want to go inside already (I went to take a walk to talk to her) and then she went silent again, told me nevermind & added that she doesnt want to force me to talk for a three more minutes until she gets home if I really don't want to.

Am I the asshole for not waiting until she's at her home? I feel like she's mad at me or something. Usually she writes to me once she's safe at her place but this time I had to blow up her phone after some time and ask her myself if she's alright ######

Response: YTA a lot of women make calls as a way to avoid unwanted street harassment and to make sure someone knows they made it home safely. Was your PC really more important than your partner’s safety? ######


Prompt:
My (26) mom’s (46) best friend (f52) was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer 6 years ago. She made it to the 15-20% survival rate. She was a beautiful person. She’s been in my life since I was 2 years old.

Even though she was on heavy doses of pain meds over the years she always randomly texted me telling me she loves me. She honestly texted me more than she texted my mom.

She was admitted to hospice roughly 2 weeks ago. I’ve been able to see her about 2 times since she was diagnosed because she was always back and forth between the hospital and her home. The trip to and from was about 5 hours. She was always exhausted and out of it. Understandably so, we kept our distance. Especially because we didn’t want to compromise her health any further with unknown illnesses we might of had.

We went to say our goodbyes on Monday. She looked like a whole different person. I won’t go too in to detail but, let’s just say I couldn’t stop crying. She looked so unhappy and as if she was mentally stuck inside a body (like being awake during a coma) that no longer served her.

Just 15 minutes ago we got the news that she had passed. I didn’t cry. I felt peace and happiness for her. When I saw her on Monday, she found the strength to wake up and even though she barely had a voice or any energy left, she told me the most beautiful things that helped me be okay with her leaving this earth.

Of course my mom is devastated. But, I told her that it was not a way to live and even though her friend was dealt the shittiest of all cards, we should be happy for her that she no longer has to live in pain, anger and sadness. My mom did not like this, she won’t even look at me. Guys AITA? I really wasn’t trying to upset her. ######

Response: YTA a little here. Even though you meant well, you can't control how other people grieve. She needs to process it in her own way, and she probably needs some support. She doesn't need someone else trying to tell her how to feel about the situation. ######


Prompt:
My mom died when I was 13 whilst in childbirth with my youngest sister, my dad therefore suddenly became a single dad of four young girls. He never dated anybody whilst I was going through my teenage years, but met his wife, my stepmom, when I was 19 and in college. As I was the only one of my sisters not living at home anymore, they all had good relationships with her, whilst I didn’t really have any.

For the past three years, his wife was battling ovarian cancer and passed away this past January. It’s been really hard on my dad as she had gone into remission and then relapsed only 2 months later. I’ve been living at home to help him as my sisters all have kids and I don’t. He’s a shell of the man I grew up having as a dad, and watching him wither away has been awful, so I suggested he should try and meet someone new. He didn’t really respond. I also told him I could message a woman I work with as I think they’d be really good together.

Later that night we were on FaceTime to one of my sisters and I mentioned it to her and said we should make him some kind of dating profile if she didn’t like the idea of me setting him up with my colleague. She was absolutely mortified and immediately refused the idea. She’s the youngest so she grew up with my stepmom basically being her mom. She then told my other sisters and they’ve called me incredibly insensitive to my dads feelings. My dad has agreed with them and told me he’s not ready to move on, and has asked me to leave so he can grieve the way he wants and take things at his own pace. AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA a little bit. 6 months is not a long time, and it sounds like you were a little too pushy. If he didn't respond positively when you first brought it up, that was your cue to back off.

Give him some time. He's lost two of the women he loves, and finding another one may not be a priority for him. ######


Prompt:
My fiancée and I are getting married in October and I couldn’t be more excited. Currently she’s unemployed because her job permanently shut down due to the lockdown so the income comes from me and her unemployment. I make good money so I don’t care if she gets another job, I can support us.

Money is a little tight lately because we very suddenly had to buy a new car. We haven’t really spent any personal money, only money on groceries and necessities.

