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So things got a little awkward, and now I sorta avoid/pretend to ignore her whenever we're near each other because I think that she's not interested and I bother her. But, often I'm catching her looking at me. Whenever I pass by her at school, initially when we see each other down the hall, she starts randomly looking around; I do the exact same thing to avoid eye contact until we're close. When we finally pass each other, I just say "Hey" and she always responds smiling and waving. She's also butting into conversations I'm having with other girls, but she's not talking directly to me, she's talking to the other girl. I sorta just look away cause I'm shy to talk to her because I actually like her but I'm not sure whether she likes me or not.
Another thing: she's absolutely everywhere! Any time that there's an event or gathering that we would both be present at, I always immediately run into her. Even if there's no reason for her to be where I am, I still find myself constantly running into her.
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TITLE: I [16 M] like this girl [16 F] who I've known well for a few years; things got kinda awkward, can't tell if she's interested or just trying to be friendly
POST: So there's this girl I really like. Earlier this year, I was absolutely positive she liked me. We were pretty close and she gave me every sign of interest in the book. Then I asked for her number online and she didn't respond. (Another detail: before I asked for her number, she seemed upset with me for not talking to her for a while; when I asked about it later she said she was kidding but in retrospect I think she was being was serious)
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TITLE: I [16 M] like this girl [16 F] who I've known well for a few years; things got kinda awkward, can't tell if she's interested or just trying to be friendly
POST: So there's this girl I really like. Earlier this year, I was absolutely positive she liked me. We were pretty close and she gave me every sign of interest in the book. Then I asked for her number online and she didn't respond. (Another detail: before I asked for her number, she seemed upset with me for not talking to her for a while; when I asked about it later she said she was kidding but in retrospect I think she was being was serious)
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POST: I really need help. Whatever I do I just cannot avoid gaining weight. thinking about my weight keeps me up at night, i feel depressed and void of hope.
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Graduation day me saw meat 138 lbs, about 9 lbs u from what I was used to. I felt disappointed in myself but mostly ignored it. May became June and 138 became 141, and then 144. Now, at the beginning of July I weigh 148 lbs. 3 weeks ago I started running to counteract the gain. I lost one pound after a week and gained three the following one. I started using MyFitnessPal again, but find it near impossible to be as faithful as I once was. I lost all self control and can't find an answer.
I feel helpless, desperate, and disgusted. I'm currently thinking about accepting being fat, facing the fact that it is something that i cannot escape, and should give up ttrying to do so. The only thing keeping me from that is knowing that is not impossible, as i've done it before. Right now though, the person from a couple months ago is all but gone, and left in his wake is a depressed, defeated, slob.
r/loseit, this is my first post on reddit ever. After being a lurker for over 2 years, I've remained too timid to say anything about my situation to anyone, not even my family. These are the first words to ever come from me asking for help in any way, shape, or form. Please understand how important this is to me, at least consider my situation, or take it as an example of what not to do.
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t3_zs29q | relationships | New girlfriend (20f) FREAKING out over texts I (21m) sent to other girls. I've done way worse than text though. Do I have to tell her? | I've been talking to this girl, Kate for about a month now. We started off just texting back and forth and we've gone on a few dates and fooled around a couple times. Things are definitely getting more serious and I really, really like her. I've had a couple short relationships and hooked up a bit. This is basically her first everything.
Since we've been talking I've been talking/flirting with a couple other girls. Just normal things. A couple weeks back I did go to a party and hook up with a friend. No sex, just kissing and sleeping in the same bed. I did something similar right around the time I started talking to Kate too. Its fine when you are single but probably not okay in a relationship.
Yesterday afternoon I'm at her room. Fall asleep and with my phone unlocked. I get a text or she snoops and sees me flirting with other girls and immediately freaks the fuck out. Hysterics. Starts crying. Asking me if I don't like her. Asking if I "cheated" on her. Eventually after some talking and fighting I apologize and promise it won't happen again and ask her to be my girlfriend. The dramatics are kind of a red flag but I really like this girl and I want to be with her only.
I sort of hedged the question of if I "cheated" on her. My perspective is I couldn't since we weren't in a relationship. I'm sure if she knew she would consider it cheating though. Question is should I tell her about the hookups or can I keep it in the past? | New girlfriend concerned over some texts I sent while we were talking. I did much worse than text and hooked up with others during the talking period. Should I tell her or is it okay to mislead her? | [
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TITLE: New girlfriend (20f) FREAKING out over texts I (21m) sent to other girls. I've done way worse than text though. Do I have to tell her?
POST: I've been talking to this girl, Kate for about a month now. We started off just texting back and forth and we've gone on a few dates and fooled around a couple times. Things are definitely getting more serious and I really, really like her. I've had a couple short relationships and hooked up a bit. This is basically her first everything.
Since we've been talking I've been talking/flirting with a couple other girls. Just normal things. A couple weeks back I did go to a party and hook up with a friend. No sex, just kissing and sleeping in the same bed. I did something similar right around the time I started talking to Kate too. Its fine when you are single but probably not okay in a relationship.
Yesterday afternoon I'm at her room. Fall asleep and with my phone unlocked. I get a text or she snoops and sees me flirting with other girls and immediately freaks the fuck out. Hysterics. Starts crying. Asking me if I don't like her. Asking if I "cheated" on her. Eventually after some talking and fighting I apologize and promise it won't happen again and ask her to be my girlfriend. The dramatics are kind of a red flag but I really like this girl and I want to be with her only.
I sort of hedged the question of if I "cheated" on her. My perspective is I couldn't since we weren't in a relationship. I'm sure if she knew she would consider it cheating though. Question is should I tell her about the hookups or can I keep it in the past?
TL;DR: | New girlfriend concerned over some texts I sent while we were talking. I did much worse than text and hooked up with others during the talking period. Should I tell her or is it okay to mislead her?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: New girlfriend (20f) FREAKING out over texts I (21m) sent to other girls. I've done way worse than text though. Do I have to tell her?
POST: I've been talking to this girl, Kate for about a month now. We started off just texting back and forth and we've gone on a few dates and fooled around a couple times. Things are definitely getting more serious and I really, really like her. I've had a couple short relationships and hooked up a bit. This is basically her first everything.
Since we've been talking I've been talking/flirting with a couple other girls. Just normal things. A couple weeks back I did go to a party and hook up with a friend. No sex, just kissing and sleeping in the same bed. I did something similar right around the time I started talking to Kate too. Its fine when you are single but probably not okay in a relationship.
Yesterday afternoon I'm at her room. Fall asleep and with my phone unlocked. I get a text or she snoops and sees me flirting with other girls and immediately freaks the fuck out. Hysterics. Starts crying. Asking me if I don't like her. Asking if I "cheated" on her. Eventually after some talking and fighting I apologize and promise it won't happen again and ask her to be my girlfriend. The dramatics are kind of a red flag but I really like this girl and I want to be with her only.
I sort of hedged the question of if I "cheated" on her. My perspective is I couldn't since we weren't in a relationship. I'm sure if she knew she would consider it cheating though. Question is should I tell her about the hookups or can I keep it in the past?
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I picked up the dog, opened up my car door to bring the dog to his home, when a guy about 10 feet away from me yells, "HEY LADY, WHAT ARE YOU DOING WITH MY DOG??" I panicked, tossed the dog out of my car, hopped in and sped away. | Some man was taking his dog for a walk off leash and saw a crazy lady (me) pull over & try to kidnap his dog. | [
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TITLE: TIFU by trying to rescue a dog that was not lost
POST: A couple of weeks ago, one of my close friends' dogs got off leash & ran away. We were all worried sick, the dog ended up getting hit by a car, and he is still recovering from his adventure. So, when I was driving home from work and spotted a different dog running up the sidewalk without a leash on, I was worried that we had another similar situation on our hands.
When I saw the dog running, I immediately pulled over and got out of my car. I called to the dog, and he came running up to me (he was super cute and very playful). I checked the tag on his collar, and his home actually was only a few blocks away, so I figured he must have gotten out recently. *Great!* I thought, *I can save his owners hours of worry by returning him right now!*
I picked up the dog, opened up my car door to bring the dog to his home, when a guy about 10 feet away from me yells, "HEY LADY, WHAT ARE YOU DOING WITH MY DOG??" I panicked, tossed the dog out of my car, hopped in and sped away.
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TITLE: TIFU by trying to rescue a dog that was not lost
POST: A couple of weeks ago, one of my close friends' dogs got off leash & ran away. We were all worried sick, the dog ended up getting hit by a car, and he is still recovering from his adventure. So, when I was driving home from work and spotted a different dog running up the sidewalk without a leash on, I was worried that we had another similar situation on our hands.
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I picked up the dog, opened up my car door to bring the dog to his home, when a guy about 10 feet away from me yells, "HEY LADY, WHAT ARE YOU DOING WITH MY DOG??" I panicked, tossed the dog out of my car, hopped in and sped away.
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t3_m91av | AskReddit | What Job Should I Get? | **Skills:**
2 years of a Psychology degree (unfinished due to money issues and this not being the right fit for me)
High proficiency for math (103% in pre-calculus as an example)
High proficiency for grammar and writing
Extremely empathetic and able to read and, well, control people. With some exception, see shortcomings for clarification
Great at problem solving. This in the sense that I can often see a way to do things quicker, easier, or cheaper.
**Experience**
Customer service for the last 7 years
2 years experience in reception, 1 as a manager
Experience in sales in a gym
Music Promotion
Mechanics (auto)
Alternative Energy (what I will be going to school in the future to participate in)
Modeling
**Interests**
Extremely passionate about music (all kinds, but especially electronic)
Pretty much obsessed with horses, although most of my experience is western
Avid reader and writer
Politics
Philosophy
Religion (all types, although I am personally what would best be described as Christian..irrelevant I suppose haha)
Fashion
**Shortcomings**
I am not a pushy person. I genuinely believe people are capable of their own decisions and have an extreme revulsion to doing anything more than providing necessary information for individuals to make their own decisions. When it comes to authority positions this is a little different, I have no problem making sure my staff are working properly, although I tend to do it off a platform of respect and trust rather than making them earn it first (they can lose it though!)
I am rather strong willed and will not stand down unless I can be convinced of the other perspective. On the flip side, I'll easily amend my position if I can be shown I was wrong or the other way is better. So I'm great with authority that respects my voice and horrible with authority that just wants blind obeyance.
I can not afford schooling at the moment as I am paying off past student loans. Once they are paid off I do plan on getting my engineering degree.
So in the mean-time reddit, what should I do? | some skills, some shortcomings, not sure what I should do for work while I wait to be able to go back to school for engineering and would like some help with ideas! :) | [
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TITLE: What Job Should I Get?
POST: **Skills:**
2 years of a Psychology degree (unfinished due to money issues and this not being the right fit for me)
High proficiency for math (103% in pre-calculus as an example)
High proficiency for grammar and writing
Extremely empathetic and able to read and, well, control people. With some exception, see shortcomings for clarification
Great at problem solving. This in the sense that I can often see a way to do things quicker, easier, or cheaper.
**Experience**
Customer service for the last 7 years
2 years experience in reception, 1 as a manager
Experience in sales in a gym
Music Promotion
Mechanics (auto)
Alternative Energy (what I will be going to school in the future to participate in)
Modeling
**Interests**
Extremely passionate about music (all kinds, but especially electronic)
Pretty much obsessed with horses, although most of my experience is western
Avid reader and writer
Politics
Philosophy
Religion (all types, although I am personally what would best be described as Christian..irrelevant I suppose haha)
Fashion
**Shortcomings**
I am not a pushy person. I genuinely believe people are capable of their own decisions and have an extreme revulsion to doing anything more than providing necessary information for individuals to make their own decisions. When it comes to authority positions this is a little different, I have no problem making sure my staff are working properly, although I tend to do it off a platform of respect and trust rather than making them earn it first (they can lose it though!)
I am rather strong willed and will not stand down unless I can be convinced of the other perspective. On the flip side, I'll easily amend my position if I can be shown I was wrong or the other way is better. So I'm great with authority that respects my voice and horrible with authority that just wants blind obeyance.
I can not afford schooling at the moment as I am paying off past student loans. Once they are paid off I do plan on getting my engineering degree.
TL;DR: | some skills, some shortcomings, not sure what I should do for work while I wait to be able to go back to school for engineering and would like some help with ideas! :)<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: What Job Should I Get?
POST: **Skills:**
2 years of a Psychology degree (unfinished due to money issues and this not being the right fit for me)
High proficiency for math (103% in pre-calculus as an example)
High proficiency for grammar and writing
Extremely empathetic and able to read and, well, control people. With some exception, see shortcomings for clarification
Great at problem solving. This in the sense that I can often see a way to do things quicker, easier, or cheaper.
**Experience**
Customer service for the last 7 years
2 years experience in reception, 1 as a manager
Experience in sales in a gym
Music Promotion
Mechanics (auto)
Alternative Energy (what I will be going to school in the future to participate in)
Modeling
**Interests**
Extremely passionate about music (all kinds, but especially electronic)
Pretty much obsessed with horses, although most of my experience is western
Avid reader and writer
Politics
Philosophy
Religion (all types, although I am personally what would best be described as Christian..irrelevant I suppose haha)
Fashion
**Shortcomings**
I am not a pushy person. I genuinely believe people are capable of their own decisions and have an extreme revulsion to doing anything more than providing necessary information for individuals to make their own decisions. When it comes to authority positions this is a little different, I have no problem making sure my staff are working properly, although I tend to do it off a platform of respect and trust rather than making them earn it first (they can lose it though!)
I am rather strong willed and will not stand down unless I can be convinced of the other perspective. On the flip side, I'll easily amend my position if I can be shown I was wrong or the other way is better. So I'm great with authority that respects my voice and horrible with authority that just wants blind obeyance.
I can not afford schooling at the moment as I am paying off past student loans. Once they are paid off I do plan on getting my engineering degree.
TL;DR: some skills, some shortcomings, not sure what I should do for work while I wait to be able to go back to school for engineering and would like some help with ideas! :)<|endoftext|> | [
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t3_v2ixd | relationships | Am I wrong? | My gf(21) of over a year just told me, her bf(20) that she was out walking with her son and stopped to talk to her neighbor. She then told me that her neighbor and her had a "thing" in high school. I'm not so much bothered by the fact that they had a thing, but by the fact that I hadn't known about it whatsoever in an entire year not to mention the blatant hypocrisy going on. I went to my niece's dance recital and saw a girl I had dated and been with, no words or even eye contact was exchanged, and because I try to treat her how I would want her to treat me, I told her I saw the girl. She immediately started asking if I had talked to the girl or found her attractive etc.. Well she tells me that she talked to this guy and is super nonchalant about it, like there should be no reason why I'm upset. And then when I tell her why I'm bothered, she tells me "I knew it would be a problem.." I tell her it doesn't matter and she asks for more so I tell her. She responds with "have I ever done anything for you not to trust me?" I tell her what bothers me a few more times and I get no where. She then begins to turn the blame on me saying "Just nvm ill continue to have no friends."
Is it wrong of me to be upset/am I overreacting about this? I don't care about the "thing," I care about the hypocrisy and how she doesn't seem to care about how it upsets me. Am I wrong in this? Am I being too sensitive? | Gf just told me she was talking to a neighbor she had a thing with. She gets upset if I even see someone I've been with. Am i wrong in being upset? | [
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TITLE: Am I wrong?
POST: My gf(21) of over a year just told me, her bf(20) that she was out walking with her son and stopped to talk to her neighbor. She then told me that her neighbor and her had a "thing" in high school. I'm not so much bothered by the fact that they had a thing, but by the fact that I hadn't known about it whatsoever in an entire year not to mention the blatant hypocrisy going on. I went to my niece's dance recital and saw a girl I had dated and been with, no words or even eye contact was exchanged, and because I try to treat her how I would want her to treat me, I told her I saw the girl. She immediately started asking if I had talked to the girl or found her attractive etc.. Well she tells me that she talked to this guy and is super nonchalant about it, like there should be no reason why I'm upset. And then when I tell her why I'm bothered, she tells me "I knew it would be a problem.." I tell her it doesn't matter and she asks for more so I tell her. She responds with "have I ever done anything for you not to trust me?" I tell her what bothers me a few more times and I get no where. She then begins to turn the blame on me saying "Just nvm ill continue to have no friends."
Is it wrong of me to be upset/am I overreacting about this? I don't care about the "thing," I care about the hypocrisy and how she doesn't seem to care about how it upsets me. Am I wrong in this? Am I being too sensitive?
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TITLE: Am I wrong?
POST: My gf(21) of over a year just told me, her bf(20) that she was out walking with her son and stopped to talk to her neighbor. She then told me that her neighbor and her had a "thing" in high school. I'm not so much bothered by the fact that they had a thing, but by the fact that I hadn't known about it whatsoever in an entire year not to mention the blatant hypocrisy going on. I went to my niece's dance recital and saw a girl I had dated and been with, no words or even eye contact was exchanged, and because I try to treat her how I would want her to treat me, I told her I saw the girl. She immediately started asking if I had talked to the girl or found her attractive etc.. Well she tells me that she talked to this guy and is super nonchalant about it, like there should be no reason why I'm upset. And then when I tell her why I'm bothered, she tells me "I knew it would be a problem.." I tell her it doesn't matter and she asks for more so I tell her. She responds with "have I ever done anything for you not to trust me?" I tell her what bothers me a few more times and I get no where. She then begins to turn the blame on me saying "Just nvm ill continue to have no friends."
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t3_205zg1 | relationships | My friend [30M] currently lives with GF [21F], just posted to FB that he is looking for a 1 bedroom apartment. Looking for advice as a friend. | I'm a 26 year old Male. I'm friends with both of them. I've known him for almost 5 years now, and I've known her for about 1 (our group of friends used to hang out with hers). They dated for a few months before deciding to move in together (complicated but it made sense). They've been living together for about 6 months now. Today I saw on Facebook that he made a post asking if anyone knows of a 1 bedroom apartment for sale in the area because he is looking for one.
Obviously, I'm not sure what to do, if anything. I think it's pretty clear this means something is wrong with their relationship (he's complained about tension the past couple months, but he never made it seem really serious), but I don't think it's really my place to ask directly. I was thinking of inviting him out to a local bar we hang out at with another friend of ours, but I don't know if that is making it too obvious. Maybe I should just do nothing unless he brings it up. I'm closer to him then her, but I'm not really on either "side." | Male friend has been living with GF for 6 months, today posted message on FB saying he's looking for a 1 bedroom apartment in the area. Looking for advice as friend. | [
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TITLE: My friend [30M] currently lives with GF [21F], just posted to FB that he is looking for a 1 bedroom apartment. Looking for advice as a friend.
POST: I'm a 26 year old Male. I'm friends with both of them. I've known him for almost 5 years now, and I've known her for about 1 (our group of friends used to hang out with hers). They dated for a few months before deciding to move in together (complicated but it made sense). They've been living together for about 6 months now. Today I saw on Facebook that he made a post asking if anyone knows of a 1 bedroom apartment for sale in the area because he is looking for one.
Obviously, I'm not sure what to do, if anything. I think it's pretty clear this means something is wrong with their relationship (he's complained about tension the past couple months, but he never made it seem really serious), but I don't think it's really my place to ask directly. I was thinking of inviting him out to a local bar we hang out at with another friend of ours, but I don't know if that is making it too obvious. Maybe I should just do nothing unless he brings it up. I'm closer to him then her, but I'm not really on either "side."
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TITLE: My friend [30M] currently lives with GF [21F], just posted to FB that he is looking for a 1 bedroom apartment. Looking for advice as a friend.
POST: I'm a 26 year old Male. I'm friends with both of them. I've known him for almost 5 years now, and I've known her for about 1 (our group of friends used to hang out with hers). They dated for a few months before deciding to move in together (complicated but it made sense). They've been living together for about 6 months now. Today I saw on Facebook that he made a post asking if anyone knows of a 1 bedroom apartment for sale in the area because he is looking for one.
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t3_3eoubd | Parenting | I'm irresponsible, do I take responsibility for it? | Okay, screwed up today. Door didn't lock, seven year old walked in on me and the husband. It was pretty dark in the room (daylight barely shown through curtains, so not pitch). And we were back to the door, I was bent over, so there was my husbands back end, the motion, and some very quiet talking about coming. He had sneaked in the door and apparently been looking through the curtain on my bathroom door.. For who knows how long. We were abruptly interrupted by s burst of psychotic laughter. He left laughing. Later, after reminding him about my closed door policy, I said something about how was I supposed to get in shape if he laughs when I exercise? He said "that was exercise? Didn't look like that to me". So I responded, well yeah, dad was helping me. So.. Leave it at that? Explain what happened? This is a kid whom I always try to be honest with, and he is very mature. Firstly, I have no idea how he'd know anything about sex, but I don't think he needs to. However, I feel like he knows and now thinks I've lied. Thanks for your constructive feedback. | 7 year old walked in on us, didn't see much but still knows what's up. Is it too early for the talk? And it probably shouldn't be after experiencing that. | [
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TITLE: I'm irresponsible, do I take responsibility for it?
POST: Okay, screwed up today. Door didn't lock, seven year old walked in on me and the husband. It was pretty dark in the room (daylight barely shown through curtains, so not pitch). And we were back to the door, I was bent over, so there was my husbands back end, the motion, and some very quiet talking about coming. He had sneaked in the door and apparently been looking through the curtain on my bathroom door.. For who knows how long. We were abruptly interrupted by s burst of psychotic laughter. He left laughing. Later, after reminding him about my closed door policy, I said something about how was I supposed to get in shape if he laughs when I exercise? He said "that was exercise? Didn't look like that to me". So I responded, well yeah, dad was helping me. So.. Leave it at that? Explain what happened? This is a kid whom I always try to be honest with, and he is very mature. Firstly, I have no idea how he'd know anything about sex, but I don't think he needs to. However, I feel like he knows and now thinks I've lied. Thanks for your constructive feedback.
TL;DR: | 7 year old walked in on us, didn't see much but still knows what's up. Is it too early for the talk? And it probably shouldn't be after experiencing that.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: I'm irresponsible, do I take responsibility for it?
POST: Okay, screwed up today. Door didn't lock, seven year old walked in on me and the husband. It was pretty dark in the room (daylight barely shown through curtains, so not pitch). And we were back to the door, I was bent over, so there was my husbands back end, the motion, and some very quiet talking about coming. He had sneaked in the door and apparently been looking through the curtain on my bathroom door.. For who knows how long. We were abruptly interrupted by s burst of psychotic laughter. He left laughing. Later, after reminding him about my closed door policy, I said something about how was I supposed to get in shape if he laughs when I exercise? He said "that was exercise? Didn't look like that to me". So I responded, well yeah, dad was helping me. So.. Leave it at that? Explain what happened? This is a kid whom I always try to be honest with, and he is very mature. Firstly, I have no idea how he'd know anything about sex, but I don't think he needs to. However, I feel like he knows and now thinks I've lied. Thanks for your constructive feedback.
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t3_47r4ez | relationships | Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] of three months, asked for a break because she's unhappy | Our three month "anniversary" was this week and it was not a good one. Yesterday she told me she wasn't happy anymore and wanted a break, which I reluctantly agreed to.
Her reasoning was that the relationship wasn't what it was when we started dating. When I asked her what I needed to do differently, she said that I didn't need to do anything and that I had been great.
I was confused.
Today I told her that I wasn't happy either but a break wouldn't fix our problems, that we needed to fix our issues together, not sweeping them under a rug. She said that we need to talk in person about it.
I also freaked out, partially in person when she said we needed a break and over text to our friend, thinking that she was going to use this to find someone else/cheat on me. According to our friend, that didn't amuse her.
This is a college relationship. In two months the semester ends and I go home (about 10 hours away) for four months. Before, we intended to stay together. I want that too. But I'm not sure how to handle this.
We were talking about summer, about the relatively near future when we were talking. I left for a moment to go to the bathroom, then when I returned she said she wasn't happy and wanted a break. It seemed to be on impulse that she asked. She had been somewhat cold for the past few weeks, and admitted to being in denial about being unhappy, and I could tell, but I don't think she wanted to ask.
Reddit, what do I do? | Girlfriend is unhappy and asked for a break. I agreed, then changed my mind with the idea that a break won't solve our issues, only an open conversation | [
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TITLE: Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] of three months, asked for a break because she's unhappy
POST: Our three month "anniversary" was this week and it was not a good one. Yesterday she told me she wasn't happy anymore and wanted a break, which I reluctantly agreed to.
Her reasoning was that the relationship wasn't what it was when we started dating. When I asked her what I needed to do differently, she said that I didn't need to do anything and that I had been great.
I was confused.
Today I told her that I wasn't happy either but a break wouldn't fix our problems, that we needed to fix our issues together, not sweeping them under a rug. She said that we need to talk in person about it.
I also freaked out, partially in person when she said we needed a break and over text to our friend, thinking that she was going to use this to find someone else/cheat on me. According to our friend, that didn't amuse her.
This is a college relationship. In two months the semester ends and I go home (about 10 hours away) for four months. Before, we intended to stay together. I want that too. But I'm not sure how to handle this.
We were talking about summer, about the relatively near future when we were talking. I left for a moment to go to the bathroom, then when I returned she said she wasn't happy and wanted a break. It seemed to be on impulse that she asked. She had been somewhat cold for the past few weeks, and admitted to being in denial about being unhappy, and I could tell, but I don't think she wanted to ask.
Reddit, what do I do?
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TITLE: Me [18 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] of three months, asked for a break because she's unhappy
POST: Our three month "anniversary" was this week and it was not a good one. Yesterday she told me she wasn't happy anymore and wanted a break, which I reluctantly agreed to.
Her reasoning was that the relationship wasn't what it was when we started dating. When I asked her what I needed to do differently, she said that I didn't need to do anything and that I had been great.
I was confused.
Today I told her that I wasn't happy either but a break wouldn't fix our problems, that we needed to fix our issues together, not sweeping them under a rug. She said that we need to talk in person about it.
I also freaked out, partially in person when she said we needed a break and over text to our friend, thinking that she was going to use this to find someone else/cheat on me. According to our friend, that didn't amuse her.
This is a college relationship. In two months the semester ends and I go home (about 10 hours away) for four months. Before, we intended to stay together. I want that too. But I'm not sure how to handle this.
We were talking about summer, about the relatively near future when we were talking. I left for a moment to go to the bathroom, then when I returned she said she wasn't happy and wanted a break. It seemed to be on impulse that she asked. She had been somewhat cold for the past few weeks, and admitted to being in denial about being unhappy, and I could tell, but I don't think she wanted to ask.
Reddit, what do I do?
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t3_523x4g | relationships | Scared me (20F) about hurtful boyfriend (25 M) (3 month relationship) | This is my first post to this subreddit and this is a throwaway.
I recently started dating this guy and at first he was okay, really nice and stuff. But then later into the relationship, he used to give me ultimatums like 'do x or I'm leaving'. The 'x' bit would be something like 'tell me what I want to hear'. But he used to do it really late at night and, knowing I constantly have a guilty conscience, would do it just before I wanted to sleep. Like I'd tell him I'd be going to sleep then the questions would start.
He'd also do this with bedroom things as well. If I didn't want to do anything like that, he'd just get dressed and say 'right I'm leaving' until I'd agree to it and then he'd be upset that I wasn't 'into it'.
He started getting really possessive too. Like he's being asking me about who I'm seeing and that he's not happy that I'm speaking to some past friends with benefits of mine. He hasn't mentioned it since.
Truth is, I think this is souring and I'm scared to leave him because I don't know what he's going to do if I leave. He's out the country right now but he's gone for a long time- he made me promise I wouldn't leave him while he's gone on his business trip.
Please help? | I want to leave boyfriend who gives ultimatums and guilt trips me but I'm scared about what he's going to do. | [
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TITLE: Scared me (20F) about hurtful boyfriend (25 M) (3 month relationship)
POST: This is my first post to this subreddit and this is a throwaway.
I recently started dating this guy and at first he was okay, really nice and stuff. But then later into the relationship, he used to give me ultimatums like 'do x or I'm leaving'. The 'x' bit would be something like 'tell me what I want to hear'. But he used to do it really late at night and, knowing I constantly have a guilty conscience, would do it just before I wanted to sleep. Like I'd tell him I'd be going to sleep then the questions would start.
He'd also do this with bedroom things as well. If I didn't want to do anything like that, he'd just get dressed and say 'right I'm leaving' until I'd agree to it and then he'd be upset that I wasn't 'into it'.
He started getting really possessive too. Like he's being asking me about who I'm seeing and that he's not happy that I'm speaking to some past friends with benefits of mine. He hasn't mentioned it since.
Truth is, I think this is souring and I'm scared to leave him because I don't know what he's going to do if I leave. He's out the country right now but he's gone for a long time- he made me promise I wouldn't leave him while he's gone on his business trip.
Please help?
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TITLE: Scared me (20F) about hurtful boyfriend (25 M) (3 month relationship)
POST: This is my first post to this subreddit and this is a throwaway.
I recently started dating this guy and at first he was okay, really nice and stuff. But then later into the relationship, he used to give me ultimatums like 'do x or I'm leaving'. The 'x' bit would be something like 'tell me what I want to hear'. But he used to do it really late at night and, knowing I constantly have a guilty conscience, would do it just before I wanted to sleep. Like I'd tell him I'd be going to sleep then the questions would start.
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He started getting really possessive too. Like he's being asking me about who I'm seeing and that he's not happy that I'm speaking to some past friends with benefits of mine. He hasn't mentioned it since.
Truth is, I think this is souring and I'm scared to leave him because I don't know what he's going to do if I leave. He's out the country right now but he's gone for a long time- he made me promise I wouldn't leave him while he's gone on his business trip.
Please help?
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We only live 2 and a half hours away and was deciding to meet this coming weekend. We're going to spend the whole weekend together, and hes going to be staying at my place etc.
But my question, is this moving too fast? I don't know what constitutes as "too fast" for meeting someone with online and having them sleepover and such. We connect very well and have a lot of same interests yet is independent on our own. We planned out a lot of things which always seems too good to be true with someone you're heads over heels over. | Met guy off R4R a little over 3 weeks ago, might be moving too fast by planning way too many things to do together. Don't know if I should slow it down a bit? | [
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TITLE: Me [20F] moving too fast with [26M] which met off of R4R
POST: Basically me and guy met off of R4R a little over 3 weeks ago and has been texting, skyping, snapchatting non stop. We spend most nights playing games and through the day sending each other funny snaps or things we encounter daily.
We only live 2 and a half hours away and was deciding to meet this coming weekend. We're going to spend the whole weekend together, and hes going to be staying at my place etc.
But my question, is this moving too fast? I don't know what constitutes as "too fast" for meeting someone with online and having them sleepover and such. We connect very well and have a lot of same interests yet is independent on our own. We planned out a lot of things which always seems too good to be true with someone you're heads over heels over.
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TITLE: Me [20F] moving too fast with [26M] which met off of R4R
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t3_1g6rsp | AskReddit | Reddit what is something someone has done that just makes you want to beat the living shit out of them? | Here's my story. I ordered pizza today because I was to lazy to go out or make food and when I called to place the order I made it VERY VERY clear that I had an extremely aggressive dog and that they NEEDED to call before coming up to door. Flash forward to 45 minutes later this shit head of a delivery driver comes strolling up to my door and proceeds to ring the doorbell. When I did't get the door right away do to my dag trying to eat through it he started banging on door. It was BULLSHIT. I finally got my dog to the garage and answered the door. When I did I asked the kid if he had directions to call. All he said was "uuuggh yeah but I guess I forgot about it". ( The pizza place is 5 minutes from my house. How the fuck do you forget shit that quick?) At that point I gave him no tip and told him to call next time or I would have my dog eat his sorry ass. I also complained to Domino's.
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POST: Here's my story. I ordered pizza today because I was to lazy to go out or make food and when I called to place the order I made it VERY VERY clear that I had an extremely aggressive dog and that they NEEDED to call before coming up to door. Flash forward to 45 minutes later this shit head of a delivery driver comes strolling up to my door and proceeds to ring the doorbell. When I did't get the door right away do to my dag trying to eat through it he started banging on door. It was BULLSHIT. I finally got my dog to the garage and answered the door. When I did I asked the kid if he had directions to call. All he said was "uuuggh yeah but I guess I forgot about it". ( The pizza place is 5 minutes from my house. How the fuck do you forget shit that quick?) At that point I gave him no tip and told him to call next time or I would have my dog eat his sorry ass. I also complained to Domino's.
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TITLE: Reddit what is something someone has done that just makes you want to beat the living shit out of them?
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They're pretty, they know their make up and skin care, they got their parents support.
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TITLE: Rant + Advice: My (20F) bullies (18-23F/M) ended up with a better life then me? (they bullied me for at least 5 years or so).
POST: I ended up getting bullied pretty badly by a group of girls, and it still bothers me to this day, but what bothers me most is that they ended up looking good.
They're pretty, they know their make up and skin care, they got their parents support.
While I on the other hand have needy parents who need my attention 24/7, am too lazy to wear make up and take too long doing it and I just feel so bad about myself most of the time. I mean, a 20 year old who doesn't know shit about how to dress and make up. Pathetic, right?
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t3_52vgfg | relationships | My (23F) partner (25M) doesn't want to spend with our daughter on her (3F) birthday. Am I overreacting? | The titleis wrong I know. Its meant to say "time with our"
Weve been together 4 years.
This past week I was making plans for our daughters birthday and party.
Her actual birthday is on a Saturday.
I was trying to decide whether or not to do it on her actual birthday or after.
My partner said "No definitely the Sunday." (This is relevant later)
We were talking about how he's always working weekends lately. But it ended in me saying "oh well as long as you're not working "3F's" birthday weekend.
He said. "Not the sunday."
I said, well take the day off, you always get days off for other things.
He said I can't its a tournament (he works at a games store)
Suspicious I said "are you working or PLAYING?"
"Well I'm playing"
I said well you obviously have to not go and instead spend it with your daughter on birthday.
He said "oh but i planned to take the day off work and go play magic the gathering."
I flipped and said well wtf you would take the day off for games but not your kid?
He said he was seeing for an hour Saturday morning (he'd finish to late for her bedtime) before going and then Sunday be at her party all day, but I said the party is for her and her friends not family stuff.
He got sulky and pissed off when I put my foot down. | partner doesn't want to be with our daughter on her birthday and wants to play MTG instead and wants to see her the next day for her party instead. | [
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TITLE: My (23F) partner (25M) doesn't want to spend with our daughter on her (3F) birthday. Am I overreacting?
POST: The titleis wrong I know. Its meant to say "time with our"
Weve been together 4 years.
This past week I was making plans for our daughters birthday and party.
Her actual birthday is on a Saturday.
I was trying to decide whether or not to do it on her actual birthday or after.
My partner said "No definitely the Sunday." (This is relevant later)
We were talking about how he's always working weekends lately. But it ended in me saying "oh well as long as you're not working "3F's" birthday weekend.
He said. "Not the sunday."
I said, well take the day off, you always get days off for other things.
He said I can't its a tournament (he works at a games store)
Suspicious I said "are you working or PLAYING?"
"Well I'm playing"
I said well you obviously have to not go and instead spend it with your daughter on birthday.
He said "oh but i planned to take the day off work and go play magic the gathering."
I flipped and said well wtf you would take the day off for games but not your kid?
He said he was seeing for an hour Saturday morning (he'd finish to late for her bedtime) before going and then Sunday be at her party all day, but I said the party is for her and her friends not family stuff.
He got sulky and pissed off when I put my foot down.
