Prompt:
So i have lived with my friend for 5 months now and we’ve been friends for 13 years. We both have kids she has a 2 year old i have a 1 year old. Just some background if y’all were curious.

So anyway I’m one of the millions of people who got laid off. So i obviously just stay home with my daughter. I do all the chores now too now that I’m not working but i am still paying my half of the bills. My friend is an apartment manager and is still working. And she is getting a stupid amount of perks right now for working like, being about to work from home, a raise, half days off, and paid punches.

This morning i was walking my friend and her daughter to the car and my friend said she’s getting lunch with her boss because of the paid lunches. I said mockingly because you’re essential and she said exactly. I then said you’re not essential. Which she said back at least I’m not sitting home all day of the couch.

I didn’t think i was an asshole for saying she wasn’t essential but now I’m thinking i shouldn’t of been so dismissive of her work.

Amita for saying my friend isn’t essential. ######

Response: Yta she's an essential worker. People still need access to their landlords right now. Actual friends are happy for each other, not resentful ######


Prompt:
We've been married for close to 10 years now (I'm 37M and she is 35F). We have two beautiful and amazing boys (7M and 9M).

In spite of this, something has been up with my wife lately. She's been acting very melancholy and distant. Just prior to getting married, there was a pregnancy scare. Honestly I was terrified... I really didn't want a child at that point just yet. I would be ready a year later, but not quite at that stage.

I told her my view, that ideally I'd like her to get an abortion but its ultimately up to her. I spent a lot of time praying that she would get an abortion and come to her senses. Thankfully she decided that she wanted to abort. And then we had our boys soon after.

Now she came forward to me and said she is feeling emotional about that time. I just didn't understand. Why is she bringing up this stuff from the past? Doesn't she care about our two boys? I told her that "I'm very glad that you had that abortion. It was the best thing to happen to me, and now we have our boys. They're our priority. Not what could have been, that's all not real".

This angered her and she stormed off. Since then she confronted me and called me an asshole and dickhead. I said that while I understand she is upset, its unfair to our boys. They're actually real children, whereas her abortion was obviously unborn, she needs to accept this. Our boys are our priority. Idk I am conflicted now AITA? ######

Response: YTA she opened up about her feelings and you were insensitive and guilted her with “don’t you care about our boys” ######


Prompt:
I live in NYC and my roommate has been quarantining with her parents since March so I have had the apartment all to myself. My boyfriend has been staying over more often (he also lives nearby in NYC) since it's just me in the apartment.

Well the other day the room above mine flooded and my bedroom was directly impacted and is unusable right now.

I told my roommate all about this and she offered me her bedroom to stay in until my room is fixed. I asked her if she was sure, and told her that I could sleep on the couch in the living room, but she insisted that it's fine since she doesn't plan on coming back to NYC until close to the end of the year. All she asked me is that I wash her sheets sometime before she moves back in.

Me and my boyfriend stay in her room together (we don't have s\*x in it because I don't want to be disrespectful so we do it in the living room if we ever want to) when he comes over. One morning she facetimed me and I picked up and she saw my boyfriend in her bed next to me and she acted weird and hung up.

Then she sent me a long text saying that she didn't know that he was also sleeping in her bed and that I should have given her a heads up. I told her we're not having s\*x in her bed or anything but she was adamant that I should've given her a heads up and that she was under the impression that it was just me and that she's not comfortable with both of us being in her bed.

I asked my bf and one of my other friends if I was TA and they both agree that because we don't have s\*x in her bed, it doesn't really matter. I don't really understand why she's even bothered? She's okay with me sleeping in her bed but not someone else? AITA? ######

Response: YTA she extended the offer to *you*.  Not to you *and* your boyfriend.  Sex or no sex isn’t the issue. ######


Prompt:
So I (16 F) recently came out a bisexual to my parents. They were very supportive and I am happy for that, but my mom and I were sitting and watching tv when she just told me something very out of the blue

Mom- "So about sleepovers..."

Me- "Yeah?"

Mom- "You're not having sex right?"

Me- "what?!"

Mom- "well you said you're bisexual, right?"

Me- "yeah?! So now I cant have friends over now?"

Mom- "that's not what I'm saying."

Me- "but you are! You are basically saying that because I am bi I am having sex with all my friends."

We got in a fight and now she isn't speaking to me. I just need some help to know whether I should apologize. I switch over to my dads tonight and she still isn't speaking to me (divorce) and I dont know what to do. Do I apolagize?

Edit: I read through the responses and my mom and I have sat down and talked about it. I realize that I may have jumped the gun and feel sorry. She apologized as well, and we are back on speaking terms. Thank you for all your feed back! ######

Response:
 YTA she didnt accuse you of having sex with all of your friends.

It's not unreasonable to check that you haven't been having sex during sleepovers upon first hearing the news since you could get well be attracted to/ dating/ sleeping with one of the friends you have for sleepovers. After all the reason most parents like same sex sleepovers is because they don't want sex to happen during them. ######


Prompt:
My last experience in this sub was bad but let’s try again. I (27M) have recently start working at a grocery store. My coworker (we’ll call her Kira) is pretty chill and we’ve become friends lately.

Kira loves trying new stuff with her hair and she’s had a lot of free time lately due to obvious reasons. She has been stung, bleaching, and otherwise changing her hair a lot. It’s really fried unfortunately and basically looks like straw. It’s a discolored yellowish green at the moment and she’s really unhappy with it.

She was telling me about it while we were stocking a few days ago and she asked if I think a short hair would suit her. I suggested that she just shave it off and start over given how her hair is extremely damaged and dead. She didn’t react in the moment but I later found out she was hurt. She texted one of our other coworkers about it and he told me I’d hurt Kira’s feelings.

Now I’m a pretty honest guy and usually give it to people straight. I think if a friend asks for advice you’re a bad friend if you are dishonest or sugarcoat the truth. But the thing is, I didn’t mean to hurt her feelings. AITA? ######

Response: YTA she asked if you though she'd look good with shorter hair, you took the opportunity to tell her to shave it off bc you think her hair looks like shite... so you didn't answer the question and you insulted her ######


Prompt:
So yea my gf has this really dumb friend who she had for like 7 years. She sometimes visits us and I have been avoiding her the last few times when my gf asked I told her straight and she was very upset and told me that it was very hurting to know how little I think to someone she adores so much.

Btw this girl is like the most boring and annoying girl I have ever seen but she is hot af so people’s constant attention and interest in her fed her ego and made her this empty shallow person ######

Response: YTA read your last paragraph again. ######


Prompt:
So I 13M was born with aphonia and becuase of that I am effectively mute I am able to make very faint noise but it hurts to make and it's still very low. Now the past couple of days my sister(15F) have been having a sore throat due to her allergies. Well today she came down stairs signing (all of my family is fluent in sign language asl because of my disability) she was signing that her throat hurts and she couldn't talk. Wasnt a problem at the time. All throughout breakfast she was signing about how much it's going to suck not being able to talk durning classes. Well our classes are online right now and because of that I dont have my interpreter. So I signed to her saying "now you know how I feel" she then said "yeah but for me it's a bit different your teachers are aware you are mute, my throat just hurts." I signed back saying  "yeah but you still cant talk maybe it will be a day in my life for you." She then signed "again its different people are more understanding for you because you are mute from a disability but my throat hurts so people wont take pitty on me like they do you." I the sign "oh yep of course I'm just a big petty party everyones nice to the disabled kid cuase that's how it has always worked." She then signed "I didnt mean it like that and you know it stop being so grumpy because you went to bed at 2 am last night." At that point I got up and took my dish to the dishwasher and went to my room to get ready for school. Now that I am in between classes I look back on it and am in between weather I was being overly sensitive or I was validly upset.

I should mention everything in quotes is paraphrased because asl to English can be a little fucky in structuring. ######

Response: YTA Playing the "I have it worse" game rarely keeps anyone from being the asshole. ######


Prompt:
Me and my ex are good terms still talk to each other frequently. I like to catch up on what's going on in her life and vise versa for her. We've been broken up for 3 years .has been going through a hardship recently, so I invited her over to just chill and talk with me.

My girlfriend is one of those people who thinks you should cut contact with your previous partner. No photos, delete text and whatever, I don't agree. That's why I didn't tell her until like 8 months into our relationship. Her response to that is for another time and place. So I tell my girl, that my ex will be coming over and should find something to do for a couple of hours. "Go for a walk, go hang out with friends just something". I'm the type of person that wants the setting to be intimate. It's personal, no reason for my girl to be here with us. They meet each other once but for a minute at most.

Her response " this seems shady as hell And trying to push me to the side" I responded with she "wouldn't understand because you don't keep a bond with your previous partners".

What ended up happening is, we had food, relaxed & talkedm typical friend stuff. My girl on the other hand, in my opinion went a little over dramatic. Stayed at her parents house all night. Maybe I read the situation wrong, what do you guys think? ######

Response:
 YTA or a troll

"So I tell my girl, that my ex will be coming over and should find something to do for a couple of hours. "Go for a walk, go hang out with friends just something". I'm the type of person that wants the setting to be intimate. It's personal" jesus

Edit- op is a bigger asshole than we thought, they now want to break up with the girlfriend to get with the ex

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/gr4hzw/how_do_you_break_it_off_with_someone_without/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share thanks u/quixoticmelody ######


Prompt:
My boyfriend (23M) and I (18F) have been dating for a year. We met at university. He has met my parents and grandparents, and they really like him.

Yesterday my immediate family and I went to the cottage. Not technically our cottage but a friend’s that we borrowed from. My BF was invited. My family is Christian, and my grandmother especially was adamant that I don’t share a room with my boyfriend. She says unless we’re married we should not sleep together.

So I was supposed to sleep in a room with my cousin and sister while he slept in his own room.

