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trigger warning infidelity I caught my mom cheating and she's trying to
convince me that my dad knows I'm 17 and until a couple of days ago I thought I
lived in the perfect family raised by my
two loving parents my dad is an engineer who has been traveling a lot for the
past year and my mom is in healthcare taking shifts at different times of the
day my laptop broke down and I asked to use mom's laptop to finish a school
project when I was working I saw a couple of WhatsApp web notifications pop
up with ASU messages I tried not to pay attention until I realized these were
from Pete and not from Dad I could not believe my eyes and I felt like throwing
the laptop in the trash and pretending I never saw it after I collected my
thoughts I went back to the chat and from what I can see they met at least
four or five times starting just a couple of months after my dad began
traveling I took photos of the chat history and went to my room trying to
process it I couldn't even finish my homework from the messages they were
supposed to meet tonight and lo and behold just half an hour before the
meeting time she passed by my room to let me know she's going to work the next
day I gathered my courage to confront her I think she knew that I discovered
her because the new chat messages had been read by me and I think I left the
chat tap open before returning her laptop I told her I knew what she was
doing and that it was wrong she sat me down and tried to calm me but I told her
there was no way I would be calm and she
said I would understand once I heard the
explanation she told me that she and Dad agreed to open their marriage shortly
after he began traveling to be honest I didn't fully comprehend so she explained
what that entailed she told me that it was completely physical and she would
never have feelings for anyone other than my dad and that they agreed to only
do it if one of them was away she closed by saying that this is adult stuff
agreed upon between two loving adult spouses and I should stay out of it I
was dumbfounded and didn't know how to react the whole time I started reading
online about open marriage and this is how I found this subber it it was
consistent with what she said but it just didn't make sense to me I don't
believe my dad would agree to this as his views are generally more
conservative also when he's away he's more present with us than her as he
video chats with us or plays online games with my two brothers almost daily
in yesterday's call I asked him why he has to travel a lot and he said this is
hard but it is necessary to secure College money for me and my brothers he
assured me that it would change soon I asked him how he could bear being away
from his wife for almost half of the year he said that since their
relationship Foundation is strong temporary separation only causes them to
miss other more and value the limited time they have with each other he asked
me if everything was all right and I told him not to worry I honestly don't
know if I should believe her should I ask her for proof for the open marriage
claim I am mortified to tell Dad but is that my only option to confirm I don't
want our perfect family to be torn apart but would it be fair for Dad to keep
this secret I've been crying non-stop since this Revelation and don't know
what to do comments that cupo tell your dad it might be embarrassing for him but
if it is an open marriage they fed this up by not being discreet enough if it's
not he needs to know and if it is there's a good chance that your dad
already knows that your mom messed up by
being Indiscreet if he doesn't know that they're not communicating the way they
should in an open marriage a kid finding
out this way should be a DFC N1 incident and your dad should already have been
told by your mom sin 0289 call her out if this were me I would say it like this
I understand if this is how it is that's not my business but I want Dad here to
tell me the same also if he can confirms what you're telling me I'll delete
everything and act as if nothing has changed her reaction will tell you
before you even have to go further P.S if you have a trusted friend who will
keep it to themselves or another safe place then keep it there as it's not
hard for a parent to take your phone okay concentrate 1092 give your mom time
to speak with your dad about the situation since he knows tell your mom
that you need to have your dad quill your fears and if that doesn't happen
tell your dad this is your decision and you have to make it update I thought
this would be a good time to update you on how the situation progressed but
it'll be a long post reading through your responses there were a lot of
people recommending that I tell my dad and others to keep myself out or talk it
out with Mom it took me a lot of time to think and decide that I wanted to
somehow bring it up with my dad but that I wanted to wait to do it in person his
next home visit was 5 days after the original incident while waiting for that
I was really uncomfortable with my mom and was thinking twice about any move
she made she tried to play it cool open convers ations or suggest going out but
I just tried to avoid her even if my dad did know I was subconsciously treating
her in a cold manner this might have contributed to what would happen next on
the night before my father's arrival it seems mom broke down she came into my
room when I was about to go to sleep and asked if we could talk she started to
talk about generic things and how hard it was for her to be almost a single mom
for the past year with two teenage boys and she thanked me for helping out with
that now I started to see her tear up while bringing up the fact that she
might not have been completely honest about the open relationship thing long
story short according to her she suggested to her dad a while ago to open
the marriage but he didn't give her a definite answer rather he will think
about it and get back to her she said that she asked to revisit but he keeps
changing the subject so there was no agreement from my dad that was clearly
established now at least I know what to expect when I approach my dad by this
time she's completely sobbing and trying to Guilt Trip me about the consequences
of disclosing all the information to him I felt sorry for her and told her the
right thing to do was to come clean with him but she said she didn't have the
courage to do it I said that I would do it if she didn't she said she'd think
about it and we both went to bed not that I could get any sleep that night
after this my dad arrived the next afternoon earlier that morning my mom
sent in the family chat that she had to take an emergency shift wouldn't be back
until the evening and apologized profoundly in the private chat I told
her what the hell she's doing and she said she's not ready to tell him and
needs more time to find the courage I I told her that I don't think I can hold
it and act normal around him so he most likely will find out from me if she
doesn't do it tonight she sent several crying Emoji then gave me the go-ahead
to talk to him and told me to update her if it is safe for her to come back home
after I talked to Dad I don't know what she meant as my dad was never the
violent type over dinner my dad was visibly displeased as mom never takes
shifts during his arrival when we were alone after having a lot of small talks
he was telling me that one of his co-workers is getting married next week
so he'll try to stay around to attend that I used this as a transition and
told him that I came across the term open marriage I told him that after
hearing and reading about it I asked Mom what she thought of it and Mom told me
it would be ideal for her situation I then asked him what he thought about it
he was taken by surprise he said he doesn't believe in polygamy and that if
a couple feels the need for it they should address the issue that makes them
feel that way and if this issue cannot be resolved then polygamy would not be
the answer I asked if Mom asked him for an open marriage Mar and he said yes but
that he refused on the spot after that he promised her that he'd ask to take a
local position as he didn't know this was how she felt especially since he
didn't take this job in the first place until she was okay with him traveling he
was actually just approved to move back to our city and we'll start the new job
after the new year he was planning to surprise my mom with the news I asked
him when was the first time they talked about this open marriage proposal and he
assured me that it was only one talk that happened around 5 months ago he
started to pressure me about what's going on but I was able to get out of
the conversation as I needed some alone time to make up the two sides of the
story by looking at the message dates apparently my mom started seeing this
guy and then asked to open the marriage to give her legitimacy to F him when my
dad refused she did it anyway I was boiling and couldn't think straight I
messaged her to please come home and that everything is fine then I messaged
dad screenshots of her conversation with Pete and then I came here to write this
update I really don't care about what happens next and won't write another
update whether they separate or not isn't important to me anymore as I know
life won't get back to what it was anyway the important thing is that I
made peace with carrying this burden comments blade 982 I'm sorry op this
isn't the first time someone has suggested opening up about their
marriage in order to legitimize their cheating your mom had the opportunity to
talk to your dad herself but she chose to manipulate you instead please
remember whatever the Fallout you're not to blame for any of it your mom should
never have placed the burden of secrecy on you she lied to you and I wanted you
to lie to your dad you did the right thing despite being put in an impossible
situation by someone who should have known better and who should have had
your best interests at heart the only thing to do now is to step aside and let
your parents deal with their marriage don't get caught up in being a
confidante for either of them don't let them involve you any further of course
that doesn't mean you can't let your dad know you love him he will be dealing
with a lot a quick cuddle or a kind word will help him more than you know ac2
99994 oh man I am noi and hate cheaters I wanted to hear the downfall of your
narcissistic mother however I understand these stories involve real people with
feelings who have to live through them I wish you the best and if you find it in
you please update fand dear 6882 I'm so sorry that you got caught up in this but
you are most certainly one kick our's daughter you gather the courage to have
the talk and approach it in a very thoughtful way preparing the ground for
whatever is next I hope this finds a way to get resolved for the best and try to
find material and support to help you and your loved ones heal from this
situation my heart goes out to you thank you for watching the video if you enjoy
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My husband and I are currently vacationing at a
5-Star hotel. There are 2 separate pools - one
:18.600 --> :26.280 for kids/families and the "serenity/quiet"
one for adults (21+ is enforced). Both pools
:26.280 --> :30.900 are very clearly marked as such by large
signs placed around the perimeters of each. :30.900 --> :35.100
We have been here for a few days and
it has been literal paradise. We have :35.100 --> :39.660
not run in to many families/kids, and
those that we did see were exceptionally
:39.660 --> :43.620 well-behaved and attended to by
their parents... until today. :43.620 --> :48.540
We went to the adult pool and got set up
on two chairs. The pool was in front of us
:48.540 --> :53.700 and the hot tub was behind us. It was a tad
chilly, so we ventured over to the hot tub,
:53.700 --> :59.580 where we saw a kid, about 7, playing with
a crap-ton of Star Wars toys on the steps. :59.580 --> :04.920
Call me a Karen, I don't care - but this set
me off. We came to this resort specifically
:04.920 --> :09.360 because of the two very separate pools
with enforced rules. I want to relax, :09.360 --> :12.420
I don't feel like hearing screaming kids on vacation.
:12.420 --> :17.580 I went over to the attendant stand and asked
if the hot tub was for families, and if so,
:17.580 --> :22.080 was there an adults-only hot tub that we
might be directed to (I knew the answer,
:22.080 --> :27.420 I just didn't want to come across as TOO
aggressive). I was told that the hot tub was,
:27.420 --> :32.700 indeed, for adults only, so I proceeded to
tell both pool attendants that there was a
:32.700 --> :36.360 child in the hot tub and I didn't
know if his parent was nearby. :36.360 --> :41.640
You guys, both pool attendants were
basically like, HECK NO and walked :41.640 --> :45.540
VERY FAST over to the hot tub and
told a woman who was apparently :45.540 --> :50.580
the mother (EM) of the child that it
was adults only and they had to leave. :50.580 --> :54.720
The kid was told to get out, crying/screaming ensued,
:54.720 --> :57.240 and he and the mom then just sat on the chairs.
:57.240 --> :02.880
But wait, there's more. After about 5-10 minutes,
they were still sitting on the chairs in the adult
:02.880 --> :08.640 area, and AGAIN, the attendant came over and
informed them that the area was adults only,
:08.640 --> :13.380 and they're not even allowed to sit there,
even if they're not actively using the hot tub. :14.100 --> :18.480
EM was ticked, angrily packed up their
stuff, and both were ushered out of :18.480 --> :22.560
the adults area. I suspect they were
there because the kids pool area was :22.560 --> :27.840
super busy and EM didn't want to deal with
other kids and/or couldn't score a chair. :27.840 --> :33.600
We tipped the attendants generously on our way out
and are already planning our next vacation here.
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I wish more businesses would realize that not
everyone wants to commingle with families/kids.
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So this happened litteraly yesterday and I feel
like punching my head against the freaking wall. :17.280 --> :22.320
I'm studying as a chef in a university
but I'm pretty good being as a pastry :22.320 --> :26.100
chef,my mom works as a butcher in
a market and her coworkers have :26.100 --> :30.840
ordered me couple of times orange pies/cakes/chocolates/tarts ect.
:30.840 --> :35.340 Before a month one of her coworkers
decided to do a baptism about his :35.340 --> :40.380
newborn baby girl(we will call him
banzel),banzel decided to order me :40.380 --> :45.660
pastry cream with fruits and biscuits,we had
a deal and he said he would pay me 200 euro. :45.660 --> :50.160
So this week he bought me the ingredients
for the sweets and the Plastic cups to put
:50.160 --> :55.680 them and I started making them yesterday
when suddenly he asks me to low down the
:55.680 --> :02.400
price,I told him I'm fine if the price is around
160 but he wanted the price to be 50 euro??? :02.400 --> :07.200
We had a small argument and then he pops
me that he has found another pastry with
:07.200 --> :11.460 cheaper price?like okay go
ahead noone stops you bruh. :11.460 --> :52.560
Then his wife messaged me on messenger saying how
crapy I was and to go f myself. Had a few gripes
:52.560 --> :57.600
on this sub since my mother has been acting up but
she seems to be getting worse rather than better. :57.600 --> :01.680
All started off last August when me
and my girlfriend discovered we were :01.680 --> :06.660
having a baby. Mum was excited, but as
months went on she was just constantly :06.660 --> :12.120
firing name ideas towards me. Any that I
didn’t like, she’d argue and question why.
:12.120 --> :16.260 Then when we found a name we liked
and she didn’t, it sparked issues. :16.260 --> :21.540
Our son then came six weeks early in March.
My girlfriend and our son were nearly on
:21.540 --> :27.360 their deathbeds due to complications. My
mother felt so entitled, she felt it was
:27.360 --> :31.920 appropriate to start causing arguments with
me over telling her she wasn’t allowed to
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the hospital due to restrictions. And she was
fuming my MIL was there and she couldn’t be. :37.620 --> :42.660
She spent weeks trying to cause an argument
with my girlfriend. Kept accusing my girlfriend
:42.660 --> :48.180 of snapping at her when she hadn’t been.
Started accusing my MIL of being a thief
:48.180 --> :52.740 over some baby clothes she’d bought our baby
because it was from an ‘expensive shop.’ :52.740 --> :57.060
Had a massive argument with her a month
or two ago where I told her I wanted her
:57.060 --> :01.200 to go to the doctors and get some help
because I think she’s either menopausal,
:01.200 --> :06.840 depressed or even starting with dementia.
She’s been behaving absolutely deluded. :06.840 --> :12.540
She apologised to me and my girlfriend and even
bought her a bunch of flowers. My mother never
:12.540 --> :18.420 apologises so I really thought she meant it.
But over the last few weeks she’s started again. :18.420 --> :22.800
Went funny with me a week ago because my
girlfriend has been offered redundancy in
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her job and she’s accepted it. She hates her job,
and has wanted this for years. We’re in a good
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place financially at the minute. But we think
mum is fuming because she wants my girlfriend
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to go back to work after maternity leave so she
can have our son all of the time. As much as we
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want him to have a good relationship with his
grandma, we don’t want this all of the time. :42.960 --> :47.340
She was then fuming last weekend as
my girlfriend was carrying him in a :47.340 --> :50.160
carrier and didn’t let my mum have a cuddle straight away.
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And then he was poorly a couple of nights ago
and we managed to get him to an out of hours
:55.260 --> :01.140
doctors appointment just after midnight. We were
exhausted and so took him to the appointment,
:01.140 --> :07.080 he got given the all clear, we came home,
got a wash and went straight to bed. Mum
:07.080 --> :11.460 came to visit yesterday evening where we
told her. She then decided to go home, :11.460 --> :15.180
message me and start an argument that we hadn’t told her sooner.
:15.180 --> :20.340
I wish she would just leave us to be parents.
Stop taking everything personally and taking
:20.340 --> :25.740
things out on us. We’re exhausted without already
feeling like we’re walking on eggshells with her.
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Im an 18 year old male who is graduating.I live in
MD and I got this salesman opportunity in Texas.
:58.320 --> :03.780
They pay for travel and housing and I have been
training with them since December. I’ve spoken
:03.780 --> :08.760
to my mother and she says it’s dumb, that “what
if you don’t make money?” I brush it off because
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I trust in my abilities and training. Today I
sat her down and told her I’m going. That it is
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official. I already pay my own rent and phone
bill, overall for my own stuff while attending
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high school. I have been paying for my own stuff
since 17. So what gives? After she stormed off she
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called saying “You’re a minor not 21. You will not
go and if you do I’m calling the cops” I said she
:33.240 --> :38.460 can’t do that. She said “yes I can I already
spoken with police!” Which I know my rights,
:38.460 --> :43.860 that’s also a lie. I’ve had family members
call me convincing how “sketchy” it sounds
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and how I should be working with my sister at a
Food market. I keep explaining how business and
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finance is my passion, that is also my pathway in
high school. What do I do? I don’t want to miss on
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this opportunity This is a very old story - back
when I was in 3rd grade... over 10 years ago. :28.920 --> :34.020
Our elementary school has an annual school
fair which the third graders run as part of
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their financial unit in second semester. Part
of the fair was running a store for two school
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days. Each third grader is allowed to run their
'store,' which is really a small costco table,
:44.760 --> :50.340 with as little or as many items. The
only thing is the items must be homemade,
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so they cannot be storebought items that we are
flipping. My mom helped me make over 200 small 2
:56.580 --> :01.560 oz containers of slime to sell those two
days. I was so excited for those two days! :01.560 --> :06.780
Now, fast forward to the event, and I almost
sold out by the end of the second day. Barely
:06.780 --> :12.660 had maybe 10 or 15 containers left. Now, one
of my customers was my neighbor’s 2nd grade
:12.660 --> :17.820
daughter. She came to my table and wanted to buy
a pack of slime, which I was selling for $1 each,
:17.820 --> :22.860 but only had $0.50 left from spending
all her money elsewhere. So, I told her,
:22.860 --> :26.880 I can't give her it. She moved
on, and I didn't think much of it. :26.880 --> :31.020
Dismissal comes around and all my friends
and I get on the bus super happy with all
:31.020 --> :36.000
the money we've made. Since she's my neighbor,
she was also on our bus route and conveniently
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sat across from my seat. Throughout the ride,
she kept asking me for just one slime... as a
:42.420 --> :46.740 favor. I declined but offered to trade one
of my slimes for something else she bought
:46.740 --> :52.260 today. She bought some popsicle stick car
which I thought was very cool. Now here is
:52.260 --> :57.180 where I may have gotten a little jerky. She
handed me that little car, and I decided to
:57.180 --> :02.100 mess with her a little... nothing mean, just
friendly teasing. I refused to give my slime
:02.100 --> :08.100
to her and took the car and was laughing with my
friends. It was never my intention to scam her,
:08.100 --> :13.860 as literally less than 30 seconds I gave
her the pack of slime. All good right? Nope! :13.860 --> :18.720
Tbh, she was fine after that and was laughing
over it too, but once we all got off at our
:18.720 --> :23.340 stop and she mentioned how she got
the slime to her benchass Karen mom, :23.340 --> :29.460
her mom went apecrap on me and my mom. She
accused us of being scammers, sinful people,
:29.460 --> :35.220
and invaders (we were Indian people in a mostly
White neighborhood). She went on to say how we
:35.220 --> :41.580
probably learned from the call centers... WTF??
The daughter looked so embarrassed of her mom
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and kept telling her mom to stop. But no, her mom
had a tendency to flip out on everyone over minor
:47.940 --> :53.460
things. My mom didn’t speak English very well
as she had lived in rural India almost her whole
:53.460 --> :59.340
life, but she could tell how angry my neighbor
was. The whole incident frightened her so bad. :59.340 --> :04.200
A few hours later, my neighbor’s husband came
over and knocked on our door. We were afraid
:04.200 --> :09.840 to open the door, but my Dad went to talk,
and turns out, he came over to apologize for
:09.840 --> :14.460 his crazy wife. Looks like he was tired
of her bullcrap as well. He came inside
:14.460 --> :19.380 and we all had a great time over dinner and
snacks. The husband was a really chill dude. :19.380 --> :23.700
Now a little extra part to this story: The
husband had been dealing with her bullcrap
:23.700 --> :30.420
for wayyy too long, and a few years later, when
I was in middle school, he divorced her! Turns
:30.420 --> :37.800
out it was his house, so she left… took 80k from
him, but still left! The daughter left too which
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was a bummer cause she was actually really kind –
only her mom was the crazy one. In today’s time,
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my neighbor is happily married to another lady who
is awesome! She is super chill as well. Anyway,
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that’s one of my r/entitledparents experiences!
I got home today from work to my mom snatching my
:19.620 --> :24.120 paycheck off my hands, she said she deserves
it because she did all the chores around the
:24.120 --> :29.280
house (which isn’t true I did a lot before going
to work). She also said it was because she did
:29.280 --> :34.140 my laundry. This is the biggest check I’ve
gotten in the longest time and all because
:34.140 --> :38.880 she did my laundry? I’ve been doing my own
and others’ laundry since I was taught and
:38.880 --> :43.560 I never said a thing. My dad got home not
long after and thankfully he is on my side,
:43.560 --> :48.480 my mom hasn’t given me my check back, but my
dad is trying to talk to her. What can I do?
:06.360 --> :11.640 Before I start this, this all started last
year, where I was just a teenager (and still
:11.640 --> :11.820
am), I also want to apologize for my bad English,
and it's pretty long too, so anyway let's start. :11.820 --> :16.260
It was a hot summer day, I live in a tourist
town where many people come to visit, :16.260 --> :20.280
it is a nice town to stay some
weekends. Several times friendly :20.280 --> :25.380
people come and other times pure demons
dressed as humans. This was the case. :25.380 --> :30.180
Me and my grandpa (who doesn't know how to speak
the official language of the country we are),
:30.180 --> :35.760
were having a fun time, everything was normal,
the water was nice, and the day was sunny. I
:35.760 --> :41.100
was wearing a black bikini, not inappropriate,
just a normal swimsuit. I was enjoying myself,
:41.100 --> :47.520 I finally felt good in my own skin. Well,
apparently, my wardrobe choice was eye-catching
:47.520 --> :53.040 for a visiting American family. A man of
approximately 55 years old was looking at me,
:53.040 --> :58.920 he wasn't the only one, another dude was
looking, both in a dirty way. I felt disgusted,
:58.920 --> :02.700 so I decided to call my grandfather
to go to another side of the beach, :02.700 --> :09.420
but before I could speak. A lady with hair dyed
a passion red, she came angrily at me with a kid. :09.420 --> :13.680
Entitled lady: Do you speak English? I
don't know if any of your kind speak it. :13.680 --> :15.420
Me: Yes, do you need help? :15.420 --> :18.660
Entitled lady: YOU NEED HELP!! This is a public space!
:18.660 --> :23.640 Me: *trying the best for pronouncing without
a strong accent* I know, what happened? :23.640 --> :26.520
Entitled lady: Your swimsuit if I can
name that way is just provocative, :26.520 --> :31.020
all of you Spanish people are…! Just look at you, you look like a tramp!
:31.020 --> :35.880 At that moment I was in shock, did this
lady forget about that some people on here
:35.880 --> :40.140 are in topples? I wasn't Spanish tho,
I understand and speak the language, :40.140 --> :44.340
but this was scary. She just cat called
me, my autistic butt was about to cry. :44.340 --> :48.960
Me: Ma'am, what? I'm not wearing anything strange or sexualized.
:48.960 --> :53.100 Entitled lady: OF COURSE YOU ARE!! YOU
ARE DISTRACTING MY DEAR HUSBAND AND SON,
:53.100 --> :58.440 YOU TRAMP!! Put something, you're showing
too much chest! Your butt is exposed, :58.440 --> :01.200
and (insert more stuff 'wrong' about my body)! :01.200 --> :07.740
Me: I'm only 14, what's wrong with your son? And
isn't your husband at least 50? That's disgusting. :07.740 --> :10.320
Entitled lady: YOU AREN'T THAT YOUNG, YOU ARE JUST
:10.320 --> :15.900 AND 16 TO 19 GIRL WHO LIKES DESTROYING
FAMILIES APART! GOD NEEDS TO PUNISH YOU! :15.900 --> :21.120
This lady stopped for a second to talk with her
kid, she was telling him of how distracting I
:21.120 --> :27.360
was and that when he grows up to never bring home
any girl like me, absolute disgusting behavior. :27.360 --> :32.280
At this point, the kid that was with her was
crying and screaming that I was a homewrecker,
:32.280 --> :37.500
how that an 7-year-old called me that? Did he
really know what was going on? People were looking
:37.500 --> :43.140
at the scene. My grandpa was asking me what was
going on and who were this people. I didn't know
:43.140 --> :49.140 what to say. I was standing there, about to
scream, feeling horrible and like a 'tramp'. :49.140 --> :54.600
The pedo-husband and pervert son seem
embarrassed and now exposed by the crazy lady,
:54.600 --> :59.220
they came to pick her up and take her to the side
where they had put their things. I heard their
:59.220 --> :04.740
murmurs saying that I strayed from God's path
and that I was just a cockteaser. After this,
:04.740 --> :10.740 I putted a shirt on and stayed at the sand
feeling gross. I absolutely hate that family of 4. :10.740 --> :14.820
Still to this day I remember what
happened, it was just a year ago, :14.820 --> :19.980
and I still feel bad about it. This was one of
my experiences with a Karen, and I wish it never
:19.980 --> :02.520
happened. lol Not entirely sure this is the right
place for this but I’ll post it here and see.
:02.520 --> :07.800
This happened years ago but I figured I’d share
it now that it’s so far in the past. Backstory:
:07.800 --> :15.300
my (34f) now 10 year old was born with multiple
disabilities and spent the majority of his first
:15.300 --> :19.860
two years in and out of the hospital. He’s been
in a wheelchair since he was old enough to use
:19.860 --> :24.420 one. I had broken up with his dad before
I found out I was pregnant but for ease of
:24.420 --> :30.180
identification we will just say my SIL brought
her two daughters and his mom to visit us at the
:30.180 --> :35.820
hospital when my son was 6 months. She and her
daughters took turns holding my son and cooing
:35.820 --> :42.180
over him like a good aunt and cousins. It got to
Grandmas turn and she refused stating “why would
:42.180 --> :48.720
I want to hold a f**king cripple? I don’t even
believe he’s my grandson since my son would never
:48.720 --> :54.660
have a kid with such a fat cow. And her other
kids a R****d too.” Before I could say a word,
:54.660 --> :00.840
SIL jumped to our defense and shouted for security
to escort grandma out and told her to find her own
:00.840 --> :07.320
way home. SIL apologized profusely and we spent
another half hour just chatting before they left.
:07.320 --> :14.280 I had zero contact with grandma until my son
was about 4 1/2. That’s where this story begins. :14.280 --> :20.340
My ex wasn’t the best father and honestly this
was probably the least traumatizing situation
:20.340 --> :26.100
he put us through. Weve been no contact with him
since 2020 but that’s a story for another day.
:26.100 --> :32.460
So he reached out when my son was about 4 1/2
and begged to take him to see his mom bc she’d
:32.460 --> :37.920
had some medical issues and ended up in a long
term care facility. I refused to let him take
:37.920 --> :44.400
him alone so he and I took both my sons to see
her. We walked in her room and immediately she
:44.400 --> :50.160 started in on my weight and how being fat is
the reason both my kids are R word. Youngest
:50.160 --> :55.080 son is in a wheelchair, oldest son has Down
syndrome, neither of which will ever change
:55.080 --> :01.800
but somehow she was surprised that oldest still
had DS and youngest was still in a wheelchair.
:01.800 --> :07.200
She made some comments about him being coddled
and if “You’d let him out of the chair im sure
:07.200 --> :13.020 he would walk but youre just babying him too
much.” Pretty sure his multiple specialists,
:13.020 --> :18.960 multiple surgeries, and the nerve damage
causing him to be a paraplegic say otherwise
:18.960 --> :23.700 but ok. My ex stayed quiet through all
that. I walked out of the facility and :23.700 --> :27.960
let him know we would never be back and
she would never see her grandson again. :27.960 --> :33.420
About 18 months later, SIL reached out and
begged us to come to a family reunion they
:33.420 --> :38.760
were hosting since Grandma was being released
from the facility. I refused and explained why.
:38.760 --> :44.280 SIL understood and said she would get with
us soon without grandma. Grandma found out
:44.280 --> :49.500
and cried to anyone who would listen that I’m
depriving her of a relationship with her sweet
:49.500 --> :55.020 baby and how I’m such a horrible mother
to deny her the ability to see him. She
:55.020 --> :59.160 took it to Facebook forgetting that most
of her friends were either kids that ex
:59.160 --> :04.920 and I went to high school with or parents
of those kids who all knew why we were :04.920 --> :10.200
no contact with her and low contact with
her son. It didn’t turn out well for her. :10.200 --> :16.080
She tried one more time pre panini and got shot
down again. Haven’t heard a peep from her since
:16.080 --> :35.400
2019 or her son since 2020. Me and my Mother never
had a good relationship she was 19 my father was
:35.400 --> :41.220
21 and i was the result of the condom blowing,
i do not have most of my memories as a child
:41.220 --> :48.120
but the ones i have with her are some of my worst
traumas,when i was 7 i had a very tough Project to
:48.120 --> :54.120
do soo i wasked her help she said Tomorrow she
continued doing that until i only had one day
:54.120 --> :59.580
to give the project soo i entered her bathroom
and asked again She screamed at me and trowed
:59.580 --> :05.340
her Cross at me i was in the floor my head was
bleeding a little and i was crying the first thing
:05.340 --> :11.880
she said "Dangit son you made me sin" insted of
worrying about me she was worried that the cross
:11.880 --> :17.040
broke in the ground i have multiple hystories
like that but im just gonna leave that one :17.040 --> :22.140
Even though she was like that i was the one
who most protected her from insults from my
:22.140 --> :28.800
father,my grandma and my aunts i never let any
of them badmouth her for 6 years but when my
:28.800 --> :33.480 sister was born it became clear who was the
favorite i would hold a little anger for my
:33.480 --> :38.820
sister but i do not blame her she suffered just
like me in her hands but never the same level
:38.820 --> :44.460 as me since she was the favorite everytime
we had even a little argument my mom would
:44.460 --> :49.500 scream at me and treat me like a monster
and her like a little angel even tough i
:49.500 --> :54.120 did tease her sometimes mostely shes the
one who got agressive and started being
:54.120 --> :58.800 rude and i could never forget something
or else there would be a fithg one day i
:58.800 --> :03.780
forgot one plate and knithg in the sink i was
screamed and take a beating the next morning :03.780 --> :09.780
I do not remenber once in my life where she
said "I love you" or said sorry for how she
:09.780 --> :15.720 treated and beated me but she still believes
shes a great mom cause she makes her job as a
:15.720 --> :20.700
Mother even tough the baby-sitter is the cleaner
and the ones who provides food she does not have
:20.700 --> :26.160
a job and stays most of her time at home but shes
the one who acts the most tired and says she does
:26.160 --> :31.740 a lot even tough my father works 18 hours a
day and still makes our food in the weekends
:31.740 --> :36.840
and Takes us out to little trips my father is not
perfect but he loves us and knows when hes wrong :36.840 --> :42.720
I also have a 3 year old brother ever since
he was born my sister got second place in the
:42.720 --> :49.500
list of sons my parents spoil him everyday that
kid has turned into a brat who spits, bites,
:49.500 --> :55.140 attacks my animals and people and even tough
he doshent know how to talk he knows what he
:55.140 --> :00.600
does is bad cause he smiles and runs way when
is cauthg, i have been begging my parents to
:00.600 --> :05.220 discipline him but they act as if im mean to
the child just cause i dont do hes every wish :05.220 --> :10.260
Today was the last straw for me even tough
im the only one who points out how toxic our
:10.260 --> :16.080
family is and tries to show my parents how her
acting is making our family agressive it never
:16.080 --> :20.220 changed but i still wanted a house where
i could get out of my room without fear,
:20.220 --> :25.560 i have a difficult in paying attention to my
studies soo i left my phone in my sisters rock
:25.560 --> :30.960 and decided to go to the my fathers workshop
since he wasent home my sister was alredy there
:30.960 --> :36.060
and i asked her to let the Keys in the window she
smilled at me and acted as if she couldent hear
:36.060 --> :42.240
soo i scram "SIS LET THE KEYS IN THE WINDOW" and
my mom started another fithg because i dont treat
:42.240 --> :48.240
my sister with respect i pointed out that her
behavior wasent great heither but im the son she
:48.240 --> :53.880
doshent love eqqualy soo she fithghed with me and
said for me to study in the ktichen i said to her
:53.880 --> :59.820
the ktichen is too load and everybory walks trough
here but she did not listen soo i just ignored
:59.820 --> :05.115
her and got in my room now my annoying brother
wanted the room to himself cause my parents do
:05.115 --> :11.040
not let me in my room soo now he thinks the room
is his now my mom was screaming with my brother
:11.040 --> :16.200
my stress and anxiety were getting worse i was
sending a S.O.S to my father trough the computer
:16.200 --> :22.560
until she opened my door with her key and now
the usual weekend was happening i was in the
:22.560 --> :28.620
wall screaming for her to let me go while she was
treating me and doing the usual of screaming to my
:28.620 --> :34.560
face and calling me names my anxiety and stress
were worse then usual and when im like that i
:34.560 --> :39.840
cant stop talking and arguing with her even tough
it would be better if i did now she just trowed
:39.840 --> :45.060
me at my sister's room and i was crying and i
couldent stop scrating myself or talking to myself :45.060 --> :50.880
Then it was time to the baby to sleep i was
again trowed to room from room and the fithg
:50.880 --> :56.760
got back i was tired my heart was beating too
fast i couldent breath properly soo i just
:56.760 --> :02.100 begged her to leave but shes a piece of crap
who likes being "Rithg" soo she stayed cause
:02.100 --> :06.720 she knew i would get worst and it happened i
snaped and tried to push her out of my room
:06.720 --> :11.820
without hurting her but she stayed soo i put on
my clothes and tried to leave to my grandma's
:11.820 --> :18.060
house but she didint let me now she was slaping
and pushing me around my sister was begging her
:18.060 --> :23.700 to stop and the baby-sitter was trying to
make me and her calm down but she continued
:23.700 --> :29.580
and continued i locked myself at the bathroom
while she now was trying to also make me sister
:29.580 --> :34.380
anxios soo she would break down i do not know
how can a Mother treat her children like that :34.380 --> :40.320
After the baby-sitter left and the baby slept
she tried having a talk to us it was disgusting
:40.320 --> :46.140 she made herself like the victim and said we
were the ones pushing her mad and stressed but
:46.140 --> :51.480
shes always like that when i finnaly left the
bathroom i made my last attempt with her but
:51.480 --> :57.060
she was a wall insted of focusing the problems
of her she always deflected and started talking
:57.060 --> :03.000
about us or tried to make her life sound awful
then i made her shut up and asked one question
:03.000 --> :09.660
"Do you really think none of your actions were
bad?" Her answer made me wanna trow up "None of
:09.660 --> :15.300 my actions were ever bad all im trying is to
be a Mother while my kids antagonize me and
:15.300 --> :22.320
make me go mad" After she said "Stop pretending
to be a victim son your behavior is disgusting"
:22.320 --> :28.140 the talk continued for half a hour but after
those words i just gave up about my Mother or
:28.140 --> :33.000 this family i just cant anymore and im just
waiting to tell this to my father's family :33.000 --> :01.500
(Sorry for bad english still a student
from a different contry) Yesterday, :02.220 --> :07.020
was at a winery to celebrate Mother’s Day with
my mom and my adult daughter. My daughter had
:07.020 --> :11.460 her corgi with us, and he is very cute
and sweet. Attracts a lot of attention. :11.460 --> :17.820
So we’re having our wine and picnic, and a boy,
about 10, comes over and sits with the dog to pet
:17.820 --> :24.780
him. His mom comes over, “what a cute dog! This
is Leo, he loves dogs. Can he sit here and pet
:24.780 --> :29.880
him? Feel free to send him back when it becomes
too much.” Doesn’t actually wait for an answer. :29.880 --> :34.440
Then she goes back across the winery
and leaves him. For the rest of the :34.440 --> :38.940
time we were willing to sit there with
her son. Never looks at us, checks in. :38.940 --> :46.020
We hang for a while, (45 minutes?) dog is
happy, kid is fine until he starts to tease
:46.020 --> :50.340 the dog with fake treats. That’s when
we decide to leave and tell kid thanks,
:50.340 --> :55.260 time to go. Mom ignores us as we
leave and walk right past her to exit. :55.260 --> :00.180
I get it that she wanted time on her own, but
the fact that she was fine having us passively
:00.180 --> :24.480
entertain her kid as we were also celebrating
Mother’s Day is just obnoxious. I took my auntie
:24.480 --> :29.880
shopping out of town, and I bought my daughter
(4) Nike Sunray sandals like I do every year.
:29.880 --> :35.880
I worked as a HCA and we lived comfortably, i
recently got taken off work the last 12 weeks
:35.880 --> :40.800
of my pregnancy. But I still bring in an income
which alone is enough to pay my bills and rent,
:40.800 --> :47.400
my husband got a minimum wage job. So his is a
little extra a month to our finances. So I got
:47.400 --> :52.740
my daughter her sandals for the up coming hot
weather. And she says I’m rubbing my money in
:52.740 --> :58.620 her face. But the thing is, I worked for my
money. She hasn’t worked in many many years
:58.620 --> :05.340
and lives off of income assistance and ctb. She
has 3 kids, so most of her stuff is second hand.
:05.340 --> :10.680 She said to me “it unfair you get what you
want, the least you can do is buy my kids
:10.680 --> :15.180 the same so they don’t get jealous of your
daughters who doesn’t even appreciate it”. | give me a good story on rEntitledParentsWORLDSWORSTMOTHERSDAYRedditStories |
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:02.550 --> :26.269 My F,25 Husband M,32 had undergone a surgery
days ago. :26.269 --> :30.909
The surgery required anesthesia and his family
and I waited til the evening for him to wake :30.909 --> :31.909 up.
:31.909 --> :36.129 He was in and out for a while, but then started
regaining conscious gradually. :36.129 --> :38.640
The nurse gave me the signal to go in with his mom.
:38.640 --> :43.219 I stood by his bed and he was speaking to
his mom, He then turned his head towards me, :43.219 --> :45.340
made a face and asked who I was. :45.340 --> :50.210
I told him my name but he couldn't recognize
me (don't know if this was deliberate) I told :50.210 --> :56.640
him I was his wife and he frowned and said
"no...no you can't be my wife....you're ugly". :56.640 --> :00.440
This made me upset and I was completely floored at what he said.
:00.440 --> :04.030 I didn't know what to say I just stared at
him while he looked away. :04.030 --> :08.410
I quietly stepped out and told his family and mom that I was going home.
:08.410 --> :12.610 His mom kept shouting after me saying I was
overreacting and that I shouldn't just go :12.610 --> :16.370
home and leave her son alone when he was just waking up.
:16.370 --> :17.370 I got home. :17.370 --> :19.710
Cried my eyes out then called my dad. :19.710 --> :24.190
He calmed me down but then said that I should
stop being too sensitive and that my husband :24.190 --> :27.810
didn't know what he was saying and so he didn't
mean it, and probably couldn't control it. :27.810 --> :31.410
I argued that he must really think I'm ugly
since I heard that people under the affect :31.410 --> :36.090
of anesthesia are like drunk people and tell what's really on their mind.
:36.090 --> :41.420 Dad laughed at this and said that still, walking
out like that probably wasn't ideal and it :41.420 --> :44.790
must've had upset my inlaws and my mother inlaw. :44.790 --> :50.220
I admit being too cautious and insecure about
my look, I don't see myself pretty so I don't :50.220 --> :54.120
expect him to lie and say I am but calling me ugly?
:54.120 --> :04.420 This I couldn't let go.
:04.420 --> :35.000 I'm a 47yro single dad of a 19yro young man,
who was born as a female. :35.000 --> :37.420
We lost his mom to covid in the first wave. :37.420 --> :42.030
He came out to us as trans 3 years ago, and
completed his transition just a few weeks :42.030 --> :43.030 ago.
:43.030 --> :48.640 My sister is pregnant with her 5th child and
is doing a baby shower/"gender reveal" next :48.640 --> :49.640
weekend. :49.640 --> :50.820 The whole family is invited.
:50.820 --> :52.500 Her baby is due at the end of July.
:52.500 --> :55.750 I am throwing my son a gender reveal party
this Thursday. :55.750 --> :59.951
He always wanted one (ever since he came out)
and now that he is officially a man, we are :59.951 --> :01.370
finally throwing one. :01.370 --> :05.380
The whole family is invited, though some won't come because they don't approve.
:05.380 --> :08.580 We sent out the invitations 2 months ago.
:08.580 --> :12.290 My sister told me she'll see about coming
(because she is heavily pregnant) and I put :12.290 --> :13.720
her down for a maybe. :13.720 --> :18.069
Yesterday she called me fuming, said that
a lot of the family members are actually coming :18.069 --> :23.000
to my son's party and since this is the first
family thing since covid, this will be the :23.000 --> :28.650
first big party and then her baby shower will just be an afterthought.
:28.650 --> :32.780 I told her I'm not moving my son's party,
because everyone will still attend her baby :32.780 --> :34.400
shower on the weekend. :34.400 --> :39.020
She said I am faking a gender reveal party and I told her that's ridicolous.
:39.020 --> :43.720 She said it won't even be a proper gender
reveal cause he's not a baby, then I just :43.720 --> :06.160
said that she can either come or not, her choice, but I'm not moving
:06.160 --> :10.550 the date. :10.550 --> :14.750 Aita?
:14.750 --> :17.230 My husband's mom moved in with us a week ago.
:17.230 --> :21.090 The minute we were informed she was going
to move in (temporarily til her house gets :21.090 --> :25.400
renovated) we've emptied a room specifically for her - it has everything.
:25.400 --> :30.419 A bed with a frame, curtains, mounted TV,
wardrobe etc. :30.419 --> :32.919
She was thrilled with it and loved it a lot. :32.919 --> :38.180
One day I came home and found her in my bedroom
sleeping in mine and my husband's bed. :38.180 --> :43.310
I was confused but she told me she took a nap on the bed and lost track of time.
:43.310 --> :48.639 Since then she started talking about how she
loved the nap there and started hinting wanting :48.639 --> :51.139
to take maps in the bedroom from now on. :51.139 --> :55.520
I kept ignoring her comments til my husband
sat me down and told me that his mom really :55.520 --> :01.340
liked and "got used" to napping in our bedroom
and we should just let her have her daily :01.340 --> :03.499
afternoon nap in the room. :03.499 --> :07.080
I said "absolutely not" and we started debating. :07.080 --> :12.539
I told him his mom is being ridiculous because
she has a whole room upstairs where she should :12.539 --> :13.539
nap. :13.539 --> :16.939 He got upset and said that I was making his
mom feel uncomfortable and unwelcome with :16.939 --> :18.129
this attitude. :18.129 --> :20.870 I said NO and refused to negotiate.
:20.870 --> :25.570 He called me selfish and mean for saying no
and preventing his mom from feeling comfortable :25.570 --> :30.629
at "his house" but I reminded him that I pay
full mortgage for the house while he blows :30.629 --> :33.180
money over gadgets and consoles. :33.180 --> :38.139
He accused me of bringing old disagreements
in this current conflict to use against him. :38.139 --> :42.830
I said no again and that he should stop pushing
because I need the room for when I get home :42.830 --> :46.430
feeling exhausted from working on my feet from 6am.
:46.430 --> :50.509 He's refusing to speak to me til I agree and
let his mom have her nap in there. :50.509 --> :53.590
AITA for choosing this hill to die on as he says? :53.590 --> :08.500
Am I being difficult?. :08.500 --> :48.460 My
:48.460 --> :53.469 wife wants to drag me and the kids on a 2
hour drive (each direction) so she can go :53.469 --> :55.740
meet up with some high school friends. :55.740 --> :00.379
Neither our kids nor I were invited to join
them so we are just along for the ride and :00.379 --> :05.229
then the “fun” of finding something to
do in a town that has nothing but box stores :05.229 --> :07.449
for the 4 hours that she is hanging out. :07.449 --> :13.499
Keep in mind it’ll be roughly 95-100 degrees
outside as well or else I’d take the kids :13.499 --> :14.499
to a park. :14.499 --> :19.349
I am all for her hanging out with her old
friends but I offered to watch the kids at :19.349 --> :20.639
home instead. :20.639 --> :24.430
This way I can get the kids together with
other friends or take them swimming or to :24.430 --> :29.509
the beach etc. they have way more options
and my wife can take all the time she wants :29.509 --> :30.669
with her friends. :30.669 --> :34.409
I am being told I’m a selfish a****** and not supporting her.
:34.409 --> :38.280 The only difference is I can do something
more fun with the kids and we aren’t stuck :38.280 --> :42.539
in a car for 4 hours when we have nothing to do there anyway.
:42.539 --> :44.259 In my mind, that is being supportive.
:44.259 --> :48.099 I’m happy to spend time with the kids and
to let her have fun with her friends for as :48.099 --> :49.629
long as she wants. :49.629 --> :54.210
The only thing I’d rather not do is get
dragged on multiple hours of car rides plus :54.210 --> :59.029
the task of finding something to do in a boring
town while I can stay home and have more to :59.029 --> :00.610
do here with the kids. :00.610 --> :04.870
Can someone tell me if I’m being selfish
and unsupportive for not being told exactly :04.870 --> :28.559
what and how to do with the time that she won’t be
:28.559 --> :44.449 around anyway? :44.449 --> :01.620
Thanks, My son just turned 10. :01.620 --> :03.800
His mom and I broke up when he was 2. :03.800 --> :04.839
We never married. :04.839 --> :10.370
The deal was that, for us, instant physical
attraction carried the relationship entirely. :10.370 --> :11.370
We basically went from :11.370 --> :13.150 Her " You're really cute"
:13.150 --> :15.800 Me:" God d***, you're pretty"
:15.800 --> :18.410 to having a kid very quickly.
:18.410 --> :21.830 We tried to flesh out the relationship after
he was born. :21.830 --> :26.240
It caused a lot of arguments and we figured
out that we were just too different of people. :26.240 --> :30.580
We share custody and the only times I'm ever
really around her for what I'd call an extended :30.580 --> :35.660
period of time, is when we're doing something
for Christmas or his birthday, things like :35.660 --> :36.660 that.
:36.660 --> :38.800 The way I parent, I'm very honest with him.
:38.800 --> :44.089 I don't see much of a reason to give him a
bunch of word salad answers to questions. :44.089 --> :46.990
Last week, he asked what happened between his mom and I.
:46.990 --> :52.300 I told him that, his mom is one of those people
where if she's not choreographing and directing :52.300 --> :54.740
everything around her, she's not happy. :54.740 --> :58.670
I told him I just felt like I was losing myself the more I was around her.
:58.670 --> :00.620 I thought it was a pretty tame answer.
:00.620 --> :04.029 I didn't rant, rave, cuss up a storm, or anything.
:04.029 --> :06.860 I also assumed he'd keep it between us.
:06.860 --> :10.750 Last night, I get a phone call from my ex
telling me that, in the heat of an argument :10.750 --> :15.579
with her about cleaning up his room, he'd let it fly about what I said.
:15.579 --> :20.079 She said I should've passed on the question,
then told her he asked it, so that we could :20.079 --> :21.810
be on the same page. :21.810 --> :26.980
My point to her was, I don't believe I said anything toxic or outlandish.
:26.980 --> :50.630 She had me talk to him and I told him to apologize
to her & pick up his room. :50.630 --> :10.769 AITA?
:10.769 --> :16.050 My BF of 3 years moved in to my home 3 weeks
ago after his lease went up and he was unable :16.050 --> :21.910
to renew with the price hike they expected
(his rent was $1600 for a 2 bedroom and upon :21.910 --> :24.430
signing a new lease they said it was now $2400). :24.430 --> :29.170
I have a 3 bedroom home and one son, 11. :29.170 --> :31.839
Both his room and my room have an attached bathroom.
:31.839 --> :33.310 The guest room does not.
:33.310 --> :36.319 We have lived here for 5 years and I bought
it last year. :36.319 --> :41.350
my BF has a 19yo daughter named Jess who visits
him on the weekends and lives at home with :41.350 --> :42.480
her mother. :42.480 --> :46.839
Literally never had any issues with her up until my BF moved in.
:46.839 --> :52.329 When he moved in Jess started becoming this
b****y snob who had demand after demand that :52.329 --> :54.600
she fully expected me to meet. :54.600 --> :59.500
Like she wanted me to kick my son out of his
room so she could have the room with an attached :59.500 --> :04.340
bathroom, stating that a boy didn't need a bathroom as much as a girl did.
:04.340 --> :10.279 When I said absolutely not, she got extremely
rude and condescending whenever she was in :10.279 --> :11.279
my home. :11.279 --> :15.389
She also tried parenting my son on more than
one occasion, telling him what he can and :15.389 --> :19.550
cannot watch on the TV, what he can and cannot snack on, etc.
:19.550 --> :24.670 There have been times when he has tried talking
to us and Jess will butt in and say something :24.670 --> :27.709
about how kids are 'so freaking annoying". :27.709 --> :32.329
If I speak up to her she says "I don't believe
I was talking to you" or roll her eyes at :32.329 --> :33.329 me.
:33.329 --> :37.529 Bold for someone who does not pay any rent
or food cost to be staying in my home. :37.529 --> :42.480
I told her father last week that either he
gets a handle on his adult kid or she was :42.480 --> :44.089
getting booted to the curb. :44.089 --> :48.829
He immediately starts telling me I need to
give her time because this is an adjustment :48.829 --> :53.160
for her and that apparently she is having
a hard time at her mom's house due to them :53.160 --> :54.660
arguing all the time. :54.660 --> :59.399
I told him that wasn't my problem and that
in my house me and my son were not going to :59.399 --> :04.810
be treated like s*** because she can't control
her emotions and wants to take her resentment :04.810 --> :05.959
out on us. :05.959 --> :07.360 He said he would talk with her.
:07.360 --> :09.139 His talk did nothing at all.
:09.139 --> :13.589 In fact, she confronted me about it and said
"I don't know what game you're playing here :13.589 --> :19.279
but respect is earned, not given and I will
not be granting you respect until you prove :19.279 --> :20.980
to me you deserve it." :20.980 --> :25.329
She then walks to the living room where my
son was watching TV and takes the remote from :25.329 --> :27.540
him and tells him to move. :27.540 --> :31.900
At this point I go in and immediately tell her to get out of my house.
:31.900 --> :36.730 She tells me she isn't going anywhere because
her dad lives here so I end up calling her :36.730 --> :42.019
uncle, who is a police officer, and have her
escorted from my house after she collected :42.019 --> :43.519
all her belongings. :43.519 --> :47.850
My BF says I crossed a line so I told him he can leave too.
:47.850 --> :16.810 He currently isn't speaking to me, locked away
:16.810 --> :29.249 in my bedroom. :29.249 --> :32.110
AITA? :32.110 --> :38.970 My (34f) BIL’s gf Faye (32f) recently got
a new job. :38.970 --> :43.199
She got her masters in 2020 and never stops talking about it.
:43.199 --> :48.860 My husband (36) Jack has noticed the same
thing and he has said his brother Luke (32) :48.860 --> :49.860
talks about it, too. :49.860 --> :55.529
It gets on our nerves but we tolerate it because
we know how excited Faye is about her degree :55.529 --> :00.959
and now this new job, which she also won’t
stop talking about because, as she says, she :00.959 --> :05.610
wouldn’t have gotten it if she didn’t
pursue her masters since it’s a requirement. :05.610 --> :09.879
We had them over for dinner last night with my parents and my FIL/MIL.
:09.879 --> :12.459 Once again, Faye brings up her new job.
:12.459 --> :17.209 It doesn’t start for another couple of weeks
(she works in education, so her contracts :17.209 --> :21.189
are based on the school calendar), and she
was talking about all the things she gets :21.189 --> :23.930
to do now that she really wanted to do. :23.930 --> :25.910
She mentioned it being a life goal. :25.910 --> :27.569
I asked her what was next. :27.569 --> :28.980 She asked what I meant.
:28.980 --> :34.110 I asked her about things like kids or marriage
since they’ve been together for 3 years :34.110 --> :35.110 now.
:35.110 --> :38.790 She said she didn’t want to rush into marriage
or kids until she had her goals in order but :38.790 --> :41.389
marriage was something she and Luke had been seriously discussing.
:41.389 --> :45.629 I asked when she’d have time for kids/marriage
with her career goals. :45.629 --> :47.110 She said she’d make time.
:47.110 --> :50.860 I said kids are a lot of work (I’m a SAHM).
:50.860 --> :55.740 I told her that when I was pregnant, it wasn’t
feasible financially or logically to continue :55.740 --> :59.809
working as an STNA, so I quit at 26. :59.809 --> :03.809
Faye said that she doesn’t want kids she can’t provide for and she likes relying
:03.809 --> :09.030 on herself because so many SAHMs are financially
trapped when they stop working and can’t :09.030 --> :11.820
leave if the marriage falls apart for whatever reason.
:11.820 --> :12.990 I’ll be honest. :12.990 --> :14.559
I was offended by that. :14.559 --> :17.440
I told her not all of us are “trapped”. :17.440 --> :22.189
She agreed but said you never know and should
depend on yourself, even in marriage. :22.189 --> :23.960
Luke was nodding and agreeing. :23.960 --> :28.040
I said, “It would also give you more to talk about other than your job.”
:28.040 --> :31.180 Faye asked if I had a problem with her talking
about her job. :31.180 --> :37.110
I said no, but honestly, it’s the only thing
she seems to have that’s mildly interesting. :37.110 --> :41.699
Everyone else talks about kids, home life,
vacations, family, hobbies, but all you talk :41.699 --> :46.180
about is your degree, education, and this new job of yours.
:46.180 --> :48.160 And I told her it was kinda boring.
:48.160 --> :52.660 Faye said, “Then I won’t bore you any
further,” and asked my in-laws how installing :52.660 --> :54.279
wood floors was going. :54.279 --> :57.829
We all moved on past the conversation until later that night.
:57.829 --> :01.110 After Luke and Faye left, my MIL told me I
was rude. :01.110 --> :05.400
I told her I was telling the truth because we ARE all tired of hearing about it.
:05.400 --> :06.470 Jack agreed. :06.470 --> :11.840
But MIL said while that was true, it’s still
an accomplishment no one (looked me up and :11.840 --> :15.600
down) in this family has done yet and I seemed jealous.
:15.600 --> :19.240 I said I wasn’t jealous but offended by
some things she said. :19.240 --> :22.880
MIL told me I was only offended because Faye was right.
:22.880 --> :27.530 Jack said she was right but it was obvious
she was directing those comments at me in :27.530 --> :46.030
a judgmental way, and my parents agree :46.030 --> :04.000 with me.
:04.000 --> :21.870 AITA? :21.870 --> :26.910
I gave birth to our first child 3 weeks ago and my body hasn’t snapped back yet.
:26.910 --> :30.950 I definitely feel insecure about it, to the
point where I won’t even change in front :30.950 --> :32.810
of my husband anymore. :32.810 --> :37.650
Yesterday I was laying down on him and my
top rode up so you could see my belly slightly. :37.650 --> :43.000
He stroked it and then poked it and made a
comment about how my belly was like dough. :43.000 --> :46.620
I know my reaction was irrational but I burst into tears.
:46.620 --> :51.070 My in-laws were there and my mother-in-law
was furious with my husband and she started :51.070 --> :54.210
scolding him for not being careful with his words. :54.210 --> :58.180
My husband tried to defend himself but my mother-in-law kept telling him off.
:58.180 --> :02.460 I started smiling and my husband got upset
with me for being happy he was getting into :02.460 --> :21.810
trouble. :21.810 --> :41.150 AITA? :41.150 --> :46.090
My dad has been dating "Tiffany" for a year and a half.
:46.090 --> :47.880 She is honestly really annoying.
:47.880 --> :49.360 I'm not going to lie.
:49.360 --> :55.300 I recently got engaged to my GF of 3 years
"Melissa" and we are currently wedding planning. :55.300 --> :58.770
Her mom and MOH recently threw her a bridal shower.
:58.770 --> :01.660 As an olive branch Tiffany and my mom were
invited. :01.660 --> :06.930 For some background Melissa does struggle
with insecurities and self esteem. :06.930 --> :14.140
She is also very very into things being picture
perfect, which sometimes results in anxiety. :14.140 --> :16.700
She also hates how the women in my family dress. :16.700 --> :21.350
She totally gets it isn't her business and
she would never say anything, but she has :21.350 --> :23.280
confided to me that she hates it. :23.280 --> :26.710
For the bridal shower most of the women wore sundresses.
:26.710 --> :32.270 Tiffany wore something which looked to me
like a ruffly crop top and a matching skirt. :32.270 --> :33.750
I thought it looked fine. :33.750 --> :36.820
She did mention she was leaving early because she had plans.
:36.820 --> :42.570 During the shower Melissa realized that what
Tiffany was wearing was actually a bikini, :42.570 --> :46.600
because the skirt was pretty see through and she could make out the bottoms.
:46.600 --> :51.540 she asked her, but tried to laugh it off,
and Tiffany admitted it was a bikini, because :51.540 --> :55.850
she was going out on my dad's boat after and wouldn't have time to change.
:55.850 --> :59.309 My future MIL asked Tiffany if she found it
a bit weird. :59.309 --> :02.360
Tiffany said no, she thought it passed as a crop top.
:02.360 --> :07.180 Melissa and her bridesmaids went off and talked
about it, and Melissa decided that she was :07.180 --> :11.060
offended, but declined her mom's offer to kick Tiffany out.
:11.060 --> :16.030 When Tiffany was leaving she said goodbye
and my fiancée said "I hope you had fun, :16.030 --> :19.010
and hope you found the attention you were looking for"
:19.010 --> :22.090 I heard this through my mom, sister, and then
Melissa. :22.090 --> :27.300 At this point I was sick of hearing about
it and I was annoyed because my mom was trying :27.300 --> :32.750
to make it into a much bigger issue and act
like I shouldn't marry Melissa over it, which :32.750 --> :34.350
I promptly shut down. :34.350 --> :39.780
By the time I talked to Melissa she was heated
and calling Tiffany and attention w**** and :39.780 --> :40.780
a show off. :40.780 --> :44.740
She asked if my mom had said anything, because
I guess my mom was rolling her eyes at her :44.740 --> :45.860
at the shower. :45.860 --> :48.640
I told her I talked to my mom and told her to shut up.
:48.640 --> :51.170 Melissa than asked me if i hated tiffany.
:51.170 --> :56.620 I said that I don't hate her, and then I said
to be honest I think her outfit was fine. :56.620 --> :02.190
It just looked like a crop top, and if that
ruined the day for Melissa, that is something :02.190 --> :04.050
Melissa needs to work on. :04.050 --> :08.090
That upset Melissa and she feels that i was brushing her feelings aside.
:08.090 --> :13.440 She said I should talk to my dad, and I told
her I wasn't going to and that is embarrassing. :13.440 --> :38.730
She stormed off and is now refusing to talk about it.
:38.730 --> :03.210 I(28F) come from a big extended family.
:03.210 --> :09.480 Including me and my sister (23F), there are
24 female cousins and 17 male cousins. :09.480 --> :11.410
Half of the cousins are already married. :11.410 --> :15.450
When the first one ever asked me to be a bridesmaid I declined.
:15.450 --> :19.720 When I attend a wedding I want to have fun,
eat food and dance. :19.720 --> :21.490
In exchange I will get you a gift. :21.490 --> :26.300
I do not want to spend my energy, time and money on your big day.
:26.300 --> :30.760 And when I get married, I will not have a
bridal party nor will I expect a bachelorette :30.760 --> :31.760
party. :31.760 --> :35.100 Well all of the cousins understood, there
were no hard feelings. :35.100 --> :38.950
And to be honest, with that many cousins it wasn't even an issue.
:38.950 --> :41.140 Now my younger sister is getting married.
:41.140 --> :44.320 She asked me to be a bridesmaid and I declined.
:44.320 --> :45.760 And I did it very gently.
:45.760 --> :50.480 I told her sorry, but with working full time,
being in the final stages of preparing my :50.480 --> :55.910
thesis and teaching some summer classes; that
I would not make a good bridesmaid. :55.910 --> :58.960
Also my sister is a total bridezilla. :58.960 --> :05.490
The dresses she is looking at for her party
are $450, she expects a weekend bachelorette :05.490 --> :08.450
in Vegas with all the bells and whistles. :08.450 --> :13.380
And wants everyone to attend dance classes
to learn this elaborate dance to "surprise" :13.380 --> :14.380
her with. :14.380 --> :17.130
I do not have the energy for all that ish. :17.130 --> :21.280
Now she said I am not invited to her wedding,
if I am not willing to put forth the effort :21.280 --> :24.950
to make her day perfect, then I do not deserve to be there.
:24.950 --> :26.210 Honestly I don't care.
:26.210 --> :32.880 But my mom and some aunts are calling me an AH.
:32.880 --> :57.260 So AITA? :57.260 --> :05.940 The
party was 2 months ago but this is still coming :05.940 --> :08.830
up so I just want to get some external opinions. :08.830 --> :12.860
In February it came out that my father had a child out of marriage.
:12.860 --> :15.850 Let's call him Olly and Olly is 24.
:15.850 --> :21.110 It was a shock since no one expected it but
we took the tests and he is dad's son. :21.110 --> :26.330
He's an ok guy but I grew up with 3 siblings
and they are the only siblings I'll ever know :26.330 --> :30.781
so we don't have much of a relationship but
I acknowledge him and we get along when we :30.781 --> :31.900
see each other. :31.900 --> :38.190
June 18th is my father's birthday and what
would've been my parent's 50th anniversary. :38.190 --> :43.010
My mother had been really looking forward
to this milestone while he was alive so we :43.010 --> :48.460
planned this small party to celebrate what
would've been 50 years of marriage and his :48.460 --> :49.460
birthday. :49.460 --> :54.390
Just a nice lunch with my aunt, uncles and
grandmother as well as a visit to his grave. :54.390 --> :59.100
My sister told Olly about the plan and he
asked to be involved since we're celebrating :59.100 --> :00.460
dad's birthday. :00.460 --> :06.630
The problem is that my mother is still struggling
to accept him/the fact that dad cheated (she's :06.630 --> :12.970
in therapy for this), and since this was a
dual birthday and wedding anniversary, inviting :12.970 --> :18.640
the kid he had out of marriage seems like
adding salt to the wound so I said no he couldn't :18.640 --> :22.990
be involved in the party however we can make
arrangements to go to the grave as siblings :22.990 --> :28.230
with him afterwards and then have dinner together
on me since he is dad's son in the end. :28.230 --> :33.590
My sister told me Olly was offended and mad
at me for treating him like an outsider and :33.590 --> :38.980
tried to come 'gatecrash' but my husband saw
him outside and just asked him not to (i only :38.980 --> :41.160
found out about this afterwards). :41.160 --> :45.890
Him and my two sisters ended up go to the
grave alone after everything ended and have :45.890 --> :47.080
dinner without me. :47.080 --> :52.210
I understand where he's coming from but also
believe I made a fair compromise under the :52.210 --> :53.210
circumstances. :53.210 --> :54.210 Aita? :54.210 --> :56.560
I share an apartment with a friend I've known for years (both M24).
:56.560 --> :02.070 We have had this place for over a year and
havent had any real issues, we get along well :02.070 --> :03.230
and do heaps together. :03.230 --> :08.220
He works full time, I am a university student
and we split all bills, food and rent down :08.220 --> :12.210
the middle (we hate the idea of 'share houses'
and just want it to feel like a home). :12.210 --> :16.420
A few months ago, he started seeing a girl
(T) who spends every day and night at our :16.420 --> :19.360
place (T is also a university student and hates her studio apartment.).
:19.360 --> :24.860 Until recently, I have had no issue with T
being here and have never asked her to pay :24.860 --> :25.860
for anything. :25.860 --> :28.920
She eats all meals at our place and takes food to uni if she needs.
:28.920 --> :33.510 They way I see it, housemate and I just buy
a bit more food and it really doesn't matter. :33.510 --> :38.690
The other week, I got home from uni, went
to the kitchen to make a coffee (I had an :38.690 --> :47.560
assignment I needed to work on so wanted a
pick me up) and when I opened the fridge I :47.560 --> :49.020
noticed some redbulls. :49.020 --> :53.980
I just assumed my housemate had gotten them
for us so I grabbed one and drank it. :53.980 --> :55.270
The next morning at breakfast, T opened the
fridge and then got super angry that one of :55.270 --> :56.270
HER redbulls was missing. :56.270 --> :57.270
I said it was me and that I thought my housemate had gotten them.
:57.270 --> :58.270 She started telling me how she bought them
for herself and I should have asked and that :58.270 --> :59.270
I needed to apologise for taking it. :59.270 --> :00.270
I was going to tell T that its my fridge and
I shouldn't have to ask if I can have stuff :00.270 --> :01.270
in it, but didn't want to start a conflict so just apologised.
:01.270 --> :02.270 She demanded I by her a replacement....
:02.270 --> :03.270 Since then she has started labelling any drinks
or food she brings for herself and makes a :03.270 --> :04.270
point of saying its hers. :04.270 --> :05.270
After all this, I have said to my housemate
that I don't want her staying at our place :05.270 --> :06.270
unless she is going to start paying rent,
paying for bills and pitching in to pay for :06.270 --> :07.270 food.
:07.270 --> :08.270 I don't want to pay for her anymore just so
that she can abuse me for taking a drink from :08.270 --> :09.270
my own fridge. :09.270 --> :10.270 AITA? :10.270 --> :11.270
My friend (20M) and I (19F) both go to school
in the US, but we are both in a foreign country :11.270 --> :12.270
in Europe to gain work experience. :12.270 --> :13.270
The internship is unpaid, but the school provided
a small stipend to pay rent for those with :13.270 --> :14.270
financial need. :14.270 --> :15.270
My friend and I both got the stipend. :15.270 --> :16.270
We have a week and a half left here. :16.270 --> :17.270
My friend suddenly told me he needs to fly
to Austria to see his mother (he’s a citizen :17.270 --> :18.270
of Austria, but our school is in the US) because she’s sick.
:18.270 --> :19.270 She had cancer in the past, and he said they
think it might have come back. :19.270 --> :20.270
He has no more stipend money, so he asked me to loan him $110 for the plane.
:20.270 --> :21.270 I found out he’s actually in Paris with
his girlfriend. :21.270 --> :22.270
My other friend showed me his private Instagram story.
:22.270 --> :23.270 His mom is fine. :23.270 --> :24.270
I got upset at him since he deceived me, and
he admitted it and said “but you wouldn’t :24.270 --> :25.270
have given me the money if I told you the truth.” :25.270 --> :26.270
I said he needs to give me back the money
so I can eat, because I’m stuck here another :26.270 --> :27.270
week with basically no money for food. :27.270 --> :28.270
He is ignoring me now, and my other friends
are saying it’s warranted because of my :28.270 --> :29.270
harsh words for him. :29.270 --> :30.270
I literally have like $15 to eat for a week and a half.
:30.270 --> :31.270 I need the money so I don’t starve alone
in a foreign country, but they’re acting :31.270 --> :32.270
like I’m being an unreasonable person for demanding it, and he isn’t answering.
:32.270 --> :33.270 My wife grew up rough.
:33.270 --> :34.270 She had a very very hard time, due to personal
issues her parent weren’t in the picture :34.270 --> :35.270
she was left to fend for herself. :35.270 --> :36.270
She was forced to do a lot of things against her will.
:36.270 --> :37.270 Literally live in the back of gas stations
or stores at the age of 16. :37.270 --> :38.270
She’s had a lot of things that she had to
get out of habit from like, going days without :38.270 --> :39.270
eating, days without showering, severe insomnia and jumpy at any loud sounds.
:39.270 --> :40.270 She’s working on those tho.
:40.270 --> :41.270 I am a rather wealthy person, upper middle class.
:41.270 --> :42.270 my wife is the cutest but is so d*** sad.
:42.270 --> :43.270 She gets very excited at grocery stores because
she is able to get any treat or food she wants. :43.270 --> :44.270
She gets super excited at things other people would dread.
:44.270 --> :45.270 My brother is very spoilt, my parents struggled
to parent him, they have in at any command :45.270 --> :46.270
he said. :46.270 --> :47.270 He gets off the hook for everything.
:47.270 --> :48.270 They couldn’t deal with him, so they sent
him with me. :48.270 --> :49.270
I set rules and consequences, he has to go
to go donate anything he doesn’t use or :49.270 --> :50.270
doesn’t fit, he had to get a job etc :50.270 --> :51.270
this was fine. :51.270 --> :52.270 He was doing better.
:52.270 --> :53.270 Lately my wife has been doing a lot of what
I explained before, jumpy, forgetting to eat, :53.270 --> :54.270
waking up at odd hours this was weird. :54.270 --> :55.270
I came home from work and overheard my brother and my wife.
:55.270 --> :56.270 My wife was asleep in the couch, my brother
goes over and purposely bangs on the wall, :56.270 --> :57.270
making siren noises. :57.270 --> :58.270
I have informed my brother what he can’t do regarding my wife.
:58.270 --> :59.270 My wife jumped up, looking scared.
:59.270 --> :00.270 I told my brother, who was surprised.
:00.270 --> :01.270 To go to the his room, which he did.
:01.270 --> :02.270 This wasn’t the first time he’s did this
according to my wife. :02.270 --> :03.270
She said he has shaking her in her sleep,
or stealing whatever food she was eating. :03.270 --> :04.690
She said he has been throwing away all her soaps and washes to.
:04.690 --> :09.080 I was baffled, one I didn’t know about this,
two my brother? :09.080 --> :10.080 He’s 18?
:10.080 --> :12.070 He’s old enough to know better.
:12.070 --> :15.940 I talked to my brother and he said that he
was just messing with her, and that this was :15.940 --> :20.570
probably good sk she can get over whatever “weird fears she has”
:20.570 --> :25.180 He proceeded to say that the way she had it
wasn’t that bad, and she practically got :25.180 --> :26.410
money for free. :26.410 --> :32.190
So, I took his stuff, put it in big plastic
bags, and set them on the driveway and told :32.190 --> :33.530
him to get out. :33.530 --> :37.820
He was taken back and asked if I was just
going to leave him out there in the heat. :37.820 --> :38.820
It was 76. :38.820 --> :43.990
He said just because she was broke doesn’t mean I have to treat him like a hobo.
:43.990 --> :46.400 I took him outside and locked the door.
:46.400 --> :48.760 He was banging on the door for a few.
:48.760 --> :51.460 Called my parents and told them he can’t
stay here. :51.460 --> :55.320
They are about 3 hours drive away, I even gave the kid water.
:55.320 --> :58.050 When my parents got here they were p*****.
:58.050 --> :03.120 They said that he was rude but I was ridiculous
for such a harsh punishment and he could’ve :03.120 --> :05.300
been kidnapped or passed out. :05.300 --> :08.870
He’s 200 pounds, seated in a gated community. :08.870 --> :10.160
I don’t feel bad. :10.160 --> :31.630
I think this taught him to stop taking things for granted.
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a it ta for digging in my heels and refusing to invite my estranged father
and his wife to my wedding I'm 30f getting married this year and the
wedding is going to be smaller so those we want to invite know when The wedding
will take place and are confirmed to be free invites will go out in the summer
but unofficially the people who will be invited have been invited this was
because it was important to us to have those closest to us present and we
didn't want a hugely expensive wedding this has become a problem because I did
invite my grandmother paternal and she has a relationship ship with my
estranged father while I do not background is needed here when my
brother and I were four we lost our mom our mom's twin sister helped our dad out
a lot after mom died we actually lived with her for seven or eight months while
our dad was spiraling and losing control of himself she was there for our first
day of school she fed us and clothed us and protected us a lot during the period
we lived with her and once Dad pulled himself together and took us back she
was still the person taking care of us after school and on Saturdays or Sundays
when our dad would work she was essential to us she and Mom were orphans
so it was just her for the maternal side
and dad's side were not close by and did
not play much of a role in those earlier
childhood memories but our Aunt did then
my dad got engaged and life changed fast my dad's wife did not want our Aunt
around anymore she wanted to become the mom and she did not feel like my Aunt
would make that easy on her so my dad and his wife fiance at the time moved us
out of state and we moved around a lot so my aunt could not get any visitation
rights to us we did not to see or speak to her at all after that I know she
fought for us she did track us down a couple of times and we moved again we
missed her like crazy and over the decade that followed Dad tried to erase
all traces of our aunt and Mom and attempted to create a little nuclear
family with the four of us but we hated him and we hated her and when we were
teenagers we tracked down our aunt and at 18 we moved out of our dad's house
and ended all contact with them my grandmother was aware of all this and
when we were kids she was understanding and did attempt to advocate for us to
see our aunt but once my dad found out I
was getting married through a person who actually isn't invited to the wedding
but knew I was engaged he was talking to
my grandmother and he told her how badly
he and his wife want to come and how sad they are that they have been removed so
completely from our lives now my grandmother is saying they should be
invited or at least my father because he's still my father I told her it would
not happen and refused to compromise with just him so she's unhappy and she
said I am taking things too far and doing what they did only I know how
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my boyfriend 36m admitted he thinks my sister 27f is prettier than me 29f how
do I overcome his comment I have gone my whole life battling my jealousy of my
sister I love her and only want her to be happy but being the less attractive
sister has stirred up so many insecurities in myself since we were
young I would be considered cute and I don't mean my sister is just a little
bit prettier than me I mean she is a head turner could blend in perfectly in
a Victoria Secret fashion show kind of stunning has the height body and face
and she gets to live in extremely thrilling life because of what being
beautiful brings dates powerful and famous men gets spoiled with vehicles
and luxuries I'm I me it's just night and day difference how the stunning
people of the world live compared to the rest of us I have a normal life working
9 to 5 growing up being compared to that and overlooked in every aspect next to
her has damaged my self-esteem Beyond repair now I love my boyfriend and he
loves me but he made a detrimental comment that I'm struggling to move past
we were out with a bunch of his friends I was meeting for the first time and
everyone had been drinking I was asked about my siblings and at some point my
boyfriend loudly proclaimed if you guys think my name is pretty you should see
her sister and then began showing everyone at the table photos of her
Instagram and of course everyone was in awe I felt so small and now knew my own
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who knew that all I had to do was to give them my blessing for my husband and
his mistress to break up I have known about his infidelity for 10 months now
when he almost missed the birth of our baby we had a planned C-section but our
daughter decided she couldn't wait and I called him all morning confused and
terrified in pain because I was scheduled 2 weeks later my Mom finally
got a hold of him he smelled disgusting my way a perfume that I really hate he
looked more guilty than excited and he smelled disgusting anyway when we got
home I looked in his phone and found out about them I don't know how he has been
able to fool me or was I just blind I told him that I knew and he tried to
deny it and I didn't argue when I didn't argue he probably felt relieved that I
had dropped it or maybe he thought I believed him one day he came home late
and he smelled of our way again and I broke down crying and begging him to
stop to choose our family to choose me I love you he just denied it again and I
didn't argue again I told him that I hated what he was doing and that I hated
her disgusting perfume I don't think it mattered because he was working late
again not a week later the day after New Year's Day I took my children to town
because I convinced myself that I needed to do some shopping I found myself
walking around his office around lunchtime looking inside restaurants I
thought that after the holidays keeping them apart they would be wanting to have
lunch together on their first day at work my heart was racing and my stomach
churning I thought that if I saw them together I would faint or even die but
none of this happened I found them as I expected in the restaurant he used to
take me to whenever I visited him I was surprised that the hurt and humiliation
I was expecting and fearing didn't come instead I felt calm and relief like
something big and heavy was lifted from my heart I even felt embarrassed that he
was as predictable as I thought I think I stopped having any feelings for him
right that moment it rre of my way in the whole restaurant or maybe I just
imagined it I told them that I wasn't there to cause trouble but that I needed
to see for myself I told her that she had one and that now she could have him
I told him that if he followed after me that I would scream because he was about
to when he got home he wanted to talk I told him that I wasn't angry or hurt
anymore he could be with her for almost 2 weeks now they have been arguing and
fighting over text because he ended the affair I will never understand how some
people function why weren't my tears and please enough for him to end it but my
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:06.780 --> :11.400 Why I Exposed My High School Teacher.
The day Ms. Emily walked into my class :11.400 --> :17.280
in high school, I took her for an angel. Her curly
brunette hair sits calmly on her oval-shaped face.
:17.280 --> :22.980
She was bubbly. She was exceptional, but she was
never meant to be my teacher. I didn’t realize
:22.980 --> :28.140 that there is what is called teacher-student
compatibility until I experienced Ms. Emily.
:28.140 --> :33.060 I was stubborn, and she was unyielding.
It was all games until someone got hurt. :33.060 --> :38.820
At that point, I barely forgave anything or
anyone so I didn’t forgive Ms. Emily when
:38.820 --> :44.160 she hurt me. I couldn’t, so I dealt with her.
You can call me the type of student that felt
:44.160 --> :50.220
like the world revolved around her. It was easy
for me to feel so, because why not? My great-aunt
:50.220 --> :54.420 established and nurtured this outstanding
private school on the South Side of Chicago.
:54.420 --> :00.360 It was easy to rave about my school because
all and sundry sang its praises in high tones.
:00.360 --> :05.940 It stood outstandingly like a city set upon
a hill that cannot be hidden. The people in
:05.940 --> :11.160 the community called the school a “legacy”.
The school was the legacy that my great aunt
:11.160 --> :15.840 established to continue the spread of black
emancipation and development in the South Side
:15.840 --> :21.900
of Chicago. She was an outstanding black professor
at the University of Chicago in her lifetime. So,
:21.900 --> :26.220 it was no wonder when she established the
school to spur the black community not to
:26.220 --> :29.520 give up on their dreams no matter
what. I didn’t meet my great-aunt, :29.520 --> :33.480
but I was determined to ride on the
wings of her impact and influence. :33.480 --> :39.360
It was easy to do that because I came from a long
list of prominent people who had and has continued
:39.360 --> :45.840
to take front sits in major strata of society. For
instance, my dad is a perfect example of handsome
:45.840 --> :51.300
and successful. He is a black neurosurgeon who
made it easy for people and colleagues to respect
:51.300 --> :56.100 his skills and expertise. He had carried
out major brain surgeries which were not
:56.100 --> :01.800
only successful but applaudable considering the
delicate states of the patients he operated on.
:01.800 --> :04.920 With that kind of father, it
was easy for me to be proud. :04.920 --> :09.300
And my mom? You can rate her as the
stunning high-class lady who directs :09.300 --> :13.500
chains of businesses around Chicago.
She moved with high-profile people, :13.500 --> :20.280
and she attended exotic dinners. I took after my
mom in looks. Her blonde hair is silky and full,
:20.280 --> :25.860
dropping down to her shoulders. When she walks,
she counts her steps carefully and strutting with
:25.860 --> :31.800
an obvious air of pride half of the time. I can’t
say she’s pompous but I know she has this aura
:31.800 --> :36.900
of importance around her. And what more can I ask
of a mother who drops me off at school every day?
:36.900 --> :43.200
So it happened that I got to school very early
on a Tuesday totally oblivious that I was in for
:43.200 --> :48.420
a bad day. Maybe I deserved the bad day too. How
could I have missed the research assignment Ms.
:48.420 --> :54.660
Emily gave in her last class? I knew I was in for
it, but there was no escape. She had been stern in
:54.660 --> :00.300
the past about failing to turn in her assignments.
And I knew I was always at her receiving end.
:00.300 --> :05.640
I can’t say why, but I knew there was something
about her that didn’t resonate with me and vice
:05.640 --> :09.900 versa. And it got worst that I am closely
affiliated with the founder of the school.
:09.900 --> :14.400 She didn’t like that I got preferential
treatment or that people try to be in my
:14.400 --> :19.020 good books because why not? And I didn’t
like that she didn’t like what she met.
:19.020 --> :24.720 I was the queen bee and I played my role well.
And then the queen bee didn’t do her research
:24.720 --> :29.760
assignment. I had promised to tread carefully;
I was not going to be entrapped in any snare.
:29.760 --> :36.300
At that point, I didn’t know what my fate was.
Despite being a queen bee, I was fully aware of
:36.300 --> :40.860 the fact that I wasn’t above the dictates of
the school’s policy. I knew the implications
:40.860 --> :46.980
of my unplanned negligence. I hated that I would
come off as irresponsible because I liked to be
:46.980 --> :52.380 orderly and diligent. I was the type of girl
that didn’t like my enemies to have a stain
:52.380 --> :58.500
on me. I can’t say I was diplomatic but I knew I
was unpredictable and I wanted to remain just so.
:58.500 --> :04.920
I was the unpredictable one but I had to respect
Ms. Emily’s tact and unpredictability. She had
:04.920 --> :11.160
everyone turn in their assignments one after the
other, but at my turn, she acted flabbergasted
:11.160 --> :16.740 when she discovered mine was undone. The
surprise she feigned wasn’t the type I expected,
:16.740 --> :22.080 and to top it off, she was incredibly calm
about it all. I didn’t like that she was calm,
:22.080 --> :26.820 just like I didn’t like how she didn’t call
me to her table to ask why I didn’t turn in
:26.820 --> :32.640
my research. I knew something was wrong but I
didn’t know what it was. I couldn’t place it.
:32.640 --> :36.180 After that incident, the term ended
without the mention of the research :36.180 --> :40.860
assignment I didn’t do. There was no reason
to meet Ms. Emily since she didn’t call me to
:40.860 --> :46.440
herself and I didn’t bother with the research
anymore. I had other issues. For instance,
:46.440 --> :51.420 my best friend, Charlotte, was experiencing
a difficult breakup from a relationship she
:51.420 --> :56.280
ought not to have gotten into in the first place.
It was a very difficult period for her and I had
:56.280 --> :01.140 to play the good girlfriend. So if I didn’t
remember to check in on Ms. Emily when my best
:01.140 --> :07.680 friend was being suicidal, it wasn’t my fault.
The saying which says keep your friend close and
:07.680 --> :13.560
your enemies closer is true and applied to me.
I ought to have kept Ms. Emily closer regardless
:13.560 --> :18.240
of whatever it was that I was going through. But
there was no way I could have kept my enemy closer
:18.240 --> :23.940
because I didn’t even think I had an enemy. I
could have been proud but I was a good person.
:23.940 --> :30.180
And being a good person didn’t mean I had to like
everyone and everything around me. I didn’t hate
:30.180 --> :36.300
Ms. Emily, but I didn’t fancy her. And my feelings
didn’t just happen by chance, she had lots of
:36.300 --> :42.000
shortcomings she refused to work on just because
she felt she was an A-list teacher who attended
:42.000 --> :47.940
an Ivy League college. She was intelligent but
very proud of it, she was approachable but she
:47.940 --> :53.340
made it very difficult to access her table. To be
honest, I didn’t understand why the management of
:53.340 --> :59.280
the school left her at ease despite the complaints
from the student populace. All for what? For a
:59.280 --> :04.200
first-class degree graduate from an ivy league
college, I guess. I couldn’t watch on while my
:04.200 --> :09.420 great aunt's legacy was being dragged in the mud.
There was no way I could allow that to happen as
:09.420 --> :15.300 the queen bee that I was. So, as expected
I got on her nerves terribly. There was a
:15.300 --> :19.980
day I influenced my classmates to boycott the
science practical she organized for the class
:19.980 --> :25.800
not because it wasn’t beneficial to us but because
she got one of us unfairly suspended from school.
:25.800 --> :31.200 The student would have to retake the school
year all of that due to an unfounded report. :31.200 --> :37.560
As if that was not enough, Ms. Emily denied having
verbally assaulted a student in the junior year.
:37.560 --> :43.080 She had an overwhelming record of negativity
levied against her. Despite all the things I
:43.080 --> :47.400 didn’t agree with that had to do with her, I
had to keep my cool until I could no longer
:47.400 --> :52.440 do so. Well, I wasn’t going to give up on my
quest to put her in her place once and for all,
:52.440 --> :57.300 and I knew I had to do that in 12th grade.
Then something happened in 12th grade. :57.300 --> :02.820
I had not expected Ms. Emily to checkmate
me thoroughly the way she did. In fact,
:02.820 --> :07.800
I was not expecting her to checkmate me at all. I
had hoped to be the class president in 12th grade.
:07.800 --> :13.200
I knew I was willing and able, and I had what it
takes to serve in such a capacity judiciously.
:13.200 --> :18.840
When the time came, I didn’t hesitate to vie for
the position. I had to vie because the position
:18.840 --> :24.420 was not automatic. Interested students had
indicated interest and hoped for the best during
:24.420 --> :29.940
the elections. The position was very competitive
because of the power it confers on the carrier.
:29.940 --> :34.620 I purchased the form just like every other
candidate had done. At the point of purchase,
:34.620 --> :40.920 I was very confident that I could even win
unopposed. In as much as it is a family school, I
:40.920 --> :46.440
had equally garnered a good reputation for myself.
I wasn’t the queen bee who loved to flaunt power
:46.440 --> :52.500
and oppress people, instead, I was that girl who
had the interest of people at heart. I was easy to
:52.500 --> :57.240 warm up to and I easily warmed up to people too.
I had hoped that I would pull the crowd no
:57.240 --> :02.400 matter what, but what I didn’t know was
that Ms. Emily had other plans for me. I
:02.400 --> :06.660 thought I was no longer part of her problem.
Well, I obviously didn’t think it through! :06.660 --> :11.640
On that cold morning, I thought the pressure
from the atmosphere was just enough for the day;
:11.640 --> :17.100
I didn’t know the pressure that was yet to come
from the electoral body was going to make my knees
:17.100 --> :22.920
weak and my limbs wobbly. Should I have expected
it? No! I didn’t even feel like I deserved to be
:22.920 --> :28.440
disqualified from the contest just because Ms.
Emily ruled out several reasons why I wasn’t
:28.440 --> :34.560
fit to be a student leader. I couldn’t believe
the word unfit would be used to describe me.
:34.560 --> :39.300 Aside from the research assignment I didn’t
turn in several weeks before the elections,
:39.300 --> :43.980 Ms. Emily spelled out several other
things she found incriminating about me. :43.980 --> :47.940
And truly, they were incriminating!
But why would she bring all those :47.940 --> :52.380
things up then? And what was happening to
the school’s policy? No one talked about
:52.380 --> :57.600
how invalid her allegations were. She kept all
those things to herself just to use them against
:57.600 --> :03.900 me when she deemed fit. I didn’t deserve that.
I didn’t say anything. There was no need to and I
:03.900 --> :09.660
wasn’t going to hold back anymore either. I knew
for the umpteenth time that Ms. Emily won’t be
:09.660 --> :15.780
staying long in the school but I needed to devise
a means to oust her once and for all. First,
:15.780 --> :20.820
my parents had to find out that my great-aunt’s
legacy was crumbling right in front of them. :20.820 --> :26.820
When I got home, I related everything to my
parents and they were beyond dazed to hear all
:26.820 --> :31.920
that I’d been through and even kept to myself.
Well, the plot twist was in the way my parents
:31.920 --> :37.200
told me to handle it because they were confident
in my plans. I expected them to just put a call
:37.200 --> :42.240 through to the principal of the school, Mrs.
Wellington, to give her firm orders regarding
:42.240 --> :48.780 the situation. Then again, I remembered that
Ms. Emily was related to Mrs. Wellington and
:48.780 --> :53.160 everything began to make sense to me.
I knew something was wrong and I needed
:53.160 --> :58.020 to act fast to salvage the situation.
The elections came, and I didn’t emerge
:58.020 --> :01.860 as the class president. I didn’t
look defeated, and that must have :01.860 --> :06.540
been disturbing to Ms. Emily. I was glad that
I learned the act of staying still in the face
:06.540 --> :11.940 of anger. It wasn’t easy, but it was rewarding.
While I racked my head in that state of frenzy,
:11.940 --> :16.800 everybody thought I had moved on. Well,
kudos to me for playing out my script well. :16.800 --> :21.180
I had hinted to my best friend about my
plans and she was ready to give me her :21.180 --> :25.680
full support. Together, we would deliver my aunt’s legacy from rot.
:25.680 --> :31.680 Ms. Emily had a knack for verbal bullying.
A lot of times, she had verbally abused one
:31.680 --> :35.580 student or another, but would always
blatantly deny it when confronted. :35.580 --> :39.720
Who would have thought that the very thing
she denied was going to be the end of her? :39.720 --> :45.180
The day it happened, it was just another
episode of a toxic adult verbally abusing
:45.180 --> :51.000
a minor. It was serious, but she had succeeded
to make it look less serious. I had prepared
:51.000 --> :55.920 very well for such a scenario, so I wasn’t
caught unawares when it eventually happened. :55.920 --> :00.000
It was what I tagged “preparation met opportunity”.
:00.000 --> :06.300 I didn’t spare any chance to get a detailed
recording of the brutal words she said to the
:06.300 --> :10.920 poor girl who cower in fear and shame.
After informing the student involved, :10.920 --> :14.940
we made a resolve not to include Mrs.
Wellington for fear of having everything
:14.940 --> :19.980 swept under the carpet. We couldn’t risk it!
We got the school district involved, and
:19.980 --> :25.140
thereafter, the Department of Education. We didn’t
expect the swift action that was taken after the
:25.140 --> :31.560
report. Everybody was on board now, our parents,
the school board, and of course Ms. Emily. :31.560 --> :37.740
The shock on her face can’t be documented. She
didn’t expect two minors to send such a major
:37.740 --> :43.560
shiver down her spine, and it was bad that all the
agencies were not lenient with such allegations.
:43.560 --> :49.260 They were determined to get to the root of it.
The education board was stunned at the revelation
:49.260 --> :53.940 of such recklessness from a person who
ought to protect the wards kept in her care. :53.940 --> :58.440
Well, at the end of it all, we couldn’t
take legal action because the offense :58.440 --> :04.620
wasn’t criminal, but one major thing happened.
Ms. Emily didn’t only lose her job at the school,
:04.620 --> :09.780 she lost her teaching license. She would
in longer be able to teach in the district,
:09.780 --> :15.540 province, and the entire state at large.
She was labeled dangerous and capable of
:15.540 --> :18.720 sabotaging the self-esteem
of the students in her care. :18.720 --> :24.660
Just when I thought justice had been served,
another bombshell happened. After Ms. Emily
:24.660 --> :29.640
was relieved of her duties in the school, the
entire school board was thoroughly scrutinized.
:29.640 --> :33.900 The principal, Mrs. Wellington, was
dislodged, but she didn’t go alone. :33.900 --> :40.620
Everyone who had watched on while evil practices
prevailed in the school was equally ousted out.
:40.620 --> :46.740
I wanted to leave my name in the hearts of men; I
started with Ms. Emily and everybody who watched
:46.740 --> :51.720 on while she was a thorn in our flesh.
When I got home, I immersed myself in the
:51.720 --> :56.700
tub while I grabbed a glass of wine. The wine
dated back to the late 90s when my great-aunt
:56.700 --> :01.620
was younger and agile. I wondered if what I had
done was truly enough to protect her legacy. :01.620 --> :05.340
I was told she adored me when she
was alive, and in that instance, :05.340 --> :11.280
I felt a cold breeze in the tub. I knew she was
around just so I could know she was proud of me! :33.600 --> :36.900
The Crazy Driver Who Hit My Niece :36.900 --> :42.720
It was a bright and sunny afternoon in the small
town of Millfield. The week before, I had promised
:42.720 --> :48.000
my not-so-little niece, Sarah, a special hang-out
in her favorite outdoor park. She was a bright,
:48.000 --> :54.240
bubbly, and energetic 10-year-old who lit up any
room she appears in. I was intrigued by her zest
:54.240 --> :59.040
as she ran around and climbed on the playground
equipment. I felt very proud to be her aunt. :59.040 --> :05.340
Suddenly, I heard a loud screech and looked up
to see a car speeding toward us. I made a swift
:05.340 --> :10.740
move by running out of the way and dragging my
niece furiously, but unfortunately, it was too
:10.740 --> :18.060
late. The car closed in on her hitting her fragile
body with full force on the hard ground. Suddenly,
:18.060 --> :23.700 there was a loud silence. I looked around
me but I couldn’t find my Sarah. She flew
:23.700 --> :30.360
several feet in the air before hitting the ground
with a sickening thud. It was a horrific moment,
:30.360 --> :34.980 for some seconds, I stood afar, shivering
and trying to process what had happened. :34.980 --> :38.820
What was meant to be a harmless outdoor outing turned out to
:38.820 --> :43.620 be a revenge mission. It was so bad
that the driver was reckless, drunk, :43.620 --> :48.660
and was still missing from the accident
scene. That, for me, was the last straw. :48.660 --> :54.720
After a while, I found myself pushing through a
large crowd to get my niece while my heart pounded
:54.720 --> :00.480
very fast. She was lying there, motionless and
bleeding, and I felt like I was going to pass out.
:00.480 --> :04.800 I couldn't believe that my niece who had
been smiling and leaping with happiness
:04.800 --> :09.660 by my side a few minutes ago was lying
lifeless oblivious of what was happening! :09.660 --> :15.180
Fortunately, some good Samaritans called for
help. They called 911 and the paramedics arrived
:15.180 --> :19.500 within minutes to rush Sarah to the hospital.
As we rode in the ambulance to the hospital,
:19.500 --> :25.320
I held Sarah's hand and prayed that she would
be okay. I couldn't believe what was happening.
:25.320 --> :29.940 I felt like I was in a nightmare, but
unfortunately, it was all too real. :29.940 --> :35.760
At the hospital, the doctors rushed Sarah into
the surgical ward. I paced the waiting room, my
:35.760 --> :40.920
mind racing with worry and guilt. I kept thinking
that I should have done something to protect her,
:40.920 --> :44.760 that I should have been more vigilant.
I felt like the worst aunt in the world. :44.760 --> :50.040
Sarah's parents were devastated when they heard
the news. They rushed to the hospital and found
:50.040 --> :56.520
her still lying unconscious in the emergency room,
her body covered in bruises and cuts. The doctors
:56.520 --> :02.100
said that she had suffered multiple fractures and
internal injuries, and her condition was critical. :02.100 --> :07.920
Hours passed, and finally, the doctors
came out to give us an update. Sarah had
:07.920 --> :10.980 made it through the surgery, but
she was in a critical condition. :10.980 --> :15.900
They weren't sure if she would make it,
and I felt like my heart had been ripped
:15.900 --> :19.620 out of my chest. She remained in the
Intensive Care Unit for several days. :19.620 --> :23.940
Even though Sarah was alive, I was already dead with fear.
:23.940 --> :27.720 I got to know from one of the good
Samaritans at the park, Mr. Smith, :27.720 --> :32.340
who had accompanied us to the hospital
that the reckless driver fled the scene
:32.340 --> :37.020 after the unfortunate incident.
He was a crazy hit-and-run driver. :37.020 --> :42.300
Mr. Smith also informed me that the local
police department had launched an investigation,
:42.300 --> :46.980 but they were yet to identify the driver
responsible for the accident at that time. :46.980 --> :52.020
I became furious, I couldn’t imagine that
my niece would be left without any justice,
:52.020 --> :56.520 while the driver would Continue to roam
free without paying for his actions. :56.520 --> :03.240
The next few days were a blur of waiting and
praying. Sarah was hooked up to all kinds of
:03.240 --> :08.040 machines, and we were told that the next
24 hours were critical. I couldn't sleep
:08.040 --> :13.560 or eat, I just sat by her bed and prayed
desperately for a miracle. To top it off,
:13.560 --> :18.780 Sarah had slipped into a coma, throwing
us into a state of deep worry and fear. :18.780 --> :24.240
What made these periods most traumatic and awful
was how Sarah’s birthday was a few weeks away.
:24.240 --> :29.580 We almost threw in towel, but the doctors
assured us she would make a full recovery.
:29.580 --> :33.060 During this period, I couldn't stop
thinking about the reckless driver :33.060 --> :38.940
who had put us in that terrible condition,
and I swore to bring this driver to justice. :38.940 --> :44.940
As Sarah's birthday approached, we feared that
she would remain in a coma. Despite the pain,
:44.940 --> :48.960 the family decided that they couldn't
just let Sarah's birthday passed by :48.960 --> :52.980
without any celebration. They decided
to throw a party in her hospital room, :52.980 --> :57.540
decorated with balloons, streamers, and a big cake with seven candles.
:57.540 --> :02.880 Even in her state of oblivion, her family
made sure to sing a "Happy Birthday” song
:02.880 --> :07.560
to her and took turns blowing out the candles
on her behalf, and the family shared memories
:07.560 --> :13.080
of their birthdays and the happy moments they
had shared years before. Then Sarah’s father
:13.080 --> :19.080
got a call from the police department. The driver
had been identified but hadn't been apprehended. :19.080 --> :23.100
The police investigation revealed that
the driver of the car was a young man, :23.100 --> :28.560
who had a history of reckless driving and
DUI. He was drunk and still drove the car at
:28.560 --> :33.420 high speed. He lost control of the car when
he rammed into the park to hit my precious
:33.420 --> :38.100 Sarah. Our hope was revived, and I felt like
a weight had been lifted off my shoulders. :38.100 --> :42.240
The police officers assured us that the
driver would be apprehended soon enough. :42.240 --> :46.500
Four days after Sarah's birthday,
she began to show signs of waking :46.500 --> :50.760
up by moving her toes and fingers.
So when her eyes flickered open, :50.760 --> :55.920
she reached out to touch her mother's hand,
it was a moment of pure joy and relief. :55.920 --> :01.200
We jumped up in ecstasy, jubilating and praising God for answered prayers.
:01.200 --> :05.580 As days went by, we were happy that
Sarah was recovering and responding :05.580 --> :09.840
to treatment but on the other hand,
Sarah's family was beside themselves :09.840 --> :15.360
with worry and anger. They wanted justice
for Sarah and were determined to make the
:15.360 --> :20.400 hit-and-run driver pay for what he had done.
And all efforts to do that proved abortive. :20.400 --> :23.280
Then oOne day, there was a silver lining! :23.280 --> :28.560
I was deep in thought in the hospital's reception
room when Dave, Sarah's elder brother came to sit
:28.560 --> :33.300 by my side. He had a long face that made me
perceive that something was wrong with him. :33.300 --> :36.420
"Xup buddy, are you alright?" I asked, showing concern.
:36.420 --> :39.960 I have been noticing something
strange about Dave after Sarah's :39.960 --> :44.160
birthday celebration. We all knew Dave
to be a bright and happy young man with
:44.160 --> :49.380 a love for life and an infectious smile,
but he suddenly withdrew into his shell. :49.380 --> :53.880
To be honest, I wasn't surprised. My sister
had groomed a closely knitted family, :53.880 --> :59.400
and I was very proud of how Dave was protective
of Sarah being the first child himself. Even
:59.400 --> :04.320 though he was a young teenager and a high
schooler, he possessed a fatherly instinct. :04.320 --> :10.380
Dave looked into my face, and I could
see fear in his dark blue eyes. After :10.380 --> :15.240
much persuasion from me on why he had been
gloomy, he finally decided to spill the
:15.240 --> :19.440 beans. I stared into his eyes waiting for
him to tell me all that was on his mind. :19.440 --> :26.100
When he said, "I found him!" I felt a strange surge of anxiety and fear.
:26.100 --> :31.800 David narrated how he felt so bad about his
sister's predicament and how he couldn't fold his
:31.800 --> :37.920
arms while the person who had caused his family
so much pain roamed freely on the streets of Ohio. :37.920 --> :43.020
He opened up that he began an undercover
investigation of the accident himself, :43.020 --> :47.820
scouring the town for any clues that
might lead him to the driver. Then :47.820 --> :51.960
he found a lead. He discovered that the
hit-and-run driver was a delivery guy. :51.960 --> :56.340
And I couldn't be more alarmed at how a
delivery guy would be reckless and heartless! :56.340 --> :01.020
I was startled. I thought of how David could
track down this man when the cops had not
:01.020 --> :05.640 given us any positive response. Unknown
to us that the police had a lead already. :05.640 --> :10.380
When David said, "I found out that this
man had given some money to the policemen
:10.380 --> :14.760 involved in Sarah's case to keep their
mouths shut. This is the reason they have
:14.760 --> :18.900
been coming up with excuses for not arresting
the man yet, they would keep doing this until
:18.900 --> :23.580 we give up and the case would be swept
under the carpet”, I became restless. :23.580 --> :27.720
I wasn’t too flabbergasted at the
behavioral response of the police :27.720 --> :33.000
after all Sarah and her family are black.
So it must have felt right and easier to
:33.000 --> :37.500 protect the white guy at the detriment of
Sarah who lay down hoping for a miracle. :37.500 --> :40.620
Then Dave’s next action made my jaw drop. :40.620 --> :46.740
Dave was overwhelmed by youthful exuberance
and he did something very rash and unnecessary.
:46.740 --> :51.360 David revealed to me that after he found out
about the driver's identity and followed him
:51.360 --> :56.640 to a shopping mall. He illegally gained
access to his car and drove it off to a
:56.640 --> :02.400
lone place. Once he got to the lone place, he
took a sledgehammer out of his bag and began
:02.400 --> :08.580
to smash the car's windows and headlights. He
pounded on the car's doors and hood until they
:08.580 --> :14.340
were dented and scratched beyond repair. He was
filled with anger and so much frustration. Even
:14.340 --> :19.380 while he narrated everything to me, he shook
with emotions that were difficult to describe. :19.380 --> :24.360
Even though I didn't support his actions,
I was seriously and silently proud of him.
:24.360 --> :28.980 I couldn't help but feel David's pain, and
it was horrible to think that I brought all
:28.980 --> :34.200 of that on Dave and his family. Although
Dave was brave, he was equally scared. He
:34.200 --> :37.260 wondered what would happen by the time
the police discovers what he had done. :37.260 --> :42.000
Sarah was in pain, putting her family in
a horrible state, and now her brother, :42.000 --> :48.000
innocently seeking justice would probably be
placed behind the bar for fighting for his sister.
:48.000 --> :52.560 This would not have happened if a driver
had taken caution or owned up to his crimes. :52.560 --> :57.840
It would not have happened if the cop had done
their job dutifully and diligently and if they had
:57.840 --> :03.060
not agreed to sweep the case under the carpet and
keep it quiet because a black family was involved. :03.060 --> :08.940
I was outraged by the corruption and injustice
that had taken place. I decided to take matters
:08.940 --> :14.580 into my own hands but in a legitimate way. I
began investigating the hit-and-run driver.
:14.580 --> :21.720
I spent hours digging through police reports,
securing access to security footage, and gathering
:21.720 --> :27.360
information from eyewitnesses including people
who lived in the area where the accident occurred.
:27.360 --> :33.480 After days of investigation, I was able to
find a witness who had seen the driver leave
:33.480 --> :38.880
the scene of the accident. This witness gave me
a description of the car and the license plate
:38.880 --> :44.580 number. I discovered security camera footage
that captured the car leaving the scene of
:44.580 --> :50.400
the accident and found a lead that the driver
had a distinctive tattoo on his left wrist. :50.400 --> :55.200
I took the tattoo discovery seriously.
It was a sign that we were very close to
:55.200 --> :59.640 justice. I went to the most populous tattoo
parlor in the area and showed the artist
:00.180 --> :05.700
a photo of the tattoo. Even though the artist
was reluctant, he gave me the lead I needed
:05.700 --> :11.940 to the carrier of such tattoo. It was a man
named Jack, just as David had informed me. :11.940 --> :15.540
I did some more digging and found
out that Jack was a delivery driver :15.540 --> :20.940
for a local restaurant just like Dave had
said. I knew that was my chance to catch
:20.940 --> :25.080 the culprit along with those disloyal
policemen collecting tips from him. :25.080 --> :30.120
One evening, I ordered food from the restaurant
and requested that Jack be the one to deliver it.
:30.120 --> :35.220
When he arrived at my doorstep, I invited him
in for a drink. As we sat in the living room,
:35.220 --> :41.280
I pretended to enjoy the small talk we had in
my sexy tight fitted gown that I knew had a good
:41.280 --> :47.400
effect on Jack. I asked him about his job, his
hobbies, and his family. Eventually, I brought
:47.400 --> :52.680 up the accident that had happened to my niece.
Jack pretended to be at a loss, but his emotions
:52.680 --> :56.820 betrayed him. And it was easy to see
through him. When I didn't back down, :56.820 --> :02.460
he opened up completely eventually. He broke
down and confessed to hitting Sarah with his car. :02.460 --> :05.700
I recorded every single detail he gave. :05.700 --> :10.620
I was able to gather enough evidence to prove that
the driver was indeed guilty of the hit-and-run
:10.620 --> :15.300 accident and that the policemen involved
in the case had accepted bribes to cover
:15.300 --> :19.800 up the case. With this evidence, I reported
the corrupt policemen to the authorities. :19.800 --> :25.020
Having a shred of good evidence, Jack
was arrested and charged to court to :25.020 --> :30.480
dance to the music of his crime as well as the
policemen who were unprofessional and heartless. :30.480 --> :34.020
The court heard the testimony of witnesses, including mine
:34.020 --> :37.920 and Sarah's account of the accident.
I was so glad that the evidence was :37.920 --> :43.500
overwhelming against Jack. It was shocking to
realize that Jack wasn’t a first-time offender.
:43.500 --> :48.720 In the end, the jury found Jack guilty
of all charges and he was sentenced to :48.720 --> :54.120
several years in prison. Sarah's family
was relieved to see justice served. :54.120 --> :58.080
The trial was a long and emotional process for me and Sarah's family.
:58.080 --> :04.080 But we were grateful that justice was served
eventually, and Sarah was recuperating as hoped. :04.080 --> :09.960
Sarah underwent numerous surgeries to fix
her broken bones and internal injuries. She
:09.960 --> :15.720
was in constant pain and had to undergo extensive
physiotherapy to regain her strength and mobility.
:15.720 --> :21.240 Even though Sarah was young and fragile, she
remained positive and determined to recover. :21.240 --> :24.360
Sarah will always be a special kid! :24.360 --> :30.720
She worked tirelessly with her physiotherapist,
pushing herself to reach her goals and get back
:30.720 --> :36.360 to the life she lived before the accident.
With each passing day, Sarah grew stronger and
:36.360 --> :41.820
stronger. She was finally able to walk again,
ride her bike, and even run around with her
:41.820 --> :47.280
friends. It was a long and challenging journey,
but she had proven herself to be a fighter. :47.280 --> :50.520
We all hung out again, but never to an outdoor park.
:50.520 --> :55.140 David and I started a campaign to raise
awareness about hit-and-run accidents and
:55.140 --> :58.267
the devastating effects they have on families.
I began by researching hit-and-run accidents
:58.267 --> :59.580 and the devastating effects they have on
families. I read countless news articles
:00.180 --> :04.800
and spoke to families who had been affected by
these tragedies. The more I learned, the more
:04.800 --> :09.000 passionate I became about making a difference.
I reached out to my friends and family,
:09.000 --> :13.860 asking them to share their stories and
support my campaign. I also created a social
:13.860 --> :18.000 media page to spread the word and share
information about hit-and-run accidents. :18.000 --> :22.140
I shared Sarah's story with the world, and it touched the hearts of many.
:22.140 --> :27.060 I worked with local lawmakers to push for
stricter penalties for hit-and-run drivers,
:27.060 --> :30.540 and I couldn't more glad at
the positive responses I got :30.540 --> :35.940
The day Sarah was hit, I didn't expected that
any if us would be that stretched. More so,
:35.940 --> :41.940
I didn't expect that purpose would be birthed
by a seemingly gloomy situation. Truly,
:41.940 --> :45.000 there is a silver lining in every cloud! | give me a good story on rNuclearRevengeIHUNTEDDOWNACRIMINALRedditStories |
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neighbor checked up on me and now I can't stop crying it's about 8:00 a.m.
and I had just got back into my driveway after shopping for gift cards for
Christmas I was planning to buy some things for my mom as a gift and decided
to start online shopping on my phone while still in my car I could have went
inside to shop but figured I needed to start buying stuff right now to make
sure the presents would come on time I'd probably been in my car for about 20
minutes when I heard someone's car honk at me I looked up and I saw a man stop
his car right in front of my house and mouth the words are you okay and gave me
a thumbs up I waved nodded and smiled he smiled back and drove off I kid you not
this was a few minutes ago and I cannot stop crying to preface I've been dealing
with Suicidal Thoughts a lot lately I'm a nursing student and combined with the
stress of finals and feelings of inadequacy I have not been treating
myself very well to say the least I could chalk this up to my period coming
soon or whatever but the idea that there are people out there who care enough to
check up on others they don't even know made me burst into tears I felt so alone
and unloved these past few weeks but that kind man stopping for a few seconds
out of his day to check on me really made me rethink my life I learned that
there are still kind people in this world | give me a good story on NeighborcheckeduponmeandnowIcantstopcrying |
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AIT for calling my 16m sister 17f a bully for not letting a my girlfriend
17f join her math club my sister Christy is your average math nerd she really
smart at it has won awards at competion with that though comes your bully and my
girlfriend Emily was Christy bully back in middle school it wasn't harsh and she
want the main bully but christe has hated her since I grew a crush on Emily
when I saw her at our high school I didn't know how she looked like really
before and we started dating when I brought her home to meet my parents
Christy yelled at her to get out of her house which I stood up for Emily and
told her she was my girlfriend in Sue Christy having a breakdown she left to
her room and didn't come out even when our parents asked only came out to get
the cat Emily tried apologizing and she was remorseful for the past but christe
ignored her and said I was dead to her my parents though she would get over it
since she'd always been rational one but she didn't she became very cold and the
more my parents talked and spent time with Emily the more and more she removed
herself I did the same too Emily is great and has changed just because
Christy can't accept it dosent mean we're over now onto the problem our high
school allows kids to have their own club so as long as it's at least five
members | give me a good story on AITAforcallingmymsisterfabullyfornotlettingamygirlfriendfjoinhermathcluborig |
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I am so broke criminals won't even mug me in short this dude on a bike asked me
for directions then told me he had a gun he asked for my phone I gave it to him
he looked at it then at me and asked me to give him my other phone the one I was
hiding I was like man that's the only phone I have he told me he would search
my back Frisk me but I kept my cool do it I got nothing disappointed he gave it
back to me take it I don't want that he then asked for my money I was
carrying one dollars and 23 cents in change he looked at me with such
disappointment and didn't even take that either he literally gave it back it was
just awkward he kept talking not knowing what to do suddenly maybe cause I
maintain my resting face even though he told me he was going to kill
me he was like dude you know what I like your style stay in school then he sped
off on his bike what a effing loser | give me a good story on Imsobrokeshorts |
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aita for telling my husband that his mom
is no longer welcome in our home my f30 husband M31 dated Kathy f30 for 3 years
while at University they were planning to get married when Kathy felt pregnant
but she confessed the child may be another man's they broke up but a DNA
test proved my husband was the father as such my husband agreed to co-parent but
refused to rekindle the relationship very sadly the baby was born with a
heart defect and P Ed away at 4 months old both Kathy and my husband were
destroyed and Kathy ended up moving away my husband went on to meeting me and we
were married 2 years ago my Mill f60 has always carried a torch for Kathy and
thought that they should get back together when the child was proved to be
my husbands then the next reason became so that Kathy and my husband could help
each other in their grief unfortunately between her love of Kathy and me being a
different race Mill has made no secret of not liking me to the extent where she
has excluded me from Family Photos because I'm not family my husband has
always stood up for me in these scenarios my Mill's birthday was last
weekend and my husband wanted to throw a celebration at our house we went the
whole nine yards with a cake and | give me a good story on AITAfortellingmyhusbandthathismomisnolongerwelcomeinourhome |
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what's your deepest darkest secret in 1996 I was 6 years old and a friend told
me that computer mouse balls were worth as much as gold stupidly and with no
plan I stole one from the classroom computer our teacher got extremely angry
and I got really really scared I'd get caught he had us all leave the room and
go in one by one so that whoever stole it could anonymously put it back I was
too scared that somebody might see so I didn't put it back he exploded on us the
next day I was going to try to secretly return it but a kid randomly emptily
confessed that he was the one who stole it and his mom went to the store to buy
a new one he stood in front of the class with a written apology and everything I
should have taken a stand and said no Kyle you didn't steal it I did shameful
anyway 28 years later Kyle is a stripper at a gay nightclub | give me a good story on Whatsyourdeepestdarkestsecretorig |
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:00.260 --> :04.060 ok background, I worked as a Firefighter as
an Investigator for an Independent Department :04.060 --> :10.970
( for information a investigator was the rank
of LT. and was based out of a Large Station, :10.970 --> :17.180
2 engines, 1 newer 110 Tower Ladder Truck,
(relative later) 1 chief car, and 1 Utility :17.180 --> :18.180 Truck.
:18.180 --> :22.590 Every day the Food Duties changed from firefighter
to firefighter, my Chiefs turn to cook when :22.590 --> :23.590
this happened. :23.590 --> :28.980
My Friend Bob worked as a GM of a small Grocery
Store. there was a Long empty space in front :28.980 --> :30.870
of the store marked with the following sign "emergency Vehicles only".
:30.870 --> :34.920 Enter entitled Jerk, he had a nice-looking
BMW car and always parked in the above spot :34.920 --> :39.440
every week. Bob told entitled Jerk that he
couldn't park there, "I can park wherever :39.440 --> :44.289
I F ###ing want I make more in a day that
you make in a week." my friend calls me complaining
:44.289 --> :48.820 about entitled Jerk. I agree to go and watch
the spot. I get into our Utility truck which :48.820 --> :52.879
had the Department decals on the door and a single red light on the dash.
:52.879 --> :58.389 I park in the Emergency Vehicles only spot.
as I am walking in I here "You can't park :58.389 --> :03.629
there its my special spot. I turn and look
at entitled Jerk, "Excuse me," I ask " I am :03.629 --> :08.400
on official duties and can park there." I
pointed to the decal on the door. entitled :08.400 --> :14.060
Jerk looks and says "You can't be a firefighter
your a girl, move your truck and leave C word." :14.060 --> :20.670
now I'm proud of my job, in a department of
2000 I was 1 of 5 woman on the department. :20.670 --> :26.670
I graduated top in my class. I have a shocked
looking expression on my face. I get really :26.670 --> :31.300
p***** off, I walk into my friends office
to get more information about his problem :31.300 --> :36.470
with entitled Jerk, as bob explains the continuous
parking violations and I see a small notice :36.470 --> :41.240
on the fire suppression system (sprinklers)
that said the inspection was coming up I Smile :41.240 --> :43.170
as I get a idea. :43.170 --> :44.200 Cue the Revenge
:44.200 --> :48.380 I get some information, leave Bobs office
and get into the truck heading back to the :48.380 --> :51.650
station i arrive and head into my Chiefs office,
I tell him of entitled Jerk and what he said :51.650 --> :55.200
and does, (Chief is a 6'6" 320 Samoan he sees
everyone as family) Chief's face gets Bright :55.200 --> :00.300
Red, I explained my idea and He gets very
Happy. he rushes out and calls a Station Meeting, :00.300 --> :04.570
I lay out my idea. WE Send out the station
to do a fire Drill/inspection by sending the :04.570 --> :10.500
old truck and 1 engine to the store, my friend
will call the station the next time entitled :10.500 --> :12.730
Jerk parks in the fire lane. :12.730 --> :19.159
skip to 2 weeks later Bob called the station
stating that entitled Jerk had just parked. :19.159 --> :23.629
as I am thanking him, I hear his fire alarm
go off. I rush and change into my Investigator :23.629 --> :26.480
uniform with turnout gear, tell Chief, and
send the trucks out. I ride in the quint. :26.480 --> :30.079
we arrive and I see entitled Jerk's car right in the emergency vehicle spot.
:30.079 --> :36.379 I radio to have 1 engine to pull right IN
front of entitled Jerk's car, and the truck :36.379 --> :40.629
to park right beside the driver side door.
I get out and the engineer starts setting :40.629 --> :45.910
up the ladder which means 4 very large and
heavy Support Struts go down and 1 crushes :45.910 --> :51.359
the front of his hood. the alarm goes off.
The lineman breaks his windows as he runs :51.359 --> :56.999
the large 5-inch draft line from the pump
to the Standpipes (the fire access to the :56.999 --> :59.349
Sprinkler system.) through his front seats, :59.349 --> :03.879
I go in to find Bob hurriedly getting people
out as the alarm is going off. entitled Jerk :03.879 --> :06.599
runs out of the store, sees his car and goes
ballistic, I radio the PD dispatch and request :06.599 --> :12.419
a few officers to the store as I had a Male
was impeding a fire operation. the dispatcher :12.419 --> :16.640
says that they will send a few officers. 3
officers show up and I ask them to follow :16.640 --> :19.129
me, they do when I call out :19.129 --> :24.319
"Hey, Leave my firefighters alone!" entitled
Jerk turns and sees me he rushes up screaming :24.319 --> :29.790
that I'll pay for damaging his precious baby.
(his Car) I stop him and tell him that if :29.790 --> :35.349
he didn't leave that he would be arrested.
He gets in my face 'You did this Ill have :35.349 --> :37.879
your job for this!" he than turns pushing me back. :37.879 --> :42.230
The officers and I rush and tackle entitled
Jerk to the ground. after they cuff him I :42.230 --> :46.169
calmly inform EB that he was under arrest
for assault, and interference with a fire :46.169 --> :51.499
investigation and that his car would be towed
for parking in a Fire Lane. ( I later found :51.499 --> :55.269
out that it was crushed.) entitled Jerk got
12 months probation for pushing me and interfering :55.269 --> :58.120
with a Fire operation, he also got a fine
of $500 for parking, the cost of the tow, :58.120 --> :01.310
and he lost his nice BMW. :01.310 --> :06.340
Moral of this story don't park where you shouldn't or bad things will happen.
:06.340 --> :10.989 This story can be read on any and all YouTube
videos So I live in a very large apartment :10.989 --> :15.799
complex. I believe there are around 900 apartments.
The majority of parking spots are first come :15.799 --> :23.490
first serve. If you work odd hours or get
home late you will have to park near the mailboxes :23.490 --> :28.890
and walk to your apartment and it can be a pretty long walk.(half a mile)
:28.890 --> :35.290 When you sign the lease you get the option
to pay extra and get an assigned parking spot. :35.290 --> :39.950
One bedroom apartments can have two paid spots
and two bedroom apartments can have up to :39.950 --> :41.600 4.
:41.600 --> :48.120 When I moved in we paid for two spots as I
work a split shift so half the week I an not :48.120 --> :51.750
home untill midnight and half the week I get home around 0630.
:51.750 --> :56.880 Their are signs I front of each spot saying
if you are not paying for Said spot you will :56.880 --> :59.930
be towed. The spots are also numbered if it matters
:59.930 --> :05.850 We had no issues for almost three years. But
during covid I got a promotion and a company :05.850 --> :12.660
car. My roomate changed jobs also and they
gave her a company car as her job has her :12.660 --> :14.090
driving to nearby states. :14.090 --> :19.900
As luck would have it two spots directly next
to the ones we already own came open so we :19.900 --> :20.900
purchased them :20.900 --> :26.910
So when you get a paid spot you have to provide
proof of license registration and your plates. :26.910 --> :30.130
If anyone else parks in you're spot you have
to call and ok it. The maintenance staff are :30.130 --> :38.010
known to check cars randomly and the cop who
lives on site likes to tag cars for towing. :38.010 --> :43.360
The residents have to call a dedicated number
leave the information and the apartments call :43.360 --> :44.980
the tow truck. :44.980 --> :51.920
So we have four spots and four cars. My roomate
was going out of town and decided to get her :51.920 --> :58.430
perdonal veichle worked on. So when she left
town it meant two of our spots sat empty. :58.430 --> :04.300
Then someone tried to steal my car so I had
to take it into the shop. So my work veichle :04.300 --> :10.970
is a very large suv so when we have spaces
open I park parallel in two of the spots since :10.970 --> :16.910
we Pay for them. I came home from work parked
my suv (parallel) and went to bed. I woke :16.910 --> :22.510
up walked the dog and noticed someone had
stuck a sticker saying to stop blocking two :22.510 --> :24.580
spots and their was a random car parked in the 4th spot.
:24.580 --> :27.680 I personally don't mind if people accidently
park in our spots and I leave a note explaining :27.680 --> :33.020
the spot their in is reserved along with the
spots numbers 7 8 and 9 and please do not :33.020 --> :37.130
park their again. Went to work and car was
gone. Came home and the same car was in spot :37.130 --> :43.830
7. I parked next to them and once again explained
that the spot is Reserved and next time I :43.830 --> :45.190
will ask the apartment to tow them. :45.190 --> :54.670
Again went to work and came home and the same
car war parked Parallel In spots 8 and 9. :54.670 --> :59.720
So the way the spots are setup every 4 spots
has a concrete curb with grass on it. The :59.720 --> :04.000
way he parked his rear bumper was touching
the concrete curb. I parked in my spot but :04.000 --> :11.070
as close to his car as I could. I dont use
my passenger side door so I don't need access :11.070 --> :12.070
to it. :12.070 --> :16.010 I was off the next day and was supposed to
get my daily driver out of the shop. I get :16.010 --> :22.120
up around lunch and check outside and the
car is still blocked. I once again tell them :22.120 --> :29.270
not to park in my spots. I move my car over
one spot so they can get out and get a ride :29.270 --> :35.870
to get my car. I go do some errands get food
go see a movie etc. I get home around 11pm :35.870 --> :41.520
the car is still parked in My spot. The letter
I wrote was shredded and on the ground and :41.520 --> :46.750
on my work car was a letter telling Me off as I do not deserve the spots.
:46.750 --> :50.610 So my revenge. I parked my personal car where
my work car was( right next to his) and put :50.610 --> :56.770
an old trail camera on the pole near the spot.
I had another 4days untill My roommate was :56.770 --> :01.970
home so for the next 3days I dident move my
car. On day 3 apparently they tried to call :01.970 --> :05.880
a tow truck to move my car. The tow truck
pulled up looked at the spots and left. :05.880 --> :09.010
On day 4 I called the apartments and had him towed.
:09.010 --> :11.540 I hope he dident need his car for three days.
:11.540 --> :13.320 The car hasn't been in my spots since
:13.320 --> :20.330 A few edits The trail camera was in case the
person damaged my cars in rage or being stupid. :20.330 --> :25.380
I am horrible at spelling and typing via mobile while at work doesn't help
:25.380 --> :29.210 The person who parked in my spot was driving
a newer Honda. So it was not overly expensive :29.210 --> :33.830
but definitely newer then my car( my work
suv is a 2022) Hubby and I moved into a new :33.830 --> :38.340
house in 2018. When we were buying the house,
we asked his brother and his sister and her :38.340 --> :41.780
husband to cosign on our mortgage. In return,
we said we'd take them on a cruise. In 2019 :41.780 --> :46.660
we were going to go on the cruise but BIL
couldn't get work off and SIL got pregnant. :46.660 --> :51.520
Then there was a pandemic. During the pandemic
we were made aware of some problematic dynamics :51.520 --> :55.220
between SIL/her husband and their kids, so
we filed a report with child protective services. :55.220 --> :59.450
They are now, understandably upset with us.
However, our report was completely justified. :59.450 --> :04.230
SIL keeps telling us we owe her for "intentionally
messing with her" and every time we talk with :04.230 --> :08.350
her (it has been very, very infrequent) she
tries to get us to give her money. She has :08.350 --> :11.730
also been doing things to sabotage my husband's
company and is systematically turning mutual :11.730 --> :18.529
friends against us. She now wants us to pay
her the money we would have spent on a cruise :18.529 --> :23.350
for her. I'm not trying to change the terms
of our initial agreement but she's insistent :23.350 --> :29.190
that we have to do it to "make amends." So
now I'm shopping for a one night cruise to :29.190 --> :31.430
nowhere. Absolutely the cheapest cruise I
can find. She won't even be able to go because :31.430 --> :34.490
she's not vaccinated but hey, at least I will have followed through.
:34.490 --> :38.590 Edit: the loan was paid off within 6 months
of initiation. Details on the child abuse :38.590 --> :44.880
that was happening were left out due to group rules about felonious activity.
:44.880 --> :50.270 Edit again: I don't want to get my post removed
but there was physical abuse towards my son :50.270 --> :54.279
and towards their own children. Also neglect.
