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t3_r9p6a | AskReddit | Boss told me a regular customer died yesterday. Didn't recognize the name so I looked it up. Wasn't just a customer, but a friend of mine. What are some accidental horrific things you've discovered and how did you cope? | I've been away from the world for a couple weeks due to a hand injury. I'm typing this through gritted teeth but I need my Reddit family. I went into work to meet with my boss regarding the injury; I'm a Barista. She starts off by telling me one of our regular customers had been hit by a train and killed yesterday evening. She's telling me and looking at me like she's shocked I'm not just purely distraught and I didn't understand why. I thought I knew who she meant, and I definitely felt horrible, but she still seemed like she was expecting more. I knew the customer by the drink she described, but the name sounded off. I went with it.
I haven't talked to or seen any of my friends in a few days, contact has been hard.
I go online and research the accident to see if there is a picture regarding the woman involved to verify it's who I thought it was. I know she has a small daughter so I thought maybe we would do something nice for her. The name that I saw on my screen brought instantaneous tears to my eyes as it was not who I was thinking at all. The name and the drink given to me were both wrong. It was actually one of my good friends and yes, a regular customer. That's why my boss expected more from me. Only 22 years old. I feel disgusting over it in general but the fact that I found out from WORK? Horrible. I know in my heart she wasn't just playing on tracks. Something had to have gone wrong but that's a whole other story. | same as title, I guess. |
t3_3hjphb | relationships | I [21M] and in limbo with her [20F]. How do I get over her without getting over her? | The last thing she said was "now is not the time, and space is better right now".
She could get over me, she could find another guy, she may never want to see me again. But she also might want to give us a shot when I return from my internship. Her last text said maybe, one day we could be in love the right way. The LDR we started didn't work out due to my insecurity and I won't return until January. I know other guys will talk to her, and maybe even right now she could be talking to him. Or maybe not.
I don't want to delete her from anything because I don't want to eliminate the possibility. But thinking of her kills, and I won't get to see her until maybe October when I fly over to apologize.
I'd rather not dump the whole problem here, hopefully you get the jist. Ever been in an similar situation? I'd like to her it. | I scared off a girl with my insecurity, but how do I move on without throwing "us" out necessarily? |
t3_1ppclx | AskReddit | How do I cope with being ugly? It's making life so hard | I'm posting this because I feel like crap. I am really just trying to reach out for help so I am going to try here.
(Paragraph describing appearance removed for privacy)
I fake confidence really well. I can hold a conversation decently well and can make people laugh. I feel as though I have a good personality. No matter how funny or confident I am when talking to a girl she is never interested. I don't know how to improve. **I know the only thing I can do is have a good personality, but I already do.** I am always joking and happy with people and never show my depression. I've even been told I am fun to hang out with by the few people that actually hangout with me.
I crave attention from a girl so bad but it will never happen. No matter how good my personality is I will never find someone who is mutually attracted to me as I am with them. It's so hard see my "friends" getting attention from girls, invited to parties, being social and popular, having an actual use for facebook, and and generally living there lives. I don't even know if I'm going to go to my own prom. **I feel like I've just been left behind. Forgotten by the world. | I feel like my life is in shambles because of how I look. I have a good personality but my looks turn people away. I don't know what to do! |
t3_315su5 | relationships | Me [21 M] with my girlfriend [19 F] of four months, suddenly not okay with me smoking weed anymore | So my first serious girlfriend and I have been going out for about 4 months now. I'm probably what you call a stoner and have been smoking consistently for the past 3-4 years. We met about 5 or so months ago and she always knew I smoked and I used to smoke around her a lot. We had a serious conversation about a month and a half where she expressed she didn't want me to smoke around her anymore which is fine with me. I said I wouldn't smoke around her anymore and thought that was the end of that. She's never smoked before nor does she want to and I can totally respect that so I told her that's fine.
I'm now graduating college college and told her I planned to continue smoking after graduation which extremely upset her. She says she can't stand smoking weed and hates that I do it but doesn't want to "change" me and force me not too quit completely. So she's completely torn about it and I don't know what to do. I'm perfectly not smoking around her because I feel like I don't need to. But when we're not together I wanna smoke weed and hangout with my friends. She says she can tell a difference in the way I text and that it bothers her that I smoke.
I've started to feel guilty whenever I smoke because I hate to make her feel so sad. My friends tell me to just tell her I'll cut down on smoking but plan on continue to and let her make the decision from there. I really care for this girl, although I know it is our first real relationship, and we have so much fun together but I just hate that something like this is causing a divide between us. Any suggestions? | Girlfriend of four months suddenly has issue with my habitual pot smoking |
t3_15h4qq | dating_advice | I (21,M) need help getting a girl (22) who used to like me interested again... | Without getting into too much detail.. I (21, M) have recently started messaging this girl (22) i knew from high school, and it seemed to be going some where but a couple bad decisions on my part and me not being honest enough with my replies have lead me into a rut of sorts. She seems to have lost her interest in messaging me and only replies in response to what I say or have asked her. How do I get from that to a position where I can ask her out?
Fun Facts:
* She sort of asked me out in high school but i rejected respectfully, because i was close to someone at the time
* I used to go out with her best friend
* She is more outgoing than I am
* She usually dates older people, and I am a year younger than her
* Several things have happened these past few years and have decreased my mojo significantly.. but there are signs of it returning
I hope that is enough info to make a sort of clear picture.
I would really appreciate any suggestions or comments | I've been trying to ask a girl out but have seemed to have missed my chance and lost her interest. How can I get her interest back and ask her out? |
t3_532mbe | relationships | Guy(30M) asked my (25M) girlfriend(26F) for her number, he's married. | I'm in a dilemma. My girlfriend is an amazing woman that I love and trust. She told me that this guy she works with told her to give him her number. She said he was demanding not asking. She then told him that she had a boyfriend. He said "so that's a no?" And that he knew she did and that he knows me. Then he told her she should ask me because I know him.
Yes. I do know him not friends just acquaintances. Also I know he is married. She's also told me since he has worked there which hasn't been more than two weeks that he has creeped out alot of the girls she works with out.
My question is do I send a message to him, his wife, both, or just leave it and see if anything else happens? And what do I say? | girlfriend was asked by a married guy for her number |
t3_2j8m83 | relationships | Me [21 M] with my "Girlfriend [2500 F] 7 months, She's going for dinner with another guy? | Okay the girl I'm seeing (it's long distance at the moment) has been going out to dinner with this other guy, they're really friendly on social media and she's mentioned him a few times to me in person, "**** and I went to the cinema and then went for a meal" etc.
They went out last night as well, and it's really driving me insane. It might just be harmless but it's just upsetting me as I can't be there to ask her to dinner instead.
I really don't know what to do and how to confront it, she starts saying stuff like "I'm not going to be guilt tripped for having a life"
yet tells me stuff like "I thought you were with a woman last night, I couldn't sleep at all" | She's going for dinner with a guy, I don't know much about him or what he's interested in, feel helpless being so far away. always thinking about what they get up to :( She didn't even tell me this time, she just said "I'm out, speak soon x" then I found out via social media she went to dinner with him. |
t3_4q18qx | relationship_advice | 24M in long distance relationship with 23F not sure i can do it anymore | So the short version is we met online and hit it off the first 3 months we skyped everyday and texted all the time. These last two months have had 3 major fights and one mini breakup. I dont know what to do. In terms of interests and understanding each other its 10/10 but lately its been bad. She has a mental illness and it can get bad but weve dealt with it before. Lately she has become more withdrawn and i dont think i feel the same way anymore. Logically we are a perfect match but after 2 months of me trying to keep this going and receiving no responses and no communication i just dont know. Its even further complicayed because im moving to asia for a 2 year contract. Please help. | Long distance relationship with mentally ill gf who seems a perfect match now feels draining and a burden. I dont know what to do |
t3_1o1d1l | Parenting | Asking for 1 year old bed time and nap advice | Our daughter, just over 1 year old, won't go to sleep in her crib. She'll sleep in it for a couple of hours if my wife nurses her and cuddles her until she falls asleep. Because she won't stay asleep in the crib, we've resorted to co sleeping with her for both naps and bedtime. I'm a stay at home dad, and can get her to nap in our bed during, but have to fight with her most of the time to get her to finally relax and stop getting up and trying to explore. In our bed, she'll sleep through the night, which is why we've resorted to co sleeping. The main problem at this point, is that even though there's enough room in bed for the 3 of us, my wife and I don't sleep as well because of partner disturbance, and having to be extra careful not to disturb our precious time bomb. I've ended up sleeping on a spare bed outside of the room. We know we need to get her to sleep alone in her crib, but every time we try, it results in sleepless nights for all 3 of us, and by 3 or 4 in the morning, the little one ends up in bed anyway.
We've had suggestions to put the crib in a different room, let her cry and fuss, and we're willing to try that, but I was wondering if anyone here has had a similar circumstance and could offer some advice. | Can't get 1 year old to sleep unless she falls asleep next to one of her parents. Looking for advice other than cry it out (unless you have a super secret cry it out strategy) |
t3_2c2q45 | personalfinance | I don't know how to achieve my financial goals. Please advise... | Hey there r/personalfinance!
I'm a 32 M with an associate's degree working as a server in an upscale restaurant. I just started about a month ago and it's a really great gig and I feel I'm getting really good at it, but I'm only pulling down about $250 a week because summer is our slow season. My co-workers tell me that from October to May I can expect about $500 - $800 per week depending on the shifts I get. I'm also eligible for the company 401k starting in October.
After some thought I've realized that a long term goal I have is to move back to my home town, or a town like the one I grew up in. Problem is, houses in that area go for anywhere between 350 - 750k (right up to a million). I don't really want to get into managing a restaurant because I don't like the work load/salary trade off. I'm willing to work my butt off, but I don't know if the service industry fits my 5-10 year goals.
What's more so, I am completely debt free and hesitant to go back to school unless it's for something considered a pretty safe bet. I don't have a lot of people in my life who are older and wiser than me, and so I'm not sure how to plan out my next career move. I was thinking about saving money and heading back to community college, but I have no idea what for.
I guess I'm posting this because I'm hoping to find someone who has been in a similar situation and come out the other side. I want to start looking for professionals to network with in my community to get input and contacts, but again, I don't really know how. Has anyone here done something similar to what I'm trying to do? Again, I'm willing to work hard for a few years to achieve my goals, I just don't want to compound my issues with student debt if I don't have to.
I should mention I also have retail management experience and I am planning on being functionally fluent in Spanish by December.
Any advice is truly appreciated. Thanks! | Trying to develop a long term game plan to move back to the affluent neighborhood I grew up in, but can't see how as a server. Need advice on where to make my next career move. |
t3_rdeod | AskReddit | Reddit, What Is One Thing That You Deem Absolutely Necessary in Your Life That, If Others Don't Do It/Use It, You Can't Imagine How They Survive Day To Day? I'll Start. | MUSIC. For the love of all that is holy, music. I mean, I can't understand when I hear people say they only listen to what's on the radio or they don't buy/download any kind of music they like. Further, there's also people who just get singles from artists that are on the radio and never discover the other tracks these people release. I listen to music every single day and I can't begin to describe the countless situations in which it has made my life better, saved me from a dark place or inspired me to do something great. Music is the one thing I could never give up and I enjoy almost every kind that's out there. I can't stop searching for new music and cataloging my library so I'll always be able to enjoy the greatest artists that have shared their talents with the world. I feel like if you don't listen to different kinds of music or hear legends like Bob Marley, Ray Charles, Michael Jackson, The Eagles, Elton John, etc. then you're missing out on a huge part of your life on this planet. I can't be alone in this and I'm sure there are others who have something besides this that they feel is crucial for everyone to experience. | Music is a massive part of my life, I can't understand how people can live without enjoying the wonderful artists from throughout history. |
t3_1peq48 | relationships | Am I, 23 [M] spoiling my 21 [F] girlfriend with too much stuff? | I've become quiet serious with my girlfriend after about 8ish months of dating. I came out of a serious relationship that ended terribly, but now I'm seeing that I can move on, yatta yatta.
Well part of who I am is a big giver. I always say yes, try to help here and there, just be a good person. I also have recently gained a decent income and have enjoyed purchasing things for myself and my girlfriend that I was incapable of doing before. Recently I've bought my girlfriend some things, clothing/jewely items for fun, a dress for a formal event we are attending, and odds/ends type things. All in all, maybe $200 in the past couple of months have been spent on my girlfriend. Her friends have vocalized that I "spoil her" and she's "just using me", which I pray and hope is not true. I will agree I've gone a little crazy lately buying things in general, but, it's just nice to be able to do.
To wrap this up I don't think she is using me, we're happy like everyone else. Minor problems here and there but we handle them well. If my girlfriend is using me, how do I approach it/ask the right questions? Are her friends just jealous/seeing things from the outside? Am I dumb for treating a girl right? | Trying to treat my S/O to some nice gifts is making her friends call her spoiled. |
t3_2mkd01 | relationships | Me [20 M] trying to cope with forced breakup of gf [F 20] of 2+ years | I don't normally post to reddit but I have come here because I don't know what else to do or how to further handle my situation. My girlfriend and I started seeing each other just a after we graduated high school in May of 2012. It wasn't a serious relationship at first but we eventually developed extremely strong feelings for each other despite the fact that we were going to different colleges 700 miles away.
Over the next two years we were in an exclusive relationship even though it was long distance. She would come home for Fall/Christmas/Spring/Summer breaks and occasionally I would fly to where she was to see her. We were so happy together and so compatible with each other. It sounds cliché but we were honestly perfect for each other.
We fell deeply in love with each other and shared almost everyday of our lives together whenever we were in the same city. When she came home from school for the 2014 summer break, we knew our relationship had a deadline because this was the last summer where she would be coming home due to her major. The end of the summer came and we had a mutual breakup, even though neither of us wanted to break up.