Last night my fiancée came into our bathroom while I was shaving and looked a little nervous. She asked if she could buy a $350 wedding dress that she’s been looking at for months. I kind of looked at her and asked where the $350 would come from. She said we had a lot of money in our savings we hadn’t touched, and it would barely make a dent in our savings. I thought about it for a second and told her if she gets to splurge $350 on a dress I get to spend $350 on whatever I want.

She said she didn’t think it was a splurge, it was for our wedding and I could buy what I wanted but i could tell I had hurt her feelings. I told her spending $350 on a dress was a little ridiculous, and she started crying and walked out of the bathroom quietly.

When I walked into our bedroom she was under the covers and facing away from me. We haven’t talked since. I don’t feel like I’m being unreasonable but AITA? ######

Response: YTA 350 for a wedding dress is nothing. ######


Prompt: I (17f) and my friend/on & off boyfriend (18m) are both huge pranksters and we usually pull stupid pranks on one another. I am white and he’s Native American. He’s got long hair down his back. The other day I was spending the night at his house and thought it would be funny if I tied his hair around those metal bars on his bed frame. I kept shaking him roughly to wake him up and it took me like 20 seconds. He started trying to  get up and began dreaming out. I told him what I did with his hair & at first he laughed then asked me to untie it. So I tried but I couldn’t get his hair loose. I didn’t know what to do so I woke his mom up and asked her if she could help. She couldn’t get it either. My friend started crying when his mom came back in the room with scissors. She had to cut his hair & its now neck length. They were both severely devastated and I didn’t see the big deal because it was just hair. He forced me to drive home at like 2 am. It’s been a couple of days and he still hasn’t spoken to me. He told me his hair was a huge part of his culture & I told him I don’t understand what I did wrong because it was just a prank that went bad on accident. I was just being a kid. That’s what kids we do, we do stupid shit. I didn’t mean for it to go wrong nor was it my fault that his hair go super tangled due to his continuous tugging and pulling. ######

Response: YTA 100% so and at 17 you're not too young to understand that his body and his hair aren't toys. It's just hair to you, it's not that to him. And I would say that you're about to lose a friend for good if you keep trying to downplay what you did here ######


Prompt:
My fiancée and I are getting married in October and I couldn’t be more excited. Currently she’s unemployed because her job permanently shut down due to the lockdown so the income comes from me and her unemployment. I make good money so I don’t care if she gets another job, I can support us.

Money is a little tight lately because we very suddenly had to buy a new car. We haven’t really spent any personal money, only money on groceries and necessities.

Last night my fiancée came into our bathroom while I was shaving and looked a little nervous. She asked if she could buy a $350 wedding dress that she’s been looking at for months. I kind of looked at her and asked where the $350 would come from. She said we had a lot of money in our savings we hadn’t touched, and it would barely make a dent in our savings. I thought about it for a second and told her if she gets to splurge $350 on a dress I get to spend $350 on whatever I want.

She said she didn’t think it was a splurge, it was for our wedding and I could buy what I wanted but i could tell I had hurt her feelings. I told her spending $350 on a dress was a little ridiculous, and she started crying and walked out of the bathroom quietly.

When I walked into our bedroom she was under the covers and facing away from me. We haven’t talked since. I don’t feel like I’m being unreasonable but AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA 100% man. Come on now.
Not for the reason you might think either.

A wedding dress being $350 is actually cheap, yes you can find cheaper ones out there but those are almost always lower quality and not a good idea, this is a once in a lifetime thing (hopefully) and you’re paying to insure there aren’t wardrobe malfunctions, last minute issues, the scene in the moment. Idk how far out your wedding is but when you start really getting down to planning I hope you help her and see that weddings are hard and expensive and challenging. Please don’t make her do all the work and then complain about how much everything costs later.

But anyways that’s not even the reason YTA. YTA because it sounds like you don’t even know what you want to spend $350 on, you just said “if you get to spend it so do I” which firstly is simply a WTF thing to say. Like honestly I clicked on this and was like is he buying a tux for the wedding?

Secondly why would you start this post with explaining that money is right and then throw in for random that she want a $350 dress so now you’re going to buy ‘whatever I want’ in exchange. So $350 is too much but $700 isn’t? And if you really don’t know what you want and simply want to spend the same as her then you’ll be eager and looking for things to buy and blow through it all the more easily.