So far, in order to "make restitution" we've :54.279 --> :58.450
been told to get individual therapy, attend
family therapy, pay for her to go to therapy, :58.450 --> :03.310
pay for the family therapy, give them cash
equal to the cost of a cruise, etc. Every :03.310 --> :08.560
time we jump through one hoop there's something
more she wants from us. She and my husband's :08.560 --> :14.220
other sister were working for my husband and
started up a competing business and stole :14.220 --> :18.620
clients and never serviced them, which cost
us around $12k. She has threatened several :18.620 --> :24.390
other forms of retaliation as well. We tried
several times to take them on the cruise before :24.390 --> :29.330
this all blew up but they always had other
things preventing them. Still, they literally :29.330 --> :33.520
can't cruise due to current guidelines. In
all reality I'll probably just send them on :33.520 --> :39.220
a decent cruise but I really, really want
to just book them a one night cruise to nowhere, :39.220 --> :43.710
with all 3 of them in the same stateroom.
So my grandma is a b**** that has always emotionally
:43.710 --> :48.690 manipulated my mom. The breaking point of
which I couldn't forgive her was when we were :48.690 --> :54.810
in the city (we lived in a rural town 4 hours
away from an Urban area) she called my mom :54.810 --> :59.590
and asked her if her husband was there (he
was), was she out of the doctors office (we :59.590 --> :05.070
just got out), was she in the car? (Yes, we
were stuck in traffic). Then proceeded to :05.070 --> :06.070 say
:06.070 --> :07.070 "Oh, your sister Lisa died."
:07.070 --> :12.400 And hung up. So I don't really talk to her
all that much and she unfriendly me on Facebook :12.400 --> :16.560
like 5 years ago because I was being sarcastic
in a political argument (aka. Being disrespectful :16.560 --> :22.190
and thinking with the left side of my brain.)
As she aged she also has became more and more :22.190 --> :23.190
concerned with seeming proper and polite. :23.190 --> :30.580
That the short and skinny of some of my reactions
with her and who she is as a person. So just :30.580 --> :34.710
to be petty, I sent her a friend request on
Facebook and she accepted. Just to tagg her :34.710 --> :38.860
in a meme saying "Thanks for being shooting
a baby out of your coochie." Then unfriended :38.860 --> :42.580
her, my mom's probably going to call telling
me how my grandma was offended. But oh well, :42.580 --> :43.800
it small but very petty. :43.800 --> :48.710
Happy Mothers day to all you Coochie Shooters
out there! I am in a record collecting group :48.710 --> :53.440
on FB from the area around my hometown. I
now live on the other side of the country :53.440 --> :58.560
but am still active in the group. In the time
leading up to Covid I sparked up a conversation :58.560 --> :03.990
with an admin that led to attraction. I started
making plans to come home for a visit to see :03.990 --> :08.589
her. I even had a ticket in a shopping cart
the day my home state locked down. The isolation :08.589 --> :13.839
of the lockdown brought us closer together.
Eventually we were texting ALL day long and :13.839 --> :17.529
video chatting regularly. When the lockdown
was coming to an end I started making plans :17.529 --> :18.529
to come visit :18.529 --> :26.440
About this time my best friend died of covid
so I had to go home for his funeral. When :26.440 --> :31.020
I got home she started pressuring/low key
threatening me to come see her (she lives :31.020 --> :36.260
about an hour away from my hometown). When
I did go meet her she was totally different :36.260 --> :40.850
and very entitled. Wouldn't help pay for anything.
She b****ed about the hotel I got because :40.850 --> :47.400
it wasn’t nice enough, but would not help
pay to get a nicer one. After we had sex I :47.400 --> :52.029
dosed off because of the 3 hour time difference.
When I woke up SHE WAS GONE. I called her :52.029 --> :57.460
and she came back. Thanks? We decided to go
out to eat and she was gracious enough to :57.460 --> :04.590
tell me she would pay for her own meal. Thanks
again? She drove to one restaurant. She drove :04.590 --> :11.630
around the parking lot ONCE and made the decision
the wait would be too long so she took me :11.630 --> :18.730
back to my car. H*** no. I went back to my
hometown instead of spending the night at :18.730 --> :25.030
the hotel. I decided on the way home that
I didn't need this in my life. I stopped talking :25.030 --> :30.230
to her that day. The last thing I said to
her was “I don't owe you an exit interview.”. :30.230 --> :36.460
I stopped posting in the group because of
my friend passing and the episode with this :36.460 --> :38.950
woman. . Record collecting was a hobby I shared
with my best friend and couldn’t bring myself :38.950 --> :44.470
to touch my turntable for a long time. I pushed
my feelings aside about what happened as I :44.470 --> :48.370
was starting to deal with the loss of my friend. :48.370 --> :52.580
Cue my low key revenge. When you talk to a
person for 2 years you get to know them pretty :52.580 --> :57.280
well. She was always jealous of this one woman
in the group. She s*** talked her all the :57.280 --> :02.040
time and tried to ostracize her. She was also
one of those people that were always on line. :02.040 --> :09.370
She sees EVERYTHING that goes on in the group.
When I started posting again I started to :09.370 --> :14.560
like the other girl’s posts going back to
when I stopped posting. I didn’t like them :14.560 --> :21.730
all at once. I would do one or two of them
at a time because she would see it. She blocked :21.730 --> :26.390
me in less than two weeks and blocked all of my friends of mine she met.
:26.390 --> :31.950 This isn’t the best example of petty revenge,
but it felt good to me. This is my father's :31.950 --> :36.510
story, told with his permission. I wanted
to brag about my dad's decision to stick it :36.510 --> :37.510
to a jerk. :37.510 --> :40.233
My grandparents built then lived in the same
home since the early 70s. It has 5 acres, :40.233 --> :41.233
and was a small scale farm for their family
growing up. They both passed away within a :41.233 --> :42.233
month of each other several months ago. :42.233 --> :44.260
Their kids (my parents, aunt's and uncles)
didn't need the home, and none of their kids :44.260 --> :49.330
(my siblings, cousins nor I) could afford
it. It was in a trust, so all siblings needed :49.330 --> :54.440
to agree to make price, etc. Most just wanted
it to be sold quickly so they could move on :54.440 --> :55.440
with their lives. :55.440 --> :58.690
They spent a couple months cleaning the property
and house up, repairing anything minor, then :58.690 --> :00.950
put it on the market. Comparables estimated
the property over $850K, but it did need more :00.950 --> :03.750
work (roof replaced, and some cosmetic work
on the foundation; wiring was updated back :03.750 --> :04.750
in the early 2000s). :04.750 --> :06.440
There were a couple people showing interest,
but no serious offers for a couple months. :06.440 --> :08.380
So we dropped the price down to around $830K
since there was a little work to be done. :08.380 --> :09.380
Enter the most skuzzy realtor/buyer. He wanted
it, but his wife REALLY wanted it. They had :09.380 --> :10.380
put their house (in a more urban setting with
a small fraction of an acre) on the market, :10.380 --> :11.380
and were under contract and basically guaranteed
the same of their house for an obscene amount :11.380 --> :12.380
of money (according to my father; I forgot
to ask how much their realtor found out it :12.380 --> :13.380
sold for). :13.380 --> :14.380
They negotiated down to $740K, and all of
siblings, since the property was in a trust :14.380 --> :15.380
account) accepted. Sad to see it go to someone
outside the family, but what do you do? Nobody :15.380 --> :16.380
could afford it or needed that much property... :16.380 --> :18.560
He represented himself as his realtor (which
would mean he gets a percentage of the final :18.560 --> :19.560
price back at the end of it all... I understand
it's not technically illegal in our state, :19.560 --> :20.560
but it's kind of BS IMO...). Then he started
asking for reduced price for many things - things :20.560 --> :21.560
like the cost of taking the outbuildings down
(a horse coral, horse tack shed, greenhouse, :21.560 --> :22.560
and disconnected garage that was set up as
a workshop)...he said they were all a hazard, :22.560 --> :23.560
and he shouldn't have to pay for them coming
down (they passed building codes; just didn't :23.560 --> :24.560
look perfect cosmetically on the outside).
Just one example, of many. We just wanted :24.560 --> :25.560
to move on with our lives, but after we would
accept an offer, he would then ask for more... :25.560 --> :26.560
Drive the cost lower. Eventually got it down nearly below $600K.
:26.560 --> :27.560 He had about $3K tired up in escrow to purchase
it, and his deadline for closing on the house :27.560 --> :28.560
or losing that money was approaching. But he kept asking for more.
:28.560 --> :29.560 Because he kept negotiating, he passed his
deadline to get his money back. Asked for :29.560 --> :30.560 $580K.
:30.560 --> :31.560 Then my father snapped. And I've never seen
him snap. I've never seen him get petty. But :31.560 --> :32.560
I'm glad he did. :32.560 --> :33.560
He called a nephew who has horses but wanted
more property for adequate training and riding :33.560 --> :34.560
space. Couldn't afford what it was actually
with, so he had passed on it before. My father :34.560 --> :35.560
asked if they would qualify for the last accepted
price (just over $600K). And they did! :35.560 --> :36.560
All the sublime agreed, so they declined Realtor
dude's offer and said "never mind. We won't :36.560 --> :37.560
sell to you" (through their realtor, of course). :37.560 --> :38.560
So the jerk loses his $3K, doesn't get the
house, and doesn't have a home at all. He :38.560 --> :39.560
apparently really thought he would get my
grandpa's house, so his house was closed on, :39.560 --> :40.560
and he would have to move out very soon. :40.560 --> :41.560
To say he was p***** is an understatement.
Our poor realtor had to be the gatekeeper, :41.560 --> :42.560
but she at least took satisfaction in pointing
out to him that it was his own fault he didn't :42.560 --> :43.560
get the house. :43.560 --> :44.560
We have to wait until the realtor guy signs
the termination paperwork (which he's delaying, :44.560 --> :45.560
since that was all he has left to try and
stick "it" to our family), but Grandpa's house :45.560 --> :46.560
is staying in the family once that final date
passes (less than a week left). My parents :46.560 --> :47.560
may not have sold the house for what it was
worth, but it was worth sticking it to that :47.560 --> :48.560 guy.
:48.560 --> :49.560 Screw him. This is a story from my parents
about my great grandmother. She passed well :49.560 --> :50.560
before my birth but lives on mainly through
this story and other small anecdotes. She :50.560 --> :51.560
was my father’s maternal grandmother so
not much has been shared about her but this :51.560 --> :52.560
story is my favorite. :52.560 --> :53.560 Quick Cast (names are fake)
:53.560 --> :54.560 Maria - My great grandmother Julia - My great
aunt Richard - The neighbor :54.560 --> :57.710
It is a cold, snowy day in NYC in the either
the mid-late 80s or the early 90s (pre-1995). :57.710 --> :03.180
Maria and Julia were shoveling the street
in front of their apartment, clearing parking :03.180 --> :08.261
spots for not only their cars but also for
Maria’s husband who was away at work. They :08.261 --> :12.580
spent a fair amount of time doing so due to
the large amount of snow. As soon as they :12.580 --> :18.540
finished and put the shovel away, Richard
drove up and immediately took the spot. The :18.540 --> :22.060
two of them went up to Richard to try and
explain that they were shoveling the spot :22.060 --> :26.480
for the family member who would not be home
until late, but Richard had none of it. He :26.480 --> :29.500
cursed them out and walked about a few feet to his apartment.
:29.500 --> :35.620 Julia and Maria watched him go inside. Almost
as soon as he got inside, Maria told Julia :35.620 --> :41.680
to get the shovel. They spent another hour
or so shoveling in Richard’s car, covering :41.680 --> :47.089
it completely with the snow they had cleared
moments before. Once the car was very much :47.089 --> :52.950
covered, Maria took a kettle and poured hot
water over the car, ensuring that the NYC :52.950 --> :58.810
freezing cold weather would turn the snow-covered car into a big block of ice.
:58.810 --> :02.351 Richard did not leave the house until the
next morning when he had to go to work. He :02.351 --> :08.480
saw the car and immediately became enraged.
Maria was at the window with a cup of coffee, :08.480 --> :13.179
smiling and waving to him when he turned towards
her apartment. According to Maria, it took :13.179 --> :18.559
Richard at least 3 hours to get the car out.
And she watched him the entire time with her :18.559 --> :45.690
good cup of coffee. I :45.690 --> :50.590
used to work for an extended stay hotel. (In
literally every department, we were a small :50.590 --> :56.211
hotel with a bit over 100 rooms, boss offered
overtime and I wanted overtime) We’d get :56.211 --> :00.480
a lot of people staying for work, most would
leave their families at home. If the brought :00.480 --> :04.650
their families it meant their job was willing
to pay lots of money for whatever service :04.650 --> :09.799
they provide their employers so we would suck
up to the guest. Keep them happy, keep them :09.799 --> :15.710
at the hotel. I was indifferent or liked almost
all the guests. Even the difficult ones but :15.710 --> :19.290
this one lady still makes me grumpy years later. :19.290 --> :25.060
She was the nanny of a husband/wife doctor
team (I think) and she was awful. She’d :25.060 --> :30.780
walk the kids down the hall complaining, yell
at the kids for being near her, just terrible. :30.780 --> :35.330
One morning I was covering the desk so my
coworker could get breakfast and nanny comes :35.330 --> :40.251
down asking about a swim suit that may have
been left at the pool. I told her no one had :40.251 --> :44.100
turned it in to the front desk but I’d check
with housekeeping and if I found it I’d :44.100 --> :49.500
get it to her( relevant later) She walked off mumbling just as “Sarah” came back
:49.500 --> :54.670 from breakfast and told me this lady is rude
and complains daily over nothing. :54.670 --> :58.930
I head over to housekeeping and start checking
on the housekeepers since I was working as :58.930 --> :03.850
the supervisor for them for the day. I get
near nanny’s room and hear her yelling at :03.850 --> :08.220
the housekeeper. The kind of yelling that
happens when someone is trying to make someone :08.220 --> :14.150
who doesn’t know English magically learn
English. I step in, solve nanny problem she :14.150 --> :19.740
leaves b****ing, housekeeper makes an inappropriate
joke at the most perfect time and day goes :19.740 --> :24.350
on to clean nanny room. I go in to help with
the stay over because I wanted the housekeeper :24.350 --> :28.860
done and out before nanny got back. When I
went to replace the towels in the bathroom :28.860 --> :34.200
I saw the missing swimsuit hanging to dry
by the tub so that mystery was solved and :34.200 --> :36.660
I didn’t have to talk to nanny again. :36.660 --> :40.540
Towards the end of my shift the assistant
manager asks if I’d help the front desk :40.540 --> :45.670
during the checkin/dinner rush. I tell her
yes then let her know nanny is annoying and :45.670 --> :50.770
maybe a problem. I can’t remember all the
details but everyone had complained about :50.770 --> :56.150
the nanny. Even the people who don’t care
about anyone or anything. The hotels problem :56.150 --> :01.700
was she hadn’t crossed the line to be “spoken
to” or warned. On paper she was just a pain :01.700 --> :02.700
in the a**. :02.700 --> :07.679
The final straw for me was when she came to
the desk to tell me the morning girl admitted :07.679 --> :12.880
to stealing one of the children’s swim suits
and that we had to pay her cash to replace :12.880 --> :18.270
it and find a new one. Now, this woman had
seen me multiple times that day but everyone :18.270 --> :22.820
who worked the front desk looked similar enough
that we would constantly get mistaken for :22.820 --> :28.150
each other and would use this to our advantage.
Like when this woman told me I said I stole :28.150 --> :34.130
a swimsuit when I in fact said I would help
find it then saw it in her room.I was irritated :34.130 --> :38.850
to say the least. I told her I would discuss
it with the manager and then she asked me :38.850 --> :42.730
for a shuttle to the downtown restaurant for her and the kids.
:42.730 --> :48.390 Now, I am admittedly that annoying coworker
who struggles to bend the rules for anyone :48.390 --> :53.360
or anything. I also like knowing things and
had been around the 2nd longest at the point :53.360 --> :57.669
(at least for the front desk staff) and a
few months back one of the shuttle drivers :57.669 --> :02.760
wondered out loud to herself why it was okay
for small children to be in the shuttle without :02.760 --> :08.140
a car seat. I emailed my immediate superior
and got sent a forwarded email chain that :08.140 --> :13.770
had gone up to regional and basically it isn’t
okay. Since I’d been in other departments :13.770 --> :18.370
and the “rule” was if the kid looks young
enough to need a car seat we mention it but :18.370 --> :23.760
don’t verify age and leave it to the parent
and shuttle driver to make final decision, :23.760 --> :27.620
no one had made this woman put the kids into a car seat.
:27.620 --> :31.800 Well I informed this lady that I’d be happy
to call for a shuttle as soon as she had the :31.800 --> :36.690
car seats in the lobby. “But no one has made me do it before” “they let me on
:36.690 --> :42.610 the shuttle without them all the time” the
call of the im-getting-my-way people. I responded :42.610 --> :47.390
with “I’m so sorry, I wasn’t aware, when I talk to my manager about the swimsuit
:47.390 --> :51.460 I’ll ask that she sends out a reminder to
the rest of the staff that care seats are :51.460 --> :56.380
mandatory” she left in a huff and I called
the shuttle driver who I told the situation :56.380 --> :01.950
to. I then got a call from doctor dad confirming.
What I told the nanny was accurate and he :01.950 --> :06.740
said he understood it was for the children
a safety. Nanny came down and asked the shuttle :06.740 --> :09.669
driver if I was serious. And then she left. :09.669 --> :15.160
I made sure everyone knew these kids had to
have their car seats and the nanny was so :15.160 --> :20.960
frustrated and b****ed to my boss who completely
had my back. I don’t know if nanny actually :20.960 --> :26.770
cooled it a bit or if I found so much joy
from watching her drag the car seats to and :26.770 --> :32.190
from the shuttle that I didn’t notice her
b****ing as much. Either way I felt better :32.190 --> :10.450
the rest :10.450 --> :51.590 of :51.590 --> :26.690
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AIT for grounding my daughter for ruining our vacation my husband daughter
15 stepkids 13 16 and I just came back from a two-e vacation my daughter is
very smart and is very good at a lot of things she's also very competitive my
husband is also very competitive my daughter started off this vacation by
telling my husband there was Sudoku on the plane and explaining how to play he
didn't know that she's been playing sudoku for months she made a bet with
him that if finishes the hardest level first he'd buy her Wi-Fi for the flight
and if he finished first she'd share a bed with his younger daughter on the
trip his younger daughter was complaining about sharing with his
oldest because she kicks and sleeps in the middle of the bed she beat him and
pestered him until he bought the Wi-Fi when we got there she'd challenge him to
races on land and in the pool she's one medals at state track meets and has been
swimming since she was two every day she'd challenge him to something wi and
he'd have to buy her something from the resort or local shops my husband was
getting sick of losing and my stepdaughters were upset that their dad
was buying her stuff and not them so I told my daughter she either couldn't
compete with her stepdad or she had to let him win she decided to tell her
stepdad that she wasn't allowed to compete with him anymore because he
couldn't handle losing this made them start to argue so I told her that if she
didn't keep it up she'd be grounded to the resort for the rest of the trip a
little over a week at this point she decided to test me so I stuck to my word
and she was left at the resort while the rest of us went out every day the
vacation was much more enjoyable without her turning everything into a
competition but she told her dad when she got back that we grounded her and
he's mad at me now for leaving her there and excluding her from the vacation
because my husband couldn't act like an adult I told him my daughter was warned
to stop but she decided to test me and now he's forcing her to stick to the
custody schedule technically I have her every other weekend but he was letting
her go back and forth whenever she wanted and is threatening to go to court
for child support and back pay AIT for grounding her for ruining the vacation | give me a good story on AITAforgroundingmydaughterforruiningourvacation |
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aita for hurting my female co-workers feelings hello everyone so I work at an
educational institution I and my another female cooworker have the same job
titles but we work different shifts and I'm also paid more than her yesterday
all the administrative staff was having a get together at a co-worker's house so
before the dinner time the conversation somehow got to the issue of gender pay
Gap she started saying that I am paid more than her even though we have the
same job title I didn't say anything because it was supposed to be a fun get
gather and I didn't want to ruin the mood she continued and said that I
should be ashamed for getting paid more than her and that I don't deserve it
eventually she outright started insulting me finally I had enough and
told her something like this I am paid more because I work 7 hours shift while
you work 5 hours shift you supervise 200 students 10 teachers and five
Administration staff while I supervise almost 1,000 students 50 teachers and 10
Administration staff not to mention the additional work of marketing and IT on
weekly basis you ask me to help you with your reports and I do that gladly and I
have never said no to you I also assist you at managing your teachers and staff
I practically do 40% of your job as well it's not me having a dick that makes me
get paid more it's the fact that I do a lot more than you that I get paid more
she got quiet and eventually started sobbing the atmosphere got very awkward
you can imagine how the dinner went some of the co-workers told me that I am an
aole and that I shouldn't have said that
her co-workers also texted me after they
get together and started telling me that I am the aole I don't believe I am so
people have readit aita for hurting my co-workers feelings edit I would like to
clarify a few things since I didn't mention them because I was afraid it
would get too long and I was also in a rush when I was writing it the dick
comment I made was because she constantly referred to it and said
things like I wish I had had a dick so I could be paid more I don't have a dick
that's why I don't get paid as much the reason you get paid more is because you
have a dick I wrote a feelings because her friends told me that she was
emotional and was letting out her frustration and that I hurt her feelings
as you guys also pointed out looking back I shouldn't have attacked her the
thing is I genuinely thought we were friends and we had a pretty good work
life relationship we even hung out a few times and invited each other to
functions and parties seeing her attacking me like that and insulting me
in front of everyone made me shocked beyond belief I couldn't believe I was
witnessing that I am a very non-confrontational guy and I am
generally very chill but all this just made me Snape I now realize I shouldn't
have done it | give me a good story on AITAforadvicemycoworkersorig |
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whta if I do not support a child my teenage son does not want and is not
prepared to care for my son and his girlfriend are 16 and they were dumb I
had the conversation provided the condoms but a last happened his
girlfriend is pregnant and she would like to keep the child my son is by no
freaking means ready to be a parent I love him but I would not trust him to
care for a goldfish let alone a baby she
does not want put it up for adoption she wants to raise the child she cited some
teen parents that made it work and claims they can make it work thing she
is not getting is it could work if both parties want to be involved my son wants
no part of this and she cannot force him to be involved she will be a single
mother end of story I am also not willing to go back to raising a baby and
her parents are not either they even told her if she does keep the kid they
will support her as they are legally responsible too but they will not
support the baby my guess at 18 they will also kick her out I am on the fence
cause I also do not want to go back to taking care of a baby I did it as a
single father not really looking forward to sleepless nights and all that
all over again I was 2 years away from him going off to college for sake
rip me reality is this if they have this kid they will need a ton of support
and to be honest that his support I really do not want to provide his
girlfriend's parents pretty much already told her at 18 she is gone minimum wage
is not enough to raise a family | give me a good story on WIBTAHifIdonotsupportachildmyteenagesondoesnotwantandisnotpreparedtocarefor |
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today we've got a great Revenge story against
people who spread rumors around we'll get into
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that in a bit but first landscaper kept locking
my driveway so now he has to walk over a block
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from his truck my neighbor directly across the
street has his yard surfaced every Wednesday
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morning around 7:30 right at the time I'm leaving
to drop my kid off at daycare and drive to work
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I've had to get out of my car go find the guy in
the yard across the street and have him move his
:25.600 --> :30.680 truck so I can leave now at least four times
since April I decided that I was done with
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this dance and decided to park my wife's car on
the street where the landscaper Parks his truck
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on Tuesday nights so come Wednesday morning he
wouldn't be able to block my driveway we also
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live on a street that you can only Park on one
side of and the police hear ticket very quickly
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if they see your parked on the wrong side I also
have a fire hydrant in front of my house and my
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neighbor to the north of me parks his truck on the
street so with all of that the landscaper in his
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big butt truck and trailer now need to park over a
block away and bring all his equipment with him in
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multiple trips well I'll tell you one thing the
landscaper definitely isn't going to park their
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vehicles on the neighbor's lawn they want to still
keep getting paid I mean it sucks that parking
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is so tight in this area but I mean you should be
professional enough to not block in other people's
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cars Captain Maus wrote our neighbors's lawn guy
parked right across our driveway once I came home
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Street park so I told him I will gladly Street
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Park and wait to watch the tow truck haul him off
he he quickly moved and never blocked our driveway
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again people behave this way because they count
on others avoiding a confrontation op responded
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saying the last time this happened so time number
three I was coming home from work so it was 3:45
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400 p.m. and the same guy had his trailer fully
blocking my driveway and he said the same thing
:50.080 --> :55.120 I had my screaming 2-year-old in the car and
yelled I'd be calling the cops and a toe company
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if he didn't move and he gave me a stink eye and
moved the five feet he could have moved forward
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to not block my driveway also hi I'm Steven and if
you guys enjoy awesome stories of Revenge it would
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be amazing if you left a like or left to review
if you're listening to my podcast that said our
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next story is Boomers can't just sit wherever
they like I was waiting on the street outside
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a Mexican restaurant which only had a dozen tables
or so with about 10 of them in use a boomer couple
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multiple languages sign and take a seat at
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a table outside the server comes out telling them
they can't do that and gets them to go to the sign
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the man is grumbling and throwing his arms up but
eventually shuffles over to the sign the server
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then produces a couple menus and leads them to
their table the exact same one they were sitting
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at I was peeing myself laughing which the server
clocked and gave me a crap eating grin I mean I
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can totally understand if it was an honest enough
mistake let's be real some people just don't read
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the signs they wouldn't notice the problem is
this guy throws his arms up and is disgruntled
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and grumbling and whatnot but also can I just say
that I definitely feel like this story is trying
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to appeal to some kind of agenda of Ops there
really is no relevance to having to say oh this
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Boomer couple all those darn baby boomer couples
going around not reading signs outside Mexican
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restaurants ssns forever wrote the importance
of procedural compliance it may save your life
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someday our next story is boy do I have a good
idea so many time a DVD comes up around my dad he
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complains that when my brother and I were little
he'd keep having to buy new DVD players because
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we'd keep destroying them I don't remember that
I was five when he first started saying this he
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would say it was every two maybe 3 years then it
became at least once a year and as of yesterday he
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had to buy one every 3 months I would absolutely
remember going through four DVD players a year
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every time it comes up we thoroughly apologize
even though we don't remember it in only knew
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how to put in or eject a disc and press play you
won't let it go it's been years anyhow my brother
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and I have a plan every 3 months we're going to
send a DVD player to his place and he'll start to
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ask about it maybe he'll start destroying it out
of spite but we're spiteful people it's happening
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well I guess the fortunate thing that makes this
Revenge possible is the fact that not very many
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people are using DVD players anymore the price
of DVD players has plummeted especially if op's
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buying the like $10 $15 USB ones RL Zack wrote
make sure they're already broken maybe go to
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some junker thrift store and buy the crappiest
ones you can find cyber death 1 added no make
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sure they work and if he throws them away complain
that it was a perfectly good DVD player that now
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some Ugandan kid has to put the circuit boards on
a barbecue plate to get the precious metals back
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this next story is placement supervisor gets fired
for giving very low grades this happened a few
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years ago so with me I was in the physiotherapy
assistant program which had multiple placements
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this story is about my last semester's placement
close to graduation I had to pass this placement
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to graduate in May in two months the first day
was about meeting my supervisor Amy giving her
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the grading package and going through it together
I needed four out of five to pass midterms and
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fives to pass the finals this package included
communication skills equipment checks safety
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measurements and teamwork skills I told her that
I would feel comfortable if we met for 10 to 15
:32.720 --> :38.080 minutes at the end of the week to discuss my
progress in areas of improvement she agreed the
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first 3 days were okay and she just led me observe
the techniques and what the physiotherapist
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expects from us she then lets me take over her
duties and I got to work with a physiotherapist
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by myself as Amy observed my skills as this was my
second placement the things that were required of
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me were not new and were not an issue to do in a
timely manner the physiotherapist then gave me a
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good job and wow the new students are getting
smarter and more skilled as the years go by
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speech in front of Amy I think her and that was
that what I did not know was that Amy had a very
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bruis ego and that praise in her mind undermined
her skills from then on it was heck working with
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her she would not meet up to discuss my progress
or give me time to work on areas I needed to
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improve before the midterm in 3 weeks Amy would
loudly give me ways to fix a nonissue that was
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there in front of patients and staff she would
berate me about my technique to the point where
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another physiotherapist told her I was right and
she was wrong I wouldn't say anything as it was
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very public and unprofessional to discuss that
around patients and their loved ones had I said
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something then it would have affected my grades so
I waited for midterms midterm review came and she
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gave me a two out of communication and a three
for professionalism with no real comments when
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I asked her why she would say so so and so said
you asked too many questions I never talked to
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this person before she then accused me of talking
about patience in public and breaking Hippa which
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did not happen but she would not listen and would
not give me when I broke this rule at this point
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I know nothing is going to get fixed so I just
excused myself and email my teacher for a meeting
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before I submit my grades I had a meeting with
my teacher and told him about everything he told
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me he would fix this and that I would no longer
work under her Well turns out I wasn't the only
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student student she did this to she almost failed
another student for dropping a patient when she
:35.480 --> :41.320 was the one supporting said patient that was
when I decided to be very helpful to her boss
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I emailed her that Amy was talking about patients
being lazy that she would judge a recovering drug
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addict saying I wish I could show my kids what
happens when you hate life and get into drugs
:52.760 --> :59.560 and look at him shaking like a leaf my God
like he's a zoo exhibition after that she
:59.560 --> :04.560 was transferred to another location that was
1.5 away from her normal route what I did
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not know was that she was on her last warning
one of my friends who was a year lower told me
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what happened the next year's placement I do not
know why they did this but the following year she
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was made in charge of another student and she
started doing the same crap again Amy was let
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go and apparently I was a bench for whining to a
teacher and getting her fired I never understood
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her reasoning why she would risk her job that was
pay for her kids daycare it sounds like she had
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multiple very complex issues going on here she
didn't want to be seen as inferior to anybody
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and was willing to try to Tink anybody else that
could potentially ever be perceived as passing
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them by or doing their job even remotely better
than Amy could like op said I don't understand
:50.920 --> :55.240 why Amy would put themselves on the line of
fire like this they couldn't help themselves
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from absolutely sabotaging themselves flaming
cinnamon roll wrote fragile egos fall the hardest
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I used to have a boss that was a nightmare for the
same reasons she was always on a power trip and
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everyone who worked under her had to keep every
scrap of communication from her because after a
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short period of time she would suddenly hate how
you were doing something and demand to know why
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you were an idiot doing it that way so we would
all have to display the emails from her saying
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to do it that way she never apologized only said
we misunderstood what she said to do Opie respond
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and saying I know right they always have the balls
to yell but to never apologize when they're wrong
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illustrious n 2055 wrote Never Trust an insecure
boss they'll feel threatened by anything you do
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well or any praise you get they're too blinded by
their ego to see that a good team reflects well on
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them as a boss whatever drives them eventually
brings them down but sometimes it takes too
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long our next story is leaving a toxic friend and
taking all of our friends with me this whole situ
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ation hopefully wrapped up just a few days ago and
I am officially left with no cares left to give so
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I bring it to all of you to judge I 18-year-old
female just graduated high school and I'm getting
:10.360 --> :15.120 ready to go to college this whole incident
involves my immediate friend group of about six
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people we all have mutual friends and our circles
often overlap but it's us as a unit most of us
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were together in middle school or Elementary and
have remain friends since the main aggressor in
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this is Emma 18-year-old female Emma and I became
friends in freshman year and quickly became close
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Emma ended up befriending my other close friends
and we did a lot of the same clubs together she
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was one of the people I considered my closest
friend we have very opposite personalities I am
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non-confrontational and try to avoid drama like
the plague Emma is either a drama Magnet or more
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likely a pot stirer so I'd often end up being a
person to vent to or a negotiator between her and
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her other friends red flag number one I couldn't
celebrate my 15th and almost 16th birthday because
:01.560 --> :06.560 of the drama she caused the larger circle of
friends was divided because of her and it got
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to the point that if I invited one group the other
wouldn't come and if I invited both neither would
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solution don't have one red flag number two Emma
had beef with seemingly everyone one day she's
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best friends with one person the next they've
committed some awful thing against her I was never
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fully caught up on anything so I always stayed
neutral senior year came around and suddenly
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I am a Target I had never known Emma to be a bully
as she always acts so sweet and is very popular
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because of that everyone talks about how nice
she is however at the very start of the year she
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started getting aggressive towards me the first
light was when I had a whole period on my schedule
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missing and asked her for help during lunch since
she's involved in school and her mom is a teacher
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keep in mind for later I have ADHD sometimes I
need a moment to figure things out and I ask a
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lot of questions because I just don't understand
I told told her that her advice didn't make sense
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and she snapped at me asking why I couldn't get it
through my thick head I decided to take the advice
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she had given me to the principal who asked who on
Earth gave me that every conversation afterwards I
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felt like I was walking on eggshells around her I
could never have it bad because she had it worse
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I could never do good because she did better I
was incredibly proud of the amount of notes I
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was taking for the ACT I'm never a good note taker
but I ended up filling a notebook with 35 backtack
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pages of notes I showed them to my friends and
she told me that that was nothing compared to all
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of the notes she took for her AP classes when I
confided about an overwhelming workload I had she
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scoffed and said that I didn't get to complain
because she had so much more work than me she
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did all these things in front of our friends we
all brushed it off as her being Brash and overly
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honest but have recently all reflected and said
she was just being mean specifically towards me
:58.280 --> :03.960
she never did it to any of our other friends and
I kept wondering what I did wrong poop hit the fan
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during homecoming it started with Emma complaining
about me not making plans with them and that she
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added me to the group chat I then proceeded to
ask about the group chat as I had received no such
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thing she called me stupid and walked away when
it was time for pictures I tried to grab all my
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friends and heard them together Emma really hates
this girl Lily Lily and I don't get along well
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either but we're civil I Tred to grab a friend
who was with her and and nicely told Lily that we
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just needed this friend for the picture but Lily
could hop in after Lily ignored me and got into
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the final picture Emma was nowhere to be seen
even after I called and texted her it was time
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she showed up just after the picture was taken and
she went nuts Emma then proceeded to yell at me in
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front of all of our friends for taking the picture
without her and allowing Lily in I followed her
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to apologize and found her with her mom who's
a teacher venting her mom then told her freak
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all of them and they left I tried to apologize
again but her mom got between us and said you
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need to back off Emma's had a long night I was so
shocked that I stood there before breaking down in
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sobs and calling my mom to get me I never got an
apology from Emma in fact I was the one who sent
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her countless apologies this was also my first
bit of girl drama and it wrecked me a few days
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later I sent a picture to our group chat with baby
bunnies We rescued and we're taking to the shelter
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I did everything right I bought kitten formula
and a syringe and watched videos kept them in
:35.520 --> :42.480 a dry dark quiet place her only response was
you know you probably just killed them right
:42.480 --> :48.320 thankfully she was called out but it made me
cry I would try to mend the bridge between us
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but every time there would be a split thing where
she ruined it she called me stupid over something
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I was excited for she dismissed me when I tried to
talk it made me angry and hurt well she she stayed
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in our friend group I just distanced myself from
her when we were together I said I'd just waited
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out until the end here is where I feel really
Petty one of Emma's biggest brags was that she
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was smarter than me and better than me and did
more work than me well I walked the stage with
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high honors for an act of a 30 and got accepted
to the University of Tennessee second best in our
:21.600 --> :26.760 state below Vanderbilt University ironically
she acted surprised when I said I got to walk
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for high honors she did not she's also attending
Community College utk is also the better branch
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of the Tennessee University she applied to I don't
know if she got accepted or not I feel bad about
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celebrating her downfall had things been different
I would have celebrated our Victory together or
:44.520 --> :50.080 felt bad for her now the real Petty Emma was
still involved in our friend group after the
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incident they weren't totally caught up in what
happened I and two friends from the original six
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drove home together after having a runin with her
we drove in Loops for 40 5 minutes while I took
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the microphone to spill everything she had done
and they were shocked so far I'd kept everything
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on the down low for the sake of being civil but
now we've graduated and I am done my friends
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admitted that they were confused when they noticed
her being aggressive towards me since I've never
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been mean towards any of them apparently all of us
are cutting her off because of the way she treated
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me they assured me that if they had to pick me or
Emma they'd pick me 100% And that I did nothing
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wrong Emma doesn't know that she she's been cut
off yet we all plan to do it quietly although I
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have been contemplating sending these incidents to
some of the people I know she'll talk about me too
:37.520 --> :42.960
and warning our mutual friends she did it to me
and she'll do it to them too this is also my first
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bit of drama ever posting this on Reddit feels
very satisfying and suddenly it's like I don't
:48.320 --> :54.520
care anymore I've always been non-confrontational
always try to be kind this seems to have been my
:54.520 --> :00.520
villain origin story op saying I posted this on
Reddit and now it feels like I don't even care at
:00.520 --> :05.440
all anymore I think it's a despite it being public
and a putting it all out there for the world
:05.440 --> :11.400
to see kind of thing sort of like a journaling
exercise writing this Reddit post is almost like
:11.400 --> :16.520
the same thing of just journaling and writing down
how you're feeling and kind of helping you take a
:16.520 --> :22.080
step back and process those feelings the boozy
ninja 887 wrote good on you for standing up for
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yourself you don't need any of that bull crap
in your life go no contact block her on every
:26.840 --> :31.400
platform and go live your best life with friends
who don't actively treat you like crap to make
:31.400 --> :36.520
themselves feel better op responded saying and
it's not even like my friend sided with her they
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just didn't know what was going on or they like
myself brushed it off as her being overly honest
:42.960 --> :48.480 the final straw was her yelling at me during
the dance this next story is another accidental
:48.480 --> :54.600
Revenge story just the other day and on another
website Kieran not his real name posted a lot of
:54.600 --> :00.520
woo woo nonsense which I was able to easily debunk
his responses were somewhat hostile toward me and
:00.520 --> :06.960
generally belittled my education and intelligence
why can't some people accept fact-based rebuttal
:06.960 --> :12.960
I may never know recently Kieran started a thread
asking for weird questions beginning with the word
:12.960 --> :19.600
if I posted the question if you are so smart then
why are you so stupid because I'd been asked that
:19.600 --> :24.400
weird question many times during my childhood
Kieran apparently took offense and reported
:24.400 --> :31.840
my post to the moderators as a personal attack he
also posted a butur reply in the same thread ever
:31.840 --> :37.440 since he has been dog piled by other members
and at least one moderator who have come to my
:37.440 --> :43.880
defense I really never meant to insult him honest
it's kind of hilarious that op actually didn't
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mean this in any kind of hostile way and despite
that they basically ruined this guy's day if not
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like whole week and it only got worse and worse
for this guy as everybody else agreed with OP I
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think this just kind of yet again highlights one
of the downsides of Tex based exchanges online if
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op started their question with a clarification
in parentheses that this was just for fun as a
:06.760 --> :11.280
childhood question they'd heard before and that
it wasn't actually hostile and they didn't mean
:11.280 --> :15.800 anything by it I feel like there's a decent
chance none of this would have happened Rainey
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grave wrote paraphrasing Frank Herbert Dune I
display a generable garment and you claim it's
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cut to your fit what a fascinating Revelation op
responded saying when the foot gear provides both
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comfort and conform ity then purchasing the pair
is imperative our next story is inadvertent Petty
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Revenge setup the manager who got me hired right
out of University was a kindly grandfatherly type
:40.480 --> :46.920 who held several radio licenses and a PhD
in physics he was a process oriented good
:46.920 --> :52.960
work yields good results sort of manager we often
conversed about Electronics Theory and practices
:52.960 --> :57.840
and he mentored me in several technical areas
that were not covered in detail during school
:57.840 --> :04.600
well he retired and his replacement held only a
master's degree in Business Administration MBA
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and a bachelor's degree in general science bgs
he was a goal oriented I don't care just get it
:11.760 --> :16.880 done sort of manager he also micromanaged
our activities even though he didn't seem
:16.880 --> :21.760 to understand exactly what we were doing
we repeatedly argued over the meanings of
:21.760 --> :28.840
phase and polarity in AC circuits polarity is in
constant flux needing to be expressed in amplitude
:28.840 --> :35.160 frequency and phase in DC circuits only the
amplitude is important he claimed that AC
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and DC circuits both had constant polarity and any
discussions of phase and frequency were not needed
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how the heck did he get the job I really have no
idea one of our clients was given a walkthrough
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by a c-level person when they got to me they asked
for a short description of what I was working on
:52.960 --> :58.920
one of the points I brought up involved getting
the Broadband phase coupling just right Mr MBA a
:58.920 --> :03.680
jumped right in and announced that all I had to
do was match the polarity and everything would
:03.680 --> :11.680
be okay cue the inadvertent Revenge but sir I said
this is an AC circuit phze frequency and amplitude
:11.680 --> :18.080
must be taken into excuse me but we've already had
this discussion now stop screwing around and just
:18.080 --> :25.640
match the polarity everyone went silent until Mr
SE level spoke up it seemed his degree was also in
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physics plus he had several radio licenses to his
name my old boss and he had gone through school
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together he instructed me to continue doing what
I was doing and told Mr MBA to wait in his office
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epilog Mr MBA was transferred to the warehouse and
Mr SE level became our interim manager I finished
:45.480 --> :50.400 the project ahead of time and received a pay
bonus old boss and I kept in touch until he passed
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away I would be afraid that if this guy's utter
incompetence didn't get displayed right in front
:55.680 --> :02.840
of a client that maybe this guy would continue to
be allowed to manage something he has no actual
:02.840 --> :07.680
understanding of then the bearded man wrote I
don't understand these kinds of bosses if you
:07.680 --> :12.040
don't know about the job your workers are doing
shut the freak up and try to learn the basics from
:12.040 --> :18.440
them sha bza added because they do not want to be
seen as Superfluous and contributing nothing real
:18.440 --> :23.880
to the actual business so they'll micromanage and
insert themselves into every process even if they
:23.880 --> :28.800 do not even understand that they're actually
damaging and that they're actively impeding
:28.800 --> :33.880
things and are not self-aware enough to realize
that they're actually hindering things our next
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story is getting revenge on people who spread
rumors about me a year ago in school I mostly
:39.520 --> :44.480 kept to myself and hung out with my small
circle of friends life was simple until a few
:44.480 --> :49.880
girls decided to turn my world upside down out
of nowhere they started spreading a rumor that
:49.880 --> :54.760
I'd been taking pictures of their butts without
their consent it was utterly false and came out
:54.760 --> :00.840 of nowhere but it spread like wildfire I did
have a photography camera but I definitely did
:00.840 --> :06.160
not take pictures of them without their permission
the worst part was how quickly everyone believed
:06.160 --> :12.480
them over a few days I became the school Pariah
people would whisper behind my back glare at me in
:12.480 --> :18.280
the hallways and even teacher started looking at
me differently I had to constantly defend myself
:18.280 --> :24.200
against something I never did and it felt like my
word meant nothing against theirs the principal
:24.200 --> :30.240
even had to check my camera and my phone camera
but found nothing yet people still falsely accuse
:30.240 --> :36.080
me of this that year was heck for me fast forward
to this year and I was still feeling the sting of
:36.080 --> :41.960
those accusations even though I managed to avoid
any serious consequences the social damage was
:41.960 --> :47.960
done but then I got a little piece of information
that would set the stage for my revenge their
:47.960 --> :53.120
phone numbers one night I was talking with my
friends and in a bit of frustration I mentioned
:53.120 --> :57.560 how I still hadn't gotten over what they did
to me one of my friends who was good with tech
:57.560 --> :02.920
in a bit of a prank kingster casually suggested
signing them up for spam as a way to get back it
:02.920 --> :09.320
was like a light bulb went off in my head so over
the next hour I meticulously signed them up for
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every possible mailing list and website I could
find political campaigns check Scientology check
:16.600 --> :22.720
health and life insurance quotes double check
solar panel installations military recruitment
:22.720 --> :27.920
for the army marines and navy check check and
check my Dad's friend signed up for a political
:27.920 --> :34.040
website a few years ago and he's still getting
calls every single day from Washington DC so I
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can't imagine how many phone calls they would get
I also heard health insurance websites call you 30
:39.120 --> :45.760
to 70 times a day there were also many different
people calling so it would be impossible to block
:45.760 --> :50.920
all of them they're especially going to get a lot
of calls from the political campaigns since it is
:50.920 --> :57.000
election year but the crowning Jewel I put up
a Craiglist ad using their phone numbers saying
:57.000 --> :03.200
they were looking for some midnight companionship
and a call after a.m. the thought of them
:03.200 --> :09.880
being bombarded with calls and texts in the middle
of the night brought a wicked grin to my face it
:09.880 --> :15.240
didn't take long for the results to start showing
I overheard that they were spammed nonstop with
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calls and messages from various places and how
their phones were blowing up at all hours of
:20.760 --> :26.000
course they had no idea who did it they might have
to get a new phone number I never told anyone it
:26.000 --> :31.640
was me watching them scramble to control the the
chaos was enough I don't feel bad for it Pretty
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Petty Revenge I know this is like a combination
of all of the phone number related revenge stories
:38.360 --> :42.360
short of like getting their street address and
signing them up for other kinds of flyers and
:42.360 --> :47.640
mailers and things I mean from the way it sounds
it sounds like op sign them up for enough spam
:47.640 --> :52.520 call type stuff they probably might want to
change their number I mean let's be real unless
:52.520 --> :57.680
you recognize the number most people don't pick
up the phone nowadays anyway but imagine even with
:57.680 --> :03.120
like a spam filter you're still getting called
multiple times a day with some ridiculous spam
:03.120 --> :10.320
scam stuff on anpus wrote ooh Scientology that's
never going to go away they're going to keep after
:10.320 --> :15.440
them for contributions constant pressure on staff
to be upstat means they're going to keep wagging
:15.440 --> :22.040
them and never freaking stop ever chaotic normal
added and Scientology seems to always know where
:22.040 --> :27.880
you are and your new phone number my ex was in
it for about a year from 17 to 18 years old and
:27.880 --> :33.400
was getting mail from them at 45 years old his
brother has a box of Scientology mail that he
:33.400 --> :39.960
saves for my ex our next story is throw trash
on the floor get trash in your shoes yesterday
:39.960 --> :43.800
I was walking on the side of the road and was
heading toward a work building a man in his
:43.800 --> :49.080
late 20s was walking in front of me as he was
walking he took out a bunch of crumpled papers
:49.080 --> :54.720
from his coat pocket tore them into tiny pieces
and threw them on the street floor disgusted by
:54.720 --> :59.720
the ACT I started picking up those papers with the
intention of making the person feel guilty of his
:59.720 --> :05.560
actions he turned back to see that I was picking
up the trash he threw yet he just kept walking
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I decided to follow this man he entered a public
building where shoes were not allowed he put his
:10.640 --> :17.560
shoes in a shoe rack seeing an opportunity guess
what I did I stuffed all those papers inside his
:17.560 --> :24.480 shoes and walked away a wave of satisfaction
washed over me Petty Revenge had never felt so
:24.480 --> :30.000
just I'm just kind of hoping wherever this was
it was some place really important to them too
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or a place that's really crowded or has some good
foot traffic that way when they get their shoes
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back and they realize all these papers are there
they're not incentivized to just throw them right
:40.080 --> :45.000
back on the street right outside whatever building
you know it's in an area where they would actually
:45.000 --> :50.520 feel some semblance of Shame sha bza wrote
probably threw them out when he came back and
:50.520 --> :55.160
hopefully was scolded by the building reception as
well hopefully with it becoming known to whoever
:55.160 --> :01.040
he was meeting there Zorb one added sounds like a
mosque or Temple if he tossed trash on the ground
:01.040 --> :08.080
there he'd get yelled at for being disrespectful
our next story is dog farted on me I farted right
:08.080 --> :13.640
back and won the dog's affections as you might
have noticed this title takes inspiration from the
:13.640 --> :20.440
recent peeing cat post my friend's old W moroner
Monty never used to give a crap about me he was a
:20.440 --> :26.080
nice dog but wouldn't even look in my direction he
also used to fart like an open sewer one time he
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wandered past as I was on the sofa and and let off
one of the most rancid farts I'd smelled in years
:32.760 --> :38.280
burned my nose and I think my mouth was open too
that pushed me over the edge and the next time I
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needed to fart after dinner I ran over to Monty
grabbed him by the Scruff of his neck and buried
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his nose between my cheeks as I let off a huge
fart not only did I feel Vindicated but he looked
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at me in the eye properly and then wouldn't leave
me alone for the rest of the day I was there being
:56.000 --> :01.880
super affectionate and interested in friendly the
next time I came around he had forgotten me so I
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did it again and we've been friends ever since all
I wanted was a bit of petty revenge on a stinky
:07.160 --> :13.840
dog but I made an unexpected buddy you know when
I read this story two things came to mind first
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I don't think I would ever do anything remotely
close to what op just described I mean going so
:19.880 --> :27.680
far as to say put his nose between the cheeks the
second thought I had was if for whatever reason I
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did do that I think that would be something I
would have so much Shame about even if I made
:32.680 --> :38.160
a buddy out of it that I would never even post
it on an anonymous Reddit account but hey you
:38.160 --> :45.080
know what maybe I'm just not on that Karma grind
wavelength like op is Dr cafra wrote my husband
:45.080 --> :50.120
sometimes farts on our dogs for revenge on them
for farting on us the pit mix and mini SCH snower
:50.120 --> :55.520
don't particularly care but the dobermutt will
immediately start trying desperately to bury his
:55.520 --> :00.400
butt with the nearest pillow or blanket the the
other night the Dober mut was driving me insane
:00.400 --> :04.720 because there was something outside that was
upsetting to her Critter in the woods and she
:04.720 --> :10.160
was up half the night pawing me and trying to
make me get up and go look outside for her yes
:10.160 --> :16.400
she wanted me or my husband to go look outside
on her behalf brilliant guard dog this one so I
:16.400 --> :24.320
ripped butt as hard as I could I can't quite get
the 30- second long cheap flapping my husband can
:24.320 --> :30.960
his farts can shift gear somehow but I did my best
the Dober mut gave me the most offended look I've
:30.960 --> :37.000
ever received retracted her paw and then proceeded
to bury my butt with a comforter before shuffling
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to the end of the bed and finally going to sleep
with that exciting information divulged that's
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all the time we have for today now if you want
to hear another absolutely awesome Revenge story
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check out that video on the left or if you missed
my latest video check out that video on the right
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that said I'll see you all next time with some
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hey everyone my name is Jake and today we are gonna be looking at some item
work here ladies stories so sit back relax and enjoy you're in the wrong
country if you think people are going to do that for you
here's your important background on me I'm a British national who has been
working in another country for a couple of years I haven't been at home at all
during this time so this year I saved up all my holiday OK'd it with my bosses
and decided to use it all on coming home from now until the new year
my flight touched down mid-afternoon yesterday at a big International Airport
I had opted to hire a car to use since I'm planning a couple of day trips to
visit friends who now live across the country it just so happened that the
company I was going with had an empty - empty fuel policy there was just enough
fuel in the car to get you to the nearest petrol station and you didn't
have to bring it back with any specific amount of fuel in the tank this all
begins at the petrol station about five minutes down the road from the car hire
place I feel like this isn't a surprise to anyone reading apart from the
antagonist of the story but she appears in a minute but in the UK on the whole
we fill up our own petrol tanks people paid to pump your petrol for you are not
a thing if you go into really rural areas with no other petrol stations for
miles around you might get a hand from one of the member of staff there but
that's it this is the same in my country of work also you mostly pay over the
counter in the shop connected to the station but for some of the chain petrol
stations you can pay at the pump itself via a pin machine sorry if this is like
teaching your grandmother to suck eggs and you know this already it just so
happens that this petrol station in question at the Payette pump option
the cue for paying behind the counter was massive so I decided when I pulled
in to pay at the pump there was a bit of a way to get a free pump and while
waiting I noticed out of my window that a car just turning into the petrol
station was a hire car by the same company as mine at the time it was just
something to spa but I didn't realize that I would be front and center in
their crosshairs I eventually pull into a space get out of the car and start
filling it up I finish and reach into my pocket to get my card out to pay when
there's a tap on my shoulder I look across and there's an I would guess
mid-thirties woman standing there looking angry I should note that I
myself I'm a woman in my late 20s and was wearing the jogging bottoms in
University hoodie that I had traveled in so definitely in no discernable uniform
at all I'll be calling her shouty American or SI for short finally someone
appears can you tell these other cars to move so we can get into this space next
me tired because flying is draining and confused no they were here before you
but they're not with the car hire company you are because your car say so
go get them to move and then get pumping our gas I'm not employed by anyone I
just hired the car also no one's going to put any petrol in your car other than
yourself at this point I turned away from her so I could pay and she did not
like that the Sheltie American pulling my arm away
from the screen I don't want to pet roll
the fact that she was trying to make fun of my accent was just odd I want gas we
were told to fill up here and if you don't do it I will drag you to that
office and watches you get fired obviously because she is on the verge of
shrieking at me and has created a scene a member of
staff comes over and asks what's happening I was going to politely
explain that the woman just seemed to be a little bit confused over what she's
being told by the car hire company but she gets in there first this employee of
your partner firm car hire company is terrible she's refusing to pump my gas
the staff member or SM to me do you work
for kaya company no I just hired the car and needed to fill it up and now I need
to pay no she works for them look at the stickers on her car they're the same
stickers on every hire car the staff member to her madam I don't think this
lady works for the car hire company I think we just need to let her move on so
she can leave and we can keep everyone moving we also don't have any contracts
with car hire company to begin with at this point there are about eight cars
parked behind the car that she was in since the driver hadn't thought to move
into one of the now many free spaces next to the pumps and many more
indicating that they wanted to enter the petrol station but the staff member
seemed oblivious to this I want someone to fill up my car now I don't care if
you fill it up with petrol and not gas she seemed to have no clue that petrol
and gasoline are literally the same thing you're all lucky that I don't film
this and stick it on Facebook so you all get shamed and fired the staff member
getting annoyed as there were people shouting and car horns blaring because
of the blockage you're in the wrong country if you think people are going to
do that for you please tell the driver of your car to move or we will have the
car towed for an illegal obstruction I'm pretty sure this isn't a thing but I
sense the guy was just hedging his bets that Sheltie had no
what the law was she eventually signaled for the driver to move into a space to
the wonderful sound of British sarcastic cheers it's good to be home while the
staff member apologized profusely for what had happened and offered me
anything in the shop on the house I went
home with a tank of full petrol a deluxe Christmas sandwich and a good story to
tell my family that probably wasn't the welcome to the UK that shouty expected
but it was the one she deserved I might be wrong here but I'm pretty sure
there's like one stay or two stays I think it's New Jersey where it's a legal
future like pump your own gas correct me if I'm wrong on that one but I'm pretty
sure so on the off chance she was from there then maybe but you should still
like you know research the country that you're going into it might not have the
same laws forced racist rich lady to dumpster dive some time ago I had a job
as a runner for a bad horror movie company part of my job as a runner was
to go to the bank to make various deposits and withdrawals for both the
company and the boss I went to the bank almost every day sometimes multiple
times a day the bank was in a really upscale neighborhood so it was not
uncommon to see some really high-end cars in the nearby lot where I parked
the lot was not free if you were just parking to walk the area but you could
get validation if you went to certain specific businesses like the bank a few
buildings away at this point I had been at my job for about three and a half
years which men I had been to this law easily about a thousand times I knew a
lot of the workers in the area by name including the lot workers we talked a
lot and often times I could get away with not getting validation even on days
I wasn't working I was in my mid-20s and was often in shorts flip-flops in the
merchants from my company we didn't have uniforms
so they just gave me a ton of shirts from their movies so I would have some
kind of identifier while I was out working now I should mention that I am a
Hispanic with pretty dark skin I normally wouldn't even bother mentioning
that because who cares you know who cares rich entitled people I've seen my
fair share reviled racism and typecasting over the years heck even
that lot I've been asked multiple times to park people's cars
they usually apologize and look embarrassed when I point out the guys in
the polo shirts and vests with the name of the lot on them so I usually just
roll my eyes and go on about my day occasionally I'll get someone rude that
will snap their fingers it may which I extremely hate or took their keys at me
I'm usually a little more of a burr but nothing major on this day I was in a
fairly poor mood my company was starting to do some shady stuff and was screwing
over employs a lot of people hadn't been paid in weeks and I was on half checks
the only reason I got any money was because of the main meat of my job had
me driving anywhere from 4 to 12 hours a day and I can't do that without gas
which they reimbursed me for on top of my paycheck so on my way to the bank
I bought a strawberry smoothie for lunch as I knew there was no chance I was
gonna make it back to the office to eat the food that I brought I pull into the
non valet parking in the lot chat with the attendant while I grab my ticket and
start walking towards the bank I hear someone shouting Jose hey Jose but
obviously I ignore it as my name is not Jose I walk past the lady shouting when
I feel something smack me in the back of the head
dropping my glasses I pick up my glasses and turn around and see this red in the
face lady glaring angrily at me I was super ticked I looked down to see what
hit me and of course it was her car and house keys this woman literally threw
her keys at a stranger's head she was driving some really nice Escalade that
looked like it was probably fully loaded and detailed regularly I pick up her
keys and Xiao what the frick lady she shouts back didn't you hear me calling
you you freaking racist slur it's your own fault for ignoring me I'm late for
my hair appointment Park my god dang car I was absolutely dumbfounded I tried to
explain to her that I didn't work there but she was not having it every time I
opened my mouth she called me something even more demeaning and racist
questioning my intelligence and threatening to get me fired she started
walking away so I decided screw it I hurried up walk
to the restaurant next door and shouted hey which she turned around steaming at
her ears I said as calmly as I could manage I don't work there then I dropped
her keys in my half full smoothie and chucked it as hard as I can into the
restaurants dumpster the look on her face when the cup exploded in pink
chunks as her keys dropped into a stanky dumpster was absolutely the best I
walked away flipping her off as she turned and run back to the attendants
after I did all my bank business I went back to the law and saw her shouting at
the lot security and pointing at me the security guard who of course I knew
asked me what happened I told him she threw her keys at me started shouting
obscenities and refused to take them back I try to explain that I didn't work
there and also that I threw them in my smoothie and chucked them in the trash
next door he was holding back his laughter when I finished she tried to
get him to call the cops on me but he explained to her that she willingly gave
me her keys and refused to take them back telling her that she should have
taken that extra second to listen to what I was trying to tell her she then
demanded that one of the workers go into the dumpster and fish the keys out but
he just pointed at a sign that said the lock takes no responsibility for lost or
stolen property he then informed her that her Escalade
was blocking traffic into the lot and that if she didn't move it in 15 minutes
he would call a tow truck to move it she did not like that and she let him know
that through racist Hrunting and grunge standing he stood there quietly the
whole time and took it when she was finally finished he looked down at his
watch and told her you have seven minutes ma'am wouldn't you know it she
angrily trudged off towards the dumpster
we had a good laugh about it but he told
me not to do it again as I pulled out of the lot
I got a nice view of her in the dumpster
furiously throwing everything everywhere I honked and waved as I passed and went
about my day with a big smile on my face
the next day one of the lot guys told me that they ended up having to tow her
Escalade I guess she couldn't find her keys oh well hope the hairdresser didn't
mind her smelling like garbage I'm not sure about the legality of all of this
or if I would have been in any actual trouble if the police had been called
she just caught me on a bad day I don't feel the least bit sorry about what I
did though I guess the moral of this story is don't be a racist trash and
also don't just give your keys to anyone like an idiot oh and here's some
responses to some questions I can doing something to her car but I was in
a really nice Beverly Hills type neighborhood I figured the cops in the
area would not at all be understanding plus she seemed like the team of lawyers
type of spiteful person I'm so happy I just got a sucker punch to the back of
the head instead of some of the horror stories I read about how badly a hit
with keys could have gone she was not standing very far away when she hit me
probably a good 5 to 10 feet I didn't call the cops mostly because I didn't
think about it and I was pretty satisfied with the outcome I was also on
the clock plus I'd been pulled over in that area more than once never for doing
anything wrong but because I fit a profile it all seemed like a hassle and
seeing her throwing trash around was more than enough to forget about the
pain in the back of my hand right at the start when they were saying that people
like hand them keys I was like mmm they should really put them in a drain or
something just drop them down the drain but the smoothie idea into a dumpster is
just so much better Wow guys look on screen right now you see those two
videos right there they're pretty good I think you should click at least one of
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hello everybody hope you're all doing well my name is steven and this
is the story time channel today we have some i don't work here lady stories and
our first story of the day is by chicken nougat
no the county is closed today i get these types of calls quite often
ever since the pandemic started to make it more vague
i work call center we answer questions about all kinds of benefits but most
times we transfer them to the right number to call
meaning i have no actual power over their cases
this is why i make sure to include the fact that i'm only an information line
for my greeting but so often this is ignored the following conversation
still cracks me up thank you for calling how may i help you
my money is not in the card okay let's start with your first and last
name i don't need to do that right now i'm telling you my money didn't come
in today yes i understand you're frustrated but in order for me to check
your case i will need you to state your first and last name
fine whatever my name is so and so okay well it looks like you're going to have
to call the county for this you're not due for any renewals or
anything so you might just need to call the county to talk to them
unfortunately they're not open today oh my lord this is ridiculous what's their
number it's number but again like i said they are closed today
you might have to try on monday well that's not good enough
i understand you're frustrated bud can't
you just give me some emergency funds or something
i demand you give me emergency funds what no ma'am i'm not the county like i
explained beforehand the county is closed on weekends meaning
they're closed today then why are you answering calls today
ma'am i've explained this already i'm not the county we're in information
line the county is closed today i'm not the county is there anything
else i can help you with today no hangs up be honest dear guys
do you think you would have the patience to do a call center information line
like this let me know in the comments down below
because sometimes i think i would have the patience for it but then i read
stories like these with people who were just so
weirdly unreasonable and i feel like it would very quickly just completely ruin
that patience i would have so let me know your thoughts
our next story is by nemo watches oh i'm quite certain
i don't work here i am a firearms instructor for a law enforcement agency
generally we don't get featured on tv shows or
movies so people aren't familiar with our uniforms
we usually wear khaki pants and a red polo with a sewn on badge
now these uniforms don't have a bunch of identifiers like
arm patches or logos because we don't get seen in public too much
but we do have the telltale heavy gun belt equipped with a firearm
taser baton etc so while i try to never do this being a father i have to stop
and pick up some items from a store usually i get a call on the way home
from the mrs asking me for an emergency item the closest store on
the way home is a target you can see where this is going so
shopping in a target while wearing khakis in a red polo
is just asking for this i understand this so when someone walks up and asks a
question i will generally politely tell them i don't work there or
if i happen to know the answer i will answer them however
some people seem to want to cause problems and things don't go as politely
as i hope first i was trying to buy some shoelaces
for my boy and i clock a guy looking around for an
employee i hear him walking my way so i look him up and down to make sure he
isn't a cop hater or something he walks up and asks hey you work here gruffly
i respond no sir i don't he replies are you sure i stand and turn to face him
i say i'm extremely sure he looks me up and down and stops at my gun belt
then his eyes dart up to my badge he pauses and thinks for a few seconds and
says oh you don't work here and finally walks away
on another occasion i'm loading a heavy item into my cart when an older lady
with a thick new york accent walks up and asks hey where is the dog food
i reply i'm sorry i don't work here i'm she cut me off curly and barked i didn't
ask you that did i i look at her smile and i say of course
the pet supplies are over in that corner and i point to the far
end of the store she looks over and huffs freak all the way over there and she
starts walking that way another young lady walks up to me and
says i think the pet supplies are in the next aisle
i reply oh my mistake this lady smiles at me and says
oh well and keep shopping i honestly can't blame op too much because if i was
in this situation and it was a common occurrence to have to go to target
wearing a target like uniform and constantly getting confused for an employee
i'd get pretty tired of it very quickly add to the mix somebody being just
outright rude no thank you i'd probably start keeping like a oversized shirt
that you can just quickly throw on over the red shirt or something this
next story is by radekins i work at a petrol station so i apparently work at
all of them happened just this morning i'm tired so we'll keep it short
i had to collect a jacket from a seamstress i had to pop into a petrol
on the way now i've worked in petrol stations for years
and still do the last one had full american style service and i was the
attendant for several years left that place years ago and went to
another as i was leaving a little toyota pulls in a woman of about 60 jumps out
otla's old toyota lady me is the night shift
zombie can you fill my car immediately spotted she was talking to me
my mistake old habits i'm tired having not long finished a
night shift i am a retail vampire come join us the undead
come fill up my car she repeated clearly annoyed
i don't work at this garage i shouted back over the traffic noise
you were getting that one out of town and
please note i'm tired hungry and have to complete my vital mission
you'd understand if you know the jacket's owner that means you work at
the rest of them then i've read a load of i don't work here ladies stories
and i don't want to go through the crap of karen's so
no i don't and got in my car and drove off
there are traffic lights right outside the station's exit and it's red
i heard her say well i never and saw her take a picture of my car as i waited at
the red it turned green before anything happened it's just the way she spoke
that tone that retail workers everywhere here before getting a migraine
i was too tired to give a darn besides i didn't work there there's been a lot
of kind of dumb assumptions i've seen in stories like
these but an assumption that because you work at one store you work at
all of the stores of that chain that's probably pretty up there
this next door is by shifting parallax accosted by children at work
so i work as a vendor for big box stores it's an easy job
i make my own schedule i worked my own hours
and most of it is auditing and taking pictures of shelves
easy pays the bills and i don't hate it however
the amount of i don't work here stories i have is ridiculous
because i'm wearing dark clothing and a lanyard so i obviously work
everywhere i've got a ton of them but this one in particular is one i know a
lot of you will get a kick out of this was before kovid
it was a beautiful crisp day and i was wearing a black t-shirt
gray leather jacket jeans had my purse on me
sunglasses on my head and the only thing
indicating that i even was working was a purple super nintendo lanyard around my
neck i definitely don't look like an employee but regardless
a man with two little boys who looked between four to five was glaring daggers
at me not saying anything just glaring as if
somehow i was going to spontaneously gain the ability to read
minds it was super creepy but i'm not about to approach a random kevin in the
store i go into an aisle to continue my work when his kids quite
literally run up to me and grab me one has his hands tightly wrapped around my
leg and the other one has a hold of my purse they're tugging at me and screaming
daddy wants to talk to you don't ignore daddy
as i'm trying to pull them off of me i feel like a zebra about to be killed by
a pride of lions as the dad starts to storm down the aisle towards me
definitely a trap just as i think i'm done for and my day is ruined
an employee intervened and explained that i don't work there
but she can help i take this glorious opportunity as help from the gods and
prime myself free and book it towards the entrance to take an
impromptu lunch break as i get up there though i am again
captured i turn around and the same kids have their hands on me
at this point i'm pretty pissed off and firmly tell them to go back to their dad
all the while they're still babbling and screaming at the top of their lungs the
same garbage again i pull myself from their
grasp but they keep trying to cling to me it gets to the point where a manager
actually comes over and asked me what's going on as i'm
relaying the entire story and trying to talk over the screeching kids i hear
another very very angry man screaming at the top of his lungs
the classic how dare you who do you think you are etc the dad's back awesome
is he mad at his two small children for running off after a complete stranger
no of course not he's mad at this random young lady they're accosting
apparently he's convinced that i'm kidnapping his children
and call the police so now that my day really
is ruined i have to sit in customer service as the police go over the footage
the dad won't stop screaming his kids won't stop screaming
management is defending me and i want to sink into the floor
and of course it's serving as the best birth control of
all time and giving me a massive headache as i'm certain my ears
are now bleeding after everything is said and done
i'm cut free and the dad gets charged with wasting police resources and is
banned from the store because apparently he's done this before parenting
at its finest ladies and gentlemen because while the dad's behavior was
absolutely abysmal the fact that he condones his children running up to
perfect strangers and actually grabbing them holding onto them
and screaming at them is beyond me to this day i can't decide
whether or not they were trained to do that
or it was a complete lack of parenting to me this sounds like really peculiar
behavior to not be something that's trained the fact that they were
so overly clingy to a random stranger when there was not even an exchange that
happened constantly screaming don't ignore daddy it just
seems like some really odd trained behavior
our next story is by stu goddard okay i do work here and was just
joking near where i work there is a salvage yard and i would visit it at
lunchtime before the lockdown about once a week
it is full of unusual things from around ireland ranging in
age so it may just be some business clear out with modern bit but a lot of
antiques too as i have always been interested in old
things i have a fair knowledge of some unusual looking
items and i may just even recognize a part or something
the yard has a lot of georgian and victorian components because it's in
dublin and there are a lot of such buildings about anyway
i stroll down at lunch time to have a look and never take off my lanyard for
work as i always have it on in work while browsing around the store
i go to the location they put new stock and there is a table with various
different brass bits and pieces while looking at the table a woman comes
over and starts looking at them she picks up a few bits and looks
puzzled so i casually tell her that the item in her hand
is part of a victorian meat grinder and she seems
even more confused so i hold it and show her how it would fit
and then see a complete one and point to that so she understands
she is obviously american but is grateful and then proceeds to point at
different things on the table and parts on the table and i know what they
all are parts of a door handle lock mechanism tinder hooks etc
you're really good at your job oh i don't work here
you irish are so funny no i really don't work here lady laughs points to my
lanyard winks so funny okay glad i could help
lady then walks away snickering so i continue walking around
and as i go there so often and the place is a mess i
do occasionally push things out of the way to walk
by or put things together that have been
separated as i can't help myself knowing they could get lost as a group
lady arrives over at me with her husband holding a guinness sign it is a
reproduction sign that is new the husband says this says 40 euros can
i get it for 30 i can't do that as i don't work here he starts haggling
okay you can have it for 30 euros but remember
i don't work here and i already told you they both
laugh just tell them at the counter stu said it was ok
for 30 euros we all laugh and i wish them an enjoyable time in ireland as
they are sure to bring back stories of how funny the irish are
and i left a few days later i went back to the yard and asked the guy at the
counter did an american couple ask for a discount on a guinness sign
he started laughing was that you so as expected
they went to pay and mentioned me as the helpful guy who said they could get a
cheap the staff proceeded to say nobody called stu works there
and as it was a new stock they don't discount it
the couple proceeded to tell them that i had mentioned i didn't work there
four times but i was just joking they all thought it was funny
so they let them have a cheap and the couple laughed and said so he does work
here they laughed and said sure he does when i have gone
in since they asked me what price they should sell something for
we are pretty sure the americans think we were all in on it as some
irish sense of humor now i'm not sure if quite oftenly irish people are overly
sarcastic as their way of comedy but maybe you should stop to consider what
they're saying a little bit more especially when they tell you
four times unless it's the most hilarious thing i don't think anybody's
going to repeat the same sarcastic joke four times in a row unless they're
really bad at comedic timing and it wasn't even really four times in a row
but it was four separate times and our final story of the day is by
salmundo we're not where you think we are
this happened when i was in high school i was working in a convenience store
called quickstop a customer asks me when the store closes and i tell them 1am
how come you were 7-eleven and you closed at 1am instead of 11 o'clock
it's not a 7-eleven it's quick stop no it's a 7-eleven there's no signage
inside the store so i suggest that he go outside and look at the sign
which he does then some time later he comes back in the store and avoids
contact with me i guess we all have days like that so
my guess is they maybe used like google maps and maybe like a street view
had an outdated view maybe it was a 7-eleven at some point
or it was just a complete and utter mess-up depending on when the story was
maybe google street view wasn't even a thing
but the idea of outdated information whether on a map or a gps or whatnot
might lend itself to a cause but with that being said that's all the time we
have for today so which of these stories was your
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AIT ta for laughing at my cousin after she had an absolute meltdown after her
boss saw her buying toilet paper at Costco yesterday I tagged along with my
cousin on her trip to Costco she has always been very high strung but for the
most part we were having a nice time as we were in the checkout line a very
pleasant man in his 50s or 60s and said hello my cousin introduced him as the
man who owns the company she works for I sort of stood by as they had normal
small talk and he even complimented her on helping out with a huge sale even
though she's not in sales and said he said that they were still working out
what the bonus was going to be but it was going to be more than they initially
thought I mean all in all it seemed like a great interaction to have with a boss
when you see them out in public shortly after he left she started almost
hyperventilating saying oh my God oh my God I can't believe that just happened I
had no idea what she was talking about and then she started saying we have to
leave we have to get out of here that was horrible I said I had $300 worth of
groceries and I can't come to Costco I can't leave she actually walked away and
sat down in the food court and I was still so lost but her leaving caused an
even bigger scene because I had to go find | give me a good story on AITAforlaughingatmycousinaftershehadanabsolutemeltdownafterherbosssawherbuyingorig |
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would you be the jerk for telling your daughter-in-law she wasn't invited to
some place due to her weight we'll get into that in a bit but first am I the
jerk got telling my daughter-in-law that she isn't my kid and she isn't invited
to a daughter's lunch I have two daughters when they were younger my wife
and I realized that I spent more time with the boys and she spent more time
with the girls so we made fatherdaughter dates for me and she do son mom dates
they're all adults now but we still do those dates but they're just less often
so my two daughters and I are going to have tea house the youngest picked it
and just catch up now my oldest son got married to Sue she's a nice girl and I
see her at holidays and other events I got a call from Sue asking about times
for tea I was confused and asked what she was talking about she explained the
fatherdaughter date and that she's my daughter-in-law I told her this is just
a thing between me and my daughters she repeated that she is my daughter-in-law
this went on for a few times until I told her that she is isn't my kid and
that she's not invited she hung up now and now I'm getting calls from my oldest
my son her husband for being a jerk and not welcoming her into the family I
suppose it's worth canvasing with your kids you know how do your daughters
specifically feel about it would they like them to join or would they still
prefer that one-on-one with just their father and them and honestly on the
other side of things do you really blame
a father if they want to have a daughter date with just their biolog logical
children and not any in-laws to be honest it kind of sounds like she
invited herself also hi I'm Steven and if you guys enjoy getting to decide
whether or not all of these people are jerks why not hit those like And
subscribe buttons down below that said our next story is am I the jerk for not
allowing my daughter to wear something because it's ugly edit I have to clarify
here this is not about my daughter being
upset she's not upset with me she looked at it and said that I was right and she
hadn't noticed this is about the validity of my statements of my
mother-in-law and husband so I have a daughter who's 14 my husband is 41 and
I'm 38 my daughter Courtney is really into Y2K style right now it's more Bratz
dolls less real early 2000s fashion she receives a monthly allowance from us to
have a little autonomy last week she went to a thrift store with her older
sister and bought the ugliest tie dye mini skirt imaginable it is brownish and
honestly looks like she had a poop accident as one of the stains is around
her bum area yesterday she came down wearing that skirt her grandma said
absolutely not that is too short go change my daughter started protesting
and asked me about it I said that the length was fine but I didn't want her to
go out in something that makes her look like she had an accident my
mother-in-law started shooting daggers at me after I said that my daughter went
upstairs and changed into a pair of shorts while she was up she told me that
it was inappropriate what I let my daughter do and that I was mocking her
by what I said also that I was showing her it is okay to be shallow and buy
into Trends honestly I was not concerned until my husband came home saying he
agreed with his mother and he wasn't a fan of how I handled this I'm very
confused she's wearing normal girl stuff not scandalous it is normal but my
husband said it's stupid that I draw the
line at ugly am I the jerk I don't think he's the jerk I mean literally if your
pants or your skirt or whatnot look like
you have a brown stain in a not pleasant
spot if there is a pleasant spot to have
a brown stain it's probably worth trying to give a heads up about it and I think
they were just doing their job as a parent calling things how they see fit
they disagreed that it was too inappropriate and they said so honestly
personally I don't take much stocking into the grandma saying don't let her
buy into Trends what 14-year-old is not at least a little bit into buying trendy
clothes our next story is am I the jerk warning my friend about my ex who she's
now engaged to I 25-year-old female met Dave 26-year-old male in college we
dated everything was great we got engaged and moved in together within 10
months I realized he had a serious issue with solo time laziness and some other
stuff Sue 25-year-old female has been my
friend for years and was suppos to be my maid of honor she was upset about the
breakup but one day called and said Dave asked her out this was a few months
after the breakup I'm not a gatekeeper I
just said sue he's not a good guy you're like a sister to me and I wouldn't want
my sister involved in the same situation I just got out of I added some
situations I said hey I'm not perfect either but the relationship was far from
balanced and was so toxic the ring or apartment didn't help she's a grown
buttom and I told her to do what she wanted but seriously she said she
understood next week they started dating I just removed myself I had blocked my
ex and saw he sent me a message on socials but blocked and deleted all of
it now a year and a half later side note I caught my ex trying to mess with my
birth control once which made my sex drive SL trust just fall and was a big
domino in our breakup he wants kids yet can't bring himself to shower more than
one in 3 days she called me crying they're now engaged with the ring I gave
back to him and she is pregnant she's at
the end of her line he doesn't help with the house and pays little on bills he
told her his pregnant girlfriend to go donate blood if she was so worried about
money I let her cry for an hour how he's lazy and refuses to work his negative
attitude and how he's sexting Bots online but how it isn't cheating since
it's AI how lazy and crappy he is she even R told stories that I told her of
what he did to me I felt numb to listen to it and just thanked God it wasn't me
this is what I was afraid of this is why I left him at the end I just muttered
Sue I told you this would happen when you started dating not like a sneer jab
just an emotional honest one she hung up she hasn't tried to contact me since am
I the jerk for trying to tell my BFF how my ex was when they started dating and
being unsympathetic now that the same things I told her are coming true I can
definitely understand an OP situation how hearing all of this stuff that you
explicitly warned them about would honestly just warrant you feeling
exhausted it's like Wily Wonka all throughout the movie saying no don't
stop every time a kid goes and runs off doing something stupid the amount of
sympathy you really have is pretty low because you saw that train wreck coming
you even gave them a heads up and you watch them just run right into it I I
just can't blame op our next story is am I the jerk for refusing to let my
stepdad pay for my wedding I 27-year-old
female am engaged to my fiance Raph Raph and I are paying for our wedding
ourselves that was always something we planned on doing and we saved for a
number of years to afford a nice wedding ever since my dad died when I was six I
knew in the future if I got married his dad my granddad would be walking me down
the aisle and dancing with me in Dad's place honestly I think even if Dad was
alive I'd have both of them because Granddad and I always had a special
relationship when I played weddings as a kid I used to have both of them walk me
down the aisle I was upfront about asking Granddad to my mom and stepdad
they didn't take the news great my stepdad wanted to be the one who
performed as Father of the Bride and he told me as much he didn't like that I
was giving him and my mom Focus as a couple but not him as my dad and he said
this was because I arranged for a special dance for the two of them as
well as a special toast to the two of them during the wedding he said after
being in my life since I was seven when I met him and being my stepdad since I
was nine when he and my mom got married officially he feels he's more deserving
of the role I told him I understood he was upset but I'd made my decision he
said it was childish to keep a decision I made as a baby and never opened myself
up to Alternatives when I didn't give in
they got a little huffy and I decided to leave to give them some space then my
stepdad came to me and said I should let
him pay for the wedding this came out of nowhere honestly but I knew instantly
what he was trying to do I knew that if I took his money I wouldn't be able to
say no to him it would be entitled as heck to let him pay but not give him the
role he wants and the jobs he wants to do it also wouldn't have felt right to
me anyway because I never went to him for anything so it would have felt like
I was taking advantage and he's never going to be my my dad he can't buy that
for me so I stuck to my convictions and I said thanks for offering but we're
good we have the money he went on a long rant about how traditionally the Father
of the Bride always pays for the wedding and how tradition is important and he
said it was bad luck to pay for your own
wedding I told him we were a more modern
couple and had chosen to pay for our own wedding with no Financial contributions
from anyone he was angry and he left ever since he and my mom has said I
disrespect Ed him immensely by denying him the right to pay mom brought up how
he comes from a very traditional and conservative family and that it's
shameful for him not to be paying for everything she told me he'd been looking
forward to paying for my special day and I threw his more than generous offer in
his face my stepdad told me I'd ruin the whole wedding for him now also I don't
want both Granddad and stepdad to do the
walk and dance am I the jerk honestly it might break their heart but Opie's not
the jerk here they have every right to pick who they want to walk them down the
aisle or if they wanted to walk down the aisle themselves they have every right
to do that and 100% I agree with OP that
I get the vibe that his offer to pay for
the whole thing was definitely kind of a
bribe to give him the role that he wants our next story is am I the jerk for
telling my sister about my partner's plastic surgery my girlfriend and I
moved to Europe a few years ago and she ended up getting a lot of plastic
surgery while we were out there that I begged her not to get she got a blop
plasty a nose job fillers a chin surgery and I don't even know what else I hate
to say it but it decreased her attractiveness don't get me wrong she's
still beautiful but not nearly as gorgeous as what she used to look like
it also just makes me sad that she removed all the features that I loved on
her face it's also sad that people think these are features they need to remove
she looks hollowed out and tired but she doesn't want to admit she got plastic
surgery we're back home from Europe and people started commenting on her looks
at dinner one of her friends just straight out asked if she got something
done and she said no she said it was just aging of course she was going to
look different she's 27 Etc I was shocked I couldn't even believe she
could play that card when the results are so dramatic it's so obvious that she
was lying but no one called her out on it my sister's been staying at my
parents house because I'm here and she's been weirdly obsessed with her looks
since that dinner she's only 24 and she's truly a baby 24 seems so young now
or at least she makes it seem very young she admitted to me that seeing my
girlfriend brought up feelings of anxiety towards aging she said she
didn't know people could change so much and it was stressing her out she started
calling me and freaking out about a line she found on her forehead which was
hardly noticeable at all she isn't a person that's super fixated on her looks
normally at least so it surprised me but she was buying a lot of anti-aging skin
care and applying it multiple times a day I told her she was fine all she had
to do was moisturize and wear sunscreen I mean I look the same as I did at 24
but she wasn't buying it and it was obvious why it hurt me so much to see
her like that she kept putting retinol on her face and would ask me daily if I
see lines going away when there were no lines in the first place after a while
of her spiraling one day I finally broke down and said dude you're freaking out
about aging because of my girlfriend chill out she got plastic surgery you
don't just randomly start to have totally different features after you hit
25 you're going to look exactly how you look now at 27 relax she is way too
young to be hyper fixating on her looks and worrying about aging she has an
obsessive personality sometimes and gets fixated on things probably the anxiety
disorder so just telling her that made her drop the subject thank God I told
her weeks ago but last week my girlfriend asked if I told anyone about
her plastic surgery I admitted I did tell my sister because I didn't want to
lie about it and she's very mad at me was I wrong to tell her my girlfriend
didn't outright say not to tell people but it was obvious she wanted me to lie
for her and expected me to do that I don't know I mean if somebody is being
secretive about that or doesn't want to be forward or forthcoming I mean
understandably they're going to get upset I think what Opie was talking
about was very very truthful though and I don't think they meant it in any way
to demean their partner maybe if their partner clearly wanted it to be
something where they just didn't want it talked about maybe they shouldn't have
but you're trying to quell the worries of somebody who's unreasonably worried
about their entire face changing over a matter of 2 years I get where op is
coming from our next story is am I the jerk for telling my son that he's not
coming on vacation because he didn't check his emails I'm planning a family
Thanksgiving vacation and a really good deal came up to go to the Cook Islands I
emailed my son 20-year-old olly on Friday and called Sunday to see if he
wanted to go he's in college and I'm not wasting money on a ticket if he didn't
want to go I needed to know by today because I have to get visas for my 16 11
and 8-year-old Sons well he didn't so I bought the package just now he texted me
saying he wanted to go I said too late already bought the tickets next time
check your email or answer your freaking
phone he said most people communicate on text I said well most people don't get
to go to the Cook Islands now his mom my ex is trying to tell me that he's gen Z
and text is their primary communication format had I texted him then he would
have responded I said I don't care I'm well in my 40s and check my all of my
communication formats because I don't want to miss anything 100% you should
have texted him 100% almost almost anybody these days communicates
primarily by text I don't know if it's a shock or a revelation to op who's in
their 40s and checks all of their communication formats but I'm quite
impressed regularly by how 60 plus something year old people are regularly
texting I have relatives who are almost in their 70s who know how to voice to
text pretty darn efficiently I don't know about emails admittedly I don't
check it right away either especially if it's not like a business email or
anything and phone calls in 2023 I don't
think are a reliable format to just call once maybe twice and just leave it at
that did they leave a voicemail too I don't know if everybody's phone's like
mine but if I get a voicemail there is a
persistent notification until I check it and I don't mean to babble on too much
but bottom line you should have made sure you got a yes or a no before you
just settled on it I think that by far makes them the jerk I mean what if they
were incapacitated or something our next story is am I the jerk for telling my
mother-in in-law she can no longer have contact with my son I'm a single mom
female 42 of four ardan female 13 briany
female 11 Robin male 10 and Kaa female 7
all of us except Robin are deaf with ASL is our first language ardan and Brian's
dad male 46 left when the girls were 4 and two and I met ka's dad Alex male 43
shortly after he had just come into custody of his nephew Robin Robin's biom
mom Leila female 47 gave Robin up to focus on recovering from her long-term
drug addiction Robin is fully aware of who is biom mom is but considers Alex to
be his dad and has called me his mom since the age of two or 3ish Leila has
told me in the past how grateful she is for me feeling that role and that she
feels more like Robin's Aunt than his mom all this to say when Alex was
diagnosed with cancer 2 years ago it was pretty clear to all of us that I would
continue to raise Robin as my son after Alex's death Alex passed away in June
and ever since his mom has been causing problems while she's never been
outwardly hostile towards me or my children she often complains about our
use of ASL most of the family learned at least some Basics to support
communication but mother-in-law insisted that she was too old and couldn't do it
and has made comments in the past about my inability as a mother due to my
deafness my older girls are practically nonexistent to her and she often for
gets that Kayla is her grandchild too and focuses solely on Robin
mother-in-law spent most of the funeral telling people that I was unfit and
trying to steal Robin away from his real family it was hurtful to say the least
and made me uncomfortable welcoming mother-in-law into my home after that
but I convinced myself that it was for the benefit of the kids they've just
lost their dad I didn't want to take away a grandparent too last Saturday
Robin came back from an outing with mother-in-law looking miserable he
wouldn't talk to anyone about what had happened and spent the rest of the
weekend shut away in his room I tried to ask mother-in-law what was going on but
she didn't answer any of my messages finally Robin broke down in tears asking
me if Grandma was really going to take him away it turns out that mother-in-law
has been repeatedly telling Robin that she's going to take him away from us
even telling him she'll call CPS on me to have the kids removed on Saturday
mother-in-law had gone even even further saying she could just drive away with
him and he'd never have to see us again I immediately sent mother-in-law a
message informing her that she was no longer welcome in my home or near any of
the kids and let Lea know what was going on and that she was still welcome to
visit or have Robin to stay if mother-in-law was nowhere nearby my
phone has been blowing up ever since with people asking me to reconsider I
haven't said anything about what happened so I can only assume
mother-in-law is spreading false information but all the negative
responses are making me doubt if I'm actually in the right here I don't think
GOP is the jerk at all and I agree that she probably should not be able to be in
proximity to this kid it's just not okay our next story is am I the jerk for
telling my daughter not to spend money on her classroom because it makes the
rest of us look bad I'm a first grade teacher and my daughter is a preschool
teacher she's a second-year teacher she was a teaching assistant for a year
while she got the credits required to teach her school opened a second
location with one classroom and she currently runs the location from 12: to
6:30 every day when she started working at the school I noticed she was running
to the Dollar Tree or Walmart to grab little things for her classroom like
hair ties stickers beads and string she said she didn't mind because it was all
cheap and made her job easier then when she got her own classroom she really
started looking on next door and buy nothing and shopping for her classroom
more often she got 24 outfits to store in her class three in each size from 2
to five for boys and girls in case the parents forget to send new clothes she
has a box of pull-ups in case a kid has an accident and doesn't have a spare
pair of underwear she has extra snacks she has extra jackets and socks a pack
of Combs and brushes extra nap beding and bins of what she calls stalling
activities easy things she can pull out when she needs to stall she even has
Halloween costumes and in case one of her students doesn't have one and she
gives away the blankets and jackets if she thinks a student needs them I told
her that all of this is excessive and she should leave it up to the owner of
the school to get these things she said the owner says these things aren't
necessary but they don't cost much and they make her classroom run smoother I
told her if that the owner says it's unnecessary don't get these things and
let her see how the class runs without them I told her I don't spend any money
on my classroom and that if my principal isn't willing to buy it the kids don't
need it she says it's different because I work at a 30,000 plus per year private
school and she teaches in a more lower income Community but I still told her
it's not her responsibility I also told her that her buying stuff for her
classroom makes all of us that don't look bad but she doesn't care she's
upset with me for being pushy but I'm just doing what's best for her am I the
jerk honestly my question is how big is this classroom that she has the storage
for all of this stuff or or does she just like keep most of it in her car all
day or something I do think to some degree they may be overp purchasing like
24 outfits or whatnot I mean I guess if you have it you have it and it'll last
multiple years probably hopefully I think discouraging this is definitely a
bad idea though and I do think op is the jerk all I can say is especially if
you're in a lowincome situation going to school and having a teacher that shows
they care so much that they're willing to give you blankets and jackets and
things of that sort it isn't about making other teachers look bad it's
about trying to make the lives of these low income kids better and it's sad to
see op get misguided about it like that our next story is am I the jerk for
telling my daughter-in-law she wasn't invited due to her weight we've done
plenty of things that are not physically
taxing with her but even the small stuff she ends up on a bench half the day we
went to a small Mall half the day on the
bench it was window shopping she's obese her ankles are swollen from her weight
the connection between her weight and not walking far without a break is very
obvious I'll try to keep this short I have three girls and we like to do girl
trips for the day my son got married to a girl named Beth now before her first
kids she was average weight and after it got a lot worse her only kid is 8 years
old at this point and she hasn't lost the weight it's bad enough that she
needs constant breakes walking I used to like her and now I don't due to how she
acts everywhere we go with her it is constant complaining that she is tired
the last girl's trip to the mall was spent sitting on a bench half the day
since she needed constant break if you try to leave she'll go on about
abandoning her it's annoying I invited the girls to go to a farm for pumpkin
patch and pick some apples it has big Orchards and a ton of walking we went it
was a great time and some pictures went on Facebook I got a call from Beth
asking why she wasn't invited I saying it was just a family trip and she
accused me of lying I had enough and I told her the truth I told her she wasn't
invited due to her weight that she forces us to stop all the time and it
ruins the trips most days since we don't
get to do half the stuff she called me a jerk and hung up I'm getting text from
my mom saying to apologize but the girls are on my side and are sick of having
trips ruined since we have to wait for her all the time I don't think op is the
jerk but but they might have gone about this in the wrong way I feel like op
instead of saying you weren't invited due to your weight I mean I get they
were frustrated but maybe it should have
been phrased more in a way that was like we want you to be there but with how
often you have breaks and insist we wait
we can't do half of the stuff we want to do I mean it's just not realistic to
invite somebody along to everything that you're going out to do when said person
has to stop every 3 to 5 minutes it's like instead of taking the wide open
Scenic back road that you want you willingly Drive in the traffic jam this
next story is am I the jerk for asking an immigrant what country she was from
and being racist I 31-year-old male recently met Cassandra 30-year-old
female through a mutual friend of mine she's working at the same company as my
friend is and had moved to the US from another place while talking we started
to hit it off and then I eventually asked her what country she was from she
looked offended and said she cannot answer that question I asked asked her
why and then joked about whether she doesn't know the answer to the question
she looked offended and said it was racist of me to ask for her home country
that it makes her uncomfortable as a newcomer to America if I ask her such
questions I told her she was being ridiculous over the toop over it and
that it was a perfectly harmless question it resulted in her saying she
doesn't want to talk to me anymore and distanced herself for me my friends say
it was rude of me but I don't understand
what I had done wrong but I worry that I
did offend her and was out of order am I
the jerk I don't think gopi's the jerk I
don't think there's anything necessarily wrong or inherently racist about asking
where somebody's from especially when you were given context that this person
moved from another country what probably makes Opie The Jerk here though is when
it made them uncomfortable for whatever reason Opie wasn't able to back off of
it and instead just kept pushing about it I just strongly disagree that there's
a racist intent here our next story is am I the jerk for telling my sister her
childhood is the reason she's not always included in things I'm 18-year-old
female my older sister is 26 we're half sisters as we share the same Dad we're
the only kids to our dad our dad and her mom were once married I wasn't born
obviously and when they divorced my sister lived with her mom 99% of the
time she grew up 4 hours away from us I only saw her a week out of the Year
growing up she would attend some holidays with our dad side of the family
once she graduated high school 9 years ago she lived with our dad and I was
seeing her all the time that's when we built our relationship my mom and dad
live in the same city so I've always lived 50/50 with my parents so we have
an aunt and uncle on our side that I basically grew up with ever since I was
six I've been staying Summers with them out of state up until this year they
also have a son I'm two years apart from
they tried to have my sister for Summers when she was a child but because of
whatever she she never got to this past 9 years my sister is finally around
enough just like I've been my whole life I graduated this year and had a party
our dad's side attended my uncle our dad's brother booked a trip for us to go
to Hawaii his family and me and I didn't
know my sister didn't know I didn't want to bring it up at all when our cousin
brought it up at my party my sister asked out loud you guys are going to
Hawaii and it became awkward as heck our uncle and Aunt kind of rushed in a room
and I just quickly said yeah and walked away from the topic I saw my aunt take
her in a room to talk to her I didn't know what they talked about nor did I
ask until my sister reached out to me yesterday basically she said she's had
time to think about that day and said our aunt told her that she's an
afterthought because they didn't want to build a relationship with her when she
was young and because of lost time things are kind of the way they are my
sister said to our aunt that since she she's been around the family more now
it's ridiculous she's excluded over such
a thing she had no control over she told me that she doesn't appreciate them
playing favorites and excluding her and making excuses for it also that she
didn't care about not going to Hawaii it's the point when they claim they wish
they were closer to her she said that they're potentially putting a wedge
between us by doing things like this and
that as her sister I should know how she feels I told her this had nothing thing
to do with me and that our Aunt has a point with her childhood being the
biggest reason things are the way they are I also told her she was wrong for
thinking our aunt was playing favoritism she told me it's a shame I don't see an
issue with this and that she looks at me different for siding with my aunt which
I'm not even doing she said she clearly can't talk to me about how she feels and
it's crazy how I'm siding with someone that really hurt her h just drama am I
the jerk so what I'm gathering from this is that for a long time they weren't
allowed to be a part of things and now that they are able to they just get
ignored how is that not in itself making op the jerk I mean blowing off them
being upset about this doesn't seem to make much sense when you realize she
didn't have a choice all those years it's not like she chose not to go it's
not like she was happy and smiling to not participate in the family thing 100%
it's weird that op doesn't see the problem when they say we want to be
closer to you also we're going to Hawaii and not telling you anything about it I
mean I feel bad for her she's been held out and now she's being left out because
she was being held out but with that being said that's all the time we have
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what is the quickest way you've seen someone mess their life up Story one the
girl from my school posted a video on Facebook of her doing vastly
inappropriate things with a dog apparently she'd been forced into it by
an uncle it was deleted the day was posted but everyone saw it and she now
goes by a new name also a guy from school in 19 attacked a 13 year old boy
in a cemetery over a girl a far away from where I lived the guy was built
like a tank and a bully and to tell you the truth had always thought he had a
violent Vibe she's changed her name and moved somewhere else I didn't mean she
got a nickname that she goes by but I bet she did have a lot of nicknames also
this happened in Carlisle UK story two not me but a friend who was an
AP Cam and they were working with some sodium something and his classmates
snorted it as a joke he was rushed to the ER and now his risk for nasal and
lung cancer is through the roof his predicted lifespan is like mid-30s maybe
early 40s now and it was all for stupid reference
story 3. I worked in medical in a County Jail there was a 27 year old pharmacist
who had just been sentenced to prison for taking someone's life on his third
DUI the guy was handsome and soft-spoken he knew he wasn't going to make it in
prison he got two years which is the minimum for a third DUI in Texas I don't
know how long he served because this was
10 years ago but yes I agree it is about Connections you should have received a
longer sentence the family of the victim does not get their loved one back when
he's released from prison story for I had a friend years back I
was kind of an odd guy but he had a good heart anyway one day I was hanging out
with him and a few other friends and he told us he was going to get a tattoo
tomorrow and had this super cool idea but he wouldn't tell us what it was
because he wanted it to be a surprise Story five that was part of a group of
kids from a neighborhood that got a full
ride scholarship to college free MacBook Pros and room and board paid for four
years needless to say crazy opportunity right well during the summer meet up
right before we all went off to our separate colleges three members of the
group went across the street and started smoking a joints and were immediately
caught by the admission they had to call their parents that day and tell them
they lost everything in a couple of minutes story sticks saw a guy slide down a
stair rail and fall backward 12 feet onto a concrete floor passed away at the
hospital less than 24 hours later from college student to dust in less than a
day pretty quick story seven back a few years ago this
idiot I know gave up a good home a steady job and some of his closest
friendships all to go move to another state with a girl he had known for all
of two months she left him a month and a half later or so and after he went
crying home to his parents he had trouble getting a good job and was
hospitalized for a bit for trying to take his own life man was I back then
luckily it all worked out in the end and I'm quite happy now what a twist
story eight there was this kid in my high school JROTC program who was at the
top of his class super smart and one of those people you know would succeed in
anything they wanted well when it came time to choose the leadership for the
following year the teachers overlooked him and didn't choose him for a high
position in the program after that he started doing illegal substances
skipping class and his grades went down quickly he ended up not graduating high
school going to jail a couple of times and it's sad because he was someone that
I looked up to since he was older than me
story nine I used to work part-time in a betting shop which was conveniently
located right next to a cash point we didn't take cards one of our regular
customers came in and put 200 pounds into the fobt machine to play the slots
okay nothing new but then 30 minutes down the line and 5 000 pounds later she
breaks down crying and begs us to give her the money back as it was all she had
left from her recently deceased mother storytelling when I was in college in
the early 2000s the sophomore drove his car into a bunch of kids out partying on
a Saturday a block and a half from where
I was living He was going 60 to 70 miles
per hour swiping cars parked in the side of the road before he hit the crowd
taking the lives of four people he got out screaming nonsense before being
tackled was under the influence last I heard he was in a mental facility
story 11. one of my friends went from being moderately functional to losing any
custody of his daughter and bouncing in and out of rehab within like six months
two years later he has a wanted poster with his face all over it in Tennessee
story 12. we were about 17 and me and my
friends went to a beach house for summer well there was a cliff not so big one
should be around five meters high and one of my friends decided to run and
jump without checking How deep the sea was long story short it had a lot of
rocks and he broke his back he didn't mess up his life but lost both his legs
story 13 the course of a weekend met a girl at a party on Friday but end his
resignation at work and sent an email to his advisor he was giving up his grad
program on Saturday and moved across the continent with a girl he met by Monday
morning story 14 at a party with a friend I didn't know her friends well someone
offered us hard substances but I wanted to leave she on the other hand has a
crush on the guy and wants to stay she assures me she isn't interested in
trying it I try to talk her out of it and to just leave with me but no plus
I'm starting to get Flack for being lame
and that I wanted out the last thing she
said to me before I left was you're such a drag and a terrible friend I told her
if we're in for her and my safety made me a drag and a bad friend that was okay
with it she passed away that night so did he patch was laced with fentanyl
story 15 a beautiful jaw-dropping really cousin of mine went from being a
successful social worker with a masters from UK a beautiful family and a
gorgeous home to a single jobless act with both of her children in the same
system she worked for got her teeth ruined in record time
story 16 when I was in college I had a job at a local supermarket one of my
colleagues left at the beginning of summer as she was headed to UNI in the
Autumn next thing I know she's in the paper is because she was driving a car
while someone was car surfing on it and the guy died saw her in the shop a
couple of weeks after it happened she looked like a mess I believe she went to
prison but not sure how long story 17 not me but my dad when he was
at College one of his friends snapped after an argument with his mother and
took her life as well as involving his two little cousins who his mom was
babysitting this was 38 years ago and he's still in prison
story 18 friend head dived off a fraternity balcony while drunk into a
parking lot he now has half a brain in his wheelchair bound
story 19 so not so much bad as it was sad this happened around
2006-2008 can't remember exactly when because I was about 11 at the time I had
a friend in elementary school in middle school that lived within two miles from
me and a pharmacy between our houses her
12 year old sister nine-year-old brother and her mother 40ish were at the
pharmacy picking up a few things and were walking to their car in the parking
lot apparently as they were walking the mother pushed both my friend and a
brother away from her my friend hit her head on the sidewalk and woke up to her
brother screaming and crying what happened was that as they were walking
the mother noticed a car that was slamming on the gas while trying to back
out of a parking spot the car was heading straight towards them and the
mother pushed the kids out of the way car hit the mother and she passed away
the little brother saw the whole thing happen has been struggling with
depression and traumatic PTSD since my friend got a concussion from the
incident lost her mother and has never been the same sad thing is that the
driver wasn't drunk or high or anything it was a tiny little 80 year old lady
that wasn't used to driving the car and pressed too hard on the gas pedal don't
exactly know what happened when the police got involved my friend has been
messed up ever since story 20 at a bachelor party in Vegas
doing a club tour we would always set a time to meet back at the limo before
going to the next one one dude fell in love and went into the VIP room with a
dancer told him we were leaving after staying an extra 30 minutes he waved a
son and we left the next morning we went back after he didn't show up at the
hotel room he was being detained by dancers for owing them 9k in dances but
had maxed out all his cars and withdrew all his cash on Dances the money was
supposed to pay for his upcoming honeymoon story 21 a fourth year
neurology resident got fired for attacking an Uber driver she went
through four years of college four years of medical school was about to finish
her fourth and last year of residency acquired hundreds of thousands of
dollars of data along the way and blew it all after she attacked somebody
story 22 Justine Saco the lady that tweeted going to Africa hope I don't get
AIDS just kidding I'm white and then got on an airplane
story 23 knew a guy in high school that was a computer whiz probably could have
gotten any computer science related job he wanted out of college he decided to
run off with a 14 year old boy he met online and was caught recently it was a
federal investigation the guy I knew was 20 when he ran away with a 14 year old
story 24 DUI had a friend in high school who was serving life sense for driving
into two other friends of mine he had a full scholarship to a four-year
University for football story25 watching a friend sign up for
620 car payments over a 72 month loan not necessarily mess their life but
definitely hasn't felt comfortable for the last two and a half years
story 26. this happened in a two-week period a friend of mine lost his kitchen
job due to layoffs looked in the paper for a job he could get quickly so he can
make his bills rent Etc finds a listing for a company looking for a driver and
delivery person ASAP he has a car so he figures it would be a good quick fix
calls and gets the job over the phone and is told he starts the next evening
gets a company cell phone he does his first pickup turns out it's an escort
agency and is picking up and dropping off the talent does this for a few
nights and starts getting to know the girls turns out they're all illegal
substances big surprise they get the idea in his head that he's doing all the
groundwork so he might as well post the ads himself and get his own phone and
they'll work for him so we're about a week into this adventure and he's gone
from a line cook to pimp fast forward a couple of days into pimping and he comes
to the conclusion that all these girls spend their money on are substances so
why not cut out the middleman and start paying them what they want he doesn't
know where to get them but his kitchen buddies can cook him up gets a bag of
heavy substances and Googles how to make it yes really lips up a batch of these
and then is concerned that maybe he didn't make it correctly so logically he
should try it first before giving it to his ladies 36-hour binge later he's
hugged and proceeds to sell off everything including the car and phone
in the next few days a drop by his place
to hang out around day 10. I had no idea any of this was going on he meets me at
the door he explains what he's been up to for the past few days and says he
doesn't want me there unless I'd like to pay and hook up with one of the escorts
in the living room Strangely I declined last time I saw him yelling at people
for change in a downtown Street 14 days in his entire life turned to garbage you
know moral judgments aside I must admit I am impressed by his entrepreneurial
Spirit I'm not even joking that kind of drive would have served him well in a
legitimate job story 27 I was the cashier for a kid in
my town who was a nasty pitcher from an early age at 16 or 17 he could throw 90
miles per hour fastballs raking balls whatever it was a pain to catch and had
to keep a wet sponge inside my meds in case I caught one directly in the Palm
he was drafted 12th overall by the Marlins and received a 1.8 million
dollar signing bonus that he got before he even went to spring training ended up
blowing over a million and a half on substances and partying developed a
progressively battered lost his ability to play lost his spot on the team and is
shot in many millions of dollars it wasn't exactly overnight but the dude
wasted a mil and a half plus everything he would have gone had he continued his
upward trajectory and it all happened in about eight months
story 28 I had the pleasure of meeting the kindest person I've ever met he came
from a really snobby and popular family but he was friends with literally
everyone it would hang out with the outcasts it would actually come over if
he posted online about how he were lonely and he didn't care at all about
high school politics I met him once and he made a significant impact on my life
it was just genuine about being fair and nice to everyone he met he had every
chance to be a jerk given that he was smart good-looking and came from a
wealthy family but nope he gave off this
huge sense of Peace when you were around him if I had to describe the second
coming of Jesus it was him a year after meeting him he ends up missing for three
days eventually the story unfolds that he was at a party the night he went
missing but he was the deity for everyone so it was odd that he just
suddenly left before anyone else did three days later my brother finds him on
an Old Logging Road in his pickup with a gunshot wound he had apparently taken
shrooms and wanted to meet God his family found his Bible and it was filled
with highlighted passages about heaven and the Soul finding peace with Jesus
I'm guessing that the church he went to had a lot to do with it it was the kind
where everyone affluent and popular goes to but given that they they were
disgusting people they didn't seem to practice what they preached the evil
goes to hell but not us because we are here on Sunday at his funeral the pastor
had the gall to say he went to hell since he committed a sin by taking his
own life that kind of church I really miss you Stevie thank you for showing me
the single bit of kindness I ever found in that town
story 29 took out 35 000 credit card debt for online pay the interest by
borrowing from a Chicago gang not tell his wife is bisexual before she finds it
take out a big insurance policy on her while she's in Iraq thinking something
tragic will happen to her and he'll have one million dollars to pay the card in
the gang and Live Well she remained unharmed in Iraq so he tries to strangle
her while she's cooking dinner he injures her hand but she chokes him out
and escapes he tries to fight the police then tries to punch the judges got two
days for that but his mama knows the judges so the attempted murder as well
as the domestic violence and the battery charges were dropped he hides in the
woods to avoid the process server for the divorce threatens in writing to kill
the now ex-wife's EXO and chaplain except it's war time so to throw him in
the brig for military charges instead of Civilian charges so mama can't buy him
free and in the brig he brags to everyone about how he tried to kill a
sailor by flooding a ship's compartment years ago so he gets charged with one
sabotage two attempted murders and all sorts of lesser charges got a
dishonorable discharge and just got out 14 years later he managed all of this in
just four months source I'm the ex-wife story 30. my cousin's husband got into a
drunk and fight outside the bar and punched the other guy pretty hard other
guy fell hit his head in the curb and cousin's husband is now in jail she took
their kids and got remarried what makes it even worse is that the new husband is
a total so not only did those kids lose their
dad they're now stuck with the book for a stepdad story 31 huffing paint my
college buddy was an affable Stoner type who like psychedelics and drinking he
was so broke he got into huffing pain over the summer he passed out with a
plastic bag full of spray paint over his
face and ended up depriving his brain of
oxygen he's now mentally disabled due to
brain damage can no longer perform basic life tasks like tying his own shoes
story 32 went to school with a kid who threw a rock off an overpass and caught
the dude whole life down the drain at that point made international news this
was in Flint Michigan we saw him about a
week later he had tattooed three-fourths of his face green like no design or
anything just solid Dark Forest Green basically he just left the top right
quarter of his face normal and the rest was all green he had been immediately
fired from his job the day after getting
the tattoo I kind of lost touch with him shortly after that since he moved to
another city I'd heard he wound up living in his car
story 33 a friend of mine took out a loan for 250 000 I promise I'm not
exaggerating this number to pay for her dream wedding to guy she had known for
three months they got divorced after less than a year and she's still in debt
from it I would love to be a wedding guest and eat my gold-covered popcorn as
that implodes story 34 friend with a full ride
scholarship to a pretty good school for baseball had too much to drink before
prom there was a scuffle and the police were called they showed up one of them
grabbed him by the shoulder not realizing it was a cop and already being
on edge she swung around and rocked the guy hardest I've ever seen someone get
hit lost a scholarship and spent some time in jail never really recovered
sincerely a really nice guy with a bit of a drinking problem super sad to see
story 35 very weird one here without going into too much detail this was a
single dad to run a youth club the other
staff tried to hush this up but his kids were integrated into the main social
group here so it got out pretty quickly he was fairly religious adamant that his
15 year old daughter was not to have a boyfriend and never let her have boys
over even as friends she of course had a boyfriend who came over during the gap
between the end of school and when he got home from work he suspected it but
could improve it so he installed the webcam in her bedroom of course he
caught her doing the deed with a guy on film downloaded it to his computer to
show his daughter his proof so he could discipline her she obviously immediately
freaks out calls her mom who calls the police social workers arrive guy gets
done for CP currently going through the court system has been forced to leave
the youth club and hasn't seen his kids for almost a year the brother revealed
all of this to one of his friends you know how kids are word spread poor guy
was always very odd I would say on the Spectrum definitely I genuinely believe
he didn't realize what he had done he just viewed it as parenting lost his
kids his job his social life to the staff at the youth club the respect of
the community and probably is freedom all in one stupid mistake
story 36 a guy I know and I went to a casino for fun ones I lost about 20 on a
slot and fifty dollars in drank some Buffet but that guy I knew lost a
thousand and two hundred fifty before I kind of stopped him after a year he lost
everything including his family because of gambling
I still regret bringing him to a casino from time to time
story 37 so not a permanent pickup but I've had four friends ruin their life
over World of Warcraft kind of a happy ending I guess four very close friends
of mine all graduated high school at the same time they all went to college I
joined the Marine Corps we were all nerds and were all familiar with MMOs
and blizzard World of Warcraft had really started getting hot but there was
just no freaking way I could play it but they all started this was 2006-ish last
four to eight years I'd finished my enlistment and went to college me and
two of those guys were graduating college together with their Bachelors
another one never went back and the fourth one had to join the Navy because
he failed so many classes that his debt was astronomical and he couldn't get
back into school the culprit World of Warcraft these guys were putting in 12
hours a day for years in that game they all failed all dropped out all had to
pick up the pieces years later after they got their lives back on track
they're all doing well now none of us myself included will touch MMORPGs
seriously if you see your life headed down the drain because of an MMO make
changes these guys lost four years of their lives over essentially nothing
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hello everyone my name is Reid and welcome to story time today we are gonna
be reading some malicious compliance story so sit back relax and enjoy dealt
with a lying landlord by threatening to run up their bills
I had a landlord in the past who slipped a 90-day notice requirement into the
rental contract after I had signed it I was house hunting so at the end of my
lease I asked to go to a month-to-month lease to make it easier to leave when
the time came landlord and I agreed on a higher monthly price to compensate them
for the lack of security and I signed the contract at the office of a business
they also owned downstairs landlord wasn't actually present but one of their
employees handled it so a contract is signed and they go to make a copy for my
records but are having an issue with the
copier after a few minutes they asked if they can text me when they get it to
work I naively agree and head upstairs 30 minutes or so later they text me
saying they got the copier to work and I come pick up my copy I didn't think to
double-check everything at the time so for the next few months I just pay my
monthly rent while I look for a home finally found the right place and the
closing date was about four weeks out so I immediately notified my landlord that
I would be leaving on said date landlord responds that it's nice I found a home
but I would be responsible for the next two months rent after that as well
due to the 90-day notification requirement in the contract I'm totally
confused so I go check my copy of the contract and sure enough there is a
stipulation in there about that I also noticed that my initials from the top
and bottom of each page verifying that I have read that page have somehow
mysteriously shifted to being doubled up at the top of the page after the
stipulation with none of the bottom of that actual page this was because they
had inserted two lines of text detailing
the 90-day reporting requirement after I had already signed the paperwork they
didn't notice the formatting error it created which was a dead giveaway of
what was going on I informed the landlord of this and notifying him that
this is not a legally binding contract due to this issue and state that I will
not be paying any further rent be this month and expect my deposit back
without penalty unfortunately he persists with stating that this is a
legally binding contract and he will pursue it in court in addition to
withholding my deposit if I fail to pay bla bla bla bla bla I know I am legally
in the right but I don't want to have to deal with courts to settle it as that
takes forever so I come up with an alternative plan
the one thing he hadn't thought about was the fact that the contract included
all utilities as the unit didn't have separate meters and did not have any
language for bidding excess use of them it just so happened to be a particularly
cold winter so I informed my landlord that if he wanted to persist with his
demands I would be inclined to leave all of the windows open
crank the heat as high as it would go open the refrigerator door run the water
24/7 etc and if he entered the apartment without my permission attorney any of
these items off I would report him to the police I got confirmation that he
would not pursue the extra month's rent or security deposit within 20 minutes
yikes I have definitely learned a lesson
from this story and that is to not trust anyone whatsoever especially when it
comes to contracts I'm gonna be more diligent in my future experiences with
contracts that's for sure you just said you wanted it moved he didn't say when
so a little background my husband and I currently live with our in-laws we do
pay and help out with things so we're not freeloaders here currently we're
packing for a move which is coming up in just under two weeks
mother-in-law decided to host a party at the house even though we're currently
working in several different rooms the room that is causing the issue is the
dining room the food for the party is pizza which does not require the dining
room at all edit we're moving in less than two weeks she's been really against
it and has made a lot of things difficult constantly arguing and trying
to make us change our plans to accommodate her it's been frustrating
and tiresome to deal with sooo last night we are watching a movie it ended
around p.m. husband and I go into the kitchen to clean up we cook dinner
and refresh our drinks before bed mother-in-law follows into the kitchen
and immediately starts mother-in-law you need to move everything out of the
dining room I want to clean this weekend I won't have time next weekend that's
when the party is me does it have to be this weekend we can clean it up a little
later this week and then we have room to move the boxes upstairs now I'm working
I won't have time it has to be this weekend okay but there are three other
people in the house why does it have to be you this weekend you can do the
living room and we can clean the dining room it's just wiping the table and
vacuuming we can do that after we make room for the boxes you mean it's not
going to be cleaned you can't just leave your stuff out it's just too like
Wednesday or Thursday until we have more room for the boxes it'll still be clean
it basically just continued on like that until I told her that in two weeks she
wouldn't have to deal with our stuff ever again to which she replied that
there was a party in a week so it still had to be moved at this point
father-in-law told her to shut up because I guess he was tired of her
arguing and recognized that she was getting on my last nerve
fast forward to this Saturday morning I wake up around 6:00 a.m. every day I
waited until about 9:00 a.m. then came downstairs and began loudly packing the
dining-room and moving our stuff around mother-in-law sleeps in and doesn't get
up until well after noon on the weekends so my packing woke her up and she came
out to stare at me with this priceless angry expression I just smiled and
continued marching up and down the stairs with my boxes once she realized I
was not planning to stop she got up for the day that of course is when I went
and hit something else you insisted that
I move my stuff you just didn't say when I had to move it oh man if you use wake
up at 6:00 a.m. Opie that's when you should have done it cuz that would have
been priceless how I got a teacher to write 100 lines for me okay quick
preface I'm in my 30s I went to high school in the 90s and schools had a very
different climate back then I recently recalled this and thought I'd share it
to hopefully give a few other people a laugh realize it fit better here than
are slash school stories right after posting it there
oh well quick background info I was in special ed not from any disability but
due to extreme hyperactivity and I mean extreme though I was pretty much over
the hyperactivity by the time I hit high school it's not easy to get out of
special ed by this point though I was in 100% regular classes and just had one
class a day instead of a study hall with a special ed teacher who was basically
there to help me if I needed help with any of my schoolwork because I was in
special ed I had what was called an IEP no idea what the acronym is for which
was basically just a list of learning aids I could use if I needed them things
like extended time on tests I never actually used any of them but I always
had the option one day another kid did something I got blamed in was sent to
detention now like I said I was a hyperactive kid and ended up getting
detention in school a lot but I was also very headstrong if I felt that I had
done something wrong I'd accept whatever
punishment without complaint which to be fair happened pretty
frequently but if I felt I was being punished unjustly well I usually ended
up raising enough stink to warrant a real punishment anyways so I get in
detention with a teacher I'd never seen before and for the first time in my life
I had a teacher to tell me to write lines a punishment which I thought had
died with the seventies remember those aides I had access to but
never actually used so I say okay I just need to use computer transcription from
my IEP so I'll do the lines on the computer I proceeded to type out the
line once copy and paste it 100 times look over at the teacher and say done I
was a fast typer back then 130 words per minute fast you'd be surprised what
hyperactivity can be channeled into so this was all about 20 seconds after I
sat down at the computer teacher wasn't exactly happy with that refused to
accept it and told me I'd have to do it by hand she wouldn't let me use the
computer for this now understand a teacher could decide not to accept one
item from an IEP for a given assignment within reason and with cause but they
cannot by law deny multiple things meant to address the same issue in my case I
had okay have barely legible handwriting
so I had multiple options to allow me to not handwrite my assignments if
requested they have to make accommodations for said aides me okay
I'll use dictation from my IEP then teacher meaning I save the line verbally
and a staff member writes it down for me and it looks like you're the only staff
member here and that's how I got a teacher to write 100 lines for me I
actually have to give it to her for sticking it out and writing all 100
lines rather than dropping the assignment entirely I totally understand
what he was going through whenever I got
blamed for anything that I did not do oh I threw a fit about it and I still do
actually just know Mom punishments and my solutions this is a series of short
stories looks like we got three here folks buckle down for some short stories
number 1 find your own way home has happened quite a lot when I was in high
school I would stay after school to try to get into extracurricular activities
or to talk to a teacher and my mother would get mad at me and tell me to find
my own way home I was close to the treasurer of the school so the first
time I just talked to her and she gave me a stack of bus passes and then the
second time I literally walked the two to three hours it took to get to my
house number two you don't pay the phone bill so this one was because I refused
to give my mother the password to my phone so she decided to try and take my
phone I bought her phone so I decided to say
well give me the phone I bought she then said I pay the bill so I have control
she then shut off my phone even though she refused to give me rides to school
work she did this on a Thursday and I got paid that Friday the next morning I
got up early took the bus to the phone store and bought myself a new phone and
started paying my phone bill number three get the freak out of my house she
didn't think I'd actually leave this was this summer she got mad at me for
playing my music when I was getting ready for work
she was also refusing giving me rides to work so I just finished looking for my
headphones when she told me to shut off my music so I said no she comes bounding
into the front of the room and threatens
to hit me picked my way pass her and out the door and she tells me not to come
back that her doors are closed to me so after my shift I asked my sister to take
her out to dinner and I packed up my stuff and moved in with my boyfriend
freedom finally she then calls me throughout the night to wonder where I
am and why I wasn't home yet and where was all my stuff so I texted her you
told me to leave so I left yikes a perfect example of be careful
what you say because you never know who's listening and if Opie is gonna
take it to the extreme I need you to put
a base layer down when I was just out of high school and trying to figure out
which direction to take my life I worked for a movie theater I was trained to
work every position in the theater but my primary spot was as an usher which
toured tickets and cleaned theaters but during winter we also took care of the
sidewalks outside one of our managers we had six was a bit of a prick and he
liked putting down a base layer of salt ahead of any snow so one winter I'm
closing the theater down that involves me staying until every single theater
lets out making sure everyone gets out of the building and checking the rear
exits of each theater to make sure no one is stuck in the stairwells it's
around in the morning I'm in the very last theater and there's maybe five
minutes left before I can go home he finds me says there's weather to
gosh-darn states over it needs me to put a base layer of salt down okay I grab
the key to our salt shed and head out as I'm opening the door I hear my name I
look over and see him wave to me get in his car and drive home what wasn't happy
now normally it would take about three 50-pound boxes to put down a good layer
of salt around the entirety of the building and it's a large building but
he put me in a bad mood you gonna make me come out here and do this then leave
me okay fine I put down 16 boxes 800 pounds of salt into those sidewalks it
was more salt than sidewalk when I came in at 5:00 the next afternoon it was
still sweeping off excess salt I was asked what happened I told them and
that's how I deleted a phrase from my managers vocabulary now I think this is
the true definition of getting salty right here all right and that's all the
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entitled sisters and Bill demand I give up my house to them then proceed to
destroy it after refusing getting themselves arrested happened today my
folks decided to host a barbecue because I guess that's what older people do I
declined because I really don't like my two sisters their husbands or their kids
my wife and I are childless mom then pressured the wife long story short we
went by the time we arrived there were about 20 people there my sisters and
their husbands were already solidly buzzed drunk really
my mom was spending 100% of her time trying to keep the nieces and nephews
ages 7 to 11 more or less under control my dad had strategically retreated to
the whirpool part of the pool with a small cooler full of beers my wife and I
made small talk with miscellaneous people ate food and had a frozen
margarita sisters and bills took turns criticizing us for being late not being
in our swimsuits and screwing up the vibe whatever typical Suburban summer
get together about 45 minutes in two of the kids ran at one of the neighboring
guests who was standing next to the pool and pushed her in she was at the pool
steps she stumbled in but didn't fall so she only got half wet she was clearly
very unhappy about it but she didn't make a scene she just went over to where
the parents were grabbed their towels dried herself off and left sisters and
bills thought it was all great fun a bit later I was standing a few feet away
from the pool chatting away with someone I saw three of the kids running Full
Tilt at me from the corner of my eye obviously I was next not that it's
terribly difficult to outwit young kids but I just jumped out of their way at
the last second all three of them ran straight into the pool at full speed
most of the other guests including my wife and me started laughing but their
moms who as I mentioned were pretty shtf faed absolutely freaked out apparently
two of the kids couldn't swim even though they were in swimsuits since I
wasn't in swim gear I stepped back from the pool and let other people fish the
kids out the kids were balling their heads off like they'd lost a limb at
that point all hell broke loose the four drunk parents were yelling at everyone
in general and me in particular for nearly letting their kids drown and also
because two of the kids had been videoing the trick using their parents
iPhones which were now at the bottom of the pool one of my bills got into the
pool to try to retrieve the phones but his BMI and BSC made that impossible no
one else volunteered to help which was surprising given that my sisters were
still grumbling at everyone I told my sisters that it was their job to watch
their kids and that if anything had happened to them it would have been
their responsibility not mine there were some pretty strong words on both sides
wife and I left after the other bill fell over and face planted while yelling
at us now they're saying I should have let the little shts knock me into the
pool and have their fun and ruin my phone so at a side note dad of course
never got out of the whirlpool comments pokemom no more in the kids are ffos If
the parents phones got ruined in the process that's on them for not
controlling their little Helens I can see why you avoid family get togethers
hopefully next time your wife won't allow herself to be guilted into making
you go op that's probably the one positive thing that will come out of
this my wife is much more tolerant and forgiving than I am towards my siblings
but based on what she was saying on the way home I think she's had it with them
as well update one one month later first off my folks tell me that my nieces and
nephews are all good swimmers and that they use the pool all the time
the seven-year-old is still a beginner but he loves the water my sister just
said they couldn't swim so I'd look bad to be fair none of the kids are allowed
in the deep end which is where they fell it was the two 10-year-olds and the
9-year-old who tried to push me into the pool after we left the party ended on a
pretty sour note my drunk brother-in-law who had his face planted while yelling
at me had to go to an urgent care facility and get his face stitched up he
was too tired to drive so dad took him dad was very unhappy about this late
that evening my sisters started a group text and said some really nasty crap
their husbands threw in a few comments as well my wife and I blocked the four
of them my mom called me she was pretty upset about what they said she and dad
were in the chat and I don't blame her because of the texts my folks insisted
my sisters and bills come over the next day Sunday without their kids to get
some straight and lay down some ground rules mom's wording the result was a
contrite if unenthusiastic IC apology from the siblings via my mom's phone I'm
glad my wife was with me when they called her hard stares kept me from
saying what I wanted to I just told them thanks and that we felt no need to
discuss it further since I thought things were settled I unblocked them
that evening I got a text from one of the bills telling me the phones cost
XXXX and asking when I'd be paying for them WTF I replied never took a
screenshot of his text and forwarded it to my folks with a note that we were
done with this nonsense going to have no contact with sisters or spouses and not
to invite us to any more holidays or get togethers if they be present then I
blocked the sisters and their spouses again at that point the sht really hit
the fan dad called them and ripped them a new one among other things he told
them the grandkids were not welcome at his place indefinitely since my mom
regularly provides free babysitting that got them pretty rattled he also banned
them from using the vacation house and told them my wife and I actually owned
it not he and Mom this completely freaked them out both of my sisters
families Ed the place a lot including having their friends up for weekend
getaways this was very much out of character for my folks they'd clearly
had it and for reference I never wanted my sisters to know we own the place we
bought it for my folks they'd always wanted a place in the mountains keeping
the ownership quiet was just a way to avoid drama with my siblings a couple of
days later my sisters and their husbands came to our place unannounced to
apologize in person we were out to dinner and they left a note one sister
also called me at work I sent her a voicemail we've decided that no contact
is the best thing for the indefinite future and haven't interacted with them
for the last three plus weeks personally
I'm done they can go pound sand comments are and Demon and stranger they're just
really sorry now because their free babysitting is gone and you own the
cabin Matt Davis we're sorry now tell Mom and Dad we apologized so they'll
take the kids again update two 9 days later well it's been an interesting last
few days I thought the sht had hit the fan before but it was more of a fart
compared to what's happened this week for this to make sense I need to provide
some Financial context my folks haven't ever been any good at saving money I've
been doing their taxes for years so I know pretty much everything about them
MoneyWise their house is paid for and they have minimal debt but they didn't
save much for retirement both of them get Social Security dad gets a solid
pension and they have a bit of savings but there's no treasure chest in the
basement I bought their current car for them after they retired as a retirement
present so they could have something nice to drive it was the first car in
probably 20 years they didn't lease my sisters are convinced the folks are
dripping with money and that our parents will be leaving the two of them
everything since I don't need more money so they've never cared about saving
either it turns out my oldest sister and her husband they have three kids have
been living beyond their means for some time and are in financial Straits
they've maxed out their credit cards and are behind on their car leases to the
point that one is about to get repossessed he bragged in the past about
making x per year but it turns out to be about half that she confessed all this
to Mom on Tuesday because they need a loan and because and this was a WTF
moment for Mom and Dad that for the last 3 years instead of staying at the
vacation house regularly she's actually been renting it out once a month or so
and pocketing the cash we talking $2,000 plus doar for a weekend and at least
$4,000 for a week with her being cut off
from using the place she's had to cancel one group already she's now worried
they'll lose everything my folks aren't in any position to give them a loan my
other sister was aware of her renting out the place but of course hasn't ever
said anything I suspect she's done the same thing as well because I went up
there once to drop off an ATV I'd worked on and there was a family there who
claimed to be staying there with my sister or her family and that they'd
gone to town for something at the time I
let it go I figured she'd loaned out the house to some friends but I've always
wanted I found all this out through my folks
who are pretty stressed out about it Mom more than Dad he's mainly just pissed
off about it all I know dad feels betrayed and I imagine he's embarrassed
that he's in no position to help his daughter out he did reiterate that as
long as it's up to him the girls won't be using the vacation home anytime soon
my folks let me know what's going on because they figured my sisters would
put a full court press on me next and they were right on Thursday my sisters
came to our place again without husbands this time and waited outside the door
until I got home I had to choose between
fighting with them in public then making a scene if I went in without them or
letting them in so I let them in I got a bullsh story from the older sister with
the younger one backing her up regarding why I needed to let them use the
mountain place again immediately they also said I've been a shy brother and
that I needed to step up and plan on paying for their kids college tuition
since that's what family does I let them pitch their story then called them out
based on what my folks had told me things went sht from there there was
denial crying cursing yelling you name it I swear my ears are still ringing 2
days later I won't lie I said some really mean and shtt things to them but
nothing that wasn't true they finally left after about an hour after that I
took a shower and laid down when I got up my wife was home and her first words
were that she'd had to block more phone numbers because my sisters were blowing
up our phones with new ones folks messaged me yesterday asking me to call
I'm sure my sisters have told them some bullshed version of what happened but
I'm not up to rehashing it yet I'm usually a pretty energetic person but
this drama has me beaten down I had just enough energy today to drive up to the
vacation house and padlock the entrance gate shut I'm the only one with a key
I'm guessing that will be enough to ensure my siblings leave the place alone
they'd probably die trying to walk 400 yard uphill to get to the house update
three 3 weeks later yet another update regarding cluster F which is my extended
family I thought it might be time given what's
gone on over the past two weeks after my sisters came to my place my mom and dad
told me they were done managing the vacation home it sounded like the
sisters had been pressuring them to let them use the place again basically my
folks handed the responsibility for the place over to me and told me it was my
problem from here on out up until then they kept track of who would be using it
and they'd taken care of routine maintenance replacing worn out items Etc
in any case they decided they didn't want to be in the middle of all this
crap while I don't blame them I'm disappointed because the damn place was
supposed to be something for them to enjoy and hang out in and they use it
regularly plus I've never cared that they let my sisters and their families
use it because really I've always thought that was my parents call even
though I technically own it but now my folks are going to be in the position of
not having access without me being involved and that changes the whole
dynamic of the place I've taken several steps to secure the place I already
mentioned that I locked the gate it has a heavy duty chain and is the best lock
I could find I also did a full reset on all the door keypads and created all new
Coates security cameras got installed yesterday which is actually pretty cool
because the installer convinced me to put a highres one that looks out over
the valley the system cost me way more than I thought it would but the peace of
mind is worth it the installer also put up signs on the property saying the
place was monitored by video I also installed a heavyduty lockout for the
water shut off and drain valve I hope to
hell I don't lose the keys to it because if I do it's going to be a bear to try
to remove I haven't told anyone but my wife that the water is locked off and
again only we have the keys last week I got separate calls at my office from
both of the husbands trying to convince me to let them use the house like they
always have the older one had gone up with some friends for a guy's hangout
but couldn't get in because of the gate lock he was pretty pissed and
embarrassed about being locked out I'm sure he would have broken the lock if he
could have during his call he kept bouncing between pushiness and victim
Hut at one point he threatened to rip that gate out of the godamn ground he
also admitted they'd been renting it out to a few friends that they needed the
money that I was ruining their business and that I should refund their guests
money me f that I should have recorded the conversation with him but I don't
know how to do that from an office phone anyway the other bill just sounded like
he was being made to call by my sister he didn't really put up a fight when I
told him not to plan on ever using the place again in any cas case I told them
they couldn't use the place and not to ask again at this point I'm considering
selling the vacation home my wife and I won't use it enough to justify keeping
it and it's not like there's going to be any family get togethers there anytime
soon I mentioned selling it to my folks and their response was pretty much
whatever I'd more than double my money by selling it the place consists of
three lots with killer views and is at the end of a private road but I'll
probably wait for a while to sell doing so now would be an emotional decision
my sisters and I aren't currently speaking and I have no plans to initiate
contact I don't know what the status between them and my folks is and I don't
want to on the upside we spent an evening with my folks last week and went
to a new restaurant that was nice no one brought up any of this crap mom did
update us on the nieces and nephews she's spending time with them at their
homes sorry this update isn't full of laughs or owns that's just life
sometimes comments negative bottle 776 thank you so much for the update I'll
advise you to check with your adviser to see if renting your property would be
worth it after all these improvements a conscious minded renter might give you a
good Buck for a month or year of rental selling now as you said may not be in
your best interest regarding your pushy bill I'll ask my lawyer to draft a
letter of intent to sue for the profits from the rentals also include a change
of misuse and any property lost or destroyed maybe do it for both this will
stop any further attempts as they seem very entitled to property and money good
luck update us if you can or need more ideas op I agree that my sisters and
their families are very entitled they're also in an extremely weak position in
all of this the place is a bit remote to rent as a long-term home plus there are
times during the winter when the road is impassible so staying their yearr round
is pretty iffy there are a couple of permanent residents on the road who are
at a lower elevation and relatively close to the year round public road but
even they have to hunker down or bug out
a few times each winter regarding making it a vacation rental doing so would be
seen by my sisters as rubbing salt in the wound and would give them a reason
to create more drama and honestly we don't need the money the place is paid
for it's in great shape it doesn't cost much to keep the lights on Etc I did
think about lawyering them up and covering them with paper it wouldn't
even cost me much a good friend is a property law attorney but again doing so
would escalate things and give them reason to create family drama my primary
goal at this point is to minimize my involvement with them and minimize any
nonsense that causes my parents stress I'm willing to take some short-term
Flack and absorb some expenses like the camera system to keep things contained
it could blow up again but I suppose I'll drive off that bridge when I come
to it I don't think we'll sell right away if at all it's more of a last
resort or personal fantasy thought than anything else there's a good chance that
come holiday season my folks will reset and want to have the entire family there
which is fine we won't be going of course but I don't care if my parents
have guests there I intend to keep control of the place for the indefinite
future though which will be inconvenient
at times because I'll be the only person
with a gate key but I can live with that update four one month later I hired a
guy to manage and look over the vacation home he lives in the area takes care of
his folks and manages a good number of properties some are vacation rentals and
some are weekend places like ours he has access to my camera feeds and does a
physical check on the place every week or two I think he may have the best job
in the mountains he gets paid to drive around with his dog walk around the
properties and hang out on people's decks whenever he feels like it he also
has a camera feed from a house near the start of the private road that takes
still shots whenever a vehicle goes past it $450 per month plus he'll do basic
maintenance and repairs on an hourly basis he's friends with all of the
sheriff's deputies too I gained a lot of Peace of Mind from doing this and he
sends photos from his walks to everyone once or twice a week I have to brag a
bit on my parents I got all this from them tonight at dinner they were getting
pressure from my sisters to demand that I open up the vacation house to everyone
for Thanksgiving Thanksgiving up there had become quite the tradition for the
family not for me or my wife we've gone once in seven years my dad refused to
bother me about it because he knew I'd say no they came up with what I think is
a great plan and announced that they were organizing the Thanksgiving
Gathering and if everyone split the cost in advance they'd rent an ARB be in the
mountains otherwise they'd host Thanksgiving at their place or one of
the sisters could host it this caused a fight between the sisters because the
middle sister was all about doing airb be but the oldest one doesn't have any
money the deadline to commit to airbeam has passed it looks like Thanksgiving
will be at my parents place regardless we won't be there my parents have asked
that we not sell the place for now they decided they'd still like to use it
occasionally but not until my sisters have come to terms with the new normal
and of course they'd probably like it if everyone could get together there again
down the road but that's just not going to happen I'd just as soon sell it and
move on at this point but I can live with keeping it if my folks do use it
now and again plus it will be worth even more down the road my wife and I have
had no contact with my sisters and their husbands both sisters have called from
new numbers for Google voice and left messages insisting that I meet with them
for our parents sake to work out how everyone can use the family vacation
home they called my wife too I'm glad I was already in the habit of not
answering calls if I didn't recognize the number I honestly don't know if
they're delusional or if they think they can bully me into giving them access
again I don't really care my parents tell me that the oldest sister and her
husband are getting out of the leases for their SUV and big RS truck and are
selling their jet skis and some other sht they've never needed that's going to
be really hard on her she's quite the bragard and won't like being seen in
something older smaller or cheaper my bill's identity is very much wrapped up
with his truck as well he even has a small tattoo of the truck company's logo
which frankly is one of the many reasons why he and I never hung out several
people have suggested I turn the vacation home into an air andb I don't
plan to do so at least not anytime soon I know it would make money but it would
cause an incredible amount of drama across the family and would stress out
my parents they don't need that it would also be a hassle to remove personal
things my folks have there that stuff has nowhere to go and there would be
wear and tear on the place and I'm sure it would take some amount of time on my
part even though I'd use a manager to do
it it's just not worth it to me comments
thanks for the update op I find it quite hilarious that your sisters still can't
handle the fact that it's your vacation home they went so far as to debit the
family vacation home and use your parents again for sympathy they need to
learn humility op yep that line killed me and they both used it in separate
voicemails they're trying hard to find any crack in my armor and I'm kind of
curious as to what they'll try next which will probably happen soon because
another tradition is to meet up there right after Christmas for a few days
sometimes for several days including new years's I'm pretty pleased that my dad
has been firm with them on all of this I've rarely seen him be that way his
nature is gregarious friendly and good at getting people to cooperate that sort
of thing he's also told me that he likes not feeling responsible for the place
anymore update 5 6 weeks later I wrote most of this yesterday but decided to
wait to post it until I wasn't so wound up waiting didn't work I'm still wound
up sorry if this Rambles so much has happened that it is hard to write
coherently things have gone to hell I really truly did not think anything like
this would happen short version my brothers-in-law broke into my vacation
home and were arrested they've been charged with breaking and entering
destruction of property and communicating threats all class one
misdemeanors I've refused to drop the charges I might do so if I'm fully paid
for the damage they caused they were still in jail as of Saturday evening I
assumed they're out by now things had settled down or at least I thought so I
haven't seen or heard from my sisters in over 6 weeks my parents went up to the
house for a week and had a good time David the property manager I hired has
worked out great he's done a couple of repairs I asked him to do and I've given
him a list that he's going to work on he
usually sends a photo or two of wildlife or a sunset to his clients every week
which was kind of making me want to get up there on Friday after Thanksgiving my
bills went to my vacation home they used an angle grinder to cut through the
chain on the driveway gate and damaged the gate in the process they tried to
get in through the front door ruined the lock set and gouged the door badly they
finally got in through the utility floor door and a locked internal door they
also broke into the barn I'm not sure why when they went out through the front
door they were met by the sheriff's deputies and David David Gets
notifications from the camera system when there's activity he saw what was
going on and called the sheriff's department according to David the bills
tried to Bulch their way out of it but the deputies didn't buy it breaking into
an empty house is a pretty serious thing up there usually it's meth heads who
ransack the place and Hawk everything when the bills were arrested they
freaked out big time were saying how they were going to beat the hell out of
me Etc it is not advisable to do this in front of cops David and the sheriff's
office tried calling my wife and me to see what we wanted to do but we were
spending the day with her parents and had left our phones in the car so we
could be in vacation mode so they booked the bills on everything which is what I
would have asked them to do anyway bills called their wives from jail who of
course freaked out they called my folks tried to call me they blocked and tried
to find a lawyer up there to arrange bail not easy to do given that it's a
rural area and it was a holiday weekend the older sister has zero cash and her
cards are maxed out so if they made bail my middle sister would have had to pay
for both husb I know they were still in jail as of
Saturday afternoon we didn't check our phones until late Friday on the way home
from the in-laws there were a ton of calls and messages from my mom dad David
and the sheriff's department talk about ruining a great day I was in such a good
mood until I looked at my phone my wife read through the texts listened to the
messages and read them out to me and by the time we got home I had some idea of
what was going on I put my brain back into thinking mode tried to get past my
anger and failed I called David and got the rundown on what had happened and how
bad the damage was resulting in more anger I ended Friday by calling the
sheriff's department and telling them there was no misunderstanding the bills
had absolutely no right to be on my property and I wanted to press charges I
didn't call my folks back barely slept I waited until Saturday afternoon to call
my folks they were both pretty rattled about it all my mom and particular my
sisters had browbeat them into telling me I should tell the cops it was all a
mistake and that I I wanted the charges dropped I refused to flat out telling
them there was no way I'd do that until I spoke with an attorney and also not
until I was paid in full for whatever it
would cost to fix everything 100% my mom was crying hard by the time we got off
the phone which of course made me feel like sht my dad suggested it was time
for a complete start over but he also said he thought they needed to pay for
the damage I haven't gone up to the property yet there's nothing I can do
and I'll probably go nuts when I see the damage in person but the photos are bad
enough I'm hoping to work tomorrow or Wednesday but my job isn't one I can
just wander off from for non-emergencies I've left messages with two attorney
friends asking them to recommend the right lawyers to go after my sisters and
bills I don't know what I can do exactly
but I'm hoping to get restraining orders I have all the texts they've sent me
that might help I'm strongly considering suing them for the money they made
renting the place I don't care about the cash but it will help make them as
miserable as possible the gloves are definitely off at this point a couple of
side notes bills had no idea I'd hired someone to keep an eye on things or that
there are cameras there now my parents knew but hadn't told them because they
knew it would just give my sisters a reason to dramatize there are signs on
the property stating it's being monitored with cameras but no
trespassing signs my wife has completely had it at this point I don't blame her
she's been more than patient about it all but she reached her limit and was
not shy about letting me know she told me it was up to me how I dealt with this
but she thought they all needed to be taught a hard lesson older Bill likely
won't face any repercussions at his job over this but middle bill has a security
clearance so he might I'm hoping that will be motivation for midd bill to pay
for the damages himself immediately David the caretaker has an interesting
background I knew he was friends with some of the deputies and figured it was
because they were all locals I was wrong
he was a cop in a big city for years was shot on duty and afterwards decided to
quit and move to where his parents had retired
he has some PTSD over it all his dog is a certified service animal and is
usually with him I know law enforcement people tend to hang out together I guess
that's how they became his friend group I don't want to see or speak with these
a-holes for the rest of my life I know this is in direct conflict with my
overwhelming urge to make their lives as miserable as possible comments the idol
gamer sorry this happened to you pal crappy situation all around but if you
want a complete stranger opinion on Reddit I agree with your wife
it seems they won't take the hints so a lesson will have to be learned here I
know it will be a hard thing to have to go through familywise your sisters will
get on with your parents and that will then get fed down to you but your mom
and dad bearing the weight of this isn't
on it's not their problem nor yours your
sisters and bills made their bed and now they have to lie in it do you know why
they even broke into the house yet was it to just prove a point some drunken
plan they made or were they going to steal and mess the place up sending best
wishes from a across the pond you'll get through this op a lot of people have
said I should have been hard ARS about all of this from day one I've avoided it
because it would have stressed out my parents and I hate this kind of drama
but they're stressed out now my wife has pretty much opted out of anything more
to do with this she doesn't want to hear
about it for a while and says it's in my lap she'll ease off on that but I'm
guessing she's not going to get involved from now on other than listening to me
blowoff steam edit Regarding why they broke in conjecture on my part but I
think they were planning on using it for family getaways Andor renting it out
again according to David the property manager it's deer season through the end
of the year I know the bills have used it in the past as base camp for big
group hunting weeks it sleeps quite a few people so one event with friends
could net them thousands of dollars again I'm guessing here but that would
explain why they broke into the barn as well I bought a six-seater mule a few
years back and they would want to use that I don't think they wanted to trash
the place it means too much to my dad and they both like him a lot update 6
one week later I didn't think I'd be doing another post this soon but a lot
has happened over the past two days short version I think the corner has
been turned on this crap Thursday afternoon I got a courier delivered
envelope at my office it was a signed letter from both my brothers in-law and
a cashier check for $5,000 in the letter they made what I
have to say was a really sincere apology among other things they acknowledged
breaking in acknowledged it was was wrong said the $5,000 was to pay for the
damage and said they'd pay more if it cost more than that they also said
they'd stay away from the vacation home unless my wife and I specifically
invited them they also asked that I do what I could to get the charges dropped
as soon as possible because they both could lose their jobs and that they'd
agree to a restraining order or whatever else it took for that to happen there
was more as well all conciliatory but that's the gist of it to say this was a
shock is an understatement it was obviously a total 180 from their past
Behavior I'd already made an appointment with an attorney to see about suing my
bills over the damage and to try to get a restraining order I called him and
told him what I just received and he agreed to meet with me at the end of the
day instead of next week she told me not to deposit the check we met for about 2
hours he ended up recommending the wife and I do a settlement and mutual release
agreement with all four of them sisters and bills he said if we went after them
via a lawsuit we'd almost certainly win but that it could take 2 years or more
there would be sizable upfront legal fees and we might never see any money he
also said we could keep the $5,000 free and clear even if we didn't let them off
the hook he's drawing up the agreement it won't be ready until Monday the
agreement will include what's essentially the Civil equivalent of a
restraining order I'd already asked my property manager to work up a bid to get
the damage repaired I called him after the meeting and asked that he get me as
close to an estimate as possible ASAP he
got it that Friday and he thinks it will take around $4,000 to fix everything
most of that is for the front door on Friday my attorney contacted each of the
bills told them what we were proposing and advised them to get their own
lawyers they both agreed to it the middle Bill told them they could afford
to either pay for the damages or pay for
a lawyer but not both and they figured a lawyer wouldn't make any difference
given that they really had no defense for what they did his biggest concern
was if the charges could be dropped from what I can tell they're willing to do
anything or sign anything to make this go away my attorney also called the DA's
office on Friday to discuss dismissing the charges got the name of the
prosecutor and left them a message but has not spoken to them yet he thinks
they'll dismiss the charges because the bills are paying up and they have no
priors but then again he's not a criminal lawyer I also said I should be
prepared to drive up there Monday or Tuesday and tell the prosecutor in
person that I want everything dismissed he's also advised me to continue to have
no contact with sisters and bills especially for the next 6 months and
that it will be really important to follow the terms of the agreement when
it comes to Future interactions with them I'm guessing that the Bill's change
of heart is due to them having figured out what's at stake for them what it's
going to cost them in legal fees and fines and so on there's also the highly
unlikely possibility that they could go to jail for up to 120 days and as I've
mentioned one of them has a security clearance for his job that could be at
risk so this is their Hail marry past to keep their normal lives this isn't a
perfect resolution to the situation but at least it will will get me past the
legal and financial parts of the sht show that I've been in for the past few
months I doubt I'll ever have a civil relationship with any of them again and
that's fine what I want most at this point is to close this off get on with
my life and never speak to any of them again I'm exhausted from this the wife
feels pretty much the same way it was kind of a side issue but getting the
written apology was weirdly a huge moment for me I wasn't expecting that
but apparently it matters to me quite a bit the money doesn't feel particular
particularly important at this moment I'll damn sure take it though also I'm
pretty certain my middle sister and her husband came up with the money the
cashier check is from the credit union of the company he works for once things
are signed I plan to make one more update probably just an edit to this
post I'm sorry for being so pedantic writing these posts has helped clear my
head and the feedback has really helped I truly appreciate everyone's comments
insights and support and I really really
hope none of you ever have to go through this kind of nonsense comments unwanted
88 this update is a massive Improvement make sure that they cannot contact you
unless it is through your lawyers as well they fished around and found out
and they are now willing to do anything make sure your parents are in the loop
about the proceedings as well that may help some overzealous entitled behavior
in the long run with your sisters sincerely op your Saga is incredibly
difficult to deal with and you are doing it like a champ you and your wife are
incredibly affected by this nonsense and you both deserve to be done with it but
keep us informed we are all rooting for you op thanks for your kind words to be
honest when I finally got home Thursday night I cried in relief thinking this
might all be over I'm not going to discuss the settlement with my folks
until it's signed by everyone my sisters
or bills can if they want to but I'm not
it's between me and them Update 7 9 days later on Tuesday morning I met with my
attorney and went over the agreement I changed a couple of minor things and he
sent them to my sisters and brothers-in-law it included a
requirement that they pay my attorney fee about $3,000 they weren't happy
about that and tried to negotiate it away but he told them they could either
accept it as is or there would be no deal at all and we'd proceed with suing
them for the money they got from renting out the place the wear and tear from
renting it repair costs from their break-in emotional distress lost income
from having to deal with this attorney fees and whatever else we could he also
told them I would push hard with the DA's office to prosecute every charge
the short version they came in and signed I wasn't there I'm told it was a
pretty tense environment that the middle Bill appeared to have taken charge and
that at one point he told both of my sisters to shut the hell up or he was
walking away from the whole thing making his own deal with us and the rest of
them could all go to hell they provided another cashier check for $2,500 and
claimed that's all they had it's close enough that we're going to accept it as
the final payment the attorney also told me that everyone was was very cold and
Curt towards one another but that they all managed to keep it together long
enough to sign and leave without making too big of a scene I drove up to the
vacation house early yesterday to check out the damage and meet with the DA's
office seeing the damage made my blood boil it was so senseless I was so pissed
that I was ready to eat the cost of repairs and do everything I could to
ruin their lives I tried walking it off but failed utterly I ended up calling a
good friend who was kind enough to stay on the phone for over an hour letting me
speed invent he eventually got me back to focusing on the bigger picture of
putting this behind me and getting on with my life honestly I'm still not sure
that's what I want to do but I settled down enough to get some food in me and I
felt better after lunch I went to the DA's office I hadn't made an appointment
and had to wait a while but I got to meet with the assistant DA who's got the
case the short version is that since I don't want to prosecute and the bills
have already paid for the damages they are willing to drop all the charges
except trespassing which in this case will be a class to misdemeanor the bills
will have to plead guilty and pay whatever fine the judge sets I'm also
told that if they fight the trespassing charge or ever so much as fart in public
up there it would go very poorly for them it helped that the bills didn't
resist arrest if they had none of the charges would have been dropped I also
went by the Sheriff's Office to thank them for getting there so quickly and
everything I wanted to thank the deputies personally but only spoke to
the dispatch person and I tried to meet up with David the property manager but
could couldn't get a hold of him a couple of notes the agreement includes a
no contact Clause basically if any of them show up where my wife or I are or
the other way around whoever got their last has to leave immediately no contact
except through attorneys or other mutually agreed upon third parties they
get to keep whatever they made from renting the vacation house my big give
unless I have tax consequences which they will be responsible for and we
release each other from all other liabilities up through the present
there's more to it than that but those of the high points my wife and I will
sign the agreement later today after that I can't talk about most of this but
I can talk around it I think this is my final update regarding all this nonsense
but I'll respond to comments if I can as I've said before posting about all of
this and reading people's thoughts and responses has been really helpful and
has probably been key to my being able to handle this in a relatively healthy
way so thank you all again comments pre com
18184 I have been following your story from the start and can't believe how
this all turned out your sisters and their husbands basically destroyed your
family over their selfishness and pettiness I feel for your parents as
they are now caught in the middle and can never have their family together
again for anything because of their daughters and spouses being so selfish I
will say you are better than me because I would not have dropped the charges or
made the agreement you did they would have been sued by me especially after
finding out they rented your vacation home without permission or considering
the legality of it I am usually a for forgive and forget type of person but
this went way too far for that I am glad that the legal aspect of the situation
is starting to get behind but unfortunately this will never end due to
the family Dynamics it has created I hope your parents stay understanding
with you and your wife in this situation as they have been in your previous
updates best of luck to you and I hope for you and your wife's sanity that this
is coming to a close for you op thanks for the kind words I had a hard time not
being vindictive but right now I'm glad I was
if they cause more drama down the road I'll probably regret it but if they
follow the agreement that won't happen the family Dynamics are like you said
pretty much aft I've only told my parents that we trying to work things
out nothing more they may or may not be okay with the way things will be moving
forward but I had to do what was best for my wife and me I'm guessing that my
sisters have told them about a very slanted version that's just one more
turd I'll have to swim around really the
agreement is more a formalization of how
things have been for the last few months I know it's not how my folks wanted
things to go but I'm pretty happy with it update 8 3 months later I thought it
would be worth an update for anyone who's interested unsurprisingly my
oldest sister and brother-in-law have filed for Chapter 7 bankruptcy while I
don't care about what happens to them financially or otherwise they've also
managed to drag my parents into their mess which I'm not happy about at the
start of the year my bills oversized customized pride and joy truck was
repossessed it was pretty embarrassing for him I'm sure and it happened at work
this was their Breaking Point without the truck they have to share a Kia that
my parents loan them and they can barely fit in it with their three kids
financially they're effed they owe at least 125k probably more on highin
credit cards they have zero equity in their house and they have a couple of
personal loans that I'm pretty certain they got under false pretenses they have
loans on their jet skis ads and trailers they also owe a chunk of money for
defaulting on the truck lease they hadn't made any payments on their credit
cards or loans in months and were behind
on their house payments as well they got out of the lease on my sister's massive
SUV late last year they were upside down on it as well so they had to come up
with cash to do so they also had to pay an attorney the fine and court costs for
my bills trespassing charge at the vacation house and they owe my middle
sister and her husband money for bail and their portion of the damages to the
place as I've mentioned before my folks have never been Financial wizards but
they have at least been generally responsible
they're retired their home is paid off and they live off of Social Security and
pensions together they get more than they spend minimal savings just an
emergency fund it turns out my folks emptied out that fund cashed out their
small IR at $20,000 and gave it to my sister that let her catch up on the
house payment and cover the negative equity on her car lease but now
literally every bit of savings my parents possessed is gone plus my
parents have been paying for their groceries for several months and
contined to pay the insurance on the car they loaned my sister according to my
dad my sisters worked with my mom for weeks to get her to Fork over the money
they'd worked on both my folks at the same time for a while but my dad flat
out refused every time eventually mom caved she was worried that my sister
would have to move to a h in some Backwater town and that the kids would
be barefoot and eating dirt dad's not happy about it and to say there's some
tension between them right now is an understatement but they'll be fine I was
pretty disappointed when my parents told me all this but I wasn't surprised it
sucks that they emptied out their savings to help but I kind of get it the
way the bankruptcy laws are in our state
by getting caught up on the home loan my sister should be able to keep the house
I tried hard not to say how I felt about this and my sisters but I mostly
succeeded really I'm way more pissed about this than I should be the worst
part for me is that my sister and Bill could now contact me and my wife without
any real fear of repercussions the only penalty the no contact agreement has is
that if they violate it we can go after them for the money they made from
renting out the vacation house and related damages since they've filed for
bankruptcy that's now not an impediment for them I'm hoping they'll leave us
alone but who knows folks also told me that my middle sister and her husband
have hit a rough spot and that he's not currently living with her and the kids
just a guess but I imagine he's had it with the whole family Dynamic that
caused this nonsense not directly related but on a brighter note I've
spent two weekends at the mountain house
since the start of the year once with my
wife and once alone both times there was a lot of snow it was incredibly
beautiful and relaxing very therapeutic the place also has good internet service
now thanks to starlink which is nice plus knowing that I can count on David
the property manager to keep the place in shape and ready for us to visit and
to help if we get snowed and eliminates most of the stress of owning it my folks
have used it a few times as well and get along great with David comments stman
well karma seems to be catching up with the wannabe Jones I am really sorry that
your sisters grifted your parents out of their savings Unfortunately they are
adults and chose to Cave to their daughters can you still get an RO for
harassment with your older sister and Bill they might not be bound by the
signed agreement but if they are calling texting or emailing you and you don't
want the contact that might be enough to get an RO especially since there is
already a record of bills actions I feel bad for you that your crazy sisters are
continuing to cause Mischief even if it isn't Direct affecting you it is still
affecting you op if they start up again I do indeed plan to get a restraining
order in fact my wife made it clear to me that she expects a very hard approach
to any BS from them going forward which I agree with of course I had the
security cameras at our house upgraded at the start of the year just in case
they came by I also kept all their previous texts and provided screenshots
to my attorney for safekeeping if they cause any trouble at the vacation house
they're toast the Sheriff's Department and DA's office have the full story and
are sympathetic to our situation Akira reviews in the event they lose their
house either they'll coer your parents to move in with them or demand you give
your vacation house to them to live in this ordeal might not be over for you
yet op thankfully my folks live in an over 55 community so they can't move in
there plus the house is not anywhere near large enough for seven people
unless everybody stays in the great room all the time and God knows where they'd
Park living in the vacation house isn't practical for them either which is again
something I'm happy about with traffic it's probably 3 hours from there to my
bills job they'd have to have four WD vehicles to live there year round too
plus from what I understand the schools there are not very good I'm being polite
and as much as I dislike my sister I'll say that she's all in on keeping her
kids in good schools they can afford their current house once they get
through bankruptcy assuming they change how they spend I think they'll have to
no one in their right mind would lend them money or give them a credit card
they won't be able to take fancy Vacations or swap out his truck every
couple of years for an even bigger one yeah I admit that godamn truck fetish of
his really bugs me but they'll live just fine it's not like a family of five is
going to suffer when they're taking in close to 200k per year hopefully I'm not
being panish about all this a Swiss Miss 77 not paying the mortgage but letting
the truck get repoed they should have sold it or given it back first and they
should have given up all the toys months ago instead they just kept doubling and
tripling down absolutely insane levels of entitlement and delusion to be fair
and this is according to my parents they tried to sell the adiv and watercraft
but the value of those things drops like a rock the moment you buy them and they
are upside down on the loans so they eventually just quit paying on them also
this reminds me that when they broke into the vacation house they also broke
into the mini barn turns out my older Bill had stowed his two ads in it I was
just guessing but I think he was going to take them report them stolen get an
insurance settlement and sell them on the sly I found out the ad were there
and paid to have them taken to my dad's place he had my bill picked them up from
there also I don't think my bill was expecting the truck to be returned I
think he was working to catch up on the payments so they'd have one good vehicle
the finance company must have just run out of patience don't blame them he's a
fup happy connection 55009 they must have been making quite a packet from
their fraudulent vacation home income for it to impact their finances to this
extent op I think they were grossing at least 50k per year probably more
tax-free it was never listed on air benb as far as I can tell they'd rent to
friends friends of friends Etc I based the 50k on the fact that my parents kept
a calendar for the house to keep track of who was using the place I went
through the last 3 years worth of calendars and my sisters were using the
place a lot sometimes for a week at a time supposedly they were doing school
related planning Retreats as well as just family time I know similar places
go for $2,000 or more per weekend and at
least $4,000 for a week it can sleep six people in bedrooms and has a bunk room
for kids that all five would stay in plus it has two queen siiz pullout sofas
if you pushed it you could fit more people than that I think my sisters are
just spendaholics they constantly have the newest whatever iPads TVs clothes
diets you name it so no matter how much they got they'd spend more
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buckle up I'm sorry this is so long I 31f have been married to my husband 35
male for 10 years I recently took one new roles and titles at work leaving me
to work 50 plus hours a week while being a parent while keeping up with daily
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my husband's favorite restaurant food to come home with knowing he had been
taking care of my kids and myself for the last 5 days I wanted to do something
nice for him I called to let him know that I was on my my way home and I just
had one more quick stop after my medications were ready he blew up he
asked what I was doing at said restaurant because he saw the charges on
the bank account he started accusing me of going out of town to see someone else
and make the comments I know you didn't drive up there just to go to the
hospital and I saw the charges at underscore so if you were that sick you
wouldn't have been there at this point I am fuming I don't get it after an hour
drive back home I dropped his favorite food off on the counter and said this is
why I went there do you know how shitty it was to have your husband not believe
you when you're hooked to in four I started to tear up my heart is broken he
profusely apologized and said I never want to lose you I wed away as I am
putting my medication away from the doctor he reads the label contains the
word herpes on the label he started fuming again he said can you imagine I
have Yogo back to work on Sunday and tell them my wife was sick and found out
she had herpes I explained to him that I did not in fact have herpes but canker
sores were treated in the same family for how bad mine was without hesitation
he responded and said that makes you sound like such a after everything
I do to stay afloat I felt this jab deep in my chest I barely have time to catch
my breathe let alone look the other way I have packed a bag and I headed to my
parents so Reddit am I the | give me a good story on AITAforwantingtoleavemyhusbandafterhecalledmeorig |
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I was sick during a bus ride and these old ladies thought I was on drugs so to
give context on Wednesday I went to the doctors and I was there for about 2
hours and a half I had a fever was throwing up Etc the doctors just gave me
nausea medication then I spent another hour waiting for my medication to be
given to me after that I spent 30 minutes waiting for the bus to arrive at
this point I'm bound to look homeless which really wasn't the case at all
since I had a hoodie and was literally covering every inch of me I was shaking
tired hurting from a fever it was pretty bad that night I dreamed I was a wizard
creating cubes of magic neutral face in the dark and it was cold really cold
finally my bus arrived and I took my seat immediately after I was feeling
sleepy but you got me effed up if you think I'm going to sleep on a bus as a
teenage girl listen I was struggling every other second I'd wake up and go
back to sleep I never slept longer than 3 seconds anyways this is where the
actual Story begin during one of my wakeups this lady was leaning over to me
I couldn't see her face because I was wearing a hoodie since she was so close
to me I quickly grabbed | give me a good story on IwassickduringabusrideandtheseoldladiesthoughtIwason |
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:00.060 --> :00.900 Posted by u/Daquii
:00.900 --> :03.000 6 hours ago Hugz :03.000 --> :10.500
AITA for firing my brother after he proposed at my wedding?