It's been about three months since we broke up but we still text/snapchat everyday and occasionally we'll talk on the phone. I should also add that we lost our virginities to each other and I really valued the fact that we had both only had sex with each other. I have since found out that she has had sex with someone else since we broke up and I was devastated because I have barely even touched another girl. I'm not mad about this, just extremely sad about it.
Breakups are supposed to get easier with time but it almost seems like my breakup has only gotten harder. I feel depressed everyday. Some days are worse than others but I don't know how to handle this anymore. We are still in love with each other and still want to be together but because of her major and the fact that she probably won't be coming home when she graduates we don't know if ever getting back together will ever be possible and that absolutely breaks my heart. Any advice from anyone? | My girlfriend and I were basically forced to breakup because of the way our lives' futures looked. Any good advice? |
t3_2zrcaq | relationships | I'm [26M] dating someone who is awkward [22F] | So I'm dating someone who is a awkward who I have known for almost 2 years but we've only started chatting last April of '14, when I initially asked her out things keep getting rescheduled that I thought she wasn't interested. But she still made an effort to say when she is available.
We went out of a couple of times before she asked me what the deal was, she thought I was just friendly. Had a bit of a panic attack when I said that I like her, didn't want to turn me down because she has no idea at that time if she likes me as well.
A month has gone by and I asked her what we are, she replied that she is enjoying my company but feels bad because she feels that she is leading me on.
Just 2 weeks ago I asked her out on a Saturday, I was surprised she got her hair done and was wearing kind of a dress, even has makeup. I think this is a big thing because she normally never wears makeup or even wear anything resembling to a skirt. Plus she would usually just had her hair in a ponytail.
From what I've gathered she has never had a boyfriend and I'm probably the first one she has gone out with. She was never interested in dating.
Everyone is saying I'm a good influence on her and that I should keep doing what I should do. That she has vastly changed these past couple of months. Interacting with people more, smiling and laughing more too. | We've been dating for probably 3 months now, she still can't believe someone would want to date her. Have only dated a couple of girls, I've no idea how to make her know that I'm really interested in her. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. |
t3_1mfun6 | tifu | TIFU By Wandering Around Town With Drunk Girls | Last night I went to a party with lots of drinking and possibly drugs. Considering the fact that most people there drinking were underage, I wasn't so keen to be there. After about 45 minutes, a mom of a kid who was EXTREMELY drunk showed up along with our schools consuler. Many of us intoxicated, this was scary and the word that the cops were coming got around. Everyone left running and these two VERY drunk girls grab onto me and tell us we have to help them. Having no cars, we had to wander around town and into parks trying to keep these girls upright. Me and my friend ended up baby sitting them for three hours. We saw so many cops, they puked everywhere. Overall it was a shitty night. I'm mostly writing this on their behalf. Both have VERY strict parents and I'm pretty sure they got in huge trouble. | Me and my friend babysat extremely drunk girls for 3 hours when we could have had a VERY good time. They both got in serious trouble for underage drinking. |
t3_3j82zp | personalfinance | How much to keep liquid for grad school? | I am applying to grad school for fall 2016 and I want to make sure I am being as smart with my money as possible.
Right now I currently have about $30k sitting in my savings account, (I know, I know, that's why I'm here asking!) about $7k in Vanguard index funds that I contribute ~$1000 to over the course of each year, and I just became eligible to get matching contributions to my 403(b) at my job. (They match 5% if I contribute 3% or more)
I've wanted to keep a lot of my funds liquid because I'm not sure what the future will hold. Ideally I will get into a fully funded phd program and get a 25k/year or so stipend, but there is a chance I will do an in-state not-funded masters first. I still have enough in my college fund to cover the pretty inexpensive in-state tuition for 4 semesters, but I would either have to have enough savings to live on for 2 years, or take out loans.
So now the question is how much I should contribute to the 403(b). On one hand, I could max it out ($16,500) and not feel a thing even though I only make 30k pretax at that job, because I could just start supplementing my significantly reduced paycheck with savings. Or I could throw in like 5-7k just to get retirement savings started, but still keep more liquid. When I go to grad school, I can either keep it in the 403(b) or roll it over to an IRA.
I know having 30k in savings is not the best use of that money, but will the compound interest on putting a big chunk of it in the 403(b) outweigh potentially having to take out loans for grad school? | I have 30k in savings. How much should I invest (and where) versus leave liquid in case I need to support my self for 2 years while in grad school. |
t3_cba66 | AskReddit | Does anybody else like things just because they don't like them? | Not totally sure how to explain it, but I usually find myself choosing one thing over another because I don't like it, maybe it's ugly duckling syndrome (which I just made up) but I sort of think of it in a way that I can't really put into words.
I will generally grow to like anything over time with frequent exposure, when I was younger for example I liked Pokemon Blue because Red was an ugly colour, and I would generally only like the "flawless" actor/resse/s, but with time I would now choose Red, and I think [Toby Kebbel] is a very handsome looking dude.
Does anybody else get this? I imagine these things as being much more mentally stimulating because they're not so "easy to swallow", like [Death Cab for Cutie] where I heard it and it just slid right into my stomach where I promptly digested it and shat it back out without ever really noticing.
If it exists, is there a name for it? While I imagine there's parallels between this and whatever the whole "indiescenealternative" stuff that cycles around, it's not like that, I sound biased because I openly hate that whole thing, but in a way that's too intense to actually like it for that reason.
I don't really think I'm a masochist either :D | Fuck off if you can't read 250 words then your attention span is too short and you rely too heavily on instant rewards, which are not as good as rewards you get from investing in something and seeing a return. |
t3_kteh0 | AskReddit | How do I defend this argument with my girlfriend? | I (sspade) was at my mother's place business (a retail chain) with my girlfriend during business hours. My mother introduced my girlfriend and I to one of her coworkers. The conversation goes like this:
Mother: sspade and girlfriend, I would like you to meet my coworker.
sspade: Nice to meet you, how is work today?
Mother & Coworker: It has been one of those days, crazy people everywhere.
Girlfriend: I know what you mean, just last night a crazy girl followed us on the street and said, "F@CK YOU, you C*NT"
I quickly changed the topic. I was mortified. I could not believe that my girlfriend would say something like that in front of my mother and her coworker. I find it especially bad because we were in my mother's place of business and we were just introduced to the coworker a few seconds prior.
I did not say anything to my girlfriend that night because I did not want to get into a fight about it (maybe I should have said something). Two days later, my mother calls me and tells me she is upset about what happened. I told her that I would talk to my girlfriend. Well, when I talked to my girlfriend, she was completely mad that I did not defend her to my mother. She says that I am wrong for not defending her. In my family, we do curse and use some inappropriate language, but in my 30 years, in front of my mother, I maybe have said F@CK 5 times and I have never said C*NT. I don't think there is any way I would say that. I just feel that it is inappropriate.
My girlfriend maintains that she did nothing wrong as she was only relaying a story of something another person said.
Am I wrong for not defending my girlfriend and trying to protect my mother? How can I defend my position? I know I should have said something when it happened, but I really did not want to start a fight that night (I thought the situation would blow over). | My girlfriend said something inappropriate in front of my mother and her coworker and does not feel bad about it. |
t3_4mbi0i | relationships | Girlfriend and I broke up after 2.5 years TL;DR | so my girlfriend is 21 and I'm (male) 22 and we were 2.5 years into our relationship. She knew fairly close to the beginning of the relationship that she wanted to be with me, that I was the one. I on the other hand wanted to take things slow and wasn't in any hurry to get engaged or anything like that. Well time caught up to me and I knew it was time to either fully commit or let it go. I thought about it all the time going back and forth from she's the one to I don't know if she's the one.
She's a great girl and person and I still care about her deeply, but for me not knowing she's the one after 2.5 years I felt that that meant that she wasn't. She's my best friend and it makes me sick to my stomach thinking about that ending. I just want what's best for her and I don't know if that's me. I'm so lost. I love her family and she loves mine which makes it even harder.
Saying goodbye was the worst. I didn't know what to do. I'm a firm believer that everything happens for a reason but I just can't help but think I might have just made the biggest mistake of my life. I haven't told any of my friends or family because I don't know what to tell them. That's why I decided to post on here. I could really use some advice or any comments that could help. I'm a mess. Thanks. | doubting that I made the right decision of ending things with my best friend but we wanted different things. |
t3_4aa8x6 | relationships | Me [18M] with my [18F] crush of 2 years, she won't believe me when I say I like her because I made our entire relationship into a joke | So this girl, (let's call her small), used to like me, but at the time I didn't have feelings for her. Around two years ago, I started to develop some sort of nascent feelings for small. I kept these "feelings" (if you could even call them that, an "inkling of desire" might be a better way to phrase it) to myself, while her feelings for me eventually died down.
Earlier this year, we started to be a lot more intimate with each other. It started out with tickling, then cuddling, then shirts off, etc. My feelings for her started to grow stronger and stronger, but I decided it would be better not to mention anything. During this period, I started consistently telling her "that I have deep, unironic feelings for you", but she took it as a joke (because I was clearly framing it as one). Every time I repeated it she would just brush it off, and my consistent humorous repetitions/her unrequited affection for me earlier/my seemingly apathetic and at times asexual personality all contributed to her not taking me seriously. This past night, I decided to just be 100% straightforward with her and reveal that I do have feelings for her. But at this point she is so conditioned against taking me seriously that she just refuses to believe me. On top of that, I'm not completely sure that I actually do have feelings for her. I have some symptoms of what people generally attribute to liking someone else (the time I spend with her is one of the most fun parts of my life, I start to feel a bit anxious if I'm away from her for a while on vacation, etc.), but I don't have that excitement that's supposed to come with interacting with her. | Kept joking about how much I like a girl to the point that when I actually revealed I have "feelings" for her she refused to believe me. How do I get her to believe me? And how do I figure out if I do actually have feelings for her or if we are just good friends? |
t3_259h7h | relationships | My crush [35/M] showed up where I [27/F] was hanging out yesterday! Am I reading too much into this? | I got up the nerve to contact my crush and give him my number, and he gave me his number in return! Score 1!
Says he's free these certain days and we can hang out! Score 2!
Tell him I'm hanging out at this certain place and to swing by if he wants. He says he's not sure he has the time, but (Score 3!!) he shows up with a friend!
I talk to them all night, and although he turns me down for a ride home (already agreed to go with his mate) I was feeling a little too "loosened up" at the time and I regret offering, I knew his friend had already offered. Negative 1 score.
But he still tells me that we could hang out next weekend.
My wing-lady noticed I was hitting on him and sort of made fun of me. I probably tried a bit too hard but I'm going to blame the beer.
Anyway, I'm excited he's entertaining the idea of seeing me next weekend, but I'm not sure if I did okay tonight and how I should proceed. Advice would be greatly welcomed! | Need advice! What do I do? I think he may be interested but I'm not sure. |
t3_fo1o4 | AskReddit | Network Engineer wanting to volunteer skills/services to charity/non-profit. | A little background. I am a network engineer based out of Indianapolis, IN, who primarily works with Cisco equipment on a daily basis. I have a lot of experience with both routers, switches, firewalls, etc. I am confident in my abilities when it comes to both Windows, Mac OS X, and Linux (though I'm more practiced in Ubuntu than any other flavor of linux). My home network is way too complex for what a simple Linksys router could accomplish! I am familiar with open source software (both for work and home), as well as enterprise class software (work-related).
My problem: For some time now, I've wanted to use my technical knowledge and abilities to help others, but I have no idea where to begin. I've offered to help out at my church but they don't need me, and I'm not sure how to find a non-profit or charity or something that I could help out with.
My question: Does anyone have any ideas, or suggestions, or something along those lines of some way I could help out in this regard?
Thanks. | I want to volunteer my services/skills with computers/networking in some fashion. |
t3_m7frm | AskReddit | Why do we have to pay for Internet usage? | The Internet is going to be there whether we use it or not. It's not a utility like water is(the water company distributes the water and you buy it from them) and it's self-managed(websites are run by the companies that set them up, they gain money either by subscription fees or ads). I can understand a fee for setup, but why pay for data allowance? If it's to keep the satellites up, surely the money from phone services should take care of that. If it's for maintenance and repair of the lines, the phone thing should work on that too right? Why should we have to pay for something that technically, no-one owns? | the Internet is like oxygen, no-one holds a claim to it and it's always going to be there. Why isn't data allowance free? |
t3_q6xs1 | AskReddit | Do you vividly remember your first experience with the internet? | Mine was about 17 years ago now, I was in grade three and had this fascination with sharks. My teacher decided to send me down to the library so I could pursue my research. The librarian sat me down in front of the computer and opened up Internet Explorer.
Now, I don't come from a well-off family, and at the time we didn't even have a computer at home so I was a little in over my head. She told me to type what I want into the address bar and fucking left me.
So me being next to clueless typed in something like, "Information about sharks and blah blah ocean killers" into the address bar and of course it didn't work. I ended up saying the grade three equivalent of "fuck this" and went back to class. | Librarian threw me on the computer with little instruction and I got pissed off and left. Do you remember losing your internet virginity? |
t3_2l1zia | relationships | Me [24 M] with my GF [24 F] have been dating for 6 months and still no sex because she is a virgin | Details are important to get a good understanding for guidance thank you very much for reading.
I'm a 24 year old male going to be 25 soon and my girlfriend is the same age as me. I met her 6 months ago and is she is the total package. Smart, sexy, career driven, etc. My friends are all super jealous and my parents and sister love her and the feeling is mutual with her family. I've been through a lot of bad tumultuous relationships in the past and this one is a lot more relaxing and the trust is there. Here's the catch. She's a VIRGIN and I knew that on the 2nd date so its not like I was uninformed and got bait and switched. Its just so rare to find a smoking hot virgin with the total package (in my eyes) and happens to also be the same ethnicity as me (Greek) which definitely is another super plus. She is wife material.
But 6 months and still no sex. She gives me oral though but our relationship lacks that crazy passion and I am constantly tempted to cheat not because I don't love her but because what I want she is not willing to give (at least not in the last 6 months).