TL;DR: | partner doesn't want to be with our daughter on her birthday and wants to play MTG instead and wants to see her the next day for her party instead.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: My (23F) partner (25M) doesn't want to spend with our daughter on her (3F) birthday. Am I overreacting?
POST: The titleis wrong I know. Its meant to say "time with our"
Weve been together 4 years.
This past week I was making plans for our daughters birthday and party.
Her actual birthday is on a Saturday.
I was trying to decide whether or not to do it on her actual birthday or after.
My partner said "No definitely the Sunday." (This is relevant later)
We were talking about how he's always working weekends lately. But it ended in me saying "oh well as long as you're not working "3F's" birthday weekend.
He said. "Not the sunday."
I said, well take the day off, you always get days off for other things.
He said I can't its a tournament (he works at a games store)
Suspicious I said "are you working or PLAYING?"
"Well I'm playing"
I said well you obviously have to not go and instead spend it with your daughter on birthday.
He said "oh but i planned to take the day off work and go play magic the gathering."
I flipped and said well wtf you would take the day off for games but not your kid?
He said he was seeing for an hour Saturday morning (he'd finish to late for her bedtime) before going and then Sunday be at her party all day, but I said the party is for her and her friends not family stuff.
He got sulky and pissed off when I put my foot down.
TL;DR: partner doesn't want to be with our daughter on her birthday and wants to play MTG instead and wants to see her the next day for her party instead.<|endoftext|> | [
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t3_2n8ndw | travel | Suggestions for a strict 10 day trip in Sept'15 on a tight budget? | Hello fellow travelers! First off thank you to all who have posted reviews, guides, budgets and itineraries for all to share. This community is great because of you.
I'll start by apologizing for the length of this post.
I currently work full time and do a master's program on nights and weekends, so free time is a thing of the past for me. My longest time between classes is 10 days, so I'm planning to save up until September, cash in some vacation days, and wander. I'm here asking for your suggestions on where to go.
Last year, I had the most amazing trip of my life with just a backpack across Dublin-London-Rome-Barcelona-and Munich for Oktoberfest in 14 days. Much fun and joy was had by all. This time, I want to settle in a little more and really get to know a place. My first thoughts have been along the lines of Istanbul, Budapest, Prague, Philippines, Thailand, Greece..... but in the end I eventually want to see the world, so I'm not committed to one place. I would much enjoy another visit to the heavenly Oktoberfest, so if I happen to be in the area I will certainly try to stop in for 2 days, but it's not required.
Budget: under $2000 firm, ALL expenses included, flight, taxes, fees, alcohol, meals, accommodations, everything
For reference, I'm 30, male, extremely comfortable traveling alone, just think some Anthony Bourdain No Reservations style world exploration. I did my trip last year under $2000, using Ryanair and Airbnb the whole way (transatlantic with aerlingus, FYI flying LAX to Dublin in Sept was $830RT incl all tax/fees vs 1100-1300 for most other European dest., the difference more than covered all my travel costs Ryanair and bus/rail throughout the trip).
Anyways, let the ideas flow! | 30/m/ca, 10 days in late Sept '15, under $2k total max, depart Los Angeles, wanderlust, walkabout, no reservations, hit me with it! | [
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TITLE: Suggestions for a strict 10 day trip in Sept'15 on a tight budget?
POST: Hello fellow travelers! First off thank you to all who have posted reviews, guides, budgets and itineraries for all to share. This community is great because of you.
I'll start by apologizing for the length of this post.
I currently work full time and do a master's program on nights and weekends, so free time is a thing of the past for me. My longest time between classes is 10 days, so I'm planning to save up until September, cash in some vacation days, and wander. I'm here asking for your suggestions on where to go.
Last year, I had the most amazing trip of my life with just a backpack across Dublin-London-Rome-Barcelona-and Munich for Oktoberfest in 14 days. Much fun and joy was had by all. This time, I want to settle in a little more and really get to know a place. My first thoughts have been along the lines of Istanbul, Budapest, Prague, Philippines, Thailand, Greece..... but in the end I eventually want to see the world, so I'm not committed to one place. I would much enjoy another visit to the heavenly Oktoberfest, so if I happen to be in the area I will certainly try to stop in for 2 days, but it's not required.
Budget: under $2000 firm, ALL expenses included, flight, taxes, fees, alcohol, meals, accommodations, everything
For reference, I'm 30, male, extremely comfortable traveling alone, just think some Anthony Bourdain No Reservations style world exploration. I did my trip last year under $2000, using Ryanair and Airbnb the whole way (transatlantic with aerlingus, FYI flying LAX to Dublin in Sept was $830RT incl all tax/fees vs 1100-1300 for most other European dest., the difference more than covered all my travel costs Ryanair and bus/rail throughout the trip).
Anyways, let the ideas flow!
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TITLE: Suggestions for a strict 10 day trip in Sept'15 on a tight budget?
POST: Hello fellow travelers! First off thank you to all who have posted reviews, guides, budgets and itineraries for all to share. This community is great because of you.
I'll start by apologizing for the length of this post.
I currently work full time and do a master's program on nights and weekends, so free time is a thing of the past for me. My longest time between classes is 10 days, so I'm planning to save up until September, cash in some vacation days, and wander. I'm here asking for your suggestions on where to go.
Last year, I had the most amazing trip of my life with just a backpack across Dublin-London-Rome-Barcelona-and Munich for Oktoberfest in 14 days. Much fun and joy was had by all. This time, I want to settle in a little more and really get to know a place. My first thoughts have been along the lines of Istanbul, Budapest, Prague, Philippines, Thailand, Greece..... but in the end I eventually want to see the world, so I'm not committed to one place. I would much enjoy another visit to the heavenly Oktoberfest, so if I happen to be in the area I will certainly try to stop in for 2 days, but it's not required.
Budget: under $2000 firm, ALL expenses included, flight, taxes, fees, alcohol, meals, accommodations, everything
For reference, I'm 30, male, extremely comfortable traveling alone, just think some Anthony Bourdain No Reservations style world exploration. I did my trip last year under $2000, using Ryanair and Airbnb the whole way (transatlantic with aerlingus, FYI flying LAX to Dublin in Sept was $830RT incl all tax/fees vs 1100-1300 for most other European dest., the difference more than covered all my travel costs Ryanair and bus/rail throughout the trip).
Anyways, let the ideas flow!
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t3_2ei5a9 | relationships | My [55M] mentally ill father is poisoning life for our family [49F] [25M][14F] | I don't know where else to post this so I'm posting here seeking help. We live in Ontario, Canada if that makes any difference.
My 55 year old father has been diagnosed as bipolar, and is possibly schizophrenic, but he's extremely secretive about his condition. I know that multiple psychiatrists in Canada and the US gave the diagnosis with confidence. He didn't work for over 10 years, and now he's finally gone back to work with no real change in his disposition. He's delusional and aggressive at times, passive at others. He always believes the bullshit he spews, though. It's always of something of a moral nature. He's been hospitalized numerous times.
He poisons life for all of us. He accuses my mother of having abortions, stealing money etc. He accuses me of watching pornography (lol), being sexually promiscuous (not really true), that I'm becoming an alcoholic (what?), anytime I go out it's to have sex or drink, not to see friends. This is all because he doesn't have full ... "guidance"... over me. He will take things that are true, and then based on them jump to ridiculous conclusions. He also set up a device hidden in our basement that records all phone calls, and he refuses to repair the other car, so we can have some transportation when he's not at work.
I really don't know what to do. Everyone in the family has enough of his bullshit, and after over 10 years of this kind of behaviour, we have enough.
We want him to get hospitalized and/or out of our life. We've been told that he needs to turn himself in to get hospitalized, and that' there will be a long waitlist.
What do we do? Please help. | Bipolar or Schizophrenic father poisoning our life. How do we proceed? We want him hospitalized or out of our life. | [
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TITLE: My [55M] mentally ill father is poisoning life for our family [49F] [25M][14F]
POST: I don't know where else to post this so I'm posting here seeking help. We live in Ontario, Canada if that makes any difference.
My 55 year old father has been diagnosed as bipolar, and is possibly schizophrenic, but he's extremely secretive about his condition. I know that multiple psychiatrists in Canada and the US gave the diagnosis with confidence. He didn't work for over 10 years, and now he's finally gone back to work with no real change in his disposition. He's delusional and aggressive at times, passive at others. He always believes the bullshit he spews, though. It's always of something of a moral nature. He's been hospitalized numerous times.
He poisons life for all of us. He accuses my mother of having abortions, stealing money etc. He accuses me of watching pornography (lol), being sexually promiscuous (not really true), that I'm becoming an alcoholic (what?), anytime I go out it's to have sex or drink, not to see friends. This is all because he doesn't have full... "guidance"... over me. He will take things that are true, and then based on them jump to ridiculous conclusions. He also set up a device hidden in our basement that records all phone calls, and he refuses to repair the other car, so we can have some transportation when he's not at work.
I really don't know what to do. Everyone in the family has enough of his bullshit, and after over 10 years of this kind of behaviour, we have enough.
We want him to get hospitalized and/or out of our life. We've been told that he needs to turn himself in to get hospitalized, and that' there will be a long waitlist.
What do we do? Please help.
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TITLE: My [55M] mentally ill father is poisoning life for our family [49F] [25M][14F]
POST: I don't know where else to post this so I'm posting here seeking help. We live in Ontario, Canada if that makes any difference.
My 55 year old father has been diagnosed as bipolar, and is possibly schizophrenic, but he's extremely secretive about his condition. I know that multiple psychiatrists in Canada and the US gave the diagnosis with confidence. He didn't work for over 10 years, and now he's finally gone back to work with no real change in his disposition. He's delusional and aggressive at times, passive at others. He always believes the bullshit he spews, though. It's always of something of a moral nature. He's been hospitalized numerous times.
He poisons life for all of us. He accuses my mother of having abortions, stealing money etc. He accuses me of watching pornography (lol), being sexually promiscuous (not really true), that I'm becoming an alcoholic (what?), anytime I go out it's to have sex or drink, not to see friends. This is all because he doesn't have full... "guidance"... over me. He will take things that are true, and then based on them jump to ridiculous conclusions. He also set up a device hidden in our basement that records all phone calls, and he refuses to repair the other car, so we can have some transportation when he's not at work.
I really don't know what to do. Everyone in the family has enough of his bullshit, and after over 10 years of this kind of behaviour, we have enough.
We want him to get hospitalized and/or out of our life. We've been told that he needs to turn himself in to get hospitalized, and that' there will be a long waitlist.
What do we do? Please help.
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t3_2zvhuc | relationships | My [27M] ex [28F] just texted me after 1yr no contact. Still not cool about the breakup. What should I do? | We were together 1.5yrs, and I was crazy in love with her. She broke up with me a year ago after she met another guy, and I was stupid enough to fall for the 'but let's still be friends' game for agonizing several months. Kept me on the backburner in case it didn't work out with new guy.
We've been no contact now for a year. I've had her blocked on my phone, until I got a new phone last week. I just got a text from her basically saying "I think about you all the time... Hope you're doing well, you deserve the best". I already deleted it, so I'm paraphrasing.
I know she's only texting me because I just posted that I got a great job promotion to facebook, and I know word got to her via mutual friends. (She's been blocked on fb). She has a great job too so it's not like she's after my money or anything.
I'm over the breakup, but it was cruel to string me along for that long and play with my emotions. I haven't quite forgiven that part yet.
What should I do? Text her back nonchalantly? Be like hey I'm good, doing well. Thanks for asking. Or just not text her back? I have no interest in keeping in touch, but I also don't wanna be a bitch. | My ex just texted me after 1yr no contact. Still unhappy about how we broke up. What's a mature response? | [
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TITLE: My [27M] ex [28F] just texted me after 1yr no contact. Still not cool about the breakup. What should I do?
POST: We were together 1.5yrs, and I was crazy in love with her. She broke up with me a year ago after she met another guy, and I was stupid enough to fall for the 'but let's still be friends' game for agonizing several months. Kept me on the backburner in case it didn't work out with new guy.
We've been no contact now for a year. I've had her blocked on my phone, until I got a new phone last week. I just got a text from her basically saying "I think about you all the time... Hope you're doing well, you deserve the best". I already deleted it, so I'm paraphrasing.
I know she's only texting me because I just posted that I got a great job promotion to facebook, and I know word got to her via mutual friends. (She's been blocked on fb). She has a great job too so it's not like she's after my money or anything.
I'm over the breakup, but it was cruel to string me along for that long and play with my emotions. I haven't quite forgiven that part yet.
What should I do? Text her back nonchalantly? Be like hey I'm good, doing well. Thanks for asking. Or just not text her back? I have no interest in keeping in touch, but I also don't wanna be a bitch.
TL;DR: | My ex just texted me after 1yr no contact. Still unhappy about how we broke up. What's a mature response?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: My [27M] ex [28F] just texted me after 1yr no contact. Still not cool about the breakup. What should I do?
POST: We were together 1.5yrs, and I was crazy in love with her. She broke up with me a year ago after she met another guy, and I was stupid enough to fall for the 'but let's still be friends' game for agonizing several months. Kept me on the backburner in case it didn't work out with new guy.
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I know she's only texting me because I just posted that I got a great job promotion to facebook, and I know word got to her via mutual friends. (She's been blocked on fb). She has a great job too so it's not like she's after my money or anything.
I'm over the breakup, but it was cruel to string me along for that long and play with my emotions. I haven't quite forgiven that part yet.
What should I do? Text her back nonchalantly? Be like hey I'm good, doing well. Thanks for asking. Or just not text her back? I have no interest in keeping in touch, but I also don't wanna be a bitch.
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TITLE: Need some advice on relationship between me and a guy friend
POST: Alright so I was mutually interested in this girl for maybe two and a half years. We talked occasionally, but I was never ever able to make anything happen because I couldn't really bring the courage to take the next step. She eventually lost interest and I hold no ill will against her, it was totally my fault and we remain friends, however I still have feelings for her. My guy friend knows about my feelings for her, he consoled me numerous times and was my "bro" during the hard parts. He starts hanging out with the girl and now they are around the dating stage. He never really asked how I felt and just went for it, I had to find out from a mutual friend. Now, moving on from the girl is a given and I'm working on that, but what should I do with the guy friend? I'm kinda disappointed and angry but I still want to be friends. However, my other friends are telling em to forget about both of them.
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t3_2moshc | relationships | I [19 M] still love her [18 F] | Generics: we were together 4.5 years. She left me. She was my first **real** girlfriend. We are bound to run in to each other now and then... Can't really avoid her.
I know I can't trust her, and I know there's a pretty good chance we won't get back together. She broke my trust, lied to me, and treated me like shit in the end.
...yet I still love her.
It's so stupid! It's like two guys are fighting it out in my head: I want her, but I also know better.
It's ruined everything. I can't enjoy anything, eat, do normal work like I used to. I have no social life either--all because this has turned my world upside down.
**I feel like I won't be able to move on unless I can completely get over her, or unless we somehow work things out**
Any help you can give is appreciated. | I still love my ex, my life is in the gutter, and I don't think I can move on unless I can stop loving her or unless we somehow fix this. | [
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TITLE: I [19 M] still love her [18 F]
POST: Generics: we were together 4.5 years. She left me. She was my first **real** girlfriend. We are bound to run in to each other now and then... Can't really avoid her.
I know I can't trust her, and I know there's a pretty good chance we won't get back together. She broke my trust, lied to me, and treated me like shit in the end.
...yet I still love her.
It's so stupid! It's like two guys are fighting it out in my head: I want her, but I also know better.
It's ruined everything. I can't enjoy anything, eat, do normal work like I used to. I have no social life either--all because this has turned my world upside down.
**I feel like I won't be able to move on unless I can completely get over her, or unless we somehow work things out**
Any help you can give is appreciated.
TL;DR: | I still love my ex, my life is in the gutter, and I don't think I can move on unless I can stop loving her or unless we somehow fix this.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: I [19 M] still love her [18 F]
POST: Generics: we were together 4.5 years. She left me. She was my first **real** girlfriend. We are bound to run in to each other now and then... Can't really avoid her.
I know I can't trust her, and I know there's a pretty good chance we won't get back together. She broke my trust, lied to me, and treated me like shit in the end.
...yet I still love her.
It's so stupid! It's like two guys are fighting it out in my head: I want her, but I also know better.
It's ruined everything. I can't enjoy anything, eat, do normal work like I used to. I have no social life either--all because this has turned my world upside down.
**I feel like I won't be able to move on unless I can completely get over her, or unless we somehow work things out**
Any help you can give is appreciated.
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We aren't jealous people at all. We are ok with each other making out with others when we aren't around as long as it doesn't go any further than that. But there is a girl in my school that I have been hanging out with in a group setting a lot. It's clear she likes me, and I've been invited over to her house a time or two, which I haven't accepted.
I can't get her out of my mind though. I fantasize about her when I masturbate, have sex (with my girlfriend), and just think about her pretty much constantly. I don't think I could see myself with her in a relationship long term, but am very attracted to her. Seeing her everyday at school doesn't help either.
So I feel guilty, and am wondering if I should throw away my relationship just so I can have sex with this girl? I mean on the one hand the initial reaction is of course not, but I feel bad for my gf when all I can think about is another person in bed. I don't want to date this other person so I just feel shallow as well. But I don't think I will be able to just forget about this girl from school if I choose to stay with my gf. | In a long-distance relationship, but infatuated with another girl who I can't stop thinking about having sex with but don't see myself getting involved with her long-term. | [
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TITLE: So I [28/m] have been with my gf [26] for 3 years. Love her, but being tempted by another girl [25] who is probably more beautiful than anyone I have ever been with.
POST: Okay, so I know it sounds shallow but I am in a relationship that has been long distance for the last year or so.Not a crazy distance but enough that it definitely causes some tension, especially sexually. When we are together, the sex is really good and I'm happy but along with it being fairly infrequent, I miss having someone in bed with me at night. We used to live together but have been separated because we are both going back to school for second degrees.
We aren't jealous people at all. We are ok with each other making out with others when we aren't around as long as it doesn't go any further than that. But there is a girl in my school that I have been hanging out with in a group setting a lot. It's clear she likes me, and I've been invited over to her house a time or two, which I haven't accepted.
I can't get her out of my mind though. I fantasize about her when I masturbate, have sex (with my girlfriend), and just think about her pretty much constantly. I don't think I could see myself with her in a relationship long term, but am very attracted to her. Seeing her everyday at school doesn't help either.
So I feel guilty, and am wondering if I should throw away my relationship just so I can have sex with this girl? I mean on the one hand the initial reaction is of course not, but I feel bad for my gf when all I can think about is another person in bed. I don't want to date this other person so I just feel shallow as well. But I don't think I will be able to just forget about this girl from school if I choose to stay with my gf.
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POST: Okay, so I know it sounds shallow but I am in a relationship that has been long distance for the last year or so.Not a crazy distance but enough that it definitely causes some tension, especially sexually. When we are together, the sex is really good and I'm happy but along with it being fairly infrequent, I miss having someone in bed with me at night. We used to live together but have been separated because we are both going back to school for second degrees.
We aren't jealous people at all. We are ok with each other making out with others when we aren't around as long as it doesn't go any further than that. But there is a girl in my school that I have been hanging out with in a group setting a lot. It's clear she likes me, and I've been invited over to her house a time or two, which I haven't accepted.
I can't get her out of my mind though. I fantasize about her when I masturbate, have sex (with my girlfriend), and just think about her pretty much constantly. I don't think I could see myself with her in a relationship long term, but am very attracted to her. Seeing her everyday at school doesn't help either.
So I feel guilty, and am wondering if I should throw away my relationship just so I can have sex with this girl? I mean on the one hand the initial reaction is of course not, but I feel bad for my gf when all I can think about is another person in bed. I don't want to date this other person so I just feel shallow as well. But I don't think I will be able to just forget about this girl from school if I choose to stay with my gf.
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We continue to see each other fairly regularly and have had sex a few times in the 2 weeks we've been broken up. I have considered NC but I value my time with her and obviously enjoy the physical benefits (she's gorgeous) and I have made the decision to continue this friends with benefit arrangement for the time being. There is clearly feelings involved by both parties when we get physical and to the best of my knowledge the opportunity to date again in the future is still on the table should the right circumstances prevail. She has said she still loves me but "I need to love myself before I can love you".
I'm not going to bullshit you guys and say I'm not holding out hope for a reconciliation. I'm pretty happy with where we are (happier than if she was out of my life for good), although I've had sex with another girl after the breakup and didn't enjoy it. I just want to know if I'm making a huge mistake by continuing this physical relationship. | My ex and I had a good breakup and still hold feelings for one another. We're currently in a strictly physical relationship and I want to know if I'm making a mistake | [
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TITLE: My ex gf (18F) and I (20M) recently broke up and are still physically involved.
POST: We had a great relatively short (~6 month) relationship that ended on good terms. The breakup was initiated by her but mutual in nature due to her unhappiness with her social and family life and my need for space and concentration on school. She was unhappy due to several uncontrollable factors outside of the relationship that she needs to sort out, which in turn proved to be a great stressor on me. We still love each other and love being around one another but both need a little space to sort out our own lives.
We continue to see each other fairly regularly and have had sex a few times in the 2 weeks we've been broken up. I have considered NC but I value my time with her and obviously enjoy the physical benefits (she's gorgeous) and I have made the decision to continue this friends with benefit arrangement for the time being. There is clearly feelings involved by both parties when we get physical and to the best of my knowledge the opportunity to date again in the future is still on the table should the right circumstances prevail. She has said she still loves me but "I need to love myself before I can love you".
I'm not going to bullshit you guys and say I'm not holding out hope for a reconciliation. I'm pretty happy with where we are (happier than if she was out of my life for good), although I've had sex with another girl after the breakup and didn't enjoy it. I just want to know if I'm making a huge mistake by continuing this physical relationship.
TL;DR: | My ex and I had a good breakup and still hold feelings for one another. We're currently in a strictly physical relationship and I want to know if I'm making a mistake<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: My ex gf (18F) and I (20M) recently broke up and are still physically involved.
POST: We had a great relatively short (~6 month) relationship that ended on good terms. The breakup was initiated by her but mutual in nature due to her unhappiness with her social and family life and my need for space and concentration on school. She was unhappy due to several uncontrollable factors outside of the relationship that she needs to sort out, which in turn proved to be a great stressor on me. We still love each other and love being around one another but both need a little space to sort out our own lives.
We continue to see each other fairly regularly and have had sex a few times in the 2 weeks we've been broken up. I have considered NC but I value my time with her and obviously enjoy the physical benefits (she's gorgeous) and I have made the decision to continue this friends with benefit arrangement for the time being. There is clearly feelings involved by both parties when we get physical and to the best of my knowledge the opportunity to date again in the future is still on the table should the right circumstances prevail. She has said she still loves me but "I need to love myself before I can love you".
I'm not going to bullshit you guys and say I'm not holding out hope for a reconciliation. I'm pretty happy with where we are (happier than if she was out of my life for good), although I've had sex with another girl after the breakup and didn't enjoy it. I just want to know if I'm making a huge mistake by continuing this physical relationship.
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My main goal is to understand the Aug-Sept vs. Dec-Jan decision. And, I'm also wondering if how much I can/should fit in, or if maybe Scotland would have to wait for another trip. And if there are any other location suggestions, I'm all ears.
**I have already traveled to:**- A few places in the US and a quick trip to Vancouver, Canada.
**Length and Time**: Either Aug 27- Sep 13 or Dec 26-Jan 10-17, including travel days.
**Budget** Not a huge deal, but I'm not trying to break the bank. Willing to stay in cheap motels, couch surf, etc. Never stayed in a hostel but willing to give it a try.
**Climate** I'm a little worried how cold it will be if the trip is Dec-Jan. Any issues here? Is that sufficient reason to go Aug-Sept?
**Interests** - I have no idea, since I haven't traveled before. I'm open to other locations, but assuming the England/etc trip: Guinness Brewery would be cool, a soccer/football game, some history, although I'm not a huge museum fan. Military history and aviation is pretty cool. I do enjoy a relaxing breakfast with coffee if that helps. Oh, and water! I can do short trips without water, but I do enjoy being by it and boats and the like. Also open to suggestions here!
**Safety** I'm not worried about this with the baseline trip. But if you have other ideas, something friendly to a big white American guy would probably be good. | is England/Ireland/Scotland reasonable for 2-3 weeks? Is it better in early Sept or early Jan? Any better destination ideas? | [
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TITLE: First trip, probably solo, looking for input
POST: Copy and paste from the "excellent" post. I'm 24, live in Los Angeles, and looking to travel abroad for the first time. Will most likely be a solo trip. So far I'm looking at England/Ireland/Scotland, but open to other suggestions. If other, I'd prefer it to be a single country, not multiple. I've had Germany, Italy, and Sweden recommended for other locations.
My main goal is to understand the Aug-Sept vs. Dec-Jan decision. And, I'm also wondering if how much I can/should fit in, or if maybe Scotland would have to wait for another trip. And if there are any other location suggestions, I'm all ears.
**I have already traveled to:**- A few places in the US and a quick trip to Vancouver, Canada.
**Length and Time**: Either Aug 27- Sep 13 or Dec 26-Jan 10-17, including travel days.
**Budget** Not a huge deal, but I'm not trying to break the bank. Willing to stay in cheap motels, couch surf, etc. Never stayed in a hostel but willing to give it a try.
**Climate** I'm a little worried how cold it will be if the trip is Dec-Jan. Any issues here? Is that sufficient reason to go Aug-Sept?
**Interests** - I have no idea, since I haven't traveled before. I'm open to other locations, but assuming the England/etc trip: Guinness Brewery would be cool, a soccer/football game, some history, although I'm not a huge museum fan. Military history and aviation is pretty cool. I do enjoy a relaxing breakfast with coffee if that helps. Oh, and water! I can do short trips without water, but I do enjoy being by it and boats and the like. Also open to suggestions here!
**Safety** I'm not worried about this with the baseline trip. But if you have other ideas, something friendly to a big white American guy would probably be good.
TL;DR: | is England/Ireland/Scotland reasonable for 2-3 weeks? Is it better in early Sept or early Jan? Any better destination ideas?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: First trip, probably solo, looking for input
POST: Copy and paste from the "excellent" post. I'm 24, live in Los Angeles, and looking to travel abroad for the first time. Will most likely be a solo trip. So far I'm looking at England/Ireland/Scotland, but open to other suggestions. If other, I'd prefer it to be a single country, not multiple. I've had Germany, Italy, and Sweden recommended for other locations.
My main goal is to understand the Aug-Sept vs. Dec-Jan decision. And, I'm also wondering if how much I can/should fit in, or if maybe Scotland would have to wait for another trip. And if there are any other location suggestions, I'm all ears.
**I have already traveled to:**- A few places in the US and a quick trip to Vancouver, Canada.
**Length and Time**: Either Aug 27- Sep 13 or Dec 26-Jan 10-17, including travel days.
**Budget** Not a huge deal, but I'm not trying to break the bank. Willing to stay in cheap motels, couch surf, etc. Never stayed in a hostel but willing to give it a try.
**Climate** I'm a little worried how cold it will be if the trip is Dec-Jan. Any issues here? Is that sufficient reason to go Aug-Sept?
**Interests** - I have no idea, since I haven't traveled before. I'm open to other locations, but assuming the England/etc trip: Guinness Brewery would be cool, a soccer/football game, some history, although I'm not a huge museum fan. Military history and aviation is pretty cool. I do enjoy a relaxing breakfast with coffee if that helps. Oh, and water! I can do short trips without water, but I do enjoy being by it and boats and the like. Also open to suggestions here!
**Safety** I'm not worried about this with the baseline trip. But if you have other ideas, something friendly to a big white American guy would probably be good.
TL;DR: is England/Ireland/Scotland reasonable for 2-3 weeks? Is it better in early Sept or early Jan? Any better destination ideas?<|endoftext|> | [
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t3_2ie9sn | relationships | Me [15 M] and [15 F] are best friends, but its a little complicated right now. | Both Sophomores in High School
We have been best friends since 7th grade
I really really like her, I think about her all the time, and I really want to be with her. Ive felt that way for about a year now.
I took her to homecoming last weekend, and we had an amazing time and I thought I was good to go.
I told her my feelings and she said "(my name) your my best friend of all time. If we break up over something stupid, well, I really dont want to hurt our friendship."
This broke my heart. According to her friend, she likes me but she doesnt want to date me because she cares to much about our friendship.
She acts like she likes me, as everytime I see her she comes and waves and we talk for a while. I catch her looking at me in class a lot.
Does she like me that way at all or is she covering herself up?
Im really heartbroken because I feel like im supposed to be with her. I have never felt this way about anyone else.
What do I do? I really dont want to give up. Everytime I see her I want to hug and kiss her. She is an amazing person. Im really stuck. | Fell in love with my best friend, she turned me down she because she doesnt want to ruin our friendship, I really want to date her and Im stuck. | [
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TITLE: Me [15 M] and [15 F] are best friends, but its a little complicated right now.
POST: Both Sophomores in High School
We have been best friends since 7th grade
I really really like her, I think about her all the time, and I really want to be with her. Ive felt that way for about a year now.
I took her to homecoming last weekend, and we had an amazing time and I thought I was good to go.
I told her my feelings and she said "(my name) your my best friend of all time. If we break up over something stupid, well, I really dont want to hurt our friendship."
This broke my heart. According to her friend, she likes me but she doesnt want to date me because she cares to much about our friendship.
She acts like she likes me, as everytime I see her she comes and waves and we talk for a while. I catch her looking at me in class a lot.
Does she like me that way at all or is she covering herself up?
Im really heartbroken because I feel like im supposed to be with her. I have never felt this way about anyone else.
What do I do? I really dont want to give up. Everytime I see her I want to hug and kiss her. She is an amazing person. Im really stuck.
TL;DR: | Fell in love with my best friend, she turned me down she because she doesnt want to ruin our friendship, I really want to date her and Im stuck. <|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: Me [15 M] and [15 F] are best friends, but its a little complicated right now.
POST: Both Sophomores in High School
We have been best friends since 7th grade
I really really like her, I think about her all the time, and I really want to be with her. Ive felt that way for about a year now.
I took her to homecoming last weekend, and we had an amazing time and I thought I was good to go.
I told her my feelings and she said "(my name) your my best friend of all time. If we break up over something stupid, well, I really dont want to hurt our friendship."
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Does she like me that way at all or is she covering herself up?
Im really heartbroken because I feel like im supposed to be with her. I have never felt this way about anyone else.
What do I do? I really dont want to give up. Everytime I see her I want to hug and kiss her. She is an amazing person. Im really stuck.
TL;DR: Fell in love with my best friend, she turned me down she because she doesnt want to ruin our friendship, I really want to date her and Im stuck. <|endoftext|> | [
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t3_2876nw | relationship_advice | I [28f] messed up and need advice with [24m] | im (28f) recently met a guy online (24m). we met randomly in a game we both play. hit it off with intensity. lots of chemistry and the sexual chemistry was off the charts. he, being younger then me, said a few times that i might need to teach him things about how to treat a girl because he'd never had a gf. (dont judge, he was actually not the stereotypical virgin).
fastforward a few weeks and things get weird cause we both start to have legit feelings but the age difference was a little off putting for me. he started saying things like we should just be friends because i dont wanna lose you as a friend and of course that made things really confusing for me. he started acting weird, talking shit about his girl bestie and i tried to tell him he cant do stuff like that. then we kinda just blew the fuck up.
he was pulling away, i was pushing. and we ended up fighting, i deleted him off my messenger list. then he deleted me off facebook. we messaged a few more times and he tried to get back in my good graces but stupid me kept picking fights. he eventually blocked me because he didnt wanna fight anymore. now i feel awful. i regret trying to micro manage him as a person. i regret not letting him back in.
is it too late for me? did i fuck it up completely? i really am not sure how to get in touch with him at this point. would it stupid for me to try? | met a guy younger, tried to teach him, ended up biting off my own foot and now i think i've lost him forever. can i somehow fix it? | [
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TITLE: I [28f] messed up and need advice with [24m]
POST: im (28f) recently met a guy online (24m). we met randomly in a game we both play. hit it off with intensity. lots of chemistry and the sexual chemistry was off the charts. he, being younger then me, said a few times that i might need to teach him things about how to treat a girl because he'd never had a gf. (dont judge, he was actually not the stereotypical virgin).
fastforward a few weeks and things get weird cause we both start to have legit feelings but the age difference was a little off putting for me. he started saying things like we should just be friends because i dont wanna lose you as a friend and of course that made things really confusing for me. he started acting weird, talking shit about his girl bestie and i tried to tell him he cant do stuff like that. then we kinda just blew the fuck up.
he was pulling away, i was pushing. and we ended up fighting, i deleted him off my messenger list. then he deleted me off facebook. we messaged a few more times and he tried to get back in my good graces but stupid me kept picking fights. he eventually blocked me because he didnt wanna fight anymore. now i feel awful. i regret trying to micro manage him as a person. i regret not letting him back in.
is it too late for me? did i fuck it up completely? i really am not sure how to get in touch with him at this point. would it stupid for me to try?
TL;DR: | met a guy younger, tried to teach him, ended up biting off my own foot and now i think i've lost him forever. can i somehow fix it?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: I [28f] messed up and need advice with [24m]
POST: im (28f) recently met a guy online (24m). we met randomly in a game we both play. hit it off with intensity. lots of chemistry and the sexual chemistry was off the charts. he, being younger then me, said a few times that i might need to teach him things about how to treat a girl because he'd never had a gf. (dont judge, he was actually not the stereotypical virgin).
fastforward a few weeks and things get weird cause we both start to have legit feelings but the age difference was a little off putting for me. he started saying things like we should just be friends because i dont wanna lose you as a friend and of course that made things really confusing for me. he started acting weird, talking shit about his girl bestie and i tried to tell him he cant do stuff like that. then we kinda just blew the fuck up.
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is it too late for me? did i fuck it up completely? i really am not sure how to get in touch with him at this point. would it stupid for me to try?
TL;DR: met a guy younger, tried to teach him, ended up biting off my own foot and now i think i've lost him forever. can i somehow fix it?<|endoftext|> | [
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t3_xswou | AskReddit | Do/Did you ever have a rather strange/irrational/pointless self-imposed goal? | A goal I've set myself on lately (and I'm having trouble with it) is not to look at cosplay any more. Just stop ogling girls in cosplay and looking for pictures online like some kind of pervert.
Allow me to explain myself: I'm a guy, and I enjoy the sight of pretty girls as much as any other guy. I'm a geek, so the newsites I frequent often had cosplay galleries of the latest con or whatever went down.
So I very soon started to look at these galleries just to see if there was any sexy-looking cosplay in it.
Then I started scouring the internet for sexy cosplays.
Then I started following cosplayers on Deviantart just because I thought they looked hot. Disregarding the actual quality and achievement of their work.
And then I thought that perhaps I was overdoing it a little. I don't mean to imply it's not natural to find some cosplayers sexy and therefore pleasant to look at, but I thought I was taking it way to far. I felt like I disrespecting the people who love cosplay, disrespecting the culture of cosplay itself. I will never blame any one for doing what I did, but I feel bad now, and it's not something I'm just telling myself; I genuinely feel ashamed for it, I felt like a dumb, delusioned, perverted youth. Mostly perhaps because I thought the action of cosplaying itself was hot, like bringing sexy fictional characters to life for me to eyeball, whereas that is (very very likely) not the point of it.
So then I suddenly thought: "If I can stop ogling cosplayers like this and get over myself, I'll have achieved something" (moral uptightness probably) | I used to enjoy ogling sexy cosplay like a perv. So now I imposed a wierd kind of abstinence on myself. | [
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TITLE: Do/Did you ever have a rather strange/irrational/pointless self-imposed goal?
