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called the police on my 14yo daughter we've been having issues with my
daughter 14 skipping school at this point in time she is one full day away
from receiving the truancy fine we met with the administration at her school to
discuss our options and potential repercussions for her she was brought
down after we chose a path for her and informed her that every day she needs to
show up in the office and say hey I'm here that was last week Thursday she did
fine on Friday then apparently forgot on Monday we allowed her to have her phone
back on Thursday with the stipulation that family 360 get added and and she is
under no circumstances to alter the app delete it or whatever we all have
iPhones and have screen time restrictions and other restrictions on
everyone's phones so everyone got the app and All is fair in that sense Monday
she didn't check in at the school office I was at work when I received a text
from my husband that said nothing more than do you see what I see I opened the
family 360 app and there she is in her Infinite Wisdom off- campus waiting for
the city bus I tried calling the school several times to see if she had checked
in but no one was answering their phones so I waited it out texted | give me a good story on Calledthepoliceonmyyodaughter |
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welcome friends to another r slash pro revenge video today we've got a story of
wrecking a marriage a relative's one at that but first a story from the lost pb
confetti wars a few years ago the wife and i left town with our new baby to go
visit family in the fog of new baby we left the bag that contained our milk
supply for the baby on the kitchen counter no big deal milk is cheap and
we'd gone too far to turn around and get it rather than come home to rancid milk
i called bff to see if he could swing by my place to put the milk in the fridge
he's on it when we get home i immediately noticed a problem there is
hot dog shaped confetti in the ceiling light fixture it's everywhere it was in
the fridge and cupboards it was in coat pockets dvd cases the wedding album my
hockey gear we've been finding them for years we've since moved houses and still
find some to this day fortunately all is not lost my wife is very creative and
resourceful she found and sent him the perfect petty revenge here's the text
transcript bff says well i suppose i have a story to tell you i say sure they
say i guess i have to start with my normal morning he had recently moved out
of town for work and met a new significant other they say i wake up at
girlfriend's place then make my way over to my place poo shower shave and get to
work five minutes early today i find myself showing up at work five minutes
late so this morning i get home and remember that i need to get the mail so
i'm like crap the mailbox is a five minute round trip there goes my wiggle
room i'll be showing up to work right on
time today so i run to get the mail next to save times i have two packages i sit
on the pot to take my morning poo with these two parcels i say go on they say
open the first one sweet my leds i ordered are here set that one aside so i
grabbed this tube-like one give it a quick look over one end is stapled not
only stapled but overkill stapled so we look at the other end one piece of fiber
reinforced tape okay no brainer tape end it is so i take my knife and cut the
tape set my knife down on the counter meanwhile thor the cat decided he was
interested in what i'm doing so he comes and sits on the counter beside me so i
grab the plastic cap and give it a tug next thing i know the cat is flying
through the air attacking a thousand hot dogs as they rained down on us as i'm
taking my morning poo opie laughing saying so good the bff says so now i'm
on the crapper trying to keep the cat from eating hot dogs while i wipe my
butt opie says i'm gonna fall off a ladder i'm laughing so hard they say so
luckily i was able to just toss the cat out and close the door for the day so
now i'm five minutes late and still have thousands of hot dogs to take care of
after work as long as they're all having fun in this hot dog war i think that's
all that really matters do you have a good enough friend that could hot dog
your entire house and just about everything you own and for you to not
get perpetually upset with them let me know in the comments down below our next
story is from denise de nephew three month notice period the right way my old
job had a three month notice period for management level after working seven
years there and being constantly told that i'm going above and beyond in every
review i was very happy but then i got shouted at by my line manager that is a
55 year old fully grown woman yelling at
a 30 year old man like i was their child in front of my whole team about
something that was completely out of my control and a completely harmless
fixable non-issue i was livid i complained but demanded payment for the
abuse and embarrassment that was put on me i received an apology and a 3 000
british pound pay raise after i accepted
the pay raise i handed in my three month notice due to their stupid contract and
the fact that i had access to all the data drives in the office and how upset
i was about my line manager's inability to control their emotions i basically
enjoyed dossing around for three months with my new pay raise money doing the
bare minimum because they had to remove my access to most of the drives they
said you don't have to honor our three-month policy you can do one month
if you want and i simply just went no thank you i'll stick to three lovely pay
for three months just chatting to colleagues and complaining about the
managers was also lovely to hear how many of them were applying for other
places and hearing some of them were already doing interviews they say don't
burn bridges but they never said don't siphon them for every penny my question
is what kind of blackmail does that line manager have on somebody else there who
calls the shots to be able to have gotten away with it for seven years and
even to the point where op got this pay raise and they're gonna quit too and
from the way it sounds it sounds like this manager still didn't get any kind
of reprimanding or consideration for being fired by the way if you're
enjoying these stories make sure to hit those like and subscribe buttons down
below so you never miss any of my daily videos our next story is from someone
with issues cousin tries to paint me in a bad light so i become an informant to
his wife and his baby mama i'm 25 year old female south asian and i don't know
why but most of our dad's side of the family is toxic as freak and mine is no
exception while my mom's side is more open-minded and basically a carefree
bunch dad's side are a bunch of misogynistic toxic constantly in your
business and the most judgmental people you'll meet regardless we live in the
same community which means we still have to interact with them and see them from
time to time this one ant and our whole devil spawn children take the cake
though hate being around her daughters because they enjoy humiliating people
and making fun of them sons are literal trash and are expert liars and
manipulators they have every auntie in the family believing they're basically
god's gift to our community this one male cousin 32 year old male though off
where to begin he's been a freak boy since secondary middle school has zero
regard for the female race and constantly brags that no woman will be
able to tie him down and he won't give any woman the time of day because that's
the type of man he is the fact that i hate him isn't the secret and i'll
constantly say things that'll have all the toxic antis on my back and 99
it's absolute lies a suitable fake name for him would be freak boy trash but fbt
will do so back in 2012 fbt can do no wrong perfect mama's boy the apple of
all toxic auntie's eyes and just perfect
muslim boy has multiple relationships at once and manages to get one non-muslim
girl sophie pregnant three months before
she graduates uni sophie decides to keep the child even though devout muslim fbt
begged her to abort the baby he manages to keep this from his mom and the bulk
of the community with the help of his brothers and his male cousins as well
sophie has the baby around the same time fbt's mom who still doesn't know about
her but gets a feeling that her baby boy
is straying and in her mind the solution is to marry him off to a simple girl
from the home country she arranges the marriage fbt and his entire family go to
pakistan the marriage happens he spends a total of four days with his new wife
and then runs back to the uk he makes no plans to bring back his wife to the uk
but his parents end up doing all the work for him bringing her to the uk two
years later now his wife farya was raised that she must constantly serve
her husband and whatever happens she cannot leave him sophie comes to know
about his marriage but instead of ending it with fbt she continues the
relationship but starts taking pictures of fbt with their daughter and post them
to instagram making sure to tag him in every photo basically 25 to 30 pictures
in the span of a week so now everyone in
the community knows and even faria finds out now this makes my blood boil even
recalling this fbt auntie and his brothers go on a
massive smear campaign saying he was young and didn't know any better and how
this crazy white lady is blackmailing him and he's only doing it for his
daughter he's planning on earning her trust so he can take full custody of his
daughter and raise her a muslim as he doesn't want his daughter to be raised
in that environment just so there's no confusions this is all lies and he never
intended on taking full custody of her everyone just believes him and he comes
out of everything just unfazed meanwhile with farya he barely talks to her
refuses to give her the time of day stays out all night and basically thinks
of her as a free maid for himself and his parents faria to her credit does
have a mouth on her and starts berating fbt fighting with him in private about
his treatment towards her whenever he's out she blasts his phone as he's with
other girls or friends out all night only showing up in the morning she also
starts sending him voice notes in whatsapp angry at him even screaming his
name swearing at him and his parents how do i know about this cause fbt ends up
showing the messages to everyone in the family telling them how he's stuck with
an illiterate b-word and that's the reason why he refuses to spend time with
her that it's been like this from day one and giving oscar-worthy lines like
could you imagine being with someone like her do you actually blame me for
not wanting to be around her farya ends up having two daughters with
him but the sad part she won't admit she doesn't love him in public making it
seem like they're a perfectly happy couple to save face and fbt's mom helps
her the fact that fbt and i don't get along isn't hidden neither does my dad
to his credit he's the only one who sees through their lies and calls them out
for how they are none of his family like him or us for that matter for that very
reason but i count this as a blessing more than anything fpt would still go
out of his way to make it basically impossible for me to be at any family
gathering without any harassment from family members i gifted my uncle a coat
fbt told him in front of me to throw it away and i have bad taste he tried to
trash my dad cause he isn't as close-minded as his family calling him a
bad muslim and even went as far as lying saying i have multiple boyfriends at
once when i would defend myself he'd act dumb and say why do you always blame me
you really think i care to talk about you of all people by 2017 i had it i
don't remember specifically what he did but i contacted sophie and immediately
told her everything then also befriended faria and started telling her any lies
he would tell the family about her so from sophie i found out that all this
time he'd been promising her that he'll divorce faria and marry her and she's
holding on to this dream i try to convince her fbt isn't worth her time
but she was adamant that he loves her and only her so i stopped trying to
convince her but texted her and informed her of all the nice things fbt has been
saying lately about her so she doubles down on harassing him he was completely
caught off guard sophie found out about his fake plan to get full custody of
their daughter and has made their life a living heck sofia turned him into her
personal chauffeur and aaron boy and for some reason he does everything she says
i don't know what she has on him but it must be big because he was on our
instagram again taking his daughter to haircuts taking them on shopping trips
the beach and basically buying her anything she wanted as for faria i
helped her out by setting her info on his whereabouts and at the time side
pieces at first farya kept everything a secret from her family but after someone
convinced her she told them everything first her parents started an absolute
war with fbt and his parents to save face fbt had to apologize and said he'll
straighten up his act faria has brothers in the uk and they constantly check on
her if fbt slips up even a bit they come over take pharya away with her kids and
don't send her back till fbt apologizes and promises all over again to be a good
husband to understand why farya just doesn't leave him where she's from
people look down on divorced women and to her living with a husband like fbt
is better than living in such shame makes you wonder why auntie chose to get
a girl from there for fbt now in 2022 sophie and fbt aren't a thing anymore
but she still has him as her errand boy threatening to take him to court if he
isn't there for his daughter apparently there's no side chicks anymore but not
because he suddenly learnt to love and respect for his wife but cause fbt has
recently been having some trouble in the
bedroom department unfortunately someone
found out and now everyone knows my poor aunt blames it on black magic that the
white girl learnt and somehow performed on him farya still lives with him but
has managed to get some leverage to move out of the in-laws home and live in a
separate house fbt comes home in a timely manner they still don't have the
best relationship and fight constantly but what can he do fbt knows someone is
after him and thinks it's one of his male cousins and now is in constant
paranoia about who keeps informing sophie about what he says and does he
also thinks the same male cousin is an informant to faria's brothers so now
he's basically withdrawn from family functions and even if he does attend
gone are the days of flaunting his greatness while i still talk to sophie
and faria giving them any morsel of info that comes my way and will probably
continue to do so for a long time all i gotta say is this just goes to show that
sometimes it can be the people you least expect fbt said in the story why would
they care to talk about op well little did they know they could have had a
great reason the entire time had they known our next story is from the medium
chunk my petty revenge parking lot edition today i had a bad day at work
and just really wanted a margarita i pulled into a local mexican joint that
has 12 dollar pitchers found a spot and began to pull in just for a white prius
to cut me off and take my spot i was annoyed especially because they passed a
spot a few feet further in favor of cutting me off i got out of my car and
as i was walking in the girl driving told her friend husband or whatever make
sure you get us a booth my original plan was to be passive aggressive and just
get inside before them as a small victory but when i got inside i noticed
that there was only one more booth available it wasn't a huge revenge plot
but you better believe i asked for that booth i happily sipped my margarita and
queso while they waited for a booth it's the little things i'm not gonna lie
though margaritas and kiso sounds like it would kind of slap like if there was
ever a time to do any kind of revenge no matter how petty it may be doing it
whilst having a treat like that sounds like a pretty good time our next story
is from magic 8 balls you're not supposed to be working this happened to
me about 20 years ago so the details might not be a hundred percent accurate
at the time i worked as a cook bartender server at a local pizza place
yes every employee was trained to do all
three jobs and if you opened for the day you did all three jobs by yourself for
at least four hours sometimes five or six hours i was scheduled to open every
sunday at 11am the people who own this place own another pizza place in a town
30 miles away but the place i worked was their head office for a lack of better
word that's where the supplies for both places were shipped since the other
pizza places didn't open till 3 pm on sundays the manager of the other
restaurant would come into the restaurant i was working at around 2pm
to pick up supplies let's call her k normally i would get along with her just
fine unless she went into witch mode then she was unbearable usually every
week i would have everything she needed ready and waiting for her if i wasn't
too busy cooking or helping a customer i
would even help her load it into her car then she would leave and i'd continue
doing my thing the sunday my story takes place was mother's day i was already
upset because i had to work instead of going to lunch with my mother almost as
soon as i walked in i started getting orders because well it's mother's day
around 2 pm kay walks in and she was obviously in witch mode that day because
not only was the restaurant i was running at the moment supposed to be
closed for mother's day which the owners completely forgot to mention to me i
have other stories about them but she still had to work and she started
tearing into me for having the audacity to milk the owners for a few extra hours
worth of pay i wasn't entitled to i called up the owners who confirmed i was
supposed to be closed that day and they forgot to let me know i was livid not
only did i miss family lunch for mother's day i now had to call customers
to tell them their orders were now cancelled while listening to kay all but
accuse me of theft finally as i was about to leave kaye asked me if i could
help her load stuff into her car i looked her dead in the eye and said i'm
not supposed to be here remember then i walked out leaving her to load
everything by herself i'm not sure if this qualifies as petty revenge but i
felt a little better for it god there is nothing worse than being in a situation
where you're just frustrated you're not happy to be someplace you're really
struggling through that grind and then somebody comes in and starts complaining
at you about something stupid it makes you want to just like slap him upside
the head and say shut up our next story is from quetzal rust revenge as an adult
my parents were very harsh with me as a child they recognized they were harsh
with me and my mom's even lamented how she treated me none of us are rich
especially my dad he doesn't save money gives it all the way to family and buys
stupid crap like broken down volkswagens he'll never fix so now every month i
send them money because i'm able to my mom and i have it set up automatically
because she administers their finances and pays for food my dad i don't i only
send him money if he asks and i play dumb i tell them to wait and see if it
gets deposited in a couple of days i make a mask several times and i can see
that it embarrasses him and makes him feel awkward and what i send him is a
pittance anyways because i know he blows it sometimes i play dumb long enough
that i don't even send it because the month is almost over it gives me a small
amount of pleasure to hold it over his head should i stop probably but every
time i'm about to finish setting up the automated transaction forum i exit out
of the bank website i think this story explores a very interesting reality
sometimes that you can love somebody and want to support someone but if you know
that they're just going to make a bad decision with whatever it is you give
them sometimes it's better to just try to help them by not giving them
something and hoping they can figure out how to maybe be a little bit more
responsible before they have absolutely nothing this next story is from
amazinglibrarian805 i waste a rude customer's time over 15
years ago i worked in a retail stores electronics department the store had a
policy that any product behind a locked cabinet had to be paid for within the
department before continuing on to shop through the rest of the store one guy
didn't like this and in the most condescending tone possible asked to
speak to my manager because he didn't have time for this even though it only
took a minute to pay for stuff i knew managers in the store were notorious for
taking their sweet time to come talk to angry customers it wasn't unusual to
page for a manager many times so i obliged i picked up the phone and dialed
into the intercom i paid for a manager a few minutes go by and nothing i paige
again no response the customer is turning red with rage in the end i
wasted over 30 minutes of this guy's time as much as op likes to say that
they wasted 30 minutes of this guy's time there was 30 whole minutes where
this entire thing went on and went by where the guy wasn't just like screw it
forget it come help me at the cabinet i just want to get this and get out of
here they chose to waste that 30 minutes
and was the end result worth it probably not this next story is from hokey pokey
guest list bucket woman versus my scraps bucket this is why we had motion
activated lights installed i meant to share this one a while ago but i got
sick for a few weeks and didn't have the energy after the vicious dog attack our
old side gate started to wobble alarmingly almost like someone ran into
it full tilt while escaping an angry house cat we reluctantly decided to
demolish it knowing that would leave us more open to bucket woman visits but
since the new gate was due to be installed later that week we reasoned
that nothing that bad could happen this is also the story of how wrong we were
martin demolished the old gate on sunday afternoon neatly stacking the remains
along the side of the garage near the bins later that night about 11 pm i took
my bucket of kitchen scraps out to the green bin i didn't bother turning on the
light because i was intending on a quick trip out and in and there was enough
available light it's the middle of winter and close to freezing and i
wasn't planning on staying out there very long i waddle out into the dark
wearing my dressing gown and slippers i had just reached the bins when i heard a
noise in the yard behind me i called out who's there no answer i call out again
who's there this time a shapeless figure silently came towards me i hurled the
scraps bucket at it the figure screamed so i screamed louder
since my brother wasn't available i grabbed one of the bins and tried to use
it as a shield but i tripped and fell over the old gate then the lights came
on and everything flooded outside i was sat on my butt looking up at the bucket
woman now wearing my kitchen scraps babbling and waving some papers
disclaimer i didn't score a direct hit with the bucket the contents just
splashed her martin grabbed a cricket backet and growled at her in a voice
that would have frozen hades get out now the bucket woman tossed her papers in
the air and fled shedding potato and onion skins as she ran okay my
irrational brain insists on replaying it like that even though i know i only
splashed her my daughter rang triple zero the neighbor's ring and so did the
bugged woman she said she'd come to serve legal documents on me and i'd
assaulted her the police took the papers away but left the scraps so i limped
away from this encounter slightly wounded but still a free woman and
triumphant when i'm old and in a nursing
home the memory of the bucket woman with my leftovers globbed on her legs will
still make me smile but wait there's more sunday afternoon martin looked out
the window at the remains of the old gate and i could see an idea forming
then he disappeared i next saw him humping the old gate across the backyard
and neatly piling the remains up against
the shared fence on top of the old fence posts he came back in and said he'd
moved it to the hard waste pile because it really is an eyesore for the rest of
the street and the bucket woman doesn't like it when we make the street look
messy the words hoist and petard spring to mind i would love if anything if
there was some kind of like camera footage of this encounter not for me to
personally watch it but to show it to somebody like the police where this
lady's like oh they assaulted me i just wanted to serve them some papers and
like in the video you could probably see
it was pitch black night vision fully on being able to see that somebody walked
up on them in the dark and knowing how terrifying of a situation that is when
it's almost pitch black out and somebody walks up with something in their hand i
imagine the last thing you think it is is a bunch of papers for legal purposes
i'm sure op was in that situation thinking oh my god this might be it
frankly i think bucket woman is lucky all they got was a bucket of kitchen
scraps hurled at them in our final story of the days from santa's other brother
press set up man doesn't want to do his job has to do more work my first real
job after my apprenticeship i was doing repair and maintenance on progressive
dies for a manufacturer of energy controls almost all of their dies were
small easy to lift their largest two dies were too heavy to lift manually so
they had carts the correct height slide the die off a cart into the press run
the parts then slide back onto the cart more difficult than it sounds i did the
maintenance on these two large dies one day i'm summing to the press department
one of the largest dies is in the press setup man says that i screwed it up and
he wants me to fix it after some quick diagnosis i try to politely explain that
the dye is crooked in the press and not centered on the feeder his
responsibility won't hear it all my fault i have to fix it he wants me to do
his job that is not going to happen the tool maker says okay take it out and i
walk away the setup man says but but but take it out means undo all the bolts
slide this 300 pound lump onto its cart and push it the length of the building
to the tool room these carts didn't roll very well this was a big pain in the
butt he does this and then says i'll call you when it's ready i knew there
was absolutely nothing wrong with this die so i let it sit there all day less
than 90 minutes until the end of the shift toolmaker says it's ready come and
get it now he has to push it the length of the building again put it back in the
press and set it up again back where we were that morning but this time it runs
perfectly i made no changes didn't even look at it all in the setup the next day
the production supervisor comes by wants to know why he missed a day of
production i told him exactly what happened he was not happy six months
later dead of summer same thing happens same result the toolmaker says take it
out he pushes it the length of the building it sits there all day he pushes
it back he sets it up correctly and it runs fine i made no changes didn't even
look at it all in the setup the next day production supervisor comes by again i
told him exactly what happened he was not happy i think the manager finally
clued in on exactly where the problem was because it never happened again
honestly i think what i love most about this story is there's management that
actually hears the workers out so many times i feel like you hear stories like
this where the worker who just loves to shift the blame and not take
responsibility for possibly messing anything up will continue to try to
shift the blame to the sun comes up and often these managers will end up taking
their side because well i imagine it's a
little bit more convincing when somebody comes to you and says no no this is
exactly what's going on here not only do they hear and believe op and know the
steps in the process but i love the fact
that op had this guy do all this work to wheel it into another room op could
basically wiggle their fingers and pretend they're doing some magic juju
spell and everything would be magically fixed and all better again and opie
would have corrected whatever it was they did wrong too bad opie wasn't there
when they put it in initially so they could do some finger wiggling then too
then according to the tool maker it never would have been wrong but with
that being said that's all the time we have for today now if you want to hear
another revenge story that was way crazier than any of the ones in this
video click on that left video or if you
missed my latest video check out the one on the right that said i'll see you all
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aita for not wanting to help my mom after she didn't buy me food I am 16f
and I live with my brother 17m along with our parents since I'm an artist my
mom asked me to paint something for a project she's working on at first I was
hesitant and originally not going to do it since I don't make art for free but
she was being very persistent so I agreed to help just to get her to stop
asking today she went to drop off some library books and asked me to go with
her she told my brother 17m that she was going to stop to get some lunch and
asked him what he wanted he said he wasn't very hungry and not to get him
anything she never asked me what I wanted but I assumed since I was going
with her she would ask me once we got there we dropped off the books and she
started making her way home I asked her if we were still getting lunch and she
said no your brother isn't hungry I said well I'm hungry I haven't eaten today
and there's no food at the house and I'm not exaggerating we are out of food
because my parents need to go grocery shopping my mom said she'd do it tomorrow | give me a good story on AITAfornotwantingtohelpmymomaftershedidntbuymefoodaitaaskredditredditaitaorig |
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a it for consoling my girlfriend's friend I 30 male and my girlfriend 30f
have been together for a little under a year we have lots in common and I do
love her I've always viewed her as a kind generous caring person she has a
group two other girls that she's known since high school they are fine and we
all get along I don't know either of them that well and have never went out
of my way to overly engage with them for my girlfriend's birthday we all planned
a trip to Venice Italy we all had been so far having a great time for my
girlfriend's birthday she wanted to go to a very popular club we are white
while one of her friends is black while the bouncer denies her friend entry and
when we ask why he says no darks you should clearly see my girlfriend
debating to still go in I was honestly shocked her friend quickly says it's
fine you guys go and I'll go back to the hotel or maybe find another bar My
Girlfriend plays the whole you sure role but I feel like it was clear she wanted
to go in I can see hurt on her friend's face and I quickly say to be safe I'll
ride back with her and come back my girlfriend quickly agrees and her and
the other friend go in once we are in the taxi I can see tears streaming down
her friend's face I tell her it's okay that that guy is an and doesn't
deserve her tears I hold her in a platonic way I tell her you know what
that guy is not going to ruin the night that she didn't get dressed for no
reason I tell her let's go to a bar we find a place I text my girlfriend and
say I'm going to stay with her friend she just responds okay we go to the bar
have some drinks and have an overall good time she seems to feel better we
don't talk about my girlfriend who honestly I'm kind of pissed at we still
end the night pretty early I drop her back at the hotel and go to the club my
girlfriend is at I tell her I'll wait outside for her just because I want to
make sure she and the other friend get home safe she keeps saying why won't I
come in I tell her why the hell would I pay money to a racist place that made
her friend feel like she gets all upset and says I'm turning her into the
bad guy and that her friend literally didn't care I said they why did I spend
hours consoling her cry crying friend she blows up on me and I turn into the a
she says it's completely inappropriate starts accusing me of things saying I
spent her birthday consoling her friend not worried about her and I said someone
had too we've both been pissed at each other when the next day came but the
worst part is somehow she's pissed at her friend and her friend is pissed at
me for sharing a private vulnerable moment she said she just wish I didn't
mention she cried I apologized to her friend but refused to apologize to my
girlfriend which is causing more anger the whole trip is soured now I feel bad
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pandemic locked me in the house with my cheating wife I've pondered a lot the
idea of me posting this story and based on the title I'm sure you realize that
this story is now closing in on 3 years old however I felt at this point that it
is good to get this off my chest at the time I 30m at the time was happily
married to my 30f wife we had been married around 6 years I will refer to
her from here on a Sarah not her real name we traveled ate together and spent
time together basically every night for the first 6 years of the marriage during
2019 I started to see some warning signs that in retrospect should have told me
something was up in early 2019 I had to be out of town for a work conference the
first time that I had ever been gone overnight from home without her she
immediately suggested that her friend might come visit and even stay over
those days now for context this friend 29m I will refer to him as Mark is
someone she texted all the time they were close friends and I know for a fact
had been intimate with before we met I put my foot down and said no pointing
out he never came over in six years except the one time I was gone while she
got mad she respected my wishes to the best of my knowledge and the scenes from
the security cameras there were other things as well that gave me pause but
for the interest of time I will move on now we arrive at the end of 2019 as we
are in a movie theater together I notice her writing messages to someone on her
Apple watch during the movie this was very unusual for her to do and the
messages although I can't remember them were a bit strong for a cooworker at a
new job but nothing overtly sexual SL romantic I ask her about it after the
movie and she brushes it off her Behavior changes sitting away from me on
the couch changing in a different room and so on I start to wonder am I being
cheated on or what is being hidden from me I feel tremendous guilt for even
thinking about checking her phone for confirmation feeling that if I do and I
am wrong there's no point in continuing to be married after thinking about it
for days I decide to check in January 2020 now her phone is always close by
and I don't know the passcode luckily her watch is accessible and she made the
code our anniversary irony abound what I discover next is horrifying Sarah and
Mark discussing her hookups with a cooworker them mocking me for not
noticing what is going on Sarah discussing how the idea of me touching
her is revolting how she can't imagine having kids with me we had been trying
in mid 2019 so this especially hurt then I read the messages between Sarah and
the coworker we will call him Carl those messages are explicit and Sarah shows
more affection for him in every way than she shows me now and each message tells
me a new revelation that hurts more that a trip she said was to console a friend
was really so that the friend could meet Carl that she began changing in the
bathroom so I wouldn't see the hickeys on her body that her therapist knows all
of this and says I should be made aware but that she should be happy with
whoever I stay up till 3:00 or 4:00 a.m. reading these messages and taking
pictures of everything I don't sleep that night my jaw clenched so hard all
night had caused issues for months she leaves for work I'm off that day and my
first phone call is to a lawyer what are my options when I confront her what can
I say/ not say legally I wait for her to come home reading over the messages to
confirm it wasn't the worst dream I ever had when I confront her I tell her what
I know without revealing I had been in her texts I tell her I spotted the
hickey a lie but she mentioned it in the messages that I know she's texting
someone Sarah lies tries to argue it is someone else that gave her the hickey
but finally I read a message from her watch I guess what I expected was for
her to break down and admit everything instead Sarah explodes in Rage that I
violated her privacy the insanity and gaslighting of trying to convince me
that I was the bad guy here blew me away she stormed out of the house and
disappeared for 3 days no communication as to where she was even though I asked
her to tell me where she was staying so I knew she'd be safe to this day I only
know a small part about where she went or what she did when she comes back she
tells me she wants to try to fix things and spend some time together it doesn't
go well I catch her sneaking off to meet with him once again as she foolishly
leaves the watch behind and I can read the messages in real time I finally tell
her in February 2020 that I contacted a lawyer she insists she won't sign
anything in until we attend couples counseling I humor it but it goes off
the rails immediately when after I explain we're here because she had an
affair that she argues my word choice Affair was too strong a word she also
lies about the fact that she cheated on me before Carl with a married man
something I discovered at a later date going through her watch once again she
admits her plan was to find an apartment then hand me papers without me ever
knowing what is going on she even tries to blame the whole affair on me using in
the therapist view minor disagreements as proof of my cold and uncaring
demeanor one example I didn't immediately scream at my parents for a
Christmas gift she didn't like or at her parents when they playfully made fun of
her at this point the decision is made I need to divorce her as she will never
tell the truth we agree Sarah will move out of our house and I even help her
find an apartment anything to get her out of the house faster one day in March
2020 I watched the news of Co come in and all construction work stops her
apartment was almost ready but was being
renovated now there's nowhere for her to go I'm stuck in the house with her from
March to June of 2020 for for those wondering she has enough legal knowledge
to know that leaving would make her case harder and might still have to pay
expenses those three or so months were hell trying to do my job and live in a
house with a person who had wronged me and ridiculed me was unbearable at times
we tried as best we could to keep it civil and not scream at each other every
time we passed each other imagine spending 90 plus days cooking meals
passing by and seeing no one else in the world but the person who ended your
marriage and broke your heart every day featured me essentially locking myself
in a room for 8 hours then doing yard work or working out to avoid speaking
with her she moved out for the most part in late June once the world started to
open up a bit and had all of her items out by July knowing that I wanted the
house she definitely manipulated the situation to her advantage to avoid her
being publicly shamed her family to this
day doesn't know what caused the divorce she didn't tell them the divorce was
happening at all till after the papers were signed and essentially forced me to
pretend we were still together until then at which point I told her to tell
her parents or I would they never asked me what was the cause although one or
two did wish me well I never felt the need to tell them as despite the pain
and gaslighting she caused I didn't feel the need to hurt them her parents never
wronged me Carl and Sarah didn't last when I found out Carl told her to leave
me and be with him but she tried to mend
our relationship and he walked away from her so she ended up with no one Sarah
and I rarely speak now unless it's absolutely necessary which is rare I've
wondered at times if maybe I was wrong for not publicly outing her infidelity
the people who are important to me know the truth I also never confronted or
spoke to for that matter Carl or Mark or her friend who knew about all of this
but never warned me as for me I found someone who is truly a good person and
have a great relationship I've never told Sarah as it's none of her business
much like telling her family about her cheating I thought about telling Sarah
how well I'm doing but I think that is just shod and FDA thanks for reading and
I'd love to hear your thoughts Second Story my husband killed someone and
can't cope 5 months ago a woman purposely walked in front of my
husband's truck he struck her and was killed much like the people who killed
their family before killing themselves she was so selfish basically taking him
with her he quit on the spot his employer should have recognized that he
was in distress and given him some time off instead of accepting his resignation
but they didn't I'm 8 months pregnant and before someone says you shouldn't
have kids if you can't afford them I know we are in a world of hurt right now
and it's only going to get worse the accident brought up bad ju guu from an
accident 10 years ago where he lost his wife and son he has anxiety that he
didn't have before he goes to therapy but hasn't driven since the accident he
would rather walk in 100 re heat than get behind the wheel he has driven
trucks for nearly 13 years it's all he knows I know mental health is so
important but we are at a dead end I won't insult him by acting like I know
what he is going through or what he is feeling but we can't afford for him to
grieve any longer I have been telling him for the last month that we are
running out of money we have less than $100 dollars to our names and our pantry
is bare life can't wait for him to get ready I don't know what ultimatum I can
give him that will snap him back to reality but next week we are going to be
living on the street we are on a month-to-month lease because we don't
have the best credit so if if we don't pay we are out I've already pushed our
car payment back as much as I could we've used our get out of jail free
cards used all generosity from our family and friends and I've exhausted
local resources I work full-time in a salon and simply don't make enough to
support us I try finding outside jobs but I'm limited until after I give birth
I don't want to come off as insensitive but he needs to go back to work we had a
small savings that we have been using but that money is gone my husband
insisted he help out the woman's family with final expenses which I was against
but he did it anyway he feels guilty and
I feel like the worst [ __ ] wife in the
world saying all this but I can't do this alone update number one my husband
took his life in front of me this happened a few days ago and it's a cruel
Twisted irony that I made this Reddit asking how hard I should push him to go
back to work my last post was about how we were going to lose our place because
my husband couldn't recover after a woman stepped in front of his semi- 7ish
months ago I said it was like she took him with her now he is actually gone and
it's not even the same before I get some
[ __ ] asking why are you posting right now I don't know what to do I
notified his family after my last post I pushed him to try to get his job back
and they took him back with open arms which was a huge blessing and surprise
when I called his boss yesterday to tell him my husband wouldn't be coming back
he told me that the company would pay for his funeral he had been with them
for nearly 10 years before he abruptly quit the day of the accident he needed
therapy and time off but thought the best thing the easiest thing would be to
quit and try and handle it alone if you have people in your corner and if you
have resources available to you please use them did you know if someone unives
themselves in your house you are respons
for cleanup if you are renting and don't
have renters insurance it's on you I'm 8 months pregnant and I'm being induced
next week and I can't even go inside my house I contacted the church we had been
to on and off where we got married and suicide is a sin so no help there I
think I was too hard on him in the last few weeks I had let the stress build up
and didn't tell him how bad things were until it was too late he thought oh she
can handle it like she always does we have to stop thinking like that and be
we I mean anyone who is reading this because I'm sure you do it too I brought
up adoption because who would would choose to bring a child into this world
being poor that is what a lot of comments told me and they were right I'm
being induced next week and I don't even
have a clean environment to bring a baby back too it's the last piece of my
husband and I don't know if I deserve to raise him I know I might have seemed
like an [ __ ] about my husband I was
Slash him just stressed but he was a good man who deserved to be a father and
he deserved to be here he just didn't see that and I think I'll have a broken
heart for the rest of my life if anyone is in my area who wants to sit on the
curb and drink lukor bottle water with a stranger my DMs are open if you are
struggling please get help you are not weak or less than mental health is so
important and serious please update wow I can't keep up with the comments for
privacy sake I'll just say Illinois I have a lot of places to call so then you
do every single kind comment and message I Won't Say I'm okay or that I will be
anytime soon but I'm safe update number two 8 lb 5 O and 19.5 in this is an
update to those of you who asked on my last post got removed NSFW so I hope
it's okay that I do so I had my baby boy
this past weekend 8 lb 5 O and 19.5 in I wanted to share the news because when I
texted his family the day he arrived I was told they wanted to know nothing
about him and didn't want to see any pictures heart crushing is an
understatement trying to sign up for survivor benefits and Wick while also
filling out life insurance paperwork is surreal I just hope it's approved ASAP
I'm keeping my baby no matter how hard it'll be I never thought I'd be sending
my husband to heaven and welcoming his boy within a week of each other I want
to believe they somehow crossed paths up there because the thought of him not
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have you ever seen a doctor yell at their patient I was that doctor I yelled
loudly not at the patient but at her aunt so I was working in the ER a little
kid of around 10 or 11 came late one evening she had a massive blow to her
skull and was having seizures it was all bloody but surprisingly she was
conscious her aunt was very caring and hovered over us she told me the girl
fell off a bike I pacified her and told her to wait outside while I provided
Primary Care to the child before transferring her to a higher Care Center
when the aunt was outside I asked the girl what happened her aunt had hit her
in the head with a hammer that vile lady had hit her ten-year-old niece in the
head with a hammer I was horrified and enraged I was mad I stabilized her came
out and called the N inside as soon as I saw her I just lost it I yelled at her
at the top of my lungs I don't even remember all that I said but it lasted
long enough for the ward boys nurses and ambulance driver to gather it also
lasted long enough for the ant to break down and confess I called the girls
parents and they called the police and register the complaint my behavior was
unprofessional but I have never regretted it I don't usually lose my
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hey everybody hope you're all doing well
my name is steven and this is the story time channel we've got some malicious
compliance stories so let's jump right into our first story of the day by thin
letter m20 i'm not sure it qualifies because it wasn't particularly malicious
in the mid 90s i got my first tech support job working for a company called
cps payment systems in tennessee the company irked me because their name was
company payment systems payment systems that's close to its real name i was
doing sub subcontracted tech support for a company
i'll call webcon but that's not its real name
this company sold lifetime internet over dial up through our infrastructure from
our parent contracts backbone they sold these packages for 200 or so
at state fairs they got away with this thanks to a very strict user agreement
any concurrent logins or access for more than eight hours
a day and validated the agreement they were fond of cancelling the accounts of
people who got ghosts dropped and dialed back in
the day before this happened we had a meeting myself and my buddy tom that's
not his name with the qa team who had received a
complaint from the webcon people about us incorrectly categorizing our tickets
me and tom were the only two agents working for webcon five days out of the week
neither of us really knew what the problem was as they didn't have any
specific examples but we promised to do as they said
and always choose the most appropriate category to close the ticket under
this was their very specific instruction in writing on the review forms they had
us sign the next day i got a call from a nice old man who couldn't get his
internet connection working it turned out he had actually forgotten
to dial in and had just opened his browser after he realized the mistake he was
very apologetic and ended the call with i was just stupid sorry to bother you
those exact words when i was closing out the ticket i
looked through the category list harder than i had before
and noticed that while the first 25 or so were very professional
there were dozens more under it that were snarky sarcastic or just plain mean
you just had to keep scrolling i giggled a bit as i looked through them
near the bottom was one that simply said customer was stupid
i smiled a bit told tom about it and we laughed for a bit
then i closed it out customer was stupid two days later i called into hr they
accused me of being abusive towards the customers and
unprofessional i asked what it was about they showed me the printout of the
ticket explained how saying a customer was stupid was not acceptable
and they were going to have to let me go this was not my first visit to hr sadly
they believed i had hacked the system planted the offensive category description
and then used it i tried to explain about the qa meeting
the need for accuracy the customer's verbal statement
in the large number of other very questionable closing categories that
were in the database which i could only choose from and could not add
delete or edit they didn't want to hear anything about it
and i was fired i signed the paperwork and my supervisor stood up with me to
walk me out of the building a few feet from the hr office the
director of the building was talking to someone
i had never met him personally but i recognized him me and my supervisor were
talking pretty emphatically about what happened being wrong and possible appeals
etc the director asked what was going on my manager explained the situation and
the director told us to wait there stepped into the hr office for two
minutes and came back out he asked me if anyone who was still
employed there could show what i had explained from the ticketing system
and i said sure enough tom can do that ten minutes later he came back
hr manager in tow and ordered her to reinstate me
on the spot now that is an absolutely stand-up
director to be honest it's just filing a ticket so i doubt the customer would
ever actually see customer is stupid let alone the fact that that is what they
said all that said if it was you would you have gone ahead and filed it under
customer stupid for the joke or would you have
tried to keep it a little bit more professional let me know your thoughts in the
comments down below our next story is by sugardaddy24 phone
sorry just my diabetes pump my school was quite small
we had a graduating class of 92 so everyone knew
everyone all the teachers were amazing and very involved in our academic lives
but for the most part had nothing but good intentions
unfortunately there was one teacher our english ap teacher who was just an
absolute jerk she was the type of teacher that if
she saw you with your cell phone out even during lunch or in between classes
that she would take it give it to the principal and give you a
detention i decided to mess with her one day because she was quite
clearly in a pissed off mood and the opportunity was
perfect i was standing in line for lunch and i got my pump out
i was diagnosed with diabetes at age 8 and have had a pump since
9. it looks a whole lot like a cell phone other than the tube running from it to
my body without really looking closely it can
easily be confused with a cell phone she sees me playing with my pump and comes
over to me this is obviously not exact words used
i more than likely was a little more disrespectful but i definitely knew the
boundaries and would never be so blatantly rude or disrespectful
that it would deem necessary to get a detention give it to me now and follow
me to the principal's office um no i need this to live
give it to me now i will not ask again no leave me alone i just want to eat my
lunch she then grabs my arm and drags me to the principal's
office i was very close to the principal as i was the class president
so i spent a lot of time with her planning school events and such
this student had her phone out during lunch refused to give it to me and was
rude and back talked me principal says is this true no ma'am my
cell phone is currently in my locker i saw you playing with it in line
principal says op please give us your cell phone i say
okay follow me to my locker then no give it to us now it is in your pocket
no it's not then empty your pockets i proceed to
empty my pockets which was a pack of gum and then i have my pump in my hand
because it's connected to me so i can't put it on the table why would
you lie to me when you obviously have it in your hand
this is my diabetes pump why didn't you tell me
you never asked if it was a cell phone you just tried taking it away from me
this is ridiculous you need to show more respect
principal says i think we are done here teacher you can leave i will talk with
op teacher leaves and is quite obviously pissed off about the situation
i tell principal the truth about the trap i set for teacher and that i hope
she isn't pissed at me and i won't do it again
she chuckles a little bit tells me to go eat lunch and she will see me later for
a school fundraiser event i never had another encounter with
teacher and during class she made it a point to tread it out to talk to me well
i see this as an absolute win this angry always out to get you kind of teacher
backed off and was trying to avoid you because you had a diabetes pump
it was all just a prank and it actually ended up giving you a very nice
reward not having to deal with this teacher watching over you like a hawk
this next story was written by eric davis1240214
sorry replacement i'm not training you this happened over 18 years ago but i
remember it like yesterday i had worked for a law firm in a
clerical role for about three years though not a lawyer i ended up doing a
lot of work that lawyers normally handled but not for lawyer pay anyway i
landed my dream job in another field more
interesting better hours better benefits double the pay
i hit the jackpot and was on my second from last day at the law firm
having respectfully given and honored my two weeks notice
as it happened i needed to take an extended lunch break one day to handle
some business related to my pending new job i arranged it ahead of time and even
came in two hours early to make sure all my work was completed on time
darn i was too conscientious anyway my lunch business took me longer than
expected and i returned about an hour later than planned no big deal right
i had very little left to do and only two more days of that job anyway
nope the hr manager found me as i got to my desk
called me to her office and fired me on the spot
i managed not to smile and thank her because i was thrilled to have an extra
couple of days off before heading to my new position i had
a little spring in my step as i walked to my desk to pack up my
stuff i can either confirm nor deny that i was whistling a happy tune
in truth there was only one thing i still had needed to do on my final two days
though not a lawyer i essentially took care of all the estate planning clients
wills advanced medical directives and such
i take all of the info from the clients generate all the forms
check for compliance with all the laws and hand it to the attorney
he'd skim it sign it and bill his hourly rate for the hours i
worked it was a cash cow for the firm because i made next to nothing
anyway though i was good at the work the files were
rather a mess let's just say my system works for me
but it was eclectic as i was packing my desk
i left them piled in a box on the floor moments before i was preparing to walk
out of there for the last time the young attorney yes attorney
who had been assigned to take over that part of my work came up to my desk
he said hr manager told me to come find you and have you show me the estate
planning files she said you'd show me what i need to do
i had the incredible pleasure of being able to look at him and say
with the most sincere and innocent tone i'm sorry i don't work here
then i pointed at the pile of files and suggested hr manager would have to help
him then i picked up my box of personal effects and walked away
and just as sweet as could be poked my head into the hr manager's office on my
way out to assure her that there were no hard feelings and to let her know
young attorney was probably going to be looking for her
yeah they really shot themselves in the foot there you're already on the way out
and you're still working there and you're still being a contributing worker
and not only that but you're valuable to the development of the staff that
still works there but no the hr manager has to be a stickler and kick you out of
there and now guess what they're pretty screwed the
next story is by face full of kittens she said save everything so i did
until december of last year my stepsister 30
lived with my father 78 along with her boyfriend
40 and their four kids my father supported them all financially leaving him
unable to retire in april i had free time so i went to florida to help my
father prepare to sell his house i arrived to find it was completely trashed
like if he hadn't been so rural health department probably would have condemned
it trashed the three rooms occupied by my step and her kids
were the worst literally shin deep in beer cans cigarette butts soiled diapers
pet waste it was awful it took over 400 labor hours to get the house clean and
repaired and i used to be a professional cleaner so i'm fast
when i got to her spaces she informed my father that
that witch better not throw any of my stuff away or i'll kick her butt
so i didn't i went into the rooms and shoveled
literally everything dirty diapers and all into
trash bags and put them into the garage for her to pick up at her convenience
i'm just worried for whatever kids and pets are involved in the situation
soiled diapers and pet waste these kids shouldn't have to live in conditions
like this and those pets i'm worried how well
they're taking care of the pets that's for sure
and our final story of the day is by caligula the ruler
man asks for everything on his burger proceeds to get
everything on his burger this story takes place back to when my mom was in
high school working at a dairy queen she was working the grill while her
co-worker was at the drive-through a guy orders a double cheeseburger and
then asks to put everything on it the co-worker
explained what everything was at the time lettuce tomato onion and pickles with
condiments the guy explains that's not what he meant and
raises his voice i said i want everything so you better give me everything
the co-worker calls him to the window and the manager again
explains to him what everything was and repeats what co-worker
said the guy who just ordered is now getting pissed for no reason
and is just being an absolute tick at this point
mom drops the guy's bag to be handed to him and hears the guy
starting to cuss at her manager the guy eventually cuts the manager off and
yells just give me everything you have back there
the manager slams the window and takes the order to the back with my mom
right behind mom is told to grab whatever food she can find
and to put it on the burger she doesn't remember
everything as this was over two decades ago but it had chili horseradish chicken
bacon and then a full hand of pickles for good measure
pretty much take a look at the menu back then and they made sure
it was on the burger everything except for ice cream
mom and her manager looked at each other with a grin on their face
they needed three sheets just to even wrap it
the manager then walked the order out to the guy himself
and told him to enjoy i guess the guy didn't like it
as he never came back i can only imagine what was going on in this guy's life to
make him act like this all belligerent and upset oh i want everything
on it if you're gonna ask for everything
can't you clarify as the customer who is ordering what everything is and then
when the workers explain to you what everything is
that's not good enough and you get belligerent over it hopefully he enjoyed
his horseradish weird chili bacon pickled handful
sandwich burger thing obviously he never came back so he probably didn't but
still he got what he deserved but with that
being said that's all the time we have for today so if you have a favorite
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I called a meeting with my family to break the news that I'm sick and might
not have much time left my brother and his wife thought it would be a good time
to announce their pregnancy and are pissed bit of backstory my brother and I
are very close his wife and I not so much we've had our fair share of tension
anyway I fell sick in the middle of May but held off getting checked out because
of covid and safety reasons eventually when June started I decided to go check
it out turns out it was stage two breast cancer I decided to tell my family 2
days ago since down laws have been lifted so I invited everyone over and
when I told my brother and his wife he said okay that's fine because he has
news to share too so our family gathered and my brother decided to go first he
did ask me and he announced that his wife is four months pregnant of course
everyone was overjoyed after about an hour they asked about my news and I knew
this was probably the last time in a long while before I had everyone here in
person so I told them and of course the initial joyous atmosphere was gone the
rest of the evening was a lot of support for me and not a lot of attention on my
brother and his wife my brother didn't seem to mind this as he was quite
distraught with my news but I saw his wife pretty upset and cornered off so I
decided to approach her and I apologized for the timing of it all she told me I
could have waited a bit and Skyped everyone with the news as it's just
stage too and let my brother and her have this moment with their family I
told her I initially called this meeting for this exact reason and she said she
knows but I knew my news would damper everyone's mood so I told her she's
being ridiculous and I wanted to tell my family in person since they are my
family after all and she burst in tears and demanded to go home which my brother
obliged to even though he was confused he promised he would come see me soon
since he stays close by to me later that evening I get a message from him asking
if I told his wife that she isn't part of the family and that I deliberately
wanted the attention on me because that's what she's upset about also the
next day my parents called me to check up on me and my mom mentioned that my
brother's wife called yesterday evening really upset telling them what I said
and claiming I'm because she's pregnant and I'm trying to
ruin her life I told my parents what actually happened and what I really said
and it's caused not only tension between his wife and me but my parents and her
too and now she's also blaming me for my parents not being her biggest fans my
brother is torn but has been trying to talk to her which results in more tears
and a strain in their marriage all this drama is making me think that I should
have just called up everyone rather or just told my brother that his news had
to wait even though that would have been selfish of me I really wanted my
family's support that day but I'm starting to rethink whether it was worth
all this drama and potentially causing further problems so Reddit a edit wow I
didn't expect this to get so so much lovely feedback and to think I was
slightly scared to post this thank you all for the unnerving support love and
Huggies I read and still reading every single comment made and I really really
appreciate it I will most definitely fight through thank you all so much just
wanted to add a a few points when brother told me he had news too he was
really super excited and added it as a just by the way I'll announce mine too
he did apologize and admit afterwards if he had known what my news was he would
have held off his because right now what's important is my recovery he also
admitted he wrongfully assumed that my news would automatically be good I'm
usually always the happy chirpy one his wife wasn't too fond of this either
brother's wife also had a miscarriage beginning of the year which is why this
pregnancy I suppose was extra special I'm truly happy for them I just wish she
could understand like one user pointed out that this isn't a competition I
don't know why I couldn't tell him over the phone we are really close and I knew
it would have crushed him I couldn't steal him away at the Gathering either
because he was the last to arrive and when he did he just quickly mentioned
hey op mind if I go first and I was frozen on the spot so I said sure also
pretty silly on my part it's hard to explain that feeling where you
absolutely Frozen and there's a big lump in your throat that prevents you from
speaking but saying that news in the first place was really difficult to begin
with edit edit just another point to clarify I'm not a saint but my brother
does mean a heck of a lot to me it's exactly why his wife and I cleared the
air between us before because I wouldn't deliberately make his life hell by
pissing her off hence why when I saw she was upset I approached her and when she
told me I could have Skyped I responded with I wanted to tell them in person
since they my family and they would probably want to be there with me when I
broke the news news I never once implied she wasn't a part of it my brother and
parents know this update sorry this is so late A lot has been happening the
past month since the news came out and since I've received a tremendous amount
of love from Reddit I thought it would be only fair to let you all know what
happened first and foremost I've started treatment also one of the reasons I
couldn't update sooner thank you all for
your well wishes I plan on bouncing back
as soon as I can anyway I could see that
my brother was under a lot of stress and I finally sat him down to talk about it
properly he showed me a bunch of texts that his wife sent him telling him he is
a shitty father for choosing me over his family she said I was seeking attention
and nobody cares about her and one thing that really got to me was that she told
him to choose once and for all and if he picks me he loses her and his child and
if he picks her she doesn't want me in their lives at all I felt terrible not
only for him but knowing that I could have prevented all this I took the time
to apologize for putting him in this position and if I had just pulled him
aside soon enough and given him a heads up he would have truly
understood brother tells me I shouldn't apologize because he should have been
more considerate He also mentioned that his wife would have probably still
gotten mad at him whether they did or didn't give the news on that day so I
decided I should invite her over for coffee to sort out everything I spoke to
her alone I asked her about everything she was very cold and didn't really
answer so I started talking first by apologizing if I made her feel excluded
from the family or that her pregnancy was of any less importance I explained
that I should have given them a heads up up so we could have avoided what had
happened all together and that was my fault and that I was very sorry but I
also mentioned that the way she reacted and went to the extent of lying wasn't
okay she then started crying and vented out about how angry she's been and that
my brother always put me first and recently they've been going through a
rough patch and when he sided with me it made her even more upset and feel even
more lonely she admitted she lied to my parents and my brother saying that she
was hoping they would show her more sympathy and when they were cold to her
she got even more upset after hours of talking she apologized for how she acted
and has been acting and she would like if we moved on from this my brother came
later and they both went home he texted me saying they both spoke for hours and
agreed to couples therapy my parents are currently living with me and helping me
out tremendously but they not quite happy with my sister-in-law yet although
they promised to try to work things out things finally seemed to calm down and
let's hope it stays that way none of this would have been possible without
the feedback you all gave me and indebted to that so thank you edit to
add all of you are so kind honestly but I wanted to clarify that I'm no saint
nor am I selfless I know what happened wasn't entirely on me however in order
to focus solely on my recovery I can't be stressed out about this whole
situation and have all this tension around seeing my brother being put in
that position and my S as hurtful as she was being upset and holding hatred can
affect herself and the baby I did what I
could to fix things so that everyone can focus on being healthy and being
positive without holding any grudges I know I sure will I know my sister-in-law
she can be very stubborn and unreasonable and if I left things in her
hands I'm 99% sure it would have resulted in much much worse
circumstances than me putting the first hand forward at least now I can focus on
my recovery without any distress or toxicity I'm human I felt angry I felt
upset yeah I wanted to give her a piece of my mind but in doing so isn't helping
myself her my brother or my family only damaging things further
this realization is what prompted me to let it all go and focus on positivity
and my mental and physical health last edit I spent all day on
Reddit reading every little or big comment made and honestly I didn't know
you could feel so much support from people you never met you are all the
amazing humans thank you all for the upvotes comments and awards and I'll
still read every single comment but this
will be my final edit and for the people who asked I'm 24 | give me a good story on |
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have you ever had a car crash where the
other person was at fault but they acted like the victim yes when I was a
teenager there was a line of vehicles behind a bus waiting for the light to
change when it turned green the bus moved through the intersection and
stopped to let someone off I was the third car in line the large truck in
front of me decided he didn't want to wait so he backed up into me there was a
car behind me so I couldn't back up I was blowing my horn the whole time but
he continued to back up right over my car crushing the front end the car
behind me went around when the police came the truck driver told them I'd run
into the back of him while he was waiting for the light I tried to tell my
side of the story but the officer looked at me and said shut up he then had the
truck driver without a sworn statement and sign it he went to his car and got
his ticket book I said aren't you going to hear my side he said no he then wrote
out the ticket turned to the truck driver and said here's your Citation for
careless operation for causing an accident turn around you're under arrest
for falsifying a police report he then cuffed the driver and put him in his
unit seems he was parked across the street in a gas station looked up when I
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my brother landed himself in hospital and ruined our vacation plans I am
having a hard time letting go of my anger I 33m have always loved my brother
31m even as I felt he could be a little selfish growing up as the older sibling
in a single parent home we have always been taught to take care of each other
by our mom as we only had each other I love my mom and bro very much and have
always tried my best to take care and provide for them using all my salary
recently I've been getting a little annoyed at his self-center ESS this
annoyance has been building up I now realize as I'm typing this for a while
already last year there were several short overseas trips that Mom and I
prepared everything for and bro tagged along passively we had to beg and fight
over work leave dates with him for these trips and even pack his luggage for him
in contrast trips with his friends were a breeze we had planned a longer holiday
for December in part to celebrate my promotion and that sweet pay raise and
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AI T ah for not being happily married to
my husband my husband 29m and I 24f have been married now for 4 years I was 19
when we got married and my husband was 25 we got married after a few months of
knowing each other which is not the issue of our relationship our first two
years of marriage were great we were both extremely happy and genuinely in
love things started going downhill after I had our daughter I had bad postpartum
depression and was pretty much mentally checked out or drained during this time
I stopped wanting to have sex with my husband fast forward almost 3 years
later current time my husband just got back from deployment before he left for
his 9-month deployment he was gone two times one for a month and the other for
2 months so essentially he has been gone for a year before he left he seemed
checked out he would stay late at work and when he was home would constantly be
on the phone with his work buddies or playing video game during this time we
really lost our connection when he deployed I finally started going out and
making friends for the first time in my adult life I started going to bars and
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aita for wanting my wife to not tell her family about our financial situation I
recently found out I will be inheriting some properties and a significant amount
of money I told my wife but made it clear that this is only between us and
she's not to tell anyone especially her big mouth sister I don't want anyone to
know about the inheritance invest almost all of the money hire a property
management company and intend to keep our current lifestyle last night at
dinner with her parents and siblings her father congratulated me on my impending
windfall and my brother-in-law pulled me aside to ask about the houses I'll be
receiving he and his wife my wife's big mouth sister have been saving for a
house but haven't saved enough yet and their credit scores are low I was very
angry with my wife the entire night but I kept it in check on the drive home I
yelled at her I had it wasn't my finest hour but she did the exact thing I told
her not to do she argued that my secrecy demand was not right and that she had
the right and duty to tell her family about our financial situation because it
is also her financial situation we argued for hours so when I finally had
enough I told her she can't be trusted to keep our secrets and that I'm not
telling her anything else about the inheritance from this minute on I said
that In the Heat of the Moment but the more I think about it the more it makes
sense she tells her sister everything and whatever her sister knows everyone
knows I don't want the entire city to know what's going on with our bank
account we're due to meet our attorney and lat her a financial adviser next
week but I think I'll change that appointment to just me just to be clear
she's free to discuss anything with her family I've only had two topics she's
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welcome friends to another r slash i don't work here lady video if you don't
work here but you want to do something to help out make sure to hit those like
and subscribe buttons down below that said our first story of the day is by
used refrigerator 13. awesome i was dressed in business professional attire
skirt blouse jacket and heels and ran by
the grocery store on my way home to grab lunchmate as i was looking for what i
wanted an older man stopped me and asked if i knew where something else was
politely i looked at the aisle numbers and told them specifically where the
isle was i believe it was down i frequented this location a lot he then
realized i didn't work there and apologized to me for bothering me i
assured him it was no problem and we both went our happy ways be honest if
you're at the store minding your own business doing your own grocery shopping
and an older man walks up asking if you know where things are would you stop and
try to help them even if maybe you didn't even have a clue or would you
rather just say you don't know you don't work there and hopefully just kind of
weasel out of it let me know in the comments down below our next story is by
food rage don't wear red and super c a few years ago i went to a super c close
to my home wearing a red t-shirt coincidentally the same color of the
employee's uniform and i was searching for something don't remember what
exactly and a lady came to me i was listening to music on my big headphones
so i take them off when i realized she was talking to me yes i asked you know
it's very unprofessional to listen to music when you're working i don't work
here she apologized and left and that is the story of my first and last time
wearing that red t-shirt well at least they apologized right frankly
considering some of the cairns we experienced in these i don't work here
ladies stories i feel like opie got off pretty light actually just goes to show
though that some colors are just not salvageable in some stores you go to
mall wart wearing blue you're in trouble
buddy don't even consider wearing a vest
either this next story is by katie vicki i don't work here lottery mat version
this morning i finally had my first i don't work here moment and it had a
happy ending no karen's were harmed in this interaction no managers were called
just a nice fellow that confused me for a laundry mat attendant so on to the
story every friday morning after working my last third shift of the week i make
my weekly trip to the local laundry mat that has a car wash attached to it the
car wash will be important in a moment here i am sitting there with my ipad in
hand playing some mahjong minding my business as i wait for all of my clothes
to wash so i can throw them in the dryer and this nice guy walks up to me and
asks about the car wash that's next door apparently the car wash won't work for
him after putting his money in and when he walked in he simply made a mistake
and confused me for the attendant that works there he was a good sport about it
when i told him i was just there doing my laundry and walked over to the
counter where people go for the dry cleaners part of the business so there
it is short sweet and to the point with a happy ending this next story is by
shell looser 42 week in front of the store manager no drama reading all these
stories i'm becoming convinced that shopping in the us is a whole lot more
dangerous than shopping in the netherlands sure we have our share of
entitled people but i never came across such extreme situations over here very
happy about that too today my girlfriend came over to visit and she even brought
homemade sushi now we nearly always eat sushi with beeru beer because we can
both enjoy that i still had three half liter cans so cheers the sushi was
amazing and the beer tasted great too but i made an ominous discovery if
there's two people drinking beer then your beer reserve depletes twice as fast
who would have known so after we had a can of beer and split the other we were
pondering what to do but eventually decided we'd grab a few more cans for
later in the evening on to the supermarket we went we grabbed a few
groceries decided on some shrimp salad later and eventually made our way to the
beer section where a store worker was filling the shelves ah great the brand
we wanted to buy was still lying on a store cart fully packed in cardboard
trays so i figured i'd ask the store worker if it was okay with him that we
grabbed some beer from the store cart he
answered sure thing so my girlfriend and i make our way to the big loading cart
and some trays with another brand relying on top of the ones we wanted we
were both a bit intoxicated in a funny mood so we both decided that we weren't
going to be lazy and make the store workers lives any more difficult a full
tray is much easier to carry than an open one so girlfriend and me decided to
put those other trays where they should be we knew because we come there often
and after we placed both trays in place the store worker grinden said you guys
really don't need to do that but thanks i told him it wasn't a problem at all
because the last thing we want to do is bother him with his work so we grab a
tray of the brand we want open it ask my girlfriend how much we should buy we
decided on 12 so half a tray and thus i unpacked the tray meanwhile my
girlfriend was looking at the card and said well since the sports schools are
still closed due to covid i might as well work out a bit like this so she
continued unloading the cart and placing
trays of beer on the bottom shelves with a big grin on her face she asked the
store worker again if he didn't mind and if we weren't bothering him and he's
like are you kidding if you guys don't mind then i'm going to move across to
the line section and quickly fill out that place no problem after i grab the
12 beers from the tray my girlfriend scolded me in a friendly manner by
telling me not to be lazy and put the remaining 12 cans onto the top shelf so
other people could grab those oh well why not while i was doing that my
girlfriend finished with the last tray of beer and right at that time a store
manager came around the corner apparently he saw the cart being nearly
empty and said great work you guys that was fast if you're done here could you
help clean up wait you guys don't work here do you we apologize for the
confusion quickly explained ourselves that we were in a funny mood and how my
girlfriend figured she might as well do some beer training this door worker also
came over and told the manager how we asked and that he figured he'd let us be
for a moment the store manager thought it was funny thanked us for our help and
after my girlfriend asked again he assured us that it was perfectly fine
made us feel really good well it's definitely a long lasting memory where
you go to the store kind of drunk tipsy feeling some kind of weird way and you
just i don't know end up helping out around the store it only would have been
more complete if you had actually gotten the mops out and were like actually
mopping up and for both the worker and the store manager i bet that would have
been so funny and hilarious and totally wacky and zany if you went and did that
our next story is by napole cameron karen upset because she needs to get a
mini bluetooth speaker the story took place an hour ago or so i was coming
back from work and had to stop at galmart's to get new headphones for work
since i'm a sign waver and mine decided to break i got to golmart's fast trying
to just go in and out of the store with the headphones i went straight to the
back where the electronics are looking everywhere i was having trouble
searching for them so i went to the help desk to ask till this lady let's call
her glenda stopped me and asked hey do you know where the bluetooth mini
speakers are this lady looked nothing like a karen she looked calm and
respectful with me i told her oh actually i'm not sure she quickly cut me
off fast asking if i could ask the employee behind me i was like sure whatever
a good deed for today the guy pointed in a direction for the speakers and she
quickly left after a small thank you i had to interrupt the guy again for the
headphones and he told me the same lane as the speakers i went to look and the
lady came up to me realizing i wasn't an employee and said oh sweetie i'm so
embarrassed i thought you were employee when i asked you about the speakers i
giggled and told her it's okay i don't mind at all we both left back to the
electronic desk to ask to open the locked items me and glenda noticed that
the employee was just chatting and chatting with these two boys till he
realized we were waiting and asked glenda what she needed glenda quickly
told them about the speaker but was cut off and the employee said and the
employee said i'm not actually employed by gal marts but work with a phone
company that has a contract with them i don't have the keys and the employee
that's supposed to be here is late but he'll arrive in 15 minutes or so glinda
just stared at this guy for at least a minute and a half i jumped back as she
let out the loudest scream ever she was screaming manager manager manager give
me the manager now this is unacceptable i was right next to her as well and i
backed away and left back to the headphones i decided to wait until the
other employees came till i saw glenda and a manager walking to the lane i was
in or the speaker i stopped the manager before he left politely asking if he can
open this one too but i was cut off by him saying i'm sorry you have to go too
he was cut off we were both stunned as glenda started screaming no no no help
her now she was right after me and she helped me when she doesn't work here she
was respectful not like your other employee help her now i was so
embarrassed the manager looked so pissed at me too and we walked back up to the
register that's there once glenda finished paying she stopped looked me up
and down and patted my back and replied thanks girl i think these employees are
racist but you respected me so i got you and she left i quickly told the manager
i was sorry and that i wasn't expecting any of that to happen he nodded his head
and i left i was actually stopped again by a man asking for help but he noticed
my lanyard around my neck and was sure i worked there till i was finally able to
reply i didn't but i was able to flag down another employee to help him before
i left i wasn't expecting this at all i think the worst thing about this is
being like the accomplice to somebody who's being a total idiot when you had
nothing to do with it and you just happened to be around while it was
happening this is like some school level incident where you're sitting next to a
kid who's a troublemaker and shooting spit balls all over the place and the
teacher turns around and punishes both of you because you just happen to be in
the same spot you absolutely just hate that feeling when the manager's like no
no you gotta leave too it's like i didn't even do anything our next story
is by didn't know you can read i confused the nurse a couple of years ago
i was admitted to a hospital via an ambulance and to check if i'm okay they
cut up in my shirt hoodie and winter jacket when i was finally released they
gave me some scrubs to wear as the only thing i had left were my pants but i was
furious and frustrated because that was my only good jacket when i got home i
drowned my foul mood and alcohol i leaned against my washing machine in the
basement as it showed there were only a couple of minutes left so i decided to
wait while waiting i dozed off and kind of fell over of course it had to be this
moment one of my neighbors came by at 10
pm and called an ambulance again keep in mind i hadn't changed yet the next day
when i was ready to go home again i was looking for the exit but couldn't find
it in my sweetest voice and kind of embarrassed i asked the nurse that came
along where i could get out of the building as i got lost when i was a
couple of steps away she talked to a co-worker and asked her where they got
this sweet little girl and if i was doing an internship or something you
know that's a patient don't you they said what but she was so nice you mean
to tell me i turned around and said yeah i don't work here sorry for the
confusion and went home smiling not a very climactic story but sometimes it's
the little things that make your day the story feels really weird because it
feels like almost video game like like it feels like op just kept respawning in
the hospital wearing scrubs they respawn they're like okay here we go again how
do we get out of the hospital this next story is by deerkiller14 famous blue
store that rhymes with malmart last summer i stopped at malmart to get a
fishing pole and some snacks for a day of fishing at a nearby lake i grab a
cheap hole and i'm walking through the chips aisle when i see a sweet old lady
ask for someone in a blue shirt for help reaching an item on the top shelf the
person responds with i don't work here and moves along i'm six foot and
couldn't reach the top shelf but i use my fishing pole i'm carrying to drag the
item down she wanted and then hand it to her she thanked me profusely and i
proceeded on my day seriously in walmart there's some shelves that are like
stupidly tall for some reason in my experience and at my malmart it was like
the bedding section there were aisles with there were aisles with sheets and
blankets that were on like eight or nine
feet tall shells tall enough that unless you're an nba player or just really
gifted in height or a good leaper and you want to risk grabbing it you're not
getting them off of there unless you go grab an employee our next story is by
catastrophizer blurry but wholesome on wednesday last week i went to see an eye
specialist to do some tests during that time they put some drops into my eyes to
dilate them my vision was blurry as freak for the next two hours as i
couldn't drive home just yet i went into an aldi to pick up a few essentials
caramel popcorn's essential right that stuff is amazing while i'm there a lady
stops me and asks me to read something on some packaging as her english wasn't
great she's lovely and polite and looking a bit stressed i wanted to say i
didn't work there but i couldn't see any nearby staff couldn't see much of
anything to be honest so i tried my best after a lot of squinting and some back
and forth i think i found what she needed i haven't been stopped in a store
in years but of course though one day i couldn't see properly i'd be asked to
read something let me tell you man if you haven't been to the optometrist and
they put those drops in your eyes and they kind of sting a little bit it's
probably the least pleasant part of a full on exam though i know of a few
people who absolutely hated the part where you have to put your face up to
the machine and you look at a farmhouse in a field and then all of a sudden
they just shoot air right in your eyeballs you wrench your head back like
oh god if you have a tendency to flinch too and you know it's coming it gets
even worse i have friends who anytime the mere mention of an eye exam comes up
they just talk about how much they hate looking at that little farmhouse in the
field that puff of air will be the death of them but with that being said that's
all the time we have for today so of all these stories i've read today which is
your favorite and why let me know in the comments down below and if you haven't
yet if you could like and subscribe that would mean a lot to me whatever you do
whether it's liking subscribing turning notifications on all of it helps grow
this channel and i appreciate the heck out of it so until next time i'll see
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Welcome Friends to another r slash am I
the jerk Here video today we've got some hard-hitting questions and our first
story of the day is from routine let 2090. am I the jerk for telling my
former friend turned sister-in-law that I'm never going to be her Comfort person
again I 25 year old male used to have the biggest crush on my childhood friend
Emily 26 year old female as a teen I wasn't very assertive and a little
awkward so I never made a move and just hope that one day Emily would realize
that I was the guy for her the only person who I openly admitted my crush
although it was kind of obvious too was my brother Liam 28 year old male he was
much more assertive and confident than I was and would run through girls like
water so I went to him for advice about Emily given the situation at the time
you can imagine my surprise when I caught Liam and Emily hooking up I know
that she technically was never my girlfriend but it still sucked and I did
feel betray trade turns out they hooked up at a party once and liked the
encounter so much that they kept meeting up to do it when no one was around I
felt completely sick and basically just distanced myself from Emily after that
which could be really awkward because we had a lot of classes together and had
the same shift at the part-time job we had a job that Emily frequently depended
on me to give her rides to I just wanted to remove Emily from my life completely
but during the summer of our senior year she and Liam sat me and my parents down
and explained that Emily had gotten pregnant and they were planning on
keeping the baby my parents weren't happy while I just got up and locked
myself in my room all I could think was well crap now she's never going to go
away I purposely transferred to an out-of-state college so I wouldn't be
home as much and lied about getting stuck in traffic when I missed Emily and
Liam's wedding and I showed no interest in my niece Daisy eight-year-old female
although I still make an effort to be polite when I'm around them recently
Emily's father had passed away and she's really going through it because despite
him not being around she always desired a relationship when we were kids I
remember all those times I was a shoulder for Emily to cry on whenever
she felt sad about her dad and I guess she was longing for that type of comfort
for me and kept reaching out one day I relented and let her vent but I
maintained a silent and formal demeanor on the matter after spending about an
hour crying I offered Emily some water and then she asked me why I was being so
cold how I know how much he needed a friend right now I calmly yet firmly
told her that we were just kids then and that if she wants that level of
emotional intimacy then she needs to go to my brother her husband because I
stopped being her Comfort person a long time ago Emily cried even more left and
has managed to send Liam my parents Emily's Mom and from mutual friends to
call me up and tell me I'm heartless and
sad for being so spiteful I can honestly say that I'm now over Emily but that
doesn't mean I'm willing to be as close to her as I used to so am I the jerk in
that situation knowing that they're only reaching out because they used to rely
on you as a person to just hear them out and let them vent and you just treat
them so coldly over something that they have no I assume preconception about I
would say that makes OPI The Jerk now considering this is so far long gone I
feel like most people would probably say that op should just have moved past it
and accepted it by now but do you guys think that this might be something that
op should honestly just be honest about their feelings about with everybody like
should op sit their brother and Emily down and explain how they felt for all
this time or is it just too much I'd like to know what you guys think in the
comments down below our next story is from throw ra Birthday song five am I
the jerk for telling my fiance that he embarrassed me when he started singing
the Happy Birthday song to his five-year-old son at the restaurant I
female 30 have been with my fiance Ned male 36 for a year and a half he has a
five-year-old son with his ex-girlfriend they don't have a custody Arrangement
but he has a most of the week because the mom is currently sick his son is
lovely but I noticed that Ned takes him everywhere he goes including places that
aren't child friendly and we have an issue with that now but we're working on
it his son's fifth birthday was days ago Ned took us out to a restaurant to
celebrate the place was nice and looked a bit unfitting for the occasion because
it was a somewhat expensive place anyways we ordered food and then got the
birthday cake which was a surprise to me because I thought we were going to
celebrate at home so we could be free to sing and play however we wanted I still
had no issue with that till Ned started singing the Happy Birthday song to his
son I was stunned I almost dropped my plate he was singing it at the top of
his lungs not even looking around or paying attention to how many people were
staring at us awkwardly I felt so embarrassed I kept Whispering for him to
stop but he ignored me of course my future stepson was hyped and a little
too active which isn't good when we're at a public place I expected the staff
the manager anyone to get involved and stop him but no one did in fact some
woman came up to us and offered that she helped him take a video recording I
wasn't in it at all I Frozen my seed looking stunned and a little angry he
looked at me later asking what was wrong I didn't say anything except thanks for
finally noticing he didn't understand what I meant and I didn't explain until
we were in the car I flat out told him that he embarrassed me the second he
started singing in the restaurant he looks shocked saying he didn't get why I
would be embarrassed by him celebrating his son's birthday and cheering him up I
told him we could have done this at home when we'd be more more comfortable and
free he took it as in I was ashamed of him and his son but I denied it and said
that it just felt awkward and embarrassing too maybe because I've
never been in this situation and also judging from the restaurant we were at
he said that his mom's sick and he's trying to do all he can to cheer him up
and that all families do that and no one had an issue with that except me then
when I tried to explain he got mad and said he no longer felt like talking we
haven't been speaking since then it appears he's still salty about me saying
what I said and insinuating that I see him and his son as an embarrassment am I
the jerk I think he's being too harsh with the whole ignoring me thing instead
of talking it out I think op is the jerk here I feel like they have some kind of
social issue I mean I'm a heavy introvert myself so maybe it'd be a
little uncomfortable for me but I don't think it's crazy for a dad to sing Happy
Birthday to their five-year-old kid in a restaurant and even if it's a slightly
fancier place I'm sure somebody looking around seeing a father singing it to
their kid with a birthday cake they're not gonna be upset I think it'd have to
be cold-hearted to not put things on pause for a minute and honestly kind of
enjoy a father singing happy birthday to their own kid I think Opie was The Jerk
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next story is from Plenty limit 2874 am I the jerk for suggesting my
stepdaughters overreacting over her milk my wife and I both 40 have a kid each
from previous relationships mine is Connor 18 year old male and hers is
Sasha's 16 year old female my son has a girlfriend Hannah 17 year old female and
both her and Sasha are lactose intolerant Sasha spends half the month
with us so we always have normal and lactose-free milk I'll admit Sasha's
milk is quite expensive because she only likes a certain kind that she can also
drink alone and not just with coffees or
smoothies now the issue is Hannah spends almost three to four days here and my
wife and I don't mind at all but Sasha's complained several times that Hannah
drinks her milk as fuel during those days and barely leaves anything for her
we go to the supermarket every two weeks
Sasha can go to any nearby store and get more though not the one she likes and
has asked us to either buy a gallon for her only and one for Hannah or tell her
to go buy her own milk my wife decided to just buy Sasha a small fridge to keep
in her room so she can store her milk and other things there which I find very
disrespectful I mean it's just milk we could always buy more this has caused
Hannah to ask if she can borrow a bit of milk every time she wants to drink a
coffee with us and Sasha says yes most times but when she decides Hannah's had
enough milk she says she's almost running out which is a lie a few days
ago before Sasha was about to come back from her father my wife and I bought the
groceries and I put the milk in the fridge then Sasha came and attempted to
take it to her room and I said that she wasn't allowed to do it because it was
for the whole house so she had to leave it there she didn't say anything and
just went to her room and about five to six hours after that Sasha's Dad pulled
over and bought her a gallon and told us that we didn't have to buy any more
lactose-free milk for Sasha since he'll be taking care of it from now on but
then my son's girlfriend wasn't allowed to have any so we had to provide for her
if we wanted to my wife is mad she said we should have let Sasha have her own
milk and bought another for when Hannah is here even if it's not as expensive
but I think Sasha's being a brat am I the jerk if you're gonna have somebody
over and you're gonna allow them to consume some stuff there that is
expected for the people who actually live there and it's not enough then yeah
you should supply enough that both people can have some what I'm struggling
on is why wouldn't they just provide enough that Hannah and Sasha can have
some that was the Crux of this situation
I'm not gonna lie op kind of just sounds like a bad stepfather why not just
supply enough for your step kid and your son's girlfriend to both have some and
have it not be an issue the fact that they'd go and just buy a whole different
fridge rather than just buying an extra gallon is just astounding buy an extra
gallon or put your foot down with Hannah I think Ops definitely the jerk I don't
want to go on too long but Opie literally wrote I mean it's just milk we
can always buy more then why didn't they just buy more our next story is from
unlikely strategy 596. am I the jerk for telling a stranger it's weird you chose
to sit right next to me when there's so many other seats available on the public
transit so I took the transit today and the streetcar was totally open and
available it's really nice because there were about 30 different seats available
and I was alone I was sitting on the window seat in some random stranger just
came up to me and sat next to me I was thinking why is this guy sitting next to
me there's like 30 available seats at the front and back and he sat next to me
so I said to him why did you sit next to me there's so many other seats
everywhere on the streetcar it's just a little strange he said well do you own
this seat is this your seat I can sit wherever I want you're being
unreasonable here I said correct I don't own this spot I just don't understand
why you chose to sit right next to me when the entire street car is empty and
you can sit anywhere you want on the street car he responded the same thing
and I thought okay I don't want to conflict with a random stranger I don't
even know I ended up getting up and moving because the situation was
perplexing to me it's like an Unwritten rule that if there's an abundance of
available seats you sit alone so am I the jerk in this situation as a person
that cherishes their own personal space I think op's not the jerk here also if
anybody jumps to conclusions op is male so it lowers the chances of one of those
common preconceptions there this is kind
of like the unwritten code about urinals if you walk into a men's restroom and
let's say there's four urinals and somebody's at the first one you go down
to number four it is an Unwritten code that you do not pull up to another
person right next to the urinal if you can help it I would think same goes for
public transport seating our next story is from throwaway scraps am I the jerk
for feeding my dog table scraps from a dinner my boyfriend made for us I 24
year old female have been dating Jay 28 year old male for four months he's
handsome smart funny well-educated has an awesome job and is a sweetheart
Sunday he had a whole day planned for us
we were going to walk a nature trail and then go back to his place for dinner he
was making I was so excited because it was going to be the first time I'd be at
his house since we were hiking he said I could bring my dog Shelby with us he
made us a roast and some vegetables for dinner I finished my plate before Jay
did and took it to the kitchen there was still about half the roast left and it
was close to Shelby's dinner time so I took half of the half of roast and some
still raw vegetables from the fridge to put on a plate for Shelby I was carrying
the plate to the back door with Shelby to feed her outside and Jay asked me
what I was doing I told him feeding Shelby Chase said something like well
that's not dog food Jane knows I mainly feed Shelby a raw diet I opened the door
to put the plate down for Shelby and Jay
got up took the plate away from her went to the kitchen and came back with it
wrapped up in tin foil and told me to leave his excuse was that he made dinner
for me and him not me him and my dog and
that I should have asked before I helped myself since he would have used his
leftovers I did leave but not before telling him that he made that meal for
us so I could do with some of it as I pleased and he knew darn well how I feed
Shelby I tried talking to my friend about it later that night but she said
Jay was right to be upset but this friends never really approved of how I
treat my own dog so I feel like she was probably a bit biased and the wrong
person to ask am I the jerk for just feeding my dog like I normally would
considering he made the food and he never consented to giving any of it to
the dog and you never asked I think Ops pretty clearly The Jerk I'm not judging
the way Opie feeds their dogs it definitely isn't the way that I would
feed my own dogs personally if I made food and there's a lot of leftovers I'm
saving it and I'm having it for myself later I think it's honestly really
inconsiderate of op to just go and section off food that their boyfriend
made in their boyfriend's house without ever asking also a quarter of a roast I
would not call that table scraps our next story is from ta homeless parents
am I the jerk for not feeling sorry for my homeless parents and not offering my
house for them to stay or help I'm a 30 year old female my parents had me at age
15. my whole childhood was heck they never put me up for adoption or anything
like that because my grandparents would help and every time CPS was triggered
they suddenly became the best parents in the whole world and blackmail me to lie
but the reality is I lived alone most of the week and at eight years old I
already knew how to make myself a meal and by myself while my parents were
partying traveling drinking or fighting when I was 15 they fell in love again
and had kids like rabbits fifteen-year-old male 13 year old female
12 year old female 11 year old male and nine-year-old male I left home when I
was 18 years old it hurt in the bottom of my soul to have to leave my siblings
but I couldn't stand it and I had no Financial condition at 24 I passed a
public contest that pays me very well I scraped my butt off to study and work at
25 the CPS contacted me saying they'd taken away my parents custody of all of
their children and asked if I was able to take care of at least one they were
looking for relatives I said I would take care of everyone I know it's not my
responsibility but a part of me I always wanted them to get out of that and only
now I had a good job my house isn't very big four bedroom two bathroom but my
husband and I he also wanted to were able to accommodate everyone and we're
not so tight financially they're good students polite and affectionate I don't
regret having welcomed each one and my husband treats everyone as if he were a
big brother or a father younger my parents tried to get them back as my
grandparents cut off the help after they lost custody but they couldn't and
custody became permanent for me we haven't had contact with them for two
years my father's sister called me these days saying that she was shocked seeing
my parents as a homeless person asking for money on this Street the family's
moving to see if someone can shelter them and they decided to come and ask me
if I could shelter them or help financially since I had a good job I
replied nah I pass for them no and I'd rather give this money to their children
I raise my father's whole family started
to fill me with messages saying that I'm turning my back on two people who slept
on the streets how cold-hearted I am to do this and I don't even want to help
when I can I blocked everyone my husband said that he's on my side but that I
should give a symbolic amount so as to not have a weight on my conscience am I
the jerk absolutely not the jerk these parents never truly cared for Opie and
gave them a tumultuous and awful childhood where they had to learn to
fend by themselves from a very young age and then went into the same thing to
five other kids and then dumped them all
on op op doesn't owe them anything and I agree with OP that that money that they
would give would be better served going to the five kids that have legitimate
Futures all these other family members sure are complaining an awful lot
despite not doing anything and not taking them in themselves our next story
is from throwaway 663-0685 am I the jerk for telling my
husband if he wants to give money to my stepdaughter the same amount should be
given to my daughter as well me 46 and my husband David 51 have been married
for five years I have a daughter Amy 21 and David has a daughter Aaron 21.
they're only a few months apart both started college a few years ago Amy got
a scholarship for her school which combined with the funds me and my ex had
for her pretty much covered everything Aaron moved out of state to
Massachusetts and her school doesn't offer scholarships David had a college
fund for her and the rest she'll cover herself what's going on now is David
said we have a fair amount of savings and he wants to give some of that to
Aaron for her student loan that's not exactly fair to Amy he said
that hers are paid off but I replied that he should give the same amount to
Amy for rent or something even if she doesn't have college fees this is just
the tip of the iceberg Aaron plays violin with the local Orchestra she had
her first small show about a month ago we went all the way to Massachusetts
because David wanted to see her perform he was also the one who bought her the
violin as a gift when she got into college but no gift for Amy we argued
over this and David said that it's difficult for Aaron alone I replied then
she should have stayed here instead of running off to a different state and
picking up things like a violin to show that she's better than everyone he got
really mad at me for saying that I'm just trying to be fair but am I the jerk
so I don't necessarily think op's the jerk for the money thing but I think op
is a big jerk for saying that oh she shouldn't have run off to Massachusetts
and picked up a violin honestly what the heck is that at why does OP feel the
need to have to attack these Life Choices that David's daughter made why
is it bad that David wants to go to Massachusetts to see their daughter
perform for the very first time that's a bad thing the first half is one thing
but Opie's definitely the jerk here for the second half where they show like
some kind of weird biased hatred for their stepdaughter well she shouldn't
have picked up that violin to show she's better than everybody our next story is
from pluto902 am I the jerk for giving my friend a necklace that my husband
gave me and refusing to ask for it back my friend didn't have a necklace to go
with her dress So I offered her one of mine she kept telling me how much she
loved the necklace so I told her to keep it as I never wear it anyway I gave her
the necklace four months ago but she recently wore it to another party and my
sister-in-law mentioned how I had a necklace that looked exactly like that
my friend told her that I'd given it to her and my sister-in-law made a comment
about how that was nice of me I thought that was the end of it but she told all
of my in-laws and my husband now my husband's demanding I get the necklace
back and everybody's angry at me and I don't understand what the big deal is
I've told him I can't ask for the necklace back since my friend clearly
loves it so much but he said I have a week to get it back or he would get it
back himself and that he would think twice before giving me anything from now
on am I the jerk it seems like the majority sentiment on this post is that
op was the jerk but I don't necessarily think that op was the jerk I mean
there's definitely some questions you'd have to have to understand to really
know for sure stuff like how expensive was it what was the situation in which
he gave it to her like was this a thousand dollar necklace was this a 50
necklace was it an anniversary gift or was it just a I was thinking of you kind
of gift there's definitely some important context here but just Baseline
I don't think it necessarily makes op be the jerk let's say the situation was
just uh they got it out of the blue for op nothing special would you be a jerk
for re-gifting that later down the road if you didn't wear it that much let me
know in the comments our next story is from throw Waddy am I the jerk for
ignoring my daughter for a week I have a daughter 11 with my ex-girlfriend we
broke up before she was born and I know that it was my fault because I was an
awful boyfriend and I cheated on her and
other things but I've changed she didn't
tell me about my child until a while ago when I accidentally found out about her
and suspected she might be mine and got a DNA test to confirm I've been trying
to be involved in her life but my ex makes it very hard for me I know she's
still mad at me for the things I did when we were together but she's
poisoning my daughter's mind and turning her against me the other day she asked
me why I cheated on her mom who says that to their child now every time she's
with me she misbehaves I've been showering her with gifts and attention
and but she's always like I wish you weren't my dad even though I've been
nothing but nice to her so a week ago I finally snapped and told her I won't be
her dad then I still prepared food for her and took her to school and made sure
she has everything she needs but I didn't give her gifts didn't play with
her or talk to her for a week my parents say I'm a jerk but I think it was good
for her I'm gonna say op is the jerk I don't necessarily think that it was the
right way to go about it I think although it really hurts Opie should
find comfort in just knowing that they're trying to be the best dad they
possibly can even if the kid isn't necessarily returning any of the love
that you're trying to put towards them I think you should just try your best to
continue to be loving and supportive and I don't think you necessarily have to
shower them with gifts but try to take them to experiences they love tell them
nice things tell them you care do what you can to take care of them also I
think it's fair for the kid to understand why their parents aren't
together I would just say if you want to be the best ad possible from this point
forward don't ignore or abandon your kid and just continue to just put your best
foot forward even if they're not necessarily returning it our next story
is from aita throwaways am I the jerk for asking a bakery if the pastries they
were selling were made that day I went to a bakery when they opened 7am asking
about pastries she told me that the ones I wanted were not ready yet a little
background this Bakery always has items in their display case even at opening
and closing but makes fresh ones as needed so there's always stuff in the
display case and it's pretty much impossible to tell when they were made
two hours later I finished my errands and stopped back on my way the pastries
in the display case now showed what I wanted remember that there were also
pastries in the display case at 7am I just didn't get a good look at them I've
been sold stale items at this Bakery before and so have Google reviewers so I
asked the owner if they were made that day just to make sure they weren't mixed
up with whatever was previously in the display case when they opened she was
extremely offended and went off on a huge rant going off on me which included
these points you came here earlier and asked there was nothing there now you're
asking if these are made today if I had these I would have sold them to you last
time don't keep asking if these are fresh it was a much longer rant but that
was the gist of it well I told her that there were items in the display case
when I went earlier I.E not nothing there like she claimed as the shelves
always have something in them and that's why I was asking I ended up buying what
I wanted anyway but she was extremely rude and clearly didn't want to sell to
me at all or expected me to walk out or something from my point of view it's an
innocent question to ensure the pastries I was buying were not day old because
again this has happened to me and many others at this Bakery before but I also
might be a jerk that questions us small businesses practices and its offerings
and disrespect to the owner with an offensive question am I the jerk it
seems like everybody in the comments are piling on op and like yeah they should
have gotten the memo that it wasn't there when they walked in and then later
they are there so clearly they were made that day but I don't think asking the
question necessarily makes op the jerk op wasn't like pointing fingers or
accusing them of anything honestly if anything I feel like the owner was a
little too reactive people in the comments are like oh he's going to this
place multiple times and badgering the staff is really like going to this place
two times in one day both times asking hey are these things fresh badgering the
staff is it really stressful to say yes they're fresh yes they were made today
is that too much and our final story of the day is from PLU 2120 am I the jerk
for making my daughter sleep at my sister's house after she made fun of her
brother and his friends my husband 38 year old male and I have two kids four
14 year old male and 14 year old female our 14 year old son is autistic and gay
very feminine boy up until a few months ago all of his friends were girls a few
months ago he started hanging out with a group of athletic boys which me and my
husband found odd at first about a month into this he told us that one of the
guys was his boyfriend the boys who he was hanging out with are extremely close
to his boyfriend he said his boyfriend's friends are very sweet to him ask him
questions about jewelry and makeup and were amazing in the past few months
they've been coming to our house with their friend and they definitely are
very sweet they share some common interests like anatomy and physiology
the boys like it because of sports and my son's just a science nerd my son also
loves collecting stuffed animals we see nothing wrong with this one of my son's
new friends collect plushes of baseball football
Etc players the boys recently came over for a sleepover the one boy brought out
over his baseball and football player plushes and him and the other boys
started playing with them as well as my son's stuffed animals I had them leave
the door open son's still with his boyfriend after all and when my daughter
walked by his room she started to make fun of him and his friends and so it was
embarrassing that her twin brother played with stuffed animals as a
freshman in high school the boys ignored her but then she started making sounds
imitating a baby and a toddler when I heard those sounds I went upstairs to
see what was going on as she was being pretty loud I saw she was mocking the
boys I immediately made her go to her room and apologized to the boys for her
behavior I planned on talking to her after I made dinner as I was cooking
dinner I get a text from my brother saying that his son my nephew saw my
daughter was recording the boys and making fun of them on her Instagram
story after that happened I was worried for the safety of the boys I didn't want
her to hurt their feelings anymore or they weren't doing anything wrong I
called up my sister and told her I needed her to take my daughter for the
night my daughter knows her aunt well and has a good relationship with her my
sister's a teacher so I thought she could give my daughter a good
perspective on bullying I went in her room to tell her her aunt was picking
her up and she started screaming at me she eventually agreed to go after I
threatened to shut off her phone the next day I get a call from my mom asking
why I abandoned my daughter and how it's
natural for her to be embarrassed by her brother playing with plushies at that
age she also said it could be traumatizing for her to sleep there
instead of with me my sister keeps reassuring me I did the right thing am I
the jerk I think op wholeheartedly did the right thing here I think op's not
the jerk and they were just looking out for a bunch of kids who did not deserve
to be bullied for just trying to have fun frankly the daughter's Behavior was
just straight up awful but with that being said that's all it time we have
for today now if you want to hear another absolutely crazy am I the jerk
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a little boy goes to his dad and asks what is politics dad says well son let
me try to explain it this way I'm the bread winner of the family so let's call
me capitalism your mom she's the administrator of the money so we'll call
her the government we're here to take care of your needs so we'll call you the
people The Nanny will consider her the working class and your baby brother will
call him the future now think about that and see if that makes sense so the
little boy goes off to bed thinking about what Dad has said later that night
he hears his baby brother crying so he gets up to check on him he finds that
the baby has severely soiled his diaper so the little boy goes to his parents'
room and finds his mother sound asleep not wanting to wake her he goes to the
nanny's room finding the door locked he peaks in the keyhole and sees his father
in bed with the nanny he gives up and goes back to bed the next morning the
little boy says to his father Dad I think I understand the concept of
politics now the father says good son tell me in your own words what you think
politics is all about the little boy replies well while capitalism is
screwing the working class the government is sound asleep the people
are being ignored and the future is in deep | give me a good story on boyandpoliticsorig |
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a it ta for telling my sister her husband stink throw away because this is
just embarrassing I'll get straight to the point my bill does not like
showering my sister has casually mentioned in the past how he showers
once every four to 5 days because he doesn't really get dirty he is extremely
strong Bo and I don't think I've ever been in a place with him where he did
not stink even fresh out a shower you can still smell very strong hints of
sweat and other types of smells when you're standing near him people have
brought this up with her in the past and every single time she just shuts them
down and says that they're looking for excuses to hide that they do not like
him one of our mutual friends is getting married in 3 weeks and it's about 9
hours away from where my sister's family and I currently live we do not live
together but we're about 15 minutes away
from one another my sisters informs me a few days ago that she will be riding
with me to the wedding because their car
is having some engine issue none of this was discussed she just informed me like
she was relaying a message I cannot explain to any of you how much I shiver
at the slight thought of being in the same car with her husband for nine whole
hours he does not like sitting in the back and will most likely ride shotgun
to avoid this I offered to lend my boyfriend's car to my sister as he is
out of state for the next few months and
will not be using his car she repeatedly said no no matter how many times I
insisted so I decided that the best choice for me is to just book a flight
to the location and rent a car from the airport when I land I have some points I
can use to get a discount so it all works out I tell my sister that I'll be
taking a flight instead of driving and I told her that she can feel free to use
either my car or my boyfriend's car if she'd like to drive there at this point
I haven't booked my flight yet because I
wanted to inform her before I went ahead
she fully blew up on me and demands that I cancel my flight because she thinks
already booked it and says that we will be going forward with her plan instead
continuous arguments led to the truth where she lets it slip that their car is
fine they just didn't feel like driving or wasting money on gas and tolls and
were just looking forward to a relaxing drive across the country I was tired of
beating around the bush so I just told her the truth in a very polite way
because at the end of the day she is my sister and the person I'm talking about
is her husband so there's no point in being harsh she gets Beyond upset and
just blasts me with at least 50 texts about how I'm an a-hole I feel bad about
this but I'm truly conflict edit I forgot to mention she is also texting
the bride and informing her that she won't be attending the wedding because
of the Bride is now stressed out and keeps contacting my sister for more
information but my sister is just icing both the bride and myself out | give me a good story on AITAfortellingmysisterherhusbandstinks |
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I refused to give my wedding dress to my daughter I found it ripped apart by my
daughter's dogs I spoke to my daughter and I told her about my love for my
dress and the memories it brought me my mother passed away not long after my
wedding in 2008 she had hidden her illness from me and my siblings because
she didn't want to ruin my big day I thought I could get through to her I
suggested that we could meet up with the seamstress and make a similar dress and
I could help with the embroidery since it's what takes time and patience she
agreed Friday when I was out my daughter went home to me she has two dogs and
they were with her anyway the dress was ruined according to her she didn't see
anything she took out the dress to take pictures and she guessed she left it out
and the dogs ripped it apart I was when I saw my dress in my bedroom ripped into
pieces I started sobbing but my daughter
said that I was exaggerating like it was her fault when it wasn't she just
Shrugged me off and said to get help because I'm being creepy my husband
asked her to leave next day she blew up my phone crying and saying that she was
sorry because she thought that I hated her now because of a dress I said that I
didn't hate her and would never do that I love her later my sister called me to
talk and she then asked me that now I might as well give the parts that
weren't ruined to my daughter so the dress could at least be useful I agreed
and my daughter came in the evening to pick up the embroidered Parts she stayed
in the car while her fiance came to pick up the dress I am not angry or anything
just feeling terrible sadness | give me a good story on Irefusedtogivemyweddingdresstomydaughterorig |
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AIT ta for not taking my ex's kids to Disney I 40m have two biological kids
10m 19f with my ex-wife 50F she has four other children 24m 8m 6m and 3M her
oldest my former stepson 24m was five when I came into his life I was an
active figure even and continued to care for him after she and I split we had
shared custody of our shared children and I took my stepson whenever I had my
bio kids I consider him my own the other three boys have different father I
planned a dis trip for my youngest birthday I'd be taking and paying for my
stepson and two biological children the total cost including travel
accommodations and food will be at least 12K this is something I've saved up for
for months my ex is thrilled but is insisting that I'd be creating jealously
among my son and his half siblings she wants me to take all three of my son's
Brothers even her three-year-old across the country on my dime she said that she
wants to go as well but wouldn't mind staying home I told her that she was
crazy and I would not be taking her kids I would be the only real adult there
aside from my 19-year-old daughter and 24-year-old son I'm not going to ask
them to spend their vacation babysitting our son had a birthday party prior to
planning this trip and his three half brothers were all invited and present I
paid for everything and even kept them all for a weekend because my ex claimed
she had to work extra shifts turns out she was actually out drinking I pay
child support for our son I make sure that he is fed and clothed on top of
doing my duty as a father I have also paid for her other children's meals
because I can't just send her money for my son to eat and let them go hungry
I've paid for their Christmas presents so that they don't feel left out if
those boys need something it comes out of my pocket every other week or so I'm
buying diapers for another man's child their dead beat dads contribute nothing
I don't want to make these other kids feel less than or like they aren't being
included but the simple fact is that they're not mine and I don't have the
money to take them to Florida for a week I have no issue taking them out for an
occasional dinner or movie when I do something special with my son if my ex
were willing to pay I'd take the six and 10-year-old AIT for this I know that
it's generally expected to include every child but something so expensive makes
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AITA for telling my sister I don't care what her dad wants?
:12.110 --> :16.821 POO Mode Activated 💩
I (25F) have a sister (15F) who is my mom's :16.821 --> :18.529
daughter with her second husband. :18.529 --> :23.060
My mom married my sister's dad when I was
8, just a few months after my dad died. :23.060 --> :26.359
My parents marriage was over pretty much when he died.
:26.359 --> :31.160 I'm almost positive she was with my sister's
dad before my dad died and before the marriage :31.160 --> :32.710
was basically over. :32.710 --> :36.010
But their marriage was crapy so maybe it doesn't matter.
:36.010 --> :38.670 Not sure dad would have even cared at the
point when he died. :38.670 --> :40.050 They were not good together.
:40.050 --> :43.830 My mom's husband/sister's dad is my stepdad.
:43.830 --> :45.590 But really he's my mom's husband.
:45.590 --> :47.020 I'm not close to him.
:47.020 --> :48.739 I don't have much to say about him.
:48.739 --> :52.989 I think he can be a jerk but he's good to
my mom and good to my sister and brother (12M). :52.989 --> :57.210
He would have adopted me and been good to
me but he's not someone I would have wanted :57.210 --> :00.930
to be adopted by, if I wanted to be adopted. :00.930 --> :05.790
It's a lot about him as a person and his views
and stuff he says about people and somewhat :05.790 --> :11.799
about him not being so great about my dad
after he and mom got married but I digress. :11.799 --> :15.270
My sister knows I don't really have much of a relationship with her dad.
:15.270 --> :20.590 I do the bare minimum and if mom died tomorrow
or they divorced tomorrow, I wouldn't remain :20.590 --> :21.799
in touch with him. :21.799 --> :22.799 He knows it.
:22.799 --> :23.799 Mom knows it. :23.799 --> :25.329
My siblings at least pick up on it. :25.329 --> :30.360
I gave my son a name that honors not just
my dad but my aunts and uncles and grandparents :30.360 --> :31.360
too. :31.360 --> :34.950 It's a name that connects to the family as
a whole but gives him his own identity and :34.950 --> :38.700
is also a name we (my husband and myself) love. :38.700 --> :42.810
After my son was born my sister made some
comments that I should have honored her dad :42.810 --> :44.430
in his name somehow. :44.430 --> :48.329
I told her that wasn't something we wanted
to do but she could always do so in the future :48.329 --> :49.700
if she wanted. :49.700 --> :51.439 She did not let it drop.
:51.439 --> :54.650 She mentioned it every time I saw her for
the next month. :54.650 --> :59.740
When I did not give in and add a different
middle name or change his name completely, :59.740 --> :04.479
she told me her dad was upset that we honored
my dad and his side of the family but didn't :04.479 --> :06.030
honor him at all. :06.030 --> :08.429
I told her again she could always do it. :08.429 --> :12.460
I told my mom and her husband they needed
to speak to my sister and tell her to stop :12.460 --> :17.560
mentioning it and I told him to stop letting
my sister know he hates not being honored. :17.560 --> :22.490
They didn't listen and just before Christmas
my sister came over to tell me yet again that :22.490 --> :27.930
her dad wanted to be honored in my son's name
and hates that he wasn't and that he feels :27.930 --> :28.930 hurt.
:28.930 --> :31.030 I told her I don't care what her dad wants.
:31.030 --> :36.319 He's not my dad and I honored my dad and my
paternal family and that's my right when my :36.319 --> :39.230
son is mine and my husband's child. :39.230 --> :44.280
I told her to honor her own dad when she has kids if she wants.
:44.280 --> :48.240 She got really upset and told me I should
care about what her dad wants because he has :48.240 --> :57.050
been my dad too since I was 8 and I shouldn't dismiss him so easily.
:57.050 --> :01.630 AITA? :01.630 --> :15.379 Posted by
u/StoryPlayful1056 :15.379 --> :29.129 9 hours ago
:29.129 --> :38.239 AITA for telling my father's daught's foster
parents they can't force me and my siblings :38.239 --> :39.239
to play pretend? :39.239 --> :42.280 POO Mode Activated 💩
My father's daughter (4) went into foster :42.280 --> :47.290
care in July/August after my father and her mother (my aunt) died.
:47.290 --> :55.950 I (18M) along with my siblings (20F, 22M and
23F) did not have a relationship with either :55.950 --> :01.120
of them after we learned they started an affair
while our mom was undergoing cancer treatment. :01.120 --> :04.980
She discovered the betrayal halfway through
her treatment and she filed for divorce while :04.980 --> :06.939
she was going through so much. :06.939 --> :12.120
She also disowned her sister and told her
she never wanted to see or hear from her again. :12.120 --> :16.060
None of us met their daughter but when our
father and aunt passed away this past summer :16.060 --> :18.030
we were contacted twice. :18.030 --> :21.720
Once to inform us of the death that happened
in another state and a second time to hear :21.720 --> :26.930
their child was in foster care and questioning
if any of the family would take her. :26.930 --> :28.440
We all said no. :28.440 --> :32.460
None of us wanted to establish contact or a relationship with her.
:32.460 --> :37.580 Early December my oldest sister and I both
got messages on FB from someone claiming to :37.580 --> :39.780
be fostering our father's daughter. :39.780 --> :44.180
She said she and her husband wanted to try
and facilitate contact between her and her :44.180 --> :49.510
biological relatives but that they also wanted
her to hear stories about her parents. :49.510 --> :52.639
My sister responded and I ignored the message. :52.639 --> :58.050
All she said was thanks for thinking of us
but we weren't interested and we had no contact :58.050 --> :03.669
with our father or aunt prior to death due
to a difficult family situation and she would :03.669 --> :07.009
appreciate if they could respect that and leave us alone.
:07.009 --> :10.160 She was polite in her rejection but was also
clear. :10.160 --> :12.979
She got three more messages until she blocked them.
:12.979 --> :14.280 Then I got two. :14.280 --> :18.660
Our other two siblings don't have social media
so were harder to reach but the last one I :18.660 --> :23.720
got basically said we were all monsters and
we could at the very least look beyond a difficult :23.720 --> :28.750
family dynamic and give their child some nice
stories and memories and feelings about the :28.750 --> :30.990
parents she won't remember. :30.990 --> :33.500
That she's innocent and deserves that connection. :33.500 --> :38.120
I was tired of pushy nature of the messages
at that point and I responded that they can't :38.120 --> :43.030
force me and my siblings to play pretend and
act like we have a good thing to say about :43.030 --> :47.440
either parent and would they really want her
to grow up hearing how much her parents are :47.440 --> :48.920
despised. :48.920 --> :53.150
She responded back that I did not have to
be so rude and did not have to take this out :53.150 --> :54.150
on her. :54.150 --> :57.650 She said they were trying to look out for
their foster daughter like they do for all :57.650 --> :01.919
their foster kids. :01.919 --> :05.310 AITA?
:05.310 --> :12.789 Posted by u/copystring
:12.789 --> :24.470 6 hours ago :24.470 --> :30.180
AITA my wife didn't come to my dad's funeral? :30.180 --> :32.550
POO Mode Activated 💩 So my dad died. :32.550 --> :37.360
I asked my wife if she'd come to the funeral,
but wasn't surprised she didn't come because :37.360 --> :40.460
she didn't know him too much and she said, she had to work.
:40.460 --> :41.710 This was fine with me.
:41.710 --> :42.910 I went there with my daughter.
:42.910 --> :46.110 While we were still at the funeral, my wife
finished work. :46.110 --> :48.310
She texted me if I'm still at the funeral. :48.310 --> :49.620
I said yes. :49.620 --> :54.020
She then texted me "nice that you asked me if I would come after work".
:54.020 --> :55.630 She obviously meant the funeral.
:55.630 --> :00.740 I came home and she is angry with me, I didn't
ask her if she'd want to come after work. :00.740 --> :05.550
I said so her, she could have decided herself if she'd want to come after work.
:05.550 --> :11.000 On another funeral she also decided she would
come and I didn't ask her for that one. :11.000 --> :15.470
So am I the jerk? :15.470 --> :25.910 Posted by u/Any-Might7823
:25.910 --> :32.930 12 hours ago :32.930 --> :51.180
AITA for :51.180 --> :55.150
the meltdown I had on Christmas day which caused my dad's wife to cry?
:55.150 --> :58.090 POO Mode Activated 💩
The background starts with my mom dying. :58.090 --> :03.629
I (17F) was 11 and my sister's were 16 and 18. :03.629 --> :07.660
Our dad met his second wife a couple of years later (when I was 13).
:07.660 --> :12.580 The expectations for my relationship with
her and my sister's were very different. :12.580 --> :17.150
My sister's were expected to be civil but
if they weren't close it was no big deal. :17.150 --> :22.310
But almost everyone (minus my sisters and
minus my mom's family) expected me to see :22.310 --> :27.620
my dad's wife as some second mother or maternal/parental figure.
:27.620 --> :29.630 They got married when I was 14.
:29.630 --> :34.580 My dad's wife wanted me to divide Mother's
Day between my sisters and maternal side with :34.580 --> :35.580 her.
:35.580 --> :37.840 My sisters were not expected to do the same.
:37.840 --> :41.110 But she would say she wanted to celebrate
the day with her kid. :41.110 --> :43.419
She signed us up for mother/daughter things. :43.419 --> :46.990
She would get hurt when I didn't want to go and would never ask my sister's.
:46.990 --> :51.660 I asked her before why she expected me to
do these things with her but she never invited :51.660 --> :53.070
my sisters. :53.070 --> :57.460
She said she was raising me and wanted to
be a mother presence in my life but they were :57.460 --> :58.460
grown. :58.460 --> :03.570
I told her (and my dad on separate occasions)
that I didn't want or need and wouldn't accept :03.570 --> :06.160
someone else into that kind of figure. :06.160 --> :07.310
I was ignored. :07.310 --> :11.550
I had a small run in with my sisters when
dad was getting married because I said he :11.550 --> :16.310
shouldn't and they said he should be allowed
to move on and mom would want him happy. :16.310 --> :20.380
When I explained what was going on they realized why I was feeling that way.
:20.380 --> :23.029 They tried talking to dad but it did no good.
:23.029 --> :26.800 My dad's side of the family would all make
comments that I was lucky to have another :26.800 --> :32.339
mother figure, or how I don't seem to give
her the care and consideration she deserves. :32.339 --> :36.660
They would ask why I seemed to spend no time with her of my own free will.
:36.660 --> :39.360 Or why I was never loving toward her.
:39.360 --> :43.450 My dad told me I should show her more love
and affection and he told me I made her feel :43.450 --> :48.110
left out when I didn't tell her stuff or when
I made plans with others but not her. :48.110 --> :51.700
I know some people would love to have someone like this in their lives.
:51.700 --> :55.000 But I want the same relationship my sisters
have with her. :55.000 --> :56.970 But more is expected.
:56.970 --> :02.120 So Christmas Day came and everyone was at
our house for Christmas (minus my mom's family). :02.120 --> :07.839
My dad and his wife gave me a card "from my
parents" and my sisters got them with "dad :07.839 --> :09.410
and his wife". :09.410 --> :13.899
Then when it became time for family photos
we got one with the three of us and dad but :13.899 --> :18.860
then my grandparents wanted me in the family
one with my dad and his wife but my sisters :18.860 --> :20.500
weren't expected to be in it. :20.500 --> :25.970
I tried to step out and my dad's wife said
it wasn't a family photo without their kid. :25.970 --> :31.400
This was the point where I lost it and I told
her I am not her kid, she is not my mother :31.400 --> :36.920
figure, that she is dad's wife just like she
is to my sisters and I want it to be that :36.920 --> :37.920 way.
:37.920 --> :42.120 I said I do not love her and hate how they
all treat her like she suddenly became a parent :42.120 --> :43.120
to me. :43.120 --> :48.110 My sisters were on my side but my dad was
furious and his wife cried and cried harder :48.110 --> :52.420
as I continued. :52.420 --> :56.200 AITA?
:56.200 --> :07.560 Posted by u/clanton :07.560 --> :18.910
1 day ago :18.910 --> :25.390
AITA for not repaying my friend $18 for a pizza? :25.390 --> :28.380
POO Mode Activated 💩 So yesterday I got a text from my friend,
:28.380 --> :29.620 let's call him john. :29.620 --> :33.130
He was like 'hey, can you send me $18 for the pizza'
:33.130 --> :36.780 To which I responded 'when did we order pizza?'.
:36.780 --> :40.160 John responds with 'The pizzas I cooked at
boardgames night' :40.160 --> :41.970 Now to preface this 1.
:41.970 --> :47.930 He offered to make pizza and host boardgames,
which he decided to do on his own accord and :47.930 --> :48.930 2.
:48.930 --> :54.300 Did not ask anyone for money for doing so
beforehand or say it would cost $$. :54.300 --> :59.160
So with a bit of conversation back at forth
(since I've never had anyone ask me for money :59.160 --> :03.779
for a home cooked meal)... he said he was
asking for money since I asked him for money :03.779 --> :05.510
for fish and chips. :05.510 --> :10.160
Now the fish and chips were not home cooked
and it has ALWAYS been the case that we pay :10.160 --> :14.630
for ourselves at a restaurant or fast food/take out.
:14.630 --> :17.769 And I would expect to give him money if it
was the other way round. :17.769 --> :22.980
I mentioned this to him and he said he sees
it differently quote "a meal for a meal". :22.980 --> :27.589
I then asked if he has requested $18 off any of our other friends.
:27.589 --> :28.830 Which he said no. :28.830 --> :34.120
So I said 'this is unfair and he's changing
how we usually handle these sort of situations :34.120 --> :37.310
and specifically targeting me for some reason... :37.310 --> :42.089
And he said it was because the other friends
will bring drinks and smokes etc and share :42.089 --> :44.360
it with him, which I do not. :44.360 --> :49.510
To which I responded, 'well I don't drink
or smoke' and also I've NEVER charged you :49.510 --> :51.370
for a home cooked meal.' :51.370 --> :55.810
Then some angry messages were sent my way and we have not spoken.
:55.810 --> :58.980 I can send him $18, it's not about the money...
:58.980 --> :03.740 It's just how he has handled the situation,
is singling me out, and especially charging :03.740 --> :08.860
me after the fact (which has never happened before and is not normal behavior).
:08.860 --> :49.899 AITA for not giving my friend $18 for
:49.899 --> :52.240 a home cooked pizza? :52.240 --> :56.170
Posted by u/AUTLIVE :56.170 --> :00.100 18 hours ago
:00.100 --> :07.670 AITA for stealing back a hat from nephew he
stole from my wife? :07.670 --> :08.670 POO Mode Activated 💩
Cliffs Notes: :08.670 --> :10.890
Had birthday party for wife at friends house. :10.890 --> :14.070
She got a gag gift birthday baseball cap. :14.070 --> :19.190
Lots of people attended 20+ friends/family
Went to pack up to leave house few days later, :19.190 --> :20.690
couldn’t find hat. :20.690 --> :25.519
Week or more go by and we visit nephew’s (12-13y/o) home to see his parents.
:25.519 --> :28.640 Wife sees specified ballcap on his dresser
and tells me. :28.640 --> :33.480
We don’t tell anyone and go back next day
and I steal it back without anyone knowing. :33.480 --> :35.720
Except the nephew knows I took it back. :35.720 --> :37.790
No he didn’t say a word to me though. :37.790 --> :41.320
He knows it’s gone though bc he mumbled to himself where’s my hat?
:41.320 --> :44.890 And was pacing trying to not be obvious he
was looking for it. :44.890 --> :47.160
Acting all nice and weirdly to us. :47.160 --> :52.240
I heard him in his room moving stuff as well mumbling something about “my hat”.
:52.240 --> :58.410 AITA for letting him sweat or should I tell
his parents even though, well you know “my :58.410 --> :02.579
kid wouldn’t yadayadayada” or he’ll deny it and nothing happens.
:02.579 --> :06.380 Or he’ll admit it and nothing happens and
it’s getting worse and worse. :06.380 --> :07.660
Should I tell parents at all? :07.660 --> :11.100
I’m just in the camp of dang this os a crapy situation.
:11.100 --> :15.580 And one day the police are gonna be the ones
telling Dad that his sons in juvenile. :15.580 --> :19.720
Not myself telling him he stole. :19.720 --> :22.579 Peace!
:22.579 --> :31.149 Posted by u/Crazy-Procedure-2912
:31.149 --> :39.730 1 day ago :39.730 --> :45.620
AITAH for telling my sister’s fiancé that she can’t have kids
:45.620 --> :49.829 POO Mode Activated 💩
I(18f) have a 34 year old sister. :49.829 --> :54.610
My sister has one son from a previous marriage
but after giving birth the hospital found :54.610 --> :56.529
a tumor in her chest. :56.529 --> :00.279
She had gotten it removed but she lost a lung in the process.
:00.279 --> :05.089 Now onto the problem, after a messy divorce,
my sister found a man that’s much younger :05.089 --> :06.139
than she is. :06.139 --> :10.579
He’s young so he wants to have a lot of
children plus he comes from a culture where :10.579 --> :13.250
children are a major factor in marriage. :13.250 --> :15.380
He said he wants at least 3 kids. :15.380 --> :19.200
At first I thought after a while of dating
my sister would tell her partner that she :19.200 --> :21.940
can’t give birth without major risked. :21.940 --> :24.010
She could literally die. :24.010 --> :26.389
She never did, now they are planning the wedding. :26.389 --> :30.019
When me and my other siblings confronted her
she said that she’s willing to take the :30.019 --> :32.580
risk and that she wants more kids. :32.580 --> :38.060
I don’t agree with this because if she dies
she leaves behind her already living son. :38.060 --> :43.699
So when my family was having dinner this Christmas
I decided to bring up my sister’s surgery :43.699 --> :45.440
and the risk of getting pregnant. :45.440 --> :49.170
She left soon after cursing me out and yelling that I’m a lier.
:49.170 --> :54.029 Her fiancé yelled at me, saying that surgery
isn’t something I should lie about and how :54.029 --> :58.209
an immature teen doesn’t understand what the risk of pregnancy.
:58.209 --> :02.389 My siblings agree with me mentioning it but
my parents think that I should’ve never :02.389 --> :03.470
said anything. :03.470 --> :04.470 AITAH??
:04.470 --> :05.470 Edit:Hi. :05.470 --> :09.610
I’m getting a lot of questions about certain information I forgot to share.
:09.610 --> :13.970 my family all know that he doesn’t know,
my sister asked us to help her hide it and :13.970 --> :20.290
told us.We know there is a high chance she
probably die from giving birth, a doctor explained :20.290 --> :24.939
it and told us the risk after her surgery
and advised my sister to find alternative :24.939 --> :25.939 ways.
:25.939 --> :29.970 My sister and her fiancé have been together
for almost four years now. :29.970 --> :35.110
My sister does have other underlying things
like diabetes as well as a problem with her :35.110 --> :39.160
heart(I don’t know the name of the problem
but I know she has it) which is why she almost :39.160 --> :40.870
dies during her surgery. :40.870 --> :44.059
She had also almost dies giving birth to my nephew.
:44.059 --> :48.870 I had never told her she can’t have kids,
I am sorry the title is wrong I had thought :48.870 --> :52.750
Cant and shouldn’t mean the same thing in English. :52.750 --> :56.710
Me and my family have told her that she should
tell him but she is pushing it off. :56.710 --> :01.190
I don’t want to ruin their relationship
but she should tell him because of the risk. :01.190 --> :05.620
I know she only wants a family because he
wants a family she had explained that to us :05.620 --> :07.280
when we asked her to tell him. :07.280 --> :10.520
My sister is amazing she just didn’t tell him. :10.520 --> :12.630
I worry about her dying from birth. :12.630 --> :13.630 Posted by
u/Miserable-Day-8244 :13.630 --> :14.630 2 days ago
:14.630 --> :16.799 AITA for kicking my daughter out of my house
for being pregnant :16.799 --> :19.120 POO Mode Activated 💩
I45f have a 27 year old daughter. :19.120 --> :21.200
She has 6 kids, between the ages 10-11 months. :21.200 --> :26.840
There are 3 different fathers, she receives
child support from 2 of them, and she is still :26.840 --> :28.440
with the 3rd one and they have been for 5 years. :28.440 --> :32.400
My daughter works part time, and her fiancé is a chef full time.
:32.400 --> :14.480 They have lived with us for the past year
and a half, due to getting evicted from their :14.480 --> :15.560
last home. :15.560 --> :20.299
The kids and them have our upstairs bedrooms
(there’s 2) but that’s still crowded for :20.299 --> :21.450
6 children. :21.450 --> :25.820
They are constantly asking me for help with
phone bills, My husband and I have asked for :25.820 --> :30.120
no rent so they’d be able to save money
to get a home, which I do not believe they :30.120 --> :31.120
were doing. :31.120 --> :35.450
I have put up with loud voices through out
all hours, and waking up at different hours :35.450 --> :38.700
to cater to children, because I love my grandchildren.
:38.700 --> :43.270 I never complained to my daughter because
I believe family is very important. :43.270 --> :48.520
It’s just that my children are all grown
up, my youngest moved out 4 years ago and :48.520 --> :50.900
my husband and I had hopes to remodel. :50.900 --> :53.510
We didn’t expect them to be living here this long. :53.510 --> :57.710
On Christmas Eve, my daughter gathered us
all around and announced they were pregnant :57.710 --> :00.090
with baby #7. :00.090 --> :02.700
Everyone was all excited, but I felt dread. :02.700 --> :06.080
That would mean another child in our house with not much room.
:06.080 --> :10.870 I looked over at my husband and could tell
he felt the same, we discussed later and decided :10.870 --> :13.740
we were going to have to ask them to move out. :13.740 --> :17.850
Last night at dinner I brought it up to my
daughter and her boyfriend and we told them, :17.850 --> :23.460
they have 2 months to find a place because we cannot have another child here.
:23.460 --> :28.169 My daughter started crying, saying she couldn’t
believe I’d throw her to the streets for :28.169 --> :32.300
having a baby, that this was completely unfair and not enough time.
:32.300 --> :37.330 I told her I was sorry, it was painful for
me as well, but these living conditioners :37.330 --> :38.980
were impossible. :38.980 --> :44.360
She demanded I give her more time or she’d
go to the courts and I told her news flash, :44.360 --> :46.770
the courts only gives you 30 days. :46.770 --> :50.890
She then said my grandchildren were going to be homeless because I was selfish.
:50.890 --> :55.320 She made a Facebook post asking for rooms
to rent because “she’s pregnant and has :55.320 --> :58.510
nowhere to go and her family don’t give a sh*t about her.”
:58.510 --> :59.510 AITA? :59.510 --> :00.510 Posted by
u/girlwantstoknow1029 :00.510 --> :01.510 2 days ago
:01.510 --> :02.510 AITA for not letting my niece wear white at
my wedding? :02.510 --> :03.510 POO Mode Activated 💩
My partner and I are getting married in February. :03.510 --> :04.820
On Christmas Day my soon to be sister in law
asked if her 5 year old daughter could wear :04.820 --> :05.820
a white dress to the wedding. :05.820 --> :06.820
She told me it was in a shop front in our local shopping centre.
:06.820 --> :07.820 I was so stunned I didn’t really respond
either way. :07.820 --> :09.860
Afterwards I told my partner and he said he would speak to his sister.
:09.860 --> :13.609 Today I saw the dress and it is basically
a wedding dress, big and white tulle with :13.609 --> :14.609
a detailed floral lace body. :14.609 --> :18.000
This is after she asked us to order her daughter
a flower crown so that she can have flowers :18.000 --> :19.000
to match mine. :19.000 --> :22.140
She isn’t a flower girl, we aren’t having any bridal party as part of our day.
:22.140 --> :25.500 AITA for wanting to tell her no and refusing
to get her a flower crown? :25.500 --> :26.500 Posted by
u/RightAttorney7007 :26.500 --> :27.500 1 day ago
:27.500 --> :31.900 AITA for receiving racist abuse from in-laws
or being overly sensitive? :31.900 --> :35.250 POO Mode Activated 💩
I am black-Caribbean and my wife is white. :35.250 --> :39.940
Having evening drinks, my white father-in-law
proclaims that in his opinion, he should be :39.940 --> :45.280
free to use the n-word and the p-word because “they” call themselves that.
:45.280 --> :46.309 I walked out. :46.309 --> :50.530
I would like to think that I did it gracefully, but I was pretty angry.
:50.530 --> :55.030 Later in the evenings, my wife’s other family
members suggested that, if my wife went away :55.030 --> :59.799
alone on holiday, they would need to come
and look after our two teenage children; I :59.799 --> :02.720
was not trusted to look after them on my own. :02.720 --> :06.669
Furthermore, they gave me the advice that need to work harder in the house.
:06.669 --> :11.980 I am a middle aged professional, working 2-3
jobs, including running my own business. :11.980 --> :15.230
I earn about £200K a year. :15.230 --> :18.230
I work 72+ hours a week. :18.230 --> :19.929
I told them I worked hard enough! :19.929 --> :25.790
I am angry that they have applied two classic
racist tropes, that black people are bad fathers :25.790 --> :28.030
and that black people are lazy. :28.030 --> :33.410
I had overt racism from the father and then covert racism from the rest.
:33.410 --> :36.520 My wife is angry that I have made stuff up
and I am oversensitive. :36.520 --> :39.680
Am I oversensitive or am I the victim? :39.680 --> :40.680 Posted by
u/Acceptable-Quail-357 :40.680 --> :41.680 2 days ago
:41.680 --> :44.310 AITA for doing what I was told on Christmas?
:44.310 --> :47.700 POO Mode Activated 💩
17m had my boyfriend 17m over for Christmas :47.700 --> :51.220
because his family weren’t really doing
anything due to unfortunate circumstances. :51.220 --> :56.490
My mum said it’s fine to have him over but
didn’t want me to just clear off upstairs :56.490 --> :01.620
with him for the full day when we have family
over and she would like me to at least stay :01.620 --> :03.480
downstairs as much as possible as to not be rude. :03.480 --> :04.480
So after dinner we stay in the kitchen for
a bit but my mum and relatives are just chatting :04.480 --> :05.480
amongst themselves. :05.480 --> :06.480
But to keep to my mums wish for staying downstairs
me and my boyfriend move into the living room :06.480 --> :07.480
and stay in there watching movies rest of the day. :07.480 --> :08.480
Sometimes people would walk in and say hi and I’d chat with them.
:08.480 --> :09.480 When everyone was gone my mum started having
a go at me because apparently she would’ve :09.480 --> :10.480
wanted to move into the living room with people
but she felt like she couldn’t do that because :10.480 --> :11.480
me and my boyfriend “took over in there” :11.480 --> :12.480
I asked why she couldn’t just have asked
me to go elsewhere plus there was room in :12.480 --> :13.480
there for people so what’s she talking about? :13.480 --> :14.480
She said it was uncomfortable the atmosphere
we created in there, like we wouldn’t have :14.480 --> :15.480
wanted anyone else in there and no one would
want to go in there anyway because of said :15.480 --> :16.480
atmosphere. :16.480 --> :17.480
I was completely unaware of this “atmosphere”
and don’t know how we could’ve been creating :17.480 --> :18.480 it.
:18.480 --> :19.480 I brought up how she wanted us to stay downstairs
and my mum told me I should had the sense :19.480 --> :20.480
to know that didn’t matter anymore at that time? :20.480 --> :21.480
Posted by u/burner3584 :21.480 --> :22.480 2 days ago
:22.480 --> :23.480 AITA for going to my moms wedding drunk
POO Mode Activated 💩 :23.480 --> :24.480
My dad died almost a year ago and my mom started
dating her husband like a month after my dad :24.480 --> :25.480 died.
:25.480 --> :26.480 Her husband expected me to call him dad when
he first moved in with us. :26.480 --> :27.480
I (M16) don't like him he's such a dick and
my mom and him both know what I think of him. :27.480 --> :28.480
He's trying to replace my dad it's freaking annoying.
:28.480 --> :29.480 They got married a few days ago.
:29.480 --> :30.480 I didn't want to go to the wedding but my
mom made it pretty clear that if I didn't :30.480 --> :31.480
go out relationship would never be the same again. :31.480 --> :32.480
I got really drunk beforehand so I could actually
get through the wedding and because everything :32.480 --> :33.480
is way better when you're drunk and maybe a little stoned.
:33.480 --> :34.480 I got to the ceremony like 25 minutes late
and that really ticked my mom off but I was :34.480 --> :35.480
still there so my mom should probably just
be grateful that I was there at all ngl. :35.480 --> :36.480
Like I had a plan to ruin their wedding but
I thought I'd just be wasting my time so I :36.480 --> :37.480 didn't.
:37.480 --> :38.480 My mom and her husband have been so ticked
at me since they said it was disrespectful :38.480 --> :39.480
going there drunk and that I ruined their wedding. :39.480 --> :40.480
I don't really know how I ruined their wedding
the only thing I did which could be considered :40.480 --> :41.480
bad is making out with a guy but I don't think
that's that bad so i don't really understand :41.480 --> :42.480
what the problem is tbh. :42.480 --> :43.480
But yeah I don't know I could be the jerk,
they're both pretty upset at me and they haven't :43.480 --> :44.480
really spoken to me much other than to shout at me.
:44.480 --> :45.480 Posted by u/No_Anybody_8997
:45.480 --> :46.480 2 days ago :46.480 --> :47.480
WIBTA for not allowing my dying cousin to walk down the aisle?
:47.480 --> :48.480 POO Mode Activated 💩
My(27f) cousin(23f) was diagnosed with leukaemia :48.480 --> :49.480
and is not doing well. :49.480 --> :50.480
I feel terrible for her, but I was never close to her growing up.
:50.480 --> :51.480 We grew up in different countries.
:51.480 --> :52.480 I’m getting married in March 2024.
:52.480 --> :53.480 My aunt came over two weeks ago to discuss
something. :53.480 --> :54.480
She wants me to let my cousin walk down the aisle with her dad before I walk.
:54.480 --> :55.480 I don’t feel comfortable with this because,
yes, it’s sad that she won’t get to experience :55.480 --> :56.480
this, but isn’t it my day to shine? :56.480 --> :57.480
My aunt says that I’m being selfish for not doing this.
:57.480 --> :58.480 She spoke to my parents about this, and they
don’t seem too happy. :58.480 --> :59.480
My in-laws are not pleased too. :59.480 --> :00.480
But they still want me to decide. :00.480 --> :01.480
My fiancé doesn’t feel comfortable too. :01.480 --> :02.480
My aunt brought my cousin to my place to discuss it last week.
:02.480 --> :03.480 Cousin cried, saying she wanted to walk down
the aisle and that I should let her. :03.480 --> :04.480
I told her it was my wedding day, so it was not right for her to take over.
:04.480 --> :07.059 She then called me selfish and a bridezilla
for not caring about her. :07.059 --> :11.659
Like I said, we were never close, so I don’t
know why she’s trying to do this on my wedding :11.659 --> :12.659
day. :12.659 --> :17.720 I told her I needed more time to think, so
She’s on IG posting cryptic stuff, obviously :17.720 --> :18.760
attacking me. :18.760 --> :22.700
I talked to my friends for non-biased opinions, and they were divided.
:22.700 --> :27.659 Some want me to allow her to walk down the
aisle because she would never get to experience :27.659 --> :29.860
that, and I’ll be doing something nice. :29.860 --> :34.370
WIBTA if I say no? :34.370 --> :43.950 Posted by
u/SoberNewYearsWedding :43.950 --> :53.529 2 days ago
:53.529 --> :01.140 AITA for last minute declining to go to a
friends wedding that is dry on new years eve :01.140 --> :04.730
POO Mode Activated 💩 My buddy (33M) is getting married to a girl
:04.730 --> :07.580 that our friend group is not in love with.
:07.580 --> :10.050 He loves her though so we support him.
:10.050 --> :12.840 We have known for months this was a new years
eve wedding. :12.840 --> :16.309 I RSVP'd yes months ago with my wife.
:16.309 --> :20.440
Several friends and I operated under the assumption
that there would be booze at the wedding, :20.440 --> :23.090
especially considering it is on New Years Eve. :23.090 --> :27.770
Well I found out yesterday that it is a dry
wedding, turns out it is because of his Fiance :27.770 --> :29.029
and her family. :29.029 --> :32.549
I asked my wife if she knew this and said no and was ticked.
:32.549 --> :34.900 I texted the groom buddy and asked.
:34.900 --> :36.000 He confirmed this. :36.000 --> :39.620
I told him this is something you should have told us a long time ago.
:39.620 --> :42.039 I told him that Wife and I wouldn't be going.
:42.039 --> :43.570 We want to spend the night drinking.
:43.570 --> :49.200 I texted the rest of my friends about this
and oh boy, the group chat went off. :49.200 --> :51.700
This led to several more people backing out. :51.700 --> :55.210
This is not how a bunch of us expected to spend New Years Eve.
:55.210 --> :58.790 Really the only ones that didn't back out
are the 4 members of our 12 person group that :58.790 --> :00.510
are in the wedding. :00.510 --> :02.880
Groom buddy reached out to me and went off. :02.880 --> :07.830
Pretty much he is now overspending on catering,
he is having 20ish less guests show up than :07.830 --> :09.820
planned and this is all last minute. :09.820 --> :15.060
I've been called an jerk among other things
for "leading the charge" in people not going :15.060 --> :17.409
to the wedding. :17.409 --> :18.409 AITA?
:18.409 --> :26.580 Posted by u/RegalTattoo
:26.580 --> :47.789 2 days ago :47.789 --> :05.440 AITA for
refusing to babysit a special needs stepnephew :05.440 --> :09.269
POO Mode Activated 💩 I (24f) recently moved to the same city as
:09.269 --> :10.269 my brother. :10.269 --> :14.240
My brother has my niece Olivia (10f) with his late wife.
:14.240 --> :18.830 He’s been married for two years to Kate
who has a kid from a previous relationship, :18.830 --> :20.019
Tim (7m). :20.019 --> :22.399 Tim is autistic.
:22.399 --> :25.929 Tim alternates one week with his dad and another
with my brother and Kate. :25.929 --> :30.929
I agreed to babysit Olivia today while my
brother and Kate run some errands for 5-6 :30.929 --> :31.929 hours.
:31.929 --> :33.630 Tim was supposed to be with his dad.
:33.630 --> :38.649 The night before, Kate called and asked me
to watch Tim as well as there was some emergency :38.649 --> :42.190
at his dad’s and he dropped Tim off at her place. :42.190 --> :45.909
Kate said Tim would be fine just watching some movies and then a nap.
:45.909 --> :49.450 As long as I stick to this routine there should
be no problem. :49.450 --> :52.830
She would provide the movies and the snacks he was comfortable to eat.
:52.830 --> :57.750 The thing was, I planned to take Kate to a
cafe she told me she wanted to visit. :57.750 --> :00.340
It was supposed to be a surprise. :00.340 --> :04.279
Having to stay home with Tim would greatly change the flow of our day.
:04.279 --> :08.130 In addition, I have met Tim like twice and
don’t know him well. :08.130 --> :12.230
I have no experience with special needs kids
and didn’t think I was equipped to look :12.230 --> :13.370 after one.
:13.370 --> :16.799 Due to these reasons, I refused to babysit Tim.
:16.799 --> :20.529 I told them I could only take Olivia as previously
agreed. :20.529 --> :23.409
My brother and Kate called me AH for not helping out.
:23.409 --> :27.970 They told me an extra kid costed me almost
nothing while their only other option was :27.970 --> :32.670
to bring Tim to Kate’s mom who can’t drive and lives almost an hour away.
:32.670 --> :35.850 They still brought Olivia over and we had
a great time. :35.850 --> :40.630
They picked up Olivia 2 hours later than they
were supposed to and Tim was crying. :40.630 --> :45.289
My brother and Kate said all this could be
prevented had I just help out because Tim :45.289 --> :49.690
would be relaxing at my place instead of stuck in traffic and getting cranky.