What do I do? | Dating super sexy smart giri has total package but is a virgin and we haven't had sex in 6 months. Don't know what to do. |
t3_33raxq | relationships | Would it be out of line for me (26F) to send a card/small gift to the wedding of a couple (26M/25F) of old friends who didn't invite me? Details inside. | So myself, E(F25), and her fiance J(26M) all went to highschool together. We were all part of the same tight circle of friends. E and J are getting married in about a month, and I haven't received an invitation to their wedding (and it's NOT a small event).
E is still best friends with another girl we graduated with, T(25). T and I had a large falling out about a year ago, and although I haven't ever really been at odds with E, I'm pretty sure T bossed E around until she agreed not to invite me to their wedding. I don't really have any hard feelings as I haven't been close with the girls in years, but I still talk to E's fiancee, J(M26) from time to time, and I really do wish the best for them.
Would it be out of line for me to mail them a card and maybe a small gift card or something? I don't really plan on pursuing a friendship with them besides occasionally bumping into them at high school reunions, but I still feel like I should congratulate them, or at least J, since we're still on very pleasant (if not very close) terms. | left off of wedding invite list, but still want to congratulate the couple. Thoughts? |
t3_3ce2i7 | Parenting | Really need advice regarding single parenting / joint custody | Me and my Gf have been together for over 5 years, we have recently had a Son who is now 6 months old. First off I don't want to pose this question to r/relationships because all I got was to try couples therapy and when I even suggest that we need a mediator she gets defensive, takes offence to the idea.
We are both extremely stressed with each other , 24/7 fighting . I feel as though this will always continue because arguing over almost any issue was a constant even before our Son was born.
I'm considering that this relationship is a lost cause but I love them both and do not know what to do going forward. Is he too young to subject this too ? financially we depend heavily on one another and most of are finances are joined.
If anyone who has a had a similar situation could share some advice , I know my son will be loved no matter what, I just don't know where to go from here or if there is ever a right time to talk about it . Was considering trying a break to feel out how we both do individually. Thanks I can answer what I can! | girlfriend and I fight constantly, have a 6 month old, I need to be happy and feel as though the relationship could be over . How can I deal with this and when? |
t3_19oqgy | relationships | I (23m) need some advice on breaking up with my gf(24f) of 2 years | I've been on the fence about this but have decided its something I have to do.
We have discussed most of our issues to some length over the past year or so but I don't believe she finds them as problematic as I do.
This will be the first serious relationship I will have to end and don't really know how to go about it. Particularly before and after (i have a fair idea of what I should say during). I'm unsure how to handle the "before" because I don't think she will have much warning I do t want it to be a surprise bit at the same time I feel our relationship should be indicative of itself but my friends and family have told me they don't think she will see it coming at all. The "after" I think is tricky because we met in university and she didn't have any close friends until I pulled her in to my group of friends, when I leave I believe they will all take my side and she'll have no one. I also don't know what to do in terms of no contact.
I still care about her a great deal and want this to go as smooth as possible.
Issues: (you can skip this if its unnecessary I know its getting lengthy)
She wants to get married and start a family asap... And I want to focus on my career and getting my life on track, I'm not sure if we're even right together to be married. sometimes I think she's so set on getting married it blinds her to our relationship issues. As far as my career goes I plan to open my own engineering firm and this takes a lot of capital which I don't think could be feasible with the lifestyle she wants.
She is very argumentative, little things normally, I pick my battles but lately I haven't had the patience.
Our sex drives are polar opposites, basically the passion has been gone for over a year now and she only does it to placate me... Which is not so much emasculating as it is infuriating. | girlfriend and I have grown apart and i need advice in ending it, should I give her more of a warning and what do i do after with mutual friends etc. |
t3_3v8i7l | tifu | TIFU by trying to give my number to a guy | So this actually happened two years ago when i was a sophomore in high school but I thought why not share it.
So my friends and I were standing in the commons of my school and I always had a crush on this one guy that was in the commons as well. Cue my friends with great ideas; "You should give him your number!" After discussing how I would give it to him we decided that it would be cute if I asked him if I could give him something then write my number on his hand. Cute right?...wrong. I ended up walking up to him and asking him and then going to grab his hand to write my number on it. He jerked his hand away from me and goes "no" with a stern look on his face. For a good awkward 30 seconds I tried to decide what to do. I ended up kinda mumbling "okay" and walked away defeated. To make it worse he was in a huge group with his friends. Now my friends and I laugh about it but it was probably one of the most awkward moments of my life. | Tried to give my number to a guy by writing it on his hand, he jerked his hand away and said no, awkwardly said okay and walked away |
t3_3c8bfi | relationships | Me [19 / F] with my [18 / F] sister. I found something out and I am not sure what to do... | Backstory: I come from a pretty religious home. I have one sister, who doesn't id with any religion, specifically. She is a VERY private person and doesn't really tell us much about her feelings/ boyfriend/ personal stances. My parents raised us to follow rules of no underage drinking, no sex before marriage, etc. This comes into play later.
So, a few days ago I was helping my sister find her phone. She was out of the house, and was making sure she left it at home. (called me from another phone) I found it, and saw she had a few messages on it. I assumed these to be from her texting her phone to find it, so i opened her phone to reply.
The phone opened upon messages of her and her boyfriend, and long story short, they implied that they have been having sex.
I realize it's her body, her relationship, and probably NONE of my business to have snooped and found this out. But I love my sister, and I have a few concerns. One of them being, I feel like my mother should know about this. My mom has always told us if we ever did decide to do anything like this, to come to her. My mom is super supportive and loves us both dearly. Also, my sister is still living in their house, so I feel like their rules also still apply.
I know my mom would want my sister to be safe, and would want to know about this. I am a bit torn. I love my sister very much and really want to let her know that I am here for her if she needs to talk about anything.
I believe my sister is on BC ( for acne/period related reasons). This is her first and only boyfriend. I just want to make sure she knows the risks and is being safe. How should I approach this to minimize damage in any relationships? Should I just pretend I never saw this? | found out sister is having sex with bf, have religious parents. Feel like they should know, but I am torn. help? |
t3_nbc6c | legaladvice | Hospital Bills, they keep sending me new bills and charges. Am I actually legally responsible? | Hey lawyers and legal experts of reddit,
So basically my child had a surgery on an ankle, I got an estimate for my portion of the procedure for $900. Obviously physicians orders and actual operating time can adjust that and they came back with $1000 actual cost. After setting up a payment plan with them I received a new bill with an additional amount charged and even a bill from a separate group for Anesthesia. My insurance company keeps paying part of these charges. ***Am I liable to pay an adjusted bill after all the costs were already calculated and billed?*** I have a feeling that because the hospital is the only one for children and they must take uninsured patients they realized that I have insurance and money so they are trying to squeeze out the most of it. Please help me! | the hospital sent me one bill, I set up a payment plan, now they are sending me a higher bill for no apparent reason |
t3_f1ogm | AskReddit | Hello Reddit. I own a small business in Denver CO, and I need some help. | I currently employ 3 office staff and about 120 subcontractors. Business is great, but our growth has exceeded our capital, and we're in need of short term funding. The banks I've spoken with are only offering rates around the 20% range, and even that is for very small amounts. I'm turning to Reddit as a last stitch effort to keep the doors open.
I'm not looking for a handout, but rather a business loan. I need $100,000 at a low interest rate. I can provide extensive documentation to support our financial strength as well as bank statements and any other information you would need. Any millionaires out there feel like helping a fellow Reddit entrepreneur? | Small biz needs loan. |
t3_2hnbgs | relationships | Caught boyfriend [M25] in the act this morning. Extremely embarrassed. What can I [F26] do? | One year relationship.
So I stayed the night at my boyfriend's last night and woke up this morning with the great idea of going to the bakery for breakfast. I wanted to be cute and surprise him with donuts before he woke up.
Well, I ended up leaving and coming back within 20 minutes. When I got back to his place, I went to the bedroom to wake him up and that's when I walked in on him. He had his laptop open and was masturbating to a bikini pic of me from this summer. Needless to say, he was extremely embarrassed and wouldn't even look at me when we were eating breakfast. lol.
I feel bad. I told him it was totally fine, but things have been a little awkward today. Has anyone else gone through this before? What can I do to fix this? | Caught boyfriend [M25] masturbating to a picture of me [F26] and now he seems pretty embarrassed. |
t3_3vupep | relationships | Me [27F] only value romantic relationships. Friendships don't make me happy. | I feel really, really sad when I'm single. And over the moon happy when I'm in love and have a boyfriend.
Now that I'm single (it's been about 7 weeks), I find myself crying almost everyday. I've been forcing myself to go out and be social but ONLY because I'm hoping to meet someone. Friendships just do not give me the joy that a romantic partner does.
I like time with my family too (and I'm very close with my mom, see her a lot), but I'm just so badly seeking a BF, and feel super lonely and sad when I don't have one.
I workout in a group fitness class 3 times a week in the mornings before work. I thought that would keep me happy, but it hasn't. I keep busy. I just... want a bf so badly, and feel very sad without one... and even if I occupy free time with friends and social activities, I go back home feeling sad because I don't have a SO.
Is this normal? | I just value time with romantic SO, not friendships. I just hangout with friends and be social in hopes of bumping into a guy who could potentially be my next SO. |
t3_53j341 | relationships | My [18 M] girlfriend [17 F] and I have different religions, what can we expect? | My girlfriend and I have been happily dating for almost 6 months now, and we openly discuss things like political and religious differences. We don't argue or try to force our beliefs on one another, and we accept our differences there. I was raised Catholic, but am still searching to find my faith, whether it be in a church or not. She, because of her experiences growing up is an atheist. Neither of us really imagine that we would want kids down the road, but we aren't certain about that either. From couples with different religions, what kind of conflicts/issues should we be aware of as we develop our relationship? | I'm searching to find my faith, and she is an atheist. What conflicts may arise in the future? |
t3_3hda8f | relationships | Me [16 M] with my best friend [16 M] since 4th grade, I told him I didn't think our (and all of my) friendship(s) mattered | Let me preface this by saying that I really, really value my friendships. My family life is non-existant so I really enjoy spending time with my friends, and I haven't really "chilled" with most of my friends all summer, for various reasons. My summer has been so boring, and its made me feel pretty lonely, and I'm bad at expressing my emotions, so I say dumb shit like this all the time when I really, really don't mean it (granted I've never fucked up this badly). Anyways,
About 5 weeks ago when I was having a sleep over w/ my friend, we'll call him Adaam, I told him that I didn't value any of my friendships (including ours). He basically became silent after that and got out of my house ASAP the next morning. I feel absolutely horrible about this. I sure as hell didn't mean it, and I sure as hell didn't mean to hurt the dude. He's practically family to me.
To top it all off, he's told a lot of my very, very close friends what I said and now they're all giving me the cold shoulder. School hasn't started yet so I can't talk to any of them in person, however that's an option cause school starts in about 4 days, but I don't know what I plan on doing when I see Adam or any of my other friends.
I haven't tried to make any contact with any of them, since I'm really worried I hurt them all, and I'm also worried they'll tell my other friends or my girlfriend of 2 years (who is my world).
Is there hope at recovering? Can I rekindle any of these friendships? What should I do? How can I prevent any of my other good friends wanting nothing to do with me? (although I kinda deserve it for saying such a stupid fucking thing) | Told my friend I didn't value any friendships cause I'm bad at putting my emotions into words (I didn't mean a word of it, though). He told other friends. None of them want anything to do with me. Helpppp |
t3_2df73h | relationship_advice | Mismatched expectiations between me [19M] and girlfriend of 2 years [19F] | So, for some background, my girlfriend and I have been dating for over 2 years, and known eachother for at least 6. After knowing eachother for so long, a mutual connection was there and we have been dating ever since.
We have been able to get through thick and thin together, but recently there has been an issue that surfaces regularly between us. During the past few months however, I have had a lot more free time than her, and we seem to be disagreeing on what I should be doing during that time. She gets upset when I spend time where I can't immediately be available to her. If I miss a call during any hour of the day, she's upset because she was really excited to call me, or if I don't answer a text because I'm busy, she feels as though I'm brushing her off when I really don't mean any of it.
I guess what I'm trying to say here is that I really love her, and I want to spend time with her, and want to make the most of our time together (which to be honest is at least 3 full days a week) but as soon as I infringe on her vision of what our time together is going to look like (eg I want to see friends for a few hours one of those days) then she gets withdrawn and says she doesn't feel wanted.
So, reddit, what do I do? Will this fix itself in time, or will this be a constant issue in our relationship? We always try to talk it out, but it turns into her upset that she doesn't always have my full attention, and that I spend too much time with friends. | My girlfriend wants so much of my attention (because she loves me), and I love her just as much, but I just can't give it to her. I need to have a life outside of our relationship and it's difficult being able to balance both, any advice? |
t3_1wju27 | relationships | [23M] met [23F] on Tinder. Been talking non-stop for three weeks. How do I go about sorting a meet up out? | After coming out of a long-term relationship I thought I would try and get myself back in the game.
A friend recommended Tinder, so I thought why not? Ended up matching with a girl about half an hour away and we hit it off really well. We've got a lot in common in terms of music tastes and travelling and the like.
After talking for two weeks in Tinder she gave me her number and we've continued to speak via text message.
She has told me that she would like to meet up and we've been flirting on and off too. She said the other night that if she didn't want to speak to me she wouldn't and that I'm now stuck with her. I told her she wouldn't be a bad person to be stuck with, and she said I'm not too bad myself - the standard lines etc.
How can I get a meet up locked down. We've said a couple of times that we would like to meet up but haven't organised anything yet - even just for a drink or something like that. She works 13 hour shifts three days a week and I work 9-5 monday to friday.
Do I leave her to make the move and suggest a proper time to meet up, or do I keep making the suggestion? | Met a girl on Tinder. Have a lot of shared interests. Spoken every day for last three weeks. Need to sort out a meet up - do I leave it to her or do I keep asking? |
t3_51cycd | relationships | Should I (35/F) distance myself from a friend (35/M) I have a crush on? | Throwaway because my husband knows my username. I'm pretty sure I'm over thinking this situation but thought some outside opinions would be useful.
