Prompt:
My girlfriend (24F) is a very active person. She does a lot of running, yoga and used to do gymnastics as a teenager. She's very fit and athletic.

Now me (24M), I'm skinny fat but I'm strong. Im about 175lbs at 6 foot 1. I don't do much cardio but I've always had natural strength. I did used to work out at age 16-17 quite a lot at gym but stopped.

Anyway my GF has been trying to do pullups for a while but couldn't quite do one. Well recently she managed to do one for the first time and then really wanted to show me.

So she put the pullup bar on the door frame and showed me she could do 2. I was very impressed and proud of her, however, I was very curious of whether I could do some.

So I tried some and did about 8 very easily. I was surprised. So we put the bar away and I rested for about 10 mins but I felt an urge to do it again. So I asked her to watch this.

I got a backpack and put in a 15kg plate and tried to do a pullup, and I managed to do 2. I was so impressed with myself and overcome with endorphins that I even said "fuck I didn't know I could do that".

She looked pretty low and said "good for you" in a snarky tone. I overheard her on the phone say I was an AH for this. I'm conflicted cos I struggle to see if I did something wrong. Did I? AITA? ######

Response: YTA— Not for doing more pull-ups, but for taking your girlfriend’s proud moment and making it all about you. You could have taken up doing pull-ups anytime, but decided to do it when your girlfriend wanted to share an important achievement with you. ######


Prompt:
Two of my daughters are getting married on the same day (I know smh). The older one thought the younger one did it to be malicious, but we've since confirmed that the wedding hall that the younger one wants to get married at only had a limited amount of slots, and that the next available slot is almost a year later unless someone cancels.

On top of that, they're getting married on separate sides of the country!

My husband and I decided we would each go to one of their weddings, but now both of them upset, because my older daughter wants me at *her* wedding, and my younger daughter wants her father to walk her down the aisle.

Okay, fine. We'll switch!

Nope! My younger daughter wants me at *her* wedding, and my older daughter wants her father to walk her down the aisle!

I'm about ready to throw my hands up!

I was on threeway with my daughters this morning, and they were bickering so much I just got fed up and said that I wasn't going to either wedding and hung up!

I felt bad about it a little later, but I honestly think this is the best solution if they can't be adults and decide this amongst themselves reasonably. ######

Response:
 YTA
You and your younger daughter are assholes. The fact that you easily accepted her reasoning and didn't push her for another venue or waiting a year knowing that this was the SAME date your older daughter had already chosen; tells me that there's a pattern in your family of younger daughter doing as she pleases at the expense of anyone in her way.
YOU and your husband are now acting like BOTH your daughters are in the wrong.
Again, you are a huge asshole.

Edit:
Thank you kind stranger for the gold award!
My first one ever.
Thank you for the silver!

Edit #2:
Thank you for the multiple awards. ######


Prompt: We're from Iowa. Granted nothing ever happened, the weather isn't all that great. She moved to LA to find work behind the scenes on TV. She basically works in an office that reps "social media celebrities" and no one that I've ever heard of. She just talks endlessly about LA-life, the beach, how glamorous it is, etc. In reality she's broke, can barely make ends meet, really doesn't have many friends and there are a lot of ugly people out there. It's just neither interesting nor impressive. It's overrated like the $15 cold pressed juice she can't afford but buys so she can take a picture of it. I guess LA is a good place to live if you are filthy rich but a terrible place if you are broke. I finally told her that and she got mad. The truth is that Australia is a million times better than LA. ######

Response:
 YTA
She got out of a no name town, and you’re stuck. Yes, living in LA is difficult, but there’s a certain level of effort that gives satisfaction in return. The cold pressed juice tastes sweeter when you worked your butt off to get it.

Australia isn’t a city, btw. ######


Prompt:
I have always tried to teach my daughter to be respectful to others and herself. When she was 16 she had wanted a tattoo and I told her that it was her choice but a condition with living in our house was that such a thing is not permitted. I told her that I felt that tattoos were something that I believed were unnecessary and not a good way to treat your body.

My daughter is almost 20 now. A week ago I accidentally walked in on her in the bathroom. I quickly turned away but couldn't help noticing that she had large parts of her body covered in tattoos. I am shocked that I had not noticed them earlier because in the short glimpse I got it looked like her whole back was tattooed as well as many others elsewhere. The only explanation I have is that she must have always had them covered in clothing around me.

I confronted my daughter about the tattoos later and she initially denied them. I told her I know what I saw and she eventually admitted that she had got them and hid them from me because she knows I am against them.

I was deeply hurt by what she had done. The tattoos were hurtful because she knew I was against them but my hurt is not just about the tattoos. She has been living with us without paying board despite working full time and I am also angry that she is wasting her money on tattoos rather trying to pay her way. The reason why we have allowed her to live with us without paying anything is we wanted her to be able to save to buy a house and get a head start in life. I was extremely angry that instead she was blowing her money on something she knew both her parents were against.

I ended up telling my daughter that she needs to move out which of course led to major arguments and drama. I have now cooled down and my husband is saying maybe I was too harsh. He is also angry but thinks kicking our daughter out is an overreach. AITA for my stance on this? ######

Response:
 YTA
Imagine having to explain to people you’re estranged from your daughter over some ink ######


Prompt: Captain should say it all, I’m the male in this situation and I already have established that I’m paying for the pill (it’s not expensive and money isn’t the issue), but it started the CONVERSATION that I thought it was reasonable to go half on it since we both took preventative measures and a simple mistake happened ######

Response:
 YTA
If moneys not the issue then a fair split is? Well plan B causes cramps and sometimes bleeding so id say you have the better end of the deal since you don't have to actually take the pill. ######


Prompt:
I’m her father.

I have told my daughter(age 15) to stop drawing on herself more than 3 times. She has disobeyed my orders and continued to draw on herself. Mainly on her legs and arms. She draws things like Chinese symbols and doodles and scribbles in marker and it looks trashy and ugly. Today I told her to stop drawing on herself for the 4-5th time, and she back talked and said, “we aren’t going anywhere so nobody is gonna see it”. And, “I like drawing on myself because it’s a way to express myself”.
       So I told her, “it’s ugly and I don’t wanna see it”. Then she sassed me and said, “then don’t look at it”.
   I immediately got mad at her and yelled at her to stop disrespecting me and told her that she has to obey everything her mother and I say, right when we say it. Then she started crying. I continue on and say that this household is not a democracy and she doesn’t have a choice and she has to do what her parents tell her too. After that I say that I’m tired of her and her siblings arguing on things they can’t have the freedom to decide. Then I walk out of the room to calm down. She is in her room now and I’m wondering now if I was too harsh on her.

So, AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA
Great way to ruin a relationship with your kids. Just an excellent hill to die on. ######


Prompt:
Rather simple problem, I have a 4yo and an 18mo daughter, both of whom like to "draw". Their drawing mostly at this point consists of scribbling, but my 4yo is starting to draw people, houses etc. My wife likes to buy the big boxes of markers crayons, I'm talking the 50 pack of markers, 152 count crayons etc. Then when the girls draw, she gives them ALL of them. As expected, the entire pack of markers get opened, and thrown on the ground and quickly dry up and become unusable, and the crayons get thrown around, and end up under furniture and end up lost. My wife over the years has bought probably 5 boxes of markers, and countless sets of crayons all to replace ones that have been lost.

My preference is to give each of them two different random colors, and they're FINE with that. If either of them ever looked at me and asked for a specific color, I'd give it to them in a heartbeat, but so far, that hasn't happened. I'm fighting with my wife every time I walk into a room and find an entire box of markers/crayons strewn around a room, AITA for getting upset about this? Do I just need to suck it up and admit that I have to buy new markers every couple weeks? ######

Response:
 YTA
From a child development standpoint, giving them multiple choices is important. It’s also important to use this time to teach them to clean up and take care of their supplies, not to limit them. When your 4 year old goes to school next year, she’s going to have to be able to handle more than just 2 markers at a time. ######


Prompt:
My sister is going to turn 18 next year, since she was very young she has felt bothered by her nose. It's big (think Alba Flores's nose but thicker) and doesn't really suit the rest of her face at all. So, our parents told her that she could get a nose job if she didn't change her mind by the time she was 18.

Fast forward to now she's very excited since her birthday is so close and our parents have already set aside most of the money she'll need for the procedure. Since last year though, a couple of family members started to send her some money for the procedure as a way of showing their support and my sister has been overjoyed.

Yesterday, my sister received a couple of bucks from a cousin of ours and after thanking her through a call, my sister started joking about how much I would give her since I'm her favorite sibling (we have a brother). I told her that I wouldn't be giving any money for that because I didn't see the point of it. She got very quiet and that was the end of the conversation.

Well, today our mother came up to me to have a talk. Apparently my sister felt "stupid" about the entire thing and was now feeling insecure because I said I didn't see the point of it. I told our mother that I indeed didn't see the point of it but oh well, I'm not her mother anyways and she can do whatever she wants. I have a right to not participate. Our mother didn't like my response but she didn't push the argument further and moved on. Still, the mood has been awful and both of them are barely speaking to me now. ######

Response:
 YTA

Your title is a bit misleading, because based on what you wrote nobody is upset about you not chipping in for it (which would have been a ridiculous expectation) but because you told your sister that didn't see the point of her dream of many years.

You could just have laughed it off when she made her jokes about your contributions. ######


Prompt: About a week ago one of my sister's friends was kicked out of his house by his mom.  The kid is very nice but it is sort of a pain to have another person in the house. The house is now really cramped and it's making me very stir crazy. My parents told me the other day he will be with us for another 3 months. They never asked me if I was fine with it or anything like that. I just came home one day and they just said he'll be staying with us. WIBTA if I complained about this kid staying with us? ######

Response:
 YTA

Your parents are responding to an unexpected, emergency situation. This was not planned and it shows that they have generous hearts and are willing to help in times of need. They did the right thing.

