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hello everybody hope you're all doing well my name is steven and this is the
story time channel today we've got some i don't work here
lady stories and our first story of the day is by miss slasher wolf
the time i got a karen arrested and banned from all walmarts
note walmart employees wear dark blue shirts and khaki bottoms
i was wearing a dark blue t-shirt in jean capris
but i was wearing my company lanyard id op last name it supervisor company x
i was born with poliosis it was spotty at first but i'm 21 and almost all my
hair is white and i keep my hair real short because it gets in my way too much
i was browsing the aisles wanting to enjoy my day off tomorrow from work at
company x and i wanted an almost spa day i go to
lotions and i reached to grab one i believed i would like
and as soon as i touch it a crash on the other side of the shelving causes
several bottles of lotion to come crashing down on me
i was relatively fine except a bottle hit my temple
not so pain relieving after all i chuckled to myself
because it was how i was raised i go over to the other side to see if
everyone is all right and everyone was apparently a kid took
his parents cart and was running down the other side
and accidentally hooked a hard left crashing into the shelves
his parents come check him say apologies and scold him
he looked about ten i laugh it off saying how i will survive being attacked
by lotion i say i'm op and i tell the kid to be a bit more careful
and we fist bomb they laugh and say sorry again and continue shopping
i walk back to my cart and start picking up the bottles and place them in their
designated areas i keep up on social media enough to know what's trending
i read stories like these but never thought i could live it
i am almost finished putting the bottles back and i hear it
the unmistakable warning noise of a wild karen ahem i look over my shoulder and
there she is the biggest threat to employees and managers all over the world
she has a look on her face like someone just farted as soon as she sees me
she stomps her foot and i get images of a bull ready to charge
i brace myself um hello do you need something it's about during
time you noticed me i've been standing here forever now that
you're done stocking that shelf you need to help me with my list
i stand there shocked and confused i regained myself
ma'am but i don't work here there was an accident
she cuts me off don't lie to me i know you work here
you're just being lazy and don't want to well too bad
you either help me or i will have you fired she all but yells in my face
i stagger back a little now i'm not an outwardly confrontational person but i
will defend myself i speak calmly no i will not i just told
you i do not work here and i will not be helping you i work at company
x she is having none of it she turns red and starts yelling profanities in my
face and demands i help her when i go to step away again she grabs
my arm near my elbow and swings me into the lotion shelf
where some bottles fall again and a broken roll back tag cuts my neck
in a desperate attempt to get her away from me i push her and she falls down
how dare you put your hands on me i want your manager
now before i could respond the parents and kids came over after being a couple
aisles over and recognizing my voice from earlier
at this time karen and i are both on the floor she is holding her arm
and i'm holding my neck and i hold my neck and feel blood
dripping from my hand the parents instantly come to me and ask if i'm all
right and send the kid to go fetch an actual
employee not a minute later kid comes back with two employees
one comes to assist me and the other to karen who by the way is screaming and
fake crying saying she'll sue me in the store and demands to talk to someone in
charge by now this has formed a large crowd
around the area and a couple employees are trying to clear them away
cops have been in the area and were there the manager and police goes over
to karen first and asks her what happened i was trying to ask for help when your
employee assaulted me and tells me to freak off i try to defend myself this time
karen is cut off by the parents parent one says karen is lying we heard
everything she was demanding that op help her with
her list karen still demands i be fired and that she wants to press
charges the police tells the parent to be quiet and comes over to me and puts
handcuffs on me and starts reading me my rights i begin to panic i've never been
in trouble with the law before cameron has a smug smirk thinking she
won my saving grace is the manager the manager says to karen ma'am
she doesn't work here and then to the officer before you do that we should
review the cctv and see what happened at this point it's
a little fuzzy because i started a full panic attack and it causes an asthma
attack i was wheezing and shaking i try to point to my bag and parent one
instantly goes in and finds my inhaler all the while people were asking if i
was okay and karen was screaming i was faking and should be arrested
by the time i was calm enough to be more aware of around me
parent one tells me that the police and manager looked at the footage
of our aisle and can confirm karen was the one who assaulted me
first and when no one was looking she tried to make a run for it
only to have a kid push a cart at her and make her fall face
first onto concrete of course he was scolded in front of everyone but
i know he was rewarded later an ambulance was called and looked over the
gash on my neck and said i was okay but should see a doctor
the officer apologized and asked if i wanted to press charges
i of course said yes a couple days later i'm back at walmart and i run into
parent two and kid they tell me how after i left to the
hospital that karen was arrested and put on a ban list
nationwide with her name and picture i took her to court and she paid for my
hospital visit and for emotional damage she ended up in jail for two to three
years for previous issues the manager also caught where i was
clipped in the head with the lotion he gave me 350 dollars in gift cards and
a card where i can get one item a month for under 50 bucks for free as an
apology for everything i said it was too much but after the
upper management saw what happened they believed i am too much of a
valuable customer to let this slide i think it's so bad continued to use that
walmart instead of other stores in the area
i also got a week paid off from work who knew one karen can do so much
so after reading this story i do have a few concerns over the legitimacy of this
story the parents always conveniently being there the cops are resting when
somebody's neck was bleeding without actually checking any information
the flood of gift cards and a specialty gift card
and the ambulance checking them over saying they should see a doctor
but then not taking them in so my question for you guys is
do you think this story is plausible could it have happened would you believe
it to be true let me know yes or no and why in the
comments down below our next stories by tank boss killer
can i get a wait a minute this won't be long but i hope you enjoy
but first understand this i live in north carolina and there's a lot of
commercial area i'm talking gas station next to gas station next to gas station
the amount of businesses smashed so close together is
amazing now to the story at the time i'm 14 and like any other 14 year old
they get a sucky retail or fast food job
i was working at a mcdonald's that leads to a highway
so there's a lot of passing traffic across is a grocery store and a gas station
it was an all-in-one traffic pack two-lane road
you could get gas walk over for a burger then head to the store for ice cream
it was awesome one day during my lunch i decided to head to the grocery store
across the road and grab a bottle of water and a burrito
while i was searching for the holy burrito i heard the worst thing you
could hear in a grocery store a throat clearing
i thought to myself some poor employee was going to be harassed
then i heard it again i turned around hello karen we will call her ak for
annoying karen yes where are the tomatoes they're over there
i pointed good go fetch some for me um what now i'm wearing a red shirt black
jeans and a vest with a mcdonald's logo you heard me give me some tomatoes you
do work here after all uh no i don't and even if i did i doubt
anyone would bring you your precious tomatoes
she started to track down a manager i found and paid for my items and went
back across the street and you will never guess what happened next well
it's a karen you probably do i was on the drive through
and not even five minutes later i hear that same voice
hello welcome to mcdonald's how can i help you i said in a joyful manner
hoping she would catch on nope can i get a type of burger i don't remember
that'll be price pulled to the first window annoying karen looks at me
surprised pikachu face but but you work over
i say price please she hands me the cash and goes to the next window
i rush to the next window because i could not let this
opportunity pass i tell the dude to the other window to let me do this
by now i have a crowd i smirk here you go
have a nice day she is annoyed and spins her tires
out of the lot funny part is she forgot her burger and never came back for it
what i really like about this story is opie was able to annoy the karen
way more than the annoying karen was able to annoy op
the only thing they bothered them with was asking them to grab their tomatoes
and then they went off looking for a manager and they got out of there fast
enough and they were able to just annoy them
tenfold when they pulled through the mcdonald's drive-through
this next story is by a gatekeeper 101 do you think
me and the baby work here it was your typical day in our local big box store
taking my daughter three and a half months down for her visit to my wife
her mom cast crafty is the crafts lady clueless is clueless lady me is
you know the drill little one is little one my adorable daughter
you get it wifey is fantastic wife fantastic mom
boss manager i have to preface this that i had worked in this big box store that
rhymes with malwart but it had been a couple years at least
me and my daughter had entered the store and were waiting on my wife so we could
do the daily visit for our little one so she would stop her anxiety screams
i was standing with a diaper bag on one shoulder and a front styled baby carrier
on with you guessed it a baby in it this clueless
lady was shopping in the department i was in walking to try to find something
in it she had seen me with my little one and had commented she looked cute well
after a couple minutes wifey came to get her bundle of joy
and cuddle her and walked off with her i am standing there decked out and said
baby gear still and she turns to look at me not wearing
the trademarked vest or name tag we all know
and clueless starts asking if i knew where something was
saying you work here where is insert item that i do not remember
i looked at her for a moment questioning how she thought i could work there
it had been years since i had and i had never seen this lady before
well i answer her with an i do not work here and i do not know
not long after an actual associate comes and helps her
well a few minutes go by and wifey still
has our little one so i am still waiting this little older lady comes up pushing
this card full of party things craft items and various other goods
she looks at the aisles in the department and sees me standing there
with baby gear still she asks do you know where the gift bags are
i answer that they are back between the crafts department and the infant
department the store has changed a little since i
left but i still shop there enough and it has not changed too much crafts
lady looks at me and says oh they are i was just back there can't you tell
before giving me another once over finally noticing said baby carrier and
diaper bag then she adds you don't work here do you
and i reply with her nope i do not used to but i still know the store well
craftslady thanked me for my time still and slowly turned her heavy cart around
i know this sub is full of crazy stories and i know this isn't the most exciting
but i still found it hilarious that a patterned
very obvious diaper bag with an owl on it
and a very obvious baby carrier somehow were completely avoided before they
asked me i'm actually not very sure how they could get it confused
my only thought is maybe the empty baby carrier looks like some kind of weird
employee vest thing i don't know it's really quite odd to me the first
lady that saw you with a baby has no excuse though
this next story is by filthy rags mi i used to work here and i'm helping an
older customer i used to work at a big box home
improvement store wearing an apron for about nine months when i was in between
contracting jobs many years ago i enjoyed it the store manager and
assistant managers were great i got checked out on all the equipment
so i got to play with machinery and the customers genuinely seem to be
appreciative of the help slash customer service we gave them
our store manager was very big on helping a customer the best you can
until you can't then you find an associate who could and you don't
abandon the customer because you will learn
something we had a very eclectic mix of customers
we had everyone from professional construction contractors
to stay-at-home moms single parents engineers and senior citizens
for some reason the senior citizens always responded well to me
and i got to know several of them by name and we would chat and they would
leave with a smile so one day several years after i left
the store i was at the store buying some stuff for my own use
when one of the older gentlemen and his wife who i used to help frequently
taps me on the shoulder he commented that he hadn't seen me in a long while
and that they both missed me at the store he mentioned he had a hard time
finding something and i told him i knew exactly where it was because i just
walked by it i walked with my old friends over to the
isle and showed them exactly where it was and he and his wife thanked me as they
always did and they went on their merry way
another younger guy overheard us talking and he asked me if i might know where
specific drill bit x was located i said that i did and since it was on the way
to the cashiers i could show him exactly where it was
well since this was a saturday morning and the store was busy
a couple more people asked for similar things as well
i was in a good mood in building good karma so i figured
why not let's up a bit well it didn't last long
some leading an apron looking like she was in charge decided that i must be
up to something was actually going to make it to the register this time
she pounced the lady in the apron said sir i have to insist you stop helping my
customers sure thing didn't know i was causing a problem i'm on my way out
sir i said you need to stop now yes not a problem i am headed to the register
now sir you don't work here you can't be helping customers
ma'am i am trying to go pay for my items i have done nothing but agree with you
is there a problem that i am not aware of you don't work here why would you help
my customers that is just creepy ma'am i used to work here when former
manager was here i shop here frequently and i see some old customers
i don't understand what the problem is but you can go right ahead and put those
items i was about to buy back in their locations add that i
walked out the door and i now drive an extra 10 minutes to go shop at a
different location of the companies i just couldn't
understand what her problem was if you're at a home depot or a lowe's or
anything like that if somebody is there helping you decide on what drill bit or
what paint or what materials you need what's the problem with that yeah
they're not an employee and of course you take it with
a grain of salt as it's just another random person
but i don't think it's creepy to help another person out on deciding what
materials or tools are right for them what's creepy about that
it would be creepy if they were posing as a member of staff
but i'm assuming op probably presented it as they are not
a member of staff or i hope that was a clarification made
and the final story of the day is by fat dog nonce he thought i worked there
i thought he was disabled i work in construction and sometimes i don't
change on my commute home anyway i finished a late shift and it
must have been about 7 30 pm and i'm waiting on a pretty
deserted plant form for a train home when a short bespeckled portly gentleman
walks slash waddles over me and informs me the machine is taking my money
i thought that maybe he was autistic or suffering some learning disabilities so
i followed him to the vending machine that had swallowed up his money he asked
me what we should do and since i didn't know
we both started shaking it from side to side until a couple of bags of m
ms fell out he handed me a pack which i thought was a nice gesture
and we said our goodbyes you helped me way more than the guys up there
was the last thing he said to me i didn't think much of it
wished him a good evening and got on my train thinking i had done a good deed
on my way home i realized i was wearing the same orange overalls as the railway
staff and he probably wasn't autistic just
genuinely thought i worked there those are the kinds of realizations that often
come to you when you're laying down trying to sleep and you need some sleep
desperately and all that pops into your brain are those flickers of memories and
realizations where you're like wait i'm dumb this guy just
thought i worked there because i had the vest on
and then you end up wasting another half an hour thinking about what you should
have done or what you could have done or what you would have done
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As the cops left the hall, with Jane in cuffs,
and some other people from the wedding in tow,
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I let out an ultra wide grin from ear to ear as
our eyes met. Deep down I know that my comeback,
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seemed, was definitely worth it. :24.540 --> :31.140
Our story starts way back, when we(Me: Max And
Her: Jane) both were in High-school, we were in
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what you would call the group of nerds back in
High-school. Jane was 15 at the time and I had
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just turned 16. We both have had cases of each of
us having our fair share of bullying by Diana (the
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Captain of the Cheerleading squad), her group of
girls, her boyfriend(Joel), his group of guys too,
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and some other groups that deemed it necessary
to randomly bully “The Nerds’ whenever they felt
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like they were having a bad day or actually had
one. The situation behind our relationship was
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still through the same bullying we were going
through at that time, she was being picked on
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by the girls and I just decided to step in, not
that my stepping in helped in any way though, but
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from that incident, Diana and her girls went to
call on some guys that could “teach me a lesson’.
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After that incident, we both helped ourselves to
the infirmary as we got matching bandages. That
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was the start of our friendship. We helped each
other out when the other person was in need and we
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were always there for each other. One could even
say we were as close as partners, this was mainly
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because wherever you saw me, Jane wasn’t far away
and such was the case also with Jane, I guess this
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was what prompted and attracted more bullying to
us as Diana had this impulse to make sure either
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of the both of us had a terrible stay back then
In school. I guess her plan and her unrelenting
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bullying failed as we still graduated High-school
together, and on the day of our graduation,
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I officially popped the question of whether she
would do me the honours of becoming my girlfriend,
:55.680 --> :01.020 I did this in front of the whole school
at our Graduation. Obviously she said yes,
:01.020 --> :05.700 because we were together for quite a while,
we both applied to major in different courses
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over at NYC, I choose robotics Engineering as
my major and she went into the performing arts
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as she had always had this passion for acting but
she felt it didn’t suit her and she almost tried
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to kill the pat of her that dreamt to become an
Actress, it took lots of convincing as she had
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originally planned to apply to study Law, I was
against it for 2 major reasons, the first was,
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she was actually thinking of killing her dream
just because she felt that she wasn’t good enough
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to venture into the world of performing arts. Deep
down I knew she had the passion for acting but she
:38.100 --> :42.480 just didn’t have the confidence so I decided
to give her that confidence boost she needed,
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and secondly, I didn’t want her to apply to study
Law mainly because she would take much longer
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to finish school as we had both planned to move
in together once we had graduated from College,
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I guess I was just being inpatient as I wanted
the both of us to quickly leave school as soon
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as possible. Fast forward a few weeks, we both
just received or letters of admission into NYC,
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we’ll mine came in 3 days earlier than hers but
still, I had not opened it until she got her own,
:09.420 --> :13.920 and back then, we both had planned that when
the letters came in, if one person didn’t
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get admitted, the other person would forfeit the
admission and we both would go for another College
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as we knew the acceptance rate for NYC was one
of the lowest at the time. We got our papers and
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we exchanged envelopes. The time came to open
up the letters and we both were freaking out,
:30.420 --> :35.760 but I stepped up and opened hers first while
she opened mine. We hugged and shouted while
:35.760 --> :41.040 jumping around, “ We got in, we got in, we
got in”. It seemed like a dream at the time
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because what were the odds that we would both
get admitted at the College of our choice,
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Everything seemed to be going very fine, it
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felt like the Universe was finally showing us the
light at the end of the tunnel. All the horrible
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times we had gone through back in High-school
were all in the past now as we both sought
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Fast forward a few months later we were both
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getting ourselves ready to leave home, it just so
happens that that very day was our anniversary and
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I decided to plan out a surprise for her when we
had both gotten into our dorms. The ride to New
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all depending on how the traffic was at the
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time. We got into our dorms in the evening time
and I called her out to take a stroll with me
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around our school campus. While we were walking
under the campus street lights, I we stopped at
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one of the relaxation spots and I told her to
close her eyes, I went behind her and put a
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necklace around her neck and a bracelet on her
wrists. When she opened her eyes I told her to
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put the matching pair I had gotten for myself
around my neck also. I had gotten a fully gold
:47.304 --> :52.860 plated necklace and a bracelet for her and a
silver one for myself, She said it was the best
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gift I had ever given her and the best gift she
had ever received, I was glad to have made this
:58.320 --> :04.680 particular anniversary a memorable one for her.
Fast forward a few weeks later, 29th July, 2013,
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on this very day, we had our first ever couples
fight, but something was definitely different,
:11.640 --> :16.980 sure I had expected that at one point in our
relationship we were going to have a fight one
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way or the other, but I just didn’t know when it
was going to happen, how it was going to happen
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and what we were going to do during and after the
fight. This particular fight sprung up from my
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own path, in a way I guess my excessive show of
affection was interpreted differently for on my
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own path it just seemed to me like I was showing
excessive care leading almost to a controlling
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nature, while on her path, it just seems like I
was flat out controlling and being with her the
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longest I know that’s thing she needs, mainly
because she had a controlling mother growing
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had realised. Our fight wasn’t too intense,
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so my original thoughts were to give her enough
time to cool herself down and get her thoughts
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together then I’d head on over to her place and
apologise, because by the end of that day I had
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already realised my mistake and I was already
willing and ready to apologise but it seemed like
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she wasn’t ready to hear anything I had to say
that night. The wait was a long one, I relieved
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the silent treatment both physically and online.
This went on for about a week until I decided to
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man up and talk to her personally. I started of
by calling her number, countless tines at that,
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voicemail, there on I called one of her roommates,
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Emily, who told me that she wasn’t around, and
that she hasn’t been around for the entire day,
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but she would help me reach out to Jane. I got a
call from Emily a few minutes after I had hung up,
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she said she can only tell me at that time, that
Jane was indeed in their room. So I picked up my
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jacket, because it was a really cold night, and
I hurried on over to her place. When I got there,
:51.660 --> :56.760 I saw another pair of shoes outside her
Dorms door. I initially paid it no attention,
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I just knocked on the door hoping to at least get
a response. A different guy, a little bit shorter
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than I am, looked around my age at the time, was
a bit “jacked” came to get the door, he asked who
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I was looking for ad I responded, “ I’m here for
Jane, but that aside who are you and what are you
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doing here, JAYY...JAYY” I Yelled as I tried to
force my way in, he blocked me effortlessly but
:19.680 --> :24.840 the light in the room was still on and I saw
her leaving her bed hurriedly all while trying
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to use her blanket to cover herself up. It was her
everything started to fall into place in my mind.
:30.720 --> :36.120 The shoes outside, the guy at the door, her
roommate, Emily, telling me om the phone that
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all she can tell me is that Jane is home and I
should head there by myself. I started to feel
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light headed, I felt the tears starting to form
underneath my eyelids. The only thing that could
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come out of my mouth at the time was the only
question on my mind at the time ...”WHYY...WHYYYY
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JAY???” I asked as the tears were already rolling
down my eyes. At this point it seemed like she
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didn’t care anymore whether or not I was going
to accept what she had to say or what lie she
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had to concoct, but at that moment, she looked me
in my eye and said one of the most heart breaking
:08.160 --> :13.800 things I’ve ever herd in my life to my face.
I’ve chosen to erase that memory from my mind,
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mainly because after that day, what she said to me
kept om resonating in my memory over and over and
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over again. We had a brief argument there at the
door, a very brief argument and I left her Dorm.
:26.580 --> :31.200 I remember crying my eyes out that night and
every other night for the reminder of the month,
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but then we were approaching exam period, and I
knew what I was in college for at the time, so I
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tried to put all personal problems aside and focus
at the time. It would only be after our exams that
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I would receive a text from Jane asking to talk,.
Initially I had planned not to have any form of
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relation with Jane of any sorts, but deep down
I knew I needed clearance and conclusion, so I
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agreed to meet her. She set the time for mid day,
at a coffee shop just a few blocks from both our
:58.980 --> :03.900
dorms. I went there an hour late , mainly because
I couldn’t be arsed to adhere to the time she had
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set. I met her sitting at one of the corner tables
and I went over to join her. She had already
:08.940 --> :13.920
ordered coffee for the both of us, even though
she knows that I don’t handle coffee all too well.
:13.920 --> :20.040
We basically talked for a while mainly about how
we both have been, how the past exam was for the
:20.040 --> :25.680
both of us. And then I decided to cut to the chase
and ask her the main reason as to why she had
:25.680 --> :31.260
decided to call on me after all these time. She
tried to explain herself In whatever embarrassing
:31.260 --> :37.860
way she could, which to an outside person would
seem fine but to me, it was just lacklustre,
:37.860 --> :43.800
and I saw it as a futile attempt at her trying to
provide justifications for what she had done and
:43.800 --> :49.260
what she had said. A lot was said that afternoon,
because we talked up until evening. But the final
:49.260 --> :54.060
conclusion of our talks that day was that we were
gonna be broken up. I don’t know whether or not
:54.060 --> :59.520
she expected me to feel bad, because I actually
did, but I tried my possible best to appear
:59.520 --> :05.340
nonchalant about the outcome and just told her
to be good as I left for my Dorm. They say you
:05.340 --> :10.260
never forget your first, such was the case for
me, but I guess my case was a bit different,
:10.260 --> :15.900 because I didn’t forget her because I loved
her too much, I didn’t forget her because I
:15.900 --> :21.000
was hoping an opportunity would present itself
for me to level the playing field with her. :21.000 --> :26.520
Now fast forward to 6 months ago, we both had
already graduated College, and we lost contact
:26.520 --> :31.740
with each other. We’ll technically I lost contact
with her but I guess she still had my contact
:31.740 --> :37.920 because I received an Email, it contained a
wedding invitation and to my greatest surprise it
:37.920 --> :43.740
was from Jane. “Jay is getting married?” I said to
myself . This seemed like the perfect opportunity,
:43.740 --> :48.480 presenting itself before me. I thought
to myself “Come on, you have 6 months, :48.480 --> :53.520
let’s come up with a way to make this wedding one
she would never forget”. I looked up the name of
:53.520 --> :59.100
the guy she was getting married to and began to
prepare for my epic comeback. I found out that
:59.100 --> :03.360
the guy was in a long term relationship prior
to meeting Jane and this seemed like something
:03.360 --> :09.300
I could use to my advantage. I contacted him a few
weeks to their D-day and I basically just told him
:09.300 --> :14.220
about her relationship with me but with a minor
addition. I told him that we both had similar
:14.220 --> :20.220
relationships with Jane and that he should not let
his guard down, mainly because we ( Jane and I),
:20.220 --> :25.440 were om the verge of getting married but she
left me waiting on the Alter as she went off
:25.440 --> :30.240
with another man. I told him this was years back
and that I had not seen her ever since then,
:30.240 --> :35.040
and that when I heard she was getting married,
I wanted to come and warn whoever it was she was
:35.040 --> :40.440 getting married to, to be wary of her. He
sympathised with me as he couldn’t believe
:40.440 --> :46.080
what I was telling him. To make my story even more
believable I told him that we were together since
:46.080 --> :51.120
we’re little, and i proceeded to show him pictures
of Jane and myself, when we were in High-school,
:51.120 --> :57.360
up until the last picture we took, a few days
after our anniversary. He was dumbfounded. He
:57.360 --> :02.580
had no choice but to believe me, and then we made
plans on how we were going to pay her back I her
:02.580 --> :08.100
own coin. I was a but surprised he was willing to
help me out, owing to the fact that this is the
:08.100 --> :13.200
woman he is about to get married to. But what
can I say, I make a pretty convincing point. :13.200 --> :18.120
On the day of their wedding we decided to play out
what I told him had transpired between the both
:18.120 --> :25.260
of us a few years back, he left her at the Alter
for more than 3 hours as she kept on bombing his
:25.260 --> :30.840
phone with calls, and then I told him what to do
next, he sent a text that sent her into a frenzy
:30.840 --> :37.620
as she was not even heartbroken but furious, like
fury leading to destruction. She went on a rampage
:37.620 --> :42.420 on her wedding day and started destroying
everything, from the cakes to the decor,
:42.420 --> :47.340
it got so bad that the cops had to be involved.
When they came they took her in cuffs and were
:47.340 --> :51.960
taking her to the station. While she was being
put in the vehicle, we both stood by the window
:51.960 --> :58.200 and waved her goodbye, thus was when I saw
the fire in her eyes go out. I just knew by
:58.200 --> :03.900
this time that my comeback was done. I smiled the
whole time on my way home as I had this feeling
:03.900 --> :09.240
of a job well done. She was later released from
the police custody that night and tried calling
:09.240 --> :15.120 mine and her ex-fiancé phone one last time
before she gave up and disappeared for good. :39.780 --> :44.700
People all around like to call me old school
or traditional. While this is kinda true,
:44.700 --> :49.680
I like to think that I’m just a bit set in my
ways. I’ve been going to the same gym since I
:49.680 --> :54.780
moved away from my parents place and to my shared
apartment close to campus. Even when my roommate
:54.780 --> :00.000
told me about this other gym that is apparently
the rage among other students. I didn’t even stop
:00.000 --> :04.440
to give it a thought. I didn’t change Gyms. I’ve
also been eating from the same restaurant since
:04.440 --> :10.200
the second semester of my freshman year. Their
food meets my standards and I see no reason to
:10.200 --> :14.580
change. I don’t like what I don’t like and there
isn’t a lot of people that make me make a change
:14.580 --> :19.500
about something. One of the reasos why I don’t
like change is because most of the time I try it,
:19.500 --> :24.720
I end up getting hurt. One of such times was when
I decided to date a guy with a female best friend.
:24.720 --> :31.560
I have to say. It was my fault. I knew better.
It’s very difficult. Almost impossible even for
:31.560 --> :36.780 a guy and a girl to be purely platonic. Most
times, these relationships work out when either
:36.780 --> :42.600 of them is gay. But two straight people in a
platonic relationship? Please. At one point,
:42.600 --> :47.700
one of them would start having the hots for the
other person, or they might decide to spice up the
:47.700 --> :52.560
dynamics of their relationship, maybe switch it
up friends with benefits. But when this happens,
:52.560 --> :58.800
it’s often difficult to revert to being platonic
when one of them is in a relationship. This is the
:58.800 --> :03.780 case with my boyfriend Luke and his female
best friend Kayla. But before I proceed,
:03.780 --> :08.280 let’s back up a little. Let me begin from
the day I was unlucky enough to meet Luke. :08.280 --> :13.080
It was the end of sophomore year summer break, and
I was in the airport terminal with my roommate,
:13.080 --> :17.940
Gwen, and her friends. We were coming back from
her parent’s beach house. That was where we spent
:17.940 --> :22.800 the major part of the holiday. We got to the
terminal a bit late because we had a crazy party
:22.800 --> :27.720
the night before and we all woke up really late.
When we got to the airport, we discovered that
:27.720 --> :32.760
there has been a delay due to some weather issues
and all planes were grounded for the next hour.
:32.760 --> :38.220
We all sat at the waiting lounge and talked about
some cute boys we met at the beach. Gwen’s friend,
:38.220 --> :43.020 Rossi, hooked up with some guy from Harvard
law and she just can’t stop talking about
:43.020 --> :48.900
how good he was. At one point, the wait became
too tiring and the lounge area was filled with
:48.900 --> :54.420
people talking and laughing. Babies were crying
from every corner, and it seemed like I was going
:54.420 --> :59.700 insane. I reached into my jacket pocket and
pulled out my airpod case. I had forgotten
:59.700 --> :04.380
that I tucked my boarding pass in the same jacket
pocket and so as soon as I pulled out the case,
:04.380 --> :09.960
the pass flew out from my pocket. I tried to catch
it mid air, but i couldn’t. It just kept floating
:09.960 --> :14.700
out of my reach. It was a funny sight really,
because I had to stand up from my seat and chase
:14.700 --> :20.040
after the pass. That was when the craziest thing
happened. I wasn’t looking at where I was going,
:20.040 --> :25.800 so I tripped over some guy’s duffel bag. I
couldn’t control myself on time, so I landed flat
:25.800 --> :31.740
on my face. Wanna hear the even crazier thing? As
soon as I fell to the ground, the boarding pass
:31.740 --> :37.500
dropped to the ground a few feets away from me. It
was as though the pass was controlled by some evil
:37.500 --> :43.560
spirit whose end game was to humiliate me. A light
chuckle sounded from behind me as I try to get up.
:43.560 --> :49.500
It made the humiliation sink in and for a moment,
I want to stay that way and not look up at all.
:49.500 --> :54.780
Just then, a strong hand reached out to me and I
raised my gaze to look at the guy in front of me.
:54.780 --> :02.760
By god, I was properly shocked. He was… beautiful.
Blonde hair, bright blue eyes, chiseled chin,
:02.760 --> :09.360
the works. Even his frame was something else.
I know this sounds so cheesy, but for a moment,
:09.360 --> :15.120
I actually asked myself if he was an angel or
something. He asked if I needed help and before I
:15.120 --> :21.060
even said anything, I took his hand and he pulled
me up like I weighed nothing. This guy was dreamy,
:21.060 --> :26.580
and he while he spoke, I was busy oogling his
body. I only heard a fraction of what he said
:26.580 --> :31.560 which was very embarassing when he tapped
my shouders to snap me back to attention.
:31.560 --> :36.720 He apologized for leaving the bag in the way
and asked if I was hurt anywhere. I said no,
:36.720 --> :41.400
even though my palm had scraped the ground and was
starting to hurt. He picked up my boarding pass,
:41.400 --> :47.040
which i had momentarily forgotten was still lying
on the ground, and handed it to me. He apologized
:47.040 --> :51.960
one again and returned to his seat. That was when
I noticed the lady sitting beside him. She was
:51.960 --> :57.300
hot enough to be one of those models on the cover
of vogue. She was staring straight at me with an
:57.300 --> :02.700
expression I can only classify as amusement. She
wrapped her arms around his neck and they started
:02.700 --> :09.180
talking and chuckling in low whispers. My mood
soured immediately, because I thought she was
:09.180 --> :14.700
his girlfriend. I mean. They looked so close, and
anyone would have thought that. Besides, like I
:14.700 --> :20.640 said before, she was so pretty. How can I compete?
Anyways, i returned to my friends and after
:20.640 --> :25.680 teasing me for a few minutes about my fall,
the planes were finally ready to go. We all
:25.680 --> :30.300
boarded and while I was discussing with Gwen about
something, (I don’t really remember what we were
:30.300 --> :34.920
talking about now), the guy and his girlfriend
walked past me and took a seat a few seats in
:34.920 --> :41.160
front of me. He looked around and our eyes met. He
smiled and waved. That moment, I felt like I was
:41.160 --> :46.440
in high school again with butterflies and stuff.
I couldn’t even hide the smile on my lips, and
:46.440 --> :51.480
my friends teased me about it. A few hours later,
we were back in the city, and I had forgotten all
:51.480 --> :56.580
about the handsome guy from the plane. Gwen and I
did some redecoration in the apartment and we had
:56.580 --> :02.220
something like a girls night in where we watched
movies and ate pop corn. The next day, Rossi
:02.220 --> :07.200
invited us to a party hosted by a friend of hers.
Gwen wanted to go, but I wanted to start a new
:07.200 --> :12.120
season of the good doctor. Gwen made some really
good points about why I should come with her,
:12.120 --> :18.660
and eventually, I said yes. We went for the house
party and as soon as we got there, I regretted it
:18.660 --> :23.880
immediately. There were justtoo many people there.
I mean sure I attended a few parties during the
:23.880 --> :29.700
summer holiday, and even hosted our own, but I was
really hoping I’ll be able to rest and recharge
:29.700 --> :35.760
when I got back to school. But Gwen and Rossi had
other plans. A few minutes into the party, I was
:35.760 --> :40.800
already counting the time till I could leave. My
friends seemed to be enjoying themselves, and I
:40.800 --> :47.280
couldn’t ditch them, so I had to stay. Eventually,
I had enough. I just couldn’t stay in the crowded
:47.280 --> :53.220
room anymore so I stepped out to get some fresh
air. The balcony looked empty, so I decided to go
:53.220 --> :58.500
there and wait out the party, at least till they
decide to leave. Cup of untouched booze in hand,
:58.500 --> :04.440
I went to pass the time on the balcony. On getting
there, I discovered that it wasn’t as empty as I
:04.440 --> :09.660 expected. Some guy was seated in the corner,
nursing a drink and looking into the distance.
:09.660 --> :15.720 I apologized and was about to leave when he
turned to me. My eyes went wide as I stared
:15.720 --> :22.140
at him. It was the same guy from the airport.
He was also as surprised as I was. He said hi
:22.140 --> :27.840
and we started talking. He introduced himself as
Luke and he apologized one more time for dropping
:27.840 --> :33.660
his bag carelessly and making me trip over it. I
told him I had forgotten about that, which was a
:33.660 --> :39.300
big lie. It was still the most humiliating moment
of my life. Anyways, I learnt that he was a final
:39.300 --> :45.660
year student of Literature. He loves to write and
the only thing he enjoys more than that is reading
:45.660 --> :51.960
books. He was very smart and articulate. As he
spoke the only thing I could think of is how rare
:51.960 --> :58.740
it was to find a guy who is a combination of cute
and smart. I had fallen for him on that spot over
:58.740 --> :04.860
and over again, and spending the next few hours
with him was like paradise. I had even momentarily
:04.860 --> :10.200
forgotten that I was at a party. At least till
Rossi brought a drunk Gwen to me and told us
:10.200 --> :15.780
that it was time to go. I was disappointed, but
it’s not like I could stay there forever. I said
:15.780 --> :20.880
bye to Luke and started to leave, but he stood
up and asked for my contact, and then he asked
:20.880 --> :26.280
if we could hang out together sometime. There, I
remembered that he had a girlfriend, and it was
:26.280 --> :33.060
like a bucket of cold water was poured on my face.
I liked him already, but like I said, I was strict
:33.060 --> :37.500
with my rules. I told him I couldn’t go out with
him knowing fully well that he had a girlfriend.
:37.500 --> :43.680
He looked confused for a moment, then asked what
I was talking about. I told him about the lady I
:43.680 --> :48.780
saw him with at the airport and he remembered. He
told me she wasn’t his girlfriend, that she was
:48.780 --> :54.780
just his closest friend. I still wasn’t satisfied
with the answer, till he told me she was actually
:54.780 --> :00.840
in a relationship with a girl in his class. That
was when I felt relieved, and gave him my number.
:00.840 --> :06.240
He texted me when I got home and we set up a date.
We went to see a movie in the cinema, and we got
:06.240 --> :12.660
fries and milkshakes after. Luke was the sweetest
guy I’ve been with. He made me laugh, wrote me
:12.660 --> :19.440
poems and listened to me rant about constitutional
law. It was so easy to fall for him. That was why
:19.440 --> :25.020
when he told me to be his girlfriend, I didn’t
hesitate. A week after we started dating, I
:25.020 --> :30.180
realized that he had not introduced me to his best
friend who he talked about often. When I asked,
:30.180 --> :35.700
he said she just broke up with her girlfriend and
she wanted to be alone. I didn’t believe him one
:35.700 --> :41.820
bit. When a friend goes through a breakup, I think
that’s when his or her friends rally around him to
:41.820 --> :46.140
support him in that time of need. I asked him
this, and he said that she’s a private person
:46.140 --> :52.980
and that she wanted her space so he’s giving it
to her. It sounded so sus, so I decided to do my
:52.980 --> :57.480
research. One night when he crashed at my place,
I went through his phone and looked through his
:57.480 --> :02.040
contact for her number. (Her name is Kayla, by
the way). I got the number and picture from his
:02.040 --> :06.960
phone. The next day, I went to my friends, Gwen
and Rossi and sent them the picture and contact
:06.960 --> :13.320
details. They were well connected on campus, and
if I needed information on her, I'd get it. Within
:13.320 --> :18.780
a few days, they got back to me. Gwen told me
that Kayla was truly Luke’s friend, and they’re
:18.780 --> :23.280
very close. Some people actually think they’re
sleeping together because of their closeness,
:23.280 --> :29.520
but nothing has been proven. The part that shocked
me to my core was when she said that nobody knew
:29.520 --> :36.900
any girl she had dated in the past or currently
or what girl she broke up with. That meant that
:36.900 --> :43.320
Luke was lying about the whole girlfriend thing.
I couldn’t be sure, so I decided to continue my
:43.320 --> :48.780
investigation. The next time I went to sleepover
in his place, I made sure he was asleep and I
:48.780 --> :54.240
took his phone and looked through his chats. The
chats between him and Kayla had been deleted. Like
:54.240 --> :00.540 fully. It was clean. That wasn’t very smart.
If you wanted to hide something, at least do
:00.540 --> :05.820
a partial delete, so I wouldn’t notice. Now I
knew that something was up, but I still didn’t
:05.820 --> :11.640
want to jump into conclusions. Or maybe this was
me being in denial of what was looking to be true.
:11.640 --> :17.640
For a few days, anytime Luke said he wasn’t going
to be available, or he’s busy with stuff, I’d go
:17.640 --> :23.400
to his place and just hide in Gwen’s car outside
and watch what happens in his apartment, but days
:23.400 --> :29.820
passed and nothing happened. No “best friend”
or strange woman of any sort coming to visit
:29.820 --> :36.120
him. For a moment I was relieved. Maybe he wasn’t
actually cheating. But Gwen called my attention
:36.120 --> :41.820
to something. On most of those nights when he said
he’s going to be busy, he rarely came back to his
:41.820 --> :47.160
apartment, or when he did, it was usually late in
the night. That could only mean one thing. He’s
:47.160 --> :52.680
sleeping somewhere else and we’ve been watching
the wrong house. Rossi got Kayla’s house address,
:52.680 --> :58.800
and on the second day, we saw Luke’s car pull
up into her driveway. She came out of the car
:58.800 --> :04.860
and they both hugged and kissed. I tried to play
down how much it hurt me to see that, but inside,
:04.860 --> :10.620 it felt like my heart was being torn to bits
with a saw, and I didn’t know when I started to
:10.620 --> :16.620
cry lol. My friends consoled me for a few minutes
and Rossi decided that instead of crying, I should
:16.620 --> :22.200
focus my energy on getting back at him. It sounded
intriguing so I asked her what she had in mind.
:22.200 --> :28.260
She pointed to his car and ideas started to pop
in my head. We all drove to the nearest mall,
:28.260 --> :33.540
and bought as many packs of sugar as we could
find. I heard something about sugar messing up
:33.540 --> :38.640
the engine of a car, but I don’t know how true it
is. But all I know is that he’s going to have to
:38.640 --> :44.460
spend a lot of money repairing the car. We bought
the packs of sugar and ever so quietly went to the
:44.460 --> :50.040
driveway. We opened his fuel tank and poured in
the sugar till it’s filed to the brim. I have to
:50.040 --> :56.040
say, filling up a fuel tank with sugar is a lot
of work, and takes a lot of sugar. By the time
:56.040 --> :02.040
we were done, I felt better and we all went home.
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:09.010 --> :17.200 I've been working in IT for 15 years now, and I
:17.200 --> :20.110 have yet to find anything that tops this.
:20.110 --> :25.020 I work for a small shop, 3 employees, but
we service multiple companies in the area, :25.020 --> :27.740
a number of those companies being doctors’ offices.
:27.740 --> :32.230 At one of the doctors’ offices, we serviced
they had a policy when changing machines out :32.230 --> :37.600
for upgrades, that only relevant information
was transferred to new systems, and to remove :37.600 --> :42.330
anything you did not want IT to go through
on the machine before it was replaced. :42.330 --> :46.790
Confidential patient data was secured on the
servers and not on the local machines, so :46.790 --> :51.760
this was a way of purging unneeded old word
documents and cat memes that had been saved. :51.760 --> :55.590
It was also policy to ensure nothing that
there was nothing on these machines that should :55.590 --> :00.449
not be there like say using your work equipment for adult entertainment.
:00.449 --> :05.190 It was Dr. Johnson's turn to have his machine
upgraded to a brand new one after his old :05.190 --> :09.900
machine had been in service for about 3 years,
we informed him a week prior that we'd be :09.900 --> :15.040
changing his machine in a week and scheduled
to do so on a day when he was not in the office :15.040 --> :19.210
and sent him a copy of the Practice's policy for equipment changes.
:19.210 --> :24.680
In most cases there is nothing remotely interesting
or strange about doing these transfers, the :24.680 --> :29.250
most we noticed over the years was that people
seemed to collect a whole lot of garbage downloads :29.250 --> :33.780
from the internet that are not needed anymore
and some word and excel documents that were :33.780 --> :38.420
archived off to cold storage and not moved
to the new machines unless they had been accessed :38.420 --> :41.900
in the last 6 months unless requested otherwise. :41.900 --> :46.430
The day came for the transfer, I showed up
at the office started to get an idea of how :46.430 --> :48.330
much data we needed to move. :48.330 --> :53.340
As usual for most people in this office Dr.
Johnson left a post-it note on his keyboard :53.340 --> :57.410
saying he never had time to go through anything and for us to handle it.
:57.410 --> :03.340 I open file explorer, browse to his profile
path, right click it to find the folder size, :03.340 --> :07.940
347 GB of data, which seemed extreme. :07.940 --> :13.750
I started going checking the folders in the
profile, and 297 GB of this data was on the :13.750 --> :14.750
Desktop. :14.750 --> :20.900
I drill down further until I find the culprit,
a folder on the Desktop named "Fun Stuff", :20.900 --> :25.829
thinking it was the install for some game
or another I opened the folder, to this day :25.829 --> :27.430
I still wish I had not. :27.430 --> :34.819
I was greeted by several thousand high resolution
images of Dr. Johnson in his office, yanking :34.819 --> :35.819 it.
:35.819 --> :41.290 Oddly a number of these were also animated
and there were video files (I did not dare :41.290 --> :47.260
look at these) and even some bizarre shots
from under his desk, no pants and from the :47.260 --> :50.329
mirror behind him a possible patient in the room. :50.329 --> :54.459
I locked the screen and went to the head of
the practice to discuss what I had just found, :54.459 --> :58.950
who could not believe someone who was in the
process of becoming a partner in the practice :58.950 --> :01.840
would be doing this with company equipment. :01.840 --> :05.989
I showed him the images, to which he took
out his phone and called the other two partners :05.989 --> :07.650
into the office to come over. :07.650 --> :12.219
They thanked me, asked me to pull the machine
and not transfer anything, and to put the :12.219 --> :14.549
old computer in one of their offices. :14.549 --> :19.760
I installed the new machine (I got some medical
gloves before touching anything) setup all :19.760 --> :23.680
the applications and left the office for them to handle it internally.
:23.680 --> :28.700 The next day after Dr. Johnson had come back
to work, I guess things did not go over well :28.700 --> :30.799
with the others at the practice. :30.799 --> :35.629
He called our office, demanded he talk to
me and started to yell at me over the phone :35.629 --> :39.260
about what an invasion of his privacy I had committed.
:39.260 --> :43.370 That he planned to sue me personally over
it, that I had cost him his chance at becoming :43.370 --> :49.719
a partner at the practice, his position in
the practice, and apparently his wife because :49.719 --> :54.739
she was good friends with the wife of the
head of the office and I guess gossip happened. :54.739 --> :59.469
When he was done yelling, I asked him calmly
if he had anything else to say, I reminded :59.469 --> :04.590
him our office records all calls in and out, then asked him 3 questions:
:04.590 --> :09.629 Did he receive the email explaining the process
of replacing his machine per his own company :09.629 --> :14.519
policy, that we would be sorting relevant
and non-relevant data and anything he did :14.519 --> :18.260
not want us to see he would have to deal with on his own ahead of time?
:18.260 --> :22.490 (He had replied to this very email that he
would try and go through stuff if he found :22.490 --> :24.840
time) Answer: Yes :24.840 --> :29.720
Did he remember leaving the note on his keyboard
saying he didn't bother to do any cleanup :29.720 --> :31.480
and for us to do it? :31.480 --> :32.870 Answer: Yes
:32.870 --> :36.940 Which did he think would go over better, him
shutting up, dealing with the problems he :36.940 --> :42.920
created himself by being a disturbing person
to be a doctor, or trying to sue me personally :42.920 --> :48.350
for following his practice’s policy, and having all the details made public?
:48.350 --> :51.310 After I asked this question, he hung up the phone.
:51.310 --> :57.210 All the other doctors in the office started
to refer to him as Dr. Spanky or Dr. FeelGood. :57.210 --> :01.820
Last I heard they turned him in to the state
medical board and he lost his license to practice :01.820 --> :07.780
medicine, was divorced and was under a criminal
investigation with-in a few months of this :07.780 --> :08.780
happening. :08.780 --> :13.520
I lost track of it all when we distanced ourselves
from that medical practice for several unrelated :13.520 --> :18.670
reasons, mostly they loved to order things
and then try to take as long as possible to :18.670 --> :24.540
pay for them. :24.540 --> :04.140
I know there are plenty of this kind of :04.140 --> :08.630
stories here, but let me add my teaspoon to the conversational soup, too.
:08.630 --> :11.560 Not my story, but from a Farm Boss I used
to work with. :11.560 --> :14.270
It's a long read, because I didn't have enough time to make it shorter.
:14.270 --> :15.270 TL;DR at the end. :15.270 --> :21.010
Little House on the Prairie EU: A small farm,
in European Union, was applying for an EU :21.010 --> :24.070
agricultural subsidy for a storehouse. :24.070 --> :28.390
Big enough for storing a couple of farming
vehicles and odd bits of this and that, otherwise :28.390 --> :31.820
lying around the farm like orphaned rounds of cheese.
:31.820 --> :32.910 Nothing fancy. :32.910 --> :38.180
EU is notorious for the exhausting amount
of paperwork needed for any kind of agricultural :38.180 --> :39.180
subsidy. :39.180 --> :42.830
The process is usually both long and tedious. :42.830 --> :45.160
Ask any farmer, if you don't take my word. :45.160 --> :49.620
On top of that you have the local government
adding their mostly unnecessary and confusing :49.620 --> :52.310
bureaucratic sprinkles to the cake. :52.310 --> :55.940
Because who just doesn't love good old paperwork, yay?
:55.940 --> :57.120 Does it really exist?
:57.120 --> :00.210 The building already there and in use.
:00.210 --> :04.550 Farm Boss has been engaged with the subsidy
application process since the beginning of :04.550 --> :07.170
the project, over 2 years. :07.170 --> :13.250
Literally hundreds of emails, calls and letters
have been exchanged between various instances. :13.250 --> :16.380
Application process is like this, nothing abnormal about that.
:16.380 --> :21.070 A Bureaucrat had to be convinced that a building
has been built and it's for the intended purpose. :21.070 --> :26.760
Note: a building permit, a proof of a bank
loan, the building inspector's report and :26.760 --> :31.480
photographs of the actual building were not enough evidence.
:31.480 --> :36.660 Apparently a storehouse doesn't stand on its
concrete foundation, housing farming equipment :36.660 --> :40.180
and material, before a Bureaucrat acknowledges the matter.
:40.180 --> :44.170 An existential crisis of architectural sorts,
I suppose. :44.170 --> :48.561
Finally, after much struggle and convincing,
a Bureaucrat acknowledged officially, that :48.561 --> :52.800
a storehouse has been built and it's used for its intended purpose.
:52.800 --> :53.800 Whee. :53.800 --> :59.170
Aforementioned part of the bureaucrazy is
not essentially part of the MC story itself, :59.170 --> :00.540
nor was it the only one. :00.540 --> :05.460
But before proceeding I wanted to give you,
dear reader, a palpable example of a mucus :05.460 --> :08.380
oozing snail, that is a bureaucrat. :08.380 --> :10.060
Was it really paid for? :10.060 --> :14.950
Now another Bureaucrat wants to know all the
costs claimed in the subsidy application have :14.950 --> :16.030
been actually paid. :16.030 --> :21.650
Makes sense; you don't want to assist scammers,
who forge fake invoices and payments. :21.650 --> :26.760
In this project there were some 150 (give
or take) financial transactions involved for :26.760 --> :30.110
material, labour, insurance, permits, etc. :30.110 --> :31.390
Want all the invoices? :31.390 --> :32.390 You got it.
:32.390 --> :33.390 Want all the receipts?
:33.390 --> :34.390 Okey dokey. :34.390 --> :36.180
Want the bookkeeping statements? :36.180 --> :37.230 If you say so.
:37.230 --> :40.490 This last one has special significance.
:40.490 --> :45.850 Bookkeeping statements contain a legally binding
track of every single invoice and payment. :45.850 --> :50.100
Bookkeepers swear on the blood of their first born baby it's correct.
:50.100 --> :54.370 Even the tax office is happy with that - and
they are not easy folk to please. :54.370 --> :00.280
But the local government sitting on top of
the EU money (which even isn't their money)? :00.280 --> :01.960
Nooooo, not enough for them. :01.960 --> :08.090
They want to be super duper extra hyper sure,
how every single last nut, bolt and screw :08.090 --> :09.770
was paid for. :09.770 --> :15.410
Because maybe Farm Boss is just a scammer
who likes to spend 2 years on paperwork. :15.410 --> :19.880
Regardless the fact that the little storehouse
stands proud and stout in a farm, which has :19.880 --> :23.720
existed for decades in the exact same location. :23.720 --> :29.550
Enter Smaug's lair: Like a dragon hoarding
gold and treasure to sleep upon, a Bureaucrat :29.550 --> :34.030
hoards information and documents (apparently to sleep upon, too).
:34.030 --> :39.620 Local government Bureaucrat wants to be able
to track every single financial transaction. :39.620 --> :41.210
Not by invoice number. :41.210 --> :43.090 Not by invoice date.
:43.090 --> :44.810 Not by invoice sum. :44.810 --> :46.450
Not by combination of these. :46.450 --> :52.160
No, they want the project references (not
sure about the exact translation of this) :52.160 --> :54.050
combined with the actual payments. :54.050 --> :58.640
It's a 10 digit code attached to each part of the storehouse building project.
:58.640 --> :03.960 For example the roof has its own code under
which all parts, labour, etc go. :03.960 --> :08.940
After some hassle with the accountant agency
and the bank such list was materialized. :08.940 --> :12.970
It took only 2 weeks, so it was a quickie compared to the whole process.
:12.970 --> :17.740 It was an impressive 831 pages long PDF document.
:17.740 --> :22.810 So big because of dozens of payments, small
and big, far and near, accumulated over the :22.810 --> :25.370
time span of 2 years. :25.370 --> :27.650
Every single financial transaction. :27.650 --> :33.050
The information needed for the subsidy application
is spanned through the document, maybe some :33.050 --> :34.830
50 odd pages. :34.830 --> :38.150
Just deliver the 50 odd pages, easy-peasy? :38.150 --> :39.360
Bureaucrat says no. :39.360 --> :44.529
Obviously one can't omit the unrelated pages,
because Bureaucrat wants to observe the document :44.529 --> :46.870
both consistent and continuous. :46.870 --> :53.890
In other words: if the total page count is
831, that's how many pages there has to be. :53.890 --> :55.330
End of discussion. :55.330 --> :56.480 Happy bunny now?
:56.480 --> :58.950 Ok, you'll get the whole document.
:58.950 --> :00.750 Happy now, Bureaucrat?
:00.750 --> :01.750 No. :01.750 --> :03.580
All the information is there, how come? :03.580 --> :08.010
Nope, we Bureaucrats want to find the information "easily".
:08.010 --> :12.830 But we have already provided the cross-reference
list with all project references and invoice :12.830 --> :14.630
numbers, how's that? :14.630 --> :18.370
No can do, we Bureaucrats want "easy". :18.370 --> :22.940
How about pressing CTRL-F (search), that's easy as 1-2-3?
:22.940 --> :27.750 Nope, we Bureaucrats want to have project
references highlighted. :27.750 --> :29.190 On paper.
:29.190 --> :30.300 Because that's "easy".
:30.300 --> :36.110 But it'd be a ton of paper, wouldn't it surely
be easier to use the electronic format? :36.110 --> :42.400
*sensible arguments overwhelmed by angry bureaucratic
noises* No-no-no, absolutely no. :42.400 --> :43.400 Highlighted.
:43.400 --> :44.400 On paper. :44.400 --> :45.400 "Easy"!
:45.400 --> :49.430 Now you, dear reader, already know what time
it is. :49.430 --> :50.590 It's MC o'clock!
:50.590 --> :55.110 Farm Boss goes through the PDF with CTRL-F
and uses the marker tool to highlight the :55.110 --> :57.930
project references with pretty yellow. :57.930 --> :59.410
One day's work. :59.410 --> :01.040 Then sit back and print.
:01.040 --> :05.780 Numerous coffees and one colour cartridge
later there is a nice pile of A4 sheets. :05.780 --> :09.090
4,2 kg (9,3 lbs) to be exact. :09.090 --> :11.010
Neatly stacked and boxed. :11.010 --> :16.040
Sent as a registered letter (also a bureaucratic
requirement) to the Bureaucrat in need of :16.040 --> :18.150
an "easy" documentation. :18.150 --> :23.490
Have fun browsing through papers searching
for the project references, one by one, all :23.490 --> :25.050
by hand! :25.050 --> :30.450
Aftermath: For Farm Boss this was just another
day in the never ending bureaucratic jungle, :30.450 --> :31.950
exhausting and stressful. :31.950 --> :35.899
If you think being a farmer is easy, you apparently don't know any farmers.
:35.899 --> :39.490 I take my hat off for them any day of the week!
:39.490 --> :00.649 What comes to this particular Bureaucrat in
question, well, they never asked for :00.649 --> :24.990
a single document more. :24.990 --> :26.560 driving distance of me.
:26.560 --> :29.060 My job required suporting the five locations.
:29.060 --> :35.500 My boss told me a few weeks into the job NOT
to make any special trips to any of the other :35.500 --> :38.690
locations (I was based at the main plant.) :38.690 --> :43.850
When we got new employees, one of the other
IT guys in another state sets up the new machines :43.850 --> :46.649
and sends it to me to hand out to the new employee.
:46.649 --> :51.790 One day I get some new laptops for employees
in one of the remote locations I support. :51.790 --> :56.480
Following my supervisor's explicit instructions,
I decide I will make my normal trip to the :56.480 --> :58.370
remote site the next day. :58.370 --> :03.209
My supervisor comes in and asks why I didn't
take the new laptops to the remote office. :03.209 --> :08.770
I told her I was following HER instructions
and was planning to take the machines to the :08.770 --> :09.770
next day. :09.770 --> :13.930
She gets upset with me and tells me I should
have known that this was the exception. :13.930 --> :18.750
I offered to make a special trip up to deliver
the laptops, but she told me she would have :18.750 --> :21.730
the nw full-time IT guy take them up. :21.730 --> :25.980
They still didn't get delivered until the
next day, as the new guy didn't make the trip :25.980 --> :27.220
until then. :27.220 --> :31.640
Guess it wasn't that important that the new
employee get their laptops thay same day. :31.640 --> :35.450
Suffice it to say my contract job ended the next Friday.
:35.450 --> :41.580 So I worked in an office where we had a 1
page form needed for all clients that was :41.580 --> :43.520
attached to their vehicle for repair. :43.520 --> :50.320
70% of the info was the same for these forms
but we were filling them in by hand. :50.320 --> :55.860
It took ages, my hand would cramp and it was
dull and stopped us from doing other tasks. :55.860 --> :02.890
I suggested that we could set the computer
up (I would set it up and show the others) :02.890 --> :06.410
to print at the very least the info that was the same for every form.
:06.410 --> :11.260 I even explained that we could have the forms
printed from an excel sheet with all the specific :11.260 --> :12.260
info. :12.260 --> :13.260
The office managers response was that it would waste printer ink.
:13.260 --> :15.860 This is in Australia for context where everyone
was on at least $20usd/hr - so I did as instructed :15.860 --> :19.940
until my last day, using a lot of pens ironically. :19.940 --> :23.350
On my last day when we had the jobs for the
day I spent 20 minutes creating the spreadsheet :23.350 --> :26.890
and had it print out the entire normal mornings
workload for 3 of us in under 30 min. :26.890 --> :30.680
Printed the whole lot, dumped them on the
managers desk and went to morning tea, stayed :30.680 --> :33.300
through lunch walked back after lunch gathered my things and left. | give me a good story on rMaliciousComplianceBOSSISANGRYBECAUSEIFOLLOWEDTHERULESRedditStories |
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what is the strangest thing you've walked in on someone doing friend had an
audio entertainment system in his bedroom at his parents house but could
not get the Sky Box to work so he called the engineer out the engineer turns up
and begins fixing the problem turns out some cabling was incorrect as he's
fixing the problem he begins testing some other bits like the stereo and DVD
player to make sure he's found the issue his parents come home and curiously
wander in to see how it's all going my friend is now standing there with the
engineer and his parents when the DVD player flicks on to reveal a woman with
a cage gag in her mouth surrounded by men pissing and wanking into it everyone
looks and gasps the sky man realized the error and frantically starts clicking
buttons and remotes and pulling cables to get it off but the surround sound
kicks in and starts pumping out this weird porno at 100 decibels the parents
are just standing there in shock eventually the engineer just pulls the
plug out the wall while my friend just stands there wishing the ground would
open up and swallow him my friend looks at his mum and all she says is well I
have never seen anything like that and wanders off downstairs | give me a good story on shorts |
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a ITA for not giving my possibly pregnant baby daddy's GF his contact
after she threatened to break apart my family current living situation I 39f
live in a house with Tom 40m Ben 43m and our five children 12m 11m bio Tom and
mine 10f 8f bioen and his late wife Anna 7f bioen and mine Ben and I work Tom's
been a sod since 11m was to he went back
to school four years ago Ben and I cover all household expenses including any
cost cost for Tom's education background
Tom and I met at a party when we were 19 we've been friends ever since with
benefits at times we were both single while on a holiday together a condom
broke on us due to location emergency contraception wasn't available and when
I turned out to be pregnant we chose to keep that kid and moved in together we
were never a couple but worked great as a family so we decided to have a second
kid Anna was my childhood best friend she and Ben moved into the flat
downstairs for ours when she was pregnant prant with 10f I loved having
her close again after living in different cities for years sadly she
passed away after a very complicated second labor Ben and I found solace in
each other and I ended up pregnant I didn't notice right away as my method of
contraception should have been safe and I also blamed a lot of the symptoms on
Grief and guilt so when I found out there wasn't really an alternative
anymore Tom was the first one I told he said he'd welcome another child into our
family Ben was shocked and really struggled to accept it but we kept in
good contact through all of it we all started having dinner most nights after
7f was born 10f and 8f would already spend the day as Tom was their Nanny
couple of years later my grandma moved on to retirement home and Tom and I
decided to move to her house Ben asked if he could move in with us and we
agreed it's maybe unusual but works for us where I might be the H Tom been with
B for the last 3 years there was some talk about him asking her to move in
about a year ago but he never did be and I get along not best friends but I like
like spending time with her well liked she showed up unannounced 3 days ago and
demanded to see Tom he's currently on a skiing trip with Ben and the boys I
reminded her of that and then said I will tell him to contact her if there's
an emergency she then proceeds to tell me that she is pregnant with Tom's child
highly unlikely and that she already talked to his parents and they will buy
them a house next to theirs so that they
can live there as a family and that they
will be taking the boys with them that's when I told her to leave which after
some yelling and insult she did I've since been called multiple times by her
her best friend and Tom's parents to try and get his contact but I'm still
refusing to give it away they've been calling me an ah among other names for
not letting him know that one B is pregnant two he doesn't need to be
abused and exploited anymore edit to add Tom's had a vasectomy after 11 minutes
he's very low contact with his parents as they disapprove of me and are overall
living arrangements | give me a good story on AITAfornotgivingmypossiblypregnantbabydaddysgfhiscontactaftershethreatenedtobreak |
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first story my delusional mom tried a force reconciliation with my cheating
father who abandoned us for 20 years then she disowned me when it backfired
calling my girlfriend a W andb for supporting me so I to cut ties with her
and went and see all the names I'll use are not the real names of these people
cast me M25 my sister Maria F21 our mother Anna f44 and our Father John f45
for background my parents met in their late teens and soon had Me 3 years later
they had my sister Maria when my sister was 1year old and I was 3 years old my
parents got separated they never got married because my father cheated on my
mom with a woman who's over 20 years older than him from what I've been told
and they are still together now growing up mom never told me or my sister too
much about John I know that both his parents and his sister pretty much
disowned him after he cheated on my mom but they are irrelevant to this story
Anna never got full custody for us after that because she didn't know how back
then she didn't know what full custody meant but JN still sent Anna €200 a
month for each of us until we turned 18 I soon moved after turning 18 to live
with a friend and in 2021 I moved to another country where I currently live
after that I only kept little contact with my mom and almost none with my
sister fast forward to the 31st of August so 3 days before this post is
made on my birthday I get a call from an unknown number I picked up and the
following conversation ation followed me hello John op me yes who is this John
it's me John me I'm sorry but I don't think I know you John I'm your dad me
I'm sorry John how are you me why did you call me John it's your birthday
right me yes it is John happy birthday op me again why did you decide to call
me now don't you have a new family John yes I'm married now but I have no other
kids other than you and Maria at this point I was in disbelief so I ended the
call I couldn't understand why he decided to call me after 20 effing years
of no contact between us he tried calling me again but every time I
ignored the call the next day mom called me me hello Anna why did you hang up on
John me Mom are you serious right now Anna yes he changed now he wants to have
a son and daughter again me I guess it's just a bit too late
don't you think Anna stop being dumb and
go talk to your father me no you go talk to him if you want to I have nothing to
talk about with that piece of shd after I said that I hung up with her also both
my mom her side of the family and also my sister have been blowing up my phone
daily I have already blocked some of them he hurt us badly and everyone
decided to forgive him out of nowhere for no apparent reason I am not
forgiving him him I'm thinking about cutting contact with the rest of my
family if they keep defending him a good
father doesn't leave his children for 20 years and then out of nowhere decides
that he is entitled to having a relationship with them I'll keep you all
updated on this but for now I'll be out of contact with them for a while update
to sum it all up my family disowned me I personally couldn't be happier than now
that I don't have to put up with their bull 4 days ago on the 3rd of September
I arranged a zoom call with my mother and John I was really nervous because I
didn't know what to expect I wanted an explanation my current girlfriend
decided that she wanted to be next to me during the call she has been fully
supportive of my decision to not forgive
the sht of a father that Jon is the call happened on the 5th of September 2 days
ago I started the call and texted my mom to join the call and to tell JN to also
enter she quickly texted me back and in about 5 minutes she entered the call
next to her was my sister the first thing my mother said left me speechless
she asked me who's that Chinese btch next to you for context my girlfriend is
half Chinese and half Romanian also my mother and the other members of her
family are extremely racist then Jon entered there he was it's almost like
looking in a mirror same facial features hair color nose everything he said hi I
told him to tell me about what happened he didn't waste any time telling a very
madeup story about how my mother didn't give him any attention after my sister
was born and that he was extremely depressed I knew that Jon was a piece of
sht but cheating on his girlfriend and putting the blame on her because she
took all her time caring for their newborn and their toddler is the most
pathetic excuse I've heard in my life I told him to cut the bull and then my
mother had the audacity to defend this pathetic excuse of a father my sister
sat there quiet I decided that it wasn't
worth trying to get anything out of them so I ended the call early I just sat
there and cried while my girlfriend was comforting me telling me that I did
nothing wrong neither my mother nor anyone else tried to call me but that
night my mother sent me a long text message that I'll copy and paste here
translated into English op p i want you to know that I don't want anything more
to do with you you've hurt us a lot and you decided enough was enough I am no
longer a son I told every one of our relatives about how rude you were to us
and we all agreed to cut all contact with you since you clearly don't need us
anymore you along with that Chinese can go to hell and I will make sure to have
you cut out of the will I wish you to burn in hell alongside your cousin
goodbye I couldn't believe what I just read I decided that enough was enough
and blocked all my family except for some cousins aunts and uncles I will
admit I was very sad but I now feel like
I did the right thing by cutting contact
with all those toxic aroles I still have
been given no exact reason as to why Jon wanted to get in contact with me again
but I don't need any reason now I learned the hard way that family is not
about blood it's about the ones who will be there for you at any time in your
life and show you love when you need it the most I will be taking a break from
Reddit for now since I am planning to focus more on work and my life thank you
to everyone for their support on the original post Second Story my Golden
Child sister stole my car with my mom's support and damaged it after I asked her
to return it threatening to call the cops on her still my entitled mom took
her side so I reported them both and went NC I li with my mom in a rural part
of the USA for context when it comes to my sister 37 she is much older we come
from different fathers and both grew up in Split custody Arrangements we are not
particularly close we are almost acquaintances more so than siblings I
don't really feel any familial connection even though I love her I
don't feel obligated to bend backward for her well my sister lives 2 hours
away in a much more urban area and is currently going through a divorce her
and her ex-husband only had one vehicle and it belonged to the ex-husband so
when they split he took the car sister has four daughters and works a full-time
job I on the other hand work from home and have no real external
responsibilities my mom came to me asking if my sister could borrow my car
for a couple of months until the divorce is finalized so she has a way of
transporting her and her kids wherever they need to be without the financial
burden of purchasing another car or relying exclusively on ride sharing I
just recently bought my car at 2012 V8 Mustang and it's my first vehicle ever I
didn't get a hand me down or get one as a present when I turned 16 or 18 I was
basically immobile except occasionally being allowed to drive my mom's car or
when my dad had me I could get Ubers getting my own vehicle was extremely
liberating minus the loan and I don't feel trapped at home so when I was
approached with this proposal I flat out said no I can totally understand the
justification for letting her use my car for a couple months but aside from the
fact that I don't want to lose lose my newfound sense of freedom I also just
don't want someone else driving my car and maybe that's selfish of me over the
last few days my mom and sister have been trying to convince me to let her
use the car saying that she would pay for the car while she has it or that
she'd pay for insurance if she has it longer than anticipated no matter what
they brought to the table I kept saying no much to their dissatisfaction this
morning I realized that my mom wasn't home I opened our garage to see that her
car was still there but mine was not I immediately know what has happened and
call my mom about the situation she just tries to Cal me down and have me try to
picture it from my sister's point of view but I'm just flushed with rage and
instead just tell her that I'm going to report the vehicle as stolen instead she
just hung up the phone as of now I presume my car is down with my sister
and I am seriously considering reporting it stolen and naming her and my sister
as perpetrators and conspirators I really don't want it to go that far and
I hope that we could instead work this out but what I initially said as an angry
threat I'm starting to really consider as an option I just don't know if it's
worth burning so many bridges over a car but the fact that my family won't
respect my boundaries or my property is so frustrating wibta update thanks to
everyone for all the input into the situation I sincerely appreciate it I
ended up giving them an ultimatum to return my car by business tonight and if
they do I would be willing to move past it and not let it affect any future
relationships I said I would also pitch in a small amount of money to help my
sister rent or buy her own car but if they do not return it by business close
I will be filing a police report that my vehicle has been stolen and that it was
my mom who is the perpetrator and my sister who is a conspirator to answer a
couple questions all at once mom has her own car but doesn't want to lend it out
because she needs it for work every day I had offered to let her use mine for
work and she lent out her car to sister but she refuted this idea saying that
she doesn't feel comfortable driving my car and that she needs ample space for
medical supplies she is an inhome nurse I am well aware that my living situation
will change if I call the police on my mom and sister but honestly the living
situation is already compromised regardless of the resolution I will be
moving out as soon as possible as I am financially stable enough to do so this
whole thing is just the straw that broke the camels back I didn't put it in the
original post but I've been getting a lot of comments regarding living for
free at my mother's house house we split
bills 60/40 on basically everything it's not truly 50/50 but by no means am I
freeloading at my mom's house I will update again if the car has been
returned or not update I ended up giving mom and sister an ultimatum to return
the car by 5:00 p.m. and if they didn't I would be reporting them to the police
if they did I would let bygones be bygones and move on and move out I even
offered to pitch in a bit to help my sister get a new vehicle the car has
been returned so the police will not need to get involved however there is
body damage that wasn't there the last time I used it I can't tell if it was
intentional damage or not but honestly it doesn't matter pick attached I will
get all relevant papers in order and then I will lawyer up so the damages are
paid for as soon as this entire situation is resolved I will be moving
out I have learned to never keep my keys out again thanks so much everyone for
your input and advice final update after
the overwhelming majority of you told me that I needed to go to the police in my
last post I have decided to report the entire situation to my local sheriff's
office I will do everything in my power to make it so charges aren't pressed
which I hope is likely since the car was returned I will still be doing
everything I mentioned in my previous post regarding getting all my papers in
order and moving out as soon as possible I will probably still look into getting
a lawyer just in case I told the sheriff's office that my car was stolen
for approximately 16 hours from my mom and sister and that when the car was
returned there was body damage that wasn't previously there they are sending
over a deputy to take a look at my car and question myself and my mom about the
situation I have group text chats that list my ultimatum as well as some texts
that were exchanged previously about mom
and sister essentially begging to use my car while I kept saying no I will be
making my mom and or sister pay for the body damage and if insurance won't cover
it I will be going to court for it I don't care how Petty that is or if it
just opens an even larger can of worms I absolutely refuse to pay $2,000 plus do
for body damage repairs that I didn't create hopefully this is the actual
final update I will have to post regarding this situation regardless of
the damage I'm just glad that I have my car back the family situation is beyond
bad and I will be going to NC with my sister for an indefinite amount of time
I will do the same with my mom as soon as I move out which is hopefully by the
end of the month thank you all for your advice and input throughout this whole
ordeal third story my rich entitled gay friend called me a homophobe and cut
ties with me after I advised him not to come out to his family now two years
later he showed up only to berak me for abandoning him saying it's my fault he
got disowned lost his job and became homeless I know the title sounds bad but
here I am also I apologize for using any incorrect terminology related to the
topic okay so I 23f have a friend s am same age who is a female to male
transgender individual however I am one of very few people who know this and he
generally still presents as female this is because his family mom dad and
grandfather are all quite frankly horrible homophobes seriously I've been
to their house three times since Sam and
I met in middle school and each time one of them has launched into some sort of
hateful rant completely unprompted now here is where it gets complicated
horrible as he might be Sam's grandfather is very wealthy and Sam is
set to inherit $2.5 million when he dies which will probably be soon due to the
man's rather serious health conditions Sam has seen the will and knows this for
a fact but he also knows he'll be disowned if he comes out as transgender
to his family because of this Sam has stayed in the closet and continues to
present a female he took to cutting his hair shorter and dressing more
androgynously in college for the sake of staying in good standing with his
grandfather Sam has always been very open about his plan to fully come out
and deal with the consequences after he had the money but today at 5:30 in the
morning Sam called and woke me up to tell me that he was considering coming
out to his family soon and that he thought it was dishonest to continue
with the lie for money but asked my advice I was shocked but honestly I told
him I thought it was a bad idea I explained that the 2.5 million would
allow Sam to finally live his dream life payoff student debts get SX change
surgery maybe get a house Etc then I pointed out that Sam would almost
certainly be thrown out of of the house for doing so he still lives with his
parents for some complicated reasons and he wouldn't be able to stay with me if
that happened because on top of living in a one bedroom apartment I babysit my
six-year-old immunocompromised younger brother twice a week and I cannot risk
cross-contamination from Sam who is an essential worker I also wasn't shy about
making my opinion that his family wasn't
worthy of honesty extremely clear anyway after I was done explaining all of this
Sam just burst into tears before hanging up I was confused but it was also only
5:45 so I just rolled over and went back
to bed later in the morning I woke up to
a bunch of text messages from Sam saying that I was a bad friend a horrible
person and claiming I was homophobic or transphobic now I could not give a damn
about a person's exual orientation or gender identity if you paid me I am
simply a deeply pragmatic person and Sam knows this so it really hurts to read
these text messages I didn't respond at first and decided to talk this over with
my mother who is aware of Sam's situation anyway aah update on Sam okay
so I want to thank everyone in my original post for their different
perspectives and that everyone was able to be calm and respectful I'll be the
first to admit that while I have my own issues I obviously cannot fully relate
to Sam's struggles and I probably could have been nicer about my concerns in my
own defense he did wake me up at 5:30 so I was pretty dazed and grouchy I also
wanted to elaborate on the money situation and why Sam and I probably
view that $2.5 million very differently Sam and I come from very different
financial backgrounds I came from a poor Blended household of six children and
was the second eldest child we never starved my extended family we are all
very close but luxuries were hard to come by and there were times my twin
brother and I were both working multiple part-time jobs to keep the lights on or
to replace the water heater when it broke for the second time I was only
able to attend the same private schools as Sam because of merit-based
scholarships I and my family as a whole am in a much better position now
MoneyWise as I work two well-paying jobs one of which is footing the bill for me
to get my doctorate degree but I still have a lot of money related anxiety Sam
however has always been rich and while his family is all picky they never
hesitate to spoil him financially I used to call him a Visa kid which is like a
latch key kid but with his father's Visa card which he was free to use on
whatever he wanted Sam never bragged about having vastly more more money than
I did but there were definitely times when he was accidentally insensitive
about it he once commented about how run down my house was after seeing where my
stepdad had patched up some leaky pipes with neon orange duct tape for example
despite this Sam usually had dinner at my house my mom is a great cook about
twice a week oblivious that my parents budgeted for each meal very carefully
and his being there was honestly an inconvenience they both felt bad for him
though and never said anything currently Sam has a a well-paying job as a
hospital lab tech but has no real savings and is in general terrible with
money he has no idea how to budget because his family has always paid for
everything and the only reason he was on student loans was because they refused
to pay for some study abroad Sam wanted to do when I said he still lives at home
what I actually meant is that he lives in his parents guest house which they
completely rent they even buy his groceries for him so the money he makes
from his job is basically spent on video games clothes Collectibles Etc my point
is that Sam could definitely afford to live on his own or be financially
independent if he wanted to but I'm genuinely concerned about how he'd take
the downgrade it would require anyway on to the update I went home today for our
standard Sunday meal and talked things over with my mom she says that it sounds
like Sam had already decided to come out and was looking for support or
validation instead of advice but didn't want to outright ask for it mom also
says that while she agrees with me she thinks I could have been gentler and
that I should apologize for the sake of the friendship I however was conflicted
I don't believe in false apologies because they are demeaning to everyone
involved I also don't like that Sam is fishing for validation and support
instead of just asking for it because I think that is manipulative as I've said
before I am a very pragmatic individual and think it would be foolish to give up
so much money when you were so close to getting it still I also know it has been
for Sam to keep such a big part of himself a secret for so long so I
thought about all the comments left on my original post and what Mom said and
eventually decided to send Sam an email saying one I stand by what I said early
and think the advice I gave was solid even if it wasn't what he wanted to hear
two but I was sorry if what I said hurt him and that hadn't been my intention at
all three I would of course Stand By and support Sam if he made the choice to
come out as it was his choice four but I also thought he should make sure he was
both physically emotionally and financially stable before doing so five
I sent him the information for the mental health clinic I go to which is
offering three free Skype sessions with a counselor to help people cope with
quarantine and suggested Sam talk things over with one six I also suggested he
get his important personal documents together SSC birth certificate passport
Etc together and put them in a Secret Safe Place he even offered to hold on to
them so finally I said he should make sure he
has somewhere to live before coming out I found a couple of cheap like $500 per
month places on Craigslist for rent and put the links in I even promised to pay
for the first month's rent if necessary then I sent the email out and went to
help cook dinner about an hour later Sam called but my hands were covered in
flour and eggs so I asked sis 16f to answer my phone and put it on speaker
believing falsely that we were about to have a calm adult situation Sam blew up
for about 30 minutes Sam just yelled about how one there were more
accusations of being homophobic or transphobic two he accused me of calling
him crazy three calling me a robot this one hurt the most silly as it sounds
because I am on the autism spectrum and have a hard time understanding and
expressing emotions in general which I am very sensitive about four he said
he'd never move into any of the Apartments I suggested because they were
trashy and wondered why he couldn't just
stay with me I tried to explain about my
little brother again only to be told and I quote why are you so worried about
that brat he isn't your kid just forget about him right now then Sam hung up
again and it was sis turn to blow sis is bisual and has never really liked Sam
though I never knew why until now sis was angry that Sam would say those when
I and our family have done nothing but support him she said that throughout our
years of friendship it has always been me supporting Sam and never the other
way around despite having my own issues I tried to argue but sis reminded me
that after I had extensive eye surgery in high school to hopefully prevent me
from going blind before 30 Sam couldn't be bothered to drop off my schoolwork or
drive me to a checkup when no one else was available she compared that to when
I had to leave an important work dinner to pick up a drunk Sam from a gay bar or
when Sam got angry when I decided my old brother's wedding was more important
than going to an LGBT plus event on our college campus with him honesty sis has
given me a lot to think about Sam is an important friend to me I obviously want
the best for him and I'm hoping this is all just stress from the current Global
situation boiling over or something but sis is right in that Sam has spent years
expecting to be my number one priority and using me as an emotional crutch I'm
going to give things a few days and see how they turn out any thoughts would be
greatly appreciated update AA for telling a former friend that he was
particularly responsible for his own bad
life situation and I didn't feel bad for
him a few years ago I 25f posted a story about my former friend Sam FTM 25 Sam
had The Misfortune of Being Born into an incredibly wealthy family and Sam stood
to inherit a lot of money from his grandfather understandably both of these
things factored into Sam's decision not to come out to his family at least not
until his Grandpa died and he got his inheritance that was until 2 years ago
when he called me very early in the morning to say he'd been thinking about
coming out to his parents and asked what I thought I told him that it was a bad
idea due to a combination of him definitely getting written out of the
will getting kicked out of his parents house and cutting off altogether money
healthare Etc not having any savings and not having another place to stay well
Sam didn't like that he accused me of being transphobic and a bad friend
amongst other things a few more blowups later along with my little sister helped
me realize realized that my friendship with Sam was unhealthily one-sided it
led to my making the difficult decision to cut Sam out of my life I sent him one
final email saying I was sorry about the
fight that I wished him well in whatever he chose to do but that I also felt
neither of us was getting much good out of our relationship then I blocked him
and forced myself to push Sam out of my mind it was hard I worried about Sam a
lot but he was able to move out of my life I spent these last two years
working on myself and it paid off I climbed the ladder closer to my dream
job am in the best shape of my life and most importantly met my wonderful fiance
eventually I managed to mostly forget about Sam that brings us to yesterday I
was running errands when I stopped for coffee when I was waiting for my drink I
heard someone call my name it was Sam and he looked rough to the point where I
didn't even recognize him at first anyway Sam decided to join me I
awkwardly asked him how he'd been and Sam launched into this long rant about
how hard his life became after he came out to his parents he got kicked out and
cut off by his family and since he didn't have enough savings to rent
anywhere Sam ended up having to couch surf for the past 2 years losing a lot
of friends when they got tired of him Sam apparently got so depressed about
everything that he stopped going to work
and was finally fired about 6 months ago
when he was finally done I honestly told Sam that I was sorry for everything he
went through he asked me if that was it and another blow up happened Sam accused
me of abandoning him when he needed my help I said I did offer him help back
then but it just wasn't help that Sam liked then I told Sam that everything
that happened to him was something I warned about and that I didn't feel much
sympathy for him because of that he knew the risks but they still came out so he
couldn't gripe about the consequences I left after that and everyone who knows
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op is breaking up with his pregnant girlfriend because he doesn't want to be
a father he is asking if he is in a hole I 25m had been with my now x23f for a
little over 3 months I always made sure we took lots of precautions when having
SX she was on birth control and I always
used condoms I wanted to avoid a child I
have known for a long time that I do not want children I find them annoying and
they would severely limit my ability to do the things I enjoy traveling outdoor
Stuff Etc unfortunately for me my ex didn't have her period when she was
supposed to and it turns out she's now pregnant she came to me and told me she
was pregnant the first thing I did was suggest an abortion we don't live in a
state where it's legal so I offered to pay for her flight and hotel and told
her I'd be happy to come with her to get it done I have a stable job and make
good money so it wouldn't be too much of
a hit for me she works as a receptionist and doesn't make a lot so I figured it
would be better for me to pay that's when she told me she was hoping to keep
it and that she wanted me to help her raise the kid as its father I have no
intention of being a father Beyond just my dislike of children I'm not ready for
that I made it very clear that I didn't want the baby but she kept insisting
that I'd have a change of heart once it was born and to just try it out after a
long exchange I told her that if she intended to keep the baby I would not
act as a father I broke up with her and told her that I would pay child support
once it's born but that I expect her to respect my wishes and keep the child
away from me since then she's been frantically texting me begging me to
come back and telling me she'd forgive me she sent me voicemails crying it does
hurt to see but I haven't responded the other day she texted me saying how she
can't raise the kid alone and how I'm basically forcing her to get an abortion
just by leaving she called me an Ary hole an abuser and an asist she ended
the text by begging me to talk again I certainly feel shy I really liked her
and we had a good relationship before this but I just don't want to be a
father I'm already bitter about the fact that I'll have to pay child support for
18 years which will somewhat limit me financially I also feel it isn't right
for a parent who doesn't want their child to be involved I just end up
taking that pent up anger and bitterness out on the child who is ultimately
innocent which I feel isn't right with all this said I come here to ask aah I
certainly feel like one but I also stand by what I did clarifying edits on the
topic of a vasectomy I tried I met with a doctor last year and asked about
getting one but he refused and said every doctor he knows won't do it until
you're at least 30 it's a conservative State and while I dislike the politics I
was born and raised here so I'm still attached to the state and have never
felt the urge to leave someone said I should have flown elsewhere to get one
and I guess they're right but I just didn't think about that on the topic of
birth control I bought the condoms myself so they were fine whenever we
were done I'd throw in used condoms I'm the dumpster so I don't think she went
dumpster diving I asked her on our first
date if she was was taking birth control and she said yes I took her word maybe
it's foolish to just believe her but if she was lying she'd be the first person
I've met to lie about that most girls I've met are honest about it I assume
she was on the pill since that's the main birth control I know but maybe she
was on something else that I'm not educated enough on that being said I'll
follow your advice and lawyer up and get a paternity test I don't know how long
that will take but whenever I get it done I'll update here with the results
thank you for your judgment I've been for a bit but I'm catching up and trying
to read what I can I'll be checking back
periodically and replying to some people all further feedback is appreciated
update one I have hired one of the better Family Court Lawyers in my state
she has someone representing her pro bono it has been made clear to my ex and
her representative that she is not to contact me personally and that all
contact will go through my lawyer from now on a paternity test is scheduled for
next Wednesday I don't know how long it will take to get results but the test is
happening If the child is mine we will go to court to determine child's support
payments and set up the process for me to sign away my rights another
clarifying at it I was gone for a while and while reading through some comments
I found a topic I'd like to clarify for anyone left who still checks here and
cares at the beginning I said I made sure to use lots of precautions I had
thought people would take away from the idea that I had made my intention to not
have kids clear at the beginning I just wanted to make that clear she told me
she wasn't looking to have kids I should have been more clear about this I guess
I was under the assumption that she didn't want kids which is why I was
blindsided by her change of heart once she was actually pregnant I understand
it happens feeling changed or whatever but for me it was a big shock when I go
to get the paternity test started she will also have an ultrasound and we'll
talk then I'll update on Wednesday BTW the text will take a few days to process
so I'll also update with the results update two Reddit isn't letting me post
the full update here so for further updates please check my comments
relevant comments the commentator asks about providing emotional support and
getting back together with the ex op I don't want to give her emotional support
and lead her on if I'm around she'll think I plan to get back together and be
a present Father which I don't want she should know I don't want the kid that
way she's more likely to go through with an abortion or adoption I also don't
want to be present for the birth for similar reasons plus I'm pretty certain
that even if I did change my mind about the kid I wouldn't want to be with her
she expects me to get back together with
her to raise the kid but if I did end up seeing the kid and wanting her I'd have
to go through some annoying legal procedure to try and secure joint
custody or something that is a mess in so many ways that it isn't worth
suffering through I'm still certain I don't want the kid but if I suddenly
changed my mind to want the kid and then didn't get any custody that would be
pretty depressing I'd rather just stay unattached and deal with any regrets I
have later the commentator asks about his family their support and and the
future op there's a lot to unpack here so I'll try to go piece by piece
obviously what you've experienced is very difficult so I'm sorry about that
I'm glad you found yourself about my parents yes they want grandkids they
have been hounding me ever since I turned 20 about when I'm going to give
them grandkids I've already told them I don't want kids and my sister is lesbian
so they're really disappointed at this point if they found out about the kid
and that I was leaving they would be furious so I'm just not telling them
about how feel in the future I honestly cannot say 100% I know that right now I
100% don't want kids and I'm going off that feeling to assume how I'll feel in
the future will be the same everyone lives with some level of regret so I've
come to peace with the idea that if I end up regretting this I'll just have to
move on and live with it like everyone else if for some reason I felt regret I
wouldn't try to contact the kid I'd just keep it to myself and keep chugging
along like usual if the kid does find me
one day I'll just be honest depending on how I'm feeling either I was 25 and I
didn't want kids and I still don't sorry or I was 25 and I thought I didn't want
kids I wasn't ready it's been one of the
biggest regrets of my life and I'm sorry
depending on how I'm feeling most likely the former I don't know what gave you
the impression that I've soften to the idea of having kids I still firmly don't
want kids I just feel pity for the child because it isn't really their fault I
don't exactly feel good about leaving the child on a moral level but on a
personal level of what is best for me I feel very conf ident in leaving it's
certainly a selfish decision but I've been very upfront about the fact that
I'm a selfish person I feel bad about it but I'm putting myself and my own
personal needs first in this situation by doing what I think is best for me
apprehensive Cactus it's extremely unlikely that she would give up the baby
once she's already got the child in her arms and gone through the process it's
extremely emotional and we're wired to take care of our young the chances of
her giving up the baby are about 2% she really needs to stop hoping you're all
going to be a happy family someday because this is awful for her
self-esteem she can be happy as a single mother even if it's very hard does she
have family willing to help her own parents motherhood is a huge adjustment
and doing it without support is awful PPD is not a joke she can totally do
this without you but it would be a lot better if she had at least some support
from her family op I don't know that much about her family I haven't met them
I just heard bits and pieces apparently her dad has some drinking issues and her
mom is pretty closed off they live in a different city too that's about the
extent of what I know but I doubt they'd be able to help her much alternative ad
5613 I would consider locking down that pathway before she realizes it could
lead to your mom you know blocking her before she sees your mom comment on a
post and making everything go through a lawyer by the sounds of it if she makes
contact with them it sounds like they definitely take her side of the matter
you will definitely have contact with your ex and her child because your
family will be involved I'm not saying you need them but I feel like within 18
years they'll know especially considering how the at home DNA tests
and programs are either way that doesn't change my mind about you you're making
the right call here and now in your ex's
Court I don't know if you're considering it moving cities but if you should it
will increase the odds of you having no contact I live and work in a city of 1
15 million people and I have still made contact with people I never thought I
would again op I don't have a Facebook account so my mom doesn't comment on my
posts but I'll take the advice and block my ex I have a good job and I like my
apartment a lot so I don't plan on moving from my city even if I see them I
plan to get some sort of legal agreement signed through my lawyer prohibiting
direct contact so hopefully they just have to ignore me if they saw me editors
note the second update was posted twice in the comment box and later onto his
own profile update 2 sorry for the lakeness but I got the test done and the
results are in the the baby is a girl and is indeed mine when I saw my ex I
had a talk with her we talked about birth control and she told me she was on
birth control and had no intention of having children but once she found out
she was pregnant she changed her mind I believe her she was hopeful that I would
come around to that perspective so I made it very clear that I would not be
part of the child's life and gave her three options option one get an abortion
in any state of her choosing and I'll pay for her to stay there for a week so
she could basically take AAC to Hawaii Nick or lay on my dime but I need to
come with her and get confirmation that she had the abortion option two put the
child up for adoption and I'll pay for all the medical expenses that come with
having a child option three keep the child and I pay my court ordered child
support sign away my parental rights have my name taken off the birth
certificate and have absolutely no involvement with her or the child beyond
my monthly payments it was a tough conversation and she didn't take it well
she ended up crying for a while she kept telling me that I would be a loving and
kind dad asking me to try fatherhood think about how well our relationship
was going before this happened and imagine our future together with a
daughter I told her I'm still firmly against fatherhood and she was
devastated she refuses to get an abortion but is scared to be a single
mother at 23 even though she wants the child she told me that if I'm with her
during the birth see and hold the child but still feel nothing for the baby
after all that then she will consider adoption she also said said if I change
my mind about fatherhood she will be waiting with open arms to enjoy
Parenthood together as a loving family and would hope I'd propose I have made
it very clear that I don't want any involvement I'm not sure what I should
do since I would prefer for the baby to be put up for adoption rather than have
to pay child support for 18 long years but I also don't want to be around the
baby at all or present during the birth advice is appreciated all further
updates will be posted to my account like this editors note the latest update
has screenshots but the full story is in the comments update three finally back
with another update over the past few days I've gotten a new influx of advice
some of this advice has been helpful or interesting some really good ideas were
given to me so I set up a lunch with my ex yesterday and we had a long and
productive chat it was the first time we had talked in over a month all our
communication had been through lawyers I decided the best way to ensure the
conversation was productive was to set ground rules and make sure we were
operating from reality both of us haven't been being realistic I told her
that I was giving up on abortion or adoption it was what I wanted but I
already knew it wasn't going to happen at this point my ex wants the baby I
know she does and I told her I knew I won't be bringing up abortion or
adoption with her again it just isn't worthwhile I have to work within reality
and at this point that means under the assumption that she will keep the baby I
also told her it's time for her to give up on me I made it very clear to her
that I would not be getting back together with her no matter what even if
she aborted the baby she will never have the happy family with me that she wants
I made it clear she needs to drop the idea because it won't happen and it
makes it impossible to find any real solutions to this situation she
acknowledged that there would be no happy family between us I think reality
has finally set in for both of us at this point nobody is going to get what
they want so it's time to compromise the new goal that we have agreed upon is
this provide my ex and our daughter with the support that they desperately need
right now while also allowing me to have
no involvement with raising the child in other words I will not be involved in
raising the child whatsoever but I will try to give my ex the resources she
needs to make sure the child has a good life I won't be in the delivery room and
I will never see her I will simply provide money my ex has 25k in student
debt that she needs to pay off she is only making around 60k per year from her
job and she will be a single mother which means child expenses and such by
contrast I only have around 10K K in student debt left to pay off and after a
little over two years working at the company I'm at I just got a promotion
and a significant pay raise so I'm now making roughly 150k per year
additionally there is plenty of room for further growth in my field with income
growth potential all the way up to 325k per year although that is still pretty
far off in the future I don't say any of this to brag just to put our situations
in perspective I'll have all my debts paid off by the end of 2025 plus I've
been setting aside money for a save account and investment funds what I'm
trying to say is that I have money and she doesn't so I will be making up for
my lack of presence with significant financial support I would prefer to
avoid court so I worked with my ex to find a fair monetary support system all
of what comes next is a handshake agreement between the two of us if
someone has a problem they can go to court and determine child support that
way we talked for a while about what a fair payment system would look like and
this is what we decided on I will pay for all of my ex's Medical expens that
come with her carrying the baby including doctor visits and hospital
bills when the baby is born I will pay my x2k Monon in child support to pay for
the child's expenses this will leave my ex with breathing room and allow her to
continue paying off her student debt we don't have exact math but our estimate
we found using phone calculators was that it would probably take her between
six and eight more years to pay off all her student debt once she has paid off
all her debt the monthly child support payment will drop to 1K per month if my
ex finds a man who she marries and takes on the role of a father to the child
then my child support payments will stop since he will be able to provide an
extra income stream additionally I will create a savings account that my ex will
be able to see starting the day the baby is born I will deposit $500 into the
account I will then deposit $500 into the account on the first day of the
month every month until the girl turns 18 at that point she will be given
access to the account as a college fund based on the math we did the account
will have roughly 108k in it not including interest I don't know how much
College will cost by then but that should be a significant help for her to
pay for college if she decides not to go
to college I will empty the fund into my personal savings account so she only
gets the money if she attends College the fund has another condition on it but
I'll get to that later Beyond money my ex and the child will need emotional
support this is where my lovely sister comes in she and her wife love kids they
have been looking into adoption for a few months now based on another comment
I got which I cannot find anymore and it's driving me crazy I think whoever
wrote it deleted it from a woman whose brother was in a similar situation the
woman decided to take on an active role and help his ex raise the child of her
own valtion because she liked kids knowing my sister was already interested
in raising a child with her wife I reached out and asked her if she would
be interested in helping my ex she was very excited about the prospect of my ex
having her I asked my ex what she thought and she said yes my sister and
her wife will act as a support system for my ex when they have time they will
help my ex with things like babysitting giving her any advice she needs or just
being there for her to talk to they'll also be extra family for the child
helping make things like birthdays and holidays special this is where the
second condition for the college fund comes in as I'm sure you've noticed my
sister is lesbian I've gotten many questions asking why I don't want my
parents involved with the child let me answer them my sister came out at 14 and
from then on she was the scum of the Earth in our house my parents are
extremely religious and very homophobic so as soon as she came out they hated
her no more birthdays no more Christmas no more family dinners they gave her the
absolute bare minimum Necessities to survive and then left her alone
otherwise obviously it was extremely toxic what they did was awful and my
sister has rightly gone out of contact with them my second condition for the
college fund is that my ex cannot tell them about the child or let them meet
her what they want most in the world is grandchildren and I will not give them
that Joy my ex has my sister's help and support so she doesn't need my parents I
made it clear that if I ever find out about her visiting them with a child
there will be no college fund finally I want to talk about writing a letter
based on advice from someone whose father came back and then left they told
me not to come back but to write a letter to my daughter as closure I don't
want to come back so I thought it was a great idea the letter will explain why
I'm not around and the whole situation I'm going to be truthful but try to also
be gentle in the letter the goal is to make it clear that I didn't leave
because of a particular hatred for her but just because I never wanted to be a
father in the first place I'll also include something about how hard her
mother tried to make me reconsider and how much her mother loves her I'll end
it by wishing her good luck in life the letter will be officially notorized and
signed by both me and my ex when she turns 18 if she has questions about me
and wants them answered my ex will give her the letter if the letter still can't
satis safy her and she wants further answers I've given her permission to
talk to me in person I feel I owe it to her to answer her questions in person if
that's what she needs for closure my ex also felt strongly about wanting my name
on the birth certificate so I've agreed to that in summary my ex will keep the
child I will provide child support payments I will provide a college fund
on the condition that the child goes to college and my parents are never
involved in this situation my sister and
her wife will help my ex by acting as an extra support system for her and I will
write a letter to my daughter explaining why I am not present that will be given
to her only if she wants it as a way for
her to gain closure the full thing won't
be posted in comments so I'll post it in chunks BTW this will likely be my last
update things are mostly figured out thank you for all the advice and help
also for anyone who hasn't seen it I'll be getting a vasectomy in Colorado in
February 2024 I'd already said so but I'll put it here too op's text below the
screenshots I wrote out this whole update on Reddit it and was given error
messages saying it couldn't be posted so I copied and pasted it and then
screenshot it sorry it's inconvenient but this is the only way I could post
this I've split the paragraphs up and they are in order so hopefully it isn't
too annoying to read I'll also post the full text in the comments if Reddit will
allow me to update 4 happy holidays to everyone I hope you're having a nice
winter short and boring update I got our terms from update three written up into
a contract and the X has signed some minor changes have been made which
I will outline some things weren't legally enforcable so those have
remained part of a handshake agreement the basic contract is that I have no
visitation rights and will never be allowed visitation rights but my ex also
has to make active efforts to keep the child away from me I will be paying for
her medical care during the pregnancy process we decided to adjust the payment
system I will be paying ,500 per month in child support and an additional 500
will be added in support for every 50 K my salary increases by currently 150k
capping out at 500k for a maximum support payment of 5K per month the
handshake part of the agreement is for the college fund in exchange for
notifying my parents of their granddaughter's existence the college
fund will be monitored by my sister I deposit $500 per month until the kid
turns 18 and then the fund is made available to her if she is going to
college or trade school if she decides to forego higher education she will
instead receive a flat sum of $27,000 roughly 1/4 of the total fund and the
remainder of the fund will go back to me we scrapped the idea of a letter if she
wants to see me when she's 18 she'll have to come find me I decided it' be
best to make it a slightly higher barrier to finding me my sister will
still be involved in helping my ex with her parenting of the child and they have
chosen to make the girl aware that my sister is her aunt shd is pretty much
settled the ex is pretty far into pregnancy at this point and everything
is worked out sorry to disappoint everyone who still wanted me to step up
and be a present father that is never happening thank you for watching the
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my name is steven and this is the story time channel
first things first a big congratulations
to iggy rlk for being the winner of last week's giveaway
if anybody doesn't know i run a giveaway every single week so if you're
interested and don't know how to enter just stay tuned until later in the video
and i'll tell you exactly how to that said we have some malicious
compliance stories and our first story of the day is by clintosaurus rex
landlord tries to keep security deposit um no about 10 years ago my at the time
girlfriend now wife and i moved from the area we
went to college to an apartment near where we plan to start our careers
i say it was an apartment but it really was the basement of a house that the
landlord had walled off to create two apartments to rent
the place was kind of crappy but the rent was cheap for the area and we were
close to work everything was fine for a few months but
the only parking for us was on the street out front
the couple that rented the upstairs apartment had rights to the garage in
the driveway they paid more than we did suddenly my
car got a couple bs tickets for parking on the street
i'm guessing some butt clown cobb needed to meet their quota
and my girlfriend's car got sideswiped in a hit and run
this crap had to stop so we emailed the landlord
her preferred form of communication to ask if there's anywhere safe for us to
park she replies park anywhere you want we
had noticed that our upstairs neighbors usually eschewed the driveway to park in
the front yard they were horribly lazy so we figured
that would be a good spot for us too we parked in the front yard the rest of
the year we figured that would be the end of it
we finished our lease left the place in better shape than we found it and
requested our 1500 security deposit back after a couple
weeks we got a check for 700 what the freak since there was no
explanation we asked the landlord for one and she replied that the deducted
amount was to resawed the lawn claiming that parking on it had damaged it
now i was the one who cut the grass at this house while we stayed there
so i was well aware that the lawn was more weeds and bald spots than grass
picture the african savannah in mid-summer no one had
ever lifted a finger to landscape any part of the property
but the landlord wanted to sell the house once the leases were up
and she figured she could get the renters to pay for a nice new lawn
i complained to the landlord didn't care i put in a complaint with the local
housing department didn't care i threatened to take her to court didn't care
so that's what i did took her to small claims court
i had never sued anyone before so i was going in prepared
i took pictures of the entire front yard the area that we
damaged was actually one of the best patches of grass
though it did have a small rut that my tires made when the yard was muddy in
the summer i got testimonials from our upstairs and across the street neighbors
most importantly i printed out the email where the landlord
told us to park anywhere we were suing for
eighteen hundred dollars to cover court costs and us both missing a day of work
on top of the full security deposit in mediation we said we would settle for
fourteen but she must have thought she was in the
right because she refused to offer a penny more
than the original 700 check which we never cashed
when we got in front of the judge it was pretty clear that she had no
evidence hadn't prepared anything and just assumed that us
kids would fall on our faces we did not we put everything we had in front of the
judge and made our claim he was impressed he stopped us
when we showed him the email to ask the landlord did you really tell them to
park wherever they wanted when she said yes the judge replied then
what are we even talking about and that was that judgment in fall for us
and that witch had to pay to resort her own darn lawn
next time you tell someone to park wherever you want
you'd better mean it or at least don't try to screw someone over when they
comply with what you said if you made it this far thanks for
reading you really can't trust anybody especially landlords unfortunately
and the only bit of advice that i can have is before you
actually move in make sure you take pictures and document as much as you can
and any kind of communication that you have with landlords make sure you save
that if at all possible because you never know when it might
help you later down the line if this happened to you would you be
willing to put in the effort to go all the way to small claims court and
compile all this evidence in an effort to proclaim at least the
other hundred dollars of the fifteen hundred dollar security deposit you put
down let me know in the comments down below our next story is by locatech
old guy gave grief so yesterday was a very busy day at the big home
improvement warehouse people were stocking up on disaster
response stuff taking advantage of our labor day sales week
the district manager was doing an inspection and
there were only two of us scheduled to close the department
i was managing to multitask like a mother going through three or four
bottles of water by the end of the night
i was puffing and panting behind my face mask
all while managing to stay cheerful and helpful to my clientele
when in comes the old man from the old world i say this because he had an
old-fashioned attitude towards women but unfortunately for he and i
i was the only associate available to help him so he comes into my tool
department interrupts my interaction with some
other customers and expected me to cater to his wishes immediately
then and there i politely asked him to wait a moment that i'd be with him
shortly and for that i got a look of disapproving disgust but
he had no other choice but to wait until i was free
turns out he wanted a toolbox not just any toolbox
but one of those massive shop boxes on wheels that are about the size of a small
car well good a couple of hundred dollar
sale should be worth any grief that this old guy could give me
he'd already decided that he wanted this
particular floor model but the thing was he wanted a discount a big discount
granted this toolbox had been on the floor a long time with
paint scratches and a few kartings but that was just cosmetic
and it worked as a sturdy storage place for a lot of tools
just fine because of the sale week this shop box had already been marked down to
449 dollars however old guy wanted it for 300
which was beyond my discountability limit and i told old guy that
however i did call the manager and while he authorized some negotiation
325 would have to be the bottom dollar i didn't tell old guy that information
just that the manager had said i could mark it down some more
but just not that low so a bit more haggling an old guy accepted a price of 349
as it is out the door done since this was a verbal discount price
old guy wanted me to accompany him to the checkout counter
to finish the transaction after we pushed the box to check out
the fact that he had to stand in line like everybody else
made him cranky too but i digress while he waited i had turned to help another
customer with a key copy an old guy had made it to the cashier to
ring up his purchase but she had some news for us the sale
price had already been further marked down to clearance for 300 yay right
right no protests old guy if he can have it for that price he
wants a new still in the cardboard box one internally i'm screaming but this is
what you wanted isn't it politely but less cheerfully i remind
him that these are the last floor models
that's why the prices were so low but no he insists that i check the inventory
meanwhile he's holding up the line now too regardless and even less cheerfully
i checked that info in the scanner and show it to his face as proof
that these were indeed all that we had left
so now does old guy want what he said he wanted in the first
place no he pouts that since he can't have a new one
that we never had and now that other customers are backing up behind him
now he demands to get a further discount on an
already twice discounted clearance item with a last-ditch effort at reminding
him of what i've already told him i can't do that i flatly say
then i don't want it twitch what i yelled and tore off my work glove
slapping him across the face with it you insult me sir and you dishonor my
ancestors i must challenge you to a duel we meet a dawn no i didn't say that but
i did just grab the bar of the toolbox pulled it out of line and said firmly
i'll just put it back then old guy stammered just give me a discount just 25
no and i push it away without looking back this perfectly echoes the saying you
can't have your cake and eat it too you already agreed to 349 you go to the
checkout and they say oh look 300 you want even more off i'm really glad
the old guy didn't get the toolbox in the end honestly
this next story is by dargad082 you won't heed my warning about a shift
not being covered over the weekend have a nice weekend i work in an office
and at the time i was the new guy who only worked part-time taking shifts here
and there when needed i could do pretty much anything and did it well but often
had to ask around for extra shifts to make ends meet
one day our supervisor went on short-term disability leave after an
accident and an assistant let's call her brenda took over the job
which included the scheduling duties brenda was easily overwhelmed and we
believe that she was too proud to admit that she needed help she had to plan the
schedule for five teams and i'd often tell her that i'd be available for more
shifts to cover x or y as the slots were clearly empty
she was always pretty dismissive and most times it ended up not working more
people tried to work around her mishaps so there was never any direct
impact on the overall production one time i noticed that a loan position on
the weekend that nobody wants to do when that person lady was sick and away
was not being backfilled even though it was essential to have someone in that
chair hoping for extra shifts i sent brenda a casual email
to bring to her attention the fact that the chef was not filled and if she had
plans for that yet her response was an extra long email on
work ethics and respect for my colleagues time
that i'm new here and i should learn my place to stop begging for extra shifts
all the time and that she had nothing else for me that week duly noted ma'am cue
malicious compliance my last day at the office that week was wednesday
and i knew that the shift had still not been filled
when i left i wished everyone a nice weekend including brenda
see you next week it's important to mention that i was on call
they couldn't just put me on the schedule and expect me to show up they'd
have to confirm with me beforehand i got many many calls on saturday about
30 minutes after the beginning of that shift that was not being covered
asking where i was why i wasn't in that error alerts were being sent all over
the country because nobody was there to do the job
i told the weekend manager that i was out of town as i wasn't on the schedule
when i left on wednesday they'd need to take it up with brenda
monday morning i was called in a senior manager's office
i was told that they were giving me a written warning because i didn't show up
to work that weekend and it caused a lot of trouble for other
managers i pulled the email thread and was able to prove that i warned brenda
that a shift was not being filled that i would be available if needed but
that brenda made it clear she didn't need me they then checked the
log to see when the schedule was last changed and yep friday afternoon long
after i was gone i made it clear that she made no attempt to try to contact me
the senior manager apologized and i was able to return to work
i don't believe brenda was specifically punished as we're all allowed mistakes
it happens but she was eventually demoted she retired probably a year after the
incident i ended up being promoted to full time shortly after and as
it turns out 10 years later i'm now off a supervisor
doing a much better job at managing schedules
that paper trail will save you people will throw you under the bus
in business all the time and you need to be able to save yourself when necessary
saving any correspondence having an extra email and forwarding it to that
always a great idea this next story is by coda sharp
drop everything when you call got it back in march my company furloughed a
large amount of people only keeping the bare minimum of
essential people that i happen to be considered in
one of the rudest and most obnoxious people there was thankfully furloughed
so over the last five months things have been great
but two weeks ago she came back and has been her usual horrible
self i work for a publishing company as an accountant
i rarely deal with any of the other employees that aren't the publishers
customers or the other accountants there is one sales representative
we will call her mary two weeks ago as mary was
beginning her work again she had made a call to me stating that she needed her
access to our servers again and i told her i'd get to it within the
next hour to which she replied i've been here for 16 years i run this
company it doesn't work without me here so you'll do it and you'll do it
now well we did just fine for almost six
months without you but who am i to argue with stupid people
she gets her access to the office drives first scanners
printers nothing special and decides it's her turn to send an email to the
owner of our company saying that i was disrespectful and i wouldn't do anything
for her so he needed to put me in my place sure enough
mary got her wish and i was told to drop everything i was doing to do what she
needs no matter what i've got going on we're still working from home
but as one of the accountants i have access to our office building and get
asked to take care of some stupid things such as mailing our prints to the
printing company and yesterday mary was there i go around and pick up
all the pages to be printed put them in order and get them ready to
package and mary comes along screaming how i didn't call a customer
she demanded i call an email i hadn't even seen because i was collecting prints
the owner of the company being in his office hears her screaming and decides
to share that he did inform me to drop whatever i was doing
to help her catch up on her daily activities me
already annoyed with them asks you're sure you want me to drop what i'm doing
and call our customer right now and with the nod and turn to go back to
his office i drop the official prints on the ground
and they scatter across the floor bending and crumpling the papers
makes the printers angry when they're not perfect and a walk away to the phone
mary screams and yells at the owner who turns around and laughs and says
he didn't mean it literally but since i was doing what mary was supposed to be
doing she could stay and fix my mess she ended up staying
five hours past our regular closing time reprinting
and redoing the magazine order to get it out in time for publishing
the accounting team was so proud someone finally did
something and she refuses to talk to any of us anymore thankfully best news ever
after hearing this story i'm sure if op knew beforehand that all they had to do
to get married to stop talking to them was to annoy them to a certain degree
they'd have done it a long time ago so quickly now i want to explain just
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that said our final story of the day is by blueberry kind
grandpa got kicked out of a bar when my grandpa was a young man he worked on a
ship one time in a new city he and his shipmates went on land to a bar
they had some drinks and there was an altercation with another person
grandpa got kicked out of the bar and told the leave by the bar
owner his mates weren't kicked out my grandpa still chuckles when he tells
this part when i got kicked out i started running fast
much later when his mates returned to the ship they told my grandpa this
the bar owner said he sure runs fast the mate said
well yeah he was in charge and has all our money
police recalled but because the bar owner kicked him out before asking for
payment there wasn't anything they could do hey
not the mate's fault and shoot grandpa got their drinks for free
grandpa knew they had to get out of their asap and grandpa didn't get around
now that is a great story but with that being said that's all the time we have
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cat runs back inside grabs another hoof and takes it to him dogs doesn't want
that either goes back to fetch a third hoof dog finally accepts that one and
runs off cat goes back to lying in the bookshelf here's a bonus story about my
cat I have this red lighter and I've had
it for almost four years now it's one of my most prized possessions because come
on it's a lighter that lasted almost four years after my dog passed away we
got a new friend for the second dog this
new friend liked to steal things and eat them she got hold of this red lighter
and it was gone a week later in the middle of the night the cat jumped onto
the bed and tries to wake me up I can hear there's something in his mouth very
unlike him in being 3:00 a.m. I wanted nothing to do with him so I shoot him
away husband happened to be awake cat goes to him smacks his leg to get his
attention and drops my red lighter on the floor at his feet minus one piece
it's all good husband rewards the cow with scratches and a treat a few hours
later he came back with another lighter one which was not mine I don't know
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am I the for canceling our honeymoon and considering divorce when
my wife made out with a female friend at our wedding advice needed at 24m
recently got married this last week to my wife 24fx let's call her Sarah me and
my wife have been together for 4 years and have only had one major issue my
wife is a drinker she only drinks about once a week but usually drinks way more
than she can handle when we first got together I realized she has a habit of
making out with random women when she is drunk now I don't think this is sexy or
exciting I myself am bisexual and I view
this as cheating after the second time I caught her about a few months into
dating I sat her down and told her that absolutely would not be okay as long as
we were in a committed relationship it took many conversations for her to
understand that I was serious and viewed it as cheating she promised to stop but
insists that she didn't cheat she was good about cutting back on drinking and
being more mindful of me however over the years I caught her kissing two other
women once a random acquaintance and the last time about two years ago was with
her best friend turn mate of Honor Brook
24f important piece of information after I caught her the last time I had a
complete and total breakdown and it took her coming to my therapy sessions and
couples counseling for her understand how badly she hurt me I told her if it
ever happens again regardless of the circumstances I was out this brings us
to present the wedding day comes around and it was perfect happiest day of our
lives and whatnot then the reception we of course got pretty drunk not blackout
or belligerent but definitely drunk at some point my wife asked me to get her
pair of comfortable shoes on my way back I see my wife with Brooks tongue down
her throat in the middle of the dance floor with her other bridesmaids I
stomped my way into the reception pushed Brook out of the way and said something
along the lines of what the are you doing at this point everyone stopped and
looked at us and I just threw the shoes and walked out Sarah chased me out
balling historically since this has I happened I canceled our tickets and
hotel reservation for our honeymoon and I am strongly considering divorce my
lovely wife has gone from begging to crying to name calling she ultimately
decided I was a massive for embarrassing her at our wedding and
throwing away our relationship over nothing I think I'm just done this time
she's hurt me so many times and can't even see what she's doing wrong so am I
the TL Dr wife has a history of making out with other women when drunk
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my little sister feels more like my kid when I 35f was 14 my mom had my little
sister I was in accident the child that ruined my mother's life AK ruining her
chances at marrying rich and living her best life her words paraphrased but my
sister was planned my mom's entire pregnancy was a nightmare she was always
abusive but somehow being pregnant made her even worse the day they both came
home from the hospital it became my job to take care of my sister as you can
imagine that went over super well with a teenage girl but I did it every day I'd
come home from school to find my little sister still in her crib sometimes
crying and needing a diaper change while my mother in bed watching General
Hospital and screaming at me to take care of my sister anytime I pushed back
my mother would punish me she refused to take care of my sister because my
stepdad was the one who wanted a kid he could take care of her once he got home
which wouldn't be for hours so I take care of my sister cook dinner and do the
list of chores my mother demanded my first homecoming game my parents showed
up my mom dunked my sister on me so I at
15 had to walk around carrying my infant sister while my mom got drunk and had
the time of her life we'd go out to dinner and I'd be on baby Duty so the
servers would think she was my kid and talk to me like I'm the Mom I'd angrily
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has your partner ever done something so outrageous that you were never able to
forgive them I have been dating my boyfriend Andrew for 5 years now we've
had a healthy and stable relationship up until today Andrew has always been a
prankster and makes jokes with me all the time and I do it to him too but
today he took it way too far in the morning he woke me up at 7:00 a.m. and
told me to wake up because because he wanted to take me to the spa I was
pretty surprised cuz it wasn't a special day or anything but I was all in for it
at the start he told me how he wanted to go to a fancy restaurant after we were
done at the spa and that he was paying of course I agreed as we hadn't been out
together in a long time we then got to the restaurant we had a beautiful and
romantic dinner and just a nice time in general we were talking about a house we
were planning to move into and chatted about other stuff too after around 40
minutes Andrew stood up and got on his knees and took a box out of his pocket
my heart stopped beating I hadn't even predicted this we have never talked
about a proposal before but I also thought now would be a great time he did
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AIT for telling my 31f parents 60s M andf that my special needs younger
brother 29m is their problem not mine hey all I caused a rift in my own family
and friend group and I'm not sure if I'm in the wrong or not when I was 10 my
younger brother gav was diagnosed with autism our parents sat me down told me
what he had and that it would be my job to take care of him after they died I
remember asking what if I don't want to but being told that I'm silly and that
if I really loved him I'd do it well that shut down any and all argument for
me I should preface this by saying gav is easily the smartest person I've ever
met he's a wiiz at math and there were times I went to him for help with my
math homework he's also really kind and caring and is literally my cheerleader
when I was crowned homecoming queen my senior year of high school he excitedly
told everyone we met that his big sister was famous that being said he does need
help with day-to-day function he probably won't work anything more than a
menial job for the rest of his life because he doesn't have the social
skills needed to advance in a normal career despite being so intelligent he
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I got a tummy tuck and my I found out my husband is cheating on me tummy tuck
surgery is no joke the pain is intense I literally can't do anything my husband
has been helping me get out of bed and walk to the bathroom my husband has to
assist me with everything he even had to wipe my butt after I pooped no I didn't
get a tummy tuck for anyone other than myself I went through pregnancy and lose
weight and I was left with saggy skin and I always knew I was going to get a
tummy tuck now I got it it's just really tough right now I'm only on day four of
my recovery so I have to stick it out right now it's just even hard because I
found out my husband has been cheating on me since I was in my third trimester
in my pregnancy which was 3 years ago I wouldn't have ever found out about this
if I didn't never pick up his phone I found out yesterday about his cheating I
used his phone because his phone was closest to me and mine was not near me
as soon as I opened his phone it was different he had a hidden photos of his
girlfriend she's in college and she beautiful this hurts my husband is
cheating on me with a girl that's half our age yes she knows that my husband is
married I saw their messages they often talk about me she's not very kind she's
superficial and she called me ugly and that old lady and she apparently
understands why my husband is cheating on me she thinks my husband is too
handsome for me looking back on the dates from these messages he lied to me
about his whereabouts while he was actually with her my husband treats his
girlfriend better than me he takes her out of dates he holds her hand he
messages her to drive safety and he sends her good morning beautiful and
good night beautiful text messages he calls her sweet girl he tells her he
loves her he cooks for her he makes an effort to do nice things for her they
both will spend time with each other 40 minutes away in her town and they will
act like they are together in public since no one knows that them in that
town he spent last Valentine's with her I learned my husband started cheating on
me because I lost my sex drive during my pregnancy his affair started to be a
friends with benefits thing but then they eventually being in a relationship
and started to have feelings for each other I haven't said anything to my
husband I'm just so devastated I'm also so vulnerable right now especially after
my surgery I don't have the energy to fight about this right now and I really
need someone to take care of me until I can do everything by myself again
especially since I have no one else I have no one now other than my son but
he's so young I can't tell him all this right now I'm trying to keep it together | give me a good story on IgotatummytuckandmyIfoundoutmyhusbandischeatingonme |
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:09.030 --> :17.360 I used to be a server at a major restaurant
chain that you see in every mall in the US, :17.360 --> :21.680
and my particular location just happened to
be in one of the wealthier parts of the country. :21.680 --> :25.860
Because of that, a large percentage of the
clientele wanted their dishes a certain way. :25.860 --> :30.080
There were some oddball regulars (like the
one lady who wanted a Caesar salad with no :30.080 --> :35.960
dressing but 3 whole lemons to squeeze on
the lettuce) but 99% of the time they'd ask :35.960 --> :41.570
for rigatoni instead of penne in a dish, or
red onion instead of yellow on a burger, or :41.570 --> :42.989
something of that nature. :42.989 --> :47.329
The thing about this chain, though, is that
technically you're supposed to charge them :47.329 --> :49.320
for substitutions like that. :49.320 --> :54.499
So, for instance, if a guest wanted a different
kind of dressing on a salad, it might be a :54.499 --> :56.059
10 cent charge. :56.059 --> :00.989
Or if they wanted Swiss instead of cheddar
on their burger, it would be like a 15 cent :00.989 --> :01.989
charge. :01.989 --> :05.390 As a server you were supposed to know all
the upcharges, but because there were like :05.390 --> :11.090
26 pages to the menu it was daunting enough to just memorize what we even had.
:11.090 --> :15.500 But obviously no one ever charged for these
things because what's an extra 15 cents on :15.500 --> :19.840
a $200 tab, especially when you're in the
weeds and you're pretty sure the host stand :19.840 --> :21.950
wants you to have a mental breakdown. :21.950 --> :26.990
Not only that, but because rich people tend
to be the stingiest mfers you'll ever meet, :26.990 --> :31.180
we would never charge them because they would instantly complain if you did.
:31.180 --> :35.610 And the restaurant's policy was essentially
"the customer is always right" no matter how :35.610 --> :37.000
wrong they were. :37.000 --> :42.479
We even had regular grifters that would order
the "wrong thing" and then complain and get :42.479 --> :46.049
an entire free meal EVERY FREAKING TIME. :46.049 --> :49.149
This happened in a south Phoenix higher end
grocery store in the 90s when I was just starting :49.149 --> :50.149
out in the grocery industry. :50.149 --> :52.450
I was working perimeter (basically stocking
and floor customer service) when a visibly :52.450 --> :56.399
perplexed “Florence”, my front end manager,
asked me “OP could-c-could you help me find :56.399 --> :57.399
Mintzos?”. :57.399 --> :00.750
She was accompanied by two people with thick
UK/brit accents who chimed in “yes this :00.750 --> :04.219
“person” (they frigging used air quotes) doesn’t know WHAT she’s doing….we need
:04.219 --> :06.820 someone a little more cultured, a little less
..” “brown!” :06.820 --> :08.270 The other person quipped racistly.
:08.270 --> :09.270 Omfg really? :09.270 --> :13.840
This is just small malicious compliance to
save some food, but I think it´s pretty interesting
:13.840 --> :14.840 so enjoy! :14.840 --> :19.720
So I work at a gas station as a cashier usually early mornings on weekends.
:19.720 --> :22.890 Our station has a lot of food in store that's
packaged like chocolate bars, drinks, etc. :22.890 --> :28.360
but since the prices are so high, most of
our stock expires before we can sell it and :28.360 --> :30.340
we have to throw it away. :30.340 --> :33.590
Besides the packaged foods and drinks, we
also serve premade sandwiches and other pastry :33.590 --> :38.959
which can only be made and sold in one day
and needs to be thrown away at the end of :38.959 --> :39.959 the day.
:39.959 --> :42.739 Unsurprisingly, prices for those items are
even higher and so they are rarely sold and :42.739 --> :47.940
we throw away kilograms of food every single evening.
:47.940 --> :53.910 I asked my boss if we could just eat it after
it needs to be thrown away because it´s still :53.910 --> :57.130
good food but health regulations just say
we can´t sell them after a couple of hours :57.130 --> :58.130
laying in the fridge. :58.130 --> :02.390
My boss said no because he doesn´t trust
us to not make food in the evening just for :02.390 --> :03.390
us to eat. :03.390 --> :07.120
I countered with the idea of just putting
these items on sale before we throw them out :07.120 --> :11.620
so we don´t have to pay half of our hourly
wage or more on a sandwich and customers could :11.620 --> :13.040
save it for a less price. :13.040 --> :19.920
Ok not sure if this one quite counts as it's
more painful compliance but it always makes :19.920 --> :21.680
me laugh and I still tease the guy. :21.680 --> :24.030
So you lot might enjoy.I work in a call center. :24.030 --> :29.310
Most of the time, when a customer calls in,
I look at their phone number to access their :29.310 --> :32.840
account SO I can take some notes from the call. :32.840 --> :38.580
When a phone number isn't associated with
an account, I usually ask for the customer :38.580 --> :39.580
address. :39.580 --> :42.470 So, this story didn’t happen now, but 2
years ago. :42.470 --> :46.970
Anyone who has worked dealing with customers
in a fast food restaurant knows that upselling :46.970 --> :51.599
customers is the most s****y and unconfortable
thing to do, so, when the oportunity for me :51.599 --> :54.560
to have fun with it came up, I took it. :54.560 --> :00.500
There was an error in the program where we
took orders and I noticed a 16x piece chicken :00.500 --> :05.660
fried bits (dont know the actual name) was
for 0.00€, I should’ve reported it, but :05.660 --> :08.719
this is a huge multi international company,
and they paid poorly, so f*** them, and so, :08.719 --> :10.470
since the moment I noticed this error, I "upsold"
this product EVERY single customer I served, :10.470 --> :12.689
and honestly, had a lot of fun working that day. :12.689 --> :15.019
The error was found later that same day. :15.019 --> :18.500
My phone rings, "Hello, this is a_tattooed_biker, how can I help you?"
:18.500 --> :21.900 C: "Yeah, your equipment that you installed
at my house isn't working." :21.900 --> :24.760
I searched for the phone number, it isn't associated with an account.
:24.760 --> :27.960 "Sir, if I could get your add-" C: "COULD
I FINISH SPEAKING PLEASE?" :27.960 --> :28.960
Cue malicious compliance. :28.960 --> :32.979
Me: "Certainly" C: "I paid a lot of money
for this equipment and it's not working! :32.979 --> :34.820
I want someone out there to fix it today." :34.820 --> :35.820
Silence. C: "hello?" :35.820 --> :37.639
Me: "I was waiting until you are finished. :37.639 --> :43.340
If so, could I start by getting your address so I can access your account?"
:43.340 --> :47.889 C:"123 fake name road, nowhere, MO" - you
could hear the defeat in their voice. :47.889 --> :50.250
Me: "ok, what seems to be the problem?" :50.250 --> :51.430
It never gets old. :51.430 --> :56.530
For context: I teach high school English and this was a class of freshmen.
:56.530 --> :59.919 I worked in a menswear chain for several years.
:59.919 --> :05.940 Every six weeks, we'd get the new merchandising
directive that told us what garments to put :05.940 --> :08.699
on the mannequins and where to display everything. :08.699 --> :12.950
One spring, the buyers were watching too much
Project Runway or something, because they :12.950 --> :14.220
went a little nuts. :14.220 --> :19.080
We received a full shipment of gingham (tablecloth
plaid) shirts in a full array of Easter egg :19.080 --> :20.080
colors. :20.080 --> :25.750
The directive was to put these in the front
window, with the pink one on the mannequin. :25.750 --> :30.710
Mind you, our target demographic is older,
upper middle-class white males in a fairly :30.710 --> :31.710
conservative midwestern suburb. :31.710 --> :32.940
Pinstripes are considered "too loud." :32.940 --> :35.940
I decided that I'd use the navy gingham shirt
instead, partially because the Pepto-Bismol :35.940 --> :41.050
pink hurt my eyes, and partly because I knew
we wouldn't sell a single one anyway. :41.050 --> :44.360
Might as well display something our customers might buy.
:44.360 --> :50.199 About a week later, the Regional Manager stopped
by and threw a fit because we deviated from :50.199 --> :51.199
the Merchandising Directive. :51.199 --> :56.039
He actually held up the binder we kept them in and said "This is your Bible!"
:56.039 --> :57.800 So the god-awful shirt goes on the mannequin.
:57.800 --> :01.330 He busys himself with messing up all of our
other organizational methods and generally :01.330 --> :03.040
making a nuisance of himself for a few hours. :03.040 --> :08.380
Meanwhile, people are walking past, and stopping
to gawk at the pink tablecloth the mannequin :08.380 --> :09.380
is wearing. :09.380 --> :16.099
The final straw was when a regular customer
came into the store, saw the shirt, and burst :16.099 --> :17.099
out laughing. :17.099 --> :18.099 "Are you serious?
:18.099 --> :20.240 You expect someone to buy that hideous thing?"
:20.240 --> :21.690 I was delighted that RM heard it.
:21.690 --> :25.380 He went into a spiel about how it's inspired
by fashions seen on the runway in Milan, and :25.380 --> :26.479
really very trendy. :26.479 --> :30.699
The man looked at him and said "If I wanted
to be trendy, I wouldn't be shopping here." :30.699 --> :34.250
I had to step into the back room to laugh. :34.250 --> :45.080 The
next week when I got to work, the mannequin :45.080 --> :50.160
was dressed in the blue shirt again, and two
months later, we packed up each and every :50.160 --> :54.470
one of those awful shirts and sent them to the outlet store.
:54.470 --> :58.540 We started class with a Kahoot (a quiz style
game that awards points). :58.540 --> :02.750
As they’re coming in, I’m telling them to join with an appropriate nickname.
:02.750 --> :06.449 After the bell rang, I stressed that their
names must be appropriate. :06.449 --> :10.490
Guess who ended up with 13 different kids with the name appropriate?
:10.490 --> :16.560 Just to note on ships closing doors is a critical
thing both for fire and flood control so many :16.560 --> :19.810
doors have "KEEP CLOSED AT ALL TIMES" on them. :19.810 --> :25.500
I was working on a ship and buddy's with the operational coordinator guy.
:25.500 --> :29.729 At lunch call I popped in to say "are you
heading up?" :29.729 --> :35.280
He got up and started ahead of me down the
corridor and just walked right into the door :35.280 --> :36.800
nose first with a quite impressive crunch. :36.800 --> :39.530
I doubled up and when I could speak told him. :39.530 --> :43.620
"I know it says keep closed at ALL times but that's taking compliance to far!"
:43.620 --> :50.960 Luckily he's not on the boat I'm on now which
has signs saying "You must wash your hands :50.960 --> :55.629
at all times" otherwise he'd end up with some OCD issues.
:55.629 --> :59.750 My boss declined again saying that we can´t
do that either for some reason. :59.750 --> :03.770
I asked if we could donate everything in the
evening to homeless people in the area. :03.770 --> :05.080
My boss said no... :05.080 --> :07.120 Cue my malicious compliance...
:07.120 --> :13.620 I´ve made it my duty to now remove everything
from the store as soon as it expires and even :13.620 --> :16.880
made a list for my colleagues to look up when things expire.
:16.880 --> :21.379 (No we didn´t do that before, it just lay
there on the shelves until someone found it) :21.379 --> :26.580
With that, every shelf has now empty holes
without stock, and my boss's office is full :26.580 --> :31.970
with expired stuff because she "Needs to check
every item to make sure none of us is eating :31.970 --> :32.970 it"
:32.970 --> :37.580 I´ve taken my time to add up the amount of
food we threw out in just a week (10kg of :37.580 --> :45.750
fresh sandwiches, 6kg of small packaged snacks,
and over 20 bottles of soft drinks) and calculated :45.750 --> :52.330
that over $400 worth of food went to the trash
in half a week because we didn´t discount :52.330 --> :53.330 them.
:53.330 --> :56.860 I´ve asked a lot of customers about their
opinion to implement such a discount to reduce :56.860 --> :00.710
the waste of food and I just got positive responses!
:00.710 --> :05.650 My boss however was not happy that I talked
about problems with customers and got pretty :05.650 --> :06.650
mad at me. :06.650 --> :11.340
I showed her the numbers I calculated and
what we could potentially earn with a discount :11.340 --> :15.690
of 20% based on the customer's opinions I got when talking to them.
:15.690 --> :20.210 The majority of them would buy more to save
food and with a discount, they´d much rather :20.210 --> :21.460
buy something. :21.460 --> :27.160
My boss was too stunned to speak when I told
her that she´s losing thousands of dollars :27.160 --> :32.500
a month to the trashcan, but since it wasn´t
his idea he´s rather losing the money than :32.500 --> :33.580
admitting I´m right... :33.580 --> :38.830
It’s evident that these customers were the
rudest racistist people, and it didn’t fit :38.830 --> :39.830
the accent. :39.830 --> :44.630
I thought Brit’s were prim and proper (my
90s ignorance shining like a beacon of obstruction).
:44.630 --> :47.980 “Yes, we Need You to help us, not HER”
they continued. :47.980 --> :50.550
Fine by this biracial dude..I’ll help, with a side of MC.
:50.550 --> :54.210 We walked and they explained Mintzos to me.
:54.210 --> :58.270 I knew right away it was their accent that
was the problem in understanding, and knew :58.270 --> :00.370
right away what it was and where it was. :00.370 --> :01.370
I played dumb though. :01.370 --> :04.300
First I walked them halfway across the store to the candy aisle Mentos…nope?
:04.300 --> :07.560 Secondly I walk to the mouthwash.
:07.560 --> :18.820 Then the marshmallows, then for the continued
fun of it, candied yams. :18.820 --> :49.780
Each time I pick up the item and turn to them
and present like this was the price is right…Mintzos?
:49.780 --> :05.010 And each time they get more frustrated, to
the point of eventually leaving in frustration. :05.010 --> :23.330
I follow them from a distance as they shake
their head, vowing never to shop here again. :23.330 --> :32.660
I catch up with Florence and let her know
what happened..”…they wanted Mint sauce, :32.660 --> :33.660 aisle 8”
:33.660 --> :44.100 We gave each other an eye high five, Ala John
mulaney, and go about our brown business. :44.100 --> :50.770
Weird thing was I’m browner than she was. :50.770 --> :00.360
So one normal day I'm serving a table and
someone asks for goat cheese on their salad :00.360 --> :04.070
instead of feta, which is supposed to be one of those 10 cent changes.
:04.070 --> :09.270 I obviously don't add the upcharge, just like
I hadn't for any of the other countless times :09.270 --> :25.210
in over 3 years, and like 15 minutes later
the new manager (I'll just call him Brad) :25.210 --> :28.430
comes along and pretty much chews me out over it. :28.430 --> :50.990
Keep in mind, this is Brad's 2nd day on the
job and he came from the other side of the :50.990 --> :56.460
country to replace our beloved former manager
who left to manage her own restaurant. :56.460 --> :00.990
Dude hadn't even introduced himself to me
and he comes out of nowhere to yell at me :00.990 --> :04.190
for not doing the upcharge. :04.190 --> :32.690
I explained to him why I didn't, and how it
was pretty much a directive from the GM not :32.690 --> :43.600
to do upcharges because of the 99% chance
that a complaint and free meal would follow. :43.600 --> :48.790
But Brad just blah blah blahs some more and
tells me I need to add the upcharges or I'd :48.790 --> :49.790
get written up. :49.790 --> :53.280
So when the next table (a party of seven that
had a $500ish bill) changes literally every :53.280 --> :56.790
dish, I added the upcharges (which totaled like, $1 at most).
:56.790 --> :02.110 When I dropped the check they freaked out
over all the upcharges (even though I informed :02.110 --> :06.700
them of the charges when they ordered, the
itemized receipt made it look so much more :06.700 --> :14.990
severe) and they demanded to speak to the manager. :14.990 --> :21.600
Instead of getting any of the other managers
I had worked with for years, I grabbed Brad :21.600 --> :23.140
and made him deal with them. :23.140 --> :31.000
He ended up having to comp all $500ish because
he insisted I charge an extra dollar for all :31.000 --> :33.780
the substitutions. :33.780 --> :39.140 But did he learn his lesson?