POST: A goal I've set myself on lately (and I'm having trouble with it) is not to look at cosplay any more. Just stop ogling girls in cosplay and looking for pictures online like some kind of pervert.
Allow me to explain myself: I'm a guy, and I enjoy the sight of pretty girls as much as any other guy. I'm a geek, so the newsites I frequent often had cosplay galleries of the latest con or whatever went down.
So I very soon started to look at these galleries just to see if there was any sexy-looking cosplay in it.
Then I started scouring the internet for sexy cosplays.
Then I started following cosplayers on Deviantart just because I thought they looked hot. Disregarding the actual quality and achievement of their work.
And then I thought that perhaps I was overdoing it a little. I don't mean to imply it's not natural to find some cosplayers sexy and therefore pleasant to look at, but I thought I was taking it way to far. I felt like I disrespecting the people who love cosplay, disrespecting the culture of cosplay itself. I will never blame any one for doing what I did, but I feel bad now, and it's not something I'm just telling myself; I genuinely feel ashamed for it, I felt like a dumb, delusioned, perverted youth. Mostly perhaps because I thought the action of cosplaying itself was hot, like bringing sexy fictional characters to life for me to eyeball, whereas that is (very very likely) not the point of it.
So then I suddenly thought: "If I can stop ogling cosplayers like this and get over myself, I'll have achieved something" (moral uptightness probably)
TL;DR: | I used to enjoy ogling sexy cosplay like a perv. So now I imposed a wierd kind of abstinence on myself.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: Do/Did you ever have a rather strange/irrational/pointless self-imposed goal?
POST: A goal I've set myself on lately (and I'm having trouble with it) is not to look at cosplay any more. Just stop ogling girls in cosplay and looking for pictures online like some kind of pervert.
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So then I suddenly thought: "If I can stop ogling cosplayers like this and get over myself, I'll have achieved something" (moral uptightness probably)
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She broke up with me via text while i was on a 2 week vacation in america saying it's so we can work on our friendship more to fix things as a couple. She says she still loves me heaps and prays that this will work, we've been talking calmly with no arguments since this happened on wednesday.
I landed home from vacation today but before i left everything between us was fine, we just argued a lot while i was away. I'm seeing her tonight for the first time and have a list of questions to ask her, anything you guys think i should ask and what do you think she's trying to do/prove with this break?
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TITLE: My[19M] GF[18F] of 5 months wants to take a break to work on our 'friendship'
POST: basically my girlfriend feels i've been too controlling and we've had too many arguments about her spending last weekend in an apartment alone with her best friend(male, straight).
She broke up with me via text while i was on a 2 week vacation in america saying it's so we can work on our friendship more to fix things as a couple. She says she still loves me heaps and prays that this will work, we've been talking calmly with no arguments since this happened on wednesday.
I landed home from vacation today but before i left everything between us was fine, we just argued a lot while i was away. I'm seeing her tonight for the first time and have a list of questions to ask her, anything you guys think i should ask and what do you think she's trying to do/prove with this break?
i have a shitload of information i've left out so dont feel hesitant to ask any questions!
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TITLE: My[19M] GF[18F] of 5 months wants to take a break to work on our 'friendship'
POST: basically my girlfriend feels i've been too controlling and we've had too many arguments about her spending last weekend in an apartment alone with her best friend(male, straight).
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i have a shitload of information i've left out so dont feel hesitant to ask any questions!
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t3_21ktg3 | relationships | I [19F] slept with my friend/former friends with benefits' [21M] best friend and it's pretty tense | I don't know how explain this. I don't feel guilty because I didn't have an obligation towards this person but I also don't want their friendship to be ruined or strained because of what happened.
We've hooked up a few times and he caught feelings. I was honest and said I had them too but I wasn't interested in dating anyone and that we were friends first. And I thought he was okay with that. Whatever I felt fizzled out and I started flirting with his best friend. His friend asked him if it would be okay if we had sex and he told us to do what we want. I'm not interested in playing games or trying to analyze his response so I did what I wanted.
Now he's pretty upset and won't really talk to either of us. He's more upset with his friend. How should I go about diffusing this situation? If I thought he'd care this much I wouldn't have done it. But we're all young and should do what we want and I don't want their friendship ruined over something physical. I just don't know what to say to make him get over it. | Slept with my former FWBs best friend, he's upset even though he told us to go for it, their friendship is rocky now, what do | [
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TITLE: I [19F] slept with my friend/former friends with benefits' [21M] best friend and it's pretty tense
POST: I don't know how explain this. I don't feel guilty because I didn't have an obligation towards this person but I also don't want their friendship to be ruined or strained because of what happened.
We've hooked up a few times and he caught feelings. I was honest and said I had them too but I wasn't interested in dating anyone and that we were friends first. And I thought he was okay with that. Whatever I felt fizzled out and I started flirting with his best friend. His friend asked him if it would be okay if we had sex and he told us to do what we want. I'm not interested in playing games or trying to analyze his response so I did what I wanted.
Now he's pretty upset and won't really talk to either of us. He's more upset with his friend. How should I go about diffusing this situation? If I thought he'd care this much I wouldn't have done it. But we're all young and should do what we want and I don't want their friendship ruined over something physical. I just don't know what to say to make him get over it.
TL;DR: | Slept with my former FWBs best friend, he's upset even though he told us to go for it, their friendship is rocky now, what do<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: I [19F] slept with my friend/former friends with benefits' [21M] best friend and it's pretty tense
POST: I don't know how explain this. I don't feel guilty because I didn't have an obligation towards this person but I also don't want their friendship to be ruined or strained because of what happened.
We've hooked up a few times and he caught feelings. I was honest and said I had them too but I wasn't interested in dating anyone and that we were friends first. And I thought he was okay with that. Whatever I felt fizzled out and I started flirting with his best friend. His friend asked him if it would be okay if we had sex and he told us to do what we want. I'm not interested in playing games or trying to analyze his response so I did what I wanted.
Now he's pretty upset and won't really talk to either of us. He's more upset with his friend. How should I go about diffusing this situation? If I thought he'd care this much I wouldn't have done it. But we're all young and should do what we want and I don't want their friendship ruined over something physical. I just don't know what to say to make him get over it.
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t3_12m107 | relationships | I (17m) have an amazing girlfriend (17f) but I think I worry too much over little problems. | My girlfriend is really cool about anything, she has the same appeal to music as me. She goes to concerts as often as me and we have the same sense of humor. She's really attractive and a lot of other guys think so too. We text all the time and sometimes I text back too fast and she takes ten or so minutes to reply. Everything has been going great and we really like each other.
But there's some things that bother me. I'm Hispanic and she's Indian, my parents like her and think she's really nice but her parent's don't knew about because their religion doesn't allow dating. She also has an older sister with a meth addict boyfriend and her parents see boyfriends as bad guys.
Also, she's really attractive and the other day she posted on Facebook that a band member that's going to a show soon messaged her on twitter and gave her his phone number and asked to hangout with her. I know that nothing is going to happen with them but I still worry. With that being said, I'm a little clingy. I want to text her all the time and worry about her being alone with other guys. Even though I know she's loyal. | my girlfriend is cool but her parents don't allow her to date and we are doing it behind their back. I'm a little jealous and clingy to a certain degree. Any advice on how to deal with my weird emotions? | [
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TITLE: I (17m) have an amazing girlfriend (17f) but I think I worry too much over little problems.
POST: My girlfriend is really cool about anything, she has the same appeal to music as me. She goes to concerts as often as me and we have the same sense of humor. She's really attractive and a lot of other guys think so too. We text all the time and sometimes I text back too fast and she takes ten or so minutes to reply. Everything has been going great and we really like each other.
But there's some things that bother me. I'm Hispanic and she's Indian, my parents like her and think she's really nice but her parent's don't knew about because their religion doesn't allow dating. She also has an older sister with a meth addict boyfriend and her parents see boyfriends as bad guys.
Also, she's really attractive and the other day she posted on Facebook that a band member that's going to a show soon messaged her on twitter and gave her his phone number and asked to hangout with her. I know that nothing is going to happen with them but I still worry. With that being said, I'm a little clingy. I want to text her all the time and worry about her being alone with other guys. Even though I know she's loyal.
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So, I'm in the difficult years of middle school (I'm about 13), and at this age, I start getting attracted to the opposite sex because puberty. Naturally, I fell into this cycle.
Everything was good so far. I snapped out of my little depressive state that I'd had carried for a while, and started trying to become friends with the aforementioned girl just to be friends, not to be partners (first steps). That is, until I begin talking to this friend of mine (let's call him Noah). I don't know how, but he manages to filter out the entire list of girls in the school to pinpoint that "significant other" that I'd been searching for. Because I don't quite know how to lie in this situation, I told him that his guess was correct.
This is where things go awry. After finding out my crush, Noah tells me that he's going to go out the next day and basically say to her face that I have a crush on her, which is pretty easy for him, because his locker is literally RIGHT NEXT TO HERS. Why this is bad is because I wanted to get to know her better before I pop the "will you go out with me" question instead of just doing it at this very instant.
I'm kind of a nervous wreck right now. People are telling me not to worry, but I don't quite know what the hell is going to happen right after this entire thing happens. I get that I might be overreacting, but I really don't know what to do here. | A friend interrogates me about my crush, I give him the identity of my crush because I am an idiot, he decides to tell my crush directly that I like her tomorrow. I'm nervous as hell about the aftermath. | [
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TITLE: TIFU by trusting a friend with my crush.
POST: I had hoped that I would never have to post to this subreddit. I guess this is the first.
So, I'm in the difficult years of middle school (I'm about 13), and at this age, I start getting attracted to the opposite sex because puberty. Naturally, I fell into this cycle.
Everything was good so far. I snapped out of my little depressive state that I'd had carried for a while, and started trying to become friends with the aforementioned girl just to be friends, not to be partners (first steps). That is, until I begin talking to this friend of mine (let's call him Noah). I don't know how, but he manages to filter out the entire list of girls in the school to pinpoint that "significant other" that I'd been searching for. Because I don't quite know how to lie in this situation, I told him that his guess was correct.
This is where things go awry. After finding out my crush, Noah tells me that he's going to go out the next day and basically say to her face that I have a crush on her, which is pretty easy for him, because his locker is literally RIGHT NEXT TO HERS. Why this is bad is because I wanted to get to know her better before I pop the "will you go out with me" question instead of just doing it at this very instant.
I'm kind of a nervous wreck right now. People are telling me not to worry, but I don't quite know what the hell is going to happen right after this entire thing happens. I get that I might be overreacting, but I really don't know what to do here.
TL;DR: | A friend interrogates me about my crush, I give him the identity of my crush because I am an idiot, he decides to tell my crush directly that I like her tomorrow. I'm nervous as hell about the aftermath.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: TIFU by trusting a friend with my crush.
POST: I had hoped that I would never have to post to this subreddit. I guess this is the first.
So, I'm in the difficult years of middle school (I'm about 13), and at this age, I start getting attracted to the opposite sex because puberty. Naturally, I fell into this cycle.
Everything was good so far. I snapped out of my little depressive state that I'd had carried for a while, and started trying to become friends with the aforementioned girl just to be friends, not to be partners (first steps). That is, until I begin talking to this friend of mine (let's call him Noah). I don't know how, but he manages to filter out the entire list of girls in the school to pinpoint that "significant other" that I'd been searching for. Because I don't quite know how to lie in this situation, I told him that his guess was correct.
This is where things go awry. After finding out my crush, Noah tells me that he's going to go out the next day and basically say to her face that I have a crush on her, which is pretty easy for him, because his locker is literally RIGHT NEXT TO HERS. Why this is bad is because I wanted to get to know her better before I pop the "will you go out with me" question instead of just doing it at this very instant.
I'm kind of a nervous wreck right now. People are telling me not to worry, but I don't quite know what the hell is going to happen right after this entire thing happens. I get that I might be overreacting, but I really don't know what to do here.
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t3_17mspx | relationships | My [24F] SO [30M] is still hung up on his ex, who might be pregnant with his child. Should I stay or go? | After a couple years of bad relationships, Ive [24F] recently started dating a man [30M] about 2 months ago and I can't put into words how great he makes me feel. Even in the short amount of time we've been dating I have this gut feeling that this relationship could be something worth fighting for.
The only problem is his ex of 6 months[26F]. Even though he broke up with her over 3 months ago, he's still torn up about their relationship. She has contacted him 3 times since we've started dating and every time, he deliberately gets drunk and starts to grieve about how heartbroken he is over her. He tells me that he has no intentions of getting back with her and that he cares about me and isn't stringing me along. And in all honesty, I believe him. He hasn't given me any reason to doubt him. Besides, who hasn't been heartbroken before?
Just the other day he found out from his ex's friend that his ex might be pregnant with his baby. He called me late last night, upset and drunk, and told me how messed up he his and that he misses his ex. He said he wants me 'save him' but 'if you wanted to jump ship, I wouldn't blame you'.
I'm torn because even though I think that our relationship could be something great and wonderful, the ghost of his ex still affects him and could possibly hinder any actual potential our relationship could have.
So my question is if I should stick to my guns and stay with him, or leave and try to brave the dating world again? | A guy I've been dating for 2 months isn't really over his ex and she might be pregnant with his baby. Idk if I should stay with him or leave. | [
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TITLE: My [24F] SO [30M] is still hung up on his ex, who might be pregnant with his child. Should I stay or go?
POST: After a couple years of bad relationships, Ive [24F] recently started dating a man [30M] about 2 months ago and I can't put into words how great he makes me feel. Even in the short amount of time we've been dating I have this gut feeling that this relationship could be something worth fighting for.
The only problem is his ex of 6 months[26F]. Even though he broke up with her over 3 months ago, he's still torn up about their relationship. She has contacted him 3 times since we've started dating and every time, he deliberately gets drunk and starts to grieve about how heartbroken he is over her. He tells me that he has no intentions of getting back with her and that he cares about me and isn't stringing me along. And in all honesty, I believe him. He hasn't given me any reason to doubt him. Besides, who hasn't been heartbroken before?
Just the other day he found out from his ex's friend that his ex might be pregnant with his baby. He called me late last night, upset and drunk, and told me how messed up he his and that he misses his ex. He said he wants me'save him' but 'if you wanted to jump ship, I wouldn't blame you'.
I'm torn because even though I think that our relationship could be something great and wonderful, the ghost of his ex still affects him and could possibly hinder any actual potential our relationship could have.
So my question is if I should stick to my guns and stay with him, or leave and try to brave the dating world again?
TL;DR: | A guy I've been dating for 2 months isn't really over his ex and she might be pregnant with his baby. Idk if I should stay with him or leave.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: My [24F] SO [30M] is still hung up on his ex, who might be pregnant with his child. Should I stay or go?
POST: After a couple years of bad relationships, Ive [24F] recently started dating a man [30M] about 2 months ago and I can't put into words how great he makes me feel. Even in the short amount of time we've been dating I have this gut feeling that this relationship could be something worth fighting for.
The only problem is his ex of 6 months[26F]. Even though he broke up with her over 3 months ago, he's still torn up about their relationship. She has contacted him 3 times since we've started dating and every time, he deliberately gets drunk and starts to grieve about how heartbroken he is over her. He tells me that he has no intentions of getting back with her and that he cares about me and isn't stringing me along. And in all honesty, I believe him. He hasn't given me any reason to doubt him. Besides, who hasn't been heartbroken before?
Just the other day he found out from his ex's friend that his ex might be pregnant with his baby. He called me late last night, upset and drunk, and told me how messed up he his and that he misses his ex. He said he wants me'save him' but 'if you wanted to jump ship, I wouldn't blame you'.
I'm torn because even though I think that our relationship could be something great and wonderful, the ghost of his ex still affects him and could possibly hinder any actual potential our relationship could have.
So my question is if I should stick to my guns and stay with him, or leave and try to brave the dating world again?
TL;DR: A guy I've been dating for 2 months isn't really over his ex and she might be pregnant with his baby. Idk if I should stay with him or leave.<|endoftext|> | [
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t3_2oziu1 | relationship_advice | Dating multiple people at the same time. | I met a girl, lets call her Denise on Tinder about 2 weeks ago. We messaged back and forth for a week and went out last weekend. I wound up staying the night and we slept together. I really like her and spending time with her but can't see her being my girlfriend for whatever stupid George Costanza like reason that may be. We still text everyday and I saw her again last night.
Another girl messaged me last night from Tinder that I had interest in and we set up a date for this weekend.
Now, I am not a ladies man and just started to put effort into dating. I am not used to having one girl interested in me let alone two possibilities. I feel bad doing this to Denise because I am sure she would be upset if she knew. I have no intentions on telling her and I know technically I am not doing anything wrong but for whatever reason I still feel like I am. | Seeing a girl for a few weeks, and have slept together. I want to go on a date with a different girl but feel weird about it. | [
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TITLE: Dating multiple people at the same time.
POST: I met a girl, lets call her Denise on Tinder about 2 weeks ago. We messaged back and forth for a week and went out last weekend. I wound up staying the night and we slept together. I really like her and spending time with her but can't see her being my girlfriend for whatever stupid George Costanza like reason that may be. We still text everyday and I saw her again last night.
Another girl messaged me last night from Tinder that I had interest in and we set up a date for this weekend.
Now, I am not a ladies man and just started to put effort into dating. I am not used to having one girl interested in me let alone two possibilities. I feel bad doing this to Denise because I am sure she would be upset if she knew. I have no intentions on telling her and I know technically I am not doing anything wrong but for whatever reason I still feel like I am.
TL;DR: | Seeing a girl for a few weeks, and have slept together. I want to go on a date with a different girl but feel weird about it.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: Dating multiple people at the same time.
POST: I met a girl, lets call her Denise on Tinder about 2 weeks ago. We messaged back and forth for a week and went out last weekend. I wound up staying the night and we slept together. I really like her and spending time with her but can't see her being my girlfriend for whatever stupid George Costanza like reason that may be. We still text everyday and I saw her again last night.
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t3_1bwjg7 | GetMotivated | A Get Motivated story, and a gift to the community | A year ago, I was a miserable Finance major, and I hated what I was doing. I really dreaded getting a full time job in Finance, and didn't get along with other people in my major. I did around 25 interviews, and didn't get offered a second interview once. I had always liked computers, but never really considered it a career. But after reading about the job market and the type of work you can do in software development, I started learning programming on the side and considered switching majors.
The guys over at /r/learnprogramming were very helpful, and this subreddit was a good source of motivation. Now, I'm finally getting decent with Java and C, I've made a few simple websites, and I'm in the process of developing an app for Android. I changed my major officially to Computer Science BS last semester, and I have an internship this coming summer as a Software Engineer at a Fortune 500 company.
And finally, with the exception of class projects and small practice exercises I've done, I'm happy to say that I've shipped my first piece of software. It's a Chrome extension called Simple Blocker:
As the name suggests, it is a simple website blocker that lets you block any number of sites to help you concentrate. You can turn on "Enhanced Blocking" mode if you like, which will make the app harder to remove, and password protect it. It also has a sleep timer, so you can force yourself to study for an hour or so, then reward yourself with a break. And of course, it's free.
I thought that it would be well received in this subreddit, since a lot of people have academic or professional goals which require hours of work grinding away on a computer. Hopefully, this app can help some people concentrate and achieve their goals :) | Was a miserable Finance major a year ago, now I am doing what I love with computers, and have a great internship lined up this summer as a Software Dev. [I also made an app for you guys]( | [
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TITLE: A Get Motivated story, and a gift to the community
POST: A year ago, I was a miserable Finance major, and I hated what I was doing. I really dreaded getting a full time job in Finance, and didn't get along with other people in my major. I did around 25 interviews, and didn't get offered a second interview once. I had always liked computers, but never really considered it a career. But after reading about the job market and the type of work you can do in software development, I started learning programming on the side and considered switching majors.
The guys over at /r/learnprogramming were very helpful, and this subreddit was a good source of motivation. Now, I'm finally getting decent with Java and C, I've made a few simple websites, and I'm in the process of developing an app for Android. I changed my major officially to Computer Science BS last semester, and I have an internship this coming summer as a Software Engineer at a Fortune 500 company.
And finally, with the exception of class projects and small practice exercises I've done, I'm happy to say that I've shipped my first piece of software. It's a Chrome extension called Simple Blocker:
As the name suggests, it is a simple website blocker that lets you block any number of sites to help you concentrate. You can turn on "Enhanced Blocking" mode if you like, which will make the app harder to remove, and password protect it. It also has a sleep timer, so you can force yourself to study for an hour or so, then reward yourself with a break. And of course, it's free.
I thought that it would be well received in this subreddit, since a lot of people have academic or professional goals which require hours of work grinding away on a computer. Hopefully, this app can help some people concentrate and achieve their goals :)
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t3_1dh2hu | dating_advice | I [17 M] think I may be paranoid about my girlfriend [19 F] | Okay, so I've been dating a pretty swell girl since February. We've been friends almost a close year now, and I'm definitely her best guy friend. She friend-zoned me at first, but we worked through it and currently in a decent relationship...I think.
This is my first relationship, so I'm a bit paranoid I'm going to screw up. I'm not exactly the cool guy, more of awkward if anything, and slightly overweight (though, I lost almost 50 pounds in the time we were friends, and am still working out). So, I'm not perfect. Yet, she still says I'm good enough. What has me paranoid is a few other factors though.. I'm not her first boyfriend, and from what she tells me every other guy she has dated she's been head over heels for. She's mentioned it on plenty of occasions, but rarely tells me if I've made her felt that way. She's told me maybe on one or two occasions, but not often, and she's also stated that she likes dating me because she can be more open with me and not feel like she has to impress me.
She's also said she wants to take the relationship as slow as possible not to ruin it, and she's keeping it from her parents (because she still lives with them and they don't want her dating at the moment), not to mention she's in college and has a job, so I rarely get to see her, and when on the occasion I do it's pretty rad but I wish it would happen more often. She feels very closed off lately too, which she claims is from finales stress, but I sometimes feel like it's because she doesn't want to open up to me like that. I mean, I'm a helpless romantic and from what she's told me she is too, but she doesn't seem to want to go in that direction whenever I try.. And I've tried everything from making her art, singing to her, visiting her at work with flowers, and she'll get a little flustered and appreciate the gesture but..Sometimes I feel like I wish there was something more here..I dunno...maybe I'm just paranoid and want to hang out more... | I'm in my first relationship and paranoid about the way my girlfriend acts around me and I'm scared of screwing up. | [
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TITLE: I [17 M] think I may be paranoid about my girlfriend [19 F]
POST: Okay, so I've been dating a pretty swell girl since February. We've been friends almost a close year now, and I'm definitely her best guy friend. She friend-zoned me at first, but we worked through it and currently in a decent relationship...I think.
This is my first relationship, so I'm a bit paranoid I'm going to screw up. I'm not exactly the cool guy, more of awkward if anything, and slightly overweight (though, I lost almost 50 pounds in the time we were friends, and am still working out). So, I'm not perfect. Yet, she still says I'm good enough. What has me paranoid is a few other factors though.. I'm not her first boyfriend, and from what she tells me every other guy she has dated she's been head over heels for. She's mentioned it on plenty of occasions, but rarely tells me if I've made her felt that way. She's told me maybe on one or two occasions, but not often, and she's also stated that she likes dating me because she can be more open with me and not feel like she has to impress me.
She's also said she wants to take the relationship as slow as possible not to ruin it, and she's keeping it from her parents (because she still lives with them and they don't want her dating at the moment), not to mention she's in college and has a job, so I rarely get to see her, and when on the occasion I do it's pretty rad but I wish it would happen more often. She feels very closed off lately too, which she claims is from finales stress, but I sometimes feel like it's because she doesn't want to open up to me like that. I mean, I'm a helpless romantic and from what she's told me she is too, but she doesn't seem to want to go in that direction whenever I try.. And I've tried everything from making her art, singing to her, visiting her at work with flowers, and she'll get a little flustered and appreciate the gesture but..Sometimes I feel like I wish there was something more here..I dunno...maybe I'm just paranoid and want to hang out more...
TL;DR: | I'm in my first relationship and paranoid about the way my girlfriend acts around me and I'm scared of screwing up.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: I [17 M] think I may be paranoid about my girlfriend [19 F]
POST: Okay, so I've been dating a pretty swell girl since February. We've been friends almost a close year now, and I'm definitely her best guy friend. She friend-zoned me at first, but we worked through it and currently in a decent relationship...I think.
This is my first relationship, so I'm a bit paranoid I'm going to screw up. I'm not exactly the cool guy, more of awkward if anything, and slightly overweight (though, I lost almost 50 pounds in the time we were friends, and am still working out). So, I'm not perfect. Yet, she still says I'm good enough. What has me paranoid is a few other factors though.. I'm not her first boyfriend, and from what she tells me every other guy she has dated she's been head over heels for. She's mentioned it on plenty of occasions, but rarely tells me if I've made her felt that way. She's told me maybe on one or two occasions, but not often, and she's also stated that she likes dating me because she can be more open with me and not feel like she has to impress me.
She's also said she wants to take the relationship as slow as possible not to ruin it, and she's keeping it from her parents (because she still lives with them and they don't want her dating at the moment), not to mention she's in college and has a job, so I rarely get to see her, and when on the occasion I do it's pretty rad but I wish it would happen more often. She feels very closed off lately too, which she claims is from finales stress, but I sometimes feel like it's because she doesn't want to open up to me like that. I mean, I'm a helpless romantic and from what she's told me she is too, but she doesn't seem to want to go in that direction whenever I try.. And I've tried everything from making her art, singing to her, visiting her at work with flowers, and she'll get a little flustered and appreciate the gesture but..Sometimes I feel like I wish there was something more here..I dunno...maybe I'm just paranoid and want to hang out more...
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TITLE: Social workers of reddit, is there anything my family can do for a young boy who is suffering from abuse?
POST: Under several occasions my younger sister has come home crying due to a young boy(13M) she is friends with being 'homeless'. From what I have gathered, his mother lives in a trailer with her boyfriend, his father is legally blind and is in some type of care center, and both of his grandparent have taken him in at some point only to push him back out saying that it isn't their problem.
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TITLE: Social workers of reddit, is there anything my family can do for a young boy who is suffering from abuse?
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TITLE: [22/m]e my friend [22F] dont know what the next move is
POST: So this is my odd situation, for this to make sense to you all i have to start from 2years ago. I met this girl in Spanish class and we hit it off. she enjoyed my company and i enjoyed hers. BUT she had a boyfriend at the time. eventually class ended and we kinda stayed in touch (we texted here and there very rare but when we texed i always felt there was something there). now a year goes by and she texts me 1st saying she has bf problems.( i was happy about the bf problems)we spoke on the matter and i tried being helpful. now in the present i texted her about a week ago just to see how she was doing. long story short she called me cried saying that she was being used so on and so forth. for the past week we have been textin each other for the the length of the day, even had a few phone call sessions. (mind you i haven't herd her voice in 2years). now yesterday we went to the movies(i paid) it was great i wanted to make a move or a gesture too kinda show her i wanna be more then friends but i kinda pussed out becuse i wasnt sure if she is ready to jump back into another relationship. (quick side note she was in a 5yr relationship) is it too soon to make a move? i'm aware that i am a rebound but what is the down fall of beeing a rebound?
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TITLE: [22/m]e my friend [22F] dont know what the next move is
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We decided to end it because there were too many little things that I didn't say or didn't understand when she was telling me things and we never sat down and really talked about it. I ended up drifting away from her and she tried to fill the gap by being even closet to me, which I felt was suffocating. I ended up being awful to her (like asking her why she put on makeup when we went out on a date, I know, I'm making things up to her) and we decided we were drifting apart and that we shouldn't be together anymore. We're still friends, but if we had talked about things, we might have still been together.
Time to man up and bring out those painful stories Reddit! What about you? | My girlfriend and I didn't talk out our problems and just let them fester, driving us apart, and causing us to break up. | [
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Time to man up and bring out those painful stories Reddit! What about you?
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t3_3hzkjm | legaladvice | [TX] I have put money down on a brand new house ($1000 earnest + $4000 in upgrades) and have found Rasberry Crazy Ants taking over the new construction. The builder will not refund my money. | Background info: 3 years ago my fiancé and I moved into a rent house close to my job here on the gulf coast. We saw a few ants, but assumed they would go away with regular treatment and moved in. Long story short - we spent 2 1/2 years fighting a never ending infestation of these insects that are impossible to get rid of. We would spray and the dead ants would pile up so high over a couple of nights that we would have to vacuum them up because the live ants were crawling over them to get into the house avoiding the poison.
Fast forward to this past April: My wife and I put money down on new construction and signed a no refund contract. We checked the property and other older houses in the neighborhood and saw no sign of these ants. We visit our lot everyday because we are excited to buy our first house. In June we start seeing SOME ants when they bring in sand to level the foundation, but don't want to believe they are what we think they are. They start getting worse, we take a sample in to a local exterminator confirming they are [Rasberry Crazy Ants] and eventually let the builder know that we are backing out.
They are willing to give our earnest money back, but refuse to refund our upgrade deposit stating that it's a local problem and they have no control. We know that once they invade, they are impossible to get rid of, cost thousands in monthly treatments to try to control, and don't want to deal with this in a brand new house.
Do I have any options? | We put money down on a brand new house, we start noticing Rasberry Crazy Ants we believe were brought in with their sand to level the house, builder won't refund our whole deposit. | [
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TITLE: [TX] I have put money down on a brand new house ($1000 earnest + $4000 in upgrades) and have found Rasberry Crazy Ants taking over the new construction. The builder will not refund my money.
POST: Background info: 3 years ago my fiancé and I moved into a rent house close to my job here on the gulf coast. We saw a few ants, but assumed they would go away with regular treatment and moved in. Long story short - we spent 2 1/2 years fighting a never ending infestation of these insects that are impossible to get rid of. We would spray and the dead ants would pile up so high over a couple of nights that we would have to vacuum them up because the live ants were crawling over them to get into the house avoiding the poison.
Fast forward to this past April: My wife and I put money down on new construction and signed a no refund contract. We checked the property and other older houses in the neighborhood and saw no sign of these ants. We visit our lot everyday because we are excited to buy our first house. In June we start seeing SOME ants when they bring in sand to level the foundation, but don't want to believe they are what we think they are. They start getting worse, we take a sample in to a local exterminator confirming they are [Rasberry Crazy Ants] and eventually let the builder know that we are backing out.
They are willing to give our earnest money back, but refuse to refund our upgrade deposit stating that it's a local problem and they have no control. We know that once they invade, they are impossible to get rid of, cost thousands in monthly treatments to try to control, and don't want to deal with this in a brand new house.
Do I have any options?
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TITLE: [TX] I have put money down on a brand new house ($1000 earnest + $4000 in upgrades) and have found Rasberry Crazy Ants taking over the new construction. The builder will not refund my money.
POST: Background info: 3 years ago my fiancé and I moved into a rent house close to my job here on the gulf coast. We saw a few ants, but assumed they would go away with regular treatment and moved in. Long story short - we spent 2 1/2 years fighting a never ending infestation of these insects that are impossible to get rid of. We would spray and the dead ants would pile up so high over a couple of nights that we would have to vacuum them up because the live ants were crawling over them to get into the house avoiding the poison.
Fast forward to this past April: My wife and I put money down on new construction and signed a no refund contract. We checked the property and other older houses in the neighborhood and saw no sign of these ants. We visit our lot everyday because we are excited to buy our first house. In June we start seeing SOME ants when they bring in sand to level the foundation, but don't want to believe they are what we think they are. They start getting worse, we take a sample in to a local exterminator confirming they are [Rasberry Crazy Ants] and eventually let the builder know that we are backing out.
They are willing to give our earnest money back, but refuse to refund our upgrade deposit stating that it's a local problem and they have no control. We know that once they invade, they are impossible to get rid of, cost thousands in monthly treatments to try to control, and don't want to deal with this in a brand new house.
Do I have any options?
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t3_1qerj0 | relationships | I'm [23 F] looking for a way to encourage my SO [25 M] to show more affection. | My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. As time has passed he has become less and less active in showing his affection. We cuddle before bed but other than that I initiate any affectionate contac. If I don't initiate, we don't kiss or even really touch each other *at all* unless we're about to have sex, and he doesn't really say I love you unless I say it first. It was not like this for the first year or two, he was very warm and affectionate, initiating kisses, cuddles, hugs, compliments etc.
I would like a little more of that from his end these days, but when I bring it up he gest very defensive and says he feels like I'm giving him homework. He also says that I should know that he loves me without all of that because he spends time with me and enjoys my company.
In general he tends to bottle his emotions and doesn't like to discuss them but that's ok and we tend to communicate pretty effectively regardless of that. I understand that showing his affection might not come very naturally to him but I'd like him to initiate at least some of it because receiving that kind of attention is very important to me in a relationship.
Is there a way to approach the subject or have him show some more affection without him getting defensive or feeling like it's homework, or should I just accept that he's not a very affectionate guy? | I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years and the level of affection he initiates has plummeted. Is there a good way to gently encourage him to initiate more? | [
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TITLE: I'm [23 F] looking for a way to encourage my SO [25 M] to show more affection.
POST: My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. As time has passed he has become less and less active in showing his affection. We cuddle before bed but other than that I initiate any affectionate contac. If I don't initiate, we don't kiss or even really touch each other *at all* unless we're about to have sex, and he doesn't really say I love you unless I say it first. It was not like this for the first year or two, he was very warm and affectionate, initiating kisses, cuddles, hugs, compliments etc.
I would like a little more of that from his end these days, but when I bring it up he gest very defensive and says he feels like I'm giving him homework. He also says that I should know that he loves me without all of that because he spends time with me and enjoys my company.
In general he tends to bottle his emotions and doesn't like to discuss them but that's ok and we tend to communicate pretty effectively regardless of that. I understand that showing his affection might not come very naturally to him but I'd like him to initiate at least some of it because receiving that kind of attention is very important to me in a relationship.
Is there a way to approach the subject or have him show some more affection without him getting defensive or feeling like it's homework, or should I just accept that he's not a very affectionate guy?
TL;DR: | I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years and the level of affection he initiates has plummeted. Is there a good way to gently encourage him to initiate more?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: I'm [23 F] looking for a way to encourage my SO [25 M] to show more affection.
POST: My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years. As time has passed he has become less and less active in showing his affection. We cuddle before bed but other than that I initiate any affectionate contac. If I don't initiate, we don't kiss or even really touch each other *at all* unless we're about to have sex, and he doesn't really say I love you unless I say it first. It was not like this for the first year or two, he was very warm and affectionate, initiating kisses, cuddles, hugs, compliments etc.
I would like a little more of that from his end these days, but when I bring it up he gest very defensive and says he feels like I'm giving him homework. He also says that I should know that he loves me without all of that because he spends time with me and enjoys my company.
In general he tends to bottle his emotions and doesn't like to discuss them but that's ok and we tend to communicate pretty effectively regardless of that. I understand that showing his affection might not come very naturally to him but I'd like him to initiate at least some of it because receiving that kind of attention is very important to me in a relationship.
Is there a way to approach the subject or have him show some more affection without him getting defensive or feeling like it's homework, or should I just accept that he's not a very affectionate guy?
TL;DR: I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years and the level of affection he initiates has plummeted. Is there a good way to gently encourage him to initiate more?<|endoftext|> | [
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t3_4xbsem | relationships | [30M] in a happy relationship with [28F], but I have a crush on her [25F] sister | My girlfriend (Roxanne) and I have a happy, committed long-term relationship, going on over 4 years. I was a forever alone before meeting her and I never thought I'd find someone I connect with nearly as much as I do with her. We live together and we're practically married.