You are reacting in a very entitled and selfish way if you complain about not being consulted. ######


Prompt:
A lil backstory: I'm 34M, and have never come close to having a SO. And I don't mean I'm one of those people things never got serious with, I mean I've never even had a woman express the tiniest interest or go along if I did. It goes without saying that I'm a virgin, but I've never even had a kiss or held hands with a woman.

Before anyone asks, no, I don't think I'm entitled to those things, or that there's something wrong with women for not being interested in me. I'm not some incel dipshit. I'm just an overweight guy with bad social skills.

And yes I've tried therapy. The therapist told me to lose weight and "get out more". Fat lot of good that advice did me.

Anyways, at my age I'm pretty much the only single guy left in my social circle, and as a result pretty much every gathering involves a large amount of everyone else getting affectionate with their partners.

It's not that I resent them being happy or that I dislike their partners. It's just that it hurts seeing everyone around you holding hands, kissing, sweet-talking, leaning on each other, and stuff all the time, when the closest I've ever come to that (and at this rate probably ever will) was being paired with a girl classmate in school for projects (which, I might add, they quite visibly disliked).

Last Friday we were out at a local pub, and sure enough it was three pairs of people and me. We weren't at our table for long before one of them had their girlfriend leaning into their lap, and another one of my friends was playing with his partner's hair.

I held it together for as long as I could, but when one of them started making innuendo about their (R rated) plans that evening, I kind of lost it. I didn't raise my voice or insult them or anything, but I told them I was sick of them "rubbing each other in my face". From then on dinner was awkward but not hostile.

They acted like I was the worst person ever and haven't really been very nice to me since. Was I the asshole? ######

Response:
 YTA

Your insecurities are your problem. Why should everyone around you ignore their partners just so you feel better about yourself? No one is rubbing anything in your face. Jealousy is an ugly color.

Work on yourself. Evaluate why you think women aren’t interested. Build yourself up. Make an effort to meet people. Try dating apps just to get yourself out there and try. Don’t put other couples down because you feel bad. ######


Prompt: My girlfriend sells used/vintage clothes on the side for extra money. She found some old Levi’s at a thrift store we both go to but she ended up not buying them because she was on the fence about them for some reason. A few days later I texted her from the same store while she was at work. She asked if i would buy the jeans while i’m there and she’ll pay me back. I found the jeans and they happen to be my size so I tried them on. I liked them a lot and they fit perfectly so i bought them for myself instead. She said i bought them out from under her, it was a selfish thing to do, etc. I argued that they were free game since she didn’t buy them when she was there the first time. AITA for keeping the jeans instead of giving them to my girlfriend so she could sell them? ######

Response:
 YTA

Your girlfriend asked you to do her a favor and pick them up for her.  And your response was, "No, I won't do that favor for you.  Also, I'll rub it in your face by buying them for myself!" ######


Prompt:
When I was 18 I got pregnant with my boyfriend at the time. He really pushed for an abortion but I had extremely strict parents who were against it, so I had her. She’s now 13,  beautiful and very popular. Her father isn’t in her life. I love her, it’s a given I love her, she’s my daughter.

I’ve never been an overly affectionate person, cuddling and verbally showing my daughter affection just isn’t something I feel comfortable doing, and I didn’t think it was much of an issue to her.

Last night at the dinner table, we somehow got onto the topic of affection. She opened up and told me that she was jealous of her friends families who were open with love and displayed lots of affection. She said she wanted to discuss the potential of telling each other we love each other and hugging and stuff. I told her that I don’t feel the need to tell her I love her, and that she should just know that I do because I’m her mom.

She got upset and went upstairs to her room, and I heard her on the phone to her best friend saying that she feels like I don’t love her. I talked to my parents about it and they told me an I’m asshole for not having at least a conversation with her about it. AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA

Your daughter is clearly feeling like she isn't loved at home and literally asked for help. Your reaction was to tell her no.

Is it such an imposition to say the words "I love you"? Expression of affection is a big thing for someone who is struggling with their identity (like most teenagers are). They need to hear that they have someone in their corner. Just being her mom is NOT enough for her to know how much you love her. ######


Prompt:
My son and DIL recently had a baby. They were at our house last night and my wife's God father was there as well. My wife's father was kind of a creep. He had multiple wives and a couple of them were younger than my wife, and this was his best friend so he is a bit of a womanizer, but a very nice man. My children have known him their whole lives.

He commented that it was a shame the baby doesn't look like my wife. I mean it kind of is. My wife is stunning and got a pretty easy ride out of it, but I can understand why a new mother wouldn't want to hear that. He made another comment about it's such a shame the baby didn't get my wife's green eyes because she would have been so beautiful.

DIL said looks don't matter and he kind of laughed it off. He then told a kind of embarrassing story about my wife's modeling days, but she laughed it off. DIL wouldn't let it go and asked why he sees his God daughter in a sexual light and why he cares so much if the baby looks like my wife. My wife told her to let it go and she called him a creep.

I told my son he needs to take his wife and leave because she isn't going to insult a family friend in our home. Now DIL is saying she is stressed about having us around the baby because we didn't shut him down. I mean I don't know what she wanted me to say, but any child would be lucky to look like my wife. ######

Response:
 YTA

your "friend" sounds like he is disappointed that your granddaughter is not up to his standards to start grooming. ######


Prompt:
Hello Reddit!

So our group of friends consists of me (19 F) and 5 guys (20-21 M), one of them being the friend that I will talk about next.

He has a gf about the same age as us, and they've been together for a around a year. The girl is ok, she's ok to have an occasional chat with, but what bothers us is that she has nothing in common us.Most of the times she's out with us she barely talks with us. She is just there, as if she is spectating.

We've informed our friend on many occasions that it would be nice to see him alone from time to time, but he didn't took it very seriously.

A few days ago I couldn't take it anymore and told him straight to the face that it's time he stops bringing her when seeing us, simply because it's not her place, and it's weird for us, as we would sometimes would not be able to talk in our specific way ( a lot of dumb jokes, but they make sense as they are our inside jokes).

He got really mad and started acting childish, and the next time we went out, brought her again.

So, am I the asshole for telling him to stop coming with her? ######

Response:
 YTA

You’ve even said that there is nothing wrong with this girl. You just don’t want another female there. And yes, you don’t mind having other gf there every once in a while. That still doesn’t excuse the fact that this is merely about you wanting to be “one of the guys” at the majority of your meetups. ######


Prompt: Okay, here is some background info. My wife and I are divorced, and my wife remarried a very wealthy man and I believe they are spoiling our daughter (12 F) and attempting to turn her against me (42 M). I work in a restaurant and am a single father, so I can't afford ridiculous luxuries such as new iPhones and air pods for my daughter every Christmas that she seems to receive over there. I finally had enough when she came to my house with an iPad that is worth half of my rent, and I told her that if she is going to walk around acting wealthy she should at least be able to help with the rent and other necessities. I made her get a job reffing local soccer games which she does all weekend (half of her earnings go to bills, the other half go in savings) and I restricted her from using the fancy tech she gets at her mother's. I feel that this will better prepare her for real life and have her be less spoiled, but her mother got wind of it and said that it was not necessary and is taking away the freedom from her childhood. They are both very angry with me.         AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA

You’re kidding. You’re a troll, right? Gotta be. No way someone would genuinely think “they’re spoiling her and _turning her against me_!” and believe **taking her electronics away, forcing her to work, and having 50% of her earnings go towards bills** would do anything other than make her resent you.

We’re talking about a **12 year old.** You are both wrenching gifts away from her and using her to make ends meet. I wonder why you and your ex split up.

And yes, while it may be legal depending on where you live, that doesn’t make it morally right. She didn’t _do_ anything to deserve this. Your ex wife is giving your _child_ nice things. If you’d only have more confidence in your ability to raise your daughter, being “spoiled” would be far less of a concern. Material goods be damned.

Edit: your edit is even more damning. Your ex cheating is irrelevant to the situation at hand; I don’t know why you’d add that as if it would excuse what you’re doing to your kid. Again, just sounds like you’re bitter and taking it out on the wrong person. Implying all the commenters are children as you act entitled and petulant. Troll or not, it’s sad in multiple ways. ######


Prompt: So I proposed to my fiance around late last year and we are still planning our wedding.However she wanted to do have a big traditional singaporean wedding which could cost upwards of $50,000, and I was against the idea of spending that much money on just one day.So instead of spending a lot of money on the wedding, I bought a nice apartment instead.I am considering just having a reception, so anyway I wanted to surprise her with her an apartment since we both currently live with with our families. I talked to some friends but the reaction was a bit mixed.It is a nice apartment and I have already bought it with my money.I haven't told her about this and wanted to surprise her with it right after our wedding. We have talked about buying an apartment before and she did list everything she wanted, and the apartment that I did buy has all of those requirements. Some say I am going against her back, but I just want to give her a big surprise. ######

Response:
 YTA

You've bought her an amazing apartment which would be lovely if not for two important things:

1. You have deliberately spent the money she thought would go on the wedding without talking it through with it.

2. You took away the chance for her to house hunt with you and be a part of the decision making.

Perhaps she is the kind of woman that likes other people making her decisions for her? Perhaps she will love that she no longer gets her dream wedding? Perhaps not. ######


Prompt:
My niece is a college student who moved into her old grandmother's house by herself for the rest of the semester. She doesn't have a car. Due to the current circumstances in our world, I've been coming by every week or so to go grocery shopping with her. I came by to the house yesterday because a plumber came over to figure out what's wrong with the toilet. I noticed she had lots of food boxes sitting on the kitchen table. They didn't look like they were opened, but the table was flooded by packages of cereal bags of bread, etc There was also flour on the floor near the dishwasher. I told her "Make sure you clean your table off. A lot of these things can go into cabinets. That's gross. That bag of potatoes can go in that cabinet over there. And make sure to clean the floor (due to the flour)." She looked annoyed with me but didn't say anything. I also told her to make sure she puts the fan on when she takes a shower,

There was another time she said she cooked meatloaf. She had bought potatoes to eat with the meatloaf, so I asked her if she fixed mashed potatoes with it. She said "no," I asked, "Why not?" She seemed annoyed and said, "I didn't want to"

We were also in the backyard one day and I noticed there were lots of sticks in the backyard. I started picking them up and she began helping me. As we were picking them up, I mentioned a few times, "There's a lot of sticks" and she didn't say anything. I'm wondering why she never picked them up when she's there by herself and has more time on her hands. Do I sound too nosy? AITA? She seems kinda hurt when I say things to her sometimes. ######

Response:
 YTA

You're not necessarily an asshole because of the kitchen thing (like...if it was bad enough to be a health hazard, although the way you describe it it sounds like you were karening out over some mild clutter), but hooooooly fuck the rest of it sounds like you would be.