:10.500 --> :16.740
So a bit of background. I own a plumbing company
and hired my brother 3 years ago. He was jobless
:16.740 --> :21.300 after the pandemic and I offered for him
to come work for me. He was 22 at the time,
:21.300 --> :24.840 and is now looking to become a master
plumber and start his own business. :24.840 --> :30.300
At my wedding, in which he was the best man, he
decided that during his speech he would give us
:30.300 --> :36.300 all a big surprise and decided to propose
to his long time girlfriend. Me and my wife
:36.300 --> :41.400 were appalled. We both feel like he stole
the shine from our day. Everyone else in
:41.400 --> :46.260 our families were so excited and kept taking
pictures with her, looking at the ring, etc. :46.260 --> :50.700
I decided to fire him the very next
day. He still doesn’t understand :50.700 --> :55.260
why. He claims I’m being selfish and
irrational, and our parents agree. :55.260 --> :59.160
They’re saying that “business should
be separate from our personal lives”, :59.160 --> :04.320
but I just can’t overlook what he did and how
he ruined our day. Am I overthinking this?? :05.820 --> :06.477
Posted by u/MILcoffeemachine :06.477 --> :11.340 10 hours ago
Faith In Humanity Restored :11.340 --> :39.360
AITA for not wanting to pay the extra money
my MIL put for a gift I didn’t ask for? :39.360 --> :43.080
My MIL bought me a new coffee machine. I don’t why
:43.080 --> :46.680 as the one I have is still working
fine but whatever, I accepted. :46.680 --> :51.720
Before leaving, she told me I needed
to pay her $30. I ask why and she said :51.720 --> :55.980
that she planned on putting only $50 in
the gift but the cheapest coffee machine
:55.980 --> :02.340 she could find was around $80 so I needed
to put the $30 she added for the machine. :02.340 --> :07.800
That confused me because, if she planned on only
putting a certain amount in the gift (that I,
:07.800 --> :11.160
once again, didn’t ask for) then why not give up
:11.160 --> :16.050 the coffee machine idea and buy
something that actually was $50? :16.050 --> :19.020
She said she didn’t care about
paying more if it made me happy, :19.020 --> :25.200
I said well clearly you do care otherwise you
wouldn’t ask me to pay the extra $30? She said
:25.200 --> :30.180 it was just a matter of principle and that
if I had manner I’d pay her. She then left. :30.180 --> :34.740
She later texted my husband that she
was waiting on the $30 and would take :34.740 --> :38.760
back the coffee machine if I didn’t.
I told my husband to respond that she :38.760 --> :42.360
could come take it back cause I was not gonna give her the $30.
:42.360 --> :48.540
My husband is not okay with that because he got
"attached" to the machine, whatever that means,
:48.540 --> :52.800 and to just give her the $30. I
told my husband if he wanted to :52.800 --> :56.220
keep the machine then he should give his mom the money she wants.
:56.220 --> :01.740
He said I needed to do it because the gift is
originally mine, even though I never asked for
:01.740 --> :06.300 it. He said I was making this harder than
it need to be and was selfish to not pay
:06.300 --> :12.600 the extra $30 for the coffee machine his mom
got me, especially knowing that he likes it. :12.600 --> :16.560
I have a hard time seeing how I’m
wrong so I’m coming here because :16.560 --> :19.500
there might be a chance that i AM in the wrong. :19.500 --> :24.060
Should I just give his mom the $30 like she asks and be done with it?
:44.760 --> :45.432 Posted by :45.432 --> :47.400
u/Cheap-Arm-2966 4 hours ago :47.400 --> :01.080
AITA for ditching my ‘assigned’ bridesmaid at a
wedding for one that is younger and a different
:01.080 --> :06.300 race as me? I ended up leaving the wedding early
One of my good friends from college was getting
:06.300 --> :11.100 married (call him Tom) to his wife (call
her Liz) and asked me to be one of his :11.100 --> :15.000
groomsmen. I was honored, I haven’t seen him
in a while because I live across the country. :15.000 --> :21.960
When I arrived to his city, I was ‘assigned’
a bridesmaid call her Kelly. Now Kelly is a
:21.960 --> :25.380 lovely woman however, I think we were
only assigned each other because we are
:25.380 --> :29.700 both black. Liz starts telling me that we
are both single and perfect for each other,
:29.700 --> :34.440 but there was nothing to indicate that at
all besides us both being black. I should
:34.440 --> :38.100 add as well that Liz had a lot more
bridesmaids than Tom had as groomsmen. :38.100 --> :43.140
The first night the entire wedding party went out
and it became clear that Kelly wanted to hook up.
:43.140 --> :50.040
I was not into her at all so I kindly turned her
down. She then starts interrogating me as to why,
:50.040 --> :54.480 I try to give a generic answer but she
starts listing off all of the reason why
:54.480 --> :00.060
we are so perfect together. I end up saying that
I don’t do the whole short term type thing and
:00.060 --> :05.700
as we both live in completely different states
there is no future here. She ends up cooling
:05.700 --> :09.840 off but then tells me that she respects me
more for that and that I am a stand up guy,
:09.840 --> :12.300 and the type of guy that she is looking for.
:12.300 --> :17.880
During the rest of the time we are there, one of
the other ‘unmatched’ bridesmaids (call her Jen)
:17.880 --> :23.760 starts messaging me privately and we hit it
off. The next day wedding ceremony goes well,
:23.760 --> :27.960 we have the reception and me and Kelly
do our entrance together and then dance
:27.960 --> :33.180 together for a bit. After a bit, I go to
the bar and Jen and I start to dance. At
:33.180 --> :38.160 this point Kelly is giving me dirty looks. I
just ignore it and continue having a good time. :38.160 --> :42.600
All is going well until when I am at
the bar, Kelly and the Liz confront me :42.600 --> :47.400
and starts saying that me dancing with Jen
is inappropriate. They start saying she is
:47.400 --> :54.720 too young for me that it looks creepy. (FWIW
I am 32 and she is 24 about to turn 25). I am
:54.720 --> :59.880
like oh it’s okay me and Jen are just friends.
Liz at this point is angry with me and starts
:59.880 --> :04.980 saying that Jen is in college (She is doing
her Masters) and that this is her wedding
:04.980 --> :09.540 and she doesn’t want to see that. Then Kelly
starts saying that I must have a fetish for
:09.540 --> :13.980 White women. At this point I realize that
there is no logical argument I can make. :13.980 --> :18.660
I tell Kelly and Liz that I really enjoyed
the wedding but I need to go to bed early
:18.660 --> :23.820 for my flight the next day. I leave and
go up to my hotel. 15 minutes later Jen
:23.820 --> :29.340
leaves early. 5 minutes after Jen came up, we
both get kicked out of the wedding party chat. :29.340 --> :34.440
I later find out from Tom that Kelly
was crying her eyes out. And that it :34.440 --> :38.280
messed up the night for Liz as well. He
told me that he isn’t mad at me because
:38.280 --> :41.220 he told Liz from the start that
Kelly isn’t going to be my type, :41.220 --> :47.520
but instead Liz really wanted to set Kelly up.
At this point I feel terrible that I made it so
:47.520 --> :53.460 Liz was not able to enjoy her special night,
as for Kelly I just wish she got no means no. :00.900 --> :05.220
Posted by :05.220 --> :06.180 u/IntrepidOven7449 11 hours ago
:09.420 --> :13.140 AITA for telling my daughter’s
:13.140 --> :18.420 teacher that she is being freaking stupid?
Hi Reddit. I really lost my cool yesterday and
:18.420 --> :22.860
I’m feeling really crapy about it, so I thought
I’d ask some internet strangers for clarity. :22.860 --> :25.620
My 11 year old daughter is in 6th grade this year,
:25.620 --> :32.280
and she’s been working really hard in math. She
has gotten over 80% in every class test so far,
:32.280 --> :37.860
by sheer blood sweat and tears. She never used
to be particularly good at school and exams,
:37.860 --> :42.120 she’s of course an amazing kid in a million
ways but really struggled with math, :42.120 --> :47.700
and other subjects as well. Her math teacher has
a pinboard where she posts the names of two kids
:47.700 --> :53.940
that have “worked the hardest” that week. She
gives those kids a small reward, like a chocolate
:53.940 --> :58.920 bar. I thought this was a good idea, because
it motivates the kids who struggle with math. :58.920 --> :04.080
My daughter was crying a few weeks ago about
how she’s never been picked as the week’s
:04.080 --> :09.000
hard worker. I asked her how the teacher picks,
and she said she doesn’t really know, but it’s
:09.000 --> :14.220 usually kids who don’t do so great in tests.
If they show a little improvement, they go on
:14.220 --> :19.500
the board. This seemed really unfair to the kids
who work hard and score well, like my daughter. :19.500 --> :24.420
Yesterday we had the first parent teacher meeting
of the year, and I brought this up to the math
:24.420 --> :29.760 teacher. She basically said my daughter does
well only because she is naturally “talented”,
:29.760 --> :34.920 so she only wants to give the hard worker
reward to kids who are actually working for
:34.920 --> :40.140 every mark. I just blew up on her. I yelled
at her and called her a freaking idiot,
:40.140 --> :45.240
and that she has no idea how much my daughter
studies even though she’s only in 6th grade for
:45.240 --> :50.640
freak’s sake. I said it’s really unfair to so
obviously favor kids who don’t get good grades. :50.640 --> :55.800
I feel guilty for making a scene, and
also is the teacher right here? I might
:55.800 --> :06.660 be biased because I’m not a teacher,
and my daughter is involved. AITA? :12.420 --> :17.580 Posted by
:17.580 --> :20.460 u/First-Statement7292 8 hours ago
:20.460 --> :32.160 AITA for accidentally getting my friend high?
Hi reddit. :32.160 --> :39.360
I (20f) had my friend (21f), let's call
her Alice, over at my place the other day,
:39.360 --> :43.500 we had just come home from a bar for a
lil’ nightcap since everything had closed
:43.500 --> :48.120 by that point. When we got to my apartment I
quickly went to the bathroom and told Alice
:48.120 --> :54.240
to make herself at home. Suddenly, maybe 10 min
later, she started acting really weird. Like,
:54.240 --> :59.160 she was slurring her words in an excessive
way and seemed to be completely spaced out.
:59.160 --> :05.340
I was incredibly confused because she had barely
drank when we were out, and now she was out of it. :05.340 --> :09.660
My first thought was that she could have
been drugged at the bar we just were at.
:09.660 --> :15.000 Whilst trying to figure out WTF I'm supposed
to do - she asked me what flavor my vape was,
:15.000 --> :19.740 which confused me because I do not
vape, nor do I smoke. I asked her :19.740 --> :25.080
what she meant, and she pointed at a vape on
my bookshelf. That's when everything clicked. :25.080 --> :32.520
For my 20th birthday a friend (20m) had bought me
a THC vape. My gift would be tickets to watch the
:32.520 --> :37.500
new Spider-Man movie high. I am not a stoner,
but I maybe once or twice a year smoke with
:37.500 --> :42.780
friends just for fun. Anyway, I hadn’t smoked
it since then, so it was just lying on the top
:42.780 --> :48.780
of my bookshelf. I am short, so I never see it
- hence me suppressing its existence. Alice,
:48.780 --> :53.400 however, is very tall. She must have been
looking around whilst I was in the bathroom,
:53.400 --> :00.240
seen the vape (which looks very unassuming, like
any vape) and taken some puffs. Mind you, I do not
:00.240 --> :06.420
know what the freak type of vape this is because I
remember taking max two puffs and I had a complete
:06.420 --> :11.640
out-of-body experience, and I don't even know
how many puffs she took - she is an avid vaper. :11.640 --> :18.240
I asked her if she had smoked that vape, and she
said yes. Now, Alice is extremely anti drugs.
:18.240 --> :23.580 Her father was a heroin addict, so she never
did anything except drink alcohol. I always
:23.580 --> :28.500 had a total understanding and full respect
to her disposition to drugs - so i NEVER,
:28.500 --> :34.320
EVER did drugs in front of her (I have only ever
smoked weed & did the occasional molly festivals,
:34.320 --> :40.140
as you do lol)She completely (understandably)
freaked out and started crying. I tried calming
:40.140 --> :45.900 her as much as I could, I tried giving her
food and water or ANYTHING to sober her up,
:45.900 --> :50.880
but she screamed at me that I had drugged her. She
said she couldn't believe I had done this to her
:50.880 --> :54.900 etc. I had to call her boyfriend and
explain the situation, and he picked her up. :54.900 --> :00.960
I feel freaking awful. My stomach drops even
thinking about it. If I had remembered the
:00.960 --> :04.860 vape of course I would have stashed it
away more safely! But, I hadn’t planned
:04.860 --> :09.540 on her coming over until we went to my place
and by the point we were home I was tipsy,
:09.540 --> :13.980 and the thought didn't even cross my mind,
just as it hadn’t since I had put it on the
:13.980 --> :20.040
shelf! As soon as she left I sent a huge apology
text to her, but she left me to read. I get it. :20.040 --> :24.000
She has since blocked me everywhere and
shunned me to all our mutual friends, :24.000 --> :29.700
who are all torn on the issue. I have barely
slept since, I can't eat, I feel so bad. :47.640 --> :48.000 AITA?
:48.000 --> :49.560 Posted by :49.560 --> :50.940
u/Blackwidow221 10 hours ago :52.680 --> :02.400
AITA for ignoring my husband on our anniversary?
I work long hours (16+ 3-4 days a week at
:02.400 --> :07.740
minimum). I put my meds in one of those weekly
cases and take them daily, the pill bottle with
:07.740 --> :12.600
remaining pills is on my dresser in my bedroom.
Last week, after not seeing my husband for several
:12.600 --> :17.460
days, due to working, he mentioned to me that
he's been taking my extra meds (Adderall for
:17.460 --> :22.380
those wondering). I told him those weren't extra
and after looking in the bottle told him that now
:22.380 --> :26.040 I didn't have enough to get me through the
rest of the month. I usually only take the
:26.040 --> :31.440
adderal on days I'm working, because that's when
I need to be focused (hence the extra sometimes),
:31.440 --> :36.840
but I've been working a ton of overtime lately
to catch up on bills. So the following week,
:36.840 --> :42.480
I'm back to working a ton of hours and barely
being home. I go to fill my weekly med pack
:42.480 --> :49.260
and the bottle of adderal is empty. I wake my
husband to ask what happened. He replies that
:49.260 --> :54.360
he finished them. I get upset and start yelling
at him. He apologizes and says that he thought it
:54.360 --> :01.200
would be ok, since I could take these (handing
me my step son's medication). I am furious and
:01.200 --> :07.440
explain to him that 1) I am not stealing my sons
meds and 2) his meds are a different strength and
:07.440 --> :12.600
long acting whereas mine are immediate release.
(I do want to mention that my son just left for
:12.600 --> :18.420
boot camp and won't be home for several months
therefor doesnt "need" these). Today happens to
:18.420 --> :24.000
be our anniversary and my husband is saying that
I shouldn't be mad at him, he's sorry, blah blah
:24.000 --> :28.740
blah. Am I being an jerk or do I have the right
to be mad? I don't even want to spend the day
:28.740 --> :33.720
with him today and it's our dang anniversary!
If you made it this far, thanks for reading. :33.720 --> :34.620
Posted by :36.660 --> :49.140 u/Ok-Drawing3144 14 hours ago
:05.520 --> :15.060
AITA for being blunt with my niece about learning
to accept she can't always get what she wants?
:15.060 --> :17.640
My brother has a daughter Macey, and his wife,
:17.640 --> :22.500 Ruth, has a daughter Skyler. My brother and
Ruth have been married since the girls (17f
:23.160 --> :29.580 currently) were both 6. Ruth's first husband
died when Skyler was 5 and Macey's mom chose
:29.580 --> :34.440 not to be in her life. Because the girls are
the same age my brother and Ruth decided that
:34.440 --> :39.300 it would be cute to treat them like twins
and Macey loved it while Skyler hated it. :39.300 --> :46.080
Macey always saw Skyler as her BFF and
sister. Skyler doesn't like Macey and I
:46.080 --> :50.040 don't think there has ever been a time she
has enjoyed spending time with Macey. I'm
:50.040 --> :56.340
almost positive she'd love to yeet her from her
life entirely. They were always pushed together
:56.340 --> :02.400
if Macey expressed an interest or mentioned to
her parents that she wanted time with Skyler. :02.400 --> :06.780
Two years ago the topic of college was first
brought up and a plan was made that the girls
:06.780 --> :11.760 would go to the same college if possible and
would request to be roommates if successful.
:11.760 --> :16.440
The plan was for them to attend college in the
same town and live in dorms for Freshman year
:16.440 --> :20.940
and the plan was further detailed to say they
would rent an apartment together for the other
:20.940 --> :26.280 three years. This was to keep them close and
to provide extra safety to them, apparently.
:26.280 --> :31.560 Skyler was never on board with the plan. I
heard her say it, my brother heard her say it,
:31.560 --> :36.660
Ruth heard her say it, Macey heard her say it,
Ruth's parents and my parents heard her say it,
:36.660 --> :42.660
my other brother heard her say it. We all did. But
my brother, Ruth and Macey decided to ignore this. :42.660 --> :47.340
Last month Macey heard Skyler talking to her
friends and they were talking about college
:47.340 --> :52.020 and she heard them making plans together
for college. She also heard Skyler say :52.020 --> :56.880
she'd pick the college furthest from her.
Macey was so upset and told her parents
:56.880 --> :01.620 and hellfire rained down on their house and
Skyler was in trouble for making those plans. :01.620 --> :07.440
Macey's emotions have been all over the place
these last few weeks. She goes from sad to
:07.440 --> :13.140
angry and even surprised that Skyler was angry
at her for telling her mom. My brother and Ruth
:13.140 --> :19.800 were framing it like poor Macey, she's the
victim here and I was in shock. I understand
:19.800 --> :24.600 her being upset that Skyler doesn't feel
the same way but this should not come as
:24.600 --> :30.000
a surprise to her. They are acting like Macey
is 6 and Skyler bullied her and treated some
:30.000 --> :35.100
much younger kid badly. When all she did was try
to do her own thing and get some independence. :35.100 --> :41.520
So when Macey came to me and complained to me
I was a lot harsher than maybe I should be. I
:41.520 --> :46.260 told her that Skyler does not owe it to her
to follow a plan everyone else made for her
:46.260 --> :50.460 and that she needs to learn some people
won't like her and she cannot force them.
:50.460 --> :55.620 I told her she needs to accept the reality;
which is Skyler and her are highly unlikely
:55.620 --> :00.120 to go to school together after senior year
and she's not going to see her all the time
:00.120 --> :07.680 like she wants. Macey was crying by the time
I finished. My brother and Ruth think I'm TA. :07.680 --> :07.911
AITA? :07.911 --> :08.360 Posted by u/beef-ox
:08.360 --> :09.960 1 day ago :21.060 --> :37.740
AITA Job pays $100k, wife complains I
need a different job because I “don’t :37.740 --> :41.436
make enough money to support our
family” I told her that’s ridiculous :41.436 --> :41.460
Not the A-hole Hi Reddit! :41.460 --> :46.920
My wife has been telling me for multiple years
to get a job that actually pays a living wage.
:46.920 --> :53.640
My job pays me $100k/yr. I have 4 kids and we
are late on paying bills almost every month. :53.640 --> :58.980
Today, my daughter got a huge glass of milk
and I had asked her not to drink milk since
:58.980 --> :03.660 it’s expensive and we need it for the
meals we have ingredients for. My wife :03.660 --> :07.920
got mad and told me that she can drink
as much milk as she likes and that it’s
:07.920 --> :12.300 ridiculous that I still work at the same
place that cannot support a family of 4. :12.300 --> :17.160
I yelled back. I told her the only problem
we actually have is how much she spends on
:17.160 --> :23.080 selfish garbage and she has no self-control
and just buys whatever she wants and that it
:23.080 --> :28.860
is HER that is not supporting this family and
it is HER that doesn’t have a job. She says
:28.860 --> :33.780 she will never respect me because I won’t do
what needs to be done like a “real husband and
:33.780 --> :39.900
father” would (aka quit my job and find one that
makes what she considers a livable wage, $250k+) :41.640 --> :47.640
I told her she’s out of her mind, that
$100k is a lot of money and way more :47.640 --> :52.080
than most people will ever make.
She told me to hire a CPA. When I :52.080 --> :58.080
said I can’t afford that she said “hmmmm”
with snark followed by a “whatever dude” :58.080 --> :59.400
Am I the jerk?? :59.400 --> :00.000 Posted by
:00.000 --> :04.440 u/accForRandomQs1 22 hours ago
:08.820 --> :28.440 AITA if I asked my GF to put on some
:28.440 --> :29.242 makeup for a party? Jerk
:29.242 --> :29.310 Edit: very clear I'm the jerk.
Won't make that mistake again😭😭 :29.310 --> :29.400
Edit 2: this was fun! Gonna be retiring this
throwaway now but I appreciate y'all's inputs :29.400 --> :31.740
So just typing out that title, :31.740 --> :36.720
it sounds terrible. I love my GF. I love
the way she looks. I love her humor, :36.720 --> :42.960
everything. We've been dating since college and
are now almost 30. (It hurt to type "almost 30" 😭) :42.960 --> :47.460
I was invited to a birthday party by some new
friends recently and they asked me if my GF
:47.460 --> :52.500 was coming. I always talk about her and hype
her up so they were all excited to meet her. :52.500 --> :59.340
The day of the party comes and she looks amazing!
She had some nice jeans on and a cute crop top.
:59.340 --> :03.720 I noticed she wasn't wearing any makeup so I
asked her if she were going to put some on. :03.720 --> :08.400
She took this terribly and made it sound
like I was making her out as some sort of
:08.400 --> :14.340 trophy wife/gf. Keep in mind I NEVER ask
this from her. When we go out on dates,
:14.340 --> :17.580 I could care less what she looks
like. It's also not like she never :17.580 --> :21.180
wears makeup. Whenever she goes out with the girls, she's all done up.
:21.180 --> :26.340 At least for me, if I were being introduced
to some friends of my GF, I would try to look
:26.340 --> :30.840 my absolute best for her. I want to look as
good as I can to make her look good as well!
:30.840 --> :36.120
We are practically married at this point and I
see her as an extension of me and vice-versa. :36.120 --> :41.880
I also understand I have no say/control in
what she wants to do/wear. So I most likely
:41.880 --> :44.760 am the jerk for even asking
it. Give it to me straight, :48.780 --> :49.212 AITAH.
:49.920 --> :50.175 Posted by :50.175 --> :51.300
u/Significant-Wolf-116 1 day ago :54.000 --> :00.886
AITA for faking an injury to get my sister to stop “pranking” me
:00.886 --> :07.380 Not the A-hole
My (17f) sister (15f) plays this “prank” where
:07.380 --> :12.780
she will turn the lights off every time I shower.
Our bathroom is weirdly long so I’ll have to get
:12.780 --> :18.540
out of the shower walk to the light switch turn
it back on then get back to the shower. It also
:18.540 --> :23.340
leaves a mess of water for me to clean up after
wards. And I can’t keep her out because the lock
:23.340 --> :28.860
is broken. My parents gave her a verbal warning
once but when she continued to do it there was no
:28.860 --> :33.840
real punishment. They just told me to just put up
with it and she’ll eventually get bored and stop. :33.840 --> :39.300
Well that didn’t work because she continued
this for three weeks. One day as I was getting
:39.300 --> :45.000 out the shower to turn the lights back on, I
almost slipped and fell. This gave me an idea,
:45.000 --> :49.140 I waited until the next time she tried to
pull this prank again. When she came to
:49.140 --> :54.420 turn the lights off I knocked all the stuff
off the shower caddy, the bottles on the tub
:54.420 --> :59.220 edge and the towel rack. I also pulled the
shower curtain down and quickly laid on the
:59.220 --> :05.760 ground. My mother burst in turned the lights
on and saw the mess plus me on the ground. She
:05.760 --> :10.860
ran up to me and asked if I was ok, I said no I
slipped in the dark and hurt myself pretty bad. :10.860 --> :17.040
After mom and dad helped me get settled they
turned on my sister. They yelled at her, took her
:17.040 --> :22.800
phone and grounded her for the rest of the week.
She was also forced to apologize to me and promise
:22.800 --> :28.620
to never do it again. When I told my boyfriend
about this he said what i did was cruel. Not only
:28.620 --> :34.020
did i unnecessarily scare my parents my sister
got punished for something that didn’t happen.
:34.020 --> :39.420 He says I could have just gotten a doorstop
for the bathroom or a lamp so it’s not as dark. :39.420 --> :43.920
I feel what I did was justified since
me getting injured was something that :43.920 --> :48.060
could actually happen. Am I am jerk or am I’m in the clear
:56.940 --> :59.880 Posted by u/Pale-Avocado3959
:59.880 --> :08.520 1 day ago Facepalm :08.520 --> :15.826
AITA for telling my friend that she
shouldn't wear a bikini to the pool? :15.826 --> :17.100
Not the A-hole My best friend was :17.100 --> :21.180
visiting me this week and since it's summer
we decided we wanted to go to the pool. :21.180 --> :26.880
She has been on antidepressants for the past two
years which has made her gain a ton of weight. She
:26.880 --> :32.520
used to be very slim and skinny like me but the
meds have completely changed her body composition. :32.520 --> :37.080
She brought a few bathing suits and was
asking for my opinion on them. She had a
:37.080 --> :41.820 one piece and a bikini she was deciding
between. She kept saying she looked too
:41.820 --> :46.080 fat in the bikini and might wear the
one piece, I actually thought the one :46.080 --> :49.740
piece looked better but I didn't say anything because it was up to her.
:49.740 --> :55.620
She modeled both for me and asked for my opinion.
All I said was "I like the one piece better!". :55.620 --> :00.300
She asked me if I thought she looked fat
in the bikini, and I said no I just like
:00.300 --> :05.280 the other one better. She started to
act super triggered and kept accusing :05.280 --> :09.960
me of thinking she's fat and I told her
to f off and wear whatever she wants. :09.960 --> :15.060
She put on the one piece and kept making
snarky comments about how I think she's fat
:15.060 --> :20.040 and I would ignore her but she kept
taunting me with comments so I just :20.040 --> :23.880
snapped and said "yeah you shouldn't wear
a bikini cause it doesn't look good on you,
:23.880 --> :26.820 happy now? is that what you
wanted me to say so badly?" :27.420 --> :32.100
She just started packing her bags and went
somewhere, I haven't heard from her since. I
:32.100 --> :36.900
heard from our mutual friend Allie that she's
safe she just went to a hotel and rebooked
:36.900 --> :41.400
her flight. But allie told me that apparently
my friend told her that I called her fat and
:41.400 --> :45.780 Allie says I could've handled the situation
better even when I told her the real story. :48.660 --> :48.840 AITA?
:48.840 --> :49.440 Posted by u/Expensive_Page_8666
:49.440 --> :54.120 1 day ago Facepalm :54.120 --> :17.460
WIBTA for telling my sister I won’t attend
her wedding because I hate her fiancé? :17.460 --> :19.020 Jerk
Older Sister - “Brooke”, :19.020 --> :29.160
32 F Fiancé - “Mark”, 32 M Me - no nickname
necessary, 25 F Younger Sister - “Jenny”, 22 F :29.160 --> :34.920
My sister, call her Brooke, has been together with
Mark since freshman year of high school. As far as
:34.920 --> :39.960
I understand it, they did not want to get married
initially because Brooke is vehemently child-free,
:39.960 --> :46.140
and Mark agrees with her, but they have decided
to hold a wedding/commitment ceremony next spring
:46.140 --> :51.300 after a lot of years of back and forth. The
problem is, I’ve known Mark since I was a
:51.300 --> :55.740
kid (he started coming around to the house a lot
when he and Brooke were sophomores in high school,
:55.740 --> :01.140 so I was eight or so when I first met him as
Brooke’s boyfriend, and I have basically hated
:01.140 --> :06.480 him the whole time. I’ve tried to be polite,
particularly now that we are all adults, but I
:06.480 --> :11.160
just don’t want to go to the wedding of my sister
and the guy she’s always put before her family. :11.160 --> :14.220
As an example, when Brooke and Mark started dating,
:14.220 --> :19.020 Brooke went from eating dinner at home
with the rest of us every night to going
:19.020 --> :23.820
out two or three times a week with Mark and his
friends. This was against our parent’s rules,
:23.820 --> :30.060
and caused a lot of arguments that negatively
impacted both me and our younger sister Jenny
:30.060 --> :34.260 (who was barely in kindergarten at the time
and didn’t understand what was going on). :34.260 --> :37.740
Brooke and our parents started fighting basically every night,
:37.740 --> :41.940 and it was incredibly disruptive to
our home life. My sister went from :41.940 --> :47.400
being my best friend to a stranger, and Mark was the one encouraging it.
:47.400 --> :52.380 The stress of those years was so bad that
I had to repeat fourth grade (failed math),
:52.380 --> :57.420 and I was bullied really badly for that.
I stopped going to school looking nice :57.420 --> :01.380
because there was so much tension in the
home that no one was paying attention to
:01.380 --> :07.380
whether or not I had clean clothes. Jenny also
struggled academically and socially but I was
:07.380 --> :12.120
able to step in and help her more with things
like getting dressed and packing her lunch,
:12.120 --> :15.780 so she doesn’t remember those
years as negatively as I do. :15.780 --> :20.940
Of course, as soon as Brooke and Mark graduated
he convinced her to move across the country to go
:20.940 --> :25.440 to college. Our parents were really hurt
by this and there were a few years where
:25.440 --> :31.320
she didn’t come home over Christmas or summers.
Eventually things cooled down when I was in high
:31.320 --> :36.120
school and Brooke started making more contact
with our family, but Mark would do things like
:36.120 --> :41.220
glare at our parents over the dinner table and
suddenly declare that it was time for them to go. :41.220 --> :46.260
I don’t think I should have to go to the wedding
of my sister and this guy that stole her from us,
:46.260 --> :52.620 and I am planning on RSVP-ing “no” when the
time comes. Our family has been minimally
:52.620 --> :56.820 involved in wedding planning, and I am
not in the bridal party or anything like
:56.820 --> :00.660 that (they are all friends of Brooke and
Mark’s from the hospital where they work). :16.860 --> :17.100 WIBTA? | give me a good story on rAITAIHATEMYSISTERSFIANCERedditStoriesen |
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my husband cheated on me in our 10-year-old relationship with a
surrogate who was caring our child and thought that he could hide it forever he
was a fool I 33f never thought I'd be in this
situation but here I am questioning my marriage and feeling lost this is a long
and complicated story so please bear with me as I try to explain everything I
come from a wealthy family my father is a successful businessman and I've always
had a privileged life I received a good education and never really wanted for
anything despite this I always tried to remain grounded and see the best in
people 6 years ago I met Alex at a restaurant where he worked as a waiter I
was instantly drawn to him there was something about his warm smile and kind
eyes that caught my attention we started talking and I found myself visiting the
restaurant more often just to see him as we got to know each other I learned
about Alex's background he was an orphan who had faced many challenges in life
he' worked hard to make something of himself and I admired his resilience and
determination despite not having much he always had a positive outlook on life
our friendship quickly turned into something more we started dating and I
fell head over heels in love Alex was different from anyone I'd ever met he
was kind hardworking and genuine I felt like I could be myself around him
without any pretenses or expectations after about a year of
dating I knew I wanted to marry Alex when I told my father about my
intentions he was not pleased he warned me against rushing into marriage
especially with someone from such a different background he was concerned
that Alex might be after my money or social
status I tried to explain to my father that Alex wasn't like that I told him
about Alex's character his work ethic and how he made me feel but my father
remained skeptical he told me that if I insisted on marrying Alex I should at
least protect myself with a prenuptial agreement the idea of a prenup felt
offensive to me Alex had practically no assets and I felt like asking for a
prenup would be insulting to him it felt like I was putting a price tag on our
love I argued with my father about this but he was adamant he even went as far
as to threaten cutting me out of his will if I didn't agree to the prenup I
was torn on one hand I didn't want to upset my father or risk my inheritance
on the other hand I didn't want to start my marriage on a foundation of mistrust
after much deliberation I decided to talk to Alex about it to my surprise
Alex was understanding about the prenup he said he had nothing to hide and if it
made my father feel more comfortable he was willing to sign it we agreed on a
temporary prenup that would dissolve after 7 years of marriage with that
settled we got married after 2 years of dating it was a beautiful ceremony
though I could tell my father was still not entirely happy about the union
nevertheless I was overjoyed to be starting my life with Alex after the
wedding Alex moved into my apartment it was a big change for both of us but we
were excited to begin our life together I helped Alex enroll in a diploma
program to further his education I paid for his tuition and covered all our
living expenses since Alex's income from his part-time job wasn't much the first
year of our marriage was Blissful we were happy and in love enjoying our time
together and dreaming about our future we decided to start trying for a baby
I've always wanted to be a mother and Alex was excited about the prospect of
starting a family however things didn't go as planned month after month passed
and I wasn't getting pregnant we tried everything tracking my ovulation
changing our diets even trying alternative therapies nothing seemed to
work finally after almost a year of trying I got pregnant we were Overjoyed
we started making plans thinking of names and imagining our life with a baby
but our happiness was shortlived in the fourth month of my pregnancy I
miscarried the loss was devastating I felt like a failure as a woman and as a
wife Alex tried his best to comfort me but I could see the disappointment in
his eyes too we decided to see a fertility specialist to understand what
was happening after numerous tests and consultations we received heartbreaking
news due to some complications I would not be able to carry a baby to term the
doctor explained the risks and advised against trying to conceive naturally I
was crushed I fell into a deep depression withdrawing from Alex and
everyone else I felt like I had failed him failed us Alex tried to be
supportive but I could sense his frustration and disappointment too for
the next few years we tried to move on with our lives Alex completed his
diploma and started looking for better job opportunities I continued working at
my father's company trying to lose myself in work to forget about my
inability to have children after 5 years of marriage Alex brought up the idea of
surrogacy he had been researching Alternatives and and thought this might
be a good option for us at first I was hesitant the idea of another woman
carrying our child felt strange to me but as Alex explained more about the
process I started to warm up to the idea we visited a fertility clinic and began
the surrogacy process it was a long and complicated Journey involving numerous
medical procedures and legal consultations we also had to find a
suitable surrogate that's when we met Tanya 28f she was young healthy and had
successfully carried a child before Tanya needed money for her father's
medical treatment which is why she had decided to become a surrogate we felt an
instant connection with her and decided she would be the perfect surrogate for
our baby we used my egg in Alex's sperm for the surrogacy the process was
successful and Tanya became pregnant with our child I was overjoyed but also
nervous I wanted to make sure everything went perfectly I asked Tanya to move
into our apartment for the duration of the pregnancy I wanted to be able to
monitor her health and make sure she was
comfortable Tanya agreed and we set up a room for her in our home at first
everything seemed fine I treated Tanya like a sister taking care of her needs
and accompanying her to all her doctor's appointments Alex was supportive too
though he seemed a bit uncomfortable with the new living
Arrangement as the pregnancy progressed I noticed Alex becoming more distant he
started working longer hours and seemed distracted when he was home when I asked
him about it he said he felt awkward with Tanya in the house he said it was
strange to have a pregnant woman around who wasn't his wife I tried to
understand his perspective and not worry
too much about it I focused on preparing for the baby's arrival setting up the
ner nursery and making sure Tanya was comfortable after 9 months Tanya gave
birth to a beautiful baby girl it was one of the happiest moments of my life
holding our daughter for the first time I felt a love I had never experienced
before Alex seemed happy too though I noticed he was a bit reserved with the
baby at first I asked Tanya to stay with us for
a few more months to help with the baby she agreed and we fell into a routine of
caring for our newborn daughter I was exhausted but happy finally feeling like
I had the family I had always dreamed of but as the weeks passed I started
noticing some strange things Alex and Tanya seemed to have developed a close
Bond they often had inside jokes that I didn't understand and I sometimes caught
them whispering to each other when they thought I wasn't looking I tried to
brush off my suspicions after all they had spent a lot of time together during
the pregnancy while I was at work it was natural that they would become friends
right but a nagging feeling in my gut told me something wasn't
right one night I woke up to check on the baby and found Alex's side of the
bed empty I heard voices coming from the kitchen
and went to investigate I found Alex and Tanya sitting close together at the
kitchen table talking in hushed tones they jumped apart when they saw me
looking guilty when I questioned Alex about it later he said Tanya had been
having trouble sleeping and he was just keeping her company but something about
his explanation didn't sit right with me
I started paying more attention to their interactions I noticed the way Alex's
eyes would Linger on Tanya the way they seemed to gravitate towards each other
in a room there was a tension between them that I couldn't explain I've been
racking my brain trying to figure out what to do am I overreacting am I seeing
things that aren't there because of my own insecurities or is there really
something going on between my husband and our surrogate part of me wants to
confront them both to demand the truth but another part of me is terrified of
what I might discover what if my suspicions are true what would that mean
for our marriage for our daughter I feel like I'm going crazy I can't sleep I
can't eat I'm constantly on edge watching their every move trying to
catch them in the act this isn't the person I want to be but I don't know how
to stop these thoughts I've considered talking to my father about this but I'm
afraid of what he might say he never fully approved of Alex and I'm worried
he'll use this situation to say I told you so I'm also worried about what this
could mean for our daughter if Alex and Tanya are indeed having an affair how
will that affect our little girl she's innocent in all of this and the thought
of her growing up in a broken home breaks my heart I've thought about
hiring a private investigator to get to the bottom of this but that feels like a
betrayal of trust if I'm wrong and Alex finds out I've been spying on him it
could irreparably damage our marriage I've also considered suggesting that
Tanya move out but I'm afraid that if there is something going on they'll just
find ways to meet in secret at least with Tanya living with us I can keep an
eye on things I feel like I'm at a Crossroads and I don't know which way to
turn should I confront Alex and T should I try to gather more evidence should I
just trust my husband and ignore my suspicions I never thought I'd be in
this position when I married Alex I thought we'd have our happily ever after
I stood by him when my father disapproved I supported him through his
education I went through the Heartbreak of infertility with him and now just
when we finally have the family we've always wanted I find myself questioning
everything I would appreciate any advice
or perspectives on this situation I feel so alone and confused and I don't know
who to turn to thank you for reading this far and for any insights you can offer
update it's been 6 months since I last posted and a lot has happened I wish I
could say things got better but unfortunately they got much worse I'm
still in shock over what transpired but I'll try to explain everything as
clearly as I can our daughter was born healthy and beautiful the first few
months were a whirlwind of sleepless nights diaper changes and adjusting to
life as new parents Tanya continued to live with us helping with the baby I was
grateful for the extra help but I couldn't shake the uneasy feeling I had
about her relationship with Alex I tried
to push my suspicions aside and focus on our new family I threw myself into
motherhood cherishing every moment with our
daughter Alex seemed to be warming up to fatherhood too but there was still a
distance between us that I couldn't explain one day I was supposed to work
late I had a big project do and I told Alex I wouldn't be home until after
dinner however I managed to finish my work earlier than expected I decided to
surprise Everyone by coming home early when I arrived home I immediately sensed
something was wrong the house was too quiet as I walked in I heard our
daughter crying from her Nursery the cry sounded distressed like she had been
crying for a while I rushed to the nursery and found
our baby girl red-faced and wailing in her crib she was clearly upset and had
been left unattended for some time I picked her up trying to sooe her all
while wondering where Alex and Tanya were a sense of dread washed over me as
I realized they were nowhere to be seen I checked the living room the kitchen
and even Tanya's room but they weren't there with my heart pounding I
approached our bedroom as I got closer I heard muffled sounds coming from inside
I pushed the door open and what I saw shattered my world Alex and Tanya were
in our bed intimately entangled they were so engrossed in each other that
they didn't even notice me at first I stood there Frozen in shock unable to
process what I was seeing when they finally realized I was there chaos
ensued Tanya scrambled to cover herself her face a mix of fear and guilt Alex
jumped up fumbling for Words trying to come up with excuses that made no sense
I couldn't speak the Betrayal was so overwhelming that I felt physically ill
I just stood there holding our crying daughter as my world crumbled around me
when I finally found my voice all I could say was that they needed to leave
I told them to pack their things and get out of my house immed immediately I
needed time to think to process what had happened Alex tried to explain to make
excuses but I couldn't bear to hear it I took our daughter and left the room
giving them time to get dressed and pack I sat in the nursery holding our baby
close trying to calm both her and myself an hour later they were gone the house
felt empty I couldn't believe how quickly my life had fallen apart over
the next few days I was in a days I called in sick to work and focused on
taking care of our daughter I couldn't eat or sleep every time I closed my eyes
I saw them together in our bed Alex tried to call and text me multiple times
but I couldn't bring myself to respond I needed time to figure out what I wanted
to do after a week I finally agreed to talk to Alex on the phone I asked him
what he wanted hoping against hope that he would beg for forgiveness that he
would choose our family his response left me cold he told me without a hint
of shame that he was in love with Tanya he wanted her to live with us to be a
part of our family he even had the audacity to blame me for his infidel
saying that my focus on the baby had pushed him away I was stunned by his
selfishness how could he think I would ever agree to such an arrangement how
could he blame me for his betrayal I told him that was absolutely not an
option our marriage was over I couldn't trust him anymore and I certainly
couldn't live with the woman he had cheated on me with after that
conversation I knew what I had to do I contacted a lawyer and filed for divorce
it was a painful decision but I knew it was the right one I couldn't stay in a
marriage without trust or respect the heart hardest part was figuring out what
to do about our daughter despite everything I didn't want her to grow up
without a father after much deliberation and discussions with my loyer I agreed
to a 50-50 custody Arrangement it broke my heart to be away from my baby girl
for half the time but I believed it was in her best interest to have both
parents in her life the divorce proceedings were difficult Alex fought
me on every point trying to get more than his fair share of our assets I was
grateful for the prup we had signed as it protected most of my assets still it
was a long and drain process throughout all of this I struggled with intense
feelings of betrayal and self-doubt I kept replaying every moment of our
relationship wondering if there were signs I had missed I questioned whether
I had done something to drive Alex away but as time passed I realized that
Alex's actions were not my fault he made the choice to betray our marriage vows
he chose to have an affair with Tanya disregarding the impact it would have on
our family I also had to deal with the added
pain of Tanya's betrayal I had welcomed her into our home treated her like
family the fact that she could do this to me to
our daughter was almost harder to Bear than Alex's infidelity my father when he
found out what happened was Furious he wanted to cut Alex off completely to
fight for full custody of our daughter it took a lot of convincing to get him
to understand why I had agreed to shared custody the hardest part was explaining
the situation to friends and family I felt humiliated having to admit that my
husband had cheated on me with our surate many people were shocked offering
support and condolences others I could tell had suspected something something
was going on as for Tanya and Alex last I heard they were living together the
thought of them raising my daughter half
the time is still painful but I'm trying to come to terms with it I've made it
clear to Alex that Tanya is not to play a motherly role in our daughter's life
she may be present but she is not to be introduced as anything more than Alex's
partner these past few months have been the hardest of my life there are days
when I can barely get out of bed when the pain and anger threatened to
overwhelm me but I'm trying to stay strong for my daughter she needs me to
be the best mother I can be I've started seeing a therapist to help me process
everything that's happened it's been helpful to have someone to talk to
someone who can help me work through my feelings of betrayal and loss I'm also
focusing on rebuilding my life I've thrown myself into my work finding
solace in my career I've reconnected with old friends and tried to build a
support system outside of my marriage on
the days when I don't have my daughter I feel lost the house feels too big too
empty I'm considering moving to a new place somewhere with the memories of my
life with Alex as for the future I'm taking it one day at a time right now my
priority is being the best mother I can be to my daughter I'm not ready to think
about dating or finding a new relationship the thought of trusting
someone again seems impossible right now I know I have a long road ahead of me
co-parenting with Alex and having to see Tanya during handovers is going to be
challenging but I'm determined to make it work for my daughter's
sake looking back at my original post I realize now that my instincts were right
I should have trusted my gut feeling that something was wrong but I can't
dwell on the past all I can do now is move forward and try to create the best
life possible for myself and my daughter to anyone who might be in a similar
situation trust your instincts don't ignore the red flags and remember you
deserve to be with someone who respects you and your relationship thank you to
everyone who offered advice on my original post your support meant more than you
know I'm still navigating this new reality
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aita for telling my sister she needs to
get her daughter some help and she can't keep ignoring the problem my sister was
a single mom to Ava 9f before she got married last year it was just the two of
them before my sister met Nick and moved in with him and his kids now it's Nick
my sister Nick's three kids who are pre-teens or teenagers and Ava Ava never
met her dad Ava's always had social problems this isn't even the first time
I raised my concerns to my sister about Ava but now that it's no longer the two
of them it is presenting itself far more and is causing far more issues than
before these social problems are generally around how she talks to people
she tells them what she likes because her own brain says her interests are
best and everyone else is supposed to like them because other things are dumb
she gets angry when this is challenged or ignored by others to the point she
will yell at them but then she can't figure out why they get mad right back
at her and I do believe her that she doesn't understand it both upsets and
confuses her she can't understand kids in school bullying her and the fact that
she can never keep a friend she also invites herself into games Uninvited and
then gets upset SL mad when plans are kept that were not planned with her like
playing with the neighborhood kids and getting upset they want to the park
which they plan to do already because the park is awful and she hates it she
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I 25f am pregnant and my husband 27m suddenly wants to move back to bellus
suddenly he seems to think he has the right to make decisions for both of us
how do I manage this with a clear mind my husband and I live in Sweden I moved
there with my family when I was very young as my mother is Swedish however he
only moved here about 7 years ago we were together for almost 6 years and we
married each other about 6 months ago I found out I was pregnant about 2 months
ago I'm about 13 weeks pregnant now and everything seems to be going well all
our tests have been clear so far and I am healthy my husband and I are both
very happy and I'm quite excited to be having a baby although nervous I was
very nervous about pregnancy hence why it was an accidental pregnancy but so
far it's been all right other than the nausea this was until my husband told me
he wanted to move countries I am still a
dual citizen of both Sweden and bellarus my husband also is however I feel no
need to go back there the last time I did was when I was 13 I've lost most of
my Russian and I don't like the situation over there most of my family
is here and I've always felt more at home here than I ever have there my
husband explained he had applied for a job there and he thinks we would have a
better life there and so would our child I got really upset I told him that he
can't just make this decision | give me a good story on IFampregnantandmyhusbandMsuddenlywantstomovebacktoBelarusSuddenlyhe |
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would you be the jerk for being upset with your roommate for inviting a guy
over and then leaving you two alone we'll get into that in a bit but first
am I the jerk for telling my sister that the name she chose for her son was not
our Grandpa's actual name but a nickname he hated my sister wanted to honor our
late grandpa in her son's name and chose to call her son Bobby which is what
pretty much everyone called our grandpa she mentioned the name being so special
because it was his beloved great grandpa's name and that it would be so
special for our grandpa to have his name
live on so here's the thing Bobby was my grandpa's nickname and he hated it his
actual name was Cyrus which was Grandpa's mom's maiden name Grandpa was
named that by her and after she died and his dad remarried they started to call
him Bobby because his Stepmother's dad was Robert Grandpa always hated Bobby
but after years of people refusing to listen he gave in he had a handful of
friends who called him Cyrus or Psy but that was it I told my sister this and
she was upset and asked why he hated Bobby Bobby's so cute I asked her how
she'd feel to be named after her late parent and for his surviving parent and
step parent to then rename you after the step parent's side unofficially but to
the point where it sticks more than your actual name she was glad at first but
after a few weeks she snapped and told me she doesn't like Cyrus and that I
ruined the name Bobby for her am I the jerk for telling her the truth yeah I
don't think Opie's The Jerk here if you're gonna name your kid after another
person to try to leave like a lasting Legacy it's probably important to
actually understand the foundations behind that person and their name all
this really tells me was that she wasn't that close with the grandpa because I'm
willing to bet anybody that was close enough to that Grandpa he probably would
have mentioned also hi I'm Steven and if
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story is am I the jerk for giving my dad the ultimatum of wearing diapers or
going to a nursing home I'm 19 and my dad is 56. his biggest fear is ending up
in a nursing home he's also had an issue controlling his bowels for over a year
now and I suspect it's because he will regularly refuse to eat and will drink
beer all day until dinner I've brought this up to him and he said it's fasting
and that it's good for him I told him it's not fasting it's just drinking on
an empty stomach and he got upset and just said his bowel problem is old age
but I don't think he's quite old enough for that to be the issue there's stains
in the carpet all over the house from times he hasn't made it it's disgusting
and I can't afford new carpet and neither can he I just ran the carpet
cleaner over it after getting up all the big stuff and that's the best I can do
for now today I was in the kitchen cooking dinner and he was sitting at the
table he stood up and said I have to go crap actually I'm crapping right now I
thought he was joking at first until I started hearing it hit the floor he
stripped down drifted all over the floor and smeared it around with paper towels
in an attempt to clean it up I was ticked at this point because he knows he
has this problem and refuses to wear diapers and now I'm playing hopscotch
trying not to burn anything I ended up having to shut the stove off and clean
it up myself and at this point I had no appetite left so I just made a plate for
him and my brother and started getting ready to put it away whenever he got
down from the shower I told him he needs to work with me on this to get it
figured out because I'm not going to keep dealing with this and I'll pay
someone else to if I have to I told him he needs to at least wear diapers or
he's ending up in the nursing home I know this was harsh but I've just been
so fed up with it he tried to blame me by saying I made him come in the kitchen
for dinner and it took him farther away from the bath bathroom I never made him
sit there and he didn't even make it out of the kitchen so I know he wouldn't
have made it from anywhere else in the house either he was really embarrassed
and started crying though and said he's not happy about it either and when I
came to apologize later for making him so upset he just kept saying whatever
and saying he didn't want to hear it I know I'm not wrong for expecting him to
at least try to work with me but was I The Jerk for threatening him with a
nursing home over it coming back to add that me and my sister have talked on the
phone for a bit and she's willing to let my little brother move in and he seems
to be on board I would rather stay to try to help take care of him the best I
can but I thought it would be comforting for you guys to know that my little
brother won't have to deal with the situation anymore I've also talked to my
dad a little and he got a little freaked out when I mentioned possible issues
with his liver and maybe colon cancer and he's going to try to see someone
soon he still hung up on the incontinence AIDS but a step is being
made thank you everyone so far for your advice yeah I would definitely say the
first step is definitely seeing somebody
because it sounds to me like there could be an issue going on also I know it's
not necessarily possible depending on what medical conditions they got going
on but having like a fiber supplement might really help in this situation
you'd be surprised how much a little Metamucil every single day can really
help either way I hope for op and the carpet's sake that they can get this
figured out all I'm saying is is if I was at the point where I was making
messes regularly I wouldn't be too prideful I'd wear whatever I have to
wear to make sure that I didn't ruin the carpet and the flooring and create a
disgusting mess that requires help from other people I'd be so embarrassed if
somebody else had to come help wipe up my mess let's just say because I was too
prideful our next story is am I the jerk for refusing that my sick mother-in-law
to move into my house I'm a mother of four children aging from 10 to 16 and I
work in marketing our house is pretty decent in size each two of the four kids
share a room then my husband and I bedroom so in total we have three
sleeping rooms and no extras for sleeping my husband's mother has been
sick for quite a while and she needs to be taken care of 24 7. that's why my
husband got her a personal nurse and caretaker recently my husband's been
tired of paying the nurse and his mother's rent so he suggested she moves
in with us so he wouldn't pay her rent and only pay for the nurse as I said our
house is already packed with the six of us so bringing his mother and the nurse
would be eight our house can't handle that and we don't have enough rooms also
his mother cannot sit down she always has to lie in bed and we don't have any
possible extra bed or space to put a new bed in husband suggested that she stays
in my youngest kid's room that only has two beds so my kids 10 and 12 will sleep
on one bed while his mother takes the other one and I straight up refused and
told him I won't disturb my kids Comfort like that and we still won't have a
place for the nurse he told me I stay at home and quit my job so we can cut off
the nurse and I take care of his mother I told him how about he takes care of
his mother and quit to stay at home and he said no she hasn't moved in yet I
won't allow it the house already feels small for us six also I have three more
brother-in-laws one of them lives alone and isn't married so my husband is not
her only child yet he's the one who paid
for the nurse and the rent alone I asked him to tell his brothers to help he
refused his pride didn't allow him to ask them for help but he was completely
fine with asking me to quit my job so he wouldn't pay for a nurse and to ask me
to pack the house more because he can't pay her rent this has been going on for
so long and he called me heartless for refusing to move her in I told him she
can move in if we get ourselves a bigger house then he proceeded to call me on
grateful for what I have I don't have a problem with her personally but I don't
want to suffocate at home and I don't want to shove in two of my kids in one
bed neither do I want to quit my job am I the jerk I think Ops definitely not
the jerk and I think if they can help it I would say try to reach out to their
husbands brothers and other siblings on their own and try to ask them if they
can pitch in you know really nail in the fact that this is their mother who is
struggling and that it's not fair for a husband Pride or not to try to spearhead
the whole thing himself I don't know if op's husband and their brothers have
like a nasty relationship with one another or there's some kind of weird
animosity but I can't imagine being so prideful that you feel like you can't
ask your own Brothers for assistance in taking care of their mother this next
story is am I the jerk for refusing to wear my sister-in-law's wedding dress to
my wedding I 23 year old female am getting married to my fiance 24
four-year-old male in a month he has an identical twin brother with whom he's
keeping a bit of distance with because of his past possessive behavior of
wanting to share everything with each other from interests hobbies and even
friends my brother got eloped to his wife 27 year old female and even
suggested to my fiance to do the same on the same day as him but of course he
shut that down quickly as we both agreed on having a wedding already however I
ended up being contacted by my fiance's brother requesting me to wear his wife's
wedding dress from their elopement to my wedding which I obviously turned down
telling him that I've already got a specific wedding dress on my mind he
dropped the subject and for two weeks I didn't hear about it again so I thought
that was the end of it but yesterday my fiance's brother and his wife showed up
at our house Uninvited may I add got up sister-in-law's wedding dress and then
literally asked me to try it out right here in that they'd make adjustments so
the size doesn't fit thank God God my husband stepped in and kicked them both
out of our house even though it did end up with a really big argument between my
fiance and his brother I got contacted again later on by brother-in-law who
said that my inability to make any compromises in order for his and his
brother's wedding experiences to be intertwined is straining their
relationship honestly at this point I'm just getting the creeps from
brother-in-law and my guts telling me that him and sister-in-law may attempt
to sabotage our wedding out of Revenge and even my husband agrees with a
sentiment we're now strongly considering to uninvite both my brother-in-law and
sister-in-law from our wedding but my husband's still a bit reluctant to do it
yet because of the inevitable drama it'll cause with his family am I the
jerk I don't think op's the jerk it is so rich of somebody else to say you
can't compromise on your wedding to make
the experience fun for me is essentially
what they're saying I don't think Opie's the jerk if they just straight up
uninvite them after that forget that that selfish controlling Behavior this
next story is am I the jerk for telling my friend that she shouldn't call
herself a cancer survivor because it's misleading my 25 year old female and my
friend Sarah 29 year old female about two years ago she had a strawberry-sized
lesion on her thigh which is about three centimeters and it turned out to be an
early stage of skin cancer all they did back then was excised it under local
anesthesia too and they told her it was over and she doesn't have it anymore
today I was with her and a mutual friend our mutual friend has a recurrent
abdominal pain and he'll do an exploratory laparotomy to know the cause
and he kept talking about how scared he is and then Sarah came in through the
cancer card she started talking about how she survived cancer and how it
destroyed her life and you'll be fine and she understands how he feels Etc I
snapped at her and told her it's misleading of her to call herself as a
cancer Survivor because what she had back then was almost nothing and just a
lesion on the skin and when people hear the word cancer survivor they would
think about someone who took chemotherapy and almost died because of
it but in her case it was nothing but just a removal with a small incision in
the clinic I thought others would have my back but they said I'm a jerk and
that left me wondering did I say something wrong so this might be very
controversial but I kind of feel similar
to op here don't get me wrong I realized that in a situation like this if you're
diagnosed with having anything cancerous there's going to be so much stress
involved there's going to be worry there's going to be these ideas floating
around in your mind that this is gonna be it and they're gonna find it
somewhere else I know personally of people who all they had was a small Spot
somewhere they go in and just have it cut off and that's it and then turn
around and say cancer Survivor and having went through cancer in a way that
honestly almost seems to try to be an attempt to further their career or make
them stand out a bit in their career and
there's just always been something at my core that feels a bit conflicted about
that I don't want to downplay what they went through I mean it's a terrifying
thing to hear you have cancer in any situation but if it's just a situation
where you went in for a one hour appointment and you're done is it not a
little disingenuous to say that you're a
cancer survivor compare yourself and try to sympathize yourself with people who
have to go through regular exploratory procedures just to check our next story
is am I the jerk for taking a day off for myself without telling my husband my
husband 38 year old male and I 40 year old female have been married for eight
years and have a four-year-old son I work for a Regional Park District
managing the outdoor recreation and education program basically I work
outside 90 of the time the summer is by far my busiest time of the year and I
routinely work six days a week if I can make it work I'll take a day off during
the week to offset my hours because our weekend events are the ones I'm most
needed at since they're bigger I'm salaried so I don't get overtime this is
not new I've been in this position since before my husband and I got married he
knows how busy I am this time of year since our son was born my husband's got
an increasingly grumpy during this time of year because he obviously has to be
responsible for our son during the weekends when I work we've thought about
this a number of times because he feels like I should talk to my bosses about
getting other people to take over some of my weekend events so he doesn't get
stuck with our son by himself every weekend I feel like he needs to suck it
up because this isn't new to anyone and it's only a small portion of the year
that my schedule is like this his argument is that there is nothing he
does that leaves me Parenting by myself for similar amounts of time and that
there needs to be more of a balance in that area this past weekend I had events
on both Saturday and Sunday full eight hour days and outside in the heat by the
time I got home both nights I was exhausted and just wanted to take a
shower and go to sleep I try to watch a movie with them Saturday night but fell
asleep on the couch last night I crashed by 8pm this morning I told my husband I
was going to go to work from home for a bit in the morning to offset my hours
after my husband took our son to daycare and I started looking at emails I
changed my mind to just take the day off and get some rest and maybe do a few
things around the house I must have fallen asleep on the couch because I
woke up to my husband making himself lunch in the kitchen he regularly comes
home for lunch because his office is nearby I asked him how his day was going
and a few other questions and he kept giving me one word answers I asked him
if he was okay and he told me he was tired and feels like he hasn't gotten a
break all summer and it frustrating for him to come home and see me napping when
I told him I was going to work from home I told them I was still tired from the
weekend and decided to take the day off he said he's tired too and that I need
to start doing a better job of taking his needs into consideration as well
instead of just focusing on my own he said it's not fair for him to work five
days a week then be a solo parent all weekend while all I do is work and sleep
I told him that Summer's almost over so my weekends will free up again soon but
all he said was since you're rested now you can pick up son from daycare I won't
be home for dinner I think op's the jerk here because there's no like refuting
what he said it's just focusing on this one moment in time am I the jerk for
taking this nap here while giving no opinion no defense against what this
husband said in his doing which is overworking himself and never having a
day for themselves or having time to just nap around our next story is am I
the jerk for accusing my wife of workaholism and money Obsession in front
of our friends my male 33 wife female 25
seems to be a workaholic and is obsessed with her work she recently graduated
with her Masters but she's been supporting herself since she was 18 by
running an Etsy shop I got laid off three years ago and have been unable to
find a job ever since apart from working my wife also writes books as a hobby
which she wants to self-publish once she finishes edits she wrote two so far
she's also just started a true crime YouTube channel you'd think that was
enough right wrong she also goes swimming three times a week and has
language classes it's ridiculous I had some friends over a few nights ago and
we were playing some games and having a beer my wife doesn't like my mates but
they brought their girlfriends and wives
so she could have made an effort instead she told me she didn't even know they
were coming as I didn't tell her I invited them and she already had plans
she locked herself up on her office to write her book or a script or whatever I
was pissed I texted her multiple times but she ignored me when she went to the
kitchen to get water I confronted her and told her she's a workaholic and
money obsessed my friends heard it she had the audacity to say that if it
wasn't for my debt she wouldn't have to work this much I told her she was out of
line she called me a jerk and some other things she slept on the couch in her
office that night her decision and we're
on no speaking terms my mates agree with me they generally think she's stuck up
anyway but it said I was the jerk for airing Dirty Laundry publicly and should
have addressed it privately I guess the ride and I'm the jerk for that but I was
angry I wonder was I The Jerk because if so I need to apologize and bring up the
issue privately I do think Opie's The Jerk here and my question is why is Op
with this person it doesn't seem like they're on the same wavelength at all I
think somebody can handle all of those tasks she's doing in Thrive if that's
what she enjoys if that's what's good for her I mean I'm not gonna lie there's
no way I'd be able to chase around and keep up with all of that but I know some
people can my question is how's your actual relationship Opie didn't describe
any of that all I'm saying is is if I was in a relationship with somebody who
was out there writing books doing a YouTube channel graduated with their
masters ran an Etsy shop by themselves went out swimming and had Hobbies of
their own they enjoyed I think I'd be darn proud I mean sure I'd have an issue
if there was no time with me if we didn't have date nights or a
relationship then that's a problem but beyond that I don't see what the issue
is I mean short of a minor communication issue on what plans are going on this
next story is am I the jerk for saying that my kids are well behaved I'm a
father of four kids ranging from 23 to 6
years old the other day we were all at a restaurant and there was a family with
three kids I'd say from 10 to 6 years old running around yelling and basically
making a mess at one time one of the kids came to our table and took a piece
of bread before me and my wife could say anything the mom yelled at the kid to
put it back she then turned to me and said kids eh they're all the same with
an apologetic smile before I could think I blurted certainly not mine are well
behaved I get that it was not very polite but she took it as if I just spit
in her face and began yelling at me ten minutes later they were out the door my
wife thinks that Comet was a jerk comment I just think I answered her
affirmation by providing a counter example what do you think I mean it's
pretty innocent I feel like I don't think Ops outright The Jerk for being
honest that their kids wouldn't be acting like that I mean they asked you
just answered honestly sorry that she got upset that Opie insisted their kids
are well behaved our next story is am I the jerk for telling my brother that if
my parents need money they can ask me for it themselves my parents didn't
think a girl needed an education so they chose not to save any money for me
growing up they had no interest in my education or extracurricular activities
my mom's brother Brian grew up in the UK
and he had a different attitude he would always check on me and see how I was
doing in school he bought me my first graphing calculator because I wanted to
impress him I worked myself raw to graduate with honors I was the
salutorian in my school and received a scholarship to my dream school I didn't
even bother telling my parents I graduated from high school and moved to
the West Coast my parents tried to convince me to come home but I was quite
happy for the first time I could remember I studied in a stem field and
was recruited before I graduated my job pays me very well and I met my husband
at work my brother also attended University and is an engineer he does
well for himself except that he's constantly giving our parents money my
brother talked to me recently about how we needed to support our parents in
their old age I said I had no problem contributing to them however they would
have to ask me for help I would not volunteer it or send it through him if
they wanted my dirty woman money they had to ask for it he says that they
won't because it would shame my father to ask a woman for money I'm okay with
him feeling shame after the way he raised me my brother says I'm being a
jerk and it doesn't matter since my parents know where the money will be
coming from I think that my father and mother need to get over themselves I'm
fully on board with OP considering how they were raised and treated if they're
Shameless enough after all that to still
ask for money yeah ask op personally our next story is am I the jerk for not
asking about a co-worker's daughter some background info I work an office job in
the public sector my team consists of six people including me and the
co-worker in question this person and I are not close we interact strictly Prof
professionally and I don't personally like her very much I do try to treat her
with the same respect I treat every co-worker if it's relevant I'm in my 30s
and the co-worker is in her 50s so the current situation is as follows last
week she told us she had to leave work early but didn't specify why I later
heard from another co-worker that it was some kind of problem in her family she
was back the next day and didn't say anything about it to me I figured it was
personal and kept out of it yesterday she left work again this time without
telling anyone why except one co-worker this co-worker later told me it was
because her daughter needed to be taken to the emergency room because she had
been diagnosed with diabetes this morning the co-worker in question was
back we exchanged the usual pleasantries
in the morning and had some interactions related to work but nothing more at
lunch she was fuming she told me she thought I was callous because I didn't
ask about her daughter's Health she said
she knew the other co-worker told me the situation yesterday okay so the only
reason I didn't ask was because I didn't care I told her I didn't want to
interfere in her personal life and she stormed off so my thinking is that
considering our relationship I thought she would tell me if she wanted me to
know about it or wanted to talk about it since she didn't I didn't ask her about
her daughter because to me that is interfering in someone's private and
personal life am I the jerk for not asking her about her daughter I don't
think gophy's the jerk here's the thing if you don't feel like you know the
person well enough to be asking about sensitive details like that you're
completely fine not asking about it or inquiring plus you don't know if it's a
sensitive topic you don't know how they're feeling yeah if you want to
approach the topic you probably want to wait for them to kind of Broach that
this next story is am I the jerk for telling my boyfriend that his mother is
no longer welcomed at our home anymore my boyfriend named Steve 24 year old
male and I 22 year old female recent moved in together we celebrated his
birthday and our housewarming party on the same day his parents came over and
they've gotten him two gift cards to a steakhouse the envelopes noted Steve and
Steve's guest I didn't have a problem with it at first since Steve's parents
are very religious and probably thought that us moving in together before
marriage wasn't a good idea and this was their way of showing disapproval maybe
it wasn't an issue until Steve's mom told me in front of her husband and my
boyfriend that she didn't think I would like steak since I thought you only eat
oriental food I'm Asian Steve is white over the period of three years of dating
his mom has made several remarks regarding my race and culture at most
family events I've always tried to disregard them because I've always been
a non-confrontational person and didn't want to start any drama at the family
event I've told Steve about these incidents and his go-to response was
she's just old and ignorant she doesn't mean it I was in shock because I didn't
think she meant any harm when she said that I only eat oriental food but
personally it came off very ignorant and almost racist Steve didn't say anything
before I left the circle I told her that I love steak and I love eating almost
anything not just the oriental food I ended up not talking to her for the rest
of the night and did not say goodbye when they were headed out I've not
talked to her since and now my boyfriend wants to have a family get-together at
our home I've told him he could invite his siblings but not his mom because I
feel uncomfortable around her and would love to not have her negative energy
around in my house anymore Steve told me I was being mean and unreasonable he
told me it's his mother and I should be more understanding because of her age
she's in her 60s apparently am I the jerk for telling him I don't want to see
her in my home I don't mind if it's somewhere else that I have to interact
with her just not my house yeah I really
don't blame op at all I don't understand
where she was coming from with the whole oriental food thing like this is a very
clearly a racist take does that mean if I'm Italian you can only get me a gift
card to Papa John's like what kind of moronic thinking is that it's so dumb it
seems downright intentional our next story is am I the jerk for being grumpy
with my housemate for leaving me alone with a guy he invited over late last
Saturday night a guy 27 year old male who my housemate 24 year old male and I
25 year old female used to work with called me while really drunk for context
neither of us really know him on a personal level we'd both consider him an
acquaintance but about two years ago he tried to hook up with me I had this guy
on speaker my housemate said hi to him and started having a chat he said he
didn't have a lift home and was stuck in a storm 20 minutes from our house my
housemate offered him a lift home and he took him up on it so we both went to
pick him up he gets in the car and I immediately asked for his address and he
refuses to give one we keep driving around and I keep asking for an address
my housemate suggests he just come back to our house and he can get an Uber home
from ours so we get back to our house and we're all sitting on the couch it's
a bit of an awkward conversation and after about 30 minutes my housemate
decides he's going to bed and leaves me alone with this guy it was pretty
obvious this guy had no intention of leaving and started making himself at
home by taking himself on a house tour we live in a townhouse I'm downstairs
and my housemate is upstairs the guy arrives at my bedroom I asked him not to
go in there he doesn't listen and decides to lay down on my bed I asked
him to get off of my bed and he said no then I asked when he was going home and
he just moaned I texted my housemate asking why he would just leave me like
that and he responded saying haha sorry I couldn't take it anymore I told him he
wasn't leaving and instead of offering to help he's six foot six and pretty
intimidating he asked if a guy I was newly seeing 28 year old male at the
time could come over and help despite him living 20 minutes away and it being
2 A.M my housemate stopped replying to me and thankfully my guy friend came
over straight away as soon as I told the drunk guy that another guy was coming
over he left within two minutes I told my housemate the next day that what he
did was really uncool and he justified it by saying I'm not delicate and can
take care of myself this is a horrendous thing for the housemate to do and I
think just about anybody woman or not would be upset in this situation let
alone the fact that let's be real it is a lot more frightening for op because
they are female it's 2 A.M and you ditch your female roommate to deal with this
near stranger what a horrendous person but with that being said that's all the
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hello everybody my name is Stephen and welcome back to the story time Channel
without wasting any time let's get into our stories of the day horrible wedding
guests during college I worked for an independent catering company that mainly
did weddings people tend to be either very nice or very needed weddings the
waitstaff and the company I worked for didn't really care about the customer so
I always tried to go out of my way to make everyone's experience better
because my company was independent it means that we would travel to whatever
venue the wedding was being held at and didn't actually work for that venue
after dinner at the specific venue I was bussing plates and had a full stack of
about ten in my hands with silverware in between them which created some
imbalance and they were heavy I was walking quickly trying to get to the
kitchen without being in anyone's way this woman tried to flag me down as I
was coming towards her and I stopped quickly to say I'll be right back ma'am
I just need to set these down quickly as I started to walk away she grabbed the
back of my arm and squeezed it which made me drop the plates I was carrying
luckily only a couple of the plates broke and she just sat there and scoffed
while I picked them up once I was done cleaning up she snapped her fingers at
me and did the finger signal to move in close and she said now that you're done
being a klutz where's the gift table for me to put my gift for the bride and
groom I was so taken aback that she would talk to me this way I explained a
word that I only worked for the catering company and wasn't sure about where the
venue had set up that station she responded by saying well you need to do
your job and find out then don't you in the most condescending tone I've ever
heard now normally if the guest was nice I would be more than willing to go find
the wedding planner and ask but not this time at this point I was done being
treated poorly at my job by guests and my bosses and it was one of those
moments I didn't really care if I got fired or not so I got on my knees and
started bowing to her saying yes master of course master anything for you o
great one she was a center husband was mortified I got up looked around the
room in from where she was sitting I could see a table with gifts on it I
pointed and said I think it's over there
you can see it from where you're sitting
and I hope that no one ever talks to you or your
if you have them like you talked to me at this point she was speechless and
seemed embarrassed her husband mouthed I'm sorry to me and they left shortly
after I didn't get fired but I chose to quit a couple weddings later after some
more unfortunate events it would take some major restraint if I was in that
position if you were in that position and the lady grabbed your arm and you
spilled those plates and broke a few of them what would you have done let me
know in the comment section down below I really don't work here background I
usually go to a shop called the works which is in the UK and I love the color
blue usually a light blue the uniform is dark blue with a yellow outline if
awesome deals by the way story me Sol sweet old lady Karen SW store worker I'm
on a day trip out with my mom and dad me
and mom are in the shop and our browsing
has some store stock we've been a lot so I knew my way around and this is where
it starts I'm wearing joggers and a black hoodie because I was coldish
excuse me dear could you tell me where the odd supplies are I don't work here
but of course they're right over there on the far wall thank you for your help
then I turned back to what I was looking at and the battle cry of Karen is heard
excuse me doesn't turn around thinking there's a staff member she's trying to
get the attention of but sadly no excuse me I turn around and I'm confronted by
the typical Karen young people today don't know respect before I get a chance
to say I don't work here she continues there were the children's books over
there on the huge display it's the most colorful display in the store so rude I
want to speak to your supervisor yeah not gonna happen I don't work here
yes you do you're wearing the uniform looks at myself really I think you need
to get your eyes checked store worker says is there something I can help you
with this employee is so disrespectful I want them fired store worker just looks
at me and what I'm wearing wondering how the heck's she thinks I work for the
company she doesn't work here of course she does
ma'am if you're going to make a scene and harass this customer any longer you
will be asked to leave if not security will come and remove you Karen storms
out in a huff are you okay I'm fine just shaken up I'm
gonna find my mom thank you though she watches me make my way to my mom making
sure I'm not bothered again me he explains to my mom and she's kind of
angry but thanks to the store worker for her help story time over this one was
kind of a basic I don't work your lady's story but it kind of brings you back to
those roots where you realize you'd feel terrified being confronted by these
Karen's and them demanding that they need to speak to your manager when you
don't work there but they're not letting you get a single word out I know you
don't work here usual spiel I'm on mobile so apologies for any formatting
issues late last year just before Christmas I was shopping when I saw the
guy in front of me put his wallet in his
back pocket he missed and it fell to the floor I picked it up and then this
happened excuse me I he turned around and said before I could finish what I
was saying I don't work here Karen he turned to his maid and laughed so I
tried again he stooped so he was face to face and spoke very slowly
listen boomer I said I don't work here his maid then laughed while saying they
found a Karen in the wild listen rat I know you don't work here you dropped
your wallet I was trying to give it back to you I lifted up the wallet to show
him the look of shock was brilliant he spluttered a feeble sorry and put his
hand out to take it from me I smiled and dropped it I then kicked it under the
store shelving as I left the store I saw
him on the floor trying to get it out he saw me and I smiled and gave him the
finger yeah I think the guy deserved it because black for clothes is the colour
of employment I was at a comedy club and I had to leave mid-show to use the
restroom the audience exit is right next to the bar as I'm trying to leave as
quietly as possible an intoxicated couple comes up to me the woman hands me
her credit card and tells me to bring her the check I try to give the card
back telling her I'm not an employee but she won't take no for an answer you're
wearing black that's the color of employment
I was in black skinny jeans but I was also any red shirt with a black coat the
employees had black slacks black t-shirts nametags and an apron for their
notepads note that the drunk couple was also wearing mostly black
I try to shush her we're still technically in the theater but she gets
louder just take the dang card and do your job an employee came over took her
card and let me go my way as I was coming back from the restroom
the couple is struggling with their coats at the coat check the guy notices
me tells his wife and they both glared daggers at me until I'm back in the
theatre I told the person I was with about what happened after the show they
said that the couple was part of the regular crowd and like to get trashed on
the weekends they always leave when asked to so management won't ban them
well at least they're not overly hostile they were kind of aggressive in wording
but they leave when they're asked to so that's a plus wrong number at San
Antonio International Airport in the mid-80s we lived in San Antonio Texas in
an apartment landlines were the only real option so we got one this was our
first apartment as a new couple so we were excited to have our own phone in
the first six months we had two or three wrong number calls but they were very
specific in their request they'd always ask us to turn the temperature up or
down that was bizarre enough but then the calls started coming several times a
week I finally got one caller to explain she worked in a big office building at
the airport for a large company and their heating and cooling was controlled
by the thermostat in the building across
the busy four-lane road same company but different departments in the two
buildings she didn't know why it was like that but she'd been told to call
over whenever it got really hot or cold she was nice and professional and
promised to fix the little sign next to the phone where somebody had written our
phone number by mistake apparently their last digit was one off from our phone
number the next day the calls doubled a different woman explained that they'd
received a new company directory of phone numbers that morning and now
everyone knew to call our number to change the temperature I think the lady
I talked to the previous day made a mistake the new company directory had
been distributed to every desk in that building
it was laminated you can all guess where this is going right it took me a bit to
convince my wife but she finally let me have my fun she did giggle when I'd
answer the phone and tell whoever was calling that we had the temperature
perfect over here and we weren't about to screw it up for them this went on for
a couple of weeks and our friends and neighbors got to witness my response to
a few of them one day the caller didn't like my attitude and threatened to come
over and have a talking to me I pretty much threatened his manhood and laughed
that he'd never find me over here he called back several times searching for
me and I tell him he was getting colder or warmer and then finally say see I
still control the temperature he just stopped out to that we watched
the news for anything about it for a couple days but nothing came of it we
never received another call from them I know what I did wasn't mature but I was
an 18 year old kid and didn't realize they could have actually found out where
I lived and shown up to deliver the beating I deserved I just got lucky I'm
not saying I regretted just not quite so proud of it as I used to be at some
point you would either try to change your number or you would do something to
deal with it so I don't blame Opie for having an outlet here where they're
trying to just kind of yank around these people that keep calling Aaron asleep I
don't have the keys to this kingdom I've
been mistaken for an employee on various
occasions largely due to the fact that I walk with a lot of purpose and a scowl
so people actively avoid me and the other being I tend to wear my keys on my
hip I do not dress remotely close to any of these store uniforms but I digress
normal interactions happen such as in Target where someone will approach me
for a question and I act visibly confused while saying I don't work there
or when folks try to speak to me in Spanish which I don't speak under
or even looked like I could speak it however poorly amusing interactions
happened like when my adult child self was crouched down looking for dinosaur
slippers that maybe fit me in the kids shoe section in Walmart around midnight
and a woman asked about little girl's shoes we both laughed and I actually
pointed her to them and sadly had no luck finding the dinosaur slippers the
most frustrating to another person and hilarious to me after the fact was in an
Albertsons grocery store it was earlier in the morning and there weren't many
people in the store I think I'd gotten off an early shift
and had forgotten a single ingredient for dinner that night and was annoyed
for various reasons including being awake and in the presence of other human
beings obviously I'm walking with purpose and
with keys on my hip I pass a man as I'm practically jogging through the store
and he steps in my path all six feet of him to my five foot four female self
full of rage he demanded to know where something was and I decided to not break
my stride sidestep him and respond with I have no idea ask an employee you don't
work here me retreating and jingling into the distance nope would you have
keys well over a year later I wish I had
given any other reply than continuing to angrily walk away and get glared at by
this man as I left I too can get annoyed at the reason of having to be in the
presence of other human beings I resonated with that sentence gas pump
jockey days highschool memory high school days a long time ago but one of
my funniest memories I pumped gas at night 4 p.m. to 11 p.m. five nights a
week for the princely sum of 250 per hour well I worked at a Shell gas
station check the oil with your Phillips sir I was late closing as a car came in
needing a fan belt shut down the lights at the pumps at 11
p.m. and got a new belt installed customer out of there by p.m.