Before this relationship, I had no luck with women and getting crushes on any reasonably attractive woman who showed me attention was commonplace. I figured out that when I eventually realized the feelings weren't mutual, it was best to cut the crush out of my life completely, save myself the heartache and move on.
Back to Roxanne, we click on a physical and emotional level that I didn't think was possible. I want to spend the rest of my life with her and I don't have any doubts about that.
However, Roxanne has a sister named Marie. Now I'm very attracted to Roxanne, but I'm very very very physically attracted to Marie. Add to that Roxanne and Marie are very close and we live one block apart, so they're always at each other's houses. Which means Marie is always around at our house, at least a few times a week. Cutting her out of my life is pretty much impossible.
Now Marie and I get along well, but there's no chemistry at all. My crush is purely physical. Nothing has ever happened between Marie and I, no inappropriate flirting of any kind or any hint of it. Nor would I ever go ahead with anything with Marie. But lately, I've been having sex dreams about her. I can't help but be very excited when I find her in my house when I come home from work, chatting with Roxanne over dinner. It doesn't help when she complains about currently being in a bad relationship with no sex life to speak of and then praises me for being a great guy who treats her sister so well.
I can't stop my brain from all these intrusive thoughts about how attracted I am to Marie. Typically I'd just cut her out of my life, but that can't happen. What to do? | I'm very physically attracted to my future sister in law. I can't cut her out of my life because she's close to my girlfriend. How do I stop thinking about her? | [
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TITLE: [30M] in a happy relationship with [28F], but I have a crush on her [25F] sister
POST: My girlfriend (Roxanne) and I have a happy, committed long-term relationship, going on over 4 years. I was a forever alone before meeting her and I never thought I'd find someone I connect with nearly as much as I do with her. We live together and we're practically married.
Before this relationship, I had no luck with women and getting crushes on any reasonably attractive woman who showed me attention was commonplace. I figured out that when I eventually realized the feelings weren't mutual, it was best to cut the crush out of my life completely, save myself the heartache and move on.
Back to Roxanne, we click on a physical and emotional level that I didn't think was possible. I want to spend the rest of my life with her and I don't have any doubts about that.
However, Roxanne has a sister named Marie. Now I'm very attracted to Roxanne, but I'm very very very physically attracted to Marie. Add to that Roxanne and Marie are very close and we live one block apart, so they're always at each other's houses. Which means Marie is always around at our house, at least a few times a week. Cutting her out of my life is pretty much impossible.
Now Marie and I get along well, but there's no chemistry at all. My crush is purely physical. Nothing has ever happened between Marie and I, no inappropriate flirting of any kind or any hint of it. Nor would I ever go ahead with anything with Marie. But lately, I've been having sex dreams about her. I can't help but be very excited when I find her in my house when I come home from work, chatting with Roxanne over dinner. It doesn't help when she complains about currently being in a bad relationship with no sex life to speak of and then praises me for being a great guy who treats her sister so well.
I can't stop my brain from all these intrusive thoughts about how attracted I am to Marie. Typically I'd just cut her out of my life, but that can't happen. What to do?
TL;DR: | I'm very physically attracted to my future sister in law. I can't cut her out of my life because she's close to my girlfriend. How do I stop thinking about her?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: [30M] in a happy relationship with [28F], but I have a crush on her [25F] sister
POST: My girlfriend (Roxanne) and I have a happy, committed long-term relationship, going on over 4 years. I was a forever alone before meeting her and I never thought I'd find someone I connect with nearly as much as I do with her. We live together and we're practically married.
Before this relationship, I had no luck with women and getting crushes on any reasonably attractive woman who showed me attention was commonplace. I figured out that when I eventually realized the feelings weren't mutual, it was best to cut the crush out of my life completely, save myself the heartache and move on.
Back to Roxanne, we click on a physical and emotional level that I didn't think was possible. I want to spend the rest of my life with her and I don't have any doubts about that.
However, Roxanne has a sister named Marie. Now I'm very attracted to Roxanne, but I'm very very very physically attracted to Marie. Add to that Roxanne and Marie are very close and we live one block apart, so they're always at each other's houses. Which means Marie is always around at our house, at least a few times a week. Cutting her out of my life is pretty much impossible.
Now Marie and I get along well, but there's no chemistry at all. My crush is purely physical. Nothing has ever happened between Marie and I, no inappropriate flirting of any kind or any hint of it. Nor would I ever go ahead with anything with Marie. But lately, I've been having sex dreams about her. I can't help but be very excited when I find her in my house when I come home from work, chatting with Roxanne over dinner. It doesn't help when she complains about currently being in a bad relationship with no sex life to speak of and then praises me for being a great guy who treats her sister so well.
I can't stop my brain from all these intrusive thoughts about how attracted I am to Marie. Typically I'd just cut her out of my life, but that can't happen. What to do?
TL;DR: I'm very physically attracted to my future sister in law. I can't cut her out of my life because she's close to my girlfriend. How do I stop thinking about her?<|endoftext|> | [
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t3_20xk2h | relationships | I [21 M] need help telling an amazing girl[20 F] how I've felt about her for a long time, problem is... she is emotionally reserved. | I have been talking to this girl for a few months and I developed feelings for her, she seems interested in me (always replaying to my texts quickly and telling me she enjoyed our "hang outs") but sometimes she doesn't seem to respond to my subtle advances.
I picked up on a few things she has said and she does not strike me as the person who has been in a lot of relationships (or even one). So I'm having trouble talking to her the right way. We seemed to click the few times we went out, we joke around and have many laughs, but she avoids serious topics.
I consider myself a decent looking guy and I have some confidence, but she is the kind of girl that makes you freeze a little when you try (we all have experienced one).
So I need help from you guys. Some advice on how to talk to reserved women and get them to open up or come out of their shell would be extremely appreciated, Reddit could be the reason me and my future wife are together.
Thanks a lot for the help. | Been talking to this girl for a few months, want to tell her how I feel but she is emotionally reserved. How do I approach her and tell her to make sure she understands me and doesn't feel awkward or clamps up. | [
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TITLE: I [21 M] need help telling an amazing girl[20 F] how I've felt about her for a long time, problem is... she is emotionally reserved.
POST: I have been talking to this girl for a few months and I developed feelings for her, she seems interested in me (always replaying to my texts quickly and telling me she enjoyed our "hang outs") but sometimes she doesn't seem to respond to my subtle advances.
I picked up on a few things she has said and she does not strike me as the person who has been in a lot of relationships (or even one). So I'm having trouble talking to her the right way. We seemed to click the few times we went out, we joke around and have many laughs, but she avoids serious topics.
I consider myself a decent looking guy and I have some confidence, but she is the kind of girl that makes you freeze a little when you try (we all have experienced one).
So I need help from you guys. Some advice on how to talk to reserved women and get them to open up or come out of their shell would be extremely appreciated, Reddit could be the reason me and my future wife are together.
Thanks a lot for the help.
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TITLE: I [21 M] need help telling an amazing girl[20 F] how I've felt about her for a long time, problem is... she is emotionally reserved.
POST: I have been talking to this girl for a few months and I developed feelings for her, she seems interested in me (always replaying to my texts quickly and telling me she enjoyed our "hang outs") but sometimes she doesn't seem to respond to my subtle advances.
I picked up on a few things she has said and she does not strike me as the person who has been in a lot of relationships (or even one). So I'm having trouble talking to her the right way. We seemed to click the few times we went out, we joke around and have many laughs, but she avoids serious topics.
I consider myself a decent looking guy and I have some confidence, but she is the kind of girl that makes you freeze a little when you try (we all have experienced one).
So I need help from you guys. Some advice on how to talk to reserved women and get them to open up or come out of their shell would be extremely appreciated, Reddit could be the reason me and my future wife are together.
Thanks a lot for the help.
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t3_1b5k2u | relationships | Divorced Guy (40m) worries new girlfriend (38f) is cheating | My now ex-wife cheated on me after being married for 20 years. I think I've got over most issues related to that but I recently started seeing a girl (after a long period of not dating). I've been going out with her for about 3 months now and everything seems to be going great.
She swears she would never cheat on me (she knows what happened with my marriage) and I believed her near the beginning of our relationship but as we have grown closer, my insecurities stemming from my ex-wife's cheating are begininning to bubble up a bit. I suspect this is because I've grown to really like this girl and I worry about losing her.
Note, she has given me not indication of cheating. She doesn't drink nor does she go to bars or anything (I don't do this stuff either-not that there's anything wrong with that-it's just not for me.) She has a teenager whom she raises alone.
How can I force these stupid thoughts out of my mind? I just really like this girl and things are going great...maybe too great. I'm scared of losing her. | Recently divorced guy has a great thing going with new girlfriend but worries about her cheating due to ex-wife's cheating. | [
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TITLE: Divorced Guy (40m) worries new girlfriend (38f) is cheating
POST: My now ex-wife cheated on me after being married for 20 years. I think I've got over most issues related to that but I recently started seeing a girl (after a long period of not dating). I've been going out with her for about 3 months now and everything seems to be going great.
She swears she would never cheat on me (she knows what happened with my marriage) and I believed her near the beginning of our relationship but as we have grown closer, my insecurities stemming from my ex-wife's cheating are begininning to bubble up a bit. I suspect this is because I've grown to really like this girl and I worry about losing her.
Note, she has given me not indication of cheating. She doesn't drink nor does she go to bars or anything (I don't do this stuff either-not that there's anything wrong with that-it's just not for me.) She has a teenager whom she raises alone.
How can I force these stupid thoughts out of my mind? I just really like this girl and things are going great...maybe too great. I'm scared of losing her.
TL;DR: | Recently divorced guy has a great thing going with new girlfriend but worries about her cheating due to ex-wife's cheating.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: Divorced Guy (40m) worries new girlfriend (38f) is cheating
POST: My now ex-wife cheated on me after being married for 20 years. I think I've got over most issues related to that but I recently started seeing a girl (after a long period of not dating). I've been going out with her for about 3 months now and everything seems to be going great.
She swears she would never cheat on me (she knows what happened with my marriage) and I believed her near the beginning of our relationship but as we have grown closer, my insecurities stemming from my ex-wife's cheating are begininning to bubble up a bit. I suspect this is because I've grown to really like this girl and I worry about losing her.
Note, she has given me not indication of cheating. She doesn't drink nor does she go to bars or anything (I don't do this stuff either-not that there's anything wrong with that-it's just not for me.) She has a teenager whom she raises alone.
How can I force these stupid thoughts out of my mind? I just really like this girl and things are going great...maybe too great. I'm scared of losing her.
TL;DR: Recently divorced guy has a great thing going with new girlfriend but worries about her cheating due to ex-wife's cheating.<|endoftext|> | [
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First, I found out the software was just copies that he wanted to give me. Now, it's been two months since the purchase, he has been dodging my phone calls. He says his business is "remodeling" so he can't give me any lessons until it's over, even though before purchase he said I can learn in "2 hours".
I don't even care about the lessons anymore, but I've taken days off of work to meet him just to pick up the necessary materials such as inks and emulsions to get the process started myself, and he bailed on me without even a phone call.
He won't even tell me the name brands of what inks and chemicals to buy. I'm stuck looking like a liar in front of all of my friends, like I got scammed to my parents, and even more depressed myself.
I do not know what to do, Reddit. This is the one thing I was hoping to help me in times like this. I borrowed money from family to get it going and now it's worse than when I started. | Guy sold me screen printing machine and promised lessons, bailed on lessons, tried to give me pirated software, and won't even tell me what chemicals/inks to buy so I can attempt to do it myself. | [
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TITLE: I was told I would get lessons along with a screen printing setup I purchased on Craigslist, but the guy won't help me, what do I do?
POST: I purchased a 4 color 4 station screen printing press along with flash dryer and extra light from a man on Craigslist. He said he has had over 20 years experience, and even printed the In&Out t-shirts. In the ad he stated that he will also include new genuine software, and he "will train for life" (lessons given each saturday).
First, I found out the software was just copies that he wanted to give me. Now, it's been two months since the purchase, he has been dodging my phone calls. He says his business is "remodeling" so he can't give me any lessons until it's over, even though before purchase he said I can learn in "2 hours".
I don't even care about the lessons anymore, but I've taken days off of work to meet him just to pick up the necessary materials such as inks and emulsions to get the process started myself, and he bailed on me without even a phone call.
He won't even tell me the name brands of what inks and chemicals to buy. I'm stuck looking like a liar in front of all of my friends, like I got scammed to my parents, and even more depressed myself.
I do not know what to do, Reddit. This is the one thing I was hoping to help me in times like this. I borrowed money from family to get it going and now it's worse than when I started.
TL;DR: | Guy sold me screen printing machine and promised lessons, bailed on lessons, tried to give me pirated software, and won't even tell me what chemicals/inks to buy so I can attempt to do it myself.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: I was told I would get lessons along with a screen printing setup I purchased on Craigslist, but the guy won't help me, what do I do?
POST: I purchased a 4 color 4 station screen printing press along with flash dryer and extra light from a man on Craigslist. He said he has had over 20 years experience, and even printed the In&Out t-shirts. In the ad he stated that he will also include new genuine software, and he "will train for life" (lessons given each saturday).
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I do not know what to do, Reddit. This is the one thing I was hoping to help me in times like this. I borrowed money from family to get it going and now it's worse than when I started.
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Basically my question is should I just completely try to lose all feelings for her? I am not mad she wants to see other people because I do agree that if she wants to marry me she needs to be sure. But I feel like it isnt fair to me because basically she ended it with me instead of sticking it out and talking to me about everything. I guess I just need words of encouragement cause im not going to lie feeling like your heart is broken sucks. | girlfriend wants to see other people, stopped all contact, trying to figure out if I should rid her of my life forever. | [
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TITLE: I [24/m] got broken up with by my [19/f] gf after being together for two years and now I am lost
POST: So I was on here previously asking for help about my now ex girlfriend because she has had a dark past. Anyway she broke up with me about a week ago and literally it has been super hard to get past her. Ill leave you the short story but basically one month I was having a hard time with life and needed her. She said I got clingy, depressed, and just couldnt take being with him anymore to one of her friends. Truth is there were multiple months she has had these problems and I stuck it out for her but I had one month and she left. Anyway a week went by before I sent her a message saying im sorry for how I was I know it wasnt like me but I need to let you go. She replied finally after a week and we started talking about how she wants to date other people because one I am her first love and before we get married she wants to see what else is out there. She has said that maybe a few years down the road we can get together again but for now she needs to figure things out. The other reason is because she developed feelings for one of her friends. I told her when I am ready I will talk to her again.
Basically my question is should I just completely try to lose all feelings for her? I am not mad she wants to see other people because I do agree that if she wants to marry me she needs to be sure. But I feel like it isnt fair to me because basically she ended it with me instead of sticking it out and talking to me about everything. I guess I just need words of encouragement cause im not going to lie feeling like your heart is broken sucks.
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t3_4raty1 | relationships | My (19M) Girlfriend (19F) still checks up on ex-boyfriend (19M) who she had sexual relations with | Not sure how to feel about this. I don't know much about their relationship but my girlfriend of 4 months told me early in our relationship that she had hooked up with a guy she knew from school, before she met me, and they had sex once. This didn't bother me at first, until I found out that she was still talking to him while we had begun seeing eachother much more frequently.
We've talked about this and this isn't a problem anymore. She doesn't talk to him anymore, and we've had an amazing relationship for the past 4 months.
Today during a family party, we were messing around on our Instagram accounts and I happened to see her recent search history, which displays the most recent profiles she had searched up. This guy was one of them.
I immediately asked her what she was doing searching him up. She kept dodging the question and became progressively more aggresive, which made me think she is hiding something. After I pressed her more, she admitted that she searched him up because she "had sex with him" and wanted to "check up on him" and see "how he was doing." She had another ex boyfriend who she had sex with as well but she didn't keep tabs on him like this guy in particular. Which worries me.
Is this normal? Am I over-reacting? I have no one else to go to and I fear that she might be hiding something, which she has a history of doing. | Girlfriend hooked up with a guy before she met me and had sex with him once. Today I find out that she still checks up on him on social media. Her reason for doing so: "I had sex with him." | [
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TITLE: My (19M) Girlfriend (19F) still checks up on ex-boyfriend (19M) who she had sexual relations with
POST: Not sure how to feel about this. I don't know much about their relationship but my girlfriend of 4 months told me early in our relationship that she had hooked up with a guy she knew from school, before she met me, and they had sex once. This didn't bother me at first, until I found out that she was still talking to him while we had begun seeing eachother much more frequently.
We've talked about this and this isn't a problem anymore. She doesn't talk to him anymore, and we've had an amazing relationship for the past 4 months.
Today during a family party, we were messing around on our Instagram accounts and I happened to see her recent search history, which displays the most recent profiles she had searched up. This guy was one of them.
I immediately asked her what she was doing searching him up. She kept dodging the question and became progressively more aggresive, which made me think she is hiding something. After I pressed her more, she admitted that she searched him up because she "had sex with him" and wanted to "check up on him" and see "how he was doing." She had another ex boyfriend who she had sex with as well but she didn't keep tabs on him like this guy in particular. Which worries me.
Is this normal? Am I over-reacting? I have no one else to go to and I fear that she might be hiding something, which she has a history of doing.
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TITLE: My (19M) Girlfriend (19F) still checks up on ex-boyfriend (19M) who she had sexual relations with
POST: Not sure how to feel about this. I don't know much about their relationship but my girlfriend of 4 months told me early in our relationship that she had hooked up with a guy she knew from school, before she met me, and they had sex once. This didn't bother me at first, until I found out that she was still talking to him while we had begun seeing eachother much more frequently.
We've talked about this and this isn't a problem anymore. She doesn't talk to him anymore, and we've had an amazing relationship for the past 4 months.
Today during a family party, we were messing around on our Instagram accounts and I happened to see her recent search history, which displays the most recent profiles she had searched up. This guy was one of them.
I immediately asked her what she was doing searching him up. She kept dodging the question and became progressively more aggresive, which made me think she is hiding something. After I pressed her more, she admitted that she searched him up because she "had sex with him" and wanted to "check up on him" and see "how he was doing." She had another ex boyfriend who she had sex with as well but she didn't keep tabs on him like this guy in particular. Which worries me.
Is this normal? Am I over-reacting? I have no one else to go to and I fear that she might be hiding something, which she has a history of doing.
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What doesn't seem normal to me is, after these two years I'm still thinking about him from the second I wake up to the second I fall asleep. Everything I do benefits me, and him also. We have a lot of common ground so often the things we do together satisfies my needs that I would get from doing things independently. This isn't saying we spend all day and night together. We do go out and run our errands and visit certain friends and family solo every week. Everything sounds like it's a great normal relationship. But the strength of my feelings for him and the lack of his romance (very un-romantic fella, I've accepted and don't mind) makes me feel like I'm overboard. I try and tone it down every day. I have to hold myself back from smothering him. I have never had this in previous relationships.
I really don't want my relationship to go sour because I love him too much. My anxiety gets out of control when I have to resist the urges of loving him to death. I know I sound super nuts and clingy. Maybe I am, I just don't know how to handle these feelings and get him off my mind. He knows I feel this way, he has no suggestions either. He becomes very hesitant when I over do it. I do see this ruining everything in the years to come if I don't control it. He's a very logical and realistic person, and I'm a huge "dreamer" and was raised with parents who have been married for 40 years and have that Disney dream relationship. His parents divorced when he was young, and has told me the last thing he wants is a crazy woman in his life he has enough of those. Help me be sane!!! | I think about my boyfriend 24/7 and get extreme anxiety when I try and tone it down. We've talked about it, he's got 0 suggestions, and I can see him pulling away the more I indulge. | [
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TITLE: I (26F) feel like I'm overly obsessed with my bf (27M), I don't think this is normal..
POST: When we first met we were both hooked. We couldn't get enough of each other. Our feelings were equal. We have lived with each other the entire time we've been together (2 years). My feelings have not died down in the least bit. He however, like a normal human, got comfortable and still loves me. This I all understand.
What doesn't seem normal to me is, after these two years I'm still thinking about him from the second I wake up to the second I fall asleep. Everything I do benefits me, and him also. We have a lot of common ground so often the things we do together satisfies my needs that I would get from doing things independently. This isn't saying we spend all day and night together. We do go out and run our errands and visit certain friends and family solo every week. Everything sounds like it's a great normal relationship. But the strength of my feelings for him and the lack of his romance (very un-romantic fella, I've accepted and don't mind) makes me feel like I'm overboard. I try and tone it down every day. I have to hold myself back from smothering him. I have never had this in previous relationships.
I really don't want my relationship to go sour because I love him too much. My anxiety gets out of control when I have to resist the urges of loving him to death. I know I sound super nuts and clingy. Maybe I am, I just don't know how to handle these feelings and get him off my mind. He knows I feel this way, he has no suggestions either. He becomes very hesitant when I over do it. I do see this ruining everything in the years to come if I don't control it. He's a very logical and realistic person, and I'm a huge "dreamer" and was raised with parents who have been married for 40 years and have that Disney dream relationship. His parents divorced when he was young, and has told me the last thing he wants is a crazy woman in his life he has enough of those. Help me be sane!!!
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TITLE: I (26F) feel like I'm overly obsessed with my bf (27M), I don't think this is normal..
POST: When we first met we were both hooked. We couldn't get enough of each other. Our feelings were equal. We have lived with each other the entire time we've been together (2 years). My feelings have not died down in the least bit. He however, like a normal human, got comfortable and still loves me. This I all understand.
What doesn't seem normal to me is, after these two years I'm still thinking about him from the second I wake up to the second I fall asleep. Everything I do benefits me, and him also. We have a lot of common ground so often the things we do together satisfies my needs that I would get from doing things independently. This isn't saying we spend all day and night together. We do go out and run our errands and visit certain friends and family solo every week. Everything sounds like it's a great normal relationship. But the strength of my feelings for him and the lack of his romance (very un-romantic fella, I've accepted and don't mind) makes me feel like I'm overboard. I try and tone it down every day. I have to hold myself back from smothering him. I have never had this in previous relationships.
I really don't want my relationship to go sour because I love him too much. My anxiety gets out of control when I have to resist the urges of loving him to death. I know I sound super nuts and clingy. Maybe I am, I just don't know how to handle these feelings and get him off my mind. He knows I feel this way, he has no suggestions either. He becomes very hesitant when I over do it. I do see this ruining everything in the years to come if I don't control it. He's a very logical and realistic person, and I'm a huge "dreamer" and was raised with parents who have been married for 40 years and have that Disney dream relationship. His parents divorced when he was young, and has told me the last thing he wants is a crazy woman in his life he has enough of those. Help me be sane!!!
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TITLE: Best way to get back into running?
POST: I used to run regularly, 4-5 times a week, 2-3 miles each run. I did this pretty consecutively for almost 2 years, and I made so much progress over time. I increased my speed, my distance, and endurance and I would continue to try to improve my runs whenever I could. I stopped running about a year ago because my schedule got way too busy, and I didn't put in the effort to fit running into my routine anymore. I'm now REALLY wanting to start again, but the thought of losing all of the progress I made over time makes me hesitant in doing so. I also don't seem to have the motivation to just start running again even though I want to. I've honestly gotten lazy over time, and my eating habits have worsened as well. I want to change all of this and start running regularly again. Does anyone have personal experiences with a similar situation? How did you start running again? Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
TL;DR: | I stopped running about a year ago, and I would like to start again, but I'm not sure I have the motivation to.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: Best way to get back into running?
POST: I used to run regularly, 4-5 times a week, 2-3 miles each run. I did this pretty consecutively for almost 2 years, and I made so much progress over time. I increased my speed, my distance, and endurance and I would continue to try to improve my runs whenever I could. I stopped running about a year ago because my schedule got way too busy, and I didn't put in the effort to fit running into my routine anymore. I'm now REALLY wanting to start again, but the thought of losing all of the progress I made over time makes me hesitant in doing so. I also don't seem to have the motivation to just start running again even though I want to. I've honestly gotten lazy over time, and my eating habits have worsened as well. I want to change all of this and start running regularly again. Does anyone have personal experiences with a similar situation? How did you start running again? Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
TL;DR: I stopped running about a year ago, and I would like to start again, but I'm not sure I have the motivation to.<|endoftext|> | [
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t3_2v0v99 | relationships | I'm [17M]. How bad would asking a girl to prom via text be? | [I posted the context once before](
So basically today was a pep rally at my school and I pretty much never go. However, I figured there was about a 95% chance this girl would say I should go and then I could find a space to say it was fun/we should do prom.
So, today she tells me I should go and so I end up next to her and with some of her friends during it. It was fun and I somehow managed to leave the pep rally with just her. So were walking outside talking nearly completely alone and I pussied out and couldn't pop the topic. (And as I'm in school typing this she just walked past me and said hi and I just realized it wtf I'm stupid as hell).
Anyways, I feel like I've been dwelling on this too long and for all I know she already has plans. How bad would it be to just ask through text? | been dwelling on a girl. Managed to get her alone a few times. Can't get myself to ask her to prom. | [
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TITLE: I'm [17M]. How bad would asking a girl to prom via text be?
POST: [I posted the context once before](
So basically today was a pep rally at my school and I pretty much never go. However, I figured there was about a 95% chance this girl would say I should go and then I could find a space to say it was fun/we should do prom.
So, today she tells me I should go and so I end up next to her and with some of her friends during it. It was fun and I somehow managed to leave the pep rally with just her. So were walking outside talking nearly completely alone and I pussied out and couldn't pop the topic. (And as I'm in school typing this she just walked past me and said hi and I just realized it wtf I'm stupid as hell).
Anyways, I feel like I've been dwelling on this too long and for all I know she already has plans. How bad would it be to just ask through text?
TL;DR: | been dwelling on a girl. Managed to get her alone a few times. Can't get myself to ask her to prom.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: I'm [17M]. How bad would asking a girl to prom via text be?
POST: [I posted the context once before](
So basically today was a pep rally at my school and I pretty much never go. However, I figured there was about a 95% chance this girl would say I should go and then I could find a space to say it was fun/we should do prom.
So, today she tells me I should go and so I end up next to her and with some of her friends during it. It was fun and I somehow managed to leave the pep rally with just her. So were walking outside talking nearly completely alone and I pussied out and couldn't pop the topic. (And as I'm in school typing this she just walked past me and said hi and I just realized it wtf I'm stupid as hell).
Anyways, I feel like I've been dwelling on this too long and for all I know she already has plans. How bad would it be to just ask through text?
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t3_334ssh | relationships | Me [25 M] and my ex [25 F] broke up after being together 2.5 years, seeing her with a new guy has sent me back to square one | She dumped me out-of-the-blue last summer after we had been living together for more than two years basically being co-dependent. It hurt bad but I moved out, went cold turkey on contact, got myself into projects and working out again and seeing other women and after a good while I thought I had basically gotten over her. Would think about the relationship sadly sometimes when something reminded me, but it was fading further and further away in my mind. (For background I had had relationships before her, but this was the only woman I ever was really "in love" with or lived with)
But recently I had to see her for the first time since the breakup at a mutual friend's party and I was warned in advance she had started seeing someone new and would likely bring him. Honestly seeing them together (only for a moment) wasn't the hard part so much as being hit with that knowledge in the first place. Since we broke up I had dated many women casually but none to the point where we were in any kind of real relationship. I've had to own the fact that I didn't properly acknowledge how badly I was hurt the year before, and now I feel even worse than when we actually broke up despite all the time and events that have passed in between. I'm trying hard to stay positive, spend time with my friends and keep dating but the pain of my loss is like a nagging voice in the back of my head that stays with me every moment of the day, even when I'm 'having fun'. I feel like crying a lot which is especially jolting because I almost never cry and only did so before the night we broke up. Has anyone had a similar experience and could give me tips on getting back on track in my recovery? | Thought I was over ex until finding out she has a new man, now I feel worse emotionally than when we broke up, could anyone give me advice? | [
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TITLE: Me [25 M] and my ex [25 F] broke up after being together 2.5 years, seeing her with a new guy has sent me back to square one
POST: She dumped me out-of-the-blue last summer after we had been living together for more than two years basically being co-dependent. It hurt bad but I moved out, went cold turkey on contact, got myself into projects and working out again and seeing other women and after a good while I thought I had basically gotten over her. Would think about the relationship sadly sometimes when something reminded me, but it was fading further and further away in my mind. (For background I had had relationships before her, but this was the only woman I ever was really "in love" with or lived with)
But recently I had to see her for the first time since the breakup at a mutual friend's party and I was warned in advance she had started seeing someone new and would likely bring him. Honestly seeing them together (only for a moment) wasn't the hard part so much as being hit with that knowledge in the first place. Since we broke up I had dated many women casually but none to the point where we were in any kind of real relationship. I've had to own the fact that I didn't properly acknowledge how badly I was hurt the year before, and now I feel even worse than when we actually broke up despite all the time and events that have passed in between. I'm trying hard to stay positive, spend time with my friends and keep dating but the pain of my loss is like a nagging voice in the back of my head that stays with me every moment of the day, even when I'm 'having fun'. I feel like crying a lot which is especially jolting because I almost never cry and only did so before the night we broke up. Has anyone had a similar experience and could give me tips on getting back on track in my recovery?
TL;DR: | Thought I was over ex until finding out she has a new man, now I feel worse emotionally than when we broke up, could anyone give me advice?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: Me [25 M] and my ex [25 F] broke up after being together 2.5 years, seeing her with a new guy has sent me back to square one
POST: She dumped me out-of-the-blue last summer after we had been living together for more than two years basically being co-dependent. It hurt bad but I moved out, went cold turkey on contact, got myself into projects and working out again and seeing other women and after a good while I thought I had basically gotten over her. Would think about the relationship sadly sometimes when something reminded me, but it was fading further and further away in my mind. (For background I had had relationships before her, but this was the only woman I ever was really "in love" with or lived with)
But recently I had to see her for the first time since the breakup at a mutual friend's party and I was warned in advance she had started seeing someone new and would likely bring him. Honestly seeing them together (only for a moment) wasn't the hard part so much as being hit with that knowledge in the first place. Since we broke up I had dated many women casually but none to the point where we were in any kind of real relationship. I've had to own the fact that I didn't properly acknowledge how badly I was hurt the year before, and now I feel even worse than when we actually broke up despite all the time and events that have passed in between. I'm trying hard to stay positive, spend time with my friends and keep dating but the pain of my loss is like a nagging voice in the back of my head that stays with me every moment of the day, even when I'm 'having fun'. I feel like crying a lot which is especially jolting because I almost never cry and only did so before the night we broke up. Has anyone had a similar experience and could give me tips on getting back on track in my recovery?
TL;DR: Thought I was over ex until finding out she has a new man, now I feel worse emotionally than when we broke up, could anyone give me advice?<|endoftext|> | [
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t3_pkksq | AskReddit | Dear Reddit: What Do I Do? | So, me and my friends had been hanging out with this crowd of girls from a neighboring town, but we had stopped hanging out, due to them being complete mooches (drink our liquor, etc.., never contributing in anyway). My best friend, let's call him.. "Larry". "Larry" kept talking to these girls, on a platonic level, even though we'd all told him not to. Well, let's say another one of my friends, "Chuck". "Chuck" is well known for his parties, and these girls have gone to all of them, even after we stopped hanging out with them (to which they were allowed to chill, drink, party; no negative feelings). Well, two of the girls get boyfriends, who they met via us at one of "Chuck"'s parties. They threw a party last week, inviting everyone but "Chuck". He showed up anyways, how they would when we told them not to come, and their boyfriends explained it was no negative feelings, but they had to listen to their girlfriends (which I could respect). Chuck leaves, no hard feelings, and goes on his way. Well, one of of the girls was having her birthday party in the same place, last night. They said Chuck could go, until the absolute last minute, where they said he wasn't welcome. He goes home, wishing to steer from problems of any kind. Well, shit got real:
Our friends were slapped, one was almost jumped but fought one of the guys, and "Larry" locked himself in a room. Someone shot through the door, and Larry goes out to confront him, as there were several girls in the room. Larry is slapped, and my brother picks him up (I refused to go to this party, good choice) and drops him off at home, making sure he's safe.
Now, here comes the hard part. I have a promising music career, and I'm shooting 4 music videos next week. I'm a college student, and normally acts calmly and rationally, but this is a drastic situation. Do I defend my friends, and best friend, or do nothing? I really need some advice. | Friends were hit and shot at while attending a party hosted by dumb girls who started a feud between their bf's and my friends for no reason. What do I do? | [
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TITLE: Dear Reddit: What Do I Do?
POST: So, me and my friends had been hanging out with this crowd of girls from a neighboring town, but we had stopped hanging out, due to them being complete mooches (drink our liquor, etc.., never contributing in anyway). My best friend, let's call him.. "Larry". "Larry" kept talking to these girls, on a platonic level, even though we'd all told him not to. Well, let's say another one of my friends, "Chuck". "Chuck" is well known for his parties, and these girls have gone to all of them, even after we stopped hanging out with them (to which they were allowed to chill, drink, party; no negative feelings). Well, two of the girls get boyfriends, who they met via us at one of "Chuck"'s parties. They threw a party last week, inviting everyone but "Chuck". He showed up anyways, how they would when we told them not to come, and their boyfriends explained it was no negative feelings, but they had to listen to their girlfriends (which I could respect). Chuck leaves, no hard feelings, and goes on his way. Well, one of of the girls was having her birthday party in the same place, last night. They said Chuck could go, until the absolute last minute, where they said he wasn't welcome. He goes home, wishing to steer from problems of any kind. Well, shit got real:
Our friends were slapped, one was almost jumped but fought one of the guys, and "Larry" locked himself in a room. Someone shot through the door, and Larry goes out to confront him, as there were several girls in the room. Larry is slapped, and my brother picks him up (I refused to go to this party, good choice) and drops him off at home, making sure he's safe.
Now, here comes the hard part. I have a promising music career, and I'm shooting 4 music videos next week. I'm a college student, and normally acts calmly and rationally, but this is a drastic situation. Do I defend my friends, and best friend, or do nothing? I really need some advice.
TL;DR: | Friends were hit and shot at while attending a party hosted by dumb girls who started a feud between their bf's and my friends for no reason. What do I do?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: Dear Reddit: What Do I Do?
POST: So, me and my friends had been hanging out with this crowd of girls from a neighboring town, but we had stopped hanging out, due to them being complete mooches (drink our liquor, etc.., never contributing in anyway). My best friend, let's call him.. "Larry". "Larry" kept talking to these girls, on a platonic level, even though we'd all told him not to. Well, let's say another one of my friends, "Chuck". "Chuck" is well known for his parties, and these girls have gone to all of them, even after we stopped hanging out with them (to which they were allowed to chill, drink, party; no negative feelings). Well, two of the girls get boyfriends, who they met via us at one of "Chuck"'s parties. They threw a party last week, inviting everyone but "Chuck". He showed up anyways, how they would when we told them not to come, and their boyfriends explained it was no negative feelings, but they had to listen to their girlfriends (which I could respect). Chuck leaves, no hard feelings, and goes on his way. Well, one of of the girls was having her birthday party in the same place, last night. They said Chuck could go, until the absolute last minute, where they said he wasn't welcome. He goes home, wishing to steer from problems of any kind. Well, shit got real:
Our friends were slapped, one was almost jumped but fought one of the guys, and "Larry" locked himself in a room. Someone shot through the door, and Larry goes out to confront him, as there were several girls in the room. Larry is slapped, and my brother picks him up (I refused to go to this party, good choice) and drops him off at home, making sure he's safe.