:39.140 --> :40.190 Nope! :40.190 --> :48.240
So I did it over and over again to the detriment
of my bank account (most people still tipped :48.240 --> :55.060
me though, so that was nice) and I got to
watch tables routinely chew him out over the :55.060 --> :56.690
charges. :56.690 --> :14.760 This continued for a month or so until he
finally relented, and not too long after I :14.760 --> :28.360
was suspiciously fired for "creating a hostile
work environment"....while on vacation. | give me a good story on rMaliciousComplianceHOWILOSTTHECOMPANYMONEYBYSELLINGCHICKENRedditStoriesen |
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am I the for calling off the wedding because I am suspicious what my
fiance did at her bachelorette party 27m and 28f here I decided to call of the
wedding after some suspicious events happened at my fiance's bachelorette
party we were going to get married next week on Saturday and had our
bachelorette parties this week me and the boys hung out together at a friend's
place chatted and played game my fiance and her bridesmaids decided on going to
Mian wine house it's a traditional Turkish entertainment place I called and
texted her that night but there was no reply my gut feeling screamed something
was wrong so I decided to ask about it to S I know her through the family and
she is not as close as with my fiance as other bridesmaids she told me they went
to a club a very nasty one at that there are no stripper clubs in Turkey to my
knowledge but that specific place they went is just nasty I went to there for a
New Year's party in the past and that was the craziest I have witnessed
it's no different than a brothel I asked how come they went to that club instead
of Mian she told me others changed their mind on the way but she did not go as
she did not like clubs at all I get a reply from my fiance late in the morning
and told me they stayed at D another Bri
rides Maids place after getting drunk in Mian I asked her if everyone is there
she said yes now the problem is de's place is almost 2.5 hours away from that
place there is no way seven girls were able to go together to that place in the
midnight especially when public transport was not available taxi is out
of question due to the cost and capacity I asked one of my friends to call her
girlfriend who is another bridesmaid she told him she went back to her place and
others just went to different places there are inconsistencies all over I
face cammed my fiance right away on WhatsApp but she said she would call me
once she is a available she called me some minutes later but she was outside
and I am pretty sure it was not the district D lived in I confronted her
about it once she came back but she could not give any satisfying answers to
my question it became I must have said it wrong first than other bridesmaids
except s texted me confirming things all at once it was so obvious there was
something fishy here and they were coordinated by my fiance alarms were
ringing in my head and yesterday I decided to call off the wedding no one
explains me what happened that night clearly when they do there are
inconsistencies all over I announced it in friend groups and family groups she
is going crazy right now but still there is no single satisfying answer about
what happened that night I was even told not to be an insecure guy but there is
just no way everything points to at least something fishy happened there and
they are trying to cover it my friend whose GF was bridesmaid has also decided
to break up with her it is chaos all over am I the | give me a good story on AITAHforcallingofftheweddingbecauseIamsuspiciouswhatmyfianceedidatherbacheloretteorig |
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today we have a crazy malicious compliance story
about somebody trying to be a Good Samaritan but
:05.280 --> :11.100
it turning into so much more we'll get into that
in a bit but first you know how it's done right
:11.100 --> :17.940
then so about 15 or so years ago I was working in
a little metal working firm two brothers owned 30
:17.940 --> :24.120
or so workers metal casting further processing
up to including wires and other things we had
:24.120 --> :29.580 about five women working in production me
my mom and three others one of them was The
:29.580 --> :34.740 Unofficial sweetheart of one of our bosses
Karen changing name for privacy couldn't do
:34.740 --> :40.680
wrong whatever went wrong wasn't her fault ever I
had a run-in with her a few times already and it
:40.680 --> :45.840
wasn't the best but I'm more of the silent type
let others do what they want I'll do my thing
:45.840 --> :51.120 Etc us women were mostly there for preparing
the product for sending out washing metal bits
:51.120 --> :57.480
grounding back seams sorting small things into
good and broken or not fully cast Etc I've been
:57.480 --> :02.700
working there summers in the 90s with my grand
and his unofficial supervisor and she showed me
:02.700 --> :07.740
the ropes later when I worked there full time I
knew the ins and outs of things and some tricks
:07.740 --> :13.200
Grand worked out along the way especially with
our washing machines imagine them as a big bowl
:13.200 --> :19.680
filled with specially formed Stones add water
and cleaning agent the metal bits and it would
:19.680 --> :24.420
vibrate in the stones rubbing against the product
with soap and water would clean the product from
:24.420 --> :30.720
residual oil and other things one of the machines
required a more special touch apart from throw in
:30.720 --> :36.120
start done I've been working there long enough and
had been shown by Gran and Mom how to set up that
:36.120 --> :42.060
machine it polished the metal on top of cleaning
it with tiny spherical metal bits never cared
:42.060 --> :46.740
enough to ask what they were made of it was enough
to know how to use it to make things shine so one
:46.740 --> :51.720
day I get a call boss asking if I was washing
something at the moment and what I was working
:51.720 --> :57.360
on I told them no done with washing I was just now
drilling the last holes and preparing the product
:57.360 --> :03.420
for shipping out he said he'd send Karen down with
something time sensitive and that was that Karen
:03.420 --> :08.700
comes down an hour later crate with time sensitive
products has been there for a while and it's
:08.700 --> :15.180
coated with oil soot and all things nasty ready
to be cleaned and Polished in that special machine
:15.180 --> :20.340
I ask if she needs some help or some pointers
since I know that machine is a bit complicated
:20.340 --> :26.400
to set up right she looks at me dirty and sweaty
as I was actually from working and she was nearly
:26.400 --> :32.880
Pristine from doing whatever she did with the boss
don't care keep me out of it and sniffs tells me
:32.880 --> :40.080
she knows how to wash them and disappears in the
washroom well then if you know akali comes over
:40.080 --> :45.540 and asks if she ever used that machine and
I shrug and tell him not that I know of she
:45.540 --> :52.980
wasn't very popular there can you tell I go back
to work time goes by lunch more time and then our
:52.980 --> :58.860
boss shows up product needs to be sent out today
not long after there's a shout for me to come to
:58.860 --> :04.140
the washroom turn turns out Karen doesn't know
how to use the machine the whole thing is oily
:04.140 --> :11.040
black and nasty product looks worse than before
she used the wrong cleaning agent didn't add the
:11.040 --> :16.440
polishing powder at the right time and pretty much
screwed the whole thing up boss asked me why I
:16.440 --> :23.460
didn't say something help her intervened anything
well she said she knew what to do ask colleague
:23.460 --> :28.920
he was there door to the washroom is closed and I
have other things to do than stick my nose where
:28.920 --> :34.380
it's not wanted do I know how to deal with this
problem sure machine and Stones need cleaning
:34.380 --> :40.320
product needs cleaning it's gonna take a while
in the end Karen was allowed to finish my dirty
:40.320 --> :46.080
work and I spent the rest of the day cleaning up
her mess I wasn't allowed to leave the washroom
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bosses orders so I started a washing cycle with
the right agent and no product in to clean the
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machine in Stones sat down and did nothing then
added the product more cleaning agent and powder
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after the oily Gunk was gone on and pretty much
spent half a day doing close to nothing while
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Karen had to do my work I could have helped her
but us unwashed peasants were not good enough for
:10.680 --> :17.160
her highness just as clean and as wrinkle free as
her clothes were her brain was the exact same way
:17.160 --> :22.800 also hi I'm Stephen and if you enjoy awesome
stories of malicious compliance why not hit
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those like And subscribe buttons down below that
said our next story is complain to me pretending
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to be a patient's father well let's involve her
parents then I used to work at a very nice Private
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Hospital where the place looked like a hotel the
food was great and the service unrivaled we were
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voted best Private Hospital in the country quite a
few times and all around people were happy and the
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care was great the nurses were mostly old school
Stern but very passionate about patient care with
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no time for anything that stops them from doing
their job my job was to focus on marketing and
:56.940 --> :02.760
complaints and to be honest I didn't have a lot
lot of work on the complaint side but every now
:02.760 --> :08.220
and again something would come up if there was an
incident the RNs would usually come and warn me to
:08.220 --> :13.860
expect something and give their side of the story
one morning as I got to work an RN was waiting at
:13.860 --> :19.260
my door to update me on an incident the previous
night there was an 18 year old patient who had a
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small op but was prone to dizziness and fainting
now slip and Falls are a big thing in hospitals
:24.900 --> :30.360
and these incidents get monitored very closely
since she was a slip and fall risk they moved her
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to a private room right in front of the nurse's
station so that she can be monitored throughout
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the night and day one night the tattoo clad older
nurse's description 20-something boyfriend comes
:42.240 --> :48.600 to visit and forgets that this is in fact a
hospital and not a hotel Old School Stern nurse
:48.600 --> :54.840
realized something is amiss when the room's doors
were closed and after she pushed the door open the
:54.840 --> :00.660
curtains around the bed was drawn too seeing the
Privacy takes second priority to to a patient's
:00.660 --> :06.540
healing and safety in a hospital old school nurse
wasn't having any of this she pulls the curtains
:06.540 --> :12.300
open pulls the boyfriend out of the hospital bed
and gave them both a talking to tattoo boyfriend
:12.300 --> :18.420
left soon afterwards apparently Furious that his
evening was ruined sure enough two hours after the
:18.420 --> :24.240
nurse visited my office I get a mail from the
patient's father detailing how his daughter's
:24.240 --> :31.200
privacy was invaded the previous night how she
had a private conversation with her boyfriend and
:31.200 --> :36.480
how they were unfairly treated by a nurse I was
surprised that an older gentleman would write an
:36.480 --> :42.840
email to a hospital with so many spelling errors
and complete a lack of punctuation but the email
:42.840 --> :49.740
address something like tattoo guy at gmail was
a total giveaway as to who the real author was
:49.740 --> :56.340
now technically I was just able to reply on the
email detailing our experience inside of the story
:56.340 --> :03.300
however sharing private patient information on an
email to an unconfirmed email address is bound to
:03.300 --> :09.720
get me in serious trouble so I did what Annie's
saying and perhaps slightly malicious person would
:09.720 --> :15.840
do I call document control and asked them to pull
the email address on file for me this happened to
:15.840 --> :21.300
belong to her mom I forwarded the email to her
mentioning that I received the following email
:21.300 --> :26.640
from her daughter's father but since she's the
contact person on file and we need to stick with
:26.640 --> :31.980
the people that we have permission to contact may
she be as kind to a share our response with him
:31.980 --> :37.680
I then detailed what the nurse told me about the
patient being a slip and fall risk that requires
:37.680 --> :44.040
constant monitoring about the boyfriend visiting
about the door and curtain being closed and the
:44.040 --> :49.380
nurse catching them in the hospital bed together
I apologized on behalf of the nurse for invading
:49.380 --> :55.260
their privacy but explained that open doors are
protocol to ensure a patient's safety and our main
:55.260 --> :01.440
priority is getting a patient safe healthy and
back at home as soon as possible I ended the mail
:01.440 --> :07.800
with my contact details and invited her to contact
me if she has any further questions well if the
:07.800 --> :13.200
parents didn't know about the incident they knew
now I'm told the daughter was well behaved for the
:13.200 --> :18.060
remainder of their time and the boyfriend didn't
stop by once during the rest of the patient's
:18.060 --> :24.780
day so Lessons Learned don't include your parents
details on your hospital file as your main contact
:24.780 --> :31.140
details if you don't want them contacted don't
try and catfish a Hospital employee and respect
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a hospital for what it is a place of healing and
not a hotel honestly kind of impressive that they
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were willing to risk it and go for it right there
in the hospital I can only imagine how they were
:42.120 --> :47.460
feeling in that oh crap moment when they hear
the door open up our next story is don't even
:47.460 --> :53.220
think to talk to you sure this morning I went
out for a nice breakfast and coffee at a cafe
:53.220 --> :59.460
located in a square with my female friend I sat
outside to enjoy the most of such a beautiful day
:59.460 --> :05.700
halfway through I went to a toilet and there was
a queue I was pushed by someone behind and as a
:05.700 --> :10.860
result I bumped into the girl in front of me she
turned around and gave me an angry look I quickly
:10.860 --> :16.140
told her I was sorry and someone pushed me from
behind people behind me quickly denied it and it
:16.140 --> :22.260
seemed to become very weird so I moved back to
avoid conflict a couple standing nearby told her
:22.260 --> :27.960
about the incident but she insisted it was me
trying to hit on her as the group again denied
:27.960 --> :33.480
and told the couple to mind their own business
when she walked back out she threw me a disgusted
:33.480 --> :39.000 look I didn't want to make a scene so I just
ignored her when I came back to my table I told
:39.000 --> :44.520
my friend about the incident the girl stood up to
go inside for something my friend and I caught a
:44.520 --> :50.760
very noticeable red stain in the bottom of her
white pants spread all the way up to the half
:50.760 --> :56.760
of the bottom area we gave each other a look of
guessing if it was a period blood I felt bad for
:56.760 --> :02.340
her so trying to be a better person and asking
my friend to warn her as we're in a very crowded
:02.340 --> :07.920
area my friend walked over with a piece of paper
trying to slip the message to her but she quickly
:07.920 --> :12.720 moved back didn't even wait for my friend to
say anything and started raising her voice
:12.720 --> :20.280
calling us creeps and trying to take advantage of
a beautiful young girl her exact words and so on
:20.280 --> :28.080
she ended everything with oh heck no no no no you
stay away from me you and your disgusting friend I
:28.080 --> :33.000
don't want to hear anything from you don't ever
talk to me you pieces of crap go away or I'll
:33.000 --> :38.640
call the police my friend was shocked but simply
complied and returned to our table the guy of the
:38.640 --> :43.620
couple in the toilet incident was sitting near us
and told us that he let her embarrass herself she
:43.620 --> :48.900
went straight inside to find the manager trying to
get us kicked out the manager came outside to talk
:48.900 --> :56.100
to us we all including the couple gave our side
of the event and demanded to check CCTV footage we
:56.100 --> :04.560
all walked back in and Bam there it was me being
pushed me minding my own business the whole time
:04.560 --> :11.460 and there she was walking in and out several
times with her period all over her pants my
:11.460 --> :16.680
friends showed them the note she was embarrassed
and tried to twist the guilt to us and excuse how
:16.680 --> :22.740
it's normal for her to act that way not even a
sorry or anything after we cleared our name the
:22.740 --> :28.500
manager apologized we left right after that on the
way out we all laughed as we saw the girl trying
:28.500 --> :33.900
to walk and cover her butt with her purse in this
situation instead of complying and just leaving
:33.900 --> :39.660
should they have just blurted out loud like maybe
extra loud I was just trying to help you in your
:39.660 --> :45.240
situation and you know then explain what was going
on or was it the right thing to just leave let her
:45.240 --> :51.720
have her assumptions and let her find out later on
on her own our next story is the angry Christians
:51.720 --> :57.240
so I just remembered this after talking about high
school with a friend and it jogged my memory so
:57.240 --> :02.640
I went to a Christian High School of course they
accepted people of every Faith they weren't that
:02.640 --> :08.940
kind of Christian School you sometimes hear about
well one day when I was in year 9 maybe 10 I'm in
:08.940 --> :15.660
the UK by the way so ages 13 to 15. we got invited
to go on a Christian retreat which is basically
:15.660 --> :21.180
a bunch of students who signed up for it going
to a building like a big sleepover going hiking
:21.180 --> :27.720
obviously talking about religion and generally
having a good time now something to note I was and
:27.720 --> :33.900
quite frankly still am an emo so I was listening
to a lot of different bands and singers that
:33.900 --> :39.780
wouldn't be considered Christian anyway me and
about 15 other students signed up for this Retreat
:39.780 --> :45.060
most of us weren't religious but it was a good
time to get away from things it was only a couple
:45.060 --> :50.460
hours away from our school but the mountains in
Greenery made it so peaceful well on the first day
:50.460 --> :56.700
there we got asked to come into the Hall introduce
ourselves and talk about what was going on then
:56.700 --> :02.400
they decided to have a little fun I want us to go
around and talk about our t-shirts and share why
:02.400 --> :08.580
we wore them said one of the Christian ladies no
one put their hand up to volunteer so she started
:08.580 --> :14.280
picking on people she picked on one guy who had
a generic t-shirt on and he was reluctant to say
:14.280 --> :19.860 anything come on now talk about why you wore
your T-shirt and what it means to you you've
:19.860 --> :25.440
got to do it it's a fun little Icebreaker the
boy awkwardly said that he wore it because he
:25.440 --> :31.620
liked the band and the color and that was that
then she saw my friendly face not kidding even
:31.620 --> :37.500
though I was an emo I was super smiley she said oh
you would you like to tell us all what's on your
:37.500 --> :44.460
T-shirt and why you wore it come on show us all
how it's done oh well she did ask for it uh I'm
:44.460 --> :49.200
wearing a band t-shirt because I like listening
to their music and what does that writing say
:50.160 --> :58.560
um going to hell silence well needless to say we
did not continue playing that icebreaker game and
:58.560 --> :05.040
from then on they didn't really like me still
had some fun though not gonna lie growing up I
:05.040 --> :11.100 actually did go on some kind of similar-ish
retreat type thing and although I personally
:11.100 --> :16.620
don't believe myself to be practicing any kind of
religion nowadays I actually did find it to be a
:16.620 --> :22.560
rather fun time I mean there were still other kids
to hang around with they were all good people and
:22.560 --> :27.240
there was also plenty of time given to go around
and play things like volleyball basketball and
:27.240 --> :31.440 they even had a lake we got to go around on
paddle boats which was pretty neat until we
:31.440 --> :37.020
found out that there were alligators in the water
and everybody was scared away my boss punished
:37.020 --> :43.380
me by reducing my hours but didn't tell the other
boss this happened quite a while ago I was working
:43.380 --> :49.020
remotely for a staffing agency organizing and
managing events when I was initially hired on
:49.020 --> :54.120
it was due to the fact that three employees were
quitting they all seemed to be leaving amicably to
:54.120 --> :58.920
pursue other Ventures so I didn't think anything
of it they had hired myself and one other person
:58.920 --> :05.100
to place them and everything was going fine over
time I started to notice little things here and
:05.100 --> :11.640
there like issues due to miscommunication between
the owners married couple and a heavy workload
:11.640 --> :17.400 a few months in I was assaulted and had been
injured pretty badly it was really difficult
:17.400 --> :23.160
obviously but I worked remotely so I was still
able to work I told my bosses I had an emergency
:23.160 --> :29.040
and was injured and needed to take some time off
almost immediately one of the owners called and
:29.040 --> :34.140
left an angry sounding voicemail I called him
back and ended up having to tell them that I'd
:34.140 --> :39.780
been assaulted and went to the hospital and all
that he seemed sympathetic but near the end of
:39.780 --> :44.940
the conversation he noted that I was supposed
to be managing an event that weekend Friday to
:44.940 --> :49.620
Sunday and that they had no one else to manage
it he didn't do any of that but his wife did
:49.620 --> :55.440
however we always had at least five events we were
organizing and managing at a time I was afraid I
:55.440 --> :01.680
would get fired so I ended up having to work that
weekend it wasn't isn't so bad but I was in an
:01.680 --> :06.840
incredible amount of pain and due to my injuries
the doctor said they couldn't prescribe me any
:06.840 --> :12.780
strong pain medication due to complications that
may arise I worked that weekend and pushed through
:12.780 --> :19.680
shortly after that they fired another employee
and gave me her workload then they chose me to do
:19.680 --> :26.460
a very long running two plus months event taking
place in two different time zones they initially
:26.460 --> :31.920
decided the event would be split between myself
and another employee she was pregnant it matters
:31.920 --> :37.440
for context due to the size of the program so
while I was dealing with the assault and healing
:37.440 --> :43.020
took a month for my injuries to heal I was also
doing the majority of the workload of this event
:43.020 --> :49.200
I was also having to plan a move put my stuff in
a storage unit and living in a long-term sublet
:49.200 --> :55.560
while I looked for a place I was also organizing
other events on top of that so there were days
:55.560 --> :01.620
where I would easily work 10 plus hours eventually
actually the employee who was helping me went on
:01.620 --> :07.500
maternity leave so the whole program landed on my
shoulders one day I got reprimanded for working
:07.500 --> :13.080
overtime I explained that the workload was heavy
and since I was managing events in two time zones
:13.080 --> :20.340
I was having to wake up super early in the morning
4 AM work during the day take a long lunch work
:20.340 --> :27.240
some more then wrap up the other event which ended
in the evening 10 30 to 11 pm they basically told
:27.240 --> :34.200
me I needed to manage my time better well I wasn't
doing well mentally or physically so my cognitive
:34.200 --> :40.800
abilities weren't the best I was making small
easily fixable mistakes here and there but nothing
:40.800 --> :45.900
that was damaging or severely detrimental to the
business there were days I would just sit there
:45.900 --> :52.020
crying at my desk it was awful another employee
had also been reprimanded for working overtime
:52.020 --> :58.620
and she was as swamped as I was eventually one of
my bosses emailed me and said I was still working
:58.620 --> :03.540
too much much overtime and that he only wanted
me to work five hours on days where I wasn't
:03.540 --> :09.540
managing the big event I was relieved honestly I
was looking forward to having more time for myself
:09.540 --> :15.780
so I could heal I made sure to email him back to
confirm the non-show management days he wanted me
:15.780 --> :22.260
to work five hours for the following week well
he didn't tell his wife the other owner about
:22.260 --> :28.380
my new hours and she had a tendency to ramble
about stuff during meetings making them last
:28.380 --> :34.500
way longer than they needed to be one day we had
a meeting in the morning that lasted three hours
:34.500 --> :40.980
and it was the first day I was to only work five
hours I didn't even need to be in that meeting but
:40.980 --> :46.380
they forced me to stay and would get irritated if
they knew myself or other employees were quietly
:46.380 --> :52.020
working while listening to the meeting after that
meeting the wife sends me messages asking about
:52.020 --> :58.260
the progress of some things I was working on she
then added some more things for me to do the back
:58.260 --> :03.060
and forth with her only took about 20 minutes I
told her that I knew I wouldn't have enough time
:03.060 --> :07.860
to finish those things that day because I only had
a little over an hour and a half to complete the
:07.860 --> :13.800
other tasks I'd already been assigned she had no
idea what I was talking about so I told her that
:13.800 --> :20.280
her husband had reduced my hours on non-management
days and forwarded her our email exchanges where
:20.280 --> :26.820
he confirmed I was to only work five hours that
day she got an attitude with me and said well
:26.820 --> :31.920 these are higher priority things and we need
you to work on them you can go ahead and work
:31.920 --> :38.160
longer today I told her I couldn't because I had a
confirmed week prior and had made arrangements and
:38.160 --> :44.160
wasn't able to work so once I hit my five hours
I clocked out and put my phone on do not disturb
:44.160 --> :50.100
ignoring all the messages she was sending me she
ended up having to work on all the tasks she had
:50.100 --> :56.520
given me late into the night I continued to follow
the new schedule and they just dumped my workload
:56.520 --> :01.800
onto other employees or had to do it themselves
ounce I eventually got fired because they said
:01.800 --> :08.400
that was basically the last straw but I was so
relieved and also got unemployment benefits even
:08.400 --> :14.460
though they tried to fight it the real warning
highlight here is them firing three people and
:14.460 --> :19.800 hiring two to replace them that immediately
should have showed you exactly what was going
:19.800 --> :27.180
on here our next story is guy wants to fight me
I guess this was a long time ago pre-internet in
:27.180 --> :34.080
fact I 17 year old male was working a dishwashing
job in the 80s a newish dishwasher challenged me
:34.080 --> :39.720
to a fight I didn't want to fight I really liked
my job the pay was three dollars and forty cents
:39.720 --> :46.260
an hour I was also fed a big meal at work this was
a ballroom kind of place that did weddings dinners
:46.260 --> :53.820
and Sunday brunch and I know it sounds oxymoronic
but dare I say high-end Buffet I loved it food at
:53.820 --> :59.400
home was locked up in a closet and I never got
enough to eat so work was Heaven back in the the
:59.400 --> :04.440
day pre-internet there were lots of fights if
you were a male in my experience you could get
:04.440 --> :11.340
into a fight even if you were avoiding conflict it
just happened a bunch or I was just lucky maybe it
:11.340 --> :15.900
was because I was dressed out of fashion and my
stepmother would take all my money and give me
:15.900 --> :22.320
those plastic blue jeans called tough skins they
would melt if you let them on fire don't ask how
:22.320 --> :28.560
I know you would wear out your knee before you
wore a hole in them I had the dorkiest glasses
:28.560 --> :36.360
too I was branded an outcast get off the bus and
15 people get off at your stop a circle forms and
:36.360 --> :44.520
you have to fight someone I lost all my fights it
sucked I cried just a part of life if I had magic
:44.520 --> :50.760
powers I would make bullying go away but back
in the day no one cared it wasn't the physical
:50.760 --> :57.060 build that cost me the fights I think it was
confidence and my conflict avoidance at home I
:57.060 --> :02.160
was the older brother so in all those home fights
I tried to fight at 80 percent because I didn't
:02.160 --> :08.400
want to hurt my kid brother while he would try to
clobber me I had too much empathy also at home my
:08.400 --> :14.820
stepmother had this 110 foot long Cliff that was
10 feet tall in the backyard that had a septic
:14.820 --> :20.220
field behind it that no truck could drive on thus
I spent my days with a shovel and a wheelbarrow
:20.220 --> :26.580
moving dirt even in the rain to turn this cliff
into a gentle slope for my Stepmother's epic
:26.580 --> :33.180
dream flower bed I had the arms and upper body
strength despite not being on a sports team that
:33.180 --> :38.580
comes into the story I told the new dishwasher I
didn't want to fight he therefore called me names
:38.580 --> :44.820
and said I was afraid and so on I ignored him
this continued for a month it was the theme of
:44.820 --> :50.760
busy Friday nights and also Sunday mornings he
wanted to talk about how I was afraid to fight
:50.760 --> :58.500
him and how I was so weak and so on he called me
those classic 1980s derogatory terms that are now
:58.500 --> :04.140
out of a Vogue this eventually got old so one
Sunday morning when he challenged me yet again
:04.140 --> :10.860
I said let's fight then he was surprised I said
yes to a fight we went outside to the parking lot
:10.860 --> :16.920
and it had just rained he asked again if I wanted
to fight I said I really did I've heard all about
:16.920 --> :23.040
how I can't fight and I'm afraid for like a month
so now I want to fight and end it already he said
:23.040 --> :28.140 he was just joking and he didn't really want
to fight I told him he wanted a fight and I
:28.140 --> :34.440
was going to give him exactly what he wanted and
had waited so long for now I didn't really want
:34.440 --> :40.440
to hurt him I saw him as sort of like my little
brother annoying sure but not someone I want to
:40.440 --> :46.380
injure we worked together after all and it is at a
place I like to work and yet I did want to let him
:46.380 --> :53.220
know not to try this crap again he looked truly
frightened I grabbed his squishy body and put him
:53.220 --> :59.580
on a wet car hood and dried the car off from the
rain I used him like a chamois or one of those
:59.580 --> :06.600
big car wash sponges these were not nice cars they
were owned by dishwashers and Cooks making three
:06.600 --> :12.180
to seven dollars an hour even so I don't think
I scraped any of them or if I did you couldn't
:12.180 --> :19.560
tell I buffed each car with this dishwasher one
after another he was Wiggly but the friction
:19.560 --> :25.200
was low so honestly it wasn't all that much of a
workout he yelped a bit and seemed to genuinely
:25.200 --> :32.340
afraid in the end he was absolutely soaked I was
too if only by proximity he did me the favor of
:32.340 --> :37.200 telling everyone about what had happened and
the general consensus was that it was funny so
:37.200 --> :43.920
I didn't face were consequences after that I got
to wash dishes in peace this is going against the
:43.920 --> :49.440
classic why don't you pick on someone your own
size you're literally picking on somebody that
:49.440 --> :54.900
is actually bigger than you you're hoping they
have a mentality of a puppy inside the body of
:54.900 --> :00.720
a pit bull you're gonna Bank on that for an entire
month-long period creative bullying our next story
:00.720 --> :07.500
is malicious compliance by all the students caused
the whole school to wreak this is an old story I'd
:07.500 --> :14.460
forgotten about until just now ah the Nostalgia it
happened when I was in Middle School about 2010 a
:14.460 --> :20.160
bit of context I live in an old rural Town not
in the U.S the only Middle School in this town
:20.160 --> :25.920
used to be a nursery the kind where plants and
trees are grown or sold not a medical Nursery
:25.920 --> :31.500
most of the trees weren't cut down when the place
became a school and a few of them were fruit trees
:31.500 --> :37.320
three or four of them were mango trees us kids
loved taking them home by the bunches to enjoy
:37.320 --> :42.780
with our families or eating them during lunch and
breaks occasionally some kids would try throwing
:42.780 --> :47.940 rocks or sticks of the tree branches to make
some mangoes fall one of the teachers didn't
:47.940 --> :53.340
like this understandably throwing rocks could be
dangerous but nobody was throwing them at each
:53.340 --> :58.740
other and they were careful looking around for
any people passing by so as to not hurt anyone
:58.740 --> :04.440
the most logical thing to do would have been to
forbid students from throwing things at trees but
:04.440 --> :10.920
instead the school passed a rule that any students
caught picking up mangoes whether they be on the
:10.920 --> :16.260 floor or trying to get them from the trees
would get in trouble or even face suspension
:16.260 --> :21.480 we all thought it was a dumb idea but me and
a few other students could smell the eventual
:21.480 --> :28.440
disaster from a mile away so nobody protested and
everyone at school will agreed to comply even the
:28.440 --> :34.560
kids who were known to be rebellious well about a
month or so later the whole school was absolutely
:34.560 --> :41.340
stinking of rotten mangoes and for those of you
who don't know mango season usually Peaks during
:41.340 --> :47.520
early spring and late summer plus and the state
we're in rainy season hits in summer so imagine
:47.520 --> :55.380
old rotting mangoes and muddy water puddles that
sit for days at a time in the summer heat not a
:55.380 --> :00.720
good combination of smells the teachers by that
point told told us that if we see a mango in good
:00.720 --> :06.300
condition to be eaten we could pick them up but
we couldn't possibly break the new rule that was
:06.300 --> :12.420
imposed by our respectable teacher we must obey
like the good students we are the school had to
:12.420 --> :18.360
pay a cleanup crew to dump all the rubbish and
some of the parents my mom included complained
:18.360 --> :24.060 about the wastefulness of perfectly edible
fruit the next school year we were all enjoying
:24.060 --> :30.780
delicious mangonatas which is mango flavored ice
pop with a spicy sweet sauce under the lovely
:30.780 --> :37.320
shade and those good old summer breezes said ice
pops were made and sold by classmates the teacher
:37.320 --> :42.780
that had originally started the complaints was
a loyal customer I guess there were no janitors
:42.780 --> :48.240
at this school huh because I would assume it's not
that big of a stretch for them to go and just pick
:48.240 --> :54.720
up the mangoes every now and then this next story
is we have to use a weed killer on our lawn fine
:54.720 --> :01.260
we've lived in this neighborhood for 15 years now
and the HOA board like many is mostly made up of
:01.260 --> :07.080
the grouchy old people who have too much time on
their hands sometimes it's fine for a while and
:07.080 --> :12.300
then someone new takes over and has some Vendetta
to pursue I guess we were due for the pendulum to
:12.300 --> :17.820
swing our front yard has a few big trees and is
thus entirely in the shade we've tried to plant
:17.820 --> :23.580
grass seed a few times but there's just not enough
Sun for grass to thrive so it's mostly low ground
:23.580 --> :30.900
cover no idea what kind but it's green and we
keep it mowed for 13 years this was fine then last
:30.900 --> :39.420
year we got a nasty gram from the HOA we had weeds
according to the bylaws we needed to prove we were
:39.420 --> :45.300
using chemical lawn treatments to kill anything
that's not grass crucially the rules don't require
:45.300 --> :51.420
us to hire a weed control company although that's
what they expected we just had to provide proof in
:51.420 --> :58.140
the form of a receipt for money spent my lovely
Petty spouse went on Amazon and ordered a six
:58.140 --> :05.700
dollars spray bottle of the most woo-woo New Age
homeopathic weed killer she could find I think
:05.700 --> :12.840
the main ingredient was lavender oil we dutifully
spritzed the yard a few times sent an action shot
:12.840 --> :19.500
and a copy of the digital receipt and thanked them
for their concern the lavender oil shockingly did
:19.500 --> :25.260
nothing we didn't actually have to kill the weeds
though just try we've heard nothing from the HOA
:25.260 --> :31.740
since and the front yard still has almost no grass
I mean I get an atro Bay not wanting you to have
:31.740 --> :36.600
weeds in your yard but man it's still kind of
crazy to me that they just expect everybody to
:36.600 --> :41.820
spray chemicals all over their individual yards
like do they not even have a clause for like
:41.820 --> :46.500
proving that you pulled the weeds like you have
to prove that you sprayed some kind of chemical
:46.500 --> :51.720
but with that being said that's all the time we
have for today now if you want to hear another
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that video on the left or if you missed my latest
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:00.140 --> :17.870 Ok, some context. I'm part of an ESports team
(Super Smash Bros Ultimate) for my school. :17.870 --> :22.200
Me and a group of buddies proposed the ESports
team to the school, took many months but we :22.200 --> :28.080
finally got it. Anyway getting into the story,
we got some characters to establish, EM Entitled :28.080 --> :34.980
Mom, EK Entitled Kid, Me, Co Coach, John is
my friend and finally Michael is too (Not :34.980 --> :39.750
there real names) Also, some conversations
might not be exact though asked my friends :39.750 --> :43.350
about the incident so I could get it as accurately as possible.
:43.350 --> :47.580 So anyway, at the beginning of the school
year, our school announced the Esports team :47.580 --> :53.340
and that got a lot of kids to sign up. It
was pretty big like 50 or so kids joined. :53.340 --> :57.250
About 12 kids joined the Smash Team for the
middle school team, which will be our main :57.250 --> :02.489
game. I practiced very hard just to get in
and all my worked paid off, as I was the third :02.489 --> :07.390
best player (Our rankings were shown in the
Discord.) And Michael got second and John :07.390 --> :12.800
got first, so we all rejoiced when the rankings
were announced. While we did practices at :12.800 --> :20.270
school, I met EK. Now EK was nice and everything,
he was just really, really annoying and cocky. :20.270 --> :25.729
He was the cliché rich snotty kid who hasn't
worked a day in his life and his mom was well :25.729 --> :30.130
known. He would complain and call everyone
a spammer if he didn't win. He would always :30.130 --> :34.531
complain that I was third and he should get
the title of Wamuu (To clarify, we are all :34.531 --> :41.090
big weebs so the top three got the title of
Wamuu = third, Esidisi = 2nd and Kars as 1st, :41.090 --> :44.939
the order of the pillar men) He always would
get in my face and call me a softie when I :44.939 --> :49.930
didn't battle him for the fifth time and lost.
I should also mention that I was in middle :49.930 --> :54.000
school and my friends were in high school
(Important for later) Near the end of the :54.000 --> :58.880
semester, CO had a meeting with us about the
future of our team. During this, he announced :58.880 --> :03.460
that I would be moving up to the high school
team. I popped off during this while John :03.460 --> :08.190
and Michael high fived me. EK did not like this one bit.
:08.190 --> :12.200 EK: Why does HE have it? HE sucks!
:12.200 --> :16.540 CO: Because I have seen him do better than
most of the middle schoolers and even bested :16.540 --> :19.660
some of our best players and got the title Wamuu. :19.660 --> :24.140
EK: Yeah and he doesn't deserve it! ITS NOT FAIR! :24.140 --> :29.520
Now at this point, EK was bawling his eyes
out and CO ended our meeting. I told my mom :29.520 --> :34.980
about it and she just laughed and congratulated
me. Then comes the next day, we had practice :34.980 --> :37.970
and when I was about to walk into the room I heard the classic
:37.970 --> :40.010 AHEEEEMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM
:40.010 --> :45.050 I was startled, and I looked back and I saw
a skinny pale woman I recognized but couldn't :45.050 --> :46.050
tell who :46.050 --> :48.430 EM: Are you Flotus?
:48.430 --> :54.010 Me: Um yeah, Im about to head into practice
but I have time. What do you need? :54.010 --> :55.181 It was EK’s mom
:55.181 --> :00.310 EM: I heard recently that you got into the
high school team, very impressive :00.310 --> :02.640 Me: Um thank you
:02.640 --> :06.860 I was getting a bit annoyed because I could
tell by the tone of her voice that this wasn't :06.860 --> :07.989
going to be easy :07.989 --> :13.209
EM: You might have met my son EK, he really
wants to join the high school team and play :13.209 --> :18.120
with the big kids. Would you pleeeeeasssseee give up that chance to my boy?
:18.120 --> :20.100 Me: uhhhhhhh... no. :20.100 --> :23.490
EM: Why noooooooootttt? Not like you deserve it :23.490 --> :28.510
Me: Ma'am, with all respect to your child,
I don't think he's ready. I also earned this :28.510 --> :33.370
chance by practicing. Plus I don't even think I have the power to do that.
:33.370 --> :36.270 EM: Ugh, fine, do you know who I could talk to?
:36.270 --> :40.110 Me: Yeah, CO is inside so you can come with
me to discuss it. :40.110 --> :45.260
I was getting annoyed, but I tried to be as
polite as possible. So me and her go inside :45.260 --> :51.200
and I go to John and Michael and play a couple
of games. They ask me what happened, and I :51.200 --> :55.690
explained. They laughed and told me that she
was crazy. While we were playing, we listened :55.690 --> :00.640
in on the conversation. (We were not listening
for the beginning, and this is where we started :00.640 --> :01.640
listening) :01.640 --> :04.180 EM:... but why can't he replace him?
:04.180 --> :07.799 CO: I already told you, we only give that
to people who have shown us that they are :07.799 --> :12.200
above their level, and EK has clearly not shown that.
:12.200 --> :18.170 Now EK was in the room at the time, still
annoying all of us like he usually does. EK :18.170 --> :19.979
hears the conversation and joins in. :19.979 --> :23.449
EK: Yeah OC, he sucks! He's to scared to face me! :23.449 --> :27.380
Now let me tell you how we got the titles
for our group. John got Kars because he's :27.380 --> :33.050
the best and a absolutely crazy (In a good
way) he will make sure you have endured lots :33.050 --> :38.180
of emotional pain before he finishes you.
Michael got Esidisi because he could be loosing :38.180 --> :43.360
by two stocks and make the greatest comeback.
I got Wamuu because not only am I the worst :43.360 --> :48.199
in our group, but I also like respect. The
type you earn by being nice and a good guy :48.199 --> :53.520
in general. Hearing him talk crap about me
and my friends for half a year finally just :53.520 --> :58.300
made me burst. My friends were all getting
annoyed and this was the straw that broke :58.300 --> :59.570
the camels back. :59.570 --> :04.180
Me: IF YOU THINK YOUR SO GOOD COME UP HERE RIGHT KNOW YOU LITTLE CRAP!
:04.180 --> :06.320 EM: What did you call him?!?!
:06.320 --> :11.880 Me: You heard me, if you can beat me once
in a three rounds, no even take a single stock, :11.880 --> :13.710
I'll let you take my place. :13.710 --> :17.009
My friends where standing by me and basically said the same thing.
:17.009 --> :23.551 The now cocky EK said sure, and connected
his controller, while EM was furious. One :23.551 --> :28.420
thing I should let you know, is that even
though I'm all about respect, I play one of :28.420 --> :30.930
the dirtiest characters in smash. :30.930 --> :31.930 NESS BABY
:31.930 --> :36.979 For people who play smash, you know he's one
of the worst characters to go up against. :36.979 --> :41.449
Also for the people who don't play Smash,
Ness has a move that is considered spammy :41.449 --> :47.630
and annoying, and I try to avoid using it
to much. But in this battle, I made Heck itself :47.630 --> :53.230
rain down on this kid while he could barely
get a hit. After the battle, EM and EK were :53.230 --> :58.750
yelling at me and CO, EK even tried to get
physical and did the WORST thing he could :58.750 --> :04.680
have done: Swing a punch, miss, and hit a
PC, right on the glass. His knuckles were :04.680 --> :11.599
bloody and the PC in shatters. This made CO
not only banned EK from joining ESports, he :11.599 --> :18.889
had to PAY for the $3,000 Alienware PC. This
made EM angry and was about to yell and get :18.889 --> :24.340
physical but we were all pushing her and EK
out the door. To say I was satisficed would :24.340 --> :11.039
be an understatement. Though I was sad though
to not see EK go up against Michael :11.039 --> :17.449
and John. Growing up, I had 2 busy working
parents. They were able to provide for us :17.449 --> :23.240
(3 kids). But they didn’t provide us with
a healthy emotional&mental home life. My father
:23.240 --> :28.440 was always cheating on my mother. The youngest
I remember was when I was 4, I questioned :28.440 --> :33.560
why he locked himself in his bedroom w a woman
I had never seen before and sent my sister :33.560 --> :38.610
and I to go play outside with this stranger’s
daughter. My mother was working. I remember :38.610 --> :43.360
knocking on his door and he took an eternity
to open it. I questioned my mother the following :43.360 --> :47.591
day about what happened. This wasn’t the
only time my mother caught him cheating. We :47.591 --> :53.090
had a live in nanny. She was a family friend,
and years after being w us my mother caught :53.090 --> :58.460
my dad in her room. He cheated on my mother
w her own sister and her brother’s wife. :58.460 --> :04.340
And then his cousins wife. I could keep going.
His customers were also his affair partners. :04.340 --> :09.080
My mother put up with it. When I moved out
for college I never came home bc it never :09.080 --> :14.060
felt like I had a home. My parents never made
time for us to spend together as a family, :14.060 --> :20.460
never had family trips, neither celebrated
bdays/holidays. It always felt cold at home. :20.460 --> :25.500
I moved back home after college. There was
a market crash. I couldn’t find a job. By :25.500 --> :32.089
now they were divorcing. It was messy. I hated
that time. But I was glad they were divorcing, :32.089 --> :36.700
it needed to happen. My mother didn’t take
it well. So she made it harder. She wanted :36.700 --> :41.940
more $ from him and made us all suffer. At
some point my father asked me to support him :41.940 --> :47.860
by going to court and siding w him with how
difficult she was making it. I refused, 2 :47.860 --> :53.090
wrongs make no right and it’s also non of
my business(Btw did I mention my mom had an :53.090 --> :59.280
affair at the end and to which why my father
filed for divorce) I was in my early 20s doing :59.280 --> :03.980
odd jobs while I looked for a full time nurse
career bc there wasn’t anything for new :03.980 --> :10.100
grads. I moved in w an aunt bc I couldn’t
stand my mother anymore. She really was making :10.100 --> :15.709
it difficult on my mental health. My car was
stolen a month later. It never really was :15.709 --> :20.540
mine, it was under my father’s name. A little
corolla that helped me throughout college. :20.540 --> :26.400
I was devastated though. I needed it the most
now to get to work. Eventually I found a full :26.400 --> :31.820
time job and moved 1mile close to it. As time
passed, I attempted to reach out to my parents, :31.820 --> :37.060
to let them know I was fine. My father would
hang up on me. I realized he was still upset :37.060 --> :43.000
that I didn’t side w him in court. I let
more time pass and texted him instead. I received :43.000 --> :49.570
a sour reply, somewhere along the lines “how
do u think I am doing? Not great. If you went :49.570 --> :53.709
to court w me when I asked you to, this would
have been over. You’re ungrateful after :53.709 --> :59.420
all the money I spent for you to get an education.
Btw I stole the car, I took it back so you :59.420 --> :05.130
can feel the struggle without my help” I
wasn’t even angry, I felt sorry for him. :05.130 --> :10.640
I last texted him “you and mom need to grow
up.” I never reached out again. It’s been :10.640 --> :16.000
12 years now. I’m married and have a 9y/o.
He’s never met my now family. My mother :16.000 --> :21.062
has moved on too. she admitted to me recently
that she keeps in touch w him. Mostly bc of :21.062 --> :26.001
my brother’s drug addiction. She said he supposedly cried to her bc I don’t talk
:26.001 --> :30.390 to him. According to my mother, I need to
be the bigger person and reach out to him :30.390 --> :36.270
regardless of the past. Last week she came
at me so wrong and blamed me for why I had :36.270 --> :41.580
a fall out w my father. She says bc I can’t
let go of grudges and I need to grow up and :41.580 --> :46.300
reach out to him now that he’s alive, she
says, he’s going to die someday and I will :46.300 --> :50.850
regret never mending the relationship. For
some reason she thinks I’m still mad about :50.850 --> :55.950
the car?! I had to emphasize it to her that
the last time I reached out he didn’t want :55.950 --> :01.430
to talk to me. It’s awkward now. Why can’t
he reach out to me?! Why can’t he be the :01.430 --> :07.450
man and mend the relationship he broke that
he supposedly cries about. I did her a favor :07.450 --> :12.829
and texted him so she can get off my case.
I also told her if she just agreed w the divorce :12.829 --> :19.070
papers initially and w what he was offering
(for her to keep 2 houses and not touch his :19.070 --> :21.630
business) I wouldn’t be in this situation. :21.630 --> :26.070
I texted: “Hi dad, it’s (insert name).
Mom told me you been wanting to talk to me :26.070 --> :30.760
but I don’t understand why you don’t reach
out. The last time I reached out you weren’t :30.760 --> :34.610
interested in talking. So I left you alone. How are you?”
:34.610 --> :40.750 It’s been over 2 weeks and …crickets.
I’m upset at mom for annoying me about this, :40.750 --> :45.660
something that isn’t her business, she’s
divorced him. She can now leave me alone about :45.660 --> :51.279
it. If he wants a relationship w me he needs
to be a man about it. My parents suck! :51.279 --> :57.079
I’m older now w my own kid. I make sure
she is physically, emotionally, and mentally :57.079 --> :03.770
well. I work long hours but I also make time
for holidays, bdays, trips, unlike they did. :03.770 --> :10.060
I make time for her so she can trust me, love
me, and remember me. I say “I love you” :10.060 --> :14.890
every single day. More than once. Something
I NEVER heard from them. My parents have this :14.890 --> :20.680
idea that I owe them the up most respect bc
they birthed me and payed for my schooling, :20.680 --> :52.779
in my mothers own words. She starts fights
randomly, reason being she “resents” me. :52.779 --> :58.899
She tries to compete with me in a number of
ways. Some of which are just pure … juvenile :58.899 --> :03.110
and on top of how stupid it is for a grown
woman to be concerned with her statements :03.110 --> :07.540
won’t make any sense. She also tells me she’s going to be making X amount every
:07.540 --> :13.050 week and asks how much I make and says she
probably makes more. She says she got the :13.050 --> :18.170
job but since she was suddenly being so benchy
I don’t think she did. There’s a lot of :18.170 --> :22.980
nonsensical stuff she would bother me about
and I have no idea how she came up with some :22.980 --> :28.730
of the issues she did. She also lies and says
everyone is calling me a loser when they’re :28.730 --> :35.010
not. Plus … I’ve accomplished plenty of
things she hasn’t. She’s for sure an underachiever.
:35.010 --> :40.590 She also accuses me of wanting her stupid
bf’s and adds people I know on FB. Is she :40.590 --> :45.201
just jealous bc I’m doing better in life
than her and have accomplished way more? She :45.201 --> :15.810
Should have stuff figured out since she’s older. Thoughts? Hey guys! Thank you
:15.810 --> :20.209 so much for your support and believe me I'm
fine and my brother is better, but fine is :20.209 --> :25.970
not enough for him, he wants my custody at
all costs and goes after my parents with everything
:25.970 --> :31.790 he has. Well, I wouldn't be here if it was
just to say we're fine, let's get to the story. :31.790 --> :35.830
We were having a quiet afternoon until there
was a knock on the door, which had already :35.830 --> :42.820
been repaired by a friend of Kirby's grandfather,
I went to answer it but was very surprised :42.820 --> :48.211
to see my father there, I sent him away at
once but he said just wanted to talk and didn't :48.211 --> :53.550
want to cause a fuss, i told him to freak
off and told him we'd only talk in court however :53.550 --> :00.329
my dad insisted and Kirby's grandparents threatened
to call the police, but to our surprise, Kirby :00.329 --> :05.050
said to leave him come in, we questioned him
but he just said my dad was a pushy idiot :05.050 --> :09.930
and he wouldn't go away easily so it was better
to let him in to get it over with. :09.930 --> :14.199
So we let him in, but we were prepared in
case he got aggressive we would go to him, :14.199 --> :19.570
he Kirby sat at the kitchen table. We all
stayed in the kitchen for safety and Kirby's :19.570 --> :24.340
grandmother was recording to have one more
proof that my father broke the provisional :24.340 --> :28.319
measure. The conversation was as follows: :28.319 --> :32.130
Kirby: Very brave of you to come back here after all you've done!
:32.130 --> :35.769 Father: I'm sorry... I swear I'll pay for
all the damage! :35.769 --> :40.880
Kirby: Pay? Of course, you can solve everything
with money, right? But I'm not talking about :40.880 --> :45.709
material goods, that's replaceable, but what you did to me is priceless!
:45.709 --> :50.329 Father: I know, I'm sorry! I swear I would
give my life to go back in time I would do :50.329 --> :51.639
everything differently! :51.639 --> :57.329
Kirby: Yeah but unfortunately you can't go
back in time and the damage has already been :57.329 --> :00.829
done! You destroyed me! You destroyed your family! :00.829 --> :04.829
Father: But it was an accident, if you had
told us from the beginning maybe it would :04.829 --> :05.829
have been different! :05.829 --> :08.970
Kirby: MORE SAID FREAKING! YOU WHO DIDN'T
WANT TO LISTEN TO ME! NOW DO YOU KNOW WHAT :08.970 --> :14.170
YOU DID TO ME? THEY MADE ME FEEL THAT I WAS
NOT WORTHY TO LIVE! YOU MADE ME WANT TO DIE! :14.170 --> :19.230
DO YOU HAVE ANY IDEA WHAT IT'S LIKE TO FEEL
THAT? NO! BECAUSE YOU ARE A FREAKING ASSAULT! :19.230 --> :23.660
AND THE AGGRESSOR WILL NEVER FEEL THE FEAR
THAT THE VICTIM FELT, YOU SON OF A BENCH! :23.660 --> :28.300
At that moment Kirby started to cry but it
was a cry of anger and resentment that he :28.300 --> :33.600
kept for all these years, my father continued
to ask in vain, but my brother said that the :33.600 --> :38.890
fact that he wants to apologize is not because
he regrets what he did , but rather to feel :38.890 --> :45.410
good about himself, however my dad kept apologizing,
apologizing so much that my brother threw :45.410 --> :50.779
his ultimatum right there even though he was
close to having another anxiety attack. :50.779 --> :55.300
Kirby: Do you want forgiveness? So here's
what we're going to do: You're going to give :55.300 --> :59.880
me custody of my brother, you're going to
pay his child support and you're never going :59.880 --> :06.289
to try to get close to me, him or any of us
again or else I guarantee you Ricard, |Fictitious :06.289 --> :09.450
name| that I will make your days a real heck! :09.450 --> :13.990
My father agreed instantly, I'll tell you
that I don't feel sorry for my father but :13.990 --> :18.760
I've never seen him as defeated as he did
at that moment, I think the shock of his actions :18.760 --> :24.250
finally hit him hard but I don't feel sorry
for him he deserves this, he deserves to feel :24.250 --> :29.350
the misery he caused our family. Soon after
all this he left saying he was going to try :29.350 --> :34.940
to convince my mother to give up my custody,
he also asked me for forgiveness but I just :34.940 --> :40.520
ignored him. So at the exact moment he walked
out the door my brother broke down, I think :40.520 --> :45.190
his courage had dropped at that moment, he
started crying and was on his knees on the :45.190 --> :50.500
floor hyperventilating and sweating very cold,
we took him through the room so he could lie :50.500 --> :56.010
down, we gave him his medicine for anxiety
but nothing seemed to help, I called my sister :56.010 --> :00.360
and told her everything that had happened,
she came immediately and we all stayed in :00.360 --> :04.790
the room trying to calm him down, my sister
kept saying that my brother that at that moment :04.790 --> :10.090
he was one of the bravest people we knew,
however fearful he was, he was strong enough :10.090 --> :14.049
to stay in the same room as my father, his abuser and his murderer.
:14.049 --> :19.419 After many hours my brother finally calmed
down and managed to sleep so just in case :19.419 --> :24.340
Lucy and I slept together with him because
he could have many nightmares after that. :24.340 --> :30.170
But of course nothing could end like that,
my mom called us hours later asking what that :30.170 --> :35.460
demon/Kirby had done to her husband, she was
accusing my brother of having bewitched her :35.460 --> :40.430
sweet hubby and that now he wanted to give
everything to him, my sister just told her :40.430 --> :44.539
to freak off and said that at least one of them had come to their senses.
:44.539 --> :49.241 Well again I hope everything works out and
my mom finally comes to her senses and does :49.241 --> :53.770
the right thing, thanks so much for everyone's
support, and thanks to you Steve, who owns :53.770 --> :00.750
this account and has always been there for
me since I told mine history. Well I'm going, :00.750 --> :25.680
I'll send you anything, see you later! I'm
tired of my YOUNG adult divorced parents financially
:25.680 --> :30.970 depending on me to pay their bills. I'll try
to make it short. My parents are terrible :30.970 --> :36.000
with money, they don't have any concern on
saving it and will expend until the last dime. :36.000 --> :41.620
My dad barely works, makes no money at all
and never pays anyone back after loaning money :41.620 --> :45.640
(including me). Last week he told me that
he doesn't want to keep working for other :45.640 --> :50.960
people and asked if I could make a loan under
my name so he can start a business. I'm not :50.960 --> :55.990
dumb and told no straight away. Keep in mind
that I already paid for a lot of his bills :55.990 --> :01.030
under the promise that he would pay me back,
and guess what? Never saw that money again. :01.030 --> :06.840
My mom had a half-time job last year which
was actually only 16 hours a week. She insisted :06.840 --> :11.260
to not live with my sister anymore and she
wanted to live by herself. I told her that :11.260 --> :16.130
she was not making enough money to pay for
her rent & expenses and she proceeds to tell :16.130 --> :22.450
me that was her concern and "dad" would help
her. I TOLD her multiple times that relaying :22.450 --> :28.280
on dad was extremely risky and she would not
have the money to pay for her expenses. Now :28.280 --> :33.160
for my surprise, she doesn't have that job
anymore because when they had to renew her :33.160 --> :40.310
contract she "forgot" to send the documentation.
My dad doesn't have any money to send to her, :40.310 --> :42.620
I don't even know if he is working anymore. :42.620 --> :47.860
I have 2 jobs and I work my butt off. I'm
getting old and I'm not aging well because :47.860 --> :53.370
of the stress and not being able to take care
of myself. Even if I make good money I hate :53.370 --> :58.590
the fact that I need to financially help them
every single month. My mother lost her job :58.590 --> :03.381
2 months ago, and she is still living by herself
even after my sister told our mother to live :03.381 --> :08.890
with her. Not only that, my sister told me
that she (our mother) is involved with a married :08.890 --> :15.929
man. Jesus Christ, I'm so disappointed with
them, I'm really...really struggling to understand :15.929 --> :16.929
them. :16.929 --> :22.289 I took a hard decision today, for the last
time I helped them (another 3k burned to the :22.289 --> :27.090
ground). I blocked their numbers and for the
next 6 months I'll cut contact with them, :27.090 --> :28.940
I just can't deal with this anymore. :28.940 --> :33.960
I care about them, but right now is just too
complicated for me to deal with it. Can I :33.960 --> :06.960
do anything else? My Patents got divorced
a view years back, and didn't know what to :06.960 --> :11.409
do with the house. I lived with my mom in
that house until now and helped one of her :11.409 --> :15.770
friends, doing some repairs. My father on
the other hand just bought the house, with :15.770 --> :21.330
the help of a somewhat stupid German law, and forces us out until 1st of April.
:21.330 --> :26.190 I mean I'm somewhat happy that my mom managed
to just buy a new home, where she can live :26.190 --> :31.110
in one half and my girlfriend and I in the
other, jet I feel like my childhood home was :31.110 --> :37.260
stolen from me. With all the memories. Good
ones and bad ones. I got and lost my first :37.260 --> :42.480
dog in this house. He's buried in the garden.
My father hated the dog. He blames me for :42.480 --> :48.310
the divorce, because I started defending myself
against his narcissistic and abusive behavior. :48.310 --> :52.870
I just finished my apprenticeship, and he
didn't even say anything. I walked past him :52.870 --> :58.049
on the street and he just stared down. My
mother always says, that I should atleast :58.049 --> :03.500
try to reconnect with him, because he is my
father, but everytime I see him anger and :03.500 --> :47.270
disgust come boiling up. Any advice? My dms
are open. I feel so distraught right now I :47.270 --> :50.700
never thought I’d hear those words from someone who claims I’m their entire life
:50.700 --> :51.700 - :51.700 --> :55.409
I’m an only child and my mother and I have
always had a bit of a rocky relationship, :55.409 --> :00.640
since I was little I did everything I could
to please her and make her proud and my self :00.640 --> :06.360
esteem relied on academic validation that
I got from being top of all my classes. I :06.360 --> :10.960
would often avoid going out because I’d
prioritise studying and I never had any social :10.960 --> :15.860
media because my parents thought it would
distract me. I have literally never freaked :15.860 --> :20.960
up i always do the right thing and always
respect the wishes of my mother. That being :20.960 --> :25.919
said I can’t drive don’t have a job and
don’t do chores because they raised me to :25.919 --> :31.050
be completely dependent on them and said that
the only thing they expected from me was to :31.050 --> :36.399
excel. I feel like she controls everything
I do then love bombs me so I forget about :36.399 --> :41.510
what just happened as a form of gaslighting,
she tells me I’m her best friend, she even :41.510 --> :45.690
cries sometimes telling me how sad she’s
gonna be when I move out and that she would :45.690 --> :51.690
go anywhere I go just so we could be together
forever - which kinda bothers me but I understand :51.690 --> :56.590
she’s lonely (we are immigrants and it’s
been difficult for her to find time to socialise :56.590 --> :03.570
or whatever). The dynamic between us is weird
and it goes from being super close to us yelling :03.570 --> :07.309
and screaming at one another over the smallest things.
:07.309 --> :12.680 As I turned 18 recently I went clubbing with
a few friends and we needed up staying a little :12.680 --> :18.940
longer than intended and I got home at 1am.
She was furious at the time and said she wouldn’t :18.940 --> :23.490
be staying up till that time for me to come
back and that I would have to be back earlier. :23.490 --> :27.940
I brought it up again today and she flipped
out saying that I had some kinda privilege :27.940 --> :32.600
thinking that just because I was studious
all through high school I had some right to :32.600 --> :37.700
be home late and that I was desperate not
to miss out - mind you I never go out and :37.700 --> :42.510
this was the first time I was home “late”.
She said I would have to be back by 10 which :42.510 --> :47.330
I said was completely unreasonable as the
commute it’s self takes 40mins and when :47.330 --> :51.240
you go out with a big group of friends at
this age you can’t just tell everyone to :51.240 --> :56.460
end the night early so that I can be back
home on time. After protesting she ended up :56.460 --> :01.240
threatening to kick me out the house and call
the police on me next time if I dare come :01.240 --> :06.179
back any later than 10pm and said that if
I wanted to live like that I could move out :06.179 --> :11.520
and live by myself and back at whatever time
I wanted (insinuating that I was some kinda :11.520 --> :17.500
tramp that wanted to party and stay out till
2 in the morning which was never the case). :17.500 --> :23.720
This kinda emotional abuse drives me insane,
all my life she’s being controlling my social :23.720 --> :29.090
life and forcing me to study, I’m a burnt
out gifted kid with no life skills, it’s :29.090 --> :32.630
meant as a protective measure but it just feels controlling to me.
:32.630 --> :36.250 Maybe I’m too young to understand, I’m
looking for some advice on how to improve :36.250 --> :41.549
our relationship and how to reason with someone
as insane as her (she will literally blow :41.549 --> :46.850
up over the smallest things). I know I need
to start becoming more independent as that’s :46.850 --> :50.770
the one thing holding me back from being my
own person, maybe that’s what she wanted :50.770 --> :55.169
all along, for me to be completely reliant
on her so that I’d have to stick around :55.169 --> :00.700
forever. IDFK. If anyone can relate pls let
me know how your relationship with your mother :00.700 --> :36.559
turned out later :36.559 --> :44.450
So Im 24M. I've been dating my 21F girlfriend
for a few months. She's wonderful and I love :44.450 --> :49.890
her. She is black and I am white. Our race
has never been an issue between us or with :49.890 --> :55.220
her family who all are super welcoming and
kind to me. Well I wanted her to meet my parents :55.220 --> :00.250
in another city and I had an opportunity to
go back coming up. My dad has been hinting :00.250 --> :06.320
that she isn't right for me and our relationship
is doomed to fail and she's lazy and going :06.320 --> :11.480
to be a drain and an anchor on me since we
met. He's been nothing but negative about :11.480 --> :17.929
her. He said my mom was very upset about other
factors like age difference and that she agreed :17.929 --> :22.870
with him the relationship would never work.
I asked if she could come on my trip and my :22.870 --> :28.830
dad just went silent for 5 minutes. When he
started talking he went on a 2 hour tangent :28.830 --> :33.941
basically saying she can't come because my
grandpa might be racist towards her. Then :33.941 --> :38.549
I get a text from my sister telling me he
asked her to speak to me and that I "can't :38.549 --> :44.140
pick good women". Then my mom texts me saying
I should wait a few months to bring her citing :44.140 --> :49.950
all kinds of excuses like the weather and
her being busy that weekend. So I finally :49.950 --> :54.980
confronted my mom that it's not any of their
excuses it's that my parents have decided :54.980 --> :00.059
they don't like my girlfriend with no knowledge
about her and they don't want her there and :00.059 --> :04.840
are coming up with excuses. I told my mom
I had hoped meeting her would have ended this :04.840 --> :09.660
type of behavior and they could see what kind
of person she is and I asked my mom to not :09.660 --> :15.149
judge and give her a chance. Well I got a
call from my dad screaming at me saying how :15.149 --> :19.399
dare you speak to your mother like that and
that I am an jerk and I wouldn't be anywhere :19.399 --> :25.309
in life without him dragging me there because
I'm useless and stupid, and demanding I apologize :25.309 --> :30.440
to my mom for daring to push back on their
behavior. He eventually said I'm not welcome :30.440 --> :36.250
at their house and not to speak to my mom
again unless it's to apologize and recant :36.250 --> :41.360
everything I said. Then he texted me saying
he "can't save me from myself" and that I :41.360 --> :46.320
must be mentally ill for doing what I'm doing.
I'm thinking about honestly just cutting them :46.320 --> :51.990
off at this point. It's just the latest in
a long string of gaslighting and verbal abuse. :51.990 --> :57.690
They would 100% not be acting this way if
my girlfriend was white with a college degree. :57.690 --> :44.909
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called the police on my neighbors after they took our daughter to their
Halloween party behind our back my husband 39 M and I 35f moved to this
country when we first got married due to his work we had our first child 6f here
he was then moved to Germany where our other two 4M and 3F were born his
company decided to move him here again but to the opposite side of the country
to where we lived the last time after we had our fourth F5 months so needless to
say we know the culture despite not being native our daughter started school
this August for the first time and a lot of her classmates live in the same area
we do one of the boys in her class lives
at the end of the road behind us when we first moved into the neighborhood back
in may we were welcomed by a few of our close neighbors and this boy's mother
let's call her ASD she took a shine to my baby but most people fuss over babies
so I didn't think much of it that same day she told me of how she had lost two
baby girls and how lucky I was to have so many girls and she only had three
boys the day after she came with her husband let's call him Morton and he too
wanted to pick up the baby and paid her a lot of compliments until he met our
oldest daughter and made a remark which I didn't think much of at the time he
said my daughter and his son could easily pass for twins as they are in the
same class and they look alike they don't my daughter is super blonde with
gray eyes and their son has dark blondish hair with hazel eyes so I
corrected him he faint offense and said what he meant was that she could pass
for his daughter the baby too again I corrected them that with his light brown
hair and Hazel Eyes neither of my girls could he once again insisted and said I
mean our features not the coloring then he laughed it off and said he was just
joking they then invited us to go out for drinks but we declined as neither
one of us drinks and we don't like to be
too friendly with neor during the summer when we bumped into them at the local
store a few times Morton and ASD would call her julus jurn and sing a song from
a famous movie here after a few times I told them to knock it off as it was no
longer funny since may end up until a week ago they have tried to invite us to
many get togethers which I found strange
as they hardly ever invite the neighbors that they have known for longer than us
Morton and astred would quite often talk
to my daughter on her way back to school as she passes their house on the way
home and she said that it bothers her as they have both tried to pick her up and
ASD has treat a few times to touch her hair when my husband confronted them
about it they said it's just the culture here it's not the picking up and
touching her hair stopped after that at the beginning of October they wanted us
to help them host a Halloween party at the end of October and wanted us to meet
them at their house so we could coordinate the children's costumes
especially the twins we declined again as we don't celebrate Halloween they
tried to convince us otherwise and were very pushy even had their son knock on
our door a few times to play with his twin after school knocking on doors to
play with other children is normal and most children roam out and about as it's
a safe neighborhood and Country so that part was never suspicious to me however
after the eenth time of calling my daughter one of his twins I put my foot
down and said he needed to stop joking about it as it's not funny anymore my
husband goes offshore at times due to his work and it's has been me and the
children since mid- October my daughter's teacher also lives in the
neighborhood and she is a childhood friend of ASD she was present in the
park by our house when Astrid came up to me and handed me three costumes one for
each of my girls she said as we don't celebrate Halloween her and her husband
had decided to host a Hellen party instead and one of my girls to wear
these I was shocked but told her no it would not happen the teacher tried to
convince me that this would be a nice way of meeting others families and it
would be fun for our children Astrid said she had spent a lot of money on
adjusting the costumes and had found the
right hairstyle for my daughter to go as gredle to her son's Hans I told her no
one made her spend the money as I had made it very clear that none of my
children would be going right in front of me she took the Hair Band off my
daughter's hair and tried to put one on that she had bought for the costume I
told her to stop and started walking of she tried to apologize and said relax we
are neighbors and friends her teacher followed me and said not to be uptight
and that astd meant no harm she just likes girls on Monday my daughter came
home with a different hairstyle and accessories to what I had sent her off
with I asked her how she got them and she said her teacher had done her hair
during lunch I asked her if she had played rough so her hair needed to be
fixed she said no yesterday morning I spoke to her teacher and she confirmed
that it was indeed her who had fixed her hair and that it was ASD who bought the
stuff I asked her why she would go against my wishes to which she said it
was only hair stuff and astd didn't want to throw it away as had spent money on
it she thought with three daughters I would appreciate help with some free
accessories she also said that I had not made it explicitly clear not to fix why
daughter's hair I left after telling her to never do it again and return the
stuff in the evening the neighborhood children went trick or treating those
participating were informed it would last from 6: to 8 I let my daughter go
off and play with one of the other girls who wasn't trick or treating at about
7:00 I couldn't hear them so I went outside to check and they were not there
I asked one of the other children if they had seen her and they said Morton
and ASD had collected her in their car and her friend had gone home I asked
next door to watch my other two while I ran with the baby to their place when I
arrived there they were having a party in the garden and my daughter was there
she had her hair done and she had a candy bag she was also wearing the
costume so in my anger I called the police before speaking to anyone and
once I got off the call I called both of them pedos and everything under the sun
in multiple languages when the police arrived and I spoke to them we left
today at school her teacher was very short with me and said there was no need
for that as Morton volunteers for the children's football club having a police
report filed on him was not the wisest of choices she explained that if I
wasn't happy I should have asked for a mediation appointment at the school
instead of embarrassing astd and Morton in front of everyone she also mentioned
that it was her who helped my daughter change into the costume and it's not
unusual for teachers to help their students change here that part is
partially true for this country she said astd has been grieving and her behavior
is normal for someone who lost so many children one after the other and not to
make it harder on her as people have gossiped quite a bit about it she said
they didn't know they had crossed a line and it wouldn't happen again so just
drop the complaint at the police on Friday I have to make a full statement
at the police station she wants me to cancel it as asid and Morton are not bad
people and she thinks I should be glad someone else thinks this highly of my
daughter she wasn't harmed and she sees no reason for me being angry as the
children all play in each other's Garden anyway she said not to blow things out
of proportion as at no point was my daughter alone with Morton update thank
you for all the reassurances it was helpful a lot of people asked about an
update and many them to see how it was going we filed a report at the police
station and basically we were dismissed we had two female officers on the first
day but a male police officer came in and offered us some water tried to do
small talk he is the ex of my daughter's
teacher and told us as much we had to do the report over 2 days as on the first
day my daughter was too tired to relay all the details on the second
appointment we had the two female police officers and her ex also joined us it
seemed like he had already talked to her
teacher about it but he denied it when I confronted him about it citing
confidentiality I was told they would have a word with astred and Morton but I
doubt they took it seriously as all three kind of defended their actions
wanting to know why wouldn't let my daughter go to a party when we got home
we had a knock on the door in the evening and it was astred and Morton I
didn't open the door on Saturday the 11th while my daughter was playing in
the garden with my next door neighbors children she said astred was taking
pictures of her from across the street on the Sunday they came by again and
kept knocking on the door they said they knew I was inside and that they wanted
to talk I didn't open the door I phoned the police and they said if they become
violent call back in the meantime just open the door and tell them you don't
want to talk to them I didn't and they left they left a message in my post box
it was a long message about how they felt connected to my daughter and how I
should take better care of her how they know how it feels like to lose a child
and that they only want what is best for her on the 15th I kept my daughter from
the school as she said that Astrid's son kept teasing her instead I spoke to the
principal about the matter and explained that I needed this absence validated I
took my daughter to the store and I think maybe I was followed because not 5
minutes had gone by when astd walked in and bumped into me by the dairy section
she apologized and blocked me in with her cart because I tried to get away she
started talking to my daughter and tried
to stroke my baby's hair so I I screamed that made her walk away from me the day
after I found another note in my post box telling me not to be so hysterical
and I have that saved I phoned my husband to come home or find a reason to
get home ASAP on the 18th both astred and Morton confronted me in the park and
wanted to know why I was keeping julus jern away from them due to a
misunderstanding I told them politely Morton is a big guy and I am not as
strong as him that my husband was home I lied they walked away I phoned the
police and gave them the latest evidence on the harassment but they said they
would have a word with the two on Monday I attended a meeting with the principal
and the teacher where she apologized but she made it out that it was a
misunderstanding the principal was very nice and told the teacher to back off
sternly and not to mix her professional life and private life astred and Morton
came by my house that evening and while I was attending to the laundry in the
basement they were talking to my girl in
the garden and she let slip that her dad wasn't home yet they gave her some
cookies but she threw them in the outside bin while they watched on on
Tuesday they confronted us on the way to school and asked me why I lied about my
husband luckily I wasn't alone and one of the Neighbors on my street told them
to back off on the way back from picking her up at the end of the day we took a
taxi home in the evening they were banging on my door again and they had
their sons with them I called the police but they only arrived after they had
left I discussed it with my husband on the phone and he managed to get 3 days
off but he won't be home before this weekend as his workplace didn't see it
as an emergency until yesterday's incident yesterday they came by again
while we were in the park I was preoccupied with my son and I noticed a
tap on my shoulder it was Morton holding my daughter and he said I should take
better care of her as she might walk into the road while my attention is
elsewhere he made it out as if she had run into the street but my daughter
denied it I grabbed her and the other children and left and packed some stuff
I asked my next door to collect my post and hold on to it while I booked a hotel
she informed me that the post office will do it for free for 14 days but that
she will look out for my house and not if they come by again words gone round
that they are being a bit weird about my daughter I have been staying in this
hotel since and my husband is arranging ticket for us to visit my parents before
the Christmas holidays at this point I don't want to stay here anymore and my
husband will have to ask for a transfer I spoke to the principal and she said
she would check in on my daughter in the morning and keep her at pickup time and
I can pick her up from the office I haven't told the principal about our
moving plans just in case she mentions it to another teacher and it gets back
to asid's friend I hate lying but feel that if I don't it may put us at risk
one of my neighbors on the other side of the street said both astred and Morton
have mentioned that they suspect that I neglect my child and that they tried to
insinuate that maybe I was too overwhelmed with four little ones while
my husband was offshore she told them I wasn't and they have now moved on to
another neighbor trying to badmouth me it seems like they are recruiting
Witnesses slh helpers so my neighbor said it's best best to keep
documentation in case they call CPS on us and to get a copy and confirmation
from the police that there is bad blood between us my husband can deal with the
paperwork in the aftermath and join us when he can arrange a transfer but I am
not staying here anymore final update a lot has happened in the last few days I
don't want to give too many details as this story has been leaked to other
social media without my approval I also don't want ASD and Morton to find this
now that it's on several platforms I am at my parents we are all safe now my
husband will be joining us in the new year once he sorts out his new
assignment I won't say what country we are in now as my husband said that ASD
came by the house under the guys of giving us Christmas cookies 2 days ago
wondering why my daughter hadn't been at school he told her politely to leave
before leaving I only told the pricipal and not her teacher her principal
understood and said it was her responsibility to relay that information
to the class and the teacher today she was at our place again asking him where
she was as the principal told the class that my daughter was sad to leave them
but we had moved no other details given she made her school friend drawings that
were given to them sad as it is I don't want her to contact her friends in case
they say something to the wrong person my daughter will make new friends and
hopefully won't miss her Norwegian friends too much I did tell two of my
closest Neighbors on the day I was leaving but they were always on friendly
terms with me and they were on my side all along to be honest I don't know
where my husband might get sent next for now we are all safe thank you for all
the support I know I didn't reply to all but I had a lot going on please don't
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what do you do when your partner just cannot stop
finding ways to annoy you we'll get to that in a
:05.080 --> :09.560
bit but first my boyfriend of three plus years
doesn't want to leave his parents house to marry
:09.560 --> :15.480 me I 26-year-old female feel really stuck he
26-year-old male lived with his parents his
:15.480 --> :20.440
entire life they are plenty rich and he doesn't
have any responsibilities around the house he
:20.440 --> :26.200
works in his father's company we've been friends
since 2020 and started going out around 2021 since
:26.200 --> :31.320
then it started to get serious I've met with his
family multiple times even went to vacation with
:31.320 --> :36.720
his mother and sister they don't want me because
I'm poor and ugly I live with my mom and we're
:36.720 --> :42.400
around middle class the flat is ours so we don't
have to pay rent and we both work we have a very
:42.400 --> :47.880
stable life but his dad wants him to marry someone
rich I was really hurt when I heard his comments
:47.880 --> :52.080
about me but my boyfriend said that it's going
to work out in the future don't worry but it's
:52.080 --> :58.040
been 3 and 1/2 years already back then we planned
to get married around 27 but when I told him that
:58.040 --> :04.120
now he says it's too early and if it was up to him
we would get married at 30 I told him we plan to
:04.120 --> :10.600
get married at 27 and we're already 26 he said I
said that cuz you wanted to I don't want to waste
:10.600 --> :15.640
my time but I also don't want to throw away our
relationship he is too comfy in his parents house
:15.640 --> :20.880
so he doesn't want to have new responsibilities so
he's trying to make it take as long as possible I
:20.880 --> :25.920
don't find him attractive anymore not physically
I thought I found someone I can finally live the
:25.920 --> :31.120
rest of my life with but my thought about him has
changed now I'm really sad and don't know what to
:31.120 --> :36.120
do can someone help me with this I mean to me it
just sounds like somebody that's too complacent
:36.120 --> :40.760
in their life and in your relationship and if
you're feeling at the point that you're already
:40.760 --> :46.520
over him why continue to delay the inevitable
just like he's delaying anything relationship
:46.520 --> :52.520
facing also hi I'm stevenh and if you guys enjoy
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And subscribe buttons down below that said our
next story is my boyfriend and I are having a
:57.560 --> :03.840
hard time blending families me me 33-year-old
female and my boyfriend 35-year-old male both
:03.840 --> :09.520
have sons near the same age my boys are 6 and 8
his son is eight we've been dating for a couple
:09.520 --> :13.560
of months and are at a point where we're starting
to be around each other's kids and are getting the
:13.560 --> :20.360
kids all together to hang out he and his son joke
in a way that I find verbally aggressive they call
:20.360 --> :25.520
each other stupid and ugly and basically verbally
attack each other in what I'd consider to be a
:25.520 --> :30.800
passive aggressive way I've brought this up to
my boyfriend and he insists they just playing and
:30.800 --> :36.520
it's all jokes he's also made it very clear that
he isn't going to change anything about it either
:36.520 --> :40.960
we've gotten into a few disagreements about it
because I don't care to see him interact that way
:40.960 --> :48.280
with my sons my parenting style is very different
it's softer and uplifting we never say mean things
:48.280 --> :54.240
to each other even as a joke I understand that
men and women parent differently I know that dads
:54.240 --> :59.120
typically tend to be more Rough Around the Edges
while moms are usually more nurturing in their
:59.120 --> :05.560
approaches should I be seeing this as much of a
red flag as I do am I overreacting I just think
:05.560 --> :10.600
in general op is moving way too fast with this
I don't think there's any reason to involve the
:10.600 --> :15.400
kids right now you're only a couple of months into
dating this guy who's blending families a couple
:15.400 --> :21.560
of months into a relationship our next story is my
boyfriend 28-year-old male is upset about having
:21.560 --> :27.880 to use unscented soap on his downstairs area
for me 29-year-old female I'm someone who is
:27.880 --> :33.040 susceptible to getting yeast infection and
has to use unscented soap and detergent I
:33.040 --> :38.080
have especially in the past been susceptible to
them following sex with male Partners my current
:38.080 --> :44.160
boyfriend uses a very strong and heavily scented
body wash I asked him if he could maybe just wash
:44.160 --> :50.120
his area with my unscented bar soap as to help
avoid upsetting my pH balance or contributing
:50.120 --> :55.240 to possibly giving me a yeast infection and
he said yes he would we talked about it again
:55.240 --> :01.480
today and I just found out he has only sometimes
been doing it because it's inconvenient to him
:01.480 --> :06.200
he also stated that he doesn't actually believe
that's a real thing that it can upset a woman's
:06.200 --> :11.760
pH or cause infection because he's never heard
about it anywhere before and that's also why he
:11.760 --> :16.600
doesn't care about it as much what should I do in
this case I basically told him I don't really care
:16.600 --> :21.720
to hook up with him unless he takes my health
seriously for added information I'm the first
:21.720 --> :27.840
girl he's ever been in a relationship with or has
been physical with as of a couple of months ago he
:27.840 --> :33.480
grew up not really socializing with women outside
a family so whether or not he has specifically
:33.480 --> :38.640
heard about it before himself he should learn that
when you're in a relationship there's this thing
:38.640 --> :43.480
called communication and also you should have a
willingness to believe your partners when they
:43.480 --> :48.280
share health concerns with you I'm not trying to
tear down the guy but he doesn't have experience
:48.280 --> :52.920
so why is he going around acting like he knows
everything they've never been in a relationship
:52.920 --> :57.440 with a woman before op but somehow they know
everything about how their body can possibly
:57.440 --> :03.880
function it's also complete BS for him to say oh
it's inconvenient you're literally in the shower
:03.880 --> :09.600 just grab the bar of soap plus it's soap if
you're that lazy it cleans itself you don't
:09.600 --> :15.160
even have to like prepare anything special just
grab the bar of soap lather up your hands and
:15.160 --> :20.320
get to work you don't even need to like prepare
a cloth or a loofah or anything this next story
:20.320 --> :26.880
is I 30-year-old male joked with a cashier 20s
female and my wife 28-year-old female of one
:26.880 --> :32.000 year got jealous two nights ago my wife and
I went to a winery a few blocks from home I
:32.000 --> :36.520 brought a returnable soda bottle and put it
next to the cashier and said this is the one
:36.520 --> :42.120
I want none of that Switcheroo business and the
cashier laughed the whole joke was that recently
:42.120 --> :47.120
I brought a large returnable bottle but wanted
to buy a smaller size the cashier accidentally
:47.120 --> :52.160
charged me for the larger one and the next time
I saw her two nights ago with my wife I made
:52.160 --> :57.720
a joke about it yesterday she was all stolen and
irritated in the morning about it when I was about
:57.720 --> :03.200
to leave her work she asked if I want wanted to
buy soda I said I didn't a bit confused and she
:03.200 --> :09.080
said something like since you like that cashier
so much I mean I had no idea what she meant and
:09.080 --> :15.480
when she explained herself I was like are you for
real are you seriously jealous right now she said
:15.480 --> :21.840
I was flirting with the cashier I asked Are you
seriously accusing me of flirting with this girl
:21.840 --> :26.360
in front of you I asked if she thought that I
was not only flirting with other women but I
:26.360 --> :31.680
was Shameless enough to do it in front of her she
stayed quiet after that she literally didn't say
:31.680 --> :37.200
anything else and I left for work pretty angry
at her this is the first ever that she accuses
:37.200 --> :42.720
me or even remotely insinuates that I'm being
disloyal to her over a freaking dumb joke about
:42.720 --> :48.200
a soda bottle I tried talking to her about it last
night and today and she's completely given me the
:48.200 --> :53.840
silent treatment of this topic when I bring it up
she shuts down immediately I'm seriously offended
:53.840 --> :58.560
that she accused me of essentially seeking other
women and when I defend myself and want to talk it
:58.560 --> :04.960
out she shuts down down doesn't explain herself
doesn't apologize nothing what do I do here how
:04.960 --> :10.760 do I get her to open up explain herself and
ideally apologize literally she had never
:10.760 --> :17.520
accused me of something in such a baseless way and
then shut down playful sure flirting no honestly
:17.520 --> :23.120
them shutting down may be more about her than
it is op maybe they're aware that it probably
:23.120 --> :28.160
is irrational but they're still upset about it
they just don't want to fight about it it would
:28.160 --> :32.000
be good if Opie could try to have a discussion
with her about what makes her feel the way it
:32.000 --> :37.600
does so you guys can try to understand and break
it down and hopefully collaborate and work on it
:37.600 --> :42.720
rather than let it continue to stay silent and
fester and hopefully it just goes away on its
:42.720 --> :50.040
own our next story is am I lazy or is my fiance
being a baby I 29-year-old female have recently
:50.040 --> :56.080
began living without my fiance 33-year-old male
I think we have a good relationship we're both
:56.080 --> :00.480
respectful and try to be open-minded to what the
other likes but somehow how living with him is
:00.480 --> :06.880
starting to get to me he asks me to do everything
you'll say things like oh you don't have to cook
:06.880 --> :11.640
we'll just buy something but the next day he will
complain that he doesn't have lunch or he's hungry
:11.640 --> :18.360
and there's nothing to eat he literally only eats
full meals no snacks or nothing Frozen it's weird
:18.360 --> :23.360
I also do all the cleaning apart from mopping the
floor and occasionally he'll do the laundry and
:23.360 --> :28.280
usually takes the kitchen trash out only when
asked though we don't have a huge place just a
:28.280 --> :32.560
one-bedroom apartment so I really only clean the
kitchen and the bathroom and tidy up the living
:32.560 --> :37.480 room and bedroom here and there as needed we
both work full-time but he's also going to school
:37.480 --> :43.520
full-time when I think about it our workload seems
even but when I'm doing it I feel like I'm always
:43.520 --> :49.840
working he also asks me to do little things like
Ser his food and drinks get this turn on that
:49.840 --> :56.200
bring him this Etc just all sorts of little things
he can do on his own but just won't if I'm sitting
:56.200 --> :01.960
around relaxing on a Saturday but he has something
in his mind mind my relaxation goes out the window
:01.960 --> :06.960
and now I'm doing whatever he's asked me to do if
I finished cleaning all the dishes and clean the
:06.960 --> :12.400
kitchen for the night but he's suddenly hungry or
snacks again then I have to prepare something and
:12.400 --> :17.600
clean up all over again it's just things like that
and it's starting to annoy me I don't know if I'm
:17.600 --> :22.840
being a spoiled lazy Brad who's getting a reality
check I've only lived with my parents who did the
:22.840 --> :27.440 cooking and cleaning for the most part or if
I'm right to feel this way I mean as long as
:27.440 --> :33.920
your chores are split pretty evenly I think it's
unjustified in that situation but in situations
:33.920 --> :40.880
where they can very much get up and turn this on
or go get themselves X or Y Opie is definitely
:40.880 --> :46.160
not in the wrong for being upset that you're kind
of being treated like a maid in that regard it's
:46.160 --> :51.360
one thing if your op is getting up and going to
the kitchen to say hey can you grab me something
:51.360 --> :57.160
but for him to just like expect you to get up and
go get whatever or stop and do whatever for them
:57.160 --> :00.760
I think anybody's going to get sick and tired of
that that because you don't even want to be around
:00.760 --> :05.320
the person because there's just a high chance
they're going to ask you to do something if you're
:05.320 --> :09.720
around them it's like forget it I don't even want
to be seen around you if you're just going to ask
:09.720 --> :16.400 me to do something for you our next story is
my 21-year-old female best friend 22-year-old
:16.400 --> :21.520
female is ending our relationship because I'm
still friends with the guy 22-year-old male
:21.520 --> :26.640
she hooked up with my childhood best friend of
11 years is ending our friendship and I'm just
:26.640 --> :32.680
at a loss of what to do I have a male best friend
of essentially 3 years now we'll call him jack I
:32.680 --> :37.560
introduced Jack and my friend Emma earlier this
year and we became a little Trio where we hang
:37.560 --> :43.880
out talk do things together Etc to establish the
Dynamics Jack considers me his best friend and
:43.880 --> :51.160
vice versa Emma and I are best friends side note I
have no romantic feelings for Jack and vice versa
:51.160 --> :56.360
recently Emma began catching feelings for Jack and
express discomfort over me and Jack hanging out by
:56.360 --> :02.040
ourselves her and Jack start flirting over Tech
pretty heavily and end up hooking up and things
:02.040 --> :07.520
kind of take a turn for the worse Jack feels that
them hooking up can potentially ruin things a lot
:07.520 --> :12.600
between all three of us and decides not to take
the relationship further he tells her he doesn't
:12.600 --> :17.600 want to change the Friendship she expresses
understanding but she feels really hurt and
:17.600 --> :22.880 rejected about it later on she vents to me I
try to support her as best as I can by giving
:22.880 --> :28.720
her advice Etc he's also casually dating a girl
at this time she was aware of this prior to the
:28.720 --> :34.880
hook up and she feels really hurt about it as well
she starts to feel isolated for me she feels upset
:34.880 --> :39.080 that me and Jack are still hanging out alone
and she thinks I should be telling her when we
:39.080 --> :43.840
do she tells me she's going to distance herself
from me because I don't tell her what Jack got
:43.840 --> :50.040
her for Christmas Etc it eventually blows over
to where she's feeling extremely hurt I advise
:50.040 --> :56.040
her to stop talking to Jack since it's making her
feel worse and she tells Jack I told her that Jack
:56.040 --> :02.360
ends up distancing himself from her she feels
worse I try to support her and give her advice
:02.360 --> :06.840
but she finally said that she feels betrayed and
hurt that I'm still friends or laughing with the
:06.840 --> :12.880
guy that hurt her she feels disposable and that
he discarded her after hooking up I feel like is
:12.880 --> :17.720
there anything I could have done more to prevent
this from happening was this bound to happen was
:17.720 --> :22.920
it impossible for me to salvage my friendships
with both of them am I a terrible friend I don't
:22.920 --> :29.120
think goop's a terrible friend but they just have
the unfortunate and unenviable position of being
:29.120 --> :34.880
the third wheel in an awkward friendship where
they hooked up with each other and things just
:34.880 --> :40.520
aren't really going well it's sounding like a
genie that can no longer be put back into that
:40.520 --> :46.720 bottle our next story is my boyfriend wants
kids I do not my boyfriend and I are in our
:46.720 --> :51.400
early 20s and have been together for just over 2
years we've talked and made plans about getting
:51.400 --> :57.920
married there's just one issue he wants kids I've
never really wanted kids I tried convincing myself
:57.920 --> :02.880
for a while that it was was something I could do
and I imagin us having a family together and for
:02.880 --> :08.720
a while it seemed like a possibility but recently
the thought of it makes me feel uneasy I struggle
:08.720 --> :13.040
with a lot of mental health issues and I know that
I mentally won't be able to cope with having a
:13.040 --> :18.280
baby nor would I be able to properly care for one
as a mother we've spoken about it and he said that
:18.280 --> :23.040
he understands my choice and respects my decision
he said that he doesn't want kids unless they're
:23.040 --> :29.240
with me and if I never want them then that's okay
I appreciate him being so understanding of me but
:29.240 --> :34.800
I worry that he's just saying that now and thinks
that maybe I'll change my mind I don't want him to
:34.800 --> :40.600
resent me later on or regret staying with me and
not having kids should we stay together despite
:40.600 --> :45.520
this difference or would it be best for us to
break up and go our separate ways well I mean
:45.520 --> :49.960
it comes down to whether or not they're being
truthful if they're truly fine with not having
:49.960 --> :55.800 kids and spending that time with you great
if they're lying well that sucks and the real
:55.800 --> :00.480
problem is they lied to your face how would you
know as long as they're doing everything to tell
:00.480 --> :06.360
you convince you and make sure that you know that
they're okay not having kids ever then what's the
:06.360 --> :11.560
issue from there bottom line though is if there
is even an inkling that they're still always going
:11.560 --> :17.440
to want kids it is such a fundamental difference
that you should probably take a long hard look at
:17.440 --> :24.760
it our next story is my boyfriend 21-year-old male
is pressuring me 21-year-old female to lose weight
:24.760 --> :29.480
my boyfriend insinuates I should change my body
I don't know if this is an over reaction on my
:29.480 --> :38.280
behalf for reference I'm a 21-year-old woman I'm
166 cm tall and around 60 to 62 kg I'm not stick
:38.280 --> :44.360
thin but I'm not fat or overly muscular either
one day when with my boyfriend he told me he likes
:44.360 --> :49.640
women with abs the comment came out of nowhere
as we weren't talking about this topic but I
:49.640 --> :56.120
just brushed it off a while later he asked several
times what my ideal body would be again we weren't
:56.120 --> :02.560
really talking about this so I vaguely answered
more toned he looks me up and down and feels my
:02.560 --> :08.360
body and tells me you should lose body fat then
I was quite hurt by this as I didn't ask him for
:08.360 --> :13.400
any advice or start this topic of conversation
he gives me an estimate of what he thinks my
:13.400 --> :19.280
fat percentage is at this point I ask him if he
thinks I'm fat and he says he could help me and
:19.280 --> :24.960
write me a workout plan I expressed my hurt and we
argued slightly he then apologized and said he was
:24.960 --> :31.400
only trying to help a few hours pass and I forget
all about it however again he brings up the topic
:31.400 --> :38.040
and asks what my ideal body type would be I said
toned again he then goes on Instagram and shows me
:38.040 --> :43.880
some photos of fitness models asking if I want
to look like this girl or this girl both girls
:43.880 --> :49.800
were very similar good muscles and abs I started
to get even more upset as I didn't see why he kept
:49.800 --> :56.320
persisting with this topic we argued and he got
so mad he punched a wardrobe he insisted he was
:56.320 --> :02.200
trying to help me I never asked for this I'm just
confused as I'm healthy and work out regularly I
:02.200 --> :08.240
know I'm attractive so why has he done this I
mean his initial Behavior alone is concerning
:08.240 --> :13.680
and like if I were an op's position I would start
immediately kind of questioning things but for
:13.680 --> :20.120
him to go and get so worked up that he goes and
punches a wardrobe that is highly concerning and
:20.120 --> :25.720
it almost shocks me how casually op mention that
and then didn't like mention how they felt about
:25.720 --> :30.800
it really show any kind of worry in any other part
part of the story about it I mean that reaction
:30.800 --> :38.160
is not normal especially in something that's not
even that hostile this next story is I 39-year-old
:38.160 --> :43.240
male got into first fight with girl 42-year-old
female because I didn't tell her when I left
:43.240 --> :49.360
my house so I'm 39-year-old male dating an older
woman 42-year-old female and we've been on about
:49.360 --> :55.560
six dates she's a flight attendant so she's gone
constantly so we need to maximize time we recently
:55.560 --> :59.520
got into our first fight because of plans we were
trying to make during during one of her few days
:59.520 --> :05.000
off it happened over text she's agreed that I
can share our exchange because we are in total
:05.000 --> :10.560
disagreement of if plans were solidified or not
to me when I said that sounds perfect I'll drive
:10.560 --> :15.600
up at that time meant we officially had a time
and date she's angry because I showed up to the
:15.600 --> :21.000
place but had not told her when I was leaving my
house so she had to scramble to meet me and came
:21.000 --> :26.280 30 minutes late my argument is I didn't have
to let her know because we clearly had made
:26.280 --> :32.240
plans with time date and place when I said I was
thinking about things that was only about if I
:32.240 --> :39.360
was driving or taking an Uber she says she 100%
cannot see things my way so I looked at the text
:39.360 --> :43.480
exchange the issue is op said they have a meeting
that ends in four and then they'll make their way
:43.480 --> :48.120
up the partner replied I think their happy hour
starts at 5: just take your time we can adjust
:48.120 --> :54.640
if need be op replies okay dope that should work
perfectly and never responded again after that so
:54.640 --> :00.480
I think the issue here is I think op assumed their
reply okay dope that should work perfectly meant
:00.480 --> :05.680
more confirmation than it really did because when
she said I think their happy hour starts at 5:
:05.680 --> :11.040
we can adjust if need be Opie didn't respond with
oh yeah I'll be there at 5: Opie said okay that
:11.040 --> :15.360
should work perfectly so she's probably hanging
around assuming they're going to hear back once
:15.360 --> :20.280
op's finally done with their meeting they said
was going on there was never any okay I'll be
:20.280 --> :26.280
there at 5:00 our next story is 32-year-old male
boyfriend broke up with me 30-year-old female
:26.280 --> :31.760
during an argument and took it back with than half
an hour I haven't felt okay since asked me to move
:31.760 --> :36.800
into the guest room and during the process I was
messaging work because I was going to be late or
:36.800 --> :42.520
not in at all since I was actively being broken up
with over a heated argument he told me of course
:42.520 --> :47.880
I would call out and got even more mad at me so
I ordered a ride and got my stuff together and
:47.880 --> :52.720
moved a few things of mine in the living room
to the guest room he apologized and hugged me
:52.720 --> :57.440
while I waited for my ride to work and said he
still wanted to work on things but I felt just
:57.440 --> :02.920
empty ever since he says he's tired of being in
charge of my complaints about the relationship
:02.920 --> :07.600
and I'm just trying to find ways to not feel like
I'm pretending while sitting around on eggshells
:07.600 --> :12.920
all week it's been a crappy week I don't know
what to do I'm so upset because I love him so
:12.920 --> :17.800
much but it seems like no matter how many ways I
express to him what my needs and desires are they
:17.800 --> :23.360
will always just be a chore or an inconvenience to
him I don't really feel like The Details Matter so
:23.360 --> :29.240
much but I'm insecure in the relationship and he's
financially insecure and we just can't seem to see
:29.240 --> :35.880
eye to eye on anything I do things to engage with
him and his Hobbies like video games daily but he
:35.880 --> :40.560
can't be bother to even go on dates or help me
come up with something fun to do together that
:40.560 --> :46.000
makes me feel fulfilled and now with attention
if I suggest anything or ask for something to
:46.000 --> :52.080
try he's just taking it as more complaints or
ridicule I'm exhausted and I kind of feel like
:52.080 --> :57.240
I should have moved into the guest room I know if
I do now he'll just tell me I'm being dramatic or
:57.240 --> :02.120
trying to get a reaction out of him so I haven't
I don't want us to break up but I'm also kind of
:02.120 --> :08.200
done trying anymore I'm too tired and sad about it
all and every argument now feels like a potential
:08.200 --> :14.240
breakup so I'm afraid to even talk to him please
help I mean I'm not going to lie it kind of sounds
:14.240 --> :19.560
to me like things are pretty over it just doesn't
sound like either side really wants to fight for
:19.560 --> :24.400 this relationship I think it's becoming more
of a thing where it's just convenient and easy
:24.400 --> :29.960
to stay you know it hurts and it's difficult to
break up but no body's fighting for it is there
:29.960 --> :37.200
any spark to be had still there our next story
is male 29 female 27 boyriend and best friend
:37.200 --> :42.800
slept together and says nothing happened should I
believe them hey you need opinions on this a few
:42.800 --> :49.320
months ago I traveled with my best friend female
27 to a new country while there I met a guy male
:49.320 --> :55.360
29 and we dated and became pretty serious over
the 6 months I was there until I unexpectedly had
:55.360 --> :01.160
to return home for a bit I noticed one night when
we were texting his snap naaps was on and at 6:00
:01.160 --> :06.960
a.m. he went to the area where my best friend now
lived I thought maybe it's just a coincidence and
:06.960 --> :11.880
one of his friends might just live in that area
too I went back to the country recently to visit
:11.880 --> :17.800
went to my best friend's house and it was in fact
that same address he went to that night they never
:17.800 --> :23.280
told me or mentioned it to me they barely knew
each other at that stage he told me it was an
:23.280 --> :30.240
after party at hers he slept in her bed but says
nothing happened she denies it as well however
:30.240 --> :35.280
their stories don't completely match I'm meant to
be going back in a few months what should I do in
:35.280 --> :41.640
this situation I'm not willing to buy it it just
does not add up to me it all just sounds way too
:41.640 --> :49.280
suspicious I think honestly let them continue to
share the same bed move on our next story is my
:49.280 --> :56.000 29-year-old female husband 30-year-old male
annoys me every day in the most minimal way
:56.000 --> :01.080
how do I deal with this my husband has has this
habit that I find very annoying but that I can't
:01.080 --> :07.240
necessarily fault him for without feeling mean I
swear he's trying to annoy me he will come to my
:07.240 --> :12.080
desk when I'm busy and then just stand there and
stare at me without saying anything you'll wait
:12.080 --> :17.640 for me to get exasperated enough to ask what
and then he'll laugh because in my opinion he
:17.640 --> :23.520
successfully annoyed me then he leaves alternative
behavior is he'll come to my desk while I'm busy
:23.520 --> :30.600
and literally twerk I will be obviously intensely
reading but he will not stop twerking on the wall
:30.600 --> :36.000
or whatever corner of my vision until I turn my
head and acknowledge it he especially waits for
:36.000 --> :43.800
me to laugh before he stops but I am so tired of
laughing at this low-effort joke or prank this
:43.800 --> :50.680
is every day multiple times a day lately I've
been so exhausted that I'm using more obviously
:50.680 --> :57.040
unimpressed faces in response to this and trying
to never give him laughs but he's persistent how
:57.040 --> :02.800
does his behavior read to others am I right to be
annoyed how can I handle this without being mean
:02.800 --> :08.040
I mean it definitely sounds like he just wants a
lot of attention I just think in a situation like
:08.040 --> :13.640
this it's incredibly important to communicate how
it's frustrating and annoying for you because if
:13.640 --> :19.080 you don't that is very quickly going to turn
into resentment and the last thing you want
:19.080 --> :23.920
if you want this relationship to work out is to
resent your partner you don't want to come around
:23.920 --> :28.880
the corner and see them and go g you don't want
to find yourself falling into a scenario where
:28.880 --> :34.040
you hate running into the person you're supposed
to love the most this next story is my girlfriend
:34.040 --> :40.360
rejected sex so much that now I don't want to do
it anymore hi all I 25-year-old male have been
:40.360 --> :47.200
with my girlfriend 25-year-old female for about
2 years at the beginning sex was okay never great
:47.200 --> :53.360
but good enough that I didn't care much then about
a year ago she started rejecting me all the time
:53.360 --> :58.560
she didn't only reject me when I initiated but
also didn't want kisses and would get upset with
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any kind of play I tried to do the very few times
we did do it she did not put any effort at all and
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it was very bad to the point I didn't enjoy it
at some points she even told me that it looked
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like all I wanted is that when that couldn't be
further from the truth I really love her I view
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my future with her and all that nowadays she tries
to initiate it to kiss me and all that but I've
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been rejected so many times that I don't even feel
like kissing her anymore has anyone gone through
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something similar what are your thoughts I mean I
get where op is coming from they got rejected so
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many times that I think it's kind of in their own
head you feel like your partner doesn't actually
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desire you I think the issue is op's harboring
these feelings and it's causing them to act
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unnecessarily because they have these feelings
that haven't been validated or really addressed
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they're allowing that to prevent them from being
intimate in their relationship from this story it
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sounds to me like there's a personal tally system
inside for all the things and all the times op's
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been denied and rejected giving in now that she is
initiating and retaliating it would be like trying
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to forget everything that ever happened to op and
I think it's just a big sign that there are things
:10.160 --> :14.520 that op needs to work through that have been
kind of swallowed up I mean not only does Opie
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have these feelings but Opie also doesn't have
any Clarity on why she was being so rejecting
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for all that time I especially understand in that
circumstance why those feelings are so rooted our
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next story is I 25-year-old male found out that my
best friend of 10 years 25-year-old male was the
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one telling our group of friends to not invite or
let me know that they're meeting up how do I talk
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to him and move past this some background for
my first year of University I moved away from
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my close friends to study in a different city we
continued texting each other after I moved but
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this of course put some distance between me and
my friends while they were getting closer with
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each other since they were expecting the first
year of uni together they had the mentality that
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every first year university student has to to go
out and have lots of fun I began experiencing many
:01.920 --> :06.680 personal issues and decided to move back and
study in the city that my friends were all in
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after 6 months of being away from everyone after
returning I realized that I was being excluded
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from many outings or meetups my friends did at
this point I was still going through a difficult
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period because of the issues I was referring to
above and this was adding to my sadness making me
:22.560 --> :28.000 miserable I confided in my best friend let's
call him X explained how the situation made
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me feel that it was not nice leaving me out of
outings cuz we're all friends I didn't understand
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why they weren't inviting me I thought that maybe
some of the newer people in the group didn't want
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me there and that's why I didn't mind not going to
some of the outings I was just heartbroken being
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left out all the time especially because they
knew I was going through a difficult time and was
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hoping they'd be there for me in the same way that
I've been there for them I told my ex to imagine
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himself in my shoes and he said that I'm right and
he implied that he wasn't the one having problems
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with me and when I asked if it's someone else he
didn't deny it he even said that he would speak up
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for me and try to make it so I wouldn't get left
out this would haunt me a lot and he knew it X was
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always telling me I'm right and that he didn't
understand why they were acting like that fast
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forward a few years 5 to six to now X is currently
my best friend and I love him very much I went
:21.360 --> :25.760 through these years believing that the other
members of that group didn't want me and had many
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fights back then over this issue recently I met
up with a different friend and he revealed that
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this whole time it was actually my best friend
X telling the friend group not to include me or
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let me know that they're all meeting or going out
because I kill the vibe going so far to even hide
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Instagram stories from me so that I wouldn't know
they're all hanging out this deeply hurt me and I
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feel betrayed by X even more so because I'm much
closer with him now than I was in the past he has
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changed now for the better and I know it I trust
the current version of him and I know he loves me
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but I'm not sure I'll ever be able to see him
in the same way I feel like now I'm more wary
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and careful around X and I feel betrayed the funny
thing is I've had conversations with X about the
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past and he always felt as if he was a bad person
and that he changed his ways in his second year of
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University but I never knew why because he seemed
fine to me until now I was mostly over this whole
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ordeal but this new information has reopened an
old wound and made it worse I'd like to talk to my
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best friend about it but the friend that revealed
this information to me doesn't want anyone knowing
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that he told me what do I do X doesn't know that
I know please don't suggest anything like cutting
:40.640 --> :46.040 everyone off because these are my friends of
many years and they are a huge part of my life
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I really believe that he has changed thank you
I mean in a circumstance like this if op doesn't
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want to cut anybody off bottom line is you either
address it and you put it all out out there and
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you try to get past it and own it hopefully he
owns it or and this is the more difficult option
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I think you kind of accept it and move on and
hope that nothing like that ever happens again
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and that you can personally just move past it if
you don't want to talk to him directly because
:15.000 --> :19.360 your other friend would get exposed and that
would cause too much issues but you don't want
:19.360 --> :24.600 to cut anybody off there's really no other
option but to just try to accept it and move
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past it yourself but with that being said that's
all the time we have for today now if you want to
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what has been your biggest I really thought I knew this person moment I
dated a guy for a year we've been good friends some years prior who was very
smart and studied rocket science I studied material engineering we wrote a
100 paper together on new rocket models for a research contest and did AO 50-50
of the work together he lived in a big city and I lived further away so I asked
him to go hand in the printed copy to the university that organized the
contest some weeks later he told me he'd been to the uni to ask about our power
status and told me we hadn't been selected for the contest so I trusted
him and we went out on a compensation dinner a few weeks later I saw that
little the University's Instagram doing a speech on our work he presented
our work with only his name and erased my credits we'd actually been selected
and he got a diploma and a price for our work and I was only mentioned in the
agreements page alongside his family for providing emotional support edit to ad
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aita for being upset about my wife forcing me to compete with the dogs for
food I meal prep on Sundays so that I have food for a hot lunch during the
week I'll make a thing of turkey bacon hardboiled eggs sauces of various types
such as pesto and we'll grill chicken breasts I'll then use these prepped
ingredients to make wraps with various salad veg through the week or we'll eat
alongside a salad my wife and I have two dogs they get a combination of
prepackaged foods and stuff we cook at home we're careful with the foods we
prep for them and have gotten into the habit of avoiding things that dogs can't
eat when I prep my lunches I make sure to communicate this to my wife I always
wind up in a situation where I have nothing to eat on Thursday lunches
because I don't have time for breakfast this means that I go hungry from dinner
on Wednesday until Thursday night and then have to spend Thursday evenings
prepping lunch a Friday again I've tried making more no matter how much I make I
always wind up in this situation I've asked my wife to not give the dogs the
food I make for my lunches she has agreed but then done this anyway for
various reasons I needed something to give them quickly I didn't have time to
make them something else it was just this once this week I made calasa on
Sunday with braced cabbage I made enough for five lunches I ate it for lunch
yesterday 2 hours ago I went into the fridge to eat between meetings and there
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can't get over hurtful things my Mill said during pregnancy my 37f and my BF
37m have been together for 10 years I have two older children from a previous
relationship my BF has stepped up and taken on a fatherly role to them I've
always loved my BFS family his mom was always so nice and never said anything
that caused me to have any type of hard feeling after 10 years of being together
we found out I was pregnant and this is where things took a turn recently my BF
was hospitalized for some health issue I
was there by his side as much as I could be not allowed to stay after visiting
hour my oldest child was with me while visiting him he had been taken to have
some tests done so we just sat in the room waiting while waiting his mom came
and was also waiting to see him we started discussing my pregnancy and how
things were going and then she said some things that threw me off and I was
shocked and hurt she told me that I have to get rid of my dogs male pitbull and
female mix I told her no I'm not getting rid of my dogs they are good dogs and
would never hurt anyone she then said that if I didn't want to get rid of the
dogs then I should just give her my baby I thought she lost her mind I just
laughed it off because a hospital is not
the time or place to have those types of conversations especially when I was
stressing about my BFS health and my child was present she then casually
mentioned that she had told my BF before that he should date a Hispanic woman
they are Hispanic and I'm white because white women are cheaters again I laugh
this off because she obviously doesn't know her son and the things he's done in
the course of our relationship I waited until after my BF was discharged from
the hospital to let him know what was said and how upset I was but I told him
I did didn't want to bring any issues between him and his mother I just wanted
him to know what she had said when he wasn't around since then she's made
comments about me not having the dates right for my pregnancy not liking the
fact that we did the gender reveal and baby shower together didn't feel like
having two separate parties just small minor thing all in all it's adding up my
problem is I'm not over the Things She Said in the hospital and I'm starting to
get worried about what comments she will make in the future and how I will react
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aita for wanting to cancel my parental rights after finding out my son isn't
mine original post June 8th 2024 I am26 the guy who has been raising a
4-year-old boy and up until recently I believed he was my biological son his
mom and I dated for about a year and shortly after we broke up she told me
she was pregnant I accepted it without question and have been there for the boy
ever since over the past few months I started noticing that he doesn't really
look like me friends and family made casual comments that fueled my
suspicions so I decided to get a DNA test without telling his mom because I
didn't want to cause any drama if my doubts were unfounded when the results
came back they confirmed my fears I am not his biological father I confronted
his mom about it she broke down and admitted that around the time we broke
up she had a one night stand with another guy she wasn't sure who the
father was but when she found out she was pregnant she figured it was easier
to just let me believe the boy was mine she said it was a mistake and that she's
sorry but she also insisted that I'm still his dad because I've been the one
raising him I was devastated I felt betrayed and used I told her I wanted to
cancel my parental rights and get my name off the birth certificate she
pleaded with me not to do it saying that
it would destroy the boy but I feel like I've been living a lie I talked to a
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hey everyone my name is Jacob today we are gonna be looking at some malicious
compliance stories so sit back relax and enjoy letting a higher ranked sailor
embarrass himself it may seem ironic but water is the most tightly controlled
resource on a Navy ship every bit used for eating drinking showering launching
planes and in steam power plants is controlled and monitored this is because
you can't just slam seawater through the nuclear reactors well you can but it
will probably cost the government a few hundred million dollars and probably
land you in jail each carrier has two nuclear reactors and the government is
extremely protective of them the operators are the most highly trained
group of people in the Navy every year every single reactor and operator
undergoes a week of intense inspections and drills from a crew sent by
Washington DC called an operational reactor safety exam or orce I am just a
lowly e5 turning circles and launching planes supervising the catapults the
year is the mid-2000s and Operation Iraqi Freedom is still in high gear we
get a new guy an e6 on the ship and he is just the best thing since sliced
bread naturally nobody can stand the guy he does what he needs to do to be
released from work including getting fully trained on standing a watch in the
damage control center aka DC central DC central is the command center where all
the shipwide drills or actual catastrophes are managed it's time for
the ORS to set the scene it's about 2:00 a.m. the ship is the kind of quiet you
only get in nurseries at naptime and the calm before the storm the overhead
speakers crackle into life reactor shot down react to shutdown my watch standers
join me in the office just in time for the phone call
catapult shop mr. Opie this is mm jerk in DC central react to one shutdown
cross connects team from one to two drains from two to one hmm
hold up that's wrong that will deprive the catapults of steam and lock the
water away from the reactors exactly the wrong thing to do I try to tactfully
tell him this it goes about as well as expected try to envision the scene he is
in a room with tons of alarms flashing lights at least three of the guys is
ranked a bunch of east 7s probably in oh five who is the third in command of a
ship of 4,000 people and a bunch of people from Washington DC watching our
every move he doubles down no do this the wrong alignment Roger that
I give him the old III and log it my watch standers and I just grin in
anticipation that mm jerk is about to feel the long arm and sweaty fists of
Washington DC Department of Naval reactors to cut this short we do as
requested it's like 200 sets of pull-downs in a 100 degree sauna it
sucks but it was worth every drop of sweat we get it done and watch the steam
pressure fall and fall and fall it isn't long before the catapults can no longer
launch planes making the ship a 1.5 billion dollar ammo can the water level
in the reactor would have been going lower and lower until they have to stop
eventually someone had to take pity on mmm jerk and they called us back up to
fix the valves as for the fallout the watch standers on that particular station
were basically told when catapults give you a value lineup listen to them
mm jerk got his hand slapped but that is it and we got an attaboy from the
inspectors no great payoff but you take what you can get hey well if they say
you have to do it you have to listen whatever you say sergeant so this
happened a couple years ago while I was working for law enforcement in New York
City not the NYPD but similar how a usual shift was 3 p.m. to 11 p.m. we had
just gotten a new captain and as per freaking usual they want to
change things she decided to completely make a new shift 12 a.m. to 8 a.m. how a
mission should we choose to accept it was to go to this park with a band shell
that apparently had homeless sleeping in said band shell as you can guess we
didn't have much of a choice in the matter
so my partner and I do this shift and it goes all right but we hated the
overnight aspect we complained to the sergeant beforehand but policy was to
obey now gripe later he had our backs though and was able to get it change to
6:00 p.m. to 2 a.m. thank god this is where the fun begins
this happened on a Monday we already had
one shift on Sunday so two 8-hour shifts thus far for the week when we got back
from our overnight shift the sergeant tells us that the shift is changed
report back to work at 1800 hours some of you might already spot the problem
here I didn't realize until after I got home and slept I immediately called the
sergeant and this is how the conversation goes hey sergeant are you
sure you want us to come in for our shift today
why wouldn't I well if we come in for our shift today that will put us over
forty hours for the week down the line and you'll have to give us some overtime
he would have to sign off on it you do not tell me when you get overtime I make
the decisions around here we're gonna have a talk when you come in so a little
background info we work for the city if we go over 40 hours we get overtime pay
no matter what this sergeant was by no means the sharpest crayon in the shed it
was painfully clear he didn't understand
me he also has a very very short fuse so I was wary of that and unsurprised by
anything that transpired I actually liked the guy and was honestly tried to
help him not get into trouble like I said I liked the guy
and only wanted things to go smoothly so I roll into work fully knowing this is
gonna be a mess I walk in and he sits me down with one of his lackeys as some
kind of witness to what he thinks is gonna be him just completely reaming my
butt listen I tell you when you get over time you don't tell me blah blah blah
let me get a piece of paper and use that
to explain this whole thing I don't need you to write this down to explain this
to me me realizing I messed up by insulting his intelligence no no I just
need it cuz uh it will help me explain it better okay fine I literally wrote
down like the first three shafts I didn't even get to finish Sunday eight
hours Monday eight hours Monday eight hours it was then he completely realized
what I meant and you could hear thee it was at this moment he knew he messed up
his entire face shifted now he was in Salvage mode oh I see what you mean
your partner is already yeah yeah I live ten blocks away
the sergeant's gears were grinding I ended up suggesting that we just not
clock in today and he would clock us in and out on Saturday very big no-no for
the city but we ended up getting Saturday off so that was nice
I was only following orders hey at least
he got the Saturday off that sounds like a win to me you may not answer any
questions at any time for any reason my director is a witch she loves power and
just overall is miserable to work for from the very start she has made it very
clear she doesn't like me which is totally fine but I'm good at my job and
not willing to let her tell me different people don't stick around very long in
my position I totally get it cuz it's a hard job and she is a witch in the past
year my program has gone through five case managers so at this point I'm just
watching people come and go I'm the lead case manager in my program I have been
the go-to for a while now and when there
are questions I'm usually the one to ask she hates this she hates having to ask
me for anything and her rules are that no one is to come to me for any reason
and everyone must go to her first this is for literally anything again totally
fine less work and responsibility for me she has gone out of her way to scold me
for answering other case managers questions accusing me of going over her
head and training she makes a really big deal over here and I have been told you
may not answer any questions at any time for any reason
she is getting set to retire this December and has been taking a lot of
time off using her years of PTL our assistant director has also spent a good
amount of time out of the office because there is always a new case managers in
training and they are the only ones who can answer any questions
I refer any and all questions to her my go-to response to any and all questions
is hmm you know I'm not really sure I know how I would do it but just to be
sure you should really ask the director my case manager in training has to call
our director any time she has a question
she was recently out of the office for a week and the new case manager had to
call for instruction 33 times that week when she returned for her vacation she
was upset that she had been called so many times I just simply reminded her
that I wanted to make sure the new case manager was getting the correct
direction and I was told I shouldn't give any instructions the new case
manager was also assigned to the after-hours emergency phone and received
an emergency call two nights in a row at 1 a.m. and 3 a.m. if it was any other
program the person in my position would have been the go-to but not me instead
she called and woke the director up two nights in a row a new memo has come out
I can now answer questions hey well it sounds like her phone knows what it's
doing I don't care screw off well if you insist
where I come from Australia each state has a volunteer emergency service the
state emergency service think of a cert but bigger with better funding and does
more things one of our roles is in storm response basically going around and
conducting temporary repairs to structures to allow them to be lived in
while more permanent repairs are arranged through insurance members of
the public call up a number a request for assistance is entered into the
computer the priority of the job is assessed and eventually a team of
volunteers goes out to the job depending
on the priority of the job this can take time we get all the priority one jobs
first then priority two etc following a large weather event we have a large
number something like 5,000 jobs pending part of the response our Recon teams
consisting of two volunteers going out to each job assessing it on-site and
updating the requests with further details and images we were often working
until p.m. for low priority jobs and were on 24-hour operations for the
time so myself and another volunteer are driving to a job where a retaining wall
has been damaged this is far outside our operational
capability by the other volunteer just happens to be the engineer who designed
the wall it's a small world we arrive at the address and I phone the homeowner
the homeowner says who is this good evening sir my name is Opie from the
state emergency service I don't want whatever you're selling I am at your
home regarding a request for assistance regarding your retaining wall ah I don't
care screw off the phone call ends I look at
the other volunteer well he did say to screw off coffee sure we head off to
grab a coffee I phone the incident manager and tell him the report word for
word the response is laughter and the go-ahead to close the job with a note
detailing the person's behavior found out from the engineer that when the
council inspected it the wall had moved enough to threaten
the property above it if we had inspected it that night repairs made by
the council would have minimized the damage oh well he did tell us to screw
off so we did you think after the person says they're from the volunteer
emergency services you'd be like oh yeah sorry about that instead of going on to
say screw off Wow guys look on screen right now you see those two videos right
there they're pretty good I think you should click at least one of them and
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former undercover cops have read it what
is the craziest thing you had to do not to blow your cover I must have been 15
when one day the doorbell rang and I opened the door to two guys looking very
much like real tough Street guys they showed me their Badges and asked for my
mom or dad turned out that they wanted to stake out a public playground behind
her garden that was used by some dealers for their mules people drinking large
amounts of water and puking up little packages with some substances in it
there was a multi-story bank near the playground but the bank didn't want
anything to do with it so they asked my parents whether they could set up a
surveillance team on our Terrace for a couple of days my parents allowed it and
my mom prepared food for the guys all week long my dad did Undercover for
several years and talked about a junkie that he hang out with all the time and
even Babys had her kids when she went out to get her fix this went on for
several months while they were figuring out who the big dealer was in acquiring
warrants he grew a beard had a fake idea and drove an old beat up car eventually
they got warrants to bust a bunch of people in the ring and he was actually
part of the SWAT team at the time and was part of the group that smashed
indoors and arrested her and a bunch of others in the area he had to wear a ball
clava to protect his identity when with the SWAT team he said it was actually
really difficult because he had become an important part of those kids lives
and was kind of attached to them and now they had no mother and had to be taken
to Child Protective Services I never got to ask him more questions about this
before he passed but I have no idea how he balanced this crazy second life and
then came home and acted like a normal husband and father in her family plot
twist that he was the kid sorry to say you're adopted Bud story too not a cop
but a guy my mom dated for a long time was older guy in his 70s now who was
fresh out of the academy and at the Asbury Park riots sad and scary stuff
and then was an undercover narcotics cop
for 14 years during the 70s and 80s with the njsp he was Puerto Rican and spoke
Spanish was an ex-marine and became a state trooper he utilized his ability to
blend in with organized crime in the Latin Community he had to do snow in
front of a bunch of dudes during a buy one night then he started having a minor
paranoia or panic attack that they were going to find out he was a comp thanks
to the gram of snow he just took through
the Dome he was breathing heavy and went out for air his heart was pounding out
of his chest panicking over how to get out of it one of the gangsters came
outside to talk to him he's ready to run or fight guy goes man I've never seen
someone take in that much at once man you okay he side a huge sigh of relief
and was like yeah I never did that much I'm having trouble
breathing the guy was really nice bought him a drink and they smoked a Sig
everyone is joking that he has the Heart of a Lion to take that much actually
felt bad about locking that one guy up when it all went down think he said he
tried to help him or get a reduced sentence or something there are other
stories my cousin was an undercover ATF agent anyway they were trying to bust
some guys for illegal alol distribution were building a rapport by going
undercover my cousin doesn't take his ATF badge with him when he's undercover
because if anyone ever saw it he could get shot anyway some hot-headed black
and white cops came over and started harassing them my cousin couldn't blow
his cover but pretty soon the police started getting physical and they beat
the crap out of my cousin and the guy he's trying to get evidence from they
take them all into the police station only to find out that my cousin is ATF
my cousin was pissed because cops aren't supposed to beat people up he's
currently filing a lawsuit against that Police Department he deserves a
promotion for managing to keep his cover through all that he's like a secret
shopper but for cops Story three when the first got started in forensics it
was when chat rooms and webcams were taking off so Kitty fidler that they'd
be able to figure out who was who on the internet since clearly you'll know
you're webcamming with a 40-year-old dude munching on Donuts instead of a
girl I was a naive 18-year-old woman who was just getting started in policing
doing some clerical work for my hometown Police Department when I heard a couple
people talking about how they were having a hard time chatting up creeps
now that webcams were a thing I told them why not just hire someone to act
like an underage girl or boy and coached them on what to say and how to set up
meetings to catch these lo and behold I volunteered myself for the job we set up
a bedroom in one of the upstairs offices complete with a bed a desk and some
posters from one of the officer teenage daughters I had to wear some of my high
school sports clothes or pajamas while talking to Predators via webcam I passed
notes back and forth with the team of officers and ped off as trying to do
homework while chatting the hardest part
was to still seem interested in innocent
while this dude on the screen is telling
me what type of horrible things he wants to do to my body thinking I'm still a
child I just wanted to keep other people from getting abused and hurt the way I
had been as a child I was just doing my job even though I was kind of blundering
into things way outside of my pay grade I got a ton of questions I'll try to
answer them as best I can what about fraud or entrapment regarding entrapment
we got around it because it really didn't apply with the way we were doing
things I never actually went into a chat room and solicited people via text or
webcam I didn't have to solicit anyone they were literally just waiting in the
chat rooms ready to pounce what usually happened was I would log in with a girly
or teenager re handle and people would start sending a chat request before I
could even post hello on the chat feed we often had so many that sometimes we
had to let a few of them go because there were just too many for me to try
and talk to or type with so we never actually tried to get them to talk to me
often times you can get them to shut up once it got going they had no
inhibitions at all if you go look up a teen chat make up a cute handle and just
post saying hi you'll get swarmed by Predators trying to chat you up or get
you to cam with them I don't recommend doing this because it will destroy any
faith you have in humanity who did we catch how many we kned somewhere around
12 20 men and a handful of women the most notable was a few clergy two City
councilmen a state trooper School teachers and other people you would just
trust around kids all of them looked like regular people and seemed like
people I would interact with every day without any idea that they were
soliciting intimacy from minors online was there anyone that Got Away yes a few
never showed but there was only one that
got away that I just know went after the real victim or had already done so
already that really made me worried he would try and chat off and on when I was
on and he got a thrill out of telling me how he would like to do all sorts of
nasty these sounding things to me in great detail I actually started crying
and he just laughed and said it would be fine after I got used to it I don't
regret doing this work but it was quite the mindblown especially at 18 years old
story four not a former undercover cop but I have a secondhand story about an
undercover cop so this guy appears out of nowhere and befriends a relative of
mine who was involved in legal stuff dude was rare friendly and just down to
party had money paid for product everything would drop in on parties and
even allegedly with women then he placed
a in order much larger than before a few weeks later a relative of mine was
arrested and is currently in prison craziest thing an undercover cop had to
do to keep their cover buy substances and have fun with women also I remember
a few years ago in Seattle people were complaining because the cops took months
to do an undercover investigation at the gentleman's club to determine if the
women were Prost apparently this investigation entailed going to the
clubs a lot drinking beer and trying to get the women to do things for money
other than dance they proudly announced several of the women were PR and the
club was shut down meanwhile violent crime was increasing and third and was
an open air legal substance Market they also did stings at bikini barista stands
by driving up to the window with a $20 sticking out of their fly I remember
beer was somehow involved because the cops were technically drinking on the
job but apparently Seattle doesn't allow alcohol in those kinds of clubs I found
an article about the club being busted the daners were cited for 18 counts of
illegal touching during dances 16 counts of offstage which is prohibited 18
counts of accepting money for illegal acts and four counts of pro all are
misdemeanors the manager was cited for reckless managerially conduct a
misdemeanor for allegedly being aware of illegal activity and taking no action
tough job but sometimes got to do it you know what not tough at all hitting the
like button and subscribing to the channel Story five one time a homeland
security officer came up to my house under cover flashed his badge and asked
if he could come in once he was in he pulled out a piece of paper with my
neighbor's face on it he asked if I had seen him around lately when I asked what
he did and let him know I haven't seen him around he told me what he was wanted
for evil Deeds with a minor substances the whole lot turns out he was a kitty
who did something to his stepdaughter and once he found out who was wanted he
went back to El Salvador I thought they only flashed their badges in the movies
but turns out that crap was real my neighbor was pretty heavily into smack
and once when my friend and I were by the sycamore tree in our front yard we
saw two guys dressed in suits walk off the street towards his house one bent
down to pet our cat and we saw the pistol on his hip he looked up at us and
motioned us to be quiet the first one went to the front door and the other
went around back another time the whole Swan team went through our backyard to
get into their place story six not a cop but in college and took a few criminal
justice classes a professor who I will call Bob was a cop for 15 or so years
and had gone undercover in the 80s for a very long time Bob was a biker as a
hobby and he was sent undercover to break up a ring in the biker Community
Bob arranged to buy some ice from some guy and shortly after the buy the dealer
was arrested the dealer sister started telling everyone she thought Bob was a
cop and some of the other bikers started asking him questions so a day or so
after the sister started accusing Bob of
being an arc the entire group was out of bar Bob told a few of the guys to meet
him outside in a few minutes and Bob told his sister he had some for her and
to come outside and they finally got out there Bob told her where I'm from
friends don't call friends NCS then beat the crap out of her in front of the
entire group he said he didn't want to do it but after he did that no one ever
accused him of being a cop again my cousin worked undercover in the biker
Community it was really into working out and bodybuilding so he managed to
convince everybody that he treated his body like a temple and didn't drink do
substance or eat like a pig that wasn't very far from the truth so it wasn't
hard for him to play that part he's also a former Marine Sharpshooter so he's
tough as nails and pretty heavily tattooed so he definitely gave off a
don't mess with me Vibe story seven not an officer but was in the wrong end of
an undercover operation in college I developed a liking for certain
substances and it quickly spiraled out of control I couldn't afford my habit so
I started selling to afford using I sold very small amounts and only to my
friends it was a horrible thing to do but addiction makes you do crazy things
and not think clearly a kid I regularly sold to I'll call him Larry came over to
my house one night with his best friend from high school the kid looked about
our age young 20s at the time and I considered Larry to be a very good
friend of mine i' had known him all four years we had been at college and hung
out fairly regularly he asked if his friend could have my number as he was
moving to our area for work and needed a
connection I said sure and that was that I never sold on campus and for some
reason this kid only wanted to meet me in the parking lot on campus I kept
telling him no until finally one time I hit a dry patch and needed all the help
I could get I agreed to meet him in the school parking lot I gave him two pills
for $60 in turn to get out of his truck I felt a hand in my forearm turned to
see another guy with one hand on me and the gun and the other pointed directly
at me figured I was getting robbed turns out it was the police and my friend had
set me and others up in an effort to get his sentence reduced the system is so
messed up that their one goal is to arrest College Kids on Campus and dangle
large sentences with mandatory minimums on them so they're forced to become a CI
and avoid the Hefty sentences attached to the mandatory minimums they Ro you
and you're supposed to keep in constant contact with the undercover officer and
Supply him with names and targets they can arrest the issue is you're not under
any supervision and you're not expected to rehabilitate yourself Larry ended up
continuing to use it despite being a CI the cops don't test nor help with a
necessary rehab they just want to make more and more arrests it's a crappy
system that takes advantage of young vulnerable addicts Larry lived alone and
was required to keep all of his dealings private so that the officer's cover
wasn't blown and Larry status as a CI wasn't jeopardized he went silent for a
few days and no one was sure why his best friend decided to see what was up
and went to his apartment Larry had gone overboard alone in his apartment about
36 to 48 hours before his best friend found him it didn't end up helping the
cops and instead went into rehab then jail released him parole and concurrent
probation I was facing a mandatory minimum of 4
years and the judge said I should thank him for his lenience as I could have
gone to jail for up to 30 years fortunately I'm still alive I know a lot
of people who lost the fight with addiction there have been many times
where I wasn't glad to be alive fortunately now is not one of those
times I relapsed twice since getting out each at about the year and a half mark
December 14th I'll be one year sober I was lucky enough to be allowed to finish
my finals I got arrested the day before my first final and then after I got out
once again lucky to be allowed to graduate and awarded my degree
I'm determined this time around to not let this disease go get the best of me
I've been on medicated assisted treatment Suboxone and I've been
tapering down to swap the Vivitrol shot I feel great but I know better than to
get complacent at times I think I don't need to get the Vivitrol shot but it
only takes one to screw things over and get swallowed up again in that world I
can't be the weakend warrior I know that I've tried and failed I'll just do it
once turns into oh just do it once more tomorrow's my last day but tomorrow
never comes I refuse to let this disease win I've made it this far and for
everyone that has refused to give up on me despite my countless mistakes I'll
never keep going forward my parents love
me my family loves me my friends love me but most importantly I love me
Thanksgiving a year ago I was crying in my bedroom about to end it all I was
writing my goodbye note my puppy must have sensed something was off and before
I finished it she was outside of my door clawing and barking to be let in when I
let her in she jumped on top of me and refused to move it was Rock Bottom for
me I'd wanted to quit for months at that point but I couldn't it took nearly
three more weeks to finally quit three more weeks but I did it and now three
more weeks and I'll have a year of sobriety congratulations to this guy he
all know it isn't easy but he'll get there eventually story8 not a cop but it
did work for the liquor board in the city next to my town busting bars for
underage drinking when I would get served I would have to text the officer
in charge and he would come in and take my picture with a drink then find the
bar typically a few hundred and the bar would get a strike three strikes and
they'd lose their liquor license but I would get served I'm not allowed to
drink any any alcoholic beverages only once did they actually have to drink the
drink served to me I was at a sketchy biker bar and they're known for underage
drinking and already have two strikes they're also known for getting rough
with the informant like some employees and patrons assaulting the kids 18 to 20
so I walk in and ask for a Budweiser I show him my real ID and he serves me my
beer before I can even pull out my phone
the bartender grabs my wrist and asks me if I work for the liquor board I tell
him no and he says okay then chug your beer so I slam the bottle of Bud and he
lets me go and then tells me I have my eye on you boy and gets me another but I
then take a Snapchat of me at the bar with my drink and hight tail it out of
the bar I then show the picture to the officer and tell him everything that
happened and he heads into the bar and ends up finding the bar and the
bartender and giving them their last strike they end up taking everything to
court and I get called in as a witness and have to test to find Court
everything that happened the bar loses the case and when I'm walking out to my
car the owner yells to me hey kid watch yourself you'll get what's coming to you
so far nothing has happened to me this happened about 3 years ago so I don't
think anything will happen to me I'm getting a lot of hate people calling me
scum and degenerate so here's something that'll piss you guys off even more I
wasn't even getting paid to do it either
okay guys to give some backstory as well on this my area has had a huge problem
with underage DUIs and has ended in deaths of a number of them so I really
didn't have all too much of a problem doing it either because it directly
helps reduce underage drinking and driving story nine not an undercover cop
but a friend of mine was here's the story back in college I was classmates
with a lady who needed lots of help to get her footing after not being in
school for a while because of my help I quickly became like part of her family I
was always being invited to her family get togethers her husband was cool we
talked about sports played pool stuff like that but anytime I or any of my
friends would ask what he did for a living he'd get KY about it so we drop
it the way I found out he was undercover was because I almost blew his cover in
public the time I worked in a mall on my way to work one day I saw him with a
group of dudes that looked sketchy so I roll up on him and I'm like hey man
what's up what you up to bro dude looks at me like he' just seen a ghost and
quickly proceeds to berate me and act like he doesn't know who the hell I was
all the while though he's making these eyes like get the hell out of here and
I'm completely oblivious eventually the dudes he was with come up out of a store
and quickly assume I'm a problem and start threatening me he played it off
like I was some punk who was being put in this place and that he handled it
everything was cool until one of the cats he was with suggested they do
something to me Forest Split Second not my undercover buddy not me and I'm
guessing the rest of them dudes knew if he was being serious then spontaneously
he said just messing with you kid get out of here I ran like crazy to the
first exit I could find Weeks Later I ran into my friend's husband in a more
Cal environment and asked what the hell had happened he proceeded to explain to
me that I had bumped into him while on duty and that the guys he was with were
from a gang of traffickers he was chasing I almost blew his cover asking
about his family a family he wasn't supposed to have according to the gang
he was chasing it tells me I was lucky cuz the guy who threatened me was Dazed
and that's probably the only reason he didn't follow through long story short a
few days later they raided the whole group and brought it all down he quickly
asked for a division transfer because of what happened with us at the mall damn
that was too close for comfort luckily it didn't go down that day
now that was intense I hope you enjoyed the video and if you made it this far
I'm sure you'll also enjoy police officers what are your best pullover
stories they'll be surprised with how things turned out in Story 4 see you in
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aita for telling my son that I will not include his son in my will unless he
gets a paternity test I 61m have a two children Adam 33 and Sarah 29 this post
is about my son Adam Adam got married 6 years ago to his wife Jen about four
years ago Adam and Jen separated because Jen cheated on him she later told him
she was pregnant and didn't know if the baby was his or not Adam was planning on
going through with the divorce and getting a paternity test when she gave
birth but he changed his mind when she gave birth he decided he wanted to give
her another chance and make their marriage work he also decided not to get
the paternity test because he thought it would create tension and resentment if
he knew for certain that the child wasn't his let's call the child Billy
their marriage has still been a show since they break up and get back
together every other day he considers Billy his own son sometimes but other
times he call and Y son they're very dysfunctional and the entire family have
told them to keep us out of their marriage they would complain about
everything to us when they had no intention of changing anything so
there's no point of them wasting our time with their constant complaints
every year I update my will not drastically and sometimes I don't even
change much at all but I go over it with a lawyer and make changes if I want to
Adam knows this and randomly asked me a few days ago if I possibly added Billy
to the will I said I hadn't even considered it because I'm not sure if
Billy is even my actual grandchild Adam said any child he considers his son is
automatically my grandchild I said I don't agree with that under these
circumstances if he had met Jen when she already had a child and decided to be a
father to the child I would consider that child my grandchild if they got
married but Jen cheats on him it's pregnant and we don't even know if the
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aita for not trusting my husband after he depleted our savings to pay for his
dog surgery my milil asked my husband a year and a half ago to watch over her
dog for her when she went to surgery and
Rehab following surgery she's a Healer I apparently didn't have any say in it
because I didn't even know until the dog was at my house I had a problem with
this from the beginning the dog was completely untrained there were multiple
times that the dog would jump up on our table and steal food out of the kids
plates and growl at you when you corrected her she went after my cats
multiple times she in the house constantly no matter how often she was
outside she would do Zoom eyes around the yard for easily 40 minutes come
inside and immediately qu to and she nipped me and my husband's faces not
the kids oddly enough hard enough to draw blood too if you pulled away before
she got you you could hear her teeth smashing against each other I didn't
want the dog and expressed it hundreds of times he refused to get rid of her
because of his mother despite his mother having been out of rehab for over a
month at that point well his mom told us 3 months ago that she would be taking
this dog back in April but 2 weeks ago she comes to our house and surprise
surprise she has a new dog she told us well you've had her for so long that I
figured you could just keep her I had just found out I was pregnant a month
prior to this I told my husband there was no way we were keeping this dog I
never even wanted the dog here he eventually said okay and he found a nice
couple who owned a giant farm to take her for an overnight to see if it was a
good fit 3 days ago we got a call the very next morning saying that the dog
was hit by a car he rushed us to go get her and bring her to the emergency vet
she needed amputation surgery on her front paw surgery on her pelvis metal
plates put in etc etc the total for the surgeries was almost $133,000 they told
us prior to doing any of the work that they had a Healer rescue who was willing
to take her if we couldn't afford the surgeries I go back out to the car at
this point because I was feeling nauseous from not eating anything and
being pregnant he comes out like a half hour later and tells me that he paid
$7,800 toward the cost our savings and opened an Animal Care Credit Card to
cover the rest which has a 26% interest if you don't pay the cost back in full
in 6 months now he's saying he can't get rid of her because she has just been
through too much and she's my friend I'm so wildly repulsed by this that I can't
even look at him the same anymore this is divorc territory to me all of our
savings are now gone and we are going to be looking at debt because of this 26%
interest credit card he opened and now he expects me to deal with carrying the
dog around and squatting around the yard for her to go to the bathroom when I
already have hypertension from pregnancy I have been deemed high risk I told him
I don't think I can stay with him after this I do not trust him at all anymore
there was options they had a Healer rescue willing to take the dog and cover
the cost but he instead threw us into debt over a dog that he told me he was
getting rid of and I'm all set he said I'm in ah for not seeing his point on
this I do see his point he loves the dog obviously but we are pregnant and he
just depleted our savings over a dog that bites faces and I don't think I
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today we have a crazy entitled parent story of
a stepmom who just hates their stepson we'll get
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into that in a bit but first mom threatened not
to let me vote if I don't register as a republican
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21-year-old female here you're probably wondering
why I can't just drive myself I unfortunately have
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migraines that make it a safety hazard for me
to drive and I'm working with a doctor to get
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them under control so my mom opened my mail a
few months back and saw that I registered as
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a democrat in Pennsylvania they send out paper
ID cards she started harassing me at work and
:32.600 --> :39.000 telling me that the Democrats destroyed the
country typical Maga rants we let it die off
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but a few days ago she started on me again she
started screaming crying and pounding her fists
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on the table telling me she won't drive me to
vote unless I change my party she then accused
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me of not caring about her suffering and called
me a traitor she said things were so much better
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under Trump when we could afford things and if
you love me you'd vote Republican I'm really upset
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right now because why does my mom think it's okay
to interfere with my inalienable right to vote
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I thought Republicans were all about their First
Amendment freedom of making up their own minds Etc
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being factious I know this only applies to people
who agree with them I'm just really exhausted
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from having to do mental gymnastics to do the most
basic things this really really sucks I'm not even
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too upset about her whole you don't care about my
suffering thing because I literally grew up with
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her accusing me of not loving her if I asked to
go hang out with my friends I know how to navigate
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that tired of it but I manage I'm more upset with
her blatantly telling me she refuses to take me
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to vote unless I vote her way I count at least
two federal crimes being committed by the mom
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in this story I'm assuming op doesn't want to go
that route though there are resources you can try
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to tap into out there that will help you arrange
a ride to the polls or God forbid if it doesn't
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matter to you whether or not you want to vote in
the primaries you could even switch over to the
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Republican party and still vote for the Democratic
candidate in the major elections ultimately no
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matter what your final decision on who you're
voting for should still always be your choice
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also hi I'm Steph and if you guys enjoy crazy
stories of entitled parents why not hit those
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our next story is entitled mother tells me to walk
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home so I did so this happened a few hours ago and
I'll give the base of context the cast is op me of
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course and entitled mother my lovely former Foster
mother who cannot be wrong about anything so today
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I had an orthodontist appointment to get released
from my retainers my goodness those things were a
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pain if you fidget with your tongue and my lovely
former Foster mother wanted me to come over she
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offered to pay me to help clean out the trailer
behind her house because her renters just up and
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left pretty much everything they owned behind so
we had to find anything of value and set it aside
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I found all kinds kind of stuff like a webcam and
box knife hunting knife and a knife sharpening
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brick well it gets to about lunchtime and once
I eat lunch I go back towards the trailer and as
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I'm about to start working I wanted to listen
to some music on Spotify since I had 3 months
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of premium for free thanks Microsoft rewards my
lovely entitled mother gets angry and demands I
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turn my music off meanwhile there's other music
blasting in different directions because it's
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and I point that out and she starts getting
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more belligerent and adamant that I turn my music
off because she can't stand the music I like well
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then she slaps the ultimatum down that either I
turn off my music or I go home which I decide to
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go home since there's no arguing with a person who
believes they're the only ones allowed to be right
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I go to get in her car and then she slaps me with
this turn that dang cursed music off or walk home
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I said fine I'll walk but at least let me unlock
the bike that I own she said no you just respected
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me and for that you walk home she obviously didn't
think I would so that's when I take off walking
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miles from where she lives so I get about a
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quarter of the way there and she calls me at first
I didn't want to answer but some gut feeling told
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me to well I answered and put it on speaker to let
her hear the road noise to let her know I wasn't
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bluffing and I get screamed at for making her look
bad and blah blah blah honestly I was too angry
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and anxious to remember what happened afterwards
but she did mention that she expects payback for
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all of my braces in retainer appointments because
she apparently wasted her gas and all that lovely
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she's trying to force me to move out into her
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middle of nowhere because then I can't walk to the
store I'll have to keep contact if I want to eat
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anyways thanks for listening SL reading honestly
if she keeps threatening to keep your bike I
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would say call the cops on them and also don't
allow yourself if you can help it to end up in a
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situation where you can be manipulated by somebody
like that mcdu just said contact the local police
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only form of transportation and won't release
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it ask them to help you retrieve it once you have
anything of yours that's still at her house ghost
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her she got paid to care for you no one has the
right to treat another human the way she treated
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you much less a mother to treat their kid I will
guarantee that the cost of your braces was paid
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by the state as well as a mom and a grandma I'm
proud of you for calling her Bluff you didn't make
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her look bad she accomplished that all on her own
our next story is my toxic dad wonders why I don't
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want to spend time with him my dad was having
a conversation with me and it eventually led to
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abortion topics I told him how abortion makes
me sad but if a woman really needs one that is
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her choice he got aggressive and said that the
baby is in danger but thinks that women should
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get an abortion pill early after getting R worded
or something he was raising his voice and really
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gave me a hard time the conversation escalated
further as trans people got brought up he told
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me there were documentations in Europe that trans