Thirdly the biggest reason YTA: she said she had been looking at this dress for months. She obviously looked around, probably saw prices, saw quality, saw herself on her wedding day when you look at her and tell her she’s beautiful. And then you put that image and dream again nothing. You told her she can only spend the money on her dream dress if you go to spend it on whatever you want. You put her feelings down in that moment, you told her months of yearning for that dress was the same as whatever random thing you’ll find to blow money on and her effort to make your wedding day TOGETHER weren’t worth it in your mind.

Honestly it’s petty. If you actually had something in particular you wanted you could have brought that up separately and had that moment been about her. You could have asked if she loved the dress, maybe something to complement her style and saying you couldn’t wait to see her in it. Honestly girls can really get their hopes up for stuff like this and a little bit of support from you in this moment very well could have made planning the entire wedding easier. Having that moment be about her and what she wanted wouldn’t have been hard for you. Waiting even ten minutes and then asking as a separate mater if you could also use your savings to do X, Y, or Z would have been fine. But making her desire a ‘if you get this then I get that’ things is an asshole move.

It stakes you against her. Any relationship, especially that of marriage, should be you and that person against others. Never you against her. I forgot where that quote is from but seriously take that to heart. Actions that make the two of you look like enemies aren’t one you ever want to make and once you two start seeing each other as adversaries instead of partners your marriage is over, maybe before it gets the chance to start. You don’t have to give in to everything she wants ever (though happy wife makes a happy life) but not making it a fight between the two of you would be best for the future. ######


Prompt:
My wife and I recently moved to a new city. I took a job with a higher salary, enabling my wife to stay home with our children. We didn't want to do virtual ed, so she is also homeschooling.

Before moving my wife was working from home full time and was sick of her job. Being without a job was a relief for her.

A few months after moving my wife's former employer contacted her and asked if she would work 10 hours per week from home. They really needed her.

She said yes, and I supported this decision, but was a little wary that it would turn into more than 10 hours.

Well now, she is working about 25 hrs a week from home, trying to homeschool children and take care of 1 year old. She frequently works in the afternoon and puts the kids in front of the tv( which I don't really love). Or works from 8-10:30pm.

AITA for not supporting her in this? She is upset with me because I have animosity towards her work. I don't blow up at her or anything but there is a definite tension.

She says it doesn't affect me because she does it when im at work or at night. But she is constantly tired and seems overworked to me.

Aita??? ######

Response: YTA ~~I took a job with a higher salary, enabling my wife to stay home with our children~~ My wife agreed to run the household and childcare enabling me to take a job with a higher salary and commitment. There I fixed it for you. ######


Prompt:
I work at a call center in a cubicle and I hate it, which is why I've recently decided to go to college and get a degree. I was telling one of my co-workers about this and when he asked why I wanted to go to college, I said to him "I just want to improve my chances of getting a real job." That's when my friend got all defensive and started telling me that a call center was a real job. I corrected him and told him that call centers are just for young kids going through school and single parents who need to support their bastard kids and have no other motivation in life and that's when he stormed off.

On top of that, he apparently went around telling all of my other co-workers. One of them called me an "elitist prick" and another hoped that I ended up being a college drop-out. Everyone is against me just because I'm daring to get out of this hellhole of a call center and pursue an actual career. AITA? ######

Response: YTA — not for wanting to get a different job, but for putting down your current job to people who work that same job. Telling a coworker that their job is just for kids and people with no ambition was really shitty. If you want a better job, that’s great! But it’s elitist and cruel to openly criticize anyone who is content with that job. ######


Prompt: I(24M) am getting married to my gf(25f) next year in tuscon on our anniversary .  I sent out invites to the wedding to people in my friend circle . The next day another friend of mine announced to the group that she was getting married at the same place a month before i am getting married. I felt that people would attend her wedding since it came first and most of them wouldn't be able to afford a trip for mine within the  one month gap. I got mad at her and told her that if she wouldn't change the date , the friendship between us would be over . To which she complied and changed the date to the anniversary of  meeting her fiance which is in January . She called me a loser and has been ignoring me for these few days . AITA for making her change the dates? ######

Response:
 YTA — It’s a difference of a MONTH for Christ’s sake. You don’t get a wedding month, you get a wedding day. If people don’t make it, they don’t make it.