Anyways my BF and I were playing pool in the basement at around midnight. Nearly everyone was asleep. He told me to sleep with him for the night. I reminded him that I’m not allowed to, and he said I’m an adult now and I can do what I want. He took my hand and led me upstairs to his room.

I wanted to get up early and sneak back to my room before anyone could notice but I woke up after most of my family. My BF was already downstairs. I was eating outside by myself when my grandma found me. She said she asked my sister where I slept last night, my sister told me I never came to the room. My grandma said she was very disappointed in me and that she expected better from me.

She also said that I should have set a better example for my little sister, and that I embarrassed her in front of her siblings (my great-aunts, who were also there). My mom was also upset at me but she didn’t lecture me or anything.

I felt really bad afterwards. My boyfriend said my grandma is overreacting and that we did nothing wrong, we’re not even at my house. He says I should stay in his room again tonight but I should remember to sneak out earlier.

Was I disrespectful by not obeying my family’s rules? Would I be TA for breaking the rule again and sleeping in my BF’s room? ######

Response:
 YTA only because you knew the rule when you went. You were invited and should have abided by and respected your grandmas rules. If you didn’t want to abide by the rule then you shouldn’t have brought him. Yes you’re an adult but you’re also a guest.

Also, your BF is the bigger AH for ignoring the rules all together and getting you to break them. ######


Prompt:
So my sister had a small informal wedding recently, and I stayed over at her place the night of. Basically it turned out that only a small amount of the wedding cake was actually eaten at the event, and she put the other 80% in the fridge.

I stayed up late and got stoned, and I ended up eating the entire cake. The next morning, my sister was furious with me and claimed that it was for them, and that I should have only taken a piece, but that really baffled me. Yes, she didn't specify that I could eat her food, but it seemed natural to me that a house guest should be able to help themselves to whatever amenities are available. I refused to apologize, and she's still a little upset with me about it. Honestly feel pretty stubborn about this one but I'd still like to hear anyone else's opinion. ######

Response: YTA obviously. Even if it wasn't wedding cake you shouldn't be eating fucking 80% of a cake. Let me guess, you're one of those people who eat all the leftovers or good snacks in the house within a day or two and use the whole "if you wanted it you should have eaten it" excuse. This is so rude and you definitely need to apologize. And stop being a selfish pig. ######


Prompt:
I can’t remember if it was a weeknight or not which is relevant but oh well.

Regardless the park closes at 11 and some kids were gathered being super loud and smoking weed which I didn’t mind until after the park closed and I got fed up. So I decided to take action.  I put my speaker outside of my window, blasted the hamster dance song, and waited.  Five minutes later I stopped and they had gone!  Am I the Asshole?  They weren’t hurting anyone just being annoying late at night and I was def a dick but was I the asshole? ######

Response: YTA not to the kids, but other neighbours. You were doing the same thing as them, only worse. Also I don't see you mention asking them politely to leave? Maybe they are loud pot smoking kids, but maybe they aren't little shitheads. When I was a teen I was loud and annoying as most teens are, but if you asked me politely to stop doing what ever I was doing because it's causing you discomfort, I'd stop. ######


Prompt:
For the past few months I’ve been going on a few (okay lots) of Tinder dates. I’m single minded and I’d like to find someone to spend the rest of my life with. One specific date I went on upset a few of my friends and they’ve since started calling me “Uber”.

I invited a gentleman to meet me for a drink. We’d been chatting for a few days and I was jazzed for this one, got a bottle of wine at a bar, some cheese, the whole thing. He arrived and we talked for about an hour. I told him to get all his stuff we were going somewhere else. So I took him outside the restaurant and told him he was a great guy, didn’t do anything wrong, and that I wished him well but I didn’t really feel any attraction towards him. I also told him that this was the best place to get an Uber and that I was going back inside.

A few of my friends think that was harsh and that I should have finished the date and then texted him about it later. Some of my friends appreciated it and said that they would want the same honesty. For the record, he said okay and I never heard from him again.

I’ve done this with a few dates with minor changes and I think I’m doing the right thing! I don’t want to waste anyone’s time, including my own. So am I an asshole? ######

Response: YTA not necessarily for saying it, but how you did it seems unnecessarily theatrical and cruel. I also don’t really think anyone needs to say anything after a first tinder date. Don’t ask the person out again. If they ask you out again, tell them no thanks. ######


Prompt:
Getting set up on a date that didn’t work. Was I an Asshole.

So many years ago when I was single and dating.  I got set up by friends with a girl for a date
Friends of her,friends of me.  They thought we’d click. But I didn’t get that connection.

We didn’t really click. But everyone said just go out for a date or two. So we did.
We had coffee. We had beers.  We went for Walks. Etc.

All she did was talk about another guy. Constantly. Like a lot. An awful lot.

We went to a movie premiere. I got us great seats. She started to talk about him again.

Just as the movie just as it started, I asked her if she wanted popcorn.

She said yes...extra butter and a large pop.

I walked to the lobby, exited the cinema and got on a fucking bus home.

The end. ######

Response: YTA not for ending the date, but for how you ended it. Be an adult, use your words. Don't just walk away without even telling the other person you're leaving. ######


Prompt:
I used to work at a cosmetics retail store. I was there for 2 years and about 18 months in, a girl named Fatima joined our team. She was professional, kind and a great sales rep.

There was only one problem. Her FEET. SMELLED. LIKE ROTTING EGGS. They smelled what I'd imagine would smell like dead rats, vomit and beatle juice all at once. PUNGENT. OVERWHELMING. STALE.  It was unbearable.

What's worse is noone in our team had the guts to tell her. She was just spoken about behind her back. "Oh here comes Feetima" and "stay 10 FEET away from her". We'd avoid her like the plague. She would even deter customers from our store.

6 months later, I was set to move overseas and handed in my resignation to my manager. At the same time, I offered to have a word with Fatima about her feet since I was leaving anyway and wouldn't have to deal with the repercussions. My manager was thrilled.

I waited until my last day on the job. I found the opportunity when we were both in the kitchen together alone. I said "Fatima, I'm going to tell you something that I would want you to tell me if I were in your position. Your feet smell like something died and is decomposing on them. It's so bad that everyone deliberately avoids you and I think you should do something about it".

She responded by saying she has a fungas issue and that she can't afford new shoes. She then broke down, called me inconsiderate and stormed out.

I never spoke to her again. My manager was very grateful.

TLDR: Took the opportunity on my last day on the job to tell a co worker her feet smell like something dead is decomposing on them since I'd never see her again. ######

Response: YTA not because you told her but because of the way you told her. ######


Prompt:
This is such a quarantine argument btw lmao...

So, my wife was reading a book yesterday and kept going on telling me about the book. Not like a, "oh this book is good, its about xyz".  I'm talking she is trying to tell me about characters and their interactions, why this one character's childhood caused her to go into this certain field etc etc.  Honestly, I don't give a crap about fictional characters in a book that I would never read.  For context, my wife is usually doing this with other things...example, "You know that girl I used to cheer with, Rebecca?...No?...oh, well her brother got arrested for selling drugs".  Kind of thing...as in, ok so some stranger I don't know got arrested.  Cool.

This is not some big contentious thing in our relationship, just an annoying thing that happens occasionally, but it is what it is.  Maybe it is the quarantine, but instead of just nodding and saying "ok cool",  I essentially told her I don't really care to hear about the interworkings of this book.  For the record, I currently feel like an ass, because she got really upset, was crying because I told her I don't care, which I did say that. I don't want to make her sad, nor did I realize it was that important to her.  Ultimately I did apologize, because I upset her, but in terms of my feelings that upset her, I really still..don't give a shit about hearing about this kind of stuff.  When I read a book, I don't tell her anything. I may say, oh that book I just read was good or bad, but that's it, so it it hard for me to even understand why anyone would do that.  So, am I the asholes for not giving two shits about the characters in my wife's fictional book? ######

Response: YTA not because you don't care (you can't really help that) but because of how you went about communicating it. Also, it's really not that hard to pretend to care. Your wife is excited about something and was loving the book and wanted to share it with you. It seems she is highly bonded with you and wants to share things with you, even if you don't know the people/characters. To only care to be told about things you know is a little self-centered. If it's really killing you so much to be told extra information then go ahead and have her find someone else to emotionally bond with and share things with. But don't be surprised when that turns into distance from you. ######


Prompt: My girlfriend bought an outfit online. It’s a tube top and a short skirt. The tube top just covers her boobs and the skirt is short enough to where her ass hangs out. I think it’s really hot, but I told her I didn’t feel comfortable for her wearing it in public because I felt like it was too revealing. She told me she didn’t feel that way but she also just bought the outfit. I told her that I should have at least a small say in what she wears out in public because we’ve been dating for over a year but she thinks I’m trying to be controlling. Am I the asshole here? ######

Response: YTA no, you don't get a small say in what she wears in public. You think you get to claim some type of ownership because you've been dating a while? Your comfort level doesn't matter here, if you don't like it then don't hang out with her when she chooses to wear it in public. What are you afraid is going to happen? ######


Prompt: My husband kept some multi-generation steak knives in a junk drawer. He used them fairly frequently, but for Christmas we received a new knife block with new steak knives. I didn’t know that they were special to my husband and offered them up to my mother, who was looking for hand-me-downs for my sister’s new apartment. My husband was understandably upset. I have apologized profusely every time this subject comes up and have offered many times to ask for the knives back and give my sister new ones instead. He keeps declining, but keeps holding my blunder over my head. It’s come up again tonight. I’ve apologized again for my stupidity and offered to get them back, but I’m frustrated with him constantly holding it over me. He’s not answering my texts now. I know I’m the asshole for giving the knives away in the first place, but am I the asshole for getting frustrated? Should I just go ahead and get my sister new knives and get the old ones back without his “blessing?” ######

Response:
 Yta never give away something that is not yours. You should have asked.