youth sometimes have health issues from HRT and
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it's a major concern I told him that in most cases
trans people are frequently monitored by doctors
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with blood work to make sure that they are healthy
my dad questioned my source and I told him trans
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activists shared their stories and experiences
from others told them how Republicans are way
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too obsessed with trans people and that they are
a small percentage of the human population and we
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should be worried about other issues then my dad
says that trans people are messed up in the head
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and that doctors are mutilating them when there is
nothing wrong with their bodies and that's messed
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up and that they need mental fixing he kept on
yelling at me and telling me I'm screwed up for
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supporting these people and abortion made multiple
threats of kicking me out meanwhile I was trying
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to stay as calm and reasonable as possible but he
said that I failed to go by the Christian morals I
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was raised with it's also worth pointing out that
he was especially abusive when I came out trans
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but I'm currently back in the closet and then he
wonders why I don't want to spend time with him
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he tried planning for us to go to an aquarium or
a Battleship museum but I made it clear that it
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would be cool to go to those places but I'd rather
go with friends who live around the area he got so
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ticked off despite all of this he claims to be a
fan of Star Trek and the X-Men all I can say is
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this Dad very obviously feels very fundamentally
different about a lot of things unfortunately
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when you're in a situation with someone like this
there's no middle ground s really is there and a
:31.080 --> :35.200 lot of times there's a situation where there
will be a parent that's adverse to somebody
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being gay or trans and their kid comes out and it
ends up reshaping their entire view of the whole
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thing well obviously it didn't do anything here I
feel like there's just at some point an inevitable
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distance between op and their dad that's going
to have to happen our next story is my dad was
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wrong doctor recommended and got him this eczema
spray that looks similar to bottles that you would
:56.720 --> :01.160
spray on your mouth I'm guessing he didn't know
it was for e because the name of the product is
:01.160 --> :07.320
weird and it's a supplement he isn't familiar with
anyway his package didn't have instructions or he
:07.320 --> :12.400
lost it because he's a grumpy old fart but he was
wondering what to do with this I told him it was
:12.400 --> :17.760
a moisturizer for your skin and he completely
brushed me aside and did the whole grumpy old
:17.760 --> :24.240
fart thing are you really that dumb op why would
it go on the skin and acted like I was stupid for
:24.240 --> :29.880
even suggesting it and man did it feel good to
hand him the packaging information that went in
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detail how to put it on your face neck legs hands
neck and other areas of the skin how to put it
:35.920 --> :41.720
on your face legs hands neck and other areas of
skin and then he laughs it off like he didn't say
:41.720 --> :47.160
anything hurtful now this is the kind of person
that you're happier having some distance from
:47.160 --> :53.000
this is just like soul sucking Behavior there's
no winning there's no compromising there's no all
:53.000 --> :58.080
right you know what you were right you can't even
give you that he just stresses you out and then
:58.080 --> :02.760
the moment you prove him wrong he just laughs it
off and keeps on rolling on to the next thing he
:02.760 --> :08.320
can find to stress people out over our next story
is financially entitled I don't even know where
:08.320 --> :16.040
to begin I 32-year-old female unfortunately am a
people pleaser and have severe anxiety around it
:16.040 --> :20.360
my dad and his wife have been helpful in some
senses helped with things for my three kiddos
:20.360 --> :25.720
and average grandparents stuff however it's very
much give an inch they take a mile this is going
:25.720 --> :32.000
to be so long I'm sorry over the last 10 years
they've racked up $6,000 in devices on a phone
:32.000 --> :36.880
bill of mine and then just stopped paying forcing
me to transfer guilted me into letting them come
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to the new phone plan and then guilted me into
letting them use my finance amount and I ended
:41.760 --> :48.600
up with a crappy phone that broke in 2 months gave
me a truck but really I was to make the payments
:48.600 --> :54.360
which was fine because it was mine I made them and
then it broke down I was told to get the part dad
:54.360 --> :01.280
would fix it it was a $600 a month lawn ornament
for 6 months opened a cable bill in my name and
:01.280 --> :06.800
they swore to pay it did not and did not return
the equipment bought a mobile home to gift to
:06.800 --> :12.400
my brother but he backed out I was guilted into
taking it and had to pay them back for it which
:12.400 --> :18.120
I did but kind of messed up it was free when it
was my brother never asked for help just say we
:18.120 --> :23.760 need you to do this be here this day in time
had plans once they said just cancel our car
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broke down they helped us get around I paid gas
as I should but also got roped into paying their
:29.640 --> :36.080
inspection cost parts for their other car tires
and cartons of cigarettes after the car broke
:36.080 --> :40.920
down my partner got hurt at work and has been off
since December he doesn't go back for another few
:40.920 --> :46.480
weeks our tax return caught us up but not all the
way our car broke down again the other day and we
:46.480 --> :50.920
had just enough to buy the part and fix it did
this in their garage and offered to order food
:50.920 --> :57.560
for everyone they ordered and added Wings salad
dessert and so much more way over what we could
:57.560 --> :02.120
afford well my partner stopped at the store the
following morning and played a ticket and won
:02.120 --> :08.200
$2,000 it was enough to pay up the rest of the
things we were behind on so I just did that and
:08.200 --> :14.000
shared the excitement of paying these things up
due to the luck with my dad he asked me for $700
:14.000 --> :18.440
and I said I don't have that I paid everything
and we don't get the settlement partner getting
:18.440 --> :24.240
from work in D for a couple months well this is
the first time I've said no and I got a multiple
:24.240 --> :28.880 texts from his wife about how I flaunted my
money how it's crappy I didn't give it to
:28.880 --> :35.040
them how I'm acting is disgusting but all I did
was put my family first as I should must note
:35.040 --> :40.400
they're terrible with money have three incomes in
the house and are always behind on everything no
:40.400 --> :45.800
mortgage just bills She also asked me recently
if their water could go in my name because they
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didn't pay it for 2 years if they electric could
go into my partner's name and if they could claim
:51.400 --> :58.720
one of the kids on their taxes I said no to those
my question is why do they do this how do I hold
:58.720 --> :05.920
these boundar firm honestly I'd say why do they
do this because op's kind of allowing them to
:05.920 --> :11.720
every time op gives in and lets them do whatever
is just another moment that they're strengthening
:11.720 --> :18.520
that mindset and those actions in their minds
Striker said they are manipulative and selfish and
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you're letting them get away with it based on your
story it's been going on for way too long could
:23.680 --> :28.800
try going no contact for a month and see what
happens whatever you do do it for yourself and
:28.800 --> :33.920
your mental Health but strong boundaries are the
first step not going to hurt financially either
:33.920 --> :38.440
Opie responded saying they've already stopped
speaking to me because I didn't give what they
:38.440 --> :45.440
wanted LOL who knows how long it'll be odd setting
5077 said they'll be back when your partner gets
:45.440 --> :51.120
the settlement money don't tell them that it's
arrived quickly take care of your own expenses
:51.120 --> :56.760
Opie replied I definitely won't be sharing when
it arrives we're going to keep all of our stuff
:56.760 --> :02.240
exciting or not sacredly private we have a lot of
goals we're working towards and I can't let them
:02.240 --> :08.360
continue to make me put things on hold this next
story is is it okay to wish bad things to happen
:08.360 --> :13.800
to abusive parents I'm 18-year-old female and
I want to ask if it's okay to wish bad things
:13.800 --> :18.720
on abusive parents I've been going through a lot
in the past few days and my head can't handle it
:18.720 --> :23.560 anymore I want to end myself because of them
most of my Suicidal Thoughts are because of
:23.560 --> :28.600
them if they weren't a part of my life or if I
had better parents then I don't even think I'd
:28.600 --> :33.840
be going through severe mental health issues I
honestly wish the worst upon them I'm currently
:33.840 --> :38.720
going through University admission process here
in India and the admissions are through entrance
:38.720 --> :45.600
exams for each University my major will probably
be designing I gave three competitive exams so far
:45.600 --> :50.680
one of the results came and I was not qualified
there are two more results which are yet to come
:50.680 --> :55.600
this month and I'm still unsure because they're
competitive exams with an admission rate of only
:55.600 --> :02.040
2% to 10% or something they're not allowing me to
apply to any safety schools because according to
:02.040 --> :07.280
them if I don't get a top college entrance exam
then I'm a failure they told me it's embarrassing
:07.280 --> :12.520
for their reputation in the society if I don't
get into the best university they said that to
:12.520 --> :18.320
me today these exams are for art and designing
which I love and am passionate about they say
:18.320 --> :23.360 if I don't get in then they will force me to
do engineering which I hate I struggled with
:23.360 --> :29.120
math and science a lot during high school and even
used to fail sometimes so it's something I never
:29.120 --> :34.600
considered if not that they'll send me to work
as a servant by cleaning cooking and sweeping at
:34.600 --> :40.040
others houses they said they'll send me to become
a maid and on top of that I'll also have to sit at
:40.040 --> :44.840
home and do the household chores for my entire
life and they won't even let me step outside
:44.840 --> :50.960 or talk to my friends these were their exact
words I'm crying and shivering right now and I
:50.960 --> :55.800
don't know what to do they even made me starve
for 2 days straight because the result of the
:55.800 --> :01.480
exam was bad and I failed I did not get qualified
find they didn't give me any food and threatening
:01.480 --> :06.920
to beat me up also I don't have my own money and
can barely afford anything I just bought a packet
:06.920 --> :12.680
of chips from the grocery store near me yesterday
and today I cut pineapples for myself that's all
:12.680 --> :18.080
I ate even if they're struggling I won't be there
for them to even pay their major hospital bills or
:18.080 --> :23.480
anything I won't even be there for their funeral
or even when they're on their deathbed I will be
:23.480 --> :29.080
busy with my life I am never forgiving them and I
can't be there for someone who has been torturing
:29.080 --> :34.680
me and completely ruined My Teenage life I'm 18
and there's only one year left which they will
:34.680 --> :41.440
ruin too honestly it's probably a learned thing
through just a generational thing op's parents
:41.440 --> :48.120
probably grew up in a same kind of Lifestyle back
at home themselves and they think culturally this
:48.120 --> :53.240
is the way forward needless to say I can't blame
op for their mindset how they feel about their
:53.240 --> :57.760
parents considering all that they've experienced
and I hope for them to be able to get on their
:57.760 --> :04.080
own two feet and exper erence life individually as
they should this next story is my mom will often
:04.080 --> :10.480
call me fat and I think it's getting out of hand
let's start by saying I'm a little fat I weigh two
:10.480 --> :15.280
I don't remember the last time I saw my weight it
was when I went to the doctor to check my health
:15.280 --> :21.280
and I'm 5'1 I'm a girl the boys in almost all of
my classes call me Michael Jordan but I'm used to
:21.280 --> :26.080
it I think I probably gained some weight because
my mom is telling me almost the whole time I'm
:26.080 --> :31.760
from a family that is heavy we are not like skinny
or fit so we can gain weight very fast the only
:31.760 --> :36.280
meal I have in the day is when I come back from
school sometimes I eat something in school but I
:36.280 --> :42.120
sto that cuz I didn't want to have double meals my
mom is skinny and fit and if the tiniest belly fat
:42.120 --> :48.000
appears on her abdomen she calls herself fat like
I said I'm not skinny or fit so I have belly fat
:48.000 --> :53.880
and I have my period so when my period is coming
like a normal woman my stomach swells because the
:53.880 --> :59.040
ovaries are inflamed and then she calls me fat
sometimes I think when my mom was younger she
:59.040 --> :04.040
used to have problems with her body and she's
reflecting that in me she's too late I've had
:04.040 --> :09.200
problems with my body since fourth or fifth grade
but well that's not a big deal anymore cuz I'm
:09.200 --> :14.880
used to it I love my mom to death but sometimes
she doesn't have control of what she says this is
:14.880 --> :20.960
like the textbook way to try to make sure that
your kids have some kind of image eating body
:20.960 --> :25.680
whatever disorder although considering op added
that tidbit about their mom calling themselves
:25.680 --> :30.640
fat if there's like the tiniest symptom of it
I almost wonder if it's them trying to project
:30.640 --> :38.000
and make themselves feel better our next story is
my stepmother hates me so I 18-year-old male have
:38.000 --> :43.480
a stepmom that hates my guts my stepmom can't
remember her age at the moment we'll call her
:43.480 --> :49.840 C so when I first met C I was 12 years old I
think and I talked in a higher pitched voice
:49.840 --> :54.400
because the only voice I ever really heard was my
mother's voice and she would baby talk me all the
:54.400 --> :59.600
time so I grew up talking in that voice not being
able to control it whenever ever I would talk to
:59.600 --> :06.840 C she would not answer me or talk back until
I talked like a normal person yeah I get it I
:06.840 --> :13.080
was probably annoying a little while later I met
her kids they were four and seven at the time if
:13.080 --> :18.800
I remember correctly and they were lovely now I
don't like kids but I really liked being around
:18.800 --> :24.080 them I treated them as my own blood siblings
a few years later I was diagnosed with severe
:24.080 --> :29.200
depression after my dad and stepmom found out
about me harming myself when they found out they
:29.200 --> :33.960
got ticked off at me and started taking my phone
away from me and they started making me do more
:33.960 --> :39.840
chores now I should probably mention that when I
hear certain sounds I get really overwhelmed or
:39.840 --> :45.360
have really Deep Emotions depending on what the
sound is you know when people can't stand Nails
:45.360 --> :51.280
on a chalkboard well that's what it's like for
me but with forks scratching on plates I feel
:51.280 --> :57.240
a strong feeling of anger whenever I hear it and
yes I'm trying to get better at not getting angry
:57.240 --> :02.240
my mother had anger issues and I guess I just
got them from her one of my step sisters sat
:02.240 --> :07.440
right in between me and her mom at dinner she
would constantly scratch her fork on her plate
:07.440 --> :13.440
and I couldn't stand it it was like a pet peeve
I asked her to stop so many times but she just
:13.440 --> :18.360
wouldn't even my father would tell her to stop
but every time we asked my stepmom would just get
:18.360 --> :24.840
all upset and say don't tell her what to do she's
not your child she can do whatever she wants or I
:24.840 --> :30.920
don't hear crap get over it you're being freaking
dramatic and and I was asking nicely too at one
:30.920 --> :37.240
point I said stop or I will smack the fork out of
your hand because I got so ticked off because she
:37.240 --> :42.600
never stopped even after I asked she would look
straight at me and scratch her fork on her plate
:42.600 --> :49.080
and say what's the problem it doesn't hurt anybody
my stepmom got ticked off and pulled me aside and
:49.080 --> :54.200
told me I needed help I went to school the next
week and I was really overwhelmed because I had
:54.200 --> :59.320
a lot of work to get done I had a panic attack
to the point where I got severely paranoid and
:59.320 --> :04.920
started having auditory hallucinations I went to
my counselor and asked if she could call my dad
:04.920 --> :09.880
because I felt like I needed to go to the mental
hospital for a little while my stepmom was getting
:09.880 --> :15.640
in my head and making me scared of myself she
had me think that I was actually a really violent
:15.640 --> :21.080
person my dad took me to the hospital and he told
me he was proud that I asked for help for once we
:21.080 --> :26.960
spent about 23 hours in the hospital before I
actually went to the mental hospital I stayed
:26.960 --> :32.040 in the mental hospital for a few weeks weeks
sometimes my dad would call me on this one day
:32.040 --> :38.560
when he called me he told me that if and only if
I don't get better then me and him would have to
:38.560 --> :45.080
move I got better got out of the mental hospital
and he drove me to a hotel because C kicked us out
:45.080 --> :51.920
of our own house that my father paid to be built
he paid for almost everything inside of it as well
:51.920 --> :57.280
I stayed in the hotel for a few weeks getting
very little sleep my dad sat down and talked to
:57.280 --> :06.040
me and told me all the things C said about me to
him behind my back saying things like oh well she
:06.040 --> :11.680
because I'm trans and she can't accept it hurts
herself why wouldn't she hurt other people she
:11.680 --> :18.160
also told other people that I was a really violent
person she even locked me out of my own house once
:18.160 --> :24.200
while I was on my period because in her words to
my mom I don't want your kid to ruin my plans with
:24.200 --> :30.120
my friends she wasn't even at the house so maybe
I'm a jerk for this part but one day while me and
:30.120 --> :35.160
my dad were still at the hotel we went out with
one of my friends and c and her kids were there
:35.160 --> :41.440
too it was an Alice and Wonderland scavenger hunt
thing my dad told C ahead of time that I probably
:41.440 --> :47.000
wasn't going to talk to her once we got there I
didn't talk to her the whole time we were together
:47.000 --> :52.880
because she said things about me that weren't true
so why would I talk to her well about a year ago
:52.880 --> :57.920
my father and C broke up my dad came into my room
one day and asked me if I cared at all that they
:57.920 --> :03.840
broke up and if I missed her I didn't say anything
at first because I didn't want to be rude he told
:03.840 --> :09.360
me I could tell him the truth so I told him that I
didn't miss her and that I had a bad feeling about
:09.360 --> :14.560
her from the start but I never told my dad about
it because I knew being with her made him happy
:14.560 --> :20.360
he seemed happier with her than he ever was when
it was just me and him I'm not going to fault op
:20.360 --> :25.320
any bit for not speaking up but just because he
seems happy and like seems like he's got a good
:25.320 --> :29.920
thing going on doesn't mean that you should ignore
the abuse that she sending your way to the point
:29.920 --> :37.040
where you're having panic attacks you're ending up
in Mental Hospitals no fee 4250 said I know this
:37.040 --> :43.400
isn't what you're looking for relationship-wise
but misophonia is real certain sounds triggering
:43.400 --> :49.520
a fight ORF flight response it's a terrible thing
to live with but there are strategies you can use
:49.520 --> :54.840
look up some misophonia support Pages just don't
fall into the void of everything triggers me and
:54.840 --> :01.000
I can't cope there are a lot of us there's even
a very good document quiet please that many of
:01.000 --> :06.880
us find validating I think it's on Prime but I'm
not certain I also have a trans child your dad's
:06.880 --> :12.800
doing a good job it sounds like he's supportive
let him know you appreciate him it's not easy your
:12.800 --> :19.000
ex-stepmother is frankly a non-c concern for you
she didn't treat you with respect so she doesn't
:19.000 --> :25.520
deserve the respect of you caring about her but
again your dad has shown you respect he chose you
:25.520 --> :30.760
give him a little space to process his feelings
give him a little extra kindness I wish you well
:30.760 --> :38.800
op this next story is entitled mother tells my
mom to handle her kids my 17-year-old female mom
:38.800 --> :44.200
41-year-old female took me out to get makeup the
other day for a friend whose birthday is coming
:44.200 --> :49.840
up we entered the store and all was going really
well I was checking out concealers while my mom
:49.840 --> :55.200
was on the other side of the shop looking through
various shades of lipsticks enter entitled mother
:55.200 --> :02.640
late 20s female with her devil spawn I say devil
spawn because her kids were misbehaving wildly and
:02.640 --> :08.480
she didn't even bother once to tell them to stop
or something not even a minor rebuke I say devil
:08.480 --> :13.400
spawn because that about sums these two kids up
they were running wild around the shop throwing
:13.400 --> :18.560
testers around and being a general nuisance mom
stepped in when the kids started poking their
:18.560 --> :25.720
slimy little fingers into the lipstick testers
I get it they're just testers but ew people are
:25.720 --> :31.240
likely going to use those to decide whether they
like to or not and God knows where those fingers
:31.240 --> :36.640 have been like one of them was legitimately
picking his nose minutes ago my mom having
:36.640 --> :41.160
four kids of her own looked around to find their
parent entitled mother was the only one in the
:41.160 --> :48.280
shop besides us my mom called out to her and this
is how the conversation went mom said excuse me
:48.280 --> :54.280
are these kids yours I know very obvious but my
mom is a very polite person so it's not odd to
:54.280 --> :59.680
me entitled mother said yeah Mom says can you
please pleas tell them to stop touching the
:59.680 --> :07.600
testers they're not toys she says if it's such
a problem why don't you handle them oh boy my
:07.600 --> :13.480
mom left the shop for a few minutes and signaled
me to not follow her she came back with two buff
:13.480 --> :19.040
security guards in toe the kids were still poking
their fingers in the testers the guards walked up
:19.040 --> :27.560
to the kids and in the deepest baritone ever one
asked excuse me what are you doing the kids looked
:27.560 --> :33.640
terrified and cue the Waterworks entitled mother
immediately stormed over and began reprimanding
:33.640 --> :41.360
the guards for scaring her poor Wile Angels she
then saw my mom nearby and said you did this at
:41.360 --> :47.560
this point she was practically hissing like a
cat how dare you teach me how to parent Mom in
:47.560 --> :53.840 an eerie monotone said you told me to handle
them hence I handled them she screamed more
:53.840 --> :59.080
obscenities at my mom the guards anything around
really but the guards wen't weren't having it and
:59.080 --> :06.280
told her to leave she created quite a scene but
think everything that is Holy she left my mom
:06.280 --> :11.880
had quite the story to tell at dinner a rather
comedic encounter with an entitled parent I mean
:11.880 --> :16.440 I get it kids are going to be kids if I was
some dumb kid and I was brought to a makeup
:16.440 --> :21.960
store with no concept of why I was there or you
know being raised without any sense of manners
:21.960 --> :27.400 I'd probably go around shoving my fingers in
the lipstick testers too it just all starts
:27.400 --> :33.120
and stops solely with the entitled parent our
next story is my partner's entitled mother is
:33.120 --> :37.800
spiraling and visiting this weekend for Mother's
Day I'm still not over what happened last time
:37.800 --> :43.200
and I'm not sure my significant other is either
any advice or tips entitled mother visited with
:43.200 --> :48.760
my significant others Little Brother 15 for a
weekend a few months ago we went but entitled
:48.760 --> :53.720
mother can be stubborn and stressy so when we
told her that that lunch place was in the city
:53.720 --> :58.960 of which I live in a town outside of it had
to be OV exaggerated and stressful about her
:58.960 --> :04.160
driving into the city to this nice place that was
in our budget she has Notions that my significant
:04.160 --> :10.640
other has to buy her a coffee everywhere we go
at least it got so bad that significant others
:10.640 --> :16.280
brother exited the car while it was moving in a
multi-story car park I go out with him and had
:16.280 --> :22.240
to console him while walking to the place we got
there and he refused to talk to entitled mother
:22.240 --> :27.000 I ordered him a Coke an entitled mother took
it upon herself to sit away from us while me
:27.000 --> :32.440
and significant other tried to smooth things over
with her other son safe to say things since then
:32.440 --> :37.600
haven't gotten easier entitled mother's son has
moved out to live with his dad says he can't take
:37.600 --> :42.960
it anymore entitled mother was recently divorced
for similar reasons but there are of course two
:42.960 --> :48.840
sides to each story before entitled mother would
contact my significant other asking him to act
:48.840 --> :54.640
like a surrogate parent she refuses to speak to
their dad and myo lives with me hours away from
:54.640 --> :00.880
Botho and little brother now she uses ESO was a
go between to pester little brother to speak to
:00.880 --> :07.200
entitled mother he refuses to we're supposed to
be going on holiday with my family so entitled
:07.200 --> :12.920
mother and little brother in a few months yet
no one is speaking we already had issues before
:12.920 --> :18.160
with entitled mother wanting a discounted Holiday
by that I mean she wants me an so to foot half of
:18.160 --> :23.760
the bill without having any say in where we would
like to go or have our own schedules on our own
:23.760 --> :30.600
holidays she dictated our holidays to Cornwall
twice I was stupid and had recently Meto who was
:30.600 --> :37.800
my boyfriend back then so I didn't say crapo has
a rare sleep condition no I'm not exaggerating
:37.800 --> :43.840 triggered by stress so after the second time
ending in myo being in an episode we decided not
:43.840 --> :49.200
to go away with only her and little brother little
brother's birthday which fell on one of these past
:49.200 --> :55.680
holidays was domineered by entitled mother her
idea of a vacation is going to the beach every
:55.680 --> :02.160
day with everyone no not going in the see just
sunbathing for hours and if you dare decide to
:02.160 --> :07.840
stay back she will complain and argue oh and God
forbid you want to go and do something other than
:07.840 --> :13.280 that it took 5 hours of my significant other
arguing and trying to convince her to let us go
:13.280 --> :19.240
kayaking on the last day of the holiday because
going to the beach every day is non-negotiable
:19.240 --> :24.880
keep in mind me and significant other are both
adults she seemed to create arguments between
:24.880 --> :30.840
me Ando as she took my spending money for the both
of us us and used it as her own personal bank for
:30.840 --> :37.080
birthday cards family in Cornwall and significant
other led her she tried booking Greece with us in
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a few months and after uncovering the fact she
only wanted us to come to essentially Finance
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half of the trip with no say basically the past
two times me and significant other put our feet
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down and said we would rather Finance our own
trip on our own terms that was the case until
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my own family stepped in and made it an integrated
holiday with entitled mother because of entitled
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mother's situation with not having little brother
slash complaining about paying child support they
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are only expecting the cost of her flight and half
of little brother's flight as a contribution four
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after my family decided to invite entitled mother
with little brother I have warned them of all of
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these issues but they insist time will heal all
they are both Boomers and the only reason we can
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afford a foreign holiday very grateful for by the
way five she's coming in a few days from mother
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day for a meal with me significant other and my
mother significant other was Dumb and forgot to
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book an Italian restaurant so I spent my morning
trying to find a place that could take us that
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wasn't pricey and ideally had offers on I found
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and booked a reservation told significant other
who then told entitled mother entitled mother
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immediately objected to the place I picked like
the last time when we were with little brother
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I said to significant other that I wouldn't be
canceling the reservation Over My Dead Body her
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suggestion was a pricey restaurant in the middle
of the city that is rammed only has a reservation
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for 12 it wouldn't be justifiably affordable for
me significant other my mom and even entitled
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mother herself entitled mother probably expected
significant other and me to pay for her meal again
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this is like a textbook study of a case where
boundaries need to be set and enforced if there
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was ever a person to just show that you have a
spy to it would be somebody like this hopefully
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pretty soon but with that being said that's all
the time we have for today now if you want to
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a conclusion to The Saga of a girl and her half siblings first post I don't
want anything to do with my half siblings I tried posting this on
confession but it got removed I really need to just have somebody hear me say
this even if I'm wrong about it so I'm 18f and in my final year of high school
and although I love my dad a lot he is a Serial cheater I absolutely hate that
part of him I know that my mother LS it too since they've gotten into some
pretty bad arguments about it but in the
end they always forgive each other other and move on so over the course of my
entire life my dad has spawned four half siblings with another on the way from a
girl who is only 6 years older than me the oldest Eliza is 15f and the youngest
is 2 m I seriously hate that he does this so much I have told him over and
over again that I wish he could just be faithful to our family but he never is
because my best memories are of him my mom and me all just being together and
the worst part is that whenever I do yell or get mad at him about it he seems
happy about it and tells me he's proud that I'm willing to stand up for myself
and that he knows I'll never let anybody push me around he makes me feel happy
for being angry I never minded that he'd spend time with his other kids or pay
for their School parent support or anything like that until now Eliza
transferred to my school in September but really only started a little bit ago
because she was in the hospital even though it's an all girls Academy it's
not the biggest school and people talk some of my friends asked if she looks
like you she has the same last name and and your dad went with her to the
principal's office is that your cousin I've said no but I'm certain she's had
the same questions from her friends she came up to me twice already asking if we
could hang out and get to know each other because she wants to have a big
sister I've shut her down twice and according to my dad she cried the second
time he told me I don't have to do anything with her but to be polite and
if she reveals we siblings I can't deny her who she is and I should get to know
her and the others I try to be polite but I just don't want anything to do
with her or any of my other half siblings and I don't want people to know
we sisters it's not their fault for being born but I shouldn't be expected
to do anything with them just because my dad can't stop cheating they're his
responsibility not mine a first post comments the commenter Tells op how her
sister is probably a sad person op responds I know that she may not be
happy with my dad in this regard as well but that's up to her if she wants to
argue about it with him like I've tried I didn't grow up with her I barely know
her and I don't want to get to know her she's really just my sister by blood to
put it bluntly if I were to ever need a kidney I wouldn't ask her the commenter
Tells op to bring up her sister in therapy op responds I probably will if
my mom doesn't go with us next time she absolutely hates hearing about his other
kids update so I didn't even know my Dad
could do this I'm so pissed about it but
I also feel really terrible so yesterday was family counseling night and I ATF
enjoy going because it helps get all the secrets out and it makes me feel happy
and like my family is normal but my mom 39f didn't go because my cousin gave
birth and she wanted to be there to see her so it was just me and my dad 44m
going which is fine we've been there alone a lot of times before but waiting
in the counselor's office already was my half sister Eliza 15f and I don't know
why it just made me upset seeing her there I didn't participate in the
counseling session but it made me really sad and mad at the same time the counil
figured out what was going on but my dad
didn't and I couldn't even talk properly
it felt like Eliza was trying to make me look like a villain for not letting
people know she was my sister which I never said she couldn't tell just that I
didn't want her to and not wanting to hang out with her which I don't when we
went back home my dad asked me what was wrong and what was so quiet and I just
yelled at him that he shouldn't have brought her without asking and I felt
like he broke my trust he didn't say anything but I could tell I hurt him I
just went to bed after crying he came into my room later to talk but I
pretended to sleep and he kissed me on the forehead and left I know I made him
feel really bad and I haven't seen him all day he's over visiting my baby half
brother my mom told me that I shouldn't have used the words I did since I'm 18
now and I just feel like a major Ry hole about it all edit since somebody
suggested I add this my dad is a Serial cheater and has four kids soon to be
five out of his marriage to my mom but I
still love him a lot because he's a very good dad so second post comments the
commenter Tells op that her father is wrong but not to be angry at her sister
op responds I go to an exclusive all girls Academy and my half-sister
transferred there at the start of this semester she only started recently
because she was in the hospital before if she hadn't approached me I don't
think he would have tried this but I haven't gotten angry at her I've always
been polite the commenter tries to bully op regarding how she treats her sister
op responds I don't treat her like trash for being born or related to me I don't
get mad or anything I try to stay calm and polite and I never take anything out
on her but I can't handle her reaction and I don't forgive my dad for cheating
on my mom and neither does she just because we can move forward doesn't mean
it doesn't hurt the commenter asks op if
she has a relationship with her siblings op responds I've met all of my half
siblings and I don't really have a relationship with any of them like
what's going to happen if we do they can't come to my house house my mom has
straight up said that the only way they'd ever be allowed is if everybody
else who could take them and died and I'm never going to their house it burns
me to even see their mothers Eliza's mother was a pregnancy coach at the
classes my mom went to my baby half brother's mom was a t at my school but
maybe I'm wrong and this thread has pointed out to me that I have a lot of
thinking to do about things the commenter Tells op how much her sister
is being hurt op responds I know it's hard for her and that I have a lot of
thinking to to do and in the future things might be different my dad has
recommended counseling for the two of us and maybe I'll take him up on it if my
schedule works but even if I badly wanted to right now how could I we're in
different grades and have different friends my after school activities are
geared toward my grade am I going to go over to her house and see the woman that
my dad started sleeping with while my mom was pregnant with me hell no and I'm
not going to hurt my mom by bringing her to my house the commenter Tells op that
her mom probably isn't happy op responds when I was younger it used to be a lot
worse I still have nightmares about the way they would yell at each other over
it but it seems good now to me at least they go on date nights have anniversary
celebrations and we have movie nights together and watch shows every night
together they still argue about it but now they wait for our counseling to
actually talk about it and that's helped a lot a commenter asks op if her dad is
good to all his kids op responds I know he loves all his kids kids I haven't
seen him all day today because he's in the hospital because my baby half
brother has a bad infection he visited Eliza in the hospital every day when she
was there but I don't know if he qualifies as a good dad to them but I
always felt like he did to me the commenter asks op why she wouldn't talk
in therapy about this op responds it usually is and that's why I look forward
to these sessions and had he told me that she would be there I could have
braced myself for it I wouldn't have said no since it clearly means so much
to my dad the commenter asked op about her mom op responds my mom didn't even
want to have me but she doesn't believe in abortion but does in contraceptives
so it happened but they aren't polyamorous my mom has never slept with
anybody else and if she could get my dad's cheating to stop then she would
the women that my dad is with have all known that he's married update so just
to give everybody an update my dad didn't come home all day on Saturday
because my baby half brother 2 years old was in the hospital apparently things
are really bad with him and the day after he came back from the hospital we
had a big talk about what happened I want to thank everyone who pointed out
that I was right to be upset but I had things to think about regarding Eliza
because she was hurting too first dad apologized for not telling me that he
was bringing Eliza into the counseling session and that he wouldn't ever do
anything like that again I apologized for swearing while yelling and he
forgave me when he asked me if I thought Eliza was hurting too I told told him I
did and he suggested we have our own counseling I told him that I'd think
about it the second thing that he told me is that there's a chance that my baby
half brother might die and that news put
the things I said in perspective for him he told me he'd already talked about it
with my mom and his mistress but was asking me for permission because he hurt
me the most and never should have he wanted to know if I'd be okay with him
going to impatient rehab for SX addiction which I didn't know was a
thing I said yes because I hope it'll help him even though I know that I'm
going to miss him a lot like some of you suggested I agreed to counseling with
Eliza on Wednesdays we had only one session now and even though we aren't
friends or anything I think she gets why
I feel the way I do and apologizes to me because she didn't know how hurt I was
because of my dad after she confessed that being hospitalized made her feel
normal sidad visited her every day I felt bad and apologized for not caring
about her she still feels upset about me not wanting to let her tell people we
sisters but she told me she's fine since we're doing counseling and and we might
one day get close I don't know if we will but at least we won't hate each
other I also took Eliza with me to visit our baby half brother in the hospital
and it surprised his mom that we could be there I'm still not forgiving her
though he's a really cute kid and I regret not seeing him much before it's
hard to say but I originally made this Reddit account to rant about my half
siblings but you guys really helped make a difference in the way I was
approaching this and what I'll use this account for later on update if you're
wondering if this is related to the update post I posted on another subit an
hour ago it is but that was written on Friday and it took until today to
approve so things have changed since it was written and it has taken a turn I
18f have never been close with any of my half siblings I have four soon to be
five my dad is a Serial cheater and I'll admit that I wanted nothing to do with
them all but the events of the last two weeks kind of made me change my mind on
it I'm not friends with any of them but I just started counseling with my
younger half sister Eliza 15 are youngest half brother ilot 2m got an
infection and he's been in the hospital for a little over a week now I visited
him once with Eliza on Wednesday which surprised his mother 24f since she knows
I don't like her today my dad gave me the news that he's gotten a lot worse I
don't know who to talk to about this I don't feel like I can talk to my mom my
dad seems emotionally exhausted and there are only problems on the internet
here so I guess I feel like I can vent I mean I want him to get better but I've
never thought of him as family and didn't even think I loved him I still
don't actually but I'm feeling scared and anxious I don't know if I should
talk to my dad or if I should go to the hospital again or anything or even talk
to his mother tldr my baby half brother whom I've never been close to might die
soon and I don't know what I'm supposed to do now and it's making me feel really
strange update I don't know if this is the right sub to post about this but I
don't know what the f to do my baby brother died just hours before midnight
so he didn't even see Christmas I can't talk to my dad because he won't
stop crying and my mom doesn't care the only other person who even knew him was
my half sister who left after he stopped breathing and hasn't responded like f i
don't get it I didn't even think I liked or loved him I thought I hated all my
half siblings and I hated his mom for trying to take my dad it's like I missed
out on the little time he had because I was so effing spoiled and selfish I got
him a Teddy for Christmas and he'll never get to play with it I wish I could
have seen him happy because because I was wrong and he did matter now when I
go to my aunt's house tomorrow I'm going to have to pretend like nothing effing
happened for Mom but I can't stop crying now effit I'll leave in all my typos
this time he was so cute and he deserved a better sister than me as all of them
do I miss you Ilia I wish I could hold you again fifth post comments op
comments I don't know why I effing posted this here either it's like people
without faces are the only ones who listen sometimes the commenter Tells P
She is listening and had similar trauma op responds thanks I see all these
comments and I want to say something but I just don't know what the f to say or
type like my mom's driving me right now and talking to me like f ain't happened
and I'm just nodding along like my counselor is on vacation too like
there's nobody to effing talk to but thanks for offering to listen and I'm
sorry about your child too I hope you get better update so my baby half
brother Ilia died 3 days ago just before Christmas I don't want to be posting
this but nobody else is listening Ila's mom was a teaching assistant at my
school so that's how she knows that I'm able to give good speeches I won the
award in grade n for best speech well yesterday I went with my dad to meet her
because I've just felt like such sht since he died and I know she's feeling
worse than anyone my dad said he would handle all the funeral costs and
Arrangements he brought up that it was his family tradition for fathers oldest
brothers and nephews if any to speak at funerals since my other half brother is
still too little my dad suggested me because I'm the oldest and Ila's mom
seemed cheered up I said yes then but the entire night I've been scared about
it I don't know what to talk about or what to write about I know it means a
lot to my dad that I said yes and a lot to Ila's mom that I actually care for
Ilia but I'm scared because I don't know but I am I tried writing this morning
but kept feeling like crying I tried talking to my mom about it even though
she hates hearing about my half siblings
she told me that since I committed to it I had to do it and I had to uphold my
father's family tradition as best I could my dad hasn't answered his phone
but I know he'd be disappointed too I felt super shy and like a super Ry hole
all morning for not wanting to do it anymore I'm sorry for rambling but am I
the rcy hole for not wanting to do it anymore I'm feeling really confused edit
I'm a girl but I'm the oldest which is why my dad suggested I do it to stick as
close to the tradition as possible edit too I get it you've read my past posts
it's not an excuse to send me effed up DMS sixth post comments the commenter
asks op to write about her favorite memories of her brother op responds I
barely knew him I only started making an effort after my dad told me he was sick
I feel so effing horrible I was such a bad sister the commenter Tells op to
talk to her father and brother's mother op responds I also don't feel like I can
let them down they just lost so much I know I'm just just 18 years old but I
can tell they are both sadder than they let on update so I wasn't planning on
posting this because I got some nasty DMS because of my old posts but my
therapist said it might be good to have closure on all fronts so here I am I
admitted to my dad that I was scared to give a speech and I didn't feel like I
deserved to because I barely knew Ilia he told me it was okay to just write
something and he'd say it for me if I wanted I couldn't think of anything so I
just wrote down a Buddhist prayer my mom
taught me when her cousin died Ila's mom
said the prayer was fine and I could say it in Chinese at the funeral I decided
to say the prayer and my dad and my half sister Eliza stood by me in case I
couldn't do it it helped that there weren't that many people because it was
right after new years's I said the prayer in Chinese and then in English I
was only there on stage for like 2 minutes and I kind of broke down right
when I stopped I cried so much that the rest of the funeral was just a blur
really I can't even remember the rest just going home and falling asleep and
crying in my mom's lap my dad left for impatient rehab the day after the
funeral it's been weird just being me and Mom at home without him especially
because it's hard to talk to Mom about Ilia Eliza wants me to introduce her to
our other half siblings Shan and Mato but I feel so awful especially because
Ilia looked so much like Mato used to as a toddler I've just been so terrible to
all of them I did agree to it though so I guess I'll suck it up and see if I can
do it next week I did visit Ila's mom when she messaged me it was kind of
awkward because I felt so bad for hating her for so long she gave me some of his
ashes in a vial as a thank you for loving him it doesn't feel like I
deserved it though I'm keeping it in my room but I heard they can get infused
with jewelry so I'm going to ask my dad to do that once he's back so I can
always have him with me it'll be the only jewelry that I'll actually like
wearing I hope that's some closure for you guys too thanks to those of you who
pointed out that I didn't need to do anything seventh post comments the
commenter Tells op that she's a sweet person and is wise Beyond her years op
responds thanks for the compliment but it really doesn't feel like that the
commenter Tells op they don't know why people sent mean messages and advises
her to focus on her own mental health op responds I don't know I think it might
have been a troll on one of my posts who called me a bully who was harassing me
or maybe people just like to be mean I just feel guilty you know I mean if I
knew he was just a toddler if I'd known him more maybe I would have known that I
did love him before I did and he would have two and it's probably how my other
half siblings feel maybe not Eliza anymore about me too but I'm a spoiled
princess while their dad's leftovers I know I should bring these feelings up in
therapy and I will but venting online is nice too op's comments from best of
redditor updates the commenter wishes op well in her future and says that she's
never in a relationship with cheaters op responds don't worry I won't ever
tolerate cheating when I'm dating I take kickboxing for a reason commenter
remarks on op's mom telling her she is a result of failed contraceptives op
responds yeah that wounded me up when she told me because my mom does love me
more than anything but yeah it took a while for me to wrap my head around the
fact that my mom does so much for me and loves me so much but never wanted me in
the first place the commenter asks op if she will pursue a relationship with her
half siblings op responds I guess Eliza and I already have some kind of
relationship we're more like distant cousins and friends but maybe we will
someday I'm not going to try and push her away anymore as for Matteo and Shen
I don't know I guess it depends on their mothers Shan's always been so eager to
see me and Mato used to be that way too but that wasn't the last time I saw him
I won't act like I did before I was so sht to them the commenter asks op what
her ethnicity is op responds I'm mixed my dad's white and my mom's Chinese
update hi I don't know if this is the right place to ask I'm a Buddhist
through my mom but not really religious I'll be honest I don't really understand
much either and we only go to the temple
once a month and I've skipped that a lot a little bit ago my baby brother died
but I guess I've held on to this belief that he'll be back someday or even
already even though I'll never know who he becomes but his mom wasn't a Buddhist
and even though he was only two so a baby he wasn't either I guess I just
have to ask will he be back someday or have I been thinking about all of this
wrong is there anything I can read to help me understand this better anything
in English or Chinese works for me update so I wasn't sure where to post
this but I figure if anybody gives it sht they can find it here I guess the
first thing is that I took Eliza to meet our other half siblings Shan and Mato I
took her to see Shan first because she's smaller six turning seven and is always
so happy when he gets to see me I don't know I hadn't seen her since August so I
went and got her some toys that I think are good for her age as a present or
sorry for not seeing you more well her mom let us and as soon as Shan saw me
she gave me such a big hug and so many kisses I felt like crying again I always
treated her like garbage just for existing and she never even cared and
always just loved me for being her big sister I introduced Eliza and gave her
the presents but she was more happy to finally meet her other sister her mom
noticed I was about to cry so she took me aside so I could cry without her
noticing I was mean to her before too and all she said was was to just come
see Shan more if I ever Miss Ilia if that helps it was fun playing with Shan
she wouldn't let go of me and kept making me carry her on my shoulders but
it hurt realizing how much she'd grown since August and that I've missed so
much of her life too I feel like I have a lot to make up for I have been
visiting her once a week before my counseling with Eliza it's fun to see
her and her mom makes really good Vietnamese food I took her to see Matteo
a few days later and because he's a boy and older he's 12 and his mom's a total
bee I knew it' be different and I was more nervous I didn't know what to get
him but I know Dad got him a PS5 so I got him that Spider-Man game and the
Spyro game I played that old one on the Wii with the Apes at a friend's house
once and it was fun his mom let us in but it was like she didn't want us there
which is fair I guess because I only ever visited before with my dad she did
say sorry about our brother and just let us go to Matteo's room he was surprised
to see me and gave me a nice hug but he was kind of cold to Eliza because he's
shy he did give her a hug when she gave him
the games though he made us play Call of Duty with him before we had to go he
only gave me a hug when we left and it seemed like a real hug this time because
he did say he loved me and missed me I wanted to cry again when I saw his baby
and toddler pictures because he looked so much like Ilia they kind of look more
like my dad than my uncle but they look so similar they could have been twins so
I've seen him less than Shan really only when Dad goes and I'm with him because
it feels weird with his mom just hovering around
anyway my dad came back from being impatient just before Valentine's it's
like he's a whole new person like the first thing he did was go to my mom and
apologize so much to her for cheating on her and promise he would never do it
again he started crying while doing it saying he knew he didn't deserve an
apology and even begged her not to divorce him she told him to break up
with his mistress and settle legal stuff over her pregnancy switch his work to
remote fulltime agreed to go to China for a month with us and so many other
conditions and he agreed to it all right away I don't know what happened to him
there because he's never been like that before then he came to me and gave me
the biggest hug that he's ever given me he wouldn't stop kissing me on the
forehead and my cheeks telling me how much he missed me and how sorry he was
for hurting me and he promised over and over again that he'd never do it again
he sat us down and we had a family meeting and I don't want to get too into
it but apparently a psychiatrist or doctor or whatever wherever he went
diagnosed him with something called hypersal disorder not sure how it's
different from SX addiction and he' be taking more therapy and medication to
treat it he's also letting mom track his location at all times we also all went
to dinner at a really fancy restaurant for Valentine's since then he and my mom
have seemed so much happier than before I really really hope that he's changed
because since then it feels like my home
is finally what other people have when I asked my dad about getting what I have
of Ila's ashes infused with some gems he
agreed right away I don't know where but he found a place and got the small bit
of Ashes Ila's mom gave me infused into four small rubies because that was his
birthstone I put the gems on the altar that my mom had put in my room I'm not
really religious and when I was little I used to find the Buddha statue a bit
creepy but I've been praying at the altar now every day before I go to
school and have been going with my mom to the temple and volunteering there
with her too we used to just go once a month but she said she liked taking me
every week so we're doing it more I don't know how much I believe or if I'm
even considered a good Buddhist but doing all that is making me feel better
about things I don't know how much more I'll use the account again unless I need
to be about something but maybe you'll find me asking questions over on the
Buddhism subit if I forget to ask them at the temple or goofing off on the
teenagers subit I guess the last thing is that we've also started planning a
family vacation in the summer to be with my aunt's family in caming as my
graduation gift because one of my cousins is getting married my mom even
promised to show me the places in Dolly where she stayed and lived before my
grandparents kind of adopted her I haven't been to China in 8 years and I'm
so excited to see my aunt and cousins and to finally see my uncle and
grandparents again going to the Village too my aunt cousins nieces and nephews
who live here are all going to be going too except the one who had a baby a
little bit ago so it's going to be the first time in so long that my entire
family is going to be together so I know it's going to be the best summer I had
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my boyfriend cheated on me with three girls but I got revenge with a maid
costume that he wore I met my high school boyfriend Daniel when I was in
ninth grade back then we were both chubby dorks obsessed with anime and we
had a pretty instant connection even though we only got together in 11th grade
still I was super happy to be in a relationship with Daniel and there were
a lot of moments where I thought about marrying him and going super long-term
in senior year we applied to all the same colleges so that we would be able
to stay together but earlier in that Year Daniel started hanging out with a
different group of guys they were your stereotypical puke line necklace wearing
F boys the heartthrobs of our grade and well they turned my unathletic anime
loving boyfriend into a total stud I was ecstatic with the change and I even
started going to the gym with him however I started my fitness journey
months after Daniel did so I was still a little chubby and soft and Daniel hated
that he started complaining about my appearance excessively saying I was too
ugly too fat too flat to be a real girl to this day I'll never understand why
Daniel didn't just break up with me I know that there was a point when he
genuinely loved and cared for me but for some reason instead of treating me with
an ounce of respect he went and cheated on me three times
first with my sister who was in college when it happened then he made out with
my cousin Samantha at my own graduation party and the absolute final straw came
when I saw Snapchat stories of Daniel hooking up with my best friend at this
point I knew two things one I had terrible friends and two I needed to
finally end things with Daniel so I did here's the thing though we had still
planned our futures together so Daniel and I were still going to the same small
artsy College in the same business school within it in other words I wasn't
actually escaping Daniel by breaking up with him I just had earned a little
break from him over the summer however right at the beginning of the summer my
Tick Tock feed became filled with glow up tips and whatnot I figured that going
to the gym wasn't changing my body as fast as I liked so I decided to actually
try and blow up like Daniel did Q weigh too many exercises detoxes and even
subliminals however a month in I'd found a few things that actually seemed to be
working going to the gym using some special skincare products and weirdly
enough this be Paul and supplement which
freaking changed my life and I won't get keep that last one for my other flat
girlies out there basically for all three months of summer vacation I took a
supplement called grow my girls from bvvitality.com because even though I was
losing weight and gaining muscle definition my chest was flat and losing
weight just made that more obvious so after taking the supplements every day
for months which was supposed to increase my estrogen production and give
me a more mature figure your girl went from being a double A to a proud C cup
and all this meant that by the time I had finished my first semester of
college things had changed I was hot I had actual breasts and most importantly
I felt confident in my next semester I intentionally found out what classes
Daniel had so I could take them and his jaw actually dropped when he saw me in
his introduction to microeconomics class but I wasn't the weak lovesick girl he
cheated on anymore and I was in it for Revenge I was playing the long con so I
acted like everything was normal between us he'd been flirting a little here and
there and I gave him more than enough signals for him to soon ask me out again
obviously he did and I accepted this time though oh I had a plan C Daniel's
college friend group was exclusively Frat Boys and not the friendly kind
these dudes were merciless would bully anyone over anything and I was
determined to make Daniel experience the same helpless isolation he made me go
through when he took my sister my cousin and my best friend away from me by
cheating with all of them so as things progressed with Daniel I convinced him
to do a little role play and convinced him to dress up in a way too freely made
costume for us to use in bed usually he would have pushed back but well thanks
to grow my girls my girls had grown and Daniel would pretty much do anything I
asked of him in bed so after he agreed I had my college bestie who was much
better than my high school best friend arranged to have those Frat Boys throw a
surprise party for Daniel they even stole a copy of his key so I was in his
room fully clothed dressed absolutely normally stalling the F out of Daniel
while he wore the outfit I insisted on until his ruthless friends walked in on
him looking like he was cosplaying as a girly maid he even had makeup on
instantly there were pictures being taken videos being recorded and guys
everywhere laughing at once Daniel was trying to play it cool saying that he
was doing this for me but I just looked at the cameras and loudly said what do
you mean babe you were the one who asked to do this Kanki made roleplay thing
though yeah it's a little too weird for me sorry haha his friends were dying on
the floor at this point and I just removed myself from the situation only
to break up with him over text and it's been weeks but I hear Daniel has been
turned into the absolute butt of all jokes somehow the story has spread
across our small campus and now everyone calls him the maid man I've even seen
him crying over it a few times but hey he just got a taste of his own medicine
now I'm dating his frat boy ex-bestfriend and having the time of my
life with my rocking body and great boobs that he in a roundabout way
encouraged me to get in the first place take that Daniel | give me a good story on myboyfriendCHEATEDonmewithgirlsIgotREVENGEwithamaidcostumethatHEworeorig |
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I don't want a relationship with my children f30 m29 even though I feel
guilty about it my ex-husband and I met when I was in high school and he was in
colge he proposed to me after 2 weeks because he said that he couldn't live
without me and I believe that that was the most romantic thing I ever heard he
was everything I wanted to handsome kind and ambitious not long after marriage I
got pregnant when my ex graduated he started working on his dream I was there
supporting him I worked almost night in day beside raising the children just to
let him only focus on his studies and then business I remember almost nothing
of my 20s and my 30s too busy working double shifts and raising my children
his business started prospering and soon I could finally retire he made eight
figures and everything was just a dream he had to start over after 2008 and I
was there yet again helping him and working to keep us afloat he prospered
again until one day he came to tell me that he was in love with a 25 years old
he said he was finally feeling alive he could finally enjoy life that he
couldn't do when he was in his 20s and 30s and busy raising a family and making
business he wanted me out of the house by the end of the year that was in 2014
I had just turned 40 and he was 46 our children were in college and only stayed
with us during holidays and summer I refused and that's when the abuse
started mental abuse physical abuse bullying and calling me ugly fat
disgusting and worthless he stopped giving me any money for the house and he
left for weeks on end my children saw everything they chose him they
understood him he was in love and he had worked hard all his life to make their
childhood happy and life comfortable they weren't ungrateful children now it
was his time to live and they totally understood him soon they started joining
in on the bullying I was ugly and embarrassing until my daughter said just
just leave the man alone he doesn't want you anymore have you no dignity I asked
for my share but it seemed a strange concept he was the one working hard
after Christmas I found the locks Chang and the house sold two years of the most
cruel treatment followed until he managed to discard me only with the
clothes on my back I started Living in shelters until I found a room and job
while he moved to a bigger more expensive house bought bigger and better
cars boats vacation homes I tried to have my children to stay in contact with
me but they didn't want me they had finally realized how manipulative and
horrible I have been to their father and they couldn't forgive me I met my
husband M51 a few years after my first marriage dissolved a widower with three
beautiful daughters F22 F16 f-13 being with him and the girls I only understood
that I never felt loved my entire life and the odd thing was that they thought
that I was the gift from above I have never felt so loved wanted and
appreciated they're my entire world I haven't had any contact with my children
since 2014 I was keeping track on them from afar for some years but it just
broke me more so I decided to never try and find out about their lives anymore
more I let them go my ex-husband soon had two more children and from what I
heard not long ago he didn't want anything to do with our children anymore
they were just a burden even when they tried so hard to stay in his life after
covid my ex's business was one of those that got affected and apparently he and
his wife were living Way Beyond their means for years and bankruptcy was a
fact now I have heard that they live in a small rental with their children and
she is working at McDonald's while he trying to find a new Venture sorry for
the long post my goal was to make it very short I married my ex-husband I
helped him become successful he left me for a new T model when he succeeded and
kicked me out without any means or assistance alienated my children and now
they want to come back into my life but once I started writing every little
detail was relevant and I needed to tell it now to why I am here I have been
receiving messages from my children through other family members I have
ignored them to the best of my ability please no not now I have my beautiful
life not now I finally stopped waking up every morning with tears in my eyes
because I have yet again cried in my dream yesterday my mother called me and
asked me for coffee when I went there my daughter and son were there they both
hat their children with them my daughter has two and my son has one they cried
and hugged me and I went rigid like a plank to their touch they wanted me in
their life in their children's life they thought it was odd that I am raising
another woman's children while their own children haven't met me my daughter
wanted hers to meet me maybe they could visit me and stay with me some days
because I was the best mom I gave them the happiest childhood where they felt
safe at I guess they only realized that it wasn't daddy's money that gave them
the happy childhood now it is a loss that my grandchildren couldn't
experience that love while strangers do every day their dad cut all contact with
them right before before Co because he had a new family and now all he and his
wife do is call and ask for money it was never love I don't think my dad ever
loved anybody my daughter cried I comforted them hugged them and left this
morning I wrote texts to both my children that I didn't want them in my
life I was happy and content and my daughters are my daughters whether they
think that or not I felt a surge of pain writing this but I couldn't agree to
having them in my life I love them very deeply always will I can't imagine the
pain they felt when they were discarded by the father they ought a lot he was
always a charmer and I understand that they were Jew under his spell like many
others around him but they only want me now when he became useless to them I am
useful now my daughter is a single mom and she wants someone to take care of
her children my son has always been a follower his wife seemed to be the
driving force and she probably wanted one grandparent who wasn't dysfunction
but even being aware of all that of how much my children have suffered and now
need me even with the guilt I'm feeling I don't want a relationship with my
children my daughter texted me I understand and a heart back if you came
this far thank you and I am sorry if you gave up after a few sentences I
understand that two and I am still grateful you given me the chance to
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today we've got a great snowboarding Revenge story we'll get to that in a bit
but first don't want to tell me what the
parking ticket is for okay I'll get that ticket thrown out in court along with
jeopardizing any ticket the city wrote on that same form the ticket this was
mid to late 90s in a Northern Midwest mid-sized City parking near my apartment
near a university was only on street parking bad in the best of times it got
miserable in winter with alternate side parking eliminating half of the parking
on major streets such as where my apartment was failing to find any
parking some nights I would risk it sometimes I got a ticket sometimes not
but at least I typically knew why I got the ticket until one morning I was cited
for violation number 27. I had no idea what that was all about it wasn't an
alternate side violation not an expired meter issue not a loading zone thing I
just didn't know what it was us what did I do wrong I went by the office to pay
the ticket and I asked the clerk by the way what is violation number 27 I don't
know and I don't want to get ticketed for whatever it is again her reply set
me off we don't have to tell you uh excuse me I took my check out of her
hand and picked up my ticket it was the 90s I told you it was a long time ago we
used to write out little slips of paper called checks that the recipient could
take to the bank and deposit a few kids reading Reddit probably never written a
check I'm old sue me now get off my lawn I asked her who could tell me she
Shrugged maybe the prosecutor's office she replied I left ticket unpaid I
stopped by the prosecutor's office ticket in hand to ask I apologize to the
receptionist for such a ridiculous waste of time I just wanted to know and she
rolled her eyes at me I got nowhere there digging in my heels doing legally
research for a poor recent college grad I certainly wasn't going to waste my
money with a lawyer but was hard-headed enough to want to know what violation
number 27 was before I paid it I resolved to go to a public library and
pull out the law books with the city ordinances and state statutes Library a
physical building with actual printed books where people used to have to go to
look up information before everything was online I'm old I told you and stay
off my lawn I settled in flipped through pages cross-referenced ordinances and
statutes and found something interesting possibly it was very interesting I
checked the court date on the ticket and made up my mind I would darn well fight
City Hall Court time I showed up in court some paperwork was handed out to
those of us who were present just before
it was my turn the prosecutor graciously offered to let me pay the ticket plus
court costs to make this go away uh it's a darn parking ticket I'm already here
why bother after waiting my turn I step before the judge the judge said a few
things the prosecutor said a few things and then it was my turn your honor I
moved to dismiss the ticket based upon a due process violation on the 14th
Amendment I think that prosecutor might have gotten Whiplash her neck snapped so
fast I told my story I just want to know what violation number 27 is I looked
it's not in the law books not in the city ordinances I am being charged with
something without being told what it is and the judge smiled a bit turned to the
prosecutor and said I've been waiting for someone to bring this up the
prosecutor's jaw dropped your honor I went on State Statute requires certain
elements to be on any Citation for it to be valid among those things is a
citation the statute or ordinance and there are a couple other issues with the
ticket it doesn't conform to the statutory requirements for a citation
the judge turned to me and asked if I had the ticket yes ma'am I do and she
asked if I had the paperwork that was handed out when I arrived in court I did
and then the good judge took a few moments to walk us through that
paperwork to show that neither the parking ticket nor the paperwork
contained the requisite statutory elements for a citation or summons then
the judge advised she would take the matter under revisement the verdict a
few weeks later I got a big manila envelope in the mail with the judge's
order in clearly written legalese she went step by step through my argument
the requirements in statute and ordinance and the utter failure of the
city to write a single valid parking ticket on their standard form in many
years years ago parking enforcement officers actually took a pen and
physically wrote an ink on a three-part pre-printed parking ticket form barbaric
I know they didn't have handheld computers to print them out this was
just a few years after we figured out that banging two rocks can make a spark
to start a fire I told you I'm old and what did I tell you about staying off my
lawn she detailed that the city to allow their parking enforcement officers to
write tickets faster use their own list of violation numbers expired meter is
number one no parking zone is number two that did not correspond to any section
numbers of the statute or ordinance if you didn't have the list you just might
not know and the judge threw out my parking ticket as a due process
violation of the 14th Amendment oh and that violation number 27 was parking too
close to a handicapped ramp I didn't see it under the snow my bad didn't matter
I'd moved out of town by then well I know two things a greedy money-grubbing
lawyer like Saul Goodman would be all over this class action lawsuit and two I
gotta stay the heck off op's lawn seriously I would try to find like a
lawyer that might handle something like this and try to get a cut of the profits
because of every single ticket they've written for years is proved invalid
that's a lot of people and a lot of money that all of a sudden might just
have a case on their hands also hi I'm Steven and if you enjoy awesome stories
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our next story is forcing someone to live up to their threatening promise it
was January 2022 a new wave of covid hit and it devastated the workforce in the
major cities here on average about half the workforce for any industry was home
sick for about a week at the same time shelves and supermarkets were in stock
because there weren't enough workers to keep them full the number of bus routes
were cut in half the list goes on at my retail store all but two of us were sick
with two people on staff we couldn't get to everything so we had to decide what
parts of the job we'd neglect most of our revenue is from online sales
so we decided to close the store and focus on dispatching online orders we
still had to answer phone calls and emails though so we were very stressed
this was only happening in the major cities of course more rural locations
dodged of the major disruptions one day I got a call from a customer he placed
an online order the day prior paid for his Express post but noticed it hadn't
been sent he called asked why it hadn't been sent I looked on his account and
saw he lived in a rural Town hours away this was the conversation the customer
said hi I placed an order yesterday with
Express post why hasn't it been sent yet
I said very sorry there's only two of us on staff because of covid and we're
doing the best we can to keep up with online orders they said but I paid for
Express I said yes and as I explained there's only two of us on staff we've
had to close the store and there's a lot of orders to pack and we packed them
from oldest to newest we're trying our best they said well your best isn't good
enough I paid for express it should have
been sent out by now my best wasn't good
enough what an absolute piece of crap at
this point I dealt with enough stress so I let him have it I said paying for
Express doesn't mean we packed the order faster it means that once The Courier
has it they deliver it to you faster that extra money you spent doesn't go to
me or this company it goes to The Courier there are orders older than
yours they have priority they've waited longer than you and will be packed first
they reply I don't care you need to ship it today I said I can't promise that do
you have any idea what covet has done to the workforce here they said no and I
don't care if you don't ship my order today I promise I'll never shop with you
again I genuinely laughed out loud at that I literally could not care less
it's no skin off my nose at that point I hung up for the entree of my revenge I
purposely skipped this order even though I caught up to it it got sent the next
day the main course though that was tasty I blocked his account so he
couldn't shop with us again he promised he wouldn't so I wanted to make sure he
didn't break his promise oh he tried to though he made another account I
recognized the name and confirmed it was him through the shipping address I
canceled the order and processed the refund for revenge's dessert I did
something truly Petty when you process a refund you reversed the payment made by
the debit card you can put a note in it when you do so so the customer knows why
that money is reappearing in their Bank the note I put was to help you keep your
promise yeah you gotta love every time a customer says I'm never coming in here
again I'm never shopping here you're gonna lose my business forever almost
99.9 percent of the time the reply would
be if you didn't want to censor yourself
please never come back you're doing us a favor her I love hearing the story of
somebody making sure they stick to that commitment our next story is not only am
I not going to fire him this is Willy's story I was lucky enough to be long for
the ride have you ever worked with someone who you know immediately is
really something special I've had a few opportunities to work with people like
this and my first thought is I want to help this person get wherever it is
they're going I worked for a non-profit for a while after retiring from the Army
first day on the job one of my peers on the leadership team pulled me aside and
warned me about one of the guys on my team Jane said you'll have to keep a
close eye on Willie he's low effort takes a lot of hand holding rubs people
the wrong way and honestly we're considering firing him I said thanks for
the heads up you never know what you're getting into at new positions so I
appreciate having the info freak what have I walked into but then I started
working closely with Willie and made some discoveries sure Willie was an
introvert kept to himself and could be a touch socially awkward but he knew his
job inside and out he managed my Department's Logistics requirements
precisely we always had what we needed but never too much excess static shock
on hand he found innovative ways to work
with our Community Partners he built new
initiatives that capitalized on existing resources without incurring additional
costs a very important skill to have in a non-profit he impressed donors so much
that he actually convinced them to contribute significant sums in support
of his additional duty department and he
wasn't even part of the fundraising team Willie was a quiet rock star and I
quickly realized how lucky I was to have him despite all this the rest of the
regional leadership team seemed to have it in for him I found out later what it
was that set them off Willie had made an offhand comment to Jane about a year
before I joined nothing sexist or bad just a casual observation about a
physical aspect of the office space that Jane interpreted poorly she shared it
with other leaders in the org and they decided that the comet made their teeth
itch and it became a snowball that quickly rolled over Willy's reputation
the comment was relayed to me by a third party a few months after my arrival I
went and talked to Willie about it directly I wanted to get his take our
discussion revealed that it was totally innocuous but misinterpretation has
caused a misunderstanding and the damage
was done rather than asking questions of
Willy to clarify they assumed a bunch of crap and ran with it the stage was set
and Willie had realized that he didn't have a future at our location leadership
had made up their minds about him and were actively blocking his options when
they learned about any moves he was trying to make I knew of at least three
instances where they torpedoed his chances for interviews at other nearby
locations in the organization tripping him before he even got out of the gate
Willie knew if he was going to advance it was going to be somewhere else he
started looking for new work and he eventually found something at another
branch of our organization in a different state he kept it very quiet
got the interview and the other region was assessing the different candidates
the only other person in our region who knew about it was me and that was only
because I'd spent months gaining Willy's
trust he knew he could confide in me and I wouldn't crap on him around that time
Jane hit me up again about Willy Jane said I'm Amazed by the changes in Willy
since he came on board you've really done a lot to Mentor him and get him up
to his full potential I said I have done a lot of work where Willie is concerned
some of it was helping him with professional development but most of
it's been focusing on Shifting the leadership team's perspective he's
really not that different from when I arrived but as you just indicated your
perception of him is definitely change I've put a lot of effort into just
letting him shine giving him credit for the good things he does and staying out
of his way he didn't need micromanagement he needed room to run
every time he achieved something I made a point of highlighting his success and
the benefit it brought to our organization the work I did wasn't on
him it was on you Jane went silent back to Willie I asked if you wanted me to go
to bat for him in the hiring process with the other region he said he'd
appreciate the help so I called the manager at the other location and told
her I don't want to lose Willie but all the reasons why I want him to stay here
are the same reasons why you need him there the problem is if Willie stays
here the organization is going to lose him because they won't promote him I'd
rather have him stay with the organization in a different place than
lose his commitment and skills entirely she hired him of course it was all him
skills experience interview she knew she was getting someone amazing my
recommendation was just icing on the cake made it easier for her to decide
what she already knew Willy's Taste of sweet sweet revenge came when the
leadership team had to eat crow as they congratulated him on his move Willie
knew this team of leaders had put a lot of effort into making sure he'd never
Advance some of their congratulations were less than genuine including James
the cherry on top was that the pay and position at the new job was a half step
up above mine and the rest of the leadership team that's right he moved on
he moved up and he outranked us all a most excellent freak you to the folks
who had stood in his way I can't think of too many more power moves stronger
than yeah by the way I'm still in the same company but I moved up and I
outrank you every time you go to cash your paycheck just think about how the
guy you tried to hold down is making more than you now that's tough our next
story is fireman's Revenge it's a friend's story I worked with a guy who
was studying to be a fireman and he works part-time at a County Fire
Department one hot Saturday Tucson hot they got a call about a field that was
burning they responded and it bordered a neighborhood's backyards the field was
covered in fertilizer and one of the locals had set it on fire when the truck
got there they were greeted with Hoots and hollers about what a crappy job they
had har har All The Neighbors were lined up the edge of the field laughing at
them the fire was pretty small and the firemen could have easily put it out
with shovels and rakes and a little water so they were surprised when the
captain said to get the hoses out that meant they would have to clean all that
up when they got back and nobody wanted to do that they set it all up and
pointed the hose at the field directly in front of all the neighbors and let it
fly it showered them with water and fertilizer just like the captain on it
the police were called and from what I understand had a very hard time not
cracking up as they took the complaint complain all you want burnt poop-covered
people but they were just doing their job this next story is petty neighbors
fight over public parking when I was younger we lived in a Suburban
neighborhood on a narrow street with single-family homes each home had a
driveway and there was additional public parking on the street leaving only one
lane for driving there was a public parking spot along our hedge that we
usually used for our second car across from us lived an elderly man Bob a
former business owner and stereotypical grumpy retiree who micromanaged his son
the new owner of the sound equipment sales business Bob's driveway was
directly across from our hedge bomb frequently complained that parking our
car along our hedge made it difficult for him to exit his driveway this was BS
as you'll see in a second he started sending dozens of of letters
reprimanding us then he called the police and the local authorities to try
to get us out of the parking spot since we were parked legally and he could exit
his driveway they couldn't do anything soon an unknown car would regularly
appear in that spot whenever my parents left for work initially just for a day
or two then a week then a month at a time my parents found out Bob had
somehow gotten himself a second car just to park it in that spot and keep us out
of it suddenly leaving his driveway with a car in that space wasn't a problem so
my parents started retaliating initially just stealing the spot back whenever
possible then by calling Authorities on any issues with his fence and hedges his
hedge was too messy or too tall for local laws his Edge was growing around a
traffic sign they even moved to Temporary parking ban sign from the
construction site two doors down to include the parking space just to steal
it back then a different appeared and stayed for four months after four months
my parents had to cut the Hedge to keep it neat and in line with local laws but
the car made cutting the Hedge impossible my parents left the node
threatening to cut the Hedge with their electric hedge cutting tool anyway and
Bob better move the car if he didn't want it damaged Bob called The Bluff my
parents then discovered that the car belonged to Bob's son's business Bob had
been borrowing company cars to block the parking spot so my parents called the
sun to try to reason with him the sun however refused to move the car as well
so my parents called the tax authorities turns out you can't declare tax
write-offs for company cars if those cars are being used mostly for private
purposes like a petty neighbor fight of the owner's father the card disappeared
within a week we cut our hedge and claimed back a parking spot we never
owned I'm not sure who acted more entitled than the story probably my
parents but I'm pretty sure at some point they just did it for the lulls I
think the amount of petty going on from both sides here kind of cancels each
other out very clearly a game had been established and both people were just
trying to outplay the other this was just a different form of chess game that
they were playing our next story is try to ruin my marriage I'll get you fired
this all happened within the span of about three months it all started
towards the end of December this girl at
work decided to post and text my husband
that I was cheating on him with her baby daddy obviously it wasn't true but she
claimed to have pictures she sent it to his brothers and even my mother-in-law
none of the pictures were of me and they had no face or any distinguishing
features that would make it obvious it was me all of this made my husband doubt
me because if someone sends stuff like that you question if it's true or not
this caused a lot of trouble in our marriage but we talked it out and
eventually worked through it I mentioned she had sent messages to my mother in
law she sent them all at the same time but I wasn't aware of the messages to my
mother-in-law it wasn't until almost a month later that my sister-in-law
messaged me and said she wanted to ask me something she was afraid I would be
mad but she said someone had sent my mother-in-law some nasty messages about
me I immediately knew what she was talking about and asked if it was a
certain person she confirmed that it was so I explained everything that was
happening I was going to let it go but when I found out that she'd also
messaged mother-in-law I just got more angry and decided she needed to face
some consequences it's important to note she also posted some nasty stuff about
another co-worker I'm friends with so I talked to her and we decided I should
report it to HR they did a full investigation in which I gave them
screenshots of what she posted and what she sent my husband's family some of the
things sent were very inappropriate and not something HR would like to be
associated with the organization fast forward to now they finally concluded
the investigation and found what she did inappropriate and she was fired I don't
feel any remorse for her and I'm glad she got what she deserved because what
she did almost cost me my marriage and mine and my friend's reputation at work
what makes me most happy is that because
she was fired over something she did she won't be able to receive unemployment
benefits good luck taking care of her family now definitely can't feel bad for
somebody who's trying to be a home wrecker for literally no reason at all
apparently Opie said that it wasn't just them that this person targeted
apparently they tried to mess other people's lives up too how sick can you
be to just try to falsely ruin marriages like that this next story is sure call
the landowner so when I was 13 I was really into snowboarding so every chance
I got I was out doing that in the winter
though in recent years I could do so and July there was one huge hill that was
open to anyone everyone all year long so long as they didn't cut trees or wreck
the place this hill was located on a plot of land in the woods that a few
months prior to this event had gone from
being for sale to bought by my uncles to keep it from being bulldozed nobody
really knew these men were my uncles because we all have different last names
and my dad's family is huge that comes up again later one of the parents said
that myself slash anybody who wasn't a baby in a sled had no right to be there
as we were too big and violent to be using that hill and generally let the
kids steal or otherwise damage the boards or skis or do things to drive
everyone else away I largely didn't care
because when I went there I just used my cheap ten dollar board that was built
about as well as a plastic sled so I didn't have to carry my bigger better
one across town that as you can imagine his these Cairns off more I never really
understood why they were so butthurt over it they could take their kids
sledding anywhere and there were even public roads that were shut down in
Winter because they were too dangerous to drive on that people used all the
time as sled spots that were also much closer to home and safer because no tree
line to collide with Fallen logs or chances of coyotes deciding their kids
were snacks after about a week of them constantly nagging and witching I
finally said look you can sled anywhere you want me because some jerks decided
to wreck property and trespass I cannot even snowboard on my own property
because the neighbors complained that I might break their fins so unless I want
to pay hundreds of dollars to go to some fancy Resort this is the only place I
can snowboard on a plot of land half a mile wide I'm fairly freaking certain we
can all enjoy it I didn't wait for a response I just went down the hill
swerving to avoid all the kids who think laying down in the middle of a place
everyone is skiing snowboarding or sledding is a good idea and thought that
would be it but as you can guess I was wrong I was never the best at stopping
so I stopped when I hit the trees thankful that they were still rather
bendy over the sounds of laughter and snow being shredded I heard the Karen
screaming and turned to see her at the top of the hill pointing at me and
calling me every name in the book apparently she called her husband who
confirmed they lived nearby and said that one I threatened her two I had
called her everything in the book and three I was a grown adult at 13 I was
maybe three foot nine and looked like I was 10. her husband had to fight
laughter when he saw me stomping back up the hill wearing a hot pink Barbie
snowsuit and carrying a cheap Monster your energy black with electric green
board under my arm he asked what I said I repeated it and admitted I knew
cursing was wrong but expressing how I know it I was he tried to calm his wife
but she screamed more and said I'm calling the landowners I smiled like the
Cheshire Cat and told her go right ahead I'll speak to them too so she did and
she launched into a huge rant very animated with lots of flailing and
hopping similar to an angry hen finally when she starts losing steam I can hear
one of my uncles saying I'll be right there sit tight that crappy smile that
spread across her face when she heard that she sneered at me and said I'm
going to get you in so much trouble her husband had gathered the kids and told
them to wait in the truck by then he looked like he wanted to crawl into a
hole and die of embarrassment after about 15 minutes a truck pulled up and
out hopped my uncles they came over and spoke to the woman I could until they
didn't 100 believe her but because this was their land if anything happened
they'd be on the hook for it she got loud again and demanded I be banned for
life and all that they looked around and asked her to point to the dangerous and
disrespectful woman as clearly I was the only one snowboarding that day she
huffed and grabbed me giving me a shake as she shouted This Witch here despite
it being the middle of January I swear I heard crickets as the wheels and their
heads turned knowing these men and how much like their own kid they saw me it
was mostly the key from eating this woman into the Sun finally one of them
spoke you mean our niece Karen spottered and tried to come up with some sort of
response but failed miserably my uncles then gave her the choice leave now and
come back in a couple of days they'd drive by to make sure she stayed away or
continue acting how she was and they'd press charges on her to have her banned
and charged with assault for grabbing me as well as being on the hook for any
damages her kids cause to anybody's gear
apparently they'd been getting calls but nobody knew her name so the cops
couldn't do anything she huffed and stormed off her husband following and
looking like a beat dog she never did come back there is nothing more
satisfying than getting called out in a situation where you know whoever is
going to come around from behind that counter or in this case roll down the
hill are going to unequivocally have your back this is like the equivalent of
you walking into a store and just grabbing a candy bar off the shelf and
ripping it right open getting called out for it and saying to them yeah well my
dad owns the store it's such a mic drop bombshell revelation love it but with
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a ITA for not explaining to my sister why she was stupid for asking me to
share my art supplies I babysit for my sister all the time she pays me the same
as anyone else but she is a lot more entitled than anyone else my nephews are
really good kids but spoiled they eat when they are supposed to and I don't
need to Wrangle them much to get them to bed however they are fascinated with my
art supplies I am not an artist I just like to draw I have a few apps on my
iPad but I like my paper and pencils as well I also have oil pastel crayon my
nephews wanted to draw with them but I said no they complained to my sister and
she told me to let them draw with me the next time I came by I brought pencil
crayons for them not good enough they complained and she said I was being mean
not sharing time before last I just didn't bring anything except a book to
read she gave me for being immature fine I gave up I bought them them some
Che oil crayon I gave them to her as I was leaving she called me today she gave
them the crayons but did not supervise them she has spent the last 2 days
trying to get the oil paint off her couch and carpet she says my
brother-in-law is pissed that I gave them art supplies that are so messy I
forwarded her the messages where she called me childish and mean for not
sharing I offered to send them to her husband so he could know whose idea it
was she is mad and demanding that I watch them for free to pay her back for
the cleaning I just said I would not watch the kids anymore she tried to
trick me by not having cash when I showed up I said I was leaving since I
didn't trust that she would pay me strangely she actually had the cash she
did call her mom and tell on me for giving the kids oil paints without
warning her my mom wants me to keep the peace and offered to pay me to watch the
kids and let my sister think she won I'm thinking about it but my sister still
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what's the worst case of badly behaved kids you've ever seen I have many after
living with this child for two years I'll try to keep it short the guy I had
been seeing asked me to move in with him and his two kids he was divorced for
more than 5 years and had kids every other week agreed and after several
months I moved my then baby boy and me his place the first two months were
fairly normal there a son and a daughter
both of whom are young his son loved his
kids especially his son and he loved him now my then boyfriend em was raised a
lot differently than I and that became apparent with his utter lack of
discipline regarding his daughter when she came home from school there was what
em called a trail of e shoes a backpack snack wrappers and clothes made to Trail
right to her room in her room every time em complained about it not being picked
up she would scream and cry after she slammed her door she would come out and
ask him to help her he cleaned it himself while she watched TV in her room
and I would come home from work and pick
up my son from daycare the kitchen would be a disaster milk is left out in the
counter with crumbs everywhere there is so much more but I want to get to the
worst of it eventually her mom would relapse into a benzo coma and the kids
would call from her place and say m is acting weird and making her lunches at
in the morning M filed for emergency full custody and the kids were
with us full-time and got them into counseling but only once every other
month because it stressed out e too much her behavior became worse from the
beginning she would get out of bed and come into her room maybe twice a night
after she would get off the phone with her mom or supervised visitation she
would come in between 600 and 10 times per night on more than one occasion she
would swing her door open while we were doing stuff this was too much for me I
asked em to sit down down with all of us the next day we tried but she screamed
slammed and broke her door frame am said it was because of her tonsils and that
she would be better after surgery that was also his excuse for her being out of
school for 45 days of the year and also why she was failing math I offered to
help her I sat down with her after dinner one night and she brought her
homework packet I read it over and told her okay get started and if you get
stuck I'll help you she started doodling
on her homework sheet and then said well my dad just does the work on another
piece of paper and I copy it that's how I learn I told her that's not how any
teacher I know expects their students to learn she called me a witch and went
into her room and slammed the door after many other incidents I decided it was
best for not only myself but also my son that I move out while I was packing M
asked me if I had seen either of our phone chargers which we always had on
the end table they were missing I said I
would look for them tomorrow and said he would ask the kids the next day I was
finishing packing and cleaning the condo
while I was picking up EAS clothes there
were our chargers I don't know if it was
just the stress of everything but I lost it I called him at work and he said he
would sit down and talk about this especially since when he dropped e off
at school oh and I forgot to mention that we lived two blocks from the school
on the same side of the street but he had to drive her and drop her off the
principal pulled him aside and asked why e didn't do her homework packet she was
given to make up while she spent the week sick at home never too sick to go
to the mall or play outside with friends he told them that she never received it
em told the principal this and she informed him that she gave it to her
personally he started crying apparently and said she was again too sick to go to
class this time M made her go when everyone was home he asked asked e and
me to sit at the table he asked her why she took her phone chargers out come the
Waterworks I didn't and why was she in my room that's my room my stuff em
replied that if she kept her room clean nobody would have to pick up her stuff
he again asked why she took the Chargers they're just phone chargers dad why are
you doing this em answered he asked you if you took them and you said you didn't
I think you misspoke I didn't say anything during the exchange they
couldn't even say lied as I was putting my things in my truck I saw you walking
out with a friend he had given her $100 to shop at the mall because he made her
upset I just hope to God she's not dating this guy anymore story to I felt
bad for this kid even at the time because there was no way in hell he was
given a fair or even adequate start in life when I was young I went to visit a
classmate in town I lived in the country they were a poor family with the house
and disrepair long grass and a broken car in the garage they were nice enough
people and they let us watch TV all day and eat chips so I wasn't going to
complain people were always coming and going one day a family friend stopped by
and brought her 7-year-old son this kid was by far the worst behaved little
wretch I ever saw the mother made no attempt to control him discipline him or
enforce any kind of rule he ran around the house screaming grabbed things out
of people's hands hit people tried to kick your legs thre massive Tantrums
over every little thing it was just a total jerk what dawned on me was that he
didn't appear to want to misbehave like this it almost seemed like he was having
a big struggle in his head about how to act all the time he seemed to be venting
his emotions he asked his mother why he was like that and she replied his father
hurts him when he stays there and is super strict and I don't know what to do
with him this kid was going from one extreme to the other with no
communication or consistency and no one gave a damn to try and change the
situation it didn't seem like a buding psychopath more that his mental and
emotional needs were not being met at an even basic level his mother wanted the
welfare money and his father was an angry drunk and of story unfortunately
he was also now in a phase where he would pinch people it hurt like hell so
I pinched him back he ran off and cried I didn't know what else to do and he
tried it again I caught him and told him to bug her off it seemed genuinely hurt
that I was sending him away I'm pretty sure most of his behavior was a way to
try to get attention Story three I work at the stare where we basically watch
elementary school kids after school it's mostly for parents that work all day or
are far away but there are a lot of parents that misuse the fact that the
program like this is around and just kind of dumped their kids on us it's
kind of sad but I digress we weren't their actual teachers and most of us
were under 21 so we put up with a lot of disrespect this boy though was by far
the worst number one this boy now in sixth grade it was extreme extr
Troublesome within my first month of working there he came up to me and would
start saying really outwardly dirty things when my boss and I talked to him
about it he called me a liar and completely denied it when one of my
co-workers finally overheard it and finally called this boy on it he tried
to charge my cooworker and make a run for it later that year during a snack he
threw a cup of water and chocolate pudding in this girl's face when we had
a talk with him about it his response was she deserved it for being fat and he
refused to appologize to her the worst part was that this girl started balling
because she was being pretty severely tormented in school before the after
CARE program and he sat there smirking proud of himself for making her cry he
threw a basketball at a first grader nearly injured him and then tried to do
it again because he was disappointed that this little kid didn't need surgery
we couldn't do anything besides talk to him about it because there are so many
rules and regulations for us we did try to expel him but his father was a
certain color and accused us of being prejudiced and threaten to sue us
because there was no reason that we were trying to kick his son out despite us
talking to his father on multiple occasions prior to that incident about
his son's Behavior ridiculous what separates this boy from all the other
troublemakers though is that when we called those troublemakers out they
would immediately apologize and you could tell that they genuinely felt bad
for acting the way they did this boy didn't apologize and he never felt bad
it would just smirk at the aftermath of his actions story four I have two
stories two different families the constant in both of these stories is
crappy parenting I was neighbors with them at different points in my life the
first family was a mother in her early 30s two daughters and a son constant
screaming from the children and the parents all hours of the day and well
into the night cuss words were tossed around like no big deal in that house I
remember the one daughter calling her mother a fat freak among other things
she would throw Tantrums at her mother and siblings one time the mother had to
physically restrain the kid on the ground while she shrieked like a banshee
the other daughter would throw toads into trash cans and hurt them with
flashlights and one time I caught her putting a kitten into a porta potty and
closing the door I let it out of course all three of the kids would destroy
property draw their neighbors doors Etc they were terrible second family a
mother in her late 30s or early 40s and two young daughters
again screaming all the time they were on thin ice because they weren't going
to school the kids would break into neighbors homes destroy whatever they
could get their hands on steal other kids toys etc etc one time they knocked
at my door their mother always sent them over to ask me for smoke and I didn't
answer but I looked at the peephole and saw them pick up a break and heard them
talking about throwing it at my door they didn't thankfully the first time I
encountered these kids it was midnight and I heard some voices outside yelling
catch it catch it end it and when they looked outside I saw the girls chasing a
poor little toad bit a lot of those where I lived so I tore out of my house
like a psycho bellowing where is your mother and they ran off I hate those
kids and I hate their poor excuse of a mother even more Story five I'll preface
this by saying that I'm now a parent but even acknowledging the difficulties of
Parenthood this was bad I'll also add that this is the worst I've personally
seen we went to a restaurant two parents another adult and two very small kids
the parents ate calmly while the kids got down and began running around the
restaurant nearly knocking to servers who politely tried to direct them back
to their seats then the kids were crawling around including under nearby
tables I ignored the youngest who crawled to our table in hopes he'd leave
they were yelling most at the time eventually the youngest fell and got
hurt parents quickly tended to him then ignored him again and it got to the
point that both kids climbed to the chairs the bigger one started jumping up
and down while yelling and then started trying to get onto the table this was
the point that I finally blurted out are you serious this went on for 10 to 15
minutes the parents now done asked for boxes and calmly went about the ray
leaving I have a kid pushing too I'll go to a restaurant with him if I'm with
other people if I can't quickly calm him
one of us takes him to the car while the
other gets the bail and boxes that's the
reality of having kids it's important to try and teach table manners but that
doesn't mean ignoring your children while you go about eating to the
detriment of other diners if it's been more than a few minutes of attempting to
soo the kid and there become that much of a nuisance it's time to go in my
opinion story six my girlfriend's brother every single sentence that
leaves his mouth leaves me thinking if I said that my mom would get mad he's the
epitome of that kid who was raised in the internet to the point of being the
autism spectrum all he does all day is either watch leafy videos try to watch
this without laughing videos play Call of Duty while screaming or make as much
noise around the house as possible anytime you watch a movie at her house
he walks into the living room and starts playing basketball on a small door
hanging gold that he sets up literally jumping and slamming the ball making
tons of noise while we sit there begging
him to stop he gets literally everything
he wants but manipulating the parents if his mom doesn't give him what he wants
he stays at his dad's for a few weeks while the dad talks about how crappy of
a parent the mom is and vice versa the grandparents think he's a saint and buy
him anything despite how rude he is all while completely ignoring my girlfriend
treating her like crap not helping her with jobs College cars Etc he runs
around the house screaming and fakes laughing constantly his Instagram posts
consist of him stealing my girlfriend's nail polish and painting it on him to
make it look like he's hurt so people give him attention one time they got a
new dog and it was a tiny little Chihuahua while he was holding it he
started screaming and I asked him to please stop because he was hurting its
ears as an animal lover I literally lost control of myself and smacked him
luckily no one saw and I think he was so surprised that someone in his life
disciplined him that he never told me as a fellow animal lover I'd hiive this
dude if I were there I know I've been enjoying our time so far so if you're
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story seven my brother married a woman who had a son from a previous marriage
he was the first grandchild born so his grandparents and Mom spoiled him rotten
like in your situation they gave him presents everywhere they went so one day
he's with my brother and they stopped by
my house the boy was expecting a present but didn't have anything for him he
asked to play with this little figurine I had sitting on my desk it was about 2
in tall and was a cartoon caricature of Mario L I don't have a problem letting
him play with it and then asks if he can have it when they were leaving I say no
he pouts but I still say no over the next few times they visit he plays with
a toy and asks if he can have it finally
he told him to stop asking he can't have it and not going to change my mind so
that was when he slipped into his pocket
and stole it he was about 10 at the time so he knew he was doing something wrong
later that day realized it was gone and called my brother he found it in the
kid's room he was mad but his wife whenever punishes the kid no matter what
he does blew it off and said I'm sure he just forgot interestingly enough that
kid is now 23 he been arrested at least half a dozen times can't hold a job and
has pissed off pretty much every family member so badly they want nothing to do
with him story eight I was working the fitting rooms during a summer retail job
right after graduating high school and a
young girl brought in a bunch of women's swimware to try on the suits were going
to be way way too big on her but whatever I don't care she's in the
fitting room for a good 20 to 30 minutes so I knock on the door to check on her
and she rolls in the floor from beneath the locked door and runs out of the
fitting rooms odd but it's retail so again whatever kids are kids I used my
key to open the door and the girl had taken a crap in almost all the bathing
suit bottoms and then smeared one of the dirty Bikini Bottoms in the mirror she
also whizzed in the corner after gagging
for a good minute I told my cooworker we had another crappy incident in the
fitting room there had been multiple in the 3 months I worked there and
described the kid so everyone could be on the lookout for her one of the
managers of the store found her with her mom and notified her about the great
poop explosion in the fitting room the mom didn't seem surprised to hear about
this and asked the kid why she did it again and the kid replied because those
bathing suits were ugly and you weren't paying attention to me Mom paid for the
destroyed merchandise and was told never to return it both mom and daughter
seemed totally unfaced by the whole ordeal story nine my son's daycare had a
similar kid it was terrible both parents were officers in the military who
thought their son was just so perfect and sweet and could do no wrong
meanwhile the kid is just awful one day he was picking one of the small smaller
kids and the teachers were trying unsuccessfully to get him to stop my son
was nearby my son and the kid were the same age but my son was a tiny little
kid in the size comparison my son turned around and charged at him teachers
closed ranks no less than eight teachers were trying to calm this kid down when
it happened and all supported the claim that he slipped and fell off the
playground equipment while picking on the small child and all swore up and
down that his claims that my kid hurt him were 100% false the parents were so
upset their darling and Sweet Child was injured that they would never brought
him back my son was a hero I high-fived him when I found out for the record we
were never supportive of him being an instigator in fights but always said he
had the right and duty to protect himself protect others who could not
protect themselves and stand up for his little brother those were our fighting
rules story 10 I went to Chuck-E-Cheese about 10 years ago with my family we
were really poor so it wasn't exactly something we could afford to do all the
time I was 19 at the time and I had my little sister with me she loved as to
Die the Jurassic Park game which is an arcade shooter where you sit in the car
that bounces around so I put him my last tokens to let her play I know she won't
last long but she still loves it and these two little kids who were a bit
older than her came up and literally sat
in the car and pushed her out of it then
started playing her turn I was like what the hell and was about to say something
only to see the kids parents literally sitting right there pointing and
laughing and encouraging them of course I was a super awkward teenager and was
afraid to say anything and also didn't want to be accused of prejudice not that
I know for a fact that they would have but I didn't want to risk it so my
sister and I just soed away later I saw the same kids doing the same things to
other people going up and taking over the games as soon as other kids put
their tokens in ridiculous story 11 the worst I ever saw
was when I went with a couple of people over to a co-worker's house for a
barbecue they had a young daughter at the time several of us are sitting
around the living room eating when the daughter rides her bike through the
living room her mom tells her not to ride the bike in the house and the kid
looks at her and says you're not the boss of me and continues riding the mom
did nothing about it about a half hour later the kid wanted Oreo cookies her
mom said no it was almost bedtime so she wasn't going to have cookies the kid
screams at the top of her lungs I I want Oreos right freaking now the mom stood
up went to the kitchen and got the kid Oreos we were all looking at each other
like we couldn't believe what we were seeing this was on a Friday after work
on Monday at work someone asked him what was up with his daughter behaving like
that and he just said oh she's High strong story 12 my step siblings one is
25 and the other is 32 the 25-year-old stopped going to school in fourth grade
my stepmom got his GED for him years later and he has never had a job any job
in his life he legit just steals money from my dad and stepmom smokes and
drinks all day 32-year-old got married and is a stay-at-home mom to a husband
who makes $12 an hour not to mock that salary but they drive nice cars have a
house and get cosmetic surgery in their salary how you ask they get my dad to
Shell out thousands of dollars a month to supplement their income I.E support
them or else they won't allow my stepmother to see her grandkids if you
were to ask my stepmother she legitimately believes she's making it
all on her own oh and she's never held a job either I absolutely despise them
both I know some of these stories will live in my head Run free if you're ready
to take it up an Notch watch the child who is not embraced by The Village will
burn it down to feel the warmth for some heartbreaking narratives especially
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confiding in my school counselor was a grave mistake I was physically abused as
a child by my monster stepfather he beat both my mother and I on a regular basis
I'd go to school with bruises and was told to tell people I fell or that my
sister hit me in sixth grade I finally told a friend she cried and begged me to
talk to the school counselor at home I was threatened to never tell anyone what
happens in this house it took all I had but I went in and told her everything
that day when I got home I was met by both my parents standing at the door
with that Dreadful feeling that it was going to be ugly turns out the school
counselor called and told my mothers everything I told her my mother was no
Jim either she told my stepfather and I got one of the worst beatings of my life
after that from that point it took me 30 years of keeping everything locked
inside and drinking through the pain of my childhood eventually I learned to
open up and get therapy that in turn led me to get sober something needs to be
done about these types of school staff though if a child tells you they're
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wibta for lying about why I don't want to be a bridesmaid Kayla and I both 32f
have been friends since elementary school when she got engaged this
Christmas she didn't ask me to be a bridesmaid because it was an automatic
given I love Kayla but the problem is that her wedding is taking place
overseas and would cost more than I think is reasonable Kayla's fiance is
from a tiny far north Scandinavian Town it is where their wedding is happening a
couple weeks ago due to some family pressures they changed the date from
Midsummer next year to Midsummer this year about 4 months away between flights
the hotel well most everything in town has already been booked for Midsummer
including every spare room and couch at his family's home so the rooms at the
final available stays are around $300 PN for the 7 Days of wedding events the
rental car the bridesmaid dress the full traditional outfit required to be worn
for some of the events pet boarding as well as general incidentals and we are
looking at a minimum $88,000 Kayla was very apologetic about the change when
she announced it but is not acknowledge just how big of an impact this is my
husband and I have good jobs and are lucky that we don't have to worry about
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AI for wanting to expose my sister to her husband after she confessed to my
husband on her wedding day sorry for the confusing title I didn't know how to
word it any other way I 24f have been married to my husband 27m for about 2
years my sister 26f and her husband 26m our high school sweetheart my sister and
I have always been close despite the small age Gap she acted like my second
mother so I never doubted her in anything let's call her Jane my husband
let's call him Bob and I met at Uni I was 20 and he was 23 he in both
academics Sports and looks and was well known around campus because of that so
obviously I had a crush on him Jane also attended the same un because I was new
she included me into her big circle of friends and he was a part of that I
never made a move because I respected Jane and her friends I didn't want to
cause any trouble or make things awkward she meant the world to me eventually
though Bob and I became close friends I grew to like him more I also noticed
that Jane rarely interacted with him which was odd considering she was close
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:11.590 --> :16.330 Back when I was 16 years old I worked for
a unnamed Supermarkt from Grand Rapids Michigan. :16.330 --> :20.710
Part of the rules for underage employees was
that we were limited on our total lift weight :20.710 --> :23.590
to something like 15 pounds or something. :23.590 --> :29.100
I won't say I was a strapping young man, but 15 pounds wasn't an issue.
:29.100 --> :33.600 Working as a cashier/bagger, we regularly
had customers that would purchase large items :33.600 --> :38.560
from the front of the store, such as bags
of ice, or the culprit in this story a brick :38.560 --> :40.320
of water softener salt. :40.320 --> :43.960
The blocks of salt I believe were about 50 pounds. :43.960 --> :49.239
Over the store limit for my age clearly, but
I can manage 50 pounds without much struggle :49.239 --> :51.920
especially when the block has handles more or less.
:51.920 --> :56.400 The problem however was the loss prevention
office was right next to the salt pallet, :56.400 --> :01.610
and more than once I'd get reprimanded for
lifting over the weight limit for an elderly :01.610 --> :05.680
person, or someone with disabilities that specifically asked for help.
:05.680 --> :11.490 So one day I get a nice elderly lady, probably
pushing mid 80s ask me to assist her with :11.490 --> :14.560
the block getting into her cart and out to her car.
:14.560 --> :22.009 I look over, and there is LPO Manager standing
right next to it surveying his kingdom, the :22.009 --> :27.280
one that likes to reprimand me about it (like
it was his job or something... which I understand :27.280 --> :28.899
now being older). :28.899 --> :34.250
So I wave over a buddy of mine and ask him
to assist lift this albeit hefty, yet small :34.250 --> :35.649
block of salt. :35.649 --> :40.979
We square up, double check each of us are
ready for the lift, go full a** to ground :40.979 --> :46.530
knee bend, remind each other vocally to not
curl the back for safety, count down from :46.530 --> :50.530
3, and hoist this block of salt into the cart. :50.530 --> :55.450
Then escort the lady to her cart, both of
us because it does need lifted again, and :55.450 --> :56.510
load her up. :56.510 --> :00.569
Lady asked on the way if we needed help, to
which we told her the story of the lifting :00.569 --> :03.560
limit and she had a small chuckle about it. :03.560 --> :09.130
Once inside the front line manager promptly
asked "WTF is your issue" as to why both my :09.130 --> :14.910
friend and I just bailed on our stations for
the last 20 minutes during a Saturday morning :14.910 --> :15.910
rush. :15.910 --> :19.860 I believe the response was something along
the lines of just "next time you need to do :19.860 --> :21.950
that, tell someone older to just pick it up". :21.950 --> :59.019
Which isn't nearly as fun. :59.019 --> :03.799
This was a little while back (maybe a few
weeks or a month ago?, but even remembering :03.799 --> :05.239
it makes me giggle. :05.239 --> :09.870
Anyone who has been catcalled knows that one
of the most overused lines is telling you :09.870 --> :12.780
to smile, and I am one of those people. :12.780 --> :17.450
I had walked to the closest grocery store
because I wanted mashed potatoes (they're :17.450 --> :21.689
served at the deli there) and I didn't have
any potatoes at home, but I was determined :21.689 --> :24.060
to get my favorite comfort food. :24.060 --> :29.510
After paying almost $5 for a styrofoam cup
of mashed potatoes with a plastic spoon, I :29.510 --> :34.250
walked my happy a** home while shoveling mashed
potatoes into my mouth like I was moments :34.250 --> :35.700
from starving to death. :35.700 --> :40.390
A couple blocks away from making my way home,
I got catcalled by some guy sitting on his :40.390 --> :41.569
front porch. :41.569 --> :45.720
As implied in the title, he shouted something
about telling me to smile (I don't remember :45.720 --> :47.239
his exact words). :47.239 --> :52.719
I considered telling him to p*** off or screeching
like a velociraptor to freak him out, but :52.719 --> :54.540
instead I decided to comply. :54.540 --> :59.519
I smiled with all of my teeth and used my
tongue to push out the half chewed food in :59.519 --> :00.519
my mouth. :00.519 --> :07.370
A gross mixture of saliva and mashed potatoes
fell onto the front of my shirt, but the expression
:07.370 --> :13.159 on his face more than made up for it; he looked
disgusted and slightly shocked. :13.159 --> :17.810
After a few more seconds of direct eye contact
to make him more uncomfortable, I continued :17.810 --> :18.810
walking home. :18.810 --> :26.830
I then finished my potatoes and decided to take :26.830 --> :45.699
a nap. :45.699 --> :55.139
In my (421f) 20's I worked in Human Resources
for a growing community college in my area. :55.139 --> :01.160
My immediate boss, the HR manager, was an
extremely smart and already successful retiree :01.160 --> :04.200
of a very popular international soup company. :04.200 --> :10.870
As you can imagine, he was a WEALTH of information
and education for me, not just with HR policy, :10.870 --> :17.009
but also human behavior and psychology, and
life in general, etc, etc, and he very quickly :17.009 --> :18.419
became my mentor. :18.419 --> :23.610
He DESPISED prejudice in any form and we had this in common.
:23.610 --> :29.240 Unlike a lot of other HR departments, we actually
used our HR laws and policies to advocate :29.240 --> :33.140
for our Employees over the company as often as possible.
:33.140 --> :37.259 One of our favorite pastimes was exploiting
the way the policies and correspondences were :37.259 --> :42.710
written in order to help the employees, because
they were often vague or poorly written and :42.710 --> :44.360
therefore: Subject to Debate. :44.360 --> :50.099
And since We, the HR Department, are the ones
supposedly covering the companies a** on legal, :50.099 --> :52.539
they pretty much had to side with Our Interpretation.
:52.539 --> :53.539 (lol) :53.539 --> :58.000
Well these "disputes" with upper management,
namely the Board and the President, (coupled :58.000 --> :03.210
with our thinly veiled smugness probably - hehe)
provoked a lot of petty backlash from them :03.210 --> :05.479
and their loyal administrative minions. :05.479 --> :11.740
So, one of them finds a policy note that "All
administrative staff have mandatory "committee :11.740 --> :16.970
service" duties that must be fulfilled on a needed or as needed basis."
:16.970 --> :21.020 And they decide to try to use this against me/us.
:21.020 --> :27.250 I'm in the middle of several LARGE, time sensitive
projects that involve Employee Leave Reports :27.250 --> :33.250
(sick and vacation time,) Benefits, Benefit
Changes, Disability, Retirement, etc. :33.250 --> :40.180
It is LITERALLY our busiest time of the year
and, THE ONLY TIME (2 months - Jesus what :40.180 --> :43.180
a Nightmare our Healthcare and Benefit System is...
:43.180 --> :45.349 Another rant for another day....yikes.
:45.349 --> :52.639 ANYWAY) to get it all processed is NOW, otherwise
employees lose benefits or don't get the changes :52.639 --> :53.699
they requested. :53.699 --> :55.280 (Read: NIGHTMARE.)
:55.280 --> :01.270 I get an email from president/minions (with
boss CC'd) that I'm "under review for not :01.270 --> :06.280
meeting the qualifications of my employment,
as I have not spent any time serving on any :06.280 --> :10.900
of the (VARIOUS AND OFTEN UNNECESSARY) committees..."
:10.900 --> :12.139 blah blah blah. :12.139 --> :18.880
Well Boss is P***** (Capital P.) So he says,
"OH THEY WANT YOU ON A COMMITTEE???" :18.880 --> :19.880 (hehe)
:19.880 --> :23.919 Since the polices were not well defined, there
were no limitations on exactly which employees :23.919 --> :28.689
were to serve on which committees and there
were also no rules on who could head each :28.689 --> :29.689
committee. :29.689 --> :33.970
So, Boss put me as HEAD OF THE PRESIDENT'S BIRTHDAY PARTY COMMITTEE.
:33.970 --> :41.340 (Yes, this narcissistic douche bag had a Committee
formed EVERY YEAR to plan his birthday celebration.)
:41.340 --> :46.580 To further elaborate on his douchebaggery,
cockjuggling thunderc***ness, let me paint :46.580 --> :51.889
you a picture of "Birthday Parties 20 years Past" - Rules: 1.
:51.889 --> :56.680 Only invite the "cute chicks" in our office
building (and also "that one 'Indian' guy :56.680 --> :00.080
I like" (who I'm pretty sure is actually from Pakistan)) 2.
:00.080 --> :05.389 Hors d'oeuvres and crudite and a cake with
a loving and endearing message are PARAMOUNT. :05.389 --> :11.500
3. Make sure everyone in the room KISSES MY A** as much as possible.
:11.500 --> :18.419 "Unfortunately" for Prez, he always had to
"play nice" in company email, etc. to manage :18.419 --> :23.210
his public profile (and I think he might have
been also working against some negative publicity :23.210 --> :27.890
at the time??) so he sent an email to [head
of birthday committee] (he didn't know it :27.890 --> :28.890 was me.
:28.890 --> :31.939 hehe): "Make sure to invite everyone to my
Birthday Celebration. :31.939 --> :35.919
I want it to be spectacular this year...." etc etc etc...
:35.919 --> :40.599 So I IMMEDIATELY went to my boss and excitedly
said, "BOSS! :40.599 --> :41.970 He said.....
:41.970 --> :42.970 'Everyone!'" :42.970 --> :43.970 ha!...
:43.970 --> :45.360 I invited the custodial staff,
:45.360 --> :46.790 the daycare staff, :46.790 --> :48.260
the administrative staff, :48.260 --> :49.260 the professors,
:49.260 --> :51.910 the people that clean the parking lots on
contract, :51.910 --> :52.930 the students,
:52.930 --> :53.930 EVERYONE. :53.930 --> :58.160
I made it a PIZZA PARTY WITH SODA AND ICE CREAM. :58.160 --> :02.770
I told everyone in the invite that "THE PRESIDENT WOULD LOVE TO HEAR FROM YOU!
:02.770 --> :06.900 Please feel free to offer compliments and
criticisms during this time." :06.900 --> :13.420
I even included text from HIS original email
that said he wanted to, quote, "see everyone".... :13.420 --> :16.170
and "address concerns of the staff" :16.170 --> :21.120
SOOOOOO many employees showed up, with SO MUCH to Say (hehe)
:21.120 --> :23.010 He HATED IT. :23.010 --> :25.600
His face was red the WHOLE TIME. :25.600 --> :28.060
I never had to serve on another committee. :28.060 --> :30.200
We STILL laugh about it. :30.200 --> :57.050
(Bonus: He got ousted over some Other S***
and the New President is pretty Amazing!) :57.050 --> :00.570
Some years ago I was driving pick up's and
deliveries (P and D) for a trucking company :00.570 --> :01.570
in Denmark. :01.570 --> :06.600
P and D is the part of the transport chain
where you usually deliver small quantities :06.600 --> :12.990
to multiple customers on a route - kind of
like UPS or FedEx but in semi's or rigid/box :12.990 --> :13.990
trucks. :13.990 --> :17.840
It was nearing the end of the day and I had
to deliver a trampoline to a residential area :17.840 --> :22.860
- mind you this in EU, so things may be a
bit different than in the US regarding rules :22.860 --> :24.120
and regulations. :24.120 --> :29.010
It was a fairly new area with plenty of space
- but I had to reverse in cause there was :29.010 --> :30.750
no way of turning around. :30.750 --> :34.350
But no problem - the road was wide and so were the corners I had to go around.
:34.350 --> :39.570 I put my semi in reverse and started going
backwards - and of course I was delivering :39.570 --> :42.110
to the last house on the street. :42.110 --> :47.580
Now the road climbed a bit and was about 6
or 700 metres long - but it all went fine. :47.580 --> :52.120
When I finally got to the end of the road
and got out of my truck to unload this trampoline, :52.120 --> :57.770
some guy was already standing behind my truck
and started yelling and swearing at me: :57.770 --> :00.610
I was the biggest idiot on this earth! :00.610 --> :04.160
How the h*** could I even think of going in there with a semi?
:04.160 --> :07.130 I could have run over all the kids in the
neighbourhood. :07.130 --> :10.880 (no-one was out)
I had absolutely no valid reason for being :10.880 --> :14.510
there and could get the h*** out of there right away!
:14.510 --> :18.980 Instead of starting an argument with person,
I calmly asked him where he lived - he pointed :18.980 --> :24.760
at the house and said "Number 74" - and low
and behold, where was I delivering??? :24.760 --> :27.460
You guessed it - number 74... :27.460 --> :32.640
So I - again very calmly - told this man:
"Well, in that case I have a trampoline for :32.640 --> :33.640
you..." :33.640 --> :36.590
"Oh" the man said "Well, I would like if you could..."
:36.590 --> :37.590 "BUT!!!" :37.590 --> :42.240
I interrupted "Since I have no business being
in here with a semi, I will be waiting for :42.240 --> :46.690
you at the end of the road" and pointed to the direction I just came from...
:46.690 --> :51.390 "Mind you - this is the big model weighing
about 130 pounds, so you might want to bring :51.390 --> :52.620
a wheel barrow". :52.620 --> :57.870
The joy it was seeing him coming all the way
down the road with his wheel barrow. :57.870 --> :03.660
And then trying to get this 130 pound trampoline
up in the wheel barrow and starting his long :03.660 --> :30.860
heavy walk 700 metres up to his house again... :30.860 --> :36.780
Priceless!!!! :36.780 --> :41.060
This story takes place a few years back when
I was doing a clinical rotation in phlebotomy :41.060 --> :44.250
for my degree in Medical Laboratory Science. :44.250 --> :50.170
I was placed in the ED (*edit: Emergency Department)
of a local hospital, practicing poking patients :50.170 --> :51.820
and drawing their blood. :51.820 --> :56.600
All the staff knew that my snow white scrubs
meant I was a student, but some patients took :56.600 --> :58.760
them to mean I was a physician. :58.760 --> :03.050
One night I happened to walk by an exam room
where an altercation was taking place between :03.050 --> :09.760
a patient I will call Mr. Smith and a very patient RN (*edit: Registered Nurse).
:09.760 --> :14.190 Altercations were a fairly common occurrence
in the ED, but I was still pretty green so :14.190 --> :16.000
it was hard not to stop and listen in. :16.000 --> :20.840
Nurse: “I’ve been doing this for 30 years, Mr. Smith, I can assure you-“
:20.840 --> :25.370 Patient: “I don’t care how long you’ve
been doing this, I want a DOCTOR to place :25.370 --> :26.370 my IV!!”
:26.370 --> :31.400 Nurse: “Mr. Smith, if you hold still I promise
I’ll have it in in a flash. :31.400 --> :32.610
You’ll hardly feel a thing.” :32.610 --> :35.850
Patient: “Are you deaf or just stupid? :35.850 --> :37.040 I want…”
:37.040 --> :40.520 At this point the man catches sight of me
loitering in the hallway. :40.520 --> :42.650
“I want HER to place my IV!!” :42.650 --> :45.641
Me, flabbergasted: “But I can’t thread IV’s. :45.641 --> :48.000
I only know how to draw blood.” :48.000 --> :51.070
Nurse: “Sir, she’s just a student.” :51.070 --> :55.630
This affront seemed to put the patient into
overdrive and he began slamming his fist on :55.630 --> :58.620
the bed rail screaming for a doctor. :58.620 --> :02.670
The nurse quietly took me aside and asked
me to go fetch one of the physicians on duty. :02.670 --> :07.120
I ran to get the kindest one, as I was afraid
of getting snapped at by the other doctors :07.120 --> :08.430
working that night. :08.430 --> :10.350 I’ll call him Dr. Anderson.
:10.350 --> :16.710 Dr. Anderson patiently listened to my explanation,
wordlessly grabbed an IV kit out of the cupboard, :16.710 --> :18.890
and followed me to the patient’s room. :18.890 --> :22.670
We could hear the patient still throwing his tantrum as we walked down the hall.
:22.670 --> :27.410 As soon as Dr. Anderson stepped into the room
in his white coat, the patient switched it :27.410 --> :30.750
off like a light and breathed a heavy sigh of relief.
:30.750 --> :31.750 Patient: “Finally!” :31.750 --> :34.060
With a smug smile at his nurse. :34.060 --> :38.470
Dr. Anderson, with a big friendly smile: “Hello, Mr. Smith!
:38.470 --> :40.830 I hear you want a doctor to place your IV.
:40.830 --> :47.540 Well, I haven’t done this since medical
school, so that’s, what, 25 years ago now? :47.540 --> :51.230
I might be a little rusty but I’m happy to give it a shot!
:51.230 --> :53.660 Nurse, will you please position the patient’s
head? :53.660 --> :55.430 I’m going for the jugular.”
:55.430 --> :00.940 Suddenly the patient decided he didn’t want
a doctor to place his IV after all, and the :00.940 --> :06.600
nurse with 30 years’ experience placing IVs would do just fine 😁A few years ago
:06.600 --> :10.320 I was working in the compliance team for a
large NGO. :10.320 --> :14.170
I had covered a few roles in this team and
was largely left to get on with my work by :14.170 --> :15.170
my managers and SLT as they trusted me. :15.170 --> :16.170
One of the big parts of the role was approving
requests for information internally. :16.170 --> :17.170
Much of this was quite mundane, but the rules were there for good reasons.
:17.170 --> :18.170 For example you don't really want your manager
to have access to your emails, even if someone :18.170 --> :19.170
needs access it should be HR with a reasonable
reason given and rules surrounding it. :19.170 --> :20.170
Anyway, cut to the situation. :20.170 --> :21.170
A manager in the fundraising team who'd just
had a staff member in his team leave messaged :21.170 --> :25.480
me telling me he needed on going access to
the staff members email account for the next :25.480 --> :26.480
6 months. :26.480 --> :30.100
I told him I couldn't do this without a good reason eg.
:30.100 --> :31.180 The business risk, they had been fired so
there wasn't a handover. :31.180 --> :32.200
For Context I was a supervisor so the slightly junior.
:32.200 --> :35.000 He then told me to come to his desk and preceded
to tell me he wanted to see a policy before :35.000 --> :36.000
the end of the day otherwise he would go to my manager.
:36.000 --> :38.140 I knew my manager would back me up, but he
had raised a good point that it wasn't an :38.140 --> :39.140
official policy. :39.140 --> :40.140
The tone of the exchange was... patronising and superior.
:40.140 --> :41.140 So it was in this context I decided to go
to my desk and write the policies. :41.140 --> :42.140
I dropped my manager an email explaining I
had identified a gap in our policies relating :42.140 --> :44.750
to manager email access, explaining I wasn't
busy and telling them I could sort it out :44.750 --> :45.750
by the end of the day. :45.750 --> :46.750
The policy was, I believe, a balanced and
proportional policy explaining why unrestricted :46.750 --> :47.750
management email access is a bad business
practice, unethical and should only be done :47.750 --> :48.750
in set conditions carefully regulated. :48.750 --> :49.750
The manager whose patronising and rude demand
for this policy got a copy by the end of the :49.750 --> :50.750 day.
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today we have a crazy story of an entitled parent who just talked about
how ugly everyone else is we'll get into that in a bit but first my girlfriend's
mother ruined Christmas I'm writing this
from a futon at the corner of the living room with the rest of my girlfriend's
family while 10 to 15 random guests are enjoying a buffet of food from the
remaining 1 of the room and drinking the
alcohol that I bought this Christmas was
meant to be about family the plan was to have only our closest people in the
house to sit together at the table and enjoy a lot of amazing food in each
other's company instead girlfriend's mother has used the day as an excuse to
invite over people who most of us have never met and have a party which she
assured us many times was not the case though the scene in front of me is
nothing less than a party the dining table is pushed against the wall with
several finger food trays on it a stack of paper plates and a pile of plastic
forks on it there are only a few chairs not even enough for half the people here
music is playing in the background and everyone's chatting so loud you can't
really hear your own thoughts I don't know any of the guests I am sad and so
are the rest of us sat here around the corner while my girlfriend's mother is
enjoying her time catering to these people over her own family what
Christmas is this imagine you're expecting this wholesome family
Christmas and you show up and it's just been totally taken over and it's this
half-hearted poorly planned party that you're having to just kind of crouch in
the corner probably isn't even a chair for you I completely understand why op
is venting here I mean it's just so disappointing also hi I'm Steven and if
you guys can't get enough of hearing about these entitled parents why not hit
those like And subscribe buttons down below that said our next story is my
girlfriend's mother ruined Christmas to summarize what I said in the original
post my girlfriend's 22 mother 45 hijacked Christmas day as her own house
party and ended up isolating us upstairs in our own house because of how
uncomfortable we felt with all the people she had promised us a Christmas
Day lunch and dinner with only a couple of her friends joining us which was fair
because my best friend joined us as well with her permission but it all ended up
in a typical finger food style party with around 15 to 20 of her friends
around that none of us knew her family who was in the house so me 20 my
girlfriend girlfriend's sister 26 girlfriend's other sister 24 and
girlfriend's cousin 34 spent the day debating on how to confront her about it
so to update when girlfriend's mother's party was done all five of us mentioned
above sat her down and attempted to start a calm conversation to explain to
her why what she did was wrong and hurt all of us simultaneously my girlfriend
got only one sentence out before her mother started getting defensive trying
to tell us all that we had actually agreed to her organizing the party and
inviting this many people chalking it up to the all five of us collectively
misunderstanding her I'll spare you the unnecessary details but we basically got
into a fight where the five of us attempted to talk to her calmly and she
only responded with yelling and refusal to hear our side of things and admit
mistake we never reached a conclusion because girlfriend's mother only
provided a half-hearted apology for the sake of ending the argument we all then
went upstairs and decided to call it a day because we were all emotionally
exhausted it's now 5 days later and things have escalated beyond my
anticipation girlfriend's mother pretended to be all right for maybe a
day bringing up the fight now and then to random people in an attempt to get
her point across that she was actually just trying to do a good thing yesterday
however she knocks on mine in my girlfriend's door and says she needs to
talk with my girlfriend she goes to talk but the moment the conversation begins
girlfriend's mother is already raising her voice mind you I don't speak their
native language perfectly so I didn't understand much of the argument through
two closed doors but my girlfriend explained to me the overall points for
one girlfriend's mother has apparently felt as though she is no longer a part
of the home because of certain people secondly she feels as though she gets no
respect as the adult of the house all of us are adults and finally she feels as
though my girlfriend is changed in a bad way because of my influence on her and
her views all of this communicated through yelling on her side and by
cutting off my girlfriend if she tried to speak to top it all off just an hour
after this fight girlfriend's mother packed a bag dressed up her son 12
heavily autistic proceeded to scream at everyone in the living room about how
she feels like she's living with strangers and leaves she has not yet
been back but has contacted girlfriend's sister 26 by message and girlfriend's
cousin on call to vent out her thoughts once again through yelling her same
points all of us are exhausted and cannot deal with this fight any longer
now for the background context there are six of us living in the house me
girlfriend V girlfriend's oldest sister D girlfriend's younger brother a
girlfriend's mother s girlfriend's cousin T girl girlfriend's mother
provides the rent for the house through benefits but is currently unemployed me
and girlfriend's oldest sister are the only ones employed full-time and we most
often pay for all the bills and buy the groceries our living Arrangement is
difficult because we're in a small house but we make doe because we all respect
each other's space and most of us get along the reason I moved in with my
girlfriend's entire family was because I fell out very suddenly with my toxic
narcissistic father a few months ago and she and her entire family took me in
with open arms girlfriend's mother's emotional state in the last couple
months has been extremely difficult to understand and deal with she has become
short-tempered and extremely sensitive to absolutely everything to the point
where just one glance in her Direction can set her off into some sort of spiral
she often starts fights over Petty topics and continuously berits my
girlfriend specifically for being disrespectful of her as a person and
mother and while my girlfriend admits that she has her moments of anger where
she says things she regrets in arguments she in fact looks up to her mother and
respects her endlessly for everything she's done we have all tried to be
understanding with girlfriend's mother however because she has communicated
she's experiencing premenopausal symptoms but she has crossed many lines
in her conversations with us all that none of us have wanted to tolerate or
try to understand girlfriend's mother tends to self-victimization
is regardless of fault she also pulls the mother card quite often even on me
stating that in her generation parents were respected even when they didn't
give children their respect back I have several problems with this including the
fact that I am not her child and she can't treat me like one that she can't
treat her adult children like Toddlers and that it is not about generational
respect but empathy and coexistence in the house we share girlfriend's mother
also claims that I personally have brainwashed her daughter into treating
her poorly by speaking bad about her which is simply not true this woman took
me in at my lowest point and I will always have a certain degree of respect
for her because of her kindness but that
doesn't give her a pass in talking about me like a nuance and a guest when I pay
for household expenses I know my place in the house as a resident and a helper
for the bills and she doesn't treat me like one girlfriend's mother has become
severely entitled and all of us in the house agree that this change was abrupt
and unprompted we have all been feeling like she's been treating us like trash
and she gets away with it by crying screaming and spinning the situation
none of us know how to handle it anymore because we've tried talking tried
meditating and even bending over backwards to make this house comfortable
for her again but nothing seems to work she's moving out in a few months so me
and girlfriend's older sister agree it's
now just a waiting game where we have to
pretend to coexist but I'm not sure that my girlfriend and girlfriend's mother
will manage to to keep that civil for so long I get that tensions are high and
it's been going on for a long time but there is a Finish Line in sight as long
as they actually stick to it I'm curious why op moved into their house who
actually owns the house really but as long as this is set in stone it's really
just a matter of perseverance for one month then it should get a whole lot
better right this next story is my mom talking to my brother about debt I
apparently owe him so I live in a house with my brother brother my name and our
mom's name is on the deed the way the deal was struck 2 years ago when we
started this is that all three of us would move in together and expenses
would be split three ways my mom provided a little less than 50% of the
cost of the house I got a mortgage for the rest in my name because I'm the only
one with good credit my brother fixed up the house he equated the work he did to
around 10,000 if he was charging a stranger I also paid 10,000 in materials
at one point during construction we all got into a screaming AR argument where
Mom and I threatened to kick my bro out and he told us we couldn't I looked him
in the eye and told him I would pay him 10,000 for his work and kick him the
heck out he decided not to press his luck and construction continued the
intention was for Mom to live there until she dies my bro to continue to
rent the property forever and me to eventually move on and buy another house
well mom decided not to come live with us then I started paying for work to be
done concreting the front walkway getting gutters put on the house
plumbing problems HVAC problems Etc I do all the communal cleaning and even
cleaned his bathroom before I stopped and thought wait why the heck am I doing
this honestly it's not good for us to live together we don't mesh well I also
didn't understand the impact of two mortgages on my lending capability and
won't be able to get out without renting somewhere else for 5 to 10 years at
least we ultimately decided that he will
move out and he's been looking for a few weeks well he approached me last night
night and brought up the 10K apparently Mom tried talking to him about it and
honestly it took some effort to control my face that money has been more than
made up in his reduced rent over the last 2 years if anything I thought he
would ask to take the fridge and washer that he brought with him and I would
offer to buy them off him my bro basically said Mom tried to talk to him
about it and he distracted her by changing the subject but he wanted to
talk to me about it it essentially boiled down to I don't want that 10,000
your family and you don't take money from family found a place and I want to
move around the 5ifth to 7th but pay the
guy on the first to lock it in would you be willing to wave the rent for January
and let me keep my tools in the shed I asked him Point Blank if she was trying
to get me to pay him and he essentially responded that he cut her off before he
could hear the whole thing part of me thinks this might have been a
negotiation tactic to get me to agree but to be honest I already expected to
wave A month's rent give him an extended move out period period and let him keep
his tools in the shed I also told him he could keep his house key so that he can
access said shed and said I would help him move I have a lock on my bedroom
door and that's where I keep my valuables so no worries about him
getting into anything of value he told me he would also give me a copy of his
new key for emergencies and replace a faulty bathroom light before he leaves
so negotiation successful no idea if mom
was trying something else by bringing up that 10K but if she actually intended
for me to pay it she's absolutely insane
how Wild is it to promise someone else's
money to someone I honestly wouldn't put it past her she's prioritized them over
me before honestly if I were an op's position I would be praying that it's
just like some kind of slip of the mind with her trying to get op to pay that
money back you know just a situation where they don't take into account op's
letting him pay that reduced rent for all this time and that circumstances are
not what they originally agreed upon but
I'm sure Opie's had plenty of experience
dealing with their mom and some entitled Behavior so it might not just be a
surprise our next story is Indian fathers in the age-old question of why
they behave like Manchild Papa I'm sorry
you have Parkinsons but really I'm not 3 years ago when I said I'd be there for
you that does not mean you can continue to be nasty to me when the tables were
turned and I was sick as a child in surgery or on medication you were not
there but you made extra sure to remind me that you were paying for doctor's
visits antihistamines surgery Etc if what I'm saying is untrue you would know
how many surgeries I've been through what each one of them was for who the
doctor was what hospital Etc things parents should know at home you'd shout
at me for losing my asthma pump when I was 9 years old and choking for breath
mid attack as a parent I'm not sure why you didn't keep a spare on you when we
were on Australia you snatched away my antihistamines while I sneezed and
sneezed and suffered through a horrible road trip that you forced me on despite
my severe motion sickness sometimes you told me I needed to stop acting up and
other times I needed to be strong or I needed to get on with it it didn't end
there I've witnessed you explode with anger at the smallest thing it didn't
matter that it's normal for children to drop things spill food make mistakes in
their homework Etc you needed to take out your frustration on someone children
do not realize when an adult is mistreating them so it was very
convenient another thing you and Mom have in common when I went to Edinburgh
University and you bought a flat there you made sure to be extra nasty when you
visited me because I needed to be reminded I was ungrateful and all my
mistakes and Imperfections needed to be brought out into the open you wanted me
to sleep on the pullout bed in the guest room despite me living there alone you
wanted me to wash dishes in cold water and not turn on the boiler you dug
through all my things and let me know that you were angry no furious at the
multiple flavors of tea or soap that I had you left me in that freezing flat
angry that the electric bill was so high but didn't do anything to isolate the
apartment or change the heating to gas when you'd berated my intelligence
drowned my will to live and brought me to tears you felt you'd done your job as
a parent the sheer anxiety of having you visit made me move out always remember
that for all the crap you gave me I always got an equal amount or more from
your ex-wife who guilt tripped me into crash diets taking diabetes medication
and multiple types of nutritional supplements because of my weight problem
which in addition to compounding the anxiety gave me an irritable bowel I
deal with the effects of it to this day you've never had much hand in raising me
I was raised by Maids tutors and drivers
and by Mom they did the hard parts of it to add the final Final Touch you ruined
my PhD graduation a moment that will never come back all you could think of
was yourself couldn't survive without a maid for 10 days we hadn't seen each
other for the entire pandemic over 3 years you couldn't care less that I had
to pack up my entire apartment and moved
to a different country in the space of a week that I was exhausted from my exam
Etc you demanded that I serve you hourly bring you chai arrange your pillows and
other ridiculous requests because the Parkinson's you've had for 3 years
suddenly takes precedence over anything else going on in anyone's life despite
having compromised dexterity but near full Mobility did you ask your son to do
all these things he like you just sat around judging me did either of you even
just do the bare minimum of leaving me in peace to pack no both Manchild
decided to have a meltdown because I drew a line get your own tea water or
pillows I need to pack neither of you did a single thing that a half decent
father or a brother would do at a time like that when you saw the
disappointment on my face you shed some crocodile tears gave me a muttered sorry
and then promptly returned to your old ways the very next day I also noticed
you try to butt in to give a toast when my professors asked me to give one when
being awarded the degree that moment combined with the howl crying in front
of the entire department encapsulates your parenting in a nutshell oh always
there to take credit but never sincerely there to support your daughter in the
way she needs you're the reason I don't go anywhere near Indian men or their
families your biggest compliment to a woman is that she's traditional because
you think women exist to serve you I've done what I could to try and repair our
relationship this includes trying to explain to you how hurt your behavior
makes me feel promising to pay for a therapist offering to pay you back for
University even pretending things never happened trying to just let them go once
you met your your new wife and you showed what I thought was a Kinder side
only to realize it's just an act even getting a PhD isn't enough reason for
you to treat me with decency when I told you how your demanding behavior during
that time was hurting me you then proceeded to ignore any kind of
reconciliation I suggested replying with one sentence answers or the famed
parents and children are not equal all I've gotten for a lifetime of suffering
with you is one lousy text with excuses about how hard your marriage was you
decided to marry and have children with her you were not forced and a staunch
declaration that you have been a committed parent and that we didn't have
to agree on everything but when has any good thing you've given me I.E money
come without a complimentary can of worms paid for a lavish birthday party
for me and 100 people yes because you neglect me at home when I'm trying to
tell you I'm absolutely miserable in school and sick all the time paid for my
medical bill bills shouted me at home for anything and everything ignore me
when I'm sick and remind me every few weeks how ungrateful I am paid for
University get your money's worth by being extra nasty criticizing everything
I do in the flat and [ __ ] shaming me
for having a boyfriend something I noticed you did not do to my brother and
even if I worked hard got a PhD and a top-notch job you were there to support
in public but remind me of my play in private want to continue to live in the
delusion that you were a great parent fine then it should be acceptable for me
to treat you in your sick old age the same way you treated me as a sick child
when and if your money runs out I'll give you some money for a carer if
you're being mistreated in your nursing home you need to tough it out it's tough
love when you're choking or in pain or you crap yourself I'll tell you to just
get on with it I'll throw in a nice birthday party and whoosh I'm a a
committed daughter well this definitely sounded like something Opie very
desperately needed to get off their shoulders and out there honestly if op
even does what they promis to do at the end of their post here kudos to them
because I feel like most people after having experienced a lifetime of that
would cut them off and never look back our next story is I sometimes feel like
a failure as a daughter I 20-year-old female wish that we could start over but
I don't feel like it would do any good I just cannot be with her my mother
43-year-old female I don't want to I don't have a gripe with my mother but I
also don't want us to be so close in person because I know we will have a
yelling match about something Petty I want her and I to have a relationship
like she does with my brother I want her
to talk to me as gently as she does with my brother 14-year-old male I want to
feel like I have a safe space at home I don't even have a room there anymore she
got me off the lease when I was 17 or 18 every time we had have a small
disagreement it blows to a huge one sometimes I wonder if I remind her of my
dad maybe that's why she snaps so often at me or that she thinks our
relationship is a lost cause cuz every time I want to talk to her she doesn't
want to talk about our problems I try to have a sitdown conversation with her
about our problems but Mom just dismisses them and never wants to talk
about anything she just says I'm disrespectful and that I don't treat her
like a mom says I have no freaking self-respect for myself and I rather let
nword run me over over and be rude to her she says when you're not so
disrespectful maybe we can have a talk but I talk to her calmly I ask questions
on what I can do but she says just listen to what I say I'm the mom you're
the child but you don't get that I don't know what to do I should want to be
around her I should want to be home but I don't I get physically scared to go
there sometimes because I have a lot of bad memories there she takes me not
being there so personally but doesn't want to understand why I don't want to
be there but love her from afar she's done the same with my grandma for 10
years I feel like a freaking crap daughter I don't want it to get to me
but it does I should be rejoicing though she treats my younger brother so much
better talks to him gently understands him way more mom never went out of her
way to understand me if I cried about something small she'll tell me I'm an
emotional wreck who doesn't respect herself but my brother is just
introverted and very sensitive I'm disrespectful but my brother is dealing
with Growing Pains maybe I'm the problem maybe I'm not I don't know anymore I
just get so depressed thinking about it I just want us to have a one-on-one
moment but it will never happen this is so difficult to hear because with people
like op it sucks because at some point I feel like you just have to realize
there's no winning in this relationship there's almost never going to be a
moment where they give you that gold star thumbs up that you've been wanting
for a long time and especially if you've been seeking it and wanting it for so
long I guess it's hard probably to reframe your mind to not be reaching out
or longing for that approval I mean just turning things around and just focusing
on you and moving forward this next story is did anyone else's mother
constantly talk about how ugly everyone else is when you were a child I'm
wondering if this is what all families did or if my suspicion was correct and
this wasn't normal behavior growing up this is just one thing of many growing
up that I truly deemed not normal behavior here as young as I can remember
my mother always talked and made comments to me and my sister about how
ugly people are or their flaws she also constantly gassed herself up reminded us
how beautiful she was how she was close to if not the most beautiful girl in her
school and also told us how beautiful me and my sister are we weren't allowed to
go to public school but I can't say she homeschooled us either as she half but
taught us on and off till like second grade each then stopped the only social
interaction C we got was Sports the thing is me and my sister had Horrible
Very prominent flaws most kids or people do not have I spent a lot of time
dwelling believing we were cursed due to
my mother and what a horrible person she was inside as these flaws my mother did
not have my sister was also morbidly obese starting at 4: I was a twig after
I refused to keep supporting her 100% financially 2/3 pack of sigs alone a day
isn't cheap anymore as I'd have been since I was 15 27 now I was old enough
to surgically fix my flaws she was very upset and I received so much hate
because I didn't use my money I earned to buy her a trailer or camper to set
her up on my land as if that would have been enough unfortunately my sister at a
very young age adapted to my mother's horrible mentality which in return
landed her no friends and a rude awakening like my mom whenever she seen
people's flaws or what she deemed not not worthy unsa person she would step it
up a notch by laughing at them to their face and tell them what she deemed ugly
nobody liked my sister she also refused to believe she was obese as my mother
told her she wasn't my mother always told us how good of a mother she was and
how lucky we were to have her and how most mothers aren't good I always knew
deep down this Behavior wasn't right with how uncomfortable it made me feel
how bad it made me feel even as a little
girl to realize the stuff my mother said about other people and it made me feel
bad for the other people my mother would often call me a softy because I wasn't
mean to people of course now that I'm older she calls me a liar and says that
never happened it made me so uncomfortable hearing her talk so badly
about people all the time I truly don't believe there was one pretty person in
my mother's eyes except herself It generally was kids we took Sports with's
mothers she would tell me as young as five how ugly xom's nose was how weird
looking x-woman eyes are how ugly xom's hairstyle is ETC this was with almost
everyone we came into contact with she had something to say about and made sure
to tell us her opinion of this person she would raid women Express that's why
she's single make comments almost sounding jealous now that I'm older
about oh X is so desperate and is
probably a [ __ ] she's always flirting
with the soccer coach can't she tell he doesn't like her and how ugly she is but
yet then almost flirt herself with with him it's like it made her jealous this
random man who she of course deems so ugly was flirting or talking with this
other woman who she deemed so ugly I can still remember comments she made about
people to this day she would say that girl's chest don't count she's fat the
girl was 11 she would do that with women also she would make remarks how ugly
most of the kids are we did sports with how plain they were how similar they all
looked then tell me and my sister how unique we all look how beautiful we are
how nobody looks like us yet looking back at Old group photos from the sports
me and my sister were very ugly little kids one day we were getting ready to go
to a soccer game and I put on a tank top it was the $3 Walmart ones it was
two-ton pink with cute darker pink spots I was 13 it was
96° we were living in a safe house for as long as they would pay the bills
before kicking us out my father was a very very abusive bipolar drug addict
and she always let him have the home the
many times we'd leave laundry was backed up she got so mad I put a tank top on
and I guess accidentally let slip out anger is she jealous of me is that what
this is about implying that me a 13-year-old girl was jealous of this
grown woman that was my mother my mother always bragged about having 34 double d
boobs in a slim waist I remember thinking and feeling bad I thought it
but that her boobs were not perky they were hung like flat pancakes deflated
balloons no fat left whatsoever hung past your belly button without a bra and
I was left dumbfounded why I would be jealous of that when mine were not like
that at that age she would in front of my father talk about how ugly his mother
was how ugly his brother's kids were how ugly his sister was how ugly the entire
family was and he would just take it when we got older if she said anything
bad about our bodies she said we got it from his side of the family she had an
obset with my dad's brother's daughter who was 5 years older than me she always
said how ugly her nose Bridge was we have the same nose how she looked like
Frankenstein with her veins showing through her pale face mine show too
which my sister told me my mom was actually worried about me how short she
was oh she loved to comment on any and everyone's height how ugly her dyed
blonde hair was now she has her own kids and my mother talks just as much about
them and as she did her I got my first boyfriend at 15 we stayed together for 7
years two kids the amount of fear I had showing them him was Unreal but it was
way worse than I imagined my sister put him down more than my mom did he had
brown hair but my sister swore she seen a little Auburn she never stopped after
that reminding me how ugly and just the horrible comments funny enough she ended
up marrying a ginger and has two Ginger Kids I believe my mother is the reason
why my sister grew up thinking she was on a pedestal from everyone else which
in return turned her into the biggest bench you would ever meet the meanest
person you would ever know if you don't hear her the first time be ready for a
long rant filled with unnecessary comments telling you how stupid and dumb
you are thankfully since she met her husband I Can Tell She's been hiding
that side of her better I'm almost wondering if her husband is in a
situation where he's providing the money and the house and the living scenario
because I feel like people like that do not actually hold themselves accountable
unless they have something to lose like the man she's with must be a catch if
she's actually holding back needless to say I would never surround myself with
anybody that was acting like that I'm so
sorry for op having to grow up with that but with that being said that's all the
time we have for today now if you want to hear another absolutely crazy
entitled parent story check out that video on the left or if you missed my
latest video check out that video on the right that said I'll see you all next
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aita for refusing to apologize to my fiance for my reaction to being groped
for some reason I 40m get groped a lot and have done so a few times over the
years it's usually my RS and it's been done by strangers and people I know
alike contrary to popular belief us guys don't enjoy it and I always said after
the last time it happened for years ago I'd go mad if it ever happened again
yesterday we were shopping and I was minding my own business when this woman
grabbed by junk hard in fact so hard it hurt and she just did this
playful giggle as she did so and then walked off I went ballistic and followed
her shouting at her calling her every name under the sun slag rapist very
loudly she was all timid and scared looking and someone who works there
called security and he basically tried to get me to shut up calm down and
apologize I told him I'm not apologizing
she needs to she refused saying it was a
joke and I want something done I refused to shut up and he threw me out all this
time my fiance was in the toilet so she came out to me kicking off with the
woman/ security and then she was there as I was kicked out I was fuming and
ranting as we were going home basically saying the woman and the security guard
was a and I'm going to complain to their head office and probably will to
the police if the supermarket doesn't do anything she just listened on and was
nodding so I thought she agreed a couple of hours | give me a good story on AITAHForrefusingtoapologisetomyfianceformyreactiontobeinggropedorig |
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AIT for backing out on an agreement my husband and I made years ago regarding
potential kid names my husband 38m and I 37f have been married for 11 years and
have two daughters eight and four I am currently 12 weeks pregnant with our
third child I just had an ultrasound and we were able to determine the SX of the
baby a little boy we have found out the SX of all of our children this way my
husband is a third as in John Smith 3 before we got married and we're having
discussions about kids he did make it very clear that passing down his name
was very important to him if we had a son at the the time I thought it was
really cute and adorable how much pride he took in it since most guys don't
really care about that sort of sentimental stuff but as the years have
gone by I've definitely cooled on the idea quite a bit and I don't think I
want to have our son be named after my husband that way obviously with our
first two kids we didn't even have to think about it but when we were choosing
names for our daughters my husband was very much in the you can take the lead
on naming our daughter because I already have the name picked out if we have a
son camp it's not like he wasn't involved in naming our daughters but he
definitely deferred to my opinion so when we found out we were having a boy
my husband was very excited on the car ride home after the ultrasound it was
all he could talk about he was giddy like a teenager talking about how proud
he would be of sharing his name with his
son I don't know if it was the best time to bring this up but I kind of had one
of those yeah about that moment I told him how I know we had talked about this
many times before with our other kids and that I technically agreed to it
years ago but I don't think I want to name our son the same as my husband I
don't think I've ever seen anyone's mood change so quickly and visibly as my
husbands did in that moment it was like all the joy went out of his body all at
once I told him that I just don't want our son to be a fourth it seems tacky
and his weird weird aristocratic Vibes that just don't seem right to me I told
him that I am not totally against the idea but I don't want to just agree to
it right now because I want time to think about other names too he took that
as me basically saying that I'm going back on our yearslong agreement and that
there is no way we are naming our son after him he said this is pretty much me
telling him maybe when I really mean no this has taken all of his excitement
about the baby away he's been withdrawn and quiet with me ever since when I try
to talk to him about it he tells me he has nothing to say because he's been
very clear about where he stands on this and he feels betrayed by my change of
heart I asked him if he would want to think of some other name together and he
told me to give him a list and he'll look at it when he can I know I
technically agreed to this years ago but
it just doesn't feel right to me anymore | give me a good story on AITAForbackingoutonanagreementmyhusbandandImadeyearsagoregardingpotentialkidnames |
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:00.179 --> :05.259 About 10 years ago I worked for a local company
that sold power equipment. :05.259 --> :09.630
Most of our clients were landscapers and contractors
who either bought or had equipment repaired :09.630 --> :10.630
regularly. :10.630 --> :11.630 We knew all our regulars.