I would have told you to screw yourself and ended the friendship on my own. You’re selfish and absolutely the asshole here. ######


Prompt:
While my fiancée and I were having sex, she just asked me if I could see any bumps on her vagina. I just mentioned that the outside part of her private was the vulva, and that the vagina was the tube. She disagreed, and we googled it. I was right

Then everything became extremely awkward. She said that she really disliked that I was “mansplaining” to her about her body. The thing is, I’m right. It’s not a matter of semantics because different words have different meanings. A vulva is not a vagina. I don’t know how I’m the asshole, but she’s still really mad that I corrected her.

So, AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA
You knew what are she was referring to, and had to be right. If the ‘bump’ was the main concern, you should have addressed that directly.

If she said she had 10/10 stomach pain, would you correct her and say it’s really epigastric pain?

If she sliced the area between her wrist and elbow , and said she cut her arm, would you correct her to say forearm?

If she thought she had a cancerous lymph node in her underarm, would you say that’s really the axilla? ######


Prompt:
My brother started dating this new girl and I realized I recognized her from AA. I’m not an addict, but my lawyer recommended I attend some AA meetings to help strengthen my DUI case (and before you get on my ass for it, I made a mistake months back and got through it). I know it’s her because I remember her very unique name from the AA meeting and she also talked for a very long time.

I thought it was important to mention it to my brother is because I’m worried about her as a partner to him. In AA, she mentioned that not only did she use hard drugs, but also that she feels like she can’t control herself. She also admitted to drugs making her verbally aggressive and unstable emotionally, and at the time sue was not sober.

I know my brother, and I know that he holds himself and his partners to a high standard and that he hates drama in his relationship. I told him what she said and he broke up with her, and she basically stalked me and also called me an untrustworthy bitch who ruined her experience with AA. Honestly I think I was just trying to help my brother out, but some of my friends think it was messed up for me to tell him. But I think it’s better for him to know what kind of person she is ahead of time. AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA
What you see here, what you hear here, let it stay here.

You broke a cardinal rule buddy ######


Prompt:
My wife filed for divorce after the birth of our third child.

She started gunning for full custody after getting jealous that I have started dating a new woman (21F). Previously, she wanted to negotiate a 60-40 split despite my protests it be 50-50.  I’m pretty sure she’s talking trash about me to our kids.

My soon to be ex did some porn in the late 90s to get through college. She wasn’t very well known and it was mostly amateur work.

Afterwards, she graduated, dyed her hair, and tried to bury it. However, she told me about it when we were dating and I had the tapes that were quite frankly pretty hard to find.

My ex teaches computer science at a middle school. I ended up notifying the principal with the evidence, and a week later she was fired.

My lawyer also is in the process of submitting the tapes in our child custody battle.

AITA? All I want to do is not be robbed of my kids, and she was actively doing that. Our other two kids are 13 and 11, and we miss each other and I wasn’t the one that uprooted our kids.

However, my sister in law is calling me out on Facebook for being sexist and being cruel for outing her sister when we’re living in a very conservative jurisdiction of Georgia. ######

Response:
 YTA
What I gathered:
You are dating someone just 8 years older than your child.
You chose to get your wife fired because of a custody issue. Hopefully a judge will see this is as the malicious attack that it was, and will give her custody whole charging you alimony and child support as you made her unable to support herself, and your children. ######


Prompt:
So I (17m) live with my mom, dad, and sister (15). My mom often leaves for long trips by herself (I believe to get away from my dad and us) and hasn’t been here all week. My dad is a pretty extreme alcoholic and is almost never sober. He’s typically worst in the evenings, when he’s clearly intoxicated (unlike other times when it can be hard to tell). One of the things he does when he’s intoxicated is he becomes really accommodating and “providing”. He will do things like offer to buy stuff and buy us desserts and whatnot. I’ve noticed my sister asks my dad to buy her things she doesn’t need when he’s intoxicated, and he usually agrees and gives her his credit card. I don’t believe these purchases are things he would be okay with if he were sober. They never exceed a few hundred dollars, but I still have a problem. I feel like my sister is taking advantage of my dad when he’s not sober, my mom is not home, and he isn’t able to say no to her. I’m thinking about saying something, but I don’t know if that would make me an AH. I’d be implying that my dad is incapable of making decisions (he denies he has a drinking problem) and that my sister is manipulative. My sister always feigns ignorance when I ask her about my dad’s drinking, so I’m tired of trying to ask her politely.