The fact its still bothers hi. Should be a damn clue to get them back.  Double YTA ######


Prompt:
My daughter (13F) insists on sitting in her room (on her computer) and doing her school work. She gets about 5 hours of work on weekdays and none on weekends. I would much prefer she sit downstairs in the living room and do her work so I can a keep an eye on what she's doing and who she's talking to. Apparently (according to her) she has to attend a meeting call with her peers and teacher for every lesson, she NEEDS to be in her room so no one disturbs her and so she has her notes to refer to.

We've been having some good weather lately and I've been asking her to go outside for walks and bike rides. Apparently she is too busy to go every day and now usually goes every weekend or so. I have screen time installed on her phone and she spends ONE WHOLE HOUR on her phone everyday! It's "essential" during the lockdown and she needs it to "contact her friends".

I finally had enough yesterday and decided to confiscate both her new computer and phone for a week. She will get them back provided she spend one hour outside every day for this week. She has an older slower laptop she can still do her school work on.

AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA massively. If she’s getting her work done then does it matter how much time she spends on her phone staying in touch with friends?

Fast forward to when she’s married. Her husband takes her phone away from her because she’s spending too much time on her phone. You wouldn’t stand for that would you? You’re basically doing the same thing ######


Prompt:
Two weeks ago we had taco night. My mom made a bunch of meat, beans, corn, etc. My brothers got to the kitchen about ten minutes before me to make their tacos and as I entered, my little brother was finishing making his fifth taco and used up the last of the beef. I was pissed because they didn’t save me any and the meat is the best part of the taco.

I told them to give me some meat and they ignored me and went to the living room and started eating. I went to my mom to tell her what they did and she didn’t even care. She didn’t tell either of them to give me some meat, so I had bean tacos instead. Not terrible but I was kind of mad about the selfishness.

Flash forward to yesterday morning and my mom made eggs and bacon. I got to the kitchen first, followed by older brother, then my little brother about ten minutes later. I took one third of everything that was made, and my older brother took the rest even though he asked me if my little brother had eaten yet and I said no. What a dick move.

Anyways, my little brother comes and sees that nothing was left, and tells our mother and all hell broke loose. She yelled at us that he hadn’t eaten yet, he is to eat first from now on, and that we shouldn’t have eaten it all. She then made him a separate breakfast.

I think this is unfair because she didn’t do the same for me. I couldn’t even convince her to. Furthermore, I took my fair share, whereas he took way more than he should’ve. I called her out on it and she wouldn’t respond. Then my brothers said I was TA. I disagree. What does Reddit think? ######

Response: YTA lmao. If you were like 13-15, I’d understand, but you are a 22 year old man. Buy and cook your own food so you don’t have to worry about your mom being “unfair”. ######


Prompt:
I know I’m sorta in the wrong for making the bet in the first place, but let’s see.

My sister-in-law-to-be announced that she was pregnant two months ago. I was really suspicious about this. I’ve heard rumors of her faking a pregnancy before. Again, I didn’t blurt it out, but that’s what I thought. The timing was too perfect.

I told this to my brother, and we did make a bet. $100 to the person who was right.

It turns out that I was right. She admitted that she had faked her pregnancy, after multiple holes in her plan were exposed.

Their relationship is a bit rocky now, me thinks. So, should I ask him for a hundred bucks?

WIBTA? ######

Response: YTA leave it, please. He's got a lot things to deal with atm. Be supportive. ######


Prompt:
I was at work yesterday and it was time for my break. I went down to the break room with a few of my friends. While we were eating, there were scenes of the protests on TV.

My friend made a joke saying, "all of these white people always cause shit". For context, he is black and I am white. I found the joke funny and returned it by saying, "if you guys have time to get down on one knee, you have time to work". We both laughed but our other coworker didn't. He told me that my joke was racist and I shouldn't have said it. I tried to explain that John (fake name) found it funny and that he is black (our coworker is also black) He didn't care and walk away.

Later on, I found out that he told our supervisor about my joke and that he wanted to see me after my shift was over. When I went there, he told me that he won't write me up but I shouldn't say things like that near him as he could get offended again. I left it as that and walked off. I told John and we were both confused about how he thought an obvious joke was racist.

AITA for it? ######

Response: YTA kinda for assuming that just bc one black coworker didn't find something racist, that the other wouldn't as well. POC aren't a hivemind. ######


Prompt:
I met a guy a while ago and we hit it off. We talked every hour of every day for 3-4 months, but chose not to date because of our differing plans for next year. We both agreed that we’d come back after next year and decide to date or not. We continued acting like a couple without formally calling it a “relationship.”

A while later, I realized that acting like a couple without actually being one (just to separate in a few months when he leaves to another country) is pointless. I told him that we should act like friends. He agreed and we still continued talking but he would still flirt. I told him again that we should act like friends and he got hurt this time for some reason.

A while later, he asked me if I still liked him and if I was talking to anybody else. I told him I did like him, and I was not a “thing” with anybody else and had no intention of dating anybody else. He still got upset and we stopped speaking so often when my grandfather passed that same day. He’d occasionally text me that he’s going to NJ. I assumed it was to meet some friends.

I found out very recently from pictures my friend sent me that he has been in a relationship with his best friend for the past two weeks (who lives in NJ!) -The same girl who lusted after him while we were seriously talking (he would tell me he could tell she likes him from the way she talks to him, but said he doesn’t like her at all.) I texted him asking him to confirm, and he simply said he is dating her, and has been for two weeks already. I was shocked and fuming.

AITA for expecting him to tell me he’s in a relationship or is it none of my business if we technically are just friends now? ######

Response:
 YTA kind of. You can't tell someone that you just want to be friends with them and then get upset when you find out they're dating someone else.

It's none of your business what he does and who he does it with in so far as he keeps his relationship with you friendly. ######


Prompt: So I live with my girlfriend and her friend (also female) in a two bedroom apartment. Today while the gf's friend was at work I took a shower. When I got out, I came out to the living room without getting dressed and went to sit on the couch. My girlfriend got upset and asked me what I was doing. She insisted that I go put some pants on. I was confused but I did. When I got back out there I asked her what the problem was and she told me I was being disrespectful to her friend by sitting naked on the couch we all use. I was confused once again. I understand that if I was nasty and sweaty, but I was literally fresh out of the shower. Anyway, I told her that I wouldn't do it anymore but I didn't understand why it was disrespectful. Now she's mad that I don't understand. AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA just no. No no no no no. I own my sofa, and share a house with my kids. It's my house, so my rules, but I would never sit naked on a shared space. My bed? No problem.

Do you not consider anal leakage? Dropping pubes? And YTA for making me have to type this.

Just ugh. ######


Prompt:
Last night my girlfriend accidentally dropped her laptop down the stairs (our dog kind of jumped at her while she was going up). It still turns on but the only thing connecting the screen a keyboard are a couple wires and the screen is showing all those weird colors. Anyways she was freaking out about it and I helped get the hard drive out and connect it to my laptop. Luckily her documents were saved and I managed to transfer it onto her Ipad.

This morning she woke me up to ask if she could just access a few more documents through my laptop and I said cool. An hour or so later, I get up and see her typing up her assignment on my laptop on the couch. She said it would be easier since I don't even use it much right now.

Now my girlfriend isn't the most responsible person when it comes to taking care of things so I asked to rather use her Ipad and she was upset. AITA? ######

Response: YTA just let her finish and make sure she leaves the computer in one location. ######


Prompt:
My sister (31F) is having a baby in August. It’s a boy, but they are not planning to announce the name until he is born. This has really pissed off my mom and grandma, and they constantly bug my sister about telling the name.

After a while, my sister got sick of it and started telling them fake names. This might seem like a good strategy on the surface, but *its not.* My grandma especially freaks out when she doesn’t like the name, and my sister has been giving her fake name “contenders” on purpose.

For example, she said she’d name her son Mo Lester, Stalin, Egbert, and a few more totally crazy names. Every time, my mom calls me in tears and rants for like 10 minutes straight about how my sister is losing it and I need to talk sense into her. I always tell my mom she’s probably joking, but my mom is very gullible.

This dynamic is starting to annoy me a lot. AITA if I tell my sister to knock it off so I don’t have to deal with the drama? ######

Response: YTA it’s not your sisters fault your mom and grandma aren’t respecting her boundaries. Not to mention she is a freaking genius 😂 It’s also not her fault they are trying to loop you into it because apparently no one taught them the meaning of the word no. I really hope your sister sets some boundaries soon before the baby gets here. ######


Prompt:
My sister called today asking for money, saying she needs it for food. I asked why because she told me she works at a grocery store as her job(she’s in college and has her own apartment, I still live at home, I’m going next year). I thought grocery store workers were essential workers(which they are). She said she got fired and I asked why again, and also asked why she didn’t just ask our parents for money instead of me, since I don’t have a job anyway.

She finally ended up saying she’s a prostitute and that because of the lockdown she hasn’t had any “business”. I tried to talk some sense into her and told her to go out and get a real job, but she wouldn’t listen. So I told our parents about it so they would talk to her, and they thanked me for telling them. Later my sister called and yelled at me for telling them, saying it’s not my business to go telling people.

It’s not like I put it up on Facebook or something, I just told my parents so that they would talk to her. She blocked me on everything and said not to try and call her.

AItA? ######

Response:
 YTA it’s not your place to say something like that, especially if there was a chance it could cause family conflict.
If she wanted them to know, don’t you think she would have gone to them in the first place? In fact, she only told you when you kept asking why she hadn’t asked your parents... A CLEAR indication she didn’t want them to know. ######


Prompt:
Me: 20/f

Stepsister: 23/f

Parents: 40s m/f

I have a younger brother (18/m) but he is staying with my mom and stepdad for reasons.