:11.630 --> :14.980 It was a great place to work, partly because
the owner and our manager has a zero tolerance :14.980 --> :18.230
policy for customers and clients who were sexist towards female employees.
:18.230 --> :22.790 They supported us, trained us well, and didn’t
gaslight us when we had to deal with jerks. :22.790 --> :25.410
For the most part our regulars were great,
but the weekend warrior, DIY guys were terrible. :25.410 --> :30.240
Most of them had more money than sense and
did not need anything we sold for their home :30.240 --> :31.240
projects. :31.240 --> :35.000
One summer we had hired a young woman to help on the sales floor on the weekend.
:35.000 --> :37.510 She was still in college and kind of lacked
confidence. :37.510 --> :40.470
She was great, she had an Ag background, she just didn’t know our products yet.
:40.470 --> :45.739 One Saturday morning she got stuck with a
weekend warrior who wanted to buy a mower. :45.739 --> :49.110
He was looking at something ridiculous; a
commercial grade, zero-turn, Hustler with :49.110 --> :50.110
a 54” deck. :50.110 --> :54.880
He was not mowing acreage, he did not have a farm, he lived in the suburbs.
:54.880 --> :01.500 She took him outside to look at some of the
mowers and before long we could hear him yelling. :01.500 --> :02.640
The manager hurried outside. :02.640 --> :07.710
I was working on a special order when she
came back into the store trying not to angry :07.710 --> :08.710 cry.
:08.710 --> :10.240 The owner told her to take a break.
:10.240 --> :15.050 The manager finished the sale and the man
then had to go somewhere else to buy a trailer :15.050 --> :18.720
to haul it home because he hadn’t planned for that part.
:18.720 --> :21.700 When the dust had settled I asked the manager
what happened. :21.700 --> :25.369
He said the man started yelling and calling
her a dumb b**** because she didn’t know :25.369 --> :33.299
how to turn on the mower and had offered to go get someone else.
:33.299 --> :38.900 The fact that he was asking the question indicated
he also did not know how to turn on the mower. :38.900 --> :42.700
I’m no longer shocked at the number of people
who will drop thousands of dollars on things :42.700 --> :44.310
they don’t know how to use. :44.310 --> :50.530
Later that day the owner came over to me,
sighed heavily, and told me the guy had called :50.530 --> :52.750
demanding we mail him a copy of the manual because he didn’t get one.
:52.750 --> :56.899 All of the manuals and links to repairs and
parts for all the products we sold were on :56.899 --> :57.899
our website. :57.899 --> :03.060
But no, he wanted hard copy because he had
already been insulted enough and shouldn’t :03.060 --> :04.630
have to find it himself. :04.630 --> :10.310
When I brought up the manual it was 90 pages
long, 45 pages in English, 45 pages in Spanish. :10.310 --> :14.370
I printed off the Spanish copy and left it for the mailman.
:14.370 --> :19.249 I told the owner what I did when I arrived
at work the next day. :19.249 --> :20.590 He just started laughing.
:20.590 --> :27.019 When they guy called to complain, the owner
apologized and told him a lot of our clients :27.019 --> :30.769
speak Spanish so we didn’t want to assume people only spoke English.
:30.769 --> :31.959 The guy returned the mower.
:31.959 --> :36.840 We’re pretty sure he couldn’t figure out
how to get it off the trailer. :36.840 --> :39.909
We sold it a week later to a landscaping company. :39.909 --> :41.439
(Repost because I cannot spell) :41.439 --> :46.049
I run a small-ish online education institution
and finally after 4 years got a magnificent :46.049 --> :50.930
team member to handle all the customer support and tech support questions.
:50.930 --> :53.310 He’s great at that, patient, kind, the full
package. :53.310 --> :58.430
And it took me a while but I finally learned
to set my boundaries and send people his way :58.430 --> :01.359
so I can focus my energy on other things I’m more useful at.
:01.359 --> :03.959 So this one student sends me a private email
about out upcoming program. :03.959 --> :08.449
I forward the message to my trusty colleague
and inform her that he will get to her, which :08.449 --> :09.449
he did. :09.449 --> :14.650
She replies to me - not him - saying his answer
was too wordy and she only has a simple question. :14.650 --> :15.650
Basically tl;dr. :15.650 --> :18.980
Well, I did answer her… in as many words
as him, including some direct quotes from :18.980 --> :19.980
his original message. :19.980 --> :23.129
I did not end with “should you feel like
your enquiry was not addressed to your satisfaction,
:23.129 --> :26.680 please do not hesitate to reach out to any
member of our team and we will address it :26.680 --> :27.719
with our utmost care”, as tempting as it was. :27.719 --> :28.719
I was just wordy enough. :28.719 --> :30.359
This happened at a restaurant a few years ago. :30.359 --> :33.629
We'll just call it "Bracker Carrel" or BC for short.
:33.629 --> :39.159 So on a busy Sunday afternoon the church crowd
was slowly winding down and we were nearing :39.159 --> :40.159
our dinner rush. :40.159 --> :42.809
This particular restaurant you can order breakfast all day.
:42.809 --> :47.359 At around 3pm, two ladies were seated in my
section and I greeted them promptly. :47.359 --> :50.659
Both ordered drinks their food as well at the same time.
:50.659 --> :54.559 Guest 1 (G1 for short) ordered Mama's Pancake
Breakfast with scrambled eggs and cheese with :54.559 --> :55.859
EXTRA EXTRA EXTRA crispy bacon. :55.859 --> :00.159
Guest 2 (G2 for short) ordered the Grandma's
Sampler with scrambled eggs and cheese with :00.159 --> :02.060
EXTRA EXTRA EXTRA crispy sausage, bacon and ham. :02.060 --> :07.260
I put their order in EXACTLY as they ordered
and told the cooks how they said they wanted :07.260 --> :08.879
to see NO PINK ANYWHERE. :08.879 --> :11.919
Cooks make the food, I expedite and bring out their meal.
:11.919 --> :14.790 Everything looks the way they ordered it,
charcoal bacon, sausage and ham. :14.790 --> :17.299
I set the food down and they immediately start running me.
:17.299 --> :22.320 Never once did they ask for everything at
the same time even AFTER I asked, "is there :22.320 --> :24.580
anything else I can get for you?" :24.580 --> :29.919
Every time I brought back something like hot
sauce, ketchup or napkins they always needed :29.919 --> :30.919
something else. :30.919 --> :35.830
After 5 minutes of back and forth they said
everything was fine and I went and did other :35.830 --> :36.830
duties. :36.830 --> :41.440 They hadn't touched their food until I had
EVERYTHING for them they had me run around :41.440 --> :42.440 for.
:42.440 --> :47.300 A few minutes later my manager on duty (MOD)
comes to me and asks me about table 231 (G1 :47.300 --> :48.300
& G2). :48.300 --> :51.340
He says they are complaining their eggs are cold and their food is burned.
:51.340 --> :55.460 I explained they said everything looked fine
and their eggs wouldn't have been cold if :55.460 --> :01.080
they had asked me for extra napkins, hot sauce,
ketchup and extra butter and jelly on one :01.080 --> :02.080
trip instead of 6. :02.080 --> :07.370
He goes back and forth with them and they
are adamant they are NOT paying for the eggs :07.370 --> :09.979
or bacon and are ONLY paying for the pancakes. :09.979 --> :10.979
Cue Malicious Compliance. :10.979 --> :14.969
The Grandma's Sampler comes with 2 pancakes
a sampler of meats, eggs and a side of your :14.969 --> :15.969
choice for $9.99. :15.969 --> :19.830
Two a la carte pancakes are $7.99 so $2 off
(for all of you math geniuses out there 😉) :19.830 --> :23.460
Momma's Pancake Breakfast comes with 3 pancakes,
eggs and your choice of meat for $7.99. :23.460 --> :27.520
Three a la carte pancakes are $9.99 which
is obviously $2 more than the breakfast. :27.520 --> :31.189
MOD hands the receipts to each lady and both stop him before he can walk away.
:31.189 --> :35.669 G2 is b****ing she is paying $2 less than
what her breakfast would have cost and she :35.669 --> :37.360
felt that wasn't a good enough discount. :37.360 --> :40.750
G1 is b****ing because her meal is now MORE than what it was before.
:40.750 --> :45.430 The only thing my boss kept saying to both
of them was, "you asked to only pay for the :45.430 --> :48.370
pancakes and that is what I charged you for," and then he walked away.
:48.370 --> :52.759 They paid up front b****ing the entire time
at the cash register making a scene. :52.759 --> :57.939
Threatened to call corporate and said they
will be returning to speak to someone higher :57.939 --> :58.939
than my MOD. :58.939 --> :00.650
MOD and I went into the back and kept laughing. :00.650 --> :06.252
You don't get many wins in the service industry
but this one will always be a memorable one. :06.252 --> :09.780
I was working at a gas station about 20 years ago. :09.780 --> :14.090
One evening this lady comes in, dumps like
five or six handfuls of pennies on the counter, :14.090 --> :15.090
and states her preferred brand. :15.090 --> :18.650
Ordinarily, our cashiers would just tell someone
to f*** off if they were trying this, but :18.650 --> :24.150
I was pretty chill at the time and I had nothing
to do but run the register and stuff my face :24.150 --> :26.710
with food from the deli case, so, cue malicious compliance.
:26.710 --> :30.090 I just said, "Ok, but I'll have to take other
customers, I'll count this between." :30.090 --> :32.189
She objects, "It's all there, I counted it already."
:32.189 --> :36.879 I reply, "If my drawer comes up wrong I'll
get in trouble, I have to count it, sorry." :36.879 --> :40.710
She starts stomping around the store all mad,
throwing her arms around etc (I would later :40.710 --> :44.930
come to recognize this as tweaker behavior),
and I start counting, meticulously setting :44.930 --> :50.380
the pennies aside in stacks of ten, and pausing
every time a customer comes in, all the while :50.380 --> :53.639
this lady is acting like she's been stabbed through the hand.
:53.639 --> :58.680 Maybe half a dozen customers and ten minutes
later, I'm nearing the end of the pile, she's :58.680 --> :04.439
still standing by the door getting more and
more impatient, b****ing at everyone who comes :04.439 --> :05.439
through. :05.439 --> :09.240
I was giving the other customers priority, so they didn't care, of course.
:09.240 --> :11.710 Anyway, I finish counting and she's short,
maybe 15 cents? :11.710 --> :12.710 Who could remember.
:12.710 --> :17.889 It was fairly common for people to raid the
penny dish to cover the cost of a pack of :17.889 --> :21.560
cigarettes they couldn't quite afford, and
this was generally allowed (small town, and :21.560 --> :23.219
after all, who even cares.) :23.219 --> :30.009
But she promised me it was all there, and
I got a bit of a bug up my a** about it, so :30.009 --> :33.949
I take the overflowing free penny dish and
move it behind the counter before calling :33.949 --> :34.949
her over. :34.949 --> :35.949 "You're X cents short."
:35.949 --> :39.009 "Can't I just cover it from the dish, where
is it?" :39.009 --> :40.009 "What dish?" :40.009 --> :41.009
"There's a dish! :41.009 --> :42.009 There's always a dish!
:42.009 --> :43.009 You took it away!" :43.009 --> :45.669
I give her a puzzled look, wave my hands over the counter.
:45.669 --> :48.350 "There's no dish, I don't know what you're
talking about." :48.350 --> :53.080
She is incensed and cusses me out for a while, I just shrugged it off.
:53.080 --> :55.021 She left without her cigarettes, of course.
:55.021 --> :00.590 My boss came over afterward and told me I
didn't have to count those or even take them. :00.590 --> :09.550
Dude did not get me at all, but I just played it straight and was like "oh, ok."
:09.550 --> :13.389 The guys at prorevenge argued that it better
belongs here, so here I am. :13.389 --> :17.490
My house is surrounded by two gardens, one
in the front, facing the street, and one in :17.490 --> :18.490
the back, bordering my neighbours' gardens. :18.490 --> :21.020
When my parents and grandparents moved into
our house 26 years ago, they planted a thick :21.020 --> :23.270
hedge around the entire property. :23.270 --> :28.590
They also installed a rose arch over the pathway
to our front door and my grandfather was always :28.590 --> :31.499
busy keeping up the garden, planting, weeding, keeping everything very tidy.
:31.499 --> :35.589 My grandfather died in 2002 and after that,
the garden was neglected for a few years as :35.589 --> :39.419
my parents were still working and my brother and I were in university/school.
:39.419 --> :40.419 But then, ca. :40.419 --> :44.760
2005, my mum read something that we should
plant stuff to help the bees and she took :44.760 --> :47.769
over the gardens, planting lilac, rhododendron, roses and various berries.
:47.769 --> :51.089 Later we decided to also install raised garden
beds with various kitchen herbs. :51.089 --> :56.970
My mum is now over 70 years old and has officially
given the house over to my brother and me, :56.970 --> :00.790
so that we won't be taxed on inheriting it when she dies.
:00.790 --> :04.100 Since then, I've been sporadically taking
care of the gardens. :04.100 --> :09.830
I like them in their wild shape with all the
birds, bees, bumblebees and butterflies flying :09.830 --> :15.130
around, in autumn we get hedgehogs and we've
been visited by a fox recently (which send :15.130 --> :16.779
my cats into a panic). :16.779 --> :21.750
Then, recently, we received a letter from
the city stating that our garden was interfering :21.750 --> :28.440
with the safety of the street, because the
hedge was overgrowing the pavement and contained :28.440 --> :30.930
poisonous berries which were a danger to children. :30.930 --> :36.190
Now, my brother trims the hedge every month
to make sure nothing is overgrowing the pavement :36.190 --> :41.420
in any way, and while the berries are poisonous,
to get to them you'd have to be quite resilient :41.420 --> :42.970
because they're surrounded by thorns. :42.970 --> :46.670
They are also know to be ideal food for some local birds.
:46.670 --> :52.680 So, I contacted our local nature conservation
association and asked if they would like to :52.680 --> :59.250
have a look at our gardens and maybe tell
us if we could improve anything to make them :59.250 --> :00.670
even more nature friendly. :00.670 --> :10.389
They came, looked around and then told us
they rarely see gardens so in touch with nature. :10.389 --> :20.620
They approved our gardens as "especially nature
friendly" and contacted the city to tell them :20.620 --> :28.620
that from their point of view, any changes
would be considered unfriendly to nature, :28.620 --> :32.800
and since our city prides itself with once
being one of the "green capitals" in our country, :32.800 --> :34.199
they had to budge. :34.199 --> :43.839 Don't mess with my gardens!
:43.839 --> :45.860 I was 19 when this happened.
:45.860 --> :50.899 Im a plus size girl who’s confident in my body.
:50.899 --> :57.440 I’ve been working at the same big chain
restaurant since I was 15 years old. :57.440 --> :58.440
It was my first job. :58.440 --> :02.100
(It’s what one would call higher end fast food) :02.100 --> :23.550
When I went to college I transferred stores
and began working at the same place in another :23.550 --> :24.570
city. :24.570 --> :36.100 Everything was going great for about a year
until we got a new boss. :36.100 --> :45.970
Immediately he singled me out and told me
I needed to stop dressing the way I do because :45.970 --> :53.920
it was going to “lead to men harassing me”
he would say this daily to me and also told :53.920 --> :59.399
me graphic stories of sexual assault he had
witnessed at our workplace because of leggings. :59.399 --> :09.550
One day I stood up to him and told him it’s
not appropriate that he says this stuff especially :09.550 --> :15.839
given all the people under the age of 18 we worked with.
:15.839 --> :23.360 Later into his first week he yelled at me
for something minor and told me I should just :23.360 --> :32.880
quit because he’s going to find a way to get rid for me.
:32.880 --> :34.209 So I did :34.209 --> :01.550
He was transferred to another store and I
came back under a new boss who was amazing :01.550 --> :04.089
and understood what the previous boss had done was wrong.
:04.089 --> :20.700 I worked without incident for a month and
then my original terrible boss came back. :20.700 --> :47.089
Again he singled me out and tried to make
me uncomfortable by telling me I was going :47.089 --> :49.550
to get harassed. :49.550 --> :53.540 This time I fought back.
:53.540 --> :24.529 I told him straight up if he continued I would
sue him :24.529 --> :34.779 and the company for doing nothing after I
reported it. :34.779 --> :10.220
He laughed at me and said go ahead and that
I would never get a dime from the company. :10.220 --> :33.279
Cue malicious compliance, I quit on the spot
that day and contacted a lawyer who advised :33.279 --> :03.149
me to file a complaint against the company
with the EEOC for sexual harassment and retaliation.
:03.149 --> :12.279 After a long year of waiting the company agreed
to a mediation by an outside neutral party. :12.279 --> :24.620
I negotiated and was awarded 15K in damages. :24.620 --> :35.120
I’m not sure what happened to him but the company must be P*****.
:35.120 --> :38.929 He messed with the wrong pre law student 🙄 | give me a good story on rMaliciousComplianceDONTFCKWITHMYGARDENRedditStories |
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students what's the most insane interaction you've witnessed between a
teacher and parent in my junior high school we had a Vietnam vet for a
science teacher named Mr V he was the kind of dude you just could sense at his
crap together in times of panic in the three years we were there I almost never
saw him do more than crack a calm smile then in eighth grade this girl Amy who
showed up late to our first period class every day and was kind of quiet didn't
show up at all for some reason instead of marking her absent he called the
office and had a very quiet conversation he looked visibly Disturbed and shaken
the next day the girl showed up to class
just a bit late but with a broken nose a black eye and her jaw wired shut even
though this was 25 or so years ago I can still see the look on Mr V's face when
he saw her it was pure murderous Fury he was lit on fire inside and even more
terrifying he pulled her into his office had a calm conversation with her and
sent her to the nurse he then told the rest of us that nobody was to say
anything to her about it as she had an accident and was embarrassed most people
didn't care quickly the rumor spread ridiculous things like did you see Amy
Jesus somebody kicked the crap out of her or I heard it was because she was
screwing Mr V and his wife found out so on and so on I happen to be passing the
office on my way home that night and I saw the principal two police officers Mr
V and Amy in there with the door shut she was crying one of the police
officers noticed me looking and pulled the blinds I normally walked home so I
waited I think school got out around 2 30 or so and I usually hung around with
some friends to listen to music or play basketball for 30 minutes or whatever
before I started walking I waited outside the front of the school until
almost 4 pm finally A car pulled up and this dude gets out looking freaking
pissed off he is swearing to himself and as I'm the only one out there he says
you where's the office I just pointed but he didn't make it to the door the
two cops came out quickly one in front and one behind the one who approached
the guy started telling him to calm down this angry dude just loses his crap and
starts screaming my damn daughter should have been home an hour ago and I had to
leave work because of you pieces of crap I'm gonna Sue and blah blah blah
basically just furious the cops are trying to calm him down then out of
nowhere Mr V comes out the side door of the office his face lit like the fires
of hell and he just straight up goes full horizontal four feet in the air and
body this guy in seconds he's on top of him and has probably hit the guy 10
times closed fists and all worse yet he's not saying anything he's not making
any noise just deep rhythmic breathing like you do when weightlifting short
breath in Long breath out the cops actually kind of take their time getting
him off the guy one casually handcuffs the guy the other handcuffs Mr V who is
standing untouched safe for some bloody knuckles and is just breathing steadily
face red from exertion Eyes Wide in anger and satisfaction he still hasn't
said a word nobody seems to notice me the principal then calls to me come in
here get inside or go home this isn't about you I decided to walk home as I'm
heading up the road and ambulance sirens
and all flies pass me towards the school the next day Mr V wasn't in school and
we had a substitute and of course I had told some of my friends what had
happened by the end of the day people were telling me the story and it was
completely wrong of course Mr V pulled out a gun and shot him in the gut and Mr
V stabbed him with that flip knife he has the next week without any
explanation at all Mr V was back first thing I noticed was written on the
chalkboard he had if you ask you go to detention his face made it clear he
wasn't to be tested and did not have a sense of humor about it nobody saw Amy
again after that I don't know what happened about five or six years ago I
was telling this to a friend and he said why don't you just look her up on
Facebook I felt stupid I hadn't thought of that I went to my Mom's broke out my
junior high yearbook and found her last name I'd forgotten it when I typed it
into Facebook I found a couple dozen options since her name is pretty common
eventually I found her on LinkedIn of all places she's a high school guidance
counselor and has been for almost 20 years now her photo looks happy she
ended up going to the University of Colorado Masters program I Googled her a
bit out of curiosity and found some articles she'd written for various
anti-bullying and abuse awareness and management things well written one of
them was told like a fictional story a girl came to school late every day
lacking in energy she had no personality of note and was quiet and meek she wore
loose fitting clothing she had few friends it was evident to me pretty
quickly she was talking about herself in the story she wrote the girl had been
sad and physically abused for years by her stepdad an abusive alcoholic and it
took a teacher with no training at all to determine what had happened and start
the chain of events that ended the abuse the point of the story was to teach
other teachers what signs to watch out for what personality traits to look for
I looked up Mr V as well to see how he was doing I worried he was dead after
all he was in his 50s or 60s back then I found a few articles about his baseball
coaching during high school and a note saying he'd retired in 2001. nothing
after that no obituary or anything I like to think he's probably just sitting
around watching reruns of some show he likes drinking a beer and playing with
his grandkids who are probably about the age Amy and I were at the time I don't
know if that's true but that's what I like to imagine | give me a good story on Studentswhatsthemostinsaneinteractionyouvewitnessedbetweenateacherandparent |
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hey everybody hope you're all doing well my name is steven
and this is the story time channel first things first i do a giveaway every
single week so if you're interested i'll tell you how to enter later on in the
video that said today we have some malicious
compliance stories and our first story of the day
is by ross and auntie's night go ahead and
shoot me so this happened years ago but all the paintball stories got me
thinking about this little bit of malicious compliance that
14 year old me pulled off so this was back around 2003
or 4. it was around christmas time and in my rather large family we all draw
names and then get that person a gift to the tune of 50
to 100 depending on the year this particular christmas
both of my parents had drawn the names of my cousins who were my age and very
close with me i happened to have drawn the third of
the three brothers so we had the whole set
and my parents decided i was the logical choice for just choosing gifts for all
of them which i was more than happy to do so off to walmart we went
now another thing you need to know we were a paintball
family and airsoft was pretty new on the scene back then
it was just coming into its own and was kind of the hot thing on the block so
when i found a cheap set of airsoft guns that fit within my price constraints
i thought they were the perfect gifts i stacked them into my cart and went and
found where my parents were waiting my dad looked them over and was not
impressed he declared them puny and said that they
didn't look like any fun at all but i stuck to my guns stating that it
was something that they would want and would be excited about he relented
and we started moving towards the cashier when this exchange took place
dad says those don't even look like they would hurt
so they don't have to hurt yeah but you would have to shoot someone from less
than five feet away to even fuel it so you want me to shoot you with one sure
we laughed checked out and hauled our stuff home three days later and i had
acquired a few extra bits and bobs to go with the guns
eye protection a couple extra clips and bbs
i was wrapping them up in my bedroom and
i decided it just made the most sense to include
all the little extra things in the already oversized box
so there i am with the box open on my bed and i hear my dad
in the middle of a phone call he is a doctor sitting at the family pc
remember having those which happened to be situated
right in front of the door to my bedroom recalling his words from the store
i popped the rifle out of its foam packaging stuck in a bb
cracked open my door and shot my dad in the lake from about three feet away
some additional context my father is not the kind of person you do this crap to
he has some anger issues at time and though he never hit us
kids can really get going breaking stuff and swearing
beat red face all that stuff so in the middle of this phone call with one of
his nurses he screams out at the top of his lungs
and comes up out of that office chair like he had been shot
he had been he turned and looked at me with his face as red as a tomato
cordless phone clutched in his fist and just said
what the freak through my crack door i replied back well you said i could
shoot you because it wouldn't hurt he deflated and with a sigh just said yeah
okay that hurt don't do that again sitting here recounting the story i
honestly can't believe that 14 year old me had the balls to go through with that
and that i suffered zero consequences for it
yeah i was reading this story and i knew
where it was going and i was thinking to myself
i would never do this to my own dad because he would
flare up but then op described that their father's like the same deal
and they still dared to do that i would never do that
what say you guys would you be able to get away with shooting your dad with an
airsoft gun let me know in the comments down below our next story is by hey j
burke throw away that coffee here in school we
really aren't technically allowed to bring drinks around unless it's water in
a clear bottle but most teachers don't really care
usually if i'm wanting to eat breakfast or have a coffee
i'll go to one of my teacher's classrooms before first period
he wasn't in there today so i didn't get a chance to drink very much of it
and honestly it wasn't that special just plain black coffee
so i didn't mind having to throw it away
i just don't want to throw a full cup of
liquid in a garbage bin where it'll make a mess
i'm walking down the hallway and the one teacher who gave a crap saw me with
it you can't have that you need to throw it away
very hostile for some reason i know i'm just looking for a place to
no you need to put it in a trash can no yes but can i stop arguing with me
if another word comes out of your mouth again i'm giving you an office referral
and a detention okay so i take the full cup of black iced coffee
and dropped it in the garbage can sitting in her classroom
it makes a giant mess and i walk away she's pissed and says the next time i
catch you with a drink you'll be placed in in-school suspension
okay so i go to the main administrator and ask him about this
he tells me you can have drinks just as long as they're gone before first period
i bring another iced black coffee the next day sit in my usual teacher's
classroom and when she walked in and started griping at me again
i drank the whole dang thing in front of her
needless to say i have the poops but freak that witch sometimes the
consequence of having to use the bathroom
very often and or very badly is worth it to get a little bit of payback
this next story is by keep on going one want me to take two weeks off
sure i worked for a big tech company starts with
l and ends with g they sell a lot of refrigerators
in the company there's a division or sub-branch for importing services
we used to only do imports for ourselves but our branch was moving towards new
customers and other unrelated companies op
i had just barely been working there for three months or so
and i was getting piled with about 15 to 20 accounts with five shipments a week
or so as you can imagine i'm just a newbie and
i'm trying to keep up with everything side note the next newest person had
been there six months and didn't even have 10 accounts yet
i was a hard worker and i tried to learn
quickly including working on weekends to take calls from customers who haven't
received a container or with truckers to pick up the
containers and schedule deliveries karen hr personnel truly a karen
boss man my direct supervisor his role is just about the same as mine but he's
a veteran i work side by side with boss man
because i'm new on board and i'm taking over some of his accounts to manage
he's been laying accounts onto me because our company
is taking new customers constantly but we just don't exactly have enough
manpower for it so whoever is capable of it is now working double time
the thing with accounts is that each account is best known by the person
assigned the account the sender receiving customer
and truckers as well as the steamship line will generally
talk to you and you keep pace notes so you keep an excel sheet highlighting
what needs to be done and what stage your containers are in
however the tricky thing is reading each different person's excel sheet and
trying to understand what parts have been done most of the
time this is streamlined by seeing the emails in your account
and seeing what's there to do next three months in
i get sick really darn sick like i can't get up without feeling dizzy
diarrhea and i get shortness of breath as i try to lie in bed
maybe it was just anxiety by monday i feel just fine since i've been popping
tylenols like candies i can work now maybe it was just a bad cold
time to catch up on emails over the weekend and do what's needed to be done
but karen calls me cuts off my emails meaning i won't receive any emails from
that point on not that i understand why she screwed up
big time by cutting my emails i'll explain later and tells me to come
into the office and hand in my company laptop for the next two weeks
even when everyone is working from home i'm not sure i understand the logic
behind that but okay here's the malicious compliance
i know that on my hand is about 10 to 15 accounts with plenty of processes
that need to be done this is an 8 hour task
minimum each day each person also has a chart of what needs to be done for each
account and whatnot but the only copy is on the laptop for security reasons
with only one laptop only one person could work at one time
even if you shared it within the company and delegated a workout
there was still quite a lot of work to get through i tell her that there's no
way that my co-workers and boss man can handle all of that
even if you delegated it and that i probably needed to handle the accounts
since i'm feeling better keep in mind that everyone is working from home
anyways so there was no need for me to hand in my laptop and stop
working karen says that boss man can handle it and not to worry
i comply turns out after a nice two weeks off
the company is in shambles containers were sitting in demerge and storage
costing the companies lots of money it was enough to make the company bleed
i tried to handle what was left of my accounts and the new shipments but we were
bleeding money anyways because too many things were going wrong all at once
when she cut off my emails a lot of the emails that were sent to me from
customers didn't show up or get through meaning
there was a heck of a lot of angry customers and a lot of containers
hanging in freefall while bossman tried to remedy things when i was away
many things were left undone because there was just too much to do
and by cutting off my emails from my laptop many things didn't show up
either a month or so later on a friday i get an
email from karen saying to come in for a performance review
here's why i call her a karen i go to the performance review generally in a
performance review you wouldn't need your company laptop as you're not working
you're there for a review so i show up without my laptop
expecting to actually attend a performance review
i'm told i need my laptop for a performance review
so i go home and get it i return and i am told that due to the company in
shambles and a certain virus they are letting me go
i was rather annoyed she made it so i had to get up on a saturday morning at
10 a.m to go to the office go home to grab my laptop return
then tell me i'm laid off when everything could have just been done on
a friday after the work day ended aftermath couple days and even weeks later
customers call me and asks where their containers are i let them know
i don't even work there anymore the company didn't even tell the customers
that i didn't work there anymore and if i had to guess they were still
bombarding my email with where is my container the last time i
heard about the company was from one of my co-workers
apparently the company laid her off too and a bunch of other employees to hire
temp workers as the company was going broke
shortly after i checked indeed and saw that a new spot for hr
was open as well i honestly chuckled quite a bit when i saw that
thinking to myself that all of this could have been avoided if only
karen had just listened to me it's not even if karen didn't listen to you it's
just if karen used common sense karen practically sabotaged the entire
company and then lost her own job good going
this next story is by ryan ongs don't pick up the phone
i work at a bank my boss the branch manager
one day we were pretty slow easy going day i had a customer call in to ask for
balances and i noticed they didn't have an email in the system
so i kindly asked them if they wanted to provide an email for us
they said yes and i went forward and started the procedure to update their email
then about five people walk in at once and i put up my window
closed sign to continue to help the person on the phone
my manager then shoots me a passive-aggressive message with
something along the lines of why are you on the phone you're the only
teller on the line right now don't you know better thanks malicious compliance
so as veterans day and thanksgiving is coming up lots of workers take vacation
time and we only had two tellers myself and another
my co-worker went on lunch and the phone starts to ring
of course i ignore it as he wanted me to my branch manager is in a zoom meeting
so he can't pick up the call either the caller calls about three
times before my manager shoots me a message
why are you just letting the phone ring do your job
i replied i am and took three minutes to scroll all the way up in our convo
and copied and pasted what he said to me about picking up the phones
he gave no reply to the message but after his meeting
i could see his frustration when he came to me and told me
pick up the phone and take a message when you're the only one
on the line it isn't much but i've been wanting to maliciously comply to
something ever since i found this sub make up your mind you know
prioritize the customers in person prioritize the calls
you can't tell them to not do one or the other you can tell them to do some kind
of slide multitasking type thing but don't tell them
why are you on the phone you're the only teller because if they comply
then they'll just completely ignore the phone this next story is by justcot17
not allowed to take off safety glasses to the fog okay
so this happened yesterday i work at a company that has
really strict safety rules that state no removal of safety glasses while on the
clock they also of course implemented a mask mandate due to c19
which they are strict about as well i can't blame them as there are thousands
of employees here well yesterday we were told that we
cannot remove our safety glasses to defog them from the condensation from
the mask and the mask must stay over the nose
i'll get back to that in a minute our company is also pretty strict on
production they don't really want us taking a lot
of breaks so if they see us standing around doing nothing
there is a potential to get written up for that as you know
it's very difficult to keep glasses from fogging up
i've tried numerous different things to help but it only lasts a couple of
minutes so once the boss told us about the new rule we went to work
a few minutes later almost all of us had to stop working and had to sit there
with foggy glasses because we weren't allowed to remove the mask
or defog our glasses we sat there for a good 10 minutes and our boss
conveniently came up to our job and was questioning us
asking why we were just sitting there and we got to tell them that our glasses
were too foggy to work our boss changed the rule that same day
stating that we can remove our glasses to defog them
as somebody that commonly wears glasses it would drive me
crazy not being able to defog them i would have been right with her with the
rest of them so quickly now i just want to explain how to enter the giveaway
the way it works is i take every video that was uploaded in a given week
find one random comment that was relevant to the stories in that video
and i give them an amazon gift card it's that simple so all you want to do to
have the best chances to win is to leave a comment relevant to the
video in some form on every video this week that's all you have to do
and best of luck and also if you could like the videos too that would help more
than you could possibly imagine and our final story of the day is by pokemark111
can't give store credit enjoy paying double shipping
short and petty last year on black friday i excitedly ordered some clothes at a
great price as fate would have it when i received my package the following week
the same company was having a cyber week sale which added a 25
discount to their black friday prices i knew that the company offered free
return shipping so i could easily return my items get
the refund and repurchase them at a lower price
however doing that seemed unnecessary since the items were fine
not to mention the marginal environmental impacts from the extra shipping
so i called the company and tried to convince them for
way too long that they should just give me store credit because it was a win-win
i keep my clothes and get some store credit they avoid paying return
and new shipping while also keeping me on the hook for future purchases
unfortunately nobody i talked to was willing or able to budge
so i returned and reordered my items adding a pretty penny to my bank account
while the company sponsored two unnecessary shipments definitely in this
day and age of majority orders being online
sales happen very frequently and if you order something
and a couple days later it goes on a 25 off sale
you want to be able to get that money saved i feel like a price guarantee or a
price match thing should be a pretty normalized system so that in situations
like this the company doesn't have to deal with extra unnecessary costs and
well the value of the items are instantly down because
they're already used clothing right it just makes the most sense for both
parties i think but with that being said that's all the time we have for today
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my boyfriend told me that he prefers pink cat but I'm black this is so
embarrassing so I made this throw away my boyfriend and I have been together
for a year now and everything is moving forward smoothly we have great chemistry
and the sex was mind-blowing until about 2 weeks ago when we were having pillow
talk after a great sex session then he opened up and mentioned that he loved
pink Pussycats and that it made him go crazy that he preferred it I told him
that well that means the majority of Pop Girls Aren't preferable to him he
Shrugged and said that this was what everyone actually preferred but it
doesn't take from the girl I told him that I disagreed with everybody because
not everyone subscribed to the white ideal he Shrugged again honestly I
didn't care much about it at the time personal preference I thought but now I
have been avoiding him like the plague the thought of him gives me shutters he
has been texting me every day and trying to call but I am not ready to talk to
him yet I think I am ending things with him but I don't think it is polite to do
it via text when we have been together for a year and I am simply not ready to
see him yet so I've been avoiding him my
friends call me the [ __ ] but for
different reasons the majority because I am insecure and feel inferior dumped a
man because of his preference when everything else is great and he loves me
he made it very clear that this preference doesn't have anything to do
with what he wants from a partner I honestly don't think this is the issue
here but I feel insecure others because I didn't react strongly enough but then
again I didn't really think that I had any right to scold someone over their
preferences there's no right or wrong have I messed up update so I did it and
I sent him the text suggested by one of your beautiful Reddit users he texted me
that he wanted to see me and and at least he wanted to know what's wrong and
if he did anything to make me mad so I texted I think we should see other
people he answered about an hour later saying he wanted to come over to talk so
I guess we are having the talk later this evening wish me luck update too so
he was here and we talked I let him do almost all the talking and he started
saying that he missed me and that he loved me I told him that I felt like
something switched off and I got the ick
I don't think it is fixable he got angry and called me insecure saying that he
didn't mean it that way these things aren't important in the scheme of things
and I am the best he's been with not only sexually I disagree that I am
insecure because I don't recognize myself as one I am just turned off and I
thought we should call it quits before we waste more of each other's time we
had a conversation and this is how it went it is not like I am the only one
who thinks that everyone does think what you know ask anyone and those who say
otherwise are lying like ask who like my
friends they all like white girls okay I
see you are being insecure again I don't care because I love you it doesn't
matter no it doesn't matter at all but at the same time I am not really
attracted to you anymore we can't control these things he got upset and
said see we want to give you plural a chance but you are always so dramatic
and you wonder why we prefer white women just relax be fun you just said you
didn't care silent then he said look I didn't mean it that way but you really
need to relax I love you you are the best sex I've had then it just got
awkward and quiet afterwards so he said he was leaving leing and asked to just
not jump into things he texted later that things didn't go as he hoped and
that he was sorry and didn't mean what he said then at least think before
giving him an answer I answered that I was very sure that this was over and
that I didn't need to think things through he called me easily offended
then the texting bubble was there for almost a minute so I texted before you
write something stupid In the Heat of the Moment don't it wasn't worth us
sinking this low I prefer ending things on good terms the bubble disappeared and
he just wrote I just can't believe I'm losing you over this then I love you
this is it I didn't and won't answer him
BS everything is paraphrased besides the text the conversation was longer but
went in this direction this is my update now good night final update today I had
a talk with my ex-boyfriend's best friend's wife her husband told her
everything and as many here suspected it wasn't just an innocent comment or a
preference it was negligible my ex-boyfriend meant to say it to me to
make me feel insecure and even grateful that he sticks around like oh he must
love me if he doesn't mind how I look basically he thinks I am too awesome to
be with someone like him so he's been terrified that I would leave him well it
backfired because I kind of get turned off by someone making me insecure I am
even the opposite I am very needy of feeling praised and appreciated to feel
attracted to someone he must be dumb as hell not to know this about me after a
year of dating the more I appreciate it the more affection and compliments I get
from him he thought comparing a brown girl to a white girl was a good idea
because apparently we are all too insecure when it comes to white girls my
question now is to you does putting your
girlfriend down really ever work to keep her is this really a thing it must be
because so many have suggested it and it
turned out to be the case here do people really stay with someone who puts them
down it hit me now that the relationship has ended and I feel terrible sadness
about it what a silly thing to pull off on your girlfriend and blow a perfectly
happy relationship what a waste of good love he was story two my friend 36f
manipulated me 28f into believing my boyfriend 27m was having an affair this
is a complicated story so I'll use fake names for everyone boyfriend Tom my
friend Jess boyfriend's friend Kim my techsavvy friend Rich Tom and I have
been together for 3 years and he's been a very affectionate and loving boyfriend
during that time I would have said yes if he had proposed to me Kim is a friend
that he knows from work I've always been a little uncomfortable with their
relationship but I never had a reason to believe that Tom and Kim were doing
anything behind my back until Jess told me that she saw them at dinner together
on a Friday night where Tom told me he was working late obviously I was devast
ated Tom is the most standup and honest man I know so I never expected in a
million years that he would even lie to me let alone have an affair I didn't
believe Jess at first but then she showed me a blurry picture of the two
together I couldn't see either of their faces but I saw body figures that
greatly resembled both of them I also saw the man wearing a watch Tom always
wears a watch and Tom's favorite Vineyard Vines tie thrown over his
shoulder I was convinced Jess told me that if I could get my boyfriend's phone
she'd be able to bypass the password and get all the messages that were on it
even the deleted ones she gave me a stack of papers that she claimed were
correspondents between Tom and Kim which clearly indicated an affair between the
two again I was devastated the papers show that he called her the same
nickname he called me that cut really deep I tried to approach Tom with this
information in mind casually do you have anything to tell me I tried to be extra
affectionate and loving with him throughout this and he always
reciprocated the love which disgusted me but gave me hope that he'd end his
alleged affair with Kim every time I jumped through Jess's Hoops to check
Jess would tell me that the affair was still ongoing after 2 weeks yesterday I
confronted Tom with everything and unsurprisingly he denied it I told him
that I was willing to fight for our relationship if he was willing to meet
me halfway Tom continued to deny everything and he told me that if I
didn't believe him then we had no relationship I didn't believe him he
slept on the couch and promised me he'd be out of the house by the end of the
week I was so upset last night that I could not sleep I cried for a really
long time and Tom heard me crying he even tried to come in and comfort me but
I cussed him out and told him to leave this morning Jess was busy with work so
went to a text Savvy friend Rich for help with what Jess had done
traditionally I gave Rich the phone and he told me that my demands were
impossible he said you cannot bypass the password on my boyfriend's phone it's a
work phone without deleting the text messages I teased him about not being as
familiar with this stuff as he thought but he adamantly stuck with his claim
when I showed him the papers that Jess gave me he told me they were fake and he
proved to me they were fake by making
his own [ __ ] my life I have absolutely
no idea what to do and no one to talk to about this Rich told me he's looking
into everything but I don't know if he'll come up with much when I came home
Tom was already gone with his stuff and I have no way of reaching him directly
because I'm the one with his phone I don't know what to do I don't even know
what's really going on in my life anymore edit there are lots of questions
about this so I'll try to clarify I took my boyfriend's phone when he went out
for his run since he doesn't listen to music when he's jogging the Run sort of
contributed to my suspicion but he's been doing this since I've met him when
I confronted my boyfriend I didn't show him the proof but I told him I had
conclusive evidence and he said that that was impossible at the time I
thought he was lying Jess has not replied to any of my voicemails or
messages update one I returned tomk phone to him and we talked about the
situation I tried to explain everything but he told me that trust in our
relationship was irreparable and that I needed to learn how to effectively
communicate my concerns he's a firm believer that without trust there is no
relationship so we've officially split up he initiated NC and I have not spoken
with him since I finally got a hold of Jess through the phone and she admitted
she lied but she won't tell me why I'm sure she has not slept with Tom but I
can't be sure she isn't trying I'm unbelievably mad right now mostly at
myself story two my fiance had a sexual relationship with an older man who works
for her father and I don't want him at my wedding prior to getting together
with my fiance she had a long-term relationship with an older man he's 52
now but he was 46 when they started up she was 19 at the time this relationship
has never been exclusive her father is a contractor and this man has worked with
him for many years my fiance initiated to the relationship and it has been a
secret between the two of them my fiance told me that when we became exclusive
there would be no secrets but their physical relationship went right up
until she started dating me the problem now is that she sees him often due to
his relationship with her father and he's invited to the wedding their
relationship has been exclusively sexual and it angers me when I see them around
each other to the point that I'm using sex to cope the last time I saw them
together was at her father's 61st birthday party and I got so angry that I
took my fiance upstairs and we had sex in her childhood bedroom while the party
was still going on to my fiance's credit she lets me cope this way but it isn't
healthy I don't want him at the wedding but if I say anything I will need to
provide a reason her father would beat the bag out of him if he knew about it
in addition to firing him so my fiance doesn't want to say anything since she
says he really didn't do anything wrong she was an adult before anything
happened and he hasn't tried anything since we've been together but this guy
knew her as a kid and the whole thing is
creepy what should I do am I out of line here this is a throwaway account since
the parties involved know my Reddit account edit thanks for all the comments at
least I know that I am not being unreasonable my fiance also understands
how I feel and doesn't want him at her wedding either and the wedding isn't the
only issue it's his continued presence in our lives which she doesn't want as
much as I do but the situation is combustible she feels responsible for
initiating their relationship in the first place and is embarrassed she
thought at the time that hooking up with this older guy made her a badass she
certainly doesn't think that we anymore and doesn't want her whole family to
know what she did and believe me I get that whatever ever I ask her to do to
make me feel comfortable she will do but
I love her and I don't want to embarrass her in front of her family or make her
feel guilty for Wrecking this guy's life perhaps I just need to be stronger
update I believe my problem has been resolved and by some miracle has worked
out for both myself and my fianceé we started talking this weekend and I told
her that I could get through the wedding if the old guy was there but I would
always feel uncomfortable around him but I had also decided that I would feel
worse if I forced her to reveal the relationship to her family so I said I
could be strong and get over it she she started to cry a little and said she
didn't want me to have to be strong she legitimately doesn't understand why I
feel threatened by this particular guy she said he's an overweight 52-year-old
who didn't finish high school he's no threat to you she had turned him down
multiple times before we even met she got out her old phone which had the text
to prove it but the sexual nature of those texts on his part made me feel
worse than when we started the conversation my fiance could tell and
she even looked offended when reading them again I could see her getting
pissed the longer she looked at them so right there she just dialed his number
and put it on speaker she told him that she'd been reading some old texts and
she's thinking that she doesn't want to see his face again but wanted to give
him a heads up before she told her father he begs and apologizes he thought
she liked it this went on for a while and my fiance can run a bit hot so some
things were said that even I thought were a bit harsh if anyone wants to hear
them ask I'll reply in the comments anyway she hangs up and gets a text from
him this morning that he is moving to Florida he's got a cousin down there he
can work with so the problem solved on my end if he stays true to his word and
stays away my fiance won't have to tell her father so it went all around thanks
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Story one my husband 44m told me he wished I 37 slf was Dad instead of his
first wife I'm David tated original post SE 21 2016 my husband Nick was married
to his first wife Vanessa for 5 years and they had two amazing kids Luke 15
slm and Lila 13 slf sadly Vanessa DD in an exent 11 years ago when the kids were
very young I started dating Nick 8 years ago and we started off very slowly for
obvious reason Nick has always been a little more distant than anyone I'd ever
been with but he and the kids lost Vanessa so young that I understood it
after 3 years of dating Nick asked me to
marry him and I moved in I've always had a really great relationship with Luke
and Lyla and they were happy for me to marry their dad I had wanted an actual
wedding nothing big but Nick really didn't want one so we got married at the
courthouse with just Luke and Lyla present we had a really fast engagement
but it worked for all of us I have loved being Luke and lyla's stepmom and
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I found videos of my fiance cheating during her bachelorette party my fiance
and I had recently gotten engaged after being together for four years last
weekend was her bachelorette party I didn't have a problem with it especially
after she told me what her plans were she told me she was going to rent an
Airbnb with a few friends it was a big place with four bedrooms and they were
just going to drink and party the day of
the party she was at my place making all the necessary arrangements before going
to meet up with her friends we texted a little but as the party started to warm
up we stopped and I figured she had gotten busy having fun after midnight I
started getting ready for bed and noticed that the computer in my office
wasn't turned off rather the black screen was just stuck on my screen saver
it turns out my fiance forgot to log and her messenger was still open on the
computer there was a group chat where her and the girls had been planning
everything and that's when I saw just how many videos were uploaded to the
chat I got a little curious and I started watching some of the videos most
of them were pretty innocent just a group of 15 girls getting intoxicated
and dancing things started to take a turn when I stumbled on a video of a
woman walking up to the front door and I
watched as around 10 guys began to enter the apartment I didn't know who they
were and I couldn't recognize anyone there were a couple videos of the guys
and girls dancing and drinking until I got to the worst part of it all as I
continued scrolling through these videos I got to one where my fiance was making
out with a random guy on the sofa she stopped rolled over and started making
out with a second guy when I clicked on the next video she was walking up to her
bedroom with the two guys following behind her there was also a video of
them coming out together according to the time stamp it was sent five minutes
after the one before it where they had walked in butt that doesn't mean
anything for all I know the videos were an hour apart and they were all just
uploaded to the chat around the same time I walked to the bathroom because I
felt like I was going to be sick I paced back and forth around my apartment for
about 30 minutes trying to process everything I'd just seen I saved the
videos and then made one of my own it was a short little selfie video of me
saying hi this is your ex-fiancee I just wanted to say I saw the videos from the
party and the wedding is off I hope it was worth it I'm glad I saved the videos
because in less than 10 minutes they were all deleted and my phone started
ringing non-stop but I didn't answer any calls or texts at first it was just my
girlfriend texting saying she could explain everything and that nothing I
saw was what I thought it looked like a little later her friends joined in
trying to convince me that I was taking things out of context but I ignored
everyone I got a request for a video chat and when I answered I saw that it
was my fiance she was sitting in front of the camera and looked like she had
been crying with a few of her friends surrounding her she started apologizing
and kept telling me it wasn't what it looked like that it was just a party and
the guys coming over weren't part of her original plan she told me that while it
might have looked bad nothing actually happened I chose to stay silent and she
just kept going repeating the same thing over and over again with her friends
backing her up the longer I stayed silent the more hysterical she got
eventually she admitted to kissing the two guys but put the blame on her
friends who were all quick to take responsibility which surprised me she
told me that the kisses didn't mean anything and that's all that happened
she seemed to remember the video of her going into the bedroom and she started
screaming that it was just a joke and nothing happened all the other women
confirmed it was just a joke and that my fiance had walked into the room for the
sake of the video turned around and walked out again they all kept repeating
themselves until everyone eventually got
quiet and the first thing I asked was if they had anything else to add she
replied that there was nothing else so I ended the video call I went to social
media and changed my relationship status
to single I made a post stating that the
wedding was off and if anyone had bought
a present they could feel free to return it my fiance saw the post and started
freaking out even more she kept insisting that all she did was kiss them
but I was so exhausted at this point that I sent her a text telling her that
if I suspected her or any of her friends were lying to me about what actually
happened or tried to paint me out to be the bad guy in the situation then I
would post all of the videos online as of right now no one else knows what's
happening between us this went down a couple days ago and everything regarding
the wedding has been canceled my fiancee
keeps pursuing me and trying to convince me to forgive her and I don't know what
to do update I found videos of my fiance cheating during her bachelorette party
everything has been called off and canceled the wedding is officially not
happening I got the ring back and all of her stuff was moved out as soon as she
got back from the bachelorette party she's currently staying with her parents
for now we talked a bit before I made any rash decisions but it was mostly
full of her begging for me to hear her out apologizing for what she'd done and
crying she keeps insisting that all she did was kiss the guys and that it never
went any further than that she explained that she had never done anything like
this before and she promised it would never happen again part of me really
wanted to believe her but the problem was that this incident had put our
entire relationship at stake I've completely lost all trust I used to have
for her and our relationship is going to revolve around nothing but doubt on my
end I think she may be telling the truth
but again the point is there's no way to know because I wasn't there even if it
is true that her friends pressured her to do it then how could I believe it's
never happened before the two of us kept going around in circles because
ultimately there's no way I can be sure and there's no way I could believe a
word she says after what I saw she told me she would do anything in order to
gain back my trust including cutting off her friends and only ever drinking
around me she blasted her friends online saying if the party had stuck to the
original plan then she would still be getting married so maybe she's already
cut them off what's crazy is that a couple of her friends are still texting
me stating that they just want to talk about what happened and clear up any
misunderstandings or doubts I may have but I haven't responded yet because it's
hard to trust them as well all I can say
at the moment is that I'm single and I'm just going to live my life the best I
can after this I'm probably going to be taking some time for myself after
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welcome friends to another r slash malicious compliance video today we've
got some awesome compliance stories and our first story of the days from village
idiot 1984 poorly drafted exit docs equals free pension this happened to a
family member and it's my favorite legal freak up story my family member was a
partner in a law firm the way a lot of law firms work is partners who retire
get a pension it's based on their last few years average salary or something
similar this only applies if you truly retire and not go work somewhere else
and my family member was not near retiring the two other partners who were
in his area of practice at this firm decided to push him out instead of
trying to come to an agreement for him to leave they ambushed him in a meeting
where they'd already drafted exit documents for him to sign they included
some token severance but basically said pack your crap or we're going to make
this a huge hostile thing and drag your name through the mud etc there's a
non-compete clause and a lot of partnership agreements so you can't
leave and take clients and go work somewhere else right away if you're a
partner in their haste to prepare these documents they negated a bunch of these
clauses so he would be able to work at another firm without awaiting the
non-compete period but they missed that some of those clauses were also what
govern the part of the pension clause that doesn't let you get the pension if
you work for another firm after you leave basically they wrote docs that
gave him a pension way early and for the rest of his life and based on some
really good years he'd had for the firm he noticed this when he'd read them
because he's a good lawyer and knew they screwed up and also knew he would be
able to get a job pretty easily so instead of negotiating or fighting it he
just signed them as is and left they were very surprised expecting a huge
fight or a long negotiation he ended up getting another job pretty quickly at a
different law firm he waited a couple of months and then called one of the other
partners and said something like so when are you going to start making the
payments at his age when this happened they would have had to have paid him a
large amount of money every year for maybe 40 to 50 years they basically
pooped their pants once they went back through and realized what they forced
him to sign they started making offers to buy him out of his pension he
eventually settled for a multi-million dollar payout all because he signed the
documents they put in front of him this goes to show why it's important to read
your documents and to lawyer up whenever
possible if you were in a situation like this and you got like one really nice
payout per year and that nice payout would happen every year over the next 40
to 50 years would you continue to do that or would you take the multi-million
dollar payout right now let me know which option you would want to take in
the comments down below our next story is from forge night this job is only for
employees that are happy to see customers okay guess it's not the job
for me this happened a couple of years ago and i started back in 2016. back
then i was in early 20s something looking to start my career i was getting
started in freelance work and not making enough to make ends meet i started
looking for part-time jobs and actually found a full-time job that was perfect
for me to give us some background this was a low-paying job ten dollars an hour
in a big city but what made it great is that it was a desk job at a university
this meant that i sat at a front desk of a dorm and essentially just helped
students who needed to submit maintenance requests
and give them temporary keys if they were locked out so more than 90 of the
time i was just sitting there and i was able to do my freelance work it was a
great job for me at the time and at that stage in my career all was good for two
years but then a new director took over this director decided that us desk
people were front-facing customer service employees weren't all of our
customers college students living in the building but i digress the great genius
director told us that we're no longer allowed to do anything not directly
related to our jobs he told us that if we're not helping a customer or
responding to communications we had to just sit there smiling at people walking
through the building to make matters even worse he said that he and his
lackeys would drop in to check on us from time to time and tried to scare us
by hinting to us that he'd use the surveillance cameras to monitor us none
of us appreciated being treated like this and this was way too much to ask
for from people making ten dollars an hour in 2018 at this point i was already
on the fence about the whole thing but i decided to try and talk to him i
explained that the lobby was empty most of the time during the day and that i
was always ready to greet people or help students out he said it doesn't matter
this is a job for people who are good at
customer service and you are expected to be available the entire time you're on
the clock this is where the malicious compliance
comes in i told them i wasn't cut out for this work and i'm sure is heck not
good at customer service if it requires me staring into the void for six hours a
day i quit the job on the spot by this point i was starting to make real money
with my freelance work and didn't need the job anymore from what i heard three
more of the five total desk people quit shortly after the one remaining was a
kind older woman elise who i'm pretty sure was just doing the job for fun
director and co were unable to fully staff the desks anymore elise went back
to reading her novels on the job and big shot director seemed to be unwilling to
fire the last full-time employee from what elise told me all the fancy
salaried bigwig people including director had to take turns staffing the
front desks after about a semester of this director's boss intervened raised
the pay for the desk job and set the rules back to how they were before
director mysteriously transferred jobs in the middle of the year to a lower
level position honestly i think it should be just about illegal to try to
expect your employees who are working at a station to sit there and do literally
nothing for hours on end people legitimately like go insane over less
imagine trying to make it by working for ten dollars an hour sticking to these
rules and basically losing your sanity over it you start talking to the plastic
plant sitting on the desk after a while our next story is from intrepid she
you're using your time incorrectly this happened about 10 years ago and i still
get annoyed and i laugh thinking about it i worked at a public university as a
professor and researcher i didn't yet have tenure which means you work like an
indentured servant at the beck and call of all the tenured faculty we had
year-round instruction so i put in 60 to 70 hours per week for years to reach
tenure i eventually did achieve tenure one of the great parts of my job was
teaching a course for undergraduates that involved performing community
service work the students always got to select and design their project this was
an overload class for me which gave me a little additional pay the wages for
being a professor are lower than if you work in this profession so the little
extra income really mattered but i love training new researchers and making
discoveries through my own research one of the services i provided was
consultations with colleagues about their research and publications i kept
my calendar open to be readable so others could book appointments with me
so they could see where i was what i was doing we got a new department chair it
was only a matter of weeks before the administrative assistant a sort of
dreama worm tongue personality to the chair decided to try and get me in
trouble i'll call this assistant grima because that name is hilariously apropos
grima showed my calendar to the new chair who then met with me to insist my
percent of time spent on the undergraduate course not exceed the
allowed amount but the fool of a department chair didn't realize i was
putting in less than the allotted amount because it's a percentage i was working
so many hours i could have doubled the amount on this course so you bet i
complied first i turned off everyone's view of my calendar which was hilarious
on its own i'll say more on that in a moment second i showed the chair the
actual hours were less than allowed and the chair ended up crying and apologized
i think the chair felt stupid and humiliated for trying to discipline me
but this wasn't the first time i'd been treated this way and i was pretty angry
so i increased my hours on the undergraduate course and spent more time
in volunteer work this ended up getting some local media attention and even
wound up making the chair look good so grima wasn't able to mess with me
anymore about my calendar rima did try one last time to get the better of me by
going to the chair about my calendar no longer being readable grima had to
schedule meetings and appointments with me and now it was really hard to do when
the chair came to me about opening my calendar up i said i would if it's a
policy and if everyone else has to do the same thing of course it wasn't a
policy and the chair wasn't about to make everyone do that so for the
remainder of my time grima had to work extra hard i often kept my calendar full
with work for the undergraduate course now that i was putting in all my allowed
hours i just don't get why people like this feel the need to be so
micromanaging and then when you do something to counter their micromanaging
they only get more upset honestly with people like this i think you just can't
win our next story is from pelly uncertain escape innovation course it's
the mid-1980s and we find ourselves in a military training area in central west
germany with a bunch of grunts one of whom is me this evening we were tasked
with an escape and evasion course that means giving each soldier a location of
where they were to travel and then dropping them off individually at a
random distance away it's capture the flag at night in uniform with a helmet
and gun but no bullets if you failed to make it to the target by a stated time
the next morning you would be doing extra training if you were caught you
would be doing extra training if you made it to the location in this case a
medic m113 then no extra training so no carrot only stick with that in mind i
was dropped off at a random location facing a bunch of ncos and a supposedly
unknown final destination location and 6
or so hours to get there when you looked at the map of the training area there
was only a few places that made sense to
house the flag so i wandered over to one of them and there sat the track
malicious compliance starts now i knew that they'd be ready for people
jackrabbiting for the track so i buried myself in leaves and cadnapped about 30
minutes before time was up i walked over to the track and climbed into the door
the medic slash ref said are you so and so and i was that person so i replied in
the affirmative the battalion's been searching for you all night i have to
call them so we can go home and sleep i was ordered not to get caught and to get
the flag before a certain time but 600 or so of my military compatriots had to
stay up all night looking for me so my story was that i was waiting for a clear
shot at the flag before i came in i figured that my malicious compliance
would result in a few folks driving around in trucks with their lights on
announcing that the training was over but nope i was incorrect in that
assumption i was one of a small handful to not get caught so i wasn't punished
but i'm told future ene events included a few more starlight scopes and ir of
some sort all i know is is if you're going to give a deadline for something
you want to make sure that if they take up every second of that deadline you're
happy with when you're getting delivered the product if you say you've got till
6am to get that flag then by god if they roll in at 5 59 you better be darn
satisfied and our next story is from frankie panty horrible district manager
suggests i seek employment elsewhere after i call her out on her bs i managed
a small franchised own beauty salon it was my first management role i've ever
taken on i built the salon up after a low period i was well respected by my
staff because i was an empathetic listener and understood the needs of my
staff district manager was anything but that she was originally hired on as a
manager of a new location in our district that was set to open a month
after her original hire date she somehow convinced her franchise owners that she
would be a perfect fit for the role of district manager and was promoted
quickly and first i didn't see my district manager all that much remember
that new location that was opening up well she would tell me that she was over
at that location getting things in order to be ready by the opening date i took
her word for it and managed to run my location just fine without her guidance
even though i was new to management myself after that location was good to
go she would promise me that she would spend a day with me at my location and
when that day would come around i would get the oh something came up at another
location text from her i was starting to get a little suspicious in the meantime
a new manager was hired on at another location in our district this woman
became my mentor as she had years of experience in the industry district
manager as part of her job duties was supposed to train this new manager on
her role district manager gave this woman the run around too oh i'll be here
today and then later a text message of something coming up at another location
little did district manager know that us location managers were talking to one
another and quickly realized that this woman is sitting at home while
collecting a paycheck our franchise owners too quickly began to realize what
this horrible district manager was doing however they were reluctant to fire her
because they had no solid evidence of what she was doing district manager
caught on that her job was on the line and really started to throw her weight
around she fired multiple employees at all locations who had no previous
write-ups these particular employees were ones who saw her bs and weren't
afraid to stand up for themselves she started enforcing purposeless tasks onto
us managers soon enough turnover was high at each location even some
long-term employees left after she started to show up more now for the
malicious compliance eventually i had enough of putting up with her crap and
on a particularly rough day i called her out on her bs i went ahead and called
the franchisers and told them everything of what she was doing a few days later
district manager pulls me aside and tells me that she suggests i find
another job elsewhere and that she could pull some strings well i did exactly
just that and i found a new job without her help of course i gave my franchisors
my notice and on my very last day horrible district manager was demoted to
my former position and was given a huge pay cut is anybody else kind of
unsatisfied by the end result this person should have been fired and
blacklisted from even working in a managerial position this person was
skating by at home not doing any work and even though they didn't have solid
clear-cut proof they knew what was going on why would they demote her to a still
managerial position this person's only shown that they're going to mail it in
but with that being said that's all the time we have for today now if you want
to hear another malicious compliance story that was way crazier than any of
the ones in this video click on that left video or if you missed my latest
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today we have a crazy Revenge story all about
walking down the aisle our story of the day is
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sister wants to walk down the aisle at my wedding
we use that to our advantage here I am writing
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this long Tale in my honeymoon but it does feel
cathartic to finally type it out and my husband
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is more excited about this than the resort drinks
anyway this is a throwaway because I don't have a
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Reddit account and my husband the Reddit fanatic
said he doesn't want this associated with his man
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as to why the Reddit guy isn't the one riding this
it's it's because he said since it's my family I
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should be the one with the honor of posting the
story but he is looking over my shoulder to help
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out so I think first it's necessary to give some
background to explain how this Behavior reached
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this level and why our responses were as they
were it's a long read I apologize so ever since
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I could remember my parents loved my sister more
I don't mean in subtle ways either if my sister
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accused me of something they'd believe it and
punish me if I accused her they wouldn't believe
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even if there was undeniable proof they'd still
give her a lesser punishment and try to find a
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way to scold me in tandem my birthday cake had to
be a flavor she wanted hers did not and my parents
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always denied knowing that I didn't like that
type of cake they always bought her a bit more
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than for me we went to where she wanted even if
it was an event that should be about me my sister
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grew up spoiled and didn't like me just used me
as a punching bag but At first she mostly ignored
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me but then it got really bad when we were young
teens I'm not sure what the cause and effect are
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but she found herself with no friends and her
behavior got worse did her friends move did
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they ditch her because she was mean I don't know
because we were never close and my parents loved
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to boast about her achievements but never ever
mentioned any issues whereas with me they loveed
:48.800 --> :54.920 to bring out any flaws of mine constantly as
teasing material I only knew she had none because
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we went to the same school and I noticed her no
longer walking around with people anyway she had
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no friends I did I used to be decently popular my
sister realized that and suddenly I stopped being
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the occasional punching bag to a hated person
she needed to take down at all times she started
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accusing me of more stuff she accused my friends
of more stuff my parents stopped allowing me to
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hang out with anyone the excuses ranging from
they're not good people according to your sister
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to why are you trying to leave us why can't you be
like your sister and enjoy family time what's see
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family most of my family lived in the same
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Hometown and I got along with my cousins despite
some age difference at one Gathering they invited
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me over to something I don't remember what and I
sadly replied I'm not allowed to go anywhere when
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asked why my kid self with no filter replied that
it was because I wasn't allowed to have friends
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since my sister didn't have any well that reached
the adults who apparently tore my parents apart
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later I was scolded for lying lying and grounded
as if I had anywhere to go for a month but after
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that they allowed me some leeway so it was worth
it and my sister changed schools I guess the
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humiliation of extended family knowing her social
status was bad and she demanded to be changed and
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my parents immediately obliged even though it cost
them more since the school was further away but
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she made friends in the new school however she
never went back to the previous status quo of
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mostly ignoring me I guess having felt the power
of how badly she could screw with me and anger
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that I told family she had no friends she never
let me go her life was still bad her friends would
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come over and Bully me and my parents called it
light teasing I never called friends over because
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my parents were awful host to them or my sister
would accuse them of taking stuff and they would
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believe it I did become close to my cousins though
since my parents never darare to do any of that to
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family and then I got my first boyfriend I didn't
want to bring him home at all but my parents in
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and he came to find me to tell me my sister was
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flirting with him by which he meant she came over
with skimpy clothing batting her eyelashes really
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badly and started telling him how bad I was and
how good she was he was irked and ran off to find
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me of course my sister told my parents a different
tale that my boyfriend had instead tried to flirt
:23.440 --> :28.840 with her but she naturally refused since how
could she do that to me guess who my parents
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believed now now my boyfriend wasn't perfect but
I immediately believed him for a mean reason but
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remember back then that I was a teen and suffering
from the unfair bad treatment I was very resentful
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she hated me with that disclaimer out of the
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way let's talk about looks I hadn't mentioned them
yet because they weren't relevant my parents were
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SLR overweight and since they liked showing love
via food giving you more food buying treats Etc
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my sister was Slash is also overweight whereas I
was Slash am not in fact I've always been kind of
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skinny because punishment often included no treats
or snacks obviously weight isn't what matters
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personality is but my sister even then was already
rude and spoiled even her flirting attempts were
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bad because she never learned to work for anything
since she could demand and my parents would
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deliver added to that fact that she didn't look
like some sexy model even my self-conscious teen
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self didn't believe my boyfriend would try and
cheat on me with her anyway my parents prohibited
:37.000 --> :42.440 me from dating such a horrible boy I did try
to keep going in secret but it was hard and
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the relationship ended I did get another but again
my sister accused him of flirting with her when he
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refused her advances again my parents believed her
I tried pointing out how this happened again but
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they decided that meant I was incapable of making
good choices and kept picking bad boyfriends
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the relationship couldn't handle the Romeo Juliet
situation and fizzled out again I would eventually
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get called a [ __ ] in high school as I was fine
with making out with boys and such but refused to
:10.760 --> :16.480 have relationships thankfully it never got
back to my sister or parents my sister did
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bring one boyfriend home during all this time he
was paraded with pride and my parents spent every
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second telling me how good he was and why couldn't
I be like my sister and find myself someone like
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that until he stopped showing up and suddenly he
was a conniving idiot that tricked my sister oh
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well and the unequal treatment continued at this
time she had more spending money her curfews were
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much better than mine she was free to go anywhere
at any time while I couldn't if I pointed it out
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my parents would say it's because she's older
but when I reached that age I still didn't have
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the same treatment she had and when pointed out
they would deny that they ever said that or claim
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it was because I couldn't be trusted like she was
using my sister's accusations against my boyfriend
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and friends as proof of my bad judgment time goes
by and it's time for my sister to graduate she was
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accepted into a college not a very well-regarded
one and she had no scholarship or anything again
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because only her achievements were told to me I
don't know which colleges she even tried for so I
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can't say how badly she was rejected I do know her
grades were bad in school though because whenever
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she got a B we would celebrate I would usually
get good grades but my parents parents refused
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to celebrate claiming since I always got those
what was there to celebrate my parents naturally
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made a lot of fanfare and told her they'd pay for
everything I was relieved she'd be going away not
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that it made my life any easier she'd always come
home every other weekend and somehow stuff kept
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missing from her room or some other issue she'd
think of to make my life miserable my curfews
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were still strict Etc eventually my mom came to
talk to me about my impending graduation I'm only
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a year younger than my sister she told me since
they were paying for my sister's College they had
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no money to pay for mine so it would be better for
me to start working immediately after graduation
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and waiting until my sister finished uni to see
if they could afford something for me oh and if
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I decided to stay at home I'd have to pay for all
my stuff part of the bills and rent I pointed out
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I could get student loans mom said Yes except no
that is because they were so caring towards me
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and I had such bad judgment they would decide if
a college was worth my getting in debt or not I'm
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not sure how they would stop me from getting loans
but I didn't ask scholarships weren't mentioned
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they had no idea what my grades were anymore and
never believed in my capabilities anyway I didn't
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bat an eyelid I simply said okay my mom clearly
didn't expect that and kept pushing maybe she
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hoped I would throw a tantrum so they'd have an
excuse to not ever pay for my college but I said
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nothing except I understood their position thanked
them for caring and that was that my dad later
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tried the same but I also refused to be emotional
you see after a whole lifetime of their terrible
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parenting I never had any expectations towards
my education I knew they would find an excuse
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to not pay for mine and make my life miserable I
never believed they would eventually pay it if I
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worked and waited for my sister to graduate I had
been preparing for college for a long time I could
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barely go out my friendships were Slim so I had
a lot of time to study and study I did because I
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saw College as my only chance to be free well
the time came and I worked my butt off and got
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a scholarship not to anywhere like ivy league or
anything like law or medical school but it was a
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good enough course in a decent college with a full
scholarship knowing my sister would hate it and
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try to stop me via parents I put my achievement
in social media at the same time I told them even
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forced myself to thank them in the post now they
couldn't forbid me from going as they would have
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to explain to family why not initially they were
even a little proud and boasting about it and then
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I guess my sister got to them and they changed
gears and even asked me if I was sure I wanted
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to go they let slip my sister wasn't doing well in
college and since she was smarter and had better
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judgment than me I would suffer worse I obviously
stuck to my guns they weren't happy but couldn't
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do anything College was my savior I started being
happy I still contacted my parents and visited on
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holidays and such but since they refused to pay
for anything I could excuse not going a lot due
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to money during this time I avoided introducing
any man to them and my sister stopped going to
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college I know she didn't graduate because again
they'd have made a Fanfare about it moved back
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home paying no bills or rent but it's different
my parents said and started working at the same
:56.080 --> :01.560 company as my mom obviously thanks to my mom
pulling strings this was all sold to me as a
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source of Pride oh well almost there I promise
I met my husband around this time you know those
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people that say that if I was an ex situation
I'd have done something my husband is the type
:13.080 --> :18.480 that really does I'm the person that is Meek
and a doormat in any situation and then can't
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sleep at night wishing I had done something had
thought of something witty to say Etc I'm the
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person that can't help but cry when I'm angry my
husband is the guy that claps back immediately he
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loves drama and that he loves to resolve it he's
the guy that if he doesn't immediately reply to a
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slight you better start worrying because he won't
forgive and forget he's just doing something worse
:40.520 --> :44.920 for Revenge he's the one that wanted me to
post here and wanted to post on a nuclear
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Revenge board too but decided what we did wasn't
nuclear people were baffled I got together with
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him but just because I was incapable thanks to my
upbringing probably of acting like him it didn't
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mean I didn't like him I love that my husband does
what I can't and he treats people well as long as
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they do the same to him when we discussed marriage
we decided we didn't care much about the ceremony
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due to our budget as we would rather spend on
a dream trip to Europe for our honeymoon as
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for where to do it since his family was spread
out and mine was still mostly concentrated in
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my hometown we decided to do it there we weren't
living too far off either so we could take some
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long trips during the weekends to manage stuff
plus there was some work flexibility so we could
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stay in my hometown for a bit too if need we sent
out the engagement announcement and the save the
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date for a few months later well at this point my
parents have naturally demanded they meet my man I
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wanted to grow a spine and refuse but was having
a hard time the distance had made me think maybe
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my parents weren't so bad well my husband looked
like i' had canceled Christmas when I told him I
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would at least ensure they were never alone with
him see he had been getting ready for this he even
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bought a highquality recorder he could hide in a
pocket to record it all he was stoked thinking of
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all the ways he could refuse my sister's advances
insult her and then spread the recording of her
:07.040 --> :13.960
attempts to my family so off you went alone and
excited to meet them and came back later euphoric
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babe babe you won't believe the awful crap they
wanted babe we can freak them over so bad there's
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so many possibilities I was confused and wanted
to hear the recording but he smartly told me it
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was better to listen to him first or or else I'd
misunderstand him well he went there and instead
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of flirting my parents and my sister sat him down
after some grumbling about not being okay with him
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my judgment Etc they proclaimed they were willing
to pay for my wedding on one condition my sister
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would walk down the aisle on my wedding first in
a wedding dress their excuses were that it wasn't
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okay for a younger sister to marry first so it was
only fair if my sister had at least the experience
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of it on my venue with pictures being taken and
the dress and she'd have a cake later too Etc my
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husband will now type this part hey hey vengeful
husband here heck hath no fury like a pro Revenge
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SL Instant Karma SL nuclear Revenge lurker when
his beloved is scorned that said as much as my
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wife T she's my wife now paints me as this quick
witted dude I admit my neurons are all but short
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circuited when those folks legit suggested that
crap like some sort of great freaking gift even
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Troy would rather take in the horse a second time
me thinks alas after my brain rebooted I did have
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a whole butt catalog of insults about to spew out
but something in my soul whispered in my ear like
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the devil string these freaks along so I said I
needed to think see how my wife back then fiance
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would react and then ran out of there before I
could give away my nefarious plans back to me
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the wife so my husband sincerely recounted how
my parents wanted even my wedding to be about
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my sister with a grin on his face and had the
recording to prove it I was shocked the distance
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had softened how bad they treated me and I thought
even they wouldn't go so far thankfully my husband
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insisting on the angle of Revenge helped me not
go to a bad head space we had a blast thinking up
:20.120 --> :25.960
ways to screw them over this from ridiculously
outlandish to what we thought was feasible we
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then called his much more level-headed brother
when we decided on on a plan it involved having
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two venue addresses giving them the wrong one Etc
well level-headed Brothers scolded us for it while
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he acknowledged that he would never be able to
convince us from retaliation he at least showed us
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something like that would be hard to pull off some
of our other ideas were also at danger of getting
:48.760 --> :55.440
sued so we eventually settled for the most benign
plan act like we agreed but then hire security and
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don't let her in obviously if that was all it
wouldn't be Pro Revenge the rest is all mostly
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my husband but he wants me to do the honors so
here goes just important to mention everything
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he did was previously discussed with me and were
our mutual ideas he went back to my parents said
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he probed and thought I wouldn't be down with it
however he didn't see the issue and not wanting
:18.840 --> :24.480
family to fall apart would be down to helping
them do it he pointed out I don't like conflict
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so if I was surprised with it I might not throw
a tantrum in front of all the people on on the
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other hand marriage is a big thing so who knew if
I'd lash out thus he suggested a compromise they'd
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help pay for stuff this way I would feel even more
pressured to not say anything as Not only would we
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be public well with our families there but I'd be
grateful to the help they gave and that would mify
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me he said my parents looked surprised by my grown
sister starting skipping with joy literally so
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like a kid so it was accepted important my husband
also claim clim that due to some bad judgment and
:00.480 --> :05.880
boyfriends in the past these words were all my
idea and I'm so so proud of using their words
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against them I was distrustful and controlling
and like to check his phone and stuff to ensure he
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wasn't cheating on me as such it was imperative
that nothing of this plan was ever put in any
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writing for any discussion pertaining to my sister
walking down the aisle before me he would go over
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to their house to talk and so began the months of
deception where my parents and sister thought they
:28.440 --> :34.040 were in me and my husband and I were milking
them how well rather than pay for the wedding
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than lay low of course my parents wanted input in
everything some stuff that meant a lot to me the
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songs and color palette my husband would convince
them to let it go to keep me in line but since we
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never really cared for the ceremony to begin with
everything else was game or so they thought what
:51.880 --> :57.920 we did was thus we would go say to check the
drink and menu options we would then accept the
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lowest or second second lowest priced option my
husband would then secretly take my sister there
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to also try it out and then sigh and say it's a
Pity we don't want to abuse my parents' Goodwill
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so we wouldn't get the best options cue my sister
demanding my parents pay for the best my parents
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would then tell me not to worry and that they'd
pay for the most expensive same was done with a
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photographer flowers my husband handed my sister a
bouquet of flowers we wanted then sadly expressed
:27.040 --> :33.120
how I wanted some other taste flowers C my parents
telling me they wanted us to go with said flowers
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and they would pay for it wedding dress we hit
a minor snag here my parents wanted me to use a
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hideous dress okay not outright hideous but it
wasn't my style and wouldn't look that good on
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me we had planned on saying yes and then simply
not using it but my mom sent me a message about
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it so there would be proof I said okay we had
to go with me refusing in text and standing my
:55.520 --> :01.280
ground my husband went over there and said he'd
see what he could do my sister suggested ruining
:01.280 --> :06.640
my desired dress so I'd be forced to wear the
other one he pretended to agree during all this
:06.640 --> :12.160 time they really kept Communications outside
any text we made sure that that would happen
:12.160 --> :19.120
by when my sister tried messaging my husband have
me reply to here this solidified the uncontrolling
:19.120 --> :24.760
and neurotic claims my husband was making so they
believed it and never risked anything in writing
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and maybe some people might not like the thought
of their partner going around and talking bad
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L about them to family but I'm such a doormat that
the thought of being painted as this controlling
:33.800 --> :39.320 and dangerous bench is extremely funny to me
and I AED him on to do it I guess I have a
:39.320 --> :44.680
warped sense of humor oh and my sister did try
to flirt with him but he acted conflicted also
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to really sell that he was with them my husband
would pretend to tell things without my knowledge
:49.560 --> :55.400
but he never told them we hired security it was
really funny my husband and I who had sincerely
:55.400 --> :01.200
considered a courthouse wedding to focus cost on
our honeymoon having this extravagant expensive
:01.200 --> :08.640
wedding and barely spending a dime we called it
back pay for emotional damages from my parents
:08.640 --> :13.880
I think my husband okay he just confirmed I'm
right was enjoying the whole tricking them more
:13.880 --> :18.320
than planning our wedding I didn't think it was
possible to witness a guy beaming at the thought
:18.320 --> :23.880
of wasting his whole Saturday doing a car trip to
discuss wedding details with his in-laws but here
:23.880 --> :29.520 we are soon the day came the plan my parents
sister and husband had come up with was wait
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until everyone was seated since the bride always
comes out late they would have my sister arrive
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at that precise time to avoid me seeing her and
trying to stop it and walk down the aisle by the
:39.920 --> :45.400
time I heard what happened it would be too late
to do anything as for my dress we saved some of
:45.400 --> :51.040
the leftover fabric for my dress alterations and
my husband took that to my parents' Place sister
:51.040 --> :56.000
still lives with him even now and showed them
as proof he'd ruin the dress then said he had
:56.000 --> :01.560
to go back to me as I was raging and he needed
to call me down he'd see them at the wedding we
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made sure to keep our actual security hidden at
first as the guests and my parents arrived all
:06.840 --> :11.880
they could see was a woman with a list of names
to check only after my parents arrived and sat
:11.880 --> :18.400
down did we bring out security a guy that looked
like a bodyguard we told him not to allow anyone
:18.400 --> :24.920
my sister in and even agreed on paying a handsome
tip if he didn't reveal we told him that soon the
:24.920 --> :30.600
time arrived my parents got a text my sister was
less than 5 minutes away so my dad went and told
:30.600 --> :36.000
people to start my bridesmaids had been told to
follow his lead beforehand so they obeyed without
:36.000 --> :41.480
checking with me after they all went down and took
their places my dad stood up at the entrance as
:41.480 --> :47.200
if waiting for me during this a friend not in
the wedding party texted me to get ready this
:47.200 --> :53.280
because if my husband or bridesmaids Etc took out
a phone and started texting people might notice
:53.280 --> :58.680
this friend was in on the plan she's my husband's
friend is willing to help stir drama as he is and
:58.680 --> :03.720
didn't care about being a bridesmaid or anything
well as soon as my dad took his position the
:03.720 --> :12.040
bridal song started playing the doors open and
I come in my dad looked AAS at me being there
:12.040 --> :16.520
he tried glancing behind me but you can't see the
venue entrance from where we were so he couldn't
:16.520 --> :23.440
see what happened to my sister and then his phone
rang I saw the caller ID and it was her he just
:23.440 --> :29.440
left me there with a mumbled something came up
there were gasps and confusion all around the
:29.440 --> :35.320
friend in on it loudly asked what happened I lied
and in a teary voice said he told me it wasn't
:35.320 --> :41.640
supposed to be me there it's not what he said but
my husband and I agreed that if he dared leave me
:41.640 --> :46.160 I should say that to make him look the worst
possible as for the tears I wish I could say
:46.160 --> :51.600 it was just my stellar acting but no despite
everything a part of me didn't think you'd go
:51.600 --> :57.760
as far as abandon me there that the sister thing
wasn't true but an elaborate joke I don't know I
:57.760 --> :04.240
was hurt still am so I was sincerely trying not to
cry then the friend loudly went what did he mean
:04.240 --> :10.760
by it shouldn't be you so that as many people as
possible could hear and spread it then went I will
:10.760 --> :16.480
go and check and ran off we decided to do this
to make her create heck with security and stop
:16.480 --> :22.240
my dad from coming back and stopping the ceremony
or something at some point my mom also left at
:22.240 --> :28.840
this point my husband's dad quickly ran over and
took my arm he'd been forewarned he might need to
:28.840 --> :34.200 watching him run desperately to me helped me
smile I walked down the aisle to Whispers as
:34.200 --> :39.480
people discussed what happened some apparently
left a check too when I reached my husband though
:39.480 --> :45.520
all was well he made me feel better joking my
sad face was so real I deserved an Oscar and
:45.520 --> :50.720
don't worry he'd rake them over the coals for
what they did we got married without a hitch my
:50.720 --> :55.360
parents didn't come back I did notice a lot of
people leaving and then coming back during the
:55.360 --> :00.200
party but no one dared tell me what was happening
some someone did come and whisper in my husband's
:00.200 --> :05.520
ear and he went out he came back after a while
with a thunderous expression but whispered in
:05.520 --> :11.000 my ear he needed to go hide somewhere before
he broke character and started smiling well
:11.000 --> :16.760
what happened is it worked the following is the
summed account from friends family the security
:16.760 --> :22.160
guy and my husband that I received afterwards
my sister did arrive in a wedding dress the
:22.160 --> :27.440
security refused to let her in per hour agreement
he claimed she must be in the wrong venue because
:27.440 --> :33.080
there was already a ride and yes we tipped him
really well as promised my dad went there and
:33.080 --> :37.400
tried threatening him with the police claiming
he never heard of him so he couldn't be working
:37.400 --> :43.640
there the security agreed to the police since he
was hired by us and doing his job my dad realized
:43.640 --> :49.280
by then it would be too late and try to demand
you let my sister in at this point the friend
:49.280 --> :55.160 came over started shouting and insulting my
sister and asking what was going on basically
:55.160 --> :01.440
stalling my mom soon came and eventually other
people at this point the wedding plan was busted
:01.440 --> :07.560
all my parents could do now is damage control as
everyone that learned about it was a ghast they'd
:07.560 --> :12.600 try and Pull It screaming and berating them
the three naturally said it wasn't a secret
:12.600 --> :17.760
and threw my husband under the bus at this point
my husband was summoned when he came over he put
:17.760 --> :26.640
on his best look of confusion and denied denied
denied to quote him Gaslight gatekeep girl boss
:26.640 --> :31.840
he denied having ever agreed to did something so
ridiculous when they insisted he did he demanded
:31.840 --> :37.280
proof and of course they couldn't produce any all
ttic changes they could produce were about normal
:37.280 --> :43.280
wedding decisions my sister was scream crying and
apparently sat on the floor kicking her legs like
:43.280 --> :49.080
a kid my dad looked like he'd beat my husband but
security and other people held him back of course
:49.080 --> :54.680
they said they had no proof because my husband
told them not to text my husband laughed and said
:54.680 --> :01.440
wow how convenient huh then again repeated why
would he ever agree to something so freaked up
:01.440 --> :06.280
tore them a new one about being awful parents
then said he wasn't going to let their stupid
:06.280 --> :12.440
plans and lying get in the way of his wedding and
went back to me no one believed them the venue had
:12.440 --> :17.680
cameras but they refused to show me the recording
as that was only for security purposes but some
:17.680 --> :24.040
people filmed parts of it watching my parents and
sister get ripped apart by any and everyone that
:24.040 --> :30.480
came out to check the drama was delicious after
years years of being accused of stuff and not
:30.480 --> :36.160
believed to watch them have a taste was one of
the best wedding gifts my mother was crying my
:36.160 --> :42.280
dad kept changing from purple to White my sister
was still on the floor crying and screaming they
:42.280 --> :47.920
kept insisting on that my husband was in on it but
people kept asking why would my husband agree why
:47.920 --> :52.960
was there no proof why did they want my sister to
do this to my wedding and they had no good answer
:52.960 --> :58.400
to any of it eventually they were told to leave
and had no choice but to do so my dad apparently
:58.400 --> :03.440
had to drag my sister up as she refused to leave
the ground again people said nothing to me all
:03.440 --> :08.560
night I guess they wanted to spare me and maybe
it's because I was the bride and not just a guest
:08.560 --> :14.760
for once but it did feel like everyone was making
an extra effort to be nice positive and excited
:14.760 --> :20.440
about everything my husband says all the expensive
crap they were eating and drinking certainly helps
:20.440 --> :26.480
we had a blast my husband maintained the forced
angry face for only a short while before breaking
:26.480 --> :31.160
out in smiles again after after that we went to
the hotel to catch some sleep before going on
:31.160 --> :36.400
our honeymoon speaking of which my parents did
try to pay for our plane tickets but we thought
:36.400 --> :41.920
that was risky as they could try and cancel them
or something so we refused of course since that
:41.920 --> :46.880
whole thing the three have tried to contact me
I've refused calls because my husband insisted
:46.880 --> :53.120
on keeping a paper trail a smart thing because my
sister did eventually message me I won't repeat it
:53.120 --> :59.040
as it was very unhinged and didn't make much sense
but the important part was that she blamed me for
:59.040 --> :04.880
her humiliation called my husband a two-faced
snake that fooled them for months he wants to
:04.880 --> :09.960
print that out and put it on our wall and hoped
but was also certain it would happen that I would
:09.960 --> :15.600 get cheated on by him she did also suggest
he was cheating on me with her actually my
:15.600 --> :21.200
husband took my phone screenshotted the call logs
screenshotted my sister's message screenshotted
:21.200 --> :26.440
some of the messages of my parents demanding I
pick up the phone and sent it all to my family
:26.440 --> :31.960
group chat and since screenshots of messages to
him where they called him names and threatened
:31.960 --> :37.880
him but he kept up the you're delusional I never
agreed to anything shtick and even threatened
:37.880 --> :43.200 to sue them for defamation and harassment he
wrote in a message in said group chat begging
:43.200 --> :49.000
my family for help as I was now being harassed
by them constantly he begged family to help stop
:49.000 --> :53.600
them from trying to ruin my honeymoon now that
they'd failed to ruin my wedding then finished
:53.600 --> :58.920
needly with a request that they don't share our
locations to avoid my parents sending my sister
:58.920 --> :04.600
over and then claiming he had somehow agreed to
pretend to freak her in our honeymoon suite my
:04.600 --> :09.800
family assured him they'd take care of it and
indeed since then we've had silence my husband
:09.800 --> :15.200
is a little disappointed my sister didn't disobey
so he could tattle again while tearing her a new
:15.200 --> :20.680
you know what we'll see if it'll last all in all
while I obviously would prefer to have a normal
:20.680 --> :25.640
loving family at my wedding at least for once in
my life they not only failed to ruin something
:25.640 --> :31.760
meaningful to me but I got them back extra info
do I know why they treated me like this I've been
:31.760 --> :36.320
asked this question a lot so I assume you all
will think the same I've wondered this all my
:36.320 --> :41.640
life and I still don't know I tried asking when
I was young but they denied any difference and
:41.640 --> :47.120
scolded me for acting spoiled so I quit trying I
thought of some many possibilities but based on
:47.120 --> :53.840
my observations I think it's this I was unplanned
they took a while to have my sister so she was not
:53.840 --> :00.120
only wanted but also like a miracle child after
so long however given our age difference is quite
:00.120 --> :06.880
small I think they didn't expect to have a kid so
soon or easily and didn't use adequate protection
:06.880 --> :12.520
way too soon after my sister's birth and maybe
didn't notice my mom was pregnant until too late
:12.520 --> :17.960
so they were saddled with an unplanned baby while
still dealing with a newborn and they're not that
:17.960 --> :25.360
well off so having the extra expense likely didn't
help so they resented me but that's my conjecture
:25.360 --> :30.120
regardless I've accepted the answer won't truly
matter matter what they did to me was unwarranted
:30.120 --> :34.560
no matter what did they really think this would
work my husband and I talked and we have the
:34.560 --> :39.840
theory that they never wanted to do this at all
we think my sister threw a tantrum over me getting
:39.840 --> :46.200
married first when she barely gets dates and they
gave my husband that outlandish proposition as in
:46.200 --> :51.320
they didn't want to pay for my wedding and didn't
think we would accept or that it would even look
:51.320 --> :56.720
good for them to do it but by suggesting it and
being refused they could look like the good guys
:56.720 --> :02.160
to my sister while while having an excuse to not
give me a dime but then my husband accepted it
:02.160 --> :08.120
and they couldn't backtrack or else risk my sister
turning on them can we all agree that this is like
:08.120 --> :15.480
some made for TV movie level Evil family this
honestly sounds like a story crafted Loosely
:15.480 --> :21.480
based off of Cinderella or something to think that
there are real human adults that grow up and have
:21.480 --> :29.080
kids and act like this is stunning MDM 224 wrote
I swear to God if this is real I am so sorry you
:29.080 --> :35.640
have such a crappy family if this isn't real take
my up vote get off of Reddit and write a God dang
:35.640 --> :41.200
book already but with that being said that's all
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what's the worst damage you've caused Story one while in college I spent
several Summers working in a salmon Cannery in Alaska and for a few seasons
worked in the overnight cleaning crew they cleaned fillers these huge
Industrial Revolution looking behemoths that cut salmon into pieces and put it
in cans the final stage of cleaning these involved climbing into a cavity
under the machine where the blade assembly normally sat it was removed
nightly for sharpening be used thin wire picks about 12 inches long to get any
last fish Parts out of the machine inside the cavity was a big Drive arm
that drove the part of the machine that fed fish to the blades his arm sat right
across your chest as you worked in the cavity made for a handy shelf if you
needed to sat down your pick for a minute of course one day I left the pick
on the drive arm the line mechanics came in and installed the blade assembly
which consisted of about 16 circular blades about three times the diameter of
a basketball and which rotated at ridiculously high RPMs as the machine
Ran So the mechanic turns on the machine only to hear a god-awful screeching
sound as the pick is fed up into the blades it wiped out about half the
blades in the assembly with no suitable backup I took out a quarter of the
plants capacity for the day and this was a plant that processed a million pounds
of very perishable fish per day they had mechanic who heroically got this thing
repaired by the next day pitched me a lot of stuff but never ratted me out
this might take the cake for most monetary damage caused if the fish that
were going to be processed expired overnight
story two when I was in the sixth grade I caught a dried up tobacco field on
fire I had to knock off of one of those Rambo things and for a few days was I on
the thought of being a Chad with nothing but my replica and all the things stuff
inside the handle I was trying to show my sister how I could create a fire
using two sticks when she wasn't looking I struck a match started a small fire
blew the match out and tossed it behind me of course while we were staring at my
small deliberate fire flames were rapidly spreading all around us this was
right off a busy highway and suddenly there were folks all over the place
wadding a fire with their floor mats in the end a huge chunk of the field was
completely charred into this day my entire family believes I was able to
accomplish all of that by rubbing two sticks together
Story three I accidentally blew up a 6 000 gallon tanker truck and demolished
the workshop we were in about 120 000 I worked for a company in England that
built and repaired tanker trucks a four compartment truck came in one day for
the pipe work to be replaced in the rear
compartment I had been told the tank was clean and Vapor free safe to work on I
got under the rear of the truck to cut the bolt heads off the bottom connecting
the flange with an acetylene torch was it cut the last Bolt the flange Gap
opened up an eighth and the Ring of flame came out before I had time to
react to rear compartment blew up which blew out the division into the next
compartment and that exploded all four compartments went off within
milliseconds of each other and the front of the tank blew off and destroyed the
truck unit luckily the driver wasn't in it the top of the tank opened up like
the Petals of a flower and the whole truck jumped in the air the explosion
took the roof off the workshop and the support while the truck was parked next
to I was actually in the safest place which was underneath it although I had
to change my undies turns out the tank hadn't been cleaned and had just come
from dropping a load story for I was recently teaching my niece how to drive
she was a natural and I felt she was ready to go out in the road after only a
couple of lessons in a parking lot she was doing great appeared to be ready to
get her license way ahead of schedule the next day we finished up our driving
lesson and she pulled back into the driveway to park she got momentarily
confused and matched the accelerator down to the floor as she attempted to
put the car into park straight through the garage door we went right into our
father's motorcycle then his lawnmower and finally the household water heater
before coming to a stop it was simultaneously the least dangerous and
most devastating crash I'd ever witnessed that's like being chased by a
hungry tiger and jumping in its direction instead of away from it
Story five back when I was a dumb kid living in Italy a bunch of friends and I
decided to play hide and seek and inside one of the empty Villas in our parka
since the front door was locked and there were bars in the windows we
decided to break a hole in the side of the wall once inside we discovered that
the laborers who worked for the landlord kept their power tools in there we went
full idiot and completely destroyed everything inside that house one of us
came up with the idea that if we hit the
big water tank outside of the pickaxe it would explode after being disappointed
and cracking the tank in half with no explosion we decided the only way to
cause an explosion was to pour gasoline all over the furnace before we had a
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story six once while working for an ISP as an intern I forgot the where clause
in an SQL statement and changed everyone's password to the same thing
but everyone I mean all the subscribers also the backups of the database were
bad and had been for a month it was a bad day so here's the story I just
finished migrating a bunch of mail servers and combining them from a few
scattered different disjoint pieces other IIT people were occasionally worse
than me into one Consolidated server this was post-fixed and friends anyway
we were in a bit of an oh my God what did my boss decide we had to do this
during business hours mode when we had someone call in saying they couldn't
change their password yes I know ma'am could you wait a day and try and change
it tomorrow we're migrating some stuff but I need my email now and I forgot my
password share with someone new to the service and we had a hard time getting
more clients at the time small group not the best value but we could get into
rural places where Comcast or at T wouldn't go so I decided to try and help
her out so I asked her what she wants it to be and I tell her okay this will be
taken care of shortly and then on the screen I see 667 rows updated crap it
wasn't a huge operation but explaining that one was hard my boss had recently
killed a server by yanking at a hot swap
hard drive while the machine was booting to show the CEO how they worked they
don't work that way and we lost the box for a few days so he didn't give me too
hard of a Time the failed backups weren't my fault either so that let some
pressure off too his employers deserve that wake-up call
for putting important data in the hands of an intern anyway
story seven I used to work at a Major Appliance Warehouse in the summer during
my first month as a forklift operator I came around a corner too sharp the clamp
of my lift caught the edge of a refrigerator I slammed on the brakes but
it was too late the entire stack of ten one thousand dollar fridges which was
about 60 feet high came crashing down upon my lift and into a subsequent stack
of dishwashers I was terrified as the second tower Came Crashing Down I could
hear another employee screaming oh no oh no oh yeah and all the other liftops
came to watch and laugh at the damage I proceeded to take the Walk of Shame to
inform the damages manager rather than fire me we all took hunting pictures of
me holding up dead dishwashers estimated damage twenty thousand dollars
story eight my little brother and I saw someone make a use of Molotov cocktail
in some action movie we thought it was the coolest thing ever and determined we
could do the same thing and be little Chads our first attempt to yielded
disappointing results somehow we neglected to realize the bottles had to
be made of glass once that was sorted out we tested our new creations and a
big oak tree and a clearing about a mile into the forest beyond our house the
bottle full of gasoline exploded just like we expected and burned that 100
foot old growth Oak down in less than an hour we were amazed but soon became
terrified when flaming limbs began falling off the tree and setting fire to
the tall dry summer grass nearby the fire quickly spread to nearby trees and
did the only thing we could think to do run like Hal that Inferno burned for
about the next 48 hours until the fire department could finally put it out it
destroyed about 40 acres of forest land an abandoned house and part of a horse
farm resulting in some freaked out horses and lots of charred fences
naturally we never came forward because we were cowardly little a-holes but we
both went on to volunteer with fire departments wherever we lived to atone
for stupidity and carelessness story nine when my brother and I were
five and four respectively we were being Little Devils and refusing to go to bed
when we were put there my parents eventually gave up and just went to bed
they were exhausted as they'd had a dinner party that evening I probably
went into the lounge and went to my parents entire cassette tape collection
including the Memoirs of my grandmother's escape from Germany in
1939 and proceeded to pull out all the tape from the cassats and play with it
my brother in the meantime decided that he was hungry and that he would like a
fried egg and his five-year-old wisdom he got out an egg and frying pan put
them on the stove and turned on an element nothing happened to the element
that he was looking at so he turned to another one this time the heat turned on
and once the pan was hot enough they started frying his egg unfortunately the
first element He turned on had a wooden chopping board which smoldered until the
heat reached my mom's food processor which probably started burning and
melting and resulted in lots of dark black smoke and fire my brother toddled
out to my parents bedroom and said Daddy why is there smoke in the kitchen and
apparently my dad went from horizontal and bad to vertical and halfway down the
corridor in about two seconds flat the fire was quite easily put out at the
expense of my parents nice crock free that was soaking in a bucket nearby my
dad just picked it up and threw it plates water and all on the fire and the
photos of the damage that we had to take
for insurance purposes there's a sort of Twisted Black mess of the stove and
bench area and then right in the middle of it all is a perfectly cooked fried
egg I hope someone at least ate the egg just so all the work didn't go to waste
if you would have eaten the egg leave a like in this video And subscribe to the
channel story 10. a couple of years ago I was
living at my mother's house so my sister left her neurotic Rat Terrier with me
for a week while she and her mother went on a business trip the dog was used to
going for four walks a day and being cuddled and spoiled beyond all
description I was going to school and working nights so his needs were far
beyond my ability to provide I walked in before school fed him and left and
walked in between school and work after a couple of days of this treatment the
dog expressed his displeasure with me by doing his business all over the house I
was frantically trying to clean it up before being late to school and I just
spread borax based wherever he left a mess figuring a dog like a cat or a
small child is smart enough not to eat borax I was wrong but my sister came
home from her business trip I was at school and her dog was almost gone I got
the ream out of my life where she rushed
him to the vet the dog lived but by then
I was so freaked out by almost ending my sister's furry child in the subsequent
dreaming that I packed up and moved out when her back was turned a couple of
days later so not only did I almost end a dog but I then caused more Havoc when
my family interpreted my moving out as me ending it all story 11. not me but
three kids went up on a hill near where I lived and decided to play with fire it
ended up burning down about 40 houses including mine most of the houses were
leveled to the ground with nothing left but ashes the evacuation was quick and
many people lost pets and dozens of cars and other vehicles were also torched my
neighbors were about 12 Mexicans living in one house and they didn't believe in
Banks and lost all their money about seven thousand dollars that was in a jar
in their basement it wasn't a rich neighborhood and many didn't have
insurance so most people became homeless the kids in question came from a rich
neighborhood and from what I hear had no remorse whatsoever neither they nor
their parents had to pay a single penny because it didn't even get a slap on the
rest for what they did I was just a kid and my family had to live in a car for a
few days before the Red Cross put us up in a motel for a couple of months before
we could find another place to live it wasn't a huge town and with 40 families
looking for places to live it took a while to find a place if you're ever
looking to give money Red Cross is always a good place to give that and
Community Action story 12. when I was 11 or 12 I went to
visit my sister in Germany they were getting ready for a dinner party she was
throwing later that night so we were busy getting the final items we needed
at the local market it was a bit hectic as it was a little market they only had
those tiny baskets for all your stuff and no cards so she asked me to hold the
bottle of champagne as we were waiting in line I was being a stupid kid and
trying to balance the bottle by the punt on one finger naturally I messed it up
and dropped the bottle anyone who ever dropped a champagne bottle knows those
bad boys blow up with force and a lot of noise this in a foreign country is
embarrassing enough as is but then this guy next to me cries out and collapses
on the ground clutching his knee red is all over the floor making a big pool
this lady starts screaming and I just stand there not knowing what the hell
happened turns out A Shard of glass went
straight at him he ended up having to go to the hospital that day and have
surgery the cherry on top the dude was a mountain climber and he was leaving to
climb the Matterhorn the next day to make things easier let's just say one
of his ropes was frayed and he saved the guy's life
story 13. I was living in a duplex in Lahaina Maui one day my next door
neighbor came over and told me to come look at something outside between our
two units was a standpipe with a water spigot in the end it stood about two
feet high and was only a couple inches from the house which was a cinder block
structure and a concrete slab he took the standpipe in his hand and pulled it
to the side so it was about a 45 degree angle water came gushing forth from
under the house well cool we thought note that he did not turn the faucet he
turned the standpipe like a lover so for a few days whenever we had a visitor
which showed them our amazing water pipe
you already know where this is going yes it happened on my watch I turned the
standpipe and the water came out then I turned it back and the water kept coming
out then it fell over the pipe was broken and the water was coming out
faster than ever fortunately the landlord lived next door unfortunately
he wasn't home there weren't any cell phones in those days and nobody had
either duplex at a phone not that it would have done any good because I had
no idea who to call or what to do we lived about four blocks from town which
was a street along the Waterfront so I rode my bike down to use a phone I don't
remember who I called but everybody told me somebody else to call until I was
calling a sugar refinery then I looked up our street and yes here it came the
water a nice flat steady stream of water I watched it run into the gutter and
down a drain then I walked across the street to watch the water leave the
drain pipe and onto the beach it formed a little Channel and entered the Pacific
Ocean and I didn't know what the heck to do so I just sat and tried to wake up
from the nightmare that didn't work either so I figured I'd best go back to
the duplex and start packing my goods the landlord was waiting for me with a
shovel I've been ratted the digging was pretty easy because of all the water
washing the soil out but the break was a long way back some Plumber guy came a
little later and when he arrived made myself scarce in the cane Field behind
the house to check my plants because I needed something as I sit here and
recall this tragic memory it occurs to me that when I lived at that place there
had been an earthquake I never thought of it before writing this that was what
weakened the pipe maybe the thing that pissed me off about it was that
everybody knew about that pipe but it had to break when I was demonstrating it
and I was the one who took all the blame
but at least the landlord didn't bill me for it story 14. okay nothing hugely
major but years ago in like 97 I was on tour with a small musical theater
production as the technical director we were in a chalet style hotel in the
Upper Peninsula of Michigan they gave me a non-smoking room but at the time it
was a pack a day smoker so I smoked in the room a few hours later I heard a
high-pitched beeping the source is hard to discern because of the high-pitched
ceilings in the room I look up and see and to light a cloud of cigarette smoke
floating near the peak of the angled ceiling nearby the smoke detector which
has a little red flashing light crap it seems I set off the smoke alarm I
immediately jumped on the bed grabbed a pillow and began Fanning over my head it
was a high ceiling and I'm 62. the thing wouldn't stop but oddly enough
the main alarms are not going off the hotel is not being cleared
after minutes of Fanning I cannot take it anymore I start throwing my shoes at
the smoke alarm a few good days in the drywall later I scored a Direct Hit or
two the alarm is damaged now hanging by the wall by the attached wires AC alarm
not batteries damn damn nope the darn thing won't shut up in a rage or grab
the aluminum pipe frame suitcase stand the kind that folds by one leg and I
start jumping on the bed swinging at the peak of each slab toward the infernal
machine with each Mist the black rubber feet leaves the black streak across the
off-white walls finally I scored a direct hit the alarm flew off its wires
across the room and I swear to God landed in the waste can near the
television I'm elated momentarily then I realize
it's still there does it have a battery backup
wow I get down off the bed and bend over the waist can only to realize that the
80s era Hotel television which had an LED clock on the face had a built-in
alarm clock which was going off I hit the faded off button and the beeping
finally stopped I don't think I mentioned it at checkout and I never
heard another thing about it true story 15. it once worked in the gaming machine
room of a very busy Hotel I say once because I only worked one eight hour
shift and was probably fired my job for the shift was at the cashier's desk
exchanging coin winnings from poki and slot machines Into Cash notes or taking
people's cash and converting it to coins
I was in charge of a little machine that weighed the coins and told you how much
cash to return to the customer it had two settings calibrated to the weight of
Australian one and two dollar coins I was told to select red for one dollar
coins in blue for two dollar coins about five minutes into the shift I pressed
red freaked out and pushed blue which was what I was aiming for in the first
place the screen started blinking so I pressed blue again and it stopped I
continued my shift working through the line of people that was readily less
than three people deep towards the end of my shift another employee Dave came
to replenish my till and take away some coins I had several times been
replenished with cash notes the computer spat out its report and Dave looked a
little confused quite simply the bag of coins and the number on the report
didn't add up not even close turns out I had reset the calibration of the
weighing machine I had been handing over fistfuls of cash due to the coin scales
reporting wrong amount I was never privy
to the exact amount but Dave did tell me on the way to the exit that it was over
fifteen thousand dollars I hope you enjoyed the video and if you
made it this far I'm sure you'll also enjoy I completely ruined his life Story
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today we have a crazy nuclear Revenge story against an ex-husband but first in
a game of poker two can play pretense in navigating through the corporate world
there is one ideology that never sat well with me it's the belief that
irrespective of what the truth is the employee has to be loyal to their
employer like all Bs because that couldn't be far from the truth and if
you have a boss like mine you would equally see this ideology as trash I
guess I should say had because it all is
in the past tense now I quit well before
I got fired this would not have been the case but at this point Nothing is
Stopping me the good part is that I get to share my side of the story this is
the story of how my boss fired me after I dealt him a similar hand as he dealt
me it's how my boss treated me like dirt thinking I could not do anything about
it truth is at the time I was fired that
idea he had of me was probably right but it's been a year now since the dust is
set old and the circumstances changed me more than I could have thought my name
is Dave and from the very first moment I stepped into the bustling offices of
words mate I knew that this was where I belonged as an aspiring writer the
opportunity to intern at one of the most prestigious writing and creative
companies in the city felt like a dream come true but the problem here was that
at this time I was oblivious to the fact that this experience would test my
dedication and passion to my lifelong dream in ways I could never have
imagined from the onset the palpable energy of creativity permeated the air
invigorating my soul with every breath I
took I was eager to prove myself to show
everyone that I had what it took to be a valuable asset to the company the
promise of a full-time position after a successful six-month internship was the
beacon that guided me through those initial days I tackled every task with
fervor immersing myself in each project as if it were my own Masterpiece writing
copy crafting compelling narratives and brainstorming innovative ideas I
embraced every challenge with a hunger to learn and grow the days were long and
the nights even longer from trying to get into a set mood for inspiration but
I relished the exhaustion that came from pouring my heart into my work it was
after all what I wanted I didn't mind having to go the extra mile to get to
where I wanted to be honest I think it was always the voice in my head learning
from the words my mother said before I moved out of our apartment that made me
beat myself up the most she thought riding wasn't a job she believed I
should make use of my accounting degree to get a job somewhere in the corporate
part of the city like my late dad would have wanted but that was never my plan
and the degree was to keep her off my back for as long as I could I think her
words began to affect me such that my inner voice frequently reminded me and
berated my work that I wasn't good enough to be a paid writer getting an
offer from words made reduce the volume of their voice and the days and hours of
unpaid overtime that I worked was to finally silence that voice upon my
acceptance of the internship role days turned into weeks and I found myself
forging connections with colleagues who appreciated my dedication and passion my
hard work did not go unnoticed and I began to earn praise from clients and
supervisors alike even Mr Anderson the enigmatic and often stoic boss
occasionally offered a nod of approval a
silent acknowledgment that spoke volumes my fellow interns and I formed a
close-knit community encouraging one another and sharing our triumphs and
struggles the support we offered each other was an anchor in the swirling sea
of creative pressure that surrounded us together we navigated the challenges
celebrated the victories and reminded each other that we were destined for
greatness the promise of a full-time position served as a driving force
motivating me to push my my boundaries even further I sought out new challenges
eagerly volunteering for projects that demanded Innovation and creativity the
sense of purpose that filled my days made the long hours feel like moments
suspended in time as the end of my internship Drew near a mixture of
excitement and trepidation flooded my thoughts the moment I'd worked
tirelessly for was Within Reach I could taste the success feel the weight of my
accomplishments and see myself as one of the new permanent members of the
wordsmate however as Destiny would have it the Blissful bubble of anticipation
burst with a single visit to Mr Anderson's office the same man who would
occasionally acknowledged my efforts now delivered a crushing blow to my dreams
his cold emotionless gaze conveyed a verdict that shattered my heart Dave I
regret to inform you that your performance during this internship has
not met our expectations we won't be offering you a full-time position
stunned and disc believing I struggled to find words to defend myself to prove
I deported my soul into this company but Mr Anderson's mind seemed irrevocably
made up and my pleas fell on deaf ears with a nod he dismissed me leaving me
standing there feeling like a discarded pen that had run out of ink as it would
turn out the pain of rejection was worse than I'd thought it weighed heavily on
my shoulders as I gathered my belongings and walked out of that office for the
last time as an intern the world that had once felt full of boundless
opportunities now seemed cruel and unforgiving my dreams were shattered and
my confidence waned it was like my mother's words and my inner voice broke
loose in my memory once again I was close to tears but for some reason I
could not find them running out of my eyes I couldn't help but wonder if I'd
been blind to the signs the subtle dismissals the lack of full recognition
the way my ideas seemed to vanish into the shadows of anonymity it was as if
I'd been dancing to a Melody only I could hear while the rest of the world
remained indifferent but I was sure I wasn't there were times my direct team
had had praised something I had written once I was given the task to Rebrand a
section of the company's website if I was as bad as Mr Anderson had made it
sound I wouldn't have been tasked with the role I decided to meet up with
Cynthia one of the interns I'd bonded with I explained what had just happened
to her and as I expected she couldn't believe it it took her seeing my sunken
eyes to see that I wasn't joking about being fired she thought that maybe I
needed to wow the boss with something make him see how much of an asset I
would be to the firm I did or at least I
tried to the result was that was getting the door slammed in my face yet deep
within the darkness of the moment a flicker of determination ignited I
refused to let this setback Define me or undermine my worth as I stepped out I
knew that my journey was far from over a fire burned Within Me fueled by the
desire to prove my worth the days dragged on into weeks and my search for
a new opportunity became both a struggle and a quest for Vindication while I
faced rejection from various companies my determination never wavered I want to
believe that it was the excess of quiet space to think things through that made
me begin to really question why I much have been fired even before I could be
officially recognized as an employee under Mr Anderson for some reason
something did not add up but I didn't know what all I knew was that I was
fired because he said I didn't match up to what was needed while trying to move
on I found myself navigating through a tumultuous sea of emotions the bitter
taste of rejection still lingered in the wound of being cast aside by words made
remained raw yet I was determined to heal to leave this chapter behind and
start anew little did I know that an unexpected Revelation awaited me
threatening to reignite the fires of anger in Vengeance one evening as I
mindlessly scrolled through my social media feed a particular post caught my
eye it was an article a piece of work had poured my heart and soul into during
my time at wordsmate my eyes widened as I saw the name attached to it Simon
Anderson my former boss my heart pounded in my chest as I read the accolades in
the comments section people praised Mr Anderson for his Brilliance and
Innovation lauding his creative prowess but I knew the truth the truth that this
work was mine a creation that bore The Sweat and Tears of my labor now paraded
as his own a surge of anger and betrayal washed over me it was as if I'd been
dealt a second blow this time to my creative Integrity my mind raced trying
to comprehend how Mr Anderson could claim my work is his own seemingly
without a hint of remorse especially since he said I wasn't good enough how
could things have not have been going good enough to Garner the Praises they
reigned on the work that was supposedly his as I dug deeper into the post's
origins the realization dawned upon me my boss never intended to pay or
acknowledge my contributions it used me as an unpaid intern to harvest ideas and
creativity eager to capitalize on my dedication without offering anything in
return anger mingled with sadness as I was forced to see the harsh truth I'd
been a pawn in his game a tool to extract ideas that would Elevate his
status while crushing my dreams underfoot it wasn't just about losing a
full-time position it was about my work and talent being stolen leaving me
stripped of credit and recognition I couldn't fathom the audacity and
heartlessness of it all how could someone with such power and influence
stoop so low the pain of betrayal sliced through my resolve like a sharp blade
but as the initial shock wore off an new emotion emerged from within me I needed
to make him pay I needed my voice to be heard and I was going to stop at nothing
in showing the world the kind of person he was I knew what I had to do use the
same means of pretense gather as much information as I could then come back on
social media to announce to those that have called him creative that while he
might have been so at one point in his life all he was now was a sad Harvester
of the sweat and toil of young creatives the first thing I did was to ask for
help from my contacts that were still in The Firm I needed to know what they
thought of the whole scenario the idea was to get an objective view but more
than getting an objective view I realized that it wasn't a me thing it
was something that has become somewhat of a trend in the organization Mr
Anderson had a track record of firing interns just shortly after they become
employees or before they could become one after the period of unpaid
internship was over there were tons of interns that date back to years before I
even walked into the office to apply for a role as an intern and for some reason
no one bothered to ask why the interns had been fired without due cause none of
the interns had a voice delay claim to their work that the boss stole after
they'd been sacked I was more Furious than I was when I left his office that
day when he told me I wasn't good enough I was pissed at myself for not seeing
beyond my nose I was pissed at other interns who had faced a similar problem
and kept to mute and I was finally pissed that I sat in my room in tears at
the blatant show of Injustice I took on the role of an Avenger of some sort an
anonymous Crusader armed with the truth on social media platforms and blogging
sites I shared my story and that of other wronged interns unmasking the
facade of wordsmate the response was overwhelming former interns employees
and even clients stepped forward sharing their experiences of exploit and deceit
the unknown voice became a symbol of resistance against the system that
preyed on young talented minds but with every step I took I knew the risks were
escalating exposing Mr Anderson's machinations could have severe
consequences not just for me but for those who dared to support me fear nod
at the edges of my determination threatening to undermine my resolve
however I drew strength from the community that had rallied behind me we
were no longer isolated voices We Were A Chorus demanding Justice this wasn't
just about one intern seeking Revenge it was about shedding light on an industry
plagued by exploitation I meticulously gathered evidence and testimonies from
former interns and colleagues the weight of responsibility grew knowing that the
truth rested on my shoulders but I was no longer alone my fellow interns had
become comrades in a battle against Injustice the movement gained momentum
drawing attention from media outlets and Industry insiders the support we
received was overwhelming and the pressure from Mr Anderson and words made
intensified yet he remained silent perhaps hoping that this storm would
eventually pass it was a usual case of ignoring it till it loses momentum plus
there is no face to the voice of accusations but the community was far
from done in a way it was like everyone decided it was the right time to come
after those that had stolen their Works in time past or those that had removed
their names from getting recognition for the part they played in one work or the
other it was massive but I was not about to let him off the hook the time had
come to confront Mr Anderson to hold him accountable for his actions armed with
the weight of Truth in the unwavering support of a united front I decided to
reveal my identity and face him head on this time I wasn't sneaking in as an
intern hopeful I was walking in with purpose ready to face Mr Simon Anderson
the man who had exploited my creativity and that of so many others it was time
to shred the cloak of anonymity and confront the man responsible for my
Shattered Dreams stepping into the Sleek Lobby I was met with a familiar Buzz of
Creative Energy that once inspired me but this time there was no awe or wonder
only a fierce fire burning within fueled by the countless stories of those who
had fallen victim to Mr Anderson's cunning schemes I made my way to the
reception desk where a polite but weary receptionist greeted me I took a deep
breath steadying my nerves and requested to see Mr Anderson I had anticipated
resistance but to my surprise she nodded and picked up the phone to announce my
arrival I reached Mr Anderson's office door took a deep breath and knocked the
response was a cool come in I pushed the door open and there he was the man who
had held my dreams in his hands and callously cast them aside Mr Anderson
looked up from his desk surprise flickering across his face as he
recognized me Dave what are you doing here he asked attempting to remain his
usual air of authority my voice was steady carrying the weight of every
intern who had been exploited I'm here to talk about the truth Mr Anderson I
replied my words tinged with a mix of anger and determination he chuckled
attempting to brush off the gravity of the situation I see still caught up in
the little social media stunt are you I guess I should have known it was you you
should know that won't change anything right his plan was to make me cower in
fear at his words but my eyes locked with his unwavering it already has I
said people are aware of your exploitative practices they know the
truth about how you used interns like me stealing our ideas and creative without
offering Fair compensation or recognition Mr Anderson leaned back in
his chair a hint of unease creeping into his demeanor you don't understand how
this industry Works Dave we can't credit every intern for their ideas it's just
not practical oh I understand perfectly I retorted you exploited us because you
thought we were vulnerable that we wouldn't dare speak up but times are
changing Mr Anderson and your reign of exploitation is coming to an end he
attempted to dismiss my words with a wave of his hand this is just a phase a
little uproar that will eventually die down you can't do anything to stop it
you're making a big mistake Dave I can make sure you never work in this
industry again with that I walked out of his office my heart pounding with a mix
and fear of satisfaction I'd faced my fears and confronted the man who had
once held power over me the battle was far from over but this was a victory a
victory for justice for creativity and for all the interns who had suffered in
Silence the good part was that I recorded the entire conversation and
after uploading it to the internet people began to boycott the organization
to be honest I'm a bit scared of what this would mean for my riding career or
if I even have a career in writing anymore after bringing down one of the
most prominent writing firm's bosses but at that point I didn't care I couldn't
bring myself to care after seeing how he'd gotten away with his crimes for so
long and at least before wordsmaid was forced to close down I got the
recognition for the work I deserved for now that is enough all I'm saying is is
if op has trouble getting work elsewhere when they can pretty much prove that
they had produced work good enough that the boss of words made wanted to steal
it and post it out there and get commended for it then that speaks more
about the other owners or the other bosses of those organizations and
suggestive of how Shady they might be too because the only thing Opie's doing
here is fighting for the rights of the people who produce this work if you as a
boss say no because that concerns you too much well I think that just raises
more questions about you and what you're
doing our next story is what I did to my ex-husband sometimes in the middle of
nowhere you meet people that teach you what it means to trust with Nicholas it
was the exact opposite after he dealt with me I haven't been able to fully
trust anyone else I met Nicholas at a party I'd been forced to attend but I
wasn't feeling it I was slouched on a chair in the corner with my cup of booze
in my hands my friends had tried to get me on the dance floor but I'd violently
refused I glanced out at my watch hoping
the shorthand of the clock would finally strike 12 so I could leave no such luck
time was unbearably slow it was barely 9
30. suddenly someone slid into the chair beside me and that someone was flashing
me as mile that could have been termed Charming but in the state I was I
couldn't help but find it irritating I sighed and looked in the opposite
direction I didn't want a conversation hey there the guy said I turned over to
give him a warning look and noticed that the said stranger was still grinning
wildly at me what on Earth could he possibly be so happy about or maybe he'd
had too much to drink I shook my head and pretended to be absorbed by the
memes on my Tick Tock page maybe if he got bored of trying to talk to me he'd
move on to something else I was wrong he sidled closer to me and whispered I
thought you'd want some company surprisingly I didn't smell any alcohol
on his breath I sighed again but decided
to reply to him this time and what could have given you that notion I don't know
he muttered maybe it's the fact that you've been sitting here since you
arrived at the party or the bored look on your face or the fact that that's
your fifth Cup in less than two hours I couldn't help laughing how would he
notice all that in such a crowded room have you been watching me I asked he
Shrugged I tried but it'd be hard to take my eyes off the prettiest girl in
the room plus you look a bit sad he looked me in the eyes wanna talk about
it and that was how I found myself spilling all the tea about how I wasn't
in a good place emotionally and none of my friends understood that and how I was
going through a rough patch at work and I was really worried about my Dad's
health all to a complete stranger it felt so good to finally let my feelings
out to someone who couldn't judge me and he turned out to be a great listener I
didn't even realize it was way past 12 to one of my friends Janice came to drag
me home he asked for my number and that was when I realized we hadn't even
introduced ourselves Nicholas he said Nicholas Spielman over the next few
months we talked a lot over social media he constantly checked up on me sent me
random gifts to cheer me up and even surprised me with date nights he was so
sweet and gentle and caring he even followed me to some of my therapy
sessions we eventually couldn't go a day
without hearing from the other person we obviously started to date and it got so
serious that before we knew what was up we'd started prepping for our wedding I
never met my mum she left when I was really little and my dad did more than
he should have to try to fill the shoes of both parents so the loss wouldn't be
too great for me he gave me the best education possible showered me with
gifts and got me the latest phones and so much more the wedding wasn't any
different my dad was extremely excited when he heard the news about the wedding
he immediately gave both of us his Blessing and promise to foot every bill
concerning the wedding he's extremely rich including Nicholas's suit when
Nicholas didn't turn down my Dad's offer or think twice when billing my dad for
his clothes I started to have some reservations it just felt weird that he
didn't offer to be responsible for the costs of his wedding but the gut feeling
went as suddenly as it came everyone liked gifts some people just knew how to
hide it better than others the wedding day came and it was Blissful everything
was gorgeous and perfect the food was Exquisite all my family and best friends
were present and my dress I just loved it I felt like a fairy tale princess and
my prince charming looked as handsome as ever in his tuxedo towards the end of
the event my Dad announced that as a final wedding gift to us he was going to
pay off our mortgage for our new home again Nicholas accepted without
hesitation he didn't even act overly grateful I was scared that he was
starting to feel entitled and would expect handouts from my dad whenever it
was convenient being married to Nicholas
wasn't bad at all he was as sweet as I'd known him though there were fewer gifts
and date nights he sometimes made Saturday brunch all by himself he was an
excellent cook and I thoroughly enjoyed it I looked forward to his meals because
I secretly thought they tasted better than mine as all couples do we had our
little spouse that's here and there but there was nothing too serious soon we
started having kids our first child was a delightful baby boy Ben he was so
perfect and he looked exactly like his dad next we had a gorgeous girl Rose who
still happened to look more like her dad than she did me we both loved them
dearly but things started to get strained between Nicholas and I we both
had reasonable salaries but with the new mouths to feed and bodies to clothe we
could only save a tiny percentage for ourselves and Nicholas wasn't into that
he was always trying to find cheaper alternatives for their supplements and
cereals or wanted me to get all their clothes from thrift stores and just
couldn't get over the fact that their wipes and baby soap got exhausted so
quickly he didn't like to spend so much of his money on the family and expected
me to pay a higher percentage of the bills if I insisted on spoiling the kids
obviously this led to a series of Intolerable fights we were constantly
mad at each other and started to pick holes in things that shouldn't really
have mattered at some point I started sleeping in the kids room I couldn't
stand asleep beside someone so self-centered for a while I'd been
trying to secure admission to a prestigious post-graduate School in
India for my masters in law without telling anyone the whole process had
been complicated and disappointing so I didn't want to raise anyone's Hope just
to get them dashed fortunately I'd gotten a positive response there was
finally an open slot for me which I had to claim as soon as possible or it would
be offered to someone else I quickly forwarded the mail to my dad and bless
his heart he promptly paid the fees and bought me a plane ticket so I could
travel the next week before I knew it I was already on campus starting a
rigorous academic journey I was so excited I love the environment everyone
had this laid-back friendly vibe there was so much academic competition and the
food was quite really exotic and spicy I was having the time of my life but I
missed my babies I'd left them with Nicholas and I wasn't sure how well he'd
be able to take care of them I Skyped with them every evening after classes
and asked my dad to keep an eye on them apparently distance does make the heart
grow fonder because Nicholas himself started to FaceTime me to ask how I was
and how the classes were going we were getting back into a rhythm without all
the external pressure and I began to miss them all terribly I'd see a random
child and remember how cute Ben looked when he falls asleep while eating or I'd
see a couple in the park and my heart would start to ache I was yearning to
hold my family once again to be with all
of them I wanted to braid Rose's hair or play games with Ben go shopping with
both of them scold them for having too much candy and taste Nicholas's
delicious meals again I was getting so terribly homesick I couldn't even enjoy
the bright and colorful Indian festivals that were being held I couldn't eat any
of the exciting looking Indian foods or drinks I couldn't even concentrate in
class I wanted to be with my family and one day I couldn't take it in anymore I
called my father and poured out my feelings to him while tears rushed out
of my eyes seeing how horrible I felt my Dad decided to send my family to stay
with me in India for three years till I was done with Postgraduate School my
dear father figured that the kids would have to go to school and they'd need to
rent an apartment while they'd be here so he budgeted about 2 million dollars
for their flight expenses school fees and rent so they'd get settled in quite
easily we told Nicholas about the development and he seemed quite happy to
join me he claimed to have missed me more than I could ever imagine and
wouldn't mind moving to a totally different country to be with me their
flight was scheduled to leave at the end
of the month to give them enough time to pack and prepare my dad as trusting as
he is gave his debit card to Nicholas and asked him to transfer the two
million dollars to himself normally my dad wouldn't have been as careless as
that but Nicholas was considered family so there was nothing to be skeptical
about Nicholas decided that he'd sort out the the money the next day so while
the kids were in school he headed out to the bank the school had long been over
for the kids but Nicholas was yet to arrive the teachers waited and waited
till they could wait no more they dialed his number repeatedly but they got no
reply finally they called my dad who came to pick them up almost six hours
after school had been over my dad called
and told me what was going on and we all tried to reach Nicholas I started to
panic because I was scared that something terrible had happened to him
that was preventing him from coming back home little did I know that he had done
something unimaginable late in the night while my dad's Butler was going through
the children's bags to ensure they'd completed their homework properly he
found a letter from Nicholas his letter was addressed to me I'm so sorry for
leaving like this and I hope you'd all find a place in your hearts to forgive
me our kids Ben and Rose I love them both so dearly and I know they'd grow to
be marvelous people I know this doesn't seem like the right thing to do as a
husband but I want to forget all about me I want you to move on and be happy I
care deeply about you but I'm not cut out for marriage and responsibilities I
hope your dad doesn't get too pissed at me the only reason I'd make off with the
money is because I need it and I know he can spare it please don't look for me I
wish you the best in life Nicholas how immature and foolish could someone sound
in so few words he was comfortable leaving his children without a glance
back he said he wasn't ready for marriage and responsibilities and he's
almost in his mid-30s so when was he going to be ready when he was in his 70s
and he really wanted to steal my dad's money after my Dad read the letter he
rushed to freeze his accounts but he was too late Nicholas had already
transferred five million dollars to his account three million dollars more than
he was authorized to collect in the first place for such a foolish person he
had a lot of brain power when it came to scamming people because before they
could even track down his account he'd scare better the money in bits into
various accounts and Investments that were untraceable my dad didn't want to
involve the police because he worried about how it would affect the children
when they grew up and realized that their father was a criminal we hired a
personal detective to try to get some information on his whereabouts at first
it seemed like he'd walked off the planet eventually we found that he'd
move to a different state and was only leaving his girlfriend's apartment at
night yes he had a girlfriend I was speechless the fact that he could do all
that to his own family after making vows
on the altar was appalling I didn't care much that he'd moved on what stung was
that he'd left his own children without a father and he was having fun with my
father's hard-earned money because he could spare it I was even more
distracted at school than I was before what was I going to tell the kids when
they asked about their father what if he
suddenly came back and decided he wanted to take them away from me what if he
realized that he misses them and kidnapped them at school one of these
days I was getting more and and more paranoid and my mind started to fill
with anxiety I had to write the dean of student affairs and ask to be allowed to
go home for some time because of the peculiar circumstances thankfully she
understood my plight and granted me an exit for a few months my mind felt
calmer and I felt more at ease around my children I felt like the only way I
could be sure that no one would harm them was when I was there in person to
protect them but as if Nicholas wanted to emphasize my fears he actually went
to visit the children at school one Tuesday and they told me daddy came to
see us and he said he hadn't been able to come earlier because you hadn't
allowed him my blood ran cold I didn't want him around them and most especially
I didn't want him feeding them lies I had to do something about him something
that he deserved for all the rubbish he'd done to us and something that would
make him stay far away from us for the rest of our lives I knew that I couldn't
do anything that would be carried in the tabloids because it would eventually
affect my children I had to do something low-key but extremely painful there was
one thing he loved with all his heart and that was money I was going to use
that against him I had to hire the services of a private detective to pose
as the CEO of a successful Investment Company and Forge account statements
with my dad's bank records since they contained large amounts of money I was
spending a lot of money on this plot to get back at him but it was absolutely
worth it all he had to do was fall for the words of the detective and invest
all of his money as expected he swallowed the bait he obviously couldn't
resist the possibility of doubling the money he'd stolen in such little time
and with no extra effort all he had to do was deposit his money into the
account we'd created for him once his deposit was confirmed I froze our joint
account the only other source of funds he had I wanted to be sure he had no
other option to get money then we transferred our money which he'd spent
almost a quarter of back to its rightful
owner sooner than later he realized that he'd been swindled just like he'd
swindled me I could imagine his Panic Rising as he was frantically dialing the
number the detective had given him but no one answered the phone I'm sure he
must have even visited the address on the flyer we'd handed him and would have
been surprised to find no such company there a few weeks later I received
multiple calls from him which I never replied to then he sent me a text saying
he needed to see me urgently and that he'd made a mistake I immediately
blocked his number over the next few weeks the detective observed him from a
distance and I was delighted to hear that he was going through a rough patch
his girlfriend didn't want anything to do with him now that he didn't have any
money he had nowhere to go and she'd given him a week to leave I decided out
of the niceness of my heart to send him a consolation letter dear Nicholas I
wrote I hope you're having a nice life or at least you will this is just a
friendly reminder to never ever tried to mess with me or my family this time you
only lost some money you have no idea what will happen the next time the two
children you abandoned without a backward glance are definitely doing
much better without you the person you care most deeply about I'm just trying
to understand how this guy can transfer five million dollars and disappear like
nothing because I am almost certain there is no financial institution that
is willing to move that much money without a second thought I mean did they
make sure that the dad transferred it all in like Bitcoin or something I just
don't get how you can make off with that sum of money that quickly like to pull
off that kind of a heist that would have
to be something that they'd been working on slowly bit by bit for a long time I
would think but with that being said that's all the time we have for today
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hello everybody my name is steven and this is the story time channel
first things first i do a giveaway every single week so if you're interested in
entering i'll tell you how to enter later on in the video
but today we have some malicious compliance stories and our first story
of the day is by successful medicine 9 comply with the 30 year old dress code
you got it boss the shelterrive 30 year old male been
working at for a couple of years now is over 30 years old and is quite
notorious for keeping things that way the daily notes are physically kept in
binders 80s style punitive measures are imposed on clients in conflict
and the electrical panels are labeled with cards that went through a typewriter
you get the idea the floor supervisor over 20 years in that position
emphasized that even though jeans were allowed we needed to strictly adhere to
the dress code that meant button upper collared shirts no logos
only long pants dresses no hats unless you're outside
no visible tattoos etc in other words dress nothing like the vast majority of
the people we serve we're meant to dress the way they should aspire to dress
said the supervisor i was told other staff
including staff above my pay grade have long hated the dress code and
unsuccessfully tried to change it for years none of them were bold little crafts
like me though given my previous experience with undeserved populations
i also knew that this was a terrible idea
generally speaking what people in these communities lack in financial resources
they make up for in their abilities to read people and navigate emotions
if they think you're an authority figure or acting inauthentic
many will outright write you off and for the most part they have a great social
slash emotional radar the dress code said men's shirts must have visible buttons
or a collar i sewed two buttons near my hip on a plain t-shirt and wore it in
they said nothing the first time but had a meeting where they
weren't pointing out anyone in particular and
updated that specific part of the policy to prevent me from doing it again
next i work a breeze after all nothing about pan length was mentioned either
that time the dress code was updated and we were informed via email
still no one-on-one conversation about it a few months in minor malicious
compliances later our workplace gave us logo t-shirts with
the institution's name and a website on them
hooray we thought we will at least be able to wear t-shirts now
nope after a week of several co-workers wearing the shirts
they gave us we got an org wide email that the shirts did not comply with a
dress code and should not be worn during work hours
knowing me as the office rabble-rouser several pissed-off co-workers came to me
independently to ask how they too could rebel enter this story's biggest
malicious compliance as a minimalist i had no desire to hold
on to a shirt that i would not wear we had no input on the design slash
color of the shirts and i simply did not need it taking up space in my closet
the most reasonable alternative would be to turn the shirt back in
and explain that so i did co-worker number one was moving soon and didn't
need an extra thing to pack so she also turned hers in number two's
partner hated dark green the shirt's color so he turned his in this happened
all the way to 25 total employees with some borrowing others excuses
after five days the supervisor had a box with two dozen
shirts sitting in his tiny office he actually
has to keep them on his desk and i can hear him bumping his hand against them
when he uses the mouse three months later they are still there
he is not dumb he knows those shirts are an
fu that lives in his office he cannot donate them to the shelter due to some
other ridiculous handbook rule about organizational spending and he hikes six
miles to work so driving them home isn't a reasonable option he's tried
putting them in general office storage but his bosses said the shirts are the
supervisor's problems since he ordered them currently he's just stuck we know it
bothers him but he knows he can't bring it up
since it's his own rules that prevent us from wearing them
no dress code changes so far but the top of the year meeting regarding our
handbook has dress codes on the table i'm cautiously
optimistic that we'll finally be rid of some of the dumb
short-sighted elements of our dress code come february
so let me ask you guys if you're in any kind of place where there's employees
even if it's a slightly fancy place would it throw you
off or bother you if they were wearing regular t-shirts and also branded
regular t-shirts or do you think it's fine that they
would wear t-shirts personally i think they should be able to
let me know your thoughts in the comments down below our next story is
bio with the typos nearly died nearly fired i was 18 and worked at a gas station
i was the type of employee that you could always rely on to cover someone
else's shift people would text me directly and i
would let the manager know when i showed up i was covering for so and so i also
owned a 50cc scooter to get to work since it was nearby
one night i'm riding my scooter hit a pothole and hit pavement
immediate pain my face jumps out at me at first
it feels like half the road now lives on the left side of my face
i try to sit up feeling various scrapes and realize
my boob is stuck to my bra passerby calls an
ambulance emts think i somehow got a third degree burn in my boob when i try
to pull down my shirt i take it off and they see all of my
skin scraped into my bra it's excruciating i go to the hospital
mostly because my helmet was actually a bicycle helmet
i didn't know it came with the scooter and they're worried about a concussion
they have to keep me up until they get checked out by the doctor who isn't
there yet i realize around 1am that i'm not fit for work in the morning
not wanting to wake up my bosses i call the store and talk to the overnight
employee i tell them to tell the manager when they come in that i can't come in
and will drop off a doctor's note when i can around 6 am
i am allowed to go home drugged up but concussion free
when i get home i think i might try to start ungraveling
i go to the bathroom and strip i'm covered in scrapes and bruises
i have a giant bandage tape over my left boob that goes up to my collarbone
my face looks like someone glued loose gravel with red glue and it got
close enough to cause a black eye i say freak it
throw on a comfy tank and some shorts trying my best not to have fabric over
anything uncomfortable i've been awake 24 plus hours i'll deal
with the carnage after i sleep two hours later i wake up to my mom screaming
i come out and she thrusts the phone at me my assistant manager is now screaming
at me she said i can't tell another employee i'm calling out
i should have called her she said if i wasn't there in 15 minutes i was fired
she had a spa day with her mom planned and was not cancelling to cover my shift
i hang up and ask my mom what the freak apparently i didn't hear my phone
and she answered recognizing my assistant manager's name
she planned on explaining about my accident when she answered
assistant manager assumed it was me and immediately started yelling the same as
above my mom got heated yelling she was in an accident
how dare you yell instead of asking if she was okay she could be dead and you
were yelling so i told my mom she wants me there in 15 minutes
what say you drive me up there i grab my doctor's note and we're off
i walk in the building like crap on a stick despite having multiple pairs i
wear my broken glasses unintentionally i realize as i walked on the length of
the store i've developed a limp due to my left side being freaked
i didn't brush my hair it's a wild mane that replaces my normally neat ponytail
every minor abrasion on full display the chest bandage clearly outlined in my
tight tank i see both manager and assistant as they see me
i lock eyes with the assistant and stare her down as i close the distance
my manager stutters out the question of what am i doing there
i turned my attention to him assistant manager said if i wasn't here
in 15 minutes i was fired i'm here so do i still have my job after he
assured me that of course i did and to go home and rest
i gave him my doctor's note with the hand that's frayed from wrist to halfway
down my pinky i turned to assistant i told overnight
person i'd bring in my doctor's note next time though i'll be sure to call
you at 1am if i need to right seeing the look exchanged between the two
what i knew had been confirmed her calling me was her
doing and my manager didn't know what was happening
i'm sorry about your spa day if you'll excuse me
they didn't let me sleep until my x-rays came back
i'm exhausted i left feeling as good as you can feel with road rash
i sure hope that assistant manager felt terrible when they saw op
walk in and i hope they got busted as hard as it seems they did
having the manager themselves see the whole situation unfold
and that final phrase being able to say i'm sorry about your spa
day as you walk out just icing on the cake our next story is by
sln trobe put more packages on the belt you got it boss so not too sure if i can
name where i work but we deliver mail and packages the last mile and our head
honcho in charge just got into a lot of hot water for slowing down delivery and
disassembling machines so anyway the section i work if stuff is
too big or heavy to fit into a sack it gets put on a belt we have four belts
each belt is about 40 feet long about 35 of that feed is flat and about waist
high the last the section where i'm putting packages on five feet of the belt is
angled at a downward angle which goes down to about my shins
out of the four belts one has been down for about two months
so we've been working with three belts which slows us down a lot
these belts are about 30 plus years old the belt i usually work on
you can't put too much weight on the end if you do
it'll start grinding and if you don't take it off it'll start to whine
if that makes sense i know this and everybody i work with
knows this once the heavy stuff gets over the edge and onto the flat part
it's fine to add more weight so on to the malicious compliance
for some reason during the pandemic people have been buying lifting weights
a lot of them we get pallets with about 2 000 pounds of weights on them
i'm putting these 45 pound plates on the belt once they get over the edge
i add another one our manager who is a complete and utter d-bag
comes over and asks why i don't have more mail on the belt
i explained to him what happens and of course he doesn't believe me
he tells orders me to put more stuff on the belt to get the mail out faster
i again tell him why that's a bad idea he then threatens to write me up for
refusing to follow orders okay then while he's standing there
i load about six pound plates onto the bed
immediately the belt starts grinding and starts to whine
this wine can be heard almost throughout the building
the whole time i'm looking at him and i can tell he knows he made a mistake but
he's the type that won't admit it as soon as he starts to walk away the
belt completely stops won't even turn back on even if it's
reset i yell to my manager that the belt is broken
and now we're down to two belts with a ton of belts
of course the manager asks me what happened and i tell him
i was ordered to put on more weight on the belt than it can handle
looks like we're gonna fail tonight he's staring daggers at me and i just moved
to the other belt and started loading that one
he has maintenance come over and check the belt out and they ask me what
happened i tell them the manager told me to put more weight on the belt
the maintenance guy responds what a freaking
idiot not only is this guy a bad manager he's
a very bad manager it's one thing to not understand how the processes underneath
you work and to order them to do something that obviously is
wrong but once you witness them do it and you realize that it is
wrong the fact that you're stubborn and stay with it and allow that thing to
break rather than just admit you're wrong and fix the issue and move on
absolutely bad managing our next story is by wandering zia
you need the exact reason i can't come to work today
okay so i worked for a midsize regional transportation company years ago
it had ambitions of being much bigger than it was and to that end
it started to attract a certain type of hr employee
that is to say the type that wanted to be in control and try and deny
anything such as time off for being ill etc
now back then i was the good employee almost never called in sick
very rarely took a day off and when i did i would pick up an extra shift to
help out and for the first few years i was there if anyone was legitimately sick
the manager knew his people well enough he'd only make it an
issue if it needed to be then came the new hr higher
which in short order took away the ability of the manager to make these
sorts of calls and it was replaced with you having to
call and leave a voicemail for hr stating name rank serial number best
contact method and the reason you could not show up at work that day
at first people gave generic descriptions between
not wanting to be overly graphic or gross someone out
but the kibosh was put to that telling us we had to specifically lay out
exactly why we couldn't work cue the malicious compliance
this hr rep had a reputation for not being able to handle
anything that wasn't all prim and proper so the next time i had to call in
it was bad like if the girl from the exorcist ate taco bell
first but i followed the rules and explained how i was sick and couldn't
come in that day because of i was having explosive diarrhea out both ends
and if they needed to call me i'd try and answer but hoped they would be
understanding if i didn't answer and i'd call them right back upon my
return to work it was impressed upon me that what i done was unnecessary but
they couldn't do anything as i was just doing exactly as they'd asked
needless to say we were never again pushed for a
detailed reason as to why we were calling in sick
isn't it depending on where you're at illegal to expect people to disclose
such information to you you can't expect employees to be so specific
at least in some parts of the us this would be illegal
needless to say i'm glad op was the one that stuck their foot out there and just
was so blatantly descriptive that they were finally like okay never mind forget
it because that's ridiculous and invasive so quickly now i want to explain
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more than you could imagine that said our final story of the day is by elsie2612
i'm not allowed to work with my cast on ok here's the doctor's certificate for
time off back in the early 80s dad hurt his ankle
i think it turned out to be gout but the doctors were running all sorts of tests
etc and he ended up with his ankle in a plaster cast
part of dad's job was to go out on the field which required walking
the rest of the time he was at a desk writing reports etc
dad realized that he had enough work to do for the time that the cast was on
so he went back to work his co-workers all wanted to know what happened
he happily told them and said he was okay to work in the office
the boss saw him and advised that he would need to be 100
capable of working his duties which included field work
dad told the boss that he had enough work to stay in the office while the
cast was on boss said no malicious compliance
dad went to the doctors and got sick leave paid
for the entire time he had the cast on approximately
six weeks his co-workers then had to complete their work
as well as dads i understand the boss wanting op's dad to be able to fulfill
their duties completely no matter what but it's invaluable to be able to be
flexible and figure out a solution that works for you
and the employers the boss basically screwed themselves out of six weeks of work
just because they didn't like them working in a cast or trying to work
around their circumstances but with that being said that's all the
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a it for refusing to cook for my family despite cooking for myself and saying
they deserve to go hungry so I 16 male still live with my family obviously I
have chores just like my siblings but something I do for fun and because I
love and have a passion for it is cooking I started cooking for myself 3
years ago I had cooked before but nothing like the last 3 years I enjoy
making my own breakfast and dinner and even lunch if I have no school my
parents saw I was cooking more and they added that to my list of chores because
Mom said they didn't want to waste food and dad said it was rude to cook for
only one person and I didn't mind cooking for everyone but they were so
ungrateful my siblings and parents alike complaints I got were too
spicy wanted potatoes instead of rice wanted rice instead of noodles wanted
beef instead of chicken wanted something
plain instead of spicy wanted no veggies
wanted a more veggie focused meal wanted lasagna instead of pasta bake didn't
want soup didn't like the flavor of soup didn't want something sweet wanted
something sweet changed mind and wanted meat well done wanted more kinds of
potatoes and the list goes on none of this was constructive either it was
whining and complaining and I did start out asking what I should do but everyone
wanted something different and I'm still in school I can't spend 6 hours cooking
dinner on a school night so my siblings can have pizza fries nuggets tacos and
my parents can have steak and potatoes and gravy and all the trimmings are none
of the trimmings but five different kinds of potatoes I even made a weekly
meal plan for a while and they wouldn't complain until after they ate it I spoke
to my family about the way they were behaving and my mom told me that's the
reality of cooking for a family she said
my siblings and dad had always been like that with her I pointed out I hadn't
been and she just said that and she said
yeah but it's part of life I told her so she decided to treat me worse than I
treated her her and she told me I was being difficult and I told her no she
was taking everyone else's Behavior out on me a few times my dad or one of my
siblings would say I wasn't a very good cook and they hated eating my food so I
said I wouldn't cook anymore and dad and mom would get pissed and my siblings
would call me lame so I stopped cooking for them I cooked just for me again and
my parents are Furious they all come home hungry and I have nothing ready for
them not even my siblings my parents told me it's disrespectful and I cannot
continue and I said they were all the disrespectful and ungrateful one
all over what I made for them they told me I shouldn't be okay with
letting them go hungry and I said they deserve to go hungry my parents said it
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wibta if I told a mother she was wrong for defending her son to me his teacher
I M27 teach at a small private high school the mom F34 is that defended her
son to me as our recruiter and her son M16 is in my geometry class about a week
ago I cut off most of my hair it had been getting long and it is pretty curly
it was getting into my ears while I was teaching and distracting me my wife also
suggested I trim my beard so from a Friday to a Monday was drastic change
that morning my first class was geometry son took a picture of me without my
knowledge and sent it to the whole basketball team which happens to contain
a freshman and commented on my appearance not sure exactly what was
said is all I have is information from Mom and she said all he said was how
different I looked about 20 minutes into the class I get a text from one of the
other teachers that all the freshmen are
talking about my appearance in his class and that the picture was being passed
around in class and who had sent it to be clear I'm not upset that the Freshman
saw me they would have seen me the next period I wasn't super upset but a little
uncomfortable so I asked son if he'd seriously taken a picture of me and sent
it to the Freshman which he said he hadn't since I didn't know it was sent
specifically to the basketball team I took this as I lie which is what really
upset me after all he had taken a picture of me I let it go for the moment
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AI ta for not punishing my daughters for
pranking my ex's mistress at her wedding causing her to get diarrhea my 42f
ex-husband 44m cheated on me when we were married I have two 16-year-old twin
daughters who haven't really coped well with their father cheating on their
mother with a much younger woman in her 30s they hate her and I haven't really
encouraged my daughters to consider her a maternal figure the mistress also knew
we were married and were having problems and she had an equal part in ruining my
marriage as she pursued him first they were working in the same office I try to
maintain a civil relationship with my husband and we co-parent and a 50-50
custody after a year now my husband married the mistress which personally
felt like a slap on my face and a funeral of my marriage as I still had
some love even though he didn't deserve it for him I was obviously not a part of
the wedding festivity my daughters are teenagers and act out like teenagers do
lately I've seen an increased amount of aggression in them and their teachers
have also brought to my attention that they have bullied a girl who was dating
their common friend's ex it's just not a great situation and they are currently
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I read a story on here a while ago that made
me feel like I should tell what happened to me.
