Prompt:
I can’t remember if it was a weeknight or not which is relevant but oh well.

Regardless the park closes at 11 and some kids were gathered being super loud and smoking weed which I didn’t mind until after the park closed and I got fed up. So I decided to take action.  I put my speaker outside of my window, blasted the hamster dance song, and waited.  Five minutes later I stopped and they had gone!  Am I the Asshole?  They weren’t hurting anyone just being annoying late at night and I was def a dick but was I the asshole? ######

Response:
 YTA but that is hilarious I remember when that first came out, It is annoying as all hell looking back and cringing lol
yes it is annoying with a loud music but you didn't hurt anyone you didn't threaten anyone you're a funny arsehole..
And it lasted 5 minutes it's not like you did it for hours..

Maybe next time just warn the neighbours well at least the ones around you or leave a note , that your just trying to get rid of some teenage kids doing teenage kids dumb stuff.. ######


Prompt:
There was a family reunion planned this month that got canceled for the obvious reasons, and that was where I was going to come out to my dad's side of the family. I don't care that much about coming out (I'm very privileged that I never had to guess if the important people in my life would love me regardless), and I wasn't going to make a speech or anything, just use it as a comeback when they make comments about how I don't have a boyfriend or want kids. They're much more conservative, so honestly that seemed to me the best way to go about it.

So in lieu of traveling cross state lines for the reunion, my dad asked me and my brother to come to his house for dinner with his wife. I don't know how much Dad's known about my identity (my mom knew I was gay before I did) as getting him to talk with me about anything deeper than what movies are good is akin to having a door slammed in my face. During dinner, the subject of my (sadly nonexistent) relationship comes up and since I was planning to anyway, officially tell him I'm into women. No one reacts much, and that's fine. I honestly didn't expect anything. I leave a few hours later.

My brother messages me later to tell me dad was unhappy with my news. He was quite upset, in fact. The only specific thing he would tell me was "dad's wife is going to set you up with the new guy in her office because that'll knock some sense into you." My brother won't confirm, but I really think my father is implying I just need to get laid, and that will "fix" me.

So I messaged my father saying that actually this is all his fault because he was a bad dad and a weak male role model, and also he could go to hell. He hasn't replied, but his wife keeps messaging me about how I'm an ungrateful, mean girl.

Did I choose a bad time to come out? I think maybe social dstancing is eating at all of us but I'm still upset.

tl;dr: I came out during a family dinner, and retaliated when it was implied I just needed to get laid. ######

Response: YTA but only for implying that sexuality is a choice that you made because of something he did or said. ######


Prompt:
My ex has been dating this woman for 3 years and she has been in my kids’ life since he was 2.  I absolutely hate that my son likes this woman and talks about her as I feel like the only reason is because my ex forced my son to hang around her.  My son already has a mom and doesn’t need another person confusing him by trying to parent him.

My ex says he asks her to help and appreciates her supporting him but isn’t it his job as the dad to parent his own son?

One example is she told my son to use his inside voice when he was screaming in the car while my ex was allegedly driving.  My ex claims that he couldn’t handle him by himself because he was driving the car but how is it her right to tell my kid to shut up????

So I told my son that dad’s gf is a dumb lady and a stranger and only dad can tell him what to do.  My son went and repeated this to my ex and now he is pissed at me calling me an asshole because “it’s his GFs apartment too” and she “helps out a lot with the kids”.

AITA for just being a protective mom? ######

Response: Yta but not for being a protective mom. You’re being TA. You’re just trying to stick it to your ex and his gf. Your son will be the one who suffers from it.  Very childish. ######


Prompt:
On my way to bed, I realized I had to send an important email before tomorrow.

While I was writing this email, my wife asked me if the parent of our kid's friend's full name was [redacted]. I told her I didn't know. Then she wanted to know what autodeposit on electronic funds transfer was. I told her it was pretty much what it sounds like. Then she asked whether that meant [redacted] had an account at the same bank as her. I told her I had no idea. At this point I'd completely lost my train of thought with the email, so when she asked me why someone would get autodeposit, I snapped at her and said "what are you trying to do?" She said she was sending [redacted] some money we owed her for some kid-related activity.

I put down my laptop and walked over to her quickly and said something along the lines of "let me see that", looked at her screen was like "if this is the email address you have for [redatcted], then it's probably going to transfer money to [redacted], but if you don't think the name is right, then don't do it." I was very curt with her and stomped back over to my laptop and tried to get back to my email.

Now I feel like an asshole because she told me I hurt her feelings and went off to bed. I could have told her I was in the middle of something. She also could have been a lot more explicit about what she was trying to figure out, instead of interrupting me every few minutes for 10 minutes.

Shit. Pretty sure AITA after reading this. ######

Response:
 YTA but it is understandable to be annoyed when interrupted. We all have things that push our buttons.

 A key technique when considering an argument with a loved one (both at the time, and when trying to make things right afterwards) is to think 'Did they genuinely intend to annoy me, or make me feel hurt, or was it a genuine mistake or misunderstanding?'. If you have good people in your life, then it's always a misunderstanding... And once you take the intent out if it, it's much easier to discuss and make up. It's also good to put that in the discussion too, like 'I'm really sorry I snapped at you. I know you didn't intend to interrupt me, but I was trying to concentrate, and lost my train of thought. I should have been more patient, or asked you to give me a few minutes.' ######


Prompt:
My niece usually hang around me when I play video games or watch movies on my computer. Recently I decided to quit smoking so I had a small bowl filled with chewing gums, candies, etc. on my desk. Whenever I felt the urge to smoke I would just grab em.

My niece also enjoys them and I never mind at all.

Today my candy stock was gone and I was planning to refill them in the evening. My niece arrived to watch me play video games and she hand a handful of candies which she got from my Mum. I asked her for a candy and she flatly refused, so I told her, "Go away, I don't want to hang out with a miser". I admit I didn't really meant what I said to her but I was also annoyed. She left and I immediately regret that I told her off. She's just acting like a child after all but I think she's still angry at me during dinner.

AITA? ######

Response: YTA but I don't think anyone has ever quit smoking without being a bit of an asshole. ######


Prompt:
So because things are starting to open up, they’ve loosened the restrictions on gatherings in my country. To celebrate my brother recently graduating college, we decided to have a small barbecue.

We invited a few people who we knew took the quarantine seriously and probably weren’t sick, and one of them is vegan. We knew she was vegan but we told her when we invited her that there would be hamburgers and hot dogs.

Anyways, everybody came and everything went fine until we started eating. Our vegan friend brought her girlfriend with her as her plus one and her girlfriend began complaining that she was hungry. The problem is, she is vegan too. We didn’t have any fruits or vegetables in the kitchen, so we didn’t know what to do.

Her girlfriend got really mad at us and left without her partner because we didn’t provide her any food that she could eat. AITA for not providing anything? ######

Response: YTA but how do you not have a single vegetable/fruit/vegan food in your whole house???? you have to have scurvy or smth??? ######


Prompt: I'm a cashier at my local supermarket and I live in the United States in a small town where about 50% of the population is hispanic. Most of them speak Spanish and English, varying in abilities in each language. I'm a white guy who also happens to speak both languages and I often speak to people in spanish if they prefer it. As a cashier at my local grocery store sometimes I make snap judgments as to what language people speak and most will tell me which they prefer if I get it wrong. Today, one person got pretty mad at me for assuming him and his family speaks Spanish. I quickly apologized and they went on their way. On the way out I heard him speak to his wife. In Spanish. AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA But a small one. You should never assume what language someone speaks because of how they look, those are some very dangerous grounds to get into in this day and age.

Unfortunately, the fact they did speak Spanish doesn't change the outcome, even if you were right.

Edit: Get a pin or something that says "I also speak Spanish!". This way they have to start, and you avoid assuming. ######


Prompt:
I was playing uno with my family, and I had to team with my sister. I didn't want to do this cause she was known for being absolutely awful at UNO, so I asked to do individuals, but my parents said no.  The entire game, she ignored my directions, and at one point, even accused me of cheating.

Over the course of the game, she made me lose my UNO over 8 times, making my parents win the game. I was getting really annoyed, and she was playing the victim card knowing that my parents favor her. After the 9th time, I snapped, calling her an "INCOMPETENT SNAIL". she started crying, and everyone blamed me for it. I wouldn't have a reason to do that if she didn't not listen to my directions. AITA? ######

Response: YTA but ‘incompetent snail’ is pretty funny. ######


Prompt: So I’m quite high up in the public sector and my friend, we’ll call him Don, broke the lockdown to take his wife Maria and their 4-year-old son out to a castle on her birthday. Don works for me so the rules don’t really apply to him and since it got out I’ve been put under incredible pressure to sack him. The thing is, I’ve been promoted way above my level of competence (mostly by demonstrating my private education with frequent use of Latin) and I can’t do my job without him. He’s a smashing chap who knows how to get things done, sticks it to the lefties and is happy to break all the rules to get me what I want/need. However I’m also quite vain and have a real need to be liked (particularly by the ladies) and am finding all this kerfuffle rather unedifying. My other friend Jacob suggested the proles on reddit could cheer me up with some support so here I am! I’m not an asshole for keeping Don on the payroll, am I? Vi Veri Veniversum Vivus Vici ######

Response: Yta Boris. I can’t stress this enough. It’s not even about the post. You’re just an ass ######


Prompt:
I had a girlfriend in college that is to this day still the love of my life.

A couple years ago we reconnected face to face.

She’s been in trouble with the law and when she was incarcerated we wrote each other whenever we could and when she got out I got her a job at my business and helped pay for her first apartment.

We began talking about the fact that she became pregnant with my baby when we were dating but she miscarried. She told me that she didn’t tell me before but it’s a girl.