since we're full serve only it was a nickel a gallon cheaper to fill up down
the street at these self-service Exxon honey gallon gas tank that was almost a
dollar savings they were open til midnight so after
getting locked up I headed down to the Exxon to fill up so I'm down there
filling up my tank in this 40-something older woman in a caddy starts laying on
her horn not just a tab but non-stop blaring really what is your problem
she finally stops long enough to scream at me stop what I'm doing I was checking
my oil and feel their car right now I went to the sign that says self-serve on
all the pumps she won't have anything to do with that even when I point out that
I don't work there don't give me any of that I see your name right there on your
shirt I'm going to have you fired fine by me I ran up to the cashier to
pay she was the only one there and had heard us but we were laughing about it I
went back to my car as it had hit midnight as the cashier shut down all
the lights and pumps and called it a night I drove off as the Caddy was still
sitting there sign says self-serve they don't work there they said they don't
work there lady should have gotten the picture now they're not gonna give
anything but with that being said that's all the stories we have for today so
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AA for not wanting to take my boyfriend's son skiing my boyfriend M31
has an 11-year-old son he has his son every week and every other weekend
lately I've F28 been wanting to ski we live in New Jersey and our friends have
a house in the Pocono originally we were
going to go the weekend of February 17th when my boyfriend doesn't have his son
now we have the option to use the house on the weekend we have him if we so
choose on February 24th I'll be blunt his son constantly whines and doesn't
seem to appreciate anything although his father spoils him he is extremely
immature for his age and I feel bad for getting bothered by at times because he
does have ADHD wanting to include him I asked my significant other if he thought
he would like skiing my significant other told me he spoke with his son and
he seemed uninterested about the trip and even a tad scared he rather play
video games so I told him I think we should just go the weekend he doesn't
have him since he wouldn't even like it and the weekend away is solely about
skiing my significant other is now trying to make me feel bad saying it's
wrong if we go away without him and is this how it's going to be when we move
in together keep in mind we took him to Hershey and Kalahari and planned trips
for him which he didn't even seem to care about | give me a good story on AITAfornotwantingtotakemyboyfriendssonskiingaitaredditaitaredditstories |
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what is the fastest way you have seen someone ruin their life my father-in-law
is 65 was married to his wife for 37 years and has three daughters the
picture-perfect family from the outside looking in he was well respected in his
career field and was also an interim pastor deacon at our local church after
he retired his health started to deteriorate drastically and he started
drinking this past November we learned that he had fell for a love scam on
Facebook and had spent his entire life savings took out a second mortgage on
his home and opened up numerous credit cards to send this fake person money all
in all he sent them roughly three hundred thousand dollars he was truly
convinced she was going to move here from overseas and they were going to
ride off into the sunset leave everything behind and live happily ever
after now he is divorced lives in a crummy apartment about 45 minutes from
his family and is miserable he can barely walk and has essentially zero
control over his bowel movements to make matters worse he is very narcissistic
Tendencies and thinks that none of it is
his fault and instead blames his ex-wife claiming that she didn't love him and
show him any affection as you can imagine this has affected my wife her
sisters and mother immensely and caused all sorts of problems and stress over
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I'm finally going to kill myself today well my story it's really probably
stupid and sad at the same time I was a person that always had goals ambition
and a love for life I started smoking weed once in a while with my friends
just for fun after that I was everyday thing many times a day then I started to
get into other drugs like mushrooms cocaine and two CB now I feel like my
brain it's not working the way it used to I quit all drugs but I still been
feeling the same way for the past 6 months or so I tried medication like
Lexapro which left me even more confused and lost in my mind I feel like a
vegetable my short-term memory it's gone now I started more medication like
luttin and hydroxy which is not making any good every day it's the same story
for me I've been to a psychiatric ward and they did nothing it I'm just really
tired of this living hell that I got myself into and I feel like I would
never be able to forgive myself for my mistakes everywhere I go people notice
there's something wrong with me and they make fun out it it's just not worth it
anymore I tried talking to people about but no one really get it all this stuff
led me to lose most of my friends my ex left me for someone else I lost my job
have zero money in my account etc etc I just wanted to get all this really off
my chest and let people know the real danger of abusing substances even
writing this post I don't know how to really put my situation into words which
before it would never be a problem things just doesn't make sense for me
update thanks everyone for the support offer and all the messages that I
received I will stay one more day to see how things go thanks to everyone | give me a good story on Imfinallygoingtokillmyselftodayaitaredditstoriesredditaita |
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hey everybody my name is Stephen and welcome back to the story time Channel
without wasting any time let's get into our stories of the day you can't park
there okay you can but it will cost you my
parents had this problem the guy parking
a tractor-trailer on their land he lives right across from one of their pecan
groves the grow has well spaced trees all in neat rows the grasses mowed super
short the ground is really flat it looks like an ideal place to pull your rig if
you don't know better the ground is so flat because they use mechanical
harvesting bumps and grooves can cause the machines to leave pecans laying on
the ground a two inch deep grew from a big truck like that can hold thousands
of dollars of pecans and will until it is fixed oh and you have to get them up
by hand it's a big deal when someone screws with your livelihood like that so
the guy parks there one time they get it he probably doesn't understand he is
causing so much trouble dad goes down explains the damage he has done tells
him the Grove is private property and not to do it again dude oh column dude
agrees apologizes dad goes home fixes damaged mid week next Friday there is
the truck again same spot dad not about to put up with this cause the
Sheriff Department cop comes truck moves dad fixes damage midweek next week no
truck one week later truck is back repeat complaint for trespassing to Sheriff
dude claims he forgot he drives over the
road and his home depot where his car is
parked is 30 miles away it is convenient for do to forget because he saves his
gas and time by driving his employers rig and parking it on my parents land
also he doesn't get nailed of his cab isn't clean no other driver gets
assigned his truck there are plain motivations dude clearly
does not forget every time he is home but this is what he claims to the
deputies sent out on the complaints after seven times the Sheriff Department
is called he finally gets a trespassing citation
no fine is levied drives his car two weeks in a row
week truck is back at this point my dad has fixed the damage so often he is
keeping a tractor and blade on the property so it gets done faster and
easier calls the sheriff yet again the sheriff himself comes out this time
truck leaves sheriff comes to see my dad says the enforcement problem is that it
is hard to explain to a court the harm when pictures hardly show any damage and
dude always apologizes and moves the truck when the deputies come says
getting dude for trespassing under those circumstances is going to be tough but
he is on this and will see it through from my parents but his office is 30
miles away not that many deputies to be out patrolling etc and then the sheriff
bless his little elected heart says but if there were something different like a
theft of services going on few malicious compliance the next day signs go up on
80 trees in a row 8,000 feet they are 100 feet apart semi parking five hundred
dollars an hour prepay violators will be towed dude
doesn't pay the signs any mind dude does
however pay the tow truck and the deputy quite a bit of mind comes running and
screaming waving his arms as they are hooking up well before my dad called to
have them towed everything was documented including having the sheriff
drive by himself and take several pictures of the truck parked with the
clearly visible signs everything is put on hold while dudes employer who owns
the truck drives out after three hours dudes boss gives up and writes a check
for seven thousand eight hundred dollars
to cover parking and tow truck fees that actually covered the tow truck all the
repairs printing the signs and beer for about a year from my dad's Tuesday poker
gathering so loot dude who still lives there does not Park in the Pecan Grove
his boss payroll deducted his checks for two years in the story I think we
definitely got to the conclusion that the guy deserved but if it was your land
how would you go about dealing with this dude let me know what you would have
done in the comments below okay I'll let you know when I used the
washroom so it was 2:00 in the morning in I sixteen had just finished gaming
for the night I decided to use the washroom so I wouldn't have to wake up
to go later after a few minutes my sister 13 started yelling at me and
pounding on the door I continued my business and when I finished I calmly
left to talk to her the conversation went as follows why were you yelling at
me sister says why didn't you tell me you were taking a poo I was about to go
in and now I have to wait twenty minutes
why wait so long it's gonna smell so bad I didn't know you were about to go in
I'm sorry you do this all the time you take dumps it's the worst time always
screwing me over what am I supposed to do poop on the floor next time tell me
when you're gonna use it so I know jeez chill out it's 2:00 a.m. I didn't think
it affected you when I used the washroom I guess if it matters that much to you
then okay I'll let you know perfect malicious compliance activated every
time I have to use the washroom I always tell her and I spare no details if she
isn't within talking or yelling range I call her or text her I will stop at
nothing to let her know when duty calls the sheer annoyance that is on her face
whenever I walk in and pronounce I gotta
take a monster dump is enough to make my
day this has been going on for a week or so and here are some of my favorite
times day one sister is on FaceTime with four other friends in her room I loudly
walk in and shout I got to go to the washroom I think it might be a wet
diarrhea but I'm not sure I'll let you know after then I left my sister was mad
and yelling at me for embarrassing her in front of her friends I am pretty sure
I embarrassed myself more but whatever the other people on the call mostly
laughed that must have been a weird talk after day 4 it was 4:30 a.m. and I woke
up to pee my sister was sound asleep so I walked in and shook her awake to let
her know that the washroom was full she was too tired to yell then but I got an
earful the next morning that was the day my parents found out
about this both my parents agree that it's funny and I shouldn't stop day
seven she had left to go grab lunch with our dad so I spam called her at least
ten times until she noticed and when she
answered in an obviously irritated voice
I simply stated hey I just wanted to let
you know that I have to pee then hung up
I would have loved to have seen the look on her face day 8 I posted this
yesterday and there was a few comments the next morning around 50 I was reading
through them and someone suggested I show her the post and let her read the
comments so I did that and after reading the comments she just laughed and said
yeah right you're gonna keep it up for that long that honestly just made me
more determined to keep it up more it is 2050 it is the future Opie is still
calling their sister every time they have to use the restroom facility closes
at 8:00 sharp I used to work at a drive-up storage
facility we had pretty cheap prices and a few deals so we got three types of
people renting normal people business people homeless / jobless people who try
to live out of the storage units and stay in the facility most of the day
rearranging their storage units so they had an excuse to stay now our story
begins with the normal people unfortunately most normal people are
normal as you would think they are moving need a place to store stuff most
of the time they aren't happy with moving in that makes sense I try to be
patient and kind one facility rule the owners had me enforced was that we need
to kick everyone out of the facility at 8:00 sharp no exceptions the office
closes before then and my job was to drive back at 8:00 every night and check
the whole facility by the way I'm not on the clock for time I'm supposed to just
do a security check enter a family with an older lady and her daughter renting a
unit they were easy to work with I respect elders a lot so I usually try to
be extra friendly to older people move-in day they had a big old truck
full of stuff it looked like a lot of stuff was gonna be stacked in the unit
of course when I come back that night they are still there
unloading stuff they had a bunch of guys helping them I Drive up and remind them
of the rules they must be out by 8:00 but we were almost done we can get more
in just need a few minutes hmm with previous experience I knew how this
was gonna go I repeated the rules and told them they also signed a contract
that they debate these rules but I said I checked the rest of the facility first
so they could wrap up they said thank you I finished and drive to the front
and of course they aren't there I get out of my car and walk over to them and
they are still going strong unloading so I decide to pressure a little and walk
over and let them know once again the facility is closed I stand next to them
for 30 minutes they finally decide they aren't gonna finish tonight and pack up
50 minutes after the facility closed I let them out of the locked gate and went
home at 9:00 now my boss caught wind of this my boss was a real stickler for
rules and stuff he kind of had a notion that people would follow contract rules
if they were enforced but I knew people would just push our limits my boss told
me that we needed to keep the gate locked at their closing time and we
can't have people staying late I didn't want to stay that late either the next
day they came back late they got there as the office was closing in the evening
to continue unloading I really hope they got the message the first time but lo
and behold when I came for a security check they were there unloading what
seemed to be a new load I wasn't as patient with them this time I wasn't
rude but I was definitely being more blunt with how I talked to them I let
them know again that they needed to leave immediately okay we are just
finishing up I had heard that one before this time I circled the unit block they
were at and every time I passed them I let them know I was done with the rest
of the facility they seemed to get the picture but the clock was still ticking
and by the time they closed the unit and I tailgated their truck out of there it
had already been another 40 minutes past I was tired of getting lectured by my
boss on how we needed to enforce these rules for some reason he had a mindset
that I was letting them stay in being no the first time I was being nice but I
wasn't letting them stay and I can't physically force these people out
malicious compliance time baby the third day they were finishing the unloading
while on site I saw them and went up to them and just gave them a pass-by
reminder that they need to wrap up before 8:00 later that night I check and
yep they are still there I'm getting a bit peeved at this point so I checked
the facility quickly then I decide to drive out the front gate has a code lock
that denies codes after 8:10 yeah there was even a grace period since they add
me let them out every time they didn't know their code wouldn't work at least
since they didn't seem to know the rules
they definitely didn't read that in bold
highlighted in our contract so as per my boss's order I left the gate locked and
left I lived close so I went home got a snack watched a couple shows then about
9:40 went back to the facility to find them stuck at the gate they were not
happy but as I let them out I said to them the facility closes at 8:00 sharp
and this gate locks we aren't always around to let you out that's what we
post the close times everywhere oh why since I checked it every day but I
didn't want them to think they could get away with it anymore
they just angrily left but I didn't have a problem with them again I do feel bad
for that older lady but I don't know they just weren't listening I think this
is fair it's a little bit of a taste of their own medicine I know it sucks to
have to enforce them against us some subset of people like elderly people but
at the same time they were wasting hours
of your time when they're trying to pull the same stunt a third time in a row I
think is a little fair and obviously it very quickly solved the problem baseball
caps on girls is distracting in high school my standard outfit included a
backward flat brim baseball cap one teacher in the middle of class called me
out Opie you need to take off your hat it's distracting what about the 13 other
guys in this class or the similar hat well it's distracting when a girl wears
a baseball cap I was fuming baseball caps on girls are distracting fine I
won't wear one the next class period I wore a
three-foot-tall red and yellow Joker hat that featured bells so that if I moved
my head at all 16 bells shook at the end of an hour and a half of bells the
teacher pulled me aside to ask that I go back to my baseball cap apparently it
was no longer distracting I really don't understand the argument that baseball
caps on girls is distracting what difference would it make between a guy
or girl that being said if you didn't make it that long with a baseball cap
I'm not sure how legitimate this story sounds because I don't think you would
make it an hour and a half with a three-foot-tall red and yellow Joker hat
with a ringing bells on it though it's not really in my position to decide
whether a story is real or fake if it's true though Congrats on getting baseball
cap privileges back and with that being said that's all the stories we have for
today so what I want to know is which of these stories that I read for you today
are your personal favorite and why let me know why in the comment section down
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a it ta for telling my friend who had a miscarriage I don't want to be her
friend anymore by the title I'm sure you're saying I am the but let
me elaborate my ex best friend and I had been friends for over 15 years shortly
after she got married she found out she was pregnant I was thrilled and excited
for her knowing she had always wanted to be a mother shortly after she had Mis
scaried I cried for her knowing how much
that broke her heart fast forward almost a year later and I found out I was
pregnant I was excited and ready to start this journey as I had also always
wanted to be a mother but I dreaded telling her knowing how upset she would
be at me I called her mom crying my eyes out and told her she said I was
thoughtful for understanding her feelings and I then asked if she could
tell her for me note we lived 2.5 hours away fast forward 3 weeks later I
finally get a message from her that said congrats sorry if I'm being a it's
just too soon for me which broke my heart because I was so happy for her
when she found out but I never got that in return I kept in mind about her
miscarriage and decided to let it go fast forward again to my gender reveal
she told me she wouldn't be able to attend because she had a wedding the
night before that she had already made a commitment too I completely understand
and she then congratulated me on the gender but once again but very short and
you could tell she wasn't happy for me like I was her yet I was still keeping
in mind it wasn't easy for her as soon as we picked a date for my baby shower I
informed her and her mom who I was close with about the dates and times to make
sure they didn't have anything planned that day it was 3 and 1/2 months away I
then reminded them multiple times about the times and date and we sent out
invitation a few days before she texted me saying they got the dates mixed up
and weren't going to be able to attend but they were planning on coming a
different weekend to celebrate just me and my baby fast forward to that week
and it turns out they weren't coming for me but to celebrate a family member's
birthday and was just going to give me presents there she sent a text asking if
I was still coming which I ignored because of personal issues going on in
life alone with work and being upset at her hours later she then sent me a text
about how I don't understand how hard it
is for her to see her best friend have a
healthy baby and that it's a toll on her for my baby to be healthy I sent a text
replying about how I don't want anyone is isn't happy about my baby's health
and their life so am I the edit to add I kept reminding her of the date
because she always forgets dates because she doesn't put them down and told me
there was no way she would miss it and if she ever once told me it was to heart
I would have understood but she kept insuring me otherwise I also didn't
expect a whole weekend nor even a day but upset she told me they planned
something for me when it wasn't for me at all if she had told me the truth from
the get-go I wouldn't have minding one bit there was other smaller details that
like have been edited but I never thought this post would get so much
attention I downloaded this app today made the account and made this post so
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first story op cut ties with his family after finding out his wife of 10 years
cheated on him with his brother and his entitled mom supported them and gave op
A List of Demands his ex-wife wants after handing over divorce papers but
they have 11 children and don't know if they are his or not I 46m and my wife
38f have been nagging me Non-Stop about having another baby that I don't want
for a little bit of insight I already had seven children before I met my wife
I had four of them living with me full time and three of them I had split
custody with when I met my beautiful wife she had a 4-month-old daughter that
I absolutely adored after we got married we had a few children of our own so our
lives are pretty hectic we are finally at a point where we are stable I don't
have to work as much and can be home with the family more I'm so Overjoyed
because I didn't really get the option to spend much time with them but now I
can giving now my wife went from suggesting to saying that we were
fighting all the time about having a baby to her complaining that she's
always had five children and that I was taking her dream away from her my wife
also said our three-year-old is getting too big and that she would like to have
a baby now before she gets old and what's it about me having another one
when I already have seven giving her another baby is the least I can do
especially because she raised my children taking the best years of her
life away from her she didn't even want to take care of them she only did it out
of obligation to me I was very hurt when she said those things especially about
our children because some of my children were really young when we got together
and they called her mom I tried to explain to her that the things she was
saying were hurtful and that it wasn't fair to me to have to go back to working
more to provide for another baby especially when we already have a seven
a five and a three-year-old together on top of having 10 13 16 and an
18-year-old living in the house while trying to help our 21-year-old move out
telling her that we already have so much on our plate and adding another baby
right now just isn't a good idea on top of the fact that she almost died giving
birth bir to our youngest we both had to go to therapy because of it and now she
wants another one it blows my mind which turned into a bigger fight her saying
some really mean things that I really don't want to repeat just in case my
children read this my wife yelled at me and called me the biggest a-hole she's
ever met not to talk to her because it seems to be a waste of time she is now
gone and is staying with her mother as of right now I've tried texting and
calling her she's not responding it has been 3 days since then I really don't
know what to do I can't give her a child even if I wanted to I couldn't I had a
vasectomy after she nearly died giving birth to our youngest I never thought we
would have another baby after everything we went through relevant comments this
is actually insane another user replies 10 biological children and one
stepdaughter I am more surprised he thinks 11 is fine but 12 is effing
insane his wife is clearly off her rocker thinking another baby will
improve her life everyone in this story is batched crazy those poor 11 kids she
reminds me of the Dugger mom who loves being pregnant and loves babies but
doesn't really want to parent the one she has if she loves babies so much she
can volunteer with them or work at a daycare with babies no more kids please
stick to your guns talk to your original Seven kids she sounds like an evil
stepmother from what you have alluded to
I'm only hearing one side to be fair but the nasty comments about wasting her
precious ears on your other bio kids are
really shtt also for full disclosure how many kids into total seven from you
previously and one from her previously so how many combined because I don't
remember reading a number op's reply to answer your question we have 11 children
together I have seven before her she had one before me and we had three together
I do plan on talking to the older children thank you so much for your
advice how much money are you making so you can support so many children in this
economy also does your wife work if not it's a huge ask for her to want another
child that she isn't financially contributing to which may be part of the
problem she may not quite grasp the financial commitment that comes with
having yet another child op reply to be honest with you not enough I had to work
two jobs on top of doing odd jobs to survive no my wife does not work her
main focus is the children that was her choice but when my grandfather passed
away he left me a large sum of money on top of two houses I truly love that man
because if it weren't for him I would definitely be drowning update one day
after the original post I don't actually
know if this is how you do an update but this is how I'm going to do it to be
honest with you I really didn't think this would get very many responses I
truly appreciate everyone's feedback and advice especially all the positive ones
I do appreciate the mean ones too they give me a new point of view on things I
going to answer some of the most frequently asked questions yes my wife
did leave me home alone with all the children when she left yes we did
discuss how many children we would have actually it took us about 3 years of
discussing it and we decided to only have one or two our third was a happy
terrifying surprise as for the vasectomy I did not directly tell her a lot of
people are asking how she wouldn't have known that I had a vasectomy she left me
at that time the reason we went to therapy was because I refused to be
intimate with her to be honest I was terrified of getting her pregnant again
and then her dying those were some pretty hard times our therapist
suggested that one of us or both of us get fixed I thought that was a brilliant
idea my wife on the other hand thought that was a little bit extreme but I to
do what I had to do to fix my problem we also went to Great Lengths to discuss
having another child we both decided that her life was way more important
than that and that we wouldn't have any more children so when she said she
always wanted five I have no idea where that came from I do plan on having a
family meeting with the older children and discussing things with them about
how she treated them and seeing how that
goes hopefully it goes well I'm a little bit nervous I did hear from my
Monster-in-Law I mean my mother-in-law she told me that my wife wasn't coming
home anytime soon but she will see me at my mother's Thanksgiving I did take the
week off due to my wife not being here so I can take care of the children on a
side note my daughter E who is 21 years old has been acting weird after R the
18-year-old showed her my Reddit story he asked me if she could talk to me
privately after the family meeting I did try to persuade her to tell me now she
said that she didn't have enough time and that she had to get going for work
needless to say I'm really stressed out relevant comments I find it very telling
that a woman desperate for another child ups and leaves the children she already
has to go sulk at her mother's house it sounds it sounds like your daughter
caught your wife doing something and is waiting to tell you maybe she is already
pregnant and you have a secret sectomy cornered and now she'll have to come
clean hence why she fled to her mom's and isn't coming back okay hear me out
the infidelity angle is very likely the answer but I was also thinking of
another possibility it sounds like op's wife might be one of those people who
loves having babies but not children when they married she had a
four-month-old child but he brought four
free babysitters to the marriage and she played mommy when it was good for her
when it got her attention and presence and she could feel absolute power over
someone and also that someone needs her to live which Strokes her ego and the
rest of the time it was probably left up to the older children now the youngest
is three when kids start developing autonomy and asking but why all the time
like seriously all the time and she's not interested in the job anymore she's
got baby fever and the 21-year-old who is in the process of finally escaping
the weight of raising her siblings doesn't want to get pulled back in and
she doesn't want that weight passed on to her siblings but she never told her
dad about anything because he already had so much on his shoulders and she
didn't want to bother him and I'd be willing to bet that just because this is
the first time the mom has been honest with the op about her opinion regarding
his children it's not the first time the daughter is hearing it anyway thank you
for coming to my story time it's probably infidelity I just wanted to
explore an alternate ending update two 6 days after the original post I know you
all have been waiting for an update a lot has happened and I needed some time
to process it thank thank you to all those who reached out to me to make sure
I was okay family meeting I learned that
my wife was a good mom or stepmother but she was a horrible biological mother to
him that was a hard pill to swallow I learned that she was pregnant I also
learned that my youngest child may not be mine all I have to say is that I wish
the family meeting had gone differently day of Thanksgiving my wife did show up
I tried contacting her several times before they get together I told her that
I knew she was pregnant and that we needed to talk but I never got a
response every time I try to talk to her
at the get together my brother dck would get in my way DC would tell me to leave
her alone man or don't bring up drama here all I have to say is that I was
getting really sick of him it was time to sit down to eat she didn't sit by me
she was set up by dck I thought that was really weird but it all made sense when
she made her announcement she told everyone that she was pregnant with dck
K's child and that she would like a divorce so she and D K can have the
relationship they deserve but What hurts the most is when my mother says huh I
thought we were going to wait until after the holidays after that it turned
into a sht show I gathered up all the children and left except for pm and I
they wanted to stay with their mother I didn't have the energy to fight them
before I left my mother handed me divorce papers and a list of Demands for
my wife I will be speaking with my lawyer on Monday I do plan on getting
counseling and therapy for me and the children I o had to go back and pick up
P and M because my wife left them behind and told them that she didn't want them
I had a long conversation with my mother I decided that I would be cutting her
out of my life she's always been s mother relevant comments your mother
handed you the drawn up divorce papers so your wife can marry your brother wow
that's a special selection of toxics right there going without contact seems
to be just what the doctor ordered good luck to you and your kids I'm so sorry
op I I don't know what the laws are where you live but since she cheated
abandoned her children and is currently pregnant with her Affair partner your
brother she is not in much of a legal position to make demands in fact you
could probably take her to the cleaners for child support I hope she gets what's
coming to her good luck Second Story my Golden Child sister forcefully kissed my
husband and told everyone that she was having an affair with him ruining his
life because I'm pregnant and she is not
the center of attention anymore still my entitled mother is supporting her okay
so the key players in this story are me f27 my husband Kum 40 my little sister
Tasha 13 and my mom 58 for context my mom and dad had Tasha as a last resort
to fix their failing marriage I'm nearly
9 months pregnant like legit 3 weeks out and my husband is a second generation
immigrant we weren't trying but we were excited when we found out about the baby
we waited until we were out of the first trimester and told everyone after that
Kum family is super excited and can't wait to bring the baby to their home
country my mom was happy when we told her but I made some grumbling remarks
about being too young to be a grandma I presumed she was joking my dad whom we
told separately gets along great with my husband and he said he would help Kum
and me with anything baby related at first Tasha was excited to talk about
how she was the youngest aunt and it was
cute she is spoiled I don't want to call her a brat but she can get an attitude
when things don't happen how she wants but then once we told everyone we were
having a girl she went quiet we didn't make a big announcement we just told
people when we saw them we both have busy jobs and I kept working until
recently luckily I can work remotely if needed my dad was excited to be a girl
Granddad and Granddad and in some ways I've been closer with him since the
divorce my mom put all her effort into Tasha making sure she was okay as she
was the youngest she's a bit of a golden child for my mom kum's family got him a
t-shirt that has a joke about being a girl's dad on it I've always said he
gives off girl dad energy so it's funny when I got big around the 5-month Mark I
was really ill I had hyper mesis gravid and was admitted to the hospital I have
a heart condition so there was always concern about side effects during the
pregnancy Tasha refused to visit me in the hospital meaning my mom didn't come
either but I understood why a 13-year-old might not want to come to a
hospital however she has become so standoffish and rude to myself and my
husband Scott laughing when we talk about baby girl joking how emotional I
was saying more trouble than it's worth with my heart she said we stole her
favorite name when we announced it as adley she's never said that name before
she also joked about how fat I had gotten Karam had enough and told her to
grow up but my mom defended Tasha saying she's probably just a bit jealous about
no longer being the youngest in the family anymore I tried to talk and ask
her what's wrong but she got an attitude again and told me I made everything
about my baby and myself we were discussing my birthing plan on family
FaceTime and how I have to have a plan C-section to reduce the stress on my
heart I'm a bit nervous but I've had surgery before I was trying to get my
dad to calm Karen down and asked if he'd be in the waiting room he was really
happy and asked if he could bring his good friend we all know she's his
girlfriend but they won't admit it he thinks he's too old for that she's been
sweet and knitted some baby blankets so we agreed to her visiting after the
birth I got a call from my mom and Tasha who were really angry that I hadn't
invited them to the birth or told them I
had to have a plan C-section I told them Tasha had complained about me only
speaking about the baby and my mom told me to not be so flippant Tasha was
rolling her eyes when Mom asked about the surgery and I know she's 13 but
something about it seems so calculated to her my mom asked to be there and I
said she could be in the waiting room if she would be nice to Dad Tasha started
talking about how long it would take but I informed her she was only invited to
visit after adley had been born now her and Mom are blowing up saying I'm cruel
for letting a random friend of Dad's visit but not letting my little sister
be there for her niece's birth I'm sad as I hoped the pregnancy would bring my
mom and me closer but alas edit I just remembered something else that happened
Tasha walked into our garden one afternoon without any notice to tell us
and she saw us making out on the swing chair nothing scandalous but my hormones
have been all over the place she made a comment like no wonder you're pregnant
if that's all that you do she's also been perfectly nice to carum
throughout the pregnancy it's just me she has the attitude with edit too as
some people can't seem to understand I'll reiterate I've tried connecting to
Tasha I've tried communicating and comforting her and I've tried getting
her excited about being an auntie she's made cruel comments about my weight I
used to have an ed how I'm an attention seeker to get pregnant she's literally
slammed a door in me causing me to hurt myself she's been all over my husband
but ignoring me to my face and she's made a comment about me not keeping my
legs shut this isn't about her being confused she knows what childbirth and
pregnancy are she also banned our mom from visiting me when I was rushed to
the hospital and had complained about me talking about the baby so I didn't
include her in the conversation about the birth she's not angry because I'm
trying to keep her away from the baby she's angry because I'm pregnant and she
will no longer be the youngest girl I'd like to add that the family Dynamic was
pretty good until I got pregnant she was mom's favorite but Dad doesn't do
favorites update 2 days later I want to address the comments saying I'm a bad
sister I hate Tasha and I need to reassure and comfort her and show her
sympathy we had a normal sister relationship until I announced my baby
was a girl then she got an attitude change but only with me I've been trying
to reach out and ask her reasons for being so horrible to me calling me names
and saying things about my baby but she ignores me and won't talk to me so I
don't know what else I'm expected to do I appreciate that being a 13y old girl
is hard I was one once but I didn't act like this it's not my place to have to
parent Tasha when she has two parents a mom who spoils her and when I'm about to
have my own baby my pregnancy has been hard and risky and there is still a
chance my daughter could be born with my heart defect this and all of the stress
caused by my mom and Tasha have meant I've not been able to enjoy my pregnancy
I had hoped it would make our mom want to be involved with me more but
unfortunately Tasha has done everything she can to ensure my mom has been
involved or helpful while my husband is patient and polite he doesn't like the
way they are treating me and he certainly doesn't like the pressure it
has put on me Tasha and Mom turned up unannounced at our house today wanting
another explanation as to why they couldn't be at the hospital I again said
that as long as mom was civil to Dad she could be in the waiting room but Tasha
would have to visit after i' rested and made sure the baby girl was okay I said
she had moaned for all of my pregnancy that it's all I ever talk about so
surely she knew there were reasons to want to be there she got angry and threw
a mug at the wall saying she wanted to be there as that's where everyone else
would be and she shouldn't have to be on her own and bored I told her it was not
a fun day out I would be having major surgery and people wanted to meet my
daughter she screamed saying I'm an attention duby for not giving birth the
normal way and demanded that our mom go home so they left as quickly as they had
arrived I don't know what my mom plans on doing but yeah update 3 Days Later hi
guys I'm just really effing confused right now but thank you all for
following my story and giving me advice rest assured we won't be leaving adley
alone with Tasha if you want context my first two posts are on my profile
basically after giving birth yesterday I had to stay in for a week as it was an
emergency surgery as we had rushed to the hospital we didn't have all the
things I would need so carum went home to pack a bag of my things for me he
stopped at my dad's and apparently Tasha was with him Kum was polite and dad was
asking lots of questions about adley and me he left the room to get the presents
he and his girlfriend had gotten for us and karum was left with Tasha apparently
she was all over him but not asking any questions about myself or adley Karam
said she threw herself at him and tried to kiss him but he swerved and got up
abruptly telling my dad that they needed to do something with Tasha as she was
out of control he told me what happened as soon as he got back to the hospital
he's really worried that people like my mother will make him out to be a bad
person I I think my dad has cameras in his house so I'm going to ask him if
there are any in the hallway edit Tasha has texted me it's safe to say she's not
being abused and no my mother doesn't have any male friends in the house Tasha
sent me a text saying she was sorry for trying to kiss caram but I've stolen
everyone's attention and apparently even
our mother was asking about me yesterday she sometimes literally refers to our
mother as her mother she then said I had to make it All About Me by having adly
early and she wanted someone to pay attention to her and felt like Kum
hadn't spent enough time with her recently he's been kind to Tasha in the
past we've had her at our house and taken her on trips but he's obviously
been busy making sure me and the baby have been okay during the pregnancy edit
too thanks thanks for the support guys I developed a blood clot last night so I
was rushed into another surgery to deal with that and carum called my dad's GF
to stay with him as he was nervous and my dad was with Tasha she helped keep
him calm by all accounts and showed him how to bathe AB
which I'm very thankful for she also baked me my favorite cake when I woke up
this morning it was so effing good anyway anyway Kum is fuming with my
mother and Tasha about how they've ruined this experience for us and he
wants to send my mother my hospital bill as I wouldn't have needed the emergency
surgeries without the stress we're going to take a trip once I'm released from
the hospital to the countryside to get some distance between us and Them update
hi guys I've just been busy soaking up all of the baby happiness I'm doing well
thank you all for your well wishes and to moms for giving advice on how to
recover from C-sections adley is such a sweet little girl she's quiet and so
well behaved and she looks the most adorable in her little Taylor Swift
cardigan that my dad's friend knitted her she played all of the albums in
utero we've sent mom the hospital bill I'm not actually sure whether I'll go
through with making her pay as we have better salaries than she does but a
little part of me would love to see her face right now she sent me some annoyed
text about it but I've told her that perhaps Tasha's allowance and Clos
Beauty spending should be reduced to help but we will see update hi y'all I'm
not even sure if people want an update but people do still comment on the other
posts so 3 months after my last update I'd recovered from surgery and Kum adley
and I had been able to go on a trip to the countryside to distress when I got a
random DM on Instagram and looked at her she was following Tasha let's call her
Lily well Lily tells me that she needs to ask me something because Tasha has
been telling their friend group something worrying I bet you don't know
what I'm going to say Tasha had been going around school saying that she and
my husband were having an affair I couldn't even respond I was so effing
livid never mind how weird it is for her
it's so dangerous to be saying that even among her friends it puts my husband at
such a risk of being accused of awful things so that was it I'd had enough I
fled to my mother's house and slammed in
to find Tasha she was sitting there like nothing was happening and just smirking
making my blood boil I'll admit I lost it a bit and screamed at her that she
was unhinged and needed to be locked up it it wasn't normal for a 14-year-old
girl to want her sister's husband and life our mom came in asking what the
hell was wrong with me I grabbed both Tasha and my mother by their shirts and
said she had one week to sort her sht out because we were going to the police
for defamation I just wanted to go home and snuggle my baby but I stopped at my
dad's and filled him in and told him what i' told Mom and Tasha he was
completely floored Lily was good she said she didn't think what Tasha had
been saying was real and thought I needed to know and she said she told the
others that Tasha was lying I got some messages from my mom that night about me
projecting my feelings about not being a good enough mother or wife onto Tasha I
don't breastfeed and at that time was still on maternity leave because of the
C-section but I intended to not be off work too long would be sending her to
daycare and made a comment on my weight knowing how I was scared of struggling
with my Ed again postpartum Tasha had told her she had no clue what I was
talking about she really knew where to hit me I won't lie Kum told me to put my
phone away in rest so I did and when I woke up adley was in the bath and Kum
had ordered us food we consulted with our lawyer and made a statement to the
police about all of the abuse and lies we'd suffered from Tasha and my mom we
were told that they were both warned to stop otherwise they would try to press
charges I've tried to avoid them although I've heard them berating me and
my parenting through others we went to Turkey to see kum's family for Christmas
and it was lovely not religious third story op stormed off from the homophobic
sister's gender reveal party after she told op to not reveal he is gay because
she didn't want her friends to think her baby would be raised by gays who would
turn her baby into gay and he would eventually get bullied by 29m have been
with my boyfriend Rob 31m for just over a year we are out to our families and
friends as a couple I came out at 22 years old my younger sister Sarah 24f
announced her pregnancy to my immediate family 2 months ago my mom 55f and Sarah
have been planning her gender reveal party ever since it's a Grand Occasion
with nearly every person she's ever known plus our entire family it's all
being funded by my mother since Sarah's her Golden Child my siblings and I were
supportive of all the fanciness since it's the first grandkid in the family I
received my official invitation over text 2 weeks ago in that message Sarah
said I would be free to bring Rob as she knows that were basically Inseparable
and that he's practically a part of the family now I replied that I would be
coming and bringing Rob fast forward 2 weeks to last night the big night Rob
and I got to the party a little early to help set up like my mom had asked us to
do as soon as we entered the house Sarah ushered us off to the side and quietly
asked us to not act so couple why tonight I was kind of shocked but I
thought it was because she didn't want anything to overshadow her big day Rob
seemed kind of annoyed but we agreed to not do anything anything embarrassing
and started to help Mom set up everything went okay for an hour or so
and then we sat down to eat Rob and I sat across from this girl and guy who
apparently were a couple we started talking and we really hit it off at some
point the guy made a joke something along the lines of hey you better not be
flirting with my girlfriend I laughed and joked back saying that I wouldn't
want to start a fight with my boyfriend we laughed about it I noticed Sarah
getting up from the head of the table and storming over she asked asked to
talk to me and pulled me away from the table to whisper yell at me for telling
her friends that Rob and I were dating after she asked me not to I was confused
and said that she asked us to not act couple why but not pretend that we
aren't one she got mad and told me that it was the same thing I asked what was
so wrong with a couple of friends finding out about my relationship she
said it was because she didn't want her friends to know that her baby would be
raised around the LGBT community at that point I was stunned she has never been
any anything but supportive of me I left her standing there and went back to the
table the couple sitting across from us asked why we were leaving so soon and I
told them that my sister didn't want a couple of gay guys around her kid so I'm
just respecting her wishes a little early we grabbed our stuff and left my
phone has been blowing up with texts Sarah cusses me out for leaving the
party and disobeying her wishes and Mom begs to know why I left early at this
point I don't care about Sarah or her kid but I feel like I should have just
apologized and shut up instead of causing a ton of drama so aah in the
comments her fiance's family is very pro-choice PR lgbtq Pro lgbtq an
anti-gun I don't get where her sudden homophobia is coming from update 2 days
later thanks for all the comments and advice everyone Rob and I really
appreciate it yesterday morning I had a phone call with Mom and I told her
everything that Sarah had said she was appalled and told me she was sorry
before hanging up and telling every family member she has contact with my
phone has been blowing up with texts from everyone ever since the family is
divided into three sides mine hers or both of us suckers I have had many texts
asking why I would want to flaunt my gayus at a party that is supposed to
showcase the normal way traditional straight couples and having kids via
pregnancy I had a sit down at my house with Rob mom and Sarah this morning
Sarah arrived in tears and refused to look at me I finally convinced her to
talk when I asked her I I want to know why you said what you said she looked at
me and told me that she was sorry but didn't want any gay guys around her kid
I asked her why because I'm afraid it'll turn my baby gay I don't want them to
get bullied Rob laughed told her she was an idiotic bee and left the room I was
incredibly upset as well but I stayed for a minute to tell her that she was
wrong and that you cannot be turned gay that you are simply born gay I told her
to think about it and let me know if she still thought that way if she thought
about it and did I'd be out of contact with her for the foreseeable future I
told her I still loved her but that boundaries needed to be set as she had
hurt and disrespected my partner and me both of them left I spent a long time
consoling Rob I also want to note that I did in fact tell my youngest gossipy
brother about it all right after I told Mom he says he never wants to be
involved with Sarah again I feel so bad that I'm dividing the family just a few
minutes ago I got a call from Sarah who said that she was very sorry she had
discussed it with her fiance and he reiterated everything that I had said
about being born gay she told me that she had allowed fear to control her
senses I asked her if she would still love the kid if they turned out LBGTQ
plus she said absolutely she begged me to reconsider going no contact no
contact as she wanted Rob and me to be a part of her kids life I told her that I
would be going low contact as she had still hurt us but I would be available
if she needed me I told her that if she disrespects us or our relationship again
I will go no contact she agreed and asked to apologize to Rob he listened to
her and agreed to be in the baby's life but he told me that he would not
socialize with her unless absolutely necessary I agreed I have come to the
conclusion that if Rob and I get married we will alope if we adopt a child or
children or even a pet she will never be alone with them I do not trust her
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AIT for refusing to buy the engagement ring back off of my ex so I am 23
recently got out of a relationship with my ex- fiance Mara f23 we were together
for 3 years and engaged for 4 months I called off the engagement and eventually
broke up with Mara due to her cheating on me and lying about various things
unrelated to the cheating I think people deserve Second Chances but my final
straw was when I found out she had been cheating on me with her own step brother
and I knew I had to walk away in a nutshell the breakup was very volatile
there was lots of arguing and her trying to bargain with me and I asked her to
leave my apartment my family was very disappointed when they found out my
parents really wanted me to marry Mara when we first started dating my mom gave
me a family heirloom ring to propose tomorrow with its value is sentimental
it's not made of any particularly expensive materials like gold or Diamond
my mom is now asking for the ring back but I never got it back off of Mara once
things had cooled off I did ask Mara for the ring she asked why she should give
it back hinting that she wanted payment I offered her $40 and she demanded $300
plus my laptop and PS5 | give me a good story on AITAforrefusingtobuytheengagementringbackoffofmyex |
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aita for triggering my estranged sisters when the only thing I knew would get a
reaction out of her there's a lot I to leave out due to the word limit so I'd
be happy to give the full backstory in the comments if anyone is interested I
have five siblings four of whom I love dearly but as for my sister Tina I hate
her she was always the problem child in our family it only got worse when I am
Mom our oldest brother Jack dad and Tina got in a car accident because Tina
started drama at a party so we had to get our parents to collect us early mom
lost her life and dad was left with life-changing injuries me and Jack had
broken bones but Tina walk away with not single Mark Tina who already had mental
health issues BPD turned to alcohol and pain ERS she caused a lot of hurt to us
for 3 years before she got plastered at Jack's collage graduation party
humiliated herself as usual then when she was told leave got mad and did what
she always did punish us but this time she took it too far she took the karaoke
microphone gave a big speech about us being bad people especially me and my
brother she aired all our family secrets like my brother being gay or how mom
wanted to divorce dad before she passed she ended up taking our dad's car as a
last you to ruin the party so I reported her and she got arrested we
decided all a siblings would cut her off and made dad press charges Tina got 3
years 10 years later she reached out to our dad and grandparents apparent | give me a good story on AITAforadvicemysisterredditstory |
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what do you do when somebody won't stop what what do you do when somebody won't
stop interrupting you we'll get into that in a bit but first my 28 year old
female boyfriend 34 year old male lied to me about where he was at 4am so my
boyfriend 34 year old male usually comes over to my apartment on weekend nights
this night however he decided to stay home and deep clean his place since he
had an apartment inspection coming up we chatted most of the night then around 1
I thought he fell asleep so I did too now about three months ago I caught him
lying about where he was he's left work and told me there was an issue with his
apartment but really he had left to go to the bar I caught him home with the
bartender female drinking at the kitchen table it was a huge fight and he ended
up offering to share his Snapchat location with me because he thought it
would help with trust we never had an issue again and I never thought the
check where he was so back to tonight I wake up at 4am ran randomly and can't
fall back asleep I open Instagram see he's live and send him a message he just
ignores it and I can see a while later he's on Facebook so I figured oh I'll
call him and chat we often speak on the phone well it rings and then halfway
through it goes to voicemail I thought this was odd so just off this gut
feeling I decided to check the Snapchat map I see he's not even home but at a
co-worker's house then he texts me back and says sorry I rolled over on my phone
but I'm going back to sleep I immediately asked him if he was at his
co-worker's house this co-worker is a male he sees it and then suddenly he
stops sharing his location I live right by the co-worker so I drive a couple
blocks to see if he's there and he's outside smoking with a co-worker I pull
up and ask him to come to my car he says the co-worker just called and has to be
picked up randomly so he thought he'd hang out I asked him why he lied and he
said cause I didn't want you to worry I told him that if he had just told me the
truth I would wouldn't have worried but the fact that he lied makes me worry he
has a history of lying he's been caught in big and small lies I keep telling him
if he told me the truth it wouldn't matter but he always tells me you freak
out over everything so I lie but he never even gives me the chance to show
him my reaction when he tells the truth it's such a small lie and I'm probably
overreacting but I'm so tired of him telling his friends I'm crazy but not
telling them he lies to me I just hate lies so much why not just tell the truth
right off the bat am I overreacting should I just let this small lie go
either this guy is like incredibly insecure in a weird way that's
manifesting and feeling like he has to lie about anything or this guy's like a
compulsive liar either way if I were op I would not be able to tolerate this I
mean okay like I get he screwed up big time and he essentially was about to
cheat to get another chance chance and then they just go start lying about
trivial things I don't think I'd be able to keep extending a third a fourth a
fifth chance if they're lying about just hanging out with a co-worker you think
they're not gonna lie about anything more serious than that our next story is
I 31 year old female wanna break up with my potentially dying boyfriend 34 year
old male I 31 year old female have been dating my boyfriend 34 year old male for
a year six weeks into us for stating he disclosed he developed lumps in his
throat and brain fog earlier in the year and he didn't know why yet I thought to
myself could I be with someone who is sick and could potentially be terminally
ill not because I was put off by his unknown Illness but because I knew it
could possibly become an emotional roller coaster if his health worsened I
didn't know if I could commit to that especially with someone I hardly knew
however I kept an open mind and we continue to date because I did genuinely
become fond of him as as the relationship progressed I started to see
his anger management issues come out he's short-tempered and doesn't have
much patience he's also a heavy drinker the two combined don't go well together
and we've had some emotionally and mentally exhausting nights over the last
year his health has gotten worse and there's been little progress forward
with a diagnosis as a result his mental health is declined he's getting angrier
which is the result of stress fear anxiety and likely depression when he's
very angry he punches things rips up things breaks things and even once
through a chair through the wall my boyfriend is convinced he's dying
because he's more fatigued than ever and his symptoms are getting worse I.E
headaches and ability to focus loss of appetite additionally he's unhappy at
work and he doesn't like living in the city which is where we live but only
does it for work he's originally from a small town two provinces away he's
unhappy in all areas of his life life in his anger is compounding I sympathize
with his issues he says he's the most miserable he's ever been and it shows
with his words and actions but I don't enjoy being with him I can't handle his
anger issues and I feel like he's a negative attitude and behavior is having
a negative effect on me am I being unempathetic to him or am I doing the
right thing by protecting my peace I feel like by breaking up with him I'm
abandoning him but I feel like by staying I'm neglecting my needs and
well-being honestly this topic is kind of way outside of my breadth of
knowledge I was curious when people commented on this post and a lot of
people suggested that the symptoms he's expressing are actually symptoms that
can come from heavy alcohol dependency either way dying or not if somebody is
treating you horrendously you don't owe it to anyone to keep yourself in a toxic
situation our next story is was I may male 28 wronged for ending a 10-year
best friend relationship with my friend male 29 over his toxic relationship I've
known my best friend since middle school
and we've kept a close friendship always doing all sorts of activities together
I'd say it was always a mutually beneficial relationship where both
parties put in the work to maintain it and respected each other about four and
a half years ago he found a girlfriend which was his first serious relationship
this girl is five years younger than him and very immature manipulative
self-centered narcissistic and I'd say straight up psycho she would always put
him down was never satisfied about anything blamed everyone else but
herself humiliated him in front of others abused him verbally and now
recently physically for context I third wield for the first three years they
were together and then got into my own relationship in 2021 which ironically
turned toxic later also and distanced myself from them because they were so
taught toxic as much as I try to open his eyes to how horrible he was being
treated and did everything I could to make him feel comfortable provided him a
safe space it seemed it was all in vain as he would make up with her again and
again fast forward to this year I broke up with my girlfriend for similar
reasons though it never reached verbal and physical abuse made contact with my
friend again and started spending time together it seemed the situation was no
better now go figure but at least he was
more open to discussing it with me as he was usually quite introverted and I
believe he was also having self-esteem issues the first time I realized the
gravity of the situation was when they started a fight in my car he was in the
front seat she was in the back seat continually verbally abusing him and him
taking it without insulting her back he eventually yelled at her to shut up and
she punched him and I had to break it up the second time we were at my friend's
Gran's parents place for work she had a tantrum and ruined everyone's day even
though we were on a schedule and supposed to finish a lot of the
housework again she verbally abused him and hit him while in my car the third
and final time we were at a beach resort he called me into their room because
once again she was having a psychotic meltdown again same story verbally
abused him threatened him hid him I was shocked at how crazy she was she
eventually left the room and wandered around The Resort At Night threatening
him with ending herself by text we found her eventually at 4am by the water
sitting in the sand and took her back this last experience ended any sort of
remorse and understanding I had for her she did not apologize in any way and
continued her behaviors a breakup followed and my friend was like a new
man happy doing things he liked spending quality time again with his friends and
family and generally you could see the light in his eyes I encouraged him told
him I was proud of him of who he he was and his achievements and that he
deserves someone that looks up to him not someone that abuses him I did all I
could to take his mind off her so he could feel the other side of his life
this only lasted three days because she once again somehow Tangled him up back
in and made up I said okay and respected his choice and we went out to a concert
Friday she was still mad at me because I completely changed my attitude towards
her and was no longer friendly to her so we spent our time separately at the
concert with different friends the two of them eventually went to a party and I
woke up the next morning with messages from her basically telling me she never
wants to see me again calling me names and blocked me my friend later informed
me she stole this phone and looked through his messages with me in which I
wrote to him that she's a psycho and a bunch of nasty but true stuff about her
but mind you I only did this when my friend initiated it and complained about
about it in normal circumstances I would
have stayed out of it but when I saw the level of abuse I felt like I had to do
my duty otherwise I'd feel like I hadn't
done enough later he texted me again and
basically blamed me for the entire thing
holding me responsible and saying what I did was not okay I responded that we
should move on with our lives and my door is open if he ever needs me he's
not read the reply and hasn't contacted me since I am extremely disappointed and
felt like trash being thrown away thrown under the bus I feel like all my effort
in being a good friend was for nothing and he never valued me it's extremely
disheartening when you're living your best life with someone and the next day
that someone can just erase you where have I gone wrong I clearly also have a
problem having put in this much effort into fools but why am I doing it thanks
for the long read and sorry if it feels like a vent I really don't think it's
worth trying to beat yourself up over this and try trying to over analyze why
you could possibly have been such a good and caring friend to somebody poor op
got so chewed up and spat out they're out here wondering where did I go wrong
what problems do I have you're just too good of a friend to somebody who's too
blind to see it listen if he's happy and
misery and he's willing to dump you as a friend to do so I say be proud of how
far you went to try to be a good friend and establish this friendship with this
guy and take it as a loss solely because they chose it to be that way our next
story is I 30 year old male burst out crying in front of my new girlfriend 29
year old female I think she was weirded out and I don't know what to do I 30
year old male have been dating my new girlfriend Andrea 29 year old female for
a bit over two months it's still early but so far our relationship has been
good before this relationship I've ever only had one relation ship with Chiara I
started dating Chiara when I was 16 and we dated for almost nine years I'm not
the kind of guy that believes in things like true love or every person has
someone waiting for them but Chiara was probably the closest thing to that after
I graduated college and started working we decided to get married the next year
but we unfortunately never had the chance she passed away when I was 25 in
a car accident I was absolutely crushed it took me two years a lot of therapy
and the support of my family and friends to even be able to move on with my life
and dating wasn't even an option until recently meeting Andrea changed that and
I don't know something told me that it was the right moment to move on things
have been fine so far we get along quite
well and while it's early to say it in a more definitive way we are comfortable
with each other something happened two days ago though it was a normal day I
woke up got got ready and got out to go to work while walking though I passed
near a shop and felt a familiar smell it was the perfume Chiara used to use
things like this normally don't influence me but reminders of Chiara
kept popping up throughout the whole day her favorite song popped out on the
radio a colleague had the same nail polish she used to use things like these
kept happening throughout the day and at some point I was just sad and tired and
wanted to go home I was supposed to meet with Andrea to go out for dinner but I
didn't feel like going out so we decided
to hang out at my house we were chilling watching some movies and I was starting
to feel better but then we started watching this movie and at some point an
actress said something about how no one has ever really gone and I basically
fell apart I started crying uncontrollably it took me minutes to
compose myself I apologized she asked me
what happened I told her that I just had a bad day at work she asked me if there
was something she could do and I told her I just needed a good night of sleep
I don't feel comfortable sharing the past with Andrea yet and I know what
happened probably weirded her out I don't know what to do now I definitely
wouldn't pressure op to open up to her but I really do think it would help if
op was a little more upfront about what went on I feel like anybody that is
going to be a respectful potential partner would be somebody that can
respect and understand that you're grieving and sometimes you have bad days
and that that's nothing to be ashamed about if I were in Andrea's position and
I was seeing somebody who ultimately had a bad day like this I don't think it
would negatively impact how I feel about
them in fact if anything that might be a reassuring thing just because you see
some real unfiltered emotion it would make me feel like yeah this person is
being their true selves around me our next story is my boyfriend 24 year old
male doesn't pleasure me 23 year old female I've been dating my boyfriend for
almost two years now he doesn't even attempt to pleasure me when we hook up
he just rushes into pleasure himself and it makes me feel so used after every
time I tell him how I feel he says he'll change and try to pleasure me but he
never does I'm tired of feeling so used afterwards and I'm tired of having the
same talk with him I have no idea what to do about this I don't know if I'm
just being dramatic either I don't know what to do here should I end this
relationship over the fact that I feel so used and miserable after we do it or
should I just deal with it if you're dating somebody who cooks dinners let's
say they're making some lovely steaks and every single time they make these
steaks you sit down at the dinner table and they plop one down on their plate
and that's it are you gonna stick around with them for too much longer I think
the same thing applies to what's going on in the bedroom this person is mad and
selfish it is a conscious choice to not do anything for you I mean this guy
would have to be perfect in every other way to somehow still be worth your time
our next story is I 41 year old male withdraw when attracted passionately and
only approach more pragmatic safe bets help me try to understand this pattern
please I'm not quite sure why I do this when I was young I fell in love real
hard but didn't approach her as I was in a bad place at the time Family wise and
she was on a completely different trajectory it was an experience of
disillusionment as I had many in several crucial areas of life that's the only
time I felt the full on fireworks I've had some casual and one very long-term
partners and while I by no means will regard those connections as lesser they
were definitely not passion driven they were deep very functional we knew each
other in and out sex life okay and then finally declining as it sometimes just
will and they had many of the traits people wanted relationships but the kind
of woman that makes me melt I am afraid not every once in a while I meet a
person like that by accident I recognize that she is that kind and like an
automatism no thinking required I put her on a pedestal with an off-limited
sign on it and make sure I don't bother her I should add that those are very
classy women indeed anyone would need a healthy sense of self to try I can do
some qualified guesswork that I'm avoiding emotional stress that I may
play it safe as to not experience intensity after growing up with mentally
ill parents Etc not sure if that's healthy though I mean even if it makes
sense it could lead to a whole life lived without ever experiencing deep
passion for someone is this a known thing and what do you think about it so
to be honest I think this is something a professional could probably really help
with but yeah it really could be a a lot of things it could be something stemmed
from the way your parents raised you it could be something you kind of just
picked up throughout life as a severe form of insecurity yeah I think really
the best way to fully get a grip on this and understand it is to have a place
with a professional where you can talk through it and analyze it and kind of
get this 360 look at this with somebody who's actually accredited to handle that
kind of stuff this next story is my 22 year old male best friend 22 year old
female said that she sees me as her little brother and that kind of hurts me
my closest friend and I became friends during High School both of us are now 22
years old even though we're both straight I'm a guy and she's a girl
we've never had any romantic interest in
each other our bond is incredibly strong and I trust her more than anyone else
similarly she considers me her best and most intimate friend both of us find it
a bit challenging to rely on other others for support this is especially
true for her due to her difficult relationship with her father which has
led to deep trust issues in our friendship I tend to take the lead more
often I'm the one who initiates Plans by texting her to meet up and I usually
share personal things before she does while she does confide in me about
everything that's happening in her life she does so less frequently admittedly
there are moments when this bothers me I genuinely want to be there for her and
offer my support but sometimes her less frequent sharing makes me question my
significance in her life however I constantly remind myself that her
personality is a naturally more private than mine making it harder for her to
open up there were instances in the past when she leaned on me more especially
when she was still struggling emotionally these were the times when
she needed my support the most recently during a group Gathering she referred to
me as her little brother a phrase she knows I dislike the this wasn't the
first time she used that expression and I'd expressed my discomfort the first
time around the repetition of this phrase hurt me again I generally
consider our friendship to be a solid and mutual connection she has no doubts
about my unwavering support for her but when she refers to me as her little
brother it feels as though she's placing herself in a superior position and
that's painful I envision our friendship as a partnership of equals who Provide
support and lean on each other equally however I'm unsure if she shares the
same desire due to her inherent nature and coping mechanisms she holds a
significant place in my life and our friendship means a lot to me
unfortunately these comments are hurtful and not in line with the type of
relationship and what I have with her and I don't know what to do I think it's
more than valid that if there's something op does not want to be called
does not want to be addressed as to other people that it's downright hurtful
and almost a disgusting act to willing ignore when they express that they don't
like it that said I'd like to see if op had asked about why she chooses to use
that phrasing I'd love if Opie were able to probe and try to understand exactly
why her little brother is something she seems to be so stuck on when she knows
it's something you don't like our next story is girlfriend went off to college
my 20 year old male girlfriend 19 year old female of three years went to UNI
today he had just gotten back from an out of country trip together as our
send-off before she left the uni she goes to is only 30 minutes from me which
isn't bad at all I know I'm just so scared of the hypothetical situations
that could happen I'm terrified of experiencing what it feels to get
cheated on I trust her I just worry the girl I trust now will change as she
grows in college we've lived together for two years now as well and the fact
that I won't see her face first thing in the morning is really messing me up I
just helped to finish moving in and left I cried the whole drive home I'm really
struggling with this I don't want all this time I've invested in this life
we've talked about building together and
the adventures we plan to have to be for nothing I just wish I could turn back
time and relive it all we've traveled to different countries together learn so
much about each other this girl helped me mature and grow in ways you wouldn't
imagine my family adores her they honestly might like her more than me I
just don't know what I'm gonna do if I lose this girl any advice to get through
this I'm in community college right now to save money then transferring to her
University for my last two years we both wanted to go to the same College since
before we met each other well first of all I think it's so important for op to
find a way to tone down these feelings they're having because the fastest way
that they're going to find a way to mess up this relationship is op using this
insecurity and fear that something's going to happen in in this relationship
because I feel like a lot of people in a situation like this they have that
tendency to start going down the road of
do you still love me are you still happy that we're together and just a lot of
loaded overbearing stuff maybe even checking in too much or trying to get
way too much info on something that should just be trivial where are you
going who with how close are you with them who are they bringing secondly
considering they're only 30 minutes away do whatever you can to make sure you
schedule time and see her regularly if you're a constant presence in their life
and you're both already well committed to each other why stray our next story
is I just found out my 22 year old female boyfriend 23 year old male has
been self-sabotaging our relationship and I don't know what to do been
together three years basically he was going through a rough time dealing with
mental health problems which he didn't open up to me about I couldn't tell and
he convinced himself that I deserve better better so he started
self-sabotaging himself and our relationship as in he would never take
me on dates never get me flowers never call me never post me on his story while
he would always do for other outings we went on our first holiday together for
freak's sake and he didn't post any pictures but he posted pictures of him
at the pub when we got back and overall never do anything I wanted to do
including in bed I didn't want much I pay for all the dates anyway so that
wasn't a big blow but we had so many talks about how my needs weren't being
met while I was doing everything for him
this went on for months he said he would change but he never did eventually I
just gave up and accepted that these aren't things I can get in this
relationship but recently he opened up about his self-sabotaging and I feel so
stupid he was doing it all on purpose he said in an attempt to make me hate him
so that when I break up with him I wouldn't feel bad I feel manipulated he
said he was too scared to just break up so he hurt me stupidly on purpose so
many days wasted crying so many days wasted talking about how he isn't
meeting my needs he apologized and said he's going to therapy and has changed he
realizes his ways were wrong but I'm still so hurt this is the second time
he's done this and I'm just convinced that he'll do it again but he's trying
to convince me he's actually going to get help this time I'm so mentally and
emotionally exhausted I deserve better should I break up with him or give him
the benefit of the doubt that he'll actually change honestly if I were op I
would wish them the best tell them your heart is with him on trying to get help
trying to change but you just can't stick around for this Carousel any
longer I think it's just too much stress and uncertainty that you don't need our
next story is my friend female 30 interrupted me female 30 and left
without saying anything apologies in advance I know this might be a little
conversation based I'm just not sure how to react and would appreciate any
opinions I female 30 went to an event with a good friend of mine some would
even say best and female 30 and her husband male 30 side note and can
sometimes be a little unknowingly abrasive her instinct to a lot of things
is to respond with no I am aware of this I also usually have my partner with me
but he wasn't there so I don't have any other person to provide perspective on
what happened so this event was at an event slash party where we didn't know
anyone and just wanted to check out some grand opening of a huge Workshop space
multiple rooms floors Etc we have a couple drinks before we head out we get
there at eight or nine PM we're there exploring around a little bit chat up
someone eventually we sat down here's how the conversation goes Anne says
would you ever go to an outdoor Festival I said yeah I have a story so before
cell phones interrupt and says oh my God and has a little moment slight pause I
say can I continue and says no I say okay and says you can continue your
story I reply no I don't want to anymore she says okay but that's your decision
not to share you know that right I said no I tried to share I asked to share you
said no we argue a little bit saying the same thing she wants to hear it but I'm
not cheering I wanted to share before I got interrupted and shut down she stands
up and starts to walk away I tell her that's her decision to go she leaves I
look at her husband and I'm so confused about what I did wrong I say that I just
wanted to share a dumb story from 20 years ago why did she leave he says that
after being told no I'm supposed to ask again he says they'll be back I wait a
couple minutes then get up to go see where they went I checked the back room
the upstairs look at the street nothing I get a text from her husband saying
that he can't find her and he's going to look for her I'm a little frustrated at
what happened I don't want to sit there and wait till her husband coaxes her
back I don't know anyone so I decide to leave and go home I text both of them
one asking if she wants to talk then another if she's okay one to her husband
saying what happened we're adults what I'm going to go home then to the group
saying sorry I miss them and then good night I get nothing back from either of
them the entire night I still have no idea what happened I don't see how I'm
in the wrong here so I don't really want to apologize sending the good night
texts was already me trying I know I've been more conscious about noticing when
I'm being interrupted something my partner and I have been working on so
he's more aware that I'm asking for space I don't know if this contributed
to anything we have a big trip together in a couple weeks so some kind of
resolution needs to happen I mean I'm not gonna lie in my ultimate gut feeling
I feel like op was a little immature with it that said Anne was also very
immature with it the interruption thing okay it you know it happens some people
just don't have the a great awareness of it and it is very frustrating it's a
very valid emotion and feeling but also I'm not gonna lie I've been that kind of
person to just jokingly say no when somebody reiterates something or asks
something I would find it particularly crappy if somebody after I said no just
shut down and was like forget it no I'm not doing anything ever again I'm not
telling you this story ever immediately it goes from an attempt at being playful
to forget it the night is done I guess some communication would be good here
but I don't know if these two can effectively communicate to each other
without just getting all up in their feelings for no reason but with that
being said that's all the time we have for today now if you want to hear
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I handed him divorce papers today over his Reddit account and a bag of chips
obviously it goes without saying it wasn't just the bag of chips but Hot
Cheetos were my breaking point I couldn't take it anymore I had already
had the terms of Separation drawn up 6 months ago when during a heated argument
he said we don't have kids you should be
thankful it's only me you clean up after I kept hearing it in my head thankful
for cleaning up behind a grown man 10 years older than me he apologized Ed the
next day in detail and told me why what he said was wrong and that he doesn't
believe it but maybe it's just out of my character but I don't think the things
you say in those moments are just hurtful words little bit of Truth in
them and then I found his Reddit account a few days ago I accidentally saw the
username when he showed me a screenshot I tried elmau not really not to memorize
it and it took me 2 days to get the courage to look in between the comments
on NSS FW subreddits was complaints about me and posts about me too one post
he'd be ripped to shreds and told he was a piece of crap reading those comments
made me realize I was nothing but a idiot to think love can fix
things I was 20 when I met him and he was 35 I thought people were being
dramatic or annoying about our age Gap because my single father who raised me
didn't have an issue but then I realized he was just the same type of
creep it was almost like my father preg gred me to accept certain Behavior to
make it easier for the other men in my life I'm getting off topic but I came
home early today after a rough day at work and finding out my direct reporting
manager had been corded by her husband then walked in the door to see my lazy
filthy one I told him what happened to her I started to cry he didn't console
me he said we don't know what made him do that let's wish both of them luck and
move on with our day wish her luck the dead lady I tried to convince
myself he just didn't pay attention that
soothed me for about an hour until I was in the middle of making dinner and he
complained that it was already 6:45 p.m. I told him he shouldn't be that hungry
yet he just ate half a bag of chips and left them on the table so instead of a
helping me finish dinner e apologizing and waiting silently and patiently C
finishing the bag of chips or D just laughing it off he threw the bag of
chips at me 7 years together four married and he's never done anything
that downright rude because low self-esteem aside that's something that
won't fly with me either way the chips landed all over the floor I had just
mopped and swept whatever glare I gave him it was enough to make him grab the
broom in 30 seconds it wasn't enough to make him at least check that it was all
swept up and vacuum after so when I finished dinner and brought our plates
to the dinner table thinking wow I really spoil him the entire time we've
dated I've always made his plates and brought them right to him no one has
ever done that for me and I stepped on a chip it didn't hurt or anything but I
screamed not sure why I just couldn't take it anymore so I ran to the home
office and came back out with the papers and Pen put them in front of his dinner
plate and walked out while he was yelling my name I'm killing a burger and
fries in my car right now and realizing I have to start all over my life is done
my love for him is too I hope I don't cave I hope I don't let him convince me
I hope if I start to change my mind I come back and read this post so that I
understand this is not a heated decision
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aita for being cautious about letting my
ex back into our daughter's life after 5 years I 29f have a 5f with my ex 32m we
were engaged but never really planned to have kids before marriage or at least
for the next few years I was on the pill and he used protection sometimes but I
ended up pregnant since it was unplanned abortion was on the table he was more
into making it work so both of us decided to keep the baby I wasn't
emotionally prepared but for him love is all it takes to make everything work
fast forward 6 months he started to change he would give me the silent
treatment if I do something wrong he wouldn't engage in any conversation
about the baby and would just yell at me if I ask what's wrong I was almost 8
months pregnant when he told me he's just not ready to be a father and can't
do both things it's either fatherhood or his career I was scared to be a single
mother so I told him it's fine I can take care of our baby and be a s until
things get better for him but he refused and made it clear everything is over
since the house was his I left and went to live with my mom until I found myself
a place I gave birth to my baby girl and he never came to see her his mother and
sister were there for me and to this day
they're still part of my daughter's life as for him he gave up his parental
rights and granted me full custody legally but was willing to contribute
financially through child support he voluntarily provides financial support
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first story op is going to a funeral her abusive mother whom she hasn't seen or
spoken to in six years will be there op is also pregnant with Mom's first
grandchild I'm just kind of freaking out and need some support I won't skip my
grandfather's funeral he was a oneof a-k
kind man and the world is darker without him in it at the same time I'm so
worried that Mom will try to use this event to talk to me or reconnect or
something and my pregnancy will be her perfect excuse she was extremely
neglectful and Psych logically abusive in my childhood so there's no way I'm
letting her back into my life her strategy was always woe as me single
motherhood is so hard attention seeking think Mother Gothel so a public
confrontation about how I'm keeping her only grandchild from her is right up her
alley and it's a no- win for me if I don't engage she can ruin the funeral
for me and my saying goodbye to my grandfather and if I do engage then she
can make the funeral about her oh and she may have some heirloom hand Nets to
pass down which I may have to leave on the table even though I do want them and
that's upsetting as well I'm just so scared that going is a bad idea but I
live so far away and I couldn't get time off to say goodbye while he was in
hospice and I know I would regret not going I'm just kind of a wreck and I
will take any advice or support you can spare thank you in advance update for
many folks here I have recruited a friend who is aware of the history and
willing to run interference to attend with me update posted in Aram for a
minute update I went to a funeral today my abusive mother who I hadn't seen or
spoken to in six years was there first of all thank you to everyone who
commented especially those who suggested I go in disguise with a wig and big
sunglasses unlikely to have been effective but very fun to think about
nonetheless so I recruited my best friend from high school who is much
beloved by myself and my husband to accompany me to the funeral he was
present for a lot of my mother's behaviors back in the day and knew what
to expect should she decide to engage he was also enthusiastic about the idea of
playing forceful bodyguard if necessary I'm sorry but Ms rainbow star is not
taking questions at this time move along
it was a fun car ride we did discuss how to handle various family members and
situations including my worst case scenario which he agreed was unlikely
but did sound like something she would do since the goal was not to provide any
openings we had a lot of hypotheticals to work through but in brief we settled
on one I will not engage her or anyone known to be a sympathizer
to I will allow myself to be approached by her or a sympathizer be polite but
distant and provide no specifics or any real conversation starters 3A if
approached before the service I will take the advice from redacted and answer
any intrusive or inappropriate topics with boundaries like Papa's funeral is
not the place to discuss these things if pushed I would disengage and my friend
would engage her so I could re-enter for the service 3B if approached after the
service I would say I'm so sorry to hear
about your father he was a great man and we would both disengage immediately
until she stopped following up to and including driving away for if she made
any assumptions about her place in the baby's life I would be abrupt and firm
allow her to make as much of a scene as she wanted to and try to pick the most
scathing time to pull a Maggie Smith and say get a hold of yourself and then
disengage five all the above goes out the window if she makes a full apology
for any part of her role in our estrangement so armed we went in we were
among the few wearing masks we had a few minutes before the service started and
there was no receiving line or socializing in the lobby so we went to
the bathroom and then took our seats in the back not in the family area with one
minute to go my brother did notice me and came back to offer to trade seats
with me so I could sit with the family he was sitting right next to my mother I
just said no thank you and gave him a hug he did not argue at one point during
the service mom did turn around and look at me I had to look past her to see the
Lecter so I had a very clear view of her her angry face before she turned back
around after the service I wanted to see which of Papa's works of art they had
picked for the memorial display so I waited until mom was in conversation
with someone because I had to walk past her to get to it after we looked at the
display mom's best friend approached me her hey me hi nice to see you again she
looked pointedly at my belly a few times I smiled vapidly so I waited hoping I
could make ey contact with someone else and move G because while this
conversation was not bad it was awkward as F but we were in scenario 2 so my
friend let me lead so what are you expecting I asked her to repeat herself
while I debated saying no I'm 5 months pregnant it would be very funny to say
no but I thought it might have some unpleasant Downstream effects so I said
yes when are you du May oh nice thank you and then I gave her a sympathetic
shoulder squeeze and walked away saying take care I talked to my cousins for a
while as well as one of my brothers and my sister my cousins are neutral as far
as I know and they are delightful people my siblings are not neutral but they
know better than to test me I was never worried about them my aunt stopped by to
say hello and hug and then moved on without any prompting or awkwardness and
then we cousins had a delightful and rambling conversation that was
everything I needed in that moment after
a bit I referenced our long return drive but did not say how long so as not to
indic where I was staying and we gave hugs and left my mother was talking to
Papa's wife she looked in our Direction presumably at us but I was watching her
out of my peripheral vision so I can't be sure but did not follow we went
straight to the car and drove away so all in all everything went about as well
as it could possibly have gone I do not feel that the time and energy spent
preparing was wasted at all and I deeply
appreciate the advice and support that I got from all of the wonderful moms and
siblings here I will be sure to lurk for for a while and attempt to repay the
favor since I cannot possibly thank you all enough much love from this duckling
you are all excellent Second Story op's boyfriend and his family accusing op of
being a baby killer after she lost her baby I 19f found out I was pregnant a
month ago I've been on birth control since I was 15 same pill I'm enrolled in
school have a job and live in an apartment in a city close to home I have
a cat too everything was perfect 6 weeks ago I missed my period I waited 10 days
and missed my period this wasn't normal I originally started the pill because of
my irregular period did I miss a pill I counted twice three times and four no
extras I looked at the open pack I had for this month and the unopened one for
next month they weren't expired they were exactly the same down to the print
of the expiration date I fished the trash can for last month's empty package
same thing I couldn't stop thinking about it on the way to class that
morning I grabbed three pregnancy tests from the campus bookstore I sat my
coffee and breakfast sandwich outside the bathroom door and went in I've never
taken a pregnancy test but I've always heard the phrase p on a stick so I
opened all three and used them at the same time I waited 3 minutes and washed
my hands grabbing each of the tests with a paper towel all three of them were
positive I cried I dry heaved I wanted to pass out on the bathroom floor I
called my boyfriend and he was as excited as ever I was panicking saying
we weren't ready for a baby how I couldn't stay in school and work with a
newborn and how I would lose everything I'm not ready I don't want children
right now he started to say how I was selfish and would just have to put my
classes and whatnot on hold until the baby was old enough to go to daycare
that made me nauseous I told him I was coming home and he met me there he held
me and cried saying how happy he was I felt so disgusted with myself for
knowing I didn't want this baby after seeing him cry like that I wanted to try
and keep the baby for him I thought about having the the baby and just
leaving him with it I thought about disappearing and never having the baby
after a few days I had to ask what he thought of me getting rid of the baby he
told me he would hate me and would never speak to me again he laid into me going
on and on about me being a baby killer and how I was selfish evil and immature
for even thinking something like that we got into a huge argument from there and
I made him leave he broke my TV and my favorite vase I cried for days begging
him to take me back he said I would if I kept the baby
needless to say he didn't take me back I spent every night after that drinking
bottle after bottle of Jim Bean whiskey apple flavored my dad's favorite I
miscarried in the dead of the night on a Thursday I thought I had a real bad
stomach bug until I saw the blood in my toilet my neighbor took me to the
hospital where my now ex's sister works he showed up with my mom his mom and his
dad while she half hugged me his mom and dad made comments about how I probably
did this on purpose considering I didn't want the baby anyway anyway I just kept
my mouth shut my mom asked if they were here to support me or their son and if
they weren't here for me they should just leave they started arguing and
eventually it got loud and security escorted everyone out but not before my
ex and his family could start shouting at the top of their lungs I'm a baby
killer and I'm going to hell and yada y yada I'm in so much pain I'm so tired
and I'm so angry everything had to come to this I really loved him and now I
feel like I'm losing everybody because of this tldr I got pregnant even though
I've been on birth control my ex wanted to keep it but I didn't I drank until
the baby died and now I'm in the hospital being labeled as a baby killer
edit this post got a lot more attention than I thought it would I'm a little
overwhelmed with lots of messages and comments I really appreciate all the
genuine support from people I'm going to try to take the good advice here and
ignore the mean people thank you all so much again all updates were added to the
original post update hello again for those of you wondering I'm 19 my ex
is 23 and I'm still in the hospital my ex's family is gone and my mom went home
a bit ago if my vitals stay where they need to be I can leave tomorrow I'm
trying to convince myself that the miscarriage isn't my fault but I still
feel like sht but I really do appreciate everyone trying I did see a lot of
comments about the potential HIPPA violation I'm going to report it once
I'm closer to leaving I feel very anxious about reporting it while I'm
still here also I really don't think my ex would tamper with my birth control
but I also didn't think he was abusive until you guys pointed it out I honestly
just feel so confused and hurt and I'm ready to get out of this dumb hospital I
understand this is my fault I'm in here though what I did was pretty dumb sorry
for the boring update but I'm really tired thank you all so much for the kind
words update two I woke up to twice as many comments and messages as yesterday
you guys have absolutely shredded my inbox I never knew so much kindness
could exist in one place and I've actually cried at a lot of these you all
are so amazing I will be going home soon the hospital staff compiled a list of
resources for me therapy support groups substance abuse treatment Etc my ex went
back to my apartment and disabled the Wi-Fi cameras I had set up I had to
block him and his family members after I got almost 100 messages so I'll be
returning with my dad I asked the Night Nurse to make sure my ex's sister was
not my nurse for today as she made me feel really uncomfortable so I shouldn't
see her anymore I'm really going to try and take all the advice you guys give me
I'm probably not going to update this post again last thank you and I truly
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how do I tell my husband his poor hygiene is a mega turnoff my husband 36m
and I 30f have been married for nearly 6 years I'm a stay-at-home mom to two
badass kids and my husband we'll call him Michael is currently active duty in
the Army having served myself I can confirm that while training SL deployed
you may see many weeks before a full shower and most people especially men
become accustomed to the array of odors that exist in that type of environment
Michael rounding on retirement has spent the vast majority of his adult life in
environments like this becoming more and
more indifferent to filth this is not me
shitposting my husband he's a good man a doting father and he takes really good
care of it I am so deeply proud of his accomplishments career and I am grateful
for his selfless service every single day there's just one problem he will not
bathe in 6 years I can count on one hand the amount of times I've seen him brush
his teeth I don't think I've ever seen him wash his hand when he does bathe he
usually takes a bath after a week sometimes longer of not even touching
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The celebrity world is incredibly glamorous,
and it can certainly feel like that sometimes,
:12.540 --> :17.640 but when you stay in it long enough, you'll
realize that maybe everything isn't as it seems. :17.640 --> :23.460
With the abundance of paparazzi and celebrity news
outlets on nearly every social media platform,
:23.460 --> :28.320 it is very easy to be flooded by information
that doesn't stay valid for too long. :28.320 --> :32.460
I am a 26-year-old woman and I have
worked as a personal assistant to a :32.460 --> :37.740
celebrity stylist for 3 and a half years.
My boss is a 34-year-old woman that I'll
:37.740 --> :41.580 call Jeanie. I think it's mandatory to
mention that it is not her real name. :41.580 --> :46.020
Now I won't be mentioning who Jeanie
worked for, but the person is a big shot
:46.020 --> :50.940 in both the music and movie industries,
and they are the sweetest human ever. :50.940 --> :55.680
How I started working for Jeanie is a little
funny, I'll be honest. I had just moved to
:55.680 --> :00.900
New York after watching The Devil Wears Prada
a little too many times, and after two months
:00.900 --> :06.000
of surviving on my savings, I finally decided
that it was time to get myself a big girl job. :06.000 --> :10.800
I'm someone who lives by the quote “if
it feels right, then it is right.” which
:10.800 --> :15.540 made for a lot of job hopping. I didn't
keep any jobs for longer than two months,
:15.540 --> :21.240
and I was barely doing enough to pay for my tent
and three meals a day. But it was fine to me
:21.240 --> :25.860 because finding a job that I was interested
in meant more to me than anything else. :25.860 --> :30.660
I normally would not care to mention why, but
I think it's valid to mention that I am on
:30.660 --> :36.480 the adhd spectrum and if I don't work a job
that interests me in the slightest, I'll be
:36.480 --> :42.300
absolutely useless at it. This proved to be true
with me barely keeping a job past two months. :42.300 --> :48.180
The day I met Jeanie was actually a really bad
day. I got a few job interviews that I had to
:48.180 --> :53.520 take train rides to. I dressed in my cutest
thrifted designer pieces to the interviews,
:53.520 --> :59.460
but I could tell from how badly the interviewer
that I wouldn't get any of the jobs. On the
:59.460 --> :04.320 train ride back, I noticed Jeanie because
of her super shiny metallic silver boots,
:04.320 --> :08.520 and I couldbt help starting at them.
Because I was looking at her so much, :08.520 --> :14.040
I noticed when she left the train and forgot
her Telfar bag. Her purple Telfar bag. :14.040 --> :19.560
Now I'm a huge fashion enthusiast but I don't
have the money to do more than thrifting.
:19.560 --> :25.440 Thrifting as a bigger girl in New York City
is next to impossible and insanely expensive,
:25.440 --> :29.760 but I make it work. The Telfar bag in
my favorite color has been on the top :29.760 --> :35.340
of my list and I have looked so hard but never
found it anywhere that wasn't too expensive,
:35.340 --> :38.580 but here it was, sitting on a
train and staring me in the face. :38.580 --> :45.120
My initial plan was to take it for myself, but
upon second inspection, the owner had a lot of
:45.120 --> :50.100 important things in it. I saw her wallet, ID
cards and random dollar bills lying around,
:50.100 --> :54.600 as well as a few other important looking
stuff. I would feel too guilty if I took it,
:54.600 --> :58.260 so I called her number and instead
of going home when I got to my stop, :58.260 --> :01.560
I got another ticket and started going back to long island.
:01.560 --> :07.980 The woman was tired and her face was visibly
swollen from crying and she immediately hugged me,
:07.980 --> :12.180
letting me know that her most important notebook
that she used to write down things she needed
:12.180 --> :17.040 to remember, was in the bag as well. She
offered to give me money or buy me drinks,
:17.040 --> :21.360 but I refused, just reeling in the
joy of making someone feel better. :21.360 --> :27.600
The last thing she said before we were supposed
to part was “if I had an assistant, all of this
:27.600 --> :31.920
would have been avoided” and I didn't know when
I blurted out that I could be her assistant. :31.920 --> :37.740
There was a very long minute of silence before
she asked me how good my memory was. I let her
:37.740 --> :42.120 know that I was the best at recalling both
my schedules as well as other's. She didn't
:42.120 --> :47.880
know this at the time, but not too long after my
diagnosis with ADHD, I started therapy to help
:47.880 --> :52.260 me figure healthy ways to keep my brain
on track, and they became habits for me. :52.260 --> :57.840
For the first time in my life, I was being honest
during a job interview that wasn't even a proper
:57.840 --> :03.120 job interview. After our brief discussion, l
got on a train back home with Jeanie’s personal
:03.120 --> :08.400 number on my phone, her book of schedules
and a 7am train to catch the very next day. :08.400 --> :13.620
Being a stylist's assistant was the best
job ever. It was so exhausting and mentally
:13.620 --> :19.560 stimulating at the same time. We traveled
a lot, slept for insane hours and ate on
:19.560 --> :23.460 the move. I learned to multitask in ways
that I had never thought I could before. :23.460 --> :28.320
Jeanie was good at her job, and she was one of
the few stylists in the business that went to jobs
:28.320 --> :34.080
fully decked out in gorgeous clothes and makeup.
I tried to keep up with her as much as I could,
:34.080 --> :39.420 but things started to get a little messy as
she just expected me to know things when she
:39.420 --> :44.700 didn't tell me. Almost as if she expected
me to be telepathic. Or is it psychic? :44.700 --> :49.800
I spoke up about the lack of communication and
how I needed her to be clearer with me, so that
:49.800 --> :54.780
we didn't miss any appointments, and she looked
at me like I was asking for an impossible favor. :54.780 --> :59.700
Shortly after then, Christmas came up and I
took time offto travel back home and spend
:59.700 --> :03.420 time with my family. Before I had
to go, I set up her appointments, :03.420 --> :08.280
put up decorations in her apartment and put
in her coffee orders for the next three weeks,
:08.280 --> :11.220 just so she would not have
issues adjusting without me. :11.220 --> :18.720
Tell me why, as soon as I arrive the airport, I
look at my phone and see nearly 10 missed calls
:18.720 --> :24.480 and multiple texts in all caps, asking me to
come back to her office or I would lose my job.
:24.480 --> :28.920 Finding a job was already hard enough,
and I didn't want to begin my new year :28.920 --> :33.420
with looking for one, so I did what any
reasonable person would do and tried to
:33.420 --> :38.400 call her back. All she did was yell at me
to come back and fix a mess that I made. :38.400 --> :43.500
The funny part of the entire exchange was
that if she just checked the to-do-list/alarm
:44.520 --> :48.120 reminder system that I set up for her,
she would not have had to call me. :48.120 --> :52.140
I didn't miss my flight because I
got very excited and went to the :52.140 --> :57.240
airport four hours earlier, and then the
flight was delayed for an extra hour. It
:57.240 --> :00.960 was just my luck that I got there
barely 20 minutes before takeoff. :00.960 --> :06.840
We started the New Year on a very exhausting
note, as she had appointments to style very
:06.840 --> :11.940
many celebrities for the array of award events
that were taking place, as well as photoshoots,
:11.940 --> :17.520 wardrobe styling jobs, and many others.
It was a lot, and I (very nicely) asked
:17.520 --> :23.340 for a raise, just in time for my birthday. I
was met with a scowl and a scathing email of
:23.340 --> :28.740 how inconsiderate I was, and how I didn't
take the job seriously. It was as if all
:28.740 --> :32.700 she knew to do from then on was to let
me know how easily replaceable I was. :32.700 --> :38.400
I worked my ass off, barely slept and
developed the darkest under eye bags, :38.400 --> :43.380
lost a massive amount of weight and stopped
hanging out with friends or taking care of
:43.380 --> :48.720
myself because I really wanted to prove that I
was worthy of the job. My birthday came and passed
:48.720 --> :53.760 without as much as a simple acknowledgement
from my boss, and I remember also forgetting.
:53.760 --> :57.300 I remembered later at night when I had
the chance to scroll through my phone :57.300 --> :01.080
before bed and saw all the birthday wishes from friends and family.
:01.080 --> :07.740 We soon reached a year working together, and
I was EXHAUSTED. It got so bad that people
:07.740 --> :12.240 I barely knew started asking me if I was
sick and telling me that I needed a break. :12.240 --> :17.340
Now, I've got a very toxic mentality
towards illness. I believe that if I :17.340 --> :21.240
ignore it for long enough, it will go
away. It's why I continued to work my :21.240 --> :26.220
ass off until one day I woke up and
couldn't physically move. Even then, :26.220 --> :31.140
I still made a couple of calls and texts to
make sure things were still in place for Jeanie. :31.140 --> :36.270
When I called to let her know that I was too
sick to function, she screamed at me and and and,
:36.270 --> :39.600 calling me lazy and threatening not to
pay me for the month if i didnt show :39.600 --> :43.560
up. I hung up and turned off my phone
until I felt better later that night. :43.560 --> :47.880
It was hurtful that my employer
didn't give a damn about my health, :47.880 --> :53.400
only caring about her business but not the
person who made the said business run smoothly.
:53.400 --> :57.780 I sent an email, letting her know to check
our joint virtual planer for information
:57.780 --> :02.460 concerning work for the next few days, as
I would be out of order, getting better. :02.460 --> :06.000
She responded, asking me to work
from home for the rest of the month, :06.000 --> :09.360
and then she would pay me off at the
end and we would cease to work together. :09.360 --> :14.580
Immediately I saw the message, I just knew
that I had to make her realize that treating
:14.580 --> :18.900 someone who worked so hard for her the way
that she treated me, was not acceptable. :18.900 --> :23.880
I started to slightly shift things, just
enough for her not to notice. I started
:23.880 --> :28.560
by showing up to her office when she was out of
town, to move things around, delete some already
:28.560 --> :34.020 drafted emails, and cancel a few orders.
I got in because everyone at the office
:34.020 --> :38.280 knew me and had no doubts when I told
them that I just forget my key at home. :38.280 --> :43.320
Then I made mistakes that I knew she was
prone to, like setting reminders a day :43.320 --> :49.440
too early or a day too late, and then lied by
telling her I didn't do any of it. With time,
:49.440 --> :55.260
even she began to doubt her own mind. But that was
not the end of it, I still had more up my sleeve. :55.260 --> :59.460
There's a popular music award show in
May, and Jeanie was supposed to style :59.460 --> :04.920
a celebrity who was presenting at the show, which
meant multiple outfit changes. We had planned the
:04.920 --> :10.440
outfits months earlier, going as far as having
up to three backup outfits, just in case. :10.440 --> :15.660
I extended the order for the main outfits, so
that it would be delivered an entire month after,
:15.660 --> :18.900 and then went ahead to order
the backup’s to my apartment. :18.900 --> :24.720
The trick here was that I used Jeanie’s email
to extend the order, as she was fully convinced
:24.720 --> :29.280 that she did it. She eventually called me
because I send a text asking her what to
:29.280 --> :34.560 do with the spare outfits in my house, and
next thing I knew, I was on a flight to LA. :34.560 --> :40.140
A lot was riding on the job, because this
was a massive celebrity who could end her
:40.140 --> :45.780 career with one tweet or Instagram post,
and end everything she had struggled to
:45.780 --> :50.100 build. She had to swallow her pride
and admit that she needed my help. :50.100 --> :55.500
Did I feel bad for basically gaslighting
my boss into letting me keep my job? Yes.
:55.500 --> :58.200 If I had been caught, I would
probably have gone to jail. :58.200 --> :03.660
But did she learn to value me more?
Absolutely. It was almost as if she :03.660 --> :07.800
realized that without the routine we had made
up, things would crumble into a big mess. :07.800 --> :14.760
Jeanie is so much kinder now, and she will never
know what I did, but boy am I glad that I did it
:46.980 --> :52.020 A lot of our life lessons are learned at
our first job, or sometimes life becomes
:52.020 --> :56.400 the reason why we get jobs early on. For
me, it was the latter, and I'm about to
:56.400 --> :02.040
tell you how I went from being a timid teenager
to standing up for myself and my other coworkers. :02.040 --> :06.360
I was born into a very small family. It was just my parents,
:06.360 --> :11.520
me, and my little sister for most of my life.
We were also very tightly knit as a family,
:11.520 --> :17.400
doing activities together and just being happy.
Most of my earlier childhood was happy, and for
:17.400 --> :22.680 that, I'll be eternally grateful to my parents.
They were only children of their own parents and
:22.680 --> :27.480
always wanted a safe environment for their own
kids, and they did amazing, in providing that.
:27.480 --> :31.980 My little sister and I were homeschooled
for most of our lives, and while it did
:31.980 --> :37.260 give us small problems like social anxiety
and the inability to handle large crowds,
:37.260 --> :41.940 later on, it caused us to be independent
and more emotionally intelligent than most. :41.940 --> :47.280
My father was a sweet, quiet man who liked
to do woodwork and carpentry. It was one
:47.280 --> :51.600 of the first skills I learned, eventually
branching out into pottery and sewing and
:51.600 --> :56.040 just about anything I could do with my hands.
My mother is also a quiet woman and an artist,
:56.040 --> :00.660 so most of our family moments were spent
in silence, working with our hands. :00.660 --> :05.580
When I turned 13, my father started
getting really ill a lot of the time. :05.580 --> :10.380
They would last short amounts of time, but
with time they became very frequent and
:10.380 --> :14.160 within the window of time he had between
recovery and the next bout of illness, :14.160 --> :19.920
he barely had any energy for anything else.
He was always so tired and exhausted and
:19.920 --> :25.320 slept all the time. My mother was so strong
for us and my dad but my 11-year-old sister
:25.320 --> :30.060
understood that things were not the same anymore
and that we would have to be careful around him. :30.060 --> :34.800
Our parents tried their best to act normal
but we somehow knew that things would never
:34.800 --> :40.200
be the same again. It was in the later stages
that we (the kids) found out that our dad had
:40.200 --> :45.780 a violent case of leukemia and would not make it.
He did last longer than the intended three months,
:45.780 --> :49.020 making it to one year and four
months before passing away. :49.020 --> :54.180
His death hit us harder because he had
the biggest personality at home and his
:54.180 --> :58.740 absence dug a big hole in the fabric of what
our family used to be. In the beginning,
:58.740 --> :04.080 we all became extremely detached from each
other, mourning him in our own little ways.
:04.080 --> :09.840 Our house was dead quiet for days on end,
with my sister and I being unable to attend
:09.840 --> :13.920 our homeschool classes and my mother
being cooped up in her room all day. :13.920 --> :19.500
Right after my dad's funeral, my mother called
us to explain how his illnesses and medicine put
:19.500 --> :23.700 a strain on the family’s finances, and
since she had been too distracted with :23.700 --> :28.620
taking care of him and us to do any work.
Her initial solution was to get multiple
:28.620 --> :34.020 jobs so that she could continue to pay for
our homeschooling, but I suggested going to
:34.020 --> :38.520 a public high school since I was already of
the right age. It would save a lot of money,
:38.520 --> :42.480 and I could also take up a shift at
one of the many fast foods or coffee :42.480 --> :47.700
shops nearby. They are somehow always looking
for staff, no matter how many people apply. :47.700 --> :52.560
My little sister, who was 13 at the time,
agreed to go with me to public school and
:52.560 --> :57.060 take on babysitting and dog sitting around
the neighborhood to make some money as well. :57.060 --> :02.460
It was the first time all three of us had
spoken full sentences to each other and we
:02.460 --> :06.780 ate dinner together as well. Our dad’s
favorite is leftover microwave pizza. :06.780 --> :12.240
Being thrust from homeschool life into the
public high school setting was the biggest
:12.240 --> :19.260 and most insane change of our lives. We were
ambushed by noise and people and smells. It
:19.260 --> :24.060 was so intense that I had a panic attack in
the bathroom for the entire lunch period. :24.060 --> :28.080
After two weeks of settling in, I went
in for an interview at one of the fast :28.080 --> :32.520
food joints around school, and I was
instantly hired for the rush hour shift. :32.520 --> :37.440
The pay was not the best, and the
only customers were basically high :37.440 --> :43.200
schoolers who just loved to be rude, so I
was overstimulated and tired all the time. :43.200 --> :49.020
The manager at the time was a sweet old Korean
man with a very strong accent and a soft voice,
:49.020 --> :52.680 and he figured out that I was
having problems pretty early on. :52.680 --> :56.100
The day he called me into his
office and asked me if I was okay, :56.100 --> :02.100
I burst into tears for the first time since my
father’s funeral and he just hugged me until I
:02.100 --> :09.000
was finished. Imagine a 5ft11 fifteen-year-old
holding onto a small 5ft2 man for dear life. :09.000 --> :15.060
That was me. He let me end my shift early and we
spent the rest of the afternoon talking and eating
:15.060 --> :20.640
donuts and somehow, by the end of the day, I felt
better about life than had in almost two years. :20.640 --> :26.220
My manager, I'll call him Papa Jon, was
a very kind man who worked as a guidance
:26.220 --> :30.360 counselor in his youth until he retired
and became the manager of the fast food. :30.360 --> :34.500
He was in his 70s and had been managing the place for almost 30 years.
:34.500 --> :40.980
The year I turned 17 and was supposed to leave
high school, Papa Jon finally hit 30 years as
:40.980 --> :46.200
the manager of the restaurant and we had a whole
send-off party for him. It was the saddest and
:46.200 --> :51.480 most emotional day of my life because he
was a godsend and helped me heal from my
:51.480 --> :55.740 dad's death faster than I would have.
I overcame most of my social anxiety :55.740 --> :00.000
more and was able to be there for my family the way that I wanted to be.
:00.000 --> :05.340 Within days of his absence, a new manager
was hired and it was a completely new face
:05.340 --> :09.660 that had never worked in the restaurant
before. And we later found that he had :09.660 --> :13.620
never worked at any fast food chain at any point in his life.
:13.620 --> :18.960
We all took a quick dislike to him the second
he stepped into the place. He was snooty,
:18.960 --> :22.920 and rude, and looked down on everyone as
if we didn't all work at the same place. :22.920 --> :28.800
I'm usually very good at minding my business and
staying in my lane, until one day the new manager,
:28.800 --> :34.260 I'll call him Ron, decided to cross me.
I call him Ron because he kind of reminded
:34.260 --> :39.300 me of the character in the sense that he had
shockingly bright red hair. Besides that,
:39.300 --> :42.660 there was nothing that tied him to the
character. He seemed to hate joy and :42.660 --> :47.760
happiness. Whenever a younger member of the staff
would decide to laugh or smile while they worked,
:47.760 --> :52.500 he would talk down on them and threaten to
reduce their salaries or something more drastic. :52.500 --> :56.880
The first time he crossed me, I had just
gotten off an extra shift that I took for
:56.880 --> :01.800 a coworker who was also a single mom that
had too much going on with her lately. I
:01.800 --> :06.000 decided to help out for a while, and I was
closing up the restaurant when he showed
:06.000 --> :10.620 up and asked me where my coworker was. I
quickly explained as I packed up some of
:10.620 --> :15.180 the leftover food in to-go baggies so that
I could drop it off for her on my way home. :15.180 --> :20.580
He scowled and began shit-talking her,
saying so many things about how young :20.580 --> :25.680
women enjoyed sex too much and then letting
the world deal with the product of their bad
:25.680 --> :31.800
decisions. It was really just a speech that let
me know that he was THE incel of the century.
:31.800 --> :37.140 After he was done, I let the awkward silence
linger in the air while I finished my work,
:37.140 --> :39.780 only speaking to him as I
walked out of the restaurant. :39.780 --> :46.080
I asked him, in the most passive-aggressive,
fake nice tone, to never speak to me if
:46.080 --> :50.340 he had nothing nice or productive
to say about work or anyone else. :50.340 --> :57.240
He had a lot to say after that, calling me very
colorful names and poorly disguised slurs. I
:57.240 --> :01.560 still think it's an honor that he thought
me to be a member of the LGBTQ+ community. :01.560 --> :05.940
Most of the workers at this restaurant
were high schoolers like me, the youngest
:05.940 --> :10.800 person being a 14-year-old kid who washed
dishes in the kitchen. He was also hearing
:10.800 --> :15.840 impaired and relied on hearing aids to hear us.
Most of the time, especially when it was rush
:15.840 --> :21.420
hour, he turned off the hearing aids to be able to
concentrate on washing dishes as fast as he could. :21.420 --> :24.660
When he finished with the dishes,
he dropped the clean ones on a :24.660 --> :27.540
shelf so that we could pick them
up without disturbing him. It was :27.540 --> :31.800
a perfect pick up - drop off system that
we developed and everyone was used to it. :31.800 --> :37.200
The second time Ron ran into me was during a
Sunday shift. It was extremely busy because
:37.200 --> :42.060 of a church outreach service that had taken
place that morning, and the church decided to
:42.060 --> :46.440 sponsor the lunches for anyone who came
into the restaurant between 12pm-5pm. :46.440 --> :51.960
Our youngest staff was on his feet and turned
off his hearing aids as usual. Because of this,
:51.960 --> :55.620 he didn't hear Ron calling to
him and asking for more dishes. :55.620 --> :02.160
It was a high stress situation, and while I
understood the frustration, it was no reason for
:02.160 --> :08.460
him, an adult, to storm into the kitchen, demand
that the kid turn on his hearing aid and then
:08.460 --> :14.160 proceed to say some very scathing words to him.
Real fucked up shit that had this kid quivering
:14.160 --> :18.960 and sobbing. As if that wasn't enough,
he threw down a stack of 12 plates, :18.960 --> :24.120
breaking them in the process and then letting the
kid know that it was all coming from his paycheck. :24.120 --> :31.200
I intervened not too long after that and Ron had
no choice but to back off. At 6ft3 and 230 pounds
:31.200 --> :36.300 of fat and muscle, I was already a walking
giant and I liked to use it whenever I could. :36.300 --> :41.820
After some more colorful words, the
entire fiasco ended and we were able :41.820 --> :45.600
to come to a mutual understanding, with a bit of mild threatening.
:45.600 --> :50.880 Ron’s behavior of bullying and threatening
younger staff was beginning to get alarming,
:50.880 --> :55.920 and before long we began to lose staff.
The general outlet manager learned of this,
:55.920 --> :58.800 and he decided to call a
meeting with all the staff. :58.800 --> :02.100
At this point, we all hated Ron and wanted him gone,
:02.100 --> :07.500 so we organized a little coup behind
his back, with me being the ring leader. :07.500 --> :13.080
The most recent altercation he had was with a
17 year old member of the staff, and it was so
:13.080 --> :18.660
serious that he yelled at her and faked hitting
her. Due to that, she fell and sprained her ankle.
:18.660 --> :24.180
It had been a week and the sprain was almost fully
healed, but I convince her to write a scathing
:24.180 --> :30.000
letter to the managing director’s email, letting
him know that she and her family planned to sue. :30.000 --> :36.540
Other staff who had left, also started to do
the same, both past and present. It became
:36.540 --> :41.280 a huge thing, so much that we also signed
petitions to kick him out of the restaurant. :41.280 --> :46.020
The day of the meeting came, and
Ron was horrified by all of the :46.020 --> :49.500
accusations. He tried to argue until he was red in the face,
:49.500 --> :54.300
but when so many parents were demanding either
settlement for the maltreatment of their kids
:54.300 --> :59.700 or threatening to sue, the company had to
decide whether to shut down or let him go. :59.700 --> :02.940
The whole fiasco was published in local papers,
:02.940 --> :07.740 and Ron was terrorized by young kids
who just loved to prank. He couldn't :07.740 --> :12.840
get a job anywhere in town for an entire
year, not until he finally moved out. :12.840 --> :18.540
Even then, he had “workplace bully” under
his name on a few too many articles, :18.540 --> :22.740
and you had to be completely desperate for staff to hire him.
:22.740 --> :27.120 My father and Papa Jon taught me
to use whatever I could to do good, :27.120 --> :31.140
even if it meant framing an asshole to protect the people I cared about. | give me a good story on rNuclearRevengeMYBOSSBULLIESDEAFYEAROLDRedditStories |
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husband has ruined my Christmas my husband 35m and I 35f have been married
for four years and have two children 3month old M and 2 years old M this is
the first Christmas where my toddler understands a lot more about what's
going on and we've been talking about Santa decorating the tree wrapping
family gifts together Etc my husband has
been talking a lot about building family traditions for the kids which I thought
was lovely my family has a German background so we opened up the gifts
from family on Christmas Eve together with my parents and brother I had a
rough night with the baby so slept a little longer than usual this morning
Christmas morning but not unreasonable thought I woke at 7:45 the toddler had
woken at 6:00 a.m. and my husband had gotten up to him I got up to discover
that my husband had opened up the presents from Santa with my toddler
already which has left me devastated I felt so excluded and robbed of seeing
the Joy on my child's face opening up the gifts I had picked out for him he
didn't wait until I woke up or wake me up if the toddler couldn't wait my
husband commented that it was a lovely father-son moment which drove the knife
and further clearly I'm an afterthought when he thinks of family I've been
holding back tears all day for the sake of the toddler | give me a good story on HusbandhasruinedmyChristmasredditshortsorig |
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Ida who am I kidding I am defiantly the a-hole for sleeping with my ex fiance's
a fair baby 23 years later I'm a 45-year-old guy single no kids all names
are fake okay here is the short version about 24 years ago my then fiance Ella
then 20 told me she was pregnant I was over the moon we had not set a wedding
date yet but now we wanted to wait until the child was 2 to 3 years old to be
part of the wedding party when she was about 7 months pregnant My World
shattered a friend let's Call Him Luke told me that the child was his and not
mine this led to a physical fight and Ella took his side we were done I broke
up with her there she moved in with Luke I did demand a paternity test if the
child was mine I demanded to be in its life after the birth of the girl the
test was done twice by a clinic I choose and one she chooses it turned out she
was not mine I was destroyed and left town she could have her life I didn't
want to witness it and not to the present a month ago my work brought me
back to my hometown temporarily for 2 weeks I ran into Ella with her daughter
Nikki 23 at an impromptu School reunion Ella wanted to catch up I wasn't angry
anymore but I also did not see the point of being friends I declined and mingled
after a while I sat at a table nursing a drink Ella has already left and Nikki
sat at my table she asked for 10 minutes to talk she knew about my history with
her mother and it was clear that she resented her mother because Luke was
also not her biological dad Ella cheated on me with at least two people 23m
revealed the real bod dad he had passed away already when Nikki was seven Luke
found out and kicked them out and it became a scandal Nikki was bullied her
whole life for being the affair baby Luke's family disowned her all the
cousins she was close with were gone all of a sudden she blamed her mother I
asked her why she told me all of this she said that I am someone who would
understand this betrayal and she is a product of that betrayal she does not
expect anything from me she just needed someone to talk to who would understand
I felt for this kid so we kept talking we exchanged contact information and
went our own ways the next day she wanted to talk more and vent more so we
met in the bar of the hotel where I was staying we had drinks and she ranted
about her life we talked till late and when the bar closed Nikki was too drunk
to drive home and since I didn't know where she lived I couldn't even get her
in Uber so I took her to my room I have the habit of always getting a room with
twin beds so she slept in one bed and I slept in the other nothing happened the
next morning we had breakfast and she left while I went to work a few nights
ago I met Nikki in the bar because she had a lot to rant about we also talked
about her future and she expressed interest in moving out of town to escape
the stigma of being a fair baby here is
where I am the [ __ ] I made a move on
her One Night At first she walked away I thought I blew it so I went up to my
room an hour later she sent me a text asking if I was in my room as soon as I
answered yes she knocked on the door I was sober she was sober I had time to
think I could have sent her away but I didn't this is the daughter of my ex-
fiance if I had never found out Ella cheated I would have raised Nikki as my
own daughter but I found out and Nikki is not my daughter I never saw her as a
baby never saw her grow up and I never saw her as a daughter the first time I
saw her was a week ago so yes I slept with her and then again Nikki is more
vengeful than I am she said she wanted to let her mother know but she wasn't
going to do it if I didn't want to I was okay with letting her know it took a
little convincing to let her know we took a picture together clearly in bed
clearly naked but covered by sheets and she sent it as a one-time view picture
to her mother via Instagram message with
the caption I can finally call him daddy Ella called and they got into a fight
then she got into a fight with me still over the phone
I thought I was over the Betrayal but it seems like I had bottled up everything
and now it finally came out I had four more days there and Nikki stayed in my
hotel room those 4 days now I'm back home Nikki is currently packing
everything she is going to move to another country to be away from her
toxic environment she will stay with me for a week maybe more before she flies
away she has had no contact with her mother I've also blocked Ella on
everything yes Nikki and I are both broken I refused therapy for years but
after that one Outburst where I told Ella everything that was bottled up I've
decided that I do need therapy I have suggested it to Nikki and she said when
she is settled she will I'm not even
going to ask if I'm the [ __ ] I know I
am my husband kept cheating on me so he can beat my body count this is honestly
so stupid this whole entire situation is
the dumbest thing I've ever been through but I need really need to talk my
husband and I met when we were in our mid 20s in my late teens early 20s I
went through a promiscuous phase I had sex with probably 30s something men by
the time I was 23 y my husband's body count was just nine and my husband
always been insecure sure about it but my husband was the one that asked how
many people have you had sex with and I was honest about it because my husband
didn't seem like the person to judge but he was grossed out and said that's
really gross you let that many dicks inside you I didn't think my husband
would care so much about this and I regret telling him my actual body count
but we worked past that and we never talked about my body count again it's
never been a discussion ever again 7 years married we don't have children but
over the past 5 years my husband has been having sex with other women and he
can't stop I just found out about his Affairs several months ago he started
cheating on me when he was overseas and he was on dating apps having casual sex
it's so crazy because everyone from his work knows that he's married and no one
cared to tell me what my husband was doing overseas he was deployed three
times and he used that time to have sex with other women he's probably surpassed
by Body Count honestly I don't understand why women actually want to
have sex with him knowing he's married one girl even messaged him and said I'm
going to replace your wife and he texted
back saying oh are you now like what the
f I'm in shock why did you do this to me
we have been married s years and built a life together if you want to act single
why didn't you get a divorce he could never get over my body count it was
silently killing him on the inside I guess it hurt his ego he told me that he
admits he wasn't as desirable to women when he was in his 20s and now that he's
in his 30s and has more life experience and his older women Now find him more
attractive especially after working out he's had more attention from the
opposite gender I'm just like okay but you're married and he said he shouldn't
have gotten married in his 20s he says it's unfair for him to say no to all the
girls that want him now when they didn't want him before he told me he realized
women like older men who are more established in their career and I
believe him and I also noticed they like stealing other girls husbands as well
anyways the divorce is finalized I just received my paperwork I also been back
in the States he's still in Europe getting his dick wet I stupidly
contacted him a few days ago when I was drunk and he told me to get help and
then he blocked me on everything I hate him so much but I'm still not over this
I know I need therapy but I just don't have the money for that I'm unemployed
and been staying with my family until I get back on my feet again edit people
keep telling me to report him for adultery I actually did report it to his
higher up and they were kind of confused why I'm trying to get him in trouble
they assumed I was trying to steal my husband's money my divorce is also
finalized now but honestly none of this even matters infidelity is so common in
the military trust me I tried to get him trouble for adultery and try to get
compensated for his cheating but I didn't have a case they don't take UCMJ
seriously unless if it's someone actually reported him for sexually
harassment or rape which didn't happen you'd also have to be someone really
important in the military and that high ranking member would also have to do
something extreme like get someone pregnant for them to really care but I
go to leals and presented text messages of the Affairs and they couldn't do
anything about it they informed me that this really isn't anything and I should
keep moving forward with the divorce they told me they know it sucks but I
need to move and leave with my dignity infidelity isn't going to hurt his
career I walked away gaining nothing from this divorce other than a
heartbreak this is unfortunately really common I personally know a lot of people
that cheated in the military and the most common outcome was they would get
divorced and receive child support which everyone else is entitled to no matter
what the reason for divorce is my pregnant fiance is refusing to take a
DNA test throwaway account I don't post personal matters on my main account my
fiance and I are not married yet and I don't want to get married until the
paternity of my alleged baby is established my fiance is 14 weeks
pregnant and I know a DNA test is possible during pregnancy and I can wait
until after she has the baby to find out if I'm the father but she refuses to
take a paternity test because she doesn't want to know who the father is
because if it's meant to be it's meant to be and because I should be proud to
be a father no matter the results and that DNA doesn't make a family love does
but I don't want to financially and emotionally invest in a baby that
possibly isn't mine I also told her I would refuse to sign the birth
certificate because I don't want to be on the hook for child support if this
baby isn't mine my uncle signed a birth certificate and it turned out the baby
wasn't his but he was still responsible for child support since he signed the
birth certificate and he never got any of that money back so I really don't
want to be in that situation okay sorry for the confusion I realized I should
have mentioned this in the beginning my fiance and I were on and off recently
but we were still intimate and she was also intimate with someone else but we
got back together and she found out she's pregnant and we don't know whose
baby it is she says she also doesn't want to take a paternity test because
she doesn't want the baby to be the other guy because he's a loser she
doesn't love him and she wants to have the baby with me I'm conflicted | give me a good story on ISleptWithMyExFiancesAffairBabyYearsLaterandIHaveNOREGRETS |
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a it ta for not getting my sister-in-law
new clothes because my infant pooped on her my wife and I have recently had our
second child and it was a boy it's been a few months after that and my brother
arrived to meet us now along with his wife it's the first time that they saw
him as they were not present when he was
born they prefer to live in Extravaganza and are the kind of people who like to
boast about everything they've got slh humble brag Etc things were basically
going well until my sister-in-law lifted the baby and he unfortunately defecated
himself aside from urinating she almost let out a yell and backed off and my
wife took took the child from her hand we apologized but they got mad and were
like how disgusting it was and that she wasn't expecting it she washed it off
but then she told me that I have to pay her for what my infant did I laughed and
said what did you expect when you held a child like that I am not giving you
money both of them got mad and said I am
the parent and should be responsible for what he's been doing and we got into an
argument in the end I just asked them to get out of my house and they did so but
they were talking about how I was really inconsiderate SL aiser Etc AIT | give me a good story on AITAfornotgettingmysisterinlawnewclothesbecausemyinfantpoopedonheraitareddit |
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aita for not giving random people who were probably my grocery delivery guy my
address we needed groceries so we ordered online directly through a local
grocery chain initially everything seemed like it was going well I could
see the notifications that shopping had started Etc about 30 minutes before the
estimated delivery time my delivery was complete there was no delivery 40
minutes later I got a text from a random number saying I'm your driver there was
a problem with the app I don't have your address please give it to me I was
slightly high but I jumped to the reasonable assumption that my driver had
marked the order as complete immediately
either accidentally or intentionally I'm leaning Tor intentionally to game his
delivery times to do multiple orders because somehow they had my phone number
but apparently not my address this was a random number asking for my address I
was not comfortable giving that out see below I called the store the random
teenager who answered said yeah it's complete but couldn't do anything he
asked if he could have a manager call me back I said sure but asked when his
initial answer was the manager is on vacation so I'm not sure I pushed back
on that and he said he would have someone call me that night 30 minutes
the manager called they confirmed the order was marked complete they told me I
had to call instacart this upset me I get the reality of groc | give me a good story on AITAfornotgivingrandompeoplewhowereprobablymygrocerydeliveryguymyaddressorig |
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am I the jerk for telling my girlfriend's crying sister to shut up or
leave while I watch football the title is pretty much exactly what it sounds
like but I'll describe the situation because I think that matters so I 27m
have been dating my girlfriend Sarah 26f for about six months we had a
situationship before that so we've known each other for about a year and a half
no issues between us me and her sister on the other hand really don't see eye
to eye her sister is Courtney and she is 24f Courtney and I just have very
different world views we keep everything respectful but we really differ on
things about a year ago Courtney came to our place and told us she had some big
career change she was going to keep bartending but was going to start in
only fans Sarah supported her decision but did say she didn't love the idea I
asked her if she ever planned to have kids she said she wasn't sure yet and it
wouldn't matter I said that her picks are on the internet forever just think
about the situation you are putting any potential kids in she told me to shut up
and mind my business she went ahead and started doing only fans my GF has been
dealing with the Fallout her family has all kinds of up about it which
pisses me off because now Sarah is more stressed and we get the residual
coming our way from her parents to be honest it's been a pain in the ass and
it's embarrassing whenever my friends would bring it up to me seven months ago
Courtney started to date someone seriously the guy was very much looking
for something serious he even mentioned that he didn't love Courtney being a
bartender long term the big problem was that Courtney had yet to tell him about
the only fans I knew she never told him I was told to not say anything and
eventually she would tell him seven months later and he was still being lied
to so I had a friend send him the link anonymously so this Sunday I'm watching
Red Zone with Sarah it's my apartment Sarah spends the night pretty much every
night but it's not our place it's mine So Courtney comes over bawling saying
her BF just broke up with her over the only fans Sunday NFL RedZone is my happy
place I look forward to it every single week and now I got some crying woman on
my couch like full-on balling I asked her to be quiet and was told to stop I
said absolutely not it's my apartment and my time I refuse for to be ruined by
her also it's her own fault if she was truthful maybe she wouldn't be in this
position and I warned her whenever she started doing it she did it all to
herself and either needed to shut up or leave eventually my GF and her sister
left I enjoyed the rest of my Sunday my GF is telling me I need to apologize I
said it's my place and her sister needed
to hear the truth not be coddled anymore and I won't apologize for stating facts
am I the jerk | give me a good story on AitaforTellingMyGirlfriendsCryingSistertoShutUporLeaveWhileIWatchFootball |
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why do kidless people always get shamed for being kidless I F40 was at a dinner
with my family Three Brothers aged 42 to 46 all married with kids and some close
family friends at the table my sis-in-law shared that my brother who
was sitting right next to her said bro s name doesn't get why anyone would get
married with and not have kids like myself people like that are selfish and
there's literally no point to marriage I
was the only person married with no kids at the table there were 11 of us my
husband was on a work trip so I was solo then it got very quiet and awkward and
she looked at me and said no offense I was able to play it cool and seem
unaffected but inside I wanted to cuss her out when you're kidless and everyone
around you has kids you are not allowed to say that you're tired you're busy
feeling overwhelmed aren't getting any sleep Etc you can't have opinions on
things because you don't get it because you don't have kids which I completely
understand is true in some circumstances but I can think critically even though
I'm childless and when you say anything of the sort on the topics I mentioned
you usually get the eye roll and something like says the kidless person
or talk to me when you have kids like I can't have any struggles SL opinions
because I'm childless I've come to realize it's par for the course when you
don't have kids and hit a certain age I've come to terms | give me a good story on Whydokidlesspeoplealwaysgetshamedforbeingkidless |
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former friend stole from all of his friends so we made him fly across the
country and stood him up with a $400 bill so one of my friends from childhood
since around 14 and we're 26 now started kind of flying off the rails two to 3
years ago at first it wasn't that bad but as of late he stole $600 from me a
couple months ago borrowed four grand from another friend and didn't pay him
back then I hung out with him one more time to five him a chance and I woke up
with $2,500 worth of charges to a sports book on my debit card which he
vehemently denied he's pretty delusional and considers himself a business man
despite never doing any actual successful business and pretends to be
on LinkedIn posting these weird rants so a couple weeks ago I contacted him as
potential business partner and offered him a lucrative deal the only catch was
he had to fly 3 hours to me for a dinner to seal the deal and this fell for
it so easily LOL I didn't even plan this part but the meeting day ended up being
December 23rd and he left on the 22nd which turned out to be the worst day to
travel all year flights were both $800 and he sat at the airport all day on the
22nd when it came down to the meeting I booked a reservation for a nice
steakhous had him show up and told him to order a bottle of wine and appetizers
so it'd be ready by the time we got there he sat there for 2 hours and I
eventually sent him a text about how dumb he was to fall for it and how
destructive his behavior has been to everyone around him did I | give me a good story on Formerfriendstolefromallofhisfriendssowemadehimflyacrosstheaitaredditstories |
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aita for telling my sister's husband he is not welcome in my home I'm 30f very
close to my sister 32f and have hated how badly her marriage has become my
sister got married four years ago her husband was a widower with three young
children 8 9 and 11 when they got married at first I really liked my
sister's husband and I felt like they made a very good couple she confided in
me a couple of years ago that things weren't as great as they appeared to be
on the outside the kids would say awful things to her and her husband family and
his late wife's family would make her feel like the mistress instead of his
wife we talked about this a lot and I encouraged her to speak to her husband
and to a therapist and to look for help she brushed off the suggestions and
stated she didn't want to rock the boat too much we started hanging out a lot
more and I did my best to observe everything happening over time it became
super clear that the issues ran deeper than even she realized yes the kids
would say awful things to her about not being good enough would make fun of the
way she talks | give me a good story on AITAfortellingmysistershusbandheisnotwelcomeinmyhomeaitaredditstories |
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:06.880 --> :12.220 I promised my ex-boyfriend capital to start
a business, made him quit his job, and then :12.220 --> :13.440
ghosted him. :13.440 --> :17.340
My ex-boyfriend is the reason I still have severe trust issues.
:17.340 --> :20.180 He lied so often and he did it so well too.
:20.180 --> :24.690 He lied about everything, he barely even noticed
me in our relationship. :24.690 --> :30.010
The only period where he was a loving, sensitive,
and present boyfriend was after I had promised :30.010 --> :32.660
to give him seed money for his business. :32.660 --> :36.940
Apart from the lies, he was also dating his
roommate who was a friend of sorts before :36.940 --> :38.770
my ex and I started dating. :38.770 --> :43.000
When we first started dating, he lied about
his parents living together in the suburbs, :43.000 --> :45.140
I believed him, and why not? :45.140 --> :49.210
There was no reason to believe that he was
lying, although now, I would probably never :49.210 --> :53.969
just believe anyone (my ex took all the trust I had in anyone with him).
:53.969 --> :58.860 He told me he had one sibling, a sister, who
is a medical doctor and worked in a hospital :58.860 --> :03.570
in another city, he also lied about having
gone to a culinary school in a small town :03.570 --> :04.570
in France. :04.570 --> :08.830
We lived in the same building (that was how
we met), and my job transferred me from a :08.830 --> :13.460
different state, a welcome development since
I had just gotten out of a long-term relationship :13.460 --> :17.170
that ended abruptly because he was moving back to his home country.
:17.170 --> :22.080 I needed a change of scenery since nearly
everywhere I went and everyone I saw reminded :22.080 --> :23.080
me of him. :23.080 --> :27.650
When my boss called me into his office to
offer me a promotion that came with a transfer, :27.650 --> :32.650
I was grateful for it and a month later, I
packed my stuff and left for my new office. :32.650 --> :37.280
My ex had a roommate who doubled as his coworker
in a big restaurant in the heart of the city, :37.280 --> :39.360
I met his roommate first. :39.360 --> :43.710
I was packing my boxes out of the haulage
company’s car when he came over and offered :43.710 --> :44.710
to help. :44.710 --> :47.680
He was fun to chat with and was very helpful that evening.
:47.680 --> :51.880 His friend (my ex), found him helping me and
he offered to help too. :51.880 --> :55.729
Funnily, he had just returned from a date
with some school teacher he was dating at :55.729 --> :56.729
the time. :56.729 --> :00.630
I remember his roommate asking how it went and him telling her it went well.
:00.630 --> :05.689 Soon after I moved in, his roommate and I
became quite close, we had so much in common. :05.689 --> :12.370
He was a cosmetic junkie like I was, we had
the same taste in music, food, and even crush! :12.370 --> :17.010
It makes sense now what happened to our friendship
seeing as we had the same taste in men. :17.010 --> :21.730
Naturally, my ex and I talked and hung out
more too since we had a friend in common. :21.730 --> :26.331
Whenever it was just the three of us, I never
saw my ex and his roommate get chummy, they :26.331 --> :31.349
hardly spoke to each other unless they were
having some mundane conversation about bills, :31.349 --> :33.090
clothes, and their apartment. :33.090 --> :37.269
Whenever the three of us were engaged in a
conversation, however, we could go on and :37.269 --> :38.550
on for hours. :38.550 --> :42.150
I did not have any friends in the city so we became friends.
:42.150 --> :46.129
Sometimes, we hung out with my ex’s then-girlfriend- the schoolteacher.
:46.129 --> :50.630 She was a nice lady too, although it was pretty
much obvious that there wasn’t any strong :50.630 --> :52.310
chemistry between them. :52.310 --> :56.500
I noticed along the line, that my ex stopped
hanging out with his roommate and me. :56.500 --> :00.879
I just figured it was because I had been too
busy with work, I thought he was also busy :00.879 --> :05.360
seeing as he often spoke about wanting to start a private catering business.
:05.360 --> :09.730 When I finally asked his roommate why he was
missing in action, he told me my ex and his :09.730 --> :13.970
schoolteacher girlfriend had broken up and that my ex felt bad about it.
:13.970 --> :18.799 I went over to their apartment to see if I
could cheer him up and somehow we ended up :18.799 --> :19.799
having sex. :19.799 --> :24.140
That happened a couple of times more than
I told him I could not continue with our arrangement.
:24.140 --> :27.599 I wanted something much more serious than
being hookup buddies. :27.599 --> :32.140
I intimated to him my plans to marry as soon as possible and start a family.
:32.140 --> :36.840 Maybe I was just desperate to have the family
I had always wanted but I managed to convince :36.840 --> :39.409
my ex into having a proper relationship. :39.409 --> :44.129
For the longest time, I felt bad about it,
I thought if I had not been desperate, he :44.129 --> :48.739
would have been a better boyfriend but now I think the guy was just a bum.
:48.739 --> :51.879 It was as though my ex slept walk all through
our relationship. :51.879 --> :57.090
He never offered to do anything for me, I
had to ask before he would grudgingly move :57.090 --> :58.159
his muscles. :58.159 --> :03.790
I mostly paid for stuff but I did not have
issues with that because I earned more anyway. :03.790 --> :08.250
Five months after we were together, I ran
into the schoolteacher he was with at work. :08.250 --> :13.189
She came into my office to get certain stuff
done, we got talking and she revealed to me :13.189 --> :17.949
that she ended her relationship with my ex
because she caught him with his roommate. :17.949 --> :20.290
I could not believe what I heard. :20.290 --> :24.920
All the things I had noticed earlier but did
not pay so much attention to started coming :24.920 --> :26.690
right up to the surface. :26.690 --> :32.230
I returned home that day patiently watching
out for more signs and I found too many of :32.230 --> :33.230 them.
:33.230 --> :36.890 I found out that my ex did not have any full
siblings, his parents had been divorced for :36.890 --> :41.500
a while, he had a half-sister in our city and no, she was not a doctor.
:41.500 --> :44.720 He also did not go to any culinary school
in France. :44.720 --> :49.450
I was not going to let him get away with it
so I hatched a revenge plan on him and his :49.450 --> :50.750
roommate-boyfriend. :50.750 --> :55.750
Just as I thought of the perfect revenge for
my ex, he had a big fight with his roommate :55.750 --> :59.040
and the roommate moved out, leaving him alone in their apartment.
:59.040 --> :03.949 I was going to offer to lend all my savings
to my ex to help him start his food business :03.949 --> :06.670
and then make him quit his job. :06.670 --> :11.000
My ex was very excited when I told him I had
finally decided to lend him some money to :11.000 --> :13.120
launch his catering business. :13.120 --> :15.880
He hugged me and lifted me off of the couch. :15.880 --> :20.430
I would have been so happy to see that I was
able to make him that happy but all I thought :20.430 --> :23.520
of was how much of a terrible person he was. :23.520 --> :24.970
“What next?” he asked me. :24.970 --> :26.460 “You know what to do.
:26.460 --> :30.699 Send in your two weeks’ notice now”
He finally brought me down on the couch again, :30.699 --> :33.460
paced about my living room, and hugged me again. :33.460 --> :37.289
When he returned to his apartment that night,
I called my best friend and told her I was :37.289 --> :40.130
going to loan out my savings to my boyfriend. :40.130 --> :42.650
She knew about my findings so she was shocked. :42.650 --> :44.150
“Are you crazy? :44.150 --> :45.150 After what you found out?
:45.150 --> :49.150 I’m going to fly down and talk sense into
your head if that is what it would take. :49.150 --> :52.830
Surely you can’t do that” I rolled my eyes and told her I had made my
:52.830 --> :53.830 decision. :53.830 --> :57.730
“I understand that you have your concerns and are looking out for me.
:57.730 --> :01.650 I appreciate that but we have decided to work
on our relationship. :01.650 --> :03.990 I promise we will be fine”.
:03.990 --> :08.851 My best friend got off the phone sounding
very skeptical but I knew she did not say :08.851 --> :10.479
anything to me out of respect. :10.479 --> :14.900
“I hope to God that you know what you are
doing”, she finally said when she realized :14.900 --> :17.060
she could not convince me to change my mind. :17.060 --> :19.729
“I do”, I replied firmly. :19.729 --> :23.180
“Just promise you will think about it again” “I already…”
:23.180 --> :28.349 “Just give it another thought”
I promised her I would, and we ended the conversation.
:28.349 --> :33.449 I was such a bad actor that I was terrified
of telling my best friend the truth, I was :33.449 --> :38.930
afraid that if I told her the truth- that
I was planning my revenge against my ex, somehow :38.930 --> :40.710
he would find out too. :40.710 --> :46.330
I wanted my revenge to be served very cold
and I didn’t want to mess it up myself. :46.330 --> :51.110
When I was in his apartment that night, I
told my ex about my best friend’s response :51.110 --> :53.440
when I informed her I was going to loan him some money.
:53.440 --> :56.389 “Why was she so skeptical?” he asked looking
bewildered. :56.389 --> :57.740 “I don’t know.
:57.740 --> :59.330 "She can be like that.
:59.330 --> :03.930 She can be very skeptical about getting money
involved in her relationships, not just a :03.930 --> :06.599
romantic relationship" I replied to him :06.599 --> :12.050
He probably realized then that he had to do
all that he could to convince me so I don't :12.050 --> :15.140
listen to my best friend and change my mind. :15.140 --> :19.020
"I know you may have doubts too but this is going to be very good for us.
:19.020 --> :23.139 I just need six months to a year to be firmly
rooted in the business. :23.139 --> :27.509
As soon as that happens, we can start to talk
about getting married and starting a family". :27.509 --> :32.080
He knew how badly I wanted to start a family
and I knew he only said that to appeal to :32.080 --> :36.740
my emotions so I forced a change in countenance when he mentioned it.
:36.740 --> :40.169 I smiled a bit so he could believe that he
had me fooled. :40.169 --> :43.199
The Monday after, he turned in his two weeks' notice.
:43.199 --> :47.539 I don't know what exactly happened but he
got into an argument with his manager while :47.539 --> :49.590
at it and they quarreled. :49.590 --> :53.139
When we were together that evening, he told me all about it.
:53.139 --> :57.639 He claimed the manager only threw a fit because
he hated to see him leave especially since :57.639 --> :00.009
he knew my ex was starting a business of his own. :00.009 --> :04.110
"He figured he's got some serious competition", my ex boasted.
:04.110 --> :08.370 It was so funny that my ex thought his boss
could think that a business he hadn't even :08.370 --> :12.570
started was big enough competition for their restaurant.
:12.570 --> :17.730 The restaurant was in the heart of the city,
had great food, and had a huge crowd all day :17.730 --> :18.730
of the week. :18.730 --> :22.360
It was at the time, the busiest restaurant in those parts.
:22.360 --> :27.080 I wasn't sure if my ex was saying that to
make me interested in investing in his business :27.080 --> :32.229
or if he had genuinely convinced himself that
the restaurant saw him as a competition. :32.229 --> :35.349
I just played along and cursed his manager out. :35.349 --> :40.419
The rest of the week, he came over to my apartment
every morning before we both left for work, :40.419 --> :45.300
he would do a little dance and express how
much he could not wait to stop wearing "that :45.300 --> :47.339
crap" (his chef hat). :47.339 --> :52.040
It was funny to me because he wanted to start
his catering business and would wear the hat :52.040 --> :53.040
anyway. :53.040 --> :57.180 The second week of the two weeks he was to
use at work, he refused to go to work. :57.180 --> :59.860
I tried to convince him but he refused to go. :59.860 --> :03.400
"I'd rather just spend this week making proper plans for my business.
:03.400 --> :05.570 Are you going to write me a check?"
:05.570 --> :08.529 My heart started beating when he asked me
about the money. :08.529 --> :12.790
I knew I was going to confront him with the
truth eventually, but I didn't think that :12.790 --> :14.390
would happen so soon. :14.390 --> :20.029
"Yes, I'm going to have to write a check,
but I also need to talk to my account manager, :20.029 --> :23.600
since it's a lot of money, there might be extra protocols to follow".
:23.600 --> :28.590 We went to work that day and I wondered all
through how I was going to break it to him :28.590 --> :30.630
that I wasn't going to give him my money. :30.630 --> :33.410
I decided to call my best friend for help. :33.410 --> :38.660
During the lunch break, I rang her office
and she nearly screamed my eardrums down when :38.660 --> :40.300
I told her what had been going on. :40.300 --> :43.090
"I knew my best friend was no damn fool!" :43.090 --> :44.490
I laughed heartily. :44.490 --> :46.329 "What am I going to do though?
:46.329 --> :51.050 I'm torn between just ghosting him and moving
out of the building or telling him to his :51.050 --> :55.720
face that I know he's a pathological liar and a cheat, and then leaving".
:55.720 --> :57.870 My friend suggested I just ghost him.
:57.870 --> :02.170 "You have wanted to move out of that building
anyway so find a way to move discreetly" :02.170 --> :06.360
"That's going to be harder now because he has since stopped going to work.
:06.360 --> :09.899 He really gave a two weeks notice and then
left after a week. :09.899 --> :11.730 He has some audacity on him".
:11.730 --> :16.370 My best friend had to go but before she went
off, she advised me to find a new apartment :16.370 --> :17.400 fast.
:17.400 --> :21.720 I was already talking to someone who was going
to help me find a suitable place for a few :21.720 --> :22.850
at the time. :22.850 --> :26.970
After work that same day, he invited me to look at an apartment he found.
:26.970 --> :29.390 We went there and I loved it.
:29.390 --> :34.130 It was more spacious plus there was space
by the large window where I could comfortably :34.130 --> :37.050
raise my plants and ensure that they get enough sunlight.
:37.050 --> :42.880 It was also closer to my office than the apartment
I was in so I chose the apartment and we started :42.880 --> :45.490
talking about payment immediately. :45.490 --> :50.209
I met my ex at my door as I walked in, I was startled and he noticed.
:50.209 --> :51.209 "What's wrong?" :51.209 --> :54.589
"I was just surprised to see you" "When are you going to give me your key?"
:54.589 --> :55.589 he asked. :55.589 --> :58.940
"I've been going up and down the stairs trying to see if you were home or not.
:58.940 --> :02.350 I didn't respond, I only hugged him and opened
the door. :02.350 --> :05.320
"Sorry, I had a busy day at work" I lied. :05.320 --> :09.230
The second week passed, and my ex came over to ask about the money.
:09.230 --> :13.980 I lied that it would be available the next
week, and then lied that I was going to visit :13.980 --> :15.230
my parents. :15.230 --> :20.139
What I was really going to do was move into
the new apartment without getting noticed. :20.139 --> :22.389
I also needed time to pack my stuff. :22.389 --> :26.820
He offered to drive me to the airport but
did not protest when I told him not to bother. :26.820 --> :30.600
That was his first time offering to do that in our relationship.
:30.600 --> :35.840 I'd visited my parents several times in the
past and he never offered to take me to the :35.840 --> :36.840
airport. :36.840 --> :39.650
I spent a whole night packing and boxing my stuff. :39.650 --> :44.530
I arranged with the haulage company to have
their staff pack the boxes in the car, I only :44.530 --> :47.970
took a few essentials and drove to my new apartment.