:23.280 --> :28.320 I don’t know if this qualifies as nuclear
revenge but here goes. For reasons that will
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eventually become obvious this is a throwaway
account and I haven’t used any real names. I’ve
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changed a lot of the details of the story but
I tried to keep the critical things intact.
:38.160 --> :41.920 I’m not trying to be arrogant or
full of myself when I say this but :41.920 --> :47.040
I did very well in school. Like the top of my
class well. There was one other guy in my school
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who I regularly competed with, but by the time we
graduated, there was a considerable gap between
:52.560 --> :57.120 us. It’s not as if he wasn’t smart enough
or lazy. He had two friends who weren’t at
:57.120 --> :01.280 our level academically but they may as well
have been joined at the hip. One of them,
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who I’ll call Jock, was an all-star athlete. He
was the complete package, football, basketball,
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track, and varsity all the way. And a top-tier
bunghole. The other one was the class president.
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Mr. Affable my daddy has connections that make
Verizon look like a telegram company. I’ll refer
:21.200 --> :27.120 to him as Smirk. My rival was the brains of
that trio so I’ll refer to him as Books. :27.120 --> :31.520
Books was a petty SOB and would
often devise ways of using his latest :31.520 --> :37.280
second place ranking against me as a reason to
harass me. Jock was usually involved in either
:37.280 --> :42.320 physically accosting me or holding me down
while Books did something humiliating to me.
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Smirk was never directly involved, it wasn’t a
good look, but it watched from the fringes, never
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lifting a finger to stop them. This went on until
we graduated and I took the first scholarship out
:52.960 --> :59.040 of town to get as far away from them as possible.
I’m an analytical, detail-oriented introvert so I
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went for the only career that made sense. I became
a CPA. I was good at it and I worked harder than
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anyone else I knew. I’d reconnected with a girl
from school over social media and we hit it off
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pretty well. We decided to get married so I went
home for the first time since leaving high school
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but she moved in with me because I wasn’t going
to stay there. I was working for a large financial
:21.040 --> :26.400 institution when the market collapsed. We
had a good life. To be more precise my wife
:26.400 --> :31.280 had gotten used to the good life. We had a
nice house, my children went to good schools
:31.280 --> :36.000 and we could afford vacations away.
My wife didn’t take it well when things became
:36.000 --> :40.800 very tight. She hadn’t worked in years and
wasn’t willing to get a job to help out. She
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said that because I was the man, I had to provide
and since I wasn’t doing it, I wasn’t a real man.
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I was sure that she was going to leave me because
we were weeks away from losing our house. :52.640 --> :58.000
Then one day I ran into Books. I hadn’t
seen him in 15 years and I bump into him at
:58.000 --> :03.280 the lowest point in my life. That made our
meeting even worse as he was actually very
:03.280 --> :08.240 decent towards me and invited me to lunch.
His life was on the uptrend, which became
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apparent when lunch was at a place only my clients
could afford. He and jock had gone into business.
:14.000 --> :18.080 Jock was using his reputation from having
had a semi-decent sports career to get :18.080 --> :23.840
clients while Books was running the company.
He actually apologized for how he treated me
:23.840 --> :28.960 and asked if there was any way he could make
it up to me. I didn’t want anything from him,
:28.960 --> :34.320 a nice lunch and an apology wasn’t going to
change the past, no matter how much he’d changed.
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I made the mistake of telling my wife about the
lunch meeting and she jumped on my neck saying
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I should call him and tell him that I need a job.
I said no. But, after a week of her camping in my
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ear, I gave Books a call and said that I said
if he knew anyone looking for a CPA with my
:50.800 --> :56.160 experience I’d be glad for just an interview.
He got quiet for a moment and then asked how
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I’d feel if we did an interview right then and
there. It turns out that their CFO had died a few
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weeks ago and they’d been struggling to replace
him. The former CFO was actually his dad and the
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reason they couldn’t replace him was because there
wasn’t anyone they knew that they could trust.
:13.440 --> :17.920 Books trusted me and said that he’d talk to
Jock but he was sure they could take me on.
:17.920 --> :21.040 He got back to me the next day and
said that if I was willing to start :21.040 --> :27.200
that week they’d cover our moving costs and put
us in a company house until we were settled. My
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wife practically pushed me out the door saying
she’d handle things. She sold our house at a
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loss and packed up our life while I moved back
to heal my childhood traumas. At least that’s how
:37.600 --> :41.440 my wife saw it because she knew everything
those guys put me through in high school. :41.440 --> :45.760
When I arrived, I was immediately put
to work. Jock and Books were running the
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kind of business that allows them to import and
export things as well as manufacture products. So
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there are plenty of legitimate reasons for the
company to be doing business internationally.
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If meeting Books again was awkward, meeting Jock
again was just plain weird. He didn’t apologize
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or anything. But, he rarely made eye contact with
me. Luckily, he wasn’t around the business much
:09.040 --> :12.800 so I didn’t have to deal with him often.
Their business was doing well, :12.800 --> :17.840
they had a few good clients and there was a steady
stream of contracts from the State coming their
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way. I got a very nice salary and we were able to
get a house that was better than the one we sold.
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That first weekend when my wife arrived we were
invited to a dinner party with Jock and Books
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as well as their wives. It was as if my wife had
died and gone to heaven. These people had money.
:36.720 --> :41.520 In-house chefs kind of money. They spent
the whole night telling us how much we were
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going to love it, all the yacht trips and wine
country visits we were going to go on together.
:47.360 --> :52.240 I wasn’t really into all that but my wife
was happy and she made friends with Book’s
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and Jock’s wives because we were spending a lot
of time together. As much as I hate to admit it,
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after a while they became my friends as well. Our
history just vanished over the course of a year.
:04.080 --> :09.520 That in itself was not a reason to see red
flags. I was glad to be a part of a clique
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and so as far as my personal life was concerned I
was pretty much blind to reality. But after a year
:15.600 --> :20.240 there was one red flag I never picked up
for which I completely take the blame. :20.240 --> :24.880
Accountants and pimps have a lot in common.
We have a unique dress sense particular to
:24.880 --> :30.000 our profession, we’re surrounded by women
who despise us but still depend on us. :30.000 --> :35.360
And most of all we spent the majority of our time
calling people asking them, ‘where’s my money?’
:35.360 --> :40.400 In the first year of working for Books and
Jock, I’ve never had a client that paid late.
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Every single one of them paid on time. A lot of
them even paid early. That was a major red flag.
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There is no legitimate business under the sun
that doesn’t have clients who don’t pay them late.
:51.760 --> :56.480 And after more than a decade of doing books,
it’s something you plan for. The first month I
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got there, I was so relieved to just have a job;
I just thought we were having a great month. The
:01.440 --> :06.480 month after that I thought it was luck. By
the third month, I’d moved into a new house,
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bought a new car, and been having such a good
time that I didn’t recognize the anomaly. :12.480 --> :16.720
I’m ashamed to say that even after a year I
didn’t pick it up. But there are parts of every
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professional’s job that they do automatically
because it’s ingrained in them. For me,
:21.440 --> :26.160 it was my annual KYC and PEP checks.
Because we were dealing with a lot of :26.160 --> :31.280
international clients and we had contracts with
the State I had to make sure that we were still
:31.280 --> :35.920 coloring in the lines as far as our
financial transactions were concerned. :35.920 --> :43.360
A KYC is an anti-fraud and anti-money-laundering
procedure. It stands for Know Your Customer. Banks
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and large investment firms use it to make sure
that the Nigerian Prince they’re dealing with
:48.240 --> :53.840 is actually a Nigerian Prince. PEP
stands for Politically Exposed Person, :53.840 --> :58.640
which means that the person you’re dealing with
is either a family member or are themselves a
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politically connected person. People like this
are at a higher risk of bribery and corruption
:03.760 --> :09.200 so dealing with them is a cautious affair.
The reason I ran these checks annually :09.200 --> :14.960
is that sometimes international companies might
have a change of ownership like a private factory
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suddenly becoming a state-owned enterprise. Then
our dealings with them have to change financially
:20.000 --> :24.720 in terms of our reporting. Because it’s not
a good look if we’re buying two-way radios
:24.720 --> :29.200 from the Chinese government and supplying
it to the State for their security guards. :29.200 --> :35.600
When I started the process of running the checks,
red flags rained from the sky. The first flag was
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that the KYC or PEP checks done when our clients
were onboarded were bogus. Book’s dad was not
:42.320 --> :47.760 incompetent in the least. He was also a CPA
and the records I got when I took over were
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immaculate. So I couldn’t think of a reason why
he would be so sloppy. So I discreetly began doing
:55.120 --> :00.480 checks on our business as well as our clients.
Apart from the State, almost all of our other
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clients were subsidiaries owned by subsidiaries.
And that included ourselves. We were owned by
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some of our clients. Jock’s and Book’s company
were part of a group that they owned along with
:11.760 --> :17.760 one other person. The moment I figured out
who he was I knew I was in deep trouble. :17.760 --> :22.960
Smirk had made good use of his daddy’s connections
and managed to become a member of the state
:22.960 --> :28.080 legislature. He then used his influence
there to get fat contracts for the group
:28.080 --> :32.800 of companies him and his buddies own.
The problem I was stuck with was that :32.800 --> :37.520
I didn’t know who was on the other end of
these businesses we were dealing with. At
:37.520 --> :42.240 the very least I suspected we were dealing
with fraud and corruption. Every other evil
:42.240 --> :47.520 imaginable was on the other end of the spectrum.
Of course, as life would have it, all of this was
:47.520 --> :53.520 the least of my concerns. My wife had gotten
very used to this life and her new rich friends
:53.520 --> :57.600 that there was no way she was going to
give it up willingly. But I had to be :57.600 --> :03.280
sure. I knew that she talked to the other guys’
wives about everything so I had to be very
:03.280 --> :07.920 circumspect about what I was suggesting.
I took her out to a nice dinner and just
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generally talked about what we had been through
and how lucky we were to have ended up where we
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are. I told her that even though we were much
better off than before I sometimes wished for
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a simpler life. Maybe open a small practice. She
did what most women do in situations like this,
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she ignored me. But keep pressing the issue. I
started saying how I wasn’t happy anymore and
:30.240 --> :35.040 that I wanted my own thing. I didn’t want to
work for somebody else for the rest of my life.
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She looked me in the eye and flat out told me
that if I quit this job she would leave me. She
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said that she didn’t go through all the trouble of
getting me this job just for me to take her back
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to being poor. I had no idea what she was talking
about and I couldn’t have cared less that we were
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in public, but I politely reminded her that I was
the one who went to school and became a CPA. I got
:58.000 --> :03.200 this job because I was qualified for it.
That’s when she dropped the bomb. :03.200 --> :08.080
After I left town she and Books dated for a
while. But they still remained friends after
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they broke up and kept in touch. So when we were
about to lose our house she asked him to help me
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out with a job and even told him where he could
bump into me. She set it up so that I could have
:18.800 --> :24.640 this job and as far as she was concerned she
earned at least half of what I was making. :24.640 --> :28.800
That was all I needed to hear.
I knew that she was going to tell Books
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about our conversation so I just waited for that
call. When it came I was ready. I met with Books
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and Jock at one of their houses and told them that
I was hurt. I said that even though we had put
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our past behind us it felt wrong that they were
leaving me out of the bigger part of the business.
:44.880 --> :49.360 I explained that I was simply going through
the business due diligence when I found out
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we were part of a group. I said that since they
didn’t want to include me in the bigger business
:54.320 --> :58.880 I thought it best if I went and started
my own thing to be my own boss. :58.880 --> :02.800
There is one thing you can count
on in life and that’s greedy people :02.800 --> :08.320
thinking that other people are as greedy as they
are. They immediately saw this as an opportunity
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to get me willfully in their pockets. So they
offered me a stake in the large business. :14.240 --> :18.160
With what I had in mind I didn’t
want to be part of this sinking ship :18.160 --> :23.600
so I decided to reward my wife for her generous
role in getting me involved with these people.
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I suggested to her that I didn’t want her to worry
about her future in case something happened to me.
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That I wanted her to have the best life money
can buy. So I suggested that she be the one
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to have the shares in the group. She was more
than happy and her ex-boyfriend didn’t object.
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We put up the house as collateral to buy into
all the companies and the loan was to be paid
:45.680 --> :49.920 off with the dividends from the shares.
Once all the paperwork was finished I :49.920 --> :55.120
started the hard part of my scheme. I had used the
intervening months to gather as much information
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as I could about who our clients actually were. I
was both glad and terrified about what I learned.
:01.760 --> :05.440 Terrified because these were the
kind of people who politicians :05.440 --> :11.120
disappear. But glad because it meant that I
would justify my actions when the time came.
:11.120 --> :16.320 Now here is a free lesson in accounting and
fraud. Human beings are imperfect. Even with
:16.320 --> :21.440 the best software in the world, people
pay late, make mistakes, and even display
:21.440 --> :27.120 catastrophic incompetence over the simplest
of things. So remember this, if you ever come
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across someone’s books that are perfect, I mean
absolutely perfect, they’re cooking those books.
:34.480 --> :40.480 Book’s dad was smart and he knew this so he
intentionally allowed mistakes and errors to
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appear in their books. But once I knew what the
game was it was easy to see what was going on.
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They had set up a group because they needed to
shield the payments that they received and made.
:50.800 --> :55.600 Let's use the two-way radio example again.
Let’s say they were getting those radios
:55.600 --> :00.960 from the Chinese government who was using a
company that used to be a private entity but
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is now state-owned. The one company in the group
would then sell it to one of the other companies
:06.480 --> :11.680 in the group, which would sell it to a
third, who would then sell it to the State.
:11.680 --> :15.760 That way the State can claim that they
sourced their product from a local business
:15.760 --> :20.960 that sources their things from another local
business. This also hinders the money that the
:20.960 --> :25.680 state paid for those radios from being
traced back to the Chinese government. :25.680 --> :28.000
Awesome. Now that I had access :28.000 --> :32.720
to all the accounts of the group I was able to
make direct payments from the first receiver
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to the end user and vice versa. So if the state
paid us for a contract, instead of running that
:38.400 --> :43.600 money through two other companies before it
got to China, I paid it straight to China.
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I did the same for a lot of the other unsavory
characters that the company was dealing with.
:48.720 --> :54.320 After I’d done a few of these transactions I
began sending anonymous tips to the authorities
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telling them to examine some of the transactions
that were taking place. What I had hoped they
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would begin to notice is that the State paid us
$500 000.00 on Monday and then on Tuesday, we paid
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$500 000.00 to a company owned by the Chinese
government or some other nefarious organization.
:13.360 --> :18.240 We all know that there is nothing truly
anonymous these days but I made sure that
:18.240 --> :23.360 there was some way to trace the tips back to
me. And once again I waited. I honestly expected
:23.360 --> :28.640 to be arrested and then have the whole thing
blown wide open, and in exchange for immunity,
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I would testify against all of them. Instead,
I got a lunch invitation over Facebook from
:34.080 --> :38.160 a friend from college who was in town.
I show up at the restaurant and the waiter
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tells me which table to go to while I wait for
my friend. No big deal. I wait but they’re not
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showing up. Just as I was about to message them
some guy sits down and puts a badge on the table
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and tells me to greet him like he was my friend.
This was the last thing I was hoping would
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happen. I knew that even if I gave them all the
books and records it wasn’t going to be enough.
:01.520 --> :05.840 They were going to want more. And
that’s exactly what he asked for. :05.840 --> :10.640
He basically threatened me saying that even
though I made the tips, I was also the one
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who made the payments without the KYC and PEP
checks. He even used the T-word. He said that
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they could prove that I funded terrorists. I was
just the CPA. There was no way I was getting in
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the room when the deals were being made. This
was also not worth dying over. So I negotiated.
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It was a terrible deal, but it was the only one
with the best chance of me not going to prison
:34.800 --> :40.240 or ending up in small pieces in a box.
Now Smirk was no genius but he was smart
:40.240 --> :44.000 enough to not have any direct ownership
of any of the companies in the group. :44.000 --> :50.000
Those shares were split four ways. The two largest
portions belonged to Books and Jock. They each had
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35%. The tiniest portion belonged to my wife which
was 1%, and the second biggest portion belonged to
:57.360 --> :05.360
another company. That company was wholly owned
by Smirk. That company had 29%. This gave him
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enough shares to reap significant benefits but
he was shy of a controlling interest. Which
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meant that his company could claim ignorance of
any of the dealings that happened in the group.
:16.320 --> :20.400 My job was to get him to implicate
himself in the dealings. :20.400 --> :25.280
I had no idea what I was going to do. I
was so desperate that I even thought of
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kidnapping him and forcing him to confess. But
luck was on my side and it was an election year.
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I realized that I was never going to get him to
implicate himself so the next best option was to
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get him to give up his friends. Unlike them, he
wasn’t in it for the money. The money was good,
:42.800 --> :48.240 but he had family money. He was all about
his reputation, ever since high school. :48.240 --> :53.200
Going after him directly during an election
season was too obvious. I started leaving
:53.200 --> :58.640 tips with some of the non-local journalists
about the relationships that Books and Jock had
:58.640 --> :05.200
and the businesses they were in bed with. This
time I made sure to be truly anonymous. As they
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dug around the periphery more and more hyenas
started creeping in. Until the connection was
:10.960 --> :16.160
made between the honorable member of the state
legislature and his high school buddies. Once
:16.160 --> :21.760 that happened the guys with the badges had
no choice but to swoop in and make arrests.
:21.760 --> :27.440 The reason? It was going to look really
bad for everyone if it became public news
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that public funds were being used to buy security
equipment from a hostile nation’s government and
:33.520 --> :38.880
other enterprises involved in illicit dealings.
But it gets better. Because people needed to go to
:38.880 --> :44.080
jail there had to be a trial. And the only person
who had enough evidence and first-hand experience
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to testify was me. The conditions of my deal were
still in place and I testified. This of course led
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to the company going under and its shareholders
losing everything. Including my wife. :57.360 --> :02.400
My deal was to go into witness protection.
That meant that everything attached to my name
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couldn’t follow me. So the debt that was taken
out against my house was no longer my problem but
:07.760 --> :12.960
rather my wife’s. This was amplified by the fact
that the debt was incurred for the purpose of
:12.960 --> :18.320 gaining an asset in her favor. So that bank
took the house and she was left with nothing
:18.320 --> :23.520 and still had to pay off the rest of the debt.
The three stooges went to prison but they met
:23.520 --> :28.480 unfortunate ends because their other friends
didn’t want to take the risk of them talking.
:28.480 --> :33.440 I was relocated to a place where not only no
one knows me, but I’m not allowed to go near
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anything that resembles my previous profession.
All in all. Marry for love, not money. :08.400 --> :12.800
I had a bright future. At least that’s
what my grades in high school indicated.
:12.800 --> :16.240 I was well on my way to getting a
scholarship that was going to pay for :16.240 --> :21.920
everything. This meant a lot because my family
didn’t have a lot. My dad had a small business as
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an exterminator and that was all we had to support
him, my mom, myself, and my three younger sisters.
:29.040 --> :33.840 I wanted to be a writer so I started my own
blog where I wrote short stories and did some
:33.840 --> :39.520 experimental writing using classical writers
as templates and doing spin-offs of their work.
:39.520 --> :44.320 I never got any money for it and I always
gave credit to the original source material. :44.320 --> :48.480
At the beginning of my final year of high
school, we got an English assignment to come
:48.480 --> :53.520 up with a story. This was something I could
do in my sleep and normally I wouldn’t have
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worried too much about it. But my English teacher
was the same one I had the previous year and he
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despised me. The main reason was that I was an A
student in his class that never paid attention,
:05.680 --> :10.080 but worse still I’d correct him from
time to time when he got things wrong. :10.080 --> :16.000
He hated me for that and was always looking for
a reason to give me fewer marks. Because of that,
:16.000 --> :22.080 I had to write the most impeccable story
imaginable to fit his ridiculous standards. :22.080 --> :27.600
I spent weeks writing this story and submitted it, confident of my next A.
:27.600 --> :28.960 I got an F. :28.960 --> :34.560
And I was brought before the school disciplinary
committee for plagiarism. Apparently, he thought
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my story was so good that there was no way that
I had written it. So he plugged it into Copyscape
:40.480 --> :46.080
and every other plagiarism check he could find
and found that I indeed did plagiarize some of
:46.080 --> :53.840
my story. Some of the elements and even phrases I
used in my assignment came from a blog. My blog.
:53.840 --> :59.920
I didn’t realize that I had reused some of my old
material but that fact was it was still my work. :59.920 --> :04.960
Obviously, as a teenager, I wasn’t using my
real name on my blog so it looked like I had
:04.960 --> :10.480 stolen someone else’s work. It took forever
to convince the board that it was my blog,
:10.480 --> :15.920 I even had to log in during the hearing so
everyone could see that it was my work. I
:15.920 --> :21.280 think he already knew that and the moment I
proved it was my blog he fired his next shot. :21.280 --> :26.720
He started explaining how the kind of stories I
was writing were stealing from classical writers
:26.720 --> :32.160
and that this was just the kind of person I was.
It didn’t help that I wrote some dark and graphic
:32.160 --> :36.960
stories which the committee didn’t like. I had
a hard time trying to convince them that I was
:36.960 --> :43.040
paying homage and experimenting but my English
teacher just kept twisting what I was saying. The
:43.040 --> :47.600
school board didn’t want any more to do with me
and they also didn’t want to have my blog and my
:47.600 --> :54.480
writing associated with the school so they found
me guilty and placed it on my academic record. :54.480 --> :58.240
Bye-bye scholarship. No school wanted anything to do with me.
:58.240 --> :02.400 I had no choice but to go into the
family business. After a few years, :02.400 --> :08.160
I got the hang of it and I was doing well enough
that my dad let me go on some jobs on my own. :08.160 --> :12.800
Where I live it was common for
snakes to show up randomly at places. :12.800 --> :16.880
Most people didn’t really have a problem with
snakes and could deal with the small ones
:16.880 --> :22.720 easily. The bigger ones sometimes needed an
exterminator or pest control to come out.
:22.720 --> :27.600
One day I got a call to deal with a pretty big
snake that was found in a small supermarket.
:27.600 --> :32.960 I got to the site and handled the snake like
a professional. On my way out I see my old
:32.960 --> :39.440
English teacher. He was pale from his hair to
his boots. He’d been hiding the whole time,
:39.440 --> :45.280
not wanting to see the snake. Who would I be if I
didn’t take advantage of my enemy’s deepest fear? :45.280 --> :49.840
I wasn’t just going to take the snake and
throw it at him. No. I wanted him to suffer. :50.560 --> :56.880
Over the next few months, I began stockpiling some
small animals and other things that attracted the
:56.880 --> :02.160 local snakes, as well as some nonpoisonous
snakes of various sizes that I found. :02.160 --> :07.120
Once I was sure that my collection was adequate
I’d drive past his house and release a few of
:07.120 --> :12.320
the smaller animals into his yard. I did this
routinely until I was sure that there were enough
:12.320 --> :18.240
of them that they’d made a habitat for themselves
in or around his house. Then I started releasing
:18.240 --> :24.320
the smaller snakes. He didn’t have anybody living
with him so I wasn’t too concerned about children. :24.320 --> :28.800
I knew that he wasn’t going to call my dad’s
business first but rather go to one of the other
:28.800 --> :34.400
exterminators in the area. There wasn’t a lot but
he had a few options. Once one of them got rid of
:34.400 --> :40.480
the snakes, I’d go back and start the process
with slightly bigger rodents and snakes. With
:40.480 --> :45.600
the bigger creatures appearing at his house he
called a different exterminator because obviously,
:45.600 --> :52.160
the previous ones didn’t do a proper job. I kept
doing this until eventually, our phone rang. :52.160 --> :56.640
When I got there he was a mess. I don’t
think he’d been sleeping properly or even
:56.640 --> :00.080 eating. I listened to him tell me
about how these things kept coming :00.080 --> :05.760
back bigger and bigger. I told him to leave
the house for a few days while I took care of
:05.760 --> :13.360
everything. Over the next few days, I discreetly
began modifying his house. I created nests for
:13.360 --> :18.800
some of the bigger rodents as well as areas for
the bigger snakes to stay. This included the gap
:18.800 --> :23.120
between the bathtub and the floor. I had to take
out some of the tiles for that and replace them
:23.120 --> :28.800
in such a way that the snakes could just push
them loose. I carved a nest inside his sofa,
:28.800 --> :34.880
put one behind the stove and the fridge, and a
bunch of other places. He had a geyser in his
:34.880 --> :40.880
roof and I put the biggest snake there which was
just above his bathroom, connected to his bedroom. :40.880 --> :43.680
I called him to tell him he could move back in after I
:43.680 --> :45.920 made sure that nothing was too out of place.
:45.920 --> :49.920 I don’t know what exactly happened. I
wasn’t there when everything erupted but
:49.920 --> :54.000 from what I heard and saw afterward
this is what I think happened. :54.000 --> :59.120
Sometime in the middle of the night the big one
fell through the roof and landed on his bed.
:59.120 --> :04.320
That he didn’t get a heart attack and die was a
miracle. He somehow found the strength to run to
:04.320 --> :09.760 the bathroom to hide, but the state that the
bathroom was in when I saw it later suggests
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that there was some kind of fight. After that, he
ran out of the house into the street screaming his
:15.200 --> :20.320
head off. At least that’s what I heard from his
neighbors. Apparently, he was sent somewhere with
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cushioned rooms and self-hugging jackets. The fact
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hello everybody my name is Stephen and welcome back to the story time Channel
without wasting any time let's get into our stories of the day must attend
interview in person I was working for a university in the UK as an admissions
officer when I decided to apply for the role of senior admissions officer in the
same office I submitted my application and didn't hear anything for a while a
week or so later I was abroad for a week to visit my family when I received an
email to confirm that I got invited for an interview the next day at 9 a.m. I
replied and asked if we could postpone the interview until Monday because I'd
be back by then but they refused the lady who refused was my current manager
and she knew I was abroad so I didn't think this was very fair I asked if we
could do the interview over Skype instead but she also refused this the
interview time was set and if I was interested I will be there otherwise
it's my loss I was pissed off as I couldn't believe how inflexible they
were I started rereading the email again and decided to go through the
attachments to see what I had to prepare
for the interview I noticed they added a
travel expense form which stated that if you travel from five miles or further
you could claim your expenses being abroad in Europe is definitely over five
miles so I decided to drive to the airport booked the last flight which was
350 pounds for a one-way flight got a cab from the airport and stayed in a
hotel near the university as my house would have been at the other side of
London I made it to the interview in time and they were shocked to see me as
they obviously didn't expect me the interview went well but I did not get
the job when I handed in my expense claim form I was advised that it only
applied to UK travel and they refused to pay I asked them why they sent me the
claim form when they knew I was travelling in from abroad and said that
nowhere on the form it stated that it was only for UK travel they said it was
their policy but I was not allowed to view said policy I was do a lot of money
so I decided to file a Freedom of Information request for them to provide
the policy this appeared to be a his storico policy and as they could not
send me the evidence they decided to pay me my travel expenses which came to a
total of 550 plus pounds the policy has been updated since so if you saw that
travel expense form would you end up taking the chance here let me know if
you would bite the bullet and go for it banking all your hope on that they would
actually reimburse you pay more for less food okay so I work for a major
restaurant chain as a server given the ongoing situation we had been doing
takeout and delivery only at the time of this story also we were honoring our
online only deals in an effort to increase business normally our food is
fairly expensive without being a fine-dining place these online deals
would discount the total cost around 50%
great value I was working the front host stand and therefore answering phones
I had one customer called to order pickup and he promptly cut me off midway
through my answer speech this immediately irritates me but I take a
breath and soldier on I just continue expecting a certain type of customer /
interaction at this point customer jumps right into the order so I politely
backtrack him to take the phone number and name the customer wanted a double
order of wings and a medium pizza ok no problem I put it through with some
difficulty as the customer isn't making it easy having to clarify or repeat
certain questions etc but this is part of the job and he's not being outright
rude just frustrating finally I gave him his total approximately $51 I then
mentioned to him that right now we have a special that has three pounds of wings
and two medium pizzas for $49.99 but he cut me off before I could get much
further than just wanted to let you know that right now we have a special okay
fine I'm tired of arguing I put it through as requested of course I
proceeded to tell my colleagues about this guy and how he even turned me down
trying to save him money despite being short and what felt to me
as entitled during the exchange we all have a laugh when customer
arrives I choose to take his payment first and then bring out his food as he
accepts it I point out that for next time
what I was trying to tell you about the special is that you could have gotten
another pound of wings and another pizza for a dollar and a half lass he looked
at me like I had three heads and sheepishly mentioned maybe he should
have let me tell him about it yeah you think if I was the caller I
probably would have at least heard him out but I can also kind of understand
because I feel like most of the time those specials that are presented at
least in my experience haven't really been worth entertaining plus you never
know what kind of situation the caller was in when he was making this order and
acting that way move your car this is a short and simple story that
happened years ago when I still lived at home I was 20 at the time and my sister
was 17 still in high school I was about to leave for work and notice she parked
her car behind mine so I asked her if she could move her car to let me out I
figured that she could just Park her car where mine was once I move out of the
way she rolled her eyes and for whatever reason had a slight attitude about it
and told me move it yourself if you're the one that has to leave she couldn't
even be bothered to give me her keys for me to do so
so I did I moved her car and parked it a mile down the road and my grandparents
drive away and walked back I put her keys back and didn't say anything as I
grabbed mine and just left made me late to work that day but I didn't care next
time I asked her to move her car she begrudgingly did it takes what a minute
to move your car it's a slight inconvenience sure but just go ahead and
move the car it's no big deal parents forbid me to use my preferred name at
school I'll just keep adding letters to the end of it I came out to my parents
as a trans man before the start of my freshman year of high school and they
were extremely hostile about it so much so that they forbade me from using my
chosen name at school or even with my friends well I thought that was a load
of crap and changed my name in the school system on the first day it had my
legal name listed but for most purposes my preferred name was used
after about three months they found out about it and were pissed so they said to
me Opie you have to change her name in the school right now so I was like okay
I will so I changed it from Bob not my actual name to Bob with a second B the
next day they checked the homework portal again and discovered I had indeed
changed it but not to my legal name Opie we told you to change it back to your
legal name no you told me to change it and I did my god they were pissed I was
grounded for a month and my phone was taken but it was totally worth it so
after that every time they told me to change it I would tack on another letter
by the end of the school year my name was Baba ba ba ba ba ba ba ba eventually
they stopped grounding me and just gave up I was allowed to use my preferred
name the rest of high school provided it wasn't around them note my mom has
started coming around and I'm planning on cutting off my dad once she divorces
him for being a piece of garbage including what he did to me well I'm
glad that Opie's mom started coming around to it and frankly it's just quite
unfortunate to hear about the father and also I was reading the comments and one
person said they're lucky you didn't start adding OHS to Bob now that would
have been funny pizza party screw-ups so when I first
started college I worked in the small pizza shop the students could use their
meal plans on if you don't know what a meal plan is it's basically you pay a
set amount per semester and can swipe a car to eat wherever you want with rules
depending on how much you paid now I have to say pizza was awesome
high-quality ingredients interesting combos of toppings and really good
salads but we were in a Test Kitchen this brand had never been anything other
than to sit down and enjoy style of pizza so turning it into a fast food
place was difficult we weren't that busy normally good days $800 bad days maybe
250 when he came to see how we were holding up the brand owner the one who
created the entire store name told us to only set enough dough to use that day
absolutely no more we made the large sicilian-style and it
took four point three pounds of dope or pizza if you didn't want it to be thin
places you drown it to 4.5 so any given day we to go through roughly sixty to
eighty pounds we had to let it rise for a few hours because it was a yeast base
now on any day this was no big deal get down to half a pizza stretch of
dough and let it rise easy until the end of the semester came the compliance now
till this point we weren't something as much as our big boss would have liked so
for the last two months of the semester he was in house breathing down our necks
for the slightest thing you could see as waste
he was also pressing us to sell as many whole pizzas as we could oh boy
did we for those of you who have never had a meal plan no one uses all of the
meals they've paid for most people end up with like twenty to thirty left
they'll buy a bunch of food for a party and be done with it but there are ones
that end with near 100 that is where this is going I worked from 9 a.m. to 6
p.m. these last few weeks cuz my finals were done and it was easy money so I had
heard people saying how they were going to use their meals and just buy a bunch
of food I even offered to take down orders if they wanted to let us know
ahead of time by the last day I had orders for over 65 pizzas from multiple
people being the good employee I was I told our big boss about it he was
impressed and even set out extra for the day when we started to prep I also knew
it was not even close to enough most college kids don't think about calling
ahead for really big orders they just expect to be able to get it so there
were going to be plenty of those kinds of people he said the words that doomed
our kitchen if we need more as the day goes we will get it as needed 6
employees and our kitchen manager will get to his role in a bit just gave up
and went with it so the day went on 11 o'clock came and immediately we had
orders non-stop for three and four pizzas each
we had pre-orders already prepped and rising so each time we took chunks under
the dough laid out our got more and more nervous by 3 we were
out of the raise dough and were scrambling to get the chilled stuff to
rise enough to stretch four o'clock and all the other restaurants around us had
closed down because they were out of supplies and it went home we were still
catching up our big boss is red-faced pissed off and trying to blame us for
all his bad planning then the final blow came in the form of two frat boys and
their entire house they asked if there was a limit on the number they could
order I was on the register and looked at by my kitchen manager call him Steven
and asked he got the most devilish smile and said as long as you don't mind a
weight we can sell you as many as you can buy these two mad lads bought 25
pizzas apiece they were having a final party and wanted to blow the rest of
their meals on it as soon as I called out the order to our big boss in the
back all I hear is a frantic how many did you say he comes running up front
looks over the receipt and all the colour drains from his face he tries
offering a refund but it has to go through the school and can take over a
week had to deal with a Brad mom and a child learning this so in the end he had
to stay and help us make them it took over 6 hours to cook them all Steven
emptied the ingredients all over their pizzas so they were absolutely loaded we
all got paid overtime and Steven quit the following week listen to your
employees epilogue on our last day Steven pulled us all into his office and
gave us all fifty dollars out of his own pocket because we never should have had
to have put up with that brain-dead butt monkey and that he was sorry we had to
to this day one of my favourite managers
edit I should mention that when the next semester started the entire restaurant
had been remodeled a completely new one was in its place with Steven back as the
manager looking Lee the cat that caught the canary he said big boss pulled this
place out and we were free to choose the one that replaced it he offered us our
jobs back with a 50-cent raise we sold almost four times our daily business
the other three places were a little salty we were doing so well but it was
all good never had another problem like that again I like the happy ending the
story had and med manager has a devilishly good name I'll be happy to
assist you this happened to my brother and not me but is still one of the best
stories I've ever heard my brother used to work at chick-fil-a as a cashier and
would take the customers order one day he had a Karen come in first she was
just fine until she got her food she complained that the bun was bad and she
wanted a new one my brother was going to
a sister until she said just do your job properly and get my bun he shrugged and
agreed he gets a brand new bun goes to the register and rings it up he looks at
her and says that'll be 27 cents she looked at him really confused and asked
why she had to pay to which my brother said I'm just doing my job properly I
feel like if somebody's gonna come out and try and help you why would you be
rude and dismissive it's not like the cashier made the order travel the
customer sites the latest fad of posts about company travel reminded me of this
little gem I was working for an MSP that had customer sites close to my home I
would arrange to be on-site at about 9:30 this meant that I would get a
lie-in and leave my house at around 9:00
to get to the customer site I would then claim on expenses the travel from the
customer back to the office this worked fine until we got a new manager who
stated that we had to start work at the time in our contract and we could only
claim mileage to and from the office the contract stated that our start time was
8:30 and I stated that it would be a waste of my time
driving to the office turning around and
driving to a customer site he was having
none of this so I would arrange with the
customer that I would be on-site at 9:30
and I then proceeded to clock in at 8:25 get to my desk sit down and have a cup
of coffee and read my emails I then drove to the customers site did the work
and drove back after claiming for double the amount of travel expenses
were asked but I pointed to the email that had been sent out this lasted until
the manager changed who saw sense and changed the system back to how it was
personally this kind of thinking really frustrates me I feel like they equated
to you're not doing enough work if you're going from your house straight to
the customer you have to be in the office it's like people who have a night
based sleep schedule and people get upset at them for sleeping during the
day it just makes no sense if they're productive and it's efficient for that
person and it saves money I don't get why you would be so rigid about it but
with that being said that's all the stories we have for today so what I want
to know is which of these stories was your personal favorite and why let me
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aita for not caring if my adopted sister feels included I 23f have a biological
brother 24 and an adopted sister 27 she was adopted when I was a year old and
she was around four for most of my life my sister received all the attention
from our parents and my brother and I were just there my parents would bend
over backwards to make sure she felt like a part of the family which is great
except they didn't bother to make my brother and I feel included when she was
19 we found her biological family and they have a great relationship now but I
feel like this completely ruined our own family Dynamic our dad died five years
ago and it seems like she just moved on from our dad to the other dad and is
also slowly moving on from our family to her biological family her biological
mom's side also seems to have a problem with us because we are white and my
sister is black so every time we try to be involved in activities there are
always Jabs at us and I think they encourage her to become distant from us
my mom still acts like my sister is the center of our world though the last two
thanksgivings we had to have family Thanksgiving dinner days before because
my sister was going to have Thanksgiving with her biof family same for the
previous Christmas we exchanged gifts by
the 20th and my sister didn't even bring
my nephew as was at his bio Grandma's my final straw has been a trip we had been
planning in honor of my dad on the 5-year anniversary of his passing we
were going to plant an orchard in a certain African country my dad worked
and lived in for years and we visited many times planting this was something
my dad had planned before he died and had it planned to at so we would only be
executing his plan we had agreed that the 5-year anniversary felt like the
perfect time except now my sister's biological sister will be getting
married around the same time not same day but it means my sister can only join
us after the actual anniversary day my mom says it's okay we can plant the
trees a week or too later and she actually said that when we plant the
trees doesn't make much difference we'll
still be honoring him but that my sister will only ever get to attend her
sister's wedding once she says it's a week's worth of work anyway so it's not
like we were going to be done on the actual day this made me mad and I have
told them I will be breaking the ground on the actual anniversary day with or
without any of them she said I was being inconsiderate and that I should think
about how this will make my sister feel like she doesn't matter to the family my
sister has been part of our family the same amount of time I have been only she
can exclude herself my brother keeps flip-flopping between coming with me to
be there for the anniversary or waiting for my mom and sister some days later
and I honestly can't also blame him aita
for insisting I am not waiting on anyone the trip is in 2 months | give me a good story on AITAfornotcaringifmyadoptedsisterfeelsincludedorig |
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today we've got a great malicious compliance Story
by the book we'll get into that in a bit but first
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it looks perfect on my monitor okay I can work
with that working at Big Co with lots of agents in
:12.120 --> :17.800
the field agents had pretty decent 15-in laptops
to work with customers in the field new project
:17.800 --> :22.280
comes up to give the field people some better
tools project owner and other stakeholders haven't
:22.280 --> :28.240
been pleased with the way the old apps work looks
like it was scraped from a 3270 terminal pretty
:28.240 --> :35.320
close but well before my time they make sure I
hire a real Graphics designer to develop the GUI
:35.320 --> :42.720
fine I can do that interviews offers made designer
arrives Sue is nice programming team is excited to
:42.720 --> :48.640
start looks all good as a gesture of Welcome to
our it group get her the developer setup souped
:48.640 --> :55.840
up 15-in laptop docking station two big monitors
developers like it they get to put Windows all
:55.840 --> :01.920
over the place life is good Sue seems to be happy
pretty pretty soon her the lead developer and the
:01.920 --> :07.280 business liaison go on to make a great GUI
experience time passes and I check in with
:07.280 --> :14.080
the project manager going okay on schedule and we
have the GUI walkthrough in the morning super I
:14.080 --> :18.880
ask about how that's going to work built a mockup
as static web pages they can just click through
:18.880 --> :25.200
the pages Dev team gave some fake data for the
dropdowns sounds like it's under control I go off
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to see what fires may be getting started elsewhere
next day come back from my last meeting of the
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afternoon email box is showing full red alert
Lotus Notes unread emails and my message light is
:36.880 --> :43.560
on my desk phone before I can Mouse click my way
into the mess my boss comes into my office op what
:43.560 --> :49.800
exactly happened in the demo today no idea project
manager says it was all set business liaison was
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good I had other priority ones so I skipped it
they said poor move get on top of the disaster now
:56.840 --> :03.920
F project manager business liaison Sue and started
asking questions demo in the conference room went
:03.920 --> :10.080
fine they sent the link out to the field people
to look at field people had some issues like what
:10.080 --> :15.400
well a few said it was completely unusable said
sue she turns pulls up a browser window on one
:15.400 --> :22.800
of her big monitors this is it a very nice clear
GUI it looked a little busy to me lots of boxes
:22.800 --> :28.520
on one page I said hey can you drag that down to
your laptop screen Yep looks pretty crowded now
:28.520 --> :35.400
that it's 1/3 the size Sue it looks a little tight
she says yes but it looks perfect on my monitor as
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she slides it back to the big monitor I say people
in here have 15-in screens she says well we should
:41.840 --> :49.320
get them bigger ones it looks perfect here and
I'm the GUI expert Sai second Sai tell the project
:49.320 --> :55.320
manager to meet me in my office tell the others
to go home long unhappy conversation with project
:55.320 --> :01.840
manager much arm waving Etc may have used the FW
a few times times maybe a few times in the same
:01.840 --> :08.400
sentence bottom line was going to be hard to move
Sue from the works perfect on my monitor next day
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Su comes storming into my office what the freaky
he freak happened to my freaking monitors some
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freak wad freaking stole them that freaker breath
and they left a freaking note what the freak does
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eat the dog food freaking mean wow she could be
management material I said oh that's a phrase we
:26.960 --> :32.880
use eat our own dog food every time we bu build a
new system that has user impact we are the first
:32.880 --> :40.640
users so when it's bad we get to see it first Su
yells what is that mean to me no FWS maybe not
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management material it means that your users have
15in screens you had a giant screen and kept going
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it looks perfect on your monitor now you have
15-in screens to see what they see you know eat
:54.120 --> :02.240
the dog food suicide and walked away 4 days later
the revised GUI demo went very well and she got
:02.240 --> :08.040
her monitors back monitor was from the it storage
area they were happy to get rid of two of the old
:08.040 --> :13.440
monitors unamused when they came back you know I'm
just impressed that you got all the way to doing
:13.440 --> :19.640
a GUI designing job where you're making these
mockups for prospective clients and you have no
:19.640 --> :25.280
concept of not everybody is going to have the same
resolution screen I mean this kind of thing even
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goes beyond GUI it's kind of just a design staple
it's like the advanced of how does a piece of art
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look when you're up close to it and how does it
look when you're stepping back away from it I'm
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not saying that you have to be an art major to
do computer GUI design but knowing some basic art
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principles and how they can apply in situations
like that for GUI design certainly wouldn't hurt
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my question is is it better from the get Cod to
design from the lowest end users perspective first
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or design it for the highest end and then try
to retrofit it back down to where it would work
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for a low-end user feels like the second would be
kind of harder wouldn't it also hi I'm Steven and
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don't move okay there is a particular delivery
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app that I use the unfortunate thing is that they
direct the drivers by what seems to be the fastest
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route but it isn't always logical my condo just
so happens to be located right next to a senior
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living community and it takes the drivers there
I know this and put directions on my orders I
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said by the phone because the app is broken and I
cannot contact the driver until they reach out to
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me it is an incredibly quick fix three immediate
left turns just annoying the other day I placed
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an order and got a new driver who went to the
senior community and spent 30 minutes wandering
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around getting farther and farther away from where
I accurately was on the map before finally calling
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me I told him exactly what he needed to do go back
to the main road and turn left then turn left into
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the very first driveway with the for sale sign
next to it then make an immediate left as soon
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as you enter the complex that is where I am he
said okay and hung up I then watched as he went
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back to the main road and turned right repeated
calls went unanswered and I watched for another 30
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minutes while he went everywhere but the direction
toward my home he finally called me again and I
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was able to get him pointed in the right direction
and he even found my complex he then proceeded
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to discard all other information I provided and
began wandering my complex he was getting close
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so I headed toward my door now it is important to
note that I am disabled hence the heavy delivery
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app usage and everything from the belly button
down is mostly numb I don't know I need to use
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the bathroom until it is near emergency status
he was almost at my door when the Feeling Hit
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And I figured I'd have my order momentarily so I
didn't rush to the bathroom in the time it took
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for the app to refresh he had walked right right
past me and was nearly on the opposite side of
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the complex at this point I decided to go to the
bathroom and he could now wait for me just as I
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was about to stand up my phone started ringing
I answered as I stood and the exertion made me
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release the contents of my bowels into my pants
the man was screaming into the phone that I gave
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him directions when I looked down and saw a puddle
forming on the floor at my feet I muttered you've
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got to be freaking kidding me the man heard me
and shouted don't move then hung up the damage
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was done I already had a mess to clean up and it
took this idiot 2 hours to go 300 ft so he can
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smell the fruit of his labors it still took him a
while but what was really unfortunate for him is
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that the order included alcohol so he had to scan
my ID and my porch light doesn't work I could have
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used my phone light but decided I didn't want
to he saw what was going on at my feet and was
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trying as hard as he he could to get out of there
hey you wanted to find me and now you did stay a
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while he eventually got my ID to scan and he ran
back to his car while I cleaned myself up the
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drinks may have been warm but they were delicious
when it comes to the times where I have used like
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door Dash or Uber Eats or something like that it
becomes a little bit of a gambling game on whether
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or not they'll find my place because there's a
couple turns before getting onto the main road
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for whatever reason although very clearly on the
GPS it marks just go straight way too often I've
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watched people on the map see this turn come up
and just go that must be it the most frustrating
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thing is when they call from the completely wrong
address and are like I can't find your address
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yeah maybe cuz you're on the wrong freaking street
bro maybe I'm management material our next story
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is by the book I work for my country's Customs
Administration we basically do what you would
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expect anything that comes into my country is
subject to duties levies and taxes and the goods
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can be inspected to ensure all the paperwork filed
actually conforms with reality certain differences
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exist between private and Commercial Goods most
private goods are not subject to customs duties
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exceptions being meat Alcohol Tobacco and a few
other products but other than that Customs law
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applies in every aspect of both commercial and
private entities crossing the border meaning
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that many regulations usually reserved for truck
drivers and professionals can be easily fed when
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it comes to private individuals this was something
a particularly nasty traveler had to realize when
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he bumped heads with my Superior I was working a
night shift at a rather small Border Station in
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and my Superior had activated in a regularly
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manned Border Station not all border stations are
permanently manned and opening a Border Station
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outside of its assigned working hours is referred
to as activating it it was 3:40 in the morning
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and we didn't see too many cars the ones that
crossed over were foreigners who drove into our
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country for work many of them lived in the Border
region knew the procedures and played ball some
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were friendly some a bit grumpy unsurprising if
you have to get up that early but all of them did
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as we asked show some identification answer our
questions about what's in your vehicle and maybe
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endure us taking a look inside and then it arrived
a black Porsche Cayenne until then I didn't even
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know that Porsche made SUVs in the por show was
Mark not his real name Mark basically looked like
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Christian Bale looked like while playing Patrick
baitman in the movie American Psycho the suit the
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haircut his briefcase everything indicated that he
had money and wanted people to know about it which
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is fine people should enjoy having nice things
and signaling is a part of social interaction
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we treat everyone the same and we expected this
encounter to go as uneventfully as the previous
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ones boy were we wrong we nicely asked him for his
ID card or passport which he handed over we then
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asked mark what he was transporting in the car
when he stopped we saw that there were several
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cardboard boxes in the trunk and on the back seat
which he answered with I don't see how that is any
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of your business bad mistake it was in fact not
only our business but the very nature of our job
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and since Mark had not only failed to answer but
had also failed the attitude test we ordered him
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to open the trunk he got out of the car and opened
his mouth again I will open the trunk but just so
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you know I want this done by the book you touching
my stuff is unacceptable to begin with so if you
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damage anything or I find as much as a smudge I
will put you in a world of hurt now confirm that
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you understood me now at this point my Superior
stepped forward we have understood you quite well
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now I just need to know whether you were serious
when you said that you want this to be done by the
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book can you confirm that you want this done by
the book Mark then sealed his Fate by answering in
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the affirmative upon which my Superior updated him
on the situation Splendid according to customs law
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the person crossing the border is responsible for
opening and unloading the vehicle he or she drives
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must unpack all containers present the goods for
inspection repackage them and reload the vehicle
:16.840 --> :21.560 when it comes to non-commercial Crossings we
usually do all that as to not inconvenience
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private Travelers but since you want this done by
the book you will have to do it failure to comply
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allows me to keep you in your vehicle at this
Border Station for as long as I want any kind
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of resistance allows me to restrain you and now
get to work and make sure you don't accidentally
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damage your own car or its contents Mark then
had to lift several cardboard boxes filled with
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all kinds of personal items it appears he was
moving Apartments into the Border Station had
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to unpack all of them lay out the contents piece
by piece for inspection repackage everything and
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reload his car had he simply answered that the
boxes contained nothing significant we would
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have taken a quick glance into the truck and he
would have been on his way after 3 minutes this
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way the whole procedure took 35 minutes and left
some nice sweat stains on Mark's shirt he filed
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a complaint the complaint was dismissed since
everything was done by the book I mean you roll
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up to a Border Station what are you expecting for
them to smile and say okay you know what you got
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too many cardboard boxes we don't really want
to take a look in that go on through it's one
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thing to be upset that your internet cut out and
call and complain to the customer service rep or
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March back down to the restaurant because they got
your order wrong and complain but if there's one
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place you don't want to upset the employees and
look like a total jerk I would imagine it would
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be at a border crossing station this next story
is you want the best I can offer okay here it is
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as a bit of background when my wife and I had our
first child my wife's Grandpa PID PA thousands to
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buy our son a lifetime membership in a political
organization we're in the USA whose values do not
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match my wife and I we were frustrated but didn't
say anything because her Grandpa lived alone and
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was toward the end of his life when my son was
a toddler I lost my job this was in the middle
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of the recession and jobs were hard to come by
particularly for recent College grads with no
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experience the next 10 months were difficult I
often went to bed crying at the rejection after
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Rejection it was at a particular particularly low
point that my son received a letter in the mail
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from this political organization that he is a part
of it talked about how they needed every penny he
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can spare to help this group in their fight they
needed his best my sadness turned to anger and I
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wanted to call them up and lose my mind instead I
decided to maliciously comply my toddler son had
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no money but he could scribble on a piece of paper
he scribbled in various colors on a piece of paper
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I wrote a note on the back scene that when you
hit a toddler up for money this is the best he
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could do and I sarcastically told them that I
hoped it helped in their fight I put it in the
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envelope they had enclosed attached that envelope
to a rock so that they had to pay extra postage
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and sent it back it makes me happy to think they
lost money on hitting him up surely they must have
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learned after a while that sending postage paid
envelopes is not a good idea surely for every
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actual donation that they got back a number of
those had to go too much delicious people right
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but with that being said that's all the time we
have for today now if you want to hear another
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welcome friends to another r slash malicious compliance video today we've
got a story of training materials gone totally wrong but first a story from
tornado girl dom employee is dumb i worked at an office supply store for a
while in my late 20s while finishing college i worked mostly with younger
college students and began training other employees and running the front
end of the store our amazing manager took a better position elsewhere and we
were gifted a manager who was absolutely
horrible let's call her jean she treated us so poorly that we went from over 20
employees to just seven in the first couple of months of her taking reign
jean was absolutely horrible but i stood up for myself and the few remaining
employees and openly expressed my disdain for her while remaining
completely professional on paper and here come the annual evaluations gene
gives me an absolutely horrible review since our raises were performance based
i didn't get a raise i refused to sign and contested my evaluation which really
pissed her off since we only had seven employees left we were desperately
hiring within a week or two she had hired a few people and scheduled me to
train them so i did what any rational human about to quit their crappy job for
a career would do i formally asked hr for retraining due to my perceived
incompetence and made it clear that i was no longer comfortable training new
hires i simultaneously began refusing to do any work outside of my minimal
assigned responsibilities and began moving really slowly i made myself as
incompetent as possible refusing to answer customer questions via phone and
forwarding all calls to her paging her for help for stupid things intentionally
screwing up the cash register and requesting policies for irrelevant
operations i stopped meeting quotas and when coached i would play dumb and
pretend like i was trying my hardest most importantly i started correcting
customers and contractors who called her jean and insisted her name was jan when
she questioned me i said i'm sorry i can't pronounce your name well jan
it infuriated her of course jean was also pissed that she had to train the
new employees herself i filed a formal complaint with hr about my lack of
retraining every week until they fired me i had another job lined up but i
filed an unemployment claim anyway just to leave some extra work for her petty
bonus i never told her that my mom was the store's biggest buyer at the time
and had been in the top three forever guess who took her business to office
max my very non-confrontational mother actually went into the store to request
her account be closed knowing that contract accounts have to be closed by
the store manager why are you closing your account dot dot dot i'm op's mom
she got canned about a year later and i'd like to think i was the little match
that lit that fire i really enjoy this story because it's about fair for how
you got treated but i think the one thing that bothers me is i just wonder
if op's intentional dumbness display is what they remember more than opie just
got mistreated so like when op's mom goes in to cancel it and says i'm op's
mom for the office supply store side wouldn't it look like the only reason
op's mom is canceling the account is because they're idiot kid who couldn't
even figure out how to work here got fired would you guys agree with me when
i say that sadly it ends up just kind of looking like the mom's biased rather
than part of a great revenge scheme let me know what you guys think in the
comments down below our next story is from miniteshi follow the training
material to the letter no exceptions so this goes back a fair few years whilst
working for a call center we heard a buzz about a big new client coming on
board which was going to be outsourcing their in-house support naturally it was
a great opportunity for me since i was a pretty tech capable guy troubleshooting
and support were natural to me since growing up i was always around tech
products etc and got the job moving to a more senior role providing second level
support alongside assisting the training
department whilst i did want to be moved to training since it would be a better
use of my time i didn't mind second level support i was good at my job and
cleared my workload quite easily so i could be left alone during my downtime i
would make installation diagrams for first level staff for reference which
was saved on a personal usb since it wasn't authorized by our client and
never would be it didn't matter to me since it made my job easier over the
coming months more people started relying on my diagrams including my
training department so i decided to create a sub domain on my site and host
an interactive version which was basic but it worked you got to select your
equipment and what services you needed and it would give you a full breakdown
which cut down my workload significantly
since it wasn't sanctioned by the client i didn't want to make it known that it
was being used in work linked through to
an external site so i created a new html file with an iframe embedded which was
stored on a shared drive which every member of the first second and training
lines could access this meant the actual url now was external but wasn't visible
it was crude but it didn't matter since no one in those days knew much about
finding urls it became so successful it got rolled out as part of the system's
training the training department assumed it all came from the client and because
of turnover they never really questioned it now since it became part of the
training structure it really made it more valuable since the client doesn't
get involved in training the content is of no relevance to them only results
during my downtime i'd redo some with clearer guides and update photos with
the latest products so our staff could see exactly where connections and
buttons were for a few years everything was great pay was mediocre but the
environment was good and i got comfy till we got called to a meeting everyone
our client has decided that as a company our rates were not in line with their
requirements and we're looking to outsource to another country and will be
made redundant personally for me it was great since the payout was based on
years of service however the training team are no longer needed alongside the
second level so my time was up sooner rather than later i got called into a
second meeting and told that i'll be handling the training at a higher rate
of pay but must follow the training guide to the letter whilst i was
introduced in training to new starters and helped them during that time i had
to sit and go through all the material which was 80 percent all based around
the system and guides i had built i tried to explain to my line manager and
client that the main bulk of the training wasn't actually supplied and
not sanctioned but no one seemed interested i was met with a cold the
training packs have been a vital part of your company's ethos so you should have
no problem in making it work so i did since everything in the shared folders
on our end we're going to be passed over to the new support center so was my
localized html file the new office were trained the first second in training
departments were all primed and signed off ready to take over so we moved to
provide eighty percent of the workload to them whilst we were in this
transition shortly after things were going great i was put in charge of a
small team who elected to stay on but we all completed the handover until they
got called into a meeting my services will no longer be needed and i will be
offered an earlier redundancy however before doing so i need to ensure that i
sign a data protection form to ensure the company's secrets are protected and
any content would need to be deleted or destroyed i explained that part of the
core training pack was not provided by the client and generated in-house by
myself this wasn't good enough or deemed to be acceptable so since i was being
paid an early redundancy i decided it wasn't worth the fight since they were
no longer a client of ours naturally i left and shortly after moved to a new
branch locally and kept in touch with some of the staff who had been placed
elsewhere the client had moved on and things seemed to be okay no big deal
during that time i got an email from my domain and hosting provider that they're
increasing their prices so i decided i wasn't going to bother to renew and let
my domain expire after all it was more just because it interested me building
and hosting a website a few days later i caught up with one of the staff who got
kept on who couldn't stop laughing that 80 part of the training pack resource
was no longer online the content couldn't be loaded or found anywhere the
ex-client wasn't happy that they have a whole call center who can't provide the
same if any support because the systems can't load i was lazy and backing up
things was always low on my to-do list so everything i had built was gone
needless to say the x client was in a right mess and now would have to
essentially rehire everyone they could however the company i work for had
already let many members go or replace the offices with new clients i was
contacted pretty swiftly to be rehired back which i would have accepted for a
higher rate of pay mainly because it was my work initially which is the main
reason why the entire campaign worked so well it was instantly refused so it was
pretty much cut and dry for me it took the company about six months of heck to
get back to a somewhat acceptable standard and after that dissolved the
outsourced call center again and possibly went to stock some more prey
shame really honestly i don't know if anybody agrees with me but i think ops
downplaying what they did here i mean obviously ops for an increased rate of
pay but they basically created a fundamental infrastructure for the whole
support team to kind of prop themselves up on op probably even with a higher
rate of pay wasn't going to get paid enough for the amount of like crucial
foundation work they were trying to set up this next story is from smoke one
only hand out two packets of ketchup many moons ago i worked for mick golden
arches i was a crew trainer and was being fast-tracked for minglement i was
one of three of the best employees in the store i knew it management knew it
and other employees knew it i was pretty darn good at what i did one day it was
decided that we were going to run a 50 off promotion between 4 p.m and 8 p.m
the store was fully staffed the area mangler was there the storm angler was
there and all the salaried people they could fit in the store were there it was
a bit crowded but the restaurant actually ran like it should for those
four hours then there's me my schedule didn't allow me to start until 4 30 pm
so i come in 30 minutes after this thing is started i figured i'd be thrown into
the drive-through since i was pretty darn good or on the grill because i was
one of the fastest area mingler decided that nope no one is switching positions
because everything is running okay so they made me the drive-thru runner my
job was to hand out the food that someone else bagged and then hand out
any condiments that were requested well the area mangler happened to walk by
when i handed the customer a handful of ketchup and he asked why'd you give them
so much do you know how much that cuts into our profits and i responded well
sir i gave them a handful of ketchup because they asked for a handful of
ketchup then he said from now on you will give them two packets of ketchup
and if they want more you are to come to me first and started to walk away i
asked would you stay close by please i'm
going to be talking to you a lot tonight
now he scoffed and walked away first car came through handed two packets they
gave me a dirty look and drove away second car handed two packets and they
asked for more went to go find the area mangler and he had to come up and give
them more packets after the 12th or 13th car he finally blew up at me and said
just give them however much they ask for and i said thank you sir and things
started flowing much faster when the night was over area mingler demanded
store manager write me up and the store manager asked why he was following your
rules he was the best food manager ever he left to open his own business shortly
afterwards honestly the most annoying thing here is they tried to write op up
for nothing afterwards they had no leg to stand on what insubordination for
following your exact rules and our final story of the days from egrant03
logo versus i have a kid who's a freshman in high school the school has a
rule that logos be three inches or smaller no pictures i found him a cute
shirt with a duck on it and did a quick measurement with a ruler on my phone i
got 3 inches exactly i buy it and send him to school the next day i get a text
from him to come bring him a new shirt the teacher he doesn't even have this
year took him to the office where the official measurement was 3 and 5 16 inches
well i'm broke and it's a spendy shirt that i just happen to get for cheap so
i'm not really able to just let it sit in his closet and not be used for an
entire year so i grab the dress code from the website and scour it to see if
we can somehow make it work he's on an ab schedule so even though it's been two
days he wears the shirt the very next a day and the same teacher sees it she
pulls him into the office and he calls me my son knew of this happened to just
ask to call home i told him to pretend like he was calling for a new shirt but
just so that he could get me on the phone i asked him to give the teacher
the phone so we can talk here's what happened the teacher says your son is
still wearing a shirt that breaks dress code as it's the second time in a row
he's getting in-school suspension i say no he's not she says i'm afraid that's
the rules he'll have to miss the rest of
the school day and be in detention i say no you misunderstand that shirt no
longer breaks dress codes your rules state that any logo over three inches is
a violation correct the teacher says yes and we've officially measured it once
again and it's still far too big i say but doesn't your dress code also say
that multiple pictures of the same or similar design is a pattern and patterns
are allowed by dress code correct she says but it's not a pattern i say hey
son take off your jacket and turn around what that snooty i want to use a
stronger word here but my son reads these too teacher didn't know is that i
have a cricket cutter and massive amounts of iron-on vinyl i had scanned
the logo into my computer and printed over a dozen or so more pictures in
various sizes and adhered them to the back of his shirt i just told him to
wear his jacket it was a cold morning so no one would question why he's been
wearing a jacket at the start of the day me after a decent amount of silence and
being asked to be put on speaker said i do remember reading in exact section in
line quoting word for word multiple pictures of a similar design is a
pattern wouldn't you know it doesn't say they all have to be on the same side of
the garment your dress code also allows for jackets inside as long as the hood
is down was the hood up longest pause ever a few minutes later my son's
telling me he's on his way back to class and there was nothing that snooty
teacher could do about it i filed a complaint with the head of the charter
school that a teacher that my son doesn't have is targeting him this close
to the start of the school year i'm waiting to hear back you can already
tell through and through egrant03 is an amazing parent somebody that not only
sets aside enough time to make sure that they're there for any school issue but
goes out of their way to scan and recreate this design to make sure these
clothes work for their kid that's a parent you gotta have some respect for
but with that being said that's all the time we have for today now if you want
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as a doctor what was your most now that
was stupid moment with a patient a woman came into the ER screaming in pain with
her hand wrapped in a bloody towel first thing I noticed was she smelled of
alcohol and cigarettes we calmed her down and took off the towel her hand had
multiple lacerations with active bleeding she then went on to explain
what happened I was in my house grabbed a candle off the mantle lit it and then
used the candle to light my cigarette I had no idea that it wasn't a candle and
it was an M80 very strong explosive firecracker
I am so glad I got the cigarette lit before it went off in my hand my hand
was blown off so I put the ciggy in my mouth and took a huge puff I grabbed the
honey bottle poured it all over my hand then took a fat Swig I also had the duty
of removing her wedding ring before we stitched her up all in a day's work | give me a good story on Asadoctorwhatwasyourmostnowthatwasstupidmomentwithapatientorig |
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we have failed the children I 26f took my cousins 15f and 13m to the mall
yesterday and the topic of school shooter drills came up 15f said I've
accepted that I will probably live through a school shooter attack at some
point while I'm in high school basically said she's accepted it as an
inevitability they have school shooter drills every month or every other month
they have a classmate regularly posting stories of himself shooting an illegal
AR they had a fire alarm off one period before before a scheduled fire drill
said the teacher looked scared to death and they had to barricade themselves in
the back of the class they said all of this matter of factly this entire
generation is beyond traumatized Society has completely failed the children I am
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AIT for separating my dad from his loved ones over a cancer scare I F28 am
currently planning my son's first birthday party which is set to take
place next month I am quite excited for this Milestone but when I phon my dad
m55 to ask if my suggested date for the party would suit him he asked if we
could have an inperson discussion I met my dad at a cafe and he proceeded to
tell me that doctors have unfortunately found some suspicious masses which have
been biopsied but still warrant further investigation he said that he hasn't yet
told my younger sister f19 or grandparents M80 and f76 and asked me
not to say anything to them until he has more information as he doesn't want to
stress them my dad said that he is letting me know now because he knows I
am trying to make plans for the future and he wants me to know that he won't
always be able to give me definite answer now obviously I was very upset
and couldn't care less about a birthday party in that moment I told my dad I
would support him through anything and to let me know if he needed something
that conversation happened last week the day before yesterday my husband m30 son
and I went for dinner at my parents place my sister was not at the dinner I
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AIT my husband wants a divorce and wants
us to keep the house my husband 32 and I 30 have been married for 10 years
recently he told me that he wanted a divorce because he wasn't happy he came
to the conclusion that he never really wanted to be married and wants to focus
on his military career I had always supported his career I asked him for
coup's therapy because all of the problems he said we had were things that
could be fixed but he refuses and said our marriage can't be fixed I have no
choice but to let him go however he believes that him and I can still live
in our house and live our separate lives
and he's already dating a girl from work I cannot do this when I told him that I
wasn't comfortable with him dating yet he accuses me of wanting to prevent him
from moving on I made it clear that if he wishes to date he can do so but I
will not sit here and watch him do it because it kills me I told him that I
need to get away from him so that I can heal and I refuse to live in the house
while he goes off and starts a whole new life while somehow maintaining his old
one I told him I want to sell the house and he's a accusing me of trying to ruin
him financially especially because our mortgage is so low I'm currently half a
year away from my bachelor's degree that would allow me to find a steady job as
the job that I currently have Now does not pay enough for me to live on my own
however I have a large support system that is willing to help me so basically
what I'm asking is aita for wanting to move on with my life even if it means
that I have to force him to sell our house edit to add some details our
marriage hasn't been great for a while and I knew this so the last 6 months
I've been trying to fix things he however has told me he wanted this
divorce months ago and was building up the courage to ask for the divorce I
know that what he's asking for is delusional but I guess I feel bad
because he gave me a portion of his GI Bill for my schooling which he's now
threatening to take away that's no big deal because again I have a good support
system I am graduating with a science degree and in my area I know I can find
a good job with it he just assumed that since we always got a along well that I
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welcome friends to another r slash malicious compliance video today we've
got a great story of ruining an hoa but first a story from gordon trumesco
panera pays for over 120 of food instead of just an orange juice back in 2019 i
was meeting up with a bunch of my extended family who were all attending
the same wedding as a nice gesture i decided to pick up lunch for panera
bread think soups and sandwiches for everyone so we take orders from about 15
people pick up the order from panera and
make my way to the hotel where we'll eat after we arrive and start eating i
notice that i'm missing an orange juice for my nephew i call the panera and
explain that hey i never got my juice could i just get the juice refunded mind
you this is an over a hundred twenty dollar meal and i'm just trying to get a
few dollars back for the orange juice i didn't get they see they're not allowed
to and give me another number to call so i call the corporate number and explain
the situation they say they aren't allowed to do partial refunds only full
refunds so to clarify i say you won't refund the missing orange juice but they
can refund the whole order yes that's correct so i requested a full refund two
phone calls plus the waiting and it was granted immediately thanks panera
corporate if this happened to you would this actually make you more encouraged
to eat at panera in the future knowing that something as little as a missing
orange juice on a 120 meal they just refund the whole thing like obviously it
doesn't make much sense but do you see this as a positive thing from panera let
me know what you guys think in the comments down below our next stories
from motherdistance4714 want me to turn around one minute before
i arrive pay me for two and a half hours
twice background i did some service work on advertisement displays on gas
stations working on gas stations is highly regulated you need to wear
productive clothing signal wet signal vest goggle security boots helmet and
secure your workplace 1.5 meters around you nobody else is allowed even when
you're working in the customer area where everybody else including the staff
walk around casually the certifications needed to do this work are boring as
heck they take a whole weekend of my precious time and must be done once a
year if the oil company finds out you didn't follow this protocol you risk
your contract our customer explicitly writes in every work order and sign off
sheet that this protocol has to be or was followed we text sign this if we
don't follow protocol we are really really screwed now let's get started i
was having a really bad day the last call was somewhere remote but from where
i was it would only take an hour to dry from where i would usually start it
would be more than two the reported error was something that could be solved
easily by rebooting a system and frankly we've never understood why this was an
issue that needed an on-site visit from us but the customer insisted when this
particular error happens we usually go on site suit up tell the manager what we
need to do and ask them to step a little to the side in 9 out of 10 cases the
reboot button can be reached with a long screwdriver so no ladder and no secured
work area is needed takes less than 5 minutes confirming that everything works
but the customer takes 10 minutes this stretches the security protocol just a
little bit but we all tax working with the customer agreed that this would be
okay nobody would be endangered and in this special case everyone would benefit
so they called dispatch and informed them at 1 500 that i would head out to
this location at 1600 i could literally see the sign of the gas station up ahead
my phone rang and i was informed that our customer ordered me to abort because
today they only work until 16 30. i try to reason that this job would be done in
less than 15 minutes and that i was already on site no customer wanted to
leave early today i was furious so as i arrived the next day i did what every
responsible tech would do i assessed the situation and found that the one button
i needed to push was just out of reach and thus i needed to set up a ladder
this meant i needed to set up a proper workplace this meant by the safety
regulations i needed to close down the registers i informed the manager and to
my great surprise he did not like this dispatch informed our customer of the
situation i was told to wait while they discussed the situation an hour later i
had a nice chat with the manager and a really good coffee the customer asked if
i could do the work without securing my work zone naturally i informed them that
i'm a certified technician and that the security regulations are very clear
about what has to be done i also reminded them that it was their work
order and sign off sheet that i and the local manager need to sign that all
security measures had been taken they needed to discuss the matter a little
more so i got another coffee an hour later i was asked to just again do my
work without closing down the registers i reminded them of the security protocol
but offered to do as they asked if they would send me this in writing one coffee
later i was cleared to leave the site this could have been the end of it but
no as the device still needed a reboot i got a work order for it two days later
and lo and behold the button was still just out of reach same game same outcome
so instead of letting me do my job when i was already on site they paid me an
absurd amount for not doing my job because of a very strict security
protocol they insisted on i mean if it is just out of reach and you literally
cannot safely reach it and they're the ones being sticklers for these rules and
regulations i mean frankly what else are you to do they want to be sticklers
about these rules and then the one time it's a little inconvenient for them they
go well just this one time could you just you know
not do those safety regulations i know we make a stink about it but it's very
telling that they didn't want to put it in writing that they wanted them to
ignore said security protocols it's also
motivation enough to not go ahead and do it because clearly there's something
wrong if they can't stand by what they're asking you by the way if you're
enjoying these stories make sure to hit those like and subscribe buttons down
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stories like our next one from hufflepuff slowpoke sure i'll call the
tenant this story's about a job i just quit and i doubt someone there uses
reddit so i'll share it with you here we go we were moving to another office so
things were chaotic days were really hot so when we discovered our new office
didn't have any ac we were crushed we tried to work there anyway but two
members started getting dizzy and weak so we called our boss he was solving
some problems on our previous location but told us to go home and not come the
next day since he'd buy a new ac and install it then we were happy with the
free day off and my boss went on his way
to buy the equipment this story is about what happened when he bought it so this
new office was somewhere fancy our boss was a tenant in this building and there
were doctors lawyers dentists all kinds of fancy people everyone wore suit and
tie since most of the tenants were rich the building's workers were super polite
mostly because some tenants were rude to them acted entitled and tried to get
them fired for petty reasons anyway my boss called some of his friends and said
hey would you help me install an ac in my new office i'll pay you with some
beers and they accept it since it was again really hot my boss and their friends
went there the next morning wearing tank tops shorts and sandals they were
greeted by someone who worked there i don't remember his name but i'll call
him assistant that knew who my boss was and would follow him around answer his
questions help him with any info about the building or the room you know a good
human being he was supposed to know all tenants so everyone liked him but i
guess he wasn't in a leadership position because his workmates didn't seem to
enjoy his presence he didn't seem to care though so assistant greeted my boss
and followed him to our new room my boss said that he saw the receptionist look
at them with disgust because of their clothes but didn't think much about it
what were they supposed to do there was only one entrance they went upstairs and
started working eventually my boss noticed he forgot some tool in his car
no problem assistant went with him they got it and came back at the reception
again mr receptionist looked annoyed meh my boss who i admit wasn't the most
organized noticed he forgot to buy something okie dokie assistant always
happy to help followed him to the entrance and waited for him to buy the
tool somewhere near and come back again as they got in the receptionist looked
pissed for the third time my boss had to go
through the reception to do something or yet something he forgot assistant went
with him assuring him it was okay and he had every right to come and go as he
pleased but this time the receptionist had enough when my boss got into the
building he saw a receptionist come in his direction fuming but he didn't say
anything to my boss instead he went straight to assistant and completely
ignoring my boss said something along the lines of what the heck is this why
are those people coming and going like there's no order in this building why
don't you do anything assistant just looked at him and said calmly i'm sorry
but they need to make as many trips as necessary to install their new ac today
so that tomorrow the team can work without any interruption or discomfort i
don't care said the receptionist those people are annoying our staff our guests
and our tenants this building is no place for them if you don't stop this
mess right now i'm gonna call the tenant and tell them you're allowing such
people in his new office i think you can
guess what happened next according to my boss assistant's face lit up and he
smiled oh really please do you can talk to the tenant right now if you'd like
and he turned to my boss who just looked at him with an innocent yes how can i
help you face my boss said that the receptionist's face went white he tried
to say something but couldn't pick the words so we just left in a hurry my boss
and assistant laughed a while about it and went back to the office the ac got
installed and we worked the next day with ease i don't know what kind of
power trip or discomfort this receptionist was facing but like if a
new tenant is moving in into an office no less there's probably going to be
people coming and going all the time setting it up for whatever purpose that
tenant was wanting to have that office for and especially if that receptionist
knew at all that that office didn't have ac and it was hot as heck outside and
they saw parts coming and going people with tools coming and going they should
have been able to put two and two together and not blown up it's not like
they were trying to hurt an elephant through the lobby our next story is from
terrible storyteller gotta follow the contract terms and conditions below is
one of my favorite stories from my days as an on-call service technician
background as an enterprise-level security systems technician i was put on
an on-call rotation the contract with city is we don't pay for travel time
only time on site in increments of 15 minutes company pays me minimum three
hours overtime no matter what story time it's thursday of the first spring long
weekend it's 5 p.m and i'm just about to leave the office we got a call from the
city for a water treatment plant way out on the most eastern part of the city on
a normal day this drives an hour and a half on a long weekend it's 2 hours and
25 minutes the client says hey op a truck leaving the plant clipped the gate
card reader and the lights apparently won't turn on anymore we need you to fix
it i asked the client have you had mobileguard dispatch to test the unit
it's a long drive on a long weekend for something that may be able to wait until
monday or not even be an issue they say sorry he left for a long weekend and
guards are busy at another site terms and conditions says you gotta attend
today sorry dude after two and a half hours in brutal traffic i get to the
site check in with the dispatch and find that no one has tried to get into this
gate for over 24 hours not one person has even tried to use the gate wanna
know why as it's an exit gate the only time it's used for entry is when the
other gate is down or when full-sized trailers need access to the site which
only happens once a month for chemical deliveries this gate is not important
for a long weekend emergency service and could have waited for monday 9 00 am
when the guy who lives down the street could have attended cue malicious
compliance one manufacturer's recommendations require me to follow
multiple steps to replace faulty devices there's a lot of things i can normally
bypass to save time but the contract terms and conditions with the city
require i follow all appropriate steps to prevent damage to the controller two
need access to the main controller and the city guards have that so i can't
start the repair process guards won't be there for another 35 minutes they have
to pay me while i do payroll and go grab a coffee three with a guard on site i
follow each letter of the best practice guidance with meticulous detail and
patience 4. oh shoot the backboard on the pedestal needs some repair and
modifications as the previous integrator installed the old reader poorly but
terms and conditions requires me to make it right so off to home depot i go five
with the new reader installed i have to make sure the wiring at the head end is
correct it's not gotta fix that and i don't have spare wire to do off to
location be 15 minutes away to grab six feet of wire six all wiring done reader
powered on time to test and commission using convoluted testing sheets and
dispatch to ensure proper functionality it's now 9 30 pm i charge the client for
a new reader new wiring proper backplate assembly and my time to wait for the
guard to bring the keys and observe contract terms and conditions i could
have just swiped my card on the reader and left but i'd rather the company make
up for my travel time and labor i can't remember how much the final bill was i
want to see something like a thousand dollars but thanks to my notes on the
worker city paid in full honesty respect
to op because whoever has a long weekend like that is not going to want to drive
two and a half hours to reseat something
that should be a five second fix so make this person who clearly has no idea how
things run there pay up for forcing you to do useless work and our final story
of the day is by sardinia don't mess with my uncle my uncle is very much one
of the coolest people i know he crams every second of every day enjoying all
that life has to offer from safari trips to nature photography to beekeeping to
tropical fish breeding complete with custom aquarium building and more he's
also the nicest guy you'll ever meet willing to help anybody with anything at
any time one of his hobbies include gardening and he turned his giant
backyard into a pollinator's paradise with the flower beds enclosed by a small
short white picket fence the ones that are like 6 inches tall and used just to
keep the garden contained but they're more decorative than anything now having
done well for himself in life he also happens to live in a snooty upper class
neighborhood with lots of trophy wife busybodies who can't mind their own
business as part of this nudie neighborhood the hoa rules explicitly
state no fences of course they mean large six to ten foot tall fences around
your property not tiny fences around a garden bed either way my uncle's
neighbor decided to take it upon herself
to report my uncle to the hoa for having
a fence and he got a letter from the hoa since i guess their interpretation did
find my uncle in the wrong his response to read the entire hoa bylaws to ensure
that whirly gigs the lawn ornaments that look like a bird with spinning wings
that make an awful constant clacking noise weren't prohibited they weren't so
my uncle up and replaced all of his garden fencing with these whirly gigs
dozens if not hundreds of them clacking at all hours of the day and night it was
quite a racket my uncle's a nice guy so he took them all down at the end of the
season but i'm sure it humbled that awful neighbor of his she never said
anything to him or the hoa again probably in fear of worse retaliation
like wind chimes honestly respect to opie's uncle for dealing with this in a
non-confrontational way it would be very easy to get into some kind of verbal
spout with that neighbor or do something
really malicious like signs or something
outright blatant that maybe somebody can complain about a little bit more but
just going in your backyard and putting all these clacking birds around there's
not much they can really do about that but with that being said that's all the
time we have for today now if you want to see another compliance story that was
even more insane than the ones in this video click on the left video or if you
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husband's ex-wife and daughter came back
for inheritance of his family home after we made a will but we uncovered the
worst truth in court I 45f have been married to my husband Michael 50m for
the last 10 years we were both in our early 30s when we first crossed paths at
a local Art Gallery both of us were admiring the same painting and struck up
a conversation it was like an instant connection you know he asked me out on a
date and as we started to know more about each other it felt like I had
known him forever I am the oldest of three children in my family money was
always tight for us but manageable we could afford to go for fast food only if
it was our birthday my dad taught us very early on to work hard for what we
wanted to achieve in our lives I studied hard and put myself through college I
did a few modeling gigs on the side so by the time I graduated college I had no
debt I had worked my way through the company and was currently working as a
junior associate Michael on the other hand had a completely opposite
background his family was financially better off than ours his dad had a good
job with a high salary and Social Security so they never had to dist
stress about money Michael's parents could afford to cover all his college
expenses thanks to his dad's influential position at his company Michael got an
internship there from there he worked hard to build his own path in the
company through dedication and effort although Michael and I came from two
different worlds we share the same passions for art and music this is what
made us fall in love with each other Michael had a 17-year-old daughter from
his previous marriage his daughter Candace never really liked me from the
beginning she never seemed to warm up to me and often refused to engage with me
whenever we met it felt like she somehow held me responsible for her parents not
being together even though I met Michael long after his divorce was completed
with his ex-wife I understood her feelings and tried to give her the space
she needed to come to terms with our relationship just for context Michael
and his ex-wife Amelia were married for only 3 years they were College
sweethearts so they decided to get married but when they did everything
changed for the worse she was a stay-at-home mother while Michael worked
hard to bring in the money one day Michael returned home from a work trip
earlier than planned only to discover her in bed with his best friend Tom this
was an incredibly difficult time for Michael as he lost the two most
important people in his life on the same day the Betrayal by Amelia had left him
shattered in the aftermath he made the painful decision to file for divorce the
divorce proceedings between Michael and Amelia were painfully bitter primarily
because Amelia was determined to retain ownership of their house even though it
belonged to Michael the battles didn't just end with the property they extended
into a challenging custody dispute over Candace as well due to Amelia's
infidelity during their marriage the judge ultimately didn't Grant her
ownership of the house house but did Grant both parents custody ensuring that
Candace would continue to have a connection with both of them Amelia's
anger over not acquiring the property festered and over the years she
manipulated Candace's feelings turning her against her father meanwhile Michael
chose not to disclose his ex-wife's infidelity to their daughter attempting
to Shield her from the painful details of their past I found out about all this
when we first started dating each other Michael wanted to be completely honest
with me about his past and I really appreciated that once Michael had
invited Candace to join us on a trip to Africa hoping it would provide an
opportunity for us to bond I was optimistic and thought it could be a
turning point for our relationship unfortunately it didn't quite go as
plann during the trip Candace seemed irritated at me and often erupted into
sudden unprovoked anger if I got too close to Michael she would lash out
using hurtful words like gold digger Michael was quick to admonish her for
her behavior but she would just smirk at
me making it clear that she wasn't ready to accept me into her life I knew the
situation with his ex-wife and daughter was complicated but our love for each
other was strong and I was willing to navigate these challenges with him after
a whirlwind romance we got married it was a small intimate ceremony with just
our closest friends and family we were excited about the life we were going to
build together Amelia and Candace never attended our wedding despite our
invitation our marriage was going great initially we traveled the world while we
both continued with our jobs I was deeply passionate about my career and I
had no intention of giving it up meanwhile Amelia was living together
with Tom after their divorce Candace had her own apartment thanks to Michael's
financial support and she was working as a social media executive in a reputed
company 3 years into our marriage we were Overjoyed to welcome our son
however the pregnancy had been tough on me and it was made even harder whenever
Candace came to visit she would make cruel unsolicited comments about my
weight and appearance whenever Michael wasn't around us she would remark how he
would leave me eventually now that I am a fat cow this deeply troubled me and
after I shared my concerns with Michael he decided that Candice would no longer
visit our home they began meeting at cafes instead to avoid any further
distress from me when our son Nick was born we were beyond happy despite
becoming a parent I was determined to keep working so we decided to hire a
babysitter to help us care for him when my maternity leave ended I eagerly
returned to my job even though we were in a stable and comfortable place in our
lives I cherished my financial Independence and the ability to continue
pursuing my career if Candace had issues with me before they seemed to intensify
after Nick came into our lives at family
events which we would sometimes organize she would Target Nick attempting to
bully him which left our son in tears and seeking our help while I understood
her hate towards me I couldn't stand by and allow her to take her anger out on
Nick our innocent little boy I banned her from ever coming to our house again
we also stopped hosting family events at our house since then now coming on to
the issue at hand as we are getting older John and I realized the importance
of planning for the future we decided to
create a will to ensure our Affairs were in order given that JN had already
provided a flat for Candace he designated me and our son as the
inheritors of our family home his remaining assets which were the money in
his personal savings account would go to Candice meanwhile I had my own assets
which I intended to leave to my son ensuring that he would be well taken
care of throughout his life we both felt this was the right decision to secure
our family's future and provide for Nick as he grew up when Amelia and Candace
got wind of our will all hell broke loose I am not sure if Michael mentioned
it by mistake or his parents did but they were not happy at all Amelia called
Michael demanding that they deserve to have the house as she was married to him
first but he firmly stood his ground he reiterated that he had always provided
for Candice from her child support to her College expenses to buying her an
apartment he told her that he would ensure that Candice is secured in the
future but he was going to leave the property to our son this seemed to anger
her even further and Amelia sent me a long text message where she called me
every name in the book I showed Michael the message who asked me to not engage
with her further and block her immediately the following day Candace
showed up at our doorstep clearly upset I knew she was here to talk about the
will with us I didn't want her to create
a scene in front of our son so I quickly arranged for my parents to pick him up
with just the three of us left Candace made her intentions known she insisted
that my son and I should give up the property because as the firstborn of
Michael she believed she deserved the house despite feeling irritated I
remained silent and looked to Michael to handle the situation he explained to
Candace that he had always provided her with everything she needed in life he
assured her that he would be leaving her his savings and that he also had a
commitment to secure M and our son's future since he was married to me
leaving the family property to us was his way of ensuring our well-being
Candace again shifted her Focus onto me and insisted that she expected me to do
the right thing thing I calmly expressed my support for my husband's decision
which only seemed to infuriate her she raised her voice and threatened to take
me to court at this point I didn't want to escalate the situation any further
and I requested that she leave us alone as anticipated in a few weeks I received
a legal notice informing me that both Candace and Amelia were taking me to
court over the property their accusations included the claim that I
married Michael for his money and had manipulated him into taking away their
family property Michael and I consulted our lawyer and we were assured that
Candace and Amelia didn't have strong legal grounds to support their claims
however despite the legal advice I couldn't shake my worries particularly
because I didn't want our son to experience the drama surrounding this
family dispute as the court date approached the tension in our household
grew in court Amelia's lawyer was relentless in their efforts to assert
that Michael needed to prioritize his first child Candice Above All Else their
argument centered on pushing for a full-blown trial to determine the
property's ownership since we lived in Colorado the legal system required us to
go through a jury trial which only added to the complexity of the situ situation
the looming court trial had both Michael
and me on edge especially since Amelia's lawyer was resorting to some dirty
tactics digging up our paast to make their case in court our own lawyer was
doing his best but the situation was undeniably stressful during this time
out of the blue we received an unexpected call from Tom who insisted on
meeting us at home since the painful discovery of Tom's involvement with
Amelia Michael had cut off all ties with his once best friend and didn't want to
meet him I convinced him to hear Tom out just in case it would help us resolve
this dispute sooner when Tom came over to our house we were half expecting it
to be another one of the opposing lawyers P to undermine our case however
to our surprise Tom was here with a different intention to talk he revealed
that he was here to make a confession about something that would be incredibly
difficult for Michael to hear Michael sat motionless as Tom revealed that
Amelia had been seeing him behind Michael's back for a very long time and
they had been involved romantically even before Amelia became pregnant I held my
breath as Tom continued disclosing a bombshell that none of us had expected
apparently when Amelia got pregnant she confided in that she believed the child
was actually his however because Michael was financially more stable she had
chosen to keep the truth hidden and remained in the marriage Tom had pleaded
with her to reveal the real father to Michael but she had consistently refused
to do so I couldn't believe how Amelia could manage to keep this a secret for
so long in the audacity she had for fighting over the property while keeping
this Monumental secret for Michael it was mind-boggling how she had managed to
maintain this charade for so many years all while causing such turmoil within
our family Tom explained that he had kept silent all these years because he
believed that Amelia truly loved him however witnessing the pain that we were
going through because of the court trial he finally saw her for who she really
was he started weeping asking Michael to forgive him Michael still in a State of
Shock sat there silently I was filled with anger and frustration especially
seeing the emotional turmoil that my husband was going through this man
believed his whole life that Candice was his daughter and now he was being told
that it was all a lie I had chosen to remain silent in the past whenever
Amelia and Candace were rude to me as I wanted to maintain a cordial
relationship with them however with the truth now out in the open there was no
point in continuing the charade I promptly contacted our lawyer and
relayed the confession Tom had made our lawyer informed us that for our
statements to be held in court we would need to provide concrete evidence such
as a DNA test so we decided to invite Candace over for dinner using the
pretense of wanting to meet her our plan was to discretly collect a glass or a
spoon from her for a test which would help strengthen our case Candice though
surprised agreed to come over her demeanor was as rude as ever and she
continued to belittle me and my son she remained confident that she and her
mother would win the case taunting me that I would be losing everything soon I
chose to ignore her comments hoping that this would be the last time we would
need to endure such Behavior after she left we immediately reached out to our
lawyer so he could collect Candace's cup for a DNA test on the day we were
scheduled to appear in court we received the news that Tom's confession was
accurate Candice was indeed his daughter
as I let out a sigh of relief I couldn't
help but feel empathy for my husband who had been dragged into this turmoil
because of his ex-wife's lies and manipulation
I informed the lawyer that I was ready to take the stand that day and share our
side of the story in court my lawyer agreed as this would be the best course
of action for us to reveal the truth as I took the stand I felt a mix of
emotions anger at Amelia for her deceit sympathy for Michael and determination
to protect our family's rights taking the stand in front of the jury I braced
myself and began answering our lawyers questions we delved into my past my
career and the fact that I never gave up on my job even after we got married I
went on to recount the emotional torment taunts and ab abuse I had endured from
both Amelia and Candace over the years we presented screenshots as proof of my
story I told the jury that Candace never accepted my presence from the very
beginning and had even refused to attend
our wedding since we had our son she had been verbally abusive towards him as
well then I revealed Tom's confession in front of the jury I spoke about how we
found out who Candace's real father was and the dirty secret that Amelia had
kept hidden from everyone for so long Candace looked at me in disbelief and I
watched her exchange angry Whispers with her lawyer our lawyer then showed
everyone the DNA results which proved what I had just said I looked at
Amelia's face in satisfaction as she realized she couldn't escape the truth
of her past anymore Candice on the other hand looked shocked as if her world was
crumbling just as ours had when we first learned the news the emotions in the
courtroom were raw now that everything was out in the open there were no
grounds for Amelia and Candace to stand on Amelia looked defeated and Candace
who had been so sure of her victory was now grappling with the Fallout of her
mother's actions there was no case left for their lawyer to fight about anymore
fortunately it didn't take long for the jury to decide and come back with a
verdict the judge announced the verdict where we were awarded the inheritance of
our family home just as Michael had always wanted and the jury acknowledged
that Candace and Amelia had no legitimate claim to it since the court
decision for the past couple of days we have been receiving mixed reactions from
our close family and friends although a majority of them understand our
situation and agree that what we did was right a few seem to think that it was
cruel for us to reveal the truth and shatter Candace's life so here I am on
Reddit asking for your thoughts do you think I was ta for refusing to part with
with our property with our stepdaughter and eventually revealing everything in
court and not to her personally update 1 it's been 3 days since my last update
and I have read all your comments and advice many of you seem to believe that
Candice might have already known about her mother's lies which is impossible as
I saw the way her face fell when we revealed the DNA test in court winning
the court trial Has Lifted a huge weight off my shoulders I'm choosing not to
dwell on the negative relatives who believe we did something wrong we didn't
choose to be dragged into court by Amelia and Candice we just revealed the
truth I no longer have to worry about my future and I'm content with the outcome
however my main concern these days is my husband Michael is still reeling from
the shock of learning the truth about Candace's birth father his world has
been turned upside down he hasn't been able to eat or sleep very well since
finding out that she isn't really his daughter I can't imagine the pain he
must be going through to accept the truth Amelia put him through hell when
they got divorced now that we knew Tom was her father instead he just didn't
know how to handle that information Tom had not only slept with his ex-wife but
was also the birth father of his first child I have suggested Michael go for
therapy as he needs to talk to someone professional who can help him navigate
this situation I have booked his appointment and he starts next week
update to it's been 1 month since my last update and we have managed to move
on from this situation to a certain extent as I mentioned before my husband
has been going to therapy regularly I can see him getting better but it's
going to take time for him to fully recover unexpectedly last week Candice
reached out to us we honestly didn't think she'd ever want to talk to us
after everything that happened she called to say she was sorry for what
we've been through I wasn't sure if her apology was genuine
or if she was just upset about her mother's actions but I didn't press the
issue Candace shared how she'd always been jealous of me thinking I had taken
her father away she admitted to hating me something I already knew she believed
that her father was the one who had cheated on her mother however during the
court proceedings when the truth came out that it was actually Amelia who had
cheated she realized she'd been living a lie her whole life she begged Michael
not to stop being a part of her life and
he reassured her that he'd always be her father no matter who her birth father
was this brought her to tears and it seemed like she needed the confirmation
all along Candace also apologized to me for what she'd put me through and hoped
I'd forgive her one day I didn't want to pretend everything was okay between us
because it wasn't and it would take time before I could be in the same room as
her lately I've been focusing on our family and my son I couldn't spend much
time with him during the court trial so I'm planning a secret family vacation to
take some time off and celebrate hopefully this getaway will help us
relax and recharge I'll provide another update if something interesting happens
update three after 3 months of no contact Amelia showed up at our doorstep
I was torn about letting her in but I was worried about the neighbors
overhearing any potential shouting as she'd done that before reluctantly we
allowed her in but we made it clear that any outbursts would lead to a call to
the police Amelia explained that Tom had decided to leave her and asked her to
move out of his house by the end of the month she was in tears as she revealed
that he didn't want to marry her anymore after what he saw Michael and me go
through with nowhere to go she wanted to
move in with Candace even though Candace strongly opposed the idea we learned
that since the trial Candace had cut off
all contact with her mother accusing her
of manipulating her Amelia was only here
because she wanted us to talk to Candace
regarding the situation she wanted us to convince Candace about letting her
mother move in before I could say something I witnessed my husband lose
his temper for the first time he firmly told Amelia that he had purchased the
apartment for Candace only hence it was Candace's decision whether she could
live with her he expressed how she never even bothered to apologize after
cheating on him all those years and now expected us to help her out he told her
that he was glad Tom had seen the truth and was leaving her Amelia tried to
justify her lies saying that she feared being kicked out of the house while she
was pregnant had she revealed the truth earlier to Michael I couldn't listen to
her excuses any longer so I asked her to leave I felt we had given her a fair
chance to explain herself and there was no point in prolonging the conversation
after Amelia departed Michael reached out to Candace to warn her about the
possibility of her mother forcing her to let her stay in the apartment he
emphasized that if she allowed it there would be no way to make Amelia leave
Candace assured him that she had no intention of allowing that she planned
to change the locks to prevent Amelia from entering and would inform her
mother that she was unwelcome as for me I've had my fill of this drama lately I
have been discussing with Michael the idea of selling our family home and
relocating to another state to escape this turmoil I had emphasized that for
the sake of our son in our marriage we needed to seriously consider this move
although it is a tough decision Michael has come to accept it particularly since
Amelia's unannounced visit demonstrated that we need to put some distance
between us and her given the uncertainty of whether she will ever leave us in
peace moving out of this city seems like the best choice Michael's job can be
done remotely and I'm open to starting fresh at a new company if it means
finding happiness away from these toxic people we will begin the process of
selling our family home next month and hopefully by the end of this year we
will be starting aesh in a new place it is time for us to turn the page on this
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I made an NPC villager spawn in sound when my wife gave birth to our first
child and now she's pissed I'll try to keep this as brief as
possible just over a week ago my wife gave birth to our first child I got
called about it during work and rushed to the hospital to be with her during
the labor it was obviously a very stressful time as it took more than 15
hours from start to the end but finally our little one was born and was healthy
I was in the room for nearly the entire time other than briefly heading out for
food toilet Etc holding her hand and being the punching bag as she swore
during certain times during the worst of it as it was getting towards the end
just as the head was coming out and it all happened very quickly from then more
medical staff came into the room and I am someone who gets nervous around lots
of people I think because of that nervousness I was talking a bit more
introducing myself to the new people coming in making jokes saying I hope
it's not a bad Omen that the weather is so bad because a thunderstorm had
started outside that we could hear and then when our baby finally came out
fully at that second I made the Age of Empires two new villagers sound as a
joke it was but I think only my wife understood
the reference as the doctor and nurses gave no reaction and the look she gave
me could have sunk a thousand ships she looked so so angry before then seeing
our little one and finally smiling but didn't look at me for about half an hour
and even then she was really annoyed for the rest of the day anyway I thought it
was a joke that went down badly in a moment of high anxiety but my wife has
twice in the past week told me that I ruined a moment that she hoped would be
one of the best in her life I've apologized both times but she has this
look I've not seen before something Beyond disappointment it's really put a
downer on the past nine days of what I thought would be our happiest time
together after what was obviously a very stressful time for her mostly of course
Ida my wife intentionally got pregnant when I didn't want more kids I'm going
to divorce her my wife 43f and I 46 meters have been married 10 years and
have three boys our lives are very busy with work kids extended family house
projects Etc I love my wife immensely and long to have emotional and physical
intimacy even just kisses hugs handholding whatever with her however
for most of our Merit she has been completely focused on the kids so we
really only have a co-parent roommate relationship of course I understand this
the kids have to be top priority but for the last 8 years or so if there's not a
kid in our bed at night then my wife is in a kid's bed with them I try to get
them to sleep in their own beds and encourage her to sleep with me alone but
it's rarely successful I've made it very
clear to her that I do not want any more kids I'm more than ready to get our
relationship back on track now that the youngest is school age I'm also
exhausted and overwhelmed all the time with everything on my plate I can't and
don't want to add another kid to the mix
she on the other hand Longs for a fourth baby we've gone back and forth so much
but I am adamant that we should just enjoy the three we have my wife is on
birth control and has always made it a point to have an alarm set so she takes
it at the same time every day she is still trying to work on me to get me to
agree to another baby so I can't schedule a vasectomy yet she brings it
up at least once a day well she told me a few days ago that she's pregnant she's
so happy and I'm devastated she won't even consider termination I love my wife
so much she's a great person and I know in the end I'll love this
baby but now there's no end in sight to this overwhelmed exhausted emotionally
lonely life also I'm realizing that these last few months she's actually
initiated sex several times which never happens I can't help thinking that she
got pregnant on purpose she wanted it so
much she wasn't going to just give up it would be in character I suppose for her
to just do what she wants I hate to say it but she does disregard my feelings on
things quite often and she knew there's nothing I could do about it would I be
the if I told her I want a divorce my kids are my life and I don't
want to leave them at all but I feel like our marriage is not going to get
any better I've asked her to go to marriage counseling several times over
the years but she refuses every time saying we don't need it and now I've
kind of lost trust in her it would break my heart to do this to the kids and I
don't know if my feelings are worth doing it over please tell me if I'd be
the here edit to be clear if we divorce I will push as hard as necessary
for 50/50 parenting time and joint custody for all the kids they are my
number one priority in life I just don't
know if my lack of emotional fulfillment in our relationship my wife's General
disregard for my feelings and the other marriage issues are worth tearing the
kids Worlds Apart edit number two because everyone is saying it I didn't
wear condoms because we never have and if I suddenly started she'd have accused
me of not trusting her or become suspicious and if I'd have just gone and
gotten a vasectomy she definitely would have been angry and felt betrayed I was
trusting her I proposed to my wife on a meaningful day but my fiance doesn't
think so using a throwaway so it cannot be found by people I know I 42m have
been with my fiance 24f for 5 years she used to work work at a restaurant I went
to frequently and I used to only go just
to see her and would often go alone it's
a very cute story because I had a school boy crush on her and pulled all the old
tricks to get her to go out with me we started to date and I proposed to her
recently on her father's death anniversary which I thought would be
meaningful and take the bad memories out of that date for her I also knew that
during that day she is extra sentimental and emotional so she is more likely to
say yes and we would have a beautiful moment together honoring her late
father's memory while she ended up saying yes the following week she
changed her demeanor and was very distant with me she is not usually like
this says she is very agreeable and shy which is why I fell for her in the first
place but she was growing hostile and often disagreed with me on things she
usually agreed with we currently live with her mom 48f as I lost my job due to
conflicting political beliefs with my previous job as I could not afford to
pay rent at my old home I am not currently seeking another job due to the
fact that I sprained my ankle last summer and my industry is very
physically demanding ever since the engagement her mother and her have been
very cold to me her mother stopped making my meals and my fiance is
basically ignoring me during dinner one night that I had to order in I could not
hold it anymore what I finally broke down I regrettably raised my voice and
asked why they are icing me out they look at each other yet another way they
always exclude me and explain they found my proposal manipulative and not done
right as it fell on an important date in their family I explained to them what I
explained here and my fiance started crying I felt very guilty in that moment
but stood my ground Reddit am I the for proposing to my fiance on
the anniversary of her father's death my wife was cheating on me when she got a
heart attack I was was in my office when I got the call that she is being taken
to hospital I rushed there as fast as possible she was already being prepared
for operation my friend I don't know if I should even call him that he was there
he was talking to a nurse and he had really frightened face I went to him yo
asked what happened and the nurse pulled me aside she asked me how I know him
once I told her she said they have informed police just as precautionary
measure I was completely baffled I was then informed she was unctious and half
naked when they found her they assumed it could be case of essay and informed
police I didn't know how to process all this and asked him what he was doing
with her angrily I had little outburst and he just kept quiet as I screamed at
him I was then taken to a different lounge and had time to settle soon
police arrived and questioned him privately they then also took my
statement in which I made him out to be creep in my mind he was assaulting her
when this happened I gave statement to make sure he gets his dues once it's
proven they didn't take him into custody
or questioning so I was little surprised I didn't know anything about police
process so I focused on my wife after my wife was back from operation I was
allowed to see her she was sedated and I remember feeling guilty as I held her
hand and felt her heartbeat it was the happiest thing for me at the time she
was very dry when she woke up I was teary I hate how detailed I
remember this her eyes opening and ating to light her first time opening lips to
speak her first tired sound I told her it's not her fault she was not Gathering
anything I said don't think about anything now after she was fully awake
and well police came to take her statement I had to wait outside and when
I went in she had read eyes and was having difficulty to speak we came home
and after I was told she is risk of getting another heart attack I decided
to never ask her about it it was still bothering me that that guy was still
roaming free I went to police station and I was told they have no reason to go
after him they also denied me any details of wife's statement angrily I
went to his house I was pissed and I again yelled at him for being a piece of
I thought myi forgot what happened before the heart attack and therefore
there was no evidence to arrest him his wife started abusing me and I told her
he tried to rape my wife she was shocked she slammed the door in my face and I
left after 2 months of the incident I managed to ask my wi what happened
before heart attack she was silent she didn't say she forgot the dread was
coming and I knew it was what I had never considered I was so afraid to
confront her I talked to him and he said
yes his wife forgave him but I can never
forgive either of them I just don't want to be reasoned for her death and live
this marriage when possible my youngest son slept with his brother's wife he
passed away and I didn't tell him Ida info my youngest slept with his
brother's wife after my oldest found out he and his wife got a divorce and my
youngest married her a year later my 56m oldest son 33m had cancer and passed
away 3 weeks ago over the months leading up to his death my youngest son 30m and
his wife had been trying to reconcile with my oldest but he always made it
known that he wanted nothing to do with them he specifically told me that they
were Unforgiven and he wouldn't forgive them just to ease their guilt when I
kept bringing up the idea of reconciling he used to get mad at me so I stopped
trying I just kept telling my youngest and his wife that they had to accept
that he wanted nothing to do with them and they needed to move on when my
oldest passed I did not tell my youngest or his wife to honor his wishes he
always made it clear that they didn't deserve to mourn him in life and didn't
deserve to mourn him in death either about a week ago my youngest saw his
brother's obituary and called me screaming for not telling him that his
brother had passed he told me that I denied him the opportunity to make
things right and that I should have told him his brother passed I told him that
it would be disrespectful for him to even come in the first place as his
brother wouldn't have wanted him there and that he and his wife denied
themselves from attending he hung up on me and blocked my number my wife told me
that she feels guilty for not telling him and that we should have given him
the opportunity to say goodbye to his brother I told her that I would just
find it disrespectful of us to do so as he made it clear that he didn't want
them to come she told me that she understands but she's upset that our
youngest is mad at us and that we should just try to put everything behind us to
heal I told her that what our youngest did was unforgivable and I was not going
to allow him to disrespect his brother in life and in death as well my wife has
been crying constantly because our son blocked us and she started blaming me as
well I'm hurt but I don't regret what I did or even see what I did wrong I feel
like my youngest should just take accountability of his actions instead of
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Welcome Friends to another r/ am I the jerk Here video today we've got some
tough hard-hitting questions and our first story of the day is from upbe fix
4061 am I the jerk for telling my father-in-law he can starve if he wants
because I didn't care my husband and I both 26 recently hosted a family dinner
to announce our pregnancy it's important to add that my husband doesn't have a
close relationship with his father but we keep him around because he still has
three minor siblings that we love and care for my father-in-law is the type of
person that still thinks women should serve men at dining times like he has to
be served first because he's the bread winner and crap like that we usually
don't care since we mostly ignore them however this time my family was present
and we consider he screwed around and found out my dad is my favorite person
in the world my mom died when I was little and my dad took care of my older
sister and I they're the only family I have left at dinner both my husband and
I cooked things we knew both of our families would like the first issue
started when father-in-law tried to sit at one of the heads of the tables and my
husband said no he sat at one and I sat at the other me with my father and
sister to either side and him with his brothers so father-in-law was kind of in
the middle and he didn't like it the second problem and the cause of all of
this is that everyone was kind of serving themselves and he struggles when
holding spoons forks and such my sister bought him a Parkinson friendly cutlery
set that he brings around but a big spoon for serving is still hard for him
so I offered to serve him his plate while my sister served him his drink and
then we all sat to eat and chat 3 or 4 minutes after that my father-in-law asks
out loud is no one going to serve me my plate and my husband looks at him
confused and says no we don't do that here and my mother-in-law just gets up
in a hurry and takes his plate but my father-in-law says no and that the
hostess did it for her father so she can
do it for me and I say yes my father who has an injured hand you're fine he says
that he won't eat then and I just Shrugged and said that he could starve
and I didn't care he leaves with my mother-in-law and while everyone agrees
with me my own father said that it was a disrespectful thing to say and I should
apologize for the way I did it so am I the jerk could op have been a little bit
nicer probably did they owe it to them to be nicer no when the father-in-law
says here well I'll just not eat then and op repeatedly replies with okay
don't I don't care is it Justified to say that is that a good response to what
the father-in-law was trying to pull here let me know what you guys think in
the comments down below our next story is from throwaway R zero am I the jerk
for not buying my daughter concert tickets my 16-year-old daughter Riley
really does not like one of her teachers Miss A this was a bit surprising to me
as the teacher has a very good reputation and has helped out so many
kids in bad situations and is just a generally nice person but my daughter
hates her she'll rant about how annoying
she is for ages but she's never given an actual reason I tell her that she's
allowed to rant and all that but don't say these things to her face and try not
to go too far either I hated some teachers during my childhood that I now
respect and understand so I really didn't think it was a major
issue well I got a call from Riley while
she was at school and she was begging me
to pick her up I arrived immediately but
she refused to tell me what happened she did crack eventually though she told me
that Miss A was having a conversation with another student and she mentioned
one of her son's names so Riley quickly looked them up on social media and went
up to her teacher and asked if he was her son miss a said yes hesitantly
apparently and then Riley started laughing and said some really mean
things about her son to be specific she called him anorexic and skeleton likee
turns out the boy did have anorexia miss a got really upset and asked her to
please work in the library for the remainder of the period I was horrified
and it was clear that my daughter was feeling apologetic but Jesus Christ this
was insanely disrespectful I told Riley that she was grounded and that she
needed to apologize to miss a immediately I then told her that I
wouldn't be buying her concert tickets she got really upset and was all like
how was I supposed to know but that just makes me more upset because it would
still be wrong even if he wasn't anorexic she cried and cried about the
concert and called me really mean my husband thinks the grounding is fine but
the concert tickets are overdoing it he thinks that it probably isn't a huge
deal because miss a just sent Riley to the library and didn't Center to the
office or anything and I'm doing too much I don't know am I the jerk I think
op is not the jerk here I think even after everything it's clear that the
daughter doesn't even feel that remorseful for it they're saying how was
I supposed to know they don't understand that what they did was wrong I've known
people who've dealt with similar conditions and it's not a joke it's not
funny to go around saying that stuff I would say honestly keep it up until they
apologize and a genuine apology at that until realized they legitimately screwed
up here our next story is from jobsite aita am I the jerk for firing an
employee for driving his personal vehicle to job sites I own and operate
my own Contracting Company I've been in business for almost a decade now and
have almost 50 people working for me I usually ask that my co-workers drive to
the office in the morning and take Company Vans or trucks to job sites but
I understand that it isn't always the easiest option for people so I do allow
them to drive personal vehicles to job sites if they need to however there's
been this one guy Steve who I've gotten a few complaints about from customers
Steve drives a big lifted customized truck it's a nice truck and I know he
takes a lot of pride in it but the thing is covered in political stickers now if
you work for me I don't care what your political views are as long as you're
good at your job and Steve's been with me for about 5 years now and he's good
at what he does he's knowledgeable and efficient and and overall has been a
quality employee but Steve's been driving his truck to job sites pretty
regularly because his kids are in daycare and it's easier for him to drop
them off in the morning and then go directly to a job rather than to the
office we've talked about this and I approved it to make it easier for him
normally this wouldn't be an issue for me but the last three customers that
Steve was working with complained to me that he was parking his truck in front
of their houses and they weren't comfortable with the political messaging
on his truck the last one even took pictures of his truck and posted it to
social media and tagged my company on it I had a talk with Steve about driving
his truck to jobs and told him that he's going to need to come to the office in
the morning and take a company vehicle he complained about the hassle of
dropping off his kids and I told him he's going to need to figure that out
but for now I want him to leave his truck at the office as it's causing me
and the company headaches he can lied for the rest of that last job but when
we started a new one last week he started driving his own truck again sure
enough 3 days into the job I got complaints from the customer about
Steve's truck I had another talk with Steve and told him that this was no
longer negotiable and that I'm requiring
him to take a company vehicle he accused me of discriminating against him and it
turned into a heated argument we both said some harsh things and I eventually
told him he was fired he since posted a lot of negative stuff on social media
about me and my company he's also talked to a lot of my employees and some of
them have taken his side and think I was wrong to fire him I've had to hold a
companywide meeting about this and I've revoked the option to drive personal
vehicles to jobs and now require everyone to take company Vehicles no
exceptions now I have people pissed off at me for taking away that option when
they never got complaints so maybe I'll have to revisit that idea but I don't
think I was a jerk for firing Steve the bottom line is you're the boss it's your
call here they didn't respect that and were trying to be argumentative it
wasn't going to work out now as far as the making everybody have to take a
company vehicle I do think that's not a good move I think you should have some
kind of like one two strike type policy if people complain and it seems to be a
problem then enforce it for that person any guesses as to what those stickers
are by the way if you're enjoying these stories make sure to hit those like And
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next story is from affectionate ad 8770 am I the jerk for not forgiving my
parents when they tried to force institutionalize me I 42-year-old female
started having very severe panic attacks I'm talking loud Long messy panic
attacks my husband and I have been married for 19 years and have three
children 18 17 and 13 at the time it was obviously very difficult for all of us
January 2021 I went on disability and entered into an intensive outpatient
program to help sort out why I was having these panic attacks and how to
prevent them and spent 12 weeks in the program I was trying to do right by my
family and do what was best for me my intensive outpatient program ended on
Thursday April 29th and my husband and my dad asked me if I was better I was
caught off guard by this as I was still processing what I went through in my
program and protectively replied no I wasn't ready to share how I felt on
Monday May 3rd my husband told me I either needed to go to our cabin for a
week or be institutionalized and that my father and mother would back him and
they would kick me out of the house we rent from my parents if I didn't go I
was understandably confused as freak even more so when I called my father in
tears to confirm this apparently they thought I was bipolar but that's no
excuse especially as I was being very closely monitored by medical
professionals after an hour of driving I had to pull over as I was hysterical it
took my BFF who's an MD to convince my husband that Not only was this not okay
but there wouldn't even be a program that would take me as I certainly wasn't
a threat to myself or others this whole thing was driven by my mother my husband
really really doesn't understand much about mental health or anything medical
I was mortified but I went home during this time my hand had been going numb on
and off but I figured it was due to the stress of the situation on Friday May
7th my whole arm went dead due to stroke
it turns out I had a disease in my cored arteries but the stressful event pushed
my brain over the edge so to speak causing the stroke I told my extended
family brothers and parents about the stroke broke over Zoom as I was still
emotionally gutted by their attempt to force institutionalize me I told them
that they weren't welcome in my house for the time being as their presence was
highly triggering after what they did my husband feels horrible about what
happened entered therapy and has made a lot of progress my parents on the other
hand refus to apologize as they only had good intentions which is very hurtful
and have repeatedly said that they aren't sorry they did it my brother s
all think that I'm the jerk as I won't forgive my parents and let it go so the
family can all hang out again I don't feel safe when I'm with any of them
anymore I really can't see how I'm the jerk so please I want honest opinions am
I the jerk should I just let this go now I bet a million dollars that op's
parents would love for Opie to let this go but that is insane what they tried to
pull this isn't some like dark 1940s labotomy institution do they
really think they could just find some place with white padded walls they could
just hand you off to and they would take you right in lock you up and hope your
brain figures itself out did they really think they were in any right to try to
force you into that threatened to kick you out of the house they only had good
intentions they basically tried to imprison you our next story is from AR
stranged bro throw am I the jerk for going to a family wedding my brother
wasn't invited I'm 4 years older than my my brother Mark I never got myself into
trouble and was always a great student I
graduated and found myself a great job a loving wife and all I've dreamed of
Mark's doing good all things considered but he sure went the long way when he
got to high school he would constantly hang out with the wrong crowds and got
himself in trouble very often he barely graduated and after that his life went
off the deep end he flunked College only got himself dead end jobs and only got
by with mine and my mother's help he also got himself into drugs though I
don't know how bad still all things considered he was always a very good
person honest and he never made excuses for himself he was just lazy and had no
direction in life during this time he was our extended family's Black Sheep
especially from our mother's side our Aunt Mary especially Mary's very cool
but does act a bit pretentious her kids worshiped Mark and when the stories
about his life started going around half of them are lies she started putting
some distance but would talk to Mark the same as me when we met eventually Mark
turned his life around I don't know what happened but I know it was really bad
long story short he got himself clean one year after that he was
unrecognizable he was happy extroverted and pretty much left his old life behind
after 8 years he was engaged with a job and a future our family knows of this
and they're happy for him unfortunately Mar never abandoned her old views she
occasionally puts him down because he never went to college and doesn't
respect his job every time I visit she likes to show me off as her lawyer
nephew but she never invites him or even mentions him as far as her friends know
my mother only has one son Mark knows this and it hurts him 2 years ago Mary's
daughter got married and they planned this huge wedding both me my wife and my
mother got invited but not mark we didn't know how to handle this we asked
Mary's daughter why Mark was left out and she admitted that her mother didn't
want him there because it would make them look bad we decided to go without
telling him so he wouldn't get hurt he was never even aware Mary's daughter was
getting married of course eventually he found out when he saw pictures on social
media he was absolutely crushed he confronted us and said that if we were
family we should have refused to go without him I disagreed we fought and
and he went non cont to this day my mother feels guilty about it this was 2
years ago a couple of weeks ago my mother found out that Mark just had a
kid and it introduced them to our other uncles she was very hurt since she never
even knew his partner was pregnant she asked him why he didn't tell us about
his child his answer is I love son I'll always be there for him no matter what I
won't expose him to a family that'll feel ashamed of him and turn him into a
parah because of some stupid choices this guy turned his life around and
nobody in this family is willing to stand up for them they had a rocky past
and they overcame that and nobody's willing to go at bat for him and then he
goes no contact for 2 years and then that's when you ask if you're the jerk I
think it's pretty clear op is the jerk in the situation and I'm willing to bet
that op's in a situation where if they could go back a couple years and go at
bat for their own brother I'm willing to
bet they wish they could this next story is from an anonymous poster am I the
jerk for not giving up my parking spot for my downstairs neighbor even though I
don't have a car I moved into a house with three Apartments upstairs people me
on the main floor and basement girl there's only two parking spots which
belong to the upstairs people and me landlord said basement girl doesn't have
a parking spot the parking spot is part of my rent I don't have a car so that
spot goes unused mostly except when I have friends over or if they stay with
me on the weekend then they use my spot basement girl I guess got a car now and
she's been parking on the street but she
needs to move her car every few hours to avoid a ticket I guess she asked
landlord if she can have my parking spot since I don't use it landlord asked me
and I said I can give her the spot if there's a reduce on my rent he said no
to that so I said no sorry then it's my spot apparently this really pissed the
basement girl off and she left a note at my door saying how she needs the spot
and I don't need it so give it to her blah blah blah I ignored the note I told
my friend this and she said the friendly thing to do would be to give up my spot
and now I'm just seen as the jerk neighbor so am I the jerk I mean
although the times you do use it are very rare you are paying for that spot
and I have a feeling that the moment you concede to letting basement girl park
there is the moment they're going to try to walk all over you and that parking
spot so I don't blame op for holding steadfast if anything basement girl
should go complain to the landlord more for refusing to reduce the rent so they
could have that spot or even better rent it to the basement girl yourself just
put a nice little Payday on it our next story is from opening patience
4049 am I the jerk for refusing to go to
my stepmom's Home Country for holiday as a gay person they don't have the best
LGBT rights record I'm 16 and open gay my stepmom herself is cool and I like
her but she's from a country known for their poor treatment of LGBT individuals
I won't name the country to avoid controversy just that if you go read
those articles that say worst X countries for LGBT rights her country is
always there of course this isn't my stepmom's problem or responsibility
she's cool and not at all homophobic she wants us to visit her country and her
family for Christmas for 2 weeks when she brought up the idea I told her that
I'm not comfortable coming but I'm also not saying they shouldn't go we'll just
need to plan something different for me like staying with my uncle or
grandparents which I'm happy to do she suggested that I'm overreacting and I'll
be safe there as there's lots of gay people living there I'm sure it's true
but I don't understand the language the norms and I don't know how to keep
myself safe so it's better to not risk it she's been offended that I don't want
to visit and meet her family and says she's disappointed in me that I won't do
it for her and she says she's sure I'll have a great time there but in reality
even if nothing happens I will always fear of what could happen so it'll be
stressful she also says her family will be hurt as well if I don't go they'll
perceive it as me not considering them worthy to visit them which is obviously
not the case and she'll be embarrassed anyways my dad says he agrees that I
shouldn't go if I don't want want to but also tells me that he understands why
stepmom feels hurt by this and has taking it personally so I'm wondering if
I may be the jerk for selfishly only thinking about myself without giving
much thought about how it makes my stepmom feel and the appearance that it
gives to her family I'm of the opinion that if you are fearful for your life
you shouldn't be forced to go somewhere where you feel like you might be
attacked I feel like the Stepmom knows that wherever it is that they're going
to be staying is probably a safe area and that the concerns are overblown once
they get to that spot but I mean you just never know what could happen in a
country that apparently is very hostile to something that op can't even control
I think op is not the jerk our next story is from yay chocolate am I the
jerk for expecting my partner to let my dog out while he was on a station so I
accept your judgment my 36-year-old female partner Tommy 36-year-old male
was home on on station last week Monday through Wednesday meaning he's had 5
days off he was home all day and maybe left the house once or twice to get
himself some food but that was it I have a dog Spud I got before we got together
they adore each other and it's really sweet since Spud's my dog all of his
care and bills are my responsibility I would never ever ask or expect Tommy to
ever care for him in any way normally Tommy literally does nothing to care for
my dog aside from snuggle but that's a two-way street anyway since Spud's
normally home alone for about 9 hours each day I do things to keep him
occupied he normally sleeps but still like hide treats for him to find before
I leave have a feeder ball out leave the blinds up so we can people watch the
pond and the walking trail at our apartment check in Via blink leave a
YouTube Dog Channel on you get it sometimes I also come home during lunch
to let him out and snug ugle I wanted to hire a dog walker but Tommy said
absolutely not since he scared we'll get our stuff stolen since Tommy was home
though I thought he would be nice enough
to take him out in the middle of the day
to let him pee he didn't on Monday and I brought it up and he said no I won't
because then he'll expect it like what the freak Tommy thinks because Spud can
control himself no problem for 12 hours if necessary happened before we got
together when a pet sitter didn't pull through and didn't tell me until i' had
already paid and left for my day trip yes I got a refund and Spud was okay but
still not ideal he didn't want to spoil him by letting him out during the day I
told him he didn't need a full walk but a couple minutes to pee on the lawn
would make him feel better he wouldn't even have to have stepped more than 10
ft away from the apartment door I reminded him on weekends he gets walked
and let out a lot more and is still fine
during the week but Tommy still insisted he didn't care and said I was acting
like a jerk about it no I didn't yell or get dramatic Spud is my dog after all
but am I wrong for hoping Tommy would help him out and just let him out for 2
minutes to pee no I don't think GOP is the jerk here and God forbid you want to
have the dog get a little bit of extra care and I hate the whole argument of
well he's your dog so that excuses my laziness of not wanting to create any
kind of routine or expectation of caring for this animal although I'll gladly
take things from it in the form of love and snuggles our next story is from
thick fish 5054 am I the jerk for refusing to look
after my little brother for a week so I 19-year-old female have two brothers 17
and 5 years old ever since the youngest was born I've been expected to look
after him quite a lot I usually don't mind but I do feel like a free Nanny
sometimes my parents make it seem like he's my responsibility my mom often
yells that no one helps her with James my 5-year-old brother and I should take
care of him more my father's away a lot because of his work sometimes even weeks
this September I'm starting uni I have my own apartment that I'll move into
this weekend you should note that my parents have said to me multiple times
these past few years that they can't wait until they move out because I'm so
lazy in their opinion and never help out so next week is orientation week for my
uni the uni is in my hometown so I'm not
moving far just getting my own place the orientation week is super important for
getting to know the people you'll spend the next few years with it's also
important to attend because all the important info will be given during this
week my schedule's quite packed for the whole week days start at a.m. and
continue till late night the problem is that both my parents have important work
stuff next week as well my mom's flying abroad for work and Dad's away the whole
week as well my parents said to me that they expect me to take James to and from
daycare and spend the evenings with him feed and bathe him and put him to bed I
told him that this won't be possible because of my UNI schedule but I can
take him to daycare and depending on schedule help out I reminded them that
my 17-year-old brother is also capable of helping out since he's still living
with them and doesn't have such a packed schedule that week and has more time to
help out my parents said that this won't be possible POS since my brother has to
focus on his high school studies and is too young note that I would take care of
James for whole weekends since I was 14 years old I don't want to be difficult
but what my parents are asking for me is too much they got really angry at me
when I explained the situation and told me that I shouldn't ask them for help
ever again because they won't give me any they're not offering me any money
either for taking care of a 5-year-old for an entire week week whilst pushing
all my important things aside I know for a fact they sometimes give my other
brother money for helping out but never offer it to me I feel like they're in
the wrong here but I might not see things that clearly so am I the jerk so
in this situation I think op is very clearly not the jerk and the parents are
very used to just taking advantage of their kids they just want to push it off
on op make everything op's problem give them nothing to work with not even like
monetary compensation just put all of your life on hold take care of our kid
make it work and also if you want anything from us get bent op's not the
jerk and our final story of the day is from throwaway 66 297 am I the jerk for
asking about my share of inheritance I 32-year-old female am the eldest child
in a family of eight dad mom two brothers 17 25 and three sisters 29 27
and 15 15 our parents told me I was adopted when I was 10 All My Siblings
knew I was adopted but I was never treated any differently and I had never
felt like I wasn't a part of the family some years ago Grandma mom's mom passed
away in her sleep very suddenly without a will as a result mom had a lot of
trouble with her siblings when it comes to splitting assets it took 3 years for
everything to settle down after which mom told us she'll be drawing up a will
to prevent the same thing from happening mom came home from the lawyers beaming
saying everything settled we were like okay great but in her excitement she
started telling us who's getting what my 29-year-old sister told her she doesn't
have to tell cuz it's awkward but mom says she doesn't want any surprises and
wants us to know in no uncertain terms as to what we're getting so we don't
fight and contest the will because it's final after she finished rattling off
the list my siblings and I realized that I'd been left left out of it so my
25-year-old brother asked what I'm getting Mom stopped smiling and asked me
if that's what I'd asked my brother to say I said no I didn't but I too am
wondering why I wasn't mentioned I don't know what happened but something seemed
to snap in her after I said that she told me that I shouldn't be greedy and
should be grateful that she raised me because who knows where I could be and
what I'm doing otherwise I was hurt and told her that it wasn't really about the
money but but leaving me out of her will was clearly hurtful and if she had
really seen me as her child she wouldn't have left me out and said all those
awful things mom reiterated that the Will's final and then excused herself I
left shortly after but my 15-year-old sis told me that Mom didn't come out of
her room until the next day I tried to resume things as it were but her speech
and text messages to me had become short
and Curt and she no longer calls we used
to call each other regularly then D told me that I shouldn't have been rude and
disrespectful to Mom that I broke her heart and should apologize I told him
what happened and he said her money her decision and that I shouldn't have
challenged her I didn't want to argue so I said nothing my siblings have been
trying to talk to Mom and Dad about this
but it seems to only make them unhappier dad accused me of turning my siblings
against them I haven't visited my parents since the incident with my mom
about 3 weeks ago and we adult kids usually visit every week if nothing
comes up am I the jerk for asking about my share of inheritance which basically
challenges my mom's right to her money and assets and for causing this conflict
I think op is not the jerk here the thing is is the mom is the one rattling
things off and they walk through everything op's present op he didn't get
named op he's their kid I think it's a fair question to ask the mom's true
feelings clearly got exposed here and they're just totally in denial defense
mode I just feel bad for op a story from Anonymous user 13 Q am I the jerk for
calling the police on my husband after I found out that he's hiding my son's
motorcycle I got my son a 7,000 motorcycle for his 18th birthday this
past June my son is obsessed with Automobiles and loves motorcycles in his
room he has plenty of models and posters of motor cycles of all types his biod
dad passed away when he was just 12 now I'm married to my current husband and he
has kids of his own my husband's always been against my son's interest in
motorcycles he thinks I'm encouraging him to be Reckless distracting him from
school and by extension his future and spoiling him and blowing away money by
spending 7,000 on a motorcycle this has caused some tension between him and my
son so I told him to stop complaining about it around 2 weeks ago my son's
motorcycle went missing we opened a police report but nothing came out of it
it just disappeared my my husband had a smirk on his face the entire time just
walking around saying I told you so you just wasted your money this was
unbearable to hear to be quite honest my
mother-in-law visited a few days ago she was talking about the other house my
husband owns and to mention seeing a motorcycle one that's similar to the one
that we lost in my husband's garage while she was cleaning it she goes to
clean that house weekly even though it's empty my husband plans on giving it to
his kids as inheritance I was puzzled I asked if she was certain but she showed
me a photo she took of it which confirmed it was indeed my son's
motorcycle I immediately rushed to call and confront my husband about it he
admitted that he took it and hid the motorcycle in his garage as a last
resort after me and his stepson kept brushing him and his thoughts off about
the 7,000 being spent on something unnecessary and that could cause issues
I blew up at him demanding he returned it he refused and told me that he'd been
considering selling it and giving the money back to me so I could use it
wisely this time I told him I was serious and that I'd call the police he
literally said this is a family matter and cops can't do crap about it I had
enough I called the cops as soon as I ended the call with him the motorcycle
was found and returned but my husband had to be taken in since there was an
open file about the motorcycle going missing he was let go eventually but he
was livid with me he came home yelling about how awful what I did was and how
crazy my behavior was I refused to engage in the argument but he told his