Around that time my wife got pregnant and happened to get pregnant right when I was going to call quits on our passionless marriage. We were barely having sex and I was only doing it with her out of pity for her constant nagging.

I felt so trapped by the baby and every day going home was like preparing myself for the hell that was playing house with a frigid emotional robot.

I was tortured by what could be and when the baby was born I realized the only way I could stand to stay in the sham that was my marriage was to have something to remind me of happiness. So I suggested the name “ Amber” and my wife agreed to the name.

Now my daughter is 7 and my wife discovered that I’ve been working everyday with my ex girlfriend and helping her secure food places to live.

She blew up and said she can’t even look at our daughter now. But when we were discussing names she was the frigid one who just shrugged at everything I said, and now she wants to put the blame back on me.

And she wants to rob me of the fact that most parents name their kids after something significant to them. Aka she wants me to pretend those feelings for my ex girlfriend never happened. That she can treat me snippily for years on end and still have 100 percent of my affection.

AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA big time

This sounds so ridiculous it has to be fake. How can you not realize how shitty and wrong this is? ######


Prompt:
This happened early in March and I've been constantly thinking back on this because I don't know if I was being an asshole in this situation or not.

I was out on my run at a large park that is near by. There is a playground near one of the edges, and behind it there are a bunch of short nature trails that lead out to a parking lot. I was running on one of these trails and coming from the direction of the playground, I saw a black woman (she looked around early 30's) holding the hand of a white child (he looked around 7-9).

Unfortunately I know this is coming off as discriminatory, but the white child was very pale and the black woman was very dark, so I figured he wasn't mixed and that she wasn't his mother.

I ran past them but I stopped. I wasn't sure if the child was being kidnapped, and I'd rather be called racist and be wrong than not say anything and be right. I walked back up to them and yelled "HEY" to make them stop. They both looked at me and I asked her "is this your child?"

The woman glared at me and said no, she's watching him. I ignored her and asked the child "do you know this woman?" He looked nervous and said "yeah" which made me more suspicious. She took his hand and kept walking and I followed them out to the parking lot. I yelled out to her "if you try to leave I'll call the fucking cops on you."

She got on her phone and she yelled back to me that she was calling the mother's child to pick up her kid and give her a ride back to her own home. About 10 minutes of waiting, another white women pulled up into the lot and they both glared at me (She had told the mother what was going on during the phone call).

I realize they probably think I am racist, but I didn't want the child to risk being harmed. ######

Response:
 YTA big time.

Do you not realize nanny’s exist? Babysitters? ADOPTION? Unless that child was screaming or pulling away looking terrified, you had absolutely no right to say shit.

You’re without a doubt racist as fuck and should be ashamed of yourself. ######


Prompt:
My younger brother is married to an Indian woman who is very nice, and I only have a single issue with. She will wear Indian clothes to family events even though we are white. She looks very out of place and I think its disrespectful to not dress according to what is required. When we go to weddings that request formal wear, she will wear a sari or a lengha (but nothing that overshadows or is more decorative than what other people are wearing). She says that she would prefer to spend money on clothes she will wear more often, and doesn't want to buy a new dress when she already has formal clothes for events.

 If we go to events on her family's side, she will lend me and my daughter outfits. I offered to lend her an outfit but she said she prefers to wear her own clothes, and said she only offers me clothes so that I don't feel left out or out of place.

Some other family members think its odd as well. My cousin is getting married in December and my aunt asked me to bring it up with her. She said she doesn't want my SIL in a costume for the wedding and she has to dress appropriately or not come at all. AITA for telling her this or is she TA for not respecting a dress code? ######

Response:
 YTA big time.

"She will wear Indian clothes to family events even though we are white" yeah you're white, she's not. She is wearing clothes that are part of her culture and identity. And you all suck for trying to change that. She has every rigth to wear her clothes where ever she wants just like you are allowed to wear clothes that you wear. ######


Prompt:
I (34M) have been raising my sister (17F) for the past 7 years. Our mom passed away and had her via sperm donor, so I got custody. Our mother was a pretty wealthy person, with expectations for both of us. While we both have trust funds and college funds set up, our mom didn’t want us going to college for anything “frivolous” in her mind. She didn’t require me to go after a certain degree but said she wouldn’t pay for my college if it was pursued through the arts. I never wanted to get such a degree and ended up going into engineering. Before she died, she told me that she had put aside money for my sister’s education and that I could use it towards that, as long as she didn’t study the arts.

My sister is graduating this year and she’s been accepted into several colleges. Now, I’ve always known that my sister is artistically talented. She loves drawing and painting. When we last spoke, she wanted to get an architecture degree, which I felt fit her other talents as well. Then I found out she had applied to two universities’ art programs and she really wants to go. She would like to one day be an animator or storybook illustrator. The thing is, her college fund could pay for one of these universities but I know that it wasn’t what our mother had in mind. I told her that and said that I promised our mother I’d never use the money for that and if she wanted to major in it, she’d be on her own. My sister says that’s unfair because she’d be able to get no aid since I make too much (probably true) and she doesn’t want to be in debt.

I spoke with our grandmother and she thinks I’m being a nitpicky asshole. Yet my grandfather thinks I should stick to what my mother wants. The issue is she didn’t put it in writing. So, I could do with it what I wanted. AITA here if I don’t pay for my sister’s tuition? ######

Response: YTA big time. You are prioritizing the wishes of a dead family member, instead of the needs and future well-being of your currently very alive family member. I assure you, if your mother was alive and posted here saying "AITA for wanting to fund my kids' studies but only if they don't pursue an arts degree" she would be universally voted as an asshole and a controlling parent, [like these guys here from just today's example](https://old.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/fy3fyl/aita_for_how_my_wife_and_i_reacted_to_our/). ######


Prompt: So my step daughter (20)  moved in with me, my husband (her father) and our two children (13F & 15M) at the start of lockdown because I don’t know, she wanted to. She’s was adopted by my husband and his ex wife because her  biological mom died when she was almost 5, and had been a druggie and things like that. She never had a dad. So it is understandable that she has some mental heath issues because of it. Sometimes she’ll just think too much and cry randomly, and other things. so she’s in therapy. She also sometimes has overreactions to anger and stuff. So here’s the situation. The other day I wanted to go out with my daughter for our daily walk, just mother  and daughter. We do this 3-4 times a week. This time, (she has never asked before) my stepdaughter asked if she could come too, she could really do with a walk because of her anxiety and blah blah blah. I don’t think she should’ve asked because she still had chores to do and it was meant to be just me and my daughter. She said she would really like to come, but I said she hadn’t done her chores so she couldn’t come. She looked upset but just went off to her room. When we got back, I was tidying some stuff and went to check if her room was clean and found her crying. Honestly, I thought it was pathetic because it was only a walk and she could have just gone on her own after her walk. I walked back out, told my husband and he called me a massive jerk and went to go and console my stepdaughter. So AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA big time. Like that was way harsh, Tai. She was trying to connect to you as a human being and also to get outside and you exclude her? Like, you realize that this is a family and not high school. You can't tell her to sit at the other lunch table. Using the chores as an excuse us such weaksauce. She's 20, not a child. Plus, you wouldn't have wanted her to come even if she had finished them, so don't hide behind chores.

You clearly resent her for existing and, more to the point, you don't welcome her. She feels this. This will come between you and your husband and your marriage and you need to grow up and cut the mean girl crap out right now. Be more open to her when she's trying. And you apologize to her and make sure the next time you go for a walk, you do it with both of your daughters by explicitly and warmly asking her if she'd like to join you. Your life will be improved if you make effort to. Both of you have to build the bridge from each side if this is to work...and if you do, it will have been worth it. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway because my girlfriend knows my main.

I (30M) have been living with my girlfriend (27F) for a while and mostly it’s been great. The problem is this: she gets tension headaches from time to time. Not too often, but often enough. The way she prefers to deal with these headaches is wrapping an ace bandage around her head. She says it helps putting consistent pressure on her head. I asked her why she doesn’t just use ibuprofen she said it doesn’t always work and they happen frequently enough she doesn’t want to over-use it, besides.

This doesn’t make sense to me. It doesn’t just stop working sometimes. I just think she doesn’t want to take it and is making up reasons.

The problem I have with it is the ace bandages make her look ridiculous. Like a mummy and her hair gets all crazy. Sometimes she wraps them around her eyes too so she just lays there looking dead.

So today when she started wrapping her head I told her it looks dumb and offered her an ibuprofen. She tried to tell me she didn’t want it, but I told her I was less attracted to her when she wrapped her head up. I said it nicely, but she looked hurt and took the bandages off. She took the ibuprofen and unwrapped her head and we continued watching tv. Even an hour later she was still wincing like she had a headache and eventually she just got up, took the bandage, and went to our room.  I asked what was up and she said she’d prefer to talk after her headache.

She’s making me feel guilty and like im TA but I was only being honest! I try to look nice for her, why wouldn’t she want to do that for me? ######

Response:
 YTA big time, I hate being that person to say it, but wtf you told her you find her less attractive with the bandage on her head while she’s in pain???? Wtf

And as someone who regularly gets migraines and tension headaches, no painkillers rarely work and get rid of the pain completely, she has her way to deal with it, let her, but I also suggest she see a doctor if she hasn’t already because she might have a trigger food that she doesn’t know but honestly you really hurt your girlfriend, you should go apologise to her and figure out a way for you to be out of her space when she gets headaches again. ######


Prompt:
This was about a week ago. I got into a minor car accident at a crossroads, car was a bit fucked and I was a bit shaken up but obviously everything was absolutely fine. I was on my way to work so I got a taxi to work and texted my girlfriend telling her I’d been in a car crash but it was nothing serious, turned my phone off and got to work. I work in a hospital so the hours are pretty intense.