:47.970 --> :52.260 My ex must have seen my stuff getting packed
because he started calling me frantically :52.260 --> :54.760
the evening the company did their job. :54.760 --> :58.149
He called repeatedly but I did not take his calls. :58.149 --> :01.760
He got the message and sent several texts cursing at me.
:01.760 --> :03.890 I did not give a hoot about that.
:03.890 --> :09.230 I had made him quit his job and now he had
no capital to start his business. :09.230 --> :13.089
I never replied to his numerous messages. :13.089 --> :41.089 I am a
:41.089 --> :44.580 27-year-old female and my husband, Ray is
32 years old. :44.580 --> :49.570
We met when I was 20 and he was 25, but we were barely even friends at first.
:49.570 --> :54.500 He and his friends frequented the movie theater
I worked at, and they always made sure to :54.500 --> :59.310
torment whoever it was that worked the popcorn booth when they came around.
:59.310 --> :04.620 It was much that we even had an inside joke
going on about how annoying they were. :04.620 --> :11.050
They annoyed me on a very bad day and I took
out all my anger on Ray and his two friends, :11.050 --> :16.060
focusing on him because he was the most mischievous
of them all and also the biggest. :16.060 --> :21.589
My friends/coworkers who were present said
that it was really hilarious watching my 5ft2 :21.589 --> :27.680
self scream at a 6ft1 man and have him look genuinely scared for his life.
:27.680 --> :32.660 I also got suspended after the whole shebang
because the customer is always right and I :32.660 --> :37.490
wasn't supposed to speak to them that way,
but I'll be honest, I felt very fulfilled. :37.490 --> :42.899
Ray was a better person than I anticipated
because he tracked me down to my uni to apologize :42.899 --> :44.480
with his friends in tow. :44.480 --> :48.940
They swore to make it up to me, and I made
them follow me around for a week and buy all :48.940 --> :51.779
my lunches and things from the mall too. :51.779 --> :56.100
It was cute that they did everything I said
for the whole week, but the next week Ray :56.100 --> :58.870
still showed up and asked to buy me lunch. :58.870 --> :03.370
Over lunch, we talked and I found out that
we actually attended the same college, which :03.370 --> :05.420
was why he found me so easily. :05.420 --> :09.580
He had taken a break two years earlier to
travel, and now we were both in our junior :09.580 --> :12.680
year and he was finding it hard to adjust back. :12.680 --> :17.649
Out of sheer goodwill and the fact that I
was beginning to find him really cute, I suggested :17.649 --> :19.339
being study buddies with him. :19.339 --> :24.250
It was a great arrangement because I found
that he had ADHD, and having a little brother :24.250 --> :28.730
with it, who I had to deal with back home
helped with knowing how to accommodate him. :28.730 --> :35.630
It didn't take much to go from study buddies
to friends who had sex and held hands occasionally.
:35.630 --> :40.860 I didn't want to put a label over it, and
neither did he because it just worked. :40.860 --> :47.040
We graduated when I was 22 and he was 27,
and by that time we were already pretty deep :47.040 --> :50.170
into whatever dynamic our relationship was. :50.170 --> :54.930
We both studied Law, and while I didn't want
to go to law school to further it (because :54.930 --> :58.630
I did not want a career in Law), Ray wanted to. :58.630 --> :02.589
Not for himself, but for the fact that his
very wealthy parents felt like he owed it :02.589 --> :03.589 to them.
:03.589 --> :08.399 His real passion was photography and it was
what he spent every waking moment of the two-year :08.399 --> :12.610
gap that he took, doing what he loved, but
he also felt as if he owed his parents. :12.610 --> :16.380
I, on the other hand, had parents who are free spirits.
:16.380 --> :21.639 I'm a little more logical than they are, but
I learned never to plan too seriously because :21.639 --> :23.430
life can happen at any time. :23.430 --> :28.110
I wanted to encourage Ray to do whatever he
wanted because at this point we had reached :28.110 --> :33.180
the “best friend” point of our relationship,
but he informed me that a huge part of his :33.180 --> :37.070
inheritance depended on if he did go to law school or not.
:37.070 --> :42.829 As much as hate capitalism, I know that money
is an important crutch in society and I didn't :42.829 --> :47.480
want him to leave the comfortable life that
he knew and start to struggle from scratch :47.480 --> :48.480 again.
:48.480 --> :49.750 Life was already hard enough.
:49.750 --> :54.140 So I talked Ray into going to Law school,
promising to go alongside him if it was what :54.140 --> :55.140
it took. :55.140 --> :59.820
It was a small requirement and I was still
not sure of what I wanted to do myself, so :59.820 --> :02.050
it was a great distraction. :02.050 --> :07.699
After Law school, Ray and I transitioned from
best friends into a romantic relationship. :07.699 --> :12.720
It felt natural, plus we had tried to date other people and it just didn't work.
:12.720 --> :16.360 But we worked with each other and we decided
to stick together. :16.360 --> :21.279
We officially got together when he asked me
to be his girlfriend on my 24th birthday was :21.279 --> :25.350
the most romantic breakfast-in-bed display ever. :25.350 --> :30.381
I discovered that I liked to do hair and took
a few months to attend beauty school, while :30.381 --> :34.940
simultaneously helping Ray with his photography brand that he was building.
:34.940 --> :39.181 Soon enough we were doing pretty well with
our chosen fields and decided that it was :39.181 --> :41.330
time to meet each other’s parents. :41.330 --> :45.779
We had both told each other right from the
time that our parents were pretty intense :45.779 --> :46.779 people.
:46.779 --> :51.579 Mine were obsessed with feeding everyone and
wanted to always know things like how their :51.579 --> :57.130
souls were doing, but Ray fit right in, even
doing yoga with them in the mornings for all :57.130 --> :58.850
three days that we were there. :58.850 --> :04.669
On our drive to Ray’s family house, he was
so on edge, but I brushed it off as normal :04.669 --> :07.880
because I felt the same way on the way to see my parents.
:07.880 --> :13.839 I had no idea that his definition of intense
regarding his parents was not the same idea :13.839 --> :15.289
that I had. :15.289 --> :20.110
To put it blatantly, his parents were racist right off the bat.
:20.110 --> :23.410 And it wasn't the open kind that knew they
were racist. :23.410 --> :27.949
They were the kind of people that said things
like “not to be racist” before saying :27.949 --> :30.360
the most out-of-pocket things. :30.360 --> :37.130
I am half Ethiopian and half Chinese and my
features make it pretty obvious that I'm blasian, :37.130 --> :42.310
and it seemed like Ray’s parents could not
stop comparing me to everyone they met during :42.310 --> :44.100
their missionary trips. :44.100 --> :48.160
They were fine with me being Ray’s friend,
but when he told them I was his girlfriend, :48.160 --> :51.440
I swear his mother had a mini heart attack. :51.440 --> :56.870
It took many more one-on-one meetings and
small, odd questions to make sure that I wasn't :56.870 --> :03.030
just after their son’s money before I was finally “accepted” into the family.
:03.030 --> :07.600 Not too long after, Ray proposed and we had
the loveliest wedding. :07.600 --> :13.020
It was a garden wedding and it was the most aesthetic and beautiful thing ever.
:13.020 --> :16.539 Right after, Ray’s dad started to ask about kids.
:16.539 --> :21.679 We weren't in a hurry, and we let him know,
but his mother had other plans. :21.679 --> :27.179
She spoke separately to us about the importance
of having kids early, and how she was so excited :27.179 --> :30.780
to have grandkids from her first and only son. :30.780 --> :36.120
It felt like a lot of pressure too soon and
I had to ask Ray to speak to her about it. :36.120 --> :40.970
Once he did, she stopped asking me about it, but she became so hostile.
:40.970 --> :46.830 It was so obvious that even Ray’s dad who
I believe to be the most clueless man on earth :46.830 --> :48.630
noticed that things were weird. :48.630 --> :52.670
The only reason we were at Ray’s parents’
home so much was because his father had a :52.670 --> :57.650
project to work on, and Ray had to photograph
it, meaning that they were supposed to work :57.650 --> :59.490
really closely. :59.490 --> :03.880
Just working somehow turned into having dinner at theirs every might.
:03.880 --> :08.260 With all the awkwardness with his mother,
I decided to stay away for a little while, :08.260 --> :11.340
with the hopes that things would tide over after some time.
:11.340 --> :15.830 It seemed to work, because the next time I
was over, my mother in law was the sweetest :15.830 --> :17.559
person to be. :17.559 --> :23.110
Almost too sweet and it felt a little fake,
but when I told Ray, he just laughed and said :23.110 --> :25.690
that his mother was trying to make things right with me.
:25.690 --> :30.679 I believe him completely and let myself enjoy
how nice she was being. :30.679 --> :35.390
We had lunch together, and she took me shopping
once and showed me where she and her own husband :35.390 --> :36.390
met. :36.390 --> :40.980 Sometimes we had brunch with her own sisters
and I started to feel really welcome. :40.980 --> :45.480
There was some part of it all that felt a
little weird, but I couldn't place a finger :45.480 --> :46.480 on it.
:46.480 --> :48.630 So I went against myself to ignore it.
:48.630 --> :52.060 During Christmas dinner, we all ate at Ray’s
family home. :52.060 --> :57.409
Both my family and his, complete with siblings, cousins and grandparents.
:57.409 --> :02.020 After eating, I immediately started to feel
extremely nauseous. :02.020 --> :06.179
I didn't let anyone know and just went off
to take a nap with the hopes that I would :06.179 --> :07.179
feel better. :07.179 --> :11.950
I woke up with the strong need to vomit and a blinding headache.
:11.950 --> :15.390 All of it cleared by morning after some sleep
and hot tea. :15.390 --> :18.210 But it started again after dinner.
:18.210 --> :23.669 I had only a few allergies and as far as I
knew, none of them were present in the dinner. :23.669 --> :28.150
Plus, I was the only sick one, as everyone
else was having the time of their life. :28.150 --> :31.169
I was convinced that I was just coming down with the flu.
:31.169 --> :36.740 I was fine for a few more days, until we had
dinner before new year's and it was the worst :36.740 --> :37.870
one yet. :37.870 --> :42.760 While everyone watched fireworks and said
happy new year to each other, Ray held my :42.760 --> :46.429
hair while I vomited and cried at the same time. :46.429 --> :51.130
We were supposed to stay longer at his parent’s,
but Ray insisted that we went home so that :51.130 --> :53.030
he could take better care of me. :53.030 --> :58.590
In just a few days I was better, and Ray began to suspect his own mother.
:58.590 --> :04.210 I thought he was genuinely crazy and I let
him know, but he believed that he was right :04.210 --> :06.220
and was completely livid. :06.220 --> :10.701
He wanted to call her to confront her, but
I stopped him, letting him know that it was :10.701 --> :15.470
something he would have to prove if he didn't
want her to make him look like the bad person. :15.470 --> :18.010
He agreed with me and the matter died down. :18.010 --> :21.880
In the new year, I turned 26 and started up a hair and nail salon.
:21.880 --> :27.320 It kept me super busy and Ray got more photography
gigs than he could handle sometimes. :27.320 --> :30.289
We were genuinely busy with our own lives. :30.289 --> :34.920
It wasn't until Easter that any of us enough
free time to go to his parent’s home, and :34.920 --> :39.230
to say I was anxious would be a sore understatement.
:39.230 --> :44.049 I had two panic attacks in the car and my
heart seemed to not beat properly. :44.049 --> :47.529
Ray helped me through it all, being the kind sweetheart he was.
:47.529 --> :52.340 When we arrived, I could almost taste the
fake sweetness from his mother's tone and :52.340 --> :54.490
that alone made me anxious. :54.490 --> :57.840
The way she serve food was different from what I was used to.
:57.840 --> :03.860 She disliked people entering her kitchen or
messing with her pots and pans, so she plated :03.860 --> :08.260
all the food in the kitchen and served them to the individuals herself.
:08.260 --> :12.929 It made sense that she would be able to poison
whatever, if it was true. :12.929 --> :17.150
After we had sat down to eat, Ray knew that
his mother kept her phone away from her while :17.150 --> :22.419
she ate, so he called her repeatedly until
she went to pick up the phone and then swapped :22.419 --> :25.480
my plate with his and then with hers. :25.480 --> :30.049
It didn't cause any alarm among his family,
because he was mischievous like that. :30.049 --> :32.760
Dinner was good and nothing seemed out of place. :32.760 --> :37.289
I was a ready to punch my husband for assuming
the worst of his mother, when I caught a glimpse :37.289 --> :41.409
of her and saw how red in the face and sweaty she was.
:41.409 --> :46.539 In a split second, my mother in law raced
to the bathroom and we could all hear her :46.539 --> :48.640
vomiting and shitting her guts out. :48.640 --> :54.049
It was the most shocking moment of my life,
realizing that someone disliked me so much :54.049 --> :57.600
that they would poison me while pretending to be kind to me.
:57.600 --> :03.789 It got so bad that we had to take her to the
hospital and get her admitted and on IV fluids. :03.789 --> :09.169
Ray informed his entire family about what
his mother tried to do to me, and while everyone :09.169 --> :15.419
was sympathetic with me, asking for forgiveness
on her behalf and buying me unnecessary and :15.419 --> :19.710
fancy gifts, I still wanted to find out why she did it.
:19.710 --> :24.990 I went into the hospital on my own to speak
to my mother in law and she was so upset. :24.990 --> :30.030
She screamed these racist things at me, letting
me know that she never really liked me and :30.030 --> :33.470
didn't want to have grandkids that looked like me in her home.
:33.470 --> :38.100 At least she admitted to the poisoning, but
she got so riled up that the doctors asked :38.100 --> :39.100
me to leave. :39.100 --> :44.940
I heard later that she had a full body stroke
because her blood pressure went sky high. :44.940 --> :50.340
My husband and I have not seen her for over
a year now, andoast I heard, the poison messed :50.340 --> :55.080
her system up so bad that she had to get her stomach walls repaired.
:55.080 --> :00.179 But she also had a stroke and needed to recover
from it, so she has been on a tube diet since :00.179 --> :01.179
them. :01.179 --> :06.210 It might not seem like much, but for a woman
like her who loved to do things by herself, :06.210 --> :52.600
there was no torture worse than rendering her powerless. | give me a good story on rNuclearRevengeMYRACISTMOTHERPOISONEDMERedditStoriesen |
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what is the most messed up thing someone close has confessed to you a former
cooworker hooked up with a random guy and got pregnant with twins several
months since she reached out to the guy and after they chatted more he mentioned
being mildly autistic her response was to start buying every pill and Drug she
could off the street to try to miscarrage the twins that were pretty
far along because she refused to have autistic children what ended up
happening though is it didn't work and she permanently up those kids for
life they were born underdeveloped and have a ton of medical issues no clue why
she decided to tell us that I can't imagine how their dad felt | give me a good story on Whatisthemostmessedupthingsomeoneclosehasconfessedtoyouorig |
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inherited everything from my ex-husband's Mother after caring for her
now he and his mistress are threatening legal action hi guys I am in a fix and
would like to know everyone's opinion my name is Gigi 27 and I have a 7-year-old
daughter Naomi I was married to my ex-husband Jack 30 for almost 8 years
when I was 2 months pregnant at the time with our second child I found out that
my ex-husband was cheating on me with his cooworker suzan 28 when I
accidentally came across their text messages on his phone when I confronted
him about it in tears Jack finally told me that Suzanne was also pregnant with
his child hearing his words I was so shocked that I almost fainted my husband
and I had several fights and despite my ex Mill coming to take care of me during
this time I was so stressed out that I eventually miscarried when my ex found
out that we had lost the child he didn't even hesitate instead of grieving with
me or comforting me he left the house to be with Suzanne blaming me for the loss
of our child I was devastated and cried for days thankfully my ex- Mill stayed
with me throughout this time and took care of my daughter Naomi so I could
grieve in peace Jack and I had a nasty divorce where he refused to pay me child
support but eventually the court forced him to do so throughout the divorce Jack
made it very clear that he didn't want to be involved in either my or Naomi's
life any longer he gave up full custody to me which absolutely broke my heart
for my daughter but there was nothing that I could do the only thing he has
ever done is pay child support every month he has never made any attempts to
visit or get to know Naomi eventually I found out that Suzanne gave birth to his
son and they have been together ever since throughout all this my parents and
my ex Mill were there for me each and every day you see my ex- Mill and
parents had known each other and had been the best of friends for a very long
time this is how me and Jack first met each other through our parents and
eventually started dating when Jack's mom my ex mill first found out that Jack
had cheated on me she was extremely upset at him and showed her support for
me she and Jack fought a lot regarding his affair and she vowed to never speak
to him again when she found out that he was leaving me she also warned him that
she wanted nothing to do with his affair partner and their child I know it's
shocking but my ex Mill kept that promise until the day she died she
refused to speak to Jack even when Jack begged her to visit him and his son with
his affair partner Suzanne was extremely jealous of me and my child because she
was never considered family by my ex Mill when my ex- mill first came to
support me she faced a lot of backlash from her family you see Jack had lost
his father a few years ago so his relatives tried to convince X Mill to
forgive him they told her that Jack was her son so she should let bygones be
bygones and visit his child my ex- Mill firmly refused when Suzanne gave birth
to Jack's child his relatives rallied around him despite knowing that he had
cheated on me they didn't even bother to care or check on me and my child things
got so bad between X Mill and her family that they started to exclude her from
their celebrations and family events just so that they could invite Jack
instead as my ex Mill always refused to attend events if Jack was going to
attend with his affair partner I always felt bad for my ex Mill because of this
but she assured me that I was like her child too and she didn't mind if her
relatives dropped her I am extremely grateful that I had a woman like her as
my mother-in-law because it's rare to be loved and supported this much
unfortunately my ex Mill became unwell losing her ability to walk and manage on
her own I extended an invitation for her to move in with me permanently
committing to care for her to ensure she had support Round the Clock we Enlisted
the help of a livein nanny who tended to her needs in the mornings as for the
evenings the responsibility fell on me I dedicated countless hours to her care
and honestly I didn't mind Naomi always fond of her grandma was thrilled to have
her living with us at our place during her stay with us my ex Mill revealed
something significant she told me how when she first learned about Jack
leaving me she had decided to make changes to her will initially she had
intended for my ex-husband being her only child to inherit everything however
upon discovering his affair she had amended the will now the house and her
life insurance were designated for Naomi she had also added me in her will to
receive a large portion of her money and her family heirloom it was a gesture
that held both honor and trust her wish was for me to safeguard these
possessions passing them down to Naomi when the time was right the idea that a
piece of her and perhaps Generations before her would continue in our family
brought a profound sense of connection my ex-husband was going to inherit her
car in his dad's entire art collection until my daughter turns 18 the money
would be in my trust if I passed away my parents would take care of it as she
disclosed the details a mix of emotions wased over me shock gratitude and a hint
of sadness lingered in the air knowing that she recognized the hardships we
endured and wanted to secure Naomi's future filled me with appreciation I
assured my ex Mill multiple times that she could change the will again if she
wanted to include Suzanne in their affair child I emphasized that I would
never hold a grudge against her as Suzanne was his wife now but my ex Mill
reiterated that she only recognized me as her son's wife despite our divorce
hence she felt Naomi was the rightful inheritor of her home to carry forth the
family Legacy I understood where she was coming from and accepted her decision
throughout her stay with me Jack never bothered to call and ask about her
health despite our differences I would have had no issues if he had come to
check up on her but he never cared how to do so one day my ex Mill had
breathing difficulties and I had to rush her to the hospital I was afraid
something might happen to her while my dad took care of Naomi me and my mom
spent the entire night at the hospital praying she would get better luckily she
did and we could take her home after this health scare I didn't want my ex
Mill to pass away without Jack even making amends with her keeping our
differences aside I called him begging him to visit my ex Mill I told him how
her doctor had warned us of her condition and I was afraid that she
wouldn't survive for long instead of being concerned for her Jack started to
argue about how his mother had never bothered to form a relationship with
Suzanne I besched him to keep his ego aside for the sake of his mother he
argued that he had a busy schedule and couldn't spare much time it was
disheartening to witness his indifference especially when faced with
the Frailty of his mother's health despite his reluctance I persisted
urging him to reconsider and spend some quality time with her reluctantly he
agreed to a brief visit when Jack finally arrived I was shocked to see
that he had brought Suzanne along with him I didn't object although I wasn't
thrilled about her coming into my home but for the sake of my ex- Mill I kept
my mouth shut when he saw his mother it was evident that the strained
relationship between them lingered the room was filled with awkward silences
punctuated by forced conversations Jack's Behavior remained unchanged
towards her even when he saw her in this frail State he spoke in measured tones
avoiding any meaningful conversation with her it became apparent that his
visit was more of a formality than a genuine attempt to mend their fractured
Bond disheartened by the lack of emotional connection I found solace in
the fact that at the very least Jack had honored his commitment to visit when my
ex- Mill noticed that he had come to visit with Suzanne and there Fair child
she started to protest I immediately calmed her down and assured her that it
was okay and that I didn't mind whoever Jack brought along as long as he had
come to visit and support her my ex Mill's Health was fast deteriorating and
she was completely bedbound so there wasn't much that she could do staying
true to my promise I remained silent even when Suzanne started being very
nice to her when my ex Mill expressed again that she didn't want to be around
Darren Suzanne reminded her that Darren was her grandchild too I walked out of
the room to give them all privacy I also wanted to check up on my daughter who
looked sad and hurt to see her father Jack never even bothered to acknowledge
her while I was in the kitchen I noticed Suzanne going into our backyard and
talking to someone over the phone the open window carried her laughter as she
spoke about how she was forced to come and visit Jack's mother she discussed
how Jack had told her that his mother would be leaving behind everything for
him so the least they could do was visit
her for the final time she expressed how
she couldn't wait to move into the house and change as my ex- Mill had no taste
whatsoever to make matters worse Suzanne detailed her intention to remove
pictures of me and my daughter once my ex-husband gained ownership of the house
I was shocked to hear this and struggled to comprehend how cruel she sounded she
continued to discuss how she was going to change the furniture repaint the
walls and even alter the landscape of the backyard so that nothing would
remain of my ex Mill as she enthusiastically shared her vision I
couldn't help but feel a sense of disbelief and anger at her disregard for
the homes history that is when I finally
realized the truth Suzanne's interest in my ex- Mill wasn't genuine it became
clear that her motives were centered around securing her position in the will
this discovery shattered my heart as it seemed she cared more about potential
inheritance than the well-being of my ex- Mill during her final days despite
the unsettling truth about suzan's intentions I kept the knowledge to
myself choosing not to hurt or add unnecessary burden to my ex Mill Jack
had no clue that his mother changed the will after he cheated on me and got
divorced he believed he would inherit everything intending to pass it on to
his child with Suzanne I chose not to tell him anything because it wasn't my
place anyway if he didn't even bother to acknowledge our daughter Naomi then he
deserved what was coming for him Jack and Suzanne continued their visit
oblivious to this fact it was a Bittersweet situation for me on one hand
I would have to lose my beloved X Mill but on the other hand I couldn't wait to
finally see the look on Jack's face when he found out about the updated will it
made me sad and dread the day I would have to lose my ex Mill she always meant
a lot to me and I loved her I knew her quite well and I knew she had made this
decision after careful consideration she wanted this for her granddaughter and
always said that she could not rest until she knew her son and Suzanne had
been punished for their actions she wanted this because her own childhood
was also ruined when her father had an affair she wanted Naomi to feel loved and
cherished even when she wasn't here anymore as my ex Mill's Health declined
Jack never visited her again and none of her relatives came to see her
unfortunately she passed away last week in the wake of my ex- Mill's passing I
took charge of organizing her funeral despite the lack of support from
relatives I wanted to ensure she received a dignified farewell my parents
and I took care of all the arrangements from selecting a beautiful casket to
arranging a Serene venue Suzanne didn't even bother attending the funeral with
Jack although some of her relatives attended the funeral they displayed a
lack of genuine concern when her lawyer eventually contacted me about her will
emotions overwhelmed me tears streamed down my face as I absorbed the news that
she had left everything to me as we had discussed the conflicting waves of joy
and sadness engulfed me as I grieve the loss of a cherished person but also felt
grateful that I finally could provide my daughter with everything that she ever
wanted as I navigated through this mix of emotions there was a sudden knock on
my door opening it I found Suzanne Jack Darren and a few other relatives
standing there with grim Expressions on their faces Jack asked if they could all
come in and I politely agreed the atmosphere was tense as they entered and
Jack wasted no time in demanding an explanation for the will his accusing
tone cut through the room filled with resentment why did you get everything my
mother had a house money heirlooms and you end up with it all he exclaimed his
anger palpable I tried to remain composed explaining that my ex- Mill had
carefully considered her decision and made this decision he started to accuse
me of manipulating his mother and influencing her decision when she was
bedridden but I reiterated that he could check the time stamp and date of her
updated will which was done long before her health started to deteriorate
Suzanne chimed in her voice tinged with resentment questioning why I and my
daughter deserved to have everything when she and her son were family too in
response I scoffed at her and this is when I revealed in front of everyone
what I had overheard Suzanne speaking on the phone her eyes widened as she
realized that I remembered word for word about what she had spoken about Jack's
mother Jack looked at her in Surprise as
the reality of suzan's intentions dawned on him Suzanne was caught off guard and
attempted to deny my claims accusing me of making things up to divide the family
I firmly emphasized that she had cheated with Jack while he was still married to
me hence she and Jack were the ones who had actually divided the family in the
first place the argument escalated with Jack's relatives joining the argument
and expressing their disappointment that
they didn't receive anything from my ex- Mill they pointed out that as they were
blood relatives of my ex Mill they deserved to have a piece of her
inheritance everyone started to insist that I sell her property and split the
cash eight ways I was shocked to see their callousness and entitlement to
demand when they had no right I firmly emphasized to them that I was
the only one who had taken care of her until her last days while none of them
bothered to come and visit therefore they had no right to barge into my house
and demand anything that belonged to my ex Mill the room echoed with raised
voices as they continued to question the fairness of the will Jack protested
claiming it was his childhood home and he deserved to live there with Suzanne
and their child he threatened to sue me and contest the will if I didn't give
him the house I laughed at his face upon hearing his words Jack seemed surprised
by my reaction as I went on to remind him that he had been a neglect son to
his mother and never bothered checking up on her I reminded him that it was
only when I begged him to visit her did he finally came to check up on her one
time I told him that he was welcome to try and sue me for wasting his money if
he wanted that her lawyer had already informed me that the will was Ironclad
and there was nothing he could do Naomi was her grandchild and I was her
daughter-in-law who loved her and took care of her so she had rightfully left
us everything this is when Suzanne began begging urging me to stop being so
selfish and consider their son Darren she continued to emphasize how Darren
deserved to have a good life like Naomi I agreed with that sentiment but
questioned whether she never cared to think about my daughter Naomi and how my
ex-husband treated her all these years Naomi was his child too yet he chose not
to be a part of her life I made it clear to Suzanne that she could beg all she
wanted but I was never going to give her or her child anything I asked everyone
politely but firmly to leave my house and let me be I reminded them they were
welcome to go through the contents of her will with her lawyer again if they
pleased but I was done with this discussion I knew there was nothing they
could do otherwise they wouldn't have come to me with anger and demand hands I
shut the door in their faces feeling satisfied that I had stood my ground and
respected the wishes of my ex Mill since then I have continued to receive calls
and messages from Jack he passionately keeps expressing his disdain for me
insisting that if I possessed any shred of decency I would hand over everything
that according to him rightfully belongs
to his family and not to me and Naomi so readded am I the for not giving
in to the demands of my ex-husband and his family update one I thought this
post would attract just a handful of people but wow thank you all for
listening to me and giving me your suggestions and advice as for those who
are angry at me for not asking my Mill to include my ex's new child and Suzanne
I did try but this was completely her decision for now I can't do anything
about that anymore you can call me selfish but I refuse to part with any of
the inheritance I am going to put myself and my daughter first I do resent Jack
and Suzanne because they broke my heart and their Affair contributed to my
miscarriage while I was broken down Jack added to my grief and Heartbreak by
leaving with me for her my ex Mill made a conscious decision to not include the
affair child and Susanna in her will she
had plenty of time to update the will if she would have wanted it yet she didn't
I do pity the affair child but it's not my responsibility just for a clearer
understanding based on what I know my ex Mill had her whole childhood ruined
because her father made his affair children his top priority I guess this
is why she wanted nothing to do with Jack and as a fair child Jack obviously
knew all this yet he chose to do this to her despite this my ex- Mill left him
his dad's entire art collection which will fetch him thousands of dollars so
he can definitely take care of Suzanne and their a fair child pretty well the
the people who are coming at me in the comments would not be half as civil as
me if anything like this happened to them so I will absolutely not back down
and give into Jack's demands Naomi is Jack's child too yet he is more
concerned only about his a fair child he never bothered with being a good father
to Naomi so he doesn't deserve to get anything from us after what he has put
us through all these years update two the tension between Jack and Suzanne has
continued to loom large their Relentless
demands and accusations have strained my peace of mind yesterday Suzanne called
me out of nowhere I didn't even have her number saved so I picked up the call
unknowingly her tone was hostile from the get-go she started to accuse me of
being a greedy gold digger claiming I stole everything that should have been
theirs she told me that she was glad Jack had left me after the miscarriage
because I didn't deserve to be his woman I was in the middle of work so I was
quite taken aback by her aggressive tone I calmly explained to her that my ex-
Mill was the one who had made this decision and I did not orchestrate
anything Suzanne however wasn't having any of it she continued to berate me
questioning my Integrity I firmly reminded her that she never had a
relation ship with my ex Mill when she was alive so it was absurd for her to
demand anything that belonged to her Suzanne then started threatening me and
my child saying that if I didn't give Jack a part of my inheritance she would
find a way to reach out to my child and tell her the truth about me this crossed
a line for me I immediately told her that involving my child was unacceptable
and if she even came near her I would have her arrested I already had evidence
from her multiple text messages troubling me and getting a restraining
order wouldn't take long I also reminded her that I could play the same game by
reaching out to her boss and showing them evidence of how she was threatening
me this seemed to shut her up I cut the call and called Jack immediately I
informed him about what his wife had told me and reiterated the same thing
about involving the police if this continued he backtracked expressing
shock that Suzanne had threatened Naomi he started to apologize on her behalf
but I cut him off I firmly told him that I didn't know him anything and that I
was going to take what his mother had left for me he could cry all he wants
but it belongs to me and he can't do anything about it I warned him that the
next time he contacts me or if his wife ever contacts my child he will face
serious legal consequences since then surprisingly my phone has been quiet I
plan to stand by my words if Suzanne or Jack ever dare to contact me again
update three it's been 2 months since my last update I have continued to receive
hundreds of requests for me to update my
story so here it goes we have moved into my ex Mill's home as we have settled
into her home I can't help but wish she were still here I miss her everywhere in
the rooms where we laughed the backyard where she enjoyed her evenings and in
the kitchen where we shared countless conversations her presence lingers in
every corner of the house that once echoed with her warmth every day I move
through a blend of emotions thankfulness
for The Inheritance safeguarding Naomi's future and a sense of loss due to the
absence of the woman who meant so much to us I try to find solace in knowing
that the house once a sanctuary for my ex Mill will continue to be a Haven for
Naomi in these moments I carry her spirit with me grateful for the time we
had together and determined to honor the Legacy she left behind | give me a good story on InheritedEverythingFromMyExHusbandsMotherAfterCaringForHer |
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would you be the jerk for not going along with
your partner's parents in trying to erase the
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memory of your partner's first spouse we'll get
into that in a bit but first am I the jerk for
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ruining a funeral and potentially costing a lot
of family members their jobs my grandparents
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passed away recently I followed the guidelines
my grandma set up for her final event her church
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her burial plot her casket and the same for my
grandpa I just didn't expect for it to be a joint
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funeral I sent out the notifications to friends of
theirs and family after the date was set in stone
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their friends all came so did most of my grandma's
church but no family showed up I wasn't surprised
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I hadn't seen most of them in about 4 years I
had a great time with my grandparents friends
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and then I went back home and cried my heart out
I had been their sole caregiver and I didn't know
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what to do without them I had taken care of them
for 15 years it started with little things like
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lifting heavy things and escalated to needing
to change the bed twice a night sometimes I
:00.080 --> :03.920 was empty and started to scroll through my
grandpa's Facebook to see pictures he posted
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before his memory went I found a group started
about 3 years ago that was being flooded with
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activity when I went poking around I found out
it was my mother who was hosting a funeral at her
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church and was trying to get final expenses taken
care of I was stunned here was the woman I hadn't
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spoken to since throwing her out of the house for
stealing jewelry and upsetting Grandma terribly by
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using her Alzheimer's against her How Could You
Forget at my birthday you promis to give me this
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I went to the funeral my mother had planned and
listened to the pastor and then my mother got up
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to talk she told everyone how hard it was taking
care of them and something inside me roared to
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life I don't remember everything I said but it did
include that she didn't pay for anything for them
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not their caskets not their burial plots not their
cremation nothing I told everyone I put them to
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rest at the funeral Grandma planned herself 4 days
prior I said she never paid for any of their care
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or even seen them for 4 years I was asked to leave
and drove home later a cousin asked me if what I
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said was true and when I said it was and I could
provide proof they explained my mother had been
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taking funds from the family for years to pay for
their care at a facility because they had outlived
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their insurance policy they also explained I got a
lot of people in trouble because somewhere in the
:24.280 --> :30.800
speech I shouted I had done it all alone for years
without any help a lot of family members used my
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grandparents as an excuse to get out of work and
had invited their co-workers to the funeral by
:35.920 --> :40.680 hearing my Outburst they were now in trouble
for lying as for the reasons to leave work or
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Miss days she then went on to ask me about The
Inheritance and when that would be passed out I
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told her that if anyone had earned the inheritance
it had already been taken care of I thought I was
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in the right but now I'm doubting myself after
so many cousins and family members are calling
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to tell me I handled it really poorly am I the
jerk did I handle this back sadly everyone's
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telling me I did personally I would say op's not
the jerk here the whole event was a sham to begin
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with OP obviously is going to be upset in this
situation it's understandable that when you're
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the sole caretaker for these people for years and
you see this person up there with crocodile tears
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claiming ownership for this bull how are you in
the wrong for speaking up Sir sync wrote not the
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jerk I'm honestly not entirely sure how you could
have handled that better without being ignored
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your family members created these situations for
themselves and now must deal with the consequences
:35.080 --> :40.560 I mean most if not all of them came to their
actual funerals she handled everything both for
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their care over the last 15 years and in their
passing and that's probably been very hard for
:46.040 --> :51.720 you especially if you don't have any support
yourself I hope you do be kinder to yourself
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you're grieving and will need some time to heal
also hi I'm Steven and if you guys enjoy getting
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to decide whether or not all of these people are
jerks why not hit those like And subscribe buttons
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down below that said our next story is am I the
jerk because I won't ask the teacher to change
:06.920 --> :12.360
my daughter's grade my daughter Rez is in the
eighth grade I'm a single parent who is barely
:12.360 --> :18.840
getting by we can't afford the activities for the
graduating class like trips to New York dances Etc
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I told ANZ this and she seems to understand that
we just can't afford it I got called in to talk to
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her English teacher over a paper she wrote last
month The Prompt was what I did on Spring break
:30.400 --> :36.240
and EZ spent it at home or tagging along with me
to my job but instead she wrote this 10-page story
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about how she found this door in the office I
clean that took her to the Past she wrote a short
:41.600 --> :47.440
fiction story instead of the paper her teacher
wanted she got a D ANZ wanted me to convince the
:47.440 --> :52.840
teacher to change her grade I told her that she
can't submit short stories instead of homework so
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she deserves that poor grade but ANZ said that she
doesn't have anything to work with otherwise she
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hates English we are going back and forth she has
a c in English and I told her she's grounded until
:04.960 --> :09.920
she gets her grades up andz is upset and won't
speak to me I had another meeting with a school
:09.920 --> :15.280
counselor who suggests that I'm being too harsh
on her and to encourage her to write more that's
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not the problem my problem is that ANZ doesn't
listen to me or her teachers and acts like she's
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living in that dimension in her stories that's not
how the real world Works am I the jerk I feel like
:27.080 --> :32.400
them not performing well or them not being able
to stay on task or subject would really make me
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start to question why exactly that is and to that
extent I feel like what op is doing here is not a
:38.560 --> :44.080
very supportive thing turning around and saying
well you're not getting it right you're grounded
:44.080 --> :48.440 until you do get it right just personally I
don't know if I agree that that's the way to
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go M Deb 9912 wrote you're the jerk coming from
someone who has worked in education for 15 years
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I would schedule a meeting with the teacher to
better understand your daughter's grade and ask
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about this assignment specifically if there's
an opportunity to provide some insight to the
:04.040 --> :09.640
teacher regarding her doing absolutely nothing
during break and writing a short story instead
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then do it if your daughter actually performing
at a grade level and not missing assignments then
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the teacher is being a bit over the top I don't
even get how a d is even possible if she's a good
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writer I think this is an opportunity for you
to be an advocate for your child in a positive
:24.560 --> :30.000
way and show her you care the counselor is right
get a meeting talk to the teacher and cut your
:30.000 --> :35.080
daughter some slack sounds like she's missing out
on a ton of things and is in a super strange and
:35.080 --> :41.520
uncomfortable age our next story is am I the jerk
for not buying concert tickets for my fiance my
:41.520 --> :46.680
fiance moved in with me 5 months ago I upgraded
us to a two-bedroom apartment under the impression
:46.680 --> :51.400 that she would find a job and start paying a
portion of rent it's been 5 months since she
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hasn't secured a job because she's picky and won't
work retail grocery store fast food or basically
:58.240 --> :04.200
anything involving customers service she does door
Dash but only if I'm with her for safety defeats
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the purpose since my job pays much more than what
she could possibly get from door Dash there's a
:09.040 --> :13.760
concert coming up that she really wants to go to
but she doesn't have the money for the tickets the
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tickets are $490 which I can afford but I don't
want to for a couple of reasons she hasn't gotten
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a job and it feels like she isn't being serious
about getting one I now pay almost 50% more
:26.680 --> :32.040
rent for our new apartment we recently procured
some medical bills both of us had a visit to the
:32.040 --> :38.720
hospital recently now we have $1,500 of medical
debt she's all up in arms about this now blaming
:38.720 --> :43.800
me that she'll miss the last performance of this
artist all I told her was I can't really afford
:43.800 --> :48.680
to pay for those tickets we have debt I'm trying
to get us out of and I want to continue saving for
:48.680 --> :53.760
a house with what's left of my income her response
was that she would pay me back when she gets a job
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but I just said I can't afford it sorry am I the
butt for not buying this concert ticket for her
:59.040 --> :05.760 op is not the jerk for being realistic about
their finances their expenses their debts and
:05.760 --> :11.560
the fact that this person who's wanting something
that's almost half ,000 is not contributing any of
:11.560 --> :17.400
the finances P pony wrote not the jerk you need
to eat and have a roof over your head you don't
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need to go to a concert especially if you can't
afford the $490 price of admission our next story
:23.600 --> :29.560
is am I the jerk for refusing to babysit my niece
while my sister goes on vacation my sister's going
:29.560 --> :35.120
on vacation for a week soon and isn't taking her
2-year-old daughter Elise with her my sister still
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lives at home with me and our parents and normally
they would be the ones to look after release when
:39.280 --> :43.280
my sister was out but they're working the week
that she'll be away during so they aren't an
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option for during the day my mother came up to
me recently and asked how I would feel about
:47.480 --> :52.000
looking after a lease for the week during the day
until they arrive home from work and I told her
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I wouldn't want to because I have no idea how
to look after a toddler and I don't want to be
:56.800 --> :01.600
with her for that length of time she said that
was okay okay and didn't mention anything about
:01.600 --> :06.720
it after she must have told my sister because she
pretty much stormed into my room and asked me why
:06.720 --> :11.520
I didn't want to look after a lease I told her
the same thing I told my mother and she started
:11.520 --> :16.160
trying to make me feel bad or something by asking
me why I wouldn't want to spend time with my niece
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if I love her and stuff like that I told her I
don't care what she says because I wasn't doing
:20.960 --> :26.200
it and she said I was being selfish by not doing
this after everything she's done for me and that
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she's stuck for a babysitter now because of me I
just told her she should have thought about that
:30.840 --> :37.600
before she decided to book a vacation and she
left op is absolutely not the jerk here and the
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most important thing is if they don't want to do
it then they're absolutely the wrong person for
:43.280 --> :48.040 the job forget about whether or not somebody
can take care of a toddler for a week worry
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about whether or not the person would want to to
begin with are you really all that upset that you
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can't dump your kid on somebody who didn't want
to look after a toddler in the first place under
:58.080 --> :04.040
whatever circumstances owls and Cardinals wrote
not the jerk you're exactly right not wanting
:04.040 --> :09.320
to be responsible for a toddler all day long for
a week straight if not more seeing that you live
:09.320 --> :14.640
there makes perfect sense and it does not mean
you don't love your niece it's fairly transparent
:14.640 --> :19.640
entitled sister who is highly dependent on her
parents wants to go on vacation and doesn't
:19.640 --> :23.840 understand why others aren't willing to bend
over backwards to make that happen for her she's
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a parent Child Care responsibilities including
lining up an appropriate and qualified sitter
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are solely hers and Elisa's dads our next story
is am I the jerk for telling my sister-in-law I
:36.040 --> :41.400
find it weird she's so against adults living with
their parents my sister-in-law has a 22-year-old
:41.400 --> :46.040
daughter and a 24-year-old son her daughter has
been struggling lately and asked if she could move
:46.040 --> :52.760
back in after she finishes College sister-in-law
was very quick to say no way never you don't move
:52.760 --> :57.400
back in with your parents after you're an adult
and that she's definitely an adult she asked my
:57.400 --> :02.320
husband and I if we'd be okay with it and we said
sure I told her not to feel so embarrassed and
:02.320 --> :08.080
that it's not uncommon in Ireland where I'm from
for adults to live with parents I told her I grew
:08.080 --> :13.320
up in a multi-generational home I don't think she
knew what to think about that and was surprised
:13.320 --> :18.120 again to hear that I lived with my parents
until I moved to the us at the ancient age of
:18.120 --> :24.280
25 my husband told her a lot of cultures are not
only okay with it but eager for kids to stay at
:24.280 --> :29.920
home as long as possible or forever and that the
push to leave as soon as you graduate High School
:29.920 --> :35.520
is a very white American thing sister-in-law was
shocked we let her daughter move in and was asking
:35.520 --> :39.760
how we could be okay with it I told her I lived
with my parents until I moved here so it wasn't
:39.760 --> :44.800 a big deal to me this sparked a conversation
where she told me she found that so weird and
:44.800 --> :49.640
she never really listened when I mentioned growing
up in a multi-generational home she said she could
:49.640 --> :55.280
not imagine and found it hard to picture that as
the normal way I said it's not an everyone does
:55.280 --> :00.960
it thing but the shame isn't there as much I said
I'm sure they are people who do want to move out
:00.960 --> :06.720
ASAP and parents who want it too but culturally
it's way more accepted she asked if that was why
:06.720 --> :11.720
I looked so shocked by what she was saying and I
told her that her hard stance against it was weird
:11.720 --> :16.800
to me because I was raised in a home that viewed
things very differently she took offense to this
:16.800 --> :22.000
and said I should understand how wrong it is for
her and I didn't need to come for her I told her
:22.000 --> :27.880
I wasn't I was just expressing my feelings like
she was but she really didn't like what I said my
:27.880 --> :33.040
husband told her she was over reacting am I the
jerk haven't there been numerous reports coming
:33.040 --> :39.640
out that not just in other countries but also in
the US it's becoming extremely prevalent for kids
:39.640 --> :45.400
to stay with their parents even into their mid
20s on the regular our next story is am I the
:45.400 --> :50.400
jerk for telling my wife's friends I make more
money than her I 25-year-old male am married to
:50.400 --> :55.840
my wife Sasha 28-year-old female she comes from
a pretty wealthy background while I decidedly
:55.840 --> :02.480
do not my dad left before I was born and my mom
died died when I was 11 I've mostly gotten over
:02.480 --> :09.720
it as much as one can get over something like that
however I'm still sensitive on any so-called jokes
:09.720 --> :15.680
on that I graduated sumacum LA and went straight
into Investment Banking I met my wife when I was
:15.680 --> :22.960
23 and fresh into it but after 3 years I earned
pretty well my wife is a lawyer now I love my wife
:22.960 --> :30.120
and she loves me obviously but her family hates me
like from the depths of their souls hates me I've
:30.120 --> :36.160
been called a gold digger a low life and a few
more vague insults on my table manners I went to
:36.160 --> :42.800
a party with her the other day one of those fancy
schmancy things where everyone drinks champagne
:42.800 --> :49.760
and complains about this that or the other talking
about oh we spent so much money on Renovations
:49.760 --> :55.480
gasp and I got the usual mild comments from wife's
family and close friends on where my wife picked
:55.480 --> :02.480 me up from Lacy I don't think knew about my
history before we were talking about dads don't
:02.480 --> :08.320
ask me why and I got a question on what my dad did
I said I didn't know never met the guy Lacy made
:08.320 --> :16.160
this kind of exaggerated gasp and went ooh well we
all know why you're with her my wife then don't we
:16.160 --> :22.200
I acted all confused and she got flustered and
just kept going with well you know my wife tried
:22.200 --> :27.640
to move the conversation along but by this point
I wasn't letting it go I kept pushing and pushing
:27.640 --> :34.720
until Lacy finally said well you two don't exactly
have the same finances do you and then responded
:34.720 --> :40.640
with you're right I make quite some more Lacy by
this point was too embarrassed to keep going I'd
:40.640 --> :45.960
kind of ruined the vibe but the night continued
this isn't the kind of event you walk away from we
:45.960 --> :52.160
went home which was when crap genuinely went down
she told me it was crazy of me to keep pushing on
:52.160 --> :57.760
that point and turn one comment into one of the
most embarrassing moments of her life and now
:57.760 --> :02.320
everyone in her Circle must think she's some kind
of failure to earn so much less than her husband
:02.320 --> :07.080
and I'd ruined everything but it's not like I lied
I'm just tired of being treated like crap in her
:07.080 --> :13.600
Circle my wife is upset though and I do care about
her so I need to know am I the jerk so she's upset
:13.600 --> :18.840
that everybody must think that she depends on you
so much but she was more than fine for it to seem
:18.840 --> :24.400
like you depended on her so much I think Opie's
not the jerk here and the real problem is just
:24.400 --> :30.000
the circle Opie's partner surrounds themselves
with our next story is am I the jerk for telling
:30.000 --> :34.040 my parents they need to find an alternative
solution for long-term care for my disabled
:34.040 --> :39.920
siblings because I will not be the solution I
19-year-old male have two older siblings who
:39.920 --> :45.200
were both born with severe disabilities their
disabilities are related to an inheritable Gene
:45.200 --> :51.040
that both my parents were carriers of hence both
of them having these disabilities they had me so
:51.040 --> :55.960
their disabled children would have someone to take
care of them when they were gone it was a gamble
:55.960 --> :01.480
I could have been disabled like my siblings and
had an even higher chance at also being a carrier
:01.480 --> :06.880
for the gene my parents didn't look into that they
initially planned to adopt but they were rejected
:06.880 --> :12.440
because of my siblings being disabled and it was
decided they could not adequately care for another
:12.440 --> :18.000
child on top of them so they gave in and had me
once they knew I wasn't disabled at Birth they
:18.000 --> :23.840
no longer cared about my future because it was
set in stone in their minds I was raised to take
:23.840 --> :29.440
over the care of both of my siblings I was taught
what to do how to do it and my parents interfered
:29.440 --> :35.240
in My Success they would pull me out of school a
few enough times to cause trouble but timed just
:35.240 --> :40.120 right to throw me off and leave me behind at
school their aim was for me to do badly enough
:40.120 --> :45.720
to either drop out or not graduate high school so
then I wouldn't leave for college but I worked my
:45.720 --> :50.560
butt off to do the best I could my grades weren't
great graduating but they were the best they could
:50.560 --> :55.560 have been given the circumstances I actually
only learned about my risk of being a carrier
:55.560 --> :00.120
in my final two months of high school my parents
didn't care because they never planned for me to
:00.120 --> :06.120
marry or have kids because again I was supposed to
be a carer the rest of my life I moved out of my
:06.120 --> :12.240
parents house after high school and I'm in college
now my parents atte it I'm mostly estranged and
:12.240 --> :16.720 have not told them yet but I got checked for
the gene because I always wanted kids but I
:16.720 --> :21.920
knew I didn't want to risk having children with
the same disabilities as my siblings I'm not a
:21.920 --> :28.160
carrier which is rare apparently but such a relief
but it made me more angry at my parents for not
:28.160 --> :33.360
caring they leave voicemails pretty frequently
shaming me for going to college and moving away
:33.360 --> :39.400
and not supporting them or my siblings they talked
about how out of practice I will be so I decided
:39.400 --> :44.440
to call them and over the phone I told them I
was not coming back and that they need to find
:44.440 --> :50.560
an alternative solution for long-term care for my
siblings because I won't be the solution I won't
:50.560 --> :56.280
sacrifice the rest of my life to care for them my
parents told me that was disgusting to say and I
:56.280 --> :01.000
should love my siblings more than enough to care
for them especially when they are the highest risk
:01.000 --> :06.960
adults am I the jerk op's definitely not the jerk
considering they've been trying to groom op into
:06.960 --> :12.200
becoming a carer for the rest of their life and
even after this point when you're mostly estranged
:12.200 --> :17.000
living away from them and even want to tell them
you're never going to do that they still have this
:17.000 --> :22.840
insane impression that you're going to come back
and take over ebony doe wrote not the jerk block
:22.840 --> :29.000
their numbers or change yours and go out and live
your life your siblings are not your problem or
:29.000 --> :33.960
responsibility your parents are the ones sick in
their head for having you solely as a slave to
:33.960 --> :39.720
their other kids our next story is am I the jerk
for telling my husband's parents and sister not
:39.720 --> :45.480
to use me in their sick and twisted scheme to eras
his late wife I'm married to a widower we've been
:45.480 --> :50.680
married for 4 years together for six and known
each other for eight we met at a grief support
:50.680 --> :56.840
group I lost my sister to cancer around the same
time he lost his leid wife Tasha we bonded and
:56.840 --> :02.040
supported each other and our relationship happen
slowly over the two years of being friends one
:02.040 --> :07.560
thing I've always known is his love for Tasha
has never faded he never wants it to fade he
:07.560 --> :14.480
misses her every single day so do his children my
stepchildren he struggled with the idea of finding
:14.480 --> :21.040
someone else not least of all because his family
started pushing 13 months after his loss in time
:21.040 --> :26.400
he wanted this himself and we fell in love but
I've always known there would be no us without
:26.400 --> :33.320
his loss I was never jealous or insecure of that I
love his love for Tasha it tells me how amazing he
:33.320 --> :39.040
is as a person it's also good for his kids to see
the love he still holds for their mom my sister's
:39.040 --> :44.320
widower remarried after 6 months and has erased
my sister with their children he stopped me having
:44.320 --> :49.440
a relationship with them too and I hate it the
kids being good with us was the most important
:49.440 --> :54.960
thing to us when we became something more the only
condition they had to their support was their mom
:54.960 --> :59.800
they didn't want her to be forgotten they didn't
want my husband to stop talking about her or for
:59.800 --> :05.200
her photos to disappear from the house some came
down but they're still in the house just not on
:05.200 --> :11.600
the walls and there are still photos of her around
it works I tell my daughter 2 years old and will
:11.600 --> :16.800
tell my son I'm pregnant with that she's their big
siblings Mom and Daddy's late wife they'll know
:16.800 --> :21.520
who she is and what she means to our family but
my husband's parents and sister didn't like that
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Tasha is still very much loved and kept alive they
didn't like her they didn't approve of their son
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who came from a very unfavorable family they
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judged Tasha for it harshly they think I'm far
better so they expected me to replace Tasha they
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were especially horrified that my husband keeps
a photo of Tasha in his wallet and on his desk at
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work there are also photos of me and both recently
they brought this up with me and told me I should
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forbid my husband from doing this they said it is
horribly disrespectful to me and it's prevented my
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husband's teenage children from truly embracing
me as their mother they told me to March right
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up to him in front of everyone and tell him that
he cannot keep photos of his dead wife anymore
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it bothered me so much that they were so callous
about it I told them not to use me in their sick
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and twisted scheme to erase Tasha because I wanted
no part of it they focused on the sick and twisted
:18.680 --> :23.600 aspect and they're saying I called them sick
and twisted and accused me of overreacting to
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their support my husband was furious with them
when he heard and told them to be thankful as
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kids hadn't heard them am I the jerk though this
is one of those stories that's so obviously not
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the jerk that you're surprised that they're even
posting this like you almost think they're posting
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something like this just to Garner some sympathy
and get some extra perspective on something that
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they know they're obviously right about anybody
who's trying to erase the memory of a lost loved
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one whether that be your wife or your mom those
people are obviously disgusting Greek American Dom
:55.760 --> :02.040
wrote not the jerk it is sick and twisted I would
go so far to say as It ultimately shows a complete
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lack of love for their son instead of trusting
him to do what is right for himself they prefer
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that he conformed to some freaked up standard
at best their love is conditional your husband
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needs to have a Stern talk with them in which he
makes it clear that if they don't cut the crap
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and accept how he chooses to live and love they
will end up with a far less important role in his
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life this is not a threat but a natural outcome
of the distance their actions will create our
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next story is would I be The Jerk for telling my
parents I do not want to go to college after all
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they saved up for me they've been preparing and
molding it into my future since I was little and
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I never spoke up about my true feelings I'll give
you all the information I can so you can form an
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opinion I 20-year-old female have always dreamt of
college or university from when I was young or at
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least that's what my parents believe they shaped
this dream primarily because I grew up watching
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all those '90s and 2000s movies that glamorized
The college experience not because I have any
:01.160 --> :06.800
genuine passion for higher education or something
my parents especially my father who never had the
:06.800 --> :12.240
chance to go to college when he was my age have
been carefully planning my academic future since
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before I can remember for years I've overheard
my parents boasting to their friends about how
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op is definitely going to college and detailing
the prestigious programs they were certain I'd
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enroll in here's the kicker I never expressed
any interest in those plans heck I never even
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confirmed I wanted to go to college at all I've
always been undecided but instead of being honest
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I just smiled and nodded hoping the conversation
would move on the pressure has been immense
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but I've kept my thoughts and feelings hidden
terrified of disappointing them or coming off as
:46.160 --> :52.280
some unappreciative daughter now I'm drowning in
my own head my parents have invested so much time
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effort and money into preparing for my college
education like I can see the pride in their eyes
:57.960 --> :03.600
when they talk talk about my bright future and
it breaks my heart but as of last night after
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a deep conversation with friends who were feeling
the same pressure I decided that I needed to come
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clean I want to sit my parents down and tell them
that I'm not ready for college that I need more
:13.760 --> :19.280
time to figure out what I truly want in life but
there's a voice in my head screaming you're an
:19.280 --> :25.120
ungrateful brat to be honest the guilt is eating
me alive would I be the jerk for telling them I
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do not want to follow through with their carefully
laid out plans for my future would I be the jerk
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to confess that I need more time even if it means
not following their exact road map edit I failed
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grade three got pushed a year back now I'm in
year 13 and almost done in high school wanted to
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clear the confusion up I don't think telling your
parents listen I'm not even ready for college I
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don't know what I want to do is a very fair thing
to say but I do think especially with what age op
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is at now that they should really think long and
hard about what they do want to do granted there
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still is a long time to figure out what you truly
want to do but at the same time you can't just say
:05.040 --> :09.800
oh well I don't want to go to college but also
oh I have no idea what I want to do even if it
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means you want to get a so so average job and try
to save up and just support yourself that's an
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actual path wasps are idiots wrote not the jerk
but have you thought about what you want to do
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with your life obviously you need to do something
that doesn't necessarily have to be college but
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do you have a plan for a career that way you can
tell them what you do want to do if you just say
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I don't want to go I don't know what I want to do
I could imagine they may freak out I have no idea
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what college or university is like in the US but I
know in the UK it's very different from school and
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all the subjects you hate you get to drop and you
take what you're interested in have you considered
:48.360 --> :53.120
maybe doing some college level classes somewhere
to see if you like it without fully committing if
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that's a thing this next story is am I the jerk
for blowing up after husband who doesn't cook for
:58.480 --> :05.240
us ate my leftover pizza yesterday I 27-year-old
female got upset because I had pizza left over for
:05.240 --> :11.200
myself in the fridge that husband 32-year-old male
ate after he said he didn't want any when I went
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and got it we argued while I passive aggressively
cooked myself another meal for context we've been
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having a lot of issues one being dinners I did
and still do a lot of the cooking and grocery
:22.400 --> :28.440
shopping for us in the past I've asked why he
can't shop cook for us more help me cook or or
:28.440 --> :33.120
at least do the dishes when I cook he says that he
doesn't care about eating dinner and would like to
:33.120 --> :39.400
eat less because he's obese so I should cook for
myself and not expect him to cook or dishwash I
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want to clarify that he is not obese because of
my cooking I cook well balanced healthy dinners
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he gets pizza or fast food almost every day and
has a sweet tooth of course I at first wanted to
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help him be more healthy so I started cooking for
myself and getting groceries just for myself but
:57.040 --> :02.400 then he started eating my snacks the dinners
I cooked and my leftovers he would get hungry
:02.400 --> :08.360
because he didn't have dinner you don't say and
would eat a box of Chez itss late at night I get
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sensitive when he doesn't leave any snacks or
food left for me but he says it's crappy that
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I complain about him eating food that's available
because we can literally just get more I'm pretty
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generous with sharing self-designated food all
I ask is that he leaves me some and ask me ahead
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of time he does neither yesterday I complained
that not only did my leftovers disappear but now
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I have to cook for myself and for the person who
ate it and who doesn't pitch in he says that I
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have a valid argument that he should cook more
but apparently that argument has been watered
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down by me selfishly complaining that he ate my
pizza because again we can literally get more
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pizza I said the arguments are related you should
cook more or not eat my pizza when you don't cook
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Am I Wrong to give him crap about eating my Pizza
or food and General in this context am I the jerk
:01.160 --> :07.640
op's 1 million per not the jerk and when he says
again we can literally get more pizza every time
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he says that you should immediately say okay do it
go get the pizza right now if we can get some more
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honestly if I were an opce position and somebody
tried to pull that with me I would be pressing
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them on that every single time no way are you
going to eat the leftovers that I'm supposed to
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just get for myself and then say well we can just
get some more and then try to walk away quats 555
:30.040 --> :37.640 wrote not the jerk we can get more pizza but
we don't I do this is a good demonstration of
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any relationship requiring give and take when it
comes to food these all take and no give but with
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that being said that's all the time we have for
today now if you want to hear another absolutely
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crazy am I the jerk here story check out that
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caught my fiance cheating on me with her coworker just two months before our
wedding lied about breaking contact and now she's living with her Affair partner
my fiance 26f and I 27m had been together for nearly 5 years after
meeting in college my partner and I are both Indian but were born and raised in
the US despite challenges like coming from different religious backgrounds and
periods of long distance we got engaged in early December 2023 with plans to get
married in December 2024 we live in different states due to my job and are
pursuing a doctorate nurse practice practitioner degree while working a
nursing job at a hospital things took an awful turn when February 2024 hit some
additional background in mid December 2023 when I was with her at her place of
residence we grabbed brunch with her future AP 42m and his wife married for 8
years the future AP was a co-worker where she had a great relationship with
I never got any bad vibes from him in fact he seemed to be a good guy he and
his wife even gave my fiance and me Christmas gifts after we had met fast
forward a bit my fiance was with me during Valentine's week and everything
was great between us that week I did notice however that she was texting her
coworker a bit too often to the point that I even took notice again I trusted
her and didn't think too much of it at the time she wasn't hiding it either
even suggesting for us to watch a movie that the cooworker recommended
eventually she had to catch the flight back to her residence due to her job and
left on a Wednesday morning the day after she texted me that she was going
to grab brunch with the coworker again there was nothing wrong with it at the
time for me I knew they were good friends and I I had no problem with it
however in hindsight all the problems started with that brunch for the next
week I did notice she was texting me a little less often and she was a bit more
distant towards me she texted me that she felt off and I asked what was going
on and all she said was it was stress from school and work the reality was
much worse eventually I got my first D-Day she called me on February 28th
that night she confessed that she had kissed and love the cooworker the day
before she said I never thought I could love more than one person at the same
time and that she felt she loved him in a past life obviously just hearing all
those things upset me and I was in shock she mentioned that the brunch she had
with him was where he confessed his feelings for her that was what was
bothering her the week I noticed she felt off and distant towards me she
described to me that this happened suddenly on the night of February 27th
and had a lot of consequences for both of them after our nightly call she got a
text from her AP that he wanted to talk in person about something they met at a
bar to discuss the state of their relationship the details I'm honestly
not too sure about even now I guess for some reason the bathroom wasn't working
at the bar and the AP had to use the bathroom and my fiance suggested him to
use the bathroom at her place this somehow led to a kiss at her apartment I
asked her straight out if she had also had sex with him she said no I believed
her more on that later my fiance also said she was confronted by the ap's wife
that same night unbeknownst to them the ap's wife was tracking his location and
confronted my fiance in the AP at my fiance's apartment the whole
confrontation was negative to say the least I don't have the full details
about what happened between the three of them but all I know is that the AP
confessed that he loved my fiance during the confrontation in front of the ap's
wife my fiance reiterated how much she loved me and told me she broke off
contact with the AP and told him that she wished she never met him I myself
was still in shock and needed a few days to process the whole thing I texted her
in a limited fashion compared to how I was in the past for more context at this
point we had already booked a wedding venue set for December 2024 and had
booked wedding vendors and she had bought wedding dresses as well so the
fact that she had done this was such a shock to me given how much investment we
had put into each other she was supposed
to go home to where her parents lived to pick up a wedding dress she had bought
the first weekend of March 2024 however she wasn't in the right
mindset and decided not to go her immediate family thought this Behavior
was unlike her so they actually drove all the way to her place to understand
what was going on with her after a few days of processing this myself I still
thought the relationship was salvageable I thought to myself okay it's just a
kiss even though she said she loved him she said she broke off contact
we needed to go to coup's counseling and pause any sort of wedding plans this
year and just work on us I asked her if we could call again on Saturday March
2nd to talk about our relationship she agreed we called on Saturday I explained
to her that we needed to pause wedding planning she agreed but said we actually
needed to stop the wedding entirely as well I asked why she said then that I
knew why after a few seconds I realized the unthinkable I reluctantly asked if
she had also had sex with him she said yes and I broke down and wailed on the
call we basically broke it off at that point she asked if we could have limited
contact and I agreed mainly because her family knew the full extent of her
actions and essentially disowned her out of shame I didn't want her to be
isolated and I felt comfortable enough to keep contact because she broke off
contact with the AP that was my assumption at the time in the next two
weeks I was surrounded by a good support system to get me through it my parents
came down to give me company after I told them of my fiance's cheating they
were sad for me but they were also relieved I wasn't going through with the
marriage due to the religious differences I was raised Christian I
also hung out with friends for another week that came down to my apartment to
give company and support as well in those weeks I was going back and forth
about giving my fiance another chance and attempting reconciliation my
justification was that my fiance showed remorse was accountable and broke off
contact with the AP my plan for going through with reconciliation was that I
needed to have access to her Communications we needed to either
attend discernment couples counseling she and I had to go through individual
counseling and we also needed to Define boundaries more clearly that was my plan
in my limited contact with her I asked if we could have a call later in the
week to discuss things she agreed I brought up the idea of reconciliation to
my parents two nights before the scheduled call they were not in
agreement with my decision they said I was making a mistake then my mom said
something odd for reference my parents had met my fiance's parents already and
they occasionally called each other after the whole cheating situation my
fiance's mom called my mom at some point to vent and be brief about the whole
thing to her in that call my fiance mom told my mom that the AP was with my
fiance at her apartment when my fiance's parents were confronting her about it I
was shocked when my mom told me this my fiance had said she broke off contact
with him why would he be with her when her parents were confronting her I
texted her that night while she was at work asking is AP living with you her
first response was why are you asking that obviously I wasn't thrilled with
that initial response it's a simple yes or no question and I felt like I had a
right to know given our history and situation but eventually she confessed
that the ap's wife kicked him out of their house and the AP was spending
thousands of dollars on hotels and my fiance allowed him to live with her
because of that when her parents confronted her he was only there
initially for her support but is now living with her afterwards I was livid
this was absolutely disrespectful to our relationship letting the affair partner
live with my fiance I straightforwardly told her that it was a bad idea
to have him at her place and her response was why are you saying that he
just needs a place to stay for now I never in my life thought I would have to
explain my thought process for something like that I thought it was obvious my
simple explanation was that the affair partner ruined our relationship and her
response was op please I ruined him and his wife I was flabbergasted why was she
prioritizing him over me the person she said yes to marrying just 3 months ago I
mentioned that the reason I wanted to call was that I wanted to try
reconciliation but after she kept this hidden from me I immediately
reconsidered her response was that even if I did want to work on us it wouldn't
have been the same as before I told her not to bother calling me if he was still
at her place she begged me not to say that to stop
saying that I wanted to have closure with her in some capacity but after him
living with her and keeping that for me for weeks it wouldn't help because I
wouldn't believe a word coming out of her mouth she acknowledged that she
messed up insisted on caring about my well-being but she admits the cause of
this whole Affair was that she loved the affair partner despite telling me this
she still wants to know that I am okay I told her no she doesn't deserve to know
that I'm okay the cheating was horrible Enough by itself but I assumed it was a
sudden thing and that it wouldn't happen again again but I was a fool for
believing that allowing the affair partner to live with her was a conscious
decision a slap in my face and disrespected me to the fullest I
straightforwardly told her that she can't keep in contact with both of us
she can only contact me if he's out of the apartment otherwise she can off
that was the last thing I said to her and I have not gotten a reply from her
since March 21st 2024 fun fact I was talking with her best friend about this
whole situation about a week after this and you want to know something
apparently he started living with her either the day we officially broke it
off or the day after WTF I don't even know who she is anymore the person I
proposed to in December 2023 is long gone I can't help her anymore with her
problems because of what she has done to me all I hope now is that she comes to
her senses and realizes what a mistake she's making by having him live there
with her she's just such a broken individual right now want to know
something else her parents are divorced you know why they divorced her dad
cheated on her mom she despised her dad because of it and she did the exact same
thing to me how ironic so yeah that's where I am at I'm trying
to heal but it's hard I can't stop the mental imagery of the affair from
popping up and I always wake up in the middle of the night ever since this
happened it is horrible I am grateful for my friends and family who kept me
sane but it's still so hard knowing she cheated on me I never thought she would
do this to me after we've been through together now on to the next story story
two GF got a promotion and started working late I trusted her until I found
her texts with a coworker I caught them in the act and made her boss and the
company knew I 25 male and my girlfriend 24 female met 3 years ago at a party my
fraternity was hosting admittedly I was pretty wild toward the end of my college
experience I felt like I had everything figured out in the last semester I was
in school I had a huge case of senioritis when I met my girlfriend
originally I thought it was just going to be a hookup however I quickly
realized that she and I had something serious between us we started officially
dating and we were monogamous toward each other we both graduated and got
jobs after college about a year after we decided to move in together both of us
were new in our fields and we were doing everything in our power to work our way
up my girlfriend wasn't very happy with her job she felt like she was being
overlooked a lot of the time and some of the tasks that she was doing seemed
disrespectful compared to things some of the other employees were doing it ended
up paying off for her because she was offered a promotion directly by her boss
she had a lot more responsibility and she got quite a large pay raise
alongside it the initial job description
she gave me didn't make it seem like she would be spending a lot of late nights
at the office but every so often I would get a text message saying that she
wouldn't be coming home for dinner I'd offer to bring her food or stop by and
help her out so she wasn't there too late but she always declined I really
trusted her so I never thought anything was happening I believed everything she
said when she told me she was working a couple of months after she got her
promotion she told me that she would be traveling to a conference for work it
was going to be across the country in Los Angeles there were a ton of things
she had always wanted to do and several of them were in California we had talked
about vacationing there together before so I suggested that it could be fun for
me to take the time off work and join her she quickly shut that idea down I
was hurt by how fast she rejected it but
she just told me that we couldn't afford the lost time I moved on from that
pretty quickly and I was just happy for her that she was finally going to get to
go the weeks leading up to her business trip were mostly uneventful a few days
before she left we got into a small argument about our relationship she had
been staying late at work more often and I felt like she wasn't being attentive
so I confronted her about it she was really defensive and tried to tell me
that she just had to work harder than I did to get places in life our different
upbringings have been a point of contention with us in the past but I
hated when she brought it up I've been lucky enough to have familial
Connections in my industry I grew up in an upper class household and I was able
to afford to go to good schools I was a legacy in my fraternity and I had plenty
of contacts thanks to my family my girlfriend didn't have any of that and
she would often throw it in my face as if I didn't deserve any of the
accomplishments I'd made after the argument things were a little awkward
but she promised me that we would talk more about it when she got back from her
trip I told myself that I was just going
to forget about it and let her enjoy her time while while she was there before
she left she told me that she would call me every night that she was in
California I had actually been looking forward to it because I was interested
to know what she was getting up to the first night she called me and gave me a
rundown of her entire day she was somewhat jetlagged and exhausted from
the plane ride then so there wasn't much
to report though on the second day I was waiting by the phone at the time we set
aside to call and she never reached out I ended up texting her to see what was
going on but she didn't reply until the morning she told me she passed out and
didn't set an alarm I accepted that she had given me no reason to doubt that
story so I believed it once again the following night she never called me I
felt kind of foolish just waiting by the phone for her to reach out I ended up
getting an invite to a party a friend was throwing so I went to that instead
aside from texting every so often I didn't talked to her for the entire 5
days she was in California I was excited for her to come home but at the same
time I knew that we were going to have to have a difficult conversation when
she finally got back it almost seemed like she didn't want anything to do with
me the distance between us seemed to have Tri tried in the short time she was
gone I tried to talk to her about it but she just didn't want to talk it was
incredibly frustrating trying to deal with her when she was putting so little
effort into communicating so I took to the internet to try to figure out what
was going on from everything I could gather it seemed to be a logical
conclusion that something might have happened with another person outside of
our relationship I didn't want to believe that she was cheating on me but
I needed to at least rule that out I didn't know how to ask her about it so
the first chance I had to look through her phone I took it we knew each other's
passwords so it wasn't hard getting in the difficult part was trying to figure
out what I was looking for I looked through her pictures and I didn't see
anything I didn't find anything in her recent messages that was alarming I
ended up searching through the messages for some keywords that might tip off
anything serious going on when I typed in the word together a lot of different
messages came up however I was able to read from the Snippets of text that
there was somebody who had recently messaged her about wanting to be
together I clicked on the messages and I read through all of them I didn't know
the man she had been texting but from what I could gather it was a coworker
apparently they had been sleeping together for some time the man was
asking her when she was going to leave me I didn't know if she had told him
that she planned to or if he was just assuming that she would I was going to
make it a lot easier for her and break up with her it was clear that she didn't
want me to go to California with her because she planned on spending the week
with him it all made sense why she hadn't been available to talk to me
during that time I felt heartbroken initially that was the last thing I
expected her to do and I was shocked to find out she was cheating when I read
about other people in similar situations online I assumed that it just wouldn't
happen to me but I was wrong from their messages I was able to glean
that she and her Affair partner had been fooling around on the job she had done
me dirty so I wanted to make things a little more difficult for her I knew how
hard she worked to get where she was in her company so I knew how hard it would
be for her to lose it all a couple of nights passed and I played it cool I
stopped pressuring her to talk about the distance between us and I just accepted
it one evening she texted me at 4:30 p.m. telling me that she was going to be
staying late at work I knew that was her
basically saying she was staying late at work to sleep with this man I replied
and told her that it was was okay and then I would put a plate aside for her
in the microwave for her to heat up of course I took that opportunity to go
find proof that she was cheating on me no employer wanted to work with people
that were having sex in the offices so I thought if I could get some evidence I
could show it to her boss when I walked in the building was pretty much empty
aside from a janitor I had to lie and tell him that I was an employee that had
forgotten their keys my girlfriend's office was practically empty though
after a minute of snooping I was able to find her and her Affair partner in what
was very clearly their boss's office if I had been worried that their
relationship wasn't going to get them both fired before I knew right away the
proof of them sleeping together in his office would I was as quiet as I had
ever been while I took a video and a couple of pictures of them I was able to
get the boss's information through the company's website I reached out to him
and after a few days he contacted me and told me he wanted to see the evidence
that I had mentioned I brought it to his
office in the middle of a work day where my girlfriend saw me walk in and showed
him my girlfriend was surprised to see me so she knocked on her boss's door and
asked me what I was doing there while trying to pull me in for a friendly hug
her boss just glared at her and asked her if she could take a seat before
dismissing me from the office I stood on the outside of the door for a minute
while I listened to him fire her she stormed out and stood in front of me
completely shocked I doubt she had any idea I even knew about the affair before
that I ended things with her right there in front of all of her co-workers and I
told her that I wanted her out of the apartment she tried to play it off like
it was her decision because she wanted to be with the other man anyway if that
were truly the case why wouldn't she have just left me to begin with it's
been about 6 months since all of that happened and I haven't heard from her we
have a lot of mutual friends from college and they have told me that she
is actively looking for a job she's been doing online insurance sales in the
meantime which is absolutely nothing she planned to do as far as they know she's
also single so I guess it didn't work out with the other guy | give me a good story on CaughtMyFianceCheatingonMewithHerCoworkerJustMonthsBeforeOurWeddingLiedAbout |
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welcome friends to another r slash malicious compliance video today we've
got some awesome stories and our first story of the days from starsbear75063
is this what you want fine the customer is always right i drive for uber in the
dallas area and i received a ride request i picked up the gentleman and it
was a good ride about five minutes in the writer asked me what was on my rear
view mirror i told him it was my interior cam he got mad and told me to
turn it off because he didn't like such surveillance
i reminded him that the uber app would have said there was a video recording
there's also signs on the door he could have declined booking the trip if there
was a problem it escalated when he yelled you better turn that dang thing
off or else or else i asked yes was the reply turn it off or stop this trip i
verified with him his request and he said yes turn the darn thing off or end
this trip to which i said fine have it your way i will comply at that i exited
the highway and pulled into a convenience store he acted a bit stunned
before shouting what the heck are you doing i calmly stated you said either i
stop recording or i end the trip as i have no intention of stopping the
recording i'm letting you out here that did not go well for him as he started
screaming and hurling abuse beginning with f questioning my parentage and
although correctly guessing my sexual orientation was rather rude about it i
calmly into the trip as per his request that was the compliance here's the
maliciousness which although i'm very capable of i rarely do when ending the
trip on the app i gave him a one star rating as we can't give zero as he was
really getting on my last nerve i added feeling unsafe and abusive rider as he
continued to rant i pointed to a police car that just pulled in and told him if
you don't leave my car immediately then perhaps you might want to explain why
not to that nice officer after getting a
few more cutting jabs and getting out he
tossed his open protein drink in my head hitting the head rest and spilling all
over the floorboard it was that time that i got a text message from
ubersupport asking if i was alright i said i was they told me his account was
suspended and asked if i could send the video clip to them i said i would and
also mentioned the mess uber support told me to just send them a picture and
he would be charged a 75 cleaning fee which i got within an hour so i did
exactly what the rider wanted but due to
his petulant behavior he got a cancelled uber account and it cost him 75 dollars
if he would have just left i wouldn't have done a thing but play stupid games
win stupid prizes if you got into an uber and he found out that they were
recording the entire inside of the vehicle at all times would that make you
uncomfortable or would that actually reassure you a little bit let me know
what you guys think down in the comments below our next story is from jl xenia
okay i won't interrupt you again i waitressed in chicago to pay for my
tuition at the u of i in a popular italian restaurant the owners were true
paisanos fresh off the boat it was a very decent job for a student i made
good money the chef who happened to be the owner's sister always sent me home
with enough leftovers to make it through the week i had a great schedule and the
owner's wife was a nice lady the owner however was a misogynist jerk of the
first degree and we did not get along at all one day he called an informal
meeting right before opening and everyone from the dishwasher to the
hostess was gathered around a big table i was the last person to sit down
because i'd been in the kitchen for some reason and while in the kitchen i
noticed that a burner had been left on and a large frying pan had a good olive
oil fire going i ran to the table and said enzo there's a thought and he
shouted don't interrupt me so i said okay and sat the freak down i knew that
the building wasn't going to burst into flames immediately because the pan was
under a large hood and there was nothing else on the stove so i sat down and
nudged a co-worker and pointed the kitchen had two small windows in them
and you could see the stinky black smoke
everyone ran into the kitchen except for me the fire was extinguished and the
only residue was the smell of smoke and a burned pan enzo came storming out and
started to berate me and i just said you told me to shut up i could see that
several other employees were stifling their laughter but alas no one applauded
frying with olive oil any good italian cook worth their salt uses butter for
frying and keeps the olive oil for salads duly noted all i know is it takes
a strong dedication to being maliciously
compliant to know that there is a raging pan fire in the kitchen and for you to
go and just sit down anyways got some big this is fine energy going on here by
the way if you're enjoying these stories make sure to hit those like and
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next story is from lol what mufflers you don't want to work on another
technician's comeback fine work on your own i work at an automotive shop we're
high volume and occasionally cars come back for a recurring issue most of the
times these issues go back to the technician who didn't properly repair it
on the first go-round but there are exceptions to the rule such as in this
story i gave one of the technicians who is considered top tier a check engine
life concern of course we try our best to look at the previous history to see
if this is a comeback in this case the vehicle had been here seven months ago
also for a check engine light however the issue had been repaired with a
software update and the owner had seven trouble-free months with the vehicle the
technician who looked at it this time was not the same one who performed the
repair seven months earlier i give him the vehicle and within five minutes he's
calling me to come see him here we go to preface the next part of our story this
technician has about 15 years of age on me and zero experience in dispatching
work dispatching shop work has been my job for about four years seamshop all of
this time mind you right away the technician who is upset says he's not
fixing this vehicle someone else worked on it and they didn't fix it properly
and now it needs a major repair he proceeds to tell me that he should never
get someone else's comebacks and that he's refusing to repair it because
someone else worked on it in the past great i did my best to explain that this
time around has nothing to do with what's happening now had it been we
would have been working on the vehicle well before seven months due to what the
repair is this is a person who will not listen to me or most people once he's
upset something psychologically wrong there but not the point of the story
being that i know i'll get nowhere by engaging him and also getting upset i
tell him to pull the vehicle out and we'll move on because he's wasting time
by making a fuss over the situation he complies as i walk back in the office an
advisor comes up to me says he has a customer who was just here for an oil
change and now the cover that goes underneath the engine is dragging on the
ground we look up the history and find that guess what the technician who
doesn't work on other people's comebacks worked on it last week i wish you all
could have seen the look on this tech's face when i handed him the keys and
paperwork proving that he worked on it and told him if you don't fix other
people's comebacks at least fix your own
i mean i know that mechanics work on all
kinds of cars and probably in the course of seven months worked on countless
numbers of vehicles but for some reason it's kind of impressive that they can't
recall ever working on a car like possibly being the technician that did
that work maybe they even remembered working on a similar car but it's the
situation where they're so much of a narcissist and they feel they're so
infallible that it's no way that they made that fault it's just great to be
able to humble people who act like this once in a while this next story is from
leaping lizards 10 don't open the door for anybody you got it mom i was allowed
to stay home alone when i was around 10 years old that may seem a bit young but
i had a strong sense of safety skills and followed my mother's rules to a tee
don't use the stove don't answer the house phone unless it's mom or dad and
don't open the door for anybody even those that we knew i lived in an
apartment building where everybody knows everybody and we were all very close
sometimes we go to each other's places to either borrow something or visit one
day my mom told me she was going to the store and as usual she would sternly
tell me to not open the door for anybody
we did have people knock on the door and i'd check to see who was there but i
would never answer it and i was very quiet when i would check the peephole
and watch tv at a low volume my siblings however they had some sort of anxiety
and often broke the rule when my mom found out she was obviously quite angry
and told me once again to not open the door for anybody cue malicious
compliance after my mom left i was completely alone no siblings nobody just
me 15 minutes later i get a knock at the door i quietly walk over and check the
people to check who it was it was the neighbor who came over frequently i
ignored it but she constantly kept knocking after knocking and waiting at
the door for about 10 minutes she left when my mom came home she asked if
anybody knocked on our door out of plain curiosity i told her the neighbor did
and was there for a while but i didn't answer my mom immediately gets angry
with me and said that the neighbor wanted to borrow some food item from the
kitchen and that i should have answered the door i wasn't aware because my mom
didn't bother to call me stating that it
was okay usually my mom would call me to let me know in case anybody was coming
to get something or drop something off but this time she didn't i simply
shrugged my shoulders and said you said don't open the door for anybody even
those that we know my mom realized her mistake and then changed the rule from
don't open the door for anybody to don't open the door for anybody except people
that we knew honestly through and through op's just being a great kid if
anything i think op's moms should be more than proud of them like yeah they
can have their oh man when they realize they have been
maliciously complianced against but like
they should follow that up with a bit of beaming pride that their kid follows
their rules so explicitly our next story is from waterfriends iv michigan voter
demands we accept their primary ballot as is okie dokie happy to help i worked
the polls for the michigan primary on tuesday the ballot in my district had
three sections democratic party section republican party section and
non-partisan section judges at the top of the first two sections it says
partisan section and vote only one party section we also remind voters that it's
a primary so they can only vote in one section we don't care which one but you
can't vote in both or your vote will be spoiled people hear the reminder several
times while waiting in line because they're in line next to everyone some
people even joke about the repetition with i know i know only one party i
heard the reason for this is so that people don't try to sabotage another
party's races by voting for a long-shot candidate for example incumbent
democratic governor gretchen whitmer was running unopposed a democratic party
voter could think hey i don't need to cast my vote for governor for whitmer
because she'll win her party's nomination so i'll cross parties and try
to mess up the republican nominee you're only allowed to vote for one party and
everyone gets to vote in the non-partisan section regardless of how
you voted in either section if someone does vote incorrectly either on purpose
or by a mistake the ballot is rejected it gets spoiled and we go through a very
accountable method of issuing a second ballot and giving the voter another
chance to vote correctly one voter's ballot was rejected and they were very
upset that their ballot was getting rejected each time they attempted to
rescan it we one republican poll worker and one democratic poll worker offer
help without looking at the ballot we explain that they voted incorrectly and
must spoil the ballot they do it themselves by writing spoiled across the
ballot in large letters folding it in half to protect privacy and turning it
in well this voter would have none of that shady election fraud bs and wanted
their ballot cast exactly as they marked it okay sir we're happy to help there's
a feature on the scanner where you simply touch accept ballot as is this is
mostly used when scanning ballots that are sent in absentee and the person's
not there to recast a proper ballot but we were happy to oblige this person and
tapped accept ballot as is the ballot slid in and was scanned while the voter
muttered that's more like it this meant his ballot would not count in the
primary it's an illegal ballot he wasted his time coming to the polling center
waiting in line filling out his application to vote marking his ballot
and complaining to us have a nice day sir this might be a controversial
opinion but if somebody is so incapable of filling out that ballot properly or
understanding that they made a mistake maybe it's for the best that their vote
didn't get counted and our final story of the days from salmonic 92 can't quit
my job if i'm taking the uniform home guess i'm leaving naked so back when i
was a teenager around 14 years old i worked for the shop down the road as
their weekend baker which was mainly just defrosting pre-cooked items or
browning pre-cooked bread in the ovens my boss's daughter also worked there as
checkout staff however she would just call in sick or hungover every weekend
so of course her dad would let her off the hook and make me cover her shift so
i would work 5 am to 7 pm most weekends after a couple of years i decided i was
quitting and gave them my two weeks notice my boss asked me to stay an extra
week to train the new weekend baker which i agreed to at the end of the
third week i went into my boss's office and did the usual well it's been great
working with you to which who replies so op the extra week you work to train the
new baker means you've been here for two years which means according to the
policy you need to work four weeks notice instead so i'll see you next week
also you need to give us back your uniform on your last shift and it needs
to be freshly cleaned being a petulant teenager who was tired of waking up at
4am i stared at him in disbelief for a couple of seconds waiting for the
crap-eating grin on his face to laugh and say just kidding have a good one
that moment didn't come so i walked out of the office stripped down on my boxers
folded up my baker's whites my trousers and even the little mesh fedora on top
walked into his office again and dropped the uniform on his desk and walked home
he followed me down the stairs and through the shop shouting about how i
would never work anywhere again thinking
back that must have been a strange thing for customers to see it was a 10-minute
walk home in the summer sun nothing arduous apparently according to his
daughter who got back in touch with me a
couple of years later i'm now one of the stories my old boss tells people when
he's had a few drinks not in a nice funny story way good on op for not
putting up with that kind of bs i'm also sitting here like you might write that
in your policy but is it legal to actually enforce that isn't working and
notice strictly just a courtesy thing you can't force somebody to just show
back up to work what are you gonna do try to withhold the last month of
payments because they didn't give you a longer notice but with that being said
that's all the time we have for today now if you want to hear another
compliance story that was way crazier than any of the ones in this video click
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:02.630 --> :12.540 I went into famous footwear after work, I
work at a vet clinic and was in my scrubs. :12.540 --> :16.970
As I was pulling out a pair of shoes to try
on, someone comes up to me and asks where :16.970 --> :20.460
she can find the sandals. I reply that I’m
sorry but I’m not sure and she says “oh, :20.460 --> :26.190
I thought you worked here!” Hmmm This happened
earlier tonight. I was heading home from work :26.190 --> :31.620
and as my family and I were all getting off
late, we decided to get pizza. We live across :31.620 --> :39.240
the street from a pizza hut and so decided
we could get carryout and I could grab it :39.240 --> :43.030
on my way in. For context, I work fast food
and my uniform is red t-shirt, jeans, and :43.030 --> :46.430
hair pulled back with optional red hat. Tonight
I was wearing a safety vest over my shirt :46.430 --> :47.430
as a precaution. :47.430 --> :49.510
After confirming with family on all the pizzas,
I head in and place the order. I'm told it's :49.510 --> :54.930
gonna be 15 minutes and I sit in a chair.
As I'm waiting, a guy comes in and on instinct, :54.930 --> :58.360
I glance up curiously. We can call him Martin (not real name).
:58.360 --> :04.110 Martin looks at me. "Order for pick up..."
he says to which I smile and show my shirt. :04.110 --> :07.490
"Sorry. I don't work here. Just waiting." I said chuckling.
:07.490 --> :10.450 Martin does a little bow. "Oh. I'm so sorry."
:10.450 --> :14.579 I wave it off. "No worries. Another one for
the subreddit." I said happily. :14.579 --> :19.490
And that was that. He got his pizza and said bye and would look for the post.
:19.490 --> :25.170 So, guy in glasses and a blue shirt at Pizza
Hut, howdy. Hope you have a great week. So :25.170 --> :31.159
a year ago I got a job at a certain sub store,
this incident happened 5 days after the fact :31.159 --> :36.389
I was working at one of the sub stores in
my town for a few days when I got a break :36.389 --> :42.420
due to a ahem incident I was involved in.
About 2 days before I had to go back to work :42.420 --> :50.390
I decided to visit the other store in town.
When I get there I was surprised to see it :50.390 --> :55.439
was packed with customers as at the one I
work at we would be lucky to get one customer :55.439 --> :00.159
a week, anyway I'm waiting at the front of
the line about to order when "Karen" taps :00.159 --> :06.020
on my shoulder. Now I'm a very jumpy person
so when she touched me I instantly turned :06.020 --> :07.020 around
:07.020 --> :09.350 K: bout time you prick when someone is talking
to you LISTEN :09.350 --> :10.350 Me: uh what...
:10.350 --> :14.530 K: well don't stand around looking like a
dopey shit, make my sub :14.530 --> :17.110
Me: I'm sorry ma'am but I don't work... :17.110 --> :23.290
K: don't give me that bs you do work for this
company I saw you at the other shit show :23.290 --> :28.620
It was around that point that one of the employees
came out to see what was going on, let's call :28.620 --> :29.620
him J :29.620 --> :35.250 J: exuse me ma'am what's going on here
:35.250 --> :48.540 K: this dopey ass mf is refusing to do her job
:48.540 --> :53.960 (J fell silent at this)
:53.960 --> :00.520 Me: first of all HE doesn't have a job here
:00.520 --> :14.760 It was at that she looked like I had thrown
a brick at her :14.760 --> :20.850
K: EXCUSE ME YOU STUPID SHIT YOU CLEARLY WORK HERE :20.850 --> :29.270
I got very defensive about this but before I could retaliate the COPS WALK IN
:29.270 --> :30.970 AO: what's going on here
:30.970 --> :37.180 K: oh good thank God your here this worker
insulted me saying that she would punch me :37.180 --> :56.400
if I didn't get out of :56.400 --> :57.400 the way
:57.400 --> :14.940 I went to say something but I noticed that
the other police officer was my navy cadets :14.940 --> :19.549
leader and fell silent :19.549 --> :25.620
NCO: ma'am that man wouldn't say that. :25.620 --> :28.810
K:are you all fucking retarded she clearly is female!
:28.810 --> :38.850 (Side note I'm not female I just look the
part and tend to wear pink a lot) At this :38.850 --> :54.040
point NCO calmly asked for Karen to calm down
but Karen turned around and attempted to (I :54.040 --> :11.010
could not make this up) pull off my shirt!
I retaliated and accidentally threw Karen :11.010 --> :15.520
over the half wall next to me :15.520 --> :24.350
K: see! that fucking prick attacked me I want her arrested
:24.350 --> :30.460 You could guess what happened next.
:30.460 --> :35.300 She got arrested, all the while screaming
about "incompetent employees"This happened :35.300 --> :37.850
this near-passed Monday of posting this. :37.850 --> :43.140
Tis the sneezin', and my allergies are acting
up. They were so bad on Monday that my eyes :43.140 --> :48.060
were irritated as all get-out, and my right
eye felt like someone threw sand into it. :48.060 --> :49.700
I was just miserable. :49.700 --> :54.091
I work next to a Target, so with my boss'
blessing I head over next door on my break :54.091 --> :59.680
to find something for my eyes, especially
since I appeared high enough to brofist Jupiter-- :59.680 --> :05.449
that and working in customer service is not
a good look, even if I don't do the puff-puff. :05.449 --> :10.449
I toddle next door, grab some eye drops (and
new eyeliner since I didn't want to take the :10.449 --> :15.460
chance that it could be an infection) and
sidle into a short line at the registers. :15.460 --> :20.760
I am part of day-to-day operations in my store,
so I still had on my earpiece+radio combo :20.760 --> :25.890
talking to my coworkers and answering questions,
"I'll be about 5 more minutes on my break." :25.890 --> :32.580
From behind me in an escalating tone: "Excuse
me." "Excuse me." "EXCUSE. ME." This impatient :32.580 --> :38.180
lady then pushed her cart into my back, attempting
to push me out of the way. "I need to get :38.180 --> :39.180
through!" :39.180 --> :42.640
The push wasn't enough to knock me off my
feet, but still enough to make me need to :42.640 --> :48.750
steady myself. I was confused. Really confused.
I didn't move, partially turned to look at :48.750 --> :51.320
her, "Uh... for what?" :51.320 --> :56.340
The woman shot me a look of horror that anyone
would talk to her like I did. She couldn't :56.340 --> :02.080
have been much older than myself, and I am
in my early 40s. "I'm next and you're in my :02.080 --> :03.080 way."
:03.080 --> :08.810 I could not digest the vitriol from this woman
in this very short time. "I'm making a purchase, :08.810 --> :11.790
ma'am," I hold up my hand with the eye drops and eyeliner.
:11.790 --> :17.310 "You work here. YOU can check out at any time."
She pushed her cart more into me. :17.310 --> :22.889
Now, I have the luxury of wearing a more casual
"uniform" in the form of a general unisex :22.889 --> :28.890
tee. That's coloured red. On this day, matched
the allergy-irritated whites of my eyes. But, :28.890 --> :34.800
really. What is this logic I am being confronted
with? I feel like garbage, I still had 6.5 :34.800 --> :39.580
hours left of work, and now I have this audacity to deal with? Over it.
:39.580 --> :44.540 I fully turned to face her, bumping and pushing
back into the front of the cart with an equivalent :44.540 --> :49.460
amount of force she was using against me and
using that as the only space between here :49.460 --> :55.479
and I. I pointed at the logo embroidered on
the chest. I gave my most soft, princess-y :55.479 --> :02.020
stern voice and said very slowly, "I. don't.
work. here." I never broke eye contact with :02.020 --> :07.150
the woman nor moved off of the offending cart,
while I beeped through my radio talking to :07.150 --> :12.040
a coworker in my regular tone of voice "Down
fine arts on the left hand side, one of the :12.040 --> :14.729
middle sections under the last pencil display." :14.729 --> :19.750
Maybe I just looked mad-crazed because of
my eyes being so red, and at this point, fairly :19.750 --> :25.390
angry. She lowered her gaze, huffed and pulled
her cart back off of me. My question: How :25.390 --> :31.121
often does this behavior *ACTUALLY* work with
any retail employees with this person? If :31.121 --> :36.479
someone is next in line then, obviously, they
are next in line, employee or not. This is :36.479 --> :41.250
a life lesson about being a good human being
we all should have learned in kindergarten. :41.250 --> :46.260
I get to the register, and the Target cashier
asked me for my employee card. "Oh, I work :46.260 --> :47.290
next door." :47.290 --> :52.380
The cashier, who may or may not have witnessed
what happened behind her, "Oh, that's unfortunate- :52.380 --> :53.940
coming in here with a red shirt." :53.940 --> :59.990
I tilt my head toward the lady and raised
my brows, "Yep. I've already been mistaken. :59.990 --> :00.990
Lesson learned." :00.990 --> :06.170
The cashier let out an almost guttural sputter-laugh.
The lady behind me, who started putting her :06.170 --> :11.360
cartful of items on the belt, was clearly
grumpy by our exchange with furrowed brows :11.360 --> :12.500
and pursed lips. :12.500 --> :18.290
I ran my debit card, put my purchase in my
pocket, wished the cashier a fantastic day, :18.290 --> :28.450
and headed back next door. I know this is
supposed to be our own experiences, but I :28.450 --> :29.829
was part of it. :29.829 --> :34.250
I was assisting a customer at the service
desk. Customer was in her work uniform from :34.250 --> :40.000
a restaurant. She still had on her brown apron,
their new light blue polo's with the restaurant :40.000 --> :41.660
logo, black dress pants. :41.660 --> :46.220
I'm inside the customer service desk, so it's
clear I work there. We wear a black apron, :46.220 --> :49.360
a name tag, our own shirts and blue jeans.
Our uniforms look nothing alike other than :49.360 --> :50.540
we both are wearing an apron. :50.540 --> :54.080
Another customer walks up to her just as I'm
giving her the change and asks where something :54.080 --> :57.310
is. She answered she didn't know, but I could probably help since I do.
:57.310 --> :03.160 Before I could speak, he grabbed her apron
strings, the ones around her neck, and yanks, :03.160 --> :13.620
telling her she clearly DOES work here and
he needs help, starting to pull her away from :13.620 --> :14.620
the desk. :14.620 --> :16.660 Me: oh, hey, NO! Let go of her.
:16.660 --> :19.220 Customer#1: (swatting his hands) Let go of me!
:19.220 --> :23.770 Customer#2: (not letting go) She needs to
learn some manners and how to do her job. :23.770 --> :25.060
Me: I'm calling the police! :25.060 --> :28.880
Another nearby cashier had already called
for the store manager to the service desk. :28.880 --> :32.600
My dept manager came out of her office at the same time.
:32.600 --> :37.860 Customer#1 was trying to duck out of her apron
to get away from this mental ward applicant :37.860 --> :40.029
and he's not about to let go. :40.029 --> :45.560
Both of them hurry over to help her. I am on the line with the police.
:45.560 --> :50.480 There was a lot of yelling (Let go, stop,
she needs to be fired) to the point I'm not :50.480 --> :51.990
sure who was yelling what. :51.990 --> :57.110
He suddenly let go and started walking to
the exit. My store manager was a few steps :57.110 --> :01.590
behind him, telling him he needed to wait
for the police, to which he said Screw you, :01.590 --> :05.830
and your horrible employees for treating a
customer this way and left. Store manager :05.830 --> :11.830
did yell at him that he was not to return
to this store as he got into his vehicle and :11.830 --> :12.830 left.
:12.830 --> :16.550 We have a good description of him, his vehicle,
his license plate, which were given to the :16.550 --> :20.399
police. Customer#1 says yes, she is pressing
charges if they catch him. Store manager contacted :20.399 --> :26.050
LP to pull the video from the cameras for
the police and to start the corporate paperwork :26.050 --> :31.500
for a permanent ban which includes a no trespassing
order from the police so he can be immediately :31.500 --> :36.220
arrested for stepping foot on store property.
A short bit of a charming story, with no antagonists.
:36.220 --> :37.290 I hope that's okay. :37.290 --> :40.500
I'm standing in the boxed dinner/seasoning
aisle, debating between Three Cheese Hamburger :40.500 --> :44.690
Helper and Cheesey Italian Shells. Next to
me is an old man facing the other direction, :44.690 --> :46.740
staring intently at the spices. Suddenly the man speaks up.
:46.740 --> :48.380 "Do you know where the minced garlic is?"
:48.380 --> :53.260 My concentration broken, I turn to blink dumbly
at him. "Um..." He's wearing the blue and :53.260 --> :56.660
lime green employee shirt. I'm wearing an N7 hoodie. The man elaborates.
:56.660 --> :59.330 "Someone was looking for it earlier, and my
coworker said it's on aisle one, but I didn't :59.330 --> :00.330
see it there." :00.330 --> :04.180
"..... Honestly I thought they were on Aisle
One, too. Hang on." I grab the Italian Shells :04.180 --> :06.990
and toss them in my cart, and off we go to aisle one.
:06.990 --> :11.130 Spoiler alert: The minced garlic is not on
aisle one. Nobody knows where the minced garlic :11.130 --> :13.660
is. Some say the old man is still wandering
the aisles, searching... This story happened :13.660 --> :19.180
when I first started my job in a big transportation
corporation. To understand the dont work here :19.180 --> :25.070
part there were multiple things going on at
once. It was the beginning of winter so all :25.070 --> :30.130
transportation employees have heavy weight
jacket in orange (for safety) and it has the :30.130 --> :35.519
corporation logo on it. That day I came back
from lunch there was this man asleep next :35.519 --> :40.740
to the woman's bathroom. As per protocol we
try asking if person is ok but if asleep we :40.740 --> :43.810
must call the transportation police so they
could wake them up plus provide medical care :43.810 --> :46.959
if necessary. As I was calling a gentleman
with our jacket came up and tried to wake :46.959 --> :52.380
him up while saying to me the cops don't have
to be called. I did call though as per protocol :52.380 --> :00.790
(i found out later on that this guy turned
out to be a regular for emts due to intoxicated :00.790 --> :07.510
states i have more wild work stories including
more details to this one on my profile). While :07.510 --> :13.269
waiting the guy with the jacket began talking
random stuff to me while I was trying to clean :13.269 --> :18.920
the lobby where a homeless person was sitting
in the paid waiting area(normally the guy :18.920 --> :23.700
incharge of making sure no unpaid customers
were sitting in there let him in). Since I :23.700 --> :27.260
was new and didn't know alot of people (the
way he was talking didn't make sense as well) :27.260 --> :33.260
I asked what department he was in. He murmured
his answer and left just as police arrived :33.260 --> :38.350
for the sleeping man. One of the regular officers
that normally worked that night wasn't there :38.350 --> :43.839
with the others so I shruggedit off thinking
he was off. As I was getting ready to go out :43.839 --> :47.800
again the missing officer was standing with
jacket guy. Turns out he didn't work there :47.800 --> :51.720
and stole the jacket (he was homeless). They
confiscated the jacket due to security reasons :51.720 --> :56.030
since he could be mistaken for an employee
and possibly go somewhere unsafe. I think :56.030 --> :01.970
He should have applied for cleaning he tried
to help me but I had to politely turn down :01.970 --> :06.200
due to i was being watched by bosses and could
get in trouble.so 2 months ago we went to :06.200 --> :10.850
our first concert back since covid. I saw
the band before in 2019 but my fiancé hasn't. :10.850 --> :16.210
this band came 3rd in Britain's got talent
and I have been a fan since then. most of :16.210 --> :21.080
their fanbase are children or like me grew up as they grew up into adults to.
:21.080 --> :25.290 we got to the door and showed our vaccinated
cards and our tickets. nothing not normal :25.290 --> :26.290 so far.
:26.290 --> :31.370 now I am not a fan of crowds and there were
most people near the barrier to touch the :31.370 --> :37.060
band. me and my fiancé were stood up against
this wall infront of the bar so we can get :37.060 --> :41.839
our drinks easier. there were only few people
in back with us and the merch stand. :41.839 --> :45.890
now my fiancé is tall and has very broad
shoulders and is a rugby player and if he :45.890 --> :49.779
had right attire he could maybe pass off as
a bodyguard. now the band only had 2 bodyguards :49.779 --> :53.260
because most of them are kids. so, this lady
came over and asked my fiancé while I went :53.260 --> :54.440
to toilet "are you one of their bodyguards?" :54.440 --> :58.240
him: "no I'm not my fiancé made me come here,
we're just standing here cause she has anxiety." :58.240 --> :59.510
her: "oh ok sorry thanks anyway" :59.510 --> :03.250
I came back to see he bought me drink and
told me story and I thought it was funny as :03.250 --> :04.020
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aita for ignoring my father plea and not honoring my grandmother last request I
at 26m was always the butt of jokes within my family always trying to cover
up the insults within jokes at family gatherings my parents were divorced and
I lived with my father who was the worst
bully to me out of everything growing up he never hit me unlike my mother but I
would be punished harshly for every little mistake that I would make as a
young child I would be grounded for at least 6 months and left in a blank white
room with nothing but my bed I'd have to ask to go to the restroom and treated
like a prisoner according to my father for basic things like eating cookies
without asking or one time for calling my dad by his first name got 2 years for
that my mom was a little better because she suffered from mental illness and as
I got older would have a better handle on it as with my age my father got crer
if he couldn't handle a problem he'd tell the family an exaggerated story or
make up lies so they would ber rap me call me stupid and fat or Gaslight me
into Silence by the time I was 15 I was told I was seen as an adult I live in
the United States so adult age is 18 and
my father basically paid no attention to me my stepmother at the time and my
father had convinced me that my mother hated me and had disowned me and that my
other family on my mother's side resented me for being a bad person I
tried going to my grandparents because my grandparents was always so nice-ish
despite always making constant jokes about my weight and my grandpa yelling
that I was stupid but when I told them they dismissed it and said that my
father said I would try to lie to them and berated me for lying I felt alone
and when I was old enough I moved out as quickly as I could trying to figure
stuff out at the beginning of Co I fell on Hard Times lost the place I was
living at my job my cats and all my belongings in less than 2 months and
without anywhere else to go I was forced to return to my father's house Upon
returning there I started noticing that I was having the same symptoms that I
remembered my mom had she was a paranoid schizophrenic my father had married a
new woman who had greatly reduced the amount of verbal abuse he would give me
and I confided in him that I was was having these problems he told my family
and they all seemed to support me as I went to get medical help after a few
months I begun getting better but was still doing an outpatient treatment
program and I started getting my life together again my dad didn't like that
he decided at dinner to kick me out he begun screaming at me to get out I was
used to this kind of outburst as it had happened many times in the past when I
was a teenager and immediately grabbed my shoes a small bag of clothes my
important documents and cell phone then left the house I decided while I was
walking through the town looking for a place to stay that I wasn't going to let
him have this hold over me that he's had over me since he convinced me my Mom
hated me and I had nobody I found a place at my friends for a couple days on
the couch found a new job and got a new phone a week later my father called my
job I don't know how he found out and told me that he told my whole family how
much of a POS I am and that they disowned me that was the last time I
spoke to my father I said okay and he hung up on me for the next couple years
I busted my back to get my life back on track it was extremely hard but it's
been worth it because I'm in a good and happy place with a job I enjoy and
hadn't thought about them recently one of my childhood friends that he knew
sent me a message on Facebook that he copied it was from my father the message
asked that the message be passed along my grandmother on my dad's side was on
her deathbed and was on life support he claimed in the message that my
grandmother wanted her oldest grandson to hold her warm soft hand one more time
and that they would be pulling the plug within 2 days from when my friend saw
the message I spent that day thinking about it and talked to my therapist the
next morning about it she was very insightful as she helped me gather my
thoughts and decided that I didn't want to see her because I grieved for them
four years ago deleting the message and going on with my day it's been a couple
weeks since funeral some of my friends think I'm in the wrong for deleting the
message and ignoring my family now I'm thinking I might be ta for not giving my
grandma her last request Ita | give me a good story on AITAHforignoringmyfatherpleaandnothonoringmygrandmotherlastrequest |
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aita for wanting to leave my wife because she had to go back my wife and I
have been together for 5 years now we have a two years old and we were
planning to expand our family I decided to tidy up my wife's closet because
there was a mold problem in garage and I
decided to inspect the whole house there I found a gym bag with clothes some dry
fruits some tampons and like $1,000 I asked my wife about it and her face
suddenly lost its color At first she told me that it was just an emergency
bag in case we are hit by earthquake or something I asked her why did she HIIT
it from me then after a bit of back and forth she sheepishly confessed that it's
a go bag basically women who need to flee their abusers are told to keep a go
B with all essential supplies like money and clothes and stuff I asked her why
exactly does she ever feel the need to do this fave never even talked to her in
loud voice we barely have arguments why does she thinks that I'm going to become
an abuser she said she is not saying I am an abuser she just wanted to do it
for the Peace of her mind I don't buy her excuse L don't think she trusts me
otherwise she wouldn't have to go so far I took some days to mull it over and I
have come to conclusion that I can't be with a woman who can't trust me and who
see me as an abuser I asked her for separation and told her that I can't be
with a woman who does not trust me I believe that trust is foundation of
relationship and if she doesn't trust me
then it's better we part ways now she is making excuses that she read too many
amami forums and let herself influenced by them she showed me the forums where
they discussed GO bags and how every woman should have one I get the logic
but I can't stay with a woman who does not trust me to know that she never
needed to do such a thing I agreed to take more time to think about it but I
think divorce will let her find a man she trusts not to be an abuser because
she does not trust me ITA edit I am taking a break we'll read and reply to
good faith comments later I would like to address common things here statistics
should not be applied to individual cases this kind of thinking lead to
racial profiling of African-Americans by unfair law enforcement statistics does
not dictate individuals and I believe that every individual has the right to
not be seen as a part of group and have statistics applied to them blindly no
she does not have history of abusive relationship sounds like is not cart
blanch to accuse anyone of anything dingo ate my baby woman was also
convicted because she sounded like a murderer and it's a shame to you guys
feel so it EAS of doing something so disgust a relationship without trust is
no relationship update I made a post 3 months ago but it was removed before I
deleted my account it has been cross posted literally everywhere that I think
you guys will have no problem finding it if you are interested after I made my
first post I decided to offici ask for divorce she did not take it well she
cried and refused to eat food for 2 days
until I filled the house with candy bars she hasn't pulled that kind of stunt
after that thankfully for past 3 months I have to endure her crying begging me
to change my mind she promised to never make a go bag again honestly the
previous post has been I opening to me people here called me an abuser when I
never did anything to abusive I read every comment posted here on other
subreddits and it seems like people will call me abuser no matter what some
people even made up stories to paint me in bad light it seems that General
sentiment is that it's okay to mistrust men because statistics and if he
complains about it he is potentially an abuser why is it wrong to want to be
trusted by your own wife if I made her get rid of her go bag I am as good as an
abuser in all of your eyes it seems like I will be painted as an abuser unless
proven otherwise I just don't know how to prove a negative it's not like I can
wear a camera all the time initially my feelings were very hurt but now I am
realizing the gravity of situation I am in I just can't risk my future on a wife
who does not trust me because her mere Act of making a go bag was used by
people here to paint me as an abuser they said that she must have reason to
make a goag how was it my fault that she read some blogs and decided to do it I
never did anything and yet people are just going to accuse me even if I didn't
do anything anything you guys don't care what the truth is so what am I even
supposed to do my only choice is to leave I have finally moved out yesterday
and I am pushing forward with divorce I would like things to be amicable but my
wife is still hellbent on stopping the divorce so that is a pipe dream for now
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hello everybody hope you're all doing well my name is steven and this is the
story time channel without wasting any time let's dive
right into the stories of the day starting with a story written by endless
ghost boss took every chance to order me around and it backfired hard
a little bit of context i moved to barcelona spain when i was 18 and got a job
after a terrible internship teaching efl
english as a foreign language the degree that sent me out there
in a private school just outside the city my boss was an elderly woman
we'll call her rosie whose only purpose in life was to show her control over
every student teacher and staff in this school
it was a very small school only four or five teachers including me
a receptionist and rosie whenever she deemed the school worth her time
whenever she visited however she would make our lives
heck and for some reason she did not like me
i was the youngest out of every member of staff there but
because i was a six foot heavyset woman i really did not look my age
and acted with a level of professionalism that my age didn't matter
anyway firstly she demanded that i not tell
any of my students my age and told me to lie because
i was too young even after presenting my passport an
id at my interview she only found out i was 18
after she hired me fine fair enough i taught a lot of age groups including
two full classes of teenagers who probably wouldn't respect me if they
found out i was only a few years their senior the trouble began when the weather
started getting hotter even though we would teach in the
evenings spanish weather grew increasingly hot and
because rosie didn't allow me to show my tattoos
i was forced to wear jeans or full length trousers to hide them
she didn't have any problem with another teacher's two sleeve tats
only a small inscription i had on my ankle and a medium-sized dragon on my
shoulder the classrooms were fitted with ac units
which we naturally assumed we could control
as the remotes were kept on our desks being a uk citizen who needed to get
used to the heat i normally had the ac running throughout my lessons
which sometimes took three hours with little to no breaks
so the rooms would get stuffy and overbearing if the ac wasn't
on rosie found this out and at random points during my lessons
would walk in and grab the remote turning the ac either off or to 25 degrees
celsius she wouldn't acknowledge me or my students
and because my classroom had a huge glass sliding door
would stand behind it and watch me it got annoying
i was also never allowed to speak spanish in my classes
only english i was learning spanish but was also the only monolingual teacher
there and rosie shoved many beginner levels at me
but that problem ceased after a while when i began to understand more
and more of what they were saying rosie then decided that my teaching method
which students would account was friendly and chilled out but would get
the job done wasn't following the syllabus it was i
just found more creative ways to teach other than reading from a powerpoint
like the other teachers did and demanded i
simply read from the book fine whatever so that's what i did my teenagers who at
this point i had grown a really close and amazing relationship with
knew exactly what was going on i told them what was about to happen for the
next couple of weeks and they agreed wholeheartedly so
i began my students would arrive early or on time and immediately went about
opening their books to the next chapter needed to be taught the books
were set out where you can read the information and have quiz questions on
the next page to see how much you've learned
my students whizzed through these in record time
even the slower students only taking about half an hour to complete the full
chapter which would have been taught over the space of one week
when everyone was done and the questions were filled out correctly
i would then begin my normal teaching incorporating games
quizzes videos and even songs into my lesson
so the students could fully understand the material along with having fun at
the same time needless to say rosie was pissed
she asked me into her office and told me i wasn't listening to her
and that i needed to use the book she said she would be watching my next class
to make sure the book was being used and i agreed leaving her slightly confused
next class the students came in completed their mandatory book work and
i continued my lesson making sure the students knew everything
that was being taught i even as a petty revenge got them to
sit a test i had written about the last month's worth of material
and went through the answers in class rosie was
gobsmacked when almost every student got 90 percent
and up rosie always tried to undermine my teaching methods even after that
but when the report cards came in and she saw my class had gone from an
intermediate english level to advanced in a matter of months
they had been intermediate for the last two years studying at the school
she never questioned my methods again i left after a year there to move back
home for family reasons and i heard from a few of the teachers
that carried on working that all of my students either left when i did or
dropped levels in english because they were put into her
class my last petty revenge before i left was to let
every single one of my students know i was only 19
leaving my teenagers shocked and amazed i had kept it a secret for so
long they immediately added me on instagram and keep checking in to see how i am
even four years down the line this just goes to show you that teaching is such a
flexible thing there's no one proven method and there's
not one box you have to stay within in order to effectively learn or teach
anything have you ever had a teacher like this that really stood out to you
if you did let me know why they made that impact on you in the comments down
below our next story is by pam underscore ale
woman vs mechanic a couple years ago my car trunk was
badly dented after someone hit me from behind
he was texting and didn't realize i stopped at an intersection
obviously his insurance agreed to cover all damages
brought my car which was merely four months old
back to the original dealership for repairs
important for later the repair center is right next to a big lot where they
stored the cars not on display fast forward a few weeks later repairs
were done and they called me to pick up the car during inspection to make sure
everything was fixed i discovered that the trunk log latch was not working
properly i mentioned this to the mechanic that
was inspecting my car with me and i will never forget what he said to me quoting
his exact words he said ma'am with your four doors shut and all
your windows up it creates a pressure which makes it difficult to open your
trunk door i was speechless for a few seconds then
told him i may be clueless about cars but that's not how my trunk door
functioned prior to the accident he kept trying to convince me that i was
wrong and that nothing was wrong about the latch
and i kept insisting there was something wrong
the supervisor saw us arguing and came over to ask what's wrong
the mechanic explained to him that i refused to accept that nothing is wrong
with the door latch the supervisor then told me i can walk
around the storage lot and open some of the trunks of the same model car as mine
to feel that mine works the same he then asked the mechanic to walk with me and
added as a matter of fact she can pop open every trunk malicious compliance
ensues took a while but i opened every trunk and with
each car the mechanic would say see sam is yours
and i would reply with no needless to say
after our little adventure the mechanic was getting quite impatient with me
we walked back to the supervisor and the
mechanic annoyingly explained that i was still not
convinced the supervisor then suggests that the mechanic take apart the lock
and show me the working mechanism to prove that everything is fine
from the surprised look on his face when
i said yes i believe he was expecting me to back down
and just agree everything was fine well with the locking mechanism exposed
the mechanic pressed the open button once and the latch moves like normal
he looks at me with a smug face he tried
it again to prove me wrong a second time and behold the latch jams
he tried again a third time and no movement he had to jimmy it a bit in
order to get it to function again all of a sudden he just walks off of
course i asked him where he's going he turns and tells me he's going to
order me a new lock being disgusting i replied with but why
do that one with my four doors shut and before i can finish he told me to
please stop he's already doing what needs to be done i
smugly smiled and kept my mouth shut i feel like this one should have been
pretty obvious any vehicle is designed to work where you can
open the trunk anytime no matter what door is open
or what windows are open how can a mechanic sit there and try to explain to you
that because your car doors aren't open or your car doors are closed and the
windows and whatnot that's why you can't open the trunk that
makes no sense at all to me our next story is by thorn pudding don't
want to spell correctly my name okay i'll stop paying taxes so this one
dates back from years ago when you would fill your income
statement manually like with a pen on a form
in those days in my country we didn't have a withholding tax system
but you would pay in year say 2007 the taxes on your income of year 2006.