entire family about it and they judged me for calling the police on my own
husband even though I'd already asked him to return it he said he was just
looking out for my son and that one day we'll realize that he was right but only
when it's too late my son isn't speaking to me or my husband I feel horrible
about the situation and I'm starting to think I handled this the the wrong way
personally I feel like go is not the jerk and I feel like in no way should
they be bullied into accepting that what
the husband did here was right let alone the fact that you went and bought this
yourself and they were considering trying to sell something that I don't
know if they have the right to even sell is their name on the title were they
going to just try to sell it without a title it sounds like to me that this guy
has some serious control issues if you were in a relationship like this would
divorce be weighing heavy on your mind let me know what you guys think in the
comments down below our next story is from Sister Feud
1927 am I the jerk for telling my sister I hope she never has kids I'm
22-year-old female I have three-year-old
twin boys and I had a baby girl not even 2 days ago my sister jod is 34 and has
been suffering with infertility for the past 10 years as well as repeated
miscarriages I used to feel really bad for her and also a bit guilty as I got
pregnant twice while being on contraception it caused some tension
between us when I was pregnant with my twins because she was jealous and I was
already feeling intense guilt this time around she wasn't as jealous but I still
felt it was unfair as my husband and I have decided we're done having kids I
offer to be a surrogate for my sister as soon as I'm cleared after this baby and
she seemed like she was absolutely over the moon with that in turn she offered
to watch the twins while I was in labor with my new baby which was a relief on
my part I went into labor on Thursday morning and Jody came over to watch the
kids while my husband and I went to the hospital she seemed like she was in a
great mood and promptly rushed us out the door everything seemed fine until we
got home this morning to find thousands worth of Destruction to pretty much
every baby item we've purchased even the crib mattress was torn open everything
was ruined jod tried to pin it on the twins but they're three and this level
of Destruction had to have been done by an adult my twins can't even reach some
of the stuff that was destroyed and they
certainly do not know how to open diaper
packages and tear them apart I know kids especially toddlers can do a lot of
damage in a short time but I also know my children aren't capable of doing what
happened I told my sister to get the freak out of my home and stay away from
me and my family I got really angry and I said a lot of stuff I shouldn't have
but one of them was I hope you never have a child and if you do then I'll
tell it exactly what you've done to mine I told her we can't afford to fix the
damage she's caused but since she still denies it she won't cough up I told her
because of her the baby doesn't even have a safe space to sleep my parents
caught a wind of what I said and even after I explain the situation they still
think I'm being a jerk for saying something so V to my sister after all
she's done for us obviously my judgment is clouded so am I a jerk anybody that's
capable of lashing out like that emotionally because of unfounded
emotions that are personally just their problem that being sheer jealousy I
honestly agree with OP they probably should not be having kids I wouldn't
exactly put somebody who went and did all this to their own sister very high
on the ranking of seems like they'd be a good parent what do you guys think is
this just too far did op cross a line here personally I don't think so but I'd
like to know what you guys think our next story is from left Kaleidoscope 109
am I the jerk for smoking in my backyard I female 27 live in a house with my
husband I'm a heavy smoker but I don't smoke in the house because my husband
doesn't like the smell and I don't want him breathing secondhand smoke he's a
non-smoker I usually smoke sigs in our backyard one of our neighbors slid a
passive aggressive note through our letter box last week saying something
along the lines of my children just wanted to play in our backyard thanks
for exposing them to cancer I hope you're happy I had no idea which
neighbor this was none of our neighbors a do to us about this I decided to
ignore the note and continue to smoke in my backyard then 4 days ago one of our
neighbors knocked on our door and complained and said I shouldn't smoke in
my backyard because their kids play in their backyard I think my neighbors
being unreasonable our backyards are pretty large and I smoke right in the
center of my backyard so the smoke has more space to disperse I think my
neighbors only complaining because they can see me smoking over our fence am I
the jerk I feel like maybe they would have a case if this was like apartment
living and you're smoking literally right below or on top of them or like a
motel thing where you step out the door and you're literally just right there
next to every single neighbor but gosh darned I think if you have a large
backyard you have a right to be able to smoke in your own backyard unless where
you live has a law or a statute that says you can't well then honestly I
think they need to kick rocks I'm not going to lie I can sometimes smell when
my neighbor smokes do I particularly enjoy smelling it no but do I make an
issue about it why would I I mean to be fair though the healthy option would be
to quit by the way if you guys are enjoying these stories than sure to hit
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videos that said our next story is from careless elk
754 am I the jerk for taking pics of my son's clothes he wears to his dad's
house first I'm not some super picky spiteful ex who tries to make my ex's
life difficult we have a son Mark who's nine he wears a size 10 or 12 and
clothes and size five and shoes Mark never comes back in clothes or shoes
that size last several weekends for example Mark came back in clothes that
were a size six or seven where the shirt
fit like a crop top and he couldn't even button his pants and they were way too
short and size three shoes that he had to scrunch his toes to even get on I
know Mark's uncomfortable and his feet hurt because he tells me I've asked my
ex Joe about Mark's clothes and he always has some reason Mark dressed
himself Mark insisted on wearing that there behind on laundry he was in a rush
and they didn't have time to get ready until the last minute if Mark came home
to me in clothes that actually fit I wouldn't care but they don't fit Mark
can't wear that stuff to school it's in really shabby condition and clothes are
not free I don't get child support from Joe because neither of us can currently
afford to go back to court and Joe has made it clear without a child support
order I'll never get a single penny from him and if I ever do ask for support he
would go as far as quitting his job to have no in in come so he doesn't have to
pay unfortunately our custody agreement does not affect child support and that's
a whole separate issue I cannot legally keep Mark away from Joe anyways I've
started taking pics of what Mark wears to his dad's and texting the pic to Joe
with a reminder to please remember that I need that back as Mark is starting to
run low on clothes and shoes that actually fit him correctly and are nice
enough for school Joe never responds to the texts but has told me in person at
exchanges I'm a selfish and Petty witch for not wanting Mark to have clothes and
shoes at his house too I've asked Joe to
please buy clothes that fit Mark to keep at his place but he's refused saying
it's not his responsibility or problem gosh do I wish op had any kind of
support where they could go back to court and challenge this guy for how
awful they're being it is such a load of it for him to go and say it's not my
responsibility to buy clothes for for my son imagine how Mark would feel if Mark
ever heard that Opie is not the jerk because not only are they looking out
for Mark they're looking out for their own Financial Security against a bad
father our next story is from Jasmine 0917 am I the jerk for making my
stepdaughter feel bad for eating all my snacks and drinks my stepdaughter's 10
I'm 30-year-old female and I have diabetes as well as other food allergies
that prevent me from eating a very large variety of foods that are purchased for
consump in this household the food snacks drinks that I can eat usually
tend to be on the more expensive side and I have to spend way too much time
shopping around for bargains so I can actually eat my stepdaughter is fully
aware that these are the only things I can eat and we've had no problems up
until roughly 6 months ago i' had been in her life for 8 years so yes this is a
new Behavior so my favorite food and drink is burritos and Diet Sprite I
can't have either of them due to my allergy and it took me forever to find a
brand that I could actually have but due to the fact that both of these products
are way too expensive $9 for an8 pack burrito and $12 for a sixpack of the
Sprite knockoff I don't get them often at all maybe once every 3 months or so I
caught my stepdaughter eating and drinking both multiple times and had to
sit her down and tell her that I didn't want her eating those as they were
expensive and for me specifically and offered to buy her regular brands of the
same items she said yes so I went out and bought them for her just to find
that she was still eating mine and not touching hers I asked her why several
times and she Shrugged her shoulders and walks off saying I don't see why it's a
big deal it's just food and rolls her eyes so I told my husband to do
something about it because he knows my dietary restrictions very well and knows
how important not only that is but also how much I love those specific items and
can't have them often he speaks to to her everything after that seemed fine
however I just bought the burritos and knockof organic Sprite again yesterday I
went to go get myself some around 1 p.m. when my stepdaughter was supposed to be
in bed the entire leader was gone I couldn't find it anywhere so I go in my
stepdaughter's room and she's sitting not only with the Sprite in her lap but
two burritos as well this is when I noticed everything else my green tea
sitting on the floor gone my meal containers that i' packed for work under
her bed and on her dresser I thought I was going freaking mental because I
couldn't find them anywhere and turns out she's been eating them I've gone
many days at work without food because of this so I told her I had never been
so absolutely disappointed and repulsed that someone could lack that much
respect and empathy for another individual and walked out I woke my
husband he went down and saw everything but came up and started screaming at me
because apparently I made his kid cry and now he's worried about her
developing anxiety about eating am I the jerk now what I'm going to say is very
controversial first of all I think Gopi is not the jerk but maybe it would be a
good idea for her to develop anxiety when it comes to taking other people's
things God forbid somebody gets upset when somebody steals not just one thing
but everything they've tried to prepare for themselves buy for themselves like
your favorite pack of Doritos this is food that you specifically choose for
yourself because that's all you can eat maybe it's for the best that they get
apprehensive about touching somebody else's stuff cuz it sure didn't come to
them naturally and it doesn't sound like the dad's going to reinforce anything
actually in retrospect I just remembered the kid is 10 years old for some reason
I assumed they were a little bit older than that I still think Opie is not the
jerk here but I feel like there's just a
lot more discussions and maybe even like family therapy to be had it it'll also
be for the best if they can work to curb the daughter's habit of eating and
drinking all this food and drink when everybody's asleep secretly this next
story is from Jam happy 165 am I the jerk for not going outside to see my
husband's family when they show up un announced I'm 26-year-old female my
husband 26 and I have been married for almost 2 years his family are a very
close knit group and although they're very kind and giving it can also be
overbearing in my opinion I grew up in a very different family my family isn't
near as close or overbearing well his family likes to show up to our house
unannounced this usually happens about once a month and it's usually on a
Sunday I personally find this very rude to show up at someone's house whenever
you want and not say anything to them on Sundays I don't usually get ready the
house is a wreck I don't have a bra or makeup on I don't fix my hair because
it's my day to relax so when they just show up I have to fly through my butt to
get dressed put a bra on run a brush through my hair it's his dad mom and
sister and I don't want to look like crap in front of them I'm also not
comfortable with them maybe it's because
I grew up differently recently I stopped doing that I just don't go outside to
say hi anymore because I simply don't want to I don't want to fly through my
butt I don't want to see them I didn't know or ask them to come over so I don't
want to go out of my way to say hi for 20 seconds this may make me a jerk but I
feel like it isn't that hard to tell me you're coming over just give us a heads
up so I can get ready and put a bra on the most recent time they had set up a
little gift on our front porch I had stayed inside because well they showed
up unannounced and I was taking a nap my husband went outside to thank them say
hello Etc his mom asked where I was and when he told her I was napping and not
dressed she told him to tell me to get dressed and come outside because this
gift was for me me so I did I threw a bra on got dressed went outside than
them profusely but I could tell this mom was upset with me my husband thinks I'm
being rude but I think it's his family that's rude it's rude to show up
unannounced to someone's home whether you have a gift for them or not all I'm
asking for is a heads up that they're coming I'm not ungrateful for the random
gifts I think they're nice and his family's very sweet however I didn't ask
for any of that I like my space my husband says he doesn't know how to tell
them that without sounding ungrateful but I feel like they're crossing a
boundary here am I the jerk I think op is not the jerk here because honestly I
fall right on the same Spectrum as them I am a very comfortable homebody people
popping up anywhere unannounced is extremely exhausting for somebody like
me I don't want to have to feel like I'm forced to entertain or share my space
when I never had a say in the matter to begin with OR had a heads up honestly I
think it's awesome that their family so connected but you have to respect
boundaries and where family isn't a good enough excuse in my opinion our next
story is from addict Ed am I the jerk for telling a lady her baby is a waste
of space I know the title sounds bad but hear me out I female 19 have a baby
sister 11 months who I babysit quite often mostly because my mom had a knee
surgery after an accident quite recently so she can't walk very well yet the
result of many years of struggling with joint problems she's got a fancy
titanium knee now this took place a couple days ago when my sister started
coughing and having a runny nose then overnight came a slight fever I know now
that this is just a common cold but obviously I was worried and told my mom
I would gladly take her to a doctor I have a driver's license but I'm very
scared of driving I got into an accident the first time driving alone and this
kind of traumatized me i l live in a big city in Europe where public
transportation is great so it's no big deal to not use a car half of the way to
the doctors is done via trim for the rest of the way I have to use a bus
usually these buses are sufficiently big
but with limited space for strollers and wheelchairs that day the bus was
unusually cramped full of people standing as well as a woman in a
wheelchair two old ladies with Walkers and two strollers so I could barely fit
with my baby sister in her stroller I asked one of the women with a stroller
if she could move a bit and make space as a response she just rolled her eyes I
asked her again and she just told me to wait for the next bus which takes about
15 minutes as her baby needs the space well I look at the baby and it's a doll
a very realistic looking one but still a doll I got very angry at that point and
told her that my baby is sick and needs to go to the doctor and she just ignored
me so I kind of lashed out and told her that her fake baby is a waste of space
that other people with real babies or wheelchairs could need the lady got
really offended insulted me under her breath and finally moved quite a few
people looked at me angrily I know some people need these dolls for example to
deal with grief but I don't understand why you can't move over if someone asks
you or why you need to put it in a stroller in the first place it's not
even real after all in the space on public transports limited she could have
been taking the space from a disabled person when she has the option not to
still since a lot of people judged me I'm wondering if I was in the wrong am I
the jerk I think this is a very bizarre situation and I think op is not the jerk
honestly I'm going to go out on a limb here and assume that this lady is
pushing this doll around in a stroller to take advantage of the rules where you
get more advantageous seating in a lot of of public transport options maybe
even parking spaces if you're driving around because you have a stroller and a
baby I mean just why else would she be doing that our next story is from do Yak
8527 am I the jerk for walking my sister
down the aisle when our mother's husband
believed he would be the one to do it my
sister got married on Saturday she asked me several months ago to walk her down
the aisle and to have a dance to honor our dad I said of course our dad died
when I was 11 and she was s and we both have memories of him and she wanted to
honor him and feel connected to him on the day and she saw me as the best
person for the job so I walked her to her husband and danced the song our dad
used to sing to us our mother was remarried before our dad was a year gone
her husband has no children and was unable to have kids of his own so he
made a big attempt to take over our dad's place and be regarded as Dad which
he wasn't despite knowing this and never being asked he assumed that he would be
fulfilling Father of the Bride duties at my sister's wedding and on the day he
learned it was me she asked he was visibly upset I had an idea that he was
expecting it but said nothing neither did she at the reception he confronted
me and asked why I would do it when he's
right there and how was I more deserving
than him her father figure I told him it
was my sister's choice and she wanted me so we could honor our dad he told me he
deserves better than to be completely ignored in the wedding and treated like
he wasn't a parent and not a part of our family for the last 15 years I Shrugged
which pissed him off even more he and my mom are both furious at me for saying
yes when I knew he wanted to do it am I the jerk we do get a lot of wedding
related stories here and a common sentiment for me is I subscribe to the
belief that when you have a wedding as long as it's legal you should be able to
celebrate it however you want and in this situation where the bride wanted to
honor her biological father I don't see how she or her brother for doing Father
of the Bride duties could be the jerk I think we can all agree here the stepdad
is just all up in their feelings our next story is from Sirus banana
7181 am I the jerk for spending more on my wedding than my best friend's husband
makes in a year for context I 24-year-old female and my best friend
25-year-old female have been best friends since we were two now after high
school I decided that I wanted to go and start my own business so I got a degree
in business management while having a small business on the side after I
finished my degree my business I put all of my time effort and savings into
growing it which ended up being a very financially rewarding decision for me as
I now own a very successful business I met my fiance 32-year-old male 4 years
ago and we got engaged last year but decided to have a long engagement
because I wanted to lose some weight which he said I didn't need to but was
completely supportive of my fiance is an orthopedic surgeon so we're more than
well off especially as we have no plans to have children now After High School
my best friend was doing a degree in chemistry but dropped out after 2 years
when she became pregnant I was there helping her out emotionally and
financially throughout the whole of her pregnancy as she decided she didn't want
to work through her pregnancy and wanted to become a stay-at-home mom which I
totally supported however her h husband works a 9 to-5 job in an office which
pays enough for them to get by but not enough for them to live in luxury
because of this me and my fiance try and
help them out the best we can and always let them borrow money when they need it
we help them with the down payment on their house however now that we've
started planning our wedding properly we've got a beautiful venue an open bar
live music a three course meal I've got the perfect dress we're paying for all
the bridesmaid dresses and groomsmen suits and we've got beautiful little
gift hampers for each of the guests to take home and overall we went all out
because we can only have this day once now when I was talking to my best friend
about this who's also my maid of honor she brought up possibly having the same
venue for her wedding which I thought was lovely but I didn't know if they
would be able to afford it I didn't see that though so it was extra awkward when
she asked about the price so I told her it's around $32,000 and she went
ballistic asking how much my whole wedding costs I really didn't want to
tell her but she ended up getting it out of me and she went crazy my whole
wedding amounted up to about $72,000 which then sent her on a tangent
of saying we're so irresponsible spending that much money on one day that
her husband only earns 60,000 a year to support the three of them and if she
knew we had that much money to just throw around she would have asked us for
more when they were strugg struggling financially earlier on this year she
finished with saying that I'm a horrible friend for not helping her out more and
that she was outraged that we thought it was okay to spend more money on one day
than her family gets to live off in a year I don't think I'm the jerk but
she's been sending me messages about how inconsiderate I am so maybe I did go
overboard and spend too much so am I the jerk as far as how much you want to
spend on your wedding personally I feel like to each their own you want to go
big go big you got the money for it go as big as you want I think considering
how much they've already helped their friends it sounds like they've done
quite a bit I mean helping with a down payment on their house is a lot I think
it's pretty disappointing to see that their friend upon finding out how rich
their friend is starts calling them horrible and somehow like insinuating
that they're holding the money over their heads almost like as if the
friends were entitled to any of it to begin with it's just weird and our final
story of the day is from immediate rhubarb 39 am I the jerk for making my
wife look crazy at our housewarming I'm male 36 my wife female 27 and I just
purchased our first home we've always rented before I'm what my father called
a shade tree mechanic I work on my car and other people's cars just in my shop
when I have time it's a side hustle I'm a teacher in real life so is she I in
the past have gotten grease and dirt on our hand towels and she's told me off I
don't do it anymore not for a long time anyway our new home has 2 and 1 half
bathrooms including one that we have for guests she decorated it with all that
stuff to make it look nice honestly it's nicer than how she decorated our in
Suite in our room she spent all week getting the house ready for our friends
and family she's very happy to show off her new home as am i i c cleaned up the
backyard and the shop so I could show my friends and family where I goop off one
of the things she did was to leave a note pinned to the hand towels in the
guest bathroom it said if you touch these I will end you and she had drawn a
little skull and crossbones when it was time for everyone to come she told me to
check everything and make sure it looked nice I suppose one of the things I
should have done was to remove the note I did not we had an excellent party and
every one left with a full belly and a smile the day after the party we were
cleaning up and I hear her call me by my name she never calls me by my name I
hadn't done anything bad recently so I wasn't sure why I was in trouble I had
not touched the hand towels and neither had anyone else they were Immaculate she
says I did it on purpose to make her look bad I totally just missed the note
she called her mom and I heard her saying it was my fault people think she
doesn't want them using her towels it's such a minor thing but she's still mad
at me am I the jerk I think op is not the jerk and honestly even if somebody
did like mention it I think the explanation of the overall story is
actually cute and funny enough to honestly turn the whole thing into a
laugh it doesn't have to be this like weird dramatic oh now they're going to
think so bad of me like if the wife told them oh did you see that note I'm sorry
I left that for my husband he works on cars he loves to mess up the hand towel
so I wrote him a little not forgot to take it off that'd be a cute story I
think op's not the jerk I think the wife is just getting a little too Doom and
Gloom about it and a little too worked up over it am I the jerk for not wanting
to pay for my wife's spending money before the birth of our daughter my wife
and I both worked full-time and low to Middle earning jobs with my wife earning
a bit more than I but not by much my wife returned to work out of necessity
when our daughter was 3 months old her mental health became pretty bad and she
has a minor disability that makes work life a little hard and she found it a
bit worse after having our daughter but we had to do what we had to do my wife's
Nan who sort of raised her and was her only family passed away sadly when our
daughter was 6 months old my wife inherited everything she owned it was a
big inheritance not enough for us to both immediately retire but a lot enough
for us to buy a decent house outright a new car each and to put some money away
for a comfortable retirement shortly after her Nan died my my wife stopped
working and became a stay-at-home mom partially due to griefs and struggles at
her job and a bit because she always would have preferred to stay home with
our daughter thing is though I'd rather not work and be a stay-at-home Dad too
but I've been sucking it up because we still need an income to get by my wife
spoke with me recently about how to budget so we can live off just my income
she'd been dipping into her savings to pull her weight but that's all tied up
in Investments now I said if I'm the one who asked to work and I'd rather not I
don't think I should have to spend my money funding her hobbies and spending
money if she chooses not to work then she can buy clothes at a charity shop
instead of new ones and get a friend to cut her hair for free Etc or she can get
a job working a night shift or start an online business or something to fund her
spending money I don't see why I should have to pay for stuff like her sewing
materials and gym membership since I don't benefit from them and they're not
my responsibility I'm happy to pay for stuff for our daughter seeing as she's
my responsibility so I don't think I'm being unreasonable here I work 36 hours
a week and I already pay for the bills and food she said that's not fair if I
get to enjoy my gym membership and hobbies like video games but the
difference is I'm paying for them with my money my wife said her inheritance
was worth more than if she spent her whole life working and without that both
of us would be working anyway and having higher expenses from paying a mortgage
and car loans so I should count that as her contribution and share my money with
her am I the jerk I think GOP is a big jerk here mainly because the wife got a
big inheritance and that wife turned around and spent that whole inheritance
on a retirement plan a decent house outright a new car each so the wife went
and did all of that for the both of you and set you up for the rest of your
lives and then op turns around and starts having trouble justifying paying
for her stuff too is it fair of the wife to expect op to keep on working while
they stay at home I'd like to know your guys's thoughts in the comments down
below our next story is from ta account 2808 am I the jerk for not helping my
sister with her IVF solely because of her husband I'm 34-year-old female my
sister Meg 31-year-old female cheated on
my ex- brother-in-law Josh with his best
friend Liam they did it for over 4 years until Josh found out and broke up Liam
and mag have been officially together for 5 years my ex brother brother-in-law
has been my best friend since elementary
school and my sister knew him through me
and despite me saying that it would make things uncomfortable she insisted on
hitting on him until he noticed and they started dating my relationship with Meg
took a toll on me because I was annoyed with her for doing this to my best
friend but we never cut contact because of my nephew her son with Josh and my
godson one year ago I received a large amount of money inheritance and because
I have a good fin Financial condition I decided that half would go to help my
parents and siblings my parents received 50% and my siblings four of them 12.5%
each my parents decided to renovate the house two of my brothers paid off their
house debts my other sister asked if she
could pay for her IVF treatment with her girlfriend with that money and I said
yes at no time did I control how they wanted to spend their money well Meg was
super happy with my help and talked about paying for her IVF with Liam his
infertility and I hesitated I'm still best friends with Josh and I can tell
you what they did with him caused years of therapy to get him to start thinking
about dating someone I don't talk to Liam 99% of the time and I only helped
my sister because after all she had my nephew I didn't go to the wedding and I
always made it very clear that it wasn't a relationship I would support but
they're free so I told her that I didn't feel comfortable giving her the money
for this as it involves Liam her and their relationship specifically so I
would rather help in some other way renovate the house pay off debts
refurbish the house and that I would take double care that the money didn't
go to that she started screaming telling me to get over something that had
nothing to do with me and that was years ago and that I was treating her and my
other sister differently because of the past we argued a lot and I decided to
create a fund for my godson that only he could handle at age 18 instead of
helping her well this created even more mess because she claims that I helped
everyone but her and that I was cruel in denying helping her have another child
when they can't naturally I really don't feel comfortable doing this am I the
jerk admittedly it might come off as like appearing biased but the bottom
line is it's op's inheritance and op's money and I think gop's goal was always
to help out where they see fit not just give them the money to use as they
necessarily want I think it's just circumstance that everybody else that
got some of the money used it for reasons that op would willingly approve
of frankly giving it to your nephew that's a darn good choice by the way if
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random 47017 am I the jerk for refusing to put
my husband's name on the title of my house first some important info I
30-year-old female have been married to my husband 34-year-old male for 8 years
now we live in a culture where you never combine your finances after marriage
some do but they're the exception to the rule also in the event of a divorce
there's nothing like common property or anything like that you keep what you
bought and anything that has your name on it we met while we were studying
graduated the same year have the same primary income I do some freelance work
we're so in tune in everything EX except how to spend money and he likes to
travel while I'm a homebody since the first day of marriage I propos that we
share the expenses rent utilities groceries cleaning lady equally even
though culturally the man is responsible for all of them then we should have a
savings account to save for a house he didn't want to save for a house he said
that his money is better spent on experiences and anyway there's nothing
wrong with renting until we're in our 50s then we can buy a house in theend
end we agreed to have a shared account for expenses then whatever is left is
ours to do with what we want he tends to
take at least two weekend trips with his friends staying in expensive hotels
going to concerts also even though I cook almost every meal at home most
times he would just order out for lunch or dinner I also go on weekend trips
with my friends but they're more day trips to the beach hiking in the
mountains scuba diving each trip costs less than a tenth of what his trips do
well I've been saving for all of these 8 years and now I'm about to close on a
small apartment and pay it in full no interest or monthly payments the plan is
to live there save what I'm used to saving plus what I used to spend on rent
buy a bigger house and rent this apartment for extra income and now he
wants me to add his name to the deed I flat out told him no he didn't want to
save he didn't put a scent towards the house so his name doesn't go on the deed
I also told him that I plan to buy a bigger house and now that he doesn't
have to pay rent he can save and put his
share towards the next house then he can
have his name on the D of the house well he called me a jerk said that this is
not what it meant to be married and took some days off to go on a trip to cool
off I don't think I'm the jerk but I also tend to be stubborn when it comes
to what I perceive as Financial irresponsibility so am I the jerk P.S
I'm not a miser I still paid for dates botom gifts just because I see something
he might like went on one expensive trip a year with him usually abroad Etc I
just saved a lot too I think whether you agree to share your finances or have
them split the real issue here is that op's husband isn't putting anything into
this stuff and still expecting to partially Own It op is definitely not
the jerk here and if I was op I wouldn't
know whether to be like outraged or just flat out disappointed in the ridiculous
assumptions from the husband our next story from AIT throwaway 287 am I the
jerk for taking away my daughter's birthday gift that I don't think is
appropriate I'm 41-year-old female my daughter Annie 16-year-old female
recently celebrated her birthday and we had a small party at home with her
friends and a few relatives my boyfriend
Sam 30-year-old male also came along and he gave Annie a bunch of gifts covers
and charms for her phone a gift card and a couple of adult Thriller novels she's
a big reader it's the last of the gifts that I had an issue with I don't think
it was appropriate for Sam to give Annie adult books without going over it with
me first I told Danny that these books weren't appropriate for her I've read
one of them before and took them away but she started screaming at me saying
that it's her gifts and she can read them if she wants she's been ignoring me
for the past few days I talked to Sam later about how he did something totally
wrong and now Annie's mad at me but he said they're just books and and I'm
going too far and we had a bit of an argument over it I don't think what I
did was wrong but Annie and Sam think otherwise so am I the jerk without
knowing exactly like what the contents of these books are I'm going to say op
is the jerk even you know if there is action or I don't know I guess you could
say gruesome acts from the villains in these stories honestly I feel like 16
years old is kind of reasonable to read an adult thriller book it's not like he
botherers some Fabio having cover romance novel it's like letting your kid
watch a James Bond movie but also dialing it down cuz it's written in a
book you're not actually even seeing any
of this stuff this next story is from an anonymous poster am I the jerk for
calling my boyfriend fat and lazy after he criticized me for not working out I
typically work out four to five times a week and my boyfriend doesn't he doesn't
work out at all doesn't even walk his dog I walk him when I come over I've
asked him to come work out with me many many times and he always comes up with
an excuse I do high-intensity interval training twice a week and go for a run
two times a week and maybe go for a hike
on the weekend my boyfriend was big when we met but he's gotten bigger when we
started dating I'm not sure how much he weighs but he's a 4XL in shirts and he's
about 5'1 he eats terrible and his doctors informed him his blood pressure
is high but he hasn't done anything about it I recently started a new
workout called Inferno it's brutal and I go twice a week last week I was PMSing
pretty hard and my period was due I'm on
the slim side and if I work out too hard
or lose too much weight I lose my period so I decided to skip my workout my
boyfriend asked why I wasn't going to my workout when after work I came over and
I said I was tired and wanted to give my body a rest he huffed and told me I was
being lazy and being tired wasn't an excuse my mouth was hanging in out and I
shot back that he never works out and always uses being tired as an excuse he
got angry and told me he doesn't have to work out but I chose to so skipping it
was being lazy I laughed about it pointed out his high blood pressure and
him putting on weight and told him if he doesn't have to workout and if I'm lazy
for skipping one workout then he's way more lazy for skipping years worth of
workouts he should have done he yelled that I was a witch and I had enough so I
walked out it's been a week and he's texted me a few times but I have not
bothered to read them because I'm so pissed at him I think op's not the jerk
here and I think there's a really unhealthy Dynamic going on here it
sounds to me like op works out honestly quite a lot and the boyfriend being 4XL
I'm not even being rude like you have to
be eating a lot to actually get to a 4XL like I'm talking the boyfriend probably
eats like 4 to 5,000 calories a day at least wearing a 4XL is legitimately in
like absolutely high-risk Health territory like there has to be some kind
of like emotional abuse element to what this guy is saying I'm not huge on
saying anybody should break up with anybody but if there was ever one to
just walk away from and leave in the past I feel like this would be one our
next story is from National Law 6665 am I the jerk for sleeping on my weekends
me 35 have a stepdaughter 13 who spends every other weekend at my home my
husband and I have three kids 4 months 2
years and 4 years my baby is super fussy it's been really bad the doctor said
she's okay she's really collicky she cries all night long the past few months
have been a nightmare working all day no
sleep at night I'm a super light sleeper I've been cancelling our weekends with
my stepdaughter so my husband and I can catch up on sleep my stepdaughter
decided to blast us on social media she said my dad and stepmom can't even take
care of the kids they have yet they keep having more so much for a reliable
loving parent followed by my husband's family asking her what's wrong she lets
them know that we keep cancelling on her time it's not just her time it's also
her dad's it's been a very difficult situation for both of us my in-laws are
now saying that we're the jerks in the situation they stopped helping us with
the younger kids altogether am I the jerk here I feel like it's just
circumstances no one asks for a ky baby I mean I get it I feel for them being
tired and not getting enough sleep but I
think you're the jerks for cancelling on your own kid I mean less so to op and
you know it's their stepdaughter but op's partner cancelling on their own
daughter to see them on just a weekend it's not like they're trying to come
over every single day in the week the kid feels neglected what more can you
say can you blame them they're 13 years old they only see their dad every week
weekend and even then they're saying nope sorry this weekend's not good as
well got to catch up on sleep you know how do you think that looks to them this
next stories from throwaway 3728 28282 am I the jerk for laughing in my
mother's friend's face when she told me to go to my room I 25-year-old female
don't speak to my mother like at all I had to go to my mother's house today to
pick up an important document that I left behind when I moved out 7 years ago
as soon as I got to the house my mother suddenly had a massive emergency and
realized that it was apparently her friend's funeral today and she
completely forgot about it I couldn't help but internally roll my eyes as
there's always some drama hence why I've gone no/ very low contact she asked me
if I would watch my two younger brothers 7 and 11 whilst she went to the funeral
and I said absolutely not as it's my only day off I have plans and I have no
relationship with them due to my mother stopping them from seeing me for years I
just wanted to get my birth certificate and leave my mother asked her friend if
she would babysit and asked me to stay for 10 minutes until her friend came I
didn't even get the opportunity to say no before my mother left the house I was
seething but resolved to wait 10 minutes
my mother's friend turned up and started berating me for not agreeing to look
after my brothers whilst my mother went to the funeral I said I don't have
anything to to do with my mother it's my
day off work and I'm under no obligation to look after anyone else's children my
mother's friend then told me to go to my room I laughed in her face and started
to leave the house and she asked me where I was going and I told her my room
at my apartment that I pay for with my big girl job because I'm an adult not a
child and don't ever speak down on me like that again and I left my mother's
left me loads of messages and missed calls saying that I'm the jerk for the
way I spoke to her friend I do admit I look kind of young but I'm still not
happy with the way my mother's friend spoke to me am I the jerk I think op is
not the jerk and regardless if you were 15 or 25 I still think it would be
extremely weird and maybe even inappropriate for your mother's friend
to say go to your room when they don't even know you at all how do they just
expect to have that kind of power over you like as if you would be afraid and
subservient to them when it's your first
time even seeing them this next story is from Fantastic Gymnastic 69 am I the
jerk for locking the door to my home so my husband's friend couldn't come in my
husband's friend has been living with us for about 6 months now when my husband
presented the idea to me about him moving in I was hesitant but he was
determined to get him out of the streets fast forward to the present day his
friend got a part-time job at FedEx and quit a couple of weeks ago because he
didn't like how his supervisor was talking to him he doesn't contribute
anything to our home doesn't help cook clean or watch our children our oldest
girl keeps an eye out on our toddler more than he does he'll go into our
office and spark up some weed no matter how many times I tell him and my husband
that he needs to do that Outdoors yesterday I hit my breaking point I
wasn't feeling well as I had a migraine three of our kids had dentist
appointments I don't know about you guys but getting kids out of the door can be
challenging regardless let alone when you're feeling sick from your head
pounding nonstop I go outside with our kids to see that my car was gone he took
my car to go smoke with his coworker my husband was at work Furious wasn't the
word to describe it I immediately went back inside and tried to call him no
answer I then called my husband where he sighed like he was so annoyed with me
and said he would call him I tried explaining to my husband that I'm at my
Wit's End we have six kids and I get no help from him or his friend he sleeps on
our couch and doesn't even fold his blanket up in the morning my husband
proceeds to tell me that I'm overreacting and that I need to calm
down I ended up locking my front door and refused to open it until my husband
got home however when he got home he didn't try to come inside he took a
picture of our door went on Instagram and told the world have you ever been
locked out of your own home I lost it I feel like I've been more than patient
and I can't do it anymore I don't get help or basic respect to my own home and
I'm constantly gaslit my husband has a history of getting extremely angry and
scary so I told him he needed to wait until our children were asleep in bed
before coming in as I was afraid he would come in iate lashing out in front
of them like before am I the jerk for how I handled this I think op is
especially not the jerk here and frankly it's worrisome when it got towards the
end of the story and Opie said my husband has a history of getting
extremely angry angry and scary to the point where they want to put the kids to
bed before letting them in the house apparently op actually went and got an
Mo a military protection order which means the husband can now no longer get
close to them it's great because nobody deserves to be in an abusive
relationship our next story is from Dole handle
7586 am I the jerk for forcing my father
to pay child support my father is a jerk
when he got my mother pregnant he wanted
her to quit job and just stay home to be a good little wife and mother he's very
well off due to a trust fund and he doesn't really need to work my mother
refused and divorced him because of a prenup she got very little and he moved
back to Europe his parents never knew about me and my mother had a good
profession and I never really wanted for anything my grandmother and grandfather
her mom and dad were awesome and I got to spend my Summers exploring the Wilds
of western Canada with them my father never paid the child support he should
have like I said it didn't really matter my mom makes good money and she gave me
a great life as a child so the point of this post I'm female 28 getting married
I met the love of my life male 31 at University and we've been together for8
years he is a wonderful person and he really is my Lobster sorry friends
reference his family is from the same city as my father and they're a huge
rambunctious bunch because a lot of intermingled business and personal
relationships my parental grandparents found out about my impending wedding and
me I suppose they've been in contact and
want to come to Canada to meet me and my fiance who I guess is a grandson of an
acquaintance of theirs Small World when they found out that my father had
basically abandoned me to fend for myself in this world this is honestly
how they see it they were pissed to say the least it's very funny because we're
decidedly upper middle class last here so long story short they had their
lawyer calculate the amount of child support my father should have paid with
interest and the cost of my postsecondary education then they gave
me this as a gift what I didn't know is that it came out of my father's yearly
draw on his trust fund he is furious because it obviously was a sizable
amount and it'll very much affect his finances for at least the next 2 years
he may need to gasp get a job he's been contacting me and telling me that his
current wife and children will be negatively affected if I don't give him
back this money I don't really need it and I guess I am entitled to it and I'm
getting a trust fund now as well but I really want to pay off any debt my
mother may have and make sure that when she retires she can do whatever suits
her fancy I'm not giving it back am I the jerk I think as far as everything's
concerned op was entitled to that money and it is so funny to hear the father
say my my current wife and children will be affected well maybe you should have
thought of that before you went and affected your original wife and children
this next story is from throwaway gay house 200 am I the jerk for not letting
my cousin get married in the family summer house for free okay so I'm
looking for outside opinions here I can preface with the idea that I don't think
I'm a jerk here my partner however thinks it's a difficult situation and
thought this would be a good idea since she lurks here all the time and a lot of
the responses are good so I'm a 28-year-old woman I'm gay important to
the story now my mother is a single mother she comes from a big Conservative
Christian family my mom was easily the black sheep she had me at 16 which in
itself was a big issue for my grandfather we lived with my
grandparents until my mother at age 25 came out as gay that was the limit for
my grandfather and he disowned my mother and my mom cut off all contact with her
family now my grandparents were rich not extreme but they had a lot of money
especially a big summer house I say that but it's a really big house with
beautiful scenery next to a beautiful Lake it was laid down by my
grandfather's father and has since been improved upon and renovated it's been
sowhat of a family Retreat where all my uncles aunts and cousins visit regularly
during the summer I visited twice when I
was younger and I loved it sadly when Co hit my grandfather and my mother sadly
passed away now this made my grandmother reach out to me and I liked that she
wanted to make it up as much as she could sadly last year she passed away as
well she left token sums to all their children and grandchildren but in
compensation she also left me the summer house I made it into an Airbnb and I've
been making a lot of cash from it obviously this made the rest of my
family Furious because they could no longer visit during the summer Prime
season but again I don't know them or my cousins here is where I might be the
jerk my aunt reached out to me the other week telling me not asking that her
daughter had planned to have her wedding
there next summer she's been dreaming of it since she was a child and apparently
it's the designated family wedding spot the house has been hired out for
weddings before since there is room for a venue and lots of rooms for guests to
stay over now I told my aunt that that wasn't possible because the week she
wanted to have her wedding was already booked but I said if she wanted a
different date she could put down the deposit for what I charg for a wedding
and book a different date now she was Furious and asked if I was actually
serious in charging my family to have their wedding there and I just said I
don't know them I haven't met them in person since I was like six and yes I
would because weddings bring in a lot of money her family's been blowing up my
phone and social media calling me a jerk so am I the jerk I mean I get why it
might be upsetting to them but I don't think it makes op the jerk like op said
they don't know them and personally they got a really good thing going right now
just as the Airbnb setup and our final story of the day is from ornery
entrepreneur 90 am I the jerk for telling my cousin I don't care that she
has 3 years left to live I know the title sounds awful but hear me out I
have a second cousin called Jane she's very close with my parents we aren't
close because she's always been kind of mean to me but as we live in the same
city and my parents often work long hours she often accompanied me to
extracurricular activities by taking the
bus with me downtown as she was the only
one available I got her a nice Christmas gift this year with the allowance I
saved up so I don't think I've been ungrateful for what she's done for me
I'd also like to note that I'm not that young 16-year-old female it's just my
parents are weird about public transport
because I'm very small and a girl and my mom was often harassed on the bus when
she was young Jane was unfort fortunately diagnosed with cancer
recently and was given an estimate of 3 years left ever since she received the
news she's often done things like cutting in long lines and asking for
discounts normally only available to service workers with the phrase I've
only got three more years we got to make him good recently my parents asked Jane
to escort me on a flight to visit my family who lived in another state for 2
weeks I had never flown alone before so the deal was that Jane would fly with me
there and show me how things worked return home without me and then I would
fly home alone after I knew how my parents covered everything plus some
nice skin care for Jane as a thank you on the flight she stretched out her
knees and legs onto the seat in front of
us when the person understandably turned around to complain she used the stupid
excuse about the 3 years to live thing again the person said they were sorry
about that but to please put her legs in
her own space she kicked her legs around a bit and then put them so her knees
were resting on the back of the seat in front of us I told her she was acting
childish and she said that she deserves to be comfortable in her last years of
life I then told her that me and others around her don't care about her living
life to the fullest at the expense of others she was really quiet for the rest
of the flight and I feel horrible I know I could have phrased it nicer but I was
sick of her being a jerk to random people so am I the jerk and how much I think
Opie is not the jerk here obviously I think just about anybody would feel bad
for the cousin and I feel like there's a lot of situations where considering the
cousin's condition people might be willing to give some extra convenience
or some discounts but I think it's highly inappropriate to go around saying
I've only got 3 years left you got to give me this hey do you have any
discounts for anybody I've got 3 years left to to live you better just give me
that it's complicated cuz like I get it 3 years left to live sucks but you can't
like weaponize it as like a guilt trip tool to try to get everything you want
and also to be able to like literally step all over people am I the jerk for
being annoyed my mother-in-law ate my dinner tonight my mother-in-law came
over for dinner I made Swedish meatballs and gravy with mashed potatoes broccoli
and homemade bread in my house we tend to eat in the lounge room unless it's a
big event so I dish up everyone's meal kids mother-in-law and husband I take
their meals to them and then before serving mine I have to run out to the
line and grab some clothes that I hung out earlier no big deal I served up
generous portions for everyone way more than I thought they could eat but when I
got back from the line my dinner was gone I asked if anyone knew what had
happened to the food on the bench and mother-in-law pipes up and says she
wanted some more she's piled her bowl full of Meatballs way more than she
would ever eat eat I'm stunned I figure oh well I'll just grab some fast food a
bit later or something because maybe she was super hungry my bad for not cooking
enough but once she's eaten what she wants she asks for a container so she
can take her extra portion home for dinner the next night I'm pretty annoyed
at this point and mentioned that it was meant to be my dinner for that night not
her takeaway meal for the next night she says oh well you can eat it then and I
reply with no thank you and hand her a container I didn't want to eat her
leftovers she leaves and my husband puts
the kids to bed when he comes back in he asks what's wrong and I tell him that
I'm hungry I cooked the meal and didn't get to eat any of it and I'm pissed off
about it he agrees mother-in-law was way out of line and messages her that her
actions were greedy and selfish she owes me an apology she replies telling him
that I acted like a jerk I should have cooked more and anticipated that she
would take home a portion for the next day she offered me what she didn't eat
and I didn't want it it's not her fault that I owe her an apology for my
attitude and snarky comment she's also posting on social media about what
happened and people are saying that I'm a jerk and a rude hostess I should also
add that I'm currently pregnant and I feel like I can be quite unreasonable at
times due to hormones am I the jerk I think Opie is not the jerk here I think
Opie was being a great hostess I think they were an awful guest up until the
point where they grabbed somebody else's serving and gave it to themselves
honestly on Facebook I don't know if you can trust any of the people's opinions
in those circles like I feel like it's all one like big supportive hive mind
where like if I'm coming to Facebook to vent and all my Facebook friends are
there they're probably going to back me up regardless of how ridiculous the
outcome is would you guys agree with that that the opinions of the Facebook
circles are probably untrustworthy let me know what you guys think in the
comments down below our next story is from pinky binders am I the jerk for
locking up my valuables in my house I 21-year-old female and my boyfriend
23-year-old male have been living together for 2 years there's always been
a bit of money struggle as I used to make more than him and have usually been
picking up the slack in our household however I've started a new job and I'm
earning a lot less than before so I've started to be more cautious about the
amount I'm spending during our relationship ship I would usually buy
all of his toiletries and most household products I told him I wouldn't be doing
this anymore as I need to cut down my own spending and he also works and is
capable of buying things on his own I thought we'd agreed to this But as time
has gone on I've noticed all of my expensive skin care and even my own
deodorant was being used up really quickly I asked them multiple times to
please not use my stuff and even bought him his own skin care so that he could
have his own things the thing that set me off was I'd bought myself a $220 face
wash that is only supposed to be used sparingly I have horrible eczema that I
have prescriptions for and the products I buy are specifically for my Eczema I
hadn't used it in a while and when I picked up the bottle it was empty he
laughed and said he would replace it then refused when he learned of the
price I took inventory of everything else I owned and found out he'd used up
to 8 $800 worth of product in around 3 months I know he is a naive because I
tell him the price of everything I get and tell him not to use them I ended up
buying a safe that I put under the sink and I put everything I had left inside
and hid the key so when I go to shower and get ready I can use my own things
and not worry about not affording to keep my skin in check when he found out
he lost it and said that I was overreacting and that I don't trust him
it's turned into a a massive deal and my friends are thinking I'm being harsh I
simply cannot afford to keep buying more skin care and I've even been
hospitalized this year due to a huge flare up I had after running out of
products he's taking it very seriously and I don't know what else to do as I've
already tried asking am I the jerk you know this guy's making it a big deal
about how it seems like op doesn't trust
them well I think it's exactly that they went and used all of their products
behind their back how can they trust them this whole thing is about the fact
that op can't trust them this boyfriend needs to take a long hard look at
himself and realize that he's created a situation where Opie wants to turn to
putting a safe in the bathroom sink because they can't control themselves
for a lot of people they wouldn't even let it get to that point they would just
break up with them this next story is from Petty brother am I the jerk for
refusing to babysit my niblings I 32-year-old male am childfree not
because of childhood trauma or because I think the Earth is
overpopulated I just don't like kids and don't want to invest my time and energy
in raising them I have an older sister 35-year-old female and a younger brother
28-year-old male my sister has three kids ages 75 and 2 I moved out of our
hometown when I was 19 so I've never lived close to them when I visited
during the summer I was more than happy to take the kids out for a couple of
outings but I usually either had one of their parents or a babysitter with me
now my older sister tends to dump her kids on anyone she can sucker she's a
stay-at-home mom but the kids spend more
time with our parents or our brother for
years now my brother would call the vent to me about her how she just drops her
kids at his doorstep and leaves wouldn't answer her phone so he would be stuck
with them for hours I moved back 3 months ago and from the get-go she
wanted me to set a room for her kids in my house I shut her down hard I also
told her that I will not be babysitting her kids not unless it is a true
emergency and she can't find a babysitter she thought I was bluffing
the first time she dropped unannounced to leave her kids I didn't open the door
she said that she'll be leaving them and I'll be forced to act like a decent
Uncle I said all that I will do is getting the cops called on you for
abandonment she was Furious I haven't babysat the kids once these last 3
months I took them on four outings but no babysitting to suit her now she's
calling me a jerk for not helping I don't give a freak about this part but
my younger brother's also pissed at me for not helping ease his burden a bit I
told him it's not my fault that he doesn't know how to set boundaries with
her after years of trying to gently encourage him to stand up for himself
and commiserating with him and now he's calling me a jerk too so am I the jerk I
think Opie is not the jerk here nobody is entitled to babysitting their
siblings kids like Opie said it's great if you help out when it's a true
emergency and you know there's nowhere else to turn to but you got to be
seriously entitled to think that just because you have siblings and just
because they're reachable that they would ever be just full-time babysitters
for you or even part-time babysitters I know they say it takes a village to
raise a kid but you're not supposed to expect only the village to raise the kid
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next story is from poor unfortunate gluten am I the jerk for kicking my
sister out for bringing gluten into our gluten-free kitchen my daughter's on the
more severe end of celiac any cross-contamination would set her back
for weeks it's taken us years to get her
properly diagnosed and treated and at 10 years old she's now underweight and has
severe anxiety about food she will not eat if she feels it's unsafe and it's
hard for me to blame her our house has both a kitchen and a kitchenet in the
basement complete with full sets of pans
and utensils our main rule for the house is that there's absolutely no Dairy
gluten or seafood to be kept or cooked in the kitchen our older son is allergic
to seafood and my wife is lactose intolerant the kitchenet is for items
containing those ingredients my sister and her kids had to move in with us for
personal reasons they live in the basement bedrooms and when they moved in
we very clearly explain this rule to them and why
it took less than a week for us to find a box of pasta in the kitchen we
explained the rule and moved it and she was apologetic a month later my daughter
comes to us in a panic because my sister was making fried chicken in the kitchen
my sister was apologetic but insisted she needed to because the kitchenette
was too small it felt harsh but we moved all of the food to the basement threw
out every single pan and utensil she may have used and deep cleaned the kitchen
the these incidents making the kitchen no longer 100% guaranteed safe has made
her regress in therapy we're working on it but unfortunately right now it's so
bad again that we have to feed her exclusively takeout from the one
glutenfree restaurant around unless we want her an inpatient care which takes
us to last Sunday I get home and my daughter is having the worst panic
attack I've ever seen my mom and sister were in the kitchen making an entire
Sunday dinner spaghetti m mozzarella sticks garlic bread the works I lost it
I ended up absolutely screaming at them that they were ruining my life and had
threatened my daughter's life for the last time and I'd had it I threw all the
food out into the yard and told my sister if she really cared that little
about her own niece's life she could get the freak out of my house now my mom's
mad at me for kicking out my sister and her kids when they're vulnerable over a
food allergy but I don't care she she can even leave the kids here if she
absolutely needs to but I'm done with her we have one rule one my wife agrees
with me but thinks I should give one last chance and just not allow sister to
bring any food into the house my mom can't take her in and she can't afford
to rent anywhere so she would be homeless if we didn't let her stay I'm
not sure I'm in the wrong here I would agree with op and say that they're not
in the wrong here they have one rule and as apologetic as they may be not
actually trying like at all this is like leaving a $5 bill on your desk right in
front of you they Walts in start moving their hand towards the bill and you're
like what are you doing you can't take that oh sorry they leave later in the
day they return slowly reach out for it again what are you doing you can't take
that oh sorry walks away they're just going to come back and try to grab that
$5 bill again it seems pretty clear this person does not give a crap this next
story is from no longer an ant am I the jerk for telling him he isn't my nephew
my brother 41-year-old male became a foster father to a young boy 10 years
ago the child's father passed away and his mother was in a rehab center the
assignment was supposed to be temporary the Foster worker said the young boy
would probably be there 6 months to a year he ended up staying with my brother
for 6 years in this time my brother did a ton for this kid well above and beyond
requirements he made sure the kid always had a nice New Clothes fun toys got to
eat what he wanted took him on vacations
paid for expensive activities everything by the time 6 years had passed we all
thought this child was a permanent addition to our family then shortly
after his 14th birthday his mother was able to resume custody and just like
that he was gone with almost no notice I can't explain how devastated my brother
was he was beyond distraught he thought of this kid like a son and then legally
they weren't anything to each other he's 18 now and just started Community
College my brother has a different foster child staying with him now even
though life's gone on I know my brother's still in pain recently I ran
into this now adult at the grocery store with his mom he acted very happy to see
me and introduced me to his mother as Auntie my name I said I'm not your aunt
he looked a little hurt and then tried to continue the conversation we talked
awkwardly for a couple of minutes and then I finished my shopping I told my
brother about the awkward interaction later and he said I was a witch for no
reason and should have just accepted the
title gracefully as it cost me nothing I
disagree I let this kid be my nephew for 6 years and then I didn't see him again
until now why should I have to let him call me as ant when he hasn't been a
member of our family for 4 years my brother called me egotistical but then
he dropped it I don't understand why I'm
the bad guy am I the jerk my question is was it the Kid's Choice to go back back
to their mom was it the Kid's Choice to cut off the rest of the family did the
kid grow up to be cold and hardened and changed do they say oh I don't want to
be a part of that family anymore cuz if no then op is a huge jerk here our next
story is from AI ta exhausted wife am I the jerk for refusing to cook dinner I
female 23 have been married to my husband John male 24 for a year now and
recently AKA 5 weeks ago we welcomed our first baby email I'm currently on
maternity leave which my husband has interpreted it as me being a
stay-at-home mom instead of taking time to rest before I needed to return to
work I don't really mind it too much since cleaning my house is soothing for
me and a good distraction for my sleep deprivation I've always been this way
and John still does his share of household chores he does most of the
outdoor work and he'll sweep in vacuum but recently he's been writing me about
not having dinner ready when he gets home he works from 8:00 to 5:30 so it's
not a completely unreasonable time for dinner but it's not like I can just stop
taking care of our daughter to cook him a meal I can usually talk him down and
he'll watch daughter while I cook a few days ago however he came into the house
and began berading me for not having dinner ready and waiting so he could
just walk in and sit to eat I was actively changing my daughter's diaper
while he went on this rant he went as far as to say that he put up with my
laziness for long enough and that I needed to do my job properly I didn't
say anything to him at that moment I went and cooked dinner and he seemed
pretty proud of himself for winning that conversation but I only have a few more
weeks to stay home with my baby girl and I'm not going to have that stomped on
because of my husband so ever since that day I go to my mom's house for dinner
she's totally okay with this by the way I don't cook anything for John and I'm
already at my mom's by the time he gets home I still clean at home and keep the
house tidy but I don't cook dinner John's been furious with me and has been
telling me that I'm a jerk for leaving him to starve I just want to have a
peaceful environment before I have to go back to work so Reddit am I the jerk I
think GOP is not the jerk but my question is when you go back to work
what's going to change that this husband's going to start acting nicer or
the dinner issue is going to resolve I don't know if he thinks real life is
supposed to be like The Flintstones where Fred gets home and Wilma has a
giant dinosaur roast cook for him but marriage isn't the Glorious 1950s
depiction of it I think if the wife loves to cook and wants to do it that's
great but there's something just kind of
disgusting about the behavior of getting home from work and being like all right
woman where's my homecooked meal that's hot and ready for me when I'm here it's
at court next to the divorce papers our next story is from acceptable koala 651
am I the jerk for Banning my husband from visiting my sister with me because
he won't stop trying to de bait her and her husband my sister Marie 29 and her
husband Zach 40 had their first child a beautiful baby girl 2 months ago they've
been pretty nervous parents so when my husband Tom 42 and I 37 were invited to
finally meet our niece I was thrilled except I was worried about Tom making a
butt out of himself you see Tom and Marie have always had a hard time
getting along because they don't agree on nearly anything and Tom's always
gotten a kick out of chall alling Marie on their differing views because they're
both very opinionated the thing is to Tom it's funny to watch Marie act when
he says things to provoke her and Marie always wants to prove his views wrong in
his head because she was in grad school for social sciences she finished right
before having her baby and is knowledgeable about the topics that Tom
wants to argue about Marie shouldn't have a problem with debating him because
it's literally her job in the past both Tom and Marie have initiated these
arguments and and they both have been guilty of taking it too far in the past
but ever since she got pregnant SL had a baby Marice calmed down a lot whereas
Tom still tries to bait her into debates about touchy subjects mainly politics
and personal values this got to the point where Marie blocked him on all
social media a few months ago before we went to visit I asked Tom to just be
nice to Marie and Zach and not start anything Tom said that he would try his
best I told him that I would be very upset with him if he tried to bait Marie
or Zach into an argument Tom started out the evening pretty strong and kept to
himself until it was revealed that Zach was going to be the one to stay home
with their daughter Tom made a comment like Oh I thought Mom was supposed to do
that Zach said it was pretty sexist for Tom to say that and when Tom asked how
Zach told him that moms can have careers too and that Marie shouldn't have to
give up all the work she just did Tom started on a tangent and Marie cut him
off and and told him to either quit or leave because she's done entertaining
his nonsense Tom laughed it off but it was still very awkward after this we
didn't stay for long after and when we got home I told Tom that I'm done with
him embarrassing me and that he's not allowed to join me whenever I visit
Marie again if I'm even invited back I told him that it doesn't make him look
smart when he always insists on having these conversations that it just makes
him look like a jerk and me like a fool Tom said I'm blowing this way out of
proportion and that it's not his fault they got so offended and that if
anything they were rude to kick him out over his opinion but Marie didn't do
anything to him this time she didn't snap back at him she didn't call them
names she just asked him to stop am I the jerk am I being unreasonable I've
known people in my life like Tom the people who have very strong opinions and
if your opinion varies from them especially in like a perceived weakness
kind of way they will try to Le all over that I think op is not the jerk
my question is while Marie's done entertaining his nonsense is op ever
going to be done entertaining his nonsense I just can't imagine waking up
in bed next to somebody every single day
that has such a huge character flaw that
I can't get over and it's something that I'm willing to bet that op might not
have mentioned but they probably do to op as well our next story is from Blue
carrot 002 am I the jerk for buying personalized stationary for my daughter
so it can't be redistributed in class my little girl Mia 99-year-old female has
started a new school recently we moved recently and she had to start a new
school I got a list of supplies that the teacher required plus extras like extra
packs of crayons Etc you know the deal while I don't necessarily agree with
this it's not a hill I was willing to die on so I got everything on that list
however I also got my child her own supplies now the list didn't say to not
label them Mia is very particular on what type of stationary she likes I've
heard horror stories of kid stuff being redistributed and them ending up with
crappy supplies so I sat down with Mia and we got our personalized binders and
notebooks and pencils with her name on Etsy it's all part of the item so it
can't be removed and given to another kid like I said as requested I bought
extra binders Etc it turns out that I was right to do so when Mia got home she
brought a passive aggressive note from the teacher about Mia supplies
apparently she tried to gather all the supplies and have kids pick another one
she requested that I switch Mia supplies
to generic ones which I'm refusing to do the teacher has now requested that I
stopped by to have a chat regarding me as supplies I posted in the local
Facebook group and parents are divided so I need another opinion before I go
meet with me as teacher am I the jerk for buying my child personalized
stationary so it can't can't be taken away from her I just fail to see in any
worldview how you can be the jerk for buying your kid supplies for school with
the intention that your kid is the one who uses those school supplies what the
teacher doing here is showing the ugly side of Communism no comrade your binder
is my binder this next story is from an anonymous poster am I the jerk for
telling my husband that if he doesn't stop his daughter I'll ban her from our
celebration I 42-year-old female got married to my boyfriend Jack 47-year-old
male a year ago we both have children from our previous marriages I have two
daughters and he has one son and one daughter the problem is is that his
daughter Melissa 27-year-old female is very catty ever since I and my daughter
have come in their lives she's despised us I never came into this relationship
thinking I'd have any sort of Authority or parental role in their lives I
respected their relationship with their dad and never got in the middle deep
down I think Melissa's very jealous of my daughter 24-year-old female Melissa
has repeatedly had meltdowns on any important day for Celeste and try to
control her special days the reason I think it's jealousy is because Celeste
is successful almost has her PhD in Psychology engaged to a good woman and
is beautiful Celeste throughout all of this has stayed cordial however last
night while talking about the plans for celeste's graduation party my husband
asked if we could accommodate Melissa by
making the day also about her I told him no and that when Melissa has an
accomplishment we will celebrate her he got upset and said he told her we would
and that she was already making plans I told him if he doesn't stop her I will
uninvite her he's been mad at me since am I the jerk this is going on with their
27-year-old daughter this is the kind of behavior that you would expect out of a
seven year- old daughter if op went and banned them they wouldn't be the jerk
for that you got some deep rooted issues to be doing that at 27 years old and I
think it's pretty clear the husband has excessively coddled her to me I don't
mean to be rude but it seems like she's kind of stunted if you're that hung up
on some 24-year-old having a celebration for their graduation cuz it's not about
you there's some deep issues going on here our next story is from Wonderful Life
1837 am I the jerk for not wanting to share my parents inheritance with my
sister we live in Germany my parents did a legal procedure with some lawyers to
leave my sister out of their inheritance my sister and my parents never had a
good relationship she left the house when she was 16 I've always been kind of
neutral I still saw my sister after she left but I also lived with my parents
and took care of them I know my parents have been unfair to my sister but
they're still my parents and I love them my dad died from cancer 6 years ago and
my mother had dementia she died last year I took care of both
of them until they sadly passed away as I said they did something with some
lawyers and put the house and other stuff in my name when they got sick so
my sister wouldn't have anything yet when my mother died I offered to my
sister to give her half of what my parents gave me but she refused and said
she didn't need anything from them I spent the money I'm now living in my
parents house but I need to fix it a bit
I also opened a bakery which still isn't doing good I opened 4 months ago and
paid debts and stuff my sister contacted
me to ask for the money I offered before
because she has debts and she needs it I told her I can't give it to her anymore
because I have debts too and I'm counting on using the money she called
me and told me her children will be homeless if I don't give her the money I
feel bad but I can't help her now I have some money from the Heritage but as I
said I'm counting on that money to pay my own debts am I wrong for not wanting
to share this money with her so from the
get-go this was an inheritance that op's parents always intended to go to op op
never had to offer the money to begin with that was just an extremely generous
thing so for them to deny it and then come crawling back no they're not
entitled to this money to begin with OP he's not the jerk our next story is from
sad Advantage 8869 am I the jerk for taking back my
grandmother's heirloom Veil and not letting my future daughter-in-law wear
it so do I really need an unbiased opinion and can't get one in my real
life I have two children Caleb 29 and Anna 24 they've always been close up
until this issue Anna was bullied in middle and high school by Violet 25 we
did go to the school multiple times as well as talk to Violet's dad and to put
it bluntly I could see where she got it from The Bullying affected Anna's
self-esteem social relationships and their senior year Violet slept with
Anna's boyfriend which devastated her long story short Caleb got a very
impressive job opportunity he just couldn't turn down but it meant working
for Violet's Dad we all encouraged him to take it but were blindsided when he
later revealed he was dating Violet they've now been together for 2 and 1/2
years and the wedding is coming up I'm absolutely not happy about this and
Caleb is aware Violet has apologized to Anna and Anna is willing to be civil
with her for things like holidays Caleb is a very very defensive if the bullying
is brought up and says violin experienced a great deal of trauma as a
teenager and we need to be forgiving now the issue at hand is the veil my
grandmother had a vintage designer Veil a very unique pattern and I previously
said Caleb and Anna could both use it for their weddings if they wanted to my
wife with no prior discussion gave it to Violet who loved it she's really into
vintage fashion and even specifically picked a dress to compliment ment it
Anna recently expressed that it was hurtful to her she didn't want Violet to
have a family heirloom and it felt too much like er rasing history I
immediately understood and told Caleb and violet that she couldn't wear it I
said when I told Caleb he could use it I obviously couldn't anticipate the girl
he was going to bring home Violet gave it back to me but Caleb blew up and
uninvited me from the wedding now my wife is angry at Anna and I and says I
need to give it back to Violet she said Caleb never truly seen happy before true
and that if I was a good dad I would at least like violet for making him happy
she said I'm coddling Anna favoring her over Caleb and she threatened to steal
the veil and sneak it to the wedding well first of all I think Opie is not
the jerk because it's their grandmother's heirloom not their grandmother-in-law
heirloom so for the wife already ready to go behind op's back and try to give
that away that's not cool second of all this is all about just trying to protect
Anna ity to people who weren't affected high school bullying might be like a oh
just leave it in the past you can move past it but it doesn't exactly work that
way and honestly for somebody like Anna I can see how that would completely ruin
the grandmother's heirloom Veil forever because why would Anna want to use it it
would just go to be unused after that or you would give the grandmother's
heirloom Veil to somebody that's not in your immediate family and our final
story of the day is from Texas Stargazer
18 am I jerk for not telling my roommate that I bought a house until after I
closed I recently closed on a property and didn't tell my roommate until after
I closed my roommate was a good friend of 8 years until they reacted poorly to
this news I didn't feel comfortable telling them as I was going through the
home buying process due to a number of factors including the fact that I wasn't
sure if I was ever going to land the plane since my bank didn't make the
mortgage process easy for me I'm the type of person who tries not to share
premature news however upon telling them yesterday morning they freak out and
tell me I should have looped them in on the process because that's what friends
do and they're a stakeholder in my life they're hurt because I didn't tell them
earlier and it damages our relationship because I withheld the news I tried to
soften the blow of the news by getting them cupcakes but they threw the
cupcakes clear across the room once they
heard of the news I honestly don't think
it was incumbent on me to share the news before I felt comfortable and given how
they're reacting I think my senses were right this is also not going to impact
them financially either as I'm giving them more than 30 days notice to find a
new living situation am I the jerk I think op's not the jerk here I mean I
think the fact of the matter is they're acting out cuz it kind of sucks that
they're going to have to find another apartment to rent they're probably going
to have to find another roomate they were probably more than comfortable
staying there with their friend of 8 years but they have to accept that
people move on and I don't think op's obligated to go to their friend and be
like hey so I might not get the house at all but I'm looking around for a place
to live and rock the boat before it's even a sure thing am I the jerk for
telling my daughter I won't be paying for her College unless she attempts a
relationship with my family I 38-year-old male have a 19-year-old
daughter Ariel with my ex-wife Lauren 39-year-old female we had Ariel too
young and it was a huge struggle we moved into Lauren's family
I was working multiple jobs me and Lauren were best friends through all
this but things ended when Ariel was two Lauren's friend Tori 38-year-old female
told me that Lauren had been messaging guys and when they went out she would
give out her number I checked Lauren's phone and found it I asked for a divorce
Lauren was pissed and wanted to reconcile I didn't and got split custody
Lauren made my life heck Lauren badmouthed me would miss pickup times
and make decisions without talking to me her dad offered money to relinquish
custody I told him off Ariel's now 19 and just started college the deal was me
and her mom would split it I remarried Tori when Ariel was six Tori was a rock
during the divorce but we didn't date till 2 years later Lauren used this to
warp Ariel against Tori and our son 13-year-old male she excludes them
whenever she spends the night she'll just talk to me or go to her room if my
family was around our son walks to the basement if she comes over it hurts me a
lot I've spent thousands on therapy before people bring that up it's still
being utilized but at this point Ariel is being nasty for the sake of it her
mom has convinced her I cheated with her friend and had a baby which is funny
because as I've pointed out the timelines don't even match up I've done
everything at this point including family time one-on-one and therapy Ariel
is plain rude to them and they are done trying Ariel graduated from High School
in May and hosted a party I was invited but my family wasn't I told Ariel I
found that disrespectful so I would send a card but wouldn't be going she didn't
care and we haven't spoken since I get a call from Lauren saying she paid the
first semester and was wondering when I would be paying I said I was no longer
paying as I'm not pulling money out of my household when Ariel is disrespectful
to 2third of it my ex went off saying we had an agreement I I reminded her of
when her dad tried to buy my custody and said you have what you've always wanted
full control and custody you won so figure it out then texted her that I've
been putting up with this long enough she got her 18 years of child support
for me so until she planned on setting the record straight I was done with both
of them and blocked her I called Ariel and told her the same gave the reasons
I'm not paying and told her she needed to look into loans but I would pay for
college if she at least tried to form a bond with my family because she created
this situation with her attitude so if she wants my help she needs to attempt
it she started crying but I didn't fall for it I told her what my expectations
were and let me know what her plan is so
I can move the money around my wife's on my side here saying we've been the bad
guys for long enough but I'm getting crap from others am I the jerk a lot of
people might say that op is the jerk because they had made the commitment to
their kid but while the kid grew up Opie was demonized by the kid for really no
reason and in pretty much every way he and his family were rejected just how
can you in confidence spend thousands on somebody that for no legitimate reason
will not give you the time of day at all personally I think it sucks especially
considering how late op was to say that they weren't going to pay for it but I
know inside if I was an OP situation I would want to do the same thing is op
the jerk here for not paying here after making that commitment I'd like to know
what you guys think in the comments down
below our next story is from sock number
7319 am I the jerk for changing the door locks back after my wife changed them I
30-year-old male have a beautiful wife who loves to serve others we bought a
home down the street for my family I have a sweet sister 17 who likes to
crash at our house with her friends my wife normally is pretty easygoing until
recently my sister's friends have been leaving messes most towels on the floor
after using our pool my wife got upset picking up after them every day I've
asked my sister to make sure the house is clean after they leave and it has
been better my wife also complained that some of her perfumes and clothes and
personal items have gone missing my sister said it's not her I believe my
sister I just don't see her doing that I told my wife and we agreed to just
replace them last week my wife made a couple of pans of cinnamon rolls from
scratch one pan was for us the second pan was for a co-worker's family who's
experiencing a tragedy my wife went to the gym I went to work and my sister and
her friends came by the one pan wasn't enough for her and her friends they
wanted the second pan of cinnamon rolls and my sister texted my wife asking if
they could eat them my wife said no they ate them anyways my wife upset went and
bought new locks when I came home my wife handed me a new key and told me
that she didn't want anyone else to have a key to our house I Tri to calm her
down and tell her that I would just go and replace the eaten cinnamon rolls
with store-bought ones my wife decided that this was her heel to die on and
said no my sister lost the privilege to come and we're not home replacing stolen
items wasn't good enough anymore my mom called and asked if my sister could use
the pool as a back to school party I was under the impression my mom would be
there I said yes my mom was at work and our schedul was clashed the easiest
solution was for me to change the locks back so that they could come into the
house my mom didn't come with my sister when my wife got home after the party it
was a mess she sent me photos she called
me a jerk for changing the locks without
talking to her about it keep in mind she did too then told me I broke her trust
she wasn't safe in her home because she keeps getting robbed and I refuse to put
an end to it I did talk to my sister then my wife let me know that she was
staying with a friend for a while am I the jerk here I feel like I've tried to
write any wrongs that have happened between my wife and my sister I think op
is the jerk and I think the real issue here is not that op is or isn't making
up for these issues it's the fact that they're not actually being addressed
when op just keeps applying Band-Aids the sister and her friends should be
able to have the common sense that when they visit somebody else's house they
don't just trash the place and leave it in rough shape eat your stuff and take
your things op is continuously allowing their wife's personal space to be
violated and then trying to Band-Aid fix it and say it's okay I can patch up
whatever issues they keep causing every single time they come over rather than
actually do something to stop the issue our next story is from SN d9i am I the
jerk for not helping my parents when they're homeless my parents are terrible
with money when I 27-year-old female was little my father gambled away all the
savings about $100,000 in risky penny stocks which got wiped out in 2008 and
we were forced to move into a single bedroom and a house for the three of us
then my mom fell for an MLM and you can imagine what happened they lost the down
payment to the house they were saving for I Begg them not to sign up for it
since I saw it was clearly a scam and showed them evidence it was and they
just laughed at me and ignored me they lost about
$28,000 from that then recently they fall for a college signup scam and lost
$32,000 they weren't signing up for college they just needed a loan and try
to go through a private broker who promised to get them a school loan that
they would use on whatever they wanted I went with them to see the broker and
told them it was a scam and they ignored
me so basically they were trying to scam
the government and got scammed instead I actually tried to pry the pen away from
my father's hand when I got desperate as he was writing down his bank info and
social security number and he screamed at that I was embarrassing him and did
it anyway again they lost money and now they're homeless because their credit is
crap and they can barely afford even crappy Apartments they probably can't
get that money back since they have little documentation on the broker and
what he promised now they live in their car and are begging me for money I have
about $100,000 saved waiting to buy a house and they know about it because I
stupidly told them I was saving for a house and now our calling me and showing
up in my apartment asking for money they
also want to move in in the meantime but my roommate and I agreed to visitation
from friends or family is Max a week to prevent resentment and if my parents
move in they will probably refuse to move out they're going to food pantries
and honestly I can't find it in myself to be that sympathetic since they don't
listen to me until they need my money I think this is a painful one but I think
op is not the jerk here is is it a cruel thing not to help out your parents here
when all their lives they've blown not insignificant sums of money I'd like to
know your guys's thoughts and by the way if you're enjoying these stories make
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of my daily videos our next story is from doggy dag am I the jerk for not
telling my landlord I had bought a house I'd been renting from a landlord for a
few years and he was a pretty typical landlord take the rent do a few repairs
as cheap as possible Etc ET I'm sure you know the drill he also was kind of laid
on stuff like every year the lease says renewals should be sent out 2 months
before the end of the lease to give the option and every year he procrastinates
until the last week or two of the lease I was looking to buy my first house and
I closed on one 4 months before my lease was up but I kept some overlap so I
could live in the apartment while repairing the House 2 months before the
lease was up like usual my landlord forgot to send out the renewals I
thought of telling him I wouldn't be renewing then I remembered that my
neighbors who Moved had trouble with him bringing way too many potential tenants
to tour nobody wanted the apartment because the online listing was a bait
and switch so people would see something
looking in good repair then come to tour
and see it was crap and nobody wanted to sign the lease so he just kept bringing
more and more people instead of making an honest listing at an honest price so
I didn't say anything I just kept fixing up the house and moving my stuff then
one week before my lease expired my landlord texted me the renewal I
actually didn't see it because I had my phone on don't disturb but the next
morning he kept texting wanting my signed renewal I told him I didn't plan
on renewing and he got really angry demanding to know what apartment I was
moving to next I got the impression he wanted to call my next landlord to witch
about me anyway I told him I was moving back in with my parents I didn't want to
tell him about the house because of the temper he was getting with me he started
showing the apartment right away but I'd
already finished moving out so it didn't bother me but when I stopped by to turn
in my keys and ask for my security deposit he got angry saying that I had
some nerve asking for $1,300 when I just screwed him out of a
month of rent by not giving notice I told him that the security deposit was
for damages and if he wanted to withhold it he would have to send over an
itemized list of Damages and receipts for repair
he gave me the security deposit back but yelled at me that he took care of his
tenants and I was selfish for leaving without notice I just left but I guess
I'm feeling kind of conflicted on one hand it's literally his job his only job
to handle leases and find out who's renewing and if he forgot that's not
really my problem but I also know I knew I was leaving for the better part of a
year and I told him with less than a week am I the jerk for not telling my
landlord I bought a house I think if op doesn't have a contractual obligation to
report that they don't intend to renew within a certain time frame then it's
literally exactly that they don't have an obligation to and they shouldn't feel
bad about it sucks for them sure but like what really is it to you to worry
about the financial situation of a from what sounds to be fairly crappy landlord
our next story is from Life departure 2569 am I the jerk for contacting child
services on my ex-wife the title sounds horrifying and forgive me for that but
there's no other way to say what happened before anything let me give you
guys some context of our situation I was married to my ex-wife for 15 years we
married really young at 18 which definitely isn't a good idea that being
said we have two children together a boy and a girl my kids are everything to me
and even after our divorce I make sure to be present in their lives we have a
shared custody of the children they stay
4 days a week with her and three with me I've always wanted to increase their
time with me but my ex has always fought against it however I live close enough
that whenever they feel like they call me and I go out to see them or take them
out I want to make sure that my children have a good standard in life as I'm
quite comfortable myself as an entrepreneur I pay a good amount of
Child Support to them an equivalent of $10,000 5,000 each monthly this was not
an order by the state but requested by me I want them to be able to live
comfortably and not struggle I also pay for their health care insurance bills
Etc and private school however I went to pick them up this past Thursday as they
would be with me till Sunday when I picked them up I noticed they were
wearing some old clothes which didn't seem like a problem they were just home
before I got them so I thought they were in just what they felt comfortable
unfortunately that wasn't really the case when we got home and I was
unpacking their bags I noticed all the clothes they bought were old and
tattered I asked my daughter why their clothes were so tattered I mean kids
usually have favorite pieces of clothing so I thought this was the case she told
me that her mother said they couldn't buy new clothes because she was saving
up now that was a bit strange if they were planning an expensive situation she
could have reached out and I'd pay for the kids they're also my children she
never mentioned anything I took both of them out that day and bought plenty of
new clothes that being said this was something that really bothered me my
brother and his came by that night and I talked to him about that they also
thought that it was a very strange situation and that I should look into it
now I don't have the best relationship with my ex and I'm not going to poke my
nose in her life so I called child protective services and told them what
happened and that I was concerned here in my country they investigate these
kinds of things well my ex just called me and she was absolutely enraged jerk
was the less aggressive adjective she used for me apparently she was indeed
saving the child support for something but she never told me what regardless
she's extremely irritated and my mother and father seem to agree that I should
have talked to her first I was concerned but read it am I the jerk here our next
story is from Isabella J 8383 am I the jerk for not letting my daughter cut her
hair for her steps sister I'm 32-year-old female my daughter Mia
12-year-old female has a steps Sister Jenny 15 year-old female who has cancer
I don't know too much about it but I know her hair is falling out recently
Jenny's mom Lauren 38-year-old female texted me to say that Mia's hair
appointment is on Wednesday I asked her what she meant and she said that Mia was
going to shave her head to show that she supports Jenny I told her my daughter
has nothing to do with Jenny's cancer and that they aren't even close and
there's other ways of showing support Mia wasn't even aware of the fact that
she was getting her hair shaved up off or the fact that the appointment was
even made I asked Mia if it would be something she's open to but it isn't
Mia's dad Liam thinks this can be a bonning experience for both of the girls
and I wouldn't want to get in the way of that I told them that they didn't even
talk about it with me and Mia I don't think I was wrong in what I did but my
stepmom and dad think that I'm not thinking about how Jenny feels I think
this is such an open and shut book op and their daughter don't want it to
happen they they were never informed of this hair appointment this whole thing
is ridiculous the only thing not ridiculous here is poor Jenny our next
story is from Pink squid 5 am I the jerk for telling my ex's girlfriend I was
never married to him and yelling at him when he confronted me I was never
married to my ex although we were engaged and we share a daughter together
his girlfriend recently asked me why we divorced and I explained that we were
never married but we broke up because I had bad post-natal depression she
started crying after I told her and told me my ex and his family made her get an
abortion because they wouldn't accept an outof wedlock baby she asked me if they
tried the same with me and I told her that they hadn't however his family did
the same to my friend who was dating his brother my ex was supposed to drop our
daughter home yesterday but came alone so he could confront me and tell me to
stay out of his relationship I ended up yelling at him and telling him he was no
better than his brother and that I couldn't believe I had a baby with
someone like him he yelled at at me for interfering in his life and because I
told him I didn't want my daughter around him or his family if this was the
type of influence they were going to be on her am I the jerk I think op is not
the jerk here and from what I understand it doesn't seem like op was the one
initiating this discussion so like while
Opie had this discussion and I guess you could say that's getting involved or
whatever it's not something Opie went out of their way to engage and get
involved with his girlfriend started it so he needs to show shut up and accept
that our next story is from te groundbreaking 345 am I the jerk for
telling my mom and stepdad that they don't get to dictate my wedding guest
list unless they're paying for my wedding so my wedding's coming up at the
end of the year and for months my mom and stepdad have been on my case about
the guest list my fiance and I are paying for the wedding and we already
knew who we did and didn't want to add to the guest list before we sat down to
our invites I already had them on my case about my step siblings needing to
have a full role in the wedding and not be treated different to my sister but
they also try to insist I invite my stepdad's family some background my dad
died when I was seven my sister was five
his family were always a big part of our Lives Mom's family was never involved
she married stepdad when I was nine and his family lived pretty scattered so not
much contact but they sent stuff occasionally he had kids ranging from 8
down to 3 we all lived together and there was drama because out of all of us
my sister and I were the ones with extended family involved in our life who
showed up for the school plays and the graduations they weren't involved in my
step siblings lives steps siblings had no actual active grandparents who they
saw their mom wasn't in the picture either there was always some pressure
added to my sister and I to make sure we loved and saw them as real siblings so
they at least had a solid strong nuclear family that didn't happen though I love
my sister more I care care about my sister more to me she's my real sibling
and they're not the same I already put my foot down that I wasn't going to give
my step siblings roles for the wedding my sister is my best person along with
my best friend my fiance has her sister and her brother as her people of Honor
that's it that has been a fight an even bigger one has been my stepdad's family
mom said that they're my family too and that means they deserve an invite I
hardly know those people they're not important to me it's been argued that my
mom stepdad and step siblings would feel more comfortable with family of theirs
present since my dad's side isn't part of their lives I argue that it's mine
and my fiance's wedding and we're not inviting just anyone after a lot of
pressure I said they could not dictate our guest list unless they want to pay
for the wedding I know they can't so it was never a concern that they would
offer they said I had no right to demand
they pay for the wedding I said I hadn't demanded they pay I just pointed out
that if they want specific people there they would need to pay for that but they
can't and so they need to let it go they called me rude and said I was using my
wedding as a weapon to hurt them they also called me entitled am I the jerk I
think Opie is not the jerk and I think op is entitled entitled to have their
wedding the way they want to have their wedding especially if they're the ones
paying for it the family drama and pressure sucks but I'm fully on op side
here our next story is from moving out am I the jerk for removing all the
improvements I made to my room and my parents' house after they announced that
I would have to move I 25-year-old female lived with my parents 50-year-old
female and 55-year-old male because it's
very close to my service and it's a very expensive area I can currently live
alone but I didn't because I never needed it and my parents didn't ask as
time went on and I earned more I put in air conditioning made my room smart a
smart assistant as well as the house put
a very good shower in the guest bathroom
which I eventually added to my bedroom I
bought Quality Furniture for my room Etc
my room turned out to be the best in the house because of the changes I made and
yes I paid rent to my parents quite fat by the way it's been 3 months since they
came to talk to me saying it was time for me to change because they wanted to
have their moment alone now and I was able to live on my own I agreed after
all I was just living there for ease and convenience I found a house and I would
need to make all the changes I planned so in order to not have to buy it when I
have it I replaced all the sockets bulbs and switches to Smart Ones and the
shower with common ones I paid for them all and this increase in energy I paid
too I also removed the air conditioner and paid to plug the hole that leaves
besides of course all the furniture in my room and the smart assistants
scattered around the house my parents started complaining that I shouldn't
take everything out as they were in common use they were planning to move
his room to mine and that with these changes I made my room worse and the
house in general too it's just not smart everything I bought was quality I said
that they asked me to move and I'm taking everything I bought because I
needed to have other expenses I made a payment on the house and these items
were all bought by me and all the increase in energy I had was paid only
by me too and that if they wanted to buy I I can help them search online but I
would take these items they called me selfish because I made the house worse
and removed the items in common use as they were already used to the smart home
they complained even more when I didn't want to leave the 65in smart TV in my
room as a gift for them I didn't leave it because it's new and it was too
expensive I moved a week ago but they're
still upset all items are brand new most less than a year old am I the jerk all
of these items belong to op as much as op's parents would have loved for op to
pack up and leave everything behind so they can just move into this Palace that
op built in their room it was some real wishful thinking considering op made
their own money and paid for all of these things out of pocket themselves
off of their own prerogative to do so the parents might make you feel bad but
op had every right to take it with them this next story is from sleepy all the
time 55 am I the jerk for telling my stepmom that I won't give up my room so
her daughter can have it so I female 16 live with my dad since he and my mom
split up and just recently he got married to Kelly Kelly has a daughter 13
and a son N9 and they just moved in with us my dad and I's house has four rooms
the master bedroom has a bathroom inside of it and my room is just a little
smaller but it also has a bathroom in the room too then there's two rooms that
don't have a bathroom but have walk-in closets unlike mine all of the rooms
have beds and dressers you know all the stuff that makes a room a room without
the personal decorations that you choose when they came to move in her daughter
ran straight past one of the vacant rooms and into mine my walls are purple
and I have Marvel and DC posters hanging up on the wall I also have a mirror
attached to my dresser with lights around it so once I showed her son to
the room he would be sleeping in I went into my room and saw her bringing her
stuff into my room so I told her that this isn't her room and that she has one
of the rooms with no decorations she immediately started flipping out started
yelling she was going to tell her mom and my dad that I'm being mean to her
and trying to bully her because she was younger her mom and my dad came into the
room due to all the yelling and asked what was going on and so I told them
that she thinks my room is hers and she won't leave but she said this has to be
her room because it's her favorite color purple and it has a bathroom so it has
to be hers my dad explained to her that she can get her room painted whatever
color she wants and we can get you the posters and pictures she wanted also but
she said she doesn't want a room that doesn't have a bathroom so this one
should be hers her mom ended up agreeing with her saying that I've had this room
for a very long time and can just restart in the other room and I should
give it to her since she's younger so I told her that I won't give up my room
because this has all my stuff and I'm comfortable in my room so her daughter
will have to go to the only other available room she's saying that I'm
being rude and mean to my new little sister and should be reasonable and give
her my room and be the bigger person and act my age and not a little kid so am I
the jerk I think op is not the jerk here
and frankly I think the Stepmom needs to
be careful here because despite op being 16 years old and hopefully a little bit
more mature the Stepmom is already off to a rapid start of trying to alienate
op and make them feel like second rid you know hey we've moved in here and my
children get priority over you kick rocks and go get in that other bedroom
kid you've been here for a very long time and are well settled here therefore
you should give it up what kind of logic is that I think Opie's not the jerk and
I think op's entitled to that room until whatever time it's decided that op
should leave that house and our final story of the day is from throwaway 594
297 am I the jerk for mentioning my best friend's former crush on me in a speech
at his wedding okay I'm currently in a predicament and frankly I could really
use some opinions for backstory I female 27 met one of my best friends Christian
male 26 back in 2010 during our freshman year of high school we became friends
and remained close over the years since making a lot of great memories and
sharing mutual close friends from 2013 to 2016 Christian had pretty serious
unrequited feelings for me however he eventually got over me and I had never
even let his feelings harm our friendship if anything our friendship
honestly got closer after he got over me in early 2018 Christian met Victoria
female 29 at a bar and they hit it off they started dating after 2 weeks got
engaged in late 2021 and the wedding happened yesterday night it was honestly
a great time as I watched with my parents and mutual friends as this kid
I've known for 12 years was getting married to the love of his life plus
Victoria and I honestly had a pretty decent relationship and a according to
Christian she didn't really seem to care about his past feelings as time went on
anyway as the night kept going with a lot of music and dancing I got up to
eventually give a speech for Christian I talked about how we first met how much
our lives changed since then and just how great of a person Christian was the
attendees were clearly touched and Christian and Victoria both looked happy
as I talked more about our history I jokingly mentioned how Christian had the
hearts for me but that didn't matter because he found his soulmate and that
our friendship was stronger than some unrequited feelings most of the crowd
laughed and I could even see Christian smiling for a second before seeing
Victoria's confused face after the speech was over I went over to the bar
with a few friends Christian came up and hugged me thanking me for the speech
however at our hotel one of my other best friends Devon female 27 told me she
had heard gossip from the Bridesmaids that Victoria was really upset with me
for bringing up Christian's previous feelings for me at the wedding
apparently Victoria genuinely had no issue with Christian's feelings but felt
it was inappropriate to mention them at a wedding I sincerely intended no harm
with my actions maybe I didn't read the room everyone I've told is honestly
split on whether I'm the bad guy or not so it's definitely been polarizing
Christian hasn't mentioned any of this to me and I'm not sure I should ask him
am I the jerk I think op is lightly the jerk I think it was just kind of a weird
thing thing to mention at the wedding it's just unnecessary to talk about
somebody having the hots for you at their wedding it was just a little much
am I the jerk for S shaming my sister after I found a condom under my bed some
info about me I'm 23-year-old female and I'm a sex repulsed asexual however if
someone loves it I'm never ever rude to them or think bad about them if they
have a healthy sex life and they're happy I'm happy for them too so into the
problem my sister 2 6-year-old female came to visit me with their fiance 4
days ago they got engaged 2 weeks ago and I'm so so happy for them my sister
knows that I'm asexual and how I feel about it in general I asked her as
nicely as I could that if they do anything sexual in the house that I
don't want to see or hear anything or if they could wait until they left for
school or the work or gym she agreed and I thought that was it however the first
night that they were here I woke up to the weird sound and it took me a moment
to realize what it was they were hooking up in the Next Room very loudly they
didn't even close mine or their doors I just put my headphones on and listened
to some music needless to say I didn't sleep well at all and it affected my
school and job performance the next morning there were a few more incidents
after that when they hooked up in the shower and then again at night the next
morning I asked her again as politely as I could if they could keep it down and
wait till I leave the house she smirked apologized and said it won't happen
again and not to worry anyways I was cleaning my room this morning and saw
some trash under my bed so I just took it out and when I saw what it was I
almost threw up it was a used condom I screamed threw it on the floor and just
stood there in shock my sister came to my room to see what was going on and
when she saw it she looked surprised and then freaking laughed about it she said
oops sorry I was so mortified IED and I could feel how I was about to cry which
is stupid I know I asked her if they did it on my bed why didn't they clean up
after themselves she looked at me like I was a crazy person and just told me to
stop overreacting and that people in a real relationship have sex all the time
how I should stop making being asexual and gay into my personality and that I
need to grow up and that normal men and women are meant to have sex with each
other and so on this triggered me a lot since a lot of people have rejected me
in the past because of my sexuality which they have 100% the right to do
anyways this is where I could be the jerk I told her that this is my house
and these are my rules and if they can't
respect that they can freak off and also that if two grown butt people can't go
one week without hooking up it's very pathetic and sad and they need to learn
to control themselves better she got really upset and started to cry her
fiance was in a store so she called called them and they left they messaged
me and said that I was a jerk and I ashamed my sister for being in love and
that I need therapy for my problems I don't think GOP is the jerk here because
while it's totally fine for them to be hooking up however much they want it's
not okay for them to be just doing it all over the house there's a serious
issue if they're going and doing it and somebody else's house that's not even
theirs on somebody else's bed that's just all kinds of messed up if you were
in a situation like op where you found out that your own sibling slept on your
bed and left used protection on your floor and also was not remorseful one
bit about it would you want to kick them out of your own house let me know how
you guys would handle it in the comments down below our next story is from
emotional Duty 5051 am I the jerk for making my
daughter share her presence with my stepdaughter I 40-year-old female was a
single mother to my daughter Amy 15-year-old female I came out 3 years
years ago and married my wife Jenna 42-year-old female last year she has a
daughter Nora 13-year-old female we all live together as I have full custody of
my daughter it was kind of hard for her to adjust to having a second mom but
they got along well the girls have their birthdays very close only 2 days apart
so we decided to have a joint birthday party for both of them since Norah had a
hard time making new friends they moved in with us and she's very shy most of my
family lives out of the country so the gifts were sent a week early it was a
huge bag with at least 20 gifts the party was nice and we opened the bag at
night once everyone left Jenna handed out the presents as she took them out
after 12 gifts in a row just for Amy I checked the bag and froze to see that
there was only one gift for Nora from my parents she pretended it wasn't a big
deal but as she opened the present I saw her eyes drop it was a $15 Tumblr from
Walmart not not to sound ungrateful but Amy's gifts were much more expensive
lots of gift cards over $100 a new phone
limited addition funkos designer clothes and lots of cards wishing her a happy
birthday needless to say I blew up the family chat calling out my parents
siblings and extended family who send gifts for not considering Nora and my
parents for the cheap gift no one took me seriously since it's not our duty to
give gift to someone else's kid and Amy deserved them since I didn't even throw
her her own birthday party emphasizing that Jenna and Nora are my problem not
theirs Nora was clearly hurt since it's not the first time my family's left her
out at night I asked Amy to share some of the gifts with her steps sister not
all of them just a couple of gift cards and some of the new clothes Amy refused
this surprised me since she never had a problem with sharing and even though she
and Nora aren't being BFFs they usually get along after asking why Amy started
crying saying that she never wanted a joint birthday party and that I force
her to share everything with Nora they share a room for space and I make sure
they're both invited to the same parties and sleepovers so that Nora won't be
left out if they don't invite both of them then either of them goes Amy stated
that she had least wanted her own gifts to be hers alone I scolded her for being
selfish with her step sister grounded her and took a couple of the presents to
give to Nora she turned them down because she didn't want problems with
Amy and it felt like pity since then Amy's been cold to all of us I just
wanted my two girls to be closer with the joint party and have the same things
am I the jerk so I think op is the jerk here honestly I get why op had the
double party you know the birthdays are so close but as a kid that had a sibling
with a close birthday the idea of having
a double joint birthday didn't seem very enticing you want to be able to have a
birthday that's all your own secondly I don't know if this is going to be
controversial of me to say but for your relatives I believe they really don't
have to feel obligated to get gifts for somebody that is in no way actually
related to them you know it's one thing if it's your adopted kid but this is a
stepchild that came from another couple it's just harder I think to expect
relatives to accept that with open arms and lastly taking the gifts away to try
to even the score because you felt like they got shafted there I don't agree
with that and it only stands to create more animosity between the girls our
next story is from an anonymous poster am I the jerk for telling my parents
they're not welcome in my apartment anymore because they had sex in my bed
I'm 23 and living in my apartment that I
share with a roommate my parents came to visit the other day and I let them stay
in my room and sleep in my bed and I take a blowup mattress in the guest room
unfurnished for a few nights my parents woke me up last night because they were
hooking up loudly in my room I was shocked my dad came out afterwards naked
cupping his junk to walk to the bathroom across the hallway knowing I would be
able to see him the guest room has no door I told him in my freaking bed and
he laughed at me the next morning when they woke up they came out and asked if
I wanted them to wash my duve cover I said they better wash all my sheets
including the ones on my bed they understood the implication and asked me
why I was so upset and angry admittedly this is where I think I could be the
jerk I did get very emotional and angry I don't know why I cry when I get really
emotional so I started crying and yelling that what they did was
disrespectful and gross and that they're never welcome back in my apartment
because they came here and hooked up in my bed and made me listen to it I went
in my room threw all their stuff out including their bags and sheets and shut
the door my mom told me I was being unreasonable and that I should think
about how I'm treating them now I love my mom she is the sweetest woman alive
so I do feel bad about yelling at her she told me it wasn't fair for me to be
upset with them because they had no way of knowing the rules it would have been
different if it were a guest room bed or if they were on the blowup mattress it
disgusts me that they were in my my room where I keep all my things where I have
all my pictures up of me and my partner and my stuffed animals I find it gross
that they couldn't even go two nights without hooking up to be respectful to
me and my space for a little background my parents have always shamed me for my
sexuality when I lost my virginity at 17 my dad had a period where he refused to
pay for anything for me food clothes Etc on the principle that I was a woman now
and he was no long longer responsible for me my mom told me that I was giving
away the milk sex for free and that nobody would want to buy the cow me I
feel like this made me extra upset since I've never been allowed to exist as a
sexual being to them but they can shove theirs in my face by doing it in my bed
so am I the jerk for how I reacted I know I got emotional but I still feel
like what they did was deeply disrespectful also my roommate wasn't
home at the time I think it would be really really uncomfortable and gross
feeling if you know my parents did that kind of thing I feel like it would
probably be a mostly similar reaction for pretty much everybody out there I
don't think op is the jerk I think that's pretty disgusting and as much as
they want to say well I didn't know the rules just ask yourself is hooking up in
your kids's bed a nice thing to do could they possibly be upset about this
disgusted think about how you would feel if it was your parents in your bed
they're probably probably wasn't a rule disgust because it's assumed that that's
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000000 am I the jerk for taking my BFF to a wedding after boyfriend invites his
children I female 30 have been with my boyfriend male 33 for a little over a
year 16 months boyfriend has four children 12-year-old male two
seven-year-old females and a 5-year-old male from a previous relationship I met
the children around our seventh month of dating after meeting their mom around
month 5 bio mom and I get along well I understand her concerns of being
replaced and assured her I'm not trying to take her place in any way on to the
situation about 3 months ago I received an invitation to the wedding of a friend
I'm allotted A+ one and naturally invited my boyfriend we discussed the
theme of the wedding cannabis wedding Transportation open bar and a few other
details I also discussed these plans with my BFF female 31 in case there was
an emergency she's my support system as I'm low contact with my family fast
forward to the big day after spending months discussing plans boyfriend shows
up to pick me up for the wedding with his four children in the back seats I
look at him with a confused look and ask him what's going on he says what do you
mean I say why are the kids in the car did you forget you were picking me up
for the wedding today he says I didn't forget I just thought this would be a
good family outing at this point my mind
was blown and I'm frustrated I asked him why he thought that seeing as how we
discussed the plans he said it's not a big deal they'll only be attending the
ceremony I informed him that my invite is for me and my plus one not a plus
five and besides nothing about this event is appropriate for children
he then says okay we can skip the wedding and just have a family day I
told him absolutely not and that his bad decision making was not going to be my
problem sent him on his way called my BFF and 2 hours later we attended the
beautiful ceremony boyfriend sees this on my Snapchat and goes ballistic on me
how could I go without him how could I replace him how his children felt
rejected how I should have skipped the wedding for a family day I waited until
he ran out of steam and calmly told him that he made these choices we had plans
and he chose to try and change them last minute that his changes were
inappropriate and also not my problem he called me a jerk and is refusing to
speak to me until I apologize to him and his children he also wants an apology
from my BFF for attending the wedding in his place Big Time op is not the jerk
here this is a huge red flag to me and if I were an OP situation I don't know
if I'd be able to trust them again how are you going to plan a wedding with a
plus one and then then at the last second they try to drop four kids on you
this just goes to show that if they have any secondary motive they would rather
just spring it on you last second where you don't have much of a choice rather
than try to work it out or accept that they can't do what they want to do also
bless op for staying with them for so long but I don't know if I'd be able to
stick out a relationship for 16 months with somebody who has four children to
take care of young children at that I don't envy that situation our next story
is from hey 921 Moon am I the jerk for telling my stepdad it's ridiculous he
thinks he became my dad when he married my mom I was 15 when I met my stepdad he
met my mom 4 years after my dad died leaving mom with me and my three younger
siblings to raise they were all little and hardly remember dad and found it
easier to go from him being Luke to Dad over time to me he was always Luke I was
older meeting him almost out of the house when he and my mom got married and
I remember dad really well I'm not saying he was a bad guy or he did
nothing but I was working by the time he moved in and I had a busy life so there
wasn't a lot of parenting from him because when I needed something I went
to my mom I also didn't go to college so there was no paying for that I only add
this because I know how these posts go I think he's okay I think he has what my
mom and siblings needed but it bothers him that I never needed him and I pretty
much never wanted him in the same capacity of my siblings I thought he was
great for my mom but he wasn't someone I would seek out for Life advice or a
shoulder to cry on and I'll go as far as
saying he's not my current father figure that would go to my grandpa who I've
known the longest and have turned to in times of trouble and I've looked up to
both as an individual but also as a father grandfather and husband to others
I got engaged recently and Luke and I started fighting a lot he assumed he
would be walking me down the aisle and doing a fatherdaughter dance with me I
let him know that he wasn't the person I was considering asking if I did it at
all then he turns it into he's the most logical choice I said my mom would be
actually he pointed out it's customary for the Father of the Bride to do those
things and I pointed out that my dad was dead and if we're going down that line
my grandfather would be the obvious pick
for me he told me he's been my dad for 9
years now I was 16 when they got married I said that he didn't become my dad
because he married my mom which he argued that he did I told him it was
ridiculous to think that because I was 16 years old I had memories of my dad
and was hardly around him during that time when compared to other members of
the family I told him I'd always appreciated him for what he did for mom
and my siblings but he needed to get over the fact that I didn't need him
like my siblings did he called me a jerk
and said I needed to accept that he's my
father whether I like it or not am I the jerk I think op he's not the jerk
especially when you take in just that last line there you need to accept that
I'm your father whether you like it or not is it weird that not only do I think
that's not true it's kind of gross the way they said it like you don't have a
choice I am your father let me tell you I think there's a reason where at least
in the US a lot of States I think the age is 14 or 15 you're able to decide
whether or not somebody can adopt you and I've heard stories where kids even
younger than that have their opinions expressed to a judge or whatnot and
they'll factor that into whether or not it's approved also I just love the fact
that they were like oh I've been your dad for 9 years now as if op didn't have
a dad for 16 years by the time they got married our next story is from K hward
am I the jerk for refusing to share our Nan's inheritance with my siblings I
20-year-old female was my Nan's full-time carer from when I was 13 to
when she passed away when I was 19 my mom got in a huge argument with her and
my entire family ended up cutting her off I felt guilty though as it felt
wrong to leave an old woman with mobility and memory issues to live on
her own she was too stubborn to get home help or to go into a care home I spend
my entire teen years caring for her on my own I'm the youngest of four siblings
but none of them wanted to help so it was just left to me she was difficult to
live with very Easily Aggravated needed constant care my teen years sucked when
she died she left everything to me I got her house and all of her money my mom
was mad at this though claimed that my nan had done it to cause an argument
between me and my siblings over money my siblings didn't say anything about the
money they were fine with it it was just my mom with the issue she told me to
split the money with them I said no that argument was roughly a year ago and our
relationship has been rocking since my oldest brother's currently having
Financial issues and I've loaned him some money this has started the argument
up once again my mom says it's wrong that I've loaned it to him instead of
giving it to him and what I've given him is far less than one quar of the total
amount I was given I know I was initially in the right but I'm starting
to feel guilty about the loan my mom is insisting again that I split the money
and I'm feeling worse and worse about standing my ground as time goes on am I
the jerk I think op's not the jerk and they shouldn't be pressured into giving
up more of their money I don't know if the mom themselves are after the money
or if they're doing it on the behalf of the siblings but op was the one that
took care of them op was left with this inheritance on purpose and I'm of the
belief that how they want to use their money is up to them if they want to loan
a bid out to their brother that's fine and just because they loan some out to
one sibling doesn't mean they have to give money away to all the other ones
and their mom to me that makes no sense our next story is from Aunt to Alice am
I the jerk for laughing and saying sounds about right when my brother and
sister-in-law told me how exhausted they are with my outof control niece my
brother Ron and my sister-in-law Jen have spoiled their daughter Alice rotten
since she was a newborn since Alice was a toddler everyone in the families told
Ron and Jen they needed to teach Alice boundaries but they insist they're the
ones in charge of Alice I often babysat Alice when she was young I would tell
Ron and Jen that Alice wasn't behaving and they would respond by shaming me for
not getting Alice exactly what she wanted or pushing her so hard because I
told her to pick up the toys she threw on the floor note Alice was seven when
this happened eventually I refused to babysit Alice and they insist I was
being a bad ant because I was expecting so many adult things from a baby Ron and
Jen did all of Alice's homework and class projects for her they frantically
called me one night because the math tutor canceled and Alice's homework had
a precalculus question that they weren't sure how to do the work for I sent them
to work for that one time but after that I would refuse to Alice is now 17 and
completely out of control she screams curses and flips off her parents until
she gets her own way she's unlicensed and dented Ron's car several times when
stealing it for Joy rides she stolen both Ron and Jen's wallets for shopping
spree they've caught Alice partying drinking vaping and sneaking out to boys
houses she's gotten even worse since her junior year Ron and Jen still do her
projects or pay others to do them but the material is now too specific for Ron
and Jen to understand without class notes which Alice isn't taking for them
Alice didn't pass her junior year and she's angry because now all all of her
friends are doing senior things that she can't join in on Ron and Jen called me
the other night to tell me how exhausted they were because Alice was illegally
driving again and they had to beg an officer not to send Alice to juvie they
talked about how Wild all teens are and they're not sure where their sweet
little girl went I thought that last part was a joke and a laugh slipped out
before I could stop myself Ron got angry and asked what I thought was funny I
apologized for laughing but I responded that Alice's Behavior sounded about
right because did they expect Alice to just magic become responsible and well
behaved when they've always rewarded her
bad behavior Ron and Jen started to yell at me but I hung up many of my friends
and family members said Ron and Jen are only angry because they didn't like
hearing the truth but most of my family saying I have no idea how hard it is to
be a parent much less have a child like Alice and even though the laugh slipped
I was cruel to respond to Ron and Jen that way knowing how exhausted they are
now I'm conflicted about it if I I was being a jerk to my exhausted brother and
sister-in-law am I the jerk I think op is not the jerk maybe they could have
tolerated it and accepted that they were venting but if they're looking for
support and then venting about something that was the consequence of their own
actions you might not have to rub their face in it but you're not obligated at
the same time to go along with it just to make them feel better in fact I mean
that's the kind of thing that got them in this situation in the first place
going along with with Alice's bad behavior imagine never scolding your kid
never parenting your kid and doing all of their work for them and expecting
them to be responsible how far gone do you have to be as a parent that you're
the one doing all their homework at night for them our next story is from ta
AI 1 190 2022 am I the jerk for exposing an entitled neighbor I 30-year-old male
live alone in a meh house and working as an engineer I decided to spoil myself
with a nice sports car it's a 2021 Aston Martin Vantage with manual transmission
for those into cars it has only two seats since it's a rear-wheel drive car
with a decent amount of power and I live in Canada I decided to get a crappy SUV
an old Ford Escape to use during the winter during the summer I use my sports
car daily and just leave my winter beater getting Dusty one of my neighbors
mid-20s female recently got divorced and became a single mom her financial
situation got bad and her ex-husband kept their car seeing her struggle I let
her use my winter beater during summer she was thrilled and thankful one day of
summer winter heater broke down not a surprise my neighbor was really sad and
when we took it to the mechanic the repairs would cost more than the car so
it wasn't worth it my sports car takes most of my money anyways I live with not
too many things nor luxuries except my car I'm not exactly rich I decided to
junk it and winterized my sports car my neighbor didn't like this decision I
said that I wouldn't be paying to repair it and sadly she wouldn't have a car
anymore she said she had a trip planned with her kids and asked me for my
vantage I of course refused it mentioned that she wouldn't be able to drive it
too much power manual transmission rear wheeel drive and it was also a
two-seater which wouldn't fit her kids anyway I also don't let anyone else
drive it it's my baby let alone for a vacation without about me she stormed
back to her house and I simply donated my winter beater to a charity she posted
a long rant in a Facebook group of our neighborhood saying I'm a bad neighbor
and how I denied her kids a vacation I replied to it mentioning she doesn't
even know how to drive a manual car it is ridiculously dangerous for someone
inexperienced to drive it and it's a two seater I told her she would be an
irresponsible mom if she just put both her kids in the passenger seat not only
dumb and illegal but dangerous and that I have no responsibility in giving my
car for 2 weeks for her to go on a trip no matter the car it was a massive reply
I also told her I was disappointed with her way of thinking for assuming I would
just provide a car for her when I have nothing to do with her life the winter
beater was a favor and she was acting entitled for thinking I would provide my
advantage for her everyone else sided with me and roasted her brutally lots of
neighbors congratulated me for my decision but some told me I went too far
and should have just ignored her or just said please remember it is a two-seater
your kids won't fit a few friends and relatives also told me it was an a move
to do this and that I don't understand the struggles of being a single mom am I
the jerk for exposing her in such an aggressive manner let's point this out
for exactly what it is this single mom went on Facebook to make a call out post
against op basically blasted their character blasted their charity blasted
their care this could be Mr Rogers himself writing this post and I still
think you have every right to go and defend yourself and to debunk all these
false statements they're making does it suck to have to stoop to Facebook mom
level of Facebook arguing yeah but they're trying to smear you don't be mad
when the truth hurts Karen and our final story of the day is from Material box
3214 am I the jerk for asking my sister to babysit I 30-year-old female raised
my youngest sister Jen 20-year-old female since she was 13 because she had
to be removed from our mother's care currently at 20 she still lives at home
because she decided she wants to drop out of college and work full-time for a
while to figure out her major after getting an Associates she currently
Works roughly 50 hours a week as a nanny
and got this job recently my husband and
I had a baby boy 2 months ago and before he was born Jen said she'd be up to
watch him a few days a week since she lives with us rentree although she does
her own shopping since getting her job Jen has no longer wanted to watch my son
she has one or two off days a week and so we try not to overburden her but even
on days where she doesn't work at all or is off early she claims she'd just like
to be childfree to her credit she helps around the house after work or she'll
watch him here or there so my husband and I can go for nightly walks or use
the bathroom however the issue occurred earlier today I asked Jen if she could
babysit my son on one of her off days and she said that she had plans with
friends on one day and intended to use the other to handle daily errands and
her own chores like laundry cleaning a room Etc I told her that on her errand
day she could just take her nephew with her and watch him while she cleans up
but she declined and said she wouldn't be able to get anything done since he
never wants to be put down and her body's tired from all the rough housing
she does with the kids at her job I told her that this isn't what she agreed to
before and she noted that she had a different job then and she doesn't want
to work on her off days too now it's unfair honestly and she suggested paying
another sitter but why would I pay for a sitter when there's a literal
professional in the same home that just refuses to do the work she thinks I'm
being over demanding of her and that I agree to having a third person
indefinitely added to my life when I decided to conceive her comment was
entirely unnecessary but am I the jerk now if you said in Li
of this situation you want to start charging rent I think you're not the
jerk for expecting some kind of rent for somebody that lives rentree in a place
who has an actual job and is supporting themselves but expecting them whether
it's on a day they're working or an off day to drop what they're doing and watch
your kid because they can and then getting upset when they refuse to or say
you know honestly they don't want to then yeah I think op is pretty clearly
the jerk here I don't care if I'm related to you I don't care if I live in
the same house as you I don't care if it's even possible for me to if I don't
want to watch your kid I don't have to watch your kid try to charge a rent that
costs the same as a babysitter if you have to am I the jerk for crying to my
husband my 18-year-old son Eric just graduated high school I'm very proud of
him because he has ADHD and school's always been a struggle for him but he's
going to college and his future is promising I was out with my two
girlfriends and both have children the same age as Eric well I excused myself
to the washroom and right before I was about to go back into the room I
overheard one of them say that I must be so disappointed in Eric disappointed
because he's not studying law or medicine Etc like their kids this got my
attention and I kept listening they continued to talk about how he barely
graduated and then they made a few odd jokes about how Eric's probably going to
follow in my footsteps and marry a rich older lady they talked about my son's
reputation and laughed about how he clearly cares more about his face than
his future just like his mother this hurt me a lot I was heartbroken not only
were they insulting me but my son as well I walked into the room and they
went silent but acted as if they weren't just crap talking I didn't mention it
and simply decided to never hang out with them ever again but when I got home
my husband asked me if anything was wrong and I just began to cry and told
him everything I've been friends with them for a year and gosh I don't even
know he was really angry he invited them and their families to go on a quick
two-day trip and he called their husbands and cancelled when they asked
why he told them that there was no way in heck he was paying to take two bitter
mean girls that insult his wife and son on vacation well I got a call from the
two and they were really upset they said that I need to tell him to rethink his
decision and that they were just joking around because their kids were really
looking forward to the trip I told them that I didn't want to but they said I
should have talked to them instead of crying to my husband like a weakest
freak witch I told them to freak off and
they replied with this is exactly why we hate you wait sorry are you going to go
cry to your husband again that stung a little and now I'm wondering am I the
jerk for not being straight up and crying to my husband instead the two
think I am and my sister agrees that I should have dealt with it myself and I
went too far telling my husband hband absolutely not the jerk here I think the
bottom line here is people handle things differently some people love
confrontation some people are not afraid
to get right up in your face and call it like they see it but God forbid some
people don't want that confrontation and your partner is there to work with you
on these things to be a shoulder that you can cry on so God forbid you turn
around and go to your what's supposed to be your main support system if there's
personal business between you and another person could could you ever be
the jerk for telling your partner about it let me know what you guys think in
the comments down below our next story is from throwaway 123
86912 am I the jerk for not wanting my sister's boyfriend to sleep over me
23-year-old male and my sister 22-year-old female usually get along
pretty well however we just got into a huge fight my parents have gone on a
trip for a week they left today leaving me and her home alone but in 2 days my
sister's also leaving with her boyfriend on a trip about 2 weeks ago she told me
that her boyfriend was going to be sleeping at our house these 2 days
before their trip while our parents are away this made me a bit uncomfortable so
I told her that he could spend the day with us but I really didn't feel
comfortable with him sleeping over even though it seems like a relatively
serious relationship and her boyfriend seems nice enough I don't really know
him very well I've met him two or three times and we just greeted each other
plus they've been together for only about four to 5 months she got really
mad and we fought a bit but then I had to leave because I wasn't staying home
at the time and my ride was leaving the next day I texted her saying it's only 2
days and then they're going away for a week alone so I would really appreciate
it if he didn't sleep over those two days last week I came back home and we
didn't really talk about it but today I brought it up asking if he was going to
sleep over and she said yes so we got into a huge fight the dude's coming over
later and I just have to deal with should I have just kept quiet and let
him sleep over without saying anything am I even entitled to feel uncomfortable
about this I think the only confusing thing to me here is it's the parents'
house right how do the parents feel about him staying over if the parents
are okay with him coming over then I think op is the jerk here four to 5
months into a relationship I feel like is more than enough to be okay with them
staying around like I just don't understand what the issue is is op
afraid their sister's boyfriend's going to catch the them changing in their
clothes or something this next story is from next method 9442 am I the jerk for
telling my wife I won't be sharing blame with her when I mess up it's my fault
and that's fine I'll Lo up to that however when she messes up it becomes I
think we both could have done things to prevent this my wife and I are 26 we've
been together since we were 15 at a doctor's appointment 2 weeks ago my wife
found out she weighs nearly 240 lb she started putting on weight during our
senior year of high school and it's only increased from there as far as meals at
this point we eat separate meals for the most part foodwise we sit down and eat
dinner together but what she has for dinner is different than what I have so
she comes home from the appointment and launches into this whole thing about how
we both dro the ball in terms of her weight I asked exactly how I dropped the
ball I'm not force feeding her chips and popcorn and things like that all I got
back was a vague you could have said more which made no sense to me I told
her I won't be sharing in the blame for this I'm more than willing to help but
this situation is not my fault she said I was isolating her and called me a jerk
am I the jerk here I think op is not the jerk and frankly I think this is a bit
of a coping thing they don't want to admit that they did wrong they don't
want to be the one only at blame and they probably want to feel like they got
some help on their side to dig out of that situation it's just kind of funny
to me that the wife said well you could have said more basically saying to op
well you could have been more inconsiderate and mention my weight more
it's like implying that op is not doing right unless they're conscious about
their wife's weight and like being uncomfortable enough to say something
about it our next stories from throwaway 7391 am I the jerk for refusing to pay
for my sister's funeral I 34-year-old female have three younger sisters 22 20
and 19-year-old females I was adopted but the younger three are my adopted
mom's bio kids that she had later their dad left and moved to a different state
when the eldest Carol was six and as such she was the only one that
remembered him to a noticeable degree she ran off as soon as she turned 18 to
join her estranged father in a shady religious compound long story and it
remained like that for the next several years that was until a couple months ago
that Carol died unexpectedly and our family had a bit of a dilemma after we
got got the body back from the police our family never had that much money and
all my mother could afford was a simple direct cremation we all know that given
how religious she was that wouldn't be what she wanted but she left no will
because she died at 22 my mother called me the other day to ask if I would be
willing to pay for a burial and after some calculations I found it would be
technically possible but I would have to be very lean for about half a year
afterwards to compensate at my mother said no problem and we would just have
her cremated yesterday my middle sister Marie called screaming at me about how
selfish I was and that since I could afford it I should do it for the family
this is very out of character since Marie basically never expresses emotions
she said that I was being selfish and dishonoring Carol's memory by forcing
our mom to dispose of her body in a way she wouldn't have wanted I said that one
this isn't a sacrifice I'm willing to make given Carol didn't have a will and
we never had a functioning relationship and two she went off to another state
immediately and nobody in the family had spoken to her since
2018 Maria's gotten her father's extended family involved and they've
been blowing up my phone constantly with how I'm selfish and ungrateful for the
sacrifices Carol made Marie's contined to insist I'm wrong and that I should
pay the rest since neither her nor my youngest sister Lily have jobs I'm quite
honestly shocked by this outburst and I don't really know where it's coming from
given how out of character this is for her I'm wondering if I'm in the wrong I
asked Lily who said that she's sad that Carol can't be buried but it's
ultimately my money and I can do what I want with it our mom is completely on my
side she never got along with Carol because of how enamored she was with her
ex-husband I can't decide if I was the jerk or not in the situation since I
technically can afford it even if it requires insanely strict budgeting so am
I the jerk our next story is from bride 879 am I the jerk for kicking a person
with tourettes out of my wedding I 25-year-old female recently got married
to my wonderful husband 26-year-old male
the wedding was beautiful and we all had a great time but the situation left me
feeling like a jerk a good friend of mine Macy 26-year-old female brought her
boyfriend 29-year-old male as her plus one she texted me prior to the wedding
that her boyfriend has Tourette Syndrome
I was somewhat familiar with the disease
but made sure to ask her how it affected her boyfriend specifically and what to
expect she assured me it wasn't severe and wouldn't disrupt the wedding I had
never met the boyfriend prior to this and believed her when she said it wasn't
going to be a problem I know most people with Tourette's don't have vocal ticks
at all and assumed that was the case in this situation based on what Macy told
me just before the ceremony started I discovered Macy's boyfriend's Tourette
syndrome was much worse than she let on he was screaming every few seconds and
yelled a lot of offensive curse words and slurs I was upset by this as I felt
Macy purposely misrepresented her boyfriend's situation so I'd let him
come since she said it wouldn't be disruptive I would have politely
declined had I known that he had severe vocal ticks I told my maid of honor to
ask him to leave apparently it turned into a big scene where Macy angrily
argued against it and said we were being
ableist her boyfriend agreed and said he couldn't control it security had to get
involved and I had both of them removed thankfully the wedding went smoothly
after that but now Macy's calling me a jerk some of our mutual friends agree
that I was in the wrong so I'm here to ask if I'm the jerk I think Opie is not
the jerk here all around I think this is just a really awkward and uncomfortable
situation to be put into but op's completely right in that they were lied
to the condition was misrepresented and I know I'd be feeling the exact same way
as op did it just is a painful thing to have to ask somebody to leave a wedding
but I mean honestly they shouldn't have been there to begin with our next story
is from savings pattern 3614 am I the jerk for not taking down
my video that was a gift from my best man I have a sister that's 6 years older
than me my parents for years cancel on me last minute because of my sister I
have a basketball game oops sorry sister doesn't feel like going out I'm
graduating oops sister sister had a bad day at work they've missed both major
and smaller events in my life because of her meltdowns I met the love of my life
we decided to tie the knot from the beginning I told my parents how I'm
worried my sister will ruin another special moment in my life my mom told me
over and over again it wouldn't happen the day of my wedding I received a
voicemail from my mom saying they wouldn't come because my sister's dog
was sick and she was upset I was hurt my best man however is a joke her he took
my phone then went to my fiance and asked if he could post a video of our
wedding as a gift on social media she loved his idea I had no idea about it
until I came home our honeymoon was at a Lakeside Cabin no self service the post
caption was my best friend he's an amazing person even if his parents never
showed up for him the video was still pictures of us next to her parents me on
the Dance Floor cutting the cake where you would normally see both parents in
the the wedding pictures the sound behind the video was my mom's voicemail
explaining how they couldn't come because my sister's dog was sick I come
home a week later to hundreds of messages family members from both sides
insisting I take it down I was told my sister hasn't stopped crying my mom's
refusing to leave the house I may be the jerk here I didn't take it down when I
got my messages I didn't call my family back right away I waited until my
vacation time was over over at work and enjoyed my time with my wife in our new
home before I contacted anyone my dad told me to take down the video it was
just a bad night for them that they'll make it up to me and my wife for not
coming my reply was how exactly do you plan to make up my wedding it's a once-
in a-lifetime thing you choose to ignore my feeling on the whole matter then he
just repeated that he'll make it up to me I told him I'll take the video down
only when he made up missing my wedding FL mustered we both hung up the phone
before we both said things we shouldn't have am I the jerk here I could have
just taken down the video it would probably make things easier to have
taken down the video and maybe could you say it's a little extra or out there to
have left this video up for all that time maybe to me it feels a little bit
like kind of unnecessarily airing out your dirty laundry but I don't think
Go's The Jerk they've been treated as not even second rate lower than that for
their whole life so God forbid they essentially leave up a call out post
after I assume Decades of being treated that way the truth hurts sometimes this
next story is from error 404 Rowan am I the jerk for refusing to have my cousins
over after what they did to me little background I was 10 at the time and my
cousins like to pick on me for my weight they would purposely make me lots of
food and then expect me to eat all of it
they'd also give me their leftovers soon I developed a bit of chub and I got
heavily bullied for it they even went as far too whenever I was over at their
house Auntie was never around so they would lock me in the room with a piece
of bread and a tiny bag of chips as to starve me for hours on end but when ant
was a few minutes away from home they'd prepare me a big dinner to look good in
front of Aunt summer 2008 I guess many years later I had just gotten my own
place mid 2021 straight out of college and I'd never really had anyone over
except friends and my siblings I was at having a family dinner and my mother
suggested I invited my cousins no one found out about what they did to me and
I sort of retained the weight but lost a
bit of it no chub but still pretty thick
I was off about the idea since all I had
was bad memories so I said no my mom got pretty mad and said if my aunt was
coming so should my cousins as they're her kids I said no again stating that I
didn't want them there because they made
me uncomfortable my mom said that's fine she gets it and drops upset day of the
dinner comes and I made an amazing banquet dinner for my family first my
sisters came then my two brothers my mom and dad uncles and then my aunt but
slowly behind her my cousins trailed they seemed to know exactly how to make
me angry saying that they're starving and in a sarcastic voice you always knew
how to eat so you should be amazing at cooking I reluctantly let them in and
they immediately and impolitely made themselves at home left their shoes in
the middle of the living room watching TV and not flushing the toilet I was
getting angry but I wanted to be civil so I just let it go the last straw was
when I was making a chicken and a few steaks as I was seasoning all of that my
cousins appeared behind me and said all that just for you and I lost it I
started screaming at them and told them to get the heck out of my house and they
refused they said they were here for dinner and that's what they were going
to get I said that they had no right to be in my house and make fun of me for my
weight and not only that but for doing all the things they did to me in the
past and if they don't get out now I will make them leave they finally left
but then my entire family started talking about it and telling me how much
of a jerk I am for making them leave this hasn't stopped for a few days and
I'm starting to think they meant it in a joking manner am I the jerk here for
kicking them out I think it doesn't matter whether or not they were meaning
it in a joking manner or not the bottom line here is whether they were joking
the entire time it imprinted A traumatic
experience on you as a kid and they have a stch inability to recognize that what
they're doing is bothering you and they can't cool it they can't take a note
nobody likes a jokester that doesn't know when to quit and what they did to
op as a kid is not joking this next story is from aita water park am I the
jerk for getting a couple kicked out of a water park for not covering their
tattoos yesterday I was at a water park par with my family when I saw a couple
who I assume were American or Canadian based on their accents they were both
covered in tattoos throughout their entire upper body which isn't allowed at
this water park I come up to them and explain to them in English about the
rule and that they need to cover up the tattoos because families come here with
their children they both told me to shut up and leave them alone so I found a
staff member and alerted them to the situation they had somebody who speaks
English come up to them to explain the rule and the woman started Ed screaming
and crying as they were both kicked out they were basically causing a huge scene
and everybody was staring at them it's not like they couldn't use the water
park at all they just had to wear a shirt that covers up their tattoos and
they would have been fine which is why I think I was justified to confront them
I'm posting here to find out what everybody here thinks so from what op
said I believe this takes place in Japan now I will say as an American the rule
seems quite odd to me but from what op is suggesting here it seems like it's a
pretty common thing and if it's a rule especially one that they kind of have to
agree to upon entry you have every right to call somebody out or kick somebody
out over that I did take a quick look and basically tattoos in Japan are
extremely stigmatized basically if you go around having tattoos visible it's
basically seen as like an advertisement of you being a person of crime a
criminal or especially tied to a criminal or organization one that starts
with the letter Y being a very popular one our next story is from Panda the
cran eater am I the jerk for blowing up on a customer he can rebuild the fence
himself if he has a problem with me being a woman I female 20 have been
interested in woodworking since I was 12 and from 15 I was helping out of my
stepdad's business first it was just cleaning holding bringing things but
later I became pretty much a full-time employee outside studies last month was
busy so I took what what seemed like simpler contracts or orders to do myself
one of those was making new and replacing some balcony fence planks I
talked with the customer on the phone beforehand and later went there to take
measurements and other details when I first came he didn't exactly look
pleased asking if there was somebody else coming later I had that happened
before I have no problem with this I tried to lighten the mood by saying how
hard can using a tape measure and a drill be also said that he hopes the
measures will be correct and then asked if I'll be the one doing the actual
planks and replacement to I answered most probably a few days later I went to
actually replace the planks he didn't say much at first since the planks were
good but then he started nagging like you're holding it wrong I wasn't you're
making a mess here with the old ones rotten into Oblivion all while basically
breathing down my neck that was tolerable still what wasn't was him
saying you said you can do it self or see why trades are man dominated when I
asked him to hold or hand me something when I finished he told me it wasn't
half bad but it could be better and faster like excuse me the size is a
match lining distances good in match the paint is good why did it take longer
almost as if there was something to speed it up a little I asked if he sees
any particular problem so I can fix it he said no just that a normal woodworker
would do it faster I just lost it and said well I repaired your freaking fence
that makes me a woodworker enough or not because women can't be in trades why
didn't you do it yourself if I shouldn't
do trade jobs in the first place he told me the good old respect elders and not
to raise voice on customers but you know I can only tolerate so much am I the
jerk I think op's not the jerk here and frankly I think maybe the best thing op
could have done was just ask them to to kind of give you some space while you
work to repair their fence I mean they have every right to stand there and
watch but them standing there micromanaging things really didn't help
the situation I know op can't exactly force them to go away but man must that
have been annoying for them to stand there and be like well a man could do
this better than you while standing there watching a woman do the fixing for
him this next story is from throwaway 2828 am I the jerk for not letting my
step sister paint the room I'm letting her stay in I 25-year-old male on a
pretty big house that I inherited from my grandparents I'm currently letting my
steps sister kna 23-year-old female stay in one of my guest rooms for 2 months
rentree everything's been going smooth until 2 days ago when cona came in the
house with cans of paint I asked her what she was doing with those and she
told me that she was going to paint her room pink I told her no because she's
only staying here temporarily and I like the way the room is now cona said that
she's currently staying in the room and she should have a right to be able to
decorate the room how she wants it I told her that even though she's staying
in there it's still my house and if she does paint the room she will be kicked
out Conor got mad and called me a jerk my dad and stepmom think that I was too
harsh and I could have compromised with her I feel like I have a right to not
want the room painted am I the jerk I wholeheartedly agree with OP that it's
their house and they have every right for the walls to be whatever color they
want con of staying there for 2 months if anything only moves this more in op's
favor con's a temporary guest it's for forever to op if they want to this next
story is from effort present 9645 am I the jerk for siding with my
mom over my wife and telling my wife it was her fault for putting me on the spot
my wife and I try to always side with each other in public and if there's an
issue talk it out in private so maybe I screwed up here my mom lives an 8 Hour
plane right away so if she's going to visit it it's going to be at least for 4
to 5 days to make it worth it my mom is the one who moved and my wife made it
clear when she moved that she needs to be the one to come to us as she made the
choice to move doesn't have small kids and has the ability to work when she
wants with no set schedule my mom rolled
her eyes but agreed my wife also told me that we would not be altering Our Lives
to revolve around my mom while she's welcome to visit we won't use up our
limited vacation time which we want to use to do things with our kids and it
isn't our job to entertain her I felt weird about it but agreed my mom visited
one time 3 years ago we went to work as normal and she was alone in the house
during the day by the time we got home she was clearly bouncing off the walls
and about to lose it we did our normal chores and routine though my wife did
take over some of my duties so I could visit we had our normal blah week night
meals and by the end of the trip my mom was clearly miserable over tired and
starving she just didn't eat much I don't know why she didn't complain but
seemed pissy then Co happened both of us were busy and we just didn't see each
other we recently invited her to visit again and my mom said sorry but no she
said it was torture and if we can't put in the effort to host her she isn't
coming I felt that was fair as she didn't make any demands on us just chose
not to come but my wife was very upset my wife wanted me to confront her about
how entitled she was being I refused so she called my mom and accused her of
being childish and needing constant entertainment my mom and her got into it
with my mom yelling that we were crap hosts and she was so bored she actually
cried one day she said she doesn't owe us her time if we don't want to put time
into her and she'll never visit again unless something changes but we have an
open invitation to visit her my wife asked me if I was going to get involved
my mom said I need to get get my wife to stop attacking her my wife demanded to
know whose side I was on and I said my mom's my mom began laughing my wife
teared up and hung up now she feels I betrayed her and that I'm a mama's boy
what the freak I haven't even seen her in 3 years I told her it's her fault for
putting me on the spot and I just think my mom's entitled to the boundary of she
doesn't want to visit I think op is not the jerk here but I also think op is not
doing enough as in I think op can personally set aside the time and the
plans to have their mom visit even if the wife doesn't want to partake in that
I'm wondering if op's wife isn't just overly controlling or if the mom and the
wife have never really gotten along so that's why the wife is acting so
disinterested in doing anything with the mom being over maybe there's not enough
information here and our final story of the day is from Randomness 57 317 am I
the jerk for not inv inviting my kids whole class to his birthday party I
28-year-old female am a mother of a wonderful 8-year-old son this whole
thing happened last April but I'm still getting complaints so here I am asking
strangers for a judgment on the internet so last year was my kid's first year in
big kids school like he calls it since his first grade conid with the pandemic
we're not in the best place financially like most families our Consumer Debt
piled on and we're throwing every spare scent at it so when it was time to throw
him a party I only invited five of his classmates the ones he considered his
friends for the others I sent two dozen cupcakes and juice boxes to his class
the invites were delivered to their houses and not in front of the other
kids like I said money was tight so I got creative I made nine small cakes box
cakes vanilla chocolate and Funfetti buttercream and different colors also
made big sugar cookies and different colored frosting and sprink Les and
finally bought tortillas made pizza sauce and had a variety of toppings I
asked that the kids bring swimsuits and water guns we had to make your own pizza
station for lunch then they played with their water guns then they decorated
their cakes and finally their cookies to take home with them that was a Saturday
well the next Monday the kids would not stop raving about how fun the party was
how it was the best birthday party ever the other kids were not happy to not be
invited at pickup Tuesday a couple moms confronted me about not inviting their
kids I said that I'm sorry but it was a small party for his close friends only
they kept complaining about me excluding their kids I didn't take it seriously
then but now it's a new school year almost 6 months later and I'm still
getting the occasional comment thrown at me so am I the jerk I think op is not
the jerk here I think it might be a common sentiment but these are the kinds
of parents where participation trophies were born from and I'm going to be
honest as a kid I wouldn't have liked it if my whole class was invited to my
birthday party for all of these entitled parents out there that are like every
kid in the class deserves to be invited why wasn't my kid invited why wasn't I
allowed to be there let's not forget it's the kids birthday party and at
least if I was in that situation I'm not friends with everybody in my class I
wouldn't want everybody at my house especially not some snobby parents like
that am I The Jerk for cutting off support to my daughter I 52-year-old
male have three children with my ex Tracy 50-year-old female Michael
28-year-old male Linda 25-year-old female and Victoria 23-year-old female
we split because Tracy had an affair with Stan a 55-year-old male to whom
she's now married we never shared with the kids the reason for the divorce as I
don't want them to blame either of us this backfired as the kids saw their mom
move out of the house into a small apartment and me keep living in the
house and Remar 2 years after the divorce so they saw me as the bad guy
Stan and Tracy let them pretty much do whatever they wanted and I had to be the
disciplinarian who made sure homework was done appointments were made and
deadlines were met my two oldest eventually came to realize that I wasn't
the bad guy my son when he found out that his mother had put nothing away for
college for him as outline in our divorce decree and she told him to take
out loans my daughter when she realized that her grades were going to keep her
out of her desired program in school my youngest never came around so it was a
surprise when her boyfriend asked for my blessing to ask for her hand when I
expressed that I didn't think she'd care about my blessing he said she insisted
on it she began spending time with me being polite to my wife and it felt
wonderful to have my daughter back I went with them to book the venue and
they'll be getting married next summer I
pay the deposit in the first installment I noticed that she was becoming less
communicative again recently ignoring my
texts or giving one-word replies and not coming over as much on Monday my son
sent me a post from Instagram my youngest had an engagement party this
weekend to which I was not invited one of the photos was with her and Stan and
it read anyone can be a father it takes a real man to be a dad this amazing guy
has been my dad for 15 years even though
he didn't have to be I'm I am so blessed to have him walk me down the aisle next
year # Daddy's girl # future Miss X my kids wanted for nothing their entire
lives because I never let them go without even when they wouldn't talk to
me I made sure their needs were met I texted Tracy to ask why I wasn't
included she replied that Victoria didn't want my wife there because she
wanted a drama-free day my wife has literally never started drama in her
life I asked if Stan and I would both be walking down the aisle Tracy didn't
respond but Victoria called me up demanding to know what my problem was I
repeated my question and she replied that no Stan her dad would be walking
her down the aisle I told her that if that's what she wanted I would be fine
with it I told her to let Stan know the next payment for the wedding is due in
November Stan and Tracy don't have the money for this wedding and think I'm
being the jerk Linda says if I do this Victoria will never speak to me again
Michael's on my side I'm going to be honest it might be Petty but I think
it's time to tell them the truth about the situation here and op's feelings
about how they felt cut off when all along they never just wanted to make
anybody the bad guy I don't think they're the jerk either way for cutting
off the funds when they're not even being invited and are being basically
outcasted by their own kid especially when apparently from what op said
they've never acted in a way that deserves being outcasted it almost feels
like there's something wrong here because why is somebody who loves and
supports their kid being pushed away like this also it's pretty clear they
used op for the money what do you guys think after everything is it finally
time to explain to the kids why the divorce happened and explaining that op
was not the bad guy in that decision let me know what you guys think in the
comments down below our next story is from hidden concert would I be the jerk
for not sending a gift for a wedding I wasn't invited to my cousin Ted and I
are close in age a few years apart we were always close as kids and even into
adulthood still kept in touch then Ted met Maddie a few years ago and started
bringing her to family stuff I don't have a problem with Maddie but we just
didn't click we talk at family stuff but she's not someone I want to hang out
with or become friends with my other cousin Ted's sister really clicked with
Maddie which cool and good for them but I just don't I'm nice and polite but I
don't go out of my way to become her bestie my aunt Ted's mom really pushed
her on me though I don't know if it's because we're the same aish or what but
it was annoying anytime we were both at an event she'd find some way to push us
together I felt like a little kid being forced to play with someone my own
college graduation party grandparents had it because they have a bigger house
and yard had to be moved because Maddie had to work and it wouldn't be nice to
exclude her even though it was inconvenient for me and meant most of my
friends couldn't come and I had to rush around anyway like I said I've never
been rude or anything to her just never really bonded with her so Ted and Maddie
are getting married soon I knew he was engaged but I didn't know where the
wedding was when it was another family member asked what I was getting them for
a wedding gift and I said I don't know they said better figure it out before
wedding date which is very soon I said oh I didn't know I wasn't invited they
said well maybe it's not personal you should still get a gift for them I asked
my dad when he got his invitation and I guess it was a while ago I said it's
crappy that I wasn't invited when I had to reschedule my party for them he said
that was a graduation party this is a wedding now that you know about it just
be a bigger person and get a gift don't be Petty I don't want to buy them a gift
and I probably won't invite Ted to any future events I have I don't know why I
was left out when everyone else in the family was invited maybe because I'm the
only cousin on this side maybe it's a budget thing and not personal but I
don't want to spend the money on a gift when I wasn't cool enough to invite to
me it's like having a birthday party and expecting someone I didn't invite to
send me a birthday present am I the jerk if I don't send a gift I am of the
opinion that if you are not invited you are not welcomed into that ceremony you
don't have to send a gift I think Opie's
analogy is great if you throw a birthday party and you don't invite somebody you
don't expect a gift from them send a nice card or something but you don't