Whether she does or does not make potatoes is none of your business. Why she doesn't spend time out in the backyard picking up sticks is also none of your business.

"Boy, there sure are a lot of sticks out here, huh? *hint hint*"

*eye rolling intensifies.*

Edit: also, yeah you're nosy.  What she does when she showers is...again...none of your business, and presumably most non-idiot 22 year old women know how the fan works.

Edit 2: you edited your post to add that one time she forgot to put the trash cans back?   How did you even notice this? How much time do you spend following your niece around and *WHY*?

Lmaoooo just noticed you also added in that it would be "more comfortable" to eat at the table after she cleaned it to your standards.   She's not dumb.   She knows having an empty table would make it easier to eat off of. She's just not eating off of the table because she's 22 and living alone.  *Dinner? Cereal on the couch it is!* ######


Prompt:
I'm a RN who works in NYC (I commute from a neighboring county, takes about 45 minutes to get to work with no traffic).

I don't need to explain how horrible the situation is right now on my unit, but today at least I saw more dead patients than alive ones. I wrapped more bodies for the morgue than I ever have in my 6 years of being a RN.

After leaving work around 7:30pm, I drove home. The roads were completely empty right after I got out of the city. I guess I was a little hard on the gas (78 in a 65). I really didn't notice since I typically go 5 over, but this was my fourth 12-hour shift, and I was going in tomorrow to help the unit since we are overwhelmed.

After I passed a cutout in the highway (cop almost never sits there), I saw him and braked.. too late. He had pulled out and had his lights on.

He asked where I was going/why I was going so fast and I explained I was a nurse (I had scrubs on) and that I really wanted to get home so I could shower, eat some dinner quick, say goodnight to my kids and fiance (I sleep in a separate room to keep them safe). He then said to hold tight... came back and gave me a ticket.

Now typically I support LEOs, I think they have a tough job and when done right are great people. But here I felt it was so wrong. I said "really?? you're giving me a ticket" and he said "yes maa'am you violated the law and there are consequences for that." I just was at a loss of words and told him he was despicable for doing that, he replied "haha, okay"

Now before everyone says to get off my high-horse, please... I've been given a ticket before while heading to the beach with my girlfriends and I fully accepted it and had no reason to speed. But today, with everything we are facing, I just felt like it was a slap in the face. Especially that the NYPD and FDNY applaud us as we enter/leave work. It felt horrible.

However... now the pre-bed time emotions are hitting me and I feel bad for being nasty to the cop. So , AITA here??? ######

Response:
 YTA

You're doing an important job, and if you were rushing to the hospital to save a dying patient, then maybe you'd have a point.  But you don't get a pass to arbitrarily break the law just by virtue of being a nurse.

>But today, with everything we are facing, I just felt like it was a slap in the face.

I could equally imagine the cop thinking that a nurse, someone that people are rightly thinking of as heroes, deciding to flaunt the law and verbally abuse him when called out on it was also a "slap in the face". ######


Prompt:
She has had zero contact with her ex since they broke up years ago. There is no reason for me to feel threatened by this painting or her ex. The painting was a replication commissioned by her ex after she mentioned she really like the original. This painting sits on the kitchen counter in the apartment that I see everyday.

While she says she has no romantic attachment to it, she says she really loves it because it’s her first piece of real artwork that she’s ever owned. I’ve tried to not let it bother me since I found out where it came from, but I hate seeing it because it reminds me of the very romantic gesture from her shitty ex. I myself am an artist, and it’s difficult for me to understand how someone can separate art and emotions. I’ve jokingly referred to it in casual convos, and we finally had a serious, open discussion about it. She’s offered to get rid of it and says our relationship and my feelings are more important than that painting.

And now I just feel stupid for letting it bother me. Am I right in feeling it’s weird that she still has it? Or am I just being insecure and should I just drop it and just swallow the constant reminder that she’s dared to date anyone else before me (/s)? Why does this bother me so much? Am I the asshole? ######

Response:
 YTA

You're being insecure and putting far too much stock into a piece of art. She's told you that theres no romantic attachment,  she has given valid reasons why she wants it, yet you are still bent out of shape. ######


Prompt:
My gf is 28 and has a whole shelf of skincare stuff in our bathroom. I have no clue what she's spent on it in the past but it has to be well over $500. She has a routine that she does first thing in the morning and before bed and it has 5 or 6 steps I believe. It's all fancy creams and face masks and whatever an essence is. She enjoys doing it, it makes her happy, she says it's nice especially in the evening to just unwind with it. Cool, no issue. I don't get it and I'm pretty sure it's all just hideously expensive moisturizer, but whatever.

Yesterday she was doing her skincare and I was sat on the edge of the bath, chatting to her as she got ready like we sometimes do in the morning, and she pointed out that she'd just discovered she was getting wrinkles in her forehead. I mean, she's 28 so it's going to happen eventually, I don't know what she was expecting. But she seemed super bummed about it and said "it's all downhill from here" in a sort of sad way. So I tried to find the silver lining and I said "well hey, at least you know all that skincare shit doesn't work, so that's $100 back on our monthly budget." She shot me a look like I'd just murdered our cat in front of her and said "that's not funny" and she's been kind of off with me ever since. I assume she's off with me because of what I said, but was it really that bad? Is she just feeling shitty because she's getting wrinkles? ######

Response:
 YTA

You're basically adding insult to injury by saying shes a rube for spending all that money (*her* money, since you dont know how much it costs that suggests it wasnt coming out of your shared budget) thinking it would stop from ever getting wrinkles. Unless she believes in immortality she obviously knew she was going to get wrinkles at *some* point, the creams just delay and minimize the damage.

Pointing this out feels very much like an unwanted and unwarranted 'told ya so' ######


Prompt:
So due to recent events, I(20f) am no longer able to live at my college dorms and have moved back in with my parents. My mom has been sick for over 2 weeks now, nothing serious just a pretty bad cold. My dad used to make meals for me and her, but since he has a very strict diet, he was having to make a separate meal for both himself and us every night and it left him with very little free time.

Since my mom is sick, he asked for me to take over making meals. My mom uses hello fresh, so the recipes are fairly easy to follow. But at the same time, I have very little experience with cooking so it often takes me much longer than it would someone with more cooking experience. At first I didn’t mind cooking for us every night, it was good practice, but now it’s almost 3 weeks later and I’m still making dinner almost every night, I only get breaks if we order out.

I feel like maybe my mom is feeling well enough that she should be able to at least make dinner some nights. She’s still coughing some, but at the same time she’s much better than she was a couple weeks ago. Last night she FaceTimed with her friends and was being super rambunctious, she also got absolutely wasted. She also seems fully capable of making herself snacks and treats when she wants them. I just feel like if she’s able to do all that, she should be able to help out with dinners.

I just worry I’ll come across as lazy or selfish if I ask her to start cooking dinners again. So what do you think reddit, WIBTA? ######

Response:
 YTA

You're 20 years old, you should be able to cook a meal. Your mother did it for you for years without taking a break. Time to repay that. ######


Prompt:
Me and my ex are good terms still talk to each other frequently. I like to catch up on what's going on in her life and vise versa for her. We've been broken up for 3 years .has been going through a hardship recently, so I invited her over to just chill and talk with me.

My girlfriend is one of those people who thinks you should cut contact with your previous partner. No photos, delete text and whatever, I don't agree. That's why I didn't tell her until like 8 months into our relationship. Her response to that is for another time and place. So I tell my girl, that my ex will be coming over and should find something to do for a couple of hours. "Go for a walk, go hang out with friends just something". I'm the type of person that wants the setting to be intimate. It's personal, no reason for my girl to be here with us. They meet each other once but for a minute at most.

Her response " this seems shady as hell And trying to push me to the side" I responded with she "wouldn't understand because you don't keep a bond with your previous partners".

What ended up happening is, we had food, relaxed & talkedm typical friend stuff. My girl on the other hand, in my opinion went a little over dramatic. Stayed at her parents house all night. Maybe I read the situation wrong, what do you guys think? ######

Response:
 YTA

You want to set up an intimate environment to help your ex through a hard time, and push your current SO out of the house to do so, and you don’t see an issue?

Which relationship is more valuable to you, current gf or ex? ######


Prompt:
Since my last post got so much activity & my husband agrees with me I want to know if you think I’m the asshole here.

I planned my first ultrasound for a Wednesday last week and it was amazing, we got to hear our baby’s heart beat and we will never forget that moment.
Unfortunately, I had to call off of work to take the whole day and be able to see my baby.
A coworker of mine his wife was having some pretty minor surgery and so I got overruled on the calendar for the day off because his was more important. My boss said I could just use my ultrasound as my lunch hour, but I wanted to take the day to embrace that first connection as a family.
So I called out of work that day and apparently it left us very short staff and unable to perform surgeries until my coworker had left his wife resting at home and came in.
My husband agrees that we aren’t assholes, that we deserved to bask in that bliss but my whole office is angry with me and said it’s definitely an asshole move. Nobody told my coworker he was being forced to come in. He volunteered. But tell me reddit, am I the asshole?