of course the form would come by mail pre-filled with name
and details and also quite accurate amounts
because the state knows already pretty well how much you make
my family name is a bit complex being multi-part and with unusual letter
clusters in the middle mistakes are understandable but you
would expect the revenue service to be exact on that matter unfortunately they
weren't they kept misspelling it every year on the form
and on all of these subsequent forms tax statement tax returns etc
they would email me despite my correcting it manually every year on my income
statement in black then in red then the following year with neon red
sharpies then one year later adding a sticky note
then adding a whole letter then adding a letter and copies of my
id as proof etc but they weren't budging it was quite irritating because
the tax statement has to be shown on several occasions when you interact with
the state administration or justice everybody would notice the discrepancy
everyone was understanding that it was obviously a mistake from the revenue
service but it was still annoying on so many levels
the most basic of which being a matter of respect
for my identity after 10 or 12 years of them not taking notice of my notes and
corrections upon receiving a payment notice still misspelled
i went in person to my local revenue service office and asked to speak with
someone about that issue i made it very clear to the clerk
that they were wrong he was adamant that they were correct
like i wouldn't know my own name and added
for good measure that he couldn't change my name in their systems
because he didn't have access to that blah blah blah
i was having none of it so cue malicious compliance
so you said you were positively absolutely
right about my name spelling clerk says nothing
i shall therefore stop paying my taxes i am not the person on your forms and
there's no way you can come to me asking for that tax money since the person on
your forms doesn't live at that address and in fact does not
exist clerk's mouth is gaping eyes are so wide they're going to pop out but in
case you need that tax money you know how to write my actual name and
i left with a smirk i actually did not pay that tax installment
in those days you paid your taxes in three installments over the year
two weeks later i got a reminder letter without the 10
penalty normally owed for late payment and with my name correctly spelled
shouldn't have wasted so many sharpies over the years
i'm totally with op here it's completely understandable for them to get it wrong
it happens it's a complicated name but every time
every single time op tried to attach some kind of correction or note or a letter
over the course of like 10 years to get his name corrected
they never did it and finally op stood up for themselves
and made them realize that they are in the wrong and in fact
charging technically the wrong person for the taxes
and happily the story ends with them finally correcting it
the next story is written by wisco 1856 double billing i have a close friend who
is an executive director for a small state trade association
there is a national trade association for the same industry
but the two associations are independent of each other
the national trade suggests that the two associations partner on an event in her
state and split the profits executive director agrees they spend
months planning the event together about a month
after the event she receives a bill in the mail from the national trade
it seems they kept track of every phone call during the planning
they itemized all the planning sessions in 15 minute increments
apparently that is their minimum charge executive director was incredulous
she called the national trade demanding an explanation
their response was that she should bill them for her time as well
executive director replicates their bill in its entirety including the hourly
billing rate on the state trades letterhead executive director includes a letter
suggesting that since their bills cancel each other out
it might be best for both of them to void the bills
the national trade never responded back an executive director
never paid their bill she now refuses to partner with them
on events to me it sounds like they suggested they build their time as well
because it sounds like they assumed the bill that op's friend's company would
send would be less than the one they sent initially which
of course they would never do it's just totally unreasonable
and our final story of the day is written by pumpkin thighs
can't have hair past my shoulders okay this isn't my story but my dad's growing
up my grandma had this one rule for hair for her boys
you can't have it touching your shoulders
so what did my dad do he grew it to his shoulders
then started putting it up into a mohawk his mom didn't complain and neither did
he because the girls at his school would love to touch his hair and braid
it he had to shave it off as he wasn't swim and some district championship was
coming up but he always credits it to being the
best week of his high school career honestly i don't know if it's a thing of
the modern times but i'm surprised that the school let him wear a mohawk
there were kids that went to my school with a similar length of hair that put
it up into a mohawk and they got into trouble for it
so i don't know if it's just a more modern thing or if
maybe my school was just unreasonably strict or
their school was just noticeably lacks on this but i'm actually surprised they
got away with wearing a mohawk but that being said that's all the time
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a ITA for divorcing my wife over getting a massage my soon to be ex-wife and I
are both in our late 30s we've been together 12 years married for 10 we are
in a dead bedroom it was totally dead for 6 months before I filed for divorce
it was on life support/ IU for 5 to 6 years before that we both wanted to be
younger parents and both wanted two kids we conceived our daughter almost
immediately after getting married when she was 6 months old we started trying
to have the second child it never happened after 3 years we started seeing
fertility Specialists and found out we both have pretty serious reproductive
issue the doctor told us our daughter was nothing short of a miracle and said
it was Against All Odds that we not only conceived but carried to term it was
after this that the sex life began to seriously decline initially I thought it
was just the pain of finding out and knowing we wouldn't be able to afford
the fertility option and figured it would get better over time it never did
it only got worse 5 years ago I would say we had sex 15 to 20 times that year
in 2023 we had sex three times I have tried everything to improve this spicing
things up talking suggested counseling I more than pull my weight around the
house we both work and work basically the same hours I'm telling this because
the usual stuff I read on Reddit about how the wife does it all is not even
close to True over time I have grown more and more resentful the thing that
makes me the most resentful is she knows I have a high libido and just doesn't
care I on the other hand know she loves to be rubbed on/ massaged and never took
that from her I probably rub on her 325 times a year almost every night I will
rub her clavas shins ankles and feet four to five nights a month I will go
big and do neck shoulder back butt hamstring quads shins calfs ankles and
feet I noticed that doing the big massages was the best way to get sex as
she was more likely to allow me to do the foreplay things I know work on her
if I had already done this prep I did them more often a few years ago but now
not as much the success rate was never that great maybe 20% of the time but in
the last two years we are definitely in the single digit when we hit the 4
months of absolutely no sex I decided I wasn't rubbing on her ever again it only
took 3 days for her to notice and she asked me too I told her no and I got
angry I said why should I when you don't give a about what I want obviously
not my finest moment and huge argument followed things got ice cold at home but
I wasn't giving in I was tired of all of it a few weeks ago she told me fine I
will just start seeing a professional massuse I said then I will start seeing
sex worker she said that was cheating I said fine I won't but you will not get a
massage from anyone else that is also cheating she said I was being ridiculous
and I said no it's being touched in an intimate Way by another if I can't have
that neither can you and I swear to God if you do I will file for
divorce that day the following weekend she went to get her nails done I know
how long it takes for her to get her nails done she came back almost an hour
and a half later than I expected she didn't say anything just acted normal I
got on her credit card app on my phone and sure enough there was a $95 charge
to the goddamn massage person in the same strip mall as the nail place I lost
it and when I did so did she I think we both let out years of frustration on
each other true to my word though I called a divorce lawyer on Monday the
only part that upset me was my lawyer said based on these circumstances I
couldn't list infidelity as the reason for divorce and had to go with ir
reconcilable difference anyway she has been telling people we are divorcing
because she got a massage since then I have had a number of family members
friends call me and say I'm an some of them even when I tell them my
real reasons still think I'm an and that my reasons aren't good enough
personally I think getting massage when told not to is plenty of reasoning so am
I the here personal note I reread this and I know it comes off
angry but I am angry angry at myself for
wasting so many years but I'm also angry because this was just the ultimate
you she just went and did it anyway and didn't even try to hide it literally
went to the same place next to the nail salon and used her CC which I pay like I
wasn't going to see the charge | give me a good story on AITAfordivorcingmywifeovergettingamassage |
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what do you do when all your partner wants to do is just sleep we'll get into
that in a bit but first boyfriend 27 year old male didn't like that I 28 year
old female got a birthday present for his female friend and I'm confused my
boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and I've known his friends
roughly that long as well he has a female friend who he works with and I've
gotten to know her too at first I was kind of jealous because I can tell he
used to have a bit of a crush on her but
ultimately I trust him and I don't think anything would ever happen between them
she and I chat a lot on Instagram and at a social Gathering we would talk for
hours we actually have a lot in common and I think she's cool a few days ago it
was her birthday and I saw something in a shop that I knew she'd love so I got
it for her it wasn't crazy expensive or anything a fairly normal kind of gift I
mentioned it to my boyfriend and he said that I didn't have to get her anything
and he seemed kind of annoyed I told him that I wanted to because I like getting
gifts he then told me that I shouldn't feel the need to get his friend's
presence I said that she's my friend too and he just dropped it does anyone have
any suggestions for why this would cause annoyance are they maybe feeling
threatened in a way like as if you're overtaking their status as their friend
are they worried that they're going to pale in comparison to you as their
friend because you got them a gift and he your partner didn't I mean God forbid
I hope it's not option C where they are secretly a little closer than they admit
with this friend and they just don't like that Opie's getting a little too
close as well also hi I'm Steven and if you guys enjoy tricky relationship
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our next story is my mom 56 lied to me and borrowed my 29 money to throw away
hi I really don't know what to do anymore and hope I can get some insights
here a little background we're Asian and I'm in my late 20s and I make about 90
000 but gave half my life savings to my mom to get her teeth done my mom is in
her late 50s she works as a nail tech and has been going to the casino here
and there for the last 10 years to play Blackjack and some other table card
games I think she makes about 2 000 a month and she has no real expense aside
from food and gambling however the casino is like 100 loss every time
lately my mom's gambling problem has gotten really bad she's got this ritual
of sitting at our dinner table eyes glued to her phone deep in the world of
blackjack tutorials as if there's some top-tier Netflix drama she takes the bus
from Brooklyn to Atlantic City and Mohegan Sun every Tuesday and Thursday
the biggest breaking point for me was when I found out that she took the money
we gave her for her teeth and went to gamble with it so a few months ago she
was telling me my dad and her sister that half her teeth are rotten or
something and needs dental work done she went to a place here in Bay Ridge and
they quoted her like 40 thousand to get her teeth removed and fixed I even went
with her to confirm it and asked for a discount because it was so expensive she
said her insurance wouldn't cover it and that she needs help or it's going to be
bad long story short all of us lent her money and contributed about 36 000 cash
for her to get her teeth done fast forward to now a month later I saw a
dental bill for my mom and decided to open it comes to find out she went to a
totally different dentist to get her teeth done and it was only eighty five
hundred dollars and she only got four root canals done so far I'm the only one
that knows about this and I'm scared to tell my dad about it because he's
probably gonna explode on her and the last time he got mad he took the
chopping cleaver knife and destroyed half her designer stuff from expensive
bags to jackets that's a whole other story we've tried talking together and
getting her to stop gambling but I don't think it's gonna get anywhere I feel
like the only way to solve this somehow is to find an alternative for her to
cope with her gambling addiction but not lose as much money I know it's a lot
thanks for listening I'm just lost and not sure where to go from here if any of
you have advice or similar stories I'm all ears I just need to figure out what
to do well first things first you need to stop enabling this Behavior giving
her money so she can go run off and just blow it all on well gambling I don't
know if you're going to be able to just like get her to stop or get her to take
some other kind of advice to take the place of gambling I mean you can try
getting her to some kind of place that'll try to help her but she's also
kind of just kind of wanted herself our next story is me 45 year old male with
my girlfriend 48 year old female of six months canceled our weekend because she
has covid but picture as a time stamp from one year ago my girlfriend and I
had plans for the Labor Day weekend but she sent me a picture of a positive
covet test this morning and said she can't meet now I felt sorry and was
understanding as any reasonable person would be when she sends me pictures I
save them to a folder on my phone and I instinctively save this one too but when
I saw it in the folder it showed it was taken on September 30th 2022. we've
dated for six months I'm crushed there would be no reason for this time stamp
to be wrong would there every other picture she sent me has a reasonable
date as I'd expect honestly I think the weirdest thing here is the fact that she
felt the need to send a picture in this situation where they clearly posted
either an old photo or a photo they found off the web somewhere or something
wouldn't it have been plenty believable just to say I tested positive for covet
I can't come 48 years old doing this too I don't know I would be very suspicious
of it needless to say this next story is my 19 year old female boyfriend 21 year
old male broke up with me because I smoke weed my boyfriend and I were
dating for four to five months we didn't have any problem but smoking I smoke
weed for approximately three years he just stayed smoking he hates Vapes
cigarettes weed and so on he always said to me to quit smoking but I actually
don't want to I enjoy smoking weed that could be one of the things that relaxes
me when we were intimate and we were done I was occasionally reaching to my
weed he told me to quit often but I didn't listen to him it had been three
weeks since he didn't kiss me hugged me he kept complaining about weed and its
smell today he came to my house and told me to smoke weed I was confused I asked
him why don't you hate smoking he said yes but right now I want you to smoke I
didn't know what to do he insisted so much I smoked then he said that was the
last weed you smoke while being in a relationship with me goodbye and he left
it was such a weird moment I didn't know what to do and I still don't know hey I
mean obviously this man has his boundaries I guess more power to them
they really went about it in a very jerkish way if somebody's smoking weed
in a relationship is a deal breaker to you so be it but just be an upstanding
person and be honest about it don't do this weird theatrical thing where you
bring them there and you go come on come on go smoke it smoke it just so you can
have your little movie moment of and that's the last time you're smoking in
front of me in this relationship we're done like what kind of unnecessary extra
activity is that our next story is my girlfriend 22 year old female left me 21
year old male because she wanted to be single after months and months of debate
she asked me for a break that I refused and after a month on break forced we
broke up after two days she regretted it and wanted to be with me again but I
refused I love her with all my heart and she does too but in this two years of
relationship I completely lost myself and she stopped being herself too she's
now begging me to come back but I simply
don't want to because I know we can't be
ourselves together so confront her is it optimal or nice to be friends with her
if op truly feels this way that they've both kind of lost themselves along the
way I don't think it's unreasonable to end it but I feel like it probably is
going against the whole point if you try to be friends with them because I feel
like in this situation how can you really be friends with somebody that you
both really love dearly and not have it just rekindle something you either
recognize and understand that there's issues with you being together or you
kind of be together because it probably will work that way regardless of being
friends or not this next story is I'm 26 year old female losing attraction to my
partner 30 year old male because of his house I've been with my partner for a
year and the cleanliness of his house has been a consistent issue throughout
the relationship although it's a lot worse now I used to help him with the
house a lot because he was struggling mentally and I wanted to take a load off
his plate I'd help Hoover do his laundry dishes take the bins out Etc I didn't
mind at first but I've started to resent
him for his lack of cleaning whenever he has guests over he'll clean the flat
himself I brought up how he never cleans before I come over and how I felt like
he didn't respect me and he says the reason is because he feels comfortable
around me he lives alone and I live in a
tiny room in a shared house my bed takes up half my room so it's a lot harder to
spend time at my house it's not just dirty dishes in the sink it's maggots in
the bin food on the floor stains in the toilet toothpaste all over the sink the
bath is never cleaned and neither are any of the floors I'm losing my mind I
love him but the state of his house is making me want to end things I don't
feel attracted to him right now either it's also really hard to get in the mood
when there's stuff absolutely everywhere how do I address this in a way that
won't make him feel horrible is it hopeless should I just accept he's never
going to change and move on am I expecting too much I mean it's one thing
if they were struggling mentally and this is just kind of a symptom of it but
I feel like this guy definitely just has a certain way of life that's a little
too carefree and I think it's a more than valid reason for op to end a
relationship I mean if somebody has a house and they cannot take care of it at
the lowest level which by the way the maggots I mean you just have to take the
trash out you just have to do like basic cleanliness to prevent that I mean at
that point they're just willfully allowing it to happen this next story is
my mom hearing neighbors talking about her but I can't and we can't have any
conversation at home or even a phone call all in the name of neighbors I
don't know what to do my life is falling apart I'm female 27 the only child of a
single mom female 49 and I live away in another city for work last month my mom
started complaining about the neighbors trying to mess up the concrete tiles on
our pavement and our compound wall as well one of the neighbor's kids was
found cycling over the concrete Tiles near my gate which caused it to break
further and because of this it's hard for vehicles to enter our house compound
with all the broken concrete parts near the gate so the neighbors have always
been messed up where previously they took a bigger vehicle through the narrow
side roads near my house and one of the compound walls got cracks because of
that and they never repaired it in our country the police don't help much at
all instead whoever goes to complain gets punished we installed security
cameras around the house after this last month my mom called the father of that
kid and told him that she'll complain against that kid to the police she has
the recording of that conversation on her phone and it seemed like the guy was
upset when she said that but it felt like he didn't bother much in the end
because he was annoyed that my mom wouldn't even explain anything properly
and they ended that call weird things started happening after that I was at my
work City and when I called her she started behaving crazy and told me how
the neighbors are all very silent now and they're all trying to eavesdrop on
everything she says she started suspecting that they're even tapping her
phone calls which is totally insane my neighbors are not some Spy Service
they're just regular people and I don't understand why she would come up with
things like this she started getting really paranoid and would say she can
hear neighbors Whispering bad things about her all the time I got worried and
went to see her she wasn't eating properly or sleeping properly and her
face had gotten smaller which really made me heartbroken she said she can
hear them talk about her based on any conversation we have with each other as
if they can hear every line that we speak in a normal voice with each other
and that they were using that to spread lies about us with other neighbors and
make our lives really difficult in that area I tried hard but I honestly
couldn't hear anything like she told me she says I'm not able to hear their
voices because there's something wrong with me or I'm incapable of hearing
things properly all of this is too much for me to handle as a temporary solution
I took her with me to my city and we stayed there for like a month and then
came back home after that even after taking that time apart from home she's
still not getting over these issues she always tells me to speak in a low voice
simply because neighbors are listening constantly this thing annoys me a lot
because I really can't control my voice that much like that and it's stressing
me out way too much I'm not able to have a normal conversation with her because
she would speak in an extremely low voice if the topic is of any importance
at all to the point I can't even hear her which annoys me a lot on top of that
I had a bad breakup last month and my job and my personal life is all gone
down I suspect I have ADHD and I've only been able to figure that out a few
months back and it's really difficult for me to control my emotions especially
anger since I'm the only child wild and we're not really in touch with extended
family because of several past problems I'm not able to get any family involved
like that as well my mom is very much against involving family because she
doesn't want them to know about any of her issues because it's a matter of
embarrassment for her last time I already talked to her that it could be a
mental health issue and she was willing to get help but today when I mentioned
it she's not ready to even consider the possibility that something might be
wrong with her I'm not aware of any such
mental health issues she had in the past
and she's always seemed healthy mentally to me in fact I've always been confused
about my own problems all my life today we fought for hours and I'm really
falling apart I've decided to go to a hospital with her tomorrow and talk to a
psychologist but the stigma around mental health is so high that everything
feels so terrifying to me right now I don't know how to help her anymore I
have no siblings and no family that I can actually rely on who would support
me not even a boyfriend friend he left me at the lowest point of my life I
really felt like ending everything during that breakup and I really don't
know how I can hold on anymore my mom is my only family and with her in a
situation like this I'm losing my mind I would definitely say that getting her
checked out would be a very good thing it just does not sound like a rational
thing that she has going on honestly this kind of behavior could be a lot of
things and getting checked out especially at like a hospital is not a
bad First Step our next story is my partner slept at their ex during our
break my partner 23 year old female and I 22 year old female had a dramatic
breakup a few weeks ago that only lasted
about a week when we got back together I asked her if she had done anything with
anyone when we were apart she told me she'd gone to a dinner party with a Rex
and that arax had kissed her she said she quickly pushed the ex off and told
her she wasn't interested this particular Rex has been an issue in our
relationship since the beginning because my partner cheated on me with her her
right after she asked me to be your girlfriend they also lived in the same
house several months into our relationship which made me incredibly
uncomfortable and I always felt a little suspicious fast forwarded last night we
went out for drinks and I pushed her to tell me if anything else happened
between the two of them then what she had told me after several times asking
she finally admitted that they actually hooked up after the dinner party and
that she didn't tell me because she didn't think it mattered in my opinion
it wouldn't have mattered if it was anyone else but this particular person
who already caused me a lot of insecurity in our relationship now I
don't know what to do or if I can move past this I know she didn't technically
cheat but I still feel really betrayed am I being dramatic should I just let it
go I mean if I were an op's position I'd be feeling like they obviously cannot
move past this person I mean I guess the former ex if there's still some
chemistry is an easy rebound but yeah after the dramatic breakup and having
this person already cheated on you before with this person is it really
worth trying to take another gamble on this relationship our next story is
refuse to purchase flight tickets back home for my 20 year old male ex
twenty-year-old female my male 20 ex female 20 and I still have not
officially reconciled but we've been working at it steadily this past week
our communication has been amazing and very lovey-dovey she's on a trip right
now in her home country with her mother and sister they're visiting family
hosting parties and overall living lavishly my ex jokingly brings up the
idea of me paying for her ticket back home which I jokingly declined saying
her mom makes more than enough money to cover it has a high salary my ex got
quiet after that then said she feels pushed away and icky that I didn't agree
to it I continued to rationalize my point by saying that her mother had to
have taken into account the tickets for the way back she continued to be Petty
until she decided to end conversation I stood my ground the entire time while
she tried to say that I knew her mother's salary and was using it against
her so I wouldn't have to buy a ticket I don't understand how she thinks I'm
willing to spend three hundred dollars on a ticket when her mom is supposed to
do that and I don't understand the nerve she has to ask me that we're not
together and have not spoken on the important topics we need to which we
agreed to talk on when she returns despite this if she had nobody to
purchase her a ticket back then I would have I just know that her mom is there
to do so she hung up at the end of the call saying to have fun and enjoy my
life she also mentioned in the call how me going to a concert with my single
friends was upsetting to her so I think that could have also contributed to her
feelings she then texted me that us talking again was a mistake and to take
care of myself she blocked me everywhere but WhatsApp I'm perplexed that it came
to this I know she was drinking not long before our phone call so that may have
influenced her behavior but I'm just so confused I really love her and Mr holy
but for her to undo a solid week of progress like this maybe I could have
explained my reasoning more gently I feel like I'm not on the wrong though
maybe I misunderstood and figured her mom was paying but in reality she'd have
to I'm in a better financial situation than her but her mom has solid finances
it's been a day and she's not reached out I'm not sure if I should but I'm
just sad about the whole thing I don't think op did anything wrong here it's
really weird for somebody to end up in a
whole other country and then turn around
and say hey can you buy me a ticket back especially somebody that you're not
actively seeing honestly it may hurt but I feel like with her actions she may
have saved op from having to take that bullet anyways our next story is tips on
how to accept I'm not my boyfriend's type my 19 year old female boyfriend 19
year old male and I have been dating for around seven months now I know I'm not
his type his friends know I'm not his type and he knows I'm not his type when
I met his friends they all commented on how we stopped dating a particular race
of women he makes me feel loved and appreciated and beautiful but I still
have a hard time shaking that he doesn't find me attractive I'd like any tips or
advice on how to accept and be okay with not being his type as I don't want my
insecurities to ruin our relationship if you were in the same situation please
tell me how you got over it thank you so I'm really confused here because does
this guy really think that op is not their type or advertise that like do
they make it clear op's not their type because I don't understand how somebody
cannot be somebody's type and then turn around and make them feel loved and
appreciated and beautiful that's like somebody saying they're downright
allergic to sunlight yet they have like the best tan you've ever seen they're
saying or claiming one thing and it's clearly the opposite I think the advice
is if he's supporting you and making you feel this way focus on why you're
feeling like you're not his type if it's his friends well they don't sound very
support supportive is this more a self-reflection thing than really him
being like you're not my type this next story is my 24 year old male girlfriend
24 year old female doesn't feel like hooking up with me and completely lost
libido I 24 year old male have been with my girlfriend 24 year old female a
little over three years we've been living together for two years now before
that everything was okay we were into each other hooking up several times a
week then in the blink of an eye everything disappeared I thought it was
only for a short time and after we moved in together everything would fix itself
everything dropped even more my girlfriend's libido has been close to
zero over the past year we've hooked up about 15 times it's not even about the
hooking up itself desire is also gone including sexting sending pictures and
flirting I've brought the subject with her several or a dozen times but nothing
has helped At first she talked about feeling bad and having a lot of stress
then the more I started the topic the more it bothered her and I felt like an
object after that for almost a year she was saying that it hurts her a lot and
that there's little pleasure from it for her so she's not initiating anything
then the reasoning changed to that we need to take small steps and slowly
regain our sex life but how can I take small steps if I'm being turned down
almost every time the last two conversations ended with crying in
hysteria on her part she said she wasn't doing it on purpose she was already
getting tired of the subject and that I should give her more time the problem is
that the first talk about this was almost two years ago I suggested therapy
couples therapy and a sexologist to all these propositions I was met with the
answer I don't have the strength not now
I currently have a lot of stress I don't have the money yes we're not making a
lot of money but hey she's still able to buy a lot of new perfumes and cosme
Medics I'm not saying that she's doing nothing she went to the doctor a few
times she got some meds for cramps and pain during sex after the last time
which was two months ago she said that it hurt a lot less than before did it
change anything nope my girlfriend says that there are two reasons for the
problem before we moved in together my partner was on birth control pills but
somewhere a month after we moved in together she discontinued them on the
advice of another doctor because her other meds could interfere with it she
got scared and stopped it instantly it could result in complete hormonal meds I
pushed her too hard when her libido dropped and she went into Defender mode
because of this when it came to hooking up of course those are two very valid
reasons but hey it's two years already and we didn't move a step further with
those sometimes it seems to me that she doesn't desire me anymore she's not
attracted to me and it makes me feel like crap apparently it's not even about
sex itself she's just doesn't have the passion and the desire in her that she
used to have she doesn't have it physically I love my girlfriend she
gives me immense happiness we laugh every day and we spend time together I
can see that she also loves me deeply I spent a lot of time on trips with her
family and we often talk about leaving the country together I don't feel that
her love for me is diminished in any way
physical contact itself is also there we hug a lot take baths together or give
each other little kisses but nothing more intimate than that right now I'm
feeling almost like a part of her family which is amazing I would love to create
a real family together in a few years I'm writing this post when we're
currently on vacation together yesterday when we came to our hotel we flirted a
little bit I tried to make a move but she said she's exhausted by the flight
and will make up for it today as you may have guessed she's now sleeping and I
haven't even been touched we've made some small kisses and that's it to be
honest whole trip right now feels just sad how can I help my relationship and
fix our sexual life is the fixing even possible in this situation I mean it
definitely sounds awfully dysfunctional I don't know if she's withholding some
information it doesn't seem like there's a very good communication going on I
think it's a little disappointing to see
that when you brought up very legitimate avenues like therapy couples therapy
they just kind of dodged it I mean at the Baseline level maybe they're just
kind of more incompatible than they initially thought you know she could be
totally fulfilled in everything they have going on and op through no fault of
their own could be left unfulfilled our next story is my 33 year old female
partner 32 year old male makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong in social
situations when I'm usually not I'd like to preface by saying this post is going
to sound a lot worse than it really is he's not like this all the time we've
been together for years and I'm finally realized using that this is a source of
conflict for us that keeps coming up in an otherwise amazing relationship we all
have that one thing we need to work on and this is his I'm looking for advice
on how best to address this to help him so here's what's going on my partner
sometimes makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong in public for example if
I talk just a little too loud or get a little too animated when I talk usually
after coffee or when I'm excited or if the topics I'm talking about aren't what
he feels are appropriate or and this is when he acts the worst towards me if
we're at the beginning of a spat and I'm trying to address it he like shushes me
it's definitely not an actual shush but it is a verbal or non-verbal shush he'll
say not here or calm down or you're being loud it makes me feel like I have
to act like a mouse in church like everywhere we go I have to behave like
I'm in a library I used to think maybe I was being too loud or I shouldn't act a
certain way but I have a very bubbly personality and I've fairly recently
realized I'm not actually doing anything wrong I have the right to take up space
and be bubbly if I'm excited or mostly talk about whatever I want around
strangers obviously not anything super inappropriate but I don't know how to
make him realize it's okay how to address this without making him upset
I've tried to say things like it's alright and carry on as if nothing
happened but it doesn't seem to help so maybe you have some advice I kind of
think this just highlights his mentality him feeling insecure or honestly maybe
just wanting to control the narrative I mean if you guys get into some kind of
disagreement and they immediately just go to you're being loud or don't do that
or not here maybe that's more just their way of trying to get out or disengage
from having to actually communicate our next story is my boyfriend male 30
always wants to sleep and it really annoys me female 24 lately we're
together for seven months now and the first months we really did a lot we were
super spontaneous and we didn't really sleep during the day since some months
he often wants to sleep during the days especially when we plan to do something
it annoys me a lot because we often couldn't make things in the past just
because you wanted to sleep during the day or in the evening pretty much before
we wanted to do something so it often ends like him or us sleeping instead of
doing something especially since he started with gaming and I feel like he's
most interested in sleeping and gaming since then he doesn't think it's bad
because he always says that we had a nice sleep instead and that's important
the same happens if I sometimes want to have a serious talk and he's sleepy I
can totally understand if you're sometimes done and just want to sleep
but he's sleeping over everything mood just makes me mad for me it feels like
I'm wasting my time if I sleep a lot more than I need or if I wait for him
waking up instead to find out if we can still realize our plans for example
today he was really motivated to go to Prague His Wish now he went sleeping and
said if we missed the blah blah car and don't go to Prague it's also not a
problem what can I do so I would Ponder does this guy have a medical issue or
are they just really really bad at having any kind of daily schedule as in
never being able to set aside actual time to sleep because it's not gonna lie
there's plenty of times in my life where
I find it incredibly hard to always keep
the schedule I can sometimes be all over
the place and I'll find myself ending up sleeping during some day hours I mean
sleeping in naps and stuff are nice but when it starts becoming an issue where
you sleep instead of doing things that you want to experience in Life or made
plans for that to me suggests that there's some major issues going on
either there's some kind of major dysfunction or maybe a legitimate
medical issue just because of his physiology he might have some kind of
sleep apnea you don't know but with that being said that's all the time we have
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:00.229 --> :02.810 I'll start this off with a trigger warning.
:02.810 --> :08.860 There is a lot of domestic violence and just
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I come from a broken family. :10.610 --> :14.160
I won't scream it out in the streets, but
those who are close to me know that I am a :14.160 --> :19.240
huge advocate for helping people in abusive
situations get out because I've experienced :19.240 --> :20.400
it first hand. :20.400 --> :24.840
I was the first child of two and somehow that made things worse for me.
:24.840 --> :28.090 I was born into the average white/back household.
:28.090 --> :32.710 My father was white, mymother black and the
first 10 years of my life were spent protecting :32.710 --> :35.870
myself and my little sister from my father’s wrath.
:35.870 --> :40.550 He used to be a good-natured man who cared
for his family and friends until he lost a :40.550 --> :46.430
job after being framed by coworker and decided
that his wife was the reason for his terrible :46.430 --> :47.430
luck. :47.430 --> :51.760
She did all she could to make him feelbetter;
cleaning up after him when he was done drinking :51.760 --> :56.840
and spending hours cooking different things
with the hopes that he would like one of them, :56.840 --> :01.879
but my father, who we will be calling Ray,
was hell-bent on making both hers and ours :01.879 --> :02.879 worse
:02.879 --> :08.120 In the beginning, he never really hit my mother
or my sister and I . She always made sure :08.120 --> :12.650
that we were out of the way while he just
talked down on her repeatedly, throwing things :12.650 --> :15.540
around and messing up the entire house. :15.540 --> :19.920
As the first child, it has always been my
job to protect my sibling, and so that's what :19.920 --> :20.920
I did. :20.920 --> :24.479
While mom and dad fought it out in the living
room, I stayed with my sister, telling her :24.479 --> :28.780
stories and acting as if nothing serious was going on with our parents.
:28.780 --> :33.620 She was 7 years younger than me and and very
easy to fool, so I got away with it. :33.620 --> :37.610
After the fights, my father would usually
go out and get drunk and I would be given :37.610 --> :41.260
the task of cleaning up whatever damages had been made to the house.
:41.260 --> :46.659 As a kid, I can't begin to explain to you
how damaging it was, seeing your mother sobbing :46.659 --> :50.299
her eyes out and being unable to do anything about it.
:50.299 --> :54.100 During this time, there were still some good days.
:54.100 --> :58.610 Sometimes Ray would suggest going out to dinner
as a family or having a movie night, and we :58.610 --> :03.770
would all jump at the idea because it was
so rare and we all wanted to grasp the semblance :03.770 --> :05.640
of family that remained. :05.640 --> :10.520
With time, he the activities became less fun
and more of us just watching him drink with :10.520 --> :12.760
his friends until we had to carry him home. :12.760 --> :17.510
Thankfully he figured out how weird this was
and one day he just never did it again. :17.510 --> :22.739
On my mother's birthday, I think I was about
15 years old at the time, my sister and I :22.739 --> :27.111
baked her a cake and used most of my saved
up allowance to get her a dress that she had :27.111 --> :30.090
been eyeing from the last time we went to the mall together.
:30.090 --> :34.930 She was pleasantly surprised and we were having
a pretty good day until Ray got home from :34.930 --> :37.769
one of his week long drinking sprees. :37.769 --> :42.810
That was the first time he laid his hands
on her in front of us, under the drunk claim :42.810 --> :48.180
that she was cheating on him and her new boyfriend
was the one who got her the cake and the gift :48.180 --> :49.180 bag.
:49.180 --> :53.110 I was not able to get my 8 year old sister
out of there iquick enough, and we all watched :53.110 --> :57.060
in horror as he hit our mom so hard that she passed out.
:57.060 --> :02.379 It was an unspoken rule between my sister
and and I from then on to protect our mother. :02.379 --> :07.099
I tried to convince her to get a divorce or
leave, and she always threw the “who will :07.099 --> :08.890
pay your bills if I leave?” :08.890 --> :10.180 question at us.
:10.180 --> :14.510 There hilarious thing about that, was the
fact that she was the one who worked, paid :14.510 --> :16.730
rent and our fees. :16.730 --> :22.230
One day Ray beat up my little sister for accidentally
breaking a plate while doing the dishes. :22.230 --> :27.480
I tried to stop him, but given that he was
a fully grown man against a teenager, his :27.480 --> :30.450
size was unfortunately an added advantage. :30.450 --> :32.730
He even broke my arm. :32.730 --> :37.459
It took me a few more months and him breaking
my arm to the point where the doctor threatened :37.459 --> :42.830
amputation, for my mother to decide to take my advice and get the hell out.
:42.830 --> :47.910 Asking for a divorce was out of the question
because Ray was a predator at this point, :47.910 --> :52.360
so one night, she had us pack our belongings, take the bus and run away.
:52.360 --> :56.860 We stayed in beat down motels and offered
to clean them in exchange for some breakfast :56.860 --> :02.060
and a place to sleep, couch-hopped at a few
of her friends’ places for days at a time, :02.060 --> :06.340
and this happened until until we were able
to find an abandoned trailer that was selling :06.340 --> :08.000
for next to nothing. :08.000 --> :12.940
With a little fixer-upper and some TLC, mom
sold off her car and we made the van into :12.940 --> :13.950
our home. :13.950 --> :17.870
There was a public school in the area, so we also just enrolled there.
:17.870 --> :22.770 For the first few months, we survived on food
stamps and the charity of mom's friends. :22.770 --> :27.140
I did odd jobs around and got paid for them
and that went a really long way in getting :27.140 --> :28.450
the van as well. :28.450 --> :34.000
It was hilarious because even though this
was the most exhausting time of our lives, :34.000 --> :36.080
we were having the most fun together. :36.080 --> :40.200
My sister and I learned that our mother was very good at fixing things up.
:40.200 --> :45.670 In the midst of all this chaos, I turned 16
and got a more stable job at a local fast :45.670 --> :47.850
food restaurant to help mom out. :47.850 --> :52.580
My sister was very good and even though she
was so young, she understood that things were :52.580 --> :55.550
hard and she knew how to behave accordingly. :55.550 --> :59.940
Occasionally, she took up dog sitting and
baby sitting for people in the neighborhood :59.940 --> :01.290
and made something money. :01.290 --> :06.640
She was also a smart little thing who found
many different ways to sell dreams and aspirations :06.640 --> :10.150
to her classmate for real, actual cash. :10.150 --> :14.479
It was a really rough couple of years, but
soon enough we were comfortable enough to :14.479 --> :16.900
rent our own place and live a little better. :16.900 --> :22.490
I was almost 19 when Ray found us again I
had no idea how he did it, because the friends :22.490 --> :27.160
that mom housed with completely understood
the situation and swore to keep their mouths :27.160 --> :28.160 shut.
:28.160 --> :32.199 I honestly even thought that he had forgotten
about us, until he showed up to the new place :32.199 --> :37.030
in the middle of the night, crying and begging our mother to take him back.
:37.030 --> :41.840 He was hysterical and it took a lot of work
to calm him down until the morning so that :41.840 --> :45.180
the neighbors would not get too upset and call the cops.
:45.180 --> :49.810 When all four of us were able to gather around
to talk, Ray apologized to us all for the :49.810 --> :55.750
pain, claiming that he had spent the past
two years in agony just looking for us. :55.750 --> :01.040
My sister, who was already a preteen and way
too smart for her own age didn't believe a :01.040 --> :02.870
word of what he said. :02.870 --> :03.870 Neither did I.
:03.870 --> :08.819 After all, we still had the scars from the
day he beat us up all those years ago, and :08.819 --> :12.470
my left hand still slightly looked odd when I let it stay limp.
:12.470 --> :17.970 For some reason, however, our mother decided
that she liked the idea of giving him a second :17.970 --> :18.970
chance. :18.970 --> :24.440 I decided never to call him “dad” again,
instead choosing to go by his name “Ray”, :24.440 --> :29.120
and my mother nearly had an aneurysm at the
thought of it and insisted that I call him :29.120 --> :30.120 “dad”.
:30.120 --> :35.020 Most of this took place around the time that
I had to leave for college (I got a scholarship), :35.020 --> :39.790
so I was worried about leaving my mother and
sister at the mercy of the same beast who :39.790 --> :41.490
used to be our abuser. :41.490 --> :46.430
I observed things until I was somewhat assured
that my sister could protect herself and our :46.430 --> :49.590
mother, before finally going off to college. :49.590 --> :56.050
I graduated high school at 19 because of all
the inconsistencies in my schooling and health. :56.050 --> :59.979
We could not afford school while we were hopping from one place to the other.
:59.979 --> :04.990 During the summer, I was made sure my sister
took self defense classes and learned to defend :04.990 --> :08.150
herself with a knife and many other household items.
:08.150 --> :13.860 It was a gradual process but Ray started being
an asshole to my mother again, usually when :13.860 --> :18.550
everyone else was away because he knew the
she would keep it away from me so she wouldn't :18.550 --> :21.110
“worry me while I was away in school.” :21.110 --> :25.780
One whole year passed before anyone picked up on Ray's abusive ways.
:25.780 --> :30.120 He got smarter too and ran off with a good
chunkof her money before I could take time :30.120 --> :33.680
off from college and work in time to teach him a good lesson.
:33.680 --> :38.840 None of us blamed our mother because we understood
that being a single mother was extremely difficult :38.840 --> :43.530
and no matter how well-behaved we were, she
was still going to need the support of another :43.530 --> :44.530
person. :44.530 --> :49.210 With this knowledge, we started to set her
up on dates with people who we made sure to :49.210 --> :51.000
investigative closely. :51.000 --> :55.430
It was quite the adventure, but what mattered
was that she was having a good time. :55.430 --> :00.000
By the time I was rounding up college, my
little sister was just getting in, and we :00.000 --> :02.780
spent our first and last years of college together.
:02.780 --> :07.919 It didn't surprise me when one fine day, my
sister and I showed up to the house to find :07.919 --> :12.870
Ray sitting on the couch, looking frazzled and skinny and just sick.
:12.870 --> :18.090 I was about to charge, when my mother asked
me to take a second to “just hear him out”. :18.090 --> :21.740
I knew that this was going to be a cycle that would just repeat itself.
:21.740 --> :23.410 But I listened anyway.
:23.410 --> :28.950 Ray apologized again, for being a bad husband
and parent, succeeding in bringing back all :28.950 --> :31.919
of the bitter memories that we had managed to bury.
:31.919 --> :36.740 Of course none of us (besides my mother) bought
the story, and we asked for proof that he :36.740 --> :38.200
had really changed. :38.200 --> :43.519
Apparently he was a recovering addict and
the money he stole last time he was around :43.519 --> :46.899
was to settle a loan shark that was after his life.
:46.899 --> :51.450 He went on about how it made him realize that
he had a good thing in the form of a family :51.450 --> :53.980
and had spent his whole life ruining it. :53.980 --> :59.810
I zoned out because for the first time in
his life, he sounded very genuine and it was :59.810 --> :04.990
uncomfortable to hear that kind of tone on
a man that you associate all your bad life :04.990 --> :06.510
experiences with. :06.510 --> :11.430
By the end of his speech, my mother was in
tears, begging us to accept and forgive our :11.430 --> :12.430
father. :12.430 --> :17.089
I let him know that I was watching him closely,
because I had no trust in him around my family. :17.089 --> :22.070
Shortly after, I graduated from college and
got a remote job and an apartment that was :22.070 --> :24.959
only a few blocks away from my mother's house. :24.959 --> :30.250
My sister was not comfortable with Ray being
around, but our mother was so joyful that :30.250 --> :34.399
there was no way we could say anything to her about her prodigal husband.
:34.399 --> :39.089 He didn't start messing up immediately because
he knew our eyes were watching him closely :39.089 --> :44.810
. He did things like buy flowers and random
gifts for my sister under the pretext of wanting :44.810 --> :47.399
to make up for all the years he was away. :47.399 --> :50.460
But nobody was falling for his tricks. :50.460 --> :55.550
She was upset the we refused to accept his
gestures and too many times we had arguments :55.550 --> :00.510
that ended in her telling me how I didn't
want her to finally be happy with her family. :00.510 --> :05.470
Somehow, Ray had convinced her that we were
the enemy, and that he was the good guy. :05.470 --> :10.610
It got so bad that I stopped visiting for
a while and decided to stay at my own place. :10.610 --> :15.520
Naturally, my sister also came over to mine
more often, leaving our mom alone with our :15.520 --> :16.520 dad.
:16.520 --> :18.490 That was really our big mistake.
:18.490 --> :23.140 She would never tell us if Ray was hurting
her, because she wanted to save face. :23.140 --> :27.310
Because of how upset we were with her, we
also didn't check in with her for a little :27.310 --> :28.310 while.
:28.310 --> :33.279 Nobody really noticed anything until the day
my sister snuck in while both parents were :33.279 --> :38.980
supposed to be out, to pick a change of clothes
and borrow some things without mom's permission. :38.980 --> :44.710
The entire house was quiet until she went
by mom's bedroom, only to find it wide open :44.710 --> :48.149
with Ray having sex with a woman that she didn't know.
:48.149 --> :52.880 My sister is a bit of a genius and she was
able to get some video footage before she :52.880 --> :56.459
escaped back to my apartment and showed me what she had.
:56.459 --> :01.090 Later that night, I invited my mother over
to my place and attempted to have one last :01.090 --> :03.370
conversation with her about Ray. :03.370 --> :09.029
She confessed to me that she actually knew
about it, and he had just hit her into silence. :09.029 --> :14.750
The knowledge that he had laid hands on my
mother once again enraged me, and I made a :14.750 --> :17.850
plan to teach him an even bigger lesson. :17.850 --> :22.389
Since I lived in the bad side of the area
before, I knew a lot of the street kids. :22.389 --> :26.180
I was even friends with a lot of them and
hosted them to dinner and got them out of :26.180 --> :28.080
trouble once every couple of months. :28.080 --> :33.330
They responded to me almost immediately I
called and when they showed up to my house, :33.330 --> :35.620
I explained the situation with my dad. :35.620 --> :40.630
I did plan to take legal action, as my sister
had already talked my mother into officially :40.630 --> :43.410
filing for a divorce from my father. :43.410 --> :47.700
My friend picked up my father from a bar,
knocked him out and took him to an abandoned :47.700 --> :48.990
side of the road. :48.990 --> :53.440
I was already waiting, and I made sure to
beat him up until my knuckles were bloody. :53.440 --> :57.700
By the time I was done, he was unconscious and unrecognizable.
:57.700 --> :03.459 I left him in the custody of my friends for
a week, before they abandoned him on the street :03.459 --> :05.420
and made him call 911 himself. :05.420 --> :10.300
The divorce proceedings went very smoothly
and my mother was awarded a lot of money by :10.300 --> :11.300
the court. :11.300 --> :16.100
Currently she’s working on becoming a foster
parent for displaced kids and she could not :16.100 --> :17.100
be happier. :17.100 --> :22.400
We have not heard from or seen Ray in years
now, and I'm glad he finally got the hint, :22.400 --> :47.709
even if it took us a while to establish it. :47.709 --> :50.410
My revenge was sweet and fun (for me of course.) :50.410 --> :56.060
It was fun because I got my revenge by doing
something that I love doing the most; shopping. :56.060 --> :01.300
My mom was already engaged to my dad when
my grandmother got pregnant with another child. :01.300 --> :07.089
It was unusual given the age gap between my
mom and the new baby, but everyone was overjoyed. :07.089 --> :10.230
My grandparents had wanted a child for a very long time.
:10.230 --> :15.500 My grandparents are Baptists, a young couple
who started dating as teenagers, had sex, :15.500 --> :20.050
got pregnant, and were forced to get married
when they were nowhere near ready because :20.050 --> :25.290
their parents were serious churchgoing Christians
and would never let their kids have a child :25.290 --> :26.740
outside wedlock. :26.740 --> :31.970
At ages eighteen and nineteen respectively,
my grandparents got married with my mom lying :31.970 --> :34.500
comfortably in my grandmother’s belly. :34.500 --> :39.070
After they got married, my grandfather went
to the city in search of a job while my mom :39.070 --> :40.410
lived with his parents. :40.410 --> :45.330
He soon returned and was appointed as an assistant
pastor in the small church they attended in :45.330 --> :46.330
their town. :46.330 --> :51.200
My grandfather and my grandmother did not have another child for a long time.
:51.200 --> :53.670 Even after they were ready to have another child.
:53.670 --> :57.660 They prayed and waited on God, but no child
was forthcoming. :57.660 --> :01.860
They probably accepted that they would never
have another child and that my mother would :01.860 --> :06.829
be their only child, until many years later when they had my aunt.
:06.829 --> :11.459 Since they thought my mom was their only child,
my grandparents had their nails clawed in :11.459 --> :15.209
her neck, she could never do anything outside of the town.
:15.209 --> :19.490 They were quite overprotective and overbearing
too. :19.490 --> :24.750 My mom rebelled and met my dad, a boy who
was “on the wrong side of the tracks.” :24.750 --> :29.740
He was someone my grandparents could never
have approved of, and my mom knew this so :29.740 --> :32.889
got pregnant by him when she was just eighteen. :32.889 --> :37.250
Just like my grandparents' parents tried to
do to them, my grandparents tried to make :37.250 --> :41.840
my parents marry and have my dad baptized but he was having none of it.
:41.840 --> :45.550
He refused and he and my mom ended their relationship.
:45.550 --> :49.149 My mom was so hurt that she had a miscarriage.
:49.149 --> :54.430 Some years later, my dad returned after traveling
away from the town, he had met the Lord and :54.430 --> :56.509
had become a baptized Christian. :56.509 --> :01.860
He returned to apologize to my mom and they soon started going out again.
:01.860 --> :06.829 This time, my grandparents were in support
and approved of their relationship because :06.829 --> :11.050
my mom was getting an education and my dad had become religious.
:11.050 --> :17.029 It was after my dad proposed to my mom that
my grandmother discovered that she was pregnant. :17.029 --> :21.910
She said she felt weird about sharing the
news with the church and family at first, :21.910 --> :25.829
but she and my grandad decided to flaunt what they believed was a blessing.
:25.829 --> :31.149 They had wanted another child for a very long
time and they had finally gotten pregnant. :31.149 --> :35.870
The church was happy with them and a local newspaper had even spoken about it.
:35.870 --> :40.970 It certainly favored my grandmother that she
was not so old anyway, she had my mom when :40.970 --> :43.170
she was a teenager after all. :43.170 --> :47.269
Months later, my aunt was born (Two weeks before my parents' wedding!)
:47.269 --> :52.130 She was the “miracle” baby and everyone
loved and doted on her. :52.130 --> :55.590
Four years after she was born, my parents had me. :55.590 --> :00.140
My aunt was just nearly five years older than me, she was like a sibling.
:00.140 --> :05.319
Whenever my mom would take me over to my grandparent’s
home (that happened a lot,) we would act and :05.319 --> :07.550
even fight like siblings. :07.550 --> :09.030
Growing up, my mom would yell “Hey! :09.030 --> :12.130
That is your auntie!” and everyone burst out laughing.
:12.130 --> :16.350 I would tell my friends about my aunt and
they’d expect to see a much older woman. :16.350 --> :21.010
“Maybe stop telling people I’m your aunt,” my aunt said to me one day.
:21.010 --> :22.639 We were teenagers at the time.
:22.639 --> :25.899 “Oh sorry, does that make you feel too old,
Auntie?” :25.899 --> :29.300
I teased her, and she playfully slapped my wrist. :29.300 --> :30.880
“Listen, I'm serious. :30.880 --> :36.290
One, I’m not ready to be an actual aunt, and I know I’m one, but I really don’t
:36.290 --> :39.350 feel like I’m old enough to be qualified
to be called one.” :39.350 --> :41.319 “I totally get you.
:41.319 --> :43.480 Sometimes I wonder how my mom could be your
sister. :43.480 --> :49.149 That’s wild,” I laughed again but she
frowned so I knocked the grin off my face. :49.149 --> :51.240
“How about I call you my cousin then? :51.240 --> :52.639
Are you fine with that?” :52.639 --> :56.040
She affirmed that and her mood drastically improved.
:56.040 --> :00.450 Ever since I told anyone who cared to know
about our relationship that she was my cousin. :00.450 --> :04.920
I also stopped the “auntie” jokes and
only called her that whenever we were alone :04.920 --> :05.920
together. :05.920 --> :07.880 My aunt was my confidante growing up.
:07.880 --> :12.270 I told her nearly everything and she told
me everything too. :12.270 --> :17.329
Growing up with super religious parents meant
that we had too many secrets from our parents. :17.329 --> :18.559
She was my friend. :18.559 --> :22.860
She was not allowed to date until she was
sixteen, but she started dating way before :22.860 --> :24.209
that and I knew. :24.209 --> :27.030
I never really dated anyone as a young teenager. :27.030 --> :31.870
I liked boys and I found out about that very early, but I could not tell anyone.
:31.870 --> :34.400 I was too scared to even admit it to myself.
:34.400 --> :39.880 My parents were super religious, our town
was a small one, and everyone knew everyone. :39.880 --> :44.700
If I were to make any mistake, I did not know
what my parents’ reaction might be. :44.700 --> :49.370
When I was fifteen, we had a teenager’s
camp, and teenagers from different Baptist :49.370 --> :50.970
churches all came around. :50.970 --> :55.400
At camp, I met a boy who I knew right off the bat was like me.
:55.400 --> :58.730 We exchanged eye contact and we both KNEW.
:58.730 --> :01.409 He was a year older than me and we started
a conversation. :01.409 --> :06.740
It did not take long before we started waiting
for others to fall asleep so we could make :06.740 --> :07.740
out in the dark. :07.740 --> :10.460 It was so good, I felt free.
:10.460 --> :14.789 It was not even about him and what we were
doing, I just felt great to have met someone :14.789 --> :18.230
who was not just like me but liked me too. :18.230 --> :22.720
On the night before the last day of camp, my cousin and I hung out during lunch.
:22.720 --> :25.300 I wanted to tell her but I just could not.
:25.300 --> :27.580 She said, “Who have you been fooling around with?
:27.580 --> :30.690 I have never seen you this happy in teenage camp!”
:30.690 --> :36.230 I wanted very badly to tell her, to share
my joy with her but I just could not trust :36.230 --> :37.230 her.
:37.230 --> :39.450 I just smiled and changed the topic.
:39.450 --> :43.240 As time passed, my “cousin” would ask
about my sexuality. :43.240 --> :46.990
The last time she asked me, I had to ask why she was so curious.
:46.990 --> :50.190 “I’ve just never seen you get crazy about a girl.”
:50.190 --> :53.110 “Maybe I’m not crazy about girls,” I said.
:53.110 --> :55.539 “So you’re crazy about boys then?”
:55.539 --> :56.610 “Leave it alone!” :56.610 --> :58.200
I yelled and left. :58.200 --> :03.300
She stopped asking ever since and we never
had that conversation again, not until I came :03.300 --> :04.419
out to her. :04.419 --> :08.940
When my cousin was twenty-one and I was getting
ready to graduate from high school, she started :08.940 --> :11.880
dating an older man who had a lot of money. :11.880 --> :13.470
Her parents were mad at her. :13.470 --> :17.850
They were uncomfortable with the man’s age
and the fact that he was not a Christian. :17.850 --> :22.370
My aunt was not listening to her parents,
she went ahead and moved in with the rich :22.370 --> :23.370 guy.
:23.370 --> :26.270 Her parents were so upset that they cut her off.
:26.270 --> :28.150 Even my parents were mad about it.
:28.150 --> :32.200 In the months that followed, my aunt and I
became even closer. :32.200 --> :36.920
I visited her often and we got in the pool and just talked about random stuff.
:36.920 --> :41.610 She was at a very confused point in her life
and her boyfriend was hardly ever around. :41.610 --> :43.799
“Do you think I made the right decision?” :43.799 --> :45.620
she would sometimes ask me. :45.620 --> :49.299
She had dropped out of school and was doing nothing at that moment.
:49.299 --> :53.100 Maybe it was the knowledge that she was no
longer communicating with her parents and :53.100 --> :58.520
mine, or the shared feeling of being “unwanted” children.
:58.520 --> :03.679 One day, we were in the pool as usual, just
drinking apple juice and talking about random :03.679 --> :06.200
stuff when I told her that I’m gay. :06.200 --> :11.470
My aunt is someone who always had a lot to
say, even in the most difficult situations :11.470 --> :15.770
and moments, but she said nothing, and that hurt me.
:15.770 --> :21.850 For ten minutes, ten awkward minutes, and
probably the longest ten minutes of my life, :21.850 --> :25.059
she just kept quiet and stared into space. :25.059 --> :27.390
My aunt has always known about my sexuality. :27.390 --> :32.720
I may have hidden it from her and even everyone
else, but I’m certain that they have wondered :32.720 --> :37.480
many times why I never had a girlfriend or talked about dating any girl.
:37.480 --> :40.720 My mom even tried to set me up with a girl
from church once. :40.720 --> :44.710
We went to a church dance together, and I avoided her ever since.
:44.710 --> :48.890 She was a sweet, pretty girl but I was just
not interested. :48.890 --> :53.700
My mom tried to get details of how our date
went but I was not interested in sharing. :53.700 --> :58.159
I’m sure my mom would have doubted my heterosexuality
many times about my heterosexuality, but she :58.159 --> :03.059
probably always assured herself that as long
as I was not seeing any boy and had not come :03.059 --> :06.440
out to her, she still had time to pray it away. :06.440 --> :12.039
My dad on the other hand was not bothered
at all by my lack of interest in girls. :12.039 --> :15.049
I once heard him assuring my mom that I was fine. :15.049 --> :19.429
He even told her that he’d rather I was
uninterested in girls for now because it helped :19.429 --> :21.010
me focus in school. :21.010 --> :25.279
He was right, I was one of the best students
in my grade but it had nothing to do with :25.279 --> :27.820
not being attracted to girls of course. :27.820 --> :30.080
“Are you going to say something?” :30.080 --> :33.940
I asked, after waiting ten long minutes for a response from my aunt.
:33.940 --> :37.030 “I’m sorry, I just did not know what to…
:37.030 --> :38.360 Listen, I'm sorry.” :38.360 --> :40.799
I felt stupid but I tried to brush it off. :40.799 --> :44.559
“You have always known anyway, you asked me about it many times.”
:44.559 --> :45.909 “Yes, I did. :45.909 --> :51.290
I guess I expected that you would deny it
or that I was just making things up in my :51.290 --> :52.290 head.”
:52.290 --> :53.559 “You don’t want it to be true?”
:53.559 --> :54.559 I asked. :54.559 --> :58.250
I did not know what I expected from my aunt, but that was not it!
:58.250 --> :01.490 “Let’s just talk about something else,” she said.
:01.490 --> :05.840 She changed the topic and went on to talk
about her plans to get back into college. :05.840 --> :08.970
I felt horrible about it and wished I hadn’t told her.
:08.970 --> :11.390 The next couple of days were weird for me.
:11.390 --> :16.150 I regretted telling her and it did not make
it better that she never even called or invited :16.150 --> :17.419
me over. :17.419 --> :21.860 Nearly two weeks after I came out to her,
she invited me to her boyfriend’s and I :21.860 --> :22.860 went.
:22.860 --> :27.090 She apologized for her silence and admitted
that she had to take time to process what :27.090 --> :28.090
I had told her. :28.090 --> :31.559
I accepted her apology and we returned to being friends.
:31.559 --> :36.049 That day, we went shopping for groceries and
she showed me her boyfriend’s credit card. :36.049 --> :39.440
He had gotten one in his name, especially for her. :39.440 --> :43.900
She was on the phone with him when I got to
the cashier, so she just mouthed the credit :43.900 --> :46.970
card pin and I paid for the stuff we bought. :46.970 --> :50.330
She looked really upset after the conversation with her boyfriend.
:50.330 --> :55.580 “He is too controlling,” she complained
when we got into the car. :55.580 --> :57.100 “Maybe end it?”
:57.100 --> :58.110 “You think? :58.110 --> :02.590
I was hoping this relationship would be worth
it,” she said, her eyes welling up with :02.590 --> :03.590 tears.
:03.590 --> :08.480 By “worth it,” she meant the relationship
was worth being estranged from her family. :08.480 --> :12.929
When I returned home that evening, I realized
that my aunt’s credit card was still with :12.929 --> :15.190
me and I texted her about it. :15.190 --> :16.190 “Keep it.
:16.190 --> :20.140 It’s going to be my consolation when I end
my relationship with this man. :20.140 --> :24.299
I should be able to use it to take care of
stuff for a few months after moving out.” :24.299 --> :29.390
I found out that my aunt had ratted me out
the day after my high school graduation. :29.390 --> :31.679
I still don’t understand why she did it. :31.679 --> :36.550
Maybe she wanted to get favors from her parents
and did not want to be seen as the bad one. :36.550 --> :40.029
She just had to throw me under the bus. :40.029 --> :44.831
Everything was going perfectly and my granddad
was going to pay for my college tuition, but :44.831 --> :46.250
she ruined it. :46.250 --> :51.020
My grandparents and parents invited me to
my grandparent’s home and they began to :51.020 --> :52.530 grill me.
:52.530 --> :58.120 My mom was in tears, she wept so badly, it
was as though someone had died. :58.120 --> :01.559
“There is a therapy class for people like you in church…”
:01.559 --> :02.980 My grandfather started.
:02.980 --> :07.529 I had read many times about gay people being
coerced by their loved ones to go through :07.529 --> :13.260
different processes of people trying to change
them and their sexuality, and I was never :13.260 --> :18.990
going to allow myself to go through that,
especially since I was a legal adult already. :18.990 --> :20.140
“No.” :20.140 --> :25.330 My grandfather looked up in surprise, he was
not used to being challenged by anyone in :25.330 --> :27.390
the family or anyone at church. :27.390 --> :29.740
“You know what happens if you don’t go?” :29.740 --> :32.370
“Yes sir,” I replied quietly and sturdily. :32.370 --> :37.820
“Daddy, I promise, I will talk to him…” my mom started but her dad hushed her.
:37.820 --> :42.890 I never went to therapy and just as my grandfather
promised, he cut me off. :42.890 --> :45.960
In a way, I was kind of glad about what had happened.
:45.960 --> :49.780 I wanted to go to college, but I knew I could
do other stuff too. :49.780 --> :54.630
My parents said I was welcome to stay but
I was not interested in living with them. :54.630 --> :58.559
An organization promised to pay my rent for the first six months.
:58.559 --> :01.980 I moved out of my parent’s home with nearly
nothing. :01.980 --> :06.260 My aunt’s credit card was still with me
and the last I heard, she had moved out of :06.260 --> :09.549
her man's house and was back to her parents. :09.549 --> :13.830
She sent me a text to apologize for what had happened, but I ignored her.
:13.830 --> :18.630 I was on my way to go shopping for furniture
and clothes when I saw her text. :18.630 --> :20.980
I went to the mall and shopped with her card. :20.980 --> :23.360
I even got a new refrigerator! :23.360 --> :28.000
She texted to ask for the credit card back
telling me about how she was stranded and :28.000 --> :30.000
could no longer live with her parents. :30.000 --> :31.830
I ignored all her messages. :31.830 --> :36.419
I went out on another day and did some more
shopping with the credit card, I didn't stop :36.419 --> :38.260
until it was maxed out. :38.260 --> :43.340
After that, I broke the card, took a picture
of the broken card, and sent it to her. :43.340 --> :46.820
She called me numerous times but I never took her calls.
:46.820 --> :50.520 To this day, my aunt and I don't have any
relationship. :50.520 --> :57.159
My grandfather is dead and my parents and
I are okay, but I don’t speak to my blabbermouth :57.159 --> :31.779
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this is our reconciliation story it's long but I hope it helps someone to
understand they are not alone I've been reading this sub for over a year now
oddly it was my wife who suggested it see it's always concerned her that I
never really spoke in depth about how her Affair hurt me and changed me to
anyone other than her she is afraid I think that I might Harbor some repressed
hatred for her I don't it's like touching a hot stove do it once and you
never purposely do it again I am that way about my emotions I am not void of
emotions I just choose to keep some of them safe Within Myself any anyway I
recently created a username and began posting because one particular story for
whatever reason hit me harder than some others I read I spoke with my wife and
showed her something I wrote to this user and asked her if she was okay if I
posted our story she was okay with it and actually encouraged me to include
more details than I had intended her reasoning was that everyone needed the
whole picture to understand why she pursued reconciliation with me so hard
why it worked for us and to understand why I fought it and how I see our love
and our marriage so different now after the first draft of this I read it and
got a very uneasy feeling about how my wife appears in this story and
subsequent quently in our marriage while she had no problem with the story as
written I decided to add this on the front end my wife has become an amazing
wife mother and woman she holds a professional degree in her career and is
well thought of and admired in her field she suffered greatly too admittedly due
to her own action and to no lesser degree from me during the reconciliation
she has truly been forged in Fire and came out as steel her betrayal was
devastating but I think in my case it was the circumstances surrounding the
affair that ultimately allowed me to forgive her not excuse her forgive her I
lost a part of the good in me by going through this pain in contrast she came
out of at a better person I at times I resent that but then I see the positive
she has brought to my life over the 23 years since this happened and it's okay
I am writing this in chronological order
obviously I was not aware of some of the
events until later the details come from writings that my wife did for
therapeutic reasons something she also incorporated into our reconciliation
process we still have the notebooks we plan on burning them on our 50th wedding
anniversary back round we married when we were both 20 after after about a year
I decided to go back to school parttime to finish my degree eventually we had a
child and I felt the pressure to finish my degree my son had just turned two
when I started my last year of college two semesters was all I needed in
September of 1993 my schedule was the following part-time job from 3:00 a.m.
to 7:00 a.m. store stalker full-time job Police Department administrative job
8:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. school Tuesday nights from 5:30 p.m. to 10: p.m. and
school Saturday from 8:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m. my wife was nurses aid at a local
hospital working from 8:00 a.m. to 3:00 p.m. my mother kept our son school and
both of our jobs as well as my parents were all close no more than a 10-minute
drive from one to the other we had as good a setup as possible for what I was
trying to accomplish discovery of a fair day the weekend before dday we had
fought constantly it was spring of 1994 and finals week for me if I finished my
papers and passed my finals by the following Sunday we would be celebrating
my completing my bachelor's in science and finally ending this 8-month schedule
I was working but she was upset because I would not take take time off from
studying to take her and our son some place she had been complaining about my
work in school for some time now and it had gotten so bad that we had stopped
having sex 2 months prior on this particular Monday evening I was facted
checking a research paper I had completed Saturday that was due Tuesday
evening and she was constantly picking an argument finally I told her to shut
up and quit acting like a child she stared at me and boldly announced I hate
you and I am in love with someone else just like that I was stunned we argued
for about an hour until she confessed about what had happened earlier in the
day while at lunch at work it seems for the past 2 months she had started an
emotional affair with a janitor at the hospital basically it started with him
complimenting her and always showing up every time she turned around this
graduated to eating lunch together in the cafeteria and then regular sessions
of bitching about me to him they moved the sessions to the car about 2
weeks prior she later admitted to twice kissing him during that time but today
it had turned into a full makeout session culminating in her giving him a
hand job to finish while he fingered her
and them proclaiming their love for each other upon hearing this I basically
broke from the conscious world I disassociated from all reality I think
later I will go into further deta details regarding my thought process
that night in the meantime this is what my wife wrote about that moment it was
strange when I told him what we had done I was fully prepared for some type of
outburst he just looked at me with the most horrible pain you can imagine then
it turned to something I can't describe it was blank he turned around and walked
to the bedroom and quietly closed the door I remember getting mad then the
bastard would not even fight for me I just knew at that moment I had made the
right decision and everything was going to work out I did it I was Breaking Free
of the man that was ignoring me all these months I returned to the living
room with a suitcase and walked past her and out the front door I remember her
repeatedly asking where did I think I was going running home to Mommy was one
I remembered I placed the suitcase in the driveway went back in and grabbed
her purse and held it out and told her to leave this shocked her she refused I
gently threw her over my shoulder walked out the door and sat her on the hood of
the car her shock at this allowed me time to get back into the house and lock
the door she tried to get in but I held the deadbolt and she eventually left to
stay at her parents she told them we were separating but not why that was a
long night I called into to both jobs to let them know I had a family emergency
come up and would not be in the next day at some point I fell asleep Tuesday
discovery of a fair day plus one I woke up at 7:00 and immediately began to
occupy my time by planning on how to minimize contact with my stbx I called
my mother to ask her to keep my son she was worried because normally he was
there by now after that I made a list of things to accomplish that day and I
started working the list first I dropped my son off and explained to my mother
that I would need to sit and talk to her at length later that day I then went to
the office of a lawyer friend of my family he had gone to school with my dad
and I knew him all my life I explained I wanted to file for divorce as soon as
possible he listened to my story and suggested I think about things for a
while but I was adamant he said he could
have the divorce papers completed by the end of day I told him I would pick them
up that day and file them with the clerk's office myself I dealt with this
type of thing at my job with a PD next I went to get new locks for the house and
made a stop off at the bank I emptied and closed both our savings and checking
account I placed half the money in an envelope and stopped by my
sister-in-law's place of work and gave her my wife's half of the money I told
her to tell my wife that that she is not to contact me at all and that was her
half of the money from the bank I also told her I had canceled our only credit
card back at my mom's I told her everything and she and my little sister
came up with a plan for my little sister to stay at my house and watch my son
while I worked and went to school for the rest of the week I made my way home
and changed the locks spent the rest of the afternoon cleaning and playing with
my son and then went to school my wife also decided to not go to work that day
she contacted the janitor and told him what it happened he was sympathetic and
invited her over to his house that evening to get away from the stress more
on this house later long story short she went and she him here is what she
wrote about that night he fell asleep after I remember being so excited at the
beginning but during an afterward it began to feel wrong since he was asleep
my mind began to wonder I thought about Gore me and how he had made me do this
pushed me to find someone else I got up and left on the drive home I began to
remember the first time G and I had sex we were each other's first I broke down
and thought about how disgusted I was with myself then I got mad at G all over
again it was really a sick cycle I would
not face the responsibility of how truly horrible the thing I had done was I
convinced myself it was his fault Wednesday discovery of a fair day plus
two that day began as normal I went to work came home showered and ate
breakfast with my son and sister my wife called and wanted to make arrangements
to see our son she was cocky and spiteful on the phone I told her that I
would meet her Sunday at 1:00 p.m. and she could spend some time with him at a
local park she wasn't going for that she
wanted him for the weekend I said no she knew him staying at the house solve the
babysitting issue for right now both her parents worked so she did not push it
she slammed the phone down I went to work at the PD in the first chance I got
I went to the clerk's office and filed for the divorce later in the day I was
notified by a girl I knew there that they were ready to go to the Sheriff's
Office to be served I called a deputy I knew and told him the story and asked
him to serve them to her at work he said
he would the next day stbx also returned to work her janitor came by her station
and chatted her up throughout the day they were not able to eat lunch together
that day nor meet that evening he claimed he had to go to something with
one of his kids he told my wife earlier in the affair he was divorced and had
three kids she went to her parents after work later that night she called me
three times and each time I hung up on her after found out it was her call her
ID was not the norm back then in my area Thursday discovery of a fair day plus
three after another long night of grieving my day started out like the day
before I went to work after I arrived at my second job I received a phone call
from the deputy that was going to serve the papers he told me he would get there
around noon I explained it would be fine her lunch hour was from a.m. to
noon I sat at my desk and tried to work I I was antsy and got up and went to the
restroom at least three times until I finally threw up I calmed myself and
kept reminding myself it was the right thing to do thankfully I had not heard
from my wife so far 11m my wife meets the janitor for lunch they retire to his
car in the parking lot and classy they clean up go back inside and grab
something in the cafeteria for lunch noon my wife returns to the nurse's
station on her Hall along with the janitor and starts talking to the RN in
charge of the Hall 5 minutes later the deputy walks in he asks the RN where he
can find Kay my wife Kay speaks up that's me the deputy turns to her and in
a loud voice says Mrs K you are being sued for divorce due to infidelity my
wife falls on the floor here are her words describing what happened when I
heard that I felt this massive wave of Shame and guilt it hit me that I had
destroyed my marriage that g was really going to divorce me some stupid part of
me really believed that he would not do it I thought this was just another
argument I was trying to win really sick thinking I remember the deputy
physically picking me up and putting me in the chair there were screaming it was
me a the RM was trying to calm me down T the janitor tried to grab my hand and I
punched him he turned his head and the punch landed on his neck I scratched him
as he pulled away I said I was yelling at him that he had ruined my life they
got her calmed down the deputy said the janitor left immediately she was able to
go back to her shift but a did a lot of covering for her 2 45 p.m. my wife was
close to finishing her shift when she was called to hospital administrator's
office she was scared she guessed someone had reported her Outburst when
she arrived the lady closed the door and immediately told her she was fired not
to to come back on the property and that
she would receive her last check through the mail it seems the Trist in the
parking lot had been witnessed by someone they had reported it at some
point a had been called in and had relayed the story about the divorce
papers the janitor was brought and questioned fired and escorted from the
property just an hour prior to my wife being fired everyone in the hospital
knew about it all she says she just went to the car and drove to her parents at
this point they still did not know what was going on just that she and I were
split up and it appeared serious 5:30 p.m. I was eating supper with my son at
home my sister was out with friends and we were just spending time together the
deputy had relayed the events from earlier and I had gotten quite a bit of
satisfaction knowing the reaction the janitor being there was just blind luck
I was surprised she hadn't been arrested for assaulting him but hey you can't
have everything then there was a knock at the door standing in front of me was
a lady about 5 ft tall and enormously pregnant barely able to stand straight
she asked for Kay I explained she no longer lived there and would not be
returning she asked if I was her husband I said soon to be ex-husband I had
served the papers today she said she was D the janitor's wife and she was
pregnant with her fourth child I let her in to sit down she explained what had
happened earlier about her husband and my wife getting fired and the
circumstances surrounding it I felt like
throwing up who the hell was this psycho I had married she also explained
about the house that my wife met him it was at that point I would have murdered
him in Cold Blood right there if I could have found him not for my wife but for
humankind in general this guy was a pace of again more on the house later
she asked me where my wife was and I explained that she was with her parents
I gave her directions after she assured she only wanted to talk to her and let
her know the truth my son was still in his chair at the table and you could see
him from where we sat in the living room she commented on how wonderful of a
father I was to take on the care of my son alone she then got up and left 6:30
p.m. my father-in-law answered his door and de asked to speak to my wife
thinking she was a friend of Kay as he went and got Kay who stepped out on the
porch to speak to her de told her who she was and that she just wanted her to
know the truth about what she had gotten herself into with the janitor D and the
janitor were still married and living together she was 8 months pregnant with
their fourth child K was upset and crying at this point and apologizing
over and over again but it got worse you see the janitor and another guy at the
hospital along with one of their friends were playing a game the goal was to see
how many married women they could in the span of 90 days up until my wife
the third guy was leading with three my wife was the janitor's thirdd oh in the
night he had the thing with one of his kids he screwed a fourth woman D said
she that lady had been married 25 years and D was informing her husband next it
was their neighbor the house was a place they rented to take the ladies de found
out about this 2 hours after he was fired he came home high and crying
confessed everything in an attempt to work it out D left with the kids and
told my wife she was leaving him she then squared up her shoulders and
slapped my wife heart across the face and called her a stupid cow Kay was
stunned D told her she should be ashamed
of throwing away her family she told her how she was at our home an hour ago and
watched the loving man feeding his son all alone because his wife was a stupid
selfish my wife lost control crying and de walked away got in the car
and left my in-laws checked on her after hearing the car drive off she was
basically cat tonic they got her inside and was discussing taking her to the
emergency room when she began to just talk out of her head my father-in-law
thought she was on speed or something she started talking about how terrible
she was and how she had to fix it they calmed her down eventually and got the
whole story my father-in-law was really hurt he was and is a good man he later
said she my wife could see the shame and
disappointment on his face my mother and
dash law well she blamed me as usual I'm not fond of her immediate aftermath my
father-in-law called me the next day and apologized the one and only time I ever
suspected that my father-in-law had tears in his eyes he told me what
happened and said that Kay had been in her room all day and night I told him
about the appointment Kay had to meet me on Sunday at one at the park he said
okay and hung up I worked Friday and went to school that Saturday by the end
of the day I had found out I had passed and would receive my degree Bittersweet
but I had made it my parents celebrated that night with extended family coming
over and cooking out I have a great family no one brought up K the next day
I did not hear from K at 1 I chocked it up to a blessing something I could use
in a custody hearing if needed at 3:30 her father called he said Kay was still
not responding coherently to them and just walked around in her bathrobe with
his notebook in her hands and would not let go of it she had not bathed in days
and only ate sparingly he was worried and tired he found himself afraid to
sleep in case she hurt herself he asked me to come see her I declined I couldn't
feel anything for her I told him to get her some help and I would let her see
our son when she could get herself together I really felt nothing for her
that first night I had gone through my own trial by fire and came out stronger
more on that later I was not going to care about this person ever again I did
not hear from her or her family for 2 weeks reconciliation 2 weeks had passed
since I had last spoken with my father-in-law during that time I had
quit my part-time job and was actively looking for a new job I had plans to get
my MBA but wanted to take a year or two to get settled in a new job my son was
asking about his mother I could only comfort him at that point the longer she
went without reaching out to see him was better for my chances to get a good
custody deal I was at the PD when she called and asked to set up a time to
meet and see our son I asked her if she had pulled herself together enough not
to scare him and she replied yes I told her I would meet her at 9:00 a.m. at the
park on Saturday and to bring her dad I did not want to meet her alone my mother
went with me when I saw her I knew I had made the right decision to limit her
contact to only 2 hours she was a mess she had lost a lot of weight she was not
wearing makeup she smelled like iory soap no perfume or deodorant or any of
those feminine smells I always associated with her I found out later
her mother had bathed her and dressed her Kay was not able to function
completely yet Park meetings lasted about 3 weeks and I extended them to 4
hours in Sunday too she looked her each week but I was still concerned about her
mental health and would not let him stay with her overnight or see him alone
eventually my mother-in-law tired of that and hired an attorney to sue for
custody now Kay had not signed the divorce papers yet I was okay with that
in 6 months I could petition the court for a divorce anyway but the custody
suit pissed me off because she was suing for full custody I had already told her
father I was willing to eventually work up to 50/50 custody but her mother blew
that out of the water I responded with a request for full custody on the grounds
of mental defect really I was ready to rumble I was pissed and needed an Outlet
this was it on the day of the custody hearing my lawyer said her attorney had
come to him with a request Kay wanted to
speak to me in private I said no he said it might be an offer I relinquished but
wanted it in the hallway outside the courtroom in full view of both attorneys
but where they could not hear what was being said they agreed she started out
with small talk asked how many our son was doing I said great and getting
better every day she asked about my school I told her I passed in graduation
was next week she was happy about that she looked down and asked if she could
come and see me walk I said my graduation was for my family and friends
and she was neither so no I really hurt her with that we had worked hard
together for the majority of our time together to accomplish that and me
saying no showed that she could not share it with me she said please and I
told her again no I said it's special to me it didn't matter enough to you when
you let someone use you like trash I was really becoming a huge and I
wanted to hurt her she teared up turned around and walked back to her attorney
the hearing started I got up testified nothing unusual Mill got up and put all
the blame on me said I was seeing someone and it drove my wife crazy no
proof of that but she was never one to care about truth she also claimed I had
assaulted my wife by grabbing her and throwing her on the hood of the car the
night she left then it was my wife's turn Kay began answering questions from
her lawyer but stopped after about the third one she asked the judge if she
could say something he told her she might want to confer with her attorney
first but she declined he said go ahead here is my wife's words from her
notebook I remember how sad I was after the hearing started I listened to G give
his side of the story and how he had taken care of Jay our son all these
weeks I needed to make this right I sat there listening to Mama and I knew she
was lying to protect me but it was just another lie on top of a lie I had enough
I had to fix this Kay then stated that she wanted to apologize to my parents
who were in the room she also apologized to her own parents she looked at me and
said she knew that right now I hated her more than anyone in the world she said
everything that had happened was her fault and at this point she just wanted
to salvage anything she could have what we had together if it was only to get me
to be able to look at her without disgust she then told the judge she
wanted to withdraw her claim and would adhere to any custody arrang I saw fit
to give her I conferred with my attorney and we offered supervised 1our visits
for 6 weeks with him staying with her every other weekend after that if there
were no problems we adjourned looking back I think that is when I saw a small
Ray of possibility we would be nicer to each other not reconcile but at least
cordial the schedule worked fine after the third week we were spending that
visitation time with just her me and our son it usually extended to 3 or 4 hours
I was not friendly but I really enjoyed watching my son play with his mom it
helped them both the only negative incident happened during the fifth visit
she came up behind me and hugged my right arm while I was watching our son
play I freaked out I yelled at her to never ever touch me again she hugged our
son and left quickly the next week we just acted as though nothing happened
and she kept her distance another month passed and we were talking more about
day-to-day issues I had a new job that was paying more and she had begun
nursing school she had begun to tell me that the janitor was calling her and
would not leave her alone she claimed she wanted to be honest with me in case
I heard she had told him to leave her alone but he still showed up at her
parents house one night Phil threatened to kill him if he didn't leave her alone
I told her I did not care who she slept with anymore she said she was not
sleeping with anyone and never would until she knew that we could never put
our family back together I told it was never going to happen 6 months after our
separation I brought up the fact that she needed to sign the divorce papers
she said no I reminded her I did not need her to sign them but it would be
easier if she would she asked if she could come by the house that night so we
could talk and if I still wanted a divorce she would sign them that night I
agreed she showed up with these notebooks the little black composition
notebooks that look like a bound book she told me she started writing down the
day after she got the divorce papers she does not know why but it seemed to help
she said she wrote everything she could remember about what had happened in as
much detail as she could she wanted me to read it but warned me it would hurt
bad she wrote about what she said and did with the janitor I really did not
want to read it she said she knew she was taking a risk but she had to do
something to make me understand why she was trying to save our marriage so I
read it she was right it was hard the sex part was not really detailed it was
described in general terms but what she said about me and our marriage to him
damn that cut deep the book I read that night also chronicled her mental
breakdown the writing was jumble and unorganized but every day it got better
and better she eventually began to dissect what she did and said it was her
therapy one funny passage was when she described this insane conclusion that
she came to and was convinced it would set all things right you see she
remembered she never had an orgasm with the guy never if she did not come then
that meant she did not enjoy it therefore she did nothing wrong and I
would have to take her back she believed that until she explained it to her dad
much to his discomfort and he told her it did not work that way reading the
book did not change my mind but it scared me I was still concerned about
her mental state until I read what and how she wrote during those two weeks I
did not realize how fragile her mind had gotten agreed to give it some more time
this gave her the courage to start pushing me to write to her sit down
write a letter or something about what had happened she would then get a better
sense of how to help me I thought about this and I knew I was still messed up
pretty bad and that maybe at the least it would help me move on and still have
some type of healthy relationship down the road her writing therapy as I called
it evolved into this we would meet two nights a week our first assignment would
be be to write down where we saw the state of our marriage prior to D-Day at
the meeting we would exchange letters and make notes we would then put our
questions in writing and ask them to the other person we would talk until each
question was fully answered and go to the next one if we did not finish then
we would extend those questions to the next meeting the rules were simple
answer honestly no yelling and no declining to answer any question we
started with an analysis of our pre-day marriage and went through each
subsequent day until the Sunday I spoke with her father after she received the
divorce papers after that we would reevaluate and go from there I will say
was a complete dick about this I answered questions honestly except for
one more on that later but I used it to humiliate her I made her repeat over and
over the bad things she said to him about me I made her give excruciating
details about the sexual contact she boxed sometimes but she always went
through with it while it was really vanilla compared to what she and I did
when we were together at hurt honestly I thought I could handle it because I
really was not interested in getting back together but it really was bad to
hear it it's hard to believe how cruel I had become but again in my mind it was
justified at the time after about a month of this I had to admit it helped
me some she proposed to move back in and try the next step I said no she really
begged and offered a good argument for it but I said no I told her even if I
wanted to reconcile there was no way I could be intimate with her again she was
okay with that and said I could go outside the marriage while she stayed
faithful that's not me so no after another month I relented but laid down
some rules the rules were non-negotiable and set in stone first she had to sleep
in the spare room second absolutely no physical contact at all third she kept
her money in her checking account but I handled her Banking and gave her checks
to pay her bills including rent for the room and expenses and money to spend
this was due to the fact that she had given the janitor $300 out of our
savings account a week before D-Day plus I thought she would say no and not move
in fourth her mother was not to come into my home until we decided to
reconcile I was still pissed at her still I'm a little fifth all prior
custody agreements were to automatically
kick in if we did not reconcile sixth if
I found someone else she had one week to move out she agreed and moved in it was
harder than I thought I no longer longer
had that cooling down period between the times I saw her she was there all the
time I started small fights all the time said hateful things to her I wanted her
out almost immediately after she moved back in I had to do something so we
implemented Thursday night fight night this came out of the meetings we had
where we were writing every Thursday night after the kid was asleep we would
sit in the living room discuss things that we were having issues with or any
arguments that were still ongoing those had to be settled on Thursday night
before bed and could not go any further we actually still have a version of this
today it evolved into simply asking over dinner if we had anything to talk about
that night the kids never knew where it came from or really what it was I was
still being difficult I threw her aair at her every chance I could she took it
in stride and never engaged when it got to that point I would say I was
emotionally abusive to her but she was strong she knew that we were meant to be
and and since she destroyed our lives she had to build it back on her own
until I saw what she saw and joined her and she was committed to giving me the
time I needed 6 months after she moved back in I had my own breakthrough after
a particularly hard day of one trigger after another I had locked myself in the
bedroom I I just could not do it any longer my wife came to the door and
knocked and quietly said you need to talk I will be out here when you think
you can and I heard her slide down the door sit in the floor and lean her back
against the door for an hour she sat there it was almost midnight when I
opened the door she asked me if she could come in and I told her no and said
let's go to your room we went to her room and she sat on the bed and I sat in
a chair and I finally told her what had happened after I kicked her out the
night I found out about the affair flashback to the evening of discovery of
a fair day after she drove off I spent a lot of time in my son's room just
watching him sleep I went into my desk and retrieved the checkbook and my bill
Ledger and took them along with a copy of the life insurance policy and put
them in plain sight on the kitchen table I went and took a shower I then went
into the bedroom and got my shotgun down
from the Shelf in the closet and laid it on the bed I dressed in a pair of jeans
and a button- down shirt put my shirt tail in an all combed my hair sat on the
bed and stuck the Barrel in my mouth tasted the oil on the barrel I
remembered being obsessed about that taste it tasted exactly like it smelled
I have no idea how long I sat there I then got up unloaded the gun and put it
back stripped off my clothes and went to bed unfortunately I think this type of
thing enters into many betrayed spouses Minds I explained to her that that was
the only thing I had held back during our recovery for the first time I
allowed her to hug me and kiss me on the forehead and something other than a
goodbye or see you later it was the first emotional touch I had allowed her
have with me I told her I forgave her that night but I did not mean it it was
a number of months later before I actually meant it but saying the words
then cracked the door open for me after that physical touch increased slowly
holding hands kiss goodbye a hug Etc these began to be more normal
occurrences in our relationship sex was not happening but we were headed that
way and eventually almost a year after she moved in we finally were intimate I
think this was our hysterical bonding time she was still journaling and
according to her we had sex 32 times in 28 days years later we were talking and
she told me that until the night we had sex she woke up every morning thinking
today would be our last day together she kept telling herself just one more day
she knew me well enough to know that sex meant I was rebonding today we have a
good marriage both successful in our careers we have three grown children
they do not know about any of this as far as we know no plans to tell them but
no plans to lie if they ask we both changed a lot my wife is a lot stronger
and wiser she looks back on this as an unnecessary evil that she caused but she
successfully overcame I sometime think she still punishes herself for it for my
part it does not come up in discussions or arguments at all hasn't in over 20
years she is very perceptive and more often than not she recognizes when I
experience a trigger and yes they do still happen
maybe once or twice a year they are Swift and short but they sting usually
she will grab my hand and hold it sometimes she will hug me and say I love
you or simply thank you I lost some of the good in myself I hold a lot of my
feelings back and deal with them myself while I try to support her emotional
need she knows I will not be her emotional tampon anymore it's her job to
let me know what the issue is and put forth a plan to fix it which I will help
to implement I love her I had to learn to love her again it's different more
realistic but intense nonetheless as I said earlier I feel I had to lose a part
of the good in me so she can become a better person and at this point in my
life I am good with that I hope this helps someone every situation is
different but this worked for us and I am thankful for that I am not preaching
reconciliation I am preaching self handle yourself fix what you have
control of not what you can't do what benefits you in your situation be
selfish to a point then see about becoming AE again in a marriage or
relationship later Google The Serenity Prayer no truer words have ever been
written in my opinion and remember the sub is serving infidelity you are
reading about the worst days of our lives and marriage there are many
greater happier Memories We have created that far outweigh this tragedy I wish
you all the best in this journey you do win on the other side of the pain if you
put forth the effort for yourself update it's hard to believe it's been so long
ago that I posted this I stepped away from this account because I receive so
much trolling privately by people that are so hardcore against reconciliation
and I get it many who reached out for help after I posted were quickly
informed I don't recommend reconciliation it's hard it's difficult
it's painful but if you can do it under the right conditions it has its own
rewards I just wanted to let everyone know we are still married we now have
grandkids and if you know you know it's a completely different type of love my
wife is semi-retired and works PRN now meaning when needed when she wants I
continue to work full-time but we find a lot of time to travel I don't remember
the last time I had a trigger maybe about 3 years ago and only because our
oldest found out about my wife's Affair through a vindictive relative that lives
a very lonely life my wife handled it with such Grace and humility that I
think it affected me in a way that I have finally just moved on completely
she apologized for the pain she caused me and we both explained that it was in
the past and any issue he has with it we would help him but cautioned him that
ultimately it was between us and fell under things that were our business it
has not appeared to have had any effect on their relationship though she was
extremely embarrassed that's about it we wish all of you going through this pain
the best update to our reconciliation story I hope I did that right sad news
for me and my family 3 weeks ago my former Wayward wife passed away she
battled colon cancer for 6 months and passed away with all of us by her
bedside in the home we built 4 years ago to spend our retirement in she was only
18 months into her retirement when diagnosed I do not have the ability to
explain the loss it's beyond anything I have experienced even that pain that we
all experienced in this community has betrayed loved ones she spent our
remaining years after our reconciliation making up for the pain she caused and
succeeded in a spectacular fashion I miss her our kids miss her but I'm here
for a reason T wrote a letter to me in her final days she instructed our pastor
to give it to me after the funeral when he felt the time was right I read this
letter 3 days ago and I want to share a passage from that letter to all of you
that have read our story and have gotten any type of good from that post it
illustrates our need as betrayed to forgive and those that betray and are
truly remorseful that they to suffer longterm for their betrayal I feel a lot
of physical pain right now as you know but my faith makes me see what's to come
in it the pain fade some pain has a way of making one turn inward and I've been
looking inward a lot these past weeks sometimes I think I deserve the pain
because of what I did to you did to us so many years ago but then you pick me
up and place in my chair and help me eat you bathe Me Hold My Hand play your
guitar while I lose myself in my memories I realize this pain is a gift
it's allowing me to experience the essence of Love at its purest form your
true forgiveness for what I did because only true love and forgiveness is
reflected in your actions as you take care of me I love you so much there was
a lot more but I wanted to share this with this community and thank you for
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CPS workers what was the worst case you've seen I'm not a CPS worker but I
work criminal investigations for the Army for number of years and work very
closely with CPS on a child cruelty or neglect cases one particular case sticks
with me 5 years later we received a call around 1700 which is usually a good
indicator that we're going to be responding to a legit call the bad ones
always seem to come in right before we head home for the evening the call came
in from CPS they had received a call from a solders unit the soldier her
husband was in the field for training exercises and got a very vague emergency
call from his wife that she was having some medical problems husband asked his
unit to send somebody to go check on his wife to make sure she was okay too easy
unit sends guy over who finds the wife in the kitchen covered in red from the
waist down he also notices a red trail from the back room into the kitchen or
foyer area there's a red stained spatula
on the counter what's more is that there is animal droppings in trash covering
the entirety of the house save for walking paths there two small children
crying from somewhere in the back of the house the student immediately makes two
calls one back to his command and one to CPS command notifies husband who's
immediately sent home command also calls us we received this call after the one
from CPS CPS reports the same story they
also informed us that the CPS worker who responded to the house said to call for
help because they got sick from the smell of the house before they even got
inside we respond we observe exactly what was initially reported the site is
unimaginable if you've never seen something like it the smell was insane
we wore Tac suits to move around the house when we finally get the wife
cleaned up she tells us that while using the bathroom she had a very early term
Miss Carriage she states that she had no idea what to do her intent was to keep
them until her husband came home and then decide what to do craziness of this
aside CPS and law enforcement have now seen the conditions of this house after
hospital visits and making sure everyone is physically and mentally healthy we
hear back to the house with CBS to see what we're actually looking at two-story
townhouse the entire house was covered in trash food food dishes clothing Etc
and animal droppings the dining table was covered with dirty dishes and old
food the food in the fridge was far out there was no sitting room on the couch
in the living room the master bedroom had a queen bed no sheets the mattress
had a dark brown stain covering over half the mattress was not positive for
blood never figured out what the hell it was the kids only had mattresses in the
floor no other Furniture in the rooms clothing trash and waste all over the
floor the bathrooms I've seen truck stop restrooms that were cleaner the list of
disgusting things in this house goes on CPS gave them three weeks to fix this
atrocity or the kids would be removed that time both husband and wife get into
more legal trouble not to detract from the story but their charges included
substances and rough trade CPS finally was able to get the kids out of that
home never learned If the parents regained custody but I pray they didn't
it was the absolute worst imaginable house I've ever seen the smell stuck to
your clothes housing said the only way the house would be safe to live in again
would be if it were completely torn down not to mention the insanely crazy
parents I am so curious as to how it got to that point they probably aren't
mentally stable at all story two the one that hit me the hardest was before I
actually started going out on my own and was shadowing the after hours team we
got a call from a different state worker about a family had moved to our state
and we needed to follow up the family had six kids and one of the girls in the
family was a registered offender it was heartbreaking it was a blended family
and the mom who was the biop parent of the girl believed that the girl had been
exposed to bad things by her biod dad anyway one night one of them said girl's
name touched me the parents shocked talked to each kid individually where
they all disclosed that she had touched them not knowing how to handle it they
called CPS in their state for help CPS came out called the cops and for reasons
that weren't clear to me the child was placed in the registry by a judge in my
experience usually they try impatient and other therapies before going that
route but apparently that state and judge did things differently so when the
family moved to our state we had to go out to make sure the family was
following adequate guidelines for example the girl was not allowed to be
alone with her siblings she couldn't swim in the pool at the same time as her
siblings she couldn't go to school or the park or birthday parties because she
was an offender her siblings couldn't have friends over she was such a sweet
kid early was such a sad situation she told her she wanted to be a fashion
designer and her favorite thing to do was play Xbox with her siblings all the
kids were in therapy and they appeared to Harbor no ill will toward her I think
about this case a lot and I always wonder what happened to their family
Story three without getting into too much detail I was incredibly
disappointed in how the military handled the situation I and other neighbors
reported multiple times I'm not military but was a living Nanny on a base for a
family there was a woman down the street from us who I befriended she had two
kids one wasn't his I always got a weird vibe from her husband he would come to
the bus stop and not talk to her son he would completely ignore him and see the
other two kids and say hi this poor kid looked miserable all the time a couple
months later she told me he roughs her son up all the time he won't let her buy
him new clothes shoes and he can't sit with him at the table he's about 11 at
this point so that was reported MPS come CPS comes she tells them it's not all
true investigate and don't do anything to make a report she then tells me a few
days later that he has been forcing her to try to get her pregnant again and she
doesn't want another kid Etc I convince her to report him but she doesn't I ask
the family I work for for advice and numbers to call within the military that
will help her out give them to her and she hides them next day I saw the boy
outside at the bus stop busted lip I asked him what happened and he says he
fell I asked him if he was sure that's what happened and he started to cry and
I said don't worry come hang out at our house I told her he can come over and
her other kids can come too to play so they spent a few hours at my house with
the kids I nanny I made a report to CPS that night and they came the next day he
told the MPS what had happened and CPS made him sign a paper saying he will
never put his hands in that kid again obviously it didn't work it just won't
let that kid do anything now so now he has taken control of all her money he
met her while he was overseas in Africa and married her and brought her to the
states so when her visa was expiring he got the mail and shredded all the
letters about it so she couldn't find them and he could save the day and
berate her about it then he would take the key so she wouldn't have a car all
day and couldn't leave one day I looked out the window and the MPS were taking
him out in handcuffs and she's hysterically crying but telling him he
deserves it still not sure what happened
but they moved him into the barracks for a bit and she filed for a divorce
apparently he refused the divorce in the military Corp took his side and said he
would be allowed back into the house if need be as his money and job pays for
the house fast forward about a week and they're taking him out in handcuffs
again go to court again she asks for a divorce and they said they we'll do a
legal separation she can stay in military housing but he has to live in
the barracks and if he needs to come to the house he needs to contact MPS to
take him there he's allowed to have the kids whenever he wants including her
oldest sons who when they got married he adopted he took the other two all the
time but never the oldest after he was banned from the house with without
supervision she found out she was pregnant and now has a third kid from
him I hope she gets those kids help because they were extremely aggressive
children all the time not the 11-year-old though which is
understandable seeing as what they witnessed often I wish there was more
that could be done unfortunately what it looked like to me was that they were
doing anything they could to protect him nobody else mattered but I can also say
as much as she called the police on him she also I'm sure gave in a lot to talk
to him and whatnot there were a couple times the police arrived and she
wouldn't tell them anything which is fairly common in that type of situation
the young son spoke up a bunch of times and nothing story four not a CPS worker
but my mom was a foster parent and ran a daycare out of the home so we've known
the specifics and assisted in a number of cases one Foster case was a child
that was placed with us for about a week he was a tiny little baby and despite
being in high school I worked up to feed him the mother was young who was
abandoned by her parents for sad pregnancy and simply didn't know how to
care for a baby CPS was really understanding and gave her classes and
then when she learned how often a baby actually needed to be fed she got her
child back she reached out to us and thanked us for everything and we got
regular updates child is too now very happy and loved another case where we
called CPS a mother brought her four kids to our daycare her oldest son and
three daughters oldest son was seven and did most of the care for his younger
siblings ranging from 2 to 5 in age mother was pregnant again she was
obviously below the poverty line baby was born her kids got progressively more
and more dirty to the point my mom reached out in the Facebook group for
clothing donations for the kids they'd get dropped off she would bathe them all
and dress them again she made excuses for the mother which she says now is her
biggest regret she just kept saying this is her fifth child and she's a single
mom and a new baby it's hard then we had
to care for the baby sickly after 3 days
with him my mom called CPS we were never told what happened with them but I
remember looking out our front window and seeing them in the workers's car all
crying it's hard but you know it's better for them in the end they were
probably crying because they knew they were losing the only person who really
cared for them this person's Mom oh and since you're already halfway through the
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story5 not CPS but it worked in partnership with them in all of these
cases CPS workers were on my side and their leadership was against them they
had far far too many cases to be safe I witnessed someone roughing up a kid I
was incredibly violent while I was watching and moving towards them I
dialed 911 and stepped between them I was later reprimanded for putting myself
a risk if the parent was willing to do that in front of me what were they doing
when no one could see the state did not move them into foster care because they
were too old and the oldest kid could watch out for the younger I had one
threaten self har and refused a safety contract we called Crisis Intervention
they did not come out because if she didn't have a safety contract there
wasn't a bed within 8 hours or so that could take her if they came out they
were responsible for her I stayed with a client for I think about 14 hours I had
a bio father return to the home after present time from a streeting his
daughter they had the girls SW extensive
safety procedures instead of telling the
parents he couldn't return the state did not want to initiate a removal because
she was old enough to learn to protect herself I had a client who was following
the pattern of aggressive behavior and kept being returned from the facility
where he was being treated right back to
the family where he was being mistreated it was absurd as a side topic if you're
struggling with substance dependency and think you're still a good parent you
aren't that's your dependency fooling you get your kids into therapy and let
them live elsewhere until you get yourself clean story six I didn't work
in CPS but it did work closely with CPS I worked for a nonprofit emergency
shelter for children who had been abandoned neglected or mistreated mind
you I worked at the shelter 10 plus years ago so the details are a bit fuzzy
got a call one night work graveyard by two male sibling groups coming in they
had been found and picked up at motel Drive the oldest son is 11 and the other
is nine I started reading their case File and there's a long cruelty or
neglect history after being with us a few days the 11-year-old is showing
increased signs of PTSD hyper vigilance paranoid aggressive he ends up pulling a
knife on another one of the kids in the shelter because they came up from behind
and grabbed him apparently the mom who was a substance user was using him to
John so she could get money or substances he would stay awake all night
in the motel While She Was Out of in hard substances to make sure none of the
Johns came back to hurt her or his younger brother by the time the kid
turned another year older he had been expelled from three different schools
and was banned from that particular School District eventually mom lost
custody the last I heard is they were placed and Foster Care imagine being so
little and fearing for your life and your moms and your brothers that's too
much for a child story 7 first case I went on during training showed up at a
house in a trashy town and instantly we were verbally attacked by obese
belligerent lady this was Mom and she was being accused of neglecting her
children by not caring for their hygienic needs and not having any food
we tell her we need to chat with the kids alone but she refuses and stands by
as we start talking she keeps interrupting and yelling whenever we ask
anything I train calls the cops because she can tell the situation is escalating
quickly and we need to talk to the kids Cops show up Mom sort of calms down and
we get to chat with the kids teenage boys pissed and refused to tell us
anything useful two younger sisters 8 to 11-ish didn't say much but they didn't
need to say anything two little girls have knits in their hair their hair was
matted in basically one big dreadlock these were white people so matting the
hair like that is hard when it's clear that the tide is turning against the mom
she yells at the kids to run away and they follow orders we spend the next
hour trying to find the kids and then trying to get them away from the mom who
has huddled them into a neighbor's yard in a corner we got the kids back to a
foster care agency office no family was available to take the kids this was when
my heart broke the workers set the girls on a chair over a large plastic sheet
and start removing the nits with a knit brush or hairbrush I watched as they
start to cry because of it hurting the workers were as gentle as possible but
they had to have been enduring that for months if not longer this is when I
totally broke down and left the room and had to collect myself mind you this is
around p.m. it turned out the mom had significant
mental health needs she wasn't caring for and had been ignored by family for
years so no one knew what was going on school officials claimed they didn't
notice anything but suspected the kids weren't coming and the school liked it
that way Story 8 it was one of the first cases I investigated but it involved a
child's passing there was actually another worker assigned to take the
priority One cases that day but she was stuck out in the boonies working another
emergency when we got the call a 2-year-old child had been brought to the
emergency room by her mother the child was cold cold and blue and she had a
living sister aged 3 years old I had just been cleared to take p1s and my
unit supervisor sent me to start working the case she also called the region to
send us a special investigator a CPS investigator with police or military
experience they have special privileges in their work by the time we got the
report police were already questioning the mother it was my first time
witnessing a police interrogation the mother refused to speak English during
the interview and she had her friend translated for us for some reason there
wasn't a Spanish to English translator brought for the interrogation anyway the
mom claimed the child had been jumping on the bed with her sister when she fell
off the bed and hit her head on the floor she was sick later in the evening
and when the mom checked in on her the next day the child passed away super
sketchy as preliminary reports showed no head injuries we went to the house to
investigate the scene of the police and the mom and everything had been stripped
bare all the furniture and family possessions gone it smelled strongly of
bleach it the first time I had a Clos look at the mom and she had bruises and
her eye was swollen she claimed she slipped anyway in the following days we
learned the truth a year prior CPS investigated the family
when it came out that mom's boyfriend was being physically cruel to the
children the department required the mom
to enter a relationship with a boyfriend which he did and provided therapeutic
services for the family but a few months after CPS left the boyfriend came back
to the home the night of the incident the kid mastered her pan told the
boyfriend was watching a sports game he got angry and hurt her the mom was
correct in that the child had been sick the night before her passing this child
spent her last hours on Earth suffering the mom had waited so long to take the
little girl to the hospital because she wanted to give the boyfriend lead time
to escape he ended up going to Mexico where he was later found brought back
and charged for his crime both he and the mom are now in prison the little
girl's big sister was reunited with their biological father who had been
spending the past few years trying to find the girls he was inconsolable with
the news it was by far the worst case I've ever worked these types of cases
always are as an employee with CPS your job is to protect children and when you
work a case with a child who passed you feel so useless so helpless prison
honestly those two should be for what they did story n I'm a CPS investigator
so I'm the front line of all the allegations here some background just so
you understand what my obligations are our state splits it up into two
divisions DHS and the state police of their own division the state police get
the worst allegations DHS gets the most run-of the- mail like Cuts bruises wels
and any kind of neglect medical educational Environmental I work for DHS
and here's the kicker the state police can't do a removal so if they feel a
child is unsafe they have to call us and
we reassess then make a removal based on our decision so the worst case I've
worked was a case of neglect in which the 10-year-old female was in the
custody of her legal father he wasn't snow even when he met me for scheduled
interviews he was on it in itself that's just terrible but after every meeting
he'd pick up and move so that I couldn't relocate the final meeting he has with
my supervisor will I attempt to locate the the juvenile in order to take
custody he gets the gist of what's going on and has a friend pick the girl up
from school and tells us he's having her sent to her aunts home but you never
shows then he drops off too and he starts texting my work sell saying stuff
like I'll end everyone before I let you take her and remember he's on hard
substances finally finally after three full days I find her hiding under one of
his friend's beds he's arrested for fleeing come to find out this man is out
in bond for taking a knife to the man who he thought called in the report so I
take cust of the child and have a hair follicle done she tested significantly
positive for snow as if she ingested it herself what the hell the only good
thing is that she went to her aunt's home who had a clean background and was
safe girl just thought she was on an adventure with her dad and the worst
part is you get used to all that well if you like these stories here's more
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Many years back, I got my revenge against my older
:14.280 --> :17.460 half-brother by getting him kicked
out of the school’s basketball team. :17.460 --> :23.460
My half-brother is nearly two years older than
me. Well, not nearly two years. He is a year
:23.460 --> :29.220
and two months older than me, and we had a rocky
relationship growing up, but we still do. Our dad
:29.220 --> :33.420
was a busy businessman, he never got married,
but he had children with three of the women
:33.420 --> :38.520
he dated. My half-brother is the oldest of my
dad’s children and he grew up with our paternal
:38.520 --> :43.800
grandmother because his mom’s family preferred
my dad to be his primary caretaker. My dad was
:43.800 --> :49.200
too busy traveling the world for business so he
had his mother raise him. I grew up with my mom,
:49.200 --> :54.120
she lived with her parents who resented her for
having a baby just after she graduated college.
:54.120 --> :59.160 Naturally, I slowed her down and she could
not make as much money as she wanted to. My
:59.160 --> :03.960 maternal grandparents did not like me and
my mom knew this, but she could not leave
:03.960 --> :09.060
their home. It would be super expensive to get a
home that would be conducive for my mom and me.
:09.060 --> :14.700
I went to expensive schools since my dad paid
tuition but I still was behind in many other
:14.700 --> :19.440 areas. I did not have nice clothes like the
girls I went to school with and could not
:19.440 --> :24.360 afford certain extracurricular activities.
When I was twelve, my mom had grown tired
:24.360 --> :28.560 of letting me hold her back. She wanted
to pursue her dreams of being a lawyer,
:28.560 --> :34.200
so she was going to leave town. She could not take
me with her so she left me with my grandparents.
:34.200 --> :40.080 My grandparents were very strict and mean. I
could not deal with them without my mom being
:40.080 --> :45.600
there to shield me from their absurd rules. We
argued all the time, and I was always grounded.
:45.600 --> :50.640
My mom was not happy with the situation either.
She had been reluctant to leave me with her
:50.640 --> :55.560
parents because she knew just how annoying they
were. They were very strict with my mom too and
:55.560 --> :00.720 that clearly did not work out so well since
she had a baby outside of wedlock. One day,
:00.720 --> :06.360
my mom returned home and said she was taking me
along with her. My grandparents objected but my
:06.360 --> :11.880
mom was not having it. Living with my mom in her
tiny studio apartment was hard, but at least,
:11.880 --> :17.580
I did not have to deal with absurd rules, plus I
was able to express myself too. My mom was very
:17.580 --> :22.920
liberal in how she raised me. One day, my dad
visited us in her apartment. He was on one of
:22.920 --> :28.920
his business trips and thought to check on us. I
hardly ever saw my dad, we spoke for long hours on
:28.920 --> :34.560
the phone but that was it. Even our long phone
calls were often interrupted by other calls,
:34.560 --> :40.740
but he’d have me on hold and we would continue
our conversation. My dad did not look happy when
:40.740 --> :43.320 he came over to our home.
“I don’t like this place :43.320 --> :47.580
for her,” he said to my mom. “She can hear you,” my mom cautioned him.
:47.580 --> :51.540 “Yes, I can hear you!” I
exclaimed, spreading out my palms. :51.540 --> :56.580
My dad took us out for dinner that evening
and they both stepped aside to talk. They were
:56.580 --> :02.340
having a heated argument, I had never seen them
argue with so much tenacity. My parents never
:02.340 --> :07.800
argued. They had the whole co-parenting thing
on lock. Sometimes, I was convinced that they
:07.800 --> :11.580 were still madly in love with each other.
I turned around and saw them talking, :11.580 --> :14.940
the conversation was a bit more intimate and less heated.
:14.940 --> :17.820 That night, my dad asked me
if I’d like to live with him. :17.820 --> :21.780
I looked at my mom. “Are you serious, Dad?” My parents nodded.
:21.780 --> :26.940 “Well, not with me, just with my mom. I live
with her too but I’m barely ever around.” :26.940 --> :31.500
I shook my head. There was no way
I’d deal with another problematic :31.500 --> :37.860
grandparent. I told my dad that but he laughed.
“My mom is nothing like your uber-religious
:37.860 --> :42.360 grandparents,” he said, eyeing my mom.
My mom smacked him playfully :42.360 --> :47.820
and he yelped in pretend pain. “See? They are in love,” I said in my head.
:47.820 --> :53.100 A month later, I was at my grandma’s house.
“This house belongs to my mom and late father.”
:53.100 --> :57.120 My dad said to me as we drove in.
“It’s huge!” I exclaimed. :57.120 --> :59.880
“Wait until you see your room,” my dad said, smiling.
:59.880 --> :06.240 The house was a beautiful one. There were
flowers and plants all over. Dad mentioned
:06.240 --> :09.120 that Granny loves her plants.
“Just as much as she :09.120 --> :13.860
loves her grandkids,” he joked.
Just like my dad had mentioned, my room was large,
:13.860 --> :19.080 almost as big as my mom’s studio apartment.
My grandma was also very pleasant. :19.080 --> :24.300
She cooked me a nice meal and hugged me.
“Your mom is my favorite,” she said to me with a
:24.300 --> :29.700 wink. I didn't even know that she had met my mom.
I met my half-brother too. I had seen many
:29.700 --> :34.260
pictures of him and we had spoken on the phone
in the past too, but I had never met him. :34.260 --> :36.960
“Hey sis!” he called out and went back to using the phone.
:36.960 --> :41.640 “That’s rude. Come here and say hello to
your sister,” my dad called out to him. :41.640 --> :44.760
He reluctantly dropped his phone and we all had dinner together.
:44.760 --> :47.640 The next morning, my dad
took the first flight out. :48.180 --> :53.400
Living with my granny was fun. I had all the
freedom in the world. My room was also big and
:53.400 --> :59.460
I could do whatever I wanted. I attended the same
school as my half-siblings too. My half-sister who
:59.460 --> :04.860
was younger than me did not leave with us, but
I saw her often in school and we talked and have
:04.860 --> :10.800
a good relationship. I however did not have that
kind of relationship with my brother. He was rude
:10.800 --> :16.560
and uncouth. He thought himself the best thing
after sliced bread and he was a jerk in school.
:16.560 --> :21.840 My granny may be cool but she clearly
was old-fashioned in how she viewed the
:21.840 --> :27.360 sexes. She was more patient, loving, and
tolerant of my half-brother than she was
:27.360 --> :33.360 of me and my sister, even my female cousins.
She would always say “Oh boys will be boys.”
:33.360 --> :37.500 She used that excuse to gloss over
whatever bad behavior my brother had :37.500 --> :42.540
exhibited. “Your dad was like that too.
He had so much energy,” she would say. :42.540 --> :49.380
Well, my dad was not like my brother. At least
I don’t think so. My brother was wild, mean,
:49.380 --> :55.440
and very troublesome. He was a bully in school,
and even though he bullied everyone, girls still
:55.440 --> :00.840
liked him and wanted to be associated with him.
That was expected since he was very cute. The one
:00.840 --> :05.880
thing my dad and brother have in common is their
good looks. Many girls were also raised on shows
:05.880 --> :12.000
like Beauty and the Beast and many others that
normalized boys being the “beast,” so it was not
:12.000 --> :16.980
strange to me that they flocked around my brother
even when he was nothing but a jerk to them. :16.980 --> :21.780
I started to make friends in school. I was
friends with three amazing girls and we had
:21.780 --> :26.640 a great thing going on. We hung out in my
granny’s house regularly, we attended school
:26.640 --> :32.100
functions and parties together, and we played
dress up with my granny’s clothes. It was all
:32.100 --> :37.440
fun and games until my brother started sneaking
around with one of my friends. I was annoyed
:37.440 --> :42.480
because I knew she had a crush on him and that
he was only sneaking around with her. After all,
:42.480 --> :46.680 he knew she liked him. He had a girlfriend
at the time and would never leave her. :46.680 --> :51.180
What I did not know was that my brother was
not just fooling around with one of my friends.
:51.180 --> :55.800 He was fooling around with two of them. I
can’t remember how it got out in the open,
:55.800 --> :00.300 but they found out and it turned
into a huge fight. Long story short, :00.300 --> :05.220
I lost two of my friends because the two of
them could not even stand each other or be
:05.220 --> :10.080
in the same room. One of them ghosted all of us
and the second one was so hurt about the whole
:10.080 --> :14.760
thing that her mother made her never come to our
house again. The third girl and I stayed friends,
:14.760 --> :19.020 but she was one of those friends that
you’re never really close to. You only :19.020 --> :23.400
relate well with them within the group.
I hated my brother for what he did and :23.400 --> :28.260
I even confronted him about it. My
granny, as usual, took sides with him. :28.260 --> :33.120
“They knew he had a girlfriend, didn't they?
Your friends need to take responsibility for
:33.120 --> :38.040 their emotions and actions.” That was her
final verdict and the matter was put to rest. :38.040 --> :45.060
My relationship with my brother was barely okay,
but that incident ruined it for us. I just stopped
:45.060 --> :50.220 speaking to him, especially in public. Girls
at school felt I was blessed to be his sister,
:50.220 --> :54.900 but I felt embarrassed to be known as
the sister of a jerk and Cassanova. :54.900 --> :01.800
As time passed, my brother started to piss not
just me off, but even the girls at school and the
:01.800 --> :07.080
principal. The school's principal tried many times
to get him to invite his parents but my brother
:07.080 --> :12.420
always managed to wriggle his way out of it. An
example of his manipulative wriggling was when he
:12.420 --> :17.700 commented on one of his teacher’s bra straps
in class. She reported him to the principal,
:17.700 --> :23.220
but he managed to come up with a lie about how
he was talking about his girlfriend. Of course,
:23.220 --> :28.320 his girlfriend and half of the class agreed
to lie for him, and he got off the hook. :28.320 --> :33.660
The teacher and principal were not stupid,
they knew my brother’s friends were covering
:33.660 --> :37.260 up for him, but I’m sure the principal
waited for when he would err again. :37.260 --> :42.060
The last straw that broke the camel’s
back was when my brother hurt the new :42.060 --> :48.120
friend that I made in school. She was new, a
very sweet girl who was slightly overweight,
:48.120 --> :51.960 and dealt with mockery in her previous
school. She had worked on her confidence
:51.960 --> :57.180 over the summer and came to our school with
a renewed spirit. She was brimming with her
:57.180 --> :01.980 newly found confidence. I met her at the
cafeteria during lunch and sat with her,
:01.980 --> :09.000
we started a conversation and realized we had so
much in common. We soon started hanging out and
:09.000 --> :13.740 naturally, she visited me often. My friends
usually preferred to come over to my house.
:13.740 --> :18.360 Mine was comfortable, I had a big room,
and there was my granny’s large compound. :18.360 --> :23.160
One day, she told me that my brother had
asked for her number. I remembered what
:23.160 --> :27.480 had happened and warned her to stay away
from him. Even though I had warned her,
:27.480 --> :33.420
I still was not sure that she was going to listen
to me. My brother had his way with girls and she
:33.420 --> :37.860 was not used to getting a lot of attention
from guys due to her looks. I knew she would
:37.860 --> :42.960
feel flattered that someone like my brother liked
her, so I went upstairs to my brother’s room later
:42.960 --> :48.660 that evening and told him to stay away from her.
“Who are you to tell me what I can and cannot do?”
:48.660 --> :54.540
I saw that threatening him would not work, so I
decided to plead and reason with him instead. I
:54.540 --> :59.520
reminded him about what happened with my former
friends. He assured me that he really liked
:59.520 --> :04.680
her and was not out to hurt her at all. I did
not believe him, so I went on to plead with him. :04.680 --> :09.480
“I know your brother has been a jerk,
but he’s changed.” my friend said to me
:09.480 --> :12.600 when I mentioned him again.
I decided to let things be :12.600 --> :18.180
and hope that my brother was being honest
about genuinely liking her when I noticed
:18.180 --> :23.220 that she was head over heels in love with him.
Whenever she was in my house and he passed by us,
:23.220 --> :29.100
they would hug and kiss. It was really sweet what
they had going on and I relaxed and assured myself
:29.100 --> :33.720 that they were really in love. They went
on many dates at night and my friend would
:33.720 --> :37.620 sometimes sneak into his room at night when
she was supposed to sleep over at my house. :37.620 --> :42.840
I started to notice later on in their relationship
that they hardly ever spoke in public, :42.840 --> :48.900
by the public, I mean school. My brother and his
girlfriend had broken up and he was not seeing any
:48.900 --> :54.036 of those girls in school anymore, but he was
not taking my friend to dances either. I did
:54.036 --> :58.380
not bring it up because I did not want to upset
her, but I knew at the time that I’d definitely
:58.380 --> :03.180 want my boyfriend to kiss me in the hallway.
One day, she asked me if I did not think it
:03.180 --> :08.880
was weird and I admitted to her that I thought it
was and had been thinking about it for a while.
:08.880 --> :12.480 “He said he doesn’t want the other
girls to hate on me,” she told me. :12.480 --> :17.700
I did not think that made sense. Even if
the other girls hated her, it was his job
:17.700 --> :22.500 to protect her from them, but I did not say
anything so I would not upset her even more. :22.500 --> :28.080
One morning, I was just in front of my locker
reapplying my lipgloss when my brother called
:28.080 --> :33.420
out to me. I was startled and looked back. He
asked me if I knew where my friend was. The
:33.420 --> :38.040 look on his face made it clear that
he had fucked up. Long story short, :38.040 --> :42.780
my friend had told someone in school that she
was dating my brother. That person had asked
:42.780 --> :47.820
my brother about it publicly, and he’d denied
it and even made a derogatory comment about
:47.820 --> :54.060 her weight. She heard and ran to the bathroom.
I went to the bathroom and heard her crying. I
:54.060 --> :58.200 tried all I could to get her to come out,
but she refused. I had to call her mother. :58.200 --> :03.420
What had happened did not affect my friendship
with her, but she stayed away from my house.
:03.420 --> :09.060 I knew just how to get back at my brother. I
was determined to make him suffer. I spoke to
:09.060 --> :13.920
someone in the class and he promised to help me
get drugs. He handed the drugs to me at a party
:13.920 --> :18.600 and I waited for when the athletes in school
would be subjected to a drug test and search.
:18.600 --> :23.700
I knew sneaking the drugs in my brother’s backpack
would get me in trouble, so I sneaked it in at
:23.700 --> :30.180
the table during breakfast. He was caught and he
raised hell, but nobody listened. Especially not
:30.180 --> :35.700
the principal who hated him anyway. He was kicked
out of the basketball team, but he could still
:35.700 --> :40.500
play in other schools if he were to leave or after
high school (because he did not test positive.)
:40.500 --> :45.420 My arrogant brother has become
a lot less arrogant ever since. :07.980 --> :10.860
I MADE MY STEP MOM LOSE HER $60 MILLION WORTH OF INHERITANCE
:10.860 --> :16.500 Since I was five, I knew I was a privileged
kid. I grew up with all the love and comfort
:16.500 --> :21.660 a kid could have wanted. I had a maid
dedicated solely to myself and at 5, :21.660 --> :27.360
I had clothes five kids could wear for a whole
year and they still wouldn’t exhaust it. One day,
:27.360 --> :33.780
I asked my mom why I had so many clothes, and she
said: “ your father is rich darling, you can have
:33.780 --> :40.140
anything you want.” From then, I started accepting
the life of luxury I was born into. I attended
:40.140 --> :45.660
the best of schools in Boston, Massachusetts,
and went on enjoyable holidays to Disneyland
:45.660 --> :52.020 and other beautiful places during school holidays.
I knew my dad was a big deal because of the exotic
:52.020 --> :57.780 cars he drove and the number of bodyguards
always following him everywhere. One time,
:57.780 --> :02.700 he took me along with him when he went to
see the then president of the U.S, . I was
:02.700 --> :09.000
in awe because he was my hero at age 9, I knew
people around me loved him, so I loved him too.
:09.000 --> :14.400 Tragedy struck when my mom got pregnant with
my sister, Helen. The day my dad got the news
:14.400 --> :19.620 that she was pregnant, he jumped with joy
and rushed to hug her. With tearful eyes,
:19.620 --> :24.720
he told her thank you and vowed to take care of
her and all her children till his last breath
:24.720 --> :31.020
and even after he died. Despite how young I was,
I was moved by the love my dad had for his wife,
:31.020 --> :36.480 me, and my other sibling on the way.
But soon, our joy turned to anxiety :36.480 --> :43.440
because the pregnancy was a very complicated one.
I watched my mom writhe in pain sometimes that
:43.440 --> :48.480
I wished she hadn’t gotten pregnant. Even all
the money we had could not stop the pain from
:48.480 --> :53.580
reoccurring. My dad moved for a termination of
the pregnancy when he noticed that she was ill
:53.580 --> :59.520
but my mom was very adamant, she wanted to have
the baby even when it was affecting her health.
:59.520 --> :04.080 Due to the nature of my dad’s job, he was
mostly out of the country for one business
:04.080 --> :09.840 meeting to another, so, during her painful
pregnancy period, my mom sought for solace
:09.840 --> :15.060
in religion. She usually goes with her maid to
the parish in the neighbourhood for prayers from
:15.060 --> :20.220 the priest. Four months into her pregnancy,
I overheard from one of my mom’s friends that
:20.220 --> :26.040
my mom had Preeclampsia. I didn’t know what it
meant but I prayed to God that he healed my mom.
:26.040 --> :31.320 One fateful night, in the middle of the
night, I heard a piercing scream from my
:31.320 --> :36.840 mother’s room. I woke up immediately and ran
to her with all my strength. On getting there,
:36.840 --> :42.900
I saw her personal maid struggling to get her up
from the floor. My mom had a seizure that made
:42.900 --> :48.540 her fall, she was bleeding too. I panicked
and I ran blindly to call the driver from
:48.540 --> :54.420
the boys quarters. He came immediately and my
mom was rushed to the hospital. I immediately
:54.420 --> :58.260 called my dad and tearfully informed him
about the state of things with my mom. :58.260 --> :03.600
My dad took a private flight to the hospital
and immediately, he was informed by the doctor
:03.600 --> :09.480
that his consent was needed so that my mom can be
operated on. Her condition had gone too critical
:09.480 --> :15.360 for her to keep carrying the baby to its due
date. My dad consented to the surgery and we
:15.360 --> :21.780 proceeded to wait for the longest twenty-two
hours of my entire life. I prayed and begged
:21.780 --> :26.100 God to keep my mom and my sister safe.
Throughout the duration of the operation,
:26.100 --> :31.800 I could not eat nor sleep, I was anxious and
patiently waiting to see my mummy. It was
:31.800 --> :36.780 then my dad introduced me to his personal
assistant (PA) Miss Samantha, who brought
:36.780 --> :41.760
a change of clothing for me and some food too.
She hugged me and told me that everything will
:41.760 --> :46.920 be alright. At that moment, I broke down
in tears as she hugged me for a long time. :46.920 --> :52.800
The next day, the doctor came to us with
news that changed my life forever. My mom
:52.800 --> :59.460
did not make it through. The baby was in good
health but my mom died. I cried for the only
:59.460 --> :05.220
woman I loved that now laid cold on the hospital
bed. I cried for my sister who wouldn’t get to
:05.220 --> :11.100
expect the love of a mother. I cried for myself
and my dad. So many thoughts ran through my mind
:11.100 --> :15.900 at the same time. Who would sing me to sleep
at night? Who would I tell my school tales
:15.900 --> :21.840 to? Who will hold my hands when I feel afraid?
The following week, my mom was buried in a small
:21.840 --> :28.200
solemn funeral ceremony. Only close friends and
relatives were invited, including my dad’s PA.
:28.200 --> :34.020
During the funeral ceremony, she gave me a tight
hug and held my hands throughout. It was like she
:34.020 --> :39.780
was sharing in my pains and promising to be there
for me through it all. While my dad was attending
:39.780 --> :44.880
to the guest after the ceremony, she was with
me and comforting me. I felt safe with her. :44.880 --> :50.820
The only thing that kept me sane at that period
was that although I had lost my mom I gained a
:50.820 --> :56.460
new friend in my dad’s PA. She was always calling
me through video calls to keep up with me and what
:56.460 --> :01.080 I’ve been up to. My little sister was taken
care of by my grandma who travelled down to
:01.080 --> :06.780
be with us after my mom’s death. Each day made
me fall deeper in love with my sister who was
:06.780 --> :12.240 the exact replica of my mom and the bond
between me and Miss Samantha grew deeply. :12.240 --> :17.580
So, four months after my mom died, I was
excited when my dad informed me that he
:17.580 --> :21.900 would be getting married to miss Samantha so
that she could take care of me and my little
:21.900 --> :27.780
sister. It was time for grandma to leave and he
wanted us to have a motherly figure in our lives.
:27.780 --> :33.600
The wedding was low-key, my dad and my new step
mom wedded in a wedding. Only a few people were
:33.600 --> :40.080
invited and no fun fare was involved as my dad was
still in mourning. After the wedding, my dad’s PA
:40.080 --> :45.720
packed into our home to live with us. She was no
longer his P.A but his wife bit she kept working
:45.720 --> :51.060 because she loved working in dad’s company.
Days turned to months and the attitude of my
:51.060 --> :57.480
step mother towards me changed drastically. She
first made sure to dismiss most of our workers at
:57.480 --> :04.380
home. She said she detest seeing so many people in
her personal space, and my dad allowed her since
:04.380 --> :09.900
he was not at home most of the time. At first, it
started with her no longer wanting to hug me like
:09.900 --> :16.200
before. She began complaining about taking care of
my baby sister. Sometimes, she would hesitate to
:16.200 --> :21.540
check up on her when she cries at night. Whenever
I try to get to my sister’s crib to console her,
:21.540 --> :27.660 my step mom usually yanks me away and insults me.
My sister grew up without motherly affection.
:27.660 --> :33.720
That thought made me sad most of the time. She
lacked the love a mother should bestow on her
:33.720 --> :39.180
daughter and she missed out on the presence of a
fatherly figure in her life due to my dad’s busy
:39.180 --> :44.940
schedule. So, I tried my best to make her feel
loved, I constantly told her that I loved her
:44.940 --> :50.880
and she was not the reason our mom died like our
step mom insinuated when she was six years old.
:50.880 --> :57.180
One day, when my dad returned from his numerous
trips, my sister and I decided to talk to him. I
:57.180 --> :03.120
was the first to talk. I said “daddy, we hardly
see you in the house anymore. We miss you and we
:03.120 --> :07.860
don’t like the way mummy treats us”. My sister
then asked him a question with a voice close
:07.860 --> :14.040
to the brink of tears, she said “ dad, is it true
that I killed my mummy?” She started crying after
:14.040 --> :20.160
that statement, my dad moved to tears, gathered
Helen in his arms and told her she didn’t kill
:20.160 --> :24.960
her mom. He told her that she should not live with
the guilt of her mom dying the day she was born,
:24.960 --> :30.660 that she died of some medical complications
and not because of her. He then apologised
:30.660 --> :35.220 for being available and promised to be a
better dad to me and my sister. He then
:35.220 --> :39.540 gathered us together for a tight hug after
telling my sister and I that he loved us. :39.540 --> :43.980
Things grew worse with my step mom and us
after that incident. When my dad travelled
:43.980 --> :48.720
for an appointment in Paris, she stormed into
our room immediately after she came back home
:48.720 --> :53.700
from work. She told us that she overheard the
discussion we had with our dad and since we had
:53.700 --> :58.800
the audacity to report her to him that she has
just started. She said “once I’m done with you,
:58.800 --> :03.120 you won’t even find your voice to
report me to my husband, mark my word!” :03.120 --> :09.300
So, from that day, my step mom restricted our
access to the kitchen and pantry and she also
:09.300 --> :14.880
seized our credit cards. When she noticed I tried
to rebel against her, she tortured my younger
:14.880 --> :20.580
sister. Seeing my younger sister’s vulnerability,
I accepted all the evil things she did to us.
:20.580 --> :26.520
One day, I came back from college for holidays
and my step mom was at home but my sister wasn’t.
:26.520 --> :32.340 It was her prom night and I was sad I got to
miss it. By 11:00pm my sister had not returned,
:32.340 --> :37.860 my step mom was already fuming with anger
but I was calm because I knew she was in
:37.860 --> :43.740 safe hands. Her date promised to bring her
home in one piece. So by 12 midnight, my
:43.740 --> :50.400
sister breezed in. She was greeted with a hot slap
immediately she entered the house by my step mom.
:50.400 --> :56.880
She started crying but I was livid. How dared
she slap my sister! She raised her hands again
:56.880 --> :03.060
but before it could land on my sister’s back, I
held it. She was shocked by my courage. Blindly,
:03.060 --> :07.500 she reached for something, the next thing
I could feel was a hot searing pain on my
:07.500 --> :13.740
back. My step mom burned my flesh with hot iron
because I prevented her from slapping my sister!
:13.740 --> :20.400
I was dumbfounded, my sister kept crying and it
ruined her pretty face. Immediately my step mom
:20.400 --> :26.700
saw what she had done, she told us “you had better
not call 911, or else!” and she went to her room.
:26.700 --> :32.700
That night, I decided that my sister and I were
done with her wicked attitude. We packed a bag
:32.700 --> :37.320
and we went to my friend Karen’s house to spend
some time till my father came to pick us up. :37.320 --> :43.500
When Jaden's mom saw my back, she screamed,
she wanted to call the police but I stopped
:43.500 --> :48.120
her. I wanted my sister to finish high school
before I started dealing with the witch we
:48.120 --> :53.040 called a step mom. My friend's mom helped me
dress my wound after I took a picture of it.
:53.040 --> :58.020 That night, filled with pain, I cursed
my step mom and vowed to have revenge. :58.020 --> :03.600
When my dad came back home, he was surprised to
find out that his children ran out of home. He
:03.600 --> :09.240
asked my step mom who was nonchalant about it, it
was at that moment she decided to drop the news
:09.240 --> :15.900
that she was pregnant which made my dad go soft on
her. My dad made her apologize to us and we came
:15.900 --> :21.720
back home. Her pregnancy worsened her behaviour
towards us. She grounded my sister for no reason,
:21.720 --> :26.220 made her do strenuous works at home
and she was verbally abusive to me. :26.220 --> :31.380
When my sister graduated from high school,
we pleaded with our father to let us rent our
:31.380 --> :36.540 own apartment close to the college she was
attending. He accepted and we were finally
:36.540 --> :42.720 free from the wicked antics of our step mom.
We stayed very far away from home and didn’t
:42.720 --> :48.480
even return when she put to birth. Our step sister
grew but we had no connection with her because of
:48.480 --> :53.340 the behaviour of her mother. We were scarred
for life and wanted nothing to do with her. :53.340 --> :59.040
During my MSc graduation, I invited my dad
and he came with his family. My dad noticed
:59.040 --> :04.740
the tension between his wife and myself and Helen
and he tried to douse it by making silly jokes.
:04.740 --> :10.920 When it was time for us to take pictures, my
dad suddenly slumped. Pandemonium was staged
:10.920 --> :16.380
as people around were running and trying to find
help. Soon, an ambulance came and he was whisked
:16.380 --> :22.740 to the hospital. It was then I heard the bad
news that devastated me, my dad was down with a
:22.740 --> :30.240
terminal disease. He had pancreatic cancer and had
less than two years to live. I sobbed terribly,
:30.240 --> :35.940
I cried for all the years we’ve wasted without
proper communication, I cried because I was about
:35.940 --> :42.120
losing the only parent I and my sister have. I
cried because he didn’t deserve to die that way.
:42.120 --> :47.880
After my dad was resuscitated and started home
treatment, he called for a family meeting. He
:47.880 --> :51.900
begged all of us to be at peace with one another
and forgive every wrong we did to one another.
:51.900 --> :56.940 He told us that he was about to die and he
needed to draft a will and he will give us
:56.940 --> :01.860 the opportunity to choose which of his vast
properties we want for ourselves next week. :01.860 --> :06.660
On the day of the meeting, my step mom was
the first to make a request. She requested
:06.660 --> :11.880
that my father’s Fintech company be willed to
her. She wanted sole ownership of the company
:11.880 --> :17.340 and we his children could be top members of
the board of directors. I just shook my head
:17.340 --> :24.180
in disgust. This had been her plan all along. I
knew she badly wanted the company for herself so
:24.180 --> :29.880
I was ready to do all I could to make sure she
didn’t get it. My dad agreed to her request and
:29.880 --> :35.520 that of every other person present in the room.