I've been friends with Eric since high school. He's a genuinely great person. We have always just kind of clicked, our first couple of years in college in particular he was one of my best friends. I always had a HUGE crush on him, but he always had a girlfriend so I never acted on it. Crush feels kind of inadequate describing it to be honest, I think I was as close to being in love with him as you can be with someone you don't actually have a romantic relationship with. After college I moved out of state and we lost touch, I met my husband and we have been together almost 10 years and have three kids. We have a wonderful relationship.
About a year ago we moved back to my hometown together and I've gradually started reconnecting with some high school friends, including Eric. He is married now and we double date and all have a great time together. He has a lot in common with my husband, including some hobbies that I don't share with them, so they are starting to form a genuine friendship outside of my friendship with him.
The problem I'm having is that when I hang out with Eric I still feel like I have a crush on him. We just get along so well, we didn't talk for 8 years but have been able to pick right back up when we left off. I feel guilty about this sometimes, like it's disrespectful to my husband (although nothing remotely inappropriate has ever happened, I would never risk my relationship with my husband). I am a little worried that talking to my husband about it might make it awkward between him and Eric, and I would hate for him to lose a potential friend when he just moved across the country with me and doesn't know many people here yet. So…am I over thinking all of this? I know crushes happen but I can't help but wonder if maybe I should try to distance myself from Eric and just encourage my husband to go out and do stuff with him without me. Or should I talk to my husband and let him decide? | I am happily married and have a crush on a male friend. Should I distance myself from this friendship or am I over thinking it? |
t3_eisaz | AskReddit | I think I have a ghost. | To be clear: Intellectually, I don't believe in ghosts. However, my inner child is a screaming, cowardly little girl who still can't deal with looking at mirrors in dark rooms because it's spooky. So. With that in mind.
I just moved into a really old house in Southern California. My room is very close to a kitchen, which, according to the landlady's son, is haunted. He claims to have seen a woman in the kitchen as well as on the southwest corner of the property, where her body is buried (I have verified this-- there is actually a grave there). Also, the landlady's grandson claims an unknown woman once came into one of the two normally unoccupied children's rooms (also near my room) in the middle of the night and said she loved him. The descriptions of the woman match.
Lately in my room, lightbulbs have been shorting out, lights have been switching from on to off while my back is turned, and I am finding objects knocked over that really shouldn't be knocked over (or objects moved places they shouldn't be-- for example, pens placed in my coffee cup while my back is turned). This is all giving me a really bad general vibe from the house.
Do I have a ghost? Am I just letting my superstitious-little-girl-self get the better of me?
If I do have a ghost, what should I do? Alternatively, if someone is screwing with me, what then?
( | I maybe have ghosts, what would you suggest I do about it) |
t3_1bpc4a | relationships | My (19f) boyfriend (18m) snooped | We have been dating since January 2012, with a 4 month break in September to December. This means a relationship of 1 year, 3 months.
Directly after the break, I immediately regretted my decision, and felt the want to have sex with another person. I asked reddit about how to propose an open relationship with my boyfriend on my other throwaway throwaway, which then turned into my main account. I decided against breaking up with him/asking for a break, and have never ever cheated on him.
\i hve never kept secrets from him, except for this. We dont look at each other texts, or messages on facebook, because we trust each other. In mid March, I told him my reddit user name because he wouldnt stop begging, and actually became slightly angry I would tell him. It bothered me a bit, because I felt like it was the only thing I had left that was private. We tell everything to one another, and communicate pretty well in my mind.
However, he snooped a few nights ago, and obviously was infuriated at the one bad post. I understand. I re assured him of my change of mind, etc etc. But i still feel that he really breached my trust. We have always kept our promises, and have always gone out of our way to never break one another's trust, or boundaries.
I can communicate properly to him, I just dont know what to say. I know I am wrong for writing up that post, but I really wanted to bring it up on redit before him, where I felt I could get some level-headed, non biased, truthful and harsh advice. I wanted to bring it there before I did or said something that could have damaged my relationship.
Now, i just feel sad. I finally started feeling like I could trust him after he broke up with me but now.. I just dont know. | My boyfriend and I have never breached each others trust, until now. He snooped when he promised not to, and I feel like I cant trust him. Although he snooped, he saw something he didnt like. I have never cheated. |
t3_f31ma | AskReddit | Anyone from the Langhorne, PA area? I need the low down. | So, I'm trying to decide whether I want to take a major life step. I've lived in Maine my entire life (all almost 24 years of it) and I've recently earned my BA.
I want to become a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor (LCPC in Maine, LPC elsewhere). For that, I most def need a Masters. So I say to myself, "Self, I need a Masters. Where should I go?" My family's all, "Maine, Stay in Maine and go to USM." I say, "Die a messy death with a Popsicle and a tire pump if you ever say such a thing to me again!"
I've narrowed down the schools. I'm interested in a school in Langhorne. SO, my question is this: what sort of place is it? I was born in a town with under 8k in population. In comparison to that, and Portland, Maine, which has around 65k. I lived near there for four years and loved it. It was much more...vibrant? Not dead?
In any case, PLEASE, REDDIT I AM BEGGING YOU! I don't want to go in blind. Tell me how it is. | What is Langhorne, PA like? |
t3_2luei3 | offmychest | Finally got to have a sexual experience (bj) I've wanted for a while, and it felt great | I´m 21 years old, and for the longest time have wanted to get more intimate with girls sexually than I have been. I had a long relationship with a wonderful girl but we mutually ended it about a month ago because of our changing identities and a general frustration with differing expectations physically. I always wanted to be really intimate with her but she felt uncomfortable with that and I never pushed her beyond what she was okay with. However, this led to a lot of pent-up frustration on my part. I grew up suppressing my sexual desires due to my religious, conservative upbringing, but in the past two years have felt an ever-increasing desire to become my own person and do what really makes me happy. I realized that this situation, along with other things, probably wasn't the healthiest for me or her.
Fast-forward to recently. There's a girl that I like. We have chemistry. I don't want to commit to a legitimate relationship yet, as I want to give myself time for emotional stability and recovery, but we have been hooking up of sorts. A week ago she gave me my first bj ever. Tonight, she gave me a second one. I never realized that a sequel to something so great would be even better. | Finally got to experience a blowjob, and then another one. They were fantastic. That is all. |
t3_3spdfw | relationships | Me 32 M with my girlfriend 33 M/F of 4 years, I moved out for a break and am second guessing moving back in | Long story short, after a year or so of being unhappy I moved out of my girlfriend's place. Originally I intended to break up with her, but it ended up breaking both our hearts and we decided to give it another shot under the condition that I moved out for a few months. And now it's coming time for me to move back in.
In a lot of ways my moving out made us grow closer together. And for the last few months it was bliss for both of us. But now reality strikes. The main issue for me is that we have different levels of energy. I'm a homebody who really hates things like work parties, family gatherings, etc. I've already been worked up all month dwelling about Thanksgiving. When we were "breaking up" my girlfriend essentially promised me the world in terms of being less demanding of my time for these things. But she seems sad and distant when I tell her the truth that I would honestly rather spend Thanksgiving alone, and that I don't understand why she needs me there when she's got her family there for her.
And now these events are adding up. Thanksgiving and Christmas, which will be spent with her family and involve multi-day trips where she and I doing all the cooking (I love cooking but having no choice makes me feel helpless and these certainly make me unhappy). Then she wants to take short vacation, then New Years, and to top it all off she wants to do a small party at our house.
I just have this dreadful feeling because all the pressure from having to do all this stuff is exactly what made me move out in the first place. I love her dearly but I feel like she still doesn't "get" me. Or we're just not right for each other. But then I think of the heartbreak I had trying to leave her and the alternative of not moving back in and basically losing my only friend in this city. Just wanted some outside perspective. | Can't live with her, can't live without her. |
t3_h0ruj | dogs | If you post about problems with your dog here. | **Information about the dog:**
* Age.
* Country.
* Breed.
* Sex.
* Periods (as hormones can change a lot specially the first one).
* Dogs weight.
* Food? How much? How many times a dog? And what food.
**Skin/Poor infection:**
* Please link to a photo.
* Where you live.
* Where the dog sleep/takes a nap.
* Changes in the food?
* Special info "We went for a run in the forest and...", "I changed his bed...", "There are mites or ticks..."
**Diseases:**
* Are you up to date with the vaccinations?
* Have you looked at the teeth?
* Have you looked at the pop? Solid? Soft?
* Vomit? How often? Color what was it? When did he/she eat?
* Do he/she eat? Drink?
* Maybe revelant: When the last time you dewormed he/she.
If you think it's a serious problem take the dog to the vets, if you are poor, you should of thought that **before** getting a dog i must say, ask a bank or a friend to leand you money for a dog, maybe.
I'm certain that i misted a few important points here, please comment. Maybe we can sum up this post and make some guidlines?
**And... Take your pet to the vets. | If you ask questions about your dogs health, we need know a little info about the dog. |
t3_x3bdb | AskReddit | What are some of the most ridiculous things you've seen a teacher do during a lecture/class? | I was taking a sociology course at my university this past year, and the professor had a no-laptop policy, presumably so people would pay more attention and spend less time on the internet (as if). There was a blind girl in my class who needed a typing machine to take notes. During one class she stopped the lecture because she heard typing, and despite knowing that this girl needed to type her notes, the professor made her stop and the situation eventually escalated into a yelling match. The girl failed the course because she couldn't take notes. I'm sure there are some crazy stories out there. Let's hear em! | Apparently blind girls aren't allowed to take notes |
t3_1tnwy0 | Pets | My dog is getting put down on Thursday | My grandmother has a dog named Boots that I've been very close to for the last 4 years. I'm not one to get attached to things even pets but this dog and me just click. It's like we understand each other on a deeper level. I lived with my grandmother for a year and Boots and I were inseparable during that time. She was a great companion through a very rough breakup. Half the time I visit it's to see the dog. I freaking love that dog more than anything.
I had a dream a week ago and Boots was acting really strange dragging her butt around acting sick. It was weird. Today my grandmother says she had a stroke and since then hasn't been doing anything but eating and can't go outside by herself. She is making these horrible yapping noises (that I've only heard her make when she thinks I'm too far away. The dog has never barked for anything but me and food.) They're the worst thing to hear right now because she is in so much pain. It's breaking my heart. I've been crying for 30 minutes now. I don't know how I can let go. I'm hoping this post will help. Thanks for listening Reddit. | My dog had a stroke and needs put down and I am not ready for her to leave me. |
t3_18h9l3 | AskReddit | How do you regain someone's trust? | Ok, so I have a friend (she's one of my friends, actually!) who's parents are kind of strict, she especially IS NOT allowed to have one sip of an energy drink (it will make sense later, as I tell the story). One day she had a get together with me and to other girls and I brought a monster so I could stay up later. After I drunk most of it I put it in my friends mini fridge and forgot about it, the next morning her dad found it. (I wasn't there when he found it, so I don't know the exact reaction he had) My friend said that he literally interrogated her until she told him who had brought it. That was my first mistake, and apparently her parents weren't really that mad since I never even gave her a sip of it. But the next time I went over there I borrowed her iPad to go on reddit and accidentally forgot to log out. Her mom used it the next day and went through the account (not even knowing what Reddit was) and saw me using some not so "appropriate" words (no cussing AT ALL at her house, her parents are especially strict about that rule). She "interrogated" my friend again about who's account it was. Also, one of the things i posted was a rage comic about her from over the summer and her mom saw that too, so her mom was extremely POed about me talking about her like that (we had a HUUUUGE dissagrement over the summer, but we have become really good friends since then). I know what I did was wrong but now my friend's parents said that I'm not allowed to hang out for a looooooooooooooooooonnnnnnnngggg time, and defiantly not until next year(they never said that to me, they said that to my friend)! She's one of my best friends, I really want to hang out with her again soon! How do I regain her parent's trust?
Thanks for reading, I realize it was extremely long. :) | I did something stupid and now i'm not allowed over my best friends house, how do I regain her parents trust? |
t3_z1xh3 | AskReddit | Reddit, a nursing manager made my girlfriend cry. Help me plot Revenge! | To make a long story short, my girlfriend who was new to the medicine floor, left her coffee mug in an area that she shouldn't have, and the nursing manager threw it away. To be fair, people leave thermoses and coffee cups in that area all the time without problem. AND, this was a $30 super nice vacuum-insulated mug that I bought as a bday gift. AND, the nursing manager threw away everyone's items/mugs without telling anyone, while they were standing not 10 feet away doing rounds (she was in a back room so they couldnt see what she was doing, and weren't really paying attention). Nobody ever explained that you cannot leave items in that area, and when questioned the manager yelled at my girlfriend for not knowing the rules (as I said, they were never explained) and threatened to call the hospital CMO. | HELP ME PLOT THE PERFECT REVENGE. I have no shame and will try to carry out as many ideas as I can (without breaking the law/getting fired). |
t3_mwthe | relationships | EX Wife hates my current partner - we have kids and it's becoming a problem | I'm 28 and my ex wife is 29. We were married for 4 years (together 6) before splitting up over 18 months ago, we also have 2 gorgeous girls (aged 5 and 3). Things were really messy during our split but have settled down. Neither of us were particularly happy in the marriage and it just exploded. I feel like we're both happier people now and we actually get along and have a laugh and can share special events with the kids (birthdays/random beach outings etc) - it's really nice.
Problem is I've been seeing someone for the last 6 months or so, and she is someone my ex-wife was friends with in highschool but fell out with not long afterwards. This is causing huge problems as my ex wife does not want her around our children, or to even meet her again or have her at events. My new SO has 2 children of her own as well around the same age so it makes things hard when they are excluded from events with my children. The way my ex wife was during our breakup (she lost the plot, used the kids as ammo etc) makes me cautious about how to approach this, but I'm really at a loss as to what to do. It would be nice if we could all hang out and get along (ex wife has been seeing someone as well) but I know that will never happen as my ex wife hates this person. I'm not asking for us to be one big happy family but it would be nice if we could all just get along. She's even said "if it was anyone else I wouldn't have a problem with it."