Edit to add that we are vet techs in case that helps ######

Response:
 YTA

You think basking in the bliss^WTF of your ultrasound is more important than your coworker supporting his wife through surgery, so instead you just dumped everything on your coworkers, and screwed up the schedule for the veterinary practice's surgeries, which will have affected all of the patients and their owners.

God you're lucky you're pregnant, because it makes it much harder to fire you, and that is the kind of shit you deserve to get fired for.

Edit:

Holy hell I've just realised you're the same AH who [said her sister isn't a "real" mother](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/gm9qys/aita_for_telling_my_sister_she_isnt_a_real_mom/) because she didn't give birth to her kid... are you trying to win an award for being the worst person on the internet today? ######


Prompt:
Me - 30 year old man

Her - 26 year old woman

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Me and my girlfriend has been together for 8 years, and our relationship is nontraditonal. I've taught her about the universe, freedom and i've told her that i think marriage is a trap and having kids is not a good future. We still hang out and make love, but don't talk to eachother in baby voices or walks in the park while kissing.

I personally hate mushy relationships, and have hate on Romantic Comedies. I feel a burning despise when i see young couples kissing like they're making a baby in public.

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Recently, when we where watching a romance movie that was going on TV, i saw her sighing. There was a scene were a man and a woman were on a romantic picnic.  She said "Do you want to go one of those sometime?". I though she was joking, and jokingly said back in a baby-voice "sure, honeybuns."

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Next day, she wakes me up wearing a sundress and has made tons of sandwitches that she's put in a basket. I've always made fun of romantic people, and i thought she was taking the joke further and started laughing without control.

She got confused and asked me why i was laughing. I understood she wasn't joking and told her it's a little unusual and mushy to do a morning picnic. She got upset.

AITA ######

Response:
 YTA

You sound absolutely insufferable and I have no idea why she's lasted this long. ######


Prompt: This happened a few minutes ago so it's still fresh on my mind, so I ordered chick fil a for lunch with doordash. So the guy finally arrives and he hands me my bag and instead of my Sprite in the chick fil a cup he hands me a sprite bottle and tells me that when he was driving to my house with my food the top wasn't put on correctly and when he hit a pothole the drink spilled everywhere. He told me he went to a store that was nearby and picked up a bottled sprite, I asked him why didn't you go back and he said he didn't want to be late. I told him that I want a refund for my drink and he said that he bought me another one with his money and I told him I don't care and he went in his pockets and gave me my refund for my drink. I felt like I was in the right but my roommates overheard our conversation and said that I should have just taken the sprite he gave me and leave it at that. So reddit AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA

You ordered a Sprite, he brought you a Sprite. I don't see the reason why you need to make this guy's job harder because you can't pull ice out of your freezer. ######


Prompt:
Basically my (13M) mother cane out as lesbian after 17 years of marriage with my dad.

She filed for divorce and devastated the whole family, she kept trying to convince me everything will be alright and stuff so I called her the stuff I mentioned in the title,

And now I don’t really want to speak to her anymore, how could someone build a life of 17 years on lies? And then suddenly decide they aren’t attracted to that person from the beginning, and on top of that she just bailed on us,

I told her even if the court gives her custody, I won’t be staying with her and there isn’t anything she can do about it, she started crying and stuff.

I’m really overwhelmed and don’t know what I’m doing ######

Response:
 YTA

You need therapy. Your whole family probably needs therapy ######


Prompt:
Me and my SO have been together for a year and some change. Have talked about long term goals many times like Getting our own place. But we haven't actively looked at apartments together.

For the past 2 months and half I have been staying at his place for the most part. But technically, I still live at home with parents. So today I decided to go to store, asked if I could use his car, he said fine. When I get the store, I was just getting the stuff the essentials. Making a key was a second thought. But then I saw the key machine when walking so I decided to make one then surprise him when I get home.

So when I get home from your store, I surprise him. Least to say he was not happy with it. Told me everything from "I was being sneaky for not telling him", "I want his apartment for free use", "I want to snoop when he's not around", "Not respecting his privacy", & Etc.

It's not like I haven't stayed at his place when he hasn't been home. I told him the key would be for when I need place when his isn't home or when both of us run errands we will both have convenience of having a key. Instead of us sharing one key then picking whoever has the key to do their errands fast for it doesn't cause trouble for other person. He still won't come to his senses, if I was in the wrong tell me. Need another perspective. ######

Response:
 YTA

You making a copy of a key shouldn't be a second thought that you just surprise him with. It's a big deal to have a key to someone's house. I'd recommend giving him the key and apologizing and use that to start a serious conversation about moving in together. ######


Prompt:
I’ve been having issues with this woman pandering to my son for years (she has known my son since he was 2) but really only took a stand when she moved in and my ex started relying on her to help out with MY kids (like watching them if he is busy, or asleep as he sleeps early for work).  HE is the father and it is his responsibility to do things for his kids, not some stranger whom I do not trust at all.  Plus my older son has been telling me my four year old calls her mom sometimes. hugs and kisses her, and calls her family which I feel is totally inappropriate.

So I’ve been telling my son that she is NOT his family and she is a stranger.  She is only his dad’s family, which is true.  He does not have to listen to her, only his dad, which also true.  I’ve also asked him to stop hugging and kissing her but mostly because of COVID.

I guess my son reported this to his dad because suddenly my SO is calling me an asshole because he says it’s his GFs house too and if he wants to let her help him with the kids, and if the kids want to bond with her or consider her family it’s their choice and I’m “teaching them to hate like me”.  I don’t think I’m teaching them to hate at all as I teach them to respect all people.  He also says now my son is acting distant and saying weird things to his GF.  I feel like if my son is acting this way that is his choice.

AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA

You literally sound like the stereotype of the bitter, jealous ex who can't let go of a relationship that ended ages ago here. You say she's known your son for two and a half years but call her a "stranger". What kind of mother makes no effort to get to know someone who spends that much time around her child? Apparently the one who never works or sleeps or goes shopping or do anything but stare at her child 24/7 because, honestly, your complaint that he OH MY GOD has someone watch over his young son while he SHOCK, HORROR sleeps is just plain ridiculous.

The more people who love and care for a child, the better.   I don't believe you want her to stop showing affection to your son because of COVID, you just want to hurt this woman for the crime of being involved with someone you're not with any more. ######


Prompt:
  So, I’ve been dating H for about six months and everything going great, though if I had to pick on thing to change it would be that she’s a pushover, and can’t say no to anyone. Still when we’re alone or around our friends everything is going really well. The biggest issue is her overly zealous mother, who she was forced to move back in with during the pandemic.

H’s mom doesn’t like me, doesn’t think I’m good enough for her daughter, but at the same time always sucks up to me, because my dad is prominent in our community, and she thinks I’m like her daughter’s golden ticket to money. I’m definitely a jokester, always the life of the party, and honestly a lot of people don’t like that about me.

So, this weekend restrictions eased up, and her uncle invited us over for a little family get together. The mom was sort of rude like she always is, but everyone was having fun. I should mention her mother is a very strict Christian, H went to Catholic school, and he mom actually used to volunteer with some debutante thing where they taught the girls “respectable” behavior, so not the most fun woman.

Anyway, I was teasing H, and she took a dab of frosting from a cupcake and smeared it on my face. She knows me well enough to know I’m competative, and kind of an ass. Now the face just seemed too obvious so I smeared the rest of my cupcake on her cleavage.

She sort of muttered something about I take stuff too far, but she was laughing, and then I saw her mother’s face. Her mother looked pissed, so I said let me get that babe, and licked some of it off. Now H is mad because she had to listen to her mother’s lecture and she said I need to learn to tone it down when I’m with her family, but she says she loves me for me and I was just being my asshole self. I think she needs to learn to stand up to her mom, so AITA for having a little food fight with my girlfriend? ######

Response:
 YTA

You licked her chest at a family get together. Where the hell is that ever appropriate? To make matters worse, you know the family’s morals would contradict that action. It’s not the fact you smeared cake. It’s how you proceed after. I wouldn’t expect the family to “like” you any time soon.

You’re also not an “ass” you’re just immature. ######


Prompt:
So my friend and I have been friends for years. I do appreciate her as a friend but her delusions about herself are extremely frustrating to me. She tells me that she is mistaken for being mixed race, has people ask to photograph her eyes because they're so "blue" and that she has dark skin...

1. I find it to be vain and uncomfortable when people shower themselves with praise.
2. She literally has none of the qualities she claims to have. She looks Irish, she has green/hazel eyes, very fair skin and looks European.

Recently, I did her make-up and told her "I'm using purple for green eyes and the lightest shade to match your skin"... she got really upset with me and said "they're blue, are you colour blind"? and "I'm not pale! I need one of your darkest shades". (she always wears the wrong shade of foundation) AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA

You legit have a post two weeks ago about being ashamed of how beautiful you are. Sounds to me like you can’t stand anyone else who likes their own features.

I’m also going to go and guess your really
Pale friend with definitively not blue eyes isn’t anything of the sort. No super pale people think they are really dark, nor do people no know their eye colour. It’s absurd.

You don’t like people being into themselves but you are ASHAMED of your own beauty? And how everyone always compliments you? Something smell fishy here.

Not to mention your whole
Post history is a hot mess. Your best friend died of heroine overdose 120 days ago, but your cousin is still doing a documentary on them shooting up as of two days ago? ######


Prompt:
I was mates with a guy back high school until he got involved with my sister. I will admit he wasn't the greatest of guys at all and was deep into drugs but yet again he was the one she chose to sleep with and fell pregnant. She dropped out of college and left to stay with our aunt out of the county during the pregnancy. I was just told she left to the UK for a job.