I’m not the best at using my phone, and because my girlfriend lives in the town we go to college in, about three hours away, we don’t get to see each other that much during the summer. I got home from my shift that night and went to sleep, forgetting to charge my phone. I had 12 hour shifts the next couple days so just forgot about what had happened because I was so tired and went to sleep the second I got home from my shift.

Three days after the accident my best friend turns up at my house asking what the fuck had happened and whether I was okay. I was super confused because I hadn’t mentioned it to anyone other than my girlfriend. He then shows me his phone and my girlfriend had been just spamming him asking what was going on and whether I was okay and apparently she got super worried, which I do get, but I literally told her it was nothing serious.

She’s now extremely pissed off at me and saying she can’t trust me anymore and that I’m unreliable but she’s the one who got herself worked up over nothing. AITA? ######

Response: YTA because you're currently in an LDR and didn't check your phone for three days despite working in a hospital during a pandemic. She had reason to be worried unless you expressly told her it was just a fender bender ######


Prompt:
My sister (22f) was recently terminated from her sales clerk position. she worked enough hours to pay her bills and her share of rent with her roommate but had no savings. she's been a thorn in my side and the family's side this happening; crying, fits of anger, you get the idea

I have 2 kids, one who is on the spectrum (8m). the other is 5f. I've been searching and searching for a sitter/tutor to get some down time for myself. I saw this as a win win situation and offered my sister to watch my kids a few times the week. of course I wouldn't be able to pay her as much as she needed but it would be something to hold her over until she found something else.

before I can even get into it she rejects my offer. I try again a week later and again she says no. but of course she's whining to our parents about having no job. UM WHAT?! I finally call her out at the easter reunion saying I offered a job as a sitter/tutor and she rejected it so obviously she's not that desperate. she got snappy back and said yeah I want a real job, not working with your bratty, unbehaved kids so you can paint your nails and sit on your ass all day

I was livid and my husband had to get her out of the house before I did something rash. I text her later that day that I have no sympathy for the situation she PUT HERSELF INTO and have told my parents not to give her the slightest pity either. Her behavior is disgusting when all I was trying to do was help ######

Response: YTA because you should have dropped it after she said no the first time. Not everyone wants to work with kids, and not everyone wants to work for their family. Telling your parents that she can't find a job is not a blanket statement of "I will take any work offered by anyone" ######


Prompt:
So, just to preface, my younger sisters (16&13 respectfully) eat all the 'normal' kinds of meat - sausages, bacon, steak, etc. However, my dad asked me to cook a stew and I'd never tried lamb's heart before (my dad has and absolutely enjoys it, so had no issue, but knew my sisters would refuse to even try it), so we told them it was normal steak. Anyway, after they'd eaten it and enjoyed it, I told them what they'd actually eaten and now my younger sister is refusing to talk to me. Am I the asshole?

It's healthier, leaner and tastes the same. Plus, my dad had no issue with it. ######

Response:
 YTA because you gave them food and lied about what it was. It doesn't really matter what your opinion on whether they should like it or not was, in fact it's actually a little worse that you knew they wouldn't have chosen to eat it.

Don't get me wrong, I think it's pretty dumb / hypocritical too to eat some parts of some animals but be super morally opposed to others, but, people are entitled to their own opinions.

There's probably somewhere you draw the line about what meat is morally acceptable and what isn't too. Would you eat dog, for example? If someone told you they were giving you a steak and you found out after that it was actually dog meat, would you perhaps think that was a little out of order? You can't enforce your opinions on other people like that and not be TA unfortunately. ######


Prompt:
I love my wife, I really do. We’ve been married since we were 19, together since we were thirteen and have three children together. Our eldest is a thirteen year old girl, and we have two boys aged 7 and 5. Our sons are pretty much carbon copies of me, whereas our daughter is the carbon copy of her mother.

My wife has pretty severe ADHD, is extremely messy, has a major attitude sometimes and is incredibly forgetful and sporadic. She wasn’t diagnosed with ADHD until she was 21, and struggled a lot during her childhood, so we were extra cautious to look for covert signs with our daughter.

The older our daughter gets, the more she is displaying very obvious ADHD traits to me. Whether they are or not, she’s extremely forgetful, unmotivated, messy, has absolutely no coordination. Like it was with my wife in the beginning, I found it endearing. Now I find it extremely frustrating. Our daughter is currently on an ADHD assessment waiting list.

Last night my wife and I were in bed talking about our daughter, as she’s recently told us she’s got a new boyfriend. I ended up saying that I noticed she’s been really forgetful recently, and my wife laughed and said “she’s got that from me” and I said “don’t know why you’re laughing like it’s a good thing, it’s pissing me off”. She stopped laughing and apologised but seemed really upset. I’ve tried to apologise but it’s true, it’s not a good thing. AITA? ######

Response: YTA because you display no concern about how your daughter’s traits affect her, only about how they anger you. Also, no child is a carbon copy of a parent, start seeing your children as three individuals rather than clones of your wife and yourself. ######


Prompt: A bit of backstory, im on mobile so sorry for format. So my daughter (23 F) doesnt leave her room much at all. She tends to play video games way too much as she says it helps her depression. I frequently ask her to sit outside with me in our garden as a bit of sunshine might help her feel better yet she always refuses either saying she doesnt want to or shes busy playing games with her friends. I recently bought a hammock for my husband and my daughter took a liking to it. She has sat in it every day since. Today she asked if i would sit outside with her and i refused saying im busy watchinng TV. She got a little offended and said i always ask her to go outside and now she is i wont sit with her. Am i the asshole for not going outside with her? ######

Response:
 YTA because you are the parent, and your kiddo finally showed interest in doing the thing you have been trying to get her to do.

It's a discouraging response, not a supportive one. ######


Prompt:
I can’t remember if it was a weeknight or not which is relevant but oh well.

Regardless the park closes at 11 and some kids were gathered being super loud and smoking weed which I didn’t mind until after the park closed and I got fed up. So I decided to take action.  I put my speaker outside of my window, blasted the hamster dance song, and waited.  Five minutes later I stopped and they had gone!  Am I the Asshole?  They weren’t hurting anyone just being annoying late at night and I was def a dick but was I the asshole? ######

Response: YTA because you also were blasting it to your neighbors. ######


Prompt:
For context, we are in our late 20’s.

I had headphones on and was watching some NSFW context. My girl came home from work earlier than expected and caught me doing it.

The first thing she does is ask a series of questions. The conversation goes like so:

Her: *Is this the stuff you usually watch?*

Me: *Uh... it varies*

Her: *Do you think she is prettier than me..?*

Me: *I am not really comparing.*

Her: *Be honest!*

Me: *What do you want me to say now?!*

Her: *Tell the truth, would you cheat for her?*

Me: *The opportunity has not happened, idk..*

Her: *Would you be with her instead if she had my same personality? Do not lie to me please*

Me: *Possibly*.

Her: *So you would prefer some barely legal teen looking girl to me..?!*

Me: *Most guys would. She is hot*.

To that she stormed out. I have not texted her because I have no idea what to say anymore.

I get that I was a jerk, but I also think that shit games get shit prizes. She is the type of girl to ask these hypotheticals a lot and it is getting a bit exhausting to tell white lies to cater to her insecurities. It is not the first time she has asked me if I would leave her for someone younger, hotter, cheat, etc.

I was finally being honest and even if I had not, my answer would not have been enough. ATA?

TLDR: Girlfriend kept asking me questions because she is insecure. Was I too honest? ######

Response: YTA because when she asked if you would CHEAT on her, you really didn’t say no? Come on. What were you thinking. ######


Prompt:
We don’t live together yet, but we will be moving in together in 4 years once I complete my doctorate degree. He knows I will be bringing my cat with me when we move in, and he knows my cat hates big dogs (my cat once sent me to the ER because a 40lb dog jumped up to say hello while I was holding my cat, and my cat climbed onto my face out of fear). And now my cat will be living with a 120lb Pyrenees in a few years. I do indeed want a big dog eventually, but I was hoping to get one as a pup (once I’m already living with my partner) so my cat wouldn’t feel threatened if he could witness the pup grow up into its full size.

But my boyfriend impulsively kept a Pyrenees puppy given to his family, and he’s chosen to keep the puppy as his own without consulting me on my opinion. I understand I can’t tell him what to do since it’s his dog and his house (and perhaps it’s hypocritical of me since I have my own pet I’m looking out for), but I’m upset that he’s making this decision that will heavily affect me and my cat.

Edit: thanks for the input everyone. Definitely seems like I’m the asshole here. I’ve already offered to help puppy-proof my boyfriend’s house and help him find a vet to get started on scheduling a neuter, microchip, and vaccines. We’re going to acclimate our pets via scent until the pup is fully vaccinated and can safely visit my backyard for a meet and greet with my cat. ######

Response: YTA because ultimately this won’t be a problem for another four years. I think it’s bit unrealistic to ask someone to hold off on something for four years. Why not introduce the two now while the dog is young? Start slow, swap blankets that have the animal scents, etc. ######


Prompt:
So, I'm going to be in high school next year, and I know for a fact my schedule will be extremely, extremely busy: I'm taking 4 APs, playing varsity soccer (tryouts have already happened for next year's fall sports) and year-round competitive club lacrosse, am going to join the debate team, and have an internship with our governor.

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My goal is eventually to get into a top school  like Harvard, Yale, Princeton, Columbia, or Georgetown, and I only see my schedule getting busier and busier as the years go on. So I figured I should try to get rid of any distractions that could get in the way of my productivity, and decided to come up with a list. At the top of the list was the TV and the xbox, and I convinced my parents to get rid of them by telling them it would help my productivity.