Corona virus basically ruined my college experience.  The school closed down when we were on spring break, so a lot of my stuff is still there.  My best friends and boyfriend live far away and I can only see them through zoom and Skype until it’s safe to travel again. My internship for the summer has been cancelled and it's nearly impossible to get another job.  We were planning a memorial day trip too and that's obviously been put on hold.

I also had to give up my freedom and move back in with my dad and step family, which has been a huge adjustment.  My dad is very religious and doesn't allow things like drinking, smoking, etc. I have to follow their religion (Evangelical Christian if it matters) while I'm here.

My stepsister (S) is learning disabled and has a seizure disorder.  She doesn't really leave the house too much on a normal basis except to go to church and occasionally do things with them. So she has her own set up and routines around the house.  In some ways this is better for her, because she can attend more social events virtually.

I was talking with my boyfriend over zoom about how depressed I've been.  Stepsister jumped in and said it's been "SOOOOOOOO hard" for her too.  I was honestly fed up at that point that my privacy was invaded AGAIN plus it felt like she was minimizing what I have gone through.  So I snapped at her, "what do you mean, it's hard for you?  Your life has barely changed, my life has been ruined." She of course ran and told my dad, who yelled at me and basically called me an AH.  I stomped up to my room and shut the door.

I feel bad, but I don't think I'm being an asshole.  But am I? ######

Response: YTA It’s not a competition. Also you’re basically complaining that you’ve gotta experience what your sister has to go through for the rest of her life for what, a summer? ######


Prompt:
So due to this whole pandemic, I’ve urged my girlfriend to only order essential things from amazon. It’s a big risk to be ordering unnecessary stuff that could put us at risk. Anyway so as I was checking our orders I saw my gf ordered some kind of gloves. I clicked on it and they were these compression gloves meant for people with arthritis. 1: I urged her not to order unnecessary stuff and 2: she’s 22, she definitely does not need gloves that are meant for someone with arthritis.

I immediately questioned her about it. She told me she does indeed need it to help her since she’s a freelance artist and even with stretching her hands get sore and she has trouble sleeping over it. I still don’t think she needs it. Aside from the whole pandemic, she is *young* there is no reason she should be buying this instead of an older person who might need it much more than she does. She’s putting us at risk for no reason other than the fact that she can’t deal with a little pain. I cancelled the order before it could ship and she got pissed at me. This of course led to a huge argument. My job has me working my entire body, yet my gf not only wants to complain about a little wrist pain but she also apparently *needs* to put us both at risk because of this. AITA for telling her she does not need these gloves? ######

Response: YTA it’s common for artists to get arthritis at a young age. She could be starting to see signs and not wanting (or able) to see a doctor. She obviously needed them or she wouldn’t have ordered them. ######


Prompt:
Bit of background, my wife and I are key workers,  i have been working at home the duration of the pandemic.
My wife has not been able to, So has been at home with the kids, only going in on a semi regular basis.

Ages ago my boss told us all to book X amount of holiday over the next four months , (so we don't go back to work and everyone has three weeks off.)
I booked some random days off and forgot about it.

It turns out one of these days off fell on one of my wife's work days.
I admit I could have told her there and then, but I felt like I needed a break, I couldn't remember the last time I had some time to myself, plus she would expect a list of chores done if I told her. So I didn't.

My wife works in a school, so the kids were looking forwards to going with her and there was barely anyone there after the deep clean, I would have the house to myself.
I had planned a day reading, going for a walk, just doing whatever, I was pretty pleased with myself

It gets worse.

The night before she tells me that, oh it's all cancelled and they would be staying at home.

It was too late to come clean, I couldn't cancel my holiday either, what could I do but go through with it?

Karma maybe? But I spent the day in the home office, still managed to read and take some time out. But felt awefull for pretending to be working. ######

Response: YTA it's understandable that you need a break, but why are you sneaking around and lying to your wife!? Suck it up, be an adult, and talk to her. I'm sure she'd be happy to help cover you for a day off if you offered the same to her. You're both working hard and full of stress during quarantine. You need to be a team. This was not being a good team. ######


Prompt:
My 14 year old son decided a few days ago that he was going to uninstall Windows on his laptop and install another program called Linux on it instead. I told him that I didn't care either way as long as he can still do his schoolwork on it.

The very next day, our desktop computer as well as his dad's laptop both got infected with a virus, our Dropbox got hacked, and we lost a bunch of our important files. There are no computer repair shops open near us right now, so we became stuck using my daughter's laptop until they open again. I am fairly certain that this is a result of my son installing Linux on his computer, because this happened to *two* of our computers right about the same time he installed Linux on his. I told him this and took away his computer so that he can't do any more damage with it, but he got angry told me that this is impossible.

Today, I looked up online how to reinstall Windows on a computer, followed the instructions, and installed it onto his computer with a flash drive. Once I reached the stage where he needs to input his information, I gave the computer back to him, told him what I did, and told him to never install anything dangerous on his computer again. He completely freaked out, started crying, and said that all of his files and his schoolwork are now gone because I wiped his hard drive. I told him that he should have thought about that before infecting our other computers, and that he should have backed up his files.

I had to do this in order to protect our other computers, but I'm wondering if I should have told him ahead of time before I did it. AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA it's impossible to get a virus on another computer by installing linux on a separate one if both of your computers got the virus that's on YOU.
Linux is not a program it's a separate operating system ######


Prompt:
So last July my brother announced he had proposed and the wedding was scheduled for mid 2020 ish (they didn't lock in a date thankfully because they'd have to postpone it due to this lockdown stuff) and the girl seems really nice. A little uptight tbh but definitely someone who can be chill and fun to be around after you get to know her. She's a CPA. So she texted me right about late April asking if I'd like to go to the Bachelorette part (obv. taking place when things reopen) I kinda just said no, but out of guilt I felt the need to get a gift for the occasion. This is what I got her.. [NSFW](https://www.amazon.com/dp/B087SHDHQH). When she got it.. I mean when HER DAUGHTER (10) GOT IT OUT OF THE GODDAMN MAIL BOX AND OPENED THE PACKAGE. SHE TEXTED ME AGAIN. Then she called me, yelling about how I couldn't possibly be more inconsiderate and I'm lucky that she isn't calling the authorities (lol?) about this.
I literally just wanted to alleviate my guilt about not caring about her Hen night party and now she thinks I'm actually disturbed in the head. Am I? More importantly reddit, AITA? She won't drop this and we've had a somewhat forced facetime with my brother in the room recently and it was extremely awkward. She claims I might have damaged her kid for life. What. Do. I. DO. AITA?..

TLDR Wiener Book Wrong Place Wrong Time ######

Response: YTA it sounds like you barely know this woman, why would you send her a risqué gag gift? You had no idea if she was ok with those kind of jokes or if they would make her uncomfortable. That’s an awful way to start a relationship with a SIL. ######


Prompt:
I (20M) live with my large family, and I'm stuck with all of them thanks to the ongoing situation. It's been a tough month, and my mother (47F) has been looking for ways to make money.

She's had some credit card debt. Nothing major, but because her businesses' incomes have dried up, she hasn't had any way to pay her debts off. She's begun making hand sanitizers and face masks to generate some extra income, but she's always on the lookout for more cash to support the family.

A few months ago, she asked me if she could sell my old bike. I agreed, since I don't use it much anymore and it's just rusting in a corner of our storage. It took a while, but today, she was finally able to sell it, as well as my dad's bike.

I helped her to cart it out front and wiped it down before the buyer pulled up and paid for it. After the guy drove off and we went inside, I asked her for my share. She was bemused at first, and asked me who was the one who sold it in the first place. I said it was her, but it is still my bike and my property. She said she'd give me half. I disagreed, and asked her for the full amount as I also need money since I'm saving to move out  sooner than later. I didn't mention the moving out part. That's a sore subject for her. She got upset and started ranting about how unreasonable I'm being and how the money would benefit me anyway once she pays off her debt and how she feeds and houses me and how she bought the bike for me as a gift anyway (6-7 years ago) and how I just horde my money (I don't, it's called savings). I sat silently while she went on for about 5-10 minutes and then she stormed off, got the cash and gave it to me, and is now giving me the cold shoulder. She gave me the full amount for my bike.

My family is making me feel bad for asking for the money, and I even tried to give her a portion, but she refuses to take it. AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA It sounds like she took an old bike that you abandoned on her property, one that she likely paid for, and turned it into cash. Dick move for sure.

>I'm stuck with all of them thanks to the ongoing situation.

It also sounds a bit more like they're stuck with you. ######


Prompt:
I'm a RN who works in NYC (I commute from a neighboring county, takes about 45 minutes to get to work with no traffic).

I don't need to explain how horrible the situation is right now on my unit, but today at least I saw more dead patients than alive ones. I wrapped more bodies for the morgue than I ever have in my 6 years of being a RN.

After leaving work around 7:30pm, I drove home. The roads were completely empty right after I got out of the city. I guess I was a little hard on the gas (78 in a 65). I really didn't notice since I typically go 5 over, but this was my fourth 12-hour shift, and I was going in tomorrow to help the unit since we are overwhelmed.

After I passed a cutout in the highway (cop almost never sits there), I saw him and braked.. too late. He had pulled out and had his lights on.

He asked where I was going/why I was going so fast and I explained I was a nurse (I had scrubs on) and that I really wanted to get home so I could shower, eat some dinner quick, say goodnight to my kids and fiance (I sleep in a separate room to keep them safe). He then said to hold tight... came back and gave me a ticket.