I'm not about to give into my ex wifes demands here, but I hate that this may turn into a huge problem in the future. Do I tell my ex wife to stick it, or just suck it up and realise it will always be this way? | Ex wife hates my new SO and refuses to let my kids and hers socialise or even treat her with any respect at events for the kids. |
t3_pesa5 | AskReddit | Did you ever fake being dumb/dumber than you really are? | I had to do this in quite a lot of occasions. Either because people could not understand me, when I was talking (well, I guess I need to explain it like I'm dumb) or because if I wouldn't play dumb, I wouldn't get along with some people at work or in school. Am I the only one doing this and if not (what I assume) what kind of signals could I throw into a conversation to signalize "It's ok if you want to talk about less bullshit!"? | No wonder people will fake being dumb.. |
t3_1t5luo | relationships | I [20 M] have concerns about dating her[17 F], and need help, seeking advice! | So this girl came into the restaurant I host at and was stern enough to actually hand me her number (I didn't ask) She's pretty cute, but I don't know her. She looked above 18, but as we texted I discovered she was actually 17, and still a Junior in highschool. As we text, I'm learning more and more about her that I really like. We like the same things, etc etc etc.
I guess what my issue is, is that I've never dated a girl that young and Im afraid of what my peers might think. I don't know whether to go for it, or polite-fully tell her that I'd like to wait to date until she was older, or whether to just cut ties with her and just stop.
I think I'm just looking for some guidance, I don't know.
I've never posted here, so be gentle 0_0 | I'm afraid of dating a younger girl. |
t3_2lr2sx | relationships | Me (23F) with my brother (20M), I may have sexually abused him as a child and I don't know what to do about it | Warning for talk of csa/incest
When my brother and I were 4 and 7, respectively, we played a "wedding game" a few times where we would pretend to get married and then make out for a long time. I don't remember it all very well but as far as I know it was "consensual" - I don't remember forcing him or anything like that. At one point he told our neighbor friend who was my age (7) and I pushed them both down and told them not to tell anyone again or something like that.
A few years later we watched a video in school about child molestation and I do remember distinctly sitting in class and wanting to die because everything they were trying to warn us kids about I had done to my brother - making it a game, telling him not to tell anyone, threatening him afterward. I knew and know that the age gap between us was big enough that I had the power.
I grew up with the secret and thought about it almost constantly, one time as a kid I was playing with a friend and when my mom picked me up she told me something had fallen on my brother's head and my first thought was, "I hope it makes him forget what I did." (He was perfectly fine btw)
I have confessed to one person, my long term boyfriend. He told me he and his younger sister used to play a similar "game" and I shouldn't worry about it but I do. My brother and I have a great relationship and hang out a lot. Most of the time I don't think about it but every now and then it pops up. I want to talk to him and see if he remembers and how he felt about it. If I knew it didn't bother him, I think I could laugh it off/let it go. But if he doesn't remember I don't want to bring it up, and I don't know what I would do if it upset him.
This is the first time I've posted about this online and I'm really nervous but I feel like I need to know. Did I do something wrong or is it normal? Should I approach my brother about it? | I kissed my younger brother as a child and I don't know how to deal with it |
t3_368wfg | relationships | My sister (25 F) is morbidly obese, how can reach to her and help her? | My sister is 25 years old and she has been very obese for most part of her life. I've been living overseas for a while. Yesterday I came back home to visit and saw my sister (who's still living with my parents) and she was event fatter than I remember. I know that she wants to loose weight. She goes to the gym and tries to diet. But she is obviously failing. I guess that she has a problem of food addiction and simply can't help herself but overeat. How do you help a person like that? Is there anything I can do?
Now, a related problem is that we don't have a great relationship (my fault, I've been an asshole in the past and pretty much neglected her), so she doesn't trust me. The last time I tried to talk to her about her weight, about two years ago, she didn't take it well at all (even though I really tried to be as tactful as I could). I know that the ideal situation would be to build up our relationship so I can gain her trust and she lets me help her. But that is not an option since I'm leaving again soon. I'm really worried for her health.
Thanks for your advice. | My sister is morbidly obese, has food addiction and I don't know how to help her. |
t3_269dca | relationship_advice | I[25M] just learning that the girl [25F] ive been going out with has had sex multiple times previously with her [26M] roommate | I asked her before going out with her if there was anything going on with her and her roommate but she denied anything, and I believed her. Today a mutual friend told me the truth of what had been going on before, and she later came to tell me as well.
She is going to be continuing to live with him, but says that they were just hooking up for the sake of hooking up and that she wants something more with me. they stopped a few months ago and she says that its not going to happen again, and that she didnt want to tell me about it before because they both and agreed to not talk about it with other people.
We havent had sex yet, but i have a stupid need for emotional connection before i feel comfortable having sex with a girl. at this point i dont know how i am different from her roommate who she has no feeling for and i just dont know what to do. she is very apologetic about having lied originally but i just have no experience with something like this and would like some advice. | girl ive been seeing was fuckbuddies with her male roommate for about a year but stopped a few months ago. she denied ever being in a relationship with him but told me about it after a mutual friend had beaten her to it. i dont know how to deal with this or the fact that they will still be living together for the next year at least. |
t3_dg5ia | AskReddit | Hey Reddit Manscaping men...I have a question for you | I met this dude who sent me a below the belt picture. He claims to have been without action for many months and claims to have been abstaining from pursuing action for many months before that.
So upon closer inspection his man parts are quite obviously manscaped. My assumption is guys only keep those parts manscaped if they are getting regular action, not just as a matter of course.
Full disclosure, the dude and I broke up in an implosion worthy of Mission Impossible 3 about 4 weeks ago. We were "together" for 5 months and this pic was sent to me about 1.5 weeks into meeting him.
I was looking at old pics tonight (smirks, its a nice pic) and took notice of the manscaping. I didn't notice it when I first recieved pic and I think it may show he had another girlfriend the entire time or at a minimum when we first met. | Weigh in men.. do you keep your boy parts man scaped if you aren't already getting regular action???? |
t3_3qboiy | pettyrevenge | Bully another student? Face my wrath. (Update to 1st PR) | This is an update to:
**Background:** This takes place in the same period, same class, same lab day (Monday). It is the same obnoxious kid (L).
We are in the physics classroom, and we do another group lab. For this one, we have to find the co-efficient of friction for 3 different materials on the table tops, and we have to graph them all on the same plane.
*During the Experiment*: L is making dirty jokes as usual, minus the racist comments. Actually does some work.
*During the Work*: Right now, all of us in the group are graphing the 3 sets of data. L(obnoxious kid) wants to use different pen colors to graph each of the lines. He asks to borrow a pen from N(victim). N obliges, and then he gets the pen and begins playing with it. N protests, but L doesn't listen. Then, another student in the group jokingly says "*I'll give you a dollar if you put the pen in your pants*", and L actually does it! He sticks the pen in his pants, and takes it out amid N's protesting (who has been nothing but kind and respectful this whole time.)
*The Revenge*: At this point, N demands his pen back, and L straight out refuses, saying "*you gave the pen to me, so I have to be able to use it*. Without hesitation, I grab the paper he was working with, take it away while slightly wrinkling it, and demand that he gives the pen back to N. At this point, he listens. Next, he asks if he could borrow my blue pen(for the lines in the graph). I refuse, and as he continues, I continue to refuse. He shall suffer my wrath in the form of indistinguishable lines on the graph. | Fear me. |
t3_2z4891 | relationship_advice | I'm [19/tf] and my boyfriend [19/tm] has severe attachment issues | Hey reddit, I'm not sure where to turn to about this. I've been seeing this guy for about two months. Things have quickly become extremely personal and casual. Basically since the first night he stayed over he's been here every night. It's very much a pizza and netflix sort of relationship. This wouldn't necessarily be the issue, except he seems to have some kind of intense separation anxiety. Described by himself as "weird abandonment issues" apparently it stems from a pretty constant stream of people who have come into his life and left him over time, leaving his oldest current friend from within the past year. On closer inspection though it seems like these issues are what scared people off. It's very cyclical and I really don't want to just reinforce that pattern for him, besides we usually get along very well. As an example, I wanted to take an offer for free food and lodging for a research trip over spring break but had to cancel because he was freaking out so badly about being by himself that week and I suspected he'd hurt himself. I made him promise we'd work on that issue, but it's a hard thing to breach when the conversation is "I don't like X" "Oh god, you're right, i'm a terrible terrible person, oh god". I also live in a one room efficiency dorm and will often stay awake, not tired at all, for 30+ hours, keeping him up being in the same room, however instead of going to his own dorm a minute away, he'll just sit there getting increasingly more frustrated and sleep deprived. On one instance he flat out told me "i'm not leaving by myself again" when I asked if he'd be okay running an errand. I've suggested counseling several times to no avail. Like I said before I really want to get past this some how but his self hatred is blocking any communication and my family is starting to think he's controlling my life, and in a lot of ways I am too. | bf refuses to leave my side literally ever, what do? |
t3_3acuee | weddingplanning | Elopers: When/Where did you get your dress? | FH and I have decided to elope because after nearly a year of trying to plan something that we both want in a little mining town, I've given up. Anything nice that I want has to come from the city or interstate (I was DIY'ing what I could but I'm unfortunately artsy in my heart, not my bones) and with every question I asked FH, he realised that it was getting more and more stressful for me, so he suggested we elope. YAY!!
Now the only stress is my dress. I'm scared of buying something online and getting ripped off, I'm short and curvy so I'm scared that anything I try on will need to be altered and that could take too long depending on where I end up buying it, I don't want to spend a fortune on a dress like they seem to be in stores, but I'd rather see it and try it on and know that it's a nice quality before I pay money for it. I don't really have anyone to go with either. I don't have any close friends really and I'm not all that close with my MIL or step-mum. | ? I'm scared of dress shopping! And now we're eloping and I don't know where/when to get my dress. Please help? |
t3_2u7xdu | loseit | Finally a SV! | After completely giving up on losing weight last year, I started to try to lose weight again on December 2nd, 2015. Fortunately for me, I hadn't gained as much weight as I thought I had... and was 243lbs as of 12/2. My focus this time was to watch what I ate for two months, and not focus as much on exercise so I didn't overwhelm myself. I'm proud to say that after almost two months of eating well and tracking calories, I'm down to 227lbs.. a loss of 16lbs! This last week has been fairly rough, because I decided to switch to a mainly vegan diet. I've been experimenting with diets that work well with my IBS, and the vegan diet seems to be working very well. Unfortunately, I've been adding a little too much salt to my meals and have some water weight to deal with now. But that's easily corrected through making meals with less salt. Thanks for reading, and I hope your journey to a more healthy self is going well. | Lost 16lbs in almost 2 months just by eating healthy foods and tracking calories. |
t3_3s3fi0 | relationships | My [20F] new boyfriend [22M] is a bad kisser. Is there anything I can do about this? | We started dating like a week ago. I really like this guy, I enjoy being around him and I have a lot in common with him, but when he kisses me he just opens his mouth and wiggles his tongue around. And I like french kissing as much as the next person but it can be kind of excessive, especially when it's just like a kiss goodbye in a public place, not to mention he doesn't use his lips at all, just his tongue.
So first of all, is this normal? At all? Because no one I've ever kissed has done it this way before. At least not all the time, every time like he does.
And also, I want to know if there's anything I can do about it, like anything I can say to him that won't make him feel bad or some way I can hint to him that he is doing it wrong.
I know people in relationships can adapt to each other's kissing styles over time, but his is so off. | I really like this guy but he's terrible at kissing. |
t3_2u1rcp | relationships | My[24F] friend [24F] sent bad pictures of me to my fiance[28M]. Am i right to be upset? | My[24F] friend and I did a trial makeup session for my wedding yesterday. She took some really goofy pictures of me and we had a lot of fun. My fiancé lives in another city and he asked me to send some pictures. I told him that my friend had the pictures and I would send them later.
What I didn't know was he asked my friend for the pictures and she sent him terrible absolutely terrible pictures to him and they laughed about it. I found out later when he sent the pictures to me laughing. Am I right to be mad at him for asking her pictures behind my back? And at her for sending all the terrible pictures? She also sent the pictures in our Whatsapp group and they made jokes about me there too. Am I being oversensitive?? I was actually close to tears when I found out they were laughing about me. What should I do now? | My friend sent bad pictures of me to my fiancé and they all laughed about it. Am I being oversensitive? |
t3_44p4i0 | relationships | Would it be bad for me [23M] to ask my friend [23F] why she is still dating her boyfriend? | I see her a lot but I hardly ever talk to her about him because I hate everything about him with a burning passion. We went to undergrad and are in med school together and he is a college fail out who began dealing drugs and is now on probation. She does complain about being with him and how she wishes he'd do something with his life, but doesn't seem to have any intention of leaving him.
For the record I am seeing someone else and I do not have feelings for my friend, but I do really wonder why she is still dating her high school sweetheart of 5 years. I don't want to sound condescending, but rather maybe "are you still dating chris?" and see if she talks about it. | Wondering if asking my platonic friend why she is still dating a scumbag guy would come off as rude. |
t3_4rt0ko | tifu | TIFU by sneezing | A bit of background: I work on weekend evenings. During the weekdays, I help my mother-in-law with her babysitting service.
It was lunchtime today and I finally got all the kids to sit at the table for their lunch. I am making their plates when a huge sneeze comes on. No problem, right? I turn from the food and bend my head down to sneeze in to the crook of my arm since spreading germs is generally frowned upon. I let go of my germ shower and that's when I felt it; the worst pain I could ever feel hit me in my lower back. I see stars. My legs are suddenly two hot pokers being jammed into my spine.