have to get them anything crazy our next story is from imaginary agency 991 am I
the jerk for not wanting to be a stay-at-home mom okay I already know it
sounds bad but I 35-year-old female and my husband Jeff 37-year-old male are
currently expecting a boy his first child my second I got pregnant with my
first when I was 18 and his dad was never in the picture I work as a
substance abuse counselor and I love my job this is where it get It's Tricky my
job offered me 8 weeks PTO for when I have our son I've been so happy because
I didn't want to go right back to work soon me and Jeff got together when I
turned 30 and he moved in with me because I own my house we just got
married this year and have talked about child care multiple times so he knows I
don't want to be a stay-at-home mom well I'm due in November and he just brought
the idea up I was very confused because we've already talked about this but I
guess my mother-in-law and sister-in-law believe I should stay home with our son
as a mother and wife I just don't understand where their opinions come in
because I already know where they stand both of them stayed home with the kids
all three of them sat me down to have this talk and they want me to focus on
the kids cleaning up the house making dinner and all of that but I already
work and do those things well mother-in-law wanted to throw it in my
face that I never got to be a stay-at-home mom because I was a single
mom going to school and working which she's not wrong but it definitely made
me pissed that she brought it up I told them that I worked so hard to give my
son a good life and having another baby doesn't change my decision to keep doing
something that I absolutely love doing and if they all want someone to take
care of the house and kids all day then Jeff should be a stay-at-home dad
because I make more money than him and it would make more sense for him to stay
home instead of me it turned absolutely horrible after that I got yelled at by
mother-in-law and sister-in-law that it's not his role as a father to do
those things that he's the man of the house and should be the one making the
money Jeff just stood there not saying anything and I blew up and reminded all
of them that it's my house not his I kicked mother-in-law and sister-in-law
out and Jeff is so mad at me that he went with them he said he won't come
back till I apologize to all three of them so am I the jerk for not wanting to
be a stay-at-home mom I don't think Opie's The Jerk for not wanting to be a
stay at home mom I think what matters is can you make it work if you can make it
work where you go to work and you still take care of your kids then that's more
than fine I don't see why you have to do that you don't have to be stuck in the
1950s nuclear family role our next story is from puppy AIT ta am I the jerk for
not taking a conversation about Parenthood with my wife seriously this
sounds ridiculous because it is I 27-year-old male don't want children
I've never wanted children my wife Liz 26-year-old fale female is aware of this
I'm in the camp of if it's not a resounding I want this with my entire
heart and soul yes then it's a no I think kids are cool and wonderful and
major sources of joy in life do I want to be responsible for raising one nope
prior to getting engaged about a year and a half ago I lived with my best
friend 28-year-old male and had done so for nearly a decade of my life he and I
each adopted a dog while living together and call each other co-parents we have
doggy playdates on on the regular and I'm over at his place multiple times a
week because of this this morning my wife brought up children like I said
she's aware of the fact that I don't want them her sister recently gave birth
to our niece and while looking at the photos Liz said wouldn't it be nice if
we had a baby or something along those lines I responded with I'm already the
co-parent of two babies and I don't have a room for anymore she got angry at me
and said I wasn't taking her or the concept of Parenthood seriously I told I
have no reason to take this conversation or the concept of our Parenthood
seriously because we are never having kids am I the jerk I think Opie is not
the jerk here and there might need to be a sit-down conversation at some point
because very clearly op expressed they don't want kids they want a kidless life
and if this is something that op's wife is going to secretly be longing for it's
better to put that out on the table and have it in the no rather than bottle
that up and have Something Brewing that is just kind of ignored this next story
is from poppy field 0239 am I the jerk for saying I won't
make part of my family's lunches anymore I 37-year-old female have four children
and a husband all my children are school
age 5 7 10 and 13 and my husband is 39 I make all of their lunches for the next
day for them it's usually a PB&J chips
and crackers and a yogurt every day it's cheap easy and they all like it
sometimes if we have take out or pizza or something the night before and the
member didn't finish their portion they'll get it in their lunch the next
day this is especially the case for my 7-year-old who doesn't eat much at once
and will likely be the case for my 5-year-old as she eats the same way
additionally sometimes I'll use a different jelly or crunchy peanut butter
with the creamy or use honey instead of jelly or sub and use a turkey and cheese
plus the side is switched up regularly and the yogurt flavor is always
different so there's a lot of variety within a sandwich side and a yogurt with
that being said I understand that having the same thing over and over can get
boring if I'm asked to sub an item and I can I will this is when my oldest
started complaining about lunches being boring in that complaining tone kids use
I wasn't hurt I asked what he would like instead and he Shrugged and said
something not boring at this point my husband and second oldest joined echoing
the sentiment with no Solutions at this point I was nearly crying which I don't
do in front of my kids but hearing my husband say these things without any
solutions hurt I said fine if they find my lunches so boring then they don't
have to eat them and I won't make them anymore that they're all welcome and old
enough to make their own lunches and I'll just make them for my two youngest
or my oldest kids can simply get school lunches something they've been hedly
against saying the meals are gross as I know those menus are different every day
and that will offer some variety they immediately backtracked on their
statements but I stood firm they're all old enough to make their own lunch just
tell me if you decide you need lunch money my older kids grumbled but they
managed to make their own sandwiches my husband was the biggest child of them
all complaining that the kids have the option of school lunch that the school
can't and won't let a kid go hungry but work doesn't give a freak if he eats or
not I just kissed his cheek and said there's bread and peanut butter in the
kitchen not to mention he can drive to McDonald's and get something he wants he
continued to get angry and slept in the basement last night am I the jerk I
think op's not the jerk because they're just looking for a little appreciation
here right here they are doing stuff that honestly they don't have to do and
a lot of parents make their kids make their own lunch and they're just dumping
on their parent and not providing any solutions listen if you want a fruit
rollup every day just mention it if that's what makes it not boring if you
want a capri son give them something that they can do to make it not boring
rather than just say ah what you make is boring this next story is from silly
Mouse am I the jerk for refusing to give my window seat to someone's kid months
ago I booked a Jet Blue flight from San Francisco to New York City and realized
I accumulated enough points over the years to purchase a first class seat for
free I had the option to pick my seat and I always choose the window even when
I'm flying economy I always pay the extra fee to select seats in advance for
one to ensure I'm not kicked off when it's over booked later and two simply
because I like the window seat I'm a geography nerd and enjoy looking out the
window anyway the day of the flight comes and a woman and her two kids are
assigned next to me in the first class cabin the lady asked me if I could
switch seats so her kid could have the window if this was economy I would
probably switch so the kid could have the window even though I would be miffed
since I had selected it in advance and the mother didn't however I don't get to
fly first class very often and was looking forward to this flight so I
simply said no sorry the kid threw a fit the mother gave me a glare and pretty
much tried to Guilt Trip me into switching but I just ignored her I might
be a jerk for refusing to give my first Class Window Seat to a kid but at the
same time every passenger has the option
to choose use their seats in advance and if she wanted the window seat for her
kid she should have reserved it in advance plus her kids are flying first
class some people never get to fly first
class in their lifetime my friend thinks I'm the jerk so I'm turning to you
Reddit am I the jerk I think op is absolutely not the jerk I think if you
pay for a seat you deserve to get that seat darn it Good Charity bad charity I
don't care sorry kid your mom doesn't love you enough to buy the window seat
also guys now is the best time to ask what is the best seat on an airplane
window middle or aisle because I a staunch window believer but I know not
everybody agrees let me know this next story is from not my house AIT am I the
jerk for refusing to pay rent to my boyfriend's mortgage if I move in with
him my boyfriend 33-year-old male and I 29-year-old female have been dating for
3 years he owns a house and lives there by himself I live in an apartment by
myself we've talked about moving in together as
that's the logical next step in our relationship and we both want to do it
but I have some Hang-Ups related to moving into a house that I don't have
any stake in I'm refusing to pay any money that would go directly towards
this mortgage I don't have any stake in the house why would I contribute to his
mortgage payments I'm okay helping with utilities groceries household items Etc
but paying his mortgage is a hard no for
me I just don't think it makes any sense for me to pay towards his mortgage when
I would get nothing from that if we were
to break up his argument is that I would essentially be living with him for free
and it would cause an uneven dynamic in our payment towards shared living
expenses which I kind of get but at the same time he's the one benefiting from
paying down the mortgage and gaining Equity not me he also argued that his
mortgage is pretty much exactly what I was paying in rent so by cutting that in
half I'm saving a lot of money on living
costs compared to living on my own which yeah that's nice too but legally it's
still not my house I told him the only way I would pay money for rent is if he
signs a contract with me stating that any money I pay towards his mortgage
will be paid back to me by him in the event that we break up it would also
allow me protection from eviction and other basic tenant rights similar to a
rental agreement he's refusing to sign any anything like that because in his
words I could break up with him for no reason and then take him to court for
thousands of dollars which I suppose is true but I wouldn't just break up with
him for no reason the whole situation is driving a wedge between us and he's
pissed at me for being so difficult when all he thinks he's asking is that we
split living expenses 50/50 if we are to
live together to me it's not that simple when he's the one owning the house we
would live in if I were on the title it would be a different story but he's not
willing to put me on the title because he's lived there for 7 years already my
lease at my apartment is up in 2 months and I know I need to make a decision
sooner than later it doesn't help that my landlord's going to be increasing my
rent and similar apartments on our area are going for even more than I'm
currently paying but I just don't feel right contributing money towards his
mortgage I also know that if I renew my lease it's pretty much a dagger to our
relationship which I don't want because I do love him
and see a future with him I just want to make sure I'm protected I can tell my
boyfriend's patience on this is wearing thin and he's upset with me for digging
my heels in on this but for me this is about protecting myself for the worst
case scenario while he's not really risking anything I think op is a huge
jerk on this I'm not going to lie op is going on and on about how this is
protecting themselves but this isn't protecting themselves this is paying for
a place to stay imagine how shattered op's reality would be if they found out
that any of their landlords at any place they've rented had a mortgage that they
were paying on those properties and we better darn sure make sure never to stay
at an Airbnb because they could be paying mortgages on those and that's
just unfair you know you just got to protect yourself right protect yourself
from what being jealous that he owns a house that's being contributed towards
yeah it's going to his mortgage but what's the alternative you go and you
pay a buttload more to hand the money over to somebody else yeah you're really
protecting yourself in that situation don't save the money cuz he's got a
mortgage renew the more expensive lease and pay more money elsewhere I don't
mean to sound too harsh but maybe it would save op's boyfriend the trouble if
they just went ahead and renewed the lease and dipped this next story is from
fluffy stream 6713 am I the jerk for not wanting to
attend a Game of Thrones themed wedding my friend Lex is getting married soon
she and her husband are extreme Game of Thrones fans they've watched the show
five plus times their house is decked out with Game of Thrones themed
decorations and accessories Etc because of their shared love of Game of Thrones
Lex and their fiance decided to have a Game of Thrones themed wedding I'm
perfectly fine with the idea of a themed wedding I'm even okay with the Game of
Thrones dress and costume for the wedding the only thing I can't seem to
get behind is the fact that the majority
of the wedding will be conducted in High
Vol Aran for those who don't know it's a
madeup language from Game of Thrones her wedding is also a destination wedding
and I'm finding it hard to justify going out of my way to go to a wedding that's
not even in a real language that I won't
be able to understand am I the jerk if I don't go I mentioned that I was having
doubts to Lex and she got really mad at me because I originally had said I could
go before I knew it was in high valaran she's also been sending me links to
learn high valaran on Duo lingo and I feel like even if I did show up she
would be mad at me for not learning it I
think op is not the jerk not necessarily because of the High Valyrian thing but
just because they're not really obligated to attend any wedding
especially a destination wedding it's much easier to just say it's just
unrealistic to make it you can give them all your love all the best and just
simply not go you're not forced to go our next story is from crab legs and
Prime am I the jerk for telling daughter I'm disappointed in her and won't take
her out to a second restaurant my daughters 14 and 16 are on the same
dance team their team won a competition on Sunday and we were all so excited and
proud of them after the competition my dad suggested we go out to eat and said
he would pay for wherever we wanted older daughter who loves Seafood has
been asking for years to go to a restaurant that has unlimited crab legs
but it is a very pricey restaurant so we've never been able B to she
immediately suggested this restaurant my dad liked the suggestion my younger
daughter suggested we go to her favorite restaurant a local Mexican restaurant
instead we've been there many times as it's much more affordable knowing this
would be a wasted opportunity I said older daughter's suggestion made more
sense because it was somewhere we hadd never been younger daughter complained
that she wouldn't like anything there but I assured her the menu would have
more than crab legs we got there and sure enough there were many dishes that
didn't have seafood including steak the youngest's favorite even though there
were dishes without Seafood youngest daughter said she wasn't hungry because
the restaurant smelled weird I ordered her steak anyway younger daughter pouted
throughout the meal she picked at her steak older daughter was very happy and
completely absorbed in the crab legings my mom tried to talk to my younger
daughter about the competition but she wasn't responsive at the end of the meal
we were all stuffed a except for the youngest my dad told everyone to pick a
dessert to go except for the youngest because she's clearly not hungry I asked
my dad to leave her alone and he did but
she was already upset when we got home I tried to talk to her I explained that
this was a rare opportunity and sometimes we need to let someone else
have something nice I told her I could have taken us to the Mexican restaurant
this weekend she said it's not the same because the restaurant we go to the
night of the competition is special and we went somewhere she didn't like I
pointed out that she didn't know she didn't like it because she didn't try it
she said I know she hates seafood and that the restaurant's known for its
Seafood so of course she wouldn't want to go there after a special event she
was annoyed all Monday and Tuesday but started to Mellow on Wednesday this
morning she asked if we're going to the Mexican restaurant tomorrow I said not
this week because of her behavior but we'll see next week she wasn't happy am
I being too hard on her I think she was very rude to her grandparents but I know
when you're a teenager Everything feels like a bigger deal than it is should I
have just let her behavior slide and taken her to the Mexican restaurant I'm
definitely not a parenting expert but I think op is not the jerk here and I
think what they've done here is actually really good I'm of the opinion that you
should not enable that kind of behavior at all unless you want to foster a kid
that grows up to be pouty and complaining and Moody for multiple days
just so they can get what they want you don't want to condition a kid who's just
coming into their own to ever repeat that kind of behavior even when they're
done being moody that doesn't mean everybody else moves along with them our
next story is from beauty song storm am I the jerk for telling my mom her
stepdaughter is possessive and she needs
to do better to keep her away from me my Mom married Jeff when I was 6 years old
my dad died 2 months earlier but my parents were divorced at the time Jeff
and his daughter Emma lived in an another state and all four of us moved
to a new place to start over I met Jeff and Emma 2 weeks after my dad died mom
made a fast move because she now could with Dad not able to stop her right from
the get-go Emma's been clingy possessive
and kind of a little creepy too I didn't like her from the first day we met
because she told me Jeff was my dad now and that I needed to learn how to be a
family with them because she wanted a sister and a mom it upset me so bad
because I was missing my dad he wasn't gone that long and I had this strange
girl telling me to replace him already I told her that her dad wasn't my dad and
I missed my dad she told me she didn't care and things were different I went to
my mom who told me to give Emma and Jeff a chance and said Emma likely got over
excited Emma has continuously made life so awkward for me she insisted we share
a bedroom which my mom and Jeff said yes to despite having a spare bedroom she
started wearing my clothes and telling me I could wear hers all fine with Mom
and Jeff she hated how I kept in touch with my best friend from back home heed
it even more when a year later my best friend's family moved nearby and we got
to see each other again versus just talking over the phone she was rude to
her told her to leave me alone told me I
had to spend time with her instead of my best friend Emma tore up photos of my
dad and told me that he was the past and
her and Jeff were the future she did get into trouble for that but then I got
into trouble for not letting it go I was nine at the time I think Emma tells
everyone I'm her sister and we're so close whereas I'm more honest with
people I'm close to and don't hold back on how unhappy I am at home over the
years nothing's changed much only she's far more obsessive now Jeff doesn't like
me because he really doesn't like that I don't consider him my dad and I'll be
honest I don't think of him as a parental figure even though I know know
he is I don't love him and I hate Emma which he also knows my mom's talked to
me before about being nicer to Emma and to stop pushing her away so much she got
on my case again about it because I wouldn't go to camp with Emma we're both
16 now by the way that she wanted to go to that allowed almost like a
sibling-like experience so Mom was mad at me and yelled at me and I eventually
kind of snapped and told Mom that she needed to fix how possessive Emma is and
do better by me because her daughter I lost my dad and she threw me into such a
screwed up Dynamic and never cared about
what it did to me I told her at the very least she needs to keep Emma away from
me mom was mad and said I portrayed Emma
like some sort of bad person she's still
mad am I the jerk I don't think Opie's a jerk here Opie explained it the best
when they said that they got tossed into a very tumultuous situation that really
any kid at that age going through those circumstances
would find it probably very hard to adjust I'm just left feeling bad for op
and our final story of the day is from zore wits am I the jerk for being angry
at my wife for not making a dinner we have a 10-month-old daughter wife's on
Parental leave so usually she's taking care of the baby while I work then we
switch then in the evening she puts the baby to bed and I spend the night with
her daughter as in I feed her change her calm her down when she wakes up Etc now
on Saturday why got diagnosed with shingles so she's quarantined from the
baby as in they don't have any contact at all she feels 100% fine other than
the spots on her back so Saturday Sunday
and Monday we had a public holiday so no work I spend a 100% with the baby while
wife did various housework we managed to find a nanny for my work hours for the
rest of the weekdays on a Wednesday wife comes into my office and room remote
work and tells me to finish up the dinner as she's going to get her nails
done so I spent an hour in the kitchen making dinner for us and the baby Nanny
stayed a bit longer while I made dinner then spend the rest of the day taking
care of the baby now I was pretty angry when she said she didn't have the time
to finish the dinner I mean I work 8 hours then spend the rest of the time
taking care of the baby and she didn't have the time to make dinner for the
baby really now she's angry at me for getting angry at her and I wonder
whether I was not fair I think op's being the jerk in the situation could
they have gotten the dinner done yeah probably so but considering the
circumstances considering how tired they have to be considering the shingles and
the constant being a mom if you got to make a dinner one day it might suck but
you don't need to blow up over it but with that being said that's all the time
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today we've got an incredibly annoying Mother's Day entitled parent story we'll
get into that in a bit but first entitled mom thinks adults only doesn't
apply to her kitted Resort pool removed by staff my husband and I are currently
vacationing at a five-star hotel there's two separate pools one for kids and
families and the serenity slash quiet one for adults 21 plus is enforced both
pools are very clearly marked as such by
large signs placed around the perimeters of each we've been here for a few days
and it's been literal Paradise we've not
run into many families or kids and those that we did see were exceptionally well
behaved and attended to by their parents until today we went to the adult pool
and got set up on two chairs the pool was in front of us and the hot tub was
behind us it was a tad chili so we ventured over to the hot tub where we
saw a kid about seven playing with a crap ton of Star Wars toys on the steps
call Mia Karen I don't care but this set me off we came to this Resort
specifically because of the two very separate pools within forced rules I
want to relax I don't feel like hearing screaming kids on vacation I went over
to the attendance stand and asked if the hot tub was for families and if so was
there an adult's only hot tub that we might be directed to I knew the answer I
just didn't want to come across as too aggressive I was told the hot tub was
indeed for adults only so I proceeded to
tell both pool attendants that there was
a child in the hot tub and I didn't know
if his parents were nearby you guys both
pool attendants were basically like heck no and walked very fast over to the hot
tub and told a woman who was apparently the mother entitled mother of the child
that it was adults only and they had to leave the kid was told to get out crying
and screaming ensued and he and the mom then just sat on the chairs but wait
there's more after about 5 to 10 minutes
they were still sitting on the chairs in the adult area and again the attendant
came over and informed them that the area was adults only and they're not
even allowed to sit there even if they're not actively using the hot tub
entitled mother was pissed angrily packed up their stuff and both were
ushered out of the adults area I suspect they were there because the kids pool
area was super busy and entitled mother didn't want to deal with other kids and
or couldn't score a chair we tipped the attendance generously on our way out and
are already planning our next vacation there I wish more businesses would
realize that not everyone wants to commingle with families and kids I mean
it's just nice to see that when you complain about this situation the
attendants actually followed up right up on it and yeah your experience wasn't
bad here I can definitely agree with OP I see why there would be a market for
places like this that don't allow kids as long as they did their jobs here it's
wonderful also hi I'm Stephen and if you can't get enough of hearing about these
entitled parents why not hit those like And subscribe buttons down below that
said our next story is what do you mean 50 Euro is not enough for a baptism with
160 people so this happened literally yesterday and I feel like punching my
head against the freaking wall I'm studying as a chef in a university but
I'm pretty good being as a pastry chef my mom works as a butcher in a market
and her co-workers have ordered me a couple of times orange pies cakes
chocolates Tarts Etc before a month one of her co-workers decided to do a
baptism about his newborn baby girl we'll call him Benz Al banzel decided to
order my pastry cream with fruits and biscuits we had a deal and he said he
would pay me 200 euro so this week he bought me the ingredients for the sweets
and the plastic cups to put them in and I started making them yesterday when
suddenly he asks me to lower down the price I told them I'm fine if the price
is around 160 but he he wanted the price to be 50 Euro we had a small argument
and then he pops me that he's found another pastry with a cheaper price like
okay go ahead no one's Stopping You bruh then his wife messaged me on messenger
saying how crappy I was and to go freak myself they were just trying to do the
classic jerk move of backing you into a corner when they feel like you have no
other choice but to go forward with the process and then undercut you and be
like well you gotta cut your losses and just accept what you can get right even
if you yourself went and bought the ingredients and you lost money on this I
definitely wouldn't follow through with it based on what they did here I mean
maybe it's the kind of thing you need to share around a little bit especially if
they threaten to try to smear your name our next story is I don't know what it
is about having a baby and giving my mother a grandchild that's brought out
the worst in her had a few gripes on the
sub since my mother's been acting up but she seems to be getting worse rather
than better all started off last August when me and my girlfriend discovered we
were having a baby mom was excited but as months went on she was just
constantly firing name ideas towards me any that I didn't like she'd argue and
question why then when we found a name we liked and she didn't it sparked
issues our son then came six weeks early in March my girlfriend and our son were
nearly on their Death Beds due to complications my mother felt so entitled
she felt it was appropriate to start causing arguments with me over telling
her she wasn't allowed to the hospital due to restrictions and she was fuming
my mother-in-law was there and she couldn't be she spent weeks trying to
cause an argument with my girlfriend kept accusing my girlfriend of snapping
at her when she hadn't been started accusing my mother-in-law of being a
thief over some baby clothes she'd bought our baby because it was from an
expensive shop had a massive argument with her a month or two ago where I told
her I wanted her to go to the doctors and get some help because I think she
she's either menopausal depressed or even starting with dementia she's been
behaving absolutely deluded she apologized to me and my girlfriend and
even bought her a bunch of flowers my mother never apologizes so I really
thought she meant it but over the last few weeks she started again when funny
with me a week ago because my girlfriend's been offered redundancy in
her job and she's accepted it she hates her job and has wanted this for years we
were in a good place financially at the minute but we think Mom is fuming
because she wants my girlfriend to go back to work after maternity leave so
she can have our son all the time as much as we want him to have a good
relationship with his grandma we don't want this all of the time she was then
fuming last weekend as my girlfriend was
carrying him in a carrier and didn't let my mom have a cuddle straight away and
then he was poorly a couple of nights ago and we managed to get him to an out
of hours doctor's appointment just after midnight we were exhausted and so took
him to the appointment he got given the all clear we came home got a wash and
went straight to bed mom came to visit yesterday evening where we told her she
then decided to go home message me and start an argument that we hadn't told
her sooner I wish she would just leave us to be parents stop taking everything
personally and taking things out on us we're exhausted without already feeling
like we're walking on eggshells with her
I think there's a lot of stories that go
around like this and as much as it hurts to do so because I honestly don't even
know if I'd be able to if I was an OP situation but you gotta put your foot
down and just tell her bluntly you know if you're gonna argue and complain you
just need to stay away and not make things more stressful for us than we
need it to be our next story is my threatened to call cops if I leave for
summer job I'm an 18 year old male who's graduating I live in Maryland and I got
this salesman opportunity in Texas they pay for travel level and housing and
I've been training with them since December I've spoken to my mother and
she says it's dumb that what if you don't make money I brush it off because
I trust in my abilities in training today I sat her down and told her I'm
going that it's official I already pay my own rent and phone bill overall for
my own stuff while attending High School I've been paying for my own stuff since
17. so what gives after she stormed off she called saying you're a miner not 21
you will not go and if you do I'm calling the cops I said she can't do
that she said yes I can I already spoken with police which I know my rights
that's also a lie I've had family members call me convincing how sketchy
it sounds and how I should be working with my sister at a food market I keep
explaining how business and finance is my passion that's also my pathway in
high school what do I do I don't want to miss out on this opportunity to be fair
I know a lot of salesmen opportunities that come come to people who are 18
years old tend to be some MLM pay us for the leads and then you'll go out and
sell the opportunities to those people and it'll surely work out kind of things
but the bottom line here is at 18 you're
old enough to make a completely your own decisions and she can't talk to the
police and do anything our next story is lady got mad for refusing to sell slime
to her daughter this is a very old story back when I was in third grade over 10
years ago our elementary school has an annual School Fair which the third
graders run as part of their financial unit in second semester part of the fair
was running a store for two school days each third grader is allowed to run
their store which is really a small Costco table with as little or as many
items the only thing is the items must be homemade so they cannot be
store-bought items that were flipping my mom helped me make over 200 small 2
ounce containers of slime to sell those two days I was so excited for those two
days now fast forward to the event and I
almost sold out by the end of the second
day barely had maybe 10 or 15 containers left now one of my customers was my
neighbor's second grade daughter she came to my table and wanted to buy a
pack of slime which I was selling for a dollar each but only had 50 cents left
from spending all their money elsewhere so I told her I can't give her it she
moved on and I didn't think much of it this missile comes around and all my
friends and I get on the bus super happy with all the money we've made since
she's my neighbor she was also on our bus route and conveniently sat across
from my seat throughout the ride she kept asking me for just one slime as a
favor I declined but offered to trade my slimes for something else she bought
today she bought some popsicle stick car
which I thought was very cool now here's where I may have gotten a little jerky
she handed me that little car and I decided to mess with her a little
nothing mean just friendly teasing I refuse to give my slime to her and took
the car and was laughing with my friends
it was never my intention to scam her as literally less than 30 seconds I gave
her the pack of slime all good right nope to be honest she was fine after
that and was laughing over it too but once we got off at our stop and she
mentioned how she got the Slime to her entitled awful Karen mom her mom went a
poop on me and my mom she accused us of being scammers sinful people and
Invaders we were Indian people in a mostly white neighborhood she went on to
say how we probably learned from the call centers what the freak the daughter
looked so embarrassed of her mom and kept telling her mom to stop but no her
mom had a tendency to flip out on everyone over minor things my mom didn't
speak English very well as she had lived
in rural India almost her whole life but
she could tell how angry my neighbor was
the whole incident frightened her so bad I a few hours later my neighbor's
husband came over and knocked on our door we were afraid to open the door but
my dad went to talk and turns out he came over to apologize for his crazy
wife looks like he was tired of her BS as well he came inside and we all had a
great time over dinner and snacks the husband was a really chilled dude now a
little extra part to the story the husband had been dealing with her BS for
way too long and a few years later when I was in Middle School he divorced her
turns out it was his house so she left took 80 000 from him but still left the
daughter left too which was a bummer because she was actually really kind
only her mom was the crazy one in today's time my neighbors happily
married to another lady who is awesome she's super chill as well anyways that's
one of my r slash entitled parents experiences I already always feel bad
for kids with entitled parents but you have to feel extra bad for the ones who
clearly understand that their parents are being overly entitled the ones who
stand off to the side and look embarrassed or step in and try to say
stop you just hope they continue to have that mindset as they grow up further
this next story is Mom just took my paycheck because she did my laundry once
I got home today from work to my mom snatching my paycheck off my hands she
said she deserves it because she did all the chores around the house which isn't
true I did a lot before going to work she also said it was because she did my
laundry this is the biggest check I've gotten in the longest time and all
because she did my laundry I've been doing my own and others laundry since I
was taught and I never said a thing my dad got home not long after and
thankfully he's on my side my mom hasn't given me my check back but my dad is
trying to talk to her what can I do this definitely depends a little bit on how
old you are I would definitely say open your own bank account if you can get
direct deposit that would be even better and in the future literally just do not
give her that money the stack story is entitled mother insults me for wearing a
swimsuit and makes a scene before I start this this all started last year
where I was just a teenager and still am it was a hot summer day I live in a
tourist town where many people come to visit it's a nice town to stay some
weekends several times friendly people come and other times pure demons dressed
as humans this was the case me and my grandpa who doesn't know how to speak
the official language of the country we are we're having a fun time everything
was normal the water was nice and the day was sunny I was wearing a black
bikini not inappropriate just a normal swimsuit I was enjoying myself I finally
felt good in my own skin well apparently my wardrobe Choice was eye-catching for
a visiting American Family a man of approximately 55 years old was looking
at me he wasn't the only one another dude was looking both in a dirty way I
felt disgusted so I I decided to call my
grandfather to go to another side of the beach but before I could speak a lady
with hair dyed a passion red came angrily at me with a kid she said do you
speak English I don't know of any of your kinds speak it I said yes do you
need help she said you need help this is a public space me trying the best to
pronounce without a strong accent I know what happened she said your swimsuit is
just provocative all of you Spanish people are just look at you you look
like a slur at that moment I was in shock did this lady forget about that
some people here are topless I was in Spanish though I understand and speak
the language but this was scary she just cat called me and I was about to cry I
said ma'am what I'm not wearing anything
strange or sexualized she said of course you are you're distracting my dear
husband and son UW put something on you're showing too much chest your butt
is exposed and insured more stuff wrong about my body I said I'm only 14. what's
wrong with your son and isn't your husband at least 50 that's disgusting
she said you aren't that young you're just a 16 to 19 girl who likes
destroying families apart God needs to punish you this lady stopped for a
second to talk with her kid she was telling him of how distracting I was and
that when he grows up to never bring home any girl like me absolutely
disgusting Behavior at this point the kid that was with her was crying and
screaming that I was a home wrecker how did a seven-year-old call me that did he
really know what was going on people were looking at the scene my grandpa was
asking me what was going on and who were
these people I didn't know what to say I was standing there about to scream
feeling horrible and like one of those words she called me the Predator husband
and pervert's son seemed embarrassed and now exposed by the crazy lady they came
to pick her up and take her to the side where they'd put their things I heard
their murmurs saying that I strayed from God's path and that I was just a teaser
after that I put a shirt on and stayed at the sand feeling gross I absolutely
hate that family of four still to this day I remember what happened it was just
a year ago and I still feel bad about it this was one of my experiences with a
Karen and I wish it never happened thanks for reading have a nice day and
remember Karen's are just people who feel entitled and never wrong about
anything if you know someone with those characteristics IOP diagnosed them with
Karen virus there isn't available a cure right now sure is a shame that there is
a grown woman blaming a young girl for just existing and wanting to have a
normal regular fun time for somehow causing their husband and Son's
perverted Behavior maybe there would be less situations like that unless people
perving around like that if there weren't people like the Karen who tried
to blame innocent people our next story is entitled Grandma wanted to reconnect
connect after verbally abusing me and my sons this happened years ago but I
figured I'd share it now that it's so far in the past backstory my 34 year old
female now 10 year old was born with multiple disabilities and spent the
majority of his first two years in and out of the hospital he's been in a
wheelchair since he was old enough to use one I had broken up with his Dad
before I found out I was pregnant but for ease of identification we'll just
say that my sister-in-law brought her two daughters and his mom to visit us at
the hospital when my son was six months she and her daughters took turns holding
my son and cooing over him like a good aunt and cousins it got to Grandma's
turn and she refused stating why would I want to hold a freaking disabled slur I
don't even believe he's my grandson since my son would never have a kid with
such a fat cow and her other kids are an r word too before I could say a word
sister-in-law jumped to our defense and shouted for security to escort Grandma
out and told her to find her own way home sister-in-law apologized profusely
and we spent another half hour just chatting before they left I had zero
contact with Grandma until my son was about four and a half that's where this
Story begins my ex wasn't the best father and honestly this was probably
the least traumatizing situation he put us through we've been no contact with
him since 2020 but that's a story for another day so he reached out when my
son was about four and a half and begged
to take him to see his mom because she'd had some medical issues and ended up in
a long-term care facility I refused to let him take him alone so he and I took
both my sons to see her we walked in her room and immediately she started in on
my weight and how being fat is the reason both of my kids are r word my
youngest son is in a wheelchair oldest son has Down syndrome neither of which
will ever change but somehow she was surprised that the oldest still had Down
syndrome film and that the youngest was still in a wheelchair she made some
comments about him being coddled and if you'd let him out of the chair I'm sure
he would walk but you're just babying him too much pretty sure his multiple
Specialists multiple surgeries and the nerve damage causing him to be a
paraplegic say otherwise but okay my ex stayed quiet through all that I walked
out the facility and let him know that we would never be back and she would
never see her grandson again about 18 months later sister-in-law reached out
and begged us to come to a family reunion they were hosting since Grandma
was being released from the facility I refused and explained why sister-in-law
understood and said she would get with us soon without grandma grandma found
out and cried to anyone who would listen
that I'm depriving her of a relationship with her sweet baby and how I'm such a
horrible mother to deny her the ability to see him she took it to Facebook
forgetting that most of her friends were either kids that X and I went to high
school with or parents of those kids who
all knew why we were no contact with her and low contact with her son it didn't
turn out well for her she tried one more time pre Panini and got shot down again
haven't heard a peep from her since 2019 or her son since 2020. people like that
honestly have no place in your life especially not around young kids growing
up who definitely do not need to hear any of that stuff this next story is I
give up me and my mother never had a good relationship she was 19 my father
was 21 and I was the result of a condom blowing I don't have most of my memories
as a child but the ones I have with her are some of my worst traumas when I was
seven I had a very tough project to do so I asked her to help she said tomorrow
she continued doing that until I had only one day to give the project so I
entered her bathroom and asked again she screamed at me and through her cross at
me I was on the floor my head was bleeding a little and I was crying the
first thing she did was curse and say son you made me sin instead of worrying
about me she was worried that the cross broke on the ground and I have multiple
histories like that but I'm just gonna leave that one even though she was like
that I was the one who most protected her from insults from my father my
grandma and my aunts I never let any of them bad mouth her for six years but
when my sister was born it became clear who was the favorite I would hold a
little anger for my sister but I don't blame her she suffered just like me and
her hands but never the same level as me
since she was the favorite every time we had even a little argument my mom would
scream at me and treat me like a monster and her like a little angel even though
I did tease her sometimes mostly she's the one who got aggressive and started
being rude and I could never forget something or else there'd be a fight one
day I forgot got one plate and knife in the sink I was screamed at and took a
beating the next morning I don't remember once in my life where she said
I love you or said sorry for how she treated and beated me but she still
believes she's a great mom because she makes her job as a mother even though
the babysitter was the cleaner and the one who provides food she doesn't have a
job and stays most of her time at home but she's the one who acts the most
tired and says she does a lot even though my father Works 18 hours a day
and still makes her food on the weekends and takes us out to little trips my
father's not perfect but he loves us and knows when he's wrong I also have a
three-year-old brother ever since he was born my sister got second place in the
list my parents spoil him every day that kid is turned into a brat who spits
bites attacks my animals and people and even though he doesn't know how to talk
he knows what he does is bad because he smiles and runs away when he's caught
I've been begging my parents to discipline him but they act as if I'm
mean to the child just because I don't do his every wish today was the last
straw for me even though I'm the only one who points out how toxic our family
is and tries to show my parents how her acting is making our family aggressive
it never changed but I still wanted a house where I could get out of my room
without fear I have a difficulty in paying attention to my studies so I left
my phone in my sister's room and decided to go to my father's Workshop since he
wasn't home my sister was already there and I asked her to let the keys in the
window she smiled at me and acted as if she couldn't hear so I screamed sis let
the keys in the window and my mom started another fight because I don't
treat my sister with respect I pointed out that her behavior wasn't great
either but I'm the son she doesn't love equally so she fought with me and said
for me to study in the kitchen I said to
her the kitchen's too loud and everybody walks through there but she didn't
listen so I just just ignored her and went in my room now my annoying brother
wanted the room to himself because my parents don't let me in my room so now
he thinks the room is his now my mom's screaming with my brother my Stress and
Anxiety were getting worse I was sending
an SOS to my father through the computer until she opened my door with her key
and now the usual weekend was happening I was on the wall screaming for her to
let me go while she was treating me and doing the usual of screaming to my face
and calling me names my anxiety and stress were worse than usual and when
I'm like that I can't stop talking and arguing with her even though it would be
better if I did she just threw me in my sister's room and I was crying and
couldn't stop scratching myself or talking to myself then it was time for
the baby to sleep I was again thrown from room to room and the fight got back
I was tired my heart was beating too fast I couldn't breathe properly so I
just begged her to leave but she's a piece of crap who likes being right so
she stayed because she knew I would get worse and it happened I snapped and
tried to push her out of my room without hurting her but she stayed so I put on
my clothes and tried to leave to my grandma's house but she didn't let me
now she was slapping and pushing me around my sister was begging her to stop
and the babysitter was trying to make me and her calm down but she continued and
continued I locked myself in the bathroom while she was now trying to
also make my sister anxious so she would
break down I don't know how a mother can treat her children like that after the
babysitter left and the baby slept she tried having a talk to us it was
disgusting she made herself like the victim and said we were the ones pushing
her mad and stressed but she's always like that and when I finally left the
bathroom I made my last attempt with her but she was a wall instead of focusing
on the problems of her she always deflected and started talking about us
or try to make her life sound awful then I made her shut up and asked one
question do you really think none of your actions were bad her answer made me
want to throw up none of my actions were ever bad all I'm trying is to be a
mother while my kids antagonize me and make me go mad after she said stop
pretending to be a victim son your behavior is disgusting the talk
continued for half an hour but after those words I just gave up about my
mother or this family I just can't anymore and I'm just wanting to tell
this to my father's family now if this took place in the U.S I would honestly
say Opie needs to get some kind of help I mean depending on how old op is
obviously the best option is to just get out of that situation if you can if you
have other trustworthy relatives who care about you reach out to them and
explain to them what's going on try to lean on whatever resources you can to
start getting some actual help here our next story is yes they thanks it's my
Mother's Day Too yesterday I was at a winery to celebrate Mother's Day with my
mom and my adult daughter my daughter had her Corgi with us and he's very cute
and sweet attracts a lot of attention so we're having our wine and picnic and a
boy about 10 comes over and sits with a dog to pet him his mom comes over what a
cute dog this is Leo he loves dogs can he sit here and pet him feel free to
send him back when it becomes too much doesn't actually wait for an answer then
she goes back across the winery and leaves him for the rest of the time we
were willing to sit there with her son never looks at us checks in we hang for
a while 45 minutes dog is happy kid is fine until he starts to tease the dog
with fake treats that's when we decide to leave and tell the kid thanks time to
go mom ignores us as we leave and walk right past her to exit I get it that she
wanted time on her own but the fact that she was fine having us passively
entertain her kid as we were also celebrating Mother's Day is just
obnoxious honestly I think op and the rest of them were way more kind than
they ever needed to be I feel like most people might be like you can pet him for
a little bit but definitely don't leave just take the kid with you when you're
ready this next story is entitled mom demands I buy her kids sandals I took my
auntie shopping out of town and I bought my daughter four Nike Sunray sandals
like I do every year I worked as an HCA and we lived comfortably I recently got
taken off work the last 12 weeks of my pregnancy but I still bring in an income
which alone is enough to pay my bills and rent my husband got a minimum wage
job so his is a little extra a month to our finances so I got my daughter her
sandals for the upcoming hot weather and she says I'm rubbing my money in her
face but the thing is I worked for my money she hasn't worked in many many
years and lives off income assistance and CTB she has three kids so most of
her stuff is second hand she said to me it's unfair you get what you want the
least you can do is buy my kids the same so they don't get jealous of your
daughters who doesn't even appreciate it she just seems like a total moocher I
feel like this is just learned behavior that somehow along the line has worked
out for her you know complaining that other people get something so therefore
she deserves something and people giving in because of guilt but with that being
said that's all the time we have for today now if you want to hear another
absolutely crazy entitled parent story check out that video on the left or if
you missed my latest video check out that video on the right that said I'll
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aita for deciding not to buy food for my
fiance's family anymore every other week my fiance 22f and I 23m go out to eat
with her family and last week we went to
a Korean barbecue restaurant owned by my uncle 59m where I paid for everyone's
meal I only asked them to cover the tip for the waitress which they agreed to do
so the total bill was over $240 and I paid usually when I cover the tab for my
friends or significant other they generously Tip since they're only
responsible for the gratuity not the cost of the meal itself however a few
days ago my cousins 21m revealed that they had only left a $1 tip and they
have tip only $1 before I was shocked and disappointed because a $1 tip is
insultingly low especially considering I had treated them to alcohol and dessert
so I discussed this issue with my fiance
but her family insists they never tip or only pays like $1 for tip at restaurant
/gen services this is happening in the USA as a result I informed my fiance our
by-weekly restaurant outings would have to change I also have informed to my
fiance about that I told her that I had only paid for their meals as a kind
gesture while my fiance was annoyed she ultimately understood yesterday they
asked if I would buy their food again next week to which I responded that
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AIT for refusing to share my inheritance
with my father's new children my father is an only child my grandmother and
grandfather were kind of disappointed with how he chose to live his life After
High School he wasted a bunch of his time and their money pursuing courses of
study he didn't have any real interest in they made sure he graduated debt-free
and then left him to his own devices when he married my mom they helped pay
for the wedding and gave them the down payment for their home my mom and dad
then spent the next 20 years goofing off when I was born I was pretty much given
to my grandparents to raise my maternal grandparents helped as much as they
could but they are back in Argentina so I was basically raised as my dad's
little brother not as his kid my grandparents came to my parent teacher
meeting they attended my sporting events they were my parents my biological
mother passed away when I was 12 I found out weeks later since my dad didn't
bother telling anyone when I was 25 my grandparents got taken within two months
of each other my grandfather went last and in his will he left my dad $50 he
left the ASPCA $50,000 I got the rest they had already paid for my education I
thanked them and was planning on paying them back once my career got going now I
have a huge old house and a rather nice Nest Egg I'm 35 and my fiance and I are
about to start our family my dad calls me out of the blue and says he is
remarried news to me and that his wife is expecting I congratulate him not
knowing what else to do he said that obviously my grandparents would want
their grandchildren to share equally in their estate he said I need to talk to
the lawyers and see about setting up a trust fund for this new kid and any
future kids I said that I was not splitting my inheritance and that it was
his job as a parent to provide for his children he tried saying that his
parents hadn't provided for him I asked him about his debt from s years of
University I asked about the money for his wedding I asked about his mortgage I
asked him if he could please provide me with information about how much he paid
towards my education how much he helped me when I bought my first home what he
gave me towards my wedding for the record he got us a sweet stand mixer he
said that he didn't have the kind of money his parents had I asked him how
much he earned at his job he said that he worked to live not live to work that
was something he always said to my grandfather it really hit home with me
he has spent his entire life on easy mode I told him that if he is a
competent father and his new kids finish high school I will help them get an
education he said he needs money now I asked why my unborn half sibling needed
money it turns out my dad hasn't been paying his taxes I offered to buy his
house and rent it back to him he said I was being an like his dad and
trying to control him with money my wife is with me but she thinks I was harsh
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AI for telling my sister to accept her daughter is white both me 33f and my
sister 27f are Caucasian Latinas however she's always been more tan than me a
fact she's always been very proud of for reference my skin tone is close to
Aubrey plaset while hers is closer to Gina Rodriguez when we were younger she
would constantly talk about how European I looked compared to her how my hair
looked more blonde than brown which no one ever agreed with and how certain
colors I like looked awful on me due to my skin tone I almost never said
anything because I was 6 years older and
had better things to do also while I did
have many insecurities I never doubted I was beautiful fast forward to now we
both have kids my husband is a little more tan than me and both our children 8
m and 3F have the same skin tone as their father my sister's ex and baby
daddy however was a very pale Swiss guy my niece 5f is a fair skinned girl with
dark blonde hair while my daughter is more tan and has dark brown hair
everyone agrees that both girls are beautiful but their skin tones have
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aita for divorcing my husband for leaving my dogs outside when I'm on work
trips I 34f am married to my husband 36m and have been for 3 years I have two
dogs that I have had since before I married him my dogs are like my children
and he knows this and I thought that was how he thought of them my job requires
me to go on a lot of trips throughout the month these trips can vary from 3
days to 3 weeks before I started this job I did talk to my husband as I
explained I would be away a lot and it would leave him to take care of the
house before you say it's not his job to take care of the dogs I did say he
wouldn't have to do much just feed them dinner as I would feed them breakfast
unless I'm away and that's it as I would walk them when I get home he agreed and
it all seemed fine now fast forward to a month ago I had a work trip coming up
and it was quite a long one it would be for 2 weeks and I had prepared my
husband for it telling him what needs to be done he told me not to worry and he
would be fine so I left it at that on the day I had to leave for my trip I
said goodbye and got in the taxi when I arrived I settled in and did the usual
however I got a text from my mom saying if something happened with my dogs I was
really confused and asked her what did she mean she said she went round to drop
of some things and saw my dogs tied up on the front porch I was shocked and
told her to send a picture I told her to
untie my dogs and take them with her and I would cancel my trip and come home
once I got home and opened the front door my husband was in the living room
on the phone with someone sounding alarmed I tried to act normal and walked
up to him he seemed surprised to see him
and then very worried I asked him what's
wrong and he said he lost my dogs I knew what had really happened but I played
along I said how and he sheepishly told me he had locked them outside for making
too much noise and someone must have taken them I was disappointed to say the
least I asked him why would he do that and he said they were annoying him and
it shouldn't be his responsibility I went upstairs packed a bag and left to
go stay at my mom's he asked me where I was going as I tried to leave the door I
said I was taking a break to think things over since I got to my mom's he
has been blowing up my phone calling me over dramatic even my Mill has been
calling me dramatic and selfish I haven't told him I have my dogs but it's
not just about that it's about the fact that I don't trust him anymore I have
decided to get a divorce after speaking to my mom and best friend my dogs are my
priority let me know aita | give me a good story on AITAfordivorcingmyhusbandforleavingmydogsoutsidewhenImonworktrips |
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what's the most denial you've ever seen someone in I work at a university in
records one thing that's important to remember is that one of our main
responsibilities is maintaining and issuing transcripts at least half of
everything we do is directly related to transcripts either in the form of
ensuring accuracy or tracking and updating information so when a student
finds out she cannot graduate because she didn't even bother to take like five
courses she needs and then badly photoshopped a set of transcripts and
emails those back to us to claim that our records were wrong because she had
transcripts showing that she had taken and pass the courses well needless to
say nobody fell for it not to say that she didn't do a decent job of Faking it
but she forgot to recalculate her GPA to reflect her new a really a don't you
know anything about cheating never give yourself a and it matched her prior GPA
this isn't the denial part yet though this girl truly believed she would
convince us she just kept insisting that we were mistaken so she had her parents
come talk to the big wigs and the whole time they met with the big wigs the
parents just kept saying well we think our daughter is right who would lie to
their family and have them fly all this way out here and waste all this money
why would anyone do that you guys have made a mistake hate to burst your bubble
guys but uh wish should I could tell you more we held graduation like normal and
she didn't participate at this stage if there has been any followup on it then
they've kept it kind of quiet to be fair they the administrators don't really
want to be too open about it all and it isn't something that I'd know about
through work normally so unless they keep doubling down in the denial chances
are I'll never hear anything else about it lastly I asked if nothing else had
transpired after that last meeting except the mother appeared to slow be
doubting things but that was after a three-hour meeting with my colleagues
boss and my boss's boss another we kept getting angry letters from a dad of a
student saying his daughter told him that we refused to issue tuition
receipts he needed for his income tax we
told him she dropped out partway through the first semester and we had not seen
her since he assured us she had completed almost all the course work and
had even done two placements he refused to believe what we told him and got
angrier and angrier by the way his daughter's email name was sweet little
princess 316 and so on finally the dean told him he refused to discuss the
situation with a dad over the phone but would meet with them anytime as long as
the dad showed up with the daughter dad then told us that the daughter refused
as we had been abusive to her and she was afraid for her safety sweet little
princess 316 that's funny if she uses that email in the future for work I'm
pretty sure HR would have a good laugh at that story two I hope this applies
but I volunteer as an EMT this one shift we got a call about a pungent smell
coming from an elderly coup's apartment dispatch assumed it was a gas leak and
the protocol for handling such cases states there has to be an em team on
scene Ergo us the EMTs we showed up at the address and follow the stench into a
small rundown apartment the do is cracked open so we walk in an alarmed
geriatric welcomes us he claims all is in order and politely shows us towards
the exit alas as we turn to leave I catch a whiff of the most violent petd
stench to have ever existed want to make an anosmic tear up it takes all my zen
not to go into a feat of projectile vomiting at this point we're all gagging
so it's clear that we've come to the right place the head paramedic quickly
tracks the center of the bedroom inside strewn yes strewn on the bed is a badly
deteriorated body of a woman very gruesome the man however seemed
nonchalant and completely oblivious to the presence of a corpse in his bed
furthermore he was convinced she was still alive it seemed pretty pissed at
us for claiming otherwise he went on to have a full conversation with her body
while we filled out paperwork a pathologist in the morg of a hospital we
frequently later told us the deceased lady's husband had S3 Alzheimer's
disease he was suffering from mosia refusing to believe he was ill and that
his wife was dead it was a sad day Story three okay so I have the perfect
one for this thread there's been this fellow who somehow ended up on my
Facebook friends list been on my list forever and has always posted a lot of
stuff about Fringe 14 type topics nothing that unusual though well just
recently has been in a posting spree about how the Earth is really flat and
everyone is being completely fooled into believing that it is round the first
post I saw I thought was a joke but as I went further I realized that in fact
this guy is more than dead serious he's fervently adamant about it he's opened a
whole album in which he posted random pictures and diagrams and such proving
the Earth's flatness each po-ting picture is a seemingly endless comment
thread mostly people telling him how completely crazy he's being others are
highly supportive as he obviously has found a group of other people who firmly
believe in a flat Earth I was entranced once I started reading I couldn't stop I
could wrap my mind around how someone could logically come to the belief in
2015 with an astounding amount of data proving otherwise that the Earth is in
fact flat I needed some data something anything to get even an inkling of how
this thought process and the whole thing was put together finally I decided to
ask a question I asked him in the most polite inquisitive manner what his
thoughts were in regards to the fact that when an Australia he's from the US
the Moon is seen upside down compared to the way we see it here in the US to my
surprise I got an immediate response he seemed very eager to answer inquiries he
linked me to this diagram and said this should give me perspective on mcquery he
said the moon only ever shows us one side this didn't answer my question so I
clarified with an example that particular night we had a beautiful
crescent moon with Venus just below shining brightly
had taken a photo of it because it was so nice my mother-in-law in Australia
had also taken a photo of it earlier so showing these two photos as an example I
asked him what his thoughts were on the fact that in her photo the Crescent is
facing the opposite direction and Venus is above the Moon instead of below he
never responded he believes that the southern hemisphere does not exist the
flights to the southern hemisphere cannot be tracked but if you attend to
track them they just disappear in the middle of the ocean and posts video
supposedly showing this happening someone who has lived in both the US and
Australia and has made the flight back and forth many times I found this
particularly funny one of his key articles of proof is the fact that the
Horizon does not appear curved it appears straight and that if the Earth
was round it would obviously be curved he believes all photos from space are
fake and that we don't actually have any
real pictures of the Earth from space at all I could just go on and on here it's
just amazing to me how someone could come to this belief he says that he
spent the last year of his life studying all the proof and has had this entire
world view changed that it took a lot for him to finally be able to see and
understand the truth and the rest of the world needs to wake up to the WTH facts
story four years ago I was acquainted with a young man let's call him Steve
Steve often lived a life of opposites it was prone to making amazingly graphic
jokes and suggestive comments half of the time and to angrily preaching the
tenants of Mormonism the other half of the time one might also have suspected
that they were dealing with a pair of oddly dissimilar Twins were it not for
the fact that these shifts in mood would occasionally occur over the span of a
few minutes there was one occasion for example when my friends and I were
walking through the downtown area of our
hometown and Steve appropo of absolutely nothing suddenly shouted that he was
going to have to stop being friends with
us if we didn't cut it out you're always
talking about substances and intercourse and crap he exclaimed you should know
better seeing as my friends and I had been discussing I believe the movie
Spider-Man wouldn't have any idea what he was talking about random outbursts
weren't Steve's only defining feature though he once loudly complained about a
debate that he'd had with a mutual friend saying Mike just doesn't get it
he argues wrong he uses facts and logic and stuff that sounds unbelievable you
might want to stop here following his firing from a local business which Steve
claimed had occurred because he'd make all the other employees his manager
included look bad Steve decided to get a job as a long haul trucker he allegedly
passed his interviews with flying colors and was all set to start pulling down a
supposedly generous salary as a gley informed anyone who would listen then He
got attacked by a car a parked car what actually happened as far as anyone can
tell is that Steve got upset about the presence of the automobile for some
reason or another or possibly at its owner in retaliation he attempted to
punch through one of the windows and promly broke his hand not only did he
insist that his injury had made him ineligible to become a trucker but he
also made the argument that he hadn't been at fault in the slightest to hear
Steve tell the story one would think that he had no choice but to punch the
car and that it was the window's fault for not breaking last I heard he still
maintains that perspective Steve and I are I just checked still connected via
social media a quick glance through his recent activity shows that he may have
learned from some of his previous mistakes and if he has then I
congratulate him I don't think I'll be reaching out to him though as our last
in-person encounter ended and again this is completely true when he decided that
I and a few other people were actively plotting to let his own car get stolen
this car I should mention had very little interior only one seat and had
been purchased for $200 it also didn't have any windows but that may have been
a safety feature for Steve don't know about you guys but it kind of feels like
everyone knows of Steve who's like that and I also knew you were going to hit
that like button and subscribe to the channel even if I don't ask right Story
five a parents and two friends for some background my parents are cruel
a-holes I've had almost no contact with them for years and my life is better for
it and I'm a much better person without their crap hanging over me last year
they fell in with a money forwarding scammer I haven't heard the entirety of
the story but it involves Promises of tens of millions of dollars from a small
outlay in their part of course they lost
their small outlay which was in the tens
of thousands apparently most of this I'm repeating the second hand from a cousin
who keeps an eye out for anything weird for them so I'm prepared they then
realized this person was scamming them and had been working tieless Leah trying
to outs scam the scammer and Achieve access to tens of millions without the
slightest thought that the tens of millions doesn't exist they then tried
to reestablished contact with me didn't mention anything about the money at the
time but added the usual bizarre restrictions on us meeting face to face
I would wear certain clothes my girlfriend would wear a correct
hairstyle and clothing Etc and behave a certain way all the usual stuff they
used to pull on me when growing up soon after that when I found out about their
money issues they tried a second time to reestablish contact along with demands
for cash and asking who owned the house I was living in so they could use that
is collateral for a small business issue I told him that screw off the most
recent news I have as of last month is they not only lost the family home in an
investment property I was unaware of but they're up to their eyeballs in debt
have borrowed metric tons from friends and other family all going towards the
scammer and attempts to get their money back their total debt is now well over
$400,000 if I were to sum up the source of their problems when I was growing up
it's that their Total Control Freaks and
if anything or anyone steps out of their decided control Arena they'll sacrifice
everything to get them back in their denial is completing that they still
think they have a hope for returning their money and on the second front and
that they believe I'll help them throw money at the problem right scaming the
scamers sounds like a good idea huh story six I used to teach English in
taipe city which is a pretty wild nightlife especially for aats I had an
apartment close to the club District that had often stayed with my girlfriend
for the night I had a buddy Joel who lived outside the city but loved coming
into town dep party one night I told him
that he could stay at my place and sleep in my room while I was away he was
really grateful for the hospitality so the next day I noticed that the garbage
can had about 3 in of water in it hm that's weird I thought so I called up
Joel to ask if he'd poured water into the garbage or what the hell happened
right away he got all nervous and apologetic telling me that he had a
sleepwalking problem and that he probably was disoriented in the middle
of the night couldn't find the bathroom and his sleep as he was in an unfamiliar
apartment and probably pissed in the garbage can it made sense it looked like
water because he'd been drinking all night I laughed it off told him it was
well contained and not to worry about it
he was extremely embarrassed and told me
to never tell a Jo I agreed but told him it was really no big deal and that was
that a couple of weeks later Joel stayed in my room again one Saturday night
while I was over at my girlfriend's place the next morning I head back home
take a shower open my sock drawer grab a
pair of socks and notice that everything is soaking wet right away I knew what
happened Joel had Sleepwalk pissed in the middle of the night again but this
time it was my sock drawer where I kept my passport all my travel documents my
work visa and all my other important paperwork it was all drenched in Joel's
piss so I called up Joel to tell him what happened he was so incredibly
embarrassed about the incident that he flat out denied had ever happened he
said there was no way he could have possibly sleepwalked that he had no idea
how my sock drawer could have been drenched in piss and that it was
appalled that I could possibly accuse him of such a thing it told him not to
worry about it but that unfortunately he couldn't sleep over anymore because it
was too much of a liability for years afterwards anytime we were alone and I
brought it up it would tell me that he had no idea what I was talking about but
I traveled with a crinkly passport until
it expired the all of the stamps smudged
and illegible story seven my best friend
Mary's a beautiful and every way woman I had it bad for her once she started
dating him that was it for me so they were cruising along in their marriage
and she gets even hotter after having children my friend starts hanging around
with a very good-looking guy who obviously is making a move on her she
mentions to me that he makes her uncomfortable and puts the cold freeze
on him she tells my friend how she feels but he laughs it off move forward a few
months and I notice that this guy's urging my friend to come hustling with
him I jump on my friend and tell him how stupid that would be as he has the best
and one night we're all at dinner together this guy starts talking vague
and distant ways about how the two of them successfully hustled some women I
grabbed my friend and point out what is going on this guy's hustling with you so
he can move in on your wife my friend laughs it off tells me I'm crazy and
keeps hanging with this guy the next time we're all together the guy has
become graphic my friend's wife is a wreck and my friend still cannot see or
hear what is happening right in front of him his marriage is over and he's
oblivious to the fact she cuts them both loose and a few years later Mary's a
really cool fireman her friend has never recovered from losing her and have been
my tongue for years story eight my mother is convinced that someone keeps
breaking into her house but never steals anything this has been going on for at
least 30 years I grew up thinking she was just Savvy doing things like pushing
the couch in front of the door while we sneak out a more obscure entry made
sense to me growing up now she has cameras all around and in her house with
a constant recorded feed to one of those black and white split screens a couple
years ago when I realized how irrational
it is she told me it happened again they came into the house again I just
vacuumed and when I came home there was Dusty footprints in the carpet well you
have the cameras now did you look and see who it is
her I tried but they backed up the film and recorded over the part with him on
it me the cameras were recording when you got home her yes me okay then you
caught them leaving the house her I told
you already they recorded over the parts
with them on film me that's possible for when they came in but if the cameras
were still going they would have caught them leaving they can't record over it
after they've left she looked at me as if I'm the idiot in a slow voice with
every word emphasized I told you you they rewinded the film and recorded over
it that's when I knew there's no reasoning with crazy never Reas in with
stupid people I swear you'll always lose they'll get you down to their level and
beat you with experience story nine there's this lesbian couple I know one
is thin and Butch the other is overweight and fem they have been dating
for about 2 years one day the fatter lesbian fell to the ground grabbing her
stomach in pain they rushed her to the emergency room thinking it was a bladder
infection she gave birth 3 hours later the butch lesbian didn't end the
relationship no she's the daddy to this miracle that came out of nowhere no one
asked who the dad was everyone was celebrating and congratulating them I
get maybe all the people on FB don't want to be that guy saying so who's the
dad but the butch girl just stayed with her happy as ever even though the fat
one clearly had fun with another dude during the relationship and before
anyone says oh they could have had a donor they didn't the couple travels
from house to house on the regular because neither of them can hold down a
job and I seriously out the woman slipped and landed in a fresh pile of
some baby juice no stupid your woman ain't as gay as you think she is she
cheated on you with a dude and got pregnant story 10 bear in mind I'm a
transgender so I may be a woman now but this was when I was a little boy when I
was 10 or so weirdly all the girls found me attractive I wanted to be with me
even though I was so feminine and everyone outside the school assumed I
was a girl with short hair I think they found me relatable and because I was
always hanging out with the girls and doing girl things they wanted to be in a
relationship with me this girl pulled me to one side with her friend and said
this might shock you a little bit but I have an honest question for you and she
wrote in her hand will you be my boyfriend being a kid and not attracted
to her at all I said yes surprise so we were in a relationship and then I broke
up with her after a while because I wasn't interested then really close by
in the classroom I heard her saying to all her friends he came up to me and
asked me if he could be my boyfriend and I was just like no way and I was so
freaking pissed off that she would blatantly lie like that I turned around
and said um no you pulled me to one and wrote on your hand that you wanted to be
my girlfriend you asked me and she just squirmed looked really embarrassed and
said no that didn't happen lying which I'm way prettier than her now anyway bro
that last part got me I hope you enjoyed the video and if you made it this far
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have you ever killed someone with kindness yes my son killed himself when
he was 20. he was handsome brilliant and
funny and I loved him beyond anything or anyone on Earth he and his stepfather
always referred to me as cookie mom anything that was wrong in his life I
would try to fix lonely get him friends I let his friends live at my house all
summer relationship set him up on dates with the daughters of Friends School
troubles find a way around a difficult class or negotiate with the college to
give him an extra semester to bring his grades up I gave him too much money and
too many things I smoothed his path I even went in and took out his bad
emotions because that's what I do for a living I gave him a car fixed his car
cut his hair and bought his clothes homeschooled him so that he wouldn't
experience Strife or struggle with his peer group his happiness was my sole
concern he was a hot house flower at the first real sign of trouble he crumbled
because I had never taught him independent so that people can be cruel
or indifferent in trying to be the best mom I was the worst mom it probably
would have worked if he'd had siblings but I had 14 miscarriages trying to give
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op's wife left the house last night and didn't come home until next morning op
is divorcing her this is horrible I'm furious right now but I'm also depressed
as hell I know what I have to do it's just unal living me that I have to do it
it's fresh and it hurts a lot my wife didn't come home last night she went out
with a couple of girlfriends which is pretty normal for her she's normally
back around 2: a.m. on these nights so I waited up around 2:30 I called to check
in she answered and I could hear people in the background she told me they went
to a party but we leaving in a couple of minutes she wasn't home by 3: so I
texted it delivered but there was no reply around 4:00 a.m. I called again it
rang a couple of times before she sent me to voicemail my wife finally came
stumbling through the door at 6:47 a.m. this morning I know the exact time
because I was worried she was wearing a dress she didn't leave the house in with
mesh leggings I've never seen either the leggings had clearly been torn and her
makeup was smudged my heart sank when I saw her my immediate worry was that she
had been assaulted she only shook her head when I asked her that I asked her
what she had been doing then she only said that I knew what she had been doing
and that kind of confirmed what the voice in the back of my head had been
screaming since she walked in my wife cheated on me last night I asked her who
it was and she Shrugged almost casually and said it was somebody they met at the
club she went back to his house and hooked up with him then yubert home she
then said didn't want to fight and just wanted to sleep so that's what she did
she's still asleep now and didn't even take a shower before passing out suffice
it to say that our relationship is over we don't have any kids and we rent so it
shouldn't be an extremely complicated process I keep trying to reason myself
out of it pretending there might be something to salvage here I've always
maintained that cheating would be a red line for me I think I need to stick to
that now small update a true update is coming later but for now all right
things have happened happened I am no longer at home I left I wasn't able to
get the day off work today though so I'm
writing this on my lunch now it's been a struggle keeping myself together today
honestly I've had to sneak off to the bathroom twice to cry this hd's rough
dude I'll post something more detailed later on because holy sht there's a lot
I'm exhausted I've only slept about 4 hours total since this all happened does
anyone know if I should post the actual update in a new thread or just update
the one I already made it's going to be a lot of text probably longer than the
first one by a bit also to the woman who felt compelled to send me a topless
picture thanks but no thanks my heart just isn't into that sort of thing right
now second update me again folks I'm sorry I didn't get around to this sooner
I wasn't able to get the day off work yesterday because my boss kind of stinks
I was a complete mess at work yesterday though so I was allowed to take the rest
of the week as vacation thankfully I think I went through all of the stages
of grief while my soon to be X was sleeping I wasn't expecting my post to
get any attention at all I just figured I needed to try to talk to someone about
it because I was not in a good head space I made the post in the morning and
by noon she was still conked out in the bedroom I had processed things a bit
more and I had a rough plan in my head that I was starting to set in motion I
made a short list of questions I wanted answers to and gathered up all my
important documents laptop Etc then I went into the bedroom and started
packing myself a suitcase I know a lot of people wanted me to kick her out I
did consider it but honestly I'm not overly attached to this place we just
rent and I'm in a lucky enough situation to be able to say that paying half the
rent for a few months isn't going to financially end me it'll sting a little
bit I won't lie but I'll make it and I feel like being around this place is
only going to remind me of her anyway I need to be looking forward not back she
ended up waking up about halfway through packing my suitcase there was momentary
confusion as she looked around the room and then she just started balling
maybe this is awful of me but I didn't bother comforting her I told her I had
the screenshots of her Uber and text messages from her phone and that plus
her confirmation was enough that things between us were completely done she
didn't answer me and just cried louder I debated trying to continue the
conversation but I decided to just pack the rest of my suitcase and head back
out to the living room until she came out when she finally left the bedroom
she sat next to me on the couch and asked me if we could talk things through
I told her as calmly as possible that wasn't how things were going to work I
was going to ask questions and I wanted honest answers she told me she'd be
honest so I proceeded my voice was shaking the entire time it was taking me
everything to hold it together but I kept going was this the first time she
had cheated she started crying before she answered that then told me no she
had cheated on me multiple times over the course of our relationship it was
and I'm going to use her words exactly here just SX a way for me to let off
steam none of it ever meant anything I wrote a comment shortly after making my
post that all the love couldn't just fade away in one swoop well it can it
hit me right then that I wasn't dealing with my wife the person I was married to
literally wasn't in the room this was someone different she refused to tell me
exactly how many times she had cheated just more than last night had she used
protection there was no hesitation from her before she nodded her head
emphatically she seemed surprised I'd even ask that I'm still going to get
tested just to be safe I did some research into timing and I'm going to
look after it were her friends also cheating on their spouses yes and no I
tried to get her to tell me which of her friends were cheating so I could get in
contact with their spouses she probably should have because her refusal led to
me messaging pretty much the Romantic partner of every one of her girlfriends
I could find on social media there are a
couple I don't know or couldn't find but
I did my part why did she do it this was the answer that gutted me the most I'm
going to use her exact words again I need to have es variety I told her that
it's not like our es lives are dull she clarified it's not the same as something
new I didn't even have a response to that one I had expected something about
me working too much or not supporting her emotionally nope she just effed
other guys because she felt like it and wanted to have some fun when I didn't
respond she started asking me about counseling and therapy I reiterated that
our relationship was over I'd be leaving what she did next disgusted me my ex
actually tried to have SX with me she put her hands on me and started trying
to take off my clothes I felt like I wanted to vomit and I pushed her away
after a couple of seconds she just kept telling me that she would figure out a
way to fix it and that we would work through it together I told her that
there was no way and she started balling again she went to the bathroom and
locked herself inside I was just sick of everything at that point I called her
mother and told her what was going on the full story too the cheating the
questions I had asked and the fact I was leaving I've always had a good
relationship with my ex's parents they both decided to drive to town which is
about an hour for them once I knew someone was on the way I just grabbed my
things and left her Waterworks in the bathroom were just annoying me because
they felt Hollow to me especially given the answers to my questions I ended up
packing another bag before I left and I took all the things that I could think
of that I felt a Sentimental attachment to with me I found a parking lot and sat
in my car until I was able to get in contact with a buddy for a place to
crash I tried to take a nap but I was running on way too much adrenaline I
knew when her parents had made it to the
apartment because she started calling me when I didn't answer those she started
texting me she had gone from sad and crying to Furious apparently I'm a
effing piece of shd for telling her mom everything whoops I'm not sorry I've
received roughly 100 texts from her since leaving they range from name
calling all the way to begging me to come back and sending me pictures of the
food she ate for some reason I hav't responded to any of them I feel like I
said my piece before leaving so that's where I'm at now we didn't have joint
finances so that part was easy I canel all the subscriptions that go to my
credit card just to be sure and I changed all my important passwords I'm
crashing on a friend's couch for the next bit but I've got some feelers out
to some short-term rental places until I can find something more permanent I've
got feelers out for a divorce attorney too A co-worker of mine had a
recommendation so barring something better I'll probably go with them I also
wanted to say that I was shocked at how supportive everyone was and I thank you
for that truly from the bottom of my heart it isn't easy for me to talk about
emotional things with people close to me
this was an invaluable venting place for me thank you all so much tldr this
wasn't the first time she had cheated on me I packed up my things and left and I
think I'm on track to being in a better place we are working on initiating
divorce proceedings now final update hey
folks I'm happy I guess to say that this will be the final update to what has
been probably the most difficult chapter of my life I felt an immense amount of
support from the community here since my initial two posts so I wanted to give a
short update bottom line my ex and I both signed the final papers for our
divorce this week it feels kind of surreal to think about that still about
two weeks into everything she got resistant I cut her off entirely and she
refused to return my attorney's calls for a little while eventually things got
back on track as for the infidelity itself I don't have a ton more details
to share with you we did a short mediation and by that time I didn't feel
there was any remorse on her end I've talked about that a lot with my
therapist I'm in therapy by the way it still hurts that someone who I thought
loved me could have apparently cared about me so little but I'm working
through it that's really all I've got to share thanks again everybody for your
advice and support thank you for watching the video if you are interested
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what type of person angers you the most I had a friend who met and got a rich
boyfriend ironically at an event I invited her to suddenly she started
making podcasts about leveling up in High Society she made it her whole
identity she charges people 50000 for the privilege of her level up
guidance this friend who I took to the hospital invited to private networking
events lent money to literally was a shoulder to cry on for her decided I
wasn't leveled up enough decided to leave me a 30 minutes voice message
about how I need better shoes and to start wearing designer Brands and to cut
other friends out of my life if I wanted to remain her friend mentioned me as an
example of a low-level person in her podcast so we are not friends anymore
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AIT for telling a stranger maybe you could have the decency to mind your damn
business I am a 23 years/ woman the other two women involved were and I'm
estimating I don't know them we're a mother around 45 and her mid late
teenage daughter so I just left the pharmacy where this took place and I'm
writing this in the car before I head out but I was waiting in line to pick up
my prescription line was pretty long it went all the way down and all a few feet
from the counter I'm chilling in line it's inching along and about 10 minutes
into waiting this woman and her daughter come out of a different aisle and start
browsing the one that the line is in they're talking about what they want to
get and suddenly the daughter goes does something smell like a grease trap to
you I laugh and turn around and say yeah
that tends to happen after 11 hours in a kitchen in a casual joking tone the
mother makes a face and says well you smell awful you could at least have the
decency to go home and shower first I didn't expect a stranger to get nasty
with me and after a long day I didn't have the grace for it especially with
over an hour of driving ahead of me I also didn't feel like explaining to the
woman that I had about 1 Point 5 hours of driving ahead that I wasn't going
home first and to take this little detour would have meant 50 minutes of
driving 30 from work to home 20 from home to Pharmacy instead of 15 from work
to Pharmacy so I snapped back well maybe you could have the decency to mind your
own damn business she chastised me for being rude and stormed away with her
daughter saying she was going to tell the store I'm mistreating her nothing
happened 10 more minutes later and I had my meds and now I'm here wondering if
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my wife is temporarily giving up being a
mom after a mental health crisis I will try to make this short but my wife had a
psychiatric emergency late last week where the police and Medics needed to be
called to get her to the ER to make a long story short we believe she had a
psychotic episode she has a history of depression and anxiety and despite being
stable for a few months she went into a depressive episode and a week later this
psychotic episode at the hospital she was placed on aych hold for nearly 72
hours saying she did not need to be there she was admitted to a unit
involuntarily for about 48 hours but when I spoke to her yesterday she seemed
to have come out of the psychosis and stated she needed voluntary treatment I
informed her care team about her changing her mind about treatment as
well as encouraging her to tell them and they told me are going to discuss this
morning during this talk with my wife she informed me she can't be a mom right
now and needs to give up being a mom to focus on herself we have four kids ages
16 to 4 and they were all home during this crisis I was at work so they are
all a little traumatized from it but are patiently waiting for her to come home
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first story My Brother hates gays and wants to be straight again after my
homophobic parents kicked him out for being gay what can I do I'm 25 and
straight my brother is 18 there are two of us in the family we grew up in a very
Christian household I left as soon as I could my brother and I were never really
close because we were very different about 3 weeks ago my brother rocked up
at my door it was a bit strange because we barely see each other we had a few
drinks and he started crying he said he was gay and our parents kicked him out
and he has nowhere to go he's been staying on my couch since I went home
and collected his stuff the language they used about him was utterly
disgusting while I was packing I am worried for him he doesn't leave the
house I think he cut himself I'm not 100% sure but he has a history of it and
he's gone from being gay to not wanting to be gay he's also saying he might go
home to our parents and sort out being gay whatever that means I'm not at all
equipped to deal with this I've offered counseling to him but he doesn't want to
speak to strangers I flipped out at my parents to sort themselves out although
that's pointless my girlfriend has a friend who is gay and I got her to
invite him over that did not work I just
see it going one tragic way I don't know what to do sorry this is all over the
place edit thanks for all the replies I just booked a cabin for me and my
brother tomorrow nice peaceful spot I go there a bit to clear my head I don't
think I can do much about the gay thing but I can at least bond with him over
fishing and stuff he will probably hate fishing but we can do his thing next
time no GF no kid me and him and some piece to Hash things out haha I was just
noticing some of your usernames gave me a chuckle I'll be offline for a day or
two fishing no connection but thanks to all who replied relevant comments
commenter this is never an easy time but he's lucky to have you supporting him
are there any LGBT clinics in your area they'll often have resources for both
you and him they can also offer Professional Resources including grant
funding in case he wants to pursue schooling op thanks man I did try one
they offered free counseling for him but
he won't go near it he got I rate when I mentioned counseling they offered some
helpful tips to me although I'm not sure they were any good no offense to the
organization I'm kind of scared for him I work from home as does my girlfriend
but it's gotten to the stage where I feel one of us has to supervise him I
don't know commenter he's depressed as F and broken you are right that this is
above your pay grade HT like this needs serious therapy and all but as a brother
the best you can do is help keep a roof over him and get him back on his feet
and no he shouldn't go back to them the damage is done and trying to UNG
yourself ain't possible believe me I know too well op P thanks for your
response and sorry for your experience he can absolutely stay as long as he
wants my view of my parents is awful anyway but I hope he doesn't go back
there I'm just scared he might do something bad commenter he won't go back
there if you explain that he's welcome to stay with you everything will be okay
there's nothing wrong with being gay Etc
truly the more you guys unpack childhood stuff including your parents apparent
homophobia the easier it'll be for him if he won't go to the LGBT Center maybe
he will watch helpful affirming YouTube videos or even some gay movies trick 19
99 is a great watch for example that isn't graphic or offensive op yep he can
stay as long as he wants and my girlfriend has been a rock I've spoken
to him about being gay granted my gay knowledge is zero we never really went
to Childhood stuff but when he did he's extremely defensive over our parents
some of the stuff he said about my girlfriend's friend after he left was
pure nasty too I don't know if I could see him going back I'll try trick I
never really thought of movies Etc commenter
do you think he's just brainwashed like has Stockholm syndrome affected your
parents has he been taught to hate himself that deeply he shouldn't be
talking negatively about your girlfriend's friends no matter the
circumstances he doesn't sound like he's emotionally very peaceful right now
sending good vibes your way and really hoping some outside perspectives AKA
movies therapy Etc help get through to your brother op well he always got along
really well with our mother I was running out the door because I hated
both of them but but I think he genuinely loves them I think dealing
with their rejection is really hard for him whereas it means nothing to me I
think he's trying to UNG himself to get back into that relationship I never
really realized until recently that I didn't just drop my parents but also him
so our bond really means nothing to him but yeah probably a bit brainwashed too
commenter dude thank you for doing that for your brother you're a good brother
even if your little brother hasn't expressed it I'm sure he's forever
grateful thank you you for being a good human your parents could take a lesson
opbh I'm a tad guilty for effing off and not really staying in his life so
probably not a good bro I just thought of myself and probably treated this as
Redemption deep down commenter exactly that he feels ashamed for who he is and
as a result still has a dislike for people like him which he hasn't managed
to reconcile you sound like a good guy your brother will thank you for it
eventually might it help if you pointed him here to Reddit oh P my girlfriend's
gay friend said there were gay groups on here that he could ask questions to Etc
when I brought it up he was not enthusiastic I won't say his reply for
fear it offends you guys that probably leans into the internalized homophobia I
decided to invade your space myself to ask a question or two sorry op's
relationship with parents TBH I think he's already dead to them unless he's
going to go back and say he's not actually gay I had a kid who was young
and out of wedlock with my girlfriend we haven't spoken or seen each other since
except for when I was packing up my brother's stuff they haven't seen their
grandchild at all insane stuff one more piece thanks for such a detailed
response we don't know our father's side at all and my mother's sister is as
insufferable and cruel as my parents are I don't know my brother well
unfortunately so I don't know if he has friends but all I know is that all he
told was me and our parents and I got permission from him to tell my
girlfriend yep I suppose trying to listen more and try to fix less is
important thanks man again update 2 days from the OG post first off thanks to
everyone for all the replies I'll try to get to all of them if I don't my
apologies there was some brilliant advice skip to the last paragraph the
rest of this is sht 3-hour car journey and it was a little awkward at the
beginning but eventually I explained why I left home I admitted I was wrong not
to make an attempt to keep in touch with
him I reiterated that I was glad he came to me and I like having my brother back
he asked what about Emily my girlfriend I said something stupid bro stay in your
lane I get the girls and you get the boys he actually kind of laughed at it I
decided for the rest of the trip not to walk on eggshells the girlf friend
wasn't there to keep me in line anyway joke Etc we headed out on the water in a
rowboat don't ask we decided to freak him out by rowing against him and we
started going around in circles the Bullocks hit me but he was laughing when
we got out on the lake he did ask what my parents had said about my kid and I
told him after our meal we went for a stroll he said I didn't want to be gay I
don't see any life in it people will look at me weirdly Etc I said I didn't
want to be a teen dad I didn't see a life in it and now I couldn't imagine my
life any other way and he's not good-look enough for people to stare he
called me a [ __ ] and said you know what
I mean I said f me f our parents F religion there are plenty of religions
that are not anti gay advice I got from you guys F everyone you can wallow in
self-hatred I stopped to congratulate myself on such a word and I got probably
my fifth hit of the day or you can try to accept it he asked what I would do if
I were him I said I'd be completely jealous of my older brothers good looks
sixth hit L I said if I were him I'd try
to realize our parents are not the place to be right now I would try to accept
who I am and realize it won't change I'd
get a job even if it's a couple of hours and I would try meeting my devilish
good-looking brother halfway because he's completely out of his depth and is
only trying to help seventh hit I got him smiling though he then asked if I
had any regrets about my relationship with my parents I said no I said that
when you have a kid in 15 years with your guy you'll understand how odd they
are being my daughter could tell me anything apart from that she's a
Liverpool fan and I'd still love her we got back I threw on a movie with the
hottest male actor I could think of Andrew Garfield and Spider-Man 2 anyway
he hopped on the bed and he brought over a chair I was like what the f are you
doing with the chair hop on the bed you dope he was reluctant he found it very
awkward but as the movie went on he got better during the movie I said you asked
me what I would do if I were you I would definitely do someone who looks like
Andrew Garfield if I were you he called
me a [ __ ] and hit me again smiling next
morning I packed up our stuff and changed my arm heading home by asking
him to have one pint at a gay bar I told him we could pick up a booth in the
corner you can pretend you are straight no one will know you he really didn't
want to but I reminded him I'm the better looking brother I'm not BTW so
I'm screwed another hit he agreed to go in it was very early so it was quiet he
got a seat I got the drinks I got hit on
funny interaction we had a quick zero Al pint and left in hindsight it was
probably too soon to go to a bar but he was fine we were left alone he told my
girl friend we went into a gay bar she roared with laughter saying that I was
at a gay bar I told her I turned down a guy who was up for anything at in
the day there better be good SX tonight or I know where I'm going tomorrow and
she hit me and said he'd be doing her a favor I asked why the f is everyone
hitting me and my brother said because
you're a [ __ ] the one thing I learned is
that I'm his brother and not his parent I'm not there to fix things I'm there to
be a bit of a DC Cad and not take myself too seriously around around him even if
it's just 2 days at least he's chatting and not totally down in the dumps even
the girl noticed it relevant comments commenter congratulations be his big
brother he probably will need some healing to get over all the religious
stuff hey there's no hate like Christian love op true about Christian love he
will need therapy at some point or at the very least someone gay he can speak
to I have limits I can provide a witty comment but that's about it com her
you're being a good brother it kind of reminds me of my uncle whom I confided
in when I was questioning my arity and was ashamed eventually he will grow he
will get to know people and he'll look back and wonder what all that worrying
was about also I must say you do have good taste in men Andrew Garfield is hot
op it's eye openening to me how many of you have stories of Shame Etc obviously
this is not a shock to you guys it was good that you had an uncle you could
confide in I'm glad I got clarification on Andrew because my brother didn't give
me his opinion on him commenter I was going to comment on the last post about
how proud I was of you and now I really have to because you just made me even
better in my books there are more horror stories of being denied by Family on
here than posts like this so it really does mean a lot to see that you came
here for genuine advice and used all of it very well I wish you and your brother
nothing but the best he's very lucky to have a kind brother like yourself op
thanks man the advice was good good but to be honest the sheer volume of people
who shared stories of their family rejection helped I felt he was in a hole
he would just go deeper and deeper until
you guys commenter great he'll have more bad days ahead but at least yall have
established the beginning of a
relationship be the [ __ ] he needs that
but all of those hits were him loving you continue what you're doing and keep
us in the loop to help where we can op thanks man oh he definitely will have
more bad days I'm expecting him to be bad tomorrow but at least he has two is
okay days for now and knows it's possible where is op from and how does
he use [ __ ] well haha yep English by
birth but living in Wales is Wales known in America enjoy the word we use it all
the time we also use the CW but that has
a worse meaning in the USA from what I'm aware Second Story cheating husband got
cheated on by his new wife and had to raise another's baby now having a
meltdown after finding out his ex married his best friend his new wife
knew all this and played him karma is a real bee I 37m have been with my wife
26f for 5 years and have been married for 4 years we have three kids from her
previous relationships two boys and one girl between the ages of five and eight
I really love her and her kids things were perfect until 3 or 4 months ago
I've had three big promotions in 5 years we bought a house last year she stays
home with the kids and is trying to make a social media career happen
I have always been on the fence about having kids but she really wanted us to
have one together so I agreed to try to have my visectomy reversed she's 7
months pregnant now we were so effing happy my ex-wife 38f divorced me in 2019
and moved about 2 hours away a few months into the pandemic our divorce was
amicable but once it was finalized I never heard from her again even when I
would wish her well on birthdays and holidays I even sent her a graduation
gift when I heard that she had finished her PhD program other people in our
Social Circle including my parents and sister-in-law who sent her a gift
received handwritten thank you cards I didn't get so much as a text my ex-wife
is a really kind and thoughtful person and the woman I knew would have at least
sent a thank you text if her worst enemy sent her a gift even though we broke up
I didn't think she hated me my best friend 35m and I have been best friends
since College he's the best person I know and at least 10 people think he's
their best friend but he said that I was always his we kind of lost touch during
the pandemic we live 2 hours apart and he is a lawyer and teaches classes at a
university so he is really busy I have a really busy career a new wife and three
kids I didn't really realize that the texts between us were fewer and that the
last time he finally replied to me was in late 2021 he also falls off the face
of the earth when he gets with a new girl and then when things cool off we
all hear from him more we have always been the kind of friends that could go
an extended period of time without community communicating and then pick up
right where we left off I kept saying that I would eventually call him when
things were less busy my wife and I went
to visit the city he and my ex-wife live in last summer for a week and I tried
calling him a couple of times to meet up but he never answered I was sad but I
just figured he was busy with work or obsessed with a new girlfriend I have
other friends there so I got to see them then I went to the city Again by myself
in October for a Halloween party I figured he'd be at this party and I was
psyched that I get to see him then he was there when I went to say hi and hug
him he looked a little surprised and gave me a weak hug I told him that I was
there during the summer and that I tried
calling him so we could hang out he just said yeah I was on my honeymoon that
week sorry I didn't get back to you I was really shocked to hear that he'd
gotten married and a little hurt that my best friend got married without me even
knowing he had a serious girlfriend but I'm still happy for him like I said he
was a great guy and girls love him I spit out a rush of questions like who
she is where she is what's her name what's she like where' you meet her and
how long have you been together he paused for a moment and then just
bluntly said it's ex-wife's name my ex-wife doesn't have a unique name or
anything but it isn't the most common name either and instantly I knew that it
was her I can't describe how it felt to hear those two words come out of his
mouth I felt sick to my stomach and I immediately wanted to die I have never
felt like that before I just said what the f he told me that I didn't get mad
because I broke her heart that they didn't start dating until 2 years after
we got divorced and that I chose to be with some waitress anyway I drank the
rest of the weekend because it was the only way I was able to sleep I feel
betrayed by both of them my best friend since I was 20 years old married my
ex-wife behind my effing back I was married to her for 6 years and they were
never even friends but now they are in love with each other I also found out
that he talked sht about my current wife and me behind my back and never liked
her I went back home and I know that I was distant with my wife and the kids
because I was just hurting so much after
a couple of weeks we had a big fight and she called me out for being distant and
accused me of cheating I finally came clean and told her about my ex and my
best friend which she scoffed about and said she'd known about them for a long
time now because of social media I flew into a rage and we fought for hours she
betrayed me by not telling me the entire time she knew she didn't say anything
when I mentioned my best friend not returning my calls or messages I didn't
get to sleep before going to work and after work I just stayed with my parents
for a few days when I finally went back home we got into another fight where she
accused me of still being in love with my ex and said that I wouldn't care if I
wasn't I called her stupid and said that she wouldn't understand because she
doesn't have any friends I wouldn't care
if my ex-wife got married to anyone else if it wasn't my best friend I don't see
what is so hard to understand about that
we made up eventually but I feel sick to my stomach every day and things aren't
the same in our relationship I love my wife but I've come to realize it's not
the same way I loved my ex-wife my wife doesn't love me the same way my ex-wife
did either I have started to regret the things that led to our divorce because
we were really happy until the moment she left me I don't even have my best
friend to call because he's too busy effing my ex-wife to care about me
anymore Everything feels empty and like a lie now a lot of friends agree that
they both betrayed me but think I need to move on even my dad and brother told
me to get over it my sister-in-law yelled at me and my mom tries to comfort
me but I know she's overhearing about my problems I have to pretend I'm okay but
I'm not no one gives an sht about mental
health when it comes to men I brought up couples therapy with my wife but she
said that she thinks we are okay since we worked through things I guess I have
to pretend for the rest of my life now because divorce is not on the table I
need advice on what to do and how to get closure I am thinking of driving to
their City to just show up and force them to talk to me so I can move on is
that too much to ask how do I get my wife to see that it is hard to trust her
after knowing she kept a big secret from
me for a long time tldr the three people I love the most outside of my blood
family ripped my heart out my wife knew about my best friend being in a
relationship with my ex-wife but didn't tell me my best friend ghosted me around
the time he started dating my ex-wife my
ex-wife is still friendly with my family and mutual friends but not with me
update the overwhelming consensus here is that I am a piece of sht which is
true the other consensus is that I need therapy I asked my brother to help me
but neither of us even knew where to begin to find a therapist he said he
would ask his wife to help us and she texted me this morning and said she was
only helping because of my brother I guess that's fair comments Republic of
Gary I called her stupid and said that she wouldn't understand because she
doesn't have any friends well done Professor video slacker apparently
neither does he if your best friend doesn't speak to you for 3 years they
may be your best friend but you were not theirs inside sector
4377 what led to your divorce did you cheat where are the problems that can't
be solved and how much longer after the divorce did you start dating your
current wife and marry her basically tell us what led to the divorce and
marriage of your new current wife op my ex-wife found out about me sleeping with
my current wife I broke up with my current wife for my ex-wife so we could
work things out she decided she wanted a divorce a couple of months later even
though I begged her to try with me out of respect I tried to make sure the
divorce was as easy as possible I got back together with my current wife while
we were separated no reflection 54001 so
if any of this is true you at 32 cheated on your wife with a 21-year-old with
three kids your divorce was not amicable she just wanted you out of her life as
quickly and pain painlessly as possible the fact that she never replied to you
even once after the divorce was finalized wasn't a hint op I do really
wish that I found out that day and felt happy for them or at least felt nothing
I buried a lot of feelings when I married my current wife and they all
came flooding out I miss my best friend I miss my ex-wife I am so sorry I hurt
her I love her and I've never stopped loving her and that scares me because I
don't want to hurt my wife I know I messed up devil got me ey Your Story
made my day it is nice to know that karma is doing its thing update two
months later this is kind of an update to my last post a few months ago and I
am also hoping for advice on how to best navigate this I have tried a couple of
times to write this update but I get stressed trying to make it all make
sense so I will just dump it all here and hope it comes out okay I guess I
should start by saying that I had or have a lot more issues than my original
post addressed or than I even recognized
at the time therapy is help me uncover a lot of it and it's really uncomfortable
on the good days and crushing on the bad days so many people talk about how they
feel so much better after going to therapy but I feel worse I'm still going
to go though because as much as it stinks it is helping me learn better
ways of dealing with things it is also helping me explain myself to myself a
little better I am a shy person but I wasn't always shy and I am starting to
see where it all went wrong I feel like understanding that is the only way I can
address those things and then become a better person I did impatient therapy
and then after my release I see a therapist in her office once a week and
meet virtually once a week I also see a psychiatrist once every two weeks and I
have started taking some medications it's weird how I can kind of see them
helping parts of my brain but dulling other parts and making my body not feel
the best I try to explain it to the doctor but he just tells me it is going
to take some time for them to fully work and that eventually I will get used to
it my wife had the baby but while I was away she told me about the possibility
of the baby not being mine I grieved it so much but I decided it wasn't much
good to dwell on it too much right now until we knew for sure once she was born
the results came back last week and she isn't mine we haven't made any decisions
right now about our relationship but we are living together for the sake of the
kids and her recovery from having the baby she said that if I didn't want to
be with her anymore she'd go back to her home state with her mom and stepdad she
also mentioned that she knew she wouldn't get alamon or child support
because of our state but I told her I would help her get back home and on her
feet if that's what ended up happening since I got back home I have stepped up
more and been more active as a dad which has been really good for me being a
responsible and present father helps me forget about all of the other stuff in
the moment but it would be a lie for me to say that I don't worry about how much
it'll hurt to lose them if we break up since they are not biologically or
legally mine I also just worry about them a lot and think they deserve to
have a safe and stable happy childhood I'm really sad that the baby isn't mine
I wanted her to be mine more than anything in the world but I find it
really hard to be angry with my wife for some reason I cheated on my first wife
with her so it's kind of karma in a way and what could I really expect when our
relationship started the way that it did plus there's this other part of me that
understands that she is a deeply damaged
person like me I don't really want to go into a lot of details but we both lived
through some similar sht happening to us
when we were kids that bonded us neither of us really with it but I thought that
I was okay because I grew up privileged and she didn't so I always had more
opportunities than she did I also thought that since I didn't think about
it as much I was okay she thought about it all the time and she wasn't okay my
ex-wife is an amazing woman and she deserves to be happy I sent her an email
and just kind of poured my heart out about how sorry I was for hurting her I
would rip my heart out to give it to her if it helped her heal from the
Heartbreak I caused her I said in the email that I didn't expect a reply and
and that I would never attempt contact with her again after that she got in
contact with my brother a few times to check on me and she's called me twice
and we talked for a few hours about everything she's really happy and she's
doing well I'm proud of her and she deserves to be happy I am really lucky
that I had the years that I had with her but now it is time to accept how I
screwed up and try my best to do better going forward I don't think I will ever
contact her again but I would be happy to hear from her if she ever reaches out
again it still hurts a little but I understand now that that door is fully
closed the door to my friend is closed too we haven't spoken and we probably
never will but that's okay I found out from other friends that he was always in
love with my ex-wife and that he was the person who convinced her to move to
where they live now after our divorce I think knowing helps because the story I
created in my head was far worse I also understand now why no one wanted to tell
me my brother and I got so close again which his wife isn't the happiest about
I am not sure where I would be right now now if it weren't for him we invited
them over during the weekend and at one point she and I were in a room alone for
a few minutes and I told her that I was sorry and she just hugged me and told me
that I was stupid but that she knows I am trying I also have two really good
friends who have been there for me through everything even though it has
been clear from the very beginning that they have not agreed with my actions all
of them are more than I deserve my relationship with my parents isn't in
the best place right now they are both really mad at me because my brother
confronted them about what I told him related to the thing that happened when
I was a kid they feel like he is blaming them and that they did the best they
could for me I think that they are really embarrassed too I get it and I
don't really blame them I don't think they knew what to do but I am not going
to apologize to them either so until I do they don't really want to be around
me I'm not sure that this is the update that anyone wanted to read but it's all
I've got my life is still very much in limbo maybe even in shambles but I am
doing my best to fix it and to fix some of the Hur I have caused others I would
recommend therapy as much as everyone recommended it to me but I would caution
to add that it requires a lot of honesty to work and that sometimes that kind of
honesty reopens Old Wounds but those wounds are dirty and infected so you've
got to clean them up and treat them to get better which is going to hurt but I
am not sure there is any other way tldr my wife had someone else's baby while we
were already having a lot of relationship problems she and my
stepchildren are still living with me until we make a decision about our
relationship I don't really know what to do how do I make the best decision for
the kids and for myself should I try to work things out with my wife or would it
be best to make a clean break comments figuring it out 890 o so you cheated on
your first wife with your second wife why if you loved your first wife so much
how long was the affair and how did she your ex find out I don't know about your
current wife being a mistress turned wife isn't exactly any more High Ground
to stand on it sounds like you are both the mess and the fact that she seems to
still be sleeping around has got to give you pause marriages that start with
Affairs very rarely make it are you sure it wouldn't be better to just walk away
and start cleaning lube for sale orphans the current wife had two kids when they
met she was also in a relationship with another man so they were both cheating
on each other she had a third kid while they were enjoying their Affairs and
apparently it was in question whether the dad was her ex or the married
coworker she was effing now the fourth child has been born B thank you for
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AIT for cutting contact with my sister after she said to me that all I am is
lipstick on a pig so I 16f used to be a bit of a tomboy and didn't pay much
attention to my appearance but over the last few years I've gotten really into
makeup and skincare it's been fun to care more about how I look and how
others see me I've also been hitting the gym quite a bit and I think the results
are showing I've been getting a lot of compliments from people around me
including strangers and family member however my sister 26f has started to
make snarky comments like do you really need to wear that much makeup and don't
you think you're overdoing it a bit it's really starting to annoy me I tried to
ignore it but I even talked to my parents about it and they haven't done
anything to help over Christmas I did my best to avoid her every time she came
around I'd rush off to my room and when she tried to talk to me I'd give her
short answers so the day before Christmas Eve me and my siblings who
were all in their late 20s to mid-30s got together at our parents place when
it was time to open gifts I went first since I was the youngest I opened the
smallest gift and found the most amazing thing inside my older brother | give me a good story on AITAforcuttingcontactwithmysisteraftershesaidtomethatallIamislipstickonapigorig |
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:00.190 --> :04.670 This happened this week, just a cute little MC.
:04.670 --> :07.509 We have a 4yo daughter and 2yo son.
:07.509 --> :09.860 My FIL also lives with us.
:09.860 --> :14.739 Lately, the kids have been getting up earlier
and earlier, and will go and knock on their :14.739 --> :20.980
Grandpa's door, and wake him up, as they know
he's a soft touch and will often get up and :20.980 --> :22.030
make them breakfast. :22.030 --> :26.580
He put his foot down when our daughter started waking him before 6am.
:26.580 --> :31.220 2 nights ago, my husband told daughter "Do
not wake up Grandpa in the morning". :31.220 --> :35.840
Last 2 mornings, FIL has heard (and we've
played it back on the monitors), daughter :35.840 --> :40.000
goes into son's room, wakes him up, and says
"<son's name> , go and wake up Grandpa" 🤣 This
:40.000 --> :45.079 story didn't personally happen to me, but
it was told by someone I trust. :45.079 --> :51.890
I fully believe it to be true, but some details
are slightly altered to protect privacy. :51.890 --> :56.879
A friend of mine is retired now, but back
in the day he did internal audits for a large :56.879 --> :57.879
bank. :57.879 --> :01.069 This story takes place about 30 years ago
when networked computers were less common, :01.069 --> :02.989
and paperwork tended to be compiled manually. :02.989 --> :06.760
Bank managers had to submit various reports
to their regional offices showing what their :06.760 --> :10.710
branches were up to and the regional offices
would occasionally send out auditors to go :10.710 --> :13.820
through the records and make sure everything was in compliance.
:13.820 --> :18.910 One report that had to be filed monthly was
a list of any employees who were in arrears :18.910 --> :19.910
on their own loans. :19.910 --> :20.910
Employees who had trouble managing their own
credit were considered to be more at risk :20.910 --> :23.970
of stealing, fraud or other financial crimes,
so I guess the bank wanted to keep track of :23.970 --> :26.020
anyone who may fall into that category. :26.020 --> :30.630
My friend's team is doing an audit at a particular
branch, going through the records and looking :30.630 --> :31.630
for any discrepancies. :31.630 --> :32.720 They find a big one.
:32.720 --> :39.330 The manager of this branch had been behind
on a number of loans he held with the bank, :39.330 --> :42.890
but had been leaving his own name off the report. :42.890 --> :47.750
More records are pulled and they start looking
at everything this guy has ever filed and :47.750 --> :48.790
comparing it to other records. :48.790 --> :50.770
The manager had started doing everything correctly,
including himself on the report fairly regularly. :50.770 --> :54.570
At a point about ten years previous, it suddenly
stops despite the spotty loan repayment continuing :54.570 --> :55.570
for years. :55.570 --> :56.570 Bosses of bosses are called.
:56.570 --> :59.960 It's looking like they may have stumbled on
years of falsified records and possibly more :59.960 --> :00.960
serious fraud. :00.960 --> :03.640
The manager is definitely getting fired and
depending on what else they find, looking :03.640 --> :04.820
at some serious criminal charges. :04.820 --> :08.170
Finally they call the manager in to show what
they found and ask for an explanation. :08.170 --> :10.679
The manager produces a letter from someone higher up in the bank.
:10.679 --> :14.310 Basically when he started the manager was
just a little too free with his spending and :14.310 --> :17.520
didn't make his monthly loan payments a top priority.
:17.520 --> :24.760 His boss wrote a letter saying that having
the manager of a bank branch at the top of :24.760 --> :27.300
a list of unpaid loans was an embarrassment. :27.300 --> :32.760
If he wanted to keep his job, he better make
sure that his name never appeared on that :32.760 --> :33.760
report again. :33.760 --> :36.769
He was supposed to sort out his financial
affairs, but the manager said he interpreted :36.769 --> :41.920
the instruction literally and simply stopped including his own name.
:41.920 --> :45.220 It took years before anyone noticed.
:45.220 --> :47.655 In the end, the investigation found no other
signs of record tampering or financial crime. :47.655 --> :51.640
No one really believed that he actually thought
what he was doing was allowed, but the whole :51.640 --> :54.220
thing was just ambiguous enough to give plausible deniability.
:54.220 --> :57.320 By the point everything was discovered, the
manager had his finances in good order, and :57.320 --> :58.320
he was pretty close to retirement. :58.320 --> :03.170
The whole thing was just sort of waved away
as being more trouble than it was worth to :03.170 --> :06.510
deal with and the manager didn't see any real
repercussions.I'm a truck driver by trade. :06.510 --> :11.330
I work for a large, popular shipping company
and more often than not I haul two trailers :11.330 --> :12.330
at one time. :12.330 --> :17.550
I don't actually haul long distance but I
have a ton of respect for those that do, especially
:17.550 --> :18.550 owner operators. :18.550 --> :23.160
I only drive about 15 miles at a time and they call me a "shuttle driver".
:23.160 --> :27.940 The specific satellite location I work for
calls me their shuttle queen just because :27.940 --> :31.080
I'm one of the fastest shuttle drivers they have. :31.080 --> :33.000
Due to this, I get all the "hots" and "super hots".
:33.000 --> :36.970 This is the stuff that you pay extra for overnight
shipping and such. :36.970 --> :42.930
I might not drive 500 miles a day, but I move 20 trailers a night on average.
:42.930 --> :46.960 Recently my company changed their dispatch
system for the millionth time since going :46.960 --> :48.190
paperless with the pandemic. :48.190 --> :55.140
This system is glitchy, slow, and often the
dispatchers don't even see a check in. :55.140 --> :57.980
This causes us to slow down and we get pretty grumpy.
:57.980 --> :01.620 The only nice thing is that we can access
the GPS location on trailers we have been :01.620 --> :04.700
assigned to so long as it's not glitching. :04.700 --> :09.500
For context, the satellite location only has
20 doors or so and a very small yard that :09.500 --> :10.760
wraps around the building. :10.760 --> :14.510
The main hub has well over 100 doors and the yard is massive.
:14.510 --> :17.400 Without GPS it's like looking for a needle
in a hay stack. :17.400 --> :20.709
It doesn't help that people leave trailers
everywhere making the yard even worse to drive :20.709 --> :21.709
around in. :21.709 --> :25.600
Most of us will park right outside the gate
and check in or while waiting in line to get :25.600 --> :26.600
through the gate. :26.600 --> :31.560
This also tends to save a few minutes so we
get a load right away rather than waiting :31.560 --> :33.340
for the very very slow dispatch. :33.340 --> :38.090
Keep in mind that the yard jockeys (people
who move trailers around but never leave the :38.090 --> :39.090 yard)
:39.090 --> :41.960 The people at the hub for whatever reason
like to call me out directly. :41.960 --> :47.250
They don't even call me, they call my boss
like the cowards they are to complain about :47.250 --> :50.990
me doing the exact same thing that everyone else does.
:50.990 --> :57.550 They said if i don't do it the way they want
it, they will not even assign me loads which :57.550 --> :59.140
means i make no money. :59.140 --> :03.920
They never say anything right away either,
but wait till I've been doing something wrong :03.920 --> :04.920
for weeks first. :04.920 --> :07.650
They have been doing this crap since i got
pregnant to the point where they tried to :07.650 --> :09.580
fire me rather that accommodating my very
reasonable request for lighter duty work. :09.580 --> :10.580
I had to threaten a law suit. :10.580 --> :12.470
Anyway, It's very important that I turn and
burn early in the night due to having back :12.470 --> :16.010
to back hot/super hot trailers that need to be moved.
:16.010 --> :19.530 Keep in mind that it doesn't really affect
my bottom line to wait an extra few minutes :19.530 --> :25.120
but can create a snowball affect down the
line if these trailers are even so much as :25.120 --> :26.930
5 minutes behind schedule. :26.930 --> :30.150
Rather than doing it before getting in the
gate they want me to wait until I've found :30.150 --> :31.150
a spot for the trailers and then check in. :31.150 --> :32.669
Prior to doing this, the yard jockeys would
see my check in and meet me right inside the :32.669 --> :34.230
gate and take my trailer right away. :34.230 --> :35.780
Saved everyone time and headache this way :35.780 --> :39.660
This is where I get petty and a little bit of malicious compliance comes in.
:39.660 --> :43.550 If you've ever worked with truckers you'd
know we get petty in a hurry. :43.550 --> :48.999
Now instead of letting the switchers find
me right at the gate, I go all the way to :48.999 --> :52.206
the other end of the yard and drop the trailers
in the most annoying spot as I can find. :52.206 --> :56.810
Especially if it's close to a Dolly that the
yard jockeys are not allowed to touch. :56.810 --> :02.919
I also just let the GPS check my trailers
in now which takes an extra 10 minutes sometimes. :02.919 --> :03.919
Fine by me! :03.919 --> :05.230
I'll close my eyes for 10 minutes vs running myself too hard.
:05.230 --> :06.570 Normally, I'm in a big hurry to get moved
away from my trailers too and now if they're :06.570 --> :07.830
waiting on my trailers they can also wait
30 seconds for me to finish my paperwork too. :07.830 --> :11.460
I'm sure I'll get a complaint here soon but
hey, I'm not checking in outside the gate :11.460 --> :13.408
right?From the Life of Aesop, a fictional
biography of Aesop (of Aesop's Fables fame) :13.408 --> :15.080
and his master, the philosopher Xanthus: :15.080 --> :17.979
The next day Xanthus sent out invitations
to the students who had entertained him at :17.979 --> :20.330
dinner and said to Aesop, “I’ve invited
my friends to dinner; go cook the best, the :20.330 --> :22.790
finest thing imaginable.” :22.790 --> :25.060
Aesop said to himself, “I’ll show him not to give me stupid orders.”
:25.060 --> :29.930 So he went to the butcher shop and bought
the tongues of the pigs that had been slaughtered. :29.930 --> :35.820
When he came back, he prepared them all, boiling
some, roasting some, and spicing some. :35.820 --> :38.430
At the appointed hour the guests arrived. :38.430 --> :41.470
Xanthus said, “Aesop, give us something to eat.” :41.470 --> :44.770
Aesop brought each a boiled tongue and served hot sauce with it.
:44.770 --> :48.280 The students said, “Hah, Xanthus, even your
dinner is fraught with philosophy. :48.280 --> :50.920
You never do anything that isn’t carefully worked out.
:50.920 --> :55.020 At the very beginning of the dinner we’re
served tongues.” :55.020 --> :59.710
After they had two or three drinks, Xanthus
said, “Aesop, give us something to eat.” :59.710 --> :02.479
Again Aesop served each a roast tongue with salt and pepper.
:02.479 --> :06.020 The students said, “Wonderful, professor,
excellent, by the Muses. :06.020 --> :15.030
Every tongue is sharpened by fire, and best
of all by salt and pepper, for the salt combines :15.030 --> :23.469
with the sharpness of the tongue to give it a glib and biting effect.”
:23.469 --> :24.469 . :24.469 --> :27.500
After they had drunk again, Xanthus said, for the third time, "Bring us food.”
:27.500 --> :30.100 Aesop brought each of them a spiced tongue.
:30.100 --> :32.050 One student said to another, “Democritus!
:32.050 --> :33.680 I’m getting tongue-tied eating tongues.”
:33.680 --> :40.610 Another student said, “Is there nothing
else to eat? :40.610 --> :45.819
Whatever Aesop has a hand in will come to no good end.”
:45.819 --> :50.009 When the students tried to eat the spiced
tongues, they were seized with nausea. :50.009 --> :53.699
Xanthus said, “Aesop, give us each a bowl of soup.”
:53.699 --> :56.020 Aesop served them tongue broth.
:56.020 --> :59.380 The students didn’t even touch this but
said, “This is Aesop’s master stroke; :59.380 --> :00.660
we admit defeat by tongue.” :00.660 --> :03.000
Xanthus said, “Aesop, do we have anything else?” :03.000 --> :04.750
Aesop said, “We have nothing else.” :04.750 --> :06.500
Xanthus said, “Nothing else, d*** you? :06.500 --> :09.259
Didn’t I tell you: ‘Buy the finest, the most delicious thing imaginable’?”
:09.259 --> :13.550 Aesop said, “I am glad you find fault with
me in the presence of scholarly gentlemen. :13.550 --> :17.400
You told me: ‘Buy the finest, the most delicious,
the greatest thing imaginable.’ :17.400 --> :20.419
Well, what can one imagine finer or greater than the tongue?
:20.419 --> :25.240 You must observe that all philosophy, all
education, depends on the tongue. :25.240 --> :29.130
Without the tongue nothing gets done, neither giving, nor receiving, nor buying.
:29.130 --> :32.719 By means of the tongue states are reformed
and ordinances and laws laid down. :32.719 --> :36.409
If, then, all life is ordered by the tongue,
nothing is greater than the tongue.” :36.409 --> :38.300
The students said, “Yes, well put, by the Muses. :38.300 --> :39.399
It was your mistake, professor.” :39.399 --> :43.640
They went home, and all night long they suffered from seizures of diarrhea.
:43.640 --> :46.670 The next day the students took Xanthus to task.
:46.670 --> :51.750 Xanthus said, “Gentlemen and scholars, it
was not my fault; it was the fault of that :51.750 --> :52.750
worthless slave. :52.750 --> :57.370
But tomorrow I’ll repay you your dinner,
and I’ll give him his orders in your presence.” :57.370 --> :02.460
Then and there he called Aesop and said to
him, “Since you are determined to turn my :02.460 --> :06.840
words around, go to the market and buy the
most worthless, the most inferior thing there :06.840 --> :07.840 is.”
:07.840 --> :10.380 When Aesop heard this, nothing daunted, he
went to the butcher, and again he bought the :10.380 --> :13.110
tongues of all the pigs that had been butchered. :13.110 --> :15.839
Then he went back and prepared them for dinner. :15.839 --> :19.790
Xanthus came home with his students, and they took their places at table.
:19.790 --> :23.839 After they had the first drink, he said, “Aesop,
give us something to eat.” :23.839 --> :26.980
Aesop served each a pickled tongue and hot sauce. :26.980 --> :29.260
The students said, “What’s this, tongues again?” :29.260 --> :30.330
Xanthus turned pale. :30.330 --> :35.470
The students said, “Maybe he wants the vinegar
to help our stomachs recover from yesterday’s :35.470 --> :36.470
diarrhea.” :36.470 --> :40.560
After they had another drink or two, Xanthus said, “Give us something to eat.”
:40.560 --> :43.680 Aesop served each of them a roast tongue.
:43.680 --> :45.660 The students said, “Bah, what’s this?
:45.660 --> :51.450 Our dunderhead of yesterday is trying to make
us sick again with his tongues.” :51.450 --> :52.910
Xanthus said, “What? :52.910 --> :54.870 Again, you filthy villain?
:54.870 --> :57.310 Why did you buy these?
:57.310 --> :03.840 Didn’t I tell you: ‘Go to the market,
and if you can find anything inferior, anything :03.840 --> :05.030
worthless, buy it’?” :05.030 --> :13.440
Aesop said, “And what is there that is bad
which does not come about through the tongue? :13.440 --> :23.700
It is because of the tongue that there are
enmity, plots, battles, rivalry, strife, wars. :23.700 --> :28.200
Is it not, then, true that there is nothing
worse than this most abominable tongue?” :28.200 --> :42.440
[The narrative then transitions to another
episode, but there's a lot more where this :42.440 --> :58.670
came from!]A group of Czech fans at the game
with Latvia did not like it, when the organizers :58.670 --> :10.710
at the Tampere hockey arena tore down the
Ukrainian yellow-blue flag placed between :10.710 --> :14.060
the Czech flags. :14.060 --> :20.390
And the organizers added a diplomatic explanation
that only the flags of the participating countries :20.390 --> :21.390
can hang in the arenas. :21.390 --> :25.690
So they chose a very ingenious solution for Monday's game with the USA.
:25.690 --> :37.340 During the day they created English inscriptions
on a white poster indicating blue on the top :37.340 --> :42.029
and yellow on the bottom. :42.029 --> :54.230
In the middle there is a distinctive inscription
"imagine"Many moons ago when I was a younger :54.230 --> :59.140
lad I started a new job. :59.140 --> :14.170
The place was a combination of retail and warehouse work.
:14.170 --> :28.610 I'm the new guys so all the s*** jobs go to
me, which is fine, including going around :28.610 --> :31.990
and emptying the garbage and recycling bins every morning.
:31.990 --> :48.720 One morning, mid way through my garbage rounds,
I got pulled away by a customer that needed :48.720 --> :49.720 help.
:49.720 --> :08.900 The help went long and I totally forgot to
finish the garbages. :08.900 --> :12.240 My bad.
:12.240 --> :19.529 A coworker approaches me, totally not my boss
just been their longer than anyone else and :19.529 --> :23.540
felt it her duty to "manage" everyone. :23.540 --> :32.380
I don't get a reminder to finish the garbages,
I get a 5-10 minute lecture on how garbages :32.380 --> :51.240
are the most important thing to do in the
mornings, everything else is secondary u til :51.240 --> :55.560
I get that done. :55.560 --> :06.769
Seems ridiculous to me, but I was new so I just smiled and nodded.
:06.769 --> :15.420 As luck would have it several days later I was in
:15.420 --> :28.170 the middle of my garbage rounds once again
and the same coworker approached me Ina terrible :28.170 --> :29.170
hurry. :29.170 --> :58.800 I don't remember the exact why but they
:58.800 --> :38.550 needed help moving a bunch of boxes as someone
was on the way to pick them up and she needed :38.550 --> :47.480
me to drop what I was doing and help her. :47.480 --> :49.449
It was a perfect moment. :49.449 --> :16.550
I gave her a smile and said, "Sorry, I can't help you
:16.550 --> :17.600 right now. :17.600 --> :30.209
I'm doing :30.209 --> :36.500
the garbages and garbages are the most important thing in the mornings."
:36.500 --> :42.320 She gave me a blank look then stalked off.
:42.320 --> :48.160 In a perfect world I would end it with "and
she never bothered me again." :48.160 --> :50.170
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AIT ta for telling my sister a house built on another woman's tears will
never last after she took my partner as well as me stopping contact with her son
I f24 found out a few weeks ago my long-term partner M24 had slept with my
sister twice whilst I'm pregnant he has relentlessly claimed it was an accident
I don't understand how you can accidentally have sex with your fiance
sister and then date her whilst trying to mend our relationship for our child
which I have been open to the fact I will allow him to be in our child's life
but I will not be in his as the bridges are burnt Beyond repair anyway my sister
has tried to remain active in my pregnancy but also my nephew her son M
11 who I'll call K I have full custody of K due to her metal breakdown and Drug
misuse after her partner died he is aware of his real mom but due to me
raising him he tends to call me Mom a couple days ago it was my nephew's
birthday I invited my sister as I always
do as she is his biop parent but also my ex as he's played an active role in
Kay's life he's been around from the day he was born and has a bond with him he
asked for him to be there too my personal circumstances and relationships
will not impact my nephew's relationships as they are separate from
mine anyway not everyone at his party was aware of the current situation as
I've tried to keep it under wraps and private for Kay and my sanity has I
don't want the stress of dealing with questions and other thing my sister
broke down at his birthday I removed Kay as quickly as I could but she was
screaming it wasn't fair for me to keep her son and her niece away from her if I
am honest I am sick of being the villain in her life and I snapped and calmly
told her it wasn't fair for you to break my home by sleeping with my partner and
then dating him to create your own home but I hope you know a house built on a
another woman's tears will not stand you'll lose him the same way you got him
he's your problem now you could hear Kay scream and cry claiming that she my
sister isn't his mom to a family member who had taken him and he since refused
to see her most people were taken aback when I said what I said to my sister as
I told the majority that we ended the relationship amicably but I am no longer
embarrassed and ashamed I've had support from this and people are standing by me
and the kids however people have said I shouldn't have said it and I am
alienating Kay from his real mother even though I've done everything in my power
for them to retain a relationship but I can no longer deal with her up burst and
need to put my Kay's feelings first rather than hers as well as my own
family my mother has threatened to call social services if I do not allow Kay to
see his mom regardless of his feelings and wants and has called me a selfish
brat who ruins and poisons whatever I touch to which I've ceased contact after
that final comment I don't even know what is right or wrong anymore but I'm
trying my best with the cards given aita
throw away as my sister stalks my social platforms which I've blocked her on but
every time user 35 6993 wants to add me or follows me regardless | give me a good story on AITAfortellingmysisterahousebuiltonanotherwomanstearswillneverlastaftershetookmy |
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aita for telling my husband's parents and sister not to use me in their sick
and twisted scheme to erase his late wife I'm married to a widower we've been
married for four years together for six and known each other for eight we met at
a grief support group I lost my sister to cancer around the same time he lost
his late wife Tasha we bonded and supported each other and our
relationship happened slowly over the two years of being friends one thing I
have always known is his love for Tasha has never faded he never wants it to
fade he misses her every single day so do his children my stepchildren he
struggled with the idea of finding someone else not least of all because
his family started pushing 13 months after his loss in time he wanted this
himself and we fell in love but I have always known there would be no us
without his loss I was never jealous or insecure of that I love his love for
Tasha it tells me how amazing he is as his person it's also good for his kids
to see the love he still holds for their mom my sister's widower remarried after
6 months and has erased my sister with their children he stopped me having a
relationship with them too and I hate it
the kids being good with us was the most important thing to us when we became
something more the only condition they had to their support was their mom they
didn't want her to be | give me a good story on AITAfortellingmyhusbandsparentsandsisternottousemeintheirsickandtwistedscheme |
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my daughter broke my heart without even knowing it my husband and I have a
daughter who is six years old this past year has been really hard on us we lost
my in-laws Mill and Phil to cancer and my husband was their only son they
didn't have health insurance so we had to pay for all their treatments and
funerals because of all the payments we have been making we are pretty much
broke we both work two jobs to make ends meet while we try to protect our
daughter and not let her know our situation a lot of fun stuff we used to
do or luxury items we could buy for our daughter are things we can't do anymore
we try our best to give her everything she needs and we try to do some stuff
that doesn't cost us anything we really thought our daughter didn't notice these
things but boy were we wrong yesterday she had a play date with her best friend
and I heard them talking about her upcoming birthday her friend asked her
what she was going to ask us for her birthday and my baby girl said nothing
I've heard mummy cry when she thinks I'm asleep because we don't have money so
I'm just asking to spend the day together at the park so Mommy and Daddy
won't know that I know we don't have money | give me a good story on willitbreakyourheartifyouheardyourchildsaythis |
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my f25 husband m30 says our house will never be mine how do I move past this
with update me and my husband have been married for almost one year and have
been together for seven I work a job in media while he works as a therapist of
sorts we have been living in my inherited home that has been in my
family for many years over the past few years we have both agreed the house and
the location is just not ideal with the housing market being what it is we have
sucked it up and continued to live here recently we were offered to purchase my
husband's family home it's a good house that needs a lot of work but I am
confident we can do what we need to for under $115,000 in renovations so we are
planning to move there and begin renovating we were both happy and
excited until the other day when we were talking about it out of nowhere he told
me I want you to know this house will never be yours if we divorce or anything
you will have no right to live there anymore and I found this hurtful and odd
this was never a discussion in the years we have lived in our current home I
would never plan on taking his family home if we were to separate but it felt
like a stab to the heart especially when
we are trying to have kids I told him it would be a marital asset since I'm
paying half the mortgage and half the renovations I would never fight you for
the house but I don't plan on getting divorced this made him very upset he
said he would rather not move in if there's a chance a judge would determine
I had rights over the home was I wrong how do I move past this with him update
so there was a lot of questions from many people who saw my last post so I
figured I would answer some of them and also update on the situation my family
home was inherited there was no mortgage we paid our bills and taxes evenly
between the two of us and same with any repairs the home needed his mother is
selling us the house at a $25,000 discount from what she listed it for on
the market my husband was not on the deed to my family home this home was not
going to be sold it is a home that has been passed down exclusively to family
members at virtually no cost so a mortgage hasn't been held on it in many
decades the house would be going to to my sister as she is welcoming her second
child soon now for the update me and my husband agreed to go to breakfast
together this morning since our Mother's Day plans didn't start until lunch at
breakfast I brought up the topic of the house we are going to buy I told him
about how the things he said hurt my feelings and made me insecure about
where he stands in our marriage he told me after seeing his dad lose his family
home in a divorce it was scary to think our kids could possibly lose it if we
were to separate he apologized and told me he never ever thought of getting a
divorce but nobody does until it's happening he said he was wrong to say
the things he did and that he let anxiety control the way he spoke and it
was unfair to me we agreed that I would be put on the deed and agreed to start
the process of a postnup agreement for the home among some other things I
addressed feeling like maybe he had a feeling he was going to leave or cheat
and that's why he was so defensive he felt hurt by that and told me that was
his fear when getting married that he would be cheated on or Worse have kids
involved in that mess I told him I felt the same we both agreed the most
comfortable we would feel would be us both being on the deed to the home and
getting a postnuptial agreement with an infidelity Clause we are both anxious
people and I understand where he was coming from with wanting that it stung a
bit at first that he wanted an infidelity Clause but we agreed it would
do nothing but benefit us both if either of us were to go beyond our marriage in
that way so tldr we both being put on the deed we are getting a postnuptial
agreement plus infidelity clause and we had a very mature and emotional
conversation about how we felt thank you all for your advice it gave me a very
good idea of what to research before I brought it up to him and we are setting
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I told my boyfriend you're not putting that thing in me my boyfriend and I both
21 have been in a relationship for just over 3 months and it has been a
wonderful experience so far although we haven't had intimacy yet a few days ago
we came close to it in his car we've had
discussions about having intercourse and
what our expectations are in that regard since he's had previous Partners I
expressed my preference for both of us to get tested before taking that step
even though I haven't been sexually active with anyone else before I needed
to explain my hesitancy and thankfully he was completely understanding he
assured me there was no rush and he was willing to get tested he questioned why
I wanted to get tested when I hadn't been esally active with anyone else and
I explained that it would give him Peace
of Mind knowing I was clean he seemed to think it wasn't necessary and we ended
the conversation there recent events brought up the conversation again and he
expressed relief that he had stopped things in the car because he didn't want
my first time to be in such a setting I agreed and said especially considering
we hadn't been tested and didn't have a rubber on hand he seemed surprised by my
response and I believe he may have assumed that if he came back clean after
testing we wouldn't need a rubber however I emphasized that there was
still a risk of pregnancy even if I was on birth control and he pulled out I
wasn't willing to take that chance at this point the topic of having children
has always been a challenging one for us he really wants kids whereas I do not I
don't see myself having children in the next 10 years because I'm focused on
completing my degree and achieving Financial stability he on the other hand
is in the process of transitioning to a higher paying job it wouldn't be
practical for us to have children anytime soon I explained that I didn't
want to take the possibility of having children away from him but his response
was we would talk more in depth when the time comes right now let's just enjoy
each other we haven't touched the topic since then anyway I suggested that we
could only have intimacy if he agreed to wear a rubber or consider a vasectomy
his response was it wouldn't be the same and said you lost me he expressed no
interest in the idea and I responded by saying that I didn't want to have sex
without these precautions he accepted my decision with a simple that's fine and
we left it at that I must admit that I was taken a back by his reaction because
he doesn't typically respond this way he has been distant in our text since then
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hey everybody my name is Stephen and welcome back to the story time channel
without wasting any time let's get into our stories of the day steel my design
and get all the credits enjoyed getting kicked off so my friend over in Korea
studies fashion design she sometimes sends me over the sketches of the
designs and they all look amazing then again I'm not into fashion she is
particularly interested in designing handbags and purses she told me a story
about how she shut down one of the most entitled self-centered lazy students on
campus cast grace our main character girl Jane the evil one professor the
instructor of the course story at first grace and Jane got along just fine
they were both interested in similar stuff and quickly became BFFs grace
decided to show Jane her sketches and designs for handbags and purses and Jane
was so impressed by it because the sketches were in incredible detail
including all the patterns and soul lines coupled with figurative
measurements even professor was impressed by it and it was no surprise
that grace got high marks on her first major exam Jane didn't do so well and
practically followed grace everywhere to get pointers on how to do better so
grace decided to help her out unfortunately Jane turned out to be one
of the most entitled lazy and selfish people that grace has ever met things
that Jane did to pick brace off included but not limited to not paying attention
being late on their study session never showing appreciation didn't pay for
coffee or snacks complaining annoyingly about how hard it was to draw something
grace pretty much gave up on her after a week refusing to meet Jane outside of
her class time went by in for their midterm everyone in the class I did do a
presentation on the stuff they had designed when it was Jane's turn grace
was shocked to see Jane had stolen one of her designs
thankfully Grace had multiple designs going on so there were no conflicts when
it was her turn to present but she was seething with a rage
grace had a meeting with the professor afterwards and the professor knew what
was going on but couldn't really do anything with
Jane because it turns out she was the daughter of the chairman or one of the
major investors gray said she can't recall the Chairman apparently
blackmailed the professor into giving Jane the best grades The Revenge
professor did however help grace devise a plan to humiliate and exposed Jane for
the finals the professor announced to the class
they would do another presentation but it would be three designs and advised
they had to bring their a games because professionals from industries would be
gritting their work in the head of the department and the chairman would be
there as well so you know how Grace had a bunch of sketches for the class well
grace also had a separate sketch book that had designs from major brands m'kay
coach you name it she never used these directly for class assignments but
rather as inspirations for her designs Brees pretended to be all friendly with
Jane again and brought the other sketch book on their meetings still putting up
with all the problems mentioned above grey secretly worked tirelessly on our
new design and did her best to keep it a
secret from Jane so the day of the final presentation arrives and grace and
professor are grinning because they know
what is about to happen grace went first then she got a lot of praise from the
judges after a few more presentations the last
one to go was Jane jeans presentation turned out to be another copycat copying
designs of not one not two but three different companies this is how it went
all down at least according to grace judge one says so are you saying you
designed all these by yourself right Jane says that's right and you swear
that it was really your design and didn't copy off anything else right
Jane says I swear you are aware your designs are from insert three brands
here Jane says huh are you aware that these are on the market right now and
some of the most popular designs Jane says wait hold on judge two then
says yeah I was going to bring this up if you had worked for any brands you
would probably have been fired or worst case sue
jane says but judge - continues please I'm not done yet
did you honestly think this would work we the judges have been in the industry
for over ten years we know a copycat when we see it jane says but these
aren't even my designs they are from grace judge three - grace is this true
ray says yes but I've never used them for major projects nor call them my work
I just use sketches of them as inspirations for my own designs judge 3
says well that was clear from your presentation turning back to Jane now
Miss Jane this is a clear case of plagiarism and I do hope your school is
merciful on this matter after the presentation was over the Chairman
screamed at the professor in front of everyone
not realizing he just revealed all the blackmailing in the secret grade deal
Jane tried to call out of grace on how you screwed me over but it really didn't
matter no one listened to Jane's attempt and slander and was kicked out of the
school chairman pretty much lost all support
and had to resign and was replaced by far more honorable and competent one
that was a smooth Pro revenge if you know this person is going to copy off
the work you share with them you just plant the subtle seed they're not able
to pick up on and boom it blows up in their face trying to copy off you what
do you think of this Jane girl and her antics let me know what you think in the
comments below the guy in the suit who doesn't know anything a few years ago I
had the misfortune to work for a truly dysfunctional boss at a micro niche
company that provided training for a certain group of professionals that had
to do continuous training if I mentioned the group you would know the company so
I won't I was the senior technical lead for a certain application so I worked
with every department in the company anyway this company was owned by a guy
that happened to be in the right place at the right time with the right product
and was successful in spite of himself since he thought that he was a genius
and he wasn't of course he packed the company with a whole crew of equally
mindless idiots think minions on steroids but the crown jewel was the sales team
these were the quintessential narcissists who would take a two-hour
lunch with all the sales buddies and boss and have three martinis and a
couple lines of a certain illegal substance the one star of the bunch was
the bane of my existence while I was there he would call and demand that I
stop what I was doing and fix all of his problems while he was on the phone half
the time he would call me later and cussed me out for doing the opposite of
what he demanded I didn't but he couldn't remember since he was drunk
I finally resorted to tell him to send me an email that explicitly stated what
he had wanted done that way I could prioritize his tasks and have proof of
exactly what he asked for however five minutes after he sent the email he would
call me in demand that I stopped what I was doing and fixed his problems since
we were in a sales oriented company complaining to the boss didn't do any
good oh my god was just make him happy so he doesn't complain to the owner
thanks boss now comes the revenge I finally had enough I was looking for a
job anyway and I was underpaid so I wasn't worried about any blowback
whenever something broke and he demanded
an immediate explanation I started using Star Trek technobabble yeah that report
broke because the Heisenberg compensator blew back through the subspace conduit
sorry that user couldn't access the system because the dilithium warp
brought her needed to be hooked up to the Jefferies tube he bought it all and
then comes the best part I found out the best part after I left the company he
repeated everything I told him to his clients
word for word they just thanked them for the information and he went on his way
and then they laughed after he hung up the phone it didn't change anything
because even before this their nickname for him was the guy in the suit who
doesn't know anything I wouldn't exactly call it a hardcore revenge but making
this quintessential narcissist make a fool of himself openly repeatedly to
people without him ever knowing that's still pretty good I would think the old
switcheroo this is my friend story but she doesn't have read it so I said I
would post it for her cast Sara mother 43 year old female John
son 19 year old male Ana daughter 16 year old female due to the lockdown sara
has allowed her son to move back in he moved out after a family argument but
with everything going on Sara decided to give him another chance
a few weeks into lockdown Sara was cleaning the house when she
found a tin of travel sweets in her son's room
she loves this particular type and opened the tin to pinch one the contents
of the tin was not lemon drops however it was her son's pot stash when he
returned from work she sat him down and told him that she did not want that
stuff in the house and he was to get rid of it he apologized in the tin vanished
yesterday and I came to see her mum John had been smoking in his room which was
next to hers and the smoke was blowing into her window Sara told her to stay
downstairs for a bit and say nothing when John left for work Sara went into
his room and began to search the idiot was still using the same tin and had hid
it under his pillow Sara disposed of the
contents and replaced it with some fresh dog poo from the family pet he hasn't
said a word to her today and has been very sheepish her only regret is not
seeing his face when he opened his tin that be pretty priceless when this guy
goes to open his tin to get his fun grass and finds out there's just a
beautiful hidden stash of dog poo that probably be a bit of a shock and a
letdown for the guy won't give me $20 off fine I'll get $50 off instead for
reference I'm 15 and I run a small mowing company in my neighbourhood I
have been saving up to buy a new mower to replace my current 16 plus year old
one I went into the only Home Depot in my city that had a seven hundred and
fifty dollar honda mower in stock I originally found an associate and tried
to get the floor model but since they had one in stock I couldn't buy the
floor model oh well I pulled up a competitor's site northern tool and show
a different associate that I could get $20 off there with a coupon
and the other store was less than five minutes away they talked to who I
believe was the department manager and they approved it so then I make my way
over to the registers until the associate what the others said and she
calls over her higher-up enter Karen haircut and all I say I was told by the
associate that I could get $20 off because a competitor has it at a better
price Karen in a part mocking heart baby tone voice no that's a coupon it has to
be the actual price of the item they don't know what they're talking about
I'm the financial supervisor they say on their website they accept competitors
coupons okay then I'll just go put it back so I do so and head to the car
while leaving the store she droops her head down makes that puppy-dog / poor
poor you face and says I'm sorry I'm sorry you could save money I wanted to
flip her off so bad I decided you know what she's not a manager let me go talk
to customer service so I go to the desk and this is how the conversation goes
hey I was trying to get $20 off of $750 mower I was told it was okay by two
associates but then your supervisor over there said absolutely not customer
service guy says okay let me see this mower I can give you $50 off so he goes
looks at the mower and goes back to ring me up we have a good conversation about
cars and I walk out of the store and Karen doesn't say a word is it cos Opie
looked young I don't get what this Karen was being a witch about was it just a
bad day for her does she get enjoyment out of that it just seemed needlessly
extra dollar store worker made my day so the wife and I decide to walk over to
the store to buy some bleach for laundry
when we get there we see they're all out so we decided to go next door to the
dollar store so we can at least get a small container to wash up a few loads
first thing I noticed was the cashier at
the front of the store being asked about t-shirts the cashier instructs the
person asking to go to insert aisle here and he will find shirts there I walked
right past the aisle going towards the bleach and I sure enough see shirts
I get my bleach and the wife and I wait in line to check out the guy comes back
up and claims there are no shirts there the cashier assures them there are and
the man gets testy demanding he walked him to the shirts the cashier says I can
do so as soon as he gets another worker to come take care of the front that was
not good enough for the guy and he joins a woman in the line just in front of us
and it turns out that they are here together
she has balloons in her hand and just as
she is getting to the cashier she gets a call no big deal
wrong her balloons have numbers on them the cashier needs to identify their
price he politely asks for the numbers since the woman is holding the balloons
and they are too high up for him to see the info he needs she ignores him and
continues her call he politely repeats himself and she gives him a mean look
the next time he says could you please bring the balloons lower so that I can
get the number she just hands him the balloons the cashier is done with these
two by this time and takes the balloons gets the number and charges them to
their total but this is when he made my day he lets the balloons go they float
up and away the guy with the lady is paying and the lady with him is too
invested into her call the notice so they grab their bag and then she puts
her hand out hoping the cashier will hand her the balloons he gestures to the
balloons now floating several feet away the guy tells the cashier to retrieve
the balloons for them and the cashier gave the most half but attempts to reach
a few feet away and then says I can't reach them I can do so as soon as he
gets another worker to come take care of
the front I burst out a laughter and the woman and the guy are now embarrassed
they go jump and get their stray balloons and rush out made my day a
million times more enjoyable I scroll through the comments real quickly and
there was a really interesting theory that the guy was actually trying to
steal from the store which is why he wanted the cashier to go with him back
to the shirts the woman up front had the
balloons that draw your eyes up and away
from the her stealing and she would just
walk out with the groceries well the guy distracting the cashier at the shirts
and obviously the plan fell apart mud with that being said that's all the
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:00.160 --> :10.780 Names and some unimportant details have been
changed. :10.780 --> :16.930 It’s somewhere around the summer of 1988.
I was 14 and had gotten into a bit of trouble :16.930 --> :21.539
with the police in another state while on
a one-week trip. This was was uncharacteristic :21.539 --> :27.289
of me…I was a smart, good kid otherwise.
A bit of theft and damage. I was trying to :27.289 --> :32.520
show off for some kids I had met and ended
up making a huge mess of things. Damage was :32.520 --> :38.100
a $100 or so. My parents required that I pay
the person back double the loss, and the way :38.100 --> :43.851
I’d do that is to get a job. I accepted
all of this as I was truly sorry for it. Mom :43.851 --> :48.510
told me to go down to our local convenience store and ask Mr. Smith for a job.
:48.510 --> :53.320 Mr. Smith needed a stock clerk for his busy
convenience store and hired me on the spot :53.320 --> :01.420
at $3.35/hour. I worked about 20 hours a week.
Saturday 11 - 6, Sunday 11 - 6, and Tuesday :01.420 --> :06.369
nights. The job was good…on one end of the
building was a sub shop and the other end :06.369 --> :11.450
was the store. The middle was where the desk
and all the stock was. Walk-in coolers and :11.450 --> :15.820
such were between this room and the store.
There were three cashiers that worked there. :15.820 --> :20.890
Amy, Betty, and Charlie. Charlie only worked
Sundays. Betty worked Saturday nights and :20.890 --> :26.280
several nights a week. Amy handled the bulk
of the shifts. At the time they were all old :26.280 --> :31.250
as dirt, but if I had to guess Amy was in
her 50’s and Betty and Charlie in their :31.250 --> :37.130
30s. Betty and Charlie were always very nice
to me and the customers…but Amy was a sneaky :37.130 --> :39.140
and conniving bitch. :39.140 --> :43.330
The summer ended and I kept working there
through the fall and into winter. I started :43.330 --> :49.170
also working Wed nights…whatever the maximum
hours I could work were, that is what I was :49.170 --> :54.620
scheduled for. During the six months I was
there Mr. Smith had fired three other stock :54.620 --> :00.689
clerks…all for theft. Dropping cases of
beer into the dumpster to retrieve later, :00.689 --> :06.950
food, cigarettes, and so on. I never did…and
it honestly never even occurred to me to. :06.950 --> :11.569
Mr. Smith was generous…I could have soda
and candy when I wanted…just don’t touch :11.569 --> :15.591
the beer and don’t steal from him. I loved
the little round beef jerky that was in a :15.591 --> :19.180
glass jar at the counter and Orangina soda. :19.180 --> :24.760
The job was simple and I had it down. Keep
the cooler stocked, sweep/mop the floors, :24.760 --> :29.550
help customers carry things to the car. On
Tuesdays we got the week’s order so that :29.550 --> :35.810
night I’d put price tags on everything (loved
using the tag gun), rotate stock, and so on. :35.810 --> :39.880
Stocking the cigarettes was the cashier’s
job, but I never minded doing it and would :39.880 --> :43.319
help them by bringing out the cartons they needed and so on.
:43.319 --> :48.739 Basically…I did what the employees needed.
Never bitched, always showed up on time, and :48.739 --> :53.550
never complained. Mom enforced a strict rule
with my paychecks: I could spend half the :53.550 --> :58.550
net but half had to go in the bank. So my
bank account was getting higher and higher. :58.550 --> :03.270
I used to enjoy looking at the account passport
book and the balance printed in there. :03.270 --> :08.420
My mom worked in a place in town where she
saw and kinda knew everyone. The kind of person :08.420 --> :14.349
that when I got my drivers license years later
I wouldn’t dream of breaking any laws, driving :14.349 --> :19.239
too fast, or playing music in the car (we
were forbidden to play music the first year :19.239 --> :23.970
we got our license…good rule…keeps us
from being distracted) because someone always :23.970 --> :27.269
told her what they saw. And we always got caught. :27.269 --> :30.724
So one day mom comes home from work and says
she needs to talk to me. She proceeds to tell :30.724 --> :33.910
me what her friend told her. That her friend
was in the store and Amy (who didn’t know :33.910 --> :39.010
she knew my mom or me) was smoking and talking
with one of her friends and said something :39.010 --> :44.799
like “watch this…DBJFDB (she screamed) GET UP HERE” and I did. “Go sweep the
:44.799 --> :49.850 parking lot”. It was drizzling out, but
I put a coat on, grabbed the sweeper and got :49.850 --> :54.629
to work. Amy and her friend got a huge laugh
out of it all. My Mom’s friend paid and :54.629 --> :00.069
went straight to my mom and told her the story.