Now typically I support LEOs, I think they have a tough job and when done right are great people. But here I felt it was so wrong. I said "really?? you're giving me a ticket" and he said "yes maa'am you violated the law and there are consequences for that." I just was at a loss of words and told him he was despicable for doing that, he replied "haha, okay"

Now before everyone says to get off my high-horse, please... I've been given a ticket before while heading to the beach with my girlfriends and I fully accepted it and had no reason to speed. But today, with everything we are facing, I just felt like it was a slap in the face. Especially that the NYPD and FDNY applaud us as we enter/leave work. It felt horrible.

However... now the pre-bed time emotions are hitting me and I feel bad for being nasty to the cop. So , AITA here??? ######

Response: YTA ish. You're still speeding, by a lot. That's 13 over which is considered reckless driving (I believe) I'm an RT so I understand but he's also doing his job. How are you going to help anyone by getting into a wreck or killing someone for speeding. ######


Prompt:
My gf has recently got very into skincare stuff. She suffered from pretty bad acne until last year when she went on acutane and it cleared it up. Since then she's been excited about being able to try different products and stuff.

One of her recent favorite products is this moisturizer which has snail slime in it. I find that honestly disgusting. She says it works really well for her skin which is a lot dryer than it used to be because of the acutane but I just do not get why you'd want to smear snail slime on your face. There's plenty of moisturizers that don't have actual snail in them. I absolutely cannot fucking stand the thought of kissing her on the cheek and kissing snail.

So I did some research and a couple weeks ago I found another moisturizer (it took ages, I had no idea there were seven million moisturizers) which has similar positive reviews to the one she uses, but without snail slime. It was expensive too, probably more than her snail one. I checked the ingredients and there's nothing in there that she's allergic to so I bought it. When she was out, I scooped out the snail cream from the pot and replaced it with the stuff I'd bought. I didn't throw away the snail cream but I decanted it into another container because I didn't want to throw away her stuff.

She used the new cream which she thought was snail cream for a few weeks with no issue. Then she found the jar of her actual snail stuff a couple days ago and asked me what it was and I came clean. I told her that the thought of her smearing snail on her face made me gag so I found a really good new one for her. I told her I hadn't told her because I wanted her to see that it worked just as well and she wouldn't give it a fair shot if I just asked her to use a different one. She hit the roof and accused me of tampering with her stuff. Ngl I'm still pretty sure I wasn't that out of order because I picked a great new moisturizer but she's still mad at me so I'll ask the hive mind AITA. ######

Response: YTA in the category "we could have had an adult conversation where I would have told her I'm slightly put off by something she does, but instead I chose to do something creepy with the underlying idea that I know better than her what's good for her and she should now just be grateful because I solved the problem in spite of her unreasonable behaviour" ######


Prompt: I have custody of my 23 year old autistic brother who has about the functionality of a 10 year old. I have always treated him no different than I would anyone else and I feel like if he wants to try it he should be able to. At the same time... I have a 9 year old daughter and there's no way in hell I would be ok with her trying it at the age she is now. I stopped smoking about 4 years ago during my divorce when the custody situation was happening and never picked it back up, but I am in no way against it. He is the one who mentioned this to me the other day and just brought it back up because I had just put it out of my mind as one of those things he brings up but then forgets about. I reached out to our mother and she is all for letting him have "those life experiences" but I'm unsure. Sooo... WIBTA? ######

Response:
 YTA if:

He does not meet the Brady test for informed consent, which was mentioned already.

You do this without consulting medical professionals.

You do this without a proper environment to keep him safe, which may involve having professionals available on-hand to deal with extreme behaviors.

I raised a child with Autism. I can tell you now that I have smoked weed, and still do on occasion, but HIM doing this can cause permanent changes to his behavior, interact with any medications he's on, etc. You don't want any of that on your conscience, or your criminal record.

Unless there is a REASON to do it (like it would help with anxiety, it would help with pain, it would help with focus, etc.) that you are not equipped to diagnose, this can be very bad, and you can be liable. ######


Prompt: I have custody of my 23 year old autistic brother who has about the functionality of a 10 year old. I have always treated him no different than I would anyone else and I feel like if he wants to try it he should be able to. At the same time... I have a 9 year old daughter and there's no way in hell I would be ok with her trying it at the age she is now. I stopped smoking about 4 years ago during my divorce when the custody situation was happening and never picked it back up, but I am in no way against it. He is the one who mentioned this to me the other day and just brought it back up because I had just put it out of my mind as one of those things he brings up but then forgets about. I reached out to our mother and she is all for letting him have "those life experiences" but I'm unsure. Sooo... WIBTA? ######

Response:
 YTA if your brother doesn’t meet the Brady test for being able to give informed consent, and you’re not gonna pay for or be responsible for any potential negative outcomes or behaviours he exhibits while high.

Edited because spelling ######


Prompt:
I’ve been married to my wife for two years now and she’s always wanted to have a child  with me. She mentions it often. I’ve even been “trying” to have one with her. The problem is that I’ve had a vasectomy and she doesn’t know.

My ex wife came over and dropped off our 3 kids 9, 5 and 4. And she’s pregnant by her now husband. Well her and my wife were talking about her new baby and if she knew the gender. Now my ex knows that I’ve been fixed as I did so after our youngest was born.

Well my wife says “I can’t wait to be pregnant, we’ve been trying to have a baby with no luck but it will happen when God allows it” my ex just smiled and she then looked at me and I knew what she was thinking with the look she gave me.

Later she texted me and told me I needed to tell my wife the truth and that she had baby fever and it was cruel to give her false hopes and pretty much called me a A$$hole. So AITA? I know it’s a little dishonest but it would break my wife’s heart to know the truth. ######

Response: YTA if you’re not a troll, you sound like a sociopath trying to pretend you have emotions about this. Who the fuck lies about being able to have children with someone they are married to and actively trying to have kids with? For two fucking years!? ######


Prompt:
Title says it all. My son 18m, has moved out of home, but is living in our property with his mates at a severely reduced rent. He’s looking at upgrading his computer and says he will “sell” his old one to me when he gets his new one. I want a gaming desktop so I can learn about online games. I current play console only.  I paid half the cost of the original computer, and expedited his working career by driving him to every shift and not charging him a stupid amount of board. I also charge him below market rent and pay his power, gas and water bills for his current property while he’s studying at University.

WIBTA  if I told him he can “give” me his old desktop when he upgrades? ######

Response: YTA if you try to demand the whole computer. You could argue to getting half of the profits off the computer. Honestly though the way you talk about you son sounds like you view the relationship as transactional. You don’t get a cookie for helping your child out especially if financial you are able to. ######


Prompt:
I'm 34F, he's 36M, we've been married for seven years. He's been a musician his entire life but unfortunately had his left arm removed at the elbow three years ago in an accident while hiking. Our house has a dedicated music room which unfortunately he doesn't visit much often anymore. Despite his love for the guitar, he's lost motivation to play (I even tried to find ways he could play with one arm). He doesn't use a prosthesis.

His collection of instruments is large. Fourteen guitars, some by his own admission worth $6,000-7,000. All told he has about $35,000-$40,000 worth of guitars and a further $20,000 or so worth of miscellaneous gear. Our music room is worth more than everything else we own combined.

Since he doesn't want to play anymore, I want to push him to start selling it. We have a four year old and not only could we use the cash, but the room we can turn into a play room. I've said "we" in this thread a lot with regards to the music room and I'm willing to move my violin stuff out of there if he can meet me in the middle. It wouldn't be just him losing a room, I would be too, but I'm willing to sacrifice it.

I broached the topic and he shut me down immediately. Even if he doesn't play it, he wants to still have them. So we have $60,000 of music gear sitting in a room collecting dust when it could depreciate in value. I can't abide this: we're not hurting for money but that's a lot of money doing nothing. I want to push him to sell.

Am I the asshole or nagging wife? ######

Response:
 YTA if you push him to sell them.

It was okay to ask. He declined. End of story. He may come around to the idea in time, or he might not. ######


Prompt:
I’m currently pregnant with twins, one boy one girl, and my fiancé and I are thinking of giving them kind of unconventional names.

I recently told my family some of our top options and they got mad, telling us we’re going to ruin our kids’ lives if we choose these names.

Anyways the names we chose all sort of play off each other. Names include Phoenix (girl) and Dragon (boy), Heaven (girl) and Earth (boy), Moon (girl) and Sun (boy), and Gold (girl) and Silver (boy).

We know these are kind of unconventional, unique type names but we both really like this idea so far especially since we’re having twins of opposite genders. My parents think we’re crazy and should reconsider. We are torn between standing our ground and possibly going down a different route. AWTA to consider these names for our twins? ######

Response:
 YTA if you name your son Demon.  Wth is wrong with you? Why don't you just name him Evil or Satan, since you care more about being cute for 5 seconds than the lifelong self esteem of your child.

And if you name your daughter Moon,, all the other kids will be showing her their bare butts at every opportunity.

Someone has suggested using middle names for this matching monstrosity.  If you must be eccentric like this then please take that advice.

If I ever meet some poor kid named Dragon I will just shake my head sadly and say, "I'm sorry, son.. I really tried to talk them out of it." ######


Prompt:
Hi all,
First post so apologies.

My husband works in almost an all female environment and has done almost 20 years, I accept these work friendships
Last few weeks I've been telling him that co worker texting him after 10pm asking for a lift is inappropriate, he agrees but doesn't control when they text him.
hubby has had 2 weeks annual leave and Last night at 1:30am he had a missed call of co worker. He didn't answer we were alseep!
He messaged this morning to see what she wanted and it transpires that she had had an episode where she had taken too many paracetamol in an attempt to end her life.
Co worker had a partner, has family and friends of her own. I say reaching out to hubby was way over the line and although I sympathise she needs to back off, she is crossing boundaries. Hubby agrees and simply didn't reply.... I want to message and tell her directly. However, I recognise she's currently in a bad place mentally and don't want to cause her further anguish. WIBTA?