That was 5 years ago and she's married to another guy who I believed was the father (and is acting like it) but after my aunt kind of made it slip to me that she was pregnant when she left I started connecting the dots and realized it was my old mate's son. I messaged her to confirm and she just sent me a message saying I should mind my business. Well he should know so I called him and told him that he has a son and hung up. He called my sister and I don't know what he said but I'm pretty sure he wants to be involved. My sister is hella pissed and is calling me an asshole for telling him after she said I shouldn't.

The family is pretty torn on this so just wondering if I am TA. ######

Response:
 YTA

You know she was pregnant when she left, and you know who she was involved with, but you don't know that your connected dots are correct for sure and there may be other aspects to the story you haven't been made aware of because you have no direct connection to it. You don't know who knows what, who has been told what, or even 100% that this guy is your nephew's dad. Imagine how this is going to turn out if it comes out that he isn't.

I'm not saying don't be concerned for your sister, but if there are things she needs to tell people, you need to trust that she'll do that on her own time. You've taken away her privacy and right to be the one the news comes from based on a hunch you haven't even properly confirmed (your sister saying you should mind your business is absolutely not confirmation that your hunch was right). ######


Prompt:
My friend \[17f\] has a somewhat popular instagram account-- think 10-20k followers. She posts a lot of photography/artsy stuff with a few pics of her in cute outfits. Our high school is in her bio (like how people put the acronym of their school and their graduating year) and her photos are all tagged with location, so it's pretty easy to see where she lives.

Anyhow, she received a DM from a guy who lives in our city-- in fact, I know him since we play on the same club soccer team, but I digress. She showed me the DM, and it wasn't rude or lewd or creepy or something. It was just 'hey, my name is \_\_\_\_\_\_\_, and I think you're pretty cute. Since we're from the same place, would you like to hang out sometime?'. Pretty chill and non-threatening imo.

She isn't really looking for a relationship right now, which is understandable, so she didn't want to. She left his DM on read without responding, which I kind of felt was rude. As a guy who has asked girls out before, I know how hard it is to work up the courage to go up to a girl and say what you're feeling-- even over DM. Getting rejected sucks, ofc, but even a simple let-down isn't as soul-crushing as just being left of read.

She doesn't have an obligation to answer him, but I think it would be nice to, since just leaving him on read would probably do a number on his confidence. So I told her she might want to just send a simple 'sorry, I'm not looking for a relationship right now' type DM back if she wanted to be nice.

This pissed her off, and she went on and on about how she doesn't *have* to. Again, I'm not saying she has to, I just think it's kinda rude to leave him on read. Typing up a simple 'I'm not interested' message wouldn't take long.

AITA for suggesting this? ######

Response:
 YTA

You have your answer right there towards the end—

“ She doesn't have an obligation to answer him“

She doesn’t owe him anything just because you know him. He took his shot and part of growing up is that some people are going to literally not respond and that’s ok! Life goes on, more girls to DM! No one owes a stranger a response to a completely unsolicited DM. And you’re going to need to get rid of this idea that women, in order to be “nice”,  are required to respond to someone. She doesn’t know him, owes him nothing. ######


Prompt:
My BF recently lost his dog of 17.5 years. He’s been in mourning and having a horrible time getting over it, so last week I got him a puppy to surprise him.

Well he wasn’t mean but he did tell me off.

He told me dogs shouldn’t be surprises and if I had told him he would have wanted to be apart of the selection process because its the funnest part

He also said he was really looking forward to being able to pick his own puppy when he was over the loss. He also said he doesn’t see himself bonding to this puppy because he dislikes the breed (pug) because “Pugs are extremely unethical ugly and poorly bred animals” and he prefers dogs that can go for hikes and bike rides with him

I told him that he’s just having a hard time adjusting and over time he’ll come to love the puppy. He wants me to give the puppy back to the breeder or keep it for myself as he just really doesn’t want it. I think that’s so hurtful to the puppy who did nothing wrong and I feel like if he tried he’d really love him (the puppy)

AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA

You have to be ready for another dog to cone into your life, I would have hated it if someone had sprung a puppy into me when I was grieving the loss of my dog.

Also, I’m kinda with him on the pug thing, I’m not keen either. Sure you didn’t just do this because you wanted a pug? ######


Prompt:
The title probably screams NTA, but before you judge him hear my story.

I (f24) cook dinner for my boyfriend (m26) almost every night and he does the dishes, so we have a good system going. I usually try to make something that we can both enjoy, but I have one dish that I love eating and used to make a lot before we moved in together, which he doesn't like because it contains a lot of garlic.

It's been a year or so since I last made the dish and I was really craving it. So I told him I would be making it tonight even though I know he doesn't like it. I also told him that if he didn't want any he could make himself an omelet, since I don't really like them and he sometimes wants it for dinner.

However now he has announced that he is going to buy a pizza, and I don't know, I know this is such a petty thing to get annoyed over, but I can't help but feel like my cooking isn't really needed. But I did tell him that it was okay for him to make something else, but I was expecting it to be something I don't enjoy as much.

Link if anyone is curious about the dish: [https://www.bingingwithbabish.com/recipes/2017/5/4/aglioeolio](https://www.bingingwithbabish.com/recipes/2017/5/4/aglioeolio) ######

Response:
 YTA

You got something you really wanted, he got something that he really wanted. Why did he have to cook? Getting take out in that scenario is perfectly acceptable ######


Prompt: So my step daughter (20)  moved in with me, my husband (her father) and our two children (13F & 15M) at the start of lockdown because I don’t know, she wanted to. She’s was adopted by my husband and his ex wife because her  biological mom died when she was almost 5, and had been a druggie and things like that. She never had a dad. So it is understandable that she has some mental heath issues because of it. Sometimes she’ll just think too much and cry randomly, and other things. so she’s in therapy. She also sometimes has overreactions to anger and stuff. So here’s the situation. The other day I wanted to go out with my daughter for our daily walk, just mother  and daughter. We do this 3-4 times a week. This time, (she has never asked before) my stepdaughter asked if she could come too, she could really do with a walk because of her anxiety and blah blah blah. I don’t think she should’ve asked because she still had chores to do and it was meant to be just me and my daughter. She said she would really like to come, but I said she hadn’t done her chores so she couldn’t come. She looked upset but just went off to her room. When we got back, I was tidying some stuff and went to check if her room was clean and found her crying. Honestly, I thought it was pathetic because it was only a walk and she could have just gone on her own after her walk. I walked back out, told my husband and he called me a massive jerk and went to go and console my stepdaughter. So AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA

You go to your mother-daughter walks several times a week and the one time your stepdaughter wanted to join you said no? She clearly wanted to spend time with you and you coldly rejected her. And reading between the lines it seems that your attitude towards her is generally cold. I feel bad for the stepdaughter. ######


Prompt:
So my wife dyed her hair today. While I normally like dyed hair on other people, I have a hard time enjoying it on her. For some reason I just really don’t like that she had tattoos and that she dyed her hair.

The thought of it makes me visibly upset. She already told me she won’t get any more tattoos, but near the start of our marriage I told her that I didn’t like her with dyed hair.

She likes it though and now that she is allowed to have it dyed at work she went ahead and asked what color she should get. I told her that I didn’t want her to, because I didn’t like her with dyed hair. She got upset and wanted me to be supportive so I helped her choose a color.
She dyed her hair and i guess it looks alright, but I can’t help but get this bad feeling in my gut and my head when I see it.

I just don’t like it. I don’t like seeing it. I want her to look like her. She wants to be able to do things she likes. I want that too, and I want her to be happy, but I just really don’t want her to have dyed hair. I don’t want her to have tattoos either but that’s not much of an option now. ######

Response:
 YTA

You don’t have to like it but if it’s affecting your relationship, that’s on you. You should love someone no matter what, but especially when they are happy. If she is happy with dyed hair, and you don’t love her when she is free, happy, and expressing herself, who/what do you really love then? You say you want her to look like herself... Well, that IS herself.

If you are visibly angry when she exists/expresses freely as herself, do her a favor and end the marriage. She can find plenty of other loving men who will love her hair colors and tattoos, love her when she is happy, and celebrate it all. ######


Prompt:
My 16yo son has always HATED school. He does well, but is bored. His counselor suggested taking short-term elective summer classes. Those classes would count towards his high school credits when he starts his senior year. His counselor also suggested taking community college courses that would satisfied required classes that he would have to take as a junior or senior (i.e. history, poly sci). The community college classes would be free, online and would count towards his college degree. The goal was that by the time he started his senior year, he would only have to take a couple of bullshit classes and stay at school for a couple of hours a day. Literally, he could come to school at 10AM and leave by noon. That really excited him.

After two years of summer school and online community college classes, he has accrued so many credits that he could hypothetically graduate in 2021 instead of 2022. My son really wanted to do this and I said no. My fear is that he will regret it. He doesn't know anyone in the class of 2021 and will miss out socially. Plus , if he were to graduate early then he would resume going to community college full-time on-campus and I don't think he's ready for that sudden change. ######

Response:
 YTA

You don't think he is ready? I think you aren't ready. ######


Prompt:
I know the title makes it sound worse than it is, bear with me. Also throwaway because my partner uses reddit. Obligatory comment re: formatting because I'm on mobile etc.

I (27F) have a mild dairy allergy, it usually manifests as sniffles, I generally have a chronic runny nose or some sort of cough. I get very frequent sinus/chest infections and generally am a bunged-up, sniffly individual. I also have pretty nasty allergies and a few other autoimmune conditions that generally lead to my health not being amazing and I get sick pretty often.

All of this usually goes away during the periods where I eat vegan - I'm vegetarian and eat vegan I'd say 4 days of 7. Sometimes I'll take a notion and go vegan for a couple weeks at a time and during these periods my general sniffly-ness and infections etc go away and I usually feel great. But I love cheese and I love ice cream so here I am, sniffling and coughing away.