:49.690 --> :54.890 I just told them emergencies happen and I
really was not ready to be their plan B. Kate :54.890 --> :26.220
called me playing favorites and not seeing Tim as :26.220 --> :27.909
my family. :27.909 --> :29.369 AITA? | give me a good story on rAITAIREFUSETOBABYSITMYSPECIALNEEDSNEPHEWRedditStoriesen |
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first story abusive NC grandmother kidnaps her daughter's baby with the
help of her church group because her daughter is a Godless W and that's how
she got arrested I apologize as I am typing on behalf of my friend who is too
frantic to type I will try to include as much information as possible and answer
any questions needed if I forget anything about 4 hours ago my friend's
abusive mother showed up with the police handed over paperwork for a suit
affecting the parent child relationship and restraining order and took her child
the paperwork was real I called the local police department it states no
information other than a suit affecting the parent child relationship and a
restraining order has been granted by the judge no investigation was done
apparently it was filed under emergency dress with drug use being listed as the
reasoning my friend has never used drugs they told her that they cannot test her
until tomorrow and she cannot have the child back until the 17th when she is to
appear in court the grandmother who currently has the child has several
different alias she uses she has charges for neglect and child abuse for my
friend and her sister as well as many animal abuse and neglect charges you can
actually find her many lawsuits and neglect cases in various news articles
she has a history of fleeing states to avoid persecution and changing her name
we have page after page of various Facebook rants she has posted regarding
my friend as a Godless W and asking for prayers we think she utilized a local
church group to pay for the lawyer who filed the paperwork shortly before this
happened my friend left her abusive marriage and moved into an apartment of
her own with her child my friend's sister came down to help her get
situated and the grandmother somehow found them followed them into an IHOP
and started screaming Bible verses at them until the police were called she
also admits to doing this on Facebook as of right now mutual friends and family
including the grandmother's sister are very worried for the child's safety the
grandmother has disappeared with the child we are looking for any resources
and advice on what to do in this situation I am also curious if this is a
typical move by the court to Grant temporary custody with no prior
investigation or serving of paperwork we have no idea how this happened the
grandmother has never had the child in her care and my friend has never lived
with the grandmother with a child involved according to the grandmother
she ran away to be with the devil at 17 any help would be amazing also once
again I apologize for any missing information this happened very suddenly
and everyone is quite frantic and emotional edit to add the grandmother is
not a resident of Texas she currently has a listed residence in Colorado she
is being funded by a local church group in Texas however we tried to contact the
group funding her and they discounted me as a Godless Satan worshipper edit I
will post screenshots as some proof names censored of course but I am not
sure of the rules for that if a moderator could let me know that would
be great update we have currently been informed that the grandmother is no
longer at the hotel she was checked into
once again we just found out that she is not a resident of Texas CPS has been
called and a check is being initiated at this point we are wondering the
legalities of posting her face on Facebook for people to keep an eye out
update we just spoke with the police chief the woman I spoke to earlier to
verify that the officers who showed up were real was mistaken and no officers
were sent to the scene to help take the child we were able to discover that the
man who went with the grandmother was a friend of hers from the church
they lied about being police the order was not granting custody but rather a
notice of custody change right now we have no idea what to do or who to speak
with the police say we cannot do anything without an address for the
grandmother and she apparently gave the lawyer an address to a local church she
is gone we have no clue what to do the police are being of no help and telling
us that they cannot do anything without information update two the police
officer basically treated my friend like she was a lunatic and told us there was
nothing we could do he wouldn't let us speak and as he spoke to her she became
more and more emotional to the point that he asked her if she needed him to
take her to the hospital if she felt unsafe we are lost thank you all for
your help so far update three we are calling the local FBI field offices now
we have more information that we are not going to post publicly at this point
Thank you to the person who gave me the numbers to call probably radio Silence
from this point forward until we have word of an Amber Alert or something
along those lines update four thank you to everyone for the help our last update
for the night is that I looked over the paperwork that she served to my friend
it is not completely filled out there looks to be a blank template page in it
and it is stamped with copy on the top the grandmother used the ex-husband who
my friend was trying to escape to get evidence of abuse in the household the
ex-husband is now working with us to try and get the baby back and none of the
local law enforcement is helping we don't know why other than that they keep
using the excuse that this is a civil legal matter and they can't be involved
my friend is tired she sounds empty and lost once again we have a ton of proof
that this is real and we provide it to moderators if need be it sounds so
insane but I promise it is really happening a church helped an abusive
woman abduct her grandchild and in the last 10 hours has by all accounts
disappeared we don't really know what we can do at this point but we will be
making a ton of calls tomorrow morning ASAP if anyone has any more information
resources or anything else please let us know update 5 no word from my friend
this morning we will be going around to lawyers as soon as they open today if
things do not change for her since I last spoke with her the last time I
heard an officer from a different police Branch was sent to investigate the
claims of abduction I'm sorry I can't give much more than that at this time
but I will post another thread when we get some clear answers final update
until we speak to the lawyer we finally received word from the police that the
grandmother did give them an address this address is several years old and
was the address for an old horse farm she used to be affiliated with it no
longer even has a house on it they did not check the address and apparently
they will not check the address we were informed that this is a matter for the
courts so we are doing just that we have given word to the State Bar about the
lawyer involved and they are looking into it the judge has given us
confirmation that the paperwork filed was not served and was not an order
granting temporary custody the paperwork filed was a motion for a hearing for
temporary custody to be heard in court on the 17th we were basically hinted
that a lawyer specializing in lawsuits may be in order update one the post got
muddled and this will most likely be my last update for a bit as this is now an
active case my friend was able to speak with a lawyer we are currently Gathering
funds from friends and family for the retaining fee but we are covered in
terms of legal help I'm going to put what we know official in bullet points
to keep it short and concise my friend technically gave the baby over of her
own free will despite being manipulated to do so which is an explanation as to
why the police and other authority figures have not responded accordingly
they basically chalk this up as a civil matter and will only take further action
on a legal request a lawyer has been retained and has taken the case we were
informed that the paperwork we were given was technically legal but not what
the grandmother stated it was the judge should have also never allowed the paper
work to be filed in the first place the grandmother gave falsified information
in the documents and to the police including her address and location we do
not currently know her or the child's whereabouts the grandmother is being
helped financially and possibly in other ways by a rather large Church
organization that is known for this kind of stuff they are incredibly radical in
their faith we cannot talk to them and have been advised to steer clear of them
entirely think of westbo Baptist type people we are fighting against a legion
the lawyer is going to be doing all he can legally to get the baby back I will
only update once we have the child back in custody or an official alert has been
issued no further information will be shared we are still open to support kind
words prayers or whatever we just cannot share much more detail about what has
happened now that the lawyer is involved we want to thank everyone who helped
from the bottom of our hearts the fact that this can really happen is
horrifying and we hope that this gets resolved and can help anyone who may
have this happen in the future update 2 this will be short it will not have a
ton of information but I want to post it to at least let people know that the
baby is alive the grandmother has been seen this has been confirmed I want to
make it clear that she has left and has been confirmed seen the baby has been
confirmed to be alive we have a lawyer we are currently taking all necessary
steps it must be very clear that I cannot divulge too much information
through public channels at this time the baby is alive his grandmother has taken
him many many people are in this situation right now thank you so much
for all of your support and help we cannot thank you enough right now we
fight edit to add we have things under control and being taken care of by the
property authorities no Amber Alert is issued at this time for a reason nothing
personal is to be shared publicly until we have permission to do so we have to
be careful that she does not get spooked thank you everyone update three I've
gotten quite a few messages so I'm going
to update as little as I can there was a hearing today the grandmother still has
the baby she did show up to court the court ended for the day and will
reconvene tomorrow I cannot put any details of the hearing or anything along
those lines up yet as much as I want to feed the drama llamas with enough feed
to fill them for a year I have also been asked not to divulge any details in PM
for now we are all kind of in limbo right now so we just ask for good
thoughts and happy Vibes thanks to everyone for their continued support and
Care once all is said and done we shall anoint our lovely God warrior with a
nickname just for brevity sake final update I'm waiting on confirmation of
what kind of extras I can post so this isn't going to be as detailed as I
wanted it to be when I know the rules on
censored screenshots and stuff like that oh man I'll be posting the Epic tale of
God Warrior kidnapping Grandma the picture book until then here's a smaller
update and a happy ending we won we won the baby is back with his mother and gwk
grandma has been sent packing back to Colorado where a warrant for animal
abuse awaits her not related to this case but still hilarious the hearing was
absolutely insane the wicked stepchild of Judge Judy and a televangelist gwk
grandma actually yelled Praise Jesus and jumped out of her seat whenever
something went her way her lawyer tried just about everything he could to win he
tried claiming we faked the drug tests there were three different types that my
friend had done by an accredited office he told the judge that my friends
Witnesses should not be able to testify because they are satanists and practice
SX rituals I wish I was making this up he actually said that the testimony of
gwk Grandma's eldest daughter shouldn't be taken into account because she is a
polygamist and her father is a trans chual the eye roll the judge made at
this was beyond epic it was just ridiculous my friend was gorgeous she
wore an amazing little blazer and looked absolutely Angelic I'm so proud of her
the entire support crew that showed up for her was so well-mannered and nice it
was just fantastic gwk Grandma actually showed up to court on the first day with
a baby completely soaked through his diaper poop and all and a horrible
diaper rash and tried to blame it on my friend she actually told the judge she
didn't have enough money that my friend didn't give her enough diapers and that
my friend was failing as a parent for not having this 9-month-old baby potty
trained already K during the break our side went and got him fresh diapers took
care of his poor little butt and sent her a 48 pack because she got to keep
him overnight don't ask me why I wish I knew she showed up the next day with the
baby still and the same dirty clothes another soaked diaper and no extra
diapers we all wondered what she was doing but considering she posted at
least four posts every 5 minutes on her Facebook all the way up until the moment
of the trial I can imagine she was doing
that either way this is over restraining orders are being handed out like candy
she threatened us sort of by saying evil people will die and know the Lord soon
or whatever and she's going to be in jail soon my friend just wants to never
hear about or from her again so she's leaving it at that the judge admitted he
made mistakes in this case the lawyer had supposedly given him several good
reasons or whatever to cause him to act as he did but he still admits he should
have looked further into the situation as for the lawyer I'm kind of trying to
talk my friend into reporting him he was
the shadiest slimiest human being I have ever seen in my life there is no way
he's even seen the code of ethics anyway
for now that is the update we all needed
we are going out to celebrate and cuddle with a freshly washed baby Second Story
a Manchild boyfriend browses through op's mobile to see if she is cheating
because he was cheated on by his ex then confesses he cheated on Op with the X
the other day at 21 F was baking and my boyfriend 22 came into the kitchen to
hang out with me for a bit so we're talking and laughing and at this point I
was basically elbow deep in flower so when I got a text I asked him to look at
it and reply to it for me it wasn't anything bad just my friend asking if I
was home so she could come over I told him to text her yeah yes she could and
after he did that he started looking through my phone when I asked him what
he was doing he said I'm looking through your chats it's no big deal um sir this
is not how this works I just felt annoyed that he would use that
opportunity to look through my phone so I asked him why he just said he wanted
to see what I was up to now I don't have anything to hide but the reply angered
me and made me think he didn't trust me also the way he went about it was a
little irritating because I asked him to do something and he took advantage of
that opportunity would I rather he do it secretly he
asked no in fact I'd rather he didn't do it at all of course the predictable if
you didn't have anything to hide then you wouldn't be I rate right now pissed
me off even more I'm literally kneading furiously at this point and asking him
repeatedly to please drop my phone he refused and went to our bedroom and
locked himself in there I not one to do too much and I also had nothing to hide
so I waited for him to come back from his little Expedition and come and
answer to me when he didn't find any it was about 20 minutes when he came
back in with a goofy smile and dropped the phone back on the counter I asked
him if he found anything and he said know that maybe I'm just good at hiding
with that same sht eating grin at this point I'm boiling and ask him how he
feels about invading my privacy and he says that my privacy is his privacy I
tried to explain that I didn't like how he went about it and I don't like that
behavior at all but he was countering saying that if I wasn't cheating or
being dubious then this shouldn't be a big deal if I want to looked through his
phone too I'm welcome I just silently walked away and have been seething for 2
days he tried to apologize but he still doubles down on the fact that if I had
nothing to hide I wouldn't be pissed but I didn't like ffs I just don't like my
privacy being invaded like that like what's so hard to understand I'm hurt
and frustrated because it's the principle that matters I won't be out
here looking through his phone and if I wanted to i' just ask and it's the same
here if he just asked I'd have let him he's an amazing sweet man to me and I
love him with all my heart but he gets jealous sometimes and when I react to it
he tries to push it off like it's no big deal he says he trust me and he just
felt like seeing what I've been up to am I looking for tits on an ant here sorry
HW reference couldn't help myself but I feel like I'm going crazy what can I do
edit I'll be speaking to him tonight and laying down clear ground rules might
have to make an ultimatum if all else fails we'll update you on what happens
I'm really scared and sad and I feel betrayed I've been with him for a year
and a half and this is the most hurt I've ever felt from him I will break up
with him if it comes down to it because above all else I prioritize myself and
my mental health update 3 days later I wasn't able to post on our relationship
advice I don't know why so I decided to just post here for anyone who wanted an
update I may try to update the OG post whenever I can this is a little long I'm
sorry firstly I want to say thank you from the bottom of my heart the
responses I got here were so I opening things I never thought of before I
realized that his jealousy wasn't normal
me being able to handle him when he gets like that was me literally getting used
to the cycle of abuse I had told a commenter that he was cheated on really
badly by his ex people were asking if it was true and it was I was the person he
came to when it came crashing down and he has receipts so I never thought he
was lying we didn't get together till a year after they broke up though because
in that time we had gotten closer and I really felt for him I feel like being
with him while he healed was not a good idea especially as I've been so involved
with him as sort of an emotional crutch after the fact of his breakup one way he
found out about his ex's cheating was by testing her this should have been a red
flag I however told him later in our relationship that he should do nothing
of the sort I won't tolerate it on the day that I posted I went to meet up with
my friend whose sort of a tech whiz interestingly she's the same friend I
asked him to reply to she combed through my phone laptop and iPad and confirmed
there were no bugs or anything cloning or spying through my devices that was a
effing relief when I got back home he had made dinner for us got me my
favorite snacks and really wanted to talk I was receptive to him and I really
thought he had thought about his actions and was ready to apologize properly boy
was I wrong he admitted that he was testing me playing manipulative mind
games with me he thought that if he made me scared about finding something out I
would break down and confess when I did didn't and he didn't find anything on my
phone he started feeling guilty I asked him why he just didn't come to me if he
was having suspicions and he said that that would have given me an opportunity
to lie and that the way he went about it was a sure fire way for me to not have
any time to cover my tracks what and rcy hole so why did he keep doubling down
man you're going to have to ask him he just said that the guilt made him do
stupid things but I didn't believe that I asked him outright if he was cheating
on me he said no taking advice from I asked him for his phone so I could look
through it and I did he sat there with his leg rattling under the table I think
it was nerves another red flag to me I think he deleted some messages because
his boy's GC whom I know for a fact he always spoke in was not there and there
were gaps in a conversation with a girl he knows I don't like because she had
been texting him earlier in our relationship and he had told me not to
worry about her the messages that were there were just regular conversations
with the occasional trauma dumping from her and vice versa they I thought he
could only feel comfortable telling me when I asked about this he denied having
anything scandalous to do with her she was a close friend and if he told me
about him talking to her he knew I'd freak out and break up with him I just
didn't believe him I had such a nagging feeling I didn't want to see anymore so
I just dropped the phone and my heart was breaking and breaking and breaking
he showed me that he had booked a flight
to Bali for a coup's trip to show me how sorry he was I was stunned because how
can I find something Booky on your phone when you can confess to testing me and
you're still trying to do damage control funny enough in my head I was imagining
scenarios of him taking my passport and leaving me stranded if something
happened that he didn't like I started realizing that if I could think that he
could do something so heinous he probably would I told him that he hurt
me badly because of his insecurities and he crossed a huge line by infringing on
my privacy in such a way not hearing my know and I didn't think that I could
continue being with him from that point on I told him that even if I had nothing
to hide what about about the privacy of my friends and the trust they had in me
for their issues to not leave my own eyes why did he feel okay jeopardizing
that for his own fruitless cane he said he wasn't thinking about that and just
begged pleaded and said he didn't want to lose me but it made me sick to my
stomach how he felt so comfortable manipulating me I told him he has to
work on himself because I'm done trying to navigate his possessiveness and
insecurity after that I said he could stay the night on the couch but I'd like
for him to move out tomorrow he's tried to beg and plead some more but I'm not
hearing it I didn't even have to do an ultimatum because I just wasn't
interested in continuing this anymore how do you claim to love somebody but at
every turn question their motives with everybody especially when I'd never
given him a reason to it got way worse because this morning he confessed I
guess as a last ditch effort to show me transparency the irony that he cheated
with the girl once in the early stages of our relationship and that was the
guilt that was eating at him he tried to
lock himself in the bathroom another one of his manipulative tactics that I
realized he liked to to do when something didn't go his way lock himself
in a room till I conceited but I told him I'd call the police I've never said
that before and I guess he realized I was serious so he came out and took some
things and went to his brothers I'm heartbroken I'm hurt and I feel like
I've lost a part of myself I feel like my whole relationship was a Power Trip
filled with control and lies I used to see myself as strong but thinking back
on our relationship I realized the many things I endured just because I felt I
was handling it one thing though I am glad I came here you helped me realize
that this could have gotten worse and that my life could have been in danger
later down the line if not that then I'd have been filled with more pain and
regret later had this come up or if I had allowed this to continue so yeah
that's where we're at now I'm going to post his shd to his brother's house and
as for those tickets I'm going to try to see if I can use them and go with my
tech friend as a thank you so we could go on vacation or try travel dancing at
a club around there or something just to keep my mind off I guess thank you guys
so much again if you have any questions please ask and I will try my best to
answer them tldr he was testing me because of his own indiscretions about a
girl he told me not to worry about dumped him and then found out he was in
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sister left her kids on my doorstep and disappeared for two days I was on
vacation and had no clue until she showed up accusing me of losing them hi
everyone I 28f have an older sister Jackie 32f who has two kids an older son
and a younger daughter her son is 14 and her daughter just turned 12 a couple of
weeks ago their father is not in the picture anymore and my sister's a single
mother I wouldn't say that Jackie and I are close but we're okay we aren't Arch
enemies either like some other siblings here I guess you could say that we're
just in different to each other now about 6 hours ago Jackie turned up at my
house and asked me where her kids were I had no idea what she was talking about
because I hadn't even been at home for the past 4 days I've been away on a
beach trip with my boyfriend so I didn't
understand what she was referring to she
told me that she dropped off her kids at my house 2 days ago and told them to
ring the doorbell so I could take them in while she ran some errands she told
me that she texted me about it but I didn't recall receiving any text of the
sort and even showed her proof of it on my phone but while going through my
phone she was able to discover the text that she'd sent before she dropped her
kids off and I'd somehow missed it probably because I was on vacation and
wasn't checking my phone often she started to panic and accused me of being
careless because now neither of us knew the whereabouts of her kids she told me
that apparently she'd driven away before
she saw that her kids were safely inside
the house because she was counting on me
to take them in she told me that she had gotten into some legal trouble that she
didn't want to speak about and that's why she'd been missing for 2 days but
now that she was back she wanted her kids and she wanted them now I didn't
know what to do so I suggested that she go to the police or something because I
literally had no clue where the kids could be they didn't even have their
phones on them so there was no way we could get through to them Jackie didn't
want to go to the cops because she just finished dealing with a lot over the
last two days and the police's involvement was the last thing she
needed she turned my house upside down and accused me of being selfish and not
thinking about my niece and nephew she said that she'd been counting on me to
help her out in this tough spot but I'd let her down she left in tears and said
that she was going to knock on every relative's door until she was able to
find her kids I feel like a total idiot right now even though I don't have
understand how this is my fault Ida for missing a text from my sister where she
told me to take her kids in because I was on vacation update one okay folks
it's been 4 days and I finally have good news I've been in touch with Jackie
because I really felt guilty about not noticing that text even though it wasn't
my fault today she told me that her kids
had somehow managed to find their way to their uncle's house and that's where
they had been for the past couple of days now this wasn't our cousin but it
was Jackie's ex-boyfriend's cousin and he apparently had still continued to
talk to his nephew online because he knew that his mother wouldn't let him
stay in touch with him otherwise I thought it was a little creepy at first
but then I realized that this Uncle of theirs Frank 28m had practically saved
their lives by taking them in in Jackie's in my absence Jackie apologized
to me for Behaving Badly the other day and said that it was pretty out of
character for her to freak out at people like that and I agreed because she was
usually a pretty level-headed person she told me that she hadn't slept a wink in
the past couple of days because she was so worried about her kids and where they
were I finally asked her why she hadn't gone to the police and what kind of
trouble she had been in exactly before this which required her to leave her
kids behind so she finally confessed that she'd gone to gather evidence
against the company that she was currently employed in because she'd
heard from a particular source and they were planning to blame her for
embezzlement since the company was facing a huge financial crisis and they
needed someone to shoulder the blame so upper management had figured that she
could take the blame as she was the head
of accounting and had the most access to
the company's Financial records she knew
that she'd be fired within a few days so she decided that she would collect all
the evidence that she could in her favor from the office then she even went out
of town to speak to her ex-boss about this and asked him to be on her side if
she needed him to testify against the company during the hearings that took a
couple of days and she really did feel guilty for leaving her kids behind and
not even bothering to check if they were
doing all right during that time because
she was just so frustrated with how this situation was turning out especially
since she'd always been an extremely honest employee she didn't want to go to
the cops because that would reflect badly on her and might even end up with
her kids being taken away from her which she didn't want she broke down and told
me that she hadn't even bothered to pack
warm clothes for her kids even though it was pretty cold outside and she just
completely neglected them because she was facing a crisis I tried to console
her but I knew that it was pretty messed up to treat your kids like that no
matter what you're going through personally Jackie and I aren't really in
touch with our parents anymore and haven't been for a really long time so
I'm pretty much the only person that she can count on and I know it's the same
for me if it really comes down to it so we might not be the best of friends but
we always have each other's backs it's been that way since we were kids and I
was disappointed that I couldn't look after her kids this time around she was
really lucky that her son had remembered
Frank's address from when when they used
to talk online she found out by accident
when she logged into her son's Instagram account and went through his chats she
was so out of it that I didn't even occur to her until she opened her laptop
her son would occasionally use her laptop to play games or to talk to his
friends online and when she remembered that she instantly logged in and that's
how she was able to discover Frank that guy didn't have Jackie's number so he
wasn't able to contact her when her kids showed up at his house Frank used to
visit a lot before his cousin gave up custody of the kids four years ago and
after that Jackie wanted nothing to do with his family so Frank wasn't able to
visit the kids again but he was able to reconnect with his nephew online and it
was actually surprisingly Jackie's son who tracked his uncle down online and
sent him the first text I guess kids do remember who was there for them the most
as kids so anyway I'm just glad that Jackie was able to find her kids and I
don't have to carry around the guilt of not noticing that text sooner I just
hope that she's able to deal with her baggage better so that her kids don't
have to suffer anymore update to it finally happened Jackie's company fired
her and they're also planning to come after her legally just like she'd
expected they accused her of of embezzlement and said that they would
make sure she ended up behind bars the poor woman is scared beyond words and
has been texting me almost every hour just so she has somebody to talk too she
does have a lawyer and a pretty good one at that but even then she's going up
against a pretty big Force so there's no telling what might happen next she has
asked me in Frank to look after her kids and help her out whenever she needs it
because she would hate to end up neglecting her kids like she had the
first time around and both of us obviously said yes to the job because
she's going through a horrible thing right now and needs all the help and
compassion that she can get update three so Jackie and her company's
representatives are meeting with a courta appointed mediator today and she
left the kids with me they're quite good
kids and it's horrible that their mother has to go through something like this I
guess the only Silver Lining here is that this has really helped Jackie and I
Von together she dropped off the kids at my house last night and I demanded that
she stay for dinner because I really didn't want her to leave and face the
night before this morning all by herself after the kids had fallen asleep Jackie
had a total meltdown and told me how she
dedicated almost a decade of her life to this company and now they were screwing
her over without as much as a second thought I consoled her through the night
and insisted that she spend the night here because I just couldn't let her
drive back home in that state even when she woke up this morning she seemed
nervous and anxious and I guess it's totally normal for her to feel that way
even if she's innocent I offered to drive her but she told me not to because
she needed somebody to watch the kids and drop them off at school I also
needed to go to work after i' dropped them off at school so she went on her
own Frank will pick the kids up after school ends and drop them at Jackie's
house it's a pretty neat system that we've worked out and I'm really hoping
that we don't have to stick to this for long that Jackie can resume her normal
life soon I know this isn't the drama filed update that a lot of people wanted
to hear but I'm really scared for Jackie and I just need a place to vent so I'm
turning to rdit for help right now update four I just got to know something
insane from Jackie and it finally makes sense why she was so nervous and jittery
before the meeting even though she hadn't really done anything that she had
been accused of apparently Jackie had been in a relationship with one of her
subordinates for almost 2 years before this and that's what she was really
scared of that her company was going to try and use this against her and that is
exactly what happened she's even more screwed because unfortunately this was
not a relationship that HR had been told about so it was kind of frowned upon
what was even worse was that she was the one who had initiated this relationship
and she hadn't even told her lawyer about it so he was completely blindsided
when they brought this up during the meeting Jackie's boyfriend had pretty
much submitted all their texts and stuff as evidence to the company and stabbed
her in the back pretty badly he called her later on saying that they'd offered
him the position that she used to work in for selling her out and he just had
no choice truth be told he did have a choice he just made the one that would
benefit him if the cost of his relationship Jackie came home today and
told me all of this and I really gave her an earful because this was really
irresponsible and stupid of her Not only
was she putting herself in danger by not being completely honest with her lawyer
and the people who cared about her but she was also not even thinking about her
kids who were looking forward to having her around all the time again she was
crying yet again but today I was just too mad at her to feel bad about it I
told her that we all deserved better and so did she but if she wasn't willing to
be honest and transparent then there was very little the rest of us could do to
help her out after today's meeting her lawyer had almost even quit because she
hadn't been completely honest with him I explained to her that this wasn't the
time to be thinking about her image and socalled reputation but to be thinking
about how she could save herself from Landing up behind bars and for that if
she needed to bring out every single Dirty Little Secret that she had then
she should do that and look out for herself she seemed to hesitate a little
bit but she did tell me that she'd been considering getting her now ex-boyfriend
to tell her why he'd sold her out on text so that she would have proof of the
company trying to screw her over on purpose I thought that was a great idea
so I told her to call her ex and get him to tell her how the company had offered
him her job in exchange for all the screenshots so she called him up and
then it was a pretty easy task to get that egoistic idiot to confess on the
phone and we recorded it and sent it to her lawyer immediately we don't know if
it'll be helpful or not but at least we know that we tried as for the other
proof the company will literally have nothing on her unless they decide to go
ahead and falsify proof against her just to frame her luckily she has all the
original documents of their financial records which she'd gathered before she
was fired so they won't exactly be doing
themselves any favors by trying to plant false evidence the biggest thing that
they had against Jackie was her affair with her subordinate but that's over now
and that's technically not even the point of this lawsuit so it's not even
relevant it was only just a way to spoil her character update 5 so I've been
hounded by you guys for almost 2 weeks now because you want to know what
happened between my parents and us and why don't we speak to them anymore I was
trying not to talk about that because it isn't really relevant to the whole
Jackie thing but since you guys have been insisting for days that I tell you
so well here goes my parents were both drug addicts who pretty much neglected
us our entire childhood and were the worst parents on Earth we lived off of
our neighbors and relatives kindness and generosity because our parents had
taught us not to expect anything from them from a very early age they were
never there for us in any capacity so of
course Jackie and I gave up being fairly independent and didn't rely on anyone
because we knew that we couldn't trust them they kicked us out the second I
turned 18 and told us that we could now make a life for ourselves separate from
them because they were tired of taking care of us even though they barely ever
had two neither of us ever knew who our grandparents were and the only relatives
we had were an old anunt on my mother's side and my dad's second cousin who used
to live on the same street and helped us out once we got kicked out he helped us
through college but then when Jackie graduated he took up a job out of state
and that was the end of our relationship since then it's just been the two of us
and we somehow managed to build a life for ourselves away from our horrible
parents and crazy past I think the last time that we even spoke to our parents
was about 6 years ago my mother had called to inform us that our father had
been diagnosed with dementia she didn't invite us to come home or anything and
just told us that she felt like we should know because he kept asking about
us Jackie and I did think about visiting them once but then we forgot about it
because we got too busy with our lives after that we never received any other
phone calls from our parents and neither did we bother to go check on them to be
honest we don't even know if they're alive or not and we'd feel a little too
guilty to go and find out at this point so we've just let it be our lives are
going on just fine without them they aren't bothered about us so we don't
have to bother with them either it's only the fair thing to do maybe that
makes us terrible children but honestly they were pretty terrible parents to us
as well well so whatever update 6 hello to everybody who'd been following Jackie
in my story I told Jackie about the overwhelming response that we received
and she is eternally grateful for each and every one of you who bothered to
write sweet comments or send supportive messages to her through me she's finally
done with the case and no longer has to worry about whether she is going to be
there in her children's future or not she came to an outof Court settlement
with a company where she was paid a substantial amount of money so she would
keep her mouth shut about the false evidence and all the false accusations
that had been leveled at her she is no longer going to work work there
obviously and is already looking for new jobs which should be easy given her
experience and knowledge in her field for the time being she's using the money
from the court case to pay her bills and stuff she's finally back to living a
normal life now and I really couldn't be happier for her it's been almost 4
months since I posted here for the first time and since then so many things have
happened that I almost feel like you guys are an equal part of the journey
that the two of us went through actually
three if we count Frank all of us have a weird unspoken Bond right now and we
know that we can always count on each other no matter what because after what
we've been through I hardly think there will be greater challenges in the future
that we won't be able to handle even Frank and I became pretty great friends
over the past few months because we would meet often when Jackie would be
busy with her attorney and would need either of us to watch the kids so it
would either be him dropping them off at my house or the other way around
eventually we exchanged numbers and started talking to each other as friends
he's a pretty funny and sweet guy and it's crazy that we met under such
stressful and strange circumstances but still became such great friends in such
a short amount of time Jackie thinks that he has the hots for me but I really
don't think that's the case and even if it is he's really not my type and I'm
not looking to date so it's never going to happen and we're always just going to
be really good friends but anyway coming back to the topic Jackie's finally done
with the lawsuit and she showed those people where they belonged because
they're the ones who ended up having to pay her hush money and also sign an NDA
so they wouldn't have to worry about her dragging their company's reputation to
the ground once she was done with it they're lucky that she didn't want any
more drama or legal trouble which is why she took the money quietly and left the
situation as it was she told told me that she's going to get therapy for both
herself as an individual and family therapy with her kids because after what
happened she really doesn't trust herself to be a good mother and feels
like she's going to continue making mistakes that are eventually going to
affect her children pretty badly I offered to let her move in with me for a
while so we could all live under the same roof and I could look after her
kids whenever she needed me to or whenever she felt a little too
overwhelmed so she doesn't end up putting her kids in any sort of danger
and neglecting them like before she hasn't responded to that yet and has
told me that she needed a little more time to think because she doesn't want
to take on such a huge responsibility and she also needs some time to think as
it is a pretty big move after all not just for herself but also for her kids
so she's going to have to make sure they're okay with it as well I told her
to take her time but I really feel like it'll do them all a world of good to
live with me and I get pretty lonely at times as well so it was very nice to
have them over so frequently over the past few months and I would love to turn
that into something permanent or at least semi-permanent for the time being
because I really do hope to have a family of my own someday as well I don't
know what's going to happen but I'm honestly just relieved that the worst is
behind us now update 7 hi so it's almost been a year since the last update and
wow I can't believe I'm back here after so long I guess if you go back to my
last update I was talking about how Frank seems to be into me but I said
something about him not being my type and yet Jackie was very sure that we'd
end up together at some point it's crazy but she was right Frank and I have been
in a relationship for almost 6 months now and I just remembered about this
thread and felt like I had to share this
bit of information with you guys so yeah I guess he is my type and even if he
wasn't before I can't imagine being with anybody else apart from him now of
course Jackie is very happy about all of
this because I just proved her right and she thinks that at least some good has
come out of her insane goof up last year with her kids and everything but she's
doing a lot better now and working in a much more stable company in a better
position with higher pay she moved out just a couple of weeks ago but she's
moved just down the street so I can visit her anytime and it won't be any
different than her living here another reason that I don't mind her moving out
is because Frank is planning to move in with me next week and I couldn't be more
excited for it if I tried I haven't dated anybody in the past 5 years so
this is a pretty big deal for me and I hope that this works out I actually kind
of know that it will deep down because Frank is just the best guy that I've
ever met in my entire life he is sweet and sensitive and so insanely funny I
can understand why my nephew contacted him the first thing as soon as he made
his social media account the kids are doing better as well and my niece is
actually the top of her class right now so that's something to be really proud
of my nephew isn't really one for academics but is doing great at football
and if he keeps this up he might even make the varsity team in the future
everything is great now and going through my post from last year just
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I agreed to open our relationship since my girlfriend wanted and it wrecked her
life my partner 24f and I 27m have decided to enter into an open
relationship after 5 years of monogamy we dated back in high school but when I
went off to college we broke up because I thought maybe she didn't like me
anymore years later she revealed to me that it was because she knew I needed to
spread my wings and live my life while in college while I was off at College
her mother became very strict after finding out that she had a boyfriend and
lost her virginity she wasn't allowed to
hang out with friends or go anywhere and
because she was financially dependent on her when she entered College she was
still under her mother's rule I was out dating and having an a messiah and
trying to enjoy life even though I still
missed her all while she was locked away when we finally reconnected and started
back dating she told me stories of her mother's treatment and I would also tell
stories of my college Adventures we moved and together in 2016 and have been
living together since within the last year she started expressing feelings of
wanting to experience new things in theory I was a bit jealous but I
understood the first time we considered opening our relationship the guy she
showed interest and turned out to be pretty trash so she decided against it
within the last few weeks she's made a friend at work and she told told me that
she would like to experience him they have been talking pretty consistently
and they haven't moved forward with sex meanwhile I've been on dating apps and
chatting with people trying to also make connections I'm realizing more and more
that I don't care about anyone else and all I want to do is spend time with her
and be with her it's heartbreaking for me when I'm at work and we don't see
each other much during the week and then on the weekend when I'm off she's
hanging out with him it seems like I've taken a backseat to this whole
experience and I can't help but feel like extremely lonely and isolated I'm
not sure what to do and it feels like every time I talk to her about feeling
odd about this she tries to cancel the whole thing and close our relationship
back up she is stated that she knows that this is an itch that she has to
scratch and if she doesn't she'll wonder
about this forever I think mostly I just need someone to express my emotions to
and work out how I'm feeling I have an appointment with a therapist so that'll
help a lot I'm sure me 27m and my GF 25f
opened our relationship and have started to lose our spark July 7th 2022 we
opened our relationship at the beginning of the year after 5 years of monogamy
because she expressed that she wanted to gain more sexual experiences after
growing up in an overly strict household there were bumps in the road starting
out because I'm very monogamous and I was having difficulty finding Partners
while she was able to secure a lot of encounters and dates almost instantly
things got a lot better after I went to therapy and learned to express my
concerns and emotions in a healthy way or intimacy life with each other
remained healthy through this but it started to improve after I learned to
communicate my feelings I met someone who's a great friend and also a great
sexual partner after realizing that unlike my GF I'm not able to have
intimacy with strangers without a bond and that I had no real desire to gain
much more sexual experience because I grew up with significantly more freedom
my girlfriend started to become jealous of the bond I had started to create with
this new partner and would do things today to interfere with our UPS like
calling my phone constantly while I was with this person or throwing herself at
me sexually right before I was about to leave this Behavior started to reveal a
pattern to me before this year my GF was very responsible she was pretty good
with money even when we didn't have much she held down a steady job with steady
hours and she enrolled in college the previous fall in order to obtain a bit
of upward Mobility but leading up to us opening our relationship she began to
almost regress it started with spending her entire check on tattoos and
piercings which I didn't mind too much because I love outward self-expression
but then she started antagonizing her supervisors and showing up hours later
daily or leaving early with no warning then this semester in school her grades
declined and she stopped showing up to class little by little until she had no
clue when midterms or spring break were and didn't have a clue that finals
happened and the semester was over a month or two after I started hanging
with this new partner and getting to know her even more and growing closer my
GF took a leave of absence from her job for 2 months she said it was for her
mental health but when I suggested therapy she refused she narrowed her
encounters down to one consistent guy and stays with him for days at a time
this would be more of a red flag for me if I hadn't started a job this year
that's 12- hour swing shifts she told me she hates being home by herself and
because I work so much it makes sense that she'd try to find somewhere to be
while I'm gone but then she started the food delivery services she doesn't have
a car or a license so it would make more sense if I didn't already buy groceries
and keep the house stocked with food and because she wasn't making any money she
was spending my money it's as if she has lost all sense of maturity she gets
frustrated when I bring up the money or the fact that when I'm at work and she's
home all day she does absolutely nothing except order food and lay in bed she
also shuts down when I attempt to have a
healthy conversation about how I feel in our relationship where she'll say that
she doesn't notice anything different and that maybe I'm just making up things
in my head she eventually quit her job without
having anything else lined up and all of this caused me to grow distant from her
physically and emotionally because it felt as if my needs in our relationship
weren't being met and she noticed immediately she felt that I didn't find
her attractive and was upset that I stopped initiating gint Messiah and that
the quality of her intimi deteriorated I tried to fix it and express how I felt
in the relationship and why it was hard for me to want intimacy from her but she
kept saying I was just always calling her a problem so now we don't have antim
asiah or even cuddle we talk a lot still but mostly about her sexual partner I
hardly see her now I still try to initiate the intimacy but she's always
tired or on her period or any other excuse and when she tries to initiate
sex it's usually at the most awkward or in opportune times all of the intimacy
is gone and we haven't had Intimacy in almost two months I want to bring this
up to her but her frustration with these types of talks has pushed her to
threatening a breakup or says she's feeling like I'm never satisfied with
her she says constantly that I'm the man she wants to marry and that she can't
see herself with anyone but me so it's a bit confusing my working Theory right
now is that what I need in my life is maturity and the partner I found is
exactly that responsible but fun and is all about balance and fairness on the
other hand my GF f is looking for thoughtless fun and availability and her
partner embodies that as well he is none
of his own things rarely goes to his job and is easily aroused no matter what I
don't want to leave my GF and I know who she was and that the person I fell in
love with but I'm not sure that I care for who she is now we've tossed around
the idea of couples therapy once we get our finances back under control but she
doesn't honestly seem very interested in
the idea I'm just not sure what to do at this point update number one the same
day I posted this she got a call from her mother who was the main antagonist
of her childhood they've had a sort of surface level relationship since she
left home her mom stated her brother was going through a bit of psychosis due to
self-isolation for the better part of his late teens and that she had some
realizations about how she parented her children and apologized to my GF it
seemed to have unlocked something in her and she let out a lot of held and
resentment she asserted to her mom that she's going to start therapy because
she's realizing that she's becoming her mother and she doesn't want to hurt
people like she was hurt as a child I'm not sure how much she meant this being
that she was extremely emotional about it but while on break at her new job
that she started last week she's been applying for a second job saying that
she thinks she thinks having so much free time this year has been affecting
her negatively and she wants to work to have some emotional and Fin ccial
Independence this is all good and well but a lot of you in the comments have
brought up some amazing points and I think this is ultimately about figuring
out what I actually want I don't think hopping out of one relationship to
another is something that would benefit me or anyone else in the long run and I
realize I do deserve to have some say of my own life and boundaries and desires
but I also know that relationships are work but that work has to be mutual I'm
going to do a lot of thinking and I'll update this post if there are any
developments update me 27m and my GF 25f
opened our relationship and have started to lose our spark November 16th 2022 so
it's been a few months and I figured I'd update you all on the situation if
you're still curious so a week or so after the original post I realized
things weren't improving I went to some friends about the situation and it was
unanimously time for a break up I knew it it was my decision to make ultimately
and I read through all of the comments from the original post and decided that
I deserved to figure out how I wanted to live life so I broke up with her and
told her all the reasons why I told her all of the things I didn't like and
would need to change if there was even any hope of ever considering getting
back together she cried and we talked over the phone because she was never
home when I was home so we couldn't talk in person she seemed to understand my
reasoning and was saying she was going to work on herself it was getting close
to the end of the lease and I had found a new place with my roommate and she was
under the impression she was going to move in with me I considered letting her
move with me but ultimately decided it was a bad idea especially because she
went on a rant about my friends and how she wanted to hurt them because she
found out that they agreed that I should break up with her so finally I told her
she couldn't move with me she went to live with the dude she had been seeing
and she kept in contact she never put forth any effort to improve she
constantly gave me updates of how shitty the guy is and offered manmy in
occasions her situation with him started
to or how she treated me and immediately
she realized that how he treated her was abusive and toxic I explained all the
parallels between her situation and our situation and she gave a half-hearted
apology I got back into therapy and I've been doing great ever since my finances
are more stable than they've been in years and I'm now dating the girl I was
seeing before this has been the easiest relationship I've had in my life our
styles of communication are similar and how we show affection and Care are the
same it was jarring at first because I've been so used to chaos and abuse
even in relationships before my ex dating this girl feels like finally
having someone on the same team as me someone dependable and assistant took a
while to break habits of codependency and realize that I'm allowed my own
space and freedoms with her I had to get
back into my hobbies and I started going back to the gym because I had started
thinking back over the last six years of
my life and all of the [ __ ] I put up
with and sacrificed for my ex and I kept blowing up on her and my therapist told
me it wasn't healthy for me to channel my frustrations out like that so I've
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BF cheated and got my sis pregnant so I left him but Mom insisted me to forgive
them so I cut my family off for years after reconciling I found out mom had
been sleeping with my ex's dad this incident dates back to 14 years ago when
I was still in high school we were a close-knit group of three folks I Becky
and Rob 17f 17f and 18f back then Rob had to repeat a year when his parents
moved back to the States from Prague so we three were in the same class more
than friends we were a family our fathers were best friends while my dad
and Becky's dad settled here after their
college Rob's father moved to Prague for work but they moved back when Rob was
seven Becky and I had known each other ever since we were in diapers Rob became
our friends when we were six and Rob was seven so we had known each other since
ever Becky Rob and I pledged to be lifelong friends just like our parents
Rob and I started dating when I was 15 it was not just a teenage fling we dated
for two years and we were kind of serious at least I was and he pretended
that he was two we planned on enrolling in the same College and then getting
married people used to call Becky the third wheel in actual Becky and I were
so close that Rob said he felt like third Wheeling between us perhaps I was
the extra wheel I'll get to it eventually when we were 17 Becky got
knocked up she was so terrified that she locked herself up in the school's
washroom I was horrified too to see those two pink lines I asked her who the
guy was she didn't say anything all she did was cry and Dread about her parents
reaction to this she tested it twice in front of me in order to calm her down I
asked her her to see a doctor first before telling her parents I took her to
the doctor her pregnancy was confirmed she was so scared of her parents that
she kept it hidden for almost a month that one month was equally tough for me
I brought her supplements ensured that she had a proper meal got her snacks and
juices and lent her a shoulder to cry on she confided in me about her fear
anxiety and uncertainty I was her only support yet she was not willing to
reveal the guy's name despite her keeping that a secret I supported her
through all means I finally convinced her to speak to her parents before it
became evident she asked me to be with her when she told them I agreed to be
game it was not unusual for our parents to see us bailing each other her parents
thought it was one such matter the moment she revealed that she was
pregnant her parents called up mine to share their distress she didn't reveal
the guy's name even in front of the parents she cried so profusely that my
parents asked her parents to calm down and give time to Becky to confide in
them two days later my mom tells me not to visit Beckley so often and that I
should focus on my studies rather than being a babysitter to my friend this
restriction was not like Becky is bad company for you because she was very
protective towards her a week later I got to know why she was asking me to
stay away from Becky not to protect me but to protect her that evening I
randomly showed up at Becky's there I found Rob with his parents both Becky
and Rob were crying even my parents were present there as soon as my mother saw
me she rushed to me and asked me to go home I asked her what's the matter she
said none of my business seeing me Rob and Becky both got astonished and I
instantly understood what's the matter I screamed at them the baby is robs you
both were fooling around behind my back they both rushed to me and kept saying
we can explain I said no explanation the truth is out and open my boyfriend and
my best friend is hooking up behind my back and my best friend is having his
baby my parents dragged me out from there because I was screaming out so
loud I came home and locked up myself I cried for days curling up inside my bed
it was beyond heartbreaking I trusted her blindly and supported her by all
means in tough times while she was my boyfriend in her backyard the
worst part was everyone was so occupied with caring for the would be Mama that
no one even thought about my pain surely Becky and Rob tried to reach out to me
but I slammed the door on their face I blocked both of them on all social media
platforms it was understandable for Becky's and Rob's parents to not care
about my heartbreak but even my parents were least empathetic about it my mom
was like get over it be happy your best friend is going to have a baby you'll be
a fun and of cute little munchkin she acted so delusional I mean my best
friend is carrying my boyfriend's baby and she wants me to be happy about that
she said oh come on don't spoil this for everyone all of us are so happy to
welcome the baby into our lives don't ruin that it's not a big deal for Rob to
sleep with your friend it's very common in teenage years don't take it to your
heart I'm sure you'll soon find another loving boyfriend she winked and said
more handsome and Tall than Rob my mental condition got worse I couldn't
place my finger on when this would have happened and how could I not see that
coming no one was there for me to confide in my sister 15f back then was
dating Becky's brother so she was definitely on her side when I cried in
front of her she said how could you not guess that Rob was the dad you three are
always together if any of you two are having a baby it has to be robs she also
preached me the same thing move on don't spoil our relationship with them school
was the worst Rob and Becky had dropped out Rob couldn't take the bully and
Becky dropped out for obvious reason I had no friends besides these two losers
and everyone in the school knew that me and Rob were dating then Rob made Becky
pregnant and they both dropped out leaving me at the mercy of the bullies
my family was more concerned about their friendship with Becky's and Rob's
parents than about my feelings dad was still better he used to check on me
sometimes but Mom was worst she was supplying Becky with handmade cookies
while I was crying and sulking in my room she basically belittled and laughed
at my feelings as her pregnancy grew my condition became worse it was just so
difficult to see Rob taking Becky for walks for checkups and for dates to ease
her anxiety my family asked me to look away from them and move them I don't
know how I could possibly move on I mean they both were my neighbors it was not
only difficult but impossible to not run into one of them at least once a day on
top of that my family was constantly engaged in the conversation about their
baby apparently they called themselves to be wouldbe grandparents yeah our
families have been close if she was having a baby with anyone else I would
have shared the same happiness as them but not anymore my mental state went for
a toss it got so bad that on the day of my final exams at high school I packed
my bag to run away from home I've been planning for this ever since their baby
making news came out I was saving up for it I had sold all my books Comics
gadgets watches and whatever little jewelry I owned I told I was going on a
trek with my friends my family was so done with my sulking that they didn't
ask anything and said sure have fun I left home never to come back again I
went to the next town lived in a hostel and waited table for a living it was
stressful with immense uncertainty about the future but I felt so much better
than to be at home after a month my parents started contacting me asking me
when I would return home had changed my number they emailed me I blocked them
from there too they used others email IDs to write me so I told my sister that
I was not returning home ever and asked them not to contact me they were
emailing me from other rids so I changed that too that was it I don't know what
did they do to find me living alone was not hunky dory but eventually I
navigated I waited tables for 2 years then took up a receptionist for another
year and lastly landed up a sales job which lasted for 3 years I met my
husband when I was working in sales he was a marketing guy we both connected
over our troubled family issues he lost his mom at an early age and his dad
married a teenage girl of his age and forced him to call her mom other
gaslighting and verbal abuse followed until he ran away from home we had known
each other for just a year when he said he wanted to fund my college education
which I can pay him back later he wanted me to do better in life I accepted his
offer and went to college I continued to work part-time during college to take
care of my other expenses I studied accounting and grabbed a decent paying
job right after my graduation on my first day after work he proposed to to
me and we got married a year later we have a son now life is good a month ago
we went to Disneyland and there we bumped into my sister who was there with
her family she had married Becky's brother and have a son with him I hugged
her son and the moment was so surreal I hugged my sister and we cried she hated
me for ghosting her she and her husband Becky's brother both apologized for not
supporting me enough I said let the bygone be bygone and let's enjoy the
trip we all enjoyed like a family I exchanged contacts with her she made me
promise to stay in touch with her now she went home and told Mom about
bumping into me she texted me that mom is asking for my number I was still not
sure if I want to get in touch with her my husband advised me to make peace with
my family and move on so I gave the green signal to my sister about sharing
my number just an hour later to that I got a call from my mother she was
sobbing over the call she relented her mistakes she said she was sorry that I
had to go through all of this she said she was yearning to meet her grandchild
she is insisting me to visit home with my family while I didn't say yes or no
yet I'm thinking what to do edit I missed one important point my sister was
showing me the pictures of my brother's children and while scrolling through the
gallery I stumbled upon her family picture it had Becky and Rob my sister
told me Becky and Rob got married four years after I ran away from home they
had two more boys apart from the first girl baby I just smiled and said nothing
she wanted to say more about them but seeing me not interested she backed off
update one hey guys sorry for not updating this earlier let me start from
where I left after a lot of contemp infation I went to meet my family my
parents hugged me and cried yeah they apologized for neglecting my feelings it
was a Bittersweet moment for us my sister was there with her husband and
kids her husband Becky's brother also apologized to me and requested me to be
in touch it was so nice to meet them all
we all grew up together like a family my brother who was 10 when I left is also
married now and has a 2-month-old infant
it felt so good to hold and play with my nieces and nephews we went there for 2
days trip the first day was so emotional and beautiful in its own way my parents
met my husband and my son who was so delighted to meet his grandparents on
the second day I was casually chitchatting with my sister and my mom
comes in and says see I told you you would find a better man than Rob and see
you did find such a good husband you unnecessarily blew up the entire
situation my sister gave her a look and asked her to stop but who could stop her
she continued oh that's okay Charlie me is over her past now look how happy she
is in her life I said surely I am she sat beside me and said then why not make
peace with the past forgive everyone and
move on I said I did make peace with the past and I have forgiven you all she
said she didn't mean them but Rob and Becky she wanted me to forgive them and
get into talking terms with them so that we all can hang out as a family like
before I said why do you want me to do that you guys still hang out with them
without me she said It embarrasses them that I don't talk to their children
Becky and Rob but their children are so nice to my parents I said but your other
two children my brother and my sister are nice to your friends be happy with
that why bother me me she insisted that I forgive Becky and Rob and become their
friends again I said no way and it is none of your business she started
preaching me the importance of forgiveness and Jesus stuff then she
said Becky wants to meet you and your husband can I call her for dinner I said
if you do that I'm leaving the house now and never coming back at this point my
siblings also got pissed off at mom that
why she told Becky about my visit to her defense mom said Becky's dad saw me
through the window and he might have told Becky and then Becky called Mom and
requested her to patch me up with them I got so furious at lame excuse that I
stood up and went inside my room my sister followed me inside the room and
said mom has a weird obsession with Becky's family I mean yeah they all are
friends from four decades but the way Mom cares to keep the friendship smooth
it looks so fishy now I asked her what made her say so she said last year she
and her husband were going through a turbulence in their relationship my
sister casually mentioned to Mom that if her husband continues his gaslighting
habit she might divorce him mom lost her and said outrightly that there
would be no divorce whatever happens sister has to adjust even if cheated on
her because we cannot ruin their friendship sounds weird me and my sister
looked back in the past and realized mom had always been like this she always
loved Becky and her brother more than us
back then we never complained about this
because Becky was my best friend and her brother was my sister's boyfriend
discussion over we came back home I almost forgot about this talk with my
sister last week my husband showed me a video where a middle-aged couple is
making out at a bar that couple is no one but my mother with Becky's Dad yes
it blew my mind my mother's obsession with keeping a good relationship with
them makes so much sense now they can hang out anytime they want my husband
went next town not my hometown for a work trip and there he saw them he
recognized that it was Mom but didn't recognize that the man was Becky's dad
he recorded it to show it to me because there was no way I would have believed
him without the video after seeing the video I was choking I really needed to
spit that out so I called my sister and asked her to come down next day she
sensed it was urgent and she rushed I showed her the video and she is equally
shocked my sister has not told her husband yet because he would be equally
freaked out now we are at a fix what do we do now do we tell Dad about this or
should we confront mom and ask her to M her ways but wouldn't that be cheating
on dad again it's getting complicated update too my parents are getting
divorced yes for obvious reasons my sister and I spent weeks thinking what
to do I at least could discuss it with my husband and vent out but my sister's
condition was worse she can't even discuss that with her husband her
anxiety and silence were spoiling her relationship we had to do something
so we did what any other siblings in the world would do we told our brother
thinking he might come up with a better idea to deal with the situation on
seeing the video he absolutely lost it he went straight to Mom and confronted
her in front of dad she denied it and he rubbed the video on her face I don't
know if it was wise or foolish of us to involve him but at least he offloaded
our burden brother told us that he was absolutely pissed with Mom all his life
because she had been ignoring him in front of Becky and her brother he said
he hated me and my sister because of our closeness with that family but when he
grew up our closeness made sense but moms didn't dad and my brother almost
barged into their house and showed the video to Becky's mom who broke down on
seeing her husband making out with our mother to simplify the matter to you
guys mom was basically sleeping with dad's best friend yeah by then everyone
got to know the truth including Rob and his parents dad and Becky's mom became a
team and grilled mom and Becky's Dad we wanted to be neutral but we couldn't
after knowing that they had been fooling around ever since we were a child
initially they claimed it had started recently as a midlife crisis but their
stories were inconsistent dad threatened
to throw her out of the house right away then they spoke the truth of cheating
for over 25 years yes they have been doing this under everyone's nose and no
one ever suspected them Dad tried to hold the fort for the sake of the family
but he grew miserable one day he just showed up at my door hugged me and cried
like a baby he said now he understood what pain I must have gone through when
my boyfriend cheated on me with my best friend mom did the exact same thing with
Dad sleeping with his best friend it's terrible it's like getting stabbed from
both ends dad called all three of us me my sister and my brother for a meeting
he said he was sorry but he could not forgive mom and live with her anymore
pretending nothing happened mom was telling him the same thing she told me
forgive and move on dad was proceeding for a divorce and before that he wanted
to inform us all three of us let our support to him that we are with him
whatever he decides apparently when Mom got to know that Dad is going to serve
her she blacked out she pleaded with him
to give her one last chance for the sake of the family I was not present at that
time but my sister was and she gave Mom a piece of her mind
it was one huge drama in the family dad ultimately got her served and moved out
a similar story happened with Becky's parents her mom has filed for a divorce
and she has also moved out of the house so in my house mom is alone and in her
house her dad is alone they might just move in together who knows blessing and
disguise for them who knows they both might have been waiting to live together
anyways I'm out of this I have my own family to care for these divorces have
been rough on my sister because her both side of the family is affected she and
her husband are going through tough times I hope their relationship doesn't
suffer in between all this and they sail through this rough patch thanks for all
the love I'll update the threat if anything develops now on to the next
story story two husband wanted to name our daughter stuarta as the feminine
form of his own name after 18 hours of Labor I impulsively named her after our
kind nurse instead so my husband 38m and I 36f are expecting our first child a
bouncing baby girl do in a few months we were both over the moon when we found
out the gender but now things have gotten complicated to say the least see
when we first started talking about names the boy name was immediately
decided Stuart Jr after my husband no problem there it's a classic name and
Carries family meaning but for a girl things got murky my husband suggested
stuarta no you're not having a stroke apparently his logic is that since
Stuart ends in t we can just add an a to make it feminine I tried explaining why
that doesn't quite work how it sounds more like a a furniture brand than a
human name how she'd be endlessly correcting people and explaining its
origin he's adamant though says it honors him while giving our daughter a
unique name I've suggested Alternatives feminine names that maybe share a
similar sound or meaning to steuart names he's mentioned liking in the past
even just going back to the drawing board entirely but he's fixated on
stuarta now I love my husband dearly and
I understand wanting to honor family but I can't imagine subjecting our daughter
to a lifetime of awkward stares and endless questions about her unusual name
I also worry about potential bullying and the impact it could have on her
self-esteem so Reddit am I the jerk for refusing to budge on stuarta is there
any compromise I haven't considered help us soon to be Mama out looking forward
to your thoughts and hopefully some sanity checks edit please no suggestions
for other T names the man clearly has a theme and I need to gently steer him
away from it not fuel the fire comments po Pony 1993 NTA naming a child is a two
yes and one no situation means you need two times yes for a name to be it in one
know to make sure that name is not the name you choose works both ways if you'd
ask me also I am not a fan of naming the first name of a child after a parent
because then the child will always be compared to their parents and need to
fight harder to be their own person I have less problems with the middle name
being connected to someone else parents grandparents because that is only a
formal name and not used in everyday business why is he dead set on stuarta I
mean there are so many beautiful names but he only wants to name his daughter
after him why not after the mother like your name junor Junior it is a bit
misogynistic to only want to name the baby after the father whose last name
will the baby get his as well maybe you could find a way like name the baby with
the same first letter as your husband Stella Sally SAA Etc make sure the baby
has a middle name if she shares the same last name as her father because it will
be annoying for simple things like mail and stuff shell 37628 to piggyback on
this what's his middle name could there be a feminine version of that that's
less objectionable SL actually a name rather than just a weird mish mash of
sounds lost random dude I suppose if you go by the meaning of the name Stewart /
Stewart means guardian of the house so perhaps hesa Vesta I suppose Stacy is an
option but I presume op doesn't want to be Stacy's mom deleted girl it is super
simple he gets to choose the name when he pushes out the baby why is it only
him being honored and not you by the way you need to let your nurses at the
hospital know about this I have read some horror stories here on Reddit where
dads or Mills have named the baby and signed the birth certificate NTA curious
katkins 96 the idea of having children as a means of honoring the parent is so
incredibly up and bound to lead to a lifetime of dysfunction but then
I'm flat out against ever naming a child for anyone else anyway except that
you're not having a baby you're giving life to a human and raising them to
adulthood give them their own identity For the Love of All That's holy llama
noore drama this is why I tell people Parenthood scares the out of me you
aren't raising a baby or even a child you are raising an adult a whole ass
human that will exist on and interact with this planet for 70 plus years years
I feel like having a baby is basically making a covenant with Society not to
raise an unspeakable adult definitely don't make it harder by giving them the
stupidest name I've ever imagined princess unor ferocious NTA tell him he
only gets one kid named after him so if he goes with stuarta now he'll never get
a Stuart Jr and how come it's so important that he' be honored but not
you see how he feels about naming a futur on a male version of your name
remind him that baby names need a yes from both parents or it's a no you both
need to be able to live with whatever you go with even if that means both of
you missing out on the one you want most update first the good news we have a
beautiful healthy baby girl she weighed in at 7B 4 o and already has the most
incredible head of dark hair seriously where did that come from labor was a
marathon not a Sprint 18 hours of fun but the amazing nurses kept me fueled up
on ice chips and cheesy encouragement now for the not so good news the name
situation buckle up because this might take a minute right before pushing
started things got a little heated between me and Stuart apparently the
stress of contractions made him even more attached to stuarta he was pacing
the room muttering about family Legacy while I was doing some very impressive
Lama's breathing exercises suddenly my water broke with a rather impressive Pop
Let's just say it startled everyone in the room including Stuart the nurse
bless her heart took advantage of the distraction and very calmly started
prepping for delivery everything after that was a blur of pushing encouraging
words and the most amazing head of dark hair emerging into the world the second
our daughter was out screaming her little lungs out a wave of pure Primal
love washed over me it was in that moment staring at this tiny perfect
human being that the name debate completely evaporated there was no way I
could call this beautiful little girl stuarta so what did we end up with in
the haze of postpartum Bliss I blurted out the first name that popped into my
head the name of the incredible nurse who' coached me through Labor Ella yes
Ella not exactly the most adventurous choice but in that moment it felt
perfect strong steady kind just like the woman who'd helped bring our daughter
into the World Stuart bless his confused heart just looked at me then at our
daughter then back at me again finally he let out a shaky laugh and said Ella
it is thanks for all the support and hilarious stuarta comparisons here's to
sleepless nights endless diaper changes and The Incredible Journey of Parenthood
comments tank words don't name your kids
a name they have to explain for the rest of their life it's a selfish Indulgence
by a parent and the biggest thing you can do to a baby that's done
nothing to deserve it Ella might not be the most adventurous name ever but it'll
never be a negative for your kid good show rejecting stuarta Sunny Samantha I
knew a guy whose dad's name was Al he got named Al X Alex his sister Al s
Alice his mom finally stepped in and the third kid got a normal name to be fair
none memorable and I also knew a happy guy and Buddy Guy I just want to name a
kid something they'll find on a toothbrush or keychain smashed potato
imagine needing your child to be named after you badly you think anything even
remotely resembling stuarta is a good idea acceptable _ boxcore 7,500 damn it
Stuart if you're so desperate to have something named after you why don't you
go discover a new planet or something don't have a holess kid acceptable
uncore boxcore 7,500 I truly cannot imagine naming my child after myself I
don't understand that impulse at all I certainly can't imagine being so
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aita for telling my sister she should listen to the therapist who told her to
wait a few more years and live apart my sister and her kids have been going to
therapy for the past 4 months my sister lost her husband 3 years ago and started
dating again 2 years ago now she's engaged to a guy Kev and he's living
with her and the kids the kids are 11 8 and seven my sister had this idea that
the kids would be crazy about Kev and would be so excited to have another man
around and that they'd think of him as another dad figure per second d/ bonus
dad or however people prefer to title it Kev does seem like a pretty decent guy
from what I know of him but I also know the older two kids remember their dad
really well he was actually the SI in the relationship and the youngest
despite being four when his dad died also has some memories of him so it's
not easy for them to accept Kev being there the kids pulled back for my sister
after she told them she was dating someone and they were very closed off
with Kev when they met despite this they moved in together and got engaged my
sister decided they needed therapy together because the kids would try to
stay out of the way after Kev moved in they weren't enthusiastic about time
with her or with Kev if they weren't at a friend's house or playing outside they
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:19.650 --> :24.070 My evil former boss stole my idea and gave
it to her daughter so she could get ahead :24.070 --> :26.450
of me, here's how I dealt with her. :26.450 --> :29.640
This happened years ago, shortly after I got out of College.
:29.640 --> :34.260 That year, I got invited for an internship
interview at a Magazine I loved. :34.260 --> :38.879
It was a great way to start my writing career
and I was grateful and elated about the opportunity.
:38.879 --> :43.950 I prepared very hard for the interview, read,
and did a lot of research on the company and :43.950 --> :45.720
my would-be interviewers. :45.720 --> :50.370
I knew I had done my best but was still a
bit worried at the time, many young people :50.370 --> :55.530
would also be at the interview and these were
people who have graduated from prestigious :55.530 --> :57.340
and reputable universities. :57.340 --> :01.910
Luckily, all my hard work paid off, I did
well at the first interview, was invited for :01.910 --> :04.510
another interview and I was selected. :04.510 --> :09.400
Twelve of us were selected for the internship
and divided to work in different departments, :09.400 --> :14.510
some got fashion, some were in politics and
three of us were selected to work in the entertainment
:14.510 --> :15.510 vertical. :15.510 --> :19.720
We worked with different columnists and did
whatever was required of us including the :19.720 --> :24.290
traditional serving coffee and buying lunch
and we had a boss who was the head of the :24.290 --> :26.360
entertainment department and the Editor-in-Chief. :26.360 --> :32.080
She was a nice middle-aged lady and she spoke
so much about fairness, justice, and doing :32.080 --> :35.409
the right thing so I deeply respected her. :35.409 --> :38.870
Her daughter was one of the internees and people gossiped about her.
:38.870 --> :42.960 They said she did not deserve a spot in the
internship program and that her mother had :42.960 --> :48.320
manipulated Human Resource into accepting
her and all of that but I did not believe :48.320 --> :49.320 it.
:49.320 --> :51.870 My boss didn't seem like the kind of person
who would do that. :51.870 --> :56.580
She was big on working hard for whatever you
want and from what I saw at the time, she :56.580 --> :59.740
would never be involved in that sort of workplace nepotism.
:59.740 --> :01.870 Well, I thought wrong.
:01.870 --> :05.440 I started to have second thoughts when I worked
closely with her daughter. :05.440 --> :10.600
First, she was not so bright and she looked
and talked like she had some growing up to :10.600 --> :15.690
do, she was quite immature and would roll her eyes and pout like a teenager.
:15.690 --> :19.860 I don't mean that she was a total dumbo but
I knew that there are people amongst those :19.860 --> :24.819
who came for the interview who deserved this
spot more than her, it was clear that had :24.819 --> :28.909
her mother not been a senior staff, she would never have been selected.
:28.909 --> :34.159 It was obvious that she did not do much work
like the rest of us to secure the internship, :34.159 --> :38.720
she was lazy and uninterested in doing anything and she complained a lot.
:38.720 --> :43.430 Her lackadaisical attitude towards work only
happened when her mother wasn't around though, :43.430 --> :48.099
whenever she sees her mother around, she would
pretend to be busy or would be walking around :48.099 --> :51.040
asking people if they had any job for her to do. :51.040 --> :52.040
It was funny. :52.040 --> :55.999
I honestly did not have a problem with her
or with the fact that the writers and other :55.999 --> :00.879
workers never asked her to get coffee, buy their lunch, or hold stuff.
:00.879 --> :05.639 I have always known that all fingers are not
equal, some people have to prove themselves :05.639 --> :10.769
more than others to achieve the same goal
and I didn't exactly like it but it's simply :10.769 --> :12.440
the way things worked in life. :12.440 --> :17.459
My Dad always said "it doesn't matter if you
have to do the extra work, do it anyway" and :17.459 --> :18.459
I did. :18.459 --> :22.700 The other intern was just as hard-working,
he was always trying to help and make things :22.700 --> :28.519
easier but I noticed that he relaxed a bit
on the hard work when he saw that our boss's :28.519 --> :32.590
daughter was not as bothered, from what I
knew, his brother was a popular stylist so :32.590 --> :36.599
he had a wide range of network and choices that I did not.
:36.599 --> :40.180 I could not afford to just sit around too,
so I did not. :40.180 --> :44.900
I needed the internship to work, I wanted
to get retained after my internship program :44.900 --> :48.450
had ended and I didn't want anything getting in the way of that.
:48.450 --> :53.999 A month to the end of the six months internship,
the head of Human Resources invited all interns :53.999 --> :58.010
into his office and shared important information with us.
:58.010 --> :02.329 He said we all had to come up with a big idea
for an article. :02.329 --> :06.980
We would be supervised till the idea is published in the magazine.
:06.980 --> :11.610 After all, the articles have been published,
one of us would be selected and given a full-time :11.610 --> :16.600
job at the magazine and the other two would
have been published and compensated for their :16.600 --> :20.829
works which is also a good deal for a writer who is just starting.
:20.829 --> :25.780 He said the article does not determine whether
or not we would be retained as that was dependent :25.780 --> :30.520
on several things but having a good idea for an article was a plus.
:30.520 --> :35.260 I left that office determined to come up with
something big, only one out of the three of :35.260 --> :40.940
us could be retained in each vertical and
I was determined to ensure I was selected. :40.940 --> :46.650
I already had a good relationship with virtually
all the people in the department, I was respectful :46.650 --> :52.389
and helpful, all I had to do was get a great
article together and I could be a full-time :52.389 --> :53.389
employer. :53.389 --> :58.150
I had thought up an idea and went into my
boss's office to run it by her before officially :58.150 --> :01.090
presenting my pitch to the other editors. :01.090 --> :03.900
She asked me to briefly write it down and I did. :03.900 --> :07.850
"That's a fine idea", she said with a big smile on her face.
:07.850 --> :12.250 She then asked if I had any other ideas, and
I replied that I didn't. :12.250 --> :17.030
She advised me to not shut the door on my creativity and think of more ideas.
:17.030 --> :19.129 I thanked her and left her office.
:19.129 --> :24.409 I told my close friend what I had planned
and she loved it too, she thought it was brilliant :24.409 --> :26.600
and would earn me a job at the magazine. :26.600 --> :27.830
I was glad. :27.830 --> :33.001
The next day, my boss said I couldn't use
that idea, I was surprised because she had :33.001 --> :37.460
been glad to hear it and was supportive, she
didn't even provide a strong reason, she just :37.460 --> :40.610
muttered something about it being too controversial.
:40.610 --> :44.009 She "advised" me to think of something else.
:44.009 --> :48.480 I wanted to not take her advice but I knew
it could get me in trouble, she was going :48.480 --> :53.840
to be one of those who'd decide I could publish
the article anyway so I didn't want to risk :53.840 --> :56.590
it but I had issues with her reason. :56.590 --> :01.630
The magazine is known for publishing very
controversial articles, it has contributed :01.630 --> :04.860
to the growing number of readers they have all over the world.
:04.860 --> :08.380 I decided I was going to think of something
different. :08.380 --> :13.240
My friend was disappointed because she believed
the idea was superb but I couldn't pitch it :13.240 --> :15.270
anymore so I chose something else. :15.270 --> :19.750
I only had three days to come up with something
since we were to present at the end of the :19.750 --> :25.060
week and I did but it wasn't well thought out, not as much as the first one.
:25.060 --> :30.020 I did my best to make a good presentation
of my pitch to the editors and it was accepted. :30.020 --> :35.669
I had started to work on my article as were
the other internees when one day, the third :35.669 --> :41.050
internee in Entertainment came to me, he asked
about how my article was going and we talked :41.050 --> :45.759
briefly about his, then to my utter shock,
he mentioned that my boss's daughter was not :45.759 --> :50.930
at work at that moment because she had gone out to interview a group of people.
:50.930 --> :57.690
The idea I shared with my boss involved interviewing
these same people so I just figured she handed :57.690 --> :01.229
my idea to her daughter and that was why she didn't want me to use it.
:01.229 --> :06.039 I asked him if he knew what her article was
about and he told me, confirming my worry. :06.039 --> :09.639
My boss had betrayed my trust in her daughter. :09.639 --> :12.020
I was sad and felt oppressed. :12.020 --> :15.300
She could have found a way to get some sort
of employment for her daughter instead of :15.300 --> :17.400
just stealing my idea. :17.400 --> :22.111
I told my Dad about it when I got home that
day and he advised me to go to HR, it was :22.111 --> :27.210
the right thing to do but I was not sure it
would be handled properly plus it was my word :27.210 --> :28.569
against hers. :28.569 --> :34.379
She had this air of moral superiority about
her and people might not believe me or they :34.379 --> :36.680
will believe me and still not care. :36.680 --> :41.680
I was not about to start my career as a journalist
like this, these top journalists speak to :41.680 --> :46.660
one another and I didn't want to have to deal
with so much hate that early in my career. :46.660 --> :50.560
I decided I was simply going to have to get my revenge.
:50.560 --> :55.210 I was eventually going to take the matter
to Human Resources but I would get my revenge :55.210 --> :59.370
first, that way, if they did nothing, I'd at least know I dealt with her.
:59.370 --> :03.940 My boss was away on a work trip for five days
but when she returned to work, I confronted :03.940 --> :05.780
her calmly about what she had done. :05.780 --> :09.599
I remember the first question she asked was "how old are you?"
:09.599 --> :12.279 I didn't know why that was important but I
answered her. :12.279 --> :13.659 "Twenty-three", I replied.
:13.659 --> :16.409 "Do you have plans to be a parent one day?"
:16.409 --> :18.379 I nodded affirmatively.
:18.379 --> :24.349 "Then you will understand why I did what I
did, maybe not now but when you have a child :24.349 --> :26.289
of your own, you will get it. :26.289 --> :30.550
As parents, we are willing to do even the craziest things for our children".
:30.550 --> :35.710 I have never hated anyone as much as I hated
her at that moment. :35.710 --> :41.070
The fact that she was justifying stealing
from another person's child for hers was just :41.070 --> :45.980
revolting, I was beyond angry, I however did not show it.
:45.980 --> :48.240 I walked out of her office calmly.
:48.240 --> :52.780 What pissed me off was how she acted like
nothing had happened, afterwards, she spoke :52.780 --> :55.410
to me like she used to with a very friendly tone. :55.410 --> :59.810
I didn't know exactly how to get back at her
until my friend from college asked to hang :59.810 --> :00.810 out.
:00.810 --> :03.220 She worked in another magazine at the time
and had a column in it. :03.220 --> :08.000
I told her all about what happened at work and she was mad about it.
:08.000 --> :12.960 She knew my boss and had before the incident
respected her but was disappointed at what :12.960 --> :13.960
she did. :13.960 --> :15.200 "What are you going to do about it?"
:15.200 --> :16.200 She asked me. :16.200 --> :21.260
I sighed, I didn't know what to do and I told
her that, I was going to just resign to fate. :21.260 --> :22.480
"No way! :22.480 --> :25.891 You have to do something, let me know how
I can help when you make up your mind". :25.891 --> :31.501
On my way back home, I thought of what I could
do, I was going to get my friend to publish :31.501 --> :37.260
my original idea in her column and pass it
off as hers and she would do that before my :37.260 --> :43.010
evil boss's daughter published hers, that
way it would look like she copied the idea :43.010 --> :45.530
and it would never get published. :45.530 --> :50.790
That night I texted my friend and asked if
she could publish my idea in her magazine, :50.790 --> :55.670
she said yes and that was how we kicked off our revenge mission.
:55.670 --> :59.560 My friend and I met to discuss this again
and she thought it was a creative way to get :59.560 --> :04.980
back at my boss but she also worried that
I won't be getting credit for an idea I came :04.980 --> :05.980
up with. :05.980 --> :10.380
I was not bothered about that though and I
made that clear to her, I simply wanted to :10.380 --> :13.640
get back at my boss and her brat kid. :13.640 --> :18.320
To make it even worse, I tried as much as
I could to peep into my boss's daughter's :18.320 --> :23.080
work and see what changes were made to my
original idea so I could tell my friend about :23.080 --> :28.300
it, no changes were made but I sent the exact article title to my friend.
:28.300 --> :33.370 My article was published first because I finished
quite early and it was edited just after, :33.370 --> :38.690
three days before my boss's daughter's article
was supposed to go live, my friend published :38.690 --> :39.810 hers.
:39.810 --> :44.710 Nobody knew about it at the office until the
next day when one of the editors found out :44.710 --> :46.190
and was alarmed. :46.190 --> :51.440
The whole department was thrown into a frenzy
but one thing was certain- she could no longer :51.440 --> :57.090
publish hers and it was too late to publish
a new article because it would take time and :57.090 --> :00.820
the evaluation was supposed to happen at the end of the next week.
:00.820 --> :07.480 It seemed very suspicious to everyone that
my friend's magazine copied the exact headline :07.480 --> :09.120
and covered the same story. :09.120 --> :12.300
My boss and the other editors decided to look into it.
:12.300 --> :14.920 I was called into the board room and questioned.
:14.920 --> :19.450 My boss's daughter was present in the room,
her eyes welled up in tears. :19.450 --> :24.540
Of course, I told them I knew nothing about
it, I said I didn't even know what my boss's :24.540 --> :25.990
daughter was working on. :25.990 --> :30.700
She was asked if she had ever told me about
her article, she said she hadn't and I was :30.700 --> :31.700
released. :31.700 --> :35.570
I kind of felt bad for the girl, she probably
did not know her mother stole the idea from :35.570 --> :41.330
me or she knew, I didn't care, as long as
she looked stupid and comes off as a chatty :41.330 --> :46.520
person who can't keep what she was working
on a secret until it was published, I'm good. :46.520 --> :50.650
Before the end of the day, my boss called
me privately into her office and asked if :50.650 --> :51.650
I did it. :51.650 --> :54.780
I laughed hysterically and excused myself. :54.780 --> :58.330
At that point, I was not even interested in working at that company anymore.
:58.330 --> :01.220 I had gotten the experience I needed anyway.
:01.220 --> :06.060 I decided I was going to let HR know before
leaving, now that the exact article had been :06.060 --> :10.620
published elsewhere, they will probably believe I came up with the idea.
:10.620 --> :15.630 I told them all that happened and informed
added that I was not interested in being retained. :15.630 --> :20.450
One of them tried to convince me to stay but
I decided against it, I didn't want a situation :20.450 --> :25.510
where I'd start on an uneasy note with my coworkers so I politely declined.
:25.510 --> :28.700 I left the company that day and never returned.
:28.700 --> :31.740 I heard one of the editors take my former
boss's place. :31.740 --> :36.240
She was demoted based on my report and the
fact that she has had other issues in the :36.240 --> :41.440
past but she could not handle the shame so
she turned in her resignation and left to :41.440 --> :43.940
work as a chief editor for another magazine. :43.940 --> :47.700
Of course, the bratty young lady was not retained either.
:47.700 --> :53.271 I was super proud of myself for standing up
to my bully boss and not letting her just :53.271 --> :10.310
steal my idea and get away with :10.310 --> :11.310 it
:11.310 --> :12.310 —-------------------------------
:12.310 --> :30.740 —---------------------------
:30.740 --> :37.340 We all know a smart person that shows off,
is a bitch, and treats other people like they :37.340 --> :39.100
are completely stupid. :39.100 --> :44.390
Sometimes they're a distant acquaintance,
the popular girl at school, or even your own :44.390 --> :45.390
parent. :45.390 --> :47.380
In my case, they were one of my best friends. :47.380 --> :49.060
It wasn't always like that. :49.060 --> :52.300
We were basically born to be best friends. :52.300 --> :56.200
Our mothers had us exactly a month apart,
but they didn't really meet each other until :56.200 --> :01.530
a few months later when we were falling sick
like all the time and had to be at the hospital :01.530 --> :02.530
a lot. :02.530 --> :06.890
Our parents met each other at the ER and decided
that it would be a good idea for their two :06.890 --> :10.300
sickly children to be friends, and it worked. :10.300 --> :16.130
We were tight as thieves from the first time
we met and for most of our lives, we did everything
:16.130 --> :17.130 together. :17.130 --> :21.640
Things started to change when I turned fourteen and was diagnosed with dyslexia.
:21.640 --> :25.951 Between us, my best friend, (we'll call her
Sarah which is an obviously fake name) had :25.951 --> :27.700
always been the smart one. :27.700 --> :31.440
My parents tried not to compare us to each
other, but when you're an Indian kid with :31.440 --> :36.480
strict parents and your best friend is a white
kid that's so much smarter than you, it tends :36.480 --> :39.480
to make things a little weird between your and your parents.
:39.480 --> :43.800 I still believe that despite how much they
disliked that Sarah's parents were so lenient :43.800 --> :49.790
with her, they let us be friends because she
was smarter and by association, maybe one :49.790 --> :51.930
day I would be smart too. :51.930 --> :56.390
Sarah was sweet to me and she was the best friend any girl could ever ask for.
:56.390 --> :01.720 She was pretty much also perfect, with perfect
hair and blue eyes and perfect grades. :01.720 --> :06.890
Her parents were even perfect, being the stereotypical
high school sweethearts that got married after :06.890 --> :09.970
also attending the same community college. :09.970 --> :13.810
Not that I had any problems with how I looked
or the fact that my parent’s marriage was :13.810 --> :19.430
arranged, but between Sarah and I, she was
automatically everyone's first choice. :19.430 --> :24.070
We didn't really start to have problems until
after I was diagnosed with dyslexia. :24.070 --> :28.530
My parents had just dramatically announced
it to me after assuring me that they still :28.530 --> :30.660
loved me no matter what. :30.660 --> :34.930
Because I was so distressed and upset about
the diagnosis, they decided to give me one :34.930 --> :37.610
chance to do whatever I wanted. :37.610 --> :43.840
It was a Friday night, so I asked for permission
to go to a party, and they begrudgingly agreed. :43.840 --> :48.990
If you have immigrant parents and are a 14-year-old
middle schooler, I'm sure you understand how :48.990 --> :51.110
much of a big deal this was to me. :51.110 --> :55.840
I went with my best friend and we were having
a good time until it was time to play the :55.840 --> :58.340
dreaded spin the bottle game. :58.340 --> :02.850
Even then I knew that the game was trouble
and nothing good would come out of it, but :02.850 --> :05.930
my best friend convinced me that it would be harmless.
:05.930 --> :10.930 The game went okay until the bottle landed
on her and she chose to tell the truth. :10.930 --> :15.791
I cannot recall the question, but her answer
was basically blurting to about half of my :15.791 --> :19.430
middle school classmates that I was dyslexic. :19.430 --> :24.090
Note that I had only just let her know about
it barely an hour earlier while her mother :24.090 --> :25.790
drove us to the party. :25.790 --> :30.030
There were a lot of other things that she
could have said, but the fact that she chose :30.030 --> :33.450
that particular secret to spill made me really sad.
:33.450 --> :37.420 I stomped out of the room where the game was
being played and sat with the host's family :37.420 --> :40.550
until Sarah's parents came to pick us up later that night.
:40.550 --> :43.910 We didn't speak on the whole ride home, and
for the rest of the weekend. :43.910 --> :49.170
I thought that my best friend would realize
that she offended me and apologize by Monday, :49.170 --> :53.790
but she just pretended that everything was
okay and went straight into talking to me :53.790 --> :56.500
the moment we entered the school halls. :56.500 --> :00.120
When I did try to let her know that I was
offended by the stunt she pulled on Friday :00.120 --> :03.290
night, she brushed me off and called me dramatic. :03.290 --> :09.679
At that point, my 14-year-old self knew that
things would never be the same again. :09.679 --> :14.660
Word traveled fast and as much as I got teased
and harassed by people, I also found other :14.660 --> :19.470
people who suffered from dyslexia and we formed a club, sort of.
:19.470 --> :24.520 As I got closer to these people, my friendship
with Sarah started to hit rock bottom. :24.520 --> :29.820
After getting my diagnosis, the school I attended
realized that they had quite a number of dyslexic :29.820 --> :34.520
learners and decided to employ different teaching tactics for us.
:34.520 --> :39.550 Once it was established, I found that I was
actually very smart and could do very well :39.550 --> :42.920
in my studies if just given the chance. :42.920 --> :47.840
Sarah did not appreciate that, and somehow
our already suffering friendship went from :47.840 --> :54.500
us walking quietly home every day after school,
to having to be forced by our parents to spend :54.500 --> :55.720
time together. :55.720 --> :00.750
She continued to try really hard to be better
than me, and if I ever asked questions in :00.750 --> :03.750
class, she made sure to ridicule and make fun of me.
:03.750 --> :07.860 God forbid that I asked her for help because
I would only leave even more frustrated than :07.860 --> :08.930
I started. :08.930 --> :14.290
It didn’t help that she was already at the
top of most of our classes and she was automatically
:14.290 --> :18.640 recommended to me by teachers whenever I needed
help in school. :18.640 --> :23.640
Eventually, we figured that there was no way
that we could continue being friends, but :23.640 --> :26.170
we had to pretend for the sake of our parents. :26.170 --> :31.420
I got a boyfriend in high school, and I used
the excuse of going over to hers, to go see :31.420 --> :32.910
him all the time. :32.910 --> :34.800
She did the same, but with parties. :34.800 --> :37.730
I’m still even surprised that she didn’t rat on me.
:37.730 --> :41.180 We drifted even further from each other until
high school was over. :41.180 --> :45.570
Our universities were in different states,
and we had one last sleepover before we both :45.570 --> :48.720
moved and went non-contact with each other. :48.720 --> :52.150
Uni was a little more accepting and honestly, a little fun.
:52.150 --> :56.960 I was able to manage my dyslexia enough to
go through it as smoothly as I could manage :56.960 --> :59.860
until I graduated and got a job out in the city. :59.860 --> :04.720
I got my own apartment, started earning adult
money, and could do whatever I wanted. :04.720 --> :09.560
I also had a boyfriend who loved me and my
relationship with my parents was as good as :09.560 --> :12.730
it could get (when they weren’t screaming at me to come home).
:12.730 --> :16.760 My life was far from perfect, but at least
it was progressing positively. :16.760 --> :21.540
On a random day, I got a call from a strange
number, and when I answered it, it was my :21.540 --> :23.910
former best friend, Sarah. :23.910 --> :29.710
I was super shocked because we had not spoken
to each other in about five years, but I answered :29.710 --> :31.070
the call anyway. :31.070 --> :35.500
It started as an innocent little call to catch
up on each other and talk about everything :35.500 --> :38.410
that had happened in the past couple of years. :38.410 --> :43.340
It was nice to just catch up, but then it
seemed like luck hadn’t been on her side. :43.340 --> :48.110
She went on a long rant about how she was
in between jobs, about to be homeless, and :48.110 --> :49.550
in need of a fresh start. :49.550 --> :54.340
Of course, I felt bad for her, and I knew
that there were a few openings at my job. :54.340 --> :59.960
She didn’t live in the city like I, but
she lived only a few hours away, so I convinced :59.960 --> :03.380
her to come over, and even promised to let her stay at my place.
:03.380 --> :05.110 It was nice when she first came.
:05.110 --> :09.570 She looked great and seemed very carefree
and even almost a different person than who :09.570 --> :12.190
she used to be towards the end of our friendship. :12.190 --> :17.020
I let her have the spare room in my apartment
and she was supposed to only stay for a month, :17.020 --> :18.900
which I had prepared myself for. :18.900 --> :23.950
When Sarah and I talked some more, I found
that she had dropped out of college just before :23.950 --> :25.380
her final year. :25.380 --> :29.770
It shouldn’t have been a problem if she had told me earlier, but she didn’t and
:29.770 --> :33.670 there was only so much of a good word I could
put in for her at work. :33.670 --> :39.460
She did get the job, but it was a lower-paying
one, which she outrightly blamed me for, just :39.460 --> :43.660
before stating that she would need to stay
at mine for three months longer than we originally :43.660 --> :48.260
planned because her salary wouldn’t be enough
to get her a place in the neighborhood that :48.260 --> :50.130
she really wanted to live in. :50.130 --> :54.800
I was eager to rekindle our childhood friendship
so a part of me thought that it would be the :54.800 --> :58.520
best idea to let her do what she liked for the most part.
:58.520 --> :03.050 It started with me always having to clean
up after her, and then graduated to me being :03.050 --> :08.650
her mom and having to wake her up and make
her shower, have breakfast, and dress up in :08.650 --> :10.850
time so we would get to work early. :10.850 --> :15.120
I introduced Sarah to all my friends; my work
friends, friends from college that I still :15.120 --> :20.260
spoke to, and even my boyfriend, and they all loved her instantly.
:20.260 --> :21.260 Who wouldn’t? :21.260 --> :24.970
I was just glad that they got along and happy that she wouldn’t feel so lonely.
:24.970 --> :30.530 With time, it started to feel like I was being
left out of things within my own friend group, :30.530 --> :33.190
but I gaslit myself to believe otherwise. :33.190 --> :37.610
During lunch at the office one day, Sarah
was huddled over with my work friends and :37.610 --> :39.960
they were all glued to their phones. :39.960 --> :44.770
I went over and inquired about what was so
interesting to them, and I was introduced :44.770 --> :45.770
to Wordle. :45.770 --> :49.540
If you don’t know what that is, it’s something
like a digital crossword puzzle where you :49.540 --> :51.540
get a few tries to guess a word. :51.540 --> :56.050
Now, because of my dyslexia, I tend to stay
away from crossword puzzles and things of :56.050 --> :00.720
the sort, but I wanted to give this wordle
a try because according to them, it was really :00.720 --> :01.720
fun. :01.720 --> :06.100 When I expressed my eagerness to play and
asked someone to explain further, Sarah made :06.100 --> :10.590
a joke about me being too dyslexic to really understand anything.
:10.590 --> :15.660 It hit me like a ton of blocks because not
only was this the second time she was doing :15.660 --> :19.410
this, but none of my work friends knew about me being dyslexic.
:19.410 --> :23.580 It wasn’t like I was embarrassed about it,
but my theory was that if I could manage it :23.580 --> :27.010
just fine, why did the rest of the world need to know?
:27.010 --> :32.130 Thankfully, my work crowd was a little more
mature than middle schoolers and they instantly :32.130 --> :34.790
understood that my condition was not a joke. :34.790 --> :38.650
It didn’t stop it from still being extremely humiliating.
:38.650 --> :42.740 I thought that confronting Sarah this time
would be different since we were a little :42.740 --> :47.100
more grown up, but it was the same damn thing. :47.100 --> :50.950
She insisted that it was just a little game
and that there was no need to get all worked :50.950 --> :52.000
up over it. :52.000 --> :58.240
I demanded an apology from her and she burst
into tears, adding a little sob story that :58.240 --> :02.690
I didn't care enough to listen to, because of how angry I was.
:02.690 --> :08.250 She was right about Wordle just being a game
but telling me that the only reason I couldn't :08.250 --> :13.220
play was because of a condition that I had, was just downright mean.
:13.220 --> :18.720 I realized then, that whatever friendship
I was trying to salvage with her, was gone. :18.720 --> :23.830
She was still as childish as her high school self and there was no helping that.
:23.830 --> :30.230 The world incident was just the cherry on
top of the pie of all the other annoying things :30.230 --> :36.370
that she did to irritate me, so I sat her
down one fine day and let her know that she :36.370 --> :38.240
needed to move out. :38.240 --> :43.720
Sarah did try to guilt trip me by using the
history we shared, but I had been desensitized :43.720 --> :45.460
to her tactics already. :45.460 --> :51.280
When she found that there was no way to talk
me down, she tried to demean me some more, :51.280 --> :53.840
but I threatened to call the police on her. :53.840 --> :58.020
She didn't move out of my apartment until a week later when I was at work.
:58.020 --> :03.360 She took a sick day off that day and moved
her belongings out, but not before smashing :03.360 --> :10.130
eggs all over my white walls and writing some
very mean things with a red marker. :10.130 --> :14.300
It was a pain to get the stains out, but I am just glad she’s gone.
:14.300 --> :19.250 Sarah eats lunch alone at work now, because
everyone knows who she really is, and it feels :19.250 --> :22.350
like karma really did her thing on my behalf. :22.350 --> :26.740
Even though I did have plans of getting my
own revenge on her, being in the same place :26.740 --> :33.040
as her, while she learns about what it means
to have no friends, is revenge enough. :33.040 --> :37.690
About the wordle game, it was hard getting
adjusted to it, because dyslexia makes simple :37.690 --> :46.730
things like that, difficult, but I think I’m beginning to get the hang
:46.730 --> :39.880 of it! :39.880 --> :45.880
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what were the best comebacks you've ever heard I wasn't present but my friend
told me this story this is potentially very offensive but I should make it
perfectly clear that every party involved in this Exchange took it in
Good Humor that it was met as my white friend is in a racially diverse
Friendship Circle in which the majority are black and those guys frequently
engage in racially charged banter with each other the non-black members
generally don't join in and are always left feeling awkward when it happens one
day one of his black friends enters a room saw that my only friend and a bunch
of other white friends were present he then said in a joking manner what up Ma
N word oh no wait you can't say that can you one of my white friends rounded on
him and said maybe not but there are plenty of things we can say like thanks
for the warning officer and hi Dad his black friend apparently roared with
laughter just sharing another story my cousin was in town for Thanksgiving he
goes up to my 10-year-old skinny nephew and jokes hey it looks like you are
gaining weight my 10-year-old cousin without skipping a beat tells him hey it
looks like you have diabetes my cousin is 300 plus pounds he hasn't been back
to visit since yo kids especially that kid are Savage I swear kids say the most
darnest things or rather hurtful things in this case story two so back when I
was in junior high wearing Arrow pus style was a thing but it was fading out
of popularity me and a buddy were at Islands of Adventure in Florida and we
were waiting in line for the dueling dragons roller coaster as we were next
in line to get on the coaster I heard somebody yelling from on the ride I
looked over and realized some security selling looking Bros were yelling in our
Direction so I yelled back what aerop Pas style sucks D I looked over and
realized my buddy is wearing an Arab hastyle shirt the ride then starts to
exit the tunnel and right as they pass say I yelled back yeah so does your
boyfriend they didn't like that but we were gone by the time they came back
there was this time I was getting my haircut and this mother and her four
kids came in immediately I felt bad for the mother because one of the young boys
was running around like he just drank two red bulls at one point the mother
snapped after telling him to behave four or five times and threatened to take
away his PS3 the entire Place went silent because she yelled and you could
tell she was already embarrassed what came out of her son's mouth was to this
day the funniest thing I've ever heard he yelled if you take away my
PlayStation I'm going to tell Grandma that daddy puts his pee pee in your
mouth the mother didn't even respond she just grabbed her kids and left the
barber shop everyone burst into hysterics
afterwards all right again see what I'm talking about here kids Savage Story
three our economics teacher was a complete Legend but one semester he had
to take off because he broke his leg badly surfing so we had a replacement
she was not a legend one time we were all talking year 12 so final year of
school and she got sick of us so she said that we could only talk if it was
about the work we were doing which at the time was to do with the economic
impact of unemployment after about 5 minutes of that we started talking about
random stuff again my mate was telling us about how his older sister had just
had a daughter and he'd gone to meet her the weekend before we obviously were a
bit too loud and the teacher heard us and called out excuse me table in the
middle it doesn't sound like you're talking about your work and without any
hesitation I turned around and said of course we are miss his niece is
unemployed I didn't think it was that great of a comeback but the class lost
all their crap and one of the guys came up to me after class and said crazy
you've always been a pretty funny guy but that was freaking hilarious I didn't
have much self-confidence at the time so it meant a lot to me related to school
after College during the summer I had an internship at a co-working space the
boss asked me to create and distribute a survey to all companies that work there
to collect data for an internal event as his request I added questions for names
emails and phone numbers so that the manager the co-working space can easily
contact everyone when needed that information was not compulsory of course
if someone doesn't feel like sharing anyway there was this woman probably
some boss of whatever company came to our office office and demanded the age
of the person who made the survey I raised my hand and said I was 19 she
then proceeded to smirk and claimed makes sense after that she continued to
irritate the whole office with her bossy tone teaching me not to ask for other
personal information and all that jazz after 5 minutes of her delivering her
lifetime speech I could not take it anymore and simply cut her with yes
ma'am I understand I will take your advice next time she stayed silent for a
few seconds then looked down on me and asked which uni do you go to with a
belittling tone so I answered that's also personal information ma'am she
immediately shut the f up then laugh story four a little context I was 17 and
a moderately overweight guy I was at a friend's 18th birthday party at her
house it was a big house out in the countryside so everyone was staying
there overnight about 50 of us so everyone's drinking laughing and having
a great time a apart from this one girl nobody really likes her as she's just
massively a prick about everyone and everything but small school so kind of
had to invite her she's being extremely negative complaining all the time just
generally bringing everyone down it's the end of the night and everyone's kind
of winding down but still awake we're all in this one large room with
mattresses on the floor now I've been drinking since about 2: p.m. and it's
now about 3:00 a.m. and I'm a rambling drunk just constant BS but it's it's
funny I think and I'm still actually talking to people not just myself then
this girl just out of nowhere says shut up dibs 234 no one cares screw off stie
just cuz my melons are bigger than yours doesn't mean you need to be jealous
never in all my life has a response come out of my mouth that fast and this was
straight bypass the brain go straight to the mouth stuff moment of silence and
just endless laughter she kept trying for a comeback of her own but everyone
just kept laughing l l l at her face while she stormed out I was talking to
the birthday girl later on and she kept saying she was so happy I said that to
her everyone's been getting sick and tired of her crappy attitude all year
and she was glad someone had finally said something to her she never
recovered socially everyone was just done with her the class wall was broken
and all of a sudden no one was taking her crap anymore so that was my favorite
comeback Story five working the seafood counter at the grocery store is a huge
pain so many huge orders for the holidays apparently it is or was a
tradition for Italian families one older lady comes in wearing her fur coat
dripping in nasty perfume all sorts of jewelry pushes to the front of the line
and starts yelling her name to get her order as soon as I heard the name and
saw the lady I knew it would be a problem she had placed the order for
live dungeoness crabs to be picked up on
Monday I'm forgetting the actual days of the week but you get my point they ared
then and she says she will pick them up Tuesday and Wednesday I guess her
holiday gathering was moving dates or something eventually she says she will
get them on Friday by the time Friday Rose around they died so we cooked them
up to at least keep them edible so now she barges her way in expecting live
crabs that we already cooked and I tried to explain it but she flipped saying we
messed up she never changed the date Etc
I showed her the log book we took orders by hand back then and I showed her all
the pickup dates that were CR off in time with a change noted on each she
continues to freak out starts demanding free stuff to compensate manager walks
over to me and says not so quietly just give her whatever the hell she wants and
get her out of here she blows her top and screams like actually screams you
don't f with the 54-year-old woman me what's your daughter have to do with
this oo she probably needs some eyes for
that burn and those crabs the story sick
backstory I live in Australia and in the
Australian car scene there's been a long running rivalry between Ford and Holden
fans fueled by their participation in motorport there's a lot of banter and
trash talking but it's mostly just kidding around some people however are
serious about it the guy in question was a Holden Fanboy and would take any and
every opportunity to rag on Ford frequently spouting the old adage Ford
at least they Circle the problem in reference to their logo and and badge I
didn't particularly like him as it was and on this day I was just tired of
listening to him complaining about a loss from Holden and the V8 Supercars
when the leading driver who had ignored warnings from his crew ran out of fuel
in the final corner of the final lap and Dro from first to fifth him it was a BS
win by four they should have lost wind cup was cheated me he ran out of fuel
part of racing is managing your car and making decisions on when to push and
when to conserve he chose poorly and lost it was a fair and legit win him
whatever Ford still crap and they'll lose next time you know what they say
about Ford at least they circled the problem me as opposed to Holden who
circled their customer base giant wuss that doesn't have a pair he didn't know
what to say to that and thankfully shut the hell up story seven my sister was
getting married and didn't want to pay hundreds of dollars for a cake they had
already spent up of 10g and it just wasn't a priority to her nobody likes
wedding cakes anyway she was going to do a dessert potluck and ask gu to bring
dessert for the table I have this quote unquote confirmed Bachelorette Aunt who
dated a guy once in the 70s and has sworn off marriage ever since because he
broke her heart so badly we all know the real reason she hasn't married but the
rest of my family is heavily involved in a very cult-like Religion she is
especially involved in said religion now stay with me here I promise to is going
somewhere so my family from out of town are visiting and we all get together at
Grandma's we have a nice dinner and my sister's wedding plans come up every
once in a while eventually my sister has to explain to someone for some reason
that they aren't having a traditional wedding cake confirmed Bachelorette Aunt
doesn't like the thought of that one single bit you can't have a wedding
without cake it's the reason people go to weddings she goes on and on with this
crap all night my sister is obviously getting uncomfortable my sister and and
I were basically raised by grandmother and I noticed my grandma noticing these
exchanges so my grandma who was passing around plates of fruit and honey I know
but that's what we have for dessert sometimes hands confirm bachette a her
plate and says well Linda when you have your wedding you can have any kind of
cake you like I swear to God you could have heard a pin drop I had to leave the
room because the tension and hilarity were too much and I was going to burst
out laughing I love my grandma she has a lot of these zingers she also chooses
her words very carefully dang granny flipped on the
aunt I don't know what hurts more burns from kids or burns from grandmas if you
don't want to experience the shame brought by grandmas and kids how about
hitting the like button and subscribing to the channel it really helps me out
story8 some lady on r/ relationships had cheated on her husband gotten pregnant
and ended up terminating the pregnancy and came crying to us about it while she
was defending her own actions I witnessed this Comet thread pop up
between her and one redit user redditor what were you going to name your baby
lady why would you ask me that what kind
of messed up person do you have to be to ask such a thing redditor I was just
asking it would give me some insight into your feelings about your child lady
Molly after my late grandmother redditor ah now both mollies are looking down at
you and disappointment Savage another story I
have to share recently a guy tried to call me out in line for the self
checkout machines I was ahead of him but he started yelling and claiming it was
his turn the clerk who watched over the self checkout area didn't see what
happened only heard the complaint and asked me to step back I was pretty
whatever about it and Ste back in line the machine then became free and the guy
who yelled at me offered to let me go ahead I just looked at him dead in the
eye and said nah you can have it if it's that important to you and you could
almost hear the sigh in his head as he realized what a jerk he'd been my
favorite comeback ever though was from my teens I used to have that awkward emo
phase that Most teens have and I was living at the school on weekdays and
with my parents on weekends the kids became really close because we were
always together but I especially bonded with this emo chick over being emo we
were stupid emo kids who thought writing
666 on everything was cool and listening to slip snot made us
extra granted I still listen to slipnot and love their new music but you know
all the classic emo stuff for us the school Place had a lot of classic quote
unquote pop girls as we used to call them girls with makeup everywhere blonde
hair and blue jeans two sizes too small one day this emo chick came to class
hours looking like one of them I walked up to her and asked her what she was
going on and she responded with well I'm
normal now I want to look normal and and listen to normal music I looked at her
classic elevator glance the kind you see in movies and told her I feel sorry for
you for feeling like you have to be fake
to fit in and we never spoke again I was
pretty proud of the 14-year-old me there and for wanting to stick with my emo
style rather than pretend to be something I wasn't especially
considering how hard that is when you're a kid story nine I have a few this
happens all the time in my family my mom
made cupcakes one day and they collapsed in the center for whatever reason my
husband at the time looked at them and told my mom they look like and she
replied I was thinking of you when I made them easily the most witty and
quickest comeback I've ever heard from her dad was boasting about his looks at
65 the nurses said I look very good for my age me you were there for a
colonoscopy are you sure they were looking at your face many years ago when
I was 12 I got into an argument with my mother and father exasperated my mother
said you talk like you think you're your
father I don't have a brain between us I immediately said no I do think you have
a brain between you my father burst out laughing and of argument back in teenag
them arguing with my mom about chores mom you think I should wipe your butt
for you too me beats doing it myself mom wipes my face we both laugh so hard we
forgot about the argument damn this family is something
else with their jokes funny as hell though story 10 my old roommate's wife
was a waitress she's serving a table one night for a couple of middle-aged
businessmen who have been drinking they're mostly polite but one dude is
starting to get pretty drunk and really forward with his comments he tells her I
really want you to sit up my face without missing a beat she replies
because your nose is bigger than your D the rest of the table went nuts the dude
turned bright red and left her alone although she later admitted he wasn't
being that rude just got too comfortable
meanwhile I got in an argument with some people drinking alcohol smoking and
spitting in the shopping center near where children frequent they started
getting really aggressive so I walked away and the woman yelled suck my D you
witch and without thinking I responded you look like you have one then the
comments made by them I cannot repeat my
poor mother was shocked story 11 I'm not really sure it was a comeback a few
years ago there was a new guy at my job let's call him Peter we all worked in an
open plan office except for our boss but her secretary carry let's call her Mary
shared the space with the rest of us Mary is one of those helpful talkative
priy women who are generally liked by everybody even if they can be a little
pushy and over the top sometimes it is important to the story that Mary and I
were getting along really well and everybody else knew this one day as we
were all filing through the office door for the weekly meeting Peter
accidentally slams the door into Mary who was right behind him everyone else
sees it it's obviously an accident Peter realizes what he has done gets
embarrassed and starts to apologize profusely that creates a little Jam of
onlookers this is when I pull a 10 lb note out of my pocket give it to Peter
who is still spouting his apologies and say I know it's not much but it's from
all of us a measure of hilarity ensues story 12 think tribal for this one my
friend is Samoan and was back in Samoa for a funeral traditionally every family
that is related turns up and gives money towards the cost the cost is large
because these things last several days and everyone has to be fed especially
dignitaries like ministers or visiting Chiefs for anyone to leave Hungary is
highly shameful the culture is very authoritarian and respect is expected
unlike in Western culture where respect must be earned anyway at the end of the
whole thing as is customary they were dividing up canned food and other gifts
to be parceled back to the families who attended one Chief representing his
particular Village stood up and attempted to elevate a himself above
everyone else by announcing that he and his family wanted all the food and not
to give any to any of the other Chiefs or their families the response of the
hosting Chief was outstanding without skipping a beat he goes okay give his
family all the food however if you and your family do not eat all of this food
within 7 days you are forever banished from this Village the other Chief
apologized immediately dude honestly the Simone
culture amazes me but just in case a happens because of that that would be
brutal now hear me out guys imagine a fight scene in some movie with Dwayne
The Rock Johnson versus Jason Mamoa epic fight scene story 13 in Belgium there
are two dialects that get ridicu the most one the coastal Province West vams
and another limberg's I speak the latter at a festival I started chatting with a
girl next to me who spoke Wes Vamps she immediately started making fun of my
accent at first kind of ignored it but it kept coming up so we started to have
a discussion about it limberg is quite a slow dialect so people say everyone who
speaks it is dumb I said we actually speak slowly because it makes it easy to
understand while Wes vams is more like grunting vowels which no one will
understand and sounds primitive she kept dissing limberg so I just acted like I
didn't understand anything she was saying because of her dialect at which
point she said in English whatever floats your boat to which I acted
surprised and responded hey I understood
that because it was in English she burst
into laughter and was a good sport about it the dialect didn't come up anymore
afterward story 14 this was about 10 years ago so I'm paraphrasing playing
Xbox FPS in a private game with Mike and Mike Jr and just our group of eight
people Mike and junor were on opposite teams Mike junr I sniped you from across
the map you terrible Mike junr I snuck off and knifed you from behind Mike junr
everyone here is better than you finally Mike had enough I had fun with your mom
silenced for a minute then Jr logged off and we all burst out laughing then you
hear Jr yelling at dad over Dad's mic he just says well I did all right I hope
you guys enjoyed the stories in this video and if you made it this far all
the way to the end I'm sure you're going to enjoy what's the most epic I don't
give a f moment you've witnessed Story 3 was just way too much for me go ahead
and make sure you watch that video and feel the same way I'll see you in that
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AIT for leaving my friend's bachelorette
party early because she embarrassed me I 26f recently attended my friend Becca's
28f bachelorette party in Paris I had been recently diagnosed with a illness
disability that severely impacts my mobility and has led to considerable
weight gain making it difficult for me to look at myself in the mirror I had
communicated this to the bride beforehand explaining that I would
participate in photos minimally because of how much I'm struggling with
self-image and serve as the designated photographer upon arriving in Paris the
planning did not account for my limitation when I suggested using Uber
or taking the metro for transportation and meeting everyone at each destination
I was met with accusations of being boring by the bride I decided to suck it
up and go through the walks despite enduring 2-hour walks and being left
behind by the bridal party anyway it again made me wonder why I was being
made to put myself through pain when I would just be left behind and ignored I
wish I was kidding when I say taking photos of the Bride would last around 5
hours and whenever any of the bridal party would Branch off to do anything
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men have read it what stereotypically girly things do you enjoy a really good
cry I've been pretty emotional lately just sad and I'm not sure why a midlife
crisis maybe but a few weeks ago I broke down in my truck at work and started
crying man I felt so much better afterwards I told my wife about it later
when I got home and she hugged me and gave encouragement I felt ashamed at
first but now I approach with strength the strength for me to realize that
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AIT ta for calling my fiance's friend's baby name yes I know automatic
points off for saying the word it's a part of my vocabulary that I got
very used to saying as a kid that I'm trying to phase out I'm sorry my fiance
20f has a friend Lexi 20f who got pregnant last year her and her baby
daddy Nick were living with her dad and were trying for a kid while under his
roof once they announced their pregnancy Lexi's dad who they already had a
strained relationship with you kick them out they moved in with Nick's
grandparents while she was pregnant but he quit his job total his car and
committed crimes and then his grandparents kicked him out now they're
in a shelter he's on parole no car no job with a baby for a while my fiance
cut contact with Lexi because she became toxic while pregnant but later
apologized and got over herself now they're friends again when the baby was
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welcome friends to another r slash and tuttle parents video today we've got a
lot of great stories and our first stories from atlanta an entitled mother
insists that i share my nintendo switch with her child on my flight this just
happened the other day and after sharing the story with friends and family a few
of them suggested that i share it here the scene is a southwest airline flight
i was sitting in a window seat next to two lovely women and directly horizontal
from us was an empty seat a mom and her son the flight was taking off for those
who don't know you're required to stay seated and keep your seat belts on for
the beginning of the flight until the captain says otherwise i was strapped in
my seat and decided to take out my nintendo switch for my carry on beneath
my feet excuse me ma'am i didn't realize at first that the mother in the seats
horizontal for me was trying to get my attention she unbuckled her belt and
moved to the empty seat by the aisle closer to me she said ma'am with the
video game i left in my head but the stranger next to me nudged me as well
that lady wants to get your attention the woman next to me muttered i turned
my head to see this woman leaning across the aisle with her hands on the armrest
of the aisle seat of my row sorry she began i just wanted to know if
there was any way that my son could use that game for a little while i'm so
sorry i begin my nintendo switch is just really important to me i don't feel
comfortable giving it to anyone i don't know i don't even let my sisters play
with it i was going to continue but the woman cut me off oh my son's not like
most kids she replied he's not destructive his cousin has one of those
and he knows how to play she smiled and set her hand out the two women seated
next to me looked at me as if they were also in disbelief i'm sorry i said again
i just don't feel comfortable i brought it for me how old are you the woman said
with a huff retracting her hand and slapping it on her lap i'm 25 but i
don't see how that matters i replied growing exceptionally uncomfortable well
she began clearly sounding agitated my son is eight this is an hour and 45
minute flight and he just wants something to do he can't see it for a
few minutes i said no i'm not comfortable with that i'm sorry but i'm
expecting you to understand since this is my property i put my head down and
unpaused my game as to ignore anything she had further to say are you serious
she seemed genuinely livid well insert child's name here sorry buddy not
everyone knows how to share the woman said to the kid next to her her child
started whining and kicking the seat in front of him thanks for this she said to
me a sweet kid just wants to share with you and you're being ignorant about it
before i even open my mouth one of the ladies in my rose snapped back at her
how dare you bring that energy on this plane she told you so kindly that she
doesn't feel comfortable with passing her electronics to a stranger the mother
wasn't having it she's an adult and can't share with a child for a few
minutes of a nearly two hour flight you should have brought something for him to
do then the woman in my row responded it shut her up good at the end of the
flight the woman collected her luggage from the overhead bins and said i hope
you're happy going against god's word not sharing with a child some of the
people around us giggled i'm sure that they all overheard the drama at the
beginning of the flight i've come across entitled people in my life but this
strange lady took the cake if you were sitting in a nearby row and you saw this
kind of conversation going down between two strangers and one of their kids
would you call that karen out yourself or would you rather just turn up the
volume on your headphones and hope the rest of the flight goes smoother than
that let me know how you would handle it in the comments down below our next
story is from sad girl loves life and title day tries to make me give up my
new cooking book as i'm too young to have it i love cooking it's one of my
greatest passions it makes me feel relaxed so two days ago me and my mom
are shopping at walmart we passed the book section now i'm not sure if other
walmarts are like this but in ours the cooking books are in the book isle yes
we have a book aisle i'm 13 and like i said before i love cooking my mom sees
the book and asks me if i want to buy it
now you might be thinking why would your mom want to buy you a cooking book if
she could just teach you well my mom has
a very life-taking job if that makes any sense i'm not quite sure what she works
as she never really told me but i do know that when she's home it's usually
for a couple hours and then she's back to work i'm at an age where i'm
responsible enough to be left at home so anyway i say yes because i love getting
new cooking books i have about eight at this point without this book so my mom
buys the book it's about 15 and once we get home i immediately take
it out and start reading through the pages i cook dinner for me and my mom
and it turns out to be great the following day my aunt and her daughter
decided to come over to my house because
they hear i got a new recipe that i want to try out as it's my cousin's two-year
anniversary of beating cancer once they arrive kind cousin and entitled dance
sit and i make dinner my mom's in her room on her computer finishing up a
meeting once dinner's made i called my mom and she comes out and sits down at
the dinner table along with everyone else you might be thinking that this is
a lot of responsibility or that i'm not acting my age but honestly like i said
before cooking is something that i really enjoy and it relaxes me and i'm
glad that i can make other people happy with my food like my cousin especially
considering that day was the two-year anniversary of her beating breast cancer
after dinner the kind cousin and my mom start talking about her school life
while i ask entitled aunt to help me do dishes this is me being open to have
conversation with her after a while she starts bringing up the new cooking book
that's currently sitting on the counter next to me she starts asking where i
bought it and things like that once i tell her it was the last one she
immediately starts getting aggressive she says what do you mean that was the
last one i say i mean that was the last one there's no more left she says but
time cousin deserves one today's a special day for her at this point she's
no longer helping me but just staring at
me i say well i'm sorry but i can't give
up this cookbook it was the last one and my mom's going on a trip for work she
won't be back for a week and a half so i needed to cook dinner sure i could use
other cookbooks i have but i really wanted to try this one out she was
furious well i don't care today's about my daughter who beat cancer and you're
too young to have it anyway at this point i'm speechless i don't understand
why she wants it so bad she says i'll tell your mother that you hate us but
the thing is while she's been yelling my mom heard the entire thing my mom says
i'm sorry but i'm gonna have to ask you all to leave and at this point kind
cousin was practically dragging my entitled ant out the door later on kind
cousin apologizes for her mom's behavior and i told her it wasn't her fault and
she shouldn't have done that especially since it was such an important day to
her i also told her if it was such a big deal she could borrow my cookbooks from
time to time kind cousin agreed and right now i'm letting her borrow one of
my older books the call today i got a call from my
entitled aunt demanding that i take the old book back and give khan cousin the
new book that i got i told her no and that khan cousin was happy with the
older book and even said that she would give it back as soon as she could my
entitled went insane screeching over the
phone about how unfair it was and that i
was too young to be cooking alone in the kitchen question should i just give her
my brand new book first of all it's awesome to hear about the cousin beating
cancer because absolutely screw cancer that said op has no obligation to give
anybody their brand new book that they purchased for themselves in no way
should op feel guilted into giving up something that they bought for
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our next story is from no sandwich 9822 entitled neighbor demands i driver
haven't spoken to my neighbor for three years after i began refusing to be her
taxi we had a decent relationship for a time always cordial neighbor doesn't
drive and at the time i was a stay-at-home mom with a toddler and two
in school she first began by coming by one afternoon asking if i could take her
and her kids to the dentist okay sure it's not far then another time our child
needed to be seen at an urgent care and she needed me to take them but this is
when the issues first began that particular day i had a contractor at the
house and needed to finish with this she told me i needed to hurry i told her it
wouldn't take long but if it's an emergency call for emergency services or
an uber she said it would wait so my contractor's done and we go and i pick
them back up well this goes on for a while off and on frankly it's a little
frustrating but i'm trying to be neighborly but then she began flipping a
little one day i get a text asking if i've left to take my kids to school i
had she said hers overslept and wanted me to drop them off for her our kids
went at different schools i say yes but she needs to come too because i won't
sign them in she agreed and overall i spent an extra 40 minutes out of my
morning with my toddler who doesn't love being in the car but okay again being
neighborly then a pattern emerges the kids keep over sleeping and knocking on
my door or texting i often try to run errands after i drop my kids off so i'm
out i get a text where are you will you be back from taking your kids to school
soon i need a ride i say no i won't be home and then she asks if my husband can
do it since he works from home um no he's working she got snippy and said
she'd have to call him out of school again and they've missed too much i
ignored that and one about my errands my
toddler had some health complications so
we're often at the dock got another text asking where i am and when i'll be home
i say i'm in the next city over and no idea needs to call an uber she claims
uber is unsafe and she'll get killed then says she'll get a ride to her
appointment in the same city and i can wait for her to be done and take her
home i ignored her after that next week i'm at a doctor far from home again get
a text this time it's where are you you're not home again and your husband
won't answer the door we need to ride to the dentist in 30 minutes or i'll have
to cancel the visit can you hurry home i am beyond tired of being questioned
about my whereabouts my husband doesn't even do that so i ignore her finish the
visit and take my kids to get treats then a text are you coming i need you to
hurry again i ignore i'm over it at this
point then never mind we missed it final straw was two weeks later she meets me
outside while i'm doing yard work she said her kid got signed up for an
orthodontist and needs me to drive them to monthly appointments and she'll pay
gas and the kicker orthodontist is about 40 minutes drive in a bad part of town
considering the appointment can take an hour and then 40 back every month for
roughly two years she said i could just wait with my toddler or their shopping
nearby i told her flat out no i don't like being far from the kid's school in
case i've gotta get them and my toddler will be miserable and that's just too
far i asked her why she booked an orthodontist that far when she doesn't
drive and she said because it's cheaper she kept arguing but i stayed firm in my
no she was very frustrated with me and had been frustrated i hadn't been around
more lately to help her out my husband's
mad at this point and it told me to stop
completely because she's using me and he doesn't like that he was right i told
her i won't change my mind she grew cold
towards me she got another ride but then one month later her ride bailed on her
and she came and asked if i would take her i told her no i explained it last
time and that's not changing she was furious and legit never spoke to me
again and i certainly won't reach out for more of that would you guys agree
with me that it's already more than you would reasonably expect being neighborly
to drive somebody around to multiple appointments i could imagine bailing
them out once or twice in a blue moon but would you guys agree with me that
it's beyond already neighborly just to give them that ride let me know what you
guys think in the comments our next story is from glazafruix oh great i'm a
freaking jerk now this is a rant because it happened a couple hours ago and i'm
still seething something mad it'll help me calm down and sleep back story i'm 35
year old male fully employed single living currently with my dad at my
sister's house their house is big she and her family occupy the upper levels
while me and dad dearest live downstairs in a decently sized apartment basically
the reason being i bought myself a house last year and it needed some heavy
renovations my mother and grandmother passed in the span of the last year six
months apart and it hit us quite a bit financially so in order to afford both
the mortgage and the renovations it's been decided that i'll move in with the
old man and to also keep him company after my mother's passing and he'll be
helping me with the house can't fault him here he knows mostly what he's doing
my dad is to remain polite a freaking control freak it's like i'm back being
14 again as far as i remember his only ways of communicating with us are
ordering around and berating in that order we have nothing in common i can't
start a conversation with him without a turning about me being a naive idiot who
knows nothing about life me and my day yada yada also the way i hold my fork is
wrong i shouldn't sleep past 9 a.m because other adult people are already
up and about doing whatever adult people are doing like repairing cars or some
crap etc so after working all day all i want is to be left alone and not
subjected to his life lessons which rarely happens because i have basically
zero privacy and he just loves to tell me i'm a failure of an adult on to the
story so today i left work a bit later because i hate leaving crap unfinished
and the client wanted his stuff done i work in i.t if half an hour extra paid
by the way would mean i wouldn't have to return later it works for me
which earned me another lesson about how
i should prioritize family matters first and ditch work 4 hours earlier if
necessary right and then getting fired but for some reason he doesn't seem to
understand the nuance all because he asked me to drive by the house in order
to check the work done and i for some reason didn't ask the workers to stay
past 6 pm in order to discuss things with them i just knew the evening would
be crappy and it was indeed see while i've been admiring my new walls and
paint i've noticed a note in my mailbox some dude wanted to know if i wanted to
keep the old doors and if not if he could have them great i thought i would
need to throw them away myself and i told dad about it big mistake and when
my dad asks ney orders you to do something it has to be done as he said
in a right freaking now so here i am still chewing my dinner calling the dude
about the doors her usual protocol he's hovering around telling me what to say
and how to say it while rolling his eyes
when i kindly tell him to freak off in a distance because let's be frank it's
annoying as heck and he's been doing it for years he can only hear my side of
the conversation and the door guy basically confirms by himself what my
dad wants to know but because i didn't ask like my dad said i should it made
him increasingly annoyed why would i ask for information that's already been
confirmed right by the end of the call he's been yelling at me and calling me
names which shouldn't be uttered to your own children and i laid it unto him
because i don't like being insulted even less by my own family he then went to
his room pouted for five minutes then went back to me and threw his copy of
the house keys in my face telling me i'm on my own and he wouldn't help with the
house anymore an empty thread he likes to throw around when he can't get his
way i told him that the next time he calls me names and acts like a child
i'll deck him hard enough he'll need a straw for his next dinner we're not
talking to each other now the silence is
golden i feel for op because people like this are not easy to deal with all i
would say is if you're ever dealing with a person like this it's definitely all
about control and narcissism and thinking their way is the absolute right
way basically i would say don't give these kinds of people an inch and also
try to avoid letting them have anything they can possibly hold over you because
they will use that against you our next story is from love and caution my family
came to visit me for two weeks and stole 500 dollars plus of stuff for my
apartment i live in a tiny one bedroom my parents invited themselves over to
live here for two weeks they live over a
thousand miles away and drove here to my city they couldn't afford to pay for a
hotel and i felt rude if i didn't let them stay it was a mess they slept on
blow up mattresses and i couldn't walk anywhere without tripping the first day
my mom threw everything out of my bedroom closet because i needed to
organize and she took photos of everything i noticed my mom stashing
some of my clothes away in my little sister's suitcase when i called her out
she called me selfish and denied it she had several meltdowns and temper
tantrums when i told her to stop going through everything i own sneakily over
the first week she kept digging and finding stuff i was hiding on purpose
she got mad at me for having condoms and alcohol my dad got really upset about
that too spent a couple days since they left and i just noticed all the clothing
they stole for me and the makeup i had hundreds and hundreds of dollars of
makeup that i can't afford to replace my bathroom cabinet was wiped out i
honestly feel betrayed and feel like i have nobody to trust now not even my own
family my mom and sister are denying everything they said i never had it to
begin with honestly i don't really care who they are to you if they wouldn't do
that to me i would call them up and demand them to give every last thing
that you can identify back or you're going to file a police report about it
also i think this goes without saying but op should never let them in their
house ever again they are not to be trusted our next stories from
perspectivedry9601 mom insists i go to college or she'll
turn my phone off i'm 19 year old female turning 20 this year and college just
costs too much for me to want to collect a debt i'll struggle my whole life to
pay back my mom is very mad about this although she never graduated or attended
college herself my younger brother 18 graduated this year and plans on going
to college in a year and this set my mom off she started telling everyone i need
to pay my phone bill or else she'll shut it off because i'm just sitting on my
butt all day doing nothing but i have a job and a whole house with four pets me
and my boyfriend 20 are taken care of we think she's pushing me to go to college
because i'm the oldest girl and she wants a role model for my five younger
siblings but they already called me mom growing up so they had a good role model
until she kicked me out four years ago i'm willing to pay for my phone but why
threaten your child for making decisions about their future yet she wants me to
drop everything and help her out again what i would say to op is definitely pay
for your own phone get your independence and know that you don't owe them
anything as far as what you want to do with your future college isn't for
everybody and our final story of the day is from left to can't this ita 295
entitled parents tell me to cover more of my body if i don't want their son
staring at me this happened on one of my family summer trips when i was 16 my
family and i went to the beach for our usual summer vacation trip everything
was going great until our fourth day we woke up went to have breakfast went to
the gym and after our workout we decided to go to the pools to freshen up while
getting changed to our swimsuits i decided to wear a cute bikini that i
bought for the trip exclamation here the bikini wasn't very revealing it was a
high-waisted bottom with a cropped short sleeve shirt top with an oversized
t-shirt as cover and one on my merry way
to the pool when we arrived there we got installed in some chase lounges and i
removed my t-shirt because it was a bit hot to be using it while putting it away
i first noticed a family that was about seven feet away from us that had a son
who seemed my age the thing is that the sun was staring at me more specifically
my body and not in a friendly or comfortable manner even if he knew that
i already caught him staring he didn't look away at first i ignored it and laid
on the chase to relax a bit and read but i felt him still staring about 10
minutes after lying down i decided to go for a swim and again on my way to the
pool i felt him staring now at my rear end i ignored it again and went for a
swim after swimming for half an hour i returned to my shades and surprise
surprise he was staring at me again i was getting annoyed but i didn't want to
cause a scene either so i told my mom and my dad they got upset and to my
surprise because they always try to avoid drama as well
they stood up to go with the guy's parents to tell them about their son's
actions once they told the parents what their son was doing they only said and i
quote our son has every right and freedom to look at however he wants with
that comment my dad got angry and started talking to them again about how
that wasn't the right thing to do and that i was starting to feel annoyed and
uncomfortable and the mom answered and again i quote if your daughter is so
delicate and doesn't want anyone to stare at her she should cover up more of
her body it's not our son's fault that she decided to expose herself like that
at this point i was pissed and stood up to make my way over there to defend
myself which led to an argument after a few moments someone from the hotel staff
came to us asking what the problem was and my family explained the situation
the staff took our side and asked the guy's family to either stop the guy move
to another area of the pool or leave the pool the three family members got
furious at this and started throwing shade at me even you know what shaming
me everything to make their son seem like he is not to blame in this
situation seeing that they weren't going to do anything to solve this my family
and i decided to leave when we were leaving the guy kept staring at me and
even had the nerve to make the sign of body curves with a chef's kiss while i
was looking at him even if i support the the problem or not the clothes ever
since that day i honestly haven't wore a bikini to avoid another situation like
this i guess i just subconsciously avoid wearing one i think it's disappointing
when there's an obvious creeper like this who isn't getting called out for
being creepy imagine sitting there knowing your son is absolutely ogling
and constantly staring at some girl who's just trying to enjoy her time
there and saying it's somehow the girl's
fault it starts with approving that kind of behavior that leads to people acting
out in even more serious ways but with that being said that's all the time we
have for today now if you want to hear another entitled parent story that was
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first story after abandoning me for 9 years my narcissistic father contacted
me to invite me to his wedding I refused and hung up now my step siblings are
forcing me to reconcile and his new fiance made a Facebook post saying how
her perfect husband has terriable children by 17 haven't had a
relationship with my dad since I was 8 years old it broke me when my dad left
because it wasn't just him I lost my aunts and uncles cousins and
grandparents they all stopped talking to
me I've been in therapy since I was 11 I worked out a lot of my issues with my
dad my mother remarried when I was seven
I have a stepdad and two brothers whom I
love very much I am applying to colleges and I feel happier than I ever have 3
weeks ago I got a call from my dad he told me he was engaged he was getting
married in the fall and he wanted me to come to a reunion so they could get to
know each other's families and I could get to know my new siblings he said she
wanted to meet his kids before they got married my father has three kids me my
brother brother and my sister I have a relationship with my sister but we're
not close because she lives far away I hung up I couldn't deal with it I was
emotional and I bowled my eyes out the next day I called my dad and I told him
I had no interest in meeting his new family that he was cruel for abandoning
an 8-year-old and even more cruel for reaching out because he was forced to do
so I already had a family I was happy and secure with them and I had no
interest in him being in my life because he was no longer my dad and to not
contact me I called my sister to ask if he reached out to her he did and she was
going to go I told her the conversation and she said what I said was appropriate
because it was true but I could have been nicer about it I was a bit sad but
my family was there to comfort me my sister sent me a link to a Facebook post
that my new stepmother had shared saying she couldn't believe that a perfect man
could have such terrible children my sister told me she was not going to go
to the reunion because she agreed she didn't want to meet this woman after
what she said about us I thought that would be the end of it and though that
post upset me I tried to let it go but I started getting calls from my father's
side of the family even my brother telling me I was a bee and an arole for
ruining the reunion by telling my dad he wasn't my dad they told me that he
canceled the whole thing and he was questioning whether he should get
married at all they told me I could have reached out it wasn't fair that they
were the ones blamed for the falling out I have since blocked them but I did see
a post on Facebook saying my dad postponed his wedding but now I can't
stop thinking about what they said I mean yes I could have reached out but I
feel that's not fair because since I was
eight I shouldn't have to be the one who
makes amends I know that I was harsh and could have gone about telling him I
didn't want him in my life in a nicer way but I don't think I did anything
wrong maybe that's because everybody around me is taking my side I've had
multiple people tell me I'm an RC hole I feel guilty and I want an outside
perspective aah edit I just want to add some stuff my sister is 23 and my
brother is 28 my mother had nothing to do with my family cutting me out 2 years
ago I called my dad under the advice of my therapist when he answered I started
crying and he didn't say anything he just hung up on me I think that's when I
really moved on from my dad relevant comments therapy and brother
relationship hello thanks for your kind words I am currently still in therapy I
don't plan on leaving anytime soon and I
know that I need it and that it benefits me in more ways than one I am my
mother's only biological child and she has said that I should cut ties with my
brother I have also been talking to my sister quite a bit today about what to
do about our brother we only share DNA from our dad the same as I do with my
sister she says that I need to cut ties with him completely as well but at the
same time I do feel bad because he went through the same abandonment that I did
it's just that my dad actually came back to him he didn't come back to me or my
sister as of right now I haven't cut ties not officially anyway with my brother
but it does seem like that's where it's headed what on Earth did he tell his
family when he stopped talking to you I don't know what he told his family or
his fiance but when I started building a relationship with my sister he did tell
my sister's mother that my mother had filed a restraining order against him
and that was the reason that he couldn't be around me which was 100% not true I
can assure you there was never a restraining order filed my sister's
mother figured that out and when she talked to my father about it he admitted
that he lied about the timeline of her parents marriage my parents got divorced
when I was two for the next 5 years I would go back and forth from my mom's
house to my dad's house over the last two years that I had a relationship with
my dad those visits went from every weekend to every other weekend to once a
month to every other month and then there was nothing from my dad or any of
his family one day they just stopped talking to me about 3 months after my
father had not come to pick me up for his annual visitation my mother took me
to his house and we found out that he moved back to Mississippi where his
family was from after that we never talked again until I was around 12 and
he called me to tell me happy birth day he called me one more time the same year
to say Merry Christmas after that I didn't hear from him again until 3 weeks
ago when he called me my dad was such a jealous freak like to the point where he
would be mad when she went to work there was this guy that my mother worked with
and he was super jealous of him and one day he finally just accused her of
cheating and she said she didn't cheat and he didn't believe her and he left
and then he came home the next day he admitted to having SX with another woman
and then they got divorced about 2 years later my mom started a new job and she
ended up dating her boss they got married when I was seven and now he's my
stepdad but I also only hear my parents side of the story I've never heard my
dad's side of the story he's never really thought it was important enough
to tell me his side of the story but that's what I know of the whole
situation I really don't know the true story because I was too when everything
happened and me and my dad were never really close he never told me important
things about his life we didn't talk much when I was with my dad I mostly
spent the time with his boyfriend dads messed up marriages me and my siblings
all have different mothers my father has
been married four times if he does marry this woman this will be his fifth
marriage I didn't even know of my sister's existence until I was 9 years
old my sister's mother reached out to me when she noticed that her daughter's
child support had gone down because my father wasn't meeting his mandatory
visitation rights and had to pay more child's support towards me Lort told my
sister's mother that he had two other children and she reached out to my
mother we had dinner together she also reached out to my brother's mother but
they had no interest in knowing my sister I don't know if my father has
other children as far as I'm aware he doesn't but he lied to me and my brother
about my sister and he lied to my mother
about the existence of my brother before she had me so honestly who knows but I
do know that his fiance has children between the ages of I believe 3 and 19
what the heck did he say to you on the phone the way I remember the
conversation going was him saying hello this is so and so I just wanted to let
you know that I'm having this family reunion because recently I got engaged
and I'm going to be getting married in the fall and I was hoping that you would
be interested in coming to the reunion your brothers are going to be there as
well as the rest of my family and you can meet my fiance and your new Step
siblings that's not exactly word for word but that is is the gist of the
conversation and no he did not apologize when I called him back the next day he
actually sounded quite mad that I hung up on him in the first place and he said
relatively the same thing just in a harsh tone with fewer words and that's
when I told him that I didn't want to meet his family he called me about 40
times after I hung up over the course of
the next two days op is voted NTA update same post update I've talked to my dad
and his fiance I told her everything about everything their wedding was on
off for 11 days but now it's back on she didn't really say much to me about it
she mostly just brushed past it they want to come out here where I live and
have dinner with me and my mom my sister has also agreed to come to the dinner
but now he's talking about coming to stay with him for a little while and I
don't want to do that I'm a little nervous about the whole thing now and I
just don't want to start another dance with my father that ends badly for me
relevant comment I don't plan on going to the wedding or any other events that
include my dad after the dinner the only
reason that I agreed to go to the dinner was because my sister asked me not
because he asked me I don't have any interest in having a relationship with
my dad but I do think that it would be healthy if I didn't have any hatred for
him I don't want to be in this limbo where I just feel shy for the rest of my
life because I have hatred toward my dad and I felt like this was an easier way
to just deal with it and move on and let it go update two same post one and a
half months from the OG post final update I had dinner with my father and
and his new fiance as well as her children on May 18 I feel like I got a
lot of childhood feelings off of myself I explained to my father his fiance and
her family why I felt the way that I felt as well as my reasoning for not
wanting to come I told him that I had no intention of being in his life for the
necessary amount my dad did ask me quite a couple times if I was going to be up
to go to the wedding I did agree to go but I made it clear that I don't want to
be involved as an official member in his
life more so someone he might see around the holiday days birthdays or special
events but other than that I have no intentions of seeing or interacting with
him he seemed fine with that and it was a perfect solution for me I've been told
by many of you as well as people in my personal life that I should just cut him
out of my life and move on I just feel that having unresolved feelings is
unhealthy not having answers to things that you could have answers seems kind
of ridiculous if you have the option to get the answers that you want my
relationship with my father is never going to be great it's never going to be
perfect it's probably never going to be anything
other than okay because I don't really think I can see him as anything other
than a deadbeat dad but I'm going to try
my best to be civil because I don't want to have any more unresolved feelings
with anybody else I know that it's been over a month since my last update but
during that time I finished my senior year with Four B's and Four A's I turned
18 on the 21st of May I graduated high school and started a new job it's been a
pretty busy month and so honestly I wasn't even nervous about talking to my
father because I felt like it was just another thing to do but I'm glad it's
over and done with and I can move on with my life Second Story my delusional
wife is extremely controlling our 12-year-old son's life believing he
might develop toxic masculinity and even accuses me of having them when I try to
help my son had enough and lashed out at her now she attempted self harm and my
son is traumatized a bit of backstory I am from Puerto Rico and my wife is from
Suburban Kansas City I moved to New York City in 1984 and she moved here at 18
for college and fell in love with the city we actually met at a bar and had a
one night stand and she got pregnant at first we wanted her to get an abortion
but we kind of fell in love at the first
one night stand and got married when our son was 3 months old we are very very
different people I am from the South Bronx and grew up extremely rough I got
into fights have gotten stabbed have gotten shot at not a great upbringing I
wasn't the worst kid but my friends were
truly bad people and I mostly got out of that lifestyle by the time I met her so
basically we've raised our son and have had our ups and downs but we are both
successful at our jobs and whatnot but in the past year or two her attitude
towards certain things has changed here's just a list of what I'm talking
about she refuses to eat gluten this should give you a staple of The
Stereotype she fits into now she is now 100% vegan and gets extremely mad when
we eat meat in the house she goes to yoga three times a week and she cries
when we don't want to go with her she suddenly doesn't like movies with
violence drugs or partying she gets extremely protective of our son because
of this she doesn't let our son hang out with his friends sometimes because the
friends are too rowdy and come from uncultured families she doesn't let our
son bike around the neighborhood with his friends at all she needs to
constantly be with him when he is hanging out she literally took his iPod
and changed the music to what she considers good music this consists of
Justin Timberlake and Mumford and Suns mmore Taylor Swift type stuff mostly our
son liked electronic dance music and metal a lot this was one of the worst
things she did in my opinion she thinks that I am too masculine in the way I act
and constantly tries to correct the way I act saying I have toxic masculinity in
me she uses this near constantly when I tell her I don't like how she babies our
son she calls the cops on basically any crime she sees including one time when
we walked by a house party and she called the cops because underage
drinking was happening and she wants to keep her community safe one time she
also called the cops because a few Spanish teens were playing soccer in the
street and she just assumed they were up to no good that made me insanely upset
honestly this is just the tip of the iceberg this has been her for the past 2
3 years and we have gotten into near constant arguments about it I tell her
she is too sensitive about nearly everything and then she goes off on
Rants and tries to show me all these weird articles about how what I am doing
is gaslighting her she is also trying really really hard to act young like she
goes to Indie shows in Washington filled with 22-year-old hipsters and tries to
chat people up to make friends then when
she gets rejected or something like that from those Indie circles she comes home
cries in my arms and is depressed for days she wants so badly to be part of
that crowd she seems to have anxiety and
depression issues I do honestly feel bad
for her she keeps up this insane Persona she describes herself as a modern-day
hippie she spends all her time checking out new cafes and brunch spots with her
friends I know how this started she got a job at this new office filled with
young yuppies basically right after that
she changed into this I think to keep up with her co-workers but it clearly
turned into something much more devastating and damaging to her
self-esteem than that I just want her to be herself not this crazy person trying
to perfect everything around her to fit her worldview interestingly enough if
you have ever seen season 3 episode 1 of Black Mirror she reminds me insanely of
the main character of that episode but she is more willing to disrupt
everything around her to fit what she wants even if it inconveniences others
but this is all recent she was never like this four years ago she was just a
regular working woman who liked to relax and hang out and didn't take much
seriously like she does now we used to get drunk at dive bars together and we
used to party a bit it all hit a bad point about a week ago when my son who
has also been in conflict with her nearly constantly got into a major
argument with her the argument was over whether he could hang out with his
friends who were outside and she said no because there were too many of them and
she thought it was bad to hang out in such large groups this is the type of
sht she thinks about I know she really didn't want him out there because the
kids were mostly black and Spanish but he is half Puerto Rican he got so mad he
took dishes and began shattering them on the ground then he left and didn't come
back for 5 hours while my wife hysterically cried and called the cops
to find him since then he has not been allowed to leave the house and my wife
has cried nightly for losing our son she
has become extra horrible towards me and my son she thinks I am on his side
simply because I tried to defend him and
said she was overreacting but every time I say she is overreacting she has a
breakdown and says I am just doing what men do to women I don't even know what
to do anymore I know that this isn't her I know that she has developed some
serious mental problems in the past 2 3 years I know this isn't normal for her I
don't want to divorce her but I'm not sure if I can handle this any longer she
is broken down she is in bed crying nearly all day she will sometimes go off
yelling at me that I am the epitome of toxic masculinity and then an hour later
be crying in my arms saying she loves me more than anything is this some type of
Personality Disorder does she need therapy what can I say to make her calm
down I was thinking about writing a heartfelt letter about the way she has
been acting that way she can't interrupt me like she usually does with a
screaming I don't want to argue I just want to make my point and have her
respond but I don't want to seem as if I disapprove of her her entire lifestyle
and everything she has done what the hell do I do I feel so passive in this
situation and she goes nuts when she sees me acting completely normal while
she is crying yelling or whatnot as if every time she is acting crazy I have to
act crazy too about whatever she is crazy about at the moment what the f do
I do I do not want a divorce I want to help her we both still very much love
each other despite this madness tldr the wife is becoming insanely controlling
and is trying to to warp our family into her crazy way of life recently our son
got into a massive argument and broke stuff in the house and since then she
has fallen off the iceberg of insanity I do not want a divorce relevant comments
louva monster I think your wife has fallen into the perfect Modern Woman
trap a lot of women get this idea in their heads that they have to be a
perfect model of femininity feminism motherhood strength exuality
youthfulness social awareness cultural awareness Etc and frankly there there's
no woman alive that can be that perfect so it just spirals into panic and
feelings of failure your wife needs therapy you have to sit her down lay it
all out and tell her therapy is a must for your family to feel whole and
peaceful she needs to understand how serious this is op Li almost exactly I
am so glad you wrote that because it really makes me realize a lot of what
she is trying to do and why it is causing her so much stress also it helps
that it seems to be a common problem with women her age so she is isn't alone
I just want her to know that especially because I bet she looks around and
believes all the women around her especially at her job our perfect modern
women LP let me share something with you as an ex vegan her emotional distress
could very well be due to a vitamin D and or B12 deficiency I know it sounds
crazy but that sht is real and it makes you a depressed weeping wacko vegans
usually do not get enough vitamin D or B12 through their diet and both should
be supplemented this is scientific ly documented is she taking a B12
supplement her other crazy behaviors are more likely related to depression and a
sudden feeling like she has no identity she really could benefit from some
therapy or at least some parenting classes to help her find tools to
connect back to your son without damaging the relationship personally I
think she sounds too controlling over him but a lot of parents start this kind
of behavior when they suddenly realize their kids are independent first tell
your wife she needs to be taking B12 supplements at the very least and
ideally vitamin D2 see if that helps mellow out her moods I was shocked at
what a difference it made in mine op feeling like she has no identity is the
perfect way to describe it she came to NYC as a totally normal girl in a city
of extremely interesting people and I think when she came face to face with
that side of the city at her new job she just became overwhelmed with jealousy
for that lifestyle it's almost like if she can't be the perfect Modern Woman as
someone else who commented described it she can't be anything I am definitely
going to ask her about the B12 thing that could easily be a solution but it's
not going to solve her ongoing issues she only became vegan like 6 months ago
these issues have been going on for years now Kitt meow meow God Almighty
man I'm so sorry for you you need to give her an ultimatum and I usually
think that's a bad idea of couples and individual therapy you may have to start
with couples or you may have to find a divorce lawyer this is seriously
stunting your poor son never mind yourself now is the time to be a good
father and intervene in a way that helps your son live a normal life op I am
thinking about this but I have mentioned therapy before and she accused me of
gaslighting her and got even more sad I am going to make a true heartfelt
request that we both go to therapy I don't feel as if I need it for myself
but I know she will feel better if I act as if we both need it update two months
later I figured I would update this with all the craziness that has happened my
wife had an absolute breakdown with both
me and my son and she basically ran away and got drunk at a bar then came back
and threatened to kill herself with pills I called the police they came and
by the time they came she was just crying on the couch and the cops left I
didn't really know what to do my son was
crying and everything I told her she had to go to a mental hospital or see a
doctor as soon as possible and she then got even more mad at me and then she
went upstairs and just started screaming like an insane person she did end up
going to the Doctor Who diagnosed her with with B12 deficiency at a severe
level just like you guys said she has been taking pills and I can't even
describe what has changed in her she went from an absolute downward spiral
into madness and controlling everything to becoming a much more clear-minded
calm person she sometimes feels weird about admitting just how wrong she was
about certain things and she said she never realized how blind she was to how
horrible she was treating the people around her she said her anxiety over
things would sometimes Spike through the
roof and she relied on blogs she read on
on the internet to help control her life I am glad she has been able to admit
these things I honestly feel like some of it wasn't entirely a B12 deficiency
though or at least she might be retracking a lot of the stuff she did
and said that had nothing to do with the deficiency like her going vegan was a
symptom of the original problem not like
veganism is bad she was desperate to fit in with the young yepy crowd I'm not
sure if she is purposely blaming all of her old weird problems on B12 deficiency
but that weird stuff started before she went vegan so I think there were still
some insecurity problems there I'm just glad she has spent the last 2 weeks
realizing how problematic she has been she said she was in a trance where she
thought the entire world was against her and the things she read on the internet
confirmed that there was some Global conspiracy as she describes it to make
her a dependent person or some sht like that I'm just so glad she's back so so
glad the wife had a severe B12 deficiency causing her to go mad thank
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it's fake Photoshop AI I just found out that my husband has a whole other wife
and child I'm shocked and don't know what to do this is a long and
complicated story I'm sorry if some things are confusing or don't make sense
I am a mess right now and trying to wrap
my brain around everything as well I met my husband Jake fake name about four
years ago on Tinder Jake comes from a different country than where I am from
but he was my type and when we started talking I was blown away by how charming
and sweet he was this version of Jake never went away he has always been this
amazing ly charming and sweet person he's the type of person who when you
finished having a conversation with him makes you feel better about yourself
just to give you some context he and I fell in love quickly and got married
fast two he was very eager to start a family as it gave his citizenship in my
country more legitimacy by our second anniversary we were married and I was
pregnant with our son Jake still works in his home country and so every few
months he flies back and stays there with his mother or so I thought
completes the work required and then flies back the rest of the work he can
do at home the last few years with Jake have
genuinely been the most amazing years of my life and this is why the last week
feels like such a fever dream this is hard to explain but a person on Facebook
messaged me last Tuesday claiming that Jake had been cheating on me and that
they had proof I genuinely didn't believe this person and at first just
ignored them but then curiosity got the better of me and I messaged back and
asked what proof they had they proceeded to send me a large collection of photos
of Jake with another woman and two boys I know these photos were relatively
recent as he dyed his hair blonde for the Barbie movie at my request and has
kept it like that ever since the person told me that the woman in the photo was
his wife and the two boys were his sons I obviously didn't want to believe it so
I tried to find ways it was fake Photoshop AI whatever I don't even know
I think the person blocked me after that as their account just comes up as
Facebook user now when I look at the chats when I got home I confronted Jake
and he started crying and confessing that everything was true and that he had
a wife and two sons who looked to be about 13 and N but I could be wrong
that's just my best guess in his home country and that he was still married to
the woman I asked him how he could do this to me how could he have lied to me
for so long I told him I was going to expose him to the other wife and he said
not to bother because she already knows and supports him I left and I have been
staying with my mother ever since this has been the hardest week of my life and
some days I genuinely haven't wanted to get out of bed Jake has been texting me
saying that he will break things off with the other wife completely if that's
what I want and he texted me saying he thought I wouldn't mind which genuinely
made me SOB into my pillow I have never felt so low part of me stupidly I know
wants to take him back the years I had with him were the best I have ever had
but this betrayal is just I don't even know how to explain the hurt I feel
update one sorry I've had to post this update on a Reddit account for some
reason Reddit won't let me post it for my original account I have edited the
original post to say there is an update here hi guys first and foremost I would
like to thank you all for all the advice and support everyone has given me since
I posted my original post 4 days ago it's been over a week since I left to go
stay with my mother and this time away from Jake has been so so good for me and
allowed me to see what was really important to me since I originally
posted Jake and I have been talking and he let me know that he has broken things
off with his other wife apparently apparently it wasn't even a legal
marriage thing he explained to me that when he was a child his parents and his
wife's parents arranged for them to be married this happened when he was 7
years old BTW but it wasn't a legal wedding just a ceremonial thing that
links his family with hers he said that he never actually loved her but was
required to marry her or that his father had to pay so much to his wife's family
as like punish M I guess I felt really bad for him I could tell he didn't want
to be with her at all and was only doing it so his family was okay the
relationship isn't real on either side which is what he was trying to tell me
when he said his wife supports him they're only married because they're
required to be I'm so relieved now that he's explained everything to me he told
me he wouldn't be contacting her again but because of this we will have to send
a small amount of money to the wife's family for the foreseeable future which
of course is not ideal but it is better than the alternative of him going over
to be with her every few months I wish he had just told me the truth from the
start but don't worry I've signed us up for coup's therapy I know this is likely
not the result you guys expected or wanted so many of you were so
bloodthirsty for him without even understanding what he was going through
the thing that kind of concerns me now is what the relationship will be like
between my son and his other half siblings I think I would like to foster
a relationship between them if I can I'm just glad to be back with Jake I love
him so much edit okay I'm out of here you all are bigoted to other cultures
and traditions you know nothing about me and Jake and the fact that so many of
you have tried to say he is a groomer shows how sick some of your World Views
are get yourself sorted and get your axe together story two AA for wanting to
reveal my Affair partner's cheating to her husband I've been involved in an
affair actually my girlfriend SL partner has been having an affair with me for
the last four months I won't go into detail but I feel horrible and disgusted
I've always hated cheating and I never want anything good to come to cheaters
but now I've gotten mixed up in it and it's eating me alive so 4 months ago I
met this woman she is 29 at my gym and we pretty much connected instantly over
the course of 4 months we became a couple went on many dates and had sex
plenty of times I was a virgin before I met her I never had a girlfriend or sex
and I really felt that life finally kicked in for me and that things would
get better I'm 24 and before I met her I always felt like a reject and a weirdo
because of my lack of success in dating and relationships the other day by
chance I found out she has a husband and I wanted to bury myself on the spot I
felt so bad I can't put it into words she wanted to have sex after we had a
date but I lied and told her that I couldn't do it that day because I had
something planned I came home and I was ashamed of myself I managed to find her
husband on social media and I've been going back and forth on wanting and how
to reveal everything I saved all our chats pictures and I even have some
receipts from our dinners I talked to my mom about it and she told me that since
I managed to find him and since I have evidence I should inform him my mom told
me that he deserves to know and if it were up to her she would have revealed
everything but she told me that it's my decision to make I feel like this woman
played both me and her husband and now I
hate myself update short and straight to the point I used a fake and Anonymous
account to send him details and some pictures I also told him that I have
more evidence that I would like to share he didn't respond until yesterday where
he said that he wants to know more today I sent him everything and explained
everything in detail turns out he already suspected her of cheating he
just didn't have any proof he wasn't angry or sad he was just disappointed a
lot he also thought I would be older he said that he doesn't blame me it was
wasn't my fault he told me that he owes me big time because he wanted to hire
somebody to find out if she was actually cheating so I actually saved him both
time and money after I explained everything he was mostly relieved and
thanked me for helping him and asked if there is something he could do to repay
me I said that he should help somebody else and that will make us even he
thanked me told me that I'm a good guy and that was mostly it he will file for
divorce in case anybody is wondering I haven't heard from my AP for a few days
now and I'm pretty sure he didn't tell her where he got all the proof from
because she didn't call and yell at me I blocked her on everything anyway after
my talk with her husband and it's time to move forward shitty experience from a
first relationship but what can you do my ex was badly injured in a motorcycle
accident Ida for divorcing him my wife and I separated last year she found
someone she liked better and he left his
wife for her not going to lie it hurt we did the legal separation and started on
the divorce she is on my health insurance until the divorce is final I
have met someone new through my sister we are taking it slow but she seems to
like me two weeks ago my ex was out with with her boyfriend on his motorcycle
they hit a patch of gravel and crashed unfortunately he was knocked unconscious
and ended up in the ditch where he drowned she broke her femur and is in
the hospital still I went by to check on her and she asked me if we could put a
hold on the divorce I said I would think about it I spoke to my lawyer and she
said that it was a bad idea to change the timeline we had established for the
dissolution of our marriage my ex will be getting money from the accident I
imagine however her boyfriend's ex-wife and kids will be getting his estate and
insurance payout my mom and dad think that I am being evil to cut her off in
her time of need I'm conflicted I do not
wish this situation on anyone but she is not really my problem anymore I looked
through my husband's email and I think I found evidence of him cheating I'm not
sure what to do I 30f don't know where exactly to start he 32m is working late
tonight or that is what he says so I thought I'd take some time to write in
and ask for advice sorry for this being disjointed I've been pretty emotional
and crying a lot this evening we have been together since college and have
been married for the last eight years right after college graduation for me we
were perfect for each other many friendships have come and gone but we've
always found contentment in each other we were both adventurous and did some
traveling together when we were first married we argued but not a lot we had
kids the first planned child was 6 years ago the second surprise child is now
three since having kids it's been tough to get time together both of our parents
live a few hours drive away so there aren't many babysitters we've found that
can handle our rambunctious boys my husband works a demanding stressful job
and has had to cancel vacation plans more than once over the last 6 years
because of a terrible boss we were seeing each other for what felt like
minutes every day and our children while
wonderful demanded a lot of our time and energy his boss changed about 6 months
ago immediately his hours became more reasonable and his stress levels went
down still long hours and travel some days but better we had evenings together
again but something was different it felt like We Were Strangers just
roommates who had kids together we were just so exhausted from the last few
years that we Must Have Spent A couple months using any spare time we had once
the kids were in bed crashing watching Netflix Etc just boring stuff and all
along I felt very disconnected from the man who was supposed to be my partner so
we talked about it I told him I missed him we had a few conversations about
feeling disconnected we hired a sitter went on some dates and things started to
feel better he's been more loving and attentive he bought me flowers again I
was feeling so hopeful like I was getting my partner back
about a month ago I noticed something I think I wasn't supposed to he has been
talking about this work trip coming up for a week in August it's been a bit of
a sore spot for me since in my mind summer is for family vacations not work
trips but I've been being understanding however when he was in the shower his
phone beeped and I saw an email from someone named Allison entitled our trip
I felt a little weird looking at it but when I asked him about it he checked his
phone and told me it was a spam email I didn't think of it after that but since
then I haven't seen his phone left out out again I found something else about a
week ago it was a receipt for a jewelry store and it was a sizable sum money has
never really been terribly tight for us but even I was surprised by how much it
was I felt a sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach and I admit looked for his
personal laptop to see if I could snoop through his emails but he'd taken his
personal laptop to work something he'd never done I was getting nervous but
somehow I didn't want to bring it up with him maybe I was trying not to
believe it but this morning I found his credit card bill in his sock drawer why
was he hiding it you ask there were transactions going back over the last
month all for stores that men typically don't shop at I added them up and he has
spent a few hundred on what looks like women's clothing and lingerie I haven't
seen anything from these stores in our house so who are they for he is working
better hours but is still away some evenings he could be spending at least
an evening a week with someone else I don't know what to think but I fear the
worst is there someone else was I too unavailable when our kids were younger
is he going on a trip with them is is it this Allison person what am I going to
do if he leaves me he's buying her presents for God's sake doesn't that
usually mean a man is moving on or falling in love somewhere else I don't
know what to do I don't know any of his passwords so I can't Snoop I could call
his office to make sure he is actually there when he says he is but if I talk
to anyone I think I'm just going to start balling again he should be home in
a few hours what am I going to do I don't want to raise my kids alone I
don't want to be alone the comments are making me very scared I I am thankful
for everyone who is talking to me though even when it's hard to hear I've calmed
down a bit read no longer sobbing and I'm going to call my older sister to
talk to a real person about this she lives a couple hours away but we have
always been close and she knows my husband well I will try to update again
later thank you again to everyone edit I just had a very strange conversation
with my sister I told her everything I was getting really worked up and
emotional and crying again she interrupted me and told me sis it's
going to be fine you need to calm down and talk to your husband when he gets
home I promise everything is okay hang up the phone take a bath or something
calm down and wait for your husband to get home then she said she loved me and
she hung up what the hell is going on with my life today I feel like she just
blew me off she didn't seem to react to what I was saying but most commenters
here seem pretty sure that something bad is going on I feel like I'm going crazy
edit three right after I posted my edit about my sister in the phone call my
husband been texted he said my sister had called him and he was on his way
home update 1 I immediately freaked out because I did not feel ready to talk to
him I was super pissed at my sister for calling him and to be honest I felt like
the entire world was falling down around my ears I broke down I didn't even know
where I was but when I heard the front door open I realized I was on my knees
in the kitchen sobbing my husband skitted around the corner and when I saw
him I just started crying harder he dropped to the ground in front of me and
started apologizing and I just lost it I
started shaking my head and saying no no no over and over again I couldn't even
hear what he was saying he tried to hug me and I held my arms out all stiff like
a kid does when they don't want to hug just holding him back it took me a few
minutes to register what he was saying but he was repeating over and over I'm
sorry for scaring you please listen to me you need to hear what's going on I'm
not cheating please listen to me just over and over I finally stopped and just
said what I was just so drained and Confused it was good news I saw some of
the comments in the original post saying maybe it was a surprise and you folks
get the grand prize the story all came out after our big talk about
reconnecting he called my sister for advice my sister's idea was to have him
Spirit me away for a surprise weekend getaway while she and my bill took the
kids she connected him to her friend a travel agent remember Allison to get the
ball rolling the plan evolved into my sister and parents trading off with the
kids for the week the jewelry receipt is for a necklace for me to wear out to
dinner on our trip the credit card charges are for some fancy clothes in
lingerie he got me for the trip he took some of my clothes with him to get the
sizes right and got a lot of help from the sales people he says they are my
style but they could be bags for all I care at this point so why the surprise
my sister told him that it would be better if it was a surprise because it
would be romantic that way she didn't count on me finding out early and
assuming the worst I have had mild anxiety issues all my life that have
been worse since having kids but this was the worst it's ever been I've never
felt so totally out of control in my life life he didn't tell me all of this
right away some of it came out in that first moment in the kitchen but when I
realized it was not the end of my marriage I pretty much became incoherent
with relief this is embarrassing but I sobbed so hard that I vomited a little
at least it was on the lolium the rest he told me after I calmed down we talked
until late last night he showed me all the emails showed me our destination and
we got excited together I am not mad at him at all which he is relieved by
apparently my sister called him with a red alert get home now before your wife
calls a lawyer message she knows I have some anxiety issues so I may have to get
after her about the decision to keep this all a big secret for me right now
I'm too relieved to be upset I am a little concerned by how unhinged I
became I think I need to work on that it's not like me what am I going to do
if a real crisis comes along some people were saying that I am codependent maybe
they are right but that's for later for now I'm enjoying my day with the kids
and looking forward to my trip thank you for all the advice and good wishes from
you all I'm sorry for worrying anyone you are wonderful people to spend your
time with ready to help a stranger through the screen I hope your lives can
all take an unexpected yet wonderful turn my boyfriend told me that he
prefers pink cat but I'm black this is so embarrassing so I made this throw
away my boyfriend and I have been together for a year now and everything
is moving forward smoothly we have great chemistry and the sex was mind-blowing
until about 2 weeks ago when we were having pillow talk after a great sex
session then he opened up and mentioned that he loved pink Pussycats and that it
made him go crazy that he preferred it I told him that well that means the
majority of Po girls aren't preferable to him he Shrugged and said that this
was what everyone actually preferred but
it doesn't take from the girl I told him that I disagreed with everybody because
not everyone subscribed to the white ideal he Shrugged again honestly I
didn't care much about it at the time personal preference I thought but now I
been avoiding him like the plague the thought of him gives me shutters he has
been texting me every day and trying to call but I am not ready to talk to him
yet I think I am ending things with him but I don't think it is polite to do it
via text when we have been together for a year and I am simply not ready to see
him yet so I've been avoiding him my
friends call me the [ __ ] but for
different reasons the majority because I am insecure and feel inferior dumped a
man because of his preference when everything else is great and he loves me
he made it very clear that this preference doesn't have anything to do
with what he wants from a partner I honestly don't think this is the issue
here but I feel insecure others because I didn't react strongly enough but then
again I didn't really think that I had any right to scold someone over their
preferences there's no right or wrong have I messed up update so I did it and
I sent him the text suggested by one of your beautiful Reddit users he texted me
that he wanted to see me and at least he wanted to know what's wrong and if he
did anything to make me mad so I texted I think we should see other people he
answered about an hour later saying he wanted to come over to talk so I guess
we are having the talk later this evening wish me luck update to so he was
here and we talked I let him do almost all the talking and he started saying
that he missed me and that he loved loved me I told him that I felt like
something switched off and I got the ick
I don't think it is fixable he got angry and called me insecure saying that he
didn't mean it that way these things aren't important in the scheme of things
and I am the best he's been with not only sexually I disagree that I am
insecure because I don't recognize myself as one I am just turned off and I
thought we should call it quits before we waste more of each other's time we
had a conversation and this is how it went it is not like I am the only one
who thinks that everyone does think what you know ask anyone and those who say
otherwise are lying like ask who like my
friends they all like white girls okay I
see you are being insecure again I don't care because I love you it doesn't
matter no it doesn't matter at all but at the same time I am not really
attracted to you anymore we can't control these things he got upset and
said see we want to give you plural a chance but you are always so dramatic
and you wonder why we prefer white women just relax be fun you just said you
didn't care silent then he said look I didn't mean it that way but you really
need to relax I love you you are the best sex I've had then it just got
awkward and quiet afterwards so he said he was leaving and asked to just not
jump into things he texted later that things didn't go as he hoped and that he
was sorry and didn't mean what he said then at least think before giving him an
answer I answered that I was very sure that this was over and that I didn't
need to think things through he called me easily offended then the texting
bubble was there for almost a minute so I texted before you write something
stupid In the Heat of the Moment don't it wasn't n't Worth US sinking this low
I prefer ending things on good terms the bubble disappeared and he just wrote I
just can't believe I'm losing you over this then I love you this is it I didn't
and won't answer him BS everything is paraphrased besides the text the
conversation was longer but went in this direction this is my update now good
night final update today I had a talk with my ex-boyfriend's best friend's
wife her husband told her everything and
as many here suspected it wasn't just an innocent comment or a preference was
negligible my ex-boyfriend meant to say it to me to make me feel insecure and
even grateful that he sticks around like oh he must love me if he doesn't mind
how I look basically he thinks I am too awesome to be with someone like him so
he's been terrified that I would leave him well it backfired because I kind of
get turned off by someone making me insecure I am even the opposite I am
very needy of feeling praised and appreciated to feel attracted to someone
he must be dumb as hell not to know this
about me after a year of dating the more I appreciate it the more affection and
compliments I get from him he thought comparing a brown girl to a white girl
was a good idea because apparently we are all too insecure when it comes to
white girls my question now is to you does putting your girlfriend down really
ever work to keep her is this really a thing it must be because so many have
suggested it and it turned out to be the case here do people really stay with
someone who puts them down it hit me now that the relationship has ended and I
feel terrible sadness about it what a silly thing to pull off on your
girlfriend and blow a perfectly happy relationship what a waste of good love
he was story two my friend friend 36f manipulated me 28f into believing my
boyfriend 27m was having an affair this is a complicated story so I'll use fake
names for everyone boyfriend Tom my friend Jess boyfriend's friend Kim my
techsavvy friend Rich Tom and I have been together for 3 years and he's been
a very affectionate and loving boyfriend during that time I would have said yes
if he had proposed to me Kim is a friend
that he knows from work I've always been a little uncomfortable with their
relationship but I never had a reason to believe that Tom and Kim were doing
anything behind my back until Jess told me that she saw them at dinner together
on a Friday night where Tom told me he was working late obviously I was
devastated Tom is the most standup and honest man I know so I never expected in
a million years that he would even lie to me let alone have an affair I didn't
believe Jess at first but then she showed me a blurry picture of the two
together I couldn't see either of their faces but I saw body figures that
greatly resembled both of them I also saw the man wearing a watch Tom always
wears a watch and Tom's favorite Vineyard Vine tie thrown over his
shoulder I was convinced Jess told me that if I could get my boyfriend's phone
she'd be able to bypass the password and get all the messages that were on it
even the deleted ones she gave me a stack of papers that she claimed were
correspondence between Tom and Kim which clearly indicated an affair between the
two again I was devastated the papers show that he called her the same
nickname he called me that cut really deep I tried to approach Tom with this
information in mind casually do you have anything to tell me I tried to be extra
affectionate and loving with him throughout this and he always
reciprocated the love which disgusted me but gave me hope that he'd end his
alleged affair with Kim every time I jumped through Jess's Hoops to check
Jess would tell me that the affair was still ongoing after two weeks yesterday
I confronted Tom with everything and unsurprisingly he denied it I told him
that I was willing to fight for our relationship if he was willing to meet
me halfway Tom continued to deny everything and he told me that if I
didn't believe him then we had no relationship I didn't believe him he
slept on the couch and promised me he'd be out of the house by the end of the
week I was so upset last night that I could not sleep I cried for a really
long time and Tom heard me crying he even tried to come in and comfort me but
I cussed him out and told him to leave this morning Jess was busy with work so
I went to a tech savvy friend Rich for help with what Jess had done
traditionally I gave Rich the phone and he told me that my demands were
impossible he said you cannot bypass the password on my boyfriend's phone it's a
work phone without deleting the text messages I teased him about not being as
familiar with this stuff as he thought but he adamantly stuck with his claim
when I showed him the papers that Jess gave me he told me they were fake and he
proved to me they were fake by making
his own [ __ ] my life I have absolutely
no idea what to do and no one to talk to about this Rich told me he's looking
into everything but I don't know if he'll come up with much when I came home
Tom was already gone with his stuff and I have no way of reaching him directly
because I'm the one with his phone I don't know what to do I don't even know
what's really going on in my life anymore edit there are lots of questions
about this so I'll try to clarify I took my boyfriend's phone when he went out
for his run since he doesn't listen to music when he's jogging the Run sort of
contributed to my suspicion but he's been doing this since I've met him when
I confronted my boyfriend I didn't show him the proof but I told him I had
conclusive evidence and he said that that was impossible at the time I
thought he was lying Jess has not replied to any of my voicemails or
messages update one I returned Tom's phone to him and we talked about the
situation I tried to explain everything but he told me that trust in our
relationship was irreparable and that I needed to learn how to effectively
communicate my concerns he's a firm believer that without trust there is no
relationship so officially split up he initiated NC and I have not spoken with
him since I finally got a hold of Jess through the phone and she admitted she
lied but she won't tell me why I'm sure she has not slept with Tom but I can't
be sure she isn't trying I'm unbelievably mad right now mostly at
myself story two my fiance had a sexual relationship with an older man who works
for her father and I don't want him at my wedding prior to getting together
with my fiance she had a long-term relationship with an older man he's 52
now but he was 46 when they started up she was 19 at the time this relationship
has never been exclusive her father is a contractor and this man has worked with
him for many years my fiance initiated the relationship and it has been a
secret between the two of them my fiance told me that when we became exclusive
there would be no secrets but their physical relationship went right up
until she started dating me the problem now is that she sees him often due to
his relationship with her father and he's invited to the wedding their
relationship has been exclusively sexual and it angers me when I see them around
each other to the point that I'm using sex to cope the last time I saw them
together was at her father's 61st birthday party and I got so angry that I
took my fiance upstairs and we had sex in her childhood bedroom while the party
was still going on to my fiance's credit she lets me cope this way but it isn't
healthy I don't want him at the wedding but if I say anything I will need to
provide a reason her father would beat the bag out of him if he knew about it
in addition to firing him so my fiance doesn't want to say anything since she
says he really didn't do anything wrong she was an adult before anything
happened and he hasn't tried anything since we've been together but this guy
knew her as a kid and the whole thing is
creepy what should I do am I out of line here this is a throwaway account since
the parties involved know my Reddit account edit thanks for all the comments
at least I know that I am not being unreasonable my fiance also understands
how I feel and doesn't want him at her wedding either and the wedding isn't the
only issue it's his continued presence in our lives which she doesn't want as
much as I do but the situation is combustible she feels responsible for
initiating the relationship in the first place and is embarrassed she thought at
the time that hooking up with this older guy made her a badass she certainly
doesn't think that we anymore and doesn't want her whole family to know
what she did and believe me I get that whatever I ask her to do to make me feel
comfortable she will do but I love her and I don't want to embarrass her in
front of her family or make her feel guilty for Wrecking this guy's life
perhaps I just need to be stronger update I believe my problem has been
resolved and by some miracle has worked out for both myself and my fiance we
started talking this weekend and I told her that I could get through the wedding
at the the old guy was there but I would
always feel uncomfortable around him but I had also decided that I would feel
worse if I forced her to reveal the relationship to her family so I said I
could be strong and get over it she started to cry a little and said she
didn't want me to have to be strong she legitimately doesn't understand why I
feel threatened by this particular guy she said he's an overweight 52-year-old
who didn't finish high school he's no threat to you she had turned him down
multiple times before we even met she got out her old phone which had the text
to prove it but the sexual nature of those texts on his part made me feel
worse than when we started the conversation my fiance could tell and
she even looked offended when reading them again I could see her getting
pissed the longer she looked at them so right there she just dialed his number
and put it on speaker she told him that she'd been reading some old texts and
she's thinking that she doesn't want to see his face again but wanted to give
him a heads up before she told her father he begs and apologizes he thought
she liked it this went on for a while and my fiance can run a bit hot so some
things were said that even I thought were a bit harsh if anyone wants to hear
them ask I'll reply in the comments anyway she hangs up and gets a text from
him this morning that he is moving to Florida he's got a cousin down there he
can work with so the problem solved on my end if he stays true to his word and
stays away my fiance won't have to tell her father so it went all around thanks
for all the advice everyone it was appreciated my mom kicked me out 2 years
ago all in favor of her new boyfriend who bullied me in high school and now
she wants to amend things my dad passed away when I was only one it's been me
and my mom ever since as you can guess my mom and I were very close when I was
a sophomore in high High School my mom got a part-time job as a gym teacher at
my school I supported her when she asked
if I would be comfortable with it it was extremely uncomfortable when guys would
make comments on my mom's appearance it also gave ammo to Brad who bullied me in
high school he would make inappropriate comments about her towards me Brad was a
year ahead of me so I thought I was finally rid of him after he graduated I
was wrong when I became a senior my mom started going out very often initially I
was happy for her because I wanted her to find someone nice however it came to
a point where barely got any time together to be frank I thought she was
avoiding me this was because whenever I tried to make plans with her she had
already made plans before I sort of kept it to myself because I didn't want to
come off needy I didn't complain when she missed my birthday because she was
out all night when she tried to apologize the next day I told her it was
okay after 6 months of this Behavior I decided to take action I asked my mom if
we could have dinner together just the two of us she said she was too busy I
got fed up and told her to stop ignoring me she said that she wasn't ignoring me
but that she had a life to live that really hurt me a lot out of anger I
started to ignore her for a few days after those days passed she finally
apologized to me however she said she needed to talk to me about something
important she wanted to introduce me to her boyfriend at dinner she didn't sound
excited about it it sounds like she almost dreaded it when the door rang my
mom opened it up and introduced the guy to me I was in extreme shock it was Brad
I almost screamed at my mom asking her what is he doing here Brad came forward
to acknowledge that this situation was uncomfortable but he's sorry for how he
treated me in school and that he really cares about my mom my mom asked us to
sit and let her explain how this all happened I remember screaming I don't
give a [ __ ] about your explanation you
toss me aside for this piece of [ __ ]
you're a pathetic excuse of a mother my mom then defended him when said don't
you dare call him that she then said she tried to accommodate everyone in this
tough situation by keeping the relationship away from me she then said
like it or not Brad is here to stay if you don't like it you're more than
welcome to leave I packed my bags right there and then I called my grandma and
told her about the whole situation she drove to my house and confronted my mom
after a shouting match between them I left with my grandma my mom tried
calling me several weeks after but I blocked her she tried to visit me but I
called the cops on her after that she sort of gave up it had been 2 years
since I'd heard from my mom then I get a call from her yesterday she said it's
urgent and we need to meet up I don't know if I should go update well
curiosity got the best of me there was also a burning desire to unload on her I
finally texted back my mom asking where should we meet she said we could meet
for for lunch at the restaurant at p.m. I didn't have any class today so I
was good to go when I arrived at the restaurant I heard some woman scream my
name it was my mom who I haven't seen for 2 years she asked how was I and said
she would hug me but said she knew I would reject it her voice was shaking
when she asked me to follow her to her table unsurprisingly Brad was sitting
there he didn't even look me in the eye as we sat down he just nodded his head
as if to Simply acknowledge my arrival as my mom sat down she started shooting
out multiple questions what you've been up to are you in school how's it going I
got annoyed and told her stop wasting my time with these questions what do you
want from me she responded well before we tell you can we explain how all of
this happened I said sure for those of you asking me to get her ass in trouble
with the school board I hate to break it to you but they never interacted with
each other when Brad was in school Brad only knew about her because his friends
would take pictures of her before gym class started and share them with
everyone it was Brad who approached her at a bar she didn't recognize him so he
told her he went to the high school she works at and graduated recently my mom
was lonely and jokingly told him she wouldn't tell anyone that he wasn't 21
as long as he hung out with her they exchanged numbers and made a promise to
hang out with each other she said she knew that I wouldn't be comfortable with
her seeing a peer of mine so she kept it a secret and convinced herself it was
going to be a short and Casual relationship eventually the relationship
got serious when she was hanging out at his house she asked him about
introducing him to me he told her it wasn't a good idea she responded by
saying I'll get over the age Gap relationship he was forced to come clean
about the relationship I had with him in high school that's when my mom started
tearing up and her voice was shaking she
said she was in shock about what she had
done she couldn't sleep at night because of the guilt she couldn't even look at
me without feeling immense guilt she had
him blocked on her phone after a week he sent him a message on Facebook to at
least meet him once she obliged he showed up with roses and begged for
forgiveness he even said he'll apologize to me in person and that he's a changed
person she took him back the next was the day she invited him to dinner my mom
burst into tears and begged me to forgive her for hurting me she then said
these two years have been painful for her finally Brad spoke and admitted she
misses you like crazy dude she still needs you in her life my mom said I am
sorry for being an awful mother we want to make it up to you we're moving to
California and we want you to come with us we will foot the bill for your
education and everything else you won't have to work at all you'll have a
permanent place in our home I don't know what the hell came to me but I started
laughing like crazy like a madman it was
the most ridiculous proposition now this is what makes me the monster this is
what I really came there for after I calmed down this is what I said to her
mom you must be the most delusional [ __ ]
if you think I'll ever forgive you you are dead to me for good the only
acknowledgement you'll get for me is me pissing on Your Grave when you pass away
then she was hysterically crying I got up from the table and left the
restaurant only a minute after walking to the parking lot I hear my mom
screaming at Brad to stop following me I really wanted this confrontation the
moment he grabs my shirt I turn around and suck or punch him in the face he
drops on the road with his mouth bleeding my mom comes to physically
restrain him from hurting me until he calms down I told them this is what I
think about your proposal it's been 4 hours now after the incident I know deep
down I should be ashamed of myself but I feel amazing inside I don't know if
adrenaline can last that long it feel like I took my power back edit I don't
what job Brad has my mom on the other hand has been saving up money ever since
my father passed I remember her telling me if I got good grade she'll take out a
loan for me to pay for my school and pay
it back herself story two my best friend
from childhood invited me to her wedding but forgot to assign me a seat I spent
the night alone in a separate room my childhood best friend 23f got married
this weekend and I was so excited to be there to support her on her big day I'm
a chocolate here so the bride asked me if I could create the wedding favors and
dessert table I was ecstatic to help with the wedding and went above and
beyond to create a gorgeous table that was a huge hit on the day I was told
early on that the wedding was over budget and to keep costs low my
boyfriend was not invited I was extremely understanding and even reduced
my rates for the sweet table as my present to the couple a couple weeks
later after reviewing the guest list the bride informed me that my boyfriend
could come as my plus one but if he did I would be moved from the head table my
boyfriend is a wedding photographer and is looking to build his videography
portfolio knowing that the couple didn't
have a videographer he offered to film a professional wedding video free of
charge the bride was exstatic and offered to move us to the vendor table
so that we could network with the other vendors we loved the idea and it was
confirmed that we would be sitting with the vendors the day of the wedding we
arrived 4 hours early to help with the event my boyfriend spent the time
filming while I set up the dessert table
and helped the the event coordinator set the dinner tables after the ceremony
guests were moved to the cocktail room while the original room was converted
into the room for the reception while helping convert the room I noticed that
our names were not on the seating chart I asked the event coordinator where we
would be sitting and she said good question and left to find out she came
back to say that there was no vendor table and that if we were staying for
dinner my boyfriend and I would have to sit in a separate room as we were not on
the list the room was closed off from the reception so we couldn't hear or see
anything let alone talk to anybody I told the event coordinator that we were
in fact guests and that we should be moved into the reception room the event
coordinator herself was seated at one of the tables in the room I told her I was
a longtime friend of the bride and even originally meant to be seated at the
head table however the event coordinator
said she couldn't do anything about it I approached the bride to explain the
situation she mentioned that it was definitely a mix-up and that we should
be in the room the bride mentioned that she didn't want to undermine me as a
businesswoman so she never told the event coordinators that we were friends
or that I was a guest she left the coordination of the vendor table to the
event coordinator and left it off of the seating chart the event coordinator was
not made aware that any of the vendors besides herself and the MC were staying
for the reception and therefore didn't think to add us in although I understand
the mixup the bride did nothing to get us moved to the main room my boyfriend
and I were cut off from the reception with no one to speak to no way to see or
hear and even had to ask to be fed as a result I missed the entire wedding and
spent the majority of the evening crying in the bathroom waiting to move the
dessert table into the main room after dinner so that we could leave my
boyfriend continued to film everything as he was committed to getting a
beautiful video for his portfolio the next morning I emailed the bride about
the experience she apologized profusely and said she was scatterbrained on the
day and didn't think to do anything about it she feels extremely guilty and
would still like to be friends I would like to forgive her but I am still
extremely hurt update one after reading everyone's responses and doing some
reflecting I've come to the conclusion that she's not my friend our
relationship in the past few months has mostly consisted of her blowing me off
and me interpreting it as though she was busy she moved across the country 2
years ago but flies here often most of the coup's friends friends and family
still live here which is why they decided to have their wedding here every
time she's come to visit we've tried to make plans which would end with me being
blown off the excuse was always that some last minute thing came up which is
why she didn't have time to see me she called me months before her engagement
party to let me know that I would be invited to it but I was never actually
invited I responded to pictures of it online just saying gorgeous and she
explained that I wasn't invited because her Mill planned and didn't know her
friends moral of the story The only time I've seen her within the past year was
to do a free tasting for her wedding after she mentioned that she would not
finalize her order without a tasting we had plans to meet up the same week of
the tasting which she blew I reread her apologetic email and interpreted it
differently the second time the email mainly followed the structure of excuse
backslash but that's not an excuse in one section she wrote that although she
would still like to be friends she understands that I may not want to and
that's fine to me it seemed as though she was saying she wouldn't care if we
were to no longer be friends at the end of the email she added PS we would still
like the video despite making it a point prior to the wedding to let my boy
friend and I know that she couldn't care less about the wedding video although
she mentioned in her email that she would make it up to me I haven't heard a
word from her since I responded back to her email naively accepting the apology
the day after the wedding I watched my boyfriend's rough edit of the wedding
video this week and listened to her speech she added a section where she
thanked her friends for transcending the lines of friends and family she called
out a long list of names from the friend group mine wasn't included which sealed
the deal for me especially since I was so involved in the preparation of the
wedding that she wouldn't have just forgotten my name moving forward I will
be a lot more cautious with my circle and I'll definitely be more strict with
doing business with friends no more paying out of pocket my boyfriend has
agreed to not go out of his way to send her the video If she asks for it he will
send a link to a shortened version on his website I couldn't convince him to
add a watermark although that was my favorite solution thanks everyone for
your recommendations so we'll see if she comes around in a month or so I will
definitely not be reaching out my parents are trying to make me agree to
let my sister's boyfriend propose to my sister at my wedding I'm thinking about
disappearing for forever maybe this is the wrong place but I'm going to explode
with rage and disappointment at my family my baby sister is the golden
child or maybe that's unfair to say she survived cancer when she was a child it
was the darkest period of my parents life I don't remember much of it because
my parents shielded me from the horrific
truth I knew she was sick and I remember all my childhood spent in hospitals but