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The problem is, this made my older sister pissed at me. She watches a lot of Netflix, and is pissed at me. I literally don't see why-- if she wants to watch Netflix, she can do so on her laptop. But she keeps complaining about how it 'isn't the same' on a smaller screen. I really think she's making too much of big deal over this.

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Response: YTA because living in a shared house it's not all about you and what you want. Learn to work through the distractions ######


Prompt:
I broke up with my GF a few months ago. I started dating a girl lately, but I always said that I might still have feelings for my ex. So the dates turned out more like friendship which was okay for us both. We started talking about amusement parks and soon decided that we would go there together. So she bought a ticket for about 50€, which is a considerable amount for her. I myself didn't have to pay for the ticket because I am a club member of said park.

When we messaged via WhatsApp she always said how she couldn't await our "dates", asked for massages in return for nice things from her, etc. It seemed to me as though she would go further than just friendship.

Because of dating her, I once more realized that I still have feelings for my ex and it somehow felt wrong. And so I decided that it would be better to end all the dating with her. I sent her a message explaining the situation and that I fear that it will only get worse once we go further than just friendship. She quickly replied that I was misinterpreting things and that she always said that there won't be more coming from her. That is true, but literally she just said, that *she* won't do more, but it always sounded to me like an excuse for not taking the first step and that she would be grateful when I take the first step.

In the end she said, that I should pay her back the ticket fee. I proposed that she could ask another one to go with her, but apparently she found no one. So she insisted that, but I did not and instead blocked here, because it turned into a constant rant about how I misinterpreted things and how unfair it was.

AITA for not paying her the entry fee back?

Emotionally I'd say yes, I am the asshole. But rationally I'd say I am not, because I was being honest and I didn't ordered her to buy the ticket. ######

Response:
 YTA because if you have to preface a date with

>I always said that I might still have feelings for my ex

then you shouldn't be dating other people.  Pay her back for leading her on. ######


Prompt: Recently I've been talking to a girl who's gorgeous, sweet, funny, and we get along really well. The only downside between us is that we have a big height difference. She's about 5' 2", and I'm 6' 4". I  asked her once if she thought we would work out given our height difference. She said that it didn't bother her and I think I hurt her feelings by asking this because she's insecure about being short. I really like her and I didn't mean to upset her, but it's a genuine concern for me because I feel as though doing things like kissing, hugging, or even holding hands would be awkward with such a big difference. Should this be an issue and AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA because I’m pretty sure this is some kind of bait.

But if it’s not I’m 5 foot nothing and my boyfriend is 6’5 and nothing you mentioned has been an issue. You’re allowed to have preferences but if you really like her why not give it a shot? ######


Prompt:
This will sound really stupid, but last year my wife and I made a bet where the winner got to choose the name for our baby. This was right before we were going to start trying and at the point where we have four finalists - two girl names and two boys names which we each liked. Those were the four finalists we agreed on but we were split about which one to chose for a boy or girl.

My wife and I are pretty competitive people, so she asked me if I'd be willing to bet for the choices. If she won, we'd use one of the two names she preferred and vice-versa.

I lost, and now that we're pregnant and soon to give birth she wants me to honor my bet, but I feel like what we did was crazy and it's not reasonable to hold me to this. I think we should sit down and pick a name we are both happy with rather than stick with one of these, but she doesn't see it this way.  She thinks I am being the asshole for going back on a bet, but I think something this important should be something we both are happy with. ######

Response: YTA because I doubt you'd be having second thoughts had you won. ######


Prompt:
My wife and I were driving to work this morning. We live near the harbour and the port authority has an empty parking lot across the street. There isn't any houses for about 100 or so meters, but we were driving by and saw this lady with a city provided garbage can down there. She was taking all the contents out and throwing it all around (literally everywhere surrounding the garbage can). We told the lady "I hope you're going to be cleaning that up" and she did the scoff and disregarding hand wave.

So on the way to work, we called non emergency to just report it. No answer. I called 911 and told them what happened and that I had tried to call non emergency but no answer. She told me I needed to call back let non emergency know. Okay, whatever, I try again and no answer. I call 911 back and give the details, and after I have given the location, situation and what not, I told him I tried calling non emergency but no one answered so I just didn't know what to do other than call them. He tells me the same thing as before: "Were not going to do anything, you need to call non emergency" (paraphrased). I told him I tried and that I wanted to get this sorted out. He gets aggressive and says (again, paraphrased) "Do not call this number again. We will not discuss this. Do you understand". I say "This is ridiculous that you won't even log it, but fine whatever".

Just headed home to pick up kids, and guess what's spread all over the parking lot with no one or their shopping cart in sight. It angers me that someone has to go down and clean up after her. I get that people go through the garbage, but leaving the mess for someone else is ridiculous.

Anyways...

So, I believe that I might've been an asshole for calling 911, but I also believe that, because I wasn't able to reach anyone at non-emergency, 911 was the only other option. Then again, non-emergency is just that: not an emergency. So I'm conflicted, am I the ass hole. ######

Response:
 YTA because as you yourself recognize, 911 is for actual emergencies.

Get a sense of perspective.

If you want to improve your Karma over this situation - go to the parking lot and pick up the trash, yourself. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway

I have two boys one is age 8 and one is age 14. I have one girl who is age 12. Me and my son recently moved out from our apartment to our new house with my husband. The house has three bedrooms one for us and two for kids. I plan to give one full bedroom to a girl because I feel it's not a good idea to put girls and boys.

My son before we moved used to have a full bedroom so he is a little upset about that. Anyway it's a few weeks after we finished the arrangement and got the house in order. My son has been complain that he needs to have the room that my daughter got and I refused.

My son has been saying that it's been near impossible to sleep in the shared room cause his half brother is so noisy and that I read his half brother a book so that he can fall asleep. He complained about how his half brother messes with his things and distracts him from learning and studying his ap classes. I refused and told him he has to learn to live with what he got after he asked me why can't half brother move in with half sister. My son has stopped talking to me.

These are the only available sleep arrangements as the attic is filled to the brim with stuff and the 1 car garage is filled with equipment and a car.  My son also has started bullying his half sister because of the sleeping arrangements now and refuses to listen or follow with me when I ground him'

edit - title should have been aita for giving my 12 your old daughter her own room but making my son share a room with his half brother. Sorry for the typo ######

Response: Yta bc of your comments. Clearly you don't care about your son, you're just mad that he's acting out. ######


Prompt:
My brother and his wife were doing their pregnancy announcement with the family through Zoom today. They're expecting twin girls in a few months. I asked my boyfriend and his kids if they wanted to join in. They all said "Sure."

Unfortunately, my sister in law was more way over the top than I expected her to be. She's not normally super expressive about her emotions or affection (even with my brother, or so he says) but during the call, she gushed about how excited she was about being able to spoil her two little girls and all that.

I could sort of tell that his daughter (his kids' mom comes in and out of their lives every few years and has never been consistently involved) was becoming upset, so I took her aside and told her she could leave and we'd understand. However, she chose to stay for the entire Zoom call and held it together.

After the Zoom call, however, she started crying and has been doing so for hours. She's obviously really upset, and initially, I was super patient about comforting her, but I'm getting increasingly tired. She asked if I'd sleep in the same bed as her tonight, and I told her that I wouldn't feel comfortable doing so and needed to sleep ASAP in my own bed.

That seemed to make her more upset, and my boyfriend went in and talked to her, confirming my assumption. AITA in this situation? ######

Response: YTA based on a combination of the post and your other comments. It doesn’t sound like you have a lot of empathy. ######


Prompt: I (28f) have trouble with social interactions. Some time I say things with a tone that sounds really rude without realizing it. I think I'm being playful or helpful given the situation. My husband (30m) has only recently told me that I do this and thats why people get upset with me so often. I was upset that he hadn't told me sooner (we have been together 11 years) but I got over that part and asked him to correct me at the time I do it to help me realize when I am and to apologize for it. He has not been doing it. He tells me after the fact like when we get in the car or get home. The last time we were in Wal-Mart and the cashier seemed New and was having trouble doing something on the register. I have worked for the company for 6 years now so I understand how hard it can be at the register. I thought I was trying to be nice and explained what she was doing wrong after she was getting frustrated. She had gotten mad at me for it. As we were leaving my husband told me I was rude for telling her how to do her job and my tone. I got mad and asked why he didn't tell me at the time. He said he didn't wanna start a scene. Am I the Asshole for yelling at him in the car for not helping me fix my people problem? ######

Response:
 YTA as you and you alone are responsible for your behavior.
But you guys need a keyword to make corrections easier and unobtrusive.
Like "Octopus." ######


Prompt:
During Freshman year of HS, my twin sister and I made a deal that whoever had the lower rank had to do the other person’s chores. We’re both extremely academic focused people, so that’s probably a reason. Our mom agreed to this, and we made a full on contract.

Fast forward to Junior year. So far, I’ve always been higher, but barely. I’m currently ranked 2nd in our school while my sister is ranked 3rd. Doing a bit of calculating, we figured out that my sister is just a single tenth of a percent lower than me. She wants to be done with the deal so that she doesn’t have to do my chores. I disagree, it’s fun hanging out with my friends(virtually).

She complained to our mom, and she just said that my sister and I have to make a mutual agreement to amend to contract. That’s perfect for me, since the contract is already perfect.

She probably complained because school is about to be over, and she would have to do chores all over the summer.

My sister just called me an asshole.

So, AITA? Either way, I’m not amending the contract. ######

Response:
 YTA as well as your parents.

Why they would allow the competition, the contract etc to continue between you both for so long is gross.

You sound entitled and spoiled. Seems like you also enjoy bullying your twin.

Hopefully she realizes one day you give her “nothing of value” and cuts your toxic crap out of her life.