Anyway, my partner (29M) whom I live with has asked that I just stick with vegan to stop my sniffling/coughing/general snottiness. We live together and he says he's sick of my sniffling, going through tonnes of tissues and being sick every few weeks. I should maybe include he isn't vegan or vegetarian, but mostly eats that way because I do most of our cooking.

I can admit that I'm probably pretty disgusting and snotty to be around when I'm going through a bad spell. And someone who is sensitive to noise probably couldn't cope with me. But I've been with him 8 years and this is only now becoming an issue. I've been like this my whole life so I personally barely notice anymore, this is just my reality (I say this until I have a sinus infection next week and I'm sick in bed but anyway). Also, cheese.

So, reddit, AITA for not going vegan and stopping my general snottiness? ######

Response:
 YTA

You don't have to be this way, but you're choosing it by eating foods your allergic too.

Especially right now with the current crisis, a compromised immune system leaves you as high risk if you catch it, to have terrible complications.

>But I love cheese and I love ice cream so here I am

There is no substitute for cheese, but there are plenty of non dairy ice cream treats you can have!

* Sorbet, which is like Gelato but it contains only syrup or fruit juice and water

* Coconut milk ice cream

* Almond milk ice cream & ice cream bars

* Soy milk ice cream sandwiches and bars

* Fruit juice bars ######


Prompt:
I'm American, of mostly Irish or German descent i dont know nor do i really give a shit. I went to University in Poland and Lithuania and I speak both languages and know the countries really well since i spent a lot of time there.

I am back in the US at the moment and I was at a work event and everyone had name tags. Someone came over towards us and introduced himself to us, i was with the CEO and and few other higherups and his manager among other people. He says "hi I'm first name Szymczyk and I work in this section, i think we will be working together"

I asked him, I'm sorry what is your last name? I can see that on his name tag its Szymczyk but he pronounced horribly wrong. He's obviuosly Polish American but from like 4 or more generations ago as he pronoucned it completely wrong. He pronounced it like "Zim Zack" when its really pronounced more like "Shim Chick"

I could his name tag and I asked "umm your name tag says Szymczyk (pronounced correctly" and he says no my last name is Szymczyk "zim zack" I know how to pronounce my own last name.He kept saying imrude and im a jackass for telling him how to pronounce his own last name.  Everyone else is looking really confused and find it weird. I then told him I lived in Poland and I speak Polish and I have friends with the same last name, i know how its pronounced and I then pulled out google translate and it was pronounced exactly like I said. His manager starts lauging his ass off while most of the other people are at least smiling a bit. He walks away and goes to get a drink

Some of the people said i shouldn't have embarassed him like that and i was an asshole but i dont think so. It defeintly left a very bad impression on his new manager and the CEO who he met for the first time. ######

Response:
 YTA

You do realize he learned how to talk and say his name from the people he got his last name from?

Who are you to correct someone on their own name? If anyone knows how to say their own name it's the person that has carried it their entire life. ######


Prompt:
This happened back in February and I really don't think it was that big a deal, but my gf still brings it up whenever she's annoyed with me.

For my birthday, my gf offered to take me and my best friend out for dinner. She said she would pay for everything, as her treat.

Our city has a very hole-in-the-wall type place that specializes in chicken dishes and is pretty popular, and I really wanted to check it out. At first, my girlfriend was on board, but then she checked the website and Yelp reviews and found out that there was nothing vegetarian on the menu (the only two side dishes were rice and refried beans, which were cooked with chicken broth and lard, respectively). She asked me if I could please choose a restaurant that had a vegetarian option, but I said I really wanted to go to this one.

My gf and I met my friend at the restaurant and had a good time (or so I thought), but when my gf
and I got home she was in a bad mood and said it was really rude of me to pick a restaurant that excluded her. She said she didn't enjoy having to pay to sit there for an hour and watch us eat.

Obviously I wouldn't have chosen this restaurant for a regular date night. But it was my birthday, and I
really don't think it was a big deal to go to a restaurant I wanted to try for a special occasion. It was just one meal! AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA

You could have checked that place out literally any night with your friend and without your girlfriend.

How do you think it was acceptable to eat in front of her when there wasn’t even a single side dish she could snack on? She had to watch you assholes eat, pay for your meals and then figure out something else for herself.

You were incredibly inconsiderate. She was nice to still pay for your meals. I would have told you to either pick a place I can eat something or kick rocks. ######


Prompt:
For some context, my fiance and I live together in a one bedroom apartment.  With quarantine, I've been working from home, and he's been working the overnight shift.  As a result, we're always together for all but a few hours of the day.  This has been really wearing on me.

Today, a package I ordered arrived, and he immediately started pestering me about what it was.  Normally, this isn't really an issue, and the item itself isn't anything of note (water flavor drops), but I didn't really want to answer him.  Looking back, I just wanted to create a bit of privacy and space.  He kept asking and when I wouldn't tell him what it was, he declared that it, "Wasn't funny anymore," and then left the room and gave me the silent treatment until he had to leave for work several hours later.

I know if I had told him, it wouldn't have been a big deal.  AITA for not telling him? ######

Response:
 YTA

You caused a fight because you didn’t want to take the time to say “it’s water flavor drops” which takes less than two seconds to do. ######


Prompt:
I’m going to try to keep this short. I have a 19yo cousin who has never had a job, doesn’t go to school and has severe anxiety. I bring her around my boyfriend and our friends a lot to help with her loneliness. She eventually started talking to my boyfriends band mate. I told calmly told her how I didn’t like that because my boyfriend has been working on music since before he knew me and we should respect his space. I also told her we need boundaries and I don’t want her talking to his friends because they’re a bit older (26-27) My boyfriend told his band mate the same thing and they both agreed to stay friends but they wouldn’t see eachother.

Fast forward a couple months and I find out she created an onlyfans account. The link to it was on her bio on Instagram. She didn’t post any nudes or relatively sexual as the pictures but she’d promote herself on the comments of those pictures. I look at the people she’s added and 1/3 of them were my boyfriends friends. She added 2/4 of my boyfriends band mates.

I think she thinks I’m being a hater but if I’ve expressed my boundaries to her before I think it’s fucked up that she disregards them. I told her she’s a really really pretty girl and she doesn’t need to be crossing my boundaries that she’s agreed to in order to be successful on that site. Needless to say she’s since blocked me from that Instagram but has me on her main one 💀 ######

Response:
 YTA

You can't set boundaries on someone else's friendship!

Listen to yourself

>I bring her around my boyfriend and our friends a lot to help with her loneliness.

So, originally you encouraged friendship

>She eventually started talking to my boyfriends band mate. I told calmly told her how I didn’t like that because my boyfriend has been working on music since before he knew me and we should respect his space.

???? How do they even equate?

> I’ve expressed my boundaries to her before I think it’s fucked up that she disregards them

Wow. You obviously have a very high opinion of yourself ######


Prompt:
I had 3 kids before getting married my husband has none. We just had our first child together and I got on birth control soon after birth without telling my husband.
He loves our/my kids but wants more but I don't. He also the sole provider and I'm a stay at home mom. AITA for "trying to conceive" knowing it ain't gone happen. Or should I give him more children? ######

Response:
 YTA

You can't just be misleading. You guys have to get on the same page here, and you can't do that if you're lying to him.

You have EVERY RIGHT to take birth control, but pretending to be trying for another kid when you're really not is why you're the asshole.

Again, you DO NOT need his permission to take birth control, your last question makes it sound like you only have two choices: keep lying or start trying, but you can tell the truth AND keep taking your BC ######


Prompt: So I am 19 Male. I am away from college but I am still financially dependent on my parents they pay for my college they pay for my car insurance my gas for my car and give me a month spending budget of 600 a month. Well when I found out that I wasn't getting a stimulus check because my mom claimed me on her taxes last year I called her to ask her why. She said because she still pay for everything for me. I tired to explain that I was also 18 at the end of the year. She asked why do I care if I was getting a stimulus check anyways I told my mom going to use to it buy non essentials since I am only allowed to spend the 600 on food clothes and things like that. She said that's not what the stimulus is for. I said it was still my money. When I asked my girlfriend(23F) about it she said I was being a spoiled brat. AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA

You can't have the perks of dependency and the perks of independency at the same time. ######


Prompt:
Our son is 1. Recently he’s stopped sleeping through the night. Previously he’d wake once or twice and was generally easy to drop back off again. We didn’t do any sleep training or anything, he just sort of did it himself.

For the past few weeks this has increased to 4-5 wake ups. We’re exhausted and don’t even have to actually go into work - lockdown etc. He isn’t easy to settle at all and either is breastfed or given a bottle to settle him again. Both methods take time and prolong the wake up.

I’ve started thinking about how on earth we will focus when we have to go into the office and function. Currently we’re both having a late morning/early afternoon lie down because we’re tired. Our relationship is suffering as well - we’re arguing more.

And then tonight, my turn to do the wake ups (whoever does the wake ups, gets the lie in the next day) and it’s 3am, he’s woke up 4 times already. So I just decided enough was enough and to leave him to it. He’s crying, obviously, but he’s also tired so there’s periods where I think he starts to nod off, but then wakes and cries. I’ve been watching the monitor closely to make sure he’s ok. Honestly, he just sounds pissed off but I do think it was working.

However, my husband got really mad and stormed in to give him a bottle. I tried explaining that we’ve never even given him the chance to call asleep independently, it’s either feeding, rocking, taking him for a walk/drive so how is he going to learn. I don’t think he’s actually hungry during the night; he eats masses of food during the day, plenty to drink etc. I think the night feeds are a crutch.

Am I the asshole?

PS; this isn’t a post asking for sleep training tips. I know as a parent you can’t help but share what did/didn’t work for you.