never did I know that my sister almost died until many many years later I was
12 and she was 10 after she beat her sickness she became the obvious favorite
in the house she got everything she wanted and sometimes it was at my
expense I resented that but I always heard that I was a naughty girl for
being jealous of my hero sister my sister grew up to be a brad now 20 years
later she's still bratty although we get along a lot better than when we were
teenagers SL young adults my wedding is in July neither my fiance nor I have the
money for a big wedding we settled for small wedding 30 people at my fiance's
grandparents who have a beautiful house with lake view my parents parents when
they heard this said no way and offered to pay for a bigger wedding and better
venue we didn't agree at first but later we did not want to disappoint them it
seemed like it was important to them last week my mom invited me over my dad
mom and my sister's boyfriend asked me what I would think if my sister's
boyfriend proposed to my sisters during the wedding so it becomes an engagement
party as well as a wedding mom has seen reels on Instagram about people
proposing to maid of honor SL bridesmaids and thought it cute my
sister is my maid of honor I said no that's ridiculous and laughed my mom was
livid she told me I was selfish and ungrateful and I accused her of
favoritism I told her I always thought it was odd that you'd pay for my wedding
but now I know the reason why she started crying and kicked me out of the
house later both she and my future brother-in-law sent me texts warning me
from exposing their plan to my sister my fiance was disappointed but not sure
what we could do my parents have spent almost $30,000 and it's too late to
cancel my mother called me today to plan the proposal and I begged her not to
ruin my day she told me since she was paying she can make requests and that I
should let go of my jealousy and resentment towards my sister because
she's innocent in all of this but the thing is this day will be about my
sister I told my fiance to ask his grandparents if they're still willing to
host my wedding if there I'll revert to our original plan if not I will just
alope not sure yet if I'm going to tell my family and cancel the wedding or just
let them have their grand proposal party none of my family is invited to my
wedding including my sister thank you for listening update one I can't tell
her since she has no idea her BF is going to propose and this would ruin the
whole thing at the same time it would be ruined anyway when I alope and she
wonders why but as of this morning my mom still says they're going ahead with
a proposal even without my help the original plan is that I should be the
one making the speech and telling my sister there's a surprise for her and
today is about us too blah blah blah and
then her girlfriends and boyfriend do so rehearse dance to their favorite song
and then he proposes if I know her well she wouldn't mind being proposed to on
my wedding day so it's a lose lose situation for me sometimes I think maybe
I should agree and get it over with but I'm so angry and my fiance actually
doesn't want me to cave this time since we both were happy with the backyard
wedding we even asked Mom to donate what she had planned on spending on the
wedding to the Childhood Cancer Fund in our names like what we've requested as a
wedding gift from our guests but she insisted on a party for the extended
family I had a back and forth texting with my future brother-in-law where he
called me jealous and bitter I have now blocked him he texted my fiance
apologizing but we didn't answer my plan now is to get married a week earlier at
my grandparents-in-law with 20 guests because we have managed to change our
honeymoon trip booking to be three instead of two weeks with departure day
the morning after the wedding my mom's wedding is already paid in full with no
refund possibilities with such short notice 3 weeks that was the whole point
I think to Spring this information on me so close to the wedding date so I can't
really do anything about it now they will have one week's heads up any anyway
when they see my wedding pictures on social media they will probably just
turn the wedding into an engagement party and have a blast so it's a win-win
I hope update two I really want to thank everyone that showed me support I'm now
happily married and in Ko Italy for my honeymoon I tried to stay away from my
phone but I was so curious to see my family's reaction to my elopement a week
earlier than planned it was really ugly I must start with saying that I really
tried my best to negotiate and compromise with my family and truly
explain that this was was hurting me I have nothing against my sister in TBH
nothing against her getting engaged on my wedding but the principle that it was
made very clear to me that I had absolutely no opinion or say in what was
going to happen on what supposed to be my special day was where I drew the line
it wasn't a wish or a request it was a matter of fact and it was decided so I
told my mom that I'm not going to attend the party she's paid for maybe they
should just make it an engagement party instead she got very upset and told me
that the engagement was supposed to be a surprise I told her that I was just
giving her the heads up since she's about to lose an insane amount of money
she didn't take me seriously like I wasn't going to cancel my wedding
because of a trivial thing what she didn't know is that I've already made
plans to get married a week earlier at my grandparents-in-law we invited our
closest friends and some even had to book earlier flights and take more
vacation days for these people I was extra grateful what was left was my
sister I've been back and forth arguing and negotiating with my parents and Bill
I decided that even if this would ruin her surprise I had to tell her so I did
she wasn't really happy with my mom but she was more upset that I ruined her
surprise and she as I expected thought I could have just sucked it up and gone
with a flow I didn't tell her about my new Wedding Date the wedding was
dreamlike in the back of my head I was hurt the people who loved me the most
weren't there but I pushed the thought away and refused to let it ruin our day
my husband was amazing he promised to make me happy for the rest of my life
and to make up for every heartbreak I've experienced in my past my in-laws
surprised us with upgrading our honeymoon to a five-star hotel
I had my friends and some cousins in my favorite an attending we asked them not
to live stream or upload any pictures to social media until we're already on our
honeymoon we also asked them not to engage in any altercations online with
my family today my mom made long FB twitterinstagram posts bashing me and my
husband calling me ungrateful and disrespectful with pictures of my
wedding telling people I've cost her a big chunk of her savings and she's now
demanding compensation her FB post was shared about 200 times and the majority
of my extended family is angry with me she never once tried to contact me I
really thought she would bombard my phone instead both her and my Dad
announced that they're cutting me off and are expecting compensation bill
commented that I ruined his surprise and my sister made a post about being tired
of jealous [ __ ] and haters none of
the people we invited has commented even though some of them were directly
attacked so they respected our wishes I don't know if they're going to go ahead
and turn the wedding into an engagement party now I really hope they do so the
money isn't wasted it's on Saturday I'm sorry the update got too long but with
the amount of people asking for an update I hope this was what you wanted
PS English isn't my native language and it's too long of a post to proof reading
especially when it's written on my iPhone ink spiller's here someone in the
comments asked if the wedding ended up being a party for her sister here's the
response yes they did and they blew the internet with pictures and posts about
how magical the night was little sister made sure to write about haters not
ruining her special day and how she surrounded by the people that mattered
from what I gathered about 30 to 40% of the guests that were invited showed up
this means they can't sue me for the wedding so all is good I deleted my
son's Minecraft world because of his attitude Ida I have two children a
9-year-old son and a six-year-old daughter my son had a Minecraft world
where he built quite an impressive Castle on an island which he was very
proud to show to me since school was canceled he has had issues with waking
up on time he is supposed to wake up at 7:00 each morning but for the past month
he has been sleeping in until about 9 9 or 10 I always set an alarm for him but
he sleeps right through it I don't wake him up because waking himself up is a
skill that he needs to learn I told him about two weeks ago that there are going
to be consequences for him if he continues to sleep in every morning at
first he understood and was waking up on
time every morning but for the past week
or so he has fallen back into Old Habits I told him yesterday that this is his
final warning today he slept in until 11: so I followed through with my
warning and went on the computer and deleted his favorite Minecraft world I
also took away computer privileges for the next month when I told him he
started screaming and crying he told me that he spent a whole year working on
that world and he's very distraught that he's never going to see it again he has
been crying and sobbing throughout the day and has refused to eat any of his
meals my wife informed me she slept with the best man at sister's wedding the
time frame is important here we have been married for 3 years we were
together as a couple for 2 years before that so we've been together for about 5
years two weekends ago her sister got married and of course my wife was in the
wedding party so as you would expect she
spent the two weeks prior to the wedding helping her sister get everything ready
no big deal at all she kept me informed and I knew this was going to happen she
took that Wednesday to Friday off of work to help her and in fact stayed with
her 3 days I certainly know her sister but I barely know the guy who is now my
brother-in-law in fact only met him a few times but he seems nice enough I
show up Saturday morning a few hours before the ceremony in hopes of stealing
just a few minutes to see her not wanting to intrude on the day since I
know she is busy but I hadn't seen her since Tuesday she sees me outside of her
parents house and sends her brother out to tell me that she will come out and
see me at the car which I thought was odd but whatever she finally comes out
and say in the seat next to me and gives
me a kiss but instead of acting happy to
see me or whatever she tells me that she has to talk to me and she doesn't want
it to ruin her sister's day she informs me that at the reception if I still want
to go I might hear some things about the best man in her and she didn't want it
to be awkward or weird I just kind of sat there stunned she said that about 4
years ago she had a fling with him and that it didn't mean anything but she was
aware that by Nature I'm somewhat jealous and she wanted me to know in
advance so that if I heard something that I wouldn't be surprised again I
just kind of sat there this was not how I thought my morning would go but I told
her I appreciated knowing it and that it
certainly wasn't a big deal now she went back in the house house and I went to
eat lunch and decided to meet her at the church as I'm eating and reading my
phone it Dawns on me she said she had a fling with him four years ago and we've
been together five my first reaction was to blow it off and think that she just
told me the wrong time but the more I thought about it the more I started to
remember about a year and a half of us being together she had a phase where she
was really sketchy about her behavior wasn't available when she normally was
and went on two weekend camping trips that were with friends from work of
course I'm a little knotted up over this
but I know I have a long day ahead of me I go to the wedding and sit there
watching everything after the wedding they have a line that you walk by and
congratulate the bride and groom and the wedding party is standing in line as
well my wife is standing with some other
guy I don't know him at all but the best man was there and I just went down the
line and acted like no big deal get to the reception and it takes forever for
them to come because of photos she finally gets there and sits with me I
decided not to say anything as I didn't want to distract from the day but
instead of just letting it go she then tells me that each of the Grooms men and
bridesmaids are going to dance and that she is going to be dancing with him I
asked why when she was not his partner for the party and she said that the maid
of honor and her partner were actually married and wanted to dance with each
other at this point I'm a little more than perturbed but I try and not let it
show thankfully I was smart enough to not drink because I freely admit I'm an
angry doctor nknk so I know when not to even partake she talks to everyone
around her and then the dance comes and he comes over and extends his arm and
she gets up I try not to watch and in fact I make it a point not to she comes
back with him in toe and they are joking like the best of friends she decides
that it would be a good idea to introduce us and while I didn't say to f
off like I wanted to my greeting to him was probably than cordial but it did not
deter him from sitting and talking with her for a few minutes the more they sat
and talked and reminisced about old times and places the matter I got
eventually I got up and went to the bathroom and when I came back he was
gone she decided to tell me that she thought I was rude which was not what I
was all about hearing at the moment I told her that this wasn't the time or
place to talk about it but rest assured we would talk later she sat there and
then said that she was going to change cloths and as soon as she got back she
was telling her sister that we were leaving because I had ruined her day but
she didn't want me to ruin her sister's day as well I told her that I was
perfectly capable of not being a bother to her or her sister the rest of the day
and that I did not want to be the cause of any drama so I would prefer to just
stay she went and changed clothes and then came back all in a huff Now
understand I have not said a word to her I even shook the other guy's hand I
guess I just looked miserable so that is what she was basing this off of she was
adamant about not staying and so I said that if she really wanted to go we could
go but if she would rather stay I would be happy to stay or if she would like
since I came in my own car I would leave
so she could stay she at first said that we should stay but then said If I
couldn't act any better I should leave I asked how I was acting and she said it
was obvious I was trying to be like a Silverback Gorilla wanting to fight I
didn't know whether to laugh in her face or be offended I went back in and sat
down while she mingled with the other guest I talked with her brother for a
while but then ultimately ended up back at our table talking with her grandma we
leave at the same time and I arrived home just before she did I was sitting
in the living room waiting on her when she came in and did not beat around the
bush I simply asked her to retell me the story about this other guy and she said
it word for word like before after sitting and looking at her for a time I
just said are you sure about the time frame and she said she was I then
reminded her that we had been together for 5 years so this fling was well over
a year into our being together what happened next I can't really put into
words instead of being flustered or denying or anything she simply said I
know so I asked her to explain and she tells me that they worked together and
that it was just a physical thing and she felt like we weren't in a great
place at the time and that she never had any feelings for him and never had any
real intentions of leaving me she just was having some fun for a few weekends
she said that it was probably a mistake on her part to tell me now but she
didn't want me to get blindsided I did not take this the way she thought I
would I guess we had a very large argument and ended when she told me I
was being a child about all of this that we were married and this happened way
before that and our life together now has nothing to do with him or that time
well two things one I adamantly disagree about this is no bearing on us she
effing cheated on me and doesn't even have the goddamn decency to feel guilty
about it to I hate being told I am childish when I get upset over something
it pisses me off to no end because that is her way of acting Superior to me I
told her I needed time to think and she told me there was nothing to think about
we loved each other and this didn't change anything that was two weeks ago
and I still am not over it she has been trying the past few days to get me to
talk to her but I admit that for whatever reason I'm not viewing her the
same as I did before this part of me is like that this is stupid it happened a
few years ago and we are married now and there hasn't been any problems at all
but then part of me is like I just found out she cheated on me and it hurts like
a mother AF her and what makes it worse is that instead of trying to understand
how I feel she is trying to guilt me into just not even thinking about about
it I don't know what to do I'm sorry for the length I probably should have cut
out some of the wedding stuff but it all
came out at once update my wife informed me she slept with the best man at
sister's wedding my wife informed me she slept with the best man at sister's
wedding first I want to clarify something from my first post that I
really did not spell out very well it doesn't have any real bearing on
anything but for some reason it bugs me that I made this part sort of murky the
maid of honor not my wife was married to the groomsman who my wife walked down
the aisle with there were some people who felt my wife was trying to arrange
the dance but I do know for a fact that this part was legit however it doesn't
mean she didn't try and offer to let them dance or any other form of
manipulation but I just wanted to try and clear that part up a little I'm here
because I have gotten honest to God over 40 requests for an update since last
week thank you for your guys concern on this and I wish I had some really ballsy
statement to make about how I stood tall and kicked her to the curb but sadly
that is just not what happened to be blunt I'm in limbo there have been
developments but all they have done is make it harder for me to decide last
week I was mostly angry then as the weekend progressed I became mostly sad I
want to be able to hate her and flip that switch that tells me I'm being
walked on and I'm a sucker but it's just very hard for me to do that because I
still love her and this is me apart here is what has happened of any consequence
she finally came to the realization that I was not going to just get over this
this then brought her to the realization that I might want out of the marriage
this then brought on a near nervous breakdown from her someone hell a lot
from the first post stated that she would try and manipulate me like that
and believe me I was taking those words to heart when I thought she was having
crocodile tears but it soon became apparent to me that she wasn't acting or
faking she was having a legitimate panic attack this led to an ER visit an that
led to an overnight stay in the hospital and then to new medications and a
scheduled followup with her doctor for later next week
this brought her family into it and that in turn led to Long conversations all
the way around when we got home with her family and toe I asked what she wanted
to do since there was a house full of people and she said she wanted to be
with her mom for a while that was fine with me as I had no desire to hang
around all day with her dad or sister so I said I was going to go finish up
something at work and would be home later 2 hours after I get there I get a
text from her begging me to please come home and that she really needs me to
talk with her so I finish up what I was doing and head home I am greeted on my
own front porch by her dad who asks if he can talk to me for a minute my anger
level was already somewhat high but I was ready to to go to war if she had
dumped a crap sack of lies on me with her dad I mean it's not like he and I
are best friends in crap but I've never had a bad moment with him so I really
wasn't going to be happy about being the bastard who broke his baby's heart we
sat on our deck chairs and he effing floored me with his opening Salvo I was
expecting to hear anything but what he said he said that she told them what had
happened and that he wanted to apologize to me because he said that he felt like
he did a really crappy job as a parent and that this mindset that she had was
really a creation of her mothers and that while he loved both of them he said
they were wrong and he had told his wife years ago that telling the girls that
whatever happens before marriage doesn't count was a horrible idea and value
system to install in them he then said that he wasn't there to stand up for
what his daughter did but he just wanted me to be aware that what she was saying
and how she was acting was simply because she honestly believed that being
married was an entirely different life in that they mom and dad had
romanticized marriage to the point that she wasn't understanding real life
basically he was kind of throwing his wife under the bus but again this is not
what I was expecting at all we shook hands and he said that no matter what I
decided he still thought very highly of me which Honestly made me feel really
good for that moment I then went inside and my wife is curled up in a ball on
her mom's lap and you can tell she has been crying the entire time I've been
gone mom gets up and comes and hugs me and tells me she is sorry and that she
loves me and she is praying that we can work this out my wife is laid out on the
couch at this point her mom and dad leave and she sits there looking at me
and crying okay this is where I'm going to piss off everybody and just tell you
that I couldn't take it I went to her and we hugged for a long time with her
telling me over and over how sorry she was hey I know it was the weak thing to
do but again I have to say in my defense that just before this incident occurred
I loved her with all of my heart and would have done anything to not see her
in pain whatever she had done I still didn't want to see her like that look
it's very possible that she was putting on an Oscar worthy acting job but I
don't honestly think so she really seemed broken at that point in time
after a while when she calmed down I asked her what she wanted me to come
home and talk about and she said she wanted to get everything out in the open
so I didn't feel like I was being lied to or manipulated so she wanted me to
ask her questions and I wish I had written down a list but I came up with a
few off the top of my head she was brutally honest with me and some of the
questions I asked I probably shouldn't have because now the mental image is
stuck in there but honestly was there any way I just now have confirmation
first I asked for dates or at the very least approximate dates I didn't tell
her about the engagement concern I had because I didn't want her to change
stories and she remembered exactly when they occurred fortunately this happened
a little earlier in our relationship than she told me initially and so we
were not engaged when this happened I can't tell you what a relief it was
because I became physically ill when I thought about that when someone said it
in my last post second I asked how many times she went overboard with this
because instead of just telling me how many different dates she decided to tell
me how many times there was penetration she wasn't doing it to be mean she
honestly thought that is what I wanted to know this part of the conversation
did not help me any at all and in fact almost broke me down in truth it wasn't
that often and in fact there were really
only three different days it happened on but there were several times during
those three days then came the part why did she do it okay again I'm not the
most manly of man and I am ashamed to admit this but I couldn't get this out
without starting to cry I asked why wasn't I good enough why am why did she
not just leave me it was her turn to hold me because at this point everything
came rushing at me her telling me me having to watch them laugh with each
other her now telling me how many times they did it and where they did it she
talked during this but to this moment I have no idea what she said I was too
upset and honestly nothing she was going to say was going to make a bit of
difference anyway but after I composed myself I simply told her that the
Betrayal was horrible but honestly her response to me when I found found out
was just as bad if not worse she agreed with me and she apologized for calling
me immature she said that she honestly believed that it wouldn't matter to me
now because we were married when she said this my blood started to boil again
I started to say something about it but she jumped in and said that after
talking with her parents she now sees that this was very wrong of her and that
cheating is cheating but she still feels like that our happiness that we have
shared since being married should count for something I then replied that I kind
of felt like that happiness was built on a lie this led to another breakdown on
her part and almost another ER visit but between Adavan and having her breath
into a paper sack we got her calmed down I let her sleep the rest of the night
feeling like emotionally we were both tired but come Sunday we were talking
again by this time I wasn't as sympathetic as I had been when we got
home from the ER I told her that I thought her introducing him to me was
crappy me having to watch her dance with him was extra crappy and the fact that
she only told me because she was going to get caught was an elite level of
crappy which then I demanded to know why did she think I would find out and how
many of the effing people at the wedding knew besides me well obviously the guy
knew but then his best friend in the world also knew did I mentioned that fur
is now my brother-in-law which then led to her sister finding out and she was
afraid her sister was going to be the one to tell me I asked how often she
sees this guy and she said that the wedding is the first time she has seen
him in 3 years then I lost my crap and asked her if she Eed him during any of
the leadup to the wedding she got all pissy about it acting like she wouldn't
F anyone because she was married and I just lost my crap and had to leave for a
while because once again I felt like she was living on married planet or some
such crap in the world there is a different place then for the rest of us
I finally got cooled off enough to come home and try and be civil about things
she finally asked me what she could do to help me get past all of this which
may not sound like much but it was the first time she offered to help me really
so it was at least a nice gesture I told her I wasn't sure what she could do if
there was anything either of us could do and that I may never get over this she
said that she wanted to help because she didn't want to see me in pain and that
over the years she hopes I'll be able to judge her based on who she is now she
would do anything I wanted to work this out she also wanted to be sure that I
knew that she has been 100% faithful since we've been married and would never
cheat on her vows I sarcastically thanked her which I admit wasn't the
most mature thing to do I then asked for a moratorium from further talks till at
least Wednesday I have two projects I have to get done and honestly I'm just
exhausted and know I have no effing clue what I want to do I shift between
periods of red hot anger where I want to kick her out and then periods of deep
emotional turmoil I want to just forget this and move forward with her yes I
know this is not what anyone wanted to hear and no I'm not proud to type it but
it is what it is at the moment update 2 my wife informed me she
slept with the best man at sister's wedding I been absolutely overwhelmed by
the responses I received over this I have gotten over 400 private messages
and I just cannot respond to all of them or any of them anymore as it would take
me a week to do that I want to thank all of you who have written to me and those
of you who this struck a chord with all I can say is that I'm sorry you had to
go through this as well I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy I do want to say
one thing though is the vast majority of
the people contacting me via PM were all afraid to bring up their point of view
in the open for fear of being harassed I have honestly taken both points of view
into consideration and there's been some
great advice and some not so great but I think people's hearts are in the right
place I just wish that if people disagreed with each other they wouldn't
feel the need to demonize a person because of a point of view okay for the
hundreds of you that have been clamoring for an update here it is as you know I
asked to just drop it till last night so I could focus on a job related item I
had to get done she kept her word about it but I could tell she was very
emotional and honestly nervous she is taking some strong benzo aines for her
anxiety but even as strong as it is I can still see how how anxious she had
been I wasn't intentionally trying to punish her in fact quite the opposite I
really was trying to give her a break as much as me but she told me last night
that not holding her or showing any real
affection towards her was almost torture to her well last night finally arrived
and we had what my dad always called to come to Jesus meeting I got home from
work and I brought dinner so there would be no distractions of clean up or
anything we started talking around 6 and finally ended around 2ish in that time
frame we laid out a lot of issues that have been present in water if we are
both willing to do to move forward long story short starting today I'm living
with my brother for the next few not sure she is understandably upset by all
of this and I am making an effort to communicate openly with her so she does
not feel abandoned or neglected if you're wondering how we got from talking
to me living with my brother here it is in a nutshell I know this is not going
to make several of you very happy but here is where I'm going with this I want
to save my marriage but I can't do it living what I feel was somewhat a lie I
know she never intended to lie once we were married but when I sat down and
thought about this one question would I have stayed with her if I had known at
the time she did this each and every time I answered no so to me she took
away my ability to choose whether or not I wanted to continue and we built the
next few years based on the foundation of something that wasn't quite true
however the truth is we still built something sometimes foundations can be
repaired and sometimes you have to tear them down to build new on this is what
I'm hoping to do I'm hoping to shake things up enough for both of us so that
we can start over like I said in the very first post our marriage until this
point had been what I would consider to be perfect or as perfect as any one
thing can be but there were some very troubling things that occurred due to
this and here is a brief synopsis of our talk I laid out the fact that while I
absolutely was upset about the cheating and yes I still consider it cheating
which she has now come to realize that this is the way it is and is going to be
considered I was equally upset by her lack of consideration for my feelings on
this I told her that I resented being told I was immature and a child for
something that objectively speaking I had every right to be upset about her
response was to apologize and tell me she was in the wrong and that while she
admits fault and sees what I'm saying that at the time she had convinced
herself that because we were married that I was wrong to be upset about
something that happened beforehand but she now sees where this is wrong I then
told her that I felt very disrespected by her associating with this guy right
in front of me and that I felt humiliated having to shake his hand her
response was to once again apologize and she said that in her mind at the time
she felt like she was trying to show me that there was nothing there she said
she felt like if she avoided him or acted Shady around him that I would be
more upset I told her she was wrong she said that out of all of the things this
is the one that has hit her the most in the face because even her sister has
told her how poor this was for her to do to me and she was deeply hurt by this
because it had hurt me which she never wanted to do I then talked about her
lack of remorse over being with someone else while we were together her only
response was to say that she was very sorry how that at the time she just used
very poor judgment and if she could go back and change the past she would then
came the talk that got the most discussion how I felt like she really
wasn't sorry for anything but that she was just sorry that I didn't shrug my
shoulders and say that everything was going to be okay that there were going
to be repercussions for what I considered to be an act of betrayal and
then an act of not caring about me I'll give her full credit here she was
brutally honest about this and at least she was so we didn't have to spend hours
trying to work our way around it she admitted that when we got home after the
event she started to realize that I wasn't going to let this go and then as
time went on she knew that this was an issue her first instinct was to be mad
at me for being mad at her but then realized even from her own point of view
how stupid that was but again she had it beat into her head that she was my wife
and that I should easily forgive and forget something that happened way
before we were were married she also admitted that when it became real she
frankly outright panicked thinking about losing her marriage nobody on either
side of her family is divorced so she could be the first and she admitted to
that being a big factor in her panic attack but as the week has progressed
and she has spoken more to her family she is seeing that what she has put in
her mind about marriage isn't the end all be all she thought it was she also
did really feel bad about bringing the guy around to me however you will notice
which I did too that she never said she felt guilty about being with him now I
want everyone to know this as well what I have given you from above is a brief
synopsis of events she sounds like a robot in this version of believe me she
was not there were lots of Tears real honest tears I've seen her oh wo as me
tears before so I know the difference there were a few curs words and there
were even moments of pleading and begging as I said this went on for 8ish
hours so by the time we were done she was physically exhausted I have set out
the following steps if we are to reconcile and it is totally up to her if
she wants to stay together she is very very adamant about staying together by
the way I don't care how illogical it seems she is to never have contact with
him again this is an absolute for me and a deal breaker and I was absolutely
clear on this we have to have couples's therapy while I living with my brother
we are still legally married and this is not an invitation or excuse for either
of us to see anyone else again deal breaker in a second if either of us uses
this as an excuse believe me I will not and I don't believe she will either we
start over to a point I have to view her
differently now even if I didn't want to I can't just forget that she chose to
cheat so that's where we are now I know that is not what some of you wanted but
ultimately I have to go with what I believe will make me happiest in the
long run my head says be aware and I am going to guard my heart for a long time
but my heart is still in love with her we are going out on a date Friday night
which she is really looking forward to I I have no idea how long I will be with
my brother hell I may not make it past Friday but if nothing else I feel like I
have some control here which I felt prior to the talk I had almost none in
the end I held her for a long time and we slept together I do not want a broken
woman right now that is kind of what she is I want her to be my partner for life
but I do want her to know that to be a partner she has to equally care about my
feelings as I do hers PS I had to do some real hard thinking about my new
brother-in-law again I've only met him a few times and he seems like a nice
enough guy but at the end of it all he certainly was aware of the issue but
just to keep peace in the family I'm going to not make a stink about him
because that will certainly make every holiday tough going forward as long as
he never mentions the incident or the guy ever again to are around me I can
live with it final update my wife informed me she slept with the best man
at sister's wedding thank you all who keep sending me messages of
encouragement and wondering what has happened for those of you who have asked
me to give you an update here is a brief one I've been staying with my brother
for a little over a month I cannot say enough nice words about him he has bent
over backwards to help me and I've come to appreciate him in a whole new way
growing up we were close but never really close if you know what I mean
this has shown me that our bond is much stronger than I ever imagined it was the
big news is that I have delivered her with divorce papers now before those of
you who wanted me to dump her jump for joy let me explain something I went to a
divorce lawyer and explained everything including the fact that I did not want
to go through with the divorce but wanted everything in place just in case
he drew up a divorce decree and made three copies one he kept on file one for
her and one for me I decided to take the paperwork to her myself because I knew
she would be upset and I wanted to explain to her what was happening I gave
her the paperwork in a manila envelope and explained what it was before she
opened it I also made very clear to her that I was not going to do anything with
it unless we both failed to meet the conditions we both agreed upon I
explained that I was committed to us but I really needed to see that we were
headed in the right direction and that this was only there as a standby in case
she didn't think I was serious well this did not go over as well as I had hoped
and in retrospect this was a mistake on my part she had been doing everything in
her power prior to that to live up to the agreement we had been out on several
dates prior to this that were great for both of us in other words my timing
sucked my intention was good but it did make it look like I was not
acknowledging the steps she was taking to make this work this led to another
giant anxiety attack that we could not get under control with her Med so off to
the ER we went again this time they gave
her a shot and sent her home and we both
agreed that we would keep her family out of it this time I stayed with her for
two days just to make sure she was okay this of course came up in our counseling
session and well let's just say that I came across looking like a manipulative
butthole which again in retrospect I was I ended up taking my copy and her copy
and tearing it up in front of her she doesn't know there is a third copy but I
plan on having him discard that as well so now I pretty much feel like a monster
because the look on her face when she got the divorce papers was something I
never want to see again she was so happy to see me that day and then I gave her
that and an instant combination of sadness and Terror other than that bump
in the Road things have actually been going very well well enough in fact that
I moving back home this weekend my brother has been great but I am cramping
his style no matter what he says it's been fun playing Xbox every night though
I won't deny it but mostly I'm going home because she has done everything I
have asked of her and I have put her through hell I think she's paid a steep
enough price and I know she knows how serious this was also in case I didn't
mention this before I do love her she made a very stupid selfish mistake but
it was years ago and she had been almost the perfect wife up until the discovery
so I'm sorry to disappoint many of you and I'm sure I will once again get many
PMS telling me that I A hold and an embarrassment to all men but I don't
live your lives and you don't live mine so this should be it there hopefully
will be nothing to update going forward we are not cured or healed by any sense
of the imagination but we are on our way and it's just going to take time
patience and understanding for all these years my cheating husband has been
hiding his best friend from me I've been stabbed in the back by everyone and
there's nothing I can do I'm writing this on a throwaway because I have
friends that used read it on occasion I 26f have been married to my husband
Dylan 26 MERS for 3 years we got together in when we were 17 but we've
known each other since the fourth grade I love my husband he's the total package
funny sweet smart and attractive he's made my life amazing and he's who I
fully intended on spending the rest of my life with we attended all the same
schools from the time we met up until College in that time we've both made our
own friend groups he's been more connected with his friends than I have
and because of that I've become a part of the group as well I'd like to think
in that time I've been at around 50% of their group Hangouts mostly because of
my job but sometimes I'm just straight up not invited I didn't question any of
this because hey there his friends he doesn't see them nearly as often as he
sees me it's not my business my husband met his best friend Caro 27 M long
before he met me I knew almost nothing about Caro up until recently he wasn't
at our wedding nor did he attend any of the same schools as us and I was under
the impression he wasn't friends with anyone in our group I thought all of
this was because of his line of work as I was told he traveled a lot last year
me and my husband went to a barbecue hosted by another couple in the group
Carol was there I didn't recognize him at first but when I realized who he was
I was honestly kind of shocked I'd seen him in person before but he always kept
a very very good distance from me which I'm realizing now was intentional
anyways he's totally stunning he looks like he could be a supermodel when I
attempted to make conversation with him he seemed really nervous and totally
shut me down after a few sentences when I mentioned this Behavior to anyone else
they also shut me down saying things like that's just how he is or maybe you
said something that offended him in short no one would tell me anything
about Carol at all any conversation that involved him was a no-o at the end of
that night I tried talking to Dylan about his behavior he told me Carol
didn't like me I was confused because I'd hardly seen him in person at all let
alone actually talk to him the excuse my husband gave was that he disliked me
because I cheated on my husband once in college and Carol was too stubborn to
let it go I've seen Carol less than a dozen times since then mostly at
birthday parties huge get togethers and on one occasion he came to our house to
watch a football game with my husband and a few of their other buddies anyway
a few weeks ago my husband went fishing with his cousin that same night I had
some of the girls in our friend group over for a girls night type thing Lily
24f was scrolling through some social media I was glancing over her shoulder
when I saw a selfie of Dylan and Carol sitting next to each other in a hot tub
the selfie had been posted maybe 30 minutes ago I asked Lily about what I
had seen and she went pale she tried saying nothing but I snatched the phone
from her and went to the profile that posted the photo the profile belonged to
my husband it was a private profile and scrolled in through the photos most of
them were dirty jokes or memes but the rest of them were photos of him and
Carol either they were hanging out alone or with the rest of the group minus me
most of the photos they seemed way too close too touchy or doing things that
seem too personal or intimate for friends to be doing I spent a good 10
minutes looking before I couldn't take it anymore I was horrified all of the
photos were dated tonights my husband told me he was working late hanging out
with this relative or that times that he told me he was doing something else and
obviously Hangouts I wasn't invited too Lily just sat they're looking dumb she
didn't say anything but all the girls were looking at us like a bomb had just
gone off they clearly knew what I had seen and their reactions were enough to
confirm exactly what I was afraid of I was livid I started yelling Lily was
crying and the rest of the girls were freaking out when I started to calmed
down and demanded that they explain what was going on Lily told me everything
Dylan and Carol had been sleeping together and very essentially dating
behind my back since before we even got married they got together during a
one-month break me and Dylan had during college and they stuck together ever
since they all knew and none of them told me until I found out the hard way
Carol wasn't at our wedding because he felt guilty he avoided me like the
[ __ ] plague because he felt guilty
they arranged group meetups in a group chat I wasn't in because they all like
Carol enough to spare his feelings even the guys in the group felt the same way
about him apparently Carol was never as distant as I thought he was he was just
being hidden Dylan was hiding him from me because he didn't want me to find out
they were together by the end of it half of us were sobbing and everyone who
wasn't was apologizing to me I was so angry I made them swear they wouldn't
say anything to Dylan or anyone else I kicked them all out and cried myself to
sleep I was basically in denial like it
was some kind of sick [ __ ] prank my
husband didn't come home until the next morning he told me all about the
supposed fishing trip he'd went on I didn't say anything about what I knew I
guess he could tell something was up because he kept asking me what was wrong
all day every five [ __ ] minutes
eventually I just told him I'd been in an argument with my sister by the end of
the week I was totally numb last night while my husband was handing out out
candy to kids I saw a notification pop up on his phone since I knew his
password I opened it it was a text from Carol I looked through the conversations
they'd had it confirmed everything it was devastating Dylan texted Carol the
exact same way he texted me he told Carol he loved him every sweet thing he
said to me had been said in his conversations with Carol I was hardly
mentioned I put his phone back before he noticed Dylan is at work now I don't
know what to do I could never imagine myself leaving Dylan because he's such a
loving partner and a good man but I can't see myself winning in a
competition against Carol if that's what it comes down to I can't even make
myself be disgusted or angered by Dylan I love him too much I'm not even upset
with Carol but I'm so hurt I don't want to risk losing my husband and I don't
want to share him I called Lily and my sister this morning and told them about
what I had found they both asked what I'm going to do and I had nothing to say
I don't know what to do at all update hi I really appreciate the support and
advice I was given on my last post Dylan came home last night around 10 I had a
whole speech prepared prepared to confront him with but I could only end
up saying I know about you and Carol I'll spare the details of the
conversation because it's still raw but he left around midnight he only took a
few of his things I haven't spoken to him since aside from him telling me he
was coming to get more of his things and after our conversation I've decided to
go through with divorce I've collected all the necessary information and I'll
be getting in touch with a lawyer shortly again thank you all for the
advice and help to come to my censes update two I was unaware it was a big
Trend to repost Reddit posts onto Tik Tok this is what happened with my first
post and the video has almost 700k views a friend of mine Noah who I am nam
dropping because I know he will see this
and I appreciate him dearly forwarded me
the video because he knew it was my post I explained the situation to him prior
and he knew I had posted it there are several things I want to address and I
ask that whoever made the video because they clearly use Reddit posts this too
to clear my name everybody in my life Knows by now so I see no harm in
addressing you personally to recap yes I am leaving Dylan no I did not actually
cheat on it was a huge misunderstanding between the two of us that lead him to
believe and tell people that I cheated I
don't even know if what he told me about Caro dislike for me is or was true no I
am not going to sue him for everything he has I will no longer be speaking to
anyone from that group I may have been naive but I am not stupid no I still do
not know why they chose to betray me like that and I don't intend on finding
out yes while his parents were accepting of lgtbq I don't think they would have
been okay with Dylan marrying a man from
here on out I doubt I will have anything
to say that is all thank you also I have
never watched Brokeback Mountain but the jokes about it did make me chuckle
update two about 8 months ago I posted here seeking a release from an ugly
brutal situation involving my cheating now ex husband I've been working really
hard on getting better for myself and since then I've done okay until a week
and a half ago 10 days ago I heard from one too many distant mutual friends that
Carol left Dyan it makes me so happy to hear that he got what he deserved the
man he had to have left him unfortunately car hasn't received his
end of the karma and is still just as
[ __ ] perfect as the day I found out
he was having an affair with my husband however I'd be lying if I said I cared
or had any ill will towards him I don't just my ex-husband hell if I saw him in
a parking lot I'd Sprint over shake his hand and tell him I'm glad he delivered
my ex-husband as much deserved Karma I don't know how Dylan is doing now but I
hope he sees how it hurts being betrayed like that anyways you can consider this
the end of the line no more updates no nothing all I can and will do from now
on is heal 10 years AG AG go my girlfriend abandoned me and my
5-year-old daughter now she wants her family back my Story begins 16 years ago
when I met Lucy she was an amazing girl intelligent beautiful Fancy funny just
the greatest girl I ever met I felt so lucky when we start dating and after a
year into the relationship we had a baby I was living the dream living with my
girlfriend raising our little daughter being a happy family I loved Lucy so
much and after some years we were finally getting married our daughter was
the most excited one about the wedding she was going to be the flowers girl
everything seemed to be perfect until one day when I was heading back home a
guy wanted to talk with me at first I believed he may want to sell me
something until he mentioned Lucy politely he asked me to talk in a
private place he then asked me to please stop everything about the wedding and
step back because he and Lucy wanted to be together I didn't believed him until
he started to tell me a lot of details about her that would be impos to know I
returned home as fast as I could I didn't wanted this to be truth and told
her about it hopping all was a mistake but no it wasn't the next hour she told
me everything she has been cheating on me from the last 2 years she told me
about how all the time she said she loved me that she wanted us to be
together and she loved our family were all lies how her new man was younger
stronger handsome and better lover she said that she didn't wanted to be tied
to me how she lost her freedom for being
a mother and she didn't want her to be a wife that she wanted her Freedom back
the stab was when she said she was happy
that I finally knew and now she was able
to leave I cried begged humiliate myself and got on my knees asking for another
chance to try fix our relationship but she didn't want it she wanted the thrill
and excitement that this new guy maker feel by the next day she left us I felt
broken humiliate emasculated but my daughter needed me she was heartbroken
her mother left and she believed it was her fault she heard when Lucy said she
didn't wanted to be a mother anymore she needed me me and I needed to be strong
for her fortunately we had help my family and Lucy's family supported us in
any way possible her parents were so ashamed for their daughter's actions
that they couldn't look me to the face without apologize for everything she did
I will be in debt with everyone forever for all their help fast forward 10 years
later after lots of time and therapy my daughter and I are living happy she is
the light of my life a beautiful 15 years old lady who I love our wounds are
healed and we have a very good life but then she came back
when me and my daughter were getting back home we found Lucy in front of our
apartment waiting for us wanting to talk
I recognized her immediately and I would like to say that I did something cool
like ignoring her asking her to leave or at least be hostile with her but no im
an idiot my heart skip a beat in the moment I saw her she still was beautiful
as before but somehow she looked even better maybe the age Mak her look mature
and elegant maybe the dress or the makeup I don't know but I let her in
while our daughter gave us some space and went to her room she told me
everything she did since she left basically she lived with that guy for
some years she said how much she enjoyed it all the fun she got and how she
believed those were the best years of her life until she noticed that the
excitement of that new relationship was fading slowly in some point she started
to cheat on that guy too a according to her she wanted to feel alive and excited
eventually that relationship ended and she started dating other guys every
relationship became shorter than the previous one until she only had casual
ual hookups she also said that sometimes
she thaank about us our family [ __ ] she
said she was too proud to admit she made
a mistake until last year she got Co and
it hit her really hard yo the point that she believed she would die and realized
how alone she was how stupid she was and the mistake she made so long ago after
all of that she said she regretted everything she did and said and now she
was ready to marry me and be the family we always meant to be when she was done
I asked her to leave to give me some time to think she accepted saying she
would be back the next day for years I dreamed about her coming back and now it
was happening but it just felt wrong since then she visit almost daily
wanting to talk about the best years of our relationship and how we could be a
happy family again I asked for help to my family to my friends most of them
said I would be making the worst mistake of my life if I take her back others
said that I could give her a chance it took me a lot to heal and some more time
to start making new relationships and I would be risking everything
one night my daughter and I had a deep conversation about all this I always try
to involve her in every part of our life
and this issue concerned her too because it's her mother sometimes she surprised
me being so wise and mature because she told me can you really love someone that
hurted us so much and that was everything I needed I would never
forgive myself if I let her hurt my daughter again and I said that to Lucy
if she want to be around or have a relationship with our daughter I'm okay
with it only if my daughter want it but I told her we are not getting back Lucy
only said that she would make me fall in love with her again and that she would
not give up update I didn't expect so many answer so thanks to everyone for
your answers and advices thanks to the ones who made me open my eyes and helped
me to realize I still having issues with my ex and am not over with her and
overall to the ones who pointed the risk of hurting my daughter that is letting
her back in our lives I can recognize my weakness but am not letting her to hurt
my baby again so don't worry am not getting back with her since the post she
had been insisting on meeting she wanted to talk I decided to have one last talk
with her in setting my boundaries we met in a public place the talk was long and
hard I wanted her to be honest AMD I told her the moment I cck the lie I was
leaving I asked if she was really sorry or are we her last option did she really
love us or are we just a consolation prize did she came back For Love or
because she was unable to find another man anymore she was unable to answer any
of that she only said things like it's not like that you need to understand me
I'm not like this anymore she kept insisting on giving her another chance
that we can love each other again that we could be together she never even
mentioned our daughter in any moment only after I pointed it she started to
mention her when I tried to settle that we were over she grabbed my hand and as
some of you told me she would do she tried to seduce me pulling down her
blouse showing me her cleavage and saying we can find a room so I can do
whatever I wanted with her that she wouldn't say no to anything to
compensate me I didn't recognize that woman she wasn't the amazing girl I met
she wasn't the mother of of my daughter I didn't know who that woman was but she
wasn't my Lucy I said her to let me go that we were over neither I or my
daughter wanted anything with her so please leave us alone we were living a
good life without her she then went mad saying I couldn't left her that it
wasn't my choice that she doesn't have anything else that I can't take away her
daughter I still don't know why but that last sentence triggered me the next are
not my exact words but are close of what
I said on that moment your daughter your
daughter you are not her mother you only gave birth to her but you are not her
mother tell me where you were when she was sick where you were when she had
fever when she was scared on the night when her first teeth fell when she cried
on the nights because she missed her mom where you were on her first day of
school when she had her first period when she had her first boyfriend when
her heart broke for the second time because the first one who broke her
heart was her mother which dick were you
riding when she needed a mom you have no
rig to claim you were her mother because
you never acted like that that she tried
to reply but I saw how she was unable to find the words I left her back at home
she sent me some texts asking for another meeting for another chance that
she loves me and she can change but I'm done you all were rigged she doesn't
love me or our daughter at all she only loves herself having her on my life
would be bad toxic I don't need that I don't need her my daughter and I are
going back to therapy soon some of you were right I need to work on myself be
stronger and get over those feelings for her because they're not real just a
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a it TAA for not attending my daughter's
wedding because she will not allow me to
bring my fiance please forgive me if I'm not doing this properly I do not
understand this website my son is trying to help me and he said that I need to
hear unbiased opinions he said to post here my wife was in a car accident about
5 years ago my children were in the car with her my son lost his right arm and
my daughter was banged up my wife suffered a traumatic brain injury that
left her in a persistent vegetative state she was basically brain dead and
only her brain stem was keeping her alive after talking to doctors and her
family I was ready to let her go my daughter couldn't accept that I took her
for counseling we went separately and together with her brother she could not
let go thanks to my employer I have excellent insurance I also earned enough
to not really have any monetary concerns I started attending a grief support
group I met a woman there who had lost her husband we connected maybe a year
after we met we started a relationship we weren't as careful as we should have
been and she got pregnant we discussed our options and we decided that we had a
future together when she was 7 months pregnant she was put on bed rest I moved
her into a room in my house my daughter did not handle it well she said I was
having an affair she has never treated my fiance with basic respect I know I'm
moving on very fast but my wife and I had a strained relationship for the last
few years she had substance abuse problems and I spent 6 years trying to
hide that from the kids I still loved her and wanted her to get better she was
high when she crashed her car I was and am very angry about that my wife's body
got pneumonia and died a year ago that's when I got engaged my daughter got
engaged when she was 18 I wasn't thrilled but I tried my best to support
her I got my invitation and it didn't include my fiance or even a plus one I
called her to ask about it and she said that I was a guest and to be grateful I
was even invited by myself considering I was having an affair I said that I
wanted to bring my fiance she adamantly refused I RSVP that I would not be
attending I still paid for the wedding I took my fiance and son to Orlando for
that weekend my daughter has been telling everyone that I chose to go to
Disney World instead of her wedding she is saying that I'm an absolute
for putting my replacement family ahead of her I just want to move forward my
son said to include that I was just a guest at the wedding and not a part of
it at all like I wasn't going to walk her down the aisle or anything I think
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aita for refusing to pay for the full night and pointing out a pattern I live
with my partner and one thing I've started noticing is she will regularly
suggest days out or dates or trips away Etc and then if we plan it out she'll
complain about actually being short of money so she doesn't think she can
afford to go she'll expect me to offer to pay for most things while we go away
a couple of times doesn't bother me but it's starting to become more frequent an
example is that this week we had a nice restout book to go to NE my GF decides
to but some new clothes and Furniture once she bought that she then said she
can't afford the meal so I'd either have
to pay or we'd have to cancel an example
of this is next month I am getting a pay rise at work so I decided to take a
month to treat myself instead of saving any money I plan to take my GF out for a
nice meal and we are going on a double date with my friend and his girlfriend
in a nearby City I have paid the hotel and travel costs and told my GF I'll be
getting our meal when we're there so all
she'll need is money for drinks she said this was fine now she's saying she
thinks I'll need to pay for the full night since she's seeing friends next
month and has other things to pay for I told her no and her response was just
that we'll have to cancel the night then
she's also started mentioning the amount of money I'm planning to spend next
month and keeps asking if I'm going to get her a treat or a present Etc I point
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a it ta for telling my sister I'm so Fu King tired of her taking from me and
acting like it's what I was born for so I technically was born for her to take
from I'm a savior sibling and that was the only reason my parents had a second
child they were one and done with my sister but when she was two she got sick
and so they had me to save her growing up I felt every bit of a lack of
Interest my parents had in me I knew before I hit Middle School that my
parents had me for one reason only yet I saw them adore and spoil my sister and
make sure she had everything I grew up watching her grow up with devoted
parents while I had none because of the way we were raised my sister and I were
never close she was used to getting what she wanted and being spoiled I was
forgotten until she needed something like blood if I ever happened to have
something she wanted you bet my parents let her have it and they had no time for
me complaining about it they had no time for me period I'm sure on some level
they were grateful that I had fulfilled my purpose but nobody will ever convince
me that they love me now we're both in our 20s and my sister has tried to have
a relationship but it's still a lot of her wanting her way and for me to pay
for her but she gets to choose where we go and what we do I'm expected to give
her food off my plate she ignores when I bring up how her childhood wasn't
perfect like she talks about she brings up I wasn't present for stuff and in the
same sentence we'll talk about it being the best day eventually I stopped saying
yes or if I did I refused to pay and refused to go along with what she wanted
and we saw each other far less I also heard from her far less which to me said
she didn't really want a sister she just wanted the person she was used to
getting whatever from a couple of weeks ago she showed up at my house where I
live with friends and our partners and she told me she needed a place to stay
and attempted to invite herself in she looked rough so I told her she could get
some food and something to drink but she needed to stay someplace else I
suggested she call our parents she didn't want to go anywhere else and was
trying to befriend my boyfriend and the other partners since she knew my friends
didn't like her I made it very clear and insisted she figur something else out
she told me I should be more willing to help her out and why do I never want to
do anything for her I snapped at her saying that and I told her I am so tired
of her taking from me and acting like it's what I was born to do I told her
our parents might have had me for that reason but I'm more than that and I
never had a say in any of that and if she wants to talk about things not being
fair then she should think more on that she had a very explosive reaction and
left she said afterward I suck for blaming her for our parents actions it
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first story op's girlfriend of six years
stole all his money and ditched him for a guy she met on an online game and her
entitled mom claims it was Dowry for keeping her daughter on hold now a year
later his ex has contacted him begging for forgiveness and Reconciliation as
the title says my girlfriend of 6 years left me for someone she only met online
and never met in person she took everything from our joint wedding
account while I was busting my ARS off working 12-hour shifts yes even during
this pandemic for the past year to get her dream wedding believe it or not she
met the guy playing a mobile dance sort of game and suddenly told me she feels
an instant connection and chemistry that we never had I can't do anything about
the account as it's a joint account both parties can withdraw with no problems
I'm in a city far away from home working for a job I don't enjoy for something
that's never going to happen I'm just lost I don't even know what to do
anymore thanks for reading strangers sorry I took your time update she
informed her father about the situation and he is not happy to say the least he
asked for my bank statement to work out how much of the money was in the joint
account that was mine and he will work out a payment plan I don't know whether
it's from him as he is retired or from her my ex is pissed obviously she is
saying I'm immature for involving her parents on our issue when we should just
settle it like two adults getting barraged by calls and texts from her and
her friends I didn't bother picking it up or reading it all this while I'm at
work total headache moment second update both
my parents and her requested a meeting tomorrow to discuss things except for
the payment plan I don't know what there
is to discuss TBH leave was approved and we will drive back home tonight I still
love her but as most of you pointed out a bullet Dodge was a major red flag not
going to lie I still don't know what will happen when I see her face to face
tomorrow third update I arrived safely at home and my parents are supportive
they didn't ask me anything they just ate dinner and had small talks I tried
asking for their opinion but they just told me to get a good night's sleep and
not think things through tonight I don't know if I'm capable of not thinking
things through tonight especially when I'm drawing blanks on what to say or how
to act it was decided that we would meet them for lunch tomorrow my parents want
me to make my own decisions they refuse to Give opinions so that I won't be
influenced by them they wouldn't even answer when I asked them about the money
my father just said it is your money your joint account last update sorry I
took my time still processing what happened to my supposedly carefully laid
plan to get married in September this year the meeting could have gone better
my ex went out probably thinking of skipping it all together but her father
made her come back home during the meeting her mom took her side
surprisingly saying the same things my ex did yesterday I'm not here I can't
blame her for being lonely I'm just being unreasonable and overly jealous
about the whole thing Etc her mom also Justified her taking the money by saying
I know it's wrong for her to do so but under the circumstances Yumi should
understand she deserves it as her Dowry or present because Yumi wasted her time
for 6 years I kept her waiting for nothing I let her talk as my father told
me prior to the meeting let whoever's doing the talking finish and just listen
it might be all the emotion talking without much sense included after all
the yelling I stated that I'm not here to justify clarify or blame anyone or
anything I'm here solely because I want to know the status of the funds if she
is happy with whomever I can't and won't do anything about it she interrupts and
says she is better without me at this point and I won't survive without her
for long and she goes on and on I just told her that even if I don't it is not
of her concern anymore I gave my bank statements to her father who remained
silent during the mom's outburst and verified that for a total of
$6,200 my contribution was $4,800 my ex immediately claimed I
edited the figure while her mom had what appeared to me as a genuine surprise
face my ex claims I'm good with computers hence being able to doctor the
bank statement as proof I asked her father for his phone logged into the
bank where my salary is credited every month and proceeded to show the
deduction made every month coincided with the joint account receiving the
transfer you can only show the previous 12 months any further than that needs to
be done at the bank counter I can't log into the joint account as I closed it my
mistake I know I offered to go to the bank to get another copy of the
statements but her father decided that this was proof enough and gave me 3K
that my ex didn't spend direct transfer and another 1K cash out of their
Collective pocket I guess didn't ask he said the balance of $800 and change will
be paid in the next two months her father asked me to send an email to him
as proof I acknowledged that I received the total amount of 4K and the balance
Arrangement which I did I apologize to her parents for any perceived wrong I
did and any inconvenience caused by me for the duration of our relationship my
my father asked me to say this and we left my parents didn't say anything
during the meeting as they informed me that they were there to keep me
level-headed during the meeting and wouldn't interfere in any way I found
out about this from my father a few hours after we got home her father
called me my father they had a professional relationship prior to their
retirement and a cordial one afterwards apparently she told her parents she only
took a total of 2K from the account and left the balance still in it that's the
whole reason her father asked for my bank statements he didn't believe me
presumably and her mother's Outburst they thought I accused her overreacted
and made up accusations about the cheating out of jealousy it is a
ridiculous story I made up about how she my ex could fall in love with someone
she never met is one of the Yarns she spun to her side I didn't feel the need
to show any screenshot to them or anyone as I still deemed it private besides to
me it's over and done with I kept screenshots just in case new update welp
she admitted that she was wrong and wants to start over
I just thought you guys would appreciate that she dared to text me using her
mom's phone to do this to everyone who read this I sincerely thank you as I
read all of your comments and your advice I thought about what to say and
how to act but truthfully I didn't know what to do even until the moment of the
meeting currently I'm just sitting by myself I feel nothing no satisfaction no
longing or anything I feel like I'm just here I know I still love her and I know
I will still miss her after a while this feeling for her for the past last 6
years will not go away anytime soon I won't get back to her because as some of
you help me rationalize even if we get back together whatever happens whether
it's really her fault or not after this I will doubt her first that doubt won't
go away once again redditors thank you P.S if any of you are interested my
steam ID is Panther 90 I won't be online today though I just need time alone to
gather my thoughts and focus on some stuff I apologize if the whole thing is
too long and for taking your time again I can't thank you enough so thank
you so much Second Story a boy bullying my son at school after he rejected his
romantic proposal and the school wants to keep the two boys together so they
can work things out WTF I'm changing my son from this school my 13-year-old son
is in the seventh grade at a local private school the school goes from prek
to 8th grade A boy transferred from another school to my son's class at the
start of the Year my son and this boy became friends but the boy developed a
romantic infatuation with my son my son started trying to avoid him but the
other boy became more persistent we had to talk to the school principal about it
the principal in turn had a meeting with the boy and his parents and the boy was
told to stay away from my son he also asked the teachers to keep the boy away
from my son in class now the boy is alternating between trash talking my son
to their classmates while also still doing lots of little things to try to
get my son to notice him it has come to the point where we have decided that my
son will finish the school year at this school and then we will transfer him to
another school for 8th grade my son along with many of his classmates has
attended the school since prek and he was looking forward to graduating e8th
grade at the school with his friends now that is not going to happen because of
one shy classmate the reason we're going to finish the school year at the school
is because we signed a contract the contract gave us a discount on the
tuition and returned for committing to the entire school year edit we are not
going to the police because there is no no physical threat we are also not going
to lawyer up the area I live in has many private schools and even the public
schools are pretty good some families not us obviously move their kids from
one school to another every couple of years the only reason my son isn't going
to a public school is because the public school classes are larger than the
private schools and we think our son will do better with the smaller classes
offered by the private schools edit to my wife didn't know I was going to post
this she's read my posts and the responses she reminded me that over the
last 3 years three of my sons classmates have left the school because they were
the target of harassment and bullying and the parents feel the school didn't
do enough about ending it relevant comments J Clarity 123 I assume your son
has tried saying he isn't interested when he said he wasn't interested did
the boy just continue his pursuit or was
the Friendship terminated because of the romantic interest do the other kids
listen to the new kid even though your son has been their way longer why is
that other than the trash talk what else is this kid doing that would make you
want to pull your son from school is it sa he said lots of little things are
these little things that the school has noticed it seems like an overreaction to
remove your kid without making the school address it first this is a
failure on their end for sure is this a religious school is the boy openly out
of the closet already and if so how did the school react op replied this is a
Catholic school I would describe it as Catholic light
they have a short prayer as part of their daily announcements a few hours of
religious instruction each week and a mass a couple of times during the school
year yes my son has made it clear he isn't interested it was when the other
boy persisted that we escalated this to the principal for what I assume are
privacy reasons the principal will not tell us much while there are several
kids in my son's class that have been there a long time there is some churn of
new or departing students each year several of the other boys in his class
that transferred in over the the last few years came from the same school as
the problem child the boy's parents likely decided on my son's school
because the other kids were there examples of little things are trying to
sit next to my son or talk to him during break even though he's been told not to
or when my son is talking to some of the
other boys this boy will come up and try to get into the conversation one day he
accidentally took my son's lunch returning it about 10 minutes later he
said he didn't notice my son's name on the package when he took it and then
there's the sht talk I already wrote about update we talked to the principal
about continuing problems with the other boy trying to get close to our son the
principal said he talked to him and his parents again he suggested getting the
boys together to work things out my jaw hit the floor at that suggestion the
other boy was doing everything in his power to be with my son and this would
be giving him exactly what he wanted so that was a hard no we made plans to
change schools for our son's 8th grade we applied to two other private schools
and were accepted by both one is secular but it is too expensive and we didn't
qualify for financial aid the other turned out to be way too religious for
my comfort I can tolerate the Catholic light he's had but this other school was
over the top in my opinion in the meantime the other boy switched his
attention to someone else in the class and stopped trying to get close to my
son then the boy made a threat against another student with an earshot of a
teacher and that's all she wrote the boy was suspended or expelled I don't know
which because the school would tell us either way he did not return for the
remainder of the school year and it is our understanding that he will not
return in the fall since our son wants to finish 8th grade at his current
school and the problem kit is gone we reluctantly signed him up for another
year at the school we bought tuition insurance so if the other boy does
return or we have other problems we can pull our son out without being stuck
paying for the entire school year of tuition however we're only kicking the
can down the street we're not going to send our son to a private high school
because they're too far away and too expensive so our son will be attending a
local public high school unfortunately we're in the same High School District
as the other boy we'll have to deal with that next year tldr version of the
update we made plans to change schools another boy got himself suspended or
expelled and will not be at school next year so my son's not changing schools
third story immature o manipulated his story to paint his parents as
narcissistic ones for kicking him out of their house but the truth eventually
came out and he made a response post parents divorced at an early age my
stepdad was strict but he was a good father I'm the oldest child due to co I
didn't go to college this year I skipped it and rightfully so as I have health
issues I'm taking classes online I don't work and haven't for at least 2 weeks I
left my job at GameStop after they stopped giving me hours and weren't
promoting me my stepdad came in while I was finishing up my coursework he told
me I had two weeks to get out or he was forcing me out I asked him why and he
said I have no Direction no goal and I'm doing nothing with my life I'm 18 you
can't seriously expect me to figure my life out but he disagrees and claims
that yes I should have a good idea of what I want he says that a parent job is
done after I turn 18 all I do is play video games I don't have girls over no
friends were in a pandemic I only go out to work F off I'm wasting time inside
when I should be doing more I told him I was looking for a better
full-time job that had a good career path and I was taking online classes I
even offered to pay rent he said no from his POV I'm wasting away and he won't
allow me to become a loser adversity brings Innovation and strength and life
will be hard but he knows I will look back and thank him I don't know what
else to do I feel like he thinks I'm worthless I spent a lot of time inside
last year for good reasons we are in a pandemic I don't want to die am I being
unreasonable my dad says yes yes I am I don't know
what to do this isn't really just my mom mostly goes along with what he says but
I don't know how can I convince her to convince him to let me stay or is my dad
Justified I am a loser for not having any plans past 18 relevant comments in
response to a now deleted comment op you sound like an Ry hole go figure your
parents have zero obligation to support you just dump them and hope for the best
at 18 I won't take care of you when you're old by that logic you failed to
consider them and just presumed that you could stay there indefinitely without
even talking with them then you didn't go to college then you quit your job
speaking as a parent that's what set your dad off he didn't read I went to
online classes I guess this pandemic doesn't exist for you does it I forget
that you morons always act as if the pandemic isn't real your reasons for
avoiding college and quitting your job don't sound particularly strong you're a
[ __ ] go figure a pandemic isn't enough
I'd rather not get sick and die I've already had a friend die I don't know
why that's not a good reason without another job to replace it it just sounds
entitled you don't read do you I left because I was going nowhere and getting
no hours I'll give you no job lined up but F off I made a mistake I didn't
realize it was my first job not everyone is perfect like you I wanted something
more more hours not 8 12 hours a week that's nonsense I was only making barely
anything it was my first job you're a effing arole you're probably making
yourself look a little better in this interaction which is fair enough by your
own description this is in character for your SD and he's likely trying to help
you and motivate you if I had to guess he's probably tried to give you advice
and Direction but maybe he's thinking you just want the free ride don't give
up hope if they have been good to you this far work with them to find your
path life can be so much easier when you are not doing it alone with your
family's support and resources of time money and experience put aside your
video games and see if they want to spend more time together where you can
discuss these things naturally and let them feel like they're a part of your
life and you value their opinions just some thoughts to see if anything Rings
true op I mean I got advice work harder and never settle for less I was tired of
so few hours at GameStop I begged I busted my ARs and I got no reward no
thanks nothing but more hour Cuts so he says all you do is play video games how
close is this to the truth you eventually need to become a productive
member of society who is financially self-sufficient your parents should
reinforce that you should be working training for a job or getting educated
or both you just quit a job with no better job to move into a bad idea are
you spending 40 hours a week looking for another one if not start doing this now
60 hours a week if you are in danger of being kicked out generally the rule is
don't quit a job until you have a better one it is okay if you don't know what
you want to train for at 18 in that case work minimum wage jobs until you figure
it out then take classes to get that job if you can afford it go to college a
satisfying High wage job with great promotions is not going to fall into
your lap see if you can get a job and stay at home trying to live
independently is no joke living in a shelter will get you everything you have
stolen even your shoes don't go there op it is true true in my defense it's
miserable I'm not used to being indoors but this pandemic has made everything so
bad my area is just horrible I'm just deathly afraid to really risk my life in
this pandemic I risked my life working at GameStop and now I have the vaccine
so I'm not as afraid but yeah I have underlining health issues and I'm afraid
of getting covid-19 I guess that makes me a failure I realize I should risk my
life to make money when you say Dad near the end do you mean biod Dad or stepdad
I would hope your biological dad would not agree with your stepdad not because
of any conflict between them but because you're his son and no one should be
treating his son in such a disgusting manner where is your mom in this tell
your stepdad to f off HEK not your father is the house the one you lived in
before your parents divorced so then it's your mom's house first of all
unless stepdad has his name on it I'd still tell him you live there first he
should find another house to live in that is your home I'm 28 I moved out
when I was 27 after I got married different circumstances for me though my
husband is in the Army and was gone for a while so I lived at home rather than
move all over the country and waste money but even now my mom says I can
come back and live with her whenever because it's my home it's one thing to
kick someone out after months or years of them not showing initiative but you
are online classes are doing something hell I can't even attend inperson
classes right now they aren't offering them you you've only had a job for 2
weeks not months your stepdad is an Ry hole he's being completely unreasonable
op step my biological parents broke up when I was young biod dad had a new job
opportunity in Ireland he actually is from Ireland and has family near Dublin
which is where he was going my mom refused to uproot her entire life to
move across the world they divorced I see my dad every year my parents are
still on good terms and my stepdad and bod dad are friends most step's mom bod
dad is married to his job but the house is my stepdad's and Mom's home they
bought it together update I lied okay I'm sorry Reddit I admit I lied I know
the reason and always have it's the same reason my parents divorced my anger
issues it's the reason why I quit my job I got angry and stormed out without
really being a mature adult about it my parents see the writing on the wall and
see that it's only getting worse I confronted my mom and after a shouting
match she came up to my room and tearfully told me this is why we want
you gone you can't control your anger and it scares us I fly off the handle at
the slightest provocation when I play games I get super game rage and Destroy
things I do have a habit of breaking things and myself harm stepdad told me
they'd let me stay if I got help and proved I could control my anger he
thinks maybe if I have direction or goals I can manage my anger but I have
to prove I can until I do I have to get out they're afraid of me they're afraid
of my anger and they don't know what else to do they've tried talking to me
before they can't afford therapy they just hoped it it go away but it hasn't
and frankly it's getting much worse I don't disagree I exploded in rage on
someone's last threat I got so mad that I broke my keyboard in rage over what a
comment I didn't like don't even ask what I did when they initially told me I
was being kicked out but yeah I have anger issues and I don't know how to
control them I'm sorry for the deception I just didn't want to admit that I have
anger problems I still see myself as innocent I know deep down I messed up
but my emotions say otherwise I wish op the best and hope he's able to get help
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I was gifted a family ring by my grandmother but my parents are stopping
me from proposing because my sister has to be married first just need to get
this off my chest my girlfriend's birthday is on Saturday and I plan on
proposing to her our anniversary is 6 months from Saturday April 29th and I
think that would be a great day for a wedding when my grandma died she left
all kinds of jewelry to my mom she always said if I wanted one of her rings
to give to a woman in the future she would let me pick I know my mom knows
she said this I asked my mom for one of the Rings but my mom said not yet she
and my dad said my sister will be upset if I get engaged while she is still
single and not married it's not a secret that she's desperate to get married but
that's not my problem my sister turned 29 in March and I turned 31 last month
my parents said she'll be upset if I get married a month after her 30th birthday
so I went out today and bought a ring it was never about money because I can
afford to buy one I thought it would be special to give my girlfriend a family
ring I'm still proposing on Saturday despite my parents for bidding me to I'm
just pissed off that they asked me to hold off until my sister is married when
she isn't even in a relationship pisses me off but I don't want anything to
spoil my girlfriend's birthday update 3 days later I proposed on Saturday like I
originally planned to I proposed with the ring I bought after my parents
denied me one of my grandmother's rings as I said in my original post it wasn't
about money I could afford to buy a ring it was about being sentimental because
my grandmother always told me I could have one of her rings I didn't do
anything elaborate or public I proposed over breakfast and she said yes she
called it the best birthday gift she's ever gotten she had the same idea as me
and had suggested we get married on April 29th our 3rd anniversary before I
even brought it up so that's what we are doing we both agreed we don't anything
huge or expensive so we're going to keep it small it's 1:15 p.m. now about 28
hours since I proposed when we announced
the news my sister was upset just like I knew she would be and my parents were
mad I didn't listen to them I'm 31 and don't rely on my parents for money I
told my parents and sister if they are unhappy they can skip the wedding it
would suck if I didn't have any family there but I also don't want them to
spoil this I wasn't going tell my fiance what went down but I did once my sister
started melting down so she wouldn't be blindsided by any of it she assured me
she loves the ring and thinks my family is wrong her family had the exact
opposite reaction as mine and they are all happy for us so that's it all is
well my fiance is currently at work and it may sound stupid but I miss her she
told me her co-workers are happy for her
and I know mine will be too when I go in later today edit I also appreciate all
the supportive comments in my last post so thanks for those update 2 years later
my original post and the first update can be found in my comment history but
the gist of it is my grandmother loved jewelry and always said I could have one
of her rings for my future wife when she passed away she put in her will that I
was to be allowed to pick one out if I was getting engaged the other hundreds
of people pieces of jewelry got left to my mom to be eventually passed on to my
sister the Rings I was supposed to pick from were not her engagement ring or any
of the most expensive jewelry she had in October of 2022 I asked my mom for a
ring because I was going propose to my then girlfriend of two and a half years
but my mom said I could not have one and my dad backed her up it was because my
sister would be upset that I was getting married first my parents forbid me from
proposing I was 31 years old when this happened and I live in a different
Province so they had no ground to forbid
me from anything my grandparents on both sides came to Canada from Scotland
there's nothing in either culture that says I am supposed to wait until his
younger sister gets married first I bought a ring and proposed to my wife on
her birthday my parents were angry I didn't listen to them my sister had an
absolute meltdown when she found out about my engagement I had not told her
in advance I was going to propose because I knew she would react badly
even though she was 29 years old at the time my wife and I got married 6 months
after I proposed in April of 2023 it did suck not having any of my own
family at my wedding but I just focused on my wife instead my update I went 18
months without speaking to my family from a couple of weeks after I proposed
until earlier this month I guess my mom had a health scare and even though she
is fine it got her and my dad worried enough to get back in touch a couple of
weeks ago my wife told me she would support me in whatever I decided I told
my parents we can't go back to the way things were before and I will not let
them talk to my wife right now after the way they acted my wife and I don't want
kids but if we did I would keep my parents away from them too they were
surprised I got married without telling them I said I'm an adult who doesn't
need their permission we are going go start with occasional emails for now and
go from there my parents said sister is still upset that I'm married and she's
not she has never apologized for the way she carried on or the way she spoke
about my wife I have no plans to resume contact with her and I told my parents
not to bring it up again thanks to those who left supportive comments in both of
my posts I forgot I had posted here until my wife said something that
reminded me of it and I had some messages asking for an update story two
mother wants to legally force me to live with her even though I am 39 so my
mother 60 has always had a flare for Dramatics and will convince herself of
things that are just not true and of course her brothers my uncles think it's
hilarious and will get her worked up even more while making fun of her for
being so gullible behind her back I cut her out of my life four years ago we are
in Michigan someone I trust in the family came to me with concerns that my
May lie to try to get conservatorship over me here is what I know her current
belief is that I am an unemployed alcoholic living in my car and being
taken advantage of by evil men from the political party that she hates this is
not true I have a place pay my bills and
had a full-time job last time we spoke I did leave that job but I also returned
to school full-time on GI bill which includes a stipend for living expenses
and found a sweet part-time job in an aircond conditioned office on campus as
far as I know she has no idea I am back in school and I haven't told anyone in
my family even the ones I trust what is going on in my life problem is that she
lost her job of over 20 years during a mass layoff sometime since we last spoke
these new co-workers haven't known her long enough to recognize how she doesn't
keep her stories straight or how she flip-flops things around basically she
has led everyone she works with to believe I am only in my early mid 20s
and haven't quite finished my teenage rebellion phase and she is a good mommy
who just wants to save her baby from the evil political party they have all been
helping her with research and believe because I have a disability rating from
the VA it means I am mentally incompetent it does not at all mean that
now I am positive that none of them actually understand how a VA disability
rating actually works my mother likely lied to them about it her new friends
believe she can have me declared incompetent force me to live with her
for monitoring and finally take control of my finances thus getting control of
my disability payments I have an 80 rating which is currently just under
$2,000 a month my concern isn't that my mother could prove I am incompetent but
it's that she could use Court proceedings to get a hold of my address
school or workplace I guess my question is about rules of Discovery when it
comes to conservatorship cases can my mother or any lawyer willing to take her
case on actually get a hold of my personal info I don't want her to have
if I provide courts with documents proving my competence and ability to
care for myself do I have the right to ask the court to seal or redact any
information or documents with info I don't want her getting she sabotaged me
going to college around 20 years ago and I don't want to go through that again I
am assuming that the first person I would ever have to deal with would be a
social worker and I want to know if I have any legal recourse to prevent the
social worker from sharing my info with my mother update I tried to update the
original post and couldn't and the update comment I left got buried at the
bottom backstory mother wanted me declared incompetent to gain control of
me and my veteran disability payments so I talked with another family member who
confirmed what the first said everyone is angry because I wasn't supposed to
find out what happened because they were handling it I refused to tell who told
me which is causing more anger but whatever so this situation had resolved
itself last week my mother was talking a big game about how she was calling
lawyers and Adult Protective Services after a few days she started trashing on
all lawyers and saying that APS was wasting taxpayer dollars apparently she
has forgotten all about this whole mess her job got a new summer internet and my
mother is obsessed every conversation anyone has with her is about this guy my
poor grandma has to have no less than a 1 conversation with my mother every day
about this guy the guy comes from a lot of money which in the end was what I
think she wanted with me this guy just turned 20 and my mother is 60 update 8
days later I was able to squeeze in meeting with the social worker who works
at my VA Clinic I gave her the rundown and even showed her my two previous
posts she thought it was kind of funny she informed me that if a state SW were
to be informed of a veteran in a need they would reach out to the VA and she
would likely be a first point of contact she said that no one from the county or
state has contacted her about me yet but she would make a note apparently the
whole Britney Spears conservatorship has made a lot of people think it's super
easy to get conservatorships she said some people think they will get paid a
lot of money to do it her best guess is that if my mother did call it was
explained to her how complex the process is and that I would be guided to the VA
to receive treatment first before declaring me incompetent she did agree
with many of the comments that said my mother could find me pretty easily if
she really wanted to the SW used to work
at the State office office and while she
didn't work at Adult Protective Services but she had friends and co-workers who
did Money seemed to her to be a really big factor in how hard people fought to
get conservatorship she was surprisingly
compassionate towards my mother and said sometimes parents just get worried and
worry makes people do stupid things she said some parents have a hard time
adjusting to their children becoming adults and moving out sometimes it's
because they are losing child support or they're losing the person who did all
the chores or because they just don't want to face reality that they're baby
grew up and these parents will lash out at the world instead of accepting the
truth she told me about a case a friend of hers had where the parents of an
adult woman who had moved out couldn't face reality her parents had been
relying on her to do all the housework and raise her brothers with her gone
everything fell apart at home these parents blamed their daughter who had
moved out instead of taking responsibility for their own lives her
friend was so stressed by the case because she got yelled at by the parents
almost daily about how the state needed to force their daughter to move back in
with them they never got their wish and almost lost their other kids a
grandparent found out what was happening and stepped up to set the parent
straight someone had messaged me saying my post was blowing up on social media
and I went looking for it and couldn't find it they pointed out my family could
see it but I've decided I don't care if they do so basically if my mother really
wants to find me she can but the conservatorship isn't that easy to get
and I know my mother well enough to know she doesn't have the patience or money
needed to pursue this anymore also there seems to be a lot of rules surrounding
conservatorship that I don't think my mother would have liked following so I
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video today we've got a story of a dream job
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turned bad our story of the day is my dream job
turned out to be a nightmare I love Comics more
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than anything it's because growing up it was a
point of bonding between me and my nerdy dad so
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when I was old enough to start looking for work I
spent a few years trying to get a job within that
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sphere I didn't care too much what it was I just
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when I found a job working for Marvel Studios as
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move States just to grab this foot on the Dream
Factory ladder being a young woman in her early
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20s one that had barely ever traveled tells you
how much of a big deal this was to me so I packed
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my bags left my family behind and moved into a
tiny apartment not far from my new job my first
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when I saw the big film Real designs stencl on
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the front of the office building the interior
of the complex was stacked with Marvel stuff
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costumes murals anything you can imagine it was
so fun everyone was really friendly and one of
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me settled in she was so kind and forgiving of
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my new girl blunders eventually I got to meet the
professional that I was working directly under who
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to my surprise was only about my age office gossip
quickly revealed to me that this man was the son
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of a wealthy influential figure Q my reservations
well he was in a pretty good position for someone
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so young he'd seemed decent enough when I first
met him but I was sure that he'd turned out to be
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a hell raising spoiled snob over time they always
do don't they daddy fulfills their every whim and
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learn how to handle rejection well after our
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first few weeks I became increasingly convinced
that my initial Notions had been both wrong and
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unfair he was a very Hands-On worker dedicated
and really engaged with his colleagues including
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me most of all he was funny charming and quite
good-looking even if not Richard Gear handsome
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he was an old-fashioned gent that would hold the
door open for you and talk to you with respect
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and consideration I even started to like him in
fact we seemed to be getting on really well we
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both shared similar interests and had an even
more similar sense of humor we really clicked
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so a few months after starting there he asked me
out for a drink drink after work one evening and
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I accepted I met a met his car after I'd finished
and surprise surprise it was a sports car don't
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ask me what kind though I have no clue when it
comes to knowing what cars what all I can tell
:42.680 --> :48.160
you is that it was green had two seats and moved
like a beaver with a rocket up its butt it was
:48.160 --> :53.680
a pretty short trip to the bar about a couple of
Miles which was a blessing because he drove with
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his foot to the floor and I am the opposite of an
adrenaline junkie honest to God my main thought
:59.640 --> :05.320
the the whole time I was in the car was don't
be sick don't be sick don't be sick when we got
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to the bar I was stoked to find it was a cool old
bar really atmospheric inside there were deep blue
:12.400 --> :18.320
lights running the lengths of it making it feel
really moody I like that we sat at the bar Matt
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name changed ordered a beer for me and a p colada
for himself the bartender served our drinks the
:23.560 --> :28.400
wrong way around but I suppose you couldn't blame
them at least we got our drinks and in good time
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to boot despite it being already busy it was fun
getting to know more about him he told me about
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the countries he' visited showed me pictures of
him in Italy Japan and Cyprus among other places
:39.360 --> :44.600
and told me about his family there was a bit of
showing off but I wasn't convinced it was so much
:44.600 --> :51.320
pure vanity as insecurity I sense that he was just
trying to establish his character maybe struggling
:51.320 --> :56.680
a bit and trying to fill the patches with status
I'm pretty good at getting people to feel at ease
:56.680 --> :02.920
though getting them to open up so I just worked on
them a bit and eventually with the help of alcohol
:02.920 --> :09.320
got him to be more natural with me I did ask him
one cringe worthily cliche question do you come
:09.320 --> :15.400
here often but he gracefully replied that it was
his favorite I'd been more than a bit wrong about
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him he hadn't had such a breeze of life after
all his parents divorced when he was young and
:20.800 --> :27.280
he never saw his mother again I asked him if he
was angry about that he said not anymore no just
:27.280 --> :32.800
disappointed then like a Thunderclap he hits me
with a confronting question you thought of me as
:32.800 --> :38.000
a rich kid didn't you I pulled that scrunched up
face people do when they're hesitantly admitting
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something and nodded he laughed he said he liked
my honesty he didn't hold it against me either
:43.800 --> :48.720
it was forgotten and we carried on chatting and
laughing until he dropped me off home there was
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a click moment in the car where we just quietly
looked at each other he smiled at me which made
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me smile and feel elated amongst other things next
thing I knew I was waking up next to him in bed
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afterwards we sat down and had breakfast straight
to the point he asked me if this was a one-time
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thing or whether we might do it again coily I said
I might want to go there again and that's what it
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did it turned into a full-on friends with benefit
situation every so often there was no regularity
:18.280 --> :23.920
to it we'd meet up at my place and have fun things
stepped up a notch after a while when he started
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inviting me over to his apartment the first time
I went there my jaw dropped it was stuck stunning
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lots of space a Swanky kitchen and a panoramic
view the situation went on from there for just
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over a year by which time I was starting to feel
disenchanted I invited him over to my place to
:41.920 --> :47.200
talk he came clearly expecting a good time but
quickly caught onto the fact that we were going
:47.200 --> :53.240
to have the breakup chat at first he seemed to
be taking it well and I started to feel at ease
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unfortunately I was really wrong in fact he hadn't
really been listening at all he said it was fine
:59.760 --> :05.600
if I needed a break I said no I'm sorry Matt I
want to end things all together he still wasn't
:05.600 --> :11.160
listening he said you're just in a bad mood come
on let me cheer you up he pulled me in close and
:11.160 --> :17.000
tried to kiss me but I lurched back and said no I
don't want this he still persisted and did other
:17.000 --> :23.000
things forcing me to Parry his arm away I stood up
and stepped back to put some distance between us
:23.000 --> :28.880
and for a moment I thought he was finally paying
attention he sat smiling at me quite still but
:28.880 --> :34.800
then he suddenly got up and slowly started towards
me he ran his fingers down my arm and I just felt
:34.800 --> :41.440
so uncomfortable he grabbed my arm and I yanked it
back but he didn't let it go and a struggle ensued
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we were shouting and pulling each other about
until there was a loud knock at the door a man
:46.520 --> :51.880
asking if everything was all right we stopped dead
in our tracks I told Matt that he'd better leave
:51.880 --> :58.280
or I'd scream the place down he bitterly let go
and walked out passing my waiting neighbor as he
:58.280 --> :04.360
went Robert the neighbor asked me if I was okay I
sheepishly nodded and thanked him for stopping by
:04.360 --> :09.720
I asked him if he'd like to come in for a coffee
and he said yes I told him all about Matt and he
:09.720 --> :15.080
listened attentively I noted that we just had
a bit of an argument and that's what he heard
:15.080 --> :20.240
when I told him the nature of it though he had
a quizzical look on his face I asked him what
:20.240 --> :25.400
was wrong he said doesn't sound like it was an
argument sounded more like he was trying to force
:25.400 --> :31.720
himself on you it's so stupid that it didn't occur
to me straight away but it was true all I could do
:31.720 --> :36.920
was say you think he tried to you know what me
he thought that at the very least he definitely
:36.920 --> :43.200
assaulted me would I call the cops I said I needed
more time to think about it I really considered it
:43.200 --> :47.920 but I was afraid that it would affect my job
and not having much in the way of savings I
:47.920 --> :54.560
couldn't afford to lose it I was totally on my own
I decided to take a risk on the following Monday I
:54.560 --> :59.600 went into Matt's office early in the morning
to confront him I told him that he's a dis
:59.600 --> :05.120 grace to the company and that he should quit
he smirked and said and what if I don't and I
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told him that if he didn't I'd go straight to the
police and tell them that he assaulted me this is
:10.800 --> :15.640
where I bluffed a bit I said that Robert had not
only heard everything but had peeped Through the
:15.640 --> :20.960
Keyhole and seen him grabbing me aggressively I
felt confident that he would do the trick watching
:20.960 --> :27.440 him though seeing how unfazed he was made my
confidence start to slip with an infuriating
:27.440 --> :32.960
Cockiness he said go ahead try it before you do
though tell me how you think it'll play out who
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are they going to believe the respectable son
of an influential family or the Disposable who
:39.000 --> :44.800
are throwing herself at me he said there's no way
in hell they'd believe me and that once it failed
:44.800 --> :50.920
I would be looking up job ads online desperate
not to lose ground I made a last ditch attempt
:50.920 --> :57.040
to scare him by saying I'd tell everyone in the
building what he'd done he got up so swiftly that
:57.040 --> :03.280 I jumped and then he came over to me and got
uncomfortably close don't be so stupid he said
:03.280 --> :09.800
if you do that I'll have to take you seriously
whatever that specifically meant I had no idea
:09.800 --> :15.400
but it was obviously menacing and enough to make
me retreat in my lunch break I ran into the higher
:15.400 --> :20.720
up that I mentioned earlier and felt compelled
to talk about it with her at the very least I'd
:20.720 --> :26.280
have someone in my corner or so I thought she
invited me to sit in her office and we could eat
:26.280 --> :32.200
and chat there I told her about what had happened
expecting and hoping for sympathy only for her to
:32.200 --> :37.960
chuckle and handwave it as horse play I pulled
up my sleeve and showed her the bruise marks on
:37.960 --> :45.560
my wrist she didn't even bat an eyelid suddenly I
felt very out of place like I was a leper I finish
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that lunch not feeling some supported as I'd hoped
but utterly dejected I went home that evening and
:51.680 --> :57.120 cried I didn't eat a thing and I didn't know
what to do I felt like an insignificant piece
:57.120 --> :02.480
of trash that had been kicked about I lived the
next couple of weeks on autopilot feeling like
:02.480 --> :07.560
an outsider in my own workplace I wondered if
I should just give the whole thing up and fly
:07.560 --> :13.400
back home but my stupid Pride was saying if you
do that it'll look like you couldn't hack it I
:13.400 --> :19.240
felt like enough of a failure as it was without
the patronizing sympathy of my parents I could
:19.240 --> :27.000
just imagine their faces that gut-wrenching look
of sympathy no I couldn't do it so I stayed weeks
:27.000 --> :33.160
and weeks passed and I just got worse and worse
I lost weight paid less attention to grooming and
:33.160 --> :39.160
felt empty work and home that's all there was to
my life where I'd enjoyed going out on spontaneous
:39.160 --> :45.800
little trips and making friends now there was just
me and instant Ramen if I felt up to it I decided
:45.800 --> :51.240
to make a general call to a cousin who I'd been
close with not to talk about my situation just
:51.240 --> :58.920
to hear a friendly voice a voice of home for that
30 minutes hearing about my uncle's new DIY hobby
:58.920 --> :04.080
yeah required more Hobbies than a bored housewife
how their old dog was doing and about their little
:04.080 --> :11.120
girl's first day at school all the normal stuff
it proved both a blessing and a curse on the one
:11.120 --> :18.480
hand it was comforting but on the other it made me
ache for normality for security in the end it made
:18.480 --> :24.760
me feel even worse I'm not very good at giving up
though so I mustered the scraps of energy spare to
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book a holiday the cheapest possible holiday same
state and really not more than a Stones Throw for
:30.840 --> :36.640
my apartment still it was something I spent the
first few days doing not much at all lounging
:36.640 --> :43.000
around in the beach dipping my toes in the water
just as I was finding a cintilla of Solace on the
:43.000 --> :49.680
Wednesday whilst I was sunbathing I hear a man's
voice above me I asked him who the heck he was he
:49.680 --> :54.760
said that he dropped by to check up on me wanted
to make sure I hadn't tried anything silly he told
:54.760 --> :00.240
me that he'd be keeping a close eye on me from
now on then he walked off I I was stumped on a
:00.240 --> :06.080
few fronts but one obvious thing was that this
warning was courtesy of Matt the most pressing
:06.080 --> :12.240 question for me was why now I gave up on the
holiday after that my mood plummeted like a
:12.240 --> :18.480
lead balloon and now I had to contend with added
fear and anxiety I went back to work and for a
:18.480 --> :23.760
couple of days tried to pretend everything was
normal I couldn't manage it though the darn thing
:23.760 --> :29.800 was eating me up so in the middle of a shift
I stormed into his office and de demanded to
:29.800 --> :35.040 know what the heck he was playing at he just
Shrugged his shoulders the whole moment was a
:35.040 --> :41.280
weird Haze because I was so scared and angry that
I didn't know what to do with myself I later found
:41.280 --> :46.640
out that the Gap was because that other colleague
had casually mentioned it and crossed wires that
:46.640 --> :52.360
he thought I was going to tell the cops not that
this piece of hindsight knowledge helped me then
:52.360 --> :58.440
every moment after that felt like a cross between
a horror movie and a reality TV show that my life
:58.440 --> :04.920
was under SC scrutiny by some lurking monster I
became a nervous wreck I couldn't sleep for fear
:04.920 --> :10.120
that that man would come bursting through the
door and I certainly couldn't eat the sight of
:10.120 --> :16.800
food made me feel sick the stress he put me under
got so bad that my hair started falling out I was
:16.800 --> :23.360
reduced to skin and bone and I started skipping
work eventually I was fired he'd pulled the rug
:23.360 --> :28.840
from under my feet not that I cared initially
but without me noticing he'd driven me to the
:28.840 --> :34.840
end end of my tether he'd broken me completely
the only way I can describe how I felt is to
:34.840 --> :41.440
say I felt hollowed out by then I wasn't even
washing myself anymore didn't go out and didn't
:41.440 --> :47.600
talk to anyone not even Robert naturally with no
money coming and nothing coming in the bills just
:47.600 --> :53.360
started piling up reaching a point where I was
days from eviction I wanted to end everything
:53.360 --> :59.160
and I seriously considered doing so in the darkest
few days I did nothing but think of the most quick
:59.160 --> :04.760
K and painless methods I came to the conclusion
that the best option available was for me to LEAP
:04.760 --> :11.040
from the top of the apartment complex eviction day
came and went the landlord came knocking got no
:11.040 --> :17.560
answer he slid notes under the door but I didn't
read them I couldn't I felt dread just seeing them
:17.560 --> :22.600
then one day there was a different knock at the
door but it was still faintly familiar when they
:22.600 --> :30.600
got no answer a familiar voice sounded it was my
dad mom too spoke up at first I felt horrendous
:30.600 --> :37.360
shame but something deeper more powerful overrode
my embarrassment before I knew it I was up and
:37.360 --> :43.520
making a beine for the door when I opened it I
could see their shock still and despite the fact
:43.520 --> :50.640
that I smelt a bit funky my Dad pulled me in for a
hug my mom cried I cried so much so that it seemed
:50.640 --> :57.120
I'd never stop we went into the apartment and sat
down and I told them only that I'd been struggling
:57.120 --> :01.720
with my head I feared what either NE of them would
have done had they known the full extent of the
:01.720 --> :07.320
situation either way I really needed them and they
stepped up Dad went to the store and bought some
:07.320 --> :12.480
food whilst my mom cleaned up the place in the
meantime feeling that there was a little light
:12.480 --> :18.120
at the end of the tunnel I felt enough momentum to
take a shower my dad cooked us my favorite mac and
:18.120 --> :24.360
cheese and when we sat down to eat it I felt happy
and safe it was all I could do to stop myself from
:24.360 --> :30.080
crying happy tears I was reminded that I wasn't
alone no matter how much mad had wanted me to
:30.080 --> :35.600
feel otherwise my parents stayed for a couple
of weeks essentially nursing me back to hell
:35.600 --> :41.000
not exactly the West Coast break that my parents
probably had hoped to have during that time they
:41.000 --> :46.080
suggested I might move back and stay with them
for a while although a big part of me wanted to
:46.080 --> :52.760
say yes I was feeling A Renewed determination to
stay and try to make something of my life here
:52.760 --> :58.160
I got the impression that Matt was satisfied and
would leave me alone and after everything it would
:58.160 --> :03.560
seem a waste of didn't at least give it one more
try they said they understood and that the offer
:03.560 --> :09.920
will always remain open after they left my first
job was to ring the landlord I told him about my
:09.920 --> :15.520
situation and asked if he might give me a second
chance he said yes we agreed on a payment plan
:15.520 --> :21.880
for the aers and thanks to Mom and Pop I had money
to pay that month's rent I found work as a cleaner
:21.880 --> :28.160
it didn't pay well but it was something and got my
life back on track by the time my debt was nearly
:28.160 --> :34.200
clear I decided I couldn't move past what happened
whilst I stayed here and I felt like I was getting
:34.200 --> :40.640
nowhere so I settled on sorting out my Affairs
here and then moving back home ASAP but I didn't
:40.640 --> :46.400
want to leave without giving Matt a little gift to
say thank you for everything one evening I dressed
:46.400 --> :51.920
myself in such a way that I would neither Stand
Out nor be easily recognized by anyone who knew
:51.920 --> :57.200
me then I headed to the bar we'd gone to on our
date and hung around outside for a while I had
:57.200 --> :03.160
to do this on three consec of nights before I saw
Matt's sports car roll up note that I'd also been
:03.160 --> :07.880
keeping track of other people pulling in before
he'd arrive too when he went inside I pulled out
:07.880 --> :13.600 my door key and scratched a pre-selected red
Saloon along the length of its doors before
:13.600 --> :19.520
slipping into the bar I was so scared that Matt
would spot me but I knew I couldn't back out now
:19.520 --> :24.560
I went searching for the man with short Ginger
hair and a black top and thankfully I found him
:24.560 --> :29.600 fairly quickly he was standing at the end of
the bar talking to another man I went over to
:29.600 --> :35.240
him and asked him if he was the owner of the Red
Saloon outside he gave me a cautious yes before
:35.240 --> :41.880
I informed him that I'd seen a man keying his car
and that he was in the bar right now he sped out
:41.880 --> :47.120 of the bar and I followed behind pretending
to leave alt together but in reality I went
:47.120 --> :52.440
across the road and up a bit back to my Hiding
Place I watched the poor man throw his hands up
:52.440 --> :58.160 in the air before storming back inside after
a couple of tense minutes I saw him come back
:58.160 --> :04.240
out prac practically dragging Matt by the collar
they argued loudly going back and forth between
:04.240 --> :11.160
you need to pay for this and I didn't touch your
car eventually shouting escalated into pushing
:11.160 --> :16.160 and pushing into a full-blown fight I didn't
stick around to watch for long only enough to
:16.160 --> :21.760
see Matt take a couple of hits I figured that was
probably equivalent to what he had done to me I
:21.760 --> :28.200
left California as quickly as I could after that
and never wanted to go back I went home moved back
:28.200 --> :34.480
with my parents for a while and at first I worked
part-time in my sister's shop I can't tell you how
:34.480 --> :40.120
amazing it was to be back on home soil comforted
by familiar surroundings and close to the people
:40.120 --> :46.120
I love some might say that I'd taken the easy
way out that I'm a quitter but I want to remind
:46.120 --> :52.360
those people that I'd been assaulted in my home
until I hit what I now realized was a very severe
:52.360 --> :58.720
depressive episode as severe as it can get and
God knows I tried to make it work despite every
:59.360 --> :03.680 but I couldn't do it with my own home being
a constant reminder of what turned out to be
:03.680 --> :10.840
the worst period of my life so far and hopefully
forever more as for the current me I've moved back
:10.840 --> :16.440
out of my parents' place and into an apartment
nearby it's amazing really just a short time ago
:16.440 --> :22.240
I couldn't wait to get away from here and explore
the great world Beyond now there's no other place
:22.240 --> :28.840
in the whole wide world I'd rather be and I'd be
happy to stay here for the rest of my life as for
:28.840 --> :34.400
work I decided that I wanted to try something
more handson after seeing my dad throw himself
:34.400 --> :40.400 into his DIY passion after a lot of research
and consideration I decided that I wanted to be
:40.400 --> :46.520
an electrician I started an apprentice ship and
to my delight found I really enjoyed it now I'm
:46.520 --> :51.960
fully qualified and it's my full-time job I've
reconnected with some old friends resurrecting
:51.960 --> :57.960
my social life in the process and there's barely
a day that passes without me finding something
:57.960 --> :04.000
to smile about out I'll never take this life for
granted whilst I'm much happier and whilst I got
:04.000 --> :09.080
some sort of Revenge on him I can't help but feel
AG grieve that Matt got away with as much as he
:09.080 --> :14.840
did the business rallied around him because he's
well connected and every time I think about it I
:14.840 --> :20.000
wonder if I was even his first if there's one
thing I'm sure of unless something's properly
:20.000 --> :26.320
done about him I won't be the last and what if
his next victim is less assertive than me what
:26.320 --> :32.240
if she feels like she has no choice but to lie
down and take what he gives I don't believe for a
:32.240 --> :38.560
second that he has any kind of boundaries and what
will become of such a woman I'm pretty sturdy but
:38.560 --> :43.560
I wouldn't have managed to get out of that rut I
don't think without my parents to back me I'd hate
:43.560 --> :51.280
to think that someone anyone would end it all over
that lousy scum he bullied me into silence using
:51.280 --> :57.200
his power to get his own way and that's not right
I would sincerely like to see proper Justice done
:57.200 --> :03.520
but well I'm just one person one electrician they
made sure to drill into me that I couldn't battle
:03.520 --> :09.000
corporate might by myself to show me that they
could ruin me trample all over my life and that
:09.000 --> :14.960
it would barely require any effort on their part
is the ending of the story really going to be me
:14.960 --> :20.880
just praying blindly for karma whilst he goes on
living the big shot life using and abusing women
:20.880 --> :27.240 as he pleases I can't lie that really upsets
me I don't know how you can hear the story and
:27.240 --> :34.360
not feel terrible for op and op is dropping some
really heavy truth bombs in that last paragraph
:34.360 --> :39.480
not everyone reacts the same way in situations
like that where somebody's basically forcing
:39.480 --> :45.160
themselves on you you know a lot of people their
natural reaction is just to kind of freeze up op
:45.160 --> :50.800
having their family to support them was Monumental
and I'm glad for their sake that they were able to
:50.800 --> :56.680
have them in their life there is some Revenge
here but let's be real the true Revenge isn't
:56.680 --> :03.360
there until this guy is locked up Behind Bars do
you guys think that for guys like Matt who go and
:03.360 --> :08.680
do these things to innocent women that eventually
it'll catch up to them that eventually they'll be
:08.680 --> :13.680 held responsible or is that just fairy tale
thinking let me know what you guys think down
:13.680 --> :20.120
in the comments below is revenge against my crazy
cat lady girlfriend my girlfriend was a cat lady
:20.120 --> :25.600
she wasn't a lady in the way that she had dozens
of cats and she was living alone instead she was
:25.600 --> :32.480
obsessed with one cat her cat she had an expensive
pedigree cat that was the center of her Universe
:32.480 --> :36.480 every part of her life revolved around it my
girlfriend came from money which is how she
:36.480 --> :42.120
was able to get the cat in the first place it was
a gift for her 18th birthday from her father she
:42.120 --> :47.400
had put that cat through grooming and training
schools so that she could enter it into pedigree
:47.400 --> :53.800
competitions her entire social standing was based
around her cat I of course didn't know this when
:53.800 --> :58.600
we first started dating we were introduced through
some mutual friends and sort of got into a r
:58.600 --> :04.000
them and found ourselves living together I didn't
come for money but I worked hard I went to college
:04.000 --> :08.600
and got a job the only thing that I had in my
life that one would call an expensive thing was
:08.600 --> :14.480
a car that I inherited from my father it was a
vintage Hot Rod that he got from his dad I loved
:14.480 --> :19.120
that car most of the money I made went into our
apartment and the business that I was trying to
:19.120 --> :23.920
build most of the money she got from her parents
went into traveling to different cat shows around
:23.920 --> :29.920
the country she didn't even have a job even though
she graduated from a very p prestigious University
:29.920 --> :34.960
she was basically living off her trust fund of
the two things I didn't understand about her the
:34.960 --> :40.400
one that confused me the most was the fact that
she hated spending her own money she was always
:40.400 --> :46.720
borrowing money from me or our friends and rarely
did she ever pay for things when we went out the
:46.720 --> :53.280
second thing is that she never won someone always
beat her someone's cat was either better groomed
:53.280 --> :58.840
better trained or of a better pedigree and she
was forever sending the cat to school schools
:58.840 --> :04.440
and parlors the cat didn't live with us because
she wanted to have the best care possible so the
:04.440 --> :10.440
cat had its own apartment where there were people
taking care of it we would visit the Cat every
:10.440 --> :16.000
day and on the days where I couldn't make it she
got upset with me I had just about had enough and
:16.000 --> :22.160
was ready to break up with her when she did the
most unspeakable thing I could ever imagine she
:22.160 --> :27.680
wanted to go overseas for a cat show but didn't
feel like paying her way there instead she sold
:27.680 --> :33.240
my car for for less than half of what it's worth
and use that money to go to the competition and
:33.240 --> :38.760
still not win I didn't drive my car very often
because it was a vintage car and I didn't know
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that it was sold for almost 2 weeks after the
fact I initially thought it was just stolen and
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so when I told her she just nonchalantly said oh
she sold it her justification was that the car was
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just an object that was costing us money because
I was paying for special parking but that our cat
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was a living being I knew that was no way I was
going to get my money back from her and I also
:02.160 --> :06.880
knew that there was no way I was getting my car
back because anyone who'd buy that car for that
:06.880 --> :13.480
price was never going to give it up so I set about
getting my money back from the person who robbed
:13.480 --> :18.840
me of it the first part was not complicated I had
access to the cat's apartment and I knew when the
:18.840 --> :25.760
cat was alone so one day during our regular visits
to his Royal feline Majesty I made sure that one
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of the apartment windows were open before we left
now while all the stereotypes of pedigreed cats
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being snobs are true cats are still cats and this
was being raised like an Olympic Athlete it was
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on a very strict diet designed to make sure that
it never got fat and a bunch of other things I
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didn't understand about shiny coats but I did
pick up on a few things here and there after
:47.560 --> :53.920
a few years of listening to my girlfriend prattle
on and on the point was that this cat was starved
:53.920 --> :59.720
for real food and so one night I snuck over to
the apartment and lured the cat out the window
:59.720 --> :04.840
with a tin of tuna I still had the storage space
where my car used to be parked and that's where
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I kept the cat the ransom note arrived before the
cat's caretakers reported it missing my girlfriend
:10.640 --> :16.680
went from confusion to hysteria in a slow steady
decline of Sanity At first she couldn't believe
:16.680 --> :21.760
it because she didn't know her cat was missing and
often when she found the cat was gone she did good
:21.760 --> :28.400
and accepted I saw a side to her I never knew
she was threatening all kinds of evil upon the
:28.400 --> :33.480
person who took her cat if she ever found them I
was honestly scared and wondered if I'd done the
:33.480 --> :39.560
smart thing by taking this cat I knew I had to
be extra cautious not to get caught under normal
:39.560 --> :45.240
circumstances I imagine she would have informed
the police and done everything to catch whoever
:45.240 --> :50.720
took your cat but I made sure that she wouldn't
I kidnapped the Cat 2 days before the biggest
:50.720 --> :56.640
competition of the year it was a local competition
and everyone she knew and respected was going to
:56.640 --> :02.480
be there so I knew she would do everything to
get that cat back before anyone found out what
:02.480 --> :08.760
happened the ransom was for twice the amount of
what my car was worth and she paid it immediately
:08.760 --> :13.840
that night the cat mysteriously found its way
back to the apartment but only after I'd done
:13.840 --> :20.240
a few modifications on it I discreetly shaved
some of the cat hair and replaced it with dyed
:20.240 --> :26.280
hair belonging to another cat I also had a new
certificate of pedigree forged for the cat she
:26.280 --> :31.840
entered her cat as usual and of her socialite
friends were there as soon as the competition
:31.840 --> :38.120
began I slipped a note with the forged certificate
of pedigree to the judges when the judges came to
:38.120 --> :43.800
examine her cat they immediately started looking
for the hair that I replaced these people are
:43.800 --> :48.840 experts when it comes to cats and they knew
fake hair from real hair instantly they then
:48.840 --> :54.440
produced the forged certificate that I gave them
to show them my girlfriend's cat was actually not
:54.440 --> :00.320
a pedigree cat they accused her of Shaving her
cat and placing The Telltale spots of the hair
:00.320 --> :06.720
from mixed breeding she was shamed in front of
everybody she respects and banned from competing
:06.720 --> :13.960
in any other competitions nationally she was also
reported for cruelty to animals and fraud well
:13.960 --> :19.480
let's be real here the cruelty to animals charge
I don't think that's going to stick because what
:19.480 --> :24.800
cruelty did they do to this cat like yeah the cat
might want some tuna but I imagine the cat's in
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really good shape and by all means is probably had
a very very pampered life that honestly might have
:31.840 --> :37.440
been treated better than most humans I got to
say though I'm usually pretty staunchly against
:37.440 --> :43.440
doing anything involving people's pets I'm a huge
pet lover but a person like this who can go turn
:43.440 --> :48.080
around behind your back and sell your car off
and then not even tell you about it and pocket
:48.080 --> :53.080
the money I don't feel too bad about what op did
here at all although I think we can all agree what
:53.080 --> :59.440
op did here was pretty crazy do you think op was
justified or went too far and what they did let
:59.440 --> :03.880
me know what you guys think down in the comments
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our next story is from NOA co-workers all laughed
at my assault got them deported I know it sounds
:15.400 --> :21.920
bad and maybe I did overreact I was 18 years old
had been kicked out of my mom's and was living
:21.920 --> :28.280
with my cheating didn't know at the time boyfriend
while working three jobs to make ends meet I had
:28.280 --> :33.360
just started at this Sushi chain in our small
City when one of the chefs middle-aged offered
:33.360 --> :38.840
to make me a roll even if it was comped it still
let it be entered into the point of sale system I
:38.840 --> :45.960
didn't know how and asked him to help as he walked
around me he made a point of slowly aggressively
:45.960 --> :52.680
rubbing himself against my butt an entire backside
in front of the kitchen crew who were all watching
:52.680 --> :58.640
I left the room to gather my composure I felt so
violated and embarrassed after after deciding to
:58.640 --> :04.000
walk out I went back in to grab my things from
the cubby I entered the room to find that every
:04.000 --> :10.160
single one of them were eyeing me and laughing at
me it was cruel and humiliating on the way home I
:10.160 --> :16.920
got pulled over for driving a bit erratically
I was extremely emotional got a $900 ticket I
:16.920 --> :23.520
absolutely could not afford I was so absolutely
infuriated with the chef and everyone there who
:23.520 --> :29.480
laughed at me and delighted in shot and frda at
my assault I I guess now it's worth mentioning
:29.480 --> :35.720
that they were all clearly immigrants I'm not
necessarily proud of it but in my anger I sent
:35.720 --> :41.680
an anonymous tip to ice a few months later I saw
their Yelp reviews had tanked and all the recent
:41.680 --> :46.800
ones were complaining that the entire kitchen
had closed their kitchen crew were all gone
:46.800 --> :51.800
the waitresses were huddled behind the counter
talking about lawyers they didn't serve any hot
:51.800 --> :58.040
food anymore and eventually they shut down an
old coworker confirmed my suspicions were true
:58.040 --> :05.040
as well I'm not racist at all I wanted revenge and
took the cheapest route I'll admit but in my heart
:05.040 --> :11.280
I still believed every one of them deserved it the
ticket was for speeding in a school zone 33 and
:11.280 --> :18.400
a 20 mph it wasn't a school but rather a historic
SLU park with a Crossing light that fell into that
:18.400 --> :24.400
category for traffic citations failure to yield to
pedestrians they'd barely reached the sidewalk and
:24.400 --> :31.160
I didn't slow down yes I was wrong driving without
Pro proof of registration and insurance I had both
:31.160 --> :35.760
but had misplaced the registration and didn't
know the login info to the insurance app this
:35.760 --> :41.840
all got thrown out in court for a forgiveness law/
program they had for young drivers the manager who
:41.840 --> :48.360 I reported this to after I left got charged
by the restaurant for embezzling $10,000 and
:48.360 --> :53.960
was fired after this the owner tried not paying me
for weeks until I threatened him with lawyers then
:53.960 --> :01.200
a guy showed up and paid me in cash instead this
next door from David emag X your bully son messes
:01.200 --> :08.960
with us and you kill our dog prepare for Dad this
happened in 1995 in a small rural town in choco
:08.960 --> :15.760
Province Argentina everybody knows each other here
until this very day my father was an electrician
:15.760 --> :21.480
the only one in town so he was constantly meeting
people and as he was born and raised here he was
:21.480 --> :27.040
very well known by everyone he grew up with many
of the police officers from back then and even
:27.040 --> :33.920
had aad together Argentinian barbecue at least
three times a month for years my father was not
:33.920 --> :39.400
a violent man that was the only time I saw him do
something like that the other man with his busy
:39.400 --> :45.400
son they were not from town they had moved here
a year or so prior they were from Buenos Aries I
:45.400 --> :51.960
didn't really know the guy only his kid who was an
absolute butt hat to almost every kid in the block
:51.960 --> :56.400
and he constantly picked on me and my brother
since we were the youngest of our neighborhood
:56.400 --> :01.160
therefore couldn't defend ourselves elves our dog
Bucky wasn't trained since we didn't know about
:01.160 --> :07.880
training but he was loyal and playful with every
kid one thing's for sure though he was protective
:07.880 --> :13.720
one afternoon we were playing in the park and out
came the bully kid who at first threw rocks at us
:13.720 --> :19.640
then he got closer and started calling us names
and us being little got scared he was bigger than
:19.640 --> :25.160
us we tried to leave but he blocked us and started
hitting my brother I tried to stop him but he did
:25.160 --> :30.320
the same to me Bucky heard us crying and came
running jumping and getting the bully's arm at
:30.320 --> :37.080
once he bit Shook and released staying between
us and the bully barking like mad until the kid
:37.080 --> :42.720 left running we saw him get inside his house
and a few seconds later came his father with
:42.720 --> :49.120
a sledgehammer Bucky stood in front of us hairs
raised and barking but the man didn't stop he got
:49.120 --> :56.360
close raised the sledgehammer and didn't do it
once he hit him five times the first blow I'll
:56.360 --> :02.200
never forget the pain painful whimper of our dog
Bucky got knocked with the first blow my brother
:02.200 --> :08.360
and I were frozen in place scared to death crying
a lot The Jerk dad said something which I don't
:08.360 --> :14.400
remember now and left we were unable to move for
a moment such was our fear finally I grabbed my
:14.400 --> :19.280
brother and went home dad was fixing a fan when
he saw us and asked what happened we told him
:19.280 --> :25.160
and he just said right okay let's wash your faces
and grab some ice cream yeah that's what our dad
:25.160 --> :30.640
did took us for ice cream he did it pretty pretty
good job to mask his emotions and showed himself
:30.640 --> :36.000
cheerful to us that night when brother was asleep
and I was playing in the kitchen he grabbed the
:36.000 --> :40.800
wrench told Mom and I he had to fix something
over at the neighbors I assumed it was another
:40.800 --> :46.000
neighbor since it was a common thing for my dad
to get asked by neighbors to fix things nodded to
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Mom Mom nodded back yes she knew and left he came
back some minutes later told me to go to bed and
:54.120 --> :00.040
that was it a decade later we came to know what
happened he went to the guy's house knocked on the
:00.040 --> :06.280
door and punched the dude so hard had rocked his
head back he told him he would break one limb for
:06.280 --> :11.400
each of his children whom he made cry I can only
imagine what he would have done if there were more
:11.400 --> :17.880
than two kids proceeded to beat the guy some more
in front of his family and then took the wrench
:17.880 --> :24.640
and broke his legs he then left the house went
home asked me to go to bed talked to Mom and went
:24.640 --> :30.320
straight to the police turned himself in and was
actually delayed until the police went and checked
:30.320 --> :35.520
with the other guy my dad also showed our dead dog
to them and the police found the sledgehammer in
:35.520 --> :41.360
the bully's house with blood still on it and they
let my father go they also spoke with the dude
:41.360 --> :47.040
when he got better and suggested him to leave the
town if they weren't liked before they would never
:47.040 --> :53.520
be now to this you got to understand the mindset
from some small rural towns we looked at outsiders
:53.520 --> :58.840
with mistrust back then and it took a while for
people to get used to you if you were new in town
:58.840 --> :04.200
however these people came and weren't very much
liked apparently because of the kid and the father
:04.200 --> :10.760
was also a jerk I don't condone the actions of my
father nor am I justifying in any way the events
:10.760 --> :17.720
that transpired then but as a father myself I can
totally understand to what extent a man can react
:17.720 --> :24.000
when their kids are at play I loved my dad and
I have mad respect for him rest in Peace Dad we
:24.000 --> :31.520
miss you greatly like I said earlier I am a dach
ped lover this story honestly broke my heart and
:31.520 --> :36.800
there were extra details about the sledgehammer
and whatnot that I just didn't feel comfortable
:36.800 --> :42.680
reading and had to skip over like I know in that
dad's situation they saw a dog that bit their kid
:42.680 --> :48.320
but even then I couldn't ever imagine doing that
to an animal I really genuinely think you've got
:48.320 --> :54.360
to be a absolutely cold-hearted sadistic person
to be able to go and do something like that
:54.360 --> :00.280
especially in front of some kids and personally
I agree a lot with what op said here I wouldn't
:00.280 --> :07.000
condone what the father did but like considering
it's your kids and also your dog I get it and I
:07.000 --> :12.320
get why for somebody who went and did that to a
dog that was only looking out for their humans I
:12.320 --> :19.840
have absolutely no remorse for any of that and
our final story of the day is from our ad 8095
:19.840 --> :25.400
my school actually protected me even though I
was harassed outside the school premises this
:25.400 --> :30.920
occurred over a decade ago it happened at the end
of my senior year of high school I'm from India
:30.920 --> :36.440
and girls are still afraid to tell others about
being harassed because of Shame and Society I was
:36.440 --> :42.040
enrolled in a big school there were almost more
than 800 students at my school so you can imagine
:42.040 --> :46.880
the rush and crowd while leaving the school it
used to get so crowded and chaotic because there
:46.880 --> :52.320
were parents Cars and auto Rick Shaws waiting
to pick up the kids some kids are riding their
:52.320 --> :57.680
bicycles through the crowd While others run to
the nearby vendors for Penny Puri and samosas
:57.680 --> :02.760
it's almost like an amusement park one day while
walking hand inand with my friend I spotted this
:02.760 --> :07.880
weird straggling man looking through the bunch
of kids I thought he might be looking for someone
:07.880 --> :13.760
specific and didn't think much about it but I must
admit he was creepy I saw him again a few more
:13.760 --> :19.320
times daily but one day when I was walking with
my friend making our way through the crowd that
:19.320 --> :24.480
man crossed me I was about to collide with him
and tried to avoid him but instead he pushed me
:24.480 --> :31.520
and grabbed and pinched my chest area so hard that
it began to hurt a lot he was so smooth with his
:31.520 --> :36.640
actions that my friend who was by my side couldn't
tell what happened she kept asking me what was
:36.640 --> :42.440
wrong but I just walked mindlessly to my auto
rickshaw and sat there and told her to go away
:42.440 --> :48.200
she understood and walked away as she used to live
nearby I was so shaken that when I got home and
:48.200 --> :55.000
saw my parents I burst into tears because I'm the
only child I was never afraid to tell my parents
:55.000 --> :02.160
anything and I told them everything thing my dad
was pissed and that's where our revenge started
:02.160 --> :08.400
I've never seen my dad so angry before he drafted
a plan to trap the SLE ball with his friends we'll
:08.400 --> :13.720
name them Uncle one and Uncle 2 my dad was friends
with our school principal he visited them when I
:13.720 --> :19.040
was attending my school the next day as if nothing
had happened as they told me not to tell anyone
:19.040 --> :23.680
our principal was great and assured us that even
though it happened outside the school they would
:23.680 --> :29.240
fully cooperate to trap the SLE ball at lunch they
called me into the principal's office and told me
:29.240 --> :34.600
that Uncle one and Uncle 2 would be scattered
in the crowd with my English teacher the school
:34.600 --> :39.920
gatekeeper will be near me and my dad will be
near the shop where I usually spot the man they
:39.920 --> :45.560
instructed me to walk normally with my friend and
avoid them as if they were strangers but to alert
:45.560 --> :51.280
the nearest person as soon as I spotted the SLE
ball my dad and others were there the whole day
:51.280 --> :57.400
and at 5:00 p.m. it was time to execute the plan
as I was instructed I was walking casually with
:57.400 --> :03.080
with my friend she asked me several times because
she knew something was odd but I told her to
:03.080 --> :09.680
shush and enjoy the show and then I spot the SLE
ball actually harassing my other classmate and I
:09.680 --> :15.200
quickly alerted Uncle one initially it was planned
not to hit him and just call the police but he was
:15.200 --> :22.040
caught in the act so Uncle one dragged him away
and started beating him soon my dad Uncle 2 and
:22.040 --> :27.640
the gatekeeper joined him then my English teacher
handled the situation and dragged the slee ball
:27.640 --> :33.760
inside the school Gates and into the principal's
office my classmat surrounded me with questions
:33.760 --> :39.000
and I gladly answered them and stayed outside
the gates with them after a few minutes I was
:39.000 --> :43.960
called into the principal's office where I saw
the SLE ball I thought they might ask me some
:43.960 --> :49.360
questions but the principal gave me some apple
juice and told me to relax SLE ball was there
:49.360 --> :55.760
crying begging to let him go as he would never do
it again he was badly bruised and his clothes were
:55.760 --> :02.040
torn after a few minutes the police came and took
the SAS ball and he was giving me such a deadly
:02.040 --> :07.640
look that it still gives me the chills my father
and everyone else in the room were so happy and
:07.640 --> :12.880
smiling as if there was a celebration and told
me that they were so proud of me as I'd saved
:12.880 --> :18.720
a multiple girls that day I still don't know the
details but the school took full responsibility
:18.720 --> :25.360
for our safety put that man into jail and cctvs
were installed within a week even in a parking
:25.360 --> :31.200
lot to cover the area outside the school honestly
it's really disappointing to hear about Creepers
:31.200 --> :36.840
being able to get away with stuff for so long in
these kinds of areas but in a place like India
:36.840 --> :42.160
where everything is so hustling and bustling and
really kind of Madness in the streets as school
:42.160 --> :47.480
lets out you kind of sadly see where some of these
creeps can just slip through the cracks like that
:47.480 --> :52.920
especially praying on kids who don't know any
better and they might be shy or uncomfortable
:52.920 --> :57.720
mentioning something that happened I don't feel
one bit of remorse over this dude getting beat
:57.720 --> :03.200
up over praying on kids like that and not only
honestly was this guy asking for it but they kept
:03.200 --> :09.120
showing up to the same spot and harassing the same
people this dude was bound to get thrashed at some
:09.120 --> :15.600
point right is revenge against my father's gold
digging exwife my father's birthday was a few days
:15.600 --> :21.440
ago and I threw him a nice little party watching
him just be happy and content made me realize just
:21.440 --> :27.200
how protective I am of him for context I'm telling
a story of how I taught my witchy stepmother who
:27.200 --> :33.880
try to take advantage of my father a lesson she
will never forget as long as she lives my father
:33.880 --> :39.120
is 60 years old and all of this started about
2 years ago when he got married to the woman
:39.120 --> :43.800
who became my stepmother she was 32 at the time
of their marriage and they'd only been together
:43.800 --> :49.080
for about 6 months I found it a little weird and
I think that should have been the first red flag
:49.080 --> :54.720
to my father but the poor man was probably just
too lonely to think too much about it we used to
:54.720 --> :01.000
be a perfect nuclear family my father my mother
and me I'm the first son and only child of my
:01.000 --> :06.720
parents who had me when they were well into their
40s so I was basically pampered and well taken
:06.720 --> :11.280
care of of course my parents made sure that I
didn't go the wrong way but it was all taught
:11.280 --> :17.320
through gentle parenting there was never a reason
to yell or be loud in my home on my 13th birthday
:17.320 --> :23.640
my parents broke the news to me that my mother was
very sick and didn't have much longer to be around
:23.640 --> :30.080
like any other kid I was devastated and very upset
learning that I was going to lose my mother soon
:30.080 --> :36.640
did a number on me being in the peak of puberty
and having so many new emotions was not exactly
:36.640 --> :42.520
a walk in the park but my mother dealt with me
patiently until almost 2 years after when she
:42.520 --> :47.840
passed away in their relationship my father was
always the more emotional one and while I took
:47.840 --> :54.720
my mother's death relatively well my dad was a
complete mess he couldn't eat or sleep for over
:54.720 --> :00.240
a week only starting to feed himself after passed
out and had to go to the hospital all we had was
:00.240 --> :05.720
each other for about a year and a half until I had
to go off to college before I left for college I
:05.720 --> :11.440
did everything for him from cooking his meals
to cleaning up after him he was diagnosed with
:11.440 --> :17.200
depression and needed a caretaker and I was all
he had it wasn't a chore for me because it felt
:17.200 --> :22.240
like I was doing my late mother a huge service
by being there for my dad a few weeks before I
:22.240 --> :27.160
had to leave for college I had my father join
a support group for other widows and widowers
:27.160 --> :32.200 like him and I also employed a caretaker on
his behalf so that he would always come back
:32.200 --> :38.000
to a clean house and warm food my University was
several states away and I didn't want him to miss
:38.000 --> :43.320
me so much that it distressed him during my first
few months away I was worried that my father would
:43.320 --> :48.480 relapse but he turned out just fine he went
on cruises and picnics and group trips with
:48.480 --> :54.560
his friends and I was at peace I did go back home
whenever I could manage but my father was doing
:54.560 --> :59.640
pretty well in my sophomore year I went home home
for Thanksgiving just to find that my father was
:59.640 --> :04.840
in a relationship with a woman he met from the
widows and widowers group she was nearly half
:04.840 --> :11.320
his age but she was gorgeous and overly nice to
me being protective of my father I tried to figure
:11.320 --> :18.080
out her intentions but it translated to hostility
on my part and my father was not having it he
:18.080 --> :23.360 yelled at me which was very out of character
because my father had never raised his voice
:23.360 --> :28.680
in all my 19 years of knowing him this didn't
seem like him at all and when I tried to speak
:28.680 --> :35.720
to him he became even more withdrawn and cold his
girlfriend however suddenly seemed more energetic
:35.720 --> :41.160
and began acting even more nice to me I didn't
stay longer than a few days after Thanksgiving
:41.160 --> :47.120
heading back to UNI because of how uncomfortable I
was at home on one hand I was happy for my father
:47.120 --> :52.400
about finding someone but on the other hand it
pissed me off that he spoke to me in that way
:52.400 --> :57.200
in front of her when I was only trying to look
out for him my friends who I shared the Dilemma
:57.200 --> :03.320
with told me to look into the situation a little
more as things may not be what they seemed and I
:03.320 --> :08.280
took their advice I went back home for Christmas
just to hear that my dad's girlfriend let's call
:08.280 --> :14.720
her G for gold digger had moved into the house
permanently I wasn't even that mad until I heard
:14.720 --> :20.480
that she moved all of my mother's belongings from
the attic to the basement because she needed space
:20.480 --> :27.400
for her shoes I was upset and rightfully so but
trying to talk to my father about it was pointless
:27.400 --> :33.080
because all he could do was shrug helplessly and
smile I understood that he had feelings for her
:33.080 --> :38.280
but it was very upsetting how much he let her
get away with after inspecting that my mother's
:38.280 --> :44.960
things were intact I decided to forget about all
Grievances and just enjoy my Christmas break it
:44.960 --> :50.960
was relatively easy to stay out of G's way because
I either stayed cooped up in my room or went out
:50.960 --> :57.160
with friends basically doing my own thing until
uni resumed again my late mother loved Christmas
:57.160 --> :02.240
more than any other holiday and we always spent
the day cooking and then relaxing to watch the
:02.240 --> :08.040
same selection of Christmas movies my dad and I
had done it alone the Christmas after she passed
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so I thought that we would be repeating the same
tradition instead his girlfriend decided that she
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wanted to go shopping and see a new Hallmark movie
that came out at the movie theater I expected my
:19.240 --> :25.240
father to tell her of our plans but I was left
beyond hurt when he agreed and put on his winter
:25.240 --> :31.280
coat walking behind her as if it wasn't enough
that she had trampled all in my mother's memories
:31.280 --> :37.800
G also made my father get her a very expensive
ring and then proposed to her in the middle of
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the mall mind you they'd been together for about
4 months and I did think it was too soon but my
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father seemed excited about something that wasn't
golf Bingo or going to bed at 6:00 p.m. so I had
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to pretend to be happy for him they had their
wedding the following year in February and it
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was so huge and lavish my father wasn't poor but
I didn't think he was rich enough for a wedding
:01.960 --> :08.520
that big and a honeymoon and Bali but apparently
he was I was stunned at all of the plans that were
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made without involving me and even when I tried
to involve myself he allowed his new wife to push
:14.160 --> :20.120
me away I knew something still wasn't right but
my father explicitly let me know that he didn't
:20.120 --> :26.160
need me to be anything but his son because he now
had a wife my visits at home were now limited to
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just h holidays people called it jealousy but
I knew that something was not right I wasn't
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allowed to look into it however so staying away
seemed like the best option when it was almost a
:38.360 --> :43.120
year into their marriage I went back home for
Christmas and I was a little surprised by what
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I saw my 59-year-old father looking so emaciated
and sick as if he hadn't eaten in a few weeks he
:51.280 --> :56.880 welcomed me with smiles but I could see that
it wasn't real upon closer inspection of him
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I also saw a yellow mark on his cheek that looked
to be a healing bruise in rag I bugged him until
:03.920 --> :08.600
he told me what happened she hit him in the face
with the bottom of her shoe when he refused to
:08.600 --> :14.400
give her access to his accounts although my dad
asked me not to take any action I felt like all of
:14.400 --> :21.400
the evil stepmother movies I'd ever seen prepared
me for this moment at this point my now stepmother
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barely paid any attention to me she acted like I
didn't exist only showing me any effect inection
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when she was right in front of my father I didn't
care because I didn't like her anyway just before
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I went back to college I burrowed my father's card
and went shopping for cameras and audio devices so
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I could have evidence of G abusing my father I'm
not a pervert so I enabled a filter setting that
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blurred any nudity that would appear and then
I connected my devices to it neither of them
:50.360 --> :56.880
had any idea of my sneakiness and I often felt
bad for creeping up on my father's privacy like
:56.880 --> :04.000 F but I didn't want to lose him to a Witchy
Woman Who had no conscience on his 59th birthday
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instead of giving him a present my stepmother
threw things at my father because he had me as
:09.000 --> :14.880
the main benefactor on his will and not her my
dad's will was hidden in a small box under his
:14.880 --> :21.840
bed so she had to be majorly snooping to find it
I FaceTime my father as often as I could to assess
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the damages but he hit his face from me while
putting up a smile and looking significantly
:27.960 --> :33.440
thinner I couldn't sit back and watch my father
suffer like this anymore so I took matters into
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my own hands to make sure that they were divorced
as soon as humanly possible it started with trying
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to convince my dad that he was actually being
abused which took some time but it worked after
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I reminded him of how my mother used to treat
us before she passed and how it was nothing
:51.040 --> :56.920
like how his new wife treated him it was very
saddening bringing up the memories of his late
:56.920 --> :02.760
wife in comparison to how another woman treated
him but it had to be done thankfully he did see
:02.760 --> :09.240
reasons with me and agreed to file for a divorce
as soon as he could I had other plans of course
:09.240 --> :15.040
no one could treat my father like crap and expect
to go unharmed I started with adding small doses
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of laxatives to her coffee at random times so it
didn't seem like a pattern and then I graduated to
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poison ivy in her body lotion a very small amount
that made her itch un comfortably throughout the
:27.680 --> :34.320
entire day till she was red in the face she tried
to accuse me but this time my father stood up for
:34.320 --> :40.240
me and told her that his son would never do such
a thing it was a stark difference to the man he
:40.240 --> :46.320
was a year ago and although he knew that I was
responsible for these childish games he defended
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me the idea was to torture her until she decided
to leave first G was so adamant on being added to
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the will that she was willing to stay through all
of the torture that's when I decided to pull out
:58.960 --> :05.000
the big guns after slipping her some sleeping
pills I photographed her in some compromising
:05.000 --> :10.520 positions with the help of a friend and then
we drew hot dogs on her face and posted them
:10.520 --> :16.360
to her Instagram it was hilarious because she
took her social media as seriously as one would
:16.360 --> :22.880
a real job speaking about her followers like they
were faithful worshippers my stepmother was livid
:22.880 --> :28.120
when she woke up and she threatened to sue me for
blackmail and a couple of of other things I simply
:28.120 --> :34.200
played her a compilation of all the evidence I
had of her abusing my father and making phone
:34.200 --> :39.920
calls about killing him off soon she was beyond
stunned but Tred to talk herself out of the
:39.920 --> :46.360
situation she even tried to offer hooking up with
me in exchange for destruction of the evidence I
:46.360 --> :52.240
was beyond disgusted but I did well to let her
know that my father was aware of everything that
:52.240 --> :58.320
was going on and needed her to leave the premise
before he got home from work it was the ultimate
:58.320 --> :03.680
Walk of Shame watching her move out with all of
her luggage and waiting for an Uber that decided
:03.680 --> :09.520
to take its sweet time I know it seems now like
I'm such an evil and spiteful person but it felt
:09.520 --> :15.800
like my responsibility to protect my father from
everyone and everything that intended to harm
:15.800 --> :22.720
him this woman was unfortunately a good Forno gold
digger who wanted my poor clueless father for just
:22.720 --> :28.400
his money he didn't even have that much a week
after she had left my father sent her the divorce
:28.400 --> :33.760
papers and they only saw each other during the
court proceedings in her true fashion she tried to
:33.760 --> :39.680
beg him for another chance but my father gave her
no attention and even filed a restraining order
:39.680 --> :45.080
against her when she would not stop showing up to
his home and doing weird crap she tried to Target
:45.080 --> :50.640
me as well but I blatantly ignored her until she
stopped a few months after it had all had blown
:50.640 --> :56.520
over we heard from a few sources that my father
was her third unsuccessful marriage and she had
:56.520 --> :02.920
never lost a partner to death she just lied so she
could get into those widower and Widow meetings
:02.920 --> :07.680
because apparently those were the only kinds of
men she was into my mother would be turning in
:07.680 --> :13.600
her grave if she saw the actions I took to get rid
of my father's gold digging exwife but I know that
:13.600 --> :20.440
I did the right thing and then some is forcing my
cheating girlfriend to flunk my girlfriend cheated
:20.440 --> :25.560
on me with a sound engineer at work and this is
how I got back at her my girlfriend and I have
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been together since freshman year we actually went
to the same high school but didn't date and hardly
:30.520 --> :35.800
even spoke to each other in high school but when
we met in college we naturally gravitated towards
:35.800 --> :41.400
each other we both majored in the same course
so we saw each other often she asked me out
:41.400 --> :47.240
and we decided after a while to date each other
exclusively I never really got to place why but
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I always felt my girlfriend was using me okay
maybe I know why you see my girlfriend is very
:53.120 --> :00.280
pretty and has the most amazing body she is very
hot guys drool over her all the time when we go
:00.280 --> :06.520
out I'd feel insecure about that but I was certain
that she loved me plus I was quite the catch too
:06.520 --> :12.360
while my girlfriend is insanely good-look I'm not
exactly bad when it comes to looks either I know
:12.360 --> :17.440
I'm cute and I'm insanely brilliant always have
been I made a lot of money and I'm still making
:17.440 --> :23.200
a lot of money from my smartness in high school
I used to charge all the cool kids good money to
:23.200 --> :28.120
help with their assignments and be their study
buddy we had an an actor in class who was always
:28.120 --> :33.080
busy and I helped with most of his assignments
and tutored him all through senior year when my
:33.080 --> :38.960
girlfriend wanted to drop out of school to pursue
a career in singing I encouraged her not to I did
:38.960 --> :43.640
this mostly because I knew she wanted to go to
college she's the first to go to college in her
:43.640 --> :49.840
family and she wanted to finish college so bad
but she also badly wanted to be a singer and she
:49.840 --> :56.000
constantly worried that if she did not start early
time may just pass her by I decided then that I'll
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do most of the heavy lifting for her I'll write
her assignments and study with her so her burden
:01.760 --> :07.000
is lighter we signed up for the same courses to
ensure that our plan materializes and it worked
:07.000 --> :12.560
for us my girlfriend was a backup singer for a
popular artist and she was away from school most
:12.560 --> :17.360
of the time I kept her AB breast with all that
was happening in classes and studied with and
:17.360 --> :23.320
tutored her that way she maintained good grades
her sophomore year was a breeze because she was
:23.320 --> :28.280 able to get ahead in her music career while
still Main maining decent grades in school
:28.280 --> :33.560
the next year we decided to move in together we
rented a bigger place and it was easy because
:33.560 --> :39.160
she was making money and I was making money from
tutoring other students too my girlfriend was not
:39.160 --> :45.160
the most brilliant student but she made a huge
effort towards getting a good cgpa each year
:45.160 --> :51.120
it was very important to her that she graduated
from University with decent grades and we worked
:51.120 --> :58.080
both arduously to make that happen we did move in
together and things continued to go smoothly until
:58.080 --> :04.800
she started to get very secretive I noticed some
weird Behavior first she was extremely protective
:04.800 --> :09.160
of her phone she would carry it with her wherever
she went and would be startled whenever it
:09.160 --> :14.280
vibrated one day we were sitting on the couch
I was giving her a summary of a book we were
:14.280 --> :19.880
reading in class when her phone rang I was closer
to the phone and wanted to pick it up and pass it
:19.880 --> :26.160
to her but she slapped my hand off it and quickly
picked it up that was when my suspicion arose
:26.960 --> :32.440
I just did not get why she was so protective of
her phone we don't go snooping around each other's
:32.440 --> :36.960 phones but I won't deny the fact that I was
tempted to do that later in the evening while she
:36.960 --> :43.760
took a nap that was the first sign that something
strange was happening the second was her constant
:43.760 --> :49.880
absent-mindedness sometimes we'd be in the middle
of a conversation and she'd just stare blankly at
:49.880 --> :55.520
me at a point I had to call her out on it I needed
to be listened to when I talked about my day and
:55.520 --> :01.160
it was hard feel like I was being heard when all
she did was stare blankly at me as I spoke to her
:01.160 --> :07.000
we had a big fight about it she accused me of
being insensitive despite knowing how severely
:07.000 --> :13.240
stressed she was and how much pressure she was
under I felt bad that day and apologized she
:13.240 --> :19.000
accepted my apology and we were okay afterward
my girlfriend also stopped talking about work as
:19.000 --> :26.120
much she would simply tell me her day went good it
was very much unlike her because usually she lik
:26.120 --> :32.080
likes to talk she would go on and on and tell me
even the smallest details of what happened at the
:32.080 --> :38.200
studio she would talk about the singer she works
for the other backup singers the dancers and all
:38.200 --> :43.600
of that my girlfriend also stopped insisting on me
having come with her wherever she was performing
:43.600 --> :49.080
with the artist she works for before that time we
traveled together sometimes I usually stayed back
:49.080 --> :54.800
in the hotel room though since I don't do well
with crowds and I always had work to do anyway
:54.800 --> :58.840 she would make me come on the trip with her
but at some point she just stopped asking me
:58.840 --> :04.520
to come along with her I assumed she was tired
of convincing me and let it be I figured she was
:04.520 --> :10.160
stressed from traveling around with the artist
the rehearsals and the stress from school so
:10.160 --> :16.120
I tried as much as possible to not compound her
problems by pushing deeply to know what was wrong
:16.120 --> :21.120
but I certainly could feel that things were off
eventually I decided to have a conversation with
:21.120 --> :27.000
her about it and she said she was fine I'm just
really stressed most times and you know I have a
:27.000 --> :32.880
lot to worry about she said it wasn't until 3
weeks after that that I found out exactly what
:32.880 --> :38.160
was going on with my girlriend I'd gone out to
tutor a group of students who pay for my services
:38.160 --> :42.560
I thought I'd be turning in late but I didn't
stay for that long because the group had other
:42.560 --> :47.840
commitments I returned home to see my girlfriend
passed out on the couch she had rehearsals all
:47.840 --> :52.840 through the night and was tired her phone
was beside her on the couch and I became very
:52.840 --> :58.400
curious I picked it up and left for the bedroom
for minutes I debated with myself on whether I
:58.400 --> :04.160
should Snoop or not it was wrong to Snoop I know
my girlfriend would be upset if she caught me and
:04.160 --> :10.480
I didn't want to risk that happening especially if
I found out nothing was going on I decided to risk
:10.480 --> :16.120
it and do it anyway I imputed her password but
was denied entry it turned out she had changed
:16.120 --> :21.280
her password I used to know her password she had
just won for a while until she went to perform at
:21.280 --> :26.960
a concert in another state and visited her sister
who resides in that state her nephew managed to
:26.960 --> :32.320 find out what her password was so she had to
change it but she told me what her new password
:32.320 --> :38.760
was when she returned she had changed her password
again and I didn't know what it was that made me
:38.760 --> :45.320
even more Curious I had to get into that phone and
figure out what she was hiding I decided to check
:45.320 --> :51.440
her journal you see my girlfriend doesn't exactly
have a strong memory she always write stuff down
:51.440 --> :56.960
from song lyrics to her students ID numbers and
she would write those sorts of things in her
:56.960 --> :04.320
journal I carefully perused her journal and found
a number she wrote PW right before it so I figured
:04.320 --> :10.480
it was your phone's password well I was wrong I
started to get anxious but I was determined to
:10.480 --> :17.280
go through it it then occur to me that I could use
her thumb to unlock her phone but what if she woke
:17.280 --> :23.360
up abruptly I could lie about wanting to use her
phone for the paper I was writing I sneaked back
:23.360 --> :29.160
into the living room and pressed the phone lightly
on her thumb it unlocked and I hurried back into
:29.160 --> :35.720
the room back in the room I scanned through her
direct messaging app and my heart raced perhaps
:35.720 --> :42.520
she was no longer interested in our relationship
maybe I had started to bore her or she met someone
:42.520 --> :49.920
else well the last part was true my girlfriend
had met someone else I saw a chat where she told
:49.920 --> :56.000
her sister about him she mentioned his name and
said he was a sound engineer so I searched for his
:56.000 --> :01.040
name on her phone and skimmed through their text
from what I could see they had been talking for a
:01.040 --> :06.600
while now there wasn't time to read all through so
I just read the latter part of their messages she
:06.600 --> :12.120
had invited him into her hotel room on their last
trip and they had hooked up she was telling him
:12.120 --> :19.520
how guilty she felt and was considering confessing
to me I surprisingly was not so angry not as angry
:19.520 --> :24.440
as I'd always imagined I would be if my girlfriend
cheated on me I dropped her phone back on the
:24.440 --> :31.040
couch where she lay but not so carefully this time
she didn't even Flinch she has to be exhausted I
:31.040 --> :36.240
thought and hated myself immediately for even
caring for all I know she could have spent the
:36.240 --> :41.680
night with him I picked up a few books changed
my shirt and left for the library I had no idea
:41.680 --> :46.360
how to handle the information I'd just gotten I
didn't want to break up with her though I know
:46.360 --> :51.040 I couldn't do that at least not at that time
I could not handle dealing with the end of a
:51.040 --> :56.920
relationship and studying for exams at the same
time plus I had two major assignments to do and
:56.920 --> :03.040
I could not imagine failing them that night I went
back to the house and acted as if nothing happened
:03.040 --> :07.880
she made us both dinner but I was too irritated
to eat it was clear though that something was
:07.880 --> :13.120
wrong because I barely spoke to my girlfriend I
could tell she was battling with guilt because
:13.120 --> :18.600
she kept hovering around wanting to do things for
me without even being asked the next morning she
:18.600 --> :23.920
said we needed to talk I was honestly terrified
I went into the bathroom to brush my teeth and
:23.920 --> :28.960
joined her later in the kitchen to discuss just
whatever she wanted to talk about I could not let
:28.960 --> :34.600
her confess to me first I had to tell her that I
knew she was cheating I wondered if she had just
:34.600 --> :40.440
decided to pick the guy over me that was probably
why she wanted to talk she had decided that it
:40.440 --> :45.840
would be best to be with cool sound engineer and
was leaving me I left for the kitchen and quietly
:45.840 --> :53.000
said I know she says what do you know I say I know
about the sound engineer dude her countenance did
:53.000 --> :59.320
not exactly look good before but now it looked
even worse she started to apologize but I cut
:59.320 --> :05.520
her off I say if you want to break up that's fine
I'll move out no no no I'll move out she pressed
:05.520 --> :11.160
her face to the kitchen counter and cried I looked
away from her she cried for minutes and just stood
:11.160 --> :17.440
there refusing to look at her I love my girlfriend
okay I could not imagine a life without her she's
:17.440 --> :23.200
a big deal to me and I wanted nothing more than
to wrap her in my arms and tell her it was okay
:23.200 --> :30.280
but I was hurt too and it certainly was not okay
I say well what do you want to do do you want to
:30.280 --> :37.920
break up move out I needed to know what exactly
her plans were anyway she says no I say no she
:37.920 --> :43.400
says I don't want to break up with you I don't
ever want to break up with you I hate myself she
:43.400 --> :50.080
said in between sobs I simply walked back into the
room one thing was clear though she was not going
:50.080 --> :55.840 to leave me the next few weeks were not easy
for my girlfriend and me I barely spoke to her
:55.840 --> :02.400
and she walked on eggshells around me eventually
we started to talk in mono syllables and it got
:02.400 --> :07.960
better but things remained a bit tense she would
let me know wherever she went who she was with
:07.960 --> :13.080
and what they were doing probably to build the
trust again meanwhile it was getting close to the
:13.080 --> :18.440
deadline to turn in a major assignment and we'd
agreed before I found out she was cheating that
:18.440 --> :24.400
I was going to do it for her and she would just
turn it in I had written the abstract and I only
:24.400 --> :29.760
needed to continue with my research and give it
to her but I could not bring myself to continue
:29.760 --> :37.080
with it I decided on the perfect way to get back
at her I was going to make her fail the course
:37.080 --> :43.680
don't judge me please my girlfriend had been very
selfish I did everything for us I took care of her
:43.680 --> :49.920
schoolwork proofread her assignments tutored her
and wholly supported her budding career in music
:49.920 --> :56.200
and she paid me back by cheating on me with some
sound engineer it was unfair to me and I had every
:56.200 --> :01.760
right to be angry I didn't want her to leave but I
had to get my revenge so I could feel better about
:01.760 --> :07.200
it I was undecided about whether or not to follow
through with my Planet first but I chose to do it
:07.200 --> :13.680
eventually I was not going to let her off easy she
had to feel what I felt and I knew the best way to
:13.680 --> :20.520
do that was to hit her where it hurt her academics
I downloaded an essay written by a famous author
:20.520 --> :27.080
on the subject copied them word for word and gave
it to her to turn in emailed it right away before
:27.080 --> :33.440 me and I immediately felt bad about it but I
could not tell her as it was too late anyway
:33.440 --> :39.400
I had a soft spot for her but I was not going to
let it get in the way of getting my pound of Flesh
:39.400 --> :45.160
months later as expected the lecturer invited her
over to his office and informed her that she was
:45.160 --> :53.320
going to have to sit before a panel for turning in
a 100% plagiarized paper it was a lot of trouble
:53.320 --> :59.640
for her but she managed to convince the to let
her off easy our university has zero tolerance for
:59.640 --> :05.360
plagiarism but she was able to plead her way out
of getting suspended or getting expelled she did
:05.360 --> :11.240
fail the course though what happened at home you
may Wonder well she was mad at me she cried and I
:11.240 --> :18.760
cried because I genuinely felt bad but I also felt
good that she felt what I felt when she cheated I
:18.760 --> :25.080
insisted though that it was not deliberate I told
her I was mad at her and very hurt and I just did
:25.080 --> :30.120
a lazy job because I could not get my thoughts
together to write something original I also
:30.120 --> :35.880
said I didn't think about the school's policy on
plagiarism she moved out for a while but we came
:35.880 --> :41.120
back together months later and are trying to move
on from the pain we've caused each other I feel
:41.120 --> :47.320
bad about what I did but I wouldn't say I regret
it I mean honestly if they can regroup and move
:47.320 --> :52.880
on together from what both of them did to each
other my hat would be more than off for them all
:52.880 --> :59.320
I know is is if I was an OP situation I wouldn't
have nearly the amount of forgiveness op had so I
:59.320 --> :04.360
don't know whether most people would think it's
dumb or impressive but I definitely think what
:04.360 --> :10.120
op did here zagged pretty hard against what most
people would zigg is how I ruined my girlfriend's
:10.120 --> :15.960
sister's Wordle strak this has to be the pettiest
thing I have ever done but I had a really good
:15.960 --> :21.120
reason for it and that's the point of writing
this I guess so here goes my girlfriend and I
:21.120 --> :26.120
are super competitive it's one of the reasons why
I was attracted to her the first time we met I was
:26.120 --> :31.440
new in town fresh out of college settling into
a new job and my friends from work had convinced
:31.440 --> :36.600
me to try out this bar that hosted trivia nights
because they knew how much of a trivia head I am
:36.600 --> :42.600
decided to go with them one Friday evening and I
met the love of my life after battling it out in
:42.600 --> :47.400
trivia for an hour I was leading the team for my
work and she was with a couple of her girlfriends
:47.400 --> :52.400
out to celebrate a promotion her sister had been a
part of the team but I didn't really notice any of
:52.400 --> :57.600
them after my girlfriend got the correct answer
to how many pints of blood are in the average
:57.600 --> :03.760
human body after we started dating we called the
story about how we met the nine pint because the
:03.760 --> :08.920
answer to that question was nine pints but she'd
been drinking we were all drinking way too much
:08.920 --> :15.520
for 7:00 p.m. on a Wednesday anyway and when she
answered she said pins waited 2 seconds and then
:15.520 --> :21.760
shouted I forgot the tea everyone laughed about
it and I couldn't take my eyes off her so long
:21.760 --> :28.800
story short I used her Outburst as an entry for
an equally wacky pickup line after her team won
:28.800 --> :34.240
and she liked my face well enough that she wanted
to see what was in my head her words not mine so
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she agreed to get some burgers with me that night
now this Revenge story isn't about my girlfriend
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it's about her sister I just needed to explain
how we met and a little about our relationship
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Dynamics so you can understand why things went
down the way they did I'm a competitive person
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and so is my girlfriend but her sister takes it to
new levels she is downright vicious and toxic on
:56.120 --> :00.640
the night we met my girlfriend and her sister
had an ongoing bet that whoever was able to
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land a date first would get to pick their social
activities for the next couple of months knowing
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how much my girlfriend loves trivia Kad motivated
their friend group to come to the bar that night
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hoping that while my girlfriend was busy with
the game she could score a date for herself but
:16.480 --> :21.560 she hadn't factored in the fact that someone
as interested in trivia as her sister would
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find her attractive long story short she hates my
guts even though it's been three years at family
:27.720 --> :33.880
dinners in their parents home she actually refuses
to pass anything to me and after she accidentally
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kicked my shin one time I try not to sit anywhere
within proximity of her pointy shoes my girlfriend
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thinks Kade doesn't really remember the reason
why she started hating me and she just Hates
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Me by default at this point but I know that she
does I'm a constant reminder of a challenge she
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lost to her baby sister and considering the fact
that Kay hasn't had a relationship in the past
:55.520 --> :00.400
years there's more than enough material for her
to hate on me for but my girlfriend still hangs
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out with her because their group of friends have
stayed together since they were kids and I'm not
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going to be the disruption to that part of her
life I honestly don't mind Kay's animosity and
:09.760 --> :14.600
I did my best to stay out of her way over the
years but in the rare events that we share space
:14.600 --> :21.280 and have to interact K will do anything and
everything to prove that she's better than I
:21.280 --> :27.280
and my girlfriend my girlfriend who was fiery
to everyone but her big sister was quick to
:27.280 --> :31.880
tell her it was all right and we would just get
something else to share so instead of risking
:31.880 --> :37.880
another situation like that we just try to avoid
Kay and anything that has to do with her as much
:37.880 --> :45.120
as possible Kay however is Relentless and uses
every opportunity she sees to create chaos one
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time my girlfriend and I went to Vegas for the
weekend we were celebrating her promotion at work
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and although I suggested that we take our dog to
my friend's place for the weekend she had asked
:54.960 --> :00.480
k to watch the dog while we were out as you can
imagine I wasn't comfortable with this idea for
:00.480 --> :07.440
many reasons K in our apartment alone with our dog
it just gets worse but I didn't want to upset my
:07.440 --> :13.040
girlfriend and I told her it was cool but if our
dog developed any health issues I would call the
:13.040 --> :20.560
cops and report K she laughed thinking I was being
dramatic but I was serious our weekend was fun but
:20.560 --> :26.040
it was over pretty quickly and as we were heading
back home I remember thinking that I'd not been
:26.040 --> :32.040
worried about the dog or the apartment while we
were away but as soon as we entered Town my nerves
:32.040 --> :38.160
were on high ends my girlfriend thought it was
funny that I was so worried but I was so confident
:38.160 --> :44.280
that Kay would have been up to no good and I was
right she had been bored and had taken all the
:44.280 --> :49.600
frames that held pictures of me and my girlfriend
and moved them from the living room to our bedroom
:49.600 --> :55.000
then replaced them with pictures of my girlfriend
and their family like that wasn't bad enough she
:55.000 --> :00.480
had taken our dog to get a trim in styling but
according to her the attendant at the pet shop
:00.480 --> :06.520
was new and there was a bald patch on our dog's
back I was furious and I just left the apartment
:06.520 --> :11.360
for a few minutes while she got her things and
left I spent the rest of that day reassuring my
:11.360 --> :18.400
fiance that Kay could never change anything about
the way I felt about her or our relationship but I
:18.400 --> :24.400
made her promise to keep some distance between me
and Kay as much as she could and she did just that
:24.400 --> :29.080
if the girls want wanted to go out she wouldn't
agree for them to meet up at our place and if
:29.080 --> :34.960
their family had any plans that would only be her
parents she and I and K we would make up an excuse
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for me to be absent her mom knew what was going on
and tried to apologize for Kay's Behavior but it
:40.840 --> :47.240
seemed to me like they were all excusing what was
outrightly unacceptable behavior and nobody was
:47.240 --> :53.320
actually talking to the person at the center of it
all K I know it's not up to me to correct anyone's
:53.320 --> :58.840
Behavior especially someone that everyone knows
we don't see eye to eye so I just stuck with the
:58.840 --> :04.680
status quo and there was no incident except the
random oh I forgot you were joining us I didn't
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get XYZ for you then 3 months ago I proposed to
my girlfriend it was a month after our 3-year
:11.560 --> :16.840
anniversary and it felt right so I whisked her
away for a trivia themed treasure hunt around
:16.840 --> :21.800
downtown and at the end of the hunt we were at
the bar where we met and her family was waiting
:21.800 --> :29.040
to surprise her it was emotional and beautiful and
it was perfect because Kay was absent she had been
:29.040 --> :34.600
at the hospital she had an emergency appendix
surgery but I sincerely believe that it was
:34.600 --> :39.880
the influence of someone up above some higher
power that was looking out for my fiance and
:39.880 --> :45.160
I the proposal went on without incident Kay was
recovering in their parents' home and there was
:45.160 --> :50.560
such a calm in that period that I should have been
instantly suspicious about but I was enjoying the
:50.560 --> :56.240
feeling of not having to look behind my shoulder
or holding my cup for hours so Kay wouldn't drop
:56.240 --> :02.240
a laxative in it she once did that to her younger
sister so I wouldn't be surprised a month after
:02.240 --> :08.120
the proposal in Kay surgery my fiance and I had to
help kay move back to her apartment their parents
:08.120 --> :13.120
were away the girls in their friend group were
all occupied and they didn't want Kay to strain
:13.120 --> :18.560
herself and I was definitely not going to let
my fiance help her out alone because she would
:18.560 --> :23.360
end up doing all the work herself so I helped K
pack all the stuff she had brought over to her
:23.360 --> :28.880
parents place while recovering and we moved them
to her apartment when everything was sorted Kay
:28.880 --> :35.240
was very insistent on treating us to lunch which
was odd but I didn't want to create a scene so I
:35.240 --> :40.720
agreed she chose a restaurant that was close to
my fiance and I's apartment and after we ate she
:40.720 --> :46.400
said she needed a nap really quickly because her
pain meds were wearing her out it made sense and
:46.400 --> :52.200
she'd been relatively normal all day so there was
no reason to question it not until 2 hours later
:52.200 --> :58.880
when I asked myself why I ever thought it would be
a good idea to think of Kay as a real person Kay
:58.880 --> :04.000
slept in the guest room where my fiance kept most
of her Collectibles from competitions and stuff
:04.000 --> :09.440
like that and when Kay woke up she thought to play
a prank on her sister by taking a collection of
:09.440 --> :15.640
coasters from all the places where my fiance had
won a trivia game and dumping them in the trash
:15.640 --> :21.880
in the bathroom it wasn't until 2 hours after she
left that we figured out what she did my fiance
:21.880 --> :26.720
was talking about making a memory book for our
wedding which is an 8 months and she wanted to
:26.720 --> :32.000
include a picture of the bar coaster from the
night we met we searched every corner of the
:32.000 --> :37.000
guest room for it and it was when she checked
the bathroom for the second time that we found
:37.000 --> :43.440
the coasters in the bin obviously she was furious
at her sister but I knew it would fizzle out and I
:43.440 --> :49.320
knew I had had enough Kay may be too old to learn
a valuable life lesson but she can never be too
:49.320 --> :55.120
old to be hurt through something that would have
value to her so I took my time I thought about
:55.120 --> :00.480
everything I know about her and then I remembered
that she'd been keeping a streak on wle after she
:00.480 --> :05.120 got into playing it at the hospital and then
during her recovery she and some people she
:05.120 --> :12.120
found online were in this chart contest SLB thing
and whoever got to a day 100 streak first would
:12.120 --> :19.760
get about $1,000 or so Kay being the competition
monster that she is was eager about both the money
:19.760 --> :25.360
and the chance to prove that she was better than
someone and she kept the streak religiously every
:25.360 --> :31.560
day at 8:00 p.m. when she wouldn't be distracted
she played the game my fiance had told me that
:31.560 --> :36.480 on more than one occasion Kay had combed the
internet in search of the word for the day when
:36.480 --> :42.000
she couldn't crack the answer it was the perfect
plan as far as I'm concerned it was something she
:42.000 --> :48.040
worked hard at held value for her and it would
be horrible if she lost at a time when it would
:48.040 --> :53.760
really hit her deep it was easy to bait her into
a conversation about wartle a few weeks after she
:53.760 --> :59.840
trashed my fiance coasters all I had to do was
tell her I'd heard about an ongoing bed about wle
:59.840 --> :07.160
in town and I was thinking of taking it seriously
ever dismissing she said I'm not sure you have
:07.160 --> :13.640
the brains for it there's only two of us on Day
94 it's a lot of catching up but the only thing
:13.640 --> :20.400
I needed to play catch up was between her and the
consequences of her actions she needed to feel at
:20.400 --> :28.120
least 1% of the mental stress and pain she had put
us through my fiance knew Kay's phone password and
:28.120 --> :33.160
most of her other passwords because Kay was crappy
at remembering stuff like that so I told her about
:33.160 --> :39.080
the plan to ruin K streak and she was fully on
board she could get back at her sister and make
:39.080 --> :46.480
her a loser so it was perfect on day 98 my fiance
called her sister and told her I had a friend
:46.480 --> :51.920
coming over who would really like to meet her
Kay was quick to accept surely thinking that it
:51.920 --> :57.840
would be an opportunity to say some unflattering
things about me or my fiance I met with one of my
:57.840 --> :03.080
friends from the gym and told him I was trying to
teach Kay a lesson he was down for it and his role
:03.080 --> :10.360
was simple be as Charming as humanly possible so
she would be distracted on day 99 of her streak
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K came to our apartment we had dinner at 6:00
p.m. and at 700 my friend who'd been laying it
:16.280 --> :22.200
on thick told Kay that he would like for them to
share a glass of wine on the balcony and watch the
:22.200 --> :28.120
sunset she was quick to agree and from where we'd
been watching them in the kitchen my fiance and I
:28.120 --> :35.400
exchanged a look as soon as he slid the balcony
door behind them my fiance unlocked K's phone
:35.400 --> :40.600
we quickly opened the worldle site and signed her
out of the game so if she even remembered to play
:40.600 --> :45.960
it later on it wouldn't be recorded as a streak
the whole thing took us about a minute and by the
:45.960 --> :51.440
time the sun had fully set and Kay was back inside
the apartment with my friend it was like nothing
:51.440 --> :57.680
happened 8:00 p.m. came and went but K was too of
absorbed to my friend to even notice and by 10:
:57.680 --> :02.680 p.m. my gym friend was ready to leave he
later told me that although she was obviously
:02.680 --> :08.240
self-absorbed and insensitive he was still willing
to date her after the whole drama was over so he'd
:08.240 --> :12.920 gotten her number but that's not something I
want to get into right now Kay left our place
:12.920 --> :18.680
about 30 minutes later eager to get home and hear
from her new man and she was pleased to remind
:18.680 --> :24.800
my fiance that he was taller than me and had more
muscles than I could carry but I couldn't be faced
:24.800 --> :31.000
in less than an hour the whole thing would have
been worth it at about that night Kay called
:31.000 --> :36.840
my fiance and was having a panic attack because
she had forgotten to play wartle and she could
:36.840 --> :42.480
lose her streak oh yeah we'd cleared it out of
her browsing history too so she couldn't find it
:42.480 --> :49.000
my wonderful ever calm fiance reassured her sister
and sent her the link urging her to open it with a
:49.000 --> :54.720
different browser in case there was a problem on
her phone Kay was super grateful and hung up 15
:54.720 --> :01.480
minutes later kay was firing up their family group
chat with it's gone my streak is gone messages and
:01.480 --> :08.360
calling my fiance repeatedly so what did we do my
fiance and I spent the evening cuddling with some
:08.360 --> :14.680 wine and are now fully and evenly furred dog
the win was in two ways we'd made her lose an
:14.680 --> :19.720
important game and if things worked out with her
in my gym friend even briefly we wouldn't have
:19.720 --> :25.320 to deal with her for a good while we ruined
K's whle streak last week and I haven't seen
:25.320 --> :32.800
her since then life is good our next story is
revenge against my party pooper boyfriend this
:32.800 --> :38.320
was how I got back at my boyfriend for leaving me
to myself at a party dominated by his colleagues
:38.320 --> :44.760
and friends my boyfriend is generally a sweet guy
but everything changes as soon as we have company
:44.760 --> :51.360
he's very outgoing and likes to have fun and enjoy
himself and sadly sometimes this means him acting
:51.360 --> :57.120
like I don't exist when we go out for functions I
complain twice but he never did anything about it
:57.120 --> :02.720
until I got back at him this happened 2 years ago
almost a year after my boyfriend and I started to
:02.720 --> :08.640
live together we decided to live together after 3
months of dating exclusively and while it may seem
:08.640 --> :14.200
too early for some people we were totally fine
with it excited even well we were in love and it
:14.200 --> :19.480
seemed like the perfect time to do it so we went
for it at the time we didn't have a lot of issues
:19.480 --> :24.520
save for the minor issues a couple has to deal
with after moving in together and one reoccurred
:24.520 --> :31.360
uring issue my boyfriend is very extroverted and
it was very annoying don't get me wrong I always
:31.360 --> :36.800
knew he was an extrovert and I loved him for it we
compliment each other but sometimes when we were
:36.800 --> :42.880
in public he would get so soaked in conversing
with other people that he'd forget about me the
:42.880 --> :46.960
first time this happened was when we hung out
with a couple of his friends in their house they
:46.960 --> :52.200
were all busy playing games and having fun and I
sort of felt left out because I didn't know them
:52.200 --> :57.360
that well and the group was sharing inside jokes
and laughing their butts off my boyfriend barely
:57.360 --> :01.640
even spoke to me the whole time we were there
he was busy entertaining the guests and trying
:01.640 --> :07.240
to be a host never mind the fact that he wasn't
even the host I felt so awkward it was like high
:07.240 --> :12.880 school all over I was quite the nerd in high
school so I was hardly invited for anything it
:12.880 --> :18.200
didn't help that my parents were strict and very
religious so I hardly had any friends either I
:18.200 --> :23.200
was mad at my boyfriend and I spoke to him about
it he said it wasn't deliberate and that he was
:23.200 --> :28.960
just having his fun while he apologized for his
behavior I knew he didn't mean his apology or
:28.960 --> :34.760
even understand what I was talking about or why
I was offended but I didn't push it I assumed
:34.760 --> :40.080
that since he had apologized we could simply just
move on from there the second time my boyfriend
:40.080 --> :45.280
completely ignored me was when we went for his
parents marriage anniversary I'd only met his dad
:45.280 --> :51.440
twice and his mom Thrice so we didn't have a very
close relationship yet he has a large family so
:51.440 --> :57.480
his aunts cousins and uncles were present they all
know each other and everyone was laughing talking
:57.480 --> :04.160
and catching up while I was just there feeling and
looking like the odd one my boyfriend ignored me
:04.160 --> :09.080
all throughout that party many of his childhood
friends and co-workers were at that party and
:09.080 --> :14.200 he was more interested in chatting with them
getting noticed and just generally being his
:14.200 --> :20.960
usual Mr entertainment self his mom must have
noticed how lonely I was because she randomly
:20.960 --> :26.200
checked up on me asked if I was doing okay and
encouraged me to mingle with other people at the
:26.200 --> :32.360
party it was hard to do that though I'm naturally
introverted and I'm not one to start conversations
:32.360 --> :37.640
with people I don't know sometimes I envied how
my boyfriend would just get along with people I
:37.640 --> :42.200
did not have that going on for me and it took a
lot of time and effort to get comfortable with
:42.200 --> :49.120
people I didn't enjoy myself at the party and
I felt bad and even guilty about it my not so
:49.120 --> :54.440
good mood was obvious and many people present saw
that I was afraid they would simply think of me
:54.440 --> :00.000
as a stuck up person or just someone with a nasty
attitude which was really what many people thought
:00.000 --> :06.560
of me in high school I felt even sadder because
my boyfriend knew how very shy I got in public
:06.560 --> :12.200
yet he left me to myself all through the party
he didn't even bother to get me drinks on our
:12.200 --> :18.880
way home I confronted him and he apologized but I
wasn't having it he had done it before anyway and
:18.880 --> :24.400
at this point I wasn't going to just settle for
another half-hearted apology we argued in the car
:24.400 --> :30.520
and he blamed me for not finding a way to enjoy
myself and meet new people at the party he also
:30.520 --> :35.440 dismissed my feelings and said I was making
a big deal out of the whole thing I was angry
:35.440 --> :42.000
at how insensitive he was since I barely knew his
people it was only fair that he stayed at my side
:42.000 --> :48.680
introduced me to people and carried me along in
conversations we were both mad at each other and
:48.680 --> :53.760
didn't speak to each other until we decided to
move on from that incident and he promised that
:53.760 --> :59.400
he was going going to make sure I would never feel
that way at an event again like the previous one
:59.400 --> :06.080
this apology sounded fake and was lacking in depth
it was obvious that my boyfriend didn't mean the
:06.080 --> :11.400
apology and he still didn't get why I thought
his actions were insensitive later that year my
:11.400 --> :16.920
boyfriend's cooworker and friend at the law firmy
Works in was promoted and his wife organized a
:16.920 --> :23.160
party she invited his co-workers and Friends of
course my life of the party boyfriend was invited
:23.160 --> :29.160
and I had to be there with him when my boyfriend
told me about it I blatantly said I was not going
:29.160 --> :34.200
to go I knew how lonely I got when my boyfriend
and I are out with people and I wasn't ready to
:34.200 --> :40.160
deal with that again so I refused my boyfriend
however convinced me to go with him I brought
:40.160 --> :45.760
up his habit of ditching me and he promised that
it was never going to happen on this occasion I
:45.760 --> :52.280
trusted him so I agreed to go with him that was
a big mistake on my part I should have insisted
:52.280 --> :59.080
and stayed home but he was so so convincing and
I agreed I'd forgotten that convincing people was
:59.080 --> :05.120
literally what my boyfriend did for a living and
he was very good at it that evening my boyfriend
:05.120 --> :10.280 drove us to the party's venue and just as we
got there he saw one of his friends from law
:10.280 --> :16.040
school he almost jumped out of the car happily
it was like a puppy that just saw its owner it
:16.040 --> :22.360
would have been cute to me if I didn't immediately
realized that I was going to get ignored all night
:22.360 --> :29.040
again my boyfriend gave me the car keys and left
me to park the car properly for 30 minutes he was
:29.040 --> :34.960
talking on and on with his friend from law school
I just stood by the car in my gorgeous dress and
:34.960 --> :40.560
heels staring into space they were so engrossed in
their conversation that my boyfriend didn't even
:40.560 --> :46.400
bother to make a proper introduction until his
friend pointed at me and asked is that your woman
:46.400 --> :51.120
he then said yes and brought his friend close to
the car where I was still standing and introduced
:51.120 --> :56.880
us I was already pissed because I knew how the
was going to go he would see his friends they
:56.880 --> :02.320
would all laugh and talk and he would forget that
he even came with someone the party had barely
:02.320 --> :07.880
started and he'd already abandoned me to chat with
his old pal anyway as soon as we got into the Hall
:07.880 --> :14.360
he turned to me and apologetically said sorry babe
I see someone I want to talk to and disappeared
:14.360 --> :20.080
that was how our evening went he would randomly
walk up to me ask if I was doing okay and leave
:20.080 --> :24.760
again I knew he was just doing that so he could
tell me that he at least checked up St on me if
:24.760 --> :30.400
I bring up his disappearance later I felt he was
manipulative and I spent my evening at the party
:30.400 --> :36.600
planning my revenge wondering what I could do to
make him feel just as I was feeling the celebrant
:36.600 --> :42.200
wife caught me watching my boyfriend laughing
and drinking from afar and tapped me lightly on
:42.200 --> :48.600
the arm he's such a funny guy you're lucky she
said I rolled my eyes and said it would be nice
:48.600 --> :54.160
if he was more attentive she sighed and sat on
the chair just before me have you spoken to him
:54.160 --> :59.320
about this the concern in my voice made it clear
that she very well understood what I was talking
:59.320 --> :05.760
about yes I have he promises to change each time
but we go out again and he acts like I'm not even
:05.760 --> :10.840
there she chuckled lightly and stopped a waiter
who was just passing she picked two glasses and
:10.840 --> :15.960
handed me one but I declined I'd already had three
glasses and that was more than enough for one
:15.960 --> :21.640
evening too much alcohol was certainly not good
for my system especially when I'm in a foul mood
:21.640 --> :26.800
I told her that and she giggled about not wanting
out alcohol especially when I'm already upset she
:26.800 --> :32.480
said honey I've been married for 10 years and if
there's one thing I've learned men don't listen
:32.480 --> :38.280
when you talk you have to let your actions speak
for you she patted me on the arm and walked away
:38.280 --> :44.160
I had planned to get back at him but I became
even more gingered to do it I was determined
:44.160 --> :50.240
to let my actions speak for me on our way home I
didn't say anything about what had happened I was
:50.240 --> :55.800
quiet all through the ride and my boyfriend asked
if I was all right at in intervals I said I was
:55.800 --> :01.720
okay at each time and we continued our journey
back home in silence I was in my boss's office
:01.720 --> :06.480
some weeks after that night when I overheard my
boss on the phone he was telling his wife about
:06.480 --> :12.080
some tickets she got and expressing displeasure
about not being able to go to the concert my boss
:12.080 --> :17.840
and I have a good relationship and we spoke quite
often so I asked him what it was about my boss's
:17.840 --> :23.400
wife had gotten tickets to a John Legend concert
but he'd also planned a weekend trip for them she
:23.400 --> :28.200
didn't tell them because she wanted to surprise
him and he didn't tell her for the same reason do
:28.200 --> :34.040
you want the tickets my boss asked me I wouldn't
want it to go to waste I excitedly said yes my
:34.040 --> :40.680
boyfriend loves concerts and he was a huge fan of
John Legend I was surprised that he didn't already
:40.680 --> :46.320
know about the concert and have tickets already
when I got home my boyfriend was upset he'd
:46.320 --> :51.480
asked his assistant to get him tickets to John
Legend's concert but his assistant wasn't able
:51.480 --> :56.800
to I heard him telling this to a friend in a voice
voice message I was going to announce that I had
:56.800 --> :03.440
tickets to the concert but I decided against it it
was my perfect chance to get back to my boyfriend
:03.440 --> :09.440
and I was going to take it that Saturday I told
my boyfriend I had plans with a coworker and he
:09.440 --> :15.440
just nodded my boyfriend is not used to me having
a social life and he was probably even happy I was
:15.440 --> :21.040
going out without him I knew he'd be more curious
if he knew who I was going with because I was sure
:21.040 --> :26.920
he just assumed it was a lady at work I was going
to the concert with one of my co-workers whom my
:26.920 --> :32.240
boyfriend heavily disliked when we first started
dating my boyfriend would say that the guy liked
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me and he felt we were too close I knew it would
crush him to find out I went to a John Legend
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concert with this guy but that didn't care my
boyfriend was taking a nap when the cooworker came
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to pick me up and we went to the concert together
just as we were going in I started to feel very
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bad about not taking my boyfriend I knew he would
have killed me the concert I planed to rub it
:55.680 --> :01.320
in his face that I had tickets to John Legends
concert but chose not to take him but chose not
:01.320 --> :08.320
to take him before but I changed my mind I decided
that I was going to simply not mention the concert
:08.320 --> :13.880
well it was too late one of his friends saw me and
he came over with his wife to say hello I knew his
:13.880 --> :20.000
friend was going to tell him so I had to tell him
too my coworker and I had so much fun that evening
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and it was nice to see what he was like outside
the work environment when he took me back to our
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apartment my boyfriend was just outside to this
day I don't know if he'd been going out to get
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something or if he was waiting for me because his
friend told him he saw me and a guy at the concert
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the two men said a cold impersonal hello to each
other and my coworker drove off my boyfriend was
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silent all through the elevator right up to our
apartment immediately we got in he exclaimed you
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went to a John Legend concert I Shrugged like it
didn't matter and walked to the room my boyfriend
:54.720 --> :01.080 followed so it was like a date you two went
out together I frowned I said nope listen it's
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not a big deal my boss gave me two tickets to the
concert and I took them this riled up my boyfriend
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even more and I wasn't surprised I knew it would
anger him he sat on the bed and spread his palms
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all over his face I don't know why you're making
a big deal of it I said casually removing my
:18.320 --> :24.040
earrings and placing them on the vanity table that
was unfair you had tickets to John Legend's concer
:24.040 --> :29.480 and you didn't take me you took him instead
my boyfriend's face wrinkled in disgust when
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he said him I knew it would greatly offend him
if he found out that I took that coworker but I
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didn't expect this level of anger and irritation
I apologized just like he apologized to me in the
:42.440 --> :49.280
past a short impersonal apology my boyfriend was
not having it though I don't think you know what
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you've just done he said and left the room I left
him to himself and and he didn't speak to me until
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the next day when he wanted to know why I did
it I told him why I did it and explained that
:59.720 --> :05.800
I felt just as hurt when he ignored how I felt
at parties he apologized this time and I did
:05.800 --> :11.200
too he made me promise though that I would never
deliberately hurt him like that again we hugged
:11.200 --> :18.120
it out and now we have better ways of expressing
our dissatisfaction do I regret what I did nope is
:18.120 --> :23.480 revenge against my awful new boss I know for
a fact that many of us can relate to working
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in crappy environments sometimes our bosses and
even colleagues can be complete jerks and being
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stuck in the same workplace as them is not always
the most fun experience I went through something
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similar with my boss and after a little while of
taking all his crap in silence I finally snapped
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and I'm going to give you the entire story I'm a
24-year-old female and I graduated from Community
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College with a degree in literature like a true
nerd I worked at the library from the moment I was
:52.960 --> :58.040 old enough to get a job and it was actually
the best thing in the world it goes without
:58.040 --> :04.280
saying that I'm an Avid Reader with an unhealthy
Obsession for fictional men and situations and
:04.280 --> :09.040
although it did earn me a few snide remarks here
and there I always had my nose buried too deep
:09.040 --> :15.080
in a book to actually notice anything or anyone
once College was over I continued to work at the
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library until an acquaintance from high school
that I ran into let me know about a job opening
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for editors in the publishing firm she worked at
I applied for the job and edited a few manuscripts
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as a little test since I had no prior experience
but was recommended by a staff member before I was
:32.080 --> :37.600
finally accepted working at a publishing firm
as an editor was a lot of fun in the beginning
:37.600 --> :44.040
I got to do what I loved for a living to read and
make necessary corrections to stories taking them
:44.040 --> :49.280 from their raw form until they're all ready
to be published I was a natural at it and my
:49.280 --> :55.080
turnover raid was also really incredible and fast
while I worked at the The Firm I meet a few other
:55.080 --> :00.680
friends and we ended up getting very close one of
them was also an editor but in a different sector
:00.680 --> :06.920
of the firm While others were staff writers we
were soon Inseparable and had lunch together all
:06.920 --> :11.800
the time and shared our lives with each other I
also made other friends in my workplace and it was
:11.800 --> :17.040
nice because they didn't judge me for preferring
the fictional world to the real one because they
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were all the same I finally found my own people
and a job that I actually liked life was great
:24.120 --> :28.800
things started to shift from the normal that we
all knew at the firm when the leadership of the
:28.800 --> :35.480
firm changed hands the former boss was a lovely
woman in her 60s that acted like a mother hen to
:35.480 --> :41.560
everyone she was super kind compassionate and
understanding and she ran the firm really well
:41.560 --> :46.280
not that I knew much about running a firm well
but she did a good job by my standards while
:46.280 --> :52.440
still managing to be firm enough that no one took
her niceness for granted or insulted her efforts
:52.440 --> :57.120
she also gave smaller authors a chance for their
Works to be published and hosted signing events
:57.120 --> :03.400
for these authors as well everyone loved her and
we were all sad when she decided to retire the
:03.400 --> :07.840
new head of the firm was introduced during the
sendoff party that we hosted for our retiring
:07.840 --> :14.000
boss and the first thing we noticed was that he
was much younger than the old boss initially no
:14.000 --> :20.360
one had any idea who he was or how he even came to
be the new head of the firm but we still respected
:20.360 --> :26.320
him either way my first observation was that he
was was mostly quiet and kept to himself it wasn't
:26.320 --> :33.000
like we at the office needed to be told what to do
but he barely left his office until closing hours
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it was obvious that he was trying to figure out
how the firm could generally run by itself before
:38.520 --> :43.960
he would add his input but we also did try to make
him feel as included as possible we ran things
:43.960 --> :49.400
by him before taking the final decisions and he
would just smile and agree with whatever we said
:49.400 --> :55.200
after a couple of weeks the new boss we'll call
him Chad held a meeting with the entire firm and
:55.200 --> :00.440
the first thing he let us know was that he hated
how our former boss ran the firm and that he was
:00.440 --> :06.320
here to make sure there was some kind of order it
was a weird switch up from the nice-ish quiet man
:06.320 --> :11.560
that had been watching us for the last month he
also called us lousy and lazy and said that the
:11.560 --> :17.640
younger women in the office dressed like who ARS
among many other things that I wouldn't like to
:17.640 --> :24.600
recall in essence he insulted basically everyone
and made us feel like what ever we'd been doing
:24.600 --> :31.480
was utter rubbish it made most of us feel terrible
about ourselves but what could we do he was our
:31.480 --> :37.080
boss after all it seemed like the new order was
basically to overwork us to death because he made
:37.080 --> :43.160
everyone do double the work that they'd been doing
before in half the time I was suddenly editing two
:43.160 --> :48.680
times the number of books that I was doing before
and had to skip my lunch break and stay in later
:48.680 --> :55.960
than usual just to be able to catch up quickly I
went from loving myob job to absolutely detesting
:55.960 --> :02.160
the very Act of waking up in the morning just
because of my work I had manuscripts piled
:02.160 --> :08.040
on my desk every morning and they didn't reduce
whether or not I finished the day's work now I'm
:08.040 --> :13.720
not a very extroverted person unless I'm around my
friends which means that I usually ignore things
:13.720 --> :19.040
that I'm uncomfortable with until it gets to the
point that neither I nor the people around me can
:19.040 --> :25.520
ignore it anymore and then someone else speaks up
about it I never confronted situations myself but
:25.520 --> :31.760
in this case I was livid at the inhumane amount of
work that we were being given a few older workers
:31.760 --> :36.360
at work had been laid off because they couldn't
keep up with the new boss's work rate one of them
:36.360 --> :42.520
had even ended up in the hospital because of a
lack of rest and an increase in stress levels
:42.520 --> :47.960
he basically fired her when she called to take
a sick leave this man was cruel and we couldn't
:47.960 --> :54.600
do anything about it that was until I decided
to finally stand up to him if I'm being honest
:54.600 --> :59.880
it was more anger than anything else because I
normally never would have even had the courage to
:59.880 --> :05.840
stand up to a waitress who got my order wrong and
talk less about my boss in the workplace it was a
:05.840 --> :11.800
Friday afternoon and I was just finished with all
the work I had during the week about 2 weeks prior
:11.800 --> :17.400
I had applied for a half day that day and was told
that it would only be granted if I finished all of
:17.400 --> :23.440
my work by the time I had to leave I was done an
hour before the time I had to leave and was busy
:23.440 --> :30.560
cleaning my desk when my boss walked in with a
pile of files lined up on his arm and dropped them
:30.560 --> :36.440
on my table without waiting to listen to anything
I had to say he walked back to his office and shut
:36.440 --> :42.440
it behind him I got really mad and went in behind
him to express just how upset I was at the way he
:42.440 --> :49.240
overworked us the entire head office heard my
outburst and everywhere was eerily silent as I
:49.240 --> :54.320
gave my boss a piece of my mind I can't recall
everything I said to him but I did speak of the
:54.320 --> :59.120 way things were run in the office and how we
all hated it in the way of a true narcissist
:59.120 --> :04.520
he began to let me know how hard it was to run a
company full of incompetent people and that he was
:04.520 --> :09.680
trying his best to make sure we earn more money
than other publishing firms around I tried to ask
:09.680 --> :14.480
whether our health wasn't important to him but he
didn't care much for what I had to say I tried to
:14.480 --> :20.440
bring up some other things but I Was Defeated as
he only ended up dismissing me for the day I was
:20.440 --> :26.720
so anxious for the entire weekend that I could
bear even sleep it felt like the end for me and
:26.720 --> :31.760
my friends from work even may seem so with how
often they called to check up on me at work on
:31.760 --> :37.360
Monday Chad called me to his office and let me
know that my job as an editor was now part-time
:37.360 --> :44.040
and I would be his new personal assistant I hated
the idea of it and tried to talk my way out but he
:44.040 --> :49.120
let me know that it was either I accepted the
job or I would be fired having just moved out
:49.120 --> :54.400
of my parents home into my own place I knew that
I couldn't afford to lose my job job working as
:54.400 --> :00.880
Chad's personal assistant was basically me being
his little errand girl and part-time maid my work
:00.880 --> :06.720
area was moved closer to his and when I wasn't
editing mountains of manuscripts I was getting his
:06.720 --> :12.920
coffee buying him lunch or helping to pick up his
son from elementary school this was when I found
:12.920 --> :19.760
out that he was indeed married and his wife also
worked somehow my job changed to being his child's
:19.760 --> :25.120
babysitter there was nothing said about it I just
some somehow fell into the role and had to keep
:25.120 --> :31.280
his kid busy during the weekends just like his
father Minnie Chad was a spoiled brat that felt
:31.280 --> :37.680
the happiest when he was making me a slave for him
he was just such a nasty little kid and I disliked
:37.680 --> :43.480
being around him it was worse because his parents
believed everything he said over what anyone else
:43.480 --> :48.720
did so if I ever tried to let them know that they
were raising a monster I would get laid off for my
:48.720 --> :54.280
job immediately being a personal assistant to
Chad meant that I didn't have a personal life
:54.280 --> :59.920
anymore because I had to be at his beck and call
every other day hanging out with friends was a
:59.920 --> :06.280
luxury that I could barely afford and dating was
definitely out of the question somehow through all
:06.280 --> :11.120
of the stress that I went through I barely even
thought about quitting now that I think back to
:11.120 --> :15.280
it maybe that was the reason that Chad thought
he could be a jerk to us and get away with it
:15.280 --> :20.480
the people who worked at the firm had been there
a while and having to find new jobs was a hassle
:20.480 --> :25.520
for them things changed for me when I asked Chad
for a raise because I was still doing my regular
:25.520 --> :31.640
editing job while turning into his and his son's
permanent babysitter he decided that I wasn't
:31.640 --> :38.920
doing enough work to be deserving of my salary
and he cut me 20% off I was mad enough to quit
:38.920 --> :44.600
and I'd started to apply for jobs in my spare time
but I also decided that maybe it was time to give
:44.600 --> :50.720
Chad a taste of his own medicine as his personal
assistant I had access to his schedule and I also
:50.720 --> :55.720
made a few of his appointments I wanted to let
him have an inkling of what it was like to be me
:55.720 --> :01.280
so I started to set his appointments too close
together he barely had any time to rest as he
:01.280 --> :06.880
attended meeting after meeting he had something
going on nearly every hour of the day for about
:06.880 --> :13.600
a week and he could barely even last 2 days it was
hilarious watching my boss barely have time to get
:13.600 --> :19.200
himself ready and dressed and the once very well
put together man looked a mess when he stepped
:19.200 --> :24.680 into work one time he even wore a mismatched
suit because of how much she needed to do he
:24.680 --> :31.240
lived just one week in my shoes and he was such
a mess that he had to take a month off work for
:31.240 --> :36.600
a vacation with his family of course I still work
during that time but I was in charge of booking
:36.600 --> :42.360
the hotels and organizing the events that they
would attend coincidentally there was a billy ish
:42.360 --> :48.160
concert in town and his son really wanted to go I
was asked to purchase three tickets for his entire
:48.160 --> :54.520
family and I did so apparently he wanted tickets
with backstage passes and I should have known that
:54.520 --> :00.040
without him having to have said it he insulted
me so much that I decided to keep the tickets
:00.040 --> :07.160
for myself they were virtual tickets and I forgot
to send them to his email while he was turned back
:07.160 --> :12.600
at the entrance of the concert I was inside with
three of my friends from work listening to The
:12.600 --> :18.680
Talented Billy ish entertain us of course he tried
to reach me but my phone was turned off because
:18.680 --> :24.680
I deserve the weekend off I turned my resignation
letter in not to too long after that and went back
:24.680 --> :31.000
to working at the library until I got a better job
because honestly anything was better than working
:31.000 --> :36.480
for an ungrateful man who didn't appreciate the
work that people did for him I still work at the
:36.480 --> :41.320
library but I have an interview at a different
publishing firm next week so wish me luck with
:41.320 --> :48.320
that honestly if anything I think op put up with
this a little too much I just can't imagine doing
:48.320 --> :55.160
like a dream job at a publishing firm and ending
up being okay being like an on call babysitter by
:55.160 --> :00.200
the end of it all I know is Opie must have really
been strapped for cash at that point to allow
:00.200 --> :04.960
that to happen but I wish op the best and I hope
they get the new job the new publishing firm is
:04.960 --> :11.200
standing up to my bully boss my evil former boss
stole my idea and gave it to her daughter so she
:11.200 --> :16.360
could get ahead of me here's how I dealt with her
this happened years ago shortly after I got out of
:16.360 --> :22.680
college that year I got invited for an internship
interview at a magazine I loved it was a great way
:22.680 --> :28.040
to start my writing career and I was grateful and
elated about the opportunity I prepared very hard
:28.040 --> :33.840
for the interview read and did a lot of research
on the company and my wouldbe interviewers I knew
:33.840 --> :38.960
I had done my best but was still a bit worried
at the time many young people would also be at
:38.960 --> :44.160
the interview and these were people who would
have graduated from prestigious and reputable
:44.160 --> :49.720
universities luckily all my hard work paid off I
did well at the first interview was invited for
:49.720 --> :55.360
another interview and I was selected 12 of us were
selected for the internship and divided to work
:55.360 --> :00.960
in different departments some got fashion some
were in politics and three of us were selected
:00.960 --> :05.720
to work in the entertainment vertical we worked
with different columnists and did whatever was
:05.720 --> :11.480
required of us including the traditional serving
coffee and buying lunch and we had a boss who was
:11.480 --> :16.520
the head of the entertainment department and the
editor-in-chief she was a nice middle-aged lady
:16.520 --> :23.040
and she spoke so much about fairness Justice and
doing the right thing so I deeply respected her
:23.040 --> :28.040
her daughter was one of the internees and people
gossiped about her they said she didn't deserve a
:28.040 --> :33.960
spot in the internship program and that her mother
had manipulated Human Resources into accepting her
:33.960 --> :38.960
and all of that but I didn't believe it my boss
didn't seem like the kind of person who would do
:38.960 --> :44.280
that she was big on working hard for whatever
you want and from what I saw at the time she
:44.280 --> :50.440
would never be involved in that sort of workplace
nepotism well I thought wrong I started to have
:50.440 --> :56.160
second thoughts when I worked closely with her
daughter first she was not so bright and she
:56.160 --> :01.560
looked and talked like she had some growing up to
do she was quite immature and would roll her eyes
:01.560 --> :06.760
and pout like a teenager I don't mean that she
was a total dumbo but I knew that there's people
:06.760 --> :12.360 amongst those who came for the interview who
deserve this spot more than her it was clear that
:12.360 --> :17.720
had her mother not been a senior staff she would
have never have been selected it was obvious she
:17.720 --> :23.440
did not do much work like the rest of us to secure
the internship she was lazy and uninterested in
:23.440 --> :29.320
doing anything and she complained a lot her lack
ofical attitude towards work only happened when
:29.320 --> :34.240
her mother wasn't around though whenever she sees
her mother around she would pretend to be busy
:34.240 --> :40.200
or would be walking around asking people if they
had any job for her to do it was funny I honestly
:40.200 --> :44.960
didn't have a problem with her or with the fact
that the riters and other workers never asked her
:44.960 --> :51.840
to get a coffee by their lunch or hold stuff I've
always known that all fingers are not equal some