Just to add there are no trust issues between hubby and myself and she has never sent suggestive messages but has previously phoned drunk during the early hours where she was told to stop. ######

Response: YTA if you don't give your husband a chance to have a polite and sensitive conversation with the co-worker before you step in.  He needs to let her know that she needs to reach out to someone qualified to help, provide a local crisis hotline number, etc. ######


Prompt:
For context, we are in our late 20’s.

I had headphones on and was watching some NSFW context. My girl came home from work earlier than expected and caught me doing it.

The first thing she does is ask a series of questions. The conversation goes like so:

Her: *Is this the stuff you usually watch?*

Me: *Uh... it varies*

Her: *Do you think she is prettier than me..?*

Me: *I am not really comparing.*

Her: *Be honest!*

Me: *What do you want me to say now?!*

Her: *Tell the truth, would you cheat for her?*

Me: *The opportunity has not happened, idk..*

Her: *Would you be with her instead if she had my same personality? Do not lie to me please*

Me: *Possibly*.

Her: *So you would prefer some barely legal teen looking girl to me..?!*

Me: *Most guys would. She is hot*.

To that she stormed out. I have not texted her because I have no idea what to say anymore.

I get that I was a jerk, but I also think that shit games get shit prizes. She is the type of girl to ask these hypotheticals a lot and it is getting a bit exhausting to tell white lies to cater to her insecurities. It is not the first time she has asked me if I would leave her for someone younger, hotter, cheat, etc.

I was finally being honest and even if I had not, my answer would not have been enough. ATA?

TLDR: Girlfriend kept asking me questions because she is insecure. Was I too honest? ######

Response: Yta if you can't answer " would you cheat on me with this girl" with a resounding no then why are you wasting this girl's time? ######


Prompt:
Ive  (25m) just recently moved in with my GF (26f) - I am black, and she is white.

Growing up my parents drummed it into me that white people using fake tan is equivalent to black face, and i thoroughly believed this until I met my GF.

For context my GF was raised by her mum, her dad died after her sister was born, and that side of the family became estranged. My GF and her sister are both white, but their biological dad is a shade of brown. She doesnt know the details of her heritage, and says its too painful to dig into family that dont care about her. I respect this, and i dont push it.

My GF is also not completely devoid of melanin, she had dark curly hair, and the reason she tans is because her skin tone is uneven. Her sister is blonde and white all over, so i often wondered why they looked so different. She let it wear off to show me once, and her stomach and back are brown, but her face and limbs are white. I still think she's beautiful, but i know she is insecure about it.

My mom is talking about us all having a holiday together next year, but honestly im terrified she will see my GFs fake tan in the bathroom or something.  So i want to ask her not to do it while we're on holiday.

I want marry this girl one day, and i really want my parents to like her, and I'm so scared finding this out will make them disapprove of our relationship - and i'm scared my GF will be so hurt by my parents views she won't want to be with me. ######

Response:
 YTA if you asked her to stop, but your parents obviously are assholes whatever you do.

Fake tanning being equivalent to blackface is just ridiculous. It is a surrogate for tanning, so unless your parents also believe normal tanning to be racist (which would be just as ridiculous), there should be no reason for them to hate on fake tanning.

I think you shouldn't ask your girlfriend to stop fake tanning during the holiday, you would be rewarding the views of your parents at the expense of the insecurity of your girlfriend.

How do you expect to continue that in the future? You can't possibly expect that every time your parents and your girlfriend are together for longer periods of time, she stops fake tanning. There will be a moment that your parents find out, so you should stand up to your parents now to show your girlfriend you care about her and your parents that you disagree on their views about fake tanning.

You should however warn your girlfriend about this, so she knows it's just about some distorted and ungrounded views, and not for example some personal problem they have with her. ######


Prompt:
We just started streaming a new TV series to pass the time during quarantine, we're about a season and a half into it. I saw her earlier today reading wikipedia pages for the show on her computer and asked why she always reads ahead and spoils things. She said she hadn't read any spoilers and I said inevitably you'll read a major plot point or character death if you're reading a bunch of articles and pages about the show, and it upsets me that we intentionally sit down together to watch and experience something new and she ends up just reading the entire thing before it's done.

Now I'm apparently the asshole for overreacting, I just want to watch something together and have something fun to talk about. ######

Response: YTA If she doesn't spoil it for you, whatever information she chooses to look up does not concern you. It can still be enjoyable for someone to read about something and then watch it play out on a screen. We don't all "enjoy" things in the same way. ######


Prompt:
Hi guys,

So my sister said I should share this here. I volunteer with middle school kids doing science type stuff because I am a science major about to go to medical school. Anyways, I went to judge at a science fair and they told us there was this big emphasis on them being able to explain things correctly. One little girl was super nervous and was trying to explain a concept I thought was very difficult for someone in her age group to grasp. I told her "Sweetheart, I'm going to stop you here because I think you are nervous, and so I'm going to explain something to you so that you can explain it to other people better next time." Her mom was there and didn't really seem to mind when I was done explaining polarity to her, her mother even asked her if she thought she could explain it better now, to which she replied yes. I also reassured her that I would not dock her in my judging because I thought the concept was a little high level for her and that her inability to explain it had nothing to do with how good her overall project was (it was decent, not amazing). A bunch of my fellow judges were horrified and said I shouldn't have stopped her. I thought it would be better to correct her on the concept instead of knowingly let her explain it wrong to other judges. Everyone else thought I screwed her for the rest of the day by making her more nervous (although judges who went to her after me DID say they were impressed by her). Anyways this is probably dumb, AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA if only for interrupting her and calling her sweetheart.

But you also made the assumption that the subject was too difficult for her to grasp.

This whole encounter was super condescending. ######


Prompt:
I (27M) met her (26F) a little over 1 year ago, and it was actually her who asked me out. At first it wasn't serious but within a few months we were officially dating. I did grow to love her but it did seem like she was more into me than me into her, but now I'd say its equal.

Anyway, for the longest time I avoided meeting her family because doing so would confirm to myself that we were serious. But eventually I grew the balls to do it and realized her family is filthy rich. I never would have known It because it seems like she really tried hard to be modest about things.

Like, I'm talking multi millions. Her dad owns a very successful business. Turns out I got on great with her family, especially her dad. He took a liking to me, and offered me a job at his business. It's pretty high paying too and not a low level position.

After this, I mulled over things and decided to propose to her which she obviously said yes.

Well when I spoke to one of my friends, we were talking about getting married and he asked me whether her family's financial status had any sway in my decision to propose... and I said "yes of course, it is fucking awesome" and he looked at me weird and called me asshole. AITA? ######

Response: YTA if learning that she's rich was the main motivation for proposing. I really hope she makes you sign a prenup. ######


Prompt:
The Starbucks in my town has recently reopened for take out business only. These people have been put of a job for about a month now, so I don't exactly expect them to be stellar at their jobs at the moment. My gf and I had to get her car from the shop, so we decided to get Starbucks for ourselves and the family while we were out, she placed the order online and I went to pick it up. When I get to the SB, I notice that two of our drinks were made cold instead of hot (these were my gf's and mine drinks), no big deal, I know that mistakes happen and I don't want to add to their workload by having them remake the drinks. My gf and I tend to call each other on long car rides, so on the way home I give her a call and mention that two of the drinks were cold instead of hot. She gets mad and says "wow what a bunch of assholes!" To which I responded (pointedly) with "they're not assholes. They made a mistake". This caused a whole argument where she told me that she can't "express herself" because I react badly to it. I told her that I'm not going to let her degrade service workers who are doing their best during a pandemic (her response to this was "I didn't say it to their face"). After a lot of arguing, I ended up calling her "an entitled white person who has to always get their way" I know that's not a nice thing to say, but at that point I was so frustrated that someone would pop off about an honest mistake. They're risking COVID-19 just so we can get our coffee, I'm don't care if they mess up the drinks a tiny bit. She's furious with me for calling her out on the thing she said in private, and I'm furious with her for talking badly about people who are doing their best. So reddit, AITA?

TLDR; I got mad when my girlfriend called Starbucks employees assholes for getting our order wrong so I called her an entitled white person who has to always get their way. ######

Response: YTA If I paid for a hot drink, I want a hot drink. You can nicely ask them to remake a drink for you. ######


Prompt:
Some background - I (19f) have been staying with my brother -B- (23m) and his long term boyfriend -K- (25m) for the time being for obvious reasons. My only other option was going home to our parents who I don't get along with.

Since living with them I've noticed a few things. Like when my brother cooks he always sets aside some of the leftovers for his boyfriend to have for lunch which means it's off limits even if I want more. He told me after a few days that I had to limit my shower time to under thirty minutes and after I told him I needed extra time because I'm a girl he laughed and said that's a stupid and untrue. He also does his boyfriend's laundry, evening ironing his things. When I asked him to do mine too he said I was grown and could do it myself. Well, if I'm grown so is K.

At one point I drank the last of this really good orange cream float drink and K got mad at me because he apparently makes them special for B. I hadn't noticed that the bottle was marked with my brother's name or obviously I wouldn't have drank it which I told him. He rolled his eyes at me and told me to pay more attention next time.