Now, here comes the hard part. I have a promising music career, and I'm shooting 4 music videos next week. I'm a college student, and normally acts calmly and rationally, but this is a drastic situation. Do I defend my friends, and best friend, or do nothing? I really need some advice.
TL;DR: Friends were hit and shot at while attending a party hosted by dumb girls who started a feud between their bf's and my friends for no reason. What do I do?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: My [22m] girlfriend [22F] and I live together but never hang out during the week. Is this normal?
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t3_1n9zb5 | relationship_advice | I'm 22/f living with a 22/m and our friends. The relationship is on the rocks, so should I move out and move on, or try to make it work? | I've been dating my bf since college. We moved out to a big city together with a group of friends because it was cheap to live together, but we weren't really relationship ready to live together.
He's nice, easy-going, and my parent's love him. Statistically, it's a great relationship. But for the past year since moving in together, we've fought non-stop.
When I'm with him, I love him, but when I'm away from him, I couldn't care less about him. (I know that sounds harsh, and I'm not the harsh type, I've just gotten to that point). I know this isn't healthy, but if we broke up, I would feel like a failure. That I couldn't make a seemingly perfect relationship last. I'm trying not to be a typical 22 year old searching for my perfect knight in shining armor, and that my 40 year old self would tell me to appreciate the guy who wants to talk things out, is honest, and nice. However, I don't feel the "spark" anymore. Does that really exist?
And, there's the problem that we live together. He's a great roommate, so I want to live with him and our friends. But that apparently isn't an option. (I haven't seen the movie The Breakup, so I wouldn't really know if the ductape across the bed really works).
What would you do reddit? Keep trying to make a relationship work because he's logically a great match? Or move on bc the 'spark' is gone? | live with my bf of three years, and it's looking grim on the homefront, should I move out and move on? | [
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TITLE: I'm 22/f living with a 22/m and our friends. The relationship is on the rocks, so should I move out and move on, or try to make it work?
POST: I've been dating my bf since college. We moved out to a big city together with a group of friends because it was cheap to live together, but we weren't really relationship ready to live together.
He's nice, easy-going, and my parent's love him. Statistically, it's a great relationship. But for the past year since moving in together, we've fought non-stop.
When I'm with him, I love him, but when I'm away from him, I couldn't care less about him. (I know that sounds harsh, and I'm not the harsh type, I've just gotten to that point). I know this isn't healthy, but if we broke up, I would feel like a failure. That I couldn't make a seemingly perfect relationship last. I'm trying not to be a typical 22 year old searching for my perfect knight in shining armor, and that my 40 year old self would tell me to appreciate the guy who wants to talk things out, is honest, and nice. However, I don't feel the "spark" anymore. Does that really exist?
And, there's the problem that we live together. He's a great roommate, so I want to live with him and our friends. But that apparently isn't an option. (I haven't seen the movie The Breakup, so I wouldn't really know if the ductape across the bed really works).
What would you do reddit? Keep trying to make a relationship work because he's logically a great match? Or move on bc the'spark' is gone?
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TITLE: I'm 22/f living with a 22/m and our friends. The relationship is on the rocks, so should I move out and move on, or try to make it work?
POST: I've been dating my bf since college. We moved out to a big city together with a group of friends because it was cheap to live together, but we weren't really relationship ready to live together.
He's nice, easy-going, and my parent's love him. Statistically, it's a great relationship. But for the past year since moving in together, we've fought non-stop.
When I'm with him, I love him, but when I'm away from him, I couldn't care less about him. (I know that sounds harsh, and I'm not the harsh type, I've just gotten to that point). I know this isn't healthy, but if we broke up, I would feel like a failure. That I couldn't make a seemingly perfect relationship last. I'm trying not to be a typical 22 year old searching for my perfect knight in shining armor, and that my 40 year old self would tell me to appreciate the guy who wants to talk things out, is honest, and nice. However, I don't feel the "spark" anymore. Does that really exist?
And, there's the problem that we live together. He's a great roommate, so I want to live with him and our friends. But that apparently isn't an option. (I haven't seen the movie The Breakup, so I wouldn't really know if the ductape across the bed really works).
What would you do reddit? Keep trying to make a relationship work because he's logically a great match? Or move on bc the'spark' is gone?
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I go to grad school on weekdays and work on weekends (8-hour day or night shifts at a hospital). However, he has a weekday 9-5 job that is 100 miles away.
In all the previous times that we have met (we meet every other weekend), we always meet near where I live. This is partly because I live in his hometown, so he has more reasons to drive 2 hours on most weekends since he can see me, his friends, and his family.
I do want to see him more often, and I am willing to drive that 4-hour round trip to see him. Unfortunately, I can realistically see myself do that only once a month or every other month because I need to balance work and school too. I really like him and I do want to start a relationship with him, but schedule and distance are our our concerns.
I need your help. Will a relationship like this be feasible? He has to make the 2-hour drive to his hometown more often to see me. The fact that I live in his hometown makes me feel better since he can use the time to see his family and friends during my weekend work hours, and I can see him before or after work. We don't get to see each other as often as we would like to, and I am just scared that our feelings will fade if seeing each other is too much of a hassle.
I just feel really bad that he has to make more sacrifices to see me because I am really limited on time. I just don't know how to juggle between school, work, and him (and of course my family and friends too). I have to put school and work as my priority because that is what my future career depends on. Then once I have free time, I will schedule something with him. Is this bad? :( | I am seeing a guy with opposite work schedule and long distance (but I live in his hometown), will this work out? | [
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TITLE: 25f with busy schedule, how can I make long distance relationship work with 25m?
POST: I have been seeing this guy for 2 months and we both like each other and would like to continue seeing each other.
I go to grad school on weekdays and work on weekends (8-hour day or night shifts at a hospital). However, he has a weekday 9-5 job that is 100 miles away.
In all the previous times that we have met (we meet every other weekend), we always meet near where I live. This is partly because I live in his hometown, so he has more reasons to drive 2 hours on most weekends since he can see me, his friends, and his family.
I do want to see him more often, and I am willing to drive that 4-hour round trip to see him. Unfortunately, I can realistically see myself do that only once a month or every other month because I need to balance work and school too. I really like him and I do want to start a relationship with him, but schedule and distance are our our concerns.
I need your help. Will a relationship like this be feasible? He has to make the 2-hour drive to his hometown more often to see me. The fact that I live in his hometown makes me feel better since he can use the time to see his family and friends during my weekend work hours, and I can see him before or after work. We don't get to see each other as often as we would like to, and I am just scared that our feelings will fade if seeing each other is too much of a hassle.
I just feel really bad that he has to make more sacrifices to see me because I am really limited on time. I just don't know how to juggle between school, work, and him (and of course my family and friends too). I have to put school and work as my priority because that is what my future career depends on. Then once I have free time, I will schedule something with him. Is this bad? :(
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TITLE: 25f with busy schedule, how can I make long distance relationship work with 25m?
POST: I have been seeing this guy for 2 months and we both like each other and would like to continue seeing each other.
I go to grad school on weekdays and work on weekends (8-hour day or night shifts at a hospital). However, he has a weekday 9-5 job that is 100 miles away.
In all the previous times that we have met (we meet every other weekend), we always meet near where I live. This is partly because I live in his hometown, so he has more reasons to drive 2 hours on most weekends since he can see me, his friends, and his family.
I do want to see him more often, and I am willing to drive that 4-hour round trip to see him. Unfortunately, I can realistically see myself do that only once a month or every other month because I need to balance work and school too. I really like him and I do want to start a relationship with him, but schedule and distance are our our concerns.
I need your help. Will a relationship like this be feasible? He has to make the 2-hour drive to his hometown more often to see me. The fact that I live in his hometown makes me feel better since he can use the time to see his family and friends during my weekend work hours, and I can see him before or after work. We don't get to see each other as often as we would like to, and I am just scared that our feelings will fade if seeing each other is too much of a hassle.
I just feel really bad that he has to make more sacrifices to see me because I am really limited on time. I just don't know how to juggle between school, work, and him (and of course my family and friends too). I have to put school and work as my priority because that is what my future career depends on. Then once I have free time, I will schedule something with him. Is this bad? :(
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t3_297z9u | relationship_advice | I (27f) want to know if his (25m) late night "business meeting" is normal | My husband left almost seven hours ago to go to a business meting with his female boss. It's now after 2:00am and he still isn't home. I am 99% certain he is having an affair with her, but he has a way of making me feel like I'm overreacting or reading too far into things, or not appreciative enough of his work ethic (I'm a stay at home mom and I know he works really hard to support our family).
I've always felt that their relationship has been inappropriate, and a few months ago I found some very flirtatious back and forth texts between them on his phone. Basically, I'm not typically a snooper, but I was reading something, my phone died, I asked to borrow his and he kind of panicked. It set alarm bells off and my curiosity got the best of me. He was right next to me, so I didn't get too far into the conversation, but here are a few examples of what I saw. Him telling a joke and her saying, "his name, I think I love you!" Her saying she doesn't have a runners body and him responding, "I don't know, you were running pretty fast in that dress. Had to keep up."
I came clean on the snooping and talked to him about these texts He was very adamant that I was taking them out of context, that there is absolutely nothing to worry about, that is was very unfair for me to read his conversation, and while he did not agree they were flirtatious in nature, he'd change the way they communicated with each other.
So, after that brief history there have been some other issues, but to keep this from getting too long I just want to hear from people who have a stable career and work hard at their jobs. | is there any legitimate reason that someone would be meeting on actual business matters, for almost seven hours, after midnight, with their opposite sex boss, in the bar of the hotel the boss is staying at? | [
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TITLE: I (27f) want to know if his (25m) late night "business meeting" is normal
POST: My husband left almost seven hours ago to go to a business meting with his female boss. It's now after 2:00am and he still isn't home. I am 99% certain he is having an affair with her, but he has a way of making me feel like I'm overreacting or reading too far into things, or not appreciative enough of his work ethic (I'm a stay at home mom and I know he works really hard to support our family).
I've always felt that their relationship has been inappropriate, and a few months ago I found some very flirtatious back and forth texts between them on his phone. Basically, I'm not typically a snooper, but I was reading something, my phone died, I asked to borrow his and he kind of panicked. It set alarm bells off and my curiosity got the best of me. He was right next to me, so I didn't get too far into the conversation, but here are a few examples of what I saw. Him telling a joke and her saying, "his name, I think I love you!" Her saying she doesn't have a runners body and him responding, "I don't know, you were running pretty fast in that dress. Had to keep up."
I came clean on the snooping and talked to him about these texts He was very adamant that I was taking them out of context, that there is absolutely nothing to worry about, that is was very unfair for me to read his conversation, and while he did not agree they were flirtatious in nature, he'd change the way they communicated with each other.
So, after that brief history there have been some other issues, but to keep this from getting too long I just want to hear from people who have a stable career and work hard at their jobs.
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TITLE: I (27f) want to know if his (25m) late night "business meeting" is normal
POST: My husband left almost seven hours ago to go to a business meting with his female boss. It's now after 2:00am and he still isn't home. I am 99% certain he is having an affair with her, but he has a way of making me feel like I'm overreacting or reading too far into things, or not appreciative enough of his work ethic (I'm a stay at home mom and I know he works really hard to support our family).
I've always felt that their relationship has been inappropriate, and a few months ago I found some very flirtatious back and forth texts between them on his phone. Basically, I'm not typically a snooper, but I was reading something, my phone died, I asked to borrow his and he kind of panicked. It set alarm bells off and my curiosity got the best of me. He was right next to me, so I didn't get too far into the conversation, but here are a few examples of what I saw. Him telling a joke and her saying, "his name, I think I love you!" Her saying she doesn't have a runners body and him responding, "I don't know, you were running pretty fast in that dress. Had to keep up."
I came clean on the snooping and talked to him about these texts He was very adamant that I was taking them out of context, that there is absolutely nothing to worry about, that is was very unfair for me to read his conversation, and while he did not agree they were flirtatious in nature, he'd change the way they communicated with each other.
So, after that brief history there have been some other issues, but to keep this from getting too long I just want to hear from people who have a stable career and work hard at their jobs.
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However, fast forward 3 years and we hang out for the first time after a long time. We hit it off really good making and feeling eachother but I held off because I wanted to take things slow and she was a lil disappointed I did't take things further. Now she doesn't want anything to do to me probably because I wasted her time. In the long run we don't make a good couple, but we are only good for each other when it comes to messing around. Now that I missed out the chance to have sex with her twice, it has hit me hard! I can't stop fantasizing about having sex with her and its very unhealthy, im starting to get anxious and cant sleep well, and its interfereing with my life greatly.
How can I get over this feeling!? I hate it. This is the only girl thats on my mind and not in a good way! Help | Missed out on having sex with ex girlfriend a couple times, regret itx and now its haunting me. I want it to stop and go on with my life | [
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TITLE: Me [20M] with my _ex girlfriend__ [19F] I can't stop thinking about having sex with her, its unhealthy and getting in way of my life, to the point that im obsessing.
POST: So I started dating my ex girlfriend a couple years ago during high school, back then she told me that she would eventually have sex with me as the relationship progressed, and things didn't work out in the end so we fell apart. I missed out on the oppurtunity of having sex with her, but I didn't really care back then. We were really intimate with eachother but I never penetrated.
However, fast forward 3 years and we hang out for the first time after a long time. We hit it off really good making and feeling eachother but I held off because I wanted to take things slow and she was a lil disappointed I did't take things further. Now she doesn't want anything to do to me probably because I wasted her time. In the long run we don't make a good couple, but we are only good for each other when it comes to messing around. Now that I missed out the chance to have sex with her twice, it has hit me hard! I can't stop fantasizing about having sex with her and its very unhealthy, im starting to get anxious and cant sleep well, and its interfereing with my life greatly.
How can I get over this feeling!? I hate it. This is the only girl thats on my mind and not in a good way! Help
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TITLE: Me [20M] with my _ex girlfriend__ [19F] I can't stop thinking about having sex with her, its unhealthy and getting in way of my life, to the point that im obsessing.
POST: So I started dating my ex girlfriend a couple years ago during high school, back then she told me that she would eventually have sex with me as the relationship progressed, and things didn't work out in the end so we fell apart. I missed out on the oppurtunity of having sex with her, but I didn't really care back then. We were really intimate with eachother but I never penetrated.
However, fast forward 3 years and we hang out for the first time after a long time. We hit it off really good making and feeling eachother but I held off because I wanted to take things slow and she was a lil disappointed I did't take things further. Now she doesn't want anything to do to me probably because I wasted her time. In the long run we don't make a good couple, but we are only good for each other when it comes to messing around. Now that I missed out the chance to have sex with her twice, it has hit me hard! I can't stop fantasizing about having sex with her and its very unhealthy, im starting to get anxious and cant sleep well, and its interfereing with my life greatly.
How can I get over this feeling!? I hate it. This is the only girl thats on my mind and not in a good way! Help
TL;DR: Missed out on having sex with ex girlfriend a couple times, regret itx and now its haunting me. I want it to stop and go on with my life<|endoftext|> | [
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t3_iijll | AskReddit | Did Brita-filtered water change tastes recently? | I needed to replace my filter a few days ago (I have one of the smaller jugs that you fill in the sink). I went and picked up a 3-pack at the local superstore. So I go through all the normal steps (soak, run at least two cycles through) and have my first glass, but I immediately noticed a relatively strong chemically/minerally taste, way different from my normal tap water, and way different from my previous Brita-filtered water. So I tried filtering several more cycles to see if that would help. It did not. I was upset, but assumed that perhaps I just got a defective filter. So I opened a new one, and once again followed the preparation steps to the letter. And once again, the water tastes strange to me. I am sure it's not just my perception, and sometimes I swear I can see a subtle color difference when I compare it to normal tap water.
So my question is this - has anyone else encountered this recently? Did Brita change something, and this is just the new way their water will taste? Or is it possible that I got a bad batch of filters?
I have tasted the tap water, and it is pretty neutral, so it's definitely something that the filtration process is adding. And I can't see any obvious problems. | Did Brita filters change recently, resulting in a new taste for the filtered water? Or am I going crazy? | [
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TITLE: Did Brita-filtered water change tastes recently?
POST: I needed to replace my filter a few days ago (I have one of the smaller jugs that you fill in the sink). I went and picked up a 3-pack at the local superstore. So I go through all the normal steps (soak, run at least two cycles through) and have my first glass, but I immediately noticed a relatively strong chemically/minerally taste, way different from my normal tap water, and way different from my previous Brita-filtered water. So I tried filtering several more cycles to see if that would help. It did not. I was upset, but assumed that perhaps I just got a defective filter. So I opened a new one, and once again followed the preparation steps to the letter. And once again, the water tastes strange to me. I am sure it's not just my perception, and sometimes I swear I can see a subtle color difference when I compare it to normal tap water.
So my question is this - has anyone else encountered this recently? Did Brita change something, and this is just the new way their water will taste? Or is it possible that I got a bad batch of filters?
I have tasted the tap water, and it is pretty neutral, so it's definitely something that the filtration process is adding. And I can't see any obvious problems.
TL;DR: | Did Brita filters change recently, resulting in a new taste for the filtered water? Or am I going crazy?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: Did Brita-filtered water change tastes recently?
POST: I needed to replace my filter a few days ago (I have one of the smaller jugs that you fill in the sink). I went and picked up a 3-pack at the local superstore. So I go through all the normal steps (soak, run at least two cycles through) and have my first glass, but I immediately noticed a relatively strong chemically/minerally taste, way different from my normal tap water, and way different from my previous Brita-filtered water. So I tried filtering several more cycles to see if that would help. It did not. I was upset, but assumed that perhaps I just got a defective filter. So I opened a new one, and once again followed the preparation steps to the letter. And once again, the water tastes strange to me. I am sure it's not just my perception, and sometimes I swear I can see a subtle color difference when I compare it to normal tap water.
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I have tasted the tap water, and it is pretty neutral, so it's definitely something that the filtration process is adding. And I can't see any obvious problems.
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t3_33xbuf | relationships | I [22M] am in a possible FWB situation with [22F] Tinder hookup | I think this is the right sub for this. If not, please direct me to the alternative.
I downloaded Tinder, since I recently moved to a new area. A few weeks ago, I matched with a girl and got her number. I was on a business trip at the time, so we both planned on reconnecting when I returned. I sent her a text to meetup the day after I got back (two weeks ago). I went over to her place for Netflix, some pizza, then ended up hooking up. We had a great time and really connected.
In the past, hooking up was much easier, while I was in college. Now that I have graduated, I am not sure about the best way to initiate contact via text. A couple days after going to her place, we exchanged texts that we both had fun and would like to do it again. I texted her this past Friday to meetup. She told me she was busy with an essay, but would be down if she finishes. She attends a highly competitive university, so that is understandable. She could have been lying (who knows?). We didn't end up meeting up on Friday.
Right now, I obviously want to see her again, but do not want to be needy. I know she is busy with school and club activities. She is not the type of person addicted to her phone, so she does not initiate contact. Since it seems like we both want to see each other again, I would appreciate advice on the best way to approach this situation. Any and all advice appreciated. | Met a girl on Tinder. We both agree to meet up again. I texted her on Friday, but she was busy. What to do next? | [
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TITLE: I [22M] am in a possible FWB situation with [22F] Tinder hookup
POST: I think this is the right sub for this. If not, please direct me to the alternative.
I downloaded Tinder, since I recently moved to a new area. A few weeks ago, I matched with a girl and got her number. I was on a business trip at the time, so we both planned on reconnecting when I returned. I sent her a text to meetup the day after I got back (two weeks ago). I went over to her place for Netflix, some pizza, then ended up hooking up. We had a great time and really connected.
In the past, hooking up was much easier, while I was in college. Now that I have graduated, I am not sure about the best way to initiate contact via text. A couple days after going to her place, we exchanged texts that we both had fun and would like to do it again. I texted her this past Friday to meetup. She told me she was busy with an essay, but would be down if she finishes. She attends a highly competitive university, so that is understandable. She could have been lying (who knows?). We didn't end up meeting up on Friday.
Right now, I obviously want to see her again, but do not want to be needy. I know she is busy with school and club activities. She is not the type of person addicted to her phone, so she does not initiate contact. Since it seems like we both want to see each other again, I would appreciate advice on the best way to approach this situation. Any and all advice appreciated.
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TITLE: I [22M] am in a possible FWB situation with [22F] Tinder hookup
POST: I think this is the right sub for this. If not, please direct me to the alternative.
I downloaded Tinder, since I recently moved to a new area. A few weeks ago, I matched with a girl and got her number. I was on a business trip at the time, so we both planned on reconnecting when I returned. I sent her a text to meetup the day after I got back (two weeks ago). I went over to her place for Netflix, some pizza, then ended up hooking up. We had a great time and really connected.
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t3_xhlul | relationships | Guy Input Needed: Does he like me, just want to bone, or both? | Moved into a new house (3 weeks ago) with a ton of roommates and immediately hit it off with one housemate - a 26yo guy / I'm a girl (26yo). I have a bf but it's an open relationship.
He's given me total mixed signals so just looking for any gut reactions to whether the dude *1. likes me but is scared/prefers not to pursue me romantically, 2. is just interested in a hook-up buddy, or 3. somewhere in between.*
**Evidence that He May Like Me:**
- The first few days I moved in we immediately clicked and stayed up all night talking and then cuddling. We've done this a bunch of nights on-and-off since I moved in. It's never "let's have sex" we always end up having awesome convos for hours before cuddling in one of our rooms.
- He's said how he thinks I'm really beautiful and cool.
- We have bizarrely similar interests.
- Friends who know him said he's not the one night stand / player type. He's apparently a good guy that doesn't bring girls home often and hasn't hooked up with a housemate before.
**Evidence that He Just Wants to Bone**
- Despite our awesome nights, we haven't crossed the communication outside of the house line: he never texts me and he's never asked me out on a date. :(
- His girlfriend broke up with him a couple months ago and you can tell it still burns him.
- The one time we did make lose plans to hang out outside the house, he canceled them.
- The one time we talked about "us" he said since I'm leaving in a month (I'm only here temporarily) and because I have a bf (although open and rocky), he "doesn't want me to get emotionally involved." Which was weird/egotistical wording - why me and not both of us/him?
Anyway, I know it's hard to gage from a bulleted post, but any insight is appreciated. | I like my housemate, but he is giving me mixed signals. Our relationship so far has been pretty physical, but never just physical. | [
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TITLE: Guy Input Needed: Does he like me, just want to bone, or both?
POST: Moved into a new house (3 weeks ago) with a ton of roommates and immediately hit it off with one housemate - a 26yo guy / I'm a girl (26yo). I have a bf but it's an open relationship.
He's given me total mixed signals so just looking for any gut reactions to whether the dude *1. likes me but is scared/prefers not to pursue me romantically, 2. is just interested in a hook-up buddy, or 3. somewhere in between.*
**Evidence that He May Like Me:**
- The first few days I moved in we immediately clicked and stayed up all night talking and then cuddling. We've done this a bunch of nights on-and-off since I moved in. It's never "let's have sex" we always end up having awesome convos for hours before cuddling in one of our rooms.
- He's said how he thinks I'm really beautiful and cool.
- We have bizarrely similar interests.
- Friends who know him said he's not the one night stand / player type. He's apparently a good guy that doesn't bring girls home often and hasn't hooked up with a housemate before.
**Evidence that He Just Wants to Bone**
- Despite our awesome nights, we haven't crossed the communication outside of the house line: he never texts me and he's never asked me out on a date. :(
- His girlfriend broke up with him a couple months ago and you can tell it still burns him.
- The one time we did make lose plans to hang out outside the house, he canceled them.
- The one time we talked about "us" he said since I'm leaving in a month (I'm only here temporarily) and because I have a bf (although open and rocky), he "doesn't want me to get emotionally involved." Which was weird/egotistical wording - why me and not both of us/him?
Anyway, I know it's hard to gage from a bulleted post, but any insight is appreciated.
TL;DR: | I like my housemate, but he is giving me mixed signals. Our relationship so far has been pretty physical, but never just physical.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: Guy Input Needed: Does he like me, just want to bone, or both?
POST: Moved into a new house (3 weeks ago) with a ton of roommates and immediately hit it off with one housemate - a 26yo guy / I'm a girl (26yo). I have a bf but it's an open relationship.
He's given me total mixed signals so just looking for any gut reactions to whether the dude *1. likes me but is scared/prefers not to pursue me romantically, 2. is just interested in a hook-up buddy, or 3. somewhere in between.*
**Evidence that He May Like Me:**
- The first few days I moved in we immediately clicked and stayed up all night talking and then cuddling. We've done this a bunch of nights on-and-off since I moved in. It's never "let's have sex" we always end up having awesome convos for hours before cuddling in one of our rooms.
- He's said how he thinks I'm really beautiful and cool.
- We have bizarrely similar interests.
- Friends who know him said he's not the one night stand / player type. He's apparently a good guy that doesn't bring girls home often and hasn't hooked up with a housemate before.
**Evidence that He Just Wants to Bone**
- Despite our awesome nights, we haven't crossed the communication outside of the house line: he never texts me and he's never asked me out on a date. :(
- His girlfriend broke up with him a couple months ago and you can tell it still burns him.
- The one time we did make lose plans to hang out outside the house, he canceled them.
- The one time we talked about "us" he said since I'm leaving in a month (I'm only here temporarily) and because I have a bf (although open and rocky), he "doesn't want me to get emotionally involved." Which was weird/egotistical wording - why me and not both of us/him?
Anyway, I know it's hard to gage from a bulleted post, but any insight is appreciated.
TL;DR: I like my housemate, but he is giving me mixed signals. Our relationship so far has been pretty physical, but never just physical.<|endoftext|> | [
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Currently we are broken up right now but we still kind of act like we are dating. But Trey is kind of a jerk. Extreme anger issues (screaming, hitting and breaking things), kind of controlling, critical and just a jerk sometimes overall. But when he isn't a jerk he is the sweetest guy I've ever met!
When I'm with him we argue constantly. However we have days where we don't argue at all and it's like the perfect relationship. When I'm with Trey I want to be with him. But when I'm not around him or not talking to him I second guess myself.
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In about a month Trey and I will be graduating highschool. He is leaving for the summer to go finish his army training. Then we will both be going to College Station, TX for college in the fall. I don't want to commit to Trey before he leaves. But I don't want to lose him if I don't. I feel like me an Trey can work out but I don't know what to do. | On and off relationship for 2 and a half years. Going to college in the fall, should I try to fix the relationship, or is it already toxic and do I need to end it? | [
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POST: I [18F] have been with,we'll call him Trey [18M], for 2 and half years. I love him a lot. But we are constantly breaking up and getting back together. I know it's not healthy but I don't know what to do.
Currently we are broken up right now but we still kind of act like we are dating. But Trey is kind of a jerk. Extreme anger issues (screaming, hitting and breaking things), kind of controlling, critical and just a jerk sometimes overall. But when he isn't a jerk he is the sweetest guy I've ever met!
When I'm with him we argue constantly. However we have days where we don't argue at all and it's like the perfect relationship. When I'm with Trey I want to be with him. But when I'm not around him or not talking to him I second guess myself.
There is this guy I work with named Steve [19M]. He flirts with me a lot, and I don't really know if I like him. But I am attracted to him. I've gone fishing with him and a group of friends and we have hung out a few times with friends. He's really cool and I like getting attention from him because he's really nice. But I feel guilty about Trey.
In about a month Trey and I will be graduating highschool. He is leaving for the summer to go finish his army training. Then we will both be going to College Station, TX for college in the fall. I don't want to commit to Trey before he leaves. But I don't want to lose him if I don't. I feel like me an Trey can work out but I don't know what to do.
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TITLE: I [18F] don't know what to do with this constant on & off relationship of 2 and a half years.
POST: I [18F] have been with,we'll call him Trey [18M], for 2 and half years. I love him a lot. But we are constantly breaking up and getting back together. I know it's not healthy but I don't know what to do.
Currently we are broken up right now but we still kind of act like we are dating. But Trey is kind of a jerk. Extreme anger issues (screaming, hitting and breaking things), kind of controlling, critical and just a jerk sometimes overall. But when he isn't a jerk he is the sweetest guy I've ever met!
When I'm with him we argue constantly. However we have days where we don't argue at all and it's like the perfect relationship. When I'm with Trey I want to be with him. But when I'm not around him or not talking to him I second guess myself.
There is this guy I work with named Steve [19M]. He flirts with me a lot, and I don't really know if I like him. But I am attracted to him. I've gone fishing with him and a group of friends and we have hung out a few times with friends. He's really cool and I like getting attention from him because he's really nice. But I feel guilty about Trey.
In about a month Trey and I will be graduating highschool. He is leaving for the summer to go finish his army training. Then we will both be going to College Station, TX for college in the fall. I don't want to commit to Trey before he leaves. But I don't want to lose him if I don't. I feel like me an Trey can work out but I don't know what to do.
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i want to go back to school, try to get another 4 year degree.
is it possible to go back for the same degree at another school?
would it be worth it to try for a masters? maybe major in something else and minor in my original field to get a refresher?
how does one who already has a degree apply to go back?
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is it possible to go back for the same degree at another school?
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how does one who already has a degree apply to go back?
i know i could call the admissions dept of any school to get most questions answered but i'm trying to see if anyone has gone through a similar situation before
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I hurriedly sneaked across the landing attempting not to wake the family, got into the bathroom and attempted to feel around for the pull switch we have for the bathroom lights. As I pull the switch, clutching my bowels attempting to hold the piss back the light blows, tripping the whole house lights.
I was devoured by complete darkness, not having the time to flip the circuit breakers (or even knowledge of where the circuit box was) I proceeded to take a piss in complete darkness. Not realizing that the toilet seat and lid was down it splashed back at me and all over the floor. By the time I had managed to reach down to lift up the lids the whole toilet and half of the floor was covered in piss.
Still attempting not to wake the parents I took off my piss covered socks and attempted to search the house in hope of finding the circuit box and turning at least the landing light on so I could see what I was doing when I went back to clean up. Failing in my search I re-entered the bathroom, forgetting that I was bare foot, slipping in the piss and waking the whole family. | I pissed all over the toilet and floor because I tripped the electric slipped in the piss and woke the whole family. | [
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TITLE: TIFU Taking a piss in the dark.
POST: Alright, after holding in my piss for a very long time while procrastinating here on TIFU I decided that it was not a good idea to be reading humorous stories with a full bladder. After finishing up the fuck up i was currently reading I decided it was a good time to take a toilet break.
I hurriedly sneaked across the landing attempting not to wake the family, got into the bathroom and attempted to feel around for the pull switch we have for the bathroom lights. As I pull the switch, clutching my bowels attempting to hold the piss back the light blows, tripping the whole house lights.
I was devoured by complete darkness, not having the time to flip the circuit breakers (or even knowledge of where the circuit box was) I proceeded to take a piss in complete darkness. Not realizing that the toilet seat and lid was down it splashed back at me and all over the floor. By the time I had managed to reach down to lift up the lids the whole toilet and half of the floor was covered in piss.
Still attempting not to wake the parents I took off my piss covered socks and attempted to search the house in hope of finding the circuit box and turning at least the landing light on so I could see what I was doing when I went back to clean up. Failing in my search I re-entered the bathroom, forgetting that I was bare foot, slipping in the piss and waking the whole family.
TL;DR: | I pissed all over the toilet and floor because I tripped the electric slipped in the piss and woke the whole family.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: TIFU Taking a piss in the dark.
POST: Alright, after holding in my piss for a very long time while procrastinating here on TIFU I decided that it was not a good idea to be reading humorous stories with a full bladder. After finishing up the fuck up i was currently reading I decided it was a good time to take a toilet break.
I hurriedly sneaked across the landing attempting not to wake the family, got into the bathroom and attempted to feel around for the pull switch we have for the bathroom lights. As I pull the switch, clutching my bowels attempting to hold the piss back the light blows, tripping the whole house lights.
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When she came to school we were the happiest we had been for a while but them problems came up. She is very attractive and always attracted a lot of attention from other guys. She soon had 2 close guy friends, one gay and the other with feelings for her.
I had a problem with this guy but knowing that she didn't have any close friends I didn't put an end to it. She later admitted to liking him but in the end she chose to keep what we had instead of perusing something with him. She doesn't really see him anymore.
She then went to a really hard time with her mother that stems all the way back to a nasty divorce. It started causing her to be extremely depressed and have anxiety attacks. I tried to be there for her in anyway I could but she kept saying she need to get away from me and would leave for days at a time. During one of these times we didn't hardly talk and she said she liked having that space. It hurt like hell to hear that.
Just 5 days ago we broke up. She said she still loves me and cares about me but she didn't feel like what we had was what a relationship is suppose to be like. She just recently told me that she met this guy online and right after we broke up she went to hang out with him. When she got back she said that she still has feelings for me and wants me in her life.
For a couple days we have been "just friends" and we can actually hang out as friends and have fun, like we used to. But I can't get over losing her. I see her texting this guy and making plans to meet him next week and it just kills me inside. I still love her and she says she still wants me in her life. I don't know what to do, I want her in my life but I want to be more than friends. | Girlfriend of 41/2 years wanted to end things but says she still loves me and wants me in her life. I can't handle being just friends and watching her talk to this other guy is killing me. | [
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TITLE: Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [18 F] of 4 1/2 years, broke up. She is talking to a new guy but told me she still cares about me and wants me in her life.
POST: We started dating in high school, and both go to the same college. For three years I was at school and she was still back home so the biggest problem we had was not getting to see each other very much.
When she came to school we were the happiest we had been for a while but them problems came up. She is very attractive and always attracted a lot of attention from other guys. She soon had 2 close guy friends, one gay and the other with feelings for her.
I had a problem with this guy but knowing that she didn't have any close friends I didn't put an end to it. She later admitted to liking him but in the end she chose to keep what we had instead of perusing something with him. She doesn't really see him anymore.
She then went to a really hard time with her mother that stems all the way back to a nasty divorce. It started causing her to be extremely depressed and have anxiety attacks. I tried to be there for her in anyway I could but she kept saying she need to get away from me and would leave for days at a time. During one of these times we didn't hardly talk and she said she liked having that space. It hurt like hell to hear that.
Just 5 days ago we broke up. She said she still loves me and cares about me but she didn't feel like what we had was what a relationship is suppose to be like. She just recently told me that she met this guy online and right after we broke up she went to hang out with him. When she got back she said that she still has feelings for me and wants me in her life.
For a couple days we have been "just friends" and we can actually hang out as friends and have fun, like we used to. But I can't get over losing her. I see her texting this guy and making plans to meet him next week and it just kills me inside. I still love her and she says she still wants me in her life. I don't know what to do, I want her in my life but I want to be more than friends.
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TITLE: Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [18 F] of 4 1/2 years, broke up. She is talking to a new guy but told me she still cares about me and wants me in her life.
POST: We started dating in high school, and both go to the same college. For three years I was at school and she was still back home so the biggest problem we had was not getting to see each other very much.
When she came to school we were the happiest we had been for a while but them problems came up. She is very attractive and always attracted a lot of attention from other guys. She soon had 2 close guy friends, one gay and the other with feelings for her.
I had a problem with this guy but knowing that she didn't have any close friends I didn't put an end to it. She later admitted to liking him but in the end she chose to keep what we had instead of perusing something with him. She doesn't really see him anymore.
She then went to a really hard time with her mother that stems all the way back to a nasty divorce. It started causing her to be extremely depressed and have anxiety attacks. I tried to be there for her in anyway I could but she kept saying she need to get away from me and would leave for days at a time. During one of these times we didn't hardly talk and she said she liked having that space. It hurt like hell to hear that.