:51.840 --> :57.320
people have to prove themselves more than others
to achieve the same goal and I didn't exactly like
:57.320 --> :02.440
it but it's simply the way things worked in life
my dad always said it doesn't matter if you have
:02.440 --> :08.520 to do the extra work do it anyway and I did
the other intern was just as hardworking he
:08.520 --> :13.960
was always trying to help and make things easier
but I noticed that he relaxed a bit on the hard
:13.960 --> :18.800
work when he saw that our boss's daughter was
not as bothered from what I knew his brother
:18.800 --> :24.760
was a popular stylist so he had a wide range of
networking choices that that I did not I couldn't
:24.760 --> :31.200
afford to just sit around too so I didn't I needed
the internship to work I wanted to get retained
:31.200 --> :36.640
after my internship program had ended and I didn't
want anything getting in the way of that a month
:36.640 --> :42.000
to the end of the six months internship the head
of Human Resources invited all of the interns into
:42.000 --> :48.720
his office and shared important information with
us he said we all had to come up with a big idea
:48.720 --> :55.080
for an article we would be supervised till the
idea is published in the magazine after all the
:55.080 --> :01.360
Articles have been published one of us would be
selected and given a full-time job at the magazine
:01.360 --> :06.040
and the other two would have been published and
compensated for their Works which is also a good
:06.040 --> :10.720 deal for the writer who is just starting he
said the article does not determine whether
:10.720 --> :16.480
or not we would be retained as that was dependent
on several things but having a good idea for an
:16.480 --> :22.760
article was a plus I left that office determined
to come up with something big only one out of the
:22.760 --> :29.120
three of us could be retained in each vertical
and I was determined to ensure I was selected I
:29.120 --> :34.520
already had a good relationship with virtually all
the people in the department I was respectful and
:34.520 --> :40.960
helpful all I had to do was get a great article
together and I could be a full-time employee I had
:40.960 --> :46.800
thought up an idea and went into my boss's office
to run it by her before officially presenting my
:46.800 --> :53.040
pitch to the other editors she asked me to briefly
write it down and I did that's a fine idea idea
:53.040 --> :58.960
she said with a big smile on her face she then
asked if I had any other ideas and I replied that
:58.960 --> :05.280
I didn't she advised me not to shut the door on
my creativity and think of more ideas I thanked
:05.280 --> :10.520
her and left her office I told my close friend
what I'd planned and she loved it too she thought
:10.520 --> :17.520
it was brilliant and would earn me a job at the
magazine I was glad the next day my boss said I
:17.520 --> :22.840
couldn't use that idea I was surprised because
she'd been glad to hear it and was supportive
:22.840 --> :27.040 she didn't even provide a strong reason she
just muttered something about it being too
:27.040 --> :34.320
controversial she advised me to think of something
else I wanted to not take her advice but I knew it
:34.320 --> :38.800
could get me in trouble she was going to be one
of those who would decide if I could publish the
:38.800 --> :45.280
article anyway so I didn't want to risk it but I
had issues with her reason the Magazine's known
:45.280 --> :51.040
for publishing very controversial articles it's
contributed to the growing number of readers they
:51.040 --> :56.600
have all over the world I decided I was going
to think of something different my friend was
:56.600 --> :02.120
disappointed because she believed the idea was
superb but I couldn't pitch it anymore so I chose
:02.120 --> :07.400
something else I only had 3 days to come up with
something since we were to present at the end of
:07.400 --> :13.480
the week and I did but it wasn't well thought
out not as much as the first one I did my best
:13.480 --> :18.560
to make a good presentation of my pitch to the
editors and it was accepted I'd started to work
:18.560 --> :25.040
on my article as were the other internees when
one day the third inter in entertainment came
:25.040 --> :31.480
to me he asked how my article was going and we
briefly talked about his then to my utter shock
:31.480 --> :36.480
he mentioned that my boss's daughter was not at
work at that moment because she had gone out to
:36.480 --> :43.080
interview a group of people the idea I shared
with my boss involved interviewing these same
:43.080 --> :48.080
people so I just figured she handed my idea to
her daughter and that's why she didn't want me
:48.080 --> :53.880
to use it I asked him if he knew what her article
was about and he told me can confirming my worry
:53.880 --> :00.240
my boss had betrayed my trust in her daughter I
was sad and felt depressed she could have found
:00.240 --> :05.200 a way to get some sort of employment for her
daughter instead of just stealing my idea I
:05.200 --> :10.240
told my dad about it when I got home that day
and he advised me to go to HR it was the right
:10.240 --> :16.640
thing to do but I wasn't sure it would be handled
properly plus it was my word against hers she had
:16.640 --> :22.560 this air of moral superiority about her and
people might just not believe me or they will
:22.560 --> :28.440
believe me and still not care I was not about to
start my career as a journalist like this these
:28.440 --> :33.240
top journalists speak to one another and I didn't
want to have to deal with so much hate that early
:33.240 --> :39.680
in my career I decided I was simply going to have
to get my revenge I was eventually going to take
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the matter to Human Resources but I would get my
revenge first that way if they did nothing i' at
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least know I dealt with her my boss was away on
a work trip for 5 days but when she returned to
:50.440 --> :55.280
work I confronted her calmly about about what
she had done I remember the first question she
:55.280 --> :01.640
asked was how old are you I didn't know why that
was important but I answered her 23 I replied
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do you have any plans to be a parent one day she
said I nodded affirmatively she says then you'll
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understand why I did what I did maybe not now but
when you have a child of your own you'll get it
:13.960 --> :20.600
as parents we're willing to do even the craziest
things for our children I have never hated anyone
:20.600 --> :26.040
as much as I hated her at that moment the fact
that she was justifying stealing from another
:26.040 --> :33.840 person's child for hers was just revolting I
was beyond angry I however did not show it I
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walked out of her office calmly what pissed me
off was how she acted like nothing had happened
:39.520 --> :44.320
afterward she spoke to me like she used to with
a very friendly tone I didn't know exactly how
:44.320 --> :49.160
to get back at her until my friend from college
asked to hang out she worked in another magazine
:49.160 --> :55.200
at the time and had a colum in it I told her all
about what happened at work and she was mad about
:55.200 --> :01.000
it she knew my boss and had before the incident
respected her but was disappointed at what she
:01.000 --> :06.520
did what are you going to do about it she asked
me I sigh I didn't know what to do and I told her
:06.520 --> :12.240
that I was just going to resign to fate they say
no way you have to do something let me know how I
:12.240 --> :17.960
can help you when you make up your mind on my way
back home I thought of what I could do I was going
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to get my friend to publish my original idea in
her column and pass it off as hers and she would
:24.080 --> :30.120
do that before my evil Boss's Daughter published
hers that way it would look like she copied the
:30.120 --> :36.040
idea and it would never get published that night
I texted my friend and asked if she could publish
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my idea in her magazine she said yes and that was
how we kicked off our revenge Mission my friend
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and I met to discuss this again and she thought it
was a creative way to get back at my boss but she
:49.120 --> :55.040
also worried that I won't be getting credit for
an idea I came up with I was not bothered about
:55.040 --> :01.400
that though and I made that clear to her I simply
wanted to get back at my boss and her brat kid to
:01.400 --> :07.480
make it even worse I tried as much as I could to
peep into my boss's daughter's work and see what
:07.480 --> :12.520
changes were made to my original idea so I could
tell my friend about it no changes were made but
:12.520 --> :18.520
I sent the exact article title to my friend My
article was published first because I finished
:18.520 --> :23.720 quite early and it was edited just after 3
days before my my boss's daughter's article
:23.720 --> :29.640 was supposed to go live my friend published
hers nobody knew about it at the office until
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the next day when one of the editors found out
and was alarmed the whole department was thrown
:35.360 --> :40.760 into a frenzy but one thing was certain she
could no longer publish hers and it was too
:40.760 --> :46.360
late to publish a new article because it would
take time and the evaluation was supposed to
:46.360 --> :52.600
happen at the end of the next week it seemed very
suspicious to everyone that my friend's magazine
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copied the exact headline and covered the same
story my boss and the other editors decided to
:58.920 --> :04.400
look into it I was called into the boardroom and
questioned my boss's daughter was present in the
:04.400 --> :10.960
room her eyes welled up in tears of course I told
them I knew nothing about it I said I didn't even
:10.960 --> :15.760 know what my boss's daughter was working on
she was asked if she had ever told me about her
:15.760 --> :21.560
article she said she hadn't and I was released I
kind of felt bad for the girl she probably didn't
:21.560 --> :27.840
know her mother stole the idea from me or she knew
I didn't care as long as she looked stupid and
:27.840 --> :33.480
comes off as a chatty person who can't keep what
she was working on a secret until it was published
:33.480 --> :39.440
I'm good before the end of the day my boss called
me privately into her office and asked if I did it
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I laughed hysterically and excused myself at that
point I wasn't even interested in working at that
:45.080 --> :50.680
company anymore I had gotten the experience I
needed anyway I decided I was going to let HR
:50.680 --> :56.240
know before leaving now that the exact article
had been published elsewhere they will probably
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believe I came up with the idea I told them all
that happened and added that I was not interested
:01.760 --> :07.600
in being retained one of them tried to convince me
to stay but I decided against it I didn't want a
:07.600 --> :13.680
situation where I'd start on an uneasy Note with
my co-workers so I politely declined I left the
:13.680 --> :19.480
company that day and never returned I heard one
of the editors took my former boss's place she
:19.480 --> :25.280
was demoted based on my report and and the fact
that she's had other issues in the past but she
:25.280 --> :30.440
couldn't handle the shame so she turned in her
resignation and left to work as a chief editor
:30.440 --> :36.800
for another magazine of course the bratty young
lady was not retained either I was super proud of
:36.800 --> :43.240
myself for standing up to my bully boss and not
just letting her steal my idea and get away with
:43.240 --> :50.160
it honestly I think what Opie did here was a big
sacrifice imagine having such a great idea that
:50.160 --> :56.680
you think is a home run idea aidea somebody steals
it from you and in an ultimate sacrifice so that
:56.680 --> :02.120
that person can't get away with it you give it
up to another person for free without any credit
:02.120 --> :07.560
just so that Thief cannot steal your thunder if
you were in OP shoes would you be happy with the
:07.560 --> :13.440 overall outcome or would the whole situation
always bother you in at least some small way
:13.440 --> :17.720 let me know what you guys think down in the
comments and our final story of the day is
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my formerly smart best friend we all know a smart
person that chose off is a witch and treats other
:24.520 --> :29.880
people like they're completely stupid sometimes
they're a distant acquaintance the popular girl
:29.880 --> :36.520
at school or even your own parent in my case they
were one of my best friends it wasn't always like
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that we were basically born to be best friends
our mothers had us exactly a month apart but
:42.440 --> :47.480
they didn't really meet each other until a few
months later when we were falling sick like all
:47.480 --> :52.920
the time and had to be at the hospital a lot our
parents met each other at the ER and decided that
:52.920 --> :58.320 it would be a good idea for their two sickly
children to be friends and it worked we were
:58.320 --> :04.560
tight as thieves from the first time we met and
for most of our Lives we did everything together
:04.560 --> :10.760
things started to change when I turned 14 and was
diagnosed with dyslexia between us my best friend
:10.760 --> :15.800
we'll call her Sarah which is an obviously fake
name had always been the smart one my parents
:15.800 --> :20.640
tried not to compare us to each other but when
you're an Indian kid with strict parents and your
:20.640 --> :25.600
best friend is a white kid that so much smarter
than you it tends to make things a little weird
:25.600 --> :30.600
between you and your parents I still believe that
despite how much they dislike that Sarah's parents
:30.600 --> :37.360
were so lenient with her they let us be friends
because she was smarter and by association maybe
:37.360 --> :43.360
one day I would be smart too Sarah was sweet to
me and she was the best friend any girl could ask
:43.360 --> :49.840
for she was pretty much also perfect with perfect
hair and blue eyes and perfect grades her parents
:49.840 --> :55.200
were even perfect being the stereo typical high
school sweethearts that got married after also
:55.200 --> :00.400
attending the same Community College not that I
had any problems with how I looked or the fact
:00.400 --> :06.320
that my parents marriage was arranged but between
Sarah and I she was automatically everyone's first
:06.320 --> :12.280
choice we didn't really have to start problems
until I was diagnosed with dyslexia my parents
:12.280 --> :17.600
had just dramatically announced it to me after
assuring me that they still loved me no matter
:17.600 --> :23.080
what because I was so distressed and upset about
the diagnosis they decided to give me one chance
:23.080 --> :29.520
to do whatever I wanted it was a Friday night
so I asked for permission to go to a party and
:29.520 --> :35.560
they be grudgingly agreed if you have immigrant
parents and are a 14-year-old middle schooler
:35.560 --> :40.360
I'm sure you understand how much of a big deal
this was to me I went with my best friend and
:40.360 --> :46.400
we were having a good time until it was time to
play the dreaded spin the bottle game even then
:46.400 --> :51.960
I knew that the game was trouble and nothing good
would come out of it but my best friend convinced
:51.960 --> :57.600
me that it would be harmless the game went okay
until the bottle landed on her and she chose to
:57.600 --> :03.640
tell the truth I can't recall the question but her
answer was basically blurting to about half of my
:03.640 --> :10.120
middle school classmates that I was dyslexic note
that I'd only just let her know about it barely
:10.120 --> :15.240
an hour earlier while her mother drove us to that
party there were a lot of other things that she
:15.240 --> :21.240
could have said but the fact that she chose that
particular secret to spill made me really sad I
:21.240 --> :25.480
stomped out of the the room where the game was
being played and sat with the host's family until
:25.480 --> :30.280
Sarah's parents came to pick us up later that
night we didn't speak on the whole ride home
:30.280 --> :35.080
and for the rest of the weekend I thought that my
best friend would realize that she offended me and
:35.080 --> :41.040
apologized by Monday but she just pretended that
everything was okay and went straight into talking
:41.040 --> :46.360
to me the moment we entered the school Halls when
I did try to let her know that I was offended by
:46.360 --> :52.120
the stun she pulled on Friday night she brushed
me off and called me dramatic at that point
:52.120 --> :59.040
my 14-year-old self knew that things would never
be the same again word traveled fast and as much
:59.040 --> :04.600
as I got teased and harassed by people I also
found other people who suffered from dyslexia
:04.600 --> :10.320
and we formed a club sort of as I got closer to
these people my friendship with Sarah started
:10.320 --> :16.360
to hit rock bottom after getting my diagnosis
the school I attended realized they had quite
:16.360 --> :22.120 a number of dyslexic Learners and decided
to employ different teaching tactics for us
:22.120 --> :27.440
once it was established I found out that I was
actually very smart and could do very well in
:27.440 --> :34.680
my studies if just given the chance Sarah did not
appreciate that and somehow our already suffering
:34.680 --> :40.960 friendship went from us walking quietly home
every day after school to having to be forced by
:40.960 --> :46.880
our parents to spend time together she continued
to try really hard to be better than me and if
:46.880 --> :52.040
I ever asked questions in class she made sure
to ridicule and make fun of me God for forbid
:52.040 --> :56.720
that I asked her for help because I would only
leave even more frustrated than I started it
:56.720 --> :02.120
didn't help that she was already at the top of
most of our classes and she was automatically
:02.120 --> :07.640
recommended to me by teachers whenever I needed
help in school eventually we figured that there
:07.640 --> :13.880
was no way that we could continue being friends
but we had to pretend for the sake of our parents
:13.880 --> :19.880
I got a boyfriend in high school and I used the
excuse of going over to hers to go see him all
:19.880 --> :25.360
the time she did the same but with parties I'm
still even surprised that she didn't rat on me
:25.360 --> :30.520
we drifted even further from each other until high
school was over our universities were in different
:30.520 --> :36.120
states and we had one last sleepover before we
both moved and went non- contct with each other
:36.120 --> :41.800 uni was a little more accepting and honestly
a little fun I was able to manage my dyslexia
:41.800 --> :47.000
enough to go through it as smoothly as I could
manage until I graduated and got a job out in the
:47.000 --> :53.240
city I got my own apartment started earning adult
money and could do whatever I wanted I also had a
:53.240 --> :58.440
boyfriend who loved me and my relationship with
my parents was as good as it could get when they
:58.440 --> :03.480
weren't screaming at me to come home my life was
far from perfect but at least it was progressing
:03.480 --> :09.240 positively on a random day I got a call from
a strange number and when I answered it it was
:09.240 --> :16.000
my former best friend Sarah I was super shocked
because we hadn't spoken to each other in about 5
:16.000 --> :21.640
years but I answered the call anyway it started as
an innocent little call to catch up on each other
:22.200 --> :27.880
and talk about everything that had happened in the
past couple of years it was nice to just catch up
:27.880 --> :32.960
but then it seemed like luck hadn't been on her
side she went on a long rant about how she was in
:32.960 --> :39.640
between jobs about to be homeless and in need of
a fresh start of course I felt bad for her and I
:39.640 --> :44.320 knew there were a few openings at my job she
didn't live in the city like I but she lived
:44.320 --> :51.040
only a few hours away so I convinced her to come
over and even promised to let her stay at my place
:51.040 --> :56.320
it was nice with when she first came she looked
great and seemed very carefree and even almost a
:56.320 --> :01.040
different person than who she used to be towards
the end of our friendship I let her have the spare
:01.040 --> :05.920
room in my apartment and she was only supposed
to stay for a month which I'd prepared myself
:05.920 --> :11.720
for when Sarah and I talk some more I found out
that she had dropped out of college just before
:11.720 --> :17.600
her final year it shouldn't have been a problem if
she had told me earlier but she didn't and there
:17.600 --> :23.440
was only so much of a good word I could put in for
her at work she did get the job but it was a lower
:23.440 --> :29.200
paying one which she outrightly blamed me for just
before stating that she would need to stay at mine
:29.200 --> :34.160
for 3 months longer than we originally planned
because her salary wouldn't be enough to get her
:34.160 --> :40.080
a place in the neighborhood that she really wanted
to live in I was eager to rekindle our childhood
:40.080 --> :45.200
friendship so a part of me thought that it would
be the best idea to let her do what she liked for
:45.200 --> :50.800
the most part it started with me always having to
clean up after her and then graduated to me being
:50.800 --> :57.040
her mom and having to wake her up and make her
shower have breakfast and dress up in time so we
:57.040 --> :02.680
would get to work early I introduced Sarah to all
my friends my work friends friends from college I
:02.680 --> :09.560
still spoke to and even my boyfriend and they all
loved her instantly who wouldn't I was just glad
:09.560 --> :14.840
that they got along and happy that you wouldn't
feel so lonely with time it started to feel like I
:14.840 --> :21.080
was being left out of things within my own friend
group but I gastl myself to believe otherwise
:21.080 --> :25.680 during lunch at the office one day Sarah was
huddled over with my work friends and they were
:25.680 --> :31.760
all glued to their phones I went over and inquired
about what was so interesting to them and I was
:31.760 --> :37.040
introduced to wle if you don't know what that is
it's something like a digital crossword puzzle
:37.040 --> :42.200
where you get a few tries to guess a word now
because of my dyslexia I tend to stay away from
:42.200 --> :47.480
crossword puzzles and things of the sort but I
wanted to give this Wordle a try because according
:47.480 --> :52.480
to them it was really fun when I expressed my
eagerness to play and asked someone to explain
:52.480 --> :58.680 further Sarah made a joke about me being too
dyslexic to really understand anything it hit me
:58.680 --> :04.720
like a ton of blocks because not only was this the
second time she was doing this but none of my work
:04.720 --> :09.960
friends knew about me being dyslexic it wasn't
like I was embarrassed about it but my theory
:09.960 --> :15.480
was that if I could manage it just fine why did
the rest of the world need to know thankfully my
:15.480 --> :20.920
work crowd was a little more mature than middle
schoolers and they instantly understood that my
:20.920 --> :27.160
condition was is not a joke it didn't stop it from
still being extremely humiliating I thought that
:27.160 --> :32.320
confronting Sarah this time would be different
since we were a little more grownup but it was
:32.320 --> :38.360 the same darn thing she insisted it was just
a little game and there was no need to get all
:38.360 --> :44.800 worked up over it I demanded an apology from
her and she burst into tears adding a little
:44.800 --> :51.560
sob story that I didn't care enough to listen to
because of how angry I was she was right about
:51.560 --> :58.320
wle just being a game but telling me that the only
reason I couldn't play was because of a condition
:58.320 --> :04.760
that I had was just downright mean I realized then
that whatever friendship I was trying to salvage
:04.760 --> :11.000
with her was gone she was still as childish as
her High School self and there was no helping
:11.000 --> :18.280
that the wle incident was just the cherry on top
of the pie of all the other annoying things that
:18.280 --> :24.640 she did to irritate me so I sat her down One
Fine Day and let her know that she needed to
:24.640 --> :31.800
move out Sarah did try to guiltrip me by using the
history we shared but I'd been desensitized to her
:31.800 --> :37.760
tactics already when she found out that there
was no way to talk me down she tried to deean
:37.760 --> :43.560
me some more but I threatened to call the police
on her she didn't move out of my apartment until a
:43.560 --> :49.960
week later when I was at work she took a sick day
off that day and moved her belongings out but not
:49.960 --> :57.800
before smashing a egg all over my white walls and
writing some very mean things with a red marker
:57.800 --> :03.400
it was a pain to get the stains out but I'm just
glad she's gone Sarah eats lunch alone at work
:03.400 --> :09.200
now because everyone knows who she really is and
it feels like karma really did her thing on my
:09.200 --> :15.240
behalf even though I did have plans of getting my
own revenge on her being in the same place as her
:15.240 --> :22.080
while she learns about what it means to have no
friends is Revenge enough about the world game it
:22.080 --> :27.840
was hard getting adjusted to it because dyslexia
makes simple things like that difficult but I
:27.840 --> :32.600
think I'm beginning to get the hang of it I'm not
going to lie I was super into the wle thing for a
:32.600 --> :36.960
minute there so to see it pop up in one of these
stories is kind of neat I think there was like a
:36.960 --> :42.240
good chunk of people that regardless of what topic
the original circle of people that gathered was
:42.240 --> :47.400
about there was a stretch there where everybody
shared their like wle records for like maybe a
:47.400 --> :52.800
couple weeks before finally giving up like I saw
in like a sport Sports Chat somewhere that there
:52.800 --> :57.360
was like a stretch for a while that there was just
like a bunch of wle things going on and people
:57.360 --> :02.720
talking about oh that's a crazy word I've never
heard that before it would make me no happier than
:02.720 --> :07.600
to hear about op huddling in a circle with all
of their friends while Sarah is sitting at the
:07.600 --> :13.560
sad solo table and op and all their work friends
going and talking about the new worldle I tattled
:13.560 --> :18.920
like a snake because sometimes blood isn't so
thick when people say blood is thicker than
:18.920 --> :24.360
water I can bet that they've never met a family
like like mine my family was picture perfect and
:24.360 --> :29.720
I mean that in every way the phrase has been used
in time past but what was beneath the covering of
:29.720 --> :36.000
that perfect look was way more disturbing than
anybody could imagine in truth I should not be
:36.000 --> :42.120
telling this story to anyone but what else have
I got to lose anyway I've lost my job family and
:42.120 --> :48.520
the one person that truly cared about me and to
be fair I am on the brink of losing my sanity but
:48.520 --> :53.400
that's fine I'm not going down alone at least
I'll have my family with me we would all go
:53.400 --> :59.320
down that rabbit hole that stinks of betrayal and
deceit I never imagined that beneath the Serene
:59.320 --> :05.760
facade of our Suburban home lay a Web of Lies and
deception that would shatter my world my name is
:05.760 --> :10.560
Michael and this is the story of how I stumbled
upon a long buried secret that exposed my mother
:10.560 --> :16.840
Janice for the betrayer she truly was it All Began
innocently enough with a harmless search in the
:16.840 --> :23.480
attic for some old family memorabilia amidst all
the dusty boxes forgotten belongings I came across
:23.480 --> :29.160
this weathered envelope that piqued my curiosity
I knew I'd never come across this envelope before
:29.160 --> :34.920 and if I remembered correctly I'd helped ma
pack the contents of this particular box so
:34.920 --> :41.520
conventionally I should not see anything strange
Inside the Box however inside it I found something
:41.520 --> :48.080
more unfamiliar a collection of yellowed letters
photographs and a side of my mother that I'd never
:48.080 --> :53.680
come across before the first letter was dated
years ago addressed to Janice and signed by a name
:53.680 --> :59.520
I did not recognize the words on the page hint at
a clandestine relationship and the consequences
:59.520 --> :05.800
of their actions as I read on the truth slowly
unfolded before my eyes like a dark and twisted
:05.800 --> :12.280
tale Janice Anderson who I refuse to believe is
the same woman that raised me nothing shy of 19
:12.280 --> :18.760
years a woman whose facade of Charisma masked a
Labyrinth of Deceit and betrayal was a prominent
:18.760 --> :24.000
figure in the Suburban town we called home to
the outside world she was an accomplished Finance
:24.000 --> :29.080 professional a loving mother and a pillar of
the community however beneath the surface of her
:29.080 --> :35.280
seemingly perfect life lay a complex and shadowy
past and I will learn the truth first from the
:35.280 --> :41.440
letters as I recount this story I wondered what
her Ploy was and why she never thought to destroy
:41.440 --> :46.360
any evidence that could lead to the discovery of
the life she once lived was she expecting me to
:46.360 --> :51.240
find the truth someday or did she just believe
that I would never be smart enough to figure out
:51.240 --> :57.440
all out but she was wrong very Janice's ambition
was evident from a young age she was determined
:57.440 --> :02.600 to rise above her modest beginnings and make
her Mark in the world as she entered adulthood
:02.600 --> :07.960
her drive led her to pursue a career in finance
where she showcased exceptional skills in handling
:07.960 --> :13.680
numbers and making calculated decisions during her
Ascent in the financial World Janice encountered
:13.680 --> :19.240
influential individuals who would play pivotal
roles in her transformation she was welcomed into
:19.240 --> :24.880
a circle of power and privilege rubbing shoulders
with the town's Elite these connections opened
:24.880 --> :30.920
doors for her propelling her career to new heights
in the early stages of her success Janice made
:30.920 --> :37.280
her Mark by leveraging her Charisma and charm to
forge alliances she was a master at reading people
:37.280 --> :42.840 she still is to a large extent sensing their
vulnerabilities and using them to her Advantage
:42.840 --> :48.560
many admired her business Acumen but just a few
saw the ruthless tactics she employed to climb
:48.560 --> :54.000
the corporate ladder it was this ambition that
led Janice to uncover a secret that could have
:54.000 --> :01.040
potentially destroyed the reputation of one of
the town's most influential figures the truth gave
:01.040 --> :07.240
her leverage over powerful individuals which she
shamelessly wielded for her own gain if you know
:07.240 --> :12.960
who paraded herself to be my mother now you would
predict her next line of action was to expose the
:12.960 --> :19.640
evil right well this is because like me we did
not both know the real Janice instead of exposing
:19.640 --> :25.280
the truth Janice made a faithful decision that
would forever alter the lives of those involved
:25.280 --> :31.880
she chose to use the knowledge to secure favors
cement alliances and Advance her career and if
:31.880 --> :36.720
I read through those letters correctly this was
at a point where she began trading the truth for
:36.720 --> :42.720
power and she set herself on a path that would
lead to the eventual unraveling of her carefully
:42.720 --> :49.240
constructed life of Lies as she became entangled
in a web of Deceit she found herself making deals
:49.240 --> :55.360
with unsavory characters whose motives were far
from honorable she underestimated the consequences
:55.360 --> :01.080
of her actions believing that she could maintain
control of the situation but the web of deception
:01.080 --> :06.560 she spun would soon ens snare her as well I
like to believe that she was never this bad
:06.560 --> :12.440
I like to believe that all I read was a lie but
it wasn't the woman I knew was false a figment
:12.440 --> :18.240
of my imagination and as I sat in the dim light
that day processing all I had read I began to
:18.240 --> :23.360
recount events that might have shown the lapses
in her acts one of those nights in her Greed
:23.360 --> :29.080 for a seat at the table fueled by her thirst
for control and power Janice made a critical
:29.080 --> :34.320
mistake that reverberated through the lives of
many she betrayed the trust of close friends
:34.319 --> :39.519
implicating them in a fraudulent scheme that was
designed to protect her own interests innocent
:39.520 --> :44.960 lives were upturned relationships shattered
and the Tranquility of the Suburban town was
:44.960 --> :51.439
forever shattered in the aftermath of her actions
Janice's World began to crumble the consequences
:51.439 --> :56.599
of her deceit weighed heavily on her conscience
and she struggled to maintain the facade that she
:56.600 --> :02.640
had so carefully crafted people began to question
her integrity and the once admired figure found
:02.640 --> :09.120 herself ostracized and isolated as the truth
slowly emerged families affected by Janice's
:09.120 --> :14.880
actions sought Justice and closure the pain she
caused was immeasurable and forgiveness seemed
:14.880 --> :21.000
like an insurmountable task for those she had
wronged she had shattered their trust and she felt
:21.000 --> :26.520
it could never be fully repaired my mind struggled
to comprehend the in congruity between the loving
:26.520 --> :32.520
mother I had known and this woman who had caused
such Devastation the memories of laughter and
:32.520 --> :38.440
warmth we shared now clashed with the revelations
of her past actions I couldn't help but wonder if
:38.439 --> :44.280
the affection she had shown me had been a facade
all along during my quest for truth I reached out
:44.280 --> :49.319
to Old family friends and acquaintances seeking
to understand the events that had unfolded in
:49.319 --> :55.920
the past each convers ation peeled back another
layer of deception revealing a sight of Janice I
:55.920 --> :01.600
had never fathomed the people who had once admired
and respected her now spoke of her with a mix of
:01.600 --> :07.201
pity and disdain I tried to make sure she would
not see me coming from the Shadows I wasn't sure
:07.200 --> :11.840
what she would do to keep her past a secret if
she found out I'd been poking around but that
:11.840 --> :17.680
was not all there was one last piece of paper one
letter that seemed different from the rest in the
:17.680 --> :23.320
pile that I found I couldn't understand what I
read but I knew I had to find out in the dark
:23.319 --> :29.280
room where I sat with the letter I clutched the
letter tightly in my hand my heart pounding in
:29.280 --> :35.399
anticipation and dread the words etched on the
paper had sent shivers down my spine revealing
:35.399 --> :40.960
a dark secret that challenged everything I thought
I knew about my mother so I decided to follow the
:40.960 --> :46.800
address on the letter hoping to find answers that
had remained hidden for far too long but now I
:46.800 --> :52.440
wish I didn't at least I wouldn't hurt so much
the letter was addressed to a prison and from
:52.439 --> :58.439
Googling the location I realized that it would
take me 12 hours on the road to get there but
:58.439 --> :03.879
if that was the price I had to pay to understand
everything I was willing to do so as I approached
:03.880 --> :10.319
the prison a mix of fear and curiosity gripped
me I could not have anticipated what awaited me
:10.319 --> :17.080
within those Cold Steel walls my mind raced with
questions as I stepped into the visitation area
:17.080 --> :22.200
searching for a man who had written the blackmail
letter finally my eyes met the Gaze of a weathered
:22.200 --> :27.359 man seated across the table his eyes held a
glimmer of cunning knowledge the weight of his
:27.359 --> :33.799 own sins evident on his face his face looked
awfully familiar like I knew him or I'd seen
:33.800 --> :39.840
him before yet I struggled to narrow down where
I'd seen him the first words that would proceed
:39.840 --> :46.080
from his mouth were that I looked just like my
grandfather when he was in his 20s now this got
:46.080 --> :52.319
my attention immediately because as far as I know
I've never met my grand grandfather so why would
:52.319 --> :58.040
a stranger in prison miles from where I've been
all my life know I looked like my grandfather I
:58.040 --> :03.439 introduced myself and he nodded knowingly as
though he was acknowledging that he knew what
:03.439 --> :09.479
had let me come to him the man's name was Robert
and as he spoke the pieces of the puzzle began to
:09.479 --> :15.359
fall into place he revealed that my mother was
in fact The Mastermind behind how he landed in
:15.359 --> :22.439
prison with a 20year sentence from the judge he
had once been one of her close IST Confidant but
:22.439 --> :28.200
his knowledge of her nefarious actions made him
a threat that's when she decided to take drastic
:28.200 --> :34.319
measures in a voice tinged with bitterness Robert
recounted the tragic accident that had cleaned the
:34.319 --> :40.679 life of my True Mother Janice's best friend
and his wife it had been a fateful night and
:40.680 --> :48.201
the events that unfolded were far from accidental
my mother's web of Deceit had spun out of control
:48.200 --> :53.160
the paper trail for embezzlement was being linked
back to her department but she was smart enough to
:53.160 --> :58.840
divert the attention to him since they worked in
the same Corporation then Robert claims he has no
:58.840 --> :03.200 proof of how his wife died but he swore that
it was the people who thought he had wronged
:03.200 --> :09.399
them that decided to take it out on him through
his wife it meant one thing it was my mother's
:09.399 --> :15.519
fault tears welled up in my eyes as I learned
the truth about my identity I wasn't Janice's
:15.520 --> :21.640
biological child I was the child of the close pal
she had betrayed the weight of this Revelation
:21.640 --> :27.241
threatened to crush me and I struggled to come to
terms with the lies that had been woven around me
:27.240 --> :33.920
my entire life as I listened to Robert's account I
saw the complexity of human nature unravel before
:33.920 --> :41.680
me my mother driven by ambition and the desire to
protect her carefully curated life had sacrificed
:41.680 --> :47.680
the well-being of others her thirst for power
and control had led her down a path of Deceit
:47.680 --> :54.000
and betrayal but there was one thing I could not
understand why did Robert not fight against it
:54.000 --> :58.880
why did he leave her for so long what was the
point of the blackmail letter he sent to her 7
:58.880 --> :05.200
years ago I left the prison that day with my mind
a whirlwind of emotions I felt anger towards my
:05.200 --> :11.160
mother for the Web of Lies she had spun around me
I felt grief for the mother I'd lost and confusion
:11.160 --> :16.599
about my place in this Tangled narrative I thought
I would get the whole truth but I didn't not from
:16.600 --> :22.000
Robert at least I knew that I had to confront
her it was only her that could set me free from
:22.000 --> :28.479
the chains of deception that had kept me bound to
her for years and this was exactly what I did as
:28.479 --> :33.280 I stood before my mother clutching the pile
of incriminating letters my heart was Heavy
:33.280 --> :38.800
with both determination and sorrow I had hoped
that confronting her with the truth would elicit
:38.800 --> :46.000
remorse or even a glimmer of acknowledgement but
instead she chose to Fain ignorance the weight of
:46.000 --> :52.160
her deception crushed me and I knew that Justice
demanded action in the days that followed I made
:52.160 --> :57.680
the difficult decision to leave home and report my
mother's crimes to the authorities armed with the
:57.680 --> :02.920
evidence i' uncovered I approached the police
to report the stolen identity and the tangled
:02.920 --> :08.680 web of Deceit that had ens snared us for far
too long the officers initially skeptical of
:08.680 --> :14.080 my story eventually decided to delve deeper
into the matter and as the truth began to
:14.080 --> :20.880
surface the police uncovered the full extent of
my mother's actions the evidence was irrefutable
:20.880 --> :26.760
and the wheels of Justice were set into motion
the woman who had once been a prominent figure in
:26.760 --> :32.600
the community was now exposed for the ruthless
deceiver she truly was it felt like a form of
:32.600 --> :39.560
Revenge but deep down I knew that Justice needed
to be served the pain she had caused the lives she
:39.560 --> :45.880
had shattered demanded accountability however
Justice came at a steep cost one that I could
:45.880 --> :52.279
never have foreseen my baby sister just 14 years
old was caught in the crossfire of our mother's
:52.279 --> :59.240
Web of Lies with my mother's arrest my sister was
thrust into the system a victim of circumstances
:59.240 --> :05.279
she could not comprehend it broke my heart to see
her suffer and I desperately wanted to Shield her
:05.279 --> :10.639
from the pain I tried to explain the situation
to my sister to make her understand that the
:10.640 --> :17.040
actions I'd taken were necessary for justice to
Prevail but how could I expect her to grasp the
:17.040 --> :23.240
complexities of her mother's deception at such a
tense under age to her I was tearing our family
:23.240 --> :29.519
apart and the resentment she felt towards me was
palpable I longed to tell her the whole truth to
:29.520 --> :35.201
reveal the depths of our mother's betrayal but I
knew that she wasn't ready to bear that burden in
:35.200 --> :40.720
pursuing Justice for the victims of my mother's
deception I had unwittingly become the Catalyst
:40.720 --> :46.440
for our family's unraveling as I navigated through
the aftermath I found solace in knowing that
:46.439 --> :52.479
Justice had been served and that the victims of my
mother's deceit had found some measure of relief
:52.479 --> :57.120
but I still wonder what my father would say if
he could see me now would he have known about
:57.120 --> :03.040
her Secrets or had he been blissfully unaware
just like the rest of us would he understand the
:03.040 --> :09.080
choices I had made the sacrifices I had endured
or would he be disappointed that the family he
:09.080 --> :16.559
had loved had been torn apart by the very person
he trusted most our next story is how I got my
:16.560 --> :22.480
revenge on my evil best friend they say you've
gone mad when you start to think about ending
:22.479 --> :28.559
someone so I knew I'd lost all my sanity when I
realized how badly I wanted to end Alicia for what
:28.560 --> :34.280
she'd done to me Alicia and I had been besties
since kindergarten she had a bubbly personality
:34.279 --> :39.559 even then I can clearly remember the day she
bounced over to my table in the lunchroom her
:39.560 --> :45.840
golden curls jumping all over her head she'd sat
across me and stared me dead in the eyes hi I'm
:45.840 --> :51.400
Alicia she said with that serious look on her face
we're both in Miss Julie's class you may have seen
:51.399 --> :57.519
me I sit in the front row beside Rob the boy who's
always farting I've seen you you sit beside Anna
:57.520 --> :03.520
and you're always doodling in your notebook let's
be friends I smiled at her do you always talk like
:03.520 --> :10.360
that like what she'd asked clearly puzzled without
taking a breath or bothering to pause she smiled
:10.359 --> :16.599
proudly I have an impressive pair of lungs I've
been told now answer my initial question I shook
:16.600 --> :22.201
my head laughing okay Alicia sure I'd like to be
your friend we walked back to class together that
:22.200 --> :28.920
day and since then we became Inseparable at least
we were inseparable my childhood was spent sharing
:28.920 --> :33.880 crisps with her listening to her complaints
about Rob's ceaseless farting they remained
:33.880 --> :39.680
seed partners for almost 3 years accompanying her
to the park and stealing my older sister's makeup
:39.680 --> :45.000
to try on with her in the bathroom as we grew
into teenagers we were always in each other's
:45.000 --> :50.600
company we convinced our parents to always let
us have sleepovers we shared crushes on the cute
:50.600 --> :57.000
boys in the year above us we gossiped about the
seniors who cut their uniform skirts so short
:57.000 --> :01.399
even though we did the same in our final year we
were the first people to know when we both got our
:01.399 --> :07.519
periods and when I got my first kiss from a dude
called Pablo she was the first person I called
:07.520 --> :14.360
to rant about how anticlimactic it was to get
kissed by a boy whose breaths stink like onions
:14.359 --> :20.920
he just finished a Big Mac burger before the kiss
when we became 16 everyone that knew us concluded
:20.920 --> :27.480
that we were twin sisters that had been separated
at Birth I loved Alicia so dearly and I'd like to
:27.479 --> :33.839
believe she loved me too just not enough even as
we grew into adults we were thick as thieves we
:33.840 --> :39.600
met with each other practically every day shared
fashion advice shared our struggles in the tough
:39.600 --> :47.121
world and even shared Secrets good ones and nasty
ones without judging each other I trusted her much
:47.120 --> :53.559
more than I ever trusted my sister as the years
rolled by we were separated by distance Alicia
:53.560 --> :58.920
had to move to London to promote her journalism
career I had to stay in America with my family
:58.920 --> :03.960
and my underpaying job in a law firm we managed
to stay in touch though there were late night
:03.960 --> :09.040
facetimes on the days we weren't wiped out from
work we tried to make sure we notified each other
:09.040 --> :15.519
about the major changes in our lives we even had
virtual dates but it wasn't the same we missed
:15.520 --> :20.400
each other terribly and I couldn't get rid of
the sinking feeling that we were drifting apart
:20.399 --> :26.040
I dated Zach for 2 years when she notified me that
she was transferring back to America she'd gotten
:26.040 --> :31.720
a promotion and the headquarters happened to be in
New York I was so excited I could barely contain
:31.720 --> :36.640
the excitement in my voice as I told the news
to my family the best part she was going to be
:36.640 --> :42.241
sharing my apartment with me till she was able to
get one of her own the night before her arrival I
:42.240 --> :48.000
couldn't sleep I'd thrown a huge surprise party
for her at my place I'd invited all of our old
:48.000 --> :54.080
friends I'd made sure everyone got her gifts and
on the massive cake was written in capital letters
:54.080 --> :00.559
welcome home everything seemed perfect but for
some reason my heart was beating at an unusually
:00.560 --> :06.920
fast rate it got even faster the next day when
we were 30 minutes away from her arrival I told
:06.920 --> :11.760
her I wouldn't be able to pick her up from the
airport because I was stuck at work so I'd given
:11.760 --> :16.640
her directions to the apartment and told her I'd
hidden a spare key in the potted plant outside
:16.640 --> :23.640
the door nothing was out of place and I was sure
she had no clue anything was going on but I was
:23.640 --> :29.560
still a bit anxious what if we've drifted so far
that we become strangers to each other what if
:29.560 --> :35.520
she hates living with me what if she prefers her
British friends to me were we still best friends
:35.520 --> :41.680
I swallowed hard and tried not to think the worst
all would be fine I hoped the air Stood Still as
:41.680 --> :47.400
we heard her fumbling with the keys and opening
the lock it was as if everyone in the room had
:47.399 --> :53.120
held their breath as she stepped into the room
lights flooded the place and everyone screamed
:53.120 --> :58.960
welcome back home I stared at her from the back of
the room she looked different she hadn't told me
:58.960 --> :04.680
that she dyed her hair brown and had cut it short
we'd already put on our bonnets before most of our
:04.680 --> :11.201
facetimes she walked differently and she looked
like she hit the gym every other day but as our
:11.200 --> :18.840
eyes met across the room they looked exactly as I
remember and she smiled her wide childish grin we
:18.840 --> :24.560
launched into each other's arms and all my fears
were forgotten it was still Alicia and she was
:24.560 --> :30.040
here in person and she looked amazing we party
till late in the evening and caught up on a lot
:30.040 --> :34.720
of drama that had been going on in our lives we
were cleaning up from the party when Zach finally
:34.720 --> :40.241
arrived hey babe he said planting a kiss on my
cheek sorry I couldn't leave the gallery early
:40.240 --> :46.200
you know how these collectors are I sighed and
dragged them over to Alicia Alicia I called I'd
:46.200 --> :51.120
like you to meet Zachary he's an artist and the
only person in the world world that always ends
:51.120 --> :58.200
up arriving after the party is over she stared
at me wide-eyed you mean Zach like your boyfriend
:58.200 --> :04.399
yeah she shook her head you didn't tell me he was
gorgeous Zach started to cough and I couldn't hold
:04.399 --> :12.120
in my laughter Well gorgeous Zachary meet my also
gorgeous best friend Alicia nice to meet you he
:12.120 --> :17.960
said though I already feel like I know you she
talks about you all the time it gets tiring his
:17.960 --> :23.080
voice reduced to a mock whisper as as he said
the last part I playfully hit him on his torso
:23.080 --> :30.319
and he pulled me in for a kiss Alicia rolled her
eyes um too much P people get a room I laughed
:30.319 --> :34.840
at her comment and left them to get to know each
other I wanted all the people I love to love each
:34.840 --> :40.440
other a little while later I felt the hand across
my waist I knew it was Zach he helped me with the
:40.439 --> :46.160
rest of the cleaning and rubbed my feet as I told
him about my day Alicia on the other hand was jet
:46.160 --> :51.160
lagged and jumped into bed before we were even
half done cleaning W it be weird for you having
:51.160 --> :57.680
her here I could see the worry in his eyes as he
asked not at all I answered he smiled I know you
:57.680 --> :03.000
mean well and all but you like your space and
you're kind of a neat freak I whacked his head
:03.000 --> :09.760
with a pillow who's a neat freak he laughed and
tickled me you know what I mean fine I sigh I do
:09.760 --> :15.840
understand what you're saying but it's Alicia and
I'm willing to do anything for her and I meant it
:15.840 --> :21.640
being roommates with her wasn't bad it was a lot
of fun and included a lot of weekend alcohol and
:21.640 --> :27.360
Sheet masks sometimes she'd be home before me and
would have prepared our dinner or randomly show up
:27.359 --> :32.000
with some delicious treat from work it was only
hard for me when I noticed her shoes under the
:32.000 --> :39.080
bed or a pot in the dish rack or when she slept
on my pillow as Zachary said I liked my space
:39.080 --> :44.080
clean but no matter how many times I tried to
remind her she seemed to forget one thing or the
:44.080 --> :50.080
other she became friends with Zach and I'd always
include her in any date plans if she wasn't busy
:50.080 --> :55.200
and we tried as much as possible not to make her
feel like a third wheel then all of a sudden they
:55.200 --> :00.399
both started acting weird at first I didn't notice
the slight changes in both of them when they were
:00.399 --> :07.359
around each other but they became more obvious the
controlled glances at each other now and then the
:07.359 --> :14.080
restrain in their tones now and then and I refused
to let myself suspect anything till I noticed how
:14.080 --> :20.359
they avoided physical touch so carefully it wasn't
like that before I was sure of it Zach used to
:20.359 --> :27.120
ruffle her hair whenever she beat me at chess or
she'd play choke him when he made dumb jokes but
:27.120 --> :32.120
now they were being way too careful they'd keep
a lot of distance between them when they were on
:32.120 --> :37.399
the same chair and they wouldn't as much as let
their breaths come in contact with each other
:37.399 --> :42.599 and people only did that when they'd reached
a level of intimacy they were trying to hide I
:42.600 --> :49.080
was extremely bothered but I didn't want to make
any dramatic decisions just to be proved wrong I
:49.080 --> :54.200
didn't want to believe that what I was thinking
was true but the more I kept quiet the worse
:54.200 --> :00.760
things were getting at some point they both became
almost unavailable to do anything with me Alicia
:00.760 --> :06.840
would be stuck at a work meeting while Zach would
coincidentally be occupied with some Art Exhibit
:06.840 --> :12.720
or the other at the same time I tried to keep my
tongue in my cheek but it was too much to hold
:12.720 --> :18.760
in so I finally asked Alicia what was going on and
why she never seemed to be around anymore she told
:18.760 --> :24.080
me it was because she'd met someone and she liked
him but she didn't want to tell me about him yet
:24.080 --> :30.960
because she wasn't sure if it was serious or not
the relief that coed through me was instantaneous
:30.960 --> :36.279
that was what was going on I must have imagined
everything I thought I saw Alicia would never
:36.279 --> :44.279
do that to me Zach loved me he wouldn't betray me
either since I knew what was going on with Alicia
:44.279 --> :49.639 we seemed to have more time together she was
always on her phone texting Mark the mystery guy
:50.160 --> :55.680
but she gave me enough details about him to make
me love him for making her so happy I teased her
:55.680 --> :00.880
a lot though because she had this dreamy look in
her eyes whenever she talked about him or when
:00.880 --> :06.600
she texted him I told her how I felt like Zach was
getting tired of me but she assured me that she'd
:06.600 --> :12.400
never seen two people so in love we were doing
sheet masks and having a gab sesh one Saturday
:12.399 --> :17.839
when Mark hit her up it had to be him because her
whole face lit up when she looked at her screen
:17.840 --> :25.200
I laughed that Mark huh she sighed God am I that
obvious we all know the answer but I never reped
:25.200 --> :30.720
to that question because at that moment the fire
alarm sounded in our kitchen which meant that the
:30.720 --> :36.280
Forgotten pancakes she was making must have been
black as Char just as she left for the kitchen her
:36.279 --> :41.399
screen flashed with a notification from Mark then
she got three more messages from him in less than
:41.399 --> :47.240
a minute Alicia I called Mark must have something
extremely important to say to you but before she
:47.240 --> :54.200
could get back to the room he'd placed a face PE
time for her lo and behold Mark's face didn't fit
:54.200 --> :01.279
his name because his real name started with a z
and not an M right there on the screen his profile
:01.279 --> :08.120
picture was flashing at me but the name on the
screen was Zach's desperate to be proved wrong
:08.120 --> :14.080
I accepted the call and just as Alicia walked
into the room Zach's surprised face stared at
:14.080 --> :20.559
me from the screen I stared at her while Zach was
muttering some excuse from the phone how could
:20.560 --> :26.560
you I asked expecting a full-blown apology but
she stared back at me coldly and told me that I
:26.560 --> :32.000
didn't deserve him and that he had stopped loving
me a long time ago but he didn't want to leave me
:32.000 --> :37.880
because I was too immature and he was scared to
wreck me so I should grow up and realize that I
:37.880 --> :44.359
can't have the world at my fingertips dumbfounded
and filled with raging emotions I stumbled out
:44.359 --> :49.639 the door into the nearest bar I could find I
couldn't breathe this could not have been happen
:49.640 --> :55.280
happening I was probably dreaming but I wasn't
by the time I returned to my apartment she'd
:55.279 --> :02.559
cleared out all her things and left a please don't
contact me note on the kitchen table as if I was
:02.560 --> :08.560
ever going to contact her I hated her men come
and go but friendships were supposed to last a
:08.560 --> :15.040
lifetime I would have been able to deal with Zach
cheating with anybody else but the fact that she
:15.040 --> :20.200
could betray me like that broke me I'd given her
the best of my heart and she guilt lessly messed
:20.200 --> :25.599
it up without a second thought I was never going
to let anyone get that close to me again and she
:25.600 --> :32.600
was going to pay very dearly for every teared shed
a year later I received their wedding invitation
:32.600 --> :38.360
in my mail and I couldn't believe that they'd
handed me the opportunity to get my revenge on
:38.359 --> :44.120
a platter of gold I didn't feel sad that they
were getting married all I could feel was hate
:44.120 --> :50.519
and anger I felt mocked but that was all right
because soon they'd be crying out in anger and
:50.520 --> :56.760
embarrassment the morning of the wedding I dressed
up in my best black gown with a black hat and dark
:56.760 --> :02.480
makeup when I walked into the church everyone
turned to look at me but I didn't mind that was
:02.479 --> :08.359
exactly what I wanted I kept my head low till the
priest in charge of the ceremony asked if anyone
:08.359 --> :15.040
had an objection then I marched with my eyes fixed
on the confused looking people to the front of the
:15.040 --> :20.960 altar I took the microphone from the priest
and cleared my throat today he I'm dressed in
:20.960 --> :28.160
black I began not as a mistake but as a symbol of
mourning I went on and told the whole church about
:28.160 --> :35.000
how she'd betrayed me and stolen my boyfriend but
I didn't stop there I revealed a very unforgivable
:35.000 --> :41.200
secret about how Alicia had gotten pregnant when
she was 20 and she left the baby outside of the
:41.200 --> :46.599
orphanage as I walked out of the church I saw her
parents getting up from their seats and leaving
:46.600 --> :52.080
the church too I looked back and saw her crying
on the altar with a shocked looking Zach staring
:52.080 --> :58.000
at her but refusing to go close to her I watched
the tears fall for a minute and felt something
:58.000 --> :04.720
close to happiness some days later I heard that
the marriage didn't take place you know usually
:04.720 --> :10.520
it's just a formality thing when somebody says
Speak now or forever hold your peace or whatnot
:10.520 --> :17.520
but usually most of those people don't have quite
such a big bombshell to drop to just utterly ruin
:17.520 --> :24.041
the wedding op just basic Bally Oppenheimer the
entire venue it was like the collective 3 years
:24.040 --> :28.840
of their seatmate Rob the farting classmate was
Unleashed in that venue and everybody just had
:28.840 --> :33.880
to clear out I mean Dirty Laundry like that that
was shared that's one of those ones where you're
:33.880 --> :39.080
in the Pew you put your hands up you slap your
lap and you immediately go to get up like I'm
:39.080 --> :44.559
not getting involved in this I don't want to be a
part of this memory and therapy maybe Hal truths
:44.560 --> :50.520
aren't so bad when pitching ideas it is important
to withhold important information at least till
:50.520 --> :55.560
the contract is awarded this helped me get my
revenge against a dubious investor who wanted
:55.560 --> :02.000
to cut me off from a potential lifechanging deal
making a great impact in life and making loads of
:02.000 --> :07.640
money is the dream of every young man especially
after completing his degree this was my life after
:07.640 --> :12.440
my degree in architecture I've always been of the
opinion of setting new standards and bringing out
:12.439 --> :17.960
the best of myself and others and this is why I
decided on putting efforts into self-development
:17.960 --> :22.880
and understanding the scope of the real estate
World getting good projects requires having a good
:22.880 --> :28.240
portfolio and this cannot be done without having
enough money which is something I lacked after
:28.240 --> :33.679
my first degree which made me turn my hopes on
investment bankers to fund my projects and in turn
:33.680 --> :38.720
help us make more money the real estate world is
one filled with many competitors with high capital
:38.720 --> :44.440
and good funding I'm just coming in with ideas and
low funding I knew what I had to do and I started
:44.439 --> :49.439
with it I sent proposals out to a lot of companies
pitching different ideas based on their area of
:49.439 --> :54.240
interest in recent projects I was able to meet
with a couple of investors who were able to key
:54.240 --> :00.399
into the ideas but many of them didn't see me as
a reliable candidate for the job and as such I
:00.399 --> :05.719
got disappointed more than a few times I didn't
get discouraged I only sought after everything I
:05.720 --> :10.800
could learn during that period it wasn't until
the height of it when everything before I met
:10.800 --> :16.800
Mr Andrews an investor who saw the beauty and
infrastructure I went for an interview to defend
:16.800 --> :20.840
some of my works and he happened to stumble on
my work work during a meeting with his friend
:20.840 --> :25.440
who was a member of the board meant to interview
me he scheduled a meeting a few days later with
:25.439 --> :30.319
me to discuss options for growing the business and
getting adequate funding for it we had the meeting
:30.319 --> :35.639
over lunch and he appeared to be so interested
well who wouldn't be interested in a potential
:35.640 --> :41.360
money-making deal he saw the beauty of the work
and decided to work by partnering with me this
:41.359 --> :46.759
deal got me having doubts about the possibility
but I had to keep cool and promise to look into
:46.760 --> :51.920
it and get back to him I went back to him after
after a lot of consideration and recommendations
:51.920 --> :57.720
from my administrative team and my legal team we
decided that since he did the funding in place
:57.720 --> :04.080
of incorporating it into his company he should
buy in for 50% on every deal leaving my company
:04.080 --> :10.040
autonomous and self serving Mr Andrews didn't like
the sound of that also but we worked way around
:10.040 --> :15.000
it putting us under his company well it's just
the beginning of what I can call a Bittersweet
:15.000 --> :20.359 experience work commenced and the first few
months were like Bliss we were always up and
:20.359 --> :26.279
running keeping contact with potential clients
and setting up blueprints for our Master project
:26.279 --> :31.279
we had started work on some mini projects and
were able to install some of the latest security
:31.279 --> :36.519
systems into every apartment in each building
that was the goal to ensure adequate comfort and
:36.520 --> :42.081
security for our clients working with Mr Andrews
gave us enough leverage as we were able to develop
:42.080 --> :47.279
our software to match up any breach as well as
have funds to research and design more buildings
:47.279 --> :53.719
to get more relevant within the space it was as if
I'd gotten access to my dream of being independent
:53.720 --> :58.560
everyone on my team had enough to work with and
there was enough to pay everybody it was like a
:58.560 --> :04.760
dream coming into existence we were able to submit
more proposals and jobs were coming in with the
:04.760 --> :10.280
help of Mr Andrews we were able to get funds from
investment Banks to Kickstart a lot of projects
:10.279 --> :14.559
which would give us quite a good chance of making
a good profit on them since it's shared based on
:14.560 --> :19.920
the agreed percentage I was already looking at
how far this partnership would go when the first
:19.920 --> :25.720
tragedy struck Mr Andrews never looked to me like
a man who would meddle in Petty Affairs or would
:25.720 --> :31.520
be willing to exploit his Partners well it first
started with trying to fit people into the team I
:31.520 --> :36.041
had always worked with my own team and we always
had a mutual understanding of the job and how it
:36.040 --> :42.279
should be done then Mr Andrew started calling in
favors by employing people and sending them to
:42.279 --> :47.960
us first it started with him calling in favors
to fill in and help out on some personal jobs
:47.960 --> :53.960
off the record with our software it seemed odd at
first because we agreed on not including personal
:53.960 --> :59.960
jobs in the business but I overlooked it and saw
it as something that I could do for a friend a few
:59.960 --> :05.720
months before the completion of a major project
Mr Andrews came with a new employee and claimed he
:05.720 --> :12.000
was his candidate to join the team as a software
engineer and subin as an interior designer this
:12.000 --> :17.439
caught me unawares as I headed the software and
architecture team and I didn't place a demand
:17.439 --> :22.919
for a new member on the team neither did I say we
were short of hands to complete our jobs I decided
:22.920 --> :28.000
to kick against it and rejected the offer stating
the obvious fact that we didn't need new hands on
:28.000 --> :33.399
the job he called the board meeting of all Team
Heads as regards the issue and the board voted
:33.399 --> :38.759
that the new employee be approved but kept under
supervision for a couple of weeks the thought of
:38.760 --> :44.600
this got me fuming and angry as it was an attempt
to undermine my autonomy as the head of operations
:44.600 --> :50.080 and a partner to the business Mr Andrews had
sent a message he could Force his will on me
:50.080 --> :55.240
and make me do it even when I don't want to I on
the other hand was ready to hit the nail on its
:55.240 --> :02.200
head by clipping his grasp off my company yes my
company because I own it and run it with my team
:02.200 --> :07.840
I had hoped things would go on smoothly between us
and we'd be able to grow together but apparently
:07.840 --> :13.480
Mr Andrews didn't seem willing to make things work
well that was just the beginning Mr Andrews kept
:13.479 --> :19.200
on trying to frustrate every effort I made to
keep the peace amongst us and maintain a health
:19.200 --> :25.000
working environment As Time passed there was a
series of activities going on which were all aimed
:25.000 --> :30.720
at undermining my authority on the team one time
the software Guy Mr Andrews forced on us refused
:30.720 --> :36.520
to carry out a task and said he would need to seek
permission from his boss Mr Andrews before he can
:36.520 --> :42.400
proceed with the task I looked at him fuming with
annoyance trying to understand what a frony he had
:42.399 --> :47.359
to look at me and talked to me in such a manner
I shut him up and told him to either carry out
:47.359 --> :53.240
his task or leave the office office with all his
belongings and never come back I had to also meet
:53.240 --> :59.000
the supposed boss and warned him to stop meddling
in the Affairs of my team I knew the entire drama
:59.000 --> :04.600
unfolding was aimed at one thing but I wasn't
sure of what it was I tried to cushion whatever
:04.600 --> :09.201
effect it was going to have on the company but
I wouldn't have expected to be kicked off my
:09.200 --> :14.920
project Mr Andrews had made plans to kick me off
my projects and take over my company with the
:14.920 --> :21.160
guys of rebranding and setting up a new company he
had his mind set on one thing and I didn't see it
:21.160 --> :26.479
early enough he wanted me out of the business the
events that came up within the cycle of 4 months
:26.479 --> :31.679
were quite annoying but then I felt it was just
actions of a man trying to assert his position
:31.680 --> :36.840
as a man of authority over everyone around him
until the day I got served with a notification
:36.840 --> :43.160
of termination of contract and this was at the
edge of getting a very huge contract Mr Andrews
:43.160 --> :48.439
notified me that they wouldn't be able to continue
sponsoring our projects and standing in for loans
:48.439 --> :52.919
this caused cused me a lot of trouble because it
was a sign that things were going to get rough the
:52.920 --> :57.880
next thing I discovered was that Mr Andrews had
started a new real estate company and was already
:57.880 --> :03.840
bidding for contracts that we were pursuing while
working together it's one thing to betray my trust
:03.840 --> :10.360
and try to steal or get contracts off my hands
but poaching my team members and clients that's
:10.359 --> :15.559
extra and I wasn't going to take that without a
fight it's going to be like Newton's third law
:15.560 --> :21.680
for every action force and nature there was an
equal an opposite reaction I'd have to get my
:21.680 --> :27.080
revenge and save my company I had to take a step
backward to analyze what was going on and how
:27.080 --> :32.600
much damage had been done I checked with my team
members and every one of our staff to see how many
:32.600 --> :37.560
of them were willing to remain with us and worked
dedicatedly even though it was obvious that things
:37.560 --> :43.081
would be more tedious for us all a few of them
apologized that they had better offers elsewhere
:43.080 --> :49.519
and would love to explore their options which I
agreed with and we parted ways on good terms next
:49.520 --> :54.960
my clients I started by planting malware with
multiple encryptions on the software installed
:54.960 --> :01.319 on our security network making all security
appliances installed for every client malfunction
:01.319 --> :06.359
at different times I understood how it worked and
notified all clients that stuck with us on how
:06.359 --> :12.399
we plan to review the software and update their
security system unfortunately Mr Andrews retained
:12.399 --> :18.839
the software and it affected all his clients every
time his guys tried they couldn't get rid of it
:18.840 --> :24.319 I knew their capabilities individually
and collectively so it was quite easy I
:24.319 --> :29.679
started approaching my former clients and his new
clients with a solution to the problem and trust
:29.680 --> :36.400
me it worked I had secured a greater number of my
clients back and my business was back we were able
:36.399 --> :41.519
to secure funding from some banks through loans
and payments from our newly acquired clients as
:41.520 --> :46.880
soon as I was sure my company was back on track it
was time for Revenge I didn't know what I could do
:46.880 --> :52.640
to Mr Andrews for everything he did did but I was
sure something was going to come up I started my
:52.640 --> :59.520
research on him from taxes to Offshore accounts
traveling in medical history crime history and
:59.520 --> :04.840
even family life this man appeared clean on the
outside but I was pretty sure that it was too
:04.840 --> :10.640
good to be true so I kept on digging I felt doing
it alone was making me less effective so I called
:10.640 --> :15.320
my best friend Leo and asked him to come around
he already knew about everything Mr Andrew had
:15.319 --> :20.639 done to me and how he stabbed me in the back
just because he wanted my company for himself
:20.640 --> :26.320
we continued digging and this time we found some
traces of some accounts running as expenses for
:26.319 --> :33.639
his company but being diverted into cryptocurrency
through an offshore Bank we struck gold Mr Andrews
:33.640 --> :38.800
had been stealing from his company in the board
without anyone knowing or suspecting Leo felt
:38.800 --> :44.160
that was enough but I wanted more he wanted my
company for himself but he couldn't have done it
:44.160 --> :48.880
without support from the board there's only one
reason why Mr Andrews would have been stealing
:48.880 --> :54.920
without anyone noticing either there's a front
for moneya laundering or tax evasion we kept on
:54.920 --> :00.800
digging and found more we discovered that the
company had reduced its profits by 50% through
:00.800 --> :07.279
an offshore account to evade taxes I believed it
was time for revenge and it was going to be fun
:07.279 --> :12.800
for me though remember the time I had installed
some software on Mr Andrews laptop it gave me
:12.800 --> :18.920
the perfect start to my revenge which was making
him appear negligent in his duties I was able to
:18.920 --> :24.800
access his emails and personal schedules and found
out he had a meeting to defend a project proposal
:24.800 --> :30.520
I was able to delete the original presentation and
replace it with just mere drawings I didn't care
:30.520 --> :35.320
about him losing the contract I can always imagine
the disappointment in the eyes of the investors
:35.319 --> :42.200
when what was displayed wasn't what was expected
after this I heard Mr Andrews fired to secretary
:42.200 --> :47.840
she was just collateral damage in my quest for
Revenge we decided to carry else the action in our
:47.840 --> :54.080
plan by sending an anonymous message to finsen a
bureau under the Department of Treasury notifying
:54.080 --> :01.080
them of a case of tax evasion by Mr Andrews and
his firm resulting in the investigation of the
:01.080 --> :06.960
firm and auditing of the firm's accounts in order
to establish if the firm is truly guilty of tax
:06.960 --> :12.279
evasion before the federal Auditors came around
the board hired external Auditors to check their
:12.279 --> :17.359 books and ensure that it's full proof of any
crime however during this audit we made the
:17.359 --> :23.920
launch of our last attack on Mr Andrews by making
a wire transfer through his account to the same
:23.920 --> :29.960
offshore account he uses to steal from The Firm
the board had no choice but to relieve Mr Andrews
:29.960 --> :35.040
from his duties in The Firm since it was evident
that he was guilty as charged the firm couldn't
:35.040 --> :40.000
rid itself of the hook totally in regards to the
case of tax evasion and the board was find the
:40.000 --> :47.279
sum of $2 million and compelled to pay every penny
owed the government couldn't find every loophole
:47.279 --> :52.519
and possibly some of officials were bribed to
mitigate the Damage Done To The Firm but still
:52.520 --> :58.640
they were paid and were placed under government
supervision for some time leaving them vulnerable
:58.640 --> :04.080
as for Mr Andrews he had lost his job being a
powerful person it wasn't something that could
:04.080 --> :09.920
be kept hidden so his image was tarnished and I'm
sure it's going to be difficult to redeem himself
:09.920 --> :15.640
afterward I'm pretty sure he would imagine till
today what happened exactly and why everything
:15.640 --> :20.800
went so bad but I'm sure it would be difficult
to trace it all back to me since I only helped
:20.800 --> :26.400
to bring to the open what was kept hidden before
my business is up and running growing and making
:26.399 --> :31.519 an impact I'm not where I want to be yet but
I'm moving forward and I would not give room
:31.520 --> :37.320
for anyone to think they can mess with me and get
away with it obviously this is kind of a worst
:37.319 --> :42.679 case scenario but it's definitely something
to look at and consider if you own your own
:42.680 --> :50.000
business when you approach that idea of selling
or partnering or really being acquired even in a
:50.000 --> :55.080
situation like this where it appears that you're
going to have full autonomy you have to be careful
:55.080 --> :00.600
of every loophole that said our next story is
how I got back at my ex-boyfriend for stealing
:00.600 --> :06.640
my movie script my ex-boyfriend was married to a
spoiled brat a daddy's girl who got everything she
:06.640 --> :12.080
ever wanted from her father including one of his
very attractive employees whom she eventually got
:12.080 --> :18.200
married to according to him her dad darn near made
him marry her she got pregnant and he threatened
:18.200 --> :23.200
to ruin him if he doesn't set a wedding date and
marry his daughter immediately interestingly she
:23.200 --> :29.120
had a miscarriage just after the wedding for a
long time my ex held that she lied and only told
:29.120 --> :34.519
everyone she was pregnant so her dad could coer
him into marrying her he wanted nothing more than
:34.520 --> :40.201 to rise to fame and wealth and be one of the
most powerful men in the world a man like his
:40.200 --> :46.840
father-in-law who had a lot of money many children
and a favorite child and real power he Dreamed a
:46.840 --> :52.840
lot but sadly he did didn't have what it took but
somehow he always thought he did my ex-boyfriend
:52.840 --> :00.440
was as deluded as he was ambitious he had no real
talent and was average in intelligence I knew that
:00.439 --> :06.519
his wife knew it but I let him get away with it
because darn he was the most handsome man ever
:06.520 --> :11.920
he wasn't just good-looking he was beautiful he
had the perfect body the kind of body that many
:11.920 --> :18.080
men worked hard for but still don't have nearly
as much the perfect face the perfect dentition
:18.080 --> :23.559
and and he was a smooth talker too that was what
attracted me to him and I'm sure that attracted
:23.560 --> :28.720
his wife too they met in her dad's company on his
birthday she had just flown into the country and
:28.720 --> :34.960
went directly to her dad's office to wish him a
happy birthday when she saw the finest man ever
:34.960 --> :39.080 that was how she described him to a magazine
that interviewed them after their wedding he
:39.080 --> :43.680
said she walked up to him and asked for his name
and he told her she's Fallen hard in love with
:43.680 --> :49.160
me ever since he joked when they started dating
she did everything to make him marryed her even
:49.160 --> :53.920
though he had many doubts and so did his mother
his mother was skeptical about him marrying the
:53.920 --> :59.640
daughter of a famous and powerful man because they
didn't have a lot of money his mom was a retired
:59.640 --> :05.360
High School principal my ex told me that his mom
warned him many times that his wife's family would
:05.359 --> :10.399
treat him like a gold digger and that they would
never respect him it was even worse because he
:10.399 --> :16.080
worked for her dad he refused to listen though he
said he was in love with her but that wasn't it
:16.080 --> :22.559
he just wanted her money you see my ax had lots of
plans and goals ideas that he believed would make
:22.560 --> :27.480
him the rich powerful man that he'd always wanted
to be he always said that he just needed money to
:27.479 --> :33.239
finance those plans he needed Fame and money so
he could prove to himself and everyone else that
:33.239 --> :38.800
he had it in him what he wasn't really saying was
that he wanted to be rich and Powerful so he could
:38.800 --> :44.120
be free from his wife and her family the day I met
him at the restaurant where I worked he was having
:44.120 --> :49.319
an early dinner with his father-in-law his wife's
stepmother and his wife even though he looked very
:49.319 --> :54.840
good he looked small at the table something about
him was just off he had the look of someone who
:54.840 --> :00.520
didn't feel confident about being at that table
someone who didn't feel like they belonged there
:00.520 --> :05.121 hello it's a pleasure to have you eat at our
restaurant I'll be waiting on you tonight as I
:05.120 --> :11.120
spoke I caught him struggling not to look at me I
don't mean to brag but I'm a very beautiful woman
:11.120 --> :17.080
myself I always got complimented for my beauty in
school and even when I worked at the restaurant it
:17.080 --> :23.000
wasn't uncommon to have men make passes at me even
married men who came to eat with their wives Andor
:23.000 --> :28.720
children I always ignored them because I could
never bring myself to date a married man but my ex
:28.720 --> :34.280
was someone I'd always had a crush on ever since
his face got in the eyes of the public for dating
:34.279 --> :39.840
the daughter of a popular movie and TV series
producer I felt an insane attraction towards
:39.840 --> :46.080
him I even secretly believed that his wife was not
deserving of him yes she was rich and was part of
:46.080 --> :52.239
an influential family but she wasn't n pretty at
all if her dad wasn't so rich she would be a very
:52.239 --> :58.279
unremarkable woman she had the most plain features
for a girl who was born into money despite her
:58.279 --> :03.960 expensive skin care products and designer
clothes and accessories she didn't look it
:03.960 --> :09.800
her face no matter how much makeup she wore just
never looked pretty but she was rich and had a
:09.800 --> :16.080
commanding presence so everyone worshiped her just
like my ex-boyfriend she had no Talent she hardly
:16.080 --> :21.439
ever even worked she had siblings who were Making
Waves in their various Industries but all she did
:21.439 --> :26.960
was look beautiful and attend social functions
with her husband my super cute ex-boyfriend on
:26.960 --> :32.200
her arm people always told me that I wasn't all
that and I laugh and tell them well I married
:32.200 --> :37.880
a very handsome man and I honestly wish our kids
look just like him she had said in a TV interview
:37.880 --> :43.640
one day they're right about you not being all that
I muttered to myself while watching the interview
:43.640 --> :48.960
when I noticed that he was trying not to look at
me I snuck to the back and adjusted my dress so it
:48.960 --> :55.359
outline my chest that worked because all through
that evening I caught him stealing glances at me
:55.359 --> :00.960
at one point his glances got so frequent that
his father-in-law almost caught him I figured
:00.960 --> :06.160
if I didn't encourage him in any way he'd forget
all about me so whenever I caught him glancing
:06.160 --> :12.359
at me I'd smile coily and look away he got the
message it wasn't the first time I'd done that to
:12.359 --> :17.319
a customer I'd done that to an actor in the past
he was at the restaurant to have lunch with some
:17.319 --> :23.239
of his colleagues and I noticed that I'd caught
his interest I smiled quily at him and he came
:23.239 --> :29.040
back to look for me just as I'd predicted my ex
came back to look for me he asked to be friends
:29.040 --> :34.720
and we started hanging out secretly we'd stay
together at motels and my tiny apartment because
:34.720 --> :39.680
he was terrified of his wife finding out about
us if he was caught cheating on his wife that
:39.680 --> :46.080
automatically spelled the end of his career he was
thirsty for respect for a sort of validation and I
:46.080 --> :52.239
provided him that I made him feel loved honored
and important also the class difference left me
:52.239 --> :57.719
in awe he told me about the celebrities he' met
those he knew and those who visited their home
:57.720 --> :03.520
frequently I gave him something that he clearly
was not getting from his wife my ex was having a
:03.520 --> :07.880
difficult time at work because he wasn't getting
the promotion he believed he deserved he had a
:07.880 --> :13.239
big idea for a movie and he needed someone to
sponsor it he doesn't respect me I ought have gone
:13.239 --> :18.880
farther in my career he'd rant to me about his
father-in-law one day he decided that he needed
:18.880 --> :24.400
to put his foot down so he quit his job at his
father-in-law's company I just want to do things
:24.399 --> :30.200
my own way going forward he said to me he started
asking around for funding for his movie using his
:30.200 --> :34.920
wife's connections and talking to her friends
can you believe she said I was embarrassing her
:34.920 --> :40.239 by calling our friends to ask for their help
he ranted to me one day she wants me to ask
:40.239 --> :45.800
her dad for money but I'll never do that that was
something else that my ex-boyfriend struggled with
:45.800 --> :51.560
he had the pride and ego of a man who had made it
even though he wasn't close I persuaded him to ask
:51.560 --> :56.640
his father-in-law for money for the project he had
promised that as soon as he'd made big money from
:56.640 --> :02.640
the project he'd get a divorce and we'd be free to
date openly I waited patiently for when that would
:02.640 --> :08.280
happen when my ex told me that his father-in-law
rejected his script and tossed it away I offered
:08.279 --> :12.840 to write a new one for him I had a strong
background in screenwriting and used to work
:12.840 --> :18.239
for a screenwriter before she died the only reason
I wasn't close to realizing my dream was that I
:18.239 --> :23.359
was still saving money to go to college to study
creative writing I assured him that I could handle
:23.359 --> :30.399
it my ex was also a screenwriter but I'd seen his
work and it was honestly below par I just knew he
:30.399 --> :36.279
couldn't do it alone so I stepped in to help so we
could properly be an item he shared his idea for
:36.279 --> :42.359
the movie with me and we discussed what could stay
and what couldn't I realized why his father-in-law
:42.359 --> :48.479
was very skeptical because he had no idea what he
was doing and was very stubborn about about taking
:48.479 --> :54.839
out stuff that was just unnecessary after a lot of
back and forths we agreed on the plot and I got to
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work I spent a whole month writing the script and
working different shifts every day at work when I
:00.680 --> :05.280
was finally finished with the script I gave it
to him and he passed it on to his father-in-law
:05.279 --> :10.639
who was very impressed the agreement I had with my
ex was that he'd include me in the credit for the
:10.640 --> :15.680
script we even planned to Grant interviews where
we lied about working on the script together but
:15.680 --> :21.360
not doing anything sexual or even liking each
other while he was married I was excited to
:21.359 --> :26.920
see what the future held for me he showed me the
compiled script and I was included as a writer
:26.920 --> :32.279
the names on it were mine his name and that of
the editor he hired his father-in-law decided
:32.279 --> :38.239
to release funds for the movie but he had to set
everything in motion first from choosing the lead
:38.239 --> :44.319
actors to the best assistant director to costumier
and all of that I was watching his interviews one
:44.319 --> :49.639
afternoon where he was creating a buzz for the
movie and and said the only information he was
:49.640 --> :55.120
going to reveal was the screenwriters then he went
on to name himself and one other popular female
:55.120 --> :00.720
screenwriter as the writers of the script I was so
heartbroken that I went to my manager and told him
:00.720 --> :05.880
I was sick and had to take the day off I needed
a popular name on the project someone that would
:05.880 --> :11.960
make people anticipate the movie he explained when
we saw if you wanted someone that popular then did
:11.960 --> :18.600
you not go to her in the first place listen she's
expensive okay I cannot afford to pay for her work
:18.600 --> :24.161
I told her I wrote a screenplay and needed her
name on it and she read it and approved oh she's
:24.160 --> :30.439
expensive and I'm cheap I realized then that my ex
hasn't paid me a dime for my work I remembered the
:30.439 --> :36.080
nights when my fingers got sore from typing on
my computer and how much time and money I spent
:36.080 --> :41.439
on doing research at different libraries my ex
didn't have a lot of money all his wife's money
:41.439 --> :46.719
came from her father and his money came from his
salary which admittedly wasn't a lot of money in
:46.720 --> :52.440
their world but compared to what I was making
it was huge he could have paid me to at least
:52.439 --> :57.839
appreciate what I did for him my ex complained
about his wife and her family not treating him
:57.840 --> :04.400
well but he was doing the same and even worse to
me since I was simply a ghost riter on the project
:04.399 --> :11.559
I asked him to pay me pay you he glared at me yes
it's only fair I always suspected you were after
:11.560 --> :18.081
my money and only wanted to use me he said in a
voice that didn't even sound like his to this day
:18.080 --> :24.399
I get very irritated just thinking about that
statement I asked him to leave my house and
:24.399 --> :30.120 he did I was mad at him but somewhere in the
corner of my mind I hoped he'd apologize and
:30.120 --> :34.960 we'd sort things out instead he sent me a
message that evening calling me a stupid
:34.960 --> :41.279
witch and telling me that I wasn't a great writer
anyway that pissed me off I decided to set him up
:41.279 --> :47.719
I called him and apologized and he accepted but
not after gloating we resumed our relationship
:48.239 --> :53.599 and while he continued to gather materials
for his big project I gathered materials for
:53.600 --> :00.201
my revenge I took pictures of us naked together
and took pictures of him napping in my room one
:00.200 --> :07.040
day after we just left my house I printed all my
evidence and mailed them to his wife's office she
:07.040 --> :13.160
was devastated as I thought she'd be a woman of
her status would certainly be more offended that
:13.160 --> :19.639
a man who was nowhere near level socially would
do that to her I left my contact information in
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the file and she called me I don't know how but
when I saw that unknown number I knew immediately
:25.319 --> :31.200
that it was her she went off on me saying lots of
stuff that I cannot remember because they were too
:31.200 --> :37.239
hurtful but the only statement that stood out for
me was you two deserve each other I'm leaving him
:37.239 --> :42.519 for you I didn't care if she left him or not
what I really wanted was his father-in-law to
:42.520 --> :48.121
cancel the project and that was what happened
his wife took him back according to the Tablo
:48.120 --> :54.559
but not long after she filed for a divorce stating
irreconcilable differences as a reason knowing
:54.560 --> :01.040
their family they probably paid him to shut up I
still worry that my ex may find me and get revenge
:01.040 --> :06.279
but it's been years and I haven't seen nor heard
from him since I was always scared to tell this
:06.279 --> :11.719
story because people are wanting to blame me for
willingly being the other woman but I genuinely
:11.720 --> :17.840
thought I was saving him from a family that did
not respect him I wanted to help build him up and
:17.840 --> :23.560
him the love and respect he said he wasn't getting
from his wife and her family alas the problem was
:23.560 --> :29.680
never that his wife or her family did not respect
him he had high hopes for their relationship does
:29.680 --> :35.960
anybody else agree that this story just reinforces
the fact that you just shouldn't go after somebody
:35.960 --> :41.680
that is in a committed relationship regardless
of even being married morally it seems screwed
:41.680 --> :48.201
up and overall I think it has way too many chances
to just go totally sideways she stabbed me in the
:48.200 --> :53.399
back and I drove a knife through her chest if
you did not know let me put this disclaimer out
:53.399 --> :58.599
there this is not the regular out ofyn friendship
experience where you easily find a way to get back
:58.600 --> :03.760
into whatever Rhythm you had from the start this
is what someone I had considered to be my family
:03.760 --> :09.080
did how she came after me in the most unimaginable
way a friend could but while she thought of me to
:09.080 --> :15.080
be weak the score would be settled and Justice
would be served well at least to me making her
:15.080 --> :22.200
loser winning streak was pure Justice it felt like
a big bowl of vanilla pudding with a lot of extras
:22.200 --> :27.239
okay this might sound crazy but you didn't know
her you had no idea what it was like to be her
:27.239 --> :32.840
friend you had no idea what I had to endure for
years but to make this all make sense I would
:32.840 --> :37.160
give you my account of what actually happened
the moment I met Daisy in the hallways of our
:37.160 --> :41.800
high school I could never have figured out that we
would come close to being what people would think
:41.800 --> :48.960
of as best of friends her Charisma was infectious
and her radiant smile drew me in like a moth to a
:48.960 --> :54.840
flame but I was not and to be honest that should
have been the signal that we were two entirely
:54.840 --> :59.720
different people and that we were bound to come
across a certain imbalance in our friendship but
:59.720 --> :04.640
at that point I could not refuse the only hand
of a friend I'd gotten since I began High School
:04.640 --> :09.800 I could not be The Loner that gets picked on
for always being alone and having no friends
:09.800 --> :15.760
so we clicked instantly as if two puzzle pieces
finally found their Perfect Fit And while we were
:15.760 --> :20.239
different people at heart there were things that
we found a common footing on this revolved around
:20.239 --> :26.120
our shared interests and dreams especially our
love for science which solidified our bond making
:26.120 --> :31.920
us somewhat Inseparable Daisy was everything I had
admired in a friend confident charming and full of
:31.920 --> :37.359
life whenever she was around the world seemed
brighter and her laughter was like music to my
:37.359 --> :44.040
ears I felt incredibly lucky to be her Confidant
her chish companion in the Journey of high school
:44.040 --> :49.720
our passion for science brought us even closer
we spent countless hours discussing theories
:49.720 --> :55.000
conducting experiments and dreaming of the impact
we could make in the world through our scientific
:55.000 --> :01.040
Pursuits in each other's company we found solace
and encouragement and our shared dreams motivated
:01.040 --> :06.760
us to strive for excellence she had this ability
to make me feel better about myself I could not
:06.760 --> :12.280
explain it most times with her by my side I felt
I could conquer any challenge that High School
:12.279 --> :17.759
threw our way her approval and attention meant the
world to me and I cherished every moment we spent
:17.760 --> :22.360 together however beneath the surface of our
picture perfect friendship there lurked a
:22.359 --> :27.839
subtle undercurrent of Cruelty it started with
Innocent jokes and playful banter that I assumed
:27.840 --> :33.279
was just part of her sense of humor But as time
went on these remarks began to chip away at my
:33.279 --> :38.800 self-esteem in retrospect I think it started
from her knowing that no matter what she said
:38.800 --> :43.440
I could not be able to move on I had no other
friend and would be stuck with her through High
:43.439 --> :49.559
School irrespective of how she jokingly insulted
and passed out rude comments to me Daisy had a
:49.560 --> :55.161
way of belittling me in front of others making me
feel small and insignificant at first I brushed
:55.160 --> :00.519
it off thinking she was teasing me or that I was
being overly sensitive I laughed along with our
:00.520 --> :06.600
friends trying to convince myself that it was all
in good fun to be honest they were not our friends
:06.600 --> :12.400
they were her friends the only friend I had was
Daisy or at least I thought I had her comments
:12.399 --> :18.000
were always bad and they started a couple of weeks
before our meeting but it increased in frequency
:18.000 --> :23.279
and intensity as the months turned into years
I found myself questioning my worth wondering
:23.279 --> :29.000
if I was truly valued in our friendship or if I
was merely there for her Amusement doubt clouded
:29.000 --> :35.160
my judgment and I began to second guess myself
unsure of how to respond to her hurtful remarks
:35.160 --> :40.960
despite my growing pain I hesitated to confront
Daisy about my feelings I didn't want to risk
:40.960 --> :46.680
jeopardizing our friendship or causing unnecessary
drama I feared that speaking up would only lead to
:46.680 --> :52.000
more hurt and misunderstandings between us this
is not to say every moment I shared with her was
:52.000 --> :57.920
filled with sadness if it was I would have ditched
her company a long time ago but in the depths
:57.920 --> :03.800
of my heart I cherished the moments of joy and
laughter we shared I loved being her friend but
:03.800 --> :09.800
the pain caused by her subtle cruelty couldn't be
ignored the power Dynamic felt unbalanced as if I
:09.800 --> :15.239
needed her approval to feel worthy and validated
it wasn't until one day when her comments hit
:15.239 --> :20.479
me harder than ever before that that I finally
mustered the courage to speak up we sat in our
:20.479 --> :26.200
favorite corner of the school cafeteria surrounded
by friends the room was filled with laughter but
:26.200 --> :32.000 her remarks left a bitter taste in my mouth
as we enjoyed our lunch break Daisy playfully
:32.000 --> :37.560 turned to me her eyes glinting mischievously
hey Christa I know you thought about becoming
:37.560 --> :43.560
a scientist all right but you know someone has to
make the coffee for the real scientists right her
:43.560 --> :48.600
words were hurtful but what made them sting more
this day was the way it was followed by laughter
:48.600 --> :54.560
from her friends it felt like more there had been
conversations about me that I'd not been a part of
:54.560 --> :59.600
where I'd been disregarded by all of them this was
not the first time Daisy had made such a comment
:59.600 --> :05.640
about me being less of a real science geek than
she was and each time it left me feeling small
:05.640 --> :11.560
and insignificant I tried to shake off the hurt
convincing myself that she was just teasing that
:11.560 --> :16.640
her words were harmless banter and to be fair
it was weird that she ever allowed herself to
:16.640 --> :21.840
think this way way since I'd always been the one
carrying her science assignments like mine because
:21.840 --> :28.760
we were friends so why not it felt like a mockery
of my dreams and aspirations as if she didn't take
:28.760 --> :34.560
them seriously it made me question if she truly
valued our friendship or if I was just there for
:34.560 --> :40.360
her Amusement obviously it was the latter but I
needed to get my facts right first I took a deep
:40.359 --> :46.359
breath mustering my courage to address the issue
that had been festering within me for far too long
:46.359 --> :52.439
Daisy can can we talk for a moment I said trying
to steady my voice Daisy turned to me curiosity
:52.439 --> :59.519
evident in her eyes sure what's up she replied
her tone casual it's about the comments you make
:59.520 --> :06.360
I began my voice tinged with emotion they may seem
like jokes to you but they hurt me I don't want to
:06.359 --> :11.559
be the butt of your humor especially when it comes
to something I'm passionate about her eyebrows
:11.560 --> :17.880 furrowed momentarily but then her expression
hardened and a hint of annoyance liquored across
:17.880 --> :25.319
her face wow Christa I was just joking in her also
familiar attempt to dismiss the conversation you
:25.319 --> :31.040
can't take a little teasing guess you're not as
tough as I thought her words stung but I refused
:31.040 --> :36.960
to back down this was a pivotal moment and I knew
I had to stand up for myself it's not about being
:36.960 --> :42.480
tough I said firmly it's about respect I thought
we were friends but I can't be friends with
:42.479 --> :48.439
someone who doesn't respect me and my passions the
room fell silent and our friends exchanged uneasy
:48.439 --> :55.040
glances sensing the tension in the air I held my
breath uneasy of how Daisy would react confronting
:55.040 --> :59.760 her had been a daunting decision but it was
one that I knew was necessary for the sake of
:59.760 --> :06.160
our friendship and my selfworth her eyes narrowed
and she looked away seemingly avoiding eye contact
:06.160 --> :11.960
with me the conversation had struck a Nerf and I
could see her once confident facade starting to
:11.960 --> :17.960
crack it was a moment of vulnerability and it made
me wonder if there was more to her joke CS then
:17.960 --> :24.279
meets the eye in the aftermath of our conversation
the atmosphere in the cafeteria returned to normal
:24.279 --> :30.040
but everything felt different I couldn't ignore
the weight of what had just transpired that day
:30.040 --> :34.680
Daisy went home without me not that I cared at
that point because I was pissed about how she
:34.680 --> :41.160
didn't seem to see the wrong in her actions but
as the days passed her behavior towards me changed
:41.160 --> :46.800
and it was not in the way I expected it would she
began to ignore me and the warmth and closeness
:46.800 --> :52.920
we once shared seemed to fade away it was as if
she was distancing herself from me like I'd meant
:52.920 --> :58.840
absolutely nothing to her dey's reaction to my
heartfelt honesty had caught me off guard her
:58.840 --> :04.440
initial annoyance quickly gave way to a defensive
attitude as if she was unwilling to accept any
:04.439 --> :10.799
responsibility for the hurtful remarks she had
made despite my hopes for reconciliation it became
:10.800 --> :16.680
clear that our friendship had irrevocably changed
Daisy had withdrawn shutting me out emotionally
:16.680 --> :22.280 and mentally it was a bitter pill to swallow
realizing that the person I once considered my
:22.279 --> :28.120
best friend now treated me like a stranger but
it was more than that I could turn a blind eye
:28.120 --> :34.760
to her insults what I could not do was sit still
while she passed untrue rumors about how I managed
:34.760 --> :41.480
to pull straight A's in schoolwork I confided in
Daisy with a deeply personal secret something I'd
:41.479 --> :46.639
shared with no one else there was one person that
knew I'd cheated on a math test in middle school
:46.640 --> :51.201
and that was was because I told her I trusted
her implicitly believing that she would keep
:51.200 --> :57.160
my confidence but to my horror that trust was
shattered when my secret leaked spreading like
:57.160 --> :03.000
wildfire through the school now it wasn't just
that one minor instance of noting a formula in the
:03.000 --> :09.720
palm of my hand the rumors painted me as cheating
my way through every exam I felt a suffocating
:09.720 --> :15.920
mix of emotions anger humiliation and profound
hurt it was devastating to know that someone I
:15.920 --> :21.880
had trusted with my innermost thoughts had turned
against me DA's denial only deepened the wound as
:21.880 --> :27.960
she pretended innocence while secretly reveling
in the chaos she had created I felt exposed and
:27.960 --> :33.560
vulnerable like my private world had been laid
bare for everyone to see the once confident
:33.560 --> :39.121
version of myself I was trying to build after my
Fallout with Daisy retreated and was replaced by
:39.120 --> :45.479
a more lonely paranoid Persona as the school year
progressed fate seemed to Revel in its Twisted
:45.479 --> :51.279
sense of humor seeing as despite our fractured
friendship Daisy and I were assigned to the same
:51.279 --> :58.319
lab project it was a cruel Twist of irony forcing
us to work together closely once again when I saw
:58.319 --> :03.719
our names on the project list I couldn't help but
feel a mix of dread and disbelief the universe
:03.720 --> :09.240
seemed to be playing a cruel joke on me as if it
wanted to test my resilience and strength I knew
:09.239 --> :15.160
working alongside Daisy would feel like walking on
eggshells uncertain of what her next move would be
:15.160 --> :20.199
I knew that the project was an opportunity for
her to inflict more pain to remind me of the
:20.199 --> :25.840
secrets she had divulged and the chaos she had
Unleashed but I was determined not to let her
:25.840 --> :32.000
control my emotions anymore I had endured enough
hurt and it was time for me to take back my power
:32.000 --> :37.080 as we began working on the project I tried
my best to maintain a professional demeanor
:37.080 --> :41.559 I focused on the task at hand refusing
to engage in any personal conversations
:41.560 --> :47.000
with Daisy it wasn't easy as memories of her past
camaraderie often threatened to break through the
:47.000 --> :52.920
barriers I'd built Daisy on the other hand seemed
to be reving in the discomfort she was causing me
:52.920 --> :59.000
she maintained an air of indifference as if the
pain she had inflicted on me was inconsequential
:59.000 --> :04.319 it was as if she had moved on leaving me to
pick up the pieces of my shattered self amid
:04.319 --> :10.239
the project I realized that my revenge wouldn't
come from sinking to her level or causing her pain
:10.239 --> :15.719 in return instead it would come from proving
to myself and everyone else that I was strong
:15.720 --> :21.360
enough to rise above her cruelty it was time to
show her that I would no longer allow myself to
:21.359 --> :28.040
be a victim of her toxic behavior of course she
was never helpful not in taking the lab notes not
:28.040 --> :33.120
in noting the measurements and not in making as
little research as she could with determination
:33.120 --> :38.880
in my heart I poured my energy into the project
using the skills and talents that Daisy had once
:38.880 --> :45.120
depended on in me it was a way for me to reclaim
my identity to remind myself of the capable and
:45.120 --> :51.120
resilient person I'd been before or she tore me
down in the days leading up to the presentation my
:51.120 --> :58.239
emotions were a whirlwind I felt a mix of anxiety
anger and a glimmer of empowerment I was no longer
:58.239 --> :03.920
the same person who had once cowered in the face
of Daisy's cruelty I'd found my voice and I was
:03.920 --> :10.040
ready to use it to expose her true colors as The
Ungrateful and lagging student I knew her to be
:10.040 --> :15.560
before I'd started to pick up her slack the day
of the presentation arrived and as I stood before
:15.560 --> :21.760
the class my heart heart pounded in my chest I
made the presentation as perfectly as I could
:21.760 --> :26.360
and when the teacher asked her to make her part
of the presentation I boldly explained that the
:26.359 --> :32.080
work was purely mine and I had no help from her
since she was too busy and had other commitments
:32.080 --> :38.600
that finishing what makes up 60% of our schoolwork
of course she tried to argue she tried to accuse
:38.600 --> :43.920
me of sabotaging her but our teacher could see
through the facade of her lies he proceeded to
:43.920 --> :49.640
ask her consequential questions she should know if
she had bothered to even read the final report I
:49.640 --> :55.360
submitted for review as he expected she found
it hard to successfully explain the evidence
:55.359 --> :01.239
was clear and the room fell silent as my words
reverberated through the air at that moment I
:01.239 --> :07.639
felt a surge of strength and Vindication at that
moment I realized that my revenge had not come
:07.640 --> :13.240
from causing her pain but from standing up for
myself and revealing her true nature I'd Found
:13.239 --> :19.319
the courage to confront her to demand the respect
I deserved and to reclaim my power and I did not
:19.319 --> :24.040
care that the rules would have to penalize me
for doing the project alone all I cared about
:24.040 --> :29.160 was that I got to show her what the taste of
betrayal felt like and that in doing that I was
:29.160 --> :34.479
exonerated of the crimes everyone accused me of in
their minds like they weren't the usual cheaters
:34.479 --> :39.839
in exams now I get stairs when I walk down the
hallway but at least it's from people knowing I
:39.840 --> :45.080
would bite if I was pushed too far into the wall
I preferred that rather than being seen as the
:45.080 --> :51.160
girl who cheats her way through School our next
story is I refused to testify for my ex-husband
:51.160 --> :56.800
in court after promising that I would when I met
my ex-husband at a book club that I newly joined
:56.800 --> :01.560
when I moved to that part of town and he asked me
out to coffee so we could discuss a book everyone
:01.560 --> :07.320 but I had read I happily accepted his offer
he was a very handsome man and was just the
:07.319 --> :13.599
right age for me I was in my late 20s at the time
and was getting advances from only younger men I
:13.600 --> :17.960
don't know if it's because of how young I looked
people often told that I looked younger than I
:17.960 --> :23.600
actually was I wanted a mature man someone who
was ready to settle down growing up I wanted to
:23.600 --> :31.880
get married in my early 20s I'd even given myself
a deadline 26 by 26 I had to be married but I was
:31.880 --> :37.880
28 and still unmarried at the time the clock that
I'd set for myself ticking fast and quickly in my
:37.880 --> :43.720
head I'd left a relationship of 4 years because
he wasn't popping the big question I subtly tried
:43.720 --> :49.760
for 2 years to get him to propose and when I was
was sick of trying I gave him an ultimatum I'm
:49.760 --> :55.560
still embarrassed to tell people that the time
I gave him elapsed and he did nothing I prayed
:55.560 --> :00.800
and hoped that he had something up his sleeve I'd
seen movies and read books where the man pretends
:00.800 --> :06.600
to not take the woman seriously while planning to
surprise her with a proposal but that was sadly
:06.600 --> :12.680
not the case with my ex-boyfriend he refused to
propose and ignored my ultimatum I was beyond
:12.680 --> :18.280
hurt and torn between staying and leaving him I
decided to leave while still hoping that he'd come
:18.279 --> :24.279
after me but he never did eventually I comforted
myself with the knowledge that he probably wanted
:24.279 --> :29.960
me to leave anyway and that was why he snubbed
my ultimatum barely weeks after I broke up with
:29.960 --> :35.960 him he started dating someone else I felt so
embarrassed about the whole situation and fled
:35.960 --> :42.199
town when I met my ex-husband I thought I'd try
him since he'd been married had a child and was
:42.199 --> :47.479
interested in having a family again him my friend
asked when I told her about the guy from the book
:47.479 --> :54.279
club that I went out with that guy's ex is very
crazy she said really he did say she was sick
:54.279 --> :00.639
in the head but I thought he was being a man men
always say their Rees are crazy nah this one was
:00.640 --> :06.000
really crazy but he was also crazily in love with
her he'd never leave her everyone tried to get him
:06.000 --> :13.239
to leave her but he refused I asked why I don't
know love I guess he didn't leave her not until
:13.239 --> :20.000
she left him I said he didn't leave her no oh did
he tell you that he did I said nah I just assumed
:20.000 --> :24.800
that since he'd had so many issues that's the
thing he loved her too much and he didn't believe
:24.800 --> :30.920
in divorce I know it was pathetic but hearing
that he didn't believe in divorce was soothing I
:30.920 --> :35.279
certainly wanted someone who wouldn't leave after
we'd had a silly fight if he could stay with his
:35.279 --> :41.519
ex despite her weird Behavior he certainly could
be with me who was not quite problematic I'd say
:41.520 --> :46.600 be careful my friend warned I'd heard he's
not over his ex yet they'd been divorced for
:46.600 --> :52.640
a year and separated for two I don't know that's
what I heard I think I'm willing to try I told her
:52.640 --> :58.280
they're barely even communicating anymore they
have a daughter and she let him have custody ah
:58.279 --> :04.840
yes he has a daughter whom he absolutely dots on
from what I heard he's a great dad plus he's kind
:04.840 --> :11.840
and goodlooking too I thought why wouldn't I want
to date a man who was a great husband a great dad
:11.840 --> :17.920
and very handsome we started dating and I'll admit
he was great I always thought my ex-boyfriend was
:17.920 --> :24.279
insensitive but my ex-husband was the right amount
of sensitive he was genuinely interested in me
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and always wanted to hear about how my day went we
went on intimate dates and he wasn't in a hurry to
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hook up he just seemed like the perfect man when
we started dating for the first 4 months I didn't
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meet his daughter but when we decided on what we
wanted from each other he let me meet his daughter
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she was a sweet pleasant girl who adored her dad
and just as my friend had told me he really did
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dot on her he was fully devoted to her and would
refuse to go out and have fun just to spend time
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with her in the first months of our relationship
when I hadn't met her he paid a sitter to watch
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her but as soon as I met her we stopped going out
as often rather than go out he would invite me to
:04.080 --> :08.880
his home and cook me dinner we'd have dinner with
his daughter and after that she'd go to bed while
:08.880 --> :13.960 we stayed up to watch a movie after nearly 9
months of being together he asked me to move
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in with him but I refused I lived with my ex for 2
years and I still blamed myself for doing that if
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I believed that I hadn't done that he'd probably
have proposed when we broke up I made up my mind
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that if a man wanted me to move in with him then
he must have asked me to marry him and in fact set
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a wedding date after a full year of being together
he asked me to marry him I was happy to say yes
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why not our relationship was not perfect but he
was better than any guy I'd ever been with and
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we wanted the same things I was was tired of being
with guys that I had to ask what their plans were
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my ex made his plans clear in the fourth month
he wanted marriage he wanted one more child and
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a huge house in the suburbs I agreed to marry him
but was soon confronted with the real reason he
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proposed his ex-wife was getting married I visited
him one evening and asked about his daughter oh
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she's with her mom he replied trying to be casual
something was not right his child was hardly ever
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with her her mom and even when she was he was
worried about her do you think she'd tell her
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bad stuff about me he'd ask nervously relax your
daughter knows you're a good dad and nothing your
:27.160 --> :32.479
ex tells her will change that he wasn't as worried
as he usually was whenever she went to be with her
:32.479 --> :39.279
mom okay tell me what's up what he asked again
he was trying to be oblivious my ex-husband did
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a terrible job at acting when he felt guilty the
guilt was always all over his face I frowned at
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him to let him know that his fake puppy face was
doing nothing for him I'm sorry I was alarmed what
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happened I didn't tell you my ex-wife is getting
married my daughter's at her wedding I was livid
:59.319 --> :05.120
too mad to even utter a word I just picked up
my person left I refused to see my ex for a
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full week the only reason he proposed was because
his ex was getting married and he probably didn't
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want to feel left out I knew he wasn't over his
ex everyone at the book club talked about it
:17.520 --> :23.000
my friend said when I told her about it maybe it
should be called the gossip Club because everyone
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there sure gossips a lot I snapped in my friend
and went into my room that night my ex came over
:28.960 --> :34.800
with a dozen roses please just let me explain
he said when I opened the door and saw him was
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that why you asked me to marry you to show her
that you'd moved on too at first I wanted to do
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that yes I wanted to marry you because since she's
moved on it was only fair that I did too but that
:46.640 --> :52.000
wasn't just why at least when I thought about it
I decided that I wanted to do more than just prove
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something I stared blankly at him listen I love
you I want to marry you and yeah it did take my ex
:59.319 --> :05.559
getting married to realize that but I want you to
be my wife my ex was an Avid Reader but he wasn't
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exactly great with words hearing him say that was
very refreshing I let him come in and that was how
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we continued our engagement my friend was certain
that my ex was still in love with his ex and it
:17.560 --> :23.320
irritated me I was just sick of hearing her say
it repeatedly my ex did not show any sign of Still
:23.319 --> :28.479
Loving Her aside from the lie about what prompted
him to propose and how worried he gets when his
:28.479 --> :33.599
daughter was with her he hardly ever mentioned her
we had a small wedding with both of our immediate
:33.600 --> :38.680 families in attendance and started our lives
together as a married couple months after we got
:38.680 --> :44.600
married I started to worry about my biological
clock I wanted to start having kids right away
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let's wait until I get my promotion at work he
said first after we got the promotion he wanted me
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to wait until his daughter was old enough to watch
her baby brother I spent so much on enrolling her
:55.800 --> :01.360
in private school and all those dance classes she
may as well watch her sibling to pay me back he'd
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said I didn't want to be an inconsiderate wife
or stepmom so I agreed to wait while we prepare
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in every way to have our baby I was soon greeted
with the shock of my life my husband was cheating
:14.640 --> :20.480
on me with his ex-wife they were even planning
to abandon both their spouses and a lope I got to
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find out about this from his ex's husband he came
over to where I worked and asked to talk I didn't
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believe it at first until he opened his computer
and showed me proof of their chats he also let me
:31.359 --> :36.479 listen to the voice messages they shared he
suspected that his wife was cheating and as
:36.479 --> :41.959
a computer professional he hacked her phone and
got the information he needed he was leaving her
:41.960 --> :47.120
but he just wanted me to know that was going on
because he thought I deserve to know I was shocked
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because there was no way I could have guessed
that my husband was cheating so much more with
:51.080 --> :57.160
his ex-wife I confronted him about it and when he
didn't deny it I kicked him out that week was a
:57.160 --> :03.199
most devastating one for me I started to believe
and accept that I probably was not destined to
:03.199 --> :09.720
find love not everyone will have a family or find
love and perhaps I was one of those people I'd
:09.720 --> :14.960
been hurt so many times but that one was the last
straw for me I didn't want to go down without a
:14.960 --> :21.120
fight but there was no way to get back at my ex we
didn't have a child together or anything even if I
:21.120 --> :26.760
got the house I could never live in the house I
shared with him I considered myself a loser not
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until one day when the universe blessed me with an
opportunity to get my revenge my ex-husband called
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to tell me that he was coming over to pick up some
of his clothes and files he asked me when I was
:37.520 --> :42.800
going to be home and I told him that afternoon he
came over and picked up his stuff while I stayed
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upstairs in my home Workshop doing some woodwork
I heard someone kicked the door down and raced
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downstairs wondering if my ex was going to break
my door it was my ex-husband's exwife it was also
:54.920 --> :59.680
my first time seeing her up close I stood at the
head of the stairs and watched her call for my
:59.680 --> :05.520
ex-husband I know you're not sneaking around to
hook up with her she said no I honestly just came
:05.520 --> :11.240
here to pick up my stuff he replied to her what
looked like fear dancing in his eyes his ex was
:11.239 --> :17.960
indeed crazy did you follow me I knew you were
lying to me she yelled I was surprised to find
:17.960 --> :22.760
out that when he moved out of the house we lived
in he moved in with her I was going to let them
:22.760 --> :28.000
keep arguing when she picked up a small ceramic
vase I'd made and threw it at him he dodged the
:28.000 --> :33.120
vase and it hit the wall and broke into pieces she
started to chase him around the living room while
:33.120 --> :39.080
I watched in shock she grabbed him by the neck and
tried to choke him I continued watching in shock
:39.080 --> :44.479
my ex-husband held her hand and pushed her away
from him he shoved her with so much force that
:44.479 --> :50.799
she hit her head on a piece of in the living room
and she passed out instantly I ran downstairs and
:50.800 --> :56.480
examined her head she was bleeding he carried her
and drove her to the hospital while I sat in my
:56.479 --> :01.959
living room pondering over all that had happened
I could not believe that my ex left me for someone
:01.960 --> :07.080
that violent and that strengthened my resolve to
get a divorce while we were still in the process
:07.080 --> :12.720
of getting a divorce my ex came to me to ask for
a favor his ex-wife had filed for custody of his
:12.720 --> :18.360
daughter to get back at him he told her he was
done with her and and that angered her please you
:18.359 --> :23.279
have to come and testify you witnessed all that
happened that day in your house she's telling the
:23.279 --> :29.120
judge that I'm violent and has taken pictures of
her injured head I agreed to do it but of course
:29.120 --> :34.800
I wasn't going to that was going to be my way of
getting revenge my ex knew how much I wanted to be
:34.800 --> :40.800
a mother and he didn't just waste my time he broke
my heart too I was busy being a loving wife and a
:40.800 --> :46.880
mother to his child while he pined for and begged
his ex-wife to aope with him I promised to show
:46.880 --> :52.120
up and he thanked me every other day he'd call me
and remind me of the court date and tell me how
:52.120 --> :58.359
to dress up for it and I would in turn assure him
that I'd show up the day came and I turned off my
:58.359 --> :04.439
phone and went skydiving with a guy I just met he
called me again begging me to show up at the next
:04.439 --> :10.319
hearing I told him that I won't be showing up and
hung up on him I never heard from him again but my
:10.319 --> :16.160
friend who heard all the gossip told me that the
court granted his ex-wife custody that satisfied
:16.160 --> :22.559 me although to be fair in this situation it
probably would have been nice if op did show up
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considering it really wasn't this guy's fault what
happened to her and she did seem kind of crazy I
:28.720 --> :33.240
don't blame anybody for not wanting to get in the
middle of that domestic dispute especially when
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somebody's displayed that crazy of behavior and
obviously knows where you live now I blackmailed
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the barber shop Predator a lot of people don't
like to talk about abuse especially sa it could
:45.000 --> :50.520
be because of the unpleasant memories it brings
up or it could be the stigmatization associated
:50.520 --> :55.840
with it but the fact remains the same so please
allow me to Buck the trend for a little bit I have
:55.840 --> :00.480
to first clarify that I wasn't the main victim
of the story even if I did have an experience
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of my own with the main villain I used to live in
a Suburban neighborhood the kind of neighborhood
:05.359 --> :11.960
people would usually classify as safe or Serene
and indeed it was for the most part but you know
:11.960 --> :17.439
what they say everything is Never As It Seems I
worked as a barber in one of the popular barber
:17.439 --> :22.040
shops in the neighborhood while I lived there so I
was able to get a scoop on the type of people who
:22.040 --> :27.720
lived there because people usually got gossipy
at the barber shop for some reason from one of
:27.720 --> :33.320
those gossip sessions I found out that there was
an actual drug ring operating from inside the
:33.319 --> :39.239
estate which I found really crazy because up until
that point there had never been a bust or Showdown
:39.239 --> :45.160
I was aware of so whoever was running these Rings
must have been very discreet I would go on to find
:45.160 --> :50.840
more about some of the popular people who lived in
the neighborhood and basically any tea I needed on
:50.840 --> :56.279
someone popular I could have sourced well at my
job but that's by the way there was this guy who
:56.279 --> :01.800
used to come to the barber shop to get haircuts
regularly and sometimes I handled it while other
:01.800 --> :06.720
times it would be handled by my other colleague
but it was obvious that I was his favorite Barber
:06.720 --> :13.280
for some reason now I wasn't bad at my job but
I wasn't the best in the shop by any means so I
:13.279 --> :17.960
felt this preference for me was for something
other other than my handwork and probably had
:17.960 --> :24.040
something to do with my homeliness or Charm I was
quite the smooth talker if I do say so myself as
:24.040 --> :29.279
time went on we would begin to get more familiar
because he was always willing to open up whenever
:29.279 --> :34.199
I was giving him a haircut and sometimes he'd
even reveal so much that I'd have to change this
:34.199 --> :39.720
subject plus he always gave good tips whenever
I was done we became tied and one day he would
:39.720 --> :45.040 called a request for some home service which
wasn't uncommon as most of our high-end clients
:45.040 --> :50.479
Preferred Home service so I guessed he wanted to
try it out for the first time and accepted his
:50.479 --> :56.639
request I got to his house with my barbing kit and
the first thing I saw were kids which came as a
:56.640 --> :02.440
surprise to me because he'd never mentioned having
kids so I asked if they were his and he confirmed
:02.439 --> :07.239
that they were indeed he then showed me to the
room where I was to give him the haircut and
:07.239 --> :12.319
told me to get comfortable while they got ready he
also gave me a glass of wine while I waited which
:12.319 --> :18.000
was a nice touch after a few minutes he came out
looking and smelling different he was now sporting
:18.000 --> :24.920
a net singlet and was wearing probably the fuest
smelling cologne I had no idea what was going on
:24.920 --> :30.760
and thought it was one of those rituals I heard
high-end clients sometimes did so I stayed koi
:30.760 --> :36.360
and got my stuff ready to give him a nice trim a
few seconds into the trim I began to suspect that
:36.359 --> :41.479
this wasn't going to be the regular trim because
he started to ask if I liked the way he looked
:41.479 --> :47.959
even before I started I obviously said I did it
began to to get weird when he started making lwd
:47.960 --> :53.600
comments towards me talking about how he found
me attractive and that if he wasn't married he
:53.600 --> :59.800
would have taken me to his favorite spot at this
point I felt uncomfortable but I was determined
:59.800 --> :07.000
to finish the job and to also do it as cleanly as
possible so I kept doing my thing regardless and
:07.000 --> :12.640
I was foolish for not seeing the signs because
after a while he would begin to sensually rub on
:12.640 --> :19.360
my arm while making what I'd assume were sex see
faces I asked what he was doing and he told me he
:19.359 --> :25.960
wanted me and was ready to pay any amount for my
services and that was when I realized he wasn't
:25.960 --> :32.000
just playing and actually wanted something other
than a haircut I instantly rejected his offer and
:32.000 --> :36.840
asked him to let me finish so I could leave but
he suddenly turned around and pushed me towards
:36.840 --> :42.440
a couch that was behind me and I was too filled
with shock and disbelief to even react so he
:42.439 --> :47.759
began to put his hands all over me while telling
me to give it a try my eyes were fixated on the
:47.760 --> :53.640
door at this point so once I overcame the shock I
managed to escape before he could go any further
:53.640 --> :59.120
I even left my barbing kit at his place i' had
been sa for the first time in my life when I got
:59.120 --> :05.120
home later that day he began to bombard me with
calls and text messages and I didn't respond to
:05.120 --> :10.519
anyone because I just wanted to forget about the
whole incident I didn't even care about my barbing
:10.520 --> :15.520
kid which was important to me at work and I spent
the next few days at home feeling traumatic after
:15.520 --> :20.480
after clearing my head I decided to resume back
at the shop and when I got back I was surprised
:20.479 --> :26.080
to see my barbing kit was at my table apparently
he'd come to return it a few days earlier and lied
:26.080 --> :31.519
that I must have forgotten it at his place this
brought out some flashbacks of the incident but I
:31.520 --> :36.640
was determined to forget about it so I went about
my work during lunch break that day one of my
:36.640 --> :41.760
colleagues approached me to ask what had happened
when I went for Home Service the last time and I
:41.760 --> :46.920
was going to brush off the question but then he
asked if the man had tried anything funny and
:46.920 --> :52.880
when I asked him what he meant the answer he gave
shocked me apparently he was aware of the antics
:52.880 --> :58.600
of the man and told me that was the reason no one
else ever accepted his home service requests this
:58.600 --> :03.320
whole time I thought I was his favorite Barber
but it turns out he was just trying to get me to
:03.319 --> :09.840
satisfy a fetish after this conversation I decided
to fully cut the man off and never respond to his
:09.840 --> :15.760 requests even if we ever met afterwards but
as fate may have it I wasn't going to escape
:15.760 --> :20.320 that easily a few months had passed without
seeing the man and I thought he'd found a new
:20.319 --> :25.719
salon to get his haircuts I always tried my best
not to think about the incident but trauma has a
:25.720 --> :31.560
way of making you remember unpleasant things in
general I was feeling much better at that point
:31.560 --> :38.240
and I'd almost had suppressed the memory until one
incident would bring it all back it was a Friday
:38.239 --> :43.559
and I usually got to work in the afternoon due to
some classes I used to take every Friday morning
:43.560 --> :49.040 on getting to work I was met with a a minor
scare I recognized the kids of my now former
:49.040 --> :54.840
client waiting for their haircuts I almost had a
panic attack but to my relief they weren't with
:54.840 --> :00.279
their father and were instead accompanied by a
young man who could have been no older than 16
:00.279 --> :06.000
I was curious to find out who he was so I offered
to cut his hair which he accepted while trimming
:06.000 --> :12.399
his hair I began to ask him a series of questions
and usual Barber Shop gossip fashion to find out
:12.399 --> :18.439
more about who he was and his relationship to the
man and found out he was literally a ward to the
:18.439 --> :24.000
man and had been around helping with chores for
a few months probably after the last incident we
:24.000 --> :29.560
had I began to pry further because I had some
suspicions and after some more interrogation I
:29.560 --> :34.480
opened up to him and he reluctantly told me what
I'd been suspecting all the while he was being
:34.479 --> :40.239 abused by his Guardian all the fear that I'd
been feeling towards the man before had turned
:40.239 --> :46.239
into rage because this boy was obviously not an
adult and he had very little chance of defending
:46.239 --> :51.359
himself because he had nowhere to run to he also
revealed to me that he wasn't the only victim and
:51.359 --> :56.479
that he knew at least two who were around the same
age range as him at this point I knew I had to do
:56.479 --> :02.040
something to avenge the absolute tribulations this
Predator had probably put all those boys through
:02.040 --> :06.920
I was able to escape but they weren't so lucky
I told the boy not to reveal what was said in
:06.920 --> :12.600
our conversation then went back to the colleague
of mine who first exposed the man's Antics to me
:12.600 --> :17.800
to tell him about my Discovery and discuss any
possible strategies we could devise to make sure
:17.800 --> :23.279
he never did this to anyone ever again after some
deliberation he decided we were going to find a
:23.279 --> :29.160
way to bait the man and either blackmail him till
he confessed or expose him outright creating the
:29.160 --> :34.160
perfect plan wasn't easy but I'd extracted enough
information from the boy to know where the man now
:34.160 --> :39.840
had his haircuts so I went there to know more
about the place it was also a popular salon
:39.840 --> :45.360
in another end of my neighborhood which led me to
think he had a pattern so I tried to envisage what
:45.359 --> :52.399
the pattern was and went full what would he do
here mode as I stepped into the salon it looked
:52.399 --> :58.399
astonishingly similar to mine so astonishing that
the first question I asked anyone was if it was
:58.399 --> :04.519
the same interior designer who handled the salon
I worked at and it turns out it was what were the
:04.520 --> :10.560
chances the guy who responded to me was the salon
manager and he didn't cut hair he just happened to
:10.560 --> :15.360 be there at the time so I tried to describe
the man to him and he was able to recognize
:15.359 --> :21.120
what I meant then he showed me the chair where he
usually had his haircuts after he left I went over
:21.120 --> :25.559
to the chair to see if I could find the barber
who worked there he wasn't there but one of the
:25.560 --> :31.000
other Barbers told me he wasn't so far away so
I decided to wait for him to return he returned
:31.000 --> :36.399
about 20 minutes later and then I approached him
for a few questions and when his answers were
:36.399 --> :42.279
consistent with what I expected I knew he would be
down for the plan the plan was for him to bait the
:42.279 --> :48.519
Predator into requesting home service and and then
make recordings of whatever happened as evidence
:48.520 --> :53.680
and he understood the assignment because within
2 weeks of sharing the plan he called us to tell
:53.680 --> :00.159
us he had secured a home service appointment it
was now time for Phase 2 get recorded evidence
:00.159 --> :05.120
Phase 2 was rather straightforward because it had
a previous experience so I knew planting a camera
:05.120 --> :11.239
in the room where he had his haircuts was possible
as he always took a few minutes to get ready my
:11.239 --> :16.840
inside guy the other Barber was spot on with a
task once again again and was able to get a full
:16.840 --> :21.520 event recording and when I saw the recording
I began to wonder if he put a spell on the
:21.520 --> :27.081
man because while trying to seduce him he would
confess to some of the heinous things he had done
:27.080 --> :33.279
in the past at the end my guy was smart enough to
evade any real abuse by convincing him to set up
:33.279 --> :39.159
something more discreet it almost seemed like he
was sent for this particular purpose we now had
:39.159 --> :44.279
the video we sought after and it was time to move
to the next phase which was either to blackmail
:44.279 --> :50.519
him to his wife until he confessed or report him
to the authorities my guy suggested we could do
:50.520 --> :56.400
both but I decided to let the reaction of the man
decide the higher the level of desperation in his
:56.399 --> :01.679
reaction the better our chances of doing both and
when we used an anonymous account to send him a
:01.680 --> :06.960
threat attached to the video of what had happened
with my friend's face blurred out he went into a
:06.960 --> :12.840
panic and sent probably a hundred replies to the
account asking us to name our price and begging
:12.840 --> :18.760 us not to expose him we knew we had just hit
the jackpot and decided to milk him as much as
:18.760 --> :23.440
possible this wasn't in the initial plans but
I think it's fair to say the money clotted our
:23.439 --> :28.319 judgment and it took until his Ward reported
another attempted assault while I was giving
:28.319 --> :34.679
him a haircut for me to realize I'd let external
influences alter my primary objective which was
:34.680 --> :39.680
never money and decided I had to report to the
authorities the other guys who were in on it
:39.680 --> :44.560
just wanted the money so they tried to discourage
me but I was able to make them see the moral side
:44.560 --> :50.520
of things and we agreed to send a police report
and also to let his wife know the next day we sent
:50.520 --> :56.121
out the evidence to all the necessary parties as
planned and also tried to explain the case he had
:56.120 --> :01.279
with the boy who helped around his house and by
that evening news broke out that he'd been taken
:01.279 --> :06.759
into police custody for interrogation and there
was also news of his wife going into cardiac
:06.760 --> :13.239
arrest although she would be quickly recited the
man was finally arrested after 2 months of further
:13.239 --> :18.960
investigations and the last heard of him he was
still rotting in prison I feel no remorse for him
:18.960 --> :24.600
and no regret for even extorting him initially
because he continued to traumatize young people
:24.600 --> :29.400
even after we showed him the evidence against
him I feel sorry for his wife though her husband
:29.399 --> :34.479
was living a double life and parading himself as a
good husband and father while ruining the lives of
:34.479 --> :39.879
other people's kids last I heard they got divorced
shortly before he was arrested and she was able
:39.880 --> :44.920
to secure the house and the kids so I think she
got some form of compensation if I want to look
:44.920 --> :50.399
on on the bright side I might have resorted to
Blackmail which wasn't the best means possible
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but in my mind I felt fulfilled that I was able
to save those young people from a very dangerous
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predator and I wouldn't have been able to do it
if his Ward hadn't spoken up so it's important to
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know that speaking up is one of the most important
steps to saving yourself from abuse although some
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of the moral lines were blurred here I do think
they did a net good thing honestly anybody like
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this that's no longer doing this on the street
streets it's for the best that said our next
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story is I exposed my boss's dirty secret to his
fiance having an awful boss at work is probably
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the most relatable experience to adults everywhere
nearly every single person has a tale of a boss
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who would actively try to piss them off at their
place of work and my case isn't any different in
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fact I've probably had this experience at every
place I've worked don't look at me negatively
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I'm a mostly diligent worker but I also belong to
Jen's Z so I definitely don't accept situations
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that could cause me some long-term discomfort and
some people may not agree but I think that should
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be the standard my first experience with a wicked
boss happened before I even became an adult fresh
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out of high school I got a job at a pharmacy so I
could save up some money for a new phone I started
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the job with all the enthusiasm of an adolescent
boy who was about to start getting paid but would
:09.520 --> :15.081 quickly realize how Joys sapping the labor
market could be when you have an awful boss
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the signs might have been there at the beginning
but when you see the world through a rosec colored
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lens you tend to be blind to these things first
red flag was when one of my co-workers excitedly
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quit shortly after I joined it felt as if I had
come to liberate him from his shackles but I still
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didn't ask anyone why probably because I thought
I was going to have some privileges for being a
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literal child at the start I would indeed have
some privileges for being how young I was but
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they usually came from my co-workers who were just
happy to have some childlike innocence around my
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boss on the other hand didn't really care for my
age and even at the start would treat me like any
:53.680 --> :00.040
of the other guys at the pharmacy I didn't mind
this too much as I saw the behavior as similar to
:00.040 --> :05.439 probably every high school math teacher ever
but as months went by the requirements would
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get progressively worse it started when my boss
would begin to send me on nonwork errands such
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as getting him his lunch I had to actually go out
on the street streets to buy his lunch this didn't
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cause too much discomfort but he never showed any
gratitude and it looked as if that was part of my
:22.680 --> :28.880
job description he continued to subtly add side
quests to the job I was hired to do but nothing
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was crazy enough to make me quit until he started
to take advantage of the proximity of my house
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to the pharmacy one day he would call me at 4:00
a.m. to summon me to the pharmacy because he had
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to travel and needed someone to help him set up
shop before he left and I was the closest to the
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the pharmacy I only obliged because I felt some
sense of responsibility as he had to travel and
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besides I lived close by in hindsight I should
have said no because as soon as he got back from
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his trip not even up to 2 days later he would make
a similar request and when I told him I couldn't
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make it at 5:00 a.m. by the way he got infuriated
that was my cue to know my time there was nearly
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up I would continue to rebel against him until
the month elapsed and I could finally quit
:15.159 --> :21.279 that would be my only job until I got into
University and if I thought my boss was bad then I
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was soon about to see heck as a university student
I was required to go on post session internships
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for my second year some internship periods were
longer than others but the one in the fourth year
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was always the longest for my second year I worked
in a company that produced chemicals and even
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though I had the regular awful boss experience it
lasted only a month and nothing really spectacular
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happened so it was hardly a memorable experience
I couldn't find a placement for internship in my
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third year so I just followed my dad to his job
for around a month to get some work experience
:58.359 --> :03.479
fourth year internship was always the big one
everyone looked forward to it because it lasted
:03.479 --> :08.359
half the year and you could get paid some good
money if you worked at the right place I wanted
:08.359 --> :14.359
to work somewhere popular so I could get some Top
Class exposure but my dad tried to persuade me to
:14.359 --> :19.599
just do do the internship at his workplace not
that his place was bad but there were no workers
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at my age range working there and I felt they
had to be around my peers at such a vital time
:25.120 --> :31.479
so I rejected his offer and continued to apply to
some of the biggest names I could think of and I
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was eventually able to secure a spot at one of the
biggest chemical processing firms in the country
:37.199 --> :43.880
after what seemed like ages I was finally able
to resume at my new job or internship and just
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as I thought there were a lot of my peers there
so I was ready to bring my Competitive Edge to
:49.359 --> :55.519
the playing field we were each assigned a Handler
technically a boss who we would answer to and some
:55.520 --> :01.320
handlers had multiple interns under their control
I said control because the handlers were in
:01.319 --> :08.159
charge of basically everything that happens to an
intern from firing and suspending to recommending
:08.159 --> :14.920
permanent employment to determining how much you
deserved to be paid they were like workplace gods
:14.920 --> :20.040
and the authorities allowed it to be that way
I had never seen anything like it but I wasn't
:20.040 --> :25.199 going to let it deter me because I worked so
hard to get there plus it would look good on
:25.199 --> :31.040
my CV my handler was one of the two male handlers
out of these seven possible ones I could have been
:31.040 --> :36.600
assigned to he wasn't too tall but I can't say
he was short even though I was taller than him
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he also sported a shaven head I couldn't tell if
he was bald or if he just loved a shiny head I
:42.920 --> :48.840
also noticed from quite early how flirtatious he
was with his female colleagues so at some point
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he seemed jovial enough to me but after I got
assigned to him the first thing he told me was
:54.000 --> :00.000
to get rid of my Afro if I was going to be one
of his interns I had no option but to shed my
:00.000 --> :05.800
fro which I'd been sporting for close to a year it
was a tough decision but nothing unbearable since
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I presumably wouldn't be doing much else for the
next 6 months I had a female co- intern under the
:11.199 --> :16.319
same Handler we were the two interns assigned to
my Handler but he would treat her vastly different
:16.319 --> :21.519
to me while we both shared the same duties in the
company I was the only one our Handler decided to
:21.520 --> :27.840
use as a rag and all she ever had to do was get
him coffee meanwhile I helped him sort his mails
:27.840 --> :34.520
cleaned his office desk daily and ran on multiple
errands to other departments I Ran So Many errands
:34.520 --> :40.400
that all the other interns would know me by name
within the first month at this point I didn't have
:40.399 --> :46.080
any major issues with it I was getting paid after
all got my first PID check felt satisfied about
:46.080 --> :51.120
the work I'd done and how I adapted my work ethic
but believed I only had to work that hard because
:51.120 --> :56.519
it was my first month and they probably wanted
to just test me so I went into my second month
:56.520 --> :02.320
with a fresh mindset it was a new month and I was
feeling a bit more settled now I got a bit more
:02.319 --> :08.279
vocal around work and people would begin to take
notice including my Handler I began to challenge
:08.279 --> :14.679 unjust orders a lot more especially from my
Handler and I think he was shaken because he began
:14.680 --> :20.240 to try and assert dominance over his Zone he
became more reactive and was always trying to
:20.239 --> :26.719
set me up so I get in trouble with the authorities
but I was always a step ahead so he seldom had his
:26.720 --> :31.680
chance this didn't mean that I rejected all the
errands from him though I just went for the ones
:31.680 --> :37.440
I felt were necessary all this time all my co-
intern still did for our handler was to get him
:37.439 --> :43.319
his daily coffee nothing more nothing less and he
never felt the need to even switch it up after I
:43.319 --> :49.399 began to test his olve so I began to observe
their relationship more closely to know what
:49.399 --> :55.399
was up my Handler being flirtatious was common
knowledge around the company ground he was ever
:55.399 --> :00.799
the smooth talker when it came to women and he
had a couple of nicknames for his behavior what
:00.800 --> :06.960
he did wasn't harassment by any means but it was
certainly Superfluous because they began to look
:06.960 --> :12.960
like him fulfilling a habit rather than genuine
compliments there were a couple of us guys male
:12.960 --> :19.040
interns who didn't like his bipolar treatment
of interns because even though we knew how he
:19.040 --> :25.519
treated female interns he didn't seem to care
that he treated us in the exact opposite way so I
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explained my hunch to them and asked them to also
observe his relationship with my co- intern while
:30.960 --> :36.399
I was observing my Handler he was also looking
for ways to get me in trouble and he would finally
:36.399 --> :42.759
have his chance it was on a Friday and work was to
close at 3:00 p.m. as opposed to the regular 5:00
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p.m. so I made plans for postwork activities with
some of my fellow interns getting to the close of
:48.800 --> :54.000
work my Handler called me to help him sort a heap
of documents that had been piling up for probably
:54.000 --> :59.960
3 or 4 weeks he said he wanted them filed properly
and I told him the documents were too many for me
:59.960 --> :05.120
to file before the close of work and he told me
he would let me go when he was satisfied with
:05.120 --> :10.479
the work I had done and then I asked if I could
get some help for my co- intern so we could get
:10.479 --> :16.719
more work done and he declined telling me he'd
given her some work of her own even if he hadn't
:16.720 --> :21.600
I began to sort the documents as fast as I could
so I could get a decent amount of work done before
:21.600 --> :27.400
the close of work but there were so many and even
at the close of work I'd barely gone halfway I
:27.399 --> :33.279
continued for a few more minutes after work hoping
my Handler would be satisfied and let me go home
:33.279 --> :38.840
but he probably decided he wanted me to finish
it all and just didn't show up to permit me to go
:38.840 --> :44.560
after about 25 minutes past closing time I felt
I'd done enough work and was ready to continue
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on Monday if I had to so I went home and joined
my intern friends for some weekend fun Monday came
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and the first thing I would see on my desk was a
query from the authorities apparently my Handler
:56.640 --> :01.960
had reported me for negligence and the head of
HR believed him so they summoned me to appear
:01.960 --> :08.000
in front of a small panel after explaining myself
they sided with my Handler and told me that it was
:08.000 --> :14.319
company protocol for me to do whatever my Handler
tells me within my department they also handed my
:14.319 --> :19.719 Handler the power to select what punishment
he deemed fit I was expecting something light
:19.720 --> :26.040
like doing some extra hours after work or cleaning
more desks for a week but nothing happened I was
:26.040 --> :30.960 surprised that the guy who had been looking
for a chance to show his power just decided
:30.960 --> :36.760
to let me go when it finally came but I wasn't
complaining though little did I know that he had
:36.760 --> :42.440
something evil in store for me the second month
ended and it was time for interns to get their
:42.439 --> :48.399
salaries everyone got theirs before the end of the
second month but there was a delay for me and I
:48.399 --> :54.559
would later realize that my Handler had used his
powers to strip me of my salary as my punishment
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I was absolutely fuming so I confronted him and
he told me he was well within his rights and from
:00.920 --> :06.319
that exact moment I made up my mind to get back
at him i' had been observing his relationship
:06.319 --> :12.040
with my co- intern for a while now along with
some other of my intern friends and we started
:12.040 --> :17.680
to suspect that they were having an affair because
she would often follow him home on Wednesdays and
:17.680 --> :22.159 so my revenge plan was straightforward after
that meeting find enough proof to expose the
:22.159 --> :27.040 affair while most people at the office knew
my handler was a flirt many didn't know that
:27.040 --> :32.640
he had a fiance one of my intern friends who had
been observing him found out and told us about it
:32.640 --> :38.600
so at this point my revenge plan was basically
about saving her from the flirt monster as my
:38.600 --> :44.480
Handler went home on the Wednesday of that week he
would once again be accompanied by my co- intern
:44.479 --> :50.359
so I followed closely behind them and even though
I was expecting something controversial to happen
:50.359 --> :55.559
I was still shocked when I saw them drive into one
of the hotels not too far from where the company
:55.560 --> :00.640
was located as they stepped out of the vehicle
I got my phone out and took a couple of photos
:00.640 --> :05.720
and continued to Trail them by the time they got
to their room I could already confirm they were
:05.720 --> :11.480
having an affair just from their conversation so I
pulled my phone out once again and began to record
:11.479 --> :16.319
as much of their conversation as possible even
after they'd gone into the room thankfully the
:16.319 --> :21.319 doors of the local hotel weren't soundproof
after I felt satisfied with the evidence I'd
:21.319 --> :27.439
gotten there was only one thing left to do get
them to his fiance getting his fiance's number
:27.439 --> :32.960
wasn't easy but thanks to my intern Brothers we
were able to fish the information out within a
:32.960 --> :38.760 few days and so I anonymously sent all the
evidence I'd gathered to her explained what
:38.760 --> :44.320 had been happening and crossed my fingers
hoping my plan had worked and it did the day
:44.319 --> :50.319 after I sent all the evidence my handler was
uncharacteristically absent from work and people
:50.319 --> :55.759 began to wonder what had happened and before
you knew it Whispers had begun to spread around
:55.760 --> :01.760
that his fiance had caught him cheating and that
they'd had a big fight that morning my co intern
:01.760 --> :07.280
was looking visibly uneasy at this point and was
probably the most silent one out of all of the
:07.279 --> :13.679
interns because the rest of us were absolutely
loving it and making jokes from it days went by
:13.680 --> :18.000
and we still still hadn't heard from my Handler
before news finally broke that his marriage had
:18.000 --> :23.560
been called off call me evil but that was the
best announcement I'd ever heard in the company
:23.560 --> :30.081
up until that point my revenge plan had worked
to a te plus I was free from the shackles of my
:30.080 --> :35.880
Handler for over a week which made it feel better
he would eventually return to work after 2 weeks
:35.880 --> :41.000
and still looked obviously distressed he never
found out it was me who leaked his secret but
:41.000 --> :47.800
from that day onwards he became less flirting ious
and also try to assert his dominance less I felt
:47.800 --> :54.080
a bit sorry for ending his relationship but at
the same time I also felt a sense of satisfaction
:54.080 --> :00.760
for saving his fiance from a potentially toxic
marriage and myself from a toxic workplace see
:00.760 --> :06.720
what you want but in the grand scheme of things
I think I did something good I mean ultimately if
:06.720 --> :13.240
you can't report this guy because for some reason
his overly flirtatious behavior is excused then I
:13.239 --> :19.319
guess you can just justify what was going on here
I mean really wouldn't it have been better for op
:19.319 --> :25.000
to anonymously reveal this information to their
workplace and reveal that this workplace Affair
:25.000 --> :29.680
had been going on cuz wouldn't that put the boss
in hot water wouldn't they have maybe have gotten
:29.680 --> :35.360 fired or relocated in the company and maybe
saved op from even having to deal with them
:35.359 --> :40.399
but with that being said that's all the time we
have for today now if you want to hear another
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absolutely crazy Revenge story check out that
video on the left or if you missed my latest
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video check out that video on the right that said
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aita for telling my mother she was a pathetic parent and she isn't invited to
my wedding hi I am 26 I am getting married at the end of the year when I
was a kid my dad divorced my mom and she was a s at that time in short he felt
like she was lazy and spending all his money at the time I didn't see it and
was quite angry at him he had us for weekends and the rest was mom she had to
find a job and worked long shifts that would be fine if she didn't forget about
us she would get home and not help us with homework and anything it was my job
to clean everything and keep my younger brother in line it sucked when I was a
teenager I moved in with Dad and my life got so much better funny enough since I
went full-time and my brother soon joined she had to pay child support she
was pissed about that and basically stopped talking to us anyways my invites
for my wedding went out one went to my aunt and I believe she mentioned it to
my mother I got a call asking about her invite I told her she wasn't invite and
this started an argument I told her she was a pathetic parents and she called me
heartless edit I have a few comments on this my mom did not take care of us she
paid the bills but did nothing else I was the one that made the home clean
took care of my brother made food I had to go buy groceries with dad's money
starting when I was 10 so we could have a hot meal that wasn't junk he also went
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I found out about my wife's Affair when the police called to ask about her
partner I don't know what I'm doing right now I don't know if this is the
right sub or even if I should be posting
this but I don't have a clear mind right now and I'm here to ask for some
direction I've been married to my wife for 12 years we have an amazing 11
years/ o son until last night I thought we had a good marriage I thought I was
always really good to her we have no money problems no intimacy problems and
I have never taken her for granted I honestly wake up every morning and thank
God she is my wife now I don't know what to think I got a call from my local PD
as I was getting off work yesterday day they asked if I could come to the police
station as soon as possible I panicked I asked if something had happened to my
wife or son but they said not to worry just get to the station ASAP when I got
there they put me in a room with a table and some chairs they asked me my name
which I gave then they started asking all these questions about a guy my wife
works with I haven't seen or spoken to this guy literally since December 2019
at my wife's company Christmas party the two officers kept asking me things like
how long have you known and how did you find out the only answer I could give
was what are you talking about after about an hour of this I just stopped
answering their questions and kept asking where my son and wife for and
were they safe we just kept going around and around until after about 2 hours on
and off because they would periodically leave the room for 15 to 20 minutes then
come back and start it all over again like some cheap cop show the last time
they came in the cop handed me a tablet and showed me a video of my wife and the
guy from her work having sex I don't remember much right after that I just
remember screaming what the f is this over and over again I had a full-blown
panic attack right there in the middle of the police station the police had a
paramedic check me out and he said my blood pressure was something like 170
110 he wanted me to go to the hospital but I refused and said I needed to find
my wife and my son after I calmed down the officers explained that the guy in
the video had been having an affair with my wife and apparently several other
women he had been found that morning in his driveway beaten raped and set on
fire he was still alive but in critical condition and they didn't know if he
would make it his wife had given them permission to go through his phone and
computer and that's where they found the video of my wife they asked me where I
was that morning and I told them the gym then work about 10 minutes from my gym
at that point they said I could go but that I might not want to stay at my
house because they didn't know if his affair with my wife could be why he was
attacked they also said my wife wasn't the only person he was having an affair
with that's when I rushed home my son was staying with our neighbors so I got
him and went home we packed some clothes and his laptop for school I grabbed my
gun and we headed to my parents house 45 minutes away I still haven't heard from
my wife her phone is going straight to voicemail I've called the officer who
gave me his card and he said she is at the hospital with the guy she's been
cheating with I am sitting here in bed with my son on one side of me and my 38
on the other my dad is sleeping in his chair in the living room with a shotgun
across his lap and I've not slept in over 30 hours I don't even know where to
start anything would be helpful right now any advice or ideas I am in a fog
edit just got off the phone with my in-laws apparently my wife just checked
herself into the psych ward update I'm completely lost because I just found out
that my wife 36f of 12 years has been having
an affair from the police who called me in for questioning involving the assault
of her lover I attempted to post this on Saturday but it didn't go through
and I got blocked from reposting because
I asked a yes/no question anyway here it
is again I am working a bit so I may not be able to reply that much right now my
original post was removed but a lot of people messaged me and asked for an
update I thought I would fill everyone in on what has happened this week
because the replies I got helped me so much I really feel like I owe this
community a big thank you for helping me get my head on straight and pointed me
in the right direction to get everything done as fast as possible for those
people who said my post was fake my only reply is I wish from the bottom of my
heart it was sometimes the truth is Stranger Than Fiction for those who said
they couldn't find a new story apparently due to the nature of the
attack a lot of information was withheld even our local news outlets only
reported it as an assault and it was nothing more than a blurb on our Nightly
News for those who implied or directly stated the police wouldn't do that you
are 100% wrong because they did I found out from my lawyer that police can
literally do or say anything they want especially if you aren't under arrest
short of direct threats of harm that includes lying directly to your face
which they did it turns out my wife wasn't at the hospital with her lover
when I contacted the detective she had been admitted to that hospital
psychiatric facility much earlier in the day while he was still in surgery I
don't know why they would lie about that but they did needless to say this
situation has caused me to become very suspicious of law enforcement
after I woke up that afternoon I contacted my uncle's law partner who is
a family friend he actually came to my parents house and sat down with me to go
over my options his entire Law Firm is now representing me both in the divorce
and criminal defense that day Sunday he got me an emergency custody order and a
protective order against my wife for me my son and my parents our court date is
in 60 days the police served her on Monday as she was leaving the psych
Hospital according to her brother who is a close personal friend of mine she did
not take it well she is staying with her parents for the time being I still
haven't talked to her and she hasn't made any attempt to speak to me either
whether that's due to shame indifference or the order of protection I don't know
but I'm glad of it all the same my wife is not the person I thought she was and
I'm ashamed of myself for not see it sooner I had to tell my son something so
I decided to tell him the truth age appropriate and literally the first
words out of his mouth was please don't let Mommy Take Me Away I asked him why
he would say that and from what he tells me my wife has been treating him very
badly when I wasn't around and told him if he told me she would take him away
and my son would never see me again she has been emotionally torturing our son
and I was too blind to see it that wrecked me more than the video to be
honest I told the lawyer about what my son said and he used my son's statement
and her mental state and commitment to get the emergency custody I have
contacted his school for therapy resources and he will start therapy
after the first of the year I feel like the worst father to ever walk the face
of the Earth at this point as for our families her parents contacted me
Tuesday and asked to come see us I was still at my parents at the time and I
told them they could come but she was not allowed anywhere near us they agreed
they were so apologetic and her poor mother didn't stop crying the entire
time she was with us her father was heartbroken and kept referring to my
wife as that girl they both said they felt like something was going on with
her and they did not raise her to be this way we hugged and cried before they
left and I told them they will always be a part of our Lives no matter what
happens with the divorce after what my son told me their visit was the hardest
part of our whole ordeal my lawyers have been doing amazing work so far they
found out that the man my wife was sleeping with has a long criminal record
one of the lawyers informed me that when they went to print out the guy arrest
record the printer ran for 5 minutes straight from what they could learn he
is currently on parole for substan offenses and has had gang affiliations
in the past he is still alive but in critical condition and still may not
make it the firm has an investigator who contacted the cooworker who drove my
wife to the hospital the cooworker informed them that my wife's Affair was
an Open Secret around the office my lawyers think that's how the police
figured out who I was and who my wife was in the video there are several
photos of last year's Christmas party at her work and my wife and I are in
several of them that's where I currently am in this whole situation I am just
numb still lost and heartbroken how long does the numbness last and is there any
way to get past this emotional lethargy faster I mean really numb like a dream
everything I've just said has felt like it's happening to someone else update
I'm completely lost because I just found out that my 42 M wife 36f of 12 years
has been having an affair from the police who called me in for questioning
involving the assault of her lover I will start off again by saying thank you
to everyone who replied to both my original post and my update this sub
really did help me so much if I didn't respond to you directly I'm sorry but I
got so many messages I can't keep up with them all first my my son is doing
so much better he started therapy the first week of Jan and the difference is
already noticeable I asked him if he felt comfortable with me talking to his
therapist and he said yes so I've had a few discussions with her according to
the therapist my stbx would verbally and emotionally abuse our son whenever they
were alone together he was not allowed to make noise or bother her in any way
when he was home she would leave him alone for hours on end and even
overnight if I was out of town she would then threaten him with being taken away
and never see me again if he told me or anyone else the therapist said this has
made him feel powerless and dependent in a time in his development that she
should actually be feeling empowered and self-reliant So to that end I have
bought him his own phone and helped him memorize family members phone numbers
and as many addresses as are relevant I've also been teaching him situational
awareness to pay attention to street names and how to read addresses on
buildings we've also role played how to ask people for help how he can clearly
explain to strangers that he's in trouble and he doesn't feel safe I know
this may sound silly but my son can be a bit introverted and shy when he doesn't
feel comfortable even though we've only been doing this for a few weeks I can
see that it's really building his confidence any suggestions on how to
continue to build his self-reliance would be really helpful his safety and
well-being is still my number one concern right now as for myself I'm
doing as good as can be expected I started therapy around the same time as
my son and although I don't speak to my therapist as much as he does it has
helped to be able to talk through my thoughts and feelings about everything
that has happened to us and our family the numbness is gone but it was replaced
by a white hot ball of anger in the pit of my stomach whenever I think of my
stbx and what she's put our family through funny enough although I hate
feeling angry it's a lot easier to deal with than the numbness my therapist says
this is part of the grieving process and it's not how we feel but how we Channel
those emotions that matter my legal situation well I'll be honest is the
scariest thing I've ever dealt with in my life I was awarded temporary full
custody and child support which I didn't want but my lawyer pretty much demanded
we ask for as well as a continuation of the order of protection for myself and
my son at the request for an order hearing which neither my wife nor her
lawyer showed up to the judge asked if we would allow supervised visitation but
my son absolutely refused which was why my lawyer told me to bring him along the
judge asked my son if he would speak to him alone and he agreed the judge
stenographer and a child welfare officer went into Chambers with my son and met
for about 10 minutes after their meeting the judge granted the temp orders and
ordered therapy and psychological evaluation for my son luckily the
therapist he is seeing is somehow involved with or accredited to work with
the court so he doesn't have to see another therapist my lawyer said this is
a good thing because it means his therapist can give a recommendation for
custody but it still scares the hell out of me that she could get some form of
custody after what she put him through as for the AP I Don't Know Much from
what my lawyers have gathered he's alive but still in the hospital I haven't
heard from the police since my initial interview so nothing new to report there
as for my stbx I still hadn't seen her since the day I was questioned until
Thursday she has attempted to call me a few times but I haven't answered and
when she called from another number I hung up immediately I have nothing to
say to her and I don't want to hear anything she has to say to me her lawyer
requested a preliminary hearing for our courta appointed mediation she was
served the second week of January she was there with her lawyer and I know
this will sound Petty but even with the mask she looked bad my stbx was always
an attractive and athletic woman I swear in our wedding photos she looks like a
supermodel but now while she's lost lost so much weight it's disturbing she
looked sick and frail she didn't even look at me she just sat with her face
down through most of the meeting long story short everything they asked for
was ridiculous they wanted visitation during the divorce proceedings and
shared custody after they want us to drop the Ops she wants to cohabitate
until the divorce is finalized I'm not joking after all this she wants to live
in the same house it was so insulting that my head throbbed through the whole
meeting but it was all worth it for the big reveal we gave to her lawyer her
lawyer asked how we should handle Discovery for the division of assets to
which my lawyer got this shocked look on his face and said said what division of
assets read the prenup the look on her lawyer face was priceless she hadn't
told her lawyer about the prenup my late Uncle who was the founding partner of
the law firm I use wrote that prup and actually hired her a lawyer to look over
it for her before we married according to my lawyer it's a thing of beauty
because we never mixed finances for my uncle's instructions the house we live
in was a gift to me from my uncle before we married all the utilities and
insurances are in my name all the vehicles are registered in the owner's
name only and we never had to sign for any debt for each other we have one
shared savings account that is used for household m maintenance and an emergency
fund it is around $8 in it which she is already drained
there is less than $300 in it now the prup states that all marital assets and
debt are to be divided 50/50 in ownership of all intangible assets and
personal debt reverts back to the individual who accruit it the adultery
Clause simply states that we agreed that if either party is caught or admits to
committing adultery they lose the right to claim any form of spousal support
there's a lot more to it than this but my lawyer assures me that trying to
break this prup will be damn near impossible because it is the most Fair
prup he's ever read but the last thing her lawyer asked for was what is really
messed with me he asked that we postpone the official mediation for 6 months
while my stbx attends an impatient Rehabilitation facility for substance
abuse some people in both my last post stated that she might have a substance
abuse issue but I didn't even think about it because I couldn't even fathom
that I talked to my lawyer and he said that we would discuss it and get back
with them about our decision on that before we left my stbx spoke literally
for the first time and asked me to read a letter she had written me my lawyer
gave me that this could be a snake so be careful look and I debated with myself
for a moment but decided to take it when I got home I read it and now I wish I
hadn't it started off with all those busted cheater platitudes that everyone
warned me about I love you I love our family I know I'm mistreated son and I
hate myself for it I want us again but she did explain that after a major
surgery she had about 2 years ago she started abusing her medication after a
while she started buying them from some of the people she worked with including
AP he became her go to guy and when she ran out of money she started sleeping
with him to make up the difference she said she hid this from me because she
was afraid I would make her stop and she
couldn't feel right without them anymore that he meant nothing to her but a fix
and she hates her for doing what she's done both to herself and to us now she
says she understands how awful what she's done is and wants to get better
for our family and asks me to at least give her some time to prove she wants
this and let me State for the record I will never get back with my wife our
marriage was over the moment she cheated on me and abused our son but damn where
the F was I while all this was going on I just feel like the most naive obtuse
idiot to ever walk the earth and furthermore how should I approach this
from here am I just throwing her away or
am I still justified in feeling betrayed I feel like such a failure as a husband
and a father right now I mean I feel nothing for her but anger and resentment
but is this how you treat someone fighting the Demon she's fighting more
info I know that she doesn't get the benefit of the doubt anymore and I can't
risk my sonk well-being for her anymore she has to do this on her own after
reading the comments here I'm wondering if she didn't send me that letter to set
herself up so she would have an excuse to keep going down the spiral so to
speak I was told that not showing compassion is not the same thing as
being vindictive I need to internalize that for myself letting her fall isn't
the same thing as kicking her when she's down she has put me in an impossible
situation to help her because I cannot risk my son feeling betrayed by me I am
still going through with a divorce but I may contact her treatment facility to
see if I might be able to support her from a distance I want to support her as
a fellow human being and for the love we really did share at one point in time
but my son is my number one priority right now also my lawyer was ready to
pop the champagne when I read him her note he said it's a clear-cut admission
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AIT for refusing to attend My Best Friend's Wedding because she wants me to
wear an oversized suit I'm a woman Rita 29f and I 31f have been best friends for
nearly a decade but ever since she announced she was getting married our
friendship has been unraveling at supersonic speed starting with her
picking her sister-in-law to be her maid of honor even though they barely knew
each other I've been getting over all of the shenanigans she's been pulling by
saying that it's her wedding her rules but this one is the straw that broke the
camel's back Friday she revealed what dresses she picked for the bridesmaid
very Lov green gown she then took me aside and requested that unlike the
other bides Maids I wear a suit not just any suit but one she picked herself
which was an oversized badly tailored green suit that honestly looked like
something The Riddler would wear if he had to shop in a Gotham Goodwill on a
tight budget I'm not talking trendy oversized I'm talking a 10 times too big
badly tailored men's suit her reasoning was that me being in a dress at her
wedding would make her uncomfortable and she would overthink that I was drawing
too much attention because of my body shape I'm a small woman with big assests
and an exaggerated hourglass figure there's nothing I can do about it it's
just how the women in my family are built and if anything I were loose
clothing to avoid any unwanted remarks or attention and because I'm not the
biggest fan of how I look I've never worn a suit in my life but I tried to
reason with her and ask if I could pick the one I had to wear myself but she
refused I floated like 10 dresses by her which were very unflattering on me and
loose as hell but she still refused I told her me being dressed like a clown
would be what would actually attract the attention but she's adamant that's the
only solution so I tore off the Band-Aid myself and told her I wasn't coming to
her wedding since there was there was no way I was going to wear what she wanted
me to she accused me of being selfish uncaring and vain I live in a small town
and news of this traveled fast since her soon Tobe husband thought it was
appropriate to spread the info to anybody and everybody a couple of people
have made some passive aggressive remarks saying I should basically suck
it up since she's been a great friend towards me for a decade which is true I
feel like since I've just lost my one best friend over something so stupid
but at the same time I feel like the whole thing is humiliating with how
outrageous it is AIT a Reddit should I have tried to reason more | give me a good story on AITAHforrefusingtoattendmybestfriendsweddingbecauseshewantsmetowearanoversizedorig |
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busted my wife cheating so I ended her a fair partner's marriage I'm at a
complete loss I don't know what to do there were signs and I overlooked them I
was blinded by love and never imagined this would happen to me not with her my
wife and best friend of nearly 20 years I work out of town and wasn't supposed
to be back until tonight we were supposed to leave for a twoe road trip
tomorrow things were slow at work so I came home yesterday afternoon this trip
was to give us a little alone time since we've been so busy with family and
friends this summer when I got home there was a truck in my driveway that I
didn't recognize my neighbor just recently asked me how I like the new
truck but I thought he was mistaken and didn't think much of it as soon as I
could see the truck I got a terrible gut feeling I love my wife and trusted her
completely but that feeling was there and strong I snuck around the side of
the house to our bedroom window it was open and I could hear them as I got
close I looked in the window and my worst fear was confirmed they were right
there completely naked on my bed I walked away I've been fighting the urge
to do something that I know I will regret I'm struggling to care what
happens to me at this point I went to my family's cabin for the night and drank
everything there today I was on my way home to conf front her and decided
against it I'm not ready all I can feel is anger all I can think about is
violence I'm not in a good place right now not good enough to see her I'm back
at the cabin right now I have a 60 ounces of rum and I've been staring at
it for an hour I want to get drunk and forget this but I don't want to get
drunk and make bad decisions I know this is a critical moment in my life and my
actions in the coming days will dictate the rest of my life that's why I'm here
I need help I'm not ready to speak to family or friends so I'm reaching out to
strangers this world update busted wife cheating
the amount of support and advice I've received is unbelievable I actually got
choked up just realizing how many great people there are out there willing to
help a stranger it gives me a bit of Hope for the world at a moment when I
needed it most the downside to all of this support is that I am struggling to
respond to people I have over 600 private messages on R and several
hundred comments on red I want to say thank you to everyone individually and
I'm going to make an effort to do that but it won't be quick so I will just
start by giving a big thank you to everyone for your kind messages and
helpful advice it really means a lot to me I have noticed several comments and
questions that keep popping up and wanted to provide clar in addition to my
minor update if you can't tell I am feeling a lot better today the pain
almost completely went away I still feel like I've been punched in the gut but
otherwise I begun looking to the Future it has been 2 days so this doesn't seem
right to me is this a calm before the storm or am I just freakishly resilient
as for the questions and comments I've received here are some cliff notes to
clarify some things when I said wife and best friend I was referring to the two
roles my wife played in my life the other guy was not my best friend or even
someone I knew I didn't get a great look
at him but from the quick and seeing his vehicle I don't feel like this is
someone I know we do not have kids we were planning to have them soon though
we recently sold our house and we set to move closer to my job in September when
the new owners take possession I am going to thank my neighbor but I'm going
to do it subtly like he did for me a lot of people have been asking me about the
signs I mentioned overlooking off the top of my head here are a few was
texting abnormally late at night went for after workor drinks with friends
regularly this was not like her but I was glad that she was being social she
had yoga once a week but was apparently not paying because one of her co-workers
was the instructor and she was helping with setup and cleanup I also thought
she was very inflexible for someone who went to yoga unknown caller Hang-Ups we
regularly answer each other's phones if we are closer to it several times she
had an unknown caller who would hang up as soon as I answered we get a lot of
spam calls but usually it's a telemarketer or a debt collector looking
for the previous owner of the number rarely it's a hang-up the update is a
work in progress when my brother arrived we had a good long talk he has been my
true best friend and I realized I need to always remember that and know that he
will always be there for me without judgment the same way I would be for him
he really sets the standard for what a true friendship is even if we fight on
occasion since I was supposed to be home last night I decided to respond to my
wife's text we aren't allowed to have phones on site so it was reasonable for
me to only be texting her she knows it's easy for me to sneak in some texts I
wrote her and said I needed to go to one of my company's remote sites and
wouldn't be able to call her until the end of the weekend I told her that I
would cancel all of the reservations and
rebook later she said she could take her
best friend with her this weekend to the
romantic bed and breakfast on a Vineyard that I booked I knew it wasn't the best
friend she wanted me to think would be going I told her that I already gave it
to my brother and his wife since it was non-refundable and they would pay me
back in a month this morning I canceled all of the reservations except the
Romantic one my brother is coming with me fortunately the hotel let us switch
from the honeymoon suite to a room with two beds there also happens to be a
really nice Lake and boat rentals nearby so this just turned into a long overdue
fishing trip with my brother this means I free for the weekend I don't have to
write her or talk to her for a few days so that relieves some stress and gives
me more time to think I am currently in the mindset to get a divorce I honestly
can't see it any other way my brother is supportive of this but has asked me to
take a few weeks and speak to someone his wife has a friend who is a couple's
counselor and is willing to talk to me on Monday I don't see it changing my
mind but at least it might help untangle some of this mess for me I am also
taking a bunch of the advice on here and
starting to speak to lawyers at the very least to prepare for what I think is
inevitable I want to do this right I've never thought of her as someone who
would try to screw me over but I also never expected her to cheat so I think I
need to be prepared for anything thanks again everyone I'm going to try to enjoy
my weekend as much as possible update 2 busted my wife cheating a lot has
happened in the past few days I'll start
with the less important stuff my brother Matt and I drove nearly 5 hours to the
BNB on the vineyard I really appreciate him being there for me through this it
was more of a venting session than anything but it really helped clear my
head after spending the better part of the drive whining to him I just wanted a
little alone time while he wanted to go out for dinner I stayed in the room and
he went out to eat and took me back some food he also managed to rent a boat for
the next day on Saturday we hit the water the owner of the BNB knew about
our plans for fishing and was nice enough to pack us a small cooler of food
and drinks it was their way of making the Romantic package more useful for two
brothers it was a nice gesture fishing wasn't good we both caught a couple of
trout that we had to release due to their size so the snacks from the BNB
worked out great we stopped fishing at midafternoon and then drove around to
all of The Vineyards and fruit stands buying food and cases of wine for Matt's
wife Jen that night we went for the biggest Tomahawk Steak we could find on
Sunday we drove back to Matt's place he lives in the next town over for me which
is about an hour away from my place when we arrived Jen was there and we all sat
and cracked a bottle of white we had chilling in the cooler this is when the
weekend officially ended for me Jen told me that while we were away that she
decided to go spy on my wife she told me that the guy was at my place on Friday
night all night but on Saturday morning she managed to get there just as he was
leaving she followed him home and found the apartment where he lived my wife
stayed over there on Saturday night the same time she was sending me text
messages saying she loves me and misses me Jen said that she was splitting her
time between visiting family who live in my town and stalking my wife she said
that she happened to catch my wife leaving his apartment on Sunday morning
and took a few pics of them hugging and kissing before she got into her car I
don't want to see them that pretty much sealed the deal for me I don't think I
could ever trust her again if she can turn it on and off so easily to tell me
she loves me while being with a different guy still I decided that I am
not going to jump to a knee-jerk reaction based on emotions I need to
remain calm and level that's when Jen told me that Sharon was coming over for
dinner Sharon is the counselor that Jen set me up with an appointment for to
clarify she has never met my wife and this was my first time meeting her as
well Sharon was a very nice person and we got along great after dinner Sharon
and I went for a walk around Matt's neighborhood Hood to walk the dogs and
have a bit of a private conversation Sharon was really helpful in the fact
that she was a great listener and made me feel like I didn't need to be guarded
it was theraputic to be that free with describing my feelings as much as I am
comfortable with my brother this was just different and very needed it's the
same reason why I like writing this on Reddit it's event session that helps me
untangle some of the mess in my head our walk lasted an hour and the only real
advice that Sharon gave me was to not delay the conversation with my wife she
said that the longer I wait the harder it will become to talk to her about this
she said I need Clarity more than anything at this point and my wife is
the only person that can give that to me
later that night Jan and Matt offered me to stay with them for as long as
necessary I know that Matt and I have an expiry period for being in close
quarters with each other so I spoke to my boss who was able to set me up in
company housing I've been staying there every second week for a while but have
to leave on days off he managed to make it work for me to stay full-time for a
few months if I needed I decided to rebook with Sharon for later this week I
figured our walk sufficed for the first session she agreed I spent the night on
Sunday just laying in bed thinking about how to approach this I struggled with
this because even the imaginary scenario in my head was making my angry or sad I
decided I would just wing it I'm usually good Under Pressure yesterday I woke up
and said my goodbyes to Matt and Jen I drove towards home and was thinking what
if he was there when I arrived then I thought that it would likely just put me
back in the angry spot I was a few days ago I decided to do a drive by first
neither his truck or my wife's car were there I went inside and grabbed a bunch
of Essentials and things I don't want to part with mainly just some photos and
old family heirlooms I got them all packed up in my truck and then headed
over to the guy apartment her car wasn't
there either but his truck was I decided to ride her to see where she was she
said she was getting groceries I trust her so little right now that I drove by
the grocery store and actually confirmed she was there I feel so dirty admitting
that I did that but my trust is broken and it's the only way I can be certain
of anything I wrote her again and told her to just come home because we need to
talk she wrote back what's wrong I just responded and said she needs to be ready
to be honest and then turned my phone off she got home 15 minutes later when
she came in she came over to give me a hug and kiss like she does every time I
turned away from her she asked me again what was wrong so I told her that she
needs to start being honest with me she played Dumb and said she had no idea
what I was talking about I said okay if you can't be honest them I am leaving
she started panicking at this point and said are you talking about yoga I
figured it was a start I asked her what she was talking about and she told me
that she hadn't been going to yoga here's a bit of a breakdown of the rest
of the conversation me if you weren't going to yoga then where were you going
her I was taking walks to relax because I've been so stressed lately me why were
you so stressed and why did you lie to me about what you were doing her prepar
for the move has been stressing me out and I just didn't know how to tell you
me so lying was the decision you made what was your concern with telling me
that you were going for a walk to D stress her I didn't mean to lie I was
worried that my stress would add to your
stress me but I'm not stressed it really seems like you are not telling me
everything her what do you mean me I think that you're lying about more than
just skipping yoga I am asking you again to be honest you've already lied to me
so this can't work if you keep lying her
I don't know what else to say oh are you talking about last week weekend when I
went for drinks with some friends and came home late I had a feeling that
bothered you I had no clue that she went
for drinks or was out late I was at work a couple hours away me is that what you
actually did that night or was that a lie as well her I went for drinks that
night but I didn't see her best friend who she supposedly was with that night
me who did you see her no one I just drank alone me you drink alone now her
yeah maybe I have a problem me maybe we'll talk about that later last chance
be or I'm leaving her um I don't know what else to say me okay I'm leaving at
this point I got up and left usually when we have an argument I go for a
drive to get away from her she probably thought this was the same then she
realized I took my clothes and toiletries as well as the Xbox that's
when she began blowing up my phone I told her that I gave her a chance to be
honest and she didn't so there's nothing left to say she begged and pleaded with
me to come home to talk about this in person she said she had no idea why I
was so upset or what I think she did she repeated that she loved me and would
never hurt me just hearing her say that really tore a new hole in my chest it
was always comforting words that I believed without question now it's a
dull Jagged knife sawing through my heart in the most devastating way I
couldn't handle it so I hung up she called back about 40 times before I was
ready to answer again this time she said did you talk to Karen her best friend I
asked why and she said come home I don't
want to say this over the phone I agreed and drove around a little longer to get
my heart rate back down then I went home that conversation went like this her I
assume you spoke to Karen me her well a few weeks ago while you were at work we
went for drinks a couple of guys started
buying us drinks so we just played along when we were leaving one of the guys
tried to kiss me I pulled away immediately and told him I was married I
felt so bad about it and wanted to tell you but I'm an idiot and just decided to
hide it from you Karen hooked up with the other guy and gave his friend my
number without asking me he has texted me a few times since but I have never
written him back me can I see your phone her yes she showed me her phone which
was completely empty of texts except for myself and her mother she never deletes
her texts so this was new I looked at her photos which was also clean but then
I checked the deleted photos and found one of a guy I didn't recognize me who
is this her that's the guy who tried to kiss me me why did you take a picture of
him her I was just being stupid me that's not a reason why did you take a
picture of him her I don't know me is that everything you want to tell me or
is there more her that's all I can think
of once again I left I didn't want to be trickle truthed I got in my truck and
drove away she ran out side trying to stop me but I was already Out Of Reach I
went to the park nearby and just sat on my tailgate and ate my lunch trying to
figure out what to do next while there I began remembering other things that I
should have been more aware of things like I was working a weekend shift and
was in bed early my wife went out to the club with a few of her girlfriends I
woke up at 4:00 a.m. and she still wasn't home I called her a few times but
there was no answer about 30 minutes later she called me back and asked if I
would come and get her when I picked her up she told me that they were trying to
hail a taxi but had no luck a couple of guys that her friend knew stopped and
offered them a ride but wanted to stop at home first when they got to the GU
house her married friend went into room with one of the guys my wife said she
spent some time looking for her but then eventually gave up and just had a drink
in the kitchen with the roommates while she waited she claims she didn't hear
her phone when I tried calling we fought about this and she was disgusted by her
friend's actions so she cut that friend out of her life I thought that was over
another time she traveled to visit a close friend in a different city it was
a planned girls night there were four girls all getting drunk and watching
movies in their PJs at least that's what I was told then she called me around
1:00 a.m. to say a good night we spoke for about 20 minutes and she repeatedly
told me that they were having a great girls night then I heard a guy's voice
in the background I asked who it was and she denied hearing anything at first
then it happened again loudly she couldn't deny it so she was like oh yeah
X took a couple of guys with her everyone here is super pissed about it
she was drunk and 3 hours away she left me no choice but to trust her again we
fought about that and why she refused to tell me they were there she promised
never to put herself in that type of situation again clearly that didn't
stick after remembering all of those things and the conversations we had
about them I was ready to give this one last shot I turned my phone back on and
almost immediately it rang I answered and she was screaming for me to come
home I drove back to the house I walked inside and was immediately confronted by
her balling her eyes out she was sitting on the couch repeating I'm so sorry I'm
so sorry I asked her sorry for what she began rocking back and forth like a
crazy person it took her a good 5 minutes to catch her breath enough to
speak her I lied about the guy who tried
to kiss me me okay tell me what happened
her the four of us actually went back to his place that night we fooled around I
knew it was more than that but just hearing her say it made me feel dizzy it
felt like the room was getting smaller and there were a million people speaking
into my ears at the same time I think I was having a panic attack I went to the
bathroom and washed my face in cold water until things returned to normal me
what did you do her do you want me to actually tell you me yes her he fingered
me and I gave him a blow job me was that it her yes me I'm not playing this game
any longer you either tell me everything right now or this will be the last time
we speak she began balling again and took another few minutes before she was
able to speak her we met up again and had sex I'm so sorry I love you and we
do anything to make up for this me just the one time her if I tell you the truth
please give me a chance to do anything I can to make up for it please me I'll
think about it her it was an affair we had been hooking up while you're out of
town for work it's been going on for almost a month now he is married and
they are about to get divorced me does he know you're married her yes me if
he's having an affair because his marriage is failing does that mean you
think ours is failing is that what you told him her no I don't think ours is
failing I'm so stupid I hate myself please don't leave me I can fix this me
how her whatever you want me if you were in my shoes or even his wife's shoes
what would fix this for you her knowing the truth being able to trust you to
mean what you are saying you can trust me I screwed up and won't do that again
me if you were his wife wouldn't you want to know the truth her yes me then
fix this her you want me to call her me if you think that is what you would want
she tried calling but never got an answer a few minutes later her cell
phone rang it was listed as Karen work she looked shocked so I knew that wasn't
Karen I asked if that was him she said it was I answered and being the coward
he is he said oops I must have the wrong number I said no this is the husband of
the girl you've been cheating with I'm going to let you speak to her because
she has something to say to you I passed her the phone her I told him everything
he knows the entire truth we're done it was just a fling and now you need to
never contact me again I asked to see the phone before she hung up me what
divorce lawyer are you using him I'm not getting divorced me oh but didn't you
tell me wife that you were him no me okay then can I speak to your wife I
feel she has as much right to know about this as I do him please man I didn't
know she was married don't ruin my marriage over a mistake me you ruin mine
over a mistake it's only fair that I tell your wife him please don't she's at
work right now I will tell her everything when she gets home I swear me
okay you do that that's where I hung up I asked my wife if she knew where his
wife worked and her name she did I had my wife call over and ask for her at
work she did get her on the phone and told her to take a seat this woman said
she was just getting ready to leave for the day and she would call my wife back
from her car she did his wife what's going on my wife I have something
terrible to tell you and I don't want to cause any accidents please don't drop
his wife OMG did something happen too his name my wife no no he's at your
apartment right now I am just letting you know that we have been having an
affair for a month now I'm coming clean to my husband right now and thought you
should be given the same respect she went silent for about a minute then said
If this is some sick joke I will find out who you are then she hung up not
even 10 minutes later my wife got a text from Karen work saying thanks you just
ruined my life I grabbed the phone and wrote back you just ruined four lives
and two marriages don't forget that this was your fault you piece of for the
next hour my wife begged and pleaded with me to stay with her she offered
counseling she offered to never leave my side she even offered me sexual favors
this was everything that I expected thanks to the comments in here she then
said we should go on that vacation her treat we need time away was her reason
we need to spend some quality time together because my work schedule has
been pushing us apart lately also exactly what I expected her to say she
wasn't expecting me to tell her that I went anyway she also wasn't expecting me
to tell her that I already have counseling booked for myself she
definitely wasn't expecting me to tell her that I busted her on my very own bed
I could only imagine she didn't expect me to have a place already lined up to
stay when I told her all of that she fell to the floor balling she started
saying how she doesn't deserve to live she told me I should just kill her right
now because she's too terrible to be with anyone it went on like that for a
while I stayed for a total of 4 hours listening to her make excuses then try
to hug me or cuddle me or even blow me if I would just stay and work through
this with her in the end I called Karen and told her that her cheating friend is
suicidal and that she should come keep an eye on her then I left it's been
almost a full day since that went down and I haven't spoken to her since she
has been calling and texting me all day her friends and family have been calling
and texting me all day everyone has a different excuse or a different plea for
empathy her father is the only one who wrote me and told me that I need to do
what is best for me and that he will always love me like a son no matter what
happens reading that was what made me have a good cry for the first time since
all of this began I meet with Sharon my counselor tomorrow and a lawyer on
Thursday I think I know where this is going but until it happens I'm just not
sure about anything I'm sorry for the overly long-winded story it just helps
to vent in this way again I really appreciate all of the comments and
messages the people sharing their own stories like this are really helping me
feel less broken and giving me more hope
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aita for leaving photographic evidence of my husband cheating somewhere his
parents should not have looked tldr my husband cheated with a man I had
pictures his mom Snoop his parents are making his life difficult I f30 ke
asteris K my husband 28 out of my house it was my house prior to us getting
married and it remains my house now I knew when I married him that he was Bice
asterisk U I was okay with it as long as he understood that we were monogamous I
said that I would never agree to an open relationship and if that was what he
wanted he needed to be with someone else
he agreed and said that I was the person
he wanted to be with and that I was more than enough to satisfy him he lied I
found out he was having an affair with a
man I went through his iPad and took all the pictures for myself graphic in a
maple Thorp kind of way when I confronted him he became physically
aggressive I was scared he calmed down when I got Siri to call 911 he left
anyway I did not want him in my house again ever when he wanted his things I
asked him to make a list and send it to me I found every single thing on the
list I asked him where to send the box he said he would pick it up I told him
that I would not let him set foot in my house and that I would call the cops if
he tried he said he would send friends to get his stuff I said I would leave
his box ow a crap with the front desk at my work he didn't want to make them
drive into the city we compromised and I agreed to give his parents a temporary
code for my house they are lovely people and I trusted them I could see
everything on my security system and I would know if he tried getting into my
house the deal was that they would use the code get the box from the front
entrance then close and lock the door easy peasy lemon squeezy instead it went
difficult difficult lemon Fu asteris Ked
I guess he didn't have everything on his
list he asked them to get something from my bedroom not the deal at all I had my
pictures of his infidelity in my room and my chest of drawers in an envelope
so to reiterate to find these pictures his mom had to go past our agreed limit
into my house she then had to enter my bedroom open my chest of drawers open an
envelope and look at what was inside I felt violated watching the video then I
giggled like a little kid it was hilarious I see them come into the house
they use the code and open the door his dad comes in and grabs the box he goes
back to their vehicle with the Box his mom hesitates before walking into my
house and going to my room she goes to my chest and opens the top drawer where
we kept a box full of jewelry she sees an envelope with his name on it she
looks around I'm not sure why then she looks at the cont tense she screams I
assume since I have my feet on video only then she Stuffs the pictures back
and closes the drawer and goes running for the truck my father-in-law comes to
the door locks it and leaves I guess he never told his parents about his
proclivities to say that this has created a problem for him is to take it
lightly I get a call from him he says I left the pictures out for his parents to
find I did not I should have scattered them on top of the box his parents
picked up but that felt cruel and unnecessary like I said I have always
found them to be love people I told him where the pictures were he said that he
forgot about a ring he left off the list
and he told his mom where it should be I said I would have tossed it in the box
if he told me he said he forgot until they were on their way he is upset that
his parents know he is a power bottom he is not happy at their house now and he
is going to find somewhere else to stay he said I'm an for causing this
problem I think there are other candidates for Hood him for
cheating him for getting his parents to go against our agreement his mom for
going against our agreement his mom for snooping his parents for homophobia | give me a good story on AITAHforleavingphotographicevidenceofmyhusbandcheatingsomewherehisparentsshouldnotorig |
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it TAA for serving my son-in-law's food
on a kid's plate I will try to make this quick I host dinners for the family and
that includes all of the in-laws the past year and a half has been a
nightmare my son-in-law cannot deal with food touching that's fine so when I
plate up his stuff I make sure it's not touching at any point in the meal if the
food falls into the other food then he apparently can't eat it then he makes a
huge deal about it and I either have to give him more or deal with him usually
needing with an argument I have tried to get the whole family to just serve
themselves but they think it is rude so that doesn't work I have given smaller
portions to him to make sure nothing ever touches but if I do that I get
accused of starving him also I have talked about this so many times with him
and my daughter I had a dinner yesterday and search is on one of those kids
plates since I figured it has the mini walls and will prevent everything from
touching he blew up and we got in an argument the rest of the family is split
on the issue but some found it funny a it t a | give me a good story on AITAforservingmysoninlawsfoodonakidsplateaitaredditstoriesredditaitaorig |
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wibta if I am 14 refuse to attend family Christmas unless my parents did
something for me and not for my adopted siblings we have Christmas May 12th
family tradition it's a whole thing I'm planning to not attend unless my parents
say they'll pay attention to just me for something a gift a dinner anything my
parents really like things happening exactly how they imagine them if I'm not
there they'll be pissed that's what I'm going for I guess because there's
nothing else I can reasonably use except whining to get them to listen to me I'm
not going to threaten to not fix the shed or anything just because of this
every single year my siblings get very personal loving gifts that took time and
effort and affection I've pleaded for years for them to get me anything
similar not even anything on the scale they give my siblings just like a $10
bracelet off Etsy with our last initial or something every time I do something
our parents are very careful to praise my siblings along with me they're very
devoted to the idea of making sure otuma 15 and M 12 never feel insecure in our
family which is sweet but they're not worried at all that I might be every
reward I get they get too it doesn't work in Reverse my birthday is a
celebration of all of us their birthdays are just about them to the point I was
politely told not to tell anyone I got a 100 on my Greek exam because the full
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welcome friends to another r slash malicious compliance video we've got
some awesome stories of malicious compliance today and our first story is
from moonlover10792 you want a man to help you no problem
one will clock in soon this happened 16 years ago when i was 20 years old i was
a department manager in a big box hardware store people said i acted 25
but i didn't even look 18. as a young female i saw my fair amount of sexual
discrimination but the worst always came
from women this is the story of one such woman i managed the paint department i
had three associates who worked for me they loved me as a boss because i bought
them at apartment radio and took the shifts they didn't want worked friday
close and saturday mid so my two younger guys could have time to have fun on
friday nights and the older gentlemen took early saturday mornings so they
could sleep off their fun in trade i gave the older gentleman his ideal
schedule my team was awesome one day i was in the department alone and a lady
came up and asked me where she could find the 5 gallon oil based primer i let
her know that my location didn't carry the 5 gallon size of that primer she
told me that we did and said that it was shelved right there while suggesting
that i was too stupid to remember her husband gave me an apologetic look i let
her know that another location had what she was looking for and that it was in
that exact location in that store she let me know how stupid she thought i was
for thinking she could mix up stores then she began yelling loudly and
insisting that i get a man out there to help her because she wanted someone
competent and not a stupid little girl her husband actually tried to step in at
that point but i just smiled and let her
know that a male pain associate would be clocking in any minute and that i'd be
happy to direct him to her as soon as he's on the clock i smiled and waited
for joe to clock in joe was great and i knew he could handle this or i wouldn't
have put him in this situation but joe was also new he was learning things
super quick but still relied on the rest
of us for help when i saw joe walking up
i quickly said that there was a customer who needed help i let him know that she
was upset and asked him to do his best to answer her questions joe walked up to
the lady she said finally a man she asked her question explained where the
product should be and waited joe calmly let her know that he had never seen us
carry a 5 gallon size of oil-based primer but said he could check with the
paint department manager she was happy and loudly said she was happy to be
getting some real help joe walked up to me and started to ask me about 5 gallon
oil-based primers the lady quickly walked up and asked him what he was
doing he turned and said this is my manager she runs this department the
husband laughed out loud the woman stormed off and i bought joe lunch
despite it working out do you think it was a little mean for o.p to use joe
like this without clueing them into exactly what was going on or considering
everything went to plan was it no harm no foul let me know in the comments down
below our next story is from remarkableyouth504
don't want me to work my notice okay i won't work during my notice this
happened almost five years ago some details are intentionally vague this
will be a long read but i promise it will be worth it in the end i was
working in an organization that was super toxic so much so that we were a
revolving door most employees stayed only a few months to counter this our
management put three months notice into everyone's contract including existing
employees it's not strictly illegal where this happened but very unusual i
believe the idea was to make it harder for employees to find a job outside as
employers don't usually want to wait for
three months however this didn't work as people simply quit and waited for a
month or two before starting their job hunt i was there almost four years i
needed the money so i put up with whatever abuse of crap was thrown at me
my boss was a guy we'll call vince not the actual name now vince was not
particularly good but he sometimes respected the fact that i was the most
tenure to grunt in the organization enter rajesh not the actual name rajesh
was brought in from outside for strategically improving our division
this was quite strange given our division generated the most profits
within months rajesh made the environment even more toxic he pulled
vince's team under him and got vince fired and he actively encouraged us
grunts to spy on each other rajesh also headed out for me from day one to the
state i don't know why he started making
my life more harder than the others this culminated in him taking me aside and
telling me that i was not pulling my weight now at this point i was doing
quite well in the organization plus i was doing a lot of additional work since
only i knew certain systems and processes see high attrition above so i
was quite angry i started looking out i still wasn't brave enough to quit and
start looking fortunately i was able to find a job that was willing to wait the
three months so it was my turn to take rajesh aside and tell him i quit boy
rajesh was pissed he went from denial you can't quit to negotiation what if i
give you a raise at the year end to acceptance thus i was serving my notice
and working away like an honest bee my usual work plus the additional work at
this point i was called by hr and told that rajesh wanted me gone the insane
part was that they wanted me to pay the company for the two and a half months
shortfall in notice i obviously refused then went back and checked the contract
turns out a notice of less than three months could only happen through mutual
consent and the initiating party company
if they wanted me gone sooner or me if i wanted to leave earlier had to
compensate the other party for the shortfall cue the malicious compliance
the next day i stopped doing anything at all i logged in and logged out my hours
and did nothing not my work definitely not the additional responsibilities
soon there was a complete meltdown all around rajesh would pull me into
meetings and scream and try to bully me and i would say nothing but smirk then
they tried to have someone else learn from me so that they could do what i did
remember i said earlier how i was the only one who knew some of the old
systems and processes well now i claimed i didn't really remember any of them so
obviously there could be no hand over soon my workplace turned into a dumpster
fire the hr slash rajesh smartened up and offered to buy out my notice if i
cooperated and helped transition my work i refused then to twist the knife
further i started having meetings with fellow grunts remember everyone was
always a newbie and encouraging them to leave as well hr tried to get me to
leave twice more but i ended up serving the full three months remember the
mutual consent part i just love that knowing like probably a week into this
that they were able to look at this situation and realize
man we really messed up making it a mandatory three-month notice they
thought they were creating a potential fix or a band-aid to something without
realizing how badly they were hampering their whole operation somebody can just
basically do nothing at all and get paid for three months because of them if
anything the best thing op could do was work out that notice then after they're
finally gone say they had a change of heart and if they hire you back you'll
teach somebody new and when they hire you back then go back on to another
three month notice by the way if you're enjoying these stories make sure to hit
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of my daily videos which are chocked full of great stories like our next one
from attack moose gomer not enough onions still okay when i 33 year old
male was 23 i worked at a fast food restaurant chain just off of a busy
freeway slash highway interchange so we were constantly busy i was one of
the people working the line prepping and
wrapping burgers and we had these onions that came in a bag they were freeze
dried that always tasted a little strange to me but customers seemed to
like them a lot while working an incredibly busy friday afternoon shift
we had a gentleman come in through the drive-through made his order a few
burgers and fries but one of the burgers he wanted extra of those onions no big
deal just add the onions wrap up the burger send it to the runner and out the
window the gentleman took his order pulled up a little way past the
drive-through window and checked his food at the time those of us on the line
had no clue yet he did this and then he pulled back around in our drive-thru
line as we were busy he waded through a line of his six cars and when he finally
got back to the order box he told the person on the speaker we didn't make his
extra onion order with enough onions okay again no big deal as we usually put
a small pinch as per company procedure on the burgers generally so when they
say extra it's just another small pinch so he gives us back the burger and we
remake it this time with a couple generous pinches wrap up the burger give
it to the runner into a bag and out the window he pulls forward as we're busy
and rinse and repeat well he comes around again and this time he was being
a jerk and started yelling at us that we were incompetent and didn't know how to
do our jobs cue malicious compliance i had just pulled a fresh ready batch out
of the fridge stuck my hand into the bottom of the container and pulled out a
pound and a half of these rehydrated onions took a look at my 17 year old
manager who knotted his head and piled it on top of his burger which made it
three times the normal size wrapped it up and sent it to the runner who bagged
it and gave it to the customer this time all from the line piled up in the
drive-through to wait and see what would
happen as we're watching the back of his car all we see him is looking down
shaking his head and driving off so we figured that was it until the next shift
when we came into questions from our store manager early 40s about a
complaint the customer had made about unacceptable food practices and
indignant service we explained our side of the story with our 17 year old
manager present with her she laughed and
then said that she had to give us verbal warnings for not following company
procedure which we didn't mind and went about our day i mean what else are you
supposed to do when you've got a customer like that who's berating you
and saying no no more i want more you're not giving me enough at some point
you're just like screw it take the whole container and just leave you might as
well have just lifted off the top bun put the whole thing container and all
right on top of the patty put the bun back on and then just gave it to the guy
in our final story of the days by district equivalent 79 you want to talk
to my manager okay this happened about 13 years ago i was a field service
engineer for a national retail chain basically i was the i.t guy who drove
around on a company vehicle servicing the computer networks in the stores the
way the company was organized there were corporate employees and then there were
retail employees being a corporate employee i received corporate stock as a
small part of my salary and my starting pay was 3 times the rate of any store
manager because i was always putting out fires i often found myself in the
awkward position of dealing with storm managers who honestly thought that they
were the store owners and that i was just the hired help this was truly
ironic as i actually did own a very small piece of the corporation whereas
the store manager did not one day i got orders to replace a server in a store
not too far from my house i worked out of my house but kept parts in the truck
and also the back room of another store nearby so i show up to the store where
the server needed to be replaced it was my second stop of three scheduled that
day i walk in the store wearing my very obvious corporate uniform and named
agwith logo the store owner or retail manager instantly demands to know what
the freak i'm doing in her store i get this all the time nothing new i calmly
explain that my boss wants me to upgrade one of the store servers hardware
replacement and i even show her where it
is that i'll be working i explained that it'll take one hour and that the point
of sale registers might go offline for about five minutes she isn't happy but
she reluctantly allows me into the room where the server is and i start working
when i'm just about done the point of sale registers go down as i'm switching
them to the new server which isn't fully
hooked up yet it was at this point where i realized i've forgotten to bring in a
couple of cables that i need to finish hooking the new server into the store
network so i run out to the truck to get the required cables i'm gone about two
minutes when i get back the store manager is sitting at the table in front
of the server and she's got food spread out all over the table the server is
under the table i tell the store manager i need to finish hooking up the server
gesturing under the table the store manager tells me i'll have to come back
in an hour after her lunch break i'm shocked into total silence then a
cashier bursts into the room panicked that the registers aren't working and
the checkout lines are getting backed up i explained to the manager that i have
to fix the server now or the registers won't work the manager tells me i should
have thought of that before i started working in her lunch break area i calmly
tell the store manager that she'll have to take a break later or find somewhere
else to eat her lunch she tells me i'm rude and incompetent and demands to
speak to my manager immediately okie dokie i call up my manager using my
corporate issue iphone and quickly explain the situation and then walk into
the server room to hand the iphone to the store manager while she's on the
phone with my manager i head out to the front of the store to explain and
apologize that the registers are going to be down for a few more minutes i
can't hear exactly what the store manager is telling to my manager but i
can tell that it's a heated conversation and i clearly hear the word fired
mentioned a few times it's clear that the store owner their retail manager
wants me to be fired for daring to try to interrupt her lunch break
unfortunately for her my direct supervisor was about five to six levels
above the retail district manager so the store manager was complaining loudly
about interrupting my work to the manager of her manager's manager's
manager's manager's manager's manager a few minutes later the store manager
walks out of the room awkwardly balancing bits and pieces of her lunch
spread i immediately go back to work getting the new server up and running
and rebooting the point of sale registers so that they'll be on sync
with the new server and cashiers can get
back to work everyone's happy now except the store owner because her lunch break
was ruined the main part of my task is done now but it takes me about another
15 minutes to clean up my mess and reorganize my truck to get ready for my
next stop which will be about an hour drive from my current location as i'm
doing this i see the retail district manager i've met her before going into
the store she walks back out of the store with the former store manager
who's carrying a box of her personal items somebody let the power of being
the store owner or retail manager go to their head and they wanted to go on a
little power trip like they probably regularly do to somebody who's coming in
to fix stuff up but little did they know as far as hierarchy goes they were just
a house cat hissing at a lion cub who had the real lions on speed dial bye bye
house cat but with that being said that's all the time we have for today so
of all these stories i've read today which is your favorite and why let me
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what was the incident at your high school when I was a freshman in high
school we went into lockdown for an active shooter there were cop cars
swarming the building and helicopters flying above the school it was a whole
ordeal and every student and teacher were obviously scared there was a rumor
floating around that the shooter was in the science hallway which was the
hallway I was in at the time due to all the rumors circulating one science
teacher decided to make a Molotov cocktail to throw at the potential
shooter and another science teacher broke one of his golf clubs he had
stashed away in half for self-defense it
turned out the shooters were people with
paintball guns and both of these science teachers were fired the next day it was
always talked about the remaining years I spent at the high school about how
terribly unfair it was for firing teachers that were in theory trying to
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he refuses to marry her she says itah when our first child was born my ex
forced me to quit my job when our second child was two I found out about his
affair by then he was extremely verbally emotionally and sometimes physically
abusive when he abused our firstborn I put him out that was in 2012 I couldn't
afford daycare to work and had no family support he refused to give me any money
to take care of the kids saying the courts haven't ordered me to give you a
dime he lied to the bank and had my accounts Frozen and even assaulted me
when I filed for default in the divorce the judge finally ordered him to pay
child and spousal support 6 months after I kicked him out it was 2 , 562 a month
he refused to pay it until the garnishment kicked in and by then he was
6K behind in support I used that to get permission to move away I remarried a
year after the divorce I checked the court docks and there was a little box
that said spousal support stopped upon remarriage if that box was checked it
wasn't checked so I figured I was good instead of filing for his retirement I
just took the year of spousal support 12K and left it alone spousal support
was only ordered for 2 years in 2017 he filed for sole custody of the kids out
of nowhere that was when he found out I had remarried and he had paid spousal
support to me during the first year of my marriage | give me a good story on HeRefusestoMarryHerSheSaysITAH |
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:00.120 --> :00.900 Posted by :01.440 --> :05.700
u/Kitchen-Cook7066 4 hours ago :05.700 --> :10.020
AITA for not inviting a kid to
my kids birthday party because I :10.020 --> :11.143
don’t want to deal with her parents
Edit: some asked for more stories, :11.143 --> :11.220
I made a post explaining more. Just
click on my user name and you will see it :11.220 --> :14.880
I have a child in second grade. The
rules of the school is that if you :14.880 --> :20.100
hand out invites on school grounds
everyone needs to be invited. So I :20.100 --> :23.940
instead sent the invites in the mail to
basically the whole class but one kid. :23.940 --> :28.440
The reason is the mother and father
are a nightmare. Their son is fine, :28.440 --> :33.840
but their parents are awful. I could go on
for a while but a few examples. The mom has
:33.840 --> :38.280 chased a kid until she was crying since
she grabbed a toy. The father is know to
:38.280 --> :42.120 get it to fights if anyone has a different
opinion. Mom will freak if you don’t do
:42.120 --> :46.560 stuff their way and they refuse to leave
even if no other parent is there. The mom
:46.560 --> :51.120
tried to stay over a their kids sleepover and
freaked when the person hosting was confused. :51.120 --> :56.700
They are a nightmare and not really
friend with my kid so no invited. They :56.700 --> :00.720
found out and were ticked. The other
parents are also mad that I excluded :00.720 --> :04.680
a kid and now some are not going to the
party. They have told me I am a jerk. :04.680 --> :08.040
Am I? Should I just send an invite and deal with the parents.