PS; if you MumShame me, I will end you. My son is my world. ######

Response:
 YTA

You can't decide in the middle of the night when it's your turn to keep the baby happy and asleep that you aren't going to do that anymore.

Is there anything wrong with letting your kid self soothe ? Of course not but the way you went about it was messed up. ######


Prompt: My boyfriend had passed away due to heath complications and I have been crying ever since. My son hasn't really shown any emotion to his passing but I thought that he was just holding it in, so yesterday I called my son downstairs and asked him to talk. I told him that he doesn't have to hold in his emotions about him passing and that it's ok to be sad, and he told me "I'm not sad" I was taken aback because he was like a father figure to my son. I asked him why and he said "I mean it's sad he passed away but I don't really feel affected by it" I told him that he was like a father to him and that he should be very upset and he said that he didn't think of him like a father figure just because he lived in our house. I yelled at him for and said "Is that really all you think of him he would try to be the best father figure for you and you say these disrespectful things, I told him to go to his room and we haven't spoken since then. My friend had called me asking how I was holding up and I told her what happened and she said that she agreed with my son with her saying "He doesn't have to be sad" so reddit AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA

You asked, he answered. You can’t tell someone how to feel.

Be careful invalidating this. You will soon teach your son to lie to you about how he’s feeling.

Respect his feelings. ######


Prompt:
So I (22F) decided to start an OnlyFans during quarantine and asked my boyfriend (22M) for his opinion. He said he would feel uncomfortable if I started one and that he didn’t want me to do it.

I asked him why and he said that he was allowed to feel uncomfortable about his girlfriend taking pics of her naked body for strangers. I told him it shouldn’t matter because he knows I love him and only him and if he feels weird about this he’s probably insecure about himself and trying to control me.

He called me an asshole and said he needed some time to himself.

AITA for defending myself about something I am legally allowed to do? ######

Response:
 YTA

You asked his opinion.  He told you how he (quite reasonably) felt about it.

Posing nude for strangers may not be a big deal for you,  but it may be a relationship dealbreaker for him.   That's not him being controlling,  or necessarily even being insecure.   That's a reasonable standard a lot of people have in relationships.   What makes you the asshole is you bulldozing his reservations because it wasn't the answer you wanted to hear. ######


Prompt:
So I (22F) decided to start an OnlyFans during quarantine and asked my boyfriend (22M) for his opinion. He said he would feel uncomfortable if I started one and that he didn’t want me to do it.

I asked him why and he said that he was allowed to feel uncomfortable about his girlfriend taking pics of her naked body for strangers. I told him it shouldn’t matter because he knows I love him and only him and if he feels weird about this he’s probably insecure about himself and trying to control me.

He called me an asshole and said he needed some time to himself.

AITA for defending myself about something I am legally allowed to do? ######

Response:
 YTA

You asked his opinion and now you're berating him for it.

When BF leaves you, know it's your fault. ######


Prompt:
My daughter's fourth birthday was today and a few of our family members dropped off gifts since we couldn't do a face-to-face celebration. One of the gifts was a Barbie; her first Barbie.

I'm a white dude in his late 20s, I know nothing about Barbie but I have the naive notion that a girl's first Barbie is something special, right? Something for girls to attach to because there's lots of different Barbies: mother Barbie, construction Barbie, lawyer Barbie, etc. I dunno I'm talking on assumptions since this isn't an area of expertise evidently. My daughter would look at this Barbie and think "this is who I'll be and I can be anyone, just like Barbie can".

The Barbie she received was ethnically asian, something my daughter cannot really personify as herself as since she's, well, white. To me at least, an asian Barbie for a white girl is less about empowering and more about "just being a toy".

I decided to hide the gift so I can order her a white Barbie on Amazon, give it to her first, and then give her the asian Barbie after the fact. I want her first Barbie to be special. Then the Barbies can hang out and etc, her Barbie will have a friend.

I'm a widowed dad so I'm trying to do what I think would benefit her the most when she's lacking a strong female presence in her formative years. Am I so far off base? Am I the asshole? ######

Response:
 YTA

You are making way to big a deal out of this.

My favorite Barbie was a Hawaiian Barbie.  Her black hair was magnificent.  I am neither Hawaiian nor black haired. ######


Prompt:
I always thought my neighbor, we'll call him Dave was a great guy. He's retired even though he's in his fifties and oftentimes when I get home he'll be sitting in a lawn chair in his front yard drinking scotch. We'd usually shoot the shit for a while and he started bringing out an extra glass for me.

Anyway, I knew he was married but I never met his wife until recently, which is kind of strange now that I think about it. Like it seems she never leaves the house. Anyhow, the other day he invited me in for a glass and I gladly obliged. When I met his wife it was kind of a shock, because she was young, like must have been 30 years younger than him.

Not only that, but she looked about 12 years old. I mean, she was under 5 feet and maybe 80 lbs, and she  didn't seem to speak hardly any English, which I thought was kind of odd. Dave told me he met her on a trip to Thailand a couple years back. I asked how they communicated and Dave said that he was fluent in Thai. But the whole time he never said anything to her in Thai, just broken little English sentences like you would use with a baby.

The whole thing was awkward as hell and after a few glasses I made an excuse and ducked out. Well, I rescinded Dave's offer to the BBQ I'm having this coming friday via facebook. I have teenage daughters and I just kind of feel he might be a pervert since he's dating someone who literally has a body like my twelve year old.

My wife says I'm overreacting and that Dave is harmless. And that I'm an asshole for revoking his invitation, especially since he'll be right next door. Also, when he asked me why I told him the truth, which my wife called "undiplomatic." So who is in the right here, me or my wife? ######

Response:
 YTA

You are assuming he is a pervert because he has a younger Thai wife...

Asian people are on average smaller than Caucasians, so her height and weight aren't indicators here of anything inappropriate. ######


Prompt:
I (37f) am going through a very nasty divorce with my husband (40m). We have a 13 year old daughter.

2 months ago my husband was at his parents house. I went to a bar and had a one night stand for reasons I wont state here. He found out and immediately filed for a divorce and didn't give me time to explain (which I admit I hold resentment for).

Our daughter does not know about me seeing someone else and her father wont tell her, so she wants to primarily live with me even though we have joint custody. She came home from school one day and told me about a plan to get her father to let her stay at my house full time. She was going to spread a few rumors to get his friends to persuade him that he is wrong. I had no problem as I wanted my daughter to live here.

Soon, half of his friends turned on him and the rest told him to let her stay here which he did. I saw him a couple days later crying at a bar and I felt bad at the moment until I saw him with a hooker next week. Though i really feel bad that some of his friends left him as i know how that feels.

So reddit, AITA for letting my daughter go through with this? I really just wanted to live with my daughter as she is all I have left without my husband.

Edit: I see how I could be the asshole for cheating I will contact the father and if he doesn't tell her the situation (which he doesn't know the full story too) then she can know that way. ######

Response:
 YTA

You allowed your 13 year old child spread rumors about her father, causing him to lose friends and joint custody of his daughter. This is beyond an asshole move. This is something very cynical and evil. ######


Prompt:
I love my wife, I really do. We’ve been married since we were 19, together since we were thirteen and have three children together. Our eldest is a thirteen year old girl, and we have two boys aged 7 and 5. Our sons are pretty much carbon copies of me, whereas our daughter is the carbon copy of her mother.

My wife has pretty severe ADHD, is extremely messy, has a major attitude sometimes and is incredibly forgetful and sporadic. She wasn’t diagnosed with ADHD until she was 21, and struggled a lot during her childhood, so we were extra cautious to look for covert signs with our daughter.

The older our daughter gets, the more she is displaying very obvious ADHD traits to me. Whether they are or not, she’s extremely forgetful, unmotivated, messy, has absolutely no coordination. Like it was with my wife in the beginning, I found it endearing. Now I find it extremely frustrating. Our daughter is currently on an ADHD assessment waiting list.

Last night my wife and I were in bed talking about our daughter, as she’s recently told us she’s got a new boyfriend. I ended up saying that I noticed she’s been really forgetful recently, and my wife laughed and said “she’s got that from me” and I said “don’t know why you’re laughing like it’s a good thing, it’s pissing me off”. She stopped laughing and apologised but seemed really upset. I’ve tried to apologise but it’s true, it’s not a good thing. AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA

You \*know\* these are not things that are within anyone's control. It's not your wife's fault she has ADHD, or that it took so long for everyone to figure out what was going on with her.

You should be the first person to have \*more\* compassion and patience for your daughter. Instead you are saying she's 'broken' and blaming your wife.

I have no idea why your wife apologized to you. She was making a joke about something she has struggled with, and instead of laughing with her or keeping the mood light - you made it serious and lashed out at her.

How can you say such things about your daughter and have the audacity to blame your wife? I hope posting this story makes you wake up and see how cruel you are being to two people you claim to love. It's also not great that you so openly praise your boys for taking after you...it just makes you look sexist and arrogant. You really think you have no flaws and your boys are angels?

And \*\*OF COURSE\*\* your wife is now upset. You have deeply insulted both her and her daughter. You have fundamentally shifted your dynamic. You are supposed to be the person that loves her, and she probably felt safe with you.

Now she may be questioning that. I'm absolutely serious, if I were in her shoes, and my partner said something so thoughtless and cruel I would be seriously questioning the entire relationship. I would be hyper aware of just how much this unwarranted bias was affecting the children. I would be looking for how this intolerant opinion bleeds into my partner's behavior.