Just 5 days ago we broke up. She said she still loves me and cares about me but she didn't feel like what we had was what a relationship is suppose to be like. She just recently told me that she met this guy online and right after we broke up she went to hang out with him. When she got back she said that she still has feelings for me and wants me in her life.
For a couple days we have been "just friends" and we can actually hang out as friends and have fun, like we used to. But I can't get over losing her. I see her texting this guy and making plans to meet him next week and it just kills me inside. I still love her and she says she still wants me in her life. I don't know what to do, I want her in my life but I want to be more than friends.
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t3_1oz13o | relationships | Me [34 M] with [26 F] for 6 months, throw in the towel or settle in the for the long haul? | Lately I've been feeling intense pressure to get married and have a family, both internally and externally. Externally from family, but also from friends, who are all in the process of drifting off to getting married and having kids of their own. It's not necessarily a verbal thing, but there's a general sense of "being left in the dust" while everyone moves on with their lives.
This has never bothered me until lately, when it began causing anxiety early in the morning or in the middle of the night. I get this intense irrational feeling of being too old to find anyone and having screwed up my life as a result. Being 34 I have my shit together in every other way (financially and career wise), this is the only "missing piece".
Compounding this is my girlfriend of 6 months. On paper she's great: genuinely sweet and caring, attractive, and drama free. However she's much different than than any other girl I've ever dated on an intellectual level. My previous partners were lawyers, grad/med school students, etc, people who were highly educated and capable of stimulating conversation. The current girlfriend is a small town girl whose hobbies are teaching, shopping and exercise. It's difficult to talk to her about anything outside of her life (like world news) as she just isn't interested or doesn't comprehend. She isn't stupid though, and we do have plenty of fun together.
If I was 25 I probably would have moved on by now, but I've stayed because I feel like an idiot tossing aside a great girl (and it's been getting harder and harder to date). I waffle between being OK marrying the current girl, and suppressing the urge to run away. | Feeling old/lonely. Current girlfriend makes a great "life partner" but not a best friend or intellectually compatible. | [
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TITLE: Me [34 M] with [26 F] for 6 months, throw in the towel or settle in the for the long haul?
POST: Lately I've been feeling intense pressure to get married and have a family, both internally and externally. Externally from family, but also from friends, who are all in the process of drifting off to getting married and having kids of their own. It's not necessarily a verbal thing, but there's a general sense of "being left in the dust" while everyone moves on with their lives.
This has never bothered me until lately, when it began causing anxiety early in the morning or in the middle of the night. I get this intense irrational feeling of being too old to find anyone and having screwed up my life as a result. Being 34 I have my shit together in every other way (financially and career wise), this is the only "missing piece".
Compounding this is my girlfriend of 6 months. On paper she's great: genuinely sweet and caring, attractive, and drama free. However she's much different than than any other girl I've ever dated on an intellectual level. My previous partners were lawyers, grad/med school students, etc, people who were highly educated and capable of stimulating conversation. The current girlfriend is a small town girl whose hobbies are teaching, shopping and exercise. It's difficult to talk to her about anything outside of her life (like world news) as she just isn't interested or doesn't comprehend. She isn't stupid though, and we do have plenty of fun together.
If I was 25 I probably would have moved on by now, but I've stayed because I feel like an idiot tossing aside a great girl (and it's been getting harder and harder to date). I waffle between being OK marrying the current girl, and suppressing the urge to run away.
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TITLE: Me [34 M] with [26 F] for 6 months, throw in the towel or settle in the for the long haul?
POST: Lately I've been feeling intense pressure to get married and have a family, both internally and externally. Externally from family, but also from friends, who are all in the process of drifting off to getting married and having kids of their own. It's not necessarily a verbal thing, but there's a general sense of "being left in the dust" while everyone moves on with their lives.
This has never bothered me until lately, when it began causing anxiety early in the morning or in the middle of the night. I get this intense irrational feeling of being too old to find anyone and having screwed up my life as a result. Being 34 I have my shit together in every other way (financially and career wise), this is the only "missing piece".
Compounding this is my girlfriend of 6 months. On paper she's great: genuinely sweet and caring, attractive, and drama free. However she's much different than than any other girl I've ever dated on an intellectual level. My previous partners were lawyers, grad/med school students, etc, people who were highly educated and capable of stimulating conversation. The current girlfriend is a small town girl whose hobbies are teaching, shopping and exercise. It's difficult to talk to her about anything outside of her life (like world news) as she just isn't interested or doesn't comprehend. She isn't stupid though, and we do have plenty of fun together.
If I was 25 I probably would have moved on by now, but I've stayed because I feel like an idiot tossing aside a great girl (and it's been getting harder and harder to date). I waffle between being OK marrying the current girl, and suppressing the urge to run away.
TL;DR: Feeling old/lonely. Current girlfriend makes a great "life partner" but not a best friend or intellectually compatible.<|endoftext|> | [
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t3_4gub0a | relationships | My [30F] dad [51M] is coming over tonight after 8 years of no contact. I'm so nervous. | My dad stopped talking to me almost eight years ago after he found out I was gay. He said some awful things and forbade me from seeing my younger siblings. It was difficult at first, obviously, but I became used to not having parents around (my mother left when I was little and she's been a wreck ever since).
My dad is going through a nasty divorce, which apparently made him want to drink (he rarely drank when I knew him). A lot. He went to rehab and called me on New Year's Day to let me know that he wanted back in my life. I had such a mix of emotions.
I've been putting off meeting him until now. I'm terrified, but mostly because I know he will be a sappy mess and I don't want to deal with that aspect of this situation. I know that's immature of me, but I'm still guarded about him and most people and I don't like to open up or show my emotions at first. He still talks to me like I'm 12, which is annoying, but I'm not a parent so maybe that's normal.
He has been sort of pushy about us meeting, which gives me anxiety, and is the main reason I've been postponing. That and I'm worried that the only reason he wants anything to do with me now is that his world has been turned upside down due to his divorce.
We haven't discussed the/his reason for cutting me out of his life. I don't even know whether I should bring it up, wait for him to bring it up or just see how we mesh until it has to be brought up. I am dating someone, but it's not serious yet.
I suppose this is more of a nervous vent. I don't know anyone who has been in my shoes, so I thought I'd reach out to Reddit Land and seek any tips or advice on how to handle this tonight. I plan to have a drink beforehand to calm my nerves and prepare for his emotional outpouring. I really don't want to cry, so I hope I don't. I don't want to be vulnerable around him yet. | Seeing my dad after 8 years of no contact. I'm terrified of the meeting, his emotions and our conversation. I need tips, encouragement or a swift kick in the ass. Thanks. | [
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TITLE: My [30F] dad [51M] is coming over tonight after 8 years of no contact. I'm so nervous.
POST: My dad stopped talking to me almost eight years ago after he found out I was gay. He said some awful things and forbade me from seeing my younger siblings. It was difficult at first, obviously, but I became used to not having parents around (my mother left when I was little and she's been a wreck ever since).
My dad is going through a nasty divorce, which apparently made him want to drink (he rarely drank when I knew him). A lot. He went to rehab and called me on New Year's Day to let me know that he wanted back in my life. I had such a mix of emotions.
I've been putting off meeting him until now. I'm terrified, but mostly because I know he will be a sappy mess and I don't want to deal with that aspect of this situation. I know that's immature of me, but I'm still guarded about him and most people and I don't like to open up or show my emotions at first. He still talks to me like I'm 12, which is annoying, but I'm not a parent so maybe that's normal.
He has been sort of pushy about us meeting, which gives me anxiety, and is the main reason I've been postponing. That and I'm worried that the only reason he wants anything to do with me now is that his world has been turned upside down due to his divorce.
We haven't discussed the/his reason for cutting me out of his life. I don't even know whether I should bring it up, wait for him to bring it up or just see how we mesh until it has to be brought up. I am dating someone, but it's not serious yet.
I suppose this is more of a nervous vent. I don't know anyone who has been in my shoes, so I thought I'd reach out to Reddit Land and seek any tips or advice on how to handle this tonight. I plan to have a drink beforehand to calm my nerves and prepare for his emotional outpouring. I really don't want to cry, so I hope I don't. I don't want to be vulnerable around him yet.
TL;DR: | Seeing my dad after 8 years of no contact. I'm terrified of the meeting, his emotions and our conversation. I need tips, encouragement or a swift kick in the ass. Thanks.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: My [30F] dad [51M] is coming over tonight after 8 years of no contact. I'm so nervous.
POST: My dad stopped talking to me almost eight years ago after he found out I was gay. He said some awful things and forbade me from seeing my younger siblings. It was difficult at first, obviously, but I became used to not having parents around (my mother left when I was little and she's been a wreck ever since).
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I've been putting off meeting him until now. I'm terrified, but mostly because I know he will be a sappy mess and I don't want to deal with that aspect of this situation. I know that's immature of me, but I'm still guarded about him and most people and I don't like to open up or show my emotions at first. He still talks to me like I'm 12, which is annoying, but I'm not a parent so maybe that's normal.
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I suppose this is more of a nervous vent. I don't know anyone who has been in my shoes, so I thought I'd reach out to Reddit Land and seek any tips or advice on how to handle this tonight. I plan to have a drink beforehand to calm my nerves and prepare for his emotional outpouring. I really don't want to cry, so I hope I don't. I don't want to be vulnerable around him yet.
TL;DR: Seeing my dad after 8 years of no contact. I'm terrified of the meeting, his emotions and our conversation. I need tips, encouragement or a swift kick in the ass. Thanks.<|endoftext|> | [
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t3_2s5mg1 | relationships | I [26 F] miss when my bf [28 M] could overpower me | We started dating when I was 18.
At the time I had been practicing BJJ for about 2 years and a half. We got into the habit of play grapple in bed, and often make foreplay kind of rough like that.
Despite my training, my boyfriend could handle me just by using brute force, due to difference in size and strength.
But that was 8 years ago. I have over 10 years of BJJ training now. Plus been doing some strength and conditioning on the side for years. Truth is, now I could kill him so fast it's not even funny.
I really miss the time when he could overpower me. We seldom do it anymore. When we do sometimes I fake that I an having trouble, buy it feels stupid, like I am playing with a kid. Sometimes I do it seriously and submit him in no time. It makes me proud of my skills to be able to choke him out and fell him helpless. But it's a huge turn off. I know some girls like that. Not me.
Everything else is good. But this as become a big problem to the point where I find myself thinking about breaking up.
Friends suggested he'd learn BJJ. There's a big learning curve. It would take him an enjoy to catch up, if ever.
Suggestions? | I practiced bjj for years, now I can overpower by long time bf, and that's a turn off. What to do | [
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TITLE: I [26 F] miss when my bf [28 M] could overpower me
POST: We started dating when I was 18.
At the time I had been practicing BJJ for about 2 years and a half. We got into the habit of play grapple in bed, and often make foreplay kind of rough like that.
Despite my training, my boyfriend could handle me just by using brute force, due to difference in size and strength.
But that was 8 years ago. I have over 10 years of BJJ training now. Plus been doing some strength and conditioning on the side for years. Truth is, now I could kill him so fast it's not even funny.
I really miss the time when he could overpower me. We seldom do it anymore. When we do sometimes I fake that I an having trouble, buy it feels stupid, like I am playing with a kid. Sometimes I do it seriously and submit him in no time. It makes me proud of my skills to be able to choke him out and fell him helpless. But it's a huge turn off. I know some girls like that. Not me.
Everything else is good. But this as become a big problem to the point where I find myself thinking about breaking up.
Friends suggested he'd learn BJJ. There's a big learning curve. It would take him an enjoy to catch up, if ever.
Suggestions?
TL;DR: | I practiced bjj for years, now I can overpower by long time bf, and that's a turn off. What to do<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: I [26 F] miss when my bf [28 M] could overpower me
POST: We started dating when I was 18.
At the time I had been practicing BJJ for about 2 years and a half. We got into the habit of play grapple in bed, and often make foreplay kind of rough like that.
Despite my training, my boyfriend could handle me just by using brute force, due to difference in size and strength.
But that was 8 years ago. I have over 10 years of BJJ training now. Plus been doing some strength and conditioning on the side for years. Truth is, now I could kill him so fast it's not even funny.
I really miss the time when he could overpower me. We seldom do it anymore. When we do sometimes I fake that I an having trouble, buy it feels stupid, like I am playing with a kid. Sometimes I do it seriously and submit him in no time. It makes me proud of my skills to be able to choke him out and fell him helpless. But it's a huge turn off. I know some girls like that. Not me.
Everything else is good. But this as become a big problem to the point where I find myself thinking about breaking up.
Friends suggested he'd learn BJJ. There's a big learning curve. It would take him an enjoy to catch up, if ever.
Suggestions?
TL;DR: I practiced bjj for years, now I can overpower by long time bf, and that's a turn off. What to do<|endoftext|> | [
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t3_31t4km | relationships | My roommate and I [20Fs] with my other roommate [20F], we don't want to live with her anymore/want her to move out | So I have been living with my two roommates, Jen and Liz, since September. We were all decent friends going into the agreement, but since Jen & I have gotten really close. There have been multiple incidents where Liz has been mean and extremely difficult to live with. Its hard to go into details without being too specific but there are times where she has yelled at Jen (for really inappropriate and unnecessary reasons) until the point where Jen is brought to tears. It has become clear that she has an anger problem. On top of things she has a pretty toxic relationship with her boyfriend that we are constantly brought into.
Now, the problem would be simple if we just didn't get along and could just part our ways. But Liz is a part of our friend group (though most of our friends do not like her because of actions in the past) and considers us, especially Jen, her best friends. This is partly our problem since we are VERY relaxed, non-confrontational people and have never really brought up the problem. We have the option to just move out....BUT we live in a VERY expensive city in the states and we lucked out in the fact we got an AMAZING place where rent is cheap and we are close to campus. But we can't live with the stress of her presence anymore and would rather she move out. All of our friends agree with our situation and we have options for who would move in.
So how do we go about this situation?? We're hoping to have a talk with her soon, since exams are coming and we're going to be leaving for a bit in the summer before our lease ends in August. But we're both very nervous and prone to anxiety, and she can be very bitter and hateful. And on top of everything, she will be completely blindsided. | roommate and I don't want to live with out other roommate anymore, not sure how to bring it up as she will be blindsided. | [
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TITLE: My roommate and I [20Fs] with my other roommate [20F], we don't want to live with her anymore/want her to move out
POST: So I have been living with my two roommates, Jen and Liz, since September. We were all decent friends going into the agreement, but since Jen & I have gotten really close. There have been multiple incidents where Liz has been mean and extremely difficult to live with. Its hard to go into details without being too specific but there are times where she has yelled at Jen (for really inappropriate and unnecessary reasons) until the point where Jen is brought to tears. It has become clear that she has an anger problem. On top of things she has a pretty toxic relationship with her boyfriend that we are constantly brought into.
Now, the problem would be simple if we just didn't get along and could just part our ways. But Liz is a part of our friend group (though most of our friends do not like her because of actions in the past) and considers us, especially Jen, her best friends. This is partly our problem since we are VERY relaxed, non-confrontational people and have never really brought up the problem. We have the option to just move out....BUT we live in a VERY expensive city in the states and we lucked out in the fact we got an AMAZING place where rent is cheap and we are close to campus. But we can't live with the stress of her presence anymore and would rather she move out. All of our friends agree with our situation and we have options for who would move in.
So how do we go about this situation?? We're hoping to have a talk with her soon, since exams are coming and we're going to be leaving for a bit in the summer before our lease ends in August. But we're both very nervous and prone to anxiety, and she can be very bitter and hateful. And on top of everything, she will be completely blindsided.
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TITLE: My roommate and I [20Fs] with my other roommate [20F], we don't want to live with her anymore/want her to move out
POST: So I have been living with my two roommates, Jen and Liz, since September. We were all decent friends going into the agreement, but since Jen & I have gotten really close. There have been multiple incidents where Liz has been mean and extremely difficult to live with. Its hard to go into details without being too specific but there are times where she has yelled at Jen (for really inappropriate and unnecessary reasons) until the point where Jen is brought to tears. It has become clear that she has an anger problem. On top of things she has a pretty toxic relationship with her boyfriend that we are constantly brought into.
Now, the problem would be simple if we just didn't get along and could just part our ways. But Liz is a part of our friend group (though most of our friends do not like her because of actions in the past) and considers us, especially Jen, her best friends. This is partly our problem since we are VERY relaxed, non-confrontational people and have never really brought up the problem. We have the option to just move out....BUT we live in a VERY expensive city in the states and we lucked out in the fact we got an AMAZING place where rent is cheap and we are close to campus. But we can't live with the stress of her presence anymore and would rather she move out. All of our friends agree with our situation and we have options for who would move in.
So how do we go about this situation?? We're hoping to have a talk with her soon, since exams are coming and we're going to be leaving for a bit in the summer before our lease ends in August. But we're both very nervous and prone to anxiety, and she can be very bitter and hateful. And on top of everything, she will be completely blindsided.
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t3_2z28ce | relationships | Me [19 M] and my girlfriend [19 F] of 2 years, can't seem to find solutions to anything, need opinions. | So recently, me and my girldfriend of 2 years have been getting into way too many fights about everything and anything. We dont currently live together, which is something that nags me a bit.
Some background story might be needed.
In my daily life i play a lot of computer games, some of them even competitively (attending tournaments and such). This is something that has taken more and more of my time during the last half year, taking me away from doing sports and other physical activity. I still go to the gym, but not as much as i used to (2 times a week, used to be 5/6). She can't handle me playing computer at all, and says that "You change when you play too much, that is not the guy i fell in love with" and so forth. We tried to discuss it and found some solution, but now she seems to be more distant than ever. She can't find time to see me more than once every week/2 weeks and also whenever we are together, all we do is have sex, talk a bit about nothing and then she/me goes home. i really dont know what to do about this, i have thought it through a billion times, but i just need some opinions. Also, everytime i bring up something i think she could do better, she just says "ill think about it" and nothing happens.
So my question is; should i breakup with the girl i have known for nearly half my life by now, or what should i do? I really need some help reddit! | I play alot of computer, GF dosnt like it. I try to change, she seems to be distant. Known her for so much time, dunno whether to break up or keep trying to make it work. | [
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TITLE: Me [19 M] and my girlfriend [19 F] of 2 years, can't seem to find solutions to anything, need opinions.
POST: So recently, me and my girldfriend of 2 years have been getting into way too many fights about everything and anything. We dont currently live together, which is something that nags me a bit.
Some background story might be needed.
In my daily life i play a lot of computer games, some of them even competitively (attending tournaments and such). This is something that has taken more and more of my time during the last half year, taking me away from doing sports and other physical activity. I still go to the gym, but not as much as i used to (2 times a week, used to be 5/6). She can't handle me playing computer at all, and says that "You change when you play too much, that is not the guy i fell in love with" and so forth. We tried to discuss it and found some solution, but now she seems to be more distant than ever. She can't find time to see me more than once every week/2 weeks and also whenever we are together, all we do is have sex, talk a bit about nothing and then she/me goes home. i really dont know what to do about this, i have thought it through a billion times, but i just need some opinions. Also, everytime i bring up something i think she could do better, she just says "ill think about it" and nothing happens.
So my question is; should i breakup with the girl i have known for nearly half my life by now, or what should i do? I really need some help reddit!
TL;DR: | I play alot of computer, GF dosnt like it. I try to change, she seems to be distant. Known her for so much time, dunno whether to break up or keep trying to make it work.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: Me [19 M] and my girlfriend [19 F] of 2 years, can't seem to find solutions to anything, need opinions.
POST: So recently, me and my girldfriend of 2 years have been getting into way too many fights about everything and anything. We dont currently live together, which is something that nags me a bit.
Some background story might be needed.
In my daily life i play a lot of computer games, some of them even competitively (attending tournaments and such). This is something that has taken more and more of my time during the last half year, taking me away from doing sports and other physical activity. I still go to the gym, but not as much as i used to (2 times a week, used to be 5/6). She can't handle me playing computer at all, and says that "You change when you play too much, that is not the guy i fell in love with" and so forth. We tried to discuss it and found some solution, but now she seems to be more distant than ever. She can't find time to see me more than once every week/2 weeks and also whenever we are together, all we do is have sex, talk a bit about nothing and then she/me goes home. i really dont know what to do about this, i have thought it through a billion times, but i just need some opinions. Also, everytime i bring up something i think she could do better, she just says "ill think about it" and nothing happens.
So my question is; should i breakup with the girl i have known for nearly half my life by now, or what should i do? I really need some help reddit!
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TITLE: Me [20 M] with my ex gf [20 F], she broke up with for being a "prude". Feeling weird and wondering if people are ok with my choices.
POST: I recently broke up with girlfriend of 4 months. She dumped me after a night of clubbing and said that I was too much of a prude for not doing "anything". I promised my parents (haha laugh it up) that when I went to college I wouldn't do drugs, alcohol, or smoke. So far I've lived up to that promise. I found my girlfriend in one of my classes, worked up the balls to ask her out and everything seemed fine. I never had any problems with her drinking and doing shrooms, but she seemed kind of bothered that I never did any of these things. When she dumped me, I looked over all the consequences from this. My friends don't really invite me to go to bar's and stuff with them that often, because I don't drink. I was a little offended because I thought that you don't need to drink to have a good time, but I just brushed it off. I don't feel any desire to do these things, and have nothing against people who do them. I'm wondering however if people don't want to be around me just because I don't get stoned with them, or drunk with them?
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TITLE: Me [20 M] with my ex gf [20 F], she broke up with for being a "prude". Feeling weird and wondering if people are ok with my choices.
POST: I recently broke up with girlfriend of 4 months. She dumped me after a night of clubbing and said that I was too much of a prude for not doing "anything". I promised my parents (haha laugh it up) that when I went to college I wouldn't do drugs, alcohol, or smoke. So far I've lived up to that promise. I found my girlfriend in one of my classes, worked up the balls to ask her out and everything seemed fine. I never had any problems with her drinking and doing shrooms, but she seemed kind of bothered that I never did any of these things. When she dumped me, I looked over all the consequences from this. My friends don't really invite me to go to bar's and stuff with them that often, because I don't drink. I was a little offended because I thought that you don't need to drink to have a good time, but I just brushed it off. I don't feel any desire to do these things, and have nothing against people who do them. I'm wondering however if people don't want to be around me just because I don't get stoned with them, or drunk with them?
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I am 21 years old,(M), and I have been in a relationship with 21(F) for almost 2 years but I think I want out.
I will try and make this quick. She is basically the perfect girlfriend. We never fight and get along extremely well, I think we are perfect for each other, but I don't feel like being in a committed relationship right now.
I am kind of her only real companion right now, she hardly sees her dad or mom since she lives with her aunt. She comes over every day and hangs out with me. She has friends but doesn't like to hang out with them that much. She kinda even told me I'm her only one right now. Which makes this way harder.
I would never ever cheat on her, but I really freaking miss being with my friends , going out with them and making memories like we used to. Having a girlfriend really doesn't allow for that. I used to enjoy meeting new girls, dancing, maybe even kissing and just having fun for a night. I am young, and I don't see the point of being in such a committed relationship especially if we have agreed we wouldn't want to get married to each other, or anyone at such a young age.
Basically I miss not being tied down or having to answer to someone all the time. I want to be free again, but I HATE hurting people, i have been wanting this the last few months but I don't want her to be alone and sad.
What can I do guys :/ | Girlfriend and I have a good relationship, but I don't want to be in a committed relationship at a young age, but at the same time i don't want to hurt her by breaking up with her | [
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TITLE: Please Help me. I don't know what to do...
POST: Hey guys, I could seriously use some advice, maybe from people have been in this situation, or anyone really.
I am 21 years old,(M), and I have been in a relationship with 21(F) for almost 2 years but I think I want out.
I will try and make this quick. She is basically the perfect girlfriend. We never fight and get along extremely well, I think we are perfect for each other, but I don't feel like being in a committed relationship right now.
I am kind of her only real companion right now, she hardly sees her dad or mom since she lives with her aunt. She comes over every day and hangs out with me. She has friends but doesn't like to hang out with them that much. She kinda even told me I'm her only one right now. Which makes this way harder.
I would never ever cheat on her, but I really freaking miss being with my friends, going out with them and making memories like we used to. Having a girlfriend really doesn't allow for that. I used to enjoy meeting new girls, dancing, maybe even kissing and just having fun for a night. I am young, and I don't see the point of being in such a committed relationship especially if we have agreed we wouldn't want to get married to each other, or anyone at such a young age.
Basically I miss not being tied down or having to answer to someone all the time. I want to be free again, but I HATE hurting people, i have been wanting this the last few months but I don't want her to be alone and sad.
What can I do guys :/
TL;DR: | Girlfriend and I have a good relationship, but I don't want to be in a committed relationship at a young age, but at the same time i don't want to hurt her by breaking up with her<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: Please Help me. I don't know what to do...
POST: Hey guys, I could seriously use some advice, maybe from people have been in this situation, or anyone really.
I am 21 years old,(M), and I have been in a relationship with 21(F) for almost 2 years but I think I want out.
I will try and make this quick. She is basically the perfect girlfriend. We never fight and get along extremely well, I think we are perfect for each other, but I don't feel like being in a committed relationship right now.
I am kind of her only real companion right now, she hardly sees her dad or mom since she lives with her aunt. She comes over every day and hangs out with me. She has friends but doesn't like to hang out with them that much. She kinda even told me I'm her only one right now. Which makes this way harder.
I would never ever cheat on her, but I really freaking miss being with my friends, going out with them and making memories like we used to. Having a girlfriend really doesn't allow for that. I used to enjoy meeting new girls, dancing, maybe even kissing and just having fun for a night. I am young, and I don't see the point of being in such a committed relationship especially if we have agreed we wouldn't want to get married to each other, or anyone at such a young age.
Basically I miss not being tied down or having to answer to someone all the time. I want to be free again, but I HATE hurting people, i have been wanting this the last few months but I don't want her to be alone and sad.
What can I do guys :/
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POST: ok, so recently about 3 months ago, some assholes moved in next door. 1 story house and not much room. they have like 9 people living there. that is the least part about it, they illegally breed dogs, they cook meth n shit.. its horrible, the 17 year old they have there is a complete dickhead who thinks his christian rapping is the best, and he still smokes weed n stuff. anyways what i really need from anybody in california that needs to rent the house... i want to call the person who owns the house, and tell him all this, i need someone who wants to rent it because the guy who owns it is a greedy bastard who doesn't give a shit who lives there and only wants the money. so i think if i call as anon, and tell him these people need to get out and i know a/couple person(s) who would be willing to rent out the house. i know it might actually be much since its a one story house and all. but i swear if you move in, my family will be the best neighbors you ever had, as long as you dont cook meth or do any drugs. if anything just pot or something just lay low. i don't give a shit, just dont even mention it. i know the whole best neighbor thing isn't much, but i swear i don't have much to begin with, i mean my family has lived here for 12 years in this house. and these assholes move in for 3 months and act as if they have superiority over everyone, trying to intimidate me and my dad. plus the little dick head son who is like 7 bullys my next door neighbor who is hearing impaired along with his mother and these people we hear them in their kitchen bitching about "That deaf mute chick, and her dipshit son" it pisses me off... and ever since they moved in and pulled a gun on us, we have been holed up in our house. we've called the cops multiple times and they don't do anything... just i thought maybe since we don't really have many more options... thanks people of reddit in advance. and i look forward to anyone who is willing to rent this house.
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t3_2jff4e | relationships | Me [22/F] with my boyfriend [30/M] 5 months, should he ask me to move in? | I've been going out with this guy for 5 months now and we've been away on holidays once for 2 weeks and 2 other weekends away.
I've met his friends and his family.
We both live in a major european city and I have no family around so I am renting a bedroom in a flatshare.
He's older and has a good job so he rents his own flat and lives by himself.
I am currently having some problems in my current flatshare so I am thinking about moving soon - in two weeks. He knows about this.
He also knows that my expenses will increase due to some new commitmenst I made.
The relationship is going well and we are already thinking about going away for Christmas.
I usually spend 4-5 nights a week at his place and even have a pair of keys.
My question is: he knows all of this, we've been going out for 5 months, should I expect him to ask me to move in? Or if he doesn't, what does it mean? That he doesn't see it as a serious relationship? | Should he ask me to move in together after 5 months knowing that I spend there 4-5nights a week and have the keys? | [
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TITLE: Me [22/F] with my boyfriend [30/M] 5 months, should he ask me to move in?
POST: I've been going out with this guy for 5 months now and we've been away on holidays once for 2 weeks and 2 other weekends away.
I've met his friends and his family.
We both live in a major european city and I have no family around so I am renting a bedroom in a flatshare.
He's older and has a good job so he rents his own flat and lives by himself.
I am currently having some problems in my current flatshare so I am thinking about moving soon - in two weeks. He knows about this.
He also knows that my expenses will increase due to some new commitmenst I made.
The relationship is going well and we are already thinking about going away for Christmas.
I usually spend 4-5 nights a week at his place and even have a pair of keys.
My question is: he knows all of this, we've been going out for 5 months, should I expect him to ask me to move in? Or if he doesn't, what does it mean? That he doesn't see it as a serious relationship?
TL;DR: | Should he ask me to move in together after 5 months knowing that I spend there 4-5nights a week and have the keys?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: Me [22/F] with my boyfriend [30/M] 5 months, should he ask me to move in?
POST: I've been going out with this guy for 5 months now and we've been away on holidays once for 2 weeks and 2 other weekends away.
I've met his friends and his family.
We both live in a major european city and I have no family around so I am renting a bedroom in a flatshare.
He's older and has a good job so he rents his own flat and lives by himself.
I am currently having some problems in my current flatshare so I am thinking about moving soon - in two weeks. He knows about this.
He also knows that my expenses will increase due to some new commitmenst I made.
The relationship is going well and we are already thinking about going away for Christmas.
I usually spend 4-5 nights a week at his place and even have a pair of keys.
My question is: he knows all of this, we've been going out for 5 months, should I expect him to ask me to move in? Or if he doesn't, what does it mean? That he doesn't see it as a serious relationship?
TL;DR: Should he ask me to move in together after 5 months knowing that I spend there 4-5nights a week and have the keys?<|endoftext|> | [
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t3_y0ig8 | AskReddit | Need advice. Can I become a professional boxer? I am a good electrical engineer, but I am starting to hate it. | I am studying electrical engineering, I am good at it and I have one more year to graduation. I am 21 years old. 5' 10" 175-180 pounds, solid muscles to the point that most people wold guess I weigh at least 190 pounds. I have no real training, but I know I can pack a mean punch. I am never scared of fighting, I know I have heart.
Things in general haven't been going well for me to the point that I was posting in r/suicidewatch a month ago. people said I should change my habits, and do something that I want to do. Well, I would love to be a boxer, its something I have always wanted but never truly pursued. I kinda regret spending my summers as a research assistant rather than finding a place to train. So tell me reddit, am I stupid for thinking about this? is it possible? how would I do this?
This is not my usual account, and the account I used to post to r/suicidewatch was a throwaway. Sorry, I guess I am a paranoid parrot. | I feel like I need to have a new goal, I want to become a boxer. Need advice. Should I do it? how can I do it? | [
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Things in general haven't been going well for me to the point that I was posting in r/suicidewatch a month ago. people said I should change my habits, and do something that I want to do. Well, I would love to be a boxer, its something I have always wanted but never truly pursued. I kinda regret spending my summers as a research assistant rather than finding a place to train. So tell me reddit, am I stupid for thinking about this? is it possible? how would I do this?
This is not my usual account, and the account I used to post to r/suicidewatch was a throwaway. Sorry, I guess I am a paranoid parrot.
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t3_23ppxh | travel | Argentinians refused into USA w/o. Visa under Canadian immigration procedure. Consequences? | Hello Redditors,
In 2005, my family and I moved to Canada from Argentina. We are all Argentinian citizens, my father had a two-year working contract with a Working Visa and my mother and siblings had a Visitor's Visa to accompany my father.
As time went by, my parents decided to stay in Canada for good and applied for the whole family to become Permanent Residents. We were accepted and as part of the procedure, the Canadian government required us to leave the country and re-enter in order to change our status from Temporary to Permanent (no idea why they insist on physical travel.)
Instead of flying to Argentina and back, relatives we had here and my parents figured that we would travel to the US and back into Canada. We somehow figured that the US Immigration folks had a procedure for what we thought was a common occurrence. So we did, without an American Visa. We were obviously refused, American Immigration Officers took our prints, pictures, the works; and we were duly sent back. At the Canadian border, we explained the situation, they gave us our Permanent Resident papers and that was it.
Fast forward seven years, we will soon be Canadian Citizens and will be able to travel under a Canadian Passport. My question is, *how will this refusal of entry to the USA under these circumstances affect our chances of traveling to the States with a Canadian Passport in the future?* (None of us have tried to go since, and we had never been to the USA before either. We don't have a criminal case nor have any trouble with the law and my siblings and I were minors at the time.)
Thanks!
P.S.: I get a feeling that I'm worrying too much, am I not? | Argentinians traveled to US without Visa as part of Canadian immigration procedure; got refused. What are the consequences of this? | [
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TITLE: Argentinians refused into USA w/o. Visa under Canadian immigration procedure. Consequences?
POST: Hello Redditors,
In 2005, my family and I moved to Canada from Argentina. We are all Argentinian citizens, my father had a two-year working contract with a Working Visa and my mother and siblings had a Visitor's Visa to accompany my father.
As time went by, my parents decided to stay in Canada for good and applied for the whole family to become Permanent Residents. We were accepted and as part of the procedure, the Canadian government required us to leave the country and re-enter in order to change our status from Temporary to Permanent (no idea why they insist on physical travel.)
Instead of flying to Argentina and back, relatives we had here and my parents figured that we would travel to the US and back into Canada. We somehow figured that the US Immigration folks had a procedure for what we thought was a common occurrence. So we did, without an American Visa. We were obviously refused, American Immigration Officers took our prints, pictures, the works; and we were duly sent back. At the Canadian border, we explained the situation, they gave us our Permanent Resident papers and that was it.
Fast forward seven years, we will soon be Canadian Citizens and will be able to travel under a Canadian Passport. My question is, *how will this refusal of entry to the USA under these circumstances affect our chances of traveling to the States with a Canadian Passport in the future?* (None of us have tried to go since, and we had never been to the USA before either. We don't have a criminal case nor have any trouble with the law and my siblings and I were minors at the time.)
Thanks!
P.S.: I get a feeling that I'm worrying too much, am I not?
TL;DR: | Argentinians traveled to US without Visa as part of Canadian immigration procedure; got refused. What are the consequences of this?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: Argentinians refused into USA w/o. Visa under Canadian immigration procedure. Consequences?
POST: Hello Redditors,
In 2005, my family and I moved to Canada from Argentina. We are all Argentinian citizens, my father had a two-year working contract with a Working Visa and my mother and siblings had a Visitor's Visa to accompany my father.
As time went by, my parents decided to stay in Canada for good and applied for the whole family to become Permanent Residents. We were accepted and as part of the procedure, the Canadian government required us to leave the country and re-enter in order to change our status from Temporary to Permanent (no idea why they insist on physical travel.)
Instead of flying to Argentina and back, relatives we had here and my parents figured that we would travel to the US and back into Canada. We somehow figured that the US Immigration folks had a procedure for what we thought was a common occurrence. So we did, without an American Visa. We were obviously refused, American Immigration Officers took our prints, pictures, the works; and we were duly sent back. At the Canadian border, we explained the situation, they gave us our Permanent Resident papers and that was it.