It's honestly starting to feel like they don't even want me there and are trying to passively aggressively get me to leave. All I want is to be treated the same, am I the asshole for that? ######

Response:
 YTA I'm also a woman and I couldn't take a 30 minute shower if I tried

Adults pay rent and/or buy food or contribute. End of story. They have a routine and a life.. they are kind enough to let you encroach on it. You're not entitled. ######


Prompt:
This is a throwaway account. Some of you are going to think I’m TA just based on the title but I urge you to read to the end. I have 4 children. 3 sons ages 17, 14 & 11 and 1 daughter age 16. My 2 eldest are both very athletic. My son plays football and baseball and my daughter plays softball -it’s a girl version of baseball for those who don’t know. They’re pretty different

My son has a year left of high school and has already been scouted by several universities for football. He has real potential to be drafted in a few years. Naturally my wife and I spend a lot of money every year to pay for him to have the best training as well as traveling expenses. My daughter too is exceptionally good at her sport, but it is impossible for her to become a professional athlete as there is no major league for women. We pay for things she needs, but I will openly admit that we spend much more on my son’s athletic career. I see it as an investment into his future. My daughter’s is recreational.

My daughter gets jealous every time she notices my willingness to spend more on her brother’s career. She sees it as us favoring him, but I don’t think it’s that way at all. I truly love them equally. My decision to give my son a larger budget is only because he can go pro. If I could afford to spend thousands on them both per year, I would absolutely do that. Unfortunately I can’t.

My daughter talked to my wife and said it makes her feel like she’s loved less for being the only girl. A large reason she feels this way is because we put more resources into my son’s sport. I understand why it may initially be perceived as unfair, but I also think that if you know the full story then my justification is valid too. My house is very divided right now with my wife and daughter being on not so great terms with my sons and I. Please help Reddit. AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA I was willing to hear you out all the way up until I got to this little gem:

>my daughter plays softball -it’s a girl version of baseball for those who don’t know. They’re pretty different

You are treating her differently because she's a girl. You can wrap it up and explain it however you want, but that's what it comes down to. ######


Prompt:
Just for some background on our family, I had my daughter at 17, she turned 15 March. Her stepfather and I have been married since she was five.

A couple of years ago she started shying away from church, and around the same time building an altar. At first it was just crystals and candles. She said it was for meditation. Her stepfather and I were uncomfortable with it but we let it go.

With time she she has added more and more religious candles and deities, and she is focusing on it more. We are definitely starting to be less and less ok with it. We are unfamiliar with the things that she has there, we are uncomfortable with the candles and our intuition was to ask her to take it down.

Seeking guidance, we took pictures of the altar and posted it on Facebook, asking other parents what they would do about the situation, and seeing if anyone was familiar about it.

Many advised us to have her write out what each thing was on the altar. That way we can determine it’s appropriateness. If she didn’t want to do that then we had a right to take it down.

We thought that this was good advice so we went to our daughter and told her exactly that. She got offended about us questioning her religious beliefs, and told us that she would not comply. We have given her until the end of the week, the altar will come down if she doesn’t do what we ask.

We posted again to Facebook to update about the situation, and to my surprise people were reacting negatively to what I had done. Many people are saying that this is an invasion of privacy, and that I have no right to do this. I think that it is part of my parenting duty to teach my daughter moral beliefs.

Someone on Facebook actually recommended that I post here to get some other opinions, I’m curious about what people think about the situation.

If she doesn’t tell me the meaning of everything on the alter, I’m taking it down. AITA? ######

Response: YTA I mean why can’t you just ask her to share what the items signicance are instead of getting confrontational and give ultimatums? If you asked nicely maybe she’d have told you but now that moment has passed. Is she sacrificing animals? No? Then let her be. ######


Prompt:
So yesterday was my husbands 40th birthday. We’re Hispanic and pushing kids faces into the birthday cake is a big tradition. This also extends to adults birthdays, especially milestones. We have three children who are 10, 7, and 5. The 10 year old is very sensitive and caring and it’s been a difficult adjustment for my husband who grew up in a very macho household. He tries. He could be better but I know he tries.

Well my son hates the cake smashing and used to cry when his father did it to him. I defended my husband at first because it’s a cultural thing but since he’s the kid my husband struggles with the most I eventually put my foot down. I was worried that it was going to cause more resentment.

Anyway the kids wanted to play a prank on their dad so when I bought the stuff for his party I let them get a thing of cheap cupcakes to smash. He was napping by the pool and the kids were getting ready but I told my 10 year old that I think it’s pretty unfair that he’s about to do to his father when he doesn’t let us do it to him. He has so many boundaries and I try to get my husband to respect them but don’t dish it out of you can’t take it.

So the younger two did their prank and we had people over that evening. Both of our families are loud and kind of obnoxious and I know it’s a lot for my son but this morning he told he he doesn’t feel like he fits in and now I feel like an asshole. ######

Response: YTA I hate when people blame culture for doing something that is borderline abusive ######


Prompt:
I'm a second-year radiology resident in a city in the Pacific Northwest. I'm a decent-looking guy, but a bit short and very socially awkward. So until recently, despite my best efforts, I've never been with anyone in any way at all. I was beginning to think I'd die a virgin without ever having been kissed...until I moved out here to Seattle. There, I found a lot of decently-put-together fairly attractive women that were living on the streets. I decided that was my best chance at sleeping with someone, and so decided to take advantage of the fact that I had a stable living situation to kick-start my romantic life.

I understand that these women are often vulnerable and in a shitty place in life; however, I always try to leave them in a better place than I found them. I buy them food and the supplies they need, leave them with a couple hundred dollars, and buy 'em six months' worth of a UPS mailbox so they can find jobs using the mailbox as a street address. I have a girlfriend, now, who's grateful for a place to live and is now in training to be a certified nurse's assistant. ######

Response: YTA I got chills reading this, this is so scary and sick. ######


Prompt:
My grandmother is 90 this year.
I'm 34 and SIL is 30.

My SIL visits my grandmother with her children and my brother three times a week, I visit as much as possible which is usually three times a month  but we usually Skype or call at least twice a week, I live further away so it just isnt possible for me to visit as frequently.

My SIL has always been very involved with the family, my brother has always tried to make everyone include her since she was adopted and her adopted family went no contact with her (they had a child of their own not too long after adopting her)

I personally think sometimes SIL is overly involved, she's not actually family.

Apparently my grandmothers care worker asked her work to phone family to talk to my grandmother, apparently she was getting emotional when care worker went to leave because obviously nobody has been visiting as much.

Apparently instead of me being contacted (they have my number and brothers number) they contacted my brother despite me saying contact him only in emergencies if I'm not available.

SIL apparently spent 2 hours on the phone and only told me since grandma had asked where I was.

It's not like I'm low contact, I've specified to contact ME, SIL isnt actually her family and should've passed the message to call to me.

I called them up and complained as I should've been informed, not her.

My husband thinks I'm being pety but I think it was unprofessional on the care workers part and especially so on her boss.

Apparently I'm an AH for overreacting I don't think I overreacted and I'm actually considering changing her carer because I'm concerned about what else I'm not being informed about.

AITA ? ######

Response: YTA I don't even get why you are the first point of contact when you are further away from the care home. Also family isn't just about who is related by blood ######


Prompt:
This happened back in Feb but it’s still an issue which she brought up recently.

The title makes me sound like I’m definitely the asshole, but just let me explain:

So my (25M) girlfriend (25F) was picking up something at my workplace. This is an office job, but it’s very stressful. Anyway, I went down to the lobby to handoff the thing my girlfriend needed. I went back up right after.

Later that night, my girlfriend was telling me how she went to the bathroom in the lobby, and there was this girl quietly crying. My girlfriend said she stayed for a little bit and comforted her.

Now the reason I am really annoyed by this is because that girl had got into a *huge* argument with out boss (she was clearly in the wrong though). She was acting super arrogant about something and basically got chewed out by our boss. He was seriously pissed. Basically what happened was, our boss asked her to get him a tea bag from our coffee station. She thought she was to good for that (this is something that we all have to do from time to time) and they got into a huge argument.

Our boss just told her to go home for the day, and the other bosses (our boss’s peers) didn’t say anything.

Obviously people talk, and pretty much everyone agrees that that girl was in the wrong. Sure none of us *like* having to do that stuff, but it rarely happens.

Anyway so I guess the girl was crying in the lobby and when my girlfriend told me about what happened, I instantly recognized who she was talking about.

I told my girlfriend that I really wish she hadn’t done that because I didn’t want it to somehow seem like I, by relation, was taking sides against my boss, especially considering that this girl was the one who started the whole conflict.

My girlfriend says that regardless, it’s “empathetic” to still try to comfort her then. Even once I’ve explained everything, she still doesn’t think she did anything wrong. She said I’m being really cold about this. Am I the wrong one? ######

Response:
 YTA how would your gf had known any situation that is going on in your office? She was being empathetic.

Also what is the frequency of your boss asking this coworker to get him tea bags vs. Everyone else? Honestly she may have felt like it wasn’t her job to do it, especially if it’s not and she was fed up? ######


Prompt:
I live in a house with a park nearby. I am pregnant, so I am considered high risk so we barely leave the house, and when we do we leave at non-peak times (either before 9am or after 7pm). I and my husband have a four-year-old, who is a very high energy kid, and my husband is teaching her how to cycle using stabilisers.

Me and my husband went out in the early morning today. She was cycling, and we followed her from about 5m behind. The path was really clear, so it would be easy to get to her. She went over a rock, and fell off the bike. We immediately ran towards her (well, i waddled quickly) Unbeknownst to us, behind the tree that she fell near, there were a mother and a daughter (about 10ish) who were doing yoga. The girl saw my daughter fall and automatically picked her up, before we got there, and held her.

I was scared and instinctively yelled 'Let go of my daughter, do you not know about social distancing! I'm pregnant, and if you had the virus and didn't know it, you could hurt me or my babies.' The kid cried, which was more than I was expecting, and the mother started screaming at me about being ungrateful for 'her angel' saving my daughter and negligent (ffs we were literally a couple of seconds away, but that girl was closer and had some really quick reflexes). I fired back telling her that I would appreciate the gesture if we weren't in a pandemic and that she should teach her kid about social distancing.