:09.720 --> :10.860 Posted by :10.860 --> :25.320
u/Immediate_Law132 5 hours ago :25.320 --> :41.820
AITA for telling all my parents
guests that my room has cannabis :41.820 --> :45.060
candy everywhere but that they are still
welcome to let their kids play in it. :45.060 --> :50.100
I live at home and pay rent. I graduated from
university and I have a good job and I don't
:50.100 --> :53.940 mind contributing to my household. It is
a nicer neighborhood than I could afford
:53.940 --> :58.140 to live in otherwise and it is close to
a bus route that takes me right to work. :58.140 --> :01.920
I keep all of my belongings in my room including my computer,
:01.920 --> :04.500 my television, and my gaming consoles.
:04.500 --> :08.580 My parents often host family and friends
who have children that are bored because
:08.580 --> :13.560
my parents really have nothing for kids since
all of my older siblings and myself got old. :13.560 --> :18.000
I thought I was being nice when I bought an old
Switch and hooked it up in the family room and
:18.000 --> :23.460
added it to my account. That way kids can play
Mario or Zelda and my stuff gets left alone. :23.460 --> :27.900
Recently my aunt came over with
my young cousins. They played for :27.900 --> :31.500
a while but got bored and wanted to
see what other games I had. I said :31.500 --> :35.820
my room was off limits and my mom and aunt
immediately tried to get me to let them in. :35.820 --> :38.940
I said no problem but make sure you don't eat any
:38.940 --> :43.260 of my candy or gummies they see in my
room because they are all weed edibles. :43.260 --> :48.660
Nope. My aunt almost put her kids behind
her like she was protecting them from the
:48.660 --> :52.320 devil. My mom said that I could clean
up my room and put them somewhere safe.
:52.320 --> :57.060 I reminded her that we agreed that if I
was paying rent I got privacy in my room. :57.060 --> :00.840
My dad agreed with me and he got a
locking door handle from the garage :00.840 --> :06.360
and installed it while my mom fumed. (He has EVERYTHING in that garage).
:06.360 --> :10.680 My mom said that I'm being rude by
not sharing my stuff with guests. I :10.680 --> :13.860
asked my aunt if I could borrow her
car to go out with some friends and :13.860 --> :18.960
she immediately said no. I said it was rude
not to share and she called me a smartass. :18.960 --> :22.920
I went to my room and put on my noise
cancelling headphones and played Diablo
:22.920 --> :27.120 and had a couple of gummies from my stash
in the back of my closet where I keep them. :27.120 --> :27.865
Posted by :27.865 --> :30.840 u/ProfessionalAge4351 8 hours ago
:41.160 --> :46.560 AITA for taking away my niece's
car and kicking her out? :46.560 --> :50.940
I have a 19 years old niece. Both her
parents were deadbeats so my siblings :50.940 --> :55.500
and I ended up raising her. She is like a
daughter to all of us and we all adore her. :55.500 --> :57.960
When she was 16 I bought her car for her. :57.960 --> :03.540
When she turned 18 my siblings and I decided that
it's time she become independant. We gave her some
:03.540 --> :08.880
money and told her that while she is welcome to
visit us she can no longer live with any of us. :08.880 --> :13.860
She just started crying and left without a word.
She didn't tell us where she wants to live,
:13.860 --> :18.720 didn't give us any address and didn't
even answer our calls for a year. I :18.720 --> :22.740
finally found her and convinced her to
attend my birthday dinner. My siblings :22.740 --> :27.480
and I were all very happy to see her
again however the dinner was a disaster. :27.480 --> :31.800
She was clearly still mad at us and insulted every single one of us.
:31.800 --> :36.900
She called my sister pathetic and dumb for not
realizing that her husband is cheating on her
:36.900 --> :42.600 which started a huge fight between them. She
called my younger brother a whiny baby that no
:42.600 --> :47.820
one likes and we all only tolerate. My younger
brother has self esteem issues so hearing this,
:47.820 --> :52.020 he believed her and was very mad at
us. She then told me that I really :52.020 --> :57.780
suck at my hobby(I play guitar) and should
do everyone a favor and stop playing it which
:57.780 --> :02.760 really hurt my feeling and she called
my older brother the f word(he is gay) :02.760 --> :06.600
That's when I decided I've heard
enough. I took away her car keys :06.600 --> :09.420
and kicked her out. My brothers
all think I did the right thing :09.420 --> :13.860
but my sister is very upset that I kicked
her out and she is worried that she will
:13.860 --> :18.540 go nc with us again but I couldn't just
stand there and let her insult all of us :18.540 --> :24.360
Edit: ok ok I get it now. We thought kicking
her out at 18 was ok because that's what our
:24.360 --> :29.040 parents did when we turned 18. Looking
back, choosing my parents as role model
:29.040 --> :33.540 was probably a mistake, there is a reason
none of us talk to our parents anymore. :33.540 --> :38.160
Anyway I'll give her car back and I'll
tell her she can move back in and I'll :38.160 --> :41.760
support her as long as she needs it
though I don't think she'll move back :41.760 --> :45.840
in with me. We will all apologize and hopefully she will forgive us
:45.840 --> :49.800 Though I still expect her to
apologize from her aunt. My :49.800 --> :53.520
sister has been nothing but nice to her
and she was the only one who didn't want
:53.520 --> :57.060 to kick her out and only had to do
it because her husband forced her. :58.440 --> :58.680 Posted by
:58.680 --> :15.900 u/ZealousidealTea5062 15 hours ago
:23.040 --> :37.800 AITA for refusing to stop kissing my own baby?
My husband (M25) and I (F25) have a six-week-old
:37.800 --> :41.700 daughter. She's our first baby and the
first grandchild in both of our families.
:41.700 --> :46.860 We were advised by our pediatrician to
not allow anyone besides ourselves to :46.860 --> :51.480
kiss our baby for the first 8-12 weeks
minimum. This has been communicated to :51.480 --> :55.560
both of our families who have been
respectful of this (as well as our :55.560 --> :00.120
other boundaries/rules) despite a little
bit of grumbling about it from his side. :00.120 --> :05.400
Last weekend we were over at my in-laws house and
I had just finished breastfeeding my daughter,
:05.400 --> :10.560 so she was all sleepy. I kissed her forehead
before settling her to nap on my chest. :10.560 --> :16.200
My MIL noticed and immediately remarked on
it in a super passive-aggressive manner:
:16.200 --> :21.660
"Oh, I'm so glad that we're able to kiss [baby]
now! Did your pediatrician update the rules?" :21.660 --> :27.540
I was super confused and asked her what she meant
and that the pediatrician's recommendation hadn't
:27.540 --> :33.000
changed. She then accused me of violating the
rules by kissing my own baby. I told her that
:33.000 --> :37.800 the recommendation was that no one besides
myself and my husband kiss our daughter,
:37.800 --> :43.200 and she argued and heavily implied that I
was being dishonest because I'd previously
:43.200 --> :49.020 said "nobody can kiss the baby" rather than
"nobody but husband and I can kiss the baby." :49.020 --> :54.420
She went on and on about this until I snapped
that it should've been obvious that the rules
:54.420 --> :00.120
we told her regarding our baby were about what
we would/wouldn't allow OTHER PEOPLE people to
:00.120 --> :05.460 do. She called me a hypocrite so I got up
and shut myself in the guest room while my
:05.460 --> :09.240 daughter continued to nap on me.
A little while later MIL came in :09.240 --> :15.780
and "apologized," claiming it was a kneejerk
reaction and she was just confused and upset.
:15.780 --> :20.820 She said she understands now that the rule
only applies to other people. She then asked
:20.820 --> :25.500 me if I would avoid kissing my baby in front
of her until she's allowed to do so as well,
:25.500 --> :28.920 because it's upsetting to see me
doing that and knowing that she can't. :28.920 --> :34.620
I told her I can understand that it's frustrating
to have strong urge to kiss a baby and not be able
:34.620 --> :40.800
to. But I am personally not going to stop kissing
my own baby for the sake of her feelings. MIL
:40.800 --> :51.840
is calling me disrespectful and a hypocrite and
has gotten SIL on board with this as well. AITA? :53.400 --> :54.960
Posted by :54.960 --> :03.300 u/MayhemBabies 15 hours ago
:04.200 --> :13.140 AITA for telling my brother that I told him
so and that his personality is the problem? :13.140 --> :20.940
My (F28) brother (M30) has always been a
bit "my way or the highway". He also loves
:20.940 --> :25.620 to tell you that he told you so if you dare
to do something differently to his suggestion
:25.620 --> :32.220
and it goes the wrong way. My brother's wife,
Cindy (F29), is honestly an angel of a person,
:32.220 --> :36.660
and her patience is never ending. I genuinely
believe that their marriage is held together
:36.660 --> :41.940 by her patience, because I would have had
it with my brother a long time ago. They
:41.940 --> :46.560 were married five years ago, and Cindy gave
birth to a beautiful baby boy a month ago. :46.560 --> :51.540
During the pregnancy, whenever I would ask about
names, Cindy always said that they had not been
:51.540 --> :56.820 able to agree on anything yet. During these
conversations, my brother would say, "Well,
:56.820 --> :00.540 we all know what I think we should name
the baby, and it is up to Cindy to come
:00.540 --> :04.080 up with something better if she doesn't
like it." Cindy would always laugh when
:04.080 --> :08.160 my brother said this and would say something
about finding something they both agreed on,
:08.160 --> :12.300 but it certainly seemed like my brother
had made up his mind. For reference, :12.300 --> :17.640
the name my brother was adamant about
was Joseph, which Cindy really disliked. :17.640 --> :22.560
By the time Cindy went into labour, her and my
brother had a short list of three names which
:22.560 --> :27.540 Cindy said they would choose from once they
had met the baby and seen his face. Joseph was
:27.540 --> :33.180
not on the list. Unfortunately, there were some
complications during the birth and Cindy had to
:33.180 --> :38.760
be rushed to emergency surgery while my brother
dealt with all the paperwork. I am sure you can
:38.760 --> :44.700
see where this is going - he put Joseph on the
birth certificate while Cindy was unconscious. :44.700 --> :50.640
It seems that this was the straw that broke the
camel's back, and Cindy has filed for divorce.
:50.640 --> :56.100 My brother is suddenly crying to the world
and their dog that his wife's pregnancy and
:56.100 --> :01.200
post-partum hormones have gotten the better of
her, and she is throwing away their lives over
:01.200 --> :07.500
a temper tantrum. He also said that she would come
to realise Joseph is a good/strong name. I admit,
:07.500 --> :12.840 it was probably not my finest moment, but I
have been telling my brother for years that
:12.840 --> :17.220 Cindy's patience would come to an end,
and so I said that I had told him so. :17.220 --> :23.160
I also told him that I will do anything and
everything I can to support Cindy through this,
:23.160 --> :29.040 and that if he is looking for someone to
blame, it is 100% on him and his "my way
:29.040 --> :33.720 or the highway" personality. I said that
no reasonable or kind person would have
:33.720 --> :38.160 used their wife being unconscious as
an opportunity to get their own way. :38.160 --> :43.380
Now my family are telling me I used this as
an opportunity to be vindictive rather than
:43.380 --> :49.980 supportive, and I can't possibly understand
what divorce is like. My mom (F58) told me
:49.980 --> :54.420 that I have clearly been holding a grudge
against my brother and couldn't wait to rub
:54.420 --> :58.920 his face in something. She has said that I
am not invited to any family events until I
:58.920 --> :03.540 apologise to my brother and promise to
support him in the divorce over Cindy. :04.860 --> :06.300 Posted by
u/IndividualSource7810 :06.300 --> :07.800 18 hours ago
:11.220 --> :29.280 AITA for teaching my son to call
me dad against his mother's wishes? :29.280 --> :35.520
I had a one-night stand with a woman (Mary) I
didn't know at a party in 2016. About a year
:35.520 --> :40.860 ago someone reached out and told me she
knew Mary and her (now 6yo) son was mine.
:40.860 --> :44.520 This person hadn't known my name until
meeting another friend of mine and they
:44.520 --> :49.860 figured it out. Apparently Mary had started
dating someone (Jon) just after we hooked up,
:49.860 --> :56.580
then found out she was pregnant. Mary and Jon
got serious, got married, and Jon adopted my son. :56.580 --> :01.620
After I found out, I got a lawyer and
filed for custody in my state. Mary and
:01.620 --> :04.860 Jon fought me through the whole
process, telling me not to break :04.860 --> :09.900
up their family (they have a younger
daughter). After lots of legal fees, :09.900 --> :16.380
I finally forced a paternity test and got every
other weekend. My intent is to keep pushing until
:16.380 --> :22.380
I have 50/50 custody. I looked into reversing
the adoption but it is basically impossible,
:22.380 --> :27.600 so I'll probably have to wait until my
son is 18 and then do it with his consent. :27.600 --> :31.980
I have been having my son over for the past
few months and it's been great. He gets along
:31.980 --> :37.620
great with my GF too. He understands that I'm
his father but of course he calls Jon dad. I'm
:37.620 --> :42.060 not trying to get him to stop that because I
don't want to confuse him or make him uneasy,
:42.060 --> :47.760 but last weekend I did tell him that he can
call me dad too instead of Mr. Lastname like
:47.760 --> :51.900 his mom told him too. He seemed fine with
it and called me dad while he was with me. :51.900 --> :55.620
His mom found out and has been pestering me all week,
:55.620 --> :00.960 saying I'm a sperm donor and Jon is his real
dad and she'll take me to court for parental
:00.960 --> :06.360 alienation. The last thing she said was that
I can be an uncle but my son only has one dad. :06.360 --> :08.400
I'm ignoring most of what she said, :08.400 --> :13.380
but I am wondering if AITA for asking
my son to call me dad in this situation. :16.740 --> :19.380
Posted by :19.380 --> :30.420 u/Substantial-Gas5463 20 hours ago
:32.640 --> :42.646 AITA for telling my wife I
don't care if she likes beards? :42.646 --> :44.040
Not the A-hole My wife and I have been married
:44.040 --> :49.920
for going on 10 years. We met in our mid-20s and
are now in our mid 30s. When my wife and I met
:49.920 --> :55.740
my facial hair admittedly was patchy. But as the
years have passed and I have aged my facial hair
:55.740 --> :01.860
is now full and supple. I have always wanted to
grow a nice long beard like the masculine men I
:01.860 --> :07.140
saw growing up. I always admired it. Throughout
my relationship with my wife I have normally
:07.140 --> :12.960
kept just scruff on my face. But I have also told
my wife about my desire to grow out my beard. Her
:12.960 --> :19.020
reaction is always to tell me who that's gross or
you need to shave you look disgusting. This is now
:19.020 --> :24.600
happened enough times that I finally blew up and
said babe I I don't give a f*** if you like beards
:24.600 --> :29.940
or not! So am I the a****** for telling my wife
I don't care about her preference on my beard? :31.560 --> :31.663
Posted by :31.663 --> :31.980 u/Backupakcount 1 day ago
:34.260 --> :58.786
AITA for laughing at my Ex and her husband for
asking to have our daughter for another month
:58.786 --> :00.060 Not the A-hole For some context
:00.060 --> :08.760
I(46M) was married to my ex-wife Ida(46F) for 21
years before she cheated and remarried to her now
:08.760 --> :13.800 dick of a husband Dan(48M). We
have 4 kids together. Henry(28M), :14.880 --> :22.800
Zach(26M), Cam(25M) and Rory(15F). This
situation only really involves Rory. :22.800 --> :27.780
Since My boys were teens/young adults when we
divorced they got to choose who they lived with.
:27.780 --> :33.360 Rory on the other hand didn't. I have Rory
most of the time I pay for her schooling,
:33.360 --> :39.000
medical, extra curriculars, ect. While Ida and
Dan get her every other Holiday and don't really
:39.000 --> :44.460 pay for stuff. Well For the 4th of July Rory
went over to Ida and Dan's then stayed there
:44.460 --> :49.260 until about a week before school started.
Rory confided in me that the whole time she
:49.260 --> :53.520
was there She couldn't really do anything fun
and was stuck watching her younger siblings
:53.520 --> :57.840 while Dan and Ida went out. She told me she
felt like a babysitter more than a daughter,
:57.840 --> :02.820 which hurt my heart for Rory, since she
was really excited to see her mother. She
:02.820 --> :07.320 also told me she'd like to stick with visits
again and not staying for a whole month or 2. :07.320 --> :13.980
Well about 2nights ago I got a call from Ida, she
seemed happy and started talking about Rory and
:13.980 --> :19.080
how she liked it there. She continued to ramble
a bit before asking for me to ask Rory about
:19.080 --> :25.500
staying another month. I laughed which caused
Ida to be mad and she hung up. Dan texted me
:25.500 --> :30.660
calling me an butt for laughing at her, and my
brother said it was kind of mean to do. AITA?? :30.660 --> :31.725
Posted by :31.725 --> :35.760 u/morningstarbuckspost
21 hours ago :37.740 --> :53.760
AITA for not getting my younger kids
Starbucks every day because my wife does
:53.760 --> :54.780 it with our older two? Not the A-hole
:54.780 --> :01.980 My wife and I adopted Mila (10), Grace (5),
and Lucas (4) from foster care. Grace and
:01.980 --> :05.610 Lucas were in a very loving home that
would’ve adopted them if they could. We
:05.610 --> :09.360 are still in contact with their foster
parents and see them every few months. :09.360 --> :13.380
Mila’s home was horrible. She was
the first one that came to us and :13.380 --> :17.820
we spent nearly a month in the hospital
and she needed a feeding tube when she :17.820 --> :21.960
came home. Mila has some special needs
that are a direct result of that home. :21.960 --> :27.120
A few months ago we got a call asking if
we could take a 14 year old girl, Cassie,
:27.120 --> :32.640
from the same home that Mila was in. Cassie’s
needs aren’t as severe as Mila’s but between that
:32.640 --> :37.740
and the fact that she’s years behind in school
normal schooling would’ve been difficult for her. :37.740 --> :41.820
My sister was a teaching assistant for
special ed at our local school district.
:41.820 --> :47.460 It was so bad that she didn’t even last a
year there. When she heard about the girls,
:47.460 --> :51.360 she said to not allow them to end
up in special ed in our district. :51.360 --> :56.100
My wife quit her job and homeschooled
Mila for the first few months but she’s
:56.100 --> :59.760 not a teacher and she doesn’t know how
to help Mila the way she needed it. :59.760 --> :03.420
We started looking for special needs
schools and found one over an hour :03.420 --> :09.120
away that we love. My wife got a job in the
office there so we got cheap tuition for Mila
:09.120 --> :13.320 and eventually Cassie when she started
school there. The girls are doing great
:13.320 --> :17.940 at this school and we’re considering moving
closer to it to make life a little easier. :17.940 --> :24.574
The issue is my wife, Mila, and Cassie are
out of the house by 6:30 every morning. Cassie
:24.574 --> :29.400 is up by 5:30 and Mila is up by 6. They’re
all tired when it’s time to go to school and
:29.400 --> :35.040
work so as a treat, they go to Starbucks every
morning. Mila gets a hot chocolate, Cassie is
:35.040 --> :38.940
allowed to get a small coffee, and my wife gets
a coffee to help them get through the morning. :38.940 --> :44.040
They are not always the best at getting the cups
out of the car by the time the younger two see it
:44.040 --> :48.780
and lately they’ve been throwing temper tantrums
every morning when we pass by a Starbucks. :48.780 --> :53.640
My wife thinks we should just get it
for them but I don’t want to. I think :53.640 --> :56.640
it’s a waste of money and they can have chocolate milk at home.
:56.640 --> :58.860 AITA for not getting them Starbucks?
:59.820 --> :59.880 Posted by :59.880 --> :08.700
u/TiredofInfluencing 20 hours ago :18.180 --> :30.226
AITA for making a Tiktok that somewhat
exposed my influencer parents? :30.226 --> :33.180
Not the A-hole I'm (16m) banished to my
:33.180 --> :37.980
aunt's house right now and while she agrees with
me that I'm not an jerk for having these feelings,
:37.980 --> :42.780
she says she agrees with my parents that i was
an jerk for the TikTok that I made about our
:42.780 --> :47.940
real lives. Without saying too much, my parents
had me while they were in college and i lived
:47.940 --> :52.500
with my grandparents until they graduated and
got married. I have three younger siblings and
:52.500 --> :57.060 we all live in a large city together. My
dad has a real job and my mom basically
:57.060 --> :04.800
just writes a blog and has social media accounts.
She NEVER mentions me. I'm never in pictures. My
:04.800 --> :08.400 siblings are because they were written about
from the time my mom was pregnant with them,
:08.400 --> :14.400
after they got married. She writes a lot about
our "lifestyle" and brags about how thrifty she
:14.400 --> :19.740
is and simple but she doesn't tell people that
my grandparents give us money and that she blows
:19.740 --> :25.680 it on really expensive things like buckets
and sweaters. Trust me when I say that NONE
:25.680 --> :31.560
of what you see online about my family is true
except for where we live and our names. Anyway,
:31.560 --> :36.660
I vented a little bit to my friend about how my
parents go back and forth on pretending to be
:36.660 --> :42.540
poor but then not and then back again, depending
on who they talk to. And i said that sometimes
:42.540 --> :47.460
that meant that my mom buys something expensive
and stupid to brag about but then I have to hear
:47.460 --> :54.060
about eating less or being "more simple" about
birthday wishlists because life is too expensive.
:54.060 --> :00.180
So we made a Tiktok at my house. I pointed out
stuff like "here's my mom's ONE sweater that
:00.180 --> :07.380
cost $400 and that's why i got this for Christmas"
and pointed to a kid's art set. I pointed out some
:07.380 --> :12.600
stuff that she told her readers she was gifted
that she actually bought, too. My Tiktok doesn't
:12.600 --> :17.940
get much attention at all but one of my friend's
showed it to her mom and her mom showed my mom. My
:17.940 --> :22.380
parents are mad and say that doing stuff like
this hurts the whole family because it could
:22.380 --> :29.160
affect sponsorships and maybe book deals and Dad
said i was an jerk for doing the video. So, am I?
:29.160 --> :33.900
I think I have a right to say the truth but maybe
I should have kept it more private between me and
:33.900 --> :39.360
my friends. By the way, they made me delete the
account so no one else is going to know. Thanks. :39.360 --> :44.400
An update: thank you everyone who voted. I
showed my aunt this post early this morning
:44.400 --> :49.740 and she's kinda mad that I made it. I won't
respond to anyone else. I'm sorry! My aunt
:49.740 --> :54.480 and grandparents are going to help me ask if
I can just stay with my aunt for a while maybe
:54.480 --> :00.240
even until I'm 18. I can answer a few questions
that I got a lot of but I truly don't want to
:00.240 --> :05.160 expose my family (because I'm part of them!
and my siblings are young and don't deserve
:05.160 --> :09.840
it.) and I don't want any more people to figure
out who my parents are. No they aren't Christian
:09.840 --> :16.620
vloggers. There is not YouTube or X or TikTok or
Facebook for my mom. She just has an old blog and
:16.620 --> :22.500
she posts on IG. Her blog and some side projects
from it do make money. My grandparents do know
:22.500 --> :27.660
where the money goes on stuff because they see
it in the house and on the blog and on IG. Yes,
:27.660 --> :33.540
a bucket. Really. $300 from England. And then
she'll wear our housekey on a rubberband on her
:33.540 --> :37.860 wrist and tell her followers what a simple
life we live. It's that kind of thing that
:37.860 --> :42.240 feels like a lie. Her followers will send
her pictures of buying the same stupid :42.240 --> :47.400
bucket and also donating their keyrings
and using a rubber band now. Ridiculous. :48.600 --> :53.340
Posted by :55.800 --> :02.340 u/motherbeeee 22 hours ago
:02.340 --> :20.386
AITA for punishing my son for his, “preferences”?
:20.386 --> :25.140 Not the A-hole
I (41f) have 2 children, 14m :25.140 --> :31.440
and 11m from my previous marriage. My 14 year old
is the subject of this post. I’ll call him Andrew. :31.440 --> :36.360
Andrew has recently begun his first year of high
school. He doesn’t have a lot of friends because
:36.360 --> :40.680 we live closer to a different high school
than most of his former classmates ended up
:40.680 --> :45.360 at. Luckily one of his very close friends
from a few years back goes to his school.
:45.360 --> :51.180
A girl I will call Dana. They have become close
again over the last 6ish weeks. They spend time
:51.180 --> :56.460
together at school and she has been coming over
on weekends, or him at her house. Andrew talks
:56.460 --> :00.780 about her a lot. To be honest, I thought
they had crushes on each other. By the way,
:00.780 --> :06.360 Dana is mixed black with Vietnamese and we
are white. Unfortunately that is relevant. :06.360 --> :12.000
Last weekend Dana was over for dinner. Things were
going normally until my 11 year old made a joke
:12.000 --> :17.580
about Dana being Andrew’s girlfriend. My husband
and he have been lightly teasing Andrew for a
:17.580 --> :22.980
couple of weeks about Dana being his girlfriend
and he always denies it hotly. That night after
:22.980 --> :30.120
my 11 year old’s joke, Andrew not only denied it
but spouted a, “I DON’T LIKE BLACK GIRLS!” loudly
:30.120 --> :36.480
for the entire table to hear, including Dana.
I was stunned. Dana looked highly embarrassed.
:36.480 --> :41.100
I knew in the moment I would talk to him later,
but just for the time being said something like,
:41.100 --> :46.200 “hey, that isn’t cool.” The remainder of
dinner was very awkward and then Dana left. :46.200 --> :51.180
Once she was gone I told Andrew how
he probably hurt Dana’s feelings. I :51.180 --> :55.860
explained how black women and girls already
struggle with feeling accepted in society,
:55.860 --> :01.800
and that he was ignoring the other half of her
race entirely. Not to mention the bad example he
:01.800 --> :07.680
was setting for his brother. He went on defensive
mode and said he just thinks dark girls are
:07.680 --> :11.460 “ugly” and is tired of people at home
and at school thinking he would date, :11.460 --> :18.000
“someone like her.” After that conversation I told
him that he was grounded until he offered Dana
:18.000 --> :23.880
a sincere apology and made an effort to learn
about miogynoir through reading. I then told
:23.880 --> :29.280 him that if I were Dana, I would not want to
be his friend anymore after his racist remarks. :29.280 --> :36.000
To my astonishment, this has been unpopular with
my ex as well as my current husband. My current
:36.000 --> :41.580
husband is puerto rican, so I was doubly surprised
he didn’t side with me. They both say that Andrew
:41.580 --> :46.980
is entitled to his own preferences when it comes
to girls and I am wrong to punish him. I took it
:46.980 --> :52.260
more seriously from my current husband who has
been on the receiving end of racism. I now do
:52.260 --> :58.560
not know what to do. Andrew has apologized to D,
but has yet to find a good book on misogynoir and
:58.560 --> :07.320 read it. Am I wrong for punishing him?
Should I let him off the hook? AITA? :07.320 --> :08.100 Posted by
u/Fine-Cabinet2007 :12.600 --> :31.440 1 day ago
:40.020 --> :04.500
AITA for telling my wife that I’ll be taking the
kids to visit their grandparents on Thanksgiving
:04.500 --> :05.280 weekend? Jerk :05.280 --> :07.680
Bear with me as this is my first time using Reddit :07.680 --> :15.060
I (M41) have six kids from three different
relationships. With my wife Olivia (F38),
:15.060 --> :23.940 I have two kids (M7 and F5). With my ex-wife
Emma (F40), I have three children (F10, M8,
:24.540 --> :31.540 F6), and from my ex-ex wife Sophie
(F42), I have one child (M12). I :31.540 --> :36.000
have maintained very good co-parenting
relationships with Emma and Sophie, :36.000 --> :40.200
and even though we're separated now, I
consider them to be very close friends. :40.200 --> :44.160
All my children live with their mothers,
and since we all live in the same city,
:44.160 --> :47.640 they see each other regularly. The
kids are close to each other and :47.640 --> :51.480
consider themselves normal siblings, which has also made things easier.
:51.480 --> :56.460 Recently, I've been planning to take my
children to visit my own parents (M75 :56.460 --> :01.320
and F71). They both recently retired,
and I think they're starting to get :01.320 --> :05.700
bored with staying at home most days. So, I
thought seeing the kids would cheer them up,
:05.700 --> :10.380 and the kids are more than happy to see
(and get spoiled by) their grandparents. :10.380 --> :17.880
My brother Brad (M37) is also going with his
wife Samantha (F35) and their two kids (M6
:17.880 --> :21.420 and F4). So, the kids will get
to see their cousins as well, :21.420 --> :24.660
which is nice. I planned a date with my brother and parents,
:24.660 --> :30.300
and we decided that Thanksgiving weekend (which is
next weekend in Canada) works best for all of us. :30.300 --> :34.560
While Emma and Sophie are alright
with the idea of me taking the kids, :34.560 --> :39.960
Olivia is not. When I told her about the idea
this morning, she told me that she wanted us
:39.960 --> :44.040 to go out for dinner or something over the
weekend since we hadn't gone out in a while. :44.040 --> :48.480
She only expressed this to me after I told
her about the plan. When I mentioned that
:48.480 --> :52.620 the kids wanted to see their relatives (as
they all expressed interest in the idea),
:52.620 --> :59.520
she said that I needed to prioritize spending
“expected time” with her over “entertaining my
:59.520 --> :04.860
extended family.” I asked her then if she wanted
to accompany me and the kids to my parents' house,
:04.860 --> :09.120 and then we could find some time to
go out, but she refused this proposal. :09.120 --> :12.840
I was a little annoyed at this stage,
so I said that I thought she was being :12.840 --> :17.580
difficult and not willing to compromise. We
argued for a bit, and then she said she had
:17.580 --> :23.220 to go to work. Before she did, I reiterated
that I’d be taking the kids to my parents. :30.600 --> :30.720 AITA? | give me a good story on rAITADIDMYHUSBANDKIDNAPMYKIDSRedditStories |
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my sister accused me of not helping out financially for her wedding but then I
found out about this elaborate scam her fiance's decision shocked everyone I 28f
have an older sister named Jane 32f we grew up in a middle- class family and
our parents always tried to treat us equally they paid for our college
education and helped us start our careers after college I got a job in
marketing while Jane became a teacher 5 years ago I took a big risk and started
my own business it was really tough at first with long hours and a lot of
stress there were times when I wondered if I'd made a mistake but I kept pushing
forward slowly but surely things started
to improve now my business is doing well and I'm making good money Jane has
continued working as a teacher all this time she makes less than I do but she
really loves her job and finds it fulfilling looking back I can see that
even though our parents tried to be fair there were times when Jane seemed to be
the favorite when we were kids Jane always got to choose the movie on family
movie Nights if we both wanted the same toy Jane usually got it Mom would often
say things like | give me a good story on MySisterAccusedMeofNotHelpingOutFinanciallyforHerWeddingbutorig |
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aita for not leaving a baseball game with my girlfriend and her friends Emma
keep this short and sweet yo 26m and I have been dating my GF for 9 months we
both live in Chicago and the game in question was the Cubs walk-off winner on
Saturday she had friends from college coming into town who I have never met
before and she was excited for me to meet them part of their plan was going
to the Cubs game Saturday afternoon and going out afterward important detail
alert I paid for mine and my girlfriend's tickets I'm also a big Cubs
fan so I was thrilled to go but Wrigley Field is a major tourist place and a lot
of times people go just to go and don't really care about the game like my GF
and her friends in the seventh inning her and her friends started getting
bored they decided to leave to go to a bar as my girlfriend got up I stayed
seated and told her I would meet them afterward because I want to watch the
game she didn't want to argue in front of them so she said okay and left she
texted me after leaving saying that the objective of the day was to hang out
with her friends and not for me to watch
baseball I said I paid for the ticket so I don't see anything wrong with me
staying and using the ticket I paid for she told me her friends think I'm weird
for wanting to stay by myself and were wondering why I didn't come with she
said if the group wanted to leave as a whole I should have left with them she
thinks I made her look bad and it looks like I don't care to get to know her
friends she said the point of today was | give me a good story on AITAfornotleavingabaseballgamewithmygirlfriendandherfriends |
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AIT for cutting contact with my sister after she said to me that all I am is
lipstick on a pig so I 16f used to be a bit of a tomboy and didn't pay much
attention to my appearance but over the last few years I've gotten really into
makeup and skincare it's been fun to care more about how I look and how
others see me I've also been hitting the gym quite a bit and I think the results
are showing I've been getting a lot of compliments from people around me
including strangers and family member however my sister 26f has started to
make snarky comments like do you really need to wear that much makeup and don't
you think you're overdoing it a bit it's really starting to annoy me I tried to
ignore it but I even talked to my parents about it and they haven't done
anything to help over Christmas I did my best to avoid her every time she came
around I'd rush off to my room and when she tried to talk to me I'd give her
short answers so the day before Christmas Eve me and my siblings who
were all in their late 20s to mid-30s got together at our parents place when
it was time to open gifts I went first since I was the youngest I opened the
smallest gift and found the most amazing thing inside my older brother | give me a good story on AITAforcuttingcontactwithmysisteraftershesaidtomethatallIamislipstickonapig |
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AIT for being annoyed that my partner came to the Opera in jym attire and ate
during the play due to a project we recently did at work my colleagues told
me we can get free opera tickets with A+ one I was really excited since I love
Opera and asked my partner to join me he told me he would join after the gym and
we will meet on the spot so we meet at the location and he is wearing gym stuff
sports shorts and a sports vest he joked how it is probably too snobbish of a
place for it and he took a pair of jeans with him and a shirt but he doesn't
really want to bother now since I was a small kid and we went to to the theater
with my school or parents where I am from theater sloper ballet tickets are
super cheap for school kids and it is a very common school activity to go with
your whole class I knew that it is basic common sense to look decent at such
places I am no fan of fancy overdressing myself and my partner knows it however
is it not okay to expect at least plain jeans and not sweatpants and not to talk
loud eat or drink during the life performance on stage so seeing all the
actually nicely dressed people arriving to the venue my partner annoyingly said
that I would probably want him to wear the jeans and now we have to find a
place for him to go change even though he is not so keen on it I was relieved
and did not want to argue so I did not say much about it and we had to go
around the corner for him to change the First Act was good and we went to get
some snacks in the break but due to the long queue we did not have the time to
eat them so we come back to our places my partner sits between me and my
colleagues and with my side Vision I see him taking the food out now as I
mentioned we are adults in our late 30s and as far as I am concerned I do not
have to tell a 35 plusy Old adult basic etiquette but I had a bad feeling about
it so I I turned to him and whispered don't he laughed and I was relieved
thinking he was just doing a weird joke or whatever 30 seconds with my side
Vision I see him eating the snack I was absolutely mortified and speechless I
poked him with my elbow but he just kind
of laughed and ignored me I was ready to
melt though the floor from embarrassment I Cann not believe I am seeing a
grownass person eating during an opera and even worse that being my partner
right next to my colleagues who invited me here a few minutes later my partner
leaned to tell me something but I was still burning from shame and anger and
did not reply so he asked is it about the food and then rolled his eyes sighed
loudly and stopped talking to me I could not enjoy the rest of the Opera at all
and when my colleagues gathered to discuss it afterwards I was still
feeling too embarrassed excused myself and left ASAP my partner caught up with
me outside and was annoyed at me being so stuck up about such a petty thing
according to him it was dark and he wasn't sitting Direct in front of the
stage so who cares it is okay I told him
it is about how far he sits it is common
sense to not do such things in a theater he rolled his eyes and told me there is
no such rule it is not written anywhere and that I am making up some imaginary
rules just to go at him I really cannot wrap my head around this so I started
questioning my sanity he also told me that in his opinion it is me who has a
problem and I should discuss it with my therapist that I care too much what
people think I am in therapy for different reason he was actually the one
who encouraged me to start therapy in the first place I mean it is not just
about what people think as an artist myself I find it insanely rude
uncultured and disrespectful both to actors and people next to you to bring
food to the Opera and eat it during the live performance we came here
specifically for this live event can you
really not wait for like an hour AIT for being angry and disappointed with the
whole experience | give me a good story on AITAforbeingannoyedthatmypartnercametotheoperaingymattireandateduringtheplayorig |
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aita husband insists I wake up every day with him even days off I defer wanting
to wake up naturally one day a week my f56 husband m55 insists I get up with
him every day I set the alarm for 3:30 a.m. every day he works get up wake him
up make coffee take the dog out feed the rabbit he was given get his clothes
together and talk to him while he gets ready for work once he leaves for work I
go back to bed on his days off he wakes up by himself and gets up around 430 or
5 a.m. if I am not awake by 7:00 a.m. I'm being woken up and told that I sleep
too much I have chronic illnesses and the major Hallmark is chronic exhaustion
I very rarely feel rested I do not have energy to even get through my day
without laying down for an hour in the afternoons yet I'm expected to be s W
and all it entails cooking cleaning making menus paying bills Etc my house
is presentable for the most part but sometimes dishes pile up as he'd rather
eat and than help he works 40 hours a week and just lately has been getting 5
to 10 hours OT a week he currently makes less money than I do on my disability
pay he also has health issues but of a different kind degenerative discs and a
failed cervical fusion I get paid long-term disability and pay for the
majority of household expenses natural gas electric water sewer trash streaming
services groceries my credit cards and contribute to the house payment he pays
the mortgage cell phone because his kids
are still on the plan even through their
all 20 plus yo and his credit card bills I've been fighting for SSI | give me a good story on AITAHusbandinsistsIwakeupeverydaywithhimevendaysoffAitaforwantingtowakeuporig |
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am I wrong for slowly cutting off contact with my friend of 15 years after
she rejected me I 25m was friends with Jesse 25f for almost 15 years she was my
next door neighbor in a secluded town so we became close friends at a really
young age because there were no other kids our age who lived in our
neighborhood she lost both her parents at a really young age and was an adopted
child but unfortunately her adopted parents were horrible to her we remained
pretty close friends in middle school and high school we shared everything
with each other we were both each other's comfort zone high school was
rough for both us and we both got bullied but we both luckily survived it
and went to same in State College college was amazing compared to high
school and we both graduated out of college with really good jobs a year ago
I foolishly asked her out I'll admit I badly misjudged the situation and I
thought there was a potential we could be more than friends but she was not
ready to date and she considered me more like a really close lifelong friend
which was heartwarming but also slightly awkward when she told me that she
apologized a lot for rejecting me even though she had no reason to and asked if
this would in any way change our friendship because she really wouldn't
be able to handle losing the only person in the world she could trust I gave her
my full reassurance that it wouldn't happen it's been a year now and it
unfortunately has sort of happened and it is my fault for example I respond to
her text a few days later I make excuses
for not wanting to hang out with her and I did not invite her to my birthday or
go to her birthday even though she invited me I hung out with her yesterday
for the first time in a long time and it was really emotional she wants to be in
a relationship with me now but I think she just wants to do it to keep our
friendship I'm not sure she actually wants to date me | give me a good story on AmIwrongforslowlycuttingoffcontactwithmyfriendofyearsaftersherejectedmeorig |
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:00.000 --> :01.000 Posted by :00.000 --> :00.920
u/itchyspiderbutthole 8 hours ago :05.800 --> :11.880
My roommate sucked, but I sucked even worse.
So let me preface with, I was 22, stupid,
:11.880 --> :15.680 and a bit of an immature jerk. I’m
in no way the victim of this tale, :15.680 --> :20.320
but I do think it’s a funny enough story worth
sharing of the battle of two crapy roommates. :20.320 --> :24.480
I had just moved in with my boyfriend, as one
of his roommates was moving out. When I met
:24.480 --> :28.800 his second roommate (we’ll call him Split
Pea) I knew I was in trouble because his
:28.800 --> :34.640
way of introducing himself was lecturing me on
teas when he found out I was a tea enthusiast. :34.640 --> :40.040
Still, there’s no rules against being a
mansplaining douche, so I stayed positive
:40.040 --> :44.240 and indulged his tea lectures. But
then it started getting worse, quickly. :44.240 --> :48.840
Split Pea worked as a sound tech
at a goth club. He was constantly, :48.840 --> :53.800
CONSTANTLY bringing women home from the
club, then taking ecstasy and having crazy
:53.800 --> :59.240 sex in his room, not subtly. Again,
we all get our bang on, I ignored it. :59.240 --> :04.640
But then, he started using my cat as a method
of impressing women. My cat was on a strict diet
:04.640 --> :09.560 of a specific type of food. I’m a cat nerd
and I knew that keeping her on a regularly
:09.560 --> :14.360 scheduled diet would prevent her learning
to beg for food and would prevent obesity. :14.360 --> :19.520
Welp, Split Pea (who has no animal experience)
started pointing out to his women guests that
:19.520 --> :25.520
my cat’s bowl “was always empty”. I had suspected
he’d been feeding her more behind my back because
:25.520 --> :29.840 she’d gotten overweight and started begging,
but I finally overheard it happening where
:29.840 --> :35.600 he said to his guest “yeah, they constantly
neglect this cat. I always have to feed her.” :35.600 --> :39.800
I walked in and said “hey! I overheard
you and I know you have felt this way a
:39.800 --> :44.480 long time without ever speaking to me, but I
actually don’t appreciate you messing up my
:44.480 --> :49.760
cat’s food schedule by feeding her more than she
needs.” Even though he had just filled her bowl,
:49.760 --> :55.960
he looked at me with the most gaslighty eyes and
said “oh no I’ve never fed her!” The woman he was
:55.960 --> :02.240
with became uncomfortable, probably because of how
blatantly and embarrassingly he lied, and left. :02.240 --> :07.040
This is all just to give you a feel for what
kind of a cowardly diaper he was, but I didn’t
:07.040 --> :12.320
even get mad yet until he started bringing women
from the club (at 3am when he got off work) to
:12.320 --> :17.080
our apartment, having sex with them, and then
telling them to leave without walking them out. :17.080 --> :22.000
We lived in a dump of an apartment as it was all
we could afford. This means our front door would
:22.000 --> :27.280
only shut if it was locked. So asking someone to
see themselves out just meant that our door would
:27.280 --> :33.000
hang wide open in a really rough neighborhood…and
we had a cat he supposedly cared about. :33.000 --> :37.560
I kept asking him to walk these women out
so he could lock the door, I begged him,
:37.560 --> :43.840 I reminded him my cat that he loves so much
could run away. He didn’t care. It got so bad,
:43.840 --> :48.880 my cat actually learned to alert us when the
door was left open. Literally, she’d come wake
:48.880 --> :54.760
me up at 4am and then lead me down the stairs
and show me the open door. Are you kidding me? :54.760 --> :57.480
This is when I knew I hated him more than anything I could
:57.480 --> :01.800 presently think of and needed to start
preparing to make his life unpleasant. :01.800 --> :06.920
It started off pretty simple. He was about to
go on vacation for a week. We reminded him daily
:06.920 --> :12.360
for four days before he left to please wash his
dishes, as we don’t want to wash his dishes for
:12.360 --> :16.880
him anymore. I even went to see him the night
before, while he was packing, and told him
:16.880 --> :21.560 it was just another friendly reminder to get
that done. Guess who didn’t do their dishes? :21.560 --> :26.440
So I picked up all of his dirty dishes and I left
them on his bed. I told my boyfriend that if he
:26.440 --> :30.680
gets upset we can just tell him the dishes were
in the way and we put them where he could find
:30.680 --> :35.800
them. My boyfriend is a peacekeeper, so instead
he picked up all the dishes and washed them. :35.800 --> :40.160
When he came back, we told him he needed to
leave. We couldn’t deal with him anymore and
:40.160 --> :45.160
the dishes were the final straw. For three months
he claimed he couldn’t find another apartment. :45.160 --> :49.480
By this point I was done. I couldn’t deal
with this dynamic that resulted in our :49.480 --> :54.080
roommate treating us like doormats. I decided it was time to get crazy.
:54.080 --> :00.160
So I sat on the kitchen floor and, as soon as I
heard him come in, I just started crying. Wailing.
:00.160 --> :05.680
Split Pea came in, alarmed, and asked what was
wrong. I started scream crying at him that my
:05.680 --> :10.400
boyfriend would never marry me if I couldn’t get
rid of our roommate. That it was time for me and
:10.400 --> :15.240 my boyfriend to start picturing our forever
here together and Split Pea was ruining it. :15.240 --> :20.360
For three days, I just walked around the apartment
scream crying and wailing about how “this would
:20.360 --> :24.960 be the nursery but our roommate won’t leave
and let us share our love.” He would bring
:24.960 --> :30.480
women over and I would ruin their night, I would
wait up until 3:30am when they would get home,
:30.480 --> :35.760 offer his guest a bowl, tell them about all
the other guests he has at this time of night,
:35.760 --> :39.560 and then start crying and talking about
how I just wish he would move out. :39.560 --> :42.840
I guess three nights of women
leaving because of me was enough, :42.840 --> :47.560
because he suddenly found a great apartment and would be moving out ASAP!
:48.960 --> :50.080 Posted by :50.080 --> :03.360
u/amethystjade15 4 hours ago :19.120 --> :20.600
See how you like it :20.600 --> :24.240
The story does involve mild violence, not sure if that’s okay.
:24.240 --> :28.720 Years ago I worked for a retail clothing
store out of desperation. The store :28.720 --> :33.600
manager was aggravating but liked me for
whatever reason, and I needed the money. :33.600 --> :38.600
Among her irritating habits was smacking my
butt when she walked past me. Not only was
:38.600 --> :43.640 it irritating, but she did it HARD.
I asked her to stop multiple times, :43.640 --> :45.640
but she just laughed and ignored me. :45.640 --> :47.800
I had complained about it to my now-husband,
:47.800 --> :52.080 and he even said something to her about it.
Didn’t help, and she was annoyed I told him. :52.080 --> :56.280
So the next time he came to pick me up from
work, he strolled back to the register,
:56.280 --> :03.720
greeted my manager cheerfully, and smacked the
HECK out of her butt. She was stunned silent. :03.720 --> :06.880
But she never touched me again. :) :12.720 --> :17.880 Posted by
:18.920 --> :27.840 u/anonymousfemale404 7 hours ago
:29.480 --> :32.920 Couchsurfer gets petty revenge
on me after I kick her out :32.920 --> :36.840
This is a story from a few years
ago, and it isn't much really but :36.840 --> :41.360
it's a funny (in hindsight) incident that
happened to me in my early adult days. :41.360 --> :47.040
21F who just moved out with boyfriend in tow.
We were renting a place in a college town,
:47.040 --> :51.040 rather small location for the amount
of bodies stuffed in the apartment: Me,
:51.040 --> :59.400 21F, My bf, Roommate Jake 25M and his
gf in a place that's roughly 600sqft. :00.360 --> :04.520
We all worked part-time, and together we
could afford rent by the end of the month,
:04.520 --> :10.160
but we definitely lived frugally to make ends
meet. We weren't the most social group either,
:10.160 --> :14.120 generally staying in our rooms and
leaving the living room mostly unused. :14.120 --> :19.600
About half a year in, Jake comes over to tell me
(lease owner) that he met this girl who's recently
:19.600 --> :24.920
homeless and needs a play to stay for a bit so she
can find a new place, and he wanted to know if she
:24.920 --> :30.458
could sleep on our futon in the living room. After
some discussion, we agreed, and enters Kate, 23F. :31.880 --> :36.520
Kate takes up residence on the futon and ends
up bringing over a few things from her mom's
:36.520 --> :41.560 house (???) into our living room and strings
a shower curtain across our living room to
:41.560 --> :46.960
section it off from the rest of the house. She
spins a tale about her baby daddy being in jail,
:46.960 --> :51.880 and how her three kids are currently staying
with her mom while she's here, and how her
:51.880 --> :57.160 sunlight sensitivity makes it really hard to
get a job (???). She couchsurfs for a month,
:57.160 --> :01.840 just eating our food and browsing on her
phone all day long. We tell her she has to
:01.840 --> :07.560 get a job within the week or she's out, and
she begrudgingly gets a job at mcdonalds. :07.560 --> :13.800
She comes home that same week with a guy in tow,
introducing him to us has her bf. Said bf now
:13.800 --> :19.360 hangs out regularly at our 600sqft apartment
with 5 people already living in it. We tell
:19.360 --> :25.240
her that's great, but we don't want her having
conjugal relations on our futon. Says she won't,
:25.240 --> :30.760
but the smell we come back to after work tells
us she doesn't intend to keep that promise. :30.760 --> :36.800
She asks us if her bf can move in with her and
we tell her absolutely not. She's not paying any
:36.800 --> :43.600
rent to us, is not respecting our wishes, and is
overall rude. I tell Jake he has to kick her out,
:43.600 --> :47.280 since he brought her here in the first
place. He looks uncomfortable and she :47.280 --> :52.120
and bf are definitely not happy, but a week
goes by and one night she leaves while we're
:52.120 --> :56.960 at work with most of her stuff. I say most,
because she left the living room in a state,
:56.960 --> :03.440
with a bunch of trash behind and under the futon,
abandoned belongings and decorations left behind,
:03.440 --> :07.960 and the jury-rigged curtain still up. Being
concerned that she moved out while none of us
:07.960 --> :12.920
were at home, we take stock of our things to see
if she might have taken anything. Lo and behold,
:12.920 --> :18.760 she had taken ALL of my left shoes,
JUST the left one, but to make it fair,
:18.760 --> :25.200 she left a few of her own size 12 gorilla
feet unmatched shoes for me. How kind of her. :25.200 --> :28.440
I was mad at the time because who tf does that,
:28.440 --> :38.889 but the end situation was bizarre
and entertaining in hindsight. :38.889 --> :39.153 Posted by
u/Chuawkuy :39.153 --> :49.720 17 hours ago
:57.640 --> :01.760 Refused to take the deposit and
just let me go? Now you have to pay. :01.760 --> :03.880
I rented a house at the beginning of the year,
:03.880 --> :07.320 but I couldn't stay there a minute
longer. It was a crapy house, :07.320 --> :12.120
and everything broke down days after I moved
in. I had major leaks, flooding in the kitchen,
:12.120 --> :18.240
mold, etc. I told the landlord, and she said,
"Fix it yourself. It's not even a big issue." :18.240 --> :20.880
After three months, I gave her a one-month notice that I was
:20.880 --> :24.400 moving out. I told her she could have
the deposit since I was breaching the :24.400 --> :28.040
contract (the contract stated that I would rent her house for a year).
:28.040 --> :31.960 But no, she said I had to pay her
the rent for that month too (it's :31.960 --> :36.080
already included in the contract, in
the case of moving out, I don't have :36.080 --> :39.960
to pay for the rent for the last month I
live there. Because it's already include
:39.960 --> :45.560 in the deposit). She also wanted "fees"
for her time to look for a new renter. :45.560 --> :48.720
Heck no I wasn't doing that. I consulted with my real estate
:48.720 --> :53.200 agent friend and showed her the contract.
I asked for her help on what I could do.
:53.200 --> :57.200 I didn't want to pay for the last month's
rent since I was only there for 10 days. :57.200 --> :00.640
My friend told me that the landlord couldn't
do that, and that she had already overcharged
:00.640 --> :04.600 me for the deposit stated in the law.
But since I had signed the contract, :04.600 --> :11.120
I still had to give her the deposit. However, I
could sue her for overcharging me and extortion. :11.120 --> :17.280
So, I sued her. I didn't have to pay the last
month's rent, and she had to pay a big fine. :18.400 --> :18.960
Posted by :19.800 --> :25.920 u/silafian 7 hours ago
:40.440 --> :43.262 I created a fake religion by revenge
:43.262 --> :43.320 Sorry for my bad grammar english
is not my first language) :43.320 --> :48.760
So all started when i was 10yo, i grow up in a
little town and my home was just in front of the
:48.760 --> :53.640 church. my parent are atheist so the sunday
was a free day for me. i was on the side of
:53.640 --> :59.560
the road past the church ,my parents a little
behind me and my cat mrs Pawpie following me,
:59.560 --> :03.720 it is when some car going to church started
to arrive and one of them came really fast
:03.720 --> :08.680 and startled pawpie by honking, my cat ran
directly in the direction of our house but the
:08.680 --> :14.720 car shoot him . I scream and grab and cuddle
my now dead cat while crying , the guy storm
:14.720 --> :19.600
out of his car and start to scream at me about
the fact that my cat made a scratch on his car,
:19.600 --> :25.120
im not responding i was just crying and cuddling
this cold distorted figure of my little friend . I
:25.120 --> :30.760
dont think i ever see my dad like he was this
day, his face was pale and so scarie thats the
:30.760 --> :35.560 guy jump in is car without trying to talk
and go directly to the church , my dad try
:35.560 --> :41.000
to follow but my mom and i stop him and we goes
home to give Mrs Pawpie a nice place to rest. :41.000 --> :45.560
Later that day a group from the church came see
my parents and started to give them lesson about
:45.560 --> :51.240
their live style how they educated me and demand
that they paid the reparation on the car . My
:51.240 --> :55.840 dad told them to f*** off and our neighbors
came alongside my dad to make them go away. :55.840 --> :01.480
My friends came say goodbye to mrs pawpie and
we gave her a little viking style ceremonial. :01.480 --> :04.840
We all cry and say goodbye , all my friends was ticked by
:04.840 --> :08.960 the church group and this guy who was
the big douchebag of the town already. :08.960 --> :14.480
This is when one of my friends just say "we will
avenge you, little mewsia ! " to sheer us up . :14.480 --> :20.400
Ding! Petty kids mind activated ! We made
a little amovible altar at the glory of mrs
:20.400 --> :26.200
pawpie and write some psalm for the paw religion
and every sunday we put the altar in front of
:26.200 --> :32.040 the church and reciting some psalm saying
that mrs pawpie got killed by christianity
:32.040 --> :37.160 and how the mewsia was dead so all the cats
could have mouse and head rubs and everytime
:37.160 --> :43.640 mr douchebag pass by we made the paw sign on
our heart to protect ourself from the dogvil ! :43.640 --> :48.400
As time goes on the fun of this situation
attracted other kids and even parents, :48.400 --> :53.400
who was hilarious by all this situation to the
point where the church call the police to make
:53.400 --> :57.960
us stop because they was really thinking thats
a group of child was going to put them in danger
:57.960 --> :03.880 with our cult. So we stop ! But we still
do the paw sign when we see them today ! :03.880 --> :07.440
Posted by :07.440 --> :17.440 u/Bobbigirl60 16 hours ago
:33.360 --> :37.040 NEVER freak with a mechanic!
I used to be a mechanic (girl :37.040 --> :41.560
mechanics used to be few & far between).
Anyway, male customers would constantly
:41.560 --> :47.000
be saying inappropriate things to me (sometimes,
putting their hand on my leg, on a road test). I
:47.000 --> :52.720
found a way to get even with them. Anytime I got
a male customer who got too "friendly" with me,
:52.720 --> :57.440
"I would ask what would your wife think?" If I
found out they were married, I would take a pair
:57.440 --> :02.880
of cheap Walmart panties, & stuff them in the
passenger door pocket! I would also, spray some
:02.880 --> :08.400
cheap perfume in the car, (telling the customer
that something stunk in the car, so I had to spray
:08.400 --> :13.600
it). I can only imagine what would happen when
"wifey" smelled the perfume & found the panties!!!
:13.600 --> :14.560 Posted by u/Quiet-on-command
:14.560 --> :19.680 12 hours ago :25.600 --> :28.680
Referee the game fairly? Don't you want us to win?
:28.680 --> :34.800 This was during my time in high school, to
preserve anonymity 2000s will suffice. PRE VAR :34.800 --> :37.600
During High School (US) I was making quite a
:37.600 --> :40.960 decent amount of money as a
certified Football (Soccer) :40.960 --> :45.680
ref. One of the strict rules was that you
couldn't ref games if you were the same
:45.680 --> :50.400 age/affiliation of either teams playing.
[It was not strict]. My father (who also
:50.400 --> :54.920 had all his certs and did it in his
own time) and I had to duo ref games :54.920 --> :58.600
many times back to back, due to a lack of any other certified refs.
:59.200 --> :05.120
It was good money, and we didn't freak arou...
we were professional (As much as anyone approves
:05.120 --> :11.840
refs) (and I'd really like to say fair) at it.
However. When you deal with parents who... idk
:11.840 --> :17.600 the word for it, karen maybe?... It becomes
unpleasant. The situation I want to highlight,
:17.600 --> :22.640 is when the refs of a specific game called
out, and they asked us to step in as emergency.
:22.640 --> :27.880 Teams: Varsity HS girls (one of
which, you guessed it, I attended.) :27.880 --> :33.440
We objected, citing the rules and possible
bias. Reply: "No-one else is available". :33.440 --> :38.320
Cue the crap situation when the
entire team recognises me pregame, :38.320 --> :41.520
and I can't downplay it right in front of the other squad...
:41.520 --> :45.920 Instantly the other team is
asking about ref bias. Instantly.. :45.920 --> :50.280
Freaking crapshow already when we're just checking numbers and cleats.
:50.280 --> :56.160
Dad tells them that you play now, or you wait
for 2+hrs for a different ref team, and he starts
:56.160 --> :00.160 reminding both coaches about the games we've
reffed in the past (I don't remember these,
:00.160 --> :05.920
I assume he was bluffing, and in the moment I'm
trying VERY very hard to avoid eye contact with
:05.920 --> :11.960 the girls I know), stating his passion for
the game and absolute adherence to the rules. :11.960 --> :13.240
The game commenced. :13.240 --> :17.960
Where is the petty revenge/compliance, you
might ask? No, I did not act out against
:17.960 --> :22.080 my father or the team opposite
my own. Rather the opposite. :22.080 --> :26.160
I called offside on a goal that would have won the game for my gals.
:26.160 --> :28.760 The insanity that ensued...
:28.760 --> :32.520 The aftermath? 2+ months it
took for justice to set in. :32.520 --> :39.600
One of their own dads had recorded everything,
perfectly in line to show just how offside it was. :39.600 --> :42.720
AND he caught on vid how much they harassed me,
:42.720 --> :46.120 poor lil' line ref. If it
weren't for camcorder dad, :46.120 --> :52.120
I would've been mega bullied till graduation.
As soon as the footage was spread, the whole
:52.120 --> :57.960 te... I got 2 apologies, but everyone else
stopped being rude and became extremely polite. :57.960 --> :00.728
We take what wins we get. Have a lovely day <3 :00.728 --> :00.732
2.5k :00.732 --> :00.741 Posted by :00.741 --> :00.880
u/jinxxedbyu2 1 day ago :18.840 --> :23.000
Pregnant lady petty revenge So this is going back a few decades,
:23.000 --> :27.640
but I think it was a beautifully executed petty
revenge. I worked in the receiving department
:27.640 --> :33.080
in the warehouse for a major company that had
just expanded to Canada. I was 26 & pregnant.
:33.080 --> :40.000 The evening shift supervisor, who I'll call
'Cathy' (24F) used to "joke" about firing me
:40.000 --> :46.000
if I went into labour at work. Now, I'm pretty
even keeled, but this ticked me off. Also ticked
:46.000 --> :51.120
off the other ladies in the office, along with
being completely illegal. So I concocted my plan
:51.120 --> :57.000
and the ladies helped me out. My due date was Aug
23 and as I got closer & closer to my due date,
:57.000 --> :03.560
the firing comments became more frequent. A few
days beforehand I put my plan in motion. I waited
:03.560 --> :09.160
until 'Cathy' was coming on shift, and took one
of my frequent bathroom breaks where I filled
:09.160 --> :14.960
a balloon with water and carefully placed it in
the crotch of my jeans. I waddled back upstairs
:14.960 --> :20.760
to the office and sat at my computer like normal.
Once 'Cathy' sat at her desk out with us (about
:20.760 --> :27.120 15 minutes later), I took a kilt pin and,
using one of my co-workers as cover, gently
:27.120 --> :33.280
poked it into the balloon and started rotating
it to really make a watery mess. My co-worker,
:33.280 --> :38.440
bless her, leaned over as if to check on me saw
that the water was spreading, and sang out "Oh,
:38.440 --> :44.600 G, are you OK?" To which I replied "I
think my water broke." I stood up and yep,
:44.600 --> :50.600
big wet spot on my pants. 'Cathy' freaked out.
Hyperventilating, yelling that I couldn't give
:50.600 --> :55.520 birth there. Trying to figure out how close
I was to having the baby (another co-worker
:55.520 --> :01.760
piped up it could be hours...or minutes. Bless
her as well!), debating on calling an ambulance
:01.760 --> :07.160
or security. It was like watching a chicken run
around with its head cut off. 10 minutes later,
:07.160 --> :12.480 I yelled April Fools. She got really
quiet, then walked out of the office. :12.480 --> :17.480
Honestly, she was a good supervisor, but she
shouldn't have ticked off the pregnant lady. :18.000 --> :19.080
Posted by :19.080 --> :20.240 u/zyzmog 1 day ago
:32.920 --> :36.920 Another pregnant revenge story
Not mine, but a good friend of mine. :36.920 --> :40.880
When she was younger, she was working
at a local electronics manufacturer, :40.880 --> :45.600
putting her husband through college. She was
pregnant at the time this story takes place. :45.600 --> :49.720
This facility employed a lot of women in
her situation, and several of them were
:49.720 --> :54.240 pregnant. One of the managers -- not hers,
somebody else's -- made it a regular thing
:54.240 --> :58.160 to walk through the facility and
insult all of the pregnant women. :58.160 --> :03.880
His favourite insult for her was to stand about
six feet away, stare at her growing belly,
:03.880 --> :09.120 and say with a tone of faux disgust,
"How come you're so FAT?" She went home
:09.120 --> :14.440 in tears more than once because of this. But
because of the times, the nature of the job,
:14.440 --> :18.556 and the fact that she really needed the
money, she didn't do anything about it ... :18.556 --> :21.680
... Until the one day when she had had enough. He stopped,
:21.680 --> :26.520 surveyed her as usual, and asked
her, "How come you're so FAT?" :26.520 --> :30.560
She turned in her chair, looked him up
and down -- pausing with her eyes on :30.560 --> :35.640
his well-fed belly -- and said, in
a tone of matching disgust, "Well, :35.640 --> :40.960
at least I have an EXCUSE." Then she turned
back to her workstation and ignored him. :40.960 --> :44.920
Nope, nobody clapped. But he didn't insult her again.
:49.240 --> :58.040 Posted by :58.040 --> :02.120
u/oopspoopsdoops6566 1 day ago :08.160 --> :13.880
Horrendous neighbor and disgusting revenge
So this happened about 15 years ago. I was
:13.880 --> :18.640 in my early 20s living in a slightly crapy
apartment complex. There was this one neighbor
:18.640 --> :25.640
who was about 40-45 years old. He had these 2
Pomeranian dogs who he never had a leash on. He
:25.640 --> :30.400
also never picked up their poop after they went
to the bathroom. The other issue is these dogs
:30.400 --> :35.840
were aggressive. If you got anywhere near them
they would charge at you barking and nipping at
:35.840 --> :40.520 you. The first couple times I told him they
are supposed to be leashed as per the law,
:40.520 --> :45.400
he just blew me off any told me to mind my own
business. The next time it happened I cocked
:45.400 --> :50.600
my foot back because I was going to punt them
into next week. The man became super aggressive
:50.600 --> :55.800
towards me threatening to kill me if I touched
his dogs. I ended up going to the management
:55.800 --> :01.680
but as is typical they did nothing about it. For
months this went on. He started flipping me off
:01.680 --> :07.680 anytime he saw me. I always just blew kisses
back at him and waved like a Disney princess. :07.680 --> :12.680
Fast forward 6 months and my GF at the time had
forgotten her purse at my apartment so she pulled
:12.680 --> :17.840 up outside and ran in to grab it. She leaves
and immediately comes back talking about some
:17.840 --> :23.760
man screaming at her. I head outside and it’s
the same man. He’s calling her every name you
:23.760 --> :29.320
can think of. He’s going on about how she can’t
double park like that and blah blah blah. I tell
:29.320 --> :34.590 him he’s just upset that someone 1/2 his age
drives a nicer car then him (he drove a beater
:34.590 --> :40.440
f150) and can afford the same apartment he has.
He again threatens me and I tell him to try me
:40.440 --> :46.080
at his own risk. My gf leaves and I head back
inside. About 2 months later I’m moving to a
:46.080 --> :51.080
different city about 20 mins down the road. My
petty revenge against him is the night after I
:51.080 --> :58.080
moved I drove back at about 2am and packed dogcrap
underneath the door handles of his truck. I made
:58.080 --> :03.160
sure none was visible when you walk up. The only
way you’d find out is when you went to open the
:03.160 --> :09.000
door to get in. Unfortunately I didn’t get to
see his reaction but I’m pretty sure I ruined
:09.000 --> :15.600 his day if not his week. I know it’s gross
but revenge isn’t always a clean business. :15.600 --> :16.701
Posted by :16.701 --> :16.880 u/imachillin 2 days ago
:35.960 --> :41.400 Hubby’s ex dismisses him so I mention
my and her major age difference! :41.400 --> :45.680
This was approximately 25 years ago and I
still smile and laugh when I think about
:45.680 --> :54.200
it. For context I met my husband when I was 21
(48F now) and he was 34 (62 now). Hubby’s ex was
:54.200 --> :00.040
13 years older than him which puts her around my
mothers age. This is important soon. We had been
:00.040 --> :05.400
dating almost 2 years and his stepson, Jack from
previous marriage was in a band and asked hubby
:05.400 --> :10.400
to come see them perform. I had previously met
Jack, we got along great and he did include me
:10.400 --> :16.960
in the invite. My man was just one in a line of
4-5 husbands for Jack’s mom and he never seemed
:16.960 --> :21.320 to care much for his mom. Jack did mention
his mom would be there with a friend. There
:21.320 --> :28.120
were plenty of tables so no worries, right…wrong.
We get there all is good. The band was playing,
:28.120 --> :33.680
drinks were ordered and the good times began.
Hubby spots ex-wife and decides to go say hi.
:33.680 --> :38.640 No problem. Hubby is seriously the kindest
man I’ve ever met and has always tried to
:38.640 --> :42.840 be nice to everyone. (There was no cheating
or anything terrible in their marriage. She
:42.840 --> :48.160
was bad with money and blamed him for HER kids
problems. He left after the counseling didn’t
:48.160 --> :52.680 work. She resented him because he was the
only husband that left her.) He goes over,
:52.680 --> :58.360
says hello and then ex waves her hand like she’s
brushing him off and says “thank you. You can go
:58.360 --> :04.840
now). Hubby was NOT surprised but I could tell
he was ticked! Ticked he even bothered to try
:04.840 --> :10.720
and ticked he let it get to him. He went outside
to cool off. Cue my petty revenge! 😎 I walked
:10.720 --> :15.640
over and I was calm and being as lady like as
I could. I asked her if she was pleased with
:15.640 --> :21.920
herself treating a good man like garbage AGAIN!
She just smiled and laughed at me. I leaned in
:21.920 --> :27.840
close so she could hear me and I said “Ya know
what! It’s ok Ma’am! I would slap you but my
:27.840 --> :34.800
mother who is around your age taught me to respect
my ELDERS. So you have a nice evening!” And I went
:34.800 --> :40.840
to find hubby with a very big grin on my face. We
left but Jack called hubby the next day laughing
:40.840 --> :47.680
his butt off and congratulated me for peeing his
mom off sooo bad she went home to another state.
:47.680 --> :53.520
Still smiling and we will be celebrating our 22nd
anniversary next year! And for the record I didn’t
:53.520 --> :59.160
meet hubby until he was 2 years divorced from
this woman and they had no children together. :59.160 --> :59.296
Posted by :59.296 --> :00.600 u/Zealousideal-Tip1260 2 days ago
:03.200 --> :20.960 making me fly abroad to dump
me? Let me ruin your debit card! :20.960 --> :24.720
This happened a long time ago when I was studying abroad. Mid 90's.
:24.720 --> :27.760
So as a student, I had a girlfriend at university.
:27.760 --> :30.640 We both came from different
countries to study in London. :30.640 --> :34.880
Just before the Christmas holliday, we agreed
that I would fly over to her country and spend
:34.880 --> :39.480 a week together, since her parents were
gone for the week. As soon as I arrived,
:39.480 --> :44.960 I noticed she was very distant towards me. I
felt very unwelcome but her friends were nice
:44.960 --> :50.520 to me. Ok, I get it, you have not seen your
friends in months, fine. But after a few days
:50.520 --> :55.480 I addressed this feeling I had, and she told
me that it would be better to just be friends.
:55.480 --> :01.280
After that I felt like extra luggage and decided
to fly home on an earlier flight two days later. :01.280 --> :05.720
After I got home, she called to ask if I had
seen her debit card. She could not find it,
:05.720 --> :10.480 and needed it to get some cash. Yes, in
those days cash was still the standard.
:10.480 --> :15.320 No apps or smartphone or online banking
yet. So I go through my pockets and find it
:15.320 --> :19.400
in the pocket of a jacket I wore when we went
clubbing. She told me that she could not wait
:19.400 --> :24.080 untill we would see each other a week later
in london, and asked me to send it by mail. :24.080 --> :29.520
So I obliged, but not before I left it on
a very strong magnet for the rest of the
:29.520 --> :35.840
evening. In those days, the cards worked with a
magnetic strip, not with a chip like nowadays. :35.840 --> :39.600
A couple of days later she called to
say it did not work any more and it :39.600 --> :42.520
was a problem because banks were closed for the weekend.
:42.520 --> :45.600 I acted totally surprised and
said that the postal sorting :45.600 --> :48.600
machines must have had some magnetic technology. :48.600 --> :51.000
It ruined the rest of her holiday too. :51.000 --> :55.160
As an adult, I find it a bit childish of me now, but man,
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what are unethical practices schools do I'm a middle school teacher anyone in
special ad is to be integrated and it's almost always for the better keyword
being almost always we have a skin room that is a bit out of the way but not in
the basement or by The Boiler Room used to be in the middle but we had to move
it for several reasons normal students would wait outside then jump on the sped
kids or they would rush in and try to set them off as much as they could
before the pars removed them a few years
ago we had students who genuinely should not have been integrated because they
were a danger to other students after one student who was the victim of severe
cruelty and frankly should not have even been here simply because there was no
way we could provide the help he really needed was routinely caught whipping out
his thing to girls and boys he liked and other things well it got moved he was a
victim of Cruelty and he always said isn't that what you're supposed to do to
people you like there was also one kid who when I was still learning and thus
not a teacher we nicknamed demoner he was given way too many chances and we
found out later he was put into a psychiatric hospital because he nearly
ended his older sister in her sleep and the only reason he didn't was because
his parents tackled him to the ground I still never forget the time the monster
so casually talked about his little brother passing away from SIDS and why
he didn't understand why it was so sad because it's just the baby or how
casually he'd talk about all the violent things he do to some students if they
crossed him I don't think that younger brother passed away from SIDS story two
here's a few number one not letting kids go to the toilet when they need to I
distinctly remember one kid in my German class bursting into tears because he
couldn't hold it in any longer he asked at least three times number two closing
every single bathroom because of one fight in the bathroom we have 28
bathrooms in our school all of them closed three our assembly room or
gymnasium had the first Escape doors chain shut and the police department was
aware of it number four less severe but limiting kids access to water I.E you
can't have your drink bottle at the table which sucks when you live in
Australia and in summer the temperature gets up to 36° C and schools during all
the hottest hours of the day number five bullied students are told to leave
because it's easier to kick out a quiet victim than loud bully number six only
having one bathroom open in high school there are thousands of kids seven giving
preference to kids that parents donate money and fraternize with t-shir or
Headmasters number eight lowering a schools funding if the S scores are low
if the scores are low there should be more funding to help kids learn number
nine in the case of there being a fire I think it's stupid we have to go in
alphabetical order so Adam is happy and healthy but Zach just turned into Ash in
my opinion they should all just get in line no matter what and pretend firing
lunchroom staff for serving food to poor students whose families can afford to
pay it's just so ridiculous to not let a student go to the restroom Story three
this is at a university level say you're a grad student who just secured an
opportunity to travel internationally with University funding for your
research you put in a travel request with a suggested travel and lodging
budget that gets approved within your funding you the grad student still have
to front the money no matter how much it
is and reimbursement can take 3 weeks to 3 months depending on how much pressure
the finance officer is under who operates on a first in first out basis
so you secured this wonderful grand for thousands of dollars making no or little
money as a grad student maybe you're even a fully funded student paying no
tuition you still may be too poor to actually conduct the research you were
brought there to do story four so for about a year I worked for a federal
student loan servicer people would call in and i' try to help them find a way to
manage their student loans I don't want to really unravel the student loan thing
but there are financial aid officers out there that are straight up lying to
their potential students if I had one person tell me that they were told they
wouldn't have to pay back their loans if they graduated I chalk it up to that
person being an idiot when I had 10 people tell me they were told that I
think there's someone misinforming them all these students attended Bible
colleges in Tennessee and Arkansas Story five if a bully starts a fight with you
and you do nothing to defend yourself you get suspended for fighting if you
run from a bully to avoid a fight you still risk being suspended for fighting
this is why I beat the poop out of a bully when I was in eighth grade I
figured that if I was going to be suspended for the actions of someone
whom I could not control I may as well earn it myself same thing happened to my
friend he had to stay after school until
6 p.m. for his dad to pick him up he was commuting an hour and a half from his
job in the city because the administrators didn't want another fight
to break out during bus dismissal when his dad finally showed up and asked his
principal why he was being suspended for defending himself he was told he should
have either number one run to get a teacher staff for number two crawl into
the fetal position until the bully stopped hitting him his dad got so
pissed at and said well I'm sorry I didn't raise my son to be a wuss they
got in the car to drive home he really thought he was going to be in so much
trouble with him but he was proud of him and happy that he was okay and stood up
for himself he was just so angry about the response from the principal and the
fact that he had to be held at school the other guy got to take the bus home
they took different school buses as they lived in opposite towns excuse me crawl
into the fetal position what the hell story six I had a student who never
showed up and never did work in my class the principal asked me to change his F
to a 75 I emailed back explained that the student never made an effort Etc he
told me to be a part of the team and do as I was told I was only a second-year
teacher and was afraid of losing my job so I obliged same principal a couple of
years later we had a very large student and she walked down the bus ramp one day
some boys called out the bus window the filthy things they wanted to do to her
while also calling her fat I wrote them up and chewed them out when the
principal read the referral he simply said boys will be boys and tore up the
referral to this day I wish I would have asked him what he would have done if
that was done to one of his daughters but I was so shocked it still boils my
blood also making School start at 7:00 a.m. and the bus route comes by your
house before 6:30 a.m. so you have to get up around 5:30 to 6:00 a.m. every
morning then say you have an extracurricular activity that takes at
least 2 hours but if it's a sports game it's probably closer to at least 4 hours
then let's say you have a test tomorrow as well as some homework so you study or
work for at least 2 hours at this point you have spent well over half your day
doing school related activities if you want to get a full 8 hour sleep which is
unlikely that leaves you with about around 2 hours of free time per day
which a good chunk of it is probably spent eating a meal showering getting
ready for the next day Etc and then people are surprised when teenagers are
always tired depressed anxious Etc schools are crazy story seven having
worked in a private school for 16 years I have so many answers for this but I'll
limit them to the following stating in the shiny brochure given to the parents
that any possession or use of illegal substances means instant expulsion and
then allowing students caught with them to return after a 2E suspension the only
kid at my former workplace who was expelled over it happened because they
stole the money they used to buy them telling students that if they defend
themselves from local bullies they'd be suspended this rule was dropped after a
student ended up being pushed into a river after having their nose broken
letting students sleep in dorms where the walls were riddled with damp because
there was no money in the budget for repairs while finding the funds to do a
full refurb on the toilets in the school auditorium right before the visit of a
member of the royal family treating male and female students differently case in
point a female student C performing an act on a male student was moved to a new
school while the boy was allowed to remain where he was story8 most if not
all that was said are unethical practices schools do that affect kids
there are plenty of unethical practices that affect teachers as well as with all
things it depends where in the world you live of course my wife's an elementary
school teacher a few things that come to mind they get paid 35 hours a week but
that's the hours they are at school however they have nowhere near enough
free time to prepare their classes and exams grade homework and exams Etc that
has to be done at home unpaid a lot and I mean a lot of required material comes
out of their pockets they have an ever so tiny budget every year for material
that isn't even close to being enough everything else has to be purchased with
their own money even at school if they print or copy more than x Pages nowhere
near enough they have to pay for the extra pages this is more of a pandemic
specific thing but in Quebec due to the explosions of cases they decided to have
zoom classes until the 17th of January anuary in the same announcement the
government made it very clear that anyone who can work from home should do
so next day my wife gets a message from her school telling her she'll have to do
her Zoom classes from the school go figure more specific to my wife's school
though I have no doubts if it happens in many other schools as well the more
senior teachers have a lot of influence on how the students are split in the
different classes which often results in them taking all the easy students and
leaving the more Junior teachers with the difficult ones rather than try and
split them more evenly for educators to get funding for classroom supplies and
projects because some comes out from their own Pockets if you agree that it's
maddening that this needs to be a thing then don't forget to hit the like button
and subscribe to my Channel story nine how they treat students with learning
disorders I've been bullied and stressed by teachers all my life because I just
had add an elementary school my teachers would be physically and verbally cruel
to me hating my guts all because I worked slowly without bothering to help
eventually for those students that do get help get sent to the concrete
storage rooms with teachers who can't be bothered to give any help with their
students the most help they give is showing six-minute inspirational videos
which only reinforce the feeling of being different all this puts more
stress of school on my shoulders of constantly hating myself because I'm
slow at work and being battered by teachers that the only reason why I
don't work is because I'm lazy it got to the point where in my sophomore year of
high school I nearly passed by three heart attacks because I got so sick from
the stress I've only had one teacher bother to help me he would let me stay
after to do work in his classroom even helping me not being the best as he was
a math teacher but he also got me out of
my comfort zone by getting me into clubs
and going out to things like the fa with him I haven't talked to him since that
year ended and I feel horrible for it as I at least should owe him a thank you
story 10 punishment rules in general have screwed me and my friends over
numerous times the process of getting bad students or teachers reprimanded is
convoluted at best and useless at worst when me and my friends were being
bullied like hardcore bullied my year group and the year below we tried to
report the main four to safeguarding there in mind the incident that pushed
us over the edge was watched by a PE teacher they had a meeting which only
made it worse turns out all they did was have a Stern talking with him we said
safeguarding it got worse and they couldn't do anything else it was against
the rules left us with no choice but to skip a lot of our classes out of literal
fear we got in trouble for it obviously I don't know what type of rules they
have in place I mean these students have no choice but to skip lessons for fear
of their sanity but we can't punish these students is their mindset that
they're stupid I want to add this second story my friend was verbally abused by
her English teacher for 2 years because she was misandrist this is no joke
either people have purposely failed English English to be moved down a set
her class was for a plus and a students so they had to get C and D grades to be
moved down to not deal with her or dropped English literature altogether
when lower classes got too full male students did noticeably statistically
worse in her classes and in the entire history of her being one of the two
English literature teachers aals had taken it at a level and seven dropped it
after one year my friend was the exception he was determined to do well
I.E not fail because she refused to not fail him he was getting a grades in the
other teachers class he reported her three times in those two years it only
led to more literal torture every lesson
he would get lectured or shouted out for saying an argument not approved by her
being nice towards the male characters basically just speaking it took admin me
a female getting in trouble for standing up to him for them to think that maybe
they should change something they didn't but we inspired the year below ours to
hate her and make her life miserable there's someone now making their essays
based on seeing the handmaid's tale her favorite book commentary and business
and the businessmen instead of men are Satan just to piss her off so nothing
changed but my friend got a see in English in the end story 11 I used to do
it for k12 and some of the crap I've seen and reported the first one that
comes to mind this was a severely small District I want to say there were about
3 to 400 students Max one student had severe mental illness and no one working
there was equipped to care for or teach a child those disabilities he was
extremely violent they built a room inside of a classroom that they could
lock him into that had padded walls and stuffed animals and stuff inside so he'd
throw himself around the room screaming and kicking but wouldn't actually
physically harm himself for others I cannot believe that was legal had
another kid with autism he was in standard class he would sleep pretty
much all day in class I once overheard a teacher's aid asking him a question and
the teacher said don't waste time on him he's a lost cause this school district
also practiced corporal punishment I once witnessed the Middle School
principal threaten a student who was being disrespectful the girl laughed and
said you think threatening to hit me scares me I get worse at home story 12
burned out former Texas Elementary School teacher I left because of a
student all called Daniela daniela's parents were illiterate not judgment
just fact immigrants from Central America who wanted the education for
their children that they never got but because they were illiterate and working
12 to 14 hours every day they couldn't help Daniela learn her own language let
alone read and write in English so Daniela struggled in school her entire
career and was unable to read or comprehend in any language and the
school system was designed to tear her down not meet her where she was at and
lift her up so by the time she came to me in fifth grade she wouldn't look at
me wouldn't lift up her head she looked Bean terrified of yet another year of
failure no matter how hard she tried another year of a school system telling
her that all her work and all her effort just wasn't good enough she wasn't good
enough by the time we had worked together for about 3 months Daniela
would finally look at me and even crack small jokes in our limited English we
celebrated each small success she made and each step that showed some growth
she was making so much progress and beginning to feel less hopeless until
State standardized testing time you see the test was deliberately written in
language 2 years above grade level expectations for a native English
speaker all his teachers knew it not a goddamn thing we could do about it so we
had to give this biased useless test or bilingual students who struggled with
English two grade levels below and expect them to succeed in this test and
of course our administrators or School culture and our parents all told our
kids what a big deal this test was and it's important to your future it shows
what you know and if you don't pass we'll retain you what a great freaking
message right I had to give Daniela the test or lose my job can't cheat for her
teachers have been arrested and charged for that so I watched this kid who had
worked so hard all year test for five freaking hours how many adults do we ask
to do that and I watched her fail and I had to tell her her score and no matter
what I told her about how it didn't really matter and and I knew how hard
she worked and how much growth she had shown she knew she failed again just
like always I have many more stories like that but she will always stick with
me screw the school system story 13 only going to talk about higher education
I attended a large State College in a sprawling State system 100% failure
courses professors who treat 100 level courses as a the fod situations and the
screw-ups are your problem ta is selling
the exams to students yep that psychotic exam you wondered how Wonder bro passed
they bought the answers paying for a course with a professor and only meeting
or seeing the ta ta shows up baked or drawing to a course or can't speak
English wildly unqualified professors had a student bring a CPA brother into
one of my accounting courses the dudes stopped short of attacking the professor
and spent the latter half of our course previewing and correcting the professor
every other sense another example I taught a Windows or technology course
because the professor graduated in computer science before Windows existed
he sat there decaying in the corner while I taught the course then let me
preview the departmental exam to ensure a review covered everything catastrophic
departmental exams and or Professor made exams ever take an exam to see a few
examples and wonder where the hell those examples were from previous editions of
the textbook the department departmental exams aren't updated by Edition and
often rely on specific examples from the previous editions I also spent a ton of
time in the math lab because I had a math professor trying to make rocket
scientists out of business majors I kept
organizing our entire class to go to the
math lab and take up all their resources to the point they brought her in and
told her to tone it down she then came up with two different exams A and B A
exam was basic algebra b exam was given to each person at the meeting with a
chair of the math department I seriously am not a math major and this was over a
decade ago but I didn't know you could put a matrix into an algebraic
expression that contained 40 plus polinomial our exams got tossed and we
were given a p for passing the course non-state curriculum different track
courses that lead to the same diploma you'd get but it's from a private
institution it's basically the opposite of 100% fail courses where the math is
gutted out of courses and they're reduced to vocabulary I tutored students
for stat and private in state colleges you know to get your stattic credit to
graduate wank wank the state course was skull splitting difficult private
curriculum I didn't know why they needed a tutor because it was literally just
vocab it was also a thing to tutor an exam for a few private school attending
students I literally had the exam and just had to teach the student to show
her work for the few examples that were on the exam failing an entire Physics
course because our professor got married to some rich or royal guy in Europe and
went off to have a European wedding was a few weeks before a final and she
hadn't made available her homework or prior tests digitally even if he made a
100 in the final the highest grade you could get was a 20 in the course I
suspect the only reason I accidentally graduated College was because each
course they took was like sticking an anchor in their course system and
dragging up all the crap and dirt it was based off of if there was a cheaper
textbook I let students know if the syllabus had the L did you read me here
are free points I let everyone know I'd normally take every question the
professor provided organized study groups and accidentally organized a walk
out along with accidentally having three meetings with different chairs for
different departments almost all my courses prior to my senior year were P
for pass due to some BS in their end when I see how much people pay for
higher education today I'm like holy hell buy the answers to your exams and
just live a stress-free life I hope you enjoyed the video and if you made it
this far I'm sure you'll also enjoy what's the dumbest thing you were
punished for in School Story 2 is wild see you in that video | give me a good story on WhatUNETHICALPracticesDidYourSCHOOLDoorig |
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would you be the jerk for not cooking Thanksgiving dinner and just spending
the day at the beach instead we'll get into that in a bit but first am I the
jerk for sending my future sister-in-law
to my future mother-in-law's place after she refused to pay for the wedding cake
samples she and her friends ate I 27-year-old female and my fianceé Leo
27-year-old male decided to let my future sister-in-law Maya 32-year-old
female stay at our house because she needed space from her husband due to
some relationship struggles they're having Leo and I had gotten wedding cake
samples from an expensive Bakery specializing in wedding cakes we planned
to test them along with Maya after we finished up some other wedding plans
yesterday however when I came home from work to see Leo yelling at Maya the Box
the samples came in wide open on the living room table and Maya arguing with
him I asked what was happening and Leo angrily told me that while we were both
at work Maya had some friends over and they ended up eating almost all of our
cake samples I wish shocked and asked Maya why the heck she would do something
like that Maya said that she needed to pick me up from what she was going
through with her husband and invited her
friends over to comfort her which turned into them eating the cake samples after
one of her friends noticed the Box on our kitchen counter my shock turned into
anger and Maya tried to defend herself by saying it was just cake I told her if
it was just cake then she should have no problem replacing it Maya refused
because the price was way too expensive for something tasting crappy anyways Leo
backed me up on having Maya pay to replace it and we argued until I said
that if Maya can't cough up the money then she'll just stay at my future
mother-in-law's house because there was no way I was having someone so
disrespectful in my house Maya thought I was bluffing until Leo repeated my
sentiment and went to go pack her things in a huff when she came back out I
handed her some cash for gas and told her to get the heck out presumably after
Maya got to her mom's house my future fure mother-in-law called me to scold me
about kicking Maya out and that I was cruel to do that to her in her time of
need also my future mother-in-law was also irritated that I sent Maya her way
since she had led Maya into the liquor cabinet and ended up drinking some
expensive whiskey that belonged to my future father-in-law so now they're
arguing about that I don't blame op and it seems like it's a recurring theme
wherever she goes if they're going to be
a tornado no matter where they go you're more than fair to at least say This
Tornado is not your responsibility and guide them out the door also hi I'm
Steven and if you guys enjoy getting to decide whether or not all of these
people are jerks why not hit those like And subscribe buttons down below that
said our next story is am I the jerk for not letting my daughter go over to my
sister-in-law's house after her kids dumped my daughter's Bindy bag I
40-year-old female am South Asian and my husband Luke 42-year-old male and the
rest of his family are white we have a beautiful daughter Amara 14-year-old
female who has decided to start wearing Bindy in day-to-day Life 2 months ago
before anyone asks no I didn't pressure her into this decision this was all on
her own and I don't even wear Bindy daily I helped her buy a Bindy bag and
Amara had carried it around with her whenever she'd be gone from home for
more than a day ever since last weekend I let Amara go to my sister-in-law
Bree's 45-year-old female's house Bri has two kids Danielle 15-year-old female
and Chase 13-year-old male Saturday afternoon Amara called me crying and
told me that Danielle and Chase had been teasing her about the dots on her
forehead since Friday that morning Danielle and Chase had grabbed the bag
out of her room and dumped it into the pool as a prank it sank to the bottom
and since Amara can't swim she wasn't able to grab it Amara went to Brie and
told her what happened and Bri took Danielle and Chase's side saying it was
kids being kids and that they did Amara a favor with that prank I comforted my
daughter over the phone and went to go pick her up soon after Amara said that
she didn't want to be at Brie's house anymore once I got there I helped Amara
put her bag into the trunk before going to Brie to confirm the story Brie
confirmed it and doubled down on what she said hard I was irritated at that
and soon left with Amara when we got home I told Luke what happened and he
suggested not having Amara go over to Bree's house until Bri apologizes for
saying the kids did Amara a favor by throwing her Bindy bag into the pool and
the kids apologize for the incident itself I agreed with that being a good
idea but checked to make sure Amara was okay with it first Amara said that she
doesn't even want to see her cousins or Aunt now anyways so I sent Bri a text
explaining that Amara wouldn't be coming over until they all apologize I didn't
get a response at first but when I did Bri was telling me that that was unfair
and that I was punishing her and her kids over a dumb prank I just replied
that I just want an apology for my daughter and that should be a simple
request Bri didn't reply back but my mother-in-law ended up calling me and
telling me that I was horrible for not letting Bree see her niece and that both
Amara and I needed to get over the incident when I explained Amara doesn't
want to be around Bri or her kids either Luke is on my side with this but my
mother-in-law won't stop texting about how I need to just let this go and let
bygones be bygones op's def definitely not the jerk and honestly I think what
they're offering may not even be something that amarus fully embraced
with these people just went completely against what Amara was all about I
wouldn't consider it any kind of prank it was just kind of outright cruel it's
like the mother-in-law is trying to cast
a charm on you when they say let bygones be bygones but you remove the veil and
it's really let bigots be bigots our next story is am I the jerk for
enforcing a no kids talk Rule and not offering to to plan a baby shower really
are we the jerks our friend group female 30s gets together about once a month a
few years ago certain group members began trying to conceive one of the
first ones to start trying was Katie unfortunately Katie and her husband had
difficulty conceiving this was understandably very difficult for them
once other members of the group started having kids Katie asked us to not talk
about kids at our monthly get togethers because it was difficult for her to hear
she also made it clear that she would not attend any baby showers the rest of
our group had mixed feelings about this we understood that Katie was very upset
about her difficulties conceiving but it was disappointing to not be able to
share important parts of our Lives we generally go around and everyone talks
about what's new in their lives work promotions Hobbies Etc but whenever one
of us was on maternity leave we could basically only say everything is good
because we couldn't talk about the the main thing happening in our life that
said now that our kids are older and we're all back to work or have time for
hobbies we've started to enjoy having a dedicated time for no kids talk it is
something that we've even come to look forward to fast forward to now and Katie
and her husband are pregnant which is very exciting she is nearing her due
date and planning to take at least a year off to stay home with the baby
that's enough background so now to the point last night me and two other
members of our group got a text from Katie's husband saying that she is
really upset that we barely ask her about her pregnancy when we see her and
that no one has offered to throw her a baby shower at first we were surprised
to hear this we do text Katie at least weekly to check in on her we just don't
talk about it at our monthly Hangouts she's been talking about it in her
updates but no one's asked any follow-up questions about the pregnancy and we
more focus on her other updates we talked to the rest of the group except
for Katie and the General Vibe is that we want to keep the no kid talk rule in
place and it feels a little rude that Katie expects us to when she's the one
who made the rule in the first place would we be the jerk if we kept our
traditions we also don't feel like we have the time to plan a shower with the
holidays happening it sounds like no one wants to go through the stress of
planning a shower when Katie didn't even go to theirs I think the shower half of
it is complicated I don't think anybody's just obligated to plan it and
throw it for her but like if she did have one nobody wanting to go because
she had her own issues that caused her to not want to go to other people's is a
little conflicting but the rule alone of no kid talk in the group that seems to
have really been clicking for the group I understand wanting to keep that just
because the group transformed to that that is like an intrinsic part of that
group Katie can't just bend the entire group's rules around her constantly I'd
like to know if you guys think Opie is the jerk or not our next story is am I
the jerk for for telling my mom I won't help her around the house because that's
a woman's job before you get mad from the title there's context so I'm
28-year-old male engaged to be married in my high school sweetheart due to some
Financial insecurities we used to face we moved back with my parents for a
little while until we were able to afford to rent an apartment I've lived
with my parents in the past of course then moved out with my fiance for 2
years now we've moved in with my parents for a while until the house we want to
rent is available which will be in 2 months for context I have a married
older sister who's in the brink of divorce with her husband because he's
doing nothing around the house he simply comes back from work and sits and plays
until he goes to bed while my sister does all of the housework on top of her
full-time nursing job my mom believes my sister is unreasonable for her demands
towards her husband and believes it's a woman's job to do housework and cater to
her husband even if she works a job also when I lived in my fiance alone she'd
always badmouth my fiance for forcing me
to help around the house and always said how as a woman she's not taking proper
care of me her soon to be husband because I also cooked cleaned did chores
Etc even now that we live in my parents' house when we need to do laundry Etc I
don't expect my fiance to be the one to do it I do it myself many times as well
my mom doesn't like that and claims how my fiance has me as a maid now despite
all that my mom demands that I help her around the house when it's housework she
wants to do and I do I always do my part
since I live here but for her it's never enough and I'm a lazy son who doesn't
care about helping his mother after all the ridiculous stuff she said about my
fiance and my sister's traditional roles I told her then you know what I'm not
helping around that's a woman's job remember so don't demand from me to help
you with your chores since it's a woman's job and I'm a man of course I
keep defending my sister and I keep contributing equally to my fiance and I
chores I just refuse to contribute any Helping Hands to my mother since she
believes she's entitled to help but my fiance and sister are supposed to be
Maids my mom has badmouthed me to the entire family right now and whenever
someone visits they scold me and call me a jerk basically for being lazy and not
helping out my mom am I the jerk for giving my mom a taste of her own
medicine I think Opie is not the jerk here because it's clear they don't
actually believe that it's just they're going against this double standard
treatment they're getting from their mom where I guess as their kid Opie doesn't
get treated as a man from their mom but also is a man in her eyes in regards to
Opie's fiance it's just weird really outdated beliefs and I completely
understand where op is coming from our next story is am I the jerk for letting
my girlfriend's daughter wear a skirt to a party I 36-year-old male have been
with my girlfriend 34 4-year-old female for just under a year we're both single
parents my fiance passed away 5 years ago but her ex-husband is still in the
picture both our daughters go to the same school mine is 14 while hers is 15
we don't live together yet I want to finish the work on my house before they
move in we both have slightly different parenting techniques she's more focused
on her daughter having good grades making sure she can get into a good
University while my Approach is more do what you want with your life I'll
support you regardless last weekend my daughter was supposed to go to a
friend's 18th birthday party they're not
very close friends but she got invited I knew that the girl's parents and other
relatives would be there so I had no issue with letting her go but last week
my daughter asked her friend if my girlfriend's daughter could come to the
party they've been pretty good friends ever since we started dating and her
friend agreed so I arranged everything with my girlfriend so that her daughter
would spend the weekend at my place instead of going to her dad's when when
Saturday came I picked up her daughter in the morning because my daughter
wanted to go shopping with her before the party her daughter had brought a
dress from home that she was supposed to wear it was a fulllength dress in the
evening when the girls were getting ready her daughter decided that she
didn't want to wear that dress but instead borrowed some of my daughter's
stuff so they could wear matching outfits a skirt and a crop top I never
had an issue with anything my daughter wears I always thought teenagers should
be able to express themselves so I always just bought her whatever she
liked I dropped the girls off at the party at 10: p.m. and then picked them
up just before 1:00 a.m. that's the time me and my girlfriend agreed on her
daughter then spent the night at mine and I dropped her off back at my
girlfriend's on Sunday afternoon but Sunday evening she called me after she
saw photos on Instagram that her daughter posted she was furious at me
for letting her daughter dress the way minded she said I was supposed to make
sure her daughter wore that dress she brought with her so I explain the whole
situation to her but it just ended up in a huge fight between us since then we
only talked once as she's still very upset with me I told her she was
overreacting I honestly don't know what to think of this whole thing so am I the
jerk here first of all I don't think the girlfriend said that they had to
explicitly only wear that dress and at 15 I think it's fair to kind of let them
dress a little bit more how they want to
obviously I think there's limits to that but that's kind of to the EXT dream and
what they're wearing is not if there was a dress code here the girlfriend should
have made sure that it was known our next story is am I the jerk for telling
my brother you should be glad your son's reading instead of doing what you did
when we were teens my brother was in prison for 5 years for taking bribes in
exchange for building permits I took in my nephew 18 and he's been with me ever
since he was only 13 when he was 16 my nephew took interest in Romance so I
bought him the Bridgerton novels he's reread some of them several times over
the past couple of years never told my brother about it though since my brother
was more interested in his sports activities social life if he's seeing
anyone Etc after my brother's release we
began having dinner together at my place my nephew is delighted to be able to
have dinner with his dad again and to be fully able to hang out and do something
as simple as watching TV together everything seemed to be going well but
then my brother saw the aformentioned book he recognized them since my late
sister-in-law used to read them he frowned and when my nephew went to the
toilet he asked me why I let my nephew read those girly books he said men
shouldn't read them so I said why can't men read romance reading those and other
books helped him get an IELTS overall band score of 8.0 that score in his
literacy allowed him to get into one of the best law schools in our country you
should be proud of him he still protested that there there were many
other better books for boys and men to read so I said at least he's reading
instead of doing what you used to when we were teens you should be glad about
that now I might be a jerk for this comment because while he did cause some
problems for our parents when we were teens he also grew out of it quickly he
used to be a good role model to my nephew up until accepting the bribes and
now the men shouldn't read romance thing he really looked hurt at the reminder
and said it was a cheap shot I don't think there's anything wrong with him
reading these novels and I think Go's done a great job taking care of their
nephew I mean the dad can either get over it and accept and embrace their son
or they just stand to alienate them for who they are I think if anything that
should probably be the greater message expressed to them great you have your
opinion now can you accept your son for who they are or are you just going to be
smarmy behind closed doors for the rest of your life this next story is am I the
jerk for telling my steps sister's son the honest truth which is not what she
wanted me to tell him when I 26-year-old female was seven I lost my dad my mom
remarried when I was N9 my stepsister 29-year-old female was 12 at the time we
had very different experiences with the whole blending of the families I didn't
really want it to happen and wasn't exactly looking to make them my new dad
and sister they never really became that either but I've accepted that they are
family with my steps sister her mom chose not to be in her life and she
always longed for a family where she had
a mom and maybe some siblings it made us all living together uncomfortable with
me and her wanting very different things and her dad and my mom really unhappy
with how I felt about us becoming a real family as they would put it we're all
okay now not so close but no hate or animosity there anymore at least it was
hidden well until this so my steps sister married when she was 20 and had
her son then too she lost her husband 2 years ago her son is now nine my steps
sister has met a man a widower and he has two kids under three they're trying
to get to the point where they move in together but her son is not really
blending with them which is how she said it he's not unkind or rude but he's not
really making an effort is how she views it and he said that he doesn't want to
be a part of the new family she wants they decided to go away for the weekend
together and see if that would be a good experience and whether it would help
them Bond she said her son ignored when the three-year-old wanted to hold his
hand and then he didn't want to sit with her partner who was also looking at the
stars on their first night there he also
didn't want to take photos with them all so she decided I needed to talk to him
as someone who also lost my dad she said the adult me could give him a more
mature insight into everything I told her I would talk to him but I would not
read from a script she told me to just be honest I did talk to her son I
assured him that how he was feeling was okay okay and that I'd felt the same way
I told him it was okay for his feelings to change and I answered honestly that
mine hadn't really they had just softened so I could like them as people
even if they weren't my dad and sister he liked hearing that and he said he
really did believe that that would be how he'd feel and I assured him it would
be okay he was honest with how he just didn't feel the way his mom wanted to
and I related with him with that my steps sister did not like that and a
couple of days days later she was calling to curse me out and saying I
didn't help her like I had said I would she told me her son was more sure now
that he didn't want to try and be a family with them and she told me I was
so selfish to ruin her life the way I'd ruined my mom's I told her my concern
was with her son and how he was doing she told me to go freak myself am I the
jerk I think Opie is definitely not the jerk and in the long run I fully believe
that you're never going to have a great chance to SU success when you try to
force a kid to accept somebody as their new parent or their new sibling rather
than just kind of letting it happen naturally with love care and no Force
titles having these people enter their life and just being a caring positive
person for them would increase that chance tenfold rather than this is your
new Daddy and sister our next story is am I the jerk for not wanting to give my
younger daughter's future wedding fund to my older daughter's house deposit me
male 59 and my wife female 53 have two daughters let's call them Rose female 27
and Lily female 24 who both earn roughly
the same amount of money quite a lot for their ages rose has a 2-year-old and
husband who earns a fair bit less than her and Lily has a boyfriend who earns a
bit more than her they both inherited a big chunk of money from my mother enough
for a 10 to 15% deposit on a house they could realistically buy Rose has always
lived lived Beyond her means and certainly her husbands they've alluded
to using some of their house savings when their daughter poppy was born
despite my wife looking after poppy fulltime whilst my daughter worked her
husband has recently confessed he hasn't
saved a penny in almost 10 years they've
been together on the other hand Lily and her boyfriend have almost doubled the
original amount saved and never seem to have any issues with money whilst we
constantly seem to be helping out Rose both girls are looking at buying houses
Lily and her boyfriend have been approved for a lovely house with a 25%
deposit Rose also had an offer accepted but as it turned out due to commuting
costs and child care from moving away adding up to almost the cost of another
mortgage they'll only be able to get a mortgage for roughly half they thought
and only have 5% Rose told Lily this and asked how on Earth she'd been accepted
on a bigger house as a younger couple Lily was honest and told her how much
she made as a couple and how much they were putting down and Rose broke down a
little she asked how much we'd given Lily and we told her nothing extra that
night my wife and I were talking and she said she didn't realize how badly Rose
was financially and how well Lily is doing we'd paid for Rose's wedding and
plan to do so for Lily too but so far she's insisted she doesn't want or need
it I want to keep the money so we can still offer it when the time comes even
if Lily still won't accept it but my wife wants to give the money to Rose as
she says having a child makes it a lot harder for Rose and she doesn't want the
money to go to waste when our only grandchild doesn't have a home I mean if
you think you can Broach this topic as far as talking to Lily about it and ask
them how they personally feel I think you could probably approach it that way
you know go to Lily and say we have saved some money away for if you ever
had a wedding and you wanted financial support it's completely up to you we
wouldn't judge you either way and that's why we're coming to you to ask you we
were thinking it might be helpful to go to Rose for this time of need and just
see how they felt about it with no opinions no hard feelings I mean just on
what op wrote though I don't think they're The Jerk It's not money that was
ever meant for Rose and honestly maybe it's for the best that Rose learns to
try not to live outside their means regardless our next story is am I the
jerk for not cooking Thanksgiving dinner and spending the day at the beach
instead I 27-year-old female have so been responsible for cooking
Thanksgiving dinner for 20 plus people for the last 8 years I do all the
shopping cooking and setting up months before Thanksgiving I start looking at
grocery prices and tweaking recipes to fit dietary restrictions Caribbean
family vegans and pescatarians meat eaters I also make enough for the
college aged kids to have leftovers I usually make three turkeys two party
pans of mac and cheese and a party pan of mashed potato potatoes stuffing green
bean casserole collared greens yams mini Seafood kiches stuffed mushrooms rolls
in a salad from scratch plus all the desserts apple pie sweet potato pie
cheesecake homemade ice cream and breads also from scratch I start making stocks
and doughs Tuesday night I bake my bread
for stuffing and make my cheesecakes and pies Wednesday after work cook all day
Thursday so we can sit down and start eating by 4: so my aunts who work the
night just as nurses can enjoy every year people invite unexpected guests and
it becomes 30 plus I would be okay with it if it were plus ones but my mom
invites her friends and their kids my mom and aunt ask me to make additional
turkeys and some sides for their units I never feel appreciated for everything I
do to make it special and accommodate everyone this year I'm separated for my
husband and I really don't feel like bending over backwards cooking for
people who don't even leave me left overs to make a sandwich the next day
this year I've decided not to cook and just spend my day at the beach the only
bonus to living in Florida I was asked how much the adults should zel me for
Thanksgiving groceries at the beginning of the month and I told them I'm not
cooking today I received a zel from my uncle and when I returned it he asked
why I reminded him in the family group chat I wasn't cooking now they want me
to cancel my plans and cook am I the jerk for not wanting to I don't blame op
for feeling unappreciated here not wanting to cook this major
Extravaganza I mean I've heard a lot of people get tired of cooking for
Thanksgiving making a lot less than what op makes I mean this is a week-long
spectacle pretty much I mean you could give me all of the notes all of the
recipes all of the exact ways how to do everything op does and it would still be
the most daunting task to me to cook all
of that it's not op's responsibility and
I understand why they would rather go to the beach I'd like to rather see this
get like changed around to inviting people over to actually help make this
stuff not go all Lone Ranger on this but overall I don't think op's the jerk our
next story is am I the jerk for laughing at my brother in-law for when his son
got a zero on his project he did so my child is three grades ahead of my
sister's kid I'm going to call the teacher Mrs cat now personally I don't
really like her but I do respect her she is a very No Nonsense woman and she'll
make sure that you learn she has the highest test scores for years very clear
in her expectations with parents and that she won't put up with our crap I'm
a bit ashamed to admit that I sent her a whole list of questions about her class
and she literally sent back the PDF of her handbook that I already had and told
me to read every question I had was answered in the first few pages there
are other stories about her but really she's a non-nonsense teacher and she
truly does doesn't care about the parents' feelings she taught my daughter
extremely well now there's a project where you make a model of some Native
American group's home and read a small paper about it well my brother-in-law
did that whole project Mrs Cat made a quiz about the paper that was written
and gave it to his son well son failed it and admitted he didn't do it I saw
the email that was sent and in a very professional way ripped my
brother-in-law a new one his son got a zero and is is allowed to redo the
project at school he went in in person and according to him got ripped a new
one he was complaining and was going to take it to the principal and I started
laughing I told him this was hilarious and I hope he learned his lesson he's
now ticked at me I don't blame op here I think it's very important that your kid
does the work for themselves I completely understand helping the kid I
mean doing it with them and being handson I think that's great doing it
for them no I could can relate to the teacher though one of the strictest
teachers I ever had she yelled at me on the first day because I didn't have
paper out taking notes in front of the whole class just stopped the lecture was
a class I definitely got straight A's in but at the same time she was also the
kind of person who would play around toss bouncy balls around the classroom
to kids do that thing where somebody's like sleeping with their head down where
they would just drop a book on a desk to shock them fill a turkey baster with
water and intimidate the kids that they're going to get splashed our next
story is am I the jerk for not fighting the school to allow my daughter to do
cheerleading since the athletic trainer denied her I am so tired and need an
outside opinion the school's athletic trainer Beth is a very strict woman she
started two years ago and at the time I thought she was just being a bench and
on a power trip she was not all she was asking for is basic respect this became
really apparent when the school had a meeting about her and went through every
single incident with her they used the camera footage for a lot of incidents
parents know that office is recorded and it showed the kids were awful and she
was professional the kids were awful and really ended up having a tantrum when
she told them no many times the kids were calling her names and it really
made me re-evaluate my opinion on her one example for reference one kid needed
to do a balance test and take off their shoes she had a fit and refused to do so
the athletic trainer told her that that was fine but without it they can't play
she took off her shoes and called her some lovely names GES not to mention the
parents getting on her butt for it now my daughter is a sophomore 15 and she
needs to do a concussion test in the winter if she doesn't then she can't
cheer she knew about the whole thing and they had a practice for the thing she
gave everyone a time to be in her office my daughter got a time and didn't go in
at that time she went in at the end of practice when she was packing up Beth
told her no and I'm embarrassed to say it but my daughter had a huge fit about
it Beth stood her ground on it and went home now she's on vacation and my
daughter cannot cheer until the concussion test is done that will
probably be done in December so she's missing a ton of cheer events due to
Thanksgiving Fest my daughter was ticked and wants me to fight the school I told
her no since I saw how she acted I asked for footage that's what she gets for
being inconsiderate to Beth my wife wants to fight it and both of them think
I'm huge jerks I think this is an open and shut book I think is clearly not the
jerk the daughter was given a time and they didn't respect it I don't know if
like they were just busy goofing around with their friends or what but if you're
given a schedule an appointment and you blow it almost nobody's going to bend
over backwards and see you when you come to them this is just a straightup life
lesson for her but with that being said that's all the time we have for today
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my husband's best friend is engaged and my husband's amazing ex will be at the
wedding my husband has a tight-knit group of friends from college we are all
31 his best friend Tim just proposed to his girlfriend and I'm really excited
for them but I'm not excited about my husband's ex Jenna I am ashamed of how
insecure I have become as a result of her presence overshadowing my marriage
she and my husband dated for a few years then he got accepted to a grad program
on the west coast so they split amicably and remained friends because she didn't
want to do long distance he moved and we met 3 years later after we got married
we moved to the east coast and bought a house and our son was born last summer
Jenna is amazing everyone tells me so my husband's friends his family and
especially my husband after we'd been married for a year Tim told me that it
was so weird that my husband ended up with me because everybody likes Jenna
more when I brought this up my husband didn't disagree my husband clearly views
her as the one that got away and she has become the third person in my Merit I
have no animosity towards her but I'm so frustrated with my husband's inability
to move on he swears he has moved on but I really don't think he has he has told
me about the eort put into their relationship and the contrast with our
marriage makes me so sad for instance he was so proud to plan a massive surprise
party for her 21st but he didn't even acknowledge my 30th I would never go
through his phone or anything like that but I can tell when he's been talking to
her because he gets really grumpy and complains about how much he hates our
life and adulthood about once a year he calls me Jenna and this always prompts a
big fight because he says we're both people he's been in a long-term
relationship with and I shouldn't be offended to be in the same metal
category as her because she's so amazing we are very different she is thin and
blonde I am a curvy athletic brunette she earned a degree that actually makes
money and I'm an English PhD she is incredibly fun and energetic and I'm
always tired because I'm bogged down by the responsibilities of baby SL pet SL
house/ jobs she loves to drink and I can't remember the last time I drank she
is also married now and I doubt that someone so amazing would be trying to
cheat on her amazing husband when we were on the west coast Tim vetted him
for my husband who was grumpy to hear that Jenna's husband is nice successful
and attractive I think that my husband really misses the freedom of being in
college and presents the adult responsibilities that I symbolize
mortgage baby eating healthy I feel so much shame and guilt about not being
able to make him happy things have been Rocky since our son was born my husband
has debilitating ADHD that renders him incapable of finishing chores or
finishing feeding our child and this is caus huge fights because I'm doing 95%
of the household care and child care I have two part-time remote jobs and my
husband works full-time I often end up working from p.m. to 3:00 a.m.
just so I can finish my work because I'm doing all the baby stuff Jen ales about
5 hours away and I haven't met her yet but she will of course be invited to the
wedding Tim officiated our wedding and my husband will definitely be in the
wedding party I really don't want to be in the same room as Jenna my husband is
so grumpy after just messaging her I can't even imagine how grumpy he would
be and how awful I'd seem in comparison if he was talking to her in person I'm
still not used to my post bab body and I
look awful I don't think she would cheat on her husband but I think that seeing
her for the first time in years would just cement for my husband that he
regrets the path that his life has taken I'm trying to think through options and
choose the one that would cause the least drama option A I talked to my
husband about this inevitably leading to another massive fight option b i don't
express any of this to anyone and on the day of the wedding I faint illness
option C I talk to Tim's fiance Anna and ask her to seat us far apart I hate to
involve other people in this and I think
Anna would enjoy the drama of us sitting
together plus this still doesn't prevent my husband from hanging out with Jenna
option D I explained to Anna that if Jenna is going I will not be able to
attend for my own mental health but I will do something really generous for
the couple and also take them out to dinner so that the four of us can
celebrate their engagement SL Merit I think Anna would just fan the Flames of
drama I'm trying to emphasize that I have no ill will towards Jenna and I
don't want to deprive the group of college friends from a wonderful day of
celebrating together and reliving the past I just genuinely feel that my
presence would ruin it for them and I would feel even more down on myself my
husband and I are in marriage counseling but he doesn't want to talk about
anything that would make him sound like the bad guy so we just end up talking
about how my anxieties and insecurities are burdensome to him I am so sad and
ashamed I used to try to think of Jenna as this motivating standard to which I
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what is a gut feeling you had that saved your life I had taken my dog a German
Shepherd out for an early morning pee I had a feeling in my gut that something
was not quite right but when I looked around I did not see anything but I did
become hyper aware of my situational status my dog had shutz hun training and
I gave him the pass off command which means to pay attention and watch a
moment later a man appeared from the Shadows behind a garbage bin with what
looked like a long bladed knife in his hand I did not give the fast command to
attack as I did not want to take the chance that my dog would be hurt but I
did want to scare off the per and my dog almost ripped the leash as he lunged
towards the man with the fiercest bark I ever heard come out of his mouth it
terrified the man enough that he ran off I am sure my dog wonders why I never
gave the command to attack as he was ready to give his life for mine and that
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:06.660 --> :11.280 Revenge backfired! I leaked a video
recording of my ex and I having sex. :11.280 --> :15.960
I never told anyone this story and I guess the
only other person who knew about it was me,
:15.960 --> :20.400 and maybe the numerous websites I
consulted for more information before :20.400 --> :24.360
finally sending out the video recordings.
I did not tell anyone because I did not
:24.360 --> :28.140
want them to think of me as an ass, I know you’re
probably thinking “oh, but you’re an ass.” It’s
:28.140 --> :31.680 okay to think of me as an ass, but
my ex started it and in my books, :31.680 --> :35.280
all is fair in love and war ( and that was exactly what happened here.)
:35.280 --> :39.720
My ex and I have been together nearly all our
lives. We grew up in the same neighborhood,
:39.720 --> :44.700
went to the same high school, graduated together,
and made the decision to leave the neighborhood
:44.700 --> :49.620
we grew up in and make more of our lives. She
has always been an ambitious woman. She wanted
:49.620 --> :54.540
to be a top model and even in high school, she
constantly worried about time running out. She
:54.540 --> :58.980
had too many lofty dreams and she was convinced
that she was running out of time. In school,
:58.980 --> :03.780
I did everything a boyfriend could do to keep
her dreams running, including paying some boys
:03.780 --> :09.720
in the area to intimidate the nerds at school to
hijack the school system, mess with the voting and
:09.720 --> :14.460
name her prom queen. Everyone was shocked when
she was voted prom queen, and they should have
:14.460 --> :19.560
been because she did not deserve it. Some other
girl was the people’s choice. She was not as
:19.560 --> :25.860
beautiful as my ex but she was kind and graceful.
My ex was far from being a kind person, she only
:25.860 --> :31.740
extended occasional kindness to people she loved,
and anyone she had no close relationship with was
:31.740 --> :36.960
of no importance to her, except of course, she
needed their help for something or suspects that
:36.960 --> :41.220 she will be needing their help in the future.
I was the less ambitious one in our relationship.
:41.220 --> :44.940 Granted, I wanted to leave our neighborhood
and have a life that did not involve a lot
:44.940 --> :50.100 of struggling or having no money, but I did
not dream of becoming a star or having all
:50.100 --> :54.060 the money in the world, I just wanted to
get an education, have a better life than
:54.060 --> :58.680 the one I had and give my children an even
better life than the life my parents gave me.
:58.680 --> :03.360 My ex and I left the place where we grew up
together and rented a studio apartment. She
:03.360 --> :07.740
worked as a waitress in a high-end restaurant
while I worked different jobs and enrolled in
:07.740 --> :12.660 a university to study part-time. Things were
good for us and we had bright plans for our
:12.660 --> :17.820
future together. She even picked out names for
our two children, we had pictures of what our
:17.820 --> :22.200
dream home would look like even though in her
pictures, her house was always a lot bigger. :22.200 --> :27.960
Things were going just okay until my ex met some
girls at work. They worked in her restaurant and
:27.960 --> :33.420
she talked endlessly about them. From how she
spoke about them, the way her eyes dazzled and her
:33.420 --> :38.700
voice was filled with excitement, it was obvious
that she wanted a life like theirs. Sometimes,
:38.700 --> :42.600
when she spoke about how they only worked for
the fun of it and had all the money they needed,
:42.600 --> :48.120
I felt inadequate because, at the time, I was
not able to provide my ex with that kind of life.
:48.120 --> :52.440 Things got worse when she started going
out to parties with them. They gave her
:52.440 --> :58.560
their old designer clothes, shoes, and purses. In
exchange for all that, they made her their errand
:58.560 --> :04.080 girl. She did everything for them including
actually running errands. She was in their
:04.080 --> :08.640
houses on weekends and at night, she would be
on the phone with one or all of them listening
:08.640 --> :12.360 to them cry or rant about something.
I knew I was losing my girlfriend, :12.360 --> :16.920
it was hard to keep up with the things that
she did since I had to work to pay our bills
:16.920 --> :22.020 and still go to school. At some point, while
we were living together, my girlfriend and I
:22.020 --> :26.940
hardly saw each other. We were not having sex,
we were not talking to each other, and I did not
:26.940 --> :31.200
even know what was going on in her life and she
did not know what was going on in mine either.
:31.200 --> :36.600 We were simply very disconnected from each
other’s lives. I’m partly to blame for that
:36.600 --> :41.700
because whenever she’d try to talk to me about
her new friends, I would just shut her up. I felt
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justified in doing that because she only ever
wanted to talk about herself and my friends.