Sibling rivalry and being a jerk isn’t cute. Grow up. ######


Prompt:
I have a 23 year old son who is married and currently staying with us due to financial issues, and a 19 year old daughter who is home from college. My wife has been having bouts of crying recently. She just began menopause so I'm sure that has something to do with it, but I do think there are underlying issues that the hormones brought out. She has told me that she feels like she wasted her life, because she was a stay at home mom and she is not happy with how the children turned out.

We are both Palestinian. She was born in Israel and I was born in the US, but neither of us wanted our children to be too westernized. She feels like she failed to keep the balance and that our children have no respect for their culture. Our son married a white woman (we don't care about that), left Christianity and his wife is a very vocal atheist. My wife can't stand having her in the house. Our daughter considers herself a political activist and has turned her back on everything her mother has taught her.

My wife got into a little fight with our DIL last night over mascara (I wish I was kidding) and stormed off in tears. Our daughter made a comment about how high maintenance her mom is and I told them both to leave her alone, she is going through a lot. My son wanted to know, so I was honest that she feels like they've turned their backs on our culture and that she is disappointed. Now both kids are mad at their mother and my wife is mad at me, but I still think they deserved to know. ######

Response: YTA and your wife.  Basically you two are lamenting that your children aren’t your clones and have their own independent thoughts and beliefs. ######


Prompt:
The title sounds really vulgar but my ”stepmom” is 29 and she has always tried to boss me around and still at 18 does it and I have had enough.

Today I just couldn’t take it anymore when she tried to make me come eat lunch even though I wasn’t hungry. She insisted like I was a 5 year old.

I snapped and told her to fucking leave me alone and suck my dad’s dick. She just left me alone crying. ######

Response: YTA and your title sounds vulgar because what you said to your step mom was vulgar. It was also uncalled for. She did nothing to warrant that type of response. ######


Prompt:
Ok, let me explain! A few pieces of information about me needed first. I am a 33 year old single female, I live on my own and one big thing about me is that I don't and have never wanted kids - this is hard for some people to grasp but I have no maternal feelings, I plain don't like kids/babies and I won't apologies for it!
Ok so now that's explained here's what happens. I live next door to a couple who has three children, two girls around 6-8 years old and a baby. On a number of occasions all I can hear is the kids screaming and while I don't really care about it in the day/afternoon but when the baby wakes me at 2 in the morning I get angry quickly! I get that having a baby is hard and sometimes they just cry but, as harsh as it sounds, that's not my problem and I just want to sleep! So a few times when the crying going on and on and on I have played loud metal music a few times through my iPhone (no speakers just through the phone) and put it next to the wall. It really worked with only one or two song and the crying actually stopped! However, the last time I did it I notably heard that they must have moved the kid to another room away from the wall that is next to my room, like they couldn't get the crying to stop but I made them feel bad so they moved the kid as far away as possible. This made me feel a little bad but at the same time they have woken me multiple times. So am I the asshole for using music to shut kids up?
(for those who want to know the music used, I think I have used Cattle Decapitation, Lamb of God, Meshuggah, Make Them Suffer and Amon Amarth) ######

Response:
 YTA and you sound edgy as fuck. Use white noise (like a big box fan) and earbuds. You could also talk to your neighbors, like an adult, and explain that your room is right next to the baby's room and see who would have the easier time moving their room.

The world doesn't revolve around you. You're just as much of an asshole for purposefully blasting music through a shared wall as they are for having a crying baby wake you up through a shared wall. ######


Prompt:
Throwaway cause my girlfriend is on reddit.

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So my girlfriend and I were out for the dinner tonight and after we both finished my plate was clean and she still had a decent amount of food left. I was still hungry, and we often share food so I asked her if I could have what was left of hers. This happens a lot and she always says yes, but this time she said no and explained she wanted to save it for lunch the next day.

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I was somewhat surprised by this because it's never happened before, but also I was paying for dinner! I feel that since I was still hungry at that point in time I should get the food I was paying for. I have no problem buying my girlfriend food whenever and I buy her meals pretty frequently, but I just kinda feel entitled to the leftovers if I'm still hungry. Also we're partners, she should care that I'm still hungry and let me have the food.  I don't know if I expressed myself very well because when I raised my points my girlfriend said "Just listen to yourself" and still got a to-go box for her food. I was annoyed by this but decided to drop it so things didn't escalate more in public, but I have to admit it's still bugging me hours later. AITA? ######

Response: YTA and WTF. Order some more food for yourself if you're still hungry. You don't get to literally eat someone's meal just because you want it. You paid for it ostensibly out of generosity and not because you want to hold it over her head when you want to take her food. ######


Prompt:
So last summer my boyfriend (20M) went on an archeological dig in Central America with his professor. He was to be there on the dig with her for 2 weeks and then travel as a tourist with a friend (independent of the professor or university) for 3 weeks. I was having a pretty rough time mental health wise back home and had asked him to call or at least text every night, just so I at least knew he was okay.

He missed one night and the following night I asked him what happened and if everything was okay. He said that he and his professor had gone out the previous night clubbing/bar-hopping and then ended up getting really drunk and spending the night at a stranger's house.

I was of course angry at him for being inconsiderate and overall unfeeling about my position, but I was also concerned that the professor had engaged in this behavior with him. After a few weeks I anonymously reported what had happened to the university--I just couldn't get it out of my head, what would I do if in a few years there was a story of someone being hurt because of them and I hadn't done anything about it? When my boyfriend found out he blew up at me and called me petty, selfish, and dangerous, and that he would never be able to trust or love me again.

This has been several months ago now, but it still hurts. Was I in the wrong? In hindsight I wish I had spoken in person with the head of the department and told by bf what I was going to do before I did it, but I still think it was right to say something. He says no and that I have too much faith in authority and that my morals are guided by just whatever the law/rule. I don't think that at all (if I did wouldn't I have reported him for dealing weed long ago?) but I love him so much, and I believe he loved me. AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA and thats a bananas thing to do. I think your boyfriend is being generous. I don’t think you’re too rigid about rules, I think you were jealous and trying to blow up this woman’s professional life as revenge. There was no evidence she slept with your boyfriend, which I think is what you suspect, or that she knows you exist. Your boyfriend may not have been a great guy, and he may have cheated or been trying to cheat, but in any case, I’m not surprised he dumped you for being so catastrophic. Why not contact the woman at very least?

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Prompt:
A friend of mine is getting married to this chick through an arranged marriage. He is really naieve when it comes to women and to top it off he doesn't know that much about her. Call her Nikki. Now, my buddy's mom actually told me and my girlfriend that if we know Nikki or people in her family to let us know, mainly because in Indian arranged marriages it is about marrying the whole family not just two people.

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I didn't know her like that but from what I do know is that she was a regular at frat parties when we went to school. And from what I know too that she was super into white guys. And just on FB she untagged herself from a lot of photos but she is friends with a ton of the guys.

I told my buddy, hey man I know your girlfriend said she went to school and that she spent all of her time studying and never partying... but here is what I found. And that her story that she is a virgin I really doubt that, for a fact she said she never drinks but there are pictures of her with alcohol. And that he should know.

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This spread a lot in his family, but now they are deciding to stick it out anyways, and some people in his family are REALLY upset with me for bringing this information to light? Mainly his cousins. I just followed his mom why am I the bad guy? ######

Response: YTA and sexist af ######


Prompt:
Hello all! I'm in a bit of a pickle and am curious about your judgement.

I (M21)  recently was drinking with my flatmates, my girlfriend (F20) and a friend of one of my flatmates (let's call him "Ben"). Ben and I began talking-- we shared some great conversation, and after a while I became tired and went to bed with my GF. While we were getting ready for bed I remarked that, had I not been in a relationship, I probably would have hit on Ben a little bit. She was clearly quite hurt by this, told me that it suggested she wasn't enough and gave me the cold shoulder. Even after explaining that it was only a passing thought, I love her dearly, and do not feel anything for anyone else, sje still was deeply bothered by this.

Now, clearly I'm not going to do something like this again-- it makes my gf uncomfortable and it'd be wholly inconsiderate to just ignore that. However, is it a jerk move to tell your partner that you find someone attractive in passing? Is this just an individual boundary to respect? Is she uncomfortable with my bisexuality (something that I've told her about in the past)?

Thanks! ######

Response: YTA and not for finding Ben attractive, but for the "had I not been in a relationship, I would have hit on blank" part. There's ways to discuss people's attractiveness with your partner without making them feel like you don't want to be in a relationship with them. ######


Prompt:
For reference, I live in Texas.

For april fools, I thought it would be funny if a couple friends and I dressed up, and pranked our friend who’s a DACA recipient. His parents are undocumented despite coming here a long time ago; they also speak only spanish, and very broken english. The timing for this prank was perfect because ICE is doing raids etc.

I got 2 other guys with me, who he doesn’t know, and we dressed up officially with sunglasses etc. We even printed out a fake warrant.

We went over to their apartment at 7, and started banging on their door. We said “This is ICE here, we got a tip off on an undocumented couple living here. We have a warrant signed off by (XYZ). You have the right to remain silent as anything you say can and will be used against you in the court of law” etc. We could hear them visibly panicking, and it took everything in us to keep a straight face.

We took the prank to the next level by saying, “do not attempt to run away, as we have law enforcement surrounding the area”.  We bang some more, yell OPEN UP etc. Then my friend comes out, and I say April fools, gotcha. And we throw confetti at him. He was LIVID. He unfriended me on EVERYTHING after I tried reaching him. I texted him at 9, then 10, and it’s now almost 1 now. I didn’t think the prank would backfire this badly, as I come from a prankster family. Every year we’d play pranks on each other. I understand i took it too far, but is it really worth ending a friendship of over 16 years because of this?