We went home immediately and my husband gave my daughter a bath. She was a bit scared from the fall, but cheered up quickly. My husband thought that I was a little strict towards the little girl as she was trying to be nice, but considering I'm high risk I was somewhat justified. AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA how the hell do you have to be told you’re the asshole after yelling at a young child?

I hope you’re embarrassed. ######


Prompt:
The title probably screams NTA, but before you judge him hear my story.

I (f24) cook dinner for my boyfriend (m26) almost every night and he does the dishes, so we have a good system going. I usually try to make something that we can both enjoy, but I have one dish that I love eating and used to make a lot before we moved in together, which he doesn't like because it contains a lot of garlic.

It's been a year or so since I last made the dish and I was really craving it. So I told him I would be making it tonight even though I know he doesn't like it. I also told him that if he didn't want any he could make himself an omelet, since I don't really like them and he sometimes wants it for dinner.

However now he has announced that he is going to buy a pizza, and I don't know, I know this is such a petty thing to get annoyed over, but I can't help but feel like my cooking isn't really needed. But I did tell him that it was okay for him to make something else, but I was expecting it to be something I don't enjoy as much.

Link if anyone is curious about the dish: [https://www.bingingwithbabish.com/recipes/2017/5/4/aglioeolio](https://www.bingingwithbabish.com/recipes/2017/5/4/aglioeolio) ######

Response: Yta honey, I don't see the issue. You get to make something you like and he eats something he likes. It's just one dish he doesn't like and he doesn't feel also cooking. ######


Prompt:
My girlfriend and I have been together since we were 13 (we’re 20 now), and she’s had her cat for the duration of our relationship. I’m gonna go ahead and say this now: I don’t care for cats since I’m allergic to them and hers was no exception. I’m not really an animal person in general, but if I were to get one it wouldn’t be a cat. They’re disgusting and they creep me out.

My girlfriend and I moved in together at 18, and I was always under the impression that she would leave the cat with her parents since she knew how much I didn’t like them. Long story short the cat came with her and while I wasn’t thrilled about it, I allowed it to stay under the conditions that it wouldn’t sleep in our bed, it wouldn’t sit on the furniture, and it wouldn’t go into my office space.

Over the course of the last two years, I would come home from work and my girlfriend would be chilling on the couch with the cat after I’d asked her not to. I’d get ready to climb into bed and there’d be cat hair on my sheets so I know she let it into the bedroom. Not to mention, she has what I feel like is an unhealthy obsession with this thing. She’s constantly talking to and cooing at it like it’s a person and it drives me up a wall. For a while, I just slept in my office so I wouldn’t have to deal with an itchy face and puffy eyeballs.

With us being stuck at home now, it’s even harder for me to have my own space. The straw that broke the camels back was when I went into my office and found her cat sitting in the window. I’ve asked time and time again for her cat to stay out of my space and I feel like she deliberately disrespects my wishes, so I found a walk-in surrender shelter today and dropped the cat off. I haven’t told my girlfriend, and being that it’s an indoor/outdoor cat I hope she just thinks it ran away. I love my girlfriend, but her cat was legitimately our only source of conflict. ######

Response: YTA holy shit. There's really no justification for your actions. ######


Prompt:
Hi guys, I'm new to Reddit because I follow this subs Twitter account, and I wanted your opinion on this.

My (30F) half-sister (28F, let's call her Ava) was born from an affair. We found out about her when I was 10 because her mom died and there was no one to care for her, so the government came looking for my dad. He wanted to put her up for adoption, but my aunt and uncle volunteered to take her in. He was supposed to pay them child support, but he never did. He only paid child support to my mom after she divorced him.

My mother died when I was 19, and my father when I was 21. He didn't have much in terms of assets after he died, but he did have a life insurance policy in my name that only I was supposed to know about. He got it after I turned 18 because he wanted to make sure to leave something behind for me. I used the money to pay for my dream wedding and buy our first house, and then I used the rest to make a few investments, one of which paid off better than I could ever have hoped. I now own three rental properties and run a doggie daycare. I'm very lucky.

Ava, however, not so much. My aunt and uncle did their best to make us friends, but we never got along because she was always jealous of me and would call me spoiled. The last time I talked to her was at my wedding. Apparently my grandpa knew about the life insurance policy and spilled the beans to Ava, because she stormed out of my reception. We haven't spoken since - until last week.

Ava sent me a DM saying that my nephew (7M) got burned really badly in a house fire at his friend's house. He needs several surgeries, and Ava can't afford it because her insurance will only cover what they don't consider "cosmetic". She asked me if I could loan her the money, and I flat out told her no. I don't even know this kid, and Ava hates my guts! I think she's just greedy, but my grandparents think I should help her, not for her sake, but for the kid. AITA?

Edited for typo ######

Response:
 YTA here OP. You say that you're "very lucky" compared to her. In a sense that's very true - because you had everything given to you. Your sister, at age 8, lost her mother and had a father who wanted nothing to do with her. He didn't pay any child support and when he died gave her absolutely nothing. You got enough money for a dream wedding, a house, and further investments. Yeah, no wonder you're in a better financial position than her.
You say you think that she's 'greedy'? Of all the things you could say about her, you choose greedy? She's not asking for a gift, and she's not even asking for herself. She's asking for a loan so that her child can get surgery after being severely burned. That's about as far from greedy as I can imagine.
Your father is TA for treating the two of you so differently, but you're TA for continuing that treatment. ######


Prompt:
My (26F) BF (27m) wasn't feeling well this morning and I woke up to him getting sick at 7am.

He was being really loud, and I was alarmed when I woke up. I got him water and reminded him to clean up after himself. I emphasised taps and handles. He got back in the bed a few minutes later and went to sleep.

The smell was still really bad, but I assumed it was because I have a pretty sensitive nose. However, when I went past the bathroom, I could smell no bleach or cleaning products, all of which are in there.

I asked him did he clean, and he said he had poured bleach in the toilet and wiped the rim. However, when I pushed he advised he had just flushed the bleach and hadn't cleaned the taps or handles either.

I'm compromised and working from home atm, and my job is precarious right now, so I can't afford to get sick.

AITA for getting annoyed and telling him he needs to do the job properly even while his sick?

TL;DR
BF was sick and then didn't clean the bathroom. AITA for giving out about this and telling him to do it properly when I'm compromised. ######

Response: YTA he’s sick. Just grab a Clorox wipe and do it yourself. You are supposed to care for the people you love. If your first thought when he’s sick is that he has to clean up after himself, then you are definitely the asshole. ######


Prompt:
My (26F) BF (27m) wasn't feeling well this morning and I woke up to him getting sick at 7am.

He was being really loud, and I was alarmed when I woke up. I got him water and reminded him to clean up after himself. I emphasised taps and handles. He got back in the bed a few minutes later and went to sleep.

The smell was still really bad, but I assumed it was because I have a pretty sensitive nose. However, when I went past the bathroom, I could smell no bleach or cleaning products, all of which are in there.

I asked him did he clean, and he said he had poured bleach in the toilet and wiped the rim. However, when I pushed he advised he had just flushed the bleach and hadn't cleaned the taps or handles either.

I'm compromised and working from home atm, and my job is precarious right now, so I can't afford to get sick.

AITA for getting annoyed and telling him he needs to do the job properly even while his sick?

TL;DR
BF was sick and then didn't clean the bathroom. AITA for giving out about this and telling him to do it properly when I'm compromised. ######

Response:
 YTA he’s sick, and did an ok job of cleaning up. If he has noro he’s probably weak, shaky, and sweating. Even the smell of cleaning products can turn your stomach in that situation.
Not a lot of sympathy in you huh? I’m sure he appreciates it. ######


Prompt:
Me(25f) and my bf(27m) live together.

Lately he's been watching this anime show called re: zero. At first I was curious to see what it was about but I find out that his favorite characters are extremely sexualized maids.

I ask why he's watching a show that has characters like that. He says that I have no right to dictate what he watches. AITA ######

Response: YTA He's right. You have no right to dictate what he watches as long as he doesn't have an unhealthy obsession with it. Stop being so controlling. ######


Prompt:
I'm f24 my bf is 23 and we've been together for 3 years, he got into a car accident 3 weeks ago and broke both his legs and his right arm. He will make a full recovery and there was no other damage other then some cracked ribs.

Because of this since he's been home I've been taking care of him, and making him 3 meals a day getting him beer etc. But I am sick of it, I don't really like cooking but he can barely move so I have to for the time being. Before this we would take turns cooking and it was a lot more manageable and fun.

He asked me what was for dinner last night after I made him breakfast and lunch and I told him just to order uber eats because I don't feel like cooking he said he'd rather not waste money since we bought groceries and he's gonna need me to go down to the lobby of our condo and get it for him. I kinda just told him to figure it out for himself he's 23 not a kid and I told him I don't want to cook as much anymore so he needs to figure something else out. He called me an asshole and a bitch.

AITA? ######

Response: YTA He is badly injured and cannot take care of himself. I understand it’s a lot to do, but, if you actually love him then you should want to do it.   If you don’t want to maybe ask yourself if you do love him? ######


Prompt:
So i'm a "vampire"  (m15), and i'm friends with this girl from school (f15) and since we can't se eachother at school anymore, we talk via facebook.

I am very naturally pale and have colored my hair since age 12, and i mostly go out at night.

We were talking one day via facetime, and was asking me questions. She suddenly asked me "could i become a vampire myself?" and explained she also is a outsider and prefer being outside at night and loves goth music. Now, she's VERY dark and has a natural afro. I explained that vampires are usually pale and have long, straight black hair so not really. She got sad and her dad called me later and told me to apologize to her.
AITA? was i mean or racist? ######

Response: YTA Go watch the blade series and tell me black people cant be vampires ######