:45.960 --> :51.720
She did not ask me how school was going nor did
she ask how work was going. She only ever wanted
:51.720 --> :56.940 to go on and on about this friend and that
friend’s rich boyfriend, it was exhausting. :56.940 --> :02.040
While all this was going on, I became friends
with a single mom in school. She was a beautiful
:02.040 --> :06.840
woman with two young children and was returning
to school so she could expand the opportunities
:06.840 --> :12.660
available to her and give her kids a better life.
Somehow, she reminded me of my mother who also
:12.660 --> :18.240
raised my brother and me single-handedly after she
and my dad got divorced. I offered to watch her
:18.240 --> :24.060
boys while she was busy with other stuff and she
agreed. I would watch her boys while studying and
:24.060 --> :29.100
sometimes we’d all take a nap together. Whenever
she returns from work, I’d go to my own job too.
:29.100 --> :34.260
We spent a lot of time together and I think at
some point, she started to develop feelings for
:34.260 --> :38.820 me. One day, after her children had gone to
bed and I was in the living room with her,
:38.820 --> :44.880 she kissed me. Things happened very fast and
we had sex. I felt very guilty about it but
:44.880 --> :49.920 it did not stop me from doing it again. We
had sex again and again. My girlfriend was
:49.920 --> :54.660
oblivious to all that was happening. Even when I
was not home late at night, she did not check for
:54.660 --> :58.740 me because she was usually out attending
one party or the other with her friends. :58.740 --> :03.780
My relationship with the single mom
I met lasted for six months. I ended :03.780 --> :07.560
things with her as soon as I was done
and she was surprisingly okay with that. :07.560 --> :12.720
As soon as I finished school, I got a job
as an assistant to a talent manager. He
:12.720 --> :16.740 was a popular religious man who got
famous for managing talented people, :16.740 --> :22.740
he was also rich since he made a lot of money from
the people he managed. My job paid me well and I
:22.740 --> :28.320
also got to meet a lot of famous people. Since my
ex was someone who was crazy about famous people,
:28.320 --> :33.660
I tried to bring her up with me, but I wanted to
renew our relationship. I did not feel comfortable
:33.660 --> :37.920 lying to her and not telling her the truth
about my relationship with the single mom. :37.920 --> :42.960
One evening, I confessed to her about my
relationship with the single mom. She picked
:42.960 --> :47.820 up a few things and left the house angrily.
I wanted to blame her for making me do that
:47.820 --> :52.800
because if she had been available all through our
relationship, that relationship never would have
:52.800 --> :57.480 happened. It was because she was so absent
from our relationship that I was able to
:57.480 --> :02.160
start something off with her anyway. If I had to
hurry home to see my girlfriend every evening,
:02.160 --> :08.340
I would not have been in that situation. The truth
is even at that moment, I blamed my girlfriend for
:08.340 --> :14.040
pushing me into the arms of another woman. Yes,
I did feel very sorry for my actions and the
:14.040 --> :20.280 guilt was eating me up, but still, I blamed her.
My ex was away for two weeks and those two weeks
:20.280 --> :22.560
were hell for me. I was underperforming at work
and was constantly sad too. Nothing was making
:22.560 --> :28.380
sense, not until she returned. We promised to
make things work and that was what she did. If
:28.380 --> :32.940 only I knew that she came back to use me to
get what she wanted out of life. I’m certain
:32.940 --> :37.620 she learned to do that from one of her friends.
After my ex and I decided to work things out,
:37.620 --> :43.860
our relationship got better. We had better sex,
communicated better, and even went out more. I
:43.860 --> :48.360
had started earning more so I had enough money
to take her to the expensive chic places in the
:48.360 --> :53.280
city. My ex never mentioned the incident again and
while that ought to mean that she had forgotten
:53.280 --> :57.540 about the whole thing, it still bothered me
that she was simply not talking about it. :57.540 --> :03.780
It turned out that my girlfriend only returned
so she could use me for my connections. I never
:03.780 --> :09.300
exactly found out that it was her reason, but I
did figure that out from her actions. Since she
:09.300 --> :14.040
was my girlfriend, we went to work functions and
parties together. I introduced her to my boss,
:14.040 --> :18.840 my friends at work, and some of the famous
people I knew from work. My ex-girlfriend
:18.840 --> :24.060
was great at networking so she would manage to
mention that she was a model and was looking
:24.060 --> :29.280 for modeling gigs. That never bothered me,
I always knew she was ambitious and I had
:29.280 --> :34.380
resigned myself to just living in her shadow.
It only started to bother me when she wanted
:34.380 --> :39.000 me to talk to my boss about managing her.
I did not want that because I did not want
:39.000 --> :43.728 to be put in a difficult position. I knew
how ruthless my boss could be and I did
:43.728 --> :48.060
not want to have to deal with him treating my
girlfriend in that manner, I had no interest
:48.060 --> :53.280 in mixing business with my personal life. We
had several fights about it and sometimes,
:53.280 --> :58.800
she would even accuse me of being selfish. Maybe
she was right, maybe my reasons were selfish,
:58.800 --> :03.960 but I also did not want her to get hurt or
rejected by my boss. He had a way of making
:03.960 --> :08.940
fun of people and breaking their spirits if he did
not think they were that talented. My ex may have
:08.940 --> :14.400
been the most beautiful girl in our neighborhood
but once she entered the city, she had to compete
:14.400 --> :20.520
with models who had gotten their lips done, had
breasts implanted, and were on a special diet. :20.520 --> :24.180
“I think you’re afraid to let me grow.” My ex said one day.
:24.180 --> :28.920
“What?! That is ridiculous. I’d rather not talk
about this right now, I don’t want to fight.”
:28.920 --> :32.280 “Oh, I want to fight?”
I ignored her, picked :32.280 --> :36.540
up my keys, and drove off to work.
Her accusation really got to me. I :36.540 --> :41.100
did not ever want to be known as the man who
cannot handle his woman flying, so that day,
:41.100 --> :45.540 I walked into my boss’ office and told him
that I knew someone who’d make a great model.
:45.540 --> :49.560 I mentioned her name at first and thought
he’d remember since I had introduced her
:49.560 --> :54.300 to him as my girlfriend, but he did not
remember, so I just told him she was a woman
:54.300 --> :58.200 who I thought would make a great model.
“Modeling is not what it used to be,” my
:58.200 --> :02.820 boss said in his husky voice. “These
days, all actors are models, hell, :02.820 --> :06.660
even singers are models,” he laughed. “Bring her to me,” he ordered.
:06.660 --> :11.940
My ex was excited when I told her that my boss had
asked to see her. The night before she was to see
:11.940 --> :16.800
him, she had all her work lined out in a file
and said she was going to present that to him
:16.800 --> :22.140 as her portfolio. I was proud. I even helped
out in all the ways that I could. I had more
:22.140 --> :26.820
time to spare since I had taken a week off and was
going to spend it with my mom and brother at home. :26.820 --> :32.280
I still don’t know what happened in the space
of one week, but when I returned to the city,
:32.280 --> :37.920 my girlfriend had moved out and was dating
my boss. I did not understand it at all.
:37.920 --> :43.080 I knew my boss was promiscuous but I didn't
think he’d make a move on my woman. I did not
:43.080 --> :48.300
even think that he’d be interested in her seeing
as many women, actresses, and top models would
:48.300 --> :53.220 be with him even if it was for his money.
I can’t recollect how I found out, I guess
:53.220 --> :58.260
my brain has filtered that out since it was too
painful but I remember confronting my ex about it.
:58.260 --> :01.860 “Don’t judge me, a girl has to
do what she has to to get ahead,” :01.860 --> :06.420
“I don’t understand. What happened?
We were fine. Why are you doing this?” :07.200 --> :10.200
“You cheated too, remember? Don’t act like some saint.”
:10.200 --> :13.260 She walked away from me.
I had no friends in the city :13.260 --> :18.660
to talk to. The only one I could think of was the
single mom I had been with. She advised me to act
:18.660 --> :23.340 as though nothing was happening and keep my job.
“I know enough about your girlfriend to know
:23.340 --> :26.460 that it was only a matter of time
before something like this happened.” :26.460 --> :30.720
I agreed with her. I had always felt
like my girlfriend would slip away. I :30.720 --> :36.780
returned to work that Monday and my boss fired me.
“Obviously we have irreconcilable differences and
:36.780 --> :42.420 we can’t work together given these differences.”
I was embarrassed. My girlfriend had left me for
:42.420 --> :48.000
a middle-aged divorcee. None of it made sense
to me. I stayed indoors for two weeks and did
:48.000 --> :53.820 nothing but sit still and eat nuts sometimes.
As if that was not enough, I saw on tv that
:53.820 --> :59.760
he had proposed to her. I started to wonder if it
was real. Maybe he paid her to pose as his fiance,
:59.760 --> :04.500
maybe they were both playing around. He could
not possibly want to marry her in a month. :04.500 --> :07.380
I tried to call my ex but she had blocked my number.
:07.380 --> :13.620
In anger, I decided to send our sex tape to a
website that posted stuff like that. I did not
:13.620 --> :18.060 care that my face was in it, I just wanted
word to get out and make him leave her. My
:18.060 --> :22.860
boss had a reputation that he guarded fiercely
even though those who knew him closely knew he
:22.860 --> :27.720 was a big hypocrite. He portrayed himself as
a Christian guy who would never compromise
:27.720 --> :33.060 on his faith, but he was hugely promiscuous.
When the sex tape got out, all the blogs and
:33.060 --> :37.980
magazines started to talk about it. I knew my
boss, he was selfish and only cared for himself
:37.980 --> :43.020
and his reputation. I knew he would walk away
from her and leave her to deal with her mess,
:43.020 --> :49.380 and that was precisely what he did. My ex
was so embarrassed that she went into hiding.
:49.380 --> :52.860 The last time someone mentioned her
to me, they saw her back in the town :52.860 --> :57.780
we lived in. I do feel sorry for her and
sometimes, I feel bad about what I did,
:57.780 --> :27.600 but I guess all is fair in love and war.
Ever since I was a kid, I had only one dream.
:27.600 --> :32.820 I wanted to be a supermodel. Even when I was
little, I wasn’t the type to switch from one
:32.820 --> :37.980
aspiration to the other. My brother, Julian on the
other hand, at one point, wanted to be a cowboy,
:37.980 --> :43.020 the next week, he wanted to be an astronaut.
A few days later, he wanted to be a soldier.
:43.020 --> :47.880
My parents said it was pretty normal for a child
to switch career paths a few times in their life.
:47.880 --> :53.340 This wasn’t the case for me. After the day I
saw a runway show with the 80’s supermodel,
:53.340 --> :58.140
Brooke Shields, I decided that I was going to
be a model, but growing up, it seemed that the
:58.140 --> :03.420 universe was against me making that dream a
reality. Even as a child, I was overweight.
:03.420 --> :09.720
As a twelve-year-old girl, I was weighing over one
hundred and thirty pounds. It was kind of my fault
:09.720 --> :14.460
though. During that time, I had just started to
experience puberty, and it came with some kind of
:14.460 --> :20.280
emotional turmoil. I faced more mood swings than
a bipolar person. To be honest, after some time,
:20.280 --> :26.040 I was convinced that I was also bipolar lol.
During that period, I solved, or more accurately,
:26.040 --> :31.860
distracted myself from any problem I was facing
by stuffing my face with any food I could find.
:31.860 --> :37.080
This went on for most of my teenage years, and
by the time I became self-aware enough to notice
:37.080 --> :40.920 what was happening, the damage was already
done. Bye bye beach slash bikini body, and
:40.920 --> :47.040
hello XXL clothes and double seats on airplanes.
(well, I never needed double seats on airplanes,
:47.040 --> :52.380 a little exaggeration, but you get my point).
Now I’m not gonna lie, this got me down for a
:52.380 --> :58.200
long time. I hated myself for what I had done,
but how did I manage my depression? I ate more
:58.200 --> :04.140
and more and a few more. By the time I left high
school, I wasn’t just plus-sized, I was inching
:04.140 --> :09.420
towards obese. It was the summer holiday before
college that I decided that it was time to get
:09.420 --> :14.640
my shit together. I started by deferring college
for a year. (My dad’s restaurant needed all the
:14.640 --> :19.920
help he could get, and he was paying me, which
is a plus). I only worked part time, because the
:19.920 --> :24.960
whole reason I deferred for a year was to get
enough time to work on myself. I joined a gym
:24.960 --> :31.080
and worked my ass off to lose the weight. But the
crazy thing is that it’s easy to destroy stuff,
:31.080 --> :36.000 but ten times harder to build it back up.
Losing the weight, and getting a good body
:36.000 --> :40.920
was a difficult hill to climb, and due to the
fact that I was quite addicted to junk food,
:40.920 --> :45.900
it made the whole process a whole lot harder.
By the end of the year, I was able to lose only
:45.900 --> :51.720
twenty pounds. It was very underwhelming progress
for the amount of work I put in, but my dad was
:51.720 --> :57.120 able to convince me that no progress is wasted.
I finally left home by the end of my deferment
:57.120 --> :02.400 and started as a freshman. I used the money
I saved up from working for my dad to get an
:02.400 --> :07.560
apartment away from campus. I didn’t like the
college accommodation for anything. I didn’t
:07.560 --> :12.180
want to spend all my savings on the apartment
alone, so I opted to get a roommate to share
:12.180 --> :18.000
the bills with. Best decision of my life, because
that was how I met my best friend till this day,
:18.000 --> :24.480 Reneé. Reneé was a sophomore-year student of
literature, while I was studying business. We
:24.480 --> :30.240
had lots of things in common, like our love for
books, fashion, and anime. The fashion part was
:30.240 --> :36.060
what we bonded on the most. She liked to watch
runway shows, advertising new season wears from
:36.060 --> :42.060
mainstream fashion houses. While I also liked to
see the clothes, I mostly studied the models, what
:42.060 --> :46.680
they looked like, and how they moved and carried
themselves. During our first few months together,
:46.680 --> :52.020
I didn’t tell Reneé I aspired to become a model.
Because of my weight, I had stopped telling
:52.020 --> :57.780
people. I expected that they’d look at me and just
burst out laughing. This isn’t something I just
:57.780 --> :03.180
built up in my head. It’s something that actually
happened. Back in high school, I and a group of
:03.180 --> :07.920
people were talking about where we saw ourselves
after school. I had enough confidence to tell
:07.920 --> :12.900
them because I considered them my friends. Even
though we weren’t close, we were still friends.
:12.900 --> :17.940 As soon as I told them I wanted to become a
model, they all laughed and told me how stupid
:17.940 --> :23.340
it sounded. Since that time, I stopped telling
people, for fear that they would also laugh at me.
:23.340 --> :28.140
But that wasn’t the case with Reneé. One night
after having one too many drinks at a mutual
:28.140 --> :33.420
friend’s house party, we came back home to watch
a runway show. I was not too drunk that I could
:33.420 --> :38.760 follow the whole show, and just drunk enough
to reveal my deepest darkest secrets to Reneé.
:38.760 --> :44.280
I pointed to one of the runway models and told
Renee that I wanted to be just like her. Renee
:44.280 --> :49.560
didn’t understand at first, but then I went into
detail about how it had always been my life long
:49.560 --> :55.920
dream to become one of the models I see on TV. She
told me to go for it, and that I had the charisma
:55.920 --> :02.160
needed to be a successful model. This time, I was
the one doing the laughing. I asked her if she had
:02.160 --> :07.380
seen me and that there was no one in the world who
would accept me as a model, because I was too big.
:07.380 --> :12.000 She shrugged, telling me that she thought
I looked just fine. The world was changing,
:12.000 --> :17.460 and society was being a lot more open and
accepting to people who were plus sized. She
:17.460 --> :23.160
explained further, telling me that the only place
where limitations live was in my head, and if I
:23.160 --> :28.860 can overcome that obstacle, I can do anything.
I was pretty drunk that night, but I perfectly
:28.860 --> :34.020
understood all she was talking about. I hadn’t
gone to the gym since I resumed college, but
:34.020 --> :39.960
the next day after the party, I enrolled at a gym
nearby. Reneé, being the perfect friend she was,
:39.960 --> :45.180 enrolled in the gym too. She didn’t need
to, because she already had a banging body,
:45.180 --> :51.120
but she did it to show her support. We started
to go together three times a week. Not just that,
:51.120 --> :56.520
she also cut down on the amount of junk food she
ate, so it’ll give me no reason to fall back into
:56.520 --> :02.460
old habits. I started to see slow progress in my
overall health within the next few months. I lost
:02.460 --> :08.820 some weight and the threat of obesity was gone.
Now, this isn’t a grass to grace story. It’s not
:08.820 --> :13.920 a montage of me hitting the gym and working
hand and finally achieving the perfect beach
:13.920 --> :19.140 type body. Till today, I’m still plus sized,
and still working out at the gym to be better.
:19.140 --> :24.300 But then the progress was visible, and I
had so much self confidence in what I had
:24.300 --> :29.280
achieved. A few weeks after I got to sophomore
year, I came home from a three hour class,
:29.280 --> :35.280
and I was just about ready to crawl up in bed
and sleep off. As soon as I closed my eyes,
:35.280 --> :41.580
hoping to open them in Neverland, Reneé burst
into the house. She hurried over to my bed,
:41.580 --> :47.640
shaking me awake. I was just about ready to rip
her head off when she handed me a flier. It was
:47.640 --> :53.280
an ad for a beauty pageant, held in school. They
did one every year, But I didn’t apply last year
:53.280 --> :59.940
for plus sized reasons. I told Reneé that I wasn’t
interested, but before I even stated my reasons,
:59.940 --> :04.620
(which were a bunch of crap excuses I made up
to avoid contesting), she told me she already
:04.620 --> :11.100
signed me up, and there was no going back. I had
no choice. It was real now, and I had to do well.
:11.100 --> :16.140 The campus pageant was just like a learning
experience for me. I didn’t expect to come out
:16.140 --> :21.300 of nowhere and just win it on the first try.
I did pretty well though, and even the judges
:21.300 --> :26.820
said so. I got to the top ten, and When I got
disqualified, one recruiter collected my number.
:26.820 --> :31.860
I didn’t think too much of it until one day, she
called and asked if I’d be free to come over to
:31.860 --> :37.320
her office in a few day's time. I said sure, and
that I’d love to. I couldn’t sleep well in the
:37.320 --> :42.420
days leading to that meeting. It was all falling
to place and working out in ways I didn’t expect.
:42.420 --> :48.960
I went to her office, and she explained that I had
everything needed to be a model in her agency. She
:48.960 --> :53.820
explained that she was in charge of a lot of other
models, and she helps them source for jobs to work
:53.820 --> :59.460
on. She had lots of famous models she was working
with and I was about to become one of them.
:59.460 --> :04.560
She gave me a contract to sign and asked me to
take a few days to read through and think about
:04.560 --> :10.020
it. I was a student of business, so I pretty much
understood what the contract said. I signed it
:10.020 --> :15.780
right there, and I officially became a model under
the agency. (forgive me, but I won’t be able to
:15.780 --> :21.900
divulge the name of the agency). Anyways, since I
was the newest recruit, I had to take on most of
:21.900 --> :28.380
the minor, not so well paying jobs, just for the
experience and exposure. The hours were crappy,
:28.380 --> :33.240
and the photographers could be A-holes sometimes,
but I loved every moment of it. The job was
:33.240 --> :38.580
everything I dreamed of, and I haven’t even gotten
to the fun part yet. (The fashion runway part).
:38.580 --> :42.840 Anyways, I kept it up month after month,
and I started to get better at modeling.
:42.840 --> :47.700 They were even offering a course in runway
modeling which I paid utmost attention to. :47.700 --> :53.460
One other thing helped me. The recruiters and most
of the makeup and set crew liked me. They said
:53.460 --> :58.620
I was a breath of fresh air because most of the
other models were so stuck up and self-centered,
:58.620 --> :03.360 and they usually gave them a hard time. At
first, when I joined, they all thought my
:03.360 --> :08.580 behavior was an act, and I was going to show
my true colors soon, but that didn’t happen. :08.580 --> :13.920
Because of this, the agents preferred to recommend
me for more jobs, knowing fully well that I can
:13.920 --> :19.140
represent the agency better than some others.
One day, there was an opening for a job at a
:19.140 --> :24.420
runway fashion show, and my agent called me. I
still had a few weeks to go before I’m qualified
:24.420 --> :30.060
to take runway show jobs, but to my surprise, she
added me to the shortlist of models that would be
:30.060 --> :35.820
picked for the job. I was beyond excited, and
even though I didn’t want to get my hopes up,
:35.820 --> :41.160 I couldn’t sleep without imagining myself
on the stage, strutting across the runway
:41.160 --> :46.260 while the critics nod their heads in approval.
The agency invited all the models who made the
:46.260 --> :50.820
shortlist to a meeting, and that was like the
first time I was meeting some of these models
:50.820 --> :56.760
up close. Needless to say, I was pretty nervous.
I arrived early for the meeting and I walked into
:56.760 --> :02.100
the waiting room. I sat beside one of the other
models. Her name is Brianna. I have seen her in
:02.100 --> :07.500
a few Style magazines, and even though she wasn’t
as famous as lot of other models, but she was way
:07.500 --> :13.620
ahead of me. I said hi, which she doesn’t return.
She asks me what I was doing there, and I told her
:13.620 --> :19.200
I made the shortlist, and I was being considered
for the runway model gig. She took one look at me
:19.200 --> :24.840
then snickered and laughed. She said there was no
way in hell I got the job because I was too fat.
:24.840 --> :30.480 I wasn’t expecting any form of approval from
this lady, but her calling me fat, hurt me way
:30.480 --> :35.700
more than I expected it to. She even went further
to say that it wasn’t possible for me to fit into
:35.700 --> :40.560 the clothes the brand wanted to showcase. At
this point, I stood up from my seat and went
:40.560 --> :46.380
to the restroom to calm myself. I was so close
to tears, but I wasn’t going to be brought to
:46.380 --> :51.960
my knees because of the words of some brain dead
bimbo. I attended the meeting with my head held
:51.960 --> :57.360
high and went home. I told Reneé what happened
and even though she was just as pissed as I was,
:57.360 --> :03.120
she told me that I was going to experience more
body shaming as I went up the ladder of my career.
:03.120 --> :09.120 That said, she vowed that I was going to get
a spot on the runway show. We spent time after
:09.120 --> :14.400
classes doing some training, and I went double
time on my runway course. By the next meeting,
:14.400 --> :19.920
which was the time for the audition, I went to my
friends in the makeup crew and told them about the
:19.920 --> :26.220
model who body shamed me. They were outraged, and
even told me to report the issue to management. I
:26.220 --> :30.840
didn’t want to because I didn’t want to be known
as a trouble maker. Also, I didn’t want the other
:30.840 --> :36.420
models to hear about it, giving them a reason to
dislike me too. One of the camera crew, Fred, said
:36.420 --> :42.300
that if I wasn’t going to say anything, he was
going to. Apparently, Brianna had been rude to him
:42.300 --> :47.880
too on different occasions, and he has had just
about enough. I told him not to say anything, but
:47.880 --> :53.160
the look on his face told me that he wasn’t going
to listen. Anyways, I left the crew when the final
:53.160 --> :58.800
auditions were held. After we all did our thing,
we were called to the stage and right there,
:58.800 --> :04.440 the recruiter who brought me into the agency
called Brianna and asked her to step off the
:04.440 --> :10.860
stage. She was disqualified immediately, and the
recruiter proceeded with a rant, telling everyone
:10.860 --> :17.100
about how body shaming would not be tolerated in
the agency, no matter how talented the model is,
:17.100 --> :23.700 she would be punished. I’ve never felt so
surprised and grateful in my entire life for
:23.700 --> :28.080
the people who were standing up for me even when
I didn’t have the strength to stand up for myself.
:28.080 --> :32.580 I was chosen as one of the models for
the runway show, and after that time, :32.580 --> :37.920
Brianna apologized for her behavior,
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:02.960 --> :12.368 Warning, this is a long story but I promise
it is worth the read. Names and countries
:12.368 --> :19.040 have been changed, some aspects of the
story I am omitting as it is far too :19.040 --> :23.840
traumatic to myself and his victims. TLDR at bottom.
:23.840 --> :28.560 About 22 years ago my mom got a frantic
call from my uncles best friend to say :28.560 --> :33.120
he had been arrested. Apparently an ex
girlfriend had accused him of rape but :33.120 --> :36.320
she was just being vindictive because he broke up with her.
:36.320 --> :42.480
My uncle, Chad, is obviously innocent. We all love
him, he is our charismatic, friendly, outgoing,
:42.480 --> :47.600 loving uncle. He would never hurt anyone.
The family all send money for legal fees,
:47.600 --> :52.480
they are in France, we are in South Africa (this
is true because it is all over my profile). The
:52.480 --> :57.440
best friend sends us all the updates, noone ever
thought to google anything, we were getting it
:57.440 --> :03.280 from the source. He was found guilty and the
family was devastated. We all send money for
:03.280 --> :08.960
an appeal. This goes on for 2 years and then we
get the call that he has been found innocent and
:08.960 --> :14.960
released. After his release he meets Lucy, who is
originally from Canada. Lucy is lovely, comes from
:14.960 --> :20.320
money (in a very big way). He is so charming and
convincing they are married in less than 8 months,
:20.320 --> :25.840
huge wedding in France. Then suddenly they are
having separate honeymoons?!? He was going to
:25.840 --> :30.560
"honeymoon" in his home country, Namibia, and
she was going to Canada. They would then meet
:30.560 --> :35.520 up in Brazil. He stayed Namibia for a couple
of days and then partied with us in SA.
:36.320 --> :40.240 We teased him that he took his wife's
surname, he said that is what she wanted,
:40.240 --> :46.160
she is the boss. Hahaha! And then he cheated on
his wife!!!!! I was floored! I had looked up to
:46.160 --> :52.560
him all these years and he cheated on his wife
on their separate honeymoons! I was disgusted! :52.560 --> :57.200
I see him once after that, he tells me he
is unhappy in his marriage blah blah blah.
:57.200 --> :02.800 He now has two children. I honestly couldn't
care less! Then 6 years ago I get a message
:02.800 --> :08.720
from him. He is getting divorced, he is coming
to SA, can he crash on the couch. I say sure,
:08.720 --> :13.680 he is still family, I haven't seen him
in maybe 10 years, maybe he has changed. :13.680 --> :17.680
He arrives and we have a blast. He hits it off with my fiance,
:17.680 --> :22.400 he is funny and happy, like a weight had
been lifted off his shoulders. He tells me
:22.400 --> :27.280 they were both cheating. The relationship
was extremely volatile, they were always
:27.280 --> :32.160 fighting and on edge. They are toxic for
each other. She is a total control freak! :32.160 --> :38.187
He is on Tinder and hooking up, on the prowl. He
leaves for a couple months to travel around SA (it
:38.187 --> :43.467
is an extremely beautiful and diverse country).
Comes back, leaves again. We don't mind, he
:43.467 --> :49.120
is fun to have around. One of the weeks he is in
town, he meets my friend Jane. Jane is a gorgeous,
:49.120 --> :55.840
wild, fun, out there. They hit it off instantly.
He asks her out for a drink, she says yes. :55.840 --> :00.560
She tells me the next day that they were having a
great time but they must have drank a lot because
:00.560 --> :05.200 she can't remember much of the evening. She
vaguely remembers Chad going home with her,
:05.200 --> :10.880 they must have had sex, she just can't
remember. This is not unusual behavior for Jane,
:10.880 --> :14.640 she has a chronic drinking problem.
She will get drunk and go home with men
:14.640 --> :19.040 all the time. I have learnt the hard way
not to bring this up. Also, we are all 40+,
:19.600 --> :24.880
I am not going to start telling other adults how
to live their lives. I am definitely not a Saint. :24.880 --> :30.160
2 days later Chad has to fly back to Namibia
and calls Jane from the airport. We are sitting
:30.160 --> :36.160 together having lunch. Chad says that he is
so glad he has photographic momentos of their
:36.160 --> :43.200
time together. She is confused. He then sends
her all these nude photos of her, unconscious,
:43.200 --> :49.680
laying on the bed. Put in different positions. She
just starts crying. She doesn't show them to me
:49.680 --> :55.760
(I am sent them at a later stage). She tell him
to delete them immediately, he laughs!!! She is
:55.760 --> :01.200
furious and embarrassed. She starts reflecting
on the evening, trying to remember details.
:01.200 --> :06.440
She digs through her handbag and finds the receipt
(cheap bastard "left" his wallet at home). 2
:06.440 --> :12.720
x gin and tonic and 2 x tequila. Definitely not
enough to get a seasoned drinker black out drunk. :12.720 --> :18.240
I am furious, Jane is furious! For some
reason I think about his rape conviction
:18.240 --> :23.440 and Google his name. Holy shit! I
wish I had done this 20 years ago. :23.440 --> :29.760
At the top of the Google search: Namibian
Rapist released from jail in political blunder. :29.760 --> :35.840
We read this article in silent shock. The truth:
Two years before being caught and convicted he met
:35.840 --> :42.320
a woman in a nightclub, drugged her drink, took
her home, took naked photos of her and then raped
:42.320 --> :48.800
her. She went to the police the next day, luckily
there was DNA. Two years later he gets arrested
:48.800 --> :54.480
for drinking and driving, they take his DNA and
bam, it's a match to the rape, they have all the
:54.480 --> :59.120
surveillance footage and the photos on his phone!
Easy conviction, even though he had tried to
:59.120 --> :04.960
convince the courts they were dating and she was
a jilted lover! Can I stop for a moment to puke! :04.960 --> :10.880
His story about being innocent and released is
all bullshit. Some politician who was trying to
:10.880 --> :16.720 make a name for himself decided to release
100 non violent criminals. Chad got on the
:16.720 --> :21.360 list somehow. About 8 months later they
realised their mistake, rearrested him :21.360 --> :27.600
and extradited him back to Namibia, hence the
"separate" honeymoons. While in Namibia he changed
:27.600 --> :33.040
his name and took his wife's surname so he could
get into Canada, they don't take convicted felons. :33.040 --> :39.840
I tell Jane we need to go to the police, she says
absolutely not! She has dealt with SA police with
:39.840 --> :46.240 rape before and it is worse than the actual
event! I tell her I know someone, ex policeman,
:46.240 --> :51.840 who can help her. We end up getting into a
huge fight, she blames me for introducing them,
:51.840 --> :56.240 she has had a couple of drinks on top
of this devastating realization, slaps :56.240 --> :03.280
me through the face and leaves the restaurant. I
am beyond furious, I am murderous, towards Chad! :03.280 --> :05.840
I send him a message saying that
I know he had drugged and raped my :05.840 --> :11.760
friend and I know about his real past. He
is despicable and disgusting. His response:
:12.320 --> :17.440
I am so over your drama, does this look like she
is drugged? And then proceeds to send me all the
:17.440 --> :23.520
naked photos of my friend! I am physically ill,
noone wants to see photos of their friend like
:23.520 --> :29.280
that. She refuses to take my calls and that day
was the beginning of the end of our friendship. :29.280 --> :35.760
I am haunted! This consumes my thoughts day and
night. I decide to message his wife. I say, I am
:35.760 --> :41.440
so sorry about your divorce and tell her all the
shit he has said about her. Are you sitting down?
:41.440 --> :46.720
There is no divorce! They are having issues with
his infidelity but he promised it would never
:46.720 --> :53.200
happen again. He has a therapist who has advised
that he should come to SA to "find himself". I
:53.200 --> :58.640
tell her exactly how he is finding himself. She
breaks down and tells me everything, from him
:58.640 --> :03.920
sexually harassing the live in aupairs, hiding
cameras in their bathroom to film them showering,
:03.920 --> :08.160 getting one of them pregnant (there was a
huge court case because he denied it was his
:08.160 --> :13.760
and refused to take a DNA test, court made him
take the test and he is the father). She sends
:13.760 --> :20.320
me all the affidavits, court papers, report from
the therapist etc. She also sent me screenshots
:20.320 --> :26.320
of their conversations. Message upon message of
him saying how much he misses her and how this
:26.320 --> :32.080 trip will save their marriage. He misses her
more and more every day. All the while telling
:32.080 --> :37.840 us that she is crazy, abusive, controlling
and cheated on him with his best friend.
:37.840 --> :44.720
Spoiler alert, there is no therapist. He created a
fake Gmail account and sent "reports" to his wife
:44.720 --> :50.880
on his progress. The "therapist" basically said
she must forgive him for his infidelity because
:50.880 --> :56.320
he had a traumatic childhood and he is actually
a super nice guy. "If I wasn't his therapist,
:56.320 --> :01.200 he would be my best friend." I kid you not,
that was in the report!! I am not sure if his
:01.200 --> :06.560 wife was just really gullible or hopeful but
I saw it the minute I open the 1st email. I
:06.560 --> :11.040 mean the idiot even made the same spelling
mistakes and used the same colloquialism. :11.040 --> :15.280
I plot and plan, what is the worst
possible thing I can do it him? :15.280 --> :22.240
I am all consumed! In SA you can pay someone
for anything! But I am a big believer of Karma
:22.240 --> :28.080 so I know I can't use any nefarious means. I
realise I have copies of all of his documents,
:28.080 --> :33.040 passports (Namibia and Canada), his
ID (with his original name on it), :33.040 --> :37.920
bank statements (showing he had loads of money,
he was supposed to send money home to his wife.
:37.920 --> :42.560 Before he left he took the proceeds of a car
they sold. It was meant for the farm but he
:42.560 --> :48.240 told her he needed it for his sabbatical. He
would flip cars in SA and double the money). :48.240 --> :53.440
Then I remember, he changed his name and
took her surname so he could get into Canada!
:53.440 --> :58.160 So for about a year I went backwards and
forwards in my head. Do I report him to
:58.160 --> :03.280 the Canadian Immigration? What will be the
repercussions? I was troubled and torn. I am
:03.280 --> :08.160 not a malicious person. I was still fucked
off and felt like I needed to do something,
:08.160 --> :14.320
I am a person of action. Then I heard he had done
the same thing to someone extremely close to me,
:14.320 --> :20.640
Annie, during the same period as Jane, she only
remembered a year later after extensive therapy. :20.640 --> :26.560
So I sat down in front of my laptop and wrote
the most detailed, factual, devastating letter
:26.560 --> :32.800
of my life. My hands shook the entire time. I
put it all in there, the French rape with links
:32.800 --> :38.000 to all the newspaper articles, screenshots
of messages to me (blanked out) showing he
:38.000 --> :44.960
is distributing naked pictures without consent
(illegal in SA as well but not much enforcement),
:44.960 --> :49.760 a full timeline of his life, highlighting
his name change to deliberately deceive the
:49.760 --> :56.000
Canadian immigration. I made it very clear in my
letter (report) that his behavior had escalated,
:56.000 --> :01.680
without recourse. I did not include the affidavits
or correspondence from his wife. Even though she
:01.680 --> :08.000
knew of his deception, I didn't want her to get
into trouble. I pressed send and got very drunk! :08.000 --> :13.600
It was 100% anonymous so I never got
a response. I just carried on my life :13.600 --> :18.320
and helped Annie get better. Jane and my
friendship deteriorated beyond repair. :18.320 --> :21.840
She deliberately started dating my
brother and has turned him against me :21.840 --> :26.160
(that is a whole other messed up story that I
might write about one day, when it stops hurting). :26.160 --> :30.880
I only told Annie what I did this year. I
have kept it a secret for about 3 years.
:30.880 --> :36.720
I know he has not been able to go back to Canada
at all! Banned for life! Part of me feels sorry
:36.720 --> :41.760 for his kids and bigger part of me thinks I
did them a favour, especially his daughter,
:41.760 --> :48.560
who he had started sexualising (saying things
like, isn't she sexy for a 13 year old, you
:48.560 --> :55.040
can see the hot woman she will become etc. Puke a
thousand times). The aupair that he got pregnant
:55.040 --> :02.240
was only 18! I am friends with his ex wife on FB.
She is (Facebook) happy. New guy, kids are happy. :02.960 --> :35.120
If you got this far, thank you for reading! The
end result of this story, which I will tell you
:35.120 --> :40.400
upfront, is that we lost the ability to order
from several local Pizza-Huts ...for lyfe... :40.400 --> :44.400
Used to we had a phone number that was
very similar to a Pizza-Hut, their number
:45.680 --> :52.720
was (555)455-5575 and ours was (555)455-5515.
Now these two numbers are commonly mixed up
:52.720 --> :57.040 for obvious reasons. This was back before
the days of cellphones and everyone having
:57.040 --> :01.680 their own personal number, and we actually
had to get a caller ID because of this. :01.680 --> :06.960
For years we had this Pizza-Huts client base
call our house (about 50/50 split sober/drunk)
:07.840 --> :14.080
and order pizzas. The thing is people WILL NOT
LISTEN when you tell them "Sorry wrong number"
:14.080 --> :19.520
we would have drunk people call back 4-5 times
and then begin screaming into the phone "I KNOW
:19.520 --> :24.800 THIS IS A FUCKING PIZZAHUT YOU ASSHOLE!" or
"GIVE ME THE NUMBER OR I'LL KICK YOUR ASS." :24.800 --> :29.600
This was pretty normal and the pizza hut was
even aware of this and profusely apologized
:29.600 --> :32.800 when we would call them. (Never
giving us anything for free though, :32.800 --> :36.480
despite the massive inconvenience of the phone ringing off the hook.)
:36.480 --> :41.120 Well Pizza Hut Corporate then pays for
an advertisement on paper, bill-board, :41.120 --> :45.280
and phone book. And guess what?
They botched the number they put :45.280 --> :49.280
OUR number on the things for the phone
number as one of the locations in our :49.280 --> :54.960
town for Pizza Huts pizza. Why? Because
1's and 7's are the same number apparently. :54.960 --> :01.440
The phone calls we get FUCKING EXPLODES. It
goes from like 3-5 phone calls a day to like
:01.440 --> :06.720 100-200. Initially we were directing
people with a message that simply said :06.720 --> :12.080
"THIS IS NOT PIZZA HUT! THEIR NUMBER IS XXXXXXXX"
It didn't end. We would get calls with people
:12.080 --> :17.680 screaming into the voice recording "I WANT A
FUCKING PIZZA THIS IS BULLSHIT I'M GOING TO KILL
:17.680 --> :23.040 WHOEVER DOESN'T ANSWER THIS FUCKING PHONE!"
(Aren't boomers great? We got that shit all
:23.040 --> :28.400
the time from older people.) I cannot tell you
how many times I've been told to kill myself for
:28.400 --> :34.320
trying to direct someone to the correct place,
and for some FUCKING reason no one EVER listens. :34.320 --> :38.000
Well upon this happening my Dad
calls into the pizza hut and says :38.000 --> :44.160
"look, all we want is to not have to change our
number. If you guys will PLEASE change yours,
:44.160 --> :50.000
or pay for ours to be changed (it was like a 10
dollar convince fee or some shit.) we will stop
:50.000 --> :55.120
getting your damned phone calls." The manager
cussed my Dad, who had him on speaker phone,
:55.120 --> :59.520 calling him shit load of names
and for "getting him bad reviews" :59.520 --> :04.640
as well as losing customers to his branch,
which is locally owned. What a fucking joke.
:04.640 --> :10.880
Its costing their business a solid 10 grand EASY
over a phone number why not JUST CHANGE IT? IDK. :11.600 --> :17.280
My Dad looks at the phone, hangs up and says
"Ok asshole, you want to be like that about it?" :17.280 --> :23.440
My dad then instructs My 17 year old self (and
my sister) to take all calls from now on. If
:23.440 --> :28.080 it rings pick it up, take the order, and say
"Ok your pizza should be there in (1.5 hours)"
:28.880 --> :34.240
Then when they call back to tell them "Sorry the
driver just left." and if they call back a third
:34.240 --> :39.280
time say "Well I can get you on the phone with
my manager but hes probably going to kick your
:39.280 --> :44.960
ass if you keep complaining." And then switch the
phone with someone else and have them say "Listen
:44.960 --> :50.480
here bitch, you aren't getting your pizza and
we are keeping your money, fucking get over it." :50.480 --> :52.880
Or something along those lines anyway. :52.880 --> :58.320
Two weeks pass and my Dad tries to get said Pizza
Hut to change our number for free. Never pointing
:58.320 --> :03.360
out that they fucked up their ad, as apparently
they were completely oblivious to this fact.
:03.360 --> :08.080
Again the manager screams at my Dad saying "I
don't have the money to change your fucking
:08.080 --> :12.800 number!" We even tried calling OTHER pizza
huts to get the issue resolved, and their
:12.800 --> :19.680
corporate with no real luck. Fair enough, its
game on time now bitch why? For two reasons
:19.680 --> :25.280 1. My dad got a phone with a transfer button
and 2. Because summer was rolling around, and
:25.280 --> :30.800
me and my sister loved fucking with people over
this. It was a really bad influence on us tbh. :31.520 --> :34.720
We fielded phone calls every day all day long,
:34.720 --> :39.360
we had friends come over and they loved partaking
in the same thing. We had a general plan: :40.320 --> :42.960
Every other call would get a pizza "delivery" :43.920 --> :48.400
On the other calls we would get them really
pissed off talking shit to them and saying
:48.400 --> :53.200 "Ok do you want to speak with my manager?"
And just cold transfer them to the pizza hut. :53.200 --> :59.120
It took 6 more weeks of us doing this, and the
pizza hut closed. A few weeks before they closed
:59.120 --> :04.960
we got a phone call from pizza hut corporate who
more or less threatened us with a cease and desist
:04.960 --> :09.440 sounded like they didn't really understand
what was actually happening as it accused us
:09.440 --> :14.320
of "stealing their phone calls." LMFAO. We called
their corporate and explained what was going on,
:14.320 --> :19.760
and even played our recordings of talking with
them before about the issue and ignoring us.
:19.760 --> :25.120
All they said is "You had better stop! This is
ILLEGAL!" over and over. We didn't stop. They
:25.120 --> :30.000
were aware of what was going on and didn't want to
do anything about it because to fix their FUBAR. :30.000 --> :34.720
A few weeks after the owner lost his job he
called our house and was trying to argue with
:34.720 --> :40.240 my Dad about how "bad of a person he was
because I lost money, and got my ass beat
:40.240 --> :45.840
several times." ...apparently we had pissed a
few people off so bad they actually went in and
:45.840 --> :52.080
attacked him and other staff... To this day it
cracks me up that a company can be so oblivious,
:52.080 --> :57.200 and is the single reason I don't believe we
live in anything close to a "Meritocracy"
:57.200 --> :01.200 anyone in this position who has any
merit would instantly change the number,
:01.200 --> :06.880
but not a corporation who has money to sue, and
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what is the most awkward moment you've ever had on my birthday I was living
with my stepparents my stepdad knowing I had never really had a real birthday
party promised me we'd have one since the previous one my other stepmom he
remarried twice before this turned out so horrible that I insisted I didn't
want one for years after that this is another birthday I seem to have a lot of
bad luck when it comes to these which bugs my boyfriend to know an whenever he
tries to do something I just have this version to them now the Stepmom for some
reason stopped liking me she was also a few months pregnant as it was getting
close to my birthday my stepmom became progressively more and more angry at me
I found out why later but at that time she was nitpicking everything even stuff
I didn't do at one point my stepdad forgot to hang a washcloth from the tap
so she took it when it was soaking wet stuffed it into my laptop and closeth
said laptop thankfully a b of run and 72
hours of it being turned off resulted in no damage on my birthday I woke up to
find her sick and complaining of worse than usual cramps eventually it got so
bad that we took her to the hospital after waiting a few hours the doctor
came out and told us that she had taken something that induced a pregnancy loss
the doctor then took us into a room where there was a psychiatrist and a
counselor they explained that they wanted to keep her under observation for
the next few days they explained it to my stepdad who eventually told me that
she did it because it was my birthday she didn't want me to have one
apparently so she did it to get attention the party was cancelled and I
locked myself up in my bedroom going over all the things I might have done
wrong to make her hate me so much considering that back in January we
seemed to be really on good terms we laughed and talked about a lot of stuff
we had family outings maybe my grades weren't good enough maybe I did
something to upset her I still don't know after a few days she came home and
demanded that she and my stepdad go out to a resort to relax without me I was a
bit upset and when my stepdad came in and told me he'd have to cancel the
party again and that I wouldn't be having one because it upset her too much
I got angry and started yelling my grandparents living down the street let
me stay for the evening with them so I could cool off but out of nowhere my
stepdad pulled a quote unquote party in the backyard there was a grocery store
cake and some family members came over at the last minute I really appreciated
it and I felt kind of bad because my stepdad had to deal with my stepmom and
me being angry so he was stuck in the middle of it all out of nowhere though
my stepmom came down to join the party as we were cutting the cake she
immediately screamed that I couldn't be trusted with a sharp object and demanded
that it be taken away from me she went on for several minutes with various
family members telling her off before she broke down and started crying about
how everyone was against her so I handed the knife over to my grandpa after this
we were opening gifts and for every gift she didn't like or want me to have she
made some massive excuse about why I couldn't have it eventually I was told
to leave my own birthday party because my stepmom wanted to talk to my family
alone it turns out she just wanted to sit and have beers with them after they
found out she didn't want to talk about anything important my family members
came into the house and hung out with me a little more my stepmom so upset by
this flipped the table in the backyard threw all the dishes and food on the
ground and demanded everyone leave the house which I had to clean up after by
the way my poor stepdad though I feel horrible he had divorced several times
before this and I was the closest thing he had to a son he wanted to try and
make this relationship work so he allowed himself to become whipped and
broken it was the most awkward thing in the world to be told I wasn't allowed to
be at my own birthday party the whole situation was awkward and horrible now
every time that our family get togethers me and my stepmom act like nothing's
happened but there is this air of awkwardness and hate she's apparently
calmed down much more now that she's on meds and even has a kid now that the
both of them are raising very well she however insists that I can't call her my
sister which makes it even more Awkward yeah so this was incredibly awkward and
extreme like holy crap what what a stepmom actually sounds like op has a
bad history of having bad stepmoms can anybody guess what he might have wish
for after blowing out the candles on his birthday cake mhm story two I dated a
girl for like 3 years in college and Liv with her for two of those years her
father had never liked me and never really talked to me I was a year older
and after graduating I stayed behind for
a year to live with her while we figured out our future the week of her college
graduation her extended family was in town to celebrate they had two fancy
dinner reservations two nights in a row work prevented me from going the first
night which I was invited to and the second night I hadn't been invited my
girlfriend called her aunt who had made the reservations and was told it was an
oversight and of course I could come the night of the dinner my girlfriend's mom
and dad show up to pick her up and I walk out with her and we get in the car
her parents were obviously Whispering very quickly with each other as I walked
to the car and then said uh so you're coming we only had reservations for a
set number my girlfriend explained how the aunt added one to the reservation
and we got in the car and started driving my girlfriend had brought along
some picture albums to show from a trip and they were too big for the back seat
where we were so we stopped a ways down the road and I got out and put them in
the trunk as I got out of the car I saw that the father was talking very fast to
my girlfriend and her mom I got back in and the father started driving super
slow finally he stopped at a stop sign put the car in park turned around and
looked looked at me he said hey this is a family dinner you aren't family you
weren't supposed to be invited I sat there in silence for what seemed like
forever but was probably like 15 seconds
I said uh so should I get out of the car he said yes I got out and he sped off
and I walked home so to finish the story they never made it to dinner my
girlfriend stuck up for me and her father yelled at her he said she had to
break up with me or he'd never speak to her again and he was the kind of guy to
follow through on that sort of thing he had already cut ties with most of his
family for stupid reasons the next day she graduated from college came home and
broke up with me oh and it wasn't very far that I had to walk back maybe a mile
anyway in hindsight the father had made her promise not to date anyone and to
focus on her studies so he hated me before he met me and that was pretty
evident from the moment I met him the conversation that happened in the car
very well may have been the most he'd spoken or looked at me since I started
dating his daughter he l literally wouldn't give me the time a day his wife
was just a shell of a human being she couldn't think or Act without asking him
and basically just pared whatever he said it was actually really sad my ex
and I kept in touch for a couple of years after we are still Facebook
friends but have not talked in a couple of years I'm happily in love with an
amazing girl who I've been dating for over 2 years and I'm very glad things
have worked out the way they did I wish I had done something Incredible or Noble
or just something when all the stuff went went down but it happened so fast
that I was just numb and Shell Shocked by the entire thing I walked home called
my buddy up went to his place had some beers and played Medal of Honor Story
three I used to babysit when I was in high school it was her birthday and her
dad invited me I bought her a stuffed snake since she was into snakes and some
helium balloons I showed up a few minutes early in case the parents needed
some free babysitting while they set up when I got there nobody was there except
the mom and the kid so I played with her and supervised while the mom ignored my
existence which was cool since she scared me anyway about an hour went by
and things were getting a bit awkward nobody was showing up and I was in their
house being in the way but leaving now would be rude so I waited around finally
the kids and family showed up the kids were upstairs and all these adults were
sitting around the living room nobody acknowledged that I was there I smiled
and tried to say hi but people just kind
of looked away so I stood in a corner by the stairs waiting to be thanked so I
could leave about another hour went by and I was just standing right there in
the corner of the room about 5 ft away from everyone awkward as heck the dad
showed up and he stood right next to me staring into space and sipping a beer I
tried to chat with him but he just nodded and stared off into space ignored
by the rest of the people as well finally I was thinking forget this so I
announced I had to go and everyone just stared for a second then turned away so
I just walked out of their house no thank you no bye no hello no offer of
food or drink no offer to sit down yeah that's super awkward I guess a dad
invited him or her to take some of the pressure off who knows but the dude was
just staring off into space anyway after
something like that would you go back to babysitting for them for me I think
twice about it story four 5 years ago I had to have back surgery after a
collision with an inicated driver my mother had never liked my girlfriend of
four years very much my college educated well-mannered nonsubstance dependent
girlfriend I think it all stemmed from the fact that she used to come visit me
in college at PSU I'm assuming she didn't like her sleeping in the same
room as me so the day of the surgery my father took me to the hospital for the
procedure as we were waiting my mother and my sister showed up and very shortly
after my girlfriend showed up my mother very audibly said what's that woman
doing here my girlfriend being the bigger person didn't say anything in
retaliation but I did see her eyes start to tear up one of the nurses came in
shortly after and said that the doctor would be in soon and that I should only
let one person stay in the room everyone else should leave my dad sister and
girlfriend all reached for their coats so they could leave the room my mother
expected me to say she could stay and I said I'd like my girlfriend to stay my
mother was very angry very awkward and let's just finish with the fact that my
mother was not pleased when I recently made the announcement that my girlfriend
had become my fiance oh and now that the
story is finished remember the beginning
that driver who hit me I bet you picture a man nope a woman with her kid in the
car I'm not a parent but that makes me mad Story five so back when we were in
high school my boyfriend and I were in his room one day just watching movies
and chilling his mom walks in and asks to talk to him they both went out into
the living room and she proceeded to rant at him about how it wasn't normal
for us to spend so much time together and how she didn't like that we had been
in his room all day meanwhile I was alone in his room and could clearly hear
the whole convers ation I gathered my nerves and all my stuff walked out to
them and said Matt I'm going home would you like to come over to my house the
mom interrupted with we're actually having a conversation here so I just
said goodbye and walked out the door his
sister who suspected a conflict had been initiated by me then chased me out of
the door screaming you witch you ruined my family I was pretty shocked by this
and didn't respond and just got in my car and drove home a few minutes later
my boyfriend showed up to apologize for his family a few minutes after that
there was another knock on the door and his mom had followed us to my house and
asked to talk to him outside he told her to go home this all happened a few
months before we both moved away to University so I just didn't go to their
house again we're now in our 20s and still together his family is still crazy
and he agrees luckily we now live 5 hours from them story six I was
currently dating a Pakistani girl I was over at her house watching a movie when
I jokingly mentioned that she owed me $20 she did normally I wouldn't care but
I needed gas money this escalated and we had a little argument we were just
silent for a while which is normal for us when we have an argument we just shut
up and let it pass about 5 minutes later her parents and Aunt came downstairs to
watch the movie with us and this is where it started to get awkward they
noticed we weren't speaking to each other and her father started speaking to
her and erdu she sort of just brushed him off in English saying not now dad he
said something again and then her mom said something and then her aunt said
something my girlfriend basically just said not now in English mind you it's
not uncommon for them to speak erdu around me it's their first language
after all so they kept talking in eru gesturing at me my girlfriend was
becoming more and more visibly upset but
I had no idea what was happening at this point eventually she just went to her
room leaving me sitting there while her mom and Aunt watched the movie and
chatted and erdu the aunt's English isn't very good and her father glanced
between me and the movie I excused myself to go to the bathroom and then
went to talk to my girlfriend her family was asking what happened but she just
wanted a little privacy I seriously had no idea what was happening all right so
all I know is it's always more awkward when the entire family gets involved
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and get to the next story this is story seven I was talking to a friend of mine
about my upcoming formal I think it's prom in America she said that she
couldn't wait to go and that she had just bought the most beautiful dress I
was a bit confused because I didn't know she was going so I asked her who was
bringing her she answered that it was John our mutual friend now this is where
it gets awkward because I knew John had actually asked another girl we knew I
saw him ask so I said to her are you sure I thought he was bringing a she
looked at me with a confused expression and got out her phone to text John we
stood in awkward silence for what seemed like an eternity until finally John
replied but to my phone asking me to tell her she isn't going so I showed her
the text and she just said oh then looked at me and said I have to get back
to my mom and practically ran away holding back tears as it turns out Jon
asked our friend then decided he didn't want to bring her anymore and just asked
ex instead without ever telling her I've never felt so awkward as when I was
having that conversation and I have never been so furious at someone as I
was at John story8 I'd been friends with this guy for 9 years we were both
sophomores in college and he was home for Christmas break staying with his
parents we discovered that we had feelings for each other but decided we
don't want to date long distance however while he was home we wanted to spend
time together we were with a group of friends but decided to go back to his
house just the two of us he had asked his parents earlier in the day if he
could have friends over well his parents
already disliked me my brother had dated my friend's sister and broke her heart
whoops so I showed up at their house expecting a group of people and it was
already awkward then my friend and I spent a couple of hours in his basement
hanging out by this time it was pretty late around 1:30 a.m. he went upstairs
to get his keys to drive me home and when he came back downstairs his eyes
were really wide and he said I'm so sorry apparently his mother was still
awake and refused to let him drive me home that late so she decided it would
be better if she drove me home it was a 20-minute drive and the car was
completely silent yikes but like okay so his mom will let him drive but couldn't
he have at least come along for the ride or is he that much of a mama's boy I
feel for op though like that 20 minutes must have felt like forever
story nine when I was little I went over to my friend's house to chill and work
on our science project at about 5: just before the sun started to go down my
friend's dad called him and he told me one second I'll be right back jumped
forward 20 minutes and my friend was still gone I went to look for him and
his whole family was in the kitchen eating dinner his dad asked me oh hey do
you know your way home I had no idea how
to respond so I just grabbed my backpack and walk the two miles back home it
doesn't seem too bad to me now that I walk walk a few miles every day but to
me then it was incredibly torturous I was so confused at the time about what
to do but looking back the whole situation was extremely awkward for
everyone involved and frankly quite rude they never offered me a ride home some
dinner or anything they just sort of ignored me and then told me to get the
heck out story 10 last year I visited a friend surely after her brother had
passed away when I arrived there was another girl at the house I don't
remember her name but let's just call her Le Lisa she was eating a plate of
food that Shirley's mom had cooked before I got to the house apparently
Lisa had driven Shirley's dad somewhere down the street because Shirley's family
wasn't using the car their son used anyway before Lisa left she asked
Shirley if she could have gas money to drive Shirley's dad down the road it was
literally a mile or two that she drove him so I thought it was a bit stingy of
her so Shirley calls her dad into the room and says Lisa would like gas money
for driving you today and her dad says okay and I would like
food money for the food you ate in my house it was really awkward but I was so
proud of her dad oof burn go poppy all right food for gas makes sense you know
what I mean with a c story 11 my grandparents both in their late 80s
invited me to come down to Florida for spring break one year and they said I
could bring a friend I was thrilled and so was my friend M she and I booked our
tickets and and were really excited for a trip about a week beforehand Graham
called me to talk about logistics what kind of food should they have for us
what kinds of things would we like to do
would we want to share a bed she kind of slipped that last one in there and I
shocked told her that M and I are not together I'm also a girl I'm pretty sure
she didn't believe me because every morning at breakfast while we were there
she told us about how there were several people at her church and they were
wonderful and the whole congregation was very open it was a cute thing but also
so awkward especially when my World War II veteran Grandpa strong and Silent
chimed in his acceptance story 12 I was at a bar with a girl I'm dating and her
roommate when I received a text from a good female friend of mine from high
school she was in town and wanted to meet up I invited her to join the three
of us for drinks when she shows up she gives me a big hug and starts talking to
me intently my dat's roommate quickly misinterprets the nature of our
friendship looks at my high school friend and says I think pretty obvious
you aren't wanted here so you should probably leave now my Dade and I looked
at her in disbelief as if we couldn't believe that just came out of her mouth
my friend however was more quick to respond she downed her drink stood up
from the table and said well you're ugly so I win and walked away yeah we've all
had awkward moments but not like these guys maybe theirs is on a whole
different level but hey don't stop here there's a lot more uncomfortable moments
if you're super into that over on the next video
what awkward situation did the nice guy put you in Story one really gave me
trust issues and I'm never going to make
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I think my roommate may be poisoning me I am a 25f and I live in Seattle I just
moved here a few months ago from NYC because of my dream job and I was so
excited I work as a data analyst and I make a very comfortable living it felt
like my life was finally all starting to fall into place the only thing I needed
was a place to live I took to Facebook because I figured it might be the best
place to find a roommate I found this girl let's call her Kate 26f and she
seemed perfect she said that her and her boyfriend 29m were in a two-bedroom
apartment that was very spacious in a great location and we're looking for
someone to rent the room she said she was a seventh grade English teacher and
her boyfriend was a physical therapist all her interests and hobbies seemed to
align perfectly with mine so I agreed to live with them I moved in one month
after initially finding each other and everything started off great Kate and I
were friendly and had good conversations
when we would interact one day however I get home and she seemed to be in a very
bad mood I asked her about it and she ignored me and walked into her room I
don't think anything of it but then I receed a text from her that read I know
you want to my boyfriend and that's all she wrote I was very confused
because that was completely untrue I have been cheated on in the past and
know how devastating it is so I would never want to inflict that pain onto
someone else there were more text exchanges and everything seems to be
good but when I saw her in person she continued to act weird but I brushed it
off the next day however she began to act very nice and sweet even offering me
a smoothie because she knew I was too busy in the morning to make breakfast I
accepted and went about my day the smoothies continued every morning and I
just thought she was being nice now I am
experiencing some symptoms and I'm a bit scared my hair has started to fall out
and my hormones have been all over the place I have developed some weird
stomach issues and I get headaches all the time now this is all new to me it
may be that the move and all this change is affecting my health but it does seem
to have started around when the smoothies did I don't know how to catch
her and see if I'm right and I don't want to seem rude and stop accepting the
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AIT ta for stealing a family tradition from my sill after she gained weight
okay so I 28 F and married to my husband of the same age we have been together a
long time and I'm super close with his family I'm glad I never had one of those
Dragon Lady mother-in-laws she treats me like I'm her own so my sill is engaged
to her fiance who seems like a nice man my mother-in-law kept her wedding dress
from when she got married and something she really really wanted was to have her
daughter take photos in the dress she mentioned this a few months before the
wedding my Mill didn't want my sill to wear it down the aisle or anything she
just wanted some photos I was at the dinner party when they are discussing it
and I guess my Mill felt a little guilty about the fact I never wore it at my
wedding even though she views me as a daughter I really didn't mind at all but
she kept apologizing in the months leading up to the wedding my S kept
gaining weight rapidly my husband said she was depressed and stressed and
always resorts to good whenever she gets
like that I understood her wedding dress was tailored so it fit her on her
wedding day however the mom's dress did not fit her her and Mill were sad about
it but they went on with a wedding as normal after Sil came back form
honeymoon Mill asked her if she thinks she'll ever lose the weight and put on
the dress I will admit the way she asked at dinner with everyone around was very
rude and awkward Sil said they could just get the dress tailored but Mill
refused and said she would just save it for the grandkids I want to say a week
later Mill invited me over and tells me how badly she wants to see a child of
hers wear her dress and how she doesn't know if she'll even be alive to see a
grandkid wear it and this was her dream so I agreed to wear the dress and take a
few photos for her I was a little too big but I went in so we just didn't take
any photos where you could see the back wasn't zipped after my Mill had the
photos processed or whatever she put them in frames in her house next time
everyone was over there people noticed it most of the family was just like it's
nice to see a tradition you look so pretty blah blah blah my S was quiet so
I assumed she was sad but after the dinner me and my husband went home and
Sil calls him crying saying I was evil and insensitive for stealing that from
her she said other stuff my husband wouldn't tell me I texted my Mill about
it to see if everything was okay but she just told me not to worry about it
because sill is just being overly sensitive I do feel kind of bad because
I know this was supposed to be a motherdaughter tradition and I
understand why s was hurt usually I tend
to think I'm always right but I do think
I maybe should have just declined Mill's request so AIT edit update I I
acknowledge that I should have handled this differently at the time I truly
didn't think it was that big of a deal and from what I've seen my Mill is not
cruel to her daughter or fat shaming her behind the scenes and from my
perspective that have a very good relationship extended family dinners
every Friday night and Sil also goes over her mother house every Sunday for
church service and dinner they are extremely close I understand why many
people are calling me an ass but I think
the level in which is so extremely blown
out of proportion I genuinely think this will be resolved in a week I invited my
sover for dinner to talk she agreed and gave me an unprompted apologized over
text for calling my husband about the situation instead of talking to me
directly and said her emotions were high but she calmed down now so I'll have to
wait a few hours till we have dinner to talk to her also just to reiterate I
wasn't trying to be malicious my mother-in-law asked me to wear the dress
for photos because she wanted to see one
of her daughters in the dress before she died and didn't want to wait 20 years
for a grandkid to do it she also didn't want the dress altered I sent
mother-in-law this Reddit post she didn't respond to me yet though I also
showed my husband he had not taking anything seriously though he kind of
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I made my husband clean up after his insufferable sister's family and she
said that I was meant to clean it up so I threw her and her family out my
sister-in-law and her husband are not my favorite people in the world recently
they have been couch surfing as they lost their home they emotionally
manipulated my husband to let them in my house I agreed to it on the condition
that she and her husband as well as their children keep the place clean
because in the past the only place they are messy in is my home they are not
like this to other houses for example if they are throwing something into the
kitchen bin they will throw it in the general direction of it and not in the
actual bin it's extra gross when it's food stuff dries up and stinks out the
place similar things happened in the past where she would leave her sanitary
towels on top of the bin LD in the bathroom instead of in the bin before
they moved and I made the younger brother and my parents in-laws witnesses
to them agreeing to keeping my house as clean as it is and to chip in with
chores if they broke the rules they would be out immediately she fussed and
denied past wrongdoings but said As You Wish Your Highness sarcastically the
first 5 days were smooth sailing this morning I found a sanitary towel on top
of the bin and not even wrapped properly that is not all her daughter is staying
in my daughter's room and she made a mess of the shampoo and conditioner in
her bathroom and had left a tampon on the side of the sink forg getting it
from last night her husband leaves early
for work and the kitchen was a mess when I finally got downstairs I have a
curious toddler and I don't want him to pick up a bloodied sanitary towel I
knocked on the guest room and told her to pack her poop and get out she looked
angry and tried to play innocent she said it was only some blood and to Chuck
it in the bin if it bothered me so much I told her no and picked up her suitcase
throwing their stuff in it at first she wouldn't leave the house saying she was
going to wait for her brother if she doesn't take orders from me but I told
her this house belongs to me too I dropped her and her youngest ones off at
my in-laws a few hours ago her husband came back from work and when I wouldn't
let him and he made a scene he went to my in-laws but they don't want them
they're due to father-in-law illness when my husband returned from work my
in-laws turned up in our driveway with her and her family within 20 minutes
they are still standing outside and squabbling about being let in I refused
to open the door and told my husband if he backs down he isn't welcome in our
home either they are currently at my in-laws but they made a promise to
return to discuss the matter tomorrow as
everyone will be home from work and that way we could all find a workable
solution when my huband got inside I told him that I would not have them in
my house I told him that he could clean up after them which he did after
cleaning up he asked me why I made him do that I told him I was just as grossed
out over other people's bodily fluids as he was and unlike him I wasn't
biologically related to them so if he found it unsavory imagine how I felt in
the past cleaning up after them he promised to buy a new bin and bleach the
sink three times our strategy for tomorrow is that under no circumstances
are they coming to live with us update we went early to get it over and done
with my in-law started with the guilt trip first they mentioned that they
would take them in until they found a place but due to father-in-law diabetes
it wouldn't be good for his health I told them to tell the daughter to parent
her children so they wouldn't run around a muck like monkeys that way they could
stay with them as they have spare bedrooms that didn't land well with
sister-in-law she went on a tiate of how I have always been jealous of her and
that I was trying to drive a wedge between her and her brother I told her
she didn't like her own life so me being jealous of her and her life was a
stretch that required suspenion of reality she asked my husband if he was
okay with me telling him what to do with his family as he always stays out of my
family's business she told him to lay down the law and tell me that sister and
her family would stay as long as it took them to find a new place to stay my
husband was having none of that he told her that the house was mine just as much
his and it was a two yes and one no deal just because I was stay at home now
didn't mean that I didn't contribute to buying the house when I was working they
told me to suck it up and act like family I told them I wasn't there to
argue about her cleanliness as I saw what I saw and her brother was witnessed
to it and had to clean it up he confirmed that he did and that I wasn't
making it up my sister-in-law slipped up and said why did you clean it up to her
brother because according to her I was meant to clean it up either she is the
dumbest Beach alive to admit it or she knows she has the whole family in her
pocket either way I made it clear she wasn't going to stay with me and because
she got along much better with everyone else in the family they would figure out
something around their own lives my husband told his niece that she was old
enough to clean up the remaining mess but she said no her father jumped in and
said she is just your niece she's my daughter don't you dare tell her what to
do it got heated between them so they both had to walk it off I told her and
her husband that the only reason me and my husband were there was to get money
back for the bin we had to throw out due to her sprinkling biohazards around the
house she laughed in my face and said it would never happen I said fine I hope
you realize that when I threw you out I didn't pack all your belongings I still
had her daughter's switch her husband's and her two younger ones tablets and
some of her jewelry and a few other bit and pieces as it all happened so quickly
that day it would all be sold to recuperate my cost we left but she was
yelling loudly about what she would do to me if I dared to sell anything my
husband has my back and he said go ahead and sell whatever you need to later on
they kept texting my husband to do them one last favor by putting up with her
for a few months until she got back on her feet I told him that no matter what
I wouldn't agree to let her her slobby husband and her horde of children back
in they texted me too guilting me about his niece's education with no place to
stay close to her school she might have to start at another school if they get a
rental which isn't in the school zone I texted back tough lock and blocked them
my unhinged wife confessed that she wanted to replace me as my mother's
child so I filed for divorce after she gave me an ultimatum my mom and dad were
both orphans my dad died two weeks before I was born my mom didn't really
have a support system so we were just the two of us she did all the little
jobs possible so that we didn't miss anything she deprived herself of food to
give me food I had very good clothes while she had none I saw her make
sacrifices again and again and always with a smile frankly I always thought
she was an angel dressed in a human body the only time she yelled at me was when
I was 16 when I saw her getting sick and working at the same time I wanted to
help her by finding a job but she was angry and told me it was not my job to
take care of her and it was up to her to take care of me she wanted me to get
really good grades to get into the best universities it's the only way I can
protect myself when she can't anymore even at University she didn't want me to
work I had to be focused on my studies but she wanted me to volunteer so that I
could be an adult who could do something
with his hands I met my wife there while both of us were volunteering my wife is
a good person but she was never close to her parents or her siblings yet she
adored my mother since she met her there were times when I thought she loved my
mother more than she loved me and we laughed about it deep down I think she
was looking for the bond between mother and daughter that she did not have from
her mother when I finished my studies I found a job and we moved in together but
she wasn't comfortable that I called my mom every day remind you those were 10
to 15 minute calls but eventually she stops bring it on 2 years later I bought
a house for my mother because we never had a house in our name we lived from
apartment to apartment so for all the sacrifices she made it was for me the
least of it and it was non-negotiable that's where the problem started with my
wife she wanted me to think about us first I told her my dream had always
been to buy my mom a house since I was little and that's what I had to do but
she complained about it to my mom my mom didn't even know I bought a house for
her as it was supposed to to be a surprise for her birthday she was
uncomfortable with receiving the house because of my wife and told me that
wasn't necessary that we could use it for us when we get married I was Furious
I told my mother that the house was for her and that she could do it whatever
she wanted but it was time for her to think about herself first our couple
survived that we got married and then we had our own house our life was going
well until 2 months ago when my mother fell ill I wanted her to come and live
with us so that I could take care of her but my wife didn't want to I then
decided to rent an apartment with my own money right next to our house so that I
could be close to her and go there to take care of her but even that idea
didn't sit well with my wife me and my wife don't have children yet we both
work I usually come home at 6:00 p.m. but since my mother is sick I go to see
her and come home at 8:00 p.m. 2 days ago she told me that she thought about
it and she thinks I prioritize my mother too much she told me that I had to
choose between my mother and the life I wanted to build with her the truth is
that I never made her feel that way we both work but I'm the one who cooks and
I pay a person to do the housework I make sure I do the dishes she likes she
doesn't even know what I like to eat because I never complain I run her baths
give her massages and flowers I write her poems that I hide somewhere in the
house for her to find out we go on a trip one weekend a month I earn much
more money than her I told her to keep her money for herself and I take care of
all the bills even hers I always make sure to listen to her and consider her
opinion and I think I'm easygoing because I can change my mind to
accommodate hers but I realize that she tries to completely dominate me and the
only subject where I don't give her a choice is my relationship with my mother
so there I'm going to have a talk with her and put some very clear boundaries
if she doesn't want to well we're going to divorce update I wanted to know if
there was another reason why she gave me
this ultimatum and she replied that nope I asked her apart from what she blamed
me for was there something she wanted to tell me but couldn't tell me she said
there was nothing and asked me to come to the point so I told her I wanted a
divorce she remained Frozen I think she was shocked because she wasn't talking
she was just staring at me I told her everything that was on my mind that our
values are too different she still didn't say anything so I told her I was
going to a hotel for now and we discussed later how we were going to
separate I took some of my things and left the next day when I went to see my
mother she figured out something wasn't right but I was not going to tell her I
was separating from my wife because she could not bear our relationship
especially since she was sick like that I didn't want to add more torment to her
my mom ended up telling me that my wife didn't come by that day yes my wife who
asked me to reduce my contact with my mother was seeing her every day she
calls my mother mom when she got sick she used to go to my mother so would
take care of her it used to hurt me because it was as if I couldn't take
care of her but she said that this was not the same the attentions of a mother
are different I told myself that it was her way of creating a mother daughter
bond that she never had and I understood her when my mom told me she didn't come
to see her that day I went back home because I was worried I found her in the
bathroom with her clothes and red eyes like she was crying all along seeing her
like that was unbearable I helped her out but this woman who is so much pride
collapsed in front of me with a lot of crying I don't know if it was an hour or
two but she kept crying calm down crying again I just stayed silent she ended up
telling me that deep down she never wanted me to be involved any less in my
mother's life she was always jealous of our relationship she was always jealous
of the attention my mother gave to me she knows that it wasn't rational but
she couldn't help constantly striving to be number one in my mother's heart it
was kind of a competition for her so when I wanted to take care of my mom she
didn't want me to be the one taking care of her I was honestly Furious without
saying anything of course but I wondered if she was a psychopath or something we
are talking about a person who is seriously ill and she is thinking about
her competition even if it means sabotaging the relationship I have with
my mother and putting us in a situation where I wanted to divorce her she told
me that she was very jealous of me and that she would have liked to be in my
place if she had to choose she would have even chosen to be my mother's child
rather than my wife even if I was the love of her life at that moment I did
not know what else to say I was hooked on this idea of competition so I did not
immediately grasp the scope of these words but I still listened to her to the
end I put her to bed until she fell asleep then I went to sleep in another
room in the morning she was acting like anything happened she was being herself
she said I don't have to pity I told her
it was out of love she was still my wife she left to work and I did the same but
decided to stay at the hotel for the time being I'm not going to stay with
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a it for refusing to make breakfast for my partner my partner and I live
together with our two young kids we both work 95s teleworking from home every
weekday I wake up an hour before everyone else to pack their lunches make
coffee prepare medications and prep breakfast for the morning for me and the
kids I used to prep breakfast for my partner two more on that in a minute I
then get my kids up fed clothed and ready for the day and bring them to
school I then come home and take care of our Myriad of animals before I start
work on my laptop somewhere in there I might eat a piece of toast and drink tea
and a travel mug to save time my partner rarely wakes up before I'm almost out
the door with the kids often not until I start work when they do get up my so
makes it a point to ask me to make them breakfast a bit of backstory I used to
prep my so's breakfast like I do the kids in the morning but since my so
wasn't getting up until later they would get mad at me for giving cold food they
like a toasted bagel with cold cuts then I would make my SE food when they woke
up which generally meant stopping whatever I was doing at work to tend to
them when they needed it then I got fed up of feeling flustered at work and a
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aita for leaving my husband because he kept telling his friends that I was to
blame for everything I've been with my husband for seven years and it honestly
kills me to walk away because outside of
this issue he is fantastic he takes care
of me loves me makes sure I'm taken care
of Etc and I love him more than anything but this issue has been happening for
the past year and it's basically ruined my reputation among everyone last year
he started working for a small business and is one of 12 employees up until this
point he didn't have many friends so his social life was heavily stunted and he
craved interaction so when he started working for this company and was
immediately included in everything he soaked it in he was being invited to
dinner parties boat trips fires Etc within the first week of working there
by a month in he was hanging out with these guys nearly every day after he got
off work he started drinking a lot more because all of these men drink like a
fish and he is an individual who cracks under peer pressure and is a follower by
Nature he told me several times that he felt like he couldn't say No it started
causing a lot of fights because I was pregnant when this began and I felt so
pushed to the side and forgotten about he started coming home from 9p 1A he was
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a ITA for avoiding dinners at my sister's house over her dog my wife and
I don't care for dogs at all my sister has a husky it's well behaved I guess
ever since my sister bought her house she has been a part of the Sunday dinner
rotation in my family we've started skipping the Sunday dinners at her house
initially we didn't give a reason and usually went to my wife's family that
day but my sister has noticed that every time it is at her house we skip to be
frank we just don't want to be around the dog it sheds a lot we've asked her
to put it in another room she said no sighting it's her dog's house too and
it's family I just dropped it after the initial app I would just tell her that
we were going to my in-law recently after a recent no she pressed as to why
I told her why it's her dog she didn't take it well and called me an
said I was a bad family member I told her I'm not going to choose to be a
round dog I've got better things to do now I'm hearing it from the rest of my
family that I'm an she wants me to respect her dog which is a bonker's
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So my wife has a friend from childhood named
"Anthony". I'm being completely honest here
:21.200 --> :26.240 when I say that he and I don't get along.
It's not like he is rude or disrespectful
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(nothing like that) but all I feel towards him
is "annoyance" sort of speak because of how much
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my wife sees him. He lives alone and now suffers
from a medical condition (Cancer) that requires
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him to go to the hospital regularly to receive
treatment. I found out that my wife promised him
:43.040 --> :48.080 to go with him to his every chemo treatment
as support. She said it's a commitment she
:48.080 --> :52.560 made to be there for him during this rough
time since he has no one else besides him. :52.560 --> :58.640
Okay.....I had no issue with that at first
but then this started affecting me. e.g,
:58.640 --> :03.440 I can't go see my friends because I have to
stay with my son on X day so my wife could
:03.440 --> :08.560 be with Anthony for his treatment etc etc.
I've talked to her about it but she said that
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Anthony needs company and that she's just being
supportive and this is when he needs her the most. :14.400 --> :20.000
I let it go but last week was just kind of
my last straw. Anthony had a other chemo
:20.000 --> :24.080 session treatment and my wife wanted to go
with him and asked me to stay home with our
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son. I told her I had a meet up with my mom and
sister to eat lunch and that I won't be home,
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She said she needed to go be with him and I kind
of flipped out at her and said that she doesn't
:34.800 --> :39.840 "need" to be with him and could literally go
see him at home the next day or something.
:39.840 --> :44.880 She threw a fit and called me cruel for
forcing her to leave Anthony by himself
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since she's all he has and that I was making her
look bad. She also said my appointment with mom
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and sister wasn't as important as a chemo session
but I decided to just leave to end the argument. :56.400 --> :01.280
She ended up staying at home but kept ignoring me
when I got back calling me selfish for not letting
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her be there to support Anthony with what he's
going through. Some of her girlfriends think I'm
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being a controlling jerk with no consideration
for Anthony and what's he's going through. :28.960 --> :33.840
AITA? So a couple of months ago, my daughter
and I went on a daddy, daughter camping trip.
:33.840 --> :39.280 My wife was supposed to come but she had her
period so she didn't come. We had a great time
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and when we came back my wife was disappointed
that she missed out. She insisted on going camping
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so we booked for the same place for today. We
timed it so that she wasn't in hey period. Well
:49.760 --> :55.120 as we're all getting ready to leave, my wife
decides that she doesn't want to come anymore. :55.120 --> :59.920
I get super upset and said that this whole
trip was planned because she wanted to,
:59.920 --> :03.920 I spent the last couple of days getting
supplies ready and everything and she says
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that she doesn't want to go because she is on
a roll with cleaning and organizing the house.
:08.640 --> :12.400 This is a trip I've been looking
forward on going with as a whole family. :12.400 --> :15.680
So I call her an a****** for cancelling last minute
:15.680 --> :20.400 and not letting me know earlier that she
had no intention of going the past few days.
:20.400 --> :25.520 She says that I'm am a****** for not being
understanding of what she wants to do. :25.520 --> :44.480
*Edit I started responding to some comments but then
:48.560 --> :51.840 I saw there were hundreds and
NGL too much energy to expend. :51.840 --> :54.278
For those of you who say she's cheating
or something, honestly not something I :54.278 --> :55.040
can control. From reading this sub a lot, cheaters gonna cheat... Oh well.
:55.040 --> :57.040 I'm typing this up as my daughter and I are
just waking up in the tent. We're going to
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enjoy Daddy/Daughter Camping Trip 2.0 and let
mom do whatever she wants. Throwaway. I swear
:04.400 --> :09.893 I have no clue whether I’m TA or not.
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I (28M) have a 32F sister and a 37M brother. My
grandmother left my mother her diamond engagement
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ring. My mother always said she would leave the
ring to my sister (32F), but my sister recently
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told her that since she has an engagement ring
from her husband and she’s not really into jewelry
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anyway why not leave grandma’s ring to one of
our brother's kids (my sister is childfree). :35.440 --> :41.280
A couple of months ago I told mom I was going
to propose to my gf, and she offered me gram's
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ring to do it with. My gf was amazed at the size
of the rock, but didn’t like the ring – it was a
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traditional solitaire setting in white gold –
and asked if we could take the diamond out and
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use it in something more modern. She picked a new
platinum setting with a couple of smaller diamonds
:58.160 --> :03.520 and I was glad to save money. When my mother
found out she was surprised, but not upset,
:03.520 --> :07.120 and asked if she could have the setting
back (the inside was engraved with my :07.120 --> :12.480
grandparents’ initials and a message). I
didn’t have any use for it so I said sure. :12.480 --> :17.600
This weekend my fiancée and me and my sister and
her husband were visiting our parents for father’s
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day, and my sister was excited and asked to see
Missy’s ring. When my fiancée held out her hand
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my sister had a surprised pikachu face and said
she thought I was proposing with gram's ring?
:29.360 --> :34.240 I told her it was gram's diamond,
and she said “oh,” and that was it. :34.240 --> :40.160
On Sunday I noticed my mother was wearing the old
setting, but it had a blue stone (a sapphire). I
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asked her what that was about and she said my
sister took it to a local jeweler and had the
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new stone put in and gave it to her as an early
birthday present, and mom was all happy she could
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still wear the setting, which she’d missed having
on her finger (she used to wear it all the time). :54.960 --> :59.120
I confronted my sister later that night
and asked her what her problem was. :59.120 --> :04.240
She said nothing at first but I kept
pushing, and finally she said look, :04.240 --> :09.600
if I knew you were going to mutilate gram's ring
I wouldn’t have told mom to give it to you. I said
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she didn’t – she said mom should give it to one of
the nephews. Sis said that’s because she assumed
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mom would want to keep it during her lifetime.
Then she said if all Missy and I wanted was the
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diamond that was our prerogative, but the setting
was a piece of family history and sentimental
:25.920 --> :30.880 and she didn’t want it getting tossed aside.
I thought she made me look bad and said so,
:30.880 --> :35.760 she told me to get over myself, I called her
a b****, she told me if I’m getting married
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I should think about growing up and walked off,
and I feel like she spoiled my enagememen My mom
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(37F) and I were deeply close, she used to say
that I’m “her joy and pride”, I’ll turn 17 (M)
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tomorrow and I’ve decided that I no longer want to
go to her house to visit her and her real family. :54.240 --> :59.040
Some context: My mom had an affair when I
was 9, she left my dad because she fell in
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love with a married man, and the man ended up
divorcing his wife and moving in with my mom. :04.240 --> :08.560
My dad had custody of me and my mom
was granted to have me on weekends, :08.560 --> :13.760
she seemed happy to have me and always treated
me well, her husband treated me well too
:13.760 --> :17.120 though sometimes he tried to
make me respect him as a dad. :17.120 --> :25.440
As my mom’s husband’s ex-wife wanted nothing
to do with the 3 kids they had (18M, 17F, 12M),
:26.400 --> :30.000 my mom started spending more time
‘cause her husband had full custody, :30.000 --> :36.400
she sometimes acted more like a mother to them
than to me, she would pick THEM up from school
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(Never did that for me), she celebrated their
birthdays while she was just a guest at mine,
:41.520 --> :45.920 it was hard ‘cause it felt like
I was gradually losing my mom, :45.920 --> :51.840
during her custodial she was great but she never
tried beyond the minimum when it wasn’t her time. :51.840 --> :56.720
I had a swimming competition in 2019,
it was at school but she didn’t show :56.720 --> :00.960
up because it was on Wednesday and her
stepdaughter had an activity at school,
:00.960 --> :05.200 she tried to compensate for it
later but the scar was left there. :05.200 --> :09.920
It isn’t healthy for me to be at her house,
I suffer a lot when I’m there because :09.920 --> :16.240
they get to have my mom 100% and I only
have weekends (they also have a 5 yo son)
:16.240 --> :21.840 It sucks seeing them play the happy family
and even if her husband has treated me good,
:21.840 --> :25.760 I see nothing but the man that
destroyed my home and hurt my dad. :25.760 --> :29.680
This last weekend (I went to her house)
and told her that it’s not healthy for :29.680 --> :34.160
me to be at her house because it hurts
me to see her that happy and I can’t, :34.160 --> :37.840
I also talked about the times she
missed events because it wasn’t :37.840 --> :42.160
“her custodial time” so I let her
know that I’m never coming back, :42.160 --> :48.000
I also said that as long as she is in this family
we can’t have a relationship because I’m afraid
:48.000 --> :53.200 they’ll make her choose and She’ll pick them
over me like other times and I’ll be hurt again. :53.200 --> :57.360
She started crying and said that it
wasn’t the message she was trying to send,
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she said she never meant to make me feel cast
aside and that she was picking them over me,
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she said that I can’t do that because I’m her baby
but I told her that this isn’t her choice to make. :08.080 --> :13.360
She’s called me every day saying that she hasn’t
been capable of sleeping and wants to see me talk,
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her husband and kids are calling me TA from making
her feel guilty for something unintentional. :18.720 --> :21.760
But I made my choice and my dad has my back,
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even if you sometimes need the fire, you’ve got
to keep your distance for your safety and not get
:26.720 --> :18.160 burnt. I (23F) moved in with my in laws a
little over a year ago after getting married.
:18.160 --> :23.440 I have a SIL who is 14, my MIL and
their maid who are all menstruating. :24.029 --> :30.160
MIL finds it “shameful” to discuss menstrual
cycles or anything period related. We had an
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argument when I called husband to tell him I ran
out of pads and she saw him enter the house with
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a bag of them. Apparently he shouldn’t even know
what they are let alone be purchasing them for me. :41.040 --> :47.200
SIL started her cycle shortly after I moved
in. MIL is going through menopause and so is
:47.200 --> :52.400 their maid. All of this to say they all
have irregular cycles. Mine is regular,
:52.400 --> :57.200 frequent and heavy…I can easily get
through 14 heavy duty pads in a day. :57.200 --> :02.960
Over the past 9 months I realised that everytime I
needed pads there were none left or they were down
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to one or two. I realised everyone else was using
my pads instead of buying their own. I spoke to
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the other women in the house and explained that
I appreciate that they might get caught short
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but if they could replace the pads or at least
tell me they had run low so I would have some. :19.920 --> :25.280
Every 3 weeks it’s the same thing, I never
have pads even though I had at least a few
:25.280 --> :29.760 when my cycle ended. So I bought a mini
storage locker thing and put it in my :29.760 --> :34.400
en suite bathroom and I have the only key.
(This is also where the pads were anyway,
:34.400 --> :38.480 so basically they were rifling through
our bedroom frequently to access them.) :38.480 --> :44.560
SIL found out the hard way and tattled to MIL
who went off on me for being self centred and
:44.560 --> :49.680 unsympathetic. I told her I was tired of
being taken advantage of and if she was so
:49.680 --> :54.560 worried about her daughter then she should
actually take steps to provide for her. :54.560 --> :58.960
She dragged husband into it too and said
she would throw me out if I don’t apologise
:58.960 --> :03.920 for my comments and action. He reminded
her that we move out in 2 months anyway
:03.920 --> :07.680 and that if she wants me out
then we will gladly leave early. :07.680 --> :11.920
She backed down but there is a tension
between the in laws and husband & I,
:11.920 --> :16.880 with them giving us the silent treatment.
Maybe I should not have locked my pads away? :16.880 --> :25.522
(ETA: thank you all for your concern about my
health 🤍 but I’m being treated for the heavy
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flow…this is actually a significant improvement
but it’s about as good as it’s going to
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get) My husband’s primary residence is in Italy,
mine is in the UK. On one of my trips to Italy,
:10.240 --> :14.720 his housekeeper told me that the wife of
my husband’s friend kept trying to visit
:14.720 --> :19.520 him while I wasn’t there. She said she
came over every single day even though :19.520 --> :24.880
most days he wasn’t even home or was working
from home so didn’t even say hello to her. :24.880 --> :29.360
We went out together as a group, so I brought
it up to her when it was just the two of us
:29.360 --> :34.480 and asked her to stop. I told her my husband
doesn’t like being disturbed while he works
:34.480 --> :38.320 so she should really arrange
something instead of just turning up. :38.320 --> :41.040
She waved me off and acted like it was no big deal.
:41.040 --> :43.200 I asked her several more times to stop
:43.200 --> :48.480 but she continued to do it the minute
I was back in the UK every single time. :48.480 --> :53.760
In the end I was so fed up, I contacted her
husband and asked him to tell his wife to stop.
:53.760 --> :57.440 He wasn’t aware this was going on
and said he would speak to her. :57.440 --> :03.120
His wife is now angry at me and is claiming I’m
implying things about the type of woman she is.
:03.120 --> :06.400 She also said I was treating her
like her husband’s property and :06.400 --> :11.280
I was pathetic for telling him instead
of just admitting she made me insecure. :11.280 --> :16.560
My husband is mostly indifferent but also told
me I had caused chaos in their friendship group
:16.560 --> :20.560 as everybody knows what’s going on
and it’s causing a lot of gossip. :24.480 --> :01.520
AITA? My brother and I (26Mx2) are
identical twins but opposites. Growing up,
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I tried to have a closer relationship, but he
would avoid me and pretend he was an only child.
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These days, we almost never talk. Our (step)dad
(51M) married our mom (47F) when we were 5,
:14.640 --> :17.280 and they've been accepting, supportive parents.
:17.280 --> :22.640 I'm a PhD student in a city 80-90 minutes
from home. My degree is fully funded, :22.640 --> :27.680
but the stipend and teaching salary are very
low for this area, so our dad offered to rent
:27.680 --> :33.040 a studio apartment beside campus and pay
most of my bills until I finish my PhD.
:33.040 --> :36.960 I am very grateful. I also
live a cheap vegetarian life, :36.960 --> :41.280
I cook my own meals, and I currently own
an old mountain bike instead of a car. :41.280 --> :48.240
My brother has had no steady job or education for
six years, since he was suspended from college
:48.240 --> :52.880 and never went back. Sometimes he makes a
few hundred bucks by helping people move.
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Otherwise, he has spent 6 years lifting weights,
and picking up men from apps or fetish websites
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to have loud kinky sex in our parents' house. A
month ago, our mom rented an apartment for him,
:05.760 --> :10.720
because he said he was sick of living at home
and it was unfair that they paid for my place. :10.720 --> :15.120
The problem is that my dad can't keep
supporting four adults on his income :15.120 --> :20.000
(mom has never worked). He makes a good
six-figure salary, but this is in California,
:20.000 --> :24.480 where you burn through money just by being
alive. While I was home for the weekend,
:24.480 --> :29.120 Mom said she may have to start withdrawing
from retirement savings to pay for monthly
:29.120 --> :35.360
expenses. I said "But the only new expense is B's
rent." She said it would make a big difference. :35.360 --> :39.600
Last night our parents left after Father's
Day dinner to grab drinks with friends,
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and my brother and I cleaned up the kitchen before
I also left. He was talking about his apartment,
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and he asked why I was being so quiet. I ended
up saying it was irresponsible for him to accept
:50.640 --> :56.480 rent money, and he should find work or move
back in. He responded angrily, saying I'm a
:56.480 --> :01.520
hypocrite because our parents pay my rent too.
I said it was different, not only because my
:01.520 --> :07.440
life is 50 miles from home and his new crib is
3 minutes drive away, but because I'm actually
:07.440 --> :12.720
doing something with my life. (I don't think a
career in academia is noble or anything, but at
:12.720 --> :18.240
least it's a path to a future.) My brother left
and messaged our mom with his version of events. :18.240 --> :22.880
Our mom called today to yell about how my brother
was right, and I'm a hypocrite with no right to
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tell him not to accept "help". She said I should
quit my PhD and get a job if I was so worried.
:29.200 --> :34.400
Now our dad is furious with mom for telling me
to quit school. It seems obvious to me that he
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doesn't even want to support my brother like this
(especially because my brother and parents don't
:39.600 --> :11.760
even speak since he moved out), but dad feels
he doesn't have a choice. One of my sisters is
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obsessed with all things Disney. When we were
kids she couldn't get enough of the movies but
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she never grew out of it. Every year since she
finished nursing school her annual vacation is
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Disney related; Disneyland, Disneyworld, Disney
cruises or Disney parks in other countries. Except
:30.160 --> :35.600 for the last 3 calendar years because of the
coronavirus of course. Her scrubs for work have
:35.600 --> :41.280
Disney characters. That would make some sense if
she worked in a children's hospital or with kids
:41.280 --> :45.920 but she's only ever worked in nursing homes.
She has some Disney stuff but her house isn't
:45.920 --> :50.160 overtaken like some of the fanatics
I've heard online. I'll give her that. :50.160 --> :55.120
That would be a bridge too far. I know she
hopes to retire in Florida near Disney.
:55.120 --> :00.480
If she could afford it she would already live
in California or Florida instead of Louisiana. :00.480 --> :05.120
She's already booked a Disney trip for next
year hoping the pandemic won't cancel it.
:05.120 --> :10.880
She's turning 50 next year and it's weird fpr
a single woman with no kids to be into Disney
:10.880 --> :16.160
and go on those vacations alone. I had hoped her
having to skip her Disney trips would force her to
:16.160 --> :22.160
grow up and maybe move on from the obsession but
it hasn't and instead she is going on her 25th
:22.160 --> :27.760
Disney vacation as she says. I told her that her
obsession is weird and needs to stop and she needs
:27.760 --> :33.520
to grow up. She's almost 50 for crying out loud.
I'm not the only one in the family that feels this
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way but my sister doesn't want to listen she just
argues about it. ItMy family is from Mexico but I
:47.760 --> :53.680
was born in the US. I am the only one in my family
who doesn’t speak Spanish, all my extended family
:53.680 --> :59.360
(grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins, etc.) speak
it but I never really cared for it that much. :59.360 --> :05.680
Katia (my girlfriend) knows I am Mexican and
she asked if I spoke Spanish but when I said no,
:05.680 --> :10.720 she didn’t push which I found refreshing,
usually people ask a lot of questions. She
:10.720 --> :15.680 never said she spoke Spanish but I remember
her watching something and hearing Spanish
:15.680 --> :20.080 but I figured she had subtitles on. If
it’s important, Kate is from Germany. :20.080 --> :26.000
Katia and I have been together for 3 months. It’s
not long but it’s been intense. My grandmother had
:26.000 --> :31.520
birthday on Saturday and my family threw her a
huge part. I invited Katia to come along with me
:31.520 --> :37.200
as it would be perfect time to meet my family
and they’re always very welcoming. Katia agreed. :37.200 --> :42.480
When we got there, everyone switched to English
to speak to Kate but they quickly went back to
:42.480 --> :49.600
Spanish. I went to grab a beer and came back to
find Katia talking to my aunt, in Spanish (!). I
:49.600 --> :54.800 came over and played it cool, telling her
I didn’t know she spoke it, yadda yadda. :54.800 --> :59.760
When Katia was with me, she spoke English
but whenever she spoke to one of my family
:59.760 --> :05.440 members alone, she switched because they
switched. It made me really uncomfortable,
:05.440 --> :12.000
especially since it wasn’t your typically barely
spoken Spanish, it was full on, fluent Spanish
:12.000 --> :17.680
and she understood my fast speaking relatives.
I got really annoyed with her but said nothing. :17.680 --> :23.520
My grandma told me how much she loved Katia and
how she’s happy I found such an amazing girl.
:23.520 --> :27.120 All my family loved her and couldn’t
stop singing praises about her. :27.120 --> :31.760
On our way back, I got really angry with
her and when we got to my apartment, :31.760 --> :36.720
I told her that I feel betrayed that she
hid she spoke Spanish and how she made a
:36.720 --> :43.200 fool of me out there. I admit I was shouting
because I was so angry. I felt humiliated. :43.200 --> :48.640
She asked me to calm down and told me she never
hid anything. I accused her of sneakily making her
:48.640 --> :54.320
way into my family instead of having them warm up
gradually . She asked if I was being serious and
:54.320 --> :59.840 I confirmed. She called me a jerk and left
my apartment. I was too angry to stop her. :59.840 --> :04.720
I am waiting for her to call me with apologies,
but she hasn’t been in touch since Saturday night.
:04.720 --> :10.160 I told my brother about it and he told me I
am the fool but I really feel disrespected by
:10.160 --> :10.640
Katia. AITA for getting angry and shouting she
hid she spoke my language? 's 36M with two kids
:10.640 --> :17.520
below the age of 10. My wife (36F) and I work
full time. My wife is the breadwinner but my
:17.520 --> :23.760
recent promotion puts me closer to her income.
I have been doing 98-100% of all the cooking,
:23.760 --> :28.800 cleaning, errands, and kid stuff since the
pandemic began, prior to that it was closer
:28.800 --> :35.920 to 50/50. My wife is very much the planner,
I am more the execution. I do virtually all
:35.920 --> :41.840 of the driving for my family because my wife
"just hates driving," and we live in a big city. :41.840 --> :46.480
Two kids with activities, I'm driving
a lot and spent the entire day Sat. :46.480 --> :50.800
driving around in the city, shuttling,
and running errands. It's exhausting. :50.800 --> :53.360
Yesterday, on Father's Day, Wife during breakfast:
:54.000 --> :00.320
"I want to take the kids to the beach (~1hr drive
one way, no traffic) to see the really low tide." :01.200 --> :03.440
"I personally don't want to do that, :03.440 --> :08.240
but you're more than welcome to take the
kids if you want. I'd really like to relax." :08.240 --> :10.960
You'd have though I just murdered our dog in front of her.
:11.760 --> :16.080 "What?! What do you mean I can take the
kids, you want me to do that by myself?
:16.080 --> :20.240 How dare you! Why can't you be accommodating
to something I want to do today?" :20.240 --> :24.800
"? I'm not stopping you from going,
I just don't want to do that today. :24.800 --> :29.600
It's a long drive and I really don't feel like
doing that since I drove all day yesterday.
:29.600 --> :31.920 If you want to take the kids go for it."
:31.920 --> :37.680
Its 9am. So far all I've done is wake up get told
I need to make coffee and get breakfast started.
:37.680 --> :41.200 I've made no plans, and have not been
asked what I want to do for the day. :42.080 --> :46.480
"I can't believe you would do this. I can't
believe you'd tell me to take them by myself!" :47.280 --> :49.840
"Then don't..go? I guess?" :49.840 --> :54.640
She then left the table, explained she had
work to do then shut herself in her office
:54.640 --> :00.080 for the next few hours. I took that time to
clean out said car, during which she came out
:00.080 --> :06.640
and demanded an apology from me for telling her
she "couldn't do what she wanted to do today." :06.640 --> :09.920
Me: "No, I didn't stop you from doing anything." :10.800 --> :14.960
Her:"Why didn't you offer a different suggestion
of what to do if you didn't want to do that!?" :15.760 --> :18.480
Me:"Why should I have offered a different activity when I
:18.480 --> :22.320 wasn't stopping you from doing the
one you wanted in the first place?" :22.320 --> :27.440
This argument continued until 2am
this morning when I finally lost my :27.440 --> :34.000
temper and said "this stupid argument and your
attitude completely ruined my Father's Day." :34.000 --> :39.360
Which helped nothing she lashed out with "how
could you say that after all I did for you today!
:39.360 --> :43.040 I spent so much time planning
and doing all this for you!" :43.040 --> :48.800
To clarify "all of this" was: Left me to make
the breakfast because she "had to run a quick
:48.800 --> :54.720 30 minute errand", told me she was going to
cancel movie tickets she bought for herself,
:54.720 --> :00.080 her father, and me because I didn't want to
drive her to the beach, ignored me through
:00.080 --> :04.480 dinner with her parents, and continued
argument into the night and early morning. :04.480 --> :10.400
OH and if you are wondering. This beach time did
not contain any sort of surprise or anything, she
:10.400 --> :13.635
literally just wanted to go to the water and "hang
out." weird and there a million things she could
:13.635 --> :34.480
do on vacation that aren't Disney themed. AITA
I just told it like it My son just turned 7. He
:34.480 --> :40.560
wanted peanut butter cake, so I got him the peanut
butter cake. My nephew (8) is severely allegric,
:40.560 --> :46.480
so I also got a small generic vanilla cake for him
and any other kid who may not want the peanut one. :46.480 --> :51.920
The peanut cake was decorated, had candles
etc, and it was the cake the kids saw and
:51.920 --> :57.040 is on pictures. The vanillla cake was small
and garden variety, it was in the kitchen and
:57.040 --> :01.760
I cut it up there and took pieces out for the
kids who wanted it (about 5 kids out of 20). :01.760 --> :06.720
Most kids at the party were cousins of my son
(my husband and I both come from big families)
:06.720 --> :11.680 plus some friends. Adults were also there,
mostly my siblings and my husband's. :11.680 --> :15.920
When my sister saw the peanut
cake, she freaked and yelled at me, :15.920 --> :20.080
saying if her son touches the cake, he
could die. I told her that I told the :20.080 --> :24.320
kids it's peanut cake and that I have a
vanilla one in the kitchen for my nephew.
:24.320 --> :28.160 She freaked out and her husband walked
her into the house to calm her down. :28.160 --> :32.000
When she came back, the kids were
already eating cake. She asked me :32.000 --> :35.840
"so you are okay with my son dying
so that yours can have cake?". :35.840 --> :39.920
I told her that's absurd and I'm not getting into it at a kid's party.
:39.920 --> :45.840
Afte the party, she said I am an inconsiderate
AH for not taking her kid into consideration.
:45.840 --> :50.320 If he had just a little bit of
cake by accident, he could die. :50.320 --> :03.200 So... Aita? was. | give me a good story on rAITAINEARLYKILLEDMYNEPHEWWITHABIRTHDAYCAKERedditStories |
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today we have a crazy entitled parent story of a parent encouraging their
child to open their pet carrier in public we'll get into that in a bit but
first I'm having ankle surgery and the only one who has no hope is my entitled
dad who thinks everything will go wrong if he's not calling the shots hello
everyone now I got a very recent story to tell about my monster of an entitled
dad about how he has no hope for my upcoming surgery and thinks that without
him making the decisions it'll all go wrong context in a couple of weeks I'll
be having an ankle Fusion I've been having extreme pain in my ankle for
quite a while and in the last few years it's gotten worse and worse and the
orthopedic doctor has decided on an ankle Fusion the game plan is for me to
stay a few nights in the hospital and about two weeks at a physical
rehabilitation facility to help me learn how to use a walker I have a bleeding
disorder which requires some staying in the hospital and they decided
Rehabilitation would be good since I live alone as for the Walker they
decided that was better for me than touches but I also have a wheelchair
coming in too everyone's hopeful about the procedure I'm hopeful my mom's
hopeful my family's hopeful my friends are hopeful my girlfriend is hopeful the
only one who isn't is my dad the only reason I told him was because I thought
it would be better just to tell him instead of getting even angrier for
keeping the surgery a secret see he's a very anti-doctor and in the last few
years has been going deeper and deeper into the rabbit hole of alternative
medicine during the pandemic he wanted to sign me up for this pyramid scheme
involving pine needle tea to give me covet immunity and a cure me of my
autism and not too long ago he sent a video from an alternative medicine lady
who was talking about how no processed sugar and no gluten would cure you of
autism he's been very persistent that I'll be a better person for the world
overall if it's cured and how mental illnesses are not real but fabricated by
doctors to kill you to take your money just the bun bunch of bull and now he's
spouting off about how ankle Fusion will not work he started rambling about how
with the limited Mobility I won't be able to exercise and will therefore
become fatter and less desirable to everyone I do have a weight problem as
well as internalized fat phobia thanks to him I told him how the doctors will
plan to give me modified shoes to help me walk but then he went off about how
that'll break my ankle I told him I'll have physical therapy to help me use a
walker on one foot while I'm non-weight-bearing and then after the
healing they'll do more physical therapy to help me walk normally again and how
I'll have a wheelchair to help me get around if I need to go out he snapped
about how I'm not listening to him and that it's proof that I need family more
specifically him in my life he demanded that my mom either have me stay with her
for the entire recovery process or that I stay with him for the entire recovery
process I stood my ground and told him that that's not necessary that we
already have a plan and that trust these doctors that made him really mad with
him yelling if I trust strangers more than family I firmly told him that is
not what I meant and that just because he's not confident in the game plan
doesn't mean he has to be Doom and Gloom about it surprisingly that made him
realize that he wasn't gonna get to me and huff that if I want to try then fine
but that if something goes wrong I'm gonna regret not taking his help this
may not have been as bad as what he did in the past but I felt like it was worth
sharing I do want to end on a positive note I still have plans to cut him out
and I'm already mentally prepared for a life without him as nowadays his words
no longer hurt me like they used to I'm no longer afraid of him I'm simply
annoyed at his existence and annoyed how he'll always be an entitled pathetic
piece of crap father I think what confuses me the most is how these people
are so confidently wrong almost all the time like you would just think when they
noticed that every little thing they come across or believe is just
completely disagreed with by a lot of people in their lives like to the point
where they find they're having to advocate for their medicinal recovery
and governmental beliefs that maybe they'd start getting an inkling of a
feeling that maybe they're not on the right side of things also hi I'm Stephen
and if you guys can't get enough of hearing about these entitled parents why
not hit those like And subscribe buttons down below that said our next story is
my child is turning two and I have an update when I gave birth to my baby boy
almost two years ago my entitled sister was a freaking train wreck and I kicked
her out I was no contact with her then and then low contact with her when my
son's father was spiraling into addiction and physically abusing my
child and I that is a long story of my ex beating me within an inch of my life
and hurting my son and I on my son's first birthday I stupidly invited my no
contact mom my son is her only grandchild she showed up didn't hold my
child once and proceeded to tell tell my neighbors I'm a good single mom because
of her she didn't spend any time with my son when I noticed she was trying to
leave I said mom don't you want to spend
time with your only grandchild can't you
hold him and I can take a picture of you both that picture is the only one in
existence because my mom gives zero craps about her only grandchild she fled
immediately and life goes on in two years my life has become take care of my
son and work plus help with the custody battle I completely understand an OP
situation why it would be so disheartening to see her come there and
show no interest in their only grandchild but in a way at least it kind
of reaffirms your knowledge that it's not worth spending your time on her
right our next story is entitled mom implies my male classmate is a creep
note this happened years ago so some of the things might sound weird because I
couldn't remember everything that was said or happened since this happened
during fifth grade the cast is me myself mom I entitle The Narcissist mom mom
Josh my male classmate Jane his mom and Jenny teacher now best friend I was
reminded of the story while lurking around on our slash Asian parents my
final field trip of fifth grade was at a theme park and all the students needed
at least a parent to attend for the day so my mom the entitled The Narcissist
mother of the story and we had a pretty fun day except for the random downpour
throughout the day but most of the rides remained open and we all enjoyed the
field trip then as we were getting ready to head back to school Josh walks over
and sees me standing with everyone else approached me and seems a bit nervous
before handing me a small leopard plushie saying here this is for you I
smile and thank him happily because I'm a very polite and kind girl he flushed
and quickly retreated to his mom I believe yes I didn't realize at the time
until now that he probably had a crush on me but just never told me my mom who
had gone to the bathroom and came back without me noticing must have seen Josh
giving me the toy and said angrily throw
it away now I said no Josh gave it to me
and I'm keeping it I'll note Josh is the
only classmate who's given me a gift and
not tease or bully me for being the only Asian student in our class it also
doesn't help that my parents never believed me when I was being bullied by
my classmates or supported me when I needed extra help with my math homework
which I had to get tutored by my cousin she's a month younger than me to do my
homework then when she saw that I wasn't going to throw away this stuffed animal
she decided to say this if you don't throw it away they'll come into your
room and take you away yes she said this but maybe a bit too loud because Jane
Josh's mom gave my mom a what the freak look and started coming over but Jenny
of different fifth grade teacher chaperone stepped in and said to my mom
oh that's such a cute gesture and I'm sure he's been looking for op to give it
to her which caused my mom to leave me alone because we were surrounded by
other teachers along with students after we left we were driving home my mom
glared at me and said angrily get rid of
that toy they probably stuck a camera in there so they can spy on you I said I'm
not throwing it away Josh gave it to me and I'm keeping it I proceeded to hide
it from my mom for a full year and she eventually forgot about it no there
wasn't a camera in it because he had gotten it from those basketball hoop
games that was around the arcade side of the theme park sadly I haven't seen him
since then because I actually got held back and retook the fifth grade again
but this time with Jenny as my teacher and this was how she and I became best
friends yes I still own the plushie it's on my bed and my comfort toy when I'm
overwhelmed by my parents toxicity I have another story about getting an
action figure but that'll be another story by itself are they like afraid of
you getting into a relationship or something like threatened by acute
gesture from a kid in fifth grade they cannot be serious with they probably put
a spy camera in side there that's just crazy our next story is entitled parents
made me call the manager over a game prize Yes you heard the title correctly
as ridiculous as it sounds I cannot make
this up so I 19 year old male work at an arcade place that has a bar small
Trampoline Park area simulators bowling Etc and I'm specifically stationed at
Redemption which means I stand behind the prize cases where there's a wall of
prizes behind me and you can earn prizes with tickets you get from the arcade so
me and the others who work at Redemption are responsible for not only helping
people redeem their prizes but also to refill the containers and the cases make
sure the wall is stocked clean the cases
and put up the ticket price tags but the prize tags can be hard to keep up with
as sometimes the price can change because management can change the prices
for it or we're so busy that all we can focus on is serving people and making
sure their surprise is stocked that can be served and fixing the prices takes
longer than you would think especially on busy days so sometimes the prizes
have the wrong prices on accident which is fine it's a small mistake and one
that can be easily fixed or explained I'm explaining all of this so you have
an idea of half of the situation I'm about to explain that happened a few
weeks ago at my job on one particular day when I came in for a night shift I
noticed a co-worker who worked Redemption before me that day restocked
the cases with new items so I'd assume that since most of the time the prizes
are changed correctly when this happened that my co-worker put the right ones so
I didn't bother messing with the prices and prizes and the cases but I did
notice they didn't get to the wall with the new prizes and prices so I decided
to focus on that when I wasn't serving people big mistake on my end apparently
because as I was at my station showing my friend who had recently gotten a job
at the arcade how things worked a family came up to us wanting to redeem some
tickets which at first seemed great because it looked like a good opera
opportunity to show my friend an example of how a checkout at Redemption goes oh
it was not a good example so I remember this family had like 397 tickets and
there was the parents who I'll call Karen and Kevin and they had three kids
they requested three Pop Rocks which is 150 tickets each which if you do the
math means they can only get two not three and they would have had 47
remaining so I explained this to them and since they seemed interested in the
candy I tried pointing where they could get more of a variety of candy prices
that were cheaper and still give them their two Pop Rocks but they didn't even
give me the chance to explain because they immediately got really upset with
me and they started going on about how the container said 125 not 150. I tried
to calmly slash politely explain to them how and why prizes sometimes may have
the wrong prices and that I apologize for the confusion as I didn't realize it
had the wrong price nice I even tried to offer for them to look at my computer
and they could see what the right price was but they weren't listening to me and
the more I tried to help them with their confusion or you know help them with
other options the more they started to raise their voices at me and get more
aggressive with what they were saying towards me so I started to shut down
because I'm not good at handling this kind of interaction due to my autism so
the more this went on the more I couldn't even process what was going on
and the more I began to shut down and not be able to properly speak to them
yet they got mad at me when I wasn't giving them a proper explanation even
though they were refusing to stay calm and listen to what I was saying when I
was just trying to help them with a misunderstanding and get them prizes
they could afford then they started going on about how they needed to have
it served to them for what the container said and not what the computer said I
didn't know if that was how it worked due to this being my first job like this
and being somewhat new myself and because I doubted computer would let me
do that so I told them that I don't think that was possible for me to do
considering as far as I knew we had to sell them based off the prices the
computer and barcode say which led to Karen and Kevin pulling out their
ultimate move demanding the manager which left me even more flabbergasted
than I already was in this situation because I couldn't even process why they
were so mad over Pop Rocks of all things I'm not even joking when I say this but
the pop rocks who were for the kids by the way the kids weren't even upset
about it they started looking at other prizes when I said they couldn't have
the third one two were even sharing from one of the two packets I'd already
served them it looked like so I have no idea what they were throwing a fit over
especially when I wasn't denying them pop rocks in general or any sort of
prize and their kids were perfectly happy with what they had already and
they were acting as if I was ruining their kids night and they were acting
like it was all my fault they couldn't have one one additional packet of Pop
Rocks but even though I didn't want to bother my manager over such a small
issue I at this point just wanted to get these customers out of here because I
was tired of being yelled at for just trying to help and I wanted to go back
to training my friend for her job I went to go find a walkie-talkie at the front
desk and called for my manager I explained to her the situation which
luckily since she's a very nice manager she was very understanding and knew it
was just an easy to fix mistake that the
customers were blowing out of proportion I think she could also hear in my voice
how anxious and confused I was too so she just told me it was okay and to just
give them the third packet for what the current container said and told me just
to fix it after they left and just leave it at that I walked back to my station
to see my friend who looked even more confused about the situation than I was
standing there not knowing what to do so
I quickly gave them the third packet and told them that the manager said they
could have it but that was all else they could get technically I could have have
given them more but I didn't because of how rude they were towards me before if
they were nice I would have just considered letting them have it for 125
just this one time and help them pick out other prizes but they weren't also I
was genuinely concerned for those kids sleep schedules as mentioned earlier I
was working a night shift but not just any night shift a shift that would be on
duty to nearly midnight on a school night and they had two kids under the
age of 10 and a toddler giving them sugar at almost midnight they came to my
station near closing and having them up already this late when they have crap
they need to be resting for does not sound like a good combo so I made them
leave after I gave them the third packet and as soon as they were at a distance
where they couldn't hear me I quickly looked at my friend and went over some
freaking pop rocks and she busted out laughing and we started talking about
how ridiculous this was like who throws a fit like that over Pop Rocks I can't
imagine them being that good that you demand a manager just because you can't
get one packet and if they're so important to you why can't you just buy
it from a store where you can get more for cheaper why yell at some minimum
wage worker over not being able to afford it with game currency we then
closed up the station as we laughed about it and joked about what a lovely
first day my friend had at her job with experiences like this already this was
both of our first ever Karen slash Kevin experiences as well good Lord was it
something how much are you guys willing to bet that workers here after they're a
little bit more seasoned and used to experiencing things like this would be
more than happy to just give it to them for what the sticker price says I mean
to be fair up until the point where they argued that they should be able to get
it for what the sticker price says I feel like it was actually understandable
it's just when they keep going on and on and being belligerent when they say I
literally can't do it I just this is the computer
this is my job our next story is he is so cute when he destroys your stuff not
sure if this post belongs here but here it goes a cousin a of mine had a baby
boy two years ago and around the same time his sibling my cousin B also had a
son both of the toddlers are now in their terrible twos my family Me A and B
all stay abroad in the same city for work purposes while A and B's family
including their wives and children stay in their native country so recently
cousin A's wife and child came down to visit a and also dropped by to see us
the child is quite naughty as is usual with a two-year-old child as soon as he
stepped inside our house he proceeded to touch and grab every possible item in
our house ranging from our TV remote to decorative vases and opened every
possible wardrobe door and rummaged through our stuff destroying sentimental
memorabilia I'd got during one of my trips to a country that I will not be
visiting anytime soon and also spilling his mushy food onto the pages of an
important book in closing the book to create sticky gooey stains between the
pages what irked us the most was the manic Glee with which A's wife was
displaying she was laughing at her child's Antics and was not taking any
actions to stop him instead she was looking around at us asking isn't he
cute at regular intervals and proceeding to provide us anecdotes about how he
usually destroys stuff that doesn't belong to him whenever he goes to other
people's houses She also asked my mom to make food that the baby likes to eat at
the exact time of dinner which would have been fine but she had to provide my
mom with special cooking instructions which irritated my mom making her hand
over the spoon to her and asking her to cook it herself the last straw of the
night was when the wife started narrating how her child bullies my
cousin B's Child by biting him and snatching his toys away when that story
garnered no reaction from us except horror she kept narrating it again and
again to assert how funny the story was B was also present for the gathering at
our house and you could see he was getting irritated but was not saying
anything rash in a bid to remain respectful towards his sister-in-law he
left soon afterwards and a and his family too left the next day B calls to
apologize for leaving early after dinner and tells him how A's wife always
encourages their child to do dangerous and not so nice things like grabbing
heavy objects putting fingers in the electric sockets Etc in front of my
cousin B's child cousin B and his wife have always taught his child not to do
stuff like that and when cousin A's child does the exact same things in
front of him the child gets upset at the double standards the adults are
displaying and the child feels he's getting wronged and he's not sure how to
tell cousin A's wife to stop doing this without her getting upset A's wife is a
working mom and sometimes I feel her guilt of not being able to be a
stay-at-home mom makes her act this way enabling her child's wrong and dangerous
actions to get her child's affection and
approval honestly I feel like the people in the story were a bit too complacent
with it I mean I get not wanting to upset them but after the first or second
time of them literally destroying things why would you not step in I think it's
more than okay to physically stop somebody from destroying your
memorabilia our next story is entitled mother ignores boundaries encourages
child to open pet carrier in public this happened just now one of my pet rats
suddenly became very ill I rushed to the vets on public transport with another
rat in the carrier to keep him company the ill rat was admitted to the hospital
overnight and the Outlook is not good it's likely he'll need to be euthanized
I was very upset when I got back on the train and as I got on a mother and
daughter five-ish gasped been delighted seeing a pet in a carrier I started ugly
crying when I sat down and clutched the carrier the mother and daughter sat next
to me and the mother joyfully encouraged
your daughter to ask me what pet I had I
started crying harder and said I'm sorry
I'm not in the mood to chat I'll need to
have an animal euthanized you can have a
look at my rat if you want I turned away put the carrier on the seat next to me
and cried more a few seconds later the woman is encouraging her child to open
the carrier to play with my rat okay he's a big softy but the train was
stressing him out I pulled the carrier away and said please don't do that the
woman pulls her daughter back and says loudly and passive aggressively was and
that lady Rude the child starts laughing at me I'm listening to sad music nose
running openly sobbing while this woman and her kid insult me screw you I think
what disappoints me the most about this story is that the kid is at a very
impressionable age obviously so she's teaching this kid to not have any
sympathy for this stranger our next story is would I be in the wrong to cut
off my dad's financial support me and my
boyfriend both 19 have been together for
over four years he moved in with me into my mom's apartment over the summer we
made our own plans to move out in 2024 but I recently found out that my mom
needs to go into surgery this December and she won't be able to earn any money
at her job so she asked me for financial
help me and my boyfriend decided to move to his home country as soon as possible
because I'd have a better work opportunity and stability to provide for
my mom so we bought tickets for the beginning of October we thought
everything was going smooth until my dad started throwing passive aggressive
comments about me moving and some negative things about my boyfriend
yesterday I was eating at the kitchen table with my mom as my dad walks in the
room in a bad mood and starts talking crap about me moving I usually ignore
his comments to not make it worse but he said something that hurt me he said
you're as good as a dead piece of crap when you moved to Denmark it's not even
that much better there I got up left to my room and closed the door my mom got
upset at him and asked why he would say that and my dad started yelling about
how we're being disrespectful he kept on yelling and escalating the whole
situation while he's quietly stayed in my room we haven't said a word and I
heard them both arguing fast forward to today I heard him in the kitchen talking
crap again I tried really hard not to say anything to make it worse but I
couldn't take it anymore when he started self-pitying when this man does nothing
but sit on his butt all day at home and makes my mom clean up after him so I
snapped I went to the kitchen and I asked what did I ever do to him that
he's insulting me and my boyfriend we were yelling back and forth and he said
a lot of hurtful things that are a blur to me now what I do remember is him
saying that once I moved to Denmark I won't give a crap about them anymore and
I said I won't give a crap about you and I will only pay for my mom's apartment
while you can go and live on the street I left and he kept yelling at me so I
said if he says one more word me and my boyfriend will pack right now and move
to a hotel until our flight he yelled more and started moving towards my room
so my boyfriend got in between me and him then my dad directed the yelling and
pointing towards my boyfriend my boyfriend yelled at him in Danish as he
raised his hand in front of himself pointing at my dad with his finger my
dad lost his mind as we pushed him out of my room and locked the door my dad
was screaming how my boyfriend just assaulted him and that he'll call the
police me and my boyfriend packed our bags and my brother-in-law found out
about our situation and he called me and
offered us an apartment for us to settle in until the day of our flight would I
be in the wrong to cut my dad's financial help and him off completely I
don't think LP would be in the wrong at all and I would say disassociate and go
no contact with them immediately before they try to push this any further and
maybe get you wrapped up in some weird legal situation that might prevent you
from leaving our next story is my school
excused my dad's abuse I got the bus due to chronic fatigue where worsening when
exerting myself and even getting up is a struggle and feels so dehabilitating
despite this I've never missed my bus until now and it's because he put the
freaking key in the cabinet and I yelled at him via phone so he picked me up and
told me to never yell at him and to shut
my mouth and when I tried talking to him he told me to shut my mouth or he'll
drop me off what happened afterwards near the end when we were at school I
recorded and I called him out for threatening to make me walk to school
and he said if I keep talking he's gonna
bring me home and make me walk back even
though I have hypermobility he said he's
not standing for how I treat him because I've been raging at him more often and
then he got mad and accused me of not saying hello even though I do forget of
course but will once told and got mad that I never said Thank you whenever he
picks or drops me off and he said he doesn't have to take me to school and
when I mentioned he had to because he put the key in the cabinet he said it
was my fault and he then decided to drop me off and harshly told me just go I
ended the recording there after some heated exchanges I told him whatever and
yelled I hate you and had a mental breakdown at school and went to the
office to report it I cried and raged and countless people like the principal
my guidance counselor some others were there and I told them the incident my
guidance counselor kept telling me not to cry it's all right it's not a big
deal while I'm having a mental breakdown
I screamed the crap out of her for every time she emotionally invalidated me I
showed them the recording and when one of them called my mom they said it was a
normal disagreement I then raged cursed and said harsh things including saying
that my dad should die they also told me a bit after the call to be careful of
what I say because they can't prove it and they mentioned the crap I mentioned
like s a CVS visits need to be proven or whatever then I go to a room with my
guidance counselor and afterwards I got taken to another room and talk to a lady
about everything and then the social worker came and as soon as I came up to
the thank you and hello part coming up they saw my school info and probably my
diagnosis on the IEP and whispered loudly she's on the Spectrum in this
semi-gosippy way then my mom and the support facilitator and some of the same
adults from the recording come and they all agreed it wasn't a big deal and the
social worker even said she'd do the same because in her mind I need to
respect my dad and he and she isn't entitled to pick me up if I yell or get
mad regardless of chronic health issues I even told her about my joint
hypermobility And the fact I could dislocate my joints they said they're
trying to help but they literally hate me because I'm disabled my mom even said
I blame everyone but myself even though they don't take accountability and
downplayed my health issues they only focused on how calm my dad was and
texted some Psychiatric Services to my mom for men until breakdown but that's
it they sent me home for a mental breakdown despite me saying I don't feel
safe with my dad they even identified that I'm usually able to control myself
in class but get triggered by my dad and on the way home my mom just told me as
usual when it happens that in the real world no one has these breakdowns and
that it's immature and blah blah blah and then when I called her out for
letting my dad stay in the home even after saing me she excused it because it
was when I was 13 and it was the only time and to assume it was a mistake like
he said I went home and had a mental breakdown and was close to attempting
I'm literally still stressed right now and I hate that no authority figure will
care enough to put an end so obviously a lot of things Opie mentioned here are
horrendous and it's extremely troubling to see that there are multiple people
that are supposed to be in that chain of helping them out that just disregard
them just try to downplay it all most like try to deflect it so they don't
have to deal with it I mean even in the event that op was just over exaggerating
things it's the fact that none of them are hearing op out or providing any
guidance for them to work through their emotions they're just trying to downplay
it deflect it or even kind of gasp like them what can you do when the system
that's there that's supposed to help you completely fails you I would say op
needs to just continue collecting this evidence maybe at some point they'll
find the one person that does care enough to do something but with that
being said that's all the time we have for today now if you want to hear
another crazy entitled parent story check out that video on the left or if
you missed my latest video check out that video on the right that said I'll
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my ex-bestfriend who married my ex-husband hired me to make a cake for
her son's birth I 33 just wanted to share this with everyone who was going
through a divorce or a heartbreak for a similar reason I married someone who I
love with all my heart we met in college and right after graduation we got
married I decided to stay home because my husband 34 made a lot of money I gave
him everything supported his business cooked for him cleaned for him basically
babied him a lot because I was in love with him I thought if I was a good wife
and nurtured him he would love me back and for like five years it was good I
discovered he was cheating on me when I found a random receipt from a hotel I
investigated a little and found out he was in fact cheating on me and his AP
was my best friend Kylie 31. I was betrayed by two of my closest people
Kylie gave me a vague excuse that she didn't want to hurt me but she just fell
in love with him his excuse was you do not make me feel special anymore you
have just got boring and let yourself go I agree I was a little chubby back then
because of my medicines also I was always tired to work out I tried the
path of reconciliation but failed he left me for Kylie this whole incident
made me realize who are my real friends and who are fake ones there were people
who are neutral but only two of them Josh and Marie were on my side and cut
off Kylie I was really devastated I felt like without him I was a no one I lost
my husband my best friend my house my life I stayed with Marie for a while she
offered me a small job in her catering business I love food when I was married
I would make different variety of food for my ex-husband cooking was just very
therapeutic to me during that time Marie's mom gave me some useful advice
that is an average human lives for 75 years you are already 27. are you that
stupid that you want to waste the rest of your life being sat over a man who
never loved you that thing really stuck with me I have trust issues because of
my husband's infidelity I had trouble dating so I skipped it for a while I
focused on working on myself I socialized with a lot of people while I
was catering and made a lot of connections I always wanted to start a
business of my own and since I loved creating food a customer I was catering
for actually gave me an idea to start a baking business my friends also helped
me a lot I built a pretty small yet successful baking business within couple
of years I started to feel more of myself now that I am free I didn't
realize I had so much free time in my hands because I wasn't busy taking care
of a large human my house was clean no one is putting dirty laundry on the
floor no one is telling me to make something else because they are not in
mood for a certain dish nobody puts dirty dishes on the sink I started to
embrace this solidarity I know those things I mentioned are not something
that is big but it was a huge relief moreover no one questions me whenever I
go out I don't have to answer anyone before going out I can spontaneously go
on a long drive and I don't have to ask for permission I learned a new language
within my free time I focused more on family and friends who genuinely love me
and getting dumped has made me see the red flags I missed in my marriages I use
that as a lesson to steer clear of any trash man in my life I dated few men but
they didn't seem nice to me but it didn't bother me a lot I am happy being
single and carefree I see my divorce as a blessing to me rather than a curse I
do feel alone sometimes but recently I got a call from Kylie saying that she
regrets marrying my ex because he never appreciates her and always puts the
burden of everything on her they have two kids now but my ex doesn't help her
with any chores she is always tired and exhausted after taking care of two kids
and an adult it just made me realize that it would have been me if my husband
didn't cheat on me with Kylie I simply told her well you said you loved him so
he is your problem now what's the point of coming to me that woman has the
audacity to say she wanted a friend I blocked her number I don't want to be in
their lives sometimes I feel like I missed my Prime because I'm now 33. it
feels too old to start over but I still have hope for love one day I am
currently dating a guy who is also divorced like me because his wife
cheated on him so we will see how that goes I 33 am in a bit of dilemma you see
my ex-bestfriend 31 had an affair with my ex-husband 34 when we were married
our friendship fell apart right over there I didn't have any contact with her
until a month ago she called me and said she is not happy with her life I have
moved in with my life I don't need their Shenanigans I run a small baking
business it is relatively new I only take orders for cakes on occasions like
birthdays graduation or reunion except for weddings I have some plans to expand
and also have a dream to open a bakery of my own one day few days ago I get an
order from my ex-bestfriend she wanted me to make desserts for her son's first
birthday and she doesn't just want me to make a birthday cake she also wants a
dessert section in the birthday party it is a huge order in the pay is good it
will be good for my business but as you can see she and I have a history this
made me question why does she want me to do it my ex comes from a well-to-do
family he also has a high paying job she
could easily hire the best baker in town why does she want me to do it my
business is not that big it made me feel like she is trying to grab my attention
or just trying to sabotage my business or maybe she wants to talk to me after I
shun her the last time on the other hand
the businesswoman inside me says to take it I know I can do it the party is huge
there will be many people from affluent background I can promote my business to
those people it will boost my Revenue as well I am thinking if I just avoid her
as much as possible then it will be good
but I don't know I am stuck in between I need some good advice my ex-bestfriend
who married my ex-husband hired me to make a cake for her son's birth sorry to
disappoint you guys I accepted the order
it looked too good to pass it to someone else call me a greedy businesswoman all
you want but like you said ask for Advance payment I did ask for it they
paid in advance I always ask for advanced full payment I also minimize
the contacts with my ex-best friend so far the interaction between us has been
through email and also I have an assistant who is a family friend he
knows my situation and is a middle man I am documenting everything I know I am
taking a huge risk with this but I am willing to see where it goes also I got
to know hiring me was my ex-husband's idea not hers my ex heard about my
service from a colleague of his and wanted to hire me I haven't talked to my
ex about this most of my communications has been with my ex-best friend nothing
big happened I am still working on it I will post a full after all of this is
done stay tuned I decided to talk to my mom about it I just needed her insights
about this matter she told me I should do what I want to do my boyfriend also
encouraged me to take the order he says that if I had to stay to organize the
dessert table he would be there for me I took the order and it turns out it was
my ex-husband's idea to hire me because one of his colleagues recommended my
services to him and it was sort of short notice so I had to rush this anyways I
kept it strictly about business I did take the payment in advance just like
some of you have mentioned I always ask for advanced payments I mostly maintain
communication through email I have an assistant who is also a family friend of
mine to handle all Communications my ex-best friend tried many times to me
with me in person but I told her to just email me because I do have cake orders
for other people too I only had to meet her one time in person regarding the
order she sent me the details of the party over the email and like I
mentioned it was a huge order I didn't just have to make a birthday cake for
the baby it is Pokemon themed there were also cake pops cupcakes and macaron
luckily I had my friend Marie over for some help yes I did pay her so like
usual I went to deliver the cakes and other stuff for the party there was
already a table set at the venue my boyfriend Josh 35 came with me to
support me and to keep me away from my ex-husband and ex-bestfriend as much as
possible as I was busy with myself my ex approached me and said hello NGL seeing
him after so many years my heart just stopped this man has given me the worst
pain you could possibly give to a human I am glad I held my composure I also
said hello back he tried to have a small talk with me by saying that he is sorry
about how things went down and what he said and also I looked better than the
last time he saw me then he drops a big bomb he said all these years he has
thought of me wondering what I was doing
even though he is happy with his married
life I was silent I didn't say a word he just kept spewing that he misses is me
and my cooking my homemade french onion soup is still his favorite he misses
that every time he gets sick with a flu I didn't know what to say at that moment
Josh noticed that my ex was making me uncomfortable and he rushed towards me
with a fake emergency he asked if I was okay I said yes after the table setting
was done I was about to leave that's when I saw my ex-father in law along
with other guests he noticed me and came to give me a hug my ex-father-in-law is
a very humble man in fact he was the only man who was on my side when I was
going through a divorce with his son he looked really happy to see me and asked
me how I was he started to chat with me I talked to him about my business and he
gave me some advice he even talked to my boyfriend he called Josh a pretty
standard guy whatever that means ex-father-in-law was nice and said he
would suggest my services to his friends too he insisted that I stay until lunch
is served I said no a couple of times but he managed to convince me I only
stayed for one more hour or so but I was
fine I did notice that my ex-best friend
was eyeing me from the corner I was fine because Josh was beside me the whole
time I chatted with some guests they appreciated my service I didn't have any
more conversations with my ex I didn't even stay for the cake cutting I left
the first chance I got but my assistant stayed to make sure everything was fine
for the cleanup it was overwhelming for me I saw some of my old friends and my
in-laws my mother-in-law avoided me and some of my old friends just said hello
later that day I got a message from my ex-bestfriend on my work email that she
liked my service and that her guests really liked my cakes and desserts she
also said sorry that's not where it ends I got to know from my friend Marie who
was still in contact with some of my old friend group that my ex-bestfriend is
not happy with her marriage when my ex and her are in public they would often
fight a lot they also fight on the day of their kid's birthday to be honest I
just told her to not bring me the gossip
about her but the Silver Lining is I got
a huge fat check I can finally buy a new sugar printer or maybe a good quality
oven also I just want to appreciate my boyfriend Joshua he has been incredibly
supportive of me he has protected me from my ex and ex-best friend like a
knight I think he deserves his own cake for me and I know a lot of you told me
not to take it but I guess I'm just a greedy Mr Krabs who cares more about the
money rather than being classy but this is the last time I will be taking any
orders from them I know they have a three-year-old daughter whose birthday
will be in two months I think they might try to hire me again I will not take it
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welcome friends to another r slash entitled parents video we've got a lot
of crazy stories today and our first one's from rufus8658
that time my mom decided that she didn't
have to pay rent this was about 20 years ago in late 2000 or early 2001 my mom
was one of those people who simply didn't understand that she had to pay
for things she was famous for running up huge phone or power bills not paying
them and getting mad at the company when they turned the service off her
reasoning was that they should understand that she needs the phone or
power or whatever to her credit i guess she did pay her rent though she wasn't
happy about it not in the way that everyone's unhappy with paying the rent
but like she deeply deeply resented it she took it personally one day she
learned about the legal concept of squatters rights that is a thing and in
california and means essentially if you live in an abandoned property and
improve it for five years with no owner coming forward you can claim ownership
what she thought this meant was that if she stopped paying rent she'd become a
squatter and have the right to stay needless to say your landlord disagreed
she did eventually give in and start paying her rent again after a couple of
months but needless to say she didn't stay in that house much longer honestly
that was an impressively dumb idea i don't know the legal rights on what you
could or couldn't do but if i had somebody do that to me i'd be trying to
figure out every way to force them to leave that property if they had a lease
i'd want to break it as a landlord there would just be too many red flags do you
think this entitled mom's decision to try to take advantage of squatters
rights was more of a dumb ignorance of understanding how squatters rights
worked or would you say that they did this more out of a self-absorbed
entitled i deserve to have this happen for me type of way or both let me know
what you guys think in the comments down below our next story is from chavchoff
of our legs went to a party at my friend's house i was berated throughout
the whole evening several times by my friend's mother who also made
unnecessary remarks about the other guests religion islam so some of our
friends are muslims and they've been fasting every day due to ramadan my
friend graduated a few days ago and she invited us all to her house at 7 30 pm
i'm usually a punctual person but i end up being late in these occasions because
i wait for my friend who is pathologically late hyperbolic
expression at all times she jokes about it being a black thing but i'm not
kidding when i say that she's always late sometimes two to three hours late
this behavior and lack of respect for everyone else's time was the sparkle of
many discussions but we've come to the conclusion that she just won't change so
whenever we invite her we give her a meeting time two hours before the actual
meeting time the reason why i wait for her is because we live so close to each
other so we usually ride the car together anyway this time we weren't the
only ones being late as our two muslim friends always have iftar with their
family so we decided to pick them up and go to the party together we texted our
friend and she was okay with it but as soon as we entered her home and we
greeted her mother she started yelling do you think this is all right why are
you always so late i apologized and informed her that this time our ever
late friend c was actually ready by 7 pm
strangely but we decided to wait for our other two muslim friends because we
didn't want to eat without them and that
we warned her daughter so that she would have known through the dinner and the
party she'd alternate friendly chit chats even spanking my butt a couple of
times with harsh tones of disapproval and reminding us that we were late as
always other two muslim friends came later and i caught mother trying to hide
her frustration these two friends came right after work but of course mother
had no idea and neither did she care she never actually complained directly with
them and she took it out of my friend c and i because she's known us longer than
everyone else in the house aside from her own family i'd respond firmly but
still politely when she caught me washing the dishes and cleaning up she
threw a tantrum and said all the others were here by 7 30 pm and they were such
great help before the party started and now you come here thinking you can do
the little work that's left to be done at that point i reminded her of all the
times we came to help her before and after her parties lunches dinners and
that i was not tolerating being treated like i've never helped her before
moreover i wasn't obligated to help her never before and not now as a guest if
you decide to host a party you don't get to feel entitled to be helped out by
your guests if they want to help then that's great i still decided to wash the
dishes to calm down and get away from everyone there were 50 plus dishes and
glasses and i doubt the other guests had to do greater work than i was doing
knowing how mother parties go they probably helped preparing the tables and
placing the dishes and chairs she never lets anyone else touch her stove so i
doubt they helped her finish her cooking she'd also gnarly ask why would anyone
not come at 7 30 pm when asked i told her that she was right about c and i
especially c always being late but the muslims weren't at fault and her
daughter was informed about their arrival time several days prior it's
like we all revolve around her and we should all put aside our needs and plans
just to be in time for her parties people got lives some of us even work on
weekends and we'd rather be late and still see each other than not hang out
at all then when all the muslims were gone and only a few of us were left she
started talking about one muslim girl who was there at 7 30 pm and just
watched everyone else eating as a prime example of a good guest or that time she
and her boss invited a muslim diplomat in her boss's house and forgot about his
religion they cooked pork just pork and they didn't tell him she
said he seemed to notice it was a different kind of meat but ate it anyway
out of respect for her boss's hospitality and she said see why can't
your friends be like that at that point i was tired and when i'm tired i either
stay quiet or just stop giving a freak this time it was the latter i said i do
not agree with you and everyone went silent let me tell you this no one ever
dares to object to mother because it's a lost cause she never gets into a
discussion to find a middle ground she does it only for you to give up and say
you're right i told her she was a hypocrite for demanding respect in her
house when she doesn't have any for her guests even making unnecessary remarks
about their religion i apologize to my friend her daughter but i couldn't
tolerate racism in front of me especially when she talks about our
friends i was also greatly disappointed by how our friend never asked her mother
to stop saying those things about our friends what kind of friend are you if
you can't defend your loved ones i even pointed out how her other daughter was
serving pasta with ragu and when i asked her if it was beef on behalf of my
muslim friends she said i don't know laughing nervously my muslim friend was
understanding and said it's alright but pretend you're certain about it being
beef when those other two muslim girls ask you about it they're very observant
and religious strangely enough after a pointless discussion about religion and
culture mother still asked me to come over the next day seemingly with
newfound respect what the freak i replied oh i don't think we're welcome
in this house and declined probably i'm also fed up with her questionable
behavior towards her daughter's friends if not unsolicited comments against
other religions she'll point out how much weight you gained how bad you look
when my friend and i finally lost weight
she never once complimented us she's the kind of person who loves making people
feel miserable even her own daughters well i gotta say this mother sounds
horrendous to me it sounds like this mom
checks off just about every awful person checkmark box short of putting their
hands on people this is one of those situations where you pull your friend to
the side and say i'm sorry but we can't go over there your mom is insane like
you just kind of have to tell him how it is in that kind of a situation by the
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mom doesn't care about my safety and is more concerned with her image i just
thought i should add my dad passed away a month ago and it's been hard on me and
my mom recently but some of her actions and irrational decisions are concerning
this happened last week and truthfully i've been having nightmares like my mom
drinking and being sloppy drunk and another where i was at our house and
someone tried to attack me because they were extremely drunk i'll explain the
story and why it just upset me 21 year old female my mom 52 year old female and
her friend decided to go to some bar i at first was deciding against it but
ended up going with her due to her guilting me we had a pretty decent time
except i noticed she was drinking a lot more and she explained that she doesn't
have her rings on her because she isn't married anymore she had a couple of
beers shots and mixed drinks telling everyone my father passed away drinking
isn't like her to the point of being sloppy but it's in some ways
understandable under the circumstances the bar closed at one and we were
getting ready to leave my mom flips out about me or her friend driving and
decides to ask some guy at the bar 36 year old male we were talking to to
drive us home he agreed after my mom seemed fairly excited about the idea i
just found it disrespectful that a month later she let a stranger come into the
house my dad and her lived in together he was making a toast to my dad and
talking about energy and just the most off the wall crap maybe 15 or so minutes
go by and she's still drunk and i don't want to basically take care of my drunk
mom because she says mean stuff and assumes whatever she says drunk is 100
true and everyone is wrong around her things like i have my boyfriend and she
has no one i decided to go shower to avoid it the guy is still there by the
time i get out of the shower my mom's passed out asleep i asked her friend
where the guy went and she said she told him to go home i walked back into my
room which faces the driveway and just looked out his car sitting in our
driveway but i just assumed he was getting his stuff settled and was about
to head out maybe 15 minutes go by and his car's still in our driveway i walk
into my mom's room and let her friend know she opens her phone and he called
over five times and is asking if they can still hang out she ignores it and
tells me he'll leave i walked back to my room and another 15 minutes go by and
he's still in our driveway i go back to my mom's friend and ask her if i can
call the cops because it's been 30 minutes and it's weird she says it's
fine he'll leave i decided to wait 10 to
15 more minutes this time goes by and lo and behold he's still sitting in our
driveway i go back and say i'm calling the police she says it's fine i'll tell
him to go home i wait five to ten minutes and because at this point he
would have been in our driveway for over an hour i call my boyfriend who's a few
hours away from me and tell him what's going on and i don't know what to do he
immediately tells me to call the police i try to calm myself down before calling
so i can get the story out without freaking out and losing my thoughts i
call and explain what's going on and they send someone down to the house they
tell me to meet them outside i see them pull up and head out the officer talks
to me and says he seemed overly drunk and is surprised my mom agreed to let
him drive us and asked me if he seemed intoxicated when driving us i said he
seemed fine but i don't know him and how's he drunk i explain he came in for
a few drinks in the house and the officer explains she can't claim
trespassing because he was invited in and a dui would be too hard to take to
court she asked me what i wanted to do and if i just wanted him gone and out of
our driveway i say yes that's all i want
i just feel uncomfortable and i told her my mom and friend were both passed out
asleep and she gave me an odd look like she was worried about me she tells me
she's going to find a ride because he admitted he was too drunk to drive and
they should only be 20 minutes away and they'll wait in my driveway for his ride
so i can head back inside i call my boyfriend to let him know what's going
on and explain he's worried about me and pretty mad at my mom 20 minutes go by
and the officer calls and says his ride will be another 20 minutes and that
they'll try to stay in the driveway but if they get a call they'll have to leave
thankfully they stayed the whole time and his ride got him i've been up since
2 am and it's now 5 am i've been dealing with this mess that could have been
avoided i get up and i'm obviously upset
with my mom for allowing me to be put in a dangerous situation that she didn't
even have a clue happened i just stay quiet most of the day and ignore her she
asks why i'm being so crappy to her and i just break down and yell at her about
what happened last night and she didn't seem to care or understand the danger
she put her daughter in and that i had to talk to the police all alone at 2am
with a complete stranger in our driveway
she apologized but was saying her friend was a bad influence on her which is
usually what she does when she messes up
puts blame on whoever she can easily pin it on even though she let the situation
continue to play out like it did and i told her i had to call my boyfriend
because i had no idea what to do she then flips out and insists i text him
and tell him it wasn't her fault because
she doesn't want him to judge her or for his mom to possibly find out we go to
dinner and multiple times she asked if i texted him and told him it wasn't her
fault i lie and say yeah he said he knows and
understands i am dumbfounded at her ability to apologize for her actions
just to turn around and make sure no one judges her and to make sure they know
it's not her fault she was more concerned about what people thought
about her and how she looked and not what i just had to experience and the
stress it put on me side note i forgot the guy started to dance with my mom in
the house and she started to cry and say she felt he was meant to be there i'm
kind of wondering how much grief is being an influence in this situation
like maybe op's mom's really going through a lot of stuff after losing
their husband that's influencing this reckless behavior i don't know or you
know maybe it's just indicative of how they are as a person but i feel like
there could be a lot of potential underlying stuff going on here this next
story is from um no b feeling helpless and in the middle
between my mom and husband my mom and dad divorced since i was 12. i was
parentified to take care of my young sister my mom got married three times
and she had from her last marriage two kids her husband does not want to work
nor spend a penny so i transfer her monthly 250 dollars so that she doesn't
starve plus i bought her a car i live in another country however yesterday her
husband physically assaulted her by throwing furniture at her she wants to
find a place to rent on my expense her family won't even offer to take her in
and i can't just sit and watch her because i know next time he'll kill her
thus i have to send some more money but my husband's fed up and doesn't want me
to give more money especially that we are expecting a baby but i can't dump my
mom what to do frankly i have a lot of respect for op for how much care and
attention they give to their mom and their situation just trying to make sure
that their mom doesn't end up homeless or starving i don't envy op because this
is a very tough situation where it almost comes to a head where you've got
to choose between your own interests and your own family and supporting your own
mom who is admittedly in a terrible situation our next story is from set it
off 23 grandma kicks us out and acts like it's our choice okay so for context
i 19 year old male live with my older sibling 24 non-binary in our rv they
love the idea of rv living and plan to live in it forever i however am living
with them temporarily to get out of my borderline abusive parents house story
for another time i'll call my sibling ash and my grandma well grandma so ash
lived in a town a few hours away with our dad but when my dad got divorced
they moved to my current town my grandma let my dad move in with her and let ash
park the rv in her backyard at the time our younger sister lived with them but
about six months after they moved here she decided to move back to her hometown
with her dad i moved in with him in september well almost the entire time
i've lived there my grandmas complained about almost everything and has tried to
control our lives i understand rules about living on her property but when i
asked how my co-worker she told me to just stay friends in case it doesn't
work out he's currently my boyfriend and complains if we don't do laundry often
enough or if we're too loud during the day and much more well recently she
decided to renovate her backyard she needs a new ac unit and she's getting a
loan on her house she's using that alone
to do the backyard because she's over 65 she won't have to pay it back the bank
will get paid back when they sell the house after she passes she gave us six
weeks to find somewhere for the rv now neither ash nor i plan to stay in our
small town forever and are trying to save up we only have to pay our car
bills we only have to pay our car bills i pay them rent in the form of helping
pay off the rv and anywhere from 50 to 70 each to our grandma for water and
electricity if we get a lot we won't be able to afford to save up and would be
stuck every time we bring this up to her or our parents they just shrug and say
oh well the thing is we don't even have the proper rv hookups and she refuses to
get them installed even when we offered to save up and pay for it which means we
can't use the ac our summers get up to 117 degrees fahrenheit and we have a
limited amount of electricity well none of the rv parks are available and she
keeps complaining that we don't wait until the last minute because that's
when she'll start to get stressed well we talked to our mom and step dad and
surprisingly they're letting us put the rv on their property which is good and
bad good things are no rent proper hookups and no grandma bad thing is it's
like 30 plus minutes to our work we work
for the same company different locations but in the same neighborhood we're
moving it on saturday well we told our grandma this and since it's just been oh
you have till the end of the month and well who's gonna watch baby her dog we
were originally going to watch her while she goes on a trip well i visit your
aunt now i can't go on my trip and other things like that did i miss something
like you told us not to wait till the last minute and now you don't want us to
go what the freak plus ash even offered to stay at my grandma's to watch the
dogs and she agreed i don't understand what her problem is she wanted us out
but now wants us to stay you gotta love somebody who just can't
make up their mind i feel like with somebody like this you can never do
right in their eyes whether it's something that they wanted they'll find
something to complain about and then if you do something you want they'll
definitely find something to complain about i would say maybe the reasonable
thing is just try to keep your distance our next story is from dannyboy8655
entitled mother decides what we do on my birthday so for context this was many
years ago so my memory may be a bit fuzzy this story starts on the 5th of
august 2015. me and my family entitled mother entitled sister my sister and nice
brother were in our car going to my favorite trampoline park at the time i
can't remember what it was called so i'll call it tram park all was well
until entitled sister said where are we going to eat i'm hungry i was surprised
because she would usually complain and demand we go to mcdonald's or something
entitled mother says we're going to insert her least favorite restaurant
here i can't remember the name entitled sister said what i thought opi chose
mcdonald's i don't want to go to the restaurant or park entitled mother
says okay darling where do you want to go i say hold on entitled sister doesn't
get to choose i do it's my birthday after all entitled mother says i don't
care if it's your birthday or not your darling sister doesn't want to go so
we're not going at this point i'm furious my mother just completely
disregarded my birthday to please my spoiled brat of a sister i then had the
worst birthday of my life i forgot the rest of the conversation so sorry about
that and my entitled mother still asks me why i moved over to my dad's house
and blocked her on all social media yeah i feel bad for op imagine getting
promised and even are actively in route to things that you chose for your
birthday and just because one of your siblings that clearly your parent favors
more says i don't want to go there they just put the car in 180 and go a whole
different direction by the way what fast
food place is your least favorite when i was reading this story and i heard
insert her least favorite restaurant here the one that popped into my head
was long john silvers i'm just not that huge on seafood but i'm kind of curious
what your guys's would be let me know in
the comments our next story is from tiny bubbles i'm in the outfield i love kids
and i have three the youngest one almost an adult i was a school bus driver for
10 years i know how to handle kids on the bus they were my kids so to speak
and i had to lay down the law but off work i go directly to the parent if
there's a problem we bought a house recently the neighbors have two young
boys the family's big on baseball and have a batting cage that spans the
length of my backyard so lovely but they barely use the batting cage they use
their front yard with our side yard as the outfield baseball and soccer towards
a wall with a window i read in my room and i have to change rooms when they're
out there they dumped all the rocks from
a fish tank over there all my plants got
smashed and oh my god when the balls hit the gas line it sounds like an
earthquake my significant other spoke with the parents and it continued for a
while and then they parked their motor home about four feet from our bedroom
window directly on the property line i no longer have a view of the sky like i
used to the lighting's changed in our room and almost all my plants have
suffered over there i know it's their property but even a jerk would call it a
jerk move to block someone's bedroom window when you have an rv strip already
the setup is so their kids can play basketball on the concrete strip these
people are so entitled that they knocked on my door when we moved in i thought
they were going to welcome us to the neighborhood instead they told me that
they didn't like the woman who had been at my house and i shouldn't let her back
over vent over i would definitely say it's worth a look into seeing where they
can park the rv legally as far as regulations for that area goes but if
it's legal i'm also kind of personally of the opinion that like yeah it sucks
but they have every right to put the rv there like i feel like you're totally
fine to talk to them and try to reason with them but like yeah it sucks but
they'd have a right to put it there and frankly as a kid that loved basketball
personally i would go nuts being able to
play basketball on the concrete strip so i'm probably just a little bit more
biased in the situation it literally all
depends on the legality of that rv being there and our final story of the day is
by throw away a wish my mom killed my fake baby
this happened in high school when i was like 16 now i'm 26 and i'm still bitter
about it because it wrecked my gpa so when i was in high school i was in home
mech for the second year in a row at my school we had different levels of home
eq like how there's a spanish one spanish two spanish three so freshman
year you did the boiled egg baby experiment but in the higher level class
we got these fancy robotic baby dolls the dolls had sensors in them in
different spots the mouth the back the bottom we got these key fobs that were
sewed into the cloth diapers or built into bottles that when the baby would
cry we would put the fob across the sensor and the baby would stop crying
the baby also had a sensor in the neck that if the neck went too far back it
would register as a broken on your chart we were assigned the babies for one
weekend at this time i was in marching band and i had games on friday nights i
was worried that i wouldn't be able to hear the baby cry over the crowd and the
band so i asked my mom to babysit i showed her how all the key fobs worked
and all that she said she'd do it no problem so i go to the game do my
marching band stuff i go home i get the baby back and my mom says that
everything went well i noticed when she gave it back that the baby did have some
different baby clothes on and she said they'd gone over to my aunts and the
cousins had dressed the baby up but that she watched them i got a little annoyed
i told her it wasn't a toy that it was my grade but she told me to calm down so
the rest of the weekend goes by i take care of the baby and i didn't miss
anything to be fair i'd been watching kids since i was 14 and my job at the
time was at a daycare i got fridays off for games and they were closed weekends
so monday rolls around and we turn in the babies and they print out our
reports from the computer i got like a really low score like a 57 or something
like that i failed that's for sure i'm so mad because i didn't do anything
wrong i hadn't missed a thing on the printout it said that the baby's neck
had broken like over 10 times had been left in a dirty diaper like eight times
and hadn't been fed around the same amount to say i was shocked was an
understatement i know i wasn't the one who'd done or i guess not done any of
that so i obviously confronted my mom outraged she had tainted my grade and i
was an a and b student she denied the whole thing and my stepdad tried to say
it was me who did it and that i was just trying to push the blame on my mom
because i didn't want to admit i did something wrong so i went back to my
teacher and asked her if she could print out another list of the infractions
except this time with time stamps on them she said she could i also asked
that if i could get a letter from my parents saying that they had done all
that stuff to the baby that maybe she could pass me and she said she'd have to
see so i get the paper and sure enough every infraction was in between the time
i dropped the baby off with my mom and the time i picked them up after the game
i took the paper to my mom and confronted her i remember my stepdad had
the audacity to say i had faked it somehow but i finally got her to admit
that she had basically let the little cousins take it to their bedrooms and
play with it like it was a baby doll all while she and my stepdad got drunk with
my aunt they wrote the letter and i gotta see but like i'm clearly still
resentful i basically swore that day to never trust my mom with my future kids
this was also when i started to wise up to just how bad my mom and step-dad's
drinking was i'd been dealing with it but been in denial since like the eighth
grade but that fall it really just hit me how unreliable they were and how much
they prioritized their drinking over me i don't know this is gonna be a very
controversial opinion for me but like i feel like op getting that result is kind
of like the whole point of the like baby
test right first of all i think the home ac baby test thing is a little
ridiculous especially like if these kids who are going to high school are trying
to sleep and the babies going off in the middle of the night like it does teach
good lessons but it's a little extra isn't it but isn't the whole point that
if you have this baby and you're supposed to be responsible in watching
them then you're not supposed to just hand your baby off to somebody and trust
that they're going to take care of it like yeah you gave them to your parents
and your parents totally failed you but isn't that the whole point of the
assignment maybe i'm the one that's just being really mean and harsh but if you
gotta take care of your baby you gotta take care of your baby right but with
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husband and stepson lied about an ivy league and stole the inheritance money I
gave them for tuition I caught them using it to chase a dream instead now
I'm leaving and taking back every penny I 40f came into quite a lot of money
after my aunt passed away and left me everything a couple of months ago she
passed away 6 months ago and 3 months ago I received all the money that she
had left for me and inherited her house as well which I had been planning to
sell but now I'm living here my aunt and I had always been close and even in her
last few days I was the only person who was regularly visiting her and taking
care of of her she had been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer a couple of years
ago and I had tried my best to be there for her so it was no big surprise that
she had left everything to me since she did not have any family of her own she
never married and never had any kids she left a couple of other things to my
mother her sister and a couple of other family members but most of it came to me
and I will forever be grateful for it I am an art teacher in middle school so
naturally I don't get paid much I also conduct classes for elderly people in my
free time but that also does not generate enough revenue for me lately
I've been saving up to buy a car something that I have wanted for a long
time so that it can make my commute easier I have to take the bus to school
every day and I did not have a problem with it earlier but recently I have been
having a lot of problems with my back and the bus seats are really
uncomfortable so I can't deal with that sort of discomfort anymore besides I'm
in my 40s I think it's about time that I get a car of my own I thought I would
buy it with the money that I got from my
aunt but then my husband told me that he wanted me to invest that money in my
stepson's education my husband Shan 43m and I have been married for 2 years
together for five I had never been married before this was my first I have
had relationships in the past but sea has been the person that I have
connected with on most levels he and I matched on a dating app and that's how
we got together he is a widower his first wife passed away 12 years ago
leaving him with her stepson Mitch 17m I didn't really have a problem with the
fact that he had been married before and had a from his previous relationship as
well but after we got married I learned that I was not only expected to be his
wife but also a stepmom to Mitch and I meant that in a financial sense of the
word not emotionally because when we met Mitch was already kind of mature he was
12 and he was old enough to make up his mind about whether he wanted me to be
his mother or just his father's wife and he picked the latter of the two options
which was fine by me because he did not really try to connect with me anyway we
were cordial he was nice to me and I was nice to him because he's a kid and I am
used to teaching kids around his age but there was always a line a boundary that
was not supposed to be crossed and I kept it in mind whenever I was
interacting with him that I was only going to be nice to him but I would not
try to replace his mother he had made it very clear to me that I would always be
Tanya my name to him but not his mom and I respected that I was not going to
overstep what I thought was kind of unfair was that Shawn never really tried
to build a relationship between the two of us but when it came to helping out
with the finances I was always expected to contribute to things that had to do
with his son so it felt kind of weird that Mitch did not consider his mother
he did not treat me like he would have treated his mother and Shawn did not
even seem interested in trying to build that sort of relationship between us but
then I was expected to contribute to his tuition and everything it did not make
sense to me and I don't know if I'm just
being a little too touchy about this but
it was like I was being forced to UT and raising a child that was not even mine
and I knew for a fact that this boy would grow up but never treat me like
part of the family and it wasn't as though I had not tried to build a
motherson relationship with him but he was really shut off and I could
understand that but I just did not feel that it was fair for me to contribute to
his expenses since I was already not earning well enough I had even discussed
this with Shawn in the early stages of our marriage I had told him that I
wanted him to speak to his son and at least make sure that he put in an effort
to build a relationship with me or I would find it very weird to contribute
to his expenses when he treated me like a stranger and he got really pissed at
me he told me that if I could not accept the fact that he had a child and if I
could not split the expenses equally with him then we probably shouldn't be
married at all and I did not want to lose him so I stayed with him I thought
that maybe I was being unreasonable and I really did not want to be the kind of
mother who tries to create drama between a son and his father so I just kept my
mouth shut so that was how things went on for the last few years when Shawn
asked me to contribute to his college fund I was not surprised because we had
been discussing this back and forth and I had told him that I would think about
it I had been planning to say no to that
because a college fund is a big deal and I'm not getting any younger I need to
save for my own retirement as well I can't put aside everything to contribute
to the life of a kid who is not going to treat me like family I just found it
very disrespectful and it made up my mind that this time if Shawn tried to
Guilt Trip me into contributing to the fund I would fight back and not just
accept whatever he said but after I received my inheritance when we had the
discussion he did not try to Guilt Trip me but he told me that [Music]
kind of place right opposite the restaurant it was a very Posh and rich
neighborhood that was for sure my friends and I kind of treated ourselves
to a girl's day out but I received the shock of a lifetime as we were leaving
the restaurant I saw Mitch coming out of the high-rise opposite and he was not
alone he had his arm around a girl whom I recognized from his Circle it was not
much of a task for me to put two and two together but nevertheless when my
friends pointed that out to me I still went up to him to confront him about it
he seemed shocked to see me and was about to run the other way but I told
him that The Jig was up anyway so he might as well come clean to me now if he
was not at Yale I knew that my money was not going to the place that I had
intended for it to go so I knew that he had been lying and he and his dad were
in a lot of trouble anyway so he might as well not bother to run and tell me
the truth thankfully I did not have to do much convincing he ended up telling
me everything right there apparently he had no intention of going to college
anyway he just wanted money so that he would be able to rent an apartment and
move in with his girlfriend but if that's what he and his father had told
me I would have flipped out and would never have given them the money my
husband would not be able to support the
two of them on his own anyway since they
wanted to live together in a fancy place and didn't want to struggle since they
were planning on starting a YouTube channel and they needed an aesthetic
looking place with a nice view for that kind of stuff not just any old and dingy
apartment which is the only thing that they would be able to afford the kind of
money that they had so they had to lie to me and I was never meant to find out
about any of this until they were successful and then they would have
returned the money back to me but now that their lie had been caught there was
no running away from it I went back home immediately and I confronted my husband
about it and he broke down telling me that he had just wanted to support Mitch
but it had been a stupid idea and he was
regretting it all now he claimed that he had wanted to tell me the truth last
month when he realized that Mitch wasn't exactly going to blow up with YouTube
and they were just wasting my money he was scared of how I would react so he
didn't even tell me and just kept trying to convince Mitch to come back and then
they could tell me the truth and face the consequences well now they are
facing the consequences and I have left the house after the confrontation with
my husband I just had nothing left to say to him anymore and he kept begging
me not to leave but I just packed my stuff as hard as I could could and then
I left I am living in my aunt's house they don't know the address to that so
they can't find me both of them have been trying to text me and get to me but
I haven't replied to any of them Mitch kept texting me to say that this was all
his idea and that he was the one who had coerced his father into doing this so I
should not blame him since he was just trying to support his son I love the
intention behind him taking the fall but it doesn't help the situation I am
pissed and I really don't think that what happened was right before I had
left the house I had told Shawn that he had to return the money to me
immediately or I would make sure that everybody got to know how dishonest he
and his son were and that would end Mitch's career as a YouTuber before it
even began the fact that he is involved in this wouldn't reflect well on him
either since if his co-workers got to know about it he would be in a lot of
trouble at work since he was the guy who handled the accounts and I don't think
anybody would want their accountant to be a dishonest man they are begging me
for forgiveness especially Shawn because there is a lot at stake for him he's
begging me to come back so we can sort things out and also because he doesn't
have the kind of money right now to return it to me I don't care I just want
my money back but I feel guilty y about the way that I'm acting since I'm really
not as money-minded as I'm coming off right now but what they did was
unacceptable I know what I'm doing is necessary but I just feel kind of weird
Ida for demanding my money back from my husband after I found out that my
stepson is not actually going to an Ivy League school update one hey thank you
so much for all the comments on my post for taking the time to explain to me
that I am right and I have no need to feel guilty about anything especially
because I'm demanding my own money to be returned to me I would just like to
explain that I grew up in a home talking about money and finances was considered
vulgar and so I'm kind of weird and iffy when it comes to such things but now I
know that it's okay for me to demand that they return my own money back to me
I don't have to feel bad about it there were also a lot of comments that called
me a doormat for putting up with Shawn but honestly I really loved him and
maybe I still do I'm not sure right now my emotions are all over the place but
at one point in time I was certain that I loved him more than anything in this
world so naturally I wanted to be with him and I was ready to do whatever it
took to stay also even though Mitch treated me like a stranger I could not
bring myself to do the same to him in case you guys have forgotten I am a
middle school teacher and I was used to dealing with kids around his age when I
first met him so I knew how he was thinking and I wanted to be able to make
that space for myself and his heart on my own that's why I guess I was trying
to help out and contribute to his life and raise him but I guess it never
worked out he just decided that he was not going to accept me as part of the
family and continued to treat me indifferently all I can say is that I
tried my best and maybe it did not yield
any good results but at least I have the satisfaction of knowing that I did what
I had to do I did everything right and now the fact that they took advantage of
it just shows the kind of people that they are it does not reflect badly on me
I'm going through a tough time I would just request people to be gentle and
mindful of the words that they use that's all I had to say about this
anyway it has been two weeks since I found out the truth and I have blocked
both Shawn and Mitch because their messages were really messing with my
head I don't need that right now I have spoken to a lawyer and we are going to
file for a divorce in a couple of days I had been putting it off for so long
because I'm not emotionally ready for that kind of thing but now I know that
it has to be done and it has to be done soon we are preparing for it and we are
going to start the proceeding soon enough in the meantime I really need my
money back so I decided to speak to my mother-in-law about this instead and I
don't have a particularly close relationship but from what I know she's
a bit reserved but has always been there for anybody who has needed her help I
told her that I wanted to talk about something that Shawn and Mitch had done
and she told me to visit her since this sounded like something that was very
personal and sensitive so she did not want to discuss it on the phone and
wanted to meet me in person I decided to take a leap of faith and agree to what
she said so I'm going to visit her this evening and I will let you guys know
what happens so far I have no idea what to expect I'm just hoping that she
doesn't talk to Mitch or Shawn about what I said to her and I don't have to
meet them when I get there because that would be really awkward I just don't
know what's going to happen so I'm just trying to keep my mind off of it update
too hello I just came back from my mother-in-law's house and know nobody
was waiting there for me to Ambush me before I get into what happened I just
really have to say this because I don't know who else to talk to about this my
mother-in-law is really an exceptionally
nice woman I hope everybody has somebody like her in their family even when I
told my parents about the reaction that she had to do what I told her they were
quite surprised that she was ready to go against her own son just because she
wanted to do the right thing so anyway when I visited her today I told her
everything without even pausing while narrating the story to her because I
just wanted to get everything out since I was scared of how she would react
after I was done talking she was quiet for a while and then she told me that
she would handle everything I did not have to worry about any of this she told
me that she would make sure that I got the money back and even said that if she
had cash at the moment she would have returned the money to me herself but she
would have to withdraw the exact amount and that would require her to come back
and it would take since she was old and was just generally exhausted every day
so she told me that I could come back in a couple of days and she would have the
money ready for me and that was a promise she promised me that she would
make sure that her son did not cause too much trouble for me during the divorce
since he had done enough I almost had tears in my eyes because she was being
so supportive and I really hadn't seen this coming so she even comforted me and
told me that she was going to try her best to be there for me even though we
were not close but she knew that what her son had done was was really messed
up as well as what her grandson had done when I told her that i' had been talked
into covering the expenses for Mitch so far as well she was really outraged and
told me that that shouldn't have been the case because as far as she knew
Mitch never treated me like family even Shawn had spoken to her about it and
said that he didn't want to get into it because he did not want to make it seem
he was taking my side over his own sons and did not want to get into the drama
but making me feel guilty and then talking me into contributing to the
family expenses even though Mitch did not even treat me like a family member
did not seem fair either she assured me that she would try try her best to fix
things and that gave me a sense of hope that maybe things were not going to be
as bad as they are right now if not for anything else I would at least get my
money back soon update three hey it's been a big week for me I don't even
remember how many days it has been since
I left my house probably a little over a month this week I filed for divorce
Shawn is going to be served with the papers in a couple of days and I also
got my money back thank God for that my mother-in-law told me that Shawn had
refused to send her any money since he had to look out for himself as well and
he is not contractually obliged to give anything back to me it was just my words
against his so he was not scared I can't say that I was surprised but I'm
thankful that my mother-in-law was nice enough to return the money to me from
her own Pockets she did not need to do that but she did and I really appreciate
that Shawn and Mitch stopped trying to reach out to me after I blocked the
numbers even though they could have emailed me or something but they did not
try anymore and I don't know if I should be relieved or upset that Shawn has not
bothered to reach out to me I'm still confused about how I feel right now but
I don't have time to think about these things because I still have to go to
work and do all the work around the house myself my aunt used to live in a
considerably spacious house so there's a
lot of cleaning that I have to do I also
have to cook for myself which takes up a lot of my time and energy and then
there's laundry and so many other chores all of which I have to do on my own but
at least with this Freedom comes the sense of knowing that I'm going to be
able to do it eventually and I don't have to rely on anybody especially Shawn
I was a little intimidated by the idea of living on my own after so long but
it's been relatively easy so far and since I come back home from school
really tired and then I have to get get to cooking and cleaning almost
immediately I don't even have time to think about Shawn because as soon as my
head hits the pillow I'm fast asleep I guess I would say that I'm lucky because
I don't think I would have been able to handle overthinking at night but the
divorce is finally happening it's real and in a few days he is going to be
aware of it as well once he gets served with the papers truth be told I don't
know how to feel I don't know how he's going to take it whatever the case is
and whatever his reaction is I know that I have to get through this on my own I
been planning to take a few days off of work and then go back to my parents
because I've been feeling really lonely and once he is served I might just do it
to avoid interacting with him update 4 so it has been two full months since I
filed for a divorce and the proceedings are ongoing right now he did not contest
the divorce or stir any drama after he was served which came as quite a shock
to me but then I received a call from my mother-in-law she told me that she was
the one who had spoken to Shawn and told
him that he was not going to contest the
divorce or cause any more trouble for me because after what he had done he owed
this to me he disagreed at first and said that he was not going to agree to
the terms of the divorce because he thought I was asking for too much even
though I don't agree with that I had just asked for all our joint purchases
to be sold so we could split the money and I didn't even ask for anything that
would be unfair but I did ask for a settlement I have also contributed a lot
of money more than I should have especially because of Mitch and I wanted
my money back I wasn't even asking for it all back just the bare minimum I felt
like I had deserved it in my head I was being completely Fair because I had been
cheated out of a marriage there was no other woman involved but there were a
lot of lies and cover-ups involved so I think I was entitled to to what I was
asking for and even if I wasn't we could come to a settlement that's why the
entire negotiation process was even happening however my mother-in-law made
sure that he did not contest anything and did not try to fight with me so that
our divorce could happen as smoothly as it could I'm glad that she's taking my
side not a lot of people have such nice mothers-in-law like mine I did go back
to my parents to visit them for a couple of days after he was served and I lived
with them for a while so if he tried to get up to anything in those few days I
was not aware of it anyway we have had two mediation sessions so far and I
think we are going to be able to wrap everything up by the next one wish me
luck you guys update 5 hello it has been 6 months since my last update lots of
things have changed in my life first off my divorce came through a couple of
weeks ago obviously my husband and I have been separated for a really long
time it just became official I have absolutely no contact with either Shawn
or Mitch after our last mediation session together they apologized to me
once we were out it did not seem very heartfelt but at least they said that
they were sorry about everything it felt like more of formality than anything
else but I told him that did not matter anymore I was moving on with my life I
got a lot of money from everything that we had sold I also sold my aunt's house
and moved into a smaller apartment since now I was going to be on my own also I
brought a car for myself it's a pretty nice car and I have to admit it was more
expensive than I had initially intended to buy but you only live once right so
why not besides I don't have to save money or think about anyone else before
I buy anything I might as well treat myself to something I've been through a
lot I deserve this I am still continuing with my teaching job and also I have
taken up more classes outside of school as well so I can make more money I
hadn't done that earlier because I used to be really tired after school and I
also wanted to spend time with Shawn when I came back but now I think I'm
going to conduct classes from home or online I'm going to figure out a way but
I've already told my friends to get the word out I'm going to stop restricting
myself I'm going to live life for myself and on my own terms so far I've been
worried about so many things like my family my husband my stepson my future
and and whatnot but eventually nothing went according to plan so now I'm going
to try and not plan stuff and see how it goes for a while thank you so much for
caring about my life I hope I have a much better update for you guys in a
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a it because I don't believe my wife is traumatized by her Affair my wife is
claiming that she is not okay and traumatized from the affair she had late
last year things between her and I were not great and really took a turn for the
worst later in the year to the point the police were here twice once after she
trashed the place and another time to toss me out because she filed a PFA
alleging I was going to shoot up the house and hurt myself obviously the PFA
did not stick when the truth came out against my better judgment I came home
so I could be with my children and figure out what to do once back she was
a changed woman was going above and beyond to make things work and I decided
to give it one last shot I had suspected that she was with Slash talking to
someone and gave her every opportunity to come clean so I could plan my next
steps obviously she did not come clean and I woke up 2 days before Christmas to
find my vehicle severely vandalized with
a note still nothing from her it took me receiving photos of her and this other
man together for her to come clean apparently her and her ex from 20 years
ago were fooling around in parking lots in his house and when she called it off
to work things out between us he snapped due to safety concerns we remained
living together till we could find our own places and finalize our divorce
during that time she is acting like I should just get over it and now is
claiming she's not okay and traumatized from her Affair and expects me to be
understanding AIT because I don't believe nor do I really care that my
wife is claiming to be traumatized by the affair she had edit a few things to
address why did I come back 2023 was the year that I mentally checked out it was
one bad thing after another and the icing on the cake was me having to clean
up after my brother's suicide and close his business down I just bottled
everything up inside me and just kept on
going about the process of living then a few months later I lost a cousin to
suicide and all those feelings that I buried started to come out at times I
was not nice and was pushing everyone away I had grown frustrated with my wife
and all the drama and her unwillingness to help and make our life better I
reached out to attorney and had a consultation on filling for divorce then
the PFA came and I was devastated from the lies and being forced to leave my
children I was not okay and immediately started therapy me going back was a weak
moment I desperately missed my children and what my wife and I once had why are
we still living together after the affair came out and my vehicle was
severely vandalized this man kept at it he started stalking her started
harassing her older children and other family member yes the police are slash
were investigating but that has honestly been a waste of time I am better suited
at dealing with confrontations than most and that was the only reason why she
stayed also I do not have the financial resources to move myself and children at
a moment's notice that man is not an issue anymore but I became complacent
and fell into our old routine and lost Focus her response when asked about not
being okay and traumatized I live in fear after what happened to your vehicle
I live in a world now where it is toxic for all of us I am constantly
scrutinized you act like we had this Rock Solid marriage and you're some
victim my response to that no matter what it doesn't excuse what you did or
what resulted from it her fking hate him and no I am not okay four yes I am in
therapy to deal with this another thing yes I am continuing the divorce and
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:00.199 --> :01.780 I(27M) have always been an animal lover.