So, AITA for this prank that backfired badly? ######

Response:
 YTA and I am baffled how you do not see that. Your friend likely has a very real fear of his family being broken up in this manner and you treated it as a joke for your own amusement. It isn't a joke to him or his parents, who by the way certainly did nothing to deserve the stress you no doubt put them through.

This isn't a prank that backfired, it went exactly as you expected it to and you're just upset that you're rightfully experiencing consequences for your shitty behavior. ######


Prompt:
So, my mother (39F) brought a new dog about a year ago. She knew I (19F) was uncomfortable with getting a new dog given that we already own 2 cats. When i first met it she could tell i was pissed but decided not to address it and told me the dog was named 'Lucy'.

I got more annoyed over this as time went on with her not bothering to train the girl, and eventually I decided I'd do something to fuck with her. Whenever I addressed her, I instead of saying 'Lucy' I would either say 'Obama' or 'war criminal'. I even got my siblings in on the joke and it kept going until eventually my mother asked me to 'please call her Lucy, this joke isn't funny'. I didn't listen to her and we all kept going.

It has now been a year since we got our little war criminal and Obama seems to love her new name. She know doesn't respond to being called Lucy, despite my mothers efforts.

She says this was horrible and I've damaged our relationship by embarrassing her so much, but I feel that my actions were completely warranted. So AITA? ######

Response: Yta and extreamly immature. ######


Prompt:
I pay the internet bill for my household. My internet company lets me sort every Wifi- connected device we have into different profiles. My brother, sister and I each have our own profiles that I can set time limits on. Since we’ve been stuck in the house more than usual these past few months I have set time a daily time limit of 5 hours for each of us so that I don’t have to pay the crazy data overage fees. My sister and I mostly just stream a couple episodes of a show or a movie each day so we never meet our time limits but my brother has had a really hard time with it since he basically spends his entire day gaming and meets the time limit pretty early on in the day. He has asked me to extend his time limit several times so I made a deal with him that he has to clean the shared bathroom twice a week (sundays and thursdays) and I’ll extend his daily time limit to 7 hours. (For reference, my brother doesn’t help clean the house at all - and he leaves the bathroom in a disgusting state almost every time he uses it)
He agreed to the deal and did well for a week but he didn’t clean the bathroom this past sunday so I took his hours back down to 5. He ended up cleaning the bathroom today and asked me to go back up to 7 but I told him I would keep it at 5 until thursday when he can clean the bathroom again to work back up to 7, as per our deal. He is furious with me, saying that I’m being completely unfair and I heard him yelling in his room, throwing things around and slamming doors. I told him that if he kept behaving this way I would keep him at 5 hours indefinitely. I feel like my brother’s reaction is not appropriate at all and I’m thinking about adding on more chores in order for him to earn the 7 hours. Am I being a total asshole? ######

Response: Yta and a liar. This isnt about data, this is about you wanting to control another human being. You are not his parent. Back off. ######


Prompt:
I'm a single dad, 43 years old. Computer programmer. My son, let's call him Jack, is 17 years old. Jack's mom died when he was 10, but thankfully we both handled our grief together quite well.

When Jack got his first laptop, five years ago, I took my time explaining how the internet worked, the dangers, etc. I allowed him to create a social media account, as long as he allowed me to check on it whenever I wanted, which was a privilege I made use of a few times until he turned 15 and I realized I could trust him, having never asked for it since then. He allowed me to know where he stored his account passwords just in case, but I never really looked for them, so his social media and computer activity have been a complete mystery to me in the last couple of years.

However, I was always fearful he would try to hide something or get into something dangerous, so I installed a keylogger just in case, always thinking about his safety. I never had to use it and, the more I watched him grow up, I eventually I realized I would never really use it, but I never bothered to remove it.

My sister and I were talking about this in a casual conversation regarding privacy and privacy apps and my niece overheard us (they were born the same year). She got offended I would do such a thing, claiming it was a horrible invasion of Jack's privacy, and that I should be ashamed, and the only reason she hasn't told my son was because my sister told her she'd ground her for meddling in my parenting.

So, reddit. AITA for having installed a keylogger even though I never had to use it? ######

Response: Yta all the way. That’s an enormous invasion of his privacy ######


Prompt:
Ok so this happened a few months ago, I have 2 kids, one is 5 and one is 3.
The whole family went over to my brothers house for my Dads birthday, anyway we were having a great time and I put the kids upstairs with some sandwiches while the adults talked.

So later on my brother went to get the kids down to play a board game, and he found that they had broken his gaming console (an old Nintendo one) and there were sandwich bits in the cartridge slot, he held it together in front of the kids but pulled me aside and really chewed me out.
He yelled about how much he loved that console and how it had been with him since he was 6 years old (our Dad bought it for him after a business trip) .

So he got pissed and wanted me to buy him a new one, o don’t get why as it was just a console and the games were old anyway. He demanded that I buy him one to replace it but I told him he needs to grow up and stormed out of the room.

AITA? ######

Response: YTA 100%. You were a guest in his home. You irresponsibly left your YOUNG kids wander upstairs. Young kids no matter the parenting are guaranteed to do stupid shit. It doesnt matter if he "knew you all were coming" and "should have protected it better," you caused destruction in someone else's home and should kindly reimburse him for it, lest you never see the inside of his home again after this. ######


Prompt:
I'm American, of mostly Irish or German descent i dont know nor do i really give a shit. I went to University in Poland and Lithuania and I speak both languages and know the countries really well since i spent a lot of time there.

I am back in the US at the moment and I was at a work event and everyone had name tags. Someone came over towards us and introduced himself to us, i was with the CEO and and few other higherups and his manager among other people. He says "hi I'm first name Szymczyk and I work in this section, i think we will be working together"

I asked him, I'm sorry what is your last name? I can see that on his name tag its Szymczyk but he pronounced horribly wrong. He's obviuosly Polish American but from like 4 or more generations ago as he pronoucned it completely wrong. He pronounced it like "Zim Zack" when its really pronounced more like "Shim Chick"

I could his name tag and I asked "umm your name tag says Szymczyk (pronounced correctly" and he says no my last name is Szymczyk "zim zack" I know how to pronounce my own last name.He kept saying imrude and im a jackass for telling him how to pronounce his own last name.  Everyone else is looking really confused and find it weird. I then told him I lived in Poland and I speak Polish and I have friends with the same last name, i know how its pronounced and I then pulled out google translate and it was pronounced exactly like I said. His manager starts lauging his ass off while most of the other people are at least smiling a bit. He walks away and goes to get a drink

Some of the people said i shouldn't have embarassed him like that and i was an asshole but i dont think so. It defeintly left a very bad impression on his new manager and the CEO who he met for the first time. ######

Response: YTA 100%. I hope the bad impression from the CEO and manager were on you because that was rude. You’re literally this person “I spent a year abroad so I know everything...”. Get over yourself and next time mine your business. ######


Prompt:
I try and stay fit. Keep some dumbells and bench inside my house. Work out 5-6 times Week at home currently. I think it has been start to rub off on her. She has joined past 3 days. Which I admire her for. If you want to change your life, take action. She has. Props to her.

Today was I working on my core. Push ups, Plank's, sit  ups. 10 sets of 6 for all these, 60 reps. She joined a little late I'm my sets, I already had 40 reps done, i wasn't going to make her 60 reps. Told her just in where I'm at. I get my set in, she's doing her pushups but only was able to do 4 legit ones. I didn't say anything. Time for Plank's I, I do my minute. Her turn. She only lasted 27 seconds, which again I didn't say nothing. Left it alone. Last one is sit-ups, I do my 10, her turn only able to 6 legit ones without moving feet. This is where I say "Wheww you have long way too go". she said sorry, Her energy wasn't really the same after that.

After we actually get done with everything, she told me that comment made her feel bad. I told her  I'm just trying to push you to work harder". I can't get everyone has to start somewhere but she isn't overly overweight or obese. When you ask or join me to work out I expect the same energy. Yes it the thought the counts but also it's the action too. You want to work out with me, I'm going to push you like how I would push myself. ######

Response:
 YTA — at best cluelessly, unintentionally, but still YTA

>	You want to work out with me, I'm going to push you like how I would push myself.

Do you want to work out alone?  Because thats how you work out alone.

Actually, hold up...

>	This is where I say “Wheww you have long way too go”. she said sorry, Her energy wasn’t really the same after that

Do you want to be alone?  Because thats how you get to be alone.

You are not being helpful, you are “just being honest,” you are not even providing constructive criticism, just criticism.

Congratulations, you chipped away at the beginners motivation you gave her props for.  Well done. ######


Prompt:
My younger is 14 and has been giving both my parents the sudden silent treatment and avoiding them. My parents are very confused and concerned and asked me to find out what's going on with them. I asked my brother and he told me he doesn't want to talk to them because his voice has deepen very quickly and noticeable (almost as deep as mine and my dad's) and he doesn't want our parents especially our dad making an issue about it and asking him questions about puberty. He told me not to tell them the real reason and to just tell them he's not mad or upset. He's also looking up ways to prevent his voice from getting deep.

I thought about telling the real reason because giving them a general answer isn't going to stop them from trying to figure it out. ######

Response:
 YTA

Your brother is going to have to talk to them eventually but if he asked you not to tell them and it isn't something putting him in danger I think breaking his trust would be an asshole thing to do. You're going to need the trust later when he starts dealing with more serious shit. ######


Prompt:
Yes you read that title correctly and no I’m not dating a 5 year old. So about a week ago my 20 year old girlfriend wet our bed and I haven’t been able to sleep with her since. After the incident she cried and was very embarrassed and I told her that it doesn’t matter because it doesn’t change my opinion on her. That night I told her that I was sleeping on the couch and she was hurt but understanding. But now she’s claiming that it’s been a week and that I should sleep with her but I’m still feel not comfortable with sleeping with her. She says me not sleeping with her is making her insecure even though I’ve reassured her that I still love her.