I collapse onto the ground and smack my head pretty good. Not enough to knock me out, mind you, but enough for a good goose egg. My mother-in-law screams because she is dramatic and rushes over. I try to get up but all I feel is searing pain. I taught some young kids some very colorful swears. It's a mess.
I eventually make it upright and she sends me home. I am now laid up in bed with a bum back and cannot see a doctor since I have no insurance currently. To add to it, I work as a emergency vet tech on weekends and need to be at work tomorrow night. I can't afford to take the day off, either. | I sneezed and threw out my back and have no insurance to see a doctor. |
t3_3fsytb | relationships | I (M23) accidentally told my friend (F23) that I want to be with her. She denied, it got awkward, but I still want to be friend. What should I do | I have known this girl for about a year, and has been interested in her since then. The last couple of months, we've been chatting, hangout quite a lot (just as friends).
Last week, I took my second of courage and told the girl that I like her, and want to be with her. However, given our current distance (we have just been split geographically) and history, she denied, and stated that she only sees me as friend.
After all, I still want to be friend with that girl and keep the same level of interaction as before, but somehow it feels awkward, and I don't know what should I do to retain this friendship. | how can I befriend after rejection |
t3_2feps8 | tifu | TIFU by driving home from school [NSFWish] | This happened about 15 mins ago, and it was such a terrible experience I feel the need to share it. Throwaway because real life.
So I was driving home from school on one of the busy streets in my city when I noticed my balls were stuck to the inside of my leg. Driving in this position is FUCKING AWFUL, because every time you change pedals you run the risk of pinching a nut.
Being the daft mother fucker that I am, I thought to myself, 'hey! I can just reach in my pants, unstick myself, and no one around me will have any clue about what I've done!'
So I commenced my grand scheme at a particularly long red light. I was in the left lane and the lane to my right was sailing by. No one would even notice. And if anyone pulled up next to me, they wouldn't be able to see in.
I reached in my pants and unstuck my sac from the inside of my leg. However, while I was down there I realized that I had to scratch. So I began scratching. I started scratching like my life depended on it.
This is when I fucked up.
I looked up and to my right to realize that the righthand lane had come to a halt. This wouldn't have been a problem had the car that stopped next to me been a honda or some small vehicle. But that wasn't the case. What stopped next to me was a FUCKING BUS. This bus' angle let everyone on the left side of the bus to see into my car.
I looked up and made eye contact with probably one of the most attractive females I'd ever seen, hands still in my pants. I stopped my scratching and pulled my hand out.
She just looked at me with this look. One I will never forget. One that said, 'WHAT KIND OF PERSON ARE YOU.'
I wanted to leave. I waned to get the fuck out of there so bad. But my light was still red. So I had to sit there, music playing and this girl staring at me like I was some sort of pervert. | Was driving home from school and had to unstick my balls. Scratched them like a fucking fiend under my pants and the bus next to me watched. |
t3_2hlm7i | relationships | Me [18 M] asking a girl [17 F] I never officially met out on a date | Note: I have never been in a relationship nor have I ever made an attempt to ask someone out.
For the past few months I have been picking up my brother [17 M] from school almost everyday. Occasionally, people would ask for rides or my brother would offer rides. There have been few times when a have given a ride to two girls. The first girl I have met in the past in high school, let's call her "Jenny". The second girl, let's call her "Nicole", and I never met previously and we have not been introduced to each other. Jenny and Nicole are best friends and every time I gave them a ride I always dropped them both off at Jenny's house, as requested.
I think Nicole is very beautiful and I find myself attracted to her. I do plan on asking her out, but in this situation I do not know whether I should just get straight to the point or if I should take small steps.
Here is the plan I had previously thought of: When I drop them off at Jenny's house I will let them take a few steps towards the house before I get out of the car and interrupt them. I call out to Nicole "Hey, wait! Nicole, right? I know this may be a little strange since we barely know each other but, (complement about how I think she is pretty) and I would like to take you out on a date sometime".
My previous thoughts was that it is completely normal for two complete strangers going out on a date. But recently I have been thinking more about it and I started considering finding a way for a group of us (me, Jenny, Nicole, and couple of their friends) to hangout as a way for Nicole and I to get to know each other.
How do you think I should approach this situation? | I have given a girl I barely know rides home. Should I straight out ask her on a date or should make an attempt to get to know her better? |
t3_fxqb9 | dating_advice | Wow, dang, holy crap, whoa! ... So now what? | So after two years of post-break up desolation, I've had a week. Chick I talked to online on OKCupid a long time from abroad came to the US and we hung out, made out some, and hugged and cuddled and all that. It was a lot of fun, but I'm not sure how strongly I'm attracted to her. I think I just wanna stay friends.
But then I came home... And holy crap. I went to this swing dancing group I go to every week, normally I'm super-bashful, but this week I was actually getting the steps and talking and joking and being fun... Basically ended up dancing with this girl for awhile and having a lot of fun, and at the end of the night asked her if she wanted to get coffee. First time I've ever successfully asked a girl out who I met in person!!
Anywho, it was a wonderful night. We got tea but the place was closing, so we took a walk to this cool pedestrian bridge where you can look out over the water. It was cold but I listened to her, had just wonderful chemistry and she's pretty hard on herself and shy and self-concious but she really opened up to me, it was great. It was very cold, though, so we headed back to her dorm and I held her hand the entire way, it was really really awesome. When we got there, we only hugged though and she said she was busy on the weekend and so I told her I'd see her on Friday with the rest of the group (I'm at a training academy in another state all week so I didn't bother asking her out a different day).
Soooo it was a great time, but I'm not gonna lie I was a little discouraged that she didn't want to do something on the weekend, but she held my hand and initiated the hug (literally just met that night pretty much so for such a shy person it seemed totally out of the ordinary)... so what do you think, should I ask her out again next time? | Just read it!!! |
t3_wuydy | AskReddit | Whenever my SO plays Katamari Damacy, I get strangely horny. What sort of tricks or triggers that your SO does that makes you expect to get laid etc.? | I was just thinking about the life hack one guy mentioned a while back here on Reddit in which his gf would tie her hair in a ponytail and he would get a supreme hard-on.
In regards to Katamari Damacy, it's not when he plays the game, I feel horny when he just starts playing the music and I expect sexy-times to commence. We started playing the music as a way to muffle our noise so as to not disturb his apartment roommates. It was also the music when I first had full-on sex with him and it seems to be our repeat playlist.
So now, whenever I read about something related to Katamari, I get all excited.
[And the song to be used for others in pursuit of repeat sexy-times with their mate.]( | My panties get all rolled up in a katamari by my SO. |
t3_4ryq82 | relationships | Me [24 M] with my girlfriend [21 F] of 2 years, just stopped living together - should I call it quits? | My girlfriend and I recently stopped living together after 1.5 years. We've been together a total of 2.
Things were great at the start until about 5 months in, where we started having problems. I had some old baggage that I had to resolve myself, so I started going to therapy and working things out. She threatened to move out because of my problems, and actually did for a few days, but came back. We resolved our problems, but they arose again a year later (about a month ago). Not the same problems, but this time it was some problems she was having. The household became really toxic and she decided that she didn't want us to live together anymore. I pleaded for her to stay and work on it together as a family, but she decided that we should live apart and work on ourselves.
We've been living apart for about 2 weeks now, but I haven't seen her at all since she went on a family trip. She's back now and wants us to "work on our relationship." I'm wondering if I should even bother because I feel a sense of resentment toward her for breaking us up (in terms of our living situation.) I also don't feel like I can trust her - I look toward the future and imagine us having kids, going through a difficult time, and then her deciding to break our family apart again.
What should I do? | After living together for 1.5 years (out of our total 2) she decided we should live apart "for a while" to work on ourselves. Should I just call it quits now? |
t3_2gdity | tifu | TIFU Dropping my phone into the sink on purpose | To start thing's off. I have been texting a girl I have a crush of recently, things were going well until recently when she didn't reply my text for days. (4 days)
So as my desperate genius brain instinctively tells me to text her back. I was worried that I might text the wrong thing and plus I was very tired after sleeping late last night.
All the quantum physics calculations going on in my mind was driving me bad shit insane. That was the moment when I knew I was such a genius ._.
I took my phone to my bathroom sink, turned on the tap and let my phone to drown in a pool of water. I was fascinated at that point for at least 5 seconds, standing in front of the sink admiring the fact the phone is still working underwater. Then after that 5 seconds. My brain was like WTF!?
Took out the phone used a shit load of towels to wipe it off, wiped it all over my shirt, shake it a million times and it wouldn't boot up. ._.
I'm crying over the fact that I won't be able to text her than ever having my phone being broken. T_T | Brain went full retard, dipped phone into a sink full of water o_O |
t3_2b3xha | relationships | I (f22) am trying to cope with breakup with first love (m26) | So I know when we started seeing each other in February 2007 it was a little wrong because I was 15 and he was 19. We were bf/gf but didn't begin our sexual relationship until I turned 16. We broke up for a little bit and got back together when I was 17 and our relationship was legal. We both had infidelities and he decided it was best we broke up at the end of 2009. I was devastated, heartbroken. Wanted another chance... We went no contact until 2011 when we hooked up once and we mutually went back to no contact.
Then in January 2013 we start seeing each other again. He wanted it to be a secret from any mutual friends and I agreed. After almost a year I told him I couldn't take it anymore because we were living a lie and we broke the news to our friends, apologized for hiding it so long. He started telling me he loved me again in July of last year. I was so happy to finally have my first love back...
Well our relationship has never been all that great. He holds the past against me, accuses me of cheating and lying constantly. We're both extremely jealous and our relationship was toxic from the beginning. None the less this man, no matter what he says or does has my unconditional love.
Right now we are broken up and have been for a little over a week now but have talked nearly everyday. He broke up with me because he didn't want a closed relationship with me and I wasn't willing to open it. Now I wish I would have agreed because we're broken up and I still plan on continuing our sexual relationship once a week... He basically gets his cake and eats it too while I get to feel used and unwanted. I'm so distraught over this. | off/on boyfriend / first love of almost 8 years left me for freedom says its permanent having trouble accepting it and can't stick to no contact without caving |
t3_odqym | AskReddit | Can't get over girl, what should I do? | Ok, going to try to keep this short.
Started dating a girl that I worked with things go great, but as I have since realized was a habit/flaw of mine; I obsessed and fell too hard, too fast. The difference is that while we only dated a short time ~3/4 months. (I have dated girls for longer and been 'in love' before) and we broke up around 8 months ago, I can't get her out of my head. I am still madly in love with her, she is everything I was/am looking for in an SO and every girl since has paled in comparison. We are still on decent terms, (we talk sporadically, but just small talk etc.) but I try to keep it to a minimum just because my feelings are still there.
Soon after we broke up, the place where we worked was shut down. I fell into a depression and couldn't stop thinking about her so for that and other reasons I moved to another state, hoping for a fresh start. It has been 5 months since I moved, and I still largely feel the same. I have a great job, new friends, have dated and had sex with other women hoping to break her spell on me but to no avail.
So, my question: Should i keep doing what I'm doing, hoping to forget her and move on, try to reach out and initiate something, or something else entirely?
I appreciate any and all responses and am more than willing to provide greater details if it helps. Thanks to all! | I have tried everything I can think of to move on from an ex , to no success. Help please! |
t3_wyhh0 | GetMotivated | Finding the Energy... | I always think that I'm pretty motivated myself. These are the things currently on my plate:
-grad school (4.0 gpa in Secondary English Education)
-two jobs (full time program assistant, part-time tutor for an adult with CP)
-raising my 14 yr old brother (granted permanent custody)
My friends are in awe of my schedule and my adherence to it. The only thing is that when it comes to more leisurely pursuits, like reading, writing, playing guitar, or taking up a new hobby, I feel too spent in terms of energy to be creative or to experiment with anything. I have entered a slump in finding new music, something I used to enjoy, I keep saying I need to get to these projects that involve fixing my bike up to tour around the state, starting a garden, and get into woodworking. But every day I'm being pulled by something enough to where I'm ready to fall asleep, or I feel like I need to reward myself and relax. | Already motivated to work hard, need motivation and energy to be creative and experiment to find new hobbies and learn new things. |
t3_hraio | AskReddit | Thinking about starting my own business as a CAD designer, does anyone have any advice? | Hi there,
My name is Simon and I live in Sweden. I'm currently 20 years old. I graduated from industrial-collage about half a year ago. I've been searching for a real job while doing small construction jobs for my family since then.
I'm pretty good at working in CAD and I've been playing with the thoughts of starting my own business drawing stuff for companies and for private individuals. I guess I can pretty much draw anything but my forté is in mechanical parts. But I'm also good at Visio so making drawings of layout in houses and gardens etc shouldn't be a problem.
Is there anyone that has any experience in stuff like this and could give me some advice and input about this? | I'm interested in starting my own business or freelance as a CAD designer, does anyone have any advice/input about this? |
t3_2by4ok | relationships | :( My [27 M] ex-girlfriend [29 F] broke up with me. Post-breakup behaviour is odd. WOULD LIKE ADVICE | So my girlfriend and I called it quits a little under 2 weeks ago. Big fight in public with her rehashing things from the past. In the end it broke down to communication issues, nothing particularly harmful that was done to one another. She said it's not longer worth the fight and wanted to break up. I disagreed a few times and tried to get her to change her mind, but she didn't and so I simply caved and agreed. We parted ways and that was that.
Last week she was supposed to attend a meeting for a group that we are both a part of. Even during the break up, she said that she would see me at the meeting and we need to be civil in order to avoid awkwardness. I agreed, and told her I have no problem with civility and being professional in such a setting. Anyway, she no-showed.
I left a note on her desk, basically saying that I couldn't help but notice her absence and that I hope she's getting some much needed rest after working hard the last few weeks. Nothing mushy, simply caring. I wasn't expecting a reply; I actually prepared myself for the silent treatment. As I suspected, she ignored it completely.