:01.780 --> :03.820 I love snakes, tarantulas, scorpions, lizards,
geckos, dogs, cats. :03.820 --> :06.569
When I moved out of my parents' house and
into my townhome, I decided to adopt a ball :06.569 --> :07.569
python. :07.569 --> :08.780 She is very docile and loves to be held.
:08.780 --> :10.320 I set her tank up in one of the rooms downstairs.
:10.320 --> :14.889 When my fiance(28F) and I decided that we
were ready to move in together, I slowly introduced
:14.889 --> :16.250 her to the snake. :16.250 --> :20.730
She thought the snake was really cool and even held her a few times.
:20.730 --> :26.410 A few months ago, her friends came over and
ever since, she has been asking me to find :26.410 --> :28.150
a new home for the snake. :28.150 --> :34.940
I had to travel to another state for work
and trusted her to take care of the snake. :34.940 --> :42.220
I was gone for a week and when I came back, I saw the tank completely gone.
:42.220 --> :46.690 I searched all over the house and it was nowhere
to be found. :46.690 --> :50.730
I went outside and check the wooded area behind the townhome and found the tank.
:50.730 --> :53.770 The tank was open and no sign of the snake.
:53.770 --> :59.360 When my fiance got home, I showed her the
tank and told her to pack a suitcase and find :59.360 --> :01.239
another place to stay. :01.239 --> :03.700
Her defense was that I was giving the snake too much attention.
:03.700 --> :07.869 Fiance is currently staying with her parents,
and they think that I am overreacting over :07.869 --> :08.869
an animal. :08.869 --> :13.170
Fiance is upset that I won't talk to her or accept her apology.
:13.170 --> :17.270 AITA for kicking my fiance out of the house
for letting my snake loose outside? :17.270 --> :20.259
Long story short: I (27f) started seeing 44yo "Dave" 3 years ago.
:20.259 --> :21.909 I have 2 sons, 9 and 6.
:21.909 --> :23.359 He has 1 daughter "Ann", 17.
:23.359 --> :27.289 I booked a road trip for me and my sons roughly
3 months ago. :27.289 --> :32.329
A road trip consisting of roughly 26 hours
worth of driving with stops in between. :32.329 --> :38.039
This is the first time I've ever been financially
able to do much of anything with my children :38.039 --> :39.189
so I went all out. :39.189 --> :42.750
Planned to stop at every place they had ever asked me to go, basically.
:42.750 --> :45.770 I was beyond excited to surprise them with
this trip. :45.770 --> :47.590 We got home 4 nights ago.
:47.590 --> :51.859 A week before leaving my Dave decides he wants
to go with me and bring Ann as a "bonding" :51.859 --> :52.859
experience. :52.859 --> :55.789
We do not live together and Ann has never liked me because I'm "boring".
:55.789 --> :57.360 She has said this to my face.
:57.360 --> :58.929 So Dave thinks it will be good.
:58.929 --> :02.930 I didnt really want either of them to go but
thought what the hell, why not. :02.930 --> :04.729
This could be good for us. :04.729 --> :06.229
Boy was I fucking wrong. :06.229 --> :10.110
From the moment Ann got in to my vehicle she
started complaining about absolutely everything. :10.110 --> :15.340
It was too crowded, too loud, we were taking
too many stops, the boys were "too annoying" :15.340 --> :18.579
and "need to quiet the fuck down and chill out". :18.579 --> :19.870
We get a hotel 9 hours in (PA). :19.870 --> :21.459
Its around 3pm at this point. :21.459 --> :25.840
Dave asks if he can take a drive with Ann
because she was getting irritated with the :25.840 --> :26.840 kids.
:26.840 --> :31.960 I told him he could if he makes it quick because
I needed to go get dinner supplies. :31.960 --> :33.460
3 hours later he shows back up. :33.460 --> :34.939
Him and Ann went out to eat. :34.939 --> :38.629
So I make a comment saying "you didnt think we wanted to eat too?"
:38.629 --> :40.280 And Ann snaps back with "I dont think we asked."
:40.280 --> :41.280 After comments like this for days I finally
snapped. :41.280 --> :46.799
My body are now saying they just want to go
home because several times Dave told my kids :46.799 --> :49.400
to be quiet because of his kids comfortability. :49.400 --> :53.930
At this point I havent done anything with
my kids because the queen would have a fit :53.930 --> :58.739
if we pulled off anywhere AND Dave at this
point basically refused to let me drive despite :58.739 --> :59.739
me arguing. :59.739 --> :00.739 IN MY CAR.
:00.739 --> :02.939 So I snapped, told him to pull the fuck over.
:02.939 --> :07.220 When he finally does, I drive to the nearest
car rental and tell them to get the fuck out :07.220 --> :08.220
of my car. :08.220 --> :09.220 Dave and Ann both start flipping out.
:09.220 --> :12.720 Ann saying she isnt going to get in a car
that has "bed bugs". :12.720 --> :16.430
Dave saying he didnt want to take separate
vehicles and didnt have enough money for a :16.430 --> :19.940
rental because the queen spent over $1500 in 4 days.
:19.940 --> :22.790 So I say "I dont believe I fucking asked."
:22.790 --> :24.109 And take off. :24.109 --> :26.090
They were close to 800 miles from home. :26.090 --> :31.549
It took them 4 days to get home due to lack of money and needing to borrow.
:31.549 --> :33.549 I'm being told I'm a selfish cunt.
:33.549 --> :34.549 AITA? :34.549 --> :37.129
After waiting for 5 years, I finally got pregnant with my son.
:37.129 --> :41.510 there was so much fuss about the name choice
because my inlaws wanted to use my deceased :41.510 --> :42.510
BIL's name. :42.510 --> :47.040
My husband sided with them and insisted we
go with it but seeing their obssession with :47.040 --> :48.040
it I refused. :48.040 --> :51.940
my husband then sat with me and we agreed on a name we both chose.
:51.940 --> :56.280 When I was at the hospital, I had dealt with
some complications, and I had to extend my :56.280 --> :59.269
stay since I had to get blood transfusion as well. :59.269 --> :00.590
My husband handled paperwork. :00.590 --> :11.709
however, when we received the birth certificate,
I discovered that he put BIL's name and not :11.709 --> :12.739
the one we picked. :12.739 --> :16.480
I lost it and had a breakdown then I shut
down completely, I stopped talking to him :16.480 --> :22.290
after telling him that I won't speak to him
til he change the name. he kept saying "good :22.290 --> :27.360
riddance" at first but slowly started complaining
about how my silence's been wearing him down. :27.360 --> :33.070
Days went by he's now turned to full on begging
me to speak to him over and over. he said :33.070 --> :38.230
he had to do this otherwise his family were
going to shun him. he handed me a paper with :38.230 --> :42.370
all the "pros" of keeping this name explaining
that our son will be the "golden grandchild" :42.370 --> :45.990
and my inlaws will favor him over the other grandchildren cause of his name.
:45.990 --> :49.260 Said he'll get endless previleges like college
fund, car, inheritance and will be loved unconditionaly
:49.260 --> :52.580 cause he has his uncle's name but, I don't
want my son to be BIL's surrogate, it's sad :52.580 --> :55.350
cause...my husband's always seeked his family's
approval but BIL was the favorite. :55.350 --> :58.610
he offered me endless nicknames, 2nd middle name choice but I wasn't having it.
:58.610 --> :02.970 Eventually, he broke down crying last night
calling me stubborn and difficult, also called :02.970 --> :09.010
me selfish robbing our son of a good life
and good future provided by his grandparents :09.010 --> :12.080
and said I was driving him crazy with my silence. :12.080 --> :15.180
But I feel like this too serious to let go. :15.180 --> :17.600
I'm just doing it for my son. :17.600 --> :20.100
Am I wrong for choosing this as my hill to die on? :20.100 --> :22.060
First of, I want to start by mentioning that
my wife is a cancer patient, She unfortunately :22.060 --> :25.830
started losing her hair due to chemo therapy
and she's been incredibly insecure about it, :25.830 --> :27.770
her lack of hair in particular. :27.770 --> :34.000
She got a wig and started wearing it, I don't
mind it, I 100% support her since she only :34.000 --> :35.550
wears it around family and friends. :35.550 --> :40.250
My sister lost her apartment after a messy
divorce and moved in with her twin daughters :40.250 --> :41.370
(16) almost a month ago. :41.370 --> :43.890
Things been going well except my nieces constant remarks about my wife's wig.
:43.890 --> :49.300 They got so hung up on it and kept asking
lots of questions about it. :49.300 --> :54.720
They asked to take turns to try it on, suggested
they "strighten" it with the strightner and :54.720 --> :56.590
so on which was exhausting. :56.590 --> :00.000
They even pressured to see her without it
but my wife was uncomfortable and refused. :00.000 --> :05.110
Yesterday I got home and found that my wife
was locking herself in the bedroom and crying. :05.110 --> :10.230
I asked what happened, She told me she woke
up and didn't find her wig, then discovered :10.230 --> :14.900
my nieces took it and hid then urged her to
come out so they could see her without it. :14.900 --> :20.240
My wife repeatedly asked them to give it back
but they started laughing and recording , my :20.240 --> :26.020
wife got had to lock the door to keep a distance cause they didn't stop.
:26.020 --> :30.520
I was fuming I went into the kitchen and confronted
them, they acted confused but I was able to :30.520 --> :31.520
get the wig back. :31.520 --> :36.221
I lashed out telling them they humiliated
my wife and barrassed her by taking away her :36.221 --> :37.221 wig.
:37.221 --> :40.630 They said it was just lighthearted prank which
made me go off on them. :40.630 --> :44.600
My sister got involved and said my wife was
just being too sensitive and the girls were :44.600 --> :46.870
just curios to see her without a wig but she overreacted.
:46.870 --> :48.760 I told her her daughters were recording her!
:48.760 --> :52.300 She saw nothing wrong in it and said I overreacted
as well. :52.300 --> :59.390 I lost it on her too and told her she and
my nieces are no longer welcome to stay at :59.390 --> :02.070
my home and they needed to leave. :02.070 --> :07.990
I later let them know about the eviction since
they thought I wasn't serious and they started :07.990 --> :10.990
crying begging that I let it go. :10.990 --> :14.750
But my wife is no longer comfortable around them after what they did.
:14.750 --> :22.410 My sister called our eldery dad and he begged
that I let them stay and insisted my nieces :22.410 --> :24.880
were just acting like typical teenagers. :24.880 --> :28.300
He offered to speak to my wife but I declined. :28.300 --> :31.150
They've been begging that I chang my mind but I ket refusing.
:31.150 --> :32.150 aita? :32.150 --> :34.200
My brother and his wife (both 27) have two dogs. :34.200 --> :40.190
I never liked dogs at all but my brother and
his wife both forced their dogs down our throats :40.190 --> :43.470
for years whenever they came into our family vacation house.
:43.470 --> :51.240 For the record the family vacation home used
to belong to my grandma but after she passed :51.240 --> :53.940
a year ago she passed it down on me. :53.940 --> :55.600
So technically now it's my house. :55.600 --> :00.080
All of my siblings and my parents are still
allowed to vacation in the house of course :00.080 --> :01.730
that won't and will never change. :01.730 --> :07.030
My brother and his wife used to bring their
dogs but now that I'm the legal owner and :07.030 --> :11.750
also a mother of two kids I made sure to tell
them that him and his wife are welcome but :11.750 --> :12.750
the dogs aren't. :12.750 --> :14.390
I despise dogs and also I don't want them around my kids.
:14.390 --> :16.140 My mom and dad backed me up on that decision.
:16.140 --> :20.830 My brother and his wife weren't too happy
about it and they said they'd not visit at :20.830 --> :23.170
all if they weren't allowed to bring the dogs. :23.170 --> :28.700
I told them to leave the dogs in a pet hotel
or with some relatives of his wife but they :28.700 --> :32.790
said this is not possible and they'll just
make sure to vacation elsewhere where their :32.790 --> :34.450
dogs are welcome as well. :34.450 --> :40.990
I got mad at them for it and so did my parents
and told them they're ridiculous for valuing :40.990 --> :43.390
their fuckin dogs over their vacation time with family.
:43.390 --> :44.390 They didn't care. :44.390 --> :47.510
The rest of my siblings claim that I'm TA for how I reacted.
:47.510 --> :52.000 They said I'm right to not want the dogs in
the house but I can't get mad at our brother :52.000 --> :55.831
and his wife for not being comfortable to
visit the family vacation home under this :55.831 --> :56.831
conditions. :56.831 --> :59.350
They claimed our brother respected my conditions
and I'm just mad he instead chose to vacation :59.350 --> :03.080
elsewhere instead of catering to me and vacationing
in my house without his dogs. :03.080 --> :07.630
AITA?My fiance's best friend's birthday party
was yesterday, My fiance wanted me to go with :07.630 --> :13.170
him but I apologized and said I couldn't because,
I had to finish a work project in the evening :13.170 --> :14.680
and barely had time. :14.680 --> :19.830
He said it was unacceptable since the party
was held at a prestigious restaurant and all :19.830 --> :24.990
his friends were going to bring their partners,
He insisted I go with him but I told him if :24.990 --> :32.630
I don't complete this project soon I will
lose potential promotiom next month, and someone :32.630 --> :34.950
else will take my place. :34.950 --> :50.700
He just looked at me and said "I just hope it'll be worth it" then walked out.
:50.700 --> :56.960 I called him but he hung up, I got done with
my project and went to take a shower. :56.960 --> :06.520
I got out and found him in the livingroom
refusing to speak to me after I asked about :06.520 --> :07.520
the party. :07.520 --> :11.480
I went upstairs to finalize my project but
found out that my entire work laptop has been :11.480 --> :13.300
reset, Everything got wipped including my project. :13.300 --> :18.890
My heart sank I asked my fiance if he was
behind this and he just looked at me and said :18.890 --> :26.830
that now we are even after I refused to come
with him to the party and embarrassed him :26.830 --> :30.480
by forcing him to go alone and get weird looks and questions from everyone.
:30.480 --> :37.200 I started yelling at him and called him insecure
to care about his public image and looks and :37.200 --> :38.910
getting "even" just cause I had to work. :38.910 --> :45.400
He said I contributed to this outcome and
should've just gone with him, now I had to :45.400 --> :46.900
start all all over again. :46.900 --> :51.330
We started exchanging words and he told me
to stop saying he's insecure and petty. :51.330 --> :56.270
He checked into a hotel and has been staying
there constantly texting about how hurt he :56.270 --> :01.029
was that he had to hear me call him insecure
and refusing to have any consideration for :01.029 --> :02.029 him.
:02.029 --> :07.430 He said that I did make him look bad when
I refused to come with him and he was hurt :07.430 --> :08.430
by that. :08.430 --> :11.910
Our ongoing argument is that I keep saying
that just because we're a couple then I have :11.910 --> :13.520
to attend every event with him. :13.520 --> :16.310
While keeps saying that it's classless and
socially unacceptable when I let him attend :16.310 --> :18.140
alone unless I'm sick or traveling. :18.140 --> :19.860
Throwaway account for obvious reasons. :19.860 --> :25.160
Wife states I am the asshole because she had
no money to buy anything to eat because she :25.160 --> :26.800
was at her overdraft limit. :26.800 --> :31.620
She says that its wrong my account is in credit
( although she doesn’t know by how much) :31.620 --> :36.140
while she is struggling with bills and buying things my daughter needs.
:36.140 --> :39.279 We have been together 18 years and have a
13 year old daughter. :39.279 --> :42.340
Our finances have never been combined although she has always wanted this.
:42.340 --> :47.780 I accept she can only work part time because
she is caring for her terminally ill mother :47.780 --> :51.920
and because she does all the child care for
our daughter ( although I feel she could work :51.920 --> :00.540
full time and get child care ) and although
she pays a few of the major household major :00.540 --> :07.820
bills she says I am the asshole because its
me who buys the food and I didn’t check :07.820 --> :19.770
there was stuff there for them before I went to work.
:19.770 --> :55.070 I feel if she knew she needed stuff she should
have told me, but she says it’s humiliating :55.070 --> :05.370 and
calls me a “ slave owner who is deluded :05.370 --> :07.060
he is kind and benevolent”. :07.060 --> :27.460
I take her and my daughter out for dinner
once a week and they can choose anything they :27.460 --> :36.610
want but my wife throws this up in my face
saying she doesn’t have the freedom to take :36.610 --> :44.220
even herself out and is reliant on my “charity”. :44.220 --> :48.470
She now saying she wants to leave me because :48.470 --> :59.220
all her friends go trips with friends and/or
their partners but she doesn’t have the :59.220 --> :05.910
money to go anywhere and I don’t take her anywhere.
:05.910 --> :14.210 I go out every Saturday night and leave her
babysitting :14.210 --> :34.650
we have sex about three times a year for last
15/16 years and she would like it more but :34.650 --> :44.420
though it’s something we really enjoy when
I am in the mood I feel this is not the issue :44.420 --> :45.800
she makes it out to be. :45.800 --> :52.460
Her main point is that I am the asshole for
not giving her access to money without question :52.460 --> :05.240
when she needs it via a joint bank account
or combined incomes then half what is left :05.240 --> :06.460
after bills. :06.460 --> :19.760
She has no hobbies except saving animals , spending
time with her sister, cooking and doing crafts :19.760 --> :20.970
with our daughter. :20.970 --> :34.810
She doesn’t drink or smoke - I do both but
I work hard 5 days a week and I know the value :34.810 --> :38.670
of good quality things. :38.670 --> :44.500
I bought my daughter expensive new school
shoes last week when I was buying myself new :44.500 --> :52.230
shoes for myself and I bought my wife new
shoes for her work too ( she’s a nurse). :52.230 --> :58.010
But my wife says that because she buys all
our daughter’s christmas and birthday gifts :58.010 --> :08.430
then she feels entitled to these things from me as they are essentials.
:08.430 --> :15.290 She could work full time and afford anything
she wants and i guess there is resentment :15.290 --> :25.290
from me . She told me she would go back to
work full time when our daughter went to school :25.290 --> :36.000
but only went back full time when our daughter
was 11 and then only for a year because she :36.000 --> :43.459
is now back to part time because she is caring for her dying mum.
:43.459 --> :47.560 Am I the Asshole | give me a good story on rAmITheAholeMYCRAZYFIANCEDELETEDALLMYWORKRedditStoriesen |
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aita for saying no to my boyfriend's proposal because I didn't like the way
he chose to propose my boyfriend 26m and I 25f have been together for just under
3 years now and are expecting our first child in March we've been very open
talking about marriage and so the engagement itself was never going to be
a surprise but the proposal was he is clueless when it comes to rings and my
taste in jewelry so we decided to take a collaborative approach and we designed
my ring together in the process of all that I made it very clear what kind of
proposal I wanted I made it known explicitly to him that I wanted to get
engaged surrounded by all my closest friends and family and that having them
involved slash in on the surprise was very important to me after the ring was
ordered I was in the dark I had no idea when it was going to be ready and no
idea when he was going to propose to me so I just waited with excited
anticipation two nights ago we took our dogs on an evening walk at the beach
near our house that we frequent regularly we sat and admired the sunset
as our dogs played in the ocean in front of us after a little while he started
going on about how much he loved me and how grateful he was to have found me and
then he pulled out the ring box and asked me to marry him it was completely
unexpected and I was a bit shocked once I realized what was going on I kissed
him and told him how much he meant to me and how much I loved and cherished him
but that I couldn't say yes now because I really wanted my closest friends and
family to share the moment with me he got really upset and told me that he
wanted to do something more intimate and keep the moment between us and that he
wasn't comfortable doing it in front of everyone I've tried to reason with him
over the past couple days but he's been giving me the silent treatment for the
most part I get where he's coming from but at the same time I had to design my
own ring because he doesn't pay enough attention to the small things like the
jewelry I wear so I really wanted my proposal to be something that he put a
lot of thought in to make it special to me I've heard of countless instances
where a girl has turned down her partner's proposal because he did it
publicly and she wanted something private and everyone always seems to
sympathize with her and her preferences and say that he should have paid
attention to her preferences and requests the way I see at this is the
exact same situation but reversed so I don't see why what I did was so wrong AI | give me a good story on AITAforsayingnotomyboyfriendsproposalbecauseIdidntlikethewayhechosetopropose |
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my fiance tried to cut my implant out while I was asleep so we could expand
our family throwaway account because I don't want this attached to my regular
account anyways I 25f have a 2-year-old son from a previous relationship after I
gave birth I was asked about birth control I said yes please and now I have
next plenon a birth control that gets inserted into your upper arm I was told
it lasts 3 years cut to now my fiance 27m told me he wants a baby I said I did
too just not now and that I'd get my plaining out after the 3 years are up
and I won't replace it this wasn't soon enough for him he wanted me pregnant
now I stood firm and said I'm not ready to have another baby I want to be a
little more stabile MoneyWise and in general fiance was mad and we got into a
big argument I brought up my son and told him my son sees him as a father
figure that we already have a child to take care of while my birth control runs
its course all of a sudden he started shouting at me saying he wanted a baby
that's biologically his and that every time he looks at my son he gets angry I
asked him why and he told me it's because he sees my ex and my son my son
looks a lot like his father he then went on to tell me he doesn't feel like a
parental figure to my son he has no personal attachment to him he says it's
because my son isn't biologically his and he resents us for this hence the
baby talk he wanted my arm implant out immediately I said no way I'm not ready
for another baby yet we continue to argue about this until I'm finally tired
and frustrated so I say I'm done arguing and just head into our bedroom an
important fact to know is that I take medication to sleep a pretty strong
medication with a high dosage it knocks me flat on my ass the Sandman comes and
slaps me across the face so I'm down for the count after the argument I take my
pills and I go to bed my fiance was still in the living room when I fell
into a deep sleep now another important fact my
fiance knows where my implant is he's felt it under my skin as it's very
noticeable when you're feeling around for it I'm sleeping when I stir slightly
awake after I felt fingers on my upper arm pting with my eyes still shut I tell
my fiance to stop poking me I assumed he was just being petty and childish
because of the fight he doesn't stop and
not 5 seconds after poking me he presses down in the exact spot my next plane in
is at this point I'm starting to get more alert and annoyed I just wanted
sleep and I can't do that when I'm being jabbed I open my eyes to see what the
hell he's doing and ask why his finger is pressing directly on my next planin
the minute I opened my eyes I noticed an object in his free hand a box cutter
which was very close to my upper arm now
I'm on full alert and I ask him what the
[ __ ] he's doing he immediately looks
guilty and tries to throw excuses at me I was just trying to scare you I was
checking to make sure you were alive and it's a coincidence I'm holding the box
cutter I called [ __ ] on every excuse
and said I wanted the truth he looked down then told me he was doing me a
favor what favor glad you asked he was going to remove the next planon from my
arm he said he studied how to do it and he's confident he can safely remove it
he said we can start expanding our family now no need to wait 8 months I am
livid I am immediately shouted him to
get the [ __ ] away from me and don't
touch me he tries to talk to me but I keep yelling he needs to leave he can't
stay at our house right now because he admitted he was trying to cut into my
arm thus breaking my trust finally he walked out of the
bedroom and a minute later I heard the front door open then close it's been 3
hours and he still hasn't come back and I don't know what to do when he does I
don't know where we go from here I love this man dearly but I don't think I can
forgive and forget this I don't know what to do advice please edit I called
my mother and she said I can stay with her so I'm taking my son and leaving I
can't respond to every comment but just for a few quick questions he's never
acted like this before he's always been so gentle and kind to me and my son the
argument and then the box cutter is completely new during the fight I hoped
he was just in the Heat of the Moment
and saying [ __ ] he doesn't mean because
he's angry I was hoping naively that he'd be back to sweet kind the next
morning and apologize for the hurtful comments and trying to overstep my
boundaries I honestly didn't think he'd come at me with a box cutter a lot of
people saying I should already know what to do so I guess my IDK what to do
should really be phrased has anyone had anything remotely similar to this
happened to them I guess I might have also wanted reassurance that leaving is
the best thing to do instead of waiting for him to come home and trying to talk
it out I love this guy deeply and it's just hard for me to put both pieces of
the puzzle together the sweet guy I knew and the awful guy I saw tonight update
essentially my now ex fiance did a complete 180 personality wise was so
sweet and loving to to both me and my son until we fought about having another
baby last night he said horrible things and I was tired of fighting so I took my
Trazodone and went to bed woke up to him touching my arm implant birth control
with a box cutter in his hand said he was doing me a favor but I screamed at
him to leave I ended up leaving last night with my son to stay at my mom's I
was confused shocked hurt scared I still am at 7 this morning my phone started
buzzing like crazy texts calls voicemails all were from him asking me
where I went and when I was coming home I didn't respond I just don't even want
to look at him or talk to him again he called my mom while we were
both sitting in the kitchen discussing everything she asked me if I wanted her
to answer it I said I just didn't want to talk to him my mom ended up answering
and my ex was yelling sounding panicky he said I left with my son last night
out of the blue and he's worried No mention of our fight he asked when my
mom last heard from me and she lied and said last night he made a noise over the
phone like an angry sigh and said he was
going to keep searching for me that he's
worried something bad has or will happen to me my son when my mom hung up she
pulled me into a hug I guess I had started crying and didn't realize it she
was still hugging me when she asked how I wanted to proceed if I was done with
him for good I said I was and she nodded
and told me first thing was to go to the police like a lot of you said I didn't
have any proof about the box cutter situation it would come down to my word
versus his if he had even nicked me a little I'd have a case against him but
since he technically didn't hurt me the detective said he seen cases similar to
mine thrown out the officer did bring up X partes and suggested I get one for
both me and my son immediately and I went to the courthouse to get the
paperwork filled out I had to detail as much as I could remember from last night
every word and action my mom helped me and we got them turned in and moved on
to the next step calling my landlord I've been living in the same house for 2
years the first year was a lease and now
I pay month to Monon everything is in my
name and most of the furniture is mine I told my landlord what was briefly going
on and that I was putting in my 30-day notice my mom has a guest room that
she's insisting I stay in after getting off the phone with him I called the
utilities and closed my accounts water electric gas internet next my mother
asked me what I wanted to do about my belongings I told her I don't want to
leave anything that's mine all important papers knick-knacks cloes furniture all
of it I just didn't know where to put it so my mom suggested a storage unit once
that was decided we had to figure out when to start the
move mom ended up calling my two brothers and they both agreed to help me
move just give them a date and time I told them definitely sometime this week
and my eldest brother suggested a police presence just in case think it's called
a civil standby IDK but I agreed by this point it's getting late in the day and
I'm as drained as I can get I just wanted to go curl up with my son and try
to sort my thoughts out and calm down the county clerk ended up calling me
telling me the judge granted my ex pares she told me that I needed to come pick
up paperwork which had the court date on it she also mentioned ex fiance would
soon be served and told me I don't have to see him again until we go to court to
make the the ex partes into permanent restraining orders she suggested
lawyering up but I'm officially burnt out on today I'll look into lawyers
tomorrow but tonight after this update it's a cuddle in bed with my son night a
couple things that I've seen repeated why didn't I leave right when X started
saying those awful things about my son I honestly thought he didn't mean them
he's told my son he loves him before part of it was also shock I guess I
couldn't believe what I was hearing and that I was hearing it from someone who I
wanted to spend the rest of my life with I didn't think he truly had hatred in
his heart and it never crossed my mind that he would hurt me or my son he's
never even spanked my son I just thought we needed a cooling off period so I
removed myself from the situation to take my meds and sleep naively thinking
things would be better in the morning people also questioned why I would even
bother sticking around to try to talk things out and that's a valid question
that I don't have a rational answer to Part of Me thought I was dreaming I
think and the other part is the side of me that thinks everything equates to
being my fault like I was too mean during the fight too stubborn to see
things his way and try to understand his feelings
IDK it's late Everything feels surreal and I have this pit in my stomach that
feels like Dread what if x shows up at my mom's house I still haven't returned
his messages or phone calls and now he legally can't contact me anyways I've
had two of my best friends call saying X called them my younger brother who I
guess has always hated X but I didn't know that until today said even he got a
call so far everyone is saying they don't know anything but I'm scared IDK
I'm sorry just thought I'd update update to the update so many people offered
great advice that I'd never think of myself I've been kind of heavily relying
on my mom to guide me through this and keep me and my son afloat I've also been
given several things to read which I am absolutely going to when I have some
downtime I appreciate every comment from extremely helpful to well wishes and
even the ones questioning the validity of this to be honest and it's a horrible
cliche but if it wasn't happening to me I probably wouldn't jump to believing
either sometimes I let my emotions get the best of me and I end up sounding
either very in my typing or very unnecessarily dramatic so I get the
mistrust my update last night was written late I was exhausted but I
wanted to let the people from my original post know I took their advice
and got out of there my emotions have been so conflicting and chaotic I'm
surprised I was able to sound coherent let alone like a teenager writing fanfic
I wish this was a fanfic I could feel safe again my mom has been an absolute
Angel and I've shown her some of your comments complimenting her and she
definitely deserves it never once did she make me feel I could be completely
honest with her she's reopened her house to me even though I moved out years ago
she's really kept the ball rolling on everything with her organization skills
she made a list and yesterday we followed that list to the letter when I
wanted to put stuff off she gently remind me of what could happen if I
paused X could find me hurt me hurt my son or anyone helping to protect me you
all are very right and I'm ashamed to say I didn't realize just how much
support I have and what a tremendous family I have a couple people mentioned
to be careful if x finds out where I am and my mom and brothers already had a
plan for me they called it round robing if x found me at moms I'd flee to eldest
brother if he finds me at eldest brother I'd temporarily stay with my younger
brother really I appreciate you all commenting that I'm doing things right
and quick and how impressive it is but that's not my doing at all that's all on
my family they're the extraordinary ones
there goes my fanfit cliches again going above and beyond for me and my son some
of the comments that questioned my validity remarked that it was odd that I
immediately went to Reddit to see what to do how to feel you're all right that
it unusual but not for me I grew up when live Journal was a big thing writing
helps me organize my thoughts and I figured this community would help me
understand and I was right another thing I want to address is
X's Sudden Change I'm now wondering what to do for that I don't want him in my
life still but some of you mentioned a brain tumor or a psychotic break so I'm
worried I sent X's Mother and Father a message this morning saying I broke off
the engagement and left but both messages are still unread I don't know
what to say to them in regards to X's health will they be mad for daring to
say this might be a breakdown will they actually take him to get tests ran and
if they even tried would he willingly go I don't know I guess I need a little
more advice about how to Broach that there's more to address and I even had a
consultation with a lawyer today but I can go into that another time I'm still
processing everything it still doesn't feel real it feels like a badly written
teenage fanfic to be honest IDK sorry for rambling again guys
I just wanted to let you know I'm taking
notes from your helpful suggestions that
I'm not ignoring you guys my mother took my son for ice cream and let me stay
behind which is why I decided to hop on Reddit and check on everything one last
thing though the awards I'm truly humbled and grateful for them some of
them I had to click on to see what it meant and they're all so sweet I'm
endlessly thankful for the awards your comments and your messages thank you
jdor when my ex was served his papers he did not take it well I had already
blocked him on everything but he took a picture of his paper and posted it on
Facebook with a message to me and my son a mutually friend saw it and that it
contained my personal information and screenshot it to let me know after
taking advice I called the police to see if it was a break in the X parte they
made an incident report and told me I could pick it up the next day at the
police station they didn't arrest him my mother had already procured me a great
lawyer a shark which is what we need in her own words I told my lawyer about the
screenshot and he immediately put in both his appearance on my behalf and a
motion for contempt of court for breaking the ex parte and threatening me
and son our original official court date isn't until next week but the judge got
us in early to deal with a screenshot X showed up without a lawyer and I showed
up with only my lawyer due to co no extra people allowed in the courtroom I
really wanted my mom there with me but my lawyer instead of sitting on the
bench at the sides reserved for lawyers Sat by me kept himself between me and my
ex at all times a BFF was there as well I guess it's standard procedure to have
one in court my lawyer advised me to let him do all the talking only answer
questions when directed at me and answer them as succinctly as possible
judge ended up giving x a warning saying if he even mentions me or my son he'd
put him in jail 24 hours for every incident until the official court date X
was also ordered to pay my legal fees for the Emergency session Friday we got
mine and my son's possessions out of the
house with massive help from friends and family I knew X had to work Friday and
we arrived with a police officer just in
case an hour after X should have been at work we left anything that he could
claim as his or that we'd bought together and I didn't care about most of
the items went into two different storage units from the same place the
reason we chose these storage units is they're gated and locked at night the
items me or my son would need for everyday use went to my mom's X's
parents have opened my messages now but they still haven't responded lawyer said
we're still on for official court date next week and nobody has entered their
appearance yet on behalf of X so we're unsure if he has a lawyer or not lawyer
told me it would follow basically the same as the first hearing it' be a
general hearing with other people having filed their own ex partes for other
people no extras allowed in the room face masks required he'd keep X away
from me no talking unless answering questions give succinct answers unless
asked to clarify he's confident that the ex pares will become permanent
restraining orders but he warned me it's
not like it is in movies the restraining
orders will go for one year unless a box is marked saying to reissue it every
year I marked the box he also said for every year X has the ability to appeal
it and we'd have to go to court all over
again for now I'm just trying to keep my head above water I'm kind of afraid
because I've had people message me to tell me they've seen my post on Facebook
Twitter Instagram some of you sleuths have even found the state I live in I'm
just hoping X doesn't find any of the posts and puts two and two together I'm
sorry I haven't responded to every comment or message and that this update
is late I've just been trying to keep my son's life as normal as possible it
breaks my heart when he asks when we're going home or where Papa is he just
knows we're having a long sleepover with his Mimi he's loving having pets around
though we weren't allowed to have animals at my house so the fact that my
mom has a dog and a couple cats he's excited I've warned his daycare about ex
most of my family and friends are aware there's a serious situation but not
details IDK it's been a long week I'm exhausted I keep looking over my
shoulder and I've made my mom buy extra locks for the doors some have mentioned
cameras for the outside and my mom has already started pricing some she said
her sister my Aunt has been trying to get her to try ring for months so this
is the kick in the pants she needed I'm sorry the update is late still feels
surreal but I have to just keep swimming my son is obsessed with Finding Nemo | give me a good story on orig |
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welcome friends to another r slash malicious compliance video if you want
to help out all you got to do is hit those like and subscribe buttons down
below that said our first story of the day is by gabba gabbare we can't take
any action right now this is a doozy thought about it a lot
to make sure i remember all the good details i worked at the small shoe store
in almost every mall about 12 years ago i was about 20 at the time it's kind of
an alternative scene store like zoomies but very small starts with a j and
rhymes with bernie's friend got me an assistant manager job to replace him
when he quit to be a plumber the manager was kind of a friend too adam this was
real low level low paid retail just to get a sense of scope we two managers
worked about 60 hours a week we made commission but the store location my
hometown had so little traffic that our checks had to be manually adjusted every
week up to minimum wage each door had three to four part timers too usually
high school kids so it was good news after a year or so we both got a
promotion to move to a different store at a different mall much nicer in 30
minutes away much more sales means my weekly pay went up to a couple dollars
more an hour so problems started after about six months at our new store our
district manager andy hired a dude in his 30s as manager and some other
20-something girl one of my friends mike worked there part-time as well he was
also an apprentice tool maker in high school so he didn't need the money just
came in one day a week to receive in stock shoes and grab some pizza
apparently the dude was hardcore sexual harassing the other manager and
part-timers yes the 16-year-old girls so
the assistant ended up quitting and they fired the dude i think one of the
part-timers recorded him doing something on their phone if i recall correctly
that's some foreshadowing andy's bad at external hires so we hired a new manager
jeff but asked if i could go back to the
crappy store for a while to help the new guy settle in i said sure he also had a
third manager he hired who he wanted adam to train for a few months so she
could go to another store as well sounds good i'm a team player well turns out
this new guy jeff who adam actually somewhat knew in the tattooed hardcore
guy scene was kind of a freak up himself i felt bad at first he was kind of
scatterbrained customers didn't like him he was always dirty and kind of smelled
bad with the first two weeks he came in smiling carrying a microwave for the
back room look we can have hot lunches now plopped it on our glass case where
we checked customers out and a crapload of live roaches fell out all over the
place there was roaches in the store from there on out i would see them every
morning when i flipped the lights on great now i don't want to bring my own
food here then bad stuff starts happening he would start coming in a
couple hours late when i opened the store not a huge deal just annoying as
freak i generally wouldn't get to eat breakfast so lunch would get pushed back
a couple hours so i could leave the store yes you couldn't shut the gate and
go to the food court the mall would call our dm andy and tell them we closed
outside of ours do it occasionally or even open late after 10 am and they can
find our store which means we'd get ridden up for sure he would even call
out sometimes which means i would work two or three doubles in a week this is
supposed to only happen once managers get one day off during the week so the
other person has to work 9 to 9 30. part-timers didn't come in until five
usually so you're crap out of luck it's very irritating to have it sprung on you
several times remember we're also salary so no overtime i would also be on the
receiving end of unhappy emails from corporate when jeff would open he would
come in late and occasionally forget to deposit the cash sales for the day in
the sealed envelope to the bank that's in the same mall as us they would
turn up at the bank a few days late apparently in cut open bags this is
where i made my first call to andy told him the whole thing basically told to
sit tight he'll keep an eye on things kkk well things got worse he would
sometimes bail in the middle of the day for a few hours on end my buddy mike
told me he found his dope head stash in the back room little baggie with ties
and needles in it and products started to go missing every tuesday am we'd have
to come in 30 minutes earlier and do a little mini audit basically a dozen or
so different shoes of specific skew numbers and enter in the pos are on hand
quantity i noticed some of the more expensive shoes we sold were missing
when i know they weren't sold diesels pumas timberlands nikes turns out when
my buddy mike would do the inventory on the weeknight things got delivered jeff
would just check off the totals received for him of course a handful of things
were missing each week almost never were things actually missing from boxes when
i did it sc's were pretty good about sending inventory i knew this was going
to be bad news i knew that many audits were used to pick up on internal theft
we also had a yearly audit that was coming in six or so months basically you
count every item in the store to account for missing and stolen stuff one point
five percent product loss is considered very bad and could result in us getting
written up remember that point for later called andy a second time and got the
same response okay been telling adam the whole time as well
i know you'll stick up for me if anything goes down but say to just keep
tracking everything so in true drug addict fashion kept calling out kept
taking things kept losing cash deposits what really set me off was i found out
he was blaming some of the crap on me to
our fellow mall people mutual friends at other stores seeing cash deposits
sometimes go missing when i work uh bro no they don't this is a dog poop job but
i'm not getting fired for 300 he was also selling adderall to people
out of the store and bribing my friend with it to come in early during the week
so he can leave them all for a couple hours this really pissed me off because
at 20 years old i had this dumb idea i wanted to possibly join the military and
go into law enforcement never been fired and arrested or any of the stuff before
still haven't so i wanted no part of being around this dude a weekend came up
too where he made a really lewd comments
about some girls walking around in booty shorts that had to have been under 16.
okay screw this dude called andy again and this time i was serious told them
about the whole drug issue in the store too basically said this guy is making me
look bad too come and drug test him do something i'll call the cops for you if
you want i don't know why he wasn't doing anything and he came in once and
wrote me up for playing my ipod over the
speakers for breaking company policy why are you letting this happen in a
nutshell he said he couldn't do anything for now until adam is done training his
new assistant so she could go run her new store i'd be able to work with adam
again in the good mall kk malicious compliance time called adam the next day
and told him what andy said asked if she's good enough to cut a loose so i
can get the freak out he said no problem at all the next week i was out making a
couple dollars more and in a better mall with a taco bell even my run with jeff
was only about three months things went super downhill from there they got a new
assistant in jeff's store to train under him yikes but all the part-timers were
still there they kept texting me all the cool stories well apparently he ramped
up stealing cash and stealing shoes eventually those mini audits caught up
to him one night he left the store an hour before closing leaving a part-timer
alone against policy closing time came and went she thought it was funny but
had no idea what to do she didn't have keys or know how to close the store at
all security got involved called andy and eventually jeff got back to the
store an hour plus late and he was told by the hq to write him up the next day
but also bring another area lead in our district to audit the store ahead of
schedule and inquire about all the missing cash deposits and you didn't
realize the scope of the stolen cash apparently several thousands never made
it back to the bank at that point andy jeff and another manager or something
audited the store while it was open i think word was a product variance of
around 10 percent missing product not including all the cash big freaking
yikes don't know exactly what happened but the police were involved they fired
everybody cleaned house even the new assistant in every part timer i think
they had to my buddy mike thought it was hilarious well can't say i didn't warn
you three times i saw him on facebook recently allegedly clean now i don't
care though screw that guy if you found yourself in a situation like that would
you be trying to document whatever you possibly could whether it's photos audio
recording emails just trying to cover your butt let me know in the comments
down below our next story is by stefus fax me and don't contact me again a few
years back 2017 i got my first job wasn't much but it was decent hours and
money summer came and i had an offer for
a seasonal made to october part-time job
i accepted it because it would be a good way to make some extra money to buy a
motorcycle my main job was going good but the problem was the seasonal one i'm
the kind of guy that if you're treating me good i'll go the extra kilometer mile
but if you're a jerk i'll treat you accordingly the part-time job was for a
family who had one rental cars two travel agency mostly with polish and
some czech and latvians three bus tours i was helping with the bus tours at the
office in the city center while the dad was located at the north of the island
work routine in my job without going to too many details this is how they worked
one reps were meeting customers at the hotel to sell them tours and submit
every booking in our system two we keep everything on track until the last
booking is submitted and then make lists based on the location north or south of
the hotel with the number of customers from each hotel 3. send them to the boss
dad via fax yes fax 4. call the boss later to give us back driver and pick up
times for each hotel 5. we send the lists with pickup times and drivers to
the tour guides my job was to confirm with the reps that i had everything make
the lists for the boss send them via fax
and then call him again so he'll tell me which drivers will work and pick up
times so i can then forward to the tour guides with new lists and customer names
the problem the problem starts with the reps reps were complaining that they
didn't have enough time to submit the bookings after every meeting so they
were calling at the office after each meeting to give us the information we
needed before submitting them at the end
of their day of course every single time they were submitting more bookings than
the one they told us on the phone but that's not relevant malicious compliance
it's august if i recall correctly sunday around 1800 when the jerk boss calls me
and yells that he needs the lists etc i reply calmly that i had to do everything
by hand call every single rep and write down all the bookings because refs
didn't submit anything in this system and that i'll call him back in 10
minutes with the lists he replied send me a fax and don't contact me again so i
did 1820 i sent him the lists usually i called him so i can continue my job but
he told me not to contact him again that day at 20 30 i didn't have any news but
it was half an hour before my shift so what i did i made some lists based on my
experience and i send them to the guides
without pick up times and drivers 2100 i turn off everything lock the door and
head off to my home the next morning around 6 am was chaos everyone was
calling to find information that was missing
i guess he was contacted more than once that morning customers were complaining
for delays etc with some of them asking for a refund or discount with extra
complaints to their travel agency back in their country when i came in for my
shift the next day his daughter asked me what happened and i replied with a
relaxed tone your dad told me not to contact him again and continued my job
from that day on he made sure i had everything i need on time i mean in
general i don't blame lp for what they did just because like if somebody's
gonna act like that and be a total jerk you don't want to make it easy for them
anyways so it's especially easy when they lob up a nice little softball for
you to make things really really hard on them and our final story of the day is
by bittybody22 that's what you want okay i've recently
started working the sandwich line at the cafe i work at and my co-workers been
deemed a runt by basically everyone but i gave her the benefit of the doubt
until the other day it's a small area so if you need something from the inside
cheese lettuce spices bacon etc and you're on the outside you have to ask i
asked for it to go mug and got a i mean you can get it yourself comment the rest
of the shift i walked behind her reached
over her etc for anything i needed drove
her nuts and she finally started handing me things she's also a ticket hog and
would take three at a time only leaving me with one and then having nothing to
do so i walked off to get some water and got hit with a you can do something
while you wait comment so i said i'd prepare her plates so she could put the
sandwich down when she was done was told quickly that that was a big no-no for
her so when she hogged the next three tickets i walked off mounting my own
business and heard i mean you can take the grilled cheese out of the oven so i
did but did i played it nah she got upset but i told her since she didn't
want me making her plates i didn't want to upset her pretty sure she hates me
now but i smile every time i get on her nerves or use her own logic against her
yeah i mean when you hear of a co-worker
like this that just totally tanks and is a hypocrite and is just frustrating to
work with there's definitely a good solid word that comes to most people's
minds but i'll leave that up to you guys
with that being said that's all the time we have for today so of all three of
these stories that i've read for you today which one was your personal
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is my ghosted ex-wife possibly tracking me down I headed to the hills after
learning of my wife's affair I don't exactly know why I'm writing this but
now that the events are over and done and I've moved on maybe it will help
someone in February 2018 I discovered my wife's Affair after we had been married
for three and a half years I had a contract job that involved a lot of
travel at times but also allowed me to work from home when I was back my wife
had a very well-paying job as a director of a technical sales firm we had what I
would describe as a really good marriage although things had gotten a bit
strained from my being away on work trips and are working longer and longer
hours backstory I met my wife now x five years ago at a mutual friend's barbecue
we struck up a conversation and had an instant chemistry and quite honestly I
thought I was beating the odds being with such a beautiful and well-spoken
woman somehow she really liked me for my rough around the edges Persona once we
dating after a few weeks we couldn't get enough of each other and the clothes
just flew off when we would meet at each other's Apartments we finally tied the
knot after dating for 18 months and moved into a big apartment while saving
for a house after the first three years of marriage things started changing I
still was crazy about her but I noticed she would start arguments about little
things and she would get angry when I would bring up all the late hours and
the work outings that have been more and
more frequent she would say it's part of paying the due since she had been
climbing the corporate ladder or at least that was her excuse she told me I
had no right to question her since I was gone for weeks at a time myself I had
told her I could certainly manage reducing my travel hours and it actually
only been going on trips maybe three four days every five weeks or so these
arguments were very circular and never had a resolution as I look back I had no
idea my wife was in the midst of an affair I would have never suspected a
thing except for her continued late work hours and our dwindling sex life I just
attributed this to her being tired from work however my ego had taken a beating
from being turned down frequently when trying to initiate sex I didn't see the
secret of texting that I read about but then again she had a company cell phone
and she could have been using it since she spent a lot of time in our spare
bedroom that she would use as a home office it was around September of 2017
when Kathy started coming home after work and then head off to a work
engagement for the evening this went from one evening a week to more than
three evenings a week I'm not that jealous by nature but there is no way
she would go unnoticed and I know she would have to fend off some of the men
at her office she only seem to be interested in work but she was working
with more male Executives than female my
first suspicion of her cheating occurred
a month before D-Day she had stopped off at the store before coming home she
asked me to help with the groceries while I was grabbing a couple bags from
the back seat of her car I noticed something pink glinting from just
underneath the front passenger seat it was one of my wife's bras I recognize it
as hers since she liked the ones from a particular apparel store in retrospect I
now realized the reason for the red flag
with a bra when she gets in the mood she always takes off her bra first from
underneath her clothes I don't know exactly why but I instantly just had a
sinking feeling in my gut when I saw this I could not rationalize what her
bra was doing under the seat I just left it there under the seat it almost made
me sick and my heart must have been racing like crazy because when I
returned to the kitchen with the bags Kathy asked if I was okay and that I
looked like I'd seen a ghost I just brushed her comment off I tried my best
not to look angry or betrayed but it took all I had to hide my feelings that
evening and the next I decided to see if I could find out if she was involved
with someone or not I started thinking about all the clues I was missing I had
no proof except for the bra instead we live in a fairly large city and her work
is in a downtown office building I kind of took my focus off of the affair idea
for a bit and decided maybe I should give her more attention one Friday after
work I made a nice dinner set up the dining table with nice plates silverware
and candles I bought a nice bottle of wine and a bouquet of roses she came
breezing in after work as usual I pointed out the dinner and everything I
had prepared she gave me a sad smile and told me she was sorry but she had plans
to meet up with her co-workers tonight at a local hangout she said she could
grab a quick bite with me before she left but had to jump in the shower first
I think my insides flipped on me and I became completely speechless I won't
tell you what kind of Rage I was feeling at that point but I had finally had
enough while she was in the shower I grabbed my company cell phone and
planted it in her back seat I had been thinking of this lately as a way I could
track her location with my personal phone I went in and dumped the meal in
the trash along with the flowers she came back after her shower dressed up
and looking great as usual she said okay let's eat I told her never mind go out
with your friends she looked at me strangely and asked if I was mad I said
him disappointed by you never wanting to do anything together she she became
angry and told me to quit acting like a child and it's something snarky about
having a short fuse I stood there letting all this sink in and said
foolish me I thought you'd like to spend the evening together for once she just
smirked at me and left in a huff I took out my other phone and started tracking
my work phone I saw her stop about 20 minutes away at the bar that she
frequents with her work buddies I decided to head out and locate her car
sure enough there it was in the parking lot of the bar I sat across the street
in my car waiting to see if I could see her I felt so unlike myself like a
stalker but I rationalized I needed to at least satisfy my anxiety about her
whereabouts about an hour after I arrive I see her coming out of the bar with a
man he looks like one of the exacts I've seen from her work he grabs her and
pulls her clothes and kisses her my stomach went into knots my body went
completely numb they head over to another car and get in together I do my
best to follow them as the car pulls out they travel about 10 minutes away too
you guessed it a hotel I pull over on the street next to the hotel I watch as
they get out and head hand in hand into the hotel I've seen enough I'm an idiot
I start banging my fist on the steering wheel that's it some something inside me
went completely blank and I'm not sure if I blacked out or had an out of body
experience when I recovered myself I decided I needed a drink now this is
when my life took a new direction that I would have never guessed I just started
driving out of town just reliving everything I had just witnessed and I
hate to say crying with rage I headed towards the outskirts of town about 30
miles I find a nice little bar and pull in I find a seat at the bar and order a
drink I must have looked like death warmed over because the bartender female
mentioned that I looked like someone took the wind out of my sails I have
smiled and said you could say that a guy
takes a stool next to me and starts up a conversation I'm not in much of a mood
to talk but something about this guy just made me feel comfortable we start
talking and after a while the subject of my wife cheating just tumbles out of my
mind how I just want to leave her and forget her he looks at me and slaps me
on the back he says buddy You Are Not Alone there happened to me a few years
ago I believe that sometimes these things happen for a reason and let me
tell you your life can now change either for the better or the worse it's
entirely up to you at this point something about him saying this really
shook me out of my glum mood I mean I know I'm hurting but I've always been
able to see things logically and he is so right now we introduce each other his
name is Rey he is kind of a country guy but is just the sort of salt of the
earth type that I really respect he asks
me when I'm going to move out I guess it never occurred to me to even think that
far ahead I know I don't want to be around this woman anymore and I do have
this fight or flight feeling coursing through me Rey says I feel very
sympathetic to your situation and have an idea if it comes to it and you feel
like you need to leave at some point I've got a travel trailer sitting on my
property it's not great and it could use a bit of fixing up why don't you come
out and check it out and see if you could see yourself living in something
like that temporarily at least I'll make you a great deal on it I even have a
nice piece of property that you could park it on you would be doing me a favor
to keep an eye on it for me it might do some good to get away from your
situation just a thought it took me a minute to register his idea the
bartender had been overhearing the conversation and smiles hell honey she
says if I could have escaped my crazy ex-husband years ago I would have jumped
at the chance to go live in his trailer or anything to just get my head on
straight I feel like I have stumbled into the Twilight light zone but maybe
this is exactly what I need I tell Ray yes I'll think about it and maybe check
it out we part ways after a bit and make plans to meet out at his place in a few
days I started to feel like I have a little bit of perspective and a chance
for getting out of what I believe is a nightmare mixed in with a heavy
heartache one thing is for certain there
is no way I'll ever ever want to be with my wife again cheating is such a vile
thing to me and has always been the one thing that I believe I would never
tolerate I got home after Kathy that night and sat on the couch Kathy came
out and asked me where I'd been I turned to her and asked her where she had been
she says you know I went to grab drinks I asked her point blank are you having
an affair she looks a little startled but regains her composure and says no
why would you ask me that I tell her I heard she may be involved with someone
from work she asks who told you that I tell her someone that I know but would
not divulge the name she just tells me you are being ridiculous and that I'm
drunk and delusional and asks me where I have been I tell her out to a bar to
have some drinks with friends she just stares at me wanting to ask me more but
just heads back to our bedroom and goes back to bed I decided to sleep on the
couch since I now have confirmation that she has been lying for months to me I
didn't sleep at all and start picturing her with this guy in bed and I'm
disgusted and hurt and feeling sorry for myself however I start thinking about
race trailer it is almost a revelation and the idea of it just made me feel
better I must have something wrong with me but with the pain I was in the fight
or flight mode just instinctively kicked in and the flight part won me over the
next morning we don't speak much and go about the weekend as if nothing had
happened a few days later I made plans to meet up with Rey I met up at Ray's
Place he owns a nice Ranch and the trailer is actually really nice about 26
and as all the Necessities one needs to live in it I had traveled with some
friends and one back in college during a spring break and really enjoyed it I
make Ray an offer on it and he agrees to the price I practically steal it from
him he gives me directions to his Ranch property and I drive over to check it
out it is beautiful full of trees scrub brush and it looks like there are nearby
hiking and biking trails bordering it it's near the foothills of some
mountains and Rey has a small Shack on a
hill overlooking the property with water and electricity for the trailer
available Rey will pull the travel trailer to the side and set it up for me
I tried to get Kathy to come clean during the the next few weeks and all I
get is gaslighting I even Point Blank tell her that if I find out she is
cheating there is no going back this has the opposite effect of driving her
deeper into her Affair fog and blistering me in denials the denial is
so bad it almost made me laugh I have no physical proof of her cheating and kick
myself for not at least taking some photos of the two of them as I go
through this metal Agony I come to the conclusion that I went out of this
marriage rather than let Kathy know how I feel about things now I just start
making plans I started stealthily taking
my belongings out of the apartment while she was at work and moving them over to
the trailer this at least makes me feel like I'm taking action I did notice a
change in Kathy during this time and has been acting nicely around me but in my
mind too little too late as she continued her little company outings
after work I decided I too needed a break in fact as she was heading out for
the evening I also got dressed around the same time she looked at me and asked
where I was going I just said I was meeting up with some friends she started
to ask and I just told her she didn't know them and she wouldn't enjoy all the
shop talk this is exactly what she would
tell me when I would ask if I could join her at one of her office outings she
kind of had a hurt look on her face face and says okay have a nice time I said I
definitely would between working on the trailer and meeting up with Ray at the
bar I have started to make more friends in fact it has led to some fun times
with a great group of Rey's friends and family and in case anyone asks I decided
I would moderate my drinking so I don't develop any bad habits it would be so
easy to drown myself in pity about this time frame Kathy tells me she has to go
on a trip for work the following week I ask her who is all going and she tells
me the executive team in some department heads I just look at her and tell her I
hope she has a really great time with her boyfriend I kind of wish I hadn't
said that it started a lot of arguing back and forth in a lot of ways I wish I
knew more about her AP but as Ray put it to me in the long run it doesn't matter
who the other guy is it only matters that she decided to step out on you she
burned down the marriage she can own it or deny it but facts are facts brother
damn Ray should write this stuff down and publish it for the Betrayed her work
trip provided me with the opportunity to
move the rest of my stuff out completely so after Kathy left for a trip I
gathered everything I had left of any value and put it in my vehicle I'm not
taking any furniture or the LIE like so it's just close and we're computers and
Equipment before I left I had written a note that I was going to leave for her
but after rereading it I decided I would
just make it simple I grabbed a piece of
paper and wrote I hope it was worth it I placed my wedding ring on top of the
note sitting on the kitchen table I felt
a huge weight come off of me I felt free no more hiding the truth I know I will
have some baggage to deal with and some hurt to get over but I have time to heal
now I just need some space I need to get her out of my life as quietly and
quickly as possible I'm not proud that I never confronted her more pulled a
confession out of her I never got to yell and scream and curse her after
confessing I had come to the conclusion in my mind that she didn't deserve me
she disrespected everything we had our future plans are history we were saving
for a house and a future family all of that is gone now no going back I don't
owe her a damn thing she can deal with a Fallout aftermath I didn't have an
agenda at all I didn't contact a lawyer or anything I just wanted to get some
clarity I really enjoyed my new trailer and the mountainous air was exactly what
I needed in the following week I took up running again and it felt great to be
alive I never answered any of Kathy's texts while she was away there wasn't
much to respond to they were just highlights like we just landed we are
having a team dinner Etc she did send a few wear or use and let me hear from you
Etc the day she returned home my phone blew up she texted me incessantly and
tried calling me constantly after the first day her mother tried calling me
there's only my dad left on my family side and we aren't close so she didn't
try to get him involved after the first few crying messages I never bothered to
listen to the rest of her voicemails her text consisted of what is this we need
to talk I don't know what you think you know but there is nothing going on I'm
not involved with anyone I'm not having an affair after a week of not responding
she finally leaves me a text saying I'm sorry things got out of hand I was
involved with someone at work but it meant nothing I got caught up in my work
and you were gone a lot and I just made a mistake I was going to end it haha
mistake this was the confession I had been seeking all along for some reason
it just made me dislike her even more why couldn't she be honest this wasn't
the woman I had dreamed of building a future together and mistakes don't last
for what six eight months or a year at one point are pleading for me to come
back and work on the marriage became pathetic she quit bothering me for a
couple weeks I still refused to answer her I did not want her to pry anything
out of me where I was living I did not want this woman ruining my Sanctuary
then one day she started sending me angry texts like you were a coward you
won't talk to me you don't care about us please come home so we can talk where
are you I can come to you damn it Paul please let's talk and fix things I don't
remember all the messages but they all seem to be excuses and very little in
the way of apologies I let it all go in one ear and out the other I finally
changed my cell phone number update June 2018. Kathy sent me an email telling me
she had retained a lawyer and was filing
for divorce I sent her a reply that said okay sounds good this resulted in a
flurry of emails demanding I come see her and so forth she realized this
wouldn't get her anywhere and after a while she just wrote that if I agreed to
an uncontested divorce she wouldn't bother me anymore I agreed and several
months later finally I was truly a free man I never had to see her after I left
our apartment no closure for either of us but it seemed like that was more
important to her than to me for a few months I did think of her sometimes and
yes the pain would appear out of nowhere
like if I heard a song come on the radio that we used to listen to
Etc but eventually I just stopped thinking about her update too well I am
officially divorced things are really good now as a matter of fact I met a
great girl I was out on a run on the trail just down the hill from where I
live I helped her change a flat tire and we really hit it off she is amazing and
cute as hell though a few years younger than me she loves my lifestyle and calls
me her mountain man I'm in no hurry to get serious but I'm not about to give up
on women completely I'm still up here in the trailer I have no plans to change
anytime soon and I've simplified my life quite a bit I love the outdoors it
helped me get over my ex-wife the heartache everything I know everyone
handles these things differently I was lucky to not have children yet and was
only into my third year of marriage so I think I did what was right for me you
don't have to live your life with a cheater if something like this happens
to you please just don't dwell on it just move on with your life it gets
better after you work on yourself I wish everyone the best life they can have
just wanted to update on the situation I
found myself in with my ex-wife and have Rewritten this about five times to make
it legible as mentioned in my previous post I was concerned that my ex-wife was
trying to track me down in an attempt to reconcile or something I had moved some
two hours from where we used to live I saw her last weekend in a coffee shop I
go to frequently in the town that is near to where I live I was suspicious
that it was not a coincidence that she was there luckily I was able to leave
before she saw me update I came back into town this past weekend to grab a
few groceries and went to grab a coffee in the place I usually go to as well as
work on some documents I needed to fill out for work using their free internet
after finishing up I left the coffee shop while I'm walking towards my truck
I hear someone yell Paul I look across
the street and oh [ __ ] there's Kathy my
ex waving at me Armageddon had finally happened I stood there in shock she runs
across the street and approaches me and reaches out to me expecting a hug and I
instinctively hold my arms out with Palms out and she stops she looks at me
really hurt she then says Paul I've been looking for you I heard you moved out
here and wanted to see you can we talk I
feel like a trapped animal guys I really did so I relented and said okay let's
find a table or something and we can talk for a minute she asks if we can go
to my place and I just flat out said no she follows me down to a bench outside a
little shop at the end of the block she starts by saying how much I've changed
and how she loves my new look my beard blah blah she liked how my physique had
changed how I looked so fit she puts on a good act and guys she looked hot she
had on these little white shorts and a tank top and her hair in a ponytail like
I used to like my radar was on high alert and I could tell she was really
turning on the sex appeal I had to really Rain myself in here and see where
this was going she starts out by apologizing about the whole Affair thing
she says karma really hit her heart after I left her company learned of her
Affair and basically made things so unpleasant that she quit her AP who had
a fiance at the time got a reprimand and
was moved to another position within the company he blamed her for us having to
move and she retaliated by telling his fiancee everything which resulted in
them breaking up she lowered her head a little and started crying I just sat
there looking around not having anything
to say she straightened up and stared at
me for a bit I asked her what she wanted for me she wanted to tell me that she
never intended to start an affair that she felt like she was drawn in by all
the politics and positioning in the company and thought the AP really
manipulated her with his Charisma and power within the company and that she
stupidly thought she was using him as much as he was using her she was going
to come clean with me especially after I accused her of having an affair she
hated herself during that time and the after work drinking was her attempt to
medicate from the guilt that right after I left her she felt so foolish so alone
like her heart just imploded with loss she immediately broke things off with
her AP she felt that since I wouldn't contact her or talk to her that she had
to find me and see if she could make things right for us and if we could
start over again she knows we are divorced but maybe we could have a clean
slate I just stared at her I let her have it I'm paraphrasing the
conversation but here it is how dare you think you can just come out here and
think you can just wipe away all the [ __ ] you caused I'm to forgive
everything you did to ruin our marriage I told you before if you cheated on me
we were through there is no forgiveness there is no reboot of this relationship
you killed it you destroyed what we had the minute you stepped out on me how
stupid do you think I am I followed you one night and saw you go into a hotel
together do you know that I then realized that I've been raising my voice
and people were starting to notice she started to sob she grabbed my arm I Let
Her Cry on My Shoulder a little before nudging her away she looked up at me I
deserve all this I know I do can you at least let me take you to dinner or
something I don't want to leave I want to talk more I want to make sure we have
everything out in the open I need time with you that you didn't give me before
please Paul I know you may not want to hear this but I love you so much I
didn't know how much I loved you until you left me and broke me and I broke you
just as bad I can't forgive myself I don't want to forgive myself until the
day I die she started hyperventilating and sobbing so bad that I pulled her up
and hugged her I know I know I felt like that was the only thing I could do to
maybe calm her down at that moment I realized I did actually break her heart
like she broke mine I started walking with her and then found a nice quiet
path to walk on and things settled down a bit I then asked her how she found me
and did she hire a pie or something she laughed a little and said no she thought
about it though she ran into Stacy a couple weeks ago and she asked her how
things were going Stacy let it slip that she saw me Kathy made her spill every
single detail Stacey didn't want to tell her because I told her not to but she
wouldn't let her go until she did but all she really knew was that she saw me
here in town and that I lived somewhere in the vicinity so she started coming
here on her days off to see if she could
find me she really blushed when she said
that I kind of chuckled that damn Stacey
can't keep her trap shut so we did go to
dinner we found a nice little place with a patio I made sure we didn't drink
anything I didn't want any excuse for her to soften me up her claim she was
too drunk to drive back we actually had a good talk afterwards I walked her to
her car she wanted to stay and press me hard on it and wouldn't relent she
hadn't been with anybody else since I left and swore up and down I was the
only the one she wanted I told her no it's still way too soon for me to go
down that road she begged to see me again but I was not committal I gave her
my new email address but that was it she
wanted my phone number but I told her no you'll just blow it up with texts and
calls she cried about that one she said she would be back in town next weekend
if I was interested I didn't say anything to that she said she will email
me and tell me all the details of when slash where before she left I asked her
Point Blank if she would forgive me if I had done the cheating she sat there
thinking and she said yes she would in time but only if we saw a marriage
counselor or if we could work through the healing process with lots of talking
and maybe even a binding agreement I said okay maybe I could do that five ten
years from now she said if that's what it would take she would wait she then
took my hands in hers looked me in the eye and said something that really
surprised me she said God damn it Paul I will always love you and will do
anything to prove it I bet she left I'm still so shook by that she said it with
such conviction I still can't see myself
back with her I feel better though right now I can't even see her as I'm Friends
with Benefits maybe a friend but damn I just don't know if we could ever work
workout again don't call me a chump because Second Chances are rare in my
book I went home and had a nice long run
and a few beers and felt I was in a good place now can someone guarantee me that
she wouldn't ruin that I don't know I just don't know it's too fresh on my
mind but I have the luxury of time to sort all this out and get some
perspective okay so this will probably be my last update I posted my story on
Reddit but the mod kept removing it to recap my ex-wife did find me and we did
talk after over a year of her being ghosted by me her intention in finding
me was indeed to reconcile and restart our life together to those that wrote To
Me predicting that I would be the typical beta blue pill fool and forgive
her and fall back in with her you will be sorely disappointed she did write me
a long email this past week professing her Love And Regret for the affair once
again she wanted to come back out and spend the weekend with me my response to
all this was to shut her down I have been perfectly content to live the solo
life for now living in my remote location and keep my situation as
uncomplicated as possible I've enjoyed the company of several women and friends
and at 32 feel there is no hurry in changing things up I have my own
self-determination roadmap and I intend to follow it for now so in answering her
email I refuse to give her my new phone number I laid it all out I told her no I
do not have any intention in reconciling with her she made her bed and I no
longer trust her nor do I know her any longer I wish her the best and will
consider her a possible friend maybe someday in a future yet to be determined
my vagueness really frustrated her so she replied with something very telling
she was of course thoroughly disappointed in my response but she also
informed me that she had accepted a job offer several states away and her real
intention all along was for me to come with her she knows my job is remote and
I can live anywhere I choose and she thought that I would consider coming
with her in an exchange we would have a brand new start in a brand new location
she had little time left before she would be leaving and wanted to see me in
person and put the Hard Sell on me fortunately for me I have to leave for
business for a week so hour time is up thank God
so she will be gone for my life now I imagine I will get a few more emails for
a bit longer but in time I believe she will realize her time with me has
expired and she will have to find someone else and she may cheat on them
two just thought I would share the update so guys live your best life get
rid of that old baggage and Empower yourself to move forward good luck to
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my fiance is worth over $57 million and belittles my income and accomplishments
since we have gotten engaged I wasn't sure where to post this on Reddit this
is a throwaway for obvious reason just looking for some input I'm sort of lost
and don't really know who to talk to this about well when I was 23 years old
I met my fiance who was 38 when I met him when I met him I was making 200k a
year was worth around $1.3 million I inherited my grandpa's house when he
passed I am now 26 years old I make 420k a year plus have a bunch of stock that
needs to best my fiance is 41 we got engaged 6 months ago have been wedding
planning it's been great our relationship has always been so easy
always been a great fit yes I was hesitant at first because we have a
15-year age Gap but he didn't have kids he has never been married or engaged
before he spent his late 20s and 30s building two company and just sold the
last one this year here's where we run into the issues I know my fiance has
done well I've never been in it for the money I make good money and did inherit
money but well as we get into being married soon I found out he's actually
worth over $57 million I really thought it was closer to 15 million he asked me
for a prup and well I honestly just don't believe in that we have been going
back on forth for a couple weeks and tonight we got into a fight about it
should I just sign one am I being dumb over nothing another thing that made me
angry is he said once we get married I just need to stop working he said
there's no point of working that my money is useless to us that I don't make
a lot that I need to focus on having our kids and just be a happy stay-at-home
wife/ mom I got angry I am 26 years old I am making 420 ,000 a year I am pretty
hurt by what he said you know I've gotten a lot of slack for being with
someone so much older for my family friends I never let it get to me but in
a way now it is he's so much ahead of me in life in terms of money and more my
income and what I do will never be enough I got a $45,000 bonus this year I
told him we should take a really fun vacation he said it doesn't matter we
are getting married that's chump change basically I honestly never saw this side
of it but as we get closer to our wedding date more and more of this comes
out he even told me tonight after I came back from a work trip that I just need
to relax at home so I can make him his baby that my income is worthless
compared to what we have this Honestly made me cry I haven't cried in a long
time I just closed a huge deal at work I was really happy and proud of myself I
sit here thinking I love my job I am proud of myself how could I possibly
marry someone who doesn't support me we get married in 2 months I feel like with
the things he said recently he doesn't support me who I am I am not someone who
wants to sit around I love working I love being in the workforce but then I
look at the truth he has so much money he says once we get married it's ours so
there's no point of me working but the amount of money he has I just feel
worthless working because how much I make is nothing I feel almost like I
failed I will say this though the prenup
is pretty fair but I can't get myself to
sign it I don't see the point of getting married if we are going to have one I'm
honestly at a loss I found out I was pregnant a few months ago but it was an
early misgar he was really happy when I found out I was pregnant but now he's
mad at me because he said the reason we lost our baby is because I'm working I'm
really at a loss for words I feel like I don't know him anymore he he's acting
completely different where is the man who was so excited at my end ofe bonus
when I was 23 it was 15,000 he was so excited and proud of me now it just
seems I'm worthless and just meant to be a baby maker any input I really am just
lost I love him dearly we've been through a lot together but I don't know
if I can marry someone who really thinks
of my income as worthless that what I do in life isn't worth it despite my
significant contributions to our relationship and my own Financial
stability he now dismisses my income and belittles my achievement he even
attributed my recent miscarriage to my job further highlighting his changing
attitude towards me I'm torn on one hand I love him and value our history
together on the other I'm unsure if I can marry someone who doesn't respect my
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wanted, and we were close. He taught me valuable
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and never giving up), showed me anime manga,
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flat out ignored our parent’s favoritism
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was an investigation, and police found he
was not involved in any ilegal activity), :49.260 --> :54.540
and one of the bullets killed him instantly
he was only 25 and I was 19 in 2014. I would :54.540 --> :58.220
lie if I said that I didn’t fall into a
deep depression it came to the point where :58.220 --> :03.820
I stopped eating and lost around 55 pounds
in a month and a half after his passing (I :03.820 --> :07.651
only drank water and milk that would full
me up). I didn’t want to get better, until :07.651 --> :12.240
one day my former sister-in-law called me
to tell me that he left me some things. I :12.240 --> :17.080
met up with her and the stuff he left behind
was an album with polaroid pictures of our :17.080 --> :23.610
crazy adventures, graphic anime tees & a chain
with both of our initials. I was in tears :23.610 --> :29.150
and decided to get help because he would love
to see me happy, and not die of sadness. :29.150 --> :33.500
It’s been years since his passing and I
am doing a lot better, and I have a tradition :33.500 --> :38.110
that on his birthday that I would leave flowers
in his grave (I only stay two minutes then :38.110 --> :43.040
leave after singing him happy birthday). My
therapist said this was a good idea. However, :43.040 --> :53.610
my parents (50M and 59F), younger brother
(22M), and Aunt (52F) decided to have an intervention
:53.610 --> :59.330 thinking religiously that I was doing something
satanic, that I was calling out the dead, :59.330 --> :03.600
that they should’ve thrown the things he
left me in the garbage and that I should attend :03.600 --> :09.120
to their church to see if the “Lord gets
those diabolical ideas out of your head”. :09.120 --> :13.560
I was shocked and told them that I won't stop
doing this tradition and I won’t be attending :13.560 --> :18.370
their church, that this is their older son,
and that if they keep behaving like this, :18.370 --> :23.370
I won’t feel bad at all for having to go
NC with them. They kept on yelling at me, :23.370 --> :27.890
and my aunt went as far as to throw holy water
at me I had it and told them that when they :27.890 --> :33.530
stop being religious nuts will talk but as
of today, I want nothing to do with them. :33.530 --> :38.160
I left before any of them could say anything
it’s been a week since the incident, and :38.160 --> :17.209 I
have blocked their numbers. :17.209 --> :21.599
This happened a couple days ago, so I'll do
my best to have the conversation exactly as :21.599 --> :24.090
it went but some may be paraphrased. Also on mobile so sorry about formatting.
:24.090 --> :28.980 For context, I work nights in a gas station.
About a week ago, a couple of kids, probably :28.980 --> :34.660
no more than 15-16 years old, who are semi
regulars (as in I've seen them a few times :34.660 --> :39.490
before but not often enough to know them)
came in around 2am and pulled a runner on :39.490 --> :45.290
me with around $30US in drinks and snacks.
As I'm not allowed to chase shoplifters, I :45.290 --> :49.650
do what's required and leave a note for my
boss so she can pull the tapes and post the :49.650 --> :53.930
pictures for us so we can tell them to get
out of they're ever stupid enough to come :53.930 --> :58.810
back. You wouldn't believe how many thieves
actually are, in fact, stupid enough to come :58.810 --> :02.050
back. These two morons in particular. :02.050 --> :07.390
Welp two days ago I'm working my only weekly
day shift, and who should walk in but my pair :07.390 --> :12.400
of thieves? And who do they have with them?
One of their mothers! I immediately buckle :12.400 --> :17.479
down and tell them they need to go now. The
following is how the conversation went. :17.479 --> :18.479
Karen will be the mother B1 for Boy 1 B2 for
Boy 2 AM will be Awesome Manager. Truly the :18.479 --> :19.479 best.
Me will be me (duh) :19.479 --> :20.479 The two thieves walk in
:20.479 --> :22.400 Me: Uh uh, you two need to go right now.
:22.400 --> :24.319 B1: For what? :24.319 --> :26.680
B2: We didn't even do anything :26.680 --> :30.870
Me: You know exactly what you did and you're
banned from the store. You can leave on your :30.870 --> :34.660
own feet or leave with a police escort. You choose.
:34.660 --> :38.450 They leave and go back to the car waiting
for them at the pump. From the window I can :38.450 --> :42.960
see them talking to the woman in the driver's
seat, gesturing and pointing. She gets out :42.960 --> :45.340
of her car and storms into the store. :45.340 --> :49.720
Karen: Why the h*** did you tell my son and his friend they can't be here?
:49.720 --> :55.850 Me: Ma'am, they ran out with nearly $30 in
products. We do not allow thievery and they :55.850 --> :59.650
are banned from the store. You are welcome
to come and get what they need, but if they're :59.650 --> :02.800
seen on the property the police are going to be called.
:02.800 --> :07.990 Karen: No, my son is not a thief! How dare
you! Get me a manager! :07.990 --> :13.560
Me: Gladly (She doesn't know my manager has
less patience for customer crap than I do. :13.560 --> :17.800
Since the store isn't very big, she's already
heard this exchange from the office) :17.800 --> :21.160
I bring her out, and she says exactly what I did. :21.160 --> :27.340
Karen: That's a bold faced lie! My son is
a good boy! You're targeting him and his friends :27.340 --> :29.300
for no reason! :29.300 --> :33.300
AM: You're welcome to come back and watch the tape for yourself.
:33.300 --> :35.610 Karen says she'll do just that.
:35.610 --> :41.850 Karen: And once I have proof you're lying
I'll be expecting this little (slurs for homosexuals)
:41.850 --> :43.110 to be fired :43.110 --> :48.540
AM brings Karen into the office, I accompany
them. Being the assistant it's both part of :48.540 --> :54.750
my job and a joyful experience to watch Karen's
face fall when she finds out her good boy :54.750 --> :00.870
is a rotten thief. AM plays the tape and Karen's
son and his friend, clearly identifiable as :00.870 --> :05.690
their only means of a "disguise" was their
school track hoodies pulled up over their :05.690 --> :06.690 hair.
:06.690 --> :11.340 Folks, they had their freakin' names on the
back. THEY WERE WEARING THE HOODIES AS THEY :11.340 --> :13.699
SAT IN THE CAR WAITING :13.699 --> :18.449
The Karen was too stunned to speak at first.
But eventually remembered how to Karen and :18.449 --> :23.310
stormed out shrieking that she'd be calling
corporate. For what? Who knows. But she's :23.310 --> :05.930
calling anyway. So bit of a context. My
and few of my friends started a football (soccer :05.930 --> :10.690
fo US readers) magazine. We are just a small
company so right now it doesn´t earn enought :10.690 --> :15.531
to work just in this job so all of us are
working in our personal jobs as well. But :15.531 --> :20.130
still it´s good because I have an opportunity
to watch matches for free and even get to :20.130 --> :24.620
interview a footballer here and then. Not
the best of the best footballers, just the :24.620 --> :29.699
ones who plays in my country (Slovakia and
Czech Republic) I just want to add that racism :29.699 --> :35.710
is not really cared about in my country as
you can barely met someone that is not white. :35.710 --> :40.259
So recently I was in one department store.
This store is connected with football stadium. :40.259 --> :44.870
I get in there in advance because I was scheduled
to watch the match as a journalist. In this :44.870 --> :49.560
store, there is one Café, which is meant
for the upper class. It was weekend so it :49.560 --> :53.870
was full and many people had to wait to get
in there. I was sitting on a bench if front :53.870 --> :59.790
of this Café, just checkign if I have everything
(Press Pass, ID card etc.) I was not really :59.790 --> :05.290
paying attention but then I saw one footballer
I know. He was without a club in the moment :05.290 --> :10.280
because his recent club was bankrupting and
they failed to pay him all of his wages. He :10.280 --> :14.860
was sitting there with some guy. I later found
out that it was his agent. They were just :14.860 --> :19.449
sitting in there drinking coffee, talking
and had some paperwork on the table. As you :19.449 --> :22.720
ma suggest he had darker shade of skin as he was from Congo.
:22.720 --> :27.500 In our magazine we were trying to get to this
player as we wanted to do an interview about :27.500 --> :33.029
his current situation, but he had so much
work to do so he politely refused for the :33.029 --> :37.620
moment. I wanted to say hello to him, but
figured out, I do not want to disturb them :37.620 --> :42.229
so I just went to do some thing on my phone.
Then the EM and her kid (I don´t want to :42.229 --> :47.440
call him Entitled because he did basically
nothing) come to this Café. I was sitting :47.440 --> :52.790
pretty close, so I was able to hear what she
was saying as she was speaking really loud :52.790 --> :53.790
from the beggining. :53.790 --> :56.560
EM: Hello we would like a table for two please. :56.560 --> :01.850
Waiter: Oh I´m sorry ma'am, but there is
no table available right now. As you can see, :01.850 --> :03.690
we are realyy full right now. :03.690 --> :09.510
EM: Yeah. I know, but I also noticed that
many of your customers, just bought one coffee :09.510 --> :15.020
and they are sitting here for ages. It´s
not fair that some scum can just buy one coffee :15.020 --> :17.089
and then sit here all day long. :17.089 --> :22.149
(Tbf I didn´t know how long this footballer
and his agent was there, as when I come to :22.149 --> :24.120
the bench, they were already there) :24.120 --> :28.890
Waiter: Look, I´m sorry, but we do not have
an exact rule for how long you can be here :28.890 --> :33.880
with one coffee. Sorry but you have to wait until someone decide to leave.
:33.880 --> :38.810 EM: Come on. My baby and I just want to drink
a coffee and hot chocolate. We are paying :38.810 --> :42.649
customers and we won´t just sit here with one cup doing nothing.
:42.649 --> :47.140 Waited(this guy was really patient. I´m not
sure how is he able to stay this cool for :47.140 --> :53.990
so long): I´m happy to hear that, but as
I said. I can´t just force someone to leave. :53.990 --> :58.500
EM didn´t say another word, She just came
to this footballer and started yelling: :58.500 --> :03.380
EM: Look, my kid and I want to sit in here.
You´ve been here for ages and you are drinking :03.380 --> :09.089
one coffee for ages now. It´s not polite
to just came in here and sit here like garbage, :09.089 --> :13.440
when you can´t afford another drink. (Note
that his agent was in suit, while the footballer :13.440 --> :15.170
was in regular clothes) :15.170 --> :20.529
His agent: Sorry, but we are doing some bussines
here and none of the staff is having problems :20.529 --> :25.540
with us. If you would excuse us, we would
like to continue our conversation here. :25.540 --> :27.959
EM was non having any of it. :27.959 --> :33.730
EM: For f*** sake(yeah she said that in front
of her kid) how are you even allowed to sit :33.730 --> :38.880
in here(pointing to the footballer) This place
is for serious people only and I don´t care, :38.880 --> :43.980
that your friend here is succesfull. You are
a waste of a human and I don´t understand :43.980 --> :49.680
what happened to this world. There was once
a time people like you(african america) cannot :49.680 --> :51.640
go where normal people used to go. :51.640 --> :56.970
He did not say anything as he was shocked.
Also his Slovakia speaking skills were pretty :56.970 --> :01.910
good, but he still had some troubles speaking.
He was able to speak well and understandable, :01.910 --> :04.690
but it took him longer to find the right words. :04.690 --> :10.380
Tbg my intentions were not actually too clear.
Not gonna lie I came in there, to help him :10.380 --> :15.690
and his agent with this situation, but I also
believed that, maybe if I do something like :15.690 --> :20.440
this, he would be willing to do an interview
with me later. So I came in there and started :20.440 --> :21.440
speaking. :21.440 --> :26.530
Me: Look lady, your screaming is so loud that
maybe the workers in the 3rd floor are able :26.530 --> :30.050
to hear it. Can´t you just let this guy alone? He did nothing wrong.
:30.050 --> :37.311 EM: Oh what a surprise. Skinhead defending
a N-word. Never seen this one before. (I cut :37.311 --> :41.770
my hair completely as I´m too lazy to take
care of them. It has nothing to do with skinhead :41.770 --> :43.320
or guys like this) :43.320 --> :47.980
When the footballer heard an N-word he get
angry and startedd almost tearfully yelling :47.980 --> :52.490
something at her. He tried to say something
about her being ignorrant and that he suffered :52.490 --> :57.410
a lot because of his skin colour. Of course
it was hard to understand what he was saying. :57.410 --> :02.120
As I said he still had troubles speaking slovak
language and he was super emotional. :02.120 --> :05.700
His agent just said: Look, we don´t have
to take care about this. She is not worth :05.700 --> :10.750
our time, let´s get going. The staff informed
me, that I had to leave as I was making a :10.750 --> :16.160
mess in their café. I was super angry and
wanted to do something but his agent just :16.160 --> :20.810
looked at me and shake his head. They left
and I went out of the Café with them. EM :20.810 --> :25.680
and her kid sat at the table and just get
their orders. Yeah, the stuff did nothing :25.680 --> :30.210
about the fact that this guy was raccially
abused. As we went out he calmed down and :30.210 --> :34.270
thanked me and his agent for standing up to
him. He told me that he was about to go to :34.270 --> :38.840
the match, because he wa going to sing a contract
with the team after that. He offered me to :38.840 --> :44.050
come with him and his agent to the VIP stands.
I told him I would like to go, but I had to :44.050 --> :48.740
be in the staff stands. But I asked him about
an interview. We changed out numbers and some :48.740 --> :51.260
time later I made this interview with him. :51.260 --> :56.050
Yeah, not a brutal ending I know and this
woman get away with her racism and get what :56.050 --> :01.160
she wanted. I´m not happy about it but there
in nothing I could do. In this country we :01.160 --> :06.710
do not take racism so seriously as in other
countries. So this is probably not a good :06.710 --> :44.540
ending, but what can we do. Hello reddit my
name is Caleb and im a teenager who has ASD, :44.540 --> :48.880
Depression and alot of other problems for
this story theres a few people to this story :48.880 --> :49.880
EM: Entitled mum :49.880 --> :50.880 Co1 and co 2: co workers
:50.880 --> :51.880 me: me :51.880 --> :52.880
SG: Security guard :52.880 --> :53.880 po: police
:53.880 --> :56.110 and finaly MG: Managers/ my boss
:56.110 --> :01.389 So this happen back a few mouths ago debating
with a few mates of mine (Im australian) And :01.389 --> :05.740
they say i should just post it because it
a story that would get diffrent reactions :05.740 --> :08.310
so if i miss any details sorry about that :08.310 --> :14.080
So i work at Small M (fake store name) i was
put on checkout on my 3rd day not my first :14.080 --> :20.180
because i was hired for fill team (so restocking
and all that on main days and week days im :20.180 --> :25.060
put of checkout. So i got quite of few relly
nice ones but there was some part where i :25.060 --> :30.330
get stuck i was just talking with CO1 intill i see EM.
:30.330 --> :34.430 She looked like the person that would talk
to the manager every time she walks into a :34.430 --> :39.870
store and i just knowing h*** is gonna go lose i whispered to my self F***.
:39.870 --> :42.070 Me: Hello how are yo-
:42.070 --> :47.000 EM: Get on with it i need to be somewhere
i dont have time for your introduction S*** :47.000 --> :48.760
Me: Ok i was just saying Hel- :48.760 --> :50.150 Em: Shut up
:50.150 --> :52.200 Me: ok sorry :52.200 --> :57.630
So started to scan her cloths and folding
them putting into the bag and i was slow because :57.630 --> :00.500
it my first day and she looked P***ed :00.500 --> :03.990
Em: WTF is taking you for so long :03.990 --> :07.710
Co1: miss he new here it his first time on check- :07.710 --> :11.829
EM: I DONT GIVE A F*** HE PROBALY (enter R Word) :11.829 --> :18.520
so with some back story that word i was called
all the time at school inculding Spastic, :18.520 --> :24.389
moron, ect and hearing that go me quite upset
because i hated being called that and out :24.389 --> :28.670
me when i had no idea why i was treated like Crap. :28.670 --> :31.520
Co2: Ma'am You can call anyone that :31.520 --> :33.040 Em: Yes i can
:33.040 --> :36.130 Co1: No you can not :36.130 --> :38.480
At this point she said the magical words :38.480 --> :40.120
EM: I want the manager :40.120 --> :44.510
Now at this point my boss was coming down to tell the Em to get out
:44.510 --> :46.949 Mg: I'm the manager :46.949 --> :51.389
Em: this pervert try to touch me (pointing at me) :51.389 --> :54.010
Me: what no i was trying to- :54.010 --> :55.730 Em: Shut up
:55.730 --> :00.560 Mg: Ma'am i heard everything you said to my
employee he is new here and i would not have :00.560 --> :04.010
you saying this like that said to my workers and in mt store
:04.010 --> :05.970 Em: But :05.970 --> :08.510 Mg: out NOW
:08.510 --> :13.820 after failing to get me fired or in trouble
she try to punch me and hit the plastic screen :13.820 --> :17.269
that protected me they where up due to covid and all that
:17.269 --> :19.980 EM: OUCH SOMEONE HELP ME THIS PERSON HIT ME
:19.980 --> :23.820 ME: What i didnt do anything you just try
to hit me :23.820 --> :26.820 EM: what How dear you Li
:26.820 --> :28.490 SG: ma'am come with me
:28.490 --> :31.829 Em: what no this (R word) hit me
:31.829 --> :34.380 SG: No he didnt :34.380 --> :36.610
EM: YES HE DID :36.610 --> :42.779
At this point me and my co workers just flabbergasted
of what person form h*** that just be unleased :42.779 --> :48.740
and as he Em was fighting with the SG a cop walks in and see this commotion
:48.740 --> :51.209 PO: What is going on :51.209 --> :56.240
Em: That kid Insulted me arrest him imminently :56.240 --> :01.790
SG: That not what happen she try to hit him (points at me)
:01.790 --> :03.380 Em: LIES :03.380 --> :05.459
Mg: we have cameras :05.459 --> :08.510 Po: would you mind showing me
:08.510 --> :15.760 The Em turn pail then redder than a tomato
and try to punch me again than try to spit :15.760 --> :19.380
after that the police take the EM to the ground :19.380 --> :22.649
Po: You are under arrest to try to assult a minor :22.649 --> :26.980
Em: LET GO OF ME THAT (R word again) TRY TO HIT ME :26.980 --> :32.710
Po: miss if you do not stop resisting i have to charge you with resisting arrest
:32.710 --> :33.830 She doesn't stop :33.830 --> :37.710
so the cop had someone else to come over to help arrest the Em
:37.710 --> :42.649 after the other cop help arrested her he try
to fight the police by using her head looking :42.649 --> :46.059
like a fish out of water and manage to hit one of the cops
:46.059 --> :53.879 Po: That it you Have Asulted someone, Asulted
a police, resisted arrest and try to escape :53.879 --> :00.229
Mg: im so sorry you had to go through that
customer on your first day at checkout :00.229 --> :01.989 Me: it ok
:01.989 --> :03.279 My face said other wise
:03.279 --> :07.880 Mg: Have a bit of a brake obvesily that has
gotten you upset :07.880 --> :09.200 Me: ok
:09.200 --> :13.009 so i heeded to the Brake room with one of
my coworkers try to cheer me up :13.009 --> :17.970
Sorry if there was any spelling errors or
part that didnt make scene and hope you enjoyed :17.970 --> :22.909
I don’t know what to do in this situation
it’s a constant thing that keeps happening :22.909 --> :30.359
where my dad keeps eating all the food I brought.
I started buy snack and food for myself since :30.359 --> :34.729
he doesn’t buy food/ just goes out to eat
by himself/ or if he makes food it’s inedible. :34.729 --> :38.640
He keeps helping himself to the food and drinks
I buy and eats all of them. I recently brought :38.640 --> :41.749
cereal and milk a week ago and it’s gone
buy the cereal he brought are still in the :41.749 --> :45.741
pantry uneaten. I’m was so upset I threw
his food he has been eating away. And trust :45.741 --> :51.369
me I tried talk to him about it but he always
deflected. I’m so upset I (f 18) just turned :51.369 --> :56.720
18 (2)months ago. My mom begged me to stay
at home and I gave in, and am still currently :56.720 --> :01.450
living with her and my step dad. I recently
got a job at a popular coffee shop, and they :01.450 --> :06.529
recently got jobs at a local zoo down the
road from us. My step dad confiscated my debit :06.529 --> :12.389
card so I have no access to my money and they
decided to take 300$ out of my account without :12.389 --> :18.409
my knowledge for "bills". I don't even have
a car or license yet because nobody wants :18.409 --> :23.999
to help me, and I'm only staying at home because
THEY wanted me to. On top of that, I still :23.999 --> :28.919
have to ask for permission to do things (even
though I am 18 and paying bills with them :28.919 --> :34.440
now) and they always say no. I just had to
get this off my chest because I have no idea :34.440 --> :16.451
what I should do. So, last night was fun.
I had to go to the grocery store to get a :16.451 --> :17.629
couple of things. :17.629 --> :22.669
So, to set the scene: I parked in a legit
parking space that was nose-to-nose with a :22.669 --> :28.309
handicap access aisle. I'm disabled and have
disability parking license plates, so I tend :28.309 --> :34.299
to park close, and this spot wasn't a handicap
space, but adjacent to one. Where I'm at in :34.299 --> :39.370
southern Arizona there is a huge problem with
fraudulent use of handicap placards, people :39.370 --> :45.100
often use their disabled relatives' passes,
so often the handicap parking is full. :45.100 --> :50.380
As I'm walking through the handicap access
aisle, slowly (I'm having a bad day, can barely :50.380 --> :56.200
stand up), this Hispanic woman in a white
Lexus starts backing her car into me. Not :56.200 --> :02.970
my car, INTO MY BODY. She screams out of the
window "get out of my way I need to park". :02.970 --> :08.649
She backs her car up and makes me stumble,
which HURTS. Then she stops her car (which :08.649 --> :13.450
incidentally blocks access to the van in the
wheelchair parking spot), gets out, and starts :13.450 --> :18.919
screaming at me for blocking her "parking
spot". I tell her "You just assaulted me with :18.919 --> :25.399
your car. This is NOT a parking space, it's
the handicap access aisle. I'm calling the :25.399 --> :30.669
police." Her response? She tells me that she'll
tell the police I assaulted her. I hit the :30.669 --> :35.210
record button on my phone (which turns on
the flash too) and ask her if she wants to :35.210 --> :39.830
repeat that for the recording so I can make
her Internet famous. She then starts yelling :39.830 --> :44.710
at me calling me the "parking lot police".
I tell her that she's literally blocking the :44.710 --> :51.099
vehicle in the handicap spot. Her response
is to go "woo woo" (like a police siren I :51.099 --> :54.489
guess..?) and go into the store. BUT it doesn't end there.
:54.489 --> :58.870 The owner of the white minivan comes out.
He's a senior citizen with one leg, using :58.870 --> :04.120
a mobility scooter, and sure enough, he can't
get to his vehicle to load his groceries and :04.120 --> :09.909
leave. Of course, I'm no use, I'm in really
bad shape that day, LOTS of pain, just want :09.909 --> :14.370
to grab a cart to lean on and get in the store
to grab food for my kid who's waiting for :14.370 --> :18.899
me at home. One of the employees from the
store comes out, and the two of them (employee :18.899 --> :24.210
and disabled man who owns the van) start trying
to figure out what to do, and I'm on the phone :24.210 --> :26.850
with a police dispatcher at this time. :26.850 --> :32.669
Ultra-entitled woman comes out, and literally
MOCKS the disabled man, tells him he shouldn't :32.669 --> :38.179
go out if he can't take care of himself, yells
more insults at me, and gets in her car, leaning :38.179 --> :42.749
on her horn. The disabled man on the scooter
gets help to finish loading, and is able to :42.749 --> :48.419
get out, then the entitled woman pulls out.
I finally walk into the store, crazy entitled :48.419 --> :53.489
woman sees me, acts like she's going to ram
me with her car, and leans on her horn, before :53.489 --> :54.779
driving off. :54.779 --> :58.889
Of course, the police dispatcher tells me
they don't have any officers to send out, :58.889 --> :03.899
but they do record all calls and she heard
part of that. And I did get some of this on :03.899 --> :09.230
video (MAN I wish I were more savvy with video
editing and such, I got only a fraction of :09.230 --> :14.160
this, but enough to see what she had done
and how she was acting, I would love to make :14.160 --> :19.259
someone so awful Internet famous, even though
I have the most annoying voice in the world :19.259 --> :23.390
now that Gilbert Gottfried has passed). The
police are supposed to contact me later this :23.390 --> :30.330
week and provide me a link to upload the video,
so she MAY get a ticket (it's a $500+ fine :30.330 --> :35.059
for blocking a handicap access aisle here).
I don't hold out much hope though, police :35.059 --> :09.009
are very underfunded here. I (19MtF), live with :09.009 --> :17.099
my mom (47 F) and her boyfriend (45 M) and
they put a lot of rules on me, such as I cant :17.099 --> :22.940
eat after 8pm,leave my room after they go
to bed, cannot burn insense or smoke weed :22.940 --> :28.460
on the property (which my brothers were allowed).
she never uses my pronouns or name and they :28.460 --> :32.799
called my friend a s*** whem we were both
14, and i need permission to sleep at other :32.799 --> :35.201
peoples houses and have to tell my mom where
i am 24/7 My mom has always been a control :35.201 --> :37.429
freak. It's her way or the highway and if
she doesn't get her way she pouts. As far :37.429 --> :40.090
as she's concerned she's never been wrong
in her life. As you can imagine, she's had :40.090 --> :43.999
a hard time with the fact that my siblings
and I are all adults now and can make our :43.999 --> :48.259
own decisions. This has especially been the
case as we've had our own children and we :48.259 --> :49.259
don't parent her way (I distinctly remember
how disgusted she was when she learned my :49.259 --> :50.259
sister was not breastfeeding). :50.259 --> :51.259
Today my 5 yo niece was having a small tantrum,
as children do. IMO, her parents handle tantrums :51.259 --> :52.259
really well and are really good at diffusing
the situation. So her dad was dealing with :52.259 --> :53.259
it, and my mom was trying to tell him how
to handle it and what to do. Basically she :53.259 --> :54.259
was just adding to the yelling. I interrupted
her and said "Let him be the parent!" Her :54.259 --> :55.259
jaw dropped and she turned to my dad like
she expected him to discipline me. He just :55.259 --> :56.259
stared straight ahead, stone faced. Because
guess what? I'm an adult. And my siblings :56.259 --> :00.730
later applauded me. About 6 months ago I gave
birth to a baby girl. She’s obviously my :00.730 --> :06.019
world and her fathers too, our families have
supported up full way through. One person :06.019 --> :11.039
specifically have given us multiple problems
that we have considered cutting her off, my :11.039 --> :12.129
grandmother. :12.129 --> :14.529 Incident #1: The weight treatment.
:14.529 --> :18.309 My fiancé and I were taking about buying
bathing suits for the summer for the baby :18.309 --> :23.389
and I. I’ve been very sensitive about my
weight because I don’t lose as easily as :23.389 --> :27.879
I gain, but she went too far with adding my baby in there.
:27.879 --> :32.299 EG- aren’t you going to lose a little weight
before you buy one? :32.299 --> :36.990
M(mother)- she doesn’t need to lose any weight, she’ll be fine just the way she
:36.990 --> :37.990 is. :37.990 --> :44.019
EG- and what about the baby, she won’t fit in a 4M (at the time she was 3M)
:44.019 --> :48.109 M- why wouldn’t she, she’s 3M?
:48.109 --> :53.220 EG- she has so much fat on her bones, she’s
not going to fit! She should consider maybe :53.220 --> :56.389
doing a 6M or feeding her a little less! :56.389 --> :00.869
My mother and I were horrified to hear it.
In this discussion I had not yet started to :00.869 --> :07.330
stand up for myself against her. She was seriously
saying that my baby and I were overweight. :07.330 --> :11.179
Obviously I’m leaving some text out for
personal issues but she went on to say that :11.179 --> :15.229
it wouldn’t look good with my weight or that my baby isn’t healthy with the way
:15.229 --> :20.720 she is. She is completely healthy for her
weight, she just has a little chunky to her. :20.720 --> :25.830
Incident #2: She believes she is a SECOND MOM to my baby
:25.830 --> :30.789 A few back her and I were having a conversation
about going down to (random place but equally :30.789 --> :35.769
as far) Pittsburg so his mom could see the baby. She kept making a fuss.
:35.769 --> :39.149 EG- She’ll be too far, how will I be able
to see her?! :39.149 --> :42.970
S(this is me)- you’ll be able to see her
when we get back, we’re only going for about :42.970 --> :48.359
a week. If that. His mom hasn’t seen her since she was born, it’s been 5 months.
:48.359 --> :50.080 She’s a grandmother too.
:50.080 --> :55.330 EG- I don’t feel comfortable with her seeing
MY baby when I haven’t met her. Does she :55.330 --> :58.760
know how to take care of her?! I don’t know if she’ll be safe there!
:58.760 --> :04.039 S- she’s not your baby. She’s mine and
O’s (my fiancés first initial), please :04.039 --> :08.749
stop acting like her parent. We are completely
aware of how his mom is and we believe she’ll :08.749 --> :13.369
be fine with her. It’s not like we’re
leaving her there. Furthermore she had 3 kids, :13.369 --> :16.330
2 of which she’s still taking care of! :16.330 --> :21.149
EG- stop acting like you’re only entitled
to making decisions about her, I have the :21.149 --> :28.299
right! You’re still underage (I had her
at 16, almost 17) and have mental issues therefore :28.299 --> :30.749
I have the right to make decisions!! :30.749 --> :33.239
At this point she was screaming at me. :33.239 --> :38.919
EG- for all I know you could hurt her, you’re
unpredictable! You’re completely unstable! :38.919 --> :45.739
S- first things first I have anxiety not schizophrenia.
My behavior isn’t unpredictable. You can :45.739 --> :50.379
hardly take care of yourself. I’m sorry
you messed up your relationships with your :50.379 --> :56.799
7 KIDS, then proceeded to chose men over them.
You had your chance to be a mother, you failed. :56.799 --> :02.679
You had your chance to be a grandmother, you’re
s***. Step aside and let us parent OUR DAUGHTER :02.679 --> :07.919
the way we intend to. We would’ve never
been able to move out if I was as unstable :07.919 --> :12.090
as you make it to be. Yea I have issues but I’m not dysfunctional.
:12.090 --> :16.899 I then took my daughter and left. She began
telling lies to my family but what she didn’t :16.899 --> :21.789
know is I was on a FT with one of other family
members who had muted themselves when she :21.789 --> :23.980
started making her fuss. :23.980 --> :29.350
Incident #3: As if #2 wasn’t bad enough, she got worse.
:29.350 --> :35.169 EG started to take her pills way often then
she should’ve. Essentially allowing herself :35.169 --> :41.279
to become addicted to them. She lied, accused
us of stealing, accused us of trying to keep :41.279 --> :47.559
my daughter away from her, and eventually
accused O of raping me to get me pregnant :47.559 --> :52.860
and threatening me to stay with him. I won’t
make a text thingy from this one because it’s :52.860 --> :58.309
pretty self explanatory. She went to the police
at one point spreading her lies, we had an :58.309 --> :04.119
officer show up at our home twice stating
that our “neighbors” witnessed an sexually :04.119 --> :10.970
explicit event. I’m stating this right now,
my fiancé has never forced himself on me, :10.970 --> :16.480
threatened or abused me. But yet we were getting
the cops called. We found out she told one :16.480 --> :21.339
of her friends who then told a mom group in
the neighborhood. We had to move out in December :21.339 --> :27.080
shortly after due to some money issues. Overall
she really started to decline. We then had :27.080 --> :32.129
the cops called on us for abusing our daughter,
we’re an hour away!!! We’re definitely :32.129 --> :37.109
planning on cutting her off but I have a hard
time being split from my family and I know :37.109 --> :14.599
it’s going to sting when I do. Until next :14.599 --> :25.369
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a ITA for eating half of the family's dinner I am 17f and I was told I was
uncultured and inconsiderate for eating half of my family's dinner for context I
grew up in a load of middle- class family this means that we aren't poor to
not have meals on the table every day but we aren't Rich enough to eat as much
as we want either or until we were full my family and I live in a third world
country which is currently in a state of Civil War in some areas and the
electricity would go out for at least 10
hours every day generators are expensive to afford so my family and I would have
to complete tasks while we are given electricity recently my family has been
going through a lot of problem my parents are having marial issues and the
other night they were on a brink of having a divorce my dad has severe anger
issues and has the tendency to make a problem out of just about anything as of
right now both of my parents are not on good terms of course it doesn't help
that I'm a burnout high school student and exams were also around the corner
this week I've been crying by myself due to stress and pressure from all
directions academics family friends and from my own self with that in mind I am
also burdened with workload and I often sacrifice a lot of my meals and sleep
completing them it doesn't help that I spend a lot of nights crying to myself
and often getting less than 5 hours of sleep every night I've also noticed that
I lost a lot of weight given that I'm already skinny and underweight today I
went to school with very little sleep no breakfast and no dinner from the night
before either the way I have to attend school super early because my dad would
have to drop me off from his way to work which is 6:00 in the morning and my mom
can't afford to squeeze in the time to make a proper breakfast every day since
she's also always sleep deprived and in a rush to make school lunch for both me
and my sister before the electricity gets cut out so we only get to eat
breakfast on some days of the week if we are lucky enough I felt extremely
nauseated to attend school today but with having extremely strict and
conservative parents and having exams right around the corner skipping day
would be my least of my favorite option all throughout the day I felt sick to my
stomach from surviving on little sleep and food not just from the night before
but all throughout this entire week and I couldn't help but doze off in lectures
a couple of times when I got back from school my mom made dinner and from
feeling hungry I finally ate and I ate a lot so much so that when my mom left me
alone I didn't realize that I had devoured two of the four dishes that my
mom made my dad who was also sleep and food deprived scolded me for eating
uncontrollably without looking back and leaving one bit for the rest of the
family he said that he hasn't been able to eat food properly due to having a
toothache all week and he had been skipping breakfast lunch and dinner that
day and he had to come home from work to see me having eaten half of the entire
family's dinner I know I had gone overboard with the eating and I owned up
to my mistake by apologizing and explaining how hungry and sleepy i' been
all week but my dad would not let me be saying I am uncultured for not leaving
any bits of food left for the parents even though there were two other dishes
left when he was served those dishes he threw the food all on the floor out of
frustration and made my sister and I clean up by pouring a bucket of water on
the food he blamed my mom for not being aware that I had eaten half of the
family's dinner and not preparing more food for him when he returns home aita | give me a good story on AITAforeatinghalfofthefamilysdinnerorig |
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a it ta for letting my stepdad tank my mother's birthday to make myself look
good so it was my 20th mom's birthday and it was her 40th which my family
regards as a milestone birthday this birthday is a bit more important because
my mother is anxious about her 40 her father passed in his so it was important
to me that she begins this decade on a positive note my mother has been married
to my stepdad for 9 years together on and off for 16 years my stepdad is
notoriously bad at birthday so since I was 17 I've planned my mother's birthday
Mother's Day Christmas Etc I've tell everyone what we're doing what she may
want who is allowed to know what Etc she's been noticeably happier with that
Arrangement which has left a dent in my stepdad's ego so he said he would be
planning my mother's birthday without any of my orary supervision he made it
very clear he did not want my input so I let him do it sure I gave him a good
example to go by however as the day approached it became clear that his
plans weren't turning out as my mom would have wanted he didn't celebrate
because he mixed up the days and took the wrong day off work so he planned for
the day before he ordered a marble cake with whipped icing tickets to The Color
Purple and and a reservation to an Italian restaurant her favorite cake is
chocolate with buttercream she hates musicals and her favorite thing to eat
is steak with lobster tail he didn't invite me or my sibling to any of these
plans either as the cherry on top worried that my mom might be
disappointed I discreetly made backup birthday plan thinking it would be a
nice surprise so when the day before came I let my stepdad give her the wrong
cake a musical and a plate of pasta he also lied and said he had mandatory over
time at his job on her actual birthday obviously she did not have a good time
so the next day I surprised her with everything flowers breakfast spa day
comedy show and a dinner at a steakhouse with all of her children included and
she cried happy tears into her chocolate with buttercream cake overall a
wonderful success when my stepfather found out he was Furious feeling like I
undermined his efforts and made him look
bad he argued that I should have trusted
his plans and not taking matters into my own hand for the sole purpose to make
myself look good I explained that I only wanted to ensure my mom had a special
day and the backup plans were meant to be a thoughtful gesture despite my
intentions tensions escalated as he felt his authority was challenged now I'm
left wondering Ida for trying to salvage my mom's birthday or did I overstep by
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my stepmother hates me and wants to kick me out of the house how can I tell my
dad about this hey this might be a long one I'm sorry there is a tldr at the
bottom I really don't know what to do about my situation and I don't have
anyone close to give me advice so I thought here I could maybe get some
advice I have an amazing dad who has raised me since my mom passed away when
I was 5 years old he is my friend my supporter and someone I want to be like
when I grow up when my dad first introduced my stepmother to me I was 10
years old and she was very nice to me he
looked so happy that we met and hoped we could get along they got married when I
was 13 and I was so happy that I and my dad had a new member in our family I
thought me and SM were getting along until a few months after their honeymoon
she told me one morning that we just needed to pretend to like each other
around my dad but when he was not here I shouldn't bother her this honestly
shattered me but I agreed because I didn't know what else to do after that
day whenever it was just me and SM she would say things to get to me and I
would just not say anything I'm introverted and don't like confrontation
so I just took it and thought that over time she would get over it but it got
worse she would talk about my height and weight and say I was a funnyl looking
version of my dad I hoped my dad would notice but he didn't he actually thinks
me and SM are so close and she understands me he looks so happy with
her that maybe it's worth not saying anything and giving it time this year my
SM has started picking on me around my dad and he has either joined in or
ignored it I have voice that what she says makes me uncomfortable and hurts
but my dad says she is teasing and doesn't mean it to hurt me well right
now I'm at my end and I'm scared I'm angry and frustrated at my SM and my dad
dad was away for work and it was just me and SM at home she had a party at home
with a couple of her friends I helped set the house up and cook dinner because
dad asked me to help out which was fine after they ate and just hung out they
were hanging out on the porch when I heard SM and her friends talk very
loudly outside my window while I was in my room SM friends talked about how
lucky SM was to have a nice husband in a house when they mentioned how nice it
was that I cooked for them SM told them that I was annoying and weird and she
hated me and living with me and couldn't wait till I was 18 to kick me out I was
shocked that she hated me that much but I didn't know why to be honest I thought
we were tolerating each other but to hate me I must have done something but I
can't think of what I did I've been kind
of down since that day which was 2 weeks ago and I thought I had passed the
initial feelings but at rugby training today I burst into tears and my coach
sent me home so I drove to a speech and cried I felt so much that I honestly
can't describe my emotions I eventually fell asleep in my car and now I'm here
hoping I can get advice on how to talk to my dad about it because I'm scared
about how he will react I don't want my dad to be sad because he does so much
for me but I'm not strong like him I'm really struggling my question is how can
I approach this conversation with my dad about my SM hating me or should I tell
him at all tldr I heard my SM tell her friends she hates me and I want to tell
my dad about it but don't know how edit someone questioned my dad's age and I'm
sorry but it was supposed to be 42 but I can't change it thank you to everyone
who provided advice and kind words it means a lot to me I have read every
comment and have an idea of how to approach this situation I'm honestly
terrified of the outcome being negative but the encouragement and support are
making this a bit easier to deal with I am going to talk to my dad on Sunday and
show him this post I hope it goes well and I hope all of you stay safe and take
care edit too I'm not sure if I am able to do what I planned because Amy just
took my car keys away and she wants my phone but I won't give it to her so she
is waiting for my dad to take it off me because apparently I'm doing drugs but I
told her I'm not I've been at the beach I'm not sure but I just wanted to stop
because I can't handle it update okay so my post was locked but hopefully it's
okay now I've posted the link and tried my best with spacing if I can't post it
I give up for all the support and advice received I really appreciate and I'm
wholeheartedly grateful for all who dm' me to see how I was was thank you this
will be a long time because a lot has happened but many things are still not
resolved trigger warning I will mention self harm so please if it might trigger
you don't read further I wish I was able to say I followed the advice that was
provided and now everything is better but some things in life don't play out
the way we want them to and we can either let them destroy us or make us
better after writing my edit where my SM
was taking my things away and assuming I was on drugs I started recording on my
phone and she said a lot the door many things about my mom and me and just
plain hateful words that I don't want to repeat here I fell asleep while I was
barricading the door with my body when my dad demanded I open the door at this
point I don't remember much of what happened but my SM told me I had to
leave the house and my dad agreed I didn't know who to call but I decided to
call my coach and he picked me up and I was a crying mess he didn't ask any
questions but just told me that I was safe and that if I needed to talk he was
here for me I stayed over one night and the next day dad picked me up SM was not
at home when we got there dad told me we needed to talk we had breakfast and my
dad spoke to me about many things my SM told him and I couldn't believe all the
lies she told him it was a long talk but in summary it was my use of drugs and
alcohol how do I disrespect her in our home I don't do my responsibilities like
chores at home I'm nasty to her when Dad is not around he asked me why I was
acting like this and if I had a problem with SM I should have spoken to him I
let him talk and when he was crying I asked if I had anything to say I was so
lost for words I knew whatever I said my dad was on my SM side so I told him I
wanted him to watch the recording of the incident that I can send through as an
email attachment and the link to my Reddit post and then we can talk more I
also said I didn't want to be here when he was reading and watching so I'll go
for a drive and he can text me when he's done and ready to talk he was hesitant
at first but I told him it was important to me so he agreed and I left in my car
to the beach and sent the email with the
video attached and the link to my Reddit post I don't know how long I waited but
many thoughts were going through my head
I was missing my mom so much and what if
my dad still sided with my SM what can I do now I fell asleep at the beach spot
and was woken up by a police officer knocking on my car door and asking for
my name after confirming my name he advised me to get out of my car hand
over my keys to him and follow him to his car he handcuffed me and assured me
that I wasn't in trouble but this was a welfare check because someone made a
call that I was possibly self Haring I didn't talk after he told me that and
all I remember was just crying he made me sit in the back of the police car
until the ambulance came and they took me to the hospital I was asked many
questions evaluated and told I was depressed and may have extreme anxiety
The Physician did say I might have other things but that they would require
further testing in some sessions with a psychiatrist my dad came and visited me
while in the hospital and when I saw him he looked really tired when he spoke it
sounded like he was crying and he told me he called the police on me because of
the video recording I did he heard everything my SM said but he also saw my
cuts on my thighs and was scared and thought the worst honestly I never
watched the video so I didn't know my thighs were visible after our cry we
spoke about a few things I told my dad that I don't feel comfortable living
with SM after everything she has said and done to me over the years and I'm
not sure I can handle being around her because I don't trust her we spoke about
arrangements and knowing my dad still loves my SM and I didn't want him to
choose between us I told him that I could ask coach if I could stay with him
and after calling him he agreed I've also been admitted to an agency that
will support me because I am mentally ill I have been to one session and I'm
waiting for another evaluation to be done on me and some testing with my GP
so they can diagnose me I'm currently staying with my rugby coach who has been
an amazing pillar he has set out some house rules but I respect the fella and
don't mind following them my coach even set a date for next week for me and Dad
to catch up on my coach is an awesome dude dude I thought of him as just a
coach who just wanted our rugby team to win but when he allowed me to stay over
he showed so much care for me and I saw aside to him and understood how much he
cares for my team he has a lovely wife but I'm kind of anxious whenever it's
just me and her at their house that's it right now my dad lives at home with my
SM and is trying to sort that out I have
many appointments to get the help I need a lot of schoolwork to catch up on and
rugby training to attend I've taken a leave of absence from my maca's job I'm
going to miss going to the beach for a while but I understand that it's not a
forever thing so I hope that the next time I go there I'm not crying my eyes
out I'm kind of working on being okay if my dad and SM after those of you who
shared your similar experience someday I'll be okay thank you to all who
advised and encouraged me those who reached out through DM thank you for the
kind words and reaching out I'm not sure if I'll update again but maybe I'll let
you know if something happens in the future take care everyone also be kind
to one another and most of all be kind to yourself because you deserve it tldr
I showed my dad my Reddit post and recording of my SM being verbally
abusive and now I'm staying at my coach's house trying to sort out my
mental health last update I don't know how to tell my dad that my stepmother
hates me I hope everyone has been doing well I wasn't going to update at all but
many who reached out shared their stories and kind words which truly
helped me I wish I was able to reply but so many things were happening and I'm
sorry this will be a long one but it's because this will be the last time I
hope in my last post my coach sorted out time for me and my dad to catch up
weekly I have met up with my dad twice and this is how it went first catch up
at the beach we spoke and I told him a lot about what happened between me and
his wife I mentioned how she would treat
me when he wasn't there what she said to me after they got married and how she
was awful to live with I told him how I dealt with it for his sake because I
wanted him to be happy I mentioned to him that I spoke with the coach about
staying there until I go to university and then I'll move away because I cannot
live with with his wife anymore because I'm not sure what I'll do I'm never
going to try to get along with her anymore he listened was crying and asked
if I would ever get over this I told him no and I never wanted to see his wife I
walked off because I was pissed off at what he said and drove back to the
coach's house he messaged me later saying I acted like a kid and I
responded because I am a kid second catch up dinner at the coach's house in
our second catch up my coach invited my dad to have dinner and hang with me as
my coach has a pool table in his man cave in a pool I was excited to hang out
and catch up with my dad even after our last meet up because I was feeling a bit
better but at the same time I was feeling anxious about the Meetup like I
had a bad gut feeling but I ignored it dinner went great and me Dad and Coach
had fun playing pool later that night the coach gave us space to talk Dad
talked about my mom and me as a kid just
things he would tell me when I was a kid and it was just me and him it was fun
and I really enjoyed our time together when it was time to go home I offered
Tove drop him off since he drank but he said his wife was here to pick him up so
I hugged him and he went I kind of stayed in the garage and waited for her
to leave so I could walk in the house but I heard her say how's the little sht
and I bolted out the door and told her to f off boy was I not ready for the
slap my dad gave me but all I remember was swinging a punch at him knocking him
down and my coach pulling me off my dad my coach told my dad and his wife to
leave after they left I told my coach I never wanted to see him again and texted
my dad that we were we done it doesn't end there last week I plan to not go to
school on Friday and go for a drive up the line with a few team members to just
get away from everything they ended up bailing so I went by myself I ended up
driving to a lake parking up and just chilling for the school day before
driving back home later on when I got home from my coach's house I saw my
dad's car parked in the driveway and thought I would have to square up with
my dad when I parked up my Dad ran out of the house and looked like sht he
looked like he had cried for days and he started hitting my car screaming to get
out of it and tell him where I was the whole day I thought he was mad that I
waged school so he ripped the door open hugged me so hard and cried I had no
idea what was happening or what he was saying but all I could understand was
that I'm sorry and I love you after what felt like forever he kind of calmed me
down and I asked him why he was here and then he told me there was an accident
with a kid getting hit by a train and it
clicked my dad thought it was me he said when he heard the news he called the
school and they said I was a no show and called everyone he could think of my
friend said I went for a drive somewhere
but didn't know where and my dad said he lost it he calmed down eventually and
said he would divorce his wife if I wanted him to but I told him he needed
to choose that for himself because the reason I stayed quiet was to make him
happy if he is unhappy he should make a choice for himself because I don't want
to be the reason he is unhappy and now I have to look after myself and that is
getting away from her and he cried and just said more sorries he ended up
sleeping over in the same room as me that night and the night after after
because I think he was scared and just trying to deal I was okay with it and
Coach allowed it he left after the weekend to sort himself out back at his
home I told him that where I am is good for me to not worry and that I'd turn
off do not disturb on my phone so I could see text that's pretty much it
really I don't know what my dad is going to decide to do with his wife but I am
definitely not ever going to associate with her in the foreseeable future I
love my dad too much to stop seeing him but he knows my boundaries since I've
set them out clear as day and he knows that as much as I love him I will cut
him off if I feel like it's not for me I'm moving past what happened between me
and my dad's wife for me because I'm tired of letting her beat me in my mind
so I just have to work on me I'm currently happy staying with my coach
and his wife they have been amazing and have shown me so much love they have
awesome kids who I have met and they have invited me to their family
Christmas I feel bad that I feel anxious
when I'm around the coach's wife but I'm working on it with my therapist and I
have a good support system I know I want
to go to university but I am not sure if I want to study Commerce or law but I
know I am on track with my studies I just can't afford to skip any more
school thank you to everyone who sent messages of support and reached out to
share their experience they all gave me the strength to believe I could get out
of this mess and be okay and if you ever feel down know that there is help out
there for you no matter where you are in
life I'm glad I shared on Reddit because I've learned so much about myself and
many things I won't forget and will teach my kids now I have to go to school
take care and cheers update op wrote a letter to her mother Mom it's my
birthday Mom I'm 18 I made it I made it I actually did it Mom I miss you so much
God I wish you were here to be with me today when I woke up today and went for
a walk I saw your favorite bird tuy and remembered our photo we took together I
just missed you I've had a rough year Mom it's been so hard for me some days I
can't breathe and I wish you were here next to me but that's okay because I
know I'll See You Someday but I need to make you proud because I want to be like
an accountant like you I know you love me and I love you so much and miss you
every single day I miss you so much Mom not a day goes by when I don't miss you
at all thank you for loving me thank you for the life you gave me it's the best
gift I was given and I cherish it so much I will make the most of it Mom and
make you proud I love you Mom update I hate that my current reality is that I
don't have people I can rely on right now in my life I am trying to do my best
to survive and improve my current situation I've had so much happened to
me this year and I feel like I can't afford to take time for myself to catch
a break or else I'll lose what I currently have which is not much I know
I'm young and have so much to look forward to but it's hard like so hard to
want to carry on when so much sht is going wrong I'm trying to find a place
to stay even in a flatmate situation to be more independent but I can barely
afford anything my job offered me a better paying position at the expense of
a full-time job and even though I would love more money it means I will have to
give up my dream of going going to University I know many people have had
worse situations and honestly I don't know how they found the will and help
they got it really feels like the world just hates me and I know I'm feeling
sorry for myself but I'm honestly giving up hope update I feel indifferent about
catching up with my dad I have a strained relationship with my dad a lot
has happened this year between us and it
really ruined our relationship he was my best friend he would be there for my
Rugby matches and push me to do my best earlier this year I had a Fallout with
my step mother and my dad which caused me to move out of my home and in with my
coach whom I call Uncle I have been here ever since we did try to mend our
relationship but harsh words were exchanged and I stopped reaching out and
focused on passing my exams I have worked hard on myself by working at my
job and helping out at the place I'm staying I have made some sort of Peace
about my situation and I'm focusing on my future my dad reached out last night
to meet up with him to hang and we planned it for next year on the 4th of
January I agreed and that was that my uncle talked to me about what me and my
dad spoke about and he is kind of worried about my feelings about meeting
my dad because of my feelings towards the day I explained the best I could
which is that I just feel indifferent about my dad right now I am neither
excited nor scared about this meeting I just see it as a date I'll be seeing him
and that's it whether we meet up or not I'm not bothered by it at all my uncle
and his wife care a lot and have done so much for me so I care about what they
say they think I should have a reason to meet up with him since I haven't spoken
to him in a while and are worried I could get hurt should I have a different
mindset towards catching up with my dad tldr dad planned to catch up next year
for me and him we had a Fallout so my uncle thinks that I should be feeling
something but I feel indifferent update hey everyone thanks to everyone who's
reached out and shared their stories and experience and best wishes for me I am
so grateful for everything you all have shared I am really touched by the
support I am doing well for myself currently at the University and trying
to keep up with my studies my uncle and auntie have been so amazing to me and
are so patient it's something I'm so thankful for I didn't take the money my
dad put aside for me because I didn't need it in my country student loans are
interest free and since I have a lot of money saved I won't be struggling since
I live at home with my uncle and Aunt who have also said that they can help
financially if I need anything I really don't know what my relationship is like
with my dad and I'm okay with that I don't need him in my life and that's
okay I'm grateful for what he did like house me I honestly wouldn't have made
it if I didn't have it and I know how much my mom loves me and that's enough
for me to move on and carry on I'm still heard from everything that's happened
but I'm healing and that will take time I've heard and read so many messages to
just hold on and hope my time will come but I think I have it right now I have
people who care about me a house with a bed and warm food to eat that's enough
for me thank you again for the kind words take care update existing is
tiring I'm just tired of trying to be okay but I'm far from okay I don't know
but it's just hard sometimes and I want it to all stop for just a day maybe more
I have some people who want me to get better but it feels like a huge burden
and it is suffocating update what is a good gift to give at a baby shower I was
invited to my dad's and his wife's baby shower they are having a boy and I have
no idea what to buy for this event the baby registry is all bought out and now
I'm clueless on what to buy any ideas on what to buy it's in 2 months so I have
time update the baby shower didn't go through the baby shower didn't happen
since my dad and his wife had the baby a week before the baby shower he didn't
make it I'm actually doing fine my dad isn't and I'm not sure if his wife is
doing okay dad has left work and just spends most of his time at his house his
wife is with family my uncle asked if it was okay if he could invite dad over
after the funeral and I was happy he asked I know my uncle wanted to make
sure my dad was okay because I still care about him dad did talk to me and he
is not okay at all he asks things like do I miss him but I just let him talk
I'm not happy that he is hurting but I'm
doing fine I am on midterm break working
a lot more and spending time with my dad update I just finished paying off my
first year of University with no loans I just wanted to celebrate a little I
applied to study this year and didn't get approved for a student loan I
freaked out and spoke to the university and they gave me options and one of them
was paying an installments they explained how it would work and at the
time it was the best option I had so this year I worked full-time studied
fulltime and made sure I was making the monthly payments I worked my ARS off and
nearly burned out when I walked into the office today to make the last payment
for my first year study the receptionist
gave me a muffin and congratulated me on working hard I went into my car and
cried so hard because I really worked hard and really felt good I just wanted
to write this out before I go into work tonight thank you for watching the video
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hey everybody welcome back to the storytime channel my name is Stephen and
let's get into our stories of the day I do work here but not for you this took
place some 20 years ago so my memory may be a bit hazy and one or the other
details may escape me I was working as an intern for a manufacturing company
that would make car accessories this was
in their global headquarters once a year they would have large conferences with
some 200 attendees from the international offices in different
countries this was a four-day thing that would have almost the entire conference
area of the hotel we were hosting in occupied the large room was set up as an
auditorium and this is where all the presentation related to the bestsellers
changes an assortment novelties marketing guidelines etc would be
presented then we had three more rooms a relatively small one we used a storage
and back office and two other rooms that had items on display one room was such
that the windows to the outside were floor-to-ceiling and could open so that
a car would fit through them and could be driven in through the fire department
access lane that ran outside the building so in this one room there were
three cars that had various accessories mounted in or on them for display
purposes I was on duty to man one of the rooms while open to the attendees and
spent the remaining time stocking merchandise baskets in the main
conference room and giving the hotel catering a heads up when a segment was
10 minutes away from finishing so they could roll out the food and drinks to be
ready as people poured out of the main conference room while the conference was
in recess the attendees were meant to enter these display rooms and look at
the items on show as they may have been presented during one of the segments of
the conference itself many of these pieces were novelties being shown before
being released to market so they were not meant to be seen by people outside
the company on two days where this conference took place other companies
had meetings going on in other rooms so the conference area couldn't be closed
off from the main hotel lobby and anyone who wanted to inspect could walk into
the conference area normally this was not a problem because nobody who was not
working there would look at a deserted corridor
and when people were out it was obvious this was a closed group but one day
during one of the breaks a family father
and two sons of tourists wandered in and they went into the room with the three
cars and the accessories on display mounted on them it was pretty close to
the end of the break so there was a lot of movement but they could easily be
made out as children and a man with a faded t-shirt and shorts stuck out in a
sea of suits I saw them as one of the kids was making a straight line for one
of the cars that had color-changing interior mood lighting and underfloor
lighting installed the color-changing bid was for display purposes but I
digress as the room was soon going to be closed off anyway I was prepared with
the key fobs to lock the cars up before turning off the lights and locking the
room before he could climb in and mess with the light system partially
installed some mounting could be visible to the attendees I shoved the car door
and locked it making the kids stop in his tracks and make a face before he
could run off to the other cars I dashed over to those and repeated the locking
up operation there as well and none too soon I may add because daddy was already
there trying a door and barking at me to open a car for his kids to see the
following dialogue not verbatim ensued sir this is not a public display you and
your children will have to leave open these cars would you what's the harm in
my kids having a look at the pretty lights again this is not a public
display this is a private convention for invited attendees only please leave he
was getting really close to me which was
funny because I must have been a good 50 centimetres taller than him his kids
also now went to his side as they must have sensed something was not right I
decided that the best thing to do was to
slowly walk into him and get him out the door while he argued with me that I
should let his kids get into the cars and play with the lights the conference
attendees had already left for the next segment of the presentation in the other
room he continued with me being so rude being nasty to his kids for no reason
and I kept repeating that this was all lovely but that I was working for the
company that was hosting the conference and that the items on display were not
meant for the general public the moment I had them over the threshold I polled
the conference room door shut behind me and as soon as it latched closed I
slipped off to a side and made my way to the waiters that were disassembling the
buffet and asked them if they could help me return these people to the lobby as
they were not attendees this is when daddy went all indignant and told me I
had terrible customer service and that he will be making a complaint and I
turned around and replied sir I don't work for you or this hotel I don't care
if you think I'm rude to you and you want to make a complaint about me at the
desk all I want is for you to get a loss from a space my company rented and you
have no business being in he then got really upset and started cursing at me
but the waiters took over and escorted him away from the conference room area
and I returned to the back office to put the key fobs away and then returned to
the conference room with the cars the check that everything was in order and
switch off the lights as it was leaving the conference room the manager for the
conferencing spaces came to apologize and I told her that it wasn't her fault
and that I hope the guy didn't cause much of a scene she didn't reply to that
but told me that they would be posting someone at the entry from the lobby to
the conference area for the remaining breaks that were planned for that day it
definitely sounds like a nightmarish scenario kids already want to get their
hands all over stuff that they shouldn't but this dad was also actively
encouraging it have you ever seen examples of bad parenting like this if
so let me know your story in the comments section down below that's not
what furniture covers are for I've been enjoying this sub during lockdown
sometimes reading it and sometimes listening to it on a YouTube channel it
was my late mom's birthday yesterday may she rest in peace
she died in 1998 and I remembered this story she told and thought you know I
could give something back to this community by sharing it it didn't
actually occur in the business in question but I hope it more or less fits
this sob when my mom was long married perhaps in the 1940s or 50s
she was at home one morning when the phone rang my mom answered the phone as
she taught us to answer it by stating the phone number and saying who's
calling please the color a posh an angry
sounding woman gave her name and unasked her address in a very well-heeled part
of the city and the conversation continued something like this your man
has not arrived yet it's not good enough when will he get here I'm sorry I don't
understand Oh for pity's sake girl the decorator he
was supposed to be here half an hour ago
I'm sorry you must have the wrong number this is a private home what number did
you call don't ask me and pertinent questions I
know very well that is name a house decorating company stop stalling you
stupid girl and just tell me when he will get here or send someone else at
once I'm sorry but this really is I'm sitting here it'd make covers on then I
hope they keep you warm and mom hung up rest in peace mum this was a good mom
direct to the point and not wanting to take any BS rest in peace no ma'am I'm
not a valet this happened to me yesterday when I was at work and my
security job story okay so this just happened to me yesterday I work as
security at one of our gated communities here in Florida on the beach my duties
include watching over the pool via camera answering the phone and checking
visitors and contractors into the community our uniforms consist of black
or grey pants and white shirts but I wear grey shirts because I'm the
supervisor there is nothing on my uniform that says valet well yesterday I
was in my office doing my work and this lady comes in and while I'm getting her
information so I can make her permit she says okay so you get my permit and then
you park the car I correct her and say no ma'am I'm not a valet I'm security
they only need to make you a permit and once you get it you can park your car
and then I explained where to park she then asks me why I can't park it for her
and her friend that she was there to visit told her that I wasn't a valet and
that we didn't have valet parking here this lady then stated that I should do
my job and park her car I then told her that it's not my job and that she needed
to move her car as a line was backed up she got in her car and sped off and
almost hit someone so she ended up being asked to leave some people are just so
ignorant and entitled it's just scary it seems like these kinds of people get an
idea in their head that they want somebody to do and no matter what that
person is that Fault in their mind if they didn't do the thing you wanted them
to do it might not be in your job but you're the valet now why can't you just
park my car cuz it's not my job smart but me deals with a rude Karen so
as a preface I Mayo shared this story here before a while back I don't
remember if I did but it is kind of funny so I figured I would share it
anyway another thing you need to know is I have some severe anxiety issues but
this story happened maybe six or seven years ago before I developed the problem
so I was a bit more brazen back then anyway I was shopping at the big blue
store famous for their selection of Karen's when I passed by the sweet
little old lady she asked me to grab a case of soda off the top shelf this is
nothing new because I'm 6 foot 6 and people ask me a lot to do stuff like
this I also live life by the golden rule you were taught as a child treat those
how you want to be treated I got the soda for the sweet old lady and asked
her if she needed any more help she declined in a thing to be so I started
to walk away to grab the other things on my list as I walked down the aisle
looking at my list trying to decide where I should head next I heard two
words shouted at presumably me you boy I look up and see this abomination of a
Karen sneering at me she had the classic
haircut probably weighed more than me as an already overweight super tall giant
in leopard print leggings and a shirt that was being tortured by being worn by
someone who was most likely three sizes too big for it she had only said two
words to me and I already didn't like her
remember how I said I live by the golden
rule well that works both ways and since she was rude out of the gate that must
mean she wants to be treated rudely also I just wasn't exactly sure how to be
rude to her yet get that soda off the top shelf for me now I'm in a hurry she
said to me while her volume was turned up to eleven so I said as a smart but I
don't work here if you want me to help you I'm gonna need a hero please first
she shrieked obviously you weren't here I just saw you help that other witch
Wow just wow now she insulted that sweet old lady after being rude to me then I
decided what I would do beast entirely off of what would be the
funniest thing to do oh I'm so sorry about that
witch so did you want again she pointed aggressively at a case of fresca on the
very top shelf I grabbed the case off of
the shelf and went to hand it to her she muttered finally right before she
grabbed it from me I quickly put it back on the top shelf and without looking at
her just slowly walked away to do the rest of my shopping she shrieked a bit
about finding my manager and getting me fired but I was just giggling to myself
I ended up taking my sweet time shopping hoping she would show up again with a
manager just so she would embarrass herself more but I never saw her again
I wonder how her family reacted to hearing the story of the rude idiot
Walmart employee she encountered that day that's actually an interesting
perspective to bring up since the karen didn't have any follow up there's gonna
be this whole alternate reality in her mind that she proclaims to other people
about Walmart and they're awful employees that won't help them and tease
them in a rude and blah blah blah lady I'm off the clock the one thing I
hate about Karen's is that they don't have a concept of off the clock on a
semi-regular basis I will be at work shopping once I am done for the day
on these days I will bring a shirt with me and change so I am no longer in
uniform while shopping however there are
some great customers who just don't care I'm not in you know
and am pushing a cart full of stuff or carrying a basket and still ask for help
now the majority of the people are nice about it and so I don't mind helping
them however occasionally I'll get someone who recognizes I am an employee
and gets all offended that even though I am not wearing our shirt I did not jump
to help them then gets in my business complaining about how disrespectful I am
to which I reply I am clearly not on the
clock it is not my job to help you right
now and had you not been so rude I would have helped you if you're having such a
hard time go to the register and the cashier will get someone to help you how
dare you not be in uniform and also are blatantly shopping on your own personal
time because you're an employee at this establishment although you're not
working at this very time you are a slave to me
okay nevermind you don't even care about customers I had just gotten off work at
the local hospital and was looking for leave-in conditioner at the nearby big
store that killed all the mom-and-pop shops you know the one
smelling different products reading labels slavs squatting on the floor up
rolls Sheeran on a scooter older less physically mobile version of Karen
where's the price on this ring why don't you people do this better so people can
see it took me a second to realize she was asking me I look up hmm oh forget it
you probably don't even care about your customers at that point I stood up
clearly wearing a full set of hospital scrubs like why would you think I work
here cocked my head to the side and said you're right ma'am I sure don't and
walked off what the Freak what about my clothing posture actions
led this woman to even remotely thinking I was working retail I'd have to be the
worst employee basically hiding and not doing my job or wearing my uniform
funny thing is that I worked retail during undergrad and I cannot stand bee
holes like this lady if she were my patient or in a medical emergency I
would do everything in my scope to help her but that ain't it chief
it felt good to let her know not everyone gives a freak what she thinks
she needs in this setting how are you gonna see scrubs
I'd like a Walmart and assume that they worked there I would assume Sharon on
the scooter is probably a frequent customer of Walmart I feel like she
would be able to understand by now who the employees are and what they look
like but with that being said that's all the stories we have for today so what I
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a ITA for deliberately misunderstanding my child's father so I had a baby some
weeks ago with my partner to whom I'm not married we've been together a while
and I've given many compromises in this relationship while discussing baby's
name we had a few disagreements on names
but ultimately decided on a name we both liked well enough the surname was a
sticking point he wanted the baby to have his name alone I offered to
hyphenate BC logistically it's easier for the baby to have both of our names
he's been drinking the Red Pill Kool-Aid lately a large bone of contention in
this relationship and went off about how
it's tradition and the right thing to do and is right as a man to have the baby
have his surname he told me I'd be emasculating him and may as well be a
single parent if I won't Grant him this one little last my word is final baby
having one surname this was late in my pregnancy and I didn't have it into
fight so I told him that I understood what was saying FF to 3 weeks ago when
baby's birth certificate came he blew a gasket when he saw that I'd given the
baby my surname he rehashed the conversation above saying I agreed to
giving baby a surname this is where I might be ta I did nothing of the sort I
told him I understood him which I did but I never said I agreed with him I
told him there was no way I was doing all the work of making a baby for him to
stick his name on it when we bought up tradition I told him it's also
traditional for him to marry me before having a baby but he was happy to ignore
that I told him it was traditional for him to be the provider but I do that too
and I pointed out other holes in his logic I told him trying to bully me into
submission with his red pill BS when I was exhausted from pregnancy didn't work
he should have known better than to expect me to not share a surname with my
child he said the baby should only have one surname they do so why | give me a good story on AITAfordeliberatelymisunderstandingmychildsfatherorig |
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am I the off for wanting to leave my husband after he called me a
buckle up I'm sorry this is so long I 31f have been married to my husband 35
male for 10 years I recently took one new roles and titles at work leaving me
to work 50 plus hours a week while being a parent while keeping up with daily
chores and schedules we are running all the time we only eat out once a month as
a treat so I try to cook every night for my kids I have lost myself in trying to
keep up with everyone else in the household I promise that's an important
note for the last 10 days I have been sick fevers swollen throat lymph nodes
and canker sores that have overruled my mouth I knew I was overly stressed with
work and home life so I went on about my day I went to the local walk-in clinic
and was rubbed off with a it looks viral looks of fluids and rest should clear
this up 3 days after visiting the local Clinic I noticed my symptoms were not
getting any better I made an appointment at an Urgent Care an hour away from my
home before I left I told my husband I'm
going to underscore because I don't feel like they understood my symptoms and
treated me well at the local walk-in he gave me a hesitant look and said okay as
I walked out of the door I got to the hospital where I was receiving care for
my symptoms and called my husband to let him know what was going on while I was
hooked up to in four he cut me off on our FaceTime call and said so who's
there with you confused I looked around and showed him the room I reassured him
that no one else was there and I was not going to play his little games as he
does sometimes to make me laugh he ended up hanging up after that I was given my
medical evaluation something along the lines of having a viral infection that
exploded into leaving my mouth full of canker sores I was and am in so much
pain they advised me that it was completely okay and didn't mean anything
negative it just meant that I'd been so stressed and I wasn't given the proper
treatment at the local hospital while waiting to be discharged I was ordering
my husband's favorite restaurant food to come home with knowing he had been
taking care of my kids and myself for the last 5 days I wanted to do something
nice for him I called to let him know that I was on my my way home and I just
had one more quick stop after my medications were ready he blew up he
asked what I was doing at said restaurant because he saw the charges on
the bank account he started accusing me of going out of town to see someone else
and make the comments I know you didn't drive up there just to go to the
hospital and I saw the charges at underscore so if you were that sick you
wouldn't have been there at this point I am fuming I don't get it after an hour
drive back home I dropped his favorite food off on the counter and said this is
why I went there do you know how shitty it was to have your husband not believe
you when you're hooked to in four I started to tear up my heart is broken he
profusely apologized and said I never want to lose you I wed away as I am
putting my medication away from the doctor he reads the label contains the
word herpes on the label he started fuming again he said can you imagine I
have Yogo back to work on Sunday and tell them my wife was sick and found out
she had herpes I explained to him that I did not in fact have herpes but canker
sores were treated in the same family for how bad mine was without hesitation
he responded and said that makes you sound like such a after everything
I do to stay afloat I felt this jab deep in my chest I barely have time to catch
my breathe let alone look the other way I have packed a bag and I headed to my
parents so Reddit am I the | give me a good story on AITAforwantingtoleavemyhusbandafterhecalledme |
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:00.199 --> :01.589 My Father is the Canadian Satan.
:01.589 --> :04.912 Growing up with him was less than fun and
I can assure you , based on witnessing it :04.912 --> :06.019
he was a less than fun husband. :06.019 --> :09.360
I'd go on about what a piece of s*** my father
is but instead i'll quote a judge " you're :09.360 --> :13.839
the most despicable human I've ever had in
my court room" and that's coming from a family :13.839 --> :14.839
court judge. :14.839 --> :19.730
I read this wining endorsement of my Dad's
personality in the court documents I acquired :19.730 --> :22.060
related to his divorce with my Mum. :22.060 --> :25.260
The same place I discovered the f***ery he had engaged in to steal from my Mum.
:25.260 --> :29.590 It's also where I found the information I
needed to get one over on him so severely :29.590 --> :30.870
he's going to disinherit me. :30.870 --> :34.530
This is a bit of a long read so tldr at he bottom. :34.530 --> :40.570
A Frame of reference about my Father is that
he's a pathalogical narcissist and behaves :40.570 --> :42.620
exactly how those people are compelled to act. :42.620 --> :47.450
They aren't generous people and punching them
in the wallet is like a slapshot to the taint :47.450 --> :48.450
from Gretzky. :48.450 --> :52.220
He's kind of like Donkey from Shrek but also Jospeh Stalin, a monstrous j******.
:52.220 --> :53.420 Chapter 1 - Hosea 3:8
:53.420 --> :57.850 Those that sow the wind shall reap a whirlwind.Our
actions always have consequences and my Padre :57.850 --> :59.290
has plenty to answer for. :59.290 --> :04.149
My attempts to hold him to account didn't
jump to Immediate Jihad , they started with :04.149 --> :05.500
diplomacy and a therapist. :05.500 --> :10.259
About 10 months ago when our tale begins I was going through some stuff.
:10.259 --> :16.369 Stuff being a whole lot of PTSD related to
both my Dad's abuse and my job as a paramedic. :16.369 --> :21.119
He did a ton that affected me deeply, things
that I needed to move past, along with all :21.119 --> :22.740
that other razzmatazz from 15 years of EMS. :22.740 --> :27.090
In so trying to move past and work through
everything I quit drinking, started Turining :27.090 --> :30.840
my untreated PTSD into treated PTSD and thinking
having my Dad involved might help me and our :30.840 --> :31.840
relationship. :31.840 --> :35.189
We'll I seriously f***ing misjudged that one
so you'll probably be unsurprised to hear :35.189 --> :36.420
that conversation went swimmingly. :36.420 --> :41.579
I'll spare you the lurid detail but when I
broached the subject with him our back and :41.579 --> :46.130
forth degenerated into visceral hate with
him screaming at me that I'm a failed paramedic, :46.130 --> :48.770
liar and piece of s*** alcoholic. :48.770 --> :53.099
While I have a certain pride about my job,
I have more pride in my 14 months Sobriety, :53.099 --> :57.389
so hearing this from my old man might have
caused me to behave a bit psychotically. :57.389 --> :08.190
I got right p***** off at him a decided to
dig up every bit of dirt I could , see what :08.190 --> :11.970
kind of man he actually is and has been :11.970 --> :22.900
When it was convenient I hoped in the mystery
machine before taking a trip to the court :22.900 --> :28.900
house to unleash my inner gumshoe . Everything
is public record, so I bulk bought copies :28.900 --> :32.590
before retiring to my easy chair to read, plot and pet my white long haired cat.
:32.590 --> :36.390 For good measure I obtained a file of divorce
doccument from my mother. :36.390 --> :41.390
Soon enough I hit upon a line of inquiry worth
following up on, it seems that during the :41.390 --> :45.939
final settlement of my parents divorce ( 2002),
my mother was awarded 1/3 of my father's employment
:45.939 --> :46.939 pension. :46.939 --> :52.099
She was a stay at home mother and could not
earn one herself so it was given to her by :52.099 --> :53.099
a judge. :53.099 --> :57.290
Mighty f***ing strange because my father as
he brags took a nearly full pension and retired :57.290 --> :58.290
a bit early. :58.290 --> :03.360
No way that asshat was living the last 10
years after retiring early on a 2/3 pension, :03.360 --> :05.180
he isn't constantly bithcing about it. :05.180 --> :12.329
So I asked my Mother if she was collecting
a pension from his job or had cashed out the :12.329 --> :19.040
value (100k plus at the time) 20 years ago , no to both questions.
:19.040 --> :23.879 Well that's interesting, I wonder if that's
collectable on and what 20 years of compound :23.879 --> :26.670
intest from a pension fund makes it worth. :26.670 --> :32.730
Well I did eventually find out along with
the fact that my dear old Dad had been collecting :32.730 --> :38.170
my mothers portion for 10 years, in Hilariously
open violation of a legal order from a Judge. :38.170 --> :41.569
Why didn't my mother pursue this sooner? :41.569 --> :47.200
A combination of being unable to afford a
lawyer, being his victim for 20 years and :47.200 --> :53.150
pessimism after so much of his continued dodging
obligation to the order, she just quit. :53.150 --> :55.520
There is effectively no statute of limitations
he could hide behind becuase the wording of :55.520 --> :56.520
the settlement. :56.520 --> :01.230
Insofar as I could tell I had him dead to
rights and my Mother would be collecting, :01.230 --> :03.349
it would be a slam dunk. :03.349 --> :08.109
I just needed to hire a lawyer to help me
, so I set out to find the most unbalanced, :08.109 --> :09.790
bloodthirsty psychotic who passed the BAR exam. :09.790 --> :11.540
Chapter 2 - Et tu pension lady? :11.540 --> :18.959
As it says in the good book screw unto others
as the would screw unto you, so that's what :18.959 --> :22.570
I set out to do. :22.570 --> :26.470
The misanthropic sociopath I hired for legal
counsel suggested we send a demand letter :26.470 --> :31.600
to the pension office to try and remedy it
before filing what would undoubtedly be an :31.600 --> :32.660
easy win for him. :32.660 --> :37.310
I agreed in spirit and instead phoned up the
pension office and got put through to the :37.310 --> :38.880
woman managing my father's file. :38.880 --> :43.810
Well she was a delight and it was a trivial
matter for me to get her to loathe my Dad. :43.810 --> :48.200
We talked for 45 minutes and I swear if you'd
given me another hour I could have convinced :48.200 --> :50.280
her to suicide bomb his house. :50.280 --> :53.980
In all our conversations about life , families
and relationships we got down to some things :53.980 --> :54.980
of note. :54.980 --> :00.390 Since I could show her correspondence her
office had sent to my father ( cc'd my mum :00.390 --> :05.310
on ) some years ago and ongoing for 5 consecutive
years, trying to resolve this matter , which :05.310 --> :08.250
he had ignored, she was more than willing
to start the process on remedy immediately. :08.250 --> :10.780
Full cooperation from this lady and her office
was a matter of merely providing documentation :10.780 --> :16.810
and with my lawyer on retainer , this office
was beyond asking my father to comply, they :16.810 --> :17.810
complied for him. :17.810 --> :22.990
About 2 months since I last spoke to my Father
and he now had no idea his pensilon was about :22.990 --> :23.990
to take a serious hit. :23.990 --> :26.690
Below I'm going to break down how big a turd I put into his bowl of ice cream.
:26.690 --> :31.250 My mother's portion was made whole and adjusted
to reflect that her portion was brought to :31.250 --> :35.880
maturity and beyond so his early retirement dosent affect her fund.
:35.880 --> :41.440 So he loses 10 years of valuation to her,
he also retired 3 years early which kocks :41.440 --> :44.520
him down now to 17 years of pension valuation ,not 27.
:44.520 --> :49.000 If you'd forgotten my Dad had been collecting
my Mum's money and was over paid by 30k per :49.000 --> :50.010
year for the last 10 years. :50.010 --> :55.170
Like I said Mom was made whole, so the pension
company is going to claw back that overpayment :55.170 --> :59.030
from the base valuation of his current pension fund.
:59.030 --> :06.210 I'm not exactly sure what that does to the
number but it effectively nerfs my Old man's :06.210 --> :07.470
private retirement fund. :07.470 --> :12.870
He's got government old age pension, that he took early too, whoops.
:12.870 --> :19.410 My Dad did some awful s*** to me but I only
had to suffer 17 years of him , my Mum still :19.410 --> :20.720
has the high score at 20. :20.720 --> :27.330
As much as I did this for spite and malicious
glee, I did do it to give my Mum a chance :27.330 --> :28.530
ar a proper retirement . :28.530 --> :30.330
Chapter 3 - Glitter bombs of justice :30.330 --> :35.140
My mother started collecting her pension about
3 months after I contacted the pension office :35.140 --> :38.400
and to celebrate she bought tickets to New
Zealand for the family for Christmas, so we :38.400 --> :39.400
can see our relatives. :39.400 --> :45.340
I was able to get most of my retainer from
the lawyer back and to celebrate I went online :45.340 --> :46.830
to order a glitterbomb. :46.830 --> :53.730
I was able to ship it to my old man anonymously
from another country ( God bless the USA ). I :53.730 --> :58.810
heard through my sister he opened it up in
his stupid red miata, ha ha ha , he'll never :58.810 --> :04.290
get rid of it.There is a lady named Irene
who does not seem to be able to understand :04.290 --> :06.790
the concept that my email address is not hers. :06.790 --> :09.460
She gives it out constantly, and repeated,
REPEATED efforts to explain to her that she :09.460 --> :10.880
has it wrong have gone unheeded. :10.880 --> :12.620
Strong boomer energy from this one. :12.620 --> :18.550
As a result, I know she lives down in the
US, she banks at Chase, she drives a Toyota :18.550 --> :23.590
RAV4 that is due for an oil change, and she
seems to be having some medical issues "down :23.590 --> :24.590
there". :24.590 --> :27.810 (Irene, if you see this, call your doctor,
she sounds concerned.) :27.810 --> :32.240
I have repeatedly asked the various people
involved to please inform Irene that she is :32.240 --> :34.580
providing all these places with my email address, which is, again, not hers.