I was just wondering aita also is it healthy for her to wet the bed(this is the first time in our 9 month relationship that this has happened) ######

Response:
 YTA

You told her:

>After the incident she cried and was very embarrassed and I told her that it doesn’t matter because it doesn’t change my opinion on her.

But your actions: refusing to sleep with her after several days indicate otherwise. Also comparing her to a five year old contradicts that statement.

I can get the first night as the bed may still be wet after cleaning it and that may be uncomfortable but beyond that is rediculous. ######


Prompt:
My mom got hurt at work years ago and has since been out of work playing up being disabled. She is in pain, but I don't consider her disabled.

Having seen Walmart employees with missing limbs, a coworker who is paralyzed from the waste down, and another coworker with a serious birth disorder that effects his ability to use his arms and hands, I have come to terms that I don't think my Mom deserves to be paid to sit at home all day with her feet up while others with actual limitations still hold down jobs.

AITA for thinking this way and telling her about my thoughts after she asked for my opinion?

She's super offended and pissed off because my father, siblings and I do not think her pain is the equivalent of someone who's actually not able to work given physical limitations or cognitive delays.

If you're wondering why we all sound so heartless, consider this:

My Mom literally "tripped" over a pebble in the driveway so she could go to the ER. Which we've all agreed was an elaborate way to get her medical paperwork sped up to get out of going back to work.

Anyway, AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA

You have no way of knowing what her pain is like. That’s nice that those other people are able to work, but they don’t sound like they are in pain. And assuming your mom is fine because she doesn’t visibly seem injured is just all kinds of not ok. ######


Prompt:
I have a 16 year old daughter, and ever since she got diagnosed with depression her privacy has been limited.

I try to keep her as busy as I can to keep her make sure she doesn’t have enough time on her hands to wallow in negative feelings but she does get occasional screentime. There is not a single text that goes to or from her phone that I don’t also see on mine, but she didn’t know this until today.

She and her friends were making fun of another friend who talked about how obnoxious eating is. He just said something like it’s time consuming to sit and chew and it seemed fine until my daughter said this:

“You’re right! Ever since I’ve stopped eating, I have had so much more free time and felt so much better. And those pesky nutrients and calories? No more of those! Not eating has cleared up so much of my schedule and made me feel amazing. I will never eat again”.

She has mentioned feeling bad about her body before, and has said she feels better about it now but I feel like there’s a lot she doesn’t tell me. I went to her later and asked her if she’s been eating enough.

She asked me why I asked, and almost got angry, saying she’s gotten over it long ago.

She then went on a scathing rant about how I always bring up issues from the past, like I don’t want her to change. It was completely unprecedented, so I took away her phone for a while.

She’s still trying to convince me that what happened today shouldn’t matter but I’m genuinely worried. AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA

You actually monitor all her communications without her knowing? That's so terrible. You should watch Black Mirror - Arkangel - Season 4; Episode 2

Also - your daughter sounds like she has a great sarcastic sense of humour - I take it you don't? ######


Prompt: So I am 19 Male. I am away from college but I am still financially dependent on my parents they pay for my college they pay for my car insurance my gas for my car and give me a month spending budget of 600 a month. Well when I found out that I wasn't getting a stimulus check because my mom claimed me on her taxes last year I called her to ask her why. She said because she still pay for everything for me. I tired to explain that I was also 18 at the end of the year. She asked why do I care if I was getting a stimulus check anyways I told my mom going to use to it buy non essentials since I am only allowed to spend the 600 on food clothes and things like that. She said that's not what the stimulus is for. I said it was still my money. When I asked my girlfriend(23F) about it she said I was being a spoiled brat. AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA

Yeah dude, sorry, mommy pays for your stuff so mommy gets the money needed to continue to pay for your stuff. ######


Prompt:
So my mother is quite unhealthy and she has been told by many doctors that she needs to lose weight but she always insists that she is the perfect weight. this happened last thursday when i was eating dinner with my mother. She asked me to make some hamburgers because those are her favorite. But because i am a vegan i do not feel comfortable cooking meat so i decided to instead make veggieburgers.  So i made them and we then started eating, my mother noted that the burgers tasted weird but didn't say anything else about them. We then finish eating and she is getting ready to leave so i inform her that i made her veggieburgers instead of hamburgers. She then got very mad saying that i didn't know if she could have a reaction to the food and also that i shouldn't force my eating habits on her. I said that i don't see a problem because she didn't have any kind of bad reaction to the food also it is better for her and she needs to lose weight anyways.

So Reddit AITA ######

Response:
 YTA

Why? Why do you gotta be one of the few vegans that literally force feeds **your** food preferences on someone else? Have you no concept of how viciously you undermine all your fellow vegans with this shit?

I’m not vegan but 100% support the choice **so long as they aren’t being an asshole about it** ######


Prompt: I have a completely platonic, non-sexual friendship with a guy who likes to invite me over to his house when he cooks. He recently confided in me that he has HSV1. He just found out. I’m very picky about where I eat but I always trusted that he was a clean cook and it always tastes great. He’s said things like “it’s no big deal” and “he’s glad it’s not the really bad version” and saying that he doesn’t know if he’ll tell future partners. It’s got me really questioning if he’s as good of a person as I thought so I went and got tested because we’ve eaten together so many times. My results were negative. But now that I know he has it, I’m thinking what if he tastes some food and accidentally puts the spoon or fork back in the pot instead of the sink but doesn’t tell me because he doesn’t think it’s a big deal? We eat together once a month and I’m thinking of bailing on future dinners. Am I the asshole? ######

Response:
 YTA

What did I just read?!

Remember when people wouldn’t even TOUCH people with AIDS back in the 80s? This is the same concept.

Educate yourself. ######


Prompt:
The title sounds really vulgar but my ”stepmom” is 29 and she has always tried to boss me around and still at 18 does it and I have had enough.

Today I just couldn’t take it anymore when she tried to make me come eat lunch even though I wasn’t hungry. She insisted like I was a 5 year old.

I snapped and told her to fucking leave me alone and suck my dad’s dick. She just left me alone crying. ######

Response:
 YTA

What a ridiculous overreaction to a mild annoyance. You say your step mother is treating you like you're 5. It seems like she's just treating you at your maturity level. ######


Prompt: I am an IT professional currently working from home and my wife is an ER doctor working on the frontline. We try to work the same hours, so I don’t see why this should be different just because I’m at home and she isn’t. She, on the other hand, comes home, gets annoyed when some chores aren’t done and then even more annoyed when I point out that if she doesn’t feel like doing them after her work, why would she assume I would do it after mine? Is it fair that household chores are 50:50 or should I be doing more because I’m working from home? ######

Response:
 YTA

This is the difference between equality and equity.

Sure, you work the same hours, does this also factor in your wife’s travel time to and from work, and length, frequency and accessibility of breaks?

I’m not sure what line of IT you’re in, how stressful it is and the risks involved, however, based of a general understanding of IT work, compared to being an ED doctor, I would be inclined to say your wife’s work is probably far more intense and stressful.

Your wife probably doesn’t have *any* down time during her shifts. She can’t just eat when she’s hungry, make a coffee when she’s tired or go for a walk around the block if she needs some clarity.
If your wife makes a mistake, someone could die. She’s on her feet all day, in a high pressure, high volume environment. While you may work the same hours, are you both experiencing the same demands and stress from your work?

Her 40 hours a week at 100% stress capacity, compared to your 40 hours even at 90%, means their should be a difference in how the at home labour is divided IMO.

I don’t know what your finances are like, but generally speaking doctors and IT pays pretty decently. Could you guys perhaps hire a cleaner once a week for a few hours? ######


Prompt:
So yea I (29M) found my friend’s reddit account when she sent me a screenshot of a reddit meme which showed her username and I searched for it and was disgusted when I found her and her husband have been a cuckold couple for years and even have few videos (not showing faces) where there are like 5 men plowing her while her husband licks her feet or something. I just lost all respect for her and her husband. And forgot about them, when she called me and suggested a get-together I told her absolutely no and when she insisted what was wrong, I told her about what I saw and her voice started sounding shaky and started “begging” me not to tell anyone, I agreed but told her that I don’t want to do anything with them anymore.

Although she was one of my best friends for about 9 years.

I told my wife and she agreed with me.

But still I feel kinda guilty and asshole-ish for making them feel like shit. ######

Response:
 YTA

The line that I personally draw to whether a person’s kink is “okay” or not, is if it affects themselves or those around them negatively. (On a physical or emotional level.) Their kink did not affect you- and it sounds like they’re both happy with the arrangement- so I fail to see what the issue was.

If the act of adultery in and of itself upsets or disgusts you and you want nothing to do with them because you can’t get it out of your mind, then that’s one thing. But you became an asshole when you claimed to have “lost all respect” for them. They didn’t do anything to hurt you. They didn’t even shove it in your face against your will... _You_ went digging and _you_ kept watching.

Edit: just wanna summarize for anyone who’s skimming: **OP is the AH for thinking their kink should earn them disrespect. He is not an AH for being too _uncomfortable_ to hang out with them anymore after what he saw.** ######


Prompt:
So my friend (we'll call him Nick) has a new girlfriend (we'll call her Amy) who's a professional cosplayer. I've met her a few times and she seems nice and he really likes her. I follow Amy online (on my sort of anime fan twitter, not the one with my name on it) and she does a lot of good cosplays, so I tend to check her stuff out pretty regularly.

Yesterday, someone I follow shared a lewd cosplay photo (censored) that looked familiar. I followed the link (on my personal account) and found that it was undeniably Amy. All of her pictures were nude or semi-nude, though each was censored with promises that the full thing was on OnlyFans. So, after a brief moral quandry, I shelled out the money to subscribe to her account.