Ever since the break-up however, she's posted multiple quotes or "quotestagrams" on her social media. My news feed constantly pops up with quotes she's liked. Each about relationships and more bitter than the next. A lot of them are direct responses to issues we had. I'm definitely not reading into them, there's no such thing as that much of a coincidence.
I'd like to understand why this is being done. If breaking up was her idea and she said she was 100% sure that it's no longer worth the fight, then why keep posting and liking these things to get my attention? Is it simply to get my attention? Or is she actually hurt? I don't understand how someone can be so bitter over something they wanted themselves. On top of that, why not just reach out to me like I reached out with a simple caring note on her desk?
LADIES HELP ME UNDERSTAND lol | Girlfriend broke up with me. Silent treatment ensued. She has been posting and liking dozens of relationship quotes directed at me. Why? |
t3_4ysv6t | relationships | Should I (24/F) tell my ex-boyfriend (26M) that I'm going on OKCupid dates? (The obvious answer is no, but hear me out...) | So I broke up with my boyfriend after he got somewhat violent with me (threw my backpack out of my car and it hit me, smashed a mug near my feet where the glass gave me minor cuts). We've agreed that he'll go to therapy/anger management and we can reevaluate once he's dealt with his anger issues, maybe in six months or so. In the meantime, he's moved out and we've technically agreed we can see other people.
However, after a period of not talking for a couple weeks, we've hung out a few times because we were both so depressed (and we wanted to stay friends so we could both go to friend group events.) We've gone back to talking online a lot, which we used to do as friends before we started dating.
He knows I have an OKCupid profile, he even knows the username. But I haven't told him that I've gone on a couple dates recently. No one I really liked, and I don't know if I'm looking for another long-term relationship anyway - more sort of "window-shopping" since I'm pretty confused about what I even want in a significant other.
I figured it would hurt him needlessly to tell him, and I know I'm not technically lying or cheating or anything, but it still feels somewhat dishonest since he knows pretty much everything else that's going on in my life. Should I make it clear that I've gone on a couple dates and plan on going on more?
Addendum - He of course has permission to see other people, but says he doesn't want to. Since we said we could see other people, I've mentioned specifically that I planned on meeting up with people off OKC, but I sort of implied it was more to find new friends. Even though we decided it'd be okay, I don't think he realizes that I'd be going on dates already, and he'd probably be sad/worried if he knew. | Broke up with my boyfriend with the caveat that we might get back together eventually, agreed to see other people, but we still talk a lot and are close. Am I being dishonest by not specifically telling him when I go on dates with other guys? |
t3_1aak5w | AskReddit | Is it better to withdraw from a class or fail it? (College) | I am currently halfway through the semester and the last day that you can withdraw from a class is coming up. I am currently enrolled as a business student but found that it is not for me, instead i want to follow my dream and become a mechanical engineer. I am in a Microeconomics class and have been avidly studying the past week for the midterm that we took today. I did very poorly on the mid term and am questioning what i should do. My student advisor is all book up until after the withdraw date and wont talk to be about it. So i could use the help do i stay in the class and potentially fail it or do i take a WD on my transcript. I am also looking to transfer out of my college asap since they do not offer mechanical engineering here. | Doing poorly in an microeconomics class even with studying and im looking to transfer out next semester is it better to drop the class or fail it? |
t3_3yhtvu | relationships | My Dad's [45M] girlfriend asks questions about my mom [41F], is it prying or just conversation? (Questions in description.) | My parents have been divorced for ten years, Mom's [remarried (married for about four years now), Dad has been dating the same woman for about a year now.
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My dad's girlfriend has asked questions like...
What's your Mom's husband's name?
How long have they been married?
Where'd they meet?
My Dad and Mom have a pretty awesome relationship for parents who have been divorced for so long. My parents often share lunch together. Before they met for one of their lunches, my Mom is pretty sure that my Dad's girlfriend once came down to have a look at my mom.
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Is asking questions about a significant other's ex-spouse and their significant other normal?
If not, how should I suggest she minds her own beeswax? | Is asking questions about a significant other's ex-spouse and *their* significant other normal? |
t3_3yap3n | relationship_advice | A (19/m) guy is into me (15/f) but idk what he really is going for | So this guy I met at a tournament found my ig and DMed me and we started talking. He keeps asking me if I'm in a relationship and whether I'd want to get together with him. I don't know him that well and we live 6 hours away. He seems to be a nice guy, and I do want to give him a shot (I've done long distance before), but I'm not sure whether he wants to get together with me because he likes me or because he wants a relationship. He constantly tells me about how sad he is because he's single and always puts "relationship goals" pictures in his snapchat story. However, he says he likes me, so I'm not sure what to make out of this. | This guy I know, but not that well, wants to get together with me but I'm not sure if because he likes me or just wants a relationship |
t3_4ar7nd | college | Did I screw up my FAFSA by supplying half my parents joint income for my separated mother? | I'm currently a high-school senior, and am planning on attending a four year university this fall. I am worried I might have made a mistake submitting my FAFSA.
Context: My parents are separated but not legally divorced, hence, although living pretty-much separate lives, they still file taxes jointly. I live with my mom, who has been my primary source of financial support since my parents separated. She makes less than half of what my father makes.
When filling out my fafsa, I was unsure how to handle this situation, but after researching online, it seemed that every source I could find (except for official government sites, which were silent on the issue) said the same thing: I should just report one parents income, unless I live in a community property state (which I do, Texas), in which case I should report half of the joint income. This was exactly what I did. In hindsight, I realize I should have checked with a counselor or something before submitting.
Today, I was contacted by my school's automated system, and they want me to submit verification of the information I entered. I'm realizing now that if I was mistaken about how to fill out the FAFSA in my situation, halving all the information from my parents tax returns might look like fraud, particularly given that I won't have the opportunity to explain what I did.
With this is in mind I have two questions:
1. Did I screw up when submitting my fafsa?
2. When I submit my parents' tax return for verification will I get in trouble with the school and/or the federal government? If so, is there anything I could do to prevent this, by say, forfeiting federal aid?
Thanks in advance to anyone who takes the time to reply. | My parents are separated but not divorced, so I submitted half their joint income on fafsa. Was this the wrong thing to do? |
t3_1vm0si | relationships | I [24f] may or may not have made out with another man. Am I selfish for wanting to tell husband [25m] of 3.5 years when I am unsure it ever happened? | I was at the bar the other night and went outside with one of the bouncers that I am friendly with. I have forgotten bits and pieces of the night, talking to randoms inside the bar basically. I do remember dancing, going outside and asking to be escorted to the car. I do remember that, and I remember sitting at the car just talking to the bouncer.
It wasn't until the next night, we went back solely because it was Saturday night. When the other bouncers teased me for making out with the other one. Like I said, I do remember being out there, I do remember talking to him but I have zero recollection of kissing him at all, not even touching the guy, but just sitting there next to each other talking. I feel as if I did not kiss the guy, and try as hard as I can I don't remember (Which typically if something is brought up I can kind of remember it, maybe not specifics but I do remember after being refreshed). but the accusation is making me feel guilty, and combined with forgetting talking to randoms inside the bar I feel as if it maybe could have happened?
Am I selfish for wanting to tell him because I feel guilty that it MAY have happened? I do plan on telling him, and telling him that I won't go back, I know in general on this thread that those who ask whether or not to tell their SO about what happened is accused of just wanting to justify them not wanting to tell their SO. I just want to know that I'm not being selfish for wanting to tell him, even though I am heavily positive that nothing happened?
Also, he is away for the next 2 weeks, should I wait to tell him until I can see him in person or tell him immediately? I want to tell him immediately, but I don't want to upset him and hurt his performance in his training. | went to the bar was told in a seemingly teasing way that I made out with someone. I remember talking outside with him, but not any kissing or even any physical touch. Plan on telling my husband what I remember and that I won't go out again to the bar, but am I being selfish for making him worry over probably nothing? When should I tell him? |
t3_10rxks | relationships | Is it a normal thing for me (F23) and my best friend (M27) to sleep in the same bed all the time? | Does anyone else have a *platonic* friend that they stay and sleep with? He and I are very close and almost instantly became that way about a year ago. To the point that people don't understand why we aren't dating. While we do spend a lot of time together, we've never crossed into that romantic plane. We've discussed the issue, but neither of us have ever made a move. We've also been involved with other people on a somewhat casual level. However, despite that fact, I have drunkenly suggested that we cross the line and recently spewed to him that *maybe everyone else was right and we should be together and that he should kiss me*. He didn't. He told me that since I was drunk that I'd regret it the next day. Well, I felt like an ass. I also felt that things would be awkward, he didn't allow that though. And we're still staying with each other. I'm having a very hard time figuring out/accepting that I have those sort of feelings for him, especially considering that he may not return those feelings. He did say though that he had a hundred things going through his head when it came to his past love, his current crush, and myself. I think we both need to just sort things out, but back to my main question, are we really that peculiar in how close we are or are there other people out there with friendships like ours? | We've been friends for a year, obnoxiously close, everyone says we should be together. It has kind of gotten under my skin, so I'm asking if there are others out there with friendships like ours. |
t3_1erl23 | relationships | My wedding [m24] is in a month. My family and friends love my fiancee [f22]. I love being alone and though ive never cheated, ive talked to lots of other girls. | Maybe its inevitable to feel this way after being in a relationship for 7 years? I still love my fiancee, but i love her like i love everyone. I dont enjoy being around her. Talking to/texting her is a chore. My brain equates doing things with her to working, like its time that i put in so that i can do what i want later. Breaking it off would be the easy answer if it didnt mean losing the favor of most of my friends and family. Help me reddit. | i dont fit my fiancee anymore, or maybe i never did, or maybe i have cold feet, fuck. |
t3_2szco5 | relationships | Me [42 M] with my wife [51 F] married for 4 years, together for 11, just confessed emotional affair | My wife and I have been together for 11 years, and last weekend she admitted to having an inappropriate emotional relationship with a co-worker. She's broken it off, but she still has to interact with him.
She's started to go to 12-step meetings for Sex/Love addicts, which is sort of a surprise to me, as I didn't really see this.
My wife and I have had to overcome a lot of issues, I myself am a recovering alcoholic, sober for 8 years.
I am really struggling with this, though. In all the time we've been together, no matter what, I have never been worried about her cheating. We have our problems, but I have always felt that at least I could trust her in this area. Now I feel like I can't, and I don't know really how to process this. | In short, any advice on how to proceed around my wife's infidelity and her admission to being an addict in this area? |
t3_121tu4 | AskReddit | Reddit, My Friends are Bullying Me and I Can't Get Them to Stop | So back about a year ago my parents got divorced and my mom decided to move back to her home town in Indiana, while my dad would remain in Ontario, Canada. Long story short I decided to move with my Mom and sister to Indiana. At first it was hard making friends and I kept in close contact with all my Canadian friends that I grew up with.
But a year later I've stop contacting a majority of my friends, and only a couple remain. my three closest to be exact. But two of them are constantly making fun of me over skype and facebook. Everything I do they mock, from trying to beat a video game, to just life in general. I've tried talking to them and they say that "We want to prove a point that you would be better off living in Canada". Even when I tell them that it makes me feel really bad, they tell me "It's your fault for letting these chirps hurt you in the first place". How do I get them to stop?
I still want to be friends with them because everyone once in a awhile I come back to visit and I throw a huge hangout/sleepover. And all that mocking stuff disappears. So I'd like to set them straight, but not cut off all communication from them.
This has been happening for two months now and I'm really getting fed up with all their shit. Give me your opinion, even if you think it wont help. It might give me an idea of what to do.
Well if you made it this far in the text thanks for reading, I really appreciate it. | Moved to America, some of my Canadian Friends wont stop verbally bullying me |
t3_31xwa7 | relationships | [25/M] Pushed a lot of awesome friends away with my negativity/drama. Any way to gain them back? | I don't know why I do this, but I always have sense a young age. Sometimes when I'm at my lowest, I tend to start thinking really hyperbolic and dramatic. Ie: Calling myself worthless, a loser, etc. Or doing something small and start texting shit like "Omg. I'm sorry. Are we cool? How can I redeem myself?" etc etc. I'm working on my depression/social skills/etc And since I've been catching up on sleep and doing good things with my time, I've been feeling better about myself recently.
None of my friends have "written me off" persay. Like if I reach out to them, they tend to reply most of the time. However, I don't get invited to social events with them anymore. And I miss that. I'm really introverted/awkward/etc and I have a hard time making friends. So the friends I do have I like to cherish and keep a hold. But I feel like since the bridge isn't 100% burned, I can build it back somehow. I just don't know how to gain the trust back. Any ideas?
If you have any questions, let me know. The friends that I speak of I've known for 7 years. I've known them for 7 years, but been close with them from 2010-2014 but drifted apart recently. | Acted like an immature/pissy asshole manchild, pushed some really good friends away. Would like to know how and if I can rebuild broken bridges. |
t3_oxdpi | AskReddit | Reddit, how can I address Congress in person? | Recent events have led me to believe that no matter what America says, Congress will not listen. My belief is they are far too busy acting like toddlers to give a single shit about anything that doesn't advance their personal agenda (what with the endless name-calling and blatant sabotage of anything "the other side" proposes), and are consequently damaging the country beyond repair.
Every day I hear or see something in the news that actually makes me feel physically sick with frustration. Statistics show I'm not alone in my frustration, but the powers that be seem to be a tad out of touch with the feelings of the general population.
Everybody is sick of Washington's bullshit, and I think it's time somebody marched into the House of Representatives and told our public servants to, essentially, stop being a bag of dicks (perhaps with slightly more eloquent phrasing).
So my question to you is, how do I go about telling Congress to get its act together right to its slimy, slimy, slimy face, preferably without being shot in the face by security in the process? I feel as though bursting into the chamber and asking, as somebody who helps pay all of their salaries, to use the podium is the best way to draw attention to what I have to say, but (and please correct me if I'm wrong) I'm thinking that waltzing into important federal buildings and making demands is not the best way to go about this. | I want to speak on the floor in the House of Representatives so I can tell Congress to stop being a dick. Is this possible, and how do I do it? |
t3_2600nh | offmychest | /relationships said this belongs here | I've been dating the same girl for about a year and a half. At this point, I can still say truthfully that I love her, but we have been distant, in part because she is finishing up her last year(ish) of school, and I am already working in the city. We see each other once every 2-3 weeks.