TL;DR I feel my sister is taking advantage of my alcoholic father when he isn’t sober by asking him to buy her things. I have tried bringing up the subject, but my sister pretends she has no idea what I’m taking about. WIBTA if I told her I’m disgusted by her behavior? ######

Response:
 YTA
The person you should be angry at in this situation is your dad. It is his responsibility to set clear boundaries, and to be taking care of her rather than drinking so much he’ll let her convince him to do whatever she wants. ######


Prompt:
I don’t care that “I bought it for her” or anything like that.. but she is 5’1 120 and goes on runs at night.

Her area isn’t bad but it gets shadier 10-15 miles out in a couple directions.

I got her this armband that holds pepper spray that she wore for a while and admitted was uncomfortable.

She said I can’t control what she wears (there’s no issue around “what she wears” in any other circumstance, she can wear a crop top and low cut jeans to a bar for all I care) which I get but I just want her to be safe.

I got noticeably annoyed the third time “she forgot” and now we are in a tiff.

Am I overstepping boundaries? ######

Response:
 YTA
Listen buddy, these girls have been dealing with this stuff for way longer than you have. You dont think that each time she goes out for a run that she knows the risk she is taking? She has had to deal with those risks her whole life and I'm sure it's always in the back of her head even if you dont tell her to wear that bracelet

It is her choice on how she wants to handle her life and it wont help you in the long run to act like you know what's best for her, even if you have the best intentions. ######


Prompt: Been dating for 4 months now and honestly one of the things I find attractive about her, is her voice. However that's most likely fake and a tone that she keeps up. My girlfriend's native language isn't English . She speaks another language too. I only speak English and can understand a bit of Spanish. I barely hear her talk in her own language but for the past week or so. She's been talking in her language more often as her brother came to town and they've been planning to meet and call often. I notice that she sounds different when she speaks her language and her voice isn't as high pitched or cute. I thought maybe I was being weird so I tried to listen to her whenever she spoke and it's true. She's faking it so I called her out and told her that it's okay she can speak in her actual tone and doesn't need to fake it anymore for me. Instead she got pissed and called me an asshole telling me that's how she sounds when she speaks English. she's not responding to my texts and is ignoring me. I've always respected her tbh..never hurt or did anything bad and she just doesn't wanna talk now. AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA
It isn't uncommon to have a different tone of voice when switching languages. You're not calling her out, you're assuming. ######


Prompt:
Happened last Friday.

Me: 21M
Her 20F

First of all, I have absolutely nothing against under-aged drinking. I drank a fuck ton all the time underage that I would buy from friends.

With that being out of the way, we go to college in Wisconsin where the law states that somebody can be served underage if they are with a 21+ parent or spouse. She and I just so happened to have the same last name as it’s a very common one.

So we were at this restaurant and my girlfriend forgot her fake ID, so she just showed her real one and said we were married. We’ve been together almost a year now, and I really love her, but this was just something that really shocked me you know? So I said “no we’re just dating.” The waiter gave her a *look* and didn’t serve her.

She was really annoyed about that the whole dinner, and even now she’s kind of still annoyed.

AITA for what I said? ######

Response:
 YTA
If you’re ok with her using a fake ID, you shouldn’t have embarrassed her like that. ######


Prompt:
I wanted a quick 15-second animation done from a friend. The animation would form a segment of a short PSA video for my college video, so the animation quality itself doesn't need to be high. I asked my friend who does animation for a commission, and she said 200 dollars. Now I don't know anything about art so I trusted her that this is a standard price, but I couldn't afford this at all. However if it were 100 dollars instead it would fit in my budget, which is what I told her. I told her I'd be very grateful for her help, that I'd be happy to do her favors in the future, etc. After this she agreed to 100 dollars. So I paid her and now she's working on it.