:34.580 --> :39.700 The only piece of information she has never
provided is her phone number, so I have not :39.700 --> :43.473
been able to call her, although I did send
her a Christmas card last year that read, :43.473 --> :44.510
"Irene, Merry Christmas, stop telling people
your email address is [my email], it isn't, :44.510 --> :45.510
it's mine." :45.510 --> :48.740
Recently, it appears that Irene has been trying
to buy a new house, and is planning a trip :48.740 --> :49.740
to Venice. :49.740 --> :54.500
I know this, because I got all the confirmations
of her travel plans from her travel agent, :54.500 --> :58.210
as well as all the confirmations from her mortgage broker and insurance agent.
:58.210 --> :03.460 This resulted, a couple weeks ago, in somewhere
in the neighbourhood of 70 emails a day, informing :03.460 --> :05.840
me of every detail of each of these transactions. :05.840 --> :07.430
So, I followed my usual approach. :07.430 --> :12.620
I emailed the agents back, and (probably slightly
less politely than I could have been) informed :12.620 --> :19.890
the agents that Irene is once again giving
out my email address as her own, and I have :19.890 --> :24.650
no interest in any of the private documents they had sent her.
:24.650 --> :33.060
Apparently, they tried to call her -- unfortunately,
I suspect they all tried to call her within :33.060 --> :40.010
a few minutes of each other to tell her the
same thing -- and she got very angry with :40.010 --> :41.010
all of them. :41.010 --> :46.560
She told them, very rudely, that in fact my
email address is hers, and people needed to :46.560 --> :52.530
stop telling her that it wasn't, and why hadn't
any of them sent her any emails yet confirming :52.530 --> :56.450
all of this stuff she was trying to do? :56.450 --> :58.430
Not long after, I separately got apologetic
emails from each of them, the insurance agent, :58.430 --> :02.671
the travel agent, and the mortgage broker,
telling me that they were very sorry, but :02.671 --> :08.490
Irene was VERY insistent that this was her
email address, so they couldn't remove it :08.490 --> :09.650
from her account. :09.650 --> :16.000
This seems very stupid to me, but I am not
American and do not understand American rules. :16.000 --> :20.880
So I told them that since I was apparently
Irene, and I am completely sure that I did :20.880 --> :28.520
not apply for a mortgage, or for insurance,
that all of those should be cancelled immediately. :28.520 --> :34.661
The mortgage broker told me that if we did
that, we may not meet the date required in :34.661 --> :36.170
the contract for the removal of subjects. :36.170 --> :41.020
I told him that since I, Irene, was not applying
for a mortgage, that didn't matter. :41.020 --> :45.260
The travel agent, who it seems had received
the majority of the earful from Irene, seemed :45.260 --> :48.550
completely indifferent to my request to cancel "my" trip to Venice.
:48.550 --> :54.370 She did tell me that there might be a cancellation
fee for the original flight to Frankfurt. :54.370 --> :58.810
(Why she was flying to Frankfurt to get to Venice, I have no idea.
:58.810 --> :01.710 I assume there are no direct flights to Italy?)
:01.710 --> :07.670 So I told her to cancel all the rest of the
flights and hotel rooms except the original :07.670 --> :09.000
flight to Frankfurt. :09.000 --> :11.630
Don't wanna cost Irene that extra $20 after all. :11.630 --> :16.920
I have not heard anything further, and I am
a little sad about that, as there's a part :16.920 --> :20.810
of me that loves the idea of Irene flying
to Frankfurt, getting there and realising :20.810 --> :22.730
all her connecting and return flights are cancelled.
:22.730 --> :25.140 And I do wonder if she ever bought that house.
:25.140 --> :29.330 But at least the emails have stopped!I live
in a duplex and we share a wall. :29.330 --> :33.890
The neighbor that moved in is constantly screaming
and berating her kids every single day at :33.890 --> :35.430
the top of her lungs. :35.430 --> :40.340
My dad went over to talk to her about it and she apologized to him.
:40.340 --> :46.930
I messaged our property management about insulating
the walls, due to the noise, since they were :46.930 --> :48.885
already planning to do the attic, and I guess they told her.
:48.885 --> :52.190 This p***** her off, so now she’s being
loud on purpose. :52.190 --> :57.750
The walls are super thin, so I heard her entire
conversation with the property manager calling :57.750 --> :03.120
my dad all kinds of names and then hanging
up to tell her cousin what she was going to :03.120 --> :04.120
do in retaliation. :04.120 --> :05.120 Here’s the revenge.
:05.120 --> :08.670 She obviously doesn’t understand how thin
the walls all or doesn’t care. :08.670 --> :13.750
I heard her yelling on the phone with a former
property management place and she apparently :13.750 --> :16.870
caused some damage to the tune of $1000. :16.870 --> :23.029
She blocked their number, but from the conversation
I was able to look up their contact information :23.029 --> :27.620
and sent them the necessary info to follow
up with her in case they need to file a suit. :27.620 --> :29.220
Good luck paying your rent. :29.220 --> :33.000
She already complains about money and no one
helping her out (I wonder why).Some years :33.000 --> :35.670
ago, we started to get phone calls for a rather upscale downtown restaurant.
:35.670 --> :39.840 We would tell them that they had the wrong
number, but they kept coming so, there had :39.840 --> :41.180
to be a reason. :41.180 --> :45.390
After a few tries we were able to find out where they got our number.
:45.390 --> :49.190 One of the restaurant managers had cards printed
up with our number on it. :49.190 --> :52.220
We called the restaurant a few times and informed them what was happening.
:52.220 --> :55.880 They said that they would take care of it
but didn't. :55.880 --> :01.150
I stopped trying the nice route when they
basically told me to f off and stop calling. :01.150 --> :04.640
I stopped calling as they requested and started to accept reservations.
:04.640 --> :09.500 They probably didn't notice since the first
ones were for small parties that could be :09.500 --> :10.500
worked in. :10.500 --> :16.040
The calls finally stopped soon after I took
a reservation for a party of 12 at 7pm. :16.040 --> :22.800
I felt a little sorry for party expecting
a table to be ready for them, but I considered :22.800 --> :27.250
that to be collateral damage.This happened
20+ years ago, back in the days when everybody :27.250 --> :29.230
had a landline with an answering machine. :29.230 --> :30.230
Yes, I am old. :30.230 --> :35.230
I moved to a new city, got my phone line hooked
up, and almost immediately started getting :35.230 --> :37.950
phone calls for whoever owned my phone number before me.
:37.950 --> :40.490 I'll call him Bob, because that was his name.
:40.490 --> :43.620 The number of phone calls was ridiculous.
:43.620 --> :47.330 I'd come home from work to at least 5 or 6
messages on the answering machine, asking :47.330 --> :48.450
Bob to call them back. :48.450 --> :54.430
Through out the evening, and as late as midnight
(sometimes later) I'd get more calls for Bob. :54.430 --> :56.740
All day long on the weekends. :56.740 --> :01.480
It seemed like a mix of business, bill collectors and friends and family of Bob.
:01.480 --> :06.830 Each person I talked to, I would explain that
this wasn't Bob's number anymore, and I hoped :06.830 --> :12.910
that eventually the people leaving messages
would figure out that they had the wrong number... :12.910 --> :19.110
but nope, 5 months later and I was STILL getting
8 or 10 phone calls a day for Bob. :19.110 --> :20.110 So..
:20.110 --> :22.270 I changed the message on my answering machine.
:22.270 --> :25.589 I started it with "If you are calling for
Bob, stop calling this number, BOB IS DEAD. :25.589 --> :28.270
If you are calling for Wandering, leave a message after the beep"
:28.270 --> :29.270 It seemed to work. :29.270 --> :34.460
Over the next month or so, the number of messages
had dropped to just one or two a day. :34.460 --> :37.820
And then, one day I got THE message: :37.820 --> :39.080 "This is Bob.
:39.080 --> :40.100 I AM NOT DEAD!!! :40.100 --> :42.460
STOP TELLING PEOPLE THAT I AM DEAD!!!! :42.460 --> :44.140
You made my mother cry!! :44.140 --> :45.490
Change your message immediately!!!" :45.490 --> :47.370
I laughed and left my message alone. :47.370 --> :51.450
Bob must have finally started giving his new
number to people, because the wrong numbers :51.450 --> :56.640
dropped to just one every week or so after
that.We ordered a meal from Just Eat, which :56.640 --> :01.210
is a UK delivery service like Door Dash but
with (at the time, this was a few years ago) :01.210 --> :08.690
much better customer services - one of the
key differences at the time between this service :08.690 --> :14.501
and Door Dash is that the restaurants used
their own drivers, although since then Just :14.501 --> :17.140
Eat also now have the gig economy drivers too. :17.140 --> :21.140
This means that the drivers' time and pay was nothing to do with Just Eat.
:21.140 --> :24.589 For some reason I cannot recall we had ordered
as cash on delivery instead of paying by card, :24.589 --> :28.240
our order came to £22.50 and we paid with a £20 and £10 note.
:28.240 --> :32.710 The driver who delivered it said he had no
change and would go back to the restaurant :32.710 --> :33.710
and get it. :33.710 --> :37.120
He doesn't return so we phone the restaurant,
only to be angrily told "We are not a bank!" :37.120 --> :38.780
and have the phone hung up on us. :38.780 --> :44.570
So we went to Just Eat's customer support,
who in turn apparently threatened to remove :44.570 --> :47.350
the restaurant from their service for non-compliance
if we did not get our change. :47.350 --> :55.110
So the next day the driver comes to our door
again, and this time he has a £10 note in :55.110 --> :56.110
his hand. :56.110 --> :58.280 He then asked us for the £2.50 change.
:58.280 --> :59.660 "Sorry, we're not a bank!"
:59.660 --> :04.370 He had to go back to the restaurant again
and get exact change, then come back and gave :04.370 --> :05.760
us our £7.50 change. :05.760 --> :11.660
The driver thought it was hilarious, he said
he doesn't care, he gets paid either way for :11.660 --> :12.660
his time. :12.660 --> :17.149
He said his boss was absolutely fuming but
couldn't risk losing the Just Eat business. :17.149 --> :18.149 Petty?
:18.149 --> :19.149 Absolutely. :19.149 --> :20.149
Did we ever dare order from that restaurant again? :20.149 --> :22.880
H*** noMy friend's apartment requires online
registration for 24hr parking passes, and :22.880 --> :27.440
sometimes that means arriving at 3 or so in
the morning and having to renew within 10 :27.440 --> :33.370
minutes at 3am the next night to keep it going
(since it's impossible to renew in advance). :33.370 --> :37.540
At first I thought it would be inconsequential
if I was a few minutes behind, so my alarm :37.540 --> :42.160
went off and got dressed and used the restroom
but by the time I got out to my car to replace :42.160 --> :47.089
the code in the window hardly 15 minutes had passed and my car was already gone.
:47.089 --> :51.480 I thought I'd just been unlucky until it happened
again a couple weeks later. :51.480 --> :56.480
I just couldn't get over the fact that somebody
could be so hawkish towards residents' guests, :56.480 --> :02.310
especially in such a low income area, and
at this point I'd paid almost $700 of my measly :02.310 --> :07.630
$841 monthly income in tow fees, which put
me in a pretty dire and desperate situation :07.630 --> :13.460
over what should have been a routine and straightforward visit with a friend.
:13.460 --> :16.360 That kind of thing just shouldn't happen,
you know? :16.360 --> :21.060
I shouldn't have to be so stressed and vigilant
to avoid a devastating financial loss every :21.060 --> :23.279
time I want to hang out with my friend. :23.279 --> :29.500
So the next night I waited for them to show
up to tow my car just to start it up and give :29.500 --> :36.260
them the middle finger when they showed up
two minutes later, and even when I'm not in :36.260 --> :41.279
town I've been registering to park there at
ungodly hours just to bait them into showing :41.279 --> :43.730
up to find nothing there when it expires. :43.730 --> :46.180
I'll continue to do so until I'm satisfied. :46.180 --> :50.770
A comment on their BBB page complained about
their antics, that they stalk around low-income :50.770 --> :56.300
apartments and swoop in to pick up rides when
it's less likely that people are awake to :56.300 --> :01.540
renew, and complained that they couldn't make rent that month because of it.
:01.540 --> :04.709 The address registered for the business was
a beautiful two-story home. :04.709 --> :07.360
I hope he enjoys the h*** out of it. :07.360 --> :11.220
I hope it's worth the pain he's caused.So, it's around 8:15 here, right?
:11.220 --> :15.750 Well, it's finally gotten cooler so my neighbor
(single dad with two boys probably around :15.750 --> :19.370
8 or 9) let his kids start playing kickball in our foyer.
:19.370 --> :25.319 My son(17m) and I(39f) are having one of our
chats and suddenly their kick ball SLAMS into :25.319 --> :26.429
my screen door. :26.429 --> :27.549 Ok, that's kids.
:27.549 --> :31.629 It made a loud sound so that should spook
them, right? :31.629 --> :33.490 Nope, few seconds later BAM!
:33.490 --> :35.700 Well, I have a doorbell cam with audio.
:35.700 --> :37.009 I got an evil idea. :37.009 --> :41.299
I pulled up my cam app and went to live feed. :41.299 --> :46.580
They were still kicking it against my door,
so I hit the call button and whispered "I :46.580 --> :47.580
can see you...." :47.580 --> :51.390
They stopped dead for just a heartbeat and
then ran like h*** into their apartment!!! :51.390 --> :54.690
My kid and I have been DYING for like 10 minutes. :54.690 --> :55.690
Ah, sweet revenge. :55.690 --> :58.390
My son was like, "You just gave kids nightmares, mom!"
:58.390 --> :59.950 Then we high fived and laughed some more.
:59.950 --> :02.820 I'm an awful person.I have a somewhat common
email address that people with the same first :02.820 --> :06.570
initial and last name tend to abuse when they don't want spam.
:06.570 --> :12.389 This had led to some.. interesting, emails
up to and including me emailing an admin asking :12.389 --> :18.539
his user to please change his email before
I cancel his metro pass and that I really :18.539 --> :21.480
didn't need to know about his beastiality fetish. :21.480 --> :28.629
Recently this has moved to someone not wanting
to be bothered with their food order receipts. :28.629 --> :34.409
I'm fairly fed up with this unsecure behavior,
so I waited as the receipts were sometimes :34.409 --> :35.850
three times a day. :35.850 --> :36.850 Tonight, I struck.
:36.850 --> :41.379 The email came in for a place they've ordered
from repeatedly, so I called in, said I'd :41.379 --> :44.399
changed my mind and wanted to cancel my order. :44.399 --> :46.940
About 20 minutes later I got the refund notification.
:46.940 --> :51.480 Dunno if the dude got notification that his
order was cancelled, but I kind of hope he :51.480 --> :54.480
drove his fuel guzzler over there to find out*. :54.480 --> :59.239
Same dude also signed me up for marketing
materials with JEGS.Sorry for the long narrative.. :59.239 --> :04.940
I (32M ) worked for a family owned large scale
retail chain . Even though they had nearly :04.940 --> :09.159
a hundred showrooms, the business still operated
like a typical family owned business. :09.159 --> :13.590
The owner's childhood friend was the senior
advisor ( SM) to the company and his four :13.590 --> :17.570
kids were put on varying positions of power straight out of high school.
:17.570 --> :21.580 I was the only guy who knew the technical
details of the product we were selling. :21.580 --> :27.909
I was responsible for marketing the products
but also for training, recruitment, operations :27.909 --> :31.110
support, troubleshooting and anything else that they could think of.
:31.110 --> :35.749 They had me on a contract of non compete when
I joined them. :35.749 --> :42.059
Because of the highly specific nature of the
industry I specialized in, I didn't have a :42.059 --> :47.260
shot of getting into any of our competition
nor could I easily switch over to another :47.260 --> :48.260
industry. :48.260 --> :55.769
They had me in a tight spot and kept me on
a payscale that was suitable for a junior :55.769 --> :02.789
executive, even though I had been handling projects worth millions.
:02.789 --> :09.249 The worst part was the senior advisor SM would
always try to nag me with little things like :09.249 --> :14.100
not submitting time stamps for any client
meetings or taking more than half an hour :14.100 --> :15.100
for lunch. :15.100 --> :19.009
SM would also tell the boss's kids that they
should have better control over me or I will :19.009 --> :20.009
replace them. :20.009 --> :25.600
The guy had a history of destroying the career
of anyone in the company who grew close to :25.600 --> :26.600
the boss. :26.600 --> :29.999
The kids took his advice seriously and ended up bossing over me on everything.
:29.999 --> :36.950 I had to pass every email or proposals through
them to the boss and if I slip up, they started :36.950 --> :40.369
raising complaints to their dad about it. :40.369 --> :46.090
The boss would inevitably take their side
and ended up telling me to work under their :46.090 --> :47.090
instructions. :47.090 --> :51.460
I had been working on a major contract with
a high stake client for over six months. :51.460 --> :55.330
I had researched, targeted, networked and
did alot of ground work to get a meeting with :55.330 --> :56.330
the guy. :56.330 --> :03.239
When the guy called me in for a meeting at
last , I decided to attend it and win the :03.239 --> :07.259
project before bringing the boss and his family on the loop.
:07.259 --> :11.350 The client was happy with the level of technical
and product specific information I provided :11.350 --> :12.720
and placed a massive order. :12.720 --> :16.269
We are talking about a single contract worth 2.5 million dollar in value.
:16.269 --> :22.080 The product in question is a very high value
, premium item that needs to be custom developed :22.080 --> :23.080
by specialists. :23.080 --> :27.820
The client was very specific on the need for
individualized customization for each item. :27.820 --> :32.740
Even though every instinct in my gut was telling
me I should take it straight to the boss, :32.740 --> :35.289
I decided to follow the protocol in place. :35.289 --> :40.299
The kids were furious I didn't keep them in
loop on such a high value project, but were :40.299 --> :41.840
happy as well about the deal. :41.840 --> :44.769
They told me to take a long weekend and return after three days.
:44.769 --> :50.019 I took a well deserved mini vacation and returned
to office. :50.019 --> :56.679
My boss called me in to let me know that his
kids and SM had landed a multimillion dollar :56.679 --> :01.070
deal and that I need to run support on the deal. :01.070 --> :09.220
There I sat in a conference room, surrounded
by the four kids, SM who looked smug and the :09.220 --> :13.320
dad who seemed to know what was happening but still playing along.
:13.320 --> :17.399 I told them that I was the one who got the deal.
:17.399 --> :20.409 The eldest kid said " Yeah at our direction!
:20.409 --> :23.909 " . The daughter piped in saying , " You are
just the employee , remember that. :23.909 --> :25.360
You work at our direction. :25.360 --> :28.450
You did your job and we gave you an amazing reward of a long weekend.
:28.450 --> :29.730 Be happy with that." :29.730 --> :33.230
I sat there in shock as what they said sank in. :33.230 --> :37.679
They were weaseling out of paying any bonus or incentive for the deal.
:37.679 --> :44.620 Even though there was clear papertrial and
evidence that I was the one who landed the :44.620 --> :49.330
client and got them the deal, they were shafting me out of paying the bonus.
:49.330 --> :51.529 The boss looked on without saying anything.
:51.529 --> :57.179 He seemed a little ashamed but ended up siding
with his kids as he said " it doesn't matter :57.179 --> :58.460
who got the deal. :58.460 --> :04.470
The main thing is, you are the one who will
work on the project to make sure it is delivered." :04.470 --> :08.389
By this point , I had been working for over 9 years with these people.
:08.389 --> :13.009 I had mediocre pay and no prospect of career
growth. :13.009 --> :26.779 I knew I was not going to get another job
in the industry I love in the country I lived :26.779 --> :27.999 in.
:27.999 --> :40.059 I stood up and looked the boss straight in
the eye and said , " I am done. :40.059 --> :42.950
I cannot work with your kids or SM anymore. :42.950 --> :45.230
" I left the room without a backwards glance. :45.230 --> :55.859
Turns out , SM had hoped I would do this and
jumped at the opportunity to bad mouth me :55.859 --> :57.230
to the boss. :57.230 --> :13.419 The kids piled on
and the boss gave me the notice to leave immediately
:13.419 --> :19.629 rather than serve the three months of notice
period. :19.629 --> :30.191 Apparently SM had advised the boss that I
might sabotage the business if I stayed on :30.191 --> :35.200
and that his kids and him could handle any work that I was handling.
:35.200 --> :44.940 So after 9 years of pouring my life and soul
into this business, I left with only a weak :44.940 --> :54.039
thanks from the boss and a smirk on the faces of the kids.
:54.039 --> :58.950 My wife was supportive and she luckily had
an opportunity in another country. :58.950 --> :02.289
We relocated within two months and here I am now. :02.289 --> :06.600
It has been almost a year and I remain unemployed
as I had no market exposure in the new country. :06.600 --> :24.259
But I am taking this time to be a stay at
home dad and enjoy every minute of it with :24.259 --> :25.259 my son.
:25.259 --> :27.399 I have never been so relaxed and happy.
:27.399 --> :33.609 Almost every employee in the company is in
good terms with me and they have been updating :33.609 --> :34.639
me on everything. :34.639 --> :43.200
Turns out, the boss assigned his eldest daughter
and son to finalize the deal with the client. :43.200 --> :49.730
They set up a meeting to let him know they
will be the ones to handle his project. :49.730 --> :53.509
When he asked them specific details on the
customization, they couldn't get their facts :53.509 --> :54.509
straight. :54.509 --> :55.509 The client ended up cancelling the deal.
:55.509 --> :58.919 SM tried to scramble and arrange another meeting
with the client. :58.919 --> :06.639
Even then they didn't have anyone who was
able to answer all the queries the client :06.639 --> :07.639 had.
:07.639 --> :12.480 Apparently the client got annoyed and asked
about me. :12.480 --> :19.809
When he learnt that I was no longer working,
he told them that he is not going to take :19.809 --> :22.940
any more meetings with them. :22.940 --> :28.700
They lost a project that would have given
them a million dollars in pure profit . They :28.700 --> :38.149
soon lost a few more existing tender bids
for not being able to provide adequate technical :38.149 --> :39.149
details. :39.149 --> :40.889 One day ingot a call from SM.
:40.889 --> :51.710 He was all cheerful asking how I am enjoying
my break and if I am ready to get back to :51.710 --> :58.080
work, as if nothing had happened. :58.080 --> :01.669
I asked him what he meant. :01.669 --> :03.820
He said " I can take you on as a consultant... :03.820 --> :10.190
You work from that country and provide remote
support and I will pay you directly. :10.190 --> :19.009
" I asked him if the boss was aware of this deal. :19.009 --> :28.099
He didn't answer me and ended the call asking me to think about it.
:28.099 --> :34.380 A few weeks later the boss calls me and asked
me to join back immediately. :34.380 --> :39.080
He said " we will give you a 10% raise . Just join within the month.
:39.080 --> :40.080 " :40.080 --> :49.979
I refused and he blew his temper. :49.979 --> :17.059
He accused me of being petty and that I should
take this opportunity to get back to work :17.059 --> :26.570
. He threatened me further stating he had
already spoken to all the local competitors :26.570 --> :40.529
with whom he has a backroom agreement not to hire me at any cost.
:40.529 --> :49.749 I still refused and said " I have never had
a more satisfying responsibility than the :49.749 --> :53.940
one I have right now. :53.940 --> :06.389
I will never go back to your firm and best
of luck running it with your kids and SM. :06.389 --> :07.389 "
:07.389 --> :17.239 I still don't have a job and I am not keen
on jumping into the next opportunity unless :17.239 --> :23.979
it offers me a balanced work life. :23.979 --> :29.140
The boss and his kids continue to lose clients
and the business has started shrinking now. :29.140 --> :05.769
They still continue to bad mouth me to the
local industry experts for being so petty :05.769 --> :17.749
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today we've got a crazy story of Revenge causing somebody to drop out of med
school we'll get to that in a bit but first I got the head chef fired this was
not just revenge for me it taught me a valuable life lesson I must always stand
up to my bullies in my early years I was the target of bullies everywhere from
elementary school to high school I was bullied even by teachers my parents were
Swede Christians who did not like to make trouble if someone slapped me the
right response was to turn the other cheek they never went to school with me
to raise heck for a student bullying me they just warned me to avoid bullies and
stay out of their way I wonder if that was because they had very little money
and did not want to be intimidated by the parents of the other kids in the
school I attended they were also not educated so they often stayed away from
formal school events and parent-teacher meetings at some point I got tired of
reporting my teachers and other students to my parents and just gave up I let
people bully me for so long that it became a norm for me people crossed me
because they knew they could do that and
get away with it after school I moved to the city where I went to a small
culinary school even though I was the brightest student in my class and we
were all adults I was bullied by some of my classmates it made no sense to me I
thought that since we were all grown and
no longer in high school I wouldn't have to deal with bullies anymore I spoke to
my family's priest and he smiled and told me that bullies were everywhere he
advised me to always report bullies to higher authorities and not let them get
away with bullying me I took his advice and the week after I reported one of the
guys who bullied me to the school's administrator he was expelled
immediately because the school had a low tolerance for bullying and my reporting
him was the last straw and two other people had reported him sadly the world
Works in favor of bullies my bully was also the class Jester so everyone hated
me for having him expelled I was ostracized and Bully lead even more
people knew me as the snitch and stayed away from me they never included me in
any of the fun activities that helped because I was able to focus squarely on
studying and practicals and graduated as the best student in my class that year
after graduating from culinary school I moved back to my parents house it was
hard for me to be around them and not earn at all my parents had me later in
their lives so they were old and the fact that they still had to work made me
very uncomfortable I tried to get a job in several restaurants in the city but I
was either overqualified or there were no vacancies the food industry in my
country was highly saturated people were hardly looking to hire more chefs still
dealing with the misery of my unemployment my dad got ill and passed a
month after it was a sad time for my family my mom had her sister move in
with us with her two children just so she wouldn't be alone I still didn't
have a job but I was determined to get one I moved to the city for for a while
and did private catering but just like with restaurants it was saturated too
the demand for private Caterers was very low and most people already had their
preferred chefs since food is a very private and personal thing not many
people were ready to try new chefs I knew deep down that if I wanted to break
even in the food business and achieve my dream of owning my own restaurant I
would have to move out of my country I wanted to but I kept thinking of my mom
I was her only child and she had just been widowed I worried about what my
absence would do to her one day I spoke to the aunt who lived with us about my
dilemma and she encouraged me to do what I had to do that same day I told my mom
that I was considering leaving the country and she had a fit she didn't
even listen to me I had to leave the house because she was very upset my aunt
managed to convince her eventually but before then I'd applied for a Visa
already and was communicating with a pen
pal I'd made over here many years before that one my mom gave her blessing I was
only just waiting for my Visa approval as soon as it was approved she gave me
some money I got some money from a former teacher for my plane ticket and I
traveled my pen pal was kind enough to let me stay in his guest room and I
lived with him for two months while working two different jobs as a waiter
he lived in the countryside so it was a lot more difficult for me to get a
decent job in the kitchen there were hardly any restaurants that served
InterContinental dishes since there was hardly a demand for them I saved all
through the two months till I could move to the city when I moved to the city I
found a small apartment I could share with a young lady who was a waitress and
also an aspiring actress she told me about an opening for a waiter where she
worked and I applied it was a big hotel in the center of the city they were
known for their great meals meals that cater to people across different
continents the hostel was so huge and beautiful I'd never seen anything that
modern and gorgeous amount home country as soon as I walked into the hotel's
restaurant I knew that I didn't just want to wait tables there I wanted to
cook in it I kept looking around taking in the beauty of the restaurant the
cultural decor and the different sections made for the different kinds of
meals it was simply amazing I'm a born chef and nothing gave me more joy than
looking at kitchens I love to look at kitchens and pass my judgment on them
that day I wandered into the hotel's kitchen and was spotted by a small man
and a huge chef's hat and an oversized coat what are you doing here he asked
glaring Emmy I'm sorry I apologized looking over at him and into the kitchen
I just couldn't help myself no unauthorized entry He barked at me I'm
sorry I apologized again I'm here for the waiters interview he pointed in a
direction without looking up at me I thanked him profusely and walked in the
direction he pointed at my interview went well and I was hired immediately
the hotel was holding a huge conference where were different people from
different parts of the world would be in attendance and they needed many hands I
worked in the hotel's restaurant for months patiently waiting for when there
would be an opening in the kitchen so I could apply while I was waiting for an
opening and waiting tables the head chef resigned he'd been struggling with bad
health and his children wanted him to retire he stubbornly refused to do that
for a while but soon gave in when a self deteriorated As Time passed the hotel
tried all it could to retain him but he wouldn't stay one of the Sous chefs was
promoted and became the head he was the small man I met in the kitchen the first
day I was at the hotel's restaurant I knew from his accent that he was from my
home country I also knew that he could tell from my accent too but he never
tried to speak to me or establish any kind of personal relationship he barely
even acknowledged me one day one of the guys at work at his birthday and since
it was a busy day and night we were all at work after we were done catering the
to the guest that night the restaurants manager suggested someone cook something
to celebrate the birthday guy the chefs had been working all day and were tired
so I offered to cook something the guys at work didn't even know I could cook
the only person who knew I cooked was my roommate and since she hardly ever
socialized at work since she was busy featuring in every movie as an extra she
probably never got to tell anyone at work that I cooked that night I made the
best pasta any one of them had ever eaten they said that themselves the
accolades I had received from friends were overwhelming even from the manager
who encouraged me to apply for the position of sous chef it's my birthday
but everyone loves you the birthday guy joked I don't hate you for that as long
as you can cook me that tasty pasta sometime in the future I smiled and
promised to do that in the future I also told my manager that I'd put in the
application for the position of sous chef everyone was smiling and having a
good time except for my country man the head chef he looked very disturbed as
part of the test for the position I had to cook two full course meals which the
restaurant's manager the other sous chef
and the head chef will supervise and get a taste of all through my cooking the
head chef made me very uncomfortable he yelled scoffed and sometimes even
laughed at my process it was so obvious that he was trying to sabotage my
efforts luckily the other chefs ignored me and judged me well the manager was
impressed too and the week after that I resumed my job as a sous chef in the
restaurant my roommate got a better job and moved out of our tiny apartment but
my salary was increased and I was able to afford to live on my own I converted
her bedroom into a guest room life was good except for when I was at work with
the head chef he made working unbearable for me cooking is what I love doing the
most but it became strenuous doing it around him I could never do anything
right died he criticized anything I did and bad-mouthed me to the other chefs
when I told the community of guys from my country they all shared their
experience of how sometimes people from our countries see one another as threats
of sorts before then I had just thought the head chef was just being
unnecessarily difficult because I was new I noticed he never treated the other
chefs like that if anything he went out of his way to be kind and nice to them I
continued to tolerate his difficult behavior until one day I was in the
middle of cooking when I realized I needed to pee I kept holding it in until
I couldn't anymore I rushed out to the restroom did my business and hurried
back when I returned to the kitchen I saw that the head chef was overseeing
the pot of pasta I was working on he was
with the restaurant's manager and he was
yelling as I walked up to them they both regarded me with anger what Chef
abandons his cooking pot and leaves for the bathroom my manager asked an
irritation but before I could say anything my boss started to yell at me
he told the manager that it was characteristic of me to disappear from
the kitchen whilst cooking Not only was that a lie but it was also a very
malicious lie I had never abandoned my food while cooking before that never the
manager invited me to his office later and threatened to let me go if I kept up
with that attitude I was too tired to even deny it or defend myself and I
suspected that the head chef knew I'd be too timid to defend myself I took a day
off work to process all that was happening at work I needed to decide if
I wanted to quit or continue to work under a boss that hated me I thought
quitting would not be a good idea I had worked very hard to get there and I
didn't want to go to another restaurant and start all over I also loved the
restaurant at the hotel the kitchen was incredibly comfortable to work in and
the pay was good I decided that rather than quit I would bring what I thought
was the head Chef's fear to reality I would take his job I resumed work with a
renewed determination to bring him down I was going to over salt his meals
regularly but there were cameras all over the kitchen and I couldn't do that
the opportunity came later when the hotel's manager wanted to host some of
the hotel's business partners to a Sunday dinner at his home the head chef
was to cook them dinner that evening and since most people didn't want the extra
work I took up the job to wait on them the evening of that Sunday I went over
to the hotel manager's home the head chef was already there with the food
items he frowned as soon as he saw me he wasn't expecting me but one of the
waiters to show up but I'd offer to take up the shift for the waiter we went
about working in the manager's kitchen the restaurant's manager walked in to
tell us that the hotel's manager had assured his guests that the head chef
was fantastic and he reminded him to make the manager proud that made me even
happier since it would only make what I was about about to do more devastating
for the head chef as is our signatory meal the head chef chose to prepare a
special kind of pasta he gave me a small number of peppers to chop but I added
more and saved it for when he would be done cooking I waited patiently for when
the manager would call him and empty the pepper into the boiling pot of pasta
when he went in to see the guests and talk about what he would be serving I
emptied a small container of pepper into
the pasta as expected most of the guests could not eat their meal because it was
too spicy and the ones who dared were drenched in sweat it was very
embarrassing for the hotel manager who naturally told the restaurants manager
the head chef was severely embarrassed the restaurant's manager was very
disappointed and he antagonized the head chef for a very long time his food lost
credibility for what had happened and it was difficult to recover from that kind
of mistake he eventually had to quit his job just like that my my bully
disappeared now I no longer just avoid bullies I go out of my way to destroy
them now I'm not saying if you have a bully in your workplace that you need to
go out of your way to sabotage their career but I would say that if you are a
bully to somebody you can't be too surprised if the person you're acting
rudely to and bullying is silently planning something to happen when your
backs turned like surely as soon as op walked into this place instead of a
waiter they knew there was a possibility of something happening and it's almost
certainly because they knew they earned it our next story is I caused my
boyfriend to drop out of med school in all my 23 years on Earth my mom had
tried her best to Shield me from the things of young guys and men as her only
daughter she tried to protect me from going through what she went through as a
young woman when my mom was 24 she got dumped by her boyfriend after she
informed him she was pregnant with their child he felt he was too young to be a
father so he disappeared from her life my mom wanting to Shield me from that
kind of pain made sure that I attended a girls only high school after graduating
she had no choice than to let me go to a public school and mix with all sorts of
people in my first year on campus I lived a relatively boring and sad life
my classmates called me a nerd because whenever I'm not in the classroom I was
either in the library or back in my hostel I'm actively avoiding men I
focused all my attention on my studies and it was no surprise I was the best
student in my class after the first Academic Year in my second year on
campus I met a friend Sandra Sandra was everything I wasn't she was outspoken
easy going and the men's favorite she was always involved in social activities
and gradually I began to covet her lifestyle I felt bad for myself so I
decided to follow Sandra to a birthday dinner it was there I met Frederick a
fourth year student of medicine and surgery in my University
we immediately started talking and I realized that I thoroughly enjoy talking
to him because we share the same opinion on a lot of Concepts and ideologies we
argued a bit when the discussion tilted towards feminism we argued laughed and
agreed then we laughed again that night ended with me smiling to myself as it
went back to my hostel it was love at first sight as we didn't remember to
exchange contacts it was two weeks later I met him in the parking lot of my
coursemates building our eyes met and I felt a kind of electrifying shock run
through my body he called my name and I knew at that spot that I'd been hooked
he asked me out on a date and I agreed our first date was everything beautiful
he took me to a very fancy and cozy restaurant when we entered we were
directed to a secluded corner with beautiful candles on the table the
atmosphere made me fall more I love me a thoughtful and romantic man we ate to
our Phil had small talk in between meals and danced after when we were about to
part ways he dropped a light kiss on my forehead it felt like I was floating on
fluffy clouds and I ended up dreaming about us getting married the next day
Frederick asked me to be his girlfriend while we were chatting on WhatsApp
without giving it a second thought I agreed immediately so we started dating
and two weeks later I went to his place for a sleepover before the weekend ended
we were already making plans of how we'll spend the rest of our lives
together weeks rolled into months and the love we had for each other had
increased tremendously he was my go-to person for everything whenever I had a
problem with my academics I always told him and he helped in the best way he
could he was also my gist partner we gossip about everything and nothing
during my 22nd birthday he made me feel like the most loved person on Earth he
stayed awake till midnight to be the first to wish me a happy birthday he
sang a lovely Birthday song to me and during the day he threw a surprise party
for me he gifted me my first iPhone on my birthday and on his birthday I gifted
him a laptop I learned to be vulnerable with him he knew about my weak points
and areas I consider too ugly for the public he accepted me with all my flaws
and I accepted him too just the way he was ours was a match made in heaven his
neighbors referred to me as their wife we went out often and we usually came
back to his place to enjoy the rest of the night together it was Blissful while
it lasted one year into the relationship
when I was in my penultimate year at the University he encouraged me to move in
with him majorly to save cost and also for us to be together more often I
gladly obliged and moved in with him when my house rent expired six months
after moving in with my boyfriend I fell
seriously sick my boyfriend took me to a
private clinic and it was then disclosed to us that I was pregnant we were short
of words never in our wildest imaginations did we Harbor the thought
of nursing a baby this soon when we got home my boyfriend suggested that I go
for an evacuation I initially refused but he was adamant he didn't want the
presence of a baby in our lives to ruin what we had together so the day after he
took me to a clinic where it was removed after the operation my boyfriend nursed
me like a baby he made my recovery process easy just like every other
relationship we had our very rough moments sometimes we fought and argued
but we still have found a way of settling it and getting back together
until the day I found out that my first boyfriend who claimed he loved me dearly
is a Serial cheat in my final year part of our graduation requirement was for us
to embark on a field trip the trip was to last for five days I informed my
boyfriend about it and I started preparing in Earnest for it on the D-Day
two hours before the train we were supposed to take arrived I remembered
that I left my favorite pair of sneakers
at home I then rushed home to pick it up on get home I met two pairs of slippers
on the doormat as opposed to the single pair I saw when leaving the house in the
morning I knew my boyfriend invited a visitor immediately after I left I was
curious to know who the person was and instead of knocking I decided to peep
through the window what I saw next left me dumb struck I was mad with anger I
saw Stars it felt like my soul had exited my body what I saw was too bad to
be true I felt betrayed hurt and sick at the same time the pain I felt at that
moment was deeper than any pain I've ever felt before not even when my
favorite uncle died was I this hurt I died a thousand deaths I caught my
boyfriend sleeping with Sandra I decided not to make a scene but do something
that'll make him feel as heard and betrayed as he made me feel I left them
for my field trip on the journey I was thinking of a Thousand and One things to
do to make him regret ever meeting me I got back from the field trip and
continued to act like nothing changed I behaved like the very good girlfriend I
was but I didn't allow him to touch me again Thrice I had made up excuses to
leave the house for two to three days just to catch him in his full landering
act my boyfriend was sleeping with everything in a skirt I felt disgusted
and filled with much hatred for him I was waiting patiently for the best time
to strike a week after my trip Sandra had the guts to ask me why I stopped
talking to her I told her cause you're a hoe witch angrily she slapped me then I
pulled off her wig grabbed her by the neck and warned her severely not to ever
touch me again she tried to wave my hands off of her but I held on tightly
and gave her a resounding slap my course mates around opened their mouths in
amazement they'd never seen me in that form before after the activities of that
day I went straight to the management of Sandra's private hostel I reported to
them that she was harboring a squatter in her room which was against the codes
and conducts of the hall they went to ascertain the truth of my claim and she
was caught red-handed at that moment she was summoned to their conference room
and the manager made an announcement that left Sandra in tears she said
having found that you sent Johnson have violated the codes and conducts
governing the proper functioning of Queen Elizabeth II's Hall you are hereby
ejected from the hall with immediate effect failure to pack out immediately
will attract a fine she felt really sad because she recently renewed her rent
and it was over fifteen hundred dollars of her hard earned money when she was
crying at the entrance of the conference Hall I passed her front and let out a
loud laugh she was shocked to see me she knew I was the one that betrayed her
before she could accuse me I told her that this is what you get for sleeping
with your best friend's boyfriend that incident made Sandra avoid me like a
plague my boyfriend grew more restless and agitated by the day he knew I was
angry with him because I'd refuse to let him touch me he had begged to hook up
more times than I could count but I always turned him down even though he
slept in the same house his constant plea made me more Angry so I stopped
cooking for him I made food for for only
myself and I cleaned only my part of the bedroom I stopped helping him wash his
clothes and doing his dirty dishes I was prepared for war so one day he told me
he was going out for a drink at that point I knew I had driven him past his
endurance limit my boyfriend hardly drinks because whenever he gets drunk he
loses control and behaves like a Savage I then decided that that night was the
perfect time to strike I was ready to get the beastly part of him out that
night and show to the whole world the animal of a man that he is six hours
later his high pitched Out Of Tune song he was humming announced his arrival my
boyfriend was stoned drunk and high he was singing Rihanna's man down when he
entered the bedroom I'd already positioned my phone in a strategic
location to video whatever was going to happen that night he was trying to
unbuckle his belt when he realized I was in the room with his slurry voice he
asked that I come help him unbuckle his belt I ignored his request he repeated
it a second time and I ignored him again this time he was already getting angry
the next time he made the request was with a high and aggressive tone he said
come get my belt unbuckled hoe I was mad with rage I stood up angrily and I went
close to him and shouted first of all you don't get to call me that and you
should get yourself out of your darn pants as I tried to leave he held my
hands and dragged me back to where he was standing I felt caged and tried to
release my hands but he merely tightened his grip on me he tried to push me down
to his groin level but I refused to go down willingly so he forced me down the
exertion of his muscles and his very tight grip made me yell in pain I was
down in seconds but instead of unbuckling his belt I stealed my hand
and gave him a very painful blow on his groin with my elbow he cried in pain and
while he was trying to recover I rushed for the door feeling angry and
dehumanized I just decided to use the recording I made of us that night I
edited the video to hide my face in it I took his phone while he was asleep and
sent the video to his class group that same night I wrote to the women rights
and gender equality organization of his medical school complaining of what their
one student did to me and I also sent them the video the next day after having
recovered from his hangover my boyfriend
apologized profusely for manhandling and
abusing me I didn't budge because I knew I'd screwed his life he was summoned by
the student's disciplinary committee that very day when he got to school his
coursemates booed him no one wanted to be associated with him he was ostracized
by his own friends when he got to the SDC building he was hit by the
allegations I leveled against him and it was hard to defend himself after seeing
the video evidence I sent to the appropriate Authority after much
deliberation the members of the SDC gave
their verdict Frederick from that moment was expelled from medical school on the
grounds of forcefully having carnal knowledge of his victim he was dropped
from medical school in his final year with zero connection to his name well
I'm just glad that this is one of those situations where when a guy is that bad
and gets reported there's actually repercussions I can't tell you how many
news stories I've heard of Star College football players who do absolutely
heinous acts and end up getting away scot-free all these quotes start coming
out about these people saying oh they're such good people oh they always been
such good kids or they say really dumb stuff about like how their future
shouldn't be messed up because of one mistake it's good something was
legitimately done here but with that being said that's all the time we have
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hey everybody my name is Steven and welcome back to the storytime channel
without wasting any time let's get into our stories of the day roommate
blackmailed us and almost lost us our apartment so we played dirty so my
friend and I were in our second year of college together and were roommates
we were both transfers and going into senior year and had been renting an
apartment for the past year the two of us had lived with three other people the
first year but they graduated and moved out the apartment had two rooms and a
den with double doors that could be used
for one person we had two people in each room and one in the den we needed to
find people to replace our old housemates and my friend knew a couple
people who were living together and wanted to move to a new place together
she talked to them and said everything up before summer so that way during the
fall we would already have everything figured out we signed the lease before
summer vacation and everything seemed fine one girl wanted to rent out the big
room to herself and would pay full price for it let's call her Sharon the other
one would live in the den who I will call Carrie there would only be four of
us instead of five the coming year which we were looking forward to however over
the summer Sharon started having second thoughts
about living with Carrie apparently while living together they'd had some
issues Sharon called my friend and I and
told us that apparently curry had pushed her down the stairs while they lived
together and she bought pepper spray and
a Taser just in case according to Sharon one night they thought they heard
someone trying to break into their apartment and we're standing at the top
of the stairs listening when Gary told Sharon to go check it out Sharon didn't
want to go so Carrie pushed her and Sharon fell down the stairs
we are scary about this but she said that while they heard suspicious
activity and called the police she never pushed Sharon down the stairs
my friend and I didn't know what to believe and ultimately told Sharon
they'd have to work it out since she was the one having doubts we also told her
that if she changed her mind we'd need at least a month's notice
Sharon decided she still wanted to live with us and was okay living with the
other girl so we thought it was fine summer passes and fall arrives
is moving in gary is planning on moving in a few days later however Sharon
brings someone over to the apartment and
starts showing her around she apparently wanted the roommate and wanted us to
sign the new person onto our lease with an addendum but she hadn't talked to us
about it before apparently she didn't feel safe with Carrie around and said
she'd feel safer with a roommate she told her potential roommate she hadn't
known she'd be living with Carrie even though the four of us had signed
addendum to put both of them on the lease at the same time my friend and I
thought things were getting weird at this point and started feeling concerned
unfortunately our lease was going to expire soon and we needed to sign the
lease renewal in a few days and we couldn't get an addendum to sign the new
person on until we signed the lease renewal my friend and I had to let the
Sharon and Carrie know this in advance and they had agreed beforehand to sign
it if we didn't sign it in time we would have to start an entirely new lease and
the price would go up a lot which we couldn't afford so if we didn't sign our
new lease agreement in time we would all
have to find another place to live since school was about to start it would have
been hard to find another place to live so quickly this wouldn't have been an
issue but then Sharon was afraid that Carrie wouldn't sign the new person onto
the lease and said she wouldn't sign the lease renewal if we didn't add her
roommate first we got pissed because she had never even asked us if we were okay
with living with one more person or let us know beforehand and now she was
risking everyone's place to stay to try and make a sign someone we'd never met
unto the lease we told Sharon we couldn't sign a roommate on before
renewing the lease since we had to renew it so soon which was the apartments
rules she kept making more demands and told us that if we didn't do what she
wanted then she wouldn't sign the lease renewal and we'd all be without a place
to live she wanted me to observe a verbal agreement as a third party person
between her and Carrie where Carrie would agree to sign the new person onto
the lease after we signed the lease renewal I told her I wasn't comfortable
with this so this is where the fun starts
Carrie seemed nice so far and my friend and I were really uncomfortable with
house Sharon was acting she continued to move all of her stuff
in while telling us her conditions we wouldn't agree to any of them not only
because there was no way to meet them under the rules of our apartment complex
but also because we weren't going to let this girl control us like that and make
us live with someone we didn't know if we wanted to live with however then
Sharon came up with a clever idea she said that if we could sign her off of
the lease with an addendum then signed the lease renewal with Carrie and then
signed her and her roommate back onto the lease that way she would have no
chance of getting stuck on the lease without a roommate my friend and I told
her that we agreed to this and told Carrie as well who also agreed my friend
and I went to the office to let them know so they wrote the addendum to take
Sharon off of the lease everyone in the apartment had to sign it in order for it
to be valid my friend Carrie and I signed it and waited for Sharon decided
after telling her it was ready she went downstairs and signed herself off the
lease after this she came back up and my friend and I informed her that we would
not be signing her back onto the lease she told us that if we didn't want to
live with her she would have signed herself off anyways but we didn't
believe her she started crying and told us that she had just finished setting up
her desk we didn't care she had threatened three
other people's security and place to live as well as her potential roommates
she went outside and slammed the door my friend and I were relieved it was over
and that we wouldn't be losing our apartment we just needed to find someone
to take her place Sharon came back in with a smug look on her face and told me
she had her mom on the phone and her mom wanted to talk to one of us I took the
phone and put it on speaker while my friend listened Carrie went to her space
and closed the door when I answered the phone
Sharon's mom went off on me she called me a witch and told me to go to heck I
stayed calm and told her that I stood by the decision we made she told me to go
to heck several more times then she told
me Sharon had nowhere to go and I didn't give a rat's butt
I told her she was right I didn't her mom told me to go to heck one more time
and I gave the phone back to Sharon who seems surprised that I wasn't
intimidated she whispered sorry as I gave her phone back to her then she
went to her room to take her stuff apart and start packing since we paid the
lease in advance for our place as per the apartments rules
Sharon had paid to stay until the end of the month so we let her stay until then
this gave her about five days to figure something else out
she made it as difficult as possible but
eventually left pretty sure I didn't see her on campus or anything after that so
that was the last time I saw her the best part is that girl who is going to
be Sharon's roommate still needed a place to stay so we sent her onto the
lease and helped her find a roommate it was actually a fairly lengthy battle but
in the end we won our apartment back word of advice don't sign people onto
your lease months in advance even if they will pay for their room while
they're not there people can make a lot of changes in a few months and if they
don't know you they won't care about freaking you over so let's say this was
you so this girl starts making some really weird demands and requests and
starts putting your place to stay in jeopardy what do you do let me know in
the comment section down below for everyone that yells Freebird at
concerts you know who you are one of you
is at every god darn show I used to tour with a band and we had around 200
concerts a year at least 200 times a year someone would yell Freebird and
laugh like they said something clever I don't understand why it's funny and
hearing it every day for thousands of shows yep still not funny at all so one
day we tried to find out the deal when the freebird guy of the day yelled we
invited him on stage to answer a few questions why do you yell free bird
because it's funny why is that funny look of confusion and shame okay so we
didn't get any answers but we certainly came up with the one nobody comes up
with ridiculous ideas like a group of 20-somethings who spends 15 hours a day
in a van together first thing we had to do was buy a sampler this is a small
piece of equipment that you can pre-program with any sounds
want and press buttons to trigger them they are pretty expensive so the one we
bought for the prank was $1,200 side note we were staying all five members to
a single hotel room every night and eating nothing but dollar menu garbage
and ramen because even if your ban is doing good you're still broke I just
want you to understand how ridiculous it was for us to spend a grand on this as
far as I'm concerned it was worth it ten times over the next thing we needed was
a folding table of chairs for all of us some tea cups and a newspaper or two we
would set these up next to the stage and
no one would even notice it was there so we found a 16 minute long version of
Freebird and loaded it onto the sampler the trap was set
sure enough someone yelled free bird at the next show this time our lead singer
acted really interested what's that you say free bird do you want to hear free
bird the audience cheers loudly so just to be clear you want us to stop playing
our set and instead play free bird they cheer again an approval and now the free
bird guy clearly looks like he's never been so proud of anything he's ever done
in his life we all step to the center of the stage in a very serious-looking
huddle we made it a point to go comically long discussing free bird and
sometimes he would just talk about movies we liked for a while or make fun
of each other sisters when we felt like it had gone on long enough and we were
terrible about making jokes go way too long we all nodded and made it clear
that we had just agreed to play Freebird all right folks
you asked for it you've got it here we go three bird while the crowd went
absolutely nuts the singer went to the sampler and like an old man fumbling to
use a remote he found the button and pressed it as anticlimactically as
possible free bird begins to play and we all put our instruments down and sit
around the table we sip on pretend tea and browse the newspaper quietly at
first everyone thought it was hilarious but after a few minutes they started to
revolt chanting for us to come back and all
we would look at each other in a very confused manner and shrug it off a few
times before the singer would finally go back to the mic what's going on you
don't want to listen to this anymore no you want us to play our stuff again
yeah well what about that one guy who yelled free bird
but guys sucks and then booing would start for that poor free bird guy we did
this for an entire tour and it absolutely never got old I'd like to
think that after that year tens of thousands of people stopped yelling free
bird at every show they go to at least for me that makes the world a slightly
better place free bird if I heard one thing get
yelled out as a cheesy corny joke hundreds of times I probably get pretty
tired of it too the case of the missing firewood story when my grandpa was
growing up he didn't have electricity this being rural Kansas what they did
have was a wood-burning stove at one point firewood that my great-grandfather
had been storing began to disappear a thief was afoot
my great-grandfather getting tired of the firewood disappearing hatches a plan
great-grandfather takes some of the logs and drills them out leaving a cavity he
then put some gunpowder in the cavities and plugs the holes to hide his
handiwork that night he tells my grandpa that he would bring in the firework of
course he knows what logs he's messed with now this is the funny part and I
wish I knew how embellished it was but stranger things have happened
the next day great grandfather is walking into town and comes across the
gentleman also headed into town and they get to talking it turns out the
gentleman is going into town to make a purchase the enemy seeks a new stove he
says to my great grandfather I don't know what they're putting in the coals
these days but it destroyed my stove no wood ever went missing again well that's
what they get for being a thief honestly that was a pretty crafty plan by the
great grandfather got a bully suspended by getting him to fight another kid
now this title might not seem petty but my involvement in this situation was so
minor I hardly consider it anything more if I'm wrong though please feel free to
redirect me anyway this took place in junior high I'm nearing my 30s now and
this story still tickles me so I had this guy in a couple of my classes who
was just a douche a real cowboy boot wearing Dingle berry he always liked a
copy on me in our math class which jokes on him
math has always been my worst subject he
only thought I was smart because I had a
slightly above-average vocabulary for my age he also really liked kicking my
chair as hard as he could to get a giggle from his groupies one day in
particular I felt him messing with my shirt I'm super non-confrontational so I
ignored it this class is early in the day so I go on without thinking about it
when I got home though my mom saw what he did and was livid he had wrote fuf AG
on my shirt in sharpie and no I had not done anything to provoke this that I was
aware of it had been on my back and mostly obstructed by my backpack which
explains why no one else really pointed it out or they did notice and just said
nothing some time passes and we are also in a shop class together one day we had
a sub and were watching safety videos I'm sitting right next to dingleberry in
this class much to my displeasure at the front of the class as a chill seeming
guy we'll call Randy Randy was taking a nap through the movie and dingleberry
starts chucking paper balls at him it was about the third ball when Randy
turned to him and said throw one more and I'm gonna beat your butt Randy lays
his head back down dingleberry realizes he's out of paper he then asks me for a
piece I happily obliged and let come what may
of course dingleberry tries his luck and Randy leaps over desks and beats his
butt the sub broke it up pretty fast and
they were both sent to the office I then got a wonderful break from dingleberry
for a week or so and all I did was hand him a piece of paper that he should have
used to just take notes dingleberry was absolutely asking for it
literally asking for it asking for the ammunition that he was warned not to use
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my wife has become distant and secretive after a new supervisor joined her
workplace I think she is cheating on me I 32m have been with my wife 28f for 7
years at first it was great she was my soulmate and I was hers we had similar
interests in sports entertainment social issues more on that later holiday
destinations Etc we were happy for years
however things started to change when my wife was becoming more distant even
slightly colder now let me give you some insight we have been together for 7
years for 5 years it was as I said happy I felt I was her world as she was mine
we went out with friends and I see her always smiling at me when we talk to our
friends she would take care of me when I was sick as I did with her she would
back me whenever needed she was my rock my best friend my one and only we would
do many things together like hiking camping Wildlife Resorts same interests
go to watch the football we had a passion for each other I never wanted
her to change when I first met her she was beautiful brunette curly hair
stunning smile and so nice she always implied the same with me she made me
feel special not once did a feel inadequate or insecure about myself more
on that later as I said for over 5 years it was great but things started to
change when her new supervisor started at her work I'm calling him maru's 30m
now at first she would come home and talk about marus she would say that he's
funny and makes people feel good of course I was slightly taken aback at
first because she would usually come home and ask about my day and hers but
she immediately talked about marju straight away however at the time I
brushed it as someone who is new as her work she sees the same faces for years
so when marju showed up it was refreshing weeks pass and my wife seems
to be more distant and secretive she would go out to work nights which didn't
bother me as she went on Plenty before however we were meant to go out to a
mutual friend's house for drinks he is in a bad way as he has been diagnosed
with a disease that is severe my wife as I said is a rock usually really
empathetic and supportive so when we found out about our friend Daniel 32m we
didn't hesitate to go over and show our support the night came to go over over
and my wife was running late from work night out I called her a few times and
no answer I texted her no answer after waiting I decided to go to Daniel's
myself Daniel and I talked about how he's adapting and coping during that
time I felt for Daniel such a nice guy to have this is cruel afterwards I got
home and I'm seething my wife is still not home no missed calls or texts
seriously I couldn't believe it I was getting worried if she's been in an
accident so I called her work colleague Jane 28f I get on with Jane and asked
her if Kelly my wife is out with her Janee said that she is but Jane went
home and it was just her and maru's left out I was angry so angry we have known
Daniel for years and she would skip meeting our friend over a guy she just
met I kept telling myself there is an explanation for this I waited until she
got home eventually she arrived home and
saw me in the living room looking at her what's wrong everything okay I looked
her in amusement and said Daniel she looked mortified I'm sorry I forgot I
was out with work friends and lost track of time she looked sincere her and
Daniel are good friends so maybe she did forget I did ask her a question who was
out with you she replied usual Jane Sophie Etc I replied not marus oh yes he
was there I pressed on remembering what Jane said did everyone stay out until
the end she replied yes it was a good night the next day I'm angry I don't say
anything to my wife but she has never lied to me before she has never let
anyone down before I couldn't grasp that she would bail on our sick friend for a
guy she just met the next few days my wife was becoming more distant she would
come home later and not be affectionate towards me I still put this down to
workload maybe but when she got home she
would be in her phone constantly I asked
her who is it that you're always texting
just a friend from work she said I asked her is it maru's no she said but what's
the problem if it is I never seen my wife get defensive like this but I was
going to be honest I replied because you never shut up about him he's been
working with you for under a month and you seem to idolize him your face
Sparkles when you talked about him so much so you forgot about Daniel I could
tell I hit the spot she replied no I do not idolize marus he's nice but just a
friend and I apologized to Daniel already this wasn't enough I waited
until she was asleep and checked her phone and surprise it was full of s
messages between them I took photos of the conversation for later a week has
passed and it's still continuing the late nights the lack of affection I
speak to a friend about my concerns and he said maybe I'm being paranoid try to
do something new like make her a surprise dinner I like that idea so I
texted my wife and asked if she's busy after work she replied no I'm free it
seemed to be a nice text conversation so I made dinner got a nice bottle of wine
and flowers she got home and looked sad at me she said she's really sorry but a
friend from work is organizing a surprise birthday party for a colleague
and that night is the only night they have I shook my head in frustration and
anger she literally left right after and drove off this was it after months of
Suspicion I needed proof I know you must read this and say to yourselves friend
can you not see the signs I could but I was hoping hoping that I'm wrong hoping
that it was a bad dream truth is I was scared to find out but I had too I
needed proof so I wasn't proud of it I put a tracker in her car I pretended to
be at work late so she didn't see me when she got home she did arrive home I
watched from a distance and she set off again in her car I followed her as she
went further out of town she eventually pulled into a car park that was secluded
in the corner she was waiting until another pulled up next to her it was him
Marg she got out and got into his car it was
obvious what they were doing I recorded her getting into his car for evidence
against her for the next few days she acted like everything was fine I mean I
know that she doesn't realize I know but
she was acting like normal smiling to me even holding my hand at breakfast she
left to go to work I had a day off and decided to Snoop on the laptop to see
anything suspicious there was nothing but when I was looking through her draws
I know not my proudest moment I see an iPad under her the bottom draw it wasn't
mine so I assumed my wife bought it luckily for me it didn't need a password
I don't know if she forgot to lock it but I got lucky I got in and looked now
this is where the damage really hurt I looked in the iPad and checked to see
text conversation but nothing however what I was about to see I will never
ever forget there was a folder of pictures of my wife bear making sayal
positions for him there was so many e but there was more there were videos I
know I shouldn't have looked at them but I did the videos were Jan graphic marju
sleeping with my wife and my wife and enjoying it but that not all my wife was
seen sleeping with another woman and another man with marus there but the
other man was someone who really made me sick he is a bigot he had vile tattoos
of certain groups who are vile like I said a vile human being it seemed that
marus agreed with his views which was fitting I couldn't believe it my wife
being with a man who held bigoted views this was a woman who detested any form
of bigotry as did I so why would she do this what did she see in him it was
seeing her being fully complicit that really got out to me during our marriage
we always talked about fantasies but never acted on them as a man it was Trio
Etc but my wife said she would never do it never sleep with another woman or do
anything that made her feel uncomfortable I accepted that without a
second thought it didn't bother me that she didn't want to do it I loved her so
to see her doing things that she never did with me hurt hurt really bad I
watched all the videos I know I'm stupid I copied the videos and pictures to my
laptop for evidence of In tha because that's all that matters I want her gone
I just don't know why she did it I don't know why she refused me the fantasy
route if you will what made him so special why was she into a man that I
thought she despised because of what he represented anyway I spoke to Daniel
about everything he is a great man and friend he couldn't believe I was talking
about my wife he was disgusted with her but noticed her change as well I told
him that I want to divorce her he understood he said I have enough to back
me he told me that confronting her in him is pointless because she has already
made up her mind he said that I need a fresh start and to find someone who is
is themselves and not a mirage of a woman I married like myself Daniel hates
vile racists and shook his head that my wife did this Daniel has known my wife a
lot longer than me after speaking to Daniel it made me feel like I was in
control for months I felt that she was in control I was afraid to find out the
truth I didn't confront her more sternly when I was suspicious because I was
afraid of the outcome at the time I didn't know if I wanted to leave her or
make it work but after the videos pictures and texts I damn well know what
I must do I went to the lawyer to file for a divorce I had enough my wife was
still acting normal still on the phone constantly still going out late I assume
with him I didn't care I had to wait 3 weeks for the papers to come through I
got them I decided to move out luckily we rented and our lease was running out
in 3 months I was prepared to pay until then anyway I wanted to move out so the
day came she went to work I made up that
I had to go and later to cover for being
short staffed she Shrugged and said okay
no goodbye hug or kiss still that hasn't happened happened for months so I was
used to it she left I packed up my essentials and put the divorce papers on
the kitchen table along with my wedding ring that was it I stayed with my friend
from University Adam who lived in another city I was grateful but more
grateful that it was far from her the city our same Social Circle I wanted
nothing to do with any of it I told my parents about what happened and they
were shocked but fully understood I obviously didn't tell them every little
detail there was no need all I can think of at the moment is that I'm free my
wife would I assume agree as it was clear that marus is the one she wants I
hope that we get a quick divorce I really do later that night my phone was
blowing up with calls and texts it was my wife I was surprised because I
honestly thought that this was what she wanted as well but it seems that I
couldn't be more wrong I didn't speak to my wife I had no interest in it I read
her messages and all of them consisted of I'm sorry I love you please can we
talk etc etc this lasted for hours I blocked her number and deleted all my
social media accounts I spoke to my lawyer about my my wife signing the
divorce but she hasn't signed she did contact me through email I wanted to
have some way of communication because I still want the divorce she sent me an
email again saying sorry a number of time and that we needed to talk I
replied no all I want is the divorce she replied that she doesn't want one I am
the man she only loves and Maru meant nothing it's funny because I never
mentioned to her why I left but she obviously knows why her guilty conscious
and seeing her plead for forgiveness was actually satisfying I spoke to Adam and
he said I could stay as long as I wanted I am thankful for him but he did say
that I would have to meet her eventually he said that I left without having
answers and no matter how hard you try eventually you will need to hear them
inside I was disagreeing with Adam why should I talk to her why she gave little
regard to my feelings for months she didn't care about me she care about her
sick friend Daniel she didn't care so why would I talk to her I know that deep
down I'm being stubborn but also angry that my wife is trying to reconcile I
honestly thought she would have signed and moved on with him this has me mixed
up and even more mixed up now is that my wife wants to meet I have a therapist
who is excellent I talked about the affair the pictures the videos all of it
I mentioned that my wife wants to meet up before she signs my therapist was
blunt she said that when I left without telling her why deep down you wanted her
to plead and her to worry you keep telling yourself she wouldn't care but
deep down you want her to care you want her to feel pain like she did to you
however meeting her would take some of your control she was right she added if
you decide to meet in person you must ask the difficult questions even if you
don't like the answer because you do have questions and you are not moving on
at all you are running away because you are scared that the last 7 years was a
lie like I said blunt that was 2 days ago my wife really wants to meet and
incline that she won't sign without meeting first I speak to my parents and
close friends about it my dad said that you could force the issue of her signing
but that could take months but if she's willing no guarantee to sign after you
talk then it's worth it Adam agreed I decided to meet my wife although low to
say I'm nervous as an understatement how
should I approach this what should I ask
her should I be open or guarded any help and advice would be grateful update one
I'm sorry that my update has taken longer than I liked as I was going to
post next day unfortunately circumstances got in the way but before
I do I want to thank everyone who posted their feedback I read every single one
and I took everyone's advice on board I was overwhelmed to be honest I really
appreciate it I also would like to point out some things regarding my previous
post a lot has happened since I posted first I moved back to where I lived
living with Adam was great but I needed to go back eventually my soon to be ex
is still in our house so I rented a flat
just outside of town I told my wife that I'm coming back and she was happy
however I told her under no certain terms that I would be living with her
she understood although she tried the generic we can sleep in separate rooms
line no I do not want that I also stated that I will not tell her where I live
obviously even though she tried to find out she still wants to meet us do I we
arranged a time and place the place was a neutral venue so to speak it was near
the beach where there are people but not to many in case a scene is happening
which I obviously don't want I want to meet outside with just me and her I know
some of you in the comments said take a friend but I felt that it wasn't needed
but still I appreciate the advice I do however agree that I will definitely be
recording the conversation which I did before the meet I emailed my soon to be
ex and laid down some ground rules and if she didn't abide by them there would
be no chance of reconciliation the rules were simple one answer every question
that I have honestly two no deflection answers like it just happened or I'm not
sure Etc I want detailed answers if she storms off without answering every
question it's over no reconciliation three answer even if you think the
answer will hurt me four don't be late if you are no reconciliation so we made
the place in time now it's about waiting to I leave to go home to my flat the
next day I catch up with other friends they treat me like I'm Daniel although I
get it I get the hugs and support which I appreciate it but it seems inevitably
that our breakup has spread although I question how do they know I only told a
handful of people but my wife inevitably told her family and friends and of
course the domino effect would happen however they obviously didn't know the
full details they didn't know about the texts pictures and videos not even my
wife knows that I have them she is under the impression I left because she was
spending too much time with marus she doesn't know about what I have all she
thinks is time with marus husband got upset she broke it off I told my
therapist about the meat she said that I
should ask certain questions to give her better insight to what happened I'll
explain it later it's the day of the meat I was nervous before but my
goodness I am in bits not because I want her back but it's seeing her and then
seeing her means seeing him in my mind and then I would lose focus and control
I drive up to the beach early really early I take in the surroundings and in
reflection it was a perfect day sun was out people were taking their morning
stroll I picked a nice venue then out of
nowhere I turned to see my soon to be ex walking towards me she was smiling she
looked great definitely glammed up although she looked slightly worn out
and stressed no sympathy she approached and tried to hug me I put my arm out as
to say no she looked at me as I understand kind of way we sat down and
settled she tried to start small talked but I wasn't interested I had my phone
on record and started me when did you first kiss him her the first week on the
Friday me when did you first sleep with him her the same day on Friday me where
her at his place me did you ever do it on my bed her does it matter I look at
her and said about the email answer everything I stated her yes she starts
to tear up me when she basically said it was a number of times I was out our
neighbors saw him but rightly thought he was a work colleague they thought
nothing of it she apologized already and kept apologizing but I put my hand out
for her to stop I asked my other questions me did you tell him about me
about you being married her yes but at the time it was a blur now my therapist
asked me to ask her a specific question this was it me when you first met marus
how early was it that he talked about me
her what do you mean me it's simple when you talked what did he ask you about me
did he want to know how long we were married were we happy Etc her after a
pause yes he did ask about our marriage and if we were happy why me didn't that
strike you as odd you met a guy you hardly know and he's asking personal
questions about our marriage her no I think he was just being generally
curious I didn't think of it as being weird more of this question's relevance
later after asking a number of small hitting questions I decided to go for
the big ones I decided to ask her about the videos and pictures however I did it
in a nonchalant way I referenced a racist attack near us at a local store
so I went soft and turned it like this me did you hear about the incident last
Thursday her what incident me the bigots who attacked the shopkeeper and trashed
his store not before spraying hate F graffiti everywhere her that's awful me
yep it is I can't stand racists can you she looked at me with a confused
expression I didn't say anything then it
seemed to grasp exactly what I meant she knew that I know about the pictures and
videos she started to cry again this lasted for about 5 minutes I pressed me
why would you even go near men like that her she's red-faced from crying trying
to compose herself it's not what it looks like or what you think me what I
think what am I supposed to think what was it about this man that would make
you disrespect your grandfathers in World War II or bail out on your friends
and treat me like I'm a piece of crap at
this point she was shaking she looked at me watery eyed but answered her he was
the new boss in our department he was open and funny he made people feel good
about themselves a lot of women liked him even after starting he had it but
when he started to take an interest in me I felt like he chose me me what the
hell does that mean her you want honesty and I need to be honest when we started
talking he made it clear that he was only interested in me I interrupted and
said after a couple of days yes that's what I'm saying he had a way immediately
to make someone be happy and even more I felt great when I saw him looking at me
from across the office room I felt great when he spoke to me saying you're the
only interesting person here like I said I felt he chose me me what her I know
it's pathetic I'm pathetic and weak but you have to understand what it was like
when he first started at the office he was good-looking confident sve was just
right he had an aura about him that when he smiled I melted she continued he
could have had anyone at the office at the time all the girls wanted him they
all talked about him constantly I know it sounds bad but I never thought he
would pick me me wait you wanted to be picked her no not initially I figured it
would be harmless flirt or something but he made it clear that he wanted more
than that and that was it me what was it her him is being a kind of Med that I
couldn't shake off again I know it's pathetic but give me a second when he
talked to me and giving me complim compliments I was stunned but really
flattered my confidence went from 60 to 10,000 I thought to myself this man
could have anyone but he told me it was me he chose constantly that he could
tell it was me me what was you I don't get it her he made me feel that I was
the one I was the one that he was meant to be with I know it's not what you want
to hear but I'm being honest continue I said I can't deny I was attracted to him
it was obvious I see that now me wait you thought you were hiding it well her
at the time yes at the beginning he flooded me with compliments other girls
were jealous of me I got a rush from it I liked it the more I saw of him the
more I wanted me wanted her wanted to feel like a queen I know that you
treated me so well I was lucky but maru's at the time was just another
level I got a buzz from seeing jealous women being envious of me I did ask for
honesty she continued in my view I thought to myself I'm so lucky to have
this man but the longer I was with him the more he changed but I couldn't stop
it I asked her what she meant meant he was specific in what he wanted he got to
know me but unconditionally he got me to do the opposite of what I liked those
videos and pictures were his idea and yes I know his friend and his ideology
but I didn't want to challenge him or Maru because I didn't want to upset him
he had a way of saying that if you can't make me happy someone else will he had
this do you know how lucky you were attitude at the time I panicked I went
to extreme lengths to keep him happy wanted to make him happy and nothing
else mattered so at the time I did anything for him you obviously saw that
I told her of course I did and about the
I know but as I said he was a med that I couldn't shake off the more I saw him
the more I wanted he made me believe that you were the bad guy he made me
believe that you were holding me back and that you didn't respect me I know
it's not true she was in tears again but that's why I did everything everything
he told me to do even after he was criticizing you I couldn't fight back
because I was hooked me and that makes it okay with how you treated me bailing
on Diner bailing on camping seriously her no I'm not asking for forgiveness I
don't deserve it because I know how I
treated you I was a nasty [ __ ] to you
and I will never forgive myself but I did it bailing on Diner Etc I knew I was
hurting you but I couldn't stop he kept telling me that I deserve more than you
and that I should be treated like a queen so the more I went out to
highclass restaurants VIP Theater shows the fancy jewelry the more I resented
you but each time he did it he always mentioned you in your failure so I
obviously bought into it and that's why I was cold towards you I thought you
failed me and he didn't I know it's not true but during that time he was
influential and I believed everything he said she continues it was only when I
saw the papers and ring that something clicked in me I know you don't believe
me but I finished with marju straight away I know I don't deserve credit for
it but I really am ashamed of what happened I can't imagine what it was
like for you I know I neglected you made
you feel worthless but I couldn't see it before I do after I saw the papers I'm
ashamed that I took this vile man over you I looked at her I didn't expect her
answers but she seemed well sincere I replied though aside from your Affair
you know was what the problem is that at the beginning you wanted the affair
because you said he chose you you said he was a med but millions of people get
themselves out of meds they realize that they have problems and get help you
didn't you carried on the only reason you are here is because I'm your safety
net and now it's gone there is no way a spouse can say I love you when you make
them feel inadequate she claimed she didn't no you did for 11 months you made
me feel worthless as you know I was eating becoming more reclusive and
losing myself all the while you were going out every night going to the gym
buying new clothes being a different person you came home and looked at me
with disgust during that time you didn't let me touch you or anything you didn't
give me anything but abuse her abuse me yes you did abuse me mentally maybe you
didn't think you were doing it but damn you did it my best friend and soulmate
made me hate myself she's in tears again it got that bad I was thinking of I
didn't say it but you get the picture at this point she is crying heavily and
apologizing so much that I forgot we were at the beach front people were
watching and I had to tell her to breath she got her composure back and kept
pleading it was him feeding her the toxic thoughts against me I did have one
last question me do you love him her no I don't I know that you won't believe me
but I actually hate him as much as I hate myself after a few hours of talking
she left saying everything was true I was the love of her life Etc I sat by
the beach thinking thinking about the possibility of her being groomed
conditioned Etc I mean it makes sense after she met him she changed like
totally changed there was a reason why my therapist
wanted to ask that question although she can't diagnose marus but she thinks he
has sociopathic tendencies hence why he asked about our marriage she said it's
clear that he had an agenda asking about your marriage to your wife so early the
signs are there he did choose your wife he knew that you were happily married
and solid so he had his new challenge the challenge was simply to cause a
breakup and ruin lives of sociopathic people do marus would never have been
with a single girl because there was no challenge but with my wife it wasn't
just her he was controlling but me as well her friends and family he turned
her into everything your wife is against and makees sure she did he turned you
through your wife into a depressed loner she continued that's why you and never
confronted her after the texts and videos you didn't have the confidence at
all that's what he and your wife did he pulled the strings but my wife willingly
played along sociopaths like to manipulate and control the narrative
when you followed your wife to the parking lot he probably knew you would
follow your wife if you confronted them there most likely your wife would take
his side there and then thus he would have won people who have sociopathic
tendencies have no empathy they are driven by seeing others suffer by their
hand is there some truth to that my wife a victim of a sociopath it fits but a
part of me doesn't care well part of me cares fully at times who is this guy I
keep telling myself I never seen one man come in with such Authority and ruin
people's lives but deep down he was the package he was a boss making decent
money he was 30 but looked 21 great physique and had confidence
that would make women turn right but maybe my soon to be ex was right in that
she finished with him that day I left because after I left my neighbor said to
me that marjus kept coming round to my house demanding to talk to my soon to be
ex he apparently did this a number of times as my wife said when we met he was
acting like the physical abusive husband my therapist said sociopaths cannot
accept rejection especially when they don't have control my wife dumped him
and he became erratic why my therapist said it's simple your wife chose you
over him lucky me he manipulated her for under a year and she still had the
strength to finish it that undoubtedly derailed his plans update to I contacted
HR about my wife and him turns out other people contacted HR as well it seems
that the affair knew spread her he left shortly after me and my wife spoke I
don't know where I don't care my wife also left before she was pushed
apparently people are not to happy with her and her behavior especially her
parents she is staying with her parents and relocating she is getting help with
a psychologist though which she definitely needs I still speak to her
family and our friends they try to say that I should meet my soon to be ex
again but that's not happening she needs
to concentrate on herself getting better the divorce will be finalized in a few
weeks I know some people said she won't sign after the meeting but I had to go I
had to know why she did it I had to know do I feel better in a way yes my wife
was honest as she can be I think the pattern of the affair makes sense I soon
to be ex asked if there is a chance for reconciliation eventually I have to
admit I thought about it even if she is a victim of a master manipulator how can
I trust her if I took her back all I would be thinking about is him and how I
cannot measure up compared to him I would feel second best no matter what
she assures me that it's not the case that I have always been her soulmate
even after she said it my life with her wouldn't be the same I suppose the moral
of the story is that cheating is obviously wrong it affects and damages
the partner's moreso cheaters are truly selfish they only own up if they're
caught or leaving divorce papers on the kitchen desk I certainly won't marry
again the damage of of the affair has hurt me deeply I still feel inadequate
about myself that I'm not good enough although I have been going to the gym
again hiking and camping with friends I've been trying to stay active trying
to move on but I do have this hate hate my soon to Bex for easily falling for
him and him choosing my wife why did it have to be her I keep telling myself but
these questions I ask myself are pointless because it's done now the
damage has been done and it still hurts I still have my job in moving to the
outer skirts of the town is good I'm not one of those people move thousands of
miles away although I get it but my work and Social Circle have been good to me
and I don't want to lose it if I relocated completely then I feel they
want and I refuse to be a victim my therapist said that it will take time
time to heal just be patient well that's it all of your comments I took on board
and fully appreciate it update three I know it's been a while since my last
post I want to thank everyone who contacted me I apologize for not getting
back to you life has been crazy but I hope you understand a lot has happened
that it's only right that I give you the conclusion to the story
first I want to clarify two things one I noticed in the comments that my story
was fake because I didn't think that the texts were proof I knew my wife was
setting and my friend said that it was probably nothing he meant this because
he and others feel that digital flirting is not cheating I took his word for it
plus I didn't want to face what was going on two the reason why I wanted
feedback for meeting my wife is purely because I wanted validation that I did
the right thing as I said I already met my wife but wanted to and others in my
Social Circle see to if I did the right thing in your eyes sorry I should have
been more clearer about that as I said before the story is complete for me but
want to tell you the conclusion of it so here it goes after meeting my wife at
the beach my head was in bits as stated before my wife is still trying to talk
again but I'm still not processing everything that's happened I still talk
to my therapist however my wife is seeing a psychologist at the Private
Hospital that her parents paid for I found this out because I saw my wife's
parents when I was hiking by myself I was walking through the shallow stream
and I heard my name being called out it was her parents I was slightly worried
about seeing them especially after me meeting with their daughter at the beach
I thought to myself what did my wife tell them did she lie to them did she
badmouth me etc etc turns out she didn't at all her parents came over the mother
hugged me the father shook my hand both apologized for what happened but I said
they haven't anything to apologize for my wife's mother suggested us to find a
bench and talk I agreed the mother started first she told me that my wife
has been committed for a psychologist I've known my wife's parents for years
they have never lied to me I've always found them genuine now they both stated
what happened from their end with marus it turns out that Not only was my wife a
complete [ __ ] to me but to her parents
as well a little backstory before maru's my wife loves drawing she gets it
through her mother she her mother and others would have a drawing social group
my wife loved it they did this for years it made my wife happy however after
meeting Maru she stopped going she didn't even give a reason when my wife's
mother called her she got not defensive and completely rude to her mother she
even swore my wife never well hardly swore but this time she did she would
say I don't give a crap about the group it's sad and pathetic like you Etc my
wife's parents said this wasn't isolated at all they tried to talk to her about
the behavior changed but all they got was abuse at the time they assumed it
was because of me and that we were having troubles they didn't think it was
because of an affair at all it was only after I left that my wife also called
her parents that everything made sense after I went to Adams my wife went to
her parents and laid everything out the affair what she did what marjus made her
do Etc to them it made sense but they were disgusted as well her father went
all in on my wife to the point that my wife had a panic attack to them hearing
their daughter tell this story just didn't compute this was their daughter
not a person who cheats or lies or abuses people but this bought me back to
my therapist and her believing that my wife was being groomed by a sociopath me
my wife is a victim of a psychopath therapist no not a psychopath a
sociopath me what's the difference before this I'm ashamed to say I had no
idea therapist Psychopaths change their personality to fit in their Social
Circle for example if they meet someone who is happy and outgoing they change
into that person sociopaths do not change they make sure that the person
they are closest to change they mold that person into a negative vile person
me okay it does make sense therapist continues marju clearly was doing this
with your wife he made her talk to her parents in a disrespectful manner he
purposely chose people who defend Nazis for the videos me how can someone have a
hold over someone are you saying that my wife is a victim therapist yes I know
that sounds OB Truse but people with sociopathic tendencies are very
influential more importantly extremely controlling back with my wife's parents
the mother was saying that she is seeing
a psychologist her parents look slightly strained but at the same time relieved
relieved that their daughter is getting help a few weeks later my wife's mother
contacts me during the past weeks I speak with her often she said that she
agreed and wants me and her to talk and consult her sessions basically my wife
wants me and mother to talk to her psychologist about what is happening I
asked myself should I do this I mean it was agreed that my wife would sign the
papers after the meet but something feels like I'm not sure anyway we agreed
after a few weeks of sessions the psychologist spoke to me and wife's
mother wife is outside waiting patiently a bit like my therapist she was blunt
but in a soft Irish accent psychologist speaking to us both your daughter a PTSD
her relationship with Maru was abusive grooming and controlling it has affected
her from the start of the relationship with maru's me she got with him in the
first week to me that's hardly someone who is fighting for me I said abruptly
and rudely my wife's mother looked at me
with a stern look of shut up and let her finish psychologist as I saying marus
had the all the attributes of a perfect being we all have them in our minds of
what that being is when marju started at your wife's work he was perfect not in
just your wife's eyes but others as well I know this is hard she looks at me but
your wife was honest he chose her this perfect man chose her me okay so she
forgets she's married psychologist she holds up her hand I'm not saying what
she did was right yes it's true she found him attractive however his
personality is not about manipulation with kindness for under a year he
programmed her into thinking he's perfect and looking at both of us you
are not your wife was conditioned intensively that she began to actually
believe it this is why she mentally abused you again looking at us both this
was him after talking we saw my wife in the lobby she looked up at us both and
smiled sheepishly I looked at her wanting to hate her wanting to make her
suffer wanting Revenge but these emotions didn't come why time has passed
and there is something I need to do I did it last year and will do it every
year I go to where I need to go I look at it and start to feel emotional
Daniel's grave Daniel passed away a while back at the funeral I saw my wife
not taking it well as I said before my wife and Daniel have known each other
since they can remember I remember Daniel speaking to my wife after the
affair went public my wife apologized for everything Daniel forgave her at the
grave I don't say anything just sit there in silence that is until I saw my
wife there and sitting next to me I look
at her and she started crying looking at me I've thought about shunning her
countless times being cold to her Etc but I couldn't I knew that today wasn't
about us but Daniel and so for the first time in a long time I hugg my wife time
passes I'm still seeing a therapist and my wife is still seeing the psychologist
I sit in the coffee shop just looking out and seeing people people looking
happy it made me smile here's your cranberry juice my wife said as she sat
opposite me we've been talking for a few weeks now nothing romantic just getting
to know her again we meet again because my wife wants to tell me something we
agreed to meet by the lake now I'm wondering what it is is mar juice back
is everything okay I arrive first and within 5 minutes she arrives I
immediately say is everything okay she laughs and says everything is fine she
hands me a box what is it I said just open it she said with a smile I opened
it and it was a crest of my family I looked at her with a pleasant Amusement
happy anniversary she said after all this time she remembered she remembered
that having family heirlooms is so important to me but that wasn't all she
gave me another box I opened this one it
was a photo album of us us and Daniel us
and our families us when we were happy I
was near to Breaking she put her hand on my shoulder said this isn't a feeble
attempt to win you back I bought these because I know it's important to you and
so it's important to me I know that there has been a lot of hurt but I want
you to know that I love you I always have and always will I look at her not
knowing what to do but she leaves still smiling she always had a nice smile I
watch her walk away and I smile I'm walking along the beach it's a beautiful
day I buy fish and chips and me and my wife sit on rocks and watch the sea we
talk and talk we talk about the day important to you and so it's important
to me I know that there has been a lot of hurt but I want you to know that I
love you I always have and always will I look at her not knowing what to do but
she leaves still smiling she always had a nice smile I watch her walk away and I
smile I'm walking along the beach it's a beautiful day I buy fish and chips and
me and my wife sit on rocks and watch the sea we talk and talk we talk about
the day things me about my wife and marus psychologist puts her arms on the
table and leans towards me there is no Mar anymore your wife got rid of him
your wife has made no secret that she wants to reconcile this has nothing to
do with Maru now it's about you after months of seeing your wife I can say
that he will never be a threat again she
continued I understand your skepticism I do but you wouldn't be doing this or
meeting with her if you didn't still have feelings for her the only question
is is that do you follow what you think is right or do you let him win my
therapist said the same thing at the time for those 11 months the pain was
too much however they say St time is a great healer and for this time I feel
I've got to know my wife again after we finish our food we slowly walk along the
beach and I did something that I haven't done in a long time I held her hand she
was in tears I stopped and looked at her for the first time in a long time I saw
my wife not the callous animal for those 11 months I saw her I saw the woman I
loved I saw the woman I love and with that I embraced my wife update 4 I've
had many DMS and messages from people asking for an update like before I want
to thank everyone who replied and shown concern however I didn't realize Reddit
was such a judgmental place I have had people wishing for me and my wife to
receive terrible I'm not typing their exact words things I guess me getting
back together with my wife warranted terrible implications but I do want to
thank those who supported my I've had many DMS and messages from people asking
for an update like before I want to thank everyone who replied and shown
concern however I didn't realize red it was such a judgmental place I have had
people wishing for me and my wife to receive terrible I'm not typing their
exact words things I guess me getting back together with my wife warranted
terrible implications but I do want to thank those who supported my
consultation not because my wife doesn't want us to but because she is in the
latter stages of therapy basically in plain movie analogy it's coming to an
end all that's left us my wife's closer sessions which is still going ahead as I
said I've had a lot of people asking about marus in my previous posts I
stated that he disappeared after the affair blew up well I later found out
that wasn't the case he did in fact meet my wife when she was trying to get back
with me now before anyone quickly judges I need to explain exactly what happened
as stated Maru went off grid but still tried to call my wife text FaceTime and
go over to the house Etc he did this countless times my wife blocked him on
all forms of communication this appeared to work for a while because marus went
no contact this was at a time when my wife was trying to build Bridges with
her family and me especially then one day her phone was ringing an unknown
caller she answered it was him marus my wife was with her their mom sister and
Mom's friends when everyone grasped that it was him my wife put him on speaker
she didn't leave the room she didn't try to hide she spoke to Maru in front of
witnesses I won't bore you with every little detail but the conversation was
marju wanting to meet my wife agreed now
again before you judge please read there was a reason why my wife wanted to put
him in speaker and to meet her psychologist said that if he ever tried
to talk on the phone put him on speaker this way she will have witnesses but
also support to those that want to know about the conversation it wasn't much it
was basically maru's begging to meet now the reason my wife decided to meet was
for herself she wanted to meet him not for closer in a romantic sense but to
end that chapter my wife decided on the time and place she would meet marus at
The Fountain Park a place that would have a lot of people another thing my
wife wanted was someone close in case anything happened marus knows me he
knows what I look like but he doesn't know her friend Bri and her boyfriend T
they will be there for support in Sweden tour looked like the typical male sweet
a 6'4 in Dolph lungren type he was there to make sure nothing happens to her now
some of you might be asking why didn't your wife tell you about the meat Etc
well at the time wife and mother-in-law didn't want to jeopardize any chance of
reconciliation as stated this wasn't a romantic meat how do I know well my wife
recorded the conversation and Bri and Tor were there who I also know and trust
I won't bore you with every little detail of the meat I obviously listened
to it all but here are the main exerts Bri and T are sitting on the next bench
to wife and Maru Maru hello tried Small Talk wife what do
you want Maru Maru okay well I want you to explain yourself wife explain myself
marus yes please tell me after everything we have been through and
everything I have done for you that you abandoned us wife that's easy because I
didn't love you I never did I'm embarrassed and ashamed that I ruined my
life for you marjus stop being dramatic I gave you a life a life that your
husband never gave you did he did he treat treat you well no he didn't no one
did except me Christ you sound like a child now wife you never gave me
anything but shame at the time us was never us was it it was about my husband
and family marus know it was about you and me wife know it wasn't you were
obsessed with my husband and family you wanted to know what my husband liked in
family but that wasn't the strange part what was effed up that you immediately
said they are wrong my husband was wrong
with me my family was wrong but in truth it was you that was wrong marju right
stop being childish I don't recall you objecting to us what I bought you I
remember you smiling and loving it so just thank me wife thank you thank you
for what exactly that you got enjoyment from me disrespecting my husband you got
so much enjoyment from hearing me saying that my husband was obviously in pain
but you didn't stop there you made me say things to my husband and family that
would hurt them I didn't see it at the time but you always wanted a report of
what I said and did wife was losing composure maru's Maru laughs I'm
supposed to apologize for your husband being pathetic because he and your
family were holding you back that's the truth I remember that you loved what I
gave you you smiled and embraced me I made you realize that your circle was
nothing more than a step now I'm prepared to forgive you and we can
actually make a life together wife wife laughs you're right I did smile when I
received the gifts but I was never happy
with you you were brilliant at making me feel like you were the one when an
actual fact you were a pathetic man why do you think I finished it when I saw
the papers because it was no competition
between my husband and you my husband is a far better man than you more than
deserve he is a nice kind genuine man you are vile in every way marus you are
ungrateful woman aren't you seriously the weekends away restaurants theaters I
got you that I got you to meet real people I bettered you I made you
confident and assured the way you're talking now to me is disrespectful but
you are not thinking straight wife oh I am thinking straight probably the first
time in a while you want straight all those things you did were superficial I
didn't see it then but what kind of a man supports white nationalism what kind
of man thinks it's a man's right to hit women for nothing what kind of man tries
to make a person not go to her best friend's funeral wife stopped to breath
and she continued you are not a man at all just a bully and coward I am
disgusted that I got involved with you but I have to live with my mistakes and
that's what you are marju a mistake you can threaten me with releasing the
videos and pictures I don't care there is nothing you can to me that I haven't
punished myself for this will be the last time we see each other or speak if
you try to call me or try to contact me I will call the police take this as your
final warning goodbye wife stood up to walk marus tried to grab her but T got
in front of marus marus looked at tour and walked away that was the last time
she and everyone else saw him I found out about this later on wife and
mother-in-law didn't want anything to jeopardize a possible reconciliation of
course when hearing this my heart skipped but hearing the story speaking
to tor and Bri and mother-in-law I understand why my wife met him the
psychologist and my therapist said my wife wanted to take back control control
from him it's evident when speaking to my wife psychologist and family that she
was submissive marju controlled everything that evolved around my wife
that meeting was the second time my wife took control back another frequent
question I received is what if another marju comes along well it's a question I
asked myself 100 times but after everything and being on the path of
reconciliation I'm not going to give in I chose this because I believe that my
marriage is worth saving I know that on Reddit I will get some abuse but I'm
sorry I don't care I do however love and appreciate the constructive feedback
whether it's support or disagreement of course this is a risk but it's worth
taking because I love her I always have for the first time in a while I feel
happy again me and my wife are doing the things we love we are reconnecting with
both our families it's a journey last frequent question I get is does your
wife accept what she did for my wife it's going to be a long road ahead she
herself accepts full blame on what happened if anyone says it's solely him
she will disagree fully she still feels guilty shame and sick she is still in
therapy and progressing but as I said it's a long road a road that I my wife
our families are taking I don't regret reconciliation at all I get the trend on
Reddit is about separating scorched Earth Vengeance Etc I understand that
trust me but after the anger pain and hatred everyone has to make a decision
Stay or Leave I decided to stay not because I'm aor at but because my
marriage is worth fighting for edit from my wife's POV marju was put on a
pedestal at work everyone all the girls wanted him so when he showed constant
interest she was smitten now this knocked me for 10 I agree that sleeping
with him in the first week questions our marriage my wife said that she was in a
whirlwind of a fantasy at first he was a
gentleman at the beginning but he became more dominant and abusive during the
affair of course I'm not excusing her actions she herself holds herself
accountable for everything however she has stated that I have done nothing
wrong this was her fault for letting it happen she got hooked and Maru
manipulated her will she do it again I'm going to be honest no I don't think she
will after this affair my wife was a mess not a mess that she deserved
sympathy at the time but a selfs slaughtering mess she contemplated selfs
slaughtering a number of times she has openly acknowledged what she did to me
her family and friends I think that is why reconciliation is slightly easier
because of her ownership it would be easy to walk away and hate her don't get
me wrong I did when this was happening but I and her family still love her and
we have to believe that she will never do it again edit too I don't mind
constructive criticism I expect it but when some people are vile and wishing us
truly awful things it's nonsense I hope we are one of those couples who makes it
I am under no certainty that this might not work but I have to try I understand
parts of what her psychologist was saying if I didn't fight then he would
have won now I know some people got triggered by that sentence in the
previous post but they have to understand that this was a game to him a
game that he was clearly winning but the turning point was my wife she ended it
when he thought he had her completely after that it was my wife doing
everything to atone and build our trust in her there have been many times that I
wanted to walk wanted to give in but the
gut feeling was no I couldn't walk I had to fight fight for my marriage because
if I didn't then yes marus would have won just to be clear I'm not doing this
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:00.260 --> :02.560 Im a tech that works on electrical equipment.
:02.560 --> :04.810 I was wearing a grey uniform with a hard hat.
:04.810 --> :08.050 My company's logo is in green in front of
my hard hat and shirt. :08.050 --> :10.600
I'm working at a certain site and went on lunch break.
:10.600 --> :14.769 Bought some small tools from a nearby Home
Depot and a burrito from a taco truck in the :14.769 --> :15.769
same area. :15.769 --> :21.190
I went to sit down on a bench near the parking lot to eat my burrito.
:21.190 --> :25.610 Some customer from home Depot came out and
walked over to me. :25.610 --> :29.900
"Hey there's none of the big carts near the store, you should move some"
:29.900 --> :33.179 I recognized immediately what was happening
and will usually only say those glorious words :33.179 --> :34.179
once. :34.179 --> :35.179 "Oh no miss, I don't work here"
:35.179 --> :36.710 She just stands in front of me.
:36.710 --> :37.829 I take another bite of my burrito.
:37.829 --> :38.829 She points at the carts.
:38.829 --> :40.350 Me: "That wasn't my cart, I was only buying
small tools" :40.350 --> :44.120
Lady: "I know you're on your lunch break but someone needs to move those"
:44.120 --> :46.110 Me: "You, too, can make a difference"
:46.110 --> :47.110 Lady: "What? :47.110 --> :48.420
What are you talking about? :48.420 --> :50.070
Can you just move those" :50.070 --> :51.070 "No"
:51.070 --> :53.039 She stands there for like a solid minute.
:53.039 --> :55.149 I'm going at it with my burrito.
:55.149 --> :56.190 She walks away. :56.190 --> :58.190
I thought that was the end of it. :58.190 --> :00.370
I'm grabbing my backpack and about to walk away. :00.370 --> :03.519
Lady comes out with some poor soul roped into her antics.
:03.519 --> :05.239 "Got you now you lazy jackass.
:05.239 --> :07.530 This guy is refusing to do his job!
:07.530 --> :10.390 Can't believe people like you wanted $15 an hour"
:10.390 --> :13.890 Whatever employee came out with her "He's
not our employee ma'am" :13.890 --> :15.570
Lady: "Why didn't you say something?" :15.570 --> :19.380
I was gonna say I did but I was already on a schedule and walking away.
:19.380 --> :20.380 Not my first rodeo. :20.380 --> :24.020
I am a Field Service Technician who has multiple
contracts with Lowe's and Dollar General. :24.020 --> :28.820
Every single time I am asked if I work there
it's always at the most annoying or the most :28.820 --> :30.540
obvious moment that I don't work there. :30.540 --> :34.080
This is just one example why I loathe these people.
:34.080 --> :39.980 I am in Lowe's in Lawn & Garden standing in
front of a completely torn down register. :39.980 --> :40.980
Parts are everywhere. :40.980 --> :43.230
Laptop is pulled out and I am looking over documents.
:43.230 --> :47.100 I am wearing a Rick & Morty shirt and have
ear buds in my ear. :47.100 --> :51.680
Lowe's employees for those unaware wear Red
or Camo green vests and are not allowed to :51.680 --> :52.680
have earbuds in. :52.680 --> :55.400
Lady stands in front of me and I ignore her. :55.400 --> :56.940
She proceeds to AHEM. :56.940 --> :57.940 I ignore her.
:57.940 --> :02.159 I'm mid conversation with another tech saying
that it's really frustrating being asked if :02.159 --> :03.490
I work here and getting interrupted. :03.490 --> :06.940
She then taps me and tells me she's ready to be rang up.
:06.940 --> :08.730 I ignore her and continue my conversation.
:08.730 --> :09.860 The whole time the actual employee is trying
to get her attention. :09.860 --> :12.550
She gets frustrated and I just point behind
her, she sees the employee, rolls her eyes :12.550 --> :13.550
and walks away. :13.550 --> :18.620
I know someone's gonna say, "Well, you could
have just told her you don't work here." :18.620 --> :21.379
but the thing is that doesn't always work. :21.379 --> :26.109
I have had people ask for a manager because I refused to help them.
:26.109 --> :28.480 I have learned that silence is golden.
:28.480 --> :31.540 Ignore them and eventually they will figure
it out. :31.540 --> :33.659
I genuinely wish more people had situational awareness.
:33.659 --> :36.110 How these people survive is a damn mystery to me.
:36.110 --> :40.079 I worked as a 3rd party contractor for an
electronics company, I went into stores to :40.079 --> :44.060
place orders for products to replenish stock,
put products in cases/on shelves throughout :44.060 --> :45.180
the department and set up displays. :45.180 --> :49.529
Our uniforms had tshirts with the company
logo in huge letters across our chests and :49.529 --> :50.599
you wore jeans. :50.599 --> :55.379
One day I was in everyone's favorite mart
putting items in a case when a gentleman and :55.379 --> :57.730
his girlfriend came up and asked where an item was.
:57.730 --> :03.799 I said "I'm sorry, i don't know where it is,
i don't work here but theres a gentleman at :03.799 --> :06.731
the desk in a vest that'll be able to help you." :06.731 --> :11.549
The girlfriend says "I told you she doesn't
work here, the logo says (insert company name)" :11.549 --> :14.099
he replies "Well I wasn't looking at her boobs!" :14.099 --> :18.340
I wished them a good day while trying not to bust out laughing.
:18.340 --> :21.859 First off I’m white and I feel super bad
about this because I probably looked super :21.859 --> :24.230
racist for assuming this but I swear it wasn’t my intention!
:24.230 --> :27.319 A very nice Asian market store in town does
not have a uniform. :27.319 --> :30.370
One of the men who work there very often wears an apron but that’s it.
:30.370 --> :35.719 I see a lady looking thru the cute little
bananas and I assume she is stocking them! :35.719 --> :39.349
In my defense I mean she was really touching them for awhile like five minutes!!
:39.349 --> :44.249 I ask her very politely “excuse me do you
know where the chewy rice cakes are?” :44.249 --> :48.669
And she says “oh I don’t work here” and immediately I’m ASHAMED and apologizing
:48.669 --> :50.189 as fast as my mouth will speak!!
:50.189 --> :53.810 But she ended up being very nice and said
she completely understands, she ended up helping :53.810 --> :55.969
me find the rice cakes anyways because she
went to the store so often she knew where :55.969 --> :56.969 it was!
:56.969 --> :57.969 :) :57.969 --> :58.969
TLDR; dumb white me went into an Asian market
and assumed an nice asian lady looking at :58.969 --> :00.790
bananas worked there-she helped me find my stuff anyways!
:00.790 --> :05.739 Edit: I think a lot of people think I posted
this because I feel horribly guilty about :05.739 --> :09.590
what happened, I don’t because it was genuinely
not with racist intention I just thought it :09.590 --> :15.739
was wholesome of her to show me where the
rice cakes were haha ! Don’t get me wrong :15.739 --> :20.180
I do feel bad that it came off racist and
I was embarrassed but pls don’t worry about :20.180 --> :21.450
me in the comments! :21.450 --> :25.310
I posted this because it was a cute wholesome
story :) Backstory: I'm a 19yro Male in a :25.310 --> :29.030
highschool district program for special needs
(I have high functioning Autism) where when :29.030 --> :33.380
you graduate from your high school you have
an option to have your diploma withheld and :33.380 --> :36.630
get some work experience through an internship
program via the district, learn how to live :36.630 --> :39.980
on your own (Cooking, cleaning, Landry, taxes,
ect), workplace Technology (Making a resume, :39.980 --> :43.260
looking for jobs, ect), and job labs (Food
cart/grocery store, janitorial, and copy center), :43.260 --> :46.620
work a supported worksite (Having a teacher
as a supervisor at an internship with other :46.620 --> :50.100
interns), and a independent worksite (Where
a teacher isn't present at an internship and :50.100 --> :53.920
your on your own with just the store employees)
then get to VR (vocational rehabilitation) :53.920 --> :58.170
once you have graduate from that, and get
to go to a collage/university of your choice :58.170 --> :00.140
which is paid through the state. :00.140 --> :03.210
You can also get a job from the worksites. :03.210 --> :05.190
Tldr; a program that give you extra time to get ready for the real world.
:05.190 --> :06.190 Now onto the story! :06.190 --> :12.150
So earlier today I was in a job lab (copy
center) taking a work order to a teacher at :12.150 --> :17.310
the highschool the program is based at, by
that time lunch had ended and I was going :17.310 --> :21.270
upstairs when three girls were talking about
something not school appropriate (Don't remember :21.270 --> :27.360
what it was about) when all the sudden they
saw me and freaked out and were like, "Oh :27.360 --> :28.922
shiiiiii-" and I was like wtf? :28.922 --> :35.290
In my mind and one of them said "Sorry sir,
I'm more holier than this" and then it clicked, :35.290 --> :43.010
they thought I was a teacher, and like the
usual brutality honestly person I am, I said, :43.010 --> :44.480
"You do know that I'm a student right?" :44.480 --> :49.020
I have a short beard and wear a three piece suit, and they said, "wait, what!?"
:49.020 --> :53.710 And I was like, "Yeah, I'm in (insert name)
program" they were stunned, after that I said, :53.710 --> :55.240
" Have a good day" then walked away. :55.240 --> :59.050
That little interaction made my day today
and made me feel like I was very important :59.050 --> :00.050
in my community. :00.050 --> :03.950
I will remember that for the rest of my life, and will treasure this story.
:03.950 --> :08.310 Years ago I worked for AutoZone, a US auto
parts store where the employees where red :08.310 --> :12.030
or grey shirts and have the company logo on their name tag and shirt.
:12.030 --> :17.310 I was in uniform and decided to stop at Walgreens
for a snack on my way to work. :17.310 --> :19.910
I was perusing the carbohydrates section when
I hear someone ask where the cough syrup is. :19.910 --> :21.610
As I don't work there I ignore the voice. :21.610 --> :24.470
I decide upon my snack and begin walk towards the check out.
:24.470 --> :28.520 Again the voice, louder this time, demands
to know where the cough syrup is. :28.520 --> :32.160
I ignore it, assuming incorrectly that they were talking to someone else.
:32.160 --> :33.310 Finally this person nearly screams "hey!
:33.310 --> :34.720 You work here where is the cough syrup"
:34.720 --> :41.200 I turned around, in my grey shirt with company
logo, and my name tag also with company logo, :41.200 --> :43.610
in my black pants uniform pants. :43.610 --> :47.590
I stare the person in the eye and point to
my shirt with logo of the auto parts company :47.590 --> :51.230
and say "Ma'am I don't believe this pharmacy
sells auto parts, I don't work here and I :51.230 --> :53.700
don't know where the cough syrup is." :53.700 --> :00.400
I turned to walk away and the lady lets me
know that she will be complaining to my manager :00.400 --> :01.400
about my attitude. :01.400 --> :04.560
I tell her to make sure she does that at the correct business.
:04.560 --> :06.630 I finally buy my snack and leave.
:06.630 --> :12.340 ok for starters I work at a mini kinda bakery
with cakes and cookies and I come in at 7-8 :12.340 --> :19.440
am and leave 12-1 pm and we usually get Karen's/
I was getting a drink tea or coffee and well :19.440 --> :25.680
I was waiting for my number to be called so
I could leave and get back to work well one :25.680 --> :29.480
time a karen came in she seemed to be nice
so not really thinking anything about her :29.480 --> :37.740
and (she looked like a ma who is tired all
the time) about this point I was looking around :37.740 --> :42.710
and saw her being mean to a waitress so I
came up to her (after I drank some hot coffee) :42.710 --> :46.610
and was pretending to walk near her and spill
my hot coffee well (you can guess how that :46.610 --> :50.080
turned out) she yelled "ASSAULT ASSAULT"and
fake fell on the floor and called 911 and :50.080 --> :58.410
I had to miss 2 hours of work so I got interagated
me and then her I said I did spill coffee :58.410 --> :04.230
on her on purpose but because she was mean
to a waitress after that we got settled she :04.230 --> :08.490
would pay for my coffee well I had to wash
her clothes (only one time) oh and she also :08.490 --> :12.130
got jail time about a week (sorry about lack
of speech but yea)This is much more of a simple :12.130 --> :14.140
misunderstanding than the Karens that I've seen on this subreddit.
:14.140 --> :19.330 When I was in my senior year of high school,
just before the whole fiasco hit, I was shopping :19.330 --> :20.710
by myself in my local Food4Less. :20.710 --> :22.450
It was directly after school, so I was in
my uniform which consists of a black polo :22.450 --> :23.630
with the school logo, which was a purple kraken, on my right breast.
:23.630 --> :27.880 I was also wearing light khakis and a school
jacket which covered my logo, so me being :27.880 --> :29.180
mistaken was somewhat understandable. :29.180 --> :35.680
I was passing to aisles to get to the produce
section when out of nowhere I hear a soft :35.680 --> :36.680
'excuse me'. :36.680 --> :42.729
It took me a little while to respond but I turn to face a man pushing a cart.
:42.729 --> :45.490 He immediately asks if I can help him.
:45.490 --> :49.360
It took me a while to absorb it, but unconsciously,
I pulled my jacket slightly off to reveal :49.360 --> :50.360
the logo. :50.360 --> :51.730
Immediately, the man was like 'oh sorry' and walked away.
:51.730 --> :53.930 I didn't really think about it till much later
when I realized that I just had an I don't :53.930 --> :54.930
work here moment. :54.930 --> :55.930 A/N: I'm male.
:55.930 --> :04.940 I went to this technology store in a mall,
the workers in this store do not have a uniform. :04.940 --> :10.020
They have to keep up a fairly good appearance,
clean shoes, no profanity n such on shirts :10.020 --> :12.580
and just presentable but otherwise just have a casual attire.
:12.580 --> :20.300 The one thing to distinguish that they work
there are these bright, yellow, neon lanyards. :20.300 --> :34.830
(If you live in NZ or Australia, you probably know the place I'm talking about)
:34.830 --> :43.520 I went in the store by myself to look at the
headphones, listen to the music playing on :43.520 --> :49.050
them to see if they're a good fit and how
they sound then delicately put them back. :49.050 --> :57.760
I'm wearing a gray shirt and black pants which
just so happens to be the attire of someone :57.760 --> :01.700
else who's working currently but I didn't know this til later.
:01.700 --> :08.250 I'm approached by this larger woman who gives
me a stern look, I thought maybe she just :08.250 --> :12.970
wanted to test the headphones too and move to another shelf.
:12.970 --> :13.970 "Excuse me?!" :13.970 --> :24.710
I didn't know she was talking to me so I kept
looking at the current shelf til I get two :24.710 --> :26.370
hard taps on my shoulder :26.370 --> :27.370 "EXCUSE ME?!"
:27.370 --> :28.370 "Oh, I'm sorry. :28.370 --> :29.400
Am I in your way?" :29.400 --> :30.580 "I need some assistance."
:30.580 --> :31.580 "Assistance?" :31.580 --> :32.580 "YES!"
:32.580 --> :33.580 "Did you need some help with some headphones?"
:33.580 --> :34.580 "NO! :34.580 --> :37.660
I need to look at this camera in the display shelf."
:37.660 --> :48.950 I looked behind her and see the display shelf.
:48.950 --> :59.140 "You'll need someone to open it up for you.
:59.140 --> :04.490 There's a worker over there."
:04.490 --> :21.700
I point at a worker standing next to the computers,
chatting to a customer and resume browsing. :21.700 --> :22.700
"EXCUSE ME?! :22.700 --> :23.700 DO YOUR JOB!"
:23.700 --> :24.700 "My...job?" :24.700 --> :25.700
"YES, WHERE IS YOUR LANYARD?! :25.700 --> :26.700
DON'T YOU PEOPLE WEAR LANYARDS?! :26.700 --> :47.410
I SAW YOU EARLIER AND YOU WERE WEARING A LANYARD!"
:47.410 --> :54.770 Admittedly, I was kind of confused.
:54.770 --> :05.600 I'm a cleaner at a hotel and the master key
I use is on a lanyard which I never take off :05.600 --> :10.270
at work but I had travelled two hours away from home/the hotel to this mall.
:10.270 --> :11.270 "Do...you know me?" :11.270 --> :18.270
She went red, her eyes bulged so large I thought they were going to fall out.
:18.270 --> :21.550 "WHY WOULD I KNOW YOU?!
:21.550 --> :27.830 YOU WORK IN SOME COMPUTER STORE AND ARE WASTING
MY TIME! :27.830 --> :30.220 GET YOUR LANYARD!
:30.220 --> :34.360 WHERE IS IT?!" :34.360 --> :51.820
Of course, this scene got the eyes and ears
of other customers and a worker...a worker :51.820 --> :59.910
wearing a gray shirt, black pants and a lanyard. :59.910 --> :01.440
"Is everything okay over here?" :01.440 --> :02.440 "I WANT THI-"
:02.440 --> :41.120 She turned and stopped mid sentence, she turned
back to me, face red and eyes bulging, back :41.120 --> :42.450
to the worker. :42.450 --> :49.190
Let me tell you, me and the worker looked nothing alike.
:49.190 --> :11.150 I'm much shorter than him, skin slightly darker
and my hair is what I like to call a contained :11.150 --> :17.230
mess while his actually knew what a hairbrush was. :17.230 --> :32.060
We both were just wearing a similar outfit. :32.060 --> :33.150
"But...I..." :33.150 --> :37.970 "Do you need help with something?"
:37.970 --> :44.740 She didn't even reply, she just walked past
me and left the store. :44.740 --> :48.530
The worker asked if everything was okay and
I explained, we both had a laugh out of it :48.530 --> :56.170
and he rung me up and I left with my new headphones.
:56.170 --> :59.470 Not a terrible experience but my own personal
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aita for being a aaran and essentially telling my daughter's camp counselor to
know her place my daughter G is 12 years old and is attending a coding and
Robotics Day Camp she loves it and has made a lot of friends over the past
couple weeks she's become less enthusiastic about going to Camp each
day I asked her what was wrong but she was initially hesitant to say anything
specific I'd usually get a non-committal I don't know or something similar a few
days ago she broke down and told me that the camp counselor CC assigned to her
group has been mean to her I pressed her
further and from what I gather the CC in
question has criticized her work a great
deal forcefully kicked G bag when it was
in her way without asking her to move it first reprimands her for small things
like talking too loud or having a messy workstation while not doing the same for
other campers and oddly enough has been picking apart what she brings for lunch
I pack my daughter a homemade sandwich or wrap a divided fruit and veggie tray
a small bag of chips and a small dessert like a twin pack of Oreos pretty
standard Camp lunch in my opinion according to G the CC has branded her
meal unhealthy and said something about there being a camp policy against junk
food CC does not do this to any other kids and I have found zero rules against
junk food in the online handbook parents
were given obviously this can't continue so when I brought her in this morning I
asked to speak to Cece I discussed my concerns and CeCe told me that g was
disruptive and that it's probably because she brings a bunch of junk food
I asked about CeCe kicking G's day bag and she was unable to give me a straight
answer I asked if any other counselors could confirm G's disruptive behavior
and it seemed to fluster her again no direct answer by that point I was
getting frustrated with her non-answers and asked why she had a problem with the
lunches that I bring G the more I asked the more standoffish and condescending
she seemed to get CC said that I shouldn't be sending G with empty
calories and reiterated her line about the camp having a rule against junk food
my tolerance for had pretty much been reached so I told her calmly
but firmly that I am her mother not her she is a camp counselor not a
nutritionist she's there to make sure that G and the other kids have a fun and
safe time and I suggested that she stick
to her role as a cc I told her that if I hear anything more about G feeling
picked on or unwelcome in her presence that I will be speaking with her
Superior I told a couple of friends about this to blow off some steam and
they told me that I was too harsh and that I act like a Karen I hadn't gone in
looking for a fight but the way CC spoke to me and about G really rubbed me the
wrong waya | give me a good story on AITAforbeingaKarenandessentiallytellingmydaughterscampcounselortoknowherplaceorig |
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this video shows a man leaving a laundromat after doing his laundry
everything looks normal but you won't believe what happened right after he
walked out a dryer inside the laundromat blew up and it could have killed him if
he stayed a bit longer I was shocked when I saw that video I didn't see that
coming at all the situation was very dangerous | give me a good story on shockingthinghappenedatthelaundromat |
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:00.329 --> :17.210 Another story posted here reminded me of this
from many years ago. :17.210 --> :22.480
Was working for a large multinational installing
new hardware/software and testing for a large :22.480 --> :25.060
client in San Francisco California. :25.060 --> :28.420
San Francisco was a 6 hour plane ride from my nearest airport.
:28.420 --> :33.750 I had to be in San Francisco for Monday morning
so flew out Sunday morning worked 2 weeks :33.750 --> :35.320
and flew home Saturday. :35.320 --> :37.989
Spent a week at home and repeat cycle. :37.989 --> :43.840
This went on for 9 months with 3 of us doing
on site rotation with 2 people always on site. :43.840 --> :47.340
Airport limo from my house to airport was $80. :47.340 --> :52.620
First expense report I claimed 6 hours overtime
for the Sunday fly out and 6 hours overtime :52.620 --> :56.550
for Saturday to fly home plus airport limo. :56.550 --> :57.550
Overtime denied. :57.550 --> :58.550 Why?
:58.550 --> :00.210 I left from my home and not the office.
:00.210 --> :01.800 Cue compliance. :01.800 --> :05.090
As a side note I closer to the airport than the office was.
:05.090 --> :07.360 I lived 30 minutes from airport.
:07.360 --> :11.890 Office was 60 minutes from airport Come next
Sunday I took a taxi from my house to the :11.890 --> :13.159 office.
:13.159 --> :19.250 Taxi from my house to office was $80 Took
airport limo from office to airport. :19.250 --> :22.090
Airport limo from office to airport was $140. :22.090 --> :26.280
Since I started my trip from the office my overtime started from then.
:26.280 --> :31.800 Time in the airport limo, time sitting in
airport etc until I got to the hotel at the :31.800 --> :34.450
other end all accrued. :34.450 --> :40.880
Next expense report I submitted taxi and airport
limo expenses and billed 12 hours for travel :40.880 --> :42.560
time each way. :42.560 --> :43.560 All approved.
:43.560 --> :45.409 Did this for 9 months.
:45.409 --> :12.069 Approved every single time.
:12.069 --> :16.110 Last night I come home and walk into the kitchen
where my mother-in-law and wife are standing :16.110 --> :20.630
with an an enormous bag of small carrot-shaped, white root vegetables.
:20.630 --> :26.670 Exhausted from a long day, I absent-mindedly
ask, "are those *white* carrots?", the existence :26.670 --> :30.480
of radishes, temporarily eluding my consciousness. :30.480 --> :37.200
My MIL and wife, in enthusiastic unison chime
in that, yes, they are indeed carrots. :37.200 --> :42.760
"Go ahead and try one", my MIL encourages,
with an overzealousness that brings me to :42.760 --> :44.680
my senses: no. :44.680 --> :47.019 NO, these are not carrots.
:47.019 --> :48.819 Game on, mama, game on.
:48.819 --> :53.530 I will eat this raw root vegetable and get
you to as well! :53.530 --> :59.310
I rinse one off and snack into it as my wife
and MIL attempt to stifle their giggles. :59.310 --> :03.560
I feign confusion at their reaction: "what are y'all laughing about?"
:03.560 --> :05.930 My wife laughs, "whats it taste like?"
:05.930 --> :08.920 "A carrot," I say, "maybe a little less sweet."
:08.920 --> :11.760 "You're lying," my MIL shoots back.
:11.760 --> :14.849 "The lady who gave them to me said they're
radishes." :14.849 --> :17.560 My face betrays nothing.
:17.560 --> :23.900 I have crunched the pungent, peppery taste
and melded it into an earnest mask of enjoyment. :23.900 --> :27.510
The sporadic laughter from my wife and MIL has ceased.
:27.510 --> :32.750 "Well, I don't know *who* said that, but this
definitely *tastes* like a carrot. :32.750 --> :35.890
Maybe I just got the one carrot mixed in with the radishes?"
:35.890 --> :39.420 I grab another, rinse it, and go to chomp town.
:39.420 --> :43.450
Mid-chew I double-down, "nope, these are definitely carrots."
:43.450 --> :49.319 My MIL, exasperated that either I am a master
of deception or that she in-fact, *did* get :49.319 --> :55.020
the wrong bag of veggies, rinses one off,
takes a massive bite, and immediately spits :55.020 --> :56.020
it back out. :56.020 --> :58.459 It is now I who am laughing.
:58.459 --> :59.879 But not a tepid giggle.
:59.879 --> :02.810 An uproarious guffaw of triumph.
:02.810 --> :04.340 I have won. :04.340 --> :07.099
Now to get the taste of radish out of my mouth. :07.099 --> :15.409
First time writer, long time lurker on this sub. :15.409 --> :20.239
Like many people in the UK, we had home cable
TV and internet through a company I’ll call :20.239 --> :21.239 VM.
:21.239 --> :26.389 They’re pretty good; decent speed, good
consistent, channel coverage - in our area :26.389 --> :31.150
at least - despite having to go through “the
dance” of negotiating pricing every now :31.150 --> :32.309 and again.
:32.309 --> :37.539 Having done “the dance” and being about
a year into a two year deal, we decided to :37.539 --> :42.370
move house and I found that the new house couldn’t get VM coverage.
:42.370 --> :47.020 Not anything down to VM, just that the place
was a little more rural and they didn’t :47.020 --> :49.010
have the cabling infrastructure there. :49.010 --> :53.760
No problem, I’d asked them about this when
I signed up for our deal and they said I “might :53.760 --> :56.570
be subject to an early cancellation fee”. :56.570 --> :00.790
I called them up a few weeks before the move
and VM told me as they couldn’t provide :00.790 --> :05.850
service I’d have to pay a £275 cancellation fee. :05.850 --> :10.110
I was a bit annoyed about this but when VM
said they’d check whether they were likely :10.110 --> :15.370
to connect a service soon (I knew they weren’t
going to), I let it ride whilst I worked out :15.370 --> :16.419
my next move. :16.419 --> :21.610
Three days before we moved house, VM called
and said our buyers were trying to get connected :21.610 --> :24.270
but they couldn’t until we closed over service. :24.270 --> :28.470
I explained I was leaving it open in case
they could connect us in our new place. :28.470 --> :33.770
VM said this would prevent our buyers setting
up their service and they asked me to cancel :33.770 --> :35.870
to allow the buyers to get set up. :35.870 --> :40.419
I saw my opportunity and maliciously complied with their request.
:40.419 --> :46.610 Having said yes, and before I could say anything
else, the VM agent disconnected the call. :46.610 --> :52.190
Fast forward six weeks and we got a bill for a £275 cancellation fee.
:52.190 --> :57.160 I called VM and explained I wasn’t accepting
the cancellation charge as they had asked :57.160 --> :58.319
us to cancel. :58.319 --> :59.319 They disagreed.
:59.319 --> :02.590 Here’s the bit where I have a couple of
recommendations. :02.590 --> :05.250
The first is to read the terms and conditions. :05.250 --> :10.759
They aren’t interesting, they are complicated,
but they’re worth reading in case you find :10.759 --> :12.250
anything you can use. :12.250 --> :19.080
Secondly, if you’re in the UK, invoke GDPR
(General Data Protection Regulations). :19.080 --> :24.319
Companies hate it when you make a data subject
access request (DSAR) as they have to gather :24.319 --> :26.139
lots of information. :26.139 --> :31.700
You just have to say “I’d like to make
a DSAR under GDPR for you to provide any information
:31.700 --> :33.319 relating to my account”.
:33.319 --> :38.810 When I phoned the VM complaint line and they
said the charge stood, so I raised a DSAR. :38.810 --> :43.830
A day later I had a call from someone asking
what it would take to resolve the complaint :43.830 --> :45.770
and withdraw the DSAR. :45.770 --> :50.680
In my case, I told them the early cancellation
charge couldn’t apply as they’d asked :50.680 --> :51.849
me to cancel. :51.849 --> :26.419 They agreed and I saved myself £275!
:26.419 --> :31.100 So a week after the events in my initial post
happened, I got a call from Karen. :31.100 --> :35.139
She asked if I was still willing to do the pine straw job for 400$.
:35.139 --> :39.389 I told her I’d have no problem with it but
asked why she’d want to use my services :39.389 --> :42.849
again when she wasn’t satisfied with my prior work.
:42.849 --> :49.710 Apparently this lady “discontinued services”
from 3 other landscape companies in the area :49.710 --> :52.919
and was having trouble finding anyone to do the job.
:52.919 --> :58.650 I’m guessing that means they all fired her
as a customer for being freaking ridiculous. :58.650 --> :03.280
I went and did the job this morning and upon
finishing, she was at least content enough :03.280 --> :08.000
with the work that she requested bi weekly landscape maintenance moving forward.
:08.000 --> :12.710 I politely declined and when she asked why,
I told her the truth. :12.710 --> :17.150
“Ma’am, you seem to be a bit unreasonable
and I don’t have the desire to deal with :17.150 --> :18.150 it”.
:18.150 --> :21.800 It didn’t go over too well, but she paid
for the work today and I left. :21.800 --> :26.120
Anyone wondering why I’d go back for the
one job in the first place….it was an easy :26.120 --> :44.510
200$ profit for an hour of labor, why not? :44.510 --> :48.860
As we all know it’s the Holiday Season, and if you’re a Floridian, you know that
:48.860 --> :54.589 means the arrival of the most controversial
Publix Sub, the delicious Turkey-Bacon-Gruyère :54.589 --> :02.070
cheese sub with, in my opinion, a disgusting cranberry-Orange relish.
:02.070 --> :06.089 Upon my arrival to the deli this fateful day,
this was the sub on sale. :06.089 --> :10.820
Rather than be deterred to the prepackaged
sandwich section, I chose the bold move of :10.820 --> :14.490
asking for the aforementioned sub sans relish. :14.490 --> :20.079
Behold my surprise when I was told that, under
direct orders from management, that the sub :20.079 --> :26.170
MUST be sold with the relish or else it would
cost more as it no longer classified as the :26.170 --> :27.600
sub of the week. :27.600 --> :32.779
I tried reasoning with her that I was saving
the store money via my decision, but she held :32.779 --> :33.779
firm. :33.779 --> :35.200 Cue malicious compliance.
:35.200 --> :38.240 With a gleam in my eye, I said “Oh that’s
no problem. :38.240 --> :40.829
Can I get the relish on the side then?” :40.829 --> :41.910
Why of course! :41.910 --> :44.660
This is Publix where shopping is a pleasure! :44.660 --> :49.890
Deli worker makes my sandwich, puts the relish
in a little plastic cup and hands it on over. :49.890 --> :55.260
I grab them both turn around, throw the relish
away in the nearby trash can, and proceeded :55.260 --> :01.600
to pay for my on sale sandwich. :01.600 --> :08.940
Short little story from my new job I've had for a month.
:08.940 --> :13.950 I recently moved to a new state and got a
new job managing an office in a medical field. :13.950 --> :18.300
Every morning, one of my responsibilities
is emailing a list of patients by the type :18.300 --> :23.220
of appointment they had and the details of
their appointment (called an encounter) to :23.220 --> :24.790
Records from the day prior. :24.790 --> :30.020
I separate documents by type of appointment
and attach the files to a single email with :30.020 --> :31.020
the date. :31.020 --> :35.920
Having worked in records before, sorting by
date and having sub-categories for type was :35.920 --> :40.269
easiest for me, and this is the way the new place trained me to do it.
:40.269 --> :44.990 After about two weeks of doing it the way
I was told/the way I thought was easiest, :44.990 --> :49.880
I got a very abrupt passive-aggressive email in response.
:49.880 --> :53.600 "Send encounters each in individual emails.
:53.600 --> :55.510 Thanks, AngryRecordsPerson.
:55.510 --> :57.190 " I tried to reach out for clarification.
:57.190 --> :01.450 Do they want an entire list of one appointment
type in an individual email? :01.450 --> :03.600
How the heck do you want it done? :03.600 --> :04.600 Just tell me.
:04.600 --> :09.690 There was no answer from my question, so I
just continued to send it how I was taught. :09.690 --> :13.500
Another week goes by, and I get another passive-aggressive email.
:13.500 --> :18.790 "Per my last email, send encounters each in
individual emails." :18.790 --> :24.690
No please, thank you, or response to my questions at all.
:24.690 --> :26.610 So I maliciously complied.
:26.610 --> :32.800 It took about 2 extra hours of my time, but
I did as she asked and painstakingly sent :32.800 --> :35.870
each encounter in a separate email. :35.870 --> :38.190
One single encounter per email. :38.190 --> :45.100
That equaled about 60 emails back to back
to back instead of one nicely laid out email :45.100 --> :46.200
sorted by type. :46.200 --> :49.120
2 days of this and I quickly got "Please stop. :49.120 --> :51.300
You are cluttering my email. :51.300 --> :54.459
You may send me one email with the encounter types attached.
:54.459 --> :56.399 Thanks, AngryRecordsPerson.
:56.399 --> :57.399 " :57.399 --> :58.540
Yeah, I thought so. :58.540 --> :03.279
I continued to send the emails how I was trained,
and I haven't had a problem since. :03.279 --> :04.450
A little story from when I worked in the lovely world of retail.
:04.450 --> :06.442 Back when I worked in a supermarket (I’m
from the UK), I once had a customer who told :06.442 --> :07.442
me to stop scanning their shopping so quickly
and I would like to add that I was doing so :07.442 --> :08.442
at a, pretty swift but, normal pace as there was a queue piling up.
:08.442 --> :09.442 According to her I was “throwing” her
items but of course because the customer is :09.442 --> :10.442
ALWAYS right I listened and gave her the most
sincere apology I’ve ever given anyone. :10.442 --> :11.442
Instead of scanning the barcode, I typed each one into the system manually.
:11.442 --> :12.442 Safe to say I could see the panic in her face
as the queue got longer but oh the sweet satisfaction
:12.442 --> :13.442 I got from her not being able to tell me to
now speed up the scanning. :13.442 --> :14.442
Edit: I’ve seen a lot of people calling
me a dick and assuming that I was actually :14.442 --> :15.442
throwing the items and simply scanning the items too fast.
:15.442 --> :16.442 Please don’t assume when you were not in
my situation and I KNEW that I was not scanning :16.442 --> :17.442
the items too fast or throwing the items down. :17.442 --> :18.442
I was always considerate when working behind
a till and was never this employee as I knew :18.442 --> :19.442
it annoyed me when I was in the position of a customer too.
:19.442 --> :20.442 This person was in fact just a nasty person
from the very start of her arriving to me :20.442 --> :21.442
and, becoming used to encountering this type
of individual, it was clear she was just a :21.442 --> :22.442
regular Karen who was looking for another
employee to use as a punching bag and I decided :22.442 --> :23.442
that I didn’t feel like tolerating it that day. :23.442 --> :24.442
Cheers. :24.442 --> :25.442 I’ve been working as an underwriter for
several years. :25.442 --> :26.442
I evaluate loans that are submitted through the queue.
:26.442 --> :29.440 I also forward some loan applications (apps)
to senior underwriters should applicants apply :29.440 --> :30.520
for a higher amount. :30.520 --> :36.589
Part of our expectations as underwriters is
to decide on at least 3 apps each hour. :36.589 --> :41.149
If we do not meet this request then we are
put on warnings and are subject to being fired. :41.149 --> :43.839
I work alone with another underwriter on Sundays. :43.839 --> :49.890
He let me know that he was very low on his
decisions per hour and in the spirit of cooperation
:49.890 --> :55.490 - and because my numbers are always well above
that due to experience - I ask him how many :55.490 --> :00.540
apps he’d like to work out of the main queue
and it is first come first served for apps. :00.540 --> :04.580
At first he was appreciative of the help and
would let me know how much he was going to :04.580 --> :07.380
do and I’d be sure to leave the apps for them. :07.380 --> :12.930
A month ago - he IMd me and told me to stop
asking him how many apps he was going to do :12.930 --> :15.019
that day as he was feeling micromanaged. :15.019 --> :20.020
I let him know that I was just trying to help
him meet his numbers and that I was only asking :20.020 --> :21.730
to make sure I didn’t get in the way. :21.730 --> :26.050
He told me to stop communicating with him and to just work the queue.
:26.050 --> :30.839 (I made sure to document the conversation
should there be any backlash for the upcoming :30.839 --> :32.530
malicious compliance.) :32.530 --> :37.430
From that day on - I just used my experience
to my advantage and claimed as many apps as :37.430 --> :38.430
I could. :38.430 --> :41.440
On a normal Sunday there is around 150 apps. :41.440 --> :47.070
Under our arrangement before - I did half
of them and left the other 75ish for him. :47.070 --> :52.190
The queues and how intense the applications
can vary which is why I’d always communicate :52.190 --> :53.300
with him. :53.300 --> :57.920
After that - I did as many apps as I felt
I could while still being accurate as that :57.920 --> :59.269
is another thing we are judged on. :59.269 --> :04.940
For the last 3 Sundays the amount of apps
the other underwriter did has gone down to :04.940 --> :10.940
around 20 apps each Sunday due to how fast
and accurately I was able to get through the :10.940 --> :12.290
rest of the queue. :12.290 --> :16.779
I also stopped answering his questions in
the chats and said that I was too busy working :16.779 --> :18.070
to answer his questions. :18.070 --> :23.649
He is now on a verbal warning - and he is
too prideful to tell me he was wrong or apologize :23.649 --> :25.680
- so I’m keeping course. :25.680 --> :30.399
I was able to change shifts and no longer
work Sundays due to how good my numbers look :30.399 --> :33.490
so I will no longer have to work with him alone on Sunday.
:33.490 --> :37.310 I still refuse to answer his questions the
other days of the week we work. :37.310 --> :41.660
I have not been approached by my management
for my malicious compliance and have only :41.660 --> :10.180
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I am so sick and tired of the United States this is merely my opinion and my
experience this may not be everyone's don't flame me if you don't agree I 23f
was born and raised here my entire life my ancestors even go back to the
Mayflower and fought in the Revolutionary War I always held that
fact like a badge but I have genuinely grown more and more sick of this place
and I think it's a shame what this country has become everything here is
expensive and jobs are taking advantage of people's desperation for
income and are not paying the work culture is toxic and draining every job
I go to everyone hates it and is miserable the 9 to-5 red race is
modern-day slavery and no one can convince me otherwise the culture in
general here is toxic and ghetto dating culture sucks hookup culture is
prominent and there is little Traditional Values the leaders suck I'm
not saying they're Angels everywhere else but I can only say how the American
leaders suck they literally overturned Ro v Wade which honestly
really turned off a lot of my American Pride I honestly do not think this
Society can last for long | give me a good story on IamsoSICKandtiredoftheUnitedStatesorig |
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I work in a call centre that primarily deals
with the public with issues or queries they have
:14.820 --> :20.280 and whilst we can deal with a lot ourselves,
there are a lot of things we must either log
:20.280 --> :26.280
for another department to look into or transfer
them across to that department. For example, if
:26.280 --> :30.780
someone calls about a broken streetlamp, they get
transferred across to the street lighting team,
:30.780 --> :36.120
but if someone calls about a pothole, we have
to log it for the highway team to fix it– some
:36.120 --> :41.160
departments don’t have an internal number for the
caller to get transferred across to/a number we
:41.160 --> :46.140
can call to speak to that department, and one of
those departments is the enforcement department. :46.140 --> :51.360
Of all the systems and departments we use
and liaise with, the trickiest one we deal
:51.360 --> :57.180 with is the enforcement system. Basically,
ranging from food safety to the environment,
:57.180 --> :02.940
there were multiple teams that enforced things,
and all these issues had to be logged on this
:02.940 --> :07.320 system. For example, if someone called to
report their neighbour for being too loud,
:07.320 --> :12.240 that had to get logged on the system for
the noise enforcement team to investigate,
:12.240 --> :17.460
but we had to arrange for letters to be sent out
about it. If someone reported an abandoned car,
:17.460 --> :22.500
we logged it, and the environment enforcement team
went out to investigate. If someone said they got
:22.500 --> :28.140
food poisoning from a restaurant, we logged it and
the food safety team investigated it and so on.
:28.140 --> :33.900
The reason why it was so tricky was because if you
missed a step, it didn’t get logged properly/it
:34.800 --> :39.300
didn’t go to the correct team, which meant that
someone would complain to your manager about it,
:39.300 --> :44.280
and crucially, this was a legal system, which
meant that if the issue escalated to court,
:44.280 --> :50.280
whatever you wrote in your notes could be used in
the court proceedings. This wasn’t a 2nd nature,
:50.280 --> :55.800 eyes closed kind of system – you needed to
be concentrating because something you log
:55.800 --> :01.080 can bite you in the butt a month later, for
example when someone calls to say that they
:01.080 --> :04.980 haven’t received a letter and it turns
out you didn’t send it in the first place :04.980 --> :10.020
The way it worked was that a case was logged,
which meant that it was open, and it got assigned
:10.020 --> :15.060
to an officer like pulling a name out of a hat and
throughout the time that it was open, if someone
:15.060 --> :20.580
called back to give you more information about the
case, you could update it, and that update went
:20.580 --> :26.280
directly to the investigating officer, and then
when the investigation had finished, the case was
:26.280 --> :31.860
closed by that officer. Basically, once a case was
assigned to an officer, they had to see it through
:31.860 --> :38.280
from start to finish, whether it was deciding if
a noise complaint was justified or going through
:38.280 --> :44.280
black bags that were reported as flytipping to
see if they could find anything that tied someone
:44.280 --> :50.160
to that rubbish and so on. It wasn’t as simple
as that though, because there were cases that
:50.160 --> :56.100
had been open for years, with multiple updates,
there were multiple cases that had been opened and
:56.100 --> :01.560
closed between the same properties for the same
reasons, or someone had called about something
:01.560 --> :08.100
and you weren’t 100% sure if it should be logged
or not etc. I’m not sure how my colleagues dealt
:08.100 --> :13.200 with those situations, but whenever I got a
call like that, I just emailed the investigating
:13.200 --> :20.100
officer just to explain the situation and ask
for advice, and CC’d in their colleagues just in
:20.100 --> :25.500
case the investigating officer was off, or I just
emailed the team to ask if they wanted me to log
:25.500 --> :31.860
it as a new case or not, since if it was ongoing
situation, with multiple cases for the same thing,
:31.860 --> :37.500
many officers may have dealt with it, and they
may not have wanted me to log it as new case. :37.500 --> :41.520
I didn’t see an issue with it, because
they either emailed me back with an answer,
:41.520 --> :47.520
or they didn’t reply but logged it themselves
after they’d looked into it, but one day I got a
:47.520 --> :54.000
thorny email from a thornier senior environmental
officer, basically telling me off and telling
:54.000 --> :59.760
me not to send them emails anymore because the
system was there to be used. I emailed him back,
:59.760 --> :04.980
explaining that it wasn’t that simple because
there were tricky cases that I needed help with,
:04.980 --> :09.300 and I didn’t want to update an old
case or log a case if I didn’t need to,
:09.300 --> :15.960 to not unnecessarily add to the caseloads of
the officers and he replied back reiterating
:15.960 --> :21.240 that I shouldn’t send any more emails, and
finished it off by telling me to either
:21.240 --> :27.900
update the case whether it was open or closed,
or open a new case – cue malicious compliance. :27.900 --> :33.600
From that day forward, I did not send another
email. If I got a call about an issue, :33.600 --> :41.460
and the last time the issue was raised in 2017, I
updated the 2017 case. If I was on the fence about
:41.460 --> :47.400
logging something as a new case or not, I just
logged it anyway. If I checked the last case,
:47.400 --> :52.680 and the investigating officer had left, I
updated it anyway. I was unaware of this,
:52.680 --> :57.840
but when I told people that the investigating
officer would call them back, like they typically
:57.840 --> :03.000
did after we asked them to in our updates, they
would call us a couple of weeks later to ask why
:03.000 --> :07.860
they hadn’t received a call, and my colleagues
would have to raise a new case for them because
:07.860 --> :14.280
the one I updated was closed. The officers also
suddenly had an influx of new cases, because every
:14.280 --> :20.640
time I updated a closed case, it ‘reopened’, which
added to their case load. The system they used
:20.640 --> :26.940
worked on dates and caseloads, for example, if I
asked them to call someone or inspect a property
:26.940 --> :32.940
in my update, the system generated a time frame
for them to complete that action by, but if they
:32.940 --> :39.060
were too busy do something I’d asked them to do,
it went red, which counted against them. Also, for
:39.060 --> :46.080
example, if they had 4 open cases, and then they
closed 3 and they’d gone down to 1, they’d go back
:46.080 --> :52.680
up to 4 again if I updated 3 of their old cases,
so based on the system, they were not doing their
:52.680 --> :58.980
jobs properly because they constantly had open
cases. This put their stats through the floor. :58.980 --> :05.760
This went on for ages, and one day I was hauled
into an office by my manager, and waiting for me
:05.760 --> :14.160
was his manager, the senior enforcement officer,
his manager, a HR advisor for me and HR. They
:14.160 --> :20.160
told me that I was doing call avoidance (gross
misconduct), purposefully misadvising callers
:20.160 --> :25.440
and not triaging calls correctly. From what they
were saying and the paperwork they had with them,
:25.440 --> :31.620 I knew it was a ‘you’re fired’ meeting. HR
asked me if there was anything I wanted to say,
:31.620 --> :37.800
so I looked at the enforcement manager, pointed
at the senior enforcement officer and said, “he
:37.800 --> :42.780
told me to do it.” The enforcement manager looked
at me, looked at the senior enforcement manager,
:42.780 --> :48.660
looked at me again and then asked me to clarify
what I meant. I explained it all from start to
:48.660 --> :54.840
finish, making it clear that when I was sending
emails, I always asked for advice and offered to
:54.840 --> :00.300 log a case for the enforcement team if they
wanted me to, and that before the email from
:00.300 --> :06.300
the senior enforcement officer, my emails either
were not replied to, but someone logged it for me,
:06.300 --> :11.640 or someone replied to me to tell me to
log a new case or to not log a new case :11.640 --> :17.820
The enforcement manager sighed and then asked me
if I could send him that email, so I quickly left,
:17.820 --> :24.180
went back to my desk, sent the email thread to him
and came back into the office. He read the email,
:24.180 --> :30.000
sighed deeper than he did before and then asked
us all to leave but asked the senior enforcement
:30.000 --> :36.180
officer to stay, and I left with a massive crap
eating grin on my face because I knew that I
:36.180 --> :42.300
would keep my job. The fallout was pretty big,
because the IT team had to go in and manually
:42.300 --> :48.180
close all the ‘open’ cases so that the stats for
the enforcement officers would go back to normal,
:48.180 --> :53.340 the payroll department had to backdate all
the months that the stats were messed up so
:53.340 --> :57.360
that the performance bonus matched what would
have happened had I not put their stats down
:57.360 --> :02.760 (I didn’t know they had performance bonuses
until afterwards) and the senior enforcement
:02.760 --> :08.520 officer got demoted to an enforcement
officer, based on their new email signature :08.520 --> :13.920
A couple of weeks later, when the enforcement
manager was less busy, he emailed me to basically
:13.920 --> :18.900 say that he gives me permission to go back
to emailing the enforcement team about cases,
:18.900 --> :24.000 but I should use my own judgement – if I
think I could justifiably get away with
:24.000 --> :28.680 not logging something on the system, as in
I could explain to my manager why I didn’t
:28.680 --> :33.480 think it should have been logged, then I
shouldn’t log it, and that logic would cut
:33.480 --> :38.340 down the amount of emails I had to send to
the enforcement teams - No one got fired,
:38.340 --> :43.800 but someone got demoted and a lot of work
happened in the background to fix what I
:43.800 --> :22.980 did A few months ago I posted a few stories
about experiences at a retirement home. That
:22.980 --> :28.980
got me remembering other good, bad, & amusing
times from that job. Including this story. :28.980 --> :33.780
I hadn't been with the company a year
even, and I was given a promotion to :33.780 --> :39.240
food handler/receiver. Company was so new
at this time, that construction was still
:39.240 --> :45.420
ongoing & we were far from the amount of busy we
would be in later years. Due to that, and that I
:45.420 --> :52.020
was not yet trained to PLACE orders in addition to
receiving them, I had the occasional weekday off. :52.020 --> :57.660
On one of these days, I woke up and realized
there was literally nothing that needed done
:57.660 --> :04.980
around the house. No laundry, no dishes, no yard
stuff, not even any away from home errands. So
:04.980 --> :10.320
I decided to crack a few drinks in the a.m. &
watch some movies. (Early 20s, what can I say?). :10.320 --> :15.480
Turned out one of the food items I had put way
earlier that week wasn't for the residents of
:15.480 --> :21.780
the home, but for a big Executive Dining/Meeting.
The head chef (different from one in other story,
:21.780 --> :25.920 but still a ding-dong in his own
right) couldn't find the item. So :25.920 --> :30.420
he called me at home to ask about it. Annoying, but not a big deal.
:30.420 --> :36.720
I'm not the best at describing where a thing is
if I'm not physically there, but i was trying to
:36.720 --> :42.660
remember. To this day, don't remember what the
fancy food item was, only that it needed to be
:42.660 --> :48.300 refrigerated. So while trying to describe to
chef exactly where the item was int he walk-in
:48.300 --> :54.060 refrigerator, I must've been slurring a bit.
Because he asked me if I had been drinking. I told
:54.060 --> :00.780
him yes. He then proceeded to give this pompous
lecture on how dare I, it was too early, am I an
:00.780 --> :09.480
alcoholic, etc. To which my response was "I'm over
21, it's my day off, freak you", & then I hung up.
:09.480 --> :15.360
I knew right away that wasn't really professional,
and sure enough my next shift there was a summons
:15.360 --> :21.180
for me to go to Human Resources. I told them that
I agreed me cussing out chef was unprofessional.
:21.180 --> :27.000 Then I heard the narrative chef was giving
was that he called me to ask about item,
:27.000 --> :32.940
at which point I cussed him & hung up. I put
my phone on HR desk and told them to feel free
:32.940 --> :39.180
and check the length of the call, since it had
lasted nearly 5 minutes. WAY longer than a call,
:39.180 --> :45.540
cuss, & hangup. I also told them that I only
cussed out chef when he felt it was his place to
:45.540 --> :52.020
lecture me on how i legally spent my day off. As
an additional shot, I told HR worker to feel free
:52.020 --> :58.560
to check the company's OWN phone records, to see
who called who when & for how long. In the end,
:58.560 --> :04.260
I had to sit through a mini-lecture of "common
courtesy". My final responses were that if chef
:04.260 --> :08.580 was a real professional, he would've made
it his job to now where the item was as
:08.580 --> :13.920
soon as it came in. Or at least tell me "When
X shows up, let me know." And then to let them
:13.920 --> :19.740
know that to avoid this in the future, I would
not take anymore calls from work on a day off. :27.080 --> :48.060
(SIDE NOTE: a similar thing happened later with
a different chef. He called with a question
:48.060 --> :48.960 when i was hungover, but
being a cool & understanding :48.960 --> :49.616
boss he just had a laugh and told me to sleep
it off, he'd find what he was looking for on
:49.616 --> :49.825 his own. Now that was a boss that would call
out people for bad work, but also was cool &
:49.825 --> :51.000
flexible. Real easy to work for & with) I suddenly
realised I actually have a story I can post here! :51.000 --> :56.040
Many moons ago I worked for someone selling
books online. He bought high end computers,
:56.040 --> :02.220
but was notoriously cheap in other areas. For
instance all the fire extinguishers were out of
:02.220 --> :06.900 date and we had two portable heaters for
the whole building (no central heating). :06.900 --> :12.660
One day he stopped replacing the lightbulbs.
This included the "book room", which has one
:12.660 --> :18.420
small blacked out window. One by one the lights
went until I literally couldn't see any more. :18.420 --> :22.560
His solution was to buy me a wind up torch. :22.560 --> :28.020
Well this torch was loud and annoying when
wound up. Every time he came into work and
:28.020 --> :33.060 I needed to go into that room I would spend
a few minutes winding up that torch. He tried
:33.060 --> :37.680 to ask me to stop, but I'd point out that
all he had to do was buy some lightbulbs. :37.680 --> :44.040
Eventually he gave in, but not before I annoyed
the heck out of him every time he set foot in
:44.040 --> :50.400 the office, because I'd always find myself
a task that meant I needed to go in there.
:10.080 --> :15.000
Used to be a truck driver, and had a ladder on
the back of the cab, mounted with bunjee cords
:15.000 --> :20.040 for easy removal. For when i needed it. Had
some days off, someone else drove the truck
:20.040 --> :26.640
and damaged the ladder. I go in to the office
asking for a new ladder. Why? Well its damaged,
:26.640 --> :33.300
its bend, and doesnt seem safe. Sorry, you dont
get a new one. When would i get a new one? If you
:33.300 --> :37.860
dont have one. I dont care if you throw it in a
ditch, but as long as you have one, you dont get
:37.860 --> :44.340 another one. Next day i go ask for a ladder.
You were just in here yesterday i told you.. :44.340 --> :47.220
You told me, that if i didnt have one, :47.220 --> :53.220
i would get a new one. What.. where is
it? In a ditch. Remember you said:.... :53.880 --> :00.300
Got myself a new ladder, and never had
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CPS workers what was the worst case you've seen I'm not a CPS worker but I
work criminal investigations for the Army for number of years and work very
closely with CPS on a child cruelty or neglect cases one particular case sticks
with me 5 years later we received a call around 1700 which is usually a good
indicator that we're going to be responding to a legit call the bad ones
always seem to come in right before we head home for the evening the call came
in from CPS they had received a call from a solders unit the soldier her
husband was in the field for training exercises and got a very vague emergency
call from his wife that she was having some medical problems husband asked his
unit to send somebody to go check on his wife to make sure she was okay too easy
unit sends guy over who finds the wife in the kitchen covered in red from the
waist down he also notices a red trail from the back room into the kitchen or
foyer area there's a red stained spatula
on the counter what's more is that there is animal droppings in trash covering
the entirety of the house save for walking paths there two small children
crying from somewhere in the back of the house the student immediately makes two
calls one back to his command and one to CPS command notifies husband who's
immediately sent home command also calls us we received this call after the one
from CPS CPS reports the same story they
also informed us that the CPS worker who responded to the house said to call for
help because they got sick from the smell of the house before they even got
inside we respond we observe exactly what was initially reported the site is
unimaginable if you've never seen something like it the smell was insane
we wore Tac suits to move around the house when we finally get the wife
cleaned up she tells us that while using the bathroom she had a very early term
Miss Carriage she states that she had no idea what to do her intent was to keep
them until her husband came home and then decide what to do craziness of this
aside CPS and law enforcement have now seen the conditions of this house after
hospital visits and making sure everyone is physically and mentally healthy we
hear back to the house with CBS to see what we're actually looking at two-story
townhouse the entire house was covered in trash food food dishes clothing Etc
and animal droppings the dining table was covered with dirty dishes and old
food the food in the fridge was far out there was no sitting room on the couch
in the living room the master bedroom had a queen bed no sheets the mattress
had a dark brown stain covering over half the mattress was not positive for
blood never figured out what the hell it was the kids only had mattresses in the
floor no other Furniture in the rooms clothing trash and waste all over the
floor the bathrooms I've seen truck stop restrooms that were cleaner the list of
disgusting things in this house goes on CPS gave them three weeks to fix this
atrocity or the kids would be removed that time both husband and wife get into
more legal trouble not to detract from the story but their charges included
substances and rough trade CPS finally was able to get the kids out of that
home never learned If the parents regained custody but I pray they didn't
it was the absolute worst imaginable house I've ever seen the smell stuck to
your clothes housing said the only way the house would be safe to live in again
would be if it were completely torn down not to mention the insanely crazy
parents I am so curious as to how it got to that point they probably aren't
mentally stable at all story two the one that hit me the hardest was before I
actually started going out on my own and was shadowing the after hours team we
got a call from a different state worker about a family had moved to our state
and we needed to follow up the family had six kids and one of the girls in the
family was a registered offender it was heartbreaking it was a blended family
and the mom who was the biop parent of the girl believed that the girl had been
exposed to bad things by her biod dad anyway one night one of them said girl's
name touched me the parents shocked talked to each kid individually where
they all disclosed that she had touched them not knowing how to handle it they
called CPS in their state for help CPS came out called the cops and for reasons
that weren't clear to me the child was placed in the registry by a judge in my
experience usually they try impatient and other therapies before going that
route but apparently that state and judge did things differently so when the
family moved to our state we had to go out to make sure the family was
following adequate guidelines for example the girl was not allowed to be
alone with her siblings she couldn't swim in the pool at the same time as her
siblings she couldn't go to school or the park or birthday parties because she
was an offender her siblings couldn't have friends over she was such a sweet
kid early was such a sad situation she told her she wanted to be a fashion
designer and her favorite thing to do was play Xbox with her siblings all the
kids were in therapy and they appeared to Harbor no ill will toward her I think
about this case a lot and I always wonder what happened to their family
Story three without getting into too much detail I was incredibly
disappointed in how the military handled the situation I and other neighbors
reported multiple times I'm not military but was a living Nanny on a base for a
family there was a woman down the street from us who I befriended she had two
kids one wasn't his I always got a weird vibe from her husband he would come to
the bus stop and not talk to her son he would completely ignore him and see the
other two kids and say hi this poor kid looked miserable all the time a couple
months later she told me he roughs her son up all the time he won't let her buy
him new clothes shoes and he can't sit with him at the table he's about 11 at
this point so that was reported MPS come CPS comes she tells them it's not all
true investigate and don't do anything to make a report she then tells me a few
days later that he has been forcing her to try to get her pregnant again and she
doesn't want another kid Etc I convince her to report him but she doesn't I ask
the family I work for for advice and numbers to call within the military that
will help her out give them to her and she hides them next day I saw the boy
outside at the bus stop busted lip I asked him what happened and he says he
fell I asked him if he was sure that's what happened and he started to cry and
I said don't worry come hang out at our house I told her he can come over and
her other kids can come too to play so they spent a few hours at my house with
the kids I nanny I made a report to CPS that night and they came the next day he
told the MPS what had happened and CPS made him sign a paper saying he will
never put his hands in that kid again obviously it didn't work it just won't
let that kid do anything now so now he has taken control of all her money he
met her while he was overseas in Africa and married her and brought her to the
states so when her visa was expiring he got the mail and shredded all the
letters about it so she couldn't find them and he could save the day and
berate her about it then he would take the key so she wouldn't have a car all
day and couldn't leave one day I looked out the window and the MPS were taking
him out in handcuffs and she's hysterically crying but telling him he
deserves it still not sure what happened
but they moved him into the barracks for a bit and she filed for a divorce
apparently he refused the divorce in the military Corp took his side and said he
would be allowed back into the house if need be as his money and job pays for
the house fast forward about a week and they're taking him out in handcuffs
again go to court again she asks for a divorce and they said they we'll do a
legal separation she can stay in military housing but he has to live in
the barracks and if he needs to come to the house he needs to contact MPS to
take him there he's allowed to have the kids whenever he wants including her
oldest sons who when they got married he adopted he took the other two all the
time but never the oldest after he was banned from the house with without
supervision she found out she was pregnant and now has a third kid from
him I hope she gets those kids help because they were extremely aggressive
children all the time not the 11-year-old though which is
understandable seeing as what they witnessed often I wish there was more
that could be done unfortunately what it looked like to me was that they were
doing anything they could to protect him nobody else mattered but I can also say
as much as she called the police on him she also I'm sure gave in a lot to talk
to him and whatnot there were a couple times the police arrived and she
wouldn't tell them anything which is fairly common in that type of situation
the young son spoke up a bunch of times and nothing story four not a CPS worker
but my mom was a foster parent and ran a daycare out of the home so we've known
the specifics and assisted in a number of cases one Foster case was a child
that was placed with us for about a week he was a tiny little baby and despite
being in high school I worked up to feed him the mother was young who was
abandoned by her parents for sad pregnancy and simply didn't know how to
care for a baby CPS was really understanding and gave her classes and
then when she learned how often a baby actually needed to be fed she got her
child back she reached out to us and thanked us for everything and we got
regular updates child is too now very happy and loved another case where we
called CPS a mother brought her four kids to our daycare her oldest son and
three daughters oldest son was seven and did most of the care for his younger
siblings ranging from 2 to 5 in age mother was pregnant again she was
obviously below the poverty line baby was born her kids got progressively more
and more dirty to the point my mom reached out in the Facebook group for
clothing donations for the kids they'd get dropped off she would bathe them all
and dress them again she made excuses for the mother which she says now is her
biggest regret she just kept saying this is her fifth child and she's a single
mom and a new baby it's hard then we had
to care for the baby sickly after 3 days
with him my mom called CPS we were never told what happened with them but I
remember looking out our front window and seeing them in the workers's car all
crying it's hard but you know it's better for them in the end they were
probably crying because they knew they were losing the only person who really
cared for them this person's Mom oh and since you're already halfway through the
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story5 not CPS but it worked in partnership with them in all of these
cases CPS workers were on my side and their leadership was against them they
had far far too many cases to be safe I witnessed someone roughing up a kid I
was incredibly violent while I was watching and moving towards them I
dialed 911 and stepped between them I was later reprimanded for putting myself
a risk if the parent was willing to do that in front of me what were they doing
when no one could see the state did not move them into foster care because they
were too old and the oldest kid could watch out for the younger I had one
threaten self har and refused a safety contract we called Crisis Intervention
they did not come out because if she didn't have a safety contract there
wasn't a bed within 8 hours or so that could take her if they came out they
were responsible for her I stayed with a client for I think about 14 hours I had
a bio father return to the home after present time from a streeting his
daughter they had the girls SW extensive
safety procedures instead of telling the
parents he couldn't return the state did not want to initiate a removal because
she was old enough to learn to protect herself I had a client who was following
the pattern of aggressive behavior and kept being returned from the facility
where he was being treated right back to
the family where he was being mistreated it was absurd as a side topic if you're
struggling with substance dependency and think you're still a good parent you
aren't that's your dependency fooling you get your kids into therapy and let
them live elsewhere until you get yourself clean story six I didn't work
in CPS but it did work closely with CPS I worked for a nonprofit emergency
shelter for children who had been abandoned neglected or mistreated mind
you I worked at the shelter 10 plus years ago so the details are a bit fuzzy
got a call one night work graveyard by two male sibling groups coming in they
had been found and picked up at motel Drive the oldest son is 11 and the other
is nine I started reading their case File and there's a long cruelty or
neglect history after being with us a few days the 11-year-old is showing
increased signs of PTSD hyper vigilance paranoid aggressive he ends up pulling a
knife on another one of the kids in the shelter because they came up from behind
and grabbed him apparently the mom who was a substance user was using him to
John so she could get money or substances he would stay awake all night
in the motel While She Was Out of in hard substances to make sure none of the
Johns came back to hurt her or his younger brother by the time the kid
turned another year older he had been expelled from three different schools
and was banned from that particular School District eventually mom lost
custody the last I heard is they were placed and Foster Care imagine being so
little and fearing for your life and your moms and your brothers that's too
much for a child story 7 first case I went on during training showed up at a
house in a trashy town and instantly we were verbally attacked by obese
belligerent lady this was Mom and she was being accused of neglecting her
children by not caring for their hygienic needs and not having any food
we tell her we need to chat with the kids alone but she refuses and stands by
as we start talking she keeps interrupting and yelling whenever we ask
anything I train calls the cops because she can tell the situation is escalating
quickly and we need to talk to the kids Cops show up Mom sort of calms down and
we get to chat with the kids teenage boys pissed and refused to tell us
anything useful two younger sisters 8 to 11-ish didn't say much but they didn't
need to say anything two little girls have knits in their hair their hair was
matted in basically one big dreadlock these were white people so matting the
hair like that is hard when it's clear that the tide is turning against the mom
she yells at the kids to run away and they follow orders we spend the next
hour trying to find the kids and then trying to get them away from the mom who
has huddled them into a neighbor's yard in a corner we got the kids back to a
foster care agency office no family was available to take the kids this was when
my heart broke the workers set the girls on a chair over a large plastic sheet
and start removing the nits with a knit brush or hairbrush I watched as they
start to cry because of it hurting the workers were as gentle as possible but
they had to have been enduring that for months if not longer this is when I
totally broke down and left the room and had to collect myself mind you this is
around p.m. it turned out the mom had significant
mental health needs she wasn't caring for and had been ignored by family for
years so no one knew what was going on school officials claimed they didn't
notice anything but suspected the kids weren't coming and the school liked it
that way Story 8 it was one of the first cases I investigated but it involved a
child's passing there was actually another worker assigned to take the
priority One cases that day but she was stuck out in the boonies working another
emergency when we got the call a 2-year-old child had been brought to the
emergency room by her mother the child was cold cold and blue and she had a
living sister aged 3 years old I had just been cleared to take p1s and my
unit supervisor sent me to start working the case she also called the region to
send us a special investigator a CPS investigator with police or military
experience they have special privileges in their work by the time we got the
report police were already questioning the mother it was my first time
witnessing a police interrogation the mother refused to speak English during
the interview and she had her friend translated for us for some reason there
wasn't a Spanish to English translator brought for the interrogation anyway the
mom claimed the child had been jumping on the bed with her sister when she fell
off the bed and hit her head on the floor she was sick later in the evening
and when the mom checked in on her the next day the child passed away super
sketchy as preliminary reports showed no head injuries we went to the house to
investigate the scene of the police and the mom and everything had been stripped
bare all the furniture and family possessions gone it smelled strongly of
bleach it the first time I had a Clos look at the mom and she had bruises and
her eye was swollen she claimed she slipped anyway in the following days we
learned the truth a year prior CPS investigated the family
when it came out that mom's boyfriend was being physically cruel to the
children the department required the mom
to enter a relationship with a boyfriend which he did and provided therapeutic
services for the family but a few months after CPS left the boyfriend came back
to the home the night of the incident the kid mastered her pan told the
boyfriend was watching a sports game he got angry and hurt her the mom was
correct in that the child had been sick the night before her passing this child
spent her last hours on Earth suffering the mom had waited so long to take the
little girl to the hospital because she wanted to give the boyfriend lead time
to escape he ended up going to Mexico where he was later found brought back
and charged for his crime both he and the mom are now in prison the little
girl's big sister was reunited with their biological father who had been
spending the past few years trying to find the girls he was inconsolable with
the news it was by far the worst case I've ever worked these types of cases
always are as an employee with CPS your job is to protect children and when you
work a case with a child who passed you feel so useless so helpless prison
honestly those two should be for what they did story n I'm a CPS investigator
so I'm the front line of all the allegations here some background just so
you understand what my obligations are our state splits it up into two
divisions DHS and the state police of their own division the state police get
the worst allegations DHS gets the most run-of the- mail like Cuts bruises wels
and any kind of neglect medical educational Environmental I work for DHS
and here's the kicker the state police can't do a removal so if they feel a
child is unsafe they have to call us and
we reassess then make a removal based on our decision so the worst case I've
worked was a case of neglect in which the 10-year-old female was in the
custody of her legal father he wasn't snow even when he met me for scheduled
interviews he was on it in itself that's just terrible but after every meeting
he'd pick up and move so that I couldn't relocate the final meeting he has with
my supervisor will I attempt to locate the the juvenile in order to take
custody he gets the gist of what's going on and has a friend pick the girl up
from school and tells us he's having her sent to her aunts home but you never
shows then he drops off too and he starts texting my work sell saying stuff
like I'll end everyone before I let you take her and remember he's on hard
substances finally finally after three full days I find her hiding under one of
his friend's beds he's arrested for fleeing come to find out this man is out
in bond for taking a knife to the man who he thought called in the report so I
take cust of the child and have a hair follicle done she tested significantly
positive for snow as if she ingested it herself what the hell the only good
thing is that she went to her aunt's home who had a clean background and was
safe girl just thought she was on an adventure with her dad and the worst
part is you get used to all that well if you like these stories here's more
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