As the day went on Mom found out from someone :00.069 --> :05.690
else that Amy had said some other demeaning
things about me, too. Amy was a yeller and :05.690 --> :11.430
cranky. She’d slam things. She’d say rude
things about other people to me. She wore :11.430 --> :15.409
these heels that used to make a clomp clomp
clomp sound throughout the store when she :15.409 --> :16.409
walked around. :16.409 --> :20.979
I remember being stunned. I was a good kid
and no one knew about my little issue with :20.979 --> :26.140
the police, which had since all been cleared
up and I was quite law-abiding. I played a :26.140 --> :31.420
varsity sport, easily got good grades, and
had friends. Why would an old-ass adult do :31.420 --> :32.430
this to me?? :32.430 --> :37.950
Mom asked me what I wanted to do and I told
her that I can’t work there anymore. “Good. :37.950 --> :43.460
Get on your bike and go tell Mr. Smith you
quit. And tell him why”. So I did. Mr. Smith :43.460 --> :47.800
seemed shocked when I told him the story.
I also told him that my grades were beginning :47.800 --> :53.470
to suffer…see I was now working Tues and
Wed nights till 11:30pm (close). We lived :53.470 --> :58.520
a mile away so I’d ride my bike home, but
was still too wired to go to sleep and my :58.520 --> :03.750
parents were in bed already so I’d stay
up till 1 watching Hogans Heroes reruns. I :03.750 --> :08.830
got up at 5:45 AM to use the shower before
my brothers, and then off to the bus stop :08.830 --> :12.850
for 7:15 pickup as we lived on the far end of town.
:12.850 --> :19.310
Mr. Smith was amazing. He offered me the following:
A raise to $4.25, I could do my homework at :19.310 --> :24.970
work in the backroom at the desk, I only had
to do certain things for my job (basically :24.970 --> :29.979
keep things stocked, clean the floors, occasionally
help someone bring their stuff to their car, :29.979 --> :34.840
and the kicker: “you don’t have to do anything Amy tells you to do any more”.
:34.840 --> :35.930 I agreed. :35.930 --> :42.539
I went home and told Mom…she was so happy.
Made my favorite dinner, hot dog soup (basically :42.539 --> :47.750
elbow macaroni, pasta sauce, hot dogs, and
garlic bread on the side). My dad shook my :47.750 --> :51.669
hand and congratulated me. $4.25 an hour! :51.669 --> :56.660
It was, I think, a week before I worked with
her again. It was a weeknight so the store :56.660 --> :01.500
was quiet and I had got through my homework
and done all my work except the final bit :01.500 --> :07.160
of cleaning the floors. I could hear her screaming
for me from the other end of the store. I :07.160 --> :12.560
didn’t move, I didn’t reply. I then heard
the CLOMP CLOMP CLOMP of her coming. My back :12.560 --> :17.360
was to the open door leading into the store
as I was sitting at the desk. She stands in :17.360 --> :21.889
the door way and screams “I’ve been calling
your name for a half hour…what the fuck :21.889 --> :26.690
are you doing!!??”. My knees were shaking.
I wasn’t used to being yelled at by anyone :26.690 --> :33.349
other than my parents. I slowly spun the chair
around, made eye contact and simply said “Mr. :33.349 --> :37.599
Smith said I didn’t need to do anything
you told me to do any more”. Then I slowly :37.599 --> :42.690
spun the chair around and pretended to read…I
was too scared to read but made a show of :42.690 --> :43.690 it.
:43.690 --> :48.910 The pause and the quiet in the air was palpable.
A short moment later she clomped back up to :48.910 --> :53.510
the front of the store, quicker this time.
In those days if you had more than one phone :53.510 --> :57.979
on the same line, the phones would “ding”
when the other receiver was picked up. I heard :57.979 --> :03.800
the receiver at the desk “ding” and thought
oh no, she’s calling Mr. Smith. I heard :03.800 --> :09.240
muffled yelling from out front for a few moments
and then heard the receiver crack down with :09.240 --> :15.200
a resounding BANG, the receiver at my desk
whimpered a subtle “ding”. I waited for :15.200 --> :20.599
her to come back. I was a bit scared. But
nothing…she never came back. I finished :20.599 --> :26.759
up my shift, swept, mopped, left when she
did as she locked up, and quickly rode home. :26.759 --> :31.770
Amy didn’t talk to me much for a couple
weeks after that. She didn’t order me around :31.770 --> :36.639
and didn’t make my life harder. The other
two cashiers, Betty and Charlie, however, :36.639 --> :41.970
really opened up more to me. While not friends
because of age differences, they treated me :41.970 --> :47.590
like a colleague. Betty got me to tell her
the story, and then I found out so much more. :47.590 --> :52.629
Mr. Smith had given her a verbal lashing.
Her kids and husband stopped spending so much :52.629 --> :58.230
time out front as well. While Amy and I never
officially made up, things smoothed over after :58.230 --> :01.550
a few weeks and she was never rude to me again. :01.550 --> :06.600
As a final note…being able to do my homework
at the store turned out to be amazing for :06.600 --> :11.901
my grades. I had several hours a night where
I really didn’t have anything to do, so :11.901 --> :17.069
I’d get ahead of my homework for the week,
study for tests, read more, and my grades :17.069 --> :21.740
went up almost immediately. I ended up working
there until the end of the next summer and :21.740 --> :52.310
then focused on school, sports, and friends.Before
I go into why this specific nurse in my psychiatric
:52.310 --> :57.870 hospital deserved the googly eyes, I should
mention that this woman is an exception and :57.870 --> :03.040
the people working in psych hospitals are
generally great people. Psych hospitals (at :03.040 --> :07.660
least in countries with well-funded healthcare)
are a great resource to get better. :07.660 --> :14.740
3 years ago I (f24 at the time) spent a total
of 12 weeks in psychiatric hospital for severe :14.740 --> :20.990
depression and PTSD. On my second day during
a group feedback session a patient asked for :20.990 --> :26.980
a window to be opened. A nurse „The Wrinkle“,
named after the prominent scowl wrinkle between :26.980 --> :33.540
her eyebrows and the fact that her name rhymed,
responded „Are you dumb? It‘s February!“ :33.540 --> :40.170
I immediately hated her. She also regularly
made patients cry, insulted them, yelled at :40.170 --> :46.000
them for small mistakes, made up random rules
like no TV during meals even if everyone wanted :46.000 --> :51.839
to watch, and worst of all sent away patients
with serious problems if they disturbed her :51.839 --> :56.290
meal. She yelled at me (and others) while
I had a panic attack because she was busy :56.290 --> :02.190
with her dinner. Sorry if I interrupted you
with your job. We reported her multiple times :02.190 --> :07.100
but the Hospital couldn’t do anything because
she had a fixed contract and they already :07.100 --> :13.000
had a staffing shortage. With the complaints
not working, even her ignoring patient emergencies :13.000 --> :18.120
not having any consequences and us being unable
to do anything bad without risk of losing :18.120 --> :21.660
our treatment spots we were left with petty revenge.
:21.660 --> :28.910 So a patient friend (m26) and I bought a large
pack of googly eye stickers. We started putting :28.910 --> :34.540
googly eyes on the rule paper with random
new made up rules only applicable during her :34.540 --> :39.320
shift, that she hung on the office door, then
on her photo which hung in the lobby with :39.320 --> :45.230
all other employee photos. The Wrinkle started
angrily taking those down but we added new :45.230 --> :50.339
googly eyes during her every shift. Other
young patients started joining in by putting :50.339 --> :55.950
googly eyes in all common areas where she
was. The friendly dinosaur at the sink reminding :55.950 --> :02.020
you to wash your hands, the coffee machine,
the fridge, magnets on the timetable magnetboard, :02.020 --> :08.290
the calender, the entry sign and the office
door all got googly eyes. And it pissed The :08.290 --> :13.560
Wrinkle off. Every shift she would be too
preoccupied searching for all these taunting :13.560 --> :19.130
googly eyes to yell at patients. The doctors
and therapists (not knowing the reason for :19.130 --> :24.910
all the googly eyes) started encouraging us
to continue being silly and having fun decorating :24.910 --> :30.040
the ward. We all started sticking googly eyes
to our foreheads and running around like some :30.040 --> :36.060
sort of „mental patients“ from the psych
hospital (when in Rome…). The Wrinkle eventually :36.060 --> :38.850
retreated and left us patients alone. :38.850 --> :44.300
I left 4 weeks into our googly terror campaign
but patient friends reported that The Wrinkle :44.300 --> :50.040
soon left the ward. And even months after
I left my therapist still found random googly :50.040 --> :52.950
eyes and said they reminded him of us. :52.950 --> :57.589
As you can tell it‘s not all sad on the
depression ward. The patients have a lot of :57.589 --> :03.769
dark and silly humor and when you‘re bored,
have no reputation to lose and start to rediscover :03.769 --> :10.570
fun day to day life becomes very silly. Between
chubby-bunny-karaoke, rollerblade-tabletennis :10.570 --> :16.250
and jell-o-sculpting getting forcibly admitted
to the psych ward was (despite one mean nurse) :16.250 --> :54.360
a life saving and actually enjoyable experience.
We used to live in a duplex with a total asshole :54.360 --> :00.399
neighbor upstairs. They harassed us daily
in the worst way for months, classic shitty :00.399 --> :05.079
neighbor stuff with extra sprinkled on top.
Suddenly they started running their bath faucet :05.079 --> :11.390
for *hours* on end every day. One day we found
out they had been complaining their hot water :11.390 --> :16.330
"kept getting used up" and blamed us for "doing
too much laundry". Manager must have blown :16.330 --> :20.800
these off for a while because they knew we
didn't share a hot water heater just a water :20.800 --> :26.120
bill. Her complaining got so bad they started
asking us to check her heater temp. which :26.120 --> :28.139
we did and it was fine. :28.139 --> :33.709
After this went on for over a week i noticed
a pattern. After running the faucet all day, :33.709 --> :39.310
she'd turn it off for 20 mins or so, turn
it back on and for an hour or so, with no :39.310 --> :44.200
stomping upstairs. So we figured, that must be when she takes a shower.
:44.200 --> :49.800 The next day same thing, hours of running
water, then shut off. This time we went and :49.800 --> :56.950
turned the water heater to luke warm, not
off, but down. Within 5 minutes she was stomping :56.950 --> :02.910
up a storm and could be heard yelling upstairs,
screaming at the manger we "used all the hot :02.910 --> :08.660
water again". FINALLY this is when the manager
informed her it was impossible for us to use :08.660 --> :15.160
all her hot water because *she had her own
hot water tank*!!!! MORE stomping happens :15.160 --> :18.940
and she is having a fit. They tell her they
will send Maintenace out the next day while :18.940 --> :23.829
she's at work. The next morning when we wake
up, we just put her heater back to normal. :23.829 --> :28.790
Maintenance came, ran her hot water for almost
an hour without it running out. We had a good :28.790 --> :33.341
laugh about how she just used it all taking
a too long shower. She never ran the water :33.341 --> :38.740
that long again too and got kicked out a few
months later for harassment. Have other stories :38.740 --> :44.680
but not sure if they are actually "revenge"!
It's my first time posting here, English is :44.680 --> :00.839
not my first language and I'm not sure if this belongs in
:00.839 --> :05.790 this sub. :05.790 --> :11.440
This happened in a time span of 1 year around
8 years ago, things could be off but the main :11.440 --> :17.241
event remains vivid in my mind. For this story:
hr in our office will be Susan (because apparently :17.241 --> :24.529
we don't like Susan's), lazy assistant AH
will be LAH, LAH direct boss will be Tom...(other :24.529 --> :28.390
characters will come in play but they won't
be so relevant for the outcome) it's a long :28.390 --> :30.899
story but I'll try my best to summarize it. :30.899 --> :38.709
I was fresh out of college (22-23f), and looking
for a job in my field of expertise (law); :38.709 --> :43.900
one day my bf Patricia and I go to this huge
governmental office to submit out cvs to their :43.900 --> :50.399
work bank, to our luck Susan appears like
an angel and took our cvs, went on interviews :50.399 --> :55.149
and we both got hired. While Patricia started
with a better position as an assistant to :55.149 --> :01.360
one of the big dogs, I was stucked doing this
boring job of receiving and distributing files :01.360 --> :06.310
sitting in an office with Susan and someone
else, but it only lasted one month because :06.310 --> :10.890
soon I was working at the front desk with
the boss from that office acting as his hands :10.890 --> :17.290
right and....HAD A NEW AND BETTER CONTRACT, this is when sht start to bend.
:17.290 --> :22.291 Apparently Susan made a mistake when making
the contract from LAH and gave him the position :22.291 --> :28.680
from my new contract, so to avoid creating
chaos she gave me his position (not an issue :28.680 --> :35.190
at first); see his position earned a bit more
than mine and LAH was a pain in the butt because :35.190 --> :40.550
he disappeared from the building, locked his
files (so I couldn't provide people information :40.550 --> :46.270
about things handled in his office unless
I called his boss office), His digital cards :46.270 --> :50.890
where not updated.... The guy made my work
more difficult but I enjoyed throwing him :50.890 --> :52.220
out of the bus. :52.220 --> :57.949
One day Susan and LAH approached me to tell
me I needed to resign from my position so :57.949 --> :04.569
LAH could get his (earn more and do nothing)
and I could get mine (do everything and earn :04.569 --> :10.490
less), I said I would, but after dealing with
him for so long I was reconsidering; until :10.490 --> :15.760
this 2 decided to hunt me, try to make my
life miserable by putting others against me. :15.760 --> :20.709
I was done with them but being young with
the most innocent face, you wouldn't think :20.709 --> :26.600
I was plotting against you. So the last day
Susan warned me about resigning came.... PETTY :26.600 --> :27.800
REVENGE TIMEEEEEE! :27.800 --> :33.780
I worked at the front desk so no one was suspicious
if I was gone from my position because sometimes :33.780 --> :40.730
I needed to get files, talk to people, gather
info....I put over my shoulder lots of responsibilities,
:40.730 --> :47.480 so after Susan's last tirade I waltzed into
LAH bosses office and directly said I needed :47.480 --> :50.440
to speak to Tom, and it went like this: :50.440 --> :56.120
-OP: hey Tom I'm having and issue with LAH
and Susan; they tell me I need to resign from :56.120 --> :02.290
my position so it can be given to him, but
that's not the issue, the issue is that LAH :02.290 --> :05.600
is not doing his job... (Before I could continue) :05.600 --> :12.140
*Tom: I know, I also have issues with LAH,
my work is behind, everything is a mess and :12.140 --> :17.781
my assistants complain about him...give me
a sec...going to call big dog A(biggest dog :17.781 --> :20.870
from that area) and big dog B..... :20.870 --> :27.230
Tom calls both of them and what seemed small
at first turned into the biggest fk u meeting :27.230 --> :28.240
from that year 😂 :28.240 --> :32.570
*Tom: ok they are coming but I also want Susan in here.
:32.570 --> :40.530 15 mins and Tom's office is full with tension,
3 angry big dogs, an impressed OP and a not :40.530 --> :43.419
so smuggy and scared Susan. :43.419 --> :49.380
*Tom: OP came here and said that she is required
by Susan to resign...(wild Susan tries to :49.380 --> :54.640
interrupt) so big dogs, after I filled you
in with the tea, what are your insights? :54.640 --> :00.530
+Big dog B: we are proud that OP said something,
but Susan, you have been working here for :00.530 --> :06.360
15 years, I had mad respect for you but now I'm disappointed. What happened?
:06.360 --> :12.760 -Susan: I made a mistake with the positions
and as LAH is Tom's assistant he should have :12.760 --> :17.610
OP's contract and vice versa. OP said she agreed to the switch.
:17.610 --> :22.919 *Tom: ofcourse OP would agree, you are terrorizing
her, she is afraid of 2 older people plotting :22.919 --> :28.820
against her. And as I know everything that
happens at the main desks office; LAH and :28.820 --> :35.640
OP will keep contracts as they are because
LAH is not fulfilling his responsibilities :35.640 --> :42.610
and you made a mistake, not OP...thank you
everyone, you may leave....NINAAA (his secretary) :42.610 --> :45.230
call LAH, I want him here NOW! :45.230 --> :50.681
and off we left to a land of dirty looks,
3 people from the 30 that worked at main desk :50.681 --> :57.520
not talking to me, reputations lost, and a
happy OP left alone at last having her first :57.520 --> :59.890
victory in that mined field. :59.890 --> :03.919
I resigned a couple of months later after
someone from the same building went into my :03.919 --> :09.659
office saying her boss wanted to interview
me that same day (I went, we spoke and I was :09.659 --> :14.300
instantly hired, but I lasted 1 month because
someone else in the same building offered :14.300 --> :18.530
me a better position with the biggest dogs in the country).
:18.530 --> :38.000 I have a couple of stories about that hell
hole. there was :38.000 --> :47.470 this
guy i talked to last year. i let him treat :47.470 --> :52.950
me like shit because i just wanted companionship
. i didn’t want to be alone and sometimes :52.950 --> :58.169
i genuinely had a good time with him, but
it was mostly him being mean and talking about :58.169 --> :00.980
how every other woman was more attractive than me. :00.980 --> :05.810
i’m also pretty positive he had a black
girl fetish. he only liked me to have sex :05.810 --> :11.039
with me, but the other girls he compared me
to were all white. i had no self respect and :11.039 --> :12.480
it still haunts me. :12.480 --> :17.680
today, i opened my snapchat and saw someone
requested to be my friend. it was him. :17.680 --> :22.669
when he and i stopped talking last year, he
posted a picture of him and his recent girlfriend. :22.669 --> :28.029
i asked him to smoke and he said he was trying
monogamy (lol) which was fine by me because :28.029 --> :31.340
at the time i was building a connection with my current partner.
:31.340 --> :36.140 it’s weird because it wasn’t me being
jealous in the way of me wanting to be with :36.140 --> :41.230
him, but jealous in the way of him not seeing
me as a real human with real emotions the :41.230 --> :45.900
way he viewed her. when we stopped talking,
the last thing i said was “you weren’t :45.900 --> :50.200
a very good friend” (so fucking lame) and then i removed him.
:50.200 --> :54.900
anyway, i need some advice or different viewpoints:
should i accept him and let him see how much :54.900 --> :59.270
my life has improved without him? there’s
also a picture of my current partner holding :59.270 --> :04.770
my niece on my story so it makes the idea
of adding him even more compelling because :04.770 --> :07.970
i’d be hilarious if he thought she was my
child.A friend of mine, Anne, lives in an :07.970 --> :09.150
urban area that, like most, has its good neighborhoods
and bad. Whenever she goes out she makes sure :09.150 --> :10.940
to be aware of her surroundings. :10.940 --> :13.630
One time Anne stopped at a gas station that
was not the best area, but not the worst, :13.630 --> :15.590
either. As she pulled in she noticed a van
pulling in behind her. They stopped at the :15.590 --> :16.602
pump in back of her, but no one stepped out of the van to pump gas.
:16.602 --> :17.602 Anne, who is all of 5'2" and 98 pounds soaking
wet does look like the classic profile of :17.602 --> :19.380
a potential female victim. So, she keeps an
eye on the van as she pumps gas and goes to :19.380 --> :22.040
wash her windshield. Suddenly to men jump
out of the van and try to grab ahold of her. :22.040 --> :23.950
How were those poor slobs to know Anne is
a retired Army officer, trained in all manner :23.950 --> :24.950
of self defense, such as making a weapon of
anything at hand. After those two thugs get :24.950 --> :25.950
back in the van Anne drives off as fast as
she can. She does report the incident to the :25.950 --> :26.950
police. I'm not sure if they were ever caught,
but I know at least one of them had a lovely :26.950 --> :27.950
black eye. :27.950 --> :28.950
While this has a funny ending, I can't emphasize
enough be aware of your surroundings and know :28.950 --> :29.950
how to escape.This happened in early December last year.
:29.950 --> :33.870 I’m driving home from school one afternoon,
and I accidentally cut off a lady in a bigass :33.870 --> :38.669
Suburban. I quickly got back into my original
lane and waved an apology after she honked :38.669 --> :43.751
at me. I was a bit tired, so I missed her
in my blind spot. I thought that would be :43.751 --> :49.990
the end of it, but boy was I wrong. My one
careless move triggered a series of road rage :49.990 --> :54.789
incidents from her that I never thought anyone would be capable of resorting to.
:54.789 --> :01.530
First, this woman speeds around me and aggressively
cuts me off and brake checks me VERY hard. :01.530 --> :06.570
Mind you, the speed limit was 45 mph, and
I was already doing 50 mph. She had to be :06.570 --> :11.830
passing me at no less than 70 mph. I gave
her some room in case she brake checks me :11.830 --> :18.659
again, which she did, bringing our whole lane
down to 15 mph all while flipping me off outside :18.659 --> :24.080
her window. I have a dashcam, so even if I
hit her, I could’ve taken the insurance :24.080 --> :29.000
payout, but dealing with insurance is too
much of a hassle, and I love my car, so I :29.000 --> :30.380
didn’t want to damage it. :30.380 --> :36.210
Other cars start passing us, so I try to do
the same, but she dives in front of me again. :36.210 --> :41.390
Eventually, she lets me pass and I wave her
sorry again, which she responds to with the :41.390 --> :46.700
finger. Finally, we stop at a red light, and
she pulls alongside me yelling at me to “roll :46.700 --> :53.020
down your fucking window you n-word (I’m not even black)” Of course, I don’t in
:53.020 --> :55.130 case she pulls something out on me.
:55.130 --> :59.510 Other cars are honking at her for blocking
my adjacent lane while yelling at me, but :59.510 --> :04.490
she gives zero shits. Once the light turns
green, I make a loop around the block to try :04.490 --> :09.809
and lose her but to no avail. I even haul
ass down an open road to see if she gives :09.809 --> :16.820
up. My car is heavily modded so it can comfortably
smoke her SUV, but she persists. I’m thinking, :16.820 --> :21.740
“What kind of person has this much time on a weekday to follow someone around?”
:21.740 --> :26.490 Had I driven home, she could’ve come back
later and did god knows what. So finally, :26.490 --> :28.380
I resort to calling the cops. :28.380 --> :33.190
Unfortunately, I’m right at the boundary
of three counties, so I get bounced around :33.190 --> :38.940
dispatchers for about 5 minutes before finally
ending up with the right jurisdiction. I explain :38.940 --> :43.820
my situation, and the dispatcher directs me
to drive toward the nearest police precinct :43.820 --> :46.720
while an officer tries to intercept us. :46.720 --> :51.429
During the conversation with the dispatcher,
she is still flipping me off, and the dispatcher :51.429 --> :56.570
can hear her honking… that’s how close she was tailgating me. It’s been over 30
:56.570 --> :02.330 minutes since the original incident. Seriously,
who the f*ck has this much time? I stay calm :02.330 --> :07.159
and continue to relay to the dispatcher where I am as I pass intersections.
:07.159 --> :13.620 Finally, after what felt like an eternity,
I saw a Dodge Charger speeding up behind us. :13.620 --> :18.381
I couldn’t tell if it was a patrol car as
it appeared to be an undercover vehicle. No :18.381 --> :23.220
blues and reds yet, so I confirmed with the
dispatcher if there was an officer behind :23.220 --> :29.430
us. It was! Once I saw the lights come on,
I pulled over and she promptly followed. :29.430 --> :36.070
As I parked in some church lot, this fatass
dove out of her car, and only THEN, she notices :36.070 --> :41.780
the Christmas Tree of lights behind us. The
look on her face was PRICELESS. And what does :41.780 --> :47.929
this dumbass do? She darts towards the officer’s
car. The officer quickly commanded her to :47.929 --> :53.680
stop, which this bag of meat seemed to understand.
Not long after, his corporal and another officer :53.680 --> :54.680
arrived. :54.680 --> :59.060 Now, I’m still sitting in my car waiting
for the officer to come to me. I hear the :59.060 --> :04.030
bitch making up some bullshit story, and in
a few minutes, he comes up to my window to :04.030 --> :09.950
hear my side. The moment I stepped out of
my car to talk to him, she yells at me “you :09.950 --> :15.390
fucking suck at driving!” This was retaliated
by the officer yelling at the woman. I told :15.390 --> :20.850
him my side, and about all the brake checking
and racial slurs, and she obviously denied :20.850 --> :25.690
it. The instant when I mentioned that it was all on dashcam, her face went pale.
:25.690 --> :30.750 The officer saw all the brake checks, excessive
speed, and tailgating once I pulled up the :30.750 --> :35.840
footage on my phone, and he then asked me
if I wanted to press charges. Of course I :35.840 --> :42.260
did! They searched her SUV and found an unregistered
Glock underneath the driver’s seat, AND :42.260 --> :47.399
a tiny bag of weed (which isn’t legal in
my state). This woman got arrested for reckless :47.399 --> :52.590
driving, endangerment, possession of marijuana,
and a couple of other things! I was just told :52.590 --> :17.380
to drive carefully with no ticket! This
occurred in September, last year. I was making :17.380 --> :23.640
a routine lunch delivery to the hospital nearby.
The customer didn't provide any delivery instructions
:23.640 --> :25.419 other than to call when I arrived.
:25.419 --> :31.290 I called and called. No reply. Waited and
waited. In that instance, we leave the food :31.290 --> :36.700
in a safe place, in this case at the admissions desk, and notify the customer.
:36.700 --> :42.820 About 5 minutes later, I started getting furious
texts from this person. "Where's my food? :42.820 --> :48.090
I told you where to bring it, you goddamn
moron, not to leave it there! This is all :48.090 --> :50.510
your fault! You're a f**king idiot" :50.510 --> :56.580
I apologize profusely despite her incessant
lies that she said where to leave it. And :56.580 --> :02.090
her swearing at me. Five minutes go by and
I get notified that she claims she never received :02.090 --> :04.750
the food and left a negative rating. :04.750 --> :10.539
So I contacted support to address the rating
and since I was nearby, returned to the delivery :10.539 --> :13.529
location to find out what happened to the order. :13.529 --> :18.899
When I arrive, the admissions desk personnel
tell me this individual came down in a huff :18.899 --> :22.340
cussing and took the food and it's on camera. :22.340 --> :27.090
Door dash is on with the customer who is texting
that someone stole it and she refuses to pay :27.090 --> :31.220
for it. I knew that the order name was Russian, unusual.
:31.220 --> :36.190 Door dash says if I can verify it was received,
they will remove the rating. Admissions people :36.190 --> :38.830
notify an Admin to come talk to me. :38.830 --> :44.000
The admin contacts hospital security who speaks
to me, then decides to go ask the nurse to :44.000 --> :49.039
pay for the order. They talked to her, she
refused. They said that they might be forced :49.039 --> :53.370
to notify the police and she said, "go ahead" to hospital security!!!!
:53.370 --> :59.130 Anywho, the police are contacted, I file a
brief statement for theft of services and :59.130 --> :03.860
a female detective reached out to me a few
weeks later. I said, "Do you really think :03.860 --> :09.159
it's worth pursuing such a small amount?"
and she reminded me of her vindictive texts :09.159 --> :15.890
and how she was offered multiple opportunities
to avoid charges and she refused. She literally :15.890 --> :17.750
came after me. Hard. :17.750 --> :19.669
My mind was instantly made up. :19.669 --> :23.940
The detective said she would go to her house
first but if she wasn't home, she'd arrest :23.940 --> :28.340
her at the hospital. It was misdemeanor fraud and something else.
:28.340 --> :33.669 Then months went by. Heard nothing back. Then
got an email from the court on Tuesday asking :33.669 --> :16.720
for my address where to send the check for restitution and she pled guilty. | give me a good story on rProRevengeIGOTANURSEARRESTEDFORFRAUDRedditStoriesen |
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today we've got a great Revenge story against a gas station clerk who refuses
to sell something we'll get into that in a bit but first stop charging your darn
phones I'm going to try and keep this brief I work in a factory in Belgium
that processes raw food materials because these products are in powder
form we have a serious risk of dust explosions so operators are not allowed
to charge their non-explosive safe phones in the production Hall they keep
doing it anyway I told them stop doing it it's an explosion risk they keep
doing it so I started disconnecting the power outlets we don't use them only for
technical usage oh and I work in the technical department so I'm not a random
dude disconnecting power outlets they call me and say hey dude the outlets
aren't working and here comes my Petty Revenge I get to say you don't need them
for your day-to-day job what were you using them for but I'll make a work
order to reconnect them and I'll make sure to mention to the supervisor why
you need them I know it's Petty but I was fed up and it's a darn safety issue
it's not even Petty it's literally looking out for the safety of all these
people and the business if anybody above op found out what op did they would be
celebrating them our next story is crouching cheater hidden Revenge I found
out my fiance was cheating on me when I was eight months pregnant a bit of a
hard blow now for context this guy was a wealthy guy and he liked nice things he
had a lot of expensive high-end clothing now I'm not a Revenge Type person and I
don't like conflict or repercussions and
I was in a pretty vulnerable position so after I asked him to leave I went and
got all of his suit trousers and carefully loosened and picked the
stitches around the crotch and seat area this wasn't really noticeable however
any bending or crouching they would have split wide open I never got to see or
even hear about this but I know it must have happened it was a slight source of
comfort sadly I'm willing to bet it was over some mundane thing like maybe
before they were going out anywhere they went to bend over and tie their shoe or
something you'd love for it to be like in the middle of a huge event though
this next story is entitled students thought they were playing me they were
mistaken so a few years ago I was teaching a private Urban religious
College since I only had my Ms I was thankful for the opportunity to teach
and get the experience before I moved on for my PhD the school usually had me
Teach accelerated night courses which were aimed on non-traditional Learners
read adults going back to school after many years off I loved my students and
had a blast teaching them I had some issues with a few here and there but
generally my experiences were really positive but there was this one couple
let's call them Hannah and Larry that semester I'd been asked to cover a more
traditional course at the last minute rather than being accelerated it meant
three times a week for an hour all semester furthermore the last was very
small only about four students which would have been fine small classes can
be great and a paycheck was a paycheck if it hadn't been for Hannah and Larry
you see this couple had attendance issues to put it mildly they would show
up to a class or two and then just vanish for a week or more with no word
just when I suspected they were gone for good they'd show up usually with some
excuse or another medical issues car problems work etc at first I try to be
sympathetic I always have the attitude that life happens and when it rains it
pours sometimes but at a certain point I
began to grow a bit suspicious they were selling me a story okay I was
immediately suspicious but I'm usually inclined to let things lie to a certain
point same as my professors did for me this was all the worst because of the
small nature of the class every time I did prep for a session assuming all four
would be present they'd Skip and throw my plans off but when I just accepted
they would be gone and prepare activities for two students they'd show
up all of this would be frustrating but acceptable if it weren't for two things
one whenever they showed up these two would have an attitude about them and
just expect everyone to conform to their presence and bend to their will and two
they of course weren't doing any of the work and these two factors came to a
head as Hannah who was the louder and more confident of the two of them would
all but demand extensions the ability to
hand in late work etc I'd give them only for both her and Larry to blow the work
off again I like to be pretty accommodating to my students within
reason but it quickly became obvious that Hannah thought she was playing me
and could get whatever she wanted and that couldn't stand I have some level of
Pride and hate being seen as a pushover now I could have crushed them
immediately and just said no more late work but I was sure Hannah would just
throw a fit and go to Administration I knew the admin would back me up but it
was a hassle I really didn't want I was working on a second Ms at this point and
working two other jobs I was frothing at the mouth busy at that point and hadn't
even planned on teaching that semester I only agreed because they needed me and
besides I'm a pretty easy going guy but I do have my limits I was pissed at this
point but I also have a wicked to me sense of humor Hannah wants to think she
has me wrapped around her finger okay let her think that I was gonna hand her
enough rope to hang herself with so for the past few weeks whenever she asked
for an extension I'd smile and say sure and then chuckle when nothing came in
every time I wrote her and Larry emails reminding them of the new date getting
things in writing is key kids and then we arrived at the final I hadn't seen
the twosome in a few sessions and was actually surprised to see them stumble
in to take the test they failed of course but what you gonna do Hannah
comes up to me in front of the class and
asks for another extension I put my best teacher voice on and said I was
disappointed but fine life happens however I was posting grades the next
weekend so the absolute last minute I would accept any late was Friday at 11
59 PM the second it hit midnight my books were closed I asked if they both
understood and they summoned up a bit of solemnness when they assured me that
they did good I confirmed it in an email and then sat back to grade the Finals
over the week I mean there were only four it wasn't that much work I knew
there was a risk that they'd follow through and I'd end up with a semester's
worth of work to grade but I was feeling pretty confident that that wasn't going
to happen at this point Friday night rolls around I didn't work my other jobs
that day and my own school work was done
so I decided to buy a few beers and kick back to play some video games and relax
I look down at a certain point and realize that it's midnight I open my
email remind everyone that the books are now closed if I give an extension it's
open to the whole class I'm not playing favorites not that anyone else needed it
I cracked open another beer let out my best super villain laugh and went back
to my game Sunday comes around and I'm posting the final grades for the
semester I usually hate failing students but I admit I had a smile on my face as
I assigned Hannah and Larry their well-deserved F's 10 minutes after I hit
save for the grades I hear The Familiar bading of my email going off followed by
another now who could this be it is of course Hannah and Larry Larry's email
can best be summed up as oh my God didn't you get my email with the work I
sent it on Friday Hannah's said the exact same thing now it's obvious
they're thinking they can get another day or two you to get the work this way
after all hadn't I been so pliant and naive all semester oh the fools the
fools they've played right into my hands
and this is the moment I've been waiting weeks for I double checked to make sure
I hadn't missed emails from them just to be safe I hadn't and then I typed my
response no I didn't and I did just double check after your last message
that's okay emails get lost sometime at this point I'd like to image Larry's
smiling while reading this he'd won again God this professor is an idiot I
continued so what I'm going to need you to do is go back into the email you sent
me with the work just take a screenshot which has the timestamp of the email and
forward that to me along with the work that'll prove you sent it on time I then
responded to Hannah's email saying the same thing what was their response did
their eyes widen as they realized they'd been held accountable for their actions
did Panic set in were there tears Powells of regret the gnashing of teeth
and rending of air sadly I'll never know I never heard from them again they
didn't even bother making another try and me well I decided to buy some more
beer that night to celebrate once again occasionally I'll tell my current
students the tail a humorous reminder that one yes I'm accommodating two yes
I'm pretty laid back but three I'm not an idiot and don't try to play me it
usually gets a good laugh and if some of
those laughs sound a wee bit nervous all
the better I mean when you read and hear this story you can't help but
acknowledge that op gave them every possible chance I mean op bent over
backwards and some for these people I mean regardless of whatever their
situation is you know if they just couldn't keep up on it or if they were
just being lazy Opie did what they could our next story is raw raw Rasputin my
mom has a very Eastern European name and my paternal grandmother hated that her
baby boy married someone with such a weird name it's clearly not an English
name but it is well known in English-speaking countries like Helga
when my parents announced they were having a baby my grandma's first comment
was you better not give it one of those weird European names so naturally my
parents started referring to me as Rasputin and kept their name choices
secret mom and dad also kept my gender secret which drove Grandma insane and
made her heckish to deal with on top of the name thing my parents were done with
this BS by the time I came along and wanted some Revenge my maternal Grandma
who was Ukrainian had made me a baby hat with traditional Ukrainian embroidery
when I was born my parents let the nurses in on their Revenge plan and
asked them to swaddle me in a blue blanket instead of a pink or white one
and put the Hat on for me when my paternal grandparents came to the
hospital to meet me grandma walks in sees my hat and then my mom says meet
your grandson Rasputin we got attached to the name during the pregnancy grandma
was not impressed every photo of her she
has the most impressive cat butt face my parents and the nurses kept this ruse
for two hours the nurses going so far as to ask how's little Razzie doing when
they'd come into the room after a while mum couldn't keep it going anymore and
while my grandpa was holding me next to mum's bed she told them I'm actually a
girl and my real very normal name he was a prankster especially when it annoyed
his wife so she knew he'd appreciate the joke until he passed away my grandpa's
nickname for me was Razzie much to my grandma's annoyance I mean this is a
pretty funny story and also it's kind of adorable that it birthed the thing
between Opie and their grandpa for the entire time they had together the little
Razzy thing is pretty darn cute our next story is your photo is missing sorry
every year here at our high school the video productions class will put
together an entire video called the senior video of the current senior class
in their best moments from now all the way back to Elementary along with a few
student and teacher interviews to stop the thing from turning into a massive
slideshow the thing is supposed to be 30 minutes long and the video productions
class is supposed to take the entire school year to make it due to some
unfortunate teacher switching and lazy students it wasn't done so I was called
upon with less than a month until swing out to finish from an empty timeline and
no student pictures or videos let's meet
our villain let's call him Andrew Andrew is one of those people who try and
actively make your life a living heck for no other reason than it being funny
he would Point me out of a crowd and call me short imagine hey you see that
guy over there he's a senior and he's as tall as a freshman which to be fair I
was the fourth shortest senior out of our graduating class and I did did find
it funny when my friends made jokes about my height but Andrew was malicious
he would joke with his entire friend group about my height call me a dwarf
Etc one thing he would do was try and make me angry and then he would ask why
I was angry and Gaslight me into thinking I was overreacting a specific
example that comes to mind is when I called a rubber band a drive shaft
offhandedly because I was describing to my friend how my project car would move
forwards by winding a rubber band Andrew
overheard me and actively witched me out telling me that I was wrong and stupid
for 10 minutes straight imagine if I was looking down at my desk working on a
worksheet and Andrew was in the seat next to me leaning over and criticizing
my incorrect use of the word rubber band of course when I finally got angry can
you leave me alone dude he then proceeded to say all I was doing was
pointing out your mistake why are you overreacting Andrew would also go to his
friends and tell them all about how I have a short fuse
and was overreacting remember this senior video the teacher who knew
nothing about editing don't even know why she was the teacher wanted to put in
a slideshow at the very end of every single senior along with their names
pain in the butt to do but okay oh wait I'm the only editor on this project I
see Andrew's name along with a senior photo what would happen if I did a
little trolling I delete his name along with his senior photo from the entire
school's senior repository not from like the system so he doesn't graduate or
anything from a folder that the yearbook classes use no more Andrew for the
senior video yearbook wall banners Etc of course all of those things minus the
senior video were already printed so it wasn't actually that bad but now I had
plausible deniability I didn't put Andrew's name in the video yo because I
didn't see him in the repository senior video gets exported albeit 10 minutes
shorter than it's supposed to be everybody watches it during swing out
and Andrew is left confused he had to watch all of his friends and classmates
scroll by the screen without him he comes up to me afterwards and asks hey
why wasn't I in the senior video sorry man I didn't see you in the list I think
he knew something was up but I'm graduated now so sucks to suck man plus
it's such a small thing that I removed him from that nobody would really care
it's just Petty you know in high school I was never really outgoing I wasn't
very social I had my very select group of friends so it wouldn't have been
surprising if I was missing from like a senior video but I would still feel kind
of disappointed if I didn't pop up at least somewhere even just mildly in the
background imagine the disappointment when you literally do not appear at all
especially when they show a photo of every C senior student at the end seem
to have gotten on his nerves a little bit our next story is Burger King
manager story many moons ago I worked at Burger King as an hourly manager while
in college I like the job I could do three or four shifts a week when I was
in school and it was really easy to be full time when school was out as I would
cover vacations for both my store and other nearby stores at one point the
store manager changed and the new guy was a piece of work he had been a
manager with Burger King for about 20 years after he'd been at the store for a
week I saw why he never got promoted he did no work nobody liked him he
complained about everyone he would give staff a hard time and most amazingly he
had this way of disrupting the service line that made everyone tell him they
had it under control and he should go back to his office I used to volunteer
to close on holidays and stuff I mean I was a college student in one of the
hours also this was the 80s so closing time on days like New Year's Eve and
Xmas Eve was 8 P.M or earlier when it was really slow closing New Year's Eve
included a bit more work as we had to do a full inventory and significant
paperwork the first time I did this I worked with the old store manager and
she was great we both worked hard and we were done in 90 minutes flat she also
showed me how to do the paperwork I had done the next two New Year's Eve's
closes by myself including the paperwork the year after that when store manager
had been at the store for like four months store manager decided he was
going to close New Year's Eve with me I was pissed as I wanted to be at a
friend's New Year's Eve party by 11 30 pm and I knew he would make it take
forever that shouldn't have been an issue but this guy was a grade a schmuck
I'm pretty sure he worked this shift on purpose because he knew I would do all
the work and he could just sit on his butt and take all the credit I did speak
with him a little bit during the shift telling him about the party he wanted to
go to he shared that he told his wife he would be home by midnight so they could
welcome the New Year together since there were two of us he didn't schedule
an extra staff member as I expected he sat on us took us all shift so inventory
didn't start until we closed we finished that up at about 11 pm and start on the
paperwork he insists he has to do it when I asked to leave he tells me I have
to stay so I can watch him do the paperwork I asked why but he was just
being a jerk so I stayed he was the slowest person with the paperwork I had
ever seen it's now 11 30 and he's barely halfway through I want to get to my
friend's party before midnight so I ask if I can finish the paperwork at home
sharing that I will bring it to my shift
tomorrow night since the paperwork isn't
collected right away the delay shouldn't
be an issue he agrees and I grab all the paperwork and punch out and head home I
do the paperwork and as promised bring it into my next shift later that week
I'm working when the district manager is there I had a great relationship with
him he loved that I would help cover at other stores even last minute when I
could I asked him how to report the time I worked at home on the year-end
paperwork he gives me the strangest look and just says something like huh so I
tell him the story of our clothes that night he was pissed two days later I
come in for my shift and I'm told that we'll be getting a new store manager
next week the old one was fired I did a little dance which was fine since the
assistant manager who told me the news was smiling I talked to the district
manager later about what happened he said that the store manager was on
probation for all of the problems that were happening at the store including
many that had happened prior to him transferring to the store my story was
just the last straw it was then that I realized I got my revenge even though I
hadn't realized I was doing so until it was too late yeah this guy was already
on a pretty slippery slope from the sounds of it I mean this guy was putting
in bare minimum effort trying to find shortcuts allowing people to take
shortcuts that should not have been allowed this guy was doomed from the
get-go our next story is another post reminds me of my own teacher student
Petty Revenge moment years ago I taught very specific skills training at a local
vocational College it was rare for the school to actually fail anyone even with
terrible attendance failing tests incompetence yeah frustrating for
instructors and for students who actually tried and did well most
students were amazing and I really missed that aspect of the job and even
keep in touch with some of them professionally classes were 12 to 40
students if above 24 or so I would have a co-teacher in every group there were
often one or two maybe three bad apples in this class of 26 there were 2. let's
call them A and B they had terrible attendance failed tests were generally
incompetent but knew the school would pass them and sure enough they both did
get their diploma several years later I was at a job site and in walks B with a
resume B sees me talking with owner and manager can I just say that I had a
really really hard time not busting into laughter at the look on B's face I was
however professional and courteous as B handed over the resume and left after
which the manager turns to me and asks if B was a former student of mine to
which I replied with yes yes they were dead serious face manager says so what
are you then just sees my face and says oh I see thank you resume goes directly
into Shredder we all move on with our meeting later that evening at home I'll
admit I did a little happy dance there was a year in my life where I did go to
a vocational type college and although I finished with great attendance great
grades there was no like degree for me at the end and I realized I had spent a
year of my life just learning how to fake it till you make it to try to land
a job and look hirable I even got an internship at some place and I realized
I was so in over my head I didn't understand how to do any of that job it
was essentially a year-long crash course on how to look like you know what you
were doing our next story is my mom got her Petty Revenge by breaking my
father's hand whilst she gave birth to their first child so I don't know how
Petty this is but I had to get this off of my chest because I'm so proud for 15
years my mother was in an abusive relationship with my father on and off
she kept leaving him because of his abuse towards her and then he kept
manipulating her to get back with him my
mother was pregnant with her first child me and went to the hospital as she went
into labor my mother has said medical condition which which meant there was a
50 50 chance she could or couldn't die during childbirth I can tell this was a
scary time for her she told me that although there was 20 people in the room
all had different Specialties also were British so very fortunate she didn't
have to worry about paying for this labor is very painful itself but the
medical condition she had would make childbirth even more painful due to this
she had to have a lot more pain relief this is where my mother decided she
would get her revenge my father arrived to the hospital 20 minutes after she got
there and I was the only birth he turned up for my mother pretended the pain
relief wasn't working my father reached out his arm and my mom grabbed his hand
because the pain relief wasn't working she kept pushing his hand until it broke
my father had to go next door to A and E to get it fixed every time my mother
told that story right up until the night she died she would say it with Mile and
she was so proud of it I've heard and witnessed a lot of pettiness but this
beats them all I mean whether or not the pain relief was or wasn't working you
can't really blame them for in that situation pushing on their hands at that
point all I can say is I have a lot of respect for people who undergo
childbirth our next story is smile for the camera boys back in the pre-cell
phone VHS tape era my friends and I were renting a house next door to entitled
jerks we were late 20s professionals just getting started in our careers they
were stereotypical college guys lots of parties with music and drinking but our
house had good sound proofing and we had both their driveway and our driveway
between us so no big deal the problem happened when football season started we
were near the stadium in the entitled jerks decided to make some extra money
by selling parking spots not just in their driveway an hour driveway too we
told them to stop doing that they did it again we put trash cans in the way they
moved them and did it again we told them that if they didn't stop it we'd have
any cars in our driveway towed their justification was but you're not using
the driveway they did it again we called a different tow company for each of the
five cars that they had parked the entitled jerks freaked out and started
pounding on our door I reminded them that they'd been warned twice and had
persistently sold something that didn't belong to them I told the entitled jerks
that they could either pay the tow truck drivers for the call out or deal with
angry customers who had been towed and impounded the entitled jerks pay the tow
trucks we're talking roughly a hundred dollars per car cash that night the
entitled jerks got very drunk they spray painted our house and tore open a bunch
of trash bags and dumped them on our porch as I'd said this was before
ubiquitous cameras and security surveillance but since we were kind of
expecting trouble with the entitled jerk I'd borrowed a video camera from work
and hooked it up to a VHS recorder with an 8 Hour tape none of them noticed the
video camera that we had covering our driveway and porch the entitled jerks
each got a misdemeanor charge of malicious destruction our landlord got
the cleaning costs out of their landlord who got it out of the entitled jerks
before terminating their lease I love that in this situation op knew the
writing on the wall and did what they could to make sure that they were
covered and I don't blame them for wanting to keep their driveway empty
even if they don't use it I mean just the fact that these jerks are trying to
profit off of your driveway sucks our next story is gas station guy wouldn't
sell me blunts on my birthday so now I act like I can't hear him I recently had
my 37th birthday in the state I reside it's my constitutional right to have
marijuana recreationally decided I wanted to smoke a few blunts so I went
to my local gas station to buy some white owls I go to the counter and ask
for a pack the employee I'll call him Dave asks for my ID I give it to him and
he walks to the back wall and grabs them
then he says in a very sarcastic tone Oh sorry buddy I can't sell them to you
good luck next time though I'm confused so I ask why he tells me my license is
expired he gives it back smirksen says sorry to ruin your birthday I've worked
with the public including a gas station so I know people are jerks and the job
sucks so I calmly asked really he laughed a little and said yes I left
empty-handed and a little annoyed by the
minor inconvenience inflicted upon me on my day of birth a few weeks later I go
to the same gas station for the same product and Dave is working he walks to
the back wall turns and asks got your card it's allergy season and I'm really
congested so my hearing actually does suck certain times of the year I wanted
to be a hundred percent sure I heard him him correctly so I said excuse me in
that very sarcastic tone he repeats what
he said but this time I definitely heard him but I also heard the annoyance in
his voice so I reply my car no I didn't get any gas this time he lets out a very
loud sigh and says ID do you have your ID at that exact moment a customer
walked in and the door made that dinging sound so I took the opportunity to keep
going with it and say I'm sorry buddy I just can't hear you he Stomps over and
asks again I politely say yes then proceed to take as long as humanly
possible to dig my license out of my wallet we proceed with a transaction
without further incident now every time I go in and ask for those I pretend I
can't hear him but do so in the most polite way possible it seems to drive
him crazy Dave will now forever feel the
plight of my Petty Revenge a few details I forgot to add bad I don't think they
have to card every time in the state the night shift guy and the manager have
never carded me Dave's never carded my 30 year old wife I'm not wanting Dave to
risk a fine or his job it was a bummer he wouldn't sell to me it's my fault
with a license and all it's more how he laughed and mocked me about it for
seemingly no reason after looking through the comments I realized it had
until the end of the day before it expired Dave you were wrong like op said
I know that it's not a glamorous job to work and maybe you had some terrible
customers all day long but it just tells you more the character of this guy more
than the job for him to act like that and get such enjoyment out of denying
somebody that this guy was just a terrible person who through and through
enjoyed and just derived pleasure from putting other people down that said
though that's all the time we have for today now if you want to hear another
awesome Revenge story check out that video on the left or if you missed my
latest video check out that video on the right that said I'll see you all next
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aita for saying no to my sister and her family staying with us after a house
fire my sister and her family lost their family home in a house fire 3 weeks ago
it happened in the middle of the night and initially stayed with our parents on
night one but our parents have a one-bedroom house and space was not
optimal for that so they asked if they could stay with my wife and I and our
kids we said no we said no for mostly one reason but kind of two for about
2.53 years now my sister has been so tough on my wife when it comes to what
way she SL we feed our kids she focuses on my wife far more than me but it does
come back on me too we don't keep sugar or junk food from our kids we don't
deprive them of that we simply keep things balanced we make veggie pancakes
we make healthier pizzas we allow snacks like chocolate ice cream or cake we
offer our kids sauces and not all of them are homemade but some are my sister
is so judgmental about it she didn't let any of her kids have any kind of junk
snack until they reached school and they
can only eat something like chocolate at birthday parties and they limit the
number of those they can attend in close proximity so they don't get two days of
junk food in a week or more than 3 days of junk food a month my sister or her
husband will also stay at parties even once the 10-year-old is invited to to
make sure they go for the salad over the
pizza if they have the chips and candies my sister | give me a good story on AITAforsayingnotomysisterandherfamilystayingwithusafterahousefireorig |
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people who separated divorced within one year of getting married when did you
know it was a mistake honeymoon we dated for 5 years but on the honeymoon we had
a big argument over my liberal use of sunscreen she refused to wear any
because of chemicals and I liberally use it due to my Ginger skin we seriously
argued over this for a good hour and she
refused to even go into the pool with me because of sunscreen chemicals after a
scuba adventure with her she could hardly walk because she got so burnt on
her legs whereas my skin didn't change she then tried to convince me that it
was all my fault because I didn't force her to wear the sunscreen and that the
honeymoon was ruined it was then I realized I picked the wrong person after
a few more psycho arguments mad at me because of something in her dreams mad
because I didn't remind her to bring an umbrella I had to call it quits I can't
stay with someone who constantly blames me for their own problems luckily no
kids and I got back everything I brought into the marriage | give me a good story on PeoplewhodivorcedwithinayearofgettingmarriedWhendidyouknowitwasamistake |
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aita for not giving random people who were probably my grocery delivery guy my
address we needed groceries so we ordered online directly through a local
grocery chain initially everything seemed like it was going well I could
see the notifications that shopping had started Etc about 30 minutes before the
estimated delivery time my delivery was complete there was no delivery 40
minutes later I got a text from a random number saying I'm your driver there was
a problem with the app I don't have your address please give it to me I was
slightly high but I jumped to the reasonable assumption that my driver had
marked the order as complete immediately
either accidentally or intentionally I'm leaning Tor intentionally to game his
delivery times to do multiple orders because somehow they had my phone number
but apparently not my address this was a random number asking for my address I
was not comfortable giving that out see below I called the store the random
teenager who answered said yeah it's complete but couldn't do anything he
asked if he could have a manager call me back I said sure but asked when his
initial answer was the manager is on vacation so I'm not sure I pushed back
on that and he said he would have someone call me that night 30 minutes
the manager called they confirmed the order was marked complete they told me I
had to call instacart this upset me I get the reality of groc | give me a good story on AITAfornotgivingrandompeoplewhowereprobablymygrocerydeliveryguymyaddress |
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millionaires how did you become so wealthy I didn't get into Medical School
my first try I went to graduate school I had to work three jobs to pay for my
education I come from the upper end of the lower class my parents didn't have
money they got into the financial business by accident that's a story for
another day I fell in love with the financial Biz I got accepted into
medical school when it was time for me to go to medical school I was making so
much money that I decided to stay in the financial Biz as you might imagine my
parents were not too pleased about that but they gone over it in my first 10
years in business my 20s and early 30s I
worked 80 plus hours per week my friends all made fun of me because they were
playing in Three softball leagues every week and partying in Cancun or some
place like that every few months after 10 years of eating unhealthy and working
my bum I was able to cut down to 60 hours per week in my early 30s through
my early 40s all my friends weren't making fun of me anymore for not
partying with them they were all saying things like I wish I could have a house
like yours somewhere in my mid-40s I was able to cut back to working only three
to 4 days per week when I did work that were long more or less 12 hours per day
and all my friends said I wish I only had to work 3 days per week now in my
early 50s I work as often as I want but I still put in 40 to 60 hours per week
because I like working and making money but I take a lot of time off do a lot of
traveling or just relax and do what I want I got where I am because of hard
work and training myself to find Opportunities training on to find
Opportunities requires a lot of hard work and a lot of failure I got rich and
almost went back bankrupt I got rich again and then I actually went bankrupt
now I'm rich again I've been conned and swindled I've had money stolen from me
and I've had employees that have lied and cheated me but in the end I'm rich
my family is now Rich many of my loyal honest employees are rich my loyal
clientele is Rich and my investors are rich work hard and become very good at
something build a solid reputation as someone who knows what they're doing
build a reputation as someone who can fight through adversity and never give
up locate opportunities in the market find a way to profit from that
opportunity learn how to build a business keep copious notes in the
processes and procedures you followed good and bad ones that helped you build
that business learn how to write a business plan seek out investors start
out small and don't get greedy I.E don't
get hung up on owning 51% of the company the goal is not about percentages it's
about 1099s and k1s and building your net worth as you get better and more
experienced you can demand a higher ownership share don't fall for the
tribee the world tries to fo upon you the government government is not your
friend high taxes are not your friend government regulation is not your friend
and most of all remember this the world does not care about your intentions nor
how Noble your project or idea is or was nor does the world care about how hard
you tried and most of all the world does not care about your PL perfect
legitimate excuse to justify why you failed and why you lost money the world
only cares about results and how much money you make they're no participation
trophies in business now go follow this formula and create your own wealth and
success because my generation the generation that is currently in power is
starting to retire and we need great people to step up and take over the
leadership roles that we will gladly eventually relinquish so we can move on
to the next stage of Our Lives we we'll be here to advise and counsel whenever
you need us story two there's lots of good advice out there about living below
your means saving and investing but those are mostly related to managing
your bottom line bottom line management is critical but making $10,000 more is
better than spending $10,000 less assuming you get some marginal benefit
or utility from the $10,000 spent so I wanted to touch on that the best way to
make more money is to be uniquely capable trustworthy and valuable to the
people you're working for be that your boss clients investors or yourself what
does this mean number one always do things 100% right the first time and pay
attention to details if someone asks you to do something dig a ditch manage an
event prepare presentation code an algorithm whatever always do it as if
your life depended on its accuracy and complete completeness if you don't know
how to figure it out without bugging the task assigner consider every angle of
every possible scenario and make sure you have covered it never be caught
without an answer if you are get them an answer the same day you want to become
the guy or gal who everyone knows that if they give you a task it will be done
right on time the first time without any oversight from the individual who
assigned the task the more they can depend on you to get it done the less
time they have to spend thinking about it the more time they have to focus on
other things the more valuable you are and and more money for you number two
the time necessary to reach Perfection 95% correct versus 100% correct is
extraordinary often double or triple to that effect you don't have to be the
smartest person in the room but you do need to work the hardest you can outwork
anyone take note of when the first person gets to work now get there before
them every day don't leave until everyone is gone every day don't read
Reddit or mess around work 110% of the time your productivity will go through
the roof five times your peers literally with all that new time in your hands
volunteer to take on new tasks freelance in different departments or groups you
will get exposure to the other sides of the business and become uniquely
knowledgeable and well-rounded you just became invaluable and irreplaceable your
dependability and the reliability of your work product will exceed those of
your peers people will go out of their way to involve you in projects because
you're now the Workhorse everyone wants and needs the added benefit of this
lifestyle is that you won't have expenses because you're always working
that's good invest the savings number three
don't ask for or seek out recognition but don't let anyone steal your thunder
people will try to ride your coils let them do it if it doesn't hurt you you
need friends but if they're above you and take credit without giving credit
suddenly make sure their boss sees that see you doing the work not them quietly
everyone will start to know you the one involved in projects you get your stuff
done and it's always perfect this will lead to Opportunities maybe it's a raise
a promotion or the opportunity to gain Sweat Equity maybe another company
poaches you but it will happen fre quently I could probably go on but I
really think a lot of people have forgotten how to really truly work
Millennials is number one criteria for happiness is work life balance then we
do BS like read Reddit and Facebook and browse Instagram all day just stop be a
robot work ruthlessly do it for 10 years your social life can wait you're
investing in your future do you want to be 40 knowing you will still be slugging
away at a 40 hour week job until you're 70 is that a work life balance or do you
want to work 100 plus hours a week for 10 years and be a millionaire by 30 that
seems like the real work life balance to me the choice is yours Story three not
me but my family my dad was very poor as a kid because he was one of five kids
raised by a single mother since my grandpa passed away early he moved out
during high school after getting his HSC aie SATs went to work and worked a lot
my dad's really smart so he was good at what he did Mom and Dad weren't meant to
be able to have kids but when both of them were 40 they conceived me that has
just started his own business in the tech industry but he believed in himself
and the two mates he started the company with and it boomed mom hasn't worked
since I was born because she was taking care of me but I went to school she
started doing a lot of charity work she fell pregnant again with my little
brother but he didn't survive so I stayed an only child this year both my
parents turned 16 my dad retired because
his business is and was doing so well we live in a nice house but most of our
money goes to charity anyway since Dad knows how it feels to have no money what
doesn't go to charity goes to the family I remember one year at Christmas Dad
gave me his mom my nana and all four of his siblings $10,000 each AKA $50,000 in
one year I never asked for money I got a job legally as soon as I could and I've
worked ever since while attending school I think my dad gave me work ethics they
never spoiled me even though they could have I'm 21 now I still live at home I
just started my first full-time job but I plan to move out when I find a place I
can take my dog with me so technically my mom and dad are millionaires I'm not
it's not my money and when they pass I probably divide it up among the family
or charity going to a private high school taught me money doesn't buy you
happiness so I don't have any interest in keeping more than enough to be
comfortable I wouldn't have even thought about inheritance but I was forced to
because my dad had two heart failures this year and his dad and his dad's dad
both passed away because of it in their 30s not that anyone cares but he's doing
way better now if few stands in and a lot of Rehabilitation later and he's
almost back to normal so there are rich people that aren't a-holes Story 4 I was
never too good in school I could read write and do basic math but nothing more
I really enjoyed wood working though and anything that involved using my hands I
left school as soon as I could because I wanted to leave home I lived in pretty
crappy places just scraping by and pretty much the minimum wage working in
retail and Hospitality until a friend of
mine said I could probably make money on the side with my woodworking he'd seen
bits and pieces I'd made around the house there was no Etsy back then so I
had to do most of my stuff without doing any research as to what people would
like I tried to Hawk if I classified and
cards and local shops I couldn't believe it when my first piece sold even though
for the time I'd spent making it I haven't even made the minimum wage
however I kept add it and made a variety of ornaments that people liked and
started doing commissions things got bigger and bigger I equit my mediocre
job to do it full-time within a couple of years of selling my first piece I was
getting more requests than I could fulfill but I was still only making an
okay living out of it about 3 years to the day from my first ever sale I
actually had a motorcycle accident and lost the use of my left hand fortunately
not my dominant hand I decided to try and get a couple of the local homeless
guys to help out and provide them with meals and a share of the sale prices
obviously this meant we could make and sell many more pieces but I found I was
making less money once the proceeds were split up to had insult injury a couple
of the guys ripped me off and stole a lot of my stuff I was back at square one
I decided to move back into making more basic pieces that would be quicker and
simpler that's when my mom passed away and left me a million dollars dude I was
waiting for the big punchline and what story five I'm not a
millionaire but my mother is the answer is simply hard work she was born in
Chicago in the 1960s to a pair of Irish immigrants with less than $300 to their
name when they came to this country neither of my grandparents had more than
a high school education but they worked damn hard for my mom to go to college
she got a degree from very good school and went into journalism it's not a
career that's usually associated with high earnings but she busted her bum at
a time when women were really just getting into that field she also made
the most of her money as a single parent after my father passed away when I was
young she worked really hard and eventually before taxes and after her
bonus she became a managing editor at one of the most prestigious newspapers
in the world making close to $300,000 a year now she makes gray money but she
easily Works between 60 and 80 hours a week the other answer is Investments my
grandfather although not educated was always investing in the market and made
a good deal of money and so did my mother she has a guy who despite a slip
up that cost her over $200,000 has earned that for us many times over so
I'm not trying to sound like a pull yourself up by your bootstraps kind of
guy but in my mother's case she came from very little and is now very wealthy
I fully admit that but a lot of that was luck my grandparents were able to enter
this country because my grandfather Charmed a man who would sponsor them
while he was a waiter on the cruise ship but a lot of it is also hard work sure
there are people born to great wealth and Prestige but a lot of them work damn
hard for it damn the ragster Rich's stories are top tier motivational I'd
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upload story six well last year my fiance's grandparents won a stupid
amount of money in the lottery double- digigit millions they were generous
enough to share with the family I grew up below the poverty line so my life is
crazy right now anyway I am in fact choosing to do stuff with my life as I'm
not an idol person mooching off a very lucky break his money is placed in a
trust and we have many financial advisers we're not allowed to buy
anything without approval and what we don't use is invested by the bank that
runs the trust I don't really care for advice since I'm just reaping the
rewards so far we bought my fiance's childhood home which is Father built
which is one of the most sought after neighborhoods in my city and we're
loving the the security we have as homeowners we took an amazing trip in
June where he proposed riding the banks of the nest in iness Scotland it was
pretty magical and know my ring is not exorbitant having the money hasn't
changed us as a couple as we spent a year and a half living in a bachelor
Suite in the size of a onecar garage and still love each other so at this point
it's a done deal we're together for good and are getting married next also I
signed a cohabitation agreement but was agreed that I'm not signing a prenup and
my name will be added to the title of the house after marriage and the
cohabitation agreement nullifies making everything but the trust mine so if in
the highly unlikely case of divorce I can go after him for half of everything
but the trust as it is owned by his grandparents but he's beneficiary pretty
crazy stuff and I'm genuinely surprised they didn't force me into a prenup can I
have some please story 7even started buying multif family real estate in
central Chicago in 2011 I've been selling since last year at one point had
15 buildings with 65 apartments in them the few buildings I have left are worth
about $2 million and have over a third of a million in cash in my SA savings
prices were so ridiculous in the recession that I was able to turn $5,000
in savings and a lot of Sweat Equity into what I have now I bought my first
building with an FHA loan for $130 in Logan Square it was three units and it
put $5,000 down it's now worth $400,000 then I saved up the income from
that property and bought six units for $50,000 which are now worth
$350,000 then picked up another six flats for free because the city was
going to force the bank to demolish them I borrowed against the equity and my
other properties to do a total redo on them now the building is worth $1.1
million and generates $10,000 in cash flow every month I live Frugal as well
when my old car gave out I bought a 2-year-old Honda with 25,000 Mi on it I
still live in the first property I bought my hobbies are ones that are only
expensive if you don't have the time to take advantage of them I buy a ski pass
and ski four weeks a year the pass costs $600 but I can get thousands of dollars
worth of skiing out of it since my job is mainly collecting passive income I'm
only 29 so my plan is to just slowly add to my portfolio while letting the few
buildings I haven't sold off burn off principal I'm basically semi-retired and
have been for 3 years story8 I basically kept the same habits I had when my
income was $12,000 a year for a family of three I make coffee at home I st
Forge for food I still shop at thrift shops for clothing my car is 14 years
old and I try not to use it if I can use my bicycle instead including biking to
work when I wasn't car pooling even when
I was a single mom on a $28,000 salary I put what I could in my 401k and raise I
got went to that until I at least got the full employer match but I got a new
job and found out there was no similar retirement plan there I met with the
directors and financial advisor and got one in place make my own laundry
detergent and use cloth wipes or napkins I spent about $20 a week for two adults
for food yesterday I really wanted an orange but didn't take it from the
fridge because I paid for those from my husband's packed lunches and pairs from
the yard are free oranges travel better in his bicycle bag so they are for him
pairs from the yard of occasional spots that need to be cut out so they're for
me because I retired like last year and he has another year or two to go it's
easier to cut off bad spots when you're at home in your own kitchen I'm so tired
of peirs though I have a million dollars but I won't eat an orange if I have a
free pair on the one hand that's pathetic on the other hand that's why I
have a million dollars and don't have to go to work anymore girl you deserve an
orange story nine not there yet but getting there stem degree for both my
wife and me I bag my lunch and drink from the water fountain I eat out with
co-workers maybe once a month I fill up my trusty clean canteen bottle daily
with free ice cream from the cafeteria and water from the water fountain I'm in
my lower 30s right now I have a $500 house bought two years ago and that is
about 40% paid off I have to pay it off completely well before I turned 40 I
currently have about $350,000 in the bank between liquid assets and stocks
I'm currently driving a 9-year-old can and my wife has a 13-year-old Camry my
daughter's toys are from the thrift store we've never had cable TV we love
Costo in Walmart and enjoy looking at deal sites that doesn't mean we do not
enjoy life we've been backpacking in Europe visiting Dubai the Bahamas
Bermuda Puerto Rico Vegas numerous times
and Canada numerous times we're going to California in less than a month My
Philosophy is this you get rich by acting poor in things that don't truly
please your heart we like traveling so we do that I like photography so I have
a DSLR my wife likes nail polish so she has a big box full of it I don't care
much about food so I bag it and we rarely eat out the same goes for our
cars live simply invest and spend wisely and love
unconditionally feeling a little broke after hearing these stories don't worry
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is my ghosted ex-wife possibly tracking me down I headed to the hills after
learning of my wife's Affair I don't exactly know why I'm writing this but
now that the events are over and done and I've moved on maybe it will help
someone in February 2018 I discovered my wife's Affair after we had been married
for 3 and A2 years I had a contract job that involved a lot of travel at times
but also allowed me to work from home when I was back my wife had a very
well-paying job as a director of a technical sales firm we had what I would
describe as a really good marriage although things had gotten a bit
strained from my being away on work trips and are working longer in longer
hours backstory I met my wife now ex 5 years ago at a mutual friend's barbecue
we struck up a conversation and had an instant chemistry and quite honestly I
thought I was beating the odds being with such a beautiful and well spoken
woman somehow she really liked me for my rough around the edges Persona once we
dating after a few weeks we couldn't get enough of each other and the clothes
just flew off when we would meet at each other's Apartments we finally tied the
knot after dating for 18 months and moved into a big apartment while saving
for a house after the first 3 years of marriage things started changing I still
was crazy about her but I noticed she would start arguments about little
things and she would get angry when I would bring up all the late hours and
the work outings that had been more and more frequent she would say it's part of
paying the due since she had been climbing the corporate ladder or at
least that was her excuse she told me I had no right to question her since I was
gone for weeks at a time myself I had told her I could certainly manage
reducing my travel hours and had actually only been going on trips maybe
3 4 days every 5 weeks or so these arguments were very circular and never
had a resolution as I looked back I had no idea my wife was in the midst of an
affair I would have never suspected a thing
except for her continued late work hours and our dwindling sex life I just
attributed this to her being tired from work however my ego had taken a beating
from being turned down frequently when trying to initiate sex I didn't see the
secret of texting that I read about but then again she had a company cell phone
and she could have been using it since she spent a lot of time in our spare
bedroom that she would use as a home office it was around September of 2017
when Kathy started coming home after work and then head off to a work
engagement for the evening this went from one evening a week to more than
three evenings a week I'm not that jealous by nature but there is no way
she would go unnoticed and I know she would have to fend off some of the men
at her office she only seemed to be interested in work but she was working
with more male Executives and female my first suspicion of her cheating occurred
a month before dday she had stopped off at the store before coming home she
asked me to help with the groceries while I was grabbing a couple bags from
the backseat of her car I noticed something pink glinting from just
underneath the front passenger seat it was one of my wife's bras I recognized
it as hers since she liked the ones from
a particular apparel store in retrospect I now realize the reason for the red
flag with the bra when she gets in the mood she always takes off her bra first
from underneath her clothes I don't know exactly why but I instantly just had a
sinking feeling in my gut when I saw this I could not rationalize what her
bra was doing under the seat I just left it there under the seat it almost made
me sick and my heart must have been racing like crazy because when I
returned to the kitchen with the bags Cathy asked if I was okay and that I
looked like I had seen a ghost I just brushed her Comet off I tried my best
not to look angry or betrayed but it took all I had to hide my feelings that
evening and the next I decided to see if I could find out if she was involved
with someone or not I started thinking about all the clues I was missing I had
no proof except for the bra incident we live in a fairly large city and her work
is in a downtown office building I kind of took my focus off of the affair idea
for a bit and decided maybe I should give her more attention one Friday after
work I made a nice dinner set up the dining table with nice plates silverware
and candles I bought a nice bottle of wine and a bouquet of roses she came
breezing in after work as usual I pointed out the dinner and everything I
had prepared she gave me a sad smile and told me she was sorry but she had plans
to meet up with her co-workers tonight at a local hangout she said she could
grab a quick bite with me before she left but had to jump in the shower first
I think my insides flipped on me and I became completely speechless I won't
tell you what kind of Rage I was feeling at that point but I had finally had
enough while she was in the shower I grabbed my company cell phone and
planted it in her back seat I had been thinking of this lately as a way I could
track her location with my personal phone I went in and dumped the meal in
the trash along with the flowers she came back after her shower dressed up
and looking great as usual she said okay let's eat I told her never mind go out
with your friends she looked at me strangely and asked if I was mad I said
I'm disappointed by you never wanting to do anything together she became angry
and told me to quit acting like a child and that something snarky about having a
short fuse I stood there letting all this sink in and said foolish me I
thought you'd like to spend the evening together for once she just smirked at me
and left in a huff I took out my other phone and started tracking my work phone
I saw her stop about 20 minutes away at the bar that she frequents with her work
buddies I decided to head out and locate her car sure enough there it was in the
parking lot of the bar I sat across the street in my car waiting to see if I
could see her I felt so unlike myself like a stalker but I rationalized I
needed to at least satisfy my anxiety about her whereabouts about an hour
after I arrive I see her coming out of the bar with a man he looks like one of
the eggs I've seen from her work he grabs her and pulls her close and kisses
her my stomach went into knots my body went completely numb they head over to
another car and get in together I do my best to follow them as the car pulls out
they travel about 10 minutes away too you guessed it a hotel I pull over on
the street next to the hotel I watch as they get out and head hand in hand into
the hotel I've seen enough I'm an idiot I start banging my fist on the steering
wheel that's it something inside me went completely blank and I'm not sure if I
blacked out or had an out-of body experience when I recovered myself I
decided I needed a drink now this is when my life took a new direction that I
would have never guessed I just started driving out of town just reliving
everything I had just witnessed and I hate to say crying with rage I headed
towards the outskirts of town about 30 Mi I find a nice little bar and pull in
I find a seat at the bar and order a drink I must have looked like death war
Med over because the bartender female mentioned that I looked like someone
took the wind out of my sails I half smiled and said you could say that a guy
takes a stool next to me and starts up a conversation I'm not in much of a mood
to talk but something about this guy just made me feel comfortable we start
talking and after a while the subject of my wife cheating just tumbles out of my
mind how I just want to leave her and forget her he looks at me and slaps me
on the back he says buddy You Are Not Alone there happened to me a few years
ago I believe that sometimes these things happen for a reason and let me
tell you your life can now change either for the better or the worse it's
entirely up to you at this point something about him saying this really
shook me out of my glum mood I mean I know I'm hurting but I have always been
able to see things logically and he is so right now we introduce each other his
name is Rey he is kind of a country guy but is just the sort of salt of the
earth type that I really respect he asks
me when I'm going to move out I guess it never occurred to me to even think that
far ahead I know I don't want to be around this woman anymore and I do have
this fight or flight feeling coursing through me Ray says I feel very
sympathetic to your situation and have a
idea if it comes to it and you feel like
you need to leave at some point I've got a travel trailer sitting on my property
it's not great and it could use a bit of fixing up why don't you come out and
check it out and see if you could see yourself living in something like that
temporarily at least I'll make you a great deal on it I even have a nice
piece of property that you could park it
on you would be doing me a favor to keep
an eye on it for me it might do you some good to get away from your situation
just a thought it took me a minute to register his idea the bartender had been
overhearing the conversation and smiles hell honey she says if I could have
escaped my crazy ex-husband years ago I would have jumped at the chance to go
live in his Trail or anything to just get my head on straight I feel like I
have stumbled into the Twilight Zone but
maybe this is exactly what I need I tell Ry yes I'll think about it and maybe
check it out we part ways after a bit and make plans to meet out at his place
in a few days I started to feel like I have a little bit of perspective and a
chance for getting out of what I believe is a nightmare mixed in with a heavy
heartache one thing is for certain there
is no way I'll ever ever want to be with my wife again cheating is such a vile
thing to me and has always been the one thing that I believe I would never
tolerate I got home after Kathy at night and sat on the couch Kathy came out and
asked me where I'd been I turned to her and asked her where she had been she
says you know I went to grab drinks I asked her point blank are you having an
affair she looks a little startled but regains her composure and says no why
would you ask me that I tell her I heard she may be involved with someone from
work she asks who told you that I tell her someone that I know but would not
divulge the name she just tells me you are being ridiculous and that I'm drunk
and delusional and asks me where I have been I tell her out to a bar to have
some drinks with friends she just stares
at me wanting to ask me me more but just heads back to our bedroom and goes back
to bed I decided to sleep on the couch since I now have confirmation that she
has been lying for months to me I didn't sleep at all and start picturing her
with this guy in bed and I'm disgusted and hurt and feeling sorry for myself
however I start thinking about Ray's trailer it is almost a revelation and
the idea of it just made me feel better I must have something wrong with me but
with the pain I was in the fight or flight mode just instinctively kicked in
and the flight part won me over the next
morning we don't speak much and go about
the weekend as if nothing had happened a few days later I made plans to meet up
with Ry I met up at Ray's Place he owns a nice Ranch and the trailer is actually
really nice about 26 and has all the Necessities one needs to live in it I
had traveled with some friends in one back in college during a spring break
and really enjoyed it I make Ray an offer on it and he agrees to the price I
practically steal it from him he gives me directions to his Ranch property and
I drive over to check it out it is beautiful full of trees scrub brush and
it looks like there are nearby hiking and biking trails bordering it it's near
the foothills of some mountains and Ray has a small Shack on a hill overlooking
the property with water and electricity for the trailer available Ray will pull
the travel trailer to the side and set it up for me I tried to get Cathy to
come clean during the next few weeks and all I get is gaslighting I even Point
Blank tell her that if I find out she is
cheating there is no going back this has the opposite effect of driving her
deeper into her Affair fog and blistering me in denials the denial is
so bad it almost made me laugh I have no physical proof of her cheating and kick
myself for not at least taking some photos of the two of them as I go
through this mental Agony I come to the conclusion that I want out of this
marriage rather than let Kathy know how I feel about things now I just start
making plans I started stealthily taking
my belongings out of the apartment while she was at work and moving them over to
the trailer this at least makes me feel like I'm taking action I did notice a
change in Cathy during this time and has been acting nicely around me but in my
mind too little too late as she continued her little company outings
after work I decided I too needed a break in fact as she was heading out for
the evening I also got dressed around the same time she looked at me and asked
where I was going I just said I was meeting up with some friends she started
to ask and I just told her she didn't know them and she wouldn't enjoy all the
shop talk this is exactly what she would
tell me when I would ask if I could join her at one of her office outings she
kind of had a hurt look on her face and says okay have a nice time I said I
definitely would between working on the trailer and meeting up with Ry at the
bar I have started to make more friends in fact it has led to some fun times
with a great group of raised friends and
family and in case anyone asks I decided I would moderate my drinking so I don't
develop any bad habits it would be so easy to drown myself in pity about this
time frame Kathy tells me she has to go on a trip for work the following week I
ask her who is all going and she tells me the executive team and some
department heads I just look at her and tell her I hope she has a really great
time with her boyfriend I kind of wish I hadn't said that it started a lot of
arguing back and forth in a lot of ways I wish I knew more about her AP but as
Ray put it to me in the long run it doesn't matter who the other guy is it
only matters that she decided to step out on you she burned down the marriage
she can own it or deny it but facts are facts brother damn Ray should write this
stuff down and publish it for the Betrayed her work trip provided me with
the opportunity to move the rest of my stuff out completely so after Kathy left
for her trip I gathered everything I had left of any value and put it in my
vehicle I'm not taking any furniture or the like so it's just clothes and work
computers and Equipment before I left I had written a note that I was going to
leave for her but after rereading it I decided I would just make it simple I
grabbed a piece of paper and wrote I hope it was worth it I placed my wedding
ring on top of the note sitting on the kitchen table I felt a huge weight come
off of me I felt free no more hiding the
truth I know I will have some baggage to deal with and some hurt to get over but
I have time to heal now I just need some
space and need to get her out of my life as quietly and quickly as possible I'm
not proud that I never confronted her more or pulled a confession out of her I
never got to yell and scream and curse her after confessing I had come to the
conclusion in my mind that she didn't deserve me she disrespected everything
we had our future plans are history we were saving for a house and a future
family all of that is gone now no going back I don't owe her a damn thing she
can deal with a Fallout aftermath I didn't have an agenda at all I didn't
contact a lawyer or anything I just wanted to get some clarity I really
enjoyed my my new trailer and the mountainous air was exactly what I
needed in the following week I took up running again and it felt great to be
alive I never answered any of Cathy's texts while she was away there wasn't
much to respond to they were just highlights like we just landed we are
having a team dinner Etc she did send a few where or use and let me hear from
you Etc the day she returned home my phone blew up she texted me incessantly
and tried calling me constantly after the first day her mother tried calling
me there's only my dad left on my family side and we aren't close so she didn't
try to get him involved after the first few crying messages I never bothered to
listen to the rest of her voicemails her text consisted of what is this we need
to talk I don't know what you think you know but there is nothing going on I'm
not involved with anyone I'm not having an affair after a week of not responding
she finally leaves me a text saying I'm sorry things got out of hand I was
involved with someone at work but it meant nothing I got caught up in my work
and you were gone a lot and I just made a mistake I was going to end it haha a
mistake this was the confession I had been seeking all along for some reason
it just made me dislike her even more why couldn't she be honest this wasn't
the woman I had dreamed of building a future together and mistakes don't last
for what 6 8 months or a year at one point her pleading for me to come back
and work on the marriage became pathetic
she quit bothering me for a couple weeks I still refused to answer her I did not
want her to pry anything out of me where I was living I did not want this woman
ruining my Sanctuary then one day she started sending me angry texts like you
were a coward you won't talk to me you don't care about us please come home so
we can talk where are you I can come to you damn it Paul please let's talk and
fix things I don't remember all the messages but they all seem to be excuses
and very little in the way of apologies I let it all go in one ear and out the
other I finally changed my cell phone number update June 2018 Kathy sent me an
email telling me she had retained a lawyer and was filing for divorce I sent
her a reply that said okay sounds good this resulted in a flurry of emails
demanding I come see her and so forth she realized this wouldn't get her
anywhere and after a while she just wrote that if I agreed to an uncontested
divorce she wouldn't bother me anymore I agreed and several months later finally
I was truly a free man I never had to see her after I left our apartment no
closure for either of us but it seemed like that was more important to her than
to me for a few months I did think of her sometimes and yes the pain would
appear out of nowhere like if I heard a song come on the radio that we used to
listen to Etc but eventually I just stopped thinking about her update to
well I am officially divorced things are really good now as a matter of fact I
met a great girl I was out on a run on the trail just down the hill from where
I live I helped her change a flat tire and we really hit it off she is amazing
and cute as hell though a few years younger than me she loves my lifestyle
and calls me her mountain man I'm in no hurry to get serious but I'm not about
to give up on women completely I'm still up here in the trailer I have no plans
to change anytime soon and I've simplified my life quite a bit I love
the outdoors it helped me get over my ex-wife the heartache everything I know
everyone handles these things differently I was lucky to not have
children yet and was only into my third year of marriage so I think I did what
was right for me you don't have to live your life with a cheater if something
like this happens to you please just don't dwell on it just move on with your
life it gets better after you work on yourself I wish everyone the best life
they can have just wanted to update on the situation I found myself in with my
ex-wife and have Rewritten this about five times to make it legible as
mentioned in my previous post I was concerned that my ex-wife was trying to
track me down in an attempt to reconcile or something I had moved some 2 hours
from where we used to live I saw her last weekend in a coffee shop I go to
frequently in the the town that is near to where I live I was suspicious that it
was not a coincidence that she was there luckily I was able to leave before she
saw me update I came back into town this
past weekend to grab a few groceries and went to grab a coffee in the place I
usually go to as well as work on some documents I needed to fill out for work
using their free internet after finishing up I left the coffee shop
while I'm walking towards my truck I hear someone yell Paul I look across the
street and oh there's Kathy my ex waving at me Armageddon had finally
happened I stood there in shock she runs across the street and approaches me and
and reaches out to me expecting a hug and I instinctively hold my arms out
with Palms out and she stops she looks at me really hurt she then says Paul
I've been looking for you I heard you moved out here and wanted to see you can
we talk I feel like a trapped animal guys I really did so I relented and said
okay let's find a table or something and we can talk for a minute she asks if we
can go to my place and I just flat out said no she follows me down to a bench
outside a little shop at the end of the block she starts by saying how much I've
changed and how she loves my new look my beard blah blah she liked how my
physique had changed how I looked so fit she puts on a good act and guys she
looked hot she had on these little white
shorts and a tank top and her hair and a ponytail like I used to like my radar
was on high alert and I could tell she was really turning on the sex appeal I
had to really R myself in here and see where this was going she starts out by
apologizing about the whole Affair thing
she says karma really hit her hard after
I left her company learned of her Affair and basically made things so unpleasant
that she quit her AP who had a fiance at the time got a reprimand and was moved
to another position within the company he blamed her for his having to move and
she retaliated by telling his fiance everything which resulted in them
breaking up she lowered her head a little and started crying I just sat
there looking around not having anything
to say she straightened up and stared at
me for a bit I asked her what she wanted from me she wanted to tell me that she
never intended to start an affair that she felt like she was drawn in by all
the politics and positioning in the company and thought the AP really
manipulated her with his Charisma and power within the company and that she
stupidly thought she was using him as much as he was using her she was going
to come clean with me especially after I accused her of having an affair she
hated herself during that time and the afterwork drinking was her attempt to
medicate from the guilt that right after I left her she felt so foolish so alone
like her heart just imploded with loss she immediately broke things off with
her AP she felt that since I wouldn't contact her or talk to her that she had
to find me and see if she could make things right for us and if we could
start over again she knows we are divorced but maybe we could have a clean
slate I just stared at her I let her have it I'm paraphrasing the
conversation but here it is how dare you think you can just come out here and
think you can just wipe away all the you caused I'm to forgive
everything you did to ruin our marriage I told you before if you cheated on me
we were through there is no forgiveness there is no reboot of this relationship
you killed it you destroyed what we had the minute you stepped out on me how
stupid do you think I am I followed you one night and saw you go into a hotel
together do you know that I then realized that I had been raising my
voice and people were starting to notice she started to sob she grabbed my arm I
Let Her Cry on My Shoulder a little before nudging her away she looked up at
me I deserve all this I know I do can you at least let me take you to dinner
or something I don't want to leave I want to talk more I want to make sure we
have everything out in the open I need time with you that you didn't give me
before please Paul I know you may not want to hear this but I love you so much
I didn't know how much I loved you until
you left me and broke me and I broke you just as bad I can't forgive myself I
don't want to forgive myself until the day I die she started hyperventilating
and sobbing so bad that I pulled her up and hugged her I know I know I felt like
that was the only thing I could do to maybe calm her down at that moment I
realized I did actually break her heart like she broke my fine I started walking
with her and then found a nice quiet path to walk on and things settled down
a bit I then asked her how she found me and did she hire a pie or something she
laughed a little and said no she thought about it though she ran into Stacy a
couple weeks ago and she asked her how things were going Stacy let it slip that
she saw me Kathy made her spill every single detail Stacy didn't want to tell
her because I told her not to but she wouldn't let her go until she did but
all she really knew was that she saw me here in town and that I lived somewhere
in the vicinity so she started coming here on her days off to see if she could
find me she really blushed when she said that I kind of chuckled that damn Stacy
can't keep her trap shut so we did go to
dinner we found a nice little place with a patio I made sure we didn't drink
anything I didn't want any excuse for her to soften me up or claim she was too
drunk to drive back we actually had a good talk afterwards I walked her to her
car she wanted to stay and press me hard on it and wouldn't relent she hadn't
been with anybody else since I left and swore up and down I was the only one she
wanted I told her no it's still way too soon for me to go down that road she
begged to see me again but I was not committal I gave her my new email
address but that was it she she wanted my phone number but I told her no you'll
just blow it up with texts and calls she cried about that one she said she would
be back in town next weekend if I was interested I didn't say anything to that
she said she will email me and tell me all the details of when SL where before
she left I asked her Point Blank if she would forgive me if I had done the
cheating she sat there thinking and she said yes she would in time but only if
we saw a marriage counselor or if we could work through the healing process
with lots of talking and maybe even a binding agreement I said okay maybe I
could do that 5 10 years from now she said if that's what it would take she
would wait she then took my hands in hers looked me in the eye and said
something that really surprised me she said godamn it Paul I will always love
you and will do anything to prove it at that she left I'm still so shook by that
she said it with such conviction I still can't see myself back with her I feel
better though right now I can't even see her as in Friends with Benefits maybe a
friend but damn I just don't know if we could ever work out again don't call me
a chump because Second Chances are rare in my book I went home and had a nice
long run and a few beers and felt I was in a good place now can someone
guarantee me that she wouldn't ruin that I don't know I just don't know it's too
fresh on my mind but I have the luxury of time to sort all this out and get
some perspective okay so this will probably be my last update I posted my
story on Reddit but the mod kept removing it to recap my ex-wife did find
me and we did talk after over a year of her being ghosted by me her intention in
finding me was indeed to reconcile and restart our life together to those that
wrote To Me predicting that I would be the typical beta blue pill fool and
forgive her and fall back in with her you will be sorely disappointed she did
write me a long email this past week professor her Love And Regret for the
affair once again she wanted to come back out and spend the weekend with me
my response to all this was to shut her down I have been perfectly content to
live the solo life for now living in my remote location and keep my situation as
uncomplicated as possible I've enjoyed the company of several women and friends
and at 32 feel there is no hurry in changing things up I have my own
self-determination road map and I intend
to follow it for now so in answering her
email I refused to give her my new phone
number I laid it all out I told her no I
do not have any intention in reconciling with her her she made her bed and I no
longer trust her nor do I know her any longer I wished her the best and will
consider her a possible friend maybe someday in a future yet to be determined
my vagueness really frustrated her so she replied with something very telling
she was of course thoroughly disappointed in my response but she also
informed me that she had accepted a job offer several states away and her real
intention all along was for me to come with her she knows my job is remote and
I can live anywhere I choose and she thought that I would consider coming
with her in an exchange we would have a brand new start in a brand new location
she had little time left before she would be leaving and wanted to see me in
person and put the hard cell on me fortunately for me I have to leave for
business for a week so hour time is up thank God so she will be gone for my
life now I imagine I will get a few more emails for a bit longer but in time I
believe she will realize her time with me has expired and she will have to find
someone else and she may cheat on them two just thought I would share the
update so guys live your best life get rid of that old baggage and Empower
yourself to move forward good luck to you all | give me a good story on IsMyGHOSTEDExWifePossiblyTRACKINGmedownorig |
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:00.229 --> :01.390 Posted by u/FuquaNumba1
:01.390 --> :02.940 5 hours ago Facepalm :02.940 --> :12.490
AITA for not giving my girlfriend (25f) my
dinner after I had already bought her dinner? :12.490 --> :19.500
My girlfriend (25F) and I (29M) live in NYC
and there's a popular app where you buy leftover :19.500 --> :21.250
restaurant food. :21.250 --> :26.540
Restaurants advertise "surprise bags" at a
reduced price in order to reduce foodwaste. :26.540 --> :30.199
The customer doesn't know what they're getting
until they pick the food up, but the cost :30.199 --> :33.520
at least 3x lower than the normal menu price. :33.520 --> :40.290
(EG if an entree is usually $24, the restaurant
is allowed to charge $8 at most for it.) :40.290 --> :44.710
These are hit or miss - sometimes you get
exactly what you want at a greatly reduced :44.710 --> :48.930
price, but sometimes you get something that
you otherwise wouldn't have picked from the :48.930 --> :49.930 menu.
:49.930 --> :54.040 I ordered a surprise bag from a barbecue place
that I was picking up on the way home yesterday. :54.040 --> :58.769
I texted my girlfriend asking if she wanted
one but she said no, she wasn't in the mood :58.769 --> :59.949
for barbecue. :59.949 --> :05.290
However, there was an indian restaurant right
next door that also had surprise bags available :05.290 --> :07.540
on the app, so she ordered one of them. :07.540 --> :11.830
The barbecue was $12 and the indian food was $10. :11.830 --> :14.540
When I get home I unpack the meals to see what we got.
:14.540 --> :16.640 I was psyched about my bag.
:16.640 --> :22.600 Since I paid $12 I knew the value had to be
at least $36, but honestly the platter looked :22.600 --> :24.500
a lot more expensive. :24.500 --> :25.500 This was a hit.
:25.500 --> :29.439 (Keep in mind that we live in the west village,
which is the most expensive neighborhood in :29.439 --> :35.950
the most expensive city in the US, so $36 for one meal is pretty typical.)
:35.950 --> :40.920 There were burnt ends, ribs, pulled pork,
baked beans, potato salad, bread, onions, :40.920 --> :42.729
and pickles. :42.729 --> :45.500
My girlfriend, however, was less lucky. :45.500 --> :50.909
Her surprise bag only had 6 different types
of soup, half of them being variations on :50.909 --> :52.220
cauliflower soup. :52.220 --> :54.710
She was disappointed to say the least. :54.710 --> :59.600
She asked if we should share my barbecue and
I said no, i'm hungry, I offered to buy you :59.600 --> :03.860
some already and you said no, so I'm going to devour it.
:03.860 --> :05.899 She got mad and called me the jerk.
:05.899 --> :09.670 I told her if she didn't want soup she should
have ordered something specifically instead :09.670 --> :11.470
of using the surprise bag app. :11.470 --> :15.660
I then told her to just order something off a food delivery app.
:15.660 --> :19.950 She said she didn't want to spend the money
(another bit of context is I make a lot more :19.950 --> :24.110
money than her and pay all of our rent, I
know she's running a bit of a lean financial :24.110 --> :25.340
picture right now.) :25.340 --> :29.080
I then tell her that if she doesn't want to
pay for delivery, I'll walk to the bodega :29.080 --> :31.440
on our street and can buy her something there. :31.440 --> :36.030
(Another bit of context is that we live on
a 4th floor walkup with no elevator and she :36.030 --> :40.890
broke her leg in a car accident a month ago,
so it can be tough for her to get around.) :40.890 --> :45.420
She says she the grill is probably off there and all she wants is a hot meal.
:45.420 --> :47.220 I tell her she has soup.
:47.220 --> :49.220 Anyway, she thinks I'm the jerk.
:49.220 --> :50.220 But in my defense: :50.220 --> :54.780
(1) I offered to buy her barbecue to begin with, which she declined.
:54.780 --> :59.019 (2) she picked out her own food and I grabbed
it for her on my way home :59.019 --> :04.530
(3) when she wasn't satisfied, I suggested
two solutions (either ordering something from :04.530 --> :06.989
an app or going to a bodega) :06.989 --> :10.319 So, Reddit, AITA?
:10.319 --> :15.510 Posted by u/Affectionate-Cat5016
:15.510 --> :29.600 7 hours ago :29.600 --> :45.110
AITA for refusing to enforce my SIL's rules when she forces me to babysit.
:45.110 --> :48.830 I (F27) live about a block from my parents.
:48.830 --> :52.090 They helped me buy my house and they are awesome.
:52.090 --> :55.230 They also babysit for my brother and his wife
all the time. :55.230 --> :01.590
However when they are not available my SIL
will bring her kids (10/8/6) to my house since :01.590 --> :02.700
I work from home. :02.700 --> :07.150
I have tried explaining repeatedly that I'm
working and she refuses to understand. :07.150 --> :11.480
My parents aren't her biggest fans either but they have begged me to humour her.
:11.480 --> :12.480 So I allow it. :12.480 --> :14.269
They are good kids and I love them. :14.269 --> :16.949
But I also don't enforce her rules on them. :16.949 --> :19.780
Nope sorry I don't have organic fruit juice. :19.780 --> :22.070
I have Coke, Mountain Dew, and Red Bull. :22.070 --> :23.810
Or you can drink tap water. :23.810 --> :26.660
You want avocado with an egg on rye? :26.660 --> :28.949
Well I have potato skins from Costco. :28.949 --> :31.639
WTF is veggie tales? :31.639 --> :34.940
My tv has Netflix, Prime, and Disney. :34.940 --> :36.250
Watch whatever you want. :36.250 --> :41.389
She gets mad at me for not following her rules
for her kids but she keeps dropping them off. :41.389 --> :45.190
My brother says I'm being an jerk for not
just doing what they want so I told him I :45.190 --> :48.480
would if they A. paid me to watch their kids. :48.480 --> :16.699
And B. Supplied whatever their kids were supposed to eat drink
:16.699 --> :17.699 and watch. :17.699 --> :18.699 AITA?
:18.699 --> :21.010 Posted by u/SignatureNo5491
:21.010 --> :25.250 8 hours ago Wholesome (Pro)
:25.250 --> :28.690 AITA for not giving foster daughter her own room?
:28.690 --> :33.950 So, we have 2 new foster placements: 10G and 15G.
:33.950 --> :37.169 We also have a biological daughter, 13G.
:37.169 --> :42.199 We live in a 3 bedroom house and at this time,
it’s not possible to add more room. :42.199 --> :46.610
We do plan on moving eventually but that’s
not something that will happen for a year :46.610 --> :47.610 minimum.
:47.610 --> :52.199 Originally, we were only receiving single
placements but got our first sibling group :52.199 --> :54.470
in 10G and 15G. :54.470 --> :59.400
In our county, siblings can share a room, both bio and foster.
:59.400 --> :05.240 The only condition is non-bio siblings of
opposite sex can’t share a room. :05.240 --> :06.699
Which isn’t an issue here. :06.699 --> :09.389
We try to do what we can to make the siblings comfortable.
:09.389 --> :14.840 But recently 15G said at their home, she has
her own room and she hates sharing. :14.840 --> :18.610
We’ve tried to divide with curtains, privacy panels, etc.
:18.610 --> :22.870 We’ve let 15G get a lot of personalized
stuff for her room. :22.870 --> :24.270 But it’s a struggle.
:24.270 --> :26.940 15G has requested her own room.
:26.940 --> :32.580 The other issue is 13G set a boundary when
we started fostering 2 years ago that she :32.580 --> :34.180
wouldn’t share her room. :34.180 --> :36.449
We agreed as it seemed reasonable. :36.449 --> :41.389
She’s always great with the other kids in
our home but also deserves her own space where :41.389 --> :43.300
she can decompress. :43.300 --> :46.610
She went from being an only child to having other children in the home.
:46.610 --> :51.490 We also make sure we get a lot of one on one
time with her and still do stuff as a family. :51.490 --> :54.360
She knows she can talk to us about anything. :54.360 --> :59.419
We did ask her about 10G sharing her room and obviously, she said no.
:59.419 --> :04.240 We explained this to 15G and she is now upset,
saying it’s not fair. :04.240 --> :05.680 We feel conflicted.
:05.680 --> :10.740 Our social worker backs us up, but some people
in our personal life say we are in the wrong. :10.740 --> :16.419
Other relevant info: We don’t know exactly
how long 15G and 10G will be with us but the :16.419 --> :21.129
current plan in place is 10 months minimum,
with the likelihood it could be longer. :21.129 --> :26.810
So, it’s not as if 10G and 13G would only share a room for a few weeks.
:26.810 --> :31.400 EDIT because people are asking if 10G could
sleep in the living room or whatever…per :31.400 --> :36.660
guidelines, the children must live in a room
with permanent walls, a door that closes, :36.660 --> :37.970
have their own dressers, etc. :37.970 --> :40.680
That would not be possible in the living room. :40.680 --> :46.460
I also cannot give up my room as it’s stated
that all living in the house must have rooms. :46.460 --> :48.520
The room is also big enough for the two. :48.520 --> :52.849
It is the house’s master and fits all their
stuff, plus leaves enough room for them to :52.849 --> :57.699
feel separate. :57.699 --> :10.570 Posted by u/facetataita
:10.570 --> :23.440 6 hours ago :23.440 --> :31.300
AITA For making fun of my sister after her fiance broke up with her
:31.300 --> :36.419 My sister (24F) doesn't always make the best
decisions. :36.419 --> :41.490
She can be somewhat impulsive and doesn't
do a good job of weighing long-term consequences :41.490 --> :43.780
versus immediate gratification. :43.780 --> :49.510
She and I (22M) butted heads a lot growing
up and kind of have a love-hate relationship :49.510 --> :50.510
with each other. :50.510 --> :54.180
Basically, we love each other but neither
of us will shy away from making fun of the :54.180 --> :56.130
other when we mess up. :56.130 --> :01.290
Last fall, my sister got engaged to her BF (25M) of 3 years.
:01.290 --> :05.920 To celebrate their engagement, they got matching
tattoos of each other's names. :05.920 --> :07.269 On their necks.
:07.269 --> :11.140 Like right in the middle of their necks below
their chins. :11.140 --> :15.540
Don't know how her BF made it through that
with an Adam's apple, so kudos to him. :15.540 --> :18.820
That alone got her some grief from both me and our parents.
:18.820 --> :21.940 But whatever you want to do, it's your body
and your life. :21.940 --> :26.360
This past weekend, my sister came to our parent's house and was visibly upset.
:26.360 --> :31.149 Apparently, she and her fiance had a big fight
and he ended up breaking up with her. :31.149 --> :35.279
She was asking my parents if she could move
back in with them because her fiance kicked :35.279 --> :36.779
her out of his apartment. :36.779 --> :41.089
They obviously agreed and we all gave her
support and told her we would be there for :41.089 --> :42.089 her.
:42.089 --> :45.330 I currently live at home too as I'm home from
college for the summer. :45.330 --> :49.960
So, for the first time in a few years, both
my sister and I are spending a lot of time :49.960 --> :50.960
at home together. :50.960 --> :54.110
Which usually brings conflict between us. :54.110 --> :58.959
She and I share a bathroom now and I had forgotten
how much time she spends in there. :58.959 --> :02.680
The only other bathroom is in my parent's
master bedroom, but all of my stuff is in :02.680 --> :04.080
the bathroom we share. :04.080 --> :08.390
The other day, I was planning to get together
with some friends and needed to get ready. :08.390 --> :11.630
My sister was in the bathroom and would not come out.
:11.630 --> :16.050 I started by knocking politely and asking
her when she would be done and she said a :16.050 --> :17.650
few minutes. :17.650 --> :20.329
That dragged into a half hour and I asked again. :20.329 --> :21.700
Same answer. :21.700 --> :27.500
When it was nearly an hour, I pounded on the
door and told her to GTFO so I could finish :27.500 --> :28.710
getting ready. :28.710 --> :33.709
When she opened the door, it was immediately
apparent why she was taking so long. :33.709 --> :38.400
She was trying to cover up her neck tattoo with makeup and failing miserably.
:38.400 --> :41.730 I immediately started laughing, I couldn't
help it. :41.730 --> :44.680
This of course made her mad, but I couldn't stop. :44.680 --> :49.850
I cracked a few jokes about her needing to
update her wardrobe to exclusively turtlenecks :49.850 --> :54.649
and scarfs, or to find another guy with the
same name because unless she gets that thing :54.649 --> :59.870
lasered off, she's going to be looking at it in the mirror every day.
:59.870 --> :03.029 She got ticked at me and called me an jerk,
so I stopped. :03.029 --> :07.780
She's still mad at me for "kicking her while
she's down" and for not being more supportive. :07.780 --> :12.279
But like, anyone could have seen this coming
and I feel it's my job as the younger brother :12.279 --> :14.130
to rib her a little bit about it. :14.130 --> :18.320
I know she feels heartbroken and sad already,
but I'm just trying to bring a little normalcy :18.320 --> :35.560
and levity to the situation so that she can remember that life goes on.
:35.560 --> :53.100 Posted by u/throwra9295
:53.100 --> :04.290 10 hours ago :04.290 --> :10.329
AITA for refusing to change my plans? :10.329 --> :14.079
I have been getting pretty burnt out from
work and I've noticed myself getting tired :14.079 --> :17.029
a lot quicker and having barely energy. :17.029 --> :23.779
I needed a day to myself to just relax, watch
netflix, read, play video games etc and not :23.779 --> :25.210
leave the apartment. :25.210 --> :29.120
Last Saturday I told my gf that that's what
I would be doing on the Sunday since we had :29.120 --> :30.410
no plans. :30.410 --> :34.149
When we woke up Sunday morning, my gf asked if we could go out for the day.
:34.149 --> :38.070 I refused and told her she knew what I had
planned for today. :38.070 --> :42.500
She just said she needs it for her mental
health because she's feeling quite low. :42.500 --> :46.139
Since we were both off work on the Monday
I mentioned that we could go out for the day :46.139 --> :47.550
on Monday. :47.550 --> :50.770
She refused and asked if I could do my plans on Monday.
:50.770 --> :53.790 I told her no because I made these plans first.
:53.790 --> :58.100 She mentioned again that she needed it for
her mental health and I just asked what about :58.100 --> :59.410
my mental health. :59.410 --> :04.720
I mentioned that she knew I had planned to
relax because I was burnt out so why is my :04.720 --> :07.030
mental health less important than hers. :07.030 --> :11.279
She just said that's not what she was saying
but that she needs to get out for the day :11.279 --> :13.940
so I told her I'm not stopping her going anywhere. :13.940 --> :19.290
I pointed out she could ask a friend to go
or go on her own but that I won't be going :19.290 --> :20.290 today.
:20.290 --> :24.550 She said I was being unfair to her because
I knew she struggles with mental health issues :24.550 --> :30.410
but I just repeated that her mental health
doesn't automatically come before mine and :30.410 --> :32.730
she knew about the plans I made. :32.730 --> :49.180
AITA for refusing to change my plans? :49.180 --> :54.580 Posted by
u/GateKeepingRunner :54.580 --> :01.780 22 hours ago
:01.780 --> :12.680 AITA for telling my sister-in-law that she
didn't actually run a marathon? :12.680 --> :15.639 Not the A-hole
I've been a runner for as long as I can remember, :15.639 --> :17.670
I absolutely love it. :17.670 --> :23.250
I want running to continue growing as a competitive
activity and as a just-for-fun hobby. :23.250 --> :28.460
I encourage and support newcomers to running,
but recently I encountered a situation where :28.460 --> :31.380
I felt gate-keeping was necessary. :31.380 --> :35.850
My sister-in-law got into running last year,
and she absolutely fell in-love with it as :35.850 --> :36.850 well.
:36.850 --> :39.930 Since I am also a runner, I decided I could
connect with her on the topic. :39.930 --> :45.130
I wanted to hear about her runs, her progress,
and maybe offer some helpful guidance if she :45.130 --> :46.130
wanted it. :46.130 --> :48.870
So, at a family gathering I ask her about running. :48.870 --> :53.089
After a bit of conversation, she mentioned to me that she ran a marathon.
:53.089 --> :58.009 I was quite surprised, she ran a marathon
after only getting into running a year ago. :58.009 --> :03.510
That is amazing, what incredible dedication and drive (I thought to myself).
:03.510 --> :08.940 I was about to praise her for this incredible
accomplishment, but then she explain this :08.940 --> :11.930
"marathon" in detail. :11.930 --> :17.150
It was a virtual marathon that she started
late last year and apparently completed this :17.150 --> :18.259 year.
:18.259 --> :22.029 Basically it was an app based event where
you tally up your running distances until :22.029 --> :24.579
you reach 42.2km (26.2 miles). :24.579 --> :30.649
I chuckled slightly and told her that its
great she totalled 42.2km in that time-frame, :30.649 --> :33.050
but it doesn't count as a marathon. :33.050 --> :38.020
I told her that a marathons have time limits
for completion, usually 6 to 8 hours. :38.020 --> :42.839
If they didn't, then I could claim multiple
ultra-marathons via the aggregate distances :42.839 --> :44.570
I ran in my life. :44.570 --> :50.730
Its disingenuous and in my opinion, undermines
those who have actually ran a marathon. :50.730 --> :56.329
She didn't take this well, she called me an
jerk, a bully, an elitist, and a few other :56.329 --> :57.329 things.
:57.329 --> :01.839 I apologized for upsetting her, but I stand
by what I said, she didn't run a marathon. :01.839 --> :05.970
I didn't press the subject at all and left
it at that, she wouldn't speak to me the rest :05.970 --> :07.009
of the gathering. :07.009 --> :12.569
My wife agrees with me, despite not being
a runner herself, she said her sister overreacted. :12.569 --> :16.029
Their mother said that I should have just
let my sister-in-law believe that she ran :16.029 --> :17.029
a marathon. :17.029 --> :22.230
Maybe, I don't know....she is 23 years old, without any impairments.
:22.230 --> :28.709 Validating her "marathon" would feel similar
to lying to a child to boost their confidence. :28.709 --> :50.579
The difference is, she is not a child. :50.579 --> :54.770
Am I The Jerk? :54.770 --> :59.750 Posted by u/dragonfoot747
:59.750 --> :04.730 21 hours ago :04.730 --> :10.569
AITA for not taking the whole day off for
SIL wedding because she didn’t make me a :10.569 --> :11.569
part of it? :11.569 --> :14.169 Not the A-hole
My wife’s sister (SIL) is getting married :14.169 --> :15.660
on a Saturday this summer. :15.660 --> :22.110
I have a shaky relationship with SIL, as she
“jokes” about me during family events. :22.110 --> :27.250
Humor is one thing, but these tend to always
be negative jokes about my character. :27.250 --> :29.730
Because of this, I have always thought that she doesn’t like me.
:29.730 --> :34.240 I was waiting for her to possibly ask me to
play some role in the wedding, since my wife :34.240 --> :37.220
is maid of honor and our only son is ring bearer. :37.220 --> :39.920
The couple did not ask me to play a role in any way.
:39.920 --> :43.400 I asked what time I had to be at the wedding
and I was told noon. :43.400 --> :48.611
I work a 12 hour shift on the wedding day
so I decided to just take 6 hours off so I :48.611 --> :53.410
could be there around noon but I’ll still
have to be up at 0400 the next day for work. :53.410 --> :00.200
I found out from my wife that SIL and future
BIL are extremely upset and have been intentionally
:00.200 --> :02.330 ignoring me since they found out.
:02.330 --> :07.650 They told my wife they expected me to take
the entire day off (I work 12 hours every :07.650 --> :11.890
Friday, Saturday, and Sunday) because they
think of me as a brother and assumed I would :11.890 --> :17.140
just want to be there for the rehearsal, dinner,
morning of wedding, and wedding/reception. :17.140 --> :22.110
Them not asking me to play a role, especially
with my wife and our son having roles, confirmed :22.110 --> :26.360
for me that they don’t like me, so I felt
no obligation to take the morning of the wedding :26.360 --> :28.580
off of which I have no part. :28.580 --> :34.270
I work 12 hour shifts, and taking one day
off really cuts into my available PTO so this :34.270 --> :36.400
played a factor in my decision as well. :36.400 --> :41.520
I’m in no way upset for not having a role
and my decision was in no way retaliatory. :41.520 --> :46.299
It’s not my wedding so I don’t make the calls, so it doesn’t bother me.
:46.299 --> :50.710 My wife defended me and told SIL how they
have always made me feel in this conversation :50.710 --> :14.390
they had when all this came up, but neither
SIL or future BIL have tried to talk :14.390 --> :15.390 to me.
:15.390 --> :16.390 AITA? :16.390 --> :17.390 Posted by
u/picturethiswewerebo :17.390 --> :18.390 21 hours ago
:18.390 --> :21.730 AITA for having security cameras on my property
that caught people naked :21.730 --> :25.730 Not the A-hole
I(28m) pretty much have one of my grandfather's :25.730 --> :26.730
properties. :26.730 --> :30.789
I don't live in it and it's still in his name
but when he passes it will be mine. :30.789 --> :36.159
He has been struggling with physical and mental
health so it's not been in the best condition :36.159 --> :39.850
and he's been staying at a nursing home where he can have round the clock care.
:39.850 --> :42.820 I've put a lot of work into renovating and
modernizing it. :42.820 --> :47.100
I cleaned out and renovated the pool, modernized the kitchen etc.
:47.100 --> :50.450 Not all at once but little by little over
the last few years. :50.450 --> :52.540
I even put a hot tub in the back. :52.540 --> :55.030
The house is not fully renovated as of yet. :55.030 --> :59.260
Still working on one of the bathrooms and a bedroom and the basement etc.
:59.260 --> :00.940 But it's a good place to stay.
:00.940 --> :06.120 Not sure if I'll stick around this area forever
but if I don't I'll just rent it out to people. :06.120 --> :08.590
I let friends and family stay in the house if they need it.
:08.590 --> :12.280 If someone is coming into town for a few days
they stay at the house. :12.280 --> :15.980
I have cameras in the front and in the back and along the sides.
:15.980 --> :21.100 They are not hidden by any means and anyone
could easily look and see them. :21.100 --> :26.970
A friend(27f) wanted to host a D&D game night there and I let them.
:26.970 --> :32.020 It was a weekend long thing and I even stopped
by for a little bit and had fun. :32.020 --> :36.490
Nobody trashed anything and my guests are all very respectful and clean.
:36.490 --> :41.630 My cameras notify me when lots of motion is
detected and it told me motion was detected :41.630 --> :44.559
in the pool/hot tub area in the back. :44.559 --> :49.059
Not that I would care if they used those but
I was told they wouldn't and it was a bit :49.059 --> :50.830
after they said they'd be gone. :50.830 --> :56.250
I check the footage and my friend is very
much naked with a man and they were touching :56.250 --> :57.250
each other. :57.250 --> :00.070
I exited out quickly and later texted her. :00.070 --> :01.370
"Just a heads up. :01.370 --> :04.100
There are cameras on the outside of my property" :04.100 --> :07.000
This caused her to blow up over text. :07.000 --> :08.900
Lots of "why are you pointing that out? :08.900 --> :10.450
did you see something?" :10.450 --> :11.870
and "why didn't you tell me." :11.870 --> :13.180
And she was panicking. :13.180 --> :17.880
I just told her that I saw her for a split
second and exited and erased the footage. :17.880 --> :22.880
I said that I would appreciate if she didn't
engage in those activities in my hot tub but :22.880 --> :24.580
that it's not big deal. :24.580 --> :29.260
She said I should have told her but there
are obvious cameras around and there are signs :29.260 --> :41.730
on the windows saying there is 24/7 camera surveillance.
:41.730 --> :47.500 Posted by u/Particular_Honey_675
:47.500 --> :53.270 1 day ago :53.270 --> :09.620 WIBTA for
:09.620 --> :11.780 telling my daughter the truth about her dad?
:11.780 --> :17.289 Not the A-hole
I (45f) divorced my ex (49m) about 10 years :17.289 --> :20.000
ago after he accused me of infidelity. :20.000 --> :29.260
We have 3 kids (17m, 13f, 12f) and for the
first 2 kids, it took quite a while to conceive. :29.260 --> :34.370
We originally wanted 3 kids back to back to
back, but things didn't go according to plan. :34.370 --> :38.880
When I was pregnant with my youngest (Julie,
fake name), he started getting distant. :38.880 --> :44.500
He always blamed himself for our issues conceiving,
even though we never got things tested. :44.500 --> :50.510
So when I was pregnant with Julie so quickly
after our middle child, his behavior changed. :50.510 --> :55.590
After she was born, he'd say things like "How
come she doesn't look like me as much as Amy :55.590 --> :59.830
(our middle)?" and then straight up accused me of cheating on him.
:59.830 --> :01.350 That's when things fell apart.
:01.350 --> :02.750 I never cheated on him.
:02.750 --> :04.670 I never did anything of the sort.
:04.670 --> :08.620 But the final straw was when he demanded a
DNA test. :08.620 --> :13.820
I told him if he doesn't trust me and takes
the test, then I will file for divorce. :13.820 --> :16.370
He took the test, Julie is his. :16.370 --> :17.950
But the damage was done. :17.950 --> :19.750
We divorced when Julie was 2. :19.750 --> :22.789
His relationship with Julie has always been cold. :22.789 --> :27.620
He would call his 2 other kids nicknames like
"buddy" and "sweetie" but he would always :27.620 --> :29.110
call her Julie. :29.110 --> :32.990
Julie, unlike my two other kids, was always into sports.
:32.990 --> :34.860 She’s really good at soccer.
:34.860 --> :38.539 And suddenly, my ex now has more interest in her.
:38.539 --> :43.179 He's attending her games and even drives her
out to tournaments a few hours away. :43.179 --> :47.250
Apparently he talks a lot about her, because
our mutual friends would say "Jake said Julie :47.250 --> :52.910
was doing so well in soccer" when he never
really talked about her at all before this. :52.910 --> :57.200
I know he is only interested in her because of her abilities and it hurts me.
:57.200 --> :02.650 I told myself I would play nice because Julie
is happy and that's the most important thing. :02.650 --> :06.890
Recently on a long tournament trip, it was
just me and Julie in the car and she asked :06.890 --> :09.370
why her dad suddenly started liking her. :09.370 --> :13.800
She told me she always wondered why she wasn't
given the same attention as her siblings and :13.800 --> :16.549
asked what happened and why did we get divorced. :16.549 --> :21.570
My go-to-line for the divorce question is
sometimes people fall out of love with each :21.570 --> :23.160
other and that's what happened. :23.160 --> :27.190
And from my understanding, that's what my ex also said.
:27.190 --> :32.530 But when she was talking about this, I looked
over and saw she had tears in her eyes. :32.530 --> :37.160
I talked to my parents and some friends, and
half of them are telling me she needs to know, :37.160 --> :41.770
and the other half tell me that I would be
an AH for ruining a father/daughter relationship :41.770 --> :43.649
that finally got off the ground. :43.649 --> :47.559
I know HE doesn't deserve it, but Julie does. :47.559 --> :52.029
She deserves a dad that loves her and treats
her like his other kids, and her finding out :52.029 --> :56.790
the truth may ruin that (I mean, my ex already ruined it for 12 years).
:56.790 --> :00.320 So, WIBTA if I tell Julie the truth about her dad?
:00.320 --> :01.320 Posted by u/Suspicious-Hair8165
:01.320 --> :02.320 1 day ago Gold :02.320 --> :03.320
Shocked I am disappoint :03.320 --> :04.320 Snek2 Facepalm
:04.320 --> :05.320 AITA for making a joke when my friend told
me she was pregnant? :05.320 --> :06.320 Jerk
My friend Alice (fake name) (32F) and her :06.320 --> :07.320
husband have been trying for a baby for about 3 years.
:07.320 --> :08.320 I (29F) am childfree but this has never caused
a problem in my relationship with Alice. :08.320 --> :09.320
We would often joke about this difference,
with me telling her stuff like she’ll miss :09.320 --> :10.320
all the disposable income when she has kids
and her comparing my dog to a human kid. :10.320 --> :11.440
Neither of us got offended with this joking and it was all in good fun.
:11.440 --> :12.440 On Friday, Alice, a couple other friends,
and I went out to lunch and Alice told us :12.440 --> :13.440
that she was 3 months pregnant. :13.440 --> :14.440
I jokingly said, “I’m so sorry. :14.440 --> :15.440
Let me know if you need a ride to the clinic.” :15.440 --> :16.440
Alice flipped out and called me an insensitive bench.
:16.440 --> :17.440 I told her that I was joking but she wouldn’t
hear it and she ended up leaving. :17.440 --> :18.440
She hasn’t responded to my texts and calls ever since.
:18.440 --> :19.440 Our other friends are staying out of it and
don’t want to give their opinions. :19.440 --> :22.870
I understand that my comment would come off
as rude if I said it to a stranger but Alice :22.870 --> :25.230
knows me and this is how we joke with each other. :25.230 --> :26.230
AITA? :26.230 --> :27.230 Posted by u/No-Sandwich1817
:27.230 --> :28.230 1 day ago Hugz :28.230 --> :29.230
AITA for refusing to stop living my life for my kids.
:29.230 --> :31.760 Not the A-hole
I got divorced a year ago,it was the best :31.760 --> :33.520
decision I ever made. :33.520 --> :39.850
I basically a maid for the family it was awful
not to mention was working at the same time. :39.850 --> :44.029
Overall it been a bit rough for the kids with
the youngest being 14 and the oldest being :44.029 --> :45.029 17.
:45.029 --> :48.890 They are doing well overall and we basically
have a 50/50 split with custody. :48.890 --> :53.740
It’s wonderful to have “days off” so much new free time when they are not home
:53.740 --> :56.029 so I have been able to explore new hobbies
:56.029 --> :00.630 So I joined a models club, you build models
and show them off, we met once a month to :00.630 --> :03.049
show off our creations, I love it. :03.049 --> :08.140
My 17 year old messed up this week, volunteered
for a bake sale didn’t tell me and forgot :08.140 --> :09.510
to make cupcakes. :09.510 --> :14.559
I was about to leave for my meeting last night
and he was panicking about not having it done. :14.559 --> :18.279
He asked me if I could do it and I told him no since I was leaving.
:18.279 --> :21.429 He was also leaving to hang out with his friend.
:21.429 --> :24.960 This morning cupcakes were not made since
I wasn’t doing it. :24.960 --> :27.820
We got in a huge fight about me not helping him out.
:27.820 --> :31.870 I wasn’t putting my life on hold for a simple
mistake he did. :31.870 --> :36.300
He left for his fathers and my ex also got
in an argument with me about it and called :36.300 --> :37.300
me a jerk :37.300 --> :40.740
Thank you for all the feedback, I am trying
to teach him what the lesson i missed when :40.740 --> :41.740
married. :41.740 --> :42.740
Want more info on that it is in a comment. :42.740 --> :46.390
If anyone has any ideas I’m open for advice,
I’m running out of time before college and :46.390 --> :49.390
he is with the man he learn this behavior half the time.
:49.390 --> :51.890 The other two are willing to learn but he
won’t give an inch :51.890 --> :04.159 Posted by u/No-Morning-6976
:04.159 --> :16.419 1 day ago :16.419 --> :24.950
AITA leaving a family gathering due to my
parents always overcomplimenting my brother? :24.950 --> :27.320
Not the A-hole My brother has had a lot of time for hobbies
:27.320 --> :28.919 in recent years. :28.919 --> :31.370
Something he's spent a lot of that time on is cooking.
:31.370 --> :33.970 Now he IS a really good cook.
:33.970 --> :38.870 He and his husband have a decent-sized house
so a lot of our routine family dinners are :38.870 --> :43.120
held at their place and my brother volunteers to cook most of the time.
:43.120 --> :48.250 When he does, without fail as soon as our
parents come through the door or we do, it's :48.250 --> :51.130
always "Smells really good in here doesn't it?" :51.130 --> :53.980
"Dang you were making me hungry from the street." :53.980 --> :58.669
or things along those lines and they keep
saying such things throughout our time there. :58.669 --> :03.200
At first I didn't think one way or another
about it, but we're going on well over two :03.200 --> :04.260
years of this happening. :04.260 --> :08.200
They never give compliments if I or our other siblings have them over.
:08.200 --> :12.870 They didn't say anything about the murals
my brother and his wife painted on their walls, :12.870 --> :18.070
very big and hard to miss, until they pointed
right at them and asked about it and all our :18.070 --> :20.529
parents said was 'oh that's nice'. :20.529 --> :25.470
Our sister is always making bath bombs and
candles for her home business, so her place :25.470 --> :30.620
always smells nice too and they don't say anything about that or encourage her.
:30.620 --> :37.039
They just don't give any compliments or acknowledge
anything about us, our hobbies, or our homes :37.039 --> :39.830
but they go overboard with our brother. :39.830 --> :44.200
It's not like they neglected him as a kid
and it's some attempt to make up for it, they :44.200 --> :47.559
gave us all pretty equal attention and support growing up.
:47.559 --> :52.150 This last time having dinner at my brother's
house, I was telling my family about how excited :52.150 --> :55.780
I was for my fiance to be starting his dream job. :55.780 --> :00.840
My siblings were happy for him but our parents
didn't say anything and went right back to :00.840 --> :06.130
singing their praises of the second coming
of culinary Jesus and how he should start :06.130 --> :07.340
a food truck. :07.340 --> :12.610
I was pretty done at that and instead of being
there in an irritated mood, I waited a few :12.610 --> :16.430
minutes and acted like I had gotten a text from a friend and had to go.
:16.430 --> :19.230 Said my byes and 'loves yous' and left.
:19.230 --> :23.809 A little while later my mom called and asked
what was wrong because my family had noticed :23.809 --> :28.410
my phone screen was dark when I pulled it out so they didn't buy the text story.
:28.410 --> :32.230 I told her I just didn't have it in me to
sit through another dinner where they forget :32.230 --> :37.210
they have 3 other children with things going
on in their lives they'd like some acknowledgment :37.210 --> :38.210
from them over. :38.210 --> :42.460
I’ve been at odds a bit with my parents and them telling me I’m being immature.
:42.460 --> :46.860 My siblings found out why we’re currently
fighting and our brother and his wife are :46.860 --> :49.919
in agreement with me and said they’ve been getting tired of it too.
:49.919 --> :11.590 I’ve apologized to my brother, but not my parents.
:11.590 --> :19.580 So AITA? | give me a good story on rAITAILEFTMYFAMILYGATHERINGRedditStoriesen |
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welcome friends to another r slash malicious compliance video if you don't
mind helping out make sure to hit those like and subscribe buttons down below
that said our first story of the day is by long-suffering squid turning a mole
hill into a mountain there's four primary types of participant in my
industry manufacturers vendors buying consortiums and patients i work for a
manufacturer widgets inc we sell the vendors who in turn sell the patients
the consortiums work out deals with us for our products and pass those products
and savings onto specific vendors for a piece of the action i take a call from a
patient monsieur mr rob this is unusual as very rarely will we the manufacturer
deal directly with patients they're supposed to go through their vendor or
provider who then contacts us miserable is having a big problem with the new
widgets we made for them they're not working properly and appear to be
defective this is definitely our fault and something that's pretty easily
resolved but it has to go through the proper channels we can't issue m
miserable new widgets directly so i advise him to go back and talk to his
provider dr schmuck it turns out that dr schmuck has been singularly unhelpful
he's been telling the patient that he dr schmuck can't do anything without the
approval of the consortium the widgets were purchased through true bluff he's
lying this is an easy fix for us and ms rob has gotten in touch with true bluff
true bluff tells the patient they've been in contact with us widgets inc and
that we're making them jump through hoops to resolve this they're lying they
haven't and again this is an easy fix for us true bluff is also pointing the
blame back at dr schmuck and miserab is disgusted and angry with a lot of us but
he really liked his widgets until they stopped working so he wants to give us a
chance to make it right i tell them miserable that this is an easy fix but
for legal reasons i can't work directly with him that he must go through a
lessons vendor like dr schmuck and miserab tells me that they dr schmuck in
true bluff gave him our phone number and told them that we widgets incorporated
would take care of the problem for them oh did they now see patients aren't
supposed to have this phone number this number is for vendors and consortiums to
call on i'd been thinking that m miserable was a spillover from the
consumer relations line nope mizrob called us directly and when dr schmuck
and true bluff said that widgets incorporated would take care of the
problem what they meant was they'll cover for our screw-up they're basically
throwing us under the bus since they think there's no way that we can resolve
the situation ourselves they've taken a simple and easy problem and turned it
into a catastrophe they've dumped in my lap but sure i know how to take care of
the problem evil grin well em miserable it sounds to me like
dr schmuck and true bluff are the problem now there's a very simple and
easy way to fix this but for legal reasons i can't process it for you
directly the request has to be submitted
to us by a licensed provider for ethical
reasons i can't tell you what you should do but i can tell you what you can do
you can if you like go back to dr schmuck and true bluff and ask them to
submit to me a request to process this again very simple and easy fix or
alternatively i have a list here of other providers in your area if you
prefer you can return your existing widgets to dr schmuck for credit go to
one of these other providers and tell them that you want to order duplicates
of your widgets and that you do not want to work with truebluff i'm terribly
sorry for the trouble we at widgets incorporated want to make sure you get
the right widgets for you i'm not sure why dr schmuck and true bluff would be
giving you such a hard time would you like a list of the other providers oh
you would wonderful here's the list oh and thank you for letting us know about
the situation with dr schmuck and trubluff we appreciate the feedback you
have a good no a better day now click was i laying it on a bit thick
absolutely but i took care of the problem i hope dr schmuck and true bluff
appreciated my solution if you found yourself in a position like op where a
customer manages to break through the loop somebody that needs help whether
it's medical or just insurance related and you have a solution that could help
them but you're not really supposed to give them that help would you do a
little mr incredible type moment and give them that help anyways you know
that technicality where like i'm afraid there's nothing i can do but you could
blah blah blah blah and give them all the steps to get exactly what they need
let me know if you would hesitate to take that chance in the comments down
below our next story is by the valleys slowest mile of my life growing up my
siblings and i went to a private baptist school our parents wanted to keep us
from the world's evil influence it did not work as i'm sure 99 of the people
who attend those types of schools know what actually goes on in those
environments anyway once a year we went to what was called regional student
convention aka regionals this was a big fine arts competition between other
schools like ours in the region people from arizona new mexico kansas and texas
came to one spot somewhat in the middle to compete so they could move on to the
international student convention which is obviously for other schools around
the world our school didn't go to the internationals but took regionals pretty
seriously there are over a hundred fine art categories you can sign up for our
teachers required at least seven but no more than twelve i believe the
categories included photography acting writing color guard some sports singing
art and track in field to name a few i would try my best to do the most
allotted categories since my parents took the week of regionals off and liked
to see us perform i would do photography sewing research projects multiple
singing groups some play type things and i played on the volleyball team all of
these were picked because i wanted to do them i wanted the week to be fun for
myself and my family one year the teacher in charge decided to micromanage
everything about this week they decided they were going to tell everyone what
they were doing instead of letting us pick ourselves the teacher decided one
sport activity was not enough and wanted me to sign up for a track and field
event i told them i didn't want to do it as i've done it in the past and did not
win and ended up exhausted the whole rest of the day as i didn't never train
at all for the events our school was a church building that they could convert
to the school on sunday nights so no grounds for such a thing track and field
happened on a tuesday morning and then after lunch it was time to do the
singing competitions it made for a miserable day for me
the teacher didn't care and decided i would be running the timed one mile run
they could have easily have made me do something less exhausting like the 100
meter dash but more people signed up for that than they did the mile so by their
logic we had a better chance at a medal most teachers that take students to
these competitions want to receive a plaque of achievement for that category
so they try to get as many people to participate so the plaque can hang in
the school hallway the teacher did not care that i requested not to do this and
told me you will sign up for it even if you walk the whole mile you will
participate i replied with yes ma'am and filled out the required paperwork i'm
sure you can see where this is going the day of the competition comes and we're
all warming up waiting for our events the teachers are all out there cheering
us on as well as all the other students who were not competing that part's fun
just hanging out with your friends our school didn't take it too seriously we
didn't have any training or anything so it was just a morning spent on the grass
for us after a while it's time for the female mile and i was all smiles the
teacher asked if i was ready and i replied are you ready they had no idea
what they were in for i lined up with all my fellow competitors and waited for
the gun to go off once off i did a little jog and of course everyone rushed
past me then i walked i walked the entire mile which you don't know is four
times around a track field there was so much confusion and many people came up
to me thinking i was hurt i replied to them all i'm fine just doing what my
teacher told me to with a smile and a wave the officials were confused the
other competitors were confused even my parents were confused i turned what
would have been a 10 to 20 minute event into a 35 minute event which is a lot of
time considering they couldn't start anything else until the female mile
completed so everything was at a standstill because of me i eventually
finished and my judge didn't even give me my completed time since it was so
ridiculous i did finish in sixth place since there were only five other
competitors so i still got a medal woohoo for me when i tell you the
principle of our school was mad i mean if he was a cartoon there would be steam
coming out of his whole body he was silently screaming at me telling me how
much i embarrassed him the school myself and most importantly god i very calmly
explained i only participated like my teacher told me to i know that nothing
happened to the teacher for making me do that event but i was never forced to
sign up for anything i didn't want to again yeah let's take this great event
where people can do all kinds of things that they would have fun doing and just
suck the whole fun out of it for every single kid you want to do singing well
you better give that up you're going to run the mile billy what's that susie you
want to act well you better be prepared to hop some hurdles instead need i go on
our next story is by lord damn delusions
of grandeur i worked as a lettings agent for a year and a half after leaving the
police and always joked with clients that i chose the job because i'm used to
being hated i was smashing it out highest figures in my office and the
region for months at a time was i a hard
seller no i would legit say guys i'm not going to patronize you you know what a
toilet is take a look around i'll be here it worked anyway the sales agent
was laziest freak and couldn't be bothered so i started to sell properties
too i shouldn't have done but the company was losing business because of
this guy i asked for a promotion to the sales team and got called to see the
managing director he basically gave me a huge telling off saying it wasn't my
place to sell properties when i'm a lettings and rental agent he even said i
had delusions of grandeur and if i thought i was too good for the job to
leave i ended in my month's notice the next day and accepted an offer from a
competitor that had been trying to pinch me for months better pay less hours
higher commission i'd only stayed out of a sense of loyalty hr put me on paid
leave because they were scared i was going to steal landlords according to my
friend who still worked there the branch's figures practically vanished
overnight needless to say know your workforce if you're going to be a
managing director you should want to be able to break down and know who's really
hustling for you honestly it kind of blows my mind that a company that was
selling properties and having lettings and rental agents that they didn't have
some kind of proper metrics in place that show who's doing what who's the top
performer and keeping track of that stuff so they know hey this person is
really slinging some sales around you just willingly let your superstar go
when you could have just acknowledged their worth and retain them our next
story is by jay jeponen don't proofread just print many many years ago i worked
as an admin assistant in a small tech like company we would import radars etc
for government agencies as well as install and provide user training one of
the texts was pretty unpleasant and loved telling everyone he was the sole
breadwinner of the company refusing to acknowledge the team effort of actually
winning the jobs and sending invoices and paying his wages being completed by
others he wrote a user manual for some new equipment and had me print and bind
multiple copies ready for user training he was running very late and left me
little time to do it but i thought i would take a moment to quickly check
formatting spelling and grammar before printing except he berated me and told
me not to overthink it just do what i was instructed to fine no editing by me
didn't touch a thing except print i wish i could have seen the faces of the tech
and the trainees when they got to the last few pages of the manual with the
system shutdown procedures and found it told them to sugar honey iced tea down
the system no no no don't need a proof read as somebody that on any chatting
platform whether it's snapchat or discord or really anywhere even twitter
as somebody who like proofreads three four five times before i hit send on
like every message i admire the confidence of somebody that goes nah
just print it don't need a proofread don't worry i got it and our final story
of the day is by ydev company won't give raise to an underpaid employee not my
story but happened to a co-worker i know this because we were all really close
and knew each other's numbers even though it was against company policy to
share salary details with co-workers yes
it's perfectly legal to have policies in my country i had a co-worker let's call
him a who was lowballed pretty bad fresh out of college a was earning around 40
percent less than other co-workers of similar experience including me
apparently the hr promised them a big raise after the probation period without
giving anything in writing as you'd expect they refused to give a more than
a five percent raise after a year i should mention that given the nature of
the industry and skill level of people in our cohorts it's fairly easy to get a
new job if you get fired so with our agreement he brought up the point that
he's way underpaid compared to any of his co-workers and he knows the numbers
again his our manager said that they won't give any raise unless he has a
counteroffer or he's free to leave any time now malicious compliance this guy
started applying for jobs left and right and got a couple of offers both almost
double his current salary turns out his manager was bluffing all along and had
to give him a 110 raise to get him to stay which meant
that we all also knew what they can offer and threatened to leave unless
they give us a better offer ultimately they had to give all of us 30 to 40
raises to match the other guy's offer without any counter offers for ourselves
within six months of this most of us including a left the company for better
pay and benefits well i guess that's the risk you take by trying to underpay the
people that work for you right you might be able to skate by with it for a while
but once they figure out it's going to spread like wildfire and impressively
they were still trying to keep it lower than apparently what the competition
would have offered but with that being said that's all the time we have for
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a ITA for not moving back into the family home because my steps sister is a
lot of drama going to call my step sister Ava we're both 23 and my stepdad
Bob for privacy I don't live far away from my mom Bob and Ava I'm living with
a roommate elsewhere though because honestly Eva is just a lot of drama and
I prefer not to live with her my parents recently were asking why I didn't move
back in since they've largely paid off the mortgage and they don't understand
why I would want to spend extra money to live with a roommate instead of saving
and have more space at home I told them that I preferred to live separately from
certain family member I didn't say aa's name but they knew I was referring to
her mom and Bob both said it upset them that me and AA don't get along but they
wouldn't press it I pay my own bills so there's not much they can really do
about it anyway I didn't say this out loud to them but I thought they were
being a bit hypocritical because they both have siblings they don't get along
with either at least me and Ava can be civil with each other when need be
Grandma reached out to me yesterday and said her and my parents don't want to
guil me but me living away because I don't get along with AA does really hurt
them and it's causing a small Rift between my mom and Bob because they see
as me preferring to struggle over being at home I thought that was a bit
dramatic I'm obviously not made of money
right now but I'm getting by I know aa's Tendencies are because she's been
through certain things which I do 100% sympathize with but I'm not asking my
mom and Bob to make AA move out I just prefer we'd be living our separate Liv
grandma said she wouldn't press it but the right thing would be to consider it
and that it would make my parents really
happy normally grandma isn't the type to get involved in things like this so I'm
worried now if I'm being selfish by not moving back into the family home and
trying to get along more with AA a i | give me a good story on AITAFornotmovingbackintothefamilyhomebecausemystepsisterisalotofdramaorig |
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wibta if I had my wedding in my sister's
dream wedding location I've written this out a bunch of times but always ramble
for too long so I'm going to attempt to tell this super briefly we'll answer
questions if needed I 24f am from the US but went to University in the UK and
have been in England since my fiance Nick 25m is from Italy but similarly
came to the UK for uni my sister Sarah 27f is someone who is always fantasized
about her wedding Pinterest stuff hundreds of pics in her camera roll
follows a bunch of wedding Bakery insta Pages Etc her dream wedding location has
always been an Italian Vineyard when deciding our wedding location Nick and I
were going between NY London and Tuscany where his family is from we chose
Tuscany because one we find it the most beautiful two his family has a huge
Vineyard where they're happy to host everyone and three with the money we'd
save for venue and accommodations we could pay for the airfare of all our
guests coming from the US it'll be a small wedding Max 50 people 15 from the
US 10 from the UK so it's doable anyway we go about it it'll be a destination
wedding for some people so Tuscany is thus the best financially speaking my
sister however is furious she called me selfish for doing this to her since I've
never cared nearly as much about weddings but now I'm stealing her dream
location my parents were on her side till I told them Nick and I would be
covering all our family's airfare and accommodations and then they were plated
they worried family members wouldn't want to go to two destination weddings
in Italy Sarah however has not come around even one of tried to explain the
reasoning behind it all after talking with my mom today she suggested that we
just have it in England to keep the peace since this means so much to my
sister while I've never cared much for weddings she said she and my dad disgust
and think they're able to cover the cost of all the airfare for people flying
from the US which might be financially doable for them but really not ideal as
they're both retired I'm not sure what to do now Nick strongly prefers Italy
but he isn't adamantly against London his parents very much want to host the
wedding I don't think I'm the a since this is literally Nick's family lives
but I'm willing to admit I'm wrong so wibta if I don't give in | give me a good story on WIBTAifIhadmyweddinginmysistersdreamweddinglocationorig |