At night, I went to my father’s room. I told
:35.520 --> :40.800
him that his wife was not worthy to take over
his company. I then went ahead to narrate all
:40.800 --> :46.560
the evil things she did to me and Helen when we
were still under her care. My dad was stupefied,
:46.560 --> :51.960
he was angry that we went through all that without
informing him. What broke him was when I showed
:51.960 --> :58.320
him the scar I got from the hot iron she pressed
on my back. He cried and narrated how unloving
:58.320 --> :03.540 his wife had been to him since we left home.
He asked what I wanted and I said “I wanted her
:03.540 --> :07.800 to lose ownership of your company”.
He sighed and asked I excused him. :07.800 --> :15.780
On 15th November 2022, my dad died. It was a sad
moment for everyone. After the funeral, my mum
:15.780 --> :21.120
called my dad’s lawyer to read the will. She was
beaming with smiles when he opened the document.
:21.120 --> :27.720
What she heard next made her face fall and she
burst into tears when the lawyer announced that:
:27.720 --> :32.160 “ My Rockfest Company is hereby
willed to my son, Hemsworth, :32.160 --> :38.940
he is permitted to do to it as he seems fit”.
At that moment, I smiled, I took what was most
:38.940 --> :45.420
precious to my step mom and I felt satisfied.
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:00.269 --> :19.251 I'm a 25M and married to a 26F named Carol,
and her mother, Danielle, who is 61, is a :19.251 --> :23.880
complete bag of garbage, and that's the nicest thing to say.
:23.880 --> :27.949 During Carol's childhood, Danielle would always
belittle Carol and manipulate her into the :27.949 --> :33.610
most BS stuff, mostly always claiming that
her father abandoned them in CO to seek fame :33.610 --> :39.200
and fortune in CA and refusing to pay child
support, whereas she would actually spend :39.200 --> :44.250
said child support on her own self, buying
books and clothes and not supporting her daughter. :44.250 --> :49.120
Danielle also changed Carol's last name on
social security to Danielle's last name when :49.120 --> :54.620
she was a little kid, which made it incredibly
difficult for Carol to find a job as an adult :54.620 --> :57.900
because she was an illegal alien to the US government.
:57.900 --> :02.109 That meant she had 1 last name on her birth
certificate, and a different last name on :02.109 --> :04.190
her social security card. :04.190 --> :08.610
Danielle also had a very crap job that didn't
pay the best and had to get an apartment with :08.610 --> :14.360
Carol under Carol's name because Danielle
had crap credit and Carol had a 0 credit score :14.360 --> :18.080
because she was 18 at the time and didn't have her own bills to pay.
:18.080 --> :22.300 Danielle kept getting on Carol's case about
not having a job, but Carol said she couldn't :22.300 --> :23.810
because of the name issue. :23.810 --> :28.049
They ended up getting evicted due to failure
to pay rent because Danielle's job wasn't :28.049 --> :32.190
enough to pay for a luxury apartment and had to move in with grandma.
:32.190 --> :36.649 Danielle later lost her job during covid and
has been unemployed ever since. :36.649 --> :41.829
There's way too many scenarios about how Danielle
would take advantage of her own daughter but :41.829 --> :44.170
I don't wanna bore y'all with the details. :44.170 --> :45.850
Anyway onto the story. :45.850 --> :51.329
Back in late 2021, while me and Carol were
engaged, she wanted to join the US navy. :51.329 --> :55.469
She got her name changed to her father's last
name on social security to match her birth :55.469 --> :00.740
certificate and even gave her recruiter child custody papers to prove her name.
:00.740 --> :05.520 She enlisted, got through basic, completed
her A schooling, and got her orders to serve :05.520 --> :06.540
on a ship. :06.540 --> :11.980
We got married in September 2022 before she
was shipped to VA for her new orders. :11.980 --> :17.480
While Carol was serving, and I spent time
packing my belongings to move out to VA myself, :17.480 --> :23.180
I learned that Danielle was going to therapy
to possibly move on, or so I imagined. :23.180 --> :28.230
I tried so dang hard to stay away from her
during that time but she was always bugging :28.230 --> :31.459
me wondering why Carol wasn't talking to her during the day.
:31.459 --> :36.560 I let her know on repeated occasions that
she has no cell service on her ship, but to :36.560 --> :40.800
her, it was just one of those in-one-ear-and-right-out-the-other things.
:40.800 --> :45.099 I eventually made it to VA in December 2022
to be with Carol. :45.099 --> :48.050
We have been ignoring all of Danielle's calls for a while.
:48.050 --> :49.090 Fast forward to April.
:49.090 --> :53.190 Carol gets a text from Danielle asking her
to call her to talk. :53.190 --> :57.420
They talk on the phone for a while and Carol
learns that her grandma is not doing well. :57.420 --> :02.970
I also get my brothers HS graduation invitation
in the mail and I wanna see him graduate in :02.970 --> :08.060
May, which means Carol wants to see her grandma
because she fears that she may not make it :08.060 --> :10.349
to the end of 2023. :10.349 --> :14.540
Danielle seemed to be super nice and Carol
and I both thought she changed because of :14.540 --> :16.629
all the therapy she had been getting. :16.629 --> :21.780
So last week, we fly back to CO and Danielle
loans us her car while we're there and was :21.780 --> :25.030
being way too nice to us like a decent human. :25.030 --> :29.320
We see my brother walk across the stage and Carol gets to see her grandma.
:29.320 --> :34.049 While there, we learn that grandma wants to
move into a "more safer place" with Carol's :34.049 --> :35.819
aunt because of her health. :35.819 --> :40.239
And Danielle has to move somewhere else because,
in her eyes, "everyone doesn't wanna take :40.239 --> :43.090
me in because the family doesn't like me". :43.090 --> :47.750
We told her that if we weren't living in a
650 square foot 1 bedroom apartment on the :47.750 --> :50.670
other side of the country, then we could help her. :50.670 --> :54.690
Again, she starts being even nicer to us while still in CO.
:54.690 --> :59.890 I even warned Carol that her being nice could
mean something bad in the future, given her :59.890 --> :01.570
past behavior. :01.570 --> :02.570 Carol agreed.
:02.570 --> :08.220 A few days after we flew back to VA, which
was 5 days ago, Carol gets a text from Danielle :08.220 --> :12.579
saying that she's gonna have to live in her car because nobody will help her in.
:12.579 --> :17.090 Carol asked her why she can't get a job and
get her own apartment, and she said that "I :17.090 --> :22.470
can't get a job at my age", and "it's been
too long", and "it's very expensive to live :22.470 --> :25.410
on your own, especially in CO". :25.410 --> :30.500
Carol told her that we unfortunately can't
help her because 1, we live in a small apartment, :30.500 --> :34.820
and 2, we live 7 states away on the other side of the country.
:34.820 --> :36.380 So now here we are today.
:36.380 --> :40.100 I'm at work and I get a call from Carol saying
that she needs to be with me. :40.100 --> :43.850
I ask if everything's OK, because I can tell she's not.
:43.850 --> :46.020 She said she would talk about it when she
got there. :46.020 --> :50.240
30 minutes later, she shows up and I go on my lunch break with her.
:50.240 --> :56.771 She tells me that her mom literally asked
for $1000 to help her move from CO to VA so :56.771 --> :58.639
she could be with us. :58.639 --> :00.789 ONE THOUSAND DOLLARS!!
:00.789 --> :05.170 We told her multiple times we couldnt help
her because we dont have that kinda room. :05.170 --> :10.430
We let alone dont have $1000 to just give
away because we live paycheck-to-paycheck. :10.430 --> :12.660
I was so flabbergasted! :12.660 --> :17.770
And Carol told me that her being super super
nice in recent times was way too good to be :17.770 --> :20.680
true (which is what I felt would happen). :20.680 --> :23.980
She either didn't get the therapy she needed, or she lied.
:23.980 --> :27.229 Idk what the case was about that because there's
no proof. :27.229 --> :32.470
I wasn't around for this part, but Carol and
Danielle argued over the phone, more like :32.470 --> :34.610
cussing each other out persé. :34.610 --> :39.550
Danielle was upset with Carol for not providing
a home for her when she did it for her 1st :39.550 --> :44.069
20 years of life and now Carol can't "return the favor".
:44.069 --> :47.520 Carol then told her mother, "JUST FREAK OFF
ALREADY!" :47.520 --> :49.840
before hanging up and blocking her completely. :49.840 --> :55.210
Danielle is now homeless and living in her
nissan sentra, but we couldn't care less. :55.210 --> :00.289
All those years Carol had to endure due to
Danielle's entitled and narcissistic behavior :00.289 --> :05.230
is now biting her in the butt, and nobody
wants to live with her because of this, because :05.230 --> :09.570
that bench only cares about herself and knows
what she's doing is wrong and doesn't give :09.570 --> :10.570 a crap.
:10.570 --> :13.139 I personally and honestly don't care if she dies.
:13.139 --> :17.000 I will pee on her grave when she dies This
happened almost six years ago. :17.000 --> :18.000
I had just turned 20. :18.000 --> :20.669
At the time, I was a college student with
no job, but I occasionally worked as a babysitter. :20.669 --> :25.539
It wasn't anything too serious and I charged
almost nothing, but I was good with kids and :25.539 --> :26.539
parents liked me. :26.539 --> :30.560
Plus, it was the first "job" I ever had, so I was proud of it.
:30.560 --> :36.310 During vacations, I went to the mall with
three of my friends to see "Spider-Man: Homecoming"
:36.310 --> :37.670 at the movies. :37.670 --> :43.710
We got there early, and decided to stop at
a toy store so one of my friends could buy :43.710 --> :45.380
a birthday gift for his cousin. :45.380 --> :50.979
There was a candy kiosk nearby, and I wanted
to get some for the movie, so I told my friends :50.979 --> :53.620
to go ahead without me, and I'd meet them in the store.
:53.620 --> :57.560 As I was buying the candy, the store was giving
out samples of a new product. :57.560 --> :01.330
It was some kind of long chocolate stick (think Pocky, but thicker).
:01.330 --> :03.710 They gave me one for free, and I left.
:03.710 --> :07.530 I bit into it once or twice and went back
to the store to meet my friends. :07.530 --> :16.340
As I was walking through the doll aisle, I
passed by a little girl (about 7 or 8) and :16.340 --> :17.910
her mother (EM). :17.910 --> :20.930
I put my hand that was holding the chocolate down for a second.
:20.930 --> :25.960 Seconds later, the girl came up to me, quickly
snatched the candy from my hand and shoved :25.960 --> :28.199
the piece she'd broken off in her mouth. :28.199 --> :31.720
I yelled out a quick "what the heck?" (careful
not to swear at kids), which got EM's attention. :31.720 --> :32.720
I explained what had happened to her. :32.720 --> :33.720
To my absolute shock at the time, the mom
seemed to be angry at the daughter at first, :33.720 --> :34.720
demanding she'd apologize to me. :34.720 --> :35.720
But the girl was making excuses (she was hungry;
the chocolate was right in front of her; she :35.720 --> :36.720
wanted it more than me) and seemed to think she had nothing to apologize for.
:36.720 --> :37.720 As she proceeded to tell her mom she'd done
nothing wrong, EM said something along the :37.720 --> :38.720
lines of, "I know, honey, but we don't want
the lady to call security now, do we?" :38.720 --> :39.720 Umm, what?
:39.720 --> :40.720 EM then turned back to me, "I mean really,
my daughter is eight years old. :40.720 --> :41.720
You're a grown woman. :41.720 --> :42.720
You shouldn't be making such a big deal about chocolate."
:42.720 --> :43.720 I pointed out that if she wanted candy, they
could literally get some for free at the kiosk :43.720 --> :44.720
herself. :44.720 --> :45.720 There was no need to steal mine.
:45.720 --> :46.720 EM continued to defend her daughter, insisting
that I "might as well just get more chocolate :46.720 --> :47.720
myself." :47.720 --> :48.720 I was ticked, but I didn't want things to
get blown out of proportion. :48.720 --> :49.720
For some reason, though, I hoped the daughter
would at least begin to understand why she :49.720 --> :50.720
couldn't go around stealing people's food. :50.720 --> :51.720
So I said, "ma'am, I'm trying really hard to be patient here.
:51.720 --> :52.720 I'm a nanny. :52.720 --> :53.720
But how could it possibly be okay for your
daughter to steal candy from a complete stranger :53.720 --> :54.720
like that?" :54.720 --> :55.720
Next thing I know, my face was burning and
there was a large handprint across my cheek. :55.720 --> :56.720
EM also had large rings that almost broke my skin. :56.720 --> :57.720
She was screaming at me, but I was too shocked to pay attention.
:57.720 --> :58.720 One of my friends heard the commotion and
came to see what was going on. :58.720 --> :59.720
I told him EM had slapped me, so he called security.
:59.720 --> :00.720 Before they could arrive, EM told her daughter
not to tell them anything. :00.720 --> :01.720
Me and my friend exchanged looks, and silently
agreed we'd be better parents in the future. :01.720 --> :02.720
The Paul Blarts came and escorted EM and her daughter out.
:02.720 --> :03.720 I later found out they'd been banned from
the toy store for their troubles, and that :03.720 --> :04.720
was more than enough for me. :04.720 --> :05.720
I ended up buying more chocolate sticks. :05.720 --> :06.720
I hope that kid turned out okay. :06.720 --> :07.720
My mum 40f is mad at my sister 15f because
she wants to move out with my other sister. :07.720 --> :08.720
Which I find weird because isn't your goal
as a parent for your children to move and :08.720 --> :09.720
become independent? :09.720 --> :10.720
I find It weird and I want to know how to be supportive of my sister.
:10.720 --> :11.720 So this happened two years back, thought of
sharing it here.I was so worked as an engineer :11.720 --> :12.720
at a heritage museum, and at the end of the
tour of the heritage museum, we had these :12.720 --> :13.720
rideable trains that kids and their parents
could ride on to blow off the steam (pun intended) :13.720 --> :14.720
from the boringness of the tour. :14.720 --> :15.720
So I was given the job of driving these trains. :15.720 --> :16.720
Driving these trains was the best job in the
museum, and I was fulfilling my lifelong dream :16.720 --> :17.720
of going on a steam train, blowing the whistle,
listening to the kids all cheering and giggling :17.720 --> :18.720
with glee, and genuinely having a good time with my passion.
:18.720 --> :19.720 So as the engineer, you get to decide what
train you want to drive for the day. :19.720 --> :20.720
I was going to drive the best steam train in the shed.
:20.720 --> :21.720 It was the streamlined silver New York Hudson
J3A Dreyfuss. :21.720 --> :22.720
It was a sight to see, and the whistle was loud and monstrous.
:22.720 --> :23.720 Anywho, I decided to take it for a test drive
before I took the passengers out for our one-mile :23.720 --> :28.410
track with tunnels, hills, bends, Tressel bridges, and crossing gates.
:28.410 --> :33.320 I did the daily routine of oiling the axles,
steaming the train, and cleaning the overall :33.320 --> :36.930
look to ensure it was as shiny and silver as possible.
:36.930 --> :39.459 I drove the train in the direction of our
train yard. :39.459 --> :41.279 Ok, so let me set the scene.
:41.279 --> :45.630 I was going to go through a railroad crossing,
and before that, there was a parking lot on :45.630 --> :49.660
the left side of the track, while there was a whistle post on the other side.
:49.660 --> :53.970 So this post was there to tell an engineer
to blow the whistle before coming to a railroad :53.970 --> :54.970
crossing. :54.970 --> :58.620
I blew the whistle and immediately heard a car honk.
:58.620 --> :00.560 I did not have time to turn around.
:00.560 --> :05.930 The honk probably woke someone up, or a friendly
person saw me coming and did a friendly honk. :05.930 --> :08.790
I went to pick up the cars and drove to the station.
:08.790 --> :12.399 There was a crowd of kids and their parents
looking at our manager's booth, and there :12.399 --> :13.470
was yelling. :13.470 --> :18.660
I did my usual thing of breaking and using
my bell instead of my whistle to tell my manager :18.660 --> :22.740
I had arrived on time.The manager and an angry woman came out.
:22.740 --> :24.089 Let's call her EM. :24.089 --> :26.490
EM (pointed at me): HIM! :26.490 --> :29.390
I got up from my train idling, :29.390 --> :31.200 Me: Me, Ma'am?
:31.200 --> :36.290 EM: HOW DAre you try to scare my kids and
me while we were taking a nap?!? :36.290 --> :39.339
This was probably the person who honked my car at me.
:39.339 --> :42.760 Me: I'm sorry, ma'am, but I was following
the sign's directions. :42.760 --> :46.420
EM: Well, look how traumatized my kids are?!? :46.420 --> :52.430
Her kids were fawning over the silver Dreyfuss,
taking pictures, not looking traumatized or :52.430 --> :53.430
scared. :53.430 --> :57.279
Manager: Ma'am, he was following directions, and please stop yelling.
:57.279 --> :59.130 You're scaring the other kids.
:59.130 --> :02.310 So if you're going to ride, I am going to
need to see your ticket. :02.310 --> :07.480
Some kids in line to ride my train's passenger
cars looked uncomfortable and antsy. :07.480 --> :09.930
They probably wanted the train ride to start. :09.930 --> :14.490
The parents were looking at the EM because
they didn't want to deal with their antsy :14.490 --> :15.490 kids.
:15.490 --> :17.270 EM ( huffed): FINE! :17.270 --> :20.029
But my kids should ride in the front with the engineer.
:20.029 --> :24.089 EM gave the ticket to my manager and my manager
looked at the ticket. :24.089 --> :28.990
Manager: Ma'am, FIRST of all, you needed to
book the ticket online and choose the seats :28.990 --> :30.610
for your kids and you. :30.610 --> :35.670
The front near the engineer and the back near
the caboose is our most popular options, this :35.670 --> :38.269
ticket is for the middle train cars. :38.269 --> :40.950
SECONDLY, this ticket is for tomorrow. :40.950 --> :42.950
So I can not let you ride today. :42.950 --> :44.899
OP start the train. :44.899 --> :50.300
EM started to have another tirade with the
manager, and I went over to the two kids of :50.300 --> :53.010
EM to tell them I was starting the train. :53.010 --> :57.510
I felt bad for them for having a psychotic
mother like that, so I gave them a golden :57.510 --> :01.160
train keychain that I gave everyone at the end of a train ride.
:01.160 --> :07.380 We were a few minutes behind schedule (thanks
so much EM), So I yelled "All aboard", blew :07.380 --> :13.269
the whistle, and left the station a little
too quickly.I drove the train, and I was coming :13.269 --> :19.310
up on a railroad crossing and saw the EM pulling
up to the dropping gates of the crossing. :19.310 --> :21.769
I had a devilish thought in my head. :21.769 --> :29.040
I dropped the speed to 10-15 mph; Karen was
honking her car and screaming at me; I just :29.040 --> :57.529
looked at her and smiled, putting my hands up.Me: I'm just following the rules
:57.529 --> :00.950 I'm so confused and I feel terrible rn.
:00.950 --> :04.610 So my parents have been abusive twords me
in the past in many ways. :04.610 --> :09.611
They would beat me for little to no reason
most times they'd make me babysit cook clean :09.611 --> :14.600
feed ECT my lil sibling and adults along with too many dogs.
:14.600 --> :19.019 And for a long time we lived in filth because
I was the only one cleaning and I couldn't :19.019 --> :22.019
keep up with 6 different people living in our house.
:22.019 --> :25.010 They also emotional and mentally abused me.
:25.010 --> :31.670 So obviously I (transm16) would be mad at
my parents especially my mother since she :31.670 --> :33.170
hasn't changed at all. :33.170 --> :37.620
I was on the way to an interview for a job
I didn't get and me and my mom's girlfriend :37.620 --> :39.530
started talking about my mother. :39.530 --> :44.930
The conversation went into my past and how
I'm mad that my parents did what they did, :44.930 --> :49.760
and I'm getting a job so I won't be home all
day and I can save money for myself. :49.760 --> :54.880
She started to say how I felt was weird and
then said "when you get older you'll realize :54.880 --> :59.910
that parenting has no handbook and they do
things that aren't good but they still love :59.910 --> :00.910 you.
:00.910 --> :05.670 I remember when my step mom insert abuse here
(not my place to say what she went through) :05.670 --> :09.860
and I ran from her but I still forgave my dad even though he never helped.
:09.860 --> :14.470 Your mom was Ina abusive relationship with
your dad which caused her to do this all. :14.470 --> :16.610
You'll see and forgive her one day" :16.610 --> :22.010
I obviously got a bit upset because I thought
she was the one person who'd actually listen :22.010 --> :25.120
to me and not say something like that to me. :25.120 --> :27.820
I just changed the subject but it still hurts. :27.820 --> :33.420
I know parenting is hard I Basically raised
my siblings but I think that a good parent :33.420 --> :39.190
would make sure their childrens house was
atleast not filled with dogs and trash everywhere. :39.190 --> :42.890
I'd think a parent wouldn't leave their job for the kids to do.
:42.890 --> :47.510 I think a responsible parent wouldn't give
their 12 year old kid a gun on their birthday :47.510 --> :52.340
even though they asked for new glasses.i think
a responsible parent wouldn't spend so much :52.340 --> :56.740
money on their partners and weed Instead of making sure there was food.
:56.740 --> :01.639 I think a responsible parent wouldn't make
their child a therapist for themselves, and :01.639 --> :05.949
it got so bad their kid doesn't know how to
help themselves and will stay Ina abusive :05.949 --> :10.690
friendship and get groomed by grown women
and men just because they are offered something :10.690 --> :12.139
the parent never gave. :12.139 --> :16.990
I'd think that would be you know the basics
but apparently there needs to be a handbook :16.990 --> :18.460
for this all now. :18.460 --> :22.930
I just feel so betrayed because the girlfriend
was supposed to be the one person i could :22.930 --> :25.139
trust but now I don't. :25.139 --> :30.410
Since of course she went and told my mom everything
I said, so now I'm shutting down again. :30.410 --> :34.529
I know on here there's people that'll give me advice and I need that right now.
:34.529 --> :06.480 Do I completely shut the girlfriend off too now??
:06.480 --> :11.540 As someone involved in farming and agriculture,
I’m in quite a few farm related groups, :11.540 --> :13.820
and earlier this morning I came across this post: :13.820 --> :18.380
“Went to visit some of my husbands friends in KY 9 hours away.
:18.380 --> :20.180 Our small son enjoyed thier farm.
:20.180 --> :24.430 They had a bottle calf and would not let our
9 year old help bottle feed it. :24.430 --> :27.259
Said their teenage son would feed it when he got home.
:27.259 --> :31.050 Acted like it was a big deal and only their
son could feed the calf. :31.050 --> :35.170
I’ve raised bottle calf’s throughout my
life and I just didn’t understand the reasoning :35.170 --> :36.170
With these folks. :36.170 --> :39.350
We are farm folks but don’t have cows right now. :39.350 --> :42.910
I would let visitors feed anything I have and not even think about it.
:42.910 --> :46.230 I’m always glad to introducing kids to AG.
:46.230 --> :47.230 Just disappointed.” :47.230 --> :51.540
Like, ma’am, your kid is not entitled to feed anyone else’s animals just because
:51.540 --> :53.730 you want him to experience it.
:53.730 --> :57.600 No one needs to give you an explanation why
your kid isn’t allowed to do something with :57.600 --> :59.070
their property. :59.070 --> :03.210
And I can think of at least a dozen reasons
why they wouldn’t be ok with a child feeding :03.210 --> :22.040
an animal and instead want their own teenage son to feed it.
:22.040 --> :26.009 This is something she does all a the time,
it’s literally the biggest reason why my :26.009 --> :29.690
relationship with my mother is pretty much superficial.
:29.690 --> :34.110 This morning my mom was complaining that there
was “TRASH ALL OVER THE FLOOR”….. :34.110 --> :40.180
There was ONE bottle cap on floor that I overlooked,
She went on to whine about how exhausting :40.180 --> :45.230
I am and about how “everyday he finds a new way to stress me out, I don’t think
:45.230 --> :47.660 there is a single grown man that lives here”
:47.660 --> :51.730 Why does she have to act like I’m such a
horrible person for something this petty. :51.730 --> :56.269
She’s the same person who will let the dishes pile up for weeks before washing.
:56.269 --> :00.819 But if I were to forget to wash my dishes
she’d be sure to dig into me about it. :00.819 --> :04.809
Even though she paints herself as a victim
it seems like she just enjoys putting other :04.809 --> :09.179
people down🤷🏾♂️ But unfortunately I’m the only one who see’s that side of
:09.179 --> :30.800 her💯🙄 I would like to start with the
fact I am not discriminating against someone :30.800 --> :33.580
who is autistic or trying to be a douche. :33.580 --> :37.600
I was at Universal Studios in Orlando a few weeks back, solo.
:37.600 --> :43.450 I’m line for one of the shows, naturally,
it was packed because it was Worlds for cheerleading.
:43.450 --> :48.180 The announcement comes on that everyone needs
to move forward and squeeze together. :48.180 --> :50.460
Everyone packs together in the typical way. :50.460 --> :53.760
All the sudden, this woman says, “you need
to watch what you are doing when there is :53.760 --> :55.950
an autistic person near you.” :55.950 --> :00.530
Apparently, I bumped into him with my Fanny
pack, as I had been bumped into by many other :00.530 --> :01.700
people as well. :01.700 --> :06.270
I just looked at her and said, “lady, I’m
sorry, but I have no way of knowing he is :06.270 --> :10.190
autistic, unless you want me to start judging
people by their physical appearance.” :10.190 --> :13.460
Mind you, this guy was at least in his 40s. :13.460 --> :17.620
The look of utter shock on her face was fantastic. :17.620 --> :22.000
Moments later, she shoves her way to the front
and demands to be seated in the front row :22.000 --> :24.700
center because her son is autistic. :24.700 --> :28.500
The employees let her because they clearly didn’t want to deal with her.
:28.500 --> :32.080 She looked sharply at me to show that she
was getting what she wanted. :32.080 --> :36.850
She clearly uses the fact that her son is
differently abled to do whatever she wants. :36.850 --> :42.159
Also, if you don’t want to get bumped into,
don’t go to crowded places, it happens. :42.159 --> :46.750
Seriously though, am I supposed to start judging
people’s medical abilities based on appearance :46.750 --> :58.720
alone? :58.720 --> :02.740
I had an appointment this week the woman who
was helping me mentioned that her daughter :02.740 --> :05.720
and her fiance are expecting their first baby. :05.720 --> :09.170
She didn't like that they don't want to know
the gender, and even said she offered to pay :09.170 --> :12.559
for them to get an extra ultrasound to find out. :12.559 --> :15.800
Like the couple cares about that - they don't want to know the gender!
:15.800 --> :20.480 Then she goes off on how she expects them
to name the baby after her, even if it's just :20.480 --> :24.720
the middle name, because she is the only grandparent who will be involved.
:24.720 --> :29.520 She went as far as to tell me, "If they don't
name this baby after me, I'm not buying any :29.520 --> :30.520
diapers! :30.520 --> :35.660
If this were my mother or MIL, I would have no problem standing my ground.
:35.660 --> :36.710 But it's not. :36.710 --> :41.210
Part of me wants to mind my own business,
but another part of me wants to warn her against :41.210 --> :47.669
this behavior so she doesn't find herself
on the outs with her daughter, FSIL, and grandchild.
:47.669 --> :52.520 Do any of you speak out to entitled grandmas-to-be
in this kind of situation? :52.520 --> :53.520 What do you say?
:53.520 --> :58.080 I'm going to see this woman again in two weeks,
so I'd like to have a few comments prepared :58.080 --> :23.360
if she brings it up again. :23.360 --> :24.900 My mom is Pakistani.
:24.900 --> :29.280 She regularly complains that I’ve never
bought her tickets to go visit Pakistan (even :29.280 --> :34.100
though I did already in 2020 before Covid)
and is constantly telling me how I have to :34.100 --> :42.720
buy them for her when they cost between $1400-1600
but also gets angry/upset with me when I spend :42.720 --> :50.110
$4.50 on a Large Strawberry Lemonade from
Wendy’s or spend $3.80 buying myself two :50.110 --> :55.120 donuts.
:55.120 --> :21.309 I'm (18 m) So :21.309 --> :26.470
for backstory I was on a train with me and
my family (not like subway or anything but, :26.470 --> :32.160
like a 1-day train in India)and trains in
India are stereotyped for being dirty and :32.160 --> :38.500
stuff like but, we rode in 2nd class A/C which
is cleaned every single day also the people :38.500 --> :42.870
aren't usually chill but if you don't bother them they don't bother you.
:42.870 --> :49.580 Here enters EM and EF, they enter the train,
and it is immediately recognizable that this :49.580 --> :53.570
is their first time they have rode on the
expensive side of the train (I'm not trying :53.570 --> :58.100
to be snobbish, but you get what you pay,
and we would have gone for a cheaper ticket :58.100 --> :03.130
if there were seats on the train) it was about
4:00Am and they were walking through the corridor :03.130 --> :08.820
with loud noises, three children, two of them
crying, and they woke up the NL (Nice Lady) :08.820 --> :11.320
because they needed two more seats for the kids. :11.320 --> :13.490
The NL woke up and questioned them. :13.490 --> :19.350
(she was speaking a south Indian language,
but she understood the EM and EF Language :19.350 --> :24.960
But they didn't understand hers) They said
that "Stop speaking such primitive language :24.960 --> :30.429
and give us your seats because we have kids,
and we deserve it"(obviously in their language) :30.429 --> :36.480
so, the NL immediately started speaking English(Remember
that she understood them, but they couldn't :36.480 --> :42.520
understand her)"I'm sorry, but these are my
seats and why didn't you buy two extra tickets". :42.520 --> :47.160
For this one of the young boys who looked
like 11ish stepped up to translate this to :47.160 --> :53.150
his parents after he spoke The EM then started
"speak to us only in Hindi because your mouth :53.150 --> :00.000
doesn't deserve English"(yeah, she said that)
.the NL who was about 45ish had already become :00.000 --> :04.320
friends with my mother and aunt because it
was a long journey, and they needed someone :04.320 --> :10.020
else to chat and also the NL was nothing but
nice towards our family and was travelling :10.020 --> :16.650
with her family of around 7 people (herself,
her husband, her MIL, and four of her kids) :16.650 --> :21.330
she also offered me to play a game of UNO
with her kids and some of them are still my :21.330 --> :22.330
friends. :22.330 --> :25.039
The NL then stated the same sentence in Hindi. :25.039 --> :31.059
The EM said that" I have Kids and you don't
so give up your seat and sit on the floor". :31.059 --> :36.320
The NL told them to F off and give their seats
to their children and sit on the floor. :36.320 --> :42.450
The EM wouldn't have this so when the NL went
to get something from her bag the EM jumped :42.450 --> :44.490
on the seat and hauled her kids on it. :44.490 --> :50.190
The NL with a very calm face said "woman this is not your seat pls get off".
:50.190 --> :56.299 The EM said "Finders Keepers"(Not exactly
but along the lines of that) and because of :56.299 --> :02.090
this we offered the NL a seat and seated my
Cousin who was a baby at the time on my aunt's :02.090 --> :06.780
lap, but the NL politely declined and went
to sit with her family, but we thought nothing :06.780 --> :09.720
of it until the EK enter the story. :09.720 --> :16.950
I was about 14 to 15 at the time and was playing
Mario Kart on my iPad then one of the EK instantly :16.950 --> :22.090
tries to ply the thing from my hands, but
I was older than him So, he wasn't able to :22.090 --> :23.090 get it.
:23.090 --> :25.000 I said" Dude what are you trying to do?"
:25.000 --> :29.700 to that he replies "I want that game" and
immediately say no to him due to the trying :29.700 --> :32.159
to snatch it and not ask for it. :32.159 --> :35.370
So after a couple of minutes later, the EM asks me :35.370 --> :37.399
"can my son have that game" :37.399 --> :38.750 "No" I replied
:38.750 --> :43.760 "But why, my angel is bored, and he deserves
it" with a smug kind of look :43.760 --> :48.550
"I said your 'angel' tried to snatch it from me without asking"
:48.550 --> :53.070 "what are you talking about he would never
do that" in a shocked tone :53.070 --> :58.530
"okay what ever helps you sleep at night and
keeping your son entertained is not my responsibility"
:58.530 --> :59.530 I said :59.530 --> :03.340
They didn't bother me after that, but, know what you're here for.
:03.340 --> :09.610 After about an hour after the iPad incident,
the EK went to explore the train, so the NL :09.610 --> :12.510
politely sat in one of HER seats. :12.510 --> :15.970
EM: Why are you sitting in my son's seat? :15.970 --> :19.559
NL: I'm not sitting in your son's seat, he was sitting in mine.
:19.559 --> :23.690 EM: No, he was sitting there, and you have
to get up before he comes. :23.690 --> :28.090
NL: i and not moving from here, you could do what ever you want.
:28.090 --> :31.960 The EM with a Smug look called the EF.
:31.960 --> :35.510 EF: what seems to be the problem here.
:35.510 --> :40.500 EM: this lady is sitting in EK seats, make
her stand up. :40.500 --> :43.380
This is the part where all heck breaks loose :43.380 --> :49.179
The EF raises his hand looking like he was
about to slap her (Here in India slapping :49.179 --> :55.980
another person especially a woman is not only
highly frown upon but also illegal) So basically :55.980 --> :01.669
every adult man who saw this stood up and
started to yell at the EF for doing this. :01.669 --> :07.410
The EF became as tame as a kitten for the rest of the trip, but the EM didn't.
:07.410 --> :12.220 She called the police, and they came aboard
the next station and questioned her what happened. :12.220 --> :18.309
As usual, she made false accusations on how
they "stole their seat" and "they thrashed :18.309 --> :23.549
my husband" when nothing like that happened
and when the true story came out they were :23.549 --> :27.610
asked to eave this coach and move to the lower coaches.
:27.610 --> :05.789 The story ends in a happy ending with them
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aita for losing my [ __ ] on my husband on
the day of his family reunion I'm a 35 y o f married to a 38 y oh man we have
been together for 10 years and have two children nine and five my husband works
very hard he has multiple jobs he works throughout the week recently we had a
discussion about taking time off and spending some time together it is
difficult because of things in his past he accumulated a lot of debt which is
why he works so much I work 60 plus HRS a week and take care of the household
and childcare things while much of his income goes to paying his debts I keep
up with the household I do the housew work and Lawn work repairs Etc and he
contributes where he can within this year he has taken time off for family
and cooworker events he has scheduled time to take trips with his friends and
when he does so I'm the designated babysitter many days after he gets home
he is responsible for his parents he takes them grocery shopping fixes things
at their household and does some of their housework I forgot to mention he
is one of five and all four siblings live close to his Parental Home his
parents assist in child care for his siblings but not for ours I've told him
my frustrations of being consistently placed on the back burner the other day
I lost it I found out he invited his family to house for a family reunion
last week I thought he took time off of work and he didn't the house was a mess
and most of the mess is his I was expected to clean the house get the
groceries run the kids to their weekend events start cooking and get the reunion
set up as he set the time for 400 p.m. the time he gets out of work the kids
are helpful in doing their chores and cleaning their rooms I got the house
clean and by the time his family started pouring and I was stewing as he was at
work he asked me why there weren't any clean towels as he was going to take a
shower and I freaked out in front of his whole family I ran down the list of how
I am always on the back burner for these people how I am one person person and
I'm the one contributing to the household well he works just to pay off
his debts how I have no security or support in this relationship and that he
is like having another child and that all I feel like I'm worth is an
occasional [ __ ] whenever he is in the
mood I let it all out I ended with him done I packed a bag and I took off I'm
sat in a parking lot hysterical and know the kids weren't present they were
outside playing he is a good father to the kids but as a husband I feel like I
am better off by myself I have so much resentment towards him and no he hasn't
called he texted me aloud and clear which made me even more angry because
this is exactly how he deals with everything I'm now feeling like an
[ __ ] for going off and saying all I
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wife cheated with my best friend on our
group trip while I was home injured they
sent videos of it I confronted her had a Revenge Affair then we divorced it's
been 4 years to the month since this happened I was 36 at the time and had
been with my wife Chrissy 35f for 15 years married for 12 we lived a
comfortable upper middle- class life and had a 14-year-old daughter I had two
best friends that I had met in college Eric and Mike Eric 34m was married to
Emily 30f and Mike 34m had gotten divorced from his wife that spring
through us Chrissy and Emily had become best friends as well as a group of three
couples we had been taking a week-long vacation every summer for a few years at
this point everything was booked and ready when I broke my ankle 3 days
before our travel date because of this I decided to not go on the trip as one I
was non weight bearing for 16 weeks two my meds made me extremely tired and
sleepy and three I just didn't want to be a burden to everyone else's fun my
wife offered to stay home with me several times but I convinced her to go
ahead and go on the trip thus due to divorce and my ankle the trip ended up
just being Chrissy Eric Emily and Mike D-Day happened on December 7th 2019
Chrissy and Emily had planned a girl shopping weekend a couple hours away
with a hotel on Saturday night they got caught because of the Snapchat map thing
that night after sending my wife a snap of the dog I flipped to the map only to
notice that Mike was in the exact same location as her there was no reason for
Mike to be in that City at all my mind immediately went to the worst and I
began to furiously blow up my wife's phone with calls and texts but was
completely ignored knowing Emily should be there as well I called Eric to see
where she was I told him what I had seen and that I was about to make the drive
to confront them and asked if Emily had made the trip in the saddest voice he
said yes Chrissy picked her up that morning and he knew that Mike would be
there for a moment I felt relief it sounded like Mike and Emily were having
an affair and my wife was just a cover but then he said they're having a trio I
went totally numb but he continued to talk and said I'm sorry it's not the
first time she's been with Mike either and I've been with her too my numbness
ceased and was replaced by rage I out and threatened Eric before finally
hanging up I had totally snapped broke a
few things around the house screamed and cursed everyone my daughter came out
clearly afraid and concerned she had never seen me like that and I was
hobbling around as I'd only been cleared for walking 3 or 4 weeks earlier upon
seeing her I pulled it together reassured her apologized told her
everything was fine and that I only freaked out because of a work thing I'm
sure she knew that was all C she isn't Dumb once she went back to her room I
retreated to mine and called Eric he picked up right away I told him he
better tell me everything right now he said he wouldn't leave anything out it
started with the vacation back in July it was basically 5 days with a travel
day on each end the first day was largely just a chill day around the pool
at the Airbnb it was day two when things started to happen I knew a full outing
had been planned that day without their spouses Mike and Chrissy kind of
naturally paired off seeing as they were with a married couple it all seemed
innocent enough and just friendly but they seemed to get more comfortable as
the day went on that night was a pretty pretty heavy drinking night with dinner
back at the BNB through dinner and after
the drinking continued Emily noticed how much flirtier and closer Chrissy and
Mike were getting after a while Eric and Emily went to their room and left Mike
and Chrissy alone after about an hour Emily decided to quietly venture out to
see what became of them she went by Chrissy's room only to find she wasn't
there she then crept up to Mike's room to hear the clear distinct sounds of
segs between two drunk people trying to keep it down Emily came back to the room
and told Eric what was going on I interrupted him at this point and said
how could she just let this happen you said she noticed them getting like this
during dinner why didn't she pull Chrissy aside and intervene this is
where the story went from bad to just totally eff apparently Eric and Emily
had been having marital strike themselves for some time which included
a lot of bedroom issues she had been asking for an open for roughly 6 months
at this point he had finally caved but asked if they could try swinging first
it was their plan to ask Chrissy and I to swing with them on the trip but when
I broke my ankle and didn't go they figured it was a moot point so when
Chrissy and Mike had their drunken indiscretion Emily figured maybe The
Swinging could be back on the next morning Emily went to talk to Chrissy
about it she said Chrissy had the expected guilt an extreme worry about
being found out especially since there were Witnesses she said it was a huge
mistake but also that it was really really good especially for drunk sxs
Emily said Why Stop he just got divorced you have been on edge because of work
for a year now we're on vacation and nothing came with you not your job not
Chuck that's me not Kora our daughter you left your whole life behind consider
it a free week Eric and I won't say a thing and we'll cover if anything comes
up Eric told me she apparently liked the sound of it but had apprehension she
went to talk to Mike and then Mike came to Eric asking if they were for Real
about letting this happen Eric said yes he had been coached up by Emily as to
what to say and told him to just get it out over the next few days you both
deserve a real vacation from everything and when we go back it all just goes
back to normal and Chuck will never know
I was ready to throw up hearing this the Betrayal of my wife and my two closest
friends hit like an anvil my head was spinning I was so angry and hurt at the
same time but I needed to know the whole deal he said over the next 3 days they
stuck to all the plans for the trip I know this to be true because all the
expected IG and Facebook posts went up I kept getting included in the group snap
from everyone and Chrissy would call twice a day to check in with
intermittent texts throughout the day I suspected absolutely nothing while back
home recovering update one he said those last 3 days Mike and Chrissy basically
acted like a newly dating couple they made sure on outings that any pi/ poost
SL snaps were innocent but they held nothing back in terms of holding hands
or kissing out and whenever they got back to the BNB it was almost always
immediately to Mike's bed they were not quiet about it it was very evident what
they were doing and for how long he said on the fourth night they didn't even
close the door on the fifth day Emily enacted her Plan Eric doesn't know what
was said but she got her to agree to the swap Mike did say something to Eric and
Eric just said yeah it's what he wanted it wasn't but he had totally caved to
Emily's pressure by this point that night he was with Chrissy he said they
did have segs among other things and he tried to get into it but was preoccupied
knowing Emily was with Mike down the hall he said Chrissy put on a good show
but he knows she wasn't really satisfied he said the part that really stung his
ego was she went back to her room while Emily spent the whole night with Mike in
the morning he overheard Chrissy say you owe me one to Emily right when she got
up that was the day they traveled back all silently swearing to take it to the
Grave I remember Chrissy getting home and immediately coming to check on me
and acting like she was so excited to see me I realized now that she was doing
what betrayed spouses call love bombing this went on for weeks and I should have
known something was up we had a good relationship but she was so attentive
and caring and loving for several weeks upon return I always thought it was just
guilt from leaving me behind with my broken ankle and just feeling refreshed
from the vacation I guess it was really guilt from the cheating Eric went on to
say as soon as they got back from vacation Emily was dead set on the open
relationship now there was no other option Eric agreed and they landed on
some ground rules first and foremost everything was to be all access messages
conversations everything I asked why the hell would he want all that if he hated
the idea of Hing other guys he said he asked for that because her
first rule was no limits he wanted to have a list of people who were noo and
she said no this was about being open Segal and they couldn't do that if
people were off limits it was going to be the same for both of them so he
should be fine with it if he wanted to try an F her sister he could and she
didn't want co-workers ex's anyone off her list either he agreed on the
stipulation he knows everything and has access to everything he said he did this
to collect evidence for his eventual divorce she resisted at first but when
he said he'd expose what happened on vacation she caved at think at this
point he asked if I wanted all the messages he had the vast majority of
stuff was his wife with other men co-workers randoms she had been busy but
there were plenty of messages between Chrissy and Emily I picked up that Emily
and Mike had started a regular Affair about 4 months earlier about 1 month ago
the conversation of the trio started that whole time after the vacation
Chrissy had been really good to me and seemed much happier than before in the
beginning of the convo she stuck to the idea that what happened on vacation was
it it was vacation from reality and now it was over and life would just go on
like normal about 2 weeks and she started to show some interest at Emily's
encouragement this is when Mike entered the conversation too Chrissy agrees at
this point in the plan comes to be in addition Eric had a photo of Chrissy and
Mike kissing and a recording of him
having segs with her the son of a [ __ ]
had sneakily recorded it not the best quality vid but he did manage to get a
clear shot of her face and tattoo I thanked him for the evidence then told
him he was piece of CR and after we had our divorces he better never effing
contact me again update 2 Chrissy went radio silent from my first frantic call
until she walked in the door at 7:00 p.m. on Sunday night she looked beyond
nervous and scared she already knew I was aware of everything Eric had left
Emily a voicemail telling her he gave me everything told me everything that he
wouldn't be there when she got home and she needed to sign the divorce papers on
the kitchen table I told Chrissy to get her SE together cor came out a moment
later and for a couple hours we pretended to have a normal Sunday night
once she went to bed I asked Chrissy what she wanted she immediately broke
down in tears and tried to hug me I blocked the advance and she began
apologizing profusely and begging for forgiveness I told her to save it we had
a lot to talk about I wanted every question answered 100% honestly if I
thought she was lying I would end the conversation here and file for divorce
on Monday I had tons of evidence and she
wouldn't be able to get see out of me we are not in a no fault state then I
pointed out that she didn't answer my question I wanted to know what she wants
she said she wanted to show me how sorry she was she wanted to work for
forgiveness and for us to work past this I told her I didn't think it was
possible but would let her explain herself I asked why she cheated in the first
place she said she had a lot of fun that day was feeling good and relaxed she
hadn't felt that way in a long time work had been so stressful for so long she
let the moment the drinks take over and just went with it she tried telling me
how terrible she felt after but I cut her off I wanted to know why she kept
doing it it was a totally honest answer she wanted to and could yes Emily did
get in her head a bit but also she Justified it to herself by saying she
had already cheated once what was the difference at this point the next part
was hard to hear as she described what kind of things they did as it was a
total When in Rome thing some of it she hadn't done to me in years I asked if
she was unhappy in our relationship and she said no she said we have a good
marriage she just wanted to feel wild feel excited we had gotten somewhat
monotonous and this experience was exhilarating her plan had been to have
this much segs with me but when I didn't
go she had first thought well that's out but once it was available she let
herself get taken by the moment I then asked about the swapping she said that
was a huge mistake Emily had talked to her about [Music]
Chrissy said when the trio got proposed she really tried to stay strong and not
get drawn in but as the weeks went on she found herself just thinking about
that she told me she caved because Mike was really good she had never had a trio
and honestly thought she could get away with it at that point she asked how I
figured it out and I said I didn't have to answer that I asked why she didn't
come right home once she knew I was on to her she said because we were just
going to do this I knew this was coming is there really a difference between me
staying and continuing the segs I planned and running home right away the
end results are the same I asked asked her if there was anything else and she
said no she just wanted a chance to earn trust forgiveness and to reconcile I
said no I don't want this anymore I am hurt betrayed and can't stand to look at
her I was going to file for divorce the very next day update three when I woke
Chrissy was still home she usually was on her way to the office but had taken
the day off anticipating I had done the same thing once cor was off to school
she began her love bombing I told her I didn't care I'd already seen all this
before she said she had one more proposal for me all access to her all of
her stuff all the time marriage counseling she would go to individual
counseling cut off Emily permanently and she would be an open book at all times
for any questions I said those are just things you do when you trying to
reconcile I don't want to be a warden at home and I don't want to reconcile she
begged and pleaded and asked that i' just wait a week just a week and if next
Monday I still felt the same she would sign no matter what no contest I ended
up agreeing to the onewe trial she continued to love bomb and consistently
tried initiating segs I rejected these usual efforts and on Thursday told her I
was not moved in any way and still planned to file on Monday Friday after
work I could tell she had something in mind I really didn't care I was
literally counting the hours until I could be rid of her at this point the
love bombing was not working and I was actually getting annoyed with her
overzealous efforts she said she thought we couldn't go on because of the
imbalance that her infidelity had caused I wasn't sure at first if she was
implying what I thought she was implying but she was Chrissy said we should have
a trio I said you did more than that she said okay and you can have a week off
marriage I pointed out that was worthless she's as a woman if she wanted
she could go out right now and find a guy to have that very moment I'm a guy
and unless you're a rich guy or a famous guy you're not picking up women that
easily there's no point in me sitting in bars for a week or on dating apps not
getting matches she said okay you can have 10 hall passes that never expire
instead that can be the same woman or 10
different I replied you think that's not going to impact our sexy life you're
going to be okay with that because I doubt it she said she won't let it
suffer she will make a huge effort to be
available for my needs and we can do any of the things I've ever wanted I told
her I needed to think about it in retrospect I realized that what I did
next was pretty sleazy I should have walked away and started over but I
didn't I told myself why not here was a trio on the table here was any fantasy I
had on the table and could use the 10 hall passes to find someone else to move
on with and when it was over I would still divorce her all the same she had
wronged me and in my mind cashing in on these offers was totally justified
Revenge I said I agreed but I wanted the trio to be soon I said said she needed
to have at least someone agreeing by February 1st where I was out because if
she couldn't that meant she wasn't trying and had just been out to BU
herself time I don't know how she found the girl but in the week between
Christmas and New Year she showed me a picture of a girl from her spin class
she was gorgeous and I couldn't believe she found someone that quick and someone
so attractive Tiffany was 25 years old her and Chrissy had been chatting at
spin for months but nothing passed regular small talk I asked how and
Chrissy just said she had her ways my assumption was she offered her a few
hundred about 2 weeks later was the big night I did something out of spite
though and it's kind of weird I didn't act selfish I had been on Reddit for
years at this point and had read several Trio stories and advice threads where
one partner usually a woman in FFM feels
left out as their partner focuses on the new person I made it a point to make
sure she was included in the whole thing insisted on Tiffany and I be focused on
my wife talked to her throughout complimented her Etc I mean I still had
my fun with Tiffany but I knew this would make Chrissy think we were on the
right track I wasn't wrong she told me how she only did this to try and win me
back but that the whole experience was amazing and she couldn't believe that it
really did make her feel like we had a stronger connection prior to that I had
been cashing in on her obligation of being overtly seal with me after the
trio had stopped feeling like she was just meeting an obligation she seemed
excited to be with me and to try new things although I think a part of it was
her hope that I would abandon the hall passes update four mid-February I took
the first plunge into using the hall passes there was a 27-year-old
restaurant manager Sabrina close by my work I had frequented it often and
always thought she was was a little flirty with me I asked her out and lied
I told her I was 2 months into my divorce proceedings I said we were still
living in the same house but that I had moved into the basement another lie
Sabrina seemed hesitant but agreed to the date later on I asked her what made
her agree knowing my situation and she said she noticed the first time I came
in without my wedding ring I took it off on D-Day and since by the time I asked
her my tan line was fading away it meant I wasn't just taking it off to meet
women but not wearing it at all it wasn't too far after that the co
shutdown began to hit at that point I felt stuck but I used it as an excuse to
not start marriage counseling Chrissy had been insistent on this but I always
said I wouldn't until after the trio then I said I wouldn't until after I
went on a date and soon as that happened shutdown started by April I had seen
Sabrina seven times we went on two actual dates that really tore Chrissy up
before the shutdowns once those started I just began going over to Sabrina's
apartment as she lived alone needless to say our relationship turned physical at
this point I was tired of pretending to reconcile I also think I had hurt
Chrissy enough she was too I still feel heavy guilt for this today when I said
it didn't work and I still wanted to divorce she didn't fight me she was sad
she seemed defeated I found a small two-bedroom house and left Chrissy in
our family home the one standup thing I can say I did in all this was sit Kora
down and tell her the absolute truth I told her the whole story from the
beginning her mom's infidelity and my sleazy Behavior after I wanted her to
know both of her parents were wrong we both loved her and one of the best but
we both wronged each other too deeply the three of us decided that 50/50
custody was best so she alternated week to week staying at each other's place it
took until January of 2021 for the divorce to go final I dated Sabrina the
entire time kaora and her got along fine I was happy cor didn't see her as the
other woman or anything they never had a stepparent Vibe or anything but were
friendly in the way a child is with their parents friends my relationship
with Sabrina lasted until January of this year it ended because I don't want
to marry again or have more children Chrissy had done some sporadic dating
over the last couple years one guy she was with for about 11 months then things
got weird we have co-p parented pretty effectively through all this the one
thing we both wanted was to be there for
our daughter we've been amicable through all of her events and for her sake then
her HS graduation happened this past may we ended up sitting by each other what
should have been awkward just wasn't we started joking around talking got a
little flirty it was refreshing a week later I was still thinking of the fun I
had at graduation I decided to call Chrissy and ask her out she said
absolutely not this caused quite the swell of embarrassment luckily that was
only temporary after a long pause she continued unless we go to marriage
counseling I agreed we had our first session on a Thursday and our second
first date on Friday we are still doing counseling we decided on a counselor
that specializes in enm as that was something we both want to explore it's
been 6 months we've started to talk about me moving back into our original
family home cor can't believe we are getting back together and says it's
weird she told me when she got back from her first semester at College last week
that she wasn't sure if she was happy or cons concerned but knows for sure she
doesn't want any details of any kind in regards to our exploits Eric divorced
Emily and ran for the hills he put in a work transfer and now lives four states
away Mike and Emily tried to make a real relationship work for a while after her
divorce Chrissy got back in contact with Emily after hours and learned that
pretty much segs was the only thing they had in common and it fizzled out pretty
quick Emily remarried a guy that used to work with Eric and moved with him when
he was promoted to a regional manager spot he is now Eric's direct boss and
keeps blocking his transfers I find this the most hilarious irony I
ever heard mother eer Mike as I refer to him is still around and still single I
wish him only the worst well that's my story one day I hope to give a happy
ending update but I guess only time will tell PS Chrissy paid Tiffany $250 for
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what's your dirty secret I won 41k a few years ago immediately gave 25k to my
parents to clear any debt left me with 16k shortly after I received my trust
fund of roughly 4K I was 18 years old with 20K in the bank this should have
set me up for a long time all of my family think I have most of the money
but the truth is it's all gone I went through a really rough patch with my
mental health and threw it all away on drugs alcohol and impulse purchases to
try and feel something anything shortterm sure it gave me a little buzz
fast forward to now I've got nothing it's all gone and I hate myself for it I
live paycheck to paycheck all whilst trying to pretend I'm financially stable
part of me wants to just tell them and get it off my chest the other part is
scared of their reaction when I tell them I blew 20K on total I get it
was my money but I'm so disappointed in myself more so for the 4K in my trust
fund it took years for my parents to build that up literal years and now it's
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what are some corporate secrets that you
can disclose now that you no longer work there
Story one I used to work at Starbucks we were always hyper vigilant for people
who ordered a tall mocha and continually check their phones Starbucks secret
shoppers always order a tall mocha and evaluate US based on time quality of the
drink and whether or not we were pleasant and friendly these secret
shoppers would get us employee rewards if we did a good job if you want a
stinking good cup of chocolate flavored coffee with hilariously over the top
customer service you know what to do although these days Starbucks no longer
does customer snapshots instead they do a printed receipt survey it worked there
from 2008 to 2011 and our store implemented it fully but granted it was
a smaller store in a smaller town so I apologize if you order a tall mocha and
you don't get legendary friendliness in abnormally fast service this might be
only at certain locations now everyone should be treated the same no matter
what they order except maybe if they order a pumpkin spice latte
story two I worked at a Pepsi Factory at
the beginning of the summer concentrated Mountain Dew will burn through your
freaking clothes story 3. I used to work at an overnight
camp I'd also gone there as a camper and every morning we had a drawing where we
put all the campers names into a hat picked one out at random and the kid
that got picked got to spin the wheel of Wonder and do silly stuff to the
counselors like pour flour on them or throw water balloons Etc well as it
turns out when I was old enough to be a counselor they let me in on the secret
all the peepers inside the Hat are blank they pick a kid that seems to be having
a hard time adjusting to Camp life or a kid who isn't very social and then
pretended to pull their name out of the Hat in conclusion my childhood was a lie
I used to sit there every morning hoping
and hoping they would pull my name but I never won at least the kids that really
needed it ended up getting that extra attention though that's actually kind of
nice if anyone needs the attention it's the shy kid not the extrovert who's
trying to make other kids eat pine cones story for I work at Red Lobster number
one the biscuits are 130 calories each number two none of the food is homemade
it's all pre-packaged and Frozen number three every type of pasta is just
microwaved actually a lot of the food is microwaved number four you can buy the
chocolate lava cookie or the Apple cristata at Kroger for one dollar wait
what no wonder I always knew there was something fishy about that place
Story five I've actually wanted to get this out there because it has really
bothered me and it's been a few years I worked at Dollar Tree terrible decision
by the way the store had a charity drive for toys during Christmas it would ask
people at the end of their checkout if they wanted to donate a toy for active
military families kids the incentive for
the cashier was to sell the most and you would win like 100 or something got
second place so I don't remember anyway we sold what had to be thousands so we
thought it was easy since what's one extra dollar right but whenever the
customers bought a toy it went into a big bin at the front however after every
day the spin was unloaded and was recycled to be sold yet again over and
over in other words there were only so many toys that they just sold over and
over I guess they figured that we sold so many that every local kid would be
filled with toys but I will never forget it it makes me sad and reluctant to
donate unless I know it's actually going somewhere
story six I worked at a pet store once it was probably the worst job I had
animals were generally well taken care of in her store but almost never touched
or played with unless the managers were gone this pretty much makes any animal
we sold pretty hostile to its new owner or unmanageable it also sucked because
when stupid kids would come in and want to hold animals we all would groan on
the inside knowing we were probably gonna get bit the kid was definitely
gonna get bent too probably will also drop it in Surprise and make us run
around trying to catch it again if the management had let us handle them a bit
more we wouldn't have kids freaking out over being bent by a gerbil or a
parakeet or people bringing the animal back when it wasn't instantly warm and
receptive I'd like to say though if you're someone you know is thinking of
buying or adopting a pet don't give up just because it doesn't take you right
away they need love support training and time from you just because it isn't all
lovey-dovey now it doesn't mean it won't be if you treat it right just remember
the places they come from where they don't get affection very much it's new
to them I don't know about you guys but do not buy from pet stores adopt from
shelters instead also did the kid get bit story 7. AMR or America's largest
private Ambulance Company contracts with counties will specify response times
that they need to meet to remain in compliance typical response windows are
about 10 minutes in heavily populated areas and 14 minutes or more and more
rural areas this compliance usually needs to be maintained in 90 or higher
for all 9-1-1 calls generated several times this year we've been too good and
been running compliance up at 98 to 99 for the month amr's responses to cut
Staffing hours to save labor or diesel costs they are willing to be laid at the
end of a month because they know they'll still hit their monthly compliance
requirement I personally think that's despicable even though most 911 calls
are not a medical emergency somebody that needs a defibrillator right now
could ever reduce chance of survival in the name of pleasing corporate and
ultimately the shareholders wow I never would have thought stuff
like this would happen with ambulance companies eye-opening for sure or are
they like let's introduce profit motive into the healthcare industry what could
go wrong Story 8 from a person who recently quit
Target as a card attendant in cashier number one they push for red cards a lot
and call them bullseyes when we get someone to sign up even if someone
doesn't get the credit card version of the red card still messes with their
credit from what I was told by friends two discounts are only for spouses and
children under a certain age I'll let my
friends use them all the time because no one checks the name along with ID three
we frequently have people who use coupons to reduce their prices to pretty
much free if you wonder why we call over our managers that's why it goes with
people that seem to have stolen credit cards too also allows the employees not
to be a responsibility if it gets through four all the cameras are very real and
at least at the one I worked at policemen are not too far away
maintenance is done frequently five all cashiers are expected to get two percent
red card conversions meaning if you're not getting two people signed up for 100
and you can go through like 600 people a day means you're not doing your job and
you're going to get talked to by the higher ups 6. team members equal
employees and guests equal customers are what people are referred to as in store
not sure if these are secrets but it's all I can think of for now
story nine it's common for restaurants to fill Heinz Ketchup bottles up with
off-brand ketchup once the bottles are empty off-brand ketchup haters beware my
mother worked in a restaurant in Iowa at
one point in her life and the restaurant did just that they filled their Heinz
bottles with off-brand ketchup to save money one day A nice middle-aged man
showed up in a nice suit he took off his hat as he came inside and said to my
mother ma'am I'm here representing Heinz and I'm going to test your ketchup it
would dip a toothpick in each bottle taste the ketchup and say throw this one
out the restaurant had to trash every bottle of ketchup man if I ever open a
bottle of Heinz and end up with Hans ketchup I am likely to engage ninja mode
in someone if you don't want to be that someone hit the like And subscribe and
back to the video story 10. I worked at a foreclosure law
firm that was basically a mill we represented banks in the foreclosure
process and took people's homes again deployment at the firm through a temp
agency and if you made it past 90 days you'd become a permanent employee on my
first day I noticed that the entire firm was mostly women in their early 20s and
no one was saying a word to each other they soon realized that this was due to
a higher turnover rate everyone was new and rarely made it past the 90-day Mark
and made it a year and a half and could go on forever about the banking industry
and why we're in the mess we're in because the foreclosure process in most
States is judicial it goes through the courts and sometimes takes years to get
to the Foreclosure sale we would have to
create affidavits for each case that had a breakdown of what the defendant owed
to the bank we then email thousands of affidavits to several Banks where people
would sign date notarized and FedEx back to us this sometimes took weeks for the
banks to send the affidavits back and we'd have to cancel a ton of court dates
which resulted in us having to re-request more affidavits thus delaying
the process even further because these documents have to be filed prior to the
court date we'd have to cancel the hearing of we didn't receive and file
the affidavit 25 days in advance the management would tell us to switch out
signature pages from old affidavits so we wouldn't have to wait forever to get
new ones from the banks I hated that place so much and I saw so many people
get screwed over towards the end I started to shred paperwork from the bank
that contained ridiculous exorbitant fees charged to people that were already
hard up in life did you know that if your home is in foreclosure you are
charged an inspection fee of about ten dollars a day or someone from the bank
just drives past your house to make sure
it's not vacant it's unfair so I started
making those charges Disappear by way of a paper shredder I would delay some
foreclosures because there's no reason why a bank needs to take the house of an
80 year old woman diagnosed with cancer only owes 10K in her home but can't pay
because of her fixed income no yeah the cancer I feel like a bad human being for
working there screw that place and all the places like it
story 11 my mother who was a school teacher in an inner city Middle School
was strongly discouraged from failing any student for any reason if you failed
too many students you'd be sent to the worst school in the district the police
actually broke about two years after she finished working when a teacher's final
grades were changed by a principal who didn't want to fail the students
similarly an incident occurred when one of her co-workers was hit by a student
and had to go to the hospital because the attack worsened her heart condition
she was told that if she chose to press charges or if she leaked the incident to
the public she would be transferred to the worst school in The District Welcome
to American public schools story 12. was that Kohl's for five years
supervisor for three not sure if these are all true of all coals but definitely
were at mine we were encouraged to sign everyone up for a credit card despite
age language barriers Etc I absolutely hated signing people up for those cards
especially only because they wanted to see if they could get a discount I would
give them the discount regardless if they were approved or not if I didn't
sign enough people up I would get warnings the APR in them was 27 the
jewelry cases were all opened with one key and pretty flimsy even then with a
hard jerk you could easily open them also a lot of the diamonds that were
under 1 4 Carat were fake if you were returning something without a receipt
and were getting a corporate refund that meant that you were 95 of the time
returning stolen merchandise who tells them they'd get a check in the mail the
other five percent were if it was extremely old merchandise like three
plus years old a few people got the hint those that didn't were in for a sore
surprise when they would never get a check you could easily let a friend know
your associate number go to Kohl's say you work at a different store give the
number and get the associate discount 15
if it was returned and wasn't noticeably damaged it went right back out in the
floor no matter how long the person had it inventory was always off probably by
about more or less five units per item I'm sure there's tons more I can think
of but it's been a while so are you saying they sold fake
diamonds as real if those little diamond necklaces are fake because seriously
that's pretty much fraud even in a small
scale story 13. former Starbucks Barista
here here's some unscrupulous secrets in
terms of cross-contamination it's pretty bad we had blender pitchers labeled
Dairy non-dairy but no one cared the metal pictures and blender pictures are
rinsed out with pressure and continue to be used throughout the day the steam
wand and the espresso machine used for heating milks is cleaned with a rag that
soaks in cleaning solution as well as using the steam to clean out the inside
but the cleaning solution is often pretty contaminated with all the milks
if you think about it wiping off a little milk and then putting it back in
the same liquid even if you change it out frequently cross-contamination is
almost immediate the soy milk does not cost more than the dairy what's more is
its shelf-stable packaging so there's less waste than the dairy frappuccinos
have the highest profit margin watch someone make the drink and it's apparent
it's mostly eyes generally more than the ice drinks non-blendid gets not a real
Shake by a long shot but so delicious those overpriced sandwiches below the
pastry case get tossed every night yeah we could take some home but you always
get tired of the food at work and none are particularly great so yeah same goes
for quote unquote morning pastries midday and many Starbucks other pastries
are given a shelf life of two to three days upon arrival but generally some of
those are always tossed too occasionally I had a whole an open package of
something that was expired though ideally this is minimized these things
go in the dumpster and many people will understandably go dumpster diving for
these I mean it's a trash bag full of slightly dry pastries some still shrink
wrapped they purposely place the dumpster somewhere more secluded to
avoid this they don't want to be liable but apparently it can easily be figured
out we can and do guess what people will
get before the order when we're bored we have stereotypes they hold pretty well
except for that one skinny woman who got caramel Frappuccinos breaking barriers
man another Starbucks story seriously Starbucks you gotta do better also
someone tell me where this Starbucks is I actually kind of like those overpriced
sandwiches story 14. this isn't a policy but more
of a secret if you have ever been to a fast food chain called Raising Cane's
they serve a strange and discernible Tangy sauce called cane sauce for years
they made it secret you know managers who created must sign illegally binding
contract not to disclose the recipe they're also required to make it away
from everyone else quickly the ingredients are mostly mayonnaise mixed
with ketchup with small amounts of Worcestershire sauce and black pepper
you would have to experiment with the quantities if you want to make less than
five gallons at a time I would say it is
about one cup of mayo mixed with 1 3 cup of ketchup one teaspoon of black pepper
and one tablespoon of Worcestershire this is a very crude estimate
story 15. Victoria's Secret is actually a pretty chill place to work assuming
you have great managers employees get a 30 discount to non-sale items every time
a new bra is released not just color but actually new style the employees get a
free one which means they're actually pretty knowledgeable about the products
because they've actually worn them same with beauty products like lotions or new
body Mists employees who are best at pushing credit cards are placed at the
cashier if they don't meet the Victoria's Secret credit card quota set
by the store manager they will be removed from cashier duty if an employee
isn't making sales pushing credit cards or bra fittings or if the manager
doesn't like them their hours will get cut to non-existent inventory is pretty
dead on so if they page the stock girls and they say there's no more in the bag
believe them I worked in the stock room and processing inventory involved
counting every single thong sweatpants 90 hoodie whatever confirmed it against
the number on the invoice employees are not allowed to leave their section which
means that girls in pen cannot assist you in the body by Victorious section
typically nothing in the Pink Panty bar is tagged because it doesn't look neat
varies by store the cameras are all real and or watch their Management in the
office those detectors by the doors are real as well though if you steal
something they have a no chase policy the deterrent action is to offer a
shopping bag to help you hold everything the mall I worked in was pretty
consistent about calling Mall security in the police
story 16 worked for a famous mobile game
publisher called Gameloft for many years I was instructed to hire younger people
over older ones preferably without children or unmarried because if they
have a life we can put pressure on them though so if they're too mature they
won't take smack from us so no one around 40 and up Gameloft doesn't like
it when the video game job market is good because I quote we can't put
pressure on people because they know they can get a better job somewhere else
yes they love to use the term put pressure on people the only management
technique they ever knew during the influenza outbreak in China in around
2002 to 2003 where the local government forced some people into quarantine the
workers of the local branch were forbidden to go home until they ship the
current game if they went home then the Chinese police wouldn't let them go to
the office until the end of the quarantine I wasn't a direct witness of
this but I heard some of them couldn't see their families for up to two weeks
or more I'm taking it with a grain of salt but knowing the people in charge I
think it could very well be true top Executives were stealing money from the
company by declaring twice as many workers in the local Asian branches they
actually hired pocketing the difference the main branch would wire them the
amount they needed people who noticed or were about to notice were quickly
scapegoated and fired I don't think the CEO ever knew or even cared I wonder if
they're still doing it today story 17. Edward did a few major
Canadian alternative Financial businesses one has a major parent
company in the US with the same policies so what I'm about to say applies to
Money Mart Cash Money Speedy Cash and rapid cash these are some pretty major
companies so I feel confident that this is industry-wide there is no
authorization system absolutely none we talk it up like we have to put all this
information in the computer and send it all off to the head office for approval
but there is no such system every decision is made by a living breathing
employee right there in the store you're in we talk about the system to protect
ourselves to keep the crazies away those guys who will be mad that we declined
their check and went outside to ambushes when their shift is over which by the
way all kinds of other security procedures in place for that so don't go
to Crazy Town handing me a check that looks like it was written in the same
pan as your signature on the back my system is just asking me to verify this
I'll be right back no it isn't I think you're trying to hand me a stolen check
handing me a low sequence track EG check number zero zero zero three from a
numbered company my first it's a fake business a reliable unestablished I'm
probably not going to cash it oh I'm really really sorry but my authorization
system is down right now can you come back tomorrow so I can run a search to
see when the company was registered who it's registered to and so forth you want
70 of your net pay in your very first payday loan
I mean I'll try but my system only usually approves 30 to 40 in a first
loan let me try hmm yeah it says I can only give you two
hundred dollars I might be able to get you a little more if you have any
references verifiable in the phone book do you know anyone with a landline note
Money Mart is unique in that the system actually caps you at a Max of 20 to 30
on the first loan but the rep at the window can still offer below that if
they don't trust you sending two thousand dollars to Nigeria with some
generic test questions about what their favorite color is sorry my Western Union
system is down I lied that thing never goes down you just can't realize it
doesn't make sense for a nice two-bedroom apartment in downtown
CityVille to be 300 a month with a huge deposit in the landlord in a foreign
country who will call his buddy to let you look around just as soon as he gets
your security deposit that there's no way to get back once you give him that
lovely little 10 digit number on the receipt we blame the system because it
protects us and it keeps us safe because it's hard for you to argue or bicker
with us when you don't believe we have any say in it but we do the only time
the person you're dealing with face to face isn't the sole person making the
decision is if they're a newer employee and they haven't been deemed able to be
trusted with the amount of money you're dealing with eg someone who's been
working for us for less than six months needs to get actual approval from a real
other person for a four thousand dollar check
if you've made it this far I hope you enjoyed the video if you have some time
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I called 911 on a mother beating her child I was just trying to disassemble
my wheelchair to put it in my car all of
a sudden I heard a woman screaming and a kid begging for mercy while sobbing I'm
not going to go in much detail but I've been that kid there was an off-duty cop
who I flagged down and I asked him what to do he told me to call it in the
dispatcher asked if I could get a license plate on the car so I did that
when the mother noticed and started screaming at me luckily I was somehow
able to stay calm I hope that mother gets her kid taken away forever I've
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paid student loans now Mom won't talk to me just wanted some opinions this will
be long cause I talk too much but I will try to put the most relevant info first
I Mel 24 recently graduated college I got my BS and was left with two Federal
loans with low interest rates 3% Tilda totaling $7,500 I went to community for
a couple years then after financial aid family is poor at a State University I
was left with a low balance well I had $7,500 in a joint savings account with
my mom through WF it was all my money I had saved since I started working at 16
the account was locked down by her however as I could only put money in not
withdrawal fast forward to 2024 what happened was I got overdrafted on the
checking account and my mom told me just to close it she meant the checkings but
I closed the entire account and deposited the dollar into my own account
with Chase I then paid my loans off in full I did this because it was a burden
off my shoulders and the loan forgiveness never went through plus
payments had just started up again I figured I would rebuild my savings from
the money I plan to throw at my loans anyway and could save on the interest
plus if I ever lost my job I wouldn't have a fat Bill hanging on my mind she
didn't agree and I could tell she wanted to scream at me but we were in public
because she locked the account down years ago we both had to go in person
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AIT ta for telling my mom she doesn't get to act like the victim when she
named me after her late husband behind my dad's back my mom was married to
another guy before she was married to my dad her first husband was her childhood
best friend her first and only love until he died they started dating as
teenagers and got married in their 20s and were trying to have kids when he
died they were 28 my mom never loved anyone else again she met and married my
dad but she never loved him she married him because she was turned down as a
single adoptive parent and because people in her life told her she should
find a way to be happy again I'm there only kid and she named me after her
first husband my dad didn't realize for years her husband's name was James like
his legal name it's the one most people used for him but my mom called him
Hunter and guess what my name is Hunter she told Dad she just really loved the
name and my dad liked it too so he agreed he only knew her first husband is
James so never made the connection I was 10 when my dad found out he found some
letters that he initially thought were meant for me but realized they were to
the first husband they ended up arguing for like two weeks straight and that's
how I learned mom's feelings toward dad and why she married him I would sit up
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aita for ruining my brother-in-law's reputation by telling the truth to my
friends my in-laws are currently furious with me for hurting my brother-in-law's
feelings and reputation with my friend group recently my single brother-in-law
Chris 38m has been hinting at me to introduce him to women and I refused
Chris has been single for almost 3 years and he has been having a hard time
meeting women he tried flirting with my friend but she had been cold and
non-receptive this was my friend Grace 35f Grace is not interested in him due
to his inability to be faithful and she wasn't physically attracted to him he
tried to flirtatiously engage with her during a small party my husband and I
had last Saturday my husband got a long awaited promotion so we had a little
party during the party Grace had grown frustrated with his incessant flirting
and at some point told him in no uncertain terms that she found him
physically ugly and that his physical ugliness is only surpassed by the
ugliness of his character she told him this in private and so no other guest
had heard her scathing review of his personhood Chris left the party the
following afternoon while my husband and I were nursing a wicked hangover my
in-laws to my surprise called to scold me for having abused and embarrassed
Chris after a few minutes of us shouting back and forth on the phone I reminded
my husband that handling his family was his job so while my husband argued with
his parents I reviewed our security camera and honey Grace verbally tore him
apart Grace reminded him that he cheated
and divorced his late ex-wife Lily while
she was battling cancer and that he then got dumped by the mistress for being a
cheater as he continued to cheat on her grace told him that he wasn't a man of
any significant value other than the few coins he had in the bank and that
there's no way in hell she'd entertain his delusions of sexual Grandeur and
Beauty she also said the only thing he had going for him was his overblow to
job title as an executive director to a third rate company that will probably
collapse in the next 5 years as a parting gift she told him to consider
consider some cosmetic work to improve his haggard appearance and perhaps to
start praying for divine intervention to fix his rotten Soul since there is no
way a psychotherapist could ever come close to fixing whatever is wrong with
him my in-laws and Chris feel that I shouldn't have told my friends what
Chris did because he's now perceived by my girlfriends as a terrible person I
told them he was unfortunately a terrible person and people would have
always found out what happened between him and the late great Lily I then
discussed what happened with my colleague Natasha she said I was cruel
for having told my friend group about what happened between Chris and his
ex-wife because Chris had grown a lot in the past 2 years and didn't need to be
known for the worst thing he has ever done Natasha is dating Chris's friend so
she also knows him FYI I've only discussed Chris's treatment of Lily with
my direct friend group and it's only six people and half of them already knew as
they were also friends with Lily so it's
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:00.199 --> :01.589 My Father is the Canadian Satan.
:01.589 --> :04.912 Growing up with him was less than fun and
I can assure you , based on witnessing it :04.912 --> :06.019
he was a less than fun husband. :06.019 --> :09.360
I'd go on about what a piece of s*** my father
is but instead i'll quote a judge " you're :09.360 --> :13.839
the most despicable human I've ever had in
my court room" and that's coming from a family :13.839 --> :14.839
court judge. :14.839 --> :19.730
I read this wining endorsement of my Dad's
personality in the court documents I acquired :19.730 --> :22.060
related to his divorce with my Mum. :22.060 --> :25.260
The same place I discovered the f***ery he had engaged in to steal from my Mum.
:25.260 --> :29.590 It's also where I found the information I
needed to get one over on him so severely :29.590 --> :30.870
he's going to disinherit me. :30.870 --> :34.530
This is a bit of a long read so tldr at he bottom. :34.530 --> :40.570
A Frame of reference about my Father is that
he's a pathalogical narcissist and behaves :40.570 --> :42.620
exactly how those people are compelled to act. :42.620 --> :47.450
They aren't generous people and punching them
in the wallet is like a slapshot to the taint :47.450 --> :48.450
from Gretzky. :48.450 --> :52.220
He's kind of like Donkey from Shrek but also Jospeh Stalin, a monstrous j******.
:52.220 --> :53.420 Chapter 1 - Hosea 3:8
:53.420 --> :57.850 Those that sow the wind shall reap a whirlwind.Our
actions always have consequences and my Padre :57.850 --> :59.290
has plenty to answer for. :59.290 --> :04.149
My attempts to hold him to account didn't
jump to Immediate Jihad , they started with :04.149 --> :05.500
diplomacy and a therapist. :05.500 --> :10.259
About 10 months ago when our tale begins I was going through some stuff.
:10.259 --> :16.369 Stuff being a whole lot of PTSD related to
both my Dad's abuse and my job as a paramedic. :16.369 --> :21.119
He did a ton that affected me deeply, things
that I needed to move past, along with all :21.119 --> :22.740
that other razzmatazz from 15 years of EMS. :22.740 --> :27.090
In so trying to move past and work through
everything I quit drinking, started Turining :27.090 --> :30.840
my untreated PTSD into treated PTSD and thinking
having my Dad involved might help me and our :30.840 --> :31.840
relationship. :31.840 --> :35.189
We'll I seriously f***ing misjudged that one
so you'll probably be unsurprised to hear :35.189 --> :36.420
that conversation went swimmingly. :36.420 --> :41.579
I'll spare you the lurid detail but when I
broached the subject with him our back and :41.579 --> :46.130
forth degenerated into visceral hate with
him screaming at me that I'm a failed paramedic, :46.130 --> :48.770
liar and piece of s*** alcoholic. :48.770 --> :53.099
While I have a certain pride about my job,
I have more pride in my 14 months Sobriety, :53.099 --> :57.389
so hearing this from my old man might have
caused me to behave a bit psychotically. :57.389 --> :08.190
I got right p***** off at him a decided to
dig up every bit of dirt I could , see what :08.190 --> :11.970
kind of man he actually is and has been :11.970 --> :22.900
When it was convenient I hoped in the mystery
machine before taking a trip to the court :22.900 --> :28.900
house to unleash my inner gumshoe . Everything
is public record, so I bulk bought copies :28.900 --> :32.590
before retiring to my easy chair to read, plot and pet my white long haired cat.
:32.590 --> :36.390 For good measure I obtained a file of divorce
doccument from my mother. :36.390 --> :41.390
Soon enough I hit upon a line of inquiry worth
following up on, it seems that during the :41.390 --> :45.939
final settlement of my parents divorce ( 2002),
my mother was awarded 1/3 of my father's employment
:45.939 --> :46.939 pension. :46.939 --> :52.099
She was a stay at home mother and could not
earn one herself so it was given to her by :52.099 --> :53.099
a judge. :53.099 --> :57.290
Mighty f***ing strange because my father as
he brags took a nearly full pension and retired :57.290 --> :58.290
a bit early. :58.290 --> :03.360
No way that asshat was living the last 10
years after retiring early on a 2/3 pension, :03.360 --> :05.180
he isn't constantly bithcing about it. :05.180 --> :12.329
So I asked my Mother if she was collecting
a pension from his job or had cashed out the :12.329 --> :19.040
value (100k plus at the time) 20 years ago , no to both questions.
:19.040 --> :23.879 Well that's interesting, I wonder if that's
collectable on and what 20 years of compound :23.879 --> :26.670
intest from a pension fund makes it worth. :26.670 --> :32.730
Well I did eventually find out along with
the fact that my dear old Dad had been collecting :32.730 --> :38.170
my mothers portion for 10 years, in Hilariously
open violation of a legal order from a Judge. :38.170 --> :41.569
Why didn't my mother pursue this sooner? :41.569 --> :47.200
A combination of being unable to afford a
lawyer, being his victim for 20 years and :47.200 --> :53.150
pessimism after so much of his continued dodging
obligation to the order, she just quit. :53.150 --> :55.520
There is effectively no statute of limitations
he could hide behind becuase the wording of :55.520 --> :56.520
the settlement. :56.520 --> :01.230
Insofar as I could tell I had him dead to
rights and my Mother would be collecting, :01.230 --> :03.349
it would be a slam dunk. :03.349 --> :08.109
I just needed to hire a lawyer to help me
, so I set out to find the most unbalanced, :08.109 --> :09.790
bloodthirsty psychotic who passed the BAR exam. :09.790 --> :11.540
Chapter 2 - Et tu pension lady? :11.540 --> :18.959
As it says in the good book screw unto others
as the would screw unto you, so that's what :18.959 --> :22.570
I set out to do. :22.570 --> :26.470
The misanthropic sociopath I hired for legal
counsel suggested we send a demand letter :26.470 --> :31.600
to the pension office to try and remedy it
before filing what would undoubtedly be an :31.600 --> :32.660
easy win for him. :32.660 --> :37.310
I agreed in spirit and instead phoned up the
pension office and got put through to the :37.310 --> :38.880
woman managing my father's file. :38.880 --> :43.810
Well she was a delight and it was a trivial
matter for me to get her to loathe my Dad. :43.810 --> :48.200
We talked for 45 minutes and I swear if you'd
given me another hour I could have convinced :48.200 --> :50.280
her to suicide bomb his house. :50.280 --> :53.980
In all our conversations about life , families
and relationships we got down to some things :53.980 --> :54.980
of note. :54.980 --> :00.390 Since I could show her correspondence her
office had sent to my father ( cc'd my mum :00.390 --> :05.310
on ) some years ago and ongoing for 5 consecutive
years, trying to resolve this matter , which :05.310 --> :08.250
he had ignored, she was more than willing
to start the process on remedy immediately. :08.250 --> :10.780
Full cooperation from this lady and her office
was a matter of merely providing documentation :10.780 --> :16.810
and with my lawyer on retainer , this office
was beyond asking my father to comply, they :16.810 --> :17.810
complied for him. :17.810 --> :22.990
About 2 months since I last spoke to my Father
and he now had no idea his pensilon was about :22.990 --> :23.990
to take a serious hit. :23.990 --> :26.690
Below I'm going to break down how big a turd I put into his bowl of ice cream.
:26.690 --> :31.250 My mother's portion was made whole and adjusted
to reflect that her portion was brought to :31.250 --> :35.880
maturity and beyond so his early retirement dosent affect her fund.
:35.880 --> :41.440 So he loses 10 years of valuation to her,
he also retired 3 years early which kocks :41.440 --> :44.520
him down now to 17 years of pension valuation ,not 27.
:44.520 --> :49.000 If you'd forgotten my Dad had been collecting
my Mum's money and was over paid by 30k per :49.000 --> :50.010
year for the last 10 years. :50.010 --> :55.170
Like I said Mom was made whole, so the pension
company is going to claw back that overpayment :55.170 --> :59.030
from the base valuation of his current pension fund.
:59.030 --> :06.210 I'm not exactly sure what that does to the
number but it effectively nerfs my Old man's :06.210 --> :07.470
private retirement fund. :07.470 --> :12.870
He's got government old age pension, that he took early too, whoops.
:12.870 --> :19.410 My Dad did some awful s*** to me but I only
had to suffer 17 years of him , my Mum still :19.410 --> :20.720
has the high score at 20. :20.720 --> :27.330
As much as I did this for spite and malicious
glee, I did do it to give my Mum a chance :27.330 --> :28.530
ar a proper retirement . :28.530 --> :30.330
Chapter 3 - Glitter bombs of justice :30.330 --> :35.140
My mother started collecting her pension about
3 months after I contacted the pension office :35.140 --> :38.400
and to celebrate she bought tickets to New
Zealand for the family for Christmas, so we :38.400 --> :39.400
can see our relatives. :39.400 --> :45.340
I was able to get most of my retainer from
the lawyer back and to celebrate I went online :45.340 --> :46.830
to order a glitterbomb. :46.830 --> :53.730
I was able to ship it to my old man anonymously
from another country ( God bless the USA ). I :53.730 --> :58.810
heard through my sister he opened it up in
his stupid red miata, ha ha ha , he'll never :58.810 --> :04.290
get rid of it.There is a lady named Irene
who does not seem to be able to understand :04.290 --> :06.790
the concept that my email address is not hers. :06.790 --> :09.460
She gives it out constantly, and repeated,
REPEATED efforts to explain to her that she :09.460 --> :10.880
has it wrong have gone unheeded. :10.880 --> :12.620
Strong boomer energy from this one. :12.620 --> :18.550
As a result, I know she lives down in the
US, she banks at Chase, she drives a Toyota :18.550 --> :23.590
RAV4 that is due for an oil change, and she
seems to be having some medical issues "down :23.590 --> :24.590
there". :24.590 --> :27.810 (Irene, if you see this, call your doctor,
she sounds concerned.) :27.810 --> :32.240
I have repeatedly asked the various people
involved to please inform Irene that she is :32.240 --> :34.580
providing all these places with my email address, which is, again, not hers.
:34.580 --> :39.700 The only piece of information she has never
provided is her phone number, so I have not :39.700 --> :43.473
been able to call her, although I did send
her a Christmas card last year that read, :43.473 --> :44.510
"Irene, Merry Christmas, stop telling people
your email address is [my email], it isn't, :44.510 --> :45.510
it's mine." :45.510 --> :48.740
Recently, it appears that Irene has been trying
to buy a new house, and is planning a trip :48.740 --> :49.740
to Venice. :49.740 --> :54.500
I know this, because I got all the confirmations
of her travel plans from her travel agent, :54.500 --> :58.210
as well as all the confirmations from her mortgage broker and insurance agent.
:58.210 --> :03.460 This resulted, a couple weeks ago, in somewhere
in the neighbourhood of 70 emails a day, informing :03.460 --> :05.840
me of every detail of each of these transactions. :05.840 --> :07.430
So, I followed my usual approach. :07.430 --> :12.620
I emailed the agents back, and (probably slightly
less politely than I could have been) informed :12.620 --> :19.890
the agents that Irene is once again giving
out my email address as her own, and I have :19.890 --> :24.650
no interest in any of the private documents they had sent her.
:24.650 --> :33.060
Apparently, they tried to call her -- unfortunately,
I suspect they all tried to call her within :33.060 --> :40.010
a few minutes of each other to tell her the
same thing -- and she got very angry with :40.010 --> :41.010
all of them. :41.010 --> :46.560
She told them, very rudely, that in fact my
email address is hers, and people needed to :46.560 --> :52.530
stop telling her that it wasn't, and why hadn't
any of them sent her any emails yet confirming :52.530 --> :56.450
all of this stuff she was trying to do? :56.450 --> :58.430
Not long after, I separately got apologetic
emails from each of them, the insurance agent, :58.430 --> :02.671
the travel agent, and the mortgage broker,
telling me that they were very sorry, but :02.671 --> :08.490
Irene was VERY insistent that this was her
email address, so they couldn't remove it :08.490 --> :09.650
from her account. :09.650 --> :16.000
This seems very stupid to me, but I am not
American and do not understand American rules. :16.000 --> :20.880
So I told them that since I was apparently
Irene, and I am completely sure that I did :20.880 --> :28.520
not apply for a mortgage, or for insurance,
that all of those should be cancelled immediately. :28.520 --> :34.661
The mortgage broker told me that if we did
that, we may not meet the date required in :34.661 --> :36.170
the contract for the removal of subjects. :36.170 --> :41.020
I told him that since I, Irene, was not applying
for a mortgage, that didn't matter. :41.020 --> :45.260
The travel agent, who it seems had received
the majority of the earful from Irene, seemed :45.260 --> :48.550
completely indifferent to my request to cancel "my" trip to Venice.
:48.550 --> :54.370 She did tell me that there might be a cancellation
fee for the original flight to Frankfurt. :54.370 --> :58.810
(Why she was flying to Frankfurt to get to Venice, I have no idea.
:58.810 --> :01.710 I assume there are no direct flights to Italy?)
:01.710 --> :07.670 So I told her to cancel all the rest of the
flights and hotel rooms except the original :07.670 --> :09.000
flight to Frankfurt. :09.000 --> :11.630
Don't wanna cost Irene that extra $20 after all. :11.630 --> :16.920
I have not heard anything further, and I am
a little sad about that, as there's a part :16.920 --> :20.810
of me that loves the idea of Irene flying
to Frankfurt, getting there and realising :20.810 --> :22.730
all her connecting and return flights are cancelled.
:22.730 --> :25.140 And I do wonder if she ever bought that house.
:25.140 --> :29.330 But at least the emails have stopped!I live
in a duplex and we share a wall. :29.330 --> :33.890
The neighbor that moved in is constantly screaming
and berating her kids every single day at :33.890 --> :35.430
the top of her lungs. :35.430 --> :40.340
My dad went over to talk to her about it and she apologized to him.
:40.340 --> :46.930
I messaged our property management about insulating
the walls, due to the noise, since they were :46.930 --> :48.885
already planning to do the attic, and I guess they told her.
:48.885 --> :52.190 This p***** her off, so now she’s being
loud on purpose. :52.190 --> :57.750
The walls are super thin, so I heard her entire
conversation with the property manager calling :57.750 --> :03.120
my dad all kinds of names and then hanging
up to tell her cousin what she was going to :03.120 --> :04.120
do in retaliation. :04.120 --> :05.120 Here’s the revenge.
:05.120 --> :08.670 She obviously doesn’t understand how thin
the walls all or doesn’t care. :08.670 --> :13.750
I heard her yelling on the phone with a former
property management place and she apparently :13.750 --> :16.870
caused some damage to the tune of $1000. :16.870 --> :23.029
She blocked their number, but from the conversation
I was able to look up their contact information :23.029 --> :27.620
and sent them the necessary info to follow
up with her in case they need to file a suit. :27.620 --> :29.220
Good luck paying your rent. :29.220 --> :33.000
She already complains about money and no one
helping her out (I wonder why).Some years :33.000 --> :35.670
ago, we started to get phone calls for a rather upscale downtown restaurant.
:35.670 --> :39.840 We would tell them that they had the wrong
number, but they kept coming so, there had :39.840 --> :41.180
to be a reason. :41.180 --> :45.390
After a few tries we were able to find out where they got our number.
:45.390 --> :49.190 One of the restaurant managers had cards printed
up with our number on it. :49.190 --> :52.220
We called the restaurant a few times and informed them what was happening.
:52.220 --> :55.880 They said that they would take care of it
but didn't. :55.880 --> :01.150
I stopped trying the nice route when they
basically told me to f off and stop calling. :01.150 --> :04.640
I stopped calling as they requested and started to accept reservations.
:04.640 --> :09.500 They probably didn't notice since the first
ones were for small parties that could be :09.500 --> :10.500
worked in. :10.500 --> :16.040
The calls finally stopped soon after I took
a reservation for a party of 12 at 7pm. :16.040 --> :22.800
I felt a little sorry for party expecting
a table to be ready for them, but I considered :22.800 --> :27.250
that to be collateral damage.This happened
20+ years ago, back in the days when everybody :27.250 --> :29.230
had a landline with an answering machine. :29.230 --> :30.230
Yes, I am old. :30.230 --> :35.230
I moved to a new city, got my phone line hooked
up, and almost immediately started getting :35.230 --> :37.950
phone calls for whoever owned my phone number before me.
:37.950 --> :40.490 I'll call him Bob, because that was his name.
:40.490 --> :43.620 The number of phone calls was ridiculous.
:43.620 --> :47.330 I'd come home from work to at least 5 or 6
messages on the answering machine, asking :47.330 --> :48.450
Bob to call them back. :48.450 --> :54.430
Through out the evening, and as late as midnight
(sometimes later) I'd get more calls for Bob. :54.430 --> :56.740
All day long on the weekends. :56.740 --> :01.480
It seemed like a mix of business, bill collectors and friends and family of Bob.
:01.480 --> :06.830 Each person I talked to, I would explain that
this wasn't Bob's number anymore, and I hoped :06.830 --> :12.910
that eventually the people leaving messages
would figure out that they had the wrong number... :12.910 --> :19.110
but nope, 5 months later and I was STILL getting
8 or 10 phone calls a day for Bob. :19.110 --> :20.110 So..
:20.110 --> :22.270 I changed the message on my answering machine.
:22.270 --> :25.589 I started it with "If you are calling for
Bob, stop calling this number, BOB IS DEAD. :25.589 --> :28.270
If you are calling for Wandering, leave a message after the beep"
:28.270 --> :29.270 It seemed to work. :29.270 --> :34.460
Over the next month or so, the number of messages
had dropped to just one or two a day. :34.460 --> :37.820
And then, one day I got THE message: :37.820 --> :39.080 "This is Bob.
:39.080 --> :40.100 I AM NOT DEAD!!! :40.100 --> :42.460
STOP TELLING PEOPLE THAT I AM DEAD!!!! :42.460 --> :44.140
You made my mother cry!! :44.140 --> :45.490
Change your message immediately!!!" :45.490 --> :47.370
I laughed and left my message alone. :47.370 --> :51.450
Bob must have finally started giving his new
number to people, because the wrong numbers :51.450 --> :56.640
dropped to just one every week or so after
that.We ordered a meal from Just Eat, which :56.640 --> :01.210
is a UK delivery service like Door Dash but
with (at the time, this was a few years ago) :01.210 --> :08.690
much better customer services - one of the
key differences at the time between this service :08.690 --> :14.501
and Door Dash is that the restaurants used
their own drivers, although since then Just :14.501 --> :17.140
Eat also now have the gig economy drivers too. :17.140 --> :21.140
This means that the drivers' time and pay was nothing to do with Just Eat.
:21.140 --> :24.589 For some reason I cannot recall we had ordered
as cash on delivery instead of paying by card, :24.589 --> :28.240
our order came to £22.50 and we paid with a £20 and £10 note.
:28.240 --> :32.710 The driver who delivered it said he had no
change and would go back to the restaurant :32.710 --> :33.710
and get it. :33.710 --> :37.120
He doesn't return so we phone the restaurant,
only to be angrily told "We are not a bank!" :37.120 --> :38.780
and have the phone hung up on us. :38.780 --> :44.570
So we went to Just Eat's customer support,
who in turn apparently threatened to remove :44.570 --> :47.350
the restaurant from their service for non-compliance
if we did not get our change. :47.350 --> :55.110
So the next day the driver comes to our door
again, and this time he has a £10 note in :55.110 --> :56.110
his hand. :56.110 --> :58.280 He then asked us for the £2.50 change.
:58.280 --> :59.660 "Sorry, we're not a bank!"
:59.660 --> :04.370 He had to go back to the restaurant again
and get exact change, then come back and gave :04.370 --> :05.760
us our £7.50 change. :05.760 --> :11.660
The driver thought it was hilarious, he said
he doesn't care, he gets paid either way for :11.660 --> :12.660
his time. :12.660 --> :17.149
He said his boss was absolutely fuming but
couldn't risk losing the Just Eat business. :17.149 --> :18.149 Petty?
:18.149 --> :19.149 Absolutely. :19.149 --> :20.149
Did we ever dare order from that restaurant again? :20.149 --> :22.880
H*** noMy friend's apartment requires online
registration for 24hr parking passes, and :22.880 --> :27.440
sometimes that means arriving at 3 or so in
the morning and having to renew within 10 :27.440 --> :33.370
minutes at 3am the next night to keep it going
(since it's impossible to renew in advance). :33.370 --> :37.540
At first I thought it would be inconsequential
if I was a few minutes behind, so my alarm :37.540 --> :42.160
went off and got dressed and used the restroom
but by the time I got out to my car to replace :42.160 --> :47.089
the code in the window hardly 15 minutes had passed and my car was already gone.
:47.089 --> :51.480 I thought I'd just been unlucky until it happened
again a couple weeks later. :51.480 --> :56.480
I just couldn't get over the fact that somebody
could be so hawkish towards residents' guests, :56.480 --> :02.310
especially in such a low income area, and
at this point I'd paid almost $700 of my measly :02.310 --> :07.630
$841 monthly income in tow fees, which put
me in a pretty dire and desperate situation :07.630 --> :13.460
over what should have been a routine and straightforward visit with a friend.
:13.460 --> :16.360 That kind of thing just shouldn't happen,
you know? :16.360 --> :21.060
I shouldn't have to be so stressed and vigilant
to avoid a devastating financial loss every :21.060 --> :23.279
time I want to hang out with my friend. :23.279 --> :29.500
So the next night I waited for them to show
up to tow my car just to start it up and give :29.500 --> :36.260
them the middle finger when they showed up
two minutes later, and even when I'm not in :36.260 --> :41.279
town I've been registering to park there at
ungodly hours just to bait them into showing :41.279 --> :43.730
up to find nothing there when it expires. :43.730 --> :46.180
I'll continue to do so until I'm satisfied. :46.180 --> :50.770
A comment on their BBB page complained about
their antics, that they stalk around low-income :50.770 --> :56.300
apartments and swoop in to pick up rides when
it's less likely that people are awake to :56.300 --> :01.540
renew, and complained that they couldn't make rent that month because of it.
:01.540 --> :04.709 The address registered for the business was
a beautiful two-story home. :04.709 --> :07.360
I hope he enjoys the h*** out of it. :07.360 --> :11.220
I hope it's worth the pain he's caused.So, it's around 8:15 here, right?
:11.220 --> :15.750 Well, it's finally gotten cooler so my neighbor
(single dad with two boys probably around :15.750 --> :19.370
8 or 9) let his kids start playing kickball in our foyer.
:19.370 --> :25.319 My son(17m) and I(39f) are having one of our
chats and suddenly their kick ball SLAMS into :25.319 --> :26.429
my screen door. :26.429 --> :27.549 Ok, that's kids.
:27.549 --> :31.629 It made a loud sound so that should spook
them, right? :31.629 --> :33.490 Nope, few seconds later BAM!
:33.490 --> :35.700 Well, I have a doorbell cam with audio.
:35.700 --> :37.009 I got an evil idea. :37.009 --> :41.299
I pulled up my cam app and went to live feed. :41.299 --> :46.580
They were still kicking it against my door,
so I hit the call button and whispered "I :46.580 --> :47.580
can see you...." :47.580 --> :51.390
They stopped dead for just a heartbeat and
then ran like h*** into their apartment!!! :51.390 --> :54.690
My kid and I have been DYING for like 10 minutes. :54.690 --> :55.690
Ah, sweet revenge. :55.690 --> :58.390
My son was like, "You just gave kids nightmares, mom!"
:58.390 --> :59.950 Then we high fived and laughed some more.
:59.950 --> :02.820 I'm an awful person.I have a somewhat common
email address that people with the same first :02.820 --> :06.570
initial and last name tend to abuse when they don't want spam.
:06.570 --> :12.389 This had led to some.. interesting, emails
up to and including me emailing an admin asking :12.389 --> :18.539
his user to please change his email before
I cancel his metro pass and that I really :18.539 --> :21.480
didn't need to know about his beastiality fetish. :21.480 --> :28.629
Recently this has moved to someone not wanting
to be bothered with their food order receipts. :28.629 --> :34.409
I'm fairly fed up with this unsecure behavior,
so I waited as the receipts were sometimes :34.409 --> :35.850
three times a day. :35.850 --> :36.850 Tonight, I struck.
:36.850 --> :41.379 The email came in for a place they've ordered
from repeatedly, so I called in, said I'd :41.379 --> :44.399
changed my mind and wanted to cancel my order. :44.399 --> :46.940
About 20 minutes later I got the refund notification.
:46.940 --> :51.480 Dunno if the dude got notification that his
order was cancelled, but I kind of hope he :51.480 --> :54.480
drove his fuel guzzler over there to find out*. :54.480 --> :59.239
Same dude also signed me up for marketing
materials with JEGS.Sorry for the long narrative.. :59.239 --> :04.940
I (32M ) worked for a family owned large scale
retail chain . Even though they had nearly :04.940 --> :09.159
a hundred showrooms, the business still operated
like a typical family owned business. :09.159 --> :13.590
The owner's childhood friend was the senior
advisor ( SM) to the company and his four :13.590 --> :17.570
kids were put on varying positions of power straight out of high school.
:17.570 --> :21.580 I was the only guy who knew the technical
details of the product we were selling. :21.580 --> :27.909
I was responsible for marketing the products
but also for training, recruitment, operations :27.909 --> :31.110
support, troubleshooting and anything else that they could think of.
:31.110 --> :35.749 They had me on a contract of non compete when
I joined them. :35.749 --> :42.059
Because of the highly specific nature of the
industry I specialized in, I didn't have a :42.059 --> :47.260
shot of getting into any of our competition
nor could I easily switch over to another :47.260 --> :48.260
industry. :48.260 --> :55.769
They had me in a tight spot and kept me on
a payscale that was suitable for a junior :55.769 --> :02.789
executive, even though I had been handling projects worth millions.
:02.789 --> :09.249 The worst part was the senior advisor SM would
always try to nag me with little things like :09.249 --> :14.100
not submitting time stamps for any client
meetings or taking more than half an hour :14.100 --> :15.100
for lunch. :15.100 --> :19.009
SM would also tell the boss's kids that they
should have better control over me or I will :19.009 --> :20.009
replace them. :20.009 --> :25.600
The guy had a history of destroying the career
of anyone in the company who grew close to :25.600 --> :26.600
the boss. :26.600 --> :29.999
The kids took his advice seriously and ended up bossing over me on everything.
:29.999 --> :36.950 I had to pass every email or proposals through
them to the boss and if I slip up, they started :36.950 --> :40.369
raising complaints to their dad about it. :40.369 --> :46.090
The boss would inevitably take their side
and ended up telling me to work under their :46.090 --> :47.090
instructions. :47.090 --> :51.460
I had been working on a major contract with
a high stake client for over six months. :51.460 --> :55.330
I had researched, targeted, networked and
did alot of ground work to get a meeting with :55.330 --> :56.330
the guy. :56.330 --> :03.239
When the guy called me in for a meeting at
last , I decided to attend it and win the :03.239 --> :07.259
project before bringing the boss and his family on the loop.
:07.259 --> :11.350 The client was happy with the level of technical
and product specific information I provided :11.350 --> :12.720
and placed a massive order. :12.720 --> :16.269
We are talking about a single contract worth 2.5 million dollar in value.
:16.269 --> :22.080 The product in question is a very high value
, premium item that needs to be custom developed :22.080 --> :23.080
by specialists. :23.080 --> :27.820
The client was very specific on the need for
individualized customization for each item. :27.820 --> :32.740
Even though every instinct in my gut was telling
me I should take it straight to the boss, :32.740 --> :35.289
I decided to follow the protocol in place. :35.289 --> :40.299
The kids were furious I didn't keep them in
loop on such a high value project, but were :40.299 --> :41.840
happy as well about the deal. :41.840 --> :44.769
They told me to take a long weekend and return after three days.
:44.769 --> :50.019 I took a well deserved mini vacation and returned
to office. :50.019 --> :56.679
My boss called me in to let me know that his
kids and SM had landed a multimillion dollar :56.679 --> :01.070
deal and that I need to run support on the deal. :01.070 --> :09.220
There I sat in a conference room, surrounded
by the four kids, SM who looked smug and the :09.220 --> :13.320
dad who seemed to know what was happening but still playing along.
:13.320 --> :17.399 I told them that I was the one who got the deal.
:17.399 --> :20.409 The eldest kid said " Yeah at our direction!
:20.409 --> :23.909 " . The daughter piped in saying , " You are
just the employee , remember that. :23.909 --> :25.360
You work at our direction. :25.360 --> :28.450
You did your job and we gave you an amazing reward of a long weekend.
:28.450 --> :29.730 Be happy with that." :29.730 --> :33.230
I sat there in shock as what they said sank in. :33.230 --> :37.679
They were weaseling out of paying any bonus or incentive for the deal.
:37.679 --> :44.620 Even though there was clear papertrial and
evidence that I was the one who landed the :44.620 --> :49.330
client and got them the deal, they were shafting me out of paying the bonus.
:49.330 --> :51.529 The boss looked on without saying anything.
:51.529 --> :57.179 He seemed a little ashamed but ended up siding
with his kids as he said " it doesn't matter :57.179 --> :58.460
who got the deal. :58.460 --> :04.470
The main thing is, you are the one who will
work on the project to make sure it is delivered." :04.470 --> :08.389
By this point , I had been working for over 9 years with these people.
:08.389 --> :13.009 I had mediocre pay and no prospect of career
growth. :13.009 --> :26.779 I knew I was not going to get another job
in the industry I love in the country I lived :26.779 --> :27.999 in.
:27.999 --> :40.059 I stood up and looked the boss straight in
the eye and said , " I am done. :40.059 --> :42.950
I cannot work with your kids or SM anymore. :42.950 --> :45.230
" I left the room without a backwards glance. :45.230 --> :55.859
Turns out , SM had hoped I would do this and
jumped at the opportunity to bad mouth me :55.859 --> :57.230
to the boss. :57.230 --> :13.419 The kids piled on
and the boss gave me the notice to leave immediately
:13.419 --> :19.629 rather than serve the three months of notice
period. :19.629 --> :30.191 Apparently SM had advised the boss that I
might sabotage the business if I stayed on :30.191 --> :35.200
and that his kids and him could handle any work that I was handling.
:35.200 --> :44.940 So after 9 years of pouring my life and soul
into this business, I left with only a weak :44.940 --> :54.039
thanks from the boss and a smirk on the faces of the kids.
:54.039 --> :58.950 My wife was supportive and she luckily had
an opportunity in another country. :58.950 --> :02.289
We relocated within two months and here I am now. :02.289 --> :06.600
It has been almost a year and I remain unemployed
as I had no market exposure in the new country. :06.600 --> :24.259
But I am taking this time to be a stay at
home dad and enjoy every minute of it with :24.259 --> :25.259 my son.
:25.259 --> :27.399 I have never been so relaxed and happy.
:27.399 --> :33.609 Almost every employee in the company is in
good terms with me and they have been updating :33.609 --> :34.639
me on everything. :34.639 --> :43.200
Turns out, the boss assigned his eldest daughter
and son to finalize the deal with the client. :43.200 --> :49.730
They set up a meeting to let him know they
will be the ones to handle his project. :49.730 --> :53.509
When he asked them specific details on the
customization, they couldn't get their facts :53.509 --> :54.509
straight. :54.509 --> :55.509 The client ended up cancelling the deal.
:55.509 --> :58.919 SM tried to scramble and arrange another meeting
with the client. :58.919 --> :06.639
Even then they didn't have anyone who was
able to answer all the queries the client :06.639 --> :07.639 had.
:07.639 --> :12.480 Apparently the client got annoyed and asked
about me. :12.480 --> :19.809
When he learnt that I was no longer working,
he told them that he is not going to take :19.809 --> :22.940
any more meetings with them. :22.940 --> :28.700
They lost a project that would have given
them a million dollars in pure profit . They :28.700 --> :38.149
soon lost a few more existing tender bids
for not being able to provide adequate technical :38.149 --> :39.149
details. :39.149 --> :40.889 One day ingot a call from SM.
:40.889 --> :51.710 He was all cheerful asking how I am enjoying
my break and if I am ready to get back to :51.710 --> :58.080
work, as if nothing had happened. :58.080 --> :01.669
I asked him what he meant. :01.669 --> :03.820
He said " I can take you on as a consultant... :03.820 --> :10.190
You work from that country and provide remote
support and I will pay you directly. :10.190 --> :19.009
" I asked him if the boss was aware of this deal. :19.009 --> :28.099
He didn't answer me and ended the call asking me to think about it.
:28.099 --> :34.380 A few weeks later the boss calls me and asked
me to join back immediately. :34.380 --> :39.080
He said " we will give you a 10% raise . Just join within the month.
:39.080 --> :40.080 " :40.080 --> :49.979
I refused and he blew his temper. :49.979 --> :17.059
He accused me of being petty and that I should
take this opportunity to get back to work :17.059 --> :26.570
. He threatened me further stating he had
already spoken to all the local competitors :26.570 --> :40.529
with whom he has a backroom agreement not to hire me at any cost.
:40.529 --> :49.749 I still refused and said " I have never had
a more satisfying responsibility than the :49.749 --> :53.940
one I have right now. :53.940 --> :06.389
I will never go back to your firm and best
of luck running it with your kids and SM. :06.389 --> :07.389 "
:07.389 --> :17.239 I still don't have a job and I am not keen
on jumping into the next opportunity unless :17.239 --> :23.979
it offers me a balanced work life. :23.979 --> :29.140
The boss and his kids continue to lose clients
and the business has started shrinking now. :29.140 --> :05.769
They still continue to bad mouth me to the
local industry experts for being so petty :05.769 --> :17.749
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when did the class clown go too far when
I was in high school we were on our way to the zoo for an Excursion and a friend
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window of the bus that read bomb on bus one or more of the people driving behind
the bus called it in and there was an absolute show evaluating a busload
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:00.199 --> :05.069 Word of note - this is not me - but posting
up here for a friend who currently resides :05.069 --> :06.549
overseas. Long story - but worth the read. :06.549 --> :11.009
Awhile back my friend was selling some stuff
online and among the items was a water heater. :11.009 --> :15.870
You know - the ones you see in every community
hall / church kitchen. It was in working condition,
:15.870 --> :21.480 he threw it up online for $150 and got a email
from a person who runs a landscaping business :21.480 --> :23.960
saying he’ll give him $100 cash today. Done. :23.960 --> :29.110
Two weeks later, he got a email saying that
it’s not working. Weird. So my friend offered :29.110 --> :30.270
to give a full refund or cover repair cost if it’s under $100.
:30.270 --> :34.190 The guy instead sent a invoice for $400 saying
the repairs been done and if my friend doesn’t :34.190 --> :42.880
pay it in 48 hours he’ll send a debt collector
after him. He paid it (out of fear) and emailed :42.880 --> :47.510
him the confirmation - the landscaping owner
then emailed back saying “this is the price :47.510 --> :51.060
you sometimes have to pay when selling second
hand electronics” followed by a “have :51.060 --> :56.850
a great day, don’t let this hold you back” with a :) at the end of the email.
:56.850 --> :02.240 A month later my friend was in a bar and he
overhears a girl talking about how her boss :02.240 --> :06.539
- who runs a landscaping firm - screwed over
some d****** selling a water heater. My friend :06.539 --> :12.329
said ‘oh d*** I gotta hear this - do you
mind if I join your table?’ And the girl :12.329 --> :18.689
said sure and told the story. Her boss had
brought a busted water heater from a second :18.689 --> :25.500
hand store for $25 and a working one for $100
and billed the seller for the repair for the :25.500 --> :31.840
busted one before he sold it on for $300 to
some community group. My friend asked “who :31.840 --> :37.530
did this so I don’t hire that guy to fix
up my yard” (hahahahahas all around) she :37.530 --> :43.359
says the company name and - lo and behold
- it’s on the email of the guy my friend :43.359 --> :46.569
sold the water heater too. He was the d****** in the story.
:46.569 --> :52.299 He told me he was pretty angry about it but
COVID then hit so he had other stuff to worry :52.299 --> :53.299
about. :53.299 --> :58.250 18 months later he was browsing the website
he originally sold the water heater on and :58.250 --> :06.030
he saw a bunch of landscaping materials - shovels,
gardening stuff wheelbarrows, lights for working :06.030 --> :09.300
at night, drills, nail guns, some construction materials and….a generator.
:09.300 --> :12.810 Now - in my friends location - apparently
- if you’re selling a generator then you :12.810 --> :18.489
need to have a warrant of fitness for it (proving
that it works, it’s safe, no flayed wires :18.489 --> :24.439
ect ect) most people ignore it - and he saw
that this generator is being sold by the landscaping
:24.439 --> :30.019 firm. This generator he said - just by looking
at it - there was no way in h*** would it :30.019 --> :33.780
have a WoF. Word of note - failure for a business
to provide a WoF upon request for a generator :33.780 --> :38.319
after 2 weeks - when reported too the offical
departments and enforced by the court - the :38.319 --> :43.879
punishment is a hefty fine and the courts
often force the seller to refund the affected :43.879 --> :46.879
party and pay any costs that they incurred. :46.879 --> :47.879
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He talked to his flatmate who agreed that
they would go 50/50 on the generator but he :55.209 --> :00.409
would transfer the money. Now - my friend
had never met the landscaping firm owner face :00.409 --> :04.640
to face when selling the water heater (he
left it outside and pickup was confirmed via :04.640 --> :09.310
his security camera) and when he get there
it’s was clear that the owner - this old :09.310 --> :13.489
grumpy looking man who enjoyed yelling at
his employees - had emptied out his storage :13.489 --> :17.610
unit. The owner was very much “as it is,
no refund” and the flatmate showed him the :17.610 --> :20.590
transfer confirmation and they take the generator
for $800. No warrent of fitnesses provided. :20.590 --> :25.859
They then took it to a friend of theirs who
is a electrician and he agreed to check it :25.859 --> :28.920
and give a invoice for repairs and to quote
the friend “it would be cheaper to buy a :28.920 --> :32.510
new generator and to be honest - this generator
shouldn’t have been sold. It should’ve :32.510 --> :35.620
been scrapped”. They also found that the
main identifier number had been scratched :35.620 --> :41.810
off - but not a second number that is often
recorded as well on WoF’s for tracking purposes. :41.810 --> :47.900
So they got in contact with the seller telling
him the cost for repair - around $5,000. He :47.900 --> :52.180
promptly tells them that he’s not paying
“as it is, no refund” to which they then :52.180 --> :55.569
asked - have you got the warrant of fitnesses for this generator?
:55.569 --> :00.189 Silence for two days - they followed up with
another email asking for it. No response. :00.189 --> :05.739
They then ask again and get a email from him
saying that he’ll take it back for $800. :05.739 --> :13.930
They said no, we want the WoF and they get
no response. They emailed him every day for :13.930 --> :15.200
two weeks, nothing. :15.200 --> :20.510
So they printed out the original item listing
that had been screenshooted (and had been :20.510 --> :24.840
archived on the website) and reported him
to the website - and then the government. :24.840 --> :31.790
4 months later my friend is in court and the
guy went up to him. He tells him that he will :31.790 --> :37.410
take back the generator for $800 and that
my friend and his flatmate will be going in :37.410 --> :43.490
to tell the judge that the seller has refunded
them and that they want it all dropped and :43.490 --> :48.740
that’s what’s happening here full stop end of story they are doing what they are
:48.740 --> :49.790 told to do. :49.790 --> :51.190
My friend said no. :51.190 --> :55.120
So they went into the court room and it’s
over very quickly. The inspector the government :55.120 --> :59.770
sent out to inspect the generator stated that
it was in poor condition, shouldn’t have :59.770 --> :02.740
been sold, was highly unsafe AND that the
seller had tried to get the generator a WoF :02.740 --> :08.930
in early 2021 but instead had been told that
it was to be repaired or scrapped and that :08.930 --> :15.100
it was not to be sold. They identified it
by a second number on the generator that they :15.100 --> :20.470
took down in the original attempt to get it
WoF’d which had not been scratched out like :20.470 --> :21.470
the first. :21.470 --> :25.630
The judge ordered the landscaping firm owner
to refund the flatmate the $800, pay the $5,000 :25.630 --> :31.210
for repairs to the generator AND was ordered
to pay a $10,000 fine - which would be given :31.210 --> :32.620
directly to my friends flatmate as the affected party.
:32.620 --> :37.870 When they left the courtroom the owner was
furious and told them that under no uncertain :37.870 --> :41.210
terms was he paying them a penny more and
and that he couldn’t understand what he :41.210 --> :42.960
had done to deserve such treatment. :42.960 --> :47.350
To which, my friend said, “remember the
water heater?” He gave him a very confused :47.350 --> :50.990
look. “Remember the water heater you brought
for $100? Well I do - because I sold it to :50.990 --> :55.030
you - and I know that you had a different one repaired and invoiced me for it.”
:55.030 --> :03.410 His jaw was on the floor and to hit it home
he said “it’s a b**** isn’t it, when :03.410 --> :08.480
what goes around comes around - especially
when it accumulated interest. You have 48 :08.480 --> :13.170
hours to pay, or a debt collector will be
contacted. Remember - this is the price you :13.170 --> :16.920
sometimes have to pay when selling second
hand electronics. Have a great day, don’t :16.920 --> :19.580
let this hold you back!” And they left. :19.580 --> :25.080
He paid the $15,000 two days later. My friend
and the flatmate split the $10,000 50/50 as :25.080 --> :28.930
they agreed (combination of rent payments
and study stuff) The generator they got repaired :28.930 --> :34.570
- and then got a WoF for it before selling
it for $1,000 with a newly replaced identifier :34.570 --> :35.570
number. :35.570 --> :40.510 They then went out for a wonderful dinner
and night out in town.This happened 12 years :40.510 --> :43.300
ago, and I am still reaping my rewards. :43.300 --> :47.630
I worked for The Company. They did Three Phase
Photography. Family and children photography. :47.630 --> :52.180
No wedding or events or anything. Straight
studio work that was in a portable setting. :52.180 --> :57.490
Sittings booked for 10 minutes and we were
supposed to shoot 30-50 a day. Yes, it is :57.490 --> :03.360
as wretched of a job as it sounds. It was
fast, high energy and at times simply brutal. :03.360 --> :07.021
Preseller- They come in 2-3 weeks in advance
and sell a "special" 10x13 portrait and book :07.021 --> :08.021
the appointment. :08.021 --> :11.570
The Photographer-(That's me in this instance)
comes in for about a week and takes the pictures. :11.570 --> :15.120
The Salesperson returns 2 weeks later with
the "special" along with the other 6 poses :15.120 --> :18.240
I took and tries to sell you $400 worth of pictures.
:18.240 --> :24.010 I was very good at what I did. The company
sales average was $100 per customer per 50 :24.010 --> :28.600
customers. The more you shoot, the lower your
quality, because you spend less time taking :28.600 --> :34.080
care of details, and details, sell pictures.
My average was $175ish per 150-200 customers. :34.080 --> :39.740
I was making this company a LOT of money.
And they consistently treated me like crap. :39.740 --> :40.740
Oh, the stories... :40.740 --> :46.490
Their business model was shoot as many sittings
as you can as fast as you can. To them shooting :46.490 --> :50.760
50 with a $100 average was BETTER than shooting
35 with a $150 average, even though the profit :50.760 --> :55.550
margin was exactly the same. I never agreed
with that and Boss and I went round and round :55.550 --> :59.530
about it every week. They withheld raises
because I didn't have enough sittings and :59.530 --> :07.060
took my bonuses because I wasn't meeting their
quotas. So I figured out how to be fast, efficient,
:07.060 --> :08.580 and D*** good! (that's another post!)
:08.580 --> :12.810 So that's the background...now the good stuff.
Enter The Jerk. The Jerk is a pre-seller who :12.810 --> :16.760
lied to the customers, lied to the store,
and would book appointments from 9 am to 8:30 :16.760 --> :18.110
pm even though the studio hours were 10 am-7:00pm. :18.110 --> :22.530
He told every lie in the book and I think
he even added a few of his own. Want to bring :22.530 --> :27.040
your dog? Family of 15? Sure, bring 5 changes
of clothes and I'll even have her do your :27.040 --> :31.840
make-up! (I don't even do my own make-up!)
Come and get your picture taken and we will :31.840 --> :35.870
throw in a free toaster! And just to make
it interesting, he would triple and quadruple :35.870 --> :40.550
book appointments and when he ran out of those
he would sell "Open" appointments and tell :40.550 --> :44.970
people to just come in "anytime and my photographer
will work you in". GRRR! Just writing that :44.970 --> :46.990
makes me mad even after all these years. :46.990 --> :50.275
The biggest problem was he would "waive" the
sitting fee or just not tell them. I was OBLIGATED :50.275 --> :54.900
to collect that $8.00. Every time I didn't
it came out of my check. It was a freaking :54.900 --> :55.900
nightmare. :55.900 --> :02.800
I refused to work behind The Jerk for these
and 1000 other reasons. I told BOSS that if :02.800 --> :05.310
they EVER put me behind The Jerk again I would
quit. Which is exactly what happened. They :05.310 --> :08.350
knew he had been working at the store I was assigned and they lied about it.
:08.350 --> :12.620 I immediately called BOSS and told him this
was my last week and that he needed to make :12.620 --> :15.730
arrangements to get the photography equipment
at the end of the shoot. I should have walked :15.730 --> :22.000
out, but I was young and dumb. It was a 3-day
shoot and I shot 316 customers by myself. :22.000 --> :26.960
That is an INSANE amount of sittings...and
NOBODY was happy. Every night the store manager :26.960 --> :31.140
had to tell my customers to leave because
the store was closed. People were lined up :31.140 --> :36.800
at 9 am waiting for me. I took so much abuse
that week. After a customer threw a shoe at :36.800 --> :42.550
me and another spit on my pizza, the store
security guard brought a chair over and stayed :42.550 --> :46.980
with me almost the entire time I was there.
I honestly cannot remember how many people :46.980 --> :51.310
were escorted out of the store because they
acted a fool in my studio. It's been over :51.310 --> :53.780
a decade and I still have nightmares about that week.
:53.780 --> :00.570 But...nobody came to get the equipment so
I start making phone calls. And plotting... :00.570 --> :04.640
Me: "Hey, what do you want me to do with your equipment?"
:04.640 --> :08.140 Boss: "You are going to need it next week
in Florida." :08.140 --> :09.880 Me: "No, because I quit!"
:09.880 --> :14.160 Boss: "You didn't give me any notice so I'm
not accepting your resignation. I am sending :14.160 --> :15.690
you to Florida next week." :15.690 --> :21.990
Me: "I'm an independent contractor...remember?
You can't make me go to Florida. This is not :21.990 --> :24.020
complicated. I quit. " (that's another post!) :24.020 --> :26.279
Boss: "Just go to Florida. I don't have time
for this now. You can quit in 3 weeks if you :26.279 --> :27.280
can hire a replacement." and he hangs up. :27.280 --> :33.080
Nope. Not going to Florida. I packed the equipment
and took it home with me. The camera was a :33.080 --> :38.520
brand new Canon T2i 550D and those were pricey
back in 2010, I really didn't want to give :38.520 --> :40.410
it back, but it wasn't mine to keep. :40.410 --> :41.410
I had an idea. :41.410 --> :42.410
Boss was an absolute train-wreck of a human.
If he didn't want to do something...he wouldn't. :42.410 --> :45.890
If he could find someone else to do it, he
would. I decided to use his own worst traits :45.890 --> :46.890
against him. Avoidance and procrastination. :46.890 --> :51.220
The next thing I did was take the company
credit card and go to the nearest storage :51.220 --> :58.240
unit with climate control. I rented a unit
and paid for the first month, but just one. :58.240 --> :02.390
I unloaded it all, down to the last halogen
light bulb. I took detailed pictures of everything :02.390 --> :07.030
and an inventory. I locked the door and walked
away. At this point, there was nothing I could :07.030 --> :11.220
do but wait and hope Boss would continue to
be the worthless wreck I knew him to be. :11.220 --> :14.200
Next, I called and reported the card stolen.
Why? Because I knew if I didn't that card :14.200 --> :17.590
would remain active and rent would be paid
every month on time...and that just wasn't :17.590 --> :21.010
going to work for me. I cut it in half and
sent it and the combination to the storage :21.010 --> :27.240
locker to BOSS via FedEx... along with a hand-painted
sign that said: "I QUIT!" I also sent an email :27.240 --> :33.140
to HR telling them that I was terminating
my contract and that BOSS had the information :33.140 --> :39.650
on the equipment. This is probably the only
sketchy thing I did. The person I emailed :39.650 --> :47.070
was out on medical leave, and I knew it. I
could have sent that email to a dozen other :47.070 --> :55.029
people who worked there, but they might have
paid attention to it. By the time she got :55.029 --> :58.529
back to the office she had so many emails,
She couldn't even begin to tackle them all. :58.529 --> :04.960
A month goes by and the police knock on my
door. Ok, so I wasn't expecting THAT!!! The :04.960 --> :11.160
Company has reported the equipment stolen
and the police are there to investigate. I :11.160 --> :17.190
really thought I was going to jail. The cop
that knocked on the door was fully expecting :17.190 --> :24.750
to take me away in handcuffs until I explained
what was going on. I ended up taking copies :24.750 --> :28.420
of the emails to the police department as
well as my copy of the contract with the storage :28.420 --> :36.630
unit. I also had a copy of the shipping label.