Fast forward seven years, we will soon be Canadian Citizens and will be able to travel under a Canadian Passport. My question is, *how will this refusal of entry to the USA under these circumstances affect our chances of traveling to the States with a Canadian Passport in the future?* (None of us have tried to go since, and we had never been to the USA before either. We don't have a criminal case nor have any trouble with the law and my siblings and I were minors at the time.)
Thanks!
P.S.: I get a feeling that I'm worrying too much, am I not?
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t3_4xwr7m | relationships | My girlfriend [28F] of seven years wants me [26M] to convert to Judaism when we get married! I don't know what to do or say. | For the last seven years, I've been dating my girlfriend and a year ago she proposed to me and we have been engaged. We have talked about the various things we want to have at the wedding, and one of the main things that she wants to happen is to have me convert to Judaism. She has been raised by a Jewish family for most of her life, I've never been religious myself, but now that we are reaching this point in our lives, it's something that has been brought up very often.
I don't know how the conversion process works and I'm a little on edge about the whole things, I don't know what to say to her, I don't regret it, I'm just nervous about how this may change my life. Getting married is already a big thing, but to be a part of a religion after is something that is overwhelming. I was never raised in a religious family myself so I'm lost at the moment.
Any advice? | My girlfriend wants me to convert to Judaism when we get married and I don't know what to do or say to her about it. | [
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TITLE: My girlfriend [28F] of seven years wants me [26M] to convert to Judaism when we get married! I don't know what to do or say.
POST: For the last seven years, I've been dating my girlfriend and a year ago she proposed to me and we have been engaged. We have talked about the various things we want to have at the wedding, and one of the main things that she wants to happen is to have me convert to Judaism. She has been raised by a Jewish family for most of her life, I've never been religious myself, but now that we are reaching this point in our lives, it's something that has been brought up very often.
I don't know how the conversion process works and I'm a little on edge about the whole things, I don't know what to say to her, I don't regret it, I'm just nervous about how this may change my life. Getting married is already a big thing, but to be a part of a religion after is something that is overwhelming. I was never raised in a religious family myself so I'm lost at the moment.
Any advice?
TL;DR: | My girlfriend wants me to convert to Judaism when we get married and I don't know what to do or say to her about it.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: My girlfriend [28F] of seven years wants me [26M] to convert to Judaism when we get married! I don't know what to do or say.
POST: For the last seven years, I've been dating my girlfriend and a year ago she proposed to me and we have been engaged. We have talked about the various things we want to have at the wedding, and one of the main things that she wants to happen is to have me convert to Judaism. She has been raised by a Jewish family for most of her life, I've never been religious myself, but now that we are reaching this point in our lives, it's something that has been brought up very often.
I don't know how the conversion process works and I'm a little on edge about the whole things, I don't know what to say to her, I don't regret it, I'm just nervous about how this may change my life. Getting married is already a big thing, but to be a part of a religion after is something that is overwhelming. I was never raised in a religious family myself so I'm lost at the moment.
Any advice?
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During the 3rd period a guy 3 rows behind me kept yelling for me to sit down because he couldn't see through me. I didn't notice at first but my friend did and he got into a shouting match with him and it ended at that.
I don't think I stood up too much, but if I did I would have stopped had he just asked me to. He didn't need to be a dick. Was my friend in the right to respond like he did? Should I have said something or just ignored him?
I'm not a big guy so it's not like I could intimidate him or fight him without losing. How do you deal with bullies like this in life? | Bully at a hockey game had a problem with me impeding his view. My friend fought with him verbally. How do I deal with bullying in the future? | [
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TITLE: How should I have responded to this jerk at a hockey game tonight? How about future jerks?
POST: I went to an NHL game tonight. The people in front of me stood up during exciting plays and almost-goals. It seems like people do this a lot at games. I did it too, but only to see the ice the people in front of me were blocking when they stood.
During the 3rd period a guy 3 rows behind me kept yelling for me to sit down because he couldn't see through me. I didn't notice at first but my friend did and he got into a shouting match with him and it ended at that.
I don't think I stood up too much, but if I did I would have stopped had he just asked me to. He didn't need to be a dick. Was my friend in the right to respond like he did? Should I have said something or just ignored him?
I'm not a big guy so it's not like I could intimidate him or fight him without losing. How do you deal with bullies like this in life?
TL;DR: | Bully at a hockey game had a problem with me impeding his view. My friend fought with him verbally. How do I deal with bullying in the future?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: How should I have responded to this jerk at a hockey game tonight? How about future jerks?
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I'm not a big guy so it's not like I could intimidate him or fight him without losing. How do you deal with bullies like this in life?
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t3_3y6vxq | relationships | I've [22F] caught the feels for a close friend [22F] - we're both straight, or I thought I was. | I'm struggling not only with the fact that I don't think I'm totally straight, but with a bad case of probably-unrequited feelings. I've known this girl for almost two years and she's one of the best friends I've ever had. I started having feelings for her a few months after we met and I've kept it to myself out of fear of ruining the friendship and also because for all intents and purposes, I'm straight.
Sometimes I think she might feel the same but I'm always second guessing that it's just me being hopeful. But at this point I'm just frustrated that it's consuming me and I want to move on with my life. I want to tell her because I feel dishonest if I don't, and maybe getting shot down will help, but that's also terrifying. If she doesn't reciprocate my feelings, I don't think she's the type of person to cut me out of her life, but it'll still make things awkward.
Do you have any advice/stories of your own experience with falling for a friend (same sex or otherwise) to help me out? | Questioning my sexuality because of developing feelings for a close friend, really wanting to get closure by telling her, but not sure what to do. | [
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TITLE: I've [22F] caught the feels for a close friend [22F] - we're both straight, or I thought I was.
POST: I'm struggling not only with the fact that I don't think I'm totally straight, but with a bad case of probably-unrequited feelings. I've known this girl for almost two years and she's one of the best friends I've ever had. I started having feelings for her a few months after we met and I've kept it to myself out of fear of ruining the friendship and also because for all intents and purposes, I'm straight.
Sometimes I think she might feel the same but I'm always second guessing that it's just me being hopeful. But at this point I'm just frustrated that it's consuming me and I want to move on with my life. I want to tell her because I feel dishonest if I don't, and maybe getting shot down will help, but that's also terrifying. If she doesn't reciprocate my feelings, I don't think she's the type of person to cut me out of her life, but it'll still make things awkward.
Do you have any advice/stories of your own experience with falling for a friend (same sex or otherwise) to help me out?
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TITLE: I've [22F] caught the feels for a close friend [22F] - we're both straight, or I thought I was.
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Do you have any advice/stories of your own experience with falling for a friend (same sex or otherwise) to help me out?
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t3_132lvn | relationships | My GF [26F] is pressuring me [27M] to get married and I'm freaking out | Me: 27 male
Her: 26 female
Relationship Length: 2.75 years
Living Together: 1.75 years
My girlfriend gave me an ultimatum to decide to marry her by the end of the year. I'm mainly worried about marrying her because of her poor work ethic and personal finances (Especially with having kids, I need someone who will be a hard worker, and I just don't see that with my girlfriend). These are two things I know will be impossible to change in a person, but I also acknowledge these are two of the most common problems between two people in a marriage. We've had conversations about this, and I feel that she is aware of my expectations, but I am doubtful she will change to meet them given our history. Am I being too picky to expect a woman to be a hard worker and have good personal finances or should I really examine what I want and find someone else? | GF gave me an ultimatum to decide to marry her by the end of the year, but I'm concerned because of her poor work ethic and personal finances. What should I do? | [
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TITLE: My GF [26F] is pressuring me [27M] to get married and I'm freaking out
POST: Me: 27 male
Her: 26 female
Relationship Length: 2.75 years
Living Together: 1.75 years
My girlfriend gave me an ultimatum to decide to marry her by the end of the year. I'm mainly worried about marrying her because of her poor work ethic and personal finances (Especially with having kids, I need someone who will be a hard worker, and I just don't see that with my girlfriend). These are two things I know will be impossible to change in a person, but I also acknowledge these are two of the most common problems between two people in a marriage. We've had conversations about this, and I feel that she is aware of my expectations, but I am doubtful she will change to meet them given our history. Am I being too picky to expect a woman to be a hard worker and have good personal finances or should I really examine what I want and find someone else?
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t3_4y63ci | relationships | Me [20's M] found the one [30's F]. What do I do? | To keep this short, I met someone over a year ago through work. Before anyone says the 'don't shit where you eat' comment, we work for the same company but we never see each other during work time.
However, I do see her before work starts, during breaks, during lunches and sometimes after work, as well as work nights out.
When I do see her I involuntarily clam up and I start breathing fast. I have started monitoring my heart rate and it is over 170 when I have just finished talking to her. It is normally much lower than that.
We get on amazingly well, have seen films together, always chat at the works night out and we have a lot in common. I had put her as a really good friend in my head but recently I have been developing strong feelings towards her. Now, I get really 'butterflies in the stomach' around her and I can't stop but look at her when I can because she is the most amazing looking girl I've ever seen.
I have never had feelings as strong as this for anyone.
Now, the reason I have posted here at last, what do I do? There is a slight age gap between us and I am so scared to ask her out on an actual date because of the fear of rejection. As well as that, I don't want to get the wrong idea but we have spoke a few times about relationships we have had and she has even said that together we have to find a boyfriend for her and a girlfriend for me. I am wondering if I should act on my feelings at all.
I have even started having dreams about her which really doesn't help because it's dreams like me asking her out and her saying yes or things like the two of us being married already and having a house. Those kinds of dreams make me really sad when I wake because they're the dreams where they feel so real, can't remember the word to describe that.
Please help me reddit, what do I do? | I'm pretty sure I've met the one but I don't know what to do because I've never felt like this before. | [
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TITLE: Me [20's M] found the one [30's F]. What do I do?
POST: To keep this short, I met someone over a year ago through work. Before anyone says the 'don't shit where you eat' comment, we work for the same company but we never see each other during work time.
However, I do see her before work starts, during breaks, during lunches and sometimes after work, as well as work nights out.
When I do see her I involuntarily clam up and I start breathing fast. I have started monitoring my heart rate and it is over 170 when I have just finished talking to her. It is normally much lower than that.
We get on amazingly well, have seen films together, always chat at the works night out and we have a lot in common. I had put her as a really good friend in my head but recently I have been developing strong feelings towards her. Now, I get really 'butterflies in the stomach' around her and I can't stop but look at her when I can because she is the most amazing looking girl I've ever seen.
I have never had feelings as strong as this for anyone.
Now, the reason I have posted here at last, what do I do? There is a slight age gap between us and I am so scared to ask her out on an actual date because of the fear of rejection. As well as that, I don't want to get the wrong idea but we have spoke a few times about relationships we have had and she has even said that together we have to find a boyfriend for her and a girlfriend for me. I am wondering if I should act on my feelings at all.
I have even started having dreams about her which really doesn't help because it's dreams like me asking her out and her saying yes or things like the two of us being married already and having a house. Those kinds of dreams make me really sad when I wake because they're the dreams where they feel so real, can't remember the word to describe that.
Please help me reddit, what do I do?
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TITLE: Me [20's M] found the one [30's F]. What do I do?
POST: To keep this short, I met someone over a year ago through work. Before anyone says the 'don't shit where you eat' comment, we work for the same company but we never see each other during work time.
However, I do see her before work starts, during breaks, during lunches and sometimes after work, as well as work nights out.
When I do see her I involuntarily clam up and I start breathing fast. I have started monitoring my heart rate and it is over 170 when I have just finished talking to her. It is normally much lower than that.
We get on amazingly well, have seen films together, always chat at the works night out and we have a lot in common. I had put her as a really good friend in my head but recently I have been developing strong feelings towards her. Now, I get really 'butterflies in the stomach' around her and I can't stop but look at her when I can because she is the most amazing looking girl I've ever seen.
I have never had feelings as strong as this for anyone.
Now, the reason I have posted here at last, what do I do? There is a slight age gap between us and I am so scared to ask her out on an actual date because of the fear of rejection. As well as that, I don't want to get the wrong idea but we have spoke a few times about relationships we have had and she has even said that together we have to find a boyfriend for her and a girlfriend for me. I am wondering if I should act on my feelings at all.
I have even started having dreams about her which really doesn't help because it's dreams like me asking her out and her saying yes or things like the two of us being married already and having a house. Those kinds of dreams make me really sad when I wake because they're the dreams where they feel so real, can't remember the word to describe that.
Please help me reddit, what do I do?
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t3_o10kt | relationship_advice | My boyfriend cheated on me... So I cheated on him | Background: We are both 20, he went travelling last year and slept with a random girl, and also fooled around with a few more. I found out but tried to give him a chance.
It ate me up for about three months- I couldn't bear it. Everytime I closed my eyes I could see him with these other girls and we had numerous long talks about it which didn't make much progress.
So I kissed a guy at a party. I slept with another at a seperate occasion and made out with two other men. The weirdest thing is, I don't feel bad about doing it, I feel like we are even now and I don't think about it much. But I wonder if I should tell him. I have done the exact same thing as what he did. I haven't told him and our relationship is stronger than ever... All of this was two months ago. If you were him, would you want to know? | Boyfriend slept with a girl and fooled around with 3. I slept with a guy and fooled around with 3. I have no regrets but no desire to do it again. Should I tell him? | [
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TITLE: My boyfriend cheated on me... So I cheated on him
POST: Background: We are both 20, he went travelling last year and slept with a random girl, and also fooled around with a few more. I found out but tried to give him a chance.
It ate me up for about three months- I couldn't bear it. Everytime I closed my eyes I could see him with these other girls and we had numerous long talks about it which didn't make much progress.
So I kissed a guy at a party. I slept with another at a seperate occasion and made out with two other men. The weirdest thing is, I don't feel bad about doing it, I feel like we are even now and I don't think about it much. But I wonder if I should tell him. I have done the exact same thing as what he did. I haven't told him and our relationship is stronger than ever... All of this was two months ago. If you were him, would you want to know?
TL;DR: | Boyfriend slept with a girl and fooled around with 3. I slept with a guy and fooled around with 3. I have no regrets but no desire to do it again. Should I tell him?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: My boyfriend cheated on me... So I cheated on him
POST: Background: We are both 20, he went travelling last year and slept with a random girl, and also fooled around with a few more. I found out but tried to give him a chance.
It ate me up for about three months- I couldn't bear it. Everytime I closed my eyes I could see him with these other girls and we had numerous long talks about it which didn't make much progress.
So I kissed a guy at a party. I slept with another at a seperate occasion and made out with two other men. The weirdest thing is, I don't feel bad about doing it, I feel like we are even now and I don't think about it much. But I wonder if I should tell him. I have done the exact same thing as what he did. I haven't told him and our relationship is stronger than ever... All of this was two months ago. If you were him, would you want to know?
TL;DR: Boyfriend slept with a girl and fooled around with 3. I slept with a guy and fooled around with 3. I have no regrets but no desire to do it again. Should I tell him?<|endoftext|> | [
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t3_23otgf | Parenting | 9 month old won't eat solids, help! | My daughter was EBF until 6 months and has been eating solids 3 times a day for about 2-3 months. She seems to enjoy eating, when she feels like it but seems to enjoy the breast more. She will only eat a good sized (2-3tbsp) meal every 3 or so days, usually we struggle to get 1 tbsp down per meal. In her high chair she is uninterested in food and would rather chat at me or the cat, play with the clips on her seat, look at the fridge, etc. She is very easily distracted. I follow her cues and stop feeding when I think she has had enough, usually a meal lasts 30-45 minutes. Then I offer the breast, since she hasn't figured out any kind of cup for drinking water and she drinks a normal meal amount of breast milk which leads me to believe she could have eaten way more solids than she did.
I intend to BF her until she is a toddler (2-3 years old) and want to have her down to just bedtime and through the night feeds by the time she is 12-14 months. I just have no idea what I am doing. She doesn't seem to have increased the amount she eats at a meal since we started solids. I have seen kids her age pack away the food. How can I help her to get more interested in eating and less into nursing so that we can start to wean? Any help or ideas would be appreciated.
Side note: I was concerned about this but not worried until I spent the weekend with my in-laws and all we did was clash about how little she eats, how she doesn't open her mouth and about what I feed her, specifically don't feed her, but that's another post all together. | Baby prefers breast milk to solids, in-laws have me worried. How do I get her to eat more real food? | [
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TITLE: 9 month old won't eat solids, help!
POST: My daughter was EBF until 6 months and has been eating solids 3 times a day for about 2-3 months. She seems to enjoy eating, when she feels like it but seems to enjoy the breast more. She will only eat a good sized (2-3tbsp) meal every 3 or so days, usually we struggle to get 1 tbsp down per meal. In her high chair she is uninterested in food and would rather chat at me or the cat, play with the clips on her seat, look at the fridge, etc. She is very easily distracted. I follow her cues and stop feeding when I think she has had enough, usually a meal lasts 30-45 minutes. Then I offer the breast, since she hasn't figured out any kind of cup for drinking water and she drinks a normal meal amount of breast milk which leads me to believe she could have eaten way more solids than she did.
I intend to BF her until she is a toddler (2-3 years old) and want to have her down to just bedtime and through the night feeds by the time she is 12-14 months. I just have no idea what I am doing. She doesn't seem to have increased the amount she eats at a meal since we started solids. I have seen kids her age pack away the food. How can I help her to get more interested in eating and less into nursing so that we can start to wean? Any help or ideas would be appreciated.
Side note: I was concerned about this but not worried until I spent the weekend with my in-laws and all we did was clash about how little she eats, how she doesn't open her mouth and about what I feed her, specifically don't feed her, but that's another post all together.
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TITLE: 9 month old won't eat solids, help!
POST: My daughter was EBF until 6 months and has been eating solids 3 times a day for about 2-3 months. She seems to enjoy eating, when she feels like it but seems to enjoy the breast more. She will only eat a good sized (2-3tbsp) meal every 3 or so days, usually we struggle to get 1 tbsp down per meal. In her high chair she is uninterested in food and would rather chat at me or the cat, play with the clips on her seat, look at the fridge, etc. She is very easily distracted. I follow her cues and stop feeding when I think she has had enough, usually a meal lasts 30-45 minutes. Then I offer the breast, since she hasn't figured out any kind of cup for drinking water and she drinks a normal meal amount of breast milk which leads me to believe she could have eaten way more solids than she did.
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Side note: I was concerned about this but not worried until I spent the weekend with my in-laws and all we did was clash about how little she eats, how she doesn't open her mouth and about what I feed her, specifically don't feed her, but that's another post all together.
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t3_ry0xc | AskReddit | Advice on the music industry? | I am trying to find some fellow redditors who have worked in the music industry and could give advice to a soon to be graduating college student on how to get a job in the music industry in general, and more specifically with an independent electronic music booking agency.
Music is a huge passion of mine and it is my dream to be able to work with musicians in a booking and management setting. Throughout college I have tried to make myself more marketable for this type of work by working many DJ shows, managing and doing bookings for local DJs and live acts and making myself as knowledgeable about this industry and type of music as I possibly can.
I will be graduating in a few weeks and have been trying since January to find employment in this field. I know it's an extremely difficult field to break into and its going to take a lot of work, but I am willing to work for this and I am willing to start at the bottom, I just need advice on how to get there. There are seldom job listings and I just can't seem to find an "in."
Fellow redditors, do you work in the music industry doing anything like production, management, bookings, A&R, publicity, marketing, events planning, etc? I would love to hear your experiences, how you got your job and any advice you want to give to someone trying to break into this field.
If you are a musician/producer/DJ and have anything to add, I would love to hear from you too! | Soon to be college student wants to know how you got your job in the music industry and any advice you could give to help her on her job quest. | [
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POST: I am trying to find some fellow redditors who have worked in the music industry and could give advice to a soon to be graduating college student on how to get a job in the music industry in general, and more specifically with an independent electronic music booking agency.
Music is a huge passion of mine and it is my dream to be able to work with musicians in a booking and management setting. Throughout college I have tried to make myself more marketable for this type of work by working many DJ shows, managing and doing bookings for local DJs and live acts and making myself as knowledgeable about this industry and type of music as I possibly can.
I will be graduating in a few weeks and have been trying since January to find employment in this field. I know it's an extremely difficult field to break into and its going to take a lot of work, but I am willing to work for this and I am willing to start at the bottom, I just need advice on how to get there. There are seldom job listings and I just can't seem to find an "in."
Fellow redditors, do you work in the music industry doing anything like production, management, bookings, A&R, publicity, marketing, events planning, etc? I would love to hear your experiences, how you got your job and any advice you want to give to someone trying to break into this field.
If you are a musician/producer/DJ and have anything to add, I would love to hear from you too!
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TITLE: Advice on the music industry?
POST: I am trying to find some fellow redditors who have worked in the music industry and could give advice to a soon to be graduating college student on how to get a job in the music industry in general, and more specifically with an independent electronic music booking agency.
Music is a huge passion of mine and it is my dream to be able to work with musicians in a booking and management setting. Throughout college I have tried to make myself more marketable for this type of work by working many DJ shows, managing and doing bookings for local DJs and live acts and making myself as knowledgeable about this industry and type of music as I possibly can.
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If you are a musician/producer/DJ and have anything to add, I would love to hear from you too!
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t3_3o17ae | relationships | Worried about my Siblings and their SOs | I have a step brother (age 16) in High school whom every day, comes home with his girlfriend, spends all day with her, and then she goes home. Or some form of spending all the time together.
He barely is seen around the house, hardly helps out around the place.
My sister is nearly the same, but its in an unhealthy way.
I feel what they are getting into isn't healthy and my parents set very bad relationship skills on the kids. They got a divorce and after two years it finally was "finalize" just recently.
Ive only seen my sister and her bf fight before, never my step brother and his SO but I feel they spend too much time with them over all and its not going to be healthy. Step brother doesn't really have any true hobbies, skill sets, and I worry about my brother more then my sister in the end. I don't know how to reach out to him.
Sister is 20, but entering that stage where she could end up marrying this guy. And shes beginning to realize that the guy is manipulative and the best guy when it comes down to it. | Is it healthy for a sibling to spend all their free time with their girlfriend/boyfriend, and hardly be around the house, and when they are they do the bare minimum of contributing. | [
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TITLE: Worried about my Siblings and their SOs
POST: I have a step brother (age 16) in High school whom every day, comes home with his girlfriend, spends all day with her, and then she goes home. Or some form of spending all the time together.
He barely is seen around the house, hardly helps out around the place.
My sister is nearly the same, but its in an unhealthy way.
I feel what they are getting into isn't healthy and my parents set very bad relationship skills on the kids. They got a divorce and after two years it finally was "finalize" just recently.
Ive only seen my sister and her bf fight before, never my step brother and his SO but I feel they spend too much time with them over all and its not going to be healthy. Step brother doesn't really have any true hobbies, skill sets, and I worry about my brother more then my sister in the end. I don't know how to reach out to him.
Sister is 20, but entering that stage where she could end up marrying this guy. And shes beginning to realize that the guy is manipulative and the best guy when it comes down to it.
TL;DR: | Is it healthy for a sibling to spend all their free time with their girlfriend/boyfriend, and hardly be around the house, and when they are they do the bare minimum of contributing.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: Worried about my Siblings and their SOs
POST: I have a step brother (age 16) in High school whom every day, comes home with his girlfriend, spends all day with her, and then she goes home. Or some form of spending all the time together.
He barely is seen around the house, hardly helps out around the place.
My sister is nearly the same, but its in an unhealthy way.
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Ive only seen my sister and her bf fight before, never my step brother and his SO but I feel they spend too much time with them over all and its not going to be healthy. Step brother doesn't really have any true hobbies, skill sets, and I worry about my brother more then my sister in the end. I don't know how to reach out to him.
Sister is 20, but entering that stage where she could end up marrying this guy. And shes beginning to realize that the guy is manipulative and the best guy when it comes down to it.
TL;DR: Is it healthy for a sibling to spend all their free time with their girlfriend/boyfriend, and hardly be around the house, and when they are they do the bare minimum of contributing.<|endoftext|> | [
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Now I know that it means nothing and I'm doing my best to keep that frame of mind, but she sent me a message recently relating back to one of our inside jokes, which was basically a picture of someone in a somewhat ridiculous costume. I replied with a quick joke and figured that would be the end of it, but she responded saying that "seriously if anyone could pull of that look it was was me" and I left it at that.
About a month later I ran into her where she proceeded to chat my ear off until I said I had to get going after about 10min. Talking about nothing in particular really, as we often before would just have long, pretty funny conversations about absolutely nothing. Just the two of us basically expanding on a joke, which was one of the things I enjoyed most about being with her. The two of us could come up with something we found funny, then expand on it to make it some elaborate story.
Then again recently she sent me another message of a new mixed drink she was having that night saying how good it was and that I was going to have to try it. This led into another random text conversation about nothing, but still incredibly entertaining.
Like I said before, I'm doing my best to see it as meaning nothing more than I had crossed her mind and she figured it has been long enough for us to try and be friends again, but I've never had an ex try to reconnect as if nothing had ever really happened.... I don't plan on messaging her to start any conversations, but I'm wondering if I should stop responding if I hear from her again. Honestly every time shes contacted me recently I have just assumed it was for the last time and I would never hear from her, but then I do. | After a year of no contact, ex msgs me and jokes around like we used to and I don't know if I should just ignore it or just go with it. | [
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TITLE: My [32 M] ex [37 F] sent me a message recently after a year of no contact.
POST: So we went out separate ways about a year and a half ago after she abruptly ended things while she was going through some other life issues. I took it hard and tried to talk it out, but to no avail.
Now I know that it means nothing and I'm doing my best to keep that frame of mind, but she sent me a message recently relating back to one of our inside jokes, which was basically a picture of someone in a somewhat ridiculous costume. I replied with a quick joke and figured that would be the end of it, but she responded saying that "seriously if anyone could pull of that look it was was me" and I left it at that.
About a month later I ran into her where she proceeded to chat my ear off until I said I had to get going after about 10min. Talking about nothing in particular really, as we often before would just have long, pretty funny conversations about absolutely nothing. Just the two of us basically expanding on a joke, which was one of the things I enjoyed most about being with her. The two of us could come up with something we found funny, then expand on it to make it some elaborate story.
Then again recently she sent me another message of a new mixed drink she was having that night saying how good it was and that I was going to have to try it. This led into another random text conversation about nothing, but still incredibly entertaining.
Like I said before, I'm doing my best to see it as meaning nothing more than I had crossed her mind and she figured it has been long enough for us to try and be friends again, but I've never had an ex try to reconnect as if nothing had ever really happened.... I don't plan on messaging her to start any conversations, but I'm wondering if I should stop responding if I hear from her again. Honestly every time shes contacted me recently I have just assumed it was for the last time and I would never hear from her, but then I do.
TL;DR: | After a year of no contact, ex msgs me and jokes around like we used to and I don't know if I should just ignore it or just go with it.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: My [32 M] ex [37 F] sent me a message recently after a year of no contact.
POST: So we went out separate ways about a year and a half ago after she abruptly ended things while she was going through some other life issues. I took it hard and tried to talk it out, but to no avail.
Now I know that it means nothing and I'm doing my best to keep that frame of mind, but she sent me a message recently relating back to one of our inside jokes, which was basically a picture of someone in a somewhat ridiculous costume. I replied with a quick joke and figured that would be the end of it, but she responded saying that "seriously if anyone could pull of that look it was was me" and I left it at that.
About a month later I ran into her where she proceeded to chat my ear off until I said I had to get going after about 10min. Talking about nothing in particular really, as we often before would just have long, pretty funny conversations about absolutely nothing. Just the two of us basically expanding on a joke, which was one of the things I enjoyed most about being with her. The two of us could come up with something we found funny, then expand on it to make it some elaborate story.
Then again recently she sent me another message of a new mixed drink she was having that night saying how good it was and that I was going to have to try it. This led into another random text conversation about nothing, but still incredibly entertaining.
Like I said before, I'm doing my best to see it as meaning nothing more than I had crossed her mind and she figured it has been long enough for us to try and be friends again, but I've never had an ex try to reconnect as if nothing had ever really happened.... I don't plan on messaging her to start any conversations, but I'm wondering if I should stop responding if I hear from her again. Honestly every time shes contacted me recently I have just assumed it was for the last time and I would never hear from her, but then I do.
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I'd say we had a good relationship, we had our ups and downs and long distance was hard, but overall I was very happy. Just for reference this was my first ever relationship, his fourth, but the longest he had ever had by 14 months.
Sunday night, around 12am, he called me crying saying he could no longer keep our relationship up, and explained that after some contemplation he realized he couldn't see a future with me and his emotions and feelings toward me had changed, and he wanted to leave as to not, "lead me on," and make it hurt more in the long run.
He still wants the chance to be friends with me, and I do as well, he's a really good guy and we're very similar in personality and interests and I would love to get back to talking to him like we used to before we got together, but I don't know how long I should take to give myself space to get over what seemed like a very abrupt breakup. | My boyfriend dumped me a night ago, but wants to stay friends, how long should I wait before i make a move in that direction? | [
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TITLE: My [18 F] boyfriend [19 M] of a year and a half, left but wants to be friends, how long before that starts?
POST: My relationship with my boyfriend was born in long distance. We got closer through mutual friends the summer before his freshman year of college while I was still a senior in high school. We slowly became closer and closer friends over text, until right before we got together I was referring to him as my best friend.
I'd say we had a good relationship, we had our ups and downs and long distance was hard, but overall I was very happy. Just for reference this was my first ever relationship, his fourth, but the longest he had ever had by 14 months.
Sunday night, around 12am, he called me crying saying he could no longer keep our relationship up, and explained that after some contemplation he realized he couldn't see a future with me and his emotions and feelings toward me had changed, and he wanted to leave as to not, "lead me on," and make it hurt more in the long run.
He still wants the chance to be friends with me, and I do as well, he's a really good guy and we're very similar in personality and interests and I would love to get back to talking to him like we used to before we got together, but I don't know how long I should take to give myself space to get over what seemed like a very abrupt breakup.
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TITLE: My [18 F] boyfriend [19 M] of a year and a half, left but wants to be friends, how long before that starts?
POST: My relationship with my boyfriend was born in long distance. We got closer through mutual friends the summer before his freshman year of college while I was still a senior in high school. We slowly became closer and closer friends over text, until right before we got together I was referring to him as my best friend.
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Sunday night, around 12am, he called me crying saying he could no longer keep our relationship up, and explained that after some contemplation he realized he couldn't see a future with me and his emotions and feelings toward me had changed, and he wanted to leave as to not, "lead me on," and make it hurt more in the long run.
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t3_3ikfzl | relationship_advice | My (26f) ex fiance (28m) got cold feet and unexpectedly left me. I am in a new relationship (25m) and have a constant fear of abandonment. How do I overcome this? | I was with my ex fiance for 6 years, were engaged for 2. Just before I was starting to plan our wedding he got a shocking case of cold feet and packed up and left. It was completely unexpected and extremely heart breaking. It lead to heavy drinking and really bad depression. I finally put myself out there and found my actual soul mate (or i think he is anyways). We hit it off straight away and have been going out for a while now, also living together. The problem is that because I was pretty much abandoned, i have this fear that my new partner will do the same. It has made me insecure and paranoid that he will leave for no reason also.
I know they are 2 different people and love me in different ways but how do I overcome this fear before it becomes a problem (has not been a problem yet). Note: I believe fiance got cold feet because of his own issue. Basically had an almost perfect relationship | Ex fiance left from cold feet, now I have a fear I will be abandoned by my new SO even though there is no signs of it. | [
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TITLE: My (26f) ex fiance (28m) got cold feet and unexpectedly left me. I am in a new relationship (25m) and have a constant fear of abandonment. How do I overcome this?
POST: I was with my ex fiance for 6 years, were engaged for 2. Just before I was starting to plan our wedding he got a shocking case of cold feet and packed up and left. It was completely unexpected and extremely heart breaking. It lead to heavy drinking and really bad depression. I finally put myself out there and found my actual soul mate (or i think he is anyways). We hit it off straight away and have been going out for a while now, also living together. The problem is that because I was pretty much abandoned, i have this fear that my new partner will do the same. It has made me insecure and paranoid that he will leave for no reason also.
I know they are 2 different people and love me in different ways but how do I overcome this fear before it becomes a problem (has not been a problem yet). Note: I believe fiance got cold feet because of his own issue. Basically had an almost perfect relationship
TL;DR: | Ex fiance left from cold feet, now I have a fear I will be abandoned by my new SO even though there is no signs of it.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: My (26f) ex fiance (28m) got cold feet and unexpectedly left me. I am in a new relationship (25m) and have a constant fear of abandonment. How do I overcome this?
POST: I was with my ex fiance for 6 years, were engaged for 2. Just before I was starting to plan our wedding he got a shocking case of cold feet and packed up and left. It was completely unexpected and extremely heart breaking. It lead to heavy drinking and really bad depression. I finally put myself out there and found my actual soul mate (or i think he is anyways). We hit it off straight away and have been going out for a while now, also living together. The problem is that because I was pretty much abandoned, i have this fear that my new partner will do the same. It has made me insecure and paranoid that he will leave for no reason also.
I know they are 2 different people and love me in different ways but how do I overcome this fear before it becomes a problem (has not been a problem yet). Note: I believe fiance got cold feet because of his own issue. Basically had an almost perfect relationship
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t3_21b68x | relationships | Me [24 M] with my GF [23 F] of 3 months broke up - but neither of us really want it to end. | We've been dating for around 3 months now and have had an exceptional time together! Until this weekend!
Some back story - she was around 5 months out of a 3y relationship when we met and we've been together for 3 months since then. However this weekend she said she wasn't sure what she wanted anymore...I'm not sure how to handle it. I tried to convince her we should be together so that I can help her - but essentially she feels she has taken on too much too soon.
However she's said readily that she wants to be with me she just needs to deal with her own problems. But I don' want to let her go, I've tried convincing but it doesn't seem to work. She keeps changing her mind...and I've come to accept that if she's indecisive she shouldn't be with me...
She broke up with me on Sunday, but travelled over 100 miles to talk with me yesterday. She stayed the night. But told me this morning she needs time to sort her stuff out - that stuff being getting over her ex... | GF broke up with me, needs time to fix her problems but still wants to be with me - what do I do. Help me Reddit you're my only hope! | [
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TITLE: Me [24 M] with my GF [23 F] of 3 months broke up - but neither of us really want it to end.
POST: We've been dating for around 3 months now and have had an exceptional time together! Until this weekend!
Some back story - she was around 5 months out of a 3y relationship when we met and we've been together for 3 months since then. However this weekend she said she wasn't sure what she wanted anymore...I'm not sure how to handle it. I tried to convince her we should be together so that I can help her - but essentially she feels she has taken on too much too soon.
However she's said readily that she wants to be with me she just needs to deal with her own problems. But I don' want to let her go, I've tried convincing but it doesn't seem to work. She keeps changing her mind...and I've come to accept that if she's indecisive she shouldn't be with me...
She broke up with me on Sunday, but travelled over 100 miles to talk with me yesterday. She stayed the night. But told me this morning she needs time to sort her stuff out - that stuff being getting over her ex...
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TITLE: Me [24 M] with my GF [23 F] of 3 months broke up - but neither of us really want it to end.
POST: We've been dating for around 3 months now and have had an exceptional time together! Until this weekend!
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On top of this, I can't get ahold of anyone from the car rental company. The over the phone reps I have spoken to have been incredibly rude and apathetic. Yesterday, the representative at the desk charged me twice what she quoted me originally, refused to take my company discount and would only take my sister's (even though we work for the same company). | open container that is NOT mine left in rental car that I just rented. Currently pulled over. What do I do here? Is the rental company liable, or am I? | [
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TITLE: I (23F) unknowingly rented a car with an open container left in the back seat. Currently pulled over, possibly facing charges. Help.