You've damaged your wife's confidence, sense of security, and trust. You may have made your daughter feel 'less than' as well. Parental favoritism is rarely well hidden. ######


Prompt: My boyfriend has very long hair. To keep it out of his face while he is at work and to keep comfortable he wears bandannas. to put it simply: he wears them too much. I told him I wanted them to stay in his locker at work or in his truck. He told me that he enjoys wearing them around the house and when he is doing yard work because they are comfortable. But he won’t wear them out in public when we go somewhere together. I wasn’t particularly happy with that but I dealt with it until Friday. I dropped him off and picked him up from work so we could go to fleet farm and pick up some supplies for a project, he wore the bandanna he wore to work on the ride there, in the store, and all the way back home. I took all his bandannas when I woke up and threw them out the next morning. He claims he just didn’t think about it and I should’ve said something. I didn’t think I needed to since this was his compromise. AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA

WTF does it matter? Is his comfort not important to you?

You’re controlling and have no right to throw out his stuff. ######


Prompt:
My fiancée I always knew isn’t the strongest person, she struggles to open jars and lift stuff sometimes, but that never seemed like too much of an issue.

Last week I was watching one of those stupid videos where the guy does 50 push ups a day for a month. My fiancée sat down next to me and commented how impressive it was because she can’t even do one. I was flabbergasted because she only weighs a little above 100 pounds, there’s hardly anything to lift. I could see if she was on the heavier side but she’s not.

I haven’t worked out for real in years, I go to the gym once in a while to make sure I haven’t completely lost my ability to function, and I can do a push-up. I can’t do a ton of them but I can do 20-30 in a row.

I asked her to demonstrate and she did, and she literally couldn’t do it. The absolute lack of strength was astonishing. So I ordered 4, 6 and 10 pound weights online.

They came today and she got to the box before me, and asked why I ordered light weights. I said they were for her and she got super pissed off and said it was rude and mean to get her weights when she didn’t ask for them.

I don’t understand how she can live with herself not even being able to lift her own body weight. I mean she’s not sickly or diseased, she doesn’t have a genetic disorder, I can’t see how she can’t do one.

AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA

Why is it so important that she can do pushups? ######


Prompt: I have a son [16M] and a daughter [15F]. In the same weekend, my son was broken up with by his girlfriend and my daughter was broken up with by her boyfriend. They were very upset. Since they were going through the same thing, they decided to be there for the other and spend more time together. They are spending all day together talking, crying, eating, watching movies, playing video games, etc. I've heard them say things like they don't need a relationship as they have each other. I think its getting unhealthy. Like they are becoming too dependent on the other. Or even trying to replace their ex with their sibling in a sense. I saw them laying next to each other with their arms around the other's shoulders. That was the final straw and I told them earlier today its enough and they both need to spend some time apart, try to be happy independent, and stop relying on the other. I sent them both to different rooms but they are begging me to let them be in the same room again. ######

Response:
 YTA

Why are you sexualising your children's sibling relationship? You should be pleased they are close enough to be of comfort to each other when they're having a bad time, not projecting weird shit on them. ######


Prompt:
My fiancée is 7 months pregnant. Pretty exciting and everything's been going according to plan with no complications. Only problem is that my beloved fiancée has the world's weirdest cravings and when they hit, she becomes crazy until she gets it and then she wouldn't eat it saying it's disgusting. Between that, constantly making food for her (day or night) and messaging her feet, I needed a break. Actually she was the one who suggested it earlier in the pregnancy.

So I packed my a bag filled with clothes, called both of her sisters (who were willing and are extremely helpful) and asked them to look after her for the week while I went to stay at my best friend's house. I wrote a note for her just to say goodbye since she was dead asleep and explain that I'm still available if there's a problem or something and that she should ask her sister to call me. And then I left. It was amazing and a breath of fresh air staying with my friend although i started to miss her so after four days and a half days, I came back home.

Problem is, now she's angry at me for leaving her and now I'm sleeping on the couch. I get that she can't necessarily take a break herself but she had her sisters' support and help the whole time and if I stayed I would've lost my mind. Aita? ######

Response:
 YTA

What the actual fuck, man? You up and left your heavily pregnant fiancée for a week with a *note*? I understand you're stressed, but you're not the one growing a damn human in your body. What you do if you need a break is TALK to her, not peace out for days on end. I can't imagine how she must have felt waking up to you gone and finding that note. Just...mind boggling that you thought this was okay. ######


Prompt:
So I met this girl through an online video game we both play. We've been talking on and off for about five years now. Here's the thing though, although we've talked for this long, I have only seen maybe a handful of pictures of her. I've reverse image searched the ones I've had and it doesn't return any results, but still very fishy.

Every time I ask to see a picture of her, she tells me no because she has "body dysmorphia". I find that hard to believe, she's legitimately one of the most attractive girls I've ever seen if her pictures are true.  I decided to see if she would trust me enough to send more pictures, so I've been asking semi-frequently and every single time has been "no" or some other excuse. I finally had enough and called her a catfish, because that's what I've been lead to believe with all the evidence I have.

She got extremely upset and lashed out on me, saying she wasn't a catfish and I know she has body dysmorphia. She said I was being ridiculous because we aren't dating and I don't send her money or buy her things, so what reasons would she have for catfishing me? I felt like she was once again coming up with excuses and told her I needed proof. She hasn't talked to me since. This still seems fishy though. ######

Response:
 YTA

What reasons do you have for not respecting the personal boundaries she has clearly set? How does her appearance change your relationship in any way? Why do you feel she owes you anything more? ######


Prompt:
I have been running around a lot lately amd my hamstrings are getting kinda tight. I was stretching them in my backyard in a sports bra + shorts. When I was turning over I noticed the neighbour looking out his window at me. As soon as he saw me look he left the window. The next time I looked he was back when he noticed he left the window. This happened one other time and then I went inside. So I texted the neighbour's wife what's up later that evening. Next time he sees me (he works from home) he says that wasn't cool and he 'was just cleaning the house' and wasn't looking at me.

AITA for texting her? ######

Response:
 YTA

Unless it’s a pattern, he could have literally been cleaning the windows and looking outside and saw you.

You’re causing extra drama by involving more people.

Talk directly to the people who are potentially offending you and clear up any misunderstandings or make clear what is appropriate or not. ######


Prompt: So let me give you some background. My (49M) daughter (19F) came out to me a couple of months ago as bisexual and, I was very supportive of her. I made sure to tell her that i loved her no matter what, The other day, though, she put a post on Facebook telling everyone! I told her that I wished that she would have told me that she was going to do that first, because I would have wanted to let some close friends family members (e.g. her grandparents. Aunts/uncles.)know ahead of time so they wouldn't just find out that very big news while they just scroll through Facebook. The next day, after I had time to gather my thoughts, I sent her a message saying how I was hurt that she didn't give me the consideration of even letting me know before she did this and it was one of the worst things that has ever been done to me. I told her that her childhood friend, G, who has a genetic disorder and is not able to fully comprehend that, had to be woken up by her mom to be told instead of just finding out while she scrolls through Facebook. My wife agrees with me, but my daughter says that I don't have a say about how she does this, even though it affects me. Am I in the wrong here? ######

Response:
 YTA

This is HER identity and it is 100% her choice how and when she chooses to come out and to whom. Stop making this about yourself. “One of the worst things that’s ever been done” to you? Congratulations on your extremely sheltered life. ######


Prompt:
2 years ago I needed a kidney transplant due to kidney failure and my brother said he would donate one of his. So long story short he gets his kidney removed and I get my surgery, that should be the end of it right? Wrong because after my recovery (They visited me in the hospital btw) my family comes to visit me and I thank my brother for the millionth time and he says this "It's fine I'm just gonna say this though, there will be a time I ask you for a favor and you can't say no" and starts laughing saying "I'm just playing nah the only thing you gotta do for me is stay alive and don't put us in a scare like that again" and everyone laughed.

That stuck with me, because I remembered back when we were younger he would pull the "you owe me" card, like when we were kids we had this mystery pokemon figure pack and I got a Zapdos and he said "Yo please let me have that I let you have my Mewtwo and you said that you owe me one" others would be with things like chips and food. So after a week of that on my mind I cut contact with him because I was scared he wasn't playing around, he tried to call me on Easter 5 times and I ignored him. My Dad called me to ask why I was ignoring my brother and I told him and he said I was being overly paranoid. They haven't told him and the last thing he text me was "Look If I said anything wrong I'm sorry but please say something". I haven't heard from him in 2 months and I started to think I was being an ass about this so AITA? ######

Response:
 YTA

This has to be a troll. It wasn’t even a creepy joke. Dude literally gave you a kidney and you ghosted him. ######


Prompt:
Some background - I (19f) have been staying with my brother -B- (23m) and his long term boyfriend -K- (25m) for the time being for obvious reasons. My only other option was going home to our parents who I don't get along with.

Since living with them I've noticed a few things. Like when my brother cooks he always sets aside some of the leftovers for his boyfriend to have for lunch which means it's off limits even if I want more. He told me after a few days that I had to limit my shower time to under thirty minutes and after I told him I needed extra time because I'm a girl he laughed and said that's a stupid and untrue. He also does his boyfriend's laundry, evening ironing his things. When I asked him to do mine too he said I was grown and could do it myself. Well, if I'm grown so is K.

At one point I drank the last of this really good orange cream float drink and K got mad at me because he apparently makes them special for B. I hadn't noticed that the bottle was marked with my brother's name or obviously I wouldn't have drank it which I told him. He rolled his eyes at me and told me to pay more attention next time.

It's honestly starting to feel like they don't even want me there and are trying to passively aggressively get me to leave. All I want is to be treated the same, am I the asshole for that? ######

Response:
 YTA

They are in a relationship, it's perfect normal to do things for your significant other like make thier lunch or do thier laundry.

You are a house guest and even if you paid rent, are not entitled to laundry service. Hes doing his laundry as a nice gesture for his partner, not because he is incapable. You asking him to do yours too is ridiculously entitled behavior.

The fact that you have internalized this to the point that you are comparing yourself to your brothers boyfriend is a little concerning. Your not equal to boyfriend because its not a competition and your not being wronged by your brother doing things for his partner. ######