Both my name and The Company were listed on :36.630 --> :40.210
the contract. I had to make an official statement
and jump through some hoops. The company had :40.210 --> :43.880
placed a monetary value of $12,000 on the
studio rig so potentially I was in a lot of :43.880 --> :48.870
trouble...except I covered my a**. The police
told me I was in the clear because the storage :48.870 --> :54.102
unit had their name on the contract, their
credit card was used to pay for it and I had :54.102 --> :58.910
sent the combination and all the pertinent
information to The Company. I am very good :58.910 --> :05.220
at CYAWP (Cover Your A** With Paper). At this
point, I figure the gig is up because surely :05.220 --> :09.150
they are going to come to get this rig or send someone or something!
:09.150 --> :10.440 NOPE! BOSS is still worthless.
:10.440 --> :15.130 Two more months go by. I get a call from the
storage facility They are about to cut the :15.130 --> :21.260
lock and auction the contents. I just about
peed my pants I was so excited! I called BOSS :21.260 --> :26.140
again. He dodged my calls and ignored my emails
to please call me immediately. I never specifically
:26.140 --> :29.470 stated what I wanted to talk to him about
and just like I was hoping he would, he ignored :29.470 --> :32.850
me. Okie dokie. I have done all that I can! :32.850 --> :35.560
And that's when it all started to come together. :35.560 --> :39.220
And then I hit a pretty good snag, but it
actually worked out better in the end. In :39.220 --> :43.100
this state, if a storage unit goes up for
sale the owner cannot purchase it at auction. :43.100 --> :47.350
I didn't know that. But where there is a will
there is a way. They sent letters and called :47.350 --> :51.960
three more times and then the date was set.
The unit went up for auction on my birthday. :51.960 --> :58.149
My neighbor went to the sale. He bought the
unit for $125...I almost died! And of course, :58.149 --> :04.750
we were in cahoots on this, but we had to
make it look like we weren't. The pistol grip :04.750 --> :11.690
the camera mounts cost more than that not
to mention the lighting, props, and costumes. :11.690 --> :15.710
And of course the camera!! My neighbor then
put an ad in the local paper for "photography :15.710 --> :18.390
stuff $1000 firm" but didn't list anything
specific and...ooops...put the wrong number :18.390 --> :23.880
in the ad! A week later he wanted it out of
his garage so he sold it to me for $126. He :23.880 --> :28.850
has a bill of sale from the auction. I have a bill of sale from him.
:28.850 --> :31.500 It is now mine and there is NOTHING the company
can do about it. :31.500 --> :32.500 But they tried.
:32.500 --> :35.750 I now have a fully functional photography
studio, all the contacts I need to start my :35.750 --> :42.020
own business, and the skills to do it. I started
calling all the stores I had worked for the :42.020 --> :47.630
last 8 years and offered them a much better
deal than what The Company was giving them. :47.630 --> :53.440
I did my own preselling, my own photography,
and my own sales. Except I took it a step :53.440 --> :57.980
farther. I bought a monitor and computer and
let people preview their pictures and order :57.980 --> :02.890
the day of the shoot. They paid in full and
I mailed the pictures directly to them. People :02.890 --> :09.270
LOVED it! No high pressure sales, no tricks.
My customers were happy and so were my stores. :09.270 --> :15.120
About 6 months after my first independent
shoot I heard from The Company. I got several :15.120 --> :20.690
nasty letters from them, which I ignored.
Word had gotten back to them that I was using :20.690 --> :26.270
their equipment and that I was working for
someone else. I just laughed at them. They :26.270 --> :35.170
thought so little of me that it never occurred
to them that it was my business. Then I got :35.170 --> :44.010
a Nasty Legal Letter from a lawyer. It started
with cease and desist, rolled into me violating :44.010 --> :49.620
the non-competitors agreement, and ended with
the return of their stolen property. They :49.620 --> :56.029
had apparently not told him all of the facts.
I sent him copies of EVERYTHING. I waited :56.029 --> :05.279
a few weeks for a response from him and heard
nothing. I finally called to find out what :05.279 --> :09.520
was going on, but no one was available to
take my call. How convenient. A few days later :09.520 --> :14.820
I got a certified letter in the mail saying
"No other legal action will be forthcoming :14.820 --> :15.820
from this office". :15.820 --> :21.790
I would have been content to just let it slide,
but this whole thing ticked me off and now :21.790 --> :22.790
I wanted blood. :22.790 --> :28.541
I made a real effort to really hurt them.
Little by little I built my business and my :28.541 --> :36.050
reputation. I didn't have to do any of the
nasty tricks that The Jerk did. Within a year :36.050 --> :42.810
I had stores and schools calling ME. I had
more work than I could handle on my own so :42.810 --> :50.680
I took on a second photographer, then a third.
I actually hired 4 people out from under their :50.680 --> :52.562
noses. At the height of my business, I had
8 additional photographers and a full-time :52.562 --> :57.029
office assistant. I could have grown much
larger, and in hindsight, I am so glad I didn't. :57.029 --> :02.470
Digital photography was a HUGE boon to the
industry, and then it backfired. I found my :02.470 --> :04.910
niche in the market just as it exploded. :04.910 --> :09.799
I ran The Company completely out of three
states. They lost all of their chain contracts :09.799 --> :15.629
to me, including the store where it all blew
up. The Jerk lost all of his stores and ended :15.629 --> :23.230
up working at a gas station. The Boss ended
up demoted because his district was dissolved :23.230 --> :30.190
when I sniped the contracts. The Jerk actually
tried to convince one of my photographers :30.190 --> :37.570
to "hire" him to do the preselling for her.
By now my name and my business name had a :37.570 --> :42.289
really good reputation. BOSS left The Company
for good and used me as a personal reference :42.289 --> :47.040
(he was a good photographer, just a rotten
manager) and I took great joy in telling the :47.040 --> :51.429
people who called me that I was legally not
allowed to tell them what I thought of the :51.429 --> :52.429 man.
:52.429 --> :56.649 The age of the cell phone camera pretty much
destroyed traditional photography and I closed :56.649 --> :02.139
my doors as a business in late 2017. The Company
closed for good in 2016 and I would like to :02.139 --> :07.909
think I had a hand in that. I'm still standing
and they are nothing but an empty building. :07.909 --> :12.911
I still have the original rig, but the camera
has been replaced several times. I do senior :12.911 --> :17.440
pictures and the occasional venue shoot. Most
of my photography is for restaurant menus :17.440 --> :22.879
now. People ask me if that's boring. I've
never had a meatball scream, cry or kick me :22.879 --> :26.610
which is pretty much a daily occurrence when you work with kids.
:26.610 --> :31.840 This may not be as epic as some on here, but
I beat them at their own game and that still :31.840 --> :34.850
feels pretty d*** good.I have a first name
that with some tweaking could be seen as a :34.850 --> :41.250
last name, and same deal for my last name.
Let's just say it's "Matthew Williams." :41.250 --> :47.129
Throughout my career I have CONSTANTLY get
emails from people that start with "hi William, :47.129 --> :52.809
..." For years I didn't correct people, but
it's just gotten out of hand. I've made my :52.809 --> :56.489
name bold in my email signature, capitalized
it, everything I can do. But some people still :56.489 --> :01.220
can't figure it out. it's astounding how much
it happens with people that have had multiple :01.220 --> :03.960
emails with me, even people within my own organization.
:03.960 --> :10.049 So my new policy is I let it go the first
time. but if someone does it more than a couple :10.049 --> :14.720
times, I start referring to them as their last name minus a letter.
:14.720 --> :20.239 e.g. if a repeat offender named "frank smith"
emails me and calls me "William," I respond :20.239 --> :24.389
with "Hi Smit, ..." and continue doing so until they fix their mistake.
:24.389 --> :30.080 A lot of people figure out what I'm doing
and quietly fix their mistake in the future, :30.080 --> :35.110
but some people never figure it out, and to
this day probably think I'M the idiot. Oh :35.110 --> :38.600
well.First, some background: I have seriously
stanky farts. I’m talking face-melting, :38.600 --> :42.409
mind-rending, nightmare-inducing smells. Gas
that will make you question your belief (or :42.409 --> :48.450
confirm your doubt) in the existence of a
just and loving god. It’s not lactose intolerance, :48.450 --> :54.090
gluten intolerance, celiac, Crohn’s, SIBO,
anything serious like that. I just have extra-funky
:54.090 --> :57.529 gut bacteria that enjoy turning anything I
eat into noxious, creeping clouds of a**-death. :57.529 --> :00.980
I generally try to use my power responsibly.
I’ll excuse myself from the room, warn others :00.980 --> :05.129
to avoid ground zero after a bomb’s been
detonated, or even stick my butt out of a :05.129 --> :09.309
door or window if the situation so requires.
But I’m also not above using my gas to go :09.309 --> :14.659
on the offensive against those that deserve it. That’s what this story is about.
:14.659 --> :19.039 This past Saturday, my husband, his brother,
my sister and I went out for lunch. I won’t :19.039 --> :22.220
go through the rather convoluted circumstances
that brought the group together, but it wasn’t :22.220 --> :26.059
exactly a pairing of choice. My husband’s
brother—let’s call him Chad—is basically :26.059 --> :30.220
a walking caricature of an immature, extremely-online
dudebro who approximates having a personality :30.220 --> :36.100
by acting like an IRL Twitter troll. My husband
and I try to spend no more time around him :36.100 --> :39.590
than being family requires; my poor sister
was getting her first extended exposure to :39.590 --> :42.499
him and definitely wasn’t enjoying it. For
reasons that will become apparent, I’ll :42.499 --> :46.110
note that Chad was driving, and he’s got a new car that he’s very protective of.
:46.110 --> :50.990 Anyways, on our back from the restaurant—we
went for Vietnamese—we passed by a small :50.990 --> :55.049
protest against the leaked Roe opinion. Naturally,
that’s Chad’s cue to chime in with the :55.049 --> :58.289
most repulsive take imaginable. “Holy s***,”
he screeches, “nobody f***ing CARES! These :58.289 --> :03.639
c***s need to get a f***ing life already.”
My husband shakes his head and says “Dude, :03.639 --> :09.570
you’re such an a******.” My sister lets out an exaggerated sigh. I’m ready to go
:09.570 --> :13.000 on a rant that would’ve left him crying
for his alt-right internet buddies . . . but :13.000 --> :18.110
then I felt a slight bubbling in my tummy, and I had an even better idea.
:18.110 --> :24.929 You see, while my farts are awful no matter
what I eat, there are certain foods that take :24.929 --> :31.659
them to a whole ‘nother level of putridity.
And it just so happens that pho, which I had :31.659 --> :37.309
ordered at lunch, is near the top of that
list. I’m not sure why, but my gut’s grotesque :37.309 --> :42.710
alchemy never fails to turn those tiny bowls
of noodles, beef, and broth into my very own :42.710 --> :50.570
organic nerve gas. I’d normally never consider
unleashing that kind of horror in an enclosed :50.570 --> :00.730
space, but this was my chance to ruin Chad’s afternoon, and I had to take it.
:00.730 --> :19.360 With the discreet lift of a cheek and slight
flex of my ab muscles, I let it go like Elsa. :19.360 --> :28.309
And I knew right away that “it” was going
to be all that I had bargained for and then :28.309 --> :34.999
some—four seconds of silent steam that
instantly warmed the car seat to 100 degrees :34.999 --> :41.889
celsi-a**. I cleared my throat and declared,
calmly and confidently, “I am SO sorry.” :41.889 --> :49.190
My husband and sister recognized this as my
code phrase used whenever I drop the hammer :49.190 --> :53.109
in the company of others, and it naturally
sent them into a minor panic. They both started :53.109 --> :57.210
jamming at the window controls, only to find
they were locked. My husband told Chad to :57.210 --> :01.950
open the windows. “Nah, it’s raining,”
Chad replied. (It was more like a faint drizzle.) :01.950 --> :07.350
“No, seriously dude, open the f***ing windows,”
my husband implored with increasing urgency. :07.350 --> :29.070
Chad held firm. “Not getting the leather wet.” Fatalism set in. My sister pulled
:29.070 --> :25.390 her scarf over her nose. My husband wrapped
his arm around his face like an 8-year old :25.390 --> :31.769
playing Dracula. Chad drove along, oblivious. :31.769 --> :00.720
And then the stink tsunami that I had sent rolling
:00.720 --> :13.899 through the atmosphere crested and crashed.
As Chad didn’t take precautionary measures, :13.899 --> :34.000
he was the first to react. He emitted a guttural,
animalistic cry of anguish and began coughing. :34.000 --> :46.120
“Eugagugghhhrrrr. . .what the *cough* f***
*cough* . . . the f*** is that smell?” I :46.120 --> :00.090
was more than happy to take responsibility for this one. “Excuse me,” I said. “I
:00.090 --> :22.090 farted. That was my choice.” Chad tried
to respond but was struggling too much to :22.090 --> :40.129
breathe to get the words out. The windows
went down, but it was too late for that :40.129 --> :06.850
to do any good, and Chad soon pulled over—I
think the car was still moving when he practically :06.850 --> :16.979
jumped out of it. As he stood there in the
rain cursing me out (“disgusting b****,” :16.979 --> :29.169
“that smell is f***ing inhuman,” “women
shouldn’t even do that” etc.) I just smiled :29.169 --> :49.519
and smiled. I may not have solved anything
but d***, it felt good to fight back. Even :49.519 --> :03.580
after he :03.580 --> :20.090 got :20.090 --> :45.639
back in the car he was complaining that it still stunk,
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my wife and I got into a road rage confrontation with an angry man after a
fender bender I froze and she stepped up my wife and I were pulling out of a
hardware store parking lot earlier tonight and got into a very minor fender
bender the other driver was a man who was going apeshit and getting aggressive
I froze up and did not know how to react it was like I was watching other people
and it wasn't real I always just thought I could handle myself if something like
this happened I guess most guys do in the moment I just kept thinking I was
going to get my ass kicked and I was having a near panic attack my wife who
is a foot shorter than me and 100 lb lighter just stepped up to him and
calmly told him to back off stop escalating this and there were cameras
in the parking lot a crowd was starting to gather and the guy just slinked back
to his car started muttering something and then drove off I tried to say
something like what a jerk but my wife just kind of looked at me and we drove
home in silence tried talking about it and she sounded like she didn't want to
I already know what's up I up when she needed me and she had to step
up and did so perfectly our kid could have been with us and I'd like to hope
I'd have done better I also know that the guy could sense my fear and kept
getting louder and angrier until my wife
met his gaze looked right at him without any fear and he just slithered away I
know intellectually that most bullies are cowards deep down but I also learned
that I one too I simply never faced this situation I was never in a fight and
never looked for trouble I managed to just go through adult life and it just
became less and less of a concern I just assumed I'd handle myself because I
wanted to believe that about myself and now I know otherwise male pride plus
stunning Krueger effect plus learning my wife is a lot tougher than I am and I
feel absolutely worthless right now edit we talk some more about it she doesn't
view me as less than a man or a failure it's just that she just always assumed
that having a big tall husband meant she could relax and let her guard down a
little in public and now she feels the added responsibility of worrying about
both of us that is mostly on shoulders she knows I wouldn't run away if she
were in trouble and would do everything I could in my power if it became violent
but she also knows that realistically even though I have good intentions it's
going to mostly fall on her at the end of the day it's like people here have
been saying the most common reactions people have are fight flight or freeze
her default wiring is fight and mine is freeze I can Endeavor to change that
with lots of exposure and practice but she can just do it by default right now
immediately she really does not want me taking on training or boxing or whatever
we don't have the time or the budget and we have a lot of commitments and other
things going on right now she told me it is over we are safe and she just just
needed time to process something she should not have just assumed about me
because I am a man with everything else in our marriage we pick the best person
for the job and ignore gender roles I'm better at cooking and fixing things and
Home Improvement she is better at budgeting paying bills navigating road
trips and confrontations with aggressive people it doesn't mean I won't try to
get better and I want to surprise her in a good way if something ever happens
again but I'm also not going to beat myself up over it or let it be a
distraction for all of the other things we have going on and goals we have
together I also told her I loved her and was very proud to be with her and how
she handled it I appreciate all of the responses and perspective but also feel
bad I didn't just go to her first she's not on Reddit and I kept it as Anonymous
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aita for what I 26f said to my BF 28m in
front of his friends a little background we've been going out since high school
and have a very jokey relationship poking fun for the most part isn't out
of the question though if one of us says we aren't comfortable with one of the
jokes the other makes an effort not to make it again for the most part more
context coming I have been a bit of an obsessive fan of music artist since I
was 14 I have more than one tattoo inspired by this artist and her
aesthetic I have seen her in concert multiple times I own more merch than I
can say and have run several different fan accounts devoted to her during this
time I understand this is weird I try not to bring it up in everyday
conversation because I am aware asterisk it is weird asterisk most people who
know me in passing do not know this about me and only my best friend and my
boyfriend know about my fan accounts I am not the person who talks about this
artist constantly I am not the person who is annoying in large groups about it
asterisk anymore asterisk there was a learning curve when I was in high school
but losing friends is a great motivator to fix yourself my boyfriend has on and
off made jokes about this since we got together admittedly whenever I bring up
that it makes me feel insecure and unsafe expressing myself around him he
stops for a while but he always starts up again and it just asterisk bothers me
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whta if I continued to stretch my ears after my BF expressed how much he hates
it I 30f have been with my boyfriend 30m for just shy of a decade he's a very
clean cut guy and very professional in appearance I on the other hand have a
sleeve of tattoos dyed hair and pierced ears he wfh as a lead programmer for a
company while I work as a manager/ petgroomer despite our opposite looks
and career choices we have lots of interests and opinions in common if
anything I think our differences help balance us out some background that may
help add context to our relationship I started getting tattoos before we met
but my biggest piece was done two years ago he's not a big fan of tattoos and
has absolutely no plan to ever get any I've never pushed but I have asked if
he'd get a tiny one with me it's not a big deal for me so after he said no I've
just left it he wasn't a fan of my big piece but because I've had ink done
before he voiced some concerns about the amount of money I've spent but left it
at that fast forward to this past month I've always liked the jewelry that
people with stretched ears get to wear some of it looks really cool SL pritty
and I on a whim decided I would stretch | give me a good story on WIBTAifIcontinuedtostretchmyearsaftermybfexpressedhowmuchhehatesitorig |
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am I the for not accepting my ex's baby as my own I am 39 was married
to Kelly f36 we have three kids 14-year-old 12-year-old and a 6-year-old
Kelly got pregnant early in our relationship and we got married when my
firstborn was 1-year-old then she decided to be a s she met Josh he was a
fitness trainer Kelly told me she was no longer attracted to me and wanted
divorce I suggested therapy but she said
she saw no point since the attraction is gone we now have 50/50 custody of our
kids and I pay alimony since she has no job she got pregnant by Josh after a
hookup Josh disappeared when she told him about the pregnancy she is about to
give birth soon she told me last night she want to give the baby my last name
so all kids have the same last name I said that's odd since my name wouldn't
be on the birth certificate she said that's what I'm saying you have always
been a great dad and it's cruel that the baby would be left out while the
siblings have you I said no and I doubt she legally even can without my consent
I only care about my kids she said I'm heartless and cruel after all baby will
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AI t 50m for wanting to divorce my wife
45f because she caused me to go to the E Our advice needed bit long sorry in
advance I now see how easy it is when writing down your thoughts as I always
wondered why people wrote so much so my wife 45f and I 50m have been married for
almost 20 years we have a 16-year-old daughter and life has been pretty good
we've had our ups and downs like any Merit but we work together through it we
have even done MC a couple of times to get ourselves on the right track mostly
IRL stuff and feeling like room Ates when it comes to household chores I've
always cleaned the house as I'm a bit OCD with cleaning due to growing up in a
house with roaches as a kid she takes care of the laundry and we split making
dinners on days I'm off as I work 12 hours a day 4 days a week kiddo takes
care of the dishes so here in lies the issue the wife is going through pure
menopause she's been super emotional and a bit unlike herself for the last 6
months or so she is taking meds to help even out her hormone but it's taking
time one day she is overly nice the next
day complaining about every little thing and getting all | give me a good story on AITAHmforwantingtodivorcemywifefbecauseshecausedmetogototheERorig |
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aita for saying I would divorce my wife
in 4 years me a 43m and my wife 45f were
having some drinks outside the other day and we were having a good time she said
I wish I brought my cigarettes and I pulled them out of my pocket as I had
anticipated that she would want to smoke she said wow how did you know I said I
can see the future especially when you're drinking she said can you see our
relationship's future I said oh of course so she asked me will we still be
together or will we be divorced I said probably divorced and she asked when so
I said I'll probably be tired of Peter's in about 4 years and have to bounce
Peter is my wife's son from a previous marriage he is 24 years old me and my
wife have been together for 21 years I have raised this boy as my own and he
has called me dad since he was 5 we have a great relationship never had the
you're not my real dad fight we are good however I feel like my wife coddles him
and he is failing to launch so to speak he is in uni but has never had a job his
Social Circle is like five people that he is constantly online with he very
rarely leaves the house or his room for that matter my wife has to remind him to
shower every day and she has to wake him up every day he will not wake up to an
alarm mainly because he is usually up until 6:00 or 7:00 a.m. playing online
games he is not a bad kid he doesn't drink SL smoke SL do drugs he is not an
incel he doesn't listen to Andrew Tate he's just kind of a nerdy shut it my
wife is happy to have him live at home forever I am not I am very worried for
him he cannot drive and does not want to learn he is comfortable in his life and
sees no reason to grow I stress the fact that he is an adult now to my wife many
times but he will always be her baby honestly it's killing me to watch her
enable him every time I try to encourage
him to get a part-time job or get out of the house she tells me off and asks me
to leave him alone I feel like a failure
as a parent but a is happy as is staying out of trouble he could do so much more
though he is very bright I will say to her what if we died tomorrow what would
happen to him he would have to do a lot of growing up very quickly maybe we
should push him a little bit now but she won't hear it anyway she lost her
on me how could you divorce me because of Peter he will be fine everyone
develops at different speeds Etc I get it I know I think she also feels like we
failed him by over providing and she doesn't want to hear it but guys I can't
sit around forever if this is the trajectory I pray he snaps out of it
finishes uni he's now a junior at year four he doesn't take a full course load
yes we are paying everything gets a job and grows up but if not I can't see
myself supporting him and her forever I feel like leaving might actually be good
for the both of them I contribute 80% to the household finances she works
part-time anyway I don't really think it will come to that I have faith in the
kid I was just 50/50 joking and serious with my four-year timeline for years is
a long time right the fact that she was upset is upsetting to me does she think
he'll be doing the exact same stuff 4 years from now she thinks I'm an
because I'm giving an ultimatum and she doesn't care how long he stays at home
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:15.930 --> :20.490 This happened about 5 years ago. I used to
work at a dealership, I was part of the detailing :20.490 --> :26.119
crew. There was about 5 of us in that department
but only 3 of us on site at a time. For content, :26.119 --> :31.070
When a sales rep makes a sale on a vehicle
they bring it to us to get it detailed along :31.070 --> :35.990
with stickers removed from windows, nothing
too serious as they are already fairly clean. :35.990 --> :40.960
Now the way this dealership works is, there's
only 1 detailing department for 5 different :40.960 --> :48.090
dealerships. So we would detail cars for Toyota,
Volkswagen, Nissan, GMC and Hyundai. So yes :48.090 --> :54.190
a fairly small detailing squad for 5 different
dealerships. It sounds a lot but surprisingly :54.190 --> :58.900
it wasn't too bad. This specific sales rep,
we'll call him Jake. Jake was married to this :58.900 --> :00.840
other sales rep we'll call Marry. :00.840 --> :06.320
For whatever reason Jake HATED my guts for
almost the entire time I was employed there, :06.320 --> :11.390
no idea why. My assumptions is that one day
he saw me talking to his wife which I didn't :11.390 --> :15.580
know it was his wife at the time. But that's
because I was getting some info on a trade :15.580 --> :22.750
in that came in and I was thinking about purchasing
that car, it was a 2016 Nissan 370z NISMO. :22.750 --> :27.400
No I never ended up buying it, I just wanted
to get more information about the car, how :27.400 --> :33.970
much the monthly payments would be etc. I
guess he didn't like me talking to her so :33.970 --> :37.800
he hold a grudge against me. again this is just speculations.
:37.800 --> :41.790 Also I want to note that I have been in the
detailing field for about 6 years at the time, :41.790 --> :46.640
So I had my fair share of experience and I
was actually one of the best detailers in :46.640 --> :48.939
that department. now then... :48.939 --> :53.630
One day Jake came up to our department with
a sold unit. And I kind of overheard him talking :53.630 --> :59.110
to one of my coworker about me... He was talking
behind my back and I mean he was saying rude :59.110 --> :04.090
stuff about me but I was able to make out
most of the things he was saying. one particular :04.090 --> :08.810
line I did understood was "Hey I have this
car here, customer wants you to just remove :08.810 --> :15.640
the stickers, nothing else. Also make sure
OP NEVER touches the cars I bring up ok? Do :15.640 --> :20.720
I make myself clear? He doesn't know what
he's doing and he's a r**ard" Me acting like :20.720 --> :25.930
I didn't just hear what he said, I continued
working on my own stuff and thought to myself :25.930 --> :30.590
"what did I do to the guy that he doesn't
like me? But whatever I guess, If he doesn't :30.590 --> :34.200
want me to touch his car. Then be it" Cue Malicious Compliance!
:34.200 --> :46.300 This was about 7-10 years ago. I needed a
cheap commuter car, and knew my budget. I :46.300 --> :51.650
had saved up $3,500 cash, and was ready to
buy. The car would give my wife and I some :51.650 --> :56.960
freedom in not having to juggle the car for
our two busy schedules between two jobs and :56.960 --> :03.330
unfortunately very different class schedules
in a state that's pretty spread out (i.e. :03.330 --> :07.449
public transportation wasn't really effective
at that time; it's gotten LOADS better now :07.449 --> :13.169
in the larger cities (medium sized compared
to the coastal big cities). I digress. :13.169 --> :17.340
There was a dealership on a busy road in the
city I lived in at the time. They didn't have :17.340 --> :22.710
the greatest reputation (I had heard a few
stories over the years), but they had an inexpensive
:22.710 --> :29.370 car - a first generation Hyundai Tiburon that
had lowish miles (about 75k or so, if memory :29.370 --> :34.479
serves me well), a manual transmission, and
it looked pretty clean. It was white in the :34.479 --> :39.870
online pictures, which isn't my fav color,
but the paint looked to be in excellent condition. :39.870 --> :45.240
Overall looked pretty nice. It was listed
for $4K. Figured I could manage a small loan :45.240 --> :48.819
for that, and should be able to negotiate price. :48.819 --> :54.509
Before going, I did my research. I compared
dealership price estimating from several sites :54.509 --> :00.979
using all features listed on their ad (KBB,
NADA, Edmunds, etc.) and also compared comparable :00.979 --> :05.599
cars across the country and locally being
sold by owners. The highest price I could :05.599 --> :13.000
find from estimations and websites was $4K
for a similarly clean car with lower miles. :13.000 --> :17.629
So I felt armed with the info I needed and had copies on my phone ready to go.
:17.629 --> :22.590 I got there, and noticed that the car was
actually painted with a pearlescent paint :22.590 --> :28.310
job. The most visible color was white, but
in certain light, it was actually sparkly :28.310 --> :33.770
pink. That would have to be painted over - no
thank you. But that was just more negotiating :33.770 --> :38.039
material since I doubted that's a popular color scheme for a car.
:38.039 --> :43.189 The test drive went well - nothing major noted.
My visual inspection around the car inside :43.189 --> :48.069
and out didn't find anything, so I was feeling
pretty good about the state of the car. I :48.069 --> :52.389
felt confident the car was worth the higher
end of the estimates I had found, but wanted :52.389 --> :57.221
to negotiate down a few hundred dollars for
a new paint job I would do elsewhere. Let :57.221 --> :59.319
the negotiations begin, I thought. :59.319 --> :05.069
The sales person "didn't know" what the price
was and went to the financial person to get :05.069 --> :10.080
that data - I told them what their online
price was, and wanted to start there. He seemed :10.080 --> :15.389
new and unsure - that he really needed to
go talk to the finance person first (which :15.389 --> :19.220
maybe should have been a red flag). I shook my head and waited.
:19.220 --> :24.991 He came back saying the car was $6K because
they "had to replace the transmission, so :24.991 --> :29.780
they needed to get their money back for that
work," and started down that path. I'm like :29.780 --> :36.050
"Nope. Here's my research" and laid it all
out. Made the sales guy super nervous. :36.050 --> :41.430
After an hour of banter, I ended up getting
the dealership manager or whatever their title :41.430 --> :47.210
was. Telling me that the car was worth $6K
(not "out the door" price either) blah blah :47.210 --> :53.189
blah. I got frustrated and told her that "congratulations.
Your work on the transmission earned the car :53.189 --> :58.330
the top end of what it can be worth with the
options, mileage, make and model were talking :58.330 --> :04.819
about. That's $4K, and I'm happy to pay that.
But not a penny more on the car before taxes, :04.819 --> :07.180
title, or licensing is figured." :07.180 --> :12.719
To which she snapped back "take it out leave
it." And the clouds of frustration parted. :12.719 --> :17.909
The skies cleared, and the angelic courses
of malicious compliance sang through the air :17.909 --> :18.909
and my mind. :18.909 --> :22.879
"You're right. Good luck selling it. I'm out"
and I walked awayI was just recently graduated :22.879 --> :25.830
from University, and was about to purchase
my first new car. This would be in the 90's. :25.830 --> :26.830
The era of haggling down the price of a new
car had recently ended, but I decided to try :26.830 --> :27.830
my luck anyway. :27.830 --> :31.310
We had picked the make and model of car that
we wanted, highly influenced by a $5000 rebate :31.310 --> :33.570
that recent university graduates were eligible for.
:33.570 --> :38.050 I decided to try to haggle down the price.
The dealer wouldn't budge, saying that it :38.050 --> :43.010
was handed down from the Gods themselves that
they could not sell a car for anything other :43.010 --> :45.970
than the MSRP, no more and no less. I took this as a challenge.
:45.970 --> :52.370 The last two months at my last job could be
3 parts between here and r/antiwork (someone :52.370 --> :56.420
else's MC helped me finally leave). But this
was when I finally decided to leave my role :56.420 --> :01.430
as the sole account manager for a marketing/web
design firm. While leaving past jobs gave :01.430 --> :04.790
me "graduation goggles" AKA short-term regret/second
thoughts, everything this time around made :04.790 --> :06.020
me want to leave yesterday. :06.020 --> :10.970
But as I did more and more job interviews
each lunch break, there was one thing I had :10.970 --> :13.260
to check. You see, the year before I carefully
planned my May vacation for only as many vacation :13.260 --> :14.260
days that my second year at the company provided.
Lo and behold I returned home and was shorted :14.260 --> :16.269
a check by a few hundred $$. I emailed one
of my two bosses (Boss1) to learn that while :16.269 --> :18.060
a 2nd-year employee earns X days over the
course of the year, I simply hadn't accrued :18.060 --> :19.769
all my paid days off yet. My time off was
approved, but only a couple of days were paid. :19.769 --> :22.230
My boyfriend who worked in upper management
explained that this is because if an employee :22.230 --> :27.260
quits in January, you don't want to have to
pay them their entire year's worth of vaca :27.260 --> :29.620
out at once. Annoying, but at least it made sense. :29.620 --> :32.670
Flash forward to me preparing to leave. My
specific question was, at what rate do I accrue :32.670 --> :36.800
time off? I didn't want to be done on 2-28
if I'd accrue like, two or so days on 3-1 :36.800 --> :40.130
and miss out on a better payout. And no, I
was not putting up with this job's s*** for :40.130 --> :45.070
several more months for a big Christmas payout,
though I wished I'd planned it better! One :45.070 --> :46.199
night I found my employee handbook with my
bf's management eye to help read the policy. :46.199 --> :47.199
Turns out it didn't matter: "(Company Name)
doesn't pay out for vacation days earned, :47.199 --> :49.370
whether the employee leaves voluntarily or involuntarily."
:49.370 --> :52.840 Now I was just p*****. If you're not paying
out vacation days ever why accrue them and :52.840 --> :53.840
not just give them all out at once? Either
accrue the days to avoid massive payouts, :53.840 --> :54.840
or don't pay out ever, and give everyone their
allotted lump sum for the year on 1-1 (our :54.840 --> :55.840
fiscal year was the calendar year). PICK ONE. :55.840 --> :56.840
I asked Boss2 about this (not letting on my
planned exit) and she cheerfully responded, :56.840 --> :59.589
"Yup! We want employees to take the time off
they deserve and not bank it." Such a sweet, :59.589 --> :01.310
"self care" sounding thing. :01.310 --> :02.580
When I gave my notice, my bosses convinced
me to give 3 weeks. I was ordered to complete :02.580 --> :03.649
a five page "exit doc" for my team and successor.
My bosses rushed their hiring process so I :03.649 --> :04.649
could "train" my replacement one day. Client
spreadsheets HAD to be updated, a new one :04.649 --> :06.040
needed created and I was still performing
my regular job duties which were already too :06.040 --> :07.040
much, hence my leaving. :07.040 --> :08.502
BUT my third year = 3 vacation days right
off the bat. In a moment of MC, I looked forward :08.502 --> :09.502
to taking off every Friday through my departure.
After all, I needed to "use the time off I'd :09.502 --> :10.502
earned!!!" since there'd be no payout. :10.502 --> :11.502
Boss2 was already on edge over... everything
... and her immediate response was, "can you :11.502 --> :12.502
take Fridays off and still finish your exit
doc and duties?" We were also short staffed :12.502 --> :13.502
and others would be OOO, she said. :13.502 --> :16.079
It. Did. Not. Matter. I had 3 days to use
and 0 payout options. My boss responded, "let :16.079 --> :17.220
me talk to (Boss1)." :17.220 --> :21.120
I did not get my Fridays off. But suddenlyyyy
they agreed to pay me a few hundred extra :21.120 --> :22.254
dollars on my last paycheck. I'm still convinced
my payout was less than what my vacation days :22.254 --> :24.370
amounted to and I should have done the math
to hold them to it. But my vacation days didn't :24.370 --> :27.200
disappear into thin air which I honestly think they just expected.
:27.200 --> :32.930 When presented with the paperwork I went over
it with a fine-tooth comb. Eventually I spotted :32.930 --> :39.060
it. There was a charge of $150 for "pinstriping".
The dealer explained that this was a paint :39.060 --> :40.990
stripe down the side of the car. :40.990 --> :45.500
Determined to get a deal, I pounced. I argued
that I had never asked for pinstriping to :45.500 --> :50.130
be applied, so I should not be charged for
it. The dealer stated that I was being charged :50.130 --> :54.730
for it because this was the last car of this
model with the options I wanted on the lot :54.730 --> :59.530
and that the pinstriping had been applied
already from the manufacturer. I went full :59.530 --> :04.980
Karen mode, accusing them of adding on this
charge to try and get extra money from me, :04.980 --> :09.230
adding on a feature that I hadn't asked for
to bilk me out of my hard earned money. :09.230 --> :14.550
We went back and forth until finally I got
the dealer to remove the pinstriping charge. :14.550 --> :19.110
Heady with my victory, the dealer showed me
the car (which indeed had a thin green stripe :19.110 --> :23.100
down the side) and said that it would be ready to be picked up tomorrow.
:23.100 --> :28.670 I arrived the next day, ready to pick up my
new car. They drove it out to me and.... :28.670 --> :30.790
The green stripe was gone. :30.790 --> :35.329
The dealer explained that since I wasn't willing
to pay for the pinstriping, they had taken :35.329 --> :40.420
the car into the garage overnight, had the
paint sanded down to remove the pinstriping, :40.420 --> :44.161
and repainted the car. Therefore I wasn't
being forced to pay for something that clearly :44.161 --> :45.920
I didn't want. :45.920 --> :51.779
I thought to myself that the cost of doing
this, paying a mechanic to sand down and repaint :51.779 --> :58.670
a car overnight, probably being paid overtime,
would have far exceeded the paltry $150. But :58.670 --> :04.080
if I wasn't willing to pay for the pinstriping
then by god, that dealer made sure that I :04.080 --> :05.790
wasn't going to get the pinstriping! :05.790 --> :18.000
She tried to tell me I was obligated, that
they had already gotten my verbal agreement :18.000 --> :23.230
to buy the car because I had started negotiations,
blah, blah, blah. I just laughed as maniacally :23.230 --> :26.850
as I could muster (imagine Vizzini from "The
Princess Bride"), & kept walking. They threatened
:26.850 --> :34.680 to get their lawyers involved, and I have
them the finger as I drove away in our car :34.680 --> :38.269
toward home. :38.269 --> :44.160
And guess what? Never got a call from their
lawyer or served any papers. The dealership :44.160 --> :51.399
actually went out of business a few months later. So unexpected! /s
:51.399 --> :56.980 I later learned how lucky I was when I talked
to my dad about the dealership. He had apparently :56.980 --> :02.510
tried to trade a car in with them a while
before then, but they had handled things a :02.510 --> :07.680
little differently with him. Asked for his
car keys to evaluate his car, then refused :07.680 --> :12.990
to give him his keys back when they tried
to spring on extra fees to his sale & he wanted
:12.990 --> :21.850 to walk. Dad had to start dialing 911 before
they gave up and returned his keys. :21.850 --> :34.529
One day I was the only one that showed up.
One guy called out and the other said he'll :34.529 --> :47.769
be really late. I didn't mind. That day was
also the day that Jake brought a sold unit :47.769 --> :05.170
first thing in the morning to us for a cleaning
and I was the ONLY one there! He didn't know :05.170 --> :12.199
that. He thought the other guys were here
working on another car or what not. He dropped :12.199 --> :24.319
the car there, left the keys on a board where
we keep the other keys and he walked away. :24.319 --> :34.800
Little did he know I was alone. :34.800 --> :55.019
I did NOT touch his car as per his request.
The car sat there for 4 HOURS! He came up :55.019 --> :14.970
to pick up the car and noticed that it hasn't
been touched at all! He came to me P***** :14.970 --> :25.000
and said "Why hasn't my car been touched?
Did no one touched it?" I said "No Jake, No :25.000 --> :44.720
one touched the car" which he replied with
"Why??? The customer is waiting! WTF why didn't :44.720 --> :56.300
you do it?" and I said "Oh no I can't YOU
said not to let me touch whatever car you :56.300 --> :07.399
bring us because I don't know what I am doing
and I an R word, and sadly I am the only one :07.399 --> :16.579
here at the moment so I guess you'll have
to wait for the next guy to show up. assuming :16.579 --> :25.790
he does shows up today" He looked shocked
and started apologizing because he said "I :25.790 --> :37.420
didn't mean any of that" I just ignored him
and went back to doing what I was doing. :37.420 --> :50.490
He had to explain to his customers that he
had to reschedule them for another date, our :50.490 --> :56.990
boss later found out about what happened and
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students have read it what's the story of the worst teacher you've ever had
Story one I was in sixth grade and was being bullied from day one like
seriously obvious stuff like being kicked under the table or being pulled
down by my backpack so I did as I was told many times to get a teacher tell
them and they will handle it that never happened they always never saw it so
they couldn't do anything about it sort of scenario even though some of this
stuff happened right in front of them they just didn't want to deal with it so
one day I'm having a particularly bad day of being bullied the bully this time
hit me in the side of the pencil and scribbled on my paper before walking up
to the teacher's desk to turn in his work I got my revenge I followed him up
to the desk with an unfolded stapler and just went to town on him before I got
pulled off immediate expulsion I am so incredibly lucky my parents were on my
side of this because I pretty much knew I was on some deep mess over this zero
punishment moved to different school with zero other problems caused by the
rest of my K-12 School career stapled my hand once as a kid you know her like
hell story two oh let's see this teacher threw a chair at a student nearly
through a desk at a student threw his keys at a student through shock at
students hard didn't believe that I could read chapter books grade 5 is a 10
year old we were learning about pH values and tested bleach it came out as
a base because it is a base he was surprised and told us it must have
changed from being an acid because it had been sitting on the shelf for so
long Medicaid due to tension in the hall with a sign that said future squeegee
kid it was all around a pretty poor teacher with a terrible temper maybe he
would have done better in high school when classroom management is a little
easier Middle School not so much I've forgotten another terrible teacher the
subject was high school French the subjects we covered were his favorite
hockey team his favorite hockey player the miseries inflicted upon him by his
wife and how terrible behaved the students at this previous School were
all this was in English we didn't learn a lick a French that year and the
administration couldn't figure out why everyone kept dropping out of the French
program after taking his class Story 3 teachers are incredibly weird
about letting kids go to the nurse and bathroom I've heard of high school kids
being denied bathroom access despite being close to adulthood or are adults
in some cases it's weird that a high school senior may be able to vote and
serve in the Army but can't use the bathroom without getting permission my
son is severe pen and egg allergies his school wasn't nut or egg free and served
both for breakfast and lunch they had a tiny nut-free table but only kids with
allergies could eat there and my son is incredibly social I never sat there
because he wanted to eat with his friends I told him it was dumb but it
wasn't my decision he's the one who has to live with his allergies he ended up
accidentally consuming something containing his allergen and started
feeling like he was going to go into anaphylaxis so he got up and went to
tell the teachers so he could get his EpiPen she told them to sit down because
it was five minutes before they had to leave and no one was allowed to get up
at the time for some reason that I don't understand he ended up going into
anaphylaxis she fortunately had the EpiPen on hand and was able to treat him
but he still had to go to the hospital that wasn't a fun call the teacher
wasn't fired but we ended up transferring our kids out of that school
for unrelated reasons it was a good decision
story for I'm not sure this qualifies I like reading from an early age and was
excited to learn literature in junior high I had a teacher who just completed
her post-grad diploma and for an entire year in literature class she would just
flip pages and say things such as turn to page 88 highlight paragraph three
that's going to be tested one day she had to make up a class on Saturday and
started telling us how much she hated her job and she couldn't go get buzzed
on Friday night because she had to show up on a Saturday morning and teach a
bunch of stinking kids she then proceeded to ask us to turn to some page
and yell just highlight everything the entire page will be tested she got fired
because she got caught getting it on with the I.T instructor in the computer
lab okay while she sounds horrible to be fair it's kind of BS that they made her
make up a class on a Saturday Story five I remember having this awful English
teacher in fifth grade first of all in my country no one speaks English
properly so we had two English books literature and grammar I used to love
reading a lot my grammar was pretty good so when she would be solving a
particular page with us I would be on the other three pages and wait for the
teacher to come to my page to check my answers one day she saw me not writing
and asked me why I was not writing to to which I replied I had already finished
so she asked me to erase all of the free pages and solve at her Pace not only
that but the worst part was we had a very difficult lesson in literature once
and we had questions on that the next day when I submitted my book she
outright said that my parents had done it for me it kept on going like this
until once during a test she accused me of copying and when I told her that I
would be happy to take the test again in front of her she told me I was arguing
when she took me to the principal's room to take another test she gave me the
toughest paper for a fifth grader but anyhow I got an 18 out of 20 in my test
and finally believed that I didn't cheat story six okay maybe not the worst
teacher but definitely the strangest Mr Pratt it was a substitute teacher I had
in high school in the 90s inner city school he was an older black dude with
loud mouth there were a lot of a-hole students though who always smashed back
to every teacher which made learning difficult Mr Pratt had an odd Choice
when responding to these kids Imagine A well-dressed but definitely ghetto
sounding substitute when a student tried
to act out would pull a puppet obviously custom made and look just like him soon
all out of his desk he would then start berating the student via the puppet the
puppet was called pray daddy by the way it would make the student talk to the
puppet and apologize most didn't they were laughing and tried to talk over
Pratt daddy in which case Brad daddy the puppet would kick them out of the class
and lock the door then the puppet went back into the desk drawer and Mr Pratt
continued it was odd imagining that puppet scenario but with a ghetto dude
doing a high voice just makes this hilarious
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come to life story seven I've had so many teachers
who are absolutely terrible at their jobs and didn't view their students as
people just burdens one teacher got angry at me for asking if I could sit in
the front of the class because I had poor eyesight and it helps me to be able
to see another teacher said whatever when I corrected them and how to
pronounce my name I had a science teacher tell the class the U.S
Constitution was based in Christianity and stopping pregnancies evil this was
physical science she also said global warming was Unreal in communist China is
evil the list goes on one teacher screamed to my friend about the length
of her fingernails they weren't particularly long there was a security
guard in my school who would send me to the office every day for dress code
violations even if it wasn't violating the dress code to the point where I gave
up and just wore whatever I wanted she targeted me in particular but she hated
all the queer goth or black students all the popular kids who also broke the
dress code she said nothing to the list goes on long story short public school
as hell and it's a deeply flawed institution I'm really happy seeing kids
these days actually fight back story eight I was part of a two-year program
in grade nine which I took a few classes together in sequence and did a project
at the end of each year it was near the end of the year and the project was
underway we were made up of groups from years one and two of the program so
freshmen and sophomores work together I was sick for a week and went to the
teacher let's call her Mrs module of the year two students for information about
what I missed because she was in charge of the project she told me it was on her
teacher page and I thanked her and left the next day I got a bunch of texts from
the sophomores and juniors that this module had complained about me by name
saying I wasn't afraid of her and was a disrespectful student for not checking
the website first and asking her before school she really hurt my feelings and
hurt the way my peers view me as a person she then did it again the next
year this time telling a class of sophomores about how I was terrible at
presenting and got a poor grade something which was false I got a 92.
and then noticed she set the Google Classroom we used for handing things in
to automatically share every document we produced in class along with our scores
and those works with a woman in her Kansas named Jody asked her about it and
she told me to tell nobody I asked my friend if he saw it and she overheard me
she threatened to send me to week of detention if I told anyone else because
she was obviously violating FERPA New York State ad policy in her District's
policy the next week it took my midterm and failed 63 percent lowest out of 60
students in our class I've never gone less than 94 in midterms or finals or
any English test asked to see it she just gave me an old Regents test which
any English teacher could grade because I wanted a second opinion apparently she
throws them out after grading sorry that was long I just wanted to say something
story nine the worst teacher I ever had was my shop teacher gym teacher in high
school he would not do anything at all I was able to smoke in shop class and in
gym class as long as it was outside running laps or something I never once
heard him tell anyone about safety measures when using shop equipment a few
people got hurt and one actually got in an accident but the worst thing he ever
did was hire some of the grade 9 and grade 10 girls to babysit for him and
his wife it would leave his wife at the bar and go home to check on the kids and
was eventually caught with one of them after a police investigation they found
a ton of homemade stuff in his laptop last I heard he went to jail for life
this was all in a town of less than 300 people leave his wife at the bar to
check on the kids who would buy that if you could have thought of a better
excuse in the moment leave a like in the video and subscribe to the channel
storytelling fourth grade teacher who led the after-school dance program at my
elementary school she was known for her explosive temper and playing favorites
her favorites were a group of girls who considered themselves popular being
invited to their pool parties meant that you were cool this teacher used to
invite these girls for sleepovers at her house well this teacher hated me and I
desperately wanted to feel accepted so one day she was testing the class in the
nine times tables and the way that the test was set up was that we would have
to recite it some kids were allowed to be tested in private I fumbled for
whatever reason and started speaking in the low voice out of embarrassment that
I was fumbling I remember her just screaming at me why I don't get anything
she teaches I wasn't allowed to sit back in my seat until she was done screaming
I remember shaking and I was scared and humiliated I was mixed with anger and
embarrassment I snapped my reading glasses in half a couple of days passed
and my parents asked me why I'm not wearing my glasses until I burst into
tears over what happened all I knew was that Mom scheduled a meeting and well
that teacher didn't bother me for the rest of elementary school lol screw you
Mrs N you're a witch and do not belong around children
story 11. so my seventh grade math teacher she was 400 pounds and we gave
her the nickname of replacing the beginning symbol of her name with fat
for example Lawrence veterans I'm not staring at her name because she could be
on Reddit seeing this you never know every time we would have her class she
would yell at us one way or another just constantly about anything one time she
tried to get a kid a referral when he wasn't even in school and homesick that
same kid was also being bullied of every
student basically pray for Gabe she also referred to that kid for being in a
bathroom for two minutes claiming it was
15. most students back Gabe on this even though mostly everyone bullied him oh
but this isn't the end of it she had a daughter in the same school as us the
daughter looked like her if she was younger or skinnier also cute the
daughter hated the living crap out of her to the point of committing a crime
on her but despite all this meanest in her she had a husband that was in the
military story 12. when I was in seventh grade I
had this teacher was the worst teacher I could possibly imagine a scholar Miss
Gail number one Miss Gail would promote her book every two minutes number two
speaking of the book it was awfully explicit for middle schoolers for
example a chapter of the novel explained how badly one of the characters wanted
to get with a girl in a school not to mention the book was about 14 year olds
number three she desperately wanted to be popular out of all the teachers for
instance once you went up to a guy who was the alpha male in our school she
deadbeat stared at his eyes for two minutes straight she then gave him the
most terrifying grin and said wow you're
popular Miss scale scared the day living crap out of the kid and he rarely spoke
to her in class number four one day she was giving a presentation in class and
said some unnecessary stuff about the deed one kid muttered man what the hell
Miss Gayle rotated her head like the girl from The Exorcist and dragged him
out of class he got detention for a week
no consequences for her number five at a tall dimmitted but gentle friend in my
grade let's call her Theodora Theodora had missed scale as her advisory teacher
one day she was late for advisory and she had a late pass with her from
history gave her a cold stare and tore her late pass in half she gave Theodore
A detention for being Elite although once again she had a late pass well
things did not turn out well for Theo as
she was bawling her eyes in front of the whole class Miss Gail is the evil witch
he was called her out for being Cry Baby Theo's mother later called the old hag
saying it was a ridiculous reason why Theo received attention the scale got no
consequences whatsoever number six Miss Gail purposely gave ABS to the people
she hated in the class but gave aids to the popular ones in her school number
seven She humiliated multiple kids for the looks and once called out a kid for
looking like the hunchback of Notre Dame number eight she gave a kid a nap for
plagiarism for one of the book reports he only quoted the section of the
passage for evidence number nine gave detention to a kid who said Jesus Christ
and called him out for being anti-semitic number 10 once there was a
debate between two loudmaths in our school in which they argued about who
was the hottest girl in the school the scale got involved and said at least I
don't have my v card like her the two never talked beside her for the rest of
the year number 11 she was a terrible teacher she never explained the concepts
and gave us freaking worksheets without enhancer Clues number 12 rumor has it
that you worked at a Catholic school and she started punishing the students for
logical reasons she then told the kids to go to hell over a debate about if
Andrew Jackson was an innocent man she got fired I can't believe she's still a
teacher to those doing research on my former teacher I decided that I should
delete the title of her book and keep her out of the public by naming her so
don't assume that Michelle is a real name oh here's a bonus once we were
reading the outsider's book and she was directing a presentation about what
would be in it and so on and so forth it was going well until one of our terms
was both session she explained how both session meant bsing now I understand
it's important to explain the terms used in The Outsiders but this lady gurgled
the actual award every time she got the chance to this continued until one of
the neighboring classrooms walked in the middle of her swearing session since it
was getting extremely loud she blamed the other students for using foul
language after that she moved on to her presentation about famous figures in the
outsider's book ranting about how one of
our students didn't know who the Beatles were and yada yada yada Now That's What
I Call BS story 13. when I was in first grade
there was an Infamous substitute teacher in my school region Mr Hunter he was
called his name was hissed under breaths and passed on from student to student
between schools Heavens help you if you got this grizzled hunched old Walnut
that was occasionally pulled out of retirement to bestow his tyranny upon
innocent children but I was young foolish I didn't believe his stories my
siblings told me and so being the cutesy teacher's Peta was it put on My
Brightest smile the moment he walked in my first grade classroom and chimed good
morning Mr Hunter with the rest of the class huh he said or something like that
a displeased uncommittal noise it only went worse from there a quick side note
have a name that is one of those names that can be pronounced in different ways
let's say my name was Kiara and pronounced Kiara instead of Kira I'm
used to getting it spoken Wrong by substitute teachers at this point so I
have no problem politely correcting teachers Mr Hunter got my name in the
attendance Kira he said oh Mr Hunter sir it's um actually Kiara I corrected in a
chirp all hell broke loose this absolute a-hole of a geezer lowered the
attendance board and started shouting at little tiny me telling me that because
he was the adult and I was the child he knew better than I did obviously my
parents pronounced my name wrong and obviously I was too thick to realize it
he told me it was rude to have corrected him and for the rest of the day he
called me by the wrong name so yeah screw that guy real life Key and Peele a
a Ron would be terrified story 14. ever had a teacher that hated
their job with their entire being well that would describe Mrs S quite well she
was a college professor during the summer and a middle school geography
teacher for the other three seasons I had her in Middle School the first day
of school she ended out a 10-page syllabus of just rules this ranged from
basic stuff such as Stone's costs and turning your stuff on time to weird
stuff like don't talk without her permission she took that silence rule
very seriously she hated any noise she would rarely talk and ever give any sort
of lessons in front of the class he would walk in and there would be a tree
with a work for the day then we would have to take our textbooks out of her
bag no class said her choice to promote student accountability and just sit at
our desks and fill in everything on the Scantron that came with it we did this
until the administration came into the room then all of a sudden she was just
up in front of the class being fun and interesting showing his songs to help
remember countries one time she slept a kid in the face because he was asking
another student for help she heard him talk any sort of noise was banned story
15. in second grade my class was reading Treasure Island I freaking fell in love
with that stuff and pirates in general I've got books and books about Pirates
now anyways I love the book so much that
I embrace yourselves here right ahead of the class that's right I committed the
awful crime of wanting to find out what happens next my teacher found out about
two weeks into the book when she caught me reading during lunch and I was like
half the book ahead of the class she proceeded to throw a giant hissy fit
said I was cheating and called my mom in
for a parent-teacher conference this was not my first parent-teacher conference
with this teacher I wasn't a bad kid I didn't get into any fights but I did
love to climb things and find quiet places to be alone so I climbed onto the
roof via drain pipe or climbed on top of one of those old-fashioned portable
classrooms several times I was fine but kept getting in trouble because the
school kept thinking I was going to fall and get in an accident in their defense
looking back on it I can understand why back to the point the mom comes into the
conference upset and scared and already telling me off and to stop climbing and
I told her that I didn't do anything my teacher explained what I did wrong and
my mom was confused at first and angry you called me out of work because my son
wants to read a book good my mom got upset for a few minutes then just
laughed it off she basically told the teacher where to stuff it then took me
to Burger King screw you Mrs Hamilton all I wanted was to read about cool
Pirates I hope you enjoyed the video and if you made it this far I'm sure you'll
also enjoy why did your teacher get fired Story 3 was messed up see you in
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aita for flashing my conservative family members to make a point 24f grew up in
rural Alabama my family is every stereotype you can possibly imagine I
love them they're my family and I always look forward to visiting and within an
hour of arriving I am reminded why I left well me and my husband were
visiting this weekend and I was just anticipating a normal time my aunt has
just moved into a stunning new house on a lake so the whole extended family was
going to be there to set the scene a little bit more I was wearing normal
black Lululemon yoga pants and a loose white cro top that showed maybe an inch
of midriff so we pull up to the house after 12 hours of driving no greeting
nothing we start getting berated about how we're supposed to make dinner hadn't
been informed of this and that pissed me off because the rest of the fam lives
within like a 5minute drive of this house my husband trying to be polite
asks if there's food in the fridge we can cook he gets told to sit down that
cooking is a woman's job and that I need to learn how to act in the kitchen I
laugh out loud at this point it's so ridiculous I say that 'll just order us
all Pizza kicking myself in retrospect that I bought food at all for us my
grandma walks into the room and says that if I spent less time focused on
dressing like a Yankee [ __ ] that maybe
ID know my way around the kitchen better I sarcastically thank her for her input
and go off to put on a bathing suit some other family is down by the lake and
they're more chill so I figure maybe I can just shake off this very odd first
15 minutes or so so I put on this two-piece set it's really really cute
and unique and in my opinion very familyfriendly this was already me
trying to be considered a family I tend to prefer strappy thongs and Bando tops
to minimize tan lines but bring around more repressive family I opted for a lot
more coverage not my favorite but really not a big deal or end of the world so I
put it on me and my husband walk down and say hi to the rest of my fam they
seem like they're in a bad mood as well for some reason this just sounds so fun
right I have one Aunt the one whose house it is who's being really sweet she
says it's great to see me that my bathing suit is really cute that it's
been way too long since we've seen each other Etc what a breath of fresh air
sometime later maybe it's 30 minutes maybe it's an hour adri the pizza
arrives my mother and grandmother bring it down to the lake for all of us to eat
after they see my bathing suit they both
start asking me if eBay started dressing
like a cheap [ __ ] since moving up north I live in North
Carolina and they say that I might as well be naked and that I'm tempting my
male family members to act up I looked at them and a few of them did say that I
was tempting them that was Absol abolutely ridiculous not to mention
disturbing to me am usually pretty calm but a lifetime's worth of frustration
was bubbling up and I lost it I furiously took off my top and said oh
fine if I'm such a dirty [ __ ] and might
as well be naked take a good look at my tits jackasses I turned around and
started storming off I held up both middle fingers to them my husband caught
up to me and we left he took me to Gulf Shores for the rest of the weekend and
we had a good time am dreading seeing them again for so many reasons that you
can probably guess I feel bad and like I was out of line but my husband says it
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AIT for wanting to divorce my wife for feeling lonely in our home me m 26 and
my wife 23 have been married less than a year but we have been together for 7
years we have two kids together but things have just gotten so dry for me we
got engaged back in 2020 but she would never plan the wedding New Year's Day of
2023 we separated for about 3 months she had cheated on me with a cooworker and
things weren't working during this time she slept around with countless other
people I have loved this woman every day since we met and have always told her
she was the one and that if we ever separated I wouldn't try again with
anyone else and I didn't then in March she wanted to work on things so we did
and she moved back in around May and things were okay I guess I was so used
to be neglected by her the last year prior to the separation things just felt
great to have her again not long after that she's pregnant and tells me it's
mine I want to believe her but it's also a very complicated timeline granted she
admitted to sleeping with six to seven different men during our 3-month
separation I also find out she contracted herpes during this time which
was a whole another issue it was so difficult for me not to leave her there | give me a good story on AITAHforwantingtodivorcemywifeforfeelinglonelyinourhome |
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AI ta for telling my husband I'm glad that his mother will never meet our son
so my M hated men she hated them thought they were the worst thing to have ever
happened she was from Afghanistan and had my husband before she was 18 and
they came over to Canada as refugees she told me what happened with her and her
husband and I understand why she felt that way and I think anybody would I 30f
met my husband in high school we didn't go to the same school but our mothers
introduced us and so I've known her over
half my life and I can honestly say that as sweet as she was to me she was mean
to my husband yet he always took it in stride she would yell at him call him
names threaten to hit him even and he'd always just smile and take it in stride
like it all washed off of him I even asked him once if he felt like she
didn't love him and he just laughed in my face and said she just believes in
tough love but with me she would treat me like I was the most precious thing in
her life and would call me daughter in the most loving way more than my own mom
there have only been two times in my whole life where I've seen her actually
express love to my husband the first was
10 years ago after we got married we had a huge argument and it was my fault but
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ghosted my wife after she cheated on me years later she's tracking me down and
wants to reconcile so I 30m discovered my 30f wife's Affair after we had been
married for 3 and 1/2 years I had a contract job that involved a lot of
travel at times but also allowed me to work from home when I was back my wife
had a very well-paying job as a director of a technical sales firm we had what I
would describe as a really good marriage although things had gotten a bit
strained from my being away on work trips and are working longer and longer
hours backstory I met my wife now x 5 years ago at a mutual friend's barbecue
we struck up a conversation and had an instant chemistry and quite honestly I
thought I was beating the odds being with such a beautiful and Wells spoken
woman somehow she really liked me for my rough around the edges Persona once we
dating after a few weeks we couldn't get enough of each other and the clothes
just flew off when we would meet at each other's Apartments we finally tied the
knot after dating for 18 months and moved into a big apartment while saving
for a house after the first 3 years of marriage things started changing I still
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Welcome Friends to another r slash nuclear revenge video today we've got a
crazy story of getting somebody busted for taking something illegal but first
make sure to hit those like And subscribe buttons down below so you
never miss any of my daily videos that said our first story of the day is I
made my boyfriend pee on my ex's toothbrush my previous relationship was
a severely toxic one he did everything but hit me I'm convinced that if we
stayed together for long he would have hit me eventually we were bad for each
other and now that I think about it it only made sense since we were each
other's rebound both of us met and got together while we were still mourning
the end of our relationship my ex and I met in a coffee shop one Monday morning
I was on my computer designing stuff and
he was there to get coffee and leave for work I guess he worked in a bank or an
insurance company because he was dressed in a black suit and tie we made eye
contact as he walked out he smiled at me I smiled back and he left just as I
turned to continue my work he returned to the cafe walked towards me and said
you have a beautiful face I thanked him in hopes that he would ask for my number
ask me out or something but he didn't he hurried out instead I badly wanted a
date at that time so that was where my neediness came from I had just gotten
out of a serious relationship with my high school sweetheart at the time it
was a long-term relationship one that lasted years and I ate for that sort of
relationship again I was still dealing with my breakup and I badly wanted a
replacement the next day he was there the suit and tie dude flashing a big
smile at me I of course smiled back at him and even added a wink he still did
not take my number or ask me out I was irritated and promised myself to never
smile back at him now that I think about it I wish I'd kept my promise on
Wednesday and Thursday the suit and tie dude would come into the cafe around the
same time in the mornings and smile at me the cafe was my favorite place to
work and it was close to where I lived so I was there most of the time I wasn't
in the cafe on that Friday because I decided to take a break and spring clean
the house while my roommate was at work I enjoyed cleaning but only in solitude
I returned to my usual workspace the next Monday and was sipping my coffee
and jotting in my notepad when the suit and tie dude suddenly appeared before me
I jolted I never thought I'd see you again he said it was at that point I
realized that the suit and tie stranger had quite a feminine Voice Hi I replied
nervously you weren't here on Friday he said in a flat tone I was worried was he
stalking me did I have to change my work location oh no I thought I love the
coffee there and the staff was friendly plus it was really quiet and small so I
didn't have to deal with seeing so many people I had watched too many serial
killer documentaries to be comfortable with the thought of being stalked you
must have noticed my puzzled Expressions because he smiled and moved back a
little I'm sorry if I freaked you out I wanted to ask you out a while ago but I
couldn't do it and then I came in on Friday resolved to just get it over with
but you weren't here I say oh I had some chores to do he says great we talked
about what we both did and I was right he worked in an insurance company I told
him I'd guess that he did and he laughed he said oh well I'm just glad I stayed
on your mind long enough for you to think of and assume what I do he was
running late for work so he hurried out still did not ask me out I muttered just
as I muttered that I saw him waving at me and knocking on the glass window on
the side I was seated he was saying something but I didn't hear him I
watched the movement of his mouth since I couldn't hear him would you like to go
out for coffee with me he was asking I'm
not it affirmatively he gave me a thumbs
up and I did that too and he jogged back into the cafe sorry we didn't pick a
location or time I almost felt sorry for
him he was late for work I say just give
me your number he wrote his number on my daughter and ran out it was funny I
called him that evening and we made plans to go get coffee together that
weekend in the same Cafe where we had met I suggested the cafe and he
protested a bit don't you want somewhere
special you're always at that cafe I say no I'm cool they make the best coffee
anyway I enjoy this company and he did mine too we agreed to go on another
coffee date the next day and it was just as nice somehow we started a
conversation about our previous relationships and he admitted to me that
he'd just gotten out of a serious relationship they broke up after being
together for three years they were already engaged and had even had an
engagement party but she left him some months after their engagement when we
spoke about her I felt he was still in love with her but I decided to not
bother myself too much about it I was still crazy about my ex too plus I
figured it wasn't a serious relationship
and we were going to take it slow I told them I'd just gotten out of a
relationship too you were not ready for anything serious right now are you he
asked me with a pout I shook my head nope we decided to stay friends and
check in on each other often we went out together many times we would get coffee
together see a movie and watch a game together some other times would come
over to my place and we would talk sometimes my roommate would be there
with us and joining on our conversations
one day she called me aside and said you
like him it was almost an accusation who him no I don't yes yes you do I rolled
my eyes and blushed well maybe I do but now what we already agreed to just stay
friends they say well then tell them you don't want to be just friends anymore
that night I told him as we walked over to the coffee shop you know I was
thinking that too he said I was still skeptical I don't know we just got out
of our relationships rebound relationships hardly ever see the light
of day he says listen we have to at least give this a chance I like you and
you like me too I don't think of you as a rebound do you think of me as a
rebound I said I don't well well I did he was certainly a welcome distraction
from my high school sweetheart we officially started dating but we had so
many issues we fought a lot and it was tiring when his roommate moved out and
he expressed that he would rather live alone and needed the space so he wasn't
interested in getting a new roommate I suggested that I moved in it made sense
to move in with him since I was always in his apartment anyway I also secretly
thought that we wouldn't argue so much if we lived together he agreed and that
week I moved my stuff to his apartment that was the biggest mistake ever my
ex-boyfriend is the most disorganized person I've ever met he left his clothes
everywhere and would just eat and leave food remnants on the dining table or
anywhere else that he ate I on the other hand was as obsessed with being clean
and organized as I had always been the bedroom was always a mess and his
clothes and shoes were everywhere all the time it was frustrating having to
clean up after him and remind him to do what he ought to do we argued about it
all the time and my complaining didn't seem to work because each time I brought
it up he would behave properly and in two days he would go back to the default
and keep making a mess I always thought I enjoyed cleaning but living with my ex
made me realize I only enjoyed cleaning when there isn't much dirt to start with
and I certainly did not enjoy cleaning up after anyone my mom did all of these
and never complained he would scream at me whenever I brought up how he was
creating a mess women have gotten so weird my ex also had a habit of cursing
at me whenever we argued it happened all the time I got sick of it and that led
to our first breakup that day he called me a witch during an argument I just
picked up a few of my things and returned to where I used to live my
roommate had gotten a new roommate but they were kind enough to let me sleep on
the couch while my roommate and I shared her bedroom I did this for a week and
then my ex and I got back together he promised to never curse at me again and
we resolved her issues or so I thought things were all great and nice when I
moved back in with him but in less than a month he started being annoying again
he would start arguments and if I wanted
to leave he would shut the door and make me stay in with him soon enough the
cursing continued only that this time I would curse him back our constant
fighting was too much for my mental health I was constantly overwhelmed and
could hardly concentrate on my work my boss noticed and warned me about my
unproductiveness and reluctance even the neighbors next door grew wary of our
constant yelling they would come over frequently to tell us to keep our voices
down his voice was quite feminine and high pitched and mine was high pitched
too so it was always like two women trying to scream the building down the
breaking point for me was when one of the neighbors called the cops on us they
fear that we would start hitting each other and our noise was disturbing that
was the wake-up call for me I decided I was leaving him the morning after when I
told him he got very upset and tried to apologize to me so I would stay but I
refused he then got erratic as I packed my stuff and took my key I couldn't take
all my stuff so I just picked what I would need and went back to my former
apartment my roommate's new roommate was leaving the month after so she welcomed
me to take back my room all through the month I kept texting my ex to ask when
it was okay for me to come for my stuff he would lie about not being home or
just evade the question and rather than reply start begging me to return home it
was annoying so I asked my roommate to call him and see if he would listen to
her he evaded the topic again and begged her to convince me to return to his
apartment for a month most of my stuff remained at his place but I didn't
notice so much because I lived on the living room's couch anyway when the new
roommate left and it moved back into the room I realized then how much of my
stuff was missing I reached out to my ex again but this time he threatened to
burn my stuff if I kept bothering him then he went from threatening me to
apologize Rising for being a jerk and ruining the good things we had he then
begged me to return to him and promised to change I realized that I was dealing
with a sick person I hung up and decided to involve the police my roommate did
not want that she advised that I don't report to the police to avoid him
getting very harsh treatment from the cops I agreed with her reason for not
wanting to go to the police at the time I'd started going on dates with my
current boyfriend we were pretty close but taking things slowly since my
previous relationship had scarred me my new boyfriend was a gentleman and I
enjoy this company and every other thing about him I randomly mentioned the
situation with my ex to him and he got pissed and insisted I go to the police
you have vital documents that you should
not lose he said I was reluctant to so I
called my ex and told him that if he did
not allow me to come in to pick my stuff I'd call the cops he chickened out and
said it was okay for me to come the day after the next day I went to my ex's my
current boyfriend to pack my stuff my ex met us just in front of the building
handed me the keys and went away we went upstairs and it was a pigsty I was
beyond disgusted and could not believe that I once lived with someone so
disorganized I even worried that my current boyfriend would question my
choice of men just looking at how much of a mess my ex had created in his house
I packed my stuff in the boxes we had brought while my boyfriend helped I
started to remember all the crappy experiences I had under that roof the
yelling name-calling slut-shaming and control not to mention the fact that he
didn't let me come in to pick my stuff up until I threatened to involve the
police I was Furious I didn't want to leave like that without doing something
to hurt my ex so I thought of a petty plan I told my boyfriend and he looked
disgusted come on I urge them you probably want to do it anyway he said no
I don't want to take a leak on his toothbrush I say no I mean you do have
to pee don't you they say well yeah I say then you can as well do it on his
toothbrush he agreed my boyfriend peed on his toothbrush and shaving razor I
was so glad that he did that my boyfriend didn't understand why it
excited me so much what my ex did to me was nowhere near what I had done to him
but it definitely made me happy knowing that my ex was brushing his teeth with
someone else's urine in his mouth so for
somebody that left you scarred is this a Revenge that you're gonna walk away
feeling satisfied like you got your pay back and you can let it go also ever
since I learned the cold hard truth about storing toothbrushes in the
bathroom and like what happens with particles I always kind of pre-washed my
toothbrush before I ever even consider putting toothpaste on it and putting it
in my mouth is that normal does anybody else do that like at least rinse it off
and brush the bristles off pretty darn good before I ever actually pop it into
my mouth I mean it wouldn't be enough for this situation but let me know what
you guys think in the comments down below and our final story of the day his
boss steals my lunch so I left him a special package there was a time in my
life when I thought that the worst people in the world were t-shirts then I
got to college and I decided that the worst people in the world were two ill
students still hanging out in college well I'm out of college now and working
in a company and I'm sure I know who the worst type of people are bosses some
bosses are angry some are crazy some are
meanie some are bullies but my boss is a combination of all types of evil bosses
because while he bullies and verbally abuses me at every chance he gets he
also takes pleasure in stealing my lunch I couldn't have that so I decided to
take matters into my own hands my methods might have been a wee bit
extreme but they got the job done but for you to understand we gotta start at
the top after I got out of college I didn't try to go to law school because I
didn't want to go corporate or at least this is what I tell myself and ever
everybody else but the main reason was that I was bad at academics I struggled
all through college and I only graduated
by the skin of my teeth it didn't really
appeal to me to go to law school only to continue that struggle I wanted to
follow my passion and that led me to video game streaming but like all newbie
video game streamers I wasn't making any money I didn't try to get a day job
though because then I wouldn't have enough time to play video games also
because I didn't want any part of the Rat Race instead I lived in my mother's
basement ate her food and played Call of
Duty all day life was good until one day my mom decided that she's had enough of
my lazy butt lounging around her apartment she wanted me to get a job but
I refused I told her about my dreams and
even begged her to give me a little time but she wouldn't have it she even
threatened to throw me out of her apartment if I didn't get a job and
start being responsible thanks Mom anyways I decided to do something to get
her off my back for a few months so I called a friend and we had lunch at a
cafe I told him about my problem and he agreed to help before the end of the day
he hooked me up with a gig at an accounting firm I got a job working as
an office assistant with the firm the salary was crap and the superior is
usually subject the workers to random drug tests I found that weird because
accounting firm drugs what I decided that it was okay because it wasn't
supposed to be much work and for once in a long time my mom was actually happy
with me I think she kind of deluded herself into thinking that office
assistant was some modest word for second in command the CEO or something
because every day she talks about crazy things like me taking over for my boss
or climbing the corporate ladder or something well I started the job and boy
it wasn't what I expected I was on my feet for for the better part of the day
running to and from the facts or scanning machine printing stuff for the
other workers taking calls writing emails and getting coffee the worst part
of the job was the fact that I had to answer to a really unpleasant boss he
was the supervisor and he always seemed to get a kick out of bullying everyone
into submission the first time I saw him in the office I couldn't control myself
I laughed really hard because he looked and sounded weird that was my bad
because it's wrong to judge people based on their looks that said it doesn't
change the fact that he was still a huge
jerk he had a long pointy nose like that of a witch an obnoxious beard and a
voice with a weirdly high pitch he caught me staring one day and since then
he's had it out for me he sends me on more than five coffee runs every day and
gives me the most ridiculous jobs to do one time he even made me unclog the
toilet with a plunger when the janitor called in sick anytime I say know my
paycheck usually gets lost in the system and would be delayed until I apologize
it was really bad but I didn't quit I couldn't quit because I had an ego to
protect and also because I didn't want to get thrown out of my mom's house so I
go to work every day slaving away the entire day then come back home exhausted
and unable to play games my only consolation at work was during the lunch
break when I could just sit back relax and enjoy my mom's delicious pastries
oops I forgot to mention this it's essential to the story my mom is a great
chef best in the country actually she's won the cook-off Championship three
times in a row she specializes in pastries and she makes a mean apple and
blueberry pie one afternoon after the usual hectic start of the day I checked
my watch for the hundredth time and boom it was lunch time I walked into the
office kitchen for my 30 minute slice of paradise that is my slice of strawberry
very tart which had kept in the fridge hours earlier I opened the fridge and my
strawberry tart was gone no I went around the office asking
everyone if they'd seen my strawberry tart no one did or at least nobody
confessed to stealing it I was distraught the only part of my day that
I actually looked forward to and now it's gone I wanted to cry but I couldn't
not at work I spoke to one of my co-workers about my missing Strawberry
Tart and he asked if it was labeled it wasn't I decided that I couldn't really
blame anyone because I failed to label my lunch the next day I decided that I
wasn't going to repeat that mistake I bought a pack of stick it notes and
boldly wrote my name and then tagged it on my turkey wrap but to my surprise the
same thing happened again I got to the kitchen and my turkey wrap was gone the
thief did me a courtesy of leaving my stick it note in the fridge though this
happened again and again for a a few days till I decided that I couldn't take
it anymore I went to my supervisor and told him about the incident he told me
that it wasn't a serious issue that could be brought up to his superiors and
that I should be more careful about how I keep my lunch I decided that I was
going to find out who the thief was on my own so one fateful day I decided to
go to the kitchen 30 minutes earlier I left my duty post and snuck to the
kitchen I hid in a corner and waited out the time 15 minutes before the lunch
break my supervisor walked into the kitchen I was initially scared because I
thought he was coming to bust me but to my surprise he opened the fridge and
went straight for my chocolate croissant
he peeled off my sticky note with a smug smile on his face and put it back into
the fridge I couldn't confront him because I didn't know what to say also
because it wasn't lunch time and I shouldn't even be there instead I
watched an Agony as my chocolate croissant was being devoured he finished
with the croissant and went for my apple
juice and he drank that too when he left I went back to the office and told the
co-workers what I had seen they laughed at me one of them even said that they
knew it was the supervisor all along turns out he does it to every new
employee he steals their lunch till the firm employs a new worker and he moves
on I decided not to make a move and just be patient till the firm hires a new
someone how long did it take not long apparently because just after a few
weeks The Firm hired a new accountant she was slim tall and sexy she had
beautiful eyes okay not important I was so happy to see her because she was
beautiful and because finally Mr supervisor will stop eating my lunch now
psych I walked into the kitchen that same day and my jaw almost fell to the
ground when I saw the new girl's zucchini casserole which lay untouched
in the fridge but my chocolate chip muffins were gone not again I went back
to my co-workers and they laughed even harder maybe Mr supervisor's fallen in
love with your mom's cooking they said I
was really mad because there was nothing
I could do about it at the moment I mean I could confront him and he would stop
but then he'd make my work life a living
heck worse than it already was I decided to be a bit patient until the firm gets
another new hire maybe something will change this happened later than the
first time but when the company hired a new guy I was happy it was the Moment of
Truth during the lunch break I hurried to the kitchen then said a quick prayer
before opening the fridge to my utter dismay the new guy's hamburger lay
uneaten too while my chicken wings were nowhere to be found that was the last
straw I couldn't take it any longer I had to do something while I took a cab
home I brainstormed ideas on how to stop
Mr supervisor from stealing my meals and I got some really good ones that would
guarantee me getting my lunch back but I wanted something different one hit that
I'll make sure he never repeats a sick habit I was still thinking about ideas
the next day when I got called up for an
impromptu drug test that's when I got my
idea I was gonna make Mr supervisor fail
his impromptu drug test but how I didn't know how to go about getting drugs and
talk more about getting him to use them I literally know nothing about drugs
this might come off as weird to some people but it's true back in high school
and college I never did drugs not even once why well because during my years as
a Junior High student I used to go to school with my group of friends on my
bike and we usually went past a corner where a homeless guy lived he used to
look really shabby and sickly one time we went past that same corner and he
wasn't there later we learned that he died when I asked my parents why you
lived like that they told me his life was ruined because of drugs since that
time I vowed to never use drugs ever and that fear of living a sad and sickly
life made it easy for me to keep that promise to myself anyways back to the
story I had to reach out to one of my old college buddies who knew a lot about
drugs I needed advice on how to get the drugs and how to use them I told them
the drugs were for me of course I was paranoid at the time and didn't want
anything blowing back on me he didn't believe me so I eventually had to tell
him the truth he laughed at my plan and decided to help me carry it out since it
was in his words all good fun that same day he called me at night and told me to
come over to his place to pick up some very special cookies the next day I got
to his home an hour before I had to get to work and he passed me a paper bag
when I opened it I was somewhat disappointed to see that I came to his
place for cookies cookies which didn't look or smell a bit as good as my my
mom's eventually he told me it wasn't just cookies and that it had been baked
with marijuana one bite of the cookies would send anyone off the deep end I was
skeptical about the effects initially because they looked like ordinary
cookies but what the heck I think my friend and gave him my homemade
chocolate donuts as payment and made my way to work as usual I got to work and
dropped my lunch in the refrigerator then went about my daily routine a few
minutes to lunch time I watched Mr supervisor go into the kitchen and then
come out he seems pretty normal to me but I had to go into the kitchen to
check if he actually ate my lunch he did he ate every single cookie in the paper
bag leaving the stick it note in the fridge I went back to my desk watching
the supervisor from afar as he did stuff on his computer a couple of minutes
later just when I was about ready to accept that the cookies were just the
normal type the supervisor burst out laughing get something on his computer
the whole office went silent and heads turned to look at the supervisor he
didn't stop he just laughed harder clapping his hands he stood up still
laughing and called one of the junior accountants when the guy came closer he
showed him what he'd been looking at on his computer the guy peered into the
supervisor's computer then gave him a weird look when he walked away I asked
him what the supervisor had been looking at it was a freaking typo on a document
file I watched an awe as the supervisor walked around talking to the other
employees about his wife and how bad her cooking was one time he even walked to
the vent and farted into it it wasn't even funny just sad and disgusting
anyways I moved on to the next phase of my plan and reported the situation to
the manager who proceeded to call the analyst the test was done and he failed
the next day before his disciplinary hearing he walked up to me with a deep
frown on his face what did you do he asked me he admitted to stealing my
lunch and accused me of lacing the cookie with drugs I probably denied
having anything to do with it he had no proof of the matter so he couldn't
accuse me in front of the disciplinary committee anyways he was suspended for a
few weeks then demoted so when he came back to work he didn't have the power to
exact revenge against me one more plus side he never stole my lunch or anybody
else's ever again while I fully agree with the idea that taking Edibles at
work is a terrible idea does any somebody else think at least nowadays
that testing specifically for marijuana is such an old-fashioned ideal that like
as long as you're not doing it while you're at work you shouldn't have to
worry about losing your job over it at least I feel that way but with that
being said that's all the time we have for today now if you want to hear
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hello everyone my name is Reid and welcome to story time today we are gonna
be reading some malicious compliance stories so sit back relax and enjoy dogs
don't follow quiet hours in my junior year of college I lived in a 24-hour
quiet hours on-campus apartment the rules meant any noise at all could be
complained about and three complaints and you were evicted realistically it
meant if you stopped the party by midnight nobody really cared but
roommates and I lived in the last apartment so I only had the one
apartment upstairs as neighbors and I was next to the road we didn't complain
about their noise and they didn't complain about us really me since my
roommates were never there until finals week after the first day of finals I
turn on some music to chill about 20 minutes later I heard a knock on the door
it was the resident assistant RA whose job it is to enforce the rules he told
me there was a complaint about loud music we went back and forth for a bit
because I was the only one there and he couldn't even hear my music at the door
the RA did say he could hear it a bit as he walked up because my window was open
and so we walked outside and found out that yes you could hear it outside and
it looked like the upstairs neighbors window was open too after that he left
to talk to the complainer upstairs and then came back saying that she held to
the complaint and that if I get two more I'll be evicted after he left I went
upstairs to talk but my neighbor wouldn't open the door she just yelled
through it that I should know better in 24-hour quiet our housing and to follow
the rules and make no noise or she'll complain again fine I turn off my music
and waited for her to leave around dinnertime I heard her leave within 10
minutes I heard what I was waiting for so I called the RA to complain about an
intermittent loud noise from upstairs that's making it hard to study the RA
asked if I was just complaining in retaliation and that we should work it
out without his involvement I told him I
tried but she told me it's 24-hour quiet
hours I offered that if they came and he felt my complaint was not legit
I wouldn't say anything for the rest of finals week he came and knocked on her
door I could tell when he did so because her
dog went crazy the RA came down and told me it was a legitimate complaint and
dogs are not allowed he then asked when the dog got there saying it was stupid
of her to bring one overnight and after she complained about her neighbor's
noise my response October he just looked at me for about 20 seconds like I had
two heads finally I continued that yes he heard me
right that she'd been keeping the dog there for two months and I hadn't
complained even though it barked like crazy when she was in there he had to go
to the campus Housing Authority and they ultimately told her she couldn't finish
out her finals on campus if she didn't immediately remove the dog but she would
need to find alternative housing next semester for violating rules regarding
animals on campus two mornings later a dogs barking woke me up so I called the
our aide to complain that night the RAS helped her pack up her stuff and she had
to stay in a hotel for the rest of finals oh come on roommate this is like basic
stuff right here you should know that if you're breaking the rules you can't
complain about someone else breaking the rules it just don't work like that
as you wish a while back I was renting a place when a new also rental neighbor
moved in next door they then proceeded to throw a mini person party well into
the night ten feet away from my rental 'then trademark bedroom wall eventually
I went around and got them to turn the noise off a week later they did it again
waking me up this time and I was around there again some days later the new
neighbour was on my doorstep ranting at me for daring to tell her
what to do and told me I wasn't allowed on her property again fine as you wish
I shall not set foot on that property again so I did some research I found the
old ad for her rental and contracted her real estate agent for advice I walked
into the local police station and got their advice on the combined advice I
contacted the local Town Council and got even more advice all of this advice
basically came down to if it happens again call the council the agent or the
police and naturally I wouldn't want to get
miss noise works in any kind of legal trouble would I know so of course I
would be trying to report in roughly that order of preference predictably the
neighbor having decided that I had been put in my place through yet another into
the morning party and true to the advice I had been given I called the council
who for some reason didn't pick up the phone at 3:00 a.m. neither did the agent
and you know if I hadn't been allowed to go knock on her door I would have but
she'd taken that possibility off the table so on to the last option after the
cops had been called out to break up her violations of the local noise ordinance
regulations a further six times on separate occasions and all the details
forwarded on to the agent and council each time things
got very quiet for a few weeks then one day shortly after I had the lovely
experience of having one of the officers come to my door and ask if I knew
anything about a homeless guy who had been squatting in that very same house
because the former tenant had been evicted something about noise violations
and honestly the squatting homeless guy was so quiet I never even knew he was
there a plus plus would recommend as a neighbor now this is kind of different
from the last story Weaver ahead where the person was doing something bad and
then they stitched on someone from doing bad and got themselves in trouble this
homeless guy was being quiet and not calling attention to himself so homeless
guy I applaud you you're doing it right I know what's appropriate for my kids
Thanks so this was in 2013 back when I was working at a movie theater in my
town right after wolf of wallstreet came out and this movie brought in a crowd
theaters were sold out and packed known for its not so kid-friendly scenes and
was a little too much for most people now working at a movie theater you can
usually just tell after a while what people know what they want and what
people think they know what they want but have no idea what they're getting
into for example those people came in to watch Leo because they loved him and
will watch whatever he is in without realizing how highly inappropriate the
movie is normally mothers coming in to buy their teenagers tickets before
bouncing thinking it was a Titanic movie
and it's not literally I watched so many people come out thirty minutes in and
leave stating how disgusting that movie was we were told to warn people
especially just Leo fans not knowing what they were getting into because
people were getting mad and freaking out
so when Karen sporting a Jesus self-made bedazzled t-shirt can I speak to your
manager haircut and cross jewelry came in with one nine-year-old and one
eleven-year-old came for a ticket it was too obvious
she did not know what she was in for three tickets to wolf of wallstreet
Karen started rummaging through her bag for
wallet okay but just so you know it's not kid-friendly its r-rated like really
really r-rated I started as she looked up I whispered enough for her to hear
and not the kids it has a scene 30 minutes in which someone does cocaine up
my kids love leo okay it's my 9 year olds birthday and all she
wanted was to see this movie I know it's appropriate for my kids
thanks Karen scoffed cue my malicious compliance okay just three tickets i
beamed and sold her the tickets she was rude and rolling her eyes smacking her
gum til I gave her the tickets she snatched them out of my hand in
satisfaction giving me a victorious smirk before walking towards the theater
I just waved goodbye after about 30 minutes after it started I called my
manager out from the office for a refund he was confused but I explained why we
waited for the scene that amazing scene that was too much for almost everyone
almost on cue I see Karen and her children coming out of the theater she
is quiet as her kids are quickly following after her begging for her
forgiveness and panic and tears screaming we didn't know Karen is
emotionless as she walks up slowly and defeated to my ticket booth in tears
tears were just sliding down her cheeks as her kids sobbed and begged for her
not to be mad she couldn't look at me as Karen swallowed and choked out with a
shaky breath can I get her refund Karen sniffed as my boss did the refund and
the reason for the refund my fan sure asked Karen swallowed embarrassed unable
to look at me it's not kid-friendly so I used to work in a movie theater
once upon a time and I never really had any moments like this hardly any refunds
and definitely no one having tears like that no I wasn't there during some of
the crazy stuff like obviously wolf of wallstreet but still you think I would
have experienced something like this but
I did live at a pretty raunchy and crazy place at the time so maybe that's why
can't transfer until my numbers are green you got it
before I moved into this department in my company I worked as a printer slash
copier technician my main territory was a local hospital that I spent 95% of my
time at a position opened up in our IT department and I decided to apply for it
copier manager wasn't pleased because I did end up getting the position and he
had to replace me with three people that's besides the point with the
hospital as my main territory I did things a little differently
I had 600 machines in the building and would visit 10 or so a day as the
customer called it in I spent lots of money trying to keep these machines
running correctly so some of my stats didn't look so good also if I fix
something in the customer called in about a different problem on the same
machine I got dinged again of the eight stats we were tracked on 1/2 of mine
were bad aka red my copier boss knew I was a good tech but also knew that I had
gotten the job in IT and that I couldn't
even think about the IT job until all my numbers were green it took 4 months for
the internal transfers to happen and it was me that made it happen
new IT boss called me and asked me what was taking so long and told him what the
copier boss said and he said I'll take care of it IT boss basically went into
the stats board and changed a line of code to say if Opie them green stats
updated the board and went down to the copier boss and I was transferred after
a couple of days later he caught me in the hall and told me he didn't
appreciate what I had done and I had to tell him that I had nothing
to do with it bring it up to the IT boss the CIO yeah this is a good example of
mindless company metrics that don't even matter there's a couple at my current
place of work and it sucks oh well maybe we'll get past these stupid things one
day sure I'll do my job so I have worked at a large manufacturing plant for the
past five years and this year we are shutting down like tear it to the ground
shutting down I have truly loved this job and have worked for the best boss
one could ask for it's a great job with grade pay I work in the group that in
part is responsible for regulatory compliance on a day to day basis we have
a lot of responsibilities that ensure the plant runs smooth and complies with
environmental laws this means that my group is needed until the very end so we
have all been given roll off dates nine months from now if we stayed till the
end we get a nice severance package definitely worth sticking around for my
boss however has been deemed non-essential so they were let go a
month ago the majority of my duties were in future planning and plant
improvements with the plant shutting down 99% of my projects have or will be
canceled my group is needed but I am most certainly not needed I like to work
hard and pride myself in the quality and
effectiveness of the projects I complete
I do not like to just sit around my days have ground to a halt and I am
incredibly bored well my previous boss was universally
loved the new boss is the complete opposite he is one of those good old
boys who always has the right answer and hates to be questioned to be fair he is
probably in over his head a couple of weeks after my old boss was let go I go
talk to my new boss me hey boss got a minute
new boss yeah but make it quick I have been thinking since most of my work was
in future planning and development I was wondering if we could talk to HR about
moving my roll off date closer so I could still get the severance you're
part of the regulatory group right you were needed till the end yes but my job
you are part of the regulatory group just do your job I even went to talk to
HR but they will not okay anything without the new bosses approval so now I
am just doing my job that consists of taking out the trash
that's it granted it's hazardous material but anyone could do it it takes
roughly 30 minutes a day so I have signed up for some online classes and
learning how to speak another language and getting in some backlogged video
games any suggestions on how to fill the
next nine months whoa whoa whoa whoa how are they gonna fire Opie's boss because
he's non-essential and then hire someone else on to be the boss for nine months
that doesn't really make any sense to me at all
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hey everybody hope you're all doing well
my name is steven and this is the story time channel
we've got some great malicious compliance stories so let's jump into
our first story of the day by spiked bike railroad chop shop prologue
so i used to work for a company that dealt with refurbishing locomotives in
rail cars it was an unbelievably greasy operation
to start with they hired only apprentice welders because the government gave out
grants for that sort of thing secondly if you thought the job was too
unsafe go home because there were hundreds waiting for your job
highest unemployment rate in the country thirdly the company was basically
buy bag or steel to make the bare minimum requirements for job a
while job b through g would get progressively more difficult to complete
they'd do anything from put on fake parts just to get a milestone payment to
outright stealing parts from the neighboring railroad
right around here is when i got my promotion to lead hand of the demolition crew
my job wasn't only to disassemble entire train cars and organize the parts
it was also designed to make people quit i'd get the dumbest of dumb put onto my
crew and i'd be told to treat them like absolute crap
make them do the worst jobs because they couldn't fire them
or else they'd lose the government grants i'm not a bad guy
a little rough around the edges but here comes malicious compliance
i'd straight up tell the guys who were targeted to go buy a
voice recorder and tell them that the next day i was going to tear into them
and i wanted them to record it so they could use it as evidence against the
company so they could either collect wrongful dismissal claims or
unemployment after about two weeks the majority of them would indeed quit
and thank me afterwards for the heads up i'd say
i made 15 guys quit before the company was black flagged and taken over
okay be honest guys would you have the heart to tear
into these people if yes if no why let me know in the comments down below
our next story is by generic username 9067 don't threaten me with taking your
business elsewhere i used to work in a branch of barclays
on a high street in an affluent university town
customer comes in and starts giving me crap for something
it was about four to five years ago so i can't recall
but i think it was something like he had
had bad service in a different branch or call center so he goes in at me saying
how bad barclays is agreed and how much better other banks are
and that he doesn't really use his account with us and that he would close
his account with us if we didn't sort something out by way of a threat
i asked him to confirm he wanted to close his account
and his pride wouldn't let him back down
from his original threat while he was in front of other people
he confirms then carries on his tirade i immediately closed his bank account
with barclays and transfer him the money that was in it
and ask him if there is anything else i can do for him
he then starts complaining about me closing his account
and i tell him as he isn't a customer with barclays unless he wants anything
else could he please leave the situation was very tense and he was
very loud and shouty i thought he could do with being taken down a peg
so i took away the tool he was using to threaten me with
i probably sound like a tick but freak that guy
and retail jobs it absolutely was not your fault that they had bad experiences
with the company yes you work for the company you're kind
of attached to it but that's no reason to give all the grief and the blame
on some retail worker people like op are unfairly taking the brunt of the
situation while all the people at the tippy top
are counting their money and not getting any of the actual grief
it's just an unfortunate situation that people like op and those
positions for these companies have to face the next story was written by
cameron conway don't do any work okay for context this is my dad's story
he used to work for a small plumbing company that would install the large
coffee machines and coffee shops so my dad always showed up to his job
about 30 minutes early because he had to take the bus to work
it was no big deal to him just a part of his commute
part of how his job worked was it was an eight-hour work day but if he finished
the last job before the end of your shift you could go home for the day my dad a
good worker would only take a fraction of his 30-minute lunch to work
then work for the rest of it he did this for a while until his boss called him
for a meeting the boss proceeds to give him crap for
not taking the mandatory 30-minute lunch
blah blah blah my dad tries to argue the fact that it's not putting him out
but the boss insists take the full 30 minutes
cue malicious compliance the next day he shows up to work as usual
and the minute his lunch break starts he stops working and goes on break
over the 30 minutes he gets a few calls from his boss
doesn't answer by this point he's finished eating and is just sitting
waiting for his lunch to be over his co-worker comes in and asks if he's been
getting the boss's calls my dad explains the situation and his
co-worker smiles and walks out later that night getting back to the
shop the boss confronts my dad and starts to lose it
my dad calmly interrupts him and just says
sorry i can't work during my 30 minute lunch break
needless to say there weren't any more issues with my dad working during his
lunch break after that it definitely seems a bit flip-floppity to say
well you need to take your 30-minute mandatory lunch break and you need to
make sure you're spending that entire 30 minutes
and then instantly right away call them up and be like where were you for those
30 minutes specifically the next story is by dkoff we like you where you
are my very first job i got was a cart pusher at walmart
i was 16 years old i wanted to be a cashier so that it wasn't outside so much
after maybe five months working there i noticed they are hiring for cashier
position i went to hr staffing and asked them if
i could be enrolled in the training they told me no and said something along
the lines of we are happy with having you where you are at
i was a bit of a chaotic little shoot at that age and the gears started
turning but you are hiring new people to be cashiers right
hr says yes so if i was not employed here and i applied
then i would be considered for the cashier position is that right
hr says well yes that is true okay well then let's do that
i would like to be a cashier so i would like to resign
hr clearly baffled you would need to provide a letter in writing that you
were going to resign i wrote a letter of resignation on a
post-it and handed it to hr this was all at the beginning of my shift mind you
near the end of my shift i was asked to speak to hr
they were informing me that i had been enrolled in the cashier education
classes a week later i was working indoors and had a one dollar per hour raise
i love that op realized that this job was really just a stepping stool to get
higher and higher in the workforce and wasn't afraid to leverage their
security with the job to push for something they truly wanted
which was the cashier position and it worked out for them it was a
great move elmer next story is by friendly mum
okay you can sing now just a cute little memory that popped up
i have this daughter who loves singing and dancing and is one of those social
butterfly types hubby and i are such introverts we don't know how this happened
anyway one evening she was about five and we were singing along her then
favorite song whilst i was cleaning the kitchen after dinner
hubby tells her to go brush her teeth as he was wrangling the kids towards bed
and little miss says to me don't sing anymore until they get back
because she doesn't want to miss anything really i ask okay you can sing now
she runs to the bathroom so i begin in my most beautifulest singing voice and a
lovely tune i sing no no no no no no no no no
i sung now for a good five minutes fully committed to singing it
as best i could hubby catches on and tries to add a harmony whilst he's
chasing up the other kids miss five gets back all stroppy that's not
what i meant i meant you could sing later oh okay sorry honey
later later later boy she got cross at us for our malicious compliance
she was able to laugh at our little joke the next day and now it's a running
family thing first i apologize for any attempted singing there
secondly this is a really cute family moment and i'm glad it's something they
shared with us because i know it's gonna be something that they're gonna be
thinking about for a long time is a very fun thing to look back on
the next story is by thicky thick glasses boss doesn't have time to discuss tips
i'm not supposed to take okay time to make real money i used to
work as a stockman for a very big chain store
it would probably take you one guest to guess which one
i was 17 years old fit into sports and was not
lazy my stockman co-workers were lazy slow and had no motivation if i saw a
box said two-person lift i just put it on my
shoulder and left with the customer to the front checkout
my co-workers would go find someone and even then they had a hard time lifting
anything overhead customers were always so happy to have me help them and
i got frequent tips i wasn't supposed to take
tips and i would tell them that some people insisted and would get angry if i
didn't take it the first time it happened i reported it
because my training said i was supposed to give it to the store
the manager on duty said i don't care what you do
i don't have time for this right now in my 17 year old mind i said
okay the town i worked in was where rich people went to go on vacation
and had homes they rented out for like 2 000 a week
they had no problem giving me 20 bucks or more i made so much money just being a
decent helpful human being that didn't waste people's time that i
ended up getting my own down payment for my own car
nice hey it doesn't hurt the store any the store still made as much money as
they were ever going to considering they didn't ever plan to
take anything from tips so you made some extra money in an affluent area
the store got as much business as usual and you know even got
positive feedback i'm sure so it seemed like a win-win to me
our next story is by angel lights me versus my fifth grade teacher
the great book boogaloo so some of y'all zoomers may be familiar with
ar points for those who aren't ar stands for accelerated reader which was a
program that assigned a reading level and points to each book based on the
difficulty of reading it and the length where i grew up we were expected
to read as many books as possible and then take short online tests for
them if you passed then you got however many points the book was worth was added
to your ar score now this was a big freaking deal
we had an uncountable number of dances and parties and prizes that you could
only gain access to if you had a certain amount of points
you could buy candy and toys with your points and we had an
entire mini economy based on reading books and taking
tests child me loved reading and being an awkward horse girl i
usually had nothing better to do all day than read
i legit would take books with me to lunch and recess
and just read so naturally i dominated the ar rankings i was always
the student who ended the year with the most points
and my teachers just loved getting to say the best reader in the school was in
their class this was all fine and dandy until i
entered mrs k's class in 5th grade mrs k had a policy where before taking an ar
test you had to write a short summary of the book
this was to prevent students from trying to get points by taking tests for books
they hadn't read and failing them however i was a reader
not a writer and i resented this heavily mrs k almost always had the number one
student and she wanted to win again but ten-year-old me refused to write the
summaries i had spent years not having to so why
should i start doing more work for the same thing
so i stopped taking tests i kept reading
but refusing to write a summary and take the test
i gave up the parties and the prizes just because 5th grade
me refused to write a one-paragraph summary of a book
mrs k tried to convince me to take the tests
and that she'd only make me write a few sentences but i had made my choice
i had traded getting to do the cha-cha slide for keeping my moral high ground
she tried talking to my mom and my other teachers
but no one could convince me to do so she resented that she was not going to
have the student with the most points but was unwilling to give up her
precious summaries she said she couldn't make a special exception for me because
all the other students were still happily writing summaries and taking
tests now i had held the number one ranking for
years and i wasn't about to give it up now summaries be
darned it was the last week of school and i had taken less tests than nearly
every other student in my class i still had at least 200 points because the
tests i had taken were for high value books but i was nowhere near number one
however i had a secret weapon harry potter each book was worth an
absurd amount of points and i had just finished the series
so i begrudgingly wrote a few sentence summaries of each book
and turned them into mrs k i could see the wheels turning in her head as she
tried to figure out what weird game i was playing as i turned in summary
after summary i also did the percy jackson series for good measure
i was being driven purely by spite and i made a perfect score on each test which
netted me around a cool 200 points this drove me back up to number one
and oh how mrs k sieved she pretended she was so proud of me for
getting number one but i could feel her annoyance every time she
looked at me i had taken nearly the least amount of tests and wrote the least
summaries in my class but it somehow managed to have the most points in my grade
i went to our last ar dance and did a victorious cha-cha slide
as well as buying all my classmates candy with my points
in the end i did have to write a few summaries but i felt like i had robbed
mrs k of the satisfaction of seeing your system work
i felt like i had won i think having to write the summary
is a bit over the top first off how does she even verify
that the the summary is right you could write any paragraph just making up the
story and unless the teacher had read it themselves wouldn't they just
most likely take it as fact that being said if they take a test and they fail
that's on the student if they take a test and they passed that's also on the
student if they end up failing all of the books
in the system and they can't take any more tests
that's their shortcoming that's their mistake i don't think making them write
a summary is the way to go and our final story of the day is by deaf witch
stay here you got it so back when i was in elementary school
i used to be quite a troublemaker principal's office
calls home etc mostly for roughhousing with my friends
nothing serious or bad so there i was around 3rd or 4th grade on the
playground with my friend for reference my elementary school
playground comprised of a hard top jungle gym and a field surrounding the
playground was maybe 20 feet of trees and then fences beyond that was either
houses railroad tracks or woods so the rule was
no going into trees for our safety even on the inside of the fences going
beyond the fences was a cardinal crime yet on that day my friend
and i went into the trees probably to be cool or whatever and
subsequently we got caught by a lunch lady they supervised our recess don't know
why as punishment she told us to stand on
the blacktop and not move until she told us to
done so recess came and went and then the lunch ladies formed lines
and everyone went inside except she forgot to tell us when we could move
and so we stayed there standing on the hardtop like she told us to
the playground was empty for 10 minutes then the next round of kids came out
maybe 10 or so minutes later the original lunch lady noticed we were there
what are we still doing outside miss we're just standing here until you can
say we can move like you told us she shoot us in right after that neither
her or my teacher ever punished me for complying
to be fair the lunch lady literally said do not move until i tell you to
and as kids in an elementary school you can't really come down too hard on them
for taking something like that so literally you know they're just small
children they don't know but besides that if you enjoyed the
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what's a let that sink in fun fact Story
one history there was a time in history when trees existed but the fungi which
caused wood to rot at night it evolved to digest wood dead trees and plants
would pile up in a 35 oxygen atmosphere cause massive fires this is also the
time where petrified wood came from trees would sit in mud for thousands of
years and not rot while minerals slowly replaced the wood structures every
generation you work backward in your ancestry doubles in size if two parents
four grandparents eight great-grandparents and so on by the time
you reach the 15th century you're potentially descended from over 500 000
people by the time you reach the year 500 your potential direct ancestors
exceed the entire population of humans that have ever existed that means that
many people repeat your ancestry you're descended from the same people multiple
times this is because relatives married relatives cousins married cousins for
example that's right folks you are a product of to some degree or another the
Roman ruins are as old to us as the pyramids were to the Romans when they
came across them ancient Egypt is ancient and Frank and Martin Luther King
Jr were born in the same year Queen Elizabeth and Marilyn Monroe were born a
month apart we are closer to the year 2040 than the year of 1994. if we held a
minute of silence for every person that died in the Holocaust we would be silent
for 11 years we put a man on the moon 1969 before he put wheels on our luggage
1970. the stegosaurus lived 150 million years ago T-Rex lived 65 million years
ago the stegosaurus was more ancient to the T-Rex than the T-Rexes to us the
teo2 wakan pyramids known to be the most
architecturally significant Mesoamerican pyramids were not built by the Aztecs
the Aztecs found it abandoned settled there and gave it its name the origins
of its Founders is still a mystery the Egyptians were a force in 2000 BC the
Romans were in power at around zero CE the Egyptians are as old to the Romans
as the Romans are to us Egyptians are very fun to consider when the Romans
were in power the pyramids of the Egyptians were already 2500 years old
more ancient to them than the ancient Egyptians are to us today and they
didn't have pictures nor the internet even more than staggering to spin
actually shows the signs of possible water erosion this would put its
creation into 6 millennium BCE the time between the first known Pharaoh 3200 BC
the last one 30 BC is greater than the period from the last Pharaoh and the
moon landing with over a thousand years to spare the Great Pyramid was built
before the last woolly mammoth died when humans started farming blue eyes and
humans hadn't mutated yet the cigarette lighter was actually invented before the
match in the cigarette sharks pre-day trees the oldest shark fossils we know
of are 420 to 450 million years old the oldest known trees with teaser about 385
million years old Bill Clinton George W bush and Donald Trump were all born
within a 66-day stretch the Holy Roman Empire existed until 30 years after the
United States was founded 1776-1806 Oxford University is actually
older than the Aztecs the University of Oxford is a Collegiate research
University located in Oxford England it has no known data Foundation but there
is evidence of teaching as far back as 1096 making it the oldest university in
the English speak world and the world's second oldest university in continuous
operation the Aztec empire or the Triple Alliance began as an alliance of three
nahua these three city-states ruled the area in and around the valley of Mexico
from 1428 until the combined forces of the Spanish conquistadors and their
native allies under Hernan Cortez defeated them in 1521. France was still
using the guillotine in the first Star Wars film came out the lifetime of a
Japanese person that went from samurai swords to nuclear weapons the majority
of the first American settlers only survived the first Winter by eating
their children Cleopatra was born closer to the moon landing than when the
pyramids were built the Giza Sphinx is so old that it was the ancient Egyptians
themselves who performed the first restoration after digging in from under
the dunes over one thousand years after it had been built Charlemagne's name
translates to Charles the great this wasn't due to his leadership this was
due to the fact that he was 6'4 the average male was 5'6 his name was just
big Charlie the vast majority of human beings have kicked the bucket already as
much as 50 billion plus have come and gone before everyone is alive today the
longest serve driving Civil War veteran lived to see nuclear combat and
supersonic flight it took Humanity approximately four times longer to
switch from copper swords to steel swords than it took to switch from steel
swords to nuclear bombs and intake humans approximately 50 times as long to
switch from stone tools to bronze than it did to switch from bronze to Firearms
makes you wonder what's coming next because if the trend continues it'll be
soon when will we get nuclear swords let's be honest does your room look
delish yeah I almost do luckily I just launched Rufus rugs custom hand tufted
rugs and no this isn't some BS Drop Shipping Company we have a warehouse in
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Last Airbender we've got you covered hit the link in the description to get a
free quote Story 2 space if the sun were scaled
down to the size of a white blood cell the Milky Way galaxy would be the size
of the continental United States the vastness of space is mind-boggling when
NASA pitched the idea of the Voyager mission to Richard Nixon with the idea
of touring the outer planets he was told that the last time it was possible
Thomas Jefferson was in the White House the particular planetary alignment that
Voyager 2 used on its Journey occurs only once every 176 years you can place
all the planets of our solar system between Earth and the moon and even have
a bit of spare space after neutron stars of such strong gravity that if you
dropped a marshmallow into one it would be like dropping a three Megaton nuclear
warhead on Earth and if you add Mass to a neutron star the volume of the star
shrinks the moon orbits us from the West to the east but we see it move across
the sky east to west because of the rate of the Ursa rotation our observation is
like being in a faster car watching a slower car heading in the same absolute
Direction fall further and further behind us this is no coincidence the
moon's orbit is a Vestige of it being material from Earth it would be like a
truck pulling a trailer in a circular truck unhitching it and then circling
the track and catching up again the universe is so empty that if we took
three grains of sand and placed them inside a vast Cathedral that Cathedral
will be more filled with sand than the universe is with stars as you get closer
to a black hole time goes slower this means that everything farther away would
experience time faster and faster as you get closer and closer to the black hole
a second for you could be a billion years for those outside of it that's if
you fell into a black hole and looked outside you would see the universe die
with you if the Earth was the size of a marble you would need 7 miles of space
to build a scale model of the solar system the largest star ever discovered
VY Canis Majoris is so large that if it were placed where the sun is now its
surface would extend to Beyond Jupiter it means that we humans on Earth would
be only 1 8 of the distance to the surface there are about 12 times more
trees on Earth than stars in the Milky Way an iPhone is more powerful than
every computer NASA had combined in 1969 during the first lunar Landing there is
on average a supernova explosion every 50 years in the Milky Way on average
there are 30 every second in the observable universe this is one of the
most insane things I've heard let me just repeat that a supernova explosion
every 50 years in the Milky Way on average there are 30 every second in the
observable universe mind-blowing stuff Story 3 signs due to the way the speed
of light works combined with our current understanding of the expansion of the
universe there are areas of the universe
that are both impossible for us to visit or even observe the fabric of the
universe expands faster over that distance than light can travel so it
never reaches us your bones are wet two-thirds of carbon and other
greenhouse gases are created in the atmosphere by 80 companies that's why it
won't change there is a tube running through the middle of your body one ends
in your mouth and the other ends in your butt we're all basically walking meat
Donuts the first electric car was invented at the end of the 19th century
and went 65 miles per hour because early gas engines had very low torque some of
the earliest cars were gas electric your body consists of roughly a one-to-one
ratio of bacterial to human cells it is unlikely that a person could actually
die in quicksand since most quickstand is only a few inches deep most people
who die in quicksand get stuck in Tidal basins and drown When the tide comes in
if there have existed 1 billion alien races out there since the universe began
all with the capability of light speed Intergalactic travel the chance of just
one of those races existing at the same time time period of humanity roughly 200
000 years is less than ten percent the chance of that 10 likely alien race
being within 200 000 light years of Earth is
0.000015 so basically if there were 1 billion hyper Advanced alien races in
the universe there's only a less than 0.0000
15 chance that one would ever reach us if you try to consider all the possible
races that exist but don't have Intergalactic travel capability
scientists haven't found a particular brain component responsible for
Consciousness there is no physical proof of Consciousness it just is there is
more than one type of infinity and they aren't all the same size from zero down
in negative numbers infinite from zero up in positive numbers also infinite
combine them still infinite but bigger than either on their own scientists who
work with cockroaches often develop allergies to cockroaches at the same
time they also develop allergies to pre-ground Coffee people that get bit by
cockroaches often develop allergies to both cockroaches and shellfish heard of
a guy in my city who bred Roaches for reptile food it was going to clean out
one of the empty terrariums he opened the hinged plastic lid too hastily and a
cloud of roach poop dust hit him in the face without any previous allergy he
still instantly fainted from anaphylactic shock goddamn most
disgusting animal on Earth oh and there are apparently 4 500 species of
cockroach of which only 30 are considered pests
my Skin's itching from reading this you guys need to stop thinking about things
like that Gap under your fridge you've been ignoring for years or what's in all
that dust under your bed story 4. next to the US Army Disney
World is the largest buyer and importer of explosives in the USA I was wondering
what Mickey needed nukes for before I remembered fireworks exist
Story five if you live in the USA you have better odds of dating Taylor Swift
than dying of bird flu and Ebola can bind story six the man who invented the
Frisbee was cremated and turned into a frisbee
Story 7. the Titanic had two sister ships the Britannic and the Olympic
there was a woman called Violet Jessup a
nurse and a cruise liner stewardess that worked on all three the Olympic crashed
into a warship whilst leaving Harbor but was able to make it back he was on the
Titanic as it sank and is referenced in the Titanic film Mr stewardess was told
to set an example to the non-english speaking passengers of the ship's sink
she looked after her baby in Lifeboat sixty until being rescued by the
capacity of the next day it's not known what exactly caused the sinking of the
Britannic but the lifeboats hit the water too early as the ship sank the
rear listed up in a number of the lifeboats were sucked into the
propellers Violet had to jump out of the Lifeboat she was in and sustained a
serious head injury but survived she was on board for all three incidents in the
space of five years she went back to continue to work at sea for another 30
years before retiring in 1950. she died of heart failure in 71 after hitting the
iceberg it took 2 hours and 40 minutes for the Titanic to fully submerge
underwater finally some actual sink and facts
story eight dozens of Americans lose their lives every day from slipping in
the shower and hitting their heads dozens I tell you it's one of the
primary leading causes of non-medical deaths in the USA
story nine here are a few food facts that make chocolate milk from milk that
isn't wide enough to be sold as plain milk also many foods from ground beef to
orange juice would be great by the time they hit the market they were intended
to make it more appealing to Consumers pineapple takes two years to grow but 40
of the world's food is wasted and a lot of that is before it even hits the
shelves Fruit Loops are all the same flavor vending machines have more people
than sharks why would vending machines go around killing sharks anyway and why
haven't you liked the video and subscribe to the channel yet unless you
have then thanks story 10. here are some random life
facts you don't remember being born in most of the first years of your
existence all you know is one day you just started existing and talking and
experience or memories if you choose not
to have children you're the first person
in your direct ancestry all the way back to the first humans related to you to
not have children it would also be the first organism in your life not to
reproduce all the way back to the very first organism four billion or so years
ago your computer is much more likely to contract a virus by surfing legitimate
Church sites than by surfing adult sites adult sites generally have experts
combating viral stuff all Church sites are maintained by lower Tech volunteers
as a rule if you have clean water and temperature control you're better off
than half the population the overwhelming majority of hands you've
touched have had a pecker in them at one
point at one point in your life you were the youngest person on the planet
congratulations we are arguably in the middle of the sixth math Extinction
event on Earth the last ending of the dinosaurs current estimates run that 50
of species on Earth will be extinct by 2050. sorry for the downer but it
doesn't threaten life on Earth as we understand it let that sink in if you
have two legs you have more than the average amount of legs literally only
one person would need to lose a leg to have this happen here are the average
hours of minimum wage work needed to pay for four years of public college for
Baby Boomers 306 Millennials 4 459. in 2010 around 300 people had as much
wealth as the bottom 50 of humanity it's estimated that as of January 2017 that
number is now the same amount of people that can fit into an extra large Golf
Cart Eight we can't prove we aren't in a simulation to explain this a little
further for those curious if we reach a stage where we are capable of creating
simulations with this degree of sophistication then we could run a vast
number of them if each computer could run multiple versions and even a small
number of computers were set up to do So eventually at least some of the
simulations would develop until the simulated people could run simulations
of their own then the simulated squared people could run simulations and so
forth and so on to Infinity so if there's one reality in potentially
infinite simulations then it is statistically improbable that we live in
reality which explains a lot about the last year or so about a million people
die every year from mosquito bites that's 2700 per day or 100 every hour
think about how many must have died since you started watching this video if
you take into account the fact that on average people's sleep or should sleep
eight hours a day if and when you get 99 years of age you will have only been
awake for 66 years having spent 33 years of your life sleeping every subsequent
year of your life makes up a smaller portion of it relative to your previous
Years of Living so at one year old a year is 100 of your life to 50 and so on
that's why time feels like it passes more quickly the older we get 700
million people about 10 percent of the world's population live on less than
what two dollars a day would buy you in the United States if you earn more than
thirty two thousand four hundred dollars a year you earn the top one percent of
the world's income that's after adjusting for local prices a donation to
the most effective charity on givewell means you will save one life for every
around two thousand five hundred dollars
donated there are over 100 million sperm cells in each release human ovaries
contain about 2 million excels each of these cells is unique chromosomes that
means at the moment of conception the chances that you end up up being you was
roughly 1 in 200 trillion but that's not even close to the end of the Staggering
probabilities your parents had to go through just the right set of chance
encounters say all the right things to the right people do all the right things
at the right time get together and do the deed at precisely the right time
just to have that one in 200 trillion chance to make you and if that doesn't
make the odds even worse in your favor just think your four grandparents eight
great-grandparents 16 great great grandparents 32 great great grandparents
and so on all the way back to before humans all the way back through the
various ages of the earth species to species all the way back to the origin
of sexual reproduction every organism in this multi-billion year chain had to
live their entire lives in precisely one particular way doing certain things at
certain times at the right time and then get millions of those one in 200
trillion roles right in a row just to make you you the fact that the person
you are today exists at all is staggering mind-blowingly improbable and
yet that same minuscule probability is the case for every single one of the
seven billion people living on Earth right now that is why when creationists
argue about odds in evolution they're committing a category error you and I
know that in my above statement the only two possible outcomes aren't either you
or you or no life exists on Earth at all
if your particular DNA combination never
happens somebody else's will the odds of
winning a lottery might be so small that all the experts say you shouldn't even
bother but somebody eventually will still win the lottery to being the top
one percent of Americans in terms of income you need to rake in about four
hundred thousand dollars a year rounded off to one thousand dollars a day really
just one thousand dollars oh hell yeah I only have 999 dollars to go today
Story 11. the US Navy has the second largest Air Force in the world
story 12 China used more Concrete in three years than the US used in the
entire 20th century well there are like four times more people in China than in
the US so story 13. you can put almost anything in
a container and ship it almost anywhere the whole world uses the same container
standard in any port in any boat story 14. here are some animal facts
lobsters don't die of old age taking into consideration that humanity is only
explored a small percentage of the ocean there could very well be big freaking
lobsters just chilling out there eduita the longest living animal ever was a
giant tortoise given to Clive of India who was born around 1750 and died in
2006. he existed longer than the United States has there are more Tigers
privately owned in Texas than tigers in the wild there are more chickens in
America than people in the planet cows more Americans than terrorists in most
years story 15 over the space of three days an
estimated 165 people survived both the Hiroshima and Nagasaki nuclear bomb
attacks satomi Yamaguchi is one of the more famous ones who was only two miles
from Ground Zero when the bomb was dropped in Hiroshima it hid when he was
walking to work on the last day of a work trip after he heard the Drone of a
plane he looked up at it and the sky lit up he was then plucked from the ground
spun around and tossed into a nearby potato field miraculously he survived
despite being covered in Burns soaked in
radiation and with two blown eardrums he spent tonight in an air shelter then
took an overnight sleeper train home to Nagasaki to see his family when he made
it to a hospital in Nagasaki he was so burned to childhood friend and recognize
him neither did his family despite his wounds he made it to work the next day
he started giving his boss a rundown on what happened and his boss thought he
was crazy there was no way one bomb could destroy his City suddenly a bright
light lit up the room he panicked and dropped to the floor of the office
seconds before the Shockwave smashed out the office Windows he had just been hit
twice by nuclear blast in the space of three days at the age of 93 he was given
the title nijiu hibakusha twice Bond person he died the following year so
next time you think you're having a bad week at work yeah
Story 16. the overall goal in golf is to play less golf
story 17. all that stuff you learn about in history class about civilizations
rising up and dying out about certain groups kicking off other groups and
taking over the lands that is still happening right now but I thought all of
that stopped when we stopped learning about it in history class
story 18. schizophrenia's hallucinations are shaped by culture Americans with
schizophrenia tend to have more paranoid
and harsher voices and hallucinations in India and Africa people with
schizophrenia tend to have more playful and positive voices
story 19 all six of the stars are friends negotiated two percent
syndication rights for the show Friends still make about a billion dollars a
yearly through reruns Hulu Etc all six friends collect a 20 million dollar
check annually yes that means David Schwimmer still gets 20 million dollars
a year for doing nothing so when you're alone in your one bedroom apartment
watching friends and snickering at how many of them are losers who haven't been
famous since there's a reason why they don't have to work ever again
story20 Norway and North Korea despite being on opposite sides of the globe are
only separated by one other country I hope you enjoyed the video and if you
made it this far I'm sure you'll also enjoy what are some very creepy facts
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AI t for telling my stepdaughter I don't care about her so I know the title is
bad but let me tell you the story so me 34 my husband is 39 and his daughter is
18 her mom has been off and on in his life comes in for a year and leaves for
at least 3 years I met her when she was nine I tried my best to get to know her
and be at least her friend but she just didn't want to mine we got married when
she was 12 and I asked her to be my bridesmaid she said no then went to her
dad saying that I didn't want her to be one so so in the end in the end she was
a bridesmaid which I was fine but she could have just said yes when I asked
her then after the wedding it didn't get bad but I still tried to create a bond
with her and she would only try to bond when she wanted something so a few
examples are when she wanted to learn how to do her hair makeup drive and
sometimes to go places I try to understand she's a teen and teens do
these things so don't let it get under your skin but about a year ago I stopped
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aita for no longer speaking to my mother after she ignored my wedding backstory
for context I 30m used to speak to my mom 63f basically every week just to
talk catch up on the week's events upcoming Stuff Etc prior to these events
we were on very good term we do not live
in the same city about 2 hours away from
one another so me and my now husband 32m had been together about a year and had
planned on eloping while on a trip to Colorado for his BFFs birthday trip that
we were invited on we live in Texas it would have only been four of us there me
husband his BFF and his BFF's GF I told my mom about these plans a couple months
ahead of time I knew she probably would have not liked it that she would not be
there but I told her we were planning on doing a huge friends and family wedding
SL vow renewal after a couple years so we could have time to save and have it
the way we wanted it to be she said she understood as it normally goes life
happens and the Colorado plans fell through so we pivoted our plans to
having a family only very small and for noral wedding at my husband's family's
house in Houston as it has a beautiful backyard and garden this would be 5
hours from where my husband and I lived in 6ish hours from where my mom and
family live I tell my mom of several weeks ahead as all the plans were made
very last minute a week before the wedding I send my mom the address and
talk about the plans of what will happen there she didn't really talk but I
assumed she was going to attend as she is my mother so I did not ask for
confirmation she was going well we know what they say about assuming and
obviously I should have gotten confirmation my husband and I took about
a week off from our jobs and got to Houston the day before the wedding to
help with the final setup and prep my aunt called me that day to tell me how
happy she was and apologizing again her and her husband couldn't be there her
husband had recently had KN surgery and couldn't do a long drive I thanked her
for the call and totally understood they were invited at the same time as my mom
at this point I had not heard from my mom but had been busy all day and didn't
get a chance to call her as she goes to bed usually usually around 700 p.m. at
this point I had a feeling she wasn't going to show next day day of the
wedding November 11th as my husband and I are getting ready to go to his parents
house my aunt same from the day before texted me to say congrats again the
wedding went smoothly ceremony was short and sweet food was delicious several of
us went to an escape room and then chilies for margarit afterwards all in
all a really good day but never heard from my mother I don't hear from my mom
till I text her Happy Thanksgiving on the day and she responds with the same
then the same thing on Christmas between those two times my brother messaged me
saying how disappointed he was in me for how I treated our mother in terms of my
wedding how I planned it to intentionally leave her out how I should
have known her car had been not working great so there was no way she could have
made the six-hour drive how she had some
recent large repairs in her house so she couldn't have afforded the trip either
how her and I were so close and now that
I am not talking to her I am selfish and making her miserable my response to him
was simp simple that I had been talking to her every week prior to my wedding so
there was no reason I would plan to intentionally leave her out how she is
in her 60s and if she was struggling then she should have been mature enough
to say something let alone say something about how she felt that she couldn't
make it to my wedding like my aunt had done that in hindsight if she had
mentioned any of the above things I easily could have rented her a car for a
couple days to make the trip and my husband would have gotten her a hotel
room where we were staying as he had a bunch of points with that hotel and so
she did not have to do all that driving in one day but she never brought up or
mentioned anything prior to so I didn't think about it as I was planning slash
coordinating everything for the wedding also that it was my wedding and how dare
either of them try to make it about them
and make me to be the bad person context I don't think my mom knows about this
exchange between my brother and I finally her birthday rolls around late
January and I decided to call her to say happy birthday and see what can be done
about us the conversation was very generic how have you been how's work
how's Zuko my dog she doesn't bring up anything about my husband or the wedding
generally I fill the conversation with talking and leading it but I don't this
time I let her say/ ask whatever she wants which involved a lot of awkward
silence finally I get tired of her not bringing up the wedding and say I have
to go as I was headed to work and say goodbye and I love you I can her in her
voice she had started crying as he responded back with the same and I hung
up yes I know I could have brought it up
but I am a prideful person and feel that
she is the one that messed up and caused
this situation so she should bring it up
my aunt feels I should just patch things
up be the bigger person and move on I am fine with moving on but I do not feel I
should have to patch things up as I didn't cause the issue all I did was get
married to the person I am happy to spend the rest of my life and after with
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