Then, one of her friends found out and told me that I'm an asshole for haggling the price. The thing is that SHE AGREED to 100 dollars. I would have either found someone else or asked for something cheaper had she said no, but she said yes instead. So I don't understand what this second friend is pissed off about. ######

Response:
 YTA
Friends of all people should know that independent work is always underpaid no matter what you are selling ...
you should have made a point of paying her asking price - instead of abusing your friendship.
Same way you should pay your coffee in your mates coffee shop. It’s those guys lifelyhood and as a friend of all things this you should pay the going rate ######


Prompt: I (34F) teach a freshman biology class. Today, I wanted to see if my students would keep their integrity while doing distance learning, so I created a test. I made a quiz on a unit we haven't covered yet, and released it to the class. Lots of students got inexplicably correct answers, despite not studying the subject. I revealed that it was all just a test and those who had gotten correct answers would be given a zero for academic dishonesty. Several of the students protested and said it wasn't fair, but I stand by what I did. AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA
First off, some students may actually already know the material so punishing them is deeply unfair. Second, creating a culture of mistrust through entrapment does nothing to help people learn. Use it as an object lesson, but don’t mess with people’s grades. ######


Prompt:
My friend (27, F) says she has a connective tissue disorder and says this affects her entire body and for nearly a decade she has a condition where the pressure of the fluid in her brain is low and this causes her brain to be inflamed which causes headaches, seizures and causes her to 'constantly hear things'.

I've seen her 'seizures' and what happens is her eyelids will twitch rapidly or her bicep will start twitching or the corners of her mouth will twitch, it's weird but she's fully conscious when these happen. She says they can happen constantly some days and they're annoying. She also says she doesn't sleep because of her symptoms and she's really depressed all the time.

I tell her to help me with stuff (physical stuff) and she says she doesn't feel like doing anything because she feels bad physically and also because she feels too depressed to do anything. She says she misses the time when she felt well and thinks about it constantly and she says each month she's getting worse.

Well tonight I told her to get something from a room and the room had a broken light so it was dark since it was dark out. She said she was 'feeling' for the thing she was asked to get and I kept having to explain to her where the thing was, she ended up getting the wrong one so I told her to go back. I said in a kind of angry tone ''this is life skills [her name]'' and she got angry at me and she said when it's dark she goes blind because she sees ''static'' in her vision or something like that.

I also told her she was really lazy and she should do more stuff rather than be at the computer or in bed all day, because my dad is 60 and he goes to work every day (she doesn't work and hasn't had a job).

She hasn't been speaking to me since and I feel like I may of done something wrong. AITA here? I am 29, M. ######

Response:
 YTA
Also, shower more. ######


Prompt:
I enjoy going to massage parlors every so often, especially if I worked many hours. I see it as a way to wind down. As such, I am generally familiar with the rates/what to expect.

I decided to try a new massage parlor that isn't too far from where I live. I went down there and the girl who gave me the massage was very nice and talkative. She was actually very skilled and gave a great massage, and my back/legs felt loose. I was so satisfied with it that as she ended the massage, I asked if she provided any extras. Fortunately she did and she wanted me to pay an additional $175.

I wasn't sure what she would do and I won't bore anyone with the details, but she only provided 5 minutes of service and it wasn't even that good. Other massage places would only charge like $100 for even better services and I felt she was ripping me off.

After it was all said and done, I complained to her that I felt she charged too much. She essentially just shrugged her shoulders and I told her I won't ever go back again and the business lost a potential long termed client because she is greedy.

Now if she had TOLD ME what to expect, I wouldn't have been annoyed and would politely decline, was I the asshole for complaining to her about it? ######

Response:
 YTA

You’re mad that your HJ cost too much? Please, try reporting this to the BBB. I’d love to see how that works out. ######


Prompt:
I was babysitting 2 kids, 11 and 13 years old and I took them to the petting zoo. The goats were having sex and the kids were confused and asked me what they were doing and I tried to change the subject but they kept pestering me so I said they were having sex.

They asked me what sex was so I told them. I didnt go into detail but I just said Male and female animaks, including humans, do that to create babies, the male does it and it makes the female pregnant.

They kept asking more and more questions, I was shocked at this age they didnt know what sex was, so I told them a bit more and left.