POST: Hi. I rented a Toyota Camry from car rental place yesterday in order to go on a mini-road trip a few hours away. Today, during a routine traffic stop, the policeman noticed an open container in the back seat of the car. My sister (also my coworker) used her company discount to rent the car, so she could be in deep trouble if I happen to get a ticket for this. I'm currently pulled over while the police officer discusses this with his colleagues.
On top of this, I can't get ahold of anyone from the car rental company. The over the phone reps I have spoken to have been incredibly rude and apathetic. Yesterday, the representative at the desk charged me twice what she quoted me originally, refused to take my company discount and would only take my sister's (even though we work for the same company).
TL;DR: | open container that is NOT mine left in rental car that I just rented. Currently pulled over. What do I do here? Is the rental company liable, or am I?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: I (23F) unknowingly rented a car with an open container left in the back seat. Currently pulled over, possibly facing charges. Help.
POST: Hi. I rented a Toyota Camry from car rental place yesterday in order to go on a mini-road trip a few hours away. Today, during a routine traffic stop, the policeman noticed an open container in the back seat of the car. My sister (also my coworker) used her company discount to rent the car, so she could be in deep trouble if I happen to get a ticket for this. I'm currently pulled over while the police officer discusses this with his colleagues.
On top of this, I can't get ahold of anyone from the car rental company. The over the phone reps I have spoken to have been incredibly rude and apathetic. Yesterday, the representative at the desk charged me twice what she quoted me originally, refused to take my company discount and would only take my sister's (even though we work for the same company).
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t3_30vnhk | tifu | TIFU, by speaking my mind & having a Seinfeld moment | TIFU, well it was last week. I'll make this short as possible.
So last week I'm heading to my Chem class. After I got in the class with the rest of the students, we realized that the teacher was running late. We waited 30 mins for her to show up and decided to leave. We were all pissed off since we had so much to review. We called her "unprofessional" and said "Where the hell is she." She didn't even email us that class was canceled. Then the next day of class, a substitute teacher comes in and tells us that our teacher lost her son in a car accident the other day. We were all in shock. The sub said if you want to pay your respects, you can send her an email. And I said jokingly:
"I hope that gives me some extra credit, ya feel me"
The sub turned her head and gave me the most deadliest death stare I ever had. I was picturing what would be on my tombstone already.
Just as things couldn't get fucked up, my friend calls me and I had the ringer on. So while the sub was giving me the death stare. My call tone was playing and all you hear is: | Opened my mouth at the wrong time and my Seinfeld call tone went off. I had a Seinfeld ending moment. | [
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TITLE: TIFU, by speaking my mind & having a Seinfeld moment
POST: TIFU, well it was last week. I'll make this short as possible.
So last week I'm heading to my Chem class. After I got in the class with the rest of the students, we realized that the teacher was running late. We waited 30 mins for her to show up and decided to leave. We were all pissed off since we had so much to review. We called her "unprofessional" and said "Where the hell is she." She didn't even email us that class was canceled. Then the next day of class, a substitute teacher comes in and tells us that our teacher lost her son in a car accident the other day. We were all in shock. The sub said if you want to pay your respects, you can send her an email. And I said jokingly:
"I hope that gives me some extra credit, ya feel me"
The sub turned her head and gave me the most deadliest death stare I ever had. I was picturing what would be on my tombstone already.
Just as things couldn't get fucked up, my friend calls me and I had the ringer on. So while the sub was giving me the death stare. My call tone was playing and all you hear is:
TL;DR: | Opened my mouth at the wrong time and my Seinfeld call tone went off. I had a Seinfeld ending moment.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: TIFU, by speaking my mind & having a Seinfeld moment
POST: TIFU, well it was last week. I'll make this short as possible.
So last week I'm heading to my Chem class. After I got in the class with the rest of the students, we realized that the teacher was running late. We waited 30 mins for her to show up and decided to leave. We were all pissed off since we had so much to review. We called her "unprofessional" and said "Where the hell is she." She didn't even email us that class was canceled. Then the next day of class, a substitute teacher comes in and tells us that our teacher lost her son in a car accident the other day. We were all in shock. The sub said if you want to pay your respects, you can send her an email. And I said jokingly:
"I hope that gives me some extra credit, ya feel me"
The sub turned her head and gave me the most deadliest death stare I ever had. I was picturing what would be on my tombstone already.
Just as things couldn't get fucked up, my friend calls me and I had the ringer on. So while the sub was giving me the death stare. My call tone was playing and all you hear is:
TL;DR: Opened my mouth at the wrong time and my Seinfeld call tone went off. I had a Seinfeld ending moment.<|endoftext|> | [
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t3_3p2q10 | relationships | I feel like I did something bad but at the same time I don't... | So I (F19) very recently came of a 1.5 year relationship with a guy and was now talking to a new one, (M24) I am not looking for anything serious and I had told him that he understood but yesterday we were hanging things got steamy and we were going back to his place when I got an emergency call and I sorta left him high and dry. I felt really bad and he thought I did it to not go back to his house but, I didn't. I texted him later that night, and he was fine. But he hasn't contacted me since and I feel bad but at the same time I don't, there was a family emergency. I really did have to go. Am I overthinking this? He used to text me all the time now it's nothing. | left guy on date high and dry with blue balls not on purpose but he thinks it was but I had a family emergency now he won't text me. | [
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TITLE: I feel like I did something bad but at the same time I don't...
POST: So I (F19) very recently came of a 1.5 year relationship with a guy and was now talking to a new one, (M24) I am not looking for anything serious and I had told him that he understood but yesterday we were hanging things got steamy and we were going back to his place when I got an emergency call and I sorta left him high and dry. I felt really bad and he thought I did it to not go back to his house but, I didn't. I texted him later that night, and he was fine. But he hasn't contacted me since and I feel bad but at the same time I don't, there was a family emergency. I really did have to go. Am I overthinking this? He used to text me all the time now it's nothing.
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TITLE: I feel like I did something bad but at the same time I don't...
POST: So I (F19) very recently came of a 1.5 year relationship with a guy and was now talking to a new one, (M24) I am not looking for anything serious and I had told him that he understood but yesterday we were hanging things got steamy and we were going back to his place when I got an emergency call and I sorta left him high and dry. I felt really bad and he thought I did it to not go back to his house but, I didn't. I texted him later that night, and he was fine. But he hasn't contacted me since and I feel bad but at the same time I don't, there was a family emergency. I really did have to go. Am I overthinking this? He used to text me all the time now it's nothing.
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t3_236ikr | relationships | I(24f) am not sure if it's PMS or a legitimate reason to be upset with (28m) 1.5 years | We have been on and off for a while now. When things are good, they are mind blowing. When things are bad, I just close myself off until I can deal with it.
We are currently in an "on" period. I still harbor some resentment towards him and his best friend from our last "off" period. She has a huge crush on him, and has for years, and when we broke up, she went around saying some nasty stuff about me and my relationship with him.
My opinion of the situation is that he should have confronted her, we were back on within a week, and I didn't feel it was my place to say anything. He felt that it didn't matter. It hurt me, a lot.
We have discussed this since then, and I never really felt like he was being completely honest with me.
I snooped. I know I shouldn't have, I know it was wrong. He had said that they haven't talked since we broke up the first time. He lied. After he changed his number, they talked and he sent his new number along with reassurance that she was a part of his life, and nothing would change that.
We talked a few nights ago and he said she didn't have his number, showed me his phone, quickly, to try to prove that they haven't talked. I know better.
Im hurt that he didn't defend me, he lied, and she doesn't seem to be going anywhere. I love him, and I don't want to leave or lose him.
Am I overreacting? | on/off again guy didn't defend me, lied and isn't likely to lose the friend who started drama. Am I overreacting? | [
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TITLE: I(24f) am not sure if it's PMS or a legitimate reason to be upset with (28m) 1.5 years
POST: We have been on and off for a while now. When things are good, they are mind blowing. When things are bad, I just close myself off until I can deal with it.
We are currently in an "on" period. I still harbor some resentment towards him and his best friend from our last "off" period. She has a huge crush on him, and has for years, and when we broke up, she went around saying some nasty stuff about me and my relationship with him.
My opinion of the situation is that he should have confronted her, we were back on within a week, and I didn't feel it was my place to say anything. He felt that it didn't matter. It hurt me, a lot.
We have discussed this since then, and I never really felt like he was being completely honest with me.
I snooped. I know I shouldn't have, I know it was wrong. He had said that they haven't talked since we broke up the first time. He lied. After he changed his number, they talked and he sent his new number along with reassurance that she was a part of his life, and nothing would change that.
We talked a few nights ago and he said she didn't have his number, showed me his phone, quickly, to try to prove that they haven't talked. I know better.
Im hurt that he didn't defend me, he lied, and she doesn't seem to be going anywhere. I love him, and I don't want to leave or lose him.
Am I overreacting?
TL;DR: | on/off again guy didn't defend me, lied and isn't likely to lose the friend who started drama. Am I overreacting?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: I(24f) am not sure if it's PMS or a legitimate reason to be upset with (28m) 1.5 years
POST: We have been on and off for a while now. When things are good, they are mind blowing. When things are bad, I just close myself off until I can deal with it.
We are currently in an "on" period. I still harbor some resentment towards him and his best friend from our last "off" period. She has a huge crush on him, and has for years, and when we broke up, she went around saying some nasty stuff about me and my relationship with him.
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We talked a few nights ago and he said she didn't have his number, showed me his phone, quickly, to try to prove that they haven't talked. I know better.
Im hurt that he didn't defend me, he lied, and she doesn't seem to be going anywhere. I love him, and I don't want to leave or lose him.
Am I overreacting?
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t3_4wp267 | needadvice | X-post r/raisedbynarcissists: My mom can't control her emotions and always angry. Is this normal? | Shes 44, female, worked overseas for 4.5 years.
Shes always pissed when someone don't get her point, and it's like it's impossible for her to be assertive. She can be assertive sometimes, but it always follows an aggression.
She can't talk calmly and always screaming when in an argument or when she engage in debate with someone.
When I do something wrong, she looks red and angry and namecalling.
She can't express herself assertively, and always with the cursing.
The sad part is she wont apologize for her behavior, like she wont realize that she did something wrong.
BTW her two legs was amputated months ago and suffers from phantom pain and post trauma depression.
She was raised by toxic parents and don't seem to realize it, assuming that they did it for her own good.
She's divorced for like 8 years ago and always acts like the victim.
We're muslim filipinos btw. And sorry for bad english. | She's an angry person and I hate it. Sometimes I just want to ignore her and never say anything when the fire burns me. | [
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TITLE: X-post r/raisedbynarcissists: My mom can't control her emotions and always angry. Is this normal?
POST: Shes 44, female, worked overseas for 4.5 years.
Shes always pissed when someone don't get her point, and it's like it's impossible for her to be assertive. She can be assertive sometimes, but it always follows an aggression.
She can't talk calmly and always screaming when in an argument or when she engage in debate with someone.
When I do something wrong, she looks red and angry and namecalling.
She can't express herself assertively, and always with the cursing.
The sad part is she wont apologize for her behavior, like she wont realize that she did something wrong.
BTW her two legs was amputated months ago and suffers from phantom pain and post trauma depression.
She was raised by toxic parents and don't seem to realize it, assuming that they did it for her own good.
She's divorced for like 8 years ago and always acts like the victim.
We're muslim filipinos btw. And sorry for bad english.
TL;DR: | She's an angry person and I hate it. Sometimes I just want to ignore her and never say anything when the fire burns me.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: X-post r/raisedbynarcissists: My mom can't control her emotions and always angry. Is this normal?
POST: Shes 44, female, worked overseas for 4.5 years.
Shes always pissed when someone don't get her point, and it's like it's impossible for her to be assertive. She can be assertive sometimes, but it always follows an aggression.
She can't talk calmly and always screaming when in an argument or when she engage in debate with someone.
When I do something wrong, she looks red and angry and namecalling.
She can't express herself assertively, and always with the cursing.
The sad part is she wont apologize for her behavior, like she wont realize that she did something wrong.
BTW her two legs was amputated months ago and suffers from phantom pain and post trauma depression.
She was raised by toxic parents and don't seem to realize it, assuming that they did it for her own good.
She's divorced for like 8 years ago and always acts like the victim.
We're muslim filipinos btw. And sorry for bad english.
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t3_4bziqr | relationships | Me [36 M] with mygirlfriend [38 F] of 8 months, I am wondering why I am beimg left out. | Today my girlfriend went for easter dinner at her son's aunts farm. I asked if I was invited and was told that she didn't think she was allowed to bring anyone.
I was fine with this until her daughter (different father) jumped in the truck to go with her boyfriend of two weeks to supper with everyone.
Previously I have been informed that her other boyfriends have gone to these events, the boyfriends were not even very good ones by the sounds of it as well. I plan on talking to her about this as soon as she returns but I am getting quite saddened by it at the moment so I need advice. Her sons father is dead so it doesnt seem to be an issue with that.
I feel bad because the daughters boyfriend is a massive drug addict and he gets invited over me. I was outside raking leaves when they left and just finished so now I need help, the only thing I can think of is that a while ago she said my random stories were a bit out of context sometimes and that most people will be unsure what I am talking about. I have been very vigilant about not wandering off topic and things of that nature in addition to talking less at gatherings. | Girlfriend takes her daughters drug addict boyfriend to easter dinner and leaves me at her place. What do I do? | [
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TITLE: Me [36 M] with mygirlfriend [38 F] of 8 months, I am wondering why I am beimg left out.
POST: Today my girlfriend went for easter dinner at her son's aunts farm. I asked if I was invited and was told that she didn't think she was allowed to bring anyone.
I was fine with this until her daughter (different father) jumped in the truck to go with her boyfriend of two weeks to supper with everyone.
Previously I have been informed that her other boyfriends have gone to these events, the boyfriends were not even very good ones by the sounds of it as well. I plan on talking to her about this as soon as she returns but I am getting quite saddened by it at the moment so I need advice. Her sons father is dead so it doesnt seem to be an issue with that.
I feel bad because the daughters boyfriend is a massive drug addict and he gets invited over me. I was outside raking leaves when they left and just finished so now I need help, the only thing I can think of is that a while ago she said my random stories were a bit out of context sometimes and that most people will be unsure what I am talking about. I have been very vigilant about not wandering off topic and things of that nature in addition to talking less at gatherings.
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TITLE: Me [36 M] with mygirlfriend [38 F] of 8 months, I am wondering why I am beimg left out.
POST: Today my girlfriend went for easter dinner at her son's aunts farm. I asked if I was invited and was told that she didn't think she was allowed to bring anyone.
I was fine with this until her daughter (different father) jumped in the truck to go with her boyfriend of two weeks to supper with everyone.
Previously I have been informed that her other boyfriends have gone to these events, the boyfriends were not even very good ones by the sounds of it as well. I plan on talking to her about this as soon as she returns but I am getting quite saddened by it at the moment so I need advice. Her sons father is dead so it doesnt seem to be an issue with that.
I feel bad because the daughters boyfriend is a massive drug addict and he gets invited over me. I was outside raking leaves when they left and just finished so now I need help, the only thing I can think of is that a while ago she said my random stories were a bit out of context sometimes and that most people will be unsure what I am talking about. I have been very vigilant about not wandering off topic and things of that nature in addition to talking less at gatherings.
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t3_22gtjt | relationships | My roommates [22F, 23F] didn't invite me [26F] to a mutual friend's bday and I feel awkward | My roommates and I are good friends. We have a mutual friend [25F]. It was her birthday, and the week before, I mentioned to both of them that it was her birthday and I'd love to chip in for a cake or something. Which they acknowledged.
The day they decided to go out was not on her actual birthday, and I only caught both of them on the way out. One of them got a card out and said, "Oh, can you sign this before we leave?" which I did, confused. "Are you going to see [friend]?" I asked. "Yep," she said.
And so they celebrated her birthday without me. I am not saying they were in the wrong. I don't think their intentions were bad. I don't know the circumstances behind planning the dinner/afterwards events and I know it wasn't personal. I know they didn't actively try to hurt me. Sometimes you can't invite everyone, and I understand.
But I can't help feeling a bit hurt and betrayed. I don't want to confront them because they really don't know what they did (they still keep talking about the event in front of me openly). And like I said, decisions of inviting or not inviting people are often not personal.
Now I can hardly look at them or talk to them and I don't know what to do. I guess if I'm not confronting them, I have to suck it up. But I just feel kind of distressed. Any tips on handling? | Roommates didn't invite me to mutual friend's bday. I know it probably wasn't personal but I still feel hurt and don't know what to do. | [
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TITLE: My roommates [22F, 23F] didn't invite me [26F] to a mutual friend's bday and I feel awkward
POST: My roommates and I are good friends. We have a mutual friend [25F]. It was her birthday, and the week before, I mentioned to both of them that it was her birthday and I'd love to chip in for a cake or something. Which they acknowledged.
The day they decided to go out was not on her actual birthday, and I only caught both of them on the way out. One of them got a card out and said, "Oh, can you sign this before we leave?" which I did, confused. "Are you going to see [friend]?" I asked. "Yep," she said.
And so they celebrated her birthday without me. I am not saying they were in the wrong. I don't think their intentions were bad. I don't know the circumstances behind planning the dinner/afterwards events and I know it wasn't personal. I know they didn't actively try to hurt me. Sometimes you can't invite everyone, and I understand.
But I can't help feeling a bit hurt and betrayed. I don't want to confront them because they really don't know what they did (they still keep talking about the event in front of me openly). And like I said, decisions of inviting or not inviting people are often not personal.
Now I can hardly look at them or talk to them and I don't know what to do. I guess if I'm not confronting them, I have to suck it up. But I just feel kind of distressed. Any tips on handling?
TL;DR: | Roommates didn't invite me to mutual friend's bday. I know it probably wasn't personal but I still feel hurt and don't know what to do.<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: My roommates [22F, 23F] didn't invite me [26F] to a mutual friend's bday and I feel awkward
POST: My roommates and I are good friends. We have a mutual friend [25F]. It was her birthday, and the week before, I mentioned to both of them that it was her birthday and I'd love to chip in for a cake or something. Which they acknowledged.
The day they decided to go out was not on her actual birthday, and I only caught both of them on the way out. One of them got a card out and said, "Oh, can you sign this before we leave?" which I did, confused. "Are you going to see [friend]?" I asked. "Yep," she said.
And so they celebrated her birthday without me. I am not saying they were in the wrong. I don't think their intentions were bad. I don't know the circumstances behind planning the dinner/afterwards events and I know it wasn't personal. I know they didn't actively try to hurt me. Sometimes you can't invite everyone, and I understand.
But I can't help feeling a bit hurt and betrayed. I don't want to confront them because they really don't know what they did (they still keep talking about the event in front of me openly). And like I said, decisions of inviting or not inviting people are often not personal.
Now I can hardly look at them or talk to them and I don't know what to do. I guess if I'm not confronting them, I have to suck it up. But I just feel kind of distressed. Any tips on handling?
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t3_3qsbvk | relationships | Me [25 M] with [22F] Went out on some dates, now she's cancelling, twice. What to do. | ill be as short as possible.
Met this girl, went out on a couple dates, really interested in each other. After one date we had sex, we messaged back and forth for a week for our next date. The day of the date she cancelled and went out of town for 8 days, we didn't speak at this point. She messaged me again when she got back, started texting a lot . She set up a date for today, texted her to confirm and she cancelled again.
She sent me an excuse of her friends dinner, and asked what I was doing this weekend. I said I have no plans yet. *last txt
Obviously I'm going to not text her until she texts me right?, but wtf is going on. I'm being played.
Any advice? | Met a great girl, both really interested, went on some dates, had sex. Set up another date, she cancelled went away for some time. When she got back she messaged me for another date, again cancelled. Advice? | [
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TITLE: Me [25 M] with [22F] Went out on some dates, now she's cancelling, twice. What to do.
POST: ill be as short as possible.
Met this girl, went out on a couple dates, really interested in each other. After one date we had sex, we messaged back and forth for a week for our next date. The day of the date she cancelled and went out of town for 8 days, we didn't speak at this point. She messaged me again when she got back, started texting a lot. She set up a date for today, texted her to confirm and she cancelled again.
She sent me an excuse of her friends dinner, and asked what I was doing this weekend. I said I have no plans yet. *last txt
Obviously I'm going to not text her until she texts me right?, but wtf is going on. I'm being played.
Any advice?
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TITLE: Me [25 M] with [22F] Went out on some dates, now she's cancelling, twice. What to do.
POST: ill be as short as possible.
Met this girl, went out on a couple dates, really interested in each other. After one date we had sex, we messaged back and forth for a week for our next date. The day of the date she cancelled and went out of town for 8 days, we didn't speak at this point. She messaged me again when she got back, started texting a lot. She set up a date for today, texted her to confirm and she cancelled again.
She sent me an excuse of her friends dinner, and asked what I was doing this weekend. I said I have no plans yet. *last txt
Obviously I'm going to not text her until she texts me right?, but wtf is going on. I'm being played.
Any advice?
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t3_f8za6 | self | Can you please help me feel better about or stop my father from being treated with chelation for high cholesterol? | Reddit, I've always been an open minded person when it comes to religion and alternative medicine. My mom believes in Silvia Brown and stuff like that, and I stopped trying to prove that she's a fraud because it gives my mom peace of mind. My mom also thinks she is a bit psychic.
However, my father and I both have genetically high cholesterol. I know diet is important and we've tried, but it's just not enough to get us into "normal" range for LDL alone. He used to take Lipitor I think, and I take Vytorin. They were both effective in lowering our cholesterol.
My dad didn't like some of the side effects of Lipitor and my mom suggested some alternative medicines, red rice yeast I think and maybe something else. Doesn't really matter because, surprise, his LDL levels were high again. So they went to a doctor (Dr. Joya Schoen, "Complementary and Alternative Medicine True Healthcare"). She explains that it's not high cholestrol but lipoproteins that cause heart disease. Is this true?
She also mentions that chelation therapy may help, and once they get the blood results (they drew 7 vials of blood) he may be a candidate. I told my mom that he'll probably be a candidate for anything that involves giving them money.
I read them a bit off the Wikipedia article on chelation saying that a number of very important organizations agree there is no evidence to show chelation is helpful (at least in regard to heart disease) and some evidence in causing damage/killing people. My mom's counter point was "Of course they say it doesn't work, because they're greedy and want you coming back for perscriptions and heart bypasses." And then gave an anecdotal (hooray) story about how chelation helped some miners with angina.
I don't trust chelation, I don't trust this doctor, and my parents are certain that this is the answer. My mom and I both just want the best for my dad, but we completely disagree on chelation. | My dad is getting chelation therapy to reduce risk of heart disease. I am against it and my logic has failed against my parents, help me change their mind or help me change mine, please. | [
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TITLE: Can you please help me feel better about or stop my father from being treated with chelation for high cholesterol?
POST: Reddit, I've always been an open minded person when it comes to religion and alternative medicine. My mom believes in Silvia Brown and stuff like that, and I stopped trying to prove that she's a fraud because it gives my mom peace of mind. My mom also thinks she is a bit psychic.
However, my father and I both have genetically high cholesterol. I know diet is important and we've tried, but it's just not enough to get us into "normal" range for LDL alone. He used to take Lipitor I think, and I take Vytorin. They were both effective in lowering our cholesterol.
My dad didn't like some of the side effects of Lipitor and my mom suggested some alternative medicines, red rice yeast I think and maybe something else. Doesn't really matter because, surprise, his LDL levels were high again. So they went to a doctor (Dr. Joya Schoen, "Complementary and Alternative Medicine True Healthcare"). She explains that it's not high cholestrol but lipoproteins that cause heart disease. Is this true?
She also mentions that chelation therapy may help, and once they get the blood results (they drew 7 vials of blood) he may be a candidate. I told my mom that he'll probably be a candidate for anything that involves giving them money.
I read them a bit off the Wikipedia article on chelation saying that a number of very important organizations agree there is no evidence to show chelation is helpful (at least in regard to heart disease) and some evidence in causing damage/killing people. My mom's counter point was "Of course they say it doesn't work, because they're greedy and want you coming back for perscriptions and heart bypasses." And then gave an anecdotal (hooray) story about how chelation helped some miners with angina.
I don't trust chelation, I don't trust this doctor, and my parents are certain that this is the answer. My mom and I both just want the best for my dad, but we completely disagree on chelation.
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TITLE: Can you please help me feel better about or stop my father from being treated with chelation for high cholesterol?
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However, my father and I both have genetically high cholesterol. I know diet is important and we've tried, but it's just not enough to get us into "normal" range for LDL alone. He used to take Lipitor I think, and I take Vytorin. They were both effective in lowering our cholesterol.
My dad didn't like some of the side effects of Lipitor and my mom suggested some alternative medicines, red rice yeast I think and maybe something else. Doesn't really matter because, surprise, his LDL levels were high again. So they went to a doctor (Dr. Joya Schoen, "Complementary and Alternative Medicine True Healthcare"). She explains that it's not high cholestrol but lipoproteins that cause heart disease. Is this true?
She also mentions that chelation therapy may help, and once they get the blood results (they drew 7 vials of blood) he may be a candidate. I told my mom that he'll probably be a candidate for anything that involves giving them money.
I read them a bit off the Wikipedia article on chelation saying that a number of very important organizations agree there is no evidence to show chelation is helpful (at least in regard to heart disease) and some evidence in causing damage/killing people. My mom's counter point was "Of course they say it doesn't work, because they're greedy and want you coming back for perscriptions and heart bypasses." And then gave an anecdotal (hooray) story about how chelation helped some miners with angina.
I don't trust chelation, I don't trust this doctor, and my parents are certain that this is the answer. My mom and I both just want the best for my dad, but we completely disagree on chelation.
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TITLE: My wife suggested I get a girlfriend and I need advice...
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TITLE: My wife suggested I get a girlfriend and I need advice...
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t3_3bgf8r | personalfinance | I financially support my Father, who is afraid of getting a real job because he owes a significant sum to the IRS, and believes they will seize his earnings or put him in jail. Are there any resources we can take advantage of to ease his mind? More details inside. | Hi /r/personalfinance,
To make a long, long story very concise:
A) Dad lost a lot of money during the collapse of 2008-ish, made worse by an expensive medical condition at the time.
B) Lost his job in 2010.
C) Has not been employed since, because he has chronic problems with his back (denied disability, twice) and because he wracked up a significant bunch of taxes he has yet to pay to the IRS.
D) Because of C), he is irrationally afraid to draw a paycheck or open a bank account.
He successfully filed for bankruptcy a couple years back. Most of his debts were erased, even taxes, but several more claims were made by the IRS after the bankruptcy settled, so he can't simply get rid of them.
I was unable to get an accurate number out of him, but what he owes the IRS is in the neighborhood of $5,000 to $20,000.
---
I am currently paying for his housing and groceries. I'm happy to help him out and am grateful that I have a decent enough job to be able to do it... but it is becoming an increasingly large strain on me and my finances. I don't think this is sustainable long-term.
I straight up asked him if he was looking for work anytime soon, because **anything** would help. Part-time, minimum wage, whatever. He responded that it would have to be low-skill, and he'd have to be paid under the table to avoid the taxman.
I love the guy but that's not acceptable. | Dad owes a bunch of money to the IRS, fears legal retribution. No other source of income or aid is available to my knowledge. What are some good tools or programs for tax "forgiveness" we can look into? | [
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TITLE: I financially support my Father, who is afraid of getting a real job because he owes a significant sum to the IRS, and believes they will seize his earnings or put him in jail. Are there any resources we can take advantage of to ease his mind? More details inside.
POST: Hi /r/personalfinance,
To make a long, long story very concise:
A) Dad lost a lot of money during the collapse of 2008-ish, made worse by an expensive medical condition at the time.
B) Lost his job in 2010.
C) Has not been employed since, because he has chronic problems with his back (denied disability, twice) and because he wracked up a significant bunch of taxes he has yet to pay to the IRS.
D) Because of C), he is irrationally afraid to draw a paycheck or open a bank account.
He successfully filed for bankruptcy a couple years back. Most of his debts were erased, even taxes, but several more claims were made by the IRS after the bankruptcy settled, so he can't simply get rid of them.
I was unable to get an accurate number out of him, but what he owes the IRS is in the neighborhood of $5,000 to $20,000.
---
I am currently paying for his housing and groceries. I'm happy to help him out and am grateful that I have a decent enough job to be able to do it... but it is becoming an increasingly large strain on me and my finances. I don't think this is sustainable long-term.
I straight up asked him if he was looking for work anytime soon, because **anything** would help. Part-time, minimum wage, whatever. He responded that it would have to be low-skill, and he'd have to be paid under the table to avoid the taxman.
I love the guy but that's not acceptable.
TL;DR: | Dad owes a bunch of money to the IRS, fears legal retribution. No other source of income or aid is available to my knowledge. What are some good tools or programs for tax "forgiveness" we can look into?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: I financially support my Father, who is afraid of getting a real job because he owes a significant sum to the IRS, and believes they will seize his earnings or put him in jail. Are there any resources we can take advantage of to ease his mind? More details inside.
POST: Hi /r/personalfinance,
To make a long, long story very concise:
A) Dad lost a lot of money during the collapse of 2008-ish, made worse by an expensive medical condition at the time.
B) Lost his job in 2010.
C) Has not been employed since, because he has chronic problems with his back (denied disability, twice) and because he wracked up a significant bunch of taxes he has yet to pay to the IRS.
D) Because of C), he is irrationally afraid to draw a paycheck or open a bank account.
He successfully filed for bankruptcy a couple years back. Most of his debts were erased, even taxes, but several more claims were made by the IRS after the bankruptcy settled, so he can't simply get rid of them.
I was unable to get an accurate number out of him, but what he owes the IRS is in the neighborhood of $5,000 to $20,000.
---
I am currently paying for his housing and groceries. I'm happy to help him out and am grateful that I have a decent enough job to be able to do it... but it is becoming an increasingly large strain on me and my finances. I don't think this is sustainable long-term.
I straight up asked him if he was looking for work anytime soon, because **anything** would help. Part-time, minimum wage, whatever. He responded that it would have to be low-skill, and he'd have to be paid under the table to avoid the taxman.
I love the guy but that's not acceptable.
TL;DR: Dad owes a bunch of money to the IRS, fears legal retribution. No other source of income or aid is available to my knowledge. What are some good tools or programs for tax "forgiveness" we can look into?<|endoftext|> | [
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t3_um4dz | AskReddit | Curious to know: who actually likes Israel? | I wish I didn't have to open with a disclaimer, but this being Reddit I feel it is necessary to point out that this question is not intended to be racist, hateful or anti-Semitic.
That said, I am curious to know if anyone actually has positive feelings about Israel? I ask because it seems that every week reveals a new human rights violation committed by the government and its subsidiaries, or some form of brutal violence or terrorism committed by unchecked religious zealots.
I understand that the US has a positive relationship with Israel due to trade and the strategic importance of having an ally located within the chaotic hotbed that makes up the Middle East, and that many of us perhaps still feel that Israel and Jewish people in general should be immune to criticism after the events of the previous century.
However, I find it disgusting and appalling to read about the bullshit this country pulls on a consistent basis, and how the rest of the world just kind of shrugs and looks the other way.
Eyes are glued to Muslim nations and Iran is treated as a wretched hive of scum and villainy because some people believe they might be making a nuclear weapon (what makes them more likely to actually use one than other "hostile" nations like Russia and China eludes me, given the obvious consequences of such a reckless action). Sharia law has certainly generated its share of injustices, but this doesn't stop western nations from maintaining friendly relations with other Islamic Law nations like Oman, Qatar and the UAE.
Furthermore, I believe if any nation offers the potential threat of nuclear action, it is Israel. A "pre-emptive" nuking of supposed grave threats just doesn't strike me as something out of their league.
So I have to ask - does anyone actually feel good about Israel? Why do you think they get away with what they do? Are people just afraid to talk about what some may consider to be a "taboo" subject? | I would like to know if anyone has positive feelings about Israel despite the human rights violations and threats of regional destabilization they are responsible for? | [
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TITLE: Curious to know: who actually likes Israel?
POST: I wish I didn't have to open with a disclaimer, but this being Reddit I feel it is necessary to point out that this question is not intended to be racist, hateful or anti-Semitic.
That said, I am curious to know if anyone actually has positive feelings about Israel? I ask because it seems that every week reveals a new human rights violation committed by the government and its subsidiaries, or some form of brutal violence or terrorism committed by unchecked religious zealots.
I understand that the US has a positive relationship with Israel due to trade and the strategic importance of having an ally located within the chaotic hotbed that makes up the Middle East, and that many of us perhaps still feel that Israel and Jewish people in general should be immune to criticism after the events of the previous century.
However, I find it disgusting and appalling to read about the bullshit this country pulls on a consistent basis, and how the rest of the world just kind of shrugs and looks the other way.
Eyes are glued to Muslim nations and Iran is treated as a wretched hive of scum and villainy because some people believe they might be making a nuclear weapon (what makes them more likely to actually use one than other "hostile" nations like Russia and China eludes me, given the obvious consequences of such a reckless action). Sharia law has certainly generated its share of injustices, but this doesn't stop western nations from maintaining friendly relations with other Islamic Law nations like Oman, Qatar and the UAE.
Furthermore, I believe if any nation offers the potential threat of nuclear action, it is Israel. A "pre-emptive" nuking of supposed grave threats just doesn't strike me as something out of their league.
So I have to ask - does anyone actually feel good about Israel? Why do you think they get away with what they do? Are people just afraid to talk about what some may consider to be a "taboo" subject?
TL;DR: | I would like to know if anyone has positive feelings about Israel despite the human rights violations and threats of regional destabilization they are responsible for?<|endoftext|> | [
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TITLE: Curious to know: who actually likes Israel?
POST: I wish I didn't have to open with a disclaimer, but this being Reddit I feel it is necessary to point out that this question is not intended to be racist, hateful or anti-Semitic.
That said, I am curious to know if anyone actually has positive feelings about Israel? I ask because it seems that every week reveals a new human rights violation committed by the government and its subsidiaries, or some form of brutal violence or terrorism committed by unchecked religious zealots.
I understand that the US has a positive relationship with Israel due to trade and the strategic importance of having an ally located within the chaotic hotbed that makes up the Middle East, and that many of us perhaps still feel that Israel and Jewish people in general should be immune to criticism after the events of the previous century.
However, I find it disgusting and appalling to read about the bullshit this country pulls on a consistent basis, and how the rest of the world just kind of shrugs and looks the other way.
Eyes are glued to Muslim nations and Iran is treated as a wretched hive of scum and villainy because some people believe they might be making a nuclear weapon (what makes them more likely to actually use one than other "hostile" nations like Russia and China eludes me, given the obvious consequences of such a reckless action). Sharia law has certainly generated its share of injustices, but this doesn't stop western nations from maintaining friendly relations with other Islamic Law nations like Oman, Qatar and the UAE.
Furthermore, I believe if any nation offers the potential threat of nuclear action, it is Israel. A "pre-emptive" nuking of supposed grave threats just doesn't strike me as something out of their league.
So I have to ask - does anyone actually feel good about Israel? Why do you think they get away with what they do? Are people just afraid to talk about what some may consider to be a "taboo" subject?
TL;DR: I would like to know if anyone has positive feelings about Israel despite the human rights violations and threats of regional destabilization they are responsible for?<|endoftext|> | [
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