I mentioned it to a different friend on discord and he called me an asshole and a creep. The way I see it, she's selling pictures to everyone, so what I did should be fine. I'm pro-sex work and so is Nick, so I don't think he should have an issue with it, even if I wouldn't tell him I did it to his face. AMITA? ######

Response:
 YTA

The fact that you aren’t planning on telling your friend indicates that you know you’re doing something wrong . It’s creepy and weird ######


Prompt:
My (29M) girlfriend (22F) has some bladder problems and has to pee many many times throughout any regular day. It is exhausting for her and bad for her skin because she has to wash her hands so frequently. I asked her if she would ever consider an adult diaper and she was very offended. I am just trying to help though like wouldn't you not want to constantly be running to the bathroom and drying out your hands? She said I was being inconsiderate by suggesting this and that it would be humiliating to wear a diaper at a young age. I told her I could pay for them, like don't worry about that part.

It is very disruptive for her life, and mine as well, but more importantly for her. If we go to the movies she has to leave at least twice usually so she is missing the movie. If we are out to dinner with people she has to excuse herself a lot. She wakes up in the middle of the night at least twice to pee, which I imagine sucks for her because she can't always fall right back asleep. It also disrupts me sometimes and wakes me up.

I get it that these things might not be super comfortable to wear but like she is always complaining about how often she has to pee so I am just trying to think of solutions. Also the dry skin problem is very real. She uses hand cream but her hands are almost always dry. I don't want that to get any worse for her.

So reddit, AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA

That’s just insulting. You want her to sit / lay in her own urine to make you more comfortable?

A diaper is meant to catch accidents for adults, not so they can sit through dinner without disturbing everyone.

Her doctor should be looking into this as it’s obviously a medical problem. ######


Prompt:
I’m using a throwaway because she knows my main. So basically, my girlfriend and I live together. Everyday when we’re about to have whatever meal or anything, she closely inspects each and every glass, plate, fork, knife, etc.

They way she inspects it is by firstly sliding it through her fingers (she washes her hands before doing so) to feel if there’s anything stuck on, and then she brings it up close to her face to look closer. It’s really irritating and I’ve asked her to just wash everything herself if she has such an issue with these stuff, but she ignores me.

Whenever we used to go to restaurants, although she would never put her hands all of the glass and utensils, she’d still look closely at them before using, and imo that’s just an embarrassing thing to do in public.

Last night, I tried to have a discussion with her about her behaviour, and she said that it’s just something she does and she can’t help it, because she feels gross if she doesn’t. I still don’t want her doing it because I feel gross knowing that her hands have been all over everything. It got pretty heated and I ended sleeping on the couch. This morning we still didn’t talk and now she’s at work.

So reddit, AITA here? ######

Response:
 YTA

That is such a weird thing to get mad about and I promise you no one in any restaurant is noticing it beyond a cursory glance and then forgetting about it. ######


Prompt:
Early in my husband and I’s marriage, we got life insurance policies on each other. We also had secondary beneficiaries in the form of my husband’s nephews in the unlikely event we both went together. This was pre us having kids and we always said once we did, we’d switch over the policies.

Fast forward 25 years later. We have kids that are 21 & 23. My daughter (23) made a comment about getting life insurance through her job, so I decided to check on our policy. I hadn’t in years. Well, when I did I was surprised to see we had never changed our secondary beneficiaries. They were still my husband’s nephews. We totally forgot to change them. I thought it was a little funny, my husband did too. Obviously we’re alive and fine. We called the company, started the process to have it changed.

My son thought it was funny, my daughter didn’t. She said “we were irresponsible” and didn’t think of them. What if we had died? What if the nephews didn’t give it up? I said they would be taken care of. They asked if we had a will and I admitted no. But we have so much family that has agreed verbally over the years to take them. It never seemed necessary. Besides, we’re alive, our kids are adults. It’s all fixed now and we plan to draw a will up. No one was hurt.

No one except my daughter. She kept harping on it and frankly it was annoying. Finally I told her, yes it was a bad move on our end but she needs to let it go. She got even more mad.

Am I the ass here? ######

Response:
 YTA

So you went her entire life without a plan on paper that a court of law could enforce should something go terribly wrong? That was incredibly irresponsible.

Money changes people. What if you did die and your nephews had gotten everything and refused your own children? The only documentation you have goes to them.

You can’t change the past and harping on it won’t change it either. But your defense of ‘we didn’t die’ isn’t exactly a good one.

Learning that had something happened to her parents she ‘probably’ wouldn’t be abandoned by the family isn’t a comforting thought. ######


Prompt:
Earlier in the year, my daughter’s fourth grade teacher called me and complained to me that my daughter wanted excessive amounts of attention from her and was always near her. I was extremely upset by this because her teacher probably thought that my husband and I are not teaching her proper social behavior.

I told my daughter that she was behaving inappropriately, to stop acting like that around her teacher, and that she was not her teacher’s boyfriend or husband and consequently did not need to win her heart. My daughter just glared at me and went back to studying for her math test the next day.

After that, I noticed that our relationship had become strained and that she’d take a lot of her anger out on me. So was I the asshole or just being a good parent by telling her the harsh truth?  I am just very blunt by nature. ######

Response:
 YTA

She’s only in fourth grade, don’t be so harsh an her looking for affection elsewhere. There’s probably a reason for that. Talking to her, asking her why she seeks the attention from her teacher and kindly explaining the social boundaries coming with this kind of relationship would’ve been the way imo. ######


Prompt:
As you know, french bulldogs have breathing issues due to their deformed noses.

I saw a girl jogging with her french bulldog. I told my wife i wanted to say something, but she said not to, so I didn't.

A few days later, I saw the same girl and dog around my neighborhood walking, so I took this chance to say something. I told her to please consider her dog's breathing issues when jogging. She told me when she jogs with him, she does intervals of light jogging for 1 min then does 3 mins of walking for 15-20 mins and she only does this every two weeks. Never in the Summer.

I see where she's coming from, but I told her he's probably not doing too good. She then says "ok i hear you - have a great day!". Honestly this is a rude response since I feel dismissed. So I ask if she's going to stop. She says probably not. At this point I'm mad so I tell her she shouldn't have gotten this breed then.

She then says "Yea sure." then walks away.

I told my wide about this and she said this is one of the dumbest thing I could've done and I should've minded my own business.

So, was I in the wrong? ######

Response:
 YTA

She was dismissing you lol. You think you’re the mayor of dogs? The god of jogging? Why should she give a shit about what you think. Her routine seems very reasonable. ######


Prompt:
So this happened in March but my wife is still upset about it.

I have three children with my wife, 6,4 and 4months.

We bottle feed the youngest.

Come mothers day my wife is exhausted, I cooked breakfast with my youngest helping while our 4year old did some art work for her.

When my wife went for her nap I thought I'd take the children out, my eldest decided to take a nap with her mother though so it was just the two youngest.

We spent maybe 3 hours with my mother and an hour travelling, when I got back I cooked dinner and I thought everything was OK.

my wife claims I ruined her mothers day, I don't see how since we didn't have plans and she was asleep for at least an hour.

She's still insisting I'm TA for taking the children out.

AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA

She napped for an hour and you were gone three. You didn’t discuss it with her or even tell her you were going. Did it not occur to you she would want to know where her children are?

Edit. Worse. Four hours. It’s like you took half the day away from your wife without consulting her. ######


Prompt:
My daughter just got her acceptance letter today. Of course my wife and I are beyond extatic. She also has earned a scholarship that gives her an almost completely free ride that she has worked very hard to achieve. She is paying whatever it doesn't cover herself.

However, my daughter also gave us the news today that she is planning on majoring in Music Management with a minor in Composition.

Once my wife and I got over the shock, we voiced our disapproval of such a choice. There isn't a lot of money to be made in music at all, and we want our daughter to have a stable career.

My daughter says that she has thought through all those things and has still decided to go through with it. I believe that her Chorus teacher is swaying her, because honestly, she isn't THAT good of a singer.

I will always encourage my daughter's hobbies and have done so over the years. She has been in chorus for 10 years, plays guitar, piano, and is teaching herself violin. She has funded all of these things herself, which I am very proud of. Despite it all, however, she just doesn't have the natural talent to make it in the music world.

Not only that, my wife and I were angry that she didn't tell us until now. We feel she has purposefully hidden it from us. To that, my daughter responded that she knew we were going to be unsupportive and didn't tell us for that reason. My daughter said that she was hurt we reacted so harshly and is currently not speaking to us.

My wife and I just don't want to see out daughter throw away so much hard work for a degree that is very hard to succeed with. She is 18, this is a big decision to make and one that I feel she has not properly thought through. AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA

She isn't trying to be a professional singer, she's trying to be a manager or composer. There is money in that, and more importantly, she'll enjoy it. ######


Prompt: Something I’ve started doing since becoming obsessed with bodybuilding. I don’t have the appetite to finish all the meals so I started just tossing everything in a blender and chugging it in 10 secs because it’s faster and you finish the meal before getting full . My girlfriend cooked dinner last night and I did that and she was furious. Said she put a lot of effort in it and it was supposed to be be good, delicious and healthy and everything felt pointless to watch me drink it like a animal and I should be more considerate. AITA? Didn’t seem like a big deal to be but I’m always open for self reflection ######

Response:
 YTA

Sharing food is one of the basic bonding activities between partners. She has gone to the time and effort to cook something nice for you and obviously has considered the flavours, nutrition etc because she wants to delight you and support your fitness goals. It's a bit deflating and embarrassing for her that you have treated it like pig slop for you blend together for raw sustenance.

You will be making your own meals from now on. ######