Parents found out and fired me and told me it was not my job to teach them that and were fucking pissed. Everyone else says in in the wrong here ######

Response:
 yta

you should have said mating and left it at that. 'ask your parents' is a great phrase to use if theres ever a next time ######


Prompt: My friend has desperately wanted a pair of Vans Classics but can't afford £60 for them. Today we met up and she had a pair on which I was surprised at but she was so excited to finally have a pair. I asked her where she got them from and she said eBay. I commented on the fact she's said she can't afford a pair but she said with a massive smile 'I got them for £15, someone was selling their old ones that they have barely worn'. The shoes did look pretty new but I told her wearing second hand shoes is disgusting as you don't know who's worn them before you and what germs they might be carrying on their feet. She told me to mind my own business as not everyone can afford brand new stuff and she grew up being dressed in charity shops due to her parents being poor. I told her clothes are different as you wash them before wearing them which she sharply replied 'well I'll wash these shoes if you're going to make such a big deal about it' and changed the subject. I'm starting to feel a bit bad now for what I said as she genuinely seemed hurt ######

Response:
 YTA

Well done for raining on her parade.

I keep thinking about the massive smile on her face disappearing after listening to your judgemental crap and it makes me feel so sad. ######


Prompt:
I work for this factory, i'm pretty much a foreman and supervisor for my team. It's a factory job, i liked it. My guys respected me even though i was a woman. I got my son (22) a job here as well, mostly as an assistant to the other supervisors, just a little desk job.  He likes it enough. He hasn't been able to find a job because of the virus, so i got him a job here.

I'd been here for a couple years. But a few days ago, they informed me that i was being let go, just from my current position. They offered me a lower paying position though. That's not what made me quit, i was gonna try to be a company woman. The person they wanted to bring in to replace me, they literally wanted me to be the one to train them. They want me to train my REPLACEMENT. They wouldn't even tell me why i was being bumped. That was a huge insult.

I was furious and just quit then and there. I told them they could find another stooge. When my son got home, i asked him politely to quit. But he told me no, not because of the money, but there's this girl he likes there. It led into a bit of an argument, i asked him to do it for me. I basically begged him to do so, to call the boss and tell him he's quitting. I told him i didn't want to work for a company that would do this to his mom. But he just asked "What am i supposed to do now? Nobody's hiring" and how he's upset he won't get to see her again.

Was it wrong of me to use my son to help make a statement? ######

Response:
 YTA

This is your sons income and you should be happy that they’re treating him well. Period.
As for him liking a girl at work, that’s neither here nor there, but if she’s interested in him then good for them.

It’s very selfish of you to expect your son give up his income and job experience because you chose to quit. You were justified in quitting, and that’s fine. But you need to understand that that move was about you, and you only. Don’t involve your kid. ######


Prompt:
My best friend and I are the type to always pull pranks on each other, it's just how our friendship formed and we always get a kick out of it.

For example, he once invited me to a party and told me to wear a costume and when I got there, it was normal attire. I laughed after the initial embarrassment, and like I said we are comfortable enough to do that to each other.

He held a wedding this past weekend, (socially distant, everyone was spread out and it was entirely outdoors). In the weeks leading up to the wedding, I told my girlfriend to wear white as it was expected all the women would wear it. She was reluctant but I told her that it was just a quirky thing the bridge and groom were doing, so she said "ok" and bought a white dress.

When we got to the wedding, it was standard wedding attire and my girlfriend was mortified. When my best friend saw what I had done, he was cracking up and joked "I guess you two are getting married instead of us!"

The bride was pissed off and made a huge deal out of it. Normally she is really chill so I was surprised by her anger. My friend even tried to calm her down and told her it was just clothing and it doesn't change anything.

Now I feel incredibly bad by what happened. I really didn't think it was a big deal. I personally think this is being blown out of proportion but I don't know. ######

Response:
 YTA

The jokes are between you and your friend. Pulling in others that aren’t aware that you’re making them a pawn in your game makes you absolutely AH.

And wearing white on a wedding day is not an appropriate prank. They spent money on that occasion and invited you to join in their happiness. Instead, you made it about you.