However, there is another girl at my work who I have known for some time, that I am starting to develop feelings for, although I have never cheated on my gf with her.
Here is the kicker. My gf is going to study abroad for her final semester (4 months), and the non gf "friend" is moving away in August.
I feel like I am losing some very important people in my life, and there is nothing I can do. I really feel like I can't tell either girl the extent of the situation, because then I risk losing them both entirely.
Another issue is my pot use. I find that it helps with my depression, which I think is in part caused by the fairly consistent lack of female contact, and no means to get it without cheating. I normally like smoking, but I want to save the money instead.
I've told my gf that I need a break this fall, as I can't do 4-5 months of NO female contact whatsoever. She was upset, but asked if we could still keep in contact and I was thrilled and said of course.
I just feel really confused. Just typing this sort of helped, but I'm scared that I am going to lose people I care about. | I have a gf and a "friend" that I have feelings for, and will probably lose them both and I turn to drugs to cope. |
t3_upi1b | loseit | Running on a track or running on an elliptical? | Hello friends! It's been a long while since I posted. About a year ago, I was just starting my weight loss lifestyle change and going strong, only to be slightly derailed around last Christmas.
At 90+ pounds lost so far and still more to go, I'm getting back into the game hardcore mode. I had not too long ago stopped counting calories and just mentally tallying, but I'm pretty sure I am a big fat fibber to myself when it comes to portions, so no more of that. In addition, despite my legs' protests, I am starting the C25k program (well, a variation of it) at home in addition to running the same variant on the track at my gym.
My question is, as the title hints, would running on the track be better for calorie burning than the elliptical, or should I do both (such as elliptical at the gym, running at home)? I understand the importance of cross-training, although elliptical running isn't very different imo from the track, but "free" running is far more taxing on me and I feel as if I get a better workout than on the elliptical. The only real exception I guess is that I do intervals while free-running, and I'm at a constant speed (most likely higher than my average running/walking track speed) on the elliptical. So what do you think? | Track running intervals or constant speed elliptical training for better calorie burning results? I might crosspost this to /r/fitness as well, though I've been ill-received there before lol. |
t3_2e4l83 | offmychest | What has the world come to? | Mike Brown, the ISIS terrorist group, countless other atrocities. I hate it. I fucking hate all of it. I can't stand any of it. I've had to turn off the news, or get off the internet due to how sick it makes me. I can't even formulate a sentence as to how it makes me feel. I suppose it could be because of my age, I'm only 16 and you could say this is the first time the media is really bringing out emotions in me. I mean I was maybe 3 when the twin towers went down. Still though I can't stand it! The way humans treat other humans, the way someone can have complete and udder disregard for a human life.
I don't care what side you fall on in regards to Mike Brown, I'm not here to talk about that. Regardless of what you think it's a terrible loss.
I would assume we all agree that the ISIS video is sickening. I honestly can't think clearly because of this, I probably won't sleep tonight. That journalist didn't deserve what he got and ISIS deserves everything coming to them. In my short time here on earth I've seen evidence of karma every goddamn day. It eases my mind to think they'll all have some fate awaiting them that just...is...I can't even think anymore. I'm done with this post and I don't mean that I can even begin to feel the pain of these peoples families but I hate this. This post is the equivalent of writing an angry letter and throwing it out, just to get my mind off of it. I guess I'm seeing the real world for the first time, and I'm already sick of it. | Fuck the problems of the world, Fuck ISIS, why can't we all just get along and accept each other |
t3_2i0tar | tifu | TIFU By trying to be a helpful teenager | Context: Was on the bus home from College (UK, im 17) (Public bus since we finished early). Thats it really...
Anyways, its 2nd to last stop and a woman with a pram comes on with the cutest little shit you could imagine. So I know when it comes to the last stop, there is a big enough step down so I know I want to offer a hand with her pram etc.
So, im trying to figure out how to ask and what to say but I overthink and it by the time I look outside the window we are already here. Shit. So me being awkward I say to this women *"You want help lifting **it**?"*
Oh my...The glare of pure hatred. Just staring into my soul and to make it worse the little bundle of joy makes a funny sound and I just start to laugh and just, oh my. No words could ever be said to describe that look. | pretty much got my soul eaten by a Death Eater |
t3_2v6b4z | tifu | TIFU by not realizing girl next door had BF | So I live next to this really nice and pretty cute girl. This last couple of weeks I've been kinda into her and she seemed nice enough. So I decided to try to have a go even though she seemed a little out of my league. She does bio-med engineering and I do aerospace so we seemed to be getting along really well.
So one night I take her out sailing when we had intended to watch anime and the next night I took her out stargazing. We had a lot of fun. Needless to say however the friends of the dorm were really concerned that I was taking things too slow and I would end up in the dreadful friendzone before long. I wasnt too worried about this because after a nice dinner and a movie she seemed a little weirded out when I started to get really close to her, but not enough to make it seem like anything was inherently wrong with what I was doing.
Anyway the friends of the dorm are baffled as to why I still havent kissed her yet. Of course I say I havent had the chance, a comment which means to the friends, "kid is a moron and needs a flowchart." Flowchart is made.
Fast forward to last night. I go to her door, to say goodnight, and think I hear some serious coughing that was definitely a dude, like the guy was totally sick heaving coughing. I freak out and leave for a bit and convince myself that it totally isnt a guy. I knock on the door and this girl has makeup on and is with a dude... who is sick. Not sure who it is I say goodnight anyway and go to bed hearing this guy coughing through the walls til about 12:30 and then he presumably leaves.
Today I'm helping her through the math on a homework problem and say something about her friend only to find its totally her boyfriend. At this point I'm not invested enough to have it be an issue to our friendship but just invested enough that it sucks to suck. | Tech schools with a 70:30 boy to girl ratio are the pits. Girls hot enough to be that highschool girl you'd never ask out yet smart enough to hold a real conversation with you, only to find out that she's taken |
t3_3p0ojj | relationships | Me [19 M] with my [18 F] FWB, not sure what to do? | So. I have a friend over in the dorm, and a few weeks ago, we ended up having sex (yes, booze was involved at first, but the next day we did it again sober). We haven't really talked much about it, and she has a friend who is literally always in her room, which makes it hard to get her alone. I am interested in hooking up again, and when we did it last time, she said she would like to as well. How should I go about asking her? I can't seem to get her alone, but I don't really want to text about it. Advice? | How should I ask FWB to hookup again |
t3_2amnd7 | relationships | Me [21F] with my boyfriend [21M] of 7 months, I don't know how to respond fairly during debates. | Hi, everyone. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 7 months. We are both at the same college, but are currently apart for summer. We skype often. Our relationship is fantastic, and we both love each other a lot. This is just one aspect that I believe I need to work on. I have spoken to him about it, and he wasn't clear--but I think the gist was that hopefully it will fade over time.
The issue is whenever we get into an argument--a real argument or a conversational debate--I feel slightly attacked. And, I become defensive. I, then, start thinking about some of the not-so-nice things that he has done. Whenever he has done or said something that has hurt me, it has always truly been unintentional or him just being slightly callous towards my feelings. I think of things that I have forgiven him for, but it makes me upset to think of those situations.
I know this is wholly unfair to him. If we are discussing a topic where we have opposing opinions, I can't start thinking about a douche move pulled a few months back.
I don't know how to get myself to stop feeling this way. And, I really do want to be able to have spirited discussions with him! How can I stop doing this? | During debates with my boyfriend, I think of his past inconsiderate moments. This is unfair to him, and it prevents us from talking about controversial subjects. How can I work past this mentality? |
t3_30ai8y | relationships | I [19 M] have a crush for one of my friends [19 F] who is in a relationship | Hi Reddit,
so a few days back i met a beatiful girl on a seminar i was on. We liked each other from the beginning and started to talk a lot during the 5 days we were there. I really liked her from the beginning and know i just can't stop thinking about her. She seems to be perfect for me. We have the same hobbies, love the same music etc. . I will also meet her again in a few days and just knowing that makes me so happy. I would really be the luckiest person on this planet and in the entire galaxy if she would be my gf but the problem about this is that she is in a relationship with her boyfriend for nearly 2 years which makes everything so difficult.
During the seminar we were on it also came to a moment when we were tickling each other a bit and then our foreheads touched. We looked us both in the eyes for a couple of seconds but I didn't know what to do. I would have maybe gone for a kiss there if she wouldn't have been in a relationship. But most of the time we spent together or with the people we liked. We also sang Karaoke together danced a bit and talked for like an hour about the problems we have/had. It felt like she is the one for me.
She even lives together with her bf since a few months which makes it even more difficult for me to date her or something like that. It seems to me that waiting for them to break-up is my only possible way to even get her to date me which makes me sad | Developed a crush on a beautiful girl during a seminar but she has a boyfriend with whom she is nearly 2 years togehter |
t3_1k5dna | Advice | How do you stop shareholder oppression? | I live on a 14,000 acre ranch in Montana. My grandfather owned the ranch, and after he died he divided the ranch between his 4 children. The Ranch is a corporation, and my uncle, Cesar, owns 50.01% of the shares. My father, my aunt Jane, my uncle Mack, and my cousins Jack and Joel own 11%, 14% 15%, 5%, and 5%, respectively. My father hasn't spoken to Cesar for years, although my uncle keeps in contact via his 2 lawyers. Cesar raises cattle, Mack runs an outfitting business, and my father shoots commercials and films on the ranch. Within the last year, my uncle has sent 3 cease and desist letters, the first to stop **legally** growing marijuana, and the second to stop illegally selling it (we weren't), the third letter informed us that all film making on the ranch would go through Cesar. Since then, Cesar has run the business my father has had for 30 years into the ground, and of any further film work my father does on the ranch, Cesar receives 50% of the location fee, and the rest goes to my grandmother. My father gets nothing. My family is too broke to afford lawyers. | My uncle takes over our family business because he has shareholder majority |
t3_hc1kp | AskReddit | So how are we going to share the massive loot on Sunday? | So apparently 200 000 000 people are leaving earth on Saturday, and I find it slightly disturbing that we have yet to come up with a decent plan on how to share all the stuff that gets left behind. It's like the governments of the world doesn't take it seriously at all. Do they all thing they'll go, and so have no interest in planning for the next few months?
My main concern is the massive wealth of the churches that undoubtedly will no longer have a congregation. How about we take the opportunity to eradicate poverty, and just have a massive party for the next few months?
I figure the odds are slightly against me catching a ride on the space elevator, and we've got another five months to go before God brings out the eraser for good. I'd rather have this sorted out before greed takes charge. | How should we share what's left after the rapture? |
t3_h7esx | loseit | 9 Month Vegan Low Carb Diet Update - Down 101lbs. WOOHOO! | Start - August 9, 2010 - 350+lbs (maxed out the scale at the gym and my Doctor's).
Today - May 9, 2011 - 249lbs. (For you folks in the UK, that's a loss of 7 stone, 3lbs.)
Fitness regimen - The Starting Strength weight program (more or less). If you've got a gym and/or access to barbells, BUY Starting Strength by Mark Rippetoe, it's the best $30 you can spend on your fitness.
Diet - Rice/Pea protein shakes, green vegetables, almonds, seaweed snacks. (For a total of 2400 calories per day, 240+g protein, <100g net carbs.)
Only another 25-50lbs to go.
I CANNOT begin to tell you how much life has improved over the last few months.
Going through life 100lbs lighter is ridiculous. Now it's just a matter of not getting complacent and keeping the process going.
Funny anecdote from the past week - Last Tuesday, I went on a bike ride with some friends, and a guy I've known for 3 years but hadn't seen for a month or two walked up to about 3 feet away from me and started talking to the guy next to me. The conversation continued for a minute or two until I said "Hey!" The doubletake was pretty hilarious, as he hadn't recognized me at all. | Vegan Low Carb RULES, being 101lbs lighter is awesome. |
t3_2is92y | relationship_advice | I think my bf has a fetish for older women and its starting to make me feel insecure. Am I being stupid? | To start, I'm(f24) only about two years older than him(m22) and we have an amazing compassionate very healthy relationship. Which is why I feel a little bit silly about this, but it's something I can't clear from my mind.
Before he and i got together he had a history with an older woman(I'm not positive of her age but I'd guess she's late twenties maybe 28) He told me after he found out that she had a child he cut things off. However they're still friends and he says everything is cool between them. But something about their relationship makes me very uncomfortable. I feel like I don't know the whole story. I can't put my finger on it but me gut feeling isn't good. I've been cheated on in the past. And had a gut feeling about it that proved to be true. I know I shouldn't put that on him because he hasn't wronged me in that way but it's difficult to not feel cautious you know?
Anyway I've started to notice subtle things that he does and says that leads me to believe that he's really into older women. Likes to emphasize moments that show that I'm older than him Etc. Tells me I'll be a really sexy cougar one day.
I borrow his computer for research sometimes and noticed that he watches milf porn. I don't care that he watches porn at all. But it makes me uncomfortable about his past relationship with that woman and afraid that he could go back to her. That he secretly likes that she's a mom. And might still be attracted to her. Anytime she gets brought up he gets kinda happy and talks about how she's a real cool person and always has to mention the fact that she's a mom.
I don't know what to do. I feel really bad that I feel this way. I think I'd feel better if I could talk to him about it but I don't know how to bring it up. We're pretty good about communicating our feelings to one another but it's a difficult thing to just bring up out of the blue. | I think my boyfriend has a fetish for older woman/milfs. He has had history with one. I'm not much older than him and he and the woman are still friends and I feel a little insecure and don't know how to talk to him about it. Feel free to tell me that I'm being ridiculous. |