You should apologize. Immediately.

Edit: Thank you for the award! 😊 ######


Prompt: “Fuck you” she said, after I told her I would be back from the gym at 7:30, just like last night. She refuted I wasn’t there at 7:30, that I didn’t get home until 8. I told her I was indeed there at 7:30, I just sat on the driveway because I was speaking with a client. As soon as I clarify that, she said: “why do you have to snap at me, fuck you”.  WTH, why does clarifying to her the time I got back in my defense, made her snap like that? In front of our 8 year old son too smh! I have not talked to her ever since, I left after the fuck you to the gym and feel so disrespected, I don’t know if I should say something or not, because I don’t want to be cursed at again. AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA

The fact that you need to be right about this to me indicates that it’s more important for you to be superior than to understand why it was important to your wife for you to be home.

She had plans, you knew about them. 5 min late because you wanted to reschedule a work call for business hours is a far cry away from 30 min yack yack yack when you knew you were expected.

Your wife is at her wits end with your self-absorption. She shouldn’t have snapped at you in front of your kid. But, as a divorced woman myself, it would have taken me to be at the total fucking end of my rope to have done that.

If you want to stay married, I would encourage you to be more concerned about partnership and good communication, than being right. ######


Prompt:
I'm (27M), My wife (23F) has 4 days off this coming week and took them off to have some down time for her birthday....Fri, Sat, Sun & Mon are her off days.

I have some family coming in my town on Saturday afternoon from far away that I haven't seen in over a year, I would like to see my family for just a few hours on Sat. But wife completely refuses to attend because it's her birthday weekend and she says "I don't wanna go to a stupid family reunion for my birthday weekend."

Wife has no plans on Saturday afternoon and has already texted my parents, saying she's "busy & has other plans" & "sorry can't make it" even though my wife has zero plans.

My family really loves my wife & enjoy my wife's company so there is zero family conflict or tension.

AITA for wanting us to attend a family reunion for just a few hours on Saturday when she has 4 days off & no plans??  Please help! ######

Response:
 YTA

She’s busy. Doing nothing. ######


Prompt:
I [19F] have been living with my boyfriend [18M] and his parents and his sister [18F] for a couple of months. His parents were out. His sister was sick. It got worse. She threw up on herself and hadn't showered in a couple of days. She was sweaty, dizzy, and weak. After she threw up on herself he helped her to the bathroom and put her in the bath tub. He stood there with a trash can when she threw up a couple more times while she washed up. He helped her out, held her up so she would not lose balance while she dried herself off (she was still naked and he was holding her!) and took her back to bed. I was already uncomfortable with him being with her while she was naked but I watched and noticed that when he helped her out of the bath, the entier side of her boob was pressed against his bare arm for like 10 seconds. It was obviously not intentional but it made me feel so uncomfortable.

After my bf dismissed my concerns, I told his parents what I saw. They are very conservative so I knew they wouldn't approve of him helping her in that way and I agreed with them in this situation. They were not happy. My boyfriend is now mad at me. Honestly I would not have even told them or cared that much if his arm hadn't made contact with her breast like that, that was just too much for me. It really crossed a line. ######

Response:
 YTA

She was sick and needed help.  You sound like a creep.  What would you have preferred she laid there helpless? Or fell in the tub?

What do you think is going to happen when you get older? Someone may have to help you who is not your SO. Are you going to automatically sexualize them moment?

You broke his trust and are being gross. ######


Prompt: We work at a large grocery store, and she recently got hired for customer service alongside me. She looks a bit younger than me at around 18-19 years old. She is the type of worker that is always cheery and upbeat, which I have no problem with. But she is so cringy and seems like she is begging for attention. She has a thing where she pretends to be a motivational speaker and starts telling the customers stuff like "don't say I'm having a bad day, say I'm having a character-building day", "It's better to aim high and miss, than aim low and hit", "If you do what is easy, your life will be hard.. but if you do what is hard, your life will be easy", "don't stop until you're living your dreams", etc. It is so cringy, and I told her that it's so unnecessary and seems like she is begging for attention, and an elderly woman said that what she is doing is unique and I should worry about myself. AITA?? ######

Response:
 YTA

